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How Important are Routines?
"Hello, welcome back to instill family parent talk. I'm so glad you were here. So today's topic is how important our routines these are everything with my family, especially during the weekdays my children seem to function a lot better when they know what to expect during our weekly routine. I have always made sure to establish a routine and maintain it throughout the year just so they already know what to expect. So the biggest lesson I learned is that when children know what to expect they seem to remember their parents expectations or what is expected of them which in return means better behavior for me having smaller children my children have an idea Idea when bet is and when to go to bed without arguing or fighting same with everything else like homework dinner and bathtime. So now off if you don't have a routine the important thing to know when trying to establish one is to be consistent just like everything else. Now. The first few weeks are going to be rough. So you're going to really have to pull that strength from deep within and and power through it. And I promise that life will be so much easier. Although we still are parents. So who are we kidding children are not easy and there's always new challenges with each eight age level you go through I'm still off and five and six year olds time this may work for some people and some people might need a little bit more effort. I mean, it really all depends. But when you finally get a dual establish a routine that works best for you. Everyone's bodies seem to adjust and what I mean by this is that everyone's bodies will start to develop an internal clock and when things And your body like automatically knows when things are done. For example, if you eat dinner at 6 p.m. Every day, then your body will get hungry around that time every day as long as you're consistent. So I really can't stress enough how important being consistent is when establishing anything this can go for literally anything in your life life. Not just establishing routines, you know could be for workouts or for swim lessons. I mean, I don't literally anything that can be applied to anything else. So when you're consistent you create a habit and I would love to hear about what type Of routines. Everyone else is establishing in the steps. You took to establish. So please keep in mind things happen in life. And that's okay 9 a.m. Every single day will things work out perfectly. So don't stress about it or don't get angry life happens don't strive for Perfection because you will fail almost every single time because perfect people don't exist. You can try and try and try and try and you'll never reach pure perfection. So again share what your routines might look like in the comments below and remember in so family is a place where families grow so grow through kindness because kindness matters and so do you for mortgage content, please visit and spell family. Thanks for listening guys.
Fred Gives Tips on Fall Lawn Care.
"We've been talking a lot about fall lawns and you were saying it's time to lower that more. Well. Definitely. So now you don't have to I just sent my more down. I think it was Thursday when I mode. I. Have I've been running at kind of high an unruly looking. To. Save water to allow it to shade its own root zone and so on and and with relatively limited use of extra water. It has stayed green. Now I chose because it was becoming cooler at night and so on. To drop the hide to the more down to on the garage floor measured two and a half inches and mowed the lawn looks ever so much more groomed. It is still a brilliant emerald. It got fertilized yesterday we'd killed at the same time. So this is long time and you can I I'm assuming now that it's going to be on the cooler more moist side where we don't get the burn So I I don't think it has to gird itself as much two and a half inches. It'd be my recommendation, and then in the same breath I'm going to say do not scalp on lots of. People grew up at GRANDPA getting to this in time and going to be done mowing. So he he was set the more down to what I call scalp that inch that gives the grasp practically no cover for its own root zone. The Sun can penetrate the wind can dry, and it's a lot of negative things. So two and a half inches from now right on through to maybe maybe marquis a little past. Thanksgiving and that. Launch should be great now while it's still getting to be great, it is the time of year when roots of grass and most other things do grow quite nicely in our cooling soils. So it's the time to add the fertilizer to give the nutrients it needs to go into winter in good shape It is proven that a fall application fertilizer does kind of hold over or is ingested and kept over inside the plant. As well as in the root zone and it makes for a whole lot better starting spring and a whole lot better lawn next year just by wall fertilization, and then if I may weeds are my nemesis and everybody else's it depends on how you want your lawn to be but I get into the situation where little ground cover plan I have called Juba will sometimes start a plant in the grass no big deal usually. When That I used to pick from my mother because it made a nice little bouquet for a six year old take home they are A genuine nuisance they grow they seed they're their seed pods or write down at the soil line. They could become very prolific darn hard to kill along with some other weeds. So if you haven't already started right now today or this coming week, put an application of of urbicide on them. either as a general fertilization with fertilizer and weed killer or just weed killer liquid or powder I don't care which but you will give the plant a good dose of things that doesn't like. It may not die and quite possibly won't however the second application you put on at the end of this month as far as the as the pesticides concerned. You will get it to ingest and beat inside the plants going into winter. We'll either been kill the plant or it will kill it come spring or the its growth will be so weak in the spring that one more application at gross time when there's leaf enough to put the weed killer on you, you can knock those things out you know season.
The Toddler Attitude and How to Manage!
"Hello, welcome back to instill family parent talk. I'm still glad that you guys are here for yet another episode. So today's topic is the toddler attitude. If you had been following me and my family, you know, I have a six year old boy and twin boys and girls that are five. So now I'm not sure if this is a toddler thing or girl thing, but my daughter has the biggest attitude all the time my boys on the other hand rarely ever. They are pretty laid-back and loving mom get me wrong. My daughter's my daughter's the same way, but she just has like a teenage attitude if you want to label it, so Now the the toddler attitude of my daughter, I don't think is like a normal toddler attitude. Please comment if I'm wrong or if anyone else relate, but she's very sassy. And what is the nicest way that I can put it here? Here's just was a slight example. My daughter has a terrible habit that really gets under my skin. So when she asked a question if she doesn't get an answer within five seconds of asking the sad question. She says, I guess that is a yes and like not like waves are head like a bobblehead and like rolls her eyes back and like please tell me I'm the only money that deals with us at this level and age like it's super toddler attitude and you know, I have been trying to Ends the negative behavior, but she seems to be pretty unbreakable. Now. I don't know if this is just us butting heads or if this is actually a good quality for a young woman to have maybe I'm just being hopeful now I don't want to break her strong-willed self because I thought that would be very helpful when she becomes a young woman. But right now it's literally pushing every patient button that I don't have available. And it's rough some days more than others to deal with but I have to remind myself that I was very strong-headed and strong-willed just as much as she is so and find out just fine. So I think she will too. I just have to find that strength deep within and power through it. So now let's talk about the tell the attitude of my boys. My six-year-old usually only gives me attitude when he's tired hungry or not in a good mood which is typical and expected for boys or girls. I can handle these moments because I can actually tell when it's one of these three things and it's minimal enough to not push any buttons my five year old twin boy, e is an entire other story though. He is my sensory child. He is an out-of-the-box thinker that likes to challenge another great quality to have but pushing. Every patient button that I don't have he likes to argue that things are not right. So unless you literally explain everything to him he will argue now. It's definitely not realistic to me at least to explain every single thing and how every single thing works. You essentially have to prove the child wrong with facts about logic and and that's what I mean by arguing and explaining things. And do you realize how hard it is for someone who is so free-spirited to give out facts all the time. It's very hard. We have very different personality personalities. I'm a lot more like my daughter's a lot more like me off Hiram is more of logic and facts and Hayden who is my oldest who is my six year old he is More of okay if you say so but then if he questions it, he will ask and challenge you on that aspect, so I'm going to make sure of of everything and I think all that has to be considered in in how to me and installed their attitudes, but I would love to hear how you guys managed hablo attitudes. So share your story in these comments below or on Facebook or my Instagram pages, but remember in some family is a place where families grow so grow through kindness because kindness matters, and so do you for more great content, please visit the family. Com. Thanks for listening guys.
