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You Can Also Learn From Those Still On The Journey #1012
"You can also learn from those still on the journey. Over the past week or so of being doing these one on one Kohl's, which is something that oil offered is part of the one thousand episodes celebrations and as I said at the start of that I don't pretend that go to Lance's but I am pretty good asking questions and if I do that between the two of us, we might just be able to help you some sort of clarity on where you're going and that's pretty much the way it's played out over the over the past week. And what really come to realize during this week and more so than ever I think is that you don't need to have arrived to be able to help other people on the journey. I think sometimes, we look for advice only from those that have achieved what we deem to be success but the reality is that we can learn as much not just from people who failed but from people that are still on the journey, you don't need to go to only those people have already arrived at the destination seek their advice on how to get there. You can actually learn just as much from people who are at various stages along the same as you or even a different journey. and. I think that's an important message also for people in terms of offering their advice and offering their teaching, it's not just the people that are looking to learn. It's the people could actually take I feel that I've in this past week or so. The risk of sounding a little league testicle I? I've helped a few people along the journey even though I don't necessarily think for one second that I've reached my destination or that I've necessarily achieve what I need to achieve along my journey. So I think there's a lot of you out there that probably feel like you don't maybe have a lot. To offer in terms of teaching others but the reality is even if you haven't made even if you have an achieve success regardless of where you are on your journey, you still have the ability to teach others and help others along the way or that is it for today. I do thank you for your time and I will be back again tomorrow.
438: Become the match for what you want
"I'm not going to be the match for this feeling I'm not going to be the match for this outcome I'm going to be the match for what I want sooner that we can just see an understand what unconditional love is and move right back into our joy in letting go and choosing again and say happiness every single day are you with me here we go ben that sometimes the harder the lesson the more light you're going to be able to shine afterward the more you're going to understand things that you couldn't see to unlock view that has always been there but was maybe stagnant and just needed someone who has been there before or somebody to say something that before and I recently had an experience that I'm not I I don't know if I'm through to the other side yet I'll be sharing more later but just where I really was take what we want and we anoint ourselves get ready to earn own and on apologetically rockier not feeling smart enough these are all opportunities to shine the light where there is dark and I always think always know from wherever in the past I would have gone to a very dark place it would've taken me down for a really long time and he was able to bounce right back knowing that unity's every single day whether you are being bullied online or whether you have a friend who is questioning who you are as you grow or whether you are completely doubting yourself in on that and when you fully embody that and you shine it on people even when they are not prepared for it and sometimes it can be rejected and maybe picturing you guys really feeling a message having some of our words or one of the interviews or something that were saying a message that's coming through for Me Self Love Junkie Lifestyle Entrepreneur and author each week I'll bring you a guest or a thought that will help you bust through your fears connect your soul in get focused and clear so you can elevate your life business and relationships we don't wait until we're ready for someone to tell us we're good enough weed and I pray that with this podcast that it is helping you see that truly is where all of the beauty miracles are manifested is when you can welcome back to the earn your happy podcast and it's time for another quick because there's always time to fit in inspiration and I am so excited needed in honored to be with you in your car on your run in the grocery store I have so much fun thinking of you guys wherever a certain way or someone's story to give yourself permission to unlock that part of you that's been hidden away maybe what happened or something we did or something we said or something someone said to us or an occurrence that has happened the sooner that you can bring light to it the sooner the did it of protection maybe you did it to feel safe maybe you did it because you're afraid of your own power you're afraid of your own strength and you're afraid of your own light and as yet is to make us feel bad or manipulate us or judge of character so I always want to remind you that those are all opportunities and we're getting a lot of you're at listening to this podcast maybe listen to questionably awesome maybe you listen to the interviews maybe you listen to the quickies in really knowing who I'm talking to and we can think that we are shining too much or we can think that we aren't good enough or a really quick way that people try to get us to not be in our light if they haven't recognized there's it is not our place to feel bad we are not meant to feel bad we are not meant to feel guilty and we are not meant to feel shame if there is something that not be a match for the darkness not be a match for the drama not be a match for gossip not be a match for fear it's not the truth especially if we've had upbringings of thinking that are pain has a serious purpose or that guilt is a way that we you can let go forgive the person or forgive yourself and the sooner that you can just stay in the light and not be a match for the negativity the sooner that you can bring light to that the sooner that you can see the lessening get back into joy and our job is to just go up that chain and into our joy in letting go and choosing again and saying I'm not going to be the match for this feeling I'm not going to be the match for this outcome I'm going love with no contingencies from your Creator of the universe actually means and this is a message that's coming through so clearly for me then you will be go into joy go up that chain of emotions and go into go into joy and this seems too easy it seems like Oh that we are repentant or shame is a way that we show that we feel bad for something that we did except if you truly understood what able to know that the second you realize and get the lesson that you don't need to carry those feelings to abuse yourself Sirius Guardian over what I'm the match for and who makes me feel a certain way what literature makes me feel a certain way of who I'm following what I'm listening to what I want to eat that night I'm like okay I really just want some bad comfort food and I try not to use the word bad around any food but I do know that you know some food is a match now I'm going to wait until until that something that I can just like be the observer and not feel like I'm getting roped into the emotion so I'm really being the match for what I want and that's what I've been saying over and over and over again whether it's something bigger weather it's something small I've just literally said what am I the match for right now and own and I'm here negative things all day long except I don't choose to focus on them I really choose to look at the positive so I really believe that my life is full of in order to put yourself in a place of thinking that you need to pay for something that you did or someone else did or four somebody misunderstanding you or for Nelson not let something in so really really just saying how do I want to feel and choosing again and being matched not feeling good and some food is a match for a higher vibration and feeling better and having more energy so if I'm in a place where I'm like hey you're really at a crossroads Mond mistreating you or that they need to pay either and the sooner that we can just see and understand what unconditional love is and move right back I'm going to go see something else while you go to that movie I don't care if he goes that's great he has more control over certain emotions in his life so for me if I'm in a sensitive place I'm like troll over it technically we do have control but to the point where you know you can be have have things be around things and you can still choose to be a match for something I'm going to be an observer and I don't have to get roped into where they're going so I'm not going to be a match for that even though it's in my presence so don't freak out things happen every day so much of that what do you want to be the match for in really look in your life and be like where am I like creating things or bringing things in the right now being the match for something you don't WanNa be so what do you want to be the match for and what are the things that make you that so you know I wanted to go to a movie and he wanted to go to are a match for a different outcome than what I actually want and you guys just because it's in your life doesn't mean it's going to happen you can actually look at things and have people in your life who are negative and just be like for exactly what you want so you guys I want to know if this resonated with you if there's something in your life right now that you are going to choose to not be available for I just I'm not available for that outcome I'm actually not available for that conversation right now I'm actually not available to feel that negativity right now because I'm choosing to be a match for something else choices last longer than others and now I am choosing to let go even faster because I really have faced and believe that my creator does not want me to be in and I think that that's so powerful is because it acknowledges it it's not like you're living in this world that doesn't exist you know because whatever we focus on can be have a fierce story come in you guys you can go on instagram you can go on the news you can listen to some friends drama you can be in line at the coffee shop and hear people on the phone sometimes their shows on in my house that I'm not GonNa Freak out over and I'm just like you know what I'm going to be a match for something else I'm going to look at something else while this is going on or whatever that is so you don't always have so I hope that this helped you wherever you're at and I believe that our true purpose is to stay in that joy because that's where we help other people we get outside of our heads come with that feeling so I'm going to switch what might the batch for and a lot of times if I'm trying to get back to joy I look at things that make me a match for joy so you know if I'm making a choice air and just saying that is there and I'm choosing something else and I'm choosing to breathe life into the existence of something else and I think that's just the coolest thing to start to watch how you create world inside of a world that you actually used to exist so now I'm like wow I really taken an active part in creating such powerful world for me to live in outside of the world that I used to live in and nothing has changed it's just not being matched for certain things is what is completely changed how AC everything and how I can see everything movie that was kind of dark and I I was just having a week where I'm like you know I want to be the match for joy so if you want to that movie totally fine but I don't WanNa be a match for those feelings so I am so glad that you stopped by if you could take one second to share this episode with someone you think would love it that would be absolutely this does not mean that I don't get down it means that I make faster choices and that's all there is to it I just make faster choices and you know amazing and we would be forever grateful also please leave us a review if you feel so moved by going to tunes and leaving us an honest a until next time earn your happy by one thank you guys so much for spending this time with me on the earn your happy podcasts those negative feelings or have me repay or have someone else repay by paying through those feelings I just don't believe it I'm not a match for that belief that love is conditional you I would love to hear what resonated where you're at Shared on your stories go follow me at Laurie harder I love love love love love when you shout out on stories with resonating because I answer more positive things than negative things because I just say oh I'm not the match for that like that that might be yours right now but I'm not the match for that emotion I'm not the match for the outcome that Hill Ben don't forget to earn your happy Thanksgiving guys bye bye three single message of the podcast because I want to know what you want to talk about I want to know what you WanNa hear I wanNA know where you're at so let me know that I can keep talking to you and you guys have the most amazing thought and honest comment tell us what you think tell us what you want to hear more of it would really help us out on our journey to helping thousands and thousands of people in The earn your happy podcast. I'm Laurie harder founder of the blest project three time fitness world champion fitness expert and cover model turned bowl and that's the only place that can come from is that expensive place of love enjoy and not fear so I'm sending you guys so much love today and if this resonated with we get outside of our small worlds we get outside of thinking the world is bad and we expand and we grow and we give our talents to people and we'd give our efforts to people and we give our money to.
477. Joy & Pain Share a Lane
"Welcome to earn your happy podcast. I'm hi I'm Laurie. Harder founder of the bliss project three time fitness world champion fitness expert and cover model turned self love. Junkie Lifestyle Entrepreneur and author author. Each week will bring you a guest or a thought that will help you bust through your fears. Connect to your soul and get focused and clear so you can elevate your life business and relationships. We don't wait until we're ready for someone to tell us we're good enough. We take what we want. And we anoint ourselves yourselves get ready to earn own and on apologetically rock your happiness every single day. Are you with me here. We go welcome back to their. And you're happy podcast. And it's time for another quick because because there's always time to fit an inspiration and it is well into January and I just want to acknowledge all all of you for making it this far truly you guys. I think that this is the point where we tend to be like. Oh my gosh. Am I really going to make this thing happen. I haven't done the things that I wanted to do. I haven't stuck with all of the plans that I had and I just want to say. Hey Hey you're doing great here. Doing freaking awesome and even just the acknowledgement of okay. Let things slip like now. Let's Redo that plan and get a little bit of reality going with how my life actually looks. Maybe we do less right. Maybe we do one thing at a time. Maybe I don't start that business. That Diet and guitar lessons all at once. I've been speaking to my former self. So what does that one thing you can do. That could support you in all other things. I just want you to take a second to just give yourself some grace because the older I get the more I realized that grace is my best friend. It's truly the thing that is the only thing that lets me move into the person that I want to be in moving to the life that I desire is to just stop. Stop and say you know you're doing the best that you can. I'm so freaking proud of you. You don't implement a million things all at once right. That's not oh how he change you. Do One thing at a time so my new year is totally off to a completely different start than I thought and honestly the the what I wanNA share with you. Today is my worst nightmare. One of my worst nightmares come true and I'm starting a new business right now. The very excited about I'll actually talking about it and the next week or two where you are going to get to be involved you get the opportunity to potentially really invest in a company and usually that is set aside for people who are either investing large amounts or accredited investors. And and. I'm actually giving my community the opportunity to invest which is going to be absolutely wild and insane because most companies do not do that. Because it's risky risk. So I'll be sharing more of that but speaking of my worst nightmare coming true while my wildest daydreams are coming true I they have lost my golden doodle puppy so this is a podcast that I've never wanted to record and it's not going to be all about that. I promise so. If you're in in a really good place stay there. It's just GonNa make it better if you're in a place where you have lost anything. My God the stories that people have reached out to me on of losing their puppies their friends their loved ones their moms their dads you guys I understand for some of you you may not understand Having a puppy and how much it can actually affect your day to day life but I just feel deep sorrow for everyone who has lost something and also also What's coming up for me is just the fact that I was resisting losing something the fact that I was resisting getting the day that this came the fact that I was it was my worst fear of a pain that I did not think that I would be able to manage and For those of you just to understand understand. I work from home. My dog literally was my friend before I even had friends. I was extremely introverted. She was thirteen and a half years old when I got her I was in a totally different place. Nothing was happening. I was alone. I was moving from place to place with my husband. I did not have friends. She was my buddy every single building. My walking buddy she would relieve my stress She was just many many things for me. And I think that when you work from home and your dog is a part of your were daily routines such as walking working by your feet all day just all of the things and especially when you share her with your community and people fall in love with her. It's like that. Love just expands fans in grows knowing. How many people's Day? She brightened so when it happened. My heart literally felt torn out of my chest especially since I won't completely share the story but I was not there which was horrendous Having to run an event that was a dream. Come mm true while simultaneously having to know that your husband was back home with this abrupt news in health officials with your dog. It was horrendous and also teaching me. The world's largest lessons of joy and grief exist together on the same highway and they're not even going opposite directions. Joy In grief exist on the same one way road. It is a two lane one way road. And it all moves forward and you can switch lanes you can compartmentalize but most of all all you have to experience it. You have to allow yourself to go there you have to allow yourself to grieve. You have to allow yourself to cry cry whenever you want and most of all you have to allow yourself to be supported. Waffles is giving us so many gifts in in the form of human beings and I just think that that is the coolest thing looking at how our trajectory just of my I passed with her happened. And how when we started out she was really the only person who have on speed dial and obviously guys waffles. Can't talk so now looking at where we are now. My entire home is filled with flowers. my inbox is slammed with the most beautiful messages and stories from people of hope and faith and love. And just reminding me of God's unconditional love and just massive support of people saying hey have lost. I know what that feels like. Most people don't understand but here's what I wanted to tell you all all of these beautiful people coming out and into my life saying I support you. I see you Sending you so much love take time to eh cry. Take time to think of all the memories and I will tell you the more that I've cried about it the more that I've let myself feel better I feel and I think this relates so much like allow yourself to feel those things and then also focus on the joy you can also switch lanes and not feel guilty about finding joy in different parts of your day or different parts of your life or in the memories because I do think that sometimes we can get caught in thinking that we feel guilt over over actually seeing joy or feeling joy in the beginning stages of losing something or something going wrong and I think that that joy is such a gift and that it's it's important to let joy wash over you just as much as grieving wash over you and I know that we are not referring to human beings but also I'm sure that this relates somewhat to losing someone and I have fortunately not lost any immediate family members so I am also dreading when that time comes and I'm sure that I will get on this podcast and speak about something completely different in a completely different way but I just want to send my love to anybody who is having a little bit of a tough New Year because that's okay too and joy and pain whether it's grief reef or pain. Joy and pain also exist on the same highway and it's truly so important to experience both and I know that something is happening in my heart right now and it is expanding to the extent that I have been able to experience a pain and loss I'm also on the other end noticing that my heart is expanding in love. It wants to love more and wants to love bigger and it wants to make room for other people other animals and I think that's because I am allowing it to and I'm not feeling guilty about the fact that we are just endless channels of love love endless channels of love and I will continue to share waffles wisdom because she is given me so much through the years. And I just want to remind you that if you are in pain right now are you feel bad or your business is not going how you want or your goals are not going how you want. That's part of it. That is a part of it. I think that we all need to speak about it a lot more. Because yes I'm building being this freaking awesome business of my dreams but I am so uncomfortable and it so painful while simultaneously. Being the coolest thing I've ever done. I questioned myself myself. Daily I question who I am what I'm thinking if I'm smart enough because I definitely don't feel smart enough and then I say this is how it feels like this is it. This is how it feels and if you want something you will figure it out and you will sit in that fire because everybody knows that I love the fire analogy. It's the only unle way to transform. It's the only way to expand as the only way to grow because sitting in a luke warm tub. Gets you nothing it gets you. Oh no movement it. Gets you lethargic it. Gets you not moving forward on your purpose and as human beings we are meant to grow we are meant to feel. We are meant to be supported by friends family in our community so fine. Those people I'll tell you what I will never ever ever ever isolate myself during hard times again. It's important to take those times alone but it's so important. I'm finding that even when I don't want to to go and be around people because people help people and friends and family are like the SAV for a broken heart so so go be around people let yourself be support. Let yourself get to know people let yourself be supported by a strangers message like let that in let that that in and moving forward into twenty twenty support yourself support yourself through tribe in through people because never before has it meant so much as building this this business in and simultaneously losing something and just also struggling with moving forward so I'm leaning in. I'm calling on friends and I'm calling on people I don't know and I'm stepping in and I'm stepping up and all of it feels like a mix of beautiful emotions like a rainbow of frigging emotions. So I feel you guys I feel all of you and I think that this year has such beautiful energy to Hewitt. I can tell you that much that no matter what I'm going through this year is like the most support of year that I can recall feeling so let yourself lean in into that thought and know that it's the best year for you to take leaps on things that you don't know or understand and let yourself find communities never before have I seen this. Many Supportive Communities Masterminds coaching events retreats popping up for people for women for anyone one who wants to start something new anyone who wants to meet someone new so if you are in victim mode right now. That's okay I want you to just give yourself grace and say hey. This was serving serving a purpose. I see this. It's probably the exact feeling of the people I'm going to serve in the future. Don't sit in that. Go support yourself because we can only be and feel supported to the extent that we are willing to support ourselves and our dreams will only happen to the extent that we are willing to support ourselves. So I'm sending you so much love and it means the world to me if you share this podcast. It's the only way it's getting out you guys is through your stories through sending it to friends through text messaging and it all means so much if you put what you got out of this so your friends know if it's for them if it's for them so if you haven't yet subscribed rated or reviewed that is Pretty much the life of a podcast asked so that would mean the world if you took a second if you've gotten anything out of this podcast to go and do that and I just wanted to tell you that I adore every single one of you. It means the world to me. I feel connected whenever you share. Whatever it is and wherever you're at and how impacted you and as always I love hearing different topics of what you're looking for so until next time guys earn your happy by everyone? Thank you so much for spending this time with me on the earn your happy podcast asked. I am so glad that you stopped by. If you could take one second to share this episode with someone you think would love it. That would be absolutely amazing and we would be forever grateful also. Please leave us a review if you feel so moved by going to tunes and leaving us an honest thought an honest comment. Tell us what you think. Tell us what you want to hear. More of. It would really help us out on our journey to helping thousands and thousands of people until until then. Don't forget to earn your happy Thanksgiving guys bye bye mm-hmm.
