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Fresh update on "melissa" discussed on The Takeaway
"Melissa Harris Perry in for Tanzania, Vega and we begin with this sobering reminder. Even as we dip our toes tentatively back into normalcy. Our return is still nascent. But here's the good news. More than 150 Million Americans are fully vaccinated. And while it's short of President Biden's target of vaccinating 70% of Americans by July, 4th, our current 45% vaccination rate has meant workplaces, summer camps and even entertainment venues are reopening. And this is because reports of Covid 19 related death or serious illness. Among the fully vaccinated are exceedingly rare. Now. Here's the challenging news. Globally, the pandemic still rages. Brazil and India continued to battle steep increases in infections and deaths. And that's due in large part to highly contagious variants, including one called the Delta Variant, and the delta Variant has spread to more than 90 countries. It's already becoming the dominant variant in places like India and the U. K. And is on track to becoming the dominant strain here in the US, where it now makes up at least 20% of all new cases. Just yesterday, White House chief medical advisor Dr Anthony felt, she declared. The Delta variant is currently.
Fresh update on "melissa" discussed on Jeff Wagner
"Their zoo to highway Q three extra at 17. And if you're going southbound 41 45 south on highway Q to the zoo Interchange five extra at 20. Good Hope Road to the zoo. Five extra at 15 Wtmj five day forecast for the rest of today. It's going to be partly cloudy. Slight chance for a shower might see a thunderstorm and a high 84 Tonight Partly cloudy and breezy a low 67 Tomorrow Partly cloudy. It's going to be a little bit more humid thunderstorm likely high 82 Friday Mostly cloudy human brain thunderstorms likely Hi 80 Saturday Partly cloudy chance for showers and storms A high 77 Sunday Partly cloudy 76 right now in Madison. It is 71 degrees in Green Bay. 73 Walk a shot 67 in Milwaukee. We are at 73 degrees. I'm Melissa Bar Clay, Citing unlimited wtmj news time 203. Alice. Oh, you make me cringe when I found you. You let the sunshine I Alice, You are my everything palace. Windows Stores and boy call 414384 75.
Fresh "melissa" from Jeff Wagner
"83, the S and P 500 years up about three points to 40 to 49. Wtmj pele wi dot com Time saver traffic sticky spots as usual on 41 45 northbound and so I found because of the zipper merge North Beyond seems a little bit heavier. Five extra 15 minutes if you're traveling zoo interchanged atop Rhode and 41 45 northbound zoo to highway Q five extra At 20 southbound. If you're going in that direction, you're going to see about three extra minutes. Total ride. Traffic is sponsored by rich lands, Tyrant service centres, rich lawns, tire and service centers. Five locations in all easy to find. Visit Richland. Calm When you're Due for service WTMJ five day forecast Partly cloudy For today. There was a slight chance for showers. Maybe a thunderstorm later High 84 Tonight Partly cloudy and breezy, low 67 Tomorrow Partly cloudy a little bit more humid, too, might see an afternoon thunderstorm high 82 for Friday mostly cloudy, humid rain and storms likely. Hi 80 going into the weekend Saturday. Partly cloudy chance for showers High 77 Sunday Partly cloudy high 76 right now in Osh Kosh at 72 graft in 74 in Milwaukee, were at 75 degrees. Melissa Barkley setting and limited WTMJ news time 1 35. All right, coming up. As the lead up to the Brewers game, we launch into one of the most controversial elements that we.
"In the Heights": A Joyous Return to the Movies
"T o P News Well before Hamilton Lin Manuel Miranda won best musical for in the Heights. The hotly anticipated movie version is now showing in movie theaters and streaming on HBO. Max, Who's Na'vi de la Vega runs a bodega in one Washington Heights, New York, Dreaming of returning to the Dominican Republic. Anthony Ramos inherits the Royal from Lin Manuel Miranda, but it won't be jarring to D C audiences who already saw him in the part of the Kennedy Center. We root for his romance with Melissa Barrera, just as we do, Allegedly Grace and Corey Hawkins, all four of which get character arts, dreaming of starting a tiki bar. Becoming hairstyle is fighting for immigrants and running a taxi dispatch director John Chu proves you can do things on screen that you can on stage, choreographing dance numbers in swimming pools, surreal subway tunnels, even sides of buildings. A tough pandemic year. It's the feel good movie we need right now for a
What In the Heights Melissa Barrera Learned by Playing an Iconic Character
"The first time. I spoke with melissa bed. She was getting a lot of buzz for her role in either and i walked away from that interview. Certain that melissa star was only going to rise. And that one day i'd be able to say at interviewed a mega talent when she was still sharing an apartment with a roommate and doing self taped auditions in a corner. That day has arrived sooner than i'd imagined. Melissa is no sparkling on the big screen as vanessa in in the heights. A role that has taken. Melissa backed her musical theater roots and forced her. Summon the confidence that is. Owed a login triple threat melissa. I am so excited to see you again. Oh my gosh you remember that coroner where selves our that is crazy. It's doing a half years two and a half years. Okay okay link of an ira legit. I loved in the heights. I watched it two times back to back. I did all cried sheets of fears so fine. But let's start at the beginning. Tell me about your audition for the film. The first time. That auditioned for the movie. I had just booked vina. I went back to mexico city after shooting the pilot to get my visa stopped at the consulate and to close out my apartment in mexico city to tackle stuff because i was like definitely now moving to la. And i got the self state requests while. I was in mexico city and i freaked out because i was like. Who's going to help me do this software in english. Who's going to help me play the piano for me. How i had a couple of my friends come and they helped with the scenes. And then i had our orchestra director for when i did young frankenstein in mexico helped me with the piano and i must have sang in. Won't be long now Like seventy times. Because i just hated it.
3,000 Eggs Abandoned After Drone Scares Birds in California
"Visitors ignoring the rules are loving the wildlife to death at a California park the Bolsa chica ecological reserve is a thirteen hundred acre coastal estuary in Huntington beach California according to the state department of fish and wildlife someone flew two drones over an island where thousands of elegant turns to lay their eggs one of the drones crashed in the marsh and several thousand turns fearing an attack from a predator abandon their nests now at a time when baby chicks would be hatching the sand is littered with the shells from three thousand eggs reserve manager Melissa Lobel says it's one of the largest scale abandonment of eggs ever at the coastal site the reserve has seen more visitors than usual during the pandemic that's led to more drone activity and also more dogs and bicycles all of which are prohibited I'm Jennifer king
Will We Need COVID-19 Booster Shots?
"Are widely available in the U. S. Many folks want to know if boosters will be needed down the road. One Wisconsin medical expert doesn't rule it out. Medical College of Wisconsin President and CEO Dr John Raymond tells Wisconsin's afternoon news that as of right now we don't need boosters We get from the three vaccines better authorized in the U. S is good. It covers all of the variance of concern right now, But things may change if new variants pop up in the future. I do think that it's possible. Well, maybe even likely that we'll be getting annual boosters. But a lot really depends on what we don't know yet, which is how long that immunity is gonna last. Melissa Barkley,
Moderna Finds Vaccine Safe and Effective in Kids 12 to 17
"World with the Moderna Covert 19 vaccine found to be 100% effective in kids. 12 to 17 years old. One Wisconsin medical expert says This is an important part of the vaccination puzzle. Single person that gets vaccinated gets us closer to a new normal Medical College of Wisconsin president CEO Dr John Raymond says kids 12 to 15 are about 5% of the population. Kids, 12 and under are about 15% really an important group. Right now They're the individuals that are most likely to get infected with covert 19. Dr. Raymond says he's optimistic that both the Fizer and Moderna vaccines will be fully approved by the FDA. By July. MELISSA BAR CLAY
Vaccination Clinic Near Boston ‘Takes Fear Away and Adds Fun’
"Week from today. The goal now is to vaccinate as many people as possible. WBZ TV is Christina Rex in Chelsea, with vaccinations up and hospitalizations down in communities hit hardest by covert 19 like here in Chelsea. Things are starting to look up just one week before the state reopen its It looks like a carnival, which balloon animals and slushies believe it or not. This is a Chelsea vaccine clinic, so it's a perfect way to take the fear away and add fun and get people vaccinated. In the final push of Massachusetts effort to stop the spread of covert vaccinations are focused on hard hit communities like Chelsea and on kids. It didn't hurt at all. Honestly, 13 year old Melissa Salgueiro just got her first doats and 11 flushing. It's really nice, honestly, cause they're giving out free stuff, and that's really nice of them. Massachusetts is a U. S leader in vaccinations with 4.2 million people having at least one dose of the vaccine and nearly 3.4 million fully vaccinated. Amazing. I'm obviously so proud of
How ‘Law and Order’ Helped Florida Girl Confront Alleged Kidnapper
"Order, order, you you may may want want to to say say OK, OK, 11 11 year year old old Elizabeth Elizabeth Nell Nell says says a a man man with with a a knife, knife, grabbed grabbed her, her, threatened threatened her her and and tried tried to to drag drag her her to to his his van. van. It It was was all all Caught Caught on on video. video. He took me with his R and I was able to get him down to the ground and I was able Tonto get away. Florida Panhandle girl had been playing with blue slime and from watching law and order, she says she knew the importance of evidence, so she slimed him when deputies caught up with a would be kidnapper. The stuff was all over his arms. Melissa's mother, Amber got caught blue handed. Peter King. CBS NEWS Orlando Apple CEO Tim Cook will take the witness
Great News About a New Regional Wholesale Hub
"As you may know. I've been documenting. The emergence and rise of regional flower hubs for more than a decade. My deepest ties are with the seattle wholesale growers market. A farmer owned cooperative whose origin state twenty ten. When a group of growers came together at a regional. Asc of g meeting held at charles little and company. In eugene oregon. Fortunately i was there and witnessed those. I am vicious optimistic. Conversations that yielded what we here in seattle. Enjoy today at the time. There were only two other models to which the founders of the seattle growers market could look oregon flower growers association which has a long history in the portland market having been founded in the nineteen forties and fairfield flowers a small but mighty collective of wisconsin and illinois growers serving madison and milwaukee flores fairfield flower ceased operating as a collective on january first of two thousand nineteen but many of the floor farmers who participated still grow and sell flowers independently. We have witnessed encouraged and featured on the slow flowers podcast. Numerous other regional efforts to bring flowers from the field to the florist and consumer and innovative ways from legal cooperatives to privately held wholesaler operations from casual meetups to marketing collectives. You've heard from many of them or their members here on the slow flowers podcast and now we have a new example to highlight. Let's welcome to of the founders of old dominion flour cooperative a washington. Dc area local flower cooperative. My guests are melissa webster founder and megan wakefield director of operations to growers. Who are part of this group. That launched publicly at the end of january.
