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Fresh update on "oprah" discussed on The Emma Guns Show

The Emma Guns Show

00:31 min | 10 hrs ago

Fresh update on "oprah" discussed on The Emma Guns Show

"'cause i don't know if you're familiar with how the contracts work for that show but let's say i got fifty million pounds to do celebrity big brother which i did and i'm just exaggerating the number the way the contracts were structured. If you're the first person voted out after a week and a half you got your entire fifty million pound feet but if you stayed to the very end you got your fifty million pound fee at nothing extra so there was no incentive to stay the whole time if you if you left of your own winners that i can't take this. Then you got a fifth of your fee or something like that five twenty five or twenty to twenty five percents up. Yeah suddenly so. Like i. I wanted to be the second voted out like. I didn't want her to be the first. Maybe the first 'cause the first one voted out gets a lot of press two for being the first booted out. But i did not want to stay there the whole time. Everybody thought i was lying. I should have just told them from day. One just doing this for the money. But but i knew that we were being recorded at all times and it didn't feel like a good luck or feel like i was being a good partner for the show of i step doing just for the money. It feels like what you what you ended up having happened. Was people had a preconceived notions about who you are. And even when standing in front of them showing really were they. Were still seeing you. Through the lens of what they had read or what they had heard and there or would they are being told by evil person in the house. Oh yeah we'll show. But i remember distinctly you going on ellen and i wanted to revisit this because at the time and obviously elon's reputation has changed somewhat recently. The nice lady no longer seen much as a nice lady. But i remember you going on that show and feeling like she gave you kind of a rough ride because you were saying you actually went on in on television in front of millions of people around the world instead. I haven't acted in a way that i'm now proud of and i want to say sorry for that and i felt that you got a bit of a break wall. I don't know if that's how it felt like that to you at the time it did but i think she was like a lot of people. Why should she go easy on me. And then also at that time. And i think this is more significant around that time. You had a couple of conversations with oprah winfrey and that was a much different experience with later. That was a few years. After i think oprah was in two thousand twelve okay. That was a wild. Oh my god I got to share a stage with oprah winfrey and deepak chopra. Wow on the stage. At radio city music hall in front of thousands of people and then aired on and it's still on youtube. And when i met madonna. I mean my biggest growing up the top. Three it's what it's just my whole. Life is insane to me. Because when i grew up i never would have imagined any of this because it didn't exist. It wasn't possible and i not only have lived out all of my dreams but i've lived a bigger wilder more fabulous more full life than i could have ever imagined and the top three superstars divas. Inspirations that i had growing up. I got to meet them all. Madonna oprah winfrey glorious stefan. When i met gloria amazing when i met madonna. It was amazing. But i was just so nervous awkward and crying that in cry cry but the inside i was crying. I did actually literally cry when glorious stefan because she was like family if she felt like family and it was and i met her before madonna. I met gloria so early in my career. I'm like what is happening. But then when i met oprah on the stage of radio city she was so kind and gracious and not just when we were filming but also inbetween at afterwards and even backstage. We were like vibing and she finished my suicide finishing my sentences. I'm like what is an i. R. off one right now it was it was like a it was like i was living a dream and you know this is the morbid thought but not really i for the longest time used to be really afraid of death. Now that i'm in my forties. I'm not so much anymore. I want to live a very long life. That's why i am working harder to be healthy person. I am waking up every morning to do the zoom fitness classes and eating healthy. And all that jazz. I wanna be around as long as possible for my kids and also because i love life. I love life and i live life to the fullest. But if i were to get a death sentence i found out i had saved for inoperable terminal cancer tomorrow or ended up. I only have months to live. I'm like well fuck sorry. That's the first time i curse on your show. I don't know if you take cursing or not Carrier a but the thought of dying. It's like that's the first time it came out a like all right. Well dang that sucks..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

06:36 min | 5 d ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Out and trying to nurture sauce steady recently from the aarp. They'd like two thirds of of the divorces theater for women who are forty or above are initiated by women. I think a big reason for that is that you allow these relationships to atrophy to such a point that it can't be developed anymore and if you build a situation where you've invested all of your time all of your motion all of your focus all of your intimacy if you will into your children which that is really what i l as focus that can intimacy has been transferred to elimination. It says in the article on those words. I'm sorry. I think you need to listen to what role in saying because rolling is saying something so clear which is the folk the the big question of that article and the question of everything that everyone is saying is which relationship is the primary. Where i'm saying is. I don't think that we necessarily should be looking to our children to give building blocks for for marriage. They're nine years old ten years old they don't have they don't have the perspective of longevity crack we do and so to ask nine or ten year old about these things in my view. Probably not even the great question but i can tell you this i will ask. I asked my twenty one year-old the same question and that's the response. They understand how important that marriage relationship was to make sure that they were security. You know when. I what what i view my job as a mother is is creating people who are secure and creating people have empathy for the world and creating people who are able to leave my house and go out. I'm all right without them. I don't want them to feel like they are everything to me. So the when they leap collapsed. I want them to know that. I have my own identity that i have my writing that i have my work that i my their father that i have that love is great. Love that i have for him and that they'll be fine when they're gone. I think when we have focused all of our identities on these children on these merrill tiny delicate shoulders. It's a terrible burden for them. You that i i. I think we agree that I think your number one job is apparent is to raise children who can go out in the world. And i think that maybe we that's what we are all striving for but we all admit now decided that it's done in spite of everything that we know A lot of people have done the opposite. You have more rain kids coming back home to stay now. Stay there before the mother is doing everything for you. And that doesn't tend to make independent is doing one question. I had with the one phrase. And i may have misunderstood it but when you said if god forbid one of them died i'd still have my husband and and to me kind of seem like you know but i'd still have my husband because he's going to be the one that's there in the end in spite of the fact that divorce rates over fifty percent. But but i'm just thinking wouldn't you're you being dark cloud for some years of me. Would you really be thinking. Thank god it has okay. That's just. I mean to say that. I that my husband is my primary relationship that i love him. The most doesn't mean that. I don't love my children. Of course i love them and the idea of losing them. When you play that game that god forbid game that i say is so horrifying to imagine. The idea of that is just overwhelming and devastating to me too. I'm not saying oh my kids. Think mom i people maybe that we might be responding is because another part of that statement was if i lost my husband. There'd be no joy. Wait wait there would be. It would be like the be off. I lost my children. I could move on a lot of fun. Imagine a life. Because i have a have to. I can imagine continuing alight but you can imagine continue. We know life with your husband. If your children were gone. Not not vice. I as i can i can imagine i can. I can if. I lost one of my children. When i try to imagine a future i can see that. Maybe one day down the road. I can see having some joy in my life. But i can't even imagine my life without my husband in a way. I'm i'm envious because you know one of my great fears. Is that like lynn. All wake up one day and find him gone. There's if like oprah's been saying there's a fifty seven percent divorce rate. My husband is a successful novelist. Twenty-three-year-old writers throwing themselves at him all the time. I'm five foot tall and a little chubby. And i'm getting wrinkles and i you know maybe he's gonna wanna be with some twenty three year old sex pot. I think there's a great balance. My husband and i have a balance. Where together we still have a great sex relationship. We don't feel great sex when you all know when we're sitting in that playground and we're sitting in that mommy. I'm sorry nobody's having cut. There's no no now it's ffa. Connie it if i was a turn off the cameras and everybody would get real here. I believe most people most people in this room are not having sex even weekly. I think women use the entire audience. What does this go that one out of five couples says they have sex us ten times a year. This has been very interesting. I thank you for writing the article. I think it's wonderful that you can get us to think about these things in a new way. I know It was so interesting because walking in the room. I could feel the tension you are like so you're very brave because you really are one of the first people i've heard in years. I had met you all to have this conversation. But i hear so many women saying they have you know given up on sex and they wish their husband would forget about it and go and do the business so to hear someone who speaks so passionately about it the way that you do at least given us to think about and opened up for conversation. Thanks everybody thank you. I'm oprah winfrey. And you've been listening to the oprah winfrey. Show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe to rate and review. This podcast join me next week. For another oprah. Show the podcast. I thank you for listening..

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A Mothers Controversial Confession

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

04:33 min | 5 d ago

A Mothers Controversial Confession

"I want you to brace yourselves. Because you're about to hear one mothers really controversial confession. She revealed it in a very provocative new york times article and in it she boldly proclaimed. I love my husband. More than i love my children. I yell at waldman. A mother of four also says her children are not the center of her universe and that is the key reason she says she and her husband have a very passionate sex life. She is a mother who says she loves her husband more than her kids and she is swinging from the chandeliers boy. Did she strike a nerve. How do you measure your passion for your children and your husband. I think this is a woman who clearly did not want to have children. And i think that she's doing a disservice to her children to her husband and two herself and especially the family unit as a whole. I thought that her point of view was sort of silly. You can't actually the type of law that exists between two grown adults and that bond between mother and child the way she puts her husband on a pedestal. It's dangerous because she loses him her whole world from what she said. It might say hurtful to our kids someday and she shouldn't have had children how she fill about having kids. I think i l. It's Has an obsessive relationship with her husband. I think i l really needs to reclaim a sense of south. I questioned i yell. It's security in her marriage. I thought i l article was goofy. My children are. I my husband and i come second. It makes me think you know what are her. Children chopped liver go okay. So i'm here with a group of mothers who have a lot to say about this. The woman who sparked controversy. I yell at walmart is here. I yell at is a harvard trained lawyer. Turn stay at home. Mother turned writer. Who has been married to pulitzer prize winning author michael shape on for twelve years and they have four children. So let me Read the passage. That has everybody up in arms. She says i have four children. But i'm not in love with any of them. I am in love with my husband if a good mother is one who loves her child more than anyone else in the world then. I'm not a good mother. I am in fact a bad mother. I love my husband more than my children. I yell it. You knew that you were going out on a limb did not want it. Well i did. I didn't quite know that star jones is gonna take off after me on the view. I didn't know i'd be sitting here next to you. I didn't know that i'd be facing down a group of angry mothers. But i did. You know i had been experiencing this again and again. Mom's groups i i. I'm like a lot of you. I spent a long time just to stay at home. Mom now. I work part time but i have four kids. I spend most of my day with my children. And i have felt for a long time very different. The most of the moms. Start the article talking about your mommy group and you noticed in the conversation. All the mother's talking about they're not having sex. Yeah absolutely i. The the interesting thing was i was talking to a mom and he was telling me about how she was trying to have a second kid. But it wasn't going very well. And i said you should try one of those electronic fertility monitors. Because they tell you when you ovulate like right that day and a great then. I won't have to have all that unnecessary sex. There's a reason that everyone is so angry. This is striking a chord. This is a real issue. Okay tear brown. Why do you say i yell at is doing a disservice to her family. Why well believe that children are such a gift. And i think that there is a healthy balance that can be formed with the family. Not necessarily putting one above the other per se. I think that's a really good point. And i think so. Many women today have become so focused on their children. They've developed these romantic entanglements with their children's lives and the husbands are secondary. They're left out and the romantic focus is on the children. I mean you guys know. Valentine's day at your kids schools. What happens on valentine's day. All the moms come in with you know. Perfect frosted pink cupcakes that they've made with their kids. What's valentine's day is valentine's day to make cupcakes with your children. Know valdez. Supposed to be a day about romantic love.

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New York Gov. Andrew Cuomo To Receive International Emmy For Daily Coronavirus Briefings

NPR News Now

00:43 sec | Last week

New York Gov. Andrew Cuomo To Receive International Emmy For Daily Coronavirus Briefings

"York governor andrew cuomo getting an international emmy. Npr's colin dwyer reports have always had a soft spot for politicians granted. They usually reserve honors for the actors playing bake leaders on tv but not this time the international academy of television arts and sciences said andrew cuomo receive its founders award for his daily coronavirus press conferences earlier this year. The briefings made the governor one of the most figures in the struggle to contain the coronavirus in the us. The academy explained it's unusual choice by saying quote he effectively created television shows with characters plotlines and stories of success and failure that asked him to of past winners include oprah winfrey and steven spielberg

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Andrew Cuomo to receive International Emmy for COVID-19 briefings

NPR News Now

00:47 sec | Last week

Andrew Cuomo to receive International Emmy for COVID-19 briefings

"Governor. Andrew cuomo is getting an international emmy dwyer reports. He will be recognized on monday for his televised. Cova nineteen briefings. The have always had a soft spot for politicians granted. They usually reserve for the actors playing bake leaders on tv but not this time. The international academy of television arts and sciences said andrew cuomo will receive its founders award for his daily corona virus. Press conferences earlier this year. The briefings made the governor one of the most busy figures in the struggle to contain the corona virus in the us the academy explained. It's unusual choice by saying quote. He effectively created television. Shows with characters plotlines and stories of success and failure that adds to a list of past winners that include oprah winfrey and steven spielberg

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New York's Cuomo to receive International Emmy for virus briefings

WBBM Afternoon News Update

00:30 sec | Last week

New York's Cuomo to receive International Emmy for virus briefings

"Cuomo. Overs will receive an international Emmy Award for his once daily televised briefings on the Corona virus pandemic that killed tens of thousands of New Yorkers. This spring. The International Academy of Television Arts and Sciences will Present the award to the governor in a Livestream show on Monday. International Academy President and CEO Bruce Paisner said Promo is being being honored honored with with the the academy's academy's founder's founder's award award for for using using his his briefings briefings to to inform inform and and calm calm the the public. public. Previous Previous recipients recipients include include former former Vice Vice President President Al Al Gore, Gore, Oprah Oprah Winfrey Winfrey and and director director Steven Steven Spielberg. It's 7

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Stop Being a Doormat!

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

04:55 min | Last week

Stop Being a Doormat!

"It took me almost forty years to learn how to do this. And now i just do it all the time. I love doing it. I'm talking about learning to just say no which i have found in my travels around. The country is still one of the most difficult things in the world for women to do. Dr martha beck is here today. With the cure. Really if you will listen to her. If you pay attention and get it you can cure your disease to please or at least take big strides towards carrying it beginning today. Dr martha beck is a regular contributor to the magazine. Where i'm wearing the hat this month. In june and actually martha. I've never told you this but you are the first thing i go to an magazine you are. I love your column so much. I think you have such yours. You go to mind. Yeah what i know for sure way already know what i know for sure so i already wrote the so. I go to you every month. Because i think you have solid sounded by. She's in omega seen every month and she got her phd from harvard while raising three children. She works as a life coach and has really sound sensible advice that you can just in the instant that you read it. No that's the truth. I'm going to stop doing that. She says every woman in the country is socialized to act like a doormat. We all have been socialized that way and today you all agree right today. She is going to begin to teach us how to say no. Kelly desperately need. Martha's help kelly. Says she is so eager to please that. She spends thousands of dollars a year trying to buy people's love. Look at this. I'm a twenty nine year old single woman. I'm very very hard working in the real estate field. I own my own home. I drive a very nice car. And i make very good money and i feel like i have to buy other people's love. I am doormat when it comes to money. I just cannot say no to my friends family or any type of relationship. That i'm and i just broke up with my boyfriend of eleven years and basically i paid for everything to keep him in my life. I even found out that he was using my credit card to go to strip clubs and it was hard for me to even confront him about using my money to pay other girls to take their tops off. I finally got the courage to kick him out. But i am still paying for him to stay in a hotel till he gets some money to get. I'm a pushover with my friends. I typically pay for dinners. they don't ever asks me. I just feel like that's just my job that i need to pay to keep them in my line. I always buy the most expensive gifts from my friends. Baby showers wedding gifts birthdays. Three years ago. I loaned my friend about three thousand dollars And i i haven't even gotten five dollars back. I'm a very visual person around town. I get compliments all the time saying kelly. I've never seen upset. I always emceeing you smiling. But the fact is that when i get home is a very lonely time. I'm not happy. And i wish i could find somebody to give me something. I don't think i've ever had i don. I haven't even had a boyfriend that could afford to take me to mcdonald's. Well dr martha says that Kelly is just like a man who sleeps with prostitutes. Not exactly how it's it's more like. She's a man who has decided at the beginning that no woman can ever love him that he's not good enough and so he only plays prostitutes because he figures that way he can't lose. He pays people to pretend to love him because he does not believe that he can be left without that guys. Think prostitutes love them. No no that's the. They want the prostitute to pretend to love them. Okay but of course. They think she's doing it for the money right. And basically what kelly's doing is have you ever tried making a friendship or being in a relationship where you didn't money so what you're doing is you're starting with the theory. I'm not loveable. Therefore i will buy people's love but you're always conscious that it's bought and paid for so it doesn't feel like love to you now. What i suspect is that these people really do love you you know. I know that. I have several friends. Left you're keeping it away you see in the tape. I wish that i could find somebody that would value me. That would give things to me. Well guess what you're going to mirror you're the only one who doesn't value and you as the bad news. The good news is that as you have the power to become the someone in your life who loves and cares for you okay. So that's why we gotta work on here.

