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"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

05:18 min | 7 months ago

"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

"Like boy didn't see that coming well down trump's balzac the either. John is hilarious. I just wanna say greg in plattsburgh. I love you for that. Well i do not know what donald trump's balzac looks like brad as a comedian. If you had to guess. I imagine you're not a a trump supporter. Because no i seem like a very happy non-prejudiced yes spew hatred think donald trump's ball sack would like. Here's the thing that i've noticed 'cause while i haven't seen donald trump's ball snack. I have watched a lot of porn. What you discover is that no matter. What ball satcher pretty ugly power. They're not. They're not aesthetically pleasing. Not you you know i. It's like oh what is rosie o'donald. It looked like very similar to emily radical. Clint not that good looking and And why wild. I know i can't find one ever. So i'm saying is is is is ball sack is probably disgusting as are all balls. Yes but i would love it. I would love it. I would love so much is if he did the comb over with the poops. If the column over with the news. I would never stop laughing. You know what. I donald trump. If you're listening which. I totally think you probably are not listening. Although she asked me we've been motivation. She had prepared my relationship with my love. Of course i'm talking about putin. Now i was a power about i was. I was always taken it. Now if you're like. I'm giving more demands noon. And vlad is listening lovely. Love should've given this arsenio lose a williams. I must tell you you are a delight. I love you. I'm so glad to call you a friend. I was bemoaning the fact on a previous episode. That i don't have black friends and i'm trying to really right that i have random and i know my dry cleaners name. Pat is what. I think that adds up to one black person. Michael yo actually though told me. I was really actually kind of emotional about because i was like. I'm afraid to go up to different types of people because i'm afraid they automatically assumed my comedy was true and the which she said. Just take a chance. So i'm going to have to do that. But what i think is great michael. Yeoh said he'd be my friend. And he's asian and african americans will. I'm doing pretty good covers all your basis. I think you cover anybody with a weird physical ailment true but in all seriousness. People go see brad. Williams wants to get your website. Is that williams. Comedy dot com..

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"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

05:44 min | 7 months ago

"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

"And then that kid's going gonna be fine. Yeah like. I don't even know where i was going with this. But you know just people wanting for you to get down but now we have this john ford. We're all looking at that story. Ooh these rich people. Yeah you send them to jail right. I feel better about myself. I'm not rich. And i'm not in jail so okay now feel good. Don't that's that's that's an unhealthy attitude to take where you're looking at those people in hoping that they fail where you look at the celebrity and you know where we know this is comics but when you tell people that you're a comic and that you're happy and that you're doing your life. There's that person always goes. Oh you travels what they have to bring something up. That's wrong so much. It's so hard it's being a bets. Gotta be so hard don't you. How much do you hate when people say and you may may not hate this at all. There's a fine line with someone in your position who you could say they would look at you with pity. Yeah now feel maybe doesn't does it. Feel insulting for instance. I'll follow you on instagram. Feel no pity few. Yeah however once in a while you'll post something with the dog or something a little tear in my eye. And i said oh. This moves me air. You'll say something cute and moves me. Yes i said to a friend. Once i said i don't pity brad. I just kind of get moved myself and that's fine. Don't worry you're not doing it. Do you ever have you ever been on their own. You're getting so well for your status. And how does that feel to you. Just so people now laugh. Do you think it's silly of them. It's it's very silly. Because i know what they're doing is they're trying to do the thing that we were just talking about where they're trying to be like. He's doing good for him. Yes yes yes. I wish there but it's like listen. Here's my thing is if the midget is doing better than you. That's more on you them like that like. That's so it's amazing what some people will think in In say in terms of like some because they are not a little person. They don't know what it's like. I've always been a little person. I don't know what my struggles are. Because i never lived my life a six foot. Two man. I don't know what i'm missing right. So one thing that i thought was funny is one time pulled up the freeway and there was a guy and you had to sign and a dog with him money. Whatever and i had some is dollars right there. Something so Roll down the window. I held the money. The guy walked. Oversaw me went nominee naumann. You need it. Oh my god. I was like wow i own a home. That's jobs driving. I'm glad so. Is this really disconnect is like always. Yeah sorry for the african american person. It's just it's weird prejudice but it's almost like not even looked at it. Is that bad. Except if you're on the receiving end if you're like dude don't pay no maybe you i'm good. I have a house that i pay with with jokes. Yes and i. I got hot asian wife and a cute dog like my life is good..

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"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on WLS-AM 890

WLS-AM 890

01:44 min | 11 months ago

"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on WLS-AM 890

"Are upset that they don't liberties are being restored that's what they're upset with and that people might have fun you know people have fun in communist countries and the left make sure that fun is not an option you know they destroyed comedy in America they destroyed standup comedy they destroyed comedy television nothing is funny anymore because the left funny all the funny stand up comics have stopped doing comedy except Dave Chapelle I think because the left has intimidated them all out of the business a lot of left the business completely a lot of comedians have just left Lisa Lampanelli outrageous funny comedy long time I think she three years ago left the business altogether because the left Chester out of the the business she was too funny and I don't like that I let's go to Stephen port might know at number six how dare you there to Georgia they're going to open a salon said tattoo parlors he's outraged just hair salon nail salon part of the person you weigh in on this because the people of Atlanta was here from you as well as much as they want to hear from the governor the U. six C. there's a long line of people you can close the gap how do you can't get a hair cut don't see the media wants nobody to get it I think that that was Steven Portnoy ABC he had a very fresh looking hair cut on him yesterday I looked at it since he has this question then there is this rude woman with NBC news that as the very small growth and I just like that the this well that that short version I was pretty crappy but here's this rude woman from NBC news I don't know who she is Georgia opening back up.

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"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

12:13 min | 1 year ago

"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

"We're like yeah and then we hung out for a couple of hours just laughing and Josh around than we've seen each other since then by the way. Do you think my part was something different. What was my part part yeah. What did they know. You said You I said was something about What's the manipulate yeah. Oh okay yeah I think it was. I thought you were just GonNa say. I'm sorry we we had that fight because I didn't know like what a circular apology was like you know. The circular apology is like I'm sorry we had a fight instead of saying. I'm sorry I think it was. Are we fought. I'm sorry we fought like I didn't think it'd be anything big. What you were like going deep like. Oh my God holy crap so I love this and then I said to him sorry that I was so pushy she and Myat and all that stuff and then everything was cool. Yeah so what I like about that is now that there's not that onus onus on and I think I'm better now for learning how to not do that anymore. As much yeah we still have the temptation affects. I'll still have the temptation to run on in like a freaking knight in shining armor but the person knew the person in me to have the conversation of do you want this like my niece ace. Christine is very big pond cash. She was on the show and remember Sh- when she had a problem at work and I rushed in there without asking and I said to her on the podcast a a couple months ago I said I'm sorry I rushed into fix that and she goes. Oh Save me from sexual harassment yeah. I'm glad you did that yeah happy but that was a chance suppose she wouldn't have been. I gotta ask I so I can't be such a pussy bull in a China Babinet that I just keep fixing. It's it's not my place but I but you you you have to understand that I will constantly make disasters for myself and go well. Surely someone will come along and fix this. Why having having we do that is. Do you think it's because we want someone to finally prove that we're worthy. I think I am terrified that I have no idea to be on this planet ride show. Every damn like this planet is terrifying but but how old are you. I'm thirty five sue you survive thirty. Five years yet had a really rough go of in bunch areas you know and but yet you're here. You're your healthy. You're not losing your mind. You're not losing your you know your physically fine. You're not homeless. Why do you think we are so oh thinking. We're going to F it all up. I don't know I think that every day every every day I'm like I blew it. I'm GONNA blow it. I had blown it this every day. Field like this is your last chance i. A- there's always that kind of is a way of saying to yourself self while every time I say it's my last chance. It never really is yeah. Never is yeah so daily. When you move along is is it. Has it gotten better since you know sort of learning of these patterns because at least you catch yourself yeah. It's funny. I just got in in. I just got out of another codependent relationship and that was not a business relationship or anything like that but I just noticed that I seek I seek women that are like my mother's age and I love my mom but like I there's something inside of me. That likes still. I just really wants to be mothered. It's interesting yes. I think we all do but also then instead of me being like Oh. I WANNA be mothered. I my mother people to death like I just did A. I don't like to Brag but I just did a community theater production barnum. How was it was. I know filed it. Ah Yeah but guess what I find myself doing I can't rescue and help all those struggling actors yeah 'cause that's their journey and thank God originals e handlers handlers book about her therapy and stuff because I'm not allowing them to fail. I'm not allowing them to do what they're supposed to be doing. In life just like I tried to control my father's death breath the way I tried to push on him all these things and yeah you did it for the right reasons like ultimately you and I whether it was together in our thing thing or with other people were really trying. We're not trying to be immoral. We're now you want out being mean. We're trying to do the right thing by rain but then we don't give them a choice right. You Know My dad the choice to die like he wanted to. I'm sure in ways I'm now. He's going yesterday but whatever so Chelsea Chelsea's book was so informative because she did the same thing to her dad and all we have to do is ask people what they want and they'll tell us yeah and I just think that I just noticed is that so many relationships in my life with women. I don't do this with men I show up and I make it in equitable. Mike I put people on a pedestal and I I will jump through hoops. I'll tap dance I will do. I will do anything to please you. I make you an idol in my life and the second can't that I am not feeling love or getting what I thought that that little show deserve I turn with such a vengeance and you and I think it's because I said yes when I should've said No. I said not myself the entire time and then then the second. I don't get what I want in that relationship. You're getting all those knows. I never sat along the way no reason and you're getting them at a weird time picky about it was all the other it was. It was about all the other things that I said no to myself. Yes to somebody out. You know what I mean. So would the way I I think you know say you and I were like living in the same city or like Oh. Let's hang out and be friends and all that yeah the way to do things would be what where I go. Hey do you WanNa have have coffee. You'd be like when and they'd be like house three and if you look at the watch and you're going forward be better it was four would be better better. Yeah me to look at the watching. Go three would three thirty yeah. That's the way to do or say no tomorrow but it's weird how those sound like such a little tiny destroy me but they all add up to resentment and they destroy me and my friend. Jen is amazing. She you know because okay sure Jane. Fonda says no is a complete sentence. Shore is when you're eighty but there's a lot of years of learning how to say no where you sat down dri and and then you fall apart into a puddle and you're like they're never going to be my friend. Bob Alright so like you have like I feel like I am in those years where it's like. I'm learning how to set a boundary and say this doesn't work for me but I sure I'm paying for it. When I do inside of myself ranking the person will never be my friend again thinking. I've been in Matt Abandonment so much bandit so I don't know I don't know when that shifts or whatever I think it just incrementally by recognize yeah and we're saying no when we mean yes as in Halloween. I mean no I mean I have friends that I now go oh. This is what I can only see every three weeks. This is one that if I get on the phone with her now. I I'm not going to be an hour and a half. I love her but let me just listen to Howard. Stern for a minute before I haul area just kinda. Get your but that's hard to do every choice but I think with actors at work yeah yeah so what he you think what would the healthy people have done if if they were since neither of us was healthy. I don't physically I mean emotionally healthy and what would the same humans have done. They probably would have set set real outline of what needs to be done and take both of their schedules into account. It wouldn't have been over. We're doing on one part the ASININE meaning over like being like Oh let me run the show and let me just be the boss and the beast and and you wouldn't have been subservient to it so you there are ways to do these things in hindsight that's better than not looking back at all and saying it could be be fixed or could have been there are every respectively and isn't it amazing that we can be like it's okay that we made this mess and we can now be friends like that. I think is the gift yeah. We'll ultimately come on. What's freaking play who care who care like I was going. It's like who cares like it doesn't matter like I moves. A lot didn't mean a thing yeah. The biggest thing that ever did was paid to keep my dad added home because that's what he wanted and I'll do it for my mom. What else oh I get to what SAMA freaking comic yeah the Big Freak me. It's like stupid yeah and I get the people think the career and all that and and and physical physical goods get possessions means something but really it's what's in here yeah. I think that that's something that I had to come to. I was I normally am real Nada Jealous this person. I don't have a lot of jealous. I know you don't let it was really I kind of had a really jealous week the week before last and I was really resentful handful about just like I'm also not a I'm not like a hamptons though I don't hang out with people like that and I was just like a round. Some people like that and they all had these connections ends that I thought like Oh. I didn't know the world really worked that. I didn't know that I thought you just worked hard. You know we're both so yeah. We're like Holler uh-huh yeah and I got a little like resenting of it and then I realized that I don't value how you that like. That's not real like sure. There is a part of me that thinks like it would be really nice to have X. Y. Z. Blah Blah Blah but I don't know that like having a bunch of money and that's not really what that's not really. What's going to make your soul seem like it's an invisible commerce? That makes you happy like we all know it to. We know when we give. We receive like we know it yet. You know fills the soul you know ever that stop. It's never do comedy show and get paid or whatever and we'll be after the show you just feeling again doesn't feel much better like when the ask where's offer. Whatever it's like could always wears off yeah doing for other. People doesn't wear off receiving good love Ray Ray by guests like you'll learn something but then I realized that sometimes when I get on a moral high road like that and I started to judge those rich people on on them. That's no good either. That's almost almost like ain't well comparing despair. It's almost like not even seeing them and just being like I accept them as they are. That's hard. It's let's put it this way. It's going to be daily early work for their life but that's alright because it's our great lesson right right. You know I think what's important is that I think we learned. I think what's great is that we came to this whole thing and it turned out good yeah. I think a big lesson I learned was don't apologize until you really know. I know what you're sorry for and you'll how to articulate it because you put it so beautifully that I was like. Oh my God like Shelley thought about this like I was worth something because you just apologize say yeah you know you're whatever dude I. I'm sorry we had a fight. Then you just feel like oh man I didn't mean much person and it was a couple years yeah and and you know what's funny about you saying none and I hope you don't mind me saying this is like you do really mean a lot to me and I think the thing that I was really sad about the thing that really like made me the most sad was that and I could be totally wrong. I could have made up this story but I felt like you probably.