Racism, Opioids and COVID-19: A Deadly Trifecta
"Two thousand seventeen the governor of illinois implemented a plan to halt the explosive growth of opioid deaths in the state. The plan was to cut those deaths by at least a third by the end of twenty. Twenty twenty twenty was gonna be the turning point for illinois dua l. deeb is a reporter with propublica they're starting to see a decrease and opioid overdose deaths and they were really kind of making progress across the state and they were really hopeful but early last year duo got a tip that the number of opioid related deaths might actually be on the rise in the region so she and her colleague melissa. Sanchez started investigating the analyzed death records from the cook. County medical examiner's office. And what they found was alarming. We found that opioid overdoses surged and cook county and specifically in chicago and that those overdoses were disproportionately killing black residents. I think by the summer we had seen about hundred residents who had died of suspected or confirmed opium overdoses which is about double the number from the year before drug overdose deaths are on the rise all around the country. This was a nationwide problem that we're seeing kind of start to rise before the pandemic and then just continue as a pandemic ravaged our communities absolutely. This is the obvious question for me. Here is whether we have a sense of how much of this increase can be tied to the coronavirus pandemic so cova didn't cause the spike but like everything else that made it worse the financial stress the isolation The desperation all of that seems to be really exacerbating things and then when we talk about isolation with opioid. Use one of the things that they say. Is you know if you're gonna use use with someone else so that then they can administer naloxone the opioid overdose reversal drug. But you know people were not using with others
What is Comparisonitis? The Difference Between Healthy and Unhealthy Comparison
"Itis is when we compare ourselves to others and in talks unhealthy way and we make it means something about ourselves like. I'm good enough. I'm not smart enough. I am less than that other person. So that is comparison itis and a majority of people are suffering with it right now. There is healthy comparison and there is unhealthy comparison and a lot of us a suffering with the unhealthy comparison. So like with all of my books. I write them for myself. Because i'm dealing with that at that time in my life and comparison itis was something that i was definitely dealing with whilst i was riding i was suffering the worst of the worst case of comparison. Itis i was constantly comparing myself to others on social media in my friendship circle. All of these women who were getting pregnant around me quite quickly and it took my husband and i eighteen months so that was a huge eighteen month battle of severe comparison itis and i remember the one day i was scrolling instagram whilst i was on the toilet and as you do as you do i was. I came across this new york times. Bestselling author who had just ridden her hundredth book and Was again a new york times bestseller. And i found myself comparing myself to her. You know why why on my books new york times still is like. I'm not good enough. Maybe my writings notice good. What's going on. And i went into this really unhealthy toxic spiral of comparison itis and then i came back upstairs to my and i sat down on my computer and i got an email from this beautiful girl. Who was telling me that. She's writing her first book. And did i have any words of wisdom for her because she was comparing herself to me and she said you know. I'm comparing myself do you. You've written so many bestselling books. And i had this lightbulb moment. That here i was comparing myself to someone else whilst someone else was comparing themselves to me. It's like this vicious cycle. And i realized in that moment that we're all comparing ourselves to each
Women Scientists Launch Climate Campaign Aimed at Mothers
"Six percent of americans are worried about global warming among moms that number is even higher. We know that climate change is a threat to all people and in particular are kids. Melissa bird has a young daughter and she's a climate scientist at colorado state university. She says that although many moms are worried about global warming many do not feel equipped to take action. They don't have the resources to understand the climate issue completely and aren't sure what they can actually do to tackle it so burden. A group of other women. Scientists teamed up to create a campaign called science. Moms moms tend to trust other moms. And we scientists want to be that credible neutral messenger to educate moms to inspire moms and really empower them to use their voices on its website. The science mom's group provides short videos debunked. Climate myths and offers ways to get involved for example includes a sample letter. Descend to a member of congress. Bird says the website is designed for moms but we want all parents to have a better understanding of what climate change is all about and then get all to really want to take action in that
The Science of Building Better Relationships With Marissa King
"Here. We go now with melissa king. Okay mercer king great to meet you. Thanks for coming on. It's how did you get interested in this subject. Social networks social chemistry so many people. I feel like you we studying. We teach what we need and that was certainly the case for me. I had spent decades of my career understanding social networks in particular trying to understand how networks related to outcomes like mental health and wellbeing. But what was interesting is when it came time for me to start my own career. I kept getting this advice saying you know you need to get out. You need to network to meet people. But based on everything. I knew from science at that actually was really misguided. Advice and for me actually created a big obstacle to authentically connecting with people in developing relationships in ways that were both meaningful to me and also consistent with what we know is helpful research and so i really wanted to write the book to help other people who have had more experience to me and just almost debilitated by the idea of feeling like they need to get out network. Which simply isn't true. So if you don't need to get out network but you do need to know people in order to get anything done. Where's the sweet spot. When we're thinking about networking we have this idea and our mind that we need to meet new people or we need a larger network and that makes perfect sense. It's one of the easiest things to see and understand his simply. How many people you know but what we know is for almost every outcome the would carry about if you think about what we know from what network research it. Networks are associated with the hood of pay promotion career success our physical wellbeing even being in poverty network is associated with a heightened risk of premature mortality or even our happiness in simply just how satisfied with life for every single one of those outcomes networks matter but it's not the size of your network or how many people you know it's actually the quality of your network in the structure of your network the configuration of your social relationships and by starting to understand what we mean by quality and what we mean by structure we can develop networks are actually much more effective than simply just meeting new
Empowering Caregivers Through Technology
"Melissa how are you today. Thank you for joining me curt. Congratulations thank you. Yeah you get really sick of your own voice. When you do this. I'll tell you it's very quickly green. You know absolutely and really. Like i say this all the time in the beginning. And i don't know if you can relate to this but like when i wanted to kick it off. I kept feeling like somebody had to give me permission to do it. Like kept telling everybody like. Hey i'm going to do this thing. And everybody's cool. Yeah go do it. And i'm like but should i don't know you never lose. That is actually speaking of never losing you. Melissa have company called josh. So tell me. Josh is and what does it do for who you are and thanks for the opportunity for being here. John is a tech platform that matches families. With special needs disabilities specialized care needs to find an increase greens a caregivers sitters nannies. And we are an end to end solution for those families and five across the country to really aimed build a team and manage their care needs in one place. It's something that melanie fontaine. My co-founder who happens to sister. We're super passionate about That's awesome yeah the services amazing and it's so needed and from understanding your story. It really came from personal experience right. Yeah melanie and i grew up with our big brother josh. He was the best big brother we can have. He also happened have developmental disabilities and a pretty severe epilepsy disorder to put it in context effort meeting for people who don't understand what those things mean. Developmentally was around the age of ten or eleven. No matter what his age that was developmentally where he was and then epilepsy. He would have two to three seizures a day and different types of seizures and what kind of encompasses those needs. Pretty complex made involved major to call mas Occupational therapy physical therapy medication. Just so as a family really changes your view on life advocacy awareness and just really help precious life is and how little we have a bit and to make the most of it
Melissa Bernstein: Melissa and Doug Co-Founder
"Bernstein good morning. Hello added jennifer. Thank you for those kind kind words about our company. We appreciate your support. Oh my god i. How many sticker books did i go through. How many sticker. Pats ten thousand sticker pads. I just kept getting them for you. It's okay for me the the ripping off of a sticker. Those those pads saved my life. And i want to. I want him have those pads for for adults. That's what i want. I want the emotion. I wanna do the stuff that your your book. You wrote this incredible book. Lifeline will talk about but i wanna see a lifelines Toy a line do not fear. Yeah i thought that might becoming tell me about how a kid you growing up as a kid. You're five years old and you're having these thoughts. What what are you thinking in your head. And what's going on in your family yeah. Unfortunately i'm thinking in my head. I cannot show this to anyone and must do whatever i can to hide it from the world so i basically took two paths. I'd say the first was to deny disassociate in repress every single thing i was feeling and put on a facade of perfection and validation through achieving perfection and then the second was to retreat into my imagination when ever i could create a fictitious world with imaginary friends and like this beautiful blissful place where anything was possible in the boundless expanse of imagination. You actually wrote as a little kid. You wrote what you call verses which has found its way into your book lifeline so that that force that that life force that was in you and in your imagination you were using it at a very young
Women Street Photographers - Melissa Breyer & Emily Sujay Sanchez
"Back in two thousand nineteen. I interviewed photographer. Narasaki me ova about her. Founding of women street photographers a collection of hundreds of women who share a passion for street photography. What began as one. Woman's inspiration has turned into a community that has showcased and inspired photographers. The world over the annual exhibits have displayed. Amazing work the breakthrough any assumed limitations of sexuality and locality. The recent release of the book women street photographers provide a new way for that talent to be displayed and shared and today we speak to two photographers were included in that monograph. The first is melissa. Brier also provides the forward to the book. Her work consists of ongoing themed projects including true stories watch woman and city of clouds. Emily's j sanchez is a relative newcomer to the world of street photography her on the lot next communities of upper manhattan and the bronx results enrich photographs of an overlooked community especially among street offers. They are only two of numerous talent. Who's worked can be found in. The seminal book. This is a body ex and welcome back to the candidate for him first off. Congratulations on the book. It is non gyda fantastic job putting it together. Yeah i know a lot of work. God knows especially wrangling. That many photographers especially street photographers. I don't get it. yeah. I don't know how she did it. A real feet but she's supernatural so might makes sense.
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Nvidia to Directly Challenge Intel With Arm-Based Server Chip
"For we start off tonight with a semi smackdown the gloves coming off in the battle of the giants. Invidia fires of direct shot at intel. Let's get straight to. Josh lipton with all the details josh so melissa ceo jensen wong is transformed into a true powerhouse. With that companies graphics chips these are processors that generate images and accelerate. Now video plans to make its own servers. Cpu to those are the primary brains in most computing devices in video. Also saying t. That's first quarter. Revenue is tracking above its previous outlook of five point. three billion. And that's doc posted. Its best day here over a month. Some investors clearly saw in announcement as a direct shot at intel with reported twenty six billion in revenue permits data center group in two thousand and twenty. That was a jump eleven percent. that's doctors had. Its worst day since late february. So how bad is this news. Though for pat gelsinger techy. Patrick moore had capturing that his copy still does both certain advantages invidia with his new service is targeting more of a niche market. Patrick says and intel's still the giants dominates about ninety percent of this market. No response from intel on that invidia news. There was also that big one chip summit today remember. President binds infrastructure plan does include fifty billion dollars to the american chip industry. Melissa back to you josh. Quick question on the niche market point. How big is this market. Or how profitable is this to make the such a big deal that they're going after specifically this narrow part of the market. You're going after what it's called the hp hp mortgage so that is a market that would include things like national lab laboratories like los alamos. That's why patrick moorhead. In his point was saying one. These are different. Intel as dominating about ninety percent of that service you market and patrick's point is that intel's focus is different. It's really targeting. More general business uses and cloud providers. But we'll see how it plays out and listen
Schlumberger Delfi: Melissa Suman on Oil and Gas Startups
"Are sitting down with melissa suman. Most i didn't even ask you what your role is over at delfi or do you say it's adelphia you say it's at its love slumber j. but adelphia's the product is one of our solutions. Really one of the. Oh so you represent multiple solutions. Do i manage a sort of five business lines for us. Land that covers everything from what we call digital subsurface digital operation solutions. Everything from exploration all the way through drilling and production digital solutions All the way to integrated solutions around carbon capture and storage integrated. well construction. You stay busy was as big of a deal. Okay let me sit up straight talk all right so how how you start there. Eighteen years okay. I was twenty one. When i joined there was a baby. You don't look old enough to be there for eighteen years monday. I was like certainly we're the same age. I mean we could be there for eighteen years. Yeah events you sitting. Jacob put that condition over this first before we get into your story tells duffy. Is that where we have some context knocking about today about your story at summer. Jay so fair so in twenty seventeen we launched delfi so starkly. Slumber j. has been in the business of sort of emp software and It's been an on prem solution very traditional business and and we decided to to transform ourselves before people pushed us to transform so in two thousand seventeen. We launched delfi. It's a open environment where you can pull in applications and data and workflows and and sort of break down. The silos of what was traditionally the different domains the petra physics and the geoscientists and the reservoir engineer and work in one sort of collaborative
"melissa" Discussed on Just One Q with Dr. Melissa Horne
"On the move jesse fills the rest of his time competing in a variety of sports. Jesse is a former five-time crotty ontario champion military biathlon champion and an ironman triathlete. While out. it sounds better when you read it. Melissa does it. Yeah sounds more confident it is. It's extremely so back to my question. Jesse can diverse job seekers due to stand out in the corporate recruitment process. I think it's all job. Seekers can do but particularly diverse candidates. There's a lot of things that can be done. But i think what is imperative for candidates to understand what's happening on the other side. Unfortunately the reality of the market is when recruiters of all types are screening resumes. It typically becomes an exercise in exclusion not inclusion so disheartening. As it might be to hear that. I want to give you an image. I want you to picture a junior or maybe at best intermediate recruiter. That has a hundred to five hundred resumes to screen in a single day so black and white black and white black and white. It's impossible for us to take the time and read your entire resume word for were line for line so we skim them and different critters have different techniques and in most cases it.
