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Aired 8 months ago 49:49
Sex Q&A: Anal, Hot-Wifing, Sexless Marriages & Much More
Jess and Brandon answer your questions: Is it normal to want your wife to be a hot-wife? Should I use an enema before anal? What should I do if I canâ€™t get it in? Can a sexless marriage work? Can a couple really recover after cheating? How do I know if I should call it quits on a relationship? And many, many more. Please see a rough transcript below. Thank you to Desire Resorts & Desire Cruises for their support. Be sure to check them out because they offer a clothing-optional couples experience that is unlike any other. To celebrate our 100th episode, we started answering 100 of your questions last week and we continue this week: 39. Is there really a way to move past a cheating partner? Yes. If the one who cheated is not making excuses and is willing to do the work. And if the one who didnâ€™t cheat agrees that theyâ€™ll be vulnerable and honest about what they feel AND not use the cheating as a weapon moving forward (e.g. in arguments unrelated to cheating). 40. How can you introduce compromiseÂ to a partner who always believes their way is the right way? You compromise first. Itâ€™s disarming. If you take an issue that youâ€™re fighting about and say mea culpa - I need to change. The angriest, most stubborn person will likely follow suit. 41. How do you know enough is enough, and youâ€™re just running your own race? If your partner isnâ€™t willing to put in effort to make the relationship work - this might be a sign that youâ€™re not able to become compatible. Having said that, just because they wonâ€™t put in the same type of effort you put in doesnâ€™t mean itâ€™s on them to conform to your expectations. But if youâ€™ve tried to work on the relationship from multiple angles - by talking, by arguing, by going to therapy, by completing self-help programs together, by carving time out and youâ€™ve tried a variety of approaches and asked them how theyâ€™d like to work on it AND theyâ€™re open to none of them, youâ€™re in a relationship with yourself. Try asking them: do you want to work on this relationship and make it better? If they say yes, ask them how theyâ€™d like to work on it. 42. Can a manâ€™s semen stink if they drink beer? Is there something that causes women to have a funny smell? Yes. We donâ€™t have scientific evidence that what you eat and drink changes your taste or smell, but we have so many anecdotal reports that I simply canâ€™t ignore. Diets high in fruits and veggies and supposed to increase sweetness and preservatives, smoking and alcohol have been said to change the taste so that itâ€™s more bitter. And when someone ejaculates inside of you, it can absolutely change the way you smell, but the self-cleaning oven will clean it out. And again, always get tested â€” regardless of whether or not youâ€™re using condoms. 43. How tall are you? 5â€™4" 44. How do you get brave enough to try new things in the bedroom? Start slow and small. Try it next to the bed instead of in the bed. Then move to the shower and add silicone based lube because youâ€™ll need it in there. Try whispering a few words right before orgasm when your inhibitions are lower. When you get more turned on, the chemical shifts in your body help you to be less self conscious and more confident. And donâ€™t feel pressure to do everything. The tiniest change can have the biggest impact. 45. Can sex still be healthy if it is quick, under 15 minutes all the time? Thatâ€™s way longer than average. Porn sex lasts so long that our expectations become unrealistic. But if itâ€™s not long enough for you, think about other things you can do - with your hands, your mouth, your toys. Donâ€™t get hung up on intercourse. There is a reason lesbian women have more orgasms that straight women - theyâ€™re not hung up on the D. 46. How can you tell if your husbandâ€™s sex drive is going down? Ask them! And be supportive. Itâ€™s okay if your interest in sex declines. Itâ€™s normal. You often have to get in the mood for sex rather than wait for the mood to strike you.
Aired 9 months ago 37:28
Sex Dolls, Semen, Squirting and Nervousness
Jess and Brandon answer listener questions about swallowing, squirting, nervousness, physical affection and sex dolls. Please find a rough summary of the podcast. Weâ€™re working on a transcript which should be coming soon! Today weâ€™re talking physical affection, sex headaches, semen swallowing, FMF fantasies and squirting. Thank you to Desire Resorts for their support of this podcast. But firstâ€¦Sex doll smuggling. A Trinidadian man had his sex doll seized at the border after being inÂformed that it conÂtraÂvened secÂtion 45 (l) of the CusÂtoms Act as it has huÂman genÂiÂtalia. He is now suing Trinidadâ€™s CusÂtoms and ExÂcise DiÂviÂsion and while I canâ€™t comment on Trinidadâ€™s import policies, Iâ€™m always concerned when the government steps in and ultimately dictates what you can and canâ€™t do as consenting adults in the privacy of your bedroom. I ran into this in the UAE when I was working in Dubai. My clients got in trouble for trying to import sex toys and they taught me an important lesson about how to take vibrators in to countries where theyâ€™re prohibited: put them next to your hair curler or straightening iron because then they look like theyâ€™re part of the same electronic components. And so far it has worked for me. But I just thought this story offered a good reminder that we should talk about sex dolls because there are now sex doll brothels in Canada, Europe, Asia and they must be coming soon to the US - like a boy band, theyâ€™re always big in Europe, Asia and Canada first and then they hit the US. And Iâ€™ve seen so many lifelike sex dolls on display at trade shows and in sex clubs. Our listener questions are piling up and itâ€™s stressing me out a bit because I donâ€™t like to leave you hanging, so weâ€™re going to address a series of questions today. 