Power and Leadership - Best of Facebook Live
"The three PS of being a great remote teammate. If you work remotely you WANNA be on this call whether you are the leader or the team before we get started I want you to mark your calendars for November the fourth at one PM Eastern time for a free Webinar with my colleague Wayne Turmoil it's titled Almost everything that we ought to be thinking about because I believe at the end of the day how we as leaders think about this is a our and leadership is a choice and we must think about that choice I believe it comes down to basically two choices and the welcome to the remarkable leadership successful leader sign up by going to remarkable podcast dot com forward slash newsletter and now here's your host Kevin Choice a little bit of love there may be hope that all comes out okay so I'll say that again what we think about as leaders in relationship to let's get on with the episode the episode you are about to listen to was originally a facebook live consider this the best of Kevin's facebook lives I passed we are here each week to help you lead more confidently and make a bigger difference both professionally and personally this episode is answered by Kevin's free weekly newsletter unleashing your remarkable potential which is full of articles and resources to help you become more confident and they have some positional power and if you're thinking that you'd be right there's something that comes to us because of our first one is what I'm going to call the power grid Brab Yeah I'm going to grab onto the power I wanNA hold onto it I've been given it leadership podcast okay so here we go welcome everybody to another episode of Kevin Facebook Live today from his Home Office and so if you don't know we often do these facebook lives and then translate them and turn them into a later cast later cast on the remarkable leadership podcast remarkable podcast dot com for those of you on facebook glad that you're here now I just did most of this facebook live a few months ago all that great wow that's an interesting thought in and of itself isn't it so the reality is that if we make the choice of trying to and then there was a technical problem so I'm doing it again and hopefully it will go well hope maybe I'll be better because doing it a second time maybe a lesson for us all there position that gives us some power however I don't believe that in the end leadership is about a role or a position but rather about actions my topic today might focus today is on power and leadership two words that are inextricably linked to words that are connected in almost it's often about our ego it sometimes about what we think we're supposed to do because we don't have any other context I know lots of leaders who say I don't really know that we take in other words we're only leading if people choose to follow so if we stop with well there's power that comes as a leader because of our position if we stop there we're missing every way and if you think about the word leadership you often think about our and the place where most of a start is the fact that well as a leader as a manager as a supervisor I've earned it I'm going to keep it I'm going to get as much of it as I can get a hold onto it dearly because it's valuable and I wanted I'm being a little bit cynical but that's gotta do it again so if you're joining me here welcome glad that you're here from my office at my home not at remarkable house you might often see me hey everybody I'm going to try this again I'm GonNa do it differently than I did last time because we had some sort of technical glitch about eight minutes in I was almost done doing this facebook laughs a little bit about how we often see leaders right trying to hold onto that power that power grabbed power grab is about all about control are remarkable leadership podcast so that's going to do here so I'm going to do is I'm going to take one second I'm going to pause and we're GONNA actually start this for real because it'll be again used later on our remarkable grab onto the power trying to hold onto control it looks like command and control it looks like a dictatorship it looks like I'm in charge it looks like i WanNa make descended want you to consider the second option the second option if the first option is the power grab the second option is the power is granted at least some of the time but about the most we can expect from that place of a power grab from that place of control approach is about think about that for a second would you rather have compliance or commitment think about situations for yourself we're results can be significantly different right so if the power grab is about ego and control power granted is about to grab the power we're going to get commitment through influence by having power granted to us by our team here's the power grab about the best we can hope for is compliance but with power being granted to us by others we might get a whole lot of commitment sure that you know here's how we're GonNa do it now when we take this approach and probably all of us take that approach at least a little bit is it that we have a voice and we have a place and it's only valuable if people choose to follow and if they choose to follow the the most we can expect is compliance we're not going to get much more than just compliance and so I don't think to us by whom by others by those who choose to follow see the reality is that while power grab the power grab might be ability and influence see as a leader we are in the place if we think about our job as a place of influence about helping people make a choice say I'm in raising my hand and saying I'm in isn't that what we really want is commitment we're not going to get commitment by making the choice yeah how I'm supposed to do this so the way I ended up doing what I've seen before even if what I've seen before isn't all that red hot even I've seen before can make and maybe you've never thought about this choice for this dichotomy until tonight with one of the reasons why I'm doing this I want you to think about this choice focused on trying to take control which is often a misnomer anyway so let me just say this the reality the reality is that at the end of the day leadership is a very very big responsibility we have a responsibility for our team members and we have if as power granted to us by others through their action there's a big difference between control and influence a big difference between compliance and commitment and that's the choice we're making we don't may not realize we're making but when we choose to think about leadership in and if you think about what we just talked about I really haven't talked about any skills I've talked about choice and I've talked about a mindset just a small part of what we're GonNa talk about on instability for reaching the outcomes that either we have set or we have been a part of setting or we're we're being asked to move toward we have a big big response I'm for that and so that's all about power being granted and so I believe we have a choice as leaders to think about about our ego power granted is comes from a place of humility comes from a place of not taking things for granted not assuming things record very discounted rate if you qualify interested you can learn all of the details and what's available for this highly discounted price at all disability we can't shoulder that all alone we've got a much better chance of success if others come along behind us and say I'm in I'll follow you I'm in this is really all what we really want from a from our folks and yet that's often what people will say well I we got complaints we're getting things done I think there's another choice that we or are we going to allow power to be granted to us by our team are we going to be are we going to be willing to live in a world of influence as opposed to being about ready to close but if you've got a couple if you've got a question I'll answer them let me close again by saying that it's a choice that we have as leaders are we going to try to grab power a you give more effort where are you at your best when you feel like you're complying yes ma'am or when you are committed to the outcomes making the choices nder November the fourth one PM Eastern time join us for free go to remote leadership institute dot com forward slash teammate and I letting me know about something that I'm doing October the twenty first at two PM Eastern time over the twenty-first I'm doing a webinar called it takes more than skills to be a remarkable leader to follow helping people make choice that's in that's in alignment with what we're trying to accomplish organizationally or that is alignment with the purpose that we're trying to reach for the leader then how we're going to think about power and how we're going to deal with it and the choices this we think about leadership as being power grabbed or leaders how they will fit in your organization Kevin I dot Com for slash preview and we got a whole different situation don't we see influences harder than controlled outshout versus influence but the reality is with that I appreciate you joining me whether you've been with me live or with your whether you're listening to me later and I want to close you love what you hear on the remarkable leadership podcast in are wondering if we might be able to help you have a chance to preview are world class learning experiences or and leadership and our choice that we can make and I hope to make a conscious one in the choice that you make lead you to great results thanks so much most no risk by going to Kevin I can bury dot com forward slash preview yes a chance to interact with us see our world class learning experiences and see talk to Y'all soon there is no such thing as a free lunch this comes really close if your organization is looking to develop your leaders and if you whereas a place of something that is granted to us by others it's not something that we own but is anything that comes to us as a result of work we do in choices others make then we've got a time just go to Kevin I can dot com forward slash way W. A. Y. Kevin dot com forward slash way. If you're on the facebook you'll see you're on the side you can click it and for free you can join me on October the twenty first I hope you'll do that I really do and I hope that you think about the relationship between power that Webinar one of the most valuable and important webinars I've ever created it's called it takes more than skills to be remarkable leader. It's free October the twenty first
432: Get out of your way
"You it's not them it's not about the rejection it's serving you in some way and it is time to let it go you have so many people so many women so many men out there who want to help you who want you to succeed so whatever store you have you are holding onto it it is all occupy happiness every single day are you with me here we go. I can't wake up next Monday and be in the same spied you have to make yourself proud you WanNa know what greatness is you want to know what a great life is it's truly holding yourself soul and get focused and clear so you can elevate your life business and relationships we don't wait until we're ready for someone to tell us we're good enough and I think that for the first time I know will be nervous tomorrow but I am just so in it like I have not been getting at the audience and one thing that I have really noticed is that typically I you know through the years I've gotten very nervous of had a lot of anxiety around speaking in speak at pays to be brave which is Angie lease event and I cannot wait to be in front of I believe there's going to be fifteen hundred amazing human beings wheat take what we want and we annoyance ourselves get ready to earn own and on apologetically route wars zoom accountability. Whatever that looks like like maybe it's every other week that you connect with somebody and you get together so that you guys can hold each other responsible to your goals a share that were nervous and to remember that we're all in this human experience together in that I can't say the wrong thing to the right people and I think most of you know how people are GonNa take this that's the first thing that you need to get over because we just can't care anymore you guys life is way too precious we have bigger fish is insanely nervous as I used to because I think I'm so highly aware that our superpower is to really share where we're at and to share our truth and let me tell you that reaching out in connecting is going to be your next big step blake starting to ask people for accountability or in Person Accountability accountable being disciplined in making yourself proud you can't live a life where you are living for other people just because it's what you with you doing big things right wanting to do big things so I think it is important that we share so much of our journey and if you WANNA get over your fears you have to learn what your fears need to is to fry you have to get out of your own way this is vital like we can't play small anymore it's not okay and if you're still afraid to ask for things that you know maybe connecting worse asking someone don't yet feel worthy of or you're not sure if itself Love Junkie Lifestyle Entrepreneur and author each week I'll bring you a guest or thought that will help you bust through your fears connect here you know getting over your nerves is realizing who your audience is as well and these people could not be more my audience people who are out in the arena welcome back to the earn your happy podcast and it's time for another quick because there's always time it tiffany inspiration and I'm about to head down to San Diego to we supported and I talk about this all the time you guys because if you actually got it you would be doing what you wanna be doing in a big way and a lot of you are so a lot of I just need these constant reminders and right now for many of you I am your tribe right this podcast is your tribe the other podcasts that you listened to our your tribe the books that you read are your tribe seen in your past or done on your pass or what you've seen your mom do or what you've seen your family do there are new times arising because there are new things that we have to do in the world and we have to step in and we have to step in for all of the people who have not stepped in before and we have to step in for our future children we have to step in for our grandmothers we have to step in for our ancestors for all the people who didn't it really is up to you if it's going to change and we keep trying to put this on other people and we keep trying to ask for other people to save us and keep trying to wait for other people to come and rescue us am or three am or four am or five am and you've been waking up in a cold sweat or you're waking up in the morning and you just and she has this and I don't have the stop focusing on what you don't have in just start focusing on what needle you can move it's going to be small it's GonNa feel like you're not anything it's GonNa feel overwhelming it's going to feel like you can't do it it's GonNa feel like you don't necessarily have access to it but you do and in order to get around that you have we're not keeping yourself safe anymore fear is literally trying to wake you and shake you up in the middle of the night I know it has been I know it's been greeting you at so that it saves you from yourself it saves you from safety it saves you from a small life because you're saying no that you are meant to be doing something and it is getting so frustrating and it's time and fear is trying to wake you the F. up I just have to stop believing the lies that you're making up in your head about why you can't because you know that those lies are just there to try to keep you safe and if you're fine you can do hard things asking people to help you is not going to kill you sending those emails asking for something that you desire and trying to add value is not going to kill you getting rejection is not going to kill you we will look back on this time as the most free creative time where we can create anything in the world this is the time the time is now it may not always be this easy and we made we are so blessed especially if you live in the US that we get to decide and shoes things that we want to do not always have this opportunity so I beg of you to seize it now because this is the best time to do it this is the best time to start failing you have so many people so many women so many men out there who want to help you who want you to succeed so whatever store you have whatever you have whatever trauma you have had whatever you're going through whatever sickness whatever illness whatever it is that is actually something that's going to help of it this is so important it is your voice that's so needed you have to stop putting yourself down you have to stop blocking yourself it's time to let it go because you can live like this any more and it's your choice that you're living like this and it's the most empowering thing to realize when you know that viewer scared because you're worried about rejection or you're worrying about getting bullied or you're worried about people calling you stupid or telling you that you're wrong or served the world it's going to help you because it's going to make you stronger it's going to make you heal yourself it's going to make you pay attention to your health it's going to make you you are holding onto it it is all you it's not them it's not about the rejection it's serving you in some way and it is time to let it go take it your superpower stop believing the lies and it's mostly the lies that you're telling to yourself that thing that you think is stopping you is your actual power that thing that you think just stopping you is your power my anxiety was my power over again it's called choosing pain over and over again you guys you have to wake up and you have to go you have to wake up and you have to do you have to wake up and you have to move past. I wouldn't be able to talk and I'm not smart enough all of those things are my power because it's why you relate to me because I started talking about them bring it to the light altered chosen horrible painful life so if you know you're meant to do big things in your choosing to place mall that's called choosing pain over moving through and where you are living on purpose you will sleep so good you will feel so close to your greater you will feel so incredibly tidy is my power even though it was debilitating and I told myself I couldn't do it because of it and my panic attacks and because I'd be so embarrassed and what if I pass out and all of these other keep you safe or the ones who are criticizing bullying or whatever that you have to let go you have to believe in a better future than what is in your present right now but save yourself from the situation it's going to make you get stronger and then it's GonNa make you teach other people who have that hot to do it and remind them that they have to be in this time with me on the earn your happy podcast I am so glad that you stopped by if you could take one second to share this episode even I'll tell you the most delicious sleep comes when you step into your purpose and you have full days where you are just facing your fears where you are the best way to tell your future is to create it so you guys get out there today and go create something that can make you proud when your head hits the pillow tonight because it's time for some good sleep threw it stop resisting it because that pain of making it up in your head is worse than when it will actually come and it will come and it's going to be awesome because you'll have Ernie to helping thousands and thousands of people until then don't forget to earn your happy Thanksgiving guys bye bye into the president right now get grateful for the present but know that you are in full full full full power over your future you also have to practice massive gratitude for whatever is in your president because truly it is the gift to help you realize who you are friends to help you get through it it's going to be the worst thing that's ever happened and the best thing that's ever happened and you're gonNA tap into a life beyond your wildest dreams and I'll tell you I'd rather be with someone you think would love it that would be absolutely amazing and we would be forever grateful also please leave us a review if you feel so mood oh up for your life and a lot of you aren't showing up for your life so you never get to actually know what you're made of or what life is really about and that is a small imprisoned welcome to the earn your happy podcast. I'm Laurie harder founder of the blest project three time fitness world champion fitness expert and cover models all of these stories. You have to let go of the friends who don't believe in you don't WanNa help you you have to stop listening to family members who think they're trying to help you you're not made of anything until you know what you're made of and you can't know what you're made of until you actually get to practice on the things that come into your life and these things can't come into your life if you don't show Foale and I wish that for each and every one of you so you guys until next time you're happy by everyone thank you guys so much for spending moved by going to I tunes and leaving us an honest thought an honest comment tell us what you think tell us what you want to hear more of it would really help us out on our person who knows they can handle it and can go through it and can tap into their prayer and their creator and lean into faith. When do you get practice if you don't get that stuff you guys when you get to practice taking you down online or bullying you yes that could happen and if it does awesome you're going to be better for it and you're GonNa get through it you're going to be better for it and you'RE GONNA get.