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Star-studded benefit concert to honor nurses on Thanksgiving

WBBM Evening News

00:42 sec | 2 weeks ago

Star-studded benefit concert to honor nurses on Thanksgiving

"Winning singer Gloria Estefan is joining a star studded group of performers. For a Thanksgiving concert to raise money for nurses. Estefan took care of her ailing father was a teenager in Cuba and says she's never forgotten. Struggling with his poor health. Now 63 year old star who was sold more than 100 million records, says she wanted to do anything she could to celebrate the amazing human beings who have been on the front lines of the cove at 19 pandemic. The nurse Heroes live concert will be hosted by Whoopi Goldberg and include appearances from Oprah Winfrey, Stevie Wonder, and Carole King, among others. The Livestream event will raise money to pay for continuing education for nurses and their Children.

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Ellen Pompeo Hints at Grey's Anatomy End, Khloe Defends Kim's 40th B-Day Trip Amid Backlash

Daily Pop

06:00 min | Last month

Ellen Pompeo Hints at Grey's Anatomy End, Khloe Defends Kim's 40th B-Day Trip Amid Backlash

"It's time for some daily. Pop Morgan. Is out today suggested I joined once again by actress kitchen night polio. Thank you for joining us from Georgia. Loving for having me. Thank you. says. They do even. Just in case. Well, thank you very awesome. I want some. Okay. One of your favorite TV shows may be ending grey's anatomy has been on for fifteen years and Ellen pompeo just made a very shocking confession about what is next she tells variety. We don't know when the show is really ending it, but the truth is this year could be at this is also the last year of Ellen's contract. Okay. So Justin. Do you think they should end the show now while they're on top because people are still loving the show. Grey's anatomy is Kinda Sorta like young and the restless in the sense that like it can go forever and could miss a whole year. I'm back watched two episodes and then be caught up again you know what I mean. Yeah and the answer minds right and almost reminds me of the time. Do you remember when the hills was I going off Air Lauren Conrad was going to walk out the church and it was going to finish and she thought the curtains were going. To close and all of a sudden kristen cavalieri walks in and they revamp did I think Ellen pump? POMPEO is gray but the show can survive without her but can't survive without Shonda see. So Shonda, of course, just send them big NETFLIX's deal and it's to my understanding from what I was reading that she is literally parting ways with ABC completely, which may mean she's not GonNa have our hands on this show as much as she has in the past maybe not at all. And without shining once you've created show. Yeah. But once you've created a show, it's your show and I mean who's changed things happen we don't know how her contract is structured it could just be humming net flicks. One hundred percent but do I mean I think ABC has Shonda rhimes was so early in her career I don't think any see would have given Shonda. rhimes so much ownership over that show where she could move it to ABC but I think that Shonda rhimes, this voice, her blood, her sweat is so in this show that yes if shot arrives went to Netflix she will still get her coins from this show and she will let Iran. We'll be run by somebody else. That's does her voice. Okay. So listen I know somebody who used to write for how to get away with murder and he told me that his job was literally pointless because he says we were instructed to come in with ideas and we always did we came in and we said here's this. Here's that here's this but it always went with whatever Shauna had envisioned. Thank you for your ideas. Those are good and all but. We're going to do this. Appreciates the help but what did you say? No I said well, clearly, she has something you know I know it can be frustrating for someone to shoot down your ideas but the longevity of her career and all the shows that she is there's a reason why they've been successful and I know the Debbie Allen has been doing a lot with race mad at me. You know. You never know she still no matter she goes to net she still you know that's still her show. They can't take that away even if she starts creating another network. One hundred percent you know what? I am all about being petty and I heard about the drama shameless ABC for not giving Shonda that extra fast pass at Disneyland Shame on you. But if I'm Shonda RHIMES, I don't give y'all keep the show going on still get the cash I'm not gonNA. You know bitch and fuss about it. I have two kids got college should be four and I love living fancy like Oprah. We'll see what happens but I know there's some diehard grey's anatomy fans that are just not ready to say goodbye yet. So we will have to wait and see okay Khloe Kardashian has a message for the people who are hitting on Kim's birthday trip. She told Ellen Degeneres. She knows this year has been very frustrating for everyone but there Was a good thing. I did hear that people were upset that we all went out of town but also its her fortieth, and this is something that she really wanted to do for us. It was such a nice thing and being there with all the precautions and everything that we took and being there and how grateful everybody was for the tourism aspect of it and how. So many people said that we were their first party or guests that they've had in months and what it's done like for them to be able to pay their bills or to do. So for their family I mean just hearing those. Yeah. Messages when we were there, it was really a we felt really good and we felt so safe. So safe Wow. You know I knew the minute that first photo went. Oh, here we go. It's GonNa be a firestorm and For me I went to Cynthia Bailey's wedding in Atlanta and a lot of people were giving flack about that I thought about it for ten seconds and when it's a milestone, a wedding or fortieth birthday or something. Of that magnitude, it's hard. Skip it. It's hard to say or I'll just wait until next year. So I completely understand why there was so much backlash but I also understand why you wanted to continue in go on with it because you know sometimes. Life Yeah Kisha. And and the truth is that you know they did everything I think unfortunately, the Kardashian. Sometimes are just a position where you're kind of damned if you do damned if you don't. I'm not mad at him. I'm like, go ahead live your best life you share money you should be able to spend it how you WANNA spend it and they did everything they could to keep people safe in terms of quarantine in terms of getting Kobe task I mean, what more can you ask for it? Some people are upset because they don't have the option to do it, but you know sometimes you you can't just live perilously through the and plan your trip that newest you.

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Survey: LeBron James, Taylor Swift, Tom Hanks among the Most Influential People In The Election

Mojo In The Morning

01:02 min | Last month

Survey: LeBron James, Taylor Swift, Tom Hanks among the Most Influential People In The Election

"Speaking of the election Tom Hanks Dwayne the Rock Johnson Oprah and Lebron James have the most trusted opinions on political and social issues according to a new survey of American voters. We're all twelve percent of voters reported that a celebrity or athlete absolutely influence their decision regarding the election down the party line. Democratic voters are more likely to be influenced by CELEBS or athletes rather than Republican voters. Voters thirty six percent said that Lebron had done the most to motivate people regarding voting Taylor swift came in second than the rock followed by. B. Beyond say also making that list asked to name the person who's opinion trusted the most regarding political or social issues in America Tom Hanks won by a landslide forty, nine percent kid rock who was obviously a very vocal supporter of president trump ranked as the most influential voice for. Republican. Voters

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Rihanna, Taylor Swift, Madonna & Oprah Make Forbes' Richest Self-Made Women List

Toby and Chilli

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Rihanna, Taylor Swift, Madonna & Oprah Make Forbes' Richest Self-Made Women List

"List of America's richest self made women, and there are plenty of non entertainment folks, but it should not shock you that Rianna Taylor, Swift and Madonna are among them. And yes, Oprah is the top celebrity in the mix with a net worth of 2.6. Of a billion dollars. Lady

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Oprah Winfrey surprises Texas voters by cold calling people and urging them to make their voices heard

10 10 WINS 24 Hour News

00:25 sec | Last month

Oprah Winfrey surprises Texas voters by cold calling people and urging them to make their voices heard

"So nothing like getting a phone call from Oprah. I question this is Oprah Winfrey really is Oprah Winfrey. Well, that's the TV icon cold calling people in Texas to get out the vote. She's doing it in partnership. With powered by the people in organization founded by Texas Democrat Beto O'Rourke. Other big names joining the phone banking operation include Willie Nelson, Andrew Yang and Bernie Sanders.

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Stevie Wonder leaves Motown and releases two new songs

The Breakfast Club

02:46 min | Last month

Stevie Wonder leaves Motown and releases two new songs

"Stevie wonder had a new kidney. He had a kidney transplant last year. He said he feels thirty years younger after that. Any also announced that he is leaving motown. So He's been on motown forever. So that's a big deal and he put out to new songs as well. So we actually have one of those songs for you right now and this song is called can't put it in the hands of fate. It's a call to action with rhapsody, Corday CHICA and BUSTA rhymes. Don't repeat many. took notes from the Peter you Samah Vitamin. Apologize. Made debts legal. When the dog equal. A debt. Town got to find. The. Time was raised by Mother Nature in the projects in the mid war withdraws. Was Easy to spot the government. Dropped include Bob Rhapsody who there? Yes. They get busy. Telling me one did leave and motown is like telling me somebody died that I thought vindicated who the hell thought. stevie wonder was still on motown. I no clue until either. Let's hear Stevie wonder's part of the song as well. You. have to make a change. Again. Wouldn't. told. US. Can't. Okay timeless talent, timeless talents devi one absolutely. Never forget the brass club hats TV WANNA come saying happy happy birthday to Senator Hilary Clinton when she was running for president in two thousand sixteen. She didn't win. Of course I a great moment it was. Put out another sound call whereas I love song this is under his new. So what's the Fuss Music Label with republic records all the proceeds from is our love song will be donated to feeding America. You know he was on Motown for sixty years all right now oprah. Seaport seventy years old. Wow. Sixty is. To leave and kept he probably kept on signing again masturbate I. Don't know if he got on TV hope he has some I can almost guarantee stevie wonder message

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Stevie Wonder releases 2 new songs after announcing that he's leaving Motown

The Breakfast Club

02:46 min | Last month

Stevie Wonder releases 2 new songs after announcing that he's leaving Motown

"Stevie wonder had a new kidney. He had a kidney transplant last year. He said he feels thirty years younger after that. Any also announced that he is leaving motown. So He's been on motown forever. So that's a big deal and he put out to new songs as well. So we actually have one of those songs for you right now and this song is called can't put it in the hands of fate. It's a call to action with rhapsody, Corday CHICA and BUSTA rhymes. Don't repeat many. took notes from the Peter you Samah Vitamin. Apologize. Made debts legal. When the dog equal. A debt. Town got to find. The. Time was raised by Mother Nature in the projects in the mid war withdraws. Was Easy to spot the government. Dropped include Bob Rhapsody who there? Yes. They get busy. Telling me one did leave and motown is like telling me somebody died that I thought vindicated who the hell thought. stevie wonder was still on motown. I no clue until either. Let's hear Stevie wonder's part of the song as well. You. have to make a change. Again. Wouldn't. told. US. Can't. Okay timeless talent, timeless talents devi one absolutely. Never forget the brass club hats TV WANNA come saying happy happy birthday to Senator Hilary Clinton when she was running for president in two thousand sixteen. She didn't win. Of course I a great moment it was. Put out another sound call whereas I love song this is under his new. So what's the Fuss Music Label with republic records all the proceeds from is our love song will be donated to feeding America. You know he was on Motown for sixty years all right now oprah. Seaport seventy years old. Wow. Sixty is. To leave and kept he probably kept on signing again masturbate I. Don't know if he got on TV hope he has some I can almost guarantee stevie wonder message

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

06:00 min | Last month

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"At me sudden he said. This piece. Yes it is piece. I loved this piece. And I realized that my child. Loved this piece as much as I did but he couldn't create it for himself if I could create it and give it to him. He would gratefully enter into it. So she stepped back to reevaluate their lives I think as parents we tend to offer our children too many choices kids can get overwhelmed by the choices if we have the inner strength to say, well, no, we don't really need to do that. Then children learn that life can be good since I found the confidence to make these choices for my children. I feel that my children are just breathing easier. I was really able to look at my kids and seat that I could only bring peace to my child when I felt peaceful as well. I I give myself a gift of a Yoga class and giving myself the skift I was also giving a gift to everyone else in the family because that sense of calm. Is Find it Yoga I. Carry Home with me I. think it's really important. For Women to honor themselves enough to take that time to do whatever it is that replenishes and refreshes. And just brings back that joy and life. Katrina story is told in her book called Mitten Strings for God reflections for mothers in a hurry. You also have a great idea for how your family now spend Sundays which is. My husband and I realized that what we really wanted was just more time to hang out together as a family and Sundays in our house were very much an extension of the workweek. They were like every other day except for the fact that we would buy doughnuts for breakfast and dropped ten pound newspaper on the table which no one ever had a chance to read anyway. and. So we decided that we would just try to reshape Sundays which meant we would no longer get up in the morning and start kicking things off the list and seeing how many errands we could do and maybe squeeze in a few hours at our desks and dash off to the health. Club. We would just hang out on Sundays. which is not to say that we wouldn't do anything we just we are going to be open to whatever good thing came our way, and by the end of Sunday, we were all feeling pretty refreshed ready to take on Monday you allow it to be your restorative day. We give it a we give ourselves a day of rest on Sunday wow and you know people have been doing this. For Generations. Most of us do have memories of Sunday's as the day when busy families switched gears and you know you would have the pot roast at noon and everyone would gather round mom and dad might go take a nap seemed very boring. The kids it'd be left alone to entertain themselves. Well, this is very radical. Now you know today if you give us an empty day, we fill it. So, we tried to empty it again. So Kathy, brought along some ideas for what to do when you finally take that precious time for yourself. They are. You can just pray and meditate. You can journal write down your blessings. On a candle some good music music is the language of the soul, some relaxing music and just think of your dreams and what who you want to be. You know we're all human you're not human being to a human becoming too. Who Do you want to become? It might be your day to take a bubble bath. It might be just time you might just have time to walk around the block or walk in the woods. Maybe it's only fifteen minutes at every little bit helps you can restore your soul renew your spirit in just a short amount of time. What do you do? Katrina I get out the door for me. It's just being outside and it might just be being outside laying in the grass looking at the sky, which is actually something I try to do every day and it's not enough to look up the standing because that's not resting flat down and I watched the clouds drift and if I've got a child nearby, I'll pull him in to if I don't get to do it while the sun is shining I do while the stars are shining really. Don't you think it's important to do I think it's important to set your day because I think you set your day because your co creating with the big guy you really are I have a moment every morning I go out to get the newspaper the most mundane thing in the world we all do it but I, walk out to the very front of my house and I just look up for a minute and I think they're all in their one. Still. Asleep. Husband's in the shower ones doing whatever and I just think this is home. This is the place that contains my family and I'm about to go back in there and what do I want to bring with me for all of us run for busy MOMS to get up just a little bit ahead of everybody else too so that they can get their head screwed on straight. It's been some quiet time thinking and praying about the debt will think so. Yeah for me, it's the morning while making the coffee you know and the Sun Right? A A Lake Michigan. So for me, it's like having sunrise faith is that moment where you set yourself for the day that you were open to the possibility that God has to offer yourself and and the day and I don't know how otherwise if you don't do it then your day just run you if like this is the. Day We have been given. Yes. You can forget yesterday it's a fresh slate. Kids love a fresh slate instead away between his book is called. mitten strings for God reflections for mothers in a hurry. Thanks to Cathy Peel again, her book is called be your best the family managers guy to personal success about treating your family like it is it is its own business and you need to manage that and give time back. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey show the podcast. If you haven't yet go to apple podcasts and subscribe rate and review this pipe pass join me next week for another Oprah show the podcast. I thank you for listening..