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"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

12:07 min | 1 year ago

"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

"I could not get a lot of stars to come and do do my podcast and today's guest is evidence of that. He is one of my oldest friends in comedy. Secretly is one of my favorite people on the planet and now it gets this on a secret. He has a show on sirius insight. One twenty-one called stand up with pete dominick. Yes you guessed it. It's pete dominick. Make this episode is called. Who cancelled yeah. I know right. Who couldn't you get for this. Goal oriented was unavailable to i guess john fugel sang gone. He's the bane of my existence smarter funnier and better looking but not nearly as genuine as i know well. John few zang is interesting interesting and funny and smart. That's all i'm saying okay. I'll your your show actually really good because i don't listen to it yet yet. You give me a chance to come on it and not talk politically. What is this show about. Tell our listeners my shows about issues. It's like n._p._r. N._p._r. with a personality so it's whatever's in the public interest and so we talk about the what's news that's controversial and divisive but we also talk about you know just big issues from obviously like climate change to relationship issues. Why we don't do a lot of talk about a lot. It's become like a self help. Ah in a way because we work out a lot of our own personal issues we talk about our problems and solutions to both big policy you know worldwide problems and personal a a family and and psychological addiction all of it. I like that nine. That's why you are good when you're on it because you can talk about those things and that's really what you're doing now right well. I liked shoehorn me into the show and i never that's what i was gonna say. You don't ever make me feel like oh. She doesn't world events no shoehorned billy baldwin on the show oh you weren't you personal trainer up well for a short amount of time. Stanley did his stretching regime if we're dropping names as jerry seinfeld wife jessica when they first started dating. That's how you get jerry seinfeld you. This is what happens you start training with a pete dominick sobat fourteen yeah. I came very close in the street. You'd be like never seen yeah i know. Isn't that funny now peten i i met because we were doing comedy and i did what i do with. All people i feel are less than me. I decided to help him and i said hey pete. You're a funny guy with some potential common open for me on the road and we did this. Did we have good experience. Tell the audience we had they. They are similar experiences when i think about <hes> gigs road gigs and doing comedy and and earning my stripes in comedy. I think a lot about those gigs that i did with you because some of them were the worst gig granted. You're the headliner. I was the opening act but they were within driving distance of new york techniques and i'll never forget the hunting bar for hunters no stage and aligning and i opened and it was as if use it was it's almost as if you pushed a deer out for these guys and i'll never forget because specifically. I was doing stand up. Comedy in the audience was was a guy standing two feet from standing there. The only thing between us was a microphone. There's nothing there that said comedy a t._v.'s sports centers on and then you did i. I couldn't get their attention. You crushed but then i do recall you go. We've got to get out of here now. We think escaped yeah. I mean that was just one of many gigs that we did and you're a great mentor and very generous with the money and and with the advice and and you always been a good friend of me and i will always be in your debt for giving me those gigs pete. I tend to over advice. Give and i sort of try to hold that back now because because i don't want people to say oh this all she does is tell me what to do. So i'm trying to in other words. You have to accept people where they are. They can't if they ask for help help great if they don't find. Did you ever find me overly advice giving o. l. I found out i would apologize. No i think that the problems i present you with as you recall. Were specifically about a relationship but my now wife we first started dating so my relax recollection of anything was that you gave good advice advice in that you would get annoyed if anything with me harping on the same thing i kinda like i don't get me over advice and then you're like enough with your complaining gene. If anything just do something and we laugh about i remember that gig 'cause then we drive through a burger king or mcdonnell. We got a <hes> a recall you ordering taco taco. Yeah yes my side me and said. I don't want to hear anything from you. Mr personal trainers. I i don't listen. I'm going to give the bite the hand that's feeding me while it's feeding itself me now so what had happened back then. How many years are you married by the way we've been together for eighteen eighteen years married for i don't know nine nine we got married two thousand ninety four into and they walked up the aisle so nice that syria my parents backyard my gay uncle married us right before the everything about that is so unchristian i love it couldn't be less of a christian anymore but my my uncle who was two thousand nine and my uncle who comes from california and right before the wedding starchy he he sits me down because you know it is ironic that i can marry you legally but i can't get married. Legally <unk> stay and i was like <hes> uncle buzzkill. If you wanna do this punchbowl yeah so. We got married nine years ago. It would be other for eighteen years now. Here valerie league 'bout yes right. I remember her name because you would always bitch and moan about not her. You would bitch and moan about the situation what to do with this back. Then what was the problem. I can't remember wasn't she. Just too hot for you and that was the problem that still definitely the problem the problem it's still when i when she looks at me i feel like excuse going. Oh i coulda done better especially as i age yeah. I think yeah always have nikopolidis joke. When we both open for are delaying it would be me than nick than already in after i introduced nick and nick's at give it up for dominic. He's a make a wish kid in his wish was to open for already all emma bold white american. You don't know my struggle tomase. Had it really hard with a male yeah. I was really very different than what were you going on and on about the with her and i think it was specifically that her ax was still in the picture and that there were other men and i don't recall exactly what it was but i think it was just i wanted in also. I definitely wanted to convince her to move to new york from from chicago right and i don't know i never occur what ended up happening. You got into grad school in new york and <hes> and so moved to new york ark for grad school but moved in with me quote temporarily but that hasn't left me yet so you like just clung on till she couldn't let go anymore yeah. No i wife is not a codependent person. My wife raise herself. She like in the in the wild her parents were pretty horrible and so oh i realized that in this marriage when things go bad and they often have and it looks like we could potentially break up separated that she's not that affected by it like i'm devastated misstated by the idea of being without her because i'm very co dependent and i talked to her all day. She's my my best friend and my my sidekick and my partner bob but if i think she'd be like good luck i'm fine i don't. She doesn't need me for anything other than find financially. Does that scare you because because she i mean it's clearly the most healthy way to be not get three not codependent yeah. It's not have to depend on this person for all of your everything <unk> happiness and confidence and money and everything right well now has she demonstrated this with your children meaning to she allow them to be independent. She let them learn their own lessons because as a parent. If i had kids i would never let them out of the house. It'd be so scared we've open. We're we both are pretty good. We were very very anti helicopter. We pushed them out into right now. My daughter is fourteen and a some people listening might think this is weird but she's fourteen. She's in brooklyn for the week at a filmmaking camp but some people might not wanna leave their kid in new york city <hes> for the week but i mean i think it's awesome. She's having a great experience making new friends lot of diversity diversity being in the city where as she grown up in the suburbs and so we both are definitely but <hes> not overbearing we we push them into having as many experiences that can and we don't we definitely don't. I don't think we're too concerned about them. Did you have more of a struggle letting go like that. Then your wife did 'cause no sounds sounds like she so you just were like hey what's going to happen. It's going to happen. I had a hard time letting go but your question was that. I have a harder time than my wife and i had i had a harder time that my wife is the answer because my wife hasn't had too hard time growing up my wife very much sees her role as their parent and role model and caretaker <hes> which i think the way it should be and i see my self similarly but also as a friend she doesn't see them herself as a friend as much so as the relationship changes <hes> she he doesn't feel like she doesn't feel like she's lost as much although she is in an argument with my fourteen year old about what they should what she should call her. I thought are like any other kid doesn't want to call her mommy anymore marshon mom. We why you're calling me to go. I thought you were gonna say. She wants to call her by her first name. She wants to call her valerie lieutenant valor my wife would be fine with it because that's what i have to call her different. I don't think my daughter should have to call her that. I'm like yes attention but no. She said my wife doesn't but it's been i'm telling you you're wrong. You don't get to decide you know growing up. I just want to call you mommy in front of all our friends much as it's it's kind of a childlike childlike thing and we should encourage that so that's one tiny little thing that my wife that's wrong about things that it's so interesting because we all have our little things and you know even though oh your wife is physically and emotionally perfect way better than you. This is her one little area. You insist the girl calls you daddy because that's creepy. I insist that she calls me. Mr epstein super creep yeah my daughter's call me epstein sandusky yeah. It's i know but i think it's hilarious better that have steam bar. I'm an edgy common. Yeah it's better than i've seen bar but what's that michigan state doctor the olympic guy dr nassar nassar sir my daughter's call me trump nassar be bar wine bar but that's yeah that's a sushi knows not to go out with any of those guys. I'm so you're that as opposed to she's fourteen how old's the other one the the other one's eleven and her own talk appear. She's not the pride of the family we don't. We're not proud younger one. She's eleven and i thought it'd be round of thought at this point. I expected more from her. Yes she quit. She quit the clarinet after a year god and she's just not ah can't keep this bitcoin fourteen. Did you really judik with claire. I'm proud of her pride and joy. Julia is me like my younger one is they're both you know apartment part my wife and but but raise do you hang out with her. More like now eva and i probably hang out even more than giuliani to some extent. <hes> julia gets older but we have a lot of common interests..

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"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

09:47 min | 1 year ago

"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

"No net right right just happens and that instant will just allowing it to come through the be the vessel right but you can't do that in your life because i was. I grew up in that condition where you know you. You don't talk about your family right. Pop not happy yeah. Get a mortgage <laughter> right on your back for thirty. Feel your thoughts or clean up then it was all work. It was all result driven. It was all provide. It was all do this so when once that clouds who you really are who is nice authentic great sweet person person at the little kid that almost becomes what we react from yeah so basically if so many starbucks is slow in line. You're like move it fatso but i got but that little kid inside. That's the conditioning that comes out the kidney tied. We'd go oh. It's okay like oh away way or or i'm thirsty to or whatever so twenty two we have to get back to that kid without getting stepped on the whole says the conditioning for me was what i have to do to provide for my family. I got to get home this package. I got to pay these bills and it's just the mind just goes so now. You're in that emotional state of a situation that doesn't exist. I know this lady in front of us going to. I want the vanilla. Not let's pick it all right. Well the first of the month and i we'll see see. This is your problem. You got married and now you have people to take care. Not least bonelli lisa's a free weight rodham gherardi. Get the divorce no but but you said has it manifest. My wife is the best thing that happened to me because i can't see beauty. I've figured this out. I can see beauty through her when that smile on her face when those eyes light up i'm like oh it's like god saying it's how i gotta burn. This bush is that is that usually usually when you're leaving the room that she gets that happy what i'm leaving going on the road. Where's my black bag. Nobody's thing did you find it hard because comics we have to have that outer shell because of hecklers all of invulnerability ability so did you find it hard to be really vulnerable with somebody in a relationship because i found it impossible i did in the fact of sharing and my father i had this in. My mother even said my father when he was dying. Your father's afraid to tell me what scares him because he's afraid i'll use it against them. Yeah that's when you grew up in that environment arment. I grew up at there was a lot of gangsters i grew up in scorsese movie lucky culturally yeah but it was like a crime feeling without the money power influence. It was just it was the paranoia it was. The scariness helicopter with radio rallied say that's what it is coming to take the house. You know there's all kinds of stuff by the way not to distract from this story but i will say about that scene. How many times do you ask yourself when you're watching that. Why does he have have to make those meatballs and sauce from scratch. Couldn't they have just said you know forgive dinner co-dependency. You had to freak and take care of that dopey kid coming out the freaking hospital kill. He's rolling around a wheelchair. Gil thank you set in any opening monologue. His father was pissed off from this this and this and take on you you take on the birds. Any male child will take on the burden of the father because the way you know how to be like a man my thing was. I had to look for stuff in life to be aggravated about so i could play the role. My father played in my house. You wouldn't have found most of those things now. Had your father not said you should be her indicated. You should know he never eat. He was unspoken community. I i got fortunate. I'm so frigging fortunate because there's love and support. I got my father. I wanna be mechanical. My father's very mechanical. That's why like cars. I can't fix them right now. I can't carburetors gone right and you just pick up the hood. This should be signed. Call the guy because yeah. It's all computers now so i couldn't do that so i couldn't be like him. In that aspect aspect he came to see me do stand up. The first night went back to the shop the next day he's in a workshop. I looked looked at me like i never saw look in his eyes. His eyes lit up and and i think i wanna be a comic. He took a long drag off his lucky and he went. Do it now. Do it now before your life gets complicated. We're gonna do this. You give it everything got. The worst feeling in the world is one day you can look in the mirror. There's going to be an old man looking back at you and you don't want to try that much harder. Oh my god <music> goosebumps he tapped into his regret wasn't regret the choices he made but it was a different time yeah he was he was one of the being inventor he was very mechanical title but he got married to my mouth fell in love eighteen in that in that time time period that the place in history you had a wedding ring and you had an engagement that's right and then you had a school ring. It was <hes> you went into the army came out and started a life so he was involved in his life before he really knew one who was to what he wanted you know and so i think that regret built up on me before i could say you changed my life when i was the first 'cause my kids changed my life. I they don't want you to have the regrets that i had not because of you but because of not not trying because back then like you said permission to do so they didn't. They weren't allowed to do the job and you supported the family but it's interesting because i think a lot of people say it's always the mother we get all the messages from when i'm telling you i think i think that's why a big part of why had the balls to retire from stand up is because my father retired when he was sixty because he was like he had a health scare that had nothing to to do with his passing thank god and he was like screw it and he became a fine artist so he has beautiful paper right well he wants. He got parkinson's. He's like like i don't want to paint anymore. Why not they look great and he this is the greatest sentence just because you're good at it doesn't mean you have to do it and i said all my god just because i'm good at standup doesn't mean if it makes doesn't make me happy. I don't have to do it okay. Why do i have to do it question for you. Given this gift that you have and you have. I've seen you rip a room up by not doing it. Are you denying did you. Did you struggle with. I have this gift that i'm not using it. I'm guilty of no because i transferred it into <hes> the coaching of transferred into storytelling events plays and stuff so it's still like we're the humor comes out like i don't do. I mean there's not one coaching coaching client. I call during a week that we don't laugh at least once because honestly humor's really healing for them and i always underplayed that gift. I was like oh. It's no big deal. I'm just funny now. It's like oh aw i can still use that old skill sure and i love that and also meet and greets after one of my storytelling events we do a lot of q._n._a.'s during the moment so so you're still using the gift but you're not using it for the ill possibly of yourself or others like i'm just so glad i'm not looking looking at that calendar with dread like when you look at your calendar now. Are you mostly super happy. I'm terrified that when when it's not full all i mean you know the joan. Rivers documentary was great. The most terrifying comic is the empty calendar. What's funny about that. Is i look at my calendar and next week. There's nothing in it and i'm so happy i almost don't even wanna schedule coaching for them because i want to have that week to go look at me. I'm just a lady of leisure and i'm like i saved. A tons of money is as good amount of money but i'm like live small. I'd like i got a wife and they're expensive you. While you're super hot you gotta keep her style head. Dude you out. L. kicked your coverages say no. You're a cute guy but let me tell you something. I got world class and also you don't want your very good on by the way because here everybody thinks type of comic so exciting. After a show i would also always go up after the show with my opening act and to the hotel room we watch like eight episodes of kings and queens. That's all we know you're. You're on there a lot. <hes> you were so good thank you were. You were the episode where you were the funny guy. Was that you i was. I did one where i did a couple of either one where i was the rival guy at the at the other delivery service yes yes and it was funny because me kevin were roommates. We started comedy and he's everything in that scene from his. He's a big neil diamond fan no way so you know what i always had a good vibe from him. He's a good guy right. It was always nice to me. See that's the thing some people think these comics so damaged this and that i think if we work on ourselves enough we could almost be human. I feel very good chance that you and i both i'm trying to be. I look at it this way. I've suffered from right now. The audience is turn. I'm doing the best i can now. Listen everybody listen. Listen to adam ferrara ninety. Don't listen to him. I would say you should follow him on the instagram and instagram's on facebook tuesday nights nights facebook we do this thing called talk to me. Tuesday my wife on the turns onto cameras and i got a thousands of people show up phone. Call everybody every week. I'm on i'm sold facebook facebook page at nine pm eastern six p._m. Pacific beautiful adam ferrara and instagram at adam farrar. If you can't spell it you know what suck at people. I can't do all the work for you and and also he is any new series on c._b._s. All excess which i watch religiously i o net app. It's called why women kill. He plays a sixties dad not unlike his own own phone adam. Are you willing to stick around and help some of my freaking absolutely people who write these letters that they need out there sucking me dry. Can you well. I'm here thank you. We're gonna be right back with lend lease a hell. Push the button travis..