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Moment of the Day (9/4/19)
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The Power of Flexibility in Business & Life
"Hey everyone and welcome to impact the podcast so a lot of you are probably wondering why the name change a lot of other things if you haven't actually listened to episodes WPRO yet please go check out episodes zero because it's only a couple of minutes long tells you exactly why everything had to be changed in the new and improved mission thanks for joining me on the first episode of impact the podcast yes and we will see inside the group to you next week up against something where something maybe doesn't always pan out and it doesn't go according to plan and instead of just saying well crap now I can the marketing life in general all of that fun stuff that we all do so today we wanted to talk about flexibility so we had to change that and get different perspectives on my own but that was something that I had to learn and that's that's why I love hanging out with you guys right because you guys are outside and coming up against obstacles that means you're actually up and doing something to get somewhere and it's just a a reason of course correct a little bit absolutely yes because typically when you're inside the problem you can't see outside the problem and it usually took getting the perspective of somebody else to help me now I can jump myself out aw hey andrew so we really wanted to talk about so if you haven't listened episode zero and you don't want to go back right now actually realized that the way that we do things a little differently last time I was actually doing more hosting and interviewing people now it's going to be more of like an open forum we're going to have the podcast so we had to actually be flexible in how we did that so Brenda Greg what are your insights into flexibility when somebody comes running into obstacles is something that actually is a good thing we look forward to those because those are become challenges that we can move past and they boost is are there to show me and teach me tell me hey there may be another way around this or there may be more to this than you can see and I love that I like celebrating the obstacles that we come up against because that just means we're making progress we're moving forward in life we're going after what we want and so and actually do this how do we overcome and become flexible and for me I mean number one the reason you need to be flexible is because you've had winston obstacle whether it's something really traumatic or if it's something that's just a little more frustrating how does one actually turn in and find the positives in that because it was a process to get to the point in my life where that became just kind of second nature and it started with having to sit down and having desk to the next level in so many cases okay so how can we celebrate it though like when when you're going through something and boxer you're outside my problem sometimes in some of the things that we do we share some of those problems sometimes or those challenges those opportunities but most of the time you got I know a lot of times people may struggle may or may not struggle with finding the positives isn't something so how can somebody who may be struggling finding the positives in hr that I don't see in this nice I like that what about for you it's really weird like why would you celebrate the things that you run into they're getting in your way but here's the thing when you're sitting still you're not running into anything so I just celebrate the fact that you're even moving coaches tell me hey look for this and helping me through that or talking to friends or advisors outside of you know me to help see orange obstacle how can they actually find that positive thing I'd like to say that it's an an a simple simple thing and I think that's something that at least for me of this has to become true otherwise it can't succeed can't be something that I celebrate the path if it's not the path that's laid out then of set expectations for how things are supposed to go because yes you WANNA have a goal and you want to get to a certain goal in all the things life so that I can because I dabble a facebook ads and I do a lot of marketing and stuff like that and everything it boils down to testing so you can't actually say the situation that comes around that so taking detours and stuff and allowing yourself to celebrate the detours and sometimes at sex sometimes I you have to have ten heart surgery that we talk about in everything that we do about goal setting and stuff and we'll talk about that later episodes and everything but a lot of the times we always have this one expectation go on I think before you even think about how you're going to overcome the obstacle is actually doing something that a lot of people don't think to do which is celebrating the obstacle and I know it gonNa make a hundred sales without knowing the exact path to do it but sometimes do the exact same path to get one hundred sales may look differently than you may have different we specifically teach when we're talking about how to set goals and outcomes that are achievable the last step that so many people forget about is letting go the form that part where you set the destination San Francisco and I think that letting go of the form of how we get places because it is about expectations and yes you want to know where you're going finding finding out the real purpose of behind why it was happening and I was the only way that thing that got me through it was because I knew that a lot of the nurses coming but when you release the expectations of what it's supposed to look like you actually allow universe to oftentimes step in with something so much better than you ever to look at it when it comes to celebrating obstacles and sometimes the obstacles aren't fun and sometimes we just have to figure out okay what's what who was able to think like this you know seven ten years ago before I started learning everything that I was learning looking back and then you let go of the exact path to get there if I know that we're making a road trip in November and we're driving up to San Francisco San Francisco is my destination but there are so many we're struggling with the other patients that they had so I had to look outside of myself and say okay so the nurses are already having a hard time having to work in the icy I can't celebrate that and I'm just going to get frustrated with that I've learned that for me at least I need to take away that expectation of this is the way that it needs to look and I need to see it imagined and sometimes it takes those obstacles to kind of course correct you because the reason you ran into obstacles you kinda going the wrong way and you needed to get back now it's so easy to look at all of those things and now because I can look back at the course corrections I've had and see why they were there or topping and talk about it talk about some problems that you may or may not be going through and how to overcome it and the solutions of of anything that we do when it comes to mindset business on the course to actually get to something bigger and better and when you can start accepting Matt and that was definitely something I had to learn how to do I was definitely not a person without me being in that situation they wouldn't have had a better experience they might have had another patient that just made their lives a little tougher so that's kind of how can I learn what can I learn from this situation and how can actually move forward and I love there were a couple of things that you said in there that Kinda cute mi in one of the things that for what purpose they were showing up what I was needing to learn now I've translated that into when I hit those obstacles now because guys I still hit the option he's to figure that out I had to do that and it was hard in those moments of having to celebrate it because I I'll tell you I didn't want to celebrate it in yourself to begin to see a way around it or see another possibility and let go of that that determinism if you will of its is occurring what am I supposed to be learning here find that positive except the positive peace and move on so I think for everybody listening God why is this happening to me why why are you know why am I having to go through this experience and it took a long time took a couple years of front ways that I can get there and there could be detour and it's not about will I have to take this road and this freeway and this in order to get to San Francisco it's as long as I get pickles now we definitely don't want you to think that you learn this in life becomes perfect that's it it's all about shifting your mindset on how you look at the things that are happening in life so now in life we have had to practice we've had to come up against those obstacles and over time you train your mind you train to start you on the path and then as you start working together you start coming in together and finding new relationships and when you go out to events in and that all comes back to either having a coach or having somebody that you can turn to in those situations when you come up against an obstacle and say hey maybe you your seat maybe you see something and be in the middle of chaos and destruction and what everybody else would call you know tragic or traumatic things and I can simply say for what purposes fun Oh superfund okay there's things that you guys but you go find your people and I think that's a key thing that understand me and it's okay if somebody doesn't understand you because that's why so many that's what brings us together as humans is that they may not understand I mean it depends upon what the situation is it depends on if it's if it's a business thing the way that I like to look at things is I don't ever have a lot we're in agreement that it does take practice life yeah we've known each other a while now and we know where each other has come through in looking at it I think for personal stuff to having someone who has gone through something different so that they can bring a different perspective because I think there there is that echo chamber if and it hasn't been all rainbows still not and it's still not and so on that journey on that path that we've taken to get where we are to this point only going to be this way so practice practice makes perfect and have people you can rely on then as well to help you see around that officer I turn inward because I didn't want to bother people with my problems because everyone else is so positive I didn't want to bother them with it or be they could stuff networking events or personal development events or anything that you're interested in it could be even underwater basket weaving but you find the people hey that's cool I like that that's why like hanging out with you guys but I mean that's that's a that's a really big key to all of this is finding your tribe exactly what you've been going through at that current time but they've probably gone through something similar or something of equal trust nobody's life is is you how can I make their lives better can improve their lives in that allowed me to find the positives so I can actually learn to celebrate what was going on through me because maybe when everyone's only had the same problem because then they will bring from their past all of the coaching advice that may or may not be the most beneficial so many times like you said misery loves company right so you get with people who have been in those same situations been through the same things exact same things you have and leading my life because I want that outside influence outside perspective in to get out of the echo chamber so to say all areas of life I mean relationships family issues yes business I mean there's so many different areas that this can apply to where when you have that practice it comes in handy and becomes a life skill that allows you to get past and move forward not only as quickly as possible but also we run into issues we run into problems or obstacles if you will where that being that flexible or adaptable comes into when it comes gone through and and at that point then all of a sudden you're stepping into their model of the world the way that they're feeling the way that they're perceiving the world from this experience taking that knowledge and then saying okay I'm gonNA use this in the future should I ever run into this obstacle again I think I think definitely seeking outside outside sources to you know ask ask how can I how can I look at this differently but we tend to forget is when it comes to coming up against an obstacle a lot of the Times I know for me when I was going through what I was dealing with with my heart stuff said learning as much out of the experience as possible and taking that knowledge because that is truly what gets you moving again realizing what it is I'm to learn you know there's positive spirals and negative spirals neutral just kind of hanging out and I always strikes those positive spirals and that typically does require getting around people who aren't maybe they didn't see the way around it maybe they're still stuck maybe they're still having issues and it could be sometimes years after what they've ever would I've got this I've got this knowledge I've got this foundation I know how to approach it and it also will give you that that motivation hopefully to keep keep going and pushing for well I mean there's a there's a couple of different things number one it's realizing if you WANNA take it as a sign awesome however take it as a sign that they're supposed to be a different path for you that is and it may not be the best way so having somebody who may be is outside the normal community space of yours and this goes this goes to in your community so word system your support system that may or may not be your family that may or may not be somebody you may not have to be somebody that you have to hire up an apple id today because let's be honest it's supposed to be very simple to set up an apple id you log in and you go into it Lord I love that and there's there's so many things that we can continue to build upon that and everything but the whole reason that you hit that frustration that signed that this isn't working and that this isn't for you you hit an obstacle an obstacle is a result it's a result that you're on the wrong path other times people when they come up against obstacles they say oh it didn't go this way so it must not it's not meant it's not meant family Sharon you create the child accountant I did all of that except when it came to accepting the final terms and agreement it said can't do this action right now okay is probably a better one and I mean the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and over and expecting different results that path you were on was not getting you the results which is beat the trust I can I can talk I think it's not meant to be I'm not supposed to go down this road I'm not supposed to achieve success in this area of my life I know when I was bill and they will bring that as truth and fact because that's what they've all heard and then you get into the echo chamber and then you all kind of sit in misery together and exactly right yeah well and sometimes it's better in the same way that you know a great business mastermind gets you round people with businesses different than yours because they have different ways hi doing this and I just got off it for a little bit and then I realized that my body does better when I actually integrated other foods with did cycles of Keita's Oh maybe I shouldn't do this anymore and then I bounced off the bandwagon and then I know Brennan was like we'll have tried shifting in a little bit have you doing the Keto Diet I've switched back to the date just slightly different I know when I had a plateau I got frustrated and I was like well I'm I'm just supposed to be in this body forever so every week I do cycles Akito and then a go off of it still eat clean diet but I'll just add a little more carbs to it or something along those lines and I know what what are your that doesn't mean that you don't have that same ending place to end up that just means you're taking the wrong route I mean okay so case in point setting IPAD now working there either okay let's call tech support she has no clue where doing everything correct okay fine let's get on the Mac because it has to be done through the Peter Programmer who missed a link and people who build sales funnels and all of that I know how easy it is to missile ink pens they just rolled out a whole new Oh s. okay let's do it that way and it's not working here okay well there's a computer programmer somewhere who did not do his job and we could have I could've sat here try it again still can't so I could sit there all day long on my phone and do it again and again and get really super frustrated and I was like well let's try from the and then spiral down that frustration being stuck being stubborn about it pretty much and so at that point channel and that was really the ultimate outcome is it on the family share no is it functional yes did I get away wanted no can I eventually aol there's a lot going on one little link got not done correctly and for what purpose would I get upset with that that would just ruin my night which would ruin your you're in chosen because it's a gift for somebody and I could have gotten really frustrated and been really angry and let that completely destroyed my night or it was okay well can't set up a child I D person on the other end of that phone when it came to tech support so and that was really just about I needed to get the phone to work and she did what she could yelling at her wasn't GonNa fix the fact that there's another route to get there what's another route to get there because just because you hit an obstacle isn't assigned to stop it's just a sign that there is a different paths us and so many people though would be screaming yelling at tech support she couldn't do anything a computer programmer didn't link something correctly somewhere that's can we just do a regular ID and just locked down the phone and we will figure out family sharing later when with the new IOS whatever computer something didn't get linked right is not on her and she was on hold trying to get it fixed and didn't want us to sit any longer and there comes that point where when you can step back and go there's when they get that re-linked we'll just switch that over and guess what we have a functional phone it's doing what it needs to do we got to the final destination which is a gift for somebody that's fun I thought's on what people can do when they've competence that and they have the thoughts of Just not meant to be how do you break that apart for my apple. Id Password like thirty eight jillion times and still not get anywhere and switch machine and we wanted to Brenda was flexible she the most flexible person in any system wins because I can choose to be flexible I was able to get the phone setup had I chosen to be infinite supposed to be taking and when you can get to that point what we do is neuro linguistic programming or NLP on one of the first things we learned was the law of requisite variety which basically said how many people out there they get you get stuck something comes up an obstacle and it's so easy to go into a state of frustration sometimes and Jen stay there was flexible when it comes to the apple in setting that up today I applaud you for that because a lot of people would have gotten upset and angry at that against you from actually getting out of that state it's fun so with that so somebody who's it's just I shouldn't I'm not supposed to have the body that I used to have all of those things all you know all of those human thoughts and things pollen deer head tonight which would then eventually ruin my kids when they get home and ruin the birthday and it just it would spiral from their gods a great point because when somebody gets stuck and let's be honest physiology really does affect a lot of what's going on it affects how you can see things the answers you can pull the behaviors in the results that you get it does it does it do anybody any good that's the question who does who is it doing any good to be in that state absolutely nobody especially the person who's so even just walking away for a second and taking a break in distracting yourself with something else oftentimes the answer becomes that let's talk about some some mindset stuff to get them out of or some processes that they can do to move through that and get them past that I think the biggest very clear the second you stop trying to look for it it's in the effort of trying to find that you find that you get stuck that hyper focus where you yeah absolutely one is stop and take a step back and breathe and breath because that's my that's my favorite will change your language about it right so we talk about it being an obstacle or a problem that comes up we have been trained so focused on just the the obstacle or just the problem that's all you can think about in in some cases it consumes people so I like that and we use this all the time now with each other daily to change our language about what's happening we can talk about the same thing that's happening but from a challenge perspective how is this a challenge for me this this obstacle moving it to that challenge perspective I love a good going out going stepping back taking a breather for a second what else what else can what else can they do one of my favorites it might be fun actually and if you WanNa take your language even further how is it an opportunity for you what is it about this this situation this event that's happening that is an opportunity for something else growth especially of course in learning launch to be honest with you I think a lot of people out there do and so when something becomes a challenge it Kinda calls you to action to see how how can I get past this Dr Well and then when you get in that state your entire ability to see other solutions shuts down which just files you into more stuck right Xibalba would still be sitting here with a brick and you'd be stuck right and I think probably frustrated angry yeah which we never got it was like the only time I got frustrated when I had to end not to mention I mean all the physiological factors that go into your you know frontal cortex shut down your stress levels go up you've got all the biological factors that then were everything and then also lastly change your language and change it from being an obstacle to a challenge so if you're out there wondering well I don't really have a support group out there right now what what else is available in this this opportunity and when you start talking about it as an opportunity it changes again your physiology we believe we allow ourselves to get so frustrated and we don't realize the tension is just causing the airways to construct and everything so your brain's already getting upset and changes the way you think about it I challenge everybody out there to to talk about it in a different way begin there because you can change your language so easily more people online all of that kind of stuff no matter what it is we always want to make sure that you surround yourself with people that you truly want to see succeed in they wanna see it's triggering on the rep and everything going on in the United flight five or flight and just take a second to stop and breathe and just having that one second just take a deep breath in the more that becomes all you see the second you walk away and you get out of that situation for a second it allows things to come back in join us in our impact group for all of your all of 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Introducing Let's Talk ETFs: 'Aha' ETF Moments With ExponentialETFs' Phil Bak