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Interview with Jules von Hep

The Emma Guns Show

06:37 min | Last month

Interview with Jules von Hep

"Jews. On Hat. Welcome back to the PODCAST. How are you? Is So nice to be here. I feel like BMX gun show is like comfy lounge with the company. So a lovely wolves and the hold. Sherry every time I'm on this because I just feel great. That's exactly how I want you to fail. The cushions nicely. Or can fluff occasion very well. I had a moment on Sunday evening I was lying down watching TV and I thought note not having it and I just decided that the Sofa looked a bit flat. So I the cushions off had to stamp on some of them had to beat some of them are I'm talking about. The SOFA cushions as well as my beat the crap out of. I don't look great afterwards. I should say on the floor. Staring at it lovingly. His still no since. I don't to beat the air out of it with my behind. Thirty seconds in. I've never I've never served Sherry they maybe. I. Should have a buffet in the just in case you come around. I'm all about sheds all Chaz yet. Love it overlooked. Is it? It's sweet. Isn't it? Sweet uncle you get them dry is good. All Year round at. Huge says. It's really As a warm up, I liked him as a warrior shopping A. Well or even just a lunge before coming out just a little parents got this show of the rhetoric quick shares off the air. Do you mix it with anything. We just need room temperature chilled. Babak. If I'm lucky with the bear bikes but. I haven't had a drink in six weeks and then six maybe even longer and then the other night I decided to have a cafe patrol. Because I ended up my friends that's. My friend the next day always feel that good. This morning I had some cafe patrol last night and he said how many and I said two and a half shots. And went, oh, that's and I said well five technically to with double. I'm enjoying the hall. I know it was like. Over, do it. I'll just have a half of the last one, but it was very nice and I watched the Oprah. Mariah Carey interview I was sipping. What does seem a whole? Just described on your perfectly fluff safer. I know exactly but you are joining me before we go off on a major you joining me for an episode of Feel Good Habits, which is the franchise or the series only Magan show where I quiz my guess about the tips, strategies and techniques, they use to stop bad data heading into a bad week. Stop getting out of the bed the wrong side turning into ruining every day as whether your own those sorts of things and also. Let's face it. It can be a bit deeper and you are. Pure, joy. As a friend but also as somebody that I am lucky enough and I know lots of people lucky enough to engage with on the Internet viral instagram you just put out nothing but good thoughts. And feelings kid thank you. You know about I just I like living each day plus Ignited your knife is GonNa, come to a close I. Know that's so grim but I, liked to enjoy life and I think it's really important to try and use my platforms to spread joy and just biftek WanNa because life is tough it's hard work and actually it's just remember the beauty of life and it's to half feel-good smile and Laugh Day. That needs to be a t-shirt gills. I know I do actually need a PA to just stay with me at all times taking votes. That's a Hashtag. If you're available send Jesse. Rhonda she'd be. Efficient. I reckon would work in a chip here the weekends and I wouldn't have a problem with it. Oh, I actually. I had a craving fish and chips last night. How funny that you say that? It's the universe telling me to go up the road and get myself. Some cutting chip's GonNa have to talk source in the right. You gotTa have everything right to go with it. You can't just Have to prepare. I, think. Oh listen. This is a banal chippy Attica. Different show. All you need to know is plenty of salt plenty of vinegar and don't mess with them scraps. That's how it goes. Yes. Yeah. True. So I'm guessing you've got some flipping excellent feel good habits. So I think the first one I actually want to put down. It's not something that I've written but you jogged my memory now is a good habit is. When you get out of bed in the morning I, really truly believe that how you start your day will massively impact the rest of your day and I know that that's this very common Skill. If you make the bed those who make the bed, we'll have a more productive day on. It's something that I really try and disciplined myself in the moment I wake up I'll wake up and I'll stay on instagram and go through my DM's which for me is compartmentalized as an hour. Before out bed so then I have an hour after that and I make empty the dishwasher maybe claim a kitchen before dressed might do a little bit of a workout with something and then I, started my day right now what that does is it puts me on a really Positive, productive mental state of mind if I don't do one of those if I lie in bed if I mess Abou-. Than sometimes my diet can unravel and then it got straits with myself, and then I know that I I know that I can stop being mean and it's just not worth it. So feel good habit number wall I think his start your day rhines and from the moment you get up start doing nice things. So I'll combine actually with this other one I've written down is exercise has feel good habit.

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New book tells story of 6 brothers with schizophrenia

The Psych Central Show

08:31 min | Last month

New book tells story of 6 brothers with schizophrenia

"Your host Gabe Howard and calling into our show today we have Robert. Caulker Robert is the author of Hidden Valley Road which was an instant number one New York Times Bestseller and Oprah's Book Club Selection He is a national magazine awards finalist who's journalism has appeared in wired and the new. York Times. Magazine. Bob Welcome to the show. Hi Gabe I'm really glad to talk to you today. Your book is non-fiction. It's a true story. I'm GonNa read from Amazon Right now description the heart rendering story of a mid century American family with twelve children. Six of them diagnosed with schizophrenia became sciences greatest hope in the quest to understand the disease. Let's talk first about how you did the research for this book, you met the Galvin family. That's right. My career really took shape at New York magazine where I've written dozens of cover stories and feature stories about everyday people going through extraordinary situations and I really am drawn to these stories of people who manage crises come through difficulties I find it inspiring and I'm always looking for a deeper issue running at the bottom of her in. So when I met the Galvin family I was amazed, this is a family that's been through so much. Misfortune and also so many challenges and so much scientific mystery medical mystery I I met the two sisters they're the youngest in the family there were twelve children they're the only girls and they now are in their fifties. But when they were children, six of their ten brothers had been diagnosed with schizophrenia. The family immediately became interesting to scientists and researchers were trying to get to the the genetic roots of the disease. But before that happened, there was tremendous amount of denial, a lot of stigma that forced the family into the shadows, and so it became clear that by telling their story, maybe we could inspire the general public to sort of remove some of that stigma from mental illness particularly acute mental illness like schizophrenia, which so many people still have difficulty talking about and to anchor this in time they were diagnosed in the seventies. I'm horribly bad at math, but they were diagnosed fifty years ago. So there was even more stigma more discrimination less understanding. It was harder to get diagnosed absolutely and also more of a reason to hide because so many people in the establishment were blaming the families themselves for the mental illness blaming bad parenting in particular, blaming bad mothering, and then of course, the medical treatments, the pharmaceutical treatments were blunter and more extreme back then and they were just coming out of the period of lobotomies in shock therapy insulin coma therapy is all sorts of drastic treatments which are now. So questionable now the parents are dotted Mimi, Galvin their mom and dad did mom and. Dad Have Schizophrenia or any mental illness or was it just their children dated not have schizophrenia neither did anyone in their immediate families and I think part of the mystery of this book is how does schizophrenia get inherited because we now are certain that there is a genetic component to schizophrenia, but we don't know exactly how it is inherited. It's not parent to child it's not recessive. It's not like you need to people with schizophrenia to produce a child schizophrenia it Kinda wanders it meanders through families in a very tricky way and there was a lot of hope pinned on this family that they would help shed a little light on that mystery as well. What were some of the most surprising things that you learned about mental illness and will really schizophrenia from your time interviewing the Galvin's I was surprised by almost everything. But my biggest surprises were that to my understanding of mental illness was that it was about brain chemistry and that great pharmaceutical drugs were coming online that through trial and error and a lot of work. Perhaps, we'll be able to correct your brain chemistry problem and then whatever you had whether it was anxiety or depression. Or bipolar disorder that it would be corrected and that you would become essentially cured although cured is the wrong kind of word for like remission or recovery. Right what I learned was that schizophrenia this isn't really true at all that the drugs that they have the antipsychotic drugs that are very popular that are prescribed so much for schizophrenia, they are basically the same drugs that have been prescribed for fifty years. They may have different names derived from the same classifications of typical neuroleptics or. Narrow left ix and that these drugs are essentially symptoms suppressors. Help a person control their hallucinations or delusions or it might make a patient less erotic and more manageable as a patient in a healthcare setting but it doesn't turn back the clock. It doesn't necessarily add functionality. They really are just sort of good enough in terms of controlling the population but not really the miracles that we look at when we talk about antidepressants for instance, and that was a huge surprise it sounds like that. You didn't know a lot about schizophrenia before you started working on this book. Is that true? That's right. I mean I knew enough to know that it didn't mean split personality multiple. Personality which is. Like the big misnomer that because of the way we use the words get. So there's a Latin root skits which refers to split, but really it was meant to mean a split between reality and one's perception of reality a person with schizophrenia tends to wall themselves off from what is commonly accepted as reality I a little bit and then a lot and sometimes that means delusion. Sometimes that means to lose the nations and sometimes it means being catatonic sometimes, it means being paranoid and in fact, that was the other huge surprise for me for schizophrenia, which was that it isn't really a disease at all it is a classification. Syndrome. It's a collection of symptoms that we have given a name. And I don't mean to sound too nebulous or mystical and talking about There is such a thing as schizophrenia. It's just that it may be several different things in that forty years from now, we might have removed the word schizophrenia from our lexicon and we might have decided that it's really six different brain disorders with sixty screen types of symptoms, and we have found ways to treat those six different conditions differently that was another huge surprise to me. When doing your research for the book? Obviously, you spoke to the family. Did you also speak with medical doctors and schizophrenia researchers and people in the medical field? Yes. Absolutely. My initial conversations were with the family themselves who after many years of difficulty were ready to come forward and talk about everything that happened to their family in a very deep and profound way. But of course, in the back of my mind I was thinking well, how specialists this family for all I know there might be thousand families with lots of kids where half of them have schizophrenia this, this might happen all the time. So I didn't immediate round of checking talking. To major figures in scholarship of schizophrenia in the history of science, but also the treatment of schizophrenia and just to say, have you heard of this family? What would you say if I told you a family late this existed how typical do you think it is? Do you know the doctors who have treated the? Stanley because I knew their names as well are those doctors on the level? Are they quacks and everything really checked out? This is a family that is definitely unusual extraordinarily. So in terms of the numbers, they were important family to study for their time and they did help move the ball forward in a genuinely valid way an. Way So. There's a lot of hope in this story as well. Are there many families that have that many children with half of them being diagnosed with really any severe and persistent mental illness or or even just. This is a a big question that I pursue in the book itself because Linda Lee, one of the researchers who studied this family was actually a collector of genetic material of what she called multi plex families, which is families with more than one perhaps many instances six mental illness, not just among siblings but maybe parents and aunts and uncles and grandparents she made it her job in the nineteen eighties. Nineties was to collect data on as many. Multiplex families as possible. So they're out there but even in that World Galvin families extreme it's it's hard for anyone to think of any other family with twelve children where six of them had this diagnosis

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The Worker Shortage Mystery

The Indicator from Planet Money

05:48 min | 2 months ago

The Worker Shortage Mystery

"It is a tough time to be looking for work. We're hearing stories all over the country dozens and dozens of people competing for a single job opening there just aren't a lot of open positions right now unless you're chat Dolan, we have so many jobs open. You wouldn't believe it chat president of Midwest, staffing in Minneapolis they help companies hire workers. All over Minnesota and Chad says, he has a ton of open jobs. Let's see. So we place welders, we place machine, operation? People General Labor where how shipping and receiving we have an entry level HR role and administrative assistant role I e reading me a list of like what you're currently hiring for. Yes. Just some of the ones were curly hiring for. We have hundreds and hundreds of open job orders right now. Meaning Chad wants to hire hundreds and hundreds of people for full-time jobs with benefits. So Chad has basically the Oprah of jobs out there like you get a job, you get a jog, everybody gets a job except Chad says, he cannot find people to take these jobs. So I have been in this industry for over twenty years. Never in my career have I experienced a situation where we literally have people to work, but they won't go back to work. I mean, we have clients who saved US five people a week. If you can find them for us, we can't find them and when it first started happening chat thought I know what's going on here? What's been challenging for us our our average pay rates it's all about the Benjamins, our average pay rates for candidates. Anywhere from fourteen to eighteen dollars an hour, we weren't able to pay them enough to put them back to work. So Chad, was doing the math back in April when government was paying out in extra six hundred dollars in unemployment as part of the cares act that Congress passed back in March and Chad found was that people could actually make more money off of their unemployment benefits than they would by taking one of his jobs and. It was not just Chad's Math pro-west that led him to the conclusion a situation where I called a candidate up I explained the job to them. It was. It's exactly what they've done in their past and literally laughed at me and hung up the phone they laughed at him. That's crazy. Chad thought as long as those extra benefits earn place getting people to take these jobs is going to be a problem but when that extra. Six hundred dollars went away the end of July Chad's problem didn't. So it was not the six hundred dollars. Chad started thinking about other possibilities like maybe it's the location like maybe there just aren't a lot of people looking for jobs in Minneapolis right now but that doesn't really seem to explain the mystery either because right across town from Chad Keith rose says he's been desperately looking for work. Keep is an audio visual technician he worked. At a company setting up for Conferences Expos back in March he was furloughed for two months and then another two months and another, and since the pandemic started I am over one hundred thirty applications and I've had only eighth interviews since then and I've had no job offers. So every day Keith wakes up and checks his job alerts he sends resumes and meets with his career counselors. He even has a spreadsheet on his computer where he logs. Job He's applied to he says, the competition is overwhelming and he's just not getting many calls back at times. It's kind of a bit of an emotional beatdown I have. Just been fighting this uphill battle and. Constantly getting the form. Thank you for your application, but you're not exactly what we're looking for. At this time, we encourage you to continue to look at our career site for any further opportunities you you might be qualified for Keith's family relies on his income. His wife is high risk for contracting corona virus and cannot go back to work Keith son just graduated from college and is living at home. He says, money is getting tight, but he says that is not the only reason that he wants to go back to work for me workers having the sense of purpose I want to be in a position where I'm making a contribution to something or to someone. That's just the way, I-. hardwired I guess, and that's what I want to be doing. I don't do well sitting down and doing nothing. So on one side of town, you've got demand for Labour you've got Chad sing his all these open jobs that he needs to fill on the other side of town. You've got supply of Labor you've got Keith saying he desperately wants job and he's looking and looking and he can't find one and there are reports of this kind of situation happening all over the country right now. So what is going on? I get this question all the time that tiny shareholder. Senior economist at the economic policy. Institute my first question variety is there like some kind of worker shortage happening the answer to that is just an absolute no. Right now, there are quite literally more than eight million more unemployed people than job openings. So there's an absolute excess of workers who need jobs over and above job openings that are posted. Heidi says if there were an actual worker shortage, we would see wages going up for jobs because when employers truly can't find workers, they start offering more money for those

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Nicole Richie Shares How Her Epic Wellness Ego Nikki Fre$h Was Born

On Air with Ryan Seacrest: The Post Show

05:19 min | 2 months ago

Nicole Richie Shares How Her Epic Wellness Ego Nikki Fre$h Was Born

"All right bringing the legendary. Here Kissifim. We're bringing in legendary Nicole Richie. She's got a new album as her character, Nikki fresh on Qube, and we just missed her birthday. So she just celebrated a birthday to I can hear him the I can hear her can see her there. She is the legendary Nicole Richie, how are you? I'm good. How are you? I'm? Your legendary, you're so legendary. That, I have an on air with Ryan. Actually floating around you have my mug on the Mug I. I've been following along the Ryan is trying to facetime Lionel gag the bit it's been going on and I tried to facetime him about one hundred times and he never picks up the welcome to my life I. Mean Welcome to my life. It's decides that he needs you. It's like it I mean, it doesn't stop. It's like where where are they? What's going on? I'm looking for you and I get so many calls, your your Dad's looking for you Joel Calls Me Your Dad's looking for you I call him back. This is answer he needs to understand that he's putting us in these positions so I tried to facetime to. Show I would face time then I'd send him attacks and I put in headline I said, Lionel I have really big news to share. But it was a little something. Right? It was kind of fun nothing nothing. Like he also operates on different. And I don't live with him. So I don't know what those hours are but it feels like he feels like he operates more in the middle of the night I can possum. Yeah. Hey happy belated birthday what you do to celebrate last week. Thank you so much. I was withdrawal and three of my girlfriends and we just hung out. My friends took me to the bookstore for the first time because I haven't been since quarantine. So that was really fun and just like hung out with the kids and you know it was a very quiet th birthday, which is. What has to be now joe worship you. He knows how lucky he is right I want real. Yeah I mean does she worshiped me I I hope so. And Bow and he's grateful I mean we. We do I'll tell them. Now. We were I was just playing some of this music from your character Nikki fresh, which is hysterical. This is like hit music. This could hit the charts. You can help me with that. I know I'M GONNA play. Right here. Some. Only. Ask. For. Them. Go to your home. took. Attitude there, what is the? Rapping with that attitude. I do a lot of attitude it really comes out when I'm in the studio I, think like I think like ever since I heard Janet Jackson's album in the eighties. I was like I was like I will be in that studio one day and like I've been preparing for this my whole life you know so I was just like ready I had all that built up attitude just ready to like unleash in the studio when you say Janet Jackson I'm just going through like pleasure principle I'm going through all of the songs. Nations and they. Can go on and on. Yeah. So good. So the character Nikki fresh explained to those who Nikki fresh is to you in this qube series. So. Nicky fresh is my alter ego I discovered her in my garden I have been growing and I've been having an edible garden for the past six or seven years and I started putting all of my posting all of my harvests on instagram because that's what Oprah did. So I was like I do also and after my like third like I was like, Oh, it feels like I need a stage name. So I named Myself Nikki fresh. and. You know I thought that it also. Lent itself, lent the name lent itself well to music. But I also really wanted to share with the world and to the masses how like amazing and cool and exciting and spiritual gardening is and so I decided to have Nikki fresh put out a parent trap album. Now, it can't be trap music because I have too much respect for the genre. So I created my own genre which is. Yeah I like that after three likes it's time it's time to really take it to the next one hundred I should have done it after two to be honest. Very Fun though to play that role with that kind of sarcasm, isn't it? It was it was so much fun. It was fun and we got to shoot I did so I did the episodes and then at the end of each episode I, play the song but I also get to do a music video again, bringing it back to Janet the moment rhythm nation came out I was like I cannot wait to star in my own music video so like making six of them was like something I never thought in a million years whatever happened. You gotTA check it out. Be there for it Nikki. Fresh Nicole Richie unearthed the album out now. They keep precious on qube great to see you and hello to the whole family there. Okay. Good to see you Ryan. Thanks for coming on. Thanks for having me Barnacle. Fi.

