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"raquel willis" Discussed on Unladylike

Unladylike

06:51 min | 2 months ago

"raquel willis" Discussed on Unladylike

"This now before it gets worse so big question. What does a world where trans identity is not only tolerated and accepted but completely normalized like what. What does that world look like. Well you know. I don't know if the goal is to be normalized right or or assimilation necessarily right. I think the goal is the is de-stigmatising for sure that world looks like wine. Way are we don't build expectations for other people particularly children and when they don't fit online with those patients we chastise them in are violent towards them. because of it. i wanted to ask you. You know i think it is so crucial to continue to highlight the violence and the danger. That trans folks face. You know you you had the trans obituaries project that you started. And i think it's important to get to know the names and stories behind the statistics that we hear. But how do you balance the importance of talking about that. The violence with the joy of celebrating trans lives and stories and experiences. Yeah i you know. i think you're right. There is a balance that we have to hit with telling the real kind of gritty Experiences of trans But i think that just means that we have more stories. I don't think that that means we silence the hard things because if we don't talk about the hard things and those things don't get addressed and changed you know when i think about the trans obituaries. Projects it wasn't just to talk about the epidemic of violence. Though was the main thing the my aim without was never to do a wo- is is is kind of experience or or contribute to a tragic narrative it was to give those trans women of color. Twenty nineteen the obituaries that they deserved and it was just as much about shining light on the academic of violence as was about celebrating their lives in a way that our media landscape largely still isn't equipped to do it was also about bringing some bit of catharsis to the people left behind. You know. i think that that is a stronger story. People have got to know that trans people aren't just floating in air solitary right like we have loved ones we fall in love. We break up with people you know we have full lives you know. I have a mom who loves me and have evolved with me on this journey. We're very close. And she worries about my life and she celebrates me. I have good friends. That i can talk about all types of things. I'm not always or even largely about being a trans right just about connecting each other as human beings. But i got my girls my black trans gaggle and the guy you know gaggle the folks who were not black fans but who are all varying types of experiences right and i love them dearly. I have a sister. A brother got nieces and nephews who loved to squeal my name on right. And i want love you know and i want to continue to tell stories and dream. And that's what we've gotta get to for. Everyone particularly for trans people. Is that where human you can follow her cal on. Twitter at raquel willis underscore or on instagram. At raquel underscore willis and y'all can find us on instagram facebook and twitter. At unladylike media you can also support kristen and me by joining our patron. You will get weekly ad free. Bonus episodes full of listener advice pop culture and history plus our undying love at patriotair dot com slash unladylike media nor richie is a senior producer of unladylike. John palmer is our story editor. Shuki murata transcribes are tape. Our music is by flamingo. shadow may cohen and sarah. Hudson mixing is by andy. Kristen's sound design. Additional is by. Casey holford and andy kristen's executive producers or peter. Cloudy daisy rosario and unladylike media this podcast was created by your hosts carolina irvine in kristen conger of unladylike media. Next week i was on the floor of the of the senate not too long ago i was talking with dick durbin and i had a. We were coming up in the judiciary committee on a bill. That i wanted to was my bill and we were going to mark it up in committee and he said that the republicans are going to have all kinds of of amendments. And what do i want to do with them. And i said you know. Under normal circumstances we would try and work it out. And and but i said these are not almost Circumstances so fuck them and said i hate it. When you use technical terms that i have to look up we're talking to maisy hirono. The f-bomb dropping senator from hawaii about leading the charge for api inclusion in the biden cabinet. And why she's finally getting angry. Y'all don't wanna miss this episode. Make sure you are subscribed to unladylike. You can find us in stitcher spotify apple podcasts. Or wherever you like to listen and remember got a problem.

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"raquel willis" Discussed on Unladylike

