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"whitney cummings" Discussed on H3 Podcast
"Into. Hello, everybody I am your host, the fresh prince of dead air more commonly known as Ethan Klein by co-host ill Klein joins us. Today. And we are happy to welcome our guest. Whitney Cummings to the podcast again, an alumni, the actually podcast I'm back. You know that last time I was on the show, which was my first time. We had a conversation about getting set Dick Pics. I remember and I got about fourteen hundred picks. Because well, I remember you saying, oh I like getting Dick pic so that was. Your fans are so compassionate. They'd send them to me going like I. Know You love these? My deck knows like wait is you do me a favor like it was very sweet. You can ask you can I. Ask you what is the call the General Quality of Dick? Of Our fans. General Quality of Dick from your fans is pretty robust. Really. Yes your fans have great Dick's their their bath towels or not. So great like the backgrounds of the photos rumor. Disappointing. Cents. Cup of Noodles Styrofoam. Plates of chicken wings and it's the background that was more alarming. Most of you. Guys. Petty fresh emerge. But no there were some good dicks and then there was a couple of your fans were like, Hey, can you give me feedback on this? They gotta pay for that. You ever offer feedback. Yeah and I did I was like this looks great. Send it. By the way Dan. It's a little too low but like you know. What. Not Problem. Only fans like girls charged for Dick PIC feedback. Let when. What does that on your desk I? Thought it might be cute for Ian Robot in to meet my robot. So I secretly have over here and we were talking and I kept hitting her turnaround. She's by she's fucking running low. Can we see the a Whitney see I'm trying to get famous on your podcast and she had destructing steal my moments. Almar interested in her let's take a look at her by the way. Don't blame you and the only thing I want to prepare for his if she looks like a robot than me just prepare yourself. Prepare for me to have more debt is than her at this point. Okay. Here's shares I want her to meet robot Ian. I liked a little cleavage, the little tiny sliver of cleavage plus it. Oh,.
"whitney cummings" Discussed on Conan O’Brien Needs A Friend
"I want to do when I do fall whenever that is here. I go as I go down. I actually true so I recently I was. I have a horse that I work with yet and I will create your senses so crazy right now did fall. I have a horse and we live in a pyramid. I each each word you say is so crazy. Speaking limericks and I was on the side of the fence and I was trying to mount my cellphone video myself with my horse is more bearing and so I was like standing on a fence to try to put my phone on something and there was a like a concrete wall and the fence and I fell almost hit my head on the concrete wall and I was going down and I saw the concrete wall and I had. Oh you're about to die like you're about to break your neck like I had it and then I went. I went oh come on. I don't know if I was going to die or not but I think the closest I've come to it. That was what I thought. Oh come on his. You're thinking like this is how I go. Oh not today like weird thaw on some sort of primordial like subconscious level. I knew I wasn't going to die but I did go. You're about to die and I just went. Oh come on like what a half day on top of everything else I am. I dressed for the cold really some lip gloss like what was just felt like a hassle. It was it was in. The horse was like your friends. Roy I mean I I saw her do. It is wild. Oh when you talk to people that are married and they're like what's GonNa happen if he found like. Is that why you got married? We really think but But Yeah so. That was kind of journey hit when people say journey but I also like the weddings too overwhelming very codependent. I don't WanNa hurt anyone's feelings. You know so I think for me. It's like idea planning a wedding and not inviting people. It just brings up a lot of shit. Yeah but everyone wants to go like well. Why don't you just go down to city hall? Why don't you just go downtown then? We'll definitely break-up. Parking brake dog had to go downtown. La Downtown. Mary my wife. I would've happened to Seattle in the rain. That's and that was easier. That sounds Nice. Seattle and I love the rain. Well the venue in Seattle my wife's from Seattle so we went up there and we got married in In it was in January. It was so dark raining really hard and it was such a contrast because in the morning we got up really early and flew to Mexico for our honeymoon so contrast yeah and we woke up in the morning. And we're staying in. This is kind of Nice Hotel. And who walks in? But Arnold Schwarzenegger guys got and I was like I can't handle. I was just in Seattle in the rain in the dark. And now Arnold Schwarzenegger's at.
"whitney cummings" Discussed on Conan O’Brien Needs A Friend
"Take off my jacket? No I'M NOT GONNA go farewell if you take off your jacket. It's like Brad Pitt. A Hollywood movie on on the roof once upon a time in la La land. Okay sorry last time I was on your show the other one we were talking about comments or people leaving comments or something and you looked at me very seriously. You can't read your comments. You can't it was dead serious. You're not being facetious. And it was almost like we weren't on TV for a second. You just looked at me like as a friend and your your comments. No good and you know what any constructive criticism that you're going to get in your life. I don't even mean criticism. I mean advice. He's GonNa come from the people in your life that you care about. Yeah they're going to let you know you don't need anything from anybody else and so. I am stunned when Comedians. I really anybody but when Comedians I really admire particularly who are a very sensitive lot and sometimes dealing with some damage when they go and read anonymous comments about their work or their appearance. I I just want to like slap them and say stop. I mean I can't allows you like went cold. Yeah and sat it in a way that I actually needed. And that's what I needed to really hear it. You know and because I was like damn. He's not joking. No no you can't do it. You cannot I've encountered people I'll say it because I think he'd he'd be okay with me saying like Obama Barack Obama once and he and I used to do an Improv class. And he's like we're about these comments. I'm getting I I did Garry shandling once came on my show and it was. He'd been on the show before and he was talking about the comments. He read the last time he was on the show on the Internet. And I was like Gary. You can't read comments. People were just saying rantings. And here's this brilliantly funny talented man who was in the one percent of the one percent of the one percent of Comedians and he's reading what some faceless nameless you know asshole has to say about him and I thought no that is of course we all have the same flaw. Which is you're going to when you're performing you'RE GONNA. If if a hundred eighty people in a room or laughing but one is not. You're GONNA see that care about. Yeah and then. You're going to want to be with them. That's music man or woman if you're not if you're not laughing pants on the inside me yes exactly later. I just want everyone side and that'll be the pull quote from this one but anyway I just I. You cannot yeah. I really believe the Internet is something that our brains in humans have been developing very slowly evolving for three hundred three hundred fifty thousand dollars at three hundred fifty making her second misery. Three hundred fifty thousand. Here's pets in your head for some it is. I'm constantly every second. I monetize ing everything if you were if you were to start out much. Blue Apron's pain. You get my God. The fracture people the fracture prince fracture prince two words. Yeah Yeah you get fracture prints. Yeah look at the ADS. You get an holds up mirror and like Oh. This is who I am. This is my demographic. Yeah they'll be times. There's a lot of Roman. Yeah no the swipes. What's a swipe? The Roman Swipes Romanet for erections boy think ultimately. Everything's for reaction. If you're at a certain age in a certain mind you can get an electrical outlet less. Oh Man I know what to.
"whitney cummings" Discussed on Conan O’Brien Needs A Friend
"LATE UNRAVEL. What is this performance pretending right? You're acting like nineteen twenty eight and you're a presidential candidate. I have been to a therapeutic. Can paint over there. I hang out with socially ever met at their party. I have so many questions but she was telling me about. Sort of how big of a deal. Your height is in terms of the way you develop as a person because I have this person in my life who. She's very insecure. She's very emotional. She's very intense And my favorite is like how tall she knows because she's like five three just a short. She's scared just her. A mink. Delegates activated more easily. Because she short and she's scared and it just it. Was this weird thing that I just never thought of and I think that I had to be more precocious as a kid. 'cause I was tall. Very Toto young because women do develop faster. People knew our people thought I was older than I was so I had to pretend I was older than I was and I think I got more serious than I should have. Been given my. I was always blown away by the fact that when I was in Grade School. There was like two kids one kid in particular. He was just much taller than the rest of us. And I think in fifth grade or sixth grade he had stubble and the deep voice and had a way of walking around. Where he sort of like the Marlboro Man I was. I was an animated Japanese little girl and I couldn't I looked at this guy and he'd be like You know okay right. He had a girlfriend and I just I was. I was so far removed and I remembered him thinking. Oh my God that's an adult and yeah an adult so then I think I ran into him at a reunion later on and he's short.
"whitney cummings" Discussed on Conan O’Brien Needs A Friend
"My own place in in this business and I'm always like what are you from. Just you know like how do you know me always wanted? And they're like and then they start breaking down like I I saw someone else. I can picture with you and I just thought you. Shouldn't you know this? This is my favorite one. I get this. They'll be like a couple of people that say like they want a Selfie and they'll be a group of three so the be they'll be three three people and One person will say. Can I get a cell like sure so I do self? You can't go into yes. Sure and then the third person I'll say do you want want also and they'll say I'm good and I'm always so needy that I'm always fuck you good when you're takes second right. Do you mean I'm good? No I don't want any image of me with you. You can delete it. No I'm good. What else we used a piece of soap. That looked like an iphone and you could just pretended for my sake that you wanted to pace with me. No no no. I'm really good. I I definitely get that and then I get people like 'cause you notice you never know how known you are because I think when one person has the audacity to come up and ask then like ten people sort of come out of the woodwork. And they're like oh we'll get one too but I get a lot of like one personal come take a Selfie and then other people start glomming on and then as people walk away like who is that like they're like I'll get it and figure it out later type of thing and I also get a lot of guys that are like I don't know who you are but can we. My girlfriend likes you. So can we just get and I'm like can you just like you don't have to hurt my feelings? Someone needing let you know. That's about their insecurity. Yes that's ask you something about when you were young. We're youtall very young no I was very young I was. I grew very quickly fairly late. So like in your teens. I was in my forties. Forty four and is there was a nuclear accident it was near the Fukushima plant and anyway the point is that Ellie smog. Yeah I recently a therapist that I my therapist what am I doing? Why am I that that was very happy? I was talking to this party that I pay standing appointment. When you repeat says how therapy never work again raising. Cummings eight MINUTES LATE UNRAVEL. What is this performance pretending right? You're acting like nineteen twenty eight and you're a presidential candidate. I have been to a therapeutic..