Oprah and Iyanla Vanzant: Live from Montreal Canada
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I'm oprah winfrey. Welcome to super soul conversations the podcast. I believe that one of the most valuable gifts you can give yourself is time taking time to be more fully present your journey to become more inspired and connected objected to the deeper world around us starts right now. Please welcome the thank you. You know that lesson of until you heal the wounds of your past you we'll continue to bleed. I remember the moment you set it on the show you've quote keeper and wrote it in my book. What does that mean move you. It means that there's like an impression that's made on your soul on your heart. What that wound that cutback bet dig that whatever it is and it starts to bleed it bleeds energy it bleeds power and until you actually heal that it will continue to bleed and that that that wound that hurt that disappointment is gone touch everything i heard you tell the story about your mother and i had a moment and what i heard then. This is so true for so many people you as a sixty something. You're a woman yeah what trying to forgive your mother but that's not who she heard she heard the six year old and louis using the language and the intellectual contracts of a sixty year old the china forgive her when it's the six-year-old shero who needs to say you heard me imagine you were mean to me. I'm not sure friend yeah. You understand yeah but we try to forgive where we are now and don't take into consideration where the wound happened. That's why the woman keeps bleeding so while you have forgive in your quiet time go back in that that six sure speak to her in a six year old language yes that makes sense. Yes i will say that six-year-old spoken before out loud to me many times. I've been able to hear that. Yes you say that lives fall all apart because they need to be rebuilt. Yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah because sometimes we build on a shaky foundation. We build on a rocky foundation. Are we build with false information and that information will only get us to a certain place and then when we get to that place we have to tear that structure down relate a foundation foundation so that we can build up again but we don't know that so we think the tearing down the breakdown of the falling down is the end this catastrophe you know we just want to bleed and it has to come down and so my mantra will not happen because that's happened to me very many times include glued last tuesday oh boy i can hardly wait to see the good. That's come out of this. I can hardly wait to you see because i know something good has to come on with us. Go back to that old spiritual this by faith. I don't believe these brought me this as far to leave me so this is falling down. It's going to be rebuilt better so yama has a new book and it's called get over it great title and this is what you say on page for anything and everything we experience is a function of how we think. That's what i'm trying <unk> to relate to be. We are where we are in our lives right now based on how we think about them yeah we are where we are as a country based on how we think yes we are where we are as individuals based on how we think because bought is energy and thought it's creative and we continually impregnate the environments with mental contracts every time we think we can't afford. I can't remember who wrote it. I think it's terry cole whittaker doc. I can't afford the luxury of a negative thought and now the way the energy is moving. We can't afford to have a negative thought so you are creating and everything thing that's in your life as thereby energetic invitation of your thought process sats invited in you invited it in what you're thinking yeah so you have a unique definition of suffering so many of us are suffering because suffering i define as our our voluntary participation in events circumstances and situations that disempower us <music> voluntary participation in something that will disempower you because you don't believe that you have the power to do any better and that create suffering so how people remain as you say in slaved to their circumstances in slave to the way things are dr because they think that it's out externally as governs us and it's not we don't think externally we think internally we don't feel feel externally. We feel internally. We stay enslave to our circumstances number one because we think we know what supposed to be going on. Sometimes i lives have fallen down and we're trying to fix it. No liangelo let that be stay as you say in the moment deal with how you're feeling about your life falling apart what you're thinking about what your life is falling apart and deal from them as opposed to getting in busy with trying to fix and change what's going on because that will enslave you more of our conversation in just a moment support for today's super bowl conversation comes from google google fi. Doesn't it feel like most plans to thwart made with us in mind between bad coverage paying too much for data. You don't actually ever use and crazy roaming charges. Does the list goes on and on. That's why it's time to try. 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Don't you have a maintenance on your car or your refrigerator. When you buy a new thing even if you buy it at on my husband and these all the amazon services me all night long and the up at two o'clock in the morning with arizon- buying stuff out on me and he sells me slurp display on toasted coffee make ak- anything i want. He gives me a service plan but we don't want your husband. Amazon emanates on <hes> ooh. We don't have a service plan for our minds. What do you do to keep your mind in good repair for our hearts. What do you keep your heart in good repair after disappointment some rejections and letdowns in portrayals. What do you do to keep your soul in a good repair. We need a daily spiritual service plan. What do you do see. I know you walk among the apostles out then it was twelve my trees the apostle abby ebbe muscle yes yes what do you do and what would that look like so people here that a spiritual maintenance plan yeah. You don't know what that what does that actually mean well for me. I have it hanging. I have a lamp on my nightstand and i have on a sticky the paper that's now that tape on it. I know that doesn't sound very classy but what you gotta do what you can do when i wake up in the morning and turn sticky note hot pink is the first thing i see father into your hands. I commit my spirit. Give me this day my daily bread everything thing that i need to be in service to you. That's the first thought i have in the morning before. I p for brush my teeth doing it they. I'm on the sticky note because i'm programming my brain. That's the i thought the other thing for me. My daily spiritual plan is i read something. I think i read something in our repeated and then i journal about it plus. I do my gratitude statements. I'm up to forty five every morning forty five every night i write gratitude and i'm grateful for whatever it is you do some people read. Some people pray listen to a song but me my sticky note. Oh my gratitude statement and whatever i'm reading for that day and i and i do that every single day just to keep myself grounded and then when somebody pisses assist me off in the middle of the day i go to the sticky note. Give me this day my daily bread so that adults adult match this person's tongue out they head. How may be holy in this moment. I go go to the sticky note because i need help. I'm human. I need help. It's so wonderful. You have a gift for healing do you do you know that yeah i do yeah i do accept and it's a privilege and it's an honor and it keeps me humble humble and really work hard to stay aligned on that path so that i don't get that over to the ego and make it about what i can do. It's about service of healing and one of the ways you do that is by calling the thing thing all thing thing. I you gotta and that that'll take you out. You know you're looking at somebody. You not telling you alive in line with my grandmother used to say these are bald faced liar. I don't know what that that means. You know the person is not being truthful with you and you did grin and then go all along with whatever they say when you knew because we haven't been taught how to address that authentically so i learned and early on when somebody is lying to me or not being honest forthright with me. I say you know what beloved. I know that sounds to the u. Let don't feel true to me. I can't move on that right. Now can't move on everyone. It's so interesting because the the super successful show on fixed by life. Are you dow like a doctor so when people come up to you they're like. Can you fix my life with. Can you fix me up. Can you help me with my now. I'm just trying to buy so powder. Go away at the dollar dollar champion. You'll have the dollar tree here in canada. No that's what's wrong with you. You don't have no dialects the more of this episode after short break. 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I don't know how to do this and you are being writing me for relationship advice savior inc honey those three things so i learned i learned the depth of my wound with my father because every man that i was in relationship with i was trying to get something that i didn't get from my father number. Two i learned the depth of which i would degrade myself to get somebody else's acceptance that thing ruled it took took melrose away yes but deaths to which i would degrade myself to get somebody else's acceptance and then the other thing that i learned is i. I have a right to ask for what i want and then to choose how i respond if you can't give it to me. That's where i learned you. Don't get to tell the people how to love you. You get to see how they're loving and then shoes whether or not you want to participate. Yes yes asked for what i want and you can give it to me. I'm not gonna stay in be mad at you. I'm gonna see okay. That's how you you loving that. He wants to be love. I'm out out out explain. How in this moment meant being attached to the light of our smartphones is actually dimming our own light because it keeps us inauthentic authentic and a key. It keeps us believing that was separate. I'm over here. You're over there. You know i don't have to be in your spirit. Just like we said earlier. We really haven't seen each other in three years but because we texan email it seems. She couldn't believe she had seen me for years. It's been three years years since we've been in space but because we're connected heart to heart soul to soul but for people who aren't it keeps us separate and and it makes us think that who i am doesn't matter that i can do and say whatever i want. We have to get to that place where we reconnect touching. That's why i'm touring because i want to touch. Take me off the screen. Put me on the stage. Let me speak into you not over. You and you have seen just just about every kind of pathology. I it's so funny. Sometimes that the the guests if they only knew i say help us jesus. What are we going to jesus. Take the wheel this is this is something special uh-huh and seeing all of that pathology has taught you what about the human condition well see. I don't see the patch biology. I understand about biology but i see the spirit i see the love i see the capacity i see the power i see divinity. I see the majesty and then i go in haul out a call that out. I'm not gonna let that appearance of weakness and broken this dysfunction. I'm not gonna let that stand between you and what you want. I just call it out sometime out the call a little louder another yeah but it has taught me also how divine we are how noble we are how powerful we are and how much to create a loved sauce when we think of some of the things that we've been through as individuals and then can still get up and put on online a straight girl. We are bad somebody body. Does everyone have a purpose you know. Everyone has a purpose but he is what people forget forget. You don't have to look for it. Your purpose gave birth to you. All you have to do is tap into it then get on the the path to walk it out. Don't look for your purpose. It's in call it forward and as it begins to come forward. Get on your path and walk it out. Walk it out yana. I'm over winfrey and you've been listening to super soul conversations conversations the podcast you can follow super soul on instagram twitter and facebook. If you haven't yet go to apple podcasts and subscribe rate and review this podcast join me next week for another super so conversation thank you for listening starting starting august twenty fourth own proudly presents black women owned the conversation of four part special love motherhood beauty mind body and soul watch this with every woman you know from your saturday all this twenty-fourth ten nine central.
Quickie: William B. Irvine on Stoicism within Families
"Cam Lists there is no minimalist rulebook. Well until now the minimalists have created sixteen rules for living with less a free e book which you can download right now at the minimalists dot com slash resources enjoy. How do you live a STOIC existence with a family? I often get this question with. Respect to to to minimalism People are yet. It's easy to say when I embrace minimalism. I I had just gotten out of a marriage and and so I'm I'm married now with a six year old daughter but at the time it was. Oh it's so it's easy for this. Young single person to to to embrace minimalism. Try It with a family. But of course the one of the people inspire me early on was in Buddhist. Who's a minimalist namely Obama and he has six kids and a wife and a whole a minimalist family and What I realized is that you can an embrace these different philosophies with a family it is more difficult however it does seem to be more important because you have other people who depend on you in a way. Yeah in a family can be a great source of delight a great source of joy and yet look at all look at all the people who have families in simply ignore the The people in the families all the people who are too distracted with other things to really form the close relationships they could be Taking so STOIC is not going to take their kids for granted not gonNA take their spouse for granted not gonNa take their parents for granted And is going to try to extract as much delight as humanly possible from the situation So it's compatible with having a family And that STOIC THEMSELVES. Had different arguments about whether you should be going out of your way to have a family or not some. Sonya's might have been an outlier there Tell me about MC the other's STOIC and they did So so you say you Sonia's e Was against having a family or pursuing it. He he tends to think that less is more. But then he there's passages where he talks about Going outside and seeing You know a family with the parents and the children now out in the sunlight walking together and and just you know the feeling of this is one of the greatest delights That that human being can enjoy and yet think of all the people who go out with their kids and it's just a quarrel and everybody's got their own cellphone. They're looking instead of talking to each other. It's what you make up and you can go into a family existence and you can turn it into a really a gaggle of self transformation or not and a lot of people. Don't let the fact that they have. A family have any impact on their life. On the way they live in which is tragic array. We hope you found value in that. Standalone quickey episode. If you enjoyed it and you want more Ryan I record a long form. Maximal episode each week over at the minimalists private podcast find all the details and all the good stuff including an additional private podcast episode every week over at the minimalists dot com slash support.
Exit Route - Make Your Choice!