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"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

10:33 min | 1 year ago

"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

"E. Here welcome to a new exciting episode of let lisa help this show in which i forced my help upon new with the help of my special guest co host this week. It is none other than the fabulous comedian slash actors slash kinky piece of ass the adam ferrara adam. I remember one night with you. My god we were at the comedies silence and we had such a good time and i remember giving you a ride ride home. Yeah and i haven't seen you since it's one hundred nate pounds ago for me. I know i was like where is the rest of you. Twenty years ago and i was like after that at night i said to myself as i was driving home at four in the morning i go. I bet me an atom really going to be friends and there it is twenty years later. I still know you yes in life happened. Took support for it back together and look at it as you guys can't see because it's a podcast. I'm beautiful then. You probably know that i retired from stand up comedy mighty. I am no longer the queen of mean now the queen of mean people you know i never thought of you as the queen of mean became oh so sweet and so nice and i knew it was a person and i knew that like mike that's funny everything he did was finding it made me laugh courageous what you were doing and there was meaning behind and and i liked it but i knew that that wasn't you and i just wanted to ask the question when you retired from standard by the way ballsy oh yeah i mean sorry so connected to our work and outcome right well. I think what what happened was. I no longer felt like it was bringing me that joy. It used to and i was like oh. Let's find the next thing that brings join so yeah. It's a gutsy move in that. Oh you know it's risky financially or whatever but you want. I said to myself literally adam. This is how i tell people now with coaching how to change your life. You say what's the worst thing that can happen and do it anyway. Because what am i really going to be homeless now. I always type. That's one of my biography. It'd be called. I could always he's type. I can always pour coffee. No job is too small for me and i'm like you know what's interesting. You would love this yesterday. I land at the airport at l._a._x. I've a friend picking me the up and i'm doing my own baggage. I'm getting it off the thing myself because god forbid he would actually come in and help. I am in coach two seats because i need the dog out and didn't do the bitch move having the service dog a fake service dog i actually paid for the dog and i'm staying in an airbnb and i'm like wow now look at me how the mighty have fallen by choice and i think that's what people forget is that ego so attached to the fifteen hundred dollar night hotel to to the first class if there's ego embalmed. We got no business doing it anymore. So now it's just like oh look at me and the money i saved so i think it's just a shift you know well the shit okay. Let me ask about the shift this shift from <hes> seattle because i'm going through at this point in my life and i'm shifting trying to get something trying to be something and the theory harry is when you when you when you being something they come to you yeah. Unfortunately that's still connected the outcome 'cause now let go of the says <hes> when you said the mighty have fallen. You haven't fallen be no that. I don't know what the language restriction is but that stuff isn't isn't mighty. It's ourselves stuff. We were talking about on a different episode about other esteem. Versus self-esteem and other steams all that stuff like that stuff that adds us to our lives. We think it's going to really doesn't the only thing that really adds to my life. Joy is like service and helping <hes> but not to the extent of not helping myself sacrificing. That's the worst that's the worst and that's that's co-dependency. Totally i have that and i have catholicism unscrewed. Oh me too many level well. Hey check this out. I was at my mother's now. This is me i figure i have a lot of compassion for my mother embarrassing good at compassion. I'm working on empathy empathy which is a lot harder which is actually putting yourself in the shoes of someone but compassion and go on whatever she went through made her who she is. I forgive her. Whatever well she. He has me running around for her and i go once a week. I could do it well this has i'm cleaning the toilets because the cleaning lady it had a death in the family. I'm doing everything slapping alleys cleaning so why this is eagle isn't this great so i said it but i can't take one more minute out of my time. I got appointments and she goes lisa. Can you take me to the cemetery. Daddy died five years ago today. And of course you know of course i remember the worst thing that ever happened to me and i thought i couldn't handle one more thing meaning like i didn't have more and more second and you know just go and i go back to sal catholicism plus death. Yeah plus just codependence. I go the little self sacrifice. I had to do that. Day are right for you room for your mother you an a minivan for the guilt and walker now. I hate the war. What is this. She's harry ready. Set that the cane. I had to hide it from her because she fell my mother. This is how guilt ridden <unk> catholics are. My mother got her the life alert because she has to have that button to push shot got it. I found her one day seven o'clock on a sunday night she had fallen at eleven a._m. And it tried to get up for eight hours because she didn't want to quote doc disturb the policemen yeah so that's what we go through and i can't talk to us but there's also there's also another thing of you've been putting virtue masking fear yeah. That's a big thing huge huge my father my mother's mother in your community where oh no god forbid forbid my mother's in a gated community right because apparently she can't be left unattended. She will spread guilt through neighborhoods to be right so oh she goes there and wipe before my dad died you know he was he was he was in tough shape so i before he died. He said i did the best i could for your mother i got i got a behind nine balls. I got him. Oh my god yeah yeah yeah so nothing can get to her right right and but that's the conditioning of what i grew up in short i have have i i won't stink make the virtuous choice to benefit humanity. I'm very proud of myself in the sacrifice myself in the process of now so are are you at the point where todd cast is let you out but you that's travis are completely. Lee lee non-credited non-paid producers. Go thank you for doing this. Out of the good is your but what you talk about. You know whether it's funny to the audience. It's a million everybody listening but this is the kind of stuff we do that self sacrifice and then we end up in my case it was always overeating was always dating the wrong man. It was shopping too much. It was whatever it is too. Dull that thing denying myself what i really want taking care of them so now i gotta feel sorry for for myself and fill the hole a different way so do you find you still struggle with this in life like what's your podcast is about talking to people but what they're big issue is so is this one of your big. The ones yeah this is finding your place in the whole in not not with the codes but not sacrificing being of service but not sacrificing yourself in the process right best articulation at the moment of right and a lot of that. I think one of the things i wanna talk to you about this because i knew that this is what the podcast was amount. Matt was the trust in the trust issue that it's okay even though i'm not okay. Does that make any sense yes. It's boban gita data. You entitled to your work. You're not entitled the fruits of your labor yeah right yeah so that's when you gave up stand up. You know i was like i was like when i started to do what would i want to do. Which was my podcast which you're gonna graciously do famille shore grassi as was i was. I told you you were on my list. That's ballsy because i know who i am. The best version of me is onstage. See i think i would come through me. Wanna know what's really interesting. That hold can't think thing. People always said they get that like when they're running running or when they're meditating. You're going to die when you find out how i found mine effluent a frigate okay ballroom dance really this is so funny i i always had watched dancing with the stars on to be on it but then i am not going to be on that because i was on the apprentice and they they won't have me so when i retired from stand up my sister mr who's involved with the charity in connecticut said you know we do this ballroom dancing event and i know you like dancing and the fantasy of at least she was. Can you do this for charity. Says sure dude dude. It is the only place every day i go. I even called fred astaire out here to do it when i'm in l._a. Because i said oh i have to i don't think so the the best version of meat comes out when i'm not thinking used to be with stand up yeah then i started thinking too much but you know. Is this really hurting. Somebody's feelings or am. I really going to kind kind of do what i want to represent me and my message courage. I don't want to be misunderstood so now when i'm doing the dancing or doing the podcast doing like even life coaching. I'm like oh. I'm in the moment yeah so the best version of me just was coming out in different ways so that's why i got rid of the other yeah so i think we like hold onto things because we're afraid raid of like oh. It's my identity now. My identity is i'm just kind of a person that's why i can go on an airbnb and not give crap jer. You know what i mean yeah. That's good because you you. We know you got you got. You got the present moment. Mom outside of stanford digital media was the first time you experienced that in standup. Probably i believe i never remember being as comfortable as owner. This is like eating betty crocker chocolate ice cream icing right out of the can and you no me adam. I love it in the can. Sorry was irresistible. Just couldn't let lisa help. I'm right at least your leg. Hey there you go but yes. What would you say like. How does your how do your issues quote unquote manifest in your daily life like what what would somebody. They were observing you go. <hes> you know he needs to work on that. Oh <hes> not impulse control but re reacting rather than responding yeah because you know we gets it gets written on our hard drive and the issue for me was when the best version of me like you said in that moment onstage improving talk in the.