"whitney cummings" Discussed on Conan O’Brien Needs A Friend
"Hey there and welcome to Conan. O'brien needs a friend. I am joined as always by my trustee assistant so not move session. Hello although your real name is Talon Tall. Lean but you decided to go with SONA. I didn't decide. My parents started calling me. So why would they give you one name and then just start calling another? It's a long story but soon as my grandma's name in the old lady name and so my parents were like let's name or something hip and so they naming tall lean and then my grandpa was like. Why aren't you calling her sonal? That's my you know late wife's name and so they just when I was a month old. They they stop crying Tom Right. It's awful wasn't that long story with. Oh I know your middle name. Christopher Christopher O'Brien Matt Gowrali also joining us as always our middle name Matt. Yeah James. Oh Matt James James Matthew James. I thought you might be like a ulysses wishes you know what I mean. You have that kind of like you might have some kind of name like that. But that's a cool name. You got a good name. Yeah I guess I just finally passed the test talking about. I'm good to you. It sure we rib and Josh and Gallivant a little. Yeah I grew up in a family With a lot of brothers and we used to just you know sort of bump up against each other like cubs playing when I cuff you. I'm like a giant bear. Tearing at a small Defense Cup I grew up in a family of polite kind people. God Yeah so what happened shootout. Did you get out of their civilized? Yeah that sounds boring. I grew up quite differently. There are many of you. What's that there were too many of you not a nice thing to say about my family? It's there's a low ses too many yes? So which ones do you think shouldn't exist? Where do you come in? I'm in the? I'm kind of in the middle. Justin for sure should exist. Neil I like meal like Luke Kate. I like Jane Okay. Yeah let's go with those. Yeah those those five okay all right well and I'm not even trying to figure out. Who's missing there? I get the picture I was GonNa ask you something because I I will admit I'm I'm not an expert on podcasts. And we've We've determined that but I'm confused about something. I went to a event at my son's school. And this guy came up to me. Who's jacked really in good shape and he said. Hey CONAN really loved the podcast and I said Oh thank you very much and he said Yeah. I do this really intense workout. He does like a forty minute. Get your heart rate up. Don't stop Burke's using every muscle group explosive action Workout and he says and I listened to the podcast during it and I was totally mystified because I said to him. I can't imagine working out to this. Podcast I understand. I I do workout. And if you're only hearing my voice but if you could see me you you'd say that's a guy that works out allow you okay. Yeah Okay but but I do work out a lot but I need to listen to music and I am a podcast fan but I cannot be listening to conversation when my heart rate is at like one sixty. I think most people are that way. The reason I would listen to podcasts working because I need my brain to be distracted from how miserable I am getting out and music wouldn't do it right. I need to be completely. Does it for me makes me feel like I'm in a movie and when that song is playing I'm hero and I've gotTa get a mountain? No I'm serious. I'm on the treadmill and I actually crank it up. If it's a really good song I like I can. I can lift weights that I couldn't normally handle. It's a really good song but listening to a really voiced thin lipped. Vdi comic going. Yes well good point. That doesn't sound like something. That was me by the way I I can't see you what they can't see your voice. I just picture my voice and this medium not being appropriate to in high intensity. Workout this podcast. Yeah yeah or a lot of podcast where they talk about glass figurines you know or butterflies or generally mean a murderer in encino that was solved easily. But let's talk about it some more. Do you know what I mean. Like those podcasts and music do you listen to that? Gets you really fired up any show tune Oklahoma where the wind comes screaming? Download the waving. We chose that really gets you going. It does okay no I. I listen to metal no. I don't listen to meddle but I I listened to a mash up of all kinds of Songs and And so you never know what I'm going to be listened to. I might be listening. To some beastie boys but I might also be listening to some brand new music like Cole place first album so the stuff that just came out and it was all yet as I like to go to our interns go. Hey.
"whitney cummings" Discussed on Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
"OIL PRODUCTS FROM CBD MD. Okay so can we talk about? I'm in favor of rose. I think people that like rose shoot enjoy them and I'm no one saying they shouldn't happen. I've been invited but you know I've been invited to a bunch I love. I just I know I can't. I'm too sensitive for whatever great dig. I could throw out there. Whatever knock you said about me would fuck me up for a couple of it just like a too much of an all or nothing for me. Oh yes you're great at them like what's the relationship for you without knowing what I know about how. Yeah I mean. There's a reason I was able to do that very well. When I was unconscious unconscious person with no money and nothing to lose and I think that part of the reason I think I was successful at it in the beginning as I wasn't famous enough for anyone to even make fun of you. I didn't no one paid attention to me at the Joan. Rivers Roast. Because I I had no credits I had. There's I mean Greg Giraldo Had the best joke I think about me. He just went. Whitney Cummings is here for some reason. And that's all anybody mentioned. And then it's maybe a whore joker a slut joker when you slept her way to this joe or something like that but I have not done the roasts for very long time because once I had a modicum of successor. Things talk about it. Just it was to her fall and especially as a woman. There's only a couple of ways to go body actual history face at the same time I I've been in the in the rooms. I was a writer on the roads before I was ever performer. And essentially. If you can't get someone on the no one can say she's got a shitty career. No-one can use. I can't I can't say you're not funny. There's nothing I can get you on so then we're just grasping for straws. You get to a point where it's almost a compliment when somebody goes for your appearance because they can't go after anything else you know. I remember when we did I I don't know maybe I'll trouble for sharing this. But we were doing the roast of Bob Sagittarius and already was on it. Okay and she. We ought to do wrote all these fat jokes and you know whatever as for he had gotten sober and lost the weight and you know eight years ago when you make fat jokes and arty. Last minute had a very rough thing houses when he stabbed himself. Okay so he canceled. But we've got oh pages of jobs and we have no one to go there. So so the producer calling every heavy comedian. We finally Garland choose not that Jeff has just lost. Yeah hundred and fifty pounds. The jokes are literally. I think closely was like A. Is that a beanbag chair. Oh No sorry that's just Jeff Garland and garlands like not even fat or so. It's kind of just like matching up late for trying to fit you know and you also write a bunch of jokes and you write all the horror jokes and you're like in a lot of times they're booked people will cancel and it's someone else in your just remember. Suzy estimates on one year. And we had all these jokes. I feel like we're waiting for like Pam Anderson like be careful. She opens her mouth. Comes GONNA come? It was like what yes by. The way in other circumstances should be a great relief to not take it personal. Because it's it's actually we didn't even check. I'm not minimizing that but just the way that it's made. I think it's important that people are able to take that with a grain of salt as well. You know I mean I remember when I did I think it was the flavor flav roast when I mean carrot. Top was like very hurt. You know. It was really hard to watch. I mean Pam Anderson. I've already made an apology to publicly. But she like she was ready to get up and walk out when I when I went for her whole. You know it was it's brutal I think everyone. We all think we're a little tougher than we are. I think we might think we're a little less than we are also become a perfectionist in my character defects where I'm like. I'm taking me so long to admit I need help them vulnerable. Then I'm around my house. I'm like I need help. I can't fix this computer myself. I need help. I can totally do this myself. I really WANNA overcrowded a but you know I remember lease limp really And I- crying after the trump roused just crying really because she had lost all this weight and they still doing the jokes. You know it's like you just you can't win but that's the nature of the beast. Yeah and I still love a good roast joke. And I love writing roast jokes like that's my family communicating throwing up. Yes within my family I love it. I we give each other. She had a ton. I know. There's unconditional love and. I'm just not sure that. There's unconditional love with all these acquaintances on a steep America. Yeah and it's it's tricky. I think that the hardest part about the road from me as cracking me. If I'm wrong like I think we tend to train people how to treat us and when I was doing the rose and people would say horrific to me. I would laugh because number one. I did think it was funny. Yeah Yeah objectively fun. You know because I'm like that's a good joke and whatever there are times I would fake laugh too and then strangers in the airport. You know at gate four and they're just like hey context like I. That is just ruined my day but I also get why you think you can say that and I think people want so badly to just connect with you and I think people are going to go hurt her feelings totally right. I'm GonNa make her laugh whore. Okay to thirty on a to fucking Shit. Don't go flying. Yeah you know so I for me. There was that no you had this explosion which was two broke girls and Whitney BA pilots season. It was so that's a ton to happen to somebody. Overnight in the work overachiever. It's not enough. I was like this isn't even close to you because you've been threw in a talk show in there to all three at the same time Yeah I think I think that's when you first went on Stern. Maybe around the era. That is probably correct. Yeah yes yeah I think so and I black all those appearances out. You do your fantastic nice. I'm just going to receive that. I'm not gonNA argue with you know but you wouldn't have you back if you weren't fantastic. Thank you okay. I believe speak from themselves. Nats power and just something happens to your brain you know. Just the nineties is King. You yes And you're just like I just WANNA I'm so tired and you're so much quicker than ever do letterman. It's the only thing to me. That is the same I did Letterman a couple of times. And this probably won't hold up well in the me too era but I remember i. Remember a publicist saying to me. He loves a good perfume she just was like. I'm not saying it's rain but just where a great perfume and I went to wherever New York bloomingdale's barneys or something and I went and I said what is your best perfume really haven't and they said a perfume it's called child. And I I don't say Megan's law DOT COM CA and. I put in so much on that I got a migraine. I get migrants. I can't wear perfumery migrants. We were icing. The back of my neck. I was like pounding coffee. I did IMITREX which I take for migrants and I go out there and at the end of the appearance which went very well. He's a god you smell so wonder you yeah. It was a very big deal. It was very worth it and I kept waving my hand towards like you see in the appearance that I'm trying to get him to hail by child should be called inner child if they told me he loves when a gas has a cucumber in his ass because he thinks it's so funny to watch and trying to get comfortable. I would have done it so I wouldn't be. Shame about worrying purview here. The thing about how he shakes hands with someone if he likes their appearance. No God I'll have to go back to what would happen. I think that if he liked someone's appearance he shakes their hand at the end. Sort of like how Johnny Carson used to invite your couch. Yeah now is just tremendous you to shows like to have no shows and then to have to shows as people who are not in this business would know your average person probably sells. I don't know twenty pilots before when gets made twenty scripts before you know? It's a very low percentage. I did have to not go before that. Okay that's a pilot water right so then of the pilots that get made they make twenty five or something in the order two or three for the new season so they just odds wise. That happening is just incredibly rare right right and I have to imagine overwhelming in a lot of ways. Yeah one of them. I wrote and made with Michael Patrick King who did sex and the city and the comeback so that one broker Yeah so that one had a higher chance just because of the pedigree of him sure and we got Jennings attached to at. The time was not doing television. I mean this is before movie stars. Did television big deal and I think that the other one kind of happened because you know. Nbc was doing. These single camera shows. Community I guess. The office was on at the time. And the idea of doing a multi cameras really just to like because they are cheaper multi cam. Is You know people listening that Dono. It's having a live studio audience. The Way Seinfeld and friends the entire episode in one or two days. That's right and it's they weren't cool at the time and they still don't think are very popular but not in with critics right. Yes you know so for them to make this cost them nothing you know and they had nothing to lose and was like you know this silly thing that I never thought was going to happen and they were like let's just naming your name. Never GonNa go so why. Why not you know and I had written this show for Christa Leah. We were best friends and I was like what if we just. I was always writing with no intention of anything going. I would write specs for TV. Shows like I was just constantly trying to teach myself how to be a writer. I wrote like a bunch of pilots. I wrote specs for shows that never got made like I know what I was doing so I just started writing the show for me and Chris and NBC ended up buying it and we ended up making it. And we're like this is never gonNa to happen then ended up testing well right and then it just sort of happened and I was completely unprepared. No one knew what was going on. You did two years of it right. Which is amazing. Yeah I think two years of a show is a good amount of time. I meet especially because I had no idea what I was doing and were you the show runner as well. No I could never find the right team. It was before sort of knew how to hire and before I knew how to collaborate and I was so afraid that I was an experience and I just started hiring people with a ton of experience Which sometimes works and sometimes does it. I also didn't know about first drafts are supposed to suck right. I can drafts are supposed to suck a little like it doesn't have to be perfect at this stage. You know I think especially for a multi cam show where you table read a script and then sort of five days later you shoot it..