Unladylike

07:42 min | 2 months ago

"raquel willis" Discussed on Unladylike

"We're back with raquel willis the day before we interviewed her recap l. had been on. Tv discussing the news out of arkansas. That state had just enacted a law making it the first in the country to ban gender affirming healthcare for trans kids. There have been so many anti trans laws being proposed on the state and federal level. This year it's hard to keep track of them. All most would either restrict healthcare access for trans youth or banned trans girls from school sports but conservative lawmakers are spinning them as pro women and girls by calling these bills. Things like the fairness in women's sports act and the protection of women and girls in sports act how chivalrous i mean that doublespeak infuriates me to no end but if anyone knows how to effectively respond to it it's raquel raquel how do we counteract that bullshit language of like. Oh we're not bigots. We're just trying to protect our girls. It's hard we are in a year. We're not even halfway through the year. Right we're we're about a quarter through the year just a little more than that. We have had insurrection at the capital. We have had mass shootings one of which largely targeted asian women in atlanta and the focus of these lawmakers on on trans people and the few trans youth in particular who want to access sports and deserve to access playing the sports the the fulfill them and trans people accessing healthcare. The priorities are all out of whack. People lake seriously if they really cared about anybody's lives. You would see them having real conversations on gun control or having real real conversations about how their mess. In disinformation efforts have increased the amount of violence that we see particularly socially against groups on the martin but also against the lawmakers who are supposed to be showing up for us. So it's ridiculous so like you mentioned. We are barely quarter through the year. And it's also. I believe already a a record year. In terms of justice sheer volume of transphobic legislation that has been introduced on the state level just dozens and dozens and dozens of bills. And there's so much it's moving so fast. What are the top line. Things that that you really want. Ladies to know you know. I think the biggest thing is this here. you're right. We're seeing more than ninety piece of of anti trans legislation which does not include companion bills which is above one hundred now. This is an evolution from a few years ago when there was all the hoopla about the bathroom bills right. And i and i believe that they saw that they couldn't get a foothold with those and obviously the fight around. Hp to in north carolina which had a devastating economic impact on the state as brands and corporations pulled out of that state kind of silence that a bit but they have come back and are kind of more laser focused on largely trans youth. The conservative agenda against trans folks. And and i think conservative. But they're also places like in south. Carolina will wanna wear one of the people pushing. The bill is a democratic person. It's abou exploiting the ignorance of the general public. They know that they're still large part of the united states Or a large part of americans who say that. They don't know a trans person. And when you don't know a person the you can become victims all sorts of misinformation about them but i think the other thing that people don't often know is that there has been a long history of criminalising gender non conforming people. You know trans people. Even though we weren't necessarily using the term trance throughout history have always been under attack. You know this is just the evolution of like. I said those bathroom bills from a few years ago. But also a lot of the anti dressing laws from decades ago would enlarge our lead so the stonewall riots and that uprising during the late sixties and other ones as well. So it's always been here. I think you know the conservative agenda is about kind of rehashing these fights. It's about continuing the policing of communities on the margins is it. Is it possible to to stop this tidal wave. Kristen said it does feel like it's just coming so fast like a fire hose is it. Is it possible to to stop this. I think that our biggest effort in kind of heading off some of it is by continuing to educate ourselves continuing the have conversations like this right and not just on trans day visibility or trans. They have remembrance or pride month but all the time you know when i think about some say it's you know some of the legislation that they're pushing is to create registries that has a nat information about all of their athletes. Which is weird. Right is such a weird invasion of people's privacy and their bodies that won't just impact trans people that will impact sister athletes as well in those states. you know. so we're we're all at risk. My thing. these days is is that. I want us to get to a point where we understand that everybody is some kind of gender non conforming you will never be the perfect ideal version of masculinity and manhood. Right you will never be the perfect. Ideal version of femininity and womanhood. We all deal with this kind of restrictive idea of who were supposed to be. You know the boys and the men who are told. They can't cry and have have a well. Rounded emotional experience are losing out on a part of humanity. The the women and the girls who were told that they can't be strong. Brilliant creative capable leaders are missing out on a part of their humanity and the folks who were dealing with all of that at once the transgender non conforming. Folks are missing out on it as well. So we've gotta fight.

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"raquel willis" Discussed on Unladylike

Unladylike

07:07 min | 2 months ago

"raquel willis" Discussed on Unladylike

"We're back with trans activists and writer raquel willis. I see the work that i do now. Even though i use the term activists particularly like my bio. I see the work that i do as cultural organizing. 'cause i you know. I'm trying to shift our culture arts more of farming of the trans experience but to also be about protecting our rights just like we need to protect the rights of any other marginalized group one of the most challenging spaces to shift cultural ideas about the trans experience and need for inclusion has been within mainstream. Feminism transphobia has dogged feminist organizing for decades within the women's liberation movement of in one thousand. Nine hundred seventy s. Some feminists were openly hostile towards trans women and painted them as dangerous interlopers. Some even believed they were government agents in disguise to destroy the feminist movement from within even in two thousand seventeen at the women's march the pink pussy hats symbolism restricted the trans and nonbinary exclusions still happening within feminist culture. Because you know having a pussy doesn't make you a woman. Not all policies are pink. Here's raquel telling us about your experience. Speaking at that women's march there was something about that march. That i felt like i had to generalize so much of what i wanted to say and so in a way it kept me from just being very clear and concise and specific about what it meant to be a black woman in america at that time. Black women women of color where women trans women abled women muslim women and so many others are still asking. Many of y'all ain't. I think also that time it was about so much about. I'm a woman just like you. you know. it was very like there. I had to put so much energy into trying to hold the mostly ciswomen leaders accountable for making trans women in particular an afterthought that i couldn't even completely put energy into holidaying. Donald trump and the people that supported him accountable. You know weird it was like my energy was stifled in that fight because there was a smaller fight that was happening within women's movement for me. my microphone was cut and the process of me speaking so as we commit to build this movement of resistance and liberation no one can be an afterthought anymore we might hold his and love and accountability. I never guides any kind of Followup from any of the organizers about it afterwards right it felt like i was. I had my voice clips and the scarlata why why was your might cut a lot of the earlier. Speakers didn't adhere to their time restraints. But they also added. I think celebrities into the lineup. At least that's some of the knowledge that i heard after the fact and so that meant that a lot of the activists and organizers who were in the last have got the short end of the steak. I really already only had like three minutes. So so i had time the speech and everything together and it was. Yeah it was very disheartening. Damn i didn't think i knew that. Raquel yeah so. It actually was a very interesting experience. Because i know so. Many folks left that day filling so empowered most and let's be clear mostly white cisgenders straight women. I think left that a privilege right like class privileged women left that day feeling some type of energy or empowerment. I didn't as an individual leave at that day. And i don't think that a lot of women of color left that day feeling that way. I don't think a lot of clearing trans women left that day. Feeling that way speaking to those hats but amongst other things we learn some valuable lessons that day about what intersex analogy truly looks like and also less clear intersection analogy would still on. Its way to becoming a buzz word at that time. So the concept of of thinking about patriarchy right beside white supremacy was not there. It just was not there yet. I think we as a nation had to go through some things unfortunately so really start having a a true or conversation around what intersex analogy is. Yeah i think that the the overwhelming wideness and sis the pink pussy out of it all Of that moment also seems like it. I don't know i feel like it. Also helped catalyze the conversations that have been happening over the past year around white feminism and really holding holding that movement more to account than it had been and really kind of forcing more More introspection reckoning within the so-called feminists tent. It's almost like an effort to you. Know i think the for weil. A lot of people were like. Why do i have to be called like. I'm not speaking from this experience. I think when it comes to feminism it does feel weird for a lot of white women who consider yeah. I'm a feminist. But i am a feminist and that has played a role in how i've spoken about things thought about things and navigated the world in accordance to says some of these systems right and that's a hard pill for anyone to swallow right. We all have to grapple with the fact that we all have some type of privilege and that we are all oppressed in some way. And i think the harder pill for a lot of people is the privilege fees..