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"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

13:10 min | 1 year ago

"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

"She is the co founder of the head del. Oh group. They are an executive life coaching firm one of the biggest and best in the world. I know 'cause used to coach me and i was an enormous failure and and one the one that got away who couldn't do the hard work. She is lauren handle laura. I'm so happy you're here. I it was so cool because i was like i'm doing a podcast about helping people get your ass over here. Oh my god i am so happy you switched hearing about people in the way this i can't even it's literally one of the most moving things well that you give a shed because yeah like you give a shit. Yes yes so proud of how you give a shit about people listen. Let me say this. I care about people but unfortunately used to care about them too much at the expensive myself and that is a problem as you probably know as a coach because people sort of put others first all the time now. It's sort of coming to the middle. I hope but is this something people struggle with is like suffering for the greater good ma well. We we make joke and enhance al we nickname everything enhance yeah. We love a good nickname so that if you know the nickname of it you can separate from it. You mean martyr dumb yeah you mean. Humans can be really martyred. Done bats great notre dame and why. Do you think they do that. Like why would i have felt like other. People were the priority over me. Why does that. Why is that a tendency because so from very so. I also make fun that humans have the episodes. <hes> epigenetics like you're born into something right right. You didn't ask for any of it. You were born into it. I am sorry welcome to your mommy and your daddy right okay so which one was the martyrdom in that between the two of them someone was yeah. Okay okay so one welcome to the scene that you were born into and then two if you really think about it like that you're the one that's caring for everybody. They love you for that. <hes> right like so if you're the most important per if you're the martyr if i ask you for something and you're gonna do something for me. You get a lot of love and attention for me. You're so important. I'm gonna call you later. I'm going to ask for more shit for me right right and so now you feel very self important. <hes> except you didn't get your laundry done on you to get laid. You didn't even get to eat dinner because you were doing everything for everybody else and they loved you for it. So you get to feel very important but you sacrifice yourself and then which was it mommy or daddy got just so we do it and it because it gets us what we think we need which is love and attention then we ultimately deplete lead ourselves hate and resent everyone swing back to the other end of the podium so i think that's a pendulum. Yes what i think happened to me. Was i think you're right. It got attention attention. Then i was like resentful of care took yeah and then i was like well. I'm just going to care about me and so for several years. That's all i did now sort of bringing it back to the middle so i think the best we can hope for in life is to just notice those things and bring it back to the middle and just live as a functional human being well i would. I would definitely really push you to get church and state. There's a separation of something. <hes> one is your career where as long as you get paid and you're giving irving. That's awesome right because you're doing something that means something to you right and you're getting paid. Well right yeah you right in your personal life such cert- right like then everything needs to have an experience of equality. Give i get so i married. I'm a giver <hes> i get paid with on given i love that yeah okay but in my marriage my home with my kids it's not i don't over give see that's brian dan church and state you need church and state so yonder so you absolutely feel like was that a struggle for you to do that on your personal life or just kind of came naturally to you to luke separate those two things it was very no i would say i was not a genius when it came to friendships friendships me to friendship was the place where i would over give for love and attention and people who clapped for me that i loved loved right air quoted and <hes> and then at some point i was gossiped about or talked about like i wasn't it wasn't balanced and it was my own damn fault because i was picking people that couldn't give as much as i could or weren't as great as our you know whatever you wanna say and so for a long time i got screwed by girlfriends girlfriends and hurt and broken hearted by by people i had brought into my life and gave everything how so so alternate i learned the lesson hard there so that's where you actually actually kicked yet martyrdom right right so what it seems to me as we do it at first because we're getting love and attention but it's really us manipulating people into loving us because if i stop giving i stopped manipulating and i start just going wall while we're just equals. How am i going to get that yeah. It's it's from a very young age. <hes> that child wants to be clapped for <hes> mm right and i serve really anything wrong with that absolutely not my i have three kids. They want claps yeah right and at some point there's only one person that should be clapping for them that they were really care about which is themselves of course of course transition not so ease. That's really hard like i'm fifty seven and still old working on it and you go. Maybe i'll never get truly. There are one hundred percent but you know at least you try every day and you hope to get a little better yeah i. I don't have those casualties anymore like i really do learn and understand that my biggest mistake with friendships was says i was picking people who were not actually epic enough like in comparison to how much i was out to accomplish and what i'll whore i am at accomplishing yeah. Yeah i needed equal hose right right so when i figured out that my best friend would be mark hyman <hes> right who is of course dr mark hyman. One of the cleveland clinic is phenomenal right and he makes me look like i'm an underachiever yeah yeah. I'm now relaxed. He's relaxed and we both can hang hang and love each other without needing anything from each other and really just talk be together because it's totally equal in being being so it's your picker for friends is right on target. It took the you know that took sure we did a whole show so <hes> discussing friendship and we're talking about how you know. It's okay to end friendships that no longer serve you intimate honorable way you can have a discussion it doesn't have to ghosting and it doesn't have to be angry and yelling you know and it can just be this doesn't serve us anymore but i wish you the best yeah but it's hard who can i. It's it's hard to get to the age or the mental capacity emotional capacity to have those talks and you had to yeah. I mean i teach it once. I figured it out. I'm very good at the endings. Things like new beginnings like good starts and stops and middle points and calling it all out but it took a while because i fall hard hard for people like once i love. I'm going to help you with absolute. I don't want to not give well which is great because you now know your boundaries of giving yeah yeah. Well you know because now you know not to give till it hurts because that is to a fault friend isn't someone who needs me right. That's which was yeah yeah yeah. I like what i like the one who doesn't need me as the perfect friend and i can over give them don't need them right and so it's it's moved into a place where it's much deeper and more honest what you know you're right because i used to always attract the wounded birds. I loved that and then now even i say okay. How am i going to do this differently you. I meet some people in their thirties. I'm fifty seven. They're probably rabble emotionally equals and that's okay that they're in my life that they come to game night that we go to p. Town fun yet the minute when you start going. I'm going to call somebody for advice or to be imprisoned buddy. You go wait a minute yeah. Why was that person chosen for fun. Then you figure out the two people in your life who get the deeper stuff yeah so. Do you think having levels of friendships is a smart. I literally have a part of the method that teaches this really actually that there's tears here's yeah and that it's okay that there's tiers of friends and what and i make people define what a friendship is to them and what an ideal friendship is to them and who they are and how many what what what is your dream design of a community so it's literally ah drawing a map for yourself to get where you wanna go opposed to just having this weird. I want community. What does that really mean. We all have a different definition mission. I find humans not prompted <hes> to answer really important questions to how to design and and deal with your life. I'm not here to answer your answer. I'm here to make you answer it. I love that and that's i think why you're really good would coach and why you are head of this company. That's freaking phenomenal. That's big very successful company because you get that. It's not about giving giving the answer. You're not an advice columnist. I like giving advice. I'm big into who likes to over advice. Give and you know what that's why. You have a podcast yet it up but i think leading people to answer is so hard yes letting them come up with it. I love that and that's why i think well. That's why you're meant to. I'm like you need. What's the love of your life. What would be a hot sex life. What would like what's your ideals. I'm not looking. Let me tell you mine yeah long enough so you can hear our obnoxious an an honest. I will be about what i demand right so that you can be that brutally true to yourself. Well tell me this okay. You can life coach me and you tell me what i i discovered today. How fill this. I have cut down so much on work. I am so happy. I think achievement chievements is so overrated i for me. Only someone cheap. That's much as you can think of dr michael thaw never really yeah so what i think is was i was trying these different ways to submerge myself different things to submerge merged myself or immerse myself in to see if that oh well. I'll try that. I'll try food. Okay that didn't work. I'll try relationships okay. That didn't work out. I'll try friendships so don't work for a thousand that didn't work and now try achievement that didn't work and then after doing a lot of getting a lot of therapy and self help he stuff like oh. It's self acceptance dependence itself love. It's doing less so it's reconnecting with me so i was like oh. This is great so now. I do very little in my opinion. I i do the podcast. I do some group coaching. If i want to workshops do the storytelling shows and i take ballroom room dance five days a week because i freaking love it. I love it so much and i don't do much more than that and i know that sounds like a lot but to me what i use. That does not sound like like a lot of someone at an equal right like that. It's like other cheap won miss rate so you get that that's just a fun life. Doesn't none of it seems like work work and that's the bit sounds a little retired right which is great. That's what america what is it though yeah when you go oh my god. I'm so lucky 'cause it's true. Oh i feel on a cellular level not as an intellectual level but deep inside <hes> thank god i got the friends i have. Thank god i got the activities. Thank god my mother's still alive alive family everything there is nothing that is missing yet at once in a while during the day get a little oh a a little sadness or a little unprocessed grief or maybe something comes up mike wow. I don't want to add anything else in too because that's not gonna work. What's going going on there. Do you okay sure so lead me to my answer. People are still waiting for their minds <hes> to be their best asked france. When your mind is pretty much the biggest problem you got me. Yeah okay so your inner dialogue needs like so thoughts thoughts arise and you need to consent or send it to health so that's what is.

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"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

14:16 min | 1 year ago

"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

"Insult comic. Lisa Pinelli is now a full-fledged life coach and she wants to help you whether you like it or not join the former queen of me as she contains her journey as the queen of meaning. She'll share her life experiences the tool she's learned along the way and a healthy dose of humor so if you have a problem let Lisa help and now here's your host Lisa Lamp Nellie. Hey everybody huge lease elaborate alley a and you know why I'm here.

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"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

13:01 min | 1 year ago

"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

"Brad. Williams the comic look really who's frigging phenomenal great idea he said his wife and a him just and I said it's hard to stop the conversation because if you saw the say Ford and he's like yeah but with the rule we have to do it and then we come back to win cool down if line do come back to it. That's interesting but yeah it's relationships union together. You sound like twenty five twenty four years. It's it's like where you just go. It just seems a lot harder than people think people go on so cute many other Zola along. I know it's hard. It is nice. I mean you gotTa Admire People that are together for a long time and but at the same time yeah I don't I don't I'm in it and so I- dated before I met him but now it's like not saying I want to go date but I see people like they go. Oh we're going to go see the movie the end game tonight and then we're you know me and my husband. I'm so excited. I'm like <hes> I don't. I don't get excited to see atom senile. I don't get people who get excited to see anyone except their dog. I I find it really hard to go. I I find it hard to work up anything over anyone else unless they're like best friend you part of it is to like Adam Super. I mean I don't mean Butch Guy. Oh Yes yes so you're not gonNA have back that Gucci like only we went to see that story that guy you know he's not but I don't need and so the sad thing is is that he's trying to work on himself with me. He and I see it so he thinks he's gotta be that kind of Guy Yeah but that's not really. That's not what I want I would I <hes> I'm trying. I'm working on it. What do I want? I I want him to understand. He doesn't understand like we've never ever had an argument or discussion or a debate about anything and and the only way it ends is he's never gone like you're right all right. You're right you know. It's always been like if I wanted to stop. I'll just go I say every yet everything out and then I just sit there and I just go into like sleep mode and I'm just like okay yeah all right right. Yes I just go okay yeah. You're right uh-huh uh-huh okay in one of the large part of it is it sounds like his acceptance <hes> because it's like how we have to accept ourselves. We have to accept other people if they mean enough to us like I my mother literally has never and we'll never say I'm sorry I mean for anything even if it was terrible <hes> and a few years ago I was screaming at her right before my dad died and it was like why will you never say I'm sorry what happened to you as a kid that you can't answer it was like when Fonzie couldn't say I would raw yeah yeah yeah yeah and now I find once I started accepting this is her. I don't like it but I have to accept because I'm not gonNA be unfriendly with to my mother. I think she started saying thank you excessively to the point that I go out. That's her saying I'm sorry so it's almost like with an Anna. Maria husband out their wife or anybody where you go now. They're not gonNA ever say yeah. You're right right. That's where little signal of this or their little thing. It's not saying taking crumbs. It's going I accept that size but accept it right but acceptance Izhar and just because it's like when they talk body acceptance I always was like but I hate eight my body. You're gone for this beautiful as like I have to say just accept. It doesn't mean it means. I like it right well. Let's books such a fine line. It's true yes just because I I I've ex <hes> we went. We started going to couples therapy because he's like you know. I'm going to be fifty five. I WANNA I wanNA go on walks. I WANNA do stuff. He wants to do stuff he. You know he's a builder he likes to build and so we just got a house and he's like gutted. Get this room and you've making it into a theater and it's just been sitting there and he's like I want her to come to Mingo. Look at these fabrics and look at this like. Let's get this like. I'm not that that girl. I don't give a shit. I don't care I don't we could live in the studio radio. I'm fine like oh you say that that's where I came from like. I don't I'm fine like I don't he what that's him. That's little Adam going you come to my football games. Look at what I'm building. Look what I'm doing to you like I'm doing for you. Look at this. You know why aren't you. He literally like I know. This is a sound insane but this is a cartoonish version. I guess is how you would put it want somebody to walk around and follow him and go. Thank you Adam. Look what you did look at this and had my friends look at what Adam Bill I think he's not. I don't know about him but I don't think people wants to get at once in a while. They're not bottomless pits if they work on themselves at the same time so suppose one they like. I'm not going to be like just got the fabrics. What if I wonder what would happen if one day you did get a bunch of averaging oh what about this this and this see if it fills fills him up a little bit ident- Kinda Guy who I've done what does it does it at all it well that need great and he's in a good mood or whatever and then it's onto the next thing you know he does something it? It's so what I'm saying is that he's looking to me for happiness has he has to stop the it's. He needs to work on himself right. It's not meet like it's if so if I come to him with all the fabrics and go look at like you know he which I've done a thousand billion times he it's great new loves it and he appreciates but then he's onto or something it does not laugh. What happens is basically his six year? Old Gets a little hit and you know I resented two huge fights with two different friends or a fight each and I through therapy figured out that it's my I six year old was wanting them to protect me or my nine year old wanted them to listen to me and I said some. I'm sorry because it's not your job to take care of my six year olds yeah. I'm so sorry and one of them. Tom Came on the journey. He said Oh my God the reason I couldn't was because he's very introspective. He goes my nine year old kind of was battling your six year olds he goes. Oh my God so we can definitely work forward going. Oh we can operate as adults now right that somebody somebody who works on themselves and has the therapy so that's why there's hope that him going to therapy will really hopefully it's going to take a while also find such a stereotype but that was a gay guy. That's the thing I algren wouldn't male friend said I said that was my nine year old wanting you to be made me feel safe and he goes yeah well. That's just who I am. So then I go all this friendship isn't meant to be and that's okay. <hes> and you know what the thing is you can do as much as you can without being resentful right like you can go yup the fabrics I can do one thing a day that makes Adam sex euro feel happy but more than that or I'll resent it 'cause then who wins yes exactly and that's set sort of work trying to work on resentment. I mean of course like all this resentment but you know I think it's like I will. I WanNa work on because I love him. We have the kids and you know he has. He works as I mean. I'm very I admire what he's done with his life. You know to pull them out of that to get to where he's gotten and can all the thing about how to that it drives is he's very misunderstood and I don't you know I don't like I. I feel bad like you know he said something in a thing about you know. Women aren't funny kind of that comment. I don't know if what I of course was like of course things funny to say that he didn't mean that he's lipper right but they took it out of this long long thing that he was saying it was followed by Lisa Lamp Kathy Griffin Tina Fey like there. There's a lot of funny wheel you ever see. I don't remember what he was saying but because of how he is in his opinions and because because of his childhood he wants to do the opposite of his parents did his parents were hippies and you know and he's like he doesn't WanNa be like that and he wants to have order in the house and have clean everything clean so it's just it's an interesting. It's an interesting journey but we'll well you know one of his hot buttons being misunderstood <hes> I had that too big time and that's something to be worked on on his part too because I had to work on like they're going to miss understand everything there just aren't going to find something the other day on a red carpet carpet and it was really funny because <hes> is at the Webby awards which is for the Web podcast and this and that and my niece's podcasts won an award and I was all happy and I said jokingly Oh because Jenny slate was the host and I said to US magazine Zina's weekly I go oh my God genie's later as she got fired from despicable me because she was better actor the me or whatever but I got paid anyway so do the work and it's almost like and then people started calling going Oh. Are you really mad at her and all that crap right and I I I was like hot button misunderstood and I'm no just clarify right right like sh- knows what you mean the right people know what it means but that's hard to get it is hard. It's all like therapy for thirty something years right now. It's it's just like where we go. We all have are like Joan. Hill talked about it on stern when he said people walk into our broken arm all the time on my love that I love that I love that I know I listen to stern like every day and I know you can compare pair but like look as somebody who had therapy for so long and he's like. I just like he's got he's got a ton of and you can hear it when he's yelling at his staff you know and Adam just as you know. I'm not trying to compare the two but just a year that how did you you grew up. <hes> you had an Italian mas regular yeah Israel at what we're middle-class father had a white collar ish job <hes> Connecticut you know not a rich part of Connecticut or whatever yeah and I was looking at that. GonNa run near near enough to New York City to go in once in awhile so I always felt like I got an easy life in a way yes. I'm like I was born white New York not near Gay bashers you know <hes> there was I was pretty lucky tall blonde wise you're lucky right so I never felt like I could complain about anything. You know what I mean yeah so we're just race sorta normal. My mother was definitely the the battle axe the big one manly. My father was more gentle sort of the <hes> news of fine artists and this and that but I think like <hes> the way I was brought up e kind of my mother would always look at me and go. I should go where you're going. I go therapy and she's like. When are you going to be done and I'm I'm late well? Maybe if you had not been such a frigging crazy bitch I would be done already but then what happened when after my dad was like I start looking at my mom was compassion here. I'm GonNa just have the worst rest of her life right. I right so I it really got a ton more therapy and better therapy but then I found out dude like the anger is big. I know I know everyday well. I know it's covering sadness grandma yeah basic and grief about just dreams come true or such things that it and maybe even over childhood. That wasn't perfect right that I didn't have the mother. I wanted her father. I wanted <hes> none of us really get what we now want to get enough right right so I think until we feel from our childhood sad then we're Kinda screwed yeah. Did you always WANNA do comedy. Is that was sort of real. It was like a weird thing Tiv on a try at thirty the thirty yeah oh I'm GonNa do that and if I suck I'm not going to do anymore like I just wanted to try it right. I didn't WanNa be the person who never did it. Yeah and then it started feeling very not joyless but it didn't have that spark the post to write and it was like look at my Keller and go guy complaining you know and it's like but that's not in my heart anymore. So I'm so glad that now I could for the most part look in the calendar. Go ooh cute. That's nice ice like I wanted to like. How did you one was what was the Aha moment like I want to sound like Oprah boy? I wanted to go in that direction of doing storytelling Yeah Helping People on coaching people like what. I don't think there's a whole moments. It's all a frigging bulls. Yeah I guess what it is looking like. I was taking a workshop once a CR- Apollo about life changes or whatever and he said well didn't Byron Katy at that thing where it dawned on her when she saw the moth climbing up the wall Paul.

