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Organization Expert Declutters 150+ Homes

Side Hustle School

04:22 min | 2 months ago

Organization Expert Declutters 150+ Homes

"My name is Lisa Hobie I live in Seattle. Washington and I was featured on episode three hundred fifty. Three. Yoga teacher cleans up and I'm also in the one hundred side Hustles Book My side. Hustle is as a home organizer I like to say. My superpower is my ability to create beautiful functional, highly personalized spaces for my clients. I got the idea for my hustle kind of like a bolt from the blue during an interview with Chris. Gilo I was at a live taping for Gretchen. Rubin Liz Crafts podcast happier. And of course I was sitting right in the front row because I'm a superfan. And Gretchen interviewed Chris About his book born for this how to find the work you were meant to do. And I had this epiphany. I love decluttering organizing and making things beautiful. It's what I do to play. I lose track of time when I do it. Because I'm so focused, I'm like a dog with a bone plus I twenty five years teaching experience. So at that moment, it dawned on me. People actually pay me for. This skill was featured on the show in December two, thousand seventeen, and since that time. A side Hustle of home, organizing became my full time job. And my full time job of Yoga, teacher Yoga decreased down to a little side. Hustle so in that time I am I worked in a hundred and forty nine homes for a total of one, thousand, eight, hundred and seventy five billable hours. This is pretty much a three year span. and delivered three hundred and fifty two carloads of my clients donations to places like the refugee women's Alliance, where I volunteer, and to the local food banks to goodwill as well as delivering specialized recycling, so things were going great. I was working five days a week. In clients homes, I was booked out weeks in advance with a wait list. And I love my work and then the pandemic hits. And everything changed and I. AM recording this on Day. Ninety of Seattle stay at home order so I'm right in the middle of a lot of uncertainty and change. I would characterize these past three months at home as a time of service and experimentation right away when the pandemic head I knew I wanted to serve my clients because this. Is US super stressful time for everybody so right away. I started teaching Yoga every morning on zoom, and so I went from my group twice a month to teaching seven classes a week. I knew I wanted to serve my organizing clients. And I have been working with clients virtually op zoom throughout the stay at home time. I wrote an e book as a thank you for joining my mail list I rewrote my Introduction ladders. I added online scheduling option I gave a few talks on zoom for a couple of different companies. I wrote and sent out three newsletters to my mailing list as constant contact. So all of this. All of it felt like a pretty steep learning curve actually. Feis I get to someone who's thinking about becoming a home organizer. This is a really good time to do a lot of reading I would read books on organising home design housekeeping habit change. Time Management Paper Management, digital management I actually pretty frequently. Get requests for informational interviews so I have a pdf of my favorite resources. I'm happy to yet email it to anyone who's interested. You can just reach out. I guess the last thing I would say is in this time of. Such huge transition. Happen All I can do is keep offering excellent service to my clients between home, organizing and teaching Yoga and getting donations to people need them and keeping stuff out of the landfill. I feel like I'm living in integrity with my values, and that I'm being of service to people in ways that are easy and enjoyable for me and beneficial for them, so we'll just take breath time.

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"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

Happier with Gretchen Rubin

02:12 min | 2 months ago

"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

"I'm Gretchen Rubin and this is a little happier. Because of the pandemic and people staying safer at home, many people's lives and habits were disrupted obviously, and at the height of the stay at home period. Many parents were supervising their children's online learning. A friend told me about a small incident in her life and I find myself reflecting on it. She has two sons, and her younger son has special needs. So each morning she spent more time helping him get situated for his classroom and her older son didn't need as much support. Every day shortly before lunchtime text, her older son say something like getting hungry in the mood for anything in particular for lunch. then. She'd fix lunch, so it would be ready, would her son's got out of class? She just fell into that habit. A school was happening at home and didn't really think anything of it. Then one day she pulled a muscle in her back and she was in agony. It was almost impossible to move. She was struggling to do the most minor tasks. She hardly thought about her son's lunches and when she did, she figured up. My older son's old enough, he can figure something out. Well he was furious when he got out of class and when his lunch wasn't ready, he was so angry that she hadn't asked him about it and hadn't prepared anything. And I. Think I would have understood if my friend had been furious with her son. I can imagine thinking Gosh, is he that spoiler that lazy or that unsympathetic that he can't do a little thing like fix them. Peanut butter sandwiches one day. How did you react I? Asked? She's a lot wiser than I am. She said Oh. I understood the feeling. Sometimes we rely on those little thought protesters. They make us feel taking care of I hadn't really put any thought into what I was doing. It just sort of happened so I didn't realize how important it was to him. Once I realized that I was a lot more careful about it. And I realized how true this was. Sometimes these tiny loving gestures built up over time that we count on, and even take for granted are what make us feel most loved. I'm Gretchen. Rubin and I hope this makes your week a little happier..

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#162: What Sherrys Not Buying For An Entire Year