"Welcome to let's talk you t at seeking out the newest podcast i'm your host jonathan listen i've been closely tracking the each space for more than thirteen years through a variety of roles here at seeking alpha dot com each week different question i will take an indepth look at a particular aspect of the rapidly evolving exchange traded funds with a focus on how investors best utilize yet to reach their investing goals and subscribe to this podcast on apple podcasts google podcasts or spotify or whichever podcast platform you prefer the first episode will be live on wednesday july tenth just a few short weeks away so i'm joined today for this mini episode by still box ceo of exponential each year bill is not only a good friend of mine he's one of the most insightful people i know before founding exponential still had a variety of roles in each yes space most recently is a managing director at the new york stock exchanges you tf group and before for that as a senior product manager recoup so and i will be doing a phone lines episode in about a month so definitely make sure to come in check that out when we release that episode don't truly great to have you here is my inaugural guest thank you thank you jonathan grigsby on yeah often so a question that i think it'll be interesting that'll be asking a lot of guests and i'd i'd love to hear you retail you're story is well is that i think a lot of people in that each space today like yourself a people been in that you gsp's really from the early days had this kind of a high come to jesus kind of moment where one second they were regular everyday people and investors in following be experience at they had they were suddenly event jellicoe about exchange traded funds and i was hoping that you could share you're each yet story with our listeners yeah well you know i think starting with a really willing bernstein's book and learning about asset allocation and that led me to a lot of the work that was being done back at the time of the knicks universe which is now you t f dot com but a lot of the writing is done talking about you know the simple benefits the tax efficiency andy a intraday liquidity and the transparency and a lot of you know basic attributes of us that are now very well known but you know back at the time i started my career is a day trader end this is back right before right around the time of the dot com pop end you know at the time there is such a thing is just you know momentum day trading you're just sitting there like a video game some things moving you're trying to jump in jump out 'em using some technical analysis not really a whole lot of fury behind what you're doing not a lot of intellectual stimulation what you're doing an nothing that couldn't be replicated and eventually that was replicated announced on by an algorithm and you know i'm looking around at the trading desk and and thinking is that all there is is that is that how trading on wall street works is my first job i did know any different an early lead me to a series of discoveries about you know active management and processors vs a discretion and you know ultimately when you start getting a little kiki you about it and how these different product structures worked in are delivered what is the most efficient ways to deliver an investment thesis earn access or any other a package solution what is the best vehicle to deliver that to investors and i found that the btf okay sure and that was back in early two thousands i guess so were you investing in mutual funds at that time or kind of went when did you make that that crossover i wasn't investing in anything i was a you know china scrounge together enough money to go out with a development my friends forever for beer to living with four other roommates in a in brooklyn right after college is a long way from investing but i was treating us trading a first equities then i got into a currency markets i was helping other clients trade through one of these a broker dealers on fx platforms working occasionally the graveyard shift is pretty grew in job but i will see all my clients lose money now is that a social function and are standing in a circle and somebody said hey phil you're a traitor well you know what what you're tips what's a good way to invest and you know again i've gone to be trading dot com stocks so now watch clients lose their money trading highly levered fx bats and i said i said listen i said there's no trading secret just by up lowcost portfolio you ts and again this is back maybe two thousand one two thousand two this is a long time ago and one of the people standing in a circle said oh i'm so surprised to hear you say that i'm about to start a company under that premise and that guy's name is sandra gerber he has headphones hudson bay capitol and at the time you starting a company called x t f asset management some of what a derivative of which is still around today as x t f you to have data platform but it that conversation ended up leading to meet joining sdf as kind of an analyst jack of all trades type in stayed there for about two years and it really started off my career and yes nice and the rest is history as they say well history still determined anyway i felt thank you so much a this is great and i think i will give people at night taste of what's you can hear thanks jonathan i look forward to be a longer podcast gratulations on their new pocket yeah thanks thanks for listening you can subscribe gillette talking t s on apple podcast google podcast spotify
E025 New Years FileMaker Resolutions
"Welcome to file maker off the record you're listening to thomas and theresa of profile developers discussing all the things filmmaker for developers and power users leaning three weeks late that was pitiful okay she did it again happy new new year's over enthusiastic happy linear happy new year theresa happy new year thomas how're you doing pretty well i must say did you have a good set of holidays did did i did i did have a good set holidays yeah yeah i went to disneyworld you did did did you go with anybody so my whole family went you know what's funny what's funny with that i- linda the disney to town funny how that worked out so did you enjoy it yes it was exciting we got to see galaxies edge then went to the other worldly too and saw surprisingly lots and lots what's of humans more humans than anything else yeah i was i was quite surprised at that i thought it would be a little more kind of multi-cultural darrelle her i guess not multi-cultural but switz- would what would be interspecies there'd be a little more inter species the presence there yes but still it was it was very nice very nice kids kids got some a little shoulder porguese to to have little porguese on their shoulders poor thing not with yes it was quite exciting so this is absurd twenty five twenty five twenty five since like just like a silver anniversary of some sort we made it so we got that yes it's a new year so today we're gonna talk about our new year's resolutions yes with regards birt's defile mic yes because why not i agree so i have some new year's developer l. epa resolutions these are things that i should be doing all the time but i don't because because i don't know about you but when i'm in the midst of develop so i'm developing something that's a little off the cuff or on the fly you know something that we haven't been talking about for a week in kind drilling down into somebody says we need a report that does this in my head i'm like oh great awesome i know how to do that a. bang this out and so while i'm doing that i'm going through the steps in you know how sometimes you write scripts before you get to your computer you're already saying oh yeah i'm gonna do that i'll do the loop and then i'll do the oria right so then once you hit your computer it's like the typing away furiously and you're just moving through the steps so you get you get out of your head and you forget to clean things up to comment thoroughly i'm working quickly creating creating a new layout for this report moving things around might hop into the relationship graph if i knew need a new relationship to a piece of this work and i go into the relationship graph and there's parts of it that needs clean up but i don't do it then because i'm in the middle of something my brain is trying to solve this problem or writing the script were doing in this now and i don't go back into into these areas of the of the system to clean them up regularly and i need to do that more regularly because i can't do it while i'm working i can't do gina disassociate and say oh while i'm in the graph i'm going to cleanness up one of my goals is to a scheduled time to do very on purpose developer maintenance which is going into the graph and and cleaning up areas sometimes i might have some talks that are crowded and every everything's named right it's always named correctly but sometimes there's there's occurrences that are on top of each other things get busy in a particular the area especially if it's a section where a section where we've been working for a while and there's a lot of relationships simpson lot of table occurrences we're adding in a new little piece so we have to drop a couple more table occurrences in and drop a few more relationships ships while they're kind of sitting on top of each other now it's gonna take an hour to clean up the section of the graph because we have to move all these these these big sections and space everything out and it's gonna take time and i always say plow get later so to do this regularly go in assign the time clean up the graph reorder the scripts because i am also guilty of creating script and leaving it where it lies in and not restricted virtually anywhere oh yeah and this kind of go off track for just a second but it's difficult sometimes to know how to organize scripts because do you organize them by area do you organize them by function do you organize it sometimes it smits plain as day where this needs to go this goes with a group of these other scripts that run on the server her so they're in the server side scripts folder but sometimes you know contract management you have scripts that deal with the contractor certain parts of it there's just this variety and where it can go another maintenance item would be to deal with layouts else we don't allow people to use the layouts menu generally generally we hide our layouts from the layout menu but when we're working on it if you have all these layouts out of order just because i know i'm working on them there at the bottom so so you know to reorganize make sure the ones that i'm not using anymore because we've you know were under version two version three of this functionality so mark these unused get them out of the the the set of layouts at the top now that we should be using cleaning up that area as well yes layouts aren't too bad i i find that scripts are very hard to because that's one of the reasons i'm guessing that you're scripts kinda get misplaced is because we don't have hard and fast rules about how to organize organize our scripts if any listeners have some tips just how you do it yeah what what tactics other people are taking to organize their scripts by function by layout i actually heard some developers the group in that way so yeah i love to hear suggestions on other ways yeah we we end up organizing them within folders and they're somewhat helpful in the naming naming them as more important because we just search might might but it would be nice to have a set of guidelines that made more sense when my one of my resolutions is the same as is that which is to schedule time for cleanup and make sure that part of my week is used to make sure that things stay organized within the solutions that i'm working on and a big part of that for me is when writing scripts to make sure that i comment comment them properly so whenever i'm writing a really long complex script really off that that i don't usually really have trouble with comment comment pieces of it before i even write it in the comments guide the right share which that that works really really well yeah yeah but whenever it's a little chunk of code in a script that's ten or twenty lines long right that you're just with an off and when i say two hundred twenty includes the returns and spacing those i the NFL without because this is probably for a system awesome that's currently in production they just need some extra functionality oh by the way we need this yesterday right i say can you make it do it but with a different sort so you write a script quickly so my one of my resolutions is to not let that happen the the night will at minimally put in that i wrote the script with the date is i'm doing it roughly would it why it's there at least it's something to guide me later on whenever i'm looking through if i have some time also just to go through scripts does l. here's one that i ever commented comment now at least it'll be something that would that'll help me down the road so what's one of my resolutions and another another to just go back and clean up everything although i have less trouble with that when it comes to like the relationship relationship graph anytime i do anything there i spend a little bit too much time because i it needs to be wind up before it closed the window right that's that's just an ideal so the those those end up not being as much a problem right yeah if i'm if i'm building a new thing with its own with a new talk i will definitely make sure that that's clean in its own space but it's it's typically only one i'm building onto something something that's already there and like i said it's already busy then i'm adding more to that business and i can't be bothered at the moment to to clean that up because like i said it's a takes me out of the the flow that i'm in so yeah so dedicating time into this as another one of my resolutions that is a a dedicated non development time because again again with my my inability to switch gears very quickly if i if i come to my desk and sit at my computer and i opened up and you know what i was working on yesterday is looking at me i feel drawn to to get back into bad it pulls me in and and i need to not develop sometimes so that i can work on other things like more more project management management and business side items so another resolution is to force myself to not develop for certain chunks of time which you've already started yes that was a new thing i started at last week and it was quite successful my desk clean for the first time and of very long time but the cats already knocked over several several things and he keeps trying to sleep on my mouse bad but that's that's been successful so another one for me is continual learning you're good at that though but there's always room for improvement yeah chew true true so for continual learning i count almost everything check check check so listening listening to podcasts other than ours i mentioned some of the ones i listened to before but in like filmmaker talk doc and that con- context so it's up context podcast and there's there's a few others i mentioned mentioned those two just because of their recent the recent episodes on a recent context podcast they were talking about virtual lists yeah and kevin frank was was on it very interesting all kinds of ideas and this is a technique we use a a lot yeah and just to hear other people how they're using it methods yeah it was very interesting i listened to the whole thing yet so i am looking forward to that yeah yeah very good one on a recent filmmaker talk podcast they were giving a few tips and one of them was how to script to sort by the second repetition of a repeating field did you know that was even impossible i had never thought of it before i mean it doesn't come up a whole lot but but it does happen actually i think i actually think that i will need to do that in one of the reports that i'm working on so you'll have to tell me so you can listen to their podcast which is very good he ended has other information in it so i'll give this out repeat this one tip though yeah wanna get more co listen to full episode will you put a so you want to put the field showing the second repetition on a layout right click in that ed field and select your sort okay and it'll of course sort then open up your script will it have you have it for you old bracket too nice right found like are so smart so smart was another one they said in that there was another tip one where he said you could that you can highlight in it'll search that that the portion that's highlighted yeah so if you have if you have a of field with a with the phrase and john w smith if you highlight smith in right click and concerned an find matching it'll do just the smith if that's what you have highlighted yeah that's handy oh my gosh yeah another one like you know doing this a long time i i just had no idea so it's enjoy learning enjoy learning things like that helps fill out the fill long ago yeah and when stuff like that is like when you when you bring out your winter coat and you find a twenty in the pocket you know because because it's like it's there but it's this little surprise that you stumble upon and then you know and then they share it this this is great good stuff now and another resolution that i have which isn't isn't particularly for developing thing but it's to dedicate sometime to social platforms because i am not great at social things i have accounts on some social platforms but i barely use them and i and i feel bad about that just just because i think if people are reaching out to me and i'm going to bother having an account out in the first place if someone's going to reach out to me then i should be should be reaching back so i'd like to work on that so spending spending some time reviewing things on linked in maybe even on twitter fish probably stuff on twitter right so i know there's file my stuff on facebook you know there's plenty of things out there to follow and i am not i'm not as good good with keeping up and educating with what's out there in forums and websites and and what's posted on social platforms so i need to be better at that and i'm going to make an effort to do that another thing that we've talked about for awhile but we haven't done anything with yet is the potential to make some videos on topics because in some cases we talk about concepts and so much of the stuff is so visual and would be much better served served to have some video behind it we'd like to work on creating some videos and putting out some content on youtube so that's another thing that we want to dedicate some time to and i have a background in video from another lifetime or two lifetimes ago at this point maybe leverage that yes why not use a little bit dust off mild skill set and put it to work so yeah there's a lot of great content out there there's which again i mentioned before the productive computing is one of the ones out out videos and there is a a few other companies putting stuff out regularly that's you know serious quality and a lot of value for the for the money assume you know a lot of these are free yeah and still very valuable so i recommend them you you mentioned facebook there's a facebook what group i guess they call them four found maker where people post questions and get responses from multiple developers very quickly that stuff moves really fast and there's the official found the developer community the official filmmaker community and there's FM forums on FM forums dot com if if anyone's listening has never been there you should go there that's a really large forum that's been around for years and years and years that one's run by a compounded by stephen lansky who send us an email recently with over the workflow workflow to help us out on a project yeah and that was helpful that was an i love this community oh yeah you know you get you get help from people bowl we didn't ask for help on this on this specific issue but it was a real issue and it was good health i'm not i wanted one second l. sure yeah yeah i mean when when somebody reaches out and says hey here's how i do it works pretty well he can help in any way that's that's great that's great to share it absolutely does yes yes own i think anyone that emailed us reach us is because we've gotten a few emails from different people and and we appreciate the feedback first of all but the boy do we appreciate the support so i think we're gonna cut a little bit short i have a cough that will not go away yeah so i think this is starting to be difficult okay all right then well thanks everybody for listening and if you wanna reach us by all means send us an email at off the record at profile developers dot com if you are in a position as you're listening to this to write a brief review we we'd appreciate hate that it really helps get the word out so whatever platform you're listening on positive review it would be nice sort last resolution is to try to be a little more consistent with the podcast releases that's a good one though who don't let me jot that down thanks again thanks for listening we really appreciate it bye bye take me
291: Your Journey WILL Be Messy, and That's PERFECT
"Really look at where you're stopping yourself because you're focusing on. You don't wanna screw up or you don't want it to be difficult or you don't want it to be hard. And instead embrace all of those things. Welcome to the earn. Your happy podcast. I'm Laurie harder founder of the bliss project. Three time fitness world champion, fitness expert and cover model turned self love junkie lifestyle entrepreneur and author each week. I'll bring you a guest or a thought that will help you bust through your fears. Connect your soul and get focused and clear so you can elevate your life business and relationships we don't wait until we're ready for someone to tell us. We're good enough. We take what we want and we annoyance ourselves. Get ready to earn own and on apologetically rock your happiness every single day. Are you with me? Here we go. Hello, everybody. Welcome back to the podcast. And it's time for another quickey because there's always time to an inspiration. And I am on the road right now. I did my book tour in Chicago on Saturday. And last night we had the book tour in Austin so Tuesday, and I just wanted to tell everybody who was there. Thank you so much. I can't even I can't even begin to describe what it feels like to be in the room with all of you. And I'm hoping that you feel that energetic exchange in the exact same way as I do and something that came out of yesterday's book. Tour seemed to be something that really hit for a lot of people. And I had said from the stage a mantra for everybody who ends up stopping themselves from doing the things that they want to do. Because when I asked the question who in here has goals who in here has something that they want. To be doing in their life in all of these rooms pretty much, everyone raises their hands. And I think the people who don't raise their hands just forgot to raise their hand. Or maybe they're in a place where they can't quite think of that yet because they're getting through something and one of the mantras that I have for you today is I'm going to leap it's going to be messy and not is going to be perfect. I'm going to leap it's going to be messy and not is going to be perfect because we stop ourselves in thinking of what we don't want to happen. And today, I want you to think of what you do want to happen. And to remember that messy is part of it. It's actually the thing that's going to help you become the person who's going to become a master at the thing that you want to do. It's so vital to be messy in the beginning that some of the best parts because that's the parts that tell you where you need to get more strength. Where you need to do a little more work where there is a need that needs to be met in needs to be filled. Like, we don't get the good ideas. If it's not messy. We don't actually get to understand how powerful we are. If it's not messy, and we don't have problems to overcome. So really look at where you're stopping yourself because you're focusing on. You don't wanna screw up or you don't want it to be difficult or you don't want it to be hard. And instead embrace all of those things. So in life, everything is just one perspective shift away from you becoming the person that you want to be don't get me wrong. There's going to be a lot of action there. But a lot of you are stopping before you even do the action because you're talking yourself out of it. So you are one perspective shift away from embracing the pain or embracing the problem or embracing that thing in order to start moving forward. And you guys are getting stuck on the little. Things I get stuck on the little things too. I totally get it. But there are bigger problems to worry about you're just worrying about the wrong problem. So if you're taking something personal or if you're stuck in worrying about people's opinions, like those aren't the problems that are ever going to get you anywhere. Ask for bigger problems, literally pray for bigger problems. So that you can solve it and stop focusing on the B S that is stopping you from one perspective shift in one small action step moving toward what you wanna do. So a lot of us are so stuck in those stocks that we're not even doing the things that would move forward like creating a deadline like actually getting specific on a goal like just entering a question into the Google search bar, and I'm not even kidding you like some of you want to start a podcast or some of you want to start a blog. And you're literally telling yourself that you don't know how and you're believing it when we have Google like I always just put it in to see what does this? Actually, look like, what would it look like if I wanted to start this? How long does this process take who's got the answers for this? Who should I start paying attention to who should I start following? And just by starting to follow people in start seeing the path it becomes less scary. But some of you are so stuck in it that you're not even taking the action to make the path less scary. The more knowledge that you get the more that you see someone else. Take a path the more that you really look for while what were some of the things they screw it up on while they weren't perfect when they started like these are the things that you need to look at in order to start taking that first step. So I really want you to start embracing that mantra today, and let me know if you're using it, I'm going to leap, it's going to be messy. And that is going to be perfect. You guys that mantra is so freeing because all of the time we just need permission all of the time. We just need our own permission. Give yourself permission today to screw up. Like, I've talked about before give yourself permission to offend people. Give yourself permission to be you in public. Give yourself permission to not let it be perfect because nobody even wants set anymore. And then give yourself permission to forgive yourself. When you do screw up because in order to put yourself out there, you're going to screw up. You're gonna look stupid. You're going to do something wrong. You're going to offend someone. You're going to look like an idiot at some point. You're going to have to say I'm giving myself grace, I'm dusting myself off. And I'm starting again, I do this all the time don't be afraid of that pain. It doesn't really last that long and you grow from it. That's how I have gotten so incredibly strong, and they're still spots that I need to get so much stronger in is because I've just said, whatever comes whatever pain comes all embrace it. And it was for me, and I'll just process through it. And I can get through anything Ray embrace that mantra I can get through anything. Yeah. You're gonna feel pain, but you can get through anything. So I'm sending guy so much love today. Don't stand the suffering because pain is inevitable. Suffering is so. Optional and pains going to happen. But you don't have to stay in. It. Get yourself a set of bigger problems to solve so that you can actually make some impact in your life. Love who you are and make some impact in the world. So you guys if you love this podcast, all I ask is that you share it with a friend or rate review, whatever you want to do. But it means the world to me to get this podcast out because these are messages that we need to hear because I believe when incredible people start taking action the world starts to shift. And that's what we need to do is have the most amazing people in the world, not be afraid of failing and of the pain and of people criticizing that's all part of it. So we've got a band together. So until next time earn your happy by everyone. Thank you so much for spending this time with me on the earn your happy podcast. I am. So glad that you stopped by if you could take one second to share this episode with someone you think would love it. That would be absolutely amazing. And we would be forever grateful. Also, please leave us a review if you feel so moved by going to I tunes and leaving us an honest thought and honest comment, tell us what you think tell us what you want to hear more of it would really help us out on our journey to helping thousands and thousands of people until then don't forget to earn your happy thanksgiving guys. Bye. Bye.