"whitney cummings" Discussed on Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
"Even though I have absolutely I'm not taking on new friends. Oh it's exhausting erskine bulls eye so many people go through this and have the language to really identify it. So it's we're learning. I mean it's a type of hoarding. I WANNA be everybody's best friend but I have absolutely no time to follow through with any of this. We need the most high off high chain like lake fingers and do be blood brothers or whatever but it's also you know. I think on some conscious level like with the intrigue stuff. You're also just creating an overwhelming situation for yourself. Are Pressure for your creating future pressure for yourself and you're putting yourself in a big mess that you have to untangle which is just kind of recreating our child circumstances of having to be the adult that manages some big mass origins re recreating the child circumstances of someone very needy needing a lot from you that you couldn't possibly reciprocate yes. Which was a lot of my parents. Were very emotional. I have a borderline personality. Caretake primary caretaker. I call them primary caretaker while your parents. My mother is such a pejorative term. At this point where mother they already like? Roller is but you know it was just like a very needy situation and I think I try to recreate someone needing me really bad now because then I can be in that victims. State of this person needs so much from me. I'm not consciously calculated at all woman any of this happening. I I would describe it as a zest for life in a deep interest in people while it's happening now again in reflection I must acknowledge what's at servicing. Do you think you're poking around for someone's boundaries or just kind of course I'm trying to. Yes yes yes. I'm deep because I'm also I think again. There's so many variables. It'd be really simple to say it. I'm just trying to get everyone's approval that wouldn't be complete enough but yes in the simplest way. You're a comedian. I'm a comedian. The way you and I will Jones around is going to be drastically different than the way. Most people canceled canceled five minutes. Hr in the back of the couch canceled canceled so in some way. I'm always seen someone talking to you. How far can I go? What I think is risky. Can we get here? How what kind of territory can we venture into shore? Yes because I feel most alive when we're talking about something that is terrifying to have made public. How scary can we get that you were the only people in the world now? We've ended against them now. It's US against the whole. You know work all all of our other. People were co workers trying to gain a sense of like a wear the same or familiarity. Like what is the again? This is all chicken and the egg half of it is. I laugh hardest at that when I'm scared. Maximum tension earliest. I enjoy the most. Yes so that's the chicken aspect now. The egg aspect is what else is going out. Why is it that that makes me feel good? Or why desire that? It's worth knowing why that is the state I desire adrenaline out of it. Of course yes. Adrenaline turns into dopamine. Look at all my hobbies. You drove up here. There's nothing here without three hundred horsepower. I if I'm not I always Monica. She hates it if there's not a like pretty present threat of death on the table. It's hard for me to have a good time can be that can be this. Because I'm married. I have a life to protect. And so oh we're dancing around something. That's you know now all of a sudden it's very high ads as far as I can without falling off. Let me see how far I can go? So let's talk about why you're that way you grew up in. Dc Mahmoud for Neiman. Marcus she take public relations for Bloomingdale's and Neiman Marcus and lived half in DC and then this summer in Virginia why Summers Energi there was a lot going on and I would live with my aunts in the summertime in Virginia and I live with them for a couple of years when I was a teenager when she just kinda hit the fan so I kind of went back and forth from this like farm life with animals to living in Georgetown and go into Neiman. Marcus after school with my mom because we didn't have babysitters live and Neiman. Marcus I think that was also maybe. My First. Little drug was shoplifting. Such a good one a lot of people that's the gateway you know. I never knew if because I grew up without money if that was why. Because there's a lot of people with money that shoplift too but it's a pretty solid. Yeah no no ron on rats right. It's it's a pretty solid high and a pretty solid for weeks. You don't know if you're GONNA get found out so you're in constant adrenaline shame. It's a good one. I don't be surveillance cameras. It could at any moment they could find out what kind of things are you like. Little Cranston. Yeah stuff that probably. At the time I thought was a big deal like paper clips from my mom's Co Workers. Office like nothing. Nothing major so my brother and he's five years older than me and so at this time. I think we were eight and thirteen and we went into Hudson's and they had really high end electronics. And we both wanted Sony Walkmans. And we couldn't afford that so he stole one. That was I wanna say it was maybe seventy dollars right and I went. I went to the one hundred thirty dollar auto reverse really expensive when we put them both in our winter jackets. And we're walking out of Hudson's in a security guy stops us. I'm eight so I'm fucking panicked. He saw my brother steal this thing and he then asked me to open up my coat and I opened up my CB winter jacket. And I fold the edge over so you can't see in the pocket where it is at. He looks at me and then he goes. Okay go find your parents until we have your brother in this encapsulates so many reasons. If I were my brother I'd kill me. Because that was the story of our life like he got busted in I got away in that just kept repeating itself finding all Matt yes and I. I was so panicked that I walked like one hundred yards down the mall than I sat down on a bench. I put the Walkman on the bench and then I got up and I walked away and then for the next four hundred steps. Someone's going to tap me on the shoulder and say here's your Walkman and then I'm going to get arrested and the whole nine years. Yes very memorable heightened. Experience at a data leave a mark. I'm obsessed with how people shoplift. Oh tell me someone that I work with this comedian. He used to work at Sephora and he said the way Women Steel Lipsticks. Is they come in and they twist up the lipstick and bite it off and put it in their mouth along walking out with those foul mouth back in and then bite off another one and lean feel it would be Tactically pleasing to bite through. You know this really expensive face cream and this woman returned it and said I'm returning this. I Want my money back. And he opened. It smelled it and had to save. Ma'am this is manny's no no no not even like the motion feller something they come in hoop it out put manny's then and then try to return. Yeah okay now when you were going to so good. Good how Virginia and you're living with auntie where you would different person there. Did you have like a different character? You tried on started my very deep connection and relationships to animals. Okay how to farm. And that's what I what. Oh this is a relationship. I can do one where they can't talk back and they need me you know. She had horses. She had dogs and I was alone a lot there. My sister did not come with me. And I think that's where I formed basically just the ability to be solitary and make imaginary friends and you know make imaginary characters in a journal and then just have relationship with animals and be alone which I think I probably was incredible for your future creativity and just being able to be a comedian on the road. Eighty cities a year and be alone. All the time right which a lot of people can't be alone I think that's when it crystallized like a loan for days at a time and be fine. I mean it's not healthy and that's why I gotta go to meetings to make contact with people and connect with people but I was alone a lot and I would sort of check out into these fantasy worlds and I would you know make these little characters in my head and these little stories you know and I think that was when I first started writing. I didn't know that's what I was doing. Yeah and so when you would return to DC FOR THE SCHOOL. Year was the adjustment tired. I was never a hate on people in our business or like I was never popular in school at at always annoys me but people. Maybe it's true. I don't know I can't generalize about it but I just was alone. A lot is a kid. I remember being alone and making music videos in my mirror and organizing Kuzma. I was just alone a lot. And that's just something people don't really talk about a lot. I think in recovery just in this moment where people are you know deconstructing and examining themselves. It was an absence will now more than ever. We recognize the power essential -ness of community. It's one of the pillars of any recovery for anything we'll be community and because on a sort of primordial level when you're alone a lot you know our reptilian brain thinks we've been exiled from our pack our tribe. You know I mean that's why they say you know living alone as it can be so bad for you because on some primordial level. We know we don't have the protection of of the pack and you start producing less serotonin. I mean it's very real. Do I have it that you had a half brother or you have and it was. I assume through father. Yes sir. Okay so your dad met mom and then had you and your sister but you've already come with older brother had come older brother. Yes okay but then they got divorced at five. Yeah Wow okay so these are very that anything on the Internet. It's true always so grandma and GRANDPA's all summer okay and again pretty solitary but I loved because they were doting on me and making meals and treating me like a fifties kid does so cool. Yeah and I loved Phosphate Galore. I really had that tube for me. It was the nicest part of my childhood. That's cool. I think we forget about caretakers that aren't parents you know. My aunts didn't have kids and I moved in with them when I was like ten. And they had never have cad kids so they kind of just treating me like an adult. Can I ask so? It was your mom's sisters. Dad's Your Dad's sisters and they live together..
"whitney cummings" Discussed on Pretty Big Deal with Ashley Graham
"We're going to go home and we're going to make a meal we're GONNA cancel that thing and make sure we creek because you've actually gone and you've gotten help how to handle these situations. Yeah I did a pretty amazing sort of boot camp on inner child work which which I thought was ridiculous because it was just God imaginary child. This is creepy. You don't like this like the. I always think of the kids from the shining those two girls at the end of the hallway. Yes but it really. Is You having a relationship with your own. Inner Child and the cheap for me was you feed it yourself the way you would feed five year old child. You know as soon as if your own five year old you would make sure have three meals and you know it's healthy and you wouldn't want to give them accomplish your go. Yeah sure you can have that piece of cake or whatever but then as adults where like. You shouldn't eat that that's you should skip dinner. Just you know drink coffee all day you would would never let a child like that. So it's just a little bit of if I was feeding a five year old. How would I feed her because of the eating disorder? Your boobs were. They grew in in different sizes. Okay however as I've talked with minor differences. This one hangs more than that one you know. What are you right handed or left handed? I'm right handed but I sleep with my hand up. So it's pulling my tit over really it out on my own. I didn't have to go to a doctor after I talked on stage about how my boobs were different sizes women women come up to me and I thought I was the only one I mean. I think this is a key. I don't think any womens boobs are symmetrical. No they're not how unsafe metrical warriors I mean they were they were. They were like a salvador. Dali painting the clocks dripping off the table so three surgery was three surgeries surgeries. Because the first surgery. I was so embarrassed to tell anyone I was embarrassed to get it done it so much. Shame around it that I like Google that and just went to some guy by the airport art and didn't have an office. He No. This is before the ability the everywhere when and then when this happened this was before like women share my flaws. And let's all talk about how like broken. We are getting sixteen year old like birthday presents or like. Oh here's some some free tit. Yeah I think maybe because I'm in comedy or I can just shame around my body in general and I guess my emotional perfectionism was. I don't WanNa tell anyone that I'm doing this thing. I didn't involve any my girlfriend's I didn't tell anyone and I finally let a girlfriend in on what happened. When there was like muscle was cut through and she she was like Oh just go to my guy? What are you doing all my girlfriends like? We'll go to my person by person in two friends at reductions or go to Mike and there was no shame around. It was all in my head anyone that has the judgement around. That shouldn't be your friend anyway but none of them did I know I show them my friends. My two great. I mean I've yet to see them. But maybe it's because of all the cameras but so I just I had so much shame around that. I think I'd worked so hard to like except my body that I thought this was like a setback. You know but for me. It was really about sort of a racing in a big way. Like the sort of the things that reminded me of the disordered eating and what my body was like back then and I really just wanted to get past that stage h because every day you look at them now and you're happy while them love them. I mean I have scars and all sorts of stuff. But I'm if if I'm if I don't then who will actually actually robots really quick not just because I watched a special on them and I heard that a lot of people. Just buy them to have sex with. Is that the research that you had gotten As well there's so the actual robots there's not a I mean I would imagine there are so expensive I think a lot of guys like I suspect he's totally so there are the the real doll sex dolls that are specifically for sex so there is the sex doll robot head Ed which have been made yet but the sex dolls I would imagine. That's the purpose they serve. When I went down to the sexual about factory actually learned some very interesting research search because I thought it was going to be a bunch of perverted gross madness? Just jazz fest. Don't take to it. But they were explaining a lot. A lot of people to buy these are handicapped or it's a lot of people who are trying to explore their sexuality and they're not ready to do it with a human woman. I'm sure a lot of it are squeezy grow. Also it's like men who don't want to deal with women anymore. Well there's or men with Kyle dysfunction or whatever Had lost whatever I would imagine. There's a little bit of that and it's for those men good. Yeah stick with the doll right. I don't want the men that are done with women to be out of bars. I'm a big fan of let him out of the works for them. It's like scientology. Keep them in a building. Keep them in a bill and you know I think comedian. Sort of our job is to play. Devil's advocate sometimes and to go okay. Everyone is against this one thing. I'm GonNa Challenge Myself to find all the positives in it. You did a good job at that thank you and I don't you totally think sex. Robots are going to fix everything. I did think it was an interesting sort of joke. Solution until we figure out the sexual harassment thing like an interim the way we would news like crash test dummies or something To Stop Real women from getting harmed was the joke I was in but I did find that. The fear of robots did feel largely Salihi mail in terms of whether it's movies we've seen a rabbit but I've you know a lot of my guy friends Romans we're going to kill us in the robots are going to be stronger than us. Women are always dealing with that like like something stronger than us. That might eventually kill us. Like every guy we've ever dated like this is the first time you guys have ever had something that might kill you so I was like the robots might protect us from you. Oh I would like to insist on you. A big scary robot and every parking can structure at two in the morning. When I walked in my car and you know the robots are going to replace human women? I'm like well. Everyone I know would love to have a double. I know I love that part in your special the show. You're like yeah 'cause you're expected to be everything and anything and of course. I want somebody at home cooking and cooking clan. Yes please signed me up. I don't do it anyway I I don't. I'm almost the perfect I just don't cook. The perfect woman knows her limitations. Hey I want to talk about because you like talking about and and you're very open. You're just so like an open box. Let's say you got your boobs. Just J. rally. No that's unbelievably believably. Wishy milk much. You talk about failure in a really great way that I think that this next generation really needs to understand. Because you have I've had five specials you had Whitney you had two broke girls and you got to this place. I was like amazing but I wanna I don't know what what. How did you get there? Because it couldn't have been easy and I want to hear about it. You know what I think for me. It's taken me a long time to realize lies that like failures so re I mean having show on the air for six years like Like I never thought I was going to get any of this. I just wanted big deals. I WANNA pay my bills and be able to tell jokes for drunk people. And that's all I wanted you know and so anything else extra credit bonus points and you know I think that it did. It was hard for me when I did a show on. NBC which had my name on it. This was before there were a million shows on television that it got picked up cancelled picked up cancelled it was like having a shogun publicly cancelled was did feel humiliating. But I didn't talk show to sitcoms how that's how you have health insurance. How could this be A? What are you talking about what you talk about failure? What sent in our echo go chamber? I felt like a failure. 