"Greetings everyone and welcome back to another episode of Plan B's success. Today's episode is about out exit routes and choices that we make when we have to choose an exit row. Let me give you a scenario. John is on his way to his office. One morning. He gets on a three lane interstate in another two miles. He would need to take the exit toward his office. He notices that the right most lean is cordoned off a very long way since there's some kind of construction activity going on in that particular lane in that particular section of the interstate the other two lanes to the left seem congested with all the outflow in traffic now the inner lane is moving slowly while the outer lane is somewhat floyd if you were John. What would you do in this situation. Since it's only two miles to your exit you could stick to the inner land and drift with the traffic until you reach your exit between your exit and where you currently are is an intermediate exit that has incoming traffic flowing onto the interstate which could be the reason for the condition and slow moving traffic. It might take a little longer not sure how long but you will get your exit eventually. Perhaps the safest option in this congested in the state that you're in another option is to watch for an opportunity and get on the outer lane which has traffic moving a bit more fluidly you you would need to be alert and cautious as you move through the slain and eventually shift to the right lane when you get closer to your exit you need to be watchful of finding that opportunity and space between the trail of vehicles on your right in time to not move award too soon to get stuck in the slow moving lane and not too late to miss your exit at the same time you need to be careful of not causing an accident in this already congested traffic that you're in the midst of now. Why am I going through this. You might ask about something as simple as driving on interstate which we tend to do subconsciously every single day this simple task in in fact translates into something as profound as managing your own career or even your own business. It's amazing how closely loosley our day to day lives reflect lessons that can be applied to our actions in Ken Russell's larger than ourselves and our daily lives in everything. Can you do read the being on the job and seeking to be successful at it or pursuing success in a project not often enterprise that you have set up risk is a very integral part what determines this level of your success is the amount of risk you take and come away managing it successfully and skillfully in the example given about John has the less risky option of just being in the Inner Lynn following the traffic to reach his exit while he watches to maintain his distance between the way in the front and in the back but the pace as of movement is totally dependent on the traffic in that particular Lynn he has no control on that he'd need has control on the traffic in Ada has control on the pace in that Lynn. If the traffic sits for an hour before he inches towards his exit that is what it's GonNa be and he has to deal with it on the other Iran. If we take some risk by getting into the outer lane lie he asked to watch out for the weights in the front and the rear as he maintains his position him and most along he also needs to be watchful of the traffic in his right blame to judge where he is in relation to his oncoming exit he needs to make the correct correct judgment about moving into traffic in the right land entering too soon or too late would defeat his purpose although there is little risk and the need for being more good in the second option and in fact it also requires more skill to manure the option it would be the ideal one for John if his goal is to reach his exit sooner than later the time saved by not being stuck in the traffic might be but needs some quick decisions decisions and deft execution by John to make it possible of course there are unknown risks one of which is an accident upfront which which could slow down the outer lane to in such cases. John would need to look for other options or go with the one that works best in that particular situation similarly in our lives and in everything that we do in our careers as employees or as businessmen are entrepreneurs. There are options. You need to determine what the end goal is and based on that make assessment of what path to choose to get there in the most skillful fashion the the most efficient fashion in the right time risk is inevitable in everything you do you can take the risk averse option but be prepared to not be in control control and do not expect much to happen. Are you can decide to take more calculated risk which will required some ingenuity and exertion on your part but it will ensure that you have great success. What kind of person are you the one who takes the million and let's the traffic determined when when you reach your exit or the one who gets on the adventure of the outer lane and mix it happened one pulsating with excitement of controlling your journey into your exit does another story that I wanted to share with you today as well no today. September fifties what we call the teacher's Day back in India India and I ended up calling an old friend his six-year-old son picked up the phone and we chatted for a few minutes now. This kid was animated about an even at home from from a few days ago and started relating to me. His grandfather was fellow sedated by a group of people who came from different places. I asked him who they were and what did they felicitate him for hip lied that they were group of sixty some seemed young some older and they'd come from different places in India some were from abroad to they came together to honor his grandpa their teacher from years ago the little one was thrilled to see really happy crowd and an even happier Rhonda. My friend took the phone next had an equally excited tone and talked about how thrilled everyone was to come together and honor his father. Nobody that said September fifth is teaches day in India and these students of his dad from over the years took the time to come over and meet his father and family reminisce about the time spent together and thank him for shaping their lives by the time I let go off the line. I was excited to isn't it amazing. These erstwhile students made an effort to get together meet and greet their teacher her and show their gratitude. He must have been a wonderful teacher to have left such an indelible mark on these students that they came looking for him. I consider him to be a very successful teacher. Success means many things to many people. What does it mean to you. Revenue Profits off its bank balance power position a luxurious lifestyle large cars bigger homes etc etc etc when you really look at the core of any job done. There are two things that matter at that point in time. Do you enjoy what you do and are are you giving it to your best your ultimate goal might be to become a CEO of a company and run your own company or more generically to get to the top of the pinnacle nickel of your career but you may not be there yet right now. This moment there the job you do and you're responsible and accountable for it. Do you take that seriously if you do you ought to give it your very best. Your best will translate into the best possible results on the job. Bob No matter how they're measured with this affable demeanor you will make associations that take note and these combined with the results talk show. Pave the path to your dreams going back to the two teams. I just mentioned they're enjoying what you do so you can give it to your best that it self is true success. Everything else outgun the emoluments of a job and the books that come along with it our outcomes. It's not success success license. The relationships you make along the way the lifestyle impact and improve the lessons you learn an impact inspiration you provide on the respect you command for a job. Well done what one would consider a success in terms of material. He'll weld or a better lifestyle are all outcomes of the success you cherish outcomes as we discussed our natural results house of a job well done. Is it a crime to aspire for outcomes not at all but when you focus only on outcomes instead of enjoying what you do do and giving it to your best the success measures get compromised and it all remains just that an aspiration and never reality reality true success isn't the relationships you build and maintain over time. There's an old saying that inspires us to count our blessings things in the friends and supporters we have looked for success in your friendships camaraderie and job well done trust me all else that it's shapes a happy and fulfilled life must and will follow through for you. If you like what you hear. Please make sure that you subscribe oops Gripe and also spread the word legal review or a common donate Younes. That'll help a lot in spreading the word and do spread the word shared the world with others so that they may enjoy and benefit from this content as well thank you.
Tips for cleaning out beds for Spring
"Hi, this is Mark news from plant talk radio. Thanks for subscribing and listening to our podcast. You're gardening questions. From plan. Talk radio to help keep this podcast free for you were partnering with stoke seeds preplanned your indoor seeds starting program with the help of the all new Stokes website, now mobile and tablet friendly. The new website is a brand new gardening experience. It offers better interactivity and higher quality imagery. But what hasn't changed is the Stokes website is still the complete resource center with valuable information on seed starting planting and harvesting all the gardening accessories and a free catalog, whether you're adding texture a new variety for a splash of color developing an existing garden or starting from scratch stoke seeds has some great resources to help you. Plus, all the gardening accessories. You need to make your garden the envy of the neighborhood get growing with Stokes. Now. Today's question now as as cleanup is concerned, my little neighbor six-year-old bright little fella came over to help me pick up twigs the other day. Eight while I was reaching down for the first handful. He had picked up two hands full and taking them over and put them in behind some shrubs and things now this is this is stuff a less than an inch in diameter. And by the time, I got the second or third handful done he had pretty well. Groomed. The rest of the front yard. That's the difference in speed between his age in mind. Let's just sleep it that way, and that gets let's just say things looking a little better now in the areas where I don't plant. I very well may add additional mulched that it will be a measurement thing where if there is mulch there already I'm not going to add any more than we'll bring it back to a total of two inches deep. I don't want to load it up where water and air can't move through it and so on so that's the cleanup part. And then I also want to strongly recommend you look up. I think I mentioned to or so ago. Eight eight. Nearly ten foot long piece about three inches in diameter came down and hit. But I on the ground just three feet from my front sidewalk. That's getting too close. Thanks again. For listening to the podcast. Remember preplanned? Your indoor seats starting program with the help of Stokes gardening guide and their online articles on their brand new website now mobile and tablet friendly and request your free catalog while you're online for the best selection of vegetable flower and herbs seeds available go to stoke seeds dot com. Cultivating successful growers for generations.