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"raquel willis" Discussed on Unladylike

Unladylike

07:17 min | 2 months ago

"raquel willis" Discussed on Unladylike

"He all and welcome to unladylike. Kristen i'm caroline and y'all just heard. Today's guest raquel willis speaking at the brooklyn liberation march. Last june felts like the air was like electric like something new was happening here. We were entering a new era by day. Raquel communications director for the ms foundation for women but for the past five years she has been working twenty four seven on the front lines of the trans rights movement last summer as historic numbers of protesters flooded the streets and response to george floyd murder a group of multiracial gender expansive activists including raquel organized the brooklyn liberation march. They wanted to call attention to the fact. That police brutality. Disproportionately harms black. Trans people the march was quite possibly the largest protest for black trans lives ever the bigger estimates around twenty thousand folks which is shoes we thought. Okay we'll maybe we'll get you know a few hundred folks maybe a few thousand folks but you know when we were speaking at the brooklyn museum and we were kind of on the balcony level. The dress code was to wear white and it was a nod to asylum parade that the nwa c. p. had in the early Twentieth century focus on the victims of lynching and so that was kind of like our aesthetic nod and when you looked out from that balcony it did look a sea of white you know and people came in in their entire and it was. It was a powerful day. Can you describe standing up there and and talking to the crowd. What what did that feel like for you. It felt powerful but it. It also felt like i was really the vessel and it was one of those moments where fight not worried about how my voice founded you know. I think that's what trans woman that is a very common experience with like having all of these second guesses about. How do i found feminine enough. Do i sound like a woman. You know like those are real insecurities i carry around as transpire fan and to speak to tens of thousands of folks as my authentic self open as a trans woman. Not being worried about what it meant for anyone to read me. Trans not necessarily filling unsafe in that moment was a powerful experience. And now when i had had before that moment today on unladylike it's the making of a modern day movement leader i. We're following rebels path to the brooklyn museum balcony and the pivotal events that awakened her activism. Then we're digging deeper into transgender inclusion in feminism the weaponization of womanhood and the onslaught of anti trans laws that are sweeping the nation. Okay so back before you're out here. Leading a movement we actually all work together That is how raquel you mean. Carolina all met. I think it was around twenty fourteen. So we were all working for how stuff works in atlanta. Which is now. I heart podcasts. So how would you compare the raquel. We met back then to kill. Yeah wow just a little question to kick things off. Yeah rock hill. Twenty fourteen was a much different person. So i was definitely Coming to terms with what it meant to be open in my career as a transgender woman Interestingly enough when i started at then how stuff works. I wasn't how you know. I hadn't had any conversations with any of my colleagues at that point nine sworn to myself that if the need arose i would come out but i was still kind of navigating him what we consider be like style. So that means kind of you know people not saying you're tran. You're not saying you're trans there. But like you know you're kind of flying under the radar or in the closet as i think most people know it to be. I actually came out december of that year just a few days after the holidays The death of leila born yang transgender girls who seventeen years old. She died by suicide after being estranged from her family and community and sense conversion therapy. Lay there there was so much that went on in her life and she set her suicide letters published on tumbler after committing the act and i remember reading her letter and she just talked about how she didn't see a future for herself that she wished that society would be fixed that somebody needs to fix that in that really just kind of tore down my thoughts around staying south in my journalism and online media career. And so it's it's interesting. I posted a video on youtube. Got like four thousand views. Which at that time was like. Oh my god. Is this viral. Four trillion views early viral shouts little bags. So it's like it was it was resetting for me because it really put in perspective the importance of everyone and i didn't have a platform at that time right so it was really mean raquel as like the person who was going to work everyday and and trying to figure out herself in the world who had to decide it's going to take some risks and put some things on a on the line because they are trans you who are out here. Don't see a future for themselves. So at what point did you start to get interested in using your voice in activism and organizing everything kind of started to coalesce After learning about leila's leila alcorn death. The young girl the backdrop for those years leading up to it was kind of the emergence of the movement for black lives I had known about the death of or the really. The murder of a black trans woman named john nettles and twenty thirteen. So this social justice.

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"raquel willis" Discussed on Black Frasier

Black Frasier

03:03 min | 8 months ago

"raquel willis" Discussed on Black Frasier

"Me. Thanks you guys speaking of small businesses as you guys now we do now tae a nasty ass trifling ass money from freaking cheerios. The frequent hasbro gaming you just cooling out everyone on this podcast on the free beacon. The kellogg cereal company freaking old spice or do you like old. Spicer squirrel box nanny. These guys okay because we are independent. Be create our own rules okay. S we live on the fringes of society. We can do what we want. We can say what we want. Yes we are rebels with a cause And i'm rebelling against the man and my five year old target robe. You have the along. It's starting to pill a little bit. I mean by another now we just like this one like go to the grow so eighty way we are truly just going rogue frigging making our own rules right. Get to the home and what happened is one of my favorite kobes black owned they hit me up and like we like the podcast who you bake off are doing. We'd be down to be like a business and like you advertiser stuff because support your podcasts. A little bit. And i was like that's sounds smashing bloody brilliant and so balding. Us a which is a fantastic. Skincare line and user cleanser every single day of my life were except for the days shower but so close bolden honestly so mini skin-care lines do not take into account ebou have melanin in their skin. And i feel like bolden makes your skin feel good clean healthy in that. You're actually repair your skin. The way that you're supposed to have the cleanser the facial wash. I use every day they have. But in see serum have overnight spot treatment of moisturizers they have brought a sunscreens sounds lovely. They have breaking like quick mask. It's five minutes perfect so you know what you guys can. Do you could go to their boulder. Usa or go to the website building. Usa dot com. And you can make your purchases..