Young House Love Has A Podcast

06:28 min | 7 months ago

#162: What Sherrys Not Buying For An Entire Year

"Okay. So it's almost the middle of February and I've been doing this thing this whole year. My plan is to do it for all of twenty twenty this whole year very impressive. It's been what seven weeks month and a half already but I think it's kind of Nice to report about it after a month and a half because I've already I've gotten used to it and it's totally sustainable for me but when I told my best friend about this resolution there was like a long silence and then she said I'm drinking water and I'm thinking about it like I could tell that she thought this was a crazy thing. She knows me at this point. She knows I'm going to do it. I don't know when you told me I didn't think it was crazy but I feel like you should just say what it is are. You should quit the suspense. I'm not going to buy closer shoes for a year. So no new clothes. No new shoes no secondhand closer shoes either like not just new. No purchases for my body and that means like no accessories like purses or jewelry or belts to okay so like anything that might be stored in a closet exactly and my only two disclaimers are obviously if something I need wears out like if something insane happens to like the sneakers I wear throughout the winter and I need more sneakers throughout the winter. I can replace them but I'm not gonNA say like a different color. I would have more variety in my wardrobe if I added that new option. Like they're not gonNA be any options. My other address to this is that I do have to store credits. They're like maybe fifty dollars to Nordstrom and like thirty dollars to old navy. That's what I'm GONNA use if there's an emergency so I feel like even in an emergency I break my one bears shoes. I wear all the time and I need them. I think my bank account is not going to shift this entire year. I don't want to jinx. Might well at least on the clothing budget. I'm sure exactly count is going to shift for other reasons right right right right right but I mean this. This resolution is not just then. I'm going to be like. Oh Darn my favorite shirt representing another favourite Scher. It really is like only staples that I really need to survive my favorite shirt ripped. I just wear my second favorite so I don't think people are going to be that surprised by the challenge because you are already sort of known. I guess is having a very compact or minimal wardrobe but I still think it will be a challenge for you as much as the month and a half so far have not been I think as we get through the year especially as the seasons change like you might realize you're shorter on summer clothes than you thought you were or when it starts to get cold again you feel like the Itch to get something warm. Like a sweater or something. I think there will be moments. Where you have to more consciously fight the urge to buy something because I think a lot of us shop for things you know. Even if our wardrobe feels complete just out of the habit or activity of it or just because you know there is that sort of I guess endorphin when you see something that looks nice or fits you well and you put it in your shopping cart. Yeah you're like I deserve this. No I think you're right that it probably won't shock anyone because I'm a really minimal wardrobe kind of Gal but I also think since we've done things for a month like we did like no spend month I do think twelve in a row is like a bigger fee but I am looking forward to it because what I've realized is that when I make a rule for something and actually makes it much easier for me if I were to say I want to just shop less. I don't know that my behavior would change at all. Like I can't have like fifteen French fries and stop. I will eat a thousand French fries or I have to say. I'm not gonNA eat any French fries this moment. That thing on the menu where you can order a thousand French fries do it every time. But that's what I mean like. Moderation is not easy for me grid. Did a whole thing about this. You guys should listen to it. We'll put a link in the show notes. But it's basically like some people are moderators and they can have like five chips. I don't know how you do it. I'm eat the whole bag. And maybe I should explain where this started so this idea started when we did our closet and it was perfect timing because it was literally like Christmas Day when we were loading our closet back with clothes and I noticed I had a few things still tags on them and also noticed. I had a few things that I've been meaning to alter or change in some way. Like an example as I have this really cute tanktop it's leopard-print of Gore's and those straps are too long and so it's GonNa take two seconds to so it but I felt this Pang of guilt that was like why would I ever even look at a store for something else when I already have things that have the tag on or that. I'm waiting to alter to where I should just do that before. I get something new and so that's where it was born. I felt like my closet is full of things and full of options both options that I wear news and also options waiting in the wings. Why should you add or accumulate? More when you're not using the things you already have exactly so I think that made it really like easier. My mind to see as I was loading my new drawers and pull outs and hanging bars and I think maybe a tip for someone at home who wants to embark on a longer term project. Like this like it's not just for a few weeks it's like something you. WanNa keep up for a long time. I definitely think the first tip could be going through what you have because I think even I- minimalist when I was doing it I was like. Oh Yeah I forgot about this. I wanted to shorten the straps. Like it reminded me of all these sort of outstanding dues and then I immediately jumped to. I should do that before I do anything else. Okay while you were talking. I was totally listening by the way. But I was also googling. 'cause that thing you said about Gretchen Rubin right the moderator. I can't remember the opposite. I look it up on something or it's an abstainer there it is. So that's what you're doing you're abstaining completely because it's easier for you to set a rule when it's black or white like you can have it or you cannot there's not that gray area that a moderator can be comfortable with well. I also think there's a gray area between moderator and abstainer in this experiment because I do believe that you could say something like each season. I'm only allowed to buy three items. And so it's not none for a year but it's also not this like amorphous goal of like. I'm just GonNa shop less like maybe defining one new item of clothing per season or some sort of boundary. That feels comfortable to you will help you but what? I've discovered is I immediately. Love this rule already because when someone is like saying this cute dress and. I'm like have enough dresses. It immediately turns it off in my mind. It's like tiny Hester once. Said if you know you don't eat the Burger and someone says. Do you want a burger? It's a really easy no because I don't eat the Burger and so to me. This is just a very easy no when I'm in old Navy I'm not GonNa look for myself because I'm sure I can find something that's cute and by it but it just takes it off the table and a very enlightening way. Like I feel lighter. It doesn't feel like a heavy burden. It feels like something has been lifted. Well I guess we'll keep people posted throughout the how you do. Yeah well I'm interested to know of something breaks and a half to replace it what it will be because it will probably sound insane. Someone else like I'll be guys my one black tank top. Something happens and everyone will probably be like you had one black tank. Somehow a pack of squirrels got inside my drawer. An olive underwear has gone.

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New Year's Resolutions vs. Goals