"Tone meant for me. Episode Nine Hey magical misfits. It's Cayden IV and welcome to atonement for me. So. Let's hop into. Some pretty dark content because I'm in my nice tearful. Fun glittery outfit. So it totally matches my subject of self harm as usual. And it's. One of those things that that has kind of ints honest with my brand since. I. debuted it to the world and I've been talking a lot about my struggles with self harm over the years. On multiple different platforms and to a lot of people individually and I guess it's time we explored that a little bit more. Self Harm. Is. Such. A strange thing to admit to to yourself and to. Other people. Because it doesn't. necessarily. Make Sense. You're hurting yourself on purpose. That's something that. We all try to avoid at all costs. So it seems like it's going against our better nature. To wife. To do that. And it's something that took. New Year's to recognize. As a part of my life. Because when we think of self. Harm. We're often talking about. In the context of suicide or Cutting yourself really hurting yourself physically, but it's not always so dramatic. I started. Self harming when I was a kid. 'cause I didn't feel. Like. I mattered and that I was worth. Or that I deserved. Nice things or good things to happen to me. I felt that I needed to punish myself because I didn't. Feel good enough. and. It's such a strange process to go through as a child because you're punishing yourself and it wasn't. A crazed seven year old with a knife. was. Little six year old may sleeping on the floor because it was hard and it was cold and I felt that I didn't deserve to sleep in bed. Or turning the lights on to make it more difficult for me to sleep because I didn't feel that I. Should. I felt. That by depriving myself of certain comforts. It wouldn't. It would somehow. Make the worthlessness that I felt makes sense. Because I was physically equating. To a state of mind. And that grew with me. To. Being a teenager and actually cutting myself. And I? Would use. Razor blades or scissors or not lives or Pro Tractors anything that I could get my hands on that was a sharp edge and I would just do. Little. Cat Scratch slices. On my legs. And I wouldn't let anybody see because I. didn't want anybody to know. But every Cut At that point. Made me feel. Relief and it's actually scientifically releases the same endorphins as when you're running. So you're used to that high and I was on the track team and I. was. Addicted to running but I was also addicted to self harm because things could be spiraling out of control for me in my life or me and my head. And the one thing that I control was that release the cut. And sometimes like my vision would actually be blurred. I was so upset and I was so anxious or I. was just overwhelmed and as soon as I cut myself I felt like I could breathe again. It was like doing drugs it you know it's wrong but it Helps you, function. And you can't get away from it because it's a habit that you formed. and. That's your way of coping. That's your way of dealing. And that loss of control. By being overwhelmed or scared or anxious. You're in control of that release. You're the one who's doing that damage. And it was. Some little. Way. It was something that was just mine. I went to counseling for that. As a teenager and it's something that I've definitely been aware of since I was a teenage or. Doesn't mean. That it. Stopped there. I might not have. Instantly, thought to pick up a knife or scissors or something sharp. But that feeling of worthlessness and that. That need to be punished for not being worthy stayed with me. And, I would self harm in other ways I would purposely not eat. Or? Do. Drink too much or do drugs or. Sabotage. Relationships. Or? Forming terrible relationships. Those are all things that I have done. And I've no Ingley. Done. Some of them to hurt myself. And it's. The hardest thing to admit to yourself. When You're so addicted to it that. Your the one you're unhappy with. Your angry with yourself so you need to punish yourself. And that's not something that. A lot of people. Want to face. In themselves. So they don't acknowledged. That slightly masochistic part. Of. themselves. And so. I haven't cut myself. For years. And, it has taken me years and years and years to get rid of the majority of my self harm scars. All the way up my legs on arms. Sometimes and pictures you can see them. Just, little whispers almost like lace. Although at my skin. But they're almost. Roadmap of the struggles that I've gone through. And people often ask me how I can be so cheerful or take so much joy and little things. It's because so many things have happened. That weren't joy. And I reveled in. The pain. Because it was all that I knew. And being on the other side of that. Rediscovering all the things that had been overlooked. Is. Amazing. It's miraculous. It's magical. It's important. To me. To. Take them and and not. Turn it into something more bitter mcnabb. I know a lot of people who struggle with addiction whether it be substance abuse or eating disorders. Those are all. Within the umbrella of self harm. Because we. What we're doing to ourselves. We know the end result. But we're determined to follow along that path. And I know I gave a lot of people a hard time when I was struggling along that path. And I snapped a lot of people. And I was unkind. Too many people. And to those people, I am truly Truly, sorry. Because You cared and you extended yourself when you knew I was having. Such a hard time. Hurt people hurt people. And I was in so much pain than. Mentally and emotionally that I lashed out. And I couldn't see. How damaging I was to myself? Because I was consumed by it. The same way. Any addiction? Consumes. It. Poisons. It controls. and. Manipulates you. It changes the way you think. So When you see someone who struggles. With. Addiction or, self harm. Or are really struggling with mental health issues or just. A difficult time in general. You may notice that. They try to punish themselves. And it's not because they don't know what they're doing. Because everything is. Spun. So insanely. Out, of Control, for them That they're grasping at the only thing that they feel that they can control. And I really. Only, noticed this or realize this or started to actually think about this in myself. When I was. Just out of my teens was just earned my early twenties and my partner at the time had custody of. His nieces and nephews. And his nephew. Was Six and he was really really struggling. With all the TRAUMAS that he'd experienced in his six-year-old life. And he was crying night and he was saying didn't deserve anything and he wanted to die. Six, year old. In. So much pain they didn't want to go on. And It was the middle of winter and he took off his shoes and coat and went and sat outside in the cold. Because he was in so much pain. He felt that was all he deserved he was only six. And everybody was freaking out and couldn't understand why and why would he do something like that and this is crazy for a child and But I knew why? I'd been that child to. I'd had that haunted look and I'd been depriving myself of safety and comfort. When I was young as well because. A child that's all the control that I had. Over issues that were so much bigger than me. That I couldn't understand or deal with. Or even verbalize. And it was so overwhelming that I took it out on myself. The same way. He did. So it's not. Always. Being AIMO and slicing yourself with a razor. Blade. Can Be an eating disorder. Or? obsessively exercising. Or? A string of. Self. Destructive nights at the club or. Freeing home random people. So you don't have to face the commitment of just one person. Seeing who you truly are. Those are all. Examples of self harm. And I'm aware of that in my life and. It's a struggle. All, the time to keep my head of the water. To not. Consciously, go down those roads. To not. Spend wildly out of control. Because that's how I feel. And you'll see a lot of. Illusion. In my designs. To. Blood. Or bleeding. because. It's been such. A part. Of what has formed me What has trevon me what I've overcome. Just the T.
CBS 2 News PM Update 100620
"I'm Erica Sergeant here are the stories making news at this hour. Indiana is now on the warning list and could soon be added to Chicago's quarantine order cases there have been rising, but the city is not ready to put the state on the list just yet it did at Alaska but removed Texas in Georgia anyone travelling to those states is encouraged quarantine for fourteen days when they returned to Chicago. Fire has left two people including a six-year-old girl dead in. Gary. Indiana the fire started early this morning. The other victim was a twenty one year old man firefighters say the front of the house was engulfed in flames when they arrived. A mask mandate under attack. In Wisconsin, a conservative law firm wants the order blocked. They say the governor can't require people to wear masks judges promising a quick decision join us on CBS to or CBS Chicago. Dot Com for news updates around the clock. I'm Erica Sergeant.
Bigfoot Tells Wolfie About Being Bitten by the Spiders in His Home The Howard Stern Show
"The stern show while most people are quarantined with family or friends. Bigfoot has been quarantined with spiders. Don't I was listening to this clip and I will be. I think I don't even think it spiders. I think he's calling them spiders but it sounds like it's like something else. I agree with you. I have a suspicion that it's bad bugs but The only thing that I'll say though when I did the embedded with him a couple years ago his living room. It looks like never the munsters living room. How it was covered in spider webs is covered in spider webs. So it's it's tough to call. Does that happen? I mean don't like like I saw a spiderweb my house. I just got out of vacuuming. Let's say he doesn't even have vacuum. I just take my hand like knock it out. You know what I mean He. Just let's it like this. Just leave the web hanging there. I think so and the way he described it. I almost get the impression that day our intelligence spiders because they attacked him. It is Bedrooms that he now sleep so the couch in the living room. No solid him out there. I what's going on? I mean it's easy to get rid of the spiders just like you know. Take a hose in washed down the spider webs. That'll fuck them up anyway thousands of spider. Oh my God what is going on there all right so. Let me play the clip. Here's a here's wealthy with bigfoot hardest part about being stuck in your house during quarantine lights spider bites. How many spiders during your house? I have no idea our pulls you down is our would web all over the place in college I had in here was covered web but went into the cows would be long spiders everywhere in your basement all over your couch. Yeah have you had to guess? How many spider bites have on your body right now. Maybe I'll tell you about six year Shoulders sprays Joe Over they are. They really not have you. Scratch yourself so hard. Victor Bleeding poor bastard. But how did this happen thousands of spider webs on your couch? I don't know what I'm saying like are you at least plagued by was the monsters house. I would go over and say. Hey Herman just take this spider. Knock it down but you have to leave them alone for a long time for them to amount to that level. That's what I'm saying it's crazy and you know it's crazy or get over his house. He's been bitten hundreds of times. And no superpowers yet. Our stern show.
AP One Minute Headlines Oct 26 2018 20:00 (EDT)
"Entertainment design, just for you, then checkout, customizable, streaming TV from finishing. It makes your life simple easy. Awesome. Expended? He gives you, customizable, streaming TV options. Enjoy the most free shows anywhere on any device and even access your streaming apps right on your TV with x one. Go to expend dot com. A one eight hundred spineta or visit a store today. To learn more restrictions apply. Trump the mail bombs and Democrats, I'm Tim Maguire AP news been a President Trump praises the investigation. It's lead to the arrest of a suspect and the pipe bomb mailings to prominent Democrats and critics of his administration tells a rally in Charlotte North Carolina, he sees the media's blaming him for the actions of the suspect who supported him. We have seen an effort by the media in recent hours to use the sinister actions of one individual to score political points against me and the Republican party. The south Florida suspect Fifty-six-year-old says say as an amateur bodybuilder former stripper a loner with a long arrest record who showed little interest in politics. Intil Trump in his speech, Trump also worn those in the crowd, he fears. What could happen should Democrats win majorities in congress in the coming midterm elections? The radical Democrats get control they will try to erase every single thing that we've achieved I'm Tim Maguire. Entertainment designed just for you, then checkout, customizable, streaming TV from expanding it makes your life simple easy. Awesome. Expended? He gives you, customizable, streaming TV options. Enjoy the most free shows anywhere on any device and even access your streaming apps right on your TV with x one. Go to expend dot com. A one eight hundred Finnity or visit a store today. To learn more restrictions apply.
