20 Episode results for "fitness trainer"
The 'best' beauty product.
"And. Hello. Hi, and welcome to another episode of the gun show. I am your host and we're gonna wardner and it's another a pot a day in may. Can you believe they twenty four goodness twenty four consecutive pocus? It's been exciting people enjoying the am. This is going to be very quick episode because I noticed with my DM's and with my emails, a lot of people ask me questions that involve the words the best, so it might be what's the best moisturizer? What's the best anti-aging -gree? What are the best probiotics? What's the best of help book? What's the best this, what's the best that, and this is just really a comment on that because it can be so tempting to follow someone somebody brand people, whoever it might be. And if someone says this is the best thing I have ever tried to think that's it in that case, I shall spend my money on it. But I think it's. Always mindful. It's always worth being mindful of the fact that everybody is completely different. We are all snowflakes. We all unique we all wonder for our own special way. So, for example, as you will know let's take it to beauty. I really really enjoy the feel and texture of the clinic moisture surge of what is it the concentrate, which has, which is basically highly neck with some antioxidant microcapsules containing vitamin e and vitamin C? I really get on with that. I really like the texture for me in not only makes my skin feel good. But I feel like accident base for makeup as well. And my skin feels hydrated, all day that works for me, because of whatever's going on with my skin, and my skin type, and whether I'm doing whatever my other lifestyle choices are. So I just want to say it can be with beauty products, whenever friends come round who say can you just please, if I'm giving them things from my cupboard? And they're asking me, what the best thing is always say, don't listen to or believe something else. Look what it does when it's on your skin. If you try the most expensive, high end premium skincare, and it doesn't work well, with your skin. It doesn't mean that your skin's wrong or your wrong. It means that's wrong for you. And I just really wanted to take on and say that because in the context of the fact that we can be swayed to depart with our hard-earned money. If we hear the best, whatever that might be I think it's important to know that the real yardstick, the wheel thing that we should be measuring whether something is good against isn't about someone else's experience or what someone else says it should be about our own experience, and what we know because of trying it, and I do think this is relevant with skin-care, a lot of people say, what's the best anti-aging Queen. For example, you will know that I like retinal. But actually, honestly, my skin expected when I use, glycol Kocit, even though I know retinal is a proven anti-aging active skincare ingredient. I also know that if I use colleague, my skin looks great the next day, it adds a glow to the situation. So they're both really good ingredients. But my skin seems to prefer in the short term glow colic, but someone else might have a better experience. Retinal. You just have to pay attention with what's going on with you. I put on social media this week that I'm using a course of probiotics. My stomach's been out of whack and a couple of people have said oh, can you let me know what you think? And if they're worth the money again, it really depends on what's going on with you. My reaction to them could be really positive and I could do a main good post holding the box. Oh my goodness. Life is much better for having used this, but it all depends on what's going on in my stomach how I respond to those probiotics. So if. If you've got a different situation, those probiotics may not be for you. But you've believed the hype unfortunately, what I what I have to tell a lot of my friends, when they come round is, I'm so sorry, I'm gonna give you these things to try and it really is a case of trial and error because you might hate some things that I think would work for you, and you may love some things that I'm not too sure about. And that's unfortunately the case with beauty product is a little bit of trial and error, which can be fun. You can have fun along the way. That's not forget, but it's just that thing of, don't look for the holy grail based on what other people are saying bandwagon and whatnot go, what it does for you. If your favorite foundation is the cheapest foundation on the market, but it makes us look amazing. That's brilliant. Just keep it simple. And just ask yourself. I'm I really enjoying this. Does this work for me and where we much about what the best is based on a consensus worry about what the best is based on what you. Think thank you becoming to my dog. I mean I just mean, I don't want us to get caught up in if it works for someone else than it has to work for me, pay attention to what your skin likes pay or whatever it might be probiotics fitness, great example of this. I was told by fitness trainer. They took one look at me and said you shouldn't be doing you shouldn't be running long distances. Look at your clearly built for weight work started weight work didn't feel very well. Got quite exhausted then how to DNA turns out that my body doesn't respond well to muscle training, but it responds really well to insurance trading. So instinctively, I was doing the right thing and I go swayed by somebody else. So just ask yourself what really really works for me. Whether that's food. Whether it's lifestyle whether it's exercise, whether it's beauty products, don't get swayed by the best, because it might not be the best view. And you'll the most important thing thank you listening. Thank you subscribing. I will see you tomorrow. Put a day.
Moving Meditation | You Are Amazing Affirmations - 336
"Welcome to this special edition of the Aleem show today you're in for a treat. This is a moving meditation. Now, if you've never listened to the Shalini show, this isn't a typical episode that you would hear. I did an episode that was a moving meditation last year about this time in the response was overwhelming. So with so many people requesting I do another, I've prepared something that I think you'll be able to listen to whenever you need it. This one has been specifically designed to just help you feel like an empowered person to put you in the right frame of mind to believe in yourself. Now d- needed every day maybe maybe you're going through something right now where you just need to hear those affirmations and as hard as you're trying to say and speak positive things to yourself, that negative self-talk can sometimes drown out the positive voice that you want to hear. So I'm hoping I can be that for you. Welcome to the show. Lean show. Jelena's a New York Times. Bestselling author, celebrity fitness trainer, eight obsessed with helping you lick your dream life moving meditations or something I've developed for myself really because I have a really difficult time doing traditional if you will meditation. And I think it's so important for our brains, but just know this, there's no right way or wrong way to meditate. The goal of this program of this episode is for you to be very present. So if you've got a lot of chaos in the car, things are wacky at work and you're trying to listen to this episode, you might save this one for later. Also, it's best to do a moving meditation with headphones on outside in nature. I like to call it a moving meditation because I find that the message sinks in and I'm really able to be present in that thought in that positive affirmation. When I'm outside and when I'm walking or maybe you just want to lay back on the couch or on your bed, put on a pair of headphones, a comfy para sweats, and just relax. Either way. I encourage you to be in the right head space in in the right environment so that you can truly soak the sin. And of course, don't forget to save this episode that way you can refer back to it whenever you need it before we begin make sure that your phone is playing this podcast on normal speed take time to listen to each quote in let it sink in. You are amazing. You're a lovable person. You are strong. You are resilient. You have come so far and you've made it through so many difficult times. You are kind. You are smart, you're funny. And so many people adore you. You have fear, of course you do. We all do, but you keep moving forward because you are courageous. Every day you take another step in the right direction. You make difficult decisions and you take action. You have proven, you have the ability to overcome any challenge that life throws you. You have so many blessings, and there's so many good people around you see them. You can choose to let go of any anger or sadness and let love flow from you in its place. You are beautiful. Your radiance, your joyous. The universe has your back. There are people who love you more than you will ever know. You are worthy of their love. You are worthy of their empathy and understanding and support. You have so much you should celebrate so many accomplishments so many people whose lives you've touched. You are a work in progress, which means you are a success. You are happy and you make other people happy. You feel centered and grounded and certain you're making the right decisions. When faced with difficult situations, you rely on your faith and your friends. You allow the love the you have for others to flow into every situation. You know who you are, so you never waste time worrying about what other people think instead you use your energy to lift others. In every situation you remember to lead with love. This gives you peace. This gives you power. You are confident incapable of accomplishing all of your dreams. You feel for other people, you have profound empathy in love for others. You appreciate each person's unique path. You are authentic and unique. You are perfectly imperfect. You always have and you always will continue to do your best. And that's all anyone can ever ask of you. No matter what obstacle you encounter. You always keep going. Persistence and patients are your guide. You have whatever it takes to get through whatever comes your way. You have just as much power as anyone else. What may have happened to you in the past is in the past, but is up to you to take control of your future. All of your imperfections are what make you a beautiful individual. You have to nasty to rise in the face of whatever adversity comes your way. You have the capacity for more love even when it comes to your enemies. You recognize that love makes you feel free and peaceful. You are a beautiful person from the inside out. You have gratitude and love for the body that you're in and Howard has served you. Rather than worry about your limitations. UC opportunities. You have learned, you can trust yourself. You have come this far and you can keep going. Your past is irrelevant. What matters now is respect. You earn as you move forward, taking the right step in the right direction for the right reasons every day. Your belief in yourself and the love you have for other people radiates, energy that attracts people to you. You have gratitude for every trying time in your life. Those experiences are what made you who you are today? You are becoming more prosperous and more richly blessed every single day. You are worthy of the love, the peace and the joy the you desire. One of your greatest gifts is your warm and caring heart. You are excited about the person you're becoming. You are exactly who you're supposed to be in this moment. Every past moment of your life was meant to make you strong enough to be who you are today. If God didn't believe that you could handle it, it wouldn't have happened. You are living gods purpose. You have the confidence to stand your ground, but the wisdom to know when it's futile to fight. All of your decisions are inspired from an inner wisdom and compassion for others. You are a healer. You have healed yourself and in doing so inspired others to do the same. Your past challenges that came with? It are nothing to hide nothing. You should be ashamed of those things happen to you because you were meant to help others. Life gives you opportunities and you seize them opportunities for success for meaningful relationships and chievements in the areas that matter to you. You stand your ground, you protect yourself, but you do so with compassion. You are amazing.
Episode 7: The Only Power You Have (Gymchiridion 1)
"Hello. This is Corey Nelson with the FIT STOIC podcast episode seven the only power you have. Welcome to the fit stork podcast where we focus on developing our STOIC strength through exercise, so we can operate with excellence in every part of our lives. Build strength beyond the gym. Okay welcome to the show today I'm going to be reading the first chapter of the Gym Caribbean. Everything you need to master your life, you will learn in the gym. This e book that. I wrote a few years back. If you're familiar with stoicism and the end Caribbean, which is the manual, the handbook that encapsulates the main. Principles, in themes of the teachings of Epoch Titas, who is my favorite STOIC? And I had this idea many many years ago. That I thought what would it be like? If epic Titas had been a fitness trainer alive today. What would he say? That was a STOIC related, but more geared toward how people trained in the JIM how they fit exercise. But, still with that that theme of being a better human being. So the Gym Korean is the result of that. In the end when I'm finished, reading this, I'll just have a few other thoughts that I'll add. Right is called the only power you have. Self control is the only power you have. Fortunately, it is the only power you need. You have the ultimate power. You have the power of choice. There are things within your power in. There are things beyond your power. Some things within your power, our European the goals he set for your workouts the workouts. You select your desires, your attitude as you exercise how disciplined you decide to be! What you choose to eat and winning choose to eat it. In summary whatever falls within your ability to choose. Some things beyond your power are the body. You have how healthy you are. How others see you? How quickly you recover from a workout. How your body will respond to your new Diet Regimen. In summary anything outside your ability to choose. Now the things within your power free. Without restraint at your disposal. But the things beyond your power are limited restrained not at your disposal. So if you mistake that which is beyond, your choice is being yours to decide. You will be frustrated. You will be blocked. You will find yourself at odds with reality. And if you truly grasp that the only control you have in life is self control. You'll be creating your life and pursuing your gold free of restriction. Free of faultfinding free of guilt or shame or suffering or harm. And you will tempt nothing beyond your choice. With this is your aim. Remember that takes effort. Energy Focus and You'll need to stop some behaviors. Modify others and start ones completely anew. No this you've contributed to your current health and fitness by the choices you've made up to now. To, achieve new results, you will need new choices. Start now to look at any undesired circumstance and ask. What can I choose to do to create a more excellent stance. then. Consider your options. If there's nothing you can do. Learn to accept that with equanimity. If there's something you can do, take action and let events unfold as they may. STOIC strength ensures success. Not to success of achieving the results you prefer this is beyond the power of your choice. Instead it sets the internal environment that precedes any external success. Excellence of character. This is also how to develop your resilience in the face of failure. There is no more effective way of operating in the world than becoming the most excellent version of yourself that you can imagine. And striving to attain the character, this entails. Choose to be your most excellent self in every possible circumstance. Your experience and the life. You prefer will work out better than if you do anything else. So. That's where the first chapter ends. So this first chapter is talking about the dichotomy of control. Now if you caught my. Episode to back on May, third I wanted to great detail on what the dichotomy of control is all about? But in recap, it's basically saying. Some things are inner power. Some things are beyond our power. And in essence what is inner power is choice. Everything external to our choice, even our own body. Is Not in our control. So we can choose. But. We don't get to choose the result of our choices. So. We may choose our workout. But. We don't get to choose how our body responds to that workout. We may want to build muscle, but that's not up to us. We basically just introduced a stimulus antibody response to it if we've made a good choice in excellent choice and we get the recovery, we need the proper, or we choose to eat the proper nutrition. Then muscle will result, but perhaps it doesn't and sometimes perhaps. The bodies capable of building the muscle that we want, so we have to focus on her choice because that is any the end what's up to us? Now the knock on effect of staying inner power, which is basically staying within our choice that you get to create a life. And circles free of restriction faultfinding free of guilt, shame suffering harm, and all of that sounds probably a little bit odd. Free of restriction. While I can't just do anything. So there's there are restrictions. Free of guilt or shame or suffering or harm. All, these seem like absolute possibilities. However when the storks talk about. These types of results with a mean is. that. If it doesn't harm our moral character than there has been no harm. In the only thing that can damage our moral character. Is Our own choice. Only our choice can harm our choice, because no one else has any say over that, we can be influenced, but we're choosing to be influenced were free of restriction, because nothing can restrict our choice to be morally upright to have strong character to make excellent choices. no-one can change that possibility other than our choice to be restricted. We can not suffer harm. We can suffer physical harm but to the STOIC. This isn't A. Bad thing. Because it's not, it doesn't harm our character if we choose not to let it harm our character. So, that's something else that. Is a little bit hard to accept, and it's. It's a very strange way of thinking, but there's great freedom in it. So a little further on. A post the question. that. You Ask yourself when you're faced with circumstances that you don't prefer to experience and the question was. What can I choose to do to create more excellent circumstance? And this again. Wells down to what can you choose to do if there is nothing that you can do then just accept that that's reality. In that again is a choice and if there is something that you can do, then choose to take action. and. Then events unfold as they may, because again. We don't get to choose what the results of our choices are. We all get to choose our choices. Now for me the strongest. Point to take from all this. Is that the way I put it? STOIC strength, which is virtuous, self-control and choosing excellence. This ensures success, and that's not just hyperbole. because. This the the success. The STOIC care about is not external success. It's not a massive pile of money or creating a physique that the envy of everybody that kind of thing it's the. The success of a character that we can be proud of. That we consider to be excellent. Because again, that is up to no one except ourselves, so the interesting thing is that. By choosing STOIC strength or virtuous self-control in the moment. You experience success immediately. You've created. The internal environment. that. Has the greatest influence in the direction they want. Of creating those external results. But. That's not the goal that's. That's what's interesting about STOIC PHILOSOPHY That's just a knock on effect. So the very last paragraph I this the sentence, there is no more effective way of operating in the world. Than becoming the most excellent version of yourself that you can imagine and striving to attain the character this entails. And I use that phrase operating very specifically. It's like an AMMO. The modus operandi, which in my mind is operating with excellence in the moment of choice. And that basically means imagining. Who you would be what you would do, if you the most excellent version of yourself. Imagining what the most excellent circumstances would be not only for yourself, but for the people that are involved for the world. If you think that that globally. And then taking the power that you have your power of choice and enacting that choice putting it into action operating on it. That is the best that anyone can do. So that will be the end of that one. And the plan for the foreseeable future for this podcast is that I'm going to go through the Jim kyri chapter by chapter. There's going to be fifty three chapters I'm just gonNA. Go through them one at a time and probably a little bit. More than just once a week as well just because you know. Some of them are very short summer longer, but some of them are like you know three sentences maybe. In the end of each one after I've finished reading point out some details, and maybe just elaborate or just talk about some interesting things that are related all right, that's it. Not Stand of another episode of the fifth STOIC podcast. Thanks for listening. If you like what you heard. Share with someone you believe might like to. Goodbye for now. This is corey. Wherever, your challenge operate with excellence.
Working out at home how to stay Motivated
"Wow. It was so scary. And so painful. It was probably one of the worst things that's ever happened to me. Hello there. And welcome to get healthy lose weight the podcast where I teach you how to get healthy. So that you can lose weight naturally. Thout crazy diets and counting calories. This is your host E ON. The Lynn I'm Alexis esta Titian and certified health coach on today's episode. I'm going to be sharing with you some tips on how you can stay motivated when working out at home. I know him very late in getting an episode out to you. Well, that's because I had an incident with my lower back. My back just went out. Yeah. Wow. It was so scary. And so painful, it was probably one of the worst things that's ever happened to me. Well, maybe not the worst. But it was pretty bad. I now have even more compassion for anyone who suffers from back pain and besides being. In pain. It can make you feel so vulnerable in old. It's really made me start feeling my age. There are so many people who suffer from back problems. And in many cases, it could have been prevented just by doing some simple stretches and exercise as we age our buddies naturally become weaker and weaker, and as we know more susceptible to inflammation and diseases. I'm sure we've all heard of people who just simply died from old age and what happens is their bodies. Just get too weak to function. I come to realize how very important it is to do some exercise. I know I don't really talk much about exercise on the show. And it is true. You don't need to exercise to lose weight. I'm really good about eating healthy. I got that down. But I really lacked the motivation for exercise, I sip for long hours at a computer. And apparently, it's causing me to start having back problems. If I don't get up every now, and then and do some stretches and movement, I'm going to have some serious back problems. If you're a person who sits for a while. And after getting up your back is sort of stiff, well, I'm sorry to say, but that's an indication that sooner or later, you're going to have a back incident. But this episode really isn't about back pain or back problems. I'm getting a little off track. Here. Today's episode is about how to stay motivated when. When you do work out at home, just by maintaining some regular stretching and exercise can help keep you flexible, healthy and younger now, I want you to think about the people, you know, who do work out on a regular basis. Don't they seem to balance around with energy and radiance I've met people that appear much older than their age. Just by the way, they move their movement seem kind of stiff and slow. So I do realize that exercise is very valuable and I've joined numerous gyms over my lifetime. And well, I'm almost barest to tell you I'm joined gyms and never even went wants to the gym after spending all that money. I've never even gone not even one time. It was just too big of a hassle to go to the gym. What I learned about myself is that I could work out at home. I was. Able to maintain regular workouts by doing them at home. This is when I was younger before I got married, and that's another story like a lot of people once we get married and start raising a family, or in my case opened a business up exercising just as a priority anymore. Now that I'm older I have different reasons why I feel exercises important, and that's to remain healthy and youthful and flexible, I don't want to end up in my old age being in pain or being hunched over or stiff one of the hardest things about exercising at home is being able to stay motivated. So today, I'm going to share with you a few ways I have found to keep myself on track. You just finished a long day at work, and it's around six PM. And now you get to sit in traffic for over an hour until you finally get home to put your feet up. Well, if you're anything like me chances are you may not have the time or motivation, Dexter Cise. Most of us in today's busy world have a hard time or find it difficult even to go to the grocery store for fresh food, much, less workout taking two hours in the morning or evening to train hard is difficult. We just don't have the time in our busy lives. And I get that. I really do. I totally understand that. However, the rise of fitness movements like calisthenics has made it easier and more accessible for all to exercise to the best of their ability in any location with a. Wide array of information online regarding exercise programs, and various workouts. Really the most difficult component is not how to exercise for rather. How to stay motivated for me? Personally. I prefer working at her home now in the past I've joined maybe two three or maybe even four gyms and never ended up going once it's much easier for me to work out at home. And there was a point in my younger days, or I did pretty much regularly workout at home, but I know for some people working out at home can be very difficult. I mean gyms are built to be spaces where people all all goals and fitness levels can gather together an motivated other for some this can be intimidating but for many seeing others exercising and working hard. Can't be a great source of motive. Nation, but in your own home gym, you'll not have that for this reason. It's important to find unique ways to motivate yourself when working out at home your biggest challenge is staying on track in progressing towards your goals. Keep in mind that any goal that you have a building muscle or losing weight will take time after all this is not a week long event. You'll need to stay motivated over the course of many months. So the big question remains, how can I stay motivated for the long term? So now here are some things that have worked for me change it up. This is one of the easiest methods to stay motivated, if you're continually doing the same workout or series of workouts. You may find that you get bored very quickly. And addition having no variety in your training will make your progress slower. Our do yourself a favor and keep your mind. Open for doing unique workouts? Follow your favorite fitness trainer on social media chances. Are they will post workout routines that you can follow along with and see faster results? One of the best investments. I have made is a suspension tool suspension, tools, like the TRX are great ways to always have a source of fun and engaging exercise push up in lunges can get boring. Very quickly suspension tools have a huge amount of online videos with exercises for big dinners all the way to advanced a when you make the exercising fun and interactive you'll be more motivated to exercise in stay on track. Suspension tools are great they can help with that. I have put a link in the show notes to my Amazon store will you can check out my favorite suspension tool. And just a reminder when you use that Amazon link my Amazon link you do help support the show believe me when I tell you know, Amazon affiliate is getting rich. It just barely pays for the cost of producing this show. So please if you do decide you want to buy a suspension tool, please use my link. Thank you. All right. So moving on. Now, you do need to make time you need to integrate your home workouts into your daily schedule. Understandably there will be days when you don't want to train, but having your workout in your schedule and viewing them as an important element of your life will ensure you prioritize the workout. You really are more likely to follow through on training sessions. When your workout time is on your regular schedule at the top at the same time each day or the same time each week making it a habit will get you to automatically workout without having to make the decision to do it. So now, what do you think our homework outs ripe for you? Well, homework outs aren't right for everyone. Many people do enjoy the setting of a gym and find that training at home, very difficult. If you're the type of person that can self motivate and plan, your days ahead of time, home workouts might be just right for you. Not only are they a great space to develop your relate of strength. But training at home is cost efficient time, saving and a great way to connect with yourself. All right, folks. That concludes today's. Episode. I'm sorry. My foist is so bad today. I have seasonal allergies. And I am really congested today. Anyway, if you'd like to get a weekly tips on how to lose weight health and weight loss tips, plus a weekly free recipe, then please join a my of and you can join a my a weekly newsletter. There is a link in the show notes or you can contact me. Deanna at beauty radio network dot com. Tweet me at a beauty podcast or join get healthy lose weight on Facebook. All right. Then with all that being said, I wanna wish you the very best week stay healthy and lose weight by now.
Is Yoga the secret weapon for Tennis? Interview with US Navy Fitness Trainer & Yoga Instructor Marcia Gray
"Thank you under. Agassi had the school. You don't have to be better than everyone else in the draw. Go OUT ON THE COURT. You have to be better than someone. That's been active in a sense. You know go out there this sports. I think it always makes it feel better. Maybe more tied in very moment but actually the recipe feels better. Then I think giving back as well you know making other people happy is going to give you a good feeling to hello and welcome to tennis. Pow CHRONICLES THE PODCAST to feed your passion for all things tennis. This podcast is sponsored by tennis PAL. Tennis PAL FOR IPHONE and android is an APP for anything tennis. It connects you with players and coaches to chat schedule play time and share moments with download the APP today. Unfortunately my co host Valerie. Curtin join me today. But she is safe and doing well just super busy with their new job. This podcast is full of very practical information and actions to improve your tennis. My guest today is Marcia Gray. Who is a certified yoga instructor and a passionate tennis player? She's going to be sharing her story. And how yoga is her secret weapon to tennis fitness stay tuned as she share some. Great Yoga exercises. That will improve your serve and your unit turn for your strokes. Marcia is a US Navy fitness trainer and has helped some of the fittest human beings on the planet to pass their navy physical readiness test. She's had an amazing fitness life including leading Navy officers through fitness workouts on the decks of aircraft carriers and naval warships. I mean who does that? Marcia is. Ac Certified Personal Trainer A. C. E. Certified Group Exercise Instructor and is certified for t r x fitness and prenatal fitness. So you can bet. She knows what she's talking about most important to us here at tennis. Power chronicles is that. She's super passionate about tennis and has fallen in love with the sport. She is developing a workbook for tennis yoga which she hopes to have available in the upcoming weeks. But you get to have some of those yoga specific exercises right. Here on our podcast. Let's check in with Marcia Gray who joins US via skype from her home in Virginia so Marcia. Thank you so much for joining me on the tennis Powell chronicles podcast. I'm thrilled to be here. Thank you so much. I'm tennis NERD. Antennas and that so I think this is going to be great conversation. Well we talk on a day. That is kind of Epic because you are in Virginia is at right. I am in Virginia. Yes and anchor it yet and from what I understand. Virginia just yesterday declared a statewide stay at home for the coveted corona virus pandemic correct so are we are all now if at all possible working from home telecommuting teleworking. I myself as a fitness professional and Yoga instructor am livestream mean my classes from my living room. Wow thank you and you know the pets walking out and you know people ring the doorbell so you know it's all real life but at least another way even though we're all separated we can still be together but in a different or right. I think we're all having to relearn idea of connectivity in a new way and it feels very futuristic but at the same time it feels very disconnected in a lot of way. So I'm really grateful that we get to connect in the Stay at home. Order for a while If I remember correctly yes California has been I think it's now three weeks and it has been a learning process for everyone here in California and we're really struggling. They're saying that the next two weeks are really going to be the most dangerous for all of us and that the the numbers are going to spike. So you know it's a very crazy time. It's very frightening time full of fear and at the same time you still. I literally every day. I get a text from someone who wants to play tennis Must do I play like John. Out there out there. But yeah I mean now. You teach primarily outdoors. Is that correct? We Yeah we only have outdoors in southern California. So I've talked to a lot of people on the East Coast and I know that there's an indoor season in an outdoor season because of the weather but here in southern California. It's all outdoors. There is no indoor. I know I I lived ago in San Diego on the bay area so I can't deny I really miss that weather. So yes so. That probably hasn't spilled to your business so much as far as at least other than being more mindful of the social distance in maybe Only one person using the ball hopper such like that I mean is that kind of how it translates for you. The whole thing has been shut down. So I'm the director of tennis for a Susa. The city of his USA and the whole city shut down all recreation programs. All courts everything Weeks ago so they actually locked the court so that people would not be gathering there because people were still playing and they still are today and I really want to encourage all of our listeners to stay at home Even though you feel like you can go and play on the tennis court by yourself and practice. What happens is for myself? I'm kind of one of the leaders of our community group and so if I go out there and play everybody will say oh well. Pk's out there playing so we should all go out and play with PK and it just becomes an immediate community gathering again and so if we all have the mentality. I'm just GonNa go practice by myself. You'll have twenty people on the court and it's really very very hard. It's a beautiful day here in southern California and it's so hard to not go to the Tennis Court Rights Marcia Gray you're a certified personal trainer and what I think is so interesting in reading. Your bio is that you were a fitness trainer for the US Navy a certified trainer for the US Navy where you did trx prenatal fitness. Tell us about that experience. How did you end up being a fitness trainer for the navy? And I feel like that's a lot of pressure isn't it to be because these are some of the fish people in the world aren't they they really are? And it was a little daunting at first and thinking. Okay I WANNA be a always was passionate about fitness. I said my bio That I was kind of a self described gym rat always like the endorphin rush of exercise weight training in staying in shape Like to water ski like to Bet Play Basketball CETERA. But as I was introduced to the navy and working out in the military gyms people would often ask me for tips. And Hey what do you think about that? Oh what's that movie you're doing on that machine and so I I'd say oh it's this or that or sometimes they would just come up to me and back in our Walkman days I might add a Nice Louisa Walkman and and they'd say are you a trainer in now now now and I got that enough times where people would ask me questions that I thought to myself. You really think that that would be a better fit for me. I think that maybe something I loved to do. Absolutely love helping people like Educating People. Much like you do with your tennis career. So I took the Liberty A. N. Gut myself certified as a personal trainer and then Certified exercise instructor being the community. That I was working out was the military base in so I thought let me see if I can kinda you know. See if I can get you know. Put My toes wet and see if I could maybe work fare. Lo and behold they hired me and boy what a phenomenal experience that entire the entire Navy fitness trainer job afforded me. I mean it was. Just an ad can't speak for like the other end of the spectrum from Lake maybe a A one life for a planet fitness which they have back here. What it's like in that community but as a military navy fitness trainer yes the standards are very very high so not only did I have to instruct and show and demonstrate and designed programs for the military to keep in shape for their pr cheese also known as the Physical Readiness Test that they have twice a year. But I also had to my fitness level. Because I WANNA be up there going hacking along up you know or just you know guys hold on a couple of seconds my my fitness level as well so you know I was exposed to people from all over the world. All Different Cultures made lifelong friends military spouses military service members retirees department of Defense civilians. Everyone that had access to work on the bays had access to to come workout in gym so I great experiences with Foreign military that would come dignitaries that would come on. Bass they'd WanNa work out so either. Do some personal training with them or a group training also just all different walks of life all shapes and sizes all people that have come from a high level of sports training to Navy SEALS TO PEOPLE. That are you know pretty much. I call him desk drivers people that never really we're into fitness and they work for the navy and they've been behind a desk for twenty thirty years and knew that they should probably stay in shape. But it's just I'm just here at my job and put my time in until I can retire so Those were the kind of people that really like to work with the most because those people immediately saw results while looked and said you know I need to get in shape. I need to I'm GONNA I'm thinking about starting a family or I'm going to become a grandmother or a grandfather. I WANNA be able to keep my grandkids so really interesting people that would come into my office. Seek Nutrition Advice Seek specific goals. And what they wanted to do. Obviously lose weight was Ah Popular Wine and just you know that that human connection that you can make with people and you know I really care about each and every single one of my clients that I've ever worked with and I wanted to help them and if they're exercise didn't quite look like mine. I just made sure with no judgment that they knew that everybody's body mechanics are different in. Your exercise. Looks Different From Mine. But you're still doing exercise. And you're still benefiting your body Rhode Opportunities to work with Navy people on the flight decks of ships out at the beach with big commands of people. It was just a really great experience and I loved every moment of it absolutely well. That has been amazing to have led Classes on the flight fix of US Navy ships. I mean what was that like? It was kind of surreal to be honest. You're just looking around and you see all this. You know radar and all these you know. Some of them are nuclear power and some our brand new because this is the world's largest navy base so you get the brand new ships in the Wednesday kind of look like ships so that future That would be right. You know right across the street from the water run Gym where I were. My Office was and the huge floating ship. Sometimes of you know if it's fully man for like a deployment. There's like three thousand sailors on board there is there's an operating room right. There is a dental clinic. There's a barbershop. There's a little You know there's a bank it's really like its own community there and Leah's it's like a city not as glamorous as maybe like a cruise hat really quite honestly I mean the the sailors All head what they needed when they were out. You know serving your country so it was just really cool. It just took a couple of moments to just look out on the water and just go. Oh Wow wow. How did I get here? But I'm loving every minute of it. It's just really a phenomenal phenomenal experience. Really really great. Yes yes yes. And yes. There were people that You know I'm not GONNA lie. They didn't really want to hear anything from a attitude's changing but some of them are like lady right and I was like well. Hang on. Fasten your seatbelt. We're GONNA have some fun here so that was kind of something to overcome but really it was just making sure that. I put out a good product. I present myself well. I was able to demonstrate what I was asking them to do. So I just really took my level of fitness really seriously because I really wanted to have them benefit to the best of their abilities so I think that's a lot like Women Coaching and tennis. Where they there's a struggle for women coaches to have kind of legitimacy and it's a very male dominated environment unfortunately thankfully there's some things that are changing with the Women's Tennis Coaching Association. And some new initiatives within the US Ta. But I'm sure that was an uphill challenge for you especially when you're in a community of people who pride themselves on being the fittest in the world. Exactly it really was it really. Wasn't there were times when I was just like I'm GonNa ever overcome this once. They saw that. I was able to do what they do right once. They heard my method to my madness in my reasoning behind their their movements. Okay and the benefits Dan. They started going on this lady. Kind of knows what she's talking about. So yeah it really in an up until would say probably about ten fifteen years ago. Women really weren't that integrated into the military especially on the navy as when you deploy on ship you know. They're afraid of it becoming the love boat rate with male and female there so the navy was one of the last services is to really kind of integrate women so it really is still a male dominated but that is changing interesting. Well let's jump into your tennis career which I'm sure you are passionate about sharing. You started playing about ten years ago. Okay yes I did and I did it as a way to kind of connect with my son who is in college at the time and I said you know what let's when he was on a break in I would have a day off. I'd say you know what let's go find something to do outside. Let's not sit around. And so he said okay in what I of course I was like Look at the sitting recreationally what they have to offer and I just said Hey. How'd that tennis? It's will give a try and that's all it took. He loved it. I loved it. A great time is a great social outlet. It was a great bonding experience for us. Something even today that we still share a passion for your first experience was a tennis class as part of recreation. Yes similar to what you talk about that city of Zuza and the and the recreational on programs that you guys offer for the city. That's for the was. It really was so really enjoyed it. Love the You know I love to exercise. Is I love the endorphin rush. I love the fact that I was in control of of how I could progress in how I could learn from the professionals to really up my level and the very you know as you know. Tennis is kind of a self export for lack of a better term. Because we're thinking about all about you and what you're doing on the court that changes when you're with doubles and you're thinking about your partner in you but it's also kinda lonely right so when you think about tennis and it's really an individual. How am I going to perform when I step on that court? And how am I going to do the best of my ability to let's face it? We all like to win right. Yeah so but it's been a real steep learning curve right amid all of a sudden you're like some phone it's one time my doubles partner and I said let's just play in a fund tournament in these ladies. I promise you were probably eighty plus years old with with You know knee Straps around them in their ankles and their and their Their elbows inside and I was like this right. She's like specifically love six. Love six out people that are playing a long time. I am admire very jealous of the fact you guys could just play sat ball and you look so not threatening but you can just basic late school s so for them so it is a pretty steep learning curve but you must be a competitive person because I find that the people who really stick with tennis are the people who love to win I do. I do love to win. I though income growing up in a big family. I'm one of six kids right. And so it was kind of survival of the fittest. Whenever we'd go out and play Kick the CAN and or softball or Hide and seek or whatever the case may be and There was always either my dad or older sibling. That was always winning. And of course you know that. Just kinda sticks a young person's mind and was like wait a minute. I'm GONNA find a way around this and if it's the last thing I do in beat you one day kind of started from that it. Kinda started from that too when you go out into tennis court you. WanNa win you win and you lose but I really really have always appreciated and it's something that I pride myself on. Is that you win. Some you lose some be a gracious loser as much as a Added winner there ladies. Unfortunately that I play against an women's leagues this is probably pretty common throughout the country. are very sore losers. And don't want to shake your hand or in today's world maybe give you a virtual elbow Bump and that is something that just kind of leaves you with a sour taste in your mouth. I'm sure you've had that fill up where I've been lucky that you wouldn't that wouldn't be part of your repertoire. Well you know what happens when you get on the tennis court you you all your passion Becomes inflamed and you just WanNa win so I think I'm like you. I'm very competitive but I definitely have learned over the years. That tennis is just a game. It doesn't define who you are doesn't define whether you live or die. It's just something that you enjoy and you definitely enjoy it a lot less if you take it so seriously that you heard other people. So did you play tennis at all in connection with the Navy or is there Tennyson Navy? There is recreational tennis each and every year they would have a tennis ladder for women and men and as long as you either worked on the base or you were In military member you could join and there are tennis courts outside the gyms and I just on a whim said what would it be great thing to do and so I did and my first time that I did the tennis ladder. Don't ask how this happened but I won and I guess because it almost seemed like it was almost too easy but not that. I'm like Mrs Fabulous Kansas Pro. But it just all of a sudden wow okay. I guess I'm so then. Of course that created more of a desire to want to continue and of course other times I did I lost I did not win the trophy Equalizing isn't it ten is's sure. What is it like the tennis program in the Navy? I don't think I've ever heard of that. Well I'm as far as Playing tennis yeah I mean. Are there a lot of players in the navy that are playing tennis is it? Is there a big league is it? How would you define case? So it's really kind of a informal. Hey if you guys want to play tennis. And of course. Any of the military retirees or active-duty Men and women a lot of played also at their lives right. They could come and join the TENNIS LADDER. And then it would start a certain time date and then end certain date and then we would just continue playing throughout the summer and so that is really like a recreation league as far as like the. Navy sports there are navy's or it's where they do play football against each other and they actually traveled across the country to different bases. That's not tennis so they kinda keep it local within the basis. I'm not to say a lot of tennis players on the world's largest naval base especially the males. So it's still pretty. You know pretty Popular even though they're out for a while and they come back in. They're still sticking to their tennis game. Wow that is so cool. Is the general public civilians. Are they allowed to go on the base and play tennis or is it just all navy? Okay no because of all of the you know. The terrorists The unfortunate yes the rise of terrorism in our you know in the world you have to have Identification credentials to be able to get through the base. Now if I had a civilian read that was in the car with me and I was driving I could present my i. D A They could get on the base with me but otherwise no yes. Oh Oh that's interesting so so yeah for tennis. That kind of I've been playing for about ten years. I'm certainly Super Need Room for improvement. But I love it I love it I love it. I try to play about three to four times a week. I know I'm preaching to the choir with you because you are this Mr tennis man in California but It's just I don't know it's like my happy place. It really is which I'm sure you found yourself. Yeah and and even seeing your pictures on instagram. And I'll put that in the show notes. People can follow you but seeing your pictures on instagram. Makes me really happy when I see you playing? And you're saying how happy you are and you know definitely one of the reasons that I said. Oh I need to interview this passionate tennis player and I thought originally urine Seattle because your instagram name is Seattle Great Alhambra. Yes yes well. You can't take you could take the girl on Seattle. You CAN'T SEATTLE Name yet because of my lifestyle. I am over on the military. I'm over on the East Coast tries to get back once or twice every other year just on in the summertime. As you know you've been to Seattle. I saw on instagram. Sometimes it's not cool Iranian. Not so fun. Whether other times it's beautiful mountains and tall green trees in the water so I try to go in the summertime. How about you when you go Yeah I usually go for work so I just ended up there either for tennis or for like the event that you saw that I was producing. Yeah and it's it's always fun. It's a great great space Guy Cha Cha so I really am passionate. In addition to tennis I'm passionate about educating tennis players about the benefits of yoga because yoga is beyond beneficial for everybody. Everybody's body and then you put that in the repertoire of someone the plays tennis and it is exponentially even a greater benefit. Let me ask you Philip. Have you ever done yoga before? I haven't. I have not done yoga. Okay Yeah we'll that's normal. A lot of people are like. Yeah Yeah I know I think sometimes as a yoga instructor I teach at a Yoga Studio in Virginia Beach. I love it. I absolutely love it and Trot on the base for about three years loved loved. It loved it started. Bringing the community of the Yoga Community on the navy base we really cultivated a huge following and people would come with all different walks of life. Shapes sizes body aches Medical problems And they would come. I would just guide them but it was they. They were the ones that would come into the room. Roll out there Matt. Show up every day. And they're the ones that benefited they would tell me. Marcia I don't have planner fasciitis anymore. March I don't have my rotator. Cuff feels better. I feel like I am open more in my body. It just feels better. I can move with ease. So that was yeah. That's so great and because tennis is such a physical game and getting more and more physical every day the balls just moving faster people really need to be in the best shape Can you explain to us as a certified Yoga teacher? How does Yoga help your tennis? What what do you find that it really improves? Great Question Okay. So Yoga Helps. Us Explore Movement in our body in maybe Different areas like. Let's just say for example when you your your typical workday. If you were like working at an office you'd walk forward. You get in your car. You sit most of a slump a little bit you know looking over our phones or maybe you're tired and you're slumping over while you're driving. Okay bad posture right. You get out walk forward and you go. Sit Down your desk several hours a day right. So Yoga allows you to move laterally allows you to rotate your spine. It allows you to open your shoulder girdle and open your hips and keep us Novia fluids in those joints. Nice limber and open. Why is the tennis that I mean Yoga? That much more Official for ten is because the soldiers of our body the shoulder turn in rotation that unitarian when you do the the forehand and or the backhand right when you rotate the hips and shoulder. Turn Unietd pliability in movement from side to side laterally to be able to get that full range of motion and then you can plant your feet and when you do your Your forehand and for example you may be an open stance this allows you to have a great base of support to allow to be more powerful Maybe with with your swing and much more dynamic in powerful with your serve. If you've got a healthy shoulder girdle Also I really preach. We do a lot of movements in yoga for the like a what is called the wide leg forward fall which is kind of just the same thing as just folding. You know you're standing. But and maybe touch your toes. You just take a step back you rotate. To one side of your. That's a wide leg forward. Fold and then maybe you bend. Your knee is side to side right. Those are Training and along aimed at doctors the inner size of your body as well as your outer side. The abductors okay. Because think of Djokovic which he's always got a wide stats what he's on the court if you can picture him right now. He's usually has his knees bent a little bit. And he's got a very wide base of support. That's really important. And how you GonNa work on having a natural base of support you got to open those inner and outer thighs right. And you've got to rotate the hips out. Little bit of rotation internal an extra rotation that gives you a bigger base of support so with that It allows you to really count. Hav the feeling remember when we were kids and you could just go out and start picking up a baseball and start playing basketball or Frisbee or whatever the heck you know the soccer whatever and no matter what you wanted to do your body would go in that position and you just freely move right. Yeah sure so but then as we get older and we get more sedentary job and we don't go outside and play with our friends right and we just go to the gym. Those areas the muscle bellies of the body. This is another good reaching for Yoga begin to shorten right. The muscle bellies are a certain length. If you don't