Pep Talks

08:11 min | 9 months ago

New Year's Resolutions vs. Goals

"Will admit admit. I'm not a huge fan of New Year's resolutions. I'm all for us being the healthiest version of ourselves and all about setting goals for ourselves and and thinking about the new year. As kind of a clean slate as Gretchen Rubin refers to it as in what that means is just. It's something something new right. It's it's kind of starting fresh. We've closed out twenty nineteen and now we've entered twenty twenty and it can feel like a new slate an opportunity opportunity to start afresh so to speak and I'm all for that. I think that's wonderful. I just think with New Year's resolutions frequently what happens. Is there a bit lofty and people can feel overwhelmed by them and their intentions are good. However often times times they struggle to follow through and I also think there's a lot of pressure being placed on one day out of the year? January first is the day when somebody he is going to start completely transforming their life and I just think that that can be a lot of pressure for one day. I think it's great to again to have those goals goals and to recognize what you'd like to do differently and I'm a huge fan that when you have that realization and just start making those changes. Don't wait for a specific day. Just I do it nonetheless. I recognize that at the start of a new year. It's a great time to think about the next three hundred sixty five days ace and think about what you would like to be different. How would you like this year to look differently than last year? So I'm I'm all for making some goals in your life and I would encourage you to sit down and think about. How would you like twenty twenty twenty two look and I really would like for you to take a moment to do this? Not just have it be something that's in your head but actually sitting down and and taking a few minutes to think about. What do you want in twenty twenty? I think it's really easy for us to to go through life mindlessly. Three the little treadmill of life where we get up and we go to work or we take care of the kids and then we come home and we go to bed and we do it all over again and we really lose sight of being vested in our in our lives and being really present in our lives and choosing what we want our lives to look like and I think this would be a Gr- I think there's something magical about twenty twenty it just. I think it's a magical to the number for right. It's going to be a magical year for people and I really want for you to be mindful and to be intentional as you go into this New Year here again. I don't want to put too much pressure on it. I don't want this to to become overwhelming but thinking about it for a moment and like I said sitting down and making awesome notes and saying okay what what do I want to be different in twenty twenty and for example I've heard people say I WANNA be healthier here. That's wonderful although from my perspective it's vague while also being too broad at the same. MM time healthy. My Gosh that could mean all sorts of things right. So what does it mean to be. Healthy is. Eating healthier is Being physically active. Is it getting involved in your community. Is it connecting spiritually. What does it mean to be healthy? So it's breaking that down into something smaller so maybe it would be. I want to eat healthier will again very very broad. What does that mean and vague at the same time? What does that mean to eat healthier? Are you wanting to consume more green vegetables. Do you want to remove dairy. Do you want to remove gluten. What does that look like for you and really think about breaking it into very small steps and pieces taking making changes in our lives particularly if we're really seeking to grow and heal? It's hard work number for one. I mean I say to my clients all the time. The work that they do in my office is the hardest work that they will ever do because the really working on healing as an individual. Well they're not putting a band aid on something they're really seeking to get to the roots of the issues so that they overcome them and they're that they're able to be the healthiest version of themselves. So if you want for twenty twenty to be different what what are those. What are those goals? And then what are the steps going to be to attain those goals so going back. I'm using the nutrition. You all know that I'm nutritionist. Huge to me it's foundational for held. Also I'm GONNA use that. One is the example. If I have someone say I want to eat healthier then I'm going to break that into something smaller and say okay do you are you wanting to. Let's it's. Let's say remove soda from their Diet. So maybe we start with that I that for even maybe for a month. They are replacing one soda soda with one water and then gradually they increase replacing. Two Sodas with two waters in a day and just taking those small steps stops until they're not drinking soda any longer or it could be wanting to remove gluten from their diet and it would start with as they run out of gluten containing foods in their home. They start replacing those foods when they go to the grocery with non including items and then maybe it is they're wanting to consume more greens. So it might be just adding some some Greens to one meal a day and it might be in their in their Their meat eater. Let's say in there preparing their evening dinners. They just add shredded charred to whatever it is that they're preparing I love adding tons of Greens to everything you can especially like if you're making Taco mead or you're making spaghetti meat or stews or Meatloaf you can just shred those Greens in the food processor. Assessor and just add them to whatever it is you're making and they just take on the flavor of whatever you're making so I'm all about all about adding those Greens to everything but maybe it would just be then we start with that and we start adding Greens to one meal a day. Every step forward is a step forward and when we when we start off the new year and we say okay. I'm GonNa you know. I'm going to start eating Paleo and I'm going to start working out five days a week and it's somebody who's been eating McDonalds you know for several meals a week and hasn't worked out ever in their life. They're probably not going to attain that on January first so we need to start with smaller stops and work up to it. I encourage you to think about twenty twenty and think about even it may even if we go beyond behavioral when we think about like physical activity ear nutrition. But think about it with regards to your character who you WanNa be. Who is it that you are striving to be are you somebody who doesn't are you working to be someone who doesn't personalized things that are said to you are you? Are you wanting to be somebody who who is more patient with other individuals. Are you wanting to be more generous with your time with your with your finances even thinking thinking about it from the perspective of who you are and who you WanNa be is another way to think about your goals for twenty twenty.

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"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

Happier with Gretchen Rubin

01:56 min | 1 year ago

"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

"I'm gretchen rubin and this is a little happier in my own mind. I often come up with a shorthand for certain ideas and emotions that i experience for instance in an earlier episode of a little happier. I described how in my mind the phrase juice story stands for big concept about how to be more effective parent and i'll post a link to that episode. I said if you want to listen to it. I have a phrase that i use when i'm thinking about a very certain kinds of pleasure the pleasure of doing work at a very high level of excellence with people who are really really good at their jobs. I remember feeling this pleasure very acutely when i worked on the alarm journal and law school school and also when i was clerking for justice sandra day o'connor on the supreme court it's exhilarating to be surrounded by excellence at that time though i didn't have a phrase for it then recently when i was working on my four tendencies video course with the brilliant daryl felt and his great team i overheard him. I'm talking on the phone to someone while we were taking a break. I heard him say quietly. This is going good. We'll finish early this versity team and i love hearing hearing that and i knew exactly what he meant an i felt it too and i felt so thrilled to be included on that team. I was recently in a diner that was full of people and yet all the staff was super. Cheerful inefficient not all overwhelmed or irritated by the crowd. I could see that in fact. They were taking great pleasure in their teamwork. How efficiently gently task for being done how graciously people are being served. How flawlessly all the orders were being executed. They were doing great teamwork and you could see that they were finding such gratification in what they were able to do so well together. I love having a phrase for it because i love that feeling i love being part of or <hes> witnessing the work of varsity team. I'm gretchen rubin and i hope this makes your week a little happier..

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"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

Happier with Gretchen Rubin

01:44 min | 1 year ago

"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

"I'm gretchen rubin and this is a little happier as i've mentioned many times i love secrets of adulthood aphorisms at the grams paradoxes cohen's allegories fables and teaching stories of all kinds perhaps because i loved him so much myself and go out of my way to reid them i'm often surprised to learn that a story or aphorism that i assume is very well known or even a cliche is actually not very well known for instance i love ease ops fables tables he's definitely a storyteller in ancient greece who's credited with a number of fables now collectively known as ease up stables although his existence remains unclear and no actional writings by him survive numerous tales credited to him had been gathered over the centuries one of my favorites of these stories is the north win and this many versions exist but here is the basic version if you don't know this story the sun in the north when you begin to argue about who is a stronger as they quarrel they noticed a traveler walking down a road look suggested the sun there's a traveler wrapped in a cloak let's decide who of us is stronger by seeing who can strip him of his cloak look the north wouldn't agree to the test and immediately sent an icy blast against the traveler detroit a whip the cloak from his body the traveler clutch disclosed in the harder the north wing blew the more tightly he hung on finally the north win gave up then the sun began to shine first gently said that the traveler and fastened his cloak and let it hang loose then the sun starting to shine more warmly until the traveler pulled off his quote to rest under a shady tree ease.