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"raquel willis" Discussed on Black Frasier

Black Frasier

05:28 min | 8 months ago

"raquel willis" Discussed on Black Frasier

"How to sustain myself so yeah i mean money wasn't issue. You know. nonprofit jobs typically do pay less than other industries corporate spaces I will say though. I think typically though benefits live there's more consideration there are more consideration around wellness. Yeah i mean you know the the actual turning point for me where i was like. I've got to put as much energy into these movements. Particularly are m on behalf of by clear. Trans people was after a after another. Black man was killed by police. This is back in twenty four team. No it was twenty. Fifteen and i went to work mostly surrounded by white people. I think there was what other black woman on staff at that point We just hired another one of the so there were three of us By i remember going to work and it was business as usual. And.

"raquel willis" Discussed on Black Frasier

Black Frasier

04:48 min | 8 months ago

"raquel willis" Discussed on Black Frasier

"And i think part of it is Most things i talk about online. I mean i had one on one conversations with the people around the about or other people about right and so i think that in person space is where you can maybe incubate idea of more. I don't see the answer. Nats as the place that you're gonna safely be able to just incubate ideas that you've never talked about before and i know i might you. I know other people probably feel a different way about it. But i just don't i think there's so much more room for era error doing that so i know that i give that that had like a bit of a disclaimer law. Very long lamer. Yeah i think that you you just speak from your personal experience you know. I think a lot of times. We'll get tripped up by trying to speak about things that they don't have the range for and making generalized state So speak from your personal experience. How are you going to figure out how to use your arms to tell your own story. And then i think as you do that then you figure out the ways to connect your story more to other folks you know and so this larger context right speak about things that are are speaking to you. What if they're news article. That should've i. Oh you know that's the perfect opportunity for you to be laying. Well this is what. I think But again being very considerate about particular about the words she like people are so. 'cause i feel like i definitely this year have been on social media. People are so ready just fight and they wanna find a way to like pop off at someone. And i just always like it so counterproductive. And i i don't want to a hey being down on social media because i do think it does also do a lot of positive things as well but i think it's just there's just such a loved hostility in it that just i don't know it's scary to me..

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"raquel willis" Discussed on Black Frasier

Black Frasier

03:21 min | 8 months ago

"raquel willis" Discussed on Black Frasier

"Even though i believe everyone is ri- but those of us who are brave enough to claim those labels entitles and descriptors. We're impacted by all of that so it's not just the gender experience that i'm having we're all having this topsy turvy gender experience together. Yeah and so one of the things that have really just a meyer about you is your work in the organizing space in the community space because i think especially now so many people are want to be involved in that. They want if they understand that like. Oh yeah can't just you know voice my disdain about what's going on. I have to actually be an active participant. And you've been doing this work for so long so he takes me back to when you were like a baby organizers like of like how you were feeling about entering the social justice space and maybe some of the mistakes you made and some of the really amazing surprises that happen when you started out how while you know i think a part of my childhood that in many ways impacted my understanding of social justice and privilege. All these different things and being starved out. People was actually some of the ideals. I learned thousands of them around stewardship around Figuring out your part to support and make other people's lives better but of course they're also working with the red cross. Youth board volunteered all the time we one of the important moments are member with volunteering so money after hurricane katrina happened for folks who were a few states over But i would say. I got my organizing chops in atlanta and one of the interesting things about that. Experience was that. I was meeting other black. Trans women brilliant in a lot of ways for the first time because i was in a university context for a long time and we know the barriers the systemic barriers being any kind of marginalized. They are so. I never saw myself in academia And we were out on what is quote unquote called the straw. Get my friend. Dear friend tony michelle williams and i were out surveying ambi- experiences of other black women who were thanks for earth and i just had this mom. I broke down in her car. I was like we gotta do something they should here. We gotta figure out what we gotta do and she was your nobody savior honey leg. You do your part you figure out what you can do but you're nobody savior. And that was such a an opening for me to understand my prevalence even as a black trans woman that i was building the middle class privilege. I grew up in This academe privileged. That i had to even go college and graduate with a degree out consistent employment to think that i had the solutions for people with experiences that were not actually exactly like my own and it actually the bow figuring out how to collaborate and support people and building up the solutions that they.

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"raquel willis" Discussed on Black Frasier