use them much like a rubber band they're going to shorten and get stick. So if you are long getting the muscle bellies of the of your hamstrings. Which are really important tennis. So is you more explosives movement when you split staff all of that. You're right so if you're a long getting your muscle bellies opening your shoulder girdle making sure you're paying attention to your rotator cuffs which are area injury for a lot of people on the backside of your back you think of your muscles opposing muscle group right there and you're also working your Scalp Ula which helps take those shoulder blades. Up and down as they go throughout the day all of those related to your server and you're moving on the court right so think of yeah think like navy an older person in your life maybe a grandparent or maybe a parent or whoever and you know how people typically when they get older when they walk they start shuffling a little bit and I had this maybe a little bent over. Maybe a little bent over yet because they tend to get more sedentary tired and such that just happens with the human body so it's really really important. Keep in charge of your body's Movement. Open up the hips. Open up the shoulder along the muscle bellies is. GonNa help you. Tennis GAME IS GONNA make you a little bit more faster. Reaction Better slips split. Step better power in your legs. Cain more explosive movements right sometimes when you are moving side to side you're going to have a wider base to support in stronger muscles so back to the the elderly people. They might hunch over they might. Shuffle is because they don't really move the way they used to. They still had long muscle bellies. Like we do. It's just over years like a Rabanne Start. Shortening and shortening shortening. So when they go to walk maybe walk the dog or walk with their grandchild or the their child. They're much slower than maybe the other person and so I always preach. You can be tight and you could be. Oh Gosh I have no flexibility but you can always work on an improved. You might not be able to you know. Put your forehead down to go. You're seated put your forehead straight down onto your knees. That's okay but you're getting more flexible for your body and that's all win. Win is a win win. That's so great. I know I've taught Older people serve and the service motion is pretty strenuous on the body. And lots of people that I have worked with have lost the ability to have their the racket. Drop behind their back because they just don't have that flexibility in their shoulders and they're kind of upper back any longer and it's great to hear that maybe they can improve on that flexibility if they were to use something like Yoga. I know for myself. I'm thinking a lot about balanced these days. Of course my favorite players Roger Federer and I think he's the most balanced player on the court in the pro tour. I watched myself on video. I'm always so ashamed that I'm so off-balance when I'm hitting ball So I've been thinking about that a lot and I've got to think that you'll go. Maybe helps with balance absolutely and just a quick point before I forget reading in your bio. You said this is such a ironic saying your two favorite players. Are Federer Marisha or POA? Insane with me. Damon me okay. Good Grapevine speak like yeah but you know you could what people have different ins about Maria but I really admire her work ethic in which he did for her career in in what she's doing after now but A Roger Auch. Wow I mean such a fan of his so but yes back to what you were saying yes. Balance is really key back to that wider base of support. So if you are going to balance right in your hip with the part in somebody said lift your foot right. You might get all wobbly right but if you but then that's for example a lot of US amateur players will be at the net reading for that ball. Enter waiting for the serve and we're ready for the ball or feet or hip with the part right. We're already going to go ahead and smash this and all that. That's where the base of support for Balance. When you hit your. Would you go for your four hundred backhand or your volley comes really integral because if you started the net. You probably already know this. Then you probably teach this he k. but if you start with a wider base at the net especially and even at the base line you've got much more stability better position for when you have to take that back. I can't volley or step to take that or hand volley right yes and then you. Your upper body is not leaning over. Right why your lower body is still you know. Forward squared hips. So it's you wide near base and you move from side to side laterally split. Step back right you. Are you the only thing you have to be? Mindful of is not letting your upper body your shoulders and your head start leaning because oftentimes I do this. I sort leaning like okay. I'm coming from my back and especially at the net and I am Nat hip with the part and then I start. Getting fairly fooled by head goes to left. My shoulder goes to my left. But my my hips are lagging behind. Does that make sense? Absolutely I completely understand what you're saying it. It is something that I try to teach and also try to learn because I feel like I need to improve on my balances. Well so what I preach when I teach yoga especially if I can get my tennis player friends to come to my class which I they have A. Yeah Okay Marschall Calm. And then they're like. Wow Wow I feel so much better. And it's almost like that after the first class right sometimes even after the First Class. I always teach on stability in your body. What does that mean that means working on being very strong on from like a house from your feet and the foundation of a home all the way up the stronger you start from the bottom and then you strengthen your calves when you're splits stepping right you are making your way up to your hips in your knees right. Those are strong of course pretty much everything in Yoga. Antennas STARTS AND STOPS WITH THE CORE. Really strong core all the way to the roof. Line right your shoulders are open. Stability in your body is going to get to a lot further as we all age. I call it aging with ease. I preach stability in muscle endurance with Yoga poses as we hold them or we balance on one foot. Ray Tip We we work and build muscle and we build muscle endurance. We give stability back that way. Our we lift one leg and also hoop the cores like. Oh I guess I have to start waking up working here. So stability is the most important thing on the tennis court on Yoga really in your every activities of daily living AD L. Which is the basis of functional fitness right so stability before mobility so. Make sure you're nice and stable and then work on your mobility from there because the more stable. You are the better. You're going to be able to move. Why does that make sense? Sure does and I really appreciate you sharing that. I think it would be great for you to produce a yoga tennis video because I think all of my students should be watching it and I should be watching it as well. One of the things that most people struggle with at the recreational level is they basically are standing up while they're hitting there. There is no base. There is no kind of lower core strength so so because of that. They're always leaning to one side or the other right when they're hitting They don't have that strong foundation that you're preaching what's one exercise that you think would really help people to to go lower and have a stronger base because I think a lot of people are afraid of hurting their knees or they don't have the strength in their legs or they're good question so you know once you start any kind of functional fitness movement meaning anything that mimics for everyday movement right. What you start that. Those are typically compound exercises. You know when you want to do a bicep curl your isolating for the bicep muscle. Right a compound move is maybe. We're working our quads. Were working are gluts? Who Work in our hamstring. Were working our core when we go down into a squat. Just Body Weight Squat from your home. You sitting back at a chair right. So when you do kind of any kind of compound move you're benefitting your lower body and your core or your upper body and your core. So a squat is a great exercise. Because it forces you to tighten the core at it forces you to build endurance and you have to go down real low like those fitness professionals. You maybe some people. They've got kind of temperamental knees. Just come down maybe an inch or two at still a squat in your body whoever you are right so you could do that kind of movement. You're working your core your glacier requirements right and then. I really suggest a great piece of equipment and that's really affordable that you can put in your two pieces. Actually that you can put in. Your tennis bag is a a band. You see the bands. That are the rubber and they've got a handle on both ends. You can see him at most big box stores or sporting goods stores. Are you familiar with what I'm talking about your use them every day this the stretch band the elastic band handle? That's a great tool for any tennis player. And I'll get into the exercises I highly recommend and then also whether or not is been eighty five years. Julius jumped rope. I'm just being facetious. Of course not talking about you but let's say it's been twentieth rope. A jump rope is a great tool because it works on building Endurance Building. Your explosiveness in your Your your lower body and your quads your cab and then it also works on your foot work because you're not looking down and you have to remember okay automatically. Okay got you jump? Jump jump jump now if they jump wrote this to. Dante for some people are like. Oh my gosh. Then you can simulate jump rope same way and just do like with your hands. Do like you`re. You're Ju jumping rope with an invisible jump. Rope doesn't make sense yeah. That's a great. That's a great suggestion using an invisible jump rope and it keeps your cardiovascular system taxed in a way where can keep you your longer endurance in the longer matches especially the man that go longer matches so back to the stretch bands with With the handles find an anchor. Whether let's say you're outside court there there there's probably offense right or something or a bench or something. You can anchor that ban onto right. So then you'll be faith being the anchor. Whatever it is and your hips are square as you face that anchor and you're going to be holy net band with each hand right hand and left hand and then you want to work on maybe doing a reverse fly which is just taking those knuckles out to the side and back in. This is working your core rate here working your your back muscles right here. Working your arm muscles all really important for your serve and then I invite people to take both handles bring the hands together and then keep your hit square rotate as far as you can to the right. So that gets the intern movement that I was talking about earlier which I'm sure you're familiar with right. Intrigue cheap ragged people. You're taking the right. You're also working on. Blake's your core. You're working your rotation in your hips and your show folders then go back to center go the opposite direction. Like maybe you're going to your backhands right that's a great one to do also Another one would be to take that band and go up at a diagonal one at a time up at the DIAG. Now because that. Also set you up for overheads and you're set in your serve to. Yeah yes go. Up at a diagonal to the right diagonal to the left. That is just kinda great inexpensive piece of equipment. You just throw into your bag and I'm sure you do a lot of that to help your Your students warm up in get Moreland Moore's at probably true very true. I I'm a big preacher of Warm up and getting the blood flowing getting the body. Warm before and then hard stretching after tennis when your body's and your muscles are kind of tightening up so. I'm sure I could learn a ton from you and I just love all these great ideas that you're sharing and I can hear the passion that you have for people to be better fits yes I am. I'm really passionate about you. Know if you're going to be we're all GONNA aides right and if you're going to be playing tennis great. I hope to be able to play with you. Raped and not only that. Why don't we all work on our mobility and our civilian? Your body opened up. Keep that shoulder girdle nice open. I can't tell you I'm on. I'm on the taller side so I can't tell you how many times I've been grocery store here in Virginia and an elderly person will go. Excuse me could you? Could you grab that taught me at the top shelf? And I'm like sure and I sometimes I look at them. I'm like I'm taking my head but they can't because they can't do that full reach like they used to. Because again their muscle bellies shorten their shoulders. Are Not like you told me about the elderly people in lessons trying to just put that racket back in that backpack is just really. You know excruciating for them to do so. This is a great way to keep it. Nice and open a limbered. Think about when we were younger like I talked about pretty much. Put our body in weird contortions and things that we would never be able to do now because it's been so long body's not used to it another great thing to maybe have at home Philip and you can tell your students get a foam roller right. Do you have one yourself. Yes do I think? Rate they are awesome so All of US ARE PRETTY TIGHT. Our it bands on the outside of our thighs that limits your rate emotion when you are on the tennis court but a great thing to think about with. May you probably do this. But I'll just tell you anyways a really great thing that a lot of people forget about and we work on Nisan Yoga and it's really important for tennis is. If you've got a phone roller the thoracic spine spine spine is fine. The top of your spine new your neck the cervical spine the lower part of your spine is the LUMBAR's fine the mid back right. That's the thoracic spine. Now if you don't use it and stretch it out again it's GonNa get tight. You're not gonNA have a lot of mobility in your harassed. Explain the RASK's fine comes in very very handy especially with your serve so a nice thing to do is put your phone roller on your floor. Come back down to the floor. Lean back on it and let it lay back onto its even with your mid back your ceramics fine write your knees are bent and then Kinda hang their breeds go back and forth a little bit cut to open up that the Rask's fine if you really WanNa do two-for-one compound moves. You can take a weight or block or book or bottled water or can at your house of goods vegetables or whatever and you can go ahead and put your head back and your arms back holding that weight or no weight. And then you're spying is on the line of that foam roller and then you're gonNA come up into a crunch and then back is that makes sense. Yeah I do understand. You have so much information. I think it would be great to have people share. And of course they can contact you If you don't mind I'll give out your email address in the show notes. I love connecting with you. Philip I mean everything you show is all and it's super tennis centric love it. I love it I love it and you're always smiling no matter what you're doing so whatever it is you're doing keep it up because it is very inspiring. Well thank you so much and really be safe out there in Virginia. I know it's just starting your like two to three weeks behind for your peak. Hopefully he'll be back on. The court soon is same to you. Fill up I really appreciate. Hopefully I didn't overly and you out and bore you guys. You wait watch infos so I appreciate you taking the time. I really appreciate in connecting with you again. Even through social media and now through Your podcast I'll be looking for all your other fabulous. Podcasts and I myself will also make sure I direct people to your podcast as well and your social media that so thank you so much really appreciate that. It's a pleasure having you on the podcast and we'll talk to you soon. Thanks so much. You'd say safe okay. Okay Okay bye-bye wow. I am so excited to start adding yoga to my tennis workout plan. I definitely want to get that. Mid Thorax activated and fire up those muscle bellies. You can follow Marcia Gray along her fitness and tennis journey on Instagram at Seattle M Gray. That's G. R. A. Y. And visit love set match dot net for a complete blog post with Oliver Information and some free yoga tips. If you want more information on how yoga can be your secret weapon in tennis. Just send me an email to PK at tennis pal. Dot Com and we are going to help. Marcia distribute her top. Ten Yoga moves to improve tennis to all our listeners. And thanks so much for listening we would love to hear from you via email or social media. You can reach out to me on any social media platform at love set match. We are planning a great fan favourite report from all over the world covering your favorite players and what they're doing during to the sheltering at home twenty twenty s you would like to share your passion for player you can join our team by sending me an email at PK at tennis pal. 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Do You Have to Love Your Body? - 445
"Welcome to this edition of the lean show today. We're GONNA talk about all the weird feelings you have about your body and how it's not the same every day today. We're GONNA talk about body acceptance but in a way that maybe you haven't haven't heard before welcome to lean show Selena's a New York Times bestselling author celebrity fitness trainer in obsessed with helping you live your life before I get too much further. I want to encourage you to share with me your thoughts thoughts as raw as they may be by leaving me a voicemail. Now you can do this by going to my website and you can do it right now. The podcast will keep playing in you can just check this out while I'm talking about English Aline Dot Com just go to your browser and you'll see that there is a place where you can navigate to the podcast or English lean dot com forward slash podcast either way when you get there on the far right side of your screen you'll see a little vertical widget that says says leave me a voicemail and that's all you have to do. You can leave it from your phone. You can leave it from your desktop and I would just ask that you just listen to this episode. I I just wanted you to know where you could find it but I would ask you listen to this episode. I kind of collect your thoughts right down a few bullet points and then leave your message and the only reason why I say that is because in the last like seven days I've had people leave like ten messages in a row because they're kind of collecting their thoughts are leaving the voicemail L. Message and kind of working through emotions and working through a lot of stuff so I'm not asking you to leave me a perfect message. I'm just saying for your own benefit. It would be super helpful I think if you just kinda collect your thoughts I put down a few bullet points and then leave me a voicemail smell message. We're talking about your body and the way they feel about it and it can be confusing. It can be messy. It can be different from day to day our to our and on top of all that we're bombarded with so many messages about how well we're supposed to feel about our bodies and so that's kind of where I want to start but on my next episode I'm GonNa Feature your calls and I want you to tune in and listen to that. In fact I want you to share this episode specifically with anyone you know especially females especially young females because they've got a little bit more opportunity. If you will to kind of get this right and get this healthy. I shouldn't say get this right because there's really no wrong way to do this but to give themselves more freedom if we can reach to them earlier so second request is right now share this episode and suggests that people listen to it especially women and then you guys had the stuff too but like it's epidemic level with women so you share this by just clicking the share button on your podcast or you can take a screen shot of it and posted up on your social media and let people know those specifically why it will benefit them to listen to this okay. The first thing I want to address is that we are. For All at a different place so you can't be upset with someone who's in the middle of it you can't judge them or persuade them to take a different path or sometimes you just have to let people go through what they need to go through and I say that because after last Friday's episode where I shared the message of a young woman who has since really gotten on the path and the journey to healing herself from eating disorders and just struggling with body image over exercising etc and in that episode she kind of shared how some of my workout videos were part of that now. I need to be clear and say I know that I'm not responsible for anyone else's decisions. I don't hold hold myself responsible but I do have to take a look at things that I can do better and when I played that message in that podcast if you haven't listened to it we'll put a link to it in the show notes but it's quickly become one of the most listened to and downloaded episodes on the Shaheen show and I think because it touched a nerve in a lot of people a huge nerve and I want to hear how it may have impacted you but I heard from both sides I heard from people who were like that is me and I've been struggling with this for thirty years but I also heard from people who said it makes me sad to hear this because she lean I had the complete opposite experience with your videos for the very first time my entire life if I loved my body and I enjoyed exercise and it felt fun and uplifting and I finally found my soulmate workout and I finally was introduced to exercise and movement in a way that didn't feel like punishment. Both stories are true. Do you know both peoples reality and experience is their experience always painted or colored by the things that we've been through our own experiences so no one's experience is right or wrong. I also heard from people questioning whether or not I was saying exercise. Videos are unhealthy or that you know any organization that sells exercise videos or any any business or any marketing that sells exercise or fitness or nutrition that that's wrong or bad and that's not what I was saying either not at all. We each have our own experience. I think we all have a responsibility to want to grow going to be better. I think that is part of the human condition is what makes us feel alive is that we want things to be better but there's this misconception that if you want to improve something that means you don't love yourself so if you want to go to marriage counseling there's this belief that oh well that must mean that there's something wrong with your marriage which might not be true just means you think it has greater potential and that's a beautiful thing I mean it's not that cool to look at someone something some situation I mean that's pretty depressing to think. Well listen going to get better anything you want to improve anything he love. You should want to make it just improve it and that is not to say you. Don't love what you have by the way I. Interrupt this to give public service announcement. Some people might call this an ad. I'm going to call it a public service announcement. It is Fab- athletics now. 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High waisted ones I like the ones with the pockets on the siting there called Solaar Solaar but it's ridiculous how many pairs I've ordered an and donated all of my other leggings from the expensive places because I just think these fit better and they're nicer quality and they're softer and they're like major compression. You won't have that issue with bending over or like seeing dimples and imperfections I me not you have any imperfections saying you're gonNA love them. They're really that good. I swear so fabrics dot com forward slash. She'll lean and let me know what you think. I did a post on instagram where I talked about how about a a year ago I was looking in the mirror. I'm like guy girl. Your Bud is Kinda like flat now. I didn't go your but is flat compared to so and so I said to myself your buddies been rounder in the past and you need more muscle and might my minded thinking. I've had more muscle before so I know it's possible and there's a big difference between looking at what your potential is and then looking at other people and I think one is healthy and I think one is less healthy. I think think it's perfectly healthy to look at yourself and go. I know I can do more but with a sense of grace and being realistic. It's realistic for me to want to put on muscle. I can put on muscle. That's realistic scientifically. We know at any age you can add muscle and by adding muscle can lift up the deer year so I made a plan to do that. I decided that I was going to I lift heavy at least five days a week and I decided I'm going to lift at least three of those days devoted to who strengthening my lower body and did that and that in my post I was kind of like saying good job me like I did it. I'm excited now. I don't have to point out the fact that doesn't click someone else's but that's unrealistic that in my mind is damaging because it's something I will never I will never reach someone else's potential. I can only reach my own potential in that same post I also mentioned that my dog Rocco who's twelve and a half years old that since we moved into this new house he's been kind of aggressive towards people going by in their bikes and doing way too much barking now he's twelve and a half years old and they say you can't teach a new dog tricks but I know his potential and he's a really freaking smart dog and I watched enough Cesar Milan show to Cesar Milan to know that it means me working with him. It means me changing my energy. It means that there was something I could do that would help him and because I love him. I and I see that there's room for potential for him to improve doesn't mean that I'm not accepting him or they hate him. It means that I see he's got potential now. He's never going to be a puppy again and I'm never going to be twenty again so I can increase the size of my booty but what I can't do is change. The fact that my skin is fifty years old like I can't change that but that's okay because you know what I tried to do. One of those stand on the beach in a bikini that looks look. I've got a string going up my butt in the peace sign flashing at the ocean like that amy. There's plenty of girls on instagram doing that for you who are age appropriate to do that. I don't need to do that and it's not even realistic. It's not even a goal for me. I just want to be a little a bit better within my potential so there's this notion when it comes to body acceptance that you just need to love everything that you have in love where you are and I'm seeing a lot of this messaging and I think that's really really good good and hopefully it's starting to counterbalance all of the comparisons that we feel from looking at these perfectly photo shopped great lighting the exact right angle photos and we those things get stuck in her head and even though from a common sense standpoint we okay that's not even real but we still look at them and we still think about those things when we catch a glimpse of ourselves in the Mir kind of like slumpy dumpy bad lighting not thinking about our pos you know not photo shopped all those things that's not healthy so this whole body acceptance move is fantastic except that I kept hearing this week from so many people who are now beating themselves up because they don't love every part of their body so I just want to share and shed some light on that that whole idea and I'm not saying this is right or wrong. I JUST WANNA share my perspective on it. I love who I am. I love my body but. There are also things like that could be a little bit better and I don't have to feel guilty about that and there are days I look in the mirror and I'm like girl. You look so good holy cow like I should do phochouy right now. I look so good. This Alford is smoking hot. I Alec sexy a amazing. I don't look my age. People should be shocked when I tell them I age ler days when I feel that and on that very same day I can also have other thoughts like gross. What is that like hanging over the front of your genes lack or negative? That's an abnormal. That's actually normal. It's normal for the fittest the prettiest the tallest thinnest the youngest person to feel great about themselves and in the same day wish that they could improve something and that's okay that's normal. I heard so many women this week calling me saying I just want to love every part of my body. I want to feel good in my own skin and I think what we've done. Is We've made ourselves. Believe that if we don't feel good twenty four seven then there's something wrong in something broken and we've got to fix our brains when the fact is it's a process. It's a journey and you know if you mark paralyzed by it. Yeah that's a whole nother story and we're GonNA talk about that. On Wednesday people who are literally paralyzed by their body image. It's holding their lives back thoughts of food and exercise. This is just hold them hostage and it's been like this all their lives and specifically in my next episode you'll hear from people who are now in a profession where their body or their physical image is their identity. It's also part of their industry and how damning that can be and how hard that can be. You're going to hear from health coaches. People who are in Dance Competitive Athletics Competitive Sports Fitness personal trainers and I think especially for those of you who maybe aren't in those industries and you look at dancers or you look at finished competitors and you're like wow they just they had these amazing physiques must feel so good to wake up and that your fulltime job is to exercise like wow they're so lucky while you're going to hear from some of them on Wednesday but in the meantime I want you to know that the ups and downs of how you feel about everything in your life is normal like we celebrate personal development. We celebrate the fact that people want to improve their marriage or renovate their home train their dog become better speakers get more organized. We praise these things as being personal development but somehow along the way when it comes comes to our own bodies and our body image. We've got to this place where we set the bar too high where I think so many of us believe that if we don't feel one hundred percent of the time like our body is amazing and beautiful and we love and it's such a gift from God at all times and I don't want to change anything. God doesn't make any mistakes that there's something wrong with us that were shallow or that we we need to evolve to a place of self level. You can love yourself and also see your potential. Dole to do a little better. There's a gray line there right. It's not black or white there is a place where it can go too far and there is a place where there's not enough of that where you just had become complacent and you're not living up to your potential and you know that so. We'll discuss that on Wednesday so I wanna hear from you if you are in an industry where your physique your appearance is part of your identity and it's also part of the industry. It's an expectation models dancers athletes runners sprinters nutritionist registered dieticians health coaches fitness professionals fitness instructors personal trainers folks who people look at you and they're like wow you're so lucky while I'd be super fit if that were my profession fashion or they think it comes easy to you I want to hear from you. How has that affected you? What's your reality? You can leave me a voicemail again by going to my website Shailene dot com forward slash podcast by the way when you go there. I want to invite you guys to be a part of something I send out every Friday. It's called snapshot. It's a super quick easy email where kind of summarize the important stuff the stuff that was most popular on my social media platforms TMZ or topics that were covered in podcast so it just like a quick summary of the most important things from that week so you don't feel like you're lost if you're not following me on instagram or if you're not part of our pod squad or I also do a quick little reference if there's intellect push most journals or water bottles or even one three one whenever we do a special I also include that on Fridays so that's a really cool email that I want you to sign up for. I think you'll love it and we always do a little quick little video clips. It's an easy quick simple email that keeps you up today and you will see that when you go to my website you can sign up for it there again. She Lean Dot com and that's it. I'm really excited for you to hear Wednesday's edition and most importantly if we want the stuff to change which I hope you do then we have to make sure there's a lot of people who are privy to this conversation so we can support each other so that we can begin to be more responsible in the way that we speak to each other in the way we speak to ourselves the decisions that we make the choices that we make the people that we surround ourselves with and the information that we're feeding ourselves so do the people who you love especially the women in your life. Do them a favor right now or anyone you know who struggles with body image and please share this episode. It means the world to me and thank you for everyone. You reached out about last Friday's episode. Thanks you're helping me reach over four thousand reviews of the podcast. It's a like amazing. It makes me so so so happy seriously I've said this before but I always read the reviews. Before I record an episode. 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Interview with Gayle Rose ( WhyPowered Whole Health Coaching)
"You're listening to the techie Tony Marketing podcast. We teach home based business owners, how to leverage technology to grow their business using the power of the Internet and social media and now your host. Tony. Welcome everybody to another exciting episode of techie Coney. Marketing podcast my name is techy Tony in Iowa host. I show home based business owners on a leverage technology to grow their business using the power of the Internet and social media. Today, we have a very exciting gas. Her name is Gil rose also known as coach Gail again, caller. her businesses very unique. She does coaching in multiple forms. I'm GonNa let her explain her business and how she can help you geller you there. I am here Hi Tony Hi Gail. Thank you so much for being here. I know we've had some scheduling on flings. but I am excited you are here. So thank you for making some time. Yes, we'll. I'm excited to talk to you. I always like to ask this question first. Let's just dig right in. Can you just start by telling us just a little bit about yourself? Sure, well, for the past six years, I have been the owner and operator of y powered whole health coaching. And I am certified by the American Council on. His as a whole health coach, a personal fitness trainer and I am specializations behavior change and in weight management I also have a bachelor's degree in business. on the personal side I am a single mom of a twenty year old son. I'm in my mid fifties originally from Saint Louis. But of lived all over the place including years in Europe, which was a dream. And I don't know I I try and live. A pretty healthy life. But I have two little mantras that I try and sum up my approach to to living and at least. In this decade of my life in I'll share those The first one is all things in moderation except love and laughter. And the other one is Sure. Most people have heard that a little saying about aging gracefully forget about aging gracefully I say age with a vengeance because that's what I'm doing. So yeah. So you've got like this crazy positive mindset of dislike live life to the fullest. That's right. Absolutely. You know it's too short to do otherwise. Yeah. They that's what they say life is very short isn't it? It is. So out of all of the the things that you do the coaching certifications for personal trainer weight loss me your which one do you enjoy doing the most? Definitely the health coaching. And that is a conversation based approach to wellness I love helping people in whatever way that they need support but The the wellness coaching is the the way. I help people transform in the biggest ways in those conversations in the goal setting and that's really what? I. Loved. The most I help people shift out of habits that are keeping them feeling stock in feeling out a balance with their health whether that's being. Overweight state or feeling stressed or. Being Sedentary when they really WanNa be living an active life So helping them figure their way out of whatever isn't serving their health well. So I know that has really affected a lot of people in this world. Is this something that you can help with like maybe in different categories, Kovin weight or getting into that mindset that lights still goes on even though you've been affected. Absolutely you know a lot of pe- it's it has been really interesting shift. We've been in this pandemic situation for six months now and A lot of people have been struggling in different ways because of the pandemic and being more at home and losing access to their gyms and just start feeling more stressed and turning to food for comfort eating I mean I've heard a I started working with somebody. Just last week who told me she has added thirty pounds since the lockdown started. So you know it's not uncommon but what I am talking to people about is no matter where you are. You know there's always an opportunity to shift towards positive and You know I provide the accountability in the support in the encouragement tell people do that and there's absolutely no failure I say except not trying so. I help people see that there is a possibility for change. No matter what I Love I love your outlook at so. Thank you. So if there was one piece of advice, you could give someone with Calvin and everything in weight loss and you know maybe they're ready to make the decision but a having a hard time getting with because they're so comfortable. What's a piece of advice we can give them to get. Well I think it would be that You know there are. So there's so much misinformation out in the public about quick fixes and a there are a lot of gimmicks out there and extreme kind of solutions and I think it's really easy to want to believe that there are shortcuts and to fall into traps of of those kinds of things. But the reality is there there isn't there is no quick fix there is no magic bullet and. It takes effort and you have to look underneath at what is. Driving the The the weight gain or whatever it is. That's throwing out a balance in really look at how to shift out of it and make the efforts to change the behaviors that are underneath and I mean I work with people to build the patience and tenacity and the consistency to lose. Typically about two pounds a week. And while to a lot of people that might seem slow and laborious, it is absolutely the most healthy way and the most sustainable way to lose weight. You know anything more than that. You know it throws people's bodies into. An extreme state and It's just not healthy to do more than that. It can feel rewarding allow I lost five pounds or ten pounds in a week or two, but usually the quicker goes off the quaker comes back so. Line is You know? To to slow and steady wins the race absolutely you know our health is a It's a marathon it's not a sprint. You know everybody's got a body that one body that were gifted with and we have to make it last a lifetime. So take good care of it and You know play the long game is what I try to say in a long a long winded way. Almost at sixty he you just could not be upset. Yeah thank you well I. Mean You know losing weight is It's a it's a lifestyle change. It is. I think a lot of it begins with just admitting that you want to lose weight want to feel hundred. Yeah. Yeah and and the work that I do with people most people were come to me with the goal I want to lose weight but it really is a bigger thing than that. It's about getting things into balance shifting the lifestyle and. Depending on on what people are where they are in their in their journey. It can be you know really transforming their health habits. How they manage stress how they Just approach their days with how they're prioritize meal preparation. How they it's it's about self care I mean I've worked with a number of doctors of one of my current coaching clients is a cardiologist I've worked with an internist and his wife in. It's it's not just about shedding pounds. It's about how do you? How are you being the manager of your own health? You know how does it fit into your priority of your days? So it really It's more than just a number on a scale because you're are. Yes. Absolutely. In it's you, it affects people around you. Absolutely. Because nobody is an island. You know if you're not well, you know it's GonNa Affect people in your immediate family and Yeah. Big trickle down effect. Definitely really quickly can you share a recent six? That's success story? Yeah. The most recent one was a woman that are working with just before the pandemic kit she. And she and I met in. Early March she's sixty one and she had about forty pounds that she wanted to shed and she was relatively active but she was just feeling out of sorts and not really eating that well and She had tried different diets and. Gained and lost and She just didn't really know what to do and She just hit the forty five pounds loss mark. So from the beginning of March until here we are September. So it took some time but she did it and she is an exercise maniac and she is absolutely loving the skin that she is in she followed. The Mediterranean Diet most people that I work with Just follow wholefoods diet which Mediterranean diet is but she just chose that for herself. You know it's A. It's more of a lifestyle kind of way of eating. We just met the first time in person in ever since then we talk once a week and we talk about goals and you know how she's doing and so we just had that one in person meeting and She's absolutely thrilled. You know at the shifts that she has made in the way she prioritizes her food choices and her well being She told me she was out last weekend or a few weekends ago at the lake. On our boat, winning a bikini at sixty one and feeling really confident. So I mean to be able to do that under these pandemic conditions. was a really huge success story that still some I mean aged feel. That good about yourself am Yeah Russ your body in the way you want to express the yes. That's incredible. Yeah. Buddy help with that. She's thrilled and Yeah I've. Yes, it is super super rewarding work and she is Absolutely determined never to go back to being. So sort of Careless with her health. So she didn't have any major major health concerns. She was just not feeling good in her body but You know it's Yeah. She she's my most recent biggest loser. So Gayle what do people say about you and your business when when you help them get. Yeah. Most people say I wish I would've found you sooner. But really they They. Thank me for helping them shift their mind shift their mindset because that's where it all starts Tony it's. You can get caught up in executional things. The the what and how. but I don't. I don't focus so much on that. I help people make healthier choices for themselves. I don't tell them like follow this diet or follow this exercise program. I, help them make better choices for themselves. I helped them find their Y and helped them shift their mindset to make better choices for themselves in it. All really starts there in the mind and trickles down to those everyday decisions to the executional things. So that's why I call call it why power Instead of relying on willpower, you find your Y.. Find your way. Okay got it was going to ask him. Okay. That makes sense. I quit smoking about six years ago and Or failed it's I realized that I. Wasn't ready to quit. I hadn't made the decision on my mind to quit I just knew I had to quit but I had admitted. I was always taught that if you had a problem, the first step was admitting you have the problem yes and when I did that as hard as it what. I got through it, but it was still quite the journey to get through that. So so what shifted for you while to be truthful I woke up a thrown up a little bit of blood and I call. And the doctor was like, okay, you know this conversation's coming and that for me was a huge eye opener because when I came to. Saint. Louis I smoke in three or four packs a day. Job didn't have any income. So there was nothing else to do right? So Wa when the doctor told me, you know you're at risk of developing this and that and I was like, okay I've got a kid that I care for obviously friends and family that support me I don't WanNa let down let them Daba permanent. Let myself down when I realized all that I was like, okay, I have something to live for. Some I'm either going to do it around knocking to do it and I made a decision as hard as it was. I nearly lost everything in the process but. I did it and. So I can respect where you're coming from on the mindset thing because you cannot make the decision to do anything then you're not going to be successful. Right. Absolutely. That was your turning point. Man, that's powerful just kind of. You know just woke up and was like eight. It's time for a change rain. side note I was homeless for five years lost my mom lost my dad's the same thing. Rock bottom and I was like, okay. I'm to make a change and when you to that point where you can actually. Admit that there's a problem in that it is time. That's when it works but now. It doesn't work it just kind of sits on the back for it's a pry right nobody wants to ask for help. Or to wait prideful. Yes so I get it like. So those of you out there struggling to lose weight or do whatever in your life like Galas saying you gotTa start with your mindset if it's not checked out really hard time with us. Yes Yeah. When when when you when you? Connect. Your what really matters to you? When you connect it to your values, it shifts everything. So when I talk to people about is this is this is way more than just a number on a scale or weighing or wearing a certain clothing size. Know I help people dig deeper now and really understand like look into the future understand what? What really matters absolutely it's powerful. So I keep talking about women which brings me. At? Your market. primarily. Most I mainly work with women Most of them are thirty five plus Kasur, really couples like the internist I worked with him and his wife together. But that doesn't mean that die if a a gentleman contacted me and said, Hey I really want some help and want to work with you I wouldn't. Wouldn't say, no. My primary is. Women in the in their middle middle years. I think this is an important question when people are trying to lose weight can they still enjoy the things that they enjoy? Absolutely in a point back to that mantra shirt in the beginning about the all things in moderation except love and laughter I really live in breed that mantra myself and with my clients and what I do is I Try and help people understand that they don't have to give things up. because I believe that deprivation doesn't lead US anywhere positive. In fact, it often leads to to negative places like. I'm when it comes to food SO I. Teach people about learning to find a balanced place If you if you love chocolate like I do enjoy chocolate but you find a way to enjoy in moderation. And There's no. There's no should 's there's no deprivation in my approach with things and but you know you figure out what your triggers are. And then you've you find that balance place But what I what I say is there are things that trigger you and that you have really have a hard time moderating. Don't have it at home. I'll give you a quick example. I, I have a hard time moderating ice cream I do I. Love Ice Cream. But I don't so I don't have it in my freezer. If I tony seriously I would eat it every night. I would probably twenty pounds more than I, do. So. I have it occasionally usually like if I I if I really wanted I'll go out to get it. But. You know and will. That's how I'll enjoy ICE CREAM TO I. don't I know it's a weakness. So that's how you know I work around it. was going to say was when when you are doing well with your health and modest and you want to reward yourself for treat, which are goats in snack is an ice-cream. Well I honestly. I try not to reward myself with food. I try and find. Other things, but chocolate. Dark chocolate and I love I love anything nuts I make this awesome treat called Nice cream in. It's like frozen bananas. Cocoa powder and like butter and you mix it up and It's like a frozen. Receives Peanut Butter Cup. It's really good. Enjoy you. Know as far as candy bars goal is not that bad. You could do way worse. So Gail who WHO's your ideal? Client. I guess just women thirty five over sometimes apples you had said. Yeah. But you know it's it's somebody who is ready to take control of their health somebody who? Has. Had enough of diets or just recognize that they don't work I mean it's like ninety five percent failure rates as far as diets. Go you know for long term sustainability? in somebody who is wanting to make peace with food. Someone who wants a lasting solution WHO's tired of the the gimmicks in the quick fixes relative to weight loss and health. So obviously, you are incredibly passionate about what you do. What is what is your? What is your goal? Here. Yeah. So that's easy. I want to reach more people. That's my biggest challenge especially since pandemic it. I use. A Pre pre cova did I had a much easier time reaching people through face to face. So was out doing wellness presentations, and had a whole bunch of other avenues. It's harder now because it's hard just getting those connections to people who are looking for wellness solutions. So my dream is just to to reach more people there so many. There's so many unhealthy people in our country who need help who don't know about. Wellness coaching that that even exists and they're still turning to diets and failing with them and beating up on themselves for not working. So my dream is to to reach more people and to help them shift their minds and know that it's possible to shift out of their habits and into a healthier way of being you know there's a there's A. Not just an obesity epidemic but a diabetes epidemic in our country, and now we've got you know the stress of this pandemic. Pressing down on us in. So many people are You know putting on pounds and just struggling. So I really WANNA, make reach more people and make more of a difference for people's health. That's my dream. So with the pandemic I mean everything's virtual I'm assuming you have virtual coaching. Yes. So all the coaching is. One hundred percent virtual and I am doing everything by Zoom in most of it was virtual before I would before the pandemic I would for people in my area. I would usually meet with them face to face for the first meeting but after that, it was always by phone or. skype or Zoom, just for convenience anyway. But now it's just it's hundred percent. So that wasn't a big shift, the fitness training that I do Used to be a one on one face to face, but now I do that. By Zoom as well, even my Even my seventy nine year old ED seventy, nine year, old fitness training client is been working with me for like two years even she has not missed a beat with her. Shifting to fitness sessions by zoom. I'm so impressed by that that she's. She's continued in. Yeah. We just connect a couple of times a week. With our phones and you know she does her workout in her condo and leader from my home. So it's amazing what we can do with the technology fray Tony. Love it I mean could you imagine? What it would be like if we were living under the pandemic without the Internet and the technology that we have, it would be such a different experience Jones and south thankful for this. I put on some weight. We'd be talking because I would not know what to do with myself. Gosh. So. Okay. So everything's virtual. You do the workout with them. You hold them accountable. Okay. So let's say that someone's ready and made the decision. Everything's there. The mindsets they're they're ready to make the decision. How do they proceed? Just get in touch with me I mean there's a lot him information on my website, which is why powered coaching Dot Com W. H. Y. powered. COACHING DOT COM but they can also A. Message me or call me seven days to zero seven, nine, three, zero, four, one threes, my number. but I talked people do what? I call a discovery call just initial conversation. There's never any coster obligation or pressure just to talk. To talk about whether it makes sense a potential partnership just to see if there's a fit. So Yeah I love talking to people to explore. Whether. It makes sense for them but those are all options I love. That if that makes sense. Yeah, I mean it's on so We have time for a quick story about that because I have a funny one. Go for. Okay. So About five years ago, I was working is part of this wellness center at a women's Obgyn office and They would send me some of their patients in this woman walked in one day, and she was so frustrated in nearly in tears and she was just overweight and so unhappy about it and she came in and she's Just. Tell me what to do I'm so unhappy and I need to lose weight and I just tell me how to lose this and tell me what to eat and I was like, oh? Wow Okay. She didn't know really about how coaching works in that it it's not a diet program when. So I. Tried to explain to her that. it's about me acting as her guide and helping her. Discover the things that fit within her lifestyle and. That I would help her find the answers and the things that fit for her. And I wasn't really sure was GONNA be a good fit because she just wanted the answers and she and. Well it turned out that she was A. Huge. Success and She ended up losing like fifty pounds working with me and. But it in those first few minutes. I. Was like I don't even know that were we're GONNA work out here at all because she just wanted the. Like she wanted an answer right there and just tell me what the deal. I do computer resins. Do people come six. Peter. I'm like what's wrong with the like? Let's get to the root of the brothel. That's that's a great story that just goes to show almost like a like a mindset shift like that's the power of what you can do. She came in wanting an immediate result and you have to kind of teacher or expect earned that that's just not how it works and from this anxious persons who this person who lost pounds. Free. Time that's ship. That's a really big shift and she we've stayed in touch years that was five years ago and she's kept it off to I was so impressed I didn't expect it from her honestly. But was thrilled that she was so successful. Will I have thoroughly enjoyed this this has been such a great conversation gliding Tony more about your business and how you can help people. It is so much more than a number, but the most rewarding part is seeing the numbers down. Yes yes it is. It is a good measure. Yes. Awesome. Will Gill. Is there anything else you'd like to add before we close out? There's no failure except not trying I think is on the think the thing I would like to leave people with. Bernie thing people can. Do. I'm on Instagram I'm on Facebook Wipe powered whole health coaching. So yeah, we'll. Have A CONVERSATION I'm sure you would I love I. Love You I. Love Your out of outlook. It's just so. And that's great talking with you Tony. That's contagious I. Thank you. All Right Gil Rose Everybody Gill coaching. If you guys want to get in contact if you're ready to make the decision, shed some owls. In a different way. With her top that she will be able to help you on L.. Thank you so much for your time and we'll talk to you soon. Okay. Fabulous. Thanks again I appreciate it. All right take care. Bye.