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Finding Your Authentic Self

Oprah's SuperSoul Conversations

05:20 min | 2 months ago

Finding Your Authentic Self

"This show is going to be so interesting and I'm hoping that it will open you all up in ways that you haven't. For example, how many days have you felt grateful for your nice home and you're healthy children and your caring husband. But you still feel like a piece of the puzzle is missing you feel like there's a hole somewhere and you think to yourself is this all there is it's because you're Hartfield. For something more if you can relate to that, you're not alone because we couldn't believe how many women share this silence struggle. You're probably thinking you're the only one but listen. Dear Oprah I'm happily married woman and mother of two children. I've been blessed with my health and my financial stability I'm looking for ways to satisfy an unsettling feeling. It's like a void in the center of my soul. Why am I here my spirit keeps telling me there's more to this life. There was something tugging inside something. That's me. You have more to do looking for direction in my life a sense of purpose something that defines who I am want something more just don't know how to get there. I have a good life, good family and good friends. But I still feel like something is missing I have tried to find and fill the void with food money. Sex possessions self groups. Still. Have this feeling that there should be something more. Well I know there are millions of people feel that way men and women it's that undefinable something that Sarah Brenick explorers in her book called something more excavating your authentic. So Sarah of course, is also the author of the bestseller simple abundance which inspired us all to start gratitude journals and to begin to cherish the richness in everyday life, and now Sarah says with something more that joy is our birthright. Now, that's hard for you. All to take in that joy is your birthright, but the path to finding it is seldom clear and never easy. Please welcome back here. have been able to do for women in this country is just amazing. I. Am so proud of you. Out of you and this looks something more is exactly what we needed. Let's talk about why. So many people feel this lack this need for something more. Well something more isn't a million dollars in the bank I think it is. A home and architectural digest fame. Or a love affair with a movie star. And that is what we've bought into in this society is going to be the something more of our life. So something more is that thing that? that. Our soul that that small dread in the middle of the night that undefinable thing that especially when we're so grateful for the things that we have made us feel mildly guilty or downright shameful. We should pray about it and that is what? The miracle is because this desire for something more is divine discontent Oh. Fabulous. The way you described that why was this the hardest book you've ever had to write? Because I had to tell the truth. With, might sound might sound strange. The book that has now out is the fourth version two years I throughout three versions almost three hundred pages. Because I was trying to tell these stories with my mind. And I realized that the soul Longs for communion and connection. And I knew what I wanted to say. I. Did not think I had the courage to say it because I was talking about the three. Secret wounds, our souls, and no one else has talked about that. I thought really do I have to. But these have been things I had been wrestling with my whole life because you say you went into the cavity of your soul in sweated it all on the pages. Yeah. That was the only way I could ride it and the three secret. Wounds self-loathing self loathing self-loathing betrayal. Betrayal in the sense of understanding what betrayal is because we only betray our so can't. Betray ourselves. And finally marital indifference. Nobody. Else's talked about that. Not I wasn't quite sure that I had the courage to and then. Finally I thought this book is going to kill me if I don't write it. So. Let's get down there. You Save died twice in your life already died metaphorically I know that but yes. No Brian the Irish writer says, death comes as much as surprise to us as birth does when I. Say that I died one through my health and then when my marriage of two decades ended and each time months later when I regained consciousness I was a different woman I was a a stronger woman more passionate woman a wiser woman but I was so different from who I had been that it was as if my DNA had changed and when I say my DNA what I mean is my destiny, my nature and my aspirations was complete. Transformation

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Interview with Maria Hinojosa

Latino Rebels Radio

06:11 min | 2 months ago

Interview with Maria Hinojosa

"So as you know, Latino rebels is part of Food Doodo Media, which is the nonprofit independent media company founded by Marina Hosa, and if you've been following what Matia has been sharing the last couple of weeks, she has a new book. It's called once I was you it to memoir and I've seen Muddy A- work on the book talk about the book worry about the book. Love, the book hate the book. To seeing her the whole creative process. and. Now, the book is out and everyone loves the book and she's been on every other podcast. Since we worked together I I said, you need to be back on Latino rebels radio. Not. Only because. You know we work at full Doodo media. OR WE CO host an in the thick podcast. But. Because we're friends and we're family so. Here's money a wholesale on Latino rebels radio talking about. Book. Once I. was you. Maria. This is the fifth fourth or fifth time I've had you on some form of Latino rebels whether it's radio or streaming. So. You're quickly becoming quickly becoming enough Latino rebel. He knew I knew I. Knew About Latino rebels before I knew about you know crazy. No but listen I, know it's been. It's been such a historic week for you. With the book launch, and then you're on Lulu Garcia now audio and we're doing it in the thick, and then the Lou Garcia now laterals interview shows up on Latino USA and you're doing all this promotion. AT OPRAH DOT COM YEAH OPRAH DOT com, and then you got these amazing reviews and and it's I'm an you know you're like. It's crazy what's happening but I wanted to just have a conversation you and I with no like the book will come out of this conversation but I'm not going to be like Maria tell me about your book you know what I mean. Like I, want I want us to be like just you and me. TO GIVE PEOPLE SORT OF A. I don't know like a feel of what we do behind the scenes a little bit I mean there's a little bit of crazy that has to happen when you're like I'm in a launch, my own company or I'm GonNa Launch, you know something like letting rebels and I'm just going to do it and I'm Elliot died. So there's a of you know. For one way or another for one reason or another jumping off a cliff and just being like but we got this in one and so I feel like food thorough and Latino rebels and everything that you know in the fake and everything that has come as a result is really because we have nothing to lose Indian this you know that we had. People are like what am I ain't got none your so it's like I. Mean I have a lot but I'm just saying like A. doodle I didn't have. My own company and I was like. How scary was that house like we've talked about this but how scary was that moment for you because you talk about it in the book but you. Know I talk about it in the book because there's it's a very important moment because what you gotta get the book to really get all the juicy details but they. Don't reveal too much. Basically I'm told by a very important network show. That that I should like, take a hike and comeback. When some of the white guys had died and I was an I get into the subway and I'm crying Hulu I'm crying in the subway I'm alone I think that there's a real understanding of you know. We are psychic psychically and in many ways tied to our family but we're also very deeply existential. Alone I'm sorry. I go there. You know it's just like we stomas Finale Quintas sister solo or in says, I got home I called my sister and I said Britain. I said, I cannot go on unemployment. I've never gone on unemployment and I don't have a job. And very immigrant t very Mexican. The I was like I can't. I cannot tell my father that I went on unemployment and so people. Who See your brightness your star, your shot they see it from afar. You have a hard time seeing it yourself. You know this often happens to us and people had said why don't you do your own thing deepa Sunday that you're of our board was like do your own thing I was like this look what are you talking about? What my own thing and at that point you know somebody else had said I'll help you and so then I just said. All right. Well, let's do this and we had no assurance. We had no funding. We had nothing we drew up some paperwork. and. You start it in your in your in your apartment in my apartment. In Harley, actually I ended up I. my first office was exactly in the area of the apartment where I ended up finishing writing the book because we had to rearrange the apartment. You know we live in New York we don't. We don't have like a huge apartment so. GotTa move some things are actually the altar had to be moved the friend had. And the kids were still I mean, your kids were still kids I. Mean I know they're older now but you're talking we're talking ten years ago. Yeah yeah, Yeah Yeah they earn motherhood you were in the well, you know we'll. Yes. Although I think that's an ongoing conversation honestly, and the book is in inspiring these conversations in my own family, right? which is so where was mom? Where was she was she here where she present? Did she feel present? Did she give us what we need? So those are ongoing conversations especially because right now while I'm getting a lot of attention for the book this time also when I have to be giving attention to my family, there's always that balance and I think that's part of what the message of the book is. Is a psycho Saddiqi. Oh, you have it all you can have many things, but you're going to have to work at them and it's going to mean sacrifice and risk anyway to answer your question will you he was a very scary time I was so scared, I had no idea what to expect.

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

04:26 min | 2 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Was always happy. Can you see how that might be influencing? Why was so important for you to go because it had been one of the happiest memories of her life. So understanding that now we can see that it wasn't as much control as concern. I want you to have a good time. This is the happiest time of my life. It was a mistake or a misunderstanding perfect code. Going on there. Yeah. You're right. It is. It's totally different changer way you feel about that now that promise experience that's exactly what we're trying to do here. Vital step is reconnecting with your family marked asked Neil joy and Shirley. For them to get along. Do you blame yourself for the distance between you and your children. Of course, I have to assume some responsibility in that. My kids think that I that I always have to be right. Joy especially and I. I don't know how to make. Make it any different To Change. Are you able to express your needs? Another No. Because she doesn't get it. Get it I and I and I don't have the tools or I'm not there are. I can't make her get it. What would you most want to happen? Acceptance would be nice. Just to accept who I am. What would you want from? Understanding. Openness. That they could accept me for who I am. They. Can See as the person Shirley not just mom. Yeah Well, unlike what see I wanted to be proud of me a woman. Know new. Book you said. Code One of the questions, how do you feel when you walk down the street with your mother and your siblings and and I guess that really ring a bell because. I, have a feeling that they'd like me to walk ten paces behind him. That's part right there. Because we love him. I. Hurt. I want to hear what you have to say, what were you saying? I would like her to be right there with with us how we are and be proud of us. Like we are of her that she would accept us and walk with us and not be embarrassed of us and not try to. Change US and and and just accept us. For who we are And how in how we are running our own life? May Be good or bad, and let us make our mistakes but still be there and support us when we make. But when having I supported. Can you tell me anytime that I haven't? You've always been there. Yes. Trying to fix us. Yeah, it's. They feel like they're not good enough I know I know not just being who they are because they feel like everything you do and say to them. Thanks to radio like it makes them feel like you want them to be or do differently than they are better. Did you better do better? which is it's. If you look at it. It's good but you really have to dig down deep. Every human being you what you're saying is no different than everybody everybody mouth. Is Looking. To value in their life. You know. Everybody is just looking to say why can't you love me for who went for WHO I am? Isn't that what everybody is looking for that? Exactly what we're doing here okay. 'cause I think it's a really loving act to be here. You wouldn't be tears everybody if you didn't love each other and we're going to keep working. Always show the. Chairman. Thank you so much. Thank you for your stores. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey show the podcast. If you haven't yet go to apple podcasts and subscribe rate and review this podcast join me next week for another Oprah show the podcast. Thank you for listening Okay. So works done and your cravings, something spicy and salty I know. What idea snack on blue diamond was savvy and soy sauce flavored almonds they're so good and almonds are a superfood. Don't deny your cravings eat them. Blue diamond almonds crave victoriously..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

02:00 min | 6 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Because. You saw yourself being stuck where Joanna's. And neglected them. And they've been hurt by it so important that you know it's not selfish to say what you just said to say I have to take care of me because you're here and you're living, and you have to take care of you. You have to take care of you, and that is not a betrayal of your father's memories, not betrayal of those that we've lost. Cindy what is you want to say because I know you're shocked as me to hear that. Had No idea. Clare, we can get on. You know very my sister letter live in our heart. We can get on with our lives, you know. I'm glad to have my mom bat. Well? Thank you for being here. Thank you, thank you again. Thank you Dr Phil. She's been. She's been holding on to it for ten years and was ready to let go was ready to go. And what is the number? One thing you can say to somebody who is I? I love what you said to her. I think for me. That's the number one thing about living the. The life, celebrating the life, instead of living, continuing because I saw that was a breakthrough for you. What do you want to say? We just don't get to make those choices. And sometimes we second guess, but you can't second. Guess you have to deal with what you have, and that's your life now. There's not a thing in the world. I could do here for Lord. Except give her her mother's peace. And that's what you have to do is take care of you. Because you're here now. That is not selfish to take care of you. Thanks, everybody see you next time with Dr Phil Tell it like it is Phil thank you. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey show the podcast. If you haven't yet go to apple podcasts and subscribe rate and review this podcast, join me next week for another Oprah show the podcast. I, thank you for listening..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

08:35 min | 6 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Ten years ago Cindy lost her sister, Laurie but she says she also lost her mother to. Over the years I've done many shows with parents of murdered children and parents who've lost their children, and never knew what happened to their children, no bodies, no person ever was claimed or or discovered and you Joanne expressed what all of those parents have at some point or another express to me over the years is they want everyone to know that? Their children had a life, and that the life was important and not the death. Because what happens when you have a child who's murdered, this way is everybody focuses on the death. Everybody focuses on who did it or who didn't do it, and who committed the crime and the life is lost so. You have an opportunity to say something today about the kind of person your daughter was. Her life, not her death, but her life. She was very happy person. She enjoyed everything she did. She liked everybody she met. She was beautiful. She made me pray out. I really couldn't believe that I had a child like this. I've been buried like with the two children I have. And they make me so proud as mother. She didn't deserve this. She deserved a lot more. A lot more. So now you're stuck ten years. You have not been able to move on, and you have watched into your mother. Not Be able to move on. What do you want to say? Well, I just want to tell her that I need you I, need you? There is a parent a friend. When we lost Laurie you daughter Alice Desisto. And it was really hard. To find someone to understand pain was filling because Obviously, you took be there at that time for me. With her case there were details that you and dad with health for me and I feel like there are people out there. Were you know more about the case than I do? and. Course when I was a newlywed, we were having problems and. I didn't feel like a come. Come to you and share that with you. I had to go in front of you. Know Groups, fashion and. Lay everything out there and. Try to get some feedback on it so I could get on with my life and deal with it and I just from other back, I do. They're look. I need you back to back and I need to back as my parents and that's my friend. I'm so sorry. For. To to be able to share your pain and your feelings with her and your joys, and your things to have your mother back as a partner again, yes, it would be wonderful It'd be a new beginning. We could get, and we can move forward. You know we could deal with new pains. New Joyce, you know and. I'm. No and We caught a lot of rest in Peace Now. I really do. AM So sorry are really ender the sorry. Let me ask you both something. And I'll address this to you because Cindy I think you've moved on. I, think you feel like you have some closure. You haven't forgotten your sister, have you? Ever any less. Every day. You think about every day, but you're not obsessed with it. And you feel that you are. Okay. I ask you if you could accept some things and another thing I want to know if you can accept. And this is so hard people to think about. But can you accept the fact? That the length and depth of your grieving. Does not reflect the length and depth of your life. You can love somebody this much. And if you if you if you agree for a year, that doesn't mean that you only loved them that much. It's not something that you. Oh, it's not something that you give how long you grieve. Is. Not a reflection of how much you loved the person that you lost. That sounds foreign to you, doesn't it? because. You walk around, you say. How can I be laughing today? And my daughter is dead, and I'm laughing at Disneyworld or I'm laughing at a TV show and my daughter is dead. How can I do that? You ask those questions yourself, don't you? But I'm asking you now. Can you at least entertain the fact that how long you grieve is not a reflection of how deeply you loved your daughter. I believe I. Do can you accept that if you get closure on this? If you say I'm not going to be obsessed with this anymore that you are not betraying your daughter. Yes! I think I can. That's a hard one, isn't it? But I'm asking you. Can you do that? Yes, sir, I think I can if she could talk to you right now. Do, you think she would say mother. I want you to hurt every day for the rest of your life to prove that you left me. No, you think that's what she would say to invade very angry, it may. So. It wouldn't be a betrayal. Maybe the betrayal is focusing on the day of her. Dan Rather than celebrating the event of her life, she lived for eighteen vibrant and wonderful years. and. You focus on the day that she died. I never thought of it that way. I really never thought of it that way. Well maybe it's time to say. I'm GONNA do that. Maybe it's time to say I'm going to focus on her life and celebrate what I had rather than what? lost. You suppose that's a possibility. That would be nice. It'd be very nice. But it means you have to let her go. You have to give her to God and say I'm Gonna I'm this is your job? Man I'll never forget. I'll never stop loving. You'll never stopped being part of my life. But. It's time that I move von. With your sister and with my life. Take you with me and my heart. But. I'm not going to be obsessed with this anymore. Like to work towards that really would. Like to be able to do that? I could see that. That was a light bulb moment for you. When that was because you who said earlier in the show today you can't even bear to smile. You smiled when Phil said that where the order and you're smiling now. The idea. Of celebrating her life living in holding onto the moment of her death. Really, never thought about it I just never thought about it that way never. Okay? Were you take one more step with me. I mean one more, really big big step. Because what I want you to do right now is I. Want you to make a decision? That says I've got to get up tomorrow. and not be consumed with what I'm doing I've gotta get up tomorrow and have different life I've got to get up and not spend all of my waking hours thinking about my daughter thinking about my loss. And I've been here before and I'm telling you to do that. You have to willing to give it up now. You have to be willing. To say in your heart to, Laurie. I've gotTA. Let you go. I've got to say goodbye I've got to let you go. Because you, you said yourself be really mad at me. She must be really mad at me because we can hold people to an earthly bond, that way can't wait. I believe so. Really Day. Turn your chair and face me. Real close. I want to ask you. Is it time to say by the Laurie. Yes