'cause I think in my head I was like this should go for eight years and be Seinfeld or something you know and shooting for the moon is great but but if you don't get there you don't have to go. I'm failure so at the time. I was definitely embarrassed in devastated Because I thought everyone all anyone was was talking about was how big of a failure was when reality people like Chen show on the air. Great what happened to that. Yeah because I was in in like figuring out all the shows that you had don in talking to my writer experience hours which she's had so many show. I just don't understand that you have been so open about failure. So that's why I really wanted to get to the bottom of it and I think I've also had a lot of shows that never got on the air so I had a deal with. Hbo I had before I had a show get on the air. I had three pilots. Didn't it didn't go and I've been very public about not just talking about my highlight. Reel because I think a lot of people might look at someone like you and go. She's had this and she has around podcast and she's on the cover these magazines. She's got at least followers. We don't broadcast the things we didn't get We don't broadcast auditions that we didn't book or the TV shows that didn't go because nobody wants to cover that. And you're not GonNa get a magazine cover for a pilot. That didn't go too serious so I try to go like you know. Failure is a part of the learning process and failure is an integral part of success. I thank God I had three shows. That didn't go by the time I had did go because then I knew how to freak and right now it was all practice so I I don't like calling failure tall practice. You know because you don't go to the judge like if you're a bodybuilder. When you go to the gym you're not calling those failure days? You're calling those like workout workout days right and so I just I like to. What do you call them? I'm practice practice practice pilots. It didn't go but those were actors they were meant to ago. Thank God they didn't go. I like that and I do think for younger. People that are embarking on this journey. Just I promise you the thing right now that you want so bad that you didn't get that you're going to look back and go. Oh thank God. I didn't get that. I always say if I didn't get a job it wasn't mine and it took o'clock jobs to not get going through the anxiety. The worried the like Oh my God. My life is over moments but because I didn't get those jobs um thank God. I didn't get those jobs. They weren't my bigger opportunities. Come never were that that is I think it took me so long to understand that and I see a lot of people who are blowing up their careers as they got something too soon and they didn't have the gratitude yet and they hadn't eaten enough shit yet so when they did get it they blew it gume. What's next for Whitney Cummings I'm starting podcast. It's called Good for you and it's all just people coming out and talking about things that have been good for them in a funny way. You know that sort of deal a lot of comedians coming on screen. I'm just I'm just very excited. When women get into a space that men used used their confidence to get into? And we're like I don't know if I'm good enough and I have to be perfect and I don't WanNa take up any space and I was like you know what I'm GonNa take up space. Oh take up as much space. As as you want Whitney Cummings the last thing we do on pretty big deal is a little lightning rounds. Okay I just need you to answer the question. Okay I feel like this is the last pretty penny so you spent a podcast studio and best in yourself. I built a studio in my home so that I can wake up and walk right to it..
"whitney cummings" Discussed on Pretty Big Deal with Ashley Graham
"A situation if you find yourself embarrassed about other people's behavior you think you need to take care of everybody and deal with their consequences on the consequences of others if you find yourself in relationships or friendships that don't really make you feel good but you feel you have to stay in them. Codependence use words like we have to go to this thing. I have to get him a gift have to go to this party. We do a lot of things out of obligation because we're worried that we're going to lose the approval of others or not be like if we don't go. We put everybody else's needs ahead of our own. So when did you find out that you had codependency. I really put it together when I was became a boss for the first time time and I found that I was hiring all my friends even though none of them were qualified and I was trying to help you know yes I wanNA give everybody a job which there's something to be said for that you know and I still am able to do that. A heart of gold foil but now but that doesn't ultimately end up being the kind thing to do because it blows up and becomes a big mess and that person doesn't learn about earning it and consequences and what have you so I've learned that we take care of everybody. We'll take care of ourselves and that you know we don't bring personal feelings into work and we don't do things out of guilt obligation and we don't confuse love with pity. Sometimes we we do things out of pity instead of out of mutual respect or we conflate love and pity and kindness is not always kind right and being nice as not always being nice so here you are. You're a boss. So when we do a nice thing and hire someone that shouldn't necessarily have the job and then we resent them the whole time because they're not doing it right and then everybody else on staff has to clean up the mess. That's not really kind as an. It's making a big mess because you wanna be like or you want to do the Nice thing so that was tricky. I found myself not being able to fire people. I found myself not being L. to give honest feedback because I was too worried about making someone feel bad or them feeling rejected and I went To Rehab for a family therapy group group and I brought a giant thing of protein bars and clothes and cash like to help the person in my life that was in Rehab and there there are no but are you doing. You're trying to fix addiction with with protein bars. Get Out of here you know. I found myself so desperate to fix somebody else in rescue askew somebody else that I wasn't actually doing the right thing for the person so you know. We went around trying to help people all day as a way to get out of our own feelings. Something that I heard early in a twelve step program was people pleasing as a form of asshole ARY can. Sometimes it's selfish because it's not really what the person needs. The person might need the person you might need to. If you find yourself in the middle of someone's relationship drama all the time and listening to them every night talk about over and over about the made us stop talking about it and they need you to actually draw boundary you know and or say no so. I found myself enabling a lot of people with addictions and personality disorders and went to my first twelve sub alanon meaning was a game changer. Totally am changer. Wow 'cause I found that whereas alcoholics can be addicted to alcohol. Codependence are addicted to people who are a mess. So what are these programs. Look like these programs programs are basically free therapy and I see so many solvent rich famous people now talking about therapy and that's so cool. The one one thing relieving out is that it's three hundred dollars an hour and not everybody has access to that so you have no no problems so I think as someone who did not grow up with money I really appreciate the fact that it's free and open available to anyone and it's not elitist and there's also people from all walks of life who are in their keeping you humble and what's so great to me about twelve step programs is that you know when we share our shortcomings. Cummings when we share vulnerabilities. See someone like what you're doing right now. Not you're able to go okay. I'm not crazy and you're tearing you're able to have grace and someone's not judging urging me and I'm not a disgusting piece of Shit you know you're not going when you say like. I really want to text this X.. who was often? Immune cheated on me but I kind of want to reach out to him anyway and people go in there. And you're like okay. I'm not crazy. So these this inner critic that we have of I'm a failure amass. All of these things goes away because you have a group group of people that look at us saying been there and you talk about codependency landing. Use them pretty terrible relationships. Nasty stuff you learned from that codependence penance. We tend to shape shift in order to make a relationship work We tend to Make sure you know. The temperatures always seventy degrees auditioned for provable every day Whatever you want to eat? Eat Your Vegan Vegan. You eat meat. I mean we've you like Mexican and I like Mexican anything to sort of get approval of the person we want to be in the relationship with we ended up compromising our values morals boundaries and bottom lines in order to make a relationship work so I found myself in the relationship. I'm in now. Is the first time experimented with. Hey I need to call me every day. If you can't. That's totally fine. If you think I'm crazy that's totally fine but I finally know what I need. And that's something I need. And how empowering that you can say that to the person you're dating eating and he was so wild because I thought he'd go. Yuck you're crazy bitch psycho and he was just like Oh. Thank you for being so clear like. I don't WanNa be guessing what you want. He was trying to play. Okay cool by texting and didn't want to call too much and I was like I would like to hear from you every day on the phone. Call so in recovery. What we do is we find out what we actually want? And then how ask for it and how to away. If we're not getting it I love which is maybe something I should have gotten as a child and a lot of people do but if you grew up in an environment where you weren't parents in in a certain way or or were in an environment where nobody really said what they felt and everyone was like no. I'm fine everything's good. That's how my family was. When there were problems? Nobody addressed it and everybody pretended they were fine when they weren't and so. That's what I learned. I learned kind of dishonest communication. That doesn't benefit anybody. So you talk about a lot of problems news you do. I mean I. It's kind of awesome. It's awesome go because you're seeing then because everybody needs to talk about these things and you just just so happened to have a few I open. I see the most exciting thing in my lifetime is happening right now. which is that? Women are becoming humming bosses and they have shows with five hundred cameras and they are making money and they have employees. And they're getting in the workforce and we. You weren't really parented to be able to manage conflict. We were parented to establish harmony. And make sure everything was okay and make sure men's feelings were okay and that women were mad at us. That's how we've been conditioned you know and that was a big part of my codependence. Sound the Horn on this so much because it helps us once we get these opportunities. We're fighting so oh Hartford we're not gonNA screw them up. I try to be friends with everyone. Know making sure when likes US exactly and I think that that's very important because a lot of women do have that kind of it's like a ticking time bomb them Yep and I have to remind myself to like what would a man do I do I ask myself now you ask you that. I asked myself that some sometimes I think that way what would a man do. Let me how do I not do that or or I do. I in terms of going comedian. I'm like no worry about being friends with everybody. You know. Yes not all men today that Hashtag not all men but I do think that that we do want to make sure nobody's feelings are hurt and the key is managing being sensitive and being emotionally emotionally intelligent without being codependent exact. There's intelligent that's the key. I like that if If an employee is underperforming because they don't feel seen or heard or the workflow doc flow. Yeah isn't something that works with the way their brain is wired. It's always helped to go. Hey how can we make this. So you know we're able to have more harmony without going and what's going on with your family and your how can I fix your marriage and all that other. Let's go get drinks and hang out on the highway so in your latest special. That's called. Call Whitney Cummings. Can I touch it every day. It in my head. I'm like I know it's such a weirdly like triple entendre title. And the reason I called it that is because I had this robot made for the show ridiculous and I talk a lot about sexual harassment in the show how men were grabbing acids and you know being inappropriate but when my robot there were like and I was like where is all this when it comes to a human woman like. Why don't you don't ask that when you you know so? I just thought that was interesting. That is so so where I saw the robot. Come out watching your your special. I mean first first of all I was like really looked like you. I want the makeup. It was the hair it was. It was creepy wild wild about this because I feel like your fans. Are you in this world. I don't think she looks like me really. Here's why we a little cross eyed. We cross-eyed she was a little cross up totally did that. Her one for is we're fixing. It was an optical surgery surgery because homelessness she cost. Oh honey can I touch it She's fifty grant fifty to seventy yeah. She's getting her eyes are going to be cameras soon. And we're working on more facial muscles so that her smile isn't all like creepy. which is probably I? You spent twenty five minutes of your special with her and by the way I have. It's no joke. I've already lapped her. In terms of age in the Europe had her. So we're adding little wrinkles around here so we looked the the same year ago and I haven't slept so now I I look like old age APP version of her aging her up a little bit but something fascinating that I found out and we only see ourselves through mirrors so we don't really know what we look like you know in addition to whatever other just Moorefield we're struggling with. She doesn't creep me out because I don't see myself that way. That's how other people see me got it so you don't think you look like that's right. It's not why I still like. She looks a lot like I understand what. You're saying. All optical illusions. Everyone thinks she looks exactly like me. Accept me and it there was a weird because you think you look better or worse I think I look just different okay. This experience has been pretty pretty therapeutic for the body. dismore feared that I deal with. Because you have talked about this I had eating disorders my whole life. I now have disordered eating. I think it's dangerous to say like I cured my eating disorder so it means you're constantly thinking you bet it's still but it's not plaguing your life exactly. I have thoughts come up. Sometimes that are like you should have a diet coke for dinner and then I'm like no you shouldn't whereas I used to think that was a good idea. I now think it's a bad idea. So I think for anyone to say you know oh just in terms of how eating disorders work because so much of it for me was about control and so when things get a little out of control and I get a little busy and I don't have time to go to the gym. Sometimes the brain will go. Oh Yeah you should just have like lifesavers and nothing else go now..