"<music> hello and welcome everyone to your life program. I'm your host andrea hammer. I'm a certified held a wellness coach certified fitness trainer and you are listening to SOB radio network and the radio ear network project today. My beautiful will and fabulous entrepreneurial gassed is anna venturini and she is an entrepreneur and owner of a health food restaurant called bamboo in an china has always wanted to make a difference making people happy and in her journey she's found that health is the most important thing in our lives and without it. We cannot flourish rush. I cannot agree more her belief that our eating habits play a major role and that's why she has opened her own healthy restaurant that has nothing processed processed and nothing artificial. It's always fresh and always healthy man allows. I'm so heavy again until you've been there. The food is awesome in everything you eat off the menu. You can be assured that it is a few held a few with no artificial ingredients in it and that's why i'm having on the show oh she's gonna join us here today and share all the information about why she built this fabulous restaurant anna. Thank you so much to be here in the show. Thank you for having me and so tell us your story about who you are in how you came to make this wonderful restaurant called bamboo here in coral springs in parkland florida well. I i wanna say that <hes> bamboo is me myself and my partner anderson <hes> he is the creator he kind of created the concept. I came along <hes> like i said in my journey through many years i've always he's a people pleaser. I had friends and family who different cultures have different eating habits so <hes> eating was always a big part of our lives but for some reason i was always the one who was trying to find a healthy way to eat even twenty years ago or twenty five years ago and every time i traveled i went to spain from him from <hes> i would envision you know having a salad place over they are having something healthy and everybody kept up telling me anna. That's not gonna work here. It's not gonna happen. <hes> we eat well here we goodfeet hearty food filling food and and it was something that always i thought about and we lived in many countries over the years and when i got here here to florida i was raised in washington since i was three and i came to florida eleven years ago. I began as real estate agent and many times after work. I wanted to go eat something healthy. Just has fueled parv vitrine items listed as a health and wellness co two fitness trainer enema fitness nutrition specialists. You know every other corners. I can't possibly say the bad names of rice scourge of america these fast foods. I be very hard for me to pop in and just get a nice eyesight salad somewhere or or you know power smoothie and it was just frustrating that have to go and buy all my own ingredients and come home and make it myself which is what i always do anyway but sometimes you're on the run and you just want to be able to have a place that you know that if you ate it your healthy and find and good and not have to worry about it that's right. That's exactly i think our i think so. Many people feel that same thing and it wasn't only about getting getting off work and grabbing a solid. I mean yes. We offer salads as well but i wanted to. Maybe not have a salad have a healthy meal and have something different and there's no options and then one day. I was driving home. When i was like looking i was thinking how amazing it would be. If i could just drive in somewhere drive through there. Give me a healthy meal and i could go home and take it to my family and i have mom guilt and everybody eat well. You know it was something that really wait on me for years so i spent a few years looking businesses and i found a few interesting ones and with sell side in kind of look at people and you know get the ambiance tastes the food and then <hes> about a year ago i went to you bamboo coral springs which was created again by my partner anderson who was awesome and i went there once with a couple of colleagues and we ate and we need the a pesto shrimp keno pesto shrimp no carbs and the guys who were eating with my colleagues rely qualities katie's awesome awesome right and we then i went back again and i went again and i went ten times and i sat and i tried all the meals and again. This is like like a year ago and then i approached my partner and i said long ago i've been looking for something like this for a long time pulling pulling years back. I wanted to go to spain in europe and i think i think the trend is happening. Now here is there are more those thank goodness because he's burger joins in in these fast food joints that have such saturated fats and calories and dead foods your so unhealthy and on an process orb we just killing us with obesity heart disease diabetes arthritis cancers and all these kinds of poisonous foods do to us. It's it's really unfair. The scourge of of horrific food industry one hundred per sat the educated consumer which is what you do also in your in your in your restaurant. The the menu is so expensive it different choices it takes so many different kinds of wonderful foods and their meals isn't just a quick salad or wrapping. You're out the door. There's an and when you say the ambiance audience is beautiful. Is people couches your colori. The that i don't bowls in the in the energy in the in the place is just really nice it. You know why it's so funny that you say that because when we spoke about it with anderson <hes> and why did we come together in this venture on this journey together because we thought so much alike he he said anna look he goes. If you're in it for the money. It's not gonna work for us and i said the money of this passion and think people leave. Your is just like in life if you do it because you're passionate job anyway. It's not a it's not a job. It's not about the money and that's something that we want people to feel when they come into bamboo healthy foods that you not only coming in to have a really good meal a really good ambience in our customer service. It's something that we really push up is to feel like you're coming home and that's maybe my cultural views. Come in like over in my little town over there you go in and they know oh you by name and you feel like you're coming home and we think now like it's getting lost a little bit now. You're just a number one fifty to your orders ars rob. Yeah and i have to tell you when i come to andrea they got you. Can you bring it to me and they come back and shepherds anything you need need. I thought that was for a a a small intimate restaurant that your your staff is really also. Oh you're very kind very patient very accommodating young and they're very good on the cleanup tech something it's clean and you could literally really. It's spotlight again. He is really and me get along well nuggets. OCD crazy about the cleaning and if i tell you the tables are like soap cited at night and the walls of the bathroom are cleaned every night top to bottom so it's as clean as it can be. I love that yeah yeah. It's like restaurants ups are not and ad and you don't ever want to go back and everything even the young young even the detail. Tour uniforms are shirts are very expensive shows but they're anti anti bacterial. They're anti sweat. They're used in hospitals so even that detail that we really put in a hundred percent and again it comes it comes in with a dream because i'm a dreamer always have been and i met another dreamer so his his wife even my husband are like oh. No these got together to to flying and it's something that's been working really well and we are so beyond proud and i think for me. The the biggest thing is like when i met you over there with your friends is being able to see you guys like tell me wait is amazing. It's amazing. I go to him and i go. Thank you feel like five dollars dollar to the moon and stars in your issues so happy when it's like and i'm watching my own fitness product stack and adjusts came in over twenty seven hundred of them these sixteen craig for ten years they've been in my dream is well you know from plastic and duct tape that he's hers than vinyl in stefan out to professional grade product that for ten years. I've been wanting to make something to save ineffective in shredded you. I you know that feeling love such joy that your dream came true after seoul much the will leaving and working and all the pieces coming together in the thing is it's. It's the key. Just keep going yeah yeah. Keep receiving in it and that's really hard. Sometimes that's one of the things i wanted to talk to you about being a mother on top of your children beautiful but having that dream and putting all the pieces together as an entrepreneur and in having a home life with your family and wanting to just do something good and amazing in the world in that whole totality of now of being a fantastic tastic lifeforce being on the planet fulfilling your potential and i think for women this is a women's empowerment show to tell the story story that through our struggles through the dreamy from all this time how you absolutely can make it come to fruition you a hundred percent cam and i think got our biggest challenge as women is being able to balance your family life with your drains and i think we all have that mom guilt like it. It's is there it comes and goes. There's times where it's a little heavier and then there's times where it's lighter and for me that's been my biggest struggle and it is till today because because i still have a fourteen year old at home. I have two older ones but i still have that. Oh my gosh it might have to be there at this point and this into this and make sure she's eating well and watching over her and then sometimes i can't make it so it's always a struggle. I think i think that are again. I go back to the cultures because i think it depends where you're from it. It weighs a little bit heavier sometimes or not so. I think that's been my biggest struggle but i think if you have i have daughters who who are very independent and have done very well as driving beautiful. Just were they there so so proud. Have you know that when you're having trouble having to do something at work to take care of me that they do understand their huge supports and my biggest cheerleaders are art my three daughters one hundred percent there they are and they are more than proud young so when you decided to find the open these restaurants or partner with the anderson and and and make it an correspondent parkland. Why did you choose those two areas as well. <hes> i worked in coral springs lipton parkland and again there was nowhere to go and i was so was into eating healthy and wanting to bring home a dish for my family every once in a while and my daughter actually we my eldest <hes> was living in brickell and introduced to me so and that's one of our biggest sellers are still shifts okay and it is it is nice quantity. A good portion is very filling. Yes i believe or not i published have split into two but i loved it so much. Which i like wolf the whole thing down there there. I won't fool the whole day yeah. It was really good so with with the with the the acetate is she had me try it. This is like eight years ago or seven years ago. It was just beginning to you know come in and then right up on it. You know it's so high in antioxidants. It's from the barry family highest yep so it was something that was <hes> that really was like okay then so i went home and again there was salad it places but there was nothing that was a place that i envisioned and my daughters. Were going to douglas so it's my community. Parkland coral springs is where i landed swear build it. They will come out and if it's not seat so you found your own solution because it isn't just a quick in and out out now like a juice place. No you do have those it is a sit down and it has a fortifying meal. It like it is really like like a full plate of of really nutrient dense foods in the end the seasoning in the way you combine the different ingredients radiance in and the thing that was one of how everybody can make their own it individualized you marie choice about how to put their meal together yeah yeah and it specifically to each person's taste which is way different. That's what i love. That's a huge differentiator is you can have it as you want. Yes you mentioned to you and you can and doc service. You helps cleanup and you can taste it again. It comes back to her passion that our ingredients are fishes wild taught our chicken is antibiotic free and all the fish is of the hopped here that you can buy in the industry so we are not like many restaurants other usually. It's no wild caught at it. You can taste the ingredients are so fresh and we every day are buying. It's fresh every every day so that's also sometimes something that we have to let our customers no one. We've run out of an ingredient. It's not like we have a frozen bag in the back which it happens every once in a while but customers are so understanding our clients or some because they know and they taste the freshness of food so it's been it's been people people have told me and other you allow difficult clients no i haven't i really haven't i really haven't i'll tell you why because those people are coming have a mindset over. Yes and they want to have healthier lives. They wanna feel revitalize. They wanna feel proud of themselves. Els in their their their their health is your wealth or welsh's there how they want to look and feel the part they are. Many people are coming because they're on a particular. You're health journey their own and to eat out is very difficult. If you're seeing a tristesse fitness trainer of i hit us the diets i don't use it w the akram nutritiously but some people are on a diet and they go out to eat. That's there's so much bad stuff. It's hard to make a healthy choice but if you still want to go out to eat and you're on a particular eating program. This is your option yeah. This is your safe and she can eat anything you want on your on your plan on your own individualized plan even a medical plan from a physician. You'll know that you're you're. You're doing yourself really really good. Let's talk about some of the yummy delicious things. I brought the menu. Can you and oh my gosh the roasted vegetables the smoked salmon the veggie collared. These wraps tells how's about collard greens. Nobody's gonna wanna eat collard greens if they're not from the south. Now grandmother didn't tell us about how come yours are so different and delicious because i had a taste of those yeah like i said our products are so chosen actually closed the store today and tomorrow because are the items scares in what's out there is not the quality that we you know hold ourselves to so we have lower standard close avenged fresh enough. I promise that we talked about it last night and he was like and what do you think. Do you think we should close. We're not getting the strawberries the way we like getting art calgary and i was like i agree hundred percent. That's why it's so important also when you venture into something that other person has that same vision that you're both kind of on that same track is hard. It's hard to find somebody who has that same honor the integrity of that yeah that you buy daily she that's the max they're embedded did into my into the bats pag strength integrity commitment endurance. The words are actually on it. That's fine and you live by them because you're not going to ever ver- serve non quality food never known. I think what restaurant ever really does that. Never our clients are d- i just don't know how to explain thank you because i'm not joking friendly look at when someone comes to a store or restaurant and they know that the passion behind in what they are eating is so amazing that you brought it to them for that they feel it's an energy hundred percent does perceive the energy when they walk in and it changes their energy. They're walking with ariza and it's doubled and quadruple because it matches was up yours because it's so happy and welcoming to come there. If there is a little glitch in you run out of blueberry order something that's faculty. They don't be any your one hundred percent right. It's so funny because when you say about these are the clients that come in. We have recently two months ago. We changed changed. We were changing it up always but to go to yacht we usually do. We have a variety of the menu of writing the services and two months ago. We implemented archie asks which have been very wide we do it. We had a cashier. We had a line out the door and the ordering process as you mentioned since it's so individualized it takes people time time to figure out what they want so the people are getting frustrated so we decided we're going to do the kiosks and even better. We'll have a customer service person outside in the customer service area explaining about the nutrients explaining if you want something for energy or if you're not feeling well if you have a cold or what can i drink so we have somebody out there doing that which that's brilliant which the older generation <unk> some some of them come into like oh. We don't like this because inigo. I totally get it because when i go to the airport and you have to do your self check in like oh my god i just went up pros but we have that person listen and they get to have even more quality time because when you're that person in the cashier you just want to get the line done. You know you're not gonna pay attention. You don't have the time and you have no time to talk. That's what's good is looking all the items that are available on the menu and then go to the register. It's a self kinda checkup a menu which is really wants a beautiful earful sleeping tablet and it tells you if you want you know the avocado. The brussels sprouts onions spinach managed mushrooms peppers. You pick whatever whatever you want in your meal and write it all up and then the ticket goes. You've is in your people. Don't even have taught the money now. Which is another really great hygienic thing not to touch down we are that's another thing we changed up. Is we are cashless and we are doing though now we have gift cards so the people who do have cash can buy gift cards. Why did we do that because you know. Some people also li- caches well look one safety. It's a huge thing for employees to that. When we're switching cashiers counting the money out was also taking time and that lines were getting long so now operations are smooth. If you have cash we have gift cards so we've kind of also figure out a way for both ways to have. I've been an operations go smoothly and you're it's more efficient. Some people come for lunch and they have only thirty minutes so we have to not let our quality down and get them out in and out as fast as they confused yeah girls commissioner. GI i could talk to you about epithelial tissue all day long computer stuff i a loss but ashey after she explained it was the easiest thing to do so. If you want a bowl you wanna rap you on a salad. You click on which everyone you want. Here's the ingredients for this year's ingredients with this should get to this or three of this. If you want an extra year it is and you just literally press on the ingredients that you want and hit total side your carton recy- and then you go sit down on the couch attainable and your food is brought to you is so so really q- i'm i have as much so happy and cited and i wish you so much success. So how do people find you. We have five minutes left so tell us your website the addressed rest business phone number your e mail so people know how to calm in visit your story e delicious food and right rave reviews view. Oh thank you. We have what we have been location. Asian has both springs and that's an ramble would plaza university and i i rambled correct and the addresses twelve fifty one north university university drive okay unless the website for bamboo bamboo healthy foods dot com. If we have an app if you go to the app store put bamboo healthy foods you can download our app and we have our own delivery platform as well do healthy foods with s. correct on dot com and the app stores just bamboo healthy the food zanu healthy food and instagram you can follow us on bamboo slash healthy foods and we have updates about her food and experiences dances and we have a young lady doing our instagram who was awesome <hes> and our phone number if you'd like to reach us in the coral springs location asian is nine five four seven four zero four to one. We do not take orders over the phone because again. It's a lengthy process but our app is so user friendly that you can order order. Pick up run in the store and just take it out or or ready few dude over over online. Yeah it'd be ready in no time at all and in parkland. We are not opening at your grand opening soon. He has a countdown. We have a countdown going they are we're in the water shops and it's <hes> coral ridge dry right coleridge <hes> the walmart that super walmarts on one side and the other side. We have the public's plaza right to your. We're on that side and the little plaza the the central bank over there yeah so we are <hes> thinking now with the storm coming up. It's put us off a little bit but we're thinking of opening shooting doors <hes> in a week so if you had one thing to tell us i got a minute left. What can you tell other women who have have dreams of having their own business since you've come such a long way in twenty years to open up your dream. What can you tell us. I would tell you guys never statuary dreams. Take you to places where you can become reality. Don't let people tell you it's not going to happen if you have a passion for it workforce work for and i know i've heard this on TV. People telling you just know it's so true just really believe in yourself and i think as women we are so powerful bombs were multi-taskers. Were dr psychologists chauffeur's. We're so much or so many things so. If you have something that you're thinking about don't sit on it. You know go for it. Go hide for sat nearly slump with all of those things that we are yeah. We're magnificent in human being we are. We are intentional and dreams that need to be fulfilled because it's in you. It needs to be young up giving out all of us because if you don't do it as we're lost everyone who would have benefited from fundraise for him and idea hundred hundred percent positive yeah yeah. I think you know we don't control what happens to us in life sometimes but we do control how we react to it so those times that you're just not feeling it get that positive positive given to get up the next day and think positive in it'll come to you because i believe alliant energy. Just like you talked about if you if you have that energy things come to you in such a good way so i feed off. My customers are happy. I'm like to be on the show such a pleasure everyone stop into bamboo at either locations in coral springs in parkland and enjoy a fantastic delicious meal with such care and love and passion behind me so the energy did you with which you're eating. It comes from love. Enjoy one hundred percent thing hundred. Thank you and thank you listeners for joining us today. I want to tell you catch me as well on my website hammer. Health and fitness dot com send me at texture email andrea at harrow health and fitness dot com facebook look and twitter instagram because i'm here to help you with your life program so that you can live intentionally fabulous everyday. Thanks for joining.
Shari Silver , Singer, songwriter
"The Lohan welcome everyone to your life program where we live intentionally fabulous every day. I'm your host Andrea Hammer. I'm a certified fitness trainer and certified health and wellness coach defied fitness nutrition life coach and the creator of the Max. Pack maximum power core training fitness product. And today. We have a wonderful series that we're doing for the month that's called the silver series and it's about an unbelievable empowered mom and her three daughters and how love and dedication has empowered them to all achieve their goals. And I couldn't be happier to introduce my next guest in the silver series beautiful musical artist singer Songwriter. Sherrie silver her love of her love of music Iraq. I'm going to. I'm going to give you a bigger one. Your love of music and your powerful voice lead you to follow your dreams becoming a solo recording artist however in these tough and competitive music industry times you had some challenges to find the right recording label the right producer in sometimes made you feel pretty lost in a almost walking away from music and then you lost your voice through illness and then had a year recovery and regrouping in one shot at your dream and boom all your talent your artistry your personality and your dedication to your craft you know all came together for you and now the rest is history so welcome. Sherrie silver to your life program. Thank you so much for having me. I'm so happy to have you on the show. You noise telling your sisters to as before a known you guys in the neighborhood. Run around with my kids and your mom's running around with your running and everything and you're outside playing and finding your bunny rabbit in the street in rescuing it right. You're all grown up your MOM's such an amazing mother which we're going to record her as well in this series silver girls. But you know your life Has turned out to be so phenomenal that you're launching into making recording career. But I want you to share with listeners. Have even started. You got your start in music especially coming from a mom whose professional coaching athlete runner. How did this happen to you man and you know both my sisters to are extremely athletic? And I don't know you know I started off playing soccer and then when I turned nine years old I asked my parents if I get it Qatar and not even before that I had been listening to so much good music. My Dad introduced me to a lot of really really cool music and we listen to Beatles and listen to the police we will listen to you. Know a lot of a lot of classic rock my core And I knew you know that the terrorists and all of that and so you know I remember those I you know I I wanted to her for men that was it and I really. I really found that I love music way more than being athletes. Although I'm still I still work out to this day but not just my look took over analysis. Yeah because You give it to me in your bio etiquettes said your mom's professional running coach and trainer and you had a promising opportunity middle school being scouted by college teams. And then you decide. On pursuing your dreams become professional musician recording artist. You know how it would your mom say about that as it were. It was crazy. It was really difficult because not only not only was my my my family very insecure decision but we had a lot of teams. I played for Also reached out to my family when they found out like. I wasn't going to be playing soccer anymore so it was. It was a really weird transition. It was kind of difficult because I was already so stat in playing soccer for my life But you know I was very proficient with it and I just playing my family know that. There's nothing else I WANNA do. But taking I just I I need to focus on that and it. It took a little bit of time but eventually You know everybody jumped onboard. Will your mom you know is your biggest fan and down. The sides being a professional running coach and trainer she's a professional mother and he's totally dedicated to you and your sisters and I'm sure that she helped you face some of those obstacles that you had trying to find a recording label and to get yourself out there and tell us how that whole journey started with you even just getting out of the neighborhood you know it was very. We didn't think about it too much. We me and my mom we would you know. Go to a party that we would know somebody who knew someone in the business and we would try to connect with people in that way And then you know we really just. We didn't know anybody in the Industry. So we really had to. Kinda hustle on and find their own opportunities and I say our because she really liked put a lot into helping me with everything and making sure. I'm safe because that's also a whole other thing with the music industry And Yeah you know. We just kind of hustled we. We would always connect and network. I used to play out at cafes. vars all of that. I used to the entire thing to try to his police discovered. You know and it's really interesting as all those things that I did that. I expected to be discovered. You know doing bad wasn't my way into the industry happen very randomly. My mom was on a phone call with a friend and happened to just be my mom and just say you know my daughter. She doesn't use exit plays guitar. And that's not and whatever and like. Oh well you know. I know a really amazing producer if you want to Maybe have a meaningful in one day and that is what happened. And that's how I met my producer needles on on two years to live later. Your hands on this thing is crazy. Well that's wonderful but you also had a major setback with your health. We almost lost Your Voice. So how challenging is that? And what did you do to recover from that? It's difficult and it was really be honest. It was really bad actively floods that I didn't know that it had because I never would get the symptoms of having I would never get the symptoms of having Heartburn and you know like some of the other more noticeable signs so it was kind of gradual over time where I didn't even know that it was as bad as it was so it took me about a year of seeing bunch of doctors trying to figure out what actual problem was and then The recovery held the line as well. So you might have been really terrified though losing your voice in your thinner I mean. That's the worst nightmare dinger. Yeah it's horrible and feels really debilitating and you go into a really dark place in the one thing that you love to do is you. Can't you can't even do that so I don't know it was. It was really hard and then it was a lesson at the same time because I learned like what on eating and putting into my body is really important for me so I'm glad that I learned that then and I am remove on and like I I know more about myself and what I need with good for me so self care. Is Your health care in your healthcare. Is Your self care. Is the lesson in that one right so after you recovered from this you know. That must've taken out of the music scene for quite a long time. How did you get back into it after I mean? What is your producer? Say we had to take time off. How'd you get back into it? Because that's a lot of perseverance right there back like that. Will that actually happened? Before I met my producer and I would I was with. I was with independent label at the time in Florida and I just remember it. It was kind of like a sign in a really weird way a away from them. So the label out all the time and that was the best that could have ever happened in hindsight And I didn't feel that way at the time I just felt really saddened depressed but It was kind of it was it was bad but it was also a good thing at the same time because not only did. I learn a really really big lesson but it also kind of distant distance me from the label. I was with at the time which wasn't really as helpful to me. So the universe works in mysterious ways and sometimes we don't don't get what we think we WANNA have and it ends up being because it isn't the right thing in the first place and your move towards something else. You needed a pause away from that so not only not having that Labor which was difficult at the time and losing your voice time. That's a double whammy but then now after covered your your with needles. Are you still producing with him now? And I think you are in the midst of recording video and a new album. Tell us all about that. New Exciting has yeah yes so I I met needles two years ago and It just he is probably one of the most amazing producers in the world and Friends and like he really is super awesome. Extremely humble he is He's just taking me from like really not knowing who I was as an artist. That's when I that's when we met and he took me from that point and you really like walk me through this offense and helped to develop my sound and who I am as an artist and all of that And then you know now. We're out of point where we've been working for two years. We have a whole lot of really really really good music. I have my first single coming out on March Six and We're shooting the music video. Marl- Marlborough Sunday. Wow that is so excited. You must be just jumping up and down happy. Happy with how far you've come and exciting. This is is just gonNA explode. Yeah it's it's really wild and a lot of times I'd is give God the glory because all of this and I get so weird for me to be in this position sometimes because it's just amazing. This is exactly what I wanted to do with my life. And I'm getting the chance to do it. And I have no other explanation of why or how this happened other than Dod. Manifested your dream and thing. That's really empowering to Metoo here in you is you have this opportunity to become professional athletes in sports because you were being scouted by all these things. Everyone was behind this whole career. That you're older sister had done your both. Your oldest sister's youngest had been a formerly scouted and expected to follow in these footsteps literally footsteps of running soccer and to buck the system but to change course of your life because it was your true calling in your to nature believing in that that that takes guts encourage you know because you know family sometimes feels that they have good decisions for you. They want you to be in a in a A successful endeavor that they feel worked hard to get you to that point to get going on it and then boom we make a u-turn and going another completely different direction from sports to Music. But you believed in yourself and you kept telling everyone and you kept pushing forward forward so no matter what your trials and tribulations in the hardships in the illness. You stuck with it. And that is the message that your life programs all about live intentionally fabulous every day and to live intentionally fabulous everyday means every day. You believe in yourself in every day you go for your dreams. Every day you move forward with one thing better today than yesterday to get to what you want and once calling you and your soulful self the music that you sing needs to be heard your voice is going to uplift in change the mindset in the hearts of people when they hear how you sing. I know what I listened to a favorite song Art Is Sometimes. I cry because it's so moving. The song sometimes dance my butt off all night long because I'm so happy and it fills you with such joy and you have the same opportunity to affect that change in the world yourself. Sue Your music and had you not left believed in yourself and went into an athletic career instead it'd be a whole nother person but I just I'm in awe of your self determination and belief in yourself at such a young age to do that and now seeing where it's taken you your Momma so proud your family's project sisters that you followed your heart and that is the single best thing anyone can learn doing their whole that people go to the hundred years you know going all over the world but if they don't follow their own heart if all other people listen to people they do what. They're told the obey the rules but the only really need to listen to your heart in. If it's calling you you go do it and you did and look where you are so we have a few minutes left. I know it is amazing. We have about five ten minutes left so tell us your new singles coming out the name of it's called little heart. I think what you told me. Yes and multiple high comedown March Sakes. And what's the song about this song is about? This is is kind of a woman in parliament song and it's interesting because if you hear it you're not really you pop. You may not understand that right away but for me that I wrote that song about just Kinda sticking up for yourself When you're in a weird situation and yeah that that is it. I can't wait till it comes out and listen to it. So how does the listeners have the audience get in touch with you? Do you have your facebook instagram in email. How when people listen to this. How can they order your music? Where can they find you? You could listen to my song on March six On EVERY PLATFORM APPLE MUSIC. Spotify soundcloud My my social media handles on Instagram is At I am Cherry. Silver S. H. A. R. I. Silver yes right. So yeah and that's where you could find me a little videos in studio and you could just kind of keep up with what I'm doing and I Job will hints about my SOM- releasing and a lot of cool stuff that we have to to push forward. Drop one little hint right now for us to give our listeners. A little bit of temptation to come find out. Your song adopted a hint on. Yeah drop a hint hint. Well my my a well okay. I'll I'll this is this is nobody knows this but a week after my song comes out is when the video is going to job so not a lot of people even known doing a video. So it's GonNa be really surprising the visual along with the song That's great that's great and you're working on doing that right now. You're filming that I this weekend right so by the time. This airs. You're going to be already out there. Yup I can't wait to like yeah. I can't wait either. I'm so proud of you. Thank you thank you so much I really I really appreciate talking to you. And this has been an amazing station. I'm so I'm so glad that you came here to be on the show today and sharing your journey with us in after music drops a song the video. Where do you see yourself in a couple more years as you grow up and keep going? What are your hopes and dreams for the future Nigerian to win a grammy to Just he'd been doing now and drop. Songs earned sing with Bruno Mars. Exactly and my and another dream is a partner with the with a A major label at some point there. You go manny. Cpa then to become you know a needle for other artists. You know what I'm saying. I want to be able to develop artists when I get older and MIRA produced marijn. Yeah yeah those are big dreams and you know what I believe in you and I think you will. Let's call Bruno. Mars Intel Him Cinders Song. And you do a duet with him. I know these one of your favorites. Yes happy amazing yet. Let's manifest out in the world and see if that happens 'cause somewhere in my heart. I think it is right. What would you say to him? Just curious you work with needles so that means you have to work with me. Probably the first thing I would say the secondly I do like music is mazing. I might start with that with some gratitude and then all of our be in shock you saying one of his songs in your own version That will be too. Yeah Yeah I would tell them how. When I used to play out I- restaurants I would sing one of his songs every time. Well we've called. Yeah I find that out record that in. Send it to him or sing along with a recorded duet see. This is how we manifest our dreams. We talk about only laugh about him. We visualize them. We fantasize in the greatness and the feeling of fills our body and our heart and our soul. And I promise you somewhere in your lifetime. This will happen because this manifest. Your your request has been put out to the universe in God and you've already gotten everything he wanted so far right with all the lessons involved to get here Lonzo. Why not right right nights we I am. I'm just I'm tickled pink here and I'm I'm really really proud of all that you've done to stand up for yourself to believe in yourself and to inspire others to follow their dreams because this huge story about how you kind of buck the odds and buck the system and went for it on your own yet. Thank you so. Thank you so much for being here on the show with me. I truly appreciate it. You're awesome thank you for having me and I hope to review again on your podcast. Yeah maybe next time can have you back on and you'll sing your song or sing. Bruno Mars Song or sing for us. Next time we have more time. Okay alright who all right thanks again. Honey I'll talk to you later. Thanks you and thank you listeners. For joining us. I would love to hear your questions and your comments about the information and the inspiration that we shared here on the show. You can reach me Andrea at Hammer. Health and fitness DOT COM. You can catch me on social media on. 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Tips to Stop Worrying and Start Living - 487