Black Frasier

04:55 min | 8 months ago

"raquel willis" Discussed on Black Frasier

"Off topic. No we're seeing. This bitch likes to pretend like you. The only beautiful person they've ever seen in my all life and its ally. I'm not by is now alive. There's no one else on this planet. The united discussed this before. And i think next week's episode goes into it as well where i find people attractive that i have a relationship with four. I'm just kidding. That's like really sweet. Wow that's really sweet any way. Let's get on track. Okay you guys. We took a little high eighty because it was turkey day And is just sort of like listen guys. We had a good thanksgiving they right. Yeah my came over we cooked we love Because sleeping gas. We're all responsible and got tested Let's see i feel like my is probably the only person we've seen in quarantine for like eight months. Yeah yeah so you know. I know a lot of people are like gathering and stuff like being only allowed one person come over at what had to be tested in the go back. The fuck. Do not pass two hundred. Take your leftovers. i'll see you next year. It was very My made mac and cheese for us. She a lot of pressure. I feel on Well email black people are very particular about their mcentee. I wasn necessarily saying black. People buzzing mac and cheese is like the highlight of thanksgiving meal right. But you're making it for like a black person this extra pressure of spurt. Yeah yeah but my through. He did a lot of cheese in the. It was really good. our ally but it was very delightful. So three cheers in a woo for my array. Woohoo yes okay you. Is we talk about the topic. A hand okay And i just want to start by introducing gusts by say that she is literally like so wise so smart. And i think as we're winding out the year we got past the election. Chitose stain is out yes yeah finally thoughts really helped that one. Yeah and you know. We're trying to sort of get rid of all the ugliness as there. We're thinking about the future who's going to represent us who is going to be the inspiration that we can then use in our own lives to step up and do better and so i just thought it was fitting to have a conversation with someone who i feel like is the future She's very smart. She is.

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"raquel willis" Discussed on Going Through It

Going Through It

03:32 min | 11 months ago

"raquel willis" Discussed on Going Through It

"They want me Lake Creole small and feel like. Power at all absolutely I think like for me. Obviously, I'm a black person and like I feel like naturally that is like just an activism like Jimmy being a black person in a lot of white spaces being a black woman like there's just so much against you. So naturally, there's that yeah I've had like old roommates or friends you know. White people in my past like message me on facebook years later and be like. Oh, my God I learned so much from you which on the one hand is like. You know but also like a Lotta Times I don't even remember what they're talking about and so it seems like what you're saying it's just like Oh. You just realize that I was a person and in that was. Helpful to you in some way. It's weird too because like I feel like sometimes I have to advocate for high blackness even in block circles leuze more. Like In a way that. People will say things that are inherently anti-black that they don't realize like making fun of someone with Nappy here might making fun of someone like Bell Pepper knows whatever their somebody's name yeah or someone's name and it's like. Even in your circles, you have to be like so dedicated to what you're the mission which is seeing that everyone is equal everyone has valid and everyone deserves to have space here on earth. There are so many times that like even with dealing with like other black men apt to be like..

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"raquel willis" Discussed on Going Through It

Going Through It

06:19 min | 11 months ago

"raquel willis" Discussed on Going Through It

"Not about me says about my friend. Stacy the first question So. We're going to start the interview now. Question number. One So I have this friend named Stacy and stacy in spite of being kind Mouth sort of in like she knows how to use her voice, but she is very paranoid about sometimes because she's she's also a black woman and. She was just what a train you know that like. Women who's begun black women in particular. The like it's just a thing that you should do because didn't your your needy, your high maintenance, your annoying. You're winding. You're making a big deal out of nothing you're reliability nobody's going to hire you. Go through her head right but she knows what is right and what's wrong. She knows that the things that she speaks up about are worth speaking up about it's just like this paranoia about how she'll be perceived I guess. Do you. have any advice for my good friend Stacy who has not me at all? Well stay saying. What is there was do we like? Everybody. You know I always think the most important thing in any in answering any kind of question like this to make sure that you let people know that how they're feeling as valid because a lot of times. Especially I'm black community. If you'd be like all, don't be worrying about bad all that kind of seven and it's like, Whoa, no, I'm already worrying about it. So it's too late day nowadays, you know it's like if I can't speak up for myself and certain moment I, I don't beat myself up over it. I just try and look at what the conditions were giving myself benefit of the Dow. And then just try an pomace myself to to do better. Next time you know every day is different our energy levels fluctuate all the time but it's about US standing that we're a dynamic where human homeo-, stasis is the thing for a reason. Oh my gosh, I'm going. And like we have to understand that we're not going to always feel empowered. But it's about having faith you can feel empowered again. So as about being nice to yourself as sounds like, yeah being always the answer to all of these deep sold virgin. Be Nicey, appointees you know. Having grazed having these conversation we process as we're talking to other foul, absolutely all the gas in the world you just know somebody like. This is real right like is this is a big and you have you have helped my friend stacy tremendous out. Is actually going to be. Okay. I. Loved it. I just wake up. Like. I don't know I don't know it. I WANNA take it back a little bit where we started with. Leela and her letter in twenty fourteen. She gave a call to action on how to make the world a better place for Trans People. How do you think she would react to the world today? Wow I hope that she would seem. More ourself in the media and the world. Now, we obviously have posed and a lot of brilliant folks on they aren't. Folks like India more folks like Angelic Hurrah. Them say Rogatory guys Dominate Jacksonville Florida you know folks who are. Not, only living these fabulous lives, right. But continuing to champion their stories individually I think about the Janet mock who are creating more spaces and opportunities for folks. To elevate their stories and and obviously you know the Lombardo Kochta's. But I also think about you know the Andrea Jenkins. You know the people who are running for public office. A black. Trans. Woman on the first Black Trans woman to be elected to city council and so the work she does I think about my friends are doing so much. Work Ahead. Tell. Tell Him. And Snow doing powerful work. She's now the solutions not punishments collaborative. Side. Think about all of that. You know I think about the voice of that. We have now and it doesn't feel like. We're so isolated anymore like in those days in two thousand fourteen and I also will say no more and more folks are understanding the complexity of gender in the babies the bay and are leading day. Are I think about? And I think that's true where we're already on the path, we've just got to lean into it. Talking with Racquel really put so many things in perspective for me and you know I just had to ask my girls what they thought. So because of social distancing in the time of the coronavirus me and my girls got together and had a virtual dinner party to talk about what activism looks like me. Are we activists..