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"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

Happier with Gretchen Rubin

02:32 min | 1 year ago

"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

"Of heavy perfumes and helps reduce airborne dander from scooping. So it happens in the litterbox stays in the litterbox, new cloud control cat, litter by Armand hammer. More power to you. I'm Gretchen Rubin. And this is a little happier. I often talk about my love of children's. Literature and young adult literature. I'm in three. Yes. Three children's literature reading groups. And I read often from this section of the bookstore and library. I made a list of my eighty one favorite works of children's literature, and of course, included on that list is the wonderful nineteen fifty one novel by Sydney Taylor, all of a kind family. This is the story of five sisters who live with their parents in the Lower East Side of New York City in the early nineteen hundreds, they're called, all of a kind because they're all sisters. The book is a wonderful portrait of Jewish immigrant life. The girls have all sorts of childhood adventures. They do household. Chores they prepare for the holidays. Like Passover and Purim Sarah loses a library book, the two youngest sisters go, buy candy together. Now, one thing for me as I read these books. Now is that while I enjoy them just as much as I did, as a child, of course, I understand them differently because I bring more to them, I get more out of them, and as an adult I'm much more aware of the economic circumstances of this family. When I read this book as a child, although I never really analyzed it. This family seemed secure in prosperous Papa, had his shop that they'd go. Visit mama had her parlor full of beautiful things that they had to keep dusted. They had delicious meals and lots of parties. They go to the beach at our Rockaway. They have firecrackers on the fourth of July, but as an adult I see that their lives were more difficult. They lived in the crowded tenement section of New York City, their father, ran a junk shop. They had a big family crowded into few rooms. Most of the novel is told from the perspective of the children, but every once in a while the narrative shifts and readers, get a glimpse into what the parents were thinking and about their adult concerns. There's one passage that did not interest me much as child. But really struck me when I recently read the book for I don't know, the fiftieth time in the chapter Papas birthday, the five sisters decide that for the first time they would buy a present for their father's birthday. They saved their allowance pennies. So they had thirty five cents to spend. They go to Mr..

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"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

Happier with Gretchen Rubin

01:45 min | 1 year ago

"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

"I'm Gretchen Rubin. And this is a little happier. I love it. When people know the right thing to say and I'm fortunate because my husband Jamie is very good at this. In a few words, he often says just the right thing to put my mind at rest, for instance. He knows the right things to say to me when I hit some of the happiness, stumbling blocks that are common to writers. For instance. I might say to him my editor is suggested so many changes. I mean, I agree with most of them. But it's discouraging I thought this draft was in great shape, or maybe someone writes something about me or my work that I don't like I try never to read anything that's written about me or my work because it's not good for me or my writing. But sometimes stuff does slip through and I say to him. I don't know what this whole thing says. But I know there's at least this one part that's annoying or that's hurting my feelings or I said to him I've got to get it before. I am to catch a flight to give a talk and so on. Jamie listens. And then inevitably he says very kindly. Remember, this is what you wanted. And it's comforting because that's true. This is what I wanted. I wanted to become a writer. I wanted constructive criticism to make my work better. I wanted to put my thoughts out into the world. I wanted to engage with people about the ideas that interests me some aspects of this are difficult. But this is what I wanted so often the things that are disagreeable to us are inextricably intertwined with what we enjoy or desire most. I'm Gretchen Rubin. And I helped this makes your week a little happier..

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"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

Happier with Gretchen Rubin

01:49 min | 1 year ago

"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

"I'm Gretchen Rubin. And this is a little happier. I love children's literature and young adult literature, and I also love picture books because I love them so much, although we gave away three giant boxes of books to Elizabeth son, Jack when he was little I still have many shelves of my favorite picture books. The other day, I was looking for my copy of stone soup when I happen to pull out the book little bear. By also, how Malone Minarik I'm not a particularly sentimental parent. In fact, I've sometimes felt guilty about my lack of emotional response to a first haircut or eighth grade graduation. So I was astonished to find myself with tears in my eyes as a reread these lines from the first story in a little bear. What kind of story would you like to hear said mother bear, tell me about me said a little bear. Tell me about the things. I once did what was it about this particular passage that pierced me to the? Art while the other trust for one thing and the unselfconsciously self-centeredness of childhood tell me about me as adults. We don't get to ask for that kind of attention. No matter how much we'd like it. But what really got me was the reminder about the passage of time little bear is still little but already he's bigger than he was so much already passed his unnecessary attempt to dress warmly for the snow his trip to the moon his six birthday party childhood passes. So quickly. In my own mind. I summarize this bittersweet truth with the phrase the days are long, but the years are short little bear asked his mother to tell him about himself as parents we play an important role in shaping and preserving.

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"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

Happier with Gretchen Rubin

02:56 min | 1 year ago

"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

"I'm Gretchen Rubin. And this is a little happier. A while back. My mother had a milestone birthday. So we had a celebration for her among other things we had a special family dinner. And we each made a toast when we were done. My mother's stood up to respond of what everyone said that night. There's only one part. I remember clearly, and that was what she I said when she got to her feet. She said, I'm lucky I'm a lucky person. I don't know why I've been lucky, but I have been. One reason I remember this was this was something. I didn't know about my mother. I didn't know that she considered herself lucky in many ways, you'd say yes, my mother is indeed lucky, but of course, she's been unlucky to. And what is look the word starts to fall apart. My head is I try to think about it. Do we make our own luck to some degree? Yes. But not in every way is it unlucky even to talk about being lucky. If feels like it is. But I'm not even going to think about that. But aside from these deeper issues about the nature of luck. What struck me was how lucky I was to have a mother who considered herself lucky because although she'd never set it before she is communicated to me in a thousand ways. It made me so happy to hear her describe herself that way it makes me so happy to think back on it. I think it makes me even happier to have heard her say that then if she said of herself, I'm happy, and I've been trying to figure out why that is I guess because if she said she were happy, it would be great because she's happy. But it could also mean that she'd learned to make the best of things to accept what she couldn't change and to be grateful. These are all good things. But this is my mother, of course, I want her to be happy. I want her to have even more than that. I want her to be lucky also for a child even a very fully grown daughter. Like me, a parent's perspective on the world matters so much. Our parents helped make our weather. I feel lucky to have a mother who considers herself lucky. I feel like I'm part of why she feels lucky and that is a beautiful atmosphere for child to live at whatever age. You are are you lucky research shows that when we think we're in luck when we're using a lucky golf ball or have our lucky charms with us. We actually perform better as was so much in life our expectations shape, our attitudes and our actions. I'm lucky to have a mother who is lucky, I'm Gretchen Rubin. And I hope this makes your week a little happier..