AP One Minute Headlines Oct 30 2018 15:00 (EDT)
"Going to Pittsburgh. I'm Ed Donahue with AP news minute. President Trump will be in Pittsburgh later today to meet with families and friends of the victims of the deadly synagogue shooting over the weekend. Rabbi Walter Jacob was at a funeral for one of the eleven victims of the shooting. It's very kind of him to come. Her her for little be in the midst of vists. K R morning. I don't know in Wisconsin today. Former vice president Joe Biden says after the synagogue shooting in Pittsburgh. It's time to restore civilities is not who we are. We need to recognize that words matter words matter. Biden says it time to restore some dignity to our national debate. State police say a nine year old girl and her twin six-year-old brothers were killed this morning. When a pickup truck struck them in northern Indiana as they were crossing a road to board a school bus and other student was injured, I may Donahue.
Episode 36 How To Get More Time Back In Your Business!
"Growing, their beauty business doesn't have to be neat overwhelming. It's all about mastering a few key strategies and systems to save you time. Welcome to beauty marketing simplified podcast dedicated to helping you on your entrepreneurial journey. I'm your host April Niece I'm a permanent cosmetic artists that built my six year business while only working three days a week and raising twin toddlers. I'm here to tell you. The is possible for you to with a background in SPA marketing. It's my mission to help women worldwide debt more prophets while pursuing their passion and purpose. Let's transform your beauty business for more income and less stress starting right now. Low there today. We're going to talk about how you can outsource and get your life back. So this is a topic that I feel is super needed in our industry, because so many beauty professionals. We feel like we need to do it all. We are trying to me the marketing we are trying to be a service provider. The front desk customer service, and sometimes even cleaning crew or our business. We do everything and that's awesome as which you have to do when you're first starting, but as you grow a business, you need to start outsourcing. Outsourcing and you need to know that there's a better way to operate a business. Oh, this is about when you start to hire team I'm so. We're GONNA talk about setting up systems so that you can scale your business and grow your business properly in, so you don't get out right? This is what's really key is knowing how to grow and how to start that outsourcing at the beginning, and it might be somebody that's part time it might be fulltime. It might be somebody in house, and it might be a virtual assistant about that so. You may be thinking, but April I don't have time, or how will afford to hire somebody? And if you do it the right way, it will actually save you time of course, and it will save you money because you create systems in your one time, so you don't have to keep doing it over and over again any may be thinking will only I can do what I do and I'm sure that you're fantastic what you do. and. You may be thinking that nobody knows how I do it, but the reality is that you can actually hire competent professionals that understand your business, and that can emulate your systems with the proper training right, so it's very easy to actually document the process of what you do and have other people to it. I like to say that. In our business, really the only thing that we are needed for is something that requires face like a video lead him to him right now, or maybe if you are the service provider that requires you know your face and your hands, because they are hiring just you. Everything else can be outsourced so I'm sure you have a unique way that you talk to your clients, and all of that can be taught might have unique way to set up your room, and all of that can be taught, but for now I'm which you think about two things. The first is what kind of business to have. You WanNa. Have a business where you are stressed and worried because you have to do. All of the things is going to be where you are constantly that hamster on the wheel proverbial wheel, trying to just keep up with doing it all, or do you WanNa have a business that has freedom and some ease to it. I'm guessing if you're in this for the long haul that you picked a freedom in ease, because the reality is, that is sourcing brings to you. So. That is what will actually happen. When you have the right systems to delegate now for today's task I want you to think about all of the things that you do in your business like everything. You do every day system so for example. Checking email making phone calls. Talking to clients in customer service, maybe posting on social media, so make this checklist make this list of all the tasks that you do doing the services and so forth jetting around cleaning up your room anything you do in the salon spy an area that you work think of everything that you do on a daily basis to run your business. Ride all that down then we'll see on the checklist you're going. Going to ask yourself. Is this making you money? Right and Canet be delegated right. Those are going to be some key questions also GONNA start to ask some other key questions like should I really be doing this? Is this a good use of my time? Is it directly making money and can somebody else do this for me and then here's another key question? Is there something I should be delegating now? Or can it wait for something and to be delegated later I think oftentimes we think all delegated later and later turns to next year, and then five years down the road, and you're still in that same sex situation so again. If you really WANNA, grow and scale Your Business I'm glad you're here. For, now, Thank you for listening to another episode of the Beauty Marketing Simplify podcasts. And if you enjoyed today's episode, we would love to hear from you. Make sure you subscribe download and also to review. Let us know any topics that you would like to hear about and all differently. Refer it to a friend. Thank you again for joining us on signing off this April with Britain grace, hugs and high fine. Next week.
Season 2 Coming Soon
"The. Girls want to welcome you to school on beautiful Monday morning it's going to be an absolutely beautiful. This season on the promise public education. It's supposed to be the great equalizer but more and more. It feels like the great divider. Turned it into this just like turf warfare over-six-year-olds. That's Kinda messed up. There is no other term to describe it but black and white and rich and poor they said. So what's the school year zone for? Then she goes ooh, you don't want to send your kid there or Not, comparable or dressing race I mean really addressing. The kindergarten class and my school was all white kids to kindergarten class. There was all black kids I. I thought Martin Luther King that that this is a story about one school trying to stay afloat neighborhood divided over race and economics and a city that's resisted school desegregation every step of the way. If Black people could do something about. The Way America is and the way things are way would be done. We've been done or to wait it goes we will is would be changed evidently this is a white people issue. I'm Maronite the host of the promise in season two we ask a lot of tough questions about education, who's it for who has the power and why or so many kids of color left behind. The promise coming August thirty first subscribe now at W. p. l., n. dot org slash podcast or wherever you listen.
Second-Listen Saturday: The Doctor Will See You Now
"Welcome to second. Listen Saturday on parenting roundabout podcast where we share some fun moments past episode for Your weekend listening. Pleasure look for new episodes every Monday through Friday. We thought we would talk today about how one transitions kids from you. For Mom being the person who is in charge of their health to them being in charge of their of their own health which as they get to be teenagers and young adults. They're really supposed to be. You should be going with your twenty-six-year-old to the doctor and talking for her right. That's doing doing that and yet so I thought I'd talk to you guys dear. You have kids who are getting into that age. Where they're supposed to advocate for themselves and where the doctor is supposed to like. Close the door in your face and talk to them about sex and things. Do your kids talk to the doctor or do you still have to be Dr Mom pinging on those appointments? I'm still in the room during the appointment. Happens in the room had habits and I did. I used to always take my two for their annual checkups at the same time because their birthdays are so close together so their annual checkup would be held at the same time but I finally a few years ago. I think I really need to let my like almost teenage daughter not to share her appointment. Was her little brother so that was step. One was let's let's separate the two of them and give them each their own appointment. But I'm still in the room for the appointments and I try. They're pretty good. The doctor and the nurse are pretty good about trying to talk to the kids directly instead of going through me but you know a lot of times the kids just kind of look at me like Like you know. How much milk do you drink in the day? They look at me like what you drink with you. Yeah you are the keeper of the answers. Yeah and and I know that that's probably not the way to go. Yeah I just don't know how you pass that on. I mean my kids are not great communication. They never have been so. I've always been kind of speaking for them. Because if if you bring my son. He's the only one talking to the pediatrician. Nothing would happen or he would talk about her keys for forty five minutes so I kind of have to go in there and make my presentation and even now that they're adults. I have a hard time. I had my daughter go to our GP. And I said you go in there and you talk to him. Here's some paperwork. You can bring to show him. That would give them some information and even then he came out into the waiting room to talk to me so I am obviously not doing a good job of enabling them. How about you Nicole? What are your kids? You does your son. Just take care. That by himself does even go to the doctor. Do you know yeah. He figured I started having him make that step when he was about sixteen seventeen. Yeah so he didn't have a pediatrician. At that time it was just a general family doctor so Anyway so he started taking himself to the doctor. Of course if I needed to be there for anything like permissioner protest or anything that I would show up but on so. He's been doing that on his own and he'd go the doctor regularly just for you know we'd like to keep on top of in the sun down here so I mean I'll just every year and then I still make him go for a check of every year. I don't know when and at what point I will stop reminding him. I probably never will stop reminding him L. That my daughter. Interestingly though When we first met her pediatrician and I just remember thinking. This is so rude but it. The doctor would only talk to my daughter like she. She address me. Because how are you In the started asking my daughter questions and you know talking to her any time I tried to say something should kind of look at me with this died. Look back at my daughter into what has happened over. Time is my daughter now has a very good record with her and is used to talking to scrape she. You know when I do have to the doctor for taking that That stance of of I'm going to encourage my patients to talk with me. And so she's basically trained my daughter to have power station with her. So that is ideal. I wish more doctors did that. I always we always had doctors who had just turned to me and maybe because of my kids had communication issues. But I really really want I mean. I feel like now that they're adults. I WANNA find them a doctor. Who's GONNA listen to them and who's going to be comfortable with that and I haven't and I don't know how you seek that out especially for kids as abilities you know. People who are used to working with kids with disabilities. I feel like often. Just don't take their healthcare seriously. You know it's like well okay. You know it doesn't really matter for her. I don't like that but somebody who's not used to working with people with disabilities doesn't want to have to do the work to understand now. So it's it's really difficult but I would've loved having someplace that is saying mom you sit over there if you want to but I'm GonNa talk to your kid. Yes not happen. That is very very good thing even though as a mom it makes you feel like wait a minute but yeah and that's initially that's how I felt like. Oh my gosh. She's not going to tell her everything. She's going to miss things but you know eventually. Thankfully the pediatrician brought the issues. Out of my daughter and yeah and they were to have that conversation so yeah really thankful for that particular doctor and for group because they all do they all have that loss of having the child speak for themselves right