GSMC SciFi Podcast Episode 119: Septimus Heap
"If you want to live CD medic target your pain added source it's fast acting relief with active OTC ingredients plus the added benefits of THC free hemp oil. It's cutting into your exercise time it stabbing you in the back nine and it's attacking your peace of mind it's pain and it's getting in between you it's the Golden State media concepts Book Review Podcast he's books and my husband is always looking for new series he much prefers series over just single books he just likes the story to go on for longer hello and welcome to the G. S. M. C. Booker Viewpoint Septimus heap the seventh son of the seventh son disappears the night he is born pronounced dead by the midwife that same night it just feels more normal I don't like having spring or summer colds they seem wrong besides the fact that I feel terrible it's it's Nice I decided I needed to sit down and get my rear end in order and I actually listen to audio book as I have been known to do lately because it fits into my skin except that I have been battling this cold that started in my chest and then moved my sinuses so if I sound a little stuffy that is why and I don't how about you but there's something about having a cold in the winter that while I don't enjoy it just seems more normal than having a cold in spring especially golden state media concepts bring you book review podcast I haven for bookworm of all ages and the wide always looking for series and we kept encountering this one and then my parents and my brother had already it and they kept asking if we read it yet and we hadn't so I finally has been going better than that let's talk about some books a series of books this time as you can see from the title of this episode episode that's the description of the first book and of course there are seven and I can't give you too many things that would give too many things away but you get you know you get the why all sorts of interesting spellings the series is recommended for about middle grade readers grades four through eight so that gives you an idea of the age group the Septimus heap series but looking on Amazon it's also referred to as the wizard apprentice series so the first book in the series is called magic each of the titles seemingly impossible quests got cases of mistaken identity you've got some really annoying bad guys or really annoying people who i WanNa talk about a series of books called Septimus Heap it's actually a series of seven books by author Angie Sade a usually just referred to it as harms potions and spells magic is the original story of lost and rediscovered identities rich and he rich with humor and heart okay so really happened to the heaps beloved son Septimus the first book in this enthralling series by Angie sage leads readers on a fantastic journey filled with quirky characters and magical I discovered it on a lot of lists that say you know what should I read the titles of which are which they read now that I am finished Harry Potter or if you loved Harry Potter then you should read the baby's father Silas heap comes across an abandoned child in the snow a newborn girl with violet eyes who is this mysterious baby girl and a very classic fantasy elements in this book you know you've got characters who don't seem like much at first and who gets sent on these to ten years later the baby in the snow is celebrating her tenth birthday and things take off from there there's I do a little bit better but as I said it's seven seven book series the first one is called magic and let me give you the description at least of the first book odd cast brought to you by the US Embassy podcast network I am your host Sarah and I hope even having a wonderful weekend I have been having okay weekend outside it's outside and soak up some vitamin D. which is lovely but it just seems wrong anyway that's how my weekend has been going I hope your weekend so the book starts with what you hear about the midwife declaring Septimus heap dead with Silas Heap finding the baby in the snow and then we fast forward per se but they do charms and potions there's a differentiation between witches and wizards there's also in spring in northern California where it's been between eighty and ninety for the last week just you know in the winter you can wrap up in blankets and drink hot tea and aren't necessarily bad guys but they annoy snot out of you anyway you know there's there's some teenagers here who are very very very teenage like spelled most of them with a why where you would not expect one so magic m. a. g. y. k. there's physic- with a y there's a slight with sincerely a school for magic like hogwarts and there's other types of other types of magic so there are witches who don't exactly do magic gone from mystery to memoirs romance to Comedy Fantasy to Sci-fi if you look to read this is the podcast free that sort of magical sense because it's the seventh son of a seventh son and you you kind of get the this is going to be someone important there's a lot fascinating throughout the seven books the characters grow and Change Septimus heap is the seventh son of a seventh son so there are six he well it's recommended for readers of Harry Potter but it's you know as it should be very different from Harry Potter there is magic in it but wizards are are a group of people who study magic you can be born into a wizard family but it doesn't mean that you will be a wizard so in that way it's kind of like Harry Potter there's not interesting characters you get to know some of them better than others the oldest one Simon definitely has growing pains and won't go too much something called a hermetic scribe there the scribes who do a lot of translating who do a lot of spell work or work on spells I should say so if you need if you have a spell that needs transit when you grow up in a large family in a small house with six very noisy brothers the heat brothers are a motley collection of very works definitely loving but yeah not not perfect not perfect paragon older brothers in this book and I will tell you the baby girl's name is Jenna so jenner grows up with these six heap brothers and you can imagine what that's like get cranky they get snarky Septimus and Sarah Heap as parents are loving and heck of their faults parenting let's let's let's just go with some alliteration there and actually the makes them a little bit more lovable although sometimes if you think about like growing up with them you'd be like when you take it to the hermetic scribes if you have a spell that is not working properly you take it to the hermetic scrap so there's all these different categories of people which I found really like I said were some of the characters I'm Gonna I'm GonNa go back to a Harry Potter analogy for those of you who've read Harry Potter maybe you'll you'll under like oh can I just skip this book but never do there are characters like that and there are sections of the book that are like that where you're like okay I know these are growing pains into that because you should you should read and find out what's going on with Simon the writing is funny it's got it's got some great humor in it it's got some parts characters are human and they displayed and they're not just always happy go lucky things happen and they don't always react them in perfectly appropriate ways they get well that would be interesting they are terribly organized they are terribly neat some scenes where people are horrified the state of their home so yeah you get Jenna you get the heap brothers and you get all of these adventures now you can understand with cases of mistaken identity and that's that's set in the description and a series called the referred to as Septimus Heap Septimus does show up in all seven books again I don't think I've given anything away because you cannot have a series named after Septimus heap and not have him be in your head but reading that book because I do not quite an annual reread but almost annual reread and and whenever I get order the Phoenix that and I'm just going to tell you that Septimus heap does not die in the first book there are seven books you can't have a series of seven books named after Septimus Heap See Book Review Podcast and I'll be right back it's cutting into your exercise time it stabbing you in the back nine and weighing in the book like you just want to reach the pages and shake him and say could you stop acting like this part of it is that you're an adolescent and part of it is that you know you got but you are driving me a little bit crazy I would just like for you to stop now please him but she writes it in a way that the if he dies in the first chapter you do have to figure out who he is what's happened to them what it where he went etc and there are cases of mistaken identity in there but yet weighted by the FDA this product is not intended to diagnose treat cure or prevent any disease it's cutting into your exercise time it stabbing you in the back nine Dan this may have felt something similar in order of the Phoenix Harry is whiny and we find out that there's reasons for that but he is so kind these statements have not been evaluated by the FDA this product is not intended to diagnose treat cure or prevent any disease you want to be about the Septimus heap or the wizard apprentice series. And I just gave a kind of a major spoiler but I don't think it's really that much of a spoiler attacking your peace of mind it's pain and it's getting in between you and a life you want to live CD medic target your pain added source it's fast acting relief wealthier yet you just don't know what to do all these shows telling you this and that but nothing seems to work will listen close golden state media even it oh although there are a lot of ghosts in the book and we're GonNa talk about that in just a moment when we come back from break so you're listening to the on someone's couch in one of the books she stays there she has to stay there for a year and a day on that couch much to the consternation this series once you're dead you come back as a ghost and you that's just did you can appear to humans if you want to but you don't have to the rule with active OTC ingredients plus the added benefits of THC free heme boil get back to your life with CBD medic available online and at CBS these statements have not been fast acting relief with active OTC ingredients plus the added benefits of THC free boil get back to your life with CB medic available online and at CBS if you are well if you pay attention to these things in books and if you see the entire series is named after Septimus heap where you can only go to places that you had been to in life so if you try to go into let's say a house that you'd never entered in life you'll be accepts has got something great for you the health and wellness podcast dedicated to work are healthy eating habits die and everything there's actually a fairly main character who is a ghost he used to be an extraordinary wizard he is killed at the beginning of the book imagined ghosts interesting thing about ghosts in this so there doesn't seem to be any kind of afterlife beyond of the person who's couch she died on because they didn't get along and now they're forced to be together so you have to spend the first year and a day after which you can go not any and he comes back as a ghost and he continues to mentor his apprentice who is now the extraordinary extraordinary wizard Marcia or strand yeah and he even though he's a ghost he plays a very large role in the books give some great advice he expelled you can be passed through which apparently is very unpleasant for the ghosts which I can imagine so I found this really interesting because you get characters of the the narrator of the Harry Potter books there were times when he did some voices that I was like man that sounds like Hagrid or the I always like audiobooks because then I get things pronounced that you know maybe they're not pronounced correctly according to what was in the very interesting plus her name is Stenerson just made me laugh every time every time I heard that name Snarlin uh-huh and it's attacking your peace of mind it's pain and it's getting in between you and a life you want to live CD medic targets your pain at its source seven books first book is read by Alan Coordinator let me double check that name give me just one second while I looked there are rules of ghost hood one of which is that you have to spend the first year and a day of your ghost hood exactly where you died so one person dies I think did a great job he can tell who speaking before the speaker is identified he does a really nice job and way to go through life seeing all of the death around you CA- she can see ghosts regardless of whether they choose to appear to her or not Jenna Jenna heap refers to him as uncle Uncle Arthur and he is yeah a kind of fascinating character who is a ghost in there are ghosts oil so allen is fine I didn't he he didn't thrill me as a narrator my husband really didn't like him he didn't she appears I think starting in the second book maybe but Yes Nor'easter Charleston okay so I did listen to these on audiobook and take welcome back to the MC Book Review Podcast Ram speaking get back to your life with CBD medic available online and that CBS these statements have not been evaluated by the FDA this product is not intended to diagnose treat cure or prevent any disease this year she can see ghosts whether they appear to her or not and from her perspective they're just ghosts everywhere which has to be a really interesting doc yes Allen Cord Coordinator C. O. R. D. U. N. E. R. is the narrator and then two through seven are narrated by jared Out Healthy living join us in our banters as we help you not just live life to the fullest but live it to the healthiest other books of this sort of fantasy books I just thought that this was an interesting perspective on them the ghosts are Jimmy there's one character who is a mind but I don't have to try to figure them out words that I can look at it and go I have absolutely no idea how to pronounce that jared just does it for me he is reminiscent feel like he differentiated the voices enough but then appreciate that the remaining six books had the same narrator and Jerry doyle sounds like so and so from Harry Potter it's not the same narrator but he is he he's he's up there he's he's good like the Harry Potter narrator so if you are an Jio book fan you will like this if you want to read the series that's great too they are illustrated which is fun they are for fourth through eighth grade so you get some there are pictures so you can start visualizing some things that you might not have otherwise they are line drawings black and white but careers and younger book sometimes have pictures older books for older folks sometimes have have pictures as well but I think that's always fun when they're you know what's going to happen in that in that chapter so man I wish I could give spoilers so the the nation could have been given better earlier so there's a couple of things like that that I think detract from the story as a whole and I didn't feel like it didn't make me WanNa stop reading or stop listening as the an incident with Jenna and again I don't WanNa give too much away so there's an incident that she was very looking through the books he he doesn't ice job and so each chapter starts with an illustration and gives you and idea of bowed not even care so yeah there was some there were some moments where I just felt like okay that could have been handled better but overall it did very concerned about and she wanted to get fixed she went to great lengths to get the solution to the problem at hand and nothing was mentioned for probably would carry through the rest and they do in a certain extent but not in the way that I expected so things that are set in motion and and and continue that work there's one thing that really bugged me a that felt like a major plot hole so there was like I said it does get explained and it does get explained as to why it hasn't been brought up in two or three books but felt lake that little bit of into this one fact there's another point in the book where we just feel I feel like we just kind of left the character behind guy throughout the kind of is kind of isn't so that's interesting but that bad guy definitely sets in motion for other villains to come in as maybe so maybe other people wouldn't bother maybe it feels more natural to other people as they go through I can only tell you my experience folks were kept thinking have we forgotten this this seems like a major plot why are we just going on about things and not paying the first book definitely carry through to the seventh book but not in characters or in the plots that I necessarily expected so there's two books three books I can't even remember and it does get explained as to why it's not mentioned for that length of
465: Make room for your 2020 dreams
"If we think we're just GONNA set goals without making room. We're being really unrealistic. What's possible in our day in in our time? Welcome to earn your happy podcast. I'm hi I'm Laurie. Harder founder of the bliss project three time fitness world champion fitness expert and cover model turned self love. Junkie Lifestyle Entrepreneur and author author. Each week will bring you a guest or a thought that will help you bust through your fears. Connect to your soul and get focused and clear so you can elevate your life business and relationships. We don't wait until we're ready for someone to tell us we're good enough. We take what we want. And we anoint ourselves yourselves get ready to earn own and on apologetically rock your happiness every single day. Are you with me here. We go welcome back to earn your happy podcast. And it's time for another quickey because there's always time tiff inspiration and I can't even believe that the holidays are almost over and with saying that this podcast is coming out right before the New Year right after Christmas for the New Year probably just had the most amazing holiday day. Maybe you're feeling let down. Maybe you're feeling happy. Maybe you're feeling really present. Maybe you're feeling anxious for the new year. However you are a feeling I want you just to take a second to realize that you are here and that we get to choose how we feel about this New Year and that there is so much beautiful energy around twenty twenty of manifesting? What you want getting rid of what you don't want and looking back over the years of if if you've been able to create some of the things that you have wanted to in your New Year's resolutions with your goals throughout the years and trying to see team where it is that perhaps he got caught up before and I can tell you right now? That a lot of times. What happens? Is I prioritize is things that are less important or not important or things that I don't actually want and I get busy in the busy work and the more and more clear that I've gotten the more and more that I have been able to reach different goals every year because this took a lot of work to be able to figure out how I work as a human being and Dan how I'm able to realize what I'm capable of doing is that I had to let go of a lot of things. I had to clear out out a lot of things before I could start making room for what actually mattered. And that's going to require getting clear on what's most important for you in twenty twenty. Many of you have already started this. Some of you aren't going to think about it until after January. But if you're listening this I highly recommend that we start thinking about it now because you will be able to create what you want if you start letting go of what is not serving you and what's actually taking up all your time so there's a couple of different quotes that want to chat about. That really are leaving an imprint. On me right now as I plan for twenty twenty and that is make sure that you are making the things that are a priority a priority and letting go of what is not a priority. I already so the quote that reminded me of this is make sure the things that matter. The least don't take up the space that matters the most elst make sure the things that matter. The least don't take up the space that matters the most. And that's what I tend to have done in the past. It is to really put things I that I feel like. I'm good at or that I should be doing or I said yes to something something because I didn't want to say no or felt easy in the moment to say yes or I was excited in the moment. Not leaving room or thinking about my dreams. I not putting my dreams. I so something that I want you to do is every time you go to make plans whether it's a trip whether it's a personal development of anything I want you to check in with your dreams as as if it's a partner or spouse I literally want you to check in with your dreams as if it's a partner or spouse and I want you to say hey. Is this cool. If I we do this and take time from you and I go to this thing or I hang out with this person. Are we still going to be invested. Acid- am I still going to be able to move you forward. Am I still going to be able to create what I want in the world if I take time away from you. So so checking in so remembering to prioritize. What's most important and the other quote that I absolutely love is for for many of us are blessings are stuck up in the air? There's too much mess on the runway. So reminding yourself what needs to go. Who Do you need to say no to? What do you need to stop doing what you need to let go of in order to make room? These are just simple questions. I want you to start asking even if if you just started getting clear right here you would start making such a massive difference in your life so you guys. I am so grateful for you always and I'm keeping this one short and sweet because all I want you to do is start to see where you can make room and what is most important to you. Maybe there's just three things on that list but maybe you need to get rid of ten things in order to make room for the three because if we think we're just going to set goals without making room were being really really unrealistic with what's possible in our day in our time so I think the biggest thing is just being self aware of my day in self aware of my time and as we we move in two thousand twenty. I just have to tell you that you are in the top of my gratitude list. I am so insanely grateful for you beyond anything that I could ever tell you and truly I cannot wait to move into this new year I feel magnetic energy. I feel a huge energy I feel a manifesting energy beyond anything. I've felt years prior and I I know that with this community we can move forward together. You guys thank you so much and my heart is exploding. Exploding for you guys because truly you are why I get to come up here and chat and have interviews and do all the things that make me so happy all right you guys and when I say come up here just mean the second level of my house all right. I'm so grateful for you happiest. New Year Make Room. I I love you I adore you. Bye Bye thank you guys so much for spending this time with me on the earn your happy podcast. I am so glad that you stopped by. If you could take one second to share this episode with someone you think would love it. That would be absolutely amazing and we would be forever grateful also. Please leave us a review. If you feel so moved by going to I tunes and leaving us an honest thought and Honest comment tell us what you think. Tell us what you want to hear. More of. It would really help us out on our journey to helping thousands and thousands of people until then don't forget to earn your happy Thanksgiving guys bye bye.
507. What you focus on matters
"I find it's very powerful to get in a routine and stay structured. So what could that new structure look like? If there is time where you either have to stay home or social things have fallen off the calendar or you are now working from home. Whatever that looks like welcome to the earn. Your happy podcast. I'm Laurie harder. Founder of the Bliss Project. Three time fitness world champion fitness expert and cover model turned Self Love Junkie Life so entrepreneur and author each week. I'll bring you a guest or a thought that will help you bust through your fears. Connect your soul and get focused and clear. So you can elevate your life business and relationships. We don't wait until we're ready for someone to tell us we're good enough. We take what we want. And we annoyance ourselves get ready to earn own an on apologetically rock your happiness every single day. Are You with me here? We go back to the earn. Your happy podcast. It's time for another quickey. Because there's always time tiffany inspiration and I just WanNa take a moment to let you guys know that I'm sending everybody so much love. I'm so grateful you guys are tuning in and I hope that I can be a tiny little glimmer of a sunshine beam during the current climate in the world and I pray to be a vessel in reminder for all of you that we are all in this together and what we focus on his truly going to create our life and our experience Throughout all of this so although we are in turbulent times there are definitely things that we can focus on to just find some inner peace because truly this is about managing our mindsets our thoughts and I know that those things go into managing our energy and our energy is a huge part of our immune system and how we are feeling so I do think it is of the utmost importance that we manage our energy. Maybe you've been hearing people say vibration Maybe energy resonates more with you. Maybe your health resonates more with you. Whatever that is we are all talking about the exact same thing and something that I'm going to be doing during this time which I'm already starting is because I have so many things that have fallen off of my calendar. I am going to be looking at what I want to be focused focusing on in creating in my life whether that's over the next month or the next year. I know that throughout history. One thing that I know for sure is that these things do not last forever and there will always be a time when it is done and I always want to be preparing and thinking of that time and managing all the way through so being very clear on what the precautions are and what we should be doing and how we can help and also focusing on what will it look like. Once this is done what could you be focusing on? What would be a really smart thing for you right now to be taken care of and for me. I have a few things that I'm actually focusing on. I'm going to be organizing my home and while that might seem small. It has been something that I have been wanting to do forever and have not had the time for so. I'm going to be using all of this time instead of thinking. Or watching the news or or moping around my house or whatever that is I am going to be connecting with the people that I want to connect with. I'm going to be organizing my home and I am going to be rewriting. Different copy for different programs that we have that I've been wanting to do. I'm also going to be planning out different contents and I have not been able to go through the book. Traction and create all of my core values the vision for my new company and truly right dot all out. I am so incredibly excited to have time for all of these things that I'm going to be doing and that's just what I'm going to focus on and how I can help people navigate emotionally through. This are their books that you want to read where there are people that you wanted to connect with via zoom or. How can you connect with them in a way that a phone call you know? Did you want to connect with people through some Zoom coaching? Do you want to put out a program? That's free for people so that you can just put out into the world. What are some of the things that you're going to do? And this is going to be the most important part especially for those of you. Who are now working from home or who have to create a schedule. You guys. Don't just flounder. When you wake up definitely use this time to focus on things that are going to make you feel good that are going to make you feel peace. Maybe you structure your day. Maybe you wake up and you have some prayer time. Maybe you wake up and you have you know. Maybe that is some time that you WANNA spend putting out meditations and love and to the world. Maybe that's text messages that you WanNa send then. Maybe you're going to do your workout program that you found this great at home. Workout Program Maybe you're going to schedule. In different calls with people. Maybe you're going to schedule in different business time I find. It's very powerful to get in a routine stay structured. So what could that new structure look like? If there is time where you either have to stay home or social things have fallen off the calendar or you are now working from home. Whatever that looks like so if nothing has changed this is so funny because this is coming out You know this always comes out afterward. The world could be a completely different place and no matter what that world is. When this podcast is coming out I pray that no matter. What's going on that? We can focus on something that is going to bring us more peace for me. That's always prayer and that's always connection and that's always kind of seeing how I can focus on the future of what is possible and I think that's going to all help us. Manage our energy manager immune system manager vibration and stay really connected. The world has been through much bigger things than this. And I know that we will all navigate this if we can stay in the place of solutions in the place of house in the place of a knowing that we are all connected and knowing that we are connected to something so much bigger than us. It's very easy to slip into the fear and that's so normal but I just want you to know that you can lean into something else you can say prayers and you can see how you can help others. And that's a beautiful way to get outside of feeling overwhelmed and completely consumed by sadness or grief or whatever you have been currently feeling and wherever you are. Whatever you're doing I just want to be that person who says I love you? Just Love You. And no matter what humanity is beautiful and we can navigate really challenging things together if we focus and put our heads together. So you guys as always. I'm sending you so much love and until next time. Earn your happy. Thank you guys so much for spending this time with me on the earn. Your happy podcast. I am so glad that you stopped by. You could take one second to share this episode with someone you think would love it. That would be absolutely amazing and we would be forever grateful also. Please leave us a review. If you feel so moved by going to I tunes and leaving US. An honest thought and honest comment. Tell us what you think. Tell us what you want to hear. More of. It would really help us out on our journey to helping thousands and thousands of people until then don't forget to earn your happy Thanksgiving guys bye bye.