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"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

09:27 min | 1 year ago

"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

"Like you throw everything out there you cannot be afraid and that's what i told myself even doing this with you this has been great but you know i stop telling myself there's actually a couple of months ago but for for the first few months i was saying you know this is really stupid why do i have lisa laughing ellie right that's my life coach why am i doing this shit was like why why am i doing this why is she doing this my own question like an i wouldn't miss it if like we couldn't talk for a week right right right hand i would start using the things that we talked about like in real situations you know stuff came up today with my mom yeah the same thing how she always because i'm that guy us solve all the problems and dive in on you know mr plan of action she uses that to like make me she likes to get me flustered and make me think everything is emergency right 'cause i think he's like addicted to that inner self and she tried pulling that today and i actually thought about it and was able to quell the situation he recognize what she was doing even though she did not recognize it right because really where you're job is to change her you just change you and you've been doing that for months now it's very impressive you know again you're never one that i look in the book and dread you know i it's very interesting to me i'm starting to figure out what my line has to be on why i do i dread this certain person in do i really need and energy sock in my life as a client yeah we wanna help people but you're not one of those people could i think it's actually i enjoy forward motion like i really liked it you do you're work so is anything including that i do differently for you anything that i asked up wizar hurt your feelings right off not for me personally but i do wanna give you a critique yeah yeah yeah about how you handle me at all could you are awesome okay there's no doubt anybody out there listening better no this is not bullshit i thought at first that lisa lamp finale is how could she be serious you are the most professional serious life coach slash i'm gonna say therapists the i've ever see wow i really believe it but here's my critique of you and i think this plays off of what you just said about energy sucking and all that i feel that you have a problem and i could be completely wrong but i do think you problems saying i'm not saying no enough you're you're like you gotta help every yes you get yourself sick and everything i didn't like it is you're koji is you're student whatever you gotta call call me i didn't like that i don't like that and i'm not kissing yes i really mean that i thought long and hard about what's my critique you that's my critique you better you better coach yourself and start saying noticed shit like my oldest son does yes you can't help everybody but you can help a lot of people just by doing what you're doing now but you don't have to help everybody personally lisa you can't do that people are gonna take advantage of you including myself and you know though i'm always go with the flow oh yeah i what do i do i i'm gonna tell you this publicly you dropped me tonight and it's awesome because you've helped me all the way so and i know that day's coming or it could even be where where every six months you're like hey you know for the hell of it i'm gonna call equate might die by you are not obligated in any way shape or form i'm say that publicly right now so but then i hope you feel the same way with other people that i know are taking advantage of the fact that you wanna save everybody well this is a very good critique you're right because i do tend to think i haven't quote unquote haven't done enough i was even talking i was being coached today in my class and i was saying you know what am i done enough why can't i just sit around sometimes and it's like oh you're you're bringing up exactly right and actually you know what i like to guys my women are a little better at you know saying emotions on their mind but guys learn an women from wayne did when i was sick and whatnot you'd be like i hope you're doing okay and if there's anything i can do and this and that people like to be checked on even if they seem super strong so me i come off his tough and strong and that was very nice of you that was totally cool an what you said tonight really makes my day because the point is yes i can help some people i can't help everybody and i can pick and choose just like i would comedy gigs in the past like i am now storytelling event i'm just picking and choosing so thank you sometimes we just need to hear it so that's back you interviewed a steak is that is true i feel the same i bet you so many people out there feel the same thing as you just said i love it once in a while when somebody just shows a little they care you know what i mean yeah yeah so that's awesome yeah i think we social media now and every people pay their friends and their you know what i mean but there's no like human support i think that's why this coaching thing has been fabulous and by the way anybody doubts the coaching cannot work over the phone fame coaching the phone is forget that i i i for some reason i only do over the phone i don't wanna do skype i don't wanna look at anybody i don't wanna have them looking at me without makeup i have no doubt i start crying and shit sometimes i don't i think it adds weird layer and sometimes i think also 'cause i am better listener on the phone 'cause i've focused a hundred percent that i think that works so a you know i love this and who knows wayne i may find a way to help people on a bigger scale a more at the same time who knows i'm starting actually a coaching group on line and also one in person then i'm like a group that's cute and then have some individual clients that i like and just to a really moving forward like as master so thank you for you're very kind critique an thank you for anything in europe show keep me posted oh yeah in wayne by the way guys listening out there winking monotone i workshops is called when it's time to change in your great because you participated your emotional vulnerable and men out there don't be worried i only guy there i'm bell then what am i good friend dr brought so i brought him to that yeah we are women and i learned a lot because i did not know that women worry about being seen crying yeah the same way guys do i never thought that i never looked at that was just i won't even get into it but i learnt so much there and it was pretty interesting to go and really share your feelings with with this group of women 'cause i thought it was gonna be stupid i'm kind of like she's a blue collar guy felt really stupid walking into a workshop right but even though you killed it yeah and you're buddy don who who came with you he said he might think are becoming a coach himself and i'm like oh this is so cool that people actually opened up a specially guys because even the food and body image stuff by doing workshops men struggle with that to like you said you lost fifty pounds that's a big deal so i my biggest my biggest problem was the seriously eating i i could not i cannot tell you how bad it was like ten thousand calories and the sitting well i i couldn't believe well my doctor was so amazed by the change she can't believe it oh i love man went back then those layer yeah yeah in a fix yourself and finding you you wanna be you know and listen life i you know i say to people now they're like how you do it i'm like you know i'm really happy i'm really grateful i'm really thankful even one terrible shift is happening exactly stuff's gonna happen right it's how you deal with you gotta look at the good thing all right next stop wayne goes what i'm gonna do when we start back on i coach of the year next thing next week here's you're homework for next week i wanna step by step plan for you meet and the girl 'cause i'm sick and tired of you not getting late should i am i'm tired of my oh grows okay i know i love you man will talk next week and thank you god bless you wait thanks for calling in god bless you my buddy.

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"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