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Happier with Gretchen Rubin

03:41 min | 1 year ago

"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

"I'm Gretchen Rubin. And this is a little happier. Sometimes we learn about ourselves from other people I've often written and talked about the fact that we can build a happy life only on the foundation of our own nature. But it can be hard to know ourselves. We get distracted by the way, we wish we were. Or by the way, we think we ought to be or by other people's expectations or by the pressures of everyday life. And we lose sight of ourselves I have twelve personal commandments. And my first commandment is to be Gretchen this so easy. And yet it's one of the great challenges of my life. I found that one helpful though, painful question is whom do I envy when we envy people that means they have something we wish we had and that can be an important clue about we want from our lives or sometimes someone says something about himself or herself. And you think you know, I'm the same way and a truth about yourself becomes clear. That's what happened to me when I was reading Samuel Johnson. And he said of himself abstinence is as easy to me as temperance would be difficult. When I read that I thought that's me. I'm like Samuel Johnson. And I realized I was an abstainer. The same thing happened to me in a conversation several years ago now my whole life ever since I learned how to read I have loved to read reading is my treehouse, and my cubicle. My treasure map. And my teddy bear, I love love love to read. It's a huge part of my identity. But there was a period several years back where somehow I wasn't managing to make time to read not nearly as much as I've usually done in my life with everything going on. It had just gotten crowded out. I was dimly aware of this. But I didn't think much of it. I kept thinking it would fix it self. But then I was at a meeting of what am I three children's literature? Reading groups. I was still doing some reading and one member of the group. Susan reads, a tremendous amount, and in particular, she reads, a huge amount of contemporary fiction. So everybody in the group knows if you want to get the scoop about a new novel ask Susan we were all talking about the latest. Buzzy book and somebody said Susan, how do you have so much time to read and Susan said, I must read she paused for a moment to think instead again. Yeah, I just have to read when I heard that my stomach dropped. I felt the very same way. I must read and yet I hadn't been reading not the way I need to read. And I realized at that moment my life had to change. I must read and my life had to reflect that I still fight to make time to read, and I feel like I don't have enough time to read but ever since that evening, I've never stopped working hard at it. And I do read sometimes it's other people who remind us of our deepest values and the truest things about ourselves if you'd like to read my twelve personal commandments. I'll post Lincoln the show notes if you'd like to read more about Samuel Johnson and about being. In abstaining versus a moderator. I write about it in my book better than before and a link to a discussion of that too. And if you wanna know what I do read each week. You can go to hashtag Gretchen Rubin. Reads where I post a photo of the books. I've read that week. I'm Gretchen Rubin. And I hope this makes your week a little happier..

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"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

Happier with Gretchen Rubin

01:30 min | 1 year ago

"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

"And everyone at cadence thirteen get in touch Gretchen on Twitter at Gretchen Rubin, and I'm at Elizabeth crafts. Our Email address is podcast at Gretchen, Rubin dot com. If you like the show, be sure to tell a friend and subscribe to us and apple podcast, Google, podcasts or your favorite podcasting app. Thanks to the wonderful people who ordered five or more copies of outer order intercom had many names this week, which is wonderful, Angie. Shoe est- Maradi Copeland. Melissa thomson. Elizabeth Cottrell bath duck it Leslie Clave, Rebecca, Frederick, Shelly friend. Gayle Wilson Brett who dissect Nicole Halberg malaria, and Jill from the semi together podcast Kelly wall and Melissa Mathis. So thank you for your enthusiasm. That's amazing. And here's another thing. I, you know, we say please rate and reviews, and it's the same thing about a book if you reviewed the book on Amazon good reads apple books, are you know, wherever you give online reviews, it really helps other readers to find a book. I know that I look at reviews regular reader reviews to help me decide to buy book. And so that's a huge help. If you do that and grab there's a new resource due to popular demand. You created a PDF includes all the happiness hacks from every episode people can download it for free at Gretchen Rubin dot com slash research. Sources. And I know you're going to update that a few times a

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7 Secrets to a Long-Lasting Relationship