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"raquel willis" Discussed on Going Through It

Going Through It

04:37 min | 11 months ago

"raquel willis" Discussed on Going Through It

"Of it just the facts Ma'am just the facts exactly and it it Selah Romania. I, mean, there are so many different types of journalists So yeah. If you're doing straight reporting and doing a news hit you, you're just gonNA scribble down the facts. Right? We also forget that objectivity and a lot of instances it's kind of impossible. I mean there's bias and even what we choose a subject that is deemed worthy of being covered. There's bias and what we're going to present to an editor and what they care about. Absolutely. No there's by dealt with the bias of working at a newspaper that wouldn't let me frame arguments. The way I wanted to in my opinion columns because it was too progressive for the community. Unity I'll. Yeah. I I will get even for the things that I would write I would get hate mail about being too naive or needed to watch my back all that kind of stuff I got an email once saying that I needed to watch my back because the KKK was alive and well in this area. Wow. What area in Georgia. Georgia I thought you meant in New York. City for a second now was just like number one I'm not surprised. We can't see because they don't have them there. I can't imagine. The weight of all the work that you do, which is so important but very heavy, very, very heavy. Please them. You got a good their fist. How are you taking care of yourself do you? Bet Vase means. A look I am in truth. And This is safe face. I. Actually feel like I'm going through a really bad therapists breakups. Nine now way but I had a phenomenal. They are pissed when I was still living in Oakland about a year and a half ago. Best, they're pissing my life like I know the one that got away. All no black and queer and a woman and Corn exactly and then I moved here. Any even I felt like I definitely need they're more you know living in New York list. I just was so drained because I had finally found her found the one, and now I just don't even want to play the. Phil. Go through that Labor because overwhelmingly my therapist experiences have not been great like I think a lot of folks right and I'll be very clear I. don't want another white therapists Y- nor should you have to have would I want a male therapist and if they can't be Queer I guess we'll work it out but I wouldn't prefer not have a straight therapist. So that's what's difficult for me. I also have much about healthcare when I was in California to be so frank, this sounds like a forgivable situation I got. A good their fifth straight now but I mean like, how do you take care of yourself like what things do you do to keep yourself from just being Mike? The world. Awful. There's no hope lake is all just trash whereas the media until the hurry up when I had that other therapist, I was able to kind of carve out what care looked like to me. Okay. So self care from me believe it or not as like planting. Planting plan plans. Thought I have like a bunch of plants in my players. I particularly have a fondness for Sake Lance. They forced me to open my. Cartons and let sunshine. Wash. So that's the thing I also say now a Lotta Times you know I kind of put it simplistically that my sisters are my self care. but it extends much more than that. So.

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"raquel willis" Discussed on Going Through It

Going Through It

07:33 min | 11 months ago

"raquel willis" Discussed on Going Through It

"All the shit this happening around me lake. It's so interesting but I think before. Reading that letter from Leila. I had gotten so used to not sing myself and media and seeing myself around me. And I didn't know other Black Trans people before I. Left College. That's also the really sad thing is that I I literally grew up pretty much isolated from other transpeople. I wasn't in a big city so. It's not like I knew people who were out or I would even see people out in the bow. So that idea of having possibility model. Wasn't even fathomable to me. I will say that I did always know that I had a story I knew that as the as a child that I had a story that I was different. And then I was going to have to say something one day and it might not go well but that the clock was ticking and I needed to make sure that I was strong enough to make it through. Why did this become the beginning of your activism work? Like what was it about this moment? Honestly I think that Leila's death and the media rounded coincided with a time of my life where I finally was finding community. That looked like me with finding black. Hugh Fox in Atlanta and that I felt a little bit freer to say the things I really felt and advocate for the things that I knew our community deserved because I wasn't end small town Georgia anymore. I just had such a fear before moving to Atlanta for my life and my safety for my survival that I will lose my job and then have to go back to Augusta and I sure as hell not trying to. Do that no. So you to Augusta and this just all kind of coincide together because it wasn't the first and sense of Anti Trans Violence that I knew about I knew about what happens Ilan nettles and twenty thirteen I knew about the story of Gwen Arrojo mostly through the lifetime movie you know because my mom watched lifetime so I saw that movie but this was a time where it just foul. So concrete in terms of me. Visualizing what I was capable of doing now that I had a certain amount of safety myself So you decide okay music my voice things are happening this impactful. I'm going to step up my game. What's the first step? Where do you start? How did you learn like what is in the activist starter pack or what was in yours? It's funny. You ask that because I feel like a lot of happen organically I will say, I think the starter pack is. First of all, figuring out your own story. Okay. You know what are what are the things that you need to hill from? What are the of your story that are empowering? What are the parts of the story that you think can be used empower others? And then I think it's about finding. Community finding other people who may share similar stories right figuring out what they are ways of working through their own traumas as as a relates to what binds you together are a and then I think it's about putting it all into action right so a big part of the word activist is the word act what we're like your actual actions like did you go to rallies? Did you tweet about it more? Did you? stage. One person protests Dow mainstream like what was the What was your particular action? So it was a lot of things. I definitely tweeted a lot about what was going on and the Movement for black lives what was happening around the lives of Black Trans, women and Trans Women of Color I was doing work canvassing and doing survey. Data collection with Solution Punishments Collaborative Snap Co, and I also had a moment that was very powerful to me was our transliteration Tuesday action and Atlanta. So I really kind of spearheaded that brought folks together for that, and so it was a huge community effort we gathered. Upwards of one hundred plus folks would I think at that point if it hasn't been eclipse now was one of the biggest rallies specifically around Trans lives in Atlanta you are a journalist and activist and know that capital J. Journalism at least supposed to be objective like you have to like write the story facts only like leave yourself out of it but activism requires a lot of feeling how do you reconcile the two and does it ever create any tension there? Do those two identities ever bump heads so honing the identity of journalists and then also the identity of activists doesn't cost tension for me anymore. Early on yeah because I did go to journalism school. So I, remember you know those lessons around objectivity. No editorializing exactly. But the problem with that is that. There's no one's arrogation of the fact that the people who have overwhelmingly made those rules, the people that it was so easy for them to see themselves outside of the rest of the world. Had the most privilege on then were white cisgender heterosexual man with a certain amount of class privilege. Probably Christian all of these different things and Alba Black Trans woman from the South I. learned that I didn't really have that luxury to see myself outside of the story, right especially as the Movement for black lives was popping off. It just felt ridiculous to me. It's to pretend like. I was talking about something that didn't. Play a role and how I navigate the world. Yeah. Now like when I'm talking about Black Trans woman being murdered, I have those stories the right billing like my life with endanger. Yeah. When I'm talking about interactions with the police, I have those stories or my let me on the other way because this could go down in a number of different outcome. Yeah and you can't like leave that part of yourself out of it because it impacts the way that you see everything that you come across in the world. That's a really good point and also I would imagine that once people who are not. And started getting hired. They didn't want to hear how we felt about certain things because it was probably this is racist sexist. This is trash. So there's like an added stake in the NBA like you know what? Leave your thousand feelings out.