"whitney cummings" Discussed on Pretty Big Deal with Ashley Graham
"I can hear that this is about just good planning and I'm very like I like to plan because I think planning is freedom. I also found myself around thirty thirty one years old lowering my standards for guys because I felt the ticking clock and I was like ads fine. What's three ex wives since you're excused? You don't like totally totally doesn't have a job. What some Guy With Three D. U. is? I'm so judgmental found myself. You know lowering my standard because that fear started creeping in studio. You start doing that math okay. If we go on day tomorrow in a year we'll move in together and then we have to get married. I just that you know and I was doing that and I was reading. I'll be thirty five. And then what if and I was also hearing a lot about women who were trying so hard to conceive the second they stopped trying. Yeah I don't know the science illness this correct me in the comments but there is something about our bodies when we stopped releasing cortisol and adrenaline. We can conceive better because our bodies body's not in fight or flight trying so hard to conceive right right so a lot of women that I heard eggs. They had an easier time conceiving solely because they had an insurance policy. Let's see we can always use X.. So here you are. You got your insurance policy pressure off. We only just more pressure so once I found out how much money it was. I felt a different kind of pressure pressure but I also felt like this is an investment in myself. This is a business decision. It is such a miracle what happens to your psyche. When you freeze your eggs it I started booking tours? I started you know being relationships not out of fear I might standards for a guy went up. It was miraculous. took away this timeline. And this a couple of years to find the person see you are smart. You're got into you know it. It was a very fear based decision that ended up alleviating my fears. You know the only thing that bound me out. I got a little bit of fight of a fight with fertility doctors. Because he was like. Oh you know so if you have you a kid thirty-seven geriatric pregnancy and I was like let me stop you right there. Apparently anything after thirty five. They call geriatric. Yes I've heard this. I've heard all of like I know way more about pregnancy. Now than I I ever since this on Mike Learn something about but this is this is awesome and do more people need to be taught people need to be talking about. I think there's there's maternity leave there can also be freezing. Leave you get more money as as a company as if you let your employees freeze their eggs and arranged for that time off. Because that's the this is the thing nobody told me about egg freezing. It is relatively time consuming. You know you gotta go in and get those sonograms every other day. Is You know everything properly. I don't know the terms. You GotTa Bring Your Shot Rat with you. It's kind of fun to just feels kind of bad to be like stabbing yourself in the stomach all the time and then you have to go get them extracted so it was for me like three to four month the process and I remember being in the car like crying just being leg shows Sabir told me and here I am. You know. 'cause biology a sexist list. It is but you're also a huge fan of the brain. I think it was a disgrace that we are not taught the way our brains work work the chemicals and neuro chemicals that we emit because when women emit certain chemicals were called crazy and psycho and insane and women take that shame on and they take that to mean that they've failed in some way or they're crazy and they internalize that narrative. And I just I made a movie about Corologis because I really wanted to show women and men to be able to go. I'm not crazy I'm just omitting adrenaline and Cortisol female brain and this is a fighter physics. The name of Hercules. Yes the female brain and I wrote it. With Neal Brennan co-creator Chapelle show brilliant comedian. So great so it's very balanced. It's not like a lady movie. I have men coming up to me on the street going. This movie saved my marriage because I now understand that when my wife freaks out she's Adrenal is producing cortisol and I say you know let's talking three days as when cortisol has worn off developing of vocabulary for Noor Chemicals. I just think it's such a shame that we don't learn that you're saving marriages and relationships. Eh broken up a couple to Joe I love you know. Yeah I just I get very defensive when Glenn Women are called crazy or insane or psycho or any micromanage sensitive. I think it's really important to learn the evolution of the brain. Gene epigenetics EPA genetic. Imprinting you know. Can you tell me about this. Attic imprinting is so important because it sounds it sounds nice I like it I like told me about how the chemicals that the mother releases while the fetus this is in Utero. The fetus becomes addicted to those chemicals. Okay so give me an example so I found myself as a teenager constantly being attracted attracted to dramatic situations dramatic relationship all the gossip on the playground and then into my twenties dating really unavailable people people that call it caused me adrenaline cheat on me. Whatever and then I started learning about EPA genetic imprinting which is when the neuro chemicals of the mother are omitted in Utero? The child is born addicted addicted to those chemicals so I was born addicted to cortisol and adrenaline. My mother was in a really bad marriage. When I was conceived? So chances are I came out of the womb. I like that whatever. The mother is addicted to is passed into the neurochemical so the brain and that liberated me from going okay. What's nature and what's nurture some some of these things I can? That are my part. I need to go to therapy. I need to fix that thing but also I got this honestly this adrenaline addiction because adrenaline turns into dopamine. It's like a drug Drama is like a drug and I became addicted to it and my mom's belly and it's not my fault and I can now have my brain twos who's changed my tolerance to adrenaline. So okay to question. Yes ma'am do you blame your mother and how do you deal with it. I don't blame my mother. I have nothing but compassion for my mother mother because that's beautiful not only compassionate such it makes me feel a little bit better reckless forgiveness because that generation didn't know they didn't have the tools and the science wasn't even available back. Then you know and the fact that she was staying in a chaotic relationship to try to keep things serene with her kids in to try to protect her kids breaks my heart every day. You know because it's it's just a reminder that when we take care of ourselves we actually take care of everybody else you know her instinct was gotta take care of. The kids. Got To to stay in this chaotic relationship and then the tragic irony is that that actually is you know sometimes harder and how do you deal with all of these issues now today. Yeah I mean I did after I learned about neurology because both my parents had strokes and so I had to talk neurologist. All Day every day to understand what happened I have a lot of addiction in my family as well. Well and when you're struggling with you know people that you love that are suffering addiction and learning about neurology and addiction. Works is the only thing that will stop your heart from getting broken every day so I had this kind of crash course in how to hack your brain so for me. I worked so hard to stay away from dramatic situations to lower my adrenaline in cortisol levels. I try to stay instagram. I try to stay off gossip sites I I was gonna say like instagram kind of I mean constantly. Try to self-doubt southwards. Who is this person dating me up? I I have someone that handles your social do good for someone. I outsource. Outsource it to somebody else's a form of self care I put my phone Gray scale which makes it black and white a lot of addictive about it is the color. Oh I know no. I didn't even know you were this ten Jimmy Cocoa Spray Tan allow. No right Jimmy Coco. I'm fine I just have to accept Ed and you'll just look so healthy like you sleep. Well no I'm not sleeping. Is it hard to sleep with that. Yeah you have like a body pillow. Oh God and my husband. He's he's like anymore. I'm like I'M A. I'm terrified of being pregnant. I know uh-huh epigenetics terrified. 'cause I'm like no one can trust me out when I'm pregnant but it isn't stressed out because it does like you said Goto the baby and like people have told me like don't in stressful situations. But I work out. I try to eat. Well I am going with my cravings. My cravings have been really healthy which is a blessing. And I'm just trying to work. We're can stay focused. Yeah and also like gain information about my baby but the I try to step away from fear because this is just this has been going on like this is how we got here thousands of years right before and it's going to continue to do this without doctors and now documentary that Ricky Lake did the the business you have to watch. It is so good. I read the Niamey Wolf Book about the Force Assyrian Sections and stuff and I almost had a heart attack. It is really ridiculous. How Syrians are a business? Yes unless I mean there are the moments where like you have to have them. But it's a business right and so you and you have no fear around this so after seeing the documentary now I just want to have an at home birth like I wanna be able to stand and squat and push my baby out and pull it out out of me and put it right on my chest by it out. Is that how it works. Yeah you push the head out and then as the shoulders kind of coming out. They're like okay. Go down and pull your baby out. And then you like you're squatting pull it out and you're like a miracle you're just like glad you're alive. I know people kissed their babies and their lips get stuck up to the faces like the Christmas story like the tongue and the phone poll will not that stuck But we could probably go for but I. This is so wonderful to see the and I think that like visibility for women that are pregnant while they're working is so important because I just my still having my head you have to stop down for a year. No that's that's an old story that I have in my head. I had that too. I had it too and I had like you have to have a baby in a hospital. You have to have all those things. I am working up until this due date and then after that I'm gonNA take like eight weeks off this. We're just GONNA go from there. I'm going to have a kid on my tent. We're just GONNA GO YUP Yup. This is very exciting inspire. I I just think the pregnant I can hardly carry a purse. You'll be fine. I WanNa talk about your book and other stories or other lives other law. There's so many lies a lot litany of life. But I like how you're so open about codependency. Thank you and I feel like my readers. My readers reading you guys let I feel like my viewers and listeners audio books most people get the audio but I feel like they can really learn something from your experiences. co-dependency you know. I've been so public about it because I think it is it. Is this epidemic that sort of everywhere but hard to identify and it's part of the narrative of I'm just crazy I'm a psycho and a lot of people who are codependent. Are the type of people all who wouldn't occur to them to think about themselves because we are the type of people pleasers who are only thinking about others. Rescuing martyring explain like what some examples are sure. So we're like what exactly it is like charcoal definition so codependency the definition that I work off of which I didn't make up. It is the inability to tolerate the discomfort of others. Yes a lot of people. Think of co-dependency couples who can't stop hanging out. That could be that. But that's also a litany of other things but if you find yourself self obsessed with someone else's perception of you if you find yourself thinking that you know you need to take care of other people's feelings if you have a hard time saying no if you find yourself being addicted a to control always needing to control.