"melissa" Discussed on Do The Thing, with Whole30's Melissa Urban
"Early, I didn't know anything about willpower at this point or the science of habit and change I didn't realize that willpower was highest first thing the morning. So anything that felt physically or emotionally or mentally daunting. There's a management theory that you should tackle that I in your day when willpower is highest and you can give yourself a big. Big. Win Put the hardest thing behind you. I didn't know any of that I just thought I want to start going to the gym and unhealthy person would get up early in the morning to go to the gym. So I would wake up at five am and I had about a forty minute commute to work, but I found a gym right near my office. So I would get super early be out the door in twenty minutes. Strive to the gym get my workout in then I, would go to the office take. Take a shower, get dressed me my post workout shake and I would start my day by about seven thirty or eight o'clock I think starting with this routine served me. Well, for a couple of reasons. The first thing is that it forced me to really think about what I needed to do to make this morning routine successful. So the night before I would get all of my clothes for work ready. I would lay out all of my gym clothes right down to my underwear and socks in the spare room I would. Would get my lunch ready and pack up all of my snacks and anything. I wanted to take to the office because I knew that if I had to stop and prep stuff in the morning like five am it would probably derail the entire routine. So forcing myself to think about what do I need to be successful with us was really really helpful. There's another piece to this too that I wanna mention because it is something that I have maintained sense day one. So for the last twenty years, I don't hit snooze. I decided that if I was going to go to the gym in the morning and I wanted to get as much sleep as I could. I was just going to have to go to bed early enough that when the alarm went off, I would immediately turn it off and get up and go. There was no snoozing for nine minutes because nine minutes turned into eighteen minutes, which then meant. I. Really didn't have enough time. Time for a good workout and more often than not, I would just want to skip. So that was one of the pieces of my morning routine is the alarm would go off. There would be no snooze. I did not deviate from this once not once, I'm very much a Gretchen Rubin Upholder Aena Graham Type Eight. When I say I'm going to do something I, do it. So the alarm goes off, do not hit. Hit. Snooze. I. Go Straight to the GYM, get my workout in, and that was my morning routine for about ten years until two, thousand, ten when I quit my full time job to take hold thirty full-time, my co founder and I had been doing whole thirty stuff nights and weekends for the better part of a year and a half, and it finally came time to pull the trigger and see if we could make..
"melissa" Discussed on Do The Thing, with Whole30's Melissa Urban
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"melissa" Discussed on Do The Thing, with Whole30's Melissa Urban
"Commitment to yourself if you constantly surround yourself with people who are either overtly overtly or subtly pressuring you to go back to your old behaviors? James Clear talked about this and our recent podcast and Nedra an I spoke about this to that part of self sabotage is putting yourself in these risky situations so if you decide that it is time to perhaps expand upon your social circle. It's not one or the other you don't have to necessarily let your current trends go but maybe you WanNa make them new like minded friends. That are more health focused and whose lives don't revolve around alcohol. What's the best way to meet New People? Well this is gonNA sound kind of obvious but meet people where you would want to hang out. So don't go to the bars on Friday night hoping to meet New People and then draw them into this life. That doesn't revolve around the bar that that doesn't really make a lot of sense. Go places where you're going to meet people who think like you. Maybe it's a class at the gym or the Yoga Studio. Maybe it's on a group hike. AAC maybe you're taking a cooking class. Maybe you sign up for lessons at the Rock Climbing Gym. Go places where you're going to meet people who WanNa do the same kinds of things that you do and that way you remove some of the friction associated with this like I want a drink all the time and you're not a drinker. That's the best thing to do and I should probably do an entire podcast about making friends as an adult because having moved to Salt Lake City about ten years ago not knowing anybody and not going to the bars now going to an office here in Salt Lake. It was really hard to make friends. So I'm going to put a note down for myself that that's going to be another podcast episode but look for New People in an environment where you would actually want to spend time one of you asked. How do I navigate events that are totally? Alcohol centered like a wine tasting. Here is another cold hard truth. You don't go to those events if the entirety of the event is about tasting wine or tasting ear or if it's a whiskey class where you get to sample various kinds of whiskey and you're not drinking. You don't go if someone invited you to a yoga a class and you really don't like yoga you wouldn't go. It's the same situation here. There are tons of social situations that involve alcohol but are not Centered on alcohol. Absolutely go to those continue to go. Don't drink all the tips. I'm giving you and have a great time. But if the entirety of the event is centered around Booze News. Don't go to those events and again if that's all your friends WanNa seem to do. If they only want to do wine tastings and Whiskey tastings brewery brewery tours. You need a new social circle. That's like the truth of that situation. A dear friend of mine asked this question and it's a good one because I struggled with this one myself. A glass of wine is so romantic and cozy with a friend. How can I replace that? I had the exact same team feeling during a whole thirty a couple years ago. I have a group of girlfriends here in Salt Lake. There's five of us. We liked to get together and sit on the patio. Oh on a beautiful summer day and drink a glass of wine. Nobody was a big drinker. I don't think anyone ever had more than like two glasses in an evening but there was something think about that that did feel very romantic and cozy and I really struggled with. What are we going to do instead? The key was just to show up at that advent and not have a glass of wine and realized that you're still sitting on a patio. You're still surrounded by some of your best girlfriends. It wasn't until I did the the activity without alcohol that it made me realize that the alcohol isn't the cozy part of that scenario. It's the set and the setting and the people that you're with and so the advice I would give you. My friend is just to eliminate alcohol from that equation and experience what that relationship would be like outside of alcohol and this is something else. That's GONNA come up again and again which is you are not able to show up as your most authentic addict self if you have alcohol between you meaning even one glass of wine throws me outside of my authentic self enough that I am now no longer longer able to connect as fully as I want with the people I am with and if the point of this meeting is to really connect with that friend and and bond and share and have those like good you know oxytocin boosting results wine. I will tell you only gets in the way of that. Ah So have. Their romantic and cozy event eliminate alcohol from the occasion and realize that. It's not actually about the wine and then you're free three then if you do decide that you want glass of wine the next time it's fantastic and you can enjoy it because it's worth it but you realize that you don't need it. I'll also say this if you're stuck on this idea of like but we always go out for drinks. What else are we supposed to do? I mean there are a million other things that you could do with your friends. I I love going out for tea or coffee so we will meet in the mid afternoon or even if it's in the evening I'll do a pot of herbal tea and like that's just as warm and cozy invite her to here house and Cook a meal together. That's incredibly romantic in cozy your shopping. You've got a playlist on your saw taking your cooking. Then you sit down over a table and eat beat ticks all my boxes. One of my favorite activities to do with friends is gopher or walk. Meet at a park or on a trail. It doesn't have to be a hike but there's something about being outside having the green space having the fresh air and maybe some sunshine and also research shows. This is super interesting. But if you want to have a really open. Authentic conversation with someone. Sitting side by side or walking side-by-side facilitates that better than facing facing each other. Because it feels less vulnerable so inviting a friend out to go for a walk is another really fantastic way of actually connecting acting that isn't centered around going out for a drink. So maybe it's just this idea of getting outside of what you've always done and starting a new tradition. This same conversation applies to dating. I had a lot of people who ask. How do I navigate dating and not drinking? One person actually wrote dating is hard enough without feeling like the Weirdo all right. We're going to tackle that one in a minute but this same thought process applies here as it does to going out for drinks with friends and if you are meeting someone for the very first time you WanNa make it super clear that you're not a big drinker or that you're not drinking at all so if they if your first State says do you WanNa meet for drinks the easiest thing to do is just to say. Actually I don't drink. Would you like to go out for coffee instead or I'm not drinking right now and to be honest. I'm not a big drinker in general. Would you like to meet for coffee instead. Get that right out in the open because if they likes going out for drinks all the time that's not going to be your person and you might as well find that out now talk about setting yourself up for success if you WANNA make new like minded friends or you want to make a new like minded partner. Make sure that that I encounter is really authentic to who you really are if they invited you out for golfing. You didn't play golf you you would say no. I don't golf. Golf is their life. They would.
"melissa" Discussed on Weeknight Kitchen with Melissa Clark
"It really does for me now I'm going to add olive oil and I want to add the amount of olive oil that's about four three to four times the amount of lemon juice shows that Melissa has not used one measuring thing yet now because either you make this enough you bring you all when you're doing it in the salad bowl yes but I'm tasting please meach immortal but you see yes I can taste the fish sauce and Saharan it's yeah interesting ten more limited so why do you think it needs more lemon.