The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

11:27 min | 1 year ago

7 Secrets to a Long-Lasting Relationship

"Hi, everyone and welcome back to savvy psychologist, I'm Dr Ellen Hendrickson, and you know, the drill. Al hope you meet life's challenges with evidence based research a sympathetic ear and zero judgment. And as you can probably hear this week. I am getting over a cold. I feel fine. But my voice insists on doing its best impression of a frog. In the meantime, so hang in there with me. And here we go. So today's episode is brought to you by the new podcast fill in the blanks. You know, Dr Phil one of Oprah's most famous friends and frequent collaborators and now you can hear a whole new side of him with his podcast fill in the blanks. That's Phil PH L. So here all new no-holds-barred conversations with celebrities like Vivica, a FOX Kathy Bates and Steve Harvey, plus expert neurosurgeons and lifespan. There's so listen to fill in the blanks on your favorite podcast app, and be sure to subscribe. So this week. Let's talk about how to make a relationship last. 'cause Melwood may have brought you together. But after the clergyman with the speech, impediment instructs you to treasurer your love what next. Well, whether you're married cohabitating or simply in it for the long haul any committed relationship needs a few tools to make it through the years. So this week here are seven. Science back secrets to make your long term relationship. Feel more. Like our Bruno Mars, Mary you flash mob and less like the theme song from married with children. So let's start out with secret number one, which is be your own person. Okay. So before sharing your life with another adult. It's important to have spent some time adulting yourself, you don't have to have your life cross indexed color coded, but it is important to have separated in a healthy way from your family of origin. So if your alarm clock is a phone, call from mom, or you don't get know how to do your own laundry. Invest the time to get your life on solid footing before merging it with another humans. Secret. Number two is be a team. Now. Some problems seem on solvable a fundamental difference in parenting styles in curable, slobby tude or opposite values around money. But the least constructive approach to sticky problems is to blame each other and fight it out. So instead, try and approach called unified detachment unified detachment is a fundamental shift in perspective that joins you and your partner together against the problem. So rather than approaching a problem as you against your crazy unreasonable partner approach the situation as the two of you United against the challenge. So for example, what should we do to save money for the future or how can we work together to fight less secret? Number three is outweighed the negatives with positives. So a classic study out of the university of Washington asked heterosexual newly. Lead couples to discuss a hot button issue in their relationship for fifteen minutes, and the headline making results found that divorce could be predicted from just the first three minutes of the couple's argument and the key. It turned out was the balance of negative and positive interactions. So in their three minute discussion clips spouses in stable relationships, not careening towards divorce predictably display, the less negative affect like contempt. Belligerence anger defensiveness or whining and more positive affect like validation affection and humor. All right. That makes sense. But interestingly for the husband's examining, the entire fifteen minutes of the argument amplified the ability to predict divorce so over the course of the fifteen minutes, husbands in stable, marriages got a little more negative, but they simultaneously stayed positive always making jokes listening and being affectionate. By contrast, husbands in marriages that would eventually end in divorce got increasingly negative and less positive over the fifteen minutes by the end calling their spouse by cute, nickname or validating. Her viewpoint. Went out the window now later the same research lab developed the magic ratio for a healthy relationship for every negative interaction. They advise you need five positive interactions. In other words, stable couples do argue, but that arguing is filled with joking and teasing and listening and love. Secret. Number four be equal a study in the American journal of sociology found that couples it gala -tarian relationships are less likely to divorce than couples where one brings home the bacon and the other cooks it up. So how do you make things more gala -tarian? It's not as simple as splitting up the chores along traditional gender lines. Because a study in the journal marriage and family review differentiated between low control and high control tasks now, low control tasks are named as such because there is little control or choice in the matter. They have to be done more or less continuously like loading and unloading, the dishwasher at specific times like making dinner or on demand. Like changing a diaper, high control tasks by contrast can be done when it's convenient. And they have a specific beginning and end like mowing the lawn or doing a home repair. So traditionally low control tasks have been designated as women's while high control. Tasks have been labelled as men's therefore to increase gala terrorism. Take a page from many same sex relationships and divvy up tasks by interest and value rather than by gender. So for example, the social butterfly takes responsibility for play dates and social events, the foodie makes dinner or does the grocery shopping, and the tasks no one wants, well, you have three options outsource work around because no one has to water plants if you don't have any or divide them up, and even if the dividing ends up falling along gender lines as long as you decided on those assignments together you'll go a long way towards shrinking resent. Now as a PS in families with kids. There's an avalanche of kid related invisible. Labor scheduling play dates, researching pediatricians ordering soccer uniforms and then returning them when they don't fit and in heterosexual relationships this keeping track of. A thousand and one things usually falls to the woman. So how does this get started? Well, it's been argued that it partially starts with maternity leave. It takes time and practice to gain expertise in task. So when mom's are given a leave of absence, but dads are not mom's gained singular expertise during those hundreds of hours with baby. And then that gap never gets closed. The solution paternal leave. Indeed Pew Research survey found that sixty nine percent of Americans believe fathers should receive paid parental leave which would help level the playing field. So if your job offers, parental leave not just maternity leave take full advantage. And if it doesn't do your best to divide up kid tasks evenly from day one. Annalong gourmet cookware can bring your inspiration to life on the dinner table. Whether you're a gourmet cook or bake off where the Baker they've got you covered with everything from expertly crafted cookware bakeware, cast iron stoneware cutlery, tools and gadgets. So you might try the analog advanced collection. It's twice as hard as stainless steel and with nonstick surfaces. It's easy to clean or you could try out the new Vel copper looks collection with a copper based that looks beautiful and functions perfectly whatever collection you choose you can rest easy. Knowing your gourmet cookware will last for years to come all analog products are protected with a lifetime warranty. So I use analog cookware everyday it heats quickly and evenly. Never sticks and clean up. Is shockingly easy. Perfect for everything from quick scrambled eggs to homemade stock that simmers for a couple of days. So shop an-and at Macy's in store, or at least dot com analog. That's an oh L O N designed for creativity in the kitchen. Today's episode is sponsored by blinking. I the only app that condenses thousands of nonfiction books into the best key takeaways and need to know information. So you can read or listen to them in just fifteen minutes their library is massive and constantly growing with titles, including self help business health and history titles. I'm excited to read like the art of happiness by the Dalai Lama or happier at home by Gretchen Rubin plus classics like how to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie blinking makes it easy to get the key essentials from book during a short commute, a workout or while cooking or cleaning. So join the eight million people were using it already. For a limited time blinking has a special offer. Just for you. Go to blinking dot com slash savvy to start your free seven-day trial. That's blinking B. L I N K I S T dot com slash savvy to start your seven-day trial linka stop. Com slash savvy. Next secret number five, expect a lot of your partner. But not what they can't give you. So while fairytale expectations are bound to be disappointing. A study in the journal of personality and social psychology found that marriages stay happy with a magic combination of high expectations and partners ability to reach them. So in the study couples were asked about their expectations of their relationship and next they were asked to come into the lab identify point of conflict in their relationship and work towards a solution. And researchers watched each partner argue and noted when they avoided the topic criticized or faulted, the other shirked responsibility made presumptions or were hostile. So by contrast. Researchers also noted when partner stayed on topic and furthered the resolution now when individuals had high expectations of the relationship and. Their partners could deliver that match of expectations and ability made for a happier relationship, but not everyone can rise to meet expectations when individuals had high expectations, but their partners how lousy communication skills or dirty those same high expectations set the couple up for disappointment. So the take home is expect a lot of your partner. But only what they're capable of. Secret number six is lie to yourself a little. So remember when you first fell in love, and you thought your partner was the greatest the cutest, the smartest keep them on that pedestal at least

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"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

Happier with Gretchen Rubin

01:35 min | 1 year ago

"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

"I'm Gretchen Rubin. A writer who study happiness. Good habits in human nature. I'm in New York City, and with me as my sister was craft and Elizabeth office birthday parties are a big challenge for you in what you do not so much for me. That's me, Elizabeth craft TV writer and producer living in LA and Gretchen I have to think are many listeners who offered advice about dealing with my messy closet feel your pain they want how they were. I appreciate their thoughtfulness. Yes. Many people think I should put a door on the closet. It is thousands of dollars. Which is why we didn't do it in the first place. But it is something for me to think about for the future people's suggested other ways of sort of rigging up a door not putting in a whole door, but kind of doing a door which sort of don't work for your space. They were good ideas that sorta didn't write or space. Yeah. And then Gretchen one idea. Stuck with me, which I think is a great one is para, it's pairing thing. It's that they do that. I shouldn't put on my beloved slippers because I love getting home getting on my slippers, and my robe and till I put away my clothes for the day. So that would be a way to ensure that I am taking care of my clothes weather. It's putting it in the laundry basket hanging. It back up putting into the dry cleaning pile, whatever it is dealing with it rather than just leaving it on the floor, which is what I usually do. So I'm going to try that. That's good. That's good. And also before we want to jump in and remind everybody that January second..