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"raquel willis" Discussed on Going Through It

Going Through It

06:37 min | 11 months ago

"raquel willis" Discussed on Going Through It

"Before we get into this week's episode I WANNA. Let you know that it evolves themes around suicide in self harm. If you're worried about yourself or somebody that you love please please please reach out to the national suicide prevention hotline that number is one, eight, hundred, two, seven, three, eight, two, five, five South Carolina everything. This is going through it a show about women who found themselves in situations where they said no no thanks. I'll have nine and they made a decision to make a change in turn something around. I'm your host, Tracy, Clayton? They're all of these like successful algae. Hugh plus folks Thank it gets better. It gets amazing. All these different things and the truth is for a lot of people that doesn't get better. That's Racquel Willis. Today Racquel is a writer editor and transgender rights activist. She's done organizing work at the transgender law center and she was executive editor for out magazine. Big things big things happen. But at this point of her story, she was just trying to get a footing. So my relationship to Queer and Trans Activism prior to Leila Alcorn stuff. was kind of non existent I also had been in the closet. Gender identity working, and almost the middle of Georgia. My first job as a newspaper reporter picture of. The year is twenty fourteen. You cannot get rails happy out of your head and you also cannot stay off tumbler because tumbler was it. It was the place to be. It was so revolutionary because people there were using their own voices to talk about themselves learn about their own realities and there was a fourteen year old trans girl from. Lee alcorn that Raquel became aware of who did just that she used the platform to discuss and process her life. So Leela alcorn with a Yang Trans girl who really had learned so much about her identity she was active online as of millennials she became known in our community when she wrote a suicide letter that was set to publish on Tumbler after she had died by suicide Leila had battling both depression and parents that she felt were really unsupportive. It was kind of that bizarre instance of using technology to kind of say you know what you were. Going through and then to also have this translates youth telling the world that she was GonNa die because she couldn't a future for herself. When I sat with Racquel, she read the part of Leila's suicide note that resonated with her the most when I was fourteen I learned what transgender meant and I cried of happiness after ten years of confusion I finally understood who I was I'm mmediately told my mom and she reacted extremely negatively telling me that it was a phase that I would never truly be a girl that God doesn't make mistakes that I am wrong. If you're reading this parents, please don't tell us here kids even if you are Christian or are against transgender people don't ever say that to someone especially your kid. There was so much of Leila that Racquel on herself even reading this now I'm like, yeah, this was like me at the age came out of fourteen out gay I didn't have the language of transgender and I grew up in a very catholic environment. So the idea of like charts turning back on you and your parents choosing their faith of our farming you was was an imminent threat I. Always when we're cal I read Leila's note she felt so many fill in all at once I bar since it's here's just as I read more and more about her and I don't something just compelled me to do something different and not care about being. Silent anymore and I stagger these boxes on my like little rinky-dink coffee table and I put my laptop up they are and I recorded myself and I I made this short video where I'm dislike crying you know about this that feeling of helplessness like as a Black Trans Woman and the South I knew what that felt like Racquel hill posted a video to youtube not sure what kind of response she was going to get it got picked up by. BBC They saw it and they asked me to be on this radio show Racquel knew that this opportunity with the BBC could really open up the conversation about Black Trans Women that nobody at the time was having. She had just one little problem. I wasn't out at this now, second job that I was I was like, what's the point of being out? You know let me just like navigate as seamlessly as possible like I did in my last job but killed knew that in order to speak on Trans Women issues in the importance of their voices, she had to use her as I. I really only had like a day to kind of thinking through and I told my immediate boss was woman. Yeah was trans and that I was going to be talking about my experiences on BBC and then she talked to her boss who is like the the of like entire company. Who was a straight man? And I was Oh, how could this go but he also was like very supportive of and they were like you should do it by your voice is necessary inside did speaking on the BBC was a huge turning point racquel found her voice and now she was not afraid to use it. Soon she grew huge following on twitter and before you know it, she became somebody that folks looks who regarding issues facing the Trans Community I think the situations around Leela and subsequently being on the BBC just made me felt like I could be a mirror for other. Trans People. Now I sit down with Kale right as the pandemic it but it was also.