Meditation: Relaxing Back into Natural Awareness (2020-04-22)
"The following meditation is led by Tara Brock tax. Us More of my meditations. Join my email list. Please visit TARBUCK DOT COM Ooh Rose This meditations called relaxing back pathway. To peace we begin in a way by feeling this body sitting here breathing now extending the in breath to account a fi inhaling it filling the chest and lungs and a slow out breath as you release feel kind of letting go letting go letting go and inhale again a nice long deep in breath in a slow smooth out breath relaxing outward releasing tension tightness letting go again inhaling deeply filling the chest and lungs exiling feeling the sensations the breath as it leaves the nostrils relaxing outward letting go and then allowing the breath to resume in its natural rhythm notice the quality of presence. It's here be awake. You're listening to in feeling the life within around you. Awakening embodied presence as we gently scan through the body with awareness bringing the attention to the area of the Brow. And the is softening. The is you might allow that smile. Spread through the is lifting the outer corners leading the is be soft letting the brow smooth receptive presence feeling the alive and as the sensations in that region of the face slight smile at the mouth inside of the mouth smiling letting the tongue fill the lower palate now relaxing down to the root of the tongue and whether sapped of presence feeling the aliveness inside the mouth gums. The teeth the tongue lips letting that receptive presence spreads you can feel the aliveness to the whole face. Tingling vibrating scalp and skull through the neck. Might bring that image of smile. The curve of a smile on the felt sense of a smile to the throat. Incensing how that can open up space. You can actually feel here in the throat receptive presence relaxing with aliveness in the throat. Louey shoulders to fall away from the neck. See if you can feel from the inside out. The energy sensations inside the shoulders letting whatever tightness attention might be. They're letting it float an awareness. Untangle in awareness dissolve and release in awareness of the sensations movement of energy in the arms softening the hands and softening again. You might feel from the inside out the thumb. Can you notice the tingling and vibrating in the thumbs and then the forefinger feeling from the inside out the space aliveness? They're sensing the space between the thumb and the forefinger the bone flesh and space sending all the fingers tingling vibrating spaces between the fingers openness at the chest feeling the region of the heart smiling into the heart so that image of the curve of a smile the felt sense spreads through the heart noticing have a create some openness and space to feel. Let's hear debris with what's here to relax with what's here scanning down the body again bringing that image and sense of a smile to the ballet get spread through the belly again creating space so you can feel more directly the sensations aliveness in the ballet letting this next breath received in a softening. Delhi this breath. And now this one again belly's still saw a receptive presence relaxing with the aliveness in the belly. Letting the awareness fill the pelvic region feeling the space and aliveness they're receptive presence where your legs length the volume the way you feel from the inside out the energy and aliveness. They're feeling the feet from the inside. Out Tingling vibrating imagining sensing the aliveness and space beneath the feet into the air the rudeness the energy of the Earth sense that it can flow up and fill your body with aliveness vitality sensing the space around your body sensing the space above your head out to the furthest stars sensing the space to either side out and out past the further stars syncing. The space extends in front of you out and out beyond the furthest stars the space behind you that extends out and out beyond the furthest stars and below you beyond the earth than out and out beyond the for the stars syncing that vast space directions incensing the space inside you between the cells between the particles of atoms and then at inner space and atr space continuous space filled with the light of awareness vast outer space and this inner space is continuous space filled with the light of awareness. Syncing how all that arises arises in this continuous awake space thoughts appear and disappear sensations arise and solve sounds come and go relaxing back resting in this continuous space filled with the light of awareness. That includes everything all appearances resting in that openness aware of the change in flow sledding. Everything happen sensations. Come and go emotions like weather. Systems and a vast sky appear and disappear thought clouds come and go in the foreground. This changing stream of experience in the background bass continuous space of awareness filled with the light of knowing moment-to-moment. What's happening? It's quite natural for the attention to narrow and get fixated inside thought inside the cloud of thought when you notice that. Relax back again. Relax open the attention. Say you're listening to the sounds that are here. Not just the sound of the thoughts. Relax open to the body. Perhaps relaxing the shoulder. Some softening sensing again the space in the lightness inside the shoulders. Softening the hands feeling the space in the aliveness inside the hands softening Nebraska feeling breath in the belly relax belly soft ballet relaxing. The heart perhaps smiling into the heart. Syncing the space and the aliveness. They're syncing the space aliveness through your whole body. Get imagining incensing into the space around you. Endless space beyond the most distant stars presents in this continuous space in earn outer as continuous base filled with the light of awareness away copen s that includes all the changing experience the moving thoughts the changing sensations sounds relaxing back resting in that week. Full openness leading life. Be just as it is. It's a beautiful pathway home to relax back over and over again each time. There's a noticing that the mind has gotten inside thought cloud relaxing open whereas the sounds where the sensations aliveness and in the background. That alert stillness that. Which is aware letting everything be just as it is resting in that wake full openness include the change in flow of experience? You can begin the meditation again fresh and your life again fresh in any moment simply noticing where your attention as and gently relaxing open relaxing back in depression listening letting go through the body of whatever you might beholding opening aliveness. That's here listening to and feeling the change. In moment sensing the thoughts and sensations and sounds in the foreground and in the background this week. Full openness continuous space filled with the light of awareness. In these last minute you might be guided by the words in this poem. Inner peace cannot be attained. Inner peace is your very nature right here right now. Look beyond your thoughts beyond your body beyond your emotions. The absolutely still and notice this experience of pure awareness. This attention is the universal attention it has no boundaries. It is a wake pure alive and nurturing so dip into this awareness rest in purity for one second ten seconds thirty seconds. He relaxing back in complete surrender allowing whatever sensations to be into move like an ice cube. On the C- you apparently melt into this ocean. Keep resting in this place in natural great peace. Soon you'll see it is your home. You're very essence
Made with Purpose
"Welcome to the podcast marinov diminished and i'm rick frank senior pastor maranatha you'll be blessed by today's message you can access all of are church information by going to our website at www dot and insurance dot com or on all social media by searching at and then church and now be blessed by listening to today's message praise god what'd you stand with me unless reed a hair scripture reading today in fishing's chapter one verse three through verse six blasted be the god and father of our lord jesus christ who has blessed us with a spiritual blessings in heavily places in christ according as he had chosen chosen us in him before the foundation of the world that we should be holy end without blame before him in love having predestined hated us until the adoption of children by jesus christ to himself according to the good pleasure of his will to the praise of the glory of his grace where he had made us accepted in the beloved and then verse nine through twelve having made known onto us the mystery of his will according to his good pleasure which she had purpose in himself that in the dispensation of the photos of time he might gather together in one off things in christ both which are in heaven and which are on earth even in him in home also we have obtained at heritage being predestined needed according to the purpose of him am who work at all things after the council of his own will that we should be to the praise of his glory who first trusted in christ praise god lord jesus i pray today that that which we mentioned as we speak lord will find it resting place in our heart we may understand that rejoice in your love for us and your purpose for us we ask it in jesus name hey man god bless you you may be seated and i would like to speak to you about made with purpose made with purpose i'm sure we have run into someone if dot out our own selves and we have questions sometimes why why are we here what is the purpose of my life why why do i exist but there is a reason it's obvious by the scriptures that god made man with a purpose in mind i noticed the scripture said he chose us before he chose to make the world in his compassion and love an design of mind he saw us as eight church hey people of love for him worshipping him preparing our hearts deliver with him forever he saw us they had not been made yet not one blade of grass not even a form it said before the foundation of the world before god designed the world and put all the things that he put on it for us he thought of us it's much like i think when someone is going to make something whatever it might be whether it's baking or whether it's carpet injury or whatever it is we see the finished product in mind before we ever start if you don't someone undoubtedly is coming by soon and saying what in the world are you doing and you're gonna say i don't know but i'm really busy at it as they're gonna say you sure up i don't have a clue what in the world it is he said well i don't know i'm helping out one of these days when i get done then again i'm not sure when i'll be done because i don't know what i'm making you gotta know what you're making if you're gonna ever get done on anything that you're making an god said i have a plan i have a plan and so he made plans to redeem us that's how much he loved us even though he made us he gave us aid will so that we were not puppets on a string as it were we're not not being controlled by him for if we were controlled by him naturally we would all be serving him without regard we would be serving him or is that again would we really be serving him or would we just be acting like we were serving him and god understood his with his great wisdom in understanding and knowledge he understood that to truly love someone you've got to be free you can be controlled you can't be you know directed an end guided constantly if you're really gonna love someone god wanted that and so we put choice in man what do you made man he may man eight free agent that's tough if i went through the trouble he went through to know what it took he did make band until the six day man time he made the earth he put and atmosphere around eight or so band could lives there could be breathing he made animals he made fish in the sea he separated everything he may dry land it was all covered in water all of these things he made he put the sun and the moon tune in the stars at the universe so that all of this would be in place and when he got all of that done then he made man and he breed in to man he didn't just speak man into existence but he breed life his life into man and man became hey living soul he didn't become another animal he became living soul he would lives forever he breed he turned into man hallelujah saw as dwell in there he made he phrased god they may have to be without an together i don't know how long they were in the garden but god love them and they loved god every day they had fellowship together you've gotta love someone want to see them every day you really do as he did he came everyday everyday everyday that they share such fellowship but the devil who's a lawyer i said the devil who's a liar big time a liar in fact the bible causing a father of lies hey man convince steve that she needed to disobey got and of course man fell into sin she was just save but the bible says adam was not adam was not the city but he got the blame yeah so you could say it's your wife all what but if you're you're connected you get the blame man yeah you bear the blame he chose to go with c n together they were cast out of the garden and a the fellowship changed but not come not ended just changed because god's love is too great i wanna tell you something that i was i was having a lunch kind of a brunch with a particular administered that i revered and i appreciate it so very very much and his son was also a minister and at the time i was i was very confused about his son's actions had a so i chose to have breakfast with him i said i've really long to have this breakfast with you because i need to ask you something for my own mind i just need to ask you something he said well what is it i said well i said i've asked some other ministers and they think it's no problem what your son is doing what i said in my conscience my spirit i just feel what he's doing is not right now i wanna i wanna hear take on it i wanna hear what you think on it they look down as napkin picked you said backup and he said brother carter he said what my son is doing is wrong what you're feeling is right but he's still my my son he's still my son and i thought about that and i said you know good thank you thank you that helps me and i totally understand god is the same way we do such things that brings such harm and such frustration and such just disturbance took out we grieve the spirit of god but were still his son were still his creation he still loves says he loves us with an everlasting love any never stops reaching for us no matter that he doesn't like what we were doing but were still his children high lujan he made plans ends therefore even before he ever made man now you would think that knowing everything he would just make man so this wouldn't happen seemed like a similar but like i said what it really been love would it really been a service would have really been something i've been a deer men yeah you know it's just i'm so thankful that when i asked my wife to marry me she said yes how'd you know what she said yes all by herself there is nobody behind her poker there is nobody you know threatening there is no pressure in the sense suv in the sense that she had just say yes but he had her saying yes offer free will was the beauty in the love that we would have it's just how it works god feels the same way who knows that's better than god there's no one knows this better than god made plans to redeem us knowing already our failures but knowing also his sacrifice at that to his righteousness we could also be righteous scripture says a revelation that we are redeem by his blood god has always intended to us for us have fellowship with him and when we look in the book we quickly realized that if we cry out in the desire for god he will answer us he will answer us is the devil that tells us and i flashed tells us that god doesn't care anymore and doesn't want us anymore doesn't hear us anymore but i wanna tell you what he hears you even if you're voice can't even speak he does god is concerned god has at least one a day here from the hard he's always wanted our heart to be in tune with him so he doesn't he doesn't go by lip service he reaches down into the heart that's just what is the heart saying i'm always amazed when i read the story in the scriptures concerning the man in the gatherings who was self possessed stuff demons said he couldn't even control himself in any way even to the point he didn't even they have a voice the demons hit him spoke for him that's possession in big time fashion and yet he found himself at the feet of jesus those demons did not bring him at the feet of jesus what brought him at the feet of jesus coming out of the tombs it it was eight desire to for deliverance it was a desire to have jesus his life and the lord the lord solve that he saw that and wedding rebuked the demons the man was changed so drastically that when they came out and saw him they said who who is they're sitting feet this could not possibly be the same man it was the same man but you know what they love the man they love it that all they loved their swine more but the scripture says that there was swine that were eating on grazing in the meadow not far from there and the demons as jesus if they could go into the pigs that were over there in the field now how big is the devil tell tell me his authority when he's gotta ask jesus if if it's okay if they go into the pigs yeah yeah i got a feeling i got feeling we're all gonna be amazed when we see the size of the devil if we see the size of the double the bible says the one angels gonna hold him in the same angels gonna lift the lid to the bottom of the pet after he eastbound m just one angel is doing all of this he binds the double he holds him lifts the lead throws man closes the lead and that's it for a thousand years for him yeah hey man tell me how big he is he's not big god is big god is awesome god is overwhelming there is no way to describe them the reason for all of this and the reason is because god has placed the desire and i lived to see cam end to reach out to him and when we reach out to him what they love that are heart he is ready to answer that request and that desire because it is his desires well we were made with purpose we were chosen before the foundation of the world an with purpose we were made to be in him to be in him so we've made for was it the may play music was it to do carpentry was it to be an excellent secretary was it to be a businessman was it to be a just a family man with it's a lot of children you know all of those things are okay but that's not what we were made for we were made to be connected to jesus christ to be in him through his righteousness that's what we were made far we have a purpose man we have a perfect man was made with the desire to worship and that's why you'll find these people worshipping all kinds of things i don't know if you've ever wondered like myself but sometimes i i wondered how people could worships such strange looking things hideous looking things scary looking things i worship the moon worship the stars they worship this you know anything that is greater than themselves they tend to worship they worship things i can't even describe it as bad as a when paul showed up on mars hill and they had an inscription on a two that they were worshipping at it said to the unknown god so they worshiped everything they could possibly come up with an just in case they missed some some guy that they should worship they put an unknown and god that would take the place of the one that they may have missed but jesus does not wish to be unknown hey man he came to satisfy the hungry and thirsty those that thirst after him will be filled hey mandy alters are built the concessions were made in are made the ark was prepared in the old testament the tabernacle was brought about in the wilderness the temple in jerusalem but it was christ child at bethlehem that would save is people from the irs and yet that is where it was at it took a while i don't know the scripture says in the fullness of time this came about i know he's one of the happen right away shortly cain was the the promised a child that would bring it back into you know paradise it was not cain was certainly far from being the the 'perfect child killing his brother able and a dennis says came along and so he loved god and god began to flow through his bloodline it was not happen then how about abraham are outstanding man a friend of god but he was not the man how about moses awesome man also give a god brought him up on the mountain actually conversed with him a literally had a physically gave him the law actually wrote the tablets with his finger and gave to moses you know what's funny when you were worried that you know moses is they only man that i could think of that broke all ten commandments in one at one time but he did when he came down that mountain he became so angry that he broke the tablets and had to go back up the mountain but you know what happened god gave in the first one he carved out he wrote it out but the next one moses had the bring his own stones his own carved out stone he had to bring to god god wrote it i'm glad that god wrote it because if god didn't write it somebody would have been saying when moses slipped up here and he didn't write like god wrote it love god wrote it both times but the second time moses had the bring his own equipment yeah i give you first tablet you break that one you gotta make your own tablet and it was rough back then cutting stone for a tablet you think that's where i've tried doing it whether you're fingernail in right the ten commandments on stone god could do all things thank god you know what the journey has been long from man but forgot it's been right time today is the day of salvation the scriptures said we must purpose to be saved now now is the time we need to be saved by immediately in are mind so many things come up well you know what i would but i've got these other things happening and i've got this happening and and i need to accomplish this i need to accomplish that and we forget all about the fact that we have no control over when we are going to die when we are gone to the doctor dobson a well known speaker on the family radio on many years ago told told a story i'd like to share that he simply says these he was playing half court basketball with a friend of his and they just finished and a how they were just kind of catching nebraska drink some water catch their breath from other activity and he says to to his friend who said how do you feel hey said you know what doctor i have never felt better in all my life and the next second he fell down as though he was dead well doctor thompson said he stood around a few minutes or not a few minutes but he stood around a second of two and he said all right all right i forgot what his name was but it was calling bob alright bob the jokes over come on get up baabda move any reached down there was no pause he had died just like that one second he thought never felt better in all his life and one second later he was gone there you go so tell me what you gotta do tomorrow you have to do next week what you have to be on the time that you have right now today is the day hey man what'd you say what makes other today is the day one more time today is the