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"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

Happier with Gretchen Rubin

04:08 min | 2 years ago

"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

"I'm Gretchen Rubin and this is a little happier. Third love is passionate about the perfect fit and they believe it's time for your broad fit. You not the other way around their collections are designed by women for women, so you will love the way you feel under each and every look. And now they offer over seventy sizes and more than a dozen styles. So you'll find the perfect bra for every moment and every outfit get fifteen percent off your first purchase by going to third love dot com. Slash happier today. In August my family and I went on a trip to France, and we visited the World War Two d day sites in Normandy, d day, of course, is the term often used to refer to the landing operations in June nineteen. Forty, four in Normandy, the allied invasion. We visited some of the major d day sites, including Omaha, beach, Utah beach, the Normandy, American cemetery and memorial as well as some sites in little Frenchtown whose names I will not even try to pronounce, lest any French speakers among our listeners have to rip their airfone's from their ears, but we went to them. It was a fascinating day. Aw, inspiring. It is hard to grasp the magnitude of what happened there in June nineteen forty four so much planning, so much courage, so much sacrifice. I've spoken often about my America feeling and no surprise. I experienced the America feeling over and over as we visited those sites, but something that's true for me. Is that I feel ideas most deeply when they come to me through words, I can visit places I can see things, but in the end it's writing that strikes me to the core, and that is what happened in Normandy. I felt my America feeling most strongly to the point that I couldn't stop the tears coming into my eyes. When I came across a reproduction pamphlet called a pocket guide to France. This was a small light pocket-sized pamphlet, which as it said on the cover was a restricted guide issued by the war and navy departments in Washington DC for soldiers going to France. Apparently similar pamphlets were given to soldiers headed to other countries as well. I'm always intrigued by documents like this, how they're written, how they're designed. So I started reading right through it. I expected it to be full of bureaucratic stuffy approved by military committee language. So I was at first surprised by its casual. Slangy language. It was obviously written so that lots of young soldiers would find it easy to read. It also had several Typos, so I suspect it was written in haste to be ready in time. The brief guide included sections on the history of France, the organization of French society, the food helpful phrases and how to pronounce them and material like that. The guide also admonished the soldiers at some length to stay out of various kinds of mischief. And here's what really caught my eye and gave me the America feeling. It wasn't a section headed. You are a guest of France. We're the guide addresses a question that would obviously be of enormous concern to the US soldiers. How would the French people view Americans? Here's what the guide said. Mostly the French think Americans always act square always give the little fellow, a helping hand. And are good natured, big-hearted and kind. They look up to the United States as the friend of the oppressed and the liberator of the enslaved, the French trust, both you and your country more than they do most other men and nations. Keep that trust what a beautiful conception of the United States, my big-hearted country. I hope we will always keep that trust if you'd like to see some photographs of the guide. I'll post them in the show notes. I'm Gretchen Rubin and I helped this makes your week a little happier. Panoply.

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"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

Happier with Gretchen Rubin

04:03 min | 2 years ago

"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

"I'm Gretchen Rubin and this is a little happier. Happier is brought to you by the new CVS drama that asked the question, what would you do? If you've got a friend request from God on Sunday? September, thirtieth. That's exactly what happens to a young atheist named miles finer. And it turns his world upside down. Now he'll discover that he doesn't have to believe for someone to believe in him. God friend me premiere Sunday, September. Thirtieth after sixty minutes on CBS. I am a tremendous admirers of the work and thought of the brilliant eccentric eighteenth century English writer and Lexicographer Samuel Johnson also known as Dr Johnson. I love his work. I sometimes disagree with his observations, but even in disagreeing he helps me understand my own thoughts better and he always expresses himself so beautifully. Lately, I've been thinking a lot about education, the crucial nature of education, the value of great teachers and schools, the importance of helping people get the education they strive for and what happens when people aren't able to get the education that they need and deserve. And that made me think back on a little story in boswell's book the life of Samuel Johnson, much of what we know about. Dr Johnson comes from this absolutely delightful and celebrated kind of sort of biography on the life of Samuel Johnson, which was written by his close friend. James Boswell, and in this book, Boswell recounts a story about a boat ride. He took with Samuel Johnson, Dr Johnson, and I took a scholar at the temple stairs and set out for Greenwich. I asked him if he really thought and knowledge of the Greek and Latin languages and essential requisite to a good education Johnson most, certainly, sir, for. Those who know them have a very great advantage over those who do not nays, sir. It is wonderful. What a difference learning makes upon people even in the common intercourse of life which does not appear to be much connected with. And yet said, I people go through the world very well and carry on the business of life to good advantage without learning Johnson. Why sir? That may be true in cases where learning cannot possibly be of any use. For instance, this boy rose us as well without learning as if he could sing the song of Orpheus to the Argonauts who were the first sailors he then call to the boy. What would you give my lad to know about the Argonauts sir? Said the boy, I would give what I have Johnson was much pleased with his answer and we gave him double fair. Dr. Johnson, then turning to me, sir, said he desire of knowledge is the natural feeling of mankind and every human being whose mine. And is not to botched, will be willing to give all that he has to get knowledge. Now, I don't agree with everything that same little Johnson said and wrote, but I do agree. It is wonderful. What a difference learning makes upon people even in the common intercourse of life and to help people gain occasion and to get it ourselves is one of our most important duties. I often think about how my parents worked and sacrificed and probably does is important set a good example themselves. So I could have a good education and my grandparents before them. I never take it for granted. Samuel Johnson is one of my patron saints. If you want to read more about why and about my other patron saints opposed to Lincoln the show notes, and I'll also post a link to boswell's book the life of Samuel Johnson. I will warn you. I love this book and read it three times and it's a major work in the history of biography, but it's probably not a book that everyone will enjoy. I'm Gretchen Rubin, and I hope this makes your week a little happier. Panoply.