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"raquel willis" Discussed on The Secret Lives of Black Women

The Secret Lives of Black Women

01:40 min | 1 year ago

"raquel willis" Discussed on The Secret Lives of Black Women

"What is your secret? My secret is that you know myself care is love myself. Care isn't tangible things. It's not even though I love my plants too so I mean the feds in there too but it's the people that I surround myself with. My inner circle is myself. Care Right and they're okay with that and so when I talk about my sisters being myself care my best friends and US chatting Revitalizes me to go out and fight another fight and you know letting the people that I love. Put me in check right me. Putting them in check and kind of holding each each other together And so we don't have those circles. I think you know it's about acknowledging that Yes love is. Labor is not easy. We like to think of this. Just go and warm. But it's the hard moment sue if the cold moments it's the Awkward Silences. It's the ups me off. Not GonNa talk for we. 'cause I need to calm down if you can really see that as your your Revitalizing source I think. You've gotta May and so. My Love is labor. Thank you so much for joining us. This has just been well love Labor. Yeah I'M GONNA put that on posted on my fridge. Thank you so much.

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"raquel willis" Discussed on The Secret Lives of Black Women

The Secret Lives of Black Women

04:46 min | 1 year ago

"raquel willis" Discussed on The Secret Lives of Black Women

"Trans woman named Amanda Milan in two thousand and she was calling out Large LGBTQ nonprofits like the Human Rights Campaign for not Rallying behind justice for her death. She was calling out the LGBTQ center here in New York For not prioritizing the lives of Trans Women of Color and Trans folks. So it's been urgent for a long time and when I think specifically about my work I'm one of those people that you know. I deal with some intense imposter syndrome like pretty much everyone else. I now particularly the black woman I know and for me. I'm like girl to do what I need to do before the door gets locked before I get pushed out and the doors locked. You know we don't often have the grace of just waiting and sitting and waiting for someone to do their duck duck goose and give our chance you know to go. No when I get into a place I'll you know. Assess the landscape but at a certain point you just have to go right and the most that a person can say as now the most of the institution can say is no and then you at least know where you stand there and you can assess whether you can get what you need to get done there or not. Even when I worked at my second job how stuff works. I- pits the idea of a podcast on social justice On you know what was happening and the Movement for Black Lives Algebra secure issues. They wouldn't give me a podcast because they said that Well we already have a feminism. Podcasts THERE WAS. You know two white women who were you know? Very sweet and gracious to me very knowledgeable if very different but very different. They couldn't even see me outside of that space right and they couldn't see me as a host of my own show and and respect me and what I actually want to do so I realized that worth. I'm going to be able to do what I needed to do. To elevate stories I wanted to and then I want transgender law center and I had a great experience. You know amazing relationships and connections there and and got to point where I had to have a conversation about how our programming wasn't really touching black. Trans Women directly right after. I had that conversation. Luckily I. It was received well and and I presented a proposal in design a program on my own for the first time in my life. They received it well and then so. I built out a program called Black Trans circles which focuses on the survival of Black Trans woman and the south amid west from a hill injustice lands And that program lives on even though I'm not you know at the organization anymore and so that was there and when I came out it was the same thing and so luckily when I got out you know there was already space to push for a deeper. I think version of clearness entrance. Notice your under thirty. You've accomplished so much yet. You still mention you have imposter syndrome. And I'm wondering how you combat that to keep accomplishing all the things that you've done. A lot of. It is reminding myself that I'm under thirty but I think even that right like I think we need to shove the conversation on that because there will be a point where I can't use that as like my calming mechanism and it's not fair to the brilliant Black Women and other folks. I know who you know didn't really gets to do the things that they wanted to do. Until after you know it happens at so many different points in our lives and so we've got to get out of that age just kind of calming discussion for folks But it's it's talking to my mom you know talking to my sister and my good. Judy's my best friends you know. Most of whom are other Black Trans Women and Black Trans folks about what I'm going through and I'm I'm got so point where I'm a little less guarded about the hard things that I go through because for a long time I just would not speak to those things. I thought I had to to be the least massive version of myself but honestly the best things come out of you know my method. We like to end every episode by asking our guest..

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"raquel willis" Discussed on The Secret Lives of Black Women

The Secret Lives of Black Women

01:51 min | 1 year ago

"raquel willis" Discussed on The Secret Lives of Black Women

"Beef aren't really by near experiences. And I think within a generation's time we we will start to have a deeper understanding of that. This is the secret lives of black women. I'm SHARLA and I'm Laurin and today we're talking about LGBTQ politics. I'm really looking forward to talking about this. And I'm excited to talk about this because I feel like as we think about the presidential election and politics like so often when we think of black issues we compartmentalize and just think of blackness as like. Oh it's just it's just this issue but black issues are LGBTQ issues and we have to bring those to the forefront to and our thoughts and our minds is like if our sisters are dying like that should affect you. You should care and be like rallied up to be like who's talking about this and I think a lot of us are talking about it. I think we've had such strides socially in making these issues. Everyone's issues and making them black issues. At least as far as I'm concerned you know if everybody free none of us free so none of us. None of us. So I'm very excited. I think we have absolutely the best person to chat about these issues. We're chatting with Raquel Willis. Raquel is a writer journalist feminist leader and transgender liberation activists. She founded an initiative at the transgender law center called Black Trans circles which creates space for Trans People in the South and Midwest to heal from oppressive traumas and at the time of this interview. Raquel was the executive editor about magazine. She spoke at the inaugural women's March back in two thousand seventeen and her writing has appeared everywhere from essence device. Bitch magazine Buzzfeed and Huffington Post. I am so excited to meet rebel and to get this conversation started. So let's just jump right in. Let's do it..

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