"You do for us your listeners the people who purchase your products you always do everything so top notch hi Charlene this is Krista from your home state of Michigan in the little town of Lake Orion I wanted to stop by to thank you for everything assistant for example if I tell you right now to not think about a cat running up a tree and gently on my well being your podcast with Kelsey humphreys that has helped me recognize to a degree I am going to achieve everything that have wanted to achieve and you my virtual BFF's thank you thank you order and then repeating day after day after day it's taken such a toll on me it's kept me from my remember TV and because of you in Kelsey I am going to work on sobriety I am going to stop thinking about drinking the building goals it's kept me from preceding on with my businesses it is held me back in a fog on a couch in you just can't help but do that and give it even more detail than what I've given you because our mind our mind is not good at process at sign you have to roll up on it and look at it and you I have to process what it is that you are doing that you're not supposed to do so you I have to look at the Arrow and you go no this is an important topic because so much of our time is spent worrying about things that we don't want to worry about little things that are really brain's no pun intended our brains don't like to do that our brains like to process what we're supposed to do it's like if you've ever had a child or toddler and you say to them focusing on what not to do it's kind of like if you ever driven up to a stop sign or I should say a traffic sign where it will have like a big era say branchless tree that I don't want you to think about and the cat is a tabby cat and I don't think about the tree or the cat or the cat running up the tree occurring in our minds that they just won't go away and more often than not when you try to free yourself of these thoughts and stop thinking about them they become even more oh pointing to the left and then it has a circle around it and then a line I hate those signs because they go against the way our brains work so in order for you to quickly are you can never has occurred before that my husband and my habits of working very very hard and then partying even hotter so much for everything you do and keep on doing it Latvia minute welcome to the show lean show Selena's a New York Times they do do the right thing but sometimes there's just no film there's no footage of the kid doing the right thing and he was sharing with so don't do that and then inevitably the kid plays that incorrect tape over and over and over and over and over in his of it I in order to think about how not to do it and you know my husband and I have been talking about this for many years because he is a football coach she's a quarterback coach don't throw your bottle and you know the child has to process the act first and then we add on the negative which is the don't which is why children will song for your mind and the rest will follow. I cannot sing but I can lip sync I wanted to talk to you about this because and they will have the kids come in on Saturday morning and look at their film from Friday night and part of his job is to make sure that they don't do the wrong thing okay so that's an Arrow pointing to the left and now I have to process the circle with the line through it and that means don't and often do exactly what you've said or told them not to do hello and most people are like that too if you tell someone what not to do they have to picture the doing that this is a really tall tree in please don't think about it but I don't want you to think about this cat running up this really tall tree and there are no leaves on any of the branches bestselling author celebrity fitness trainer in obsessed with helping you live your dream life today. I want to help you free your mind free your mind actually by many professional athletes will get into a slump and they will use techniques like EMC are thought training or they'll go to a sports icon lean show no that my go-to solution is always going to be the one that I believe is the quickest most effective and has the most proven track record based on head and keep saying okay don't do that don't do that but you're you're in graining the activity the behavior that you don't want to happen and you're making that deeper and deeper and deeper it's and my own personal experiences based on the experiences of the very successful people that I've had the privilege of coaching so my number one go to drummer fleet telling ourselves to stop thinking about this is not going to help I want to give you some tips and techniques that will help you for your mind regular listeners of the largest and help them to not think about what they're not supposed to be doing and the way to do that is to engage yourself in what you do WanNa think about so me how sometimes you have to show them okay so seek how you you rolled out of the pocket right here and you kind of held onto the ball too long and that's why he got sacked and they'll show them like the wrong way to do it and they'll say goes things the reason why that is most often and again I'm not a psychiatrist or a psychologist I just think they're awesome people who save lives oh please you probably know it e- therapy one of the reasons why our heads go around and around and around this like thing that we don't want to think about that is currently occupying our brain even if you feel like well I don't think about it very often but it does come up from time to time and there's a lot of things that might trigger that so I'll try to avoid the the Go-to an expert to help you free your mind what therapists and psychologists and psychiatrists have been trained to do is very actively help us free our minds and one of the reasons why we are often preoccupied by something in the past is because we spent so it's like they're the experts there the brain experts if you're going to go to an expert to learn business marketing or to fix your tooth why would you not much time ping pong that thought from our brain like we don't want to think about it so we don't fully process what it means and gay is the quickest most effective and most permanent solution to free your mind is to go to expert we have to remove the stigma and and you don't WanNa go there because it's painful and our brains are really good at protecting us from pain so it will not gonNA think about that I'm not GonNa think about that and spent so much time trying not to think about the cat running up the tree that you can't help but give it more detail and spend vulnerable cool easy to be around comfortable in their own skin kind of people I know do therapy okay but so much time with that thing in your head so if I am going to be true to my word just have to tell you it's my opinion from therapy it ain't no big deal y'all listen this is the honest truth I think I have one friend who hasn't gone to therapy and I don't know if she's list of it a proper context for where we are today so that thing which kind of like doesn't make sense that it's upsetting it's disturbing and it keeps coming up in your brain I have it under control right now and I can't risk opening up that can of worms and not being able to handle what comes up like things might not be Sion's that preoccupation you know holding onto a grudge and anger and resentment only is hurting you to be free you deserve to take back your power and you can do that by forgiving now I don't know what your faith is to try to feel the emotion of forgiveness of truly releasing yourself and knowing that it's a gift you give to yourself forgiveness is one of the most powerful things you can give and it's one of the most powerful things you can give yourself number three perfect right now but it's an order and I have control while you don't not really you're not living your life to its fullest potential it will not kill you forgiving another person or maybe yourself you can help to release that negative thought those mode expert help you sort through a don't be afraid of opening Pandora's box it's not gonna be that bad and I know many people avoid going to therapy because they're like hey will make you better I promise you it will free your mind give it a try the most successful smartest self aware also not a surprise exercise I just I triple dog dare you to be mad about something and go on like a thirty minute run and you need that adrenaline pump and that's the ultimate thing to fuel your next exercise routine exercising focuses the body Hurt you or wrongdoer cheated you or lie to you you just have to do right and let it go now I'm not saying you should be a doormat but getting in some cases suppress the memory but in most cases we just keep like brushing it off to the side you know that's a criminality for what's going on in your head you're like upset and riled up and trying to you know I'm I'll show you that I'm right and you're wrong it's kind of a waste of your life so the best thing comeback and be as angered or as triggered or as upset as you were before you started the run you won't be it's impossible it's like absolutely impossible I food my next tip is to be mindful and this is something I am very honestly working on myself every day it and it's something you really truly have to work on I think you just have to sometimes just say it and keep saying it and start he'll what's happening in this moment I know it sounds like super I don't know yoga ish describe it kind of like almost like a hippie meditation we know releases endorphins it lowers cortisol and it almost always I mean I can't think of an instance where it doesn't bring about a happier mood it's giving power to that thing that or person who hurt you and they don't deserve that no you you deserve but I can tell you I have struggled on many occasions to find forgiveness and I could say I forgive him like just to say it because I'm a Christian but I didn't feel you know what's the point of being mad what's the point of being angry you're not going to change anyone's opinion not likely you can't change the character of somebody who's academies convinced you to go to therapy and tell me what your experience has been I'd love to hear from you okay step number two is to forgive just by story and for me to pick up those tiny little micro facial expressions that tell me that what you're saying isn't the holes keep bringing that up until you go leave me a speak pipe if something in one of the previous lean shows or maybe one of my seminars or one of my online really just like thinking about okay right now I'm listening to Shalini voice and I'm just being present in thinking about what it means to just which is kind of a weird thing because if you think about it if your mind is full you can't be mindful so I guess what it means is to be mind clear I think the things that they recommend in order to be mindful is to just accept people as they are and I just can't say that this is more true to do with that emotion because I think you have technology can feel it though right because it's an energy anger being upset being sad being is to not be thinking about what you're going to do tomorrow or what you're going to do when this podcast is over or not thinking about things that happened yesterday or a month ago or a year ago workout or a long run or a lift heavy with like really angry rap music right and then I'm like I can't even remember why was mad any of those things those emotions they are also an energy and what he needs to exercise energy any motivation you need dr or needs to be more true than when it comes to our family you just have to stop trying to change someone you love accept them for on a physical requirement like in other words it takes your attention off of whatever's going on in your mind and you have to do something physical exercise also I also think what goes hand in hand with that is perhaps setting a more realistic expectation you know I'm really outgoing social says something that I'm working on but what I mean by being mindful is being aware of where you are like right now in this moment and the only way to really do that I love that feeling of being present but true confession is I'm not great at it I wanna be better at it because it feels so good right like is a website called Zen habits dot net and the catch scrape blogs great tools about living mindfully and one of the and then I just realized you know what I'm not going to change who he is he's unhappy with something he loves the power of his position mile and I can be kind even when others are not but my expectations that everyone's going to be kind that's an unrealistic experts presence of someone knows it can trust me and that when they're talking to me I look in their eyes and I can feel what they're saying that requires being mindful it's like trying to master handstand or something that's challenging but yet if the process is fun and it feels good and it feels good to get better and and the and I know that's true but what motivates me to be present is a people that I care about I want to be present for them I want to have someone tell me being us what is cluttering our brain the reason why our brain is not free is because we are preoccupied with all the possible outcomes in other words worry and worry is the most wasteful way you can spend your day to worry is such a pointless free LS useless activity and I know it's really easy to say that but it's true so when I asked you to do instead of worrying about all the possible win act of courage to share this with me and and to be present so that somebody doesn't feel like there are a burden to me because they want to share something private and to be the thing but what it really means is that we aren't so busy we aren't so overwhelmed by all the things we have to do next that we have the ability to be so instead I'm just going to lower my expectations I'm not GonNa expect that everyone's going to be nice I can pray for them I can be nice back to them I can flash them a big with them accept them for who they are but don't try to change them fight the way that things are we just have to accept it and then know that we will have more peace and day how many times I've been like super annoyed disturbed on like I shouldn't even write this email back right now I'm so mad I could just spit and then I'll go and take it out on a Hitler holy here and I think the reason why we need to do this is an obligation to the people we love I mean it would be great to be safe I I need to be present for me. Mindfulness is something that you work on but as you get better at it you soon start to realize you don't have to try as hard one of my favorite resources person I like I like to smile at everybody like this is a true story there was a guy at the front desk at the gym who is really quite rude to my mother my dear mother. I possible outcome so let's just say hypothetically speaking that you're singing and your voice cracks and everyone think about that thing right now that you're worried about doing or trying or that thing that Europe obsessing about and I want you to think of a realistic story and to be present enough that I can hear their voice crack and know that this is more upsetting than what they're letting on and that it was a genuine thing but she should go and that's the truth and I've told her she should go because there are things that you could just fix like you have to struggle with us if you would just let an find out who that was and have a word with them and tell them how rude it was to treat people like that and my mom's certainly isn't that type of person where you'd have to speak to her that way of a beautiful voice I would love for you to sing at my wedding and you say to her I'll get back to you but in your mind you're worried liquid if your voice cracks what if you're not die no and is there greater risk in not doing it because your friend is said I love your voice and I want you to be a special part of my day title jerk to your mom and that would upset me and I wanted to I wanted to confront him I wanted the you know walk into the club they are that doesn't mean you have to accept a certain type of treatment it means that perhaps what you need to do is change your boundaries enjoy what it is you enjoy I started taking vocal lessons and it is your goal to sing in front of a large audience someday and your girlfriend came to you and said you know patients so if I can toss that expectation out the window I don't cure it with me I won't be disappointed in fact I won't be in pain I won't be upset in fact I'll pray marge right and I I didn't even know that he was rude to her I said mom pay for your guest fee after my class and she was like tieing shoes or something I went into teaching the guy was like really thin enough where it if people think you have a terrible voice what if you don't remember the words what if you lose your voice the week before all of these things start going through your head and comes to just think of the very worst one the worst one that's like at least a little bit realistic and then ask yourself what would I do and probably be relieved when people do or their way to be kind my next step is to just go for it oftentimes what's consume barest maybe would you wanna do it again at another friend's wedding secret redeem yourself hopefully would be the end of the world no would you. I mean for me I just feel like there's so much more at stake if you don't try these things if you don't go for it not what would I do and if you can figure out the answer to that well then what you should do is just do it let me give you a hypothetical example so let's say you've just knowing if you if you actually coulda pulled it off like that's far scarier in my mind to not live your life's full potential then to worry about or doing it wrong or looking like a fool or being turned down or rejected so what who cares who really cares nobody's GonNa remember during he's like I don't know who you think you are if you're getting special treatment and my mom didn't even tell me about it but a couple of the students afterwards like you should know that guy was just a total crave the opportunity to do it again and do it right the worst thing you can do is not live your life's potential because you fear the worst possible outcome the then what would they do do you think they'd really laugh no they would just allow you to finish the song so what's the worst case scenario would you be distressed so listen to those episodes because I really do walk you through the entire process of how to declutter your focus how to build a fortress it did or sometimes even worse than what I even imagined it actually happened but it was still okay it all still made me better it all still made me Sarrasin terribly embarrassing kind of funny now stories of times when I thought okay I'm kind of afraid to do this and what if the worst possible thing does happen the worst possible outcome because the worst possible outcome might just happen so what I could fill up the next hour telling you about really and my final tip is to make a decision you can free your mind by finally making that decision you never fully stay in one of those what fs you like brush it aside very quickly that ping-pong and we talked about earlier so instead of doing that I want you to just is you've got to free your mind of clutter that means you might just have too much going on you've got a television going on in the background and yourself worst possible outcome unless of course death like if there's legitimately concerned that you could die will yeah maybe you shouldn't do it but if your fear is judgment I made more money in the last twelve days and I've made in the last twelve months and it is because of focus I've gotten so much done I feel clarity I feel free I feel ten years from now five years from now five minutes from now so just do it do that one thing that scares you or that you've been putting off your mind will be brought into sharp focus and you're gonNa feel that tell you you're welcome those those episodes I still I'm getting messages from people saying I just had the most productive week of my life the decision you know you need to make to let go of toxic people relationships that are not helping you relationships this isn't something that we had to deal with even fifteen years ago like it's bad y'all and it's challenging however there are solutions there are workers slowly begin pulling up the roots slowly wanted time removing toxic people from your life because you feel like you owe it to them the you're being a good person by taking care of them are staying in it way longer than what you should have if positive energy they need everything that you bring to them but sodas someone else so do a lot of other people who nourish you who lift you who build you who appreciate you around and I urge you to listen to those episodes if you feel distracted and that's one of the reasons why your brain feels like you don't control it there's someone in your life who isn't making progress they're not even trying they're not moving forward and everyone else can see it and you know adrenaline rush that adrenaline rush that your body and your mind put together when you just decide to jump to go for it my next step when it comes to free your mind friends or family members I think that this is best served as just a quiet decision a confident decision a bold decision send perhaps or maybe even a couple of people who continue to fill your mind with negativity and you feel responsible for them and you feel good and you can reply and say well I know we've both been so busy but don't address it just let it slowly drift away now you might disagree with me is in yes of course it's going to be painful that's how we get better you don't get better unless there's a challenge we just don't so ONA's on your lap and there's music playing in the other room and there's people talking and if you haven't had a chance to listen to the episodes idid on focus let me just around your focus so that you can get done in just a couple of hours what most people now take like eight hours to do and and this is new this is because of technology relief that allow you to live the life you deserve you deserve the best and as soon as you believe that you will start attracting those people to you and like super positive and you're like a super downer and like so like this isn't working and we need to break up that never works just gradually and slowly the week after that maybe you're only hearing from them a couple of times and before long you're GonNa get that text message says Gosh I feel we've kind of drifted apart but it can be quiet once you've made this decision you have to commit to it I don't think you have to sit down the two of you at starbucks go listen I've just decided ss difficult but there are nourishing positive people out there who want to enrich your life who wanna fill you with thoughts and a motion and we stop giving them your time and energy you meet with them one less time this week and the following week you spend a little less time with them and now I never think that this needs to be a big unless of course it's like your long term boyfriend will then yeah hello you might want to have a conversation but when it comes to just we believe it shouldn't be a 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Personal Update Plus the Status of Turbo and PiYo - 496
"Hi Sh- lean. This is Rebecca. I am a Web design instructor for handmade product sellers huge fan of both podcasts casts. You know I don't think I've ever left a review before but I just listened to your three part series on focus and while I have heard a a lot of these concepts in the past something about the way that you explained it in the examples that you gave really just made it click for me. I'm I'm a new mom. I'm struggling working all day. Ten minutes here I. It's been an excuse for me like oh well on my business doing as well because now I'm a new mom but after you're listening to your three podcast on that. I know that I have no more excuses and I can be successful and I can get a full day of work done in two hours and I really thank you for that because you've really just cut out all the excuses for me now. Ready to embrace. My life is a new mom and embrace my fulltime business owner life at the same time. Thank you hey. Welcome to this edition other selene. Lean show my name is Shawn Johnson and I'm recording this from my car Because it's kind of an informal episode today. We're just talking about some stuff that's going on that getting a ton of questions on social media in social media so I thought I would address them here with you today in the most timely fashion possible. Welcome to the show. Lean name show. Jelena's a New York Times bestselling author celebrity fitness trainer in obsessed with helping. You live your dream life. I should probably they say if you're new to the show is like your very first episode. This shouldn't be your first episode. There's some amazing content. I think we're I duNno now. Over four hundred episodes close to five hundred episodes. Their science. There's authors and experts and amazing stories that like there's some incredible episodes and this one is it's really for the lifers. A lifer is someone who we have a lot in common. We really like teach other I Think of my life is is people usually listen to both episode. Both shows the selene and build your tribe and they're the people who I go to people talk to me and social media and so we're just going to chat about what's going on in my life and stuff and kind of an update the way I would update my friends so anyways. If you're new please go listen to another episode ticket topic. Pick a title that fits Problem you're struggling with and I promised by the end the episode you'll find a solution but this lean it all right all right lifers okay. So I'm recording this on Wednesday day and it's also going to come out on Wednesday. I don't normally do that normal record on Monday and Tuesday and then the episode releases on a Wednesday obviously or somebody who's ever recorded weeks in advance that we hold it for whatever reason but there's a whole bunch of announcements that have happened in and the controversy etc.. I just decided you know what I should probably just like update people because my inbox is just filled with messages. And I can't replied light each and every I mean I do. I try to reply many people's possible but I know there's a whole bunch of people in there who are like how come she's not replying to me. I do my best. I promise but I thought it makes it. Might it makes more sense to give you a more thorough explanation and then just also talk about some other crazy stuff. So I'm going to talk about the I guess you could say controversy or the news. Maybe that a couple of the fitness programs that I created raided many years twenty years ago in some cases turbo kick and Pyeho Their fate and what's happening to those programs and instructors teach those. I'll answer that in a second but I would tell you like some interesting stuff that happened that you might like find 'cause a a lot of you you've listened to episodes with my parents right margin bill okay and everybody loves margin bill and you should love margin built. They need their own. TV show if any the one who is in charge of production for like. I'm trying to the network. That'd be perfect for them. I don't know but they need they freaky he neither own reality show. It would be so entertaining and it would be good clean humor and good family fund like that. You can't make up the stuff that happens. Wants to them and they are. They're hoot and they've always been that way all my life. Our lives were pretty funny and pretty interesting because of those two okay. So March and bill live healthier in Michigan and then half of the year they used to come to California when our kids were little been. Our kids are grown so now they're doing their own thing that's just like Hashtag awesome grandparents so now they go half the year to Florida where they play pickle ball pickle. cobol pickle ball pickle ball. It's all talk about. You would think that they are preparing to become pickle ball. Olympic athletes if pickle ball was there's an Olympic sport the two of them would be trying to win. Oh my God. Don't forget to tell you about my dad's funny pickle ball story okay. I'm going to start without because I you know I will forget okay so my dad is a below the knee amputee. I forget which leg but he lost his leg. otas right leg He lost his leg in a motorcycle. Accident out here in southern California. He was out here for the birth of with my mom. Not the birth of my mom. He was here for for the birth of Sierra and my parents were staying here and He was just taking a leisurely motorcycle. Ride down near the Russian and Just a little side street and you know he's just whatever going going along and this woman you've seen this happen and like and maybe even done it where you're you're at a stop sign and you look to your left to cut across traffic and you don't see anything and and then you hit the gas and then suddenly like you realize like your brain processes like. Oh No. That's that's a car or whatever while he was on a motorcycle and this just my theory that the woman like she started to to gas it and then like her brain realize equate. That's motorcycle and so she had a split second to either slam on the break break or slam on the gas and she chose to slam on the gas and t-boned my dad sending him flying into the air. He was a horrible horrible horrible accident was in the hospital for months. Emmy had so many injuries like broke every bone you can imagine and unfortunately they had to amputate his leg commit is super duper active and positive and that was a blow like it was obviously a really big adjustment for years but he's gone back to almost most all of his activities. I think he's he's even tried water skiing on one leg like he's such a trooper. He's a stud and he he just. He's so active like the Guy Burns. Earns five th inning these five thousand calories a day because he eats horrible food so he like he's super duper active. He's always like climbing up trees and building things and moving things and just active from morning until night and he loves pickle ball so he's playing pickle ball and his plan pickle ball obviously he wears a lot all the time like long athletic pants because he doesn't like it when people stare at his leg so he tries to cover it up so he's wearing long athletic pants as playing kickable go. I shouldn't be laughing but this is so funny. He's playing pickle ball and he said he like you know. Of course the way he describes it is like he's like the pro athlete and he reaches Out to whatever hit the ball and he doesn't just Situa- in twists and just such a way that keep twists like right out of his prosthetic clegg and the lake falls onto the court and all these people like. It's like a full house. There's all these people watching waiting for their turn on the pickle ball courts watching their significant others play pickle ball like it's it's there's a pickle ball crowd has formed if my dad twists twists out of his leg and his legs just like laying there on the court now prosthetic legs look Kinda Real and my dad said he you know he just kind of reacted the way you would automatically automatically and he grabbed onto a fence that was pretty close to the back of the board and Kinda hopped over there and quickly glanced back at like you know the row Oh of people who are watching despicable match and he said look he said their mouths were like hanging wide open like in shock shock like Whoa. What am I seeing? You imagine like just a leg falls off an immigrant did you do. He's the guy just sat down. Put my leg back on. Got Up and finished playing I'm like did anyone say anything like. Oh Wow are you okay. He's like no one said a word anyways he took that in stride. This is all GonNa come full circle so margin and bill are driving down to Florida. They've bought a home in this place. I forget what it's called you would know. It's it's a big deal in Florida. It's like we're all the retirees. Go for it's like it's like the alley. It's not called the alley but it's something like that like the ro I'm going to think of it and maybe I'll put it in the show notes to in case you WANNA move there. But it's like a huge huge community of retired people and they play pickle ball and they dance and they party and I don't know it seems a look toll rambunctious long ships but they love it and they're super social so they bought a house there and they're driving their new furniture that they bought for the house. A big PENSKI INSKEEP truck and they're pulling behind them a trailer that's filled with my dad's vintage motorcycles. His gun collection their clothing like frigate everything everything right and they are pulling this down to Florida. They pull over for the night in Georgia to catch a little sleep in. They're going to get up the next day and Finish driving to Florida so there wake up in the morning go outside and you probably guessed it a truck and the trailer gone everything. The motorcycles their furniture My Dad's gun collection. They live in the Midwest in West. So what can I say and his water leg. So he's he's an amputee he's got like two prospects like for walking around playing pickle ball and the other one for like swimming and it's gone crazy so they take it all in stride. They're like you know bummed but they have such great attitudes about everything they called. Tell me all this. And they're like okay. Well we gotta go. We gotta we're trying to figure out like the insurance and how we're going to get a car to drive drive the rest of the way down to Florida will let you go so I call him a couple of hours later just to see like okay. Please come all to get the update date and they can't my dad's like we. We can't talk right now. Any text me back. We're at the hospital like what what is going on now. So they poll who the beginning rental car. They go to get gas in the rental car. My Dad's filling up the car. My mom decides to walk the dog there next to McDonald's so she's walking the dog and steps into a fire. Ant Hill the fire ants like sting her all over her feet et Cetera and she starts immediately having a full-blown allergic reaction. And she. She can't even like walk back to the car where my dad is she. She knows this is bad because she says I look down in my hands already swelling. I could feel my throat. Swelling my tongue so she goes into the McDonald's quickly is like where is the nearest hospital. They tell her she goes over to my Daddy. She's like bill. Get in the car. I'm having allergic reaction. I got stung by an. We have got to go to the hospital because Epi Penn is in. The van was stolen. So my dad's like and he he jumps in the car and drives off with. You guessed it. The gas hose still in the rental car snaps that off. Now that's a whole fiasco that got to go back and fix that to give my mom to the hospital. And she was very very lucky because they of course wouldn't zero mmediately until my dad like had to demand like okay she. She's passing out and her throat was swelling and her face was swelling. And he's like okay. No you you need to see her now until they rushed back and then the doctor was like oh my gosh you are so the old lucky. This is like minutes away from being deadly and that's margin bill. Everything's fine now. She was out of the hospital like a couple of hours later. They were laughing about it like in the hospital. And they're in Florida and my mom is very happy with the new paint on her walls in her new home home in Florida the villages. That's what it's called the freaking villages. It's kickable heaven all right. So that's an update on them. Hey okay this'll only take a second. 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And then you do like an anaerobic drill super cool turbo kick created in one thousand nine hundred seven You know we certified fitness instructors in that format for more than ten years and then created created another program called Pyeho I think back in two thousand and those programs as well as called hip hop hustle. The we certified fitness instructors actors instructors all around the country all around the world Sixty countries at one point Tens of thousands of instructors and people would learn the choreography. I would create the routine. I would develop the music I would license the music I would edit not me personally I mean I I did but that eventually eventually had a team of people who would license it and then edit it and we would then sell to fitness instructors the the routine and the music and the Choreography Rafi notes and then instructors would learn that routine and then use that music and they would teach the class at their particular clubs and we had you know at the the height of it all hundreds of thousands potentially millions of people doing this workout at their gyms all across the globe really cool. That's how it got got the attention infomercial companies Eventually we signed a deal with beach body and then once I was doing consumer videos for beach body. They saw the business this model. We had certifying instructors. They also found that when people were doing the homework out which was turbo jam at the time that once they got good at it. They're like. Oh what's what's next. I wanted to do something more and they would. They would want to start teaching and so they were coming from the beach body business over to our our business and I think you know beach body saw the opportunity. They saw the ability to take their other programs like insanity country heat and others And and create certification so that instructors could teach those formats in the gyms so we sold our company power blue productions actions to beach body I think we I think we sold in two thousand ten. Maybe two thousand eleven was when we finalized and suicidal. It's been it's been it's been a minute. Spent almost ten years right okay. So here's the part that people really don't know and that is when we sold the companies I was contractually Required to consult with beach body for a period of time. I think three years But it was pretty clear right after we sold that you know they really they. They didn't need me and one of the reasons why we sold the company companies. Because we we couldn't take it to the next level in order for it to to do what it needed to do to be able to reach the masses to grow ro man we would have had to hire a lot more people and go all in and it would have had an impact on our our life in order to make AAC things happen the way we felt it had the potential to to do that. We needed to be in someone else's hands so it's kind of like and not. I hope this isn't an offensive offensive. Analogy I don't mean it to be but it's kind of like having a child and raising a child being for half the child's Charles Life and then realizing that like you really can't give that child everything that they need and you love that child and is a part of you but you also know that if that child is ever going to like really thrive they need to they need more opportunities and potential and you know somebody who can give them everything they need and putting in your child for adoption like literally. That's what it felt like and so pretty soon. After we sold the company I just felt like okay. The handwriting's on the wall. Here they really. I'm there's so many things I was trying to be like. No no no. We don't do it that way. Oh wait now. You know you can't do it that way like so many things that were I I wanted to control and I wanted them to be i. I really wanted them to be done the same way and just wasn't happening. And we're kind of butting heads and it was stressful for me right like imagine that you you know you have a certain way that you feed your kid in a certain way to address them and and you know their personality and and it was just all all those things that I had a really hard time letting go of that and I don't remember who it was but some wise gentleman said to me you know when when I sold my company I would sit there at the board meetings and at one point someone leaned over to me and said you know they bought the company. You don't need to be at the table anymore. And when he told me that I was like Maybe making it harder and I just I need a different perspective on this like I was still contractually required to consult as needed me the two but I needed to shift my perspective. I needed to let go. I needed to let them parent this baby this child if you will. I needed them. I needed them. I'm to do what they knew how to do. And so I I literally went to a therapist and I did grief counseling and ahead ahead to do this privately. Because you know I'm still kind of the face of the brand at this time back then and I've got all of these area. Promotion Directors actors presenters if you will and they became master trainers For these formats and I didn't ever want them to feel any of my discouragement. Or the sadness or the grief that I was going through. I was literally morning these this program so I I went to grief counseling and it helped so much I literally had to just as I say now I had to grieve it so that I could leave David and mentally. I just got to a place where it's like I. I didn't have feelings for those programs. The way I once did I mean always always have nostalgia and love and but I felt like there were different now. You know what I mean like. I had to grieve the fact that the turbo I i-accredited was never going to be again and that there was a new form of turbo and that was something I wasn't really part of love and so from after the first three years. I didn't do anything with those formats other than occasionally console choreography atrophy. Of course I did a lot with pyo but in in in the last several years like last three years. I haven't done anything even with the PYO choreography. That that's being taught in the gyms gyms anyways I mean that's my very close friend Michelle Park. Who was the program I forget what title they gave. The people created the choreography But Angie Green and Michelle Park Sharper shadow to both of them because they they continue to the best of their ability to keep those formats as has close to their original Design as possible while also allowing them to evolve and also missile staying in accordance with what beach body wanted anyways. I haven't done anything with those programs and like many years and I got a message on Monday at the same time that all the master trainers got the message and the instructors around the country that though that beach body live which was the certification the live Instructor Division of the company the Division that they acquired from us that they were going to be dissolving thing and no longer Doing that and then my social media are blowing. Like ev like people people just coming out of the woodwork. And you know leaving videos of themselves like crying and saying like this is my life and I can't believe this and you've got to do something you've got how. How could you do this like so I a lot of people don't know like the whole story and I think they believe I still owned it? I think a lot of people SUMED that It's kind of like a handshake thing like beach. Body was like Oh okay here you can have a back like it just doesn't work that way you know there's there's so many other formats over tied into it and continuity it's legally it's complicated licensing music for videos and to be played in the public domain. That's all very very complicated. It's very very expensive to do. And I understand that people are incredibly upset over it and that it's part of their identity and what was so strange. He's last couple of days me seeing people going through the grief that I'd already processed and I just felt so weird because I'm sure people were like you know. Why aren't you devastated? Because I already went through that process. You know an number one. I recognize that change is hard but change is good. Change is good but it was still really sad to see people so devastated by it. You know because it really can become your identity if you've never taught a fitness class. It's really kind of even more than teaching fitness class. If your fitness instructor if you've ever had this experience -perience where you're standing in front of a room full of people and everyone is moving in sync and people are pushing themselves and you know they are enjoying themselves. They've forgotten that it's a workout like it's that's what Pyeho and turbo are like. It's about the music so that you really you forget that you're working out. It's literally an experience and it can be very emotional for people as well as physical and when you're standing in front of a room full of people like this and you know that you're changing their day. You know that for a moment. They've been able to forget about the fact that they're going through a divorce. Their child is struggling in school or that. They're you know in a tough financial situation like for a moment in time nothing matters and you give people that and there's just this you can feel it in the middle of your workout. You just look around and you can feel the energy and it's so hard to describe unless you've ever been in that situation but like in your in the front of the room and you know that you're you're giving people the gift in this moment like it is such a high and it is such that you rewarding incredible feeling. It's addictive and then you're forever chasing that that high like you're always trying to recreate the perfect class. Yes I know it sounds crazy but it's like that you know and then you have a class where you're like. Oh The music didn't go quite right. I didn't cube beautifully You know whatever it's is not perfect and you're forever trying to like recreate that perfect workout for people because you know it's so transformative so to find out that that the workout that maybe you associate with that meaning either it's turbo or pie or insanity or whatever format it is Is is going away. I can see how that would really really be devastating to people and so I just want to remind you if that's you or anyone in what I did when I went live on. INSTAGRAM is. I just wanted to remind people like it's. It's not the format like it's cool. The associate that with turbo or pie or insanity or one of the other formats but p ninety x. It's it's not the format it's you that does that for people. It's the way that you pour into people. It's the way you feel the music 'cause we've all taken classes where the music was there. The choreography was there. But just one happening like you weren't feeling it because they weren't feeling it. It's it's hard to describe but it's important that people remember like no matter. What is your identity is you you? It's not your identity. And what makes you special were allows you to touch people's lives isn't your relationship with a particular person person. It's not your job. It's not your sport. It's not your label. It's what's inside of you so so when there's change you're leaving job leaving university no longer. Maybe teaching a format matter teaching at a particular club. Or whatever like when you're at your kids leave and now you're no longer like a stay at home mom. You're an empty Nester like your identity doesn't change you've given something outside of yourself too much power power and control and I think you've lost sight of who you are and that's a really important lesson you know whether you're one of those instructors actors whose kind of trying to figure out. What am I gonNa do now or not just went when there's change and it feels like a big piece of you is is lost remember? The peace has not the pieces still. They're like all of you is still. There is just an experience and now now there's change and change is transformative. Change makes us grow. God always has our highest in our best in store for us and I don't think you should ever question that process that you should fight it. I think you should grieve it so that you can appreciate eight it but also move on and I know there are a lot of questions that I'm not in any type of authority authority to answer. Like I know People WanNa know like okay. So what's going to happen or they're going to be more workouts creative for instructors by the way this doesn't affect those of you who may be do the workouts coutts on The streaming platforms like you might do turbo fire turbo jam or Pie on the streaming platforms. They're all still going to be there. I don't think any see that content's going away is just moving forward. There won't be a certification division at Beach Body and there they will not be making new rounds or lessons if you will of the choreography for any of their programs is not just mine. It was any of the Instructor our program so that they've just they've closed up that division and beyond that. I'm not in a place of authority to answer questions because I really don't know no I'm not on the inside track so if you are instructor and you have additional questions I would. You know I would reach out to them. I would Send an email or check your email. Because I think they've they've done a pretty good job of trying to communicate that to folks so so I just wanted to address that and kind of give you the back story and tell you I love you and to every single instructor so whoever taught one of my formats I want to say thank you I. I know what you're feeling and I love you and what you do is not easy being a fitness instructor. We'd people joke about like. Oh you'll see a teach aerobics. There's that stereotypical like you know. ditz that teaches finis. But it ain't it ain't about that like I'm telling you I've never done brain surgery pretty sure I could because I teach fitness classes. It is so much charter than people. Assume you're facing a room full of people you're telling them to go right but you're pointing with your left because you're the mirror image of them. You have to tell them. What exact move they have to do? And you have to use a minimal number of words and you have to use those words on count five six and seven because they need to make that move on count eight so you have to be aware of like okay. I met count one two three four. Oh now I need to tell them what to do and I need to finish saying it before the eight count and I need to memorize sixty full minutes every single every single count of a one hour class. y'All it ain't easy so hats off to my instructors out there next time if one of you to if you take a group fitness class do that instructor the the ultimate gift and walk up to them after class I I never ever leave class without telling an instructor something that they did really well. Great Music. Great queuing great choreography. Great whatever I just. It's hard so if you take group exercise classes do that instructor a favor gives them the gift of letting them know. I know what you do. It's not easy and I just want you know how much I appreciate the time and effort you put into preparing for class or how great class was today are just how well you queue your vocal inflection. The music everything like just anything. Give them a compliment. Because it's hard work and no no fitness instructor. Does it for the money. y'All there's no money to be made teaching fitness classes. I mean unless you're like on the Peleton instructors it's just not it's not easy and there's the instructors who teach at your club in at your or facility. They do it because they love you. They care so much about you. So when you're complaining you didn't do ams today. Like Simmer Knbr down semi data NASA. Be grateful because they're doing it as a labor of love. That's my update. Thanks for waiting for this episode and thanks for sharing it. Thanks for sharing with your friends that they should be listening to the Shalini show. Thank you for double checking your phone making sure that you are subscribed and thanks for writing writing a five star review that all helps the show so much. It's a tip jar and I really appreciate it. I I actually would love for you to tell me that you've done that. Because otherwise how do I know right like if you can send me an instagram. 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#32 - Should your Fitness Coach be Fat?