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"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

Happier with Gretchen Rubin

01:36 min | 2 years ago

"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

"I'm Gretchen Rubin, and this is a little happier. Now, have you ever noticed about yourself the way I've noticed about myself that you have certain physical habits or turns of phrase or certain patterns that you're not even aware of things that you do all the time that other people around you notice even though you're not really aware of it and my daughter's Elisa and Eleanor just pointed one of these out to me. I didn't realize that I often do this, but they pointed out to me that I often remark and that's why it's good to be an adult. You say that all the time they told me and I really didn't realize that they laughed at the fact that I had no idea that I sat it, but as I repeated the words, they sure felt familiar. I knew they were right, but it sounds so obnoxious like I'm gloating. I said, no, my daughter Eleanor explained. It's more like, don't worry. This is something you won't have to deal with later. It's temporary. And Elisa added a lot of adults say, judge. Just wait. You think you have to deal with a lot now in high school or college, but just wait until you're out in the world, then you'll really have a lot to deal with. They make adulthood sound like a drag. You make it sound fun? Well, I have to say I do believe that it's good to be an adult and when adult life gets complicated, it's helpful to remember all the benefits that come with it. It has its drawbacks to be sure, but in general, it's good to be an adult. I'm Gretchen Rubin and I helped this makes your week a little happier. Panoply..

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"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

Happier with Gretchen Rubin

01:54 min | 2 years ago

"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

"So it was very exciting for you should go back and read that part because it's like oh such a fulfillment of our dreams this podcast like the we groundwork was laid years before very happy goldstar garage and that is it for this facade of happier remember to try this at home no your purpose let us know if you tried it and if it worked for you thank you to our producer odell you ruben also thanks to andy bowers and kristen minor of panoply thank you to our wonderful guest dynamic duo of brittany loose and eric eddings listen to their podcasts the nod wherever you listen to your podcasts get in touch gretchen on twitter at gretchen rubin in i'm at elizabeth craft our email address is podcast gretchen rubin dot com and if you like this show as always please be sure to tell a friend and subscribe and rate and review us wherever you listen to your podcast the resources for this week people have asked me about how do you find online easily all the podcasts if you go to my site gretchen rubin dot com if you go to gretchen rubin dot com and you look at the top navigation bar the runs or zonta across the top of the site you'll see the word podcast if you click on podcast you'll see all the episodes lined up so if you want to go back and listen to upset seventy four or you want to listen to the next one you can that's where you'll see them all lined up in order also if you want my newsletter where i you know every month or so i send out kind of information and cool links and images and updates and stuff just text six six eight six six and in the message box enter happier and then when you get a text back you enter your email address or you can just email podcast gretchen rubin dot com and just say newsletter in the subject line and i will sign you up.

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"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

Happier with Gretchen Rubin

01:51 min | 2 years ago

"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

"I'm gretchen rubin and this is a little happier a little happier is brought to you by intercontinental hotels and resorts presenting their podcast series stories of the intercontinental life discover stories inspired by travel that will broaden your mind excite your curiosity and take your imagination to places you'd never expect download and subscribe at apple podcasts google play or wherever you find your podcasts i love quotations proverbs aphorism teaching stories cohen's true rules and secrets of adulthood i especially love any single line that's able to capture a complex idea in a single phrase or image a few years ago i was speaking a big happiness conference in sydney australia and during the course of a conversation with another panelist i happened to quote something that no one in the audience seemed to know after a comment i made i added you know even a dog distinguishes being stumbled over and being kicked i was astonished when the audience exploded with laughter i had thought this was a very well known line almost you know sort of a cliche line but they had never heard it before and by the way it is a lion from the common law by oliver wendell holmes and their reaction to this align really turn my attention to the deep truth of this observation and the elegance of the expression of it when someone injures us we know very well and we care a lot about whether that injury was an unfortunate accident or deliberate act and the distinction matters a lot to our response and if i'm feeling bad about something i accidentally did that hurt someone else it can be very comforting to think well it was a stumble but it wasn't a kick.

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"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

Happier with Gretchen Rubin

01:56 min | 2 years ago

"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

"I'm gretchen rubin and this is a little happier a little happier is brought to you by third love when it comes to brush off being it's all about finding the right fit for you the only lingerie brand that offers bras insides as aa through g and halfcup sizes is third love find your perfect fitting broad today at third love dot com slash happier and get fifteen percent off your first purchase i often get my america feeling i get it when i vote or whenever i look at my passport or when i listened to the song the farmer and the cowman from the nineteen forty three musical oklahoma in fact if you want to hear me talk about my intense feelings about that song i'll put a lincoln this show notes to the episode of a little happier where i talk about it and just the other day i was hit by the america feeling very strongly i live in new york city and one of the great advantages of living here is that i'm constantly seeing icon excites i'm just going through my ordinary day and suddenly i see the brooklyn bridge or the empire state building or that bull statue in the financial district but like anything that you see every day sometimes i take these landmarks for granted i look at the gorgeous washington square arch and i don't even really notice it but it occurred to me that there is one landmark in new york city that i never do take for granted and it seems to me that other people don't seem to take it for granted either and that's the statue of liberty i've been on planes crowded with jaded new yorkers are absorbed in their devices and ignoring the pilot and then the pilot says and if you look out the window on the left you'll see a great view of the study of liberty and everyone looks everyone tries to look out the windows and when i walk on the far west side of the city whenever the statue of liberty begins to come into view i see how everyone's head slipped everyone looks for it as they make their approach.

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"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

Happier with Gretchen Rubin

01:52 min | 3 years ago

"gretchen rubin" Discussed on Happier with Gretchen Rubin

"I'm gretchen rubin and this is a little happier wordpresscom is the online home of my site gretchen rubin and it can be your online home to wordpress guides you through the process of creating a website from start to finish and planned started just four dollars a month go to wordpress dot com slash happier to get 15 percent off your brand new website today that's wordpresscomtim happier i'm going to read what of my favorite passages from one of the greatest masterpieces in children's literature i'm going to read the opening pages of ecb whites charlotte's web and if you didn't realize it charlotte's web in addition to being a masterpiece has one of the most famous opening lines and all literature it is right up there with tale of two cities pride and prejudice moby dick so here's the opening pages of charlotte's web where's poppa going with the axe said fern to her mother as they were setting the table for breakfast out to the hog house replied mrs arable some pigs were born last night i don't see why he needs an ax continued fern who is only eight well set her mother one of the pigs is a runt it's very small and weak and it will never amount to anything so your father has decided to do away with it do away with it shrieked fern you mean kill it just because it smaller than the others mrs arable put a pitcher of cream on the table don't yell for and she set your father is right the pig would probably die anyway fern pushed to chair out of the way and ran out doors the grass was wet and the earth smelled of springtime for and sneakers were softening by the time she caught up with her father please don't kill it she sobbed it's unfair mr arable stopped walking fern he said gently you'll have to learn to control yourself.

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