1. A 'buddy of mine' is worried that something is wrong because he doesnâ€™t always want to be touched - especially right after work or when heâ€™s watching the game. His girlfriend gets mad because she wants to kiss or cuddle and he just feels smothered and guilty for not wanting to touch her. Is this a psychological issue? How should he deal with it? Just as some people crave touch constantly, others abhor it. Wherever you fall along the spectrum of desire of physical touch, youâ€™re perfectly normal. As long as you can function (i.e. go to work, maintain relationships), I wouldnâ€™t worry about how little or how much touch you desire. In your friendâ€™s case, it sounds as though he simply wants some space and needs to clearly communicate his boundaries to his partner. He should let her know when and how he wants to be touched and clarify that there are simply times when he wants physical space. He shouldnâ€™t feel guilty. Many mothers complain about feeling â€œtouched outâ€ at the end of the day; their kids have been all over them all day and they just donâ€™t want anyone else (i.e. their partners) to hug, kiss or initiate sex. Your friend may be experiencing something similar. Compatibility in relationships isnâ€™t rooted finding someone who wants the same things as you (e.g. you donâ€™t have to share a mutual love of cuddling); compatibility involves working together to meet one anotherâ€™s needs and accepting that one person cannot fulfill all of your needs everyday for the rest of your lives. If his girlfriend wants more affection, he can offer it at times and she can also seek it elsewhere â€” she could cuddle with the dog, get more hugs from friends and family or spend some time touching herself. Once you acknowledge that youâ€™re not required to meet your partnerâ€™s every need (and they canâ€™t possibly meet all of yours), youâ€™ll likely cultivate happier, more satisfying relationships. 2. Is it safe to swallow your own semen? It sure is! You can taste and swallow your own semen as long as you donâ€™t have STIs like chlamydia and gonorrhoea because some STIs can be spread to other areas of the body. Semen volume is 2 â€“ 6 mL (1/2 a teaspoon to one teaspoon) ...
Aired 8 months ago 39:01
Heres How Diet, Sleep, Superfoods and Lifestyle Choices Affect Your Libido
Naturopathic doctor,Â Dr. Olivia Rose, sharesÂ insights on how diet, supplements, herbs, acupuncture andÂ sleep affect your sex driveÂ and overall health.Â She reveals what foodsÂ you should eat in the morning, what substances you should avoid at night, and how hormones play a role in libido. Follow Dr. Olivia on... TwitterÂ Instagram FacebookÂ Have a questionÂ about naturopathic treatments, clinical nutrition etc.? Join Dr. Olivia every Thursday on her Facebook page for her weekly 'Ask Me Anything' Facebook Live broadcast. You can find a quickÂ summary of the episode below. (Thanks to Dr. Olivia for providing these notes!) 1. What is naturopathic medicine? Tell us about your practice. Naturopathic medicine is a health care system that blends modern scientific knowledge and evidence with traditional and natural forms of medicine.Â As NDs, we assess the whole person by providing physical examinations, nutrition, lifestyle and mental health assessments and we refer for blood work at our local labs when necessary. I have a general practice, however, I do tend to focus on women and menâ€™s health, gastrointestinal health, immune, skin and childrenâ€™s health. Lifestyle, nutrition, herbs and acupuncture are the modalities I use the most. 2. What is the most common sex-related problem patients present with? (We're assuming low libido is up there.) What are some lifestyle causes of low libido? Low libido is common, especially in women. At least women tend to talk about it more, vaginal dryness, pain during sex and erectile dysfunction in males come up frequently. Lifestyle causes of low libido include poor diet (e.g. not enough or an excess â€“ too much alcohol, caffeine, sugar, fat, processed foods, and also eating too little â€“ not eating frequently enough, not having enough of the key micronutrients such as iron and B12 and macronutrients (missing healthy fat, protein etc.) which are important for blood circulation and hormone health; metabolic syndrome is a condition characterized by high blood pressure, central obesity, elevated blood sugar and abnormal cholesterol and triglyceride levels that increase your risk for stroke, heart disease and diabetes, inactivity â€“ being active maintains good circulation to your pelvic floor and genitalia. Regular physical activity also helps to balance your hormones and maintain healthy testosterone levels. Stress â€“ relationship, workplace, environmental â€“ can play a role. 3. How does diet affect libido? Your diet can play a huge role in sexual desire. Going back to the not enough or too much diets â€“ both can affect libido. Your libido relies on circulation and if your diet isnâ€™t conducive to promoting healthy circulation, your libido will be affected. 4. How does diet effect mood and relationships more generally? Diet and digestion are closely tied to mood. Certain foods and additives in our food supply can have a negative effect on your mood such as MSG â€“ some people are sensitive to MSG and report feeling sluggish, depressed or angry after consuming it. However, the first thing I do before even changing anyoneâ€™s diet is to make sure they are eating regularly. Eating at regular intervals can make a huge difference in regulating your mood. It also helps to balance your blood sugar and insulin. I emphasize a diet that contains enough protein with each meal because protein gets broken into the amino acids we require to make our hormones. 5. Can herbs/supplements be used to address libido? Can herbs/supplements be used to improve mood (and relational interactions)? There are many herbs that have traditionally been used for sexual enhancement and mood stabilization for centuries. Fenugreek is a popular culinary spice in South Asian dishes and in Ayurvedic medicine. Itâ€™s backed by promising research that it can increase sexual arousal and orgasms. Itâ€™s thought to contain plant chemicals that serve as precursors to estrogen and testosteron...