"whitney cummings" Discussed on Pretty Big Deal with Ashley Graham
"Today? We are talking to the hilarious. Whitney Cummings Whitney is a comedian. Actress Writer Director Producer Show runner author and most recently podcast Sir and this episode. We talk about comedy co-dependency and so much more baser coming on my show great. I can't believe you're so beautiful. You're so pretty I think you do. People always screw up when they talk about how pretty you are. Well almost say so. You're almost pretty young person but then it was like I don't know no you want to hear as beautiful in person note first of all I always get. Oh you're not as big as I thought what you were right. Would you get I get. Don't listen to them. They're just jealous and I'm like who's them who because people listen listen to the haters. What haters Oh okay? This is because people with that's the worst thing have they'll just come up to you and start talking shit about my own friends. They'll name a female comedian. Aren't even thinks it's funny now. My friends like we don't all hate each other or they'll start insulting my friends or something like that. Oh I think you're hilarious. Don't you listen to them. Oh my God about your character and your job and I do have a theory though that it whenever someone comes up to you in public the I two things they say are complement. The third thing is always an insult. Get out after the second thing. I'll give you love you. You're so gorgeous urges. You're not as big in person. Whatever right right hang is always the third thing? No you're so yeah so correct. I do think though that with instagram. Now with podcast. Now people feel very close to you and they feel like your friends you know. They've heard you they've listened to you for. What do you like twenty hours? You like it sometimes. It is stressful. Because you're like throws you when someone just comes up to you in the airport it's like. Hey how's your knee. You're like how did you know about my. Oh right I talked to. You know like it's definitely a little bit jarring. Sometimes I think a comedian. Having an authentic connection with people is helpful. You are the epitome of a a multi hyphen it multi personnel. So you are you're you are. I mean I was just I was just saying all your accolades accolades just here right now. Because I do a little prerecord and I got to say all of them and I got a little bit out of breath but when somebody comes to you and ask you what do you do. What's the first thing that you say? Don't you know oh comes up to me. I'm like what do you think I I you you tell me why did you recognize me I. I'm a comedian okay. I'm a stand up comedian. That's that's my bread and butter. That's the thing that I care the most about it. Then I feel the most qualified to do and the other stuff I just felt like. I don't WanNA say digressions from being but just sort of like natural progressions from doing standup and I think one of the hardest things these days you know with a lot of the women in comedy. It's not about what to do. It's about what not to do. Want to figure out. What in your timeline? You should do it. You know based on your self care or the kind of life you WanNa have you know. It's like okay here all the things I WANNA do. I'll do this. I'll tour for the next five years. Then I'll and do a talk show then I'll do it to have a child and I wanNA work different. You know like I'm really trying to be careful. About how multi hyphenated I am I am and when are you doing the right thing for yourself right now all your no. I'm trying succeeding know. I know people say that I'm like Oh God because I'm like I feel like I'm giving thirty percents. Everything and I would like to make you know. I think I was doing so many things in my late twenties early thirties. Because I was afraid I'd never got the opportunity again. I was always told you. Don't say no you just keep saying yeah and I'm and it's kind of the same response and then then you get to have the opportunity later to say no right are you're in that position now. I think and I think for me the thing that's been working as yes but not right right now you know that yes. That's something I want to do but I want to be able to do it really well. And with eight hours of sleep and with joy and ease 'cause you know what thresholds aren't that's right. I do you wish you had that advice when you were younger guests. I wish I wish someone had said you know what this might be too much for you or for in this iteration you might not have things like balance or things like life experience which is going to make your art better you know so. I remember sitting the Writers Room I was doing three shows at the time and a writer was pitching on a story idea for my character to go to a baby shower and I was like people are going to baby baby showers. Like would that's ridiculous and they're like no you'd because you don't have a live so when you want to be creative but you don't have a life it's really hard to pitch on stuff. It's really hard to Right authentic stories that resonate The people that do have lives Greeks. You know so Workaho as I think. Sometimes tends tends to compromise or creativity. You know I now understand. I wish someone had explained this to me sooner. That art imitates life but in order for our imitate life. You have to have a life you have to have for life you have to have so many comments on. You have to have something to criticize so I now understand that it gives you on a writer's room on a TV show. You let your ready to go home at five o'clock you don't stay till midnight. 'cause you want want them to go home and fight with their girlfriends and fight with their husbands to get inspired. Come back the next day stories. That's good advice. Just I think I just thought work work work work work at all costs spending. You're sitting there and you're like no one wants to hear stories about work life and I didn't understand that until relatively recently that's amazing so but it alls i. I started back in the day. Here you are. You're at your head also modeling at the local Mall King of Prussia. How loking appreciate you live in Delaware? I took the bus to King of Prussia Mall and I would walk around in bridal gowns up and down. The escalators always got caught and I would do fit modeling. which is when people come and they don't want to try it on they? Can you tried to stuff on and then I would model pantyhose. Which means I would stand on a block with pantyhose fan and a white shirt that went like down to here and I would just like a button down? Yeah Oh you didn't do this to new potential. Sounds so degrading grants. Oh my God. Yes how were you getting paid one hundred fifteen dollars an hour which was a big deal for me and you had to come with your own hair and makeup done. o course they gave you like the Bobby Brown own instructions so yeah I had to go spend three hundred dollars on makeup to make hundred. Cost me money to do my Gosh but you were doing this. While you're going to Penn.. Yes and you got through Penn in three years I did people are like you're so smart I was poor. I think I missed a lot of the social experience of being in college. Would you think you missed because I didn't go to college you know. Look I don't know I'M GONNA get in trouble for saying this but I do think Ivy League schools are kind of like a eugenics program. Yeah I mean I guess it is. The idea is to meet a bunch of people. Sorry legal To meet not that sorry to meet a bunch of people who you're going to marry or develop start businesses with and sororities and fraternities. I never did any of that but I was like I gotta work. I gotta get Outta here and I knew that I was going to be a performer and I had a fear in me which actually don't have anymore now that I've actually been in this business. Believe it or not but I had this fear that was like you can't be on camera if you're old so you gotTa Oughta go. I had that fear in my brain very early but a lot of performers thinker told that this was before high television. I was already worried about it. Like you need to make it. While you're young while you'll still be higher interest. Yeah which is with that in your mind. I don't know the movie Sunset Boulevard. I've gotten that as a child. I mean I grew up in DC. And I just knew I was like you're there's a day where you'll be old. My mom was very very beautiful and her looks were very important important to her and a very young age. I saw wrinkle creams. I saw masks. I saw a nervousness about I saw this and yeah isn't that interesting parents put on us and I don't think she was even thinking about. She was in her. Yeah and I didn't. I lived with her single mom and we didn't have a lot of like TV and I was bored and I would go into her bathroom and put makeup on and it was like anti wrinkle. Anti wrinkle anti wrinkle. It got in my head and I don't blame her for it in that time. You're looks as a woman was kind of all you did have so good for her for you. Know whatever currency she had and hustling as she worked at Neiman. Marcus and Bloomingdale's and we're going to discount so she'd come home with these very fancy creams and I will but I started thinking about that at a very young age which breaks my heart on some level but I remember having that at a very young age that it is interesting. It's interesting that you even bring that up. Do you want to. Are you planning on being a mother. Someday I am. I froze my eggs shit on ice in Redondo beach which is a big process. Can you walk us through the yes I can you kidding i. I can so a brilliant writer named Dana Fox. We were on the set of a movie and she was a unique to freeze your eggs and I was like slaves crazy. How old are you and I I was I want to save? Twenty eight twenty seven maybe even maybe younger twenty seven or twenty. I didn't do it for five more years. Okay but she put this thing in my head that it was like okay. You're gonNA freeze your eggs when you get a chance. She said something that really as someone who grew up without health insurance and car insurance. There's always like any time something went wrong. It was like a saga August financially. And I remember she was like getting insurance. Even if you don't use them you know you have them and you're gonNa make better decisions because you have them on ice and I remember going okay. Hey I like that. I like that and when I was thirty three I did it. And the way that my fertility doctor explained it he really helped me he just was like look look. This might not be for your first kid or your second kid. This might be for when you're forty two or forty three and you're like what let's do one more. That's I hadn't heard that yet. That is what made me go. Ah Okay you're not telling me. I can't conceive at thirty six or thirty seven. You're not telling me I'm my uterus is molding like this is okay..
"whitney cummings" Discussed on Bitch Sesh: A Real Housewives Breakdown
"That's all I could think about so. I was like if I put this out. Maybe it will be a conversation about ed or at least I can try. I'm GonNa try to talk about my neck special about the laws that are available. The laws aren't because it takes a lot of time and money to make this go away well. I like your stand up. I do think it's like morphed over the years and not you've always been a political person. Who's like I think so. Yes politics no just like political legs. Those things that I try try to work. I worked so hard to never talk about. Oh no no no. I do not mean that you do not go there at all. I just mean like your point of view is always out there. In terms of mainly like some of your special been about sex and kind of Mike dating. I mean for more of that and in this one it's just a it's such a great special. I love it so much and it's available well. Now is as Andy Cohen accidentally on his show Whitney Cummings now screaming on Netflix. Their new accidents said it by accident. I don't know if it was an accident most genius it's slow flubber. You know Marion Williamson says there are no no the miracles only Americans. My favorite joke personally was. I don't want to give things away to visit the long and you will your it's fucking long screaming for so long screaming for an hour but what am I favorites was when you talk about. The dog vests that we need to put on women. I just related to that. We've all been there and how you talk about. How like the only thing you can lead to his guys? It's going like when you see like a helper dog one of those medical dogs who's like oh no. They're working right now so as much as you love dogs and they're so they're so and you just even just want to touch them and squeeze reasoning and you're like oh but it's in the airport and it helping someone right. Now it's working. It's a working dino. It's tempting and I think that it was so worried about doing this. Joke and I love to have in my head now like okay. This is what this bloggers going to say this with this critics. GonNa say this like I you have it in your head now as a comedian really comparing women to dog now. Reo Want's GonNa love it. I just know so many guys where I would either go into the comedy store. GonNa work thing where they're like the hugging it's like it is what it is and it's all contacts. I'm always like just read the room. I just put my hand out to try to get ahead of it now. We pounded out but I think there are some well-meaning guys. I know who were just like. Oh we're not hugging or why they I can't understand why the hugging is not our favorite at work and I just wanted to have that said women should be wearing those those word a non not. My favorite was when you're talking about. Just things women need to stop saying which is just killing me. You're like stop saying totes. I'm paraphrasing as well. You're in your forties could go go and then like I personally hate in in. You didn't mention cylinders starting out when people call me Mama like all Chica was was replaced with Mama. I feel like I was taught. She Co was a rough couple years. SII calling us these little we why do we I just thought it was interesting that it was like you you know I found myself so enraged with what guys call women's sweetie honey to and then I was like we call ourselves. Hook and horrors. Yes yes yes and then he said I'd like you hate when people call like men boss like in someone you said walked in and call said Boston one of your interns and I'm your boss. That's my friend's ends nephew who was too stupid to get a job. That's nobody's boss. I'm the boss. Champ are like Champagne Eddyville. Each other are amazing really was Hor- when my starbucks Barista he called me honey. I almost lost I. I don't who you want me to go. Ooh just got on me because I was brushing my hair over the coffee station at trucks. She said you're getting here. All of that's a rough has dealings. You know they're busy. Are you and we back to where never not doing seven minutes ever. I have no problem with that in my car openly. I I everytime ICU. There's like a circle of dry shampoo unlike just brush it out like the fact that you're brushing. Your hair is great. Yeah cage at taping and there was just gone grey really early like one spot and zinc bother shake it. Shake it out. You ooh I'm busy are the people that are taller than you that see this person. I hired a shaken out for me. was you in in. June and the dry shampoo game dry him. Put It away today kid. I'm now waiting to stick Joan. I'm balding rat tail. All you have a guy had a hair perfect. I started with the spray out the gray spray. Oh I mean I mean I alive. I didn't do it see I do it. When I don't have time but I notice you can't you gotTA watch putting your hands on your forehead and that I fully was on a talk. Show covered hovered in Brown's. No I know beautiful hairline someone with seventeen cow lick. Your hairline is hang my eye off. That's really eighty nine. Ask Your skin regimen real quick rather with our listeners will very broken out at the moment. I The quick rundown. I do think it's important that everyone ever knows. I'm certain stutter that I was on accutane twice one on accutane twice which I don't have an adult or as they once at sixteen once a twenty one okay I'd right how accurate as well as they say. It gets worse before it gets better. Your face starts to flake off and anal bleeding is not normal but it was like being a bleeding. Yes does your does your start to people so trickle I do too but from what it it felt like just more flaking early more raw like blake spontaneous just random squirts of blood but not like like from my shitting. That's okay because I mean this is a this is a product that is linked to suicidal thoughts. It's not a popular Pratt around you have accutane because I remember a friend of mine was like I couldn't even brought him. Yeah you legally be on birth. Control simultaneously 'cause berth possible birds. You're like all slather. I'm literally there like they give you a list of things they suicidal thoughts. Anal bleeding deformed ahead on me. Yes myself esteem is so has such a linear relation with my skin that I was adding to cart. I what do I do okay so I do a Dermot Roller which court thing it say no that is not thing I saw at a dinner the other day Eh online literally having a conversation like me with my legs amazing skin the drainage like if you get swollen or Puffy but I am finally at the point where I don't spend money on products from QVC do nothing. I'm happier just got here so dermot rural all our which you can get for five dollars on Amazon and it has little tiny holes in it because apparently our product doesn't really soak into our skin because of all the dead skin cells on top so it's a little amaral at pokes tiny little holes in your early. I well I do with a glove. That is kind of course club. We're awesome. You have someone with excellent put their hand glove. You can get them on Amazon. Nearly two cents exfoliating like glove. Make sure to throw it away every couple of days. 'cause it gets and you put product on that. I just wash my face that script the glove face wash I eh but I never use face wash like ice lather my face with oil so I washed my face with oil skin has a glow. Is that the oil that's very kind of. Don't use a face reality yeah. I don't wash my that acceptable. Talking my world higher power. I do not use because this is just for my skin personally. They say say if your skin dries out your skin starts producing more oil to compensate so more moisture faces all the time the less oil it actually produces an so the way that I I stopped breaking out was to put more oil on my skin which makes it sounds like it makes absolutely no sense into in totally counterintuitive very tenacious but it putting putting oil on my skin all the time helped my skin stop using oil and after getting brands on the ice stop getting cystic so many so the most important one which I buck. I'm so annoyed. I'm talking talking about it because it's GonNa it always sells out and I hope it. It's called source natural skin attornal serum. You can get it a whole foods or an Amazon and his twenty three dollars have read the wrinkle care by Dr Perricone. No haven't had ended up car. Okay the dog P. It is as their CDMA and Alpe lipoic acid said which are the three things that are the best for the skin. He's got his own brand which I find a little expensive unless you want to send us all free things of it so this is like the what I sorta thirty using this on my skin. People started like stopping me on the street and complementing. It's just changed my skin so I do that. I'm an email. If all we'll do a whole whole breakdown so I do that afterwards and then I do a cream called valmont which is a little more expensive but it's like very very nourishing and then Liz earle does a super skin skin Sarah which I love which is a bunch of and then I also do. I mean it's a lot I appreciate great skin as your friend really. That's okay because I feel like it's a disaster to get to it but then I also do. There's like an illuminated that I'm mixed with my foundation because I don't think it's my skin. I think it's the Shit I put on it and and it is Josie Moran yes. She's got great products. She's I forgot agile. She's got a great nail Polish remover. That's all natural which is great a lot of Argon oil l. stuff but she's got a great illuminated that mixed with my foundation wow and then what's your foundation. It's the foundation I'm between foundations is actually the all which is part of the reason. I'm breaking complicated. Yeah I used to do but now I'm doing this. This new brand called hourglass because its cruelty free and.