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

07:43 min | 6 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Moments the breakthroughs, the connections, the occasional ugly cry. So terribly missing every single minute to L. O. ELL's. The moments that matter. I opening light lessons never allow them to take some works. I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the vault. I've personally chosen these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person you ever will meet shares that common desire they WANNA know. Do you see me? Do you hear me? That's what I say. Mean anything to you. You're listening to the Oprah Winfrey show the podcast. Joanne competence greatest wish is to tell the world. What happened to her beloved daughter Lori. She says my goal for the year two thousand is to tell my daughter story on your show, and then to let that go and get on with my life. Just thinking of her name or thanking her it brings a smile, Emma Hart, Lori and Powell was having the time of her life. She was eighteen, vibrant and popular. She loved her rock and Roll Music, and the Glamour of entering local beauty heartens. then. The mother's unspeakable nightmare happen. Laurie disappeared on a lonely country road and Joanne. comptons torment began. Police found her body in a nearby river. She'd been stabbed to death. Investigations led nowhere, and Laurie's murder remains unsolved when they found Lori and she didn't have anything on her. Just a little steadier rain. No Clothes No pocket. No check. In the ten years since Lori disappeared daily, life has stood still for Joann. Our never be able to come to terms with the US to me. Lori Dad today just as easy as she died ten years ago in one bedroom. She keeps a collection of mementos. Her dolls that she collected. I care for dress from her. Pageants she used to like to be him. Time has not healed Joanne Compton each day. She says the loss feels like a whole that gets deeper. I keep worry ends memory law of all the time in my heart. That Dayton's part of me I don't want anyone else touch. I keep for all live. In my thoughts. Just. Thinking backs I'll. Lorries buried in a cemetery near the family home. Her mother though. Still is waiting for some kind of peace. Joanne row to Dr Phil and She wants to end her. With this tragedy she knows that she is obsessed. And she wrote to Dr Phil McGraw Asking for help. Fill is here with a plan to help Joanne. Move On. This is a show for anyone dealing with the tragedy. Perhaps maybe you will hear something today. That will be a spark a piece of light to open a door that has gotten you stuck. He is a psychologist and he's alive strategist. Non This letter? You say Joanne ten years ago. Ago My daughter Laurean was murdered since that day. I've not been able to let go. It has never been solved and after all this time I don't guess it will be since then I've spent hours and days looking for answers writing to anyone that might help I have a need in me to tell her story not in a small way, but in a big way. This need is driving me crazy. It's all I think about every day. I believe that because of this need. It's making me sick within. I've had to have heart surgery and have develop stomach ulcers. The stomach pain is unbearable at times, but not as unbearable as Laurie's debt. What is it you want to say about your daughter? That Laurean was a person. That should deserve to live. that. She didn't deserve to be thrown away like a back. They throw away in the river like a trainer. And she didn't deserve that. Misery so much just aches and sites. And I wanted somebody I just. Wanted to go to tallest mountain top and scream and let people know the pain. The pain that will never go away because of this. You want it to go away. I mean, do you really? Want to be real honest with you here. This is by far. The hardest show I've done, and maybe the hardest show ever did. because. When. You lose a child. I can only imagine. What it means to you I'll never tell you. I know how you feel because I haven't lost a child. I got J. and Jordan at home in in J. The age Lori was when you lost her. I understand that. But I won't tell you know how you feel, but I wanNA know. Do you WANNA move on? Doesn't matter if I want to. Or of Oprah wants to or somebody at your church tells you you need to. Do. You want to move I day, but you've got a pain in your heart. And, that's frustrating as well. In all the time that you've been through this, you've wanted to tell this story and tell what it's done to you and to your family and to your daughter. And you know right now today as you sit here. The, the the animal or animals that did this to your daughter may be watching you right now. And, if you want him to know the pain in your heart, and you say it right now. You. Tell you tell right now what it's done to you and your heart. Because if you're going to leave that aim behind ever you say in this letter, you've got to say it. So you say it right now. What did it do to you when they took your little girl away from? It into my life. I no longer wanted to do anything I. Don't want to feel joy or happiness. I don't want us to smile. They destroyed me. Well, what can think of is? Still hearing. She never even got a chance. They, cheated me on my grandchildren. A cheat me out of the time. I would have had with her as a mother daughter. The Times I would have been able to experience things Western that a mother and daughter experience. Share. They're watching right now. What do you say to? The people that took your. I know this is a terrible thing to say. I have tried my heart. Really habte forgive. You For like. Every day. For me..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

10:13 min | 6 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"You understand what I mean. That's true what we've started to do is blame people that have loved enough. You've been kind enough patient today. Who was dying and she said my imagery failed. I didn't get able to think of the sharks that I said you did. Well people die appreciate life. Life is random. You don't deserve this dog gonnit. We'd do our best after all. That's what super joy is super toys. Doing you're making a choice to live. Joyful to what you're saying super joy there are some people who take that illness and get to be better people as a result of that illness and therefore that illness served a great purpose in their life because it made them love themselves and love. Everybody else you know when they made a choice to use it. There's a woman on the concentration camp if they're not gonNA hold me well. It's not just that they're using that illness you'd find those same people. Whatever happens to them they figure out how to put it to work for them and for those who are around them rather than feel like something happened to them because of it. Don't you think that I don't know if all if you believe in God but that the grace of God or the love of God is constant? We agree with that the love of God us concert so if the love of God is constant. Doesn't that mean that God is not here to destroy to punish the calls? You to struggle. Do you agree with that? I agree with that. I agree with that. I remember the statement from the one I mentioned in the concentration camp she said. This ain't God's camp right. God didn't do this but I have a control over this. I can use God's love to survive the system all right so does that mean that people then block themselves from the grace or the love. Yes I think so is there a perception of God's love that makes the difference here you know when you were talking about loving each other? You're talking about family and people close to you and your patience and you know there's a camaraderie there. But how do you keep loving and sharing and trying to be fair with people when people use that and basically? I see people you know the older I get. I think people are reading I do. That's what the argument was. Maybe we all three can come in some really behave in very inappropriate means angry destructive ways. I don't want to give this idea that we're looking at the world through rose colored glasses and distorting that that's not what the joy response is. The joint responses is biochemical for reflects happens on the body. When you don't allow that negative to affect you because you make a choice. This person cut me out and traffic. You can follow them for four miles chase them yell at them scream at them make vulgar gestures. Who you're hurting is you. That doesn't bother them. They do this all the time. They have other problems. I know what she's saying. What she's saying you give yourself to somebody that you share yourself. You have to be and then they take advantage of you because those people mistake your kindness for weakness and they think you're stupid but that's who you are when I give of myself when I give it to someone. I don't give expecting them to respond the way I want them to. That is not what life is about giving loving I speak of is extending yourself unconditionally. For the benefit of another human being who ever that human being is wherever however they wish to to use yourself doesn't matter what they do absolute. I'm giving because it makes me feel good to give well in addition to that delimit new. Stick something in here. There's an assumption that giving is always one on one in fact the giving needs to be to the entire outfit. We are always putting back in the pot. That's sometimes what is given to us goes back in the pot to someone who's not gonNA give directly back to us but there's a sense of contributing to the well being of the group appointed hasn't been brought up here too is when that happens. Sometimes if I may share this with you if you give into those people they're not you need to clean house. There are times in your life when the best things I've done is clean house and you eliminate the people in your life who are not moving in the same direction and are not feeding you what you need. I mean that's one of the greatest gifts hard enough to fix that up. I see a lot of people abort very quickly some people give up too soon. You WanNA clean house until it's really really. I mean but you clean clean after you realize that these people are bringing me down and I've done everything I can. I've given of myself but this person isn't going to help my life. You see what I'm saying. What I'm concerned about is a researcher. Purely though Oprah is that understand something I think. The three of us are trying to say by acting lovingly. This is not just some kind of romantic hogwash. And it's not just positive thinking and looking at communicating. Or I love you. You're my one and only deepest ocean. It's acts that show caring for the system as you said it's giving back to the system however what does that mean giving what. I do positively. It may not be aimed at that one man that day but it goes into the pot. We are all connected. We're all related. One person in this audience today is touched by this. That matters a great deal. It doesn't matter. One woman may give me a dirty look and then. I'm going to clean house. I'll never sit in front of you again. You understand the number one thing you can do for your own. Immune system is to do something altruistic to help you. Don't believe me after the Oprah show is over go out traffic fine traffic and wave people and give them a break. You'll feel really good now. If you're going to tell me didn't even thank me the fool..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

11:47 min | 7 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Half months of his life. Right up to the day died. Were you scared at first because when you know someone's dying there's always that moment of even like when I was walking into Elizabeth Towels. But she's pretty darn feisty. Still there's the expectation of what am I going to say? And how am I going to say it and that whole kind of death shroud? Yeah Yeah I was but more. He had this great attitude about dying. He looked at it as a great opportunity to teach about the one subject that nobody really knows anything about until they get there so he was already in that mode of wanting to share the whole dying experience. And what it meant as to how you should live. So he made me feel like a student. The minute I sat back down again he started lecturing me. And you should know this and that and you talked about the world at first and then you talked about. I mean you. Divide the chapters into the various Tuesday. When I decided that we would do. This book together broke each Tuesday down to sort of one subject that Lexus people in life marriage and family are getting older. How much you should work. Now is a big one for me and Greed forgiveness forgiving people. And each week. We would just sort of talk because you know people always say how would I live my life? I knew I had six months left to live. Would I change? Well here was a guy who was exactly that situation at the time you were. Kinda pretty obsessed with your working life. I worked about seventeen eighteen hours a day and I think I thought that achievement maybe the more cheese the less likely I would be to die. Do so much too busy today or too important to die and you got things to do. Yeah I can't. I have a plan appointments tomorrow well more. He taught me that. You know all the all the hours of work that you do are not gonna come back to you when you really need them. The most all the buildings you want to name after yourself or the stock portfolios you WanNa build not GonNa Comfort you. The way that his friends his old students as family comforted him. So what you should be spending your time on is making those relationships with people and establishing yourself in their lives and I had a lot to learn from him still do more gift to Mitch into. All of us was his ability to step back and look at dying as a chance to teach. He was one of the great teachers before he died. He gave an interview to a public television station. He said the culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves and you have to be strong enough to say if the culture doesn't work. Don't buy it exactly. He never followed the norm. Even when it came to funerals and dying. He went to a funeral when he was sick. And it came back. They said this is a shame. This guy never got to hear all these nice things that people said I wanNA have my now. And that's what he did. He organize the funeral where he invited his closest friends and family to come and they all stood up and said what he had meant to them but at the end deceased rose and thanked the people backing him a much. Better Way to do it than to to wait till we're gone or he says it's natural to die the fact that we make such a big hullabaloo over it is all because we don't see ourselves as a part of nature conversation. He had a great story about. He loved to tell stories and he said there's this heat wave in the she wave out in the ocean. He waves flopping around having a great time and all of a sudden he sees the shore. Realizes it's GonNa hit the shore that's going to be. The end starts to panic. Wave comes along and says what's the matter he wipes says US terrible. We got a couple more flips. And we're OUTTA here. We never exist. It's terrible and she says you don't understand you're not a wave your part of the ocean. And that's the way that he sort of looked as life and death is sort of being part of this whole big continuous. He says. Here's the payoff. Here's how we're different. I love that story from these wonderful plants and animals as long as we can love each other and remember the feeling of love we had. We can die without ever really going away. Yeah all the love you created is still there all the memories are still there you live on in the hearts of everyone you have touched and nurtured while you were here death into life not a relationship you know most shell love that. Did a little hairs rise on your head just now it. Just God goosebumps the most. Poignant thing that I remember more telling me was just a couple of weeks. Before he died he asked me to come visit him at his grave and he said I wanted to come come on Tuesdays. You're already coming on Tuesdays role at around and come sit and talk to me. Tell me about your problems. I said you want me to tell you about my problems sitting at your grave. He said Yeah I said well you know it's not going to be the same. You can't talk back and he laughed and he said well tell you what. After I'm dead you talk. I'll listen and he wasn't just being cute. I think what he meant by that was what you said in there that if you spend your life here investing in People Making Memories Having good time with them and sharing yourself then you never really do go away. I mean you're not physically here but you know you're here you're up here and I can have conversations with Morrie even now before I came on this show. I said well. What do you think of this? Now's Oprah program you know and it's because we spend that quality time together but if you spend your time working and he's trying to make you don't make those memories you don't live on inside somebody after you're gone that's why. I love this little book so might And people always tell me after Tuesday's with Morrie they say es reminds me of my old English teacher such as art teacher and then the next line is always. I wonder what happened to him and I say go back and find him because teachers affect eternity. They touch you. They touch me. I'm talking to you. We're talking all these people. They are so valuable and so on rewarded in the society. Change your relationship with your brother did it. Not My brother is sick also like more. He has cancer only unlike Maury. He didn't invite everybody to spend time with them. He kind of straight armed all of us. He lives overseas very frustrating. Because I love him and I want to spend time with them and this experience with more here was more invited me in every Tuesday and I can't see my brother. Maury said you have to understand that everybody has different ways of dealing with problems like this if you really love them you make room for the way that they wanNA deal with it. Well and that's how you show affection. This has helped a lot my brother I dedicated the book to my brother and he read it and he start crying halfway through it and then he said I'll read the rest of it when I got home so It's helped a lot more would've loved meeting you and talking to you. I read the book. You only saw one oprah show. Let's one more than one more than he watched everybody else. Tom and his children ZAC and Kate. Tom Lost his beloved wife. Kathleen from lung cancer before she died. Kathleen tried to pack a lifetime experiences into one short year. Tom Says she died peacefully. After passing along some valuable lesson she wanted to have a good debt. Correct immediately after the unconceivable news diagnosis. We went into action. In the way in which we coped with all other traumas before that which was optimism and hope and focus on overcoming somewhat insurmountable odds. And that's the sort of energy we brought to dealing with initially but it turns out that that energy sort of stiff arms as you said stiff arms. What is really going on? Which is the fears of the unimaginable? And once we understood that that's really what we needed to embrace. We got help professional help support at the cancer wellness center. Well we came to understand. Is that instead of coping with the fears? We had to wade into them. We had to face them and once we were able to learn how to do that we became free of them had been having conversations that were indescribable But we had them. The four of us The kids and Kathleen. I talked about funerals. Well you guys told in the beginning. How soon were you told that your mom had lung cancer? Yeah the day the day. Yeah they were in on it from the very beginning and because we were able to open it up to the unimaginable fears. They didn't drive us any longer. They didn't control us and we became free of fear and allowed us to be open to living in the moment. That was our secret to living in. The moment is facing our fears and getting rid of them and once we did. It became his fantastic cycle because it opened us up to pleasure and joy and love in ways that the four of us had never known and it radiated among our family. Our Friends. Our community feeling really. So could you have letters that your mom role? Yeah I received this about. I don't know week after my mom died and this is just a little part of it. Thirteen year old. Boys don't need their moms too much but they definitely need them from time to time. I so desperately desperately wish I could be there for you in body not just in spirit. Fortunately for me I won't have to bear. The indignity of ever losing tickle torture to you which no doubt would have happened in the near future more seriously though with when I while I think about your life without me while it brings me said Nece it also brings me pride you have developed such tremendous qualities in your brief life on earth. That I- enormous. I'm enormously gratified I imagine you navigating your way even without me Kate your say in your heart and hold me there in a way that gives you comfort help or support if you do. I will never ever leave you. I suspect I may even be able to help you during difficult times. If you just happened to me I will. I will be inside. You leaving you loving you and caring about you every single minute of every single day for as long as you live. That's about it because I know what a tremendous grow you are. I'm confident in the kind of wonderful woman. You will become with this knowledge. I've grown to actually be able to face death with the centerpiece. You've helped me get there because I know y'all be members of that time we went to Palm Springs for a family vacation and she was in bed but I came home after swimming and she said can you give me a bowl of cheerios and Asher. So I remember that. A Bola cheerios everything. She got up at two o'clock in the morning. One downstairs eight and about a week before she died before she went into the hospital. I was in their room and sleeping and she said mom we wake me up. If you go downstairs eatable cereal. She said yes. So two o'clock in the morning we both went down and that is really chilling. Cherry amazing amazing. I want to thank everybody especially we wanNA think kate and Zach for sharing. Those letters were with us. I think we're all better people for having heard thank you Tom. Thank you. Bye rybody bye. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the PODCAST. If you haven't yet go to apple podcast subscribe rate and review this. Podcast join me next week. For another Oprah show the podcast. I thank you for listening..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