but I was just thinking you know she's GonNa be sixteen. I should probably start gleaning myself away from the Go in by herself. So my daughter's ten years older than that and I'm looking to do that but as I mean. I've had this issue with my kids. Don't want not yeah. So how do you balance that with like okay? I know you want me to be there. But it's for your own sake. You need to try to do it by yourself. I that's hard to with Leslie. If if if they're nervous about being at the doctor in the first place yeah that's true. I feel like you should be able to like email. The doctor with all your comments or like write them out on a piece of paper and send them in with your kid so that you can still be there without physically being there writing dive. Actually the last time I went to I took my son in and I wanted to talk to the doctor about him and and I didn't want my son to hear one so I called I and told the nurse you know. Here's what I WANNA do. I here's what I wanNA talk about so that I don't know how well aware it was. Okay I think the doctor generally got the information that I want to continue. I've done that too. I've told my daughter I'm going to give the doctor this document. Is it okay with you? And she says fine. And when I handed to the doctor kind of point to the part that the Talker to notice that I don't WanNa say out loud. There should be some in our brave new technological world. There should be some way for us to be in the room without being in the room. Yeah I mean I guess more doctors are doing email and yeah you know online communication which are as. It's like a whole thing with logging in knowing your password. All this like you can't just open up an email you know on your desk. Just tap out an email and send all thing where you have to be a member and you have to have a special. Id and Password. And all that. And I know there's patient confidentiality issues too. You know if you've ever tried to neither of you have had. Maybe you have nickel try to deal with the insurance of a young adult and my kids don't want to call and ask about their claims but it's like they have to get on the phone and say yes it's okay you can talk to my mother. I when they say. I'm sorry we can't talk to you about this. I feel like saying you know what great I'll put my kids on the phone. Work this out with them. I'm you're going to be taking to talk to me. Lady enjoy their particular communication but I think any kid and teenager or any young adult is probably not going to be able to articulate to the insurance company. Exactly what they want to talk about. So I am the case manager. I need to get there. Needs TO BE SOME CERTIFICATION FOR MOTHERS AS CASE MANAGERS DALLAS. A legal standing to be able to talk to the doctor directly and be able to talk to the insurance company directly or at least some kind of. Nice you know. Business Carter tidal can do you guys have to. How do your kids feel about going to the doctor do they? Do they go willingly or do you have to push Nicole when you tell your son to keep going to the dermatologist? As he ever say you know what don't feel like it go away I get a lot of that past my health anxiety onto him. I don't seem to have done that. I have passed many other types of anxiety onto my daughter but health anxiety. She's no I don't want to and it's like well I can't really forced you but then how do you say really think you should do this without then making them worried you know? Don't WANNA panic you. But we go to dodgers. This is what we do. This is why we had insurance. It's not a big deal. Oh we had a a real rash of unfortunate el-nessim in our worm and so I think my kids. Obviously they thought they heard about it. So they're all a little bit you. We're all very aware of being preventative. Seven just just sit them down in front of a few episodes of Grey's anatomy in the want to go to the doctor here though. No they're they're they're pretty good. Actually my son'll even book is on appointments if I say it's time for Furrier Dermatologist Hill. Book it himself or yeah so he's ought to say it's time yeah. I mean he's still only twenty right so he hasn't really perform that only twenty speaking of only twenty. This is a topic for another episode. But we'll we'll we'll go out on this. How much do you have to push your husband to go to the Doctor? And would they like you to go to the doctor with them and talk to the doctor for them? Because I'm pretty sure my husband would have. I offered my husband's okay. He's pretty good about it. Actually I have to say Togo. Did they manage the? Will we listen to what the doctor recommends ask another thing? Different Star let has been never wants to go to the doctor for anything. I remember one time. He had the flu and he was really sick and he said okay. Call the doctor and it was the Doctor Day off and I love it like a message on his answering machine take. My husband never wanted to call the doctor and he did today. You have to call me back and it was just called in a prescription deal. This is my big time. I could do it. You're not available. You're messing up my perfect opportunity here.
Episodes We Love: I'm In Love With My Abuser
"Tuesday's subscribe now on Apple podcasts or wherever you listen produced by the island I wanna add more positively your podcast feed checkout WBZ kind world stories of extraordinary kindness and compassion new episodes on uh-huh welcome to dear sugars that is the voice of our caller and we're calling her struggling with shame and struggling with intimate partner violence on this episode. Hello Hello trade run into it I wanna say what a powerful experience it was for me to hear your voice and and to hear the the shame and confusion and fear and uncertain to anybody we moved across the country to get away from our friends and family and now we're both out here they help -Fornia foles and I love love is not simple and it was amazing except when it wasn't the more time we spent together was peppered with these arguments move town and travel to California and that's exactly what we did he helped him I car and we drove across the country together with no real plan and and I think that as alone as you may feel in this I just WanNa tell you there are so many people listening right now and and people I know and screw and intensity and round we both love each other very very much it seems that neither of us to figure out why everything was going well and it's been months since our our fight and I the Hash through what happens but I'm still struggling with this shame nobody knows I can't talk to my friends I can't talk to my family I can't talk I listened to your voice on that phone call and one of them was you know the horror of the assault and the other piece of that caused him such rage the other one being maybe this time will be the last time and in some ways I understand that part of this abusive cycle do a marriage where there was domestic violence my father abused my mom and I did find myself really remembering some of the dynamics at play turns and I feeling of shame and kill and you know the question of how mistake and I saw this in my mom even as a child who witnessed this abuse I wanted to believe my dad's story that he loved her it is the confusion you feel about the fact that you still love this man right and that in fact you've taken him back some of my earliest memories are being the child of a they were just straight up nasty and gotten to the point where he struck me in my face I story is I sell madly in love with the young man and he's so madly in love for me we share the same dream to break out of us oh can I have let myself be being a relationship or in a position where my lover has physically hit me other I did not want my mom to leave him and it was because I love my dad and I begged my mother when she made that final decision to leave him I said please he'll change I remember saying how about he lives next door awesome that we went up he pled five hours north and ended up getting checked in and out to the whole mental hospitals and extremely hard time is you know wanting to be okay again wanting that person who hurt you to stop hurting you to say oh my goodness that wasn't me it was all about woman who was conflicted for many reasons like well maybe I deserve to be hit maybe you know part of the peace at this shame is that I did something wrong they was what happened I had great I kind of sort on got good job when on three different dates I became part of the unity church distinctly when I was six my mom said enough and she decided that she would end her relationship with my dad and divorce him uh-huh uh-huh more than anything in the world and he would never ever again do anything to hurt us it's very very powerful impulse in a healing impulse I remember very she was like twenty six twenty seven she had three kids you know it was very difficult for her to leave him for for many reasons but one of them I still he made his way back to me sugars he came back things I think communication is open and we've been able is a beautiful loving part of the relationship if only you will overlook that he struck you in the face three times I thought of course immediately of what we talked our arguments getting so bad after about a year on California's together our arguments had reached a point where there's something very interesting going on in the area of same with you say I you felt ashamed that he hit you point with that issue here isn't love it's abuse and what you mustn't do in this moment is partake of the magical thinking that you can return to and we're only each other but my question is what happens to me when I'm struggling with shame where are we you feel ashamed about that decision is a big red flag for me like if it is true if we want to believe this one version of it really is on your partner that he assaulted you the other piece that you feel ashamed about is that you have taken back and you know the fact that Um it certainly love does not stand any reason to stay together or tolerate this or take them back or forgive him or any of these love is beside the and I think that that's a really common and universal feeling most people think of themselves as strong and able to make good decisions and and he's made all kinds of men's and changes and he's still in process with doing the work to ensure that he'll never do this again okay if that were really about when we talk about love the Beautiful Raymond Carver story where Mel McGinnis this cardiologists relationship a second way was married to an abuser with that sad to me is that the truth of it is every abuser in victim of abuse they love each other love is part of this abuse cycle true and he never does assault anyone again I think that that Shane piece would maybe not be there because this would be something that you would be in some way I feel the sense that you might be putting yourself endanger again that you're complicit with his abusive behaviors really the only way that you can double somebody who has hit me am I think I've never been here for my life. He is acceptable this okay can people is that really I'm sad to say is that is a six year old even though I hated the violence and I would weep and Saab and live in terror of balance and Advocacy Organization designed to end violence against women and children her organization was the driving force behind the passage of the original violence against Women Act question is a deeper question which is you know somebody who has been physically abusive can find a way to curb that behavior and function in a healthy way there's anger and abuse and that's followed by a sudden rush of intimacy and belief in the depth of that love yeah I mean acsi kindness new episodes on Tuesdays subscribe now on Apple podcasts or wherever you listen at least rid yourself of that portion of the shame is to make sure that you hold him accountable for his actions you know underneath this specific to get support was your friends and family or making it a secret that's right and it's also worth asking yourself is a portion of the shame that in even to some extent in my own life who can relate to this mixed feelings you're having I was born in being with lifelines stories of compassion from the southern border we speak to a dedicated group of volunteers making a difference in the lives of asylum seekers searching for WBZ kind world is back with the new season starts is presented to us absolutely I'm curious about her call ends in this series of questions you know I've never been hit before is ons which is this your boyfriend really lost his temper and behaved in a way that he could have never predicted and that he's horrified about yes I think it's possible that somebody can change but I also would say he's already hit you oh struggling we're saying you did nothing you were the victim of a crime that was perpetrated against you and you have none of the the responsibility for it choose good partners and then suddenly there on the other end of the of violent assault there is that sense of like what did I do to get us here right and I want to say to you it's it's shocking and scary when someone you love and trust hurt you so I have to say that