15:44 min | 1 year ago

"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

"Not going to like you'll never see me post a photo of me at a relative's funeral next to the coffin exactly you know if that's what you need to get better okay whatever but that's not me not me well that's what i was gonna ask to which could they do maybe that's why i asked you that 'cause i feel like they're really genuine and a lot of posting forced from other people i'm like really that happy but i really get that you are so i have a question do you feel sometimes like do you ever get out of bed and you're just kind of not feeling funny that day and you're just like you know what i'm not really happy today yeah there's there's a these seventy pound pit bull diego 'em he wakes us up at seven thirty every morning he does he wants to be fed and he wants to go on his walk as it does like if i was out till two am three am doing that's been booze in the night before air right he's up at that time right and so i get up and yet sometimes in those scenarios i need to really like i kind of have to i'm not in a good mood and i'm not gonna anything and i'm right in when that happens the good part is is whether it be stand up nights i don't wanna do stand up or whether it be nights i don't wanna get up when i get up on stage tell tell some jokes when i get up and walk my dog it's good like i'm usually always happy when i walk my dog and going on while you it's eight o'clock in the morning i've gotten three hours of sleep i don't wanna do this and i walked the dog and i go oh this is great yeah this is awesome right i love all of his dog you know you get the walk rockets exercise gets endorphins going or whether it's the late show on saturday and i've already done five and i'm just like i'm done and then i do the late show and i go oh yeah this is fun so it's basically taking action makes everything better yeah i mean it sounds cheesy but all those things with the long journey is being on the single stepper object emotion to understand motion and it's true it once you start doing it and you'll get a little momentum going and the hardest part is to get moving once you do then it sort of artist stop moving you kinda you kinda get into the flow of days 'cause i always tell myself like when when when i wake up take the dog for a walk and i've had three hours asleep i go okay ticked off or walk he'll take just don't go back i'll go back to bed right i i never never do right i ever do is up now things are going good seeing me and now i'm good like so it's it's weird but yes sometimes i do you know way wake i'm not happy but it's interesting now i almost feel like this pressure because especially the last few days there there there's been multiple they've told me like brad you're always goes happy you're all you're all is in a good mood and i go oh wow is that like i think it's good i mean it's great let's be opposite of that but it's like now i'm like wait do i have to always be that person now who's always in a good mood right what do you think i feel like there are certain people a my wife my family certain friends that will see me in a bad mood sometimes we'll see how upset now but there's other people i still wanna see the the the best advice i ever got this is all right v vh vices morbid is okay okay sorry i'm not allowed to say that again morbid as hell but i'll explain it sure the best advice i ever got within the improv comedy clubs where someone told whether it be an improv or in life just remember this one thing nobody cares about you know and like i sat down terrific explain what that means is like it was meant to be an improv teaching where where when you're so when you're head like oh my god i i didn't mean that line writer that line wasn't funnier i should have something here are moving in the wrong place is not care do not care they are so amazed at you're up there without a script without any sort of that you're they're amazed and they're putting themselves in your position and they're like i would not be able to do that they did not notice you're fluff and that's true in life as a metaphor for life as well when people say like oh my god if i wear these shoes these people don't judge me because they're not the right shoes and everyone's in nobody cares nobody cares right they don't care all my god is why you know i i i can't go the same a restaurant twice in a week right now though horrible no nobody cares she i've been to the same chilies twice a day so there you go right 'cause we've all done that gig and demoines really closed along with odell but yeah it it it it it it it something where i try to remember that is that yes obviously people do care about you you're you're you're true friends you're family you're you're safe and some others they will care about you they will move heaven and earth and if you're ever going through a problem please please please reach out to them because they will help you write what nobody cares about you you're supposed to mean it's just these little things in life that we all get hung up on in the end we're living loss angeles relief i love and loss angeles where images everything in the town buddy again they're all worried about them that and what it you know it's interesting the people who say brad you're always in a good mood i would venture to say those are probably people who and this what happened this happened a lot after i lost weight overweight people would be like you look so much better when you were bad and i'm like why did they why stay sick for them yes so it's almost like the people who probably say that you're the one who kind of are in a bad mood and wanna know you're secret but i don't when i had the ball in the guts to say right how do i get as happy as you well in in its that little bit of shot and freud where we always we liked seeing people fail yeah like we like this whole laurie laughlin and felicity hoffman who you you sd thing yeah in my personal opinion sure they they were cheating the system but this is something that's been happening since the dawn of time where i rich people do things to give their kids in avantage guy in there these things are done at a micro level is well when when the when the father who's the baker leaves the bakery to his son well the defendant earned that right right but right he gets it begins family okay like that's just everyone does it they've all or everyone does in some way perform in what they did you could make an argument that it kinda hurt people take it took a spot from somebody but i dunno yeah they didn't hurt anybody they didn't murder anybody they take money away from anybody like and if in fact he was going to get new u s c and they took their spot they would have gotten into a you cla they would have got another great school and the right that kid's gonna be fine yeah yeah oh like i don't even know where i'm going with this but a you know just people wanting for you to get down now but now we have this john for we were all looking at troy hadi's rich people going to jail right i feel better about myself right i'm not rich and i'm not in jail so okay now feel good don't that's that's that's been healthy attitude where where you're looking at those people in hoping that they fail where you look at the celebrity in you know where we know this is comics but when you would tell people that you're a comic and that you're happy that you're doing you're live there there's that person always goes you travel i'll tell you what they have to bring something up that's wrong yeah yeah so much so hard now it's well well well it's we that's gotta be so hard don't you how much do you hate when people people say and you may may not hate this at all yeah there's a fine line with someone in your position who you could say they would look at you with pity yeah now that's kind of feel or maybe it does it does it feel insulting for instance i'll folly one is i don't know preview however once in a while you'll posts something with the dog something a little tyran my i yeah and i said oh this moves me you'll say something cute and then moves me yeah so i said to a friend once again i pity brad at i just kind of get moved myself and that's fine don't worry you're not doing it do you ever have you ever been on the receiving end of oh so well for your status oh yeah how how does that feel to you just so people know now laugh really do you think that it's very it's very silly 'cause i know what they're doing is they're trying to do the thing that we talked about where they're trying to be like he's doing good for him yes yes yes noon yeah yeah but i'm doing better it's like here's my thing is if the midget is doing better than you that's more on you yeah yeah yeah them like that like that's a so it's amazing what some people will think in in in terms of like some because they are not a little person they don't know what it's like i've always been a little person i don't know what my struggles are because i never mhm living my the six foot two man like i don't know what i'm missing right so one thing that i thought was funny is one time i pulled up the freeway and there was a guy you gotta sign a dog with them any money whatever and i had some i have some dollars like right bears out but though a roll down the window i held up the money the guy walked over samia went now man no man you need it oh my god and i was like wow i went by driving a whole anyway so it's just really disconnect is like always yeah rv african american person we're prejudice but it's almost like not even looked at it that bad except if you're on the receiving end if you're like i don't know maybe i'm i'm good i i have a house payment with jokes yet and i i got a hot asian wife and the cutest dog is yeah right my life is good you don't have the pity me like when when you see me on airplane throwing my bag open open your it's george been by by climbing up on me armrest i'll be like really good oh my god this whose life is so hard in a couple of things that bothered me but overall yeah life is good in i think that a it's like an i'm also this guy that like i i look at a lot of people for we seem to be in a culture where people are striving to be a victim and they're they're they're they're trying they're they they almost have 'em they're almost like jealous of the people that are truly victims like oh my god i'm not a victim they say this and everyone's giving up all the attention i have to find out what my thing is in.

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"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

13:01 min | 1 year ago

"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

"My wife would not even care always ninety withdrawal we encourage it see the kind of person i i completely probably misjudged judge you in a way because you timmy are terrific you i think to myself all the time brad williams is an icon because he probably doesn't have a care in the world because of that how i look i probably you probably have just as many issues with anybody else but you were so genuinely fun and nice and cool then i'm like just random any struggle but do you ever struggle sure but a i i also subscribe to be like even if you're going through some stuff which we're all going through stuff one of the some greater some last whatever i described the you you you kind of trick yourself into being happy you can even put a smile on your face you in a they nice things like m all i walk around my house constantly be like wow got a great house here how that got a hot wife got a dog on what you're dog's name again yego he ain't got seventy pound the ball now do you weigh less than your dog well man a way one twentyone twenty two now the reason if you don't know brad is and why would way so little yeah he is actually the proper name is now a classic some little people wow that is really along word for short stature stage or firm is the one the one that is not just politically correct but what people who are door enjoy being called the least offensive term is little person yeah if you call this little people that's good but then i'm weird i don't like it for me like what do you like better i like did you mentioned anymore and that's what i grew up with it it's like a blast freer past you know it's like folger's coffee sure it's not great but you grew up with it rolled on point unless folders a sponsor in which in which we love we maxwell house yeah but but yeah so you don't take a big fan at these terminology to me it's all about intent because if someone's driving a pickup truck rolls down the window and says persian of shorts it's like you know what i mean like still bad for me it's all about intent so i have a friend who is transgender and be really mad at now she lee dj okay i like that instead of he or she beat a i'm gonna start using the f but it's either z or their name which in this case this morning but i'm not giving a last name so it's fine so a marnie born a woman a but now has transitioned into something in the middle right but a wet morning always tells me is if you make a mistake with a pronoun or name it's fine 'cause i know you care about me and i know you're not trying to hurt me and i think that's a healthy attitude for pizza people have a if someone says a term a that's not a two year liking like oh you're you're you're a janitor i'm a i'm a domestic cleaner of joe you are you are you talking about like right like it's not now i feel like there's all these people that are ubs asked over titles and names and words and phrases and this defensive this is not this and it's just like let's just go free intention let's go intention if the person is trying to hurt you yes what they're saying is incredibly offensive if you tell them what you wanna be called and they still are doubling down but in her for what yes that's but if they're generally try if they're right crying right to just be nice and your friend and meet good then maybe pump the brakes a little bit on right and that's what i tried to admit it i don't mind the word if you say dwarf little person midget i'm fine with it as long as you're a good human we have a good relationship and a yet the comic have you ever you know we all as comics i used to draw you walk a fine line you know somebody once said about my comedy she's juggling knives and even the handles are sharp you know it was a really hard line yeah you as someone who in your whole areas you literally i don't see any comics dude i could care less but you every time you're anywhere near me up oh were going i'm so honored by the i can't even with you you're so funny thank you do you ever hear from people saying while something you said hurt not in my stand back people in because it and i don't know if you've had this i i've i felt a lot a lot of comics that there's a lot of comics when were talking to non comedians civilians whatever you want use that word we don't turn the comedian part of a non were hanging out at the comedy store or the seller or or wherever and we're just talking with other comedians were saying the worst possible to each other right in using the most politically incorrect languaging going for the messed up jokes that everyone's gonna laugh but then we have to turn that off around people that are used that kind of language that is where i need to improve that's where i've always needed to improve for instance of my wife and i do not have a safe word for sex we have a safe word for hey brad 'em no light side wrong right now whatever topic you're on a she says the word cephalopod and then i go i'm writing that down 'cause that's good work thank you yeah it is a type of mollis it's crazy in the perfect way yes what does so when she says that i go okay i needed switch topics right now i did not push this any further i mean you do have respect for that yeah oh how difficult in that to stop that discussion in its tracks sometimes very hard because sometimes i feel like i'm on a roll times i'm making a point sometimes i think i'm i've just made the best joke ever that's about to go into my act and then i hear that word i'm like but you have to respect i think that's the purpose of they word of a they say for that's supposed to do that the same way they were abused protects if someone says if you're safe word is barney rubble whenever you say barney romeo by choke him a little harder save or what have you back so yeah and to her credit i have used have used the safe word is well a when when talking about certain topics certain issues but i i think that's a good thing in a healthy thing that we've kind of stumbled upon and our relationship is a safe word not the sex but it's eight four four conversation where we go hey not comfortable this conversation anymore or i need to take a break ernie like gather myself when we come back and do you sometimes then come back to it and when everybody down a notch yeah yeah yeah and it also helps when were out in public and a i'm around other people there's civilians or maybe my wife's friends and i start making jokes and i don't see that they're uncomfortable she's like reading their eyes and she's known forever so she's like oh god and then she liked squeeze my wrist this alert salvant and i'm like oh okay okay i'll back off now wife you know how long ago you meant you meant a four years ago for his yet for years ago and you're married a year and a half okay so do you legitimately feel like this is the first relationship you've had that you feel like a real team yeah yeah really evolved relationship when you're gonna have a freaking word to say hey i respect you enough to stop tanya right now and it's a team that we have very defined roles in terms of what we are in charge of what we do is yours like cooking maker owns the rainbow kind of relationship rambo curator no a you know my my my job is mostly a bring home the bacon yeah that that that's my job and then her job is you know she runs the house right and that's fine but sometimes i feel bad because like she's got a degree in psychology like right she she she's been a behavioral therapist she shouldn't be out helping people she hasn't gary in the words of liam neeson particular set of skills right as a i feel like sometimes i'm denying her of that but she's happy with she's like oh no i like being home no good i've always had the like when i say she's a behavioral therapist but those you don't know that is that i mean she wasn't work was autistic children enron programs with them and try to get the more like just they they have routines where they can function in in in the normal world or they can gain their independent right slowly but surely and she would do that but at the same time like it's really hard job sometimes sometimes with the stick people is that sometimes he would be hit some time she would be yelled that talked to and sometimes the parents of the kids who are some of the worst sometimes 'cause they want their child will be cured and advocate tastic you're not gonna be your degree out you know so she would deal with that and she she would come home some days when she was working in just be she would need a moment like schefter come in and be like i'm gonna go to the room i'm gonna have both scotch and then come out be a good wife right but a yeah so she's happy she she's happy that she gets to do that eight a domestic got it but she is so you guys had sort of had this discussion and said look this is what's gonna make us happiest let's do it also because because of her as much as a behavioral therapist does to enrich the world in in light in the world and make the world better doesn't mind yeah it's a sad thing right thing is how when you're like you're doing so much like she should make way more money than me right right but when i could say like hey i'm at and this is just a fact i'm not saying this next statement to be a dick it's just a fact but when i could make yearly salary in a weekend absolutely that like why are you going through all this stress at three four days a week come home and you're gone and we know each other as much and i'm already gone so much doing my job that when i'm home you know it'd be nice to have you more available like it just didn't make any logistical skull sense right now right if she wants to go back and do that or or or be a substitute teacher or a or a special circumstance teacher then that's great i would support that but for right now as we're getting sort of are domestic live together in place but it's just sort of the rule the roles i'd have worked out for us to the end yeah every couple of us have their own rules you know and that roles like you a hold of you and you're thirty five you're thirty five which is like seventy two in war you did very well i'll i'll tell you what you're gonna get this guy he is very good you don't do you ever okay i'll let you post on instagram and i love them he's from some foreign country and i'm like oh my god this guy traveled so much you look like you're having fun but not in that way of look everyone i'm having fun yeah looks legitimately real how would you say it's hundred percent how you're life really is i try not to post anything like where i'm not genuinely excited or also i was told this when i started comedy and a and this goes against the the teachings of hannah gatsby but a i was always taught hey you're comedian you're job is to make people smile and laugh right is your job right so dance monkey you know what i mean like like that's what where's that that's her job that and that's what we're supposed to do on there's been many times when when when when i wonder going social media in expressing anger over a political thing or a personal thing or whatever and then i just go that's not what people are not following me for that reason they're following me yeah or happiness right i'm there scape so i don't i don't want someone who's been following me it'd be like man my life is really hard but brad williams always makes me laugh and now i'm making them cry or i'm making them stabber i'm like i don't wanna do that people so yes whenever i post something it is genuine for that post but yeah where the the times when i'm that i'm.