10:19 min | 8 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"After several days of bloodshed. The freedom writers were stranded in Alabama. No bus drivers were willing to take them any further and they were surrounded by hostile racist mob. Freedom Rides were over southern White supremacists thought they had one but they did not know about an utterly fearless. Young woman named Diane Nash. A softspoken force to be reckoned with. She was Diane. Nash was a leader of the Nashville student movement. In nineteen sixty one. She turned twenty three on the very day. The freedom rides were cancelled but Diane was not willing to give up. And so that same day. She agreed to coordinate. A second wave of freedom ride keeping the movement alive in the middle of final exams. Twenty-one students from various Nashville colleges left school to join the fight for equality when US attorney. General Robert Kennedy heard that more students were continuing the freedom rides. He called his assistant John. Seigenthaler welcome Diane. Nash and John Seigenthaler Bravo Bravo. George just had enough. Yes you had had enough. Segregation was so humiliating. If you went downtown in Nashville. During the lunch hour blacks would be sitting on the curb eating their lunch that they had brought from home or dropped from a restaurant on a takeout basis. And it was. It was humiliating and I hated it. The students that Diane Organiz Miss Nash organized eventually made it to Montgomery Alabama. Were clansman had been waiting for them all night. A full scale riot then broke out. John Seigenthaler was there. John You were there representing the attorney. General Robert Journal in the United States. Didn't want this to happen. Not Want it. I mean the last thing administration needed wasn't explosion conflagration of violence. And so you end up in the middle of the riot. I wound up in the middle of Violent Ryan. I was hitting Ed. I'd never been knocked unconscious before. And then they not me down and kicked me on to the car and I woke up thirty minutes later. Policemen finding pick me up. It's almost impossible to imagine that we were that sort of southern society at the time that that fifty years ago. Oh and and when you when you think about that you wonder where it came from. Where the courage of these children came from. Yes every time. I complied with the Segregation Stein. When used a back door or something I felt like I'm agree that I am inferior to inferior to use The ordinary facility that the general public used and it was a real problem for me. I'm glad it was a problem. I'm glad it was a problem. You did something about it. Thank you MS nationalist. Battle on Day twenty one. The National Guard escorted the freedom riders out of Alabama. But there were no feelings of relief as they crossed the border into Mississippi Mississippi was the state they feared the most when the freedom riders walked into the white only waiting room in the Jackson Mississippi bus terminal they were immediately arrested and eventually sent to Parchman penitentiary. Those arrests inspired hundreds more to become freedom. Riders they came by bus plane train from every corner of the United States to Mississippi men and women of every age every race and religion determined to fill parchman prison an overthrow segregation ernest. Rip Patent Junior Carol. Ruth Silver and congressman. John Lewis were among the three hundred freedom. Riders who spent the summer of nineteen sixty one in parchment prison congressman. Lewis when you arrived in Mississippi and knowing as I said earlier I grew up knowing. It's one of the most racist states. Did you know you're in trouble? I grew up in Alabama thought Alabama was beheaded but I had never been in Mississippi before when I saw that sign that said welcome to Mississippi. The might know your state heart start beating a little faster seem the air warmer. I hear that they tried to make your prison sitting especially miserable rip. Yes it did We we did a lot of singing and they didn't like to sing and every time that they would threaten to do something. We would seem for example. We're GONNA take your mattress you can take. How Mattress Oh yes. You can take our mattress or yes. You can take out mattress. You can take mattress. You can take out mattress. Oh yes now that man sleeping on steel but we were willing to give up those mattresses. So were you. Also you were also in parchment prison right. There were twenty three girls say girls. 'cause we were pretty young in one side were you. At the time I was twenty one. Twenty One and those twenty three girls were in a cell in Heinz County. That was built for four. So there were four bunks and the rest of US slept on the floor and we were told they're going to take you to parchment and we were really afraid at that point because the the reputation of Parchman is that it's a place that a lot of people get sent and don't come back. I'm back from some back. Wow on September twenty second nineteen sixty one. The Interstate Commerce Commission issued an order taking down all of the Jim Crow signs from all of the bus and rail stations. In the south the freedom writers had one fifty years after the original movement. Forty college students are now retracing the route of the freedom rides from Washington DC to New Orleans they are riding alongside some of the original freedom. Writers I'm getting on the best because I believe that knowledge is power on the bus because the movement is not finish. I'm really interested in. Is what inspires ordinary people to stand up for justice and how young people can get involved in sustaining a movement around the world. That's what's Great. Congratulations to William to to Michael Tanya and Caitlyn who was selected out of one thousand students to join the rides. Thank you for being here. I wanted to do this show today. I think it's so important for all Americans to know who we are where we came from how we came to be you. You have to know who you are and what your history is Ray. Arsenault is the first professional historian to write a comprehensive book on just this movement it's called Freedom Writers and beautifully written historical account. You're gifted storyteller. Because this is all about every story each individual's story here. Why did you want to tell this and these stories? Well as we've seen today this is a story that had to be told When I began work on the book about thirteen years ago I wasn't sure that anybody could do full justice to the to the freedom writers story but I had to try and the just the dramatic power of what they accomplished back in. Nineteen sixty one. Everybody who dared to get on those buses is a hero and a heroine. That's really the story of the Freedom Rides to me. They had the courage inside themselves. It was. They found something larger than themselves and they signed on for life. I mean they weren't. They weren't going to pass their responsibility off to to anyone else. It's always the young people thank you. I would like to give special acknowledgment to five of the visionaries who helped inspire and plan the freedom rides. George Houser Gordon. Carry Tom. Gaither and Reverend James Lawson and C T Vivian. Also reverend thread shuttles were critical role in protecting the freedom riders. It has really been an honor for me and I know for those of you who were part of this audience and those of you at home to celebrate all of you on behalf of all of America. May I say you make us proud to call ourselves? Americans they may also say we stand in reverence for what you have done and we can ask ourselves these questions as we look at the courage that you will showed at such a young age. What's wrong with the world? And what can we do to change it? Thank you thank you for that. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the PODCAST. If you haven't yet go to apple podcast subscribe rate and review this. Podcast join me next week. For another Oprah show the podcast. I thank you for listening..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

04:56 min | 8 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Every single person ever will meet shares that common desire. They WANNA know. Do you see me. Do you hear me. That's what I say mean anything to you. Twenty Five seasons four thousand five hundred sixty one episodes. I believe the Oprah Winfrey show was one of the greatest classrooms in the world. A rolling never thought of it that way. The AHA moments the breakthroughs. The connections the occasional ugly cry so terribly missing every single minute the L. O. Ell's the moments that mattered eye-opening light lessons. Never allow them to take you somewhere. I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the ball. I personally chosen these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person you ever will meet shares that common desire. They want to know. Do you see me. Do you hear me. That's what I say mean anything to you. You're listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the podcast for many of you watching. I know that this may be the first time you're even hearing about the freedom rides but let me tell you if it were not for these American heroes. This country would be a very different place right now and the lies of millions of you would be dramatically different. I know my life would be were it not for them. We begin with a look back at what life was like back in nineteen sixty one when the freedom writers movement was born in Nineteen Sixty one. John F. Kennedy was sworn in as America's thirty fifth president at just forty three. He was the youngest president elected to office. The camelot era was for many. A time of hope and optimism. Gas was just thirty one cents a gallon at many family saw the USA in their Chevrolet that same year the United States put our first man into space popular. Tv shows like leave it to beaver. And the Andy Griffith show depicted an idyllic all American life but those images were far from the reality for many African Americans especially the deep South. Jim Crow laws forced black people to use separate. Water fountains separate public restrooms and waiting rooms even on buses and trains. We had to sit in the back in Nineteen forty-six and again in nineteen sixty the. Us Supreme Court outlawed these racist practices but many white southerners continue to follow their own. Set of rules during those hate-filled terrifying times in the south and other parts of the country a fearless and determined group of Americans men and women black and white many of them still in college at the time. Join together to fight against racial injustice in our country it was dangerous and daring some even considered it a suicide mission. Thirteen courageous freedom. Riders would risk their lives to board buses in Washington. Dc and head south into the belly of the segregation beast. The plan was to buy tickets on interstate buses for a two week journey. That would end in New Orleans along the way the writers with Test Federal Laws that prohibited segregation by riding in the front of buses and sitting in waiting rooms designated whites only and colored. The movement was organized by core the Congress of racial equality core trained all the freedom riders to be nonviolent how to protest without ever striking back. The freedom writers hope this nonviolent movement would force the federal government to step up and protect civil rights. It was that optimism that would lead to one of the most significant moments in American history. On the fiftieth anniversary of the freedom rides. We honor the four hundred and thirty six brave and determined people who risked their lives to change our nation as an African American woman born in Mississippi Nineteen fifty four and raised in the south deep debt of gratitude to the freedom writers. As do we all ladies and gentlemen I stand among heroes. Join me in welcoming one hundred and seventy eight survivors of the nineteen sixty one freedom rides..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

09:41 min | 8 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Taught me early that love hurts and therefore as long as my wife continue to cook clean beat me. I'm GonNa always be there because sharing is caring and love hurts. I learned early and I think that's a real good lesson but I don't think it only hurts and I don't believe that beating children is an act of love. I don't believe that well of course it feels good sometime to John. Yeah I mean I want to say well look if it hurts you more than me. Let me do it to you and I sure don't want you to hurt here but I think that the point is good. That look if love was easy. We'd all have it. It's not easy and that's another thing that we've got to learn that it's GonNa time it's going to take attention it's GonNa take effort is GonNa take commitment. It's going to be a decision much. More than a feeling in love is a feeling love is a decision and I think. That's a real important distinction. Now if you grow up in a family and you can never have your own will then. How can you make a decision? Because you've never been allowed to make a decision so when you're in your fault self you're just a robot acting out a roll of fault cell. So in love is feeling love itself as a decision absolutely at least that's a major distinction as I said earlier. You speak a lot about soulful love. How do we begin to find that? Well I call soul. Whatever is most human? Ns like soul music soul food. Soulful love is when we're being the most human being human means imperfect limited not having unrealistic expectations. The wounded child wants the unconditional love of mother. But I can't expect that of my wife or my spouse or the person I'm in a relationship with adults have conditional love that is we contract. I love you you love me. The child expects unconditional love so when people get married they start making demands. You never can't you ever and I always and you never and you hear children just screaming at each other to very deprived. Children screaming for the developmental needs that they didn't get. That's what's so interesting about marriage if you don't understand how marriage works out really works because you pick as you say in your book as a number of people have written about this also that you pick the person who has the traits of your parents and most of the negative traits of your parents. So it's like two four year olds coming together. I draw little pictures a big people and little people and there's a contract between the big people I will love you forever and the kids are going. Oh Boy oh boy. You're my father. You're going to be the father I never had. You're going to be the mother I never had. It's an unrealistic expectation. So what's going on in your marriage? Well we're separated in trying darndest to work it out. We were married. We've been married for two and a half years when we were married. We brought our childhoods into our marriage not knowing what they were and it exploded interface. Someone told me I'd marry someone just like my dad and I did. I did most people do though. That's the mystification that were walking around in a kind of a trance. Forgive you know first thing to do is forgive yourselves? You did the best you could. Second thing is you're responsible for your wound. And he's responsible for his wound if you try to make him take care of your wound and he tries to make you take care of his wound it work. Then you're back in the source relationships for example I have engulfing issues with women because my mother more or less engulfed me. So what happens when I start getting too close? I want out of there okay but I always find women who have abandonment issues. You get this so the second. I'm getting out of there. They're going crazy over here now. What I've learned and what I'm creating in a relationship is that I'd take responsibility for my wound right. I'll say look. I'm in my wound right now. Are She might say. I'M IN MY WOUND. And then we negotiate. But I don't try to take care of her wound or else. I'm back in my source relationship Sam back trying to make my mom happy and that so interesting. Don't you think this interesting? Because that's what people marry for a married Mary. Because you want that person to take care of your rulings. And the person never can take care of your. Whoa now. They can't do it because you would have to be a child again and they would have to be your parent absolutely. Does it ever work? Well it works if two people you know like I say we have to grow up. We have to embrace our loneliness. I am responsible for my wound. I can't blame that on my mother or anybody else. I need to fix it. I need to grow up. That's you know that's the issue. When I'm willing to do that I can say look. I'm this is about me and my history. It's not about you. I'm feeling overwhelmed right now. I need a day by myself and two people can contract that and work it out. But isn't the problem in a lot of marriages that the person thinks the other person is causing their problem that they don't relate the problem that's going on in the marriage to whatever happened with the wound. Think the spouse is the one who's creating the problem for them absolutely. I think if you're never getting your own needs met if you're angry all the time are you're depressed all the time that somehow love causes both of you to grow. And if you're not growing you're not expanding then call it something else but I wouldn't call it love. The other piece of it is is that I've been very critical of people in my relationship because what I learned in my shame was all or nothing I tried to be more than human perfect judgmental critical are less than human. Just be a SLOB. I just go back and forth between the two. Somehow the love is based on healthy. Shame what's healthy. Shame I make mistakes. I'm limited. I'm not God that I'm human and the person I'm with her I'm GonNa find the pantyhose all wadded up in the corner. It is going to be the you know the mother Theresa and I've gotTa get it that to be. Human is to be fallible to make mistakes and that. I really accept that in my partner. I accept their idiosyncrasies and their bills. Okay except my so as you were saying that about marriages and how you have to fix your own wounds. The question is. Are you both willing to do that? I can speak for myself. I've I'm in a program right now. We're kind of redefining. What I am myself learning about all the things that happened in the past with my my parents and I think only by route redefining what I am. Will we have a chance to work together? Redefining and then taking responsibility for yourself. Exactly I really support you in. That really sounds good. Both of you. Yes you wanted to say what I've been doing. A lot of work on the inner child work and learning to love my inner child. And what I'm having a problem with is the fact that when I was young I learned that the only person I could trust was myself I had to find my own survival skills to get through life. How do I get rid of those and that person because that person got me through it? Sure well you see. There's sort of two extremes one is that you just get totally absorbed and enmeshed you become confused with the people you're with the other. Is You isolate? Put a wall around you. Say I don't need anybody I can make it and what you're describing is more that second one so it's once again you're GONNA have to risk coming out. You're going to have to risk letting go of your own self sufficiency and learn to rely on somebody. I mean it's been one of hardest things for me to let somebody take care of me because it's scary to me. You've been the caretaker. Caretaker feels too vulnerable but like in my workshops. Now I have a guy that takes care of me. I just take the brakes and see. I've found that by letting someone else in like that. I'm really making contact that I've never made before and letting the person I love. Take Care of me at times and not always being see. Caretakers are always in control. That's another thing to remember that one of the cover ups for toxic. Shame is to control everybody. Then you can never catch me off guard then I can never be exposed so so real. Soulful love means equality that each one of us are willing to give up control. I had a point in a relationship where my the lady I said you go to therapy with me and I went out just a minute. I'm in my head I did this. I'm not going to your Mickey Mouse. Therapy hit all this. I went and it was the best thing I could have possibly done. Because it was a symbolic act of giving up control. If you will like to just read for the closing here what you say in the beginning of the book you say Love Yourself or creating your trans love yourself for being willing to see how you created it and how you may still be creating it. You can stop doing it now. The danger has passed. You saved a child from dying. You saved yourself love yourself now for the hope that you have. You wouldn't be working on yourself if you didn't have hope thank you much. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe to rate and review. This podcast join me next week. For another Oprah show the podcast. I thank you for listening..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