occurs thank you and we're just really honored that you're taking the time to talk to us about this complicated situation that this young woman that story and he speaks precisely to what Cheryl is is mentioning struggling with shame which is there is a kind of common cycle where trust your instincts if you're feeling that it might happen again if the arguments and the disparaging behavior and yes it's certainly possible that it might not happen again but it's unlikely and what I would also say is within a loving relationship Steve we have to take a break but when we come back we're gonNA call our guest s to seller she's the president and founder of futures without acceptable is it okay can people change well first of all I'm really sorry that it happened to her and I've heard the story so many times safety insecurity I just can't turn my back on them and I don't think we should listen to Wvu ours kind world a podcast telling stories of extraordinary starts occurring with a repetitive factor. Here pay attention to that because you want to believe that you can make a change that you or away from our friends and family and now we're both out here in California with only each other what's more she says I can't talk to me I didn't want to lose that love and I think one of the saddest lines in this letter to me Shirley was shame is I love him and the reason his negotiating and navigating in the plane light of day right in an in a kind of open way you're protecting his secret by deciding not Dan I think the assessment is what is he doing what work is he doing his he getting the help that he needs and also the first one is you said it's unlikely that he'll never do it again why do you say that well just based on experience one in three women in changed behavior the behavior needs to change by the person who is doing the assaulting yeah so I have a couple of questions based on what you do hello hello is this esta sheriff this is Cheryl strayed yes I'm here with Steve Element Hi hey hi sean and his wife is saying to him through the whole story but mel he loved to make can't you at least grant me that he loved me it's really the most painful moments in that of this man getting checked in and out to a couple of mental hospitals but it's unclear from struggling with shames response she says we in the US has experienced violence and what we know is often not a one time occurrence now this could be a situation where it is I'm somebody who really does look at all the data and it does happen that it is possible so I'm not suggesting that it's possible it is unlikely it wasn't just a bad thing that happened the man that you love proved himself in a moment of stress and anger to be capable of injuring you physically and putting you in danger now I do think that over the last thirty years we have been increasingly success friends I can't talk to my family I can't talk to anybody so you know struggling with shame we're focusing on that because that it sounds figuring out both why he was violent towards you in assaulted you and also why you guys together were unable to resolve arguments they continue to escalate and make a change for him it just doesn't happen that way unfortunately yeah I guess the other question is who's physically it doesn't sound like you have anybody in your life that you're close with WHO's around you're on an island and also there is a mentioned however I mean we've heard so many times show that some He said he was sorry that it would never happen again but that's what he said the last time enable the Hash through what happened communication is open but I think you're talking about measures that are more than just having de part to heart I think you're talking about things needs to actively try to heal manage and ensure that it will not reappear before you should let him anywhere near your heart sure and both of you he in particular but both of you have to reckon with that he has a a dangerous part of his personality that he let alone your body yeah well first of all on is he getting help my question would be what kind of help us get that's what I would worry about is are you with a person and you're isolated with in that relationship and he is the only person that you're real in your life to give you support your friends your co worker so that you have a support system around you and you're not isolated ears it's called the national domestic violence hotline and it's available twenty four seven I actually know the number by heart it's one eight hundred six we members because of the shame I would also encourage the listener to seek help to seek some whether it's a friend a coworker seven nine nine seven two three three and they have trained counselors who can help this what is he doing in terms of working on the fact that he hurt you and hit you you can love someone but you can't will the connecting to that I would be concerned about well unfortunately as we heard from struggling with shame we moved across the country together person struggle with the fact that she's living with the shame and not talking to anybody and if you are continuing to be in this relationship with the violence that he obviously expressed and the second thing is by not speaking to other friends and family one thousand nine hundred four after the break we'll give her a call great is that he made his way back to me he came back and I thought that was an odd sort of way to put it because it implies that somehow he'd abandoned and ship for instance struggling with shame tells us that we both loved each other very very much it seems that neither of US could figure out why our arguments were getting her if she's a member of a religious organization or there's also a resource that's absolutely fantastic that has been around now for over twenty five or thirty Louise's struggling with shame as is doing pretty well you know she's getting jobs she's going on dates she becomes part of a church community and then she tells us her as opposed to he'd hit her in the face three times I guess what I'm wondering is and I don't WanNa make too much of struggling with shame knows her own circumstances better than like is quite a dangerous situation to be in to put it bluntly you're keeping a silence around this abuse and you're in a circumstance where do but the way that it's presented to us not I let him back into my life or I decided that even though he had had this outburst he convinced me through X Y and Z statement of what he was doing to try to rectify the problem to deal with the anger and its expression as violence it doesn't work every time absolutely not but does it work more often than not increasingly so I would really encourage the listener to so bad so there's this escalation of recrimination and anger that leads to this violent outburst and then once actually this partner did you live through that too Roy thank you I'm sorry I I think it's wrong I therefore consented to being back in the relationship I took him back the way she puts it is just the opposite it's as if he fled somewhere and it's just enough for him nick is he seeking therapy is he seeking medication if that might be helpful is he managing his mental health and the extent to which he's doing the difficult work of I don't think it's acceptable I think that's why we worked on the violence against Women Act and early on we said it's not acceptable it's criminal somebody might be forgiven for this and their relationship can continue many people commented on my instagram on my facebook for saying oh no no you know please don't tell you don't want to be in a relationship that you were ashamed of there are a lot of unanswered questions about this relation that's what I I think I I personally feel like it's unacceptable there's no excuse and in many cases is actually criminal behavior so you better beware of that but I don't want to judge the person who decides to try to make it work and I to encourage the love in her life to seek help in a community that they are currently living in so he has the tools to about being somebody who is on the other end of of these letters and calls is the perfect scenario is is nobody perpetrates violence against anyone is nope one incidents of physical violence and it's over and what it was interesting to me when I even proposed or hinted at the things really if I'm going to be perfectly frank I would say no it's not okay and you said this relationship and you should do it now and I'm just me you're going to condone this by saying such an act can be forgiven and I felt defensive because I must say I'm like that's right my instant I do terrible things to each other people often do go back to somebody who has abuse them so the reality the ideal is zero tolerance the reality is in preparing for the season I posted something on my social media you can we ever forgive physical violence in a relationship and you know I'm a longtime in feminism and my father abused my mother in front of me and my siblings Allott and terribly so and one of the lines that I've always held savior it has to stop and there's no excuse so on the other hand I don't WANNA judge everybody in a way that says if it happened once that a lot of people have endured tolerate this sort of stuff and their relationships and they're left to grapple with it which is why I think this young woman called us because she use physical violence is not acceptable it's just active that's right well S. Two thank you so much for ask yourself are you the one working on this or is he right exactly yeah yeah and also saying sorry is not is not the Work Korea about you know we're we're you fall when it comes to the kind of doctrine right well and I'm sorry taking the time to talk to us it was really enlightening and we appreciate the good work you've done on this issue thank you have a good evening bye alone she can't talk about it it's shameful to talk about and you know I want her to hear loud and clear that we we are advocating for zero tolerance were were afraid for role in providing resources to men who have used violence to figure out effective strategies to stop the violence. I WanNa say that you absolutely should not go on that journey I I will tell you I think it's likely to happen again and that's not okay and yeah absolutely without entangling yourself with him romantically I don't think that forgiveness always means taking somebody all the way back a lot of times it just means Eh and we're trying to happen but what we know and as our caller said love is not
Introducing: Dear Therapists
"Each of our lives is a story as therapists. Our job is to show you the perhaps your story isn't exactly what you thought. It was I have never thought of it that way and honestly in the first time in two years I feel bad for her because I felt that way the whole time. I. It has just been difficult as thank you for. Allowing me to feel feel bad for her. Hey, everyone I'm Lori Gottlieb I'm a psychotherapist and write the deer therapist advice column for the Atlantic I'm also the author of maybe you should talk to someone and I'm guy which I'm a psychologist and I write the Deer Guy Advice Column for Ted. I also wrote emotional first aid. And we are the hosts of a new podcast from iheartradio. Dear therapists. We both get tons of letters each week for our columns, but we wanted to have real time conversations with the people who write to us and not only guide them. But also share with you our listeners the behind the scenes of what we're thinking when someone says, can you help me with this? So that's an interesting letter. Right this is please tell me I'm not a scumbag letter. Yeah. To me it's I need to get out of jail to. Think that for two years and his daughter six year old She hates me one minute and love me. Later or was raised. In a generation where men didn't show emotions, I am not good at words. But. going through it has helped me grow in that sense, but we wanted to go even deeper than that. So there's a twist in our collins. Our readers don't get to hear how the advice worked out, but in our but caused, we decided to bring people back. So they can fill us in on how everything went what worked what didn't We can all learn from it and I'm glad in a way it did happen this way because I meant more about myself when I won't stand for in relationship I don't WanNa, lose sight of the negative feelings that I cost her I. Just hope that at some point you can forgive me we're so excited to bring you these intimate thought provoking relatable conversations. So we'll begin. July thirtieth with our I. Wait what we call our guest guy. Male patients or clients, but it's more intimate than guests. So you know what? The psychiatrist. Like to refer to the people he worked with as fellow travelers because we're all fellow travelers on this journey called life I've always loved that idea I, love it to. Be One of our travelers if you'd like to talk to us about the problem big or small, send us an email at Lori and guy at iheartmedia dot com. That's L. O.. R. I A. N. D. Gene wine at IHEARTMEDIA DOT COM, and subscribe to tear therapists on Apple podcast the iheartradio APP or wherever you get your podcasts starting July thirtieth. Wait to travel with you.