"What is going on? Welcome to the James is make money on my podcast. Number number one show for online trainings. Wanting more money changed more people's lives and have more of an impact on the world without spending thousands of dollars on a website or even pay my name's Brian Mark I've been online finish coach for four years and my four years all my coaching. I helped over one thousand. Online fitness clients completely transform their lives and in the last year I decided to start stepping up up and sharing my knowledge with personal trainers on how I quit my job and I took my business online. Last year I helped over a hundred trainers quit their jobs and take their businesses fulltime online online. So if you're brand new here welcome. I have a free e book for you. That talks about how clients make ten K.. Month with instagram stories. With your name at all you gotta do. DM ME on instagram. Damn that's at be more fit and I will send you your guide on how my clients MC ten thousand dollars per month for the instagram stories. Now let's get into today's show. What is going on on? They finish coach. Welcome to another episode of change. I make money the Journal podcast. My name is mark. I'm your host and your mentor. And today we're GONNA be talking about a touchy subject. Should your fitness trainor be fat. Now this is this is a touchy subject and this might offend some people. So I'M GONNA do my best to kind of speak my part part within this without offending anybody too much but personally. I think that there are a lot of personal trainers that are in the industry who aren't living up to what I would deem as like an acceptable healthy standard and as somebody who believes in leading by example like one of my core philosophies Lhasa Fay's in business and fitness and everything that I do is leading by example like I wanna be like a walking testament for the thing that I'm trying to a cell or or or embody so should your fitness trainer be fat so back when I started my training I was actually pretty opinionated on this kind of stuff And I was dead set on having chiseled physique so I started competing. WBZ competitor and online training part time on the side. And I was pretty pretty committed to this idea that if I was going to help other people become healthy and fit that I also had to be healthy and fit and I I was also pretty extreme at this mentality so oh I actually believe that I needed to be absolutely chiseled and I wanted to be like an actual breathing example of what it meant like what I was is trying to portray to my clients so I told myself I have to be ascetic if I'm going to be a personal trainer so I called my brand aesthetic nation so that everyone that came into my brand was like looking to become come more ascetic now. Do I think that you need to be shredded to be in on the finish line. Do I think that you need to have like six. PACK ABS and be like chiseled and have veins popping out of every. You like element of your body. No but when I first started on my training I believe that like I was under this belief that unless I was absolutely like at my peak physical physical condition that I couldn't coach other people. Now I think that some people do think like that. I think this is like a podcast for onto levels on one level. I want to speak to the people that are for that. Maybe they're not like chiseled out of their minds but they want to be in on the trainer and I'm also going to be speaking to those people who are personal trainers but they don't work out so I don't like when I first started my training like I told myself that I wasn't GonNa be fulltime unless I was a professional model. So that's why I was competing so I wanted to compete to. I build my business because I believe that once I got my pro card then I was qualified to coach other people And then once I got my pro card ide- myself as qualified so it's been six six years and I think that my beliefs have shifted a lot since then and. I don't think that you need to be shredded to be on fitness coach. But I think that you need to be on on a fitness journey yourself. I believe that you do need to be working on your fitness goals so there are some personal trainers that are in the industry right now that are telling other people to like eat unhealthy and they wanNA lose weight but then they don't go to the gym themselves and I actually. I've been to a gym within the last few months here where there was a personal trainer. Those working there and it looked like he hadn't worked out like like the last six years and he's telling people to do burpee and do squats and do all these things and it's like brother like you look like you haven't touched await in like seven years and I'm not judging him as a person but I do know that like if I'm a client and my trainer's telling me to do Burke's and it looks like he hasn't looked like even walked inside had the gym besides the fact that he's working like I'm going to be less likely to listen to him so for those personal trainers. That aren't on a fitness in yourselves. Like you'll like your clients are looking to you due to be an example so I do think that if you're a personal trainer that's finished earning that is a problem also for those trainers that are like thinking about getting into the industry. He but then they don't have six pack ABS. They're not like chiseled other minds. I think that if you're on a fitness journey yourself as in your exercising you're working on your fitness schools. Maybe you're trying to build strength whatever. It is as long as you're on a fitness journey like that is what matters. That's what your clients care about. Your clients want to see you putting in the effort so if you are putting in the effort and working on your fitness goals and trying to become a better person and trying to live that healthy lifestyle. I would deem that as qualified to be coaching other people to to do the same thing to join you on your journey. But if you're standing from the outside in and you're just like looking at fitness and you're like oh I can be a personal trainer and make money by telling other people really do push ups but you're unwilling to hit the floor like I don't believe that personal training is the best fit for you now. I know that there's going to be some people that are listening to this. PODCAST and they'd be like Brian. Brian like there are some great. There's some great football coaches that have never played the game of football. And you're like I totally get that that that agreement and that argument however I think that with fitness coaching in itself like fitness coaching requires you not only to teach the thing but also to to like pass pass along the experience of it because all of us know US personal trainers on their famous coach is all of us know that fitness just isn't just about exercising and eating eating right it's also about the emotional journey. It's also about the commitment levels. It's also about the discipline and so as a fitness coach. You're not only responsible for helping people. With their training ending in attrition plans. You're also responsible for the emotional part of the coaching and coaching people on commitment and discipline and consistency. And if I have a hard time with that myself if I have a hard time with consistency that I'm actually out of integrity in like with coaching. Somebody else how to do that so I I think that if I was to walk into store and get solid say I walked into the store in the mall and I wanted to get style advice from a dude like that was like working in the mall and I walked into the store and the dude was dressed like he's homeless. He's got like spots all over his shirt and looks like he hasn't taken care of himself like I wouldn't take style by a guy. 'cause I'm like dude like you clearly don't know what you're talking about right if I was if I walked locked into my counseling session and let's say a married right and me and my wife or like fighting and I walked into a counselling sessions to get marriage counseling and then I found out that my counselor was divorced. I like I wouldn't be very likely to listen to him because I'm like dude like you fucking clearly like eat your own cookies. So like why would I listen anything you have to say. It's the same thing with finances right like doc. I walked into my financial advisor sitting down and having a conversation about like building my life and I find out that my financial adviser is broke. Like I'm going to be a lot less likely you to listen to that financial adviser because I'm like dude like clearly. You don't know what you're talking about because you're broke going here so I think that it's extremely possible possible to succeed as a fitness coach whether or not you're in shape it's true like there's so much like the Internet is massive. There's so many different opportunities for you to connect with clients on instagram program. facebook linked in twitter youtube ticked off all these different things. There's so many different opportunities for you to connect with clients and so as an owner fitness coach. I think it's possible to to succeed whether or not you're in shape there's a big market and there's a lot of fish for everyone and I also think that those online trainers that are in good shape working on their fitness schools and are living breathing examples of their philosophy or always going to outperform those people who are not so here three reasons why I think your fitness trainer. You should not be fat so reason number one is emotional coaching. Anyone that's been on. A famous journey knows that. It's hard like on offense journey. There's some days where you wake up super motivated to snatch jayme eat your meals and just like crush it and there's also certain days where you don't WanNa do anything where you'd rather lay in bed and sleep through your alarm clock and go to the gym or yoga class or or eat. Some food like being GonNa Finish Journey as challenging and so if you don't have a trainer who has been through the emotional journey of being on a finisher and he understands discipline consistency working through their own stuff. If you haven't if you don't have a trainer that's been through that then it's GonNa be really hard for that trainer to coach you through. It is going to be like go to the gym. And you're going to be like but I don't want to and then that's where it stops so emotional. Coaching is one of the big reasons that your fitness trainer shouldn't be fat because they need to understand the journey that it takes to be fit. It's so emotional. Coaching super important. And that's reason number one that your that. Your fitness trainer shouldn't be fat reason number two. Your fitness trainer should not be fat. Is that we we learn by watching monkey see monkey do and so if you're at the gym you're like crushing it. You're doing your birth BS. You're eating your meal prep and and then you go into you. Go into your personal training session and you see your personal trainer eating his lunch and he's smashing a fucking Ayn w bag like you're gonNA going to be a lot less likely to listen to that person when he's telling you to eat your vegetables so we learn by observing and so if you have a fitness trainer that's overweight or struggling with their fitness and they're not working on it then you're GonNa Watch that and you'RE GONNA learn by watching so we learned by watching so you can't just have somebody tell you what to do you also have to. Have Somebody show you what to do. especially with fitness fitness. Like kinesthetic journey. Like you need to be able to see somebody else doing the thing. So reason number two. Your fitness trainer shouldn't be fat is that we learn by watching monkey. See Monkey do reason number three and honestly this reason for me is the number one reason that I think you're finished dinner. Shouldn't be fat is is that I believe that as a fitness coaches it is our responsibility to lead by example. It's our responsibility like if I'm a personal trainer and I'm selling health and fitness. I'm trying to sell you on the benefits of living healthy lifestyle. I'm trying to sell you on why it's important to take care of yourself. I'm trying to sell tell you why it's important to take care of your body. I believe it's my responsibility to be like a walking billboard for what that looks like like and that doesn't mean having a six six pack abs that doesn't mean being super vascular. That doesn't mean that you have to be absolutely chiseled to be an fitness coach. But I believe that it is your responsibility as the fitness coach to be on a fitness journey. It's our duty to lead by example. So should you're finishing fat. No because I honestly honestly believe that if if as a Finnish trainer if I can't drink my own kool-aid then it's GonNa be really hard for me to convince somebody else to do that too. So just kind wrapping up for those personal trainers. That are listening to this right now that that are maybe. They're not on a finished themselves but the coaching other people honestly. I think you need to be on Finnish journey. I don't think you need to be like ready for a show. I don't think you need to be chiseled. I don't think you need to be like like magazine cover ready but I think you need to be on a Finnish journey if you're coaching other people to be on the same thing. I wouldn't get a haircut from a barber that had a bad care cut. I won't get style advice from somebody who looked like they never showered you. You know I wouldn't take financial advice from somebody that was broke. I wouldn't walk into a counselor with somebody that was divorce to coach me on my marriage. So we we need to have somebody that can coach us through through the experience because fitness coaching isn't just training and nutrition plans. If it was people would just go to Google and they have all the answers solved. People are coming to a fitness coach. Coach right people are coming to a fitness coach so that they can like be coached through a fitness journey so coaching through finished or any isn't just training and nutrition is also a lot emotional coaching. That comes along with it. Also people learn by example like people are GonNa Watch what you observe your behavior and they're going to take that and apply to for their own life so as a fitness coach. If you're telling somebody to eat broccoli but then you're smashing w every time the cameras off like that's a serious problem. So should you're finished. You're GONNA be fat. No no no. They shouldn't also do. You need to be absolutely shut it to being on my fitness coach. No you just need to be on a Finnish. dernie yourself. So if you're on a fitness journey and you're working on your fitness goals when you're working on becoming a better person. I believe that deems as qualified to be on my fitness coach. So that's it for today's podcast. Thank you so much for tuning in this is the change is is make money on the chain of podcast. If you're tuning in to finish your fat I'd love to know your opinion on this so feel free to shoot me on instagram. Happy Mark Fit and let me know. Oh what your thoughts are on sugar finisher and fat. Let me know that you listen to the episode. I'm going to be giving away a thousand dollars cash here pretty soon. So if you WANNA be a thousand dollars all you gotTa do is screen. Shot that you listen to this podcast shared on your instagram story. Tag Me at Mark Fit and let me know so that I can contest so thank you so much for tuning in this is the change is made money on my podcast. My name is mark fit. I'm your host. I'm your mentor. That's it for now. I'll see you on tomorrow's episode and we'll talk to you soon. Hey if you're a brand thank you again for spending your valuable time with me. I really appreciate it. I truly do respect your time and I hope this was valuable for you. So if you're granny listener again thank you for checking out the show and don't forget you can grab your copy of the book. How my clients make ten thousand the month with instagram stories over instagram? All you gotTa do is happy market and tell me that you listened to the podcast. Be Sure to join me on the next episode at thanks again so much for spending Alec they look forward to catch you on the next episode. Chains is make money on my podcast.
Are You Living a Lie | The Why behind the 131 Method - 391
"Before we get started. I wanted to let you know. Some really exciting news. My new book the one through a method, which I've been working on for three years is now available for preorder. You can find it at burns and noble and also Amazon dot com. And of course, you can go into your local mom and pop bookstore and ask them to order it for you. When you do place, your preorder for the book, I want to reward you and help you get started immediately with your mindset, all you do is go to one three one book write that down one three one book dot com, you'll enter your Email address and your order number and immediately like that minute. I will send you this free mindset coaching program that I've created as a bonus as my thank you to you for pre ordering the book for supporting me for being with me along this very very important very personal journey. I am so committed to helping you get healthy. From the inside out improving, your gut health, and creating a customized approach that works without the fads without the gimmicks, something that you can do for the rest of your life and change the legacy of health in your family. But you know, what it starts with mindset? So please take advantage of this free bonus. It's a ninety seven dollar value. And it's yours by going to one three one book dot com for more details. All right. Enjoy the show, but don't forget one through on book dot com. What is up? I'm so grateful for you like, you don't even know I m super excited to be able to tell you that you've been asking for a Facebook group. I guess a lot of podcasters do this. And I toyed with the idea for a little while then it was like, oh gosh is going to take so much time to manage. And then I'm like, I don't need to manage it. You guys are awesome. I don't have anything to worry about. We can all just jump in there and have fun. And you're right. I should have done this a long time ago. But now it's here. So. If you are a true pod squad. If you're one of those people who listens you absorb you wanna talk and debate and connect with other people who are just like you and me well now, we have a home. We have got our own little private Facebook group. It's called Shalini pod squad. And you'll need to subscribe to both the Schlink show and build your tribe, which why wouldn't you 'cause everybody could use a little extra passive income. Even if you're not going to start your own business who doesn't need a little extra money. So subscribe to both and then join our new little private community created just for us suggested. By you, the pod squad Shalini pod squad on Facebook. Welcome to the show lean show Selena's a New York Times bestselling author celebrity fitness trainer in obsessed with helping you live your life. Today's episode is about figuring out waking up realizing that something that you're doing something that you're part of nickleby a group of friends. Ah career a mission some even working towards like this moment. And we've all had this in our lives where you just go. What am I doing a moment of awakening when you begin to question your own values? What's important to you? What matters your beliefs. What it is you stand for and it starts with a story one day as I was preparing to start shooting. A new consumer fitness program. One of the producers scheduled a call with my husband. Oh, by the way. I am reading this directly from my new book. It's a little excerpt. You're welcome from my new book, the one three one method back to the story. One of the producers scheduled a call with my husband. I thought that's odd. Why would they want to call and talk about my preparations for this project with Brett and not with me directly? Well, Brett took the call in her home office, and I just went about my business. And when he finished I could just tell the he was disturbed. Served. So of course, you know, as all wives. Do I pastored him in a product him? And I post until he reluctantly told me what was wrong. The producer will call Brett had suggested that he have a conversation with me his wife about getting in tip top shape for the project that I was working on said producer said, and I quote, we just think our next program would really crush at like she could kill it. If maybe you know, she lost a little weight kind of tightened up. You know, just really got that inspirational physique that all women want. Okay. I'm going off the book script for a moment here. But can you imagine another person calling your significant other to suggest that you need to do something about your body? Can you imagine that in maybe you're thinking to yourself? Why would tell them to go screw off or I would just ignore them. But what if their opinion of you of your body, and what they thought you needed to do with your body affected, your earning potential, which affected your ability to take care of your family, which affected your ability to help a lot of other people who are on the payroll, then how would you handle it? I know my first instinct was to go public and tell people about what had happened. My first instinct was to fight back was like punch somebody in the throat and just say, oh, yeah. We'll f you, but that didn't last long because the little voice inside my head that already believed I didn't belong there that already was dealing with some major imposter syndrome that voice was louder and it took over put in this moment in this moment. When Brett was describing to me the phone call I felt my face flush. I can't even tell you how a shamed and humiliated. I felt that someone had called my husband to share this suggestion. So in my overactive imagination. I pictured a room full of executives standing there with red pens in their hands gathered around a high definition blown up photo of me in my mind. I could just. Just picture them circling every dimple every wrinkle every rule every stretch Mark every imperfection. Of course, the call only confirmed what I was already saying in my head all along even though this conversation had been private between two individuals. I felt like someone had exposed me exposed me to the world. So as brutal as his call was I also felt in my heart. Like, okay, this is confirmation of my deepest insecurities that I do not belong here. What was I going to do? Well, I wasn't gonna go down without a fight. I thought maybe you just lose a few pounds. I would actually feel like I deserve to be here. I deserve to be called a health and fitness expert. Holy cow. That is hard for me to even imagine. How delusional my thinking was the time is just so crazy to me now to look back and see how unhealthy physically mentally all of this was whether fueled by shame. Or my fear of being found out in that moment. I literally stopped caring about my health. It wasn't about my health anymore. I had been given my orders, and I was on a no fail mission to lose weight via any means necessary. I wanted to prove desperately that I was worthy of the identity. And I felt like I didn't deserve that. Because I didn't have the body that somebody else wanted me to have. Although I rarely weighed myself that day, I jumped on the scale, and I looked between my toes and through the tears in my eyes. I looked down. And I could see that the number on the scale was already my lowest weight, the lowest weight I'd ever been in my adult life now, I don't wait myself regularly. So I I didn't even know that. But I'm looking down at this number, and I'm thinking to myself how in the world am I gonna lose weight when I'm already doing everything? I can I'm. The eating clean diet. I'm already exercising for literally hours every day. What choice did I have? Well, I decided I had no choice but to go on a crash diet. I was determined to show up with the body that others would find quote inspirational end approve to those producers in the world that actually belonged there. So I I tried a diet that was created by or that the type of diet that fitness models would follow to get them. Ready to go on stage. You know, like a Finnish competition. Well that didn't work for me. Then I tried going low fat high protein kind of look a crash meal plan and nothing changed. Then I tried doing the whole low carb route, and then gluten free, and then I tried drinking only shakes and tracking my macronutrients. I tried the cave woman died, I I tried just about every popular diet. You can think of diets you've probably tried to you name it. I tried it. And over the course of the next ninety days nothing really worked and this further confirm. And my belief that there was something wrong with me something wrong with my body. I only had one thing left. I could try and that was to diet harder. So I cut my calories even further I cut way back on my portion sizes and believe it or not I added even more exercise to my already exhausting daily fitness grind. Okay. And then I also cut back on my water. Why? Because I didn't want to hold onto any extra fluids, by the way, drinking less water to look, leaner is one of the worst pieces of advice. Yes. Floating around fitness circles does this sound miserable. Well, it was. But after a few weeks, I lost just a few pounds and just a few pounds on physique. That's only five to on a good day was apparently just enough to please the producers. Okay. So now if you've never done this before let me explain what it's like to shoot, a consumer fitness video first of all. When you're doing it with a partner or another producer a team has to sign off on every detail because it's representing the brand that means your hair makeup outfit. All the people who are in your cast and most people who are indefens- would love to be in a workout video. I however was now feeling very self conscious. And that's something I'd never felt in my entire life. Here. I was forty five years old standing half naked in these teeny tiny bike shorts and a little tiny crop top which PS I never wear in real life. This is something they want you to do an exercise videos, and I'm standing you're half naked in front of a table of decision makers after weeks and weeks of dieting and over exercising there. I stood. I'd never been so thin or felt so weak in my entire life. I carefully followed the eyes and the subsequent facial expressions of each of these individuals as they looked my body up and down in silence now if someone had a comment it was often whispered to the person next to them another part of the production team and presumably they do this. So that they don't have to embarrass you. Who knows what they're even saying? But just picture yourself standing half naked in front of a small group of adults who are literally being paid to whisper comments about your appearance now, listen, I know their job is to help me. Look my best, right? Like, I get it. They're going to let me know if something doesn't look, right. But in that moment, it didn't feel like that. I just stood there and wanted to scream when they were finished looking me up and down one of them replied, you look really good. We're really happy. With your body. I was about to pass out. I didn't look healthy. I look like a skeleton of myself nonetheless, the compliments poured in now feel free to stalk me on Instagram. I am at Shawn Johnson. But you won't find the photo. I'm about to describe to you in this part of the book why because everything prior to twenty fifteen had been deleted during my hack. Okay. Back to the book. On her first day of shooting. I posted a few pictures to my Instagram. I knew that. I looked gaunt. I knew that my muscles had lost their volume as soon as I posted that photo. One of the first comments was whoa. You've lost weight. You look horrible. I deleted it. And then another one Shalini are you? Okay. You look in erect sick. But ninety nine point nine percent of the comments were alarmingly positive. Hashtag goals. I wanna body like that. What program are you doing girl? Look in fierce dang, you've never looked so good. It was so confusing. Now, don't bother trying to guess what program. This was it's not a well known video series. In fact, it was an ad on. But to this day, people will still ask me, what was the diet program that you are following when you film those videos. Well, now, you know, and I hope it's one that you never follow. Hey, I've got some really exciting news. We are returning. We're back on the road with the Shalini show live in conjunction with my book launch party. I am taping. A live episode of the Shalini show at the suburban theater in Beverly Hills on April eighteenth now that is Thursday pod squad. I would love to meet you. This is going to be really special. I mean, they're all really special because they get to meet you, and you guys get to meet each other, and they're fun. And it's the ultimate girls night out in fellows. If you were smart, you should come with your lady or you should come to find yourself the love of your life because I have the smartest funnest coolest most amazing audience. And I can't wait for you guys to meet each other. So grab your tickets now you can find them by going to Shalini show live dot com. General admission starts at thirty nine dollars. And I don't know if they'll. Available at the time. You're listening to this. But we did make just a few special seats available for people who basically want to spend the day with me in Britain the team you'll go to lunch with us. You'll hang out backstage will pop some champagne you'll help me pick out my outfit. We'll have a good time. You'll meet the drag Queen who happens to be emceeing the show like this is a once in a lifetime experience. Hey, don't wait, go to Shalini show live dot com. And I will see you on Thursday, April eighteenth looking back, I realise now how messed up at all was at the time. I was just so knee deep in an industry that categorizes you as healthy based on how low your body fat is period. That's it had nothing to do with my health at all. I was being celebrated in fact encouraged to keep my body fat as low as possible despite how incredibly unh-. Healthy. It was no one made me do it. No, one told me I had to, but I could read between the lines even still I did it to myself, and I take one hundred percent full responsibility. I take responsibility for my decisions and my actions, I could have declined the project. I could've said I don't have any way to lose. And just called their bluff I wanted to look the part by the time. We started filming however, my mental and physical states were deteriorating between takes I would just rush into my dressing room and just cry for no reason, I mean, my emotions were completely out of control probably because my hormones were my skin, my sleep, my hair. Everything was a mess completely unhealthy. All I could think about at the time was foods all the foods that I couldn't eat. I felt like such a fraud the shoe. Included several workouts and it lasted about a week. But once it was over it wasn't like I went crazy in like binge didn't binge or anything. I just returned to the healthy way. I was eating before which was still very disciplined, by the way, and I was eating and exercising. Just as I always had. But because I had done that crash diet within just about a month time those couple of pounds those couple of pounds. I lost for the project. Well, they came back, and then some sound familiar, surely you have your own story of weight gain of weight loss or just not being able to lose a freaking pound despite your best efforts. We guardless of the details. There's certain things I'm sure that we have in common when we gain weight after a diet. We blame ourselves we let time pass. And then we go on another dumb diet or go crazy with another exercise program and each time it. Becomes harder and harder. Why because we've trashed or slowed our metabolism, which makes wake gain inevitable. I mean, it sucks. We wind up miserably disappointed inner bodies annoyed by everything in her closet and angry about the situation. We blame ourselves and we are desperate to find the magic solution. Well, I hope you enjoyed that. I'm off script. Now. I'm not reading the book. But that story is just one of many stories that I share in the book where I kind of detail things that I was doing so in the name of health and fitness that are still happening like that's the norm and health and fitness, unfortunately, in not many people have the balls to tell you what's going on. But it is and with the majority of people not all there's always exceptions. But yeah, it can be a pretty unhealthy place a place, that's focused sometimes more. So on what we look like as opposed to how healthy are we how long are we going to live? What hap-? If we understand that we set aside marketing and all the things that people want us to drink in eat. And how often they want us to eat. And and what they want us to do what they want us to buy. If we set all of that aside and just really looked at how biologically we were designed to thrive. You know, if you just go back and look at family, photos and go back a hundred years and go back even beyond that. And you'll see that each decade. The family gets heavier and heavier and heavier, and that is consistent with the fact that we know more supposedly about tracking our macro and measuring our fat grams and exercise and metabolism at cetera. Why are we more unhealthy today than we were ten years ago and way more unhealthy than we were twenty and thirty years ago, the answer marketing, but that doesn't help those of us who are like. Okay. Great. How do I get to the bottom of this? How do I solve my problem? And that's where I was. And it wasn't this particular experience that was my wakeup call. It was a health scare that forced me to kind of like piece together. Okay. How did they do this to my brain? How did I do this to my body into my metabolism? What happened and pieced together? Everything that I had done in. Quote, in the name of health that it nearly destroyed my health, and then I said out on a mission over the course of three years to find the answer like the metabolic scientific individual researchers at the top universities. The people who weren't trying to sell me something the people who were like literally studying the stuff and first animals, and then human clinical studies in peer reviewed research, and I just sat out on a mission, and I'm so thankful to God that I have this platform because oftentimes I could interviews with people who otherwise wouldn't have talked to me wouldn't have let me in the doors at the university. But I I had this great platform. So I was able to get information. Even though if I'm being honest, quite frankly, it was yes to serve my audience. But it was I I had to solve my own problem. I need to know like how do I fix this? I can't live like this. I refuse to live like this. I need to figure out what what's the truth? I'm so confused. I'm a leader in the health and fitness industry. And I'm so freaking. Confused, please sort this out. And that's what I did as I do with most things I kind of set everything off to the side for a while. You know, I didn't do a lot of podcasting. I went full force into this. I set aside smart success. I set aside even the marketing impact academy for a little while like I really was like this is my mission. I'm gonna figure this out for me. But my why was my children the thought that I was decreasing my own longevity. I was shortening my life, and what I was doing was killing my brain in putting me in a position where my children might have to take care of me prematurely. Like, the thought of my kids having to take care of my personal hygiene like twenty years before they needed to because of things I was doing killed me. And it motivated me that became my. Why it wasn't how I wanted to look. Yeah. Of course, it was how I wanted to feel. Of course, I wanted freedom. I wanted to answer. But ultimately, my motivation came from thinking about my kids and my family, my husband once I had all that information. Once I had assembled kind of like all of these details of what it was. I was supposed to do and how I had destroyed my health, and like what specifically I had done and what specifically resulted in leaky, gut and resulted in weight loss resistance, and brain fog and all the other symptoms. I was experiencing once I understood what it was it caused it. Then I started developing a plan to fix it with the help of these experts, including registered dieticians and integrative medical doctors. And once we put together that plan, and I started testing it and tweaking it and figuring out like, okay, how how can I make this work for me? Then how can I make this work for twenty or fifty friends, and then how can I make this work for a couple of hundred people? And then we started testing it with larger groups like I went to Facebook. And I put together a group of about a thousand diet beta. Testers and we took them through one face. So the methodology that I followed based on these experts was a three part phased plan. And so what we would do is. I would reach out to my social media, followers, and friends and people like you, and and I would invite people to test a version of one of those phases. And so we tested all three phases. Repeatedly to the point where eventually we tested these phases with twenty five thousand people is that crazy. So I also have to say this. If you were one of those people that did an early Diabate attest. I mean, the negative part of doing all that testing is at some people what they tested they think that's what the one through one is. And it isn't because you likely tested something that's gone through so many different iterations. So many changes so many improvements that I hope that even if you loved doing one of the versions of the diet beta test, a hope that you know, it's a thousand times better. Thanks to you. Thanks to you and the feedback. Like, so we had these extensive questionnaires, and it was basically a giant enormous human science project. It was awesome. And so cool because it wasn't my diet. Like that doesn't make any sense to think that a one-size-fits-all diet will work for everyone is about as ludicrous as thinking that everyone in America should be able to wear exactly the same size jeans. Probably not it just doesn't make sense. Neither does a one-size-fits-all died or like everyone's following this plan in everyone's using just don't even get me started you need a personalized plan. And unfortunately, it's a little more complicated than what most people are willing to spend three years to figure out. And that's why I wrote the book to simplify the process to walk you through those three phases. It works for anyone because it's not my diet. You figure out how to make it work for you for your likes. Your individual lifestyle, your vegan or vegetarian or breastfeeding or paleo or diabetic or you're trying to gain weight or you're feeding a big family health know that the answer is it is a health program. So if when people say, well, this work, my family, eat this food. Yeah. Unless you don't wanna feed them healthy food can this work for someone who's going on vacation. Yeah. Of course, it can. Because what you do is you become an expert at your metabolism. So the understand what's affecting it. Which is you need to make. There are no hard and fast rules. This is a program that I've spent years to simplify and teach it to people in a way. That's doable. The has grace that allows you to adopt it as a lifestyle because y'all we know any hard core diet that you're going to try to follow for more than five or six weeks. It's not going to happen. We know the dies don't work. They never. Have they never will. And by work. I mean to lose weight long-term and keep it off and not destroy your metabolism in the process like ninety five percent of diets fail based on those standards. You're going to gain weight in the long run, you're going to thrash your metabolism and your probably destroy a little bit of your belief in yourself, and your belief that you can do it every single time you try another diet. So this is not a diet for you to try. This is a methodology this is based in science science, which I'm happy and open and excited to continually improve upon it based on what we are learning. So there's no definitive like the one three. When method says you have to do this or to do that. Because it's based on what we know today. And I pray that we know a lot more next year. And that's part of the methodology. The methodology is like let's figure out what's working. Let's take a look at sciences. Listen to the researchers who are doing human studies. And let's apply. Those things in fear out. What works best for us. So that we. We can finally have freedom from food. So you don't have to exercise yourself into the ground. REM esters didn't do that. They weren't doing hit workouts? Followed by heavy strength training for two hours, followed by extreme restrictive, dieting, and all these powders and shakes and pills. Food can fix it. If you know how you need to eat for your metabolism for your body for your health objectives. And that's the one through one method is all about I hope you've enjoyed this little reading a really do if you're interested. I would love to share with you the piece that I think is going to make the biggest difference of all before you get this book, and that is shifting your mindset. So I have worked with my publisher. And they have allowed me to give anyone who preordered the book one hundred dollar ninety seven dollar value gift. It's a mindset coaching program. You pop in your ear buds, and you listen to these audio lessons that are designed in a particular order to help you make over your mindset, and they're yours free. When you preordered the book, you're gonna want the book anyway, so you might as well pre-order it so that you can take advantage of this bonus. And you can do that by going to one three one book dot com, you just enter your order number. It doesn't matter. Whether you're order numbers from Barnes and noble or Amazon or your local mom and pop bookstore as long as you have your order number. We can confirm that, and we will immediately send you your free coaching program. All right. So please take advantage of that. I hope you enjoy this a really do. Please. Let me know what do you think I'm excited, and I'm grateful? Thank you so much for being on this journey with me the entire time. Like, so many view. I just can't thank you enough for the feedback. The information that you gave us when you're going through the beta testing how supportive you've been like you really helped to develop this program with me. This is our project, and I am so grateful. I love you. I mean, it I'll talk to you soon.