Whitney Cummings on Thriving in Chaos
"Please. Please welcome dear friend. Whitney Cummings such a pleasure to be here. I'm filming you. Wow started doing the queue line you just this gave me. I'm we're so happy to have you thank you. It's an honor and a privilege so to Daniel's point about when you were running those three shows. What was your mental running two broke girls well co-creator yes so you were still a decision maker. That's right by Michael Patrick King. I always say I don't know the comeback. I'm back so he's into only someone amazing that would stop before sections that we would use to have what we would watch the comeback at my house you were there the night that he came in answering the question why it's not often that you have like a casual night to watch the show and then comes in and takes question we asked her. I wouldn't have lost Mike. Everyone was out now. Excuse me how did you come up with that tracksuit because we used to have the comeback viewing parties at my house show. I've always been Mallard. Did you feel Paul then because I have had this experience a bit but it so like a magical thing that you kind of loved his show as a fan to make that leap into like now I'm working with US I and now we've created something together. Events Been Success and change both our live surreal and insane and weird. I mean I had this interesting and to your point about while. Oh that was happening. I hadn't really talked about this wall. This was happening. I was having a lot of tragedy in my personal life and I think that that may be cosmic or God. I don't know what everyone believes believes. It doesn't matter but whatever the hell like both my parents had strokes. I've family members going to Rehab like my dad passed. It was like all this stuff happened. That just kind of made me not think about it too much is that I can't strap on autopilot. It was kind of liberating is like who gives a shit. I'm like picking out caskets. I it was just like you know for. I don't you know blessing. Curse whatever it is. They all have been simultaneously so I wasn't really able to get into the thing of all of them didn't seem to be sweating during that time. I was so impressed because she's got three fucking shows. She's Ah I was just like an you. Were not breaking a sweat really just wet again from an outside. Oh Gosh I feel like I was crumbling but adrenaline I mean again. I think it's like I'm used to chaos like I grew up in chaos. I have on it through arrive on yeah so pressure chaos adrenaline cortisol. I'm like let's go. I know for me when things get quiet. If there's a night where it's like I don't really have anything to do. I'm like I'm a failure and there's no noise around me. There's no I oh I just literally had. I'd like my first night off in probably four like literally four years because I did a book and then I did Roseanne which was a walk in the park. Yeah sounds like it was real yeah yeah and then the tour and the special on the this thing and I had one night off and we're sitting there having dinner and I I just like to my fiance and it was so calm and tranquil and I was like we've got mold in that. We have to rip out all the walls. I had to like CR- found family off like I can just sit.
"whitney cummings" Discussed on Work in Progress with Sophia Bush
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"whitney cummings" Discussed on Work in Progress with Sophia Bush
"I really want to understand what happened. In the country. Didn't WANNA throw judgment. I didn't WANNA make assumptions. I really wanted to understand and you know to me like travel. All around this country I meet people and it made me learn you know I get why people need guns. I get it. I don't think everyone should have one. I have you know very complicated feelings about it but when you go to people's homes and rural areas and a lot of these people are scared of police a lot of people have guns because they're scared of police and if they call the Po- you know what I mean and you're asking a lot of and I think there's something we forget when you're saying the people were taking your gun. A lot of them says you're not gonNA. Let me protect my family. They don't have the alarm systems we have. You know so for me. I was naive around that and I just I wanted to immerse myself in it so that I could actually learn about it so that I can actually know what I'm talking about and not just be full of rage and self righteous indignation all the time and I think it's really really important you know I hadn't really considered it but I was talking to my friend. Olivia and she said to me she was like it's so important when you talk about advocacy around gun control because you're like the only gun owner I know and I was like Oh really wow. I hadn't thought about that but like I grew up in La yeah then I spent two and a half years in five thousand person town in Central California. My Dad grew up in Canada and spent every summer on farm like literally two doors down on from a chicken slaughterhouse. Yeah so when I was twelve. My Dad gave me my first twenty two rifle. That's like a joyous thing for us. We go to the outdoor shooting range. It's a hobby you know. It's like that's so important yeah and I love it like by the way three days before park land happened. I was is on arrange day with all my buddies. Two of whom are Green Berets like we were shooting tactical weapons like I was toting around fifteen all day that's great but but I don't mean I mean it's great that you speak for what you speak yeah also under slaking but I think because I I have done so much work with police and military also like I don't don that gun. No civilian needs to own that gun. I don't know a single person in the police force the Swat who I've trained with or the military I've worked with WHO thinks that any normal human. NBA should own that gun and also like I that's where I think the rationale comes in. I own a gun because I have received credible death threat I know. Lapd told me to get a gun and I haven't done it and like the end of the day. I hope I never have to use it but just in case I do. I've taking tests now went through the concealed carry permit course I've been certified by the sheriff like God forbid I ever had to use it. I want the police to know. I am like the most qualified. I didn't have to do any of that so I'm like if you're not a crazy person. You should be willing to do all the shit yeah just all of it. You should be willing going to do a background check. You should be willing to wait. You should be willing to take a test. You'd like it should be easier to own a gun that It's like crazy to me yeah so I think that figuring out ways to put people in these conversations and to realize they don't have to enemies feels really important yeah and I guess like that's a gentle way of just saying I really respect the goal that you set for that experience to say. How do we get a bunch of people to talk about things differently to realize they're more alike than they are different yeah to me that if we sit in a room for twenty we're GonNa find a it's like you know it's not to get into super volatile subjects. It's like pro-life people like we both agree. Babies shouldn't die yeah. We both agree. No one should kill babies. We just disagree on the definition of what that is like. You know what I mean. It's like as soon as you talk. I I mean there's certain people that maybe you can't even start engage with but it really I really want to practice the muscle of because I just feel like with social media now and how how again we only follow the People WanNa follow. We listen to the things we're GONNA listen to. This self righteous narcissism of everyone should have the same values that I have all the time even though they have completely different circumstances is a neurologist childhood circumstances. It's just like a crazy thing to expect everybody to have my values and that's part of the reason I think I take issue with some of the laws that the other side is trying trying to push forward is I'm like you expect everyone to have your values. You expect everyone to believe what you believe. You think we should make medical decisions for women and marital decisions for humans men's based on your personal beliefs not even based on science not even based on public health research. We gotta get a little Saner but here and in and I'll hear you. I'm willing to hear you but it's also such a big to me like. I'm always like you know. It's like any problem in a company or in a story. If you're writing script like the problem is always at the top problem is always in the route. You know so for me. It's like the biggest problem right now. It's like I feel like nobody's talking about is the fact I mean. People are talking about it but not in a way. That's like like meaningful. In terms of people. Getting information is not true so it's like if you heard something unsure about me and we're mad at me about it. I don't blame you because like how would you know. Of course you would make that judgment mm-hmm and based on misinformation so it's like like everyone's just like facebook is just starting new addiction and like the oxygen we breathe and it's just like for things to be able to put out there. Just aren't true not to talk too much about a lot of the things that the people that were in a fight with they truly think are char true. So how can I be mad at you for just not knowing that by the way I had this experience recently and like I'm a very pro choice person. I'm like listen. I don't even need to know what my choice personally for. Me would be I'm just going to say I have no right to make a choice for you. Yeah business like it's none of my fucking busy. Nobody's it's up to a woman and her doctor end of story goodbye yeah. We're talking about healthcare. That's just what I think and I think I'm pretty well informed on the subject and was just told hold on a call similar to the one you were talking about. It was like an all hands on deck. What are we. GonNa do like Nero Planned Parenthood. How do we advocate but I was just told by a fucking doctor. Dr On one of those calls that like the heartbeat bill is total bullshit because there is no heartbeat that is i. It doesn't have a heartbeat six weeks that what you're hearing is is actually the pulse it's the electrical impulse of the MOMS heartbeat and I was like wait. What and I didn't know that I didn't know that we're literally attacking a mother for her own heartbeat I was I was like how did I not know that I'm an adult like weed and I realized that there's so much information that I don't either and so I spent a lot of other out yeah action how little some people for not having it works three jobs and they're just trying and again hold on the table and they're just like I wanNa Watch Big Bang theory and go to bed and then I think about us and I think about how many scenes we've seen in shows and movies where the couple goes and they're like. There's your baby's heartbeat and it's like there's no doctor saying well. That's the electrical impulse of your heartbeat beginning to travel to your uterus and in another X. number of weeks the fetus will eventually develop organs begins and it will have a heartbeat of its own like I. I've never seen that so that's when I go. Hey artists yeah put that scene in name of thrones obviously not probably not the right show but what is the big show for the season ten of game of thrones where the dragons or having Sonogram put out. I mean honestly it seems like people weren't that happy with the ending so why not I put something usually as polarizing but it's like you know that's when it's like okay yeah. This is where artists really got to broadcast something and make it mainstream you you know. I you have done a new comedy special and you are working on good people doing that with Lee Daniel. I know like all my God. I think he's so cool. We sat next to each other at this dinner thing in New York and I literally was so excited that I couldn't talk to him like a normal person so I just didn't I said like two or three three oddly timed thing. I just shook my head and was like no. I'm just GONNA stop lately. It's interesting to watch people's reactions to him because they either shut down or they talk like they start to Kinda yeah. You're just like your like yeah just and when you know it with people who we know we're like what's happening in you. What when I first met that happens to me. I got so nervous that I started talking to southern accent for no reason I do like hey girl I You're such a hero like I've never seen it was so weird. I was just like I'm so sorry I cannot still handed. You're just like the wires crossed and I had like an out of body experience and I was like looking down on myself being like your bombing. Stop like yeah. I had that with Kate McKinnon. Oh Oh I just I'm such a fan of her. She's also very doesn't need to impress you because she already has free like she. I I blanchard in like puked all over it was bad. I have the out of body experience looking down on myself not speaking in a southern accent but speaking like someone someone had dosed me with speed and I was just like Oh my God I think you're so amazing and like this thing was so funny and and it just kept going and she stood there and like eventually starting to get a little wider or and I was like this is bad..