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"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on 77WABC Radio

77WABC Radio

04:47 min | 1 year ago

"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on 77WABC Radio

"Lance would cover it right here on the dot and so when we left Lisa Lisa Lampanelli the brilliant comedian last US me you said your mom you Jewish does she puts food on you yeah it was your mom a food pusher because obviously I've dealt with weight and food supplement is a medallion but my Jewish friend Margie last week said Jewish mothers of the same the wars and the grandmothers are even more so my mom was when it like that when I was very skinny as as Monica was very skinny are you must have a lot of friends everyone hates you is that why you're so bye for now is that it's like no no no yeah this because what if you're podcast I was on healthy skinny most of my life and I was bullied as a young man a poly prep in Brooklyn and it really bothered me and I spent a lot of years a big hug myself I mean I have a million reasons why I lack self esteem to be honest I have a million more why I should have it but I've got a million way don't I'm very similar to how it in that respect right and it was something that really bothered me so I started to work out hard when I hit my mid life crisis in my mid forties ten years ago I don't look like this right but my midlife crisis combined with the with a lifetime of feeling less than physically and marital gorgeous girl by the way put me in the gym but I am now six days a week wow so do you feel like better about yourself or did it did it does the outside match the insides now better that's good is when you were starting to feel like worthy and like your enough and that Lee you are where you're supposedly not totally yeah because they say everybody's too big fears are it comes down to I'm not enough and I'll never be locked and even if we have people in our life we love us you know and we know they do like your wife for some reason logic the world's great mysteries I mean you're on WABC this is not a big deal performer Bernie that's horrible she looks at you compared to him it could be a lot worse I know you're gonna love that when you're that what yeah what's the outside certain immensely inside it kind of feels one of them well what what you're working on it I'm a work in progress with C. in you know what I love I'm not a so you have to understand everything for me is more difficult what you don't understand well get food addict everything but I always felt more sorry for drug and alcohol addicts because just that chemical involved that just set you off I mean I don't know how you quit anything that's a real big deal so I hope you sometimes go I'm glad I did that and I'm proud of myself because you achieved a lot certainly not by being on they should not alcohol and drugs because if I was on the show I be drunk every effeminate understand I like doing but I do appreciate that and I do try to help you don't going quick before we wrap this up I got into trouble with a not one of the twelve steps one of the twelve on what he calls a grievance what was fine number eleven is is it it's not an agreement right number eleven is basically if you're famous you shouldn't talk about rifles right because if god forbid you're already lying for example yeah and if I can we have a prison every week people think the program doesn't work right why don't I talk about the program and and I've had people come in today that said to be safe I was scared to death I would never do it but when I heard you talk about it you inspired me to come in and I've got a lot of success stories so why these like vicious arguments in a day with the people in charge of your every day you'll get you'll go against eleven the men the whatever's saving lives what's more important I agree and if you yourself could look in America in the dance and I did the right thing that's all you have to answer to remember years ago share said I answer to people that myself and god yeah well said you don't even believe in god because I only say you continue and you know we did the right thing like so many people keyboardist of secret how's it going to help anybody the kids during my shows I talk all about the weight loss surgery all about how hard it is to not emotionally gate you making funny you make it accessible to people not everybody's going to get dragged into a meeting but they might end up there right you know exactly right did you ever go to a meeting because it's just funny that fat people talk now okay it's money she goes on these days I'm just kidding everybody thought it was really that that's a hard issue all as you know you can't quit food cold Turkey at all although now that I mention I'm hungry for Turkey right and stuffing this is for me to do today thank you you're welcome to twelve tradition for people that are you go talk to people that do want to.

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"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

09:51 min | 1 year ago

"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

"That seeks and hopes to help everyone out there and if not, well, what are you going to do some of you just can't take it, it is time for a segment. I like to call coach the coach in which actual real life coaching alliance. Call up and tell me what I do. Right. What I do wrong and what I can improve see. I'm fearless. I could take some frigate criticism. Who do we got? Do we have Patty, I'm shoe? Hi Patty, I re-. Hey, how you doing? Good. How are you? Good Patty, I'm so grateful that you appear on my show. I would love to hear what detail you would like to go into any level is fine as much or as little as you want to share. Can you tell the audience what United been working on? Well you and I have been working on a lot to do with relationships now. Not with significant others, but with friends, family members co workers, just I've things come up, we address them, and you kind of walk me through them yet, you know, that's interesting. Because originally you and I connected during a food and body image workshop that I did in Connecticut, and it's interesting how a lot of the food and body stuff is always the stuff that's on the outside, but it's really covering what's on the inside. So would you say that kind of even though you came to coaching with? Hey, I wanna lose weight it kind of morphed into something else. Yes. Well, first of all, it was the excitement of eagle to meet you in person. And then once I realized you were serious about it. You been. You've been a wonderful coach. Yeah. It's funny because a lot of people were, like, is this part of some weird stunt you're doing so I would still. No. You don't just retire from a career and make a stunt career move. So I'm glad you gave me a shot. And like you took a very seriously. But what I like about you, too, is even during the food and body image workshop, you may have shown up for glimpse of the celebrity Lisa lampien Ellie, but you really, really were vulnerable. You really worked on yourself. And you kind of fearlessly said, what was really on your mind? So I think that was a great start to a coaching relationship. It's like having a dream client. I will thank you. You're are so welcome the check has cleared. Now, do you feel like since what's been sort of the best and the worst part of life coaching? The best part has been learning things. About myself that I it wasn't that I wasn't aware of. But just thought that I had better under control than I did. Yeah. And the worst part is keeping the commitment to continue to do this. Right. Like once I made the commitment that was it every week. I have to show up past couple of weeks have been a little crazy because of my schedule, but pretty much consistently every week speak to you. Yeah. And you've been one of the few who have really been like making progress every week. And I know that's part of the ego thing that I have to work on. I have to work on that I'm somehow worthy, only if my clients make big changes that's really none of my business. It's really just to be a light, or a window for you guys to see what you need to work on, but I mean, you really show up for yourself and I applaud that it's really hard to do that. And also, I find, too, for some reason Patty, even though we both present. Kinda tough chicks. I know you have a big mushy, heart, and that sort of why maybe you don't frustrate me because this is a she's a mushy went down there. I mean there are some that present as tough who were really tough. And I'm like, oh, that's frustrating. But you just seem to get what you need to do to move forward and you go in with the homework and you do it and you are my encouragement. Wow. I like being encouraging not threatening because I know some people who coach are like I'm scared to not do my homework, and that's not really ever gonna last. It's gonna I know it's because I talked to them, not as well as I should. I get frustrated. I say, you know, dude, you're really frustrating. I don't know what I'm supposed to do to help you and it's like, wait a minute. You're not supposed to help them. They're supposed to help themselves. But with you, I don't know it somehow comes off, as more encouraging, and I feel 'cause you actually put the hours. In because I given you a lot of homework and tough things in you've done them. Yes, I guess you. Is there anything in coaching that you felt resistant to doing, I think looking at yourself can bring up feelings of? Oh, no, you know, I'm good. I, I don't eat a look at that. But since since they made the commitment to do this with you. It, it doesn't seem to make sense to me to waste time. So although I may not like what you suggest that I do open enough and willing enough to say, let's give it a try right? Right. And you know what I do like that? You give it all the college dry. I remember when we were first talking you thought your big issue was that you had one room in your house that you had to clean out because it was like it wasn't a hoarding situation. It just wasn't pretty, and I think after a few weeks, it just became clear, let like it's no big deal. Like I have one room. I it's almost having like. One part of ourselves that we don't like, and it's not killing us, and we're not hurting anybody. So we're not going to work on that yet. And I like that you had that self awareness to go, you know what? Let's just let that go for now. And a lot of I didn't beat you up for that because I'm like, no urine adult. You get to make that decision. Right. And you and you will just should we hang up. I have it written down in front of me on my Jess figures this weekend. I would have cleaned it guards, the expression. I'm not ready yet. Yeah. Yeah. Very free. Yeah. Isn't it interesting? How just knowing you're not ready is fine. You know. Yes, there are limits. If we're an abusive relationship, or we are, you know, with dating an addict, or we're a drunk ourselves like we gotta go okay time to pull the plug. Nobody's going to ever be ready, but we have to force it. It's one damn room Yang ready yet, and I accept that's where you are. And I think that's where coach might fail in that go, why? But why, but why aren't you ready? Guess what? Who she freaking hurt, and with her collection, a coach bags that she could sell on EBay. Come on. That's that's true. It's true. So if there's anything that I could change and make myself better anything I could work on. You know, I can take it. What would that be? I'm not afraid to hear it. You know, I it my experience with you. It just has really been so positive that you're straightforward you're to the point. You. Gentle when you need to be gentle. I think like you said a little bit before about working on ego. Like, you know whether I change, or not it's got nothing to do with. Right. Right. You know, it's my process and so I think, you know, knowing you, you have no control over another person's actions. But I think that comes with time, right? Otherwise, I got no complaints about you girl workshop with me, and my boss, and my boss. Ooh, that's not really what happens in workshops people. But I think it did. Because I like are now I eight sometimes we learned from my one of my other clients called in a different show, and they were like you do use the c word a lot. When we coach I said, that's because I like you see it's almost like Don Rickles thing, where if I make funny I love you. And sometimes it seeps into real life. So please tell me if I need to make amends to your friend, and I will. But I doubt that that's necessary. No, she loved it while panty. Seriously? Man. I love you. I said before, if I give up my coaching practice, I think last time I said, there's two people I'd keep. I'm going to add you as my third. So how's that bitch? You thank you know, you're amazing all night. Now I'm going think all night. How come not never what? Oh, shoot because you didn't call this third. Talk about your the third caller. See it all works out now. But seriously, thank you, Patty for being so open and. Working on yourself. I love you doing. We'll talk next week every good. Have a good one. Okay. Bye. Bye. Bye. What did we learn? Well, clearly we've learned.

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"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