"melissa" Discussed on Do The Thing, with Whole30's Melissa Urban
"To feel more connected to your community and your fellow humans but didn't require investing hours of your time or drawing going deep from your energetic resources. I discovered just this source more than six years ago and it kind of changed my life today. I wanna tell you about my melissa talks to strangers experiment and how you might discover that talking to strangers is the thing that's been missing missing in your longing for more real connection in your life. I grew up on the east coast and i spent most of my life there. I was born and raised in new hampshire and lived in various cities in new hampshire like basically all my life and here's how i describe east coasters. Were not rude. We just don't need to talk to you. If you're from the east coast. Maybe you can relate. We do things really fast and unless it's transactional or i actually know you. There's very little reason to start a conversation nation and this is always worked just fine for me because as an upholder i just want to get things done and so i don't need any unnecessary conversation around around my transactional experience with you. Also i'm an introvert and as an introvert. It's expensive for me to give you my energy like the more time i spend engaging with the people out in the world the more time i need by myself to recharge so i would not spend my social currency on things like you know talking to my cashier or my bank. Tell our or my barista. I would save it for family and friends and i would keep those engagements to a very cursory like high and thanks now. I don't know if everyone we went on the east. Coast is like this but this is definitely my experience and i noticed a huge difference when i go home to visit now compared to where i live now which is utah so i moved out here to the west about nine years ago and i immediately discovered that the culture here is very different so our first week here we walked into a local grocery store here called liberty heights fresh and our cashier greeted us with this super chirpy. Hey how are you guys doing anything fun this weekend and and my partner at the time who's originally from british columbia in an extrovert boot totally chatted her up so happily and i bagged groceries <unk> gave her like a weird little side and we walked out of the store and i remember saying she doesn't know us. Why does she care what we're doing this weekend and he had to explain to me that people are different in the west and other parts of the country and that chatting up strangers is pretty normal occurrence. I thought it was really weird and i did did not participate for a long time so long that like very often when i would be out in public engaging people would say you're not from here. Are you but in two thousand thirteen i thought okay i live here now. I should probably try to fit in a little better so over lunch. One day i hatched this experiment. Melissa talks to strangers. I called it so for thirty days. I committed that i would talk to basically everyone that i came into contact with for more than a few seconds so so this was like wait staff baristas the front desk person at the gym might uber driver every one. I thought it would be really weird and awkward but actually turns is out that it wasn't. I thought people would think i was weird but i couldn't believe how like ninety nine percent of people happily opened up right away. I learned to ask open but noninvasive questions like anything exciting happened today or that. Tattoo is really interesting. Did you get it done around here or stealing from my liberty heights cashier doing anything fun this weekend. I'd hear stories of wonderful an awful customers. I'd hear about an exam. They were studying for a a party. They were throwing favorite meals. They've eaten or cooked like we talked about kids and partners and foods and hikes and travel and every subject under the sun it is remarkable how much you can cover in just a few minutes with a total stranger but we would end up in these randomly begun conversations conversations. I would get a glimpse just a really small glimpse in narrow window into some aspect of their life for just a minute or two but these glimpses were so rich they felt so nourishing from a total stranger someone i would probably never see again. I noticed that car share rides. Were a a huge opportunity. I was traveling for thirty. I was in uber's and left's allot. I would always have like fifteen or twenty minutes at least to draw out my driver's vers leith experience so i heard about the motorcycles they rode the trips. They took the marriages that were flourishing like. I asked more than one uber driver who mentioned he'd been married for more than twenty five years like what's your secret. What's your advice and they were always so happy to share. I heard about marriages ending. I heard about kids. They were proud of. I heard about their kids with addiction and interestingly. I heard a lot of their own recovery stories. It feels like the universe put me in a lot of cars with a lot of recovering addicts and alcoholics so so that was interesting. I learned through these interactions that everyone has a story and every single person. I talked to was really really interesting. I could not believe how much i enjoyed these interactions. I met some remarkable people. I used to share them on instagram under the hashtag melissa talks to strangers so we'd take photos with them right snap a picture of like their steering wheel or their now empty exit row seat but i would share these experiences inches on instagram talking about all the incredible strangers i met and what we talked about. I met professional athletes. I met pilots. I met authors parents grandparents. I was going back through my old photos does and i remembered a dashing former race car driver named gus so apparently if you watch my instagram stories you know i have a soft spot for older men named gus but i remember when i told gus what kind of motorcycle road he laughed and said that's the first bike i ever stole does might be the coolest person i've ever met. I i also learned that these interactions didn't have to be particularly meaningful to fill me up. Sometimes they were really meaningful. So once i it was in california on book tour and my escort was driving me back from an event we had a significant amount of time stuck in traffic and she mentioned how much she really enjoyed hearing me talk hawk because her daughter is also recovering addict and that led to a long very heartfelt conversation about how helpless she feels and how much she default like it was her fault and it was me reassuring her that it wasn't and telling her all of the ways that she is already supporting her daughter and how she can support her daughter. It was a really he leave meaningful conversation and a few of those where it was obvious that god put me in this person's path for a reason but without my talking to strangers experiment everyman we never would have really connected. I would say most of them. Were just surface level connections a few like chit chats back and forth and then i left there line or got up from the table but still i was completely surprised by how much i gained from each and every one of these experiences one minute here two minutes there a couple times throughout my day. It left me feeling so good. I was so much happier after i left those engagements and i feel like the people full i left. Were happier to like. We were both smiling. We were both laughing. I feel like i made someone else's day a little bit better and i absolutely know that it made my day better. Another unexpected benefit was that it made me really good at small talk for things like parties or work events. I was already like pretty comfortable in that environment environment but when you get to practice several times a day in these completely safe environments it really bumps up your small talk game like no matter what in these talking stranger experiments your interaction is limited like at some point. I'm walking away and i may not see them again. Chances are never going to so. There's like no pressure whatsoever. It's awkward. If i say something don which i'll tell you about later 'cause i have said my share of dumb things. It's a cautionary tale years years learn and do something different next time but eventually i moved away from like how's your day going to coming up with really creative ways to open conversations nations and i practised staying really present for just those few moments which made me even more comfortable to walk into a party where i didn't know anybody. One of the most common questions i get when i talk about this experiment is what do you do if someone doesn't wanna talk. I honestly can only remember like maybe one or or two times where someone didn't wanna talk like i would open with like something funny or at ask a question and they would just sort of brush it off. Maybe it happened more often than i'm remembering like honestly ninety nine percent of the time. People were really happy to engage with me. I would say it was way more frequent that i didn't wanna talk. I would be in a bad mood. It'd be cranky. Rinke would be overtired. I'd be like over socialized and i would think to myself like i do not wanna come up with something nice to say to this total stranger but i'm gretchen rubin upholder holder so for the sake of the experiment. I would force myself to do it anyway. The most interesting part was that when i was at my crankiest or the most down talking to this total stranger even for just a few minutes completely lifted my spirits. It was an instant and powerful transformation. I was so whole again. I keep saying blown away but like this whole experiment was just so shocking to me that these short interactions with total strangers could affect me so much it was such a powerful lesson in the beauty of human connection and occasionally. These interactions did lead to so much more than just a two-minute interaction with a stranger. My waitress takashi became a friend in real life and now owns my favorite breakfast pot where i see her regularly. I follow more than in one of my starbucks baristas on instagram.
"melissa" Discussed on Weeknight Kitchen with Melissa Clark
"Hey it's Melissa Clark I'm a food writer for the New York Times which means my job is to think and write about food all the time your rubber you get your podcasts
"melissa" Discussed on Do The Thing, with Whole30's Melissa Urban
"She writes, dear Melissa. I need help with self-care particularly around saying, no when work family, friends or life events come up that I don't wanna go to or feel to drain to attend. I always feel like I have to go like they're all obliga- Sion's. That's a really great question. Amanda, in fact, when I asked you recently, what topics, he wanted me to cover in these, dear Melissa segments boundaries, how to set them how to hold them was the number one requested topic? I think this idea of setting boundaries around saying, no it's difficult one. If you're a Gretchen Rubin, oblige her oblige URS respond very well to external expectations. So someone invites you, you feel like they expect you to come, and it's very hard to resist that it's also very hard for obliges too. Hold their inner expectation, which is I actually need to take care of myself right now in saying no to this event would be self care. I do not have this problem. I'm Gretchen Rubin upholder. I've never been a people pleaser. It's not hard for me to say no, it's very easy for me to evaluate my own need for self care against this opportunity to attend. Whatever event happens to be around the corner, but I have learned some tricks along the way because it's not always easy, especially when family or work are involved. And so I've learned some ways to, to help me figure out, whether I really do need to say, yes. Or whether I can hold my boundary instinct to myself care. One thing you can do is questioned. The stressful thoughts associated with attending the event so the first one you could question is I have to attend this event is that true. Like, do you really have to attend the event, if it's your own wedding or your mom's fiftieth birthday party, or a mandatory worked meeting, then, yes, you probably have? To be there. But when you really think about it in my own life, I would say ninety two percent of my social invitations are actually optional. I don't have to go. So thinking about do I really have to attend? This event helps me understand the significance of the event, the impact if I do say, no. And I can then way that against my need for self care. You can also question the stressful thought I don't want to attend this event, ask yourself. Is that true? Do you really not want to attend? Or maybe they're just a particular circumstance in that event that you're avoiding, like I don't wanna be out late tonight or my conservative uncle, and I are going to fight again, or I don't want to have to talk about my break-up, if there's a specific circumstance. That is preventing you from wanting to attend or is draining your capacity to attend. Now, you can ask yourself will do anything to mitigate that I might wanna go to this thing. If. If it wasn't for this doctor. So can you create an if then plan like if someone asks about my break-up, then I'll say it's been tough, but I'm getting through it. Let's talk about something else. Or maybe you can tell your mom to run point if you know, this family member you disagree with starts running their mouth, or you can set an expectation early that you can only pop in for a while. So if you don't wanna be out late. Yeah, I'd love to come. I can only stay for about an hour or so. And then if you find yourself having a great time, there's no reason you can't stay for longer. So questioning the stressful thought around the event might help you get clarity around, whether you do actually want to go and what the consequences might be if you don't go. In fact, that's one of my very favorite tricks. And it's something that my dad taught me a couple months ago. So I was up against my book deadline, but I was also battling the symptoms of my concussion, and I was working myself into the ground to get the book deadline. Don and work on the podcast and work on the way. Website, redesign, and keep my kid alive, and I was doing all of this to the detriment of my own house. So my dad was visiting one weekend and I mentioned during the weekend that I might pop up stairs to write for an hour. And he knew about the book deadline, any looked at me and he said, what's going to happen, if you don't and I was like, what do you mean? And he's like, what's going to happen if you don't turn the book on time and immediately, I was like, oh, well, it's going to be awful. I'm under contract and I have to turn it in on time. And if I've never met never missed a deadline in my life, and he interrupted me and he was like, what's going to happen, if you don't and when I really sat and thought about it. I said, nothing I'm going to tell my editor I need a few more days, and he's gonna say, no problem and that was like an eye opening lightbulb moment for me because I feel like book four we ask ourselves this question, what's gonna happen? If you don't we tend to like, have this airy cloud of dread. Surrounding what would happen if we said? No. Right. It's my first reaction when my dad has the question, which is all my gosh. Everything will be horrible. It's gonna fall apart. Life is going to end as we know it. But if we really dial in on the question when I really stop to think about it and came back with concrete. Realistic answers I realized that saying, no didn't actually have major repercussions, so you know, won't always be like this sometimes saying, no will actually be problematic, like you can't say no to your sister's wedding, even if you don't really wanna go you kind of have to show up. But in most cases, the actual consequences of saying, no are probably pretty minor, like you might miss the opportunity to connect with co workers at the happy hour, or you might get some good natured flak at the next family event for skipping out, or you might hand the book in a few days late. But once you realize the world isn't going to end. You may feel empowered to weigh the car. Quences of saying no against the benefits, you'll gain from holding your boundaries and sticking to yourself care in that instance I did take the weekend off. I did spend it with my family. I did hand the book in a couple of days late. And literally nothing happened. Like what a wow moment for me. Slow clap for my dad now after going through some of these tricks, if you do decide to say no to the event who is don't make up some kind of generic excuse or lie or fake illness to get out of it. You need to practice sticking up for yourself and holding your boundaries and that has to start here. So if you do decide to say, no, Tele truth, and keep it personal. You can say things like my schedule's been really full and I'm rundown. I really need a night at home or I wish I could but you guys are getting started too late. And I've got to get up early in the morning. Sleep is really important to me right now, you can also leave yourself out when you get the invitation. If you're not sure whether you'll have the energy. Event day. So I recently gave this advice to a friend of mine who travels a lot for business, every time, he travels, he's fielding invitations from people saying, oh, you're a see, you're in my town, do you wanna meet for dinner and he texted me from the road a couple of weeks ago when he said, how do you handle this? Like I know I'm in your town. I know we're friends, but I have a really busy schedule, and I don't know if I'm going to be up for this. So what I said to him, was just say that. Hey texter, my schedule's pretty full when I'm in town. But if I have the capacity for meat up, I'll send you a text. And if you happen to be free would love to get together. So no expectations, it leaves the door open should you decide you do want to attend? But now you don't have this obligation during a time where you are already probably stressed or overtired or slightly run down. Finally, if you've been a people pleaser all your life. Don't be surprised when people get mad when you start setting boundaries and holding them. They are very. To you responding the way you've always responded, and they know they can count on. You even if they're kinda taking advantage, or even if you don't wanna do it. And when you change that behavior, and you start standing up for yourself and putting yourself care, I they may not like it. But remember, their reaction is not your problem. Stay in your integrity, communicate effectively an openly but hold fast. You might find that releasing the expectation that every time they ask you have to go makes you even more willing to say. Yes, so there you go. Amanda, I hope that advice helps thank you so much for writing in to do the thing..