Bring Awareness to Eating Disorders | CarSmart Edition - 539
"Name is tracy ball some Orange County. I just listened to your podcast onto indication with your guest and I am as per usual blown away at the intimation and just the moments that I'm listening to. I just want to end with just really need you to run for president because the world needs an awesome leader like you legit man. We need somebody in that office. That is strong capable caring direct. You're surfing and I love you and I am a lifer proudly for thank you. Hey there welcome to this edition of the Shamin show. It's car smart Friday which means I'm recording from my car and I'm happy have used a passenger police but on your seatbelt because I care about you. Welcome to the show. Lean show SELENA's ties bestselling author celebrity fitness trainer in obsessed with helping. You live your dream life today. I wanted to record this message. Because well we're nearing the end of a very important week a week that I feel obligated to bring awareness to and that is the national eating disorder Awareness Week. And obviously if you've listened to produce episodes of the show followed my journey. You know that I was in the grips of orthopedics you. My daughter. Sierra has talked about her own struggles with orthodontia. We've talked about Anorexia Bulimia and countless other of eating disorders on this show including overeating. But I really wanted to just take a moment to to just remind you of some things that were all very much in the habit of I am seriously on this journey. I'm not perfect about this. I still catch myself just habitually wanting to say. Oh my gosh. She looks so great when I noticed. Someone's lost a lot of weight even if I don't think that so I just left an appointment with someone who has lost a lot of weight since the last time I saw them. And in my mind if I'm being honest I thought this doesn't look right and I know what they're going through right now and I just know. This isn't healthy weight loss and nonetheless. I had to literally stop myself from saying any commenting about her weight. Because that's what we've been conditioned and trained to do. That's what we've been conditioned and trained to do as a society but are you kidding me like. That's my career. Fill last twenty-five year so such a weird strange position to be in where I want to help people achieve health and sometimes yeah that does mean losing weight and sometimes that means yeah gaining way and when people accomplish a goal. It's hard not to want them to celebrate or to celebrate with them or to recognize it. But it's also this is like such a catch twenty two. It's also really hard to avoid doing that. Because frankly you could be contributing to disordered eating. You could be contributing to this mindset where people don't believe that they deserve praise unless they're a certain way. And what are we saying about someone if we say? Wow you look so amazing. What are we saying about how he felt about them before they lost the way you know? And why is it? That's the first thing we say when there's so many amazing other things about whoever it is you've just encountered for you notice. You can notice their outfit. There is their hair their intelligence their new car their energy their mood. Like so many things you could compliment someone on. But why do we always go to wait? We've got to stop doing that. And it starts in our homes it starts mom with you and mom ladies sisters aunts. We have an obligation to teach the men in our lives. They cannot comment on a woman's body or wait because it does a number on us. It doesn't number on your kids. It does a number on you. You need to stop talking about your way in your body in front of your children. You're contributing to this if you're talking to your kid about their weight or other people's way or your own way you're just making matters worse you're just making matters worse and when you know someone or suspect someone is dealing with an eating disorder. First of all let's talk about that eating disorders. Don't have just certainly. It sometimes could appear obvious when someone has an eating disorder because they've either gained a lot of way or they go up and down and up and down. That's usually a pretty good sign of someone who's dealing with binge eating but you just don't know you really do not know. Sometimes someone can appear like they've gained a lot of weight when really what they're dealing with is a food sensitivity right. And they're inflammation has flared. Sometimes someone their way doesn't change it all and there's going every single day with an eating disorder. Someone who's believe it can be underweight. Someone who's believed can be overweight. Someone who's struggling with food addiction. They might be eating all the time. So then you say to yourself oh no. I don't think there's anything going on. I see them eating all the time. That's the thing eating disorders. Don't have a set look. It's you can't see mental health. It's so easy to hide it. It's so easy to slip away. And not let anyone know to have all the different rituals and coping techniques and ways to mask it all. I just eight. Oh you know what? I'm superfly had a huge breakfast or it actually eat in front of other people. But that's the only time you've had food or to eat and to purge there's just no way of knowing someone's truly struggling and someone who's struggling with Anorexia that pain is just as painful as a person who's struggling with addiction and over eating the thing you need to know about eating disorders is. It has nothing to do with weight. You just can't see it and eating disorders are not necessarily just about a person's body image and it certainly not about food. It's about control and so many other things. Sometimes it's past traumas. You need to know that every sixty two minutes someone dies as a result their eating disorder. You need to know that men have eating disorders to and they are incredibly susceptible to orthodontia. If you don't own orthodoxies and crude you to listen to those previous episodes I will list them in our show. Descriptions we've done a few episodes and Arthur Xia and most the most well known risk factor that can lead to an eating disorder is past trauma. But it's not just trauma. There are plenty of people who've had no trauma but for whatever reason eating disorders because it has to do with our mental wellbeing and the constant messaging from society. It's very in the glamorization of weight loss in the glamorization of being thin perfection and and Social Media. All of these things make ten times worse than so. It's very easy for anyone to slip into an eating disorder. Even if they don't have traumas in the past but one thing that's really important to understand about an eating disorder. It doesn't get treated with Diet. You can't help someone who's struggling with an eating disorder by encouraging them to eat. You will make it worse. If you don't address the underlying root cause which frankly ninety eight percent of the time you need to do that with a trained therapist. You can't read a book and help yourself recover from an eating disorder. I mean most people cannot all you're doing then is managing your symptoms. But I've meet women all the time which helped me that. They are recovered and they once had an eating disorder. And you spend a day with them and you're like no young lady dear friend. You still have an eating disorder. What you're doing is managing your symptoms. But you still have an eating disorder. The best way that you can manage this is by getting into treatment. Find a therapist who specializes in eating disorders. We've talked about some of the programs on this show like talk spaces a wonderful one to use to help you find a therapist and that's an online service and this is not a plug for them. But I know for many of you like finding a therapist persons scary goaty yelp go to E. M. D. R. Dot org ask around search on Google locally. You just need to understand that focusing on the food or a new diet is not going to give you relief and I know I have a lot of people. Listen to the show who are very into their health right you. You're drinking your health shakes and you're doing your burpee and you're doing your daily workouts and you want to look just like that trainer but here's another thing you need to know an order for a woman to have six pack. Abs with rare exceptions. I know a couple of people who they don't have to have super low body fat like they could have fifteen to nineteen percent body fat and have nice avs and that's actually still very low but I'm talking about for most women to have their ABS. Popout like to have them carved up. They have to get their body fast to be so low that they literally stop menstruating and cannot conceive naturally which puts you at Greater. Risk of osteoporosis and Organ Failure. I mean hair loss. You can prematurely. Put YOURSELF INTO MENOPAUSE. You can throw your metabolism outta whack and you don't even understand the stress places your body under and not to mention your mental state to struggle with us and to think that you're managing it when every single day. It's what you're focused on. So how do you know if you need to get help? What you're dealing with is just part of being a woman I think about it right. And that's just part of being a woman. Yeah I do think that being female adjust and maybe for guys too. But I don't think it's as I don't think it's as all as encompassing for men as it is for women guys. You're going to have to send a message and let me know if it is. I certainly know that there are exceptions right. But for most women yet we think about our way probably once or twice a day. The difference is when you know you're dealing with or struggling with an addiction or an eating disorder is when it becomes all encompassing. That's all that you can think about all that you're thinking about is what you get to eat next or how you can avoid eating like if food either coming in or going out or avoid like that's all you're thinking about and wanking you next workout in and the number on that scale and how your clothes fit and wrapping your fingers around your wrist if that's all that you can think about and it's beginning to take hold on the things holding you back from your relationships social engagements doing certain things and starting to affect your personality because it's all you can think about and it's holding you prisoner girl. It's time for you to seek help. You deserve freedom. You deserve peace from this. You can recover from this but again. It's really important that you do that with someone who's a professional otherwise what most people tend to do is simply manage their symptoms and that. It's just no way to do it. That's the hard way. And then you're gonNA kill yourself to think that you have actually found relief when it's still there every single day. You know I think this whole conversation really revolves around the importance of understanding what health is and health. Isn't what you see in the mirror if we're focused on our workouts if we're focused on eating because we want to be a certain size we're missing. The point of health. Health is happiness happiness starts with our mental health. And that means we've got to address our issues with the same borough. Shas intensity that we attack our physical objectives right like we spend so much time in the gym and doing bicep curls and running and doing cardio and all these things to look a certain way in our clothes but how much time are we spending on her mental health. Are you getting to the real issue? Like what is it that you're running from? What is it that makes you feel like if I can control my body? Then this won't happen or people will feel differently about me. I'll feel differently about myself. I'll be lovable. I'll be acceptable or men won't find me attractive and then I won't be at risk. I don't know what the issue is but I do know this. Peace is possible but we have to start by loving ourselves and I know that sounds very kind of woo but it's true. I feel so freaking proud of myself and I look in the mirror because I love who I am because like I literally so many times even just goshen the last couple of months I thought to myself. Wow so this is what it feels like to love the way you look and not worry about what you're eating and when your next workout is and having a piece of chocolate or glass of wine or enjoying my food enjoying my Neal's Oh Russo tortured by the trying to have a super lean ripped body and it's so funny how my weight is. I'm a couple pounds heavier than I was in like most of my fitness videos but I'm a thousand trillion percent happier and I've got so much more time because I spent so much time obsessing in worrying about my next workout and what I was gonna eat and oh my gosh and I would beat myself up. I would just look in the mirror and just go. Oh you don't look like you're lean enough you know and so much of that was Was just because the industry I was in an and I know I've talked about a lot. But it's the dirty underbelly of what we call. The health industry isn't very healthy. That we glamorize weight loss that we call celebrity. We say this is a celebrity trainer and these celebrity trainers and celebrity health experts. Most of them are so terribly underweight and their body fed is so low that's unattainable and they come out years later like myself to say. Yeah I was on healthy and I didn't have a choice. I did have a choice but I didn't think I had a choice and I was killing myself. And and then they come out and say this is what they did. I don't know if you guys have listened to the Jessica Simpson Book. I've just listened to it on audible and I'm like she talks about that like how she just was living on. Diet Sodas and diet pills and you know people industry executives telling her you need to drop ten pounds and you dropped fifteen pounds. And then when she would and she's like barely has any energy to do anything people say you look amazing. Can you lose more weight? Can we see your ads? You know like all this. And that's who we idolize and that we get our young girls. I Liz Taylor Swift. That's an awesome documentary. Oh my gosh. Another great documentary and now they're young girl who talks about how you know at the time. She was at the height of reunion disorder. But she always told people. All I'm eating. I'm eating all the time I don't know I guess I'm just then I've always been thin. But yet record executives loved it and fashion designers loved it and so she was praised for being that thin but now she's come out and said like this wasn't healthy and no. I had an easy user. I didn't know I had any use our many times. People don't know they have an eating disorder or they're struggling with disordered eating while they're in it so you know we've done past episodes to talk to you or to offer suggestions on what to say to someone if you think they are struggling but what you don't want to say is you've lost a lot of weight and worried about your. Do you have any Nin disorder? I want you to go back and listen those episodes but generally speaking. You just need to let people know I love you. I care about you. I'm here for you and I'm worried I'm worried I want you to be happy but worried worried about your health. Don't mention their weight. All right now. I want to play for you a video. You'll hear the audio from this video output a link to the video because the video itself is very powerful. And I'll put a link to that in our show notes but a warning because this is a very explicit message. It's raw. It's honest it's upsetting. It might be triggering. But I think it's the truth and ladies and Fellas. I mean I want the guys to hear this to man but it's not appropriate for kids so please put your headphones on or put earmuffs over the children. Because it's Kinda graph that can is very real and I would love to listen to this message and then just listened this message all right hero via lady. Descend your skirt is too short. Your shirt is too low. Don't show so much skin. Cover up leave something to the imagination. Don't be a temptress. Men can't control themselves. Men have needs. Look sexy the caught. Don't be so provocative you're asking for where black where heals your to dressed up your to dress down. You look like let yourself go be a lady. 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I can only do my part and I want you to know you are perfect the way you are whatever you've decided to do with your appearance or not do it's perfect just as you are. You are enough. You don't have to change a Dang thing you're awesome and what makes you so awesome. Is your confidence that you own it. The love who you are the May whatever decisions you may because it makes you happy and no one else I love you. I mean it I love you so freaky much. Thank you for subscribing. Thank you for being here. You're being you. I WANNA share with you an opportunity to work with myself and my husband Brett as you know if you are a regular listener of this lean shore you follow me on social. Media like family is central to everything that I do. It's how I have lived my life. It's how I built my career how we've kept our marriage together. That's been our central focus. It's one of the reasons why created a journal. 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Boutique Fitness Studio - Michelle Kaplan
"Yeah Hello and welcome everyone to your life program where we live intentionally fabulous every day. I'm your host Andrea. Hammer must certify fitness trainer in health and wellness coach in the crater of the Max pack. And we're here today with a dear friend and colleague of mine to talk about a boutique fitness studio with a Boutique. New High advanced fitness technology. That's coming over here in. The United States is the newest thing in the World Today. And my dear friend. Michelle Kaplan is if I coach. Who's burning desire is lifting people to the next level of greatness using this new technology and it is a new workout suit. That stimulates your muscles while you're wearing it so if you want to know how to double stimulate your muscles during your workout. Listen to Michelle. As explains what her new. Vp Twenty power suit is all about and out can stimulate muscle. Burn in you so Michelle. Thank you so much to be on the show. Thank you so blessed to be here. Thank you for having me while shaded. This is so exciting to hear about this new suit but before we get to that. Tell us a little bit about you and how you got to be this trainer with suit. Where did it all start? Well this is a funny story in a way because it's funny because my boyfriend was looking for a way to lose weight. And he started training with sued and he was able to lose. Twenty pounds in the quickest amount of time and gain muscle mass so he actually turns me on to it which is funny and in a way we actually we would just loved it and we were like we have to get totally immersed into this thing and we have to bring it to the United States and so the journey begins. So that's where we're at right now bringing it to people in the US because it's actually all over the world except for you us and so few people know about it and it's it's fabulous it's fabulous it's called the VP twenty. What does that mean? What does that stand for? And can you describe it to us? 'cause you radio absolutely so the BBC is vision body. So that's actually the manufacturer of the suit and the twenty eight. Which is what I really want people to know about it. Two twenty minute workout. That replaces three to four hours in the gym. And how we do that. Is We involuntarily stimulate your muscles through the power suit and I and I will have a picture of the suit for any listening that want to see the suit. It actually has pads over matron muscle groups so you put this lately suit. It's like a little lake resute. Some people say it looks like a diver suit but it is much more late. Lightweight Anna. I'm getting some interference. You hearing that or you're all good April. So lightweight suit yet. It's got the electrical pads in it. Yeah so basically. Yeah so as the trainer we work with you. And we involuntarily stimulate the muscles so that the person gets into amazing workout. Only twenty minutes and how that works is that we're actually going deep into the muscle fiber so we're going like ninety percent of your muscle fibers getting stimulated so through. Laser pulses that whole says right right. So let's say you're in a jam right and you're working out you're working your biceps. You working biceps you wouldn't you wouldn't be able to stimulate ninety percent into the muscle fiber because the bicep curl would never be able to penetrate that deep. Does that make sense? Yeah Yeah so so when you're working out with the suit you're actually reaching the muscles all the way down so you're breaking them down a lot faster and that's why only need twenty minutes so it's great for people that don't have a Lotta time. Yes but how does it account for? All the different fitness levels and fitness abilities and size of people and their tolerance for these stimulating pulses and and sweating in renaming. Tell us all those details. Because that's this brand new unknown even knows what what all this entails. So right exactly what? We have different fitness levels so like. Let's say you're beginner. You're just starting out or you really don't like to work out so then the first thing that you would do you would be a beginner class that we would. We would work slower. And we'd have your goals set up beforehand. That's why we do the Health Council beforehand. So we do a consultation with you. See what your goals are. We set you up based on what your goals are and then there might be people like that. We know that work out all the time they do yoga they run. They do everything and those people are the people that they might adapt to it a lot faster because their muscles have already being used all the time right after they were advanced. And then we have people that are actually elite. Athletes like pro football players that use this and pro soccer players. That uses that actually. They're doing it more often because they have actual milestones to reach with their with their performance. So it is actually good for all different types of levels. That's Great I. I came to test it out with you. One time too. And it's a very beautiful suit. Actually and I was surprised at actually how lightweight it was it. Looks like a scuba suit in that. It you step into it. Zip It up and it's got little electro pads on it and you're the trainer. They are had the Ipad type of controller. And that's what I wanted you to talk about too is how the trainer controls the pulses that you get in the different workouts you know from lunges and squats in rose impresses in yoga moves and things like that. How each move that the muscles already moving you get double stimulation because it's stimulating and your muscles are being stimulated from the actual weight challenging resistance so out that yeah yeah I mean. Everyone's different so when I train people I basically I like to know whether levels at normal was checking with them so I might start at. Let's say ten so the levels upped from one to one hundred so they just start people off at a ten and then we start working out and doing different exercises until they tell. Tell me okay I feel more comfortable. Can you lift my my legs? Can you lift my arms? We may do in Arm Carl. And then they still instead of actually physically even lifting away. We just lift the resistance up. So does that make sense? So you're just stimulating them as they lift their arms up with nothing in their hands right because a lot of times. You're actually able to do so much with just that that you don't need a lot of ways so that was fairly interesting. Yeah it's great on joints like I people that have joint issues. I have a couple of friends of mine right now that I'm training that they have knee issues. You know and I get it like. They can't put a lot of pressure on their knee. But but when we do the stimulation their entire leg is getting a workout and they don't have to have any kind of compromise to their joints. So they love. They love that well. That's that's a really big plus in terms of not exacerbating existing condition at somebody has an actually during the training. Have the ability to keep exercising without hurting something absolutely. Oh that's that's a real. I didn't even realize that myself. That's a really great selling point in a safety issue for people so when you do your different levels from one to one hundred does the person in the suit get to adjust their one to one hundred or is at the trainer or both of you collaborate on the number and are there different numbers for different body parts One number for the whole suit. Well that's a great question so it is a collaboration. I would never raise the level on somebody in listen. Knew that they were comfortable with it and that just goes by experimenting with the person in seeing what their goals are so if somebody really wants to lift their let's say and they know that we're we're GONNA do a couple of buts squats right now you know and so we're doing worse squadron. And they're like you know what lifted up lifted up. Give me some more pulse over. There are so and you know we do some kickbacks with the legs and things like that it all depends. What's what's great about. It is the different exercises that you do. You actually feel at stemming different muscle groups so like if you lift your arm straight up you're gonNA feel it shoot up maybe your shoulder you lift your arm down and do a tricep extension. You might see or feel it more on your shoulder or Mon. You'RE TRICEP. Billy depends on the position of the body and the stem so it's really It's it's to experience and the results are phenomenal. Like I said people. Yeah PEOPLE RECEIPT GETTING THEIR GOALS. Matt like much sooner than expected. And so what is your Overall response you know this being so new all your new people are we. Are we starting to really get it out there? You're starting to have people come and go. What is this thing? This is really cool. How can I get it? You Know Gab. I mean is your gym. I know what the CO virus and everybody's working out at home now and maybe they can purchase their the suit on their own and have it for themselves at home correct. Yeah well it's a good point you're bringing up. We just started launching our in home version. So it's a version where you can actually download it on your iphone at work out at home with the soup and the iphone and you could watch us via skype or phone and actually do workout with us until we open up now. That's an amazing plus for people who they want. They want the technology. But you know we're not open yet. They can still get it through. They can call us. We can order it for them through the INFO system But I also have people you know that I've been training since before this happened and we were training all the way through Like I have a client that had been already training for a couple of months now. And she's already lost ten ounce and she's so strong out she says I can't believe how strong I've gotten in just warming A month's time month and a half So it really does bridge the gap for being in the gym for long periods of time because been today's life especially you know with everybody with instant gratification stimulus. All the time and yours is another type of that. They only wanted for short time. Because they're onto the next thing so if this allows you to get your workout in in this short amount of time but get the same if not better results from that then I can see this being a very big win win. You know especially when things clear up and people can get back to gyms and Jim's reopened you're to have an army of people wanting to try this out and see if they can especially since it everyone's homes and eating extra food drinking wine wine party happy hours. I see going one of two ways either. There's more time for people to go out bike riding and walking and taking better care of themselves so that they don't have to sit at the desk all day or because they're bored they sit home and we're going to have a bigger surgeon. Obesity probably all self help alleviate for both of those things. Yeah but it's so much through Andrea like I was thinking about all of this and just the fact that you and I are in an amazing position being in health and fitness. Because you know what? Have we learned from all of this? What are people learning from this corona virus? Right like they need to take more care and be be more aware of their immune system nabbed Body they're buying right and and it's so important. They need to boost their immune system. And you know you and is health coaches like. This is a great opportunity for us to shed are light and the reason we're in this business to other people. This is a golden opportunity for us to educate all those people that maybe would have at one point turned a blind eye US instead. We have time for that right now lake. Now they're seeking us out like how can I be stronger? How can I not only stronger my physical body but show me what to eat right like yeah me show me how do I eat? How do I use my immune system? Had why what minerals right take vitamins. Zero TC How do I make my body stronger in in? It's it's you know we incorporate all of that into the gym. You know being with my health cook coach background so all of that like these people that join with V. Twenty. They're also getting the benefit of learning all of that as well. So it's a huge boost to all these people God maybe before wouldn't have really you know. Go Out yes. It's a necessity. It is so imperative as you say for people to boost the immune system and keep strong and healthy in this. You know so why. I'm on this. Hell bent to get this out there. You know on the news. We see social distancing. Stay apart you know and now finally after put your two months to wear a mask where like we should have been put a mask on since December when we sat in China might have helped alleviate but no on the news my seeing any major medical people saying boost your immune system by. Here's the food. You're talking about vitamin C. Echinacea black elderberry oil of Oregano Vitamin D LOTS OF LEAR ON T. hot water green tea. The single most important thing is your immune system. Germs are going to be around the world or been in the world forever. And ever and it's outside of your skin this little cellophane container that holds you in is the single little layer between you and the outside universe. It's all outside of you may not a problem. Your body always has its wisdom to do. The problem is it gets in you and you don't have the defense mechanisms to fight this. Bacteria germ virus fungus. Whatever it is if you don't have it because you did not build up that system of white blood cells in circulation to move it around. Your body muscles are strong to you. Know get your kidneys and your liver in your your other major organs to move so doesn't settle and get stuck in. Accurate is so important your strength so important blood circulation is so important instead of sitting around being sedentary because that just lets everything get scooped in. Gupte and so really. It's a collection of coagulation of Jong in our button in our abdomen under Chin in arms we start adding on these pounds. So you're suit in the Max pack and when we did this before. You know minute Odd Fitness Training Protocol. The Max. We've done those ishwar wealth. You know. Fruits vegetables in sneakers are healthcare. Self-care is healthcare by the time you better go to dot with drugs medicine in M. R. is in all these scans pokes prides and blood tests. That sick hair and we can go to a doctor now. If you have even just a regular problem everybody you have a tiny little sniffle. They're going to think it's the cold lead and it could be or could just be a cold but your immune system needs to be boosted every single day. You need to be having dark green vegetables. We need green plant foods. We need fresh water. Need Good Sleep. That's a whole nother class about sleeping in the right so you and I. We both get together. We get on this bent to solutions to thrive in their life. Not just slog along and survive and let me tell you some people you know with these poor mu systems there slogging along and just trying to survive during this time in their endanger that really really changing what they eat in how they exercise in. We provide the solutions. Will you bring up a really really good point because weird is all of this start right it starts with your mindset and that's the other thing that I stress so much when I when I go to people for consultations I what I would. I talk to them about resilience before I even talk about any health. I say what's your lifestyle like you know. What are you like what what's your mind? What are you thinking what your thoughts would have your? I mean that's that's the number one thing because you know even look in this in this pandemic or whatever you WanNa call it what we're going through right now. I mean if you are thinking this is not going to harm me. Because I'm strong with a good immune system your body is going to listen to your thoughts and it literally saying I. Don't I know that your body? What your says yes. So if you're sitting there scared which is you know. Look look giving you the fear factor right now and the fear factor lowers your immune system like a lot and you organise viewing. Your adrenal is making it. Just be inflammatory in the system which is already compromising immune system. Yes that is true style. So that's like a huge huge thing that I incorporate when I talk to people I really tell them. Look your your mind controls. Everything like it's all mind. We are all mind and we tell her body what we wanted to do. And there's ways that we can reframe what we say so that our body will respond in a more positive manner and it's just training it really is. It's nothing else the training and the fear thing. Wait up to toss that out. We really do because it's not serving anybody hundred percent hundred percent in your but that's that's what is so so great about how we coach people is thoughts become reality and if you truly believe in wellness you actually stimulate your body to produce those chemicals that help boost those well factors in your body. Plus it motivates you to actually do the actions of good nutrition sleep and exercise and the next thing is. You're happy you're happy to do it. It's not like a gag. Oh Jeez I have to go do this. It's like yeah you WANNA do. Want to thrive and be surfing ills. Yes it's happy. Good feeling I have this thing with my clients to how you do your what you do affects your y. You're Y is like what you said. What's important to you what you want in your life? What your goals. But how you do them right. What are the protocols sleeping eating nutrition vitamins minerals supplements right being joyful in your life but how you do your walking how you do your eating? How you do your shopping. How you do to prepare for if you do it really super happy and full of you know zest and excitement. And you're glad to do it and you're all in you're going to really have just amazing results. If you do it Kinda half fast Kinda scrappy on and off here and there you might sorta get okay but not really you might make. It might not be like just radiant. And then if you don't really crappy anything so happy scrappy a really crappy on the why. So how do you what you do affects the why and every always laughs? Because it's a big Andrea Ism. But you're saying the exact same thing in your beautiful way about how the mind and your your mindfulness your consciousness. Your your love of life. I call it love of life. It's really beautiful animating out here yes. There's hard and bad things in a lot of trials and triumphs go together and challenges in chaos if we have that inner belief in strength within US truly we can gracefully end courageously. Make it through and come out on the other side in in more empowered sense of self. Yes five minutes left. Honey I want you to tell us. How do people get in touch with you? Because I want them to hear or for your studio is once you can get back out there and get busy or how they can order the sued and how they can work on stimulating your muscles with this new to galaxy. Give us your website and your business number and how to your email. Yeah well the best way to sign in is just go to my website which is V. Twenty del Rey D. E. L. R. A. Y. DOT COM SO v Twenty Delray Dot Com and. There's a place where they can sign in and I get those everyone's name directly they can also email me at Michelle at the twenty delray dot com very easy to find me or even if you just go to facebook they could find me that way also. Dv Twenty dollar is very simple But we are doing some specials before we open you. We're hoping to open you know whenever they lift this ban ban but before that we are doing specials. We're doing a ninety nine dollars special right now which gets you four targeted workouts and health consultants. And I it's an amazing you know experienced to get on board with Vision Body DB twenty. Just you know. Learn this because this is a different type of workout and I think it's really going to revolutionize the fitness industry because it's GonNa it's already bringing so many results worldwide. I mean I see the before and after hers. And it's just GonNa be something that's it's probably going to become super common like everybody's GonNa pick this up like oh. I'm doing my ems Trini which means electro muscle stimulation. I'm doing ems training Phoebe twenty today for twenty minutes. Then I'm running a yoga class and then I'm GonNa jog you know. Run around do a marathon. You know so it's GonNa it's GonNa be another modality that people are just going to pick up and The way the results are it's really. It's just gonNA be amazing Enemy another amazing workout for people. We know ice amazing. 'cause you are and I'm so grateful to have you on the show to share this with with the audience to this new technology it's really An advanced way to stimulate your muscles. You stimulate you muscles way stimulate your muscles. It's double double stimulator right. And you're located in Delray Florida right. You're anyone knows where the trader Joe's is on Lytton. We are right next to their so very easy to find wonderful Michelle. Thank you so very much for coming on the show. Sharon all this really cool information and your inspiration and love of fitness in. House has one of my dear friends and colleagues. I truly appreciate you have time to come on the show today. Thank you so much for having me appreciate it and thank you listeners. For joining I would love to hear all your comments and your questions about all the information inspiration that we shared. You can reach me Andrea at Hammer. Health and fitness DOT COM. I'm on facebook and INSTAGRAM. Igt You can check out the new Max Pax During Training Fitness Program that I have also on the Max Pack Dot Com website and on facebook instagram. For those 'cause I'm here to help you with your life program that you can live intentionally fabulous every day. Thanks for joining.
Episode 203: Is TikTok right for your local business?
"The cash from the chicken wing capital of the World Buffalo New York. You're listening to the marketing. Above all podcasts your source for all things well marketing and total world domination. This is marketing above all. And this is your host Michael. Hello and welcome to episode two hundred and three. Today's topic is all about TIKTOK. So I've done a couple of episodes on all things Tiktok but it seems like with everything going on with Kobe. Nineteen that there has been a lot. More potential interest in the platform is well as just a lot of interesting. Press and positivity and branding and just a lot of interesting things so I wanNA talk through. Does this platform makes sense. And if the answer is yes I'm GonNa give you some tips on how you can leverage this to help grow your local business so tick tock is an interesting platform. In the sense of it allows companies brands individuals influencers to really be themselves in a fun and unique way. So Tick Tock is made up of lots and lots and lots of really short videos and it tends to be the place where people are going to have fun and with everyone sitting at home and largely on social media. This platform has really started to gain some steam but the first question that I want to answer before I really go too deep in Tiktok and and how can you leverage it is to answer the question? Is this a good platform for a small and growing local business and at this stage of the game my answer is in? My opinion is no and the reason behind that is. It's not that easy to simply geo target so that whatever funny videos are fun videos or content. You'RE GONNA put out there get shown just to a particular local area. You might say well Michael Okay. That's fine if other people see it and I'm fine with that but at the end of the day I always look at the opportunity cost. And if you've got a finite amount of resources both time and money. Should you go in this platform versus investing more time and money in something like facebook or something like instagram or search engine optimization or direct mail or flying for your business and I really can't make the case to say that yes I mean it makes sense for you to go? All in on this platform now is it. The latest and greatest platform entrenched definitely. Are there people that are getting big influence ordeals and getting paid ten thousand dollars to posted a short little thirty second video definitely but unless you're a local influence her for example? I really can't make a case now. The opposite could be said of well. Isn't this a good time for first mover advantage and because the platform is really starting to continue to pick up steam? Could I then really grab a lot of local people in the future? Could that happen definitely but again continue to go back to the opportunity cost so for most of you listening? This really isn't the best platform to really be putting your time and energy on. So if you're not executing some of the other strategies that I talked about I want you to really look at those particular strategies. I make sure that all of your other digital presidents and your digital authority is solid before jump onto this platform now if you really want to try out the platform and you just WanNa Kinda see how things go and see. Can you start to build a following? What you're gonNA find right now is that it's a really easy. You time to generate free organic reach and it's really as simple as looking at some of the videos that are doing well based on certain hashtags and recreating those videos with your own unique spin. So there's a lot of different trending videos and trending songs and trending dances and things like that and you get to be kind of a free spirit so to speak of being able to kind of just be unique. And you want to make sure that you're leveraging hashtags because hashtags are definitely would is helping these videos to be found so if you're in navigating on the particular APP you would go over to discover tab and just start to look at them in what are some of the trending hashtags right now. There's trending hashtags like family story time. There's a new thing being being called electricity game where people are doing planks. There's a lot of stuff around dinosaurs in Dino Day so if you had some interest there so there's just a lot of really interesting things but then what I do like is that there are certain niches that are starting to become a little bit more established so tick tock wellness for example is highly trending. And it's a great place that if you were a doctor or a chiropractor or holistic practitioner a someone. A fitness trainer couldn't find the right word. You can start to leverage that particular Hashtag than with a Hashtag for your local area code because there are starting to be some new trends that are emerging of not. Just people posting funny videos but rather starting to post some things that are a little bit more educational and that is where. I'd like to see you doing some more stuff. But then start to look at them. And what are some of the fund ways that your personality can come out? What are some of the fun ways that your family could be integrated for example if that makes sense so like a lot of the the little things that's actually a turning? Hashtag as well are really starting to more on this particular platform because people just they want to share memories. They WANNA share these moments. There's people talking about their home routine and gardening and skin care routines and how to clean. So there's some cleaning companies and cleaning people that are starting to post content. So you can start to look through those particular areas and start to see. How could you add your own spin? How could you make it unique? How could you make it fun? And it really is. The Nice thing is I mean. These videos are so easy to create them. And you're using your cell phone. You're not having to overthink things. And it's really just about being a little creative but also informative on the other side so you can do some that are just kind of fun and Zany and then on the flip side I want you to find some ways that you could tie it back to your business to give informational content but if I go back to the beginning question of is this the best platform local businesses. I still can't in good conscience justify this for you but if you want to start to infuse a little bit. More fun in positivity into your brand it really could be fun platform for you to try. Get out there take some action to dame report back to me on your results. Michael signing off. Good morning good afternoon and good night. Thank you for listening to this episode of marketing. Above all get out there make a change and take some action and hey don't forget to leave a five star review and tell all your friends. This is the greatest marketing podcast ever ever. If we look forward to seeing you here tomorrow.
The Truth about Common Fitness Myths - 493
"Hey My name is Suzie and I know other people on your saying they are Shalini biggest fan but I swear I am. I have been listening to lean for. Aw I want to say more than ten years and I have shared her to countless clients countless friends countless kids both by podcast. I listened to all the time I just cannot say enough about this podcast. Her message her real mess. We have kids around the same age age. There's so much about her message that resonates with me from my own passed to eating disorders. Thank you so much for putting your message out in the world inspired me. I now have my Own podcast you've helped me really just changed my life and I do not say that lightly thank you and my name Susie Pettit and I fully one hundred did end. Forty eight percent support your work. Thank you welcome to the Shalini. Show Jelena's a New York Times bestselling author celebrity fitness trainer in obsessed with helping. You get your tree. Today's episode is about some of the most commonly held myths as it relates to fitness. Now you you might ask why it is. I want you to hear some of these things and it is because fitness is important to me not because of your body fat or how much you weigh. Fitness has always been really really important to me because of what it does for people's happiness their overall creativity. How energized they feel how resilient they are how they treat other people in fact? That's what really got me interested in fitness. I didn't study fitness in college. My degree's injustice morality constitutional democracy. But I ended up learning about fitness as I started studying personal development and how to make myself better more focused how to get that competitive edge. So what I'm GonNa do for you. Today is to dispel some commonly held fitness myths. But the reason why it's so important that fitness become a regular part of your lifestyle style. Not something you do. Short term for thirty days or for ninety days. But something you do because you love it because it's your drug is because of this. It makes you smarter ardor more effective more resilient more successful in this is true whether your profession is working in corporate America or driving the kids to and from their soccer games. Fitness makes us a better person. It just does. It's the best investment you can make in yourself each day. It's not something you're doing to be selfish. In fact fact I believe the opposite is true. If you're putting your personal health and fitness last on the list then what you're doing is cheating people you're robbing people of all all the you have to offer you're nicer you're more affectionate with your husband or your wife your easier to get along with your more patient while you're in traffic. Thank you are more productive while you're at work. All of these things happen when you workout. So forget the weight loss. Forget the body fat. Let's talk about personal development and when it comes comes to being a better person living up to your true potential fitness needs to be a part of your everyday lifestyle but let's get to those commonly held myths myth number one that muscle weighs more than fat while. It's kind of like one of those riddles. Because if you think about a pound of fat ways just as much as a pound of muscle in reality what people are trying to explain that muscles actually more dense than fat. In other words it takes up less space. Think of fat is being Fluffy Offi almost like cotton candy. Well Gour think of fat is being voluminous as taking up more space like a bowl of Mac and cheese like the old school Mac doc and cheese where those those big huge noodles with pockets of air and gooey sauce. Between how grosses that right. But that's how I want you to think about fat. That takes up a lot more space than muscle and so when people say that muscle weighs more than fat really. What they're saying is that muscle takes up less space than fat? Got My own personal example of that is after I gave birth to my son Brock. I hadn't gained much weight with that pregnancy so by about two or three weeks. After I gave birth I was back down to the weight I was before I got pregnant. which is kind of crazy? But here's the thing I couldn't fit in any of my clothes because my body fat wasn't the same. My Body fat was much much higher because I was nursing and because I just given birth and I'd produced another human being which is so Kuku crazy when you think about it but my body fat was really high so even though on the scale the number was even a couple of pounds lower than what it was before I got pregnant my size was bigger. I couldn't couldn't wear the same jeans. Things didn't fit the same way and ladies. You know what I'm talking about after you have a child unless you are one of these from another planet celebrities and I don't don't know how they do it. Most women few give birth. Everything is just gooey and gross in all in the wrong place and just well thank goodness you have this little bundle bundle of joy otherwise it would be quite depressing and eventually you do lose body. Fat Body. Fat is very necessary but it takes up a lot more space. It is is also a myth when people will say well. I started this new workout program and yet strength training and I started last week and I'm up a couple of pounds so I guess I'm putting on Muscle Yeah no that's not what's happening. You haven't put on that kind of muscle in a week's time. I mean God bless you. That's just not possible. What happens when we do start a a new exercise program whether it's cardiovascular or strength training the muscles are doing something they haven't done before in typically what happens especially if you went really hard hard in? It's something that you're brand new to. Your body is responding to the trauma. No that sounds like really bad. But it's okay because when we put our bodies under stress us that's what creates change or transformation so when we place an inordinate amount of stress under the body by doing something new and we're really really sore. That soreness is in effect trauma to the muscles or the tissues. Now as you know when there's trauma to tissues where does the body do it collects water it holds onto water to kind of help repair and restore that area. So when you're trying a new workout program and you're a couple days in in your really sore I'll bet you'll notice that your soreness correlates to your weight gain. That's why I always tell people when you starting a new workout program or if you're really really sore don't get on the scale let your clothes be the best judge and then again remember that you are probably holding water when you're sore sore and when we're holding water that takes up space. It just does so. Wait until you're soreness has subsided before you get back on the scale and try not to make excuses for yourself self. Well I'm putting on muscle and remember that the most important thing that you can do is not the new workout. It's getting control of nutrition. The next myth we're going to bust today is that you burn more calories while you're working out then you do after work out well. Let's kind of myth. There are some workouts where you will actually burn more. Calories is while you're in that our and then there are certain workouts where you'll actually have an after burn effect and especially with heavy strength training that means for someone who works out really hard and they're going to burn more calories after the workout or what they call the Post Calorie Burn. Now if you're doing hit training or heavy strength training this fat burning continues all hours of the day up to even twenty four hours after your workout. Even while you're sleeping that's why not. All workouts are created equal. That's why when people say what's the best workout to do to burn ballard burn calories. You know it's kind of a loaded question. I think the answer is you have to do a little bit of everything because there are some workouts. You're going to burn a lot more calories while you're doing it and then there are those workouts that you're not gonNA burn many while you're doing it. It can be shorter workout more intense. But you'll burn calories At a higher rate even after the workout stops and an increased level of fat. Some studies report that you can burn up to nine times more fat while you're doing hit training but keep in mind that most hit training does involve impact and that impact does take a toll on your body so it's a good idea to look for a combination. A Nation of hit training with low impact options so hit training doesn't always have to be high intensity high impact it can be high intensity low impact which which means high fat burn high-calorie Burn and that fat burn in Calorie Burn can continue throughout the day. This one I get all the time. I should probably have the answer tattooed across my forehead. Although that wouldn't be very cute but the question is can I get rid of this. Someone will come up to me the at a live event or when I'm teaching a class afterwards and they'll say how do we get rid of this and they'll let grab their love handles of the grab a chunk of flesh around their inner thigh and or just some area that's a problem for them and they WanNa get rid of just that particular area and oftentimes. They'll tell me I love my arms. I love my apps. I love my shoulders. I just hate my lower body or I love my legs but I can't get rid of this jiggle on my arms. Well the answer to that question you already know it. In fact I think nine sometimes when somebody asks me that question. They're just hoping that I will give them an answer that they haven't already