12:31 min | 1 year ago

"lisa lampanelli" Discussed on Let Lisa Help with Lisa Lampanelli

"What you really want is the feeling and the confidence of being thirty pounds less so working on the feeling is so much better like Wayne Dyer at this great book on. He said in it. Okay. You don't want the million dollars. You want the feeling of having a million, which is safe secure supported proud guest. And I'm like, oh, so it's not really just about the money or the weight. It's about rights. I thought for the reality, I my, my big motivator, these days, I've noticed probably in the last week or so that I have been making healthier choices. And I was trying to figure out what my a ha moment was or what was causing me to have a behavior change. And I think I started realizing before I ate, everything I was like, would you rather eat that? Or would you rather have? Chest. See that's YouTube. That's really big. Wow. So it's motivating me that way, where if I eat this. I got a probably I got to work that off before I can get surgery. So are you saying I can have a justify eat better? I'm saying you should have a couple carrots. Instead a couple. Oh my God. I just got him by. Of which I have a couple people who these questions might be up your alley. You might be able to help them. And hey, I might even be able to weigh in sure these are from fans of mine, who feel I am some sort of alive. Coach K actually might be able to get some free. Hell, Batum basement, the free help. I know and they always flatter me. That's what I like the first sentence. Always, you're so great. Hi, lisa. First off. I love your work. Your Larry is okay. There we go. And huge inspiration to me. My question is, I heard you talk about LGBT I am bisexual. How does one open up more about it and not be afraid to talk about it now that is a fantastic question, because I don't know. I am going to go. Schultz. Gotta tell you bisexual out there. How you get your words around it. Seriously? It sounds like any big announcement to anyone, whether they're in a family that's racist. And they're bringing home a black girl. Right. Any huge announcement is big, but this is a biggie. Oh, yeah. So how did you from your own? What did it take to get you to open up? I think it was just a, some point there was a moment where I just couldn't live hiding a secret that big anymore. I felt like I was losing my relationship with my family and friends by making up stories and it wasn't like I wanted to lie to them. It was just for my safety or my mental sanity, because I didn't I wasn't ready to have to deal with this big quote problem if there was going to be one. I think I there was a moment where it was worth the risk my sanity it was worth having if I can only have one I needed my sanity, even if my family didn't accept me. Wow. I love that which isn't a like a great answer. Because it's like I hope fifty. Fifty chance. But the fact is you nobody ever has to say, who they are who they're having sex with what they're doing in their bedroom. The problem is when you're no longer comfortable with the pain Wilson Phillips said in that classic. Hold on. Because if you're comfortable with the pain, you're not going to change. But like you said you couldn't live with the lie. Yeah. And even if it was alive you weren't saying outwardly and you weren't even if you didn't even have boyfriends girlfriends. It's like you just wanted to be who you were and say it out loud. Well luckily for me when I came out as gay, I kind of I'm actually really lucky that in my family, I'm one of probably ten LGBT people. So I had gotten to watch some other people get the the rough questions. And then by the time it was my turn. I you know, people were a little more lax about it. So that helps where I was like the risk isn't as high anymore because I'm, I'm one of many, I'm not like on my own. Which is another big part to answer that question is, if you find common people like you, you, you don't feel alone anymore. One of the biggest problems, I think a lot of people have on their discovering their identities is that they feel like they're alone because who do you talk to without the fear of them telling everybody before you're ready? All right. So I think a lot of people feel like they don't have a community to fall back on. So sometimes may be an answer to this question is sometimes find the a support group or a therapy group or just a free just a friend of or one friend, who you can just say out loud to it almost get easier every time it's it does. It's, it's always hard to say it out loud at first, but you start caring less about people's opinions because you've already got a backup. I remember when I came out as gay to my friends, I came out to who I thought might be the guest of my friends, I was also closeted. Right. Hoping that we would come out to each other. And then we would have each other when we were coming out to other people. And so I kind of started asking an advanced a couple of months before my friend's opinions on how liberal, they were that we kind of had an idea of, who I could come out to I, so I would have a nice community to tell the people that I thought might take it harder. That's really great. And you know it's almost like if you wanna try anal sex, okay. You should start small. I would've adver I'd hoped state exam. And then you go for the goose star with pinky. And yet I don't know how it works. It is interesting, like you have to almost warm-up truly. No, you're an athlete, you definitely want to rely on people that, you know, we're going to be there for you. So that way when you're talking to the people that you can't really guarantee that with you still don't feel alone at the end and, you know, what's interesting then when somebody doesn't get you, quote unquote. Yeah. Will still hurt. And that's what the thing is Mr. Phoenix, Arizona, who were talking to guess. What? It'll still be sad. They don't get it right. And they'll you'll still feel like it's a loss because I kind of change as loss in it. But you'll feel the grief you'll stop crying someday, and you'll go. Oh, thank goodness. I have who I do have because he's really alone. No, nobody is. I think people are just afraid to I don't even know if they're afraid I think everyone just doesn't know who they can reach out to, to find out that they're not alone. Right. Right. Well, you know what I would like to Pat myself on the back? Okay. Here we go. I have avoided making so many gay jokes for the last forty five I've seen. You. You guys have to realize lease lip and Ellie did comedy for thirty one years. Plus, I have a plethora of gay friends, and we all call each other crazy names. And guess what I've been really well behaved? I wanted to say you're truly a life coach and I've evolve your very much joining the rainbow crusade here. I have another question great. This is from Jason. If it's this is actually a very well, written letter, and it's very funny. So I we must read it. But it is very big issue. Okay. I'm sitting on my in my beige colored cubicle with beige walls snagging on something that was supposed to be celestial chicken from our cafeteria that somehow looks beige to match my inner self. Oh, wow. Via writer. Yeah. If I could use a tangible object to my insides are a bulky scratchy beige sweater, that seems to never fit right now. Everything's bathed. Yes, it was Qismat because I also had weight loss surgery and lost one hundred seventy eight pounds and four years later. I've gained a ton back with the addition of a layered, Tirumala, sue of emotional issues, and trauma, that have sent me spiraling back into my insecure gay destructive chunky self the question is, how did you navigate the road blocks, either in dealing with leftover emotional layers that were difficult to shake off after your surgery? Now. That's the thing we all had these layers that we've put fat on top of now. All of us spoke Malaga with Wade issues. You're have layered or issues with food with fat to protect ourselves. And when I had the weight loss surgery, Jason I personally was like, okay, those are working on that emotional crap now, so I don't gain it back so smart. But dude, it's still like comes up every once in a while. And I gotta go, okay, you're lonely. You're anxious your sad. For whatever reason. Try not to go to the food as it helps you forgive yourself. Yeah. And if you it's just like yesterday, I knew was going to be stressful. I knew I'm going to be flying in. I'm going to be flying with the dog right by the way, with, by the way, it was like five king suitcases big my house, and he doesn't, by the way, bone, one whole suitcases Parker stuff. He doesn't take tranquilizer. So I think this is going to be an emotional trip. So I go, you gotta watch your eating. Because, you know, I know that's the first thing I'm gonna go to right. So I ended up eating that jet blue is the devil. Oh, I have unlimited little bags of snack unlimited, in their all, somehow, delicious. Oh, everyone of, don't expect that from airplanes. But right gently really nails it. Well, here's the problem. They have one of their bevy of snacks is these little chocolate chip cookies, that are so great, and I have seen the eagles of sugar in the last week, because with this weight loss surgery, I personally feel too much sugar. I'm down for the count for about twelve hours bathroom. So I said, okay, I'm gonna I know this is a stressful day. If you need the snacks. It's okay, but no sugar because you know it'll wreck you so I let myself have what I wanted. That's good. I didn't eat the damn cookies. Was it abused win? No. But it was a fifty percent went, I think it was it was good to avoid what I knew would put me down would the perfect person have not eaten snacks. Yes. But guess what? Sometimes you go a mole. National. That's what I'm gonna do today's at different day. Right. So I think what Jason what you need to do is go. What am I using food for, you know, it's PTSD as you know, you know that you have abusive things going on in your past yet. God get to that shrinks office, and, you know, you gotta get a shrink and I know I'm talking to this guy. Jason when I say a smart one who can outsmart and out talk you so good at spinning a tale. I mean, we just listened with the whole beige story. I'm already record in. Yeah. This guy should right? I had a find a shrink, who was so brilliant, because I could talk my way out of any challenges. She would give me this one now. She's like, I'm going to challenge you on that. And I have to listen because I know she's smart, but that's, that's what you need. Yeah. So I think it's so it's funny when people lose weight, or get weight loss surgery. They think their lives are going to change and everything's perfect. And it's like, oh no. They're still problems. And you know, I know this because. Have you ever? Okay. You got the podcast. You're clearly making some money. Okay. You clearly. Well, you know, I'm assuming because of the I'm not Brown that have really crappy. What it is. You see that the happiness wears off. Yeah. And then it's just you it's, it's the, the magic wears off. That's because I was watching it's when it goes right after the surgery, you know, I was like, oh, like there's that magical year of, like, I'll never thought of the hundred pounds in like nine months. It oh my God. Then, eventually you're just like skinny bitch. What guess what happened, then I'm watching Oprah because I'm thinking, oh, my God is back in the days when Oprah was on, and I was like, oh, my gun laying a lost all the way doesn't work stop. Now. Right. And I was watching and thank God. She out on one of the great spiritual leaders of our time. I'm talking, of course about Goldie Hawn. Oh, Goldie said that she had read a study, and this is true on happiness and no matter what you, acquire, whether it's a new house, and new body, and new car, new job, eventually after about nine months wears off, and you just got you and yeah. Outta work on you. And look at as usual Goldie was right. Wow. Wanna say that. We gotta keep doing as well. We advocate don't cut that out because I want people to see 'em flawed. Finally. Something bad. We just got it continue excavating it because by the way, the minute you get though, Jess surgery, a year later, you're gonna be so happy 'cause you're like, oh my God. Now, I have men boobs. Guess what something else is gonna come up, and that's gonna rock, my world, probably? 'cause isn't that evolution isn't that what we need to do is on earth. All that is true to be that happy idiot. Who's out there going? I'm just fine. You're not. He likes you..

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"I believe that, that is an unappreciated. Art, amongst the celebrity folk, I do too. Like, once I texted Jim Carey just to show off. Food rehab didn't hear from him for till three days later. I'm like it's too late. Now. What are you doing? Jim busy painting. Yeah. Need to pay and do singing. Give me a barrage thing is what's so funny with you. I always have to show off to the under the kids under twenty shirt. Oh, they love you to my demo. It is bigger you under twenty still. Regret the beer in China. You know mature myself Raleigh, but stop, thank you. I need it. I'm such a musical theater. Frigging wackadoo as age Stu musical theater as a kid and not only did he do it. I majored in at a performing arts high school. I, I know college didn't you good one. So you where was your performing arts high school in California? Not really New York. I went there six ninth grade. And then I moved to L A and gave up my childhood for Fain love that. And you wanna else I love about you. You're super handsome now, if you will, always were, but you're super in shape, you are super Baath. You are like Mr. freaking I lost my weight, and I kept it off. And a lot of mile listener struggle with food and body image. Because duh that's been my struggle for, you know, fifty something years. Yeah. So what was it about you that said, you know what I gotta get this off? I'm taking it off. And it's going to stay. Well, and I don't mean to do this, because I'm not that guy. But you look incredible I enter than ever be uniform. Look as excuse me, miss Arthur Murray dance how I have become a ballroom dancer. Are you proud? I'm so I'm also proud on double double level because originally when we talked for my pod. What was it last year? You were like I don't like the fitness don't like the movement, no exercise. I don't know what happened. It was magical. And what a great way to a you know, do something love and be just a little cardio with it link welded, you worlds I even used to say, I give food and body image workshops, as you know, big one coming up at cr- Apollo in the Burke, shares in November that was such a long. Yes. But let me tell you something I even said during the workshops, I don't like this movement. And if you don't either, don't worry about it, ladies it'll happen when it's supposed to. That's what happened with the dancing, I had to do a charity dance thing I loved it. And it's something about connection like in a gym. I never connected to anyone, because I was always looking down because I was like, oh, they think I'm fat. No gone. What do they think of me now with dancing, you're forced to look, some guy in the eyes, which is like real weird? I bet and what's weird is I got me a straight guy coach, which is even weird because I'm like, oh my God. You know, I gotta take a risk of being vulnerable. So is vulnerability. How is that for you by the way because did you use to use? Wait as a way of sort of disconnecting from people. I think so I, I always say that I went into situations imagining that I was at a disadvantage when I was found that I had to go win over the audience win over anyone in a personal connection because they just felt like people made a snap judgment about you, when you were faster. Sure. And there was no value to eight. I was in a family of like heavier people. So it was like everyone was sort of judging one another anyway. And we were very like just food craze food food base, and, and it wasn't, you know, I laugh like I had if I was Samoan I would have been the perfect size. You know, my God, you were a ten oh, I'd be crushing it. A New York three. What did you always use to get such a pretty face kind of comments like? Oh, yeah. So add some if he had only lose the way. Yes, oh, if you were only not morbidly obese well, me was, I would never particularly attractive. So it was like, not even the pretty face frigging gorgeous. And you know, it's weird I have reverse body Dismore Fiat where I think I'm like nineteen and adorable. Came love it. Are we learned to curse in your pod? I mean they're gonna bleep it. Oh by tone. I take. This is my favorite comment after I lost all the way that people would say to me. They look at me and go you have blue eyes. They couldn't see them because they were so wrapped in the folds of fat. Nobody's in a funny people because they're actually looking you in the I think that's actually a big statement because with bigger people we often feel like we can't look anyone in the I you, I would walk into things like I like how you said, we went in at a disadvantage. And how did that happen with auditions, though, because your kid actor, how old were you when you started to act ten so you're going on dishes? Could you summon up the nerve to be confident and look people in the eye despite the way? Yeah. I definitely had a stick, and I had developed, you know, it's all these defense mechanisms that we accrue to keep the world at bay writing. So I all of a sudden had this, like, little had all this ammo ready to go. And I also knew within my niche, I was one of the best like, I knew how to be the chubby funny kid. Right. So there was, you know, my mom always said, when we moved out to lay, and they'd say, how could you give up your whole life in New York for your kid in his career like that? Just makes you a weirdo stage. Mom and. She's like, look. Yes. But yeah. She said, I knew gave my kid confidence, and then it made him believe in himself. And if it had been little league or an instrument or the debate team, I would have helped him with that, but it just so happened. It was just like specific thing that made us relocate, so. Yeah, acting in a weird way save me. Because it did it did give me that extra bit of confidence that I was so lacking. Right. Because I think, you know, with confidence people think oh, I'll get up the nerve to do it and get confident then I'll take action. And it's I think the complete opposite. You have to do the action that gives you confidence. So suddenly with even somebody like me going. Well like onto this dancing bang for this charity. So I'm going to do it. And just the going to the studio. I was like, oh, suddenly going. Oh, I can do this. So now I'm confident dancer. I'm not good. But I'm confident at least confident enough to keep going. So with you, it's almost like memorial auditioned. The more confident you got in this, don't you find the? Confidence is so intoxicating. Oh, yeah. It's the thing that people love about other people. And because that's why we look at some people and go, I don't think they're conventionally pretty or, you know handsome, but there's something about him. I rather be the confident ugly girl than the pretty on confident girl. Yes. I'd rather be the dancer who thinks they're great who really isn't rather than the one who's phenomenal. And has led bad self esteem about it. And do you find like, as you know, as a standup, that's to me? What I've what, what is Finn revealed to me is like, what you want in a great comedic performers someone where you feel you're on the journey, and their guiding. You isn't that rerun into issues immediately. Like, if all of a sudden, the audience was like you've lost your way, is when you lose them. Absolutely. Yeah. Because they want to know you're in control of that situation, you can keep going, which is wild because now that I transferred to being coach a life coach. It's like sometimes I'll start making the. Phone call to somebody, you know, do a coaching session. I'll go what if I can't think of anything, what if I can't think of a tool for them. What if I can't do as I come down? You got like eight hundred tools that you learned. You got all his life experience in your gut. You know what's right? It's us just going. I got everything you want. It is saying, I have everything inside me already that I need. Yes. You know, because when you go into say an audition, because you got how many auditions did it take to get Drake and Josh, Josh Drake, as I call it? I who knows. I mean, I've probably been on five hundred additions in my life. If I'm if I'm thinking about it, and I actually was on. Amanda Bines had a sketch comedy show that I was on, I and that sort of spun off Drake and Josh, but yeah, I mean, there were so many moments in which and still to this day, like, I'll go out for pilot season at thirty two years old. Having had like success. An awesome like really lucky career in many ways with ups and downs as most careers and yet still can walk into those rooms and walk out feeling like what am I doing here? I'm a fraud. Right. And like I can't believe I haven't hung it up, yet after twenty years. Right. Yeah. You know, it's funny because now I'm not getting recognized at I'm okay with it, but it's still cracks me up because I go what happened. I'm like, what happened where I because everybody young is coming up yet. So I remember being with my niece, who's on the podcast and that's why we drink. And we are the webby awards and people ran up to our table. And I I'm like, oh, my God, I've been reading. Shea was like, that's but because she's a relative and such a good person. I'm so happy. And I take I'm like to take a picture of you guys, but isn't it? Interesting, the way we go. Oh, there's people coming up who are supposed to be bigger than us. Now, for instance, the people that Joan rivers, who were very jealous of people in the past who would come up on her heels, they were not the way to do it. Yes. Be happy for that person. But we can't let that shake that, oh, we did something. And we still are at least doing things on our terms. Yeah. You know, for me it's weird because I'm in the last couple years. My show, people think of like Drake. And Josh says that I did. And they're like God, what was it like when it was on TV, and I'm like nothing? No one cared. It's actually way more relevant now. So it's, it's double weird cause I get more recognized than ever and yet and then but people in the back of their, their head go like, oh, but you are on this thing ten years ago. I'm like, trust me. None of you cared ten years ago. I'm glad it meant something like back then. But the reality is now I've always been this, the public persona was well, you were on friends. You're on the kids version of frigging Seinfeld bright to us. You know, but to me, I'm like, no, I had a job for years. I was awesome. But then when it was done. I got right back in line being journeyman actor that I I've always been in. I will always be right. And that, and I don't take.

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