"melissa" Discussed on Do The Thing, with Whole30's Melissa Urban
"Hi. My name is Melissa urban, and your listening to do the thing, a podcast where we explore what's been missing every time you've tried to make a change, and make it stick. Today. I'm answering three of your questions. Dear Melissa style will discuss whether staying on the whole thirty longer than thirty days is the way to achieve additional weight loss goals, how mentally hurting disaster when you find things going well in your life can backfire so hard and how to gracefully, but firmly respond to people asking, if you're pregnant, because you turn down a drink. There's a common thread in all of these discussions about the stories we tell ourselves in stressful situations. I hope by exploring these stories, you'll have your own lightbulb moment and be able to hold your boundaries. Shift your perspective, and successfully do the thing, the first dear Melissa question. I'll answer today, I've received so many times since the release of food, freedom forever in two thousand sixteen and it goes like this, dear Melissa, if I still have additional weight to lose shouldn't I just stay on the whole thirty. Can I really afford to move into food freedom? And the essence of the question is actually this, if I have additional weight to lose do I get to move into food, freedom. The I think premise of this question is I'm doing the whole thirty. I know it's not a weight loss diet, but by changing my habits and my health, and my emotional relationship with food, I have lost weight. And if I still have more way to lose shouldn't I just stay in the rules of the program to facilitate me achieving that goal? And the answer is no. In fact, there are so many reasons why staying on the whole thirty because you have a goal weight in mind is actually counterproductive to that goal. So the first thing I'll say is this. I'm not going to tell you not to have a weight loss goal. All that is your business, and though, I will encourage you to approach your health goals in general, from place of self love and self care to do it, helpfully and sustainably to really think about all of the other factors that go into health and wellness and happiness, besides body weight. I'm not gonna tell you not to have a weight loss goal that's entirely up to you. But I will tell you that if you do still have weight to lose according to your own definition staying on the whole thirty is not the answer. I if you decide to stay on the whole thirty until you reach your goal weight. What does that sound like to you, you're on a diet, the whole thirty is no longer a reset? It's no longer an elimination diet. It's no longer about changing your health and your habits and your emotional relationship with food. You've now essentially turned the whole thirty into just another crappy diet, which has never. Worked for you before so thinking about the whole thirty even for the first thirty days, you do it for the right reasons, and in the right way, and you're really embracing the spirit and intention of the program. If you extend to a whole sixty or whole ninety specifically to see if you can lose more weight, you are now bastardising the program to the point where it will not be effective for your purpose because it wasn't built for this, and you didn't sign up for it for this. So don't try to shove this kind of weight loss goal into the framework of the whole thirty because it's not gonna work 'cause it's never worked before, you know, it also feels to me, very punishing. Do I get to move into food freedom? If I still have way to lose no you do not. You must stay in the whole thirty until you achieve your goal weight that is your punishment for your body weight. Like that's not the language or the intention or the mindset that we embrace that whole thirty. And that's not the mindset. That you embraced when you began the whole thirty this is not about punishing yourself. It's not about as signing worth or value to your body weight. And so even asking the question makes it seem as though you feel like you still need to be punished for your body weight. And that is not at all the message that I want to send through the whole thirty another reason I don't want you staying on the whole thirty with the express intention of losing more weight. Is that staying on the program for this reason keeps you obsessing about your body, weight, you know, for the first thirty days, you are embracing the spirit and intention of the program, you were looking for non scale victories, you are denting all the areas in your life, including habits, and your emotional relationship with food that were getting better. But staying on the program specifically because you think you have more weight to lose. Now means you're on the program for weight loss. And the only thing you're going to be focused on is your body weight. So on thirty six
"melissa" Discussed on Do The Thing, with Whole30's Melissa Urban
"My name is Melissa Hartwig urban. I'm the whole thirty co founder and CEO and today. I wanna tell you about my very first podcast, do the thing my thing is helping people change their health habits and relationship with food. But this isn't a podcast about food through the whole thirty, I've used as a conduit to open the door to other topics addiction and recovery. Entrepreneurship money, relationships and self care. See all of you right now have a thing, maybe it's something you want to start doing going to the gym working through trauma saving money or pursuing a career you love. Maybe it's something you wanna stop doing eating too. Numb your feelings putting up with toxic relationship or comparing yourself on social media. It's the hurdle, you can't clear, the story that won't go away the goal, that's always just out of reach you need it, you want it, but you still aren't doing it. And you don't know why this podcast is about exploring. What's been missing every time you've tried to do the thing together with my guests authors? Doctors, trainers, therapists, and people just like you. We'll help you find your voice take the first step chart, a realistic PA and level up for good. If your ready to overcome negative patterns and empower yourself to finally do the thing, here's your first step. Visit whole thirty dot com slash podcast. Subscribe, yes, I know I'm starting you off with an easy one, but doesn't it feel good to do something will start rolling on April, thirtieth so subscribe, and stay tuned?
"melissa" Discussed on Melissa Hunter
"Podcast. Episode one. Oh, five. I am Melissa hunter. Your host also known to some people on the internet as mommy and this week. I want to talk to you about gratitude now I know this is an overused word technique law kinds of stuff in the self help world and the success world in religion and everything else that's out there. But you know what just shut up and be grateful. There's a reason sometimes that things get overused. Sometimes it's because it's a buzzword, like low hanging fruit or take it to the next level, or we're going to ten exit and sometimes it's because it's a tried and true throughout eternity thing. The people just need to do, and that people are not doing the reason why gratitude over. In the past decade, or so has become such a hot topic is because people have stopped being grateful. We have just become a society of complaining babies. I'm sorry. This is a little bit negative for me. I'm usually a lot more positive because I'm actually really grateful to be here. Folks, you know, people think that I'm just sometimes a little bit of a pollyanna that I see things as positive all the time. And there's a reason for that, it's because I've spent my entire life battling depression anxiety, in, so I have to be consciously aware all the time of what my mind is doing. That's how I mean tain my mental health and it's interesting Jared pedal aqui from supernatural. Don't laugh at me. I'm a supernatural. Fan and jarred is an amazing mental health warrior, and he said at a supernatural convention last year, that you need to get aggressive about yourself care, and your mental health, and that's absolutely true. You need to be really aggressive about this, and you need to get aggressive about gratitude people because if you're miserable, the reason you're miserable is because you don't realize how awesome your life actually is. So let me kind of try to give you the Melissa perspective, and the maybe you can apply this to your life. So for two years while I was well, I still am. But so for two years, I was going through an MS therapy called Teis Avary was a once a month infusion the stuff was great. You can only do it for two years, though, because after that, then your risk for a brain eating infection that. Would leave you a vegetable or kill you and my risk was particularly high because I had a high tighter this particular virus in my body, but I could do it for two years, which was awesome that two years bought me time until other therapies became available that we're able to get me under control. So I'm very grateful for those two years. But during those two years every month, I would go to the chemotherapy center at our at our medical center. And I would be sitting there me, you You know. know dragging a foot a little tired. A little numb as spasms here, and there me poor little me surrounded by women my age, who were skin and bones who were hairless vomiting, struggling, they were fighting for their lives against one form of cancer or another. And sometimes, I would see the new people in this was their first chemo treatment, and they had all the questions and they would look around at the other people in that room. It's not a private situation. I'll just sitting in these chairs sort of arranged in a circle staring at each other. It's kind of a very strange situation and, you know, and I could see the look in their eyes. Like, oh, my God, that's gonna be me and six weeks, twelve weeks. And I would sit there and I would thank God I would be so. Grateful that I only mess, and that MS while inconvenient was not going to kill me. And so I was really, really grateful. And I was reminded every month to be so grateful, that this is what I got in God willing, this is all I will get. And I'm good with that. I am totally good with that. I could be in a wheelchair five years from now. God forbid, it looks like that's not gonna happen. But if it happened, I would still be grateful, because my brother reminded me when I first got diagnosed they were, they were looking at the time to decide if the big thing on my spinal cord was a lesion MS, or if it was a spinal cord tumor, and I said being rational frame of mind, I really wanted to be a spinal cord tumor because then they can cut it out. I can. Radiation or chemotherapy, and then I'll be able to dance at my daughter's wedding, and my brother. Michael said. If it's MS he'll make it to your daughter's wedding. Even if you're in a wheelchair if it's a spinal cord tumor, you might not live to see your daughter's wedding. And I was like, ooh reality check your right? It cancer actually is worse cancer, Trump's MS every time. So that's kind of the way I look at things, I'm like a super grateful person. And I spend an awful lot of time in my consulting practice coming across people who complain a lot, and, and people like to