heard but you know the answer. You can't get rid of of fat in one particular area and there's no way to do that unless you make a doctor's appointment and go have him suck it out and making a joke but I really don't don't want you to do that. I mean I've trained people for twenty plus years. I've seen people get liposuction and have nice results. But it's always a little weird I. I don't know how to describe it. It just doesn't look like a year later because you're you're messing with human nature. You have the same amount of fat cells in your body today that you probably did after puberty the only other time you increase or produce more fat cells is actually when you're pregnant or as you're going through puberty and there's just just a few other rare occasions where your body might produce more fat cells and it really relates to hormones. It doesn't relate to you getting fat or eating more food. What happens is the size of the facile will increase or enlarge or it shrinks but the number of fat cells? You have always been the same so think about how odd it would would be for our bodies. which are they're so well balanced when you take out a big group of those cells? Your body has to figure out. Like what do we do. How do we regenerate where there's the skull and it moves things around and I don't know it just always looks a little weird so no judgment? You know you make the best decision for you but I would love to see you. Just accept the fact that not everybody's built the same and you can reduce body fat all over we can't pick one spot but there's a big component to where we restore and where we gained fat. That is genetic which means often the first place you put on body fat is also the last place it comes off off. The good news is as you build muscle. Your body's sends out these fat mobilizing hormones to your whole body and it's dispensed from head to toe so the answer to that question is you cannot spot reduce. You can spot tone meaning if I just do BICEP CURLS I can make my biceps really strong but it's not not going to make them any leaner. I can do crunches from now until Tuesday and my abs are GonNa be much stronger but it doesn't reduce the body fat in that area. This this next myth is so strongly held that I believe it is the reason. This myth is the reason why one of the most effective programs I've ever created never never took off on TV. And that is Shalini extreme. It's a program developed around heavy strength training. Now I didn't mention the names that you would go out and buy it. I just want to tell you that is all based on science and the results that people have from this program. We're like jaw dropping astonishing now. The Myth is that when you lift weights you'll bulk up and in particular. This is a myth held by most women. Now I know that that myth is erroneous. I know that by lifting heavy weights. It's I've been able to completely transform my body. It's how he's been able to keep my body fat lower and to make working out much easier I don't always have to be doing cardio. I can burn more calories by putting what I call that secret weapon in my body which is Muscle Muscle is like the Fountain of Youth Muscle allows us to naturally generate human human growth hormone muscle. Help us to move. Muscle gives us shape. Muscle gives us a lift. Muscle is the Bomb Bay of the day. However it is a the very strongly held myth that you're gonNA bulk up? If you lift heavy you would be shocked. How heavy I lift? I lift heavy as I possibly can. I can't lift more her and when I say that I try to select a weight that I'm GonNa fail. Meaning I can't do it after eight to fifteen rupp's depending on what period ization I'm in but for many women. They believe that if they lift heavy. It's going to bulk them up or make them look manly. Unfortunately those fears are perpetuated by the stuff. That's in the media. I'll never forget that. The year I created Shalini Extreme Mariah Carey had gone on Oprah and was showing oprah toned her arms and she was showing her the exercise that she did I was like. Oh No oh no now. Millions of women are going to believe. That's really gonNA tone your arms. And she took her arms out to the side in if you can imagine like straining me out both of your arms and then twisting your hands side to side as if you're like turning doorknobs unlike Oh Lordy Lordy Michael Jordan. This is how the stuff gets perpetuated. That's not the gave her toned arms. That doesn't build any muscle. It doesn't do anything except waste time. Sorry so sorry but not sorry because it's not true. Women can't bulk up because because they don't have the muscle building hormone at the level that men do and of course the muscle-building hormone I'm talking about is testosterone. Yes we all have testosterone tossed around and some men have lower testosterone. You've heard of lower tea. And some women have higher testosterone now women with a higher testosterone level build build muscle easier women with a lower testosterone level. Have a very difficult time putting on muscle. But you see the cool thing about muscle. Is this this. It's gradual. It always cracks me up that people are like. Oh I took that class and now I'm afraid I'm going to bulk up really like you think you're going to wake up the next dangle own. Oh No my biceps are huge. How did this happen? I have huge vice. It just doesn't happen that way. It's really easy to lift weights lift heavy and and then plateau where you wanNA plateau. You're like I love the size of my shoulders. I love the rounds of my booty or maybe I don't maybe I want a little higher so I'm GonNa continue to lift and lift heavier until the muscle lists that Budi up the way I wanted to look but it's gradual. I wish it wasn't. I wish I could just go. Oh really hard for a week and wake up the next week and go. WHOA look at all this muscle but it's super gradual so you need to lift weights in order to reduce body fat in in order to have a higher calorie burn while your body is at rest and in order to look younger and to feel stronger so no more? You know twisting light bulbs in the air to tone your arms now a myth that UC marketers play to all the time is that Ab exercises will actually give you flat out. ABS and I mean I have to tell Korea some of the stuff that I've marketed in the past with other companies kind of gives people that impression because nobody wants the truth. Everybody wants to believe that they can just sleigh down and do crunches and if they do abdominal exercises their ABS will be smaller will be flatter. And that's just part of the story in order to have a strong stomach. You need to do abdominal core training but your stomach in order for it to be flat in fact in order to actually see your abdominal muscles. You need unless body fat now. Less body fat doesn't happen from just doing crunches or doing Abbott sizes. A reduced level of by fat comes in conjunction with Strength Training Cardiovascular Training Corps training and most importantly nutrition. So in fact if you couldn't do any of those others if you couldn't do core for training and you couldn't do cardio training and you couldn't do any strength training. You could still have an amazing six pack just with your nutrition. I mean it's true you've watched survivor ride those people. Turn to a completely wholefood unprocessed diet. They're not exercising. They're just barely trying to survive on the super low calorie near starvation diet and they get out without exercising. Now I'm not recommending that you do that but I am hoping they'll understand that senior senior abs seeing Nice flat strong muscles having a six pack isn't just about doing those exercises. We have a layer of subcutaneous fat. It just beneath the skin and as layer gets thinner and thinner and thinner than you can kind of see the ripple of your muscles underneath now. All of us know somebody who has ads ABC even when they're overweight. You know what I mean like they can gain ten or fifteen pounds. And that's weird. I can still kinda see an outline of your six pack and that makes me mad mad genetic so. I'm sure you have other things that they're jealous of to some people they're apps do protrude just a little bit more. There is more definition or for a rounded muscle belly which isn't to mean that their bellies rounded but the actual belly of their muscle whether it's your bicep or the quadricep is a little bit more are protruding or rounded and some people have a longer muscle belly meeting their muscles are longer or flatter. No those people who have a little bit more of a rounded muscle so belly you can actually see their abdominal muscles before you can someone who has kind of a flat muscle sheath so can you do anything about that. No you can really only do the best with what you have the genetic deck of cards you've been dealt and that's not to imply that you should make an excuse for yourself. It might mean you've gotta work a little harder but the truth is it might mean that you've gotta work a little harder but let's be clear that the best way to work your domino muscles is by learning more about your nutrition. Loose skin can be tightened with exercise. Again this is another one of those myths that it has a yes and no answer. So here's what you need to understand about. Skin skin is genetic you know this certain races certain ethnicities have beautiful awful skin that can endure hot sun and they never get freckles and they never burn and there are people like myself who are Scottish and pasty white and just looking looking outside. I'll get sunburned. My skin is different. Certain people have amazing elasticity in fact if you own the turbo jam or the Turbo Fire. DVD's you will probably know whom about to talk about. It's my friend Tony now. She has seven kids. She has an eight one on the way. And I know the answer or to your question is yes. They are all from her. I know crazy right. She has eight children born to her twins quads and and now two singles crazy cuckoo crazy. Now here's the deal when you see her and you see her abs in any of those videos post seven kids you go. There is is no way seven. Babies came from that body. There's no way that her abdominal wall and her skin was stretched out to hold four babies and that her skin looks like that without surgery. Well my friends let me tell you. I have got a very close and personal to Tony with a magnifying glass. And there are no scars ars. That's her skin. Got US fair. Feel so has soon to be eight kids so God is fair right but that's her skin. That's her genetic. She has beautifully. Awfully tones. Skin with elasticity bounces back very quickly. That means that she'll always look young and means that she's not going to have the same wrinkly saggy skin that people people the same age as her will when she's sixty five years old so it has a lot to do with genetics. Here's the other thing the longer you were heavy so in other words that's when people lose weight and they have saggy loose skin. Some of that will come back over time for some people take six months for others. It takes two years ears but at a certain point. Your skin's not gonna get much tighter so there's a couple things you have to evaluate. Is this loose skin. That's hanging or is this droopy be fat tissue. In other words people can lose a lot of weight which then their stomach which was formerly hard in protruding can kind of droop and SAG. But it's still a lot of body fat and then there are those people who drop all the weight and their skin is very thin and their body fat is very low. And what's hanging and sagging is loose skin and now it's been two years and you're wondering okay. Is this going to get any tighter. Probably not so what can you do about for it. I don't know that's up to you. It's up to you whether you want to go under the knife but let me save you some money. There is no skin tightening cream or vitamin or or anything else you can do. That's really going to tighten skin back to where it once was so you just have to be proud of the fact and wear it as your badge of honor or decide to do something something about it. I'm not here to make that decision for you. The younger you are when you lose the weight the more likely your skin is to come back quickly. The short period of time. You were overweight the better the circumstances now. There's a considerable amount of research that shows that those who build muscle are more likely to kind of fill that loose skin with with shape. Meaning the shape of your muscle. That's a really important component if you're trying to shrink certain areas in trying to make the skin look tighter and more taunt. It's also also really important that you're eating the right nutrients what you put in your body. It matters nutrition has so much to do with the health of your skin. It essential fatty acids in particular are really valuable for so many reasons. I mean A. Doctor A.. nutritionist can look at somebody's skin and tell you. If if in fact they are healthy or their nutrient deficient essential fatty acids like fish oil or flaxseed oil oils like coconut oil. An anti oxidants are really important and they're really important for you to consume them. Because it's going to help the health of your skin. It's going to help you regenerate the cells that you need to produce new skin cells and of course pay special attention to your hydration wimmer dehydrated. The skin lacks elasticity and our last myth. The best time to exercise is in the morning well again. That's a myth. It hasn't Asterik by it. The best time to work out is the time that you will schedule Agile and get it done uninterrupted. That's the bottom line but there's been a lot of talk about people who exercise in the morning having a sustained weight loss being able to manage their health and to make a lifelong commitment to exercise. So does that mean that working out in the morning is the best time to work out not necessarily from an exercise exercise standpoint in other words if I hooked you up to a device that measured your output meaning the number of calories you burn permanent when you exercise it doesn't necessarily indicate that those who work out in the morning burn more calories or work at a higher level of effectiveness rather the reason why you will often hear that working out in the morning is the best is because people are able to make it a lifestyle option. We also know that when you work out first thing in the morning people tend to be more energetic more productive and sleep better the night before in general. That's not to say it's right for you. I mean I hear from thousands of people who are like I know you always say to work out in the morning but I don't have any energy in the morning and I can kill it when I work out in the evenings and it's what I look forward to doing when I get home from work. The research supports the time of day. That creates the least least amount of resistance for you is the best time to exercise. One study found that afternoon exercisers. Those who exercise between noon and six PM found that their output was much higher than those who exercise in the first part of the day. Now the theory is that the body is warmer and that were more awake and more alert. And we have more promotions pumping through us and we tend to go a lot harder in the second part of the day. I can tell you that personally. I exercise every morning but when I cook myself up to a Fitbit or a body bug I have a much higher calorie burn later in the day so you might ask yourself. Why don't you work out later in the day I get it done in the morning? No matter how disciplined. I swear I'm going to be and promised myself I'm GonNa do a midday or schedule it even in the evening I just I never do it. So here's my theory a workout where I burn. Fewer calories is still a better workout than a workout gets interrupted too often. A recent study by the Appalachian State University found that morning. Workouts are actually best. If you want to improve your sleep and here's the other thing that we know about early morning workouts that you can often exercise in what we call a fasted state. Meaning that you've allowed your body to process the food and and the carbohydrates and the nutrients you've put in the night before it helps you to be more fit and have a reduced body fat. It really is a toss up between what's the best time to exercise morning or evening again. I personally believe that the best extend actress is is in the morning because I don't think many people are going to demand. Time of you are expected to schedule a phone call or even to return an email or answer questions at five of am. And that's why I love to encourage people to exercise first thing in the morning and when it comes to weight loss we do know that exercising inadequate fasted state meaning. You've gone fifteen hours or sixteen hours without food is possibly the best way for you to reduce body fat and that's much easier to do first first thing in the morning than it is late in the day so the bottom line is it's really up to you. Do what works best for your schedule but keep in mind. The research do works best for you. Keep a journal understand where the trade offs are if it keeps getting interrupted if week after week you intend to work out five times a week and you're only getting in two or three because life is getting in the way will then the time you're scheduling. Your workout is really not very effective and getting your workout vowed done. Even if you're not burning as many calories is more important to your mental wellbeing your physical wellbeing your creativity your patients and all of those other important the reasons why we exercise so there you go. Those are some of the biggest myths and we busted them wide open today as always. I really appreciate your feedback. I so appreciate the reviews. E- leave and most importantly thank you for subscribing so steal your neighbor's phone subscribe after the show and then take a screen shot of it and send it to me on instagram. Because you know what you're just doing your part when you subscribe to the show helps everybody out all right. 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"Hello and welcome everyone to your life program where we live intentionally fabulous every day. I am your host Andrea Hammer. And I'm a certified fitness trainer in a certified health and wellness coach certified nutrition specialists. And you're listening to the the show on radio ear network and SOB radio network. So how about making workouts fun as a trainer her. That's what I love to do to make it exciting and fun indifferent win. I work out with my clients and one of my greatest treat. Today is a dear friend of mine. Connie you know who is a beach body. That was fitness trainer. And she's here to share some of her techniques in her stories on how she became A fitness guru in how she looks at what she does every day and makes it matter she she says discipline to stay consistent on your journey is what makes the difference and she uses her fitness nutrition and mindset tools to inspire for men and women to find the greatest versions of themselves into hurts not a sacrifice. It's about life to live each day with so much energy and ambition end to transform the lives of others so a wonderful colleague of mine. Connie Kantono is here. Thank you so much for being on the show. Thank you for having me me so Connie tell your story you know as fitness professionals. We love what we do. We love jumping down. We Love Working People out. We love being out there. We love being Unhealthy yes as you. How'd you do your journey to get here Actually I as a child. That was very slender tall. I never had any kind of eating disorders or any issues. Had A great life growing up I had the best life an only child so it was spoiled with everything anything. Oh love all the gifts everything I ever wanted. And what a very unique and blessed life you add a few. I'm so oh so. And so growing up my entire life I always wanted to help other people and At one point in college went to took a couple classes to social worker and said No. That's not really what it is in and I ended up because my father wanted me to get into corporate America got a corporate job in once a slowdown in a corporate environment. A started putting a lot of weight on because we sweets and junk food. Visit your desk at your desk. CANADIA WAITRESS SO I. I put a lot of miles on my feet and then all of a sudden went in thirty years old. I sat at a desk and start put weight on and I started get bigger and bigger than I wanna go visit my parents. My Mom was God. You can't put your pants what's wrong and it started adding up and so then I met my husband. WHO's a a very healthy individual and actually asked him to show me how workout so he showed me how to work out in the backyard? This goes back twenty years ago I did the bill. Phillips of anybody knows Bill Phillips but did his program for short period of time. I lost some weight approved to myself that I could do this weight. Loss last thing and I started my journey at that point in my husband. Because he's healthy has has kept me consistent in my journey The struggled I've have had up to one hundred and forty four days ago was that I didn't understand you. You just have to find a good balance in your life for food and workouts so many women today are really struggling with time. They allow time to get ahead of them. They a US everything for excuses and they're constantly taking care of everybody else and so A kind of goes back to also that my father now the passed away three years ago and when he did that I had a wakeup call he died from unhealthy eating habits. He Basically died of complications from of dialysis which was caused by diabetes which. He could've totally turned around with food. So I started really soul-searching self-awareness self-awareness stuff and getting older. We fifty two years old tomorrow. Yay Happy Birthday. Welcome to the club and still have you by a couple of years so young a baby. So there's a lot of self awareness distress happened in your fifties or shortly there before and I've been growing into this new version of me. He slowly One hundred and forty four days as a key number from me right now because I've worked out for one hundred and forty four days straight. I haven't stopped done. I've moved to physically done something prior that it was always an excuse. It was always you have time and I always took care of everybody else. And that's exactly why I took on this mission for health and fitness. They might as I needed. I to improve me in ice saw that was reaching out to other people through my Owning personal energy and I thought why have against why should they use it so intern. I found each body through a friend who was doing the workouts online line and one thing led to another I found opportunities spread the love influence other women to do this and change lives changing mind I I but for years I never got that message to my own head. I just kept still trying to do for others. Do for others do for others and in the last hundred forty four days I finally made line in the sand. I said this enough is enough and doing a not good among to tell somebody doing something not do it and I was doing that I was doing that. And you can't do that to yourself as a female. You can't do this yourself if you let yourself you live yourself first. Then the rest of it is all is is all bs so that's kind of where my journey's come and of course I get to meet you through the process of costumes and flair player and smiles. And you know I know I have a gift I know I have a gifted AP Sola totally do. Oh my goodness I don't want it to like like I don't want you should shoot it. Oh my God but I wanNa tell people can tell everyone on the Internet you. We were at a running event that ass running in Delray beach with our different Stevens spits. Shout out to you Stephen and I'm out there promoting my Max. Pack and fitness training and this fabulous scarecrow walks up with Halloween scary face and scarecrow close Straw sticking out of her and a hat. It was one of the best Halloween. Pumpkin -i Thanksgiving Ish rush costumes. I have ever seen I said who is this. Awesome person underneath year and she was just dancing in moving and just life porn out of her in Straw all over the place and just lighting up the room and exercising as the square scarecrow from wizard wizard of Oz on steroids. Seriously and throughout all this orangey makeup and and Straw in implant and Pumpkin stuff or these amazing blue eyes that could pierce your soul with truth and authenticity. And that's what really got. Let me is her love for fitness as fitness professionals. You know people think that we always have it all perfect in altogether. We know everything that we should be doing. In because we teach it and yes we do mostly but we're still human and we still have our own struggles and trials and tribulations to maintain our health and our mindset in Are spirituality. To be the best that we can go out there and be the best for you and when we meet someone who's of that same energetic level. That's what helps us. We have our own accountability partners in helpful partners with each other. So I love reaching out to my colleagues. I love having their influence -fluenced to help keep me going if I have a tough day and I love being here if Connie does and you know she has just brought so much energy to my life life she is also a techno guru with all the social media stuff in pressing buttons and even using the buttons on my phone to help me even take a picture by waving at my own on thinking. Who is this chick who has so much energy and she even knows technology and people were fifty? You know we have to ask our kids to figure it out for us and here she is. She's press another button buttons for me so I instantly loved her and wanted her to be here to share that the sole fullness behind her determination Chen and her heartfelt truth about women in our struggle sometimes just as she said we do for everybody else but ourselves selves until we're afraid at the edges and to say no. I'm matter it's important. I love myself I love my life and you can shout that out so I was telling her yes because Yay me is really how you WanNa live in. It's not arrogance. Let me just clarify that. A backup a minute. It's it's not about arrogance it's about self love and confidence you were born to be beautiful and is Marianne Williamson one of my favorite authors and friends me is if you read the deepest fear who are you not to be strong and beautiful and amazing you know but who you not to be. You're born a child. God and it is to be injured radiate an and in when you lift yourself up you give light to others to lift themselves up people wanna be near your people who make them feel good people want to stand next to you they want you to like rub shoulders. They WanNa have what you have and so if you're blessed with knowing that you have it and let me just say this to every person has it. Your job on this planet is to go find your yummy yum it up and make it really spectacular and share with world. This is Connie said. I WANNA give it out. I want to serve people. WanNa help people. That's what drew us together because of that same mindset is trainers that we love love people we love seeing them transform their lives and each of us personally have to do it for ourselves in order to really understand and know it Slu we can help do it for other people and be with other people and share it with other people. I think from earlier when I said I had this perfect perfect upbringing right. I came out of that thinking. Oh I can save everybody's life because I've had it so good when in actuality you can't save anybody's ladies live because you don't understand what they've gone through so you can never end the thighs with them. So I think what I found over my journey is is that like it took me twenty years to get a four year college degree. Okay it takes me law. It seems to me longer to blow but when I bloom it's it's like Bam. I did it right so I feel like that's kind of what's happened. Is the self awareness point his said. Hey you got this gift you have to find the channel to go send this gift out and now my dad's passed. He walks with me absolutely at you know instigating putting people in front of me. You know always coaching me. Walking with me through this whole process and I do this because I don't ever want another person to ever step at a dialysis center. I mean that's pretty. I don't have a kidney okay. It's it's a different situation if your kidneys truly failure problem because of type one diabetes or genetic genetic genetics but if it's a food if it's driven from food which lifestyle related than you did then you're fooling yourself your whole yourself because that's three days a week League of life that you should not be spending. My Dad. Did it for six years. Yeah that very very sorry for your loss on it because we look at it now. We know that we don't have to have that and we can take different alternative helpful measures to change it so it doesn't happen and that's why I think trials into relations in dramas happened to us to spur us to that greatness. We're supposed to understand and learn from. Yeah and that's why we don't go through it ourselves. We can definitely the empathy is with for somebody else in when you really do truly think figure out what it is. They're going to their journey. They have to figure it out. We're there to to help them. Figure it out with information inspiration. That's with all shows about but they ultimately have to make the choices. They have to do the behaviors. They have to be consistent stint they have to do their hundred and forty four days. That's your new book. One hundred forty four days in counties. I'm one of these days when I stand up in front of all speech by coaches in front of Twenty five thousand people people on the stage. When I do that? That number will be whatever that number is it might be three hundred and sixty two days but it is never stops. Never GonNa stop anymore because the consistency was so bad. I mean I was all in all out all inter all out. I couldn't I couldn't figure out like I always had an excuse for working. Thanks US for Cookie there was an excuse that was tied to that. You know and people say you can do that. How can you do that how I can't do that yet? You can you that if there's something that's important to you you can do that. There's that thing right there. If it's important to listen there's nothing more important than your life and you say this almost on every show and I say this to every client and friend or student that I have are all learning is the your body is the most amazing thing you will ever own. I don't care what kind of House car Dr Carter Dr or jewelry you. You knew. Chuck that in a minute. If you've got the big C report yes right and you would start. Start Loving carrots in whole foods in sleep and water hydration and not eating anymore crap because if your body is not working it's not well you have no place for your soul all the B to run around here and can't make it in so the harsh reality of it is that we really gotTa love ourselves. We have to love ourselves enough enough that it matters because your life matters in this whole tapestry of the world that we live in every thread counts and every life. Is that thread of eight billion people on the planet. There's eight billion people. Now there's exactly zero. Who are you? I say this one of my favorite entry. `ISMs there's no one else has your Blue Eyes your beautiful for red hair the runaround and dance and a scarecrow outfit and make the world laugh and be joyful the way you do and so there's no need to compare yourself to anybody else because there isn't anyone else it's all up to you. It's all doable for you. It is all who you are and sometimes life gets hard and confusing but you have us me and Connie me to help you kick some blood and get going in and learn new way. So tell us some of the protocols speaking of ways you got your forty four in what is your protocol protocol that you do every day that you've committed to Oak. That was the thing that thing that always got me from day. One with the beach by concept and and the beach body comes from the infomercials from twenty years ago that were on TV that had p ninety x insanity. You can lose in twenty one pounds in thirty days if you just do this workout and and what was happening back then. People were buying these products in late night. There were up there eating cheetos. They were making baby the drinking too much. Maybe they had just got broke. They're just broke up with somebody. They were feeling sorry for themselves and they saw this infomercial infomercial and they bought it landed in their house. They looked at it they did word. Workout may quit right so card. I came up with this concept that if we you had people who had success with our programs that we'd finally got people to work out with those programs and then they went and spread the word to more imagine we could change the obesity rates rates in the world. We could change the obesity rates. So that's what we that's what I ended up getting involved with does visited business because I saw the benefits of a total package. which in other words? There's a lot of other diet pills powders different things that you can do. Who is all or not? It might be all you might be all your vegetarian or your Paleo or you're kito or your Do all health and fitness or you do you eat and you don't work out. I mean there's just so many combination at a crazy. Yes so each each body. They took a holistic look at it in a complete. Look that it is obviously number one your mind your mindset so they have us listening to personal development. I listen listen to. That's all I ever listened to anymore. I listen to radio anymore. I listened when I surf. Feeling down in the dumps kind of bombing I throw some personal development on. I mean I mean I love you know Tony Robbins and among other so many different different people that Jaakko willing is one of my all time. Favorite spirits retire. US Navy Navy seal. It's really hard. Core INS like disciplined freedom. Discipline is freedom in every aspect of your life money everything everything relationships all of discipline is freedom and I tried and I tried in every day ask you know what I I liked each one because they teach you that triangular now they come in they say okay. Get your head right now. We gotta get your health right so they got you working out. Twenty Thirty Days Twenty thirty minutes a day. It's only eight so you need. We have one workout even ten minutes right. We have this in so over the years they've gone from DVD's on demand so no there's no DVD's now everything's things on your phone sooner man where you're at your hotel your in a gym. You're traveling across country. You can play on his ship. Download it. Watch it no excuses excuses workout you get workouts all type of workouts right. You can dance you can do cardio you can do weights weight training that a Physical Competition is competition at their annual. Meeting which you can get workouts. That'll get you in that condition so it gives you the workouts that well suited for everybody. My audio can pick the kind that works best for you. That is more tailored to your constitution. Your energy levels your your interest your abilities your fitness level. I think that that's awesome. Then the third thing is the nutrition now obviously nutrition it is just as important as the mindset which is just as important as the exercise in the nutrition means so much. Because that's obviously what's causing the high blood pressure. The sleepless nights nights to angry or Disease Diabetes Cancer Rheumatoid Arthritis Leaky Gut. That list goes on just goes on and and in some of the most basic things are being sure with your kids are not getting enough rest or you know people do not America. Yes all the time and I have to fight that battle every day going over America because it's food food. Food were all sitting on bombs all day right so so I liked this business for that holistic and that holistic view that triangular total package thing his changed my life. I mean is really. It's been a struggle and a fight in journey journey and it's something I do every day of my life for the rest of my life I don't I don't talk to women about quick. Fixes fast is this isn't about losing Lucas. Wait for a wedding right. I'm right occasion. It's rights right and right now I'm going on a cruise on June in January ninth. And yes I'm I've tweaked my food. I'm not drink a one for six weeks. You know. I'm tweaking because I want to get to certain place. But that's for me and my body but but that doesn't mean on all do the basics everyday Ryan. The days are still getting me to an end game. which is I can still enjoy life? But that's the whole point of everything is how life is to be enjoying. There's going to be food. We're not afraid of cars and trees bicycles. Why should we bring? Food is just another thing on this planet. That is out there at every corner like a gas. I station in a bank. It's just they're only learned the healthful properties of the proper food vegetables fruits and and and not not. Uh nothing great. You know our our plant based Diet when we really learn how nutrients are utilized absorbed absorbed in utilizing the body. We feel amazing. We really feel amazing and we cut out all the crap in the junk. That's out there if you don't like say even my last Show I did talked about The whole plant based food plan and the body is so quick to be ready to have you take care of it as soon as you stop something it goes off thank you thank you. Thank you very try it. It has an innate sense of wellness and as soon as we start really young and in taking good care of it we will find that we will find that. It's not that hard. It's not that hard. Just there's so many distractions in the world that intimidations and Michael. It's mind three actions that we just Own as far as who we are but every day is a new day to start over every day's a gift from God that's why they call it the present the present moment right in the present day each day is the day. You're in right now. It's it yesterday's gone in fifty five years from before our audit over buddy fifty seven that long but the two great but I'll admit I'm born to right now. There's nothing I can do about anything on though I'm exactly right here right now. What can I do right now? That's the best decision for me. That takes care of me that makes me happy makes me well. It makes me follow this plan in your beach. Body Plan that that triangle angle body mind and soul food. I love how that works for you. And the whole point of it is inspiring navy. Somebody who's sat watched me on social media the creep in on my page. They're seeing me. They're inspired by me in every single morning. Pop up on their fee and they're like man. I wish it could be like Hani mission call. Maybe she can help me so tell us right now. In the last couple of minutes we have. How do they call you how they find you? Tell me that you can find me on Instagram at Coney Kantano at C. A. N. I t. a.. And how you can find me on facebook at get healthy and fit with Connie money in your business number and email. My email is get healthy and fit with Connie at G MAIL DOT COM. So that's easy. Yeah and get fit in healthy and yet it and then the letter n get fit in healthy yes with Conti and yes yes. Thank you for making that clear. Yeah 'cause Yeah I when I send you information I didn't put that in there instead of an I put and the letter N. But Yeah I mean it's I mean I myself not want to give you my cell phone but you got me email amount at address right. I can't think of anything else really. We know what else the thing that was really important that I love the most. What is your heartfelt love of to share what you know to share your experience to share your dedication your level of dedication people see that dedication that disciplined in your basket is your accumulated discipline and discipline because you love it because it's your choice? You don't do discipline because someone's cracking the whip on your own head at you because you are made to do it now. The difference. which is Grande is that you WANNA do it? And it's fun. It's not even a matter you've disciplined in terms of it being harding more. It's because it's who you are in you love it and that's the transformation we make for people out there because we've done that with ourselves. Looks right right correct. Yeah that's exactly right. I Want I want women to feel empowered. I want to be able to get up and go to throw nice black dress on or go out and go to a show and feel like they don't have to hide from their husbands in the in the bathroom to get dressed and they wanna feel fabulous even when you start being a little bit healthier a little bit fresher. All of a sudden sex life gets better too you because you become attracted to yourself and not others become attracted to your husband or your mate might feel a little bit more. Oh my gosh. She looks great. She's a Hottie. Now all right and you feel fabulous look great tolerate. You speak more confident in your like mess with me mom right and in Utah Confident. I love that I love it. Thank you so much for coming in. Share that fabulousness with me on this show today and thank you listeners for joining us I am so folks cited to have you with with you here today to share with me your comments or questions about all the information in inspiration that we share your on the show you you can reach me Andrea at Hammer. Health and fitness DOT COM Hammer. Health and fitness is the website and social media facebook instagram twitter. And all that and also my new a website the Max Pack Dot Com. It's my new fitness training weights and Cardio and balance and all over kick ass workout. So check that out the Max Pack Dot Com and keep keep on checking in with me. Because I'm here to help you with your life program so that you can live intentionally fabulous every day thanks for joining.
Episode 257: Change your Mind, Change your Body, Change your life with personal trainer, Melissa Alcantara
"The. Hi I'm probably next. Hi I'm breezy I'd were sisters, Fred, daughters wives, and business. And we're just falling in you know. To be a better version of herself every day. All right. And we're also. Welcomes. Sisterhood. Hello. Hello. Hello. What's lurking and I'm late. I did it's like a thorough what's happening? Hi Guys. This Lena. Yes we're sisters. I'm a mom of three girls and we're just hanging hanging in. They're taking data time surviving this thing one day when they at a time you have so much energy for being this late at night. You know what Mr we recording unprecedented times but I am also I. Am also Paulina, sister. Mom to have a three month old in a five year old and I am loving every single A. Believe it or not ladies if you're new mom, I'm going to tell you this. It does get better. It does you not is horrible today was today was really great just. You know I took a meditation. Class. Once a week. My my son's school has like a meditation on Zoom. And we took it for the first time a couple of days ago. I will say a huge difference on me. Town. They talked about switching your low vibration feelings for high by vibration feelings and it was actually really face. Now and deal with him. Any were you my sister. Good good good. I have energy because I'm about to put the kids really hyper and then it's my time. So it's like Ooh, you know like I'm almost. Made it another day like you know kind of like a like I'm there. Kind of like, Oh, I got here. Don't take bed Larry. But my house is a mess so I have to clean up after. Hold on hold on ticket ticket Wait wait wait wait wait before you. Saving thing I had a a apparent zoom. Happy Hour thank a couple of days ago. And one of the parents taught me a trick that thought like. Interesting they say that they actually have their clocks in their home and our behind. Or further you would all win. It's actually break whatever it is that like when it's seven o'clock their clocks as eight. So they're like, oh, it's time to go to bed the they. Basically, trick children to go to bed early. I have a nine year old work like that. Anymore she say. She's keeping up with allergy. She doesn't really fall for those kinds of things. Anyway, welcome to the show guys if you are new welcome to the Super Sisterhood and two or all time listeners. Hello Ladies, we miss you and love you so much. For everybody don't forget to follow us on Social Media Instagram, and twitter at underscores for US facebook's Burma months podcast Anti Amazon Com on the world white wealth. And if you WANNA send an email, sent us a voicemail. You can do it at hello at too performance com or call us at four to four, three, two, six, three, seven, seven. And Stay tuned at the end of the show for our favorite segment, the pick tip of the. Would we have on the show today? I am so excited. So excited was. Okay. This is one of the episodes that I am my. Self will be probably listening once a month because after her interview seriously, my life changed. I'M GONNA to call Hermel because I feel like we're now like home girls mel girl, but we have mainly sal come around. Fitness trainer in author she's Actually Kim Kardashian's trainer hot. Wow we're getting close to her. Back close, but I'm close to her. She was raised in New York City She's screen based in La. Melissa under UNIN surround for those of you who fan girl over her just like my sister and I she is fit girl mel girl as G. U. R. L. Mel. She's Dominican American Imam author honesty fitness trainer. She's like a mental trainer. Chew I feel is a life coach at athlete. She works as a personal trainer concurred. Action. West. After losing forty pounds, guys, forty pounds in sixty days and realizing that she had to control her mind and body. Melissa. Started training for bodybuilding additions and shared her fitness journey on instagram. Since then she scorned her platform to more than one million followers and there she continues to document her inspiring health and fitness journey Honestly I loved her. But most recently and partnership with Messenger Melissa created a serious workouts for watch together a brand new journalists you watch videos, friends, and family into their reactions in real time inspire digital fitness accountability we speak to her about so many things pulling out what did we talk to? Melissa about well, we I I really I. Really wanted to know how she started. How is that she lost? So much weight so fast, and because I did that once and I you know, but her story was just so different. So inspiring how she keeps herself accountable how she trained her mind and I think that was the most important thing that we learned that you have to actually train your mind I because it's your turn trolls you. She we talk about her how she balances her motherhood and how she teaches them how much her daughter has learned from her. We talk about all the bad things that she does how she writes. Cycles and like skate like she's just like. About US woman that I WANNA be friends with and I kick it with when all of this is over. Yeah but the more than anything what I realize it's like though she. Helps so many people, thousands and hundreds of thousands, millions of women across the world to change their body. I think what she really is. The. Best. That is just. Like jolting your mind into understanding that it's not really the civil game is a mental game and that for me personally was like a game changer after listening to her and. I think after my with her I, it really likes not me back into that mental game I knew anew to begin. So I love this episode so much definitely one of my favorite ones to and just keep it just got me like super motivated and Mike. Got Me back on the bike on the on my workout routine after a little break that I take to after my location but. Well. You got love to hear interview with Melissa. Melissa. Welcome to the show. Thank you for having me I am super excited to have you. You have no idea have like thousands of questions for you. But first. Let's start by. Some basic information tell the super amounts who you are what do you do? Who are you quarantining with? How are you has quarantine live? Tell US everything please. So I was born. But I am a prices which says a lot about me. I don't know much about you know signs to be honest with you. There is one either. They're they're six Lebron us in our family I. don't even know what that means and like my sister, my daughter's me my sister-in-law there's like six labor. So I don't I don't even know what that means that we all nuts. Crazy. Okay. That makes sense that makes. That I can. Yes. Yes. Odd The real orioles. Well, I'm happy to be here because Super Bama's is that's a that's a compliment. Kind of the most of the time I'm feel like I. Feel like I'm failing at everything I'm you know just waiting at most of the time But I think You know a lot of women out there need to realize that that's pretty much how you do it. Yeah. That's how you make it happen but. No I mean I've been quarantining pretty much. Just me my daughter. The Dogs My. Who is my manager gets complicated but He my baby Daddy He's also like a really good friend You know we're all family. So yeah awesome. That's so healthy. Awesome. I love to hear the that. I mean, we're always like you know. Arguing and fighting, but now nothing's changed. Now like in a bad way but. Try Now we're trying to understand each other like on a different level. You know not just as before where it was like we were kind of unaware in our own life structures you know and now it's like, okay I'm trying to understand you trying to understand me and yeah I WANNA put the face, but I will. But I can't. No but you know I mean a lot of genes this year I'm sure it's like everyone I work out ally by myself. at home so I. quit man to have here. You know some Olympic ours free weights kettlebells. Anything that you can really get your hands on. So so you're the one that took everything. Now I can get my hands on anything. Somebody did it before me? Hey a pretty. Black Argon. To target I was like Yo they must have something here they don't. Know, I found to the last. DO FIFTY POUNDS And I was like Oh I'm taking this twenty one. And? It was over they had nothing. Yeah and just you know like doing a lot of Zouk says a lot of. Stuff bandon workouts But yeah, you know just like here on my own. So trying to muster up, you know that like. Motivation that an inspiration I would get from. Jim, you see people working on you're like Oh yeah and you you know you kinda like take their energy. So now it's not only about getting up and making the decision to work out, but it's also staying in it and feeling motivated to cam to not be like this. Here. I think it's a hard. When I want I. always find it fascinating how everybody starts own like fitness. Journey. Like healthy healthier version of you journey, right because it's By losing weight I, I mean suffered some people but I'm I'm always fussing and I'd love to hear your story on high use me. You lost forty pounds in sixty days. Bring is that correct? Is Accurate? Yes. That's very accurate. That's probably the the first time anyone's ever got hoping that was accurate gives you know the Internet frigging kills. But yeah, it was forty pounds in sixty days and I did it at home and I. An. Let it be known this before quarantine before working at home was the thing you were doing it by yourself. At, its wake up one day was like today I'm GONNA lose. Weight. That's how it feels. You know people always asking they're like, why change in your brain like what how'd you make the decision that you just wanted to do this thing and it's like? It, it's small decisions over and over again then you kind of get fed up and you're like, you know what I am going to surrender I. think that's what it was I'm going to stop trying to force something right and and I'm also going to accept the fact that I know nothing. And have to be okay with that my dogs they're crazy. So it was literally that I felt like you know ever since I was young I was always kind of like the chunky girl a month six other girls in my family who were all hot and like boobs and this and that. So I was battling you know this whole thing I never had. Like somebody telling me all your beautiful. Do this do that you're smart so yes. So I was always, Yo Yo dieting never learned how to eat properly never worked out joined the sport. You know it was just like a normal Hispanic of bringing I feel. Just. Like eating whatever I mean whatever we ate home cooked Fudo a lot of the time but it wasn't like Oh, be health conscious it was like, Ray's the chicken. And black nose or you know something else was like, okay. Where's the green stuff? Like You mean this iceberg lettuce. Radio. I. Got The I. Got The. Bird would setting one. Day. We Sheila. That's my Greens today. What are you reading? Oreo. So. After I had my daughter Bella So I was seventy pounds overweight and I just couldn't. Lose Weight I. You know it wasn't that I could not just I was doing the themes I wanted to it was like I was thinking about it so hard and I was like, why isn't thinking like working out? I. WanNa move. It might say that enough times will I lose it? No, it doesn't work that way. To you know figure that out the hard way. So I beat myself up constantly you know, Oh, I ate a salad one day and is like I went running for ten minutes another day and I'm like. Well, I'm doing stuff. Why isn't this working? It was I was being consistent and you know I was still like eating the crap. So I saw an infomercial for insanity and I was like you know what? I don't care if this thing is a lie if it's true or is insane. Yeah I was like this is bullshit like these people no, that's not true. They all starved themselves a mess how big I've been. But I was like you know what I gotta give something a chance and. I need some guidance you know I can't do this all by myself. So I got the program I was like you know what I'm GonNa Start on Monday which I did it and I started like three Mondays. Only wanted to start on a Monday like GONNA eat like ten packers on Sunday Monday I'm going to start I. Don't know why you that that excuse. So my goal out. Whatever crap you want and also people ourselves sabotaging it's like. We want to like make ourselves feel bad on purpose has it's easy. But at yeah. So I started I went all out like I'm one of those people and I hate to say that one of those people but I add when I do something like when I have my eyes fixed on something is like one hundred percent. and. That's bad and good good in a way where you're like you, you actually make changes that in a way that there's no space really for anything else. So you know my husband at the time. was taking care of the baby most of the time and it was like I let everything go and I kind of focus solely on my goal which were to change my body. Changed the way I felt about myself. How was your daughter at this time? She would perspective she was to. Go. You know for those for the two years after I gave birth I. struggled a lot. You know I went on weight watchers it didn't work I. You know I just? Things that worked for people in their things that don't work for people. So you know this worked for me it was like it was a plan and that's where I needed, and after that I just became kind of like obsessed with. The fact that I can move the needle you know is like Whoa I can make things happen if I just focus you know and it just kind of went from there. You know. I'm going to share a little bit of what I'm actually going through I've I've I have the same story as you I've struggled with my weight like all my life I've been up and down Yo I've done it all I've done all the diets of the world like the moon, Diet and the