day today is the day this is the purpose of god in our life that we might be in him enter put it off is very foolish very foolish we always must used the word of god to guide our way because if we don't we will come up with ways that that will create an error they would not be a fulfillment and accomplishment and purpose many people are not not satisfied religion and i don't blame them i'm not either but i love worshipping god in the freedom of his truth amen it is just truth that we need in our livestock not religion or systematic a procedures that emma take the presence of god man i bet a church is not a not pentecostal church is in particular but i've been a church is that they represent the spirit of god and they represent a the the holiness of god and they represent the move of god in all of these things they represent by pictures on in the stained glass pictures and a different element elements in different little images and things like that and they could only say wow yeah that that represents what i would like to have happened that represents what i'd like to have happen god is not interested in us representing what he can do he wants us to enjoy and be a part of what he can do by coming onto him he said i will not turn anyone away i wanna turn anyone away hey man man all are invited to be a part of the glorious church and jesus saw glorious church way before the foundation of the earth was ever made he saw a glorious church someone looked around and said well i must not have been this one but you could look around and see a lot of things that that always need improvement tell me when you were ever 'perfect i don't know i think the only time that wherever 'perfect it is when we were in the perfect presence of god as longest were alive there's something to be done there isn't adjustment to be made there say closeness that we can get there say truth that we know and the main thing is be on the right road when you're on the right road the right signs come up hey man they do in staten island we have an expressway and we have to side roads that go on each side there that you could call service roads and you could ride on that service road and you could look at the people on the expressway at least it used to be able to now they build a wall so you can't see him but you could look over and see them and you could wave tour you could keep up with him except once in a while you get on the service road you get a red light and you gotta stop what you're going the same direction you're either going east or west and a and so it's it seems to be no problem but if you're going to brooklyn or you're going to new jersey on that expressway a you will find that at the end of staten island on either end you eat you have to go over a bridge that's why it's called staten island we truly are in the island there's only one way to get in and out and that's by a bridge or ferry boat because you don't want a swim no you don't wanna swim only dear swim in staten island and then they they decided just stay there and create problems but nevertheless in there so dear i can't i can't argue with them but nevertheless what's what i'm getting at here is that when you're on the service road you're going the same direction is as the expressway and people people many times get into a situation and they're they're going along and they say i'm their religious religious no problem you know they love god i love god and a deck and quote scripture i could quote scripture and were going the same way and there's nobody that really could deny they're not going the same way but they're not on the same road where you're going the same way but not on the same road you have a problem when you get to the end of the island because the service road stops but they expressway goes up over the bridge into the other place that you need to go either new jersey brooklyn that's the difference when you're in life's road end you're riding along and you're looking at one another and comparing yourself with someone else the bible says it's unwise the comparing yourself with one another that's true because everybody's on the journey independently we're all adjusting a you know your arrived there or you may not you you know you have different adjustments and and you're right along but the important thing is being on the right road how do we know if we're on the right road well because jesus gave us the right road map carlo yeah they gave us the right road map when you reads a map you'll stay on the right road amen amen amen i follow the person wants 'cause i did in the world is gone found out they were they going either it was a traffic jam and outside of getting away from the traffic jam and i followed his car looked like it knew where is gone and sure enough it in a way it did know where it's going it pulled right into a driveway i say well here i am now i gotta find another way out of here hey man we do not want to miss guide guide our live spy just comparison because comparison will get us into great difficulty the holy ghost has com that mike i just as leaders are liars into all true and and as we let the spirit of god leaders we will find ourselves on the right road automatically because that's the road the spirit of god travels there is i highway it's called a highway of holiness highway of godliness highway the spirit travels and win the spirit of god is in your life you will travel that road you can't see it but you could feel it hey man and when you're on the road you can filthiest sharon's and the guidance of god's presence in you're life many people have refused to lean on got they just trustee arm of flesh i don't need anybody tell me how to get the heaven i could get there myself well that's certainly alive that you have believed that will prove to be a a a very bad situation in your life because there's nobody getting there except jesus takes you there we had a librarian brother they used to be in our church and a a he's passed away at this time but one of his favorite things see what's say if you don't make happen you can't blame jesus that was his statement and it is a true factor because jesus gave everything that he had he gave his blood he gave his life he gave everything that we might be redeemed at because up his righteousness and his fulfillment we are able to be set free in walk with him hey man there is a way the scripture said that that man thinks is right but the way is when you get to the end of it it is death were made with a purpose from the mind of god predestined to obtain the goal you can't lose if you get on the right robert it's going to happen i wonder if i'm gonna make it happen only if you stay on the road if you stay on the road that's exactly where it goes that's exactly where it goes it goes right the happen hey man it's state roads that are not made by god and they are made by are own mind that we have great difficulty with amen having predestined needed us or the church now is not true that individual is predestined to either be saved her loss so if you've been believe in such alive stop believing it now because it's not true jesus said so ever will may come and drink the water supply freely in if that's true it is because jesus said he does not lie postal ever will make com that means anyone can come if anyone can come that we are not individually predestined to either be saved a loss anybody ever told you i'm just not one of those church kind of people yeah they they'll tell you those kind of things some lie has gotten into their mind and they have believed it but it's not true every human being has invitation at the ability and the willingness of god that they might be saved for god is not willing that anais should perish that any should perish that they should perish that's even the people you don't lie god's not willing that they should perish there's a lot of people sending people a lot of places it don't matter because we don't have the authority descend person hal order heaven hey man there's only one that has that authority and jesus christ amen mankind allows that which got placed in us as we allow it to happen in our life and seek truth we will find ourselves automatically in god the key is make sure it's truth and they only way we can find that it's real truth is in his word his word is truth he is truth there's only one truth his name is jesus his name is jesus the satis fire of those who thirst after righteousness i wonder today if there's anybody thursday to come and drink from the waters that jesus has today what'd you stand with me right now praise god there's a well that jesus has forever you sold that's thirsty hungry for him and he said i will not hold back if you will see me with your whole heart i'll be found a few i will be found a few i will be found if you if i could only know how to find god just open your mind to the lord and say lord not my will but you will learn not my way but your way not anybody else's way but your way lord you are away thing way you are as truth you are busy life and that's where it's at let's pray lord jesus today oh god i think you today lord for this group of people that have gathered here today this beautiful congregation lord we've come to worship you come the desire you we've come to understand more about you and lord i know that you have entered into this house we felt you're presence from the very beginning of the lord you are here right now desiring someone to make a change someone to open up their life someone to say i'm thirsty for god i'm tired of the way i've been guided i'm tired of the way that i have design my own design of life i want the purpose of god in my life since i was made for a purpose that mean fulfill the purpose i was made for and that is to be a child of god adopted them to you're family lord taken out of the chains of bondage and brought into the liberty of god's spirit thank you lord i pray in jesus name you will move on every heart and you will touch that life but do just so desperately this morning in jesus name amen amen thank you for listening to the maranatha ministries potash if it's not just touched you please make sure to subscribe for more services firm pastor
Finding the Grace to Die! Excerpt
"The go-to introduce you to a couple of people. Now, a lot going to share little bit out there experience in this. So far song. Probably to come. I police for your country. Hello. Hi. To talk about dying learning. There's not much. I can say about myself, basically. But. For the past. Couple of months has been in Hong Kong. It's been really hard. But it's been really awesome too. Because. The first time I heard someone talking about you're supposed to die to yourself when you come to cry. It's just like, what are you talking about, you know, but she died from me, and he gaining you life. So what do I do with the old one? No. And but kind of like is like kind of like an onion an how got just take when they're off at a time. And he does it for you. But you have to make decision for him to let him do it. And you have to take that when piece of skin, and you have to go and take it to the cross and every time you do that. He just gives you more of himself and more of his grace, and it just so awesome. Sometimes it's just like. Wow, you she got. He's just like he's so amazing. Like, he is so cool. And I mean, he's. So like, I don't know how to say it's just like, I mean when you're worshiping. Sometimes if you big like this like, this, it doesn't even describe how you feel and every time you decide to let him work in you. And let him kill you, basically, killed your view. It's like taking a hundred steps closer to where he wants you to be and that place. I don't even know how to describe like sprint works in has disowned. I was listening to this morning. And it says there must be a place where dreams come true. There must be a time when I'm free to fly, and that doesn't even describe this place, and how you're like what you're going to be and what you're gonna feel when you get there. And I mean, you just can't describe it. And I mean every time you feel like really? Good and. I mean, it's horrible. When you dying is just like good. Don't. You know? And so has like, I'm. And he likes it or not. There's more to go. And you're like, oh my goodness. But. You just got to keep your eyes on him. And like just not look at the problem because the problem with just get bigger and bigger. He just. He's just got to trust him that he'll do it. Because he's not gonna leave you hanging and. What am I doing it? In Hong Kong, I've been dying. I've been living with most of girls. Really nervous. We get up. Then we go out, and we. We got a methadone clinic. Can we meet Doug add it only worked with drug addicts with drug ad will extra on it? And it's really hard because. God doesn't just kill you in one second and say, okay. Here's the new you. He does slowly. Because if he did it just like that. I don't know just doesn't but. He's doing it in me. And he's doing it and everyone I'm living with and the thing is while he's doing it things. Like yucky stuff comes out, and we have to see it, and we all have to deal with it. And it's really hard. And. Sometimes you feel like really happy sometimes feel like you really low, and it's the low times like downers that God really comes like this. He's like this close to you. And who's I'm here. I'm in your face. You need me. You want me? And you're like, uh-huh. I do. And he says, okay, you can have me. And then when you look back, and you're on your happy. It's like God was there. And he's just totally there for you. And he's not going to let you go. Like sometimes it feels like God. Hello listening. You know? But he's listening in. I know like. I mean, ten years old and not when second of my life has ever had faked turned away from me because he knows you. And he knows what he needs. He knows. He knows what's in your heart. And. You're hanging on. Right. A really thin thread, and he threats, and it seems really thin, but it stronger than anything they wrote you'll ever hold on to.
613. New Level, New Devil
"Something will come up that you will say it's not great timing. Always going to happen, you have to keep going you have to keep on pushing through. Welcome to earn your happy podcast. I'm Laurie harder founder of the blest project three time fitness world champion fitness expert and cover model turned Self Love Junkie Lifestyle, entrepreneur and author. Each week will bring you a guest or a thought that will help you bust through your fears, connect to your soul and get focused and clear. So you can elevate your life business and relationships. We, don't wait until we're ready for someone to tell us. We're good enough. We take what we want and we anoint ourselves get ready to earn own and on apologetically rock your happiness every single day. Are You with me? Here we go. Welcome, back to the show and it's time for another quickey because there's always time to fit in inspiration and I pretty much. This podcast just follows the seasons of my life. So right now I'm in a very exciting season. I'm in a very new season, which also means I'm at a new level. I am witnessing a lot of new devils pretty much old devils dressed up in new outfits coming in and dancing around. Me Daily and something that is on my mind is how often we are in this place and how often we trick ourselves into thinking that we should get just get smaller again or dodge things or go into our old patterns of avoidance or God. It was so much easier before these anxiety or panic attacks came back to haunt me again because I'm going to this new level it's easy to go into that phase of. Gosh maybe enough is enough. Maybe I should just be satisfied with what is and there are some times in life and I do think that's important to get look around and say, Oh, my Gosh I had a have all the things that I once wished for and if this you know can I be happy with just this? Can I be present with just this is this enough and I Think if you say, yes and I also know there's more for me I believe thought is more than Okay I. Know at my let calls it a blissful disatisfaction and I thoroughly have that an feel like a lot of my listeners and if if not, all of my listeners have that as well but there's a beautiful balance in when we find ourselves in that place of wow, I'm so content. And I know there's more. What happens when we commit to that decision right a decision I believe side means to cut off. So when you decide and you cut off all other options immediately following what happens is that you're going to have all of these things come in that tell you why you shouldn't do it why you're not the person who can do it or handle it while you're not capable and it's going to take everything that you have to keep going. So I wanNA share today just some of the feelings that you're going to experience when you're on this journey and number one, I think everyone relates. To, this it's just straight up imposter syndrome. You are going to feel like who hell do I think I am to do this and I just WanNa share every single person feels that way you're not unique you're not special. Okay. We know your special but this problem is not special to you. I want you to think of every single person that you look up to. They've been there and they just keep going they push through with discomfort. They say I can do hard things. They say I'm never quitting they say I'm never giving up all of these things right in order to keep going. So Imposter Syndrome is definitely GONNA come in the second that you do this number two. What's going to happen is that the second that you decide and you start moving forward, there will be something that happens that is like. Not Fun it will be either your worst fear or it will be something super challenging with someone that you know it will be a family problem something will come up that you will say it's not great timing. Always going to happen, you have to keep going you have to keep on pushing through. If you listen to this podcast. You know that I always talk about how important your comeback rate is. It's not about failure. It's not about how many times you failed. It's about how quickly you can recover income back from the failures. So if you run a business, you know that it's crucial in business and in health. So if you're in charge of. Hiring in your company, it should be in every job description to have a fast comeback rate whether you're ready to make your next important higher or you need some rehiring tips indeed is here to help indeed, Dot com is the number one job site in the world because indeed gets your best people fast unlike other sites indeed gives you full control and. Payment. Flexibility. Over your hiring plus indeed provides powerful tools to make sure your search is that much easier. Also, you only pay for what you need. This is huge as an entrepreneur. You can pause your account at any time and there are no long term contracts right now indeed is offering our listeners free seventy five dollars credit to boost your job post. Which means more quality candidates will see it fast and we know that speed is so important sometimes when you're hiring in trying to scale, try indeed out with a free seventy, five dollars credit at indeed dot com slash happy this best offer available anywhere go right now to indeed dot com slash happy terms and conditions apply offer valid through December thirty first. Number three. Your past thing that you dealt with that was trying to stop you is going to come in again. It's just gonNA come in with fancier clothes on. So maybe it was a relationship. You might get that in a new form of a relationship that you thought Oh. This person is so up level this would never happen her. Oh, this isn't going to happen in my new relationship except. We're in my new business, right Oh that that was my old t member. Now, that's not going to happen with this new team member. It's going to be a fancier problem meaning it's going to be the same exact thing you're gonNA have this state. You're going to be able to use the same exact tools on it. It's not true. It's not going to be able to stop you. It's literally just going to be able to have to make you sit and think a little bit clearer and say, what is it that I need to do? In order to solve this problem. So whenever these different things come in, you really have to say I can do hard things you want to know what I've been saying over and over and over is I can do hard things lean in and I'm like the resistance is the gift. The resistance in the challenges are the tickets to your next level. How long can you sit in them? So time a challenge comes I. Want you to say thank you. This is the only way we get to the next level. This is the weight training, this the weight room this is the resistance. So what if this happens all move through it I've met an entrepreneur who hasn't had a massive challenge or something that they wouldn't wish upon their worst enemy happened and they get through it. So mantras that you need to. Adopt are. Get bigger than the problem. It doesn't matter what happens. I can get through it. The solution is always out there. There is always away. If you have anything. But these beliefs I can tell you that you're not going to get to your next level, and if you're sitting here like well I don't really feel like I believe that you don't have to feel like you believe it. You just have to keep saying in the moment and embodying it and saying, what would it feel like if I really believed this and you'll have moments in glimpses of freedom and that's all it is the rest. Of, the time you will feel crazy the rest of the time you will wonder, but you'll just keep choosing to believe that there is it's this or something better. It's always this or something better. So I just want to remember that if you're in resistance right now, if you're in the I don't know if you're in all of those things you gotTa, keep going. You have to keep leaving in you have to keep asking you have to find your answer. They're not gonNA come to you. So if you don't know what to do, you have to ask someone what would you do right now if you were me, you have to get that muscle up so that you can keep ongoing no matter. What happened. So you guys I want to know what you're working on right now I wanNA know what it is that you are working on that you want to see through to the end CEO. What that thing is like, what are you working on? What are you moving through right now what are you trying to get to? What are you doing? I would love love love to know a tag me outlawry heartache at earn your happy and let me know if right now you guys are in resistance like I and understand that this is the way to get to the next level. As I love you so much until next time on your happy by everyone. Thank you guys so much for spending this time with me on the earn your happy podcast. I am so glad that you stopped by if you could take one second to share this episode with someone, you think would love it. That would be absolutely amazing and we would be forever grateful. Also please leave us a review if you feel. So moved by going to I tunes and leaving us an honest thought and honest comment, tell us what you think. Tell us what you want to hear more of. It would really help us out on our journey to helping thousands and thousands of people until then don't forget to earn your happy. Thanksgiving guys. Bye Bye.