come to me to complain and more and more. I've been shutting them down because it's like don't harsh my mellow. If you're coming to me, because you want my systens you want to hire me, you want my consulting, my coaching my advice. Hey, I'm here. But know that I'm going to give you a pep talk crying. And we're gonna talk about the first. Thing that you need to do is to stop with this complaining thing that you're doing the over problem. It's deal with it. Let's look at how we can fix it. Let's talk about some techniques so we can get you to a better place. Don't just keep coming to me, complaining and complaining and complaining and complaining. I mean you need to put perspective around your life. Sometimes you're listening to a podcast right now which means that you live somewhere on this planet where you are able to listen to a podcast keep in mind that millions if not billions of people. Do not have the technology to listen to a podcast. As a matter of fact, they don't have clean water. Take a moment. Take that in and be grateful. And I'm asking everybody in life to just stop for a second and be amazed because if you're listening to this podcast believe you live in, in society where you can listen to a podcast where you have enough money to go buy a latte, half calf. Allman mill splendid of Frappuccino over ice with some cold foam, right? I mean you live in that world you live in a world where you don't just make a Cup of coffee in your mister coffee at home anymore. You live in a world where you're walking around with this lake amazing electric device with these thing in your ears. And you're listening to someone talk to you while you're going to a job or picking your kid from school or. While you're going for a walk or exercising at the gym, because you have to exercise at the gym, because getting old, and you're gaining wheat, and you gotta lose weight because you don't walk five miles each way to get probably cholera infested war. Let's let's get you'll gratitude hat on. And while you're walking on the treadmill or, or standing on this crowded subway, which in July smells, heinous be grateful for the fact that you're there, and that you're not somewhere else. How about being grateful that you woke up this morning, less Brown said, you know, any day above ground is a great day. Sometimes it seems reductive I know. But guys, it's true. I mean you can be part of the heard of bleeding complaining cows, who are just logging around in the field all day. This axe move move. My life's moods grass every day, right? Or you could be brave and you could be bold and you could become a bird and you can join me up here in the sky. Now, I will tell you that I've fly alone a lot, but it's really cool. The view from up here is amazing. It's breathtaking. It's all inspiring, and I'm, I'm so happy, and I feel so blessed because I'm grateful. I'm grateful for everything. I'm grateful that I'm sitting here doing this podcast right now. I am grateful that my husband put together these really awesome at Iran, dictators that thanks to having a YouTube channel we were able to purchase because if we did not have YouTube channel things would be a little bit tighter around here, and there wouldn't be money to do extra, get really cute at Rhonda chairs for the backyard. No, I'm not making millions of dollars on YouTube now I'm not making the tons of money that we were making in two thousand fifteen so we were able to go on huge first class trips to Disney every years sometimes twice a year. But you know what I got to do that. And. And I'm got these really cool Adirondack chairs that really excited about as a matter of fact, I may take a picture of them and make them thumbnail for this podcast. I'm so grateful for those chairs and for the money to have those chairs see this is where the magic happens with gratitude when you're grateful things start to happen. And that's not why you should be grateful. And a lot of people teach gratitude as a success strategy, not me. I teach credited because you just should be you may or may not become successful, whatever that means to you, you may or may not become rich because you decide to become a grateful person in join me up here as bird being all grateful, and riding the clouds and all that kind of stuff, and that might not happen. Might not, but you'll be enjoying life, and I don't know to me that seems like success enjoying life. Always seems like success to me as a matter of fact, being alive to me seem successful, although I do believe in an afterlife, and that it's a great place. But at the same time, I'm like, not in a big hurry to get there. If you want to have a successful life, happy, life of fulfilling life, you need to get grateful. You need to shut up and be grateful. The first thing I'm gonna ask you to do on this podcast. And we will revisit this topic many, many times. But here's what we asked. You really simple. I want to get a little notebook. Yes. A notebook. Now there is a great gratitude app that I use. But, but pen and paper really is more powerful. I hate to admit that too, because I have trouble writing because of the so I can never read, what I right, but I still right. Because it is a powerful thing that happens with your. When you put pen to paper or pencil to paper in my case anyway, so I want you to start an end each day for thirty days by writing down five things that you're grateful for these do not have to be big things. Okay. I'm very often especially right now in July very often on my gratitude list is air conditioning, and I write it a seat, because I wouldn't be grateful for men immigrate air conditioning. I'm grateful for things like clean water. I'm often grateful for my bed. I really like my bed. I'm grateful for my house grateful for my computer really grateful from iphone, really loved my iphone. I'm grateful for my cats. I'm grateful for you know, if it was a nice day. Sometimes I'm grateful for rain because we needed it. I'm grateful for my dolls. I'm grateful obviously, for my husband for greasy for my family, but it can be really simple stuff, whatever. Just in the moment, you're grateful. For what I'm trying to tell you, as you don't need to write war in peace about what you're grateful for just want you to pause in the morning when you wake up and right before you go to bed and rate, a minimum of five things that you're grateful for they don't have to be things that happened that day..
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"I was about a three hundred dollars short of the twenty thousand dollars and someone paid me in cash for some consulting work that I had done. And I said to Bill, I was like, hey, so it's so paid in cash, how cool is that? And he's like, and with that just hit your twenty thousand dollars. Kinda crazy. So I have written another check for something very specific that needs to happen by October first, and I, I don't know where that money's gonna come from. But that's not my thing. I don't need to figure out where the money's gonna come from God in the universe takes care of where the money comes from how the money happens. You just got to believe that it's going to happen, and you have to believe it every day, and I look at my check every day, and I rate it in my planner every day. And until I manifested all twenty thousand of the twenty thousand dollars. I looked at that check every day. I visualized giving the check to Bill every day. I wrote in my planner every day that I was manifesting twenty thousand extra dollars by may. I it was in my prayers every day, I thank God for helping me to manifest twenty thousand extra dollars by may. I noticed how just rolls off my tongue because I said it constantly and I visualized it constantly it works. It sounds stupid. It sounds woo. But when you. Get past the stupid in the woo. When you get to the place where you realize that there is an actually, there is an infinite amount of money out there and that whatever you need. You can have you just gotta believe it. That's all. It's that simple stupidly. Simple, just ridiculously simple, and I am working through, and you have my stupid stories about money. Even if the stupid story is a little bit sad about a little girl who got money in love and abandonment, all kind of smushed together in her little head. Even if it's that kind of stupid story, even if it's like a tragic back story you can still work through it. And when you work through it, then the money just keeps coming. I just keep getting money from nowhere. And by the way, after the after the seventeen thousand dollars, I just would randomly I it's funny because I told my friend that night I'm just I'm I just keep sitting here, clicking refresh on my Email. I want more money to come in the Email and it did. And I also got a check in the mail from some class action settlement with AT and T for fourteen dollars. I got another check in the mail for some sort of refund for something for seven dollars like I would just get these random checks from nowhere. And just I would just laugh cashed. Every one of them I got a check for like a dollar something. I cashed it. I'd find money on the ground. I'll pick that up. And I was at going towards my twenty thousand dollars because you also have to respect it and know that it's coming from a bunch of different sources. But guys, it works just whatever your stupid story is about money. You try to look into the why why what, what's going on with me and money? And I highly recommend sitting down and writing a letter to money, I highly recommend the book. You are a bad ass that book looks a little silly. And the title might put some people off my gosh, I have read that book, three times now that book is amazing Jensen zero is a mazing. It's absolutely amazing and whatever you're stupid stories. You're limiting beliefs. Your tragic back story about money, your reason why you think that you can't manifest money or that you shouldn't manifest money. Let it go okay in order for you to do good in the. World. You need to be okay? You need to be taken care of to be. Oh, came be taken care of, especially in the western world. You need to have money. In order to employ people, you need to be able to pay them in order to give to charity, you need to have money. You need money. Money is okay. I promise you, you will not become an evil person. If you have a lot of money you are already a good person. So when you have a lot of money you will do good things with a lot of money. I know you will just like I know we will because we do, and we have, and the more money we have the more money we can give the more jobs. We can create for people. The more we can give to the world. So I'm good with it. I'm good with manifesting all the money that I need. So I encourage you to do some manifestation. If you do manifest, let me know I wanna hear about it. Send me an Email at. Manifest at Melissa hunter dot com. That's right. I created Email address just to hear your manifesting stories. So that's manifest at Melissa hunter dot com. And thank you guys so much for listening to the just go for it podcast. That's right. I want you to just go for it when it comes to manifesting money. And whatever it is that you want to do in life. Don't wait any more just go for it. Thank you so much for listening. I'll talk to you again next week. Bye..