"whitney cummings" Discussed on Work in Progress with Sophia Bush
"We're up with them. Whatever acquaint therapy for trauma all that kind of stuff blah blah Blah Google and I have like very deep obsession with carriage rides and I've spent a lot of time trying to shut the ones down in the Carolinas and in New York City and when I see them I have an histrionic reaction. It's like crazy like I can't even go into the upper east or west side of New York City my fiancee if he's here's the because I hear them and I instantly just break down and he has to carry me into a cab and we have to leave. It's so bad in so irrational and not childish but it's just an incredibly overwhelming. It's visceral. I'm crying. I'm out for a couple of days like like I have to cancel press. When I'm in New York like that's how bad it is and I did this family constellation work. I can't explain it very well. Someone explain it in rudimentary terms. Basically you go through all of your ancestors. Your grandfathers regret great grandfathers what they did what happened and she kind of figures out like what you're carrying. You know like pain gene from Dhaka your great great grandfather. You're carrying some of their unfinished business. Basically or something negative that happened to them are now expressing through your genes being an allergy be it a fear beat an obsession beaten addiction. Whatever it is right. We've inherited. Whatever genes are expressing themselves so she said something's going on with your great great great grandfather further he did something unforgivable and expressing itself all over. It's it's all over. You and I don't know anything about my ancestry. I I'm not that person iced started to a twenty three and me and then I got super paranoid about who they're sharing the data with like I'm that person like I'm like I call my uncle and we never talk about this. Kinda shit and I was like what can you tell tell me about our great great grandfather right and just the call he had cirrhosis which is my family in a nutshell had cirrhosis this this let me find something out out and I'll say hey can you let me know like what he did like anything and I. She said she was like whatever your great great grandmother did with your grandfather. She withheld love. That's how she punished him. which is what I do like my thing one? Oh One if I feel hurt I just withhold and check out and so explain to me what happened in their relationship. K that tracks ax and then he was like well. He was always busy with horse carriages and I was like what you're talking about. Oh he patented the axle in West Virginia that all the Horse Carriages rebuilt body chills and I was like I was like well. I bet everyone did that back then like that's probably just what everyone's job was. As you know it was like today like working at Amazon or something and he was going to know he actually patented the axle that every horse carriage was based on and if I hadn't heard it I wouldn't have believe it so I don't know what's going on with you and needles but it could be something old right there also needles calls yeah and they're fucking scary and that's the right reaction like so weird yeah so and I know if 'cause 'cause medicine. Is it literally medicine. It's helping you. Yes and there's something about like the push and it's so instant yeah and and the reaction kind of people who see what happens to my body. I can't see it but I feel it feel like I'm dying but people who see me always unequivocally go. Oh God and I'm alive alive. No no do you smoke weed ever. Maybe that's what I should do x. like when I got an IUD put it in. It was like so bad that when I go get it out. I'm just going to drag myself out above that. I don't I'm I'm in. Here's the thing I'm also like. I'm just going to clarify this because it's not obvious yet with all the shit that I'm into you know maybe it's a California kid because like I grew up in the woods and I grew up with horses him but I'm all for any kind of plant medicine that replaces any kind of FARMACEUTICA. We don't know what these chemicals are. Made of Earth handed us all these things so yeah. I'm down like Chelsea. Handler was like I'm starting line. Do you need someone to help you test that. I'm super sensitive and I'll know immediately things thanks to strong and I don't have to drive myself anywhere. That's fine. I do think though just on sorry to keep talking about your needle thing. I do think we're living in this time. Where sure no one's allowed to be afraid of anything. Don't have fear fear is a very helpful emotion. Yes it's what has kept our species alive. It's is an appropriate reaction and a lot of situations yeah and it helps us make smarter decisions and it's part of being human. I think if you're of needles you're probably your ancestors assessors probably survived very well and you have very strong genetics and I think it's a good thing same things I just basically. Your ancestors raped everybody They were not afraid of sharp objects. I'm probably the opposite but I just. I think that we're in this. We're like anxieties. Bad and fear is bad. It's it's like it's also what has kept alive is a species so it's just. I'm your assigns prison like I'm always in this place as a choir we trying so hard to get rid of all these things that are actually she would thrive and that helps make good decisions and if you're anxious my thing is like why make that go away. Maybe you're in a situation you need to get out of. Your body in your brain are telling you something will everyone. I know that's anxious. They're in a bad relationship because you're in a bad relationship. Zagging should have anxiety and that should help you get out of of it and that's like everything is firing on a yes right now because I think what's interesting. Is We look at the symptom and cause so all these people will say. I'm super stressed. I don't sleep sleep. Well you know something's going on with my body and we've been taught to attack. The symptoms and we ignore causes women especially. I think have been cultured till like stay in the relationship. Do the right thing be nice to everybody. Always show up always be fine even for you to say if you have this bad experience like you'll cancel cancel your next day because they're so emotionally affected takes a long time to give yourself permission and I don't think the world gives us that permission. You don't have the permission to take mental health days and I. I don't know I know that for me. I experienced a version of exactly what you're talking about. Where like I was in a bad circumstance. I was in a bad relationship and I just kept looking at what I was doing wrong. That was making me anxious instead of removing myself from the circumstances that were making me feel worthless worthless and that was causing anxiety but nobody had ever taught me to look outside and say perhaps so this or that dynamic isn't good for me rather than to go to the thing that I think so. Many women especially are cultured to do which is like will. It's me. I'm not yeah that's right. I need to deal with my anxiety problem. More your co worker is an asshole in is making you anxious and this is not a good match for you. Do you need to set a boundary and go you know what I need to move to a different office or I need to change jobs or I need to set a boundary or I need to distance myself from the person or this isn't a healthy friendship for me or whatever you know like anxiety is a really important part of our body telling us things and it's our gut and I think that when we ignore the the cause the symptoms symptom then comes out in much greater way sideways somewhere else yeah totally so you're like. You're having a panic attack about some random random thing. You're like the MO- the mouse with the orange blossoms. Yeah who's running from nothing because you haven't actually dealt with the thing that's making. You feel like you need to run your. You're telling yourself like this is fine. This job is fine relationships. Okay Yeah you do the thing where you're like what everyone says. All relationships are working hard work. It's supposed to be like this like what kind of word yeah yeah because if it feels like a quarter and we we just didn't deploy you yeah we we push things out sideways and then we feel like that sideways thing that quote makes makes no sense is the thing we need to deal with also designed to live like this. It's like it just I can't believe neurology is not taught in schools. We're not designed to look at screens all day. We're not designed to have cars cars driving past us. Every second are primordial brain thinks it's like lions or something dangerous. We're not designed to be engaged like we're just not designed for any of this so it's like we have our neurology has not evolved to be okay with any of it the way that we consume news. Everyone should have anxiety about everything all the time. We've created a Quadra wise. You're just not paying so I just need to do with like. Have you seen the news that year. Anxiety is not going to go away for a while. If you don't have it your number as those. I don't know how anyone could not have anxiety right now. Yeah you know anxiety is how people get motivated to change their circumstances and it's an important engine right. There's an on instagram people like fuck fear faulk anxiety. It's like no those are tools that can help us make decisions and see red flags and get motivated. Yeah I think for me. It's I've had to learn to make everything a little more of an adjustment in the middle because this whole thing of like fuck fear that will that doesn't work yeah but wh- so what I started to say to myself like very often fear is a liar. I will feel fear around this which I don't need to. What am I actually afraid of right now. And why is it coming out over here is a good fear or is it a rational old area. How do you think learning because I think it's so called in your last book. You talked so much much about codependency and we're talking about all of this neurology stuff and I know that so much of your research around all of these things things together brought you there and brought you down that path and I guess I'm just curious. You said in an interview that I loved you really yeah. It's the first chapter of my book and like the first ten chapters of my life. Oh Hey ah I get that. I'm curious because I think when you're in a place it seems like you are and I love to speak there where you're so in the work and like you've got the other side of some things I kind of like to rewind with people who might be just starting to look who are like. I feel these emotions. I have these things things like. How do you even begin to determine the codependency is a thing in your life and for you as you said it was this condition where you couldn't tolerate not being like to Kwajalein Yeah all right having low self esteem and so you'd focus on the needs of other people so that you didn't have to focus on your on staff yup..
"whitney cummings" Discussed on Good One: A Podcast About Jokes
"I'm i feel like i finally figured out how television works and then all the rules changed and i was like i'm not to learn that a psych. I'd know thank you so. I'll go back to putting another. You know special together. Okay things now now looking. Whatever you don't know what it is oh you know you're just like you're building a bridge to hopefully on the other side. Is whatever the specialist yea. I got right especially. What do i it's. There's always like such a backlog log of stuff to get to like that. I didn't get to in this special like i have just pages and pages of stuff that i wanna fight with myself in public about so that sound means. It's time for our final segment. It's it's the laughing around. It's like a lightning round but because it's comedy <hes> traditional eating rules apply that are shorter questions <hes> shorter answers to your favorite joke street joke yes this is i believe believe a drake seder joke and it's not an street joke. It's just like one of the first jokes i heard that's kind of taught ought as like the perfect joke <hes> but it always tickles me drake say they're used to work with sandler and you know he he took his own life but was brilliant standup. There's there's some video of him on youtube and it was <hes> it's in like joke books. I get some you know. A friend of mine just got had two of his family on his is arm. I mean marriage a house kids. That's one thing but like a tattoo. It's just so permanent. It's just you know what i mean. It's it's just kind of rule of threes surprise begrudging commitment. Hey it's like everything rolled into one and it's kind of like it was sort of one of the first like equate math equation jokes. I heard that made me go like oh you lead them. One way surprise you know which is not the kind of standard. I really do anymore but it's good to know what the the basics are. It's a good like everyone's starting stand up. Just like you know that joke. What's your favorite joke. Roast joke that you told old and the your favorite roast jokes that was told about you favor rose stroke i did. I liked it because it was so not jokey. It was just all balls paul which is ultimately like people always ask me. How do you rate the and there's so much math that goes into it but at the end of the day sometimes just the balls easiest truest thing is the funniest inst- and with joan rivers also because she was so down to be insulted that made it so much more fun but it was my first joke about joan own which was just i loved you in the wrestler it it's just so simple it's simple and it also takes a minute like it was like your brain is there's nothing better when they're like that moment where you could sink or swim when people actually get it is the greatest test so that one i loved because it kind of defies all laws of comedy in a way and it's my favorite one about me also was greg giraldo of of course <hes> one of my favorite comics and just brilliant row stroke writer. He told so many times i mean he did like he is so old. He used his first residual check to buy his freedom. I mean like a plus joke but one year i was there have been the joan rivers david hasselhoff us where he and we need whitney cummings is here for some reason. I guess i guess since god. Joan joan have huge gay following. We needed someone with no following girl. Obviously knows the answer to the question..
Whitney Cummings shuts down efforts to extort her over photo
"Comedian Whitney Cummings stop someone from trying to extort money from her in their tracks so this started back in April when Cummings accidentally posted a image of herself on Instagram that showed a breast she deleted it coming said someone took a screenshot of the image and sent it to her with the message how much would it cost to not shared this photo however yesterday Cummings responded on Twitter by reposting the photo and saying if anyone's going to make money likes off my nipples going to be near so here it is for all of you you foolish door that's awesome people started using the hashtag stand with Whitney online I like at all take foolish don't work like that one could go play you dork