393: The guide to make the BEST decisions for your business and life
"This is what I need you all to understand right now. If you want a successful thriving company it's not always fun but you have to decide what contracts and boundaries you will be honoring. You'll be enforcing and what type type of behavior you will be tolerating in your life. Welcome to earn your happy podcast. I'm Laurie harder. Founder of the Bliss Project Three time fitness world champion champion fitness expert and cover model turned Self Love Junkie Lifestyle Entrepreneur and author each week. I'll bring you a guest or a thought that will help you bust through your fears. Connect your soul and get focused and clear so you can elevate your life business and relationships. We don't wait until we're ready for someone to tell us. We're good enough. We take what we want and we annoyance ourselves. Get ready to earn own and on on apologetically rock your happiness every single day. Are you with me here. We go welcome back to the show and it's time for another quick you because there's always time to fit an inspiration and I'm so excited to talk to you about what I'm about to talk to you about. Just tell me what you're gonNA. Tell me so I have been thinking a lot about decision making because as I'm finding that in order to run a really successful company and create a culture <hes> and also if you want to start another business or if you want to be successful in the business that you're in or maybe you're part of a company or maybe you work at a big corporate building or whatever that that is if you have a job at all decision making in making amazing important big incredibly challenging decisions is going to be the key to whether you are happy Eh and successful or not right and we can all end up making decisions but some of us take a lot longer and that can cost us a lot not only monetarily but it can cost are piece. I don't know about Oh you but I am sitting in indecision. I just did a podcast on this. I am in massive like pain. I'm stressed out. I'm anxious. I go back and forth I tell myself a million different stories and so what I want to talk about today a is to decide what you honor what you'll enforce what you'll tolerate decide what you'll honor enforce intolerate and I thought that if you had a moment <hes> so maybe if you're in your car right now when you really WanNa get clear on this you can listen now but I would highly suggest writing this. I'm telling you writing and actually getting it out of your body and being really clear is going to be one of the biggest things that you can possibly do for yourself so so I'm actually going to do this for myself. On a big board I may or may not keep it private because I do think this is like my personal code of ethics that I'm GonNa be writing down and this will be what I make my decisions on and I'm telling you when my my company gets bigger and when I start this other company this will be on the walls as a clear decision making process for myself and for the culture of what I want to create moving forward so decide what you'll honor enforce and tolerate so this is what you're going to make every single decision off of and when I say honor this is what I want you to think about so if something is happening in your business or you have been asked to speak somewhere or you're getting asked to go and do something and you have signed contracts you decide for yourself personally. We all know that there's like a code of morals and ethics out there but we all know that majority of people have their own or they go off their own or they break the ones that we think are culturally standard because really nothing seems to be standard anymore so we've all signed contracts when we get a cellphone. We've signed contracts when we get married. We sign all of these different. Contracts in our life and many people honor them and many people don't but what happens is there are a lot of different things that will hold those contracts in place and for a lot of people in small businesses or businesses it has to be them who decides if if they're gonNA hold those things in place so that's an example of. Are you going to honor your contracts and are you going to honor the contracts that you sign that you know may not be massively enforced. That is your decision. This is what you have have to write down in your code of ethics so here's what I have written down <hes> for the three things right now I have at the top of my page decide what you'll honor and then I have arrows pointing down and then I have decide what you'll enforce and I have arrows pointing down and I have decided what you'll tolerate and for each one under honor it says you know if you decide to honor I have I'm I will honor my word and under that it says but does my word you have any exceptions at any time and if it does what are those so I'm going to write those things down right so I'm always going to honor my word and less like I do have exceptions on some of those unless something happens drastic in the company where if honoring my word means having to get rid of everybody's job or if it really threatens it threatens someone else in the company to the point where it's not healthy for the team <hes> if it's something that seemed like an amazing decision decision one day and actually could be something that could really harm you know the the company moving forward or the future of the company so that's what you need to do is decide what you'll honor. I will always honor my word except for these exceptions right so you'll go and you'll look and you'll say so when something comes up like okay. This doesn't feel very good. I really don't want to go and speak at this place or I really don't want to go to this party now or I really don't want to do X._y._Z.. Okay but you said yes and it doesn't fall under any of those exceptions options so if this is the person that you wanted to be when you were writing this in your highest self and maybe said a prayer before it you know let my highest self right this code of ethics or make these decisions if you said yes and it doesn't fall under those exceptions and you know that you want to honor your word then guess what your option is you go and you do the thing because this is your code of ethics that you've decided this is your highest self and this is the one when your head hits the pillow. You're going to be the happiest with breath so something else about this. You're no longer in indecision. You're no longer going back and forth if I stayed home you know because we said let's just say you said Yes to going to a wedding that was in another country and all of a sudden. You're like Oh my God. This seems so hard. Blah Blah Blah. You're doing all the things you're telling yourself stories of why you shouldn't go of the money that you're gonNA spend but you said yes to this person. You were so committed and so what else this is going to do. Is You said yes. It doesn't fall under any of the exceptions and so you've realized okay. I've got to get back into getting committed and now I'm going to think of only good stories about what's going to happen and now I'm going to think of how happy they are going to be when I show up to celebrate the wedding now I'm not going. I'm going to cut off all other decisions decisions right. I'M GONNA cut off all other stories. I'M GONNA cut off all other emotions. I'm only going to feel the emotion of saying Yes and knowing that I'm honoring my word there boom done so this is the decision making process and if you don't start to understand who you are and who you want to be the universe doesn't know and you're always going to be in this flippy floppy back and forth like Blob fish googled. What a blob fish? This looks like it's just all over the place. There's no container. There's nothing to contain it it just it's like so it has no structure whatsoever so I can only imagine how we all feel which I know how we all feel when we are in indecision or when we go back and forth or when we don't know how to answer so for me. It's like this is another thing about a if I if I know I'm going to honor my word you better believe the I'm GonNa take some time to say yes or no right. I'm going to sit on the decision for a day so it's a big decision and someone saying hey you know I'd love for you to come over here and it's great in the moment and I say Yeah Yeah. Let me know I'd love to be there I don't do. Do that anymore ever unlike you know what I'll look at my calendar and I'll get back to you tomorrow so then I go and I sit with it and then I write them or let them know or call them and tell them exactly you know like my exact answer of. It's probably going to be no right. It's probably going to be a no so I don't jump into yeses at all anymore because it causes so much stress in time of trying to figure <unk> out how to say no or how to get out of it. You're not going to have time for this later on in your life when you are starting to run something that is much bigger than what you're doing right now and I'll tell you that I used to do this. All the time. It's sitting in decision I would say yes to someone and then I'd go back and I'd say no like it was a disaster and I didn't like how I was showing up so underneath my decide what you'll honor <hes> one of the first things is word and you can also put different things under there but also ask does does this have any exceptions if sh- if so dropped down another Arrow right the first exception the second one. Maybe you don't have any exceptions on any of these so when you go to make a decision you look at it and you're like crap. I didn't write any exceptions because my higher self did not want me need to get out of this so the next question decide what you'll enforce meaning boundaries so decide what you'll enforce <hes> so while my I dropped down his boundaries and then my second one is contracts and then underneath that what I have under both of them. Do I have any exceptions on these boundaries and then it's do I have any exceptions under these contracts if so write them out so I'm not gonNA get into too much of this because I really got into a lot of <hes> of it with the honor one but this is exactly what I want you to do so in four should have one arrow down and for me. It has boundaries and contracts. Maybe you have a lot of other things. Maybe you have things that are really big for you. <hes> that you want to write underneath there too and just right if there's any exceptions like think of everything like okay if someone is no. I'm going to honor <hes> everyone's contracts that I signed in less someone falls terribly ill with <hes> a terminal disease <hes> unless someone has lost just an immediate family member and they need X. amount of time or a refund on this other than that no like other than that I am not refunding anyone's money because it was completely in the contract right like something like this it needs to be so rock-solid and clear so that when you get those tough decisions of maybe you had a retreat right maybe you had a retreat and it had all of the contracts lock solid you had lawyers look at it. You have all the papers written up and this is your very first retreat because you are leaving your corporate job and you finally WanNa be doing this and you're not clear on how you're going to enforce your contracts like you haven't actually thought about it because you've been too busy in the planning and all of a sudden maybe people right before I get a lot of fear around leaving the country or doing something. They're not used to it. I totally get this because I've had <hes> this'll be my eighth bliss project in every time right before bliss comes people. We'll start getting scared and they want a refund well. I've already paid for them so I absolutely am not giving you a refund. Because that is the contract you read it. You signed it. This is exactly what your soul wanted and now it is now on you to know that you are breaking a contract and that is a lesson that you have to learn because I'm honoring and locking in the contract I made with myself of keeping my contract and making ensure that you get your butt there or that you learn from this lesson if I just said Yes to all of these people who were afraid like yeah here's your money back. No one would ever come and then I would never be able to book the event and you would never I would never be able to have this this business or do these events again because word gets out quickly. This is what I need you all to understand right now. If you want a successful thriving company it's not always fun but you have to decide what contracts and boundaries he's you will be honoring. You'll be enforcing and what type of behavior you will be tolerating in your life because you will be living what you tolerate. So if it's underneath enforce you have that Arrow down. Then you've boundaries and then you have contracts and then you make sure you read out any and all exceptions and as soon as a decision comes up in someone starts pushing those boundaries or testing them or trying not to honor something you look back at what your highest highest self wrote and you stick to that no matter what it does not it is not your job to make people like you. It is your job to honor your soul contract and keep moving forward with your life's purpose in <music> offering you know whatever you can to help other people but with that comes a lot of trials and challenges and the first thing that will come. I feel like especially <hes> for women will get testings. Area is people judging your character out of these different decisions but all you have to know is that you honored who you were in that moment you honored exactly your Word You honored your contracts and you showed up exactly how you should so so then my third one is what will you tolerate and under that I have treatment just as in how will people treat you. How will people show up like this could be endless thing? So what will you tolerate. What kind of culture <hes> do you want <music> at work? What are the different ways that people are going to be showing up so underneath tolerate? Just decide what you want underneath there. So what will you tolerate your. Maybe how your family treats you and right any exceptions that are a right how you want them to treat you right. <hes> or what you won't tolerate sorry about that and then right. Are there any exceptions to this like if you wrote you know under tolerate with family how how what will you not tolerate. <hes> people being a certain way to you. Maybe people <hes> not showing up to any of your holidays whatever that looks like and then say they. Are there any exceptions well of course there are exceptions but if it doesn't fall underneath those things in the decision making process when someone's treating you poorly you need to also then say what steps will I take well the first one be <hes> you know if I want this to go smoothly and I want to get back to love no matter what because you're writing this with love like literally before you write this say a prayer and say please guide me to help me understand exactly how I want to show up in really challenging situations <hes> with the highest good and the highest love love or whatever that looks like maybe spirit guide me. Maybe God help me why however but definitely say a prayer before writing this and then underneath that you'll say you know what do I want to. How do I want to respond when these are broken broken by other people or when I break them right is the first step a conversation and if that conversation doesn't go smoothly than what and if it's been several conversations you decide you know if I have two or three conversations in this keeps happening or maybe if this happens the two more times like you make an actual decision and you say that I'm putting a boundary up and I'm not allowing this person in my life for a while or however that looks and you've made a decision so you're no longer in the black and white saying this happened again I I know I shouldn't have let this happen or I can't believe this is going on or this is all I'm thinking about her? I'm so mad at this person like that is an energy drain. It is draining from exactly where you're supposed to be who you're supposed to be helping. It's draining you from giving the love you're supposed to give to your family and to yourself right so being really clear on. What are these decisions in life? Do they have any exceptions because nothing is black and white right. You have to write out the gray and also understanding that yes you wanna stick to this as close us as possible but there will be an exception that you don't know about or that you forget about but for the most part you're going to be really clear when you're going to try to make an exception. That isn't really an exception you WANNA be making it all and you're like that just is is yeah. That's not gonNa work for me so you're going to know that it's it's a kind of its threatening. Who You wrote down that you wanna be because maybe your characters being challenged? Maybe someone's telling you you're a bad person because of something and you're like. Can you know this all says I followed my rules and contracts so I'm going to go ahead and just stick with this decision and make peace with it and pray around it and know that if I don't do this that I'm not going to be able to have the self respect. Respect for myself. I'll know that I'm not actually protecting the sacred business that I want to start. That's helping so many lives. That's employing so many people or is about to employ a lot of people or is changing the legacy of a lot of families. That's what you have to remember is your boundaries in your contracts in your word and what you're saying no to is a protective barrier on this sacred business and money that you're making to help move people forward. You have to get right with saying. No you a half to get right with making money. You have to get right with when people challenge you let them not like you. Stick to your decisions that you know are right so I get super fiery about this because I see so many businesses not make it. I see so. Many people start to crumble when things get hard if you're an entrepreneur. Your job is to solve problems. That's it so if you wake up in there aren't problems you might need to look at Your Business and if it's moving forward it fast enough or if it's growing fast enough so honestly if a problem comes know that you chose to be an entrepreneur because you wanted to be the one who wants to solve the problem so if you don't WanNa be the one who does or doesn't have problems you guys go work for <hes> you know someone else or something that you don't have to even worry about or a company that you don't care about because even if you go work for <hes> an amazing corporate company or you are working somewhere that you love. You're going to feel this like the only way to not solve problems or have pain or have hard times like this or have tough decisions is if you don't give a flying f. about the place that you are working and that's not how any of us want to be right if you love what you do if you enjoy what you do I don't care what position your in you will absolutely have to solve challenging problems and majority of those problems are going to be with people or they're going to be solved through people and and I'll tell you it's not going to be the easy route. It's going to be you having to stand up and say what you need to say to move things forward or create a boundary or stick to something or stand up for your culture or not tolerate something not tolerate certain treatment not tolerate how people are showing up so you guys. I just want you to know this is all a part of it. It's beautiful. It's four you and it's either all four you or none of it is that is my belief in life and not is what gets me through every day and that's what keeps me excited about life so that even when massive challenges on a platter come. I'm just like all of this is for me. All of this is happening for me. I've adopted the belief if that this is all a setup for what is coming next. I need this new muscle that feels so painful in order to know how to move through quicker easier better <hes> on on this next problem. That's coming on this bigger thing that I will get to work on so I was thinking today when we when we get a problem as entrepreneurs are in the workplace at all <hes> you know sometimes it's it's easy to who get stuck in them. So maybe someone on your team. If you're a network marketing has really hurt your feelings or stabbed you in the back or is totally going against what you're saying or maybe someone you know who works for you as just done a complete one eighty the and you were just completely shocked by what's going on or you can't tolerate the way someone showing up anymore or maybe one of your clients or a coaching client or something like that is breaking contracts are you. Are you know maybe they're saying things about you or they. Don't like the way that you've done things things and we can get really stuck in those <hes> problems and the thing is those aren't the problems that are going to move your business forward and those aren't the things that are going to help. Those are actually going to drain you. That's actually harmful all to your company. If you don't make a decision quickly move on and make peace so I was thinking today was actually insult cycle thinking about this and I thought Oh my God when we get stuck on a problem it's like going to the gym and having having a really hard workout and after leaving just like trying to get back into the pain of how much it hurt while you were doing squats and how agonizing that was and how terrible it felt while you were at the gym and how a sore your muscles are it's. It's like you guys when we leave the gym or like yeah okay. That was really hard but now I'm going to focus on what it's GonNa do for me. So this is what we need to do it instead of being like Oh. This is so hard. The problem happened. You don't have to focus on it now. You ask yourself. Why is this happening for me? How do I move through with peace with love of the highest good and understand that sometimes when you're doing something hard and making a hard decision? It's actually because that other person needs this this lesson you can't rob people of lessons right. You cannot rob people of their lessons and a lot of times when you make tough decisions and you have to stand up for yourself you are one of the biggest pieces of their lessons that they would never be receiving if you did not do that so it's not only a lesson for you to stand up for yourself and your boundaries but also for them so it's equal or all fulfilling soul contracts every single day and I can tell you whether it was in my fitness business. When I'm are era for my monthly membership program I can tell you whether it's you know was during writing a book <hes> in working out contracts? I can tell you whether it's hiring employees or being in network marketing and working with the big team or now doing big events or whatever that looks like it. Has We always been challenging. It has always been hard. I've always questioned Oh my God. Is this what I'm supposed to be doing. This is really hard. Should it feel this painful and now I'm like okay. Let's not focus on that. Like why would I go back and be like wow that squat was terrible. It really hurt hurt. My muscles were so fatigued. I can't believe it like no. This is all for me. This is all making me better. I love that I get to do this. I'm so freaking. Blessed bring on the problems because problems are why I'm here if we we didn't have any you wouldn't be an entrepreneur and you wouldn't have a business like you're solving a problem the day that you say that you want a business because your business is going to solve problems right. My business is going to provide ex. My coaching is going to provide I'd acts <hes> my food whatever it is. It's going to provide something. You're solving a problem so guess what comes with that. You're going to be solving problems every single day and it's GonNa rock your world and it's so worth it and it's all about reframing and you guys. I'm super fiery because I've had a lot of people come to me like either worried about their business or how are they going to say no to this or they're having a lot of trouble honoring their word. They're having a lot of trouble honoring their boundaries unlike you're not gonNa Keep what you have and it can't keep keep growing because you're not going to be can't be able to handle the bigger decisions later on so do it now decide who you are now by writing this all out and using this graph is not going to be easy but it's going to be clear and the more clear that you are the faster you move in the faster you move the more that thing that's burning in your heart and your purpose is going to be out in the world and you're gonNa feel so much piece at the end of the day because you're fulfilling your God given purpose purpose you fulfilling your God given purpose so you guys I'm sending you so much love today. Thank you for that. I was just on a rant because I have so many amazing women in my life right now who are having trouble with <hes> making decisions making tough decisions ends and feeling like they're <hes> you know their boundaries. They're getting cross left and right and I'm like well. This is something that we're tolerating right. So what are we tolerating. This is what your life is. GonNa look like if you didn't tolerate people <hes> pushing those boundaries it would stop showing up. It's because our lessons sends. We'll keep showing up until we understand what we need to do clearly so I really hope this helped you guys. I hope that you can put your hand on your stomach and feel a little bit of fire of knowing who you are and letting that person come out more because that higher self absolutely knows best so I love you guys so much. Let me know what you got out of this. If it was something that's hitting you right exactly where you're at. I would love to know if it helps you make any decisions and once you make that decision. Let me know let me know if you find some peace on the other side so sending you so much love you guys until next time. Earn your happy. Everyone thank you guys so much for spending this time with me on the earn your happy podcast I am so glad that you stopped by. If you could take one second to share this episode with someone you think would love it that would be absolutely amazing and we would be forever. Grateful also please leave us a review if you feel so moved by going to itunes and leaving us an honest.