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"This week on just go for it. I get so excited that I found on the desk so much you can hear it. Welcome to the just go for it podcast with me, your host, Melissa hunter, aka mommy to all the nice people on the internet this week. We're going to talk about manifesting money and what complete and utter nonsense. That is until you manage to manifest seventeen thousand dollars while you run out to get burgers at five guys, I have been a self hell self exploration personal development growth person. Whatever since I was about thirteen years old in our family, counselor gave me a book called notes to myself, and I discovered that people wrote books about how to become a better person or a better me and I just I got hooked. So I'm fifty years old. So what does that like thirty seven years? So it's a long time. And so I've read oh gosh. So many books and listened to so many. Tapes. Yes tapes. They used to be on cassette tapes, and then they were on CDs and now they're on audible and read the books watched videos, I've gone to events, I've gone to Tony Robbins events. I've gone to so many events, I've seen John Maxwell, and I've learned so much, and I've gained so much and, and become someone that I'm proud to be over the years, and the one little sticking point that I've had along the way had to do with money now. I grew up without money. Money was a struggle in our home. My mom was a single mom. My grandmother helped her raise us. Didn't live in. We didn't live in the gutter, but we didn't live in greatest area and it was a bit of a struggle. So I, I grew up believing money was a struggle and a carried that into my adulthood, and even as I studied with all of these people who kept talking about, you know, just changing your mindset about money, and manifesting money, it that one piece never exactly clicked for me. And then, you know, the secret came out, and there was all this manifesting talk, and manifesting became like the buzz word, right? You could manifest anything you could manifest a Maserati, you could manifest your perfect mate. You could manifest anything and honestly over the years, I have manifested just about everything except money. I manifest people like you would not believe when I need people in my life. To help me, grow doubt me do something or to learn something, I just turn around and I am meeting, some new person somewhere at an event door randomly in a store, and just meet people, and I need the perfect people. When I need them, I manifest people. No problem, I manifest success with no problem, I manifest. I manifest did my husband. I actually thanks to twenty Robins. I sat down or night road out exactly what I wanted in a mate, it was like it was like a shopping list. And if he were to go look at that list, and talked to my husband, you would realize that I manifested my perfect meet exactly. It's actually kinda creepy, but the money piece and every time people would start talking about manifesting money are manifesting things like houses, or cars, or anything that had to do specifically with money or financial gain. I would always sort of switch that off in my head. I would I would get this lucrative be feeling. I get this like the vibe right? And you might be there, you might be there with me like I can believe all of this other stuff, but the money and for some people, it's that they feel like asking God for money or manifesting, money is not spiritual. That's for some people. That wasn't really it for me. I didn't think that money wasn't spiritual. I just it just felt itchy because I had a lot of limiting beliefs around money. So is reading the book, you are a bad ass by Jensen, Sarah, and Jen, great big hug, and squeeze you. When I finally meet you in, in the book, Jen has a lot of exercises. And one of the exercises is to write a letter to money. Now it sounds really hokey and stupid. But I in, in this wonderful year of two thousand eighteen I decided that I was going to once and for all. Paul address and work through my issues around money because I realized that I had some deep seated negative issues around money, and that, that was affecting the financial success and stability of my family. So an notice I just made that about my family. I didn't make it about me. I'm working on that. It's like still I'm doing it from a family of not for myself still working through these things guys. But see I notice it when I do it now. So I wrote sat down got my pin got my notebook, and I sat down to write my letter to money and I did not expect it to go where it went guys. And I know what you wondering right now. You're, like, are you going to tell us about how you manifest seventeen thousand dollars while you were getting hamburgers? Yes, I am. This is the story. So I sat down and wrote this letter, and it went to this really. Early unexpected place when I was a little girl I lived with my grandparents, and my mother and my brothers. My grandfather was the light of my life. He was everything to me and pretty much whenever he was sitting in the living room, at least once a day, I'd walk through the living room. And my grandfather would say baby here, I got something for you. And I would climb up on his lap. And by the way, I was the light in his life, because his only son died of a heart attack when he was thirty years old when I was baby and, and having me in their lives to take care of kind of helped my grandfather go on. And so I'm climb up in his lab. And we would do whatever nursery rhymes story is got your nose. You know, the kind of stuff you do with your grandpa, and then he would give me a couple of pennies a nickel dime. Wooh. A quarter. You know, whatever kind of little change he had in his pocket. And he had given me this plastic piggy Bank, and he would tell me go run and put it in the Bank, and I would go run, and I would put the money in my piggy Bank and. You see what happened was, was that for me, money and love became connected, and you're like, well, how could that be a bad thing? Well, when I was ten years old without any explanation without talking to me without anything I went to school. And when it came home. My grandfather was gone. He left my grandmother, he left all of us. He left us. He left me. He just left. And I didn't see him again until five years later when he had died. And it. You know, crushed little Melissa. He was my world. He was my light. He was. He was my grandpa. He was everything to me, and that, that was the first in a series of distabilise ations in my life. But that one was really, really hard hitting. I realized and I had not thought about any of this until I was writing the letter to money as I was writing the letter to money. I think one of the instructions was to think about sort of first memory of money, and I realized that my first memories of money were of my grandfather and sitting on his lap and the love and the piggy Bank. And he left me. And I completely fell apart completely fell apart writing this, this letter, and they went into other things with the letter, but I realized that. Wow. Who did not expect it to go there, right? It's kind of heavy kind of heavy for this podcast. Melissa usually a lot of funnier. You're stupid stories are usually a lot funnier. This one's not so stupid. But it is a stupid story. Guys. This is a limiting belief me believing that somehow money and love are connected, and that money can leave you just like love. Can leave you here's last stuff going on in there that, that I needed to work through. And so, I started to work on my, my relationship with money and I decided that I was going to manifest money I was going to do this. I can do this. So I sat down and I decided that I was going to manifest twenty thousand dollars twenty thousand extra dollars. This is very important. Twenty thousand. Extra dollars for my husband by may, I, I was going to I was going to manifest this money because I wanted him to be able to go. Join this golf club that he he liked and we weren't gonna be able to do that this year. And I thought that something that he really wanted. And so I was going to do that. I sat down. I got out the checkbook. I wrote a check out to my husband twenty thousand dollars. I put a date of may I on it. I clipped it onto my planner and I was going to every day I was going to pick up that check. And I was gonna kiss it and the whole thing I was I was in, man. I was so in. So I did this wrote the letter, I wrote the check, and then I had to run out to five guys to get burgers for my teenager. So I get in the car, I go over to five guys get a burger a job home give the burgers to the teenager. I go look at my Email in I have to. Emails from two different brands one, offering me, ten thousand dollars for video and one, offering me six thousand dollars for video that my friends is sixteen thousand dollars. I was gone for like twenty minutes. So, like within an hour of writing the check for twenty thousand dollars. I got sixteen thousand dollars in my Email that six thousand dollars turned into seven thousand dollars because they wanted it rushed. And here's the important piece of this puzzle. I don't get brand deals. You know, let me change that I didn't use to get brand deal, offers just randomly out of nowhere, by the way, since I've changed my money manifesting mind, set, I have gotten more sponsored video requests in the first seven months here of two thousand eighteen then I got in all of the first six years of doing the mummy and Gracie show, because I changed my money, manifesting mindset, it's absolutely insane. I would I gotta tell you guys when I came home and I got those emails like now I'm all like. To. I'm like one of those people who's onstage go. And that's right. And I had a Lamborghini, by the end of that you guys I had chills, I was freaking out. I was texting miss Robin. I was jumping up and down. And telling my husband, I was telling the teenager who was looking at me like. I tell my mother had to tell everybody I was so freaked out. It was so quick, and specific and God knows that I'm a little dense sometimes in. So when he's going to try and show me something he does ri- call. What can the across the head with a two by four like Bong like okay, do you get it? Now. You can manifest money. Guys, you can really do it. He just got to get really specific about what you want, when you want it, why you want it. And then you have to believe that it can happen. It really all you need to do now. I know that sounds so simple. But, but, but, but, but the thing is for the first time I really believed it. I wrote that check, I visualized myself handing the check to Bill on may first and saying to him. I manifested this for you, because I love you and I want you to be happy and handing him the check and I believed that I could do it. And so I did. You know, I think that's a quote. She believed that she could do it. So she did guys I it. It's really that stupidly. Simple. It really really is. I mean, I cannot believe it. It was that easy now to continue to manifest money and stay on the good side of money. I do need to continue to work at it because it's easy to backslide. It's very easy, and I actually did hit the goal of twenty thousand dollars but I actually hit it the second week in may while I was at an event called clamor..
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"Amy porterfield. Oh my gosh. She din yellow port Gabby Bernstein. All these wonderful women. I follow. Tony Robbins been like a Tony Robbins. Acolytes and smacked twenties with other referral for twenty five years. Tony. But they are not the secret to my success. I am the secret sauce. You are your own secret sauce. You are the secret sauce in your life and your business, and you need to realize that I want to share a stupid. Little Melissa story with you, and it's really sweet, and it's really funny, but it does tie into foam. Oh, because I was I was, I had the worst foam. Oh, this might have been my first case of foam out. So I was about three years old somewhere somewhere in there. Very little. And this is actually my first memory of, of being in church and, and we're Catholic, we were raised Catholic twelve years of Catholic school. I was at my oldest brothers. I think it must have been his first, holy confession which I think now is called the sacrament of penance or something or no. I'm sorry. It's now called the Sacramento reconciliation we like to change the names. We like. To change the names, mechanic church like to keep you on your toes. So I must have been about three and I remember his soul, clearly forty-seven years later, because it was my first case foam. Oh, so we're all sitting there it's a packed church and it's very important ceremony. I got that I knew I was dressed up. I knew that I had to be like, super quiet and good. There was at some point that the priests said any, who's probably Bishop, if it was a confirmation, but doesn't matter. He said, you know, the important mandatory to God told me that God was now going to. Descend, an and be among us. And I was so excited because this was the moment. This was the big moment. The big man was coming. I was finally going to see God I was in his house. Right. And the priests said he was gonna come and be with us now. And I was so psyched. I cannot tell you, I still remember. I sat there and I was looking around the church, and we, it's very old school Catholic church that I grew up in and the relax of statues, and so now looking at all the statues, because my dad used to take us to a lot of those Herri Henry housing movies, like the Sindbad movies where the statue would come to life like claim Asian stuff like stop motion. So I'm looking at all the statues, and I'm thinking, maybe one of the statues is going to come to life. That's god. Right. This is what I'm thinking. And then look, I'm looking around. I'm like, okay. That's not happening. Oh, maybe, maybe he's just going to be like a ghost and he's going to come down from the ceiling. So I'm looking at these this very ornate ceiling that we have, and I'm looking for I'm looking all over the church now and they're still, there's just droning and they're singing people are doing stuff and kneeling and I'm looking around and I'm waiting and he's not coming. And I remember I was looking at my mom like the she him is like can everybody else? See him. And I can't am I am. I too little to see him. So I never actually asked. But for very long time after that, I was too embarrassed to admit that I didn't see him by the way, anyone tell anybody that, you know, when God came and y'all saw him. I didn't I don't know. I, I was just it was. It was about. But I you know what? I really felt like I was so mad after that because I felt like I got gypped, that's right. I got gypped everybody else saw God. I didn't I missed out foam. Oh my first foam. Oh and, and I was really annoyed for a really. And I still get foam. Oh, I mean, I still do it's like every event that I up for I go to an event. And I know that there's a piece of me, there's a part of me inside. That is saying this, this is going to be the event that, that, that, that mega shift that huge shift inside me happens in, I finally break through all of my blocks and emerge triumphant like the butterfly out of the chrysalis, but that's not really how it works. It really doesn't as I said, it's just a series. It's just a series of moments in our lives. Like I missed out on B school. Right. Marie four Leo. Does discreet be school thing? I didn't know about Marie folio or be school until right after be school registration closed this year. I was so upset only go. No, but you know what? I don't have to wait until next year to launch a successful podcast or coaching business because I missed be school. I don't have to wait for be school. Am I going to go to school next year, certainly hope? So I think I would like to, but I don't need to wait until I go to be school to succeed. That's a stupid story. Okay. I don't need to have the most perfect Email funnel. Right. I don't have to have the biggest Email list to be a success. I don't need any of those things. Everything I need is inside me. Everything you need is in side of you. We are all that we need to be successful to be happy. And by the way, if you do want to see God, I know where he is. Now, I figured it out, you know, fifty years been around for well, I figured out how to see God I look in the mirror, f why the secret sauce to everything is in side of you. You are the magic pill knowing that you are God, knowing that you have everything you need right? At your fingertips anytime you need it. That's the magic. That's the magic and anything else is a stupid story. So I'm not saying you need to stop reading, and stop going to events, stop listening to podcast. Oh, no. Please keep listening to podcasts. Make sure you are following the just go for it podcast. But don't tell yourself that if you miss an episode of a podcast that everybody's talking about everybody's talking about this podcast. And I missed it. Everybody was talking about this event that I didn't go to now. I can't be successful. Please don't do that to yourself. Use your tools but don't get obsessed with your tools. Don't do what I did. I spent a year year at least year trying to decide which platform and funnel system at cetera. To launch my online coaching business year league really seriously, just like whip up a WordPress site. And like just tell your friends, Melissa lake, you know, a lot of people what the heck, and I'm still sort of procrastinating on it. Honestly, I'm still this message is for me as much as for you. You know, this is a stupid story them telling myself that my website has to look just so before I launch it, and, and, and that my courses have to have this certain look before I put them out there, but over it because, you know what my real foam is real foam. Oh, is lying on your deathbed and not having done everything that you could have done and everything that you wanted to do. That's the real foam. Oh. Real foam. Oh hits on your deathbed until then there is no foam. Oh, there is no phone ABI K. There is just you. And just going for it just know that you have everything you need, and the most amazing things happen, when you step out in faith when you just go for it when you start moving forward, when you give yourself forward momentum and, and just go for it. Everything starts to fall in place. And then not just say that because is the title of this podcast I'm saying because it's true. So say no to foam, oh, become a recovering foam hallock with me. Let go of phone to be you can do it. We can all do it together. You are enough. I am enough. We are enough. We just gotta go for it. I thank you so much listening. If you enjoy this podcast, please tell your friends. Please tell them about the crazy woman who thought she was going. See God when she was three years old. And until we meet again, remember, whatever you wanna do whatever idea, you have don't we just go for it. But..