05:52 min | 8 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Fat. We joke about the about the body being a sponge. Because what happens is when you've been dieting. Especially at that position I was had been fasting for four months every single thing I put into my body. The fat cells had expanded waiting to hold onto anything that came in. So it's like you eat the fat cells. Go Woo right exactly back on the outside. She looks very good in the genes. But you don't realize the muscle doesn't have the same quality that she does and the fact sales go here hamburgers coming here. Hamburgers coming told on the toll on hold on hold on hold on woo hamburger and then they get excited with that little fat coming in and then they get wider and why because they have been starved and they are so happy. That food is coming. They hold on for all. It's worth on top of it. The metabolism has slowed so that perpetuates the entire situation. Okay I'm with Bob Greene. He's my trainer that worked out every single day day. Got Everybody has to do it twice a day but I was on I was I had a mission. Didn't miss a beat. Now we're GONNA talk about the new plan which took twice as long. I must say but is what I believe the right way to approach losing weight. When I first began dieting I weigh two hundred twenty two pounds and my fat was up to about forty one percent back then. Two months later I was down to one ninety five but my Fateh dropped thirty five percent in July of this year away to one hundred and seventy seven pounds but my total body fat was down to thirty percent in September. One hundred sixty one pounds but my fat was down to twenty twenty five percent moving down moving down facts going down. That's less than when I when I was down to one hundred and forty five pounds on the liquid diet and in November as of this very morning across the finish line and one hundred and fifty pounds. I took off my my rubber bands. I took off my watch everything to get it to say hundred fifty pounds but the most important thing is is that the body fat is down to about eighty percent only lost a minimum of lean tissue. That again is your furnace. That's what heats up the body and my body Burns better now. It metabolize food better now than it did seven months ago right before you were a sponge. Now you're a lean machine Lee. How did I get that? I want I have walked ran. Climbed bike hike during these last eight months all total. I logged thousands of miles so sometimes we even bring the stairmaster outside. I started out only being able to do four dots. Now all the way up to the top. That's amazing around the world. The asked Bob to rate the exercises forest. We find out once and for all what's going to get the best results. Here's what Bob said. Everybody's goal is the same. Some means are better than others. Losing weight is your number one objective swimming. I rank last. It's fun but you don't heat up the body and therefore you don't lose weight. Stationary bike is only slightly better. The bike supports all of your weight. Surprisingly this is not a good exercise weight loss the indoor rowing machine. I rank eighth on the list. It's only slightly better than the stationary bike. A rank the indoor ski machines seven. This machine is touted as the best aerobic exercise for weight loss. But it's not true. Outdoor Cross Country. Skiing is a far better option. Six on my list is jumping rope once described as the best indoor aerobic exercise. It's good but it's not great. Your heart rate often gets too high and it's difficult to maintain for twenty minutes number five on. My List is outdoor biking. It's fun it's aerobic but you risk injury and it requires good. Weather Stair. Climbing is a great aerobic exercise the only disadvantage is the machine. Supports part of your weight. I rank jogging third. This is a highly aerobic activity. The results quick remember it is hard on your joints and not. Everyone should jog aerobic dance. Second on the list can be an excellent aerobic activity. The benefits are similar to jogging. And there's less stress on the joints but remember. Your workout is only as good as the instructor. With a ten star rating. Walking is the number one exercise for weight loss. It's free it's highly aerobic. You can do it anytime anywhere. Places little stress on your joints. Walking is the best overall aerobic exercise for weight loss. Three quarters of my life has been spent in a state of Diet so I came to believe that the food tasted good. It was loaded with calories. If something was good for you and low in calories it tasted that way but I wanNA emphasize food is not the only issue here but you need to change the way you feel about food and the food that you eat. In order to lose weight you know many times when you are trying to conquer a battle in your life you end up being sabotaged especially those of you who are honey especially. I asked him to take off work today to be here especially especially when you're fighting this hallway struggle and I just wanted to know and wanted to say this that Steadman has loved my heart and love me no matter what size I was and has endured all kinds of rumors and vicious attacks on his own manhood because of it. And you have handled it with such grace. I'm sorry that you had to go through a lot of the things that you've gone through. You don't deserve it of all people. You don't deserve it but you stood by me and love me no matter what and I thank you for no matter. What I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe rate and review. This podcast. Join me next week. For another Oprah show the podcast. I thank you for listening..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

10:36 min | 8 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Twenty Five seasons four thousand five hundred sixty one episodes. I believe the Oprah Winfrey show was one of the greatest classrooms in the world Rolling never thought of it that way. The AHA moments the breakthroughs. The connections the occasional ugly cry so terribly every single minute L. O. Ell's the moments that matter. I opening light lessons. Never allow them to take you somewhere else. I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the ball. I personally chosen these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person you ever will need shares that common desire. They want to know. Do you see me. Do you hear me. That's what I say mean anything to you. You're listening to the OPRAH WINFREY. Show the PODCAST. This is what I wrote in my journal. On the night of November Fifteenth Nineteen eighty-eight. I had such anxiety and exhilaration pulling out that wagon fat. I can't believe those genes finally fit after this ten year struggle with weight. It's finally over or so. I thought it was really just the beginning of a real physical and emotional battle against weight and all that it has meant to me. If Wade has been an issue for you today show will hopefully lead you to win your own battle. That's why I'm doing it. I'll take you through all the steps. I've been through beginning with peeling away. The emotional layers the most important then onto pilling away the physical and I was just so proud of myself just having the discipline to not eat for four months straight. I had no idea of the physical trauma. I put my body through northern emotional trauma. That was ahead. I've kept journals almost all my life and although I've experienced incredible changes throughout my career my weight was all consuming November. Twenty ninth nine thousand nine hundred eighty eight exactly two weeks after the Diet show. I've gained five pounds. I'm one hundred fifty today. I've been eating out of control. I've got to rein in in. I still can't get used to being thin. December seven. Th One thousand nine hundred ninety eight. I read an article today. One criticizing me for the Revlon. Shoot making fun of the weight loss saying. Let's see her in two years. It really hurt my feelings. I'll show them December twelve thousand nine hundred eighty eight. I love doing the revlon shoot. It changed the way I felt about me. Never imagined myself is beautiful but that ad made me feel beautiful so for that reason alone it was worth shooting just to feel that December thirteenth one thousand nine hundred eighty eight. I came home and ate as much zero as I could hold a junk all day. Not Good at all. I never cited how. I'm going to keep the weight off. I keep experimenting testing how much I can eat. It's also ridiculous. How am I going to get through the holidays without gaining December twenty? Six one thousand nine hundred eighty eight. There's a party in Aspen. I don't WanNa go. I've gained five more pounds. One fifty five January. Second Nineteen eighty-nine. This was my day to start dieting again instead. I made pork chops and ate them. Oh well tomorrow's another day Miss Scarlet. The holidays are officially over. So what's IT GONNA be for me fasting again? I don't know if I have it in me. January seventh nineteen eighty-nine. I'm out of control. Start out my day trying to fast by noon. I was frustrated. Hungry just thinking about the agony of at all a bowl of raisin bran left. The House bought some Caramel. Corn came back at three staring at food in the cabinets. And now I want some fries with lots of salt out of Control. January nineteenth nineteen thousand nine hundred fifty eight pounds. I'm bordering on disaster. I feel it coming. I'm wondering fifty-eight eating everything in sight. I need help. Old Patterns have emerged are taking over if I don't fast this entire weekend then Monday. I seek professional counseling. That's the deal complete and total fast January twenty first nineteen eighty nine. I lied to myself about professional counseling. I'm not ready to submit to it. March nine hundred eighty nine. This is what I wish for the absolutely eliminate weight as an issue for myself that I will not eat drink or consume anything that will prevent me from reaching my goal. That is what I wish for the determination and will to do it. Just do it no matter what it is possible and I will November Fourteenth Nineteen eighty-nine anniversary of the Diet. Show one hundred sixty eight pounds. I'm thoroughly disgusted with myself. I couldn't even get then for the anniversary show whereas my resolve every day I wake in with good intentions and then I fail November twenty third. Nineteen eighty-nine Thanksgiving Day. One hundred seventy five pounds. Which really is a fat person again? I've lost my resolve trying to find a way to carry on the battle December. First Nineteen eighty-nine. I'm still battling what has been for me. A lifetime struggle. I thought that have to November. One thousand nine hundred fifteen diet anniversary show at least weight is an issue. Stop being afraid that someone was going to bring it up and say. Hey Oprah haven't you gain weight and go on with my life not. I'm still struggling. Just cook rice and smother chicken. I Edman I was supposed to eat only a salad instead. I eat the salad and the chicken. I'm going to look this. I just don't know how right now December thirteenth one thousand nine hundred nine the new studios looking great. We'll be moving in the first of the year. The farmhouse is coming together two. Everything's going so well. So why do I still feel compelled to eat February sixteenth nineteen ninety? I'm in dire need of help with my weight. Almost on the verge of being overcome had a woman come into hair analysis going to determine what kind of vitamins I need. It's unbelievable I'm still looking for miracle cures what happened to my new year's resolution and then my thirty six year old birthday resolution. I don't know I just know I'm in trouble. I'm one hundred eighty pounds now. I wake every morning hating myself in the weight predicament. I'm in fifteen pounds ago. I would have thought this impossible. I'm not inching but galloping towards the two hundred pound mark I vowed to be back to one hundred fifty pounds by the Hope Award April Twenty Eighth Nineteen Ninety exhausted. I Work Twenty hours today. We'll have to do the same tomorrow. I'm worried about booster place. Eating snacks all day from the craft table. I hate seeing myself on film. June twelfth nineteen ninety. I'm carrying fat around. Its overcoming me. One hundred ninety one pounds overcome June eighteen thousand nine hundred ninety. I woke up the past four days hating myself because I hadn't fasted or at least stuck to some kind of plan trying to lose ten pounds in a week so I can put on this next week for the emmys. July nineteenth nineteen ninety never lost weight for the EMMYS instead of game. Five more. I'm one ninety-six still trying to reckon myself still in the closet assessing all the winter clothes. I won't be able to wear nothing. Fits I dread walking into the Fat Lady Stores August Eleventh? Nineteen ninety trying to be in the spirit. The fat has stopped me from feeling so blocked. I cannot think August Fifteenth Nineteen Ninety. I cried in my office cried because I know that lots of people have been discussing it. No one says anything but I feel them avoiding the subject. A CRY FOR MY POOR MISERABLE SELF. Having gotten to the state scale said two hundred and three pounds this morning controlled just controlled by it. Every day waking up with a plan by the end of the day not following through billing diminished less of a person. Guilty ugly you name it trying to gain control knowing that God says I already have it where is it? God dancing on the MC Hammer show with the fattest behind. I've ever seen I saw that tape and can't denied anymore. I really am fat again. They're in new fat clothes. Making me look even bigger feeling just about as low as one can about myself knowing that. I'm being blocked. August twenty fifth one thousand nine hundred ninety. Did a diets don't work. Seminar stood in a room in a bathing suit and admitted that I was two hundred pounds. That was hard September ninth nine hundred ninety instead of losing fifty pounds for the hope awards I gained had to have the for breakout redone. I DIDN'T WANNA go worried about people saying how fat I was made the worst dressed lists with marge. Simpson described his bumpy dumpy and downright lumpy. Gallon I thought I'd looked pretty decent in January. Twenty ninth nine hundred. Ninety one turned thirty seven. I have a New Vision for myself to become lean fit. Strong physically emotionally spiritually food alone. Isn't the answer. What is February twentieth? Nineteen ninety-one went on vacation and gained eight pounds bringing me to an all-time Ping two hundred twenty six pounds. So big unproportionate fat in the face unable to move freely that I don't know this self my body has betrayed me or has it just acquiesced. I don't know who this is waddling through the airport. I caught a glimpse of myself reflected in a store window. I didn't recognize the FAT lady. Staring back at me. Stem says I'm not even close to my potential as a human being that I let the weight be a barrier. He's right sometimes. I can feel the connection between my own fears and the weight. So what am I afraid of? That's the question. The answer.

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

08:20 min | 9 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Be shaped forward on a lot of sexual partners and I've done some pretty bad things like I smoke a lot of weed. Which isn't good. Tell us more sexual partners. Throw it out appoximately number. It's been like twenty two maybe tells How you felt through these experiences about one or two of them were cool but like the the ones are just like robot. I don't know I just. It wasn't really anything but doing that. As a robot makes you feel it made me feel like better. Do you feel that. That's pretty much the most important thing you have to offer men pretty much. It's it felt like it's made me give up guys and there's a person that I'm talking to. That is a girl to lot easier in. Phils more natural for some reason with these guys I haven't done anything sexual with her or anything like that. I talked to guys like I'm still attracted to him but I don't WanNa be the guy. Okay that's all that's all. You're not saying that you're a lesbian. You're not what I hand acurite. I don't know how to answer. We'RE NOT HERE TO BLAME. Your parents say it's all their fault but the fact is that the parents staying connected with you. Had they been able to work their relationship? It might have made you feel less lost unless confused and nobody else's again except me so I need you guys so when you say. I don't know how to answer that you know. I'm I'm always going to accept. Okay I sense that you have difficulty with it yes eight. It just don't want to hear it so you don't you just kind of blow it off. No I hear what you're saying. I hear exactly what you're saying. I just don't believe that I'm in a position to say. Okay it is okay. I understand that you are confused but I'm not going to accept I can't accept it because the way I was raised. It's not acceptable kitchen. Do something that's not okay and you can disagree but that does not mean that you can't accept it and love them. No matter what choice they make for themselves. She can know that it's not okay and it's not cool with you but that does not mean that you can't say I love you. I accept you. He's right. I won't condone it but I'm still love you because I do believe that things do happen for a reason so so. I'm going to be there if you need to talk to me. Whatever whatever reason because I don't want you to take the same road again and because we were. I wasn't there before because I was the one left. Your Dad didn't tell you anything and I'm GONNA take that road again because I'm not gonNA lose you just because you know. This is the path that you chose take. I love you too much for that key message. Here's what Belinda was saying. She left Albany's dad and did not tell ebony any thing and again I say when you don't know how to talk to your kids when you leave and you ignore their feelings when you think they're just kids and they'll get over it you end up damaging them forever avenues. Parents are courageous enough to be here. J. D. and Belinda. Have joined us when you heard. Blenda Ebony on the tape say that the moment this all changed for her was when she walked in the room and saw you kissing the other guy and that she felt that you were the biggest hypocrite and that a part of all of this acting out which on her part has pretty evolved to know that one of the reasons why I'm doing. This is because my mother so hypocritical. So I'm going to show her. Yeah when you heard that what did you think riphil? G Choosy allies at. That kiss had had that kind of impact. I had no idea it was only thinking of myself at that time and she didn't even come into play. Although we were always together I found out about the kiss only a few days ago. So totally embarrassed found out about the kiss me and you didn't know she had seen the kiss right. You didn't even know. She didn't know she told her that. I knew she'd saying it but I didn't know what she had told her bed until only a few weeks ago. I didn't even and it's been seven years since we've been divorced and I didn't know all of this. She carried. We treated her like an basically like an adult so I didn't even think it affected him in any way because she how we acted in the house. But how can you say you treated her like an adult as an adult? If you were gonNA leave you would explain why you're leaving in. That's a good point but we don't where I was how I guess how has raised. We just didn't talk about a lot of things. Go things just happen? We understand that and so that's how I did with her. So let's talk about what you what you both decided to tell or not tell Ebony so did you decide. Did you sit ebony down and say we're going to now be be separating and these are the reasons why no said nothing to Ebony. Never I didn't know you guys were getting worse so after the divorce. I just remember one day. We're at home the next day. Me Mommy are moving out. We're packing up. That's how it happened and I blocked a lot and is sound like a cop out but I just blocked a lot of things out because I was only thinking of me at that time. Gary says if you think your kids are GonNa come to you with their biggest problems. You're dead wrong. Why shame I mean how? Many of us has teenagers. Were running to our parents with every problem that we had so you know my wife and I we have five children and we sat down with our children at every single parent should do this. We identified two adults that we trust and they trust in their lives and we all met together and we said listen. We want you to come to us. Of course we'll never judge. You always love you. But here's the deal. If you don't feel like you can come to us. Here's two people you can go to individually and they we give them permission to make decisions on our behalf for you and they never have to tell us. If that's what's going to work for you that way. At least we know as parents. Our children are using adults with experience to help them guide them instead of their colleagues. Everyone should do it. But it's like a substitute parent. Yes go to parent. It's a Goto parent. That's a great idea but ebony thank you for having the for being brave enough to. Don't you feel better? I do actually a lot better. Yeah don't you feel that now you can create another life for yourself because you're past is really just that it's the pass. It's really hard trying to change yourself by by yourself. You need help to change your lifestyle so now that you've released that you can leave that in past and move forward and start to be who you really are because that's what life is all about becoming more who you really are. And that's what I wish for you today. I'm really proud of you. I'm very proud of you that you had the courage to do that. Thank you all. Thank you I'm Oprah Winfrey. And you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe rate and review. This podcast. Join me next week. For another Oprah show the podcast. I thank you for listening..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