ice cream and whatever diet. Like. The everything iceberg legit is bridget like I forget his everything and. It. Honestly, I've never really taken love for working out. I always felt like it was something that I was forced to and like why am I being forced to do this? You know and I always feel forced to I also did a challenge where I lost like. Twenty pounds and like some weeks but then like my body didn't react the way that I wanted to. But. During, this quarantine. I think my stress levels were just like it was too much. It was just so much for me and I started working out to cope with anxiety and Everything that was going on and I don't know like it just something that just happened and I. Maybe because I was home maybe because I had the time to do it. But I started getting excited about seeing. Strengthened my body and this was this is the first time that I'm working out that I am not weighing myself. I'm not measuring myself I. I don't know to be honest with you how much weight I've lost. I don't know how many inches of. All I know is that I can see my arms getting stronger that I can get up faster when I'm playing with my kids that not like. You know like every that I'm not struggling. I can see that I'm like you know it's just easier for me to I don't have more pain in my joints and those are the kind of results that I am going by I'm not. I think it's also like mentally for me and I know everybody's different. But you know. I think just it's hard or I don't know if you have found a way for or to share with people like how do you find motivation you know? Everybody's different but. How, how does one find that? Like They want Bush. One like a starting is the hardest thing. Yeah. I mean starting every day is the hardest thing is not yet only got I ended, but it's every single freaking time but you decide right so it's like you know I always say it's not the the the ten thousand squats that made your asks ninth is the Ten Thousand Times you said, yes I am going to go workout and do these. that. Day is what makes you feel good is we'll fill. Does ten thousand squad Good. Does I am bound? Housing. Much. How do I get? These pushups. Did he give me? A habit since. Since I gave birth to. Nine years ago. Is Villa's nine. Now do you get her involved in your workouts today? Still, you know she is like hopefully she. Doesn't become deterred. Because of my profession by. Working out Volvo Block. But one thing I have noticed about her is that she's extremely competitive. So when she gets into something is like she is laser focused on goes all out. We had her in gymnastics and in Brazilian Jujitsu and each time it's like it literally takes her a month to master what it is that she's doing. To get her to the point of getting, there is the difficult part and that's with any human being not just you know. You see that as you get older is like you know what they say you know you'd never regret a workout. It's true but to get to make the decision to get there to do that I rapped to even set up to get to the position where you are actually working out in the gym or whatever it is you are or to press play. That is. That's the most important part and. The thing is. It becomes a habit, right? So you press play once or you go to the gym. Is Hard. You go again it gets tiny bit easier even though it doesn't feel easier but. Mentally. Exactly. Net your neurons you're creating. New Pathways. So the third time fourth time. Fifth. Time. It's not that it becomes easier really is just that the decision now it's at, it's more of a habit. So now it's more like acceptable to to you. You know what? I mean because you also put those feelings together of like I did well, right I made a good decision and every time I make a good decision I feel I feel good. You know and I wanNA keep those feelings. That's why whenever you fall off. I mean, it's so much harder to get back there because you know how much lean leads you know what I mean to create through again, trying to right off but you know that also becomes a habit. You know getting into something then falling off and getting into something then falling up that also becomes a habit and then you keep doing that kind of stuff and trying to get that is also really difficult. But I tell people all the time. It's like you'd think I work out all the time people always need they're like, oh, my God already the. And is and I'm like. Eighty five. I'm not motivated maybe even more. I just decide I decide you know why because. Making a decision is taking an action right and should comes from so you must do I even though yes not wanna hear that they want to hear that I you're motivated, and then you do the action. How it works I you got to move your ass end Dan the motivation comes afterwards, and that's not only with fitness. You know once you make a decision now, you have to do the things to create you know whatever it is you want right so you have to move after that deciding is also an action. If you're on the couch, you don't want to get off the couch you WanNa Watch TV or whatever, but you WANNA work out. So now you're finding between these two things you're fighting between a habit that you have created, which is just lying down on the couch right as your old self to build a new self. So it's hard to get off the couch, but once you can offer there That's it. You're ready like you're already rolling. You're already creating a new habit movement. Exactly and it all comes with that I mean everything in life tells you the same thing when you do a squat, the first time sucks. The second time is us the third time? The is not so bad. Fifth time in what I'm saying is like that's just how things work the first few weeks months. Is GonNa. Suck and you have to accept that because you're creating something new or you're like, it's GonNa suck because you feel like you don't know what you're doing. You don't have the answers is this to change anything you know like, what am I why am I even doing this? What am I doing this for are missing out on all these other things but I mean, that's how everything you know in life goes. You can just go from being a newbie to appro. You GotTa, you gotta learn right you gotta learn how to how to love. You Gotta learn how to appreciate. You have to learn a lot of times. These things don't just don't just come to your human being who has all these learned things there's some people don't know how to appreciate is not that it's not even their fault they just they weren't taught appreciation. They weren't taught gratefulness. They weren't taught this kind of you know so. You have to teach it to yourself in his sucks as good as it is for you it just sucks because most people are stuck in bad habits and as much as they don't WanNa be there they make decisions to keep themselves there because what they know true. Yeah. It's what they know why everything doesn't unknown scary. It doesn't matter if it's good. That's why people say, Oh, they're scared of success successes scary frigging place to be. You GotTa hold that up like how gonNA keep this up. It might have been good enough. Maybe this is a fluke. We you know it's just like. It I mean. There's just so many factors. The whole mental game that goes into it is littered. It's it's exhausting but at the same it 'cause it's work you constantly working I, wake up every morning in its work is like y'all how am I gonNA feel today Am I going to choose to be sad and sappy depressed in my bed because you know things didn't work out exactly the way I wanted with whatever it was. I can't you know. Do I wanNA feel like shit? No. Yeah. I have to decide not to I mean I, feel I. Take, churchmen is us to church and. That's like the accountability iheart comes right? Like you have to keep yourself accountable. You know sometimes I started posting my workouts just to keep myself accountable just to know like, Oh my God I did like just to say, I didn't do it today and that was a that was a part of why I started doing that every day just posting it. And I I very sells almost that he says self conscious is I I didn't want 'cause I was like Oh people are going to think that I'm just showing right but it wasn't. It wasn't for for them. It was more for me than the for them just to know that. Okay. This many days that I'm doing it and. You. Know like telling him before every time even when I when I feel sad or depressed or down. Working out I, do I do spinning. So every time I get on the bike. Like I I, come come come off at like happier. I can do this. If I did this, I can do anything. So the. So the days that I don't or I just went on a vacation and the days that I was there I did other things. But now I'm like Oh God getting on like starting all over again it's you know you lose that momentum and it's hard. So it's like, I have to keep myself accountable in a have France that also helped me keep kind of like, Hey, I haven't seen you post your workouts what's up what's going on like don't be lazy. Or things like come on you can do is. We keep each other accountable and I know kind of -bility is a big part of it. How do you keep yourself and your clients accountable? Well I mean for myself is more like Melissa you this you know you've done this long enough. You've been through the back and forth you know what that feels like. So why put yourself through that? You know that you have to move to one to move so You know I know already the mental, the the the game right. Way With ourselves, we can convince me Senate half your mind already. Do not have for so long already know what to tell yourself and like get up it's like I know that I'm just being like a sappy whatever I know that I'm GonNa feel better after I do this I know that this is what's best for me. So whatever I'm trying to tell myself however, it is trying to convince myself otherwise that's just my old. The old solve coming and being like Oh but you deserve rast in. A. Mr. Want this. Three. Oh. Yeah. You can't do so well, yesterday you know and it's like it's all about release shoots leave. Exactly, sleeping today. It's about knowing yourself right and and. That's where consistency consistent enough. You get to know yourself safe. You think you're not just I mean by talking to you. It is a lot of physical work because he you help us get into the body we. Strive to be in our minds but I think. You more of like also, very much of a mental coach to get ready. Yeah. Because like all starts here. If. You're not. You know a lot of the times in a lot of people don't feel good that they're working out. That's why they're trying to make these better decisions, right? So You know if you don't feel a certain way about yourself or about the things that it is, you're doing a you're not making good decisions working out as one of those things. That is an easy one. You know it's an easy one trying to change your career or be just a you know if you're a liar trying not to be a liar and then you these still lie over and over again you know you feel like crap. and You keep on doing and when you don't lie, you can't really take the. You can't see the how much you've progressed with fitness it's easy because if you're consisted and you're actually making good decisions making those decisions than two weeks, go by three weeks. Go by you feel better. You see the way whatever that is a an amazing way to begin what I think is the biggest journey of all and that is the one of really. You know this whole self love situation. It's really about balance about balancing your life. You're going to do shitty things. You'RE GONNA make crappy decisions you're going to not have the best day. It's how you carry on how you keep going. You know when you eat that crappy meal near to do better for yourself once you get to appointing your fitness. That crappy meal is not going to be the end all. You know in the beginning it feels that way because you just don't know enough about how this thing goes. You know if you're consistent enough, then you get to know yourself enough. You get to know that's not gonNA me. You know I don't have to do twelve hours of the bike tomorrow to get rid of those burgers that I just had. You know what I'm saying and it's it's all about I think ultra get to that point in our lives of. Balance Out. You know I mean I told my clients. The same thing you know accountability is just like you know at the end of the day I'm sorry to the the bear bad news but you have to make decisions I can guide. You cannot pull you out of your bed. You are a grown human being if this is something that you want, I'm wanting to guide you. I'm going to give you the tools that it is a unique Madonna. Do It for you. I can't make the decisions for you the decision yeah. Because that is what it is. That makes you. Liposuction, right the person who gets liposuction. Never make all those little decisions to get to the point where they can. You know feel that thing that is like I feel my bucket love every time I decided to do this on my own, and that's why people get like surgeries and things like that will go back to their original weight because they didn't do. Ghozlan Mental, it's a mental thing. It's that affects your mind before you fix your body and that's why it's an opportunity every time every day everything that you decide to do from when you walk out the door, you get out of bed. Decide from that moment on is an opportunity, every challenge that comes into your life. Every change that comes into your like is an opportunity for you to make a decision people I was trying to avoid decisions. They don't even like wake like ordering food because it's too many freaking decisions they're like, no, I'm just gonNA order the seat thing because I know whatever whatever and is like, do you know and when the order that they're like? Oh The other things you're never going to be happy. Afforded me. You make a decision stick to that do the things right That creates the person it is you wanna be that creates trust within yourself. If you Sam them today and you don't work out yet you lose trust you don't want to lose trust in. So the president you want the most is you now you can't even trust yourself because you're not following. The things that you say that you want for you. Now you're doing the opposite how are you living your life them? Yes. I never even thought about using trusted yourself because you're not following up with wig told. Your cell. This every morning when you wake up yeah. Well, Melissa, I feel like I just went to school houses. We not. Is Crazy and it's like you know sometimes we feel like damn. We have to make so many decisions in our life and we have so many responsibilities of of these things by you know to see it as something good to see it as like I have control over my life and the things that I wanted how I wanna live it in this tiny little time that we have is a blessing one, hundred, percent hundred no. Things are not just happening to you. You do have the control and how you react to this how you react to that what you know how it is you want to approach all the things that come across as opportunities and not just challenges and not just Oh, this is a bad thing or you know so that that's what I have to do all day long bass what I practiced from the moment I would go okay you. Not that I'm going to be happy go lucky every day but you know the decisions that you need to make to feel good about yourself to live the life that it is you wanna live, and this is one of those things you're GonNa take a minute and you're gonNA work. You're GonNa do things you need to do for Your Business. You'RE GONNA hang out with your daughter today because she's been on the tablet for the last three days and you you want to create a relationship with her. You're not going to be the best the best fast fast fast but as finding that like you know that like. This is good. This is peaceful. This is joy. This is you know and. At the end of the day, you have to make those decisions. Yeah and it's also I think it's time for yourself right when you're working out it's it's for you it's it's for no one else it's just for you it's something that you're doing for yourself and I, think that a lot of people start moving or start working out or started doing the to please other people, but he shoot just for you. But I think that a lot of start that way. But once they keep making these choices than they realize that it is for them you know it's a it's a realization after the fact, but this is the whole process of learning about yourself. Right getting to know who you are because you walk around with his body all the time you say these things and you do all these things a lot of time you're interacting with people right and when you're not interacting with people, you're so far in your head, you're not even present at the moment. How are you going to go? Yeah how you doing? It's like and that is by being consistent making decisions for you. Right and I'm telling you fitness is like the best way to go because you think you want apps. But at the end of the day six months later you're like Holy Shit I have apps. That's great. But what I wore happy and proud about is my ability. Yes. Yes. Eat this going to feel girl. I'm sure when I get asked I'm when we have it but. Let me tell you something there's so much or empowering than just having APPs. A. Way to to get. Crikey at the all the effort that I did to get to this point like ask trophy. That ads are the trophy ashbury chaining. Nice. Trophy intellect walk around with my math though. asser trying to stay Melissa about Hamid. ADS are so two, thousand, fifty, six about what? They said ads are so two, thousand, fifteen. It's all about the hamstrings now really. One legislative. Aren't you know those are like ours your. Arms, I'm always. arps. Yes. Meg Looking at. That's what I want. Like cut like that nice cut like I'm wild always have been obsessed with arms. Will Not listen. Let's not like big because you just like took at church and we're going back to like you know like the house. So like let's not do that. Let's talk about your partnership with Messenger. new workout series. What is what's together in? How can we be a part of it and also? How can you? Schedule, weekly calls with you. I didn't want to work out with you. Chat I. Kick. My Ass. Or? That Yogi. Know. That's why I do most of my most of my work is not training people you know. Specifically there because what I want you to do is learn you know I want you to learn from my cues I wanted to take this and help somebody else I want you to help yourself so good and so much that you are a teacher. Else because that's the WHO reason why we're here I feel it is my purpose right and it's everyone else's once you get to a level where you take care of yourself so much that you can pass that onto somebody else that that that's what you live or right that's where you WanNa do for your children right and so imagine if you can do that for. You know a whole spectrum of of people. By, so that's what I do with Messenger actually. So I created like a like a little workout series for one for beginners one of intermediate and advanced, and they're all about twenty minutes wrong and Wait So you know anybody can do it. You know you just push yourself. I give a lot of cues on form. That's where I'm super big. You know. Because it's not about how many you do I believe in quality over quantity. By yes so I mean it's it's literally of feature where you can work out with like your friends or your family in real time. So, like A. Brand and you can watch movies together, which is something I always wanted I. I was always like, why did it? Why doesn't anybody come out with us? You see I have been zillionaire. How? Decisions to get you there. Decision was. I was busy working on my abs. It's It's amazing I mean. Who make sure to link all informational Super Dot Com. In the notes for the show for this episode yet? Oh, my God. Thank you so much. I am so. I. Didn't know about this morning actually bridge really funny I. I Li- I did do ten minutes of core confessions. that. Like I'll do it tonight. And then now now, really gonNA work tonight after listening to you because I having worked out in four days and unlike the person that works out like. Greg. It's been. Is like that whole thing where you're just like Oh, you know I'll do later every time I told myself that I know but I'm not GonNa do later legitimate by myself well as in the confirmations. Tummy like those in the morning. So of your, but there's a tie. So that's another thing. Help people be. Honest. With yourself. Things out loud. It's different when you say it in your head in your head, it's like two different people and you can argue with that person and sale the things that you want, and you can lie and whatever, and you can treat yourself all you want if you say it out loud and you're like. But. That's for real. Really do that later. It's hard to lie to yourself out loud where if you're looking in a mirror. Because we can do it and we do it all the time and it seemed so true but it's not you know it's not. You know you're not GonNa do this lady you know that right now is the time, and if you don't do it now than you got to let it go. That's another thing you. That's where the taking responsibility lives comes in because you always find something to blame it on. All I. didn't do it later. Because I had so many things to do and got to lead and you're already looking for that thing to blame it on you away. From the beginning, you weren't going to do it. So now you have something to blame it on. So it's great. It's not your fault. Churn since and love it I. Love You. I love your style because I I'm not I'm not good with people just like you can do. No. I need somebody to kick my ass like on my ear like. I love that I meet that and? To find your style. Evasion sure and it's not about like you know I'm not. I'm not crazy on like all. You GotTa do this right now and Blah Blah Blah. But what I want people to know that. That, they have the power down just. On but I think also on the harder is like Dan legs, Kazan, your face reality and rallies way more scary than Swami like. Four. One hundred percent you know why? Because it all comes from you. By honesty. Shows up in you on in how? You are. So you know then you can go back in your hand and say Dan. That's true. You know I did it do this where I didn't do that and people don't really like to do that because they're like you know again the blame game and it's not a you know it's just humans and how kind of you know how we we're programmed to to work. So it's kind of changing that programming and you know making sure that we know that we have control that we have the power end that we can take responsibility even for things that don't happen perfectly or when we mess up because again, we're just human beings. We're just trying her best at every moment in time everyone is trying their best. You're stupid husband that he wanted to take the balls he's. Also you see. something. Everyone is doing your best at any given time what it is. Some people don't have an awareness of certain things. Maybe you have more awareness here then someone else and they're just not there yet, and so they are doing their best. If they're best is lying about something that's all they can do. They cannot be honest because they just can't. They're not there yet in their life. That's why you have to understand everyone is eating and going through their own things you know what I mean it's not personal. They're not nobody's personally trying to attack you unless they're literally coming at you with a knife. are dealing with their own selves and Yes also, it feels like a personal attack, but in reality, everybody's just going through their own things and trying to. Just trying the best that they can with a may not didn't. Damn. Mind that we have is crazy the mind as we learned Tony. Robbins mind that email it's the it's like a whole situation that you have to work out at every single day and I love that for you it's the mind and the body together you know I. Love You. I cannot wait to watch your to watch you on watch that way way. Exactly. I will watch you watch together. We'll watch together. Yeah Because you can watch TV together now. Yeah. With other people. You can actually comment like. On whatever it is you're watching like you can watch the Food Network right and cook together and make comments like your lamb suck. Better. Is a screen that shows you the movie and then it's me and you here at the bottom and we're both watching the same thing and we're watching each other and we can. We can also talk to each other. Well, let's take a little break and then come back to. Or fire questions we. Can freely. Let's take a little break. And come back. Embrace it. We just want to remind you to rate enscribed podcast. It's feature follows on spotify soundcloud or whatever you get your. Also. Have you seen is blocking our people swag. Well, we want you to join in use Promo, code F., M., podcast at checkout on superdome dot com slash flag for fifteen Austrian border again, that's Code F.. M. podcast on supermax dot com slash squad for fifteen percent. Okay now back to the show. We're back. That was the longest break. All the juicy stuff told us over the free? You keep those secrets I'll keep all secrets to myself. Require Christians police. Okay. Let's get to it. First question. Ariel Jazzmen area. Why because I love worried. Bomb Boys. Yes thing. I give. You talking the same. Rape Britt. Favorite origin activity that does not it's not working out and it's not like plenty your week and. Now. Writing, my motorcycle O-. You're at. Okay you more like of a text or call. Kinda go. Texts actually now. Sorry. Call 'cause if you take me, I will take you back. Okay until we're like a boy snow person or like call call call Coco okay adding an interesting. With his base, you've you left this world. If, you can just take off tomorrow go anywhere in the world. You know with being healthy where would you? Probably, like Madagascar. WHO It up over there. How would even think of that idea? or dough because it's expensive. To figure out a way to get there. Okay. What what's your favorite hoops are eyeliner? hoops Yeah. Hundreds Christmas. Last last movie you watched. That I loved loved that is. If the notebook on the. Pisces look it up. Literally. We Watch Ariel and in all day everyday life never saw. Oh I just saw the whole twilight series like two weeks ago. I was like God this garbage and Put the second one. We went through the whole. We're still not in that faith but my daughter's nine she's actually. So we'll probably start soon. You're there you're there. Yeah. Coffee or Tequila out of you drink or not offer. Every day but I do love Tequila. Woo Okay beyond say our Salinas. Rule. Are we gonNA say beyond say. Okay, hey we're all beyond Z. here too. So no way. Are you more. Okay. What have you taken up anything during warranty on any activities didn't do before now you do. You people started making bread. Apparently, that's a thing certain like roller skating, other people starting knitting. All got. No. You See. The thing is that I do this kind of stuff without quarantine. So before nineteen, I started roller skating. skateboarding. Morning cycling I started before in quarantine I just like you know I, want to hang out with you. Interesting. Woman in this world into. The beer guy of the guests. Back, was interested men in the world. Land, you should be in their other campaign. World does I'm also Blue Belt in Brazilian Jiu? Jitsu Jesus. Christ Nice. Oh I should not say that sorry, my husband gets mad at me where I? WJM. Like any other habit mark. Next question do you prefer sex or massage? She had to really think about it. Jam. All right I'm GONNA say sex. Aw, I don't get it very honest. Again. You know. I like appreciate that. Anybody, my friends whatever. Ask Your friends for anything. Okay. We'll massage or masturbation masturbation hundred percent. See that was not to that was an easier way to. Yeah. Are. You are you more of like a Halloween or Christmas person Christmas I know. You're we're Christmas. I, love Christmas. Happy. Than the last question. What is just absolutely loving right now, what are you obsessed with? What is your that? You can't stop be anything to be a movie. Show Up. A hobby. assured. My, well, what I'm obsessed with right right now is. My motorcycle taking it to the track. So I go to the track and I get try to get top top speed so like going you know Hundred miles per hour of time about full leather outfit you know just Abbas sports bike and. You know try to get you I'm sure you make it sexy array at you. Just you'd probably walk out your house. You Look Resolve there you let your Obama's bitch and you're gonNA hear motorcycling with two hundred miles an hour. For I WanNa love Oh I love taking my helmet off and people thinking number one. It's a guy and to that you know they're like Yo, it's a dark skinned girl with curly hair what the hell is going on here. hoops on. I mean. Me I'm doing this. You know best. My that's my favorite burly learn how to ride a bicycle last year. So. Is it. Everything is perspective. Right is everything stacked somewhere. Somewhere, thanks so much for being with US Melissa. You were one of my favorite time gusts here today Thank you so much. You're taking time. This was so. Much Fun. Yeah thank you. Tell our listeners where they can find you. How can they follow you? How can they? How can they hire you tell us everything pleads in how can I be your new best friend Gosh Exter- exact. Just need to talk to you for to get off my ass. Is everyone can find me on fit girl MEL DOT COM. That's my website So few products that I believe in I don't believe in a lot of things but. You can find me on Instagram at thick. Girl. Mel. My Youtube Channel, which I'm putting a lot of stuff on there. What I eat every day a ton of recipes and workouts that you can do at whole or in the gym tutorials. So just let me figure bell girl whether you. Rack some girl over there. Got The girl with an I couldn't get there fast so. I got another game. I got earl. That's the way I. See it as a girl. I think he's another Ac not smoke with a you. Know. I gotta be. Not since I came along bridging in a dictionary. But. Also my book fit girl get it. There's a you know you'll laugh you'll cry you learn a lot of things. I will definitely definitely after this conversation, I cannot wait to read it. Of the mental process that I went through. That's in the book that is very relatable to a lot of people not only women men you know just everybody so Yeah, and thank you for considering me Super Mama. Mama said thank you for being you. Thank you for your time. I think for just a mom working mom. To take some time right now like in the middle of the day I really truly appreciate your time. You have no idea. Thank you. Think Oakland to have had you here armaments are going to. Games. So much from his I can't wait for this efforts near. The. Thank you so much to revive superfund. Thank you. Interview? Interview. What we did the. Book So please go ahead and do that right now. And we are moving on to our super favorite segment the pick of the week. And over I if you want what are the? Only way you're into these days what's going on with you? What are you buying narrow by? This is actually a tip. So when I was on my Haiku when I went on my trip I have three children and children are very unpredictable and while we were up. In the mountains are they are they believe? They're like. bb I need to go boo boo, and so we're like in the middle of the mountain right and you know I I tip is always pocket toilet and wipes and your bag when you're hiking or going outdoors with children, and so you know they needed to go number two. What are we going to do it and I was like Oh my God is so I remember that from have you watched the movie door, it's Laura Parrella. The life bit delayed. Moving. 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Ageism and The Struggle To Maintain a Youthful Appearance - 388
"Hey there. Welcome to the selene shell. Now. As listener. I'm sure you can assume that you've got a lot in common with other listeners. You've got a lot in common with me. But did you know, you have one thing in common with absolutely every single individual who's ever listened to the Shlaim show? And you also have this in common with me. What is it were all aging, and that's what we're talking about today on the lean show. Welcome to the show lean show Jelena's a New York Times bestselling author celebrity fitness trainer in obsessed with helping you live your life without question. I feel incredibly blessed to have the platform that I do and by platform. I mean, the social media following you the people who listened to the selene show. These things are a gift, and I take them far more. Seriously. I understand the responsibility that comes with it is a blessing. There's no question. But sometimes it does have its downsides. For example. It's hard to know that you're. Disappointing people when they reach out to you. Maybe they've sent you a really long direct message with their life story in it. And it's really serious, and you don't even see it because it gets buried amongst messages that breaks my heart when that happens, and sometimes people can be very angry with you. Of course, the more people, you have here's the thing you need to understand, especially when you're looking at someone you're like, oh, they're so lucky they have, you know, x number of followers on Facebook or Instagram the more love, you have the more hate you have it just life is fair. Right. So for every person who says they love the Shalini shore and has written a five star review less there ever loving hearts us. Plenty of people who have not left a five star review have maybe left a one star in a nasty review, which is very nice. But you know, they'll rotten hell just kidding. Just kidding. They are entitled to their opinion. The other negative side of having a platform or an audience or to make yourself. A public figure whatever putting yourself out there. You're going to get negatively. And sometimes it's trolls just people who jump on the internet, and they want nothing more to do than to pick you apart. And frankly, it doesn't bother me. I'm quite used to it. It really does not bother me. And since I was probably forty years old. There's been comments like every once in a while you're old who like rude comments about age and trust me. I look good. But it can still bug you. And there's been times I'm going to be honest where I like allowed that self doubt to creep in and even wondered myself, and I too old to be on social media. Do I look old even though I know I don't, but you get a couple of those comments every once in a while, and it can start to like, you know, message your head add to that the fact that everybody is filling up their face with fillers and Bo talks. And listen, I'm not against it. But it's crazy to me that these twentysomethings are doing it now, which is weird because I think it usually makes them look a lot older. And then I live in southern California where everyone's face is starting to look the same like everyone's getting their cheeks blown up and their nose jobs, and their eyebrows are up so high from their tocks, and then they have these overly filled duck lips and trust me. I am not above it. I definitely get Bo. Talks a little because I don't like that frozen face. Look, I'm pretty expressive. So I need to still be able use might facial muscles. But the fact of the matter is it's pressure to look young or to maintain your youthful appearance. Right. There's a lot of pressure. And it's weird because you get these comments like people are like, oh, don't put anything in your face, or, you know, don't try to look younger. But then all this pressure to look good and look younger, right? I mean, I try to keep. Keep things real right? I want people to know who I am. And what I look like, which is why I'm afraid to use filters. Some people man they use those filters on every single post that they do. And then when you meet them in person, you're like, well, you scared me, and I don't want to do that to people. But I also am going to be honest. I spend time, and I always have. So this isn't about my age. But I'm definitely more conscientious of it putting on makeup and making myself, look presentable, and you know, just making sure that I don't look old and Hager d- because I don't wanna get that feedback. I don't want that to be distraction from my message. I don't want that to become something that gets in my head. And then I'm holding back and not going on social media, not putting myself out there not going on video. It's really hard to go live because when you alive, you can't control it, and there's a million trolls that jump on and they love to say sexual things, and they love to make comments about your appearance and. They will ask you to show them body parts, and in the neck sends they're going to tell you that your old it's confusing and it's distracting, and sometimes it's hard, and I have thick skin. I'm confident I know that these are these are people who I don't care about their opinion that people who are trying to get a rise out of you. In fact, when they jump on one of my lives and make some of those stupid comments. I usually have fun with them where it bothers me though is seeing it happen to other people to people who may be are not expecting it who are prepared for it who does deserve. Nobody deserves it and there's negative comments that are just trolley. And then there's the people who just comment about age. And I'm not even talking about social media. I'm talking about the press Hollywood, the beauty industry, and for whatever reason ageism our comments about a woman's age are just acceptable. It. I was watching a news programme the other day. It was like a financial news show. It might even been MSNBC. I don't remember don't quote me. It doesn't matter because on all of the news channels. It's the same. The men are in their sixties and seventies. And so knowledgeable, which is what they are bright. And you know, you really start to get this because Hello as you get older and wiser and more experienced, you have more knowledge and people want to hear from you. That is if you're a man if you're a woman, However, I don't know they certainly don't want to see you because you look on any of the news shows the male analysts are in their sixties and seventies fifties. And it doesn't matter whether they're balding and have glasses and are overweight is long as they are knowledgeable. We put him on the air, but the women on the other hand have to be blonde and perfect body in quaffed and young and perfect makeup. It's like such a double standard. And trust me. I'm. Not pointing at the guys, ladies, I think we are the worst most of the negative comments. I see about someone's age or appearance are from other women, and this podcast is meant to call you out. And if you see it jump on that person, if you say it you need to check yourself for you wreck yourself because newsflash sweetheart you're going to get old too. I know it's weird. But you see there's this thing called time. And we don't have any way to control it. It's just rolling by. You're going to get old if you're lucky it is such a gift, it's a blessing. You better pray that you have longevity in your jeans because it just gets better and better. And better your confidence is going to grow your body. Acceptance your wisdom, your BS meter becomes finely tuned, you, stop caring what stupid people think or say. I mean, it's a really good place to be. And I guess that's why. It angers me. I'm intolerable at this stage of my life of bigotry, and racism, and ageism and sexism, look, it just it doesn't even make sense to me, for example, the Daily Mail been 2016, they put out an article about Madonna. Okay. I'm going to read you part of it is said with her embellished biker jacket flawless makeup and elaborate jewelry. She looked a fraction of her age. At least at first glance. But Madonna was ultimately unable to disguise her age while watching the UFC fight in New York City this weekend, and as she showed off her collection of rings. She revealed her aging hands the pop icon raised her hands during the Irish fighter Conor McGregor is historic victory. Only to reveal how wrinkled they have become over the years than they featured this photo of her which by the way, her hands, look fine. To me. I'm looking at her hands right now online. Unlike dasell, my hands look. Like when I was like twenty two years old. I've always had old looking hands. I mean, what is she supposed to do while I'll tell you what she did. She went out and had a bunch of procedures done on her hands to make her hands look younger and who else did that a ton of young Hollywood stars like Kim Kardashian ran out and had injections done in her hands to make her hands look younger. I you serious right now. Like, this is ridiculous. Newsflash Daily Mail making fun of or pointing out the fact that somebody is aging who is in fact aging, and then shaming them for that is like pointing out the fact that a woman is pregnant and then shaming her for her growing belly. It's called biology, and what triggered this for me? This morning is I was looking on social media and timber judge attorney name she's one of the Orange County real housewives. And I don't know her personally, even though we live in the same area. She's also fifty she might even be fifty one. But her body is amazing. Like, she works out all the time. She really became kind of a late in life fitness influence, or I don't think she started getting really serious about fitness, etc. Until she was in her late forties and has completely transformed. Her body. It's inspirational she's done fitness competitions. And she looks fantastic. Really? She looks fantastic. I know she's had a lower facelift, but so why like bacteria should probably get her money back because she doesn't look any different. She looked great before shouldn't need. It hasn't changed. Her looks at all she's worked hard for her body. It looks amazing. And I was commenting on one of her photos today. And I looked at the last comment before mine, and it said old in skinny, and I thought, you know, what this is no see I won't fight someone on my own page because it's like, oh, I can just delete 'em. Who cares but on someone else's paging? Oh, no, no. You're not getting away with that. Missy and of course, it was another woman who called her old. And skinny first of all, it's none of your business. How dare you comment on her body in if you do want to send her comment how about you send it to her directly? There's an idea as a posting it under her her feed. Why are you doing that for attention? That's why and then calling her old another woman. Another woman calling her old a woman who guess what is also going to get old. And by the way, right now, she appeared to be younger than tamra, and frankly tamra looked a lot better. But that's the point is like why are we trashing each other? Hey, thanks for letting me interrupt. 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You want to do that to again. Go to audible dot com forward slash Shalini for your free thirty day trial. All right back to the show. So here's what I wrote backdoor. Dear monique. Mcdowell forty five. Why is it? Okay. For women to shame women for aging or offer your opinion about her body, perhaps you are unaware of this fact, but you too will be fifty like us someday. If you're lucky, and what a blessing it is to gain the wisdom of those years. You'll learn that thoughtless comments never make you feel better later. It's actually disservice to yourself. May I respectfully ask what would motivate another woman to bash someone about their age. We can't control the passing of time any more than we can control the color of her eyes or skin. I hope the reply, and I hope you'll have a better day and actually didn't go back to see she replied because you know, I really don't care. I wanted everyone else to read that like we freak out as a society. If anyone says anything about a person's gender or their nationality or their body type. You wanna comment on someone's? Aging appearance. Go for it for some reason, that's acceptable. And it just shouldn't be and I'm not perfect. I'm going to tell you that I have feared worried about aging. I worry about my body giving up on me letting me down I worry that like all my hair will fall out. And I'm not so much worried about my face falling or my body not having the shape at once did because Hinault there's always fashion, and listen, it's not like I was miss walk around half naked kinda girl, anyways, I'm very modest. Like if you've seen me half naked in consumer workout videos, you'll notice in my social media, I never do that. 'cause I never do that. Like that is not me. I don't work out in micro shorts and a little teeny tiny brought up. I know that supposed to be inspirational. But that's comfortable for me. I just I'm not that person. I don't lay out in the sun. Like, it's fine. Like, I will be okay with my body changing breath can tell you today. Day as I sit here fifty years old. My body is changed for the better. Just ask my husband. It really has. Because I'm wiser I know how to treat my body. I was so abusive to my body in my thirties and forties. It's almost sad. And right now, my body's never felt better. And I've never been happier with my body. Yeah. My skin is Saghir, but my muscle tone him so much happier with my muscle tone, and so much happier with my strength. I'm so much happier. With the way that I can just perform an feel when everyday when I wake up so that encourages me that makes me believe that I'm going to get better with age. Yeah. Of course, things are going to say and drag a little bit. But in terms of my body, I'm really happy about how it is served me. It's a blessing to blessing from God. How lucky are we to have the gift of aging may makes me sad to think about young people who lose their lives or? People were gone too soon. I mean think about that the next time you have something negative to say about a person aging because here's the other thing. I just find that him, happier and more confident and more successful. And we're peaceful as I get older, I'm loving it. And my body feels great my body feels better now than it did when I was in my thirties and forties. And there's something that's called the happiness curve when we are first born in are really years through about the middle of elementary school sometimes middle school and in our later years from like forty five on those are the happiest years of our life. So you should be looking forward to aging, and I'll bet if you are over forty five that you'll say that's probably true for you to. So why have we demonize is very natural biological process known as aging Ashton Applewhite a renowned expert on the topic? Ageism says it ageism is actually one of the last completely acceptable forms of prejudice. And she brilliantly points out that that prejudice is prejudice against our own future. Self. The irony, and then irony is so prevalent like think about it. We're all guilty of this. We're all guilty of having certain beliefs about age every single one of us myself included, you know, and I've got friends where we're like, well, you know, as we're getting older sucks to get old. Like, we say these things, and it doesn't suck to get old. I mean, certain things do sure but being young and ignorant or broke or inexperienced those things can suck too. So it doesn't suck any more than any other age. In fact, I think it's probably better. And I think the sooner we drop these stereotypes and beliefs the younger, we get self limiting beliefs. Don't help anyone when I was a personal trainer. And even when I was putting together test groups when I was creating fitness programs. What we would do is take applications from people who wanted to lose weight people who wanted to be a part of this test. Group, and we would try to take a nice assortment people who were all ages races sizes people didn't need to lose weight. People did more lose weight people who had an exercise people who were pretty fit like. So we would have a nice cross section of people and every single time. I did a test group the women who are over forty five. And by the way, this is when I was in my early forties and late thirties. The older the women were the more they openly expressed their limiting beliefs about their age. And they would do it collectively they would say things like, oh, well when you're this age or will me and all my girlfriends, we all do, blah, blah, blah. So it was almost like it was acceptable. And the belief was that your body was going to betray you that you couldn't do certain things because you're a certain age and the people around you weren't doing those things, but it only takes one person to change your beliefs at it only requires you seen one friend. Who can do it and isn't complaining about their knees and their back and their age, and they look amazing for you to have that wakeup call and realize what this is just an excuse. It's not often the fact that were aging that our bodies start to hurt or we put these limiting beliefs on ourselves. It's that are limiting beliefs cause us to do things at sabotage our own health like being inactive like giving in and having more deserts in eating foods that you know, are not healthy not good for you. I'm not saying never indulge. I'm saying once you start making excuses like, well, I'm getting older. I guess I better just give up you start creating those limitations. And that's what makes agent on fun. It's not even the aging part. It's you're listening to your own limiting beliefs. And of course, we're listening to the message from society all the commercials for anti-aging creams every single image that you see on Instagram of these twenty somethings that are already shooting up their face. And that's just not fair. Like, how am I supposed to look young? When these young girls are trying to look younger like interim saying like if I'm just going to be honest with you, which is the only thing I know how to be there are some parts about growing older that are just a little bizarre. Like, you look in one of those ten x MIR's, and you're like, whoa. When did that gray hair start growing out of my chin things start to say, you know, you noticed age spots, and like just little things about my skin that I notice an I'm not gonna lie until you like, I love it. I love the fact that my skin is getting drier and their spots. Like, I don't love that stuff. But I do love how I feel and I wish. I could celebrate my wrinkles. But I be kidding you. If I told you I did, you know, there are photos, I won't post because I'm like, oh, no way. No betas like who took this photo who is responsible for these wrinkles because it's not me. And as I said, I'm not gonna lie. I love me some bow talks. I am certainly not opposed to the nip and tuck, and whatever, you know, I do think that is a personal decision. And if that's something you wanna do go for it. I mean, don't do it for somebody else. But if you want to have plastic surgery to deal with aging, or sagging, or whatever that makes you feel better go for it. But I don't think plastic surgery is going to guarantee that anyone looks young. In fact, I don't think it's best early. Just looking young that we're after we wanna feel young and without question, the older, we get it feels like the more maintenance we have to do and I can't speak for everybody. But I can say for me personally. I'm not doing it for other people. I'm doing it for me for the. Reason that I pick out a cute outfit to exercise in even though I'm going to be working out at home. I feel better. I do it. Because it improves my mood, and I feel better when I take care of my appearance. I just want my outsides to be closer reflection to my insights. And I think because I spend a lot of time thinking about what I'm eating and how I'm living my life and reducing stress and exercising the smart way and really taking care of my mental health. I think I do look younger than my actual age and I wear makeup. And I spend a lot of time thinking about my appearance because I want my outward appearance to match how I feel like it's weird when a need a twenty year old I have so much in common. And I look at them like we're the same age, and then dons Amee, oh shoot. They're not looking at me. Like, I'm the same age as them because I feel like a twenty something. I know it don't look like at twenty. I'm not trying to look I'm twenty something. I'm not trying to behave like twenty something. I feel like I'm twenty on the inside. So what is my point with this podcast? My point is we don't need to fear aging, but we are certainly entitled to do things that make us feel good on the outside. And I don't think it makes any sense. It's wrong to shame people because they're aging, but I also think it's just as wrong to shame people for wanting to take care of their appearance for wanting to have a more youthful appearance for maintaining their appearance, white what's wrong with that. Who are we to judge each other? If somebody wants to have plastic surgery more power to him if somebody wants to go grey naturally, and they feel good about that than do it. But if you don't feel good about if every time you look in the mirror like I look old and drab, and it's affecting my mental state than frigging, die your hair. You don't have to look like. Granny. You don't have to just accept these norms. Don't give up like just stop caring about your appearance care about your appearance because when you care about your appearance and did a podcast on this recently. And I got some great feedback on it. When you care about the way, you look it does affect your mood, and that affects the way you interact with people, and that affects the way other people feel so it does have a trickle down effect. The point of this whole podcast is don't be afraid of aging. Let's stop begging on people or shame. He people for the fact that they're getting older. It's just a fact of life, and we have to recognize that it's our own fears that are causing us to make such a big deal about it. And not to accept the fact that it's Hulo biology, and you know, what don't give up don't give into limiting beliefs. Expect more of yourself know that you can get better with age. And ladies if we wanna see more ageing actresses if. I want to see broadcasters in people on TV, and in YouTube, videos, and popular and social media, and in fitness videos, who are older than thirty five will then we have to become their fans, we have to stop giving all of the praise to these twenty something fitness influencers and actresses and anchor women. Look we have to start standing up for and becoming fans of those who are wiser and have a lot to offer my not. All right. So there's your called action. Hey, thanks for spending this time with me. Thanks for letting me be honest with you. I appreciate it. I was thinking about having a plastic surgeon on the show. So we can just ask her like, in fact, we'll have you do is semi all of your questions. In fact, when you do that Semir questions and avoidance mail. That'd be cool. You don't have to say your name if you don't want to but ask anything you want about plastic surgery. You could leave me that voicemail by going to my website Shalini. Johnson dot com forward slash podcast. Leave me voice mail asking any question. You want about plastic surgery? I will get a plastic surgeon a female plastic surgeon on the podcast, and I will play your question and see if we can't get answers for you. It's something I'm interested in. So we're going to do it. All right. Thanks for spending this time with me. I love you. I mean it and I'll talk to you soon.