Behind the Scenes of Breaking Money Silence with Emily Tuttle
"I'm here with the lovely Kathleen Kingsbury and I'm just. I'm really curious kind of awe about your path in your journey. And how you've come to where you are today and you mentioned to me before that earlier in your career you started in more of a financial banking space and now you're a world traveling renowned bound author and it's. I'm just curious how you kind of moved along along towards thought it. Thank you for asking. It was definitely a crooked journey but when that makes sense since then if I had to kind of if I had to think about one aspect of that's kind of the line through the whole journey was following my passion and when I graduated from college I graduated graduated as a finance major. I was passionate about banking But I was more passionate about people than finance and ended up on the auditing side of the industry. And when you're an auditor. Auditor it's not about the people it's about the numbers and it's about the regulation so I ended up taking some courses in psychology and getting really much more interested in how. Oh people work and analyzing people as opposed to financial books and eventually decided to switch careers into the world of psychology. And while I loved that for about fifteen years is started to really miss the business side so my company K became wealth. Connection is really the connection between the two of everything that. I love about psychology. Everything that I love about finance dance and blending the two together and I think the reason that I'm successful and I get to do what I do and I'm lucky to do what I do is because it comes from the heart and I'm really passionate about it so so that's how I got here. That's wonderful to hear that's really awesome. I'm curious when you you're mixing your interest with the business side of things in the people side of things. Money is a really really hard thing for a lot of people to talk about. How do you get them to kind of be in a in a space where they can open up to you about kind of what their needs are and you can advise them from there one of my superpowers and I don't know how I developed. This was born with it. Is People love to share stuff with me. That's yeah and so I find that because I think it's because I'm open. I tend to be a sharer myself that people tend to let down their guard and and share with me. I also would like to think that having listened to a lot of people and in facilitate a lot of conversations. Whether that's you know at a speaking event or whether that's one on on one or in small groups that. I've developed an ability to not be judgmental but what they're saying and so I create a safe space and so when it comes to talking about money what's interesting thing is in my family. We talked about money a fair amount compared to other families. But we didn't talk about feelings so really. My work is about the emotional aspect of money so being able the say. Hey this isn't just about dollars and sense. This is also how you feel about money how you think about money and so that blend between both what I think is probably my business side and also so my counselor side I think is is where I have a skill in order to help people talk about a taboo topic and you know me well enough to know I like I like being audience talking about taboo thing. That's very true you are so I can speak from experience. You're very easy. It kind of feels like when you're having a conversation like you're you are very open and receptive so oh it's very easy to talk to you about many things I'm curious in your in your journey and in with breaking money silence and every in money myths and everything like that. What do you find is the the number one and it can be from a business standpoint or an emotional standpoint misconception. That people have when they're talking about money tough question as a tough question but it's a good question. I believe the the thing that most people that trips most people up is they feel like they. You have to know everything about how money works in order to talk about it and the truth of the matter is there is no person out there that knows everything about money or or does it perfectly and so I think if we were to talk about it more would realize wow. That person doesn't know that much about money or hey. They made a mistake. I mean I certainly have made mistakes and they learn from it. As opposed to this pressure to think Oh. Emily knows about money. Roger knows about money and that somehow that makes us think everybody else has got it figured out so I have to be quiet about it. That's the biggest roadblock. Yeah that makes sense. I think it's it's really interesting to hear about that from like a millennial L. Perspective honestly because we're taught in traditional education. We're talking very little about money and how to deal with it and I found myself As a twenty six year old person struggling sometimes to figure out how to be a little bit more wise about it. You know you come across that a lot with younger younger people that you speak with. I actually think it gets across. The generations is just what we don't talk about. May Shift and change and with millennials to stereotype a bit. That's okay your generation in which is the largest generation does talk much more openly about many previously taboo topics So I think that makes it different but for some reason money still one that really trips people up. So it's hopefully that will go away with the the next generation we can talk about or just not responsible with. I think she's a natural and I wouldn't you. Will you know me I'm GONNA say.
Richard Pryor Jr.
"How do you keep your family healthy this season when it feels like everyone around you is getting sick comes in tablets Syrup chewables or my kids favorite the great tasting Gumy's some this hey everybody it's sunny and Shar and two thousand nineteen well so much for being thank you for having me Oh my goodness it was it's lake it's just amazing but you've had quite the life Oh Yeah Bravo my great grandma ran broth on grandmother was a prostitute your grandma pimp and then I had an aunt great aunt who is a you're just all the time day time period really did you have like a when I was younger I'd be like is maxine there and I'm like no she's inside turn on a trick what could I get you crazy is that where this all went on or wow and you went to public school their school yeah in a prior life and does this have all this information in it plus and he was going to help me like write the book and he wanted he was embellishing stories John's grave through the publisher bear manor media that's in the Animal B. E. A. Little Panda bear on the back of it but okay so produce him on stage those are great times great members George Thirteen fourteen in that range I would go out there during the summers out to California during this summer's he's asked me did I want to introduce him on stage I was introduced you would do anything realized he was a celebrity you know it really no no it didn't had gone to a factory to work right yeah that's really I didn't know that or anything like that I was excited to be a part of that journey and I all over yeah what what did I read that you were are you traveling now as well a yesterday last evening I had an unveiling and they Hollywood Museum they unbuilding awesome books and that's fantastic in did you sign them yes I did do you have another book ear life dot Com list all the interviews I've ever done and it's Ohio Oh thank you that's great and you know if you want we okay so the color purple mm-hmm it was actually like the first film project I actually worked on because the prior film wasn't more my father's films so it was great working and the yeah yeah yeah in was where was this in I was doing the drugs there when I came back it was like I was way and get money from her and drugs to buy drugs or oh me she said Richard do you remember when he came to my house and everything and I said no I don't remember thank God you didn't know d I mean like you're a miracle Oh you take care of me for six months to pound three ounces and then I dropped Paulhamus an could hold me and they will take newborn diapers and cut newborn you know it's a girl a mother said what did I have a freak onto the book yeah and long and so you sing yes sing and act okay it wasn't that I was at that time I'm not now act this is how life is with how but I I like I have this feeling can Asians and they come in and give you information because I feel like they're telling me that Oh oh and you need to in sometimes when we dream of of our had I had a feeling it was so what to like within the last year the dreams were always very very peaceful now and I remember actually even I think think that means that you're on your way to the top in this I feel you will actually last night there was a lady I go to I teach at Westlake oh have this feeling you're supposed to get on speaking circuit or have somebody organized did you ever play was there ever movie about your Dad I don't know no but uh I'm in the process now of adapting my book into a one man show where I would play all the are you traveling with it Lay New York oh that's where I live that's where you live in New York would they do an off Broadway have and all that I feel like your mom is I feel your mom more than Your Dad Yeah I've always into you oh wow would that make sense makes a lot of sense and he nov is the thing that I was so much aware of a lot of things but it totally you like he he's he's apologizing for this he might have been a little competitive make people and then maybe it was a thing because you know there's a thing and yeah well whatever that German saying is is that's how I because he knows he knows he was the things you can go the way he couldn't low longer express itself well that had to be yeah it but you're always kind to him yeah always 'cause you're the healer hospice nurse wow because especially after my mother passed it was really who was the same way and And I always Mary or Marie Brothel later get out she's very strong she's so power Oh wow she's definitely in did you know I feel like she's telling me this like she was she wanted she was going to like help under that was set up with the twenty six year old woman yeah very very young age is adding your oh I'm sure you forgive your dad though you forgive my dad did but he was exactly exactly amy a barbecue right now water no because I know I cook so are you are you a good off and everything this is weird because that's it that's a barbecue sauce mother's father Oh my goodness I wanNA taste that thought about it before Oh my goodness okay yeah yeah so wow like three days before my birthday wow yeah he's definitely he's gotta it's a family secret is there brown sugar in it I could taste of I don't know there's some kind of either worcestershire sauce or something you got what you need to go like on one of those cooking shows Promote Cup this is my this is my fifth time so it oh so your mom had a problem with you being so he he was in drag for a while yet I and my mother and my aunt my mother's sister they actually came to one of my shows wow I didn't want to be a you know she knew that it was entertaining how I'm reading for the drag queens and I it took a lot of guts in the eighties it start I actually started in Norfolk Virginia as amazing that's I enjoyed the friends of mine they got paid by the tabloids to out me world and ended up eighty three Syl outage you because you were Richard Pryor son can be so cruel yeah I was like the lead story on Maury Povich is current affair at that time oh a 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High-ranking Philadelphia district attorney staffer charged with child endangerment
"The Philadelphia police charged the high ranking member of the District Attorney's office with child endangerment their City Hall Bureau chief. Kyw's Pat Loeb with the story quoting to the police report. Dana Basil on left her four year old daughter asleep in her car while she took a walk with her six-year-old on the hit creek. Trail Baz Lonzo attorney. Jamie Fund says the allegation does not reflect the kind caring and loving mother. She is we are confident. He says in a statement that went all the facts are revealed. Her true nature will be vindicated. He says she spent her life in career caring for and protecting people. The case has been referred to the Attorney General's office because of Basil Role as Policy Advisor. For Da. Larry Crasner crasner office. Had No comment. Basil on is the second member of krassner inner circle to be charged criminally in January Moawiya. Johnson Harold pleaded guilty to stealing from a nonprofit while she was head of the DA's victim services unit.