11:03 min | 9 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"In the summer of nineteen ninety two long simmering. Racial tensions in Los Angeles came to a head that is when we saw the brutal beating of Rodney King by white police officers captured on tape. That when the officers were acquitted riots erupted across the city. Even though many people warned against it I wanted to go there. Right after the Rodney King verdict we were in Los Angeles for townhall discussion. That got heated. Because you gotta take eight either one of the reasons I wanted to come to. La is because when you're sitting in your comfortable homes and you hear the death toll rise to so many people. Those are just numbers and what I wanted to do was to place some names and some lives and some faces and some families so that we in this country recognize what we have done and you were shot about six hours after the verdict came in. I was ironically. I was shot by a black guy. You know but I mean I have A bullet right now. It's a semi chess embedded under my heart. I have in my inner left. Biceps shot Wednesday About six hours after the verdict. And you hear I'm standing up. I'm right here. You hear a shot while you're trying to rescue. Somebody is what I was trying to stop alluding in a robbery fan from a Korean merchant and the guy just turned around he was six to ten feet away and he just shot me. My brother was the first victim Long Beach. He was on his way to help a a friend of his happen to be a black Gal who had called him up and said I WANNA get my family out of here. Because I'm afraid and my vans broken and I can't get it to start my brother's mechanic. So he and my nephew. My sister's son hopped on a motorcycle. Went up there fifty yards from his house or her place. They were mobbed knocked off the motorcycle. My brother was shot in the head. My nephew was shot three times and he'd be dead except the gun. They put his face wouldn't go off. I'm forty seven years old. I don't understand I don't understand. I've been raised all my life. If this man here cut some shelves shaving I cut myself shaving. The blood cups the same the same thing. They lay him and me on a slab somewhere. Peeler skin off. Unless you're an expert you don't know who we are and we all have a soul that comes from God and so I'm here for answers. Okay well this is interesting because you are obviously a white man. Yeah I'm a middle class white man. Okay but I wanted to ask. When the Rodney King verdict came down I was so moved by hearing a young black woman. Who said this said to me on my life doesn't mean anything could you? As a white male see how that verdict made so many black people feel. Could you see? Do you see that? I'm not sure that that verdict means that any of us have any value. Not just black people anybody in one thousand nine hundred eighty three. Dr King said injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere and I think everyone who is a part of that show could identify with that three years later. More racial tension. We were watching live in our studio when the verdict for the O. J. Simpson trial came down. We along with the rest of the country saw this verdict as you saw it and the jury has spoken obviously very happy. I'm very happy for his family for his children. I'm very happy I'm also very happy. At think. Justice was served dot. Everyone here is happy however not everyone here is happy. I noticed that you are not happy. I just feel like she's rolling over in her grave and he said if he ever did it he would get away with it. That's what she said. I really believe that he is guilty. However I think that California's relieved that he was show not guilty because the blacks would have burn the city down. That was a moment in our cultural history. Where the dividing line in race had never been more clear. I think many people were happy for OJ's acquittal because they thought justice was not served in the Rodney King trial and many trials before. I also think that Dr King's quote also applies here. Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere in September. Two thousand nine rapper artists Mogul Jay Z. And I went head to head on a big controversy. You know I've been known for not being a big fan of rap music because of misogynist lyrics and because of the use of the word you obviously feel differently and a little bit little bit little bit and tell tell everybody way discusses more words people give words power. Yeah for a generation where we did was. We took the word and we took the power out of that word a word that was very ugly and hurtful into a term of endearment. So I mean even when someone says it's still intention behind what you say who but Pretty much took the power out of the work because if we just start removing words from the dictionary just make another word the next day so we don't dress the problem. The problem is racism right. That's really the problem so we disagree. And the reason I feel that way because my generation and generations before me obviously coming up through the civil rights movement and I am where I am because there was. There was a generation before me that fought for civil rights and that word carries such a sense of hatred and degradation. And I always think about when I hear the word. Even when I'm at the concert and people were screaming at your concert I think about black. Men were lynched. And that's the last word they heard. And so that comes from my generation right. Okay so okay. We agree to disagree on which is a strong strongpoint understandable. I disagree. So here's the deal. I read Jay Z's new book decoded which put the Hip hop rap conversation in a different context and took it to a new level for me in the book. He talks about his life. He breaks down rap in a way that I thought brings an entirely new perspective to the culture on page one sixty two. I had an Aha moment when he writes rappers. Are Young Black men telling stories that the police among others don't want to hear reading that I realized I was among the others so I appreciate it this book so much that I made it one of my favorite things and I'm proud to say I get it now so thank you. Jay Z for opening up my mind. That's what this day is all about after twenty five years of tackling race on the Oprah Show. Here's an unexpected update from a former racist who appeared on our show in one thousand nine hundred eighty nine here. How can any one scorn a cute little four year old boy because of the color of his skin but you did for awhile when he was born. I started changing from that point on. He's part of me. I'm ashamed of the way I felt before. It was nineteen eighty nine when Jim Rainey wrote how the love of his biracial grandson helped change his racist ways but even today he feels ashamed of his dark past. I felt I was superior white. People were superior to blacks blacks. Were okay as long as they stayed in their own place and that place was where I wanted them to be. There were instances where myself and friends tune. The Black Person Up. Maybe threader slap or something like that. It's not something I'm proud of talking about you know I guess I guess you can say I had a bully mentality. Jim was furious when he learned his daughter was pregnant with a biracial child. How mad violently man? Gosh I wanted to want to do a lot of things. And they were all against the law. I wouldn't lie to you and say I didn't think about getting a gun and shooting a few people initially. Jim wanted nothing to do with his grandson. Seth but something changed. He didn't know I was racist. He didn't know how evil my mind was. He just knew I was smoking granddaddy and he loved me. Had to think about what I was doing next thing you know I loved the four year old. Boy I bet on. The show is twenty six and married with three children of his own. I've always looked at. My granddad has a role model. My life eleven very much proud to have him as a Granddad. Gm's transformation came full circle when he and his wife adopted two black children into their family. These are my boys. My son's it's amazing that you can get this old and just now realize what your calling in. Life is being a father to Robert and Walter. I hope that that Britain and I both can last long enough to see them race and have have offered Tunde opportunities that thugs like me would have denied them forty years ago if a guy like myself can change. There's hope for everyone in nineteen sixty seven. Dr King said hate cannot drive out. Hate only love can do that. Thank you James for showing the world what love can do. I hope that you will find some time in this day to reflect on Dr King's vision. And how you can fulfill your greatness through service. Have a great day. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe rate and review. This podcast. Join me next week. For another Oprah show the podcast. I thank you for listening..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

11:47 min | 9 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"In the main reason I wanted to be here. Today is to tell you how regretful lime for causing what should have been the best year of Your Life. The most miserable. I went along because I was afraid. I can't imagine for thirty eight years how badly I have felt. That does not do anything for what happened. That does not. I'm just sorry. You were taught racism at home. Did you break that chain chills? That's what I think. Sl Am sorry. Certainly I felt powerless. Also peer pressure has a lot to do. When you're at that age well and I think Jean represented probably the bulk of students. That did nothing right solid. It's the great silence. It's the silence is the people who don't speak up and if there's any lesson to be learned now thirty almost forty years now. Hopefully somebody watches the show and will be moved enough to stand up for something. That's right I love that moment in the show because it's a reminder to all of us of what Dr King said in the end we will remember not the words of our enemies but the silence of our friends one of the things. That was so moving to me about the little rock. Nine is their ability to forgive and I think that they were able to do because they understood that they really weren't fighting people just the physical bodies but they were fighting the entire blight and stain of ignorance on this country and so as the light was shed into people's hearts and people began to see things differently. Actually see each other differently. I think it was easier to forgive when you understood that so much of that just came out of pure ignorance as does all hatred. That was a blessed day for me to be in the studio with the little rock nine. Because there's no question that they pave the way for people like myself and their shoulders. I'm standing on them now. Let's take a look back at a show that brought the descendant of a notorious slave owner face to face with the relatives of slaves. They owned Katie's grandmother was a slave who was owned by the ancestors of Edward Ball. The ball family owned more than four thousand slaves and a dozen plantations in South Carolina recently Edward Katie and Charlotte went back to the ruins of a ball plantation house where their ancestors lived as master and a slave. This place is coming tea plantation Charlotte and Katie's ancestors were in slavery on this place on the beginning of the eighteen. Hundreds were here their blood sweat and tears. Where at this plantation? My Grandma told me how she had these. Keep getting whipping when she took me down to the river and show me how. She tied her dress around her waist and leapt over booed to keep from getting a weapon and as she was diving into the water she told my mother and that they were shooting at her and the bullets were flying overhead and they left thinking that she was dead. May your soul rest in peace. What did you want to say today? I wanted to say that. I'm sorry for the suffering that my family caused your family so many years ago and for such a long time and in saying that. I know that we haven't reached the end of the journey. We haven't even come to the middle but we might have just put our feet up on the path and taking the first small steps toward understanding. I asked I asked her forgiveness. So what does it mean to you to have this apology live with racism every day here? That doesn't wash it away. But it's says that someone recognizes what we go through when we walk out doors and it's overwhelming who. That was a moment. I think we could all see the healing power. That apology. Another powerful moment on the show involved. An eye opening experiment so that some of our audience members could experience the feeling of being judged by color for the first time in their lives. This is unbelievable. Today's audience was separated into two groups. Not on the color of their skin where they separated when they arrive. They were separated based on the color of their eyes but they have no idea that they were separated. What we did was treat each group differently. Discriminating against the people who have blue eyes catering to those people with Brown eyes on mine? No no over there. The blue eyed people were pulled out of line told to put on a green collar and lead outside. The Brown eyed people arrived. They were told to step to the front of the line. Our staff is instructed to be extra polite to Brown eyed people and to discriminate against polite people like this one is a licensed got so one and when they went to places prom members with Brown eyes were allowed to enjoy coffee and donuts. Those blue eyes were left in a crowded room without refreshments for over two hours. The blue eyed group became upset when they saw the brown eyed people were being seeded. I diversity expert. Jane Elliott helped set up the experiment. She played along telling are segregated. Audience that Brown eyed people were smarter than blue eyed people. I've been a teacher for twenty five years in the public private and parochial schools in this country and as seen what Brown eyed people have done as compared to. What do I do and it's perfectly obvious. If I didn't believe it before this morning you should have been here this morning when we brought these people in here fuelling discriminated against the blue eyed audience. Members were visibly upset. She was rude to all of us. Yelled at this names pushed aside. She was rude. This lady came out in the line with all of people that had light colored eyes and said you put this green collar on now and keep it on. And if you don't hit the road say doesn't Jane Green Tower Blue Eyes Because I've learned to act Brown. I'd have a brown eyed husband and three and a message in this room is act ground. Aydin you too can take off your Collar Act intelligently and you can't none of you have have intelligently yet. It wasn't long before the Brown eyed people bought into the idea that they were superior. School was blue eyed. She was so stupid she was always copying off of my papers. These people were so rude and so noisy today. We couldn't hear any ourselves. Even talk was ridiculous. Eventually the audience figured out the show was really about race now. He was so angry. He took off his collar way on early. I need to talk about that taking off the collar. These people can take off their collars and then nobody knows what color of their eyes are from a distance. How many of you people of color can take off the collar that we have put on you? How many you can take off your color. But if a black male refused to follow your orders or your husband's orders your your father's orders on the street you would not see that as being highly principled you would see him as being an Uppity Nigger. We can see where this is going. She's saying that everybody has racism in. It's not really about the ice. She's trying to teach about racism but she can't get away from the fact that God created the races and you are going to be different. You can't help it guide to be like that race. The human race and human beings created racism. I Love I love that. Human beings created racism. God created one race the human race. I believe the lessons from that show are still so valuable today. And because it really illustrates how susceptible we all are to prejudice and how quickly people can be poisoned by misinformation and ignorance. Another powerful moment on the show involved a white man who wanted to experience what it would be like to live as a different race. Ten months ago Josh. Solomon was Black. What he did was really remarkable. Josh took some potentially life threatening pills to change his skin color from white to black and what he experienced as a black man was chilling. So chilling back that after just one week of being black. He abruptly called off the experiment and went home to let the Madison where off. We asked him to retrace his steps to take a look for us for all intensive purposes. I think I looked like the typical black teenager with reddish brown skin and a bald head in Gainesville got a hotel room in started to explore the city off the one. I ran into people in the street. They reacted to me as if they were scared of suspicious. I went into this pool to get a drink. They followed me around like I was a thief one afternoon. I was walking back to my hotel down this road. Police officer pulled me over at that intersection side. Hassle me about who I was. And why was there things like this never happened to me? When I was way one time I went into a fancy restaurant eating. Although I saw several vacant tables the maitre d' told me that there was nothing available in the short time I spent as a black I can only conclude the price. We haven't come as far as we thought so. How did that make you feel because I think that is the one thing that over the years? I've done at least one hundred shows on racism and it's so hard to convey what that having that happened to you being treated like a suspect every day of your life what that does to your Personal Saiki Right. Well you know that's the hardest. Part ways received this prima bachelor suspect. I walk into a room and guardless of how much money I had in my pocket. The certain level respect that I get from folks and the first thing that I realized when I was black was it's gone. You don't get any of that. You know. People get this respect by people constantly trying to prove that they deserve or worthy of it when he said White people get this. Respect and black people are constantly trying to prove that they deserve it or are worthy of it. I thought that was so profound. It was really the first time we'd heard anything like that on our show particularly coming from a young.

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"oprah" Discussed on The Read

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"oprah" Discussed on The Read

"Other than steven j two hashtag oprah in hopes that oprah winfrey gale king's good syria iran so far that they would that she would have johson on the show so they talk about love hip hop or whatever then she logs often goes missing however us later mona post some clip of oprah on her instagram with the hashtag oprah and insists during one of those interviews are oprah's talk about removing toxic people from your life in my own yeah that i remember that clip so then um how she started removing people from her life when their energies in goals in shit didn't aligned with her positively and in that yeah like a classic yet oprah moment harassment are the moments were she's like speaking in using her hands and like her handed get real high and she would like to all these motions and i realized in that moment it's like one of those like opri always as she does those like like she's emphasizing it method allow no verbal highlighter like pay attention right here is where you really pay attention as rises to hand the blessed barrier she does that um but what she doesn't do is interviews with a joscelyn hernandez that's not well at just so could at best she's getting a yonli i and i mean take it i would take it abbey i end rarely yonli is a fit that works because yon was not i don't understand just had lord of honor i'm just trying to understand how how joscelyn thought was she had to say was like that salacious like it was something like oh my god only oprah can break this story like whatever you go on tell us or expose about mona sky young i'm sure we already know what y'all have released should contracts him y'all made mona a lot of money in everything is scripted no shit girl what else you guys like like.

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