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"And because this is going to be the thing you keep going to events and you keep reading books and you keep listening to podcasts. But you're not actually do. Doing anything because you're so afraid you're going to miss out that you're just stuck in this constant sort of consumption phase of life, and you're not actually doing and by giving into foam. Oh, you're giving up so much of your time. And you're very important, mental and spiritual energy that should be going towards your life, and your business, and maybe your workout, and your kids, because you're, you're trying not to miss out. So what what is foam? Oh about like why do we have foam? Oh, where does foam come from to begin with? Well, I think foam isn't really foam. Oh, I think foam. Oh, is fear of not being enough. The problem is that that comes out to f o n b e and phone to be fun to be doesn't sound as good. But that's really what it is. We're being phone to be. We have fear of not being enough and this goes back to the stupid stories that we tell ourselves, the idea that if you do these three things that, Sir, Richard Branson, does every morning that you will be successful in business. If you just do these three things how ridiculous is that, that's absolutely stupid. The idea that if I just use the right tool. You know, the choice between Evernote in one note, is it's going to be critical. It's gonna totally change my business. Now it's not the reality is that you are enough and you have everything you need right now inside of you to be a success. You don't need anymore books. You don't need anymore podcast. But please continue to listen to.
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"Episode number two with your host, Melissa hunter. That's me to the people and the internet. I am known as mommy, but you can go ahead and call me Melissa or mommy, whatever works for you today. We need to talk about a really, really important thing. It's foam. Oh, do you have foam? Oh, do you know what foam is foam? Oh is fear of missing out now? This is a term that sort of joined the lexicon of our modern world because people watching other people do things on social media were getting foam. Oh, they were seeing people at parties in having what appeared to be beautiful. Wonderful lives in there. They felt like they were missing out so this term foam. Oh coined. And I kind of like the term foam. Oh, but we're not going to talk so much about. Seeing people on gorgeous vacations or at parties that we weren't invited to and dealing with foam. Oh, we're gonna talk about foam, oh, and the work Hollick. Now, I am a recovering alcoholic, and I'm an entrepreneur, and we will at some point talk about how the heck do you manage to do those two things? But today we're talking about foam. Oh, so I want to just throw out a couple of blog headlines that I've seen lately, and I want you to think, when you read these, how do you feel? So we've got five productivity hacks. To guarantee success, the three things all billionaires do in the morning. The one change that will ten x your business. Entrepreneurs online, these headlines will sound really, really familiar. There's things like if you only read one book this year for your business blank, how I grew my Instagram following by one hundred thousand people in three weeks, and you feel like you gotta jump on. You got to read it. You've got to use this tool. You've got a follow this system, because if you don't you might be missing out foam. Oh fear of missing out now. You need understand that all these titles are designed to prey on your foam. Oh, and I know this because I write these headlines, I know how to pray on foam. Oh, I also am a recovering foam. Oh, hollick. That's right. I've just going to new term foam, a holic. So there's workaholic which I am. Covering from workaho ISM, but I also realize I am a foam Hollick, and, and it's really it's really not a fake thing because what happens is you become so obsessed with this fear that you are missing out on the one key thing, or the three key things or you're not doing the three things that could change your.
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"So I have a confession to make my hair is not spiritual enough. See if you haven't seen a picture of me, I have this really short pixie cut like really, really short. And it's not one of those pixie cuts where like you gotta leg blow dry and flat, iron and use product and all kinds of stuff like that. Ain't nobody got time for that. I've super straight hair, I super shirt, pixie cut. I basically wash my hair I do condition. I do condition. I'm proud of myself. I actually put conditioner in my hair, and then I let it dry. And if I have to do something, I spread some stuff on it that I got at the salon that makes it look like it has some texture and I'm good to go. So what does that have to do with being spiritual or not being spiritual? Well, I was at Gabby Bernstein, spirit junkie. Masterclass. It's a three day event, and I was looking around and I was noticing, everybody's hair, and everybody had this really nice long hair. There were a few ladies like myself, who were rocking pixie. But for the most part, people had pretty nice long hair, and in general, I notice most of the female entrepreneurs that I follow had this really long luxuriant hair, like Marie folios hair. I just the whole time. I'm watching TV. I'm just looking at her hair. It's so luxuriance and like Gabby Bernstein, long blond hair Danielle LaPorte woman's got here for days. So I was sitting there and I was thinking to myself, and I think this was kind of like on Saturday morning, I was thinking to myself. I'm not spiritual enough and nobody's going to take me seriously as a spiritual entrepreneur, because I don't have long luxury, his hair, and maybe I should think about growing out my hair. Let's stop for a minute. And think about how ridiculous it like when I say it, it sounds so ridiculous. And so I turned to my friend Jennifer who met at the spirit junkie masterclass, and we room together, shat out, girl. And I told her, and I told the other ladies around us what I was thinking, and we'll had a good laugh about my lack of spiritual hair. And so the joke for the rest of the weekend was Melissa. Your hair isn't spiritual enough. You can't be spiritual. You don't have spiritual hair. So guys, I don't have spiritual hair. So it sounds ridiculous. Right. But here's the deal. That's a stupid story or what other people would call a limiting belief. I'm I'm more real. I call them stupid stories that we tell ourselves can we tell ourselves a lot of stupid stories in life. And that's one of my stupid stories was that nobody's gonna take me seriously as a spiritual entrepreneur, because I have a pixie cut because I've short hair because I don't have long luxurious speech. Ritual hair. There's all kinds of stupid stories you might be telling yourself stupid stories like I can't start my business because I don't have enough money yet or can't start podcast because I don't have a good name for it. Are stupid stories are things that actually keep us from achieving peace in prosperity, and they're just our egos way of holding us back. And they're also based on our fears, the real thing behind my stupid story is that it was yet another way to keep me from trying to live my dream because I'm afraid that if I try if I just go for it, I'm gonna fail. You might be tying yourself things like, oh, I can't, I can't start this business. I don't know enough yet. I'm not connected with the right people. I don't know the right people yet our need to lose the weight. I before I do whatever it is. I. I need my energy, get some investors. I need more money. I can't just I don't have enough money to start this business. I just I don't I need to wait. There's too much competition. It's too late. I'm too old. I'm too young have kids, I'm too busy. I don't have a good enough idea. You can tell yourself stupid stories for ever about why you can't do whatever it is that you really want to do. But you're telling yourself these stupid stories because you're afraid to fail. I'm telling myself stupid stories about why I can't start a podcast because I'm afraid to fail. I bought like a fancy podcast do Hickey. And, and I haven't set it up yet. So I can't record my podcast. Of course. I could just set up this microphone thing that I haven't put a pillow behind achieve the same result. Right. But no, that's not professional enough. Guess what? I need to embrace the hashtag, so profession it got me through mommy, greasy show on YouTube, everybody. Loved. Us because we were not professional enough. Well, we were not as professional as other people on YouTube, they embraced our imperfection. They loved our imperfection because it was relatable. Guess what your imperfections are relatable? My lack of spiritual hair is relatable. I told myself stories stupid stories about why I cannot be motivational speaker and a life coach for twenty five years. I'm not gonna go into all of the stupid stories trust me. They were more stupid than I don't have spiritual enough hair. But I'm not doing it anymore. I'm here I'm here with a pillow a kiss mouse pad underneath a microphone, some notebook, paper, scribbled bunch of stuff on it. Can't read, and I'm recording podcast. That's right. I haven't been starting this podcast. I have a lot of ideas for the. Podcast. I have a whole trello board full of podcast ideas and notes. And I've had this board going for months. I've learned everything there is to know about podcasting. I listened to podcast why haven't I started a podcast because I can't think of a cool name for my podcast. I mean, Jenner cookers got gold, diggers and referrals, got Marie TV, and I can't think of anything, and all the good names are taken, and there's nothing that goes with my name, my name doesn't rhyme with anything. So I'm lying there after doing some yoga this morning. And I'm lying Shiva's where I'm supposed to be quiet mine, quiet body. But of course, my head is spinning about need to come up with a name for my podcast. And while I'm lying there. God, said, well, okay, God's voice sounds suspiciously. Like my voice in my own head, by the way. But God said just go for it, and then I thought that's the name of my podcast. Yes. It's a stupid name, but you know what? I'm just going to go for it. Because if I we until I come up with the perfect name, I'm gonna be ninety nine years old, and starting a podcast, so here I am just going for it. And here you are listening to me soc-, it worked whatever stupid stories you're telling yourself about why you can't do whatever it is that you want to do just know that they're just stupid stories and their stories. You're telling yourself, it's not anything that anybody else's really thinking or believing. It's all in your head. It's all you, creating your own blocks. Your own speed bumps and detours to keep you from finding peace and prosperity. Because you're afraid you're afraid that if you put yourself out there gin you'll fail. Guess what you might fail. I have failed so many times, I have failed. Spectacularly in fifty years of life. Trust me, I have failed. I have gone down in a flaming blaze of glory. But I have also succeeded massively I have a chief things I never would have dreamed of and every time that I did that every time that I exceeded my expectations succeeded on a massive scale blew my own mind. It was because I just went for it. And I just I swear to God, I got offered a promotion they were like we want you to go and take over Manhattan operations in fix Manhattan Manhattan's in trouble, Melissa near the person to fix it. And I said, I'm going for it. I'm gonna get on a train yet, I'm gonna go to Manhattan every day. Guess what didn't even know what trained to get on had no idea how to use? The subway wasn't even exactly sure how to a cab didn't know where the. Treats were, but I figured it's a grid. How hard could it be cannot tell you how many times I went to the wrong location? But I never lit onto the people who work for me that I didn't know, everything there was to know about Manhattan, and I learned learned as I went along. And you know what I succeeded massively massively I took Manhattan which was a region. That was in the red. That was hemorrhaging money. And in twelve months, I turned that puppy around into a hugely profitable region because I just went for it, whatever you're stupid stories are that you're telling yourself, just know that they're stupid stories you may not be able to stop them. Trust me. I still think about the spiritual hair, but now I laugh now I laugh, when I look at Marie folio, and I'm like, gosh. She's got such beautiful hair, I think to myself, and I've got hair. It doesn't matter that my hair isn't long and luxurious, nobody's going to care because it's what's inside me that matters. I could be bald, bald in spiritual vote is monks are even the Buddhist nuns are bald, right. Who would tell you that a Buddhist nun is not spiritual enough? Right. Whatever your stupid story is that you're telling yourself or stupid stories that you're telling yourself, just kind of let them float on by, but don't listen to them, and don't let them hold you back from doing. You just gotta do it. Just go for it, whatever it is decide right now. Right. This minute. That if this crazy woman sitting with a pillow behind a microphone with her unspiritual pixie cut can put herself out there with a podcast with a stupid name. I can do whatever it is..