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Why the Internet Is a Luxury
"Hi emily irony. How many people in the us don't have access to the internet so this is actually a surprisingly hard question to answer. The fcc says that they think it's around twenty million people so that's about seven percent of the population you kind of think of the size of the population of new york state or Florida but some groups say that it's much higher maybe even double the amount. It's a lot of people so it might be new york and florida don't have the internet. Might be new york and florida which is big so before we get into politics are involved here. I think it's important talk about some of the bigger factors and internet access and those two biggest ones are geography and income. Can you explain why geography and income affect whether people have internet or not. Yeah so. I think the way that i think about this is sort of that. Broadband internet isn't access problem. But it's also in affordability problem so we talk a lot about the access problem which is sort of the geography part here rate the. Us is a very very big country. And how do you get internet to every right. Which is why they're a gazillion congressional hearings on rural broadband. Right like everybody has heard about this because there are just as you said. Us a big country. There are mountains in the middle all sorts of challenges to getting people. The internet part to here is the one that we don't talk about. Which is the affordability problem. So basically even if an internet line runs by my house. If i don't have sixty dollars to pay for that i don't have access to the internet so it really is a two part problem
The Science of Learning a Second Language
"All right emily kwong today. We are talking about the science of learning second language because you are learning mandarin chinese which like as far as a pandemic hobby goes more power to more bart. Right for real. Though it is a hard language to learn. Language itself actually is an incredible ability. If you think about it that we humans have it involves many parts of the brain and the study of language spans across many different disciplines. So bilingual's studied in at least three different fields linguistics psychology and cognitive neuroscience. Sarah phillips is a phd student in the linguistics department at new york university. And exactly the person. I wanted to call up to talk about language learning who. Yeah i remember sarah from our episode on six hundred like how the brain responds to sentences with confusing grammar or syntax. Yeah brains and language are hurt. Jam met in korea while her father was serving in the marine corps and they raised her bilingual here in the us. Learning korean was very important to be able to communicate with my mom's side. They family and the same way that growing up speaking african american english was very important in being able to communicate and be a part of my dad's family. She's got a really interesting backstory. And i told her about my project about taking mandarin class for two hours every monday flash cards on the other nights watching movies. I can't understand and listen to us. Someone who is engaging in learning a second language thereby uses another language on a pretty regular basis that means you're a developing bilingual so in essence you are via lingual by by you know we probably exactly if maybe maybe maybe as an alternative to be bilingual. Maybe we should think of. This is developing bilingual.
Rosetta Stone Eruption Could Help Explain Solar Explosions
"Dramatic molly staged eruption on the sun as revealed new clues. That could upside is solved. The long standing mystery of what causes the sun's powerful and unpredictable explosions a report in the astrophysical journal letters claims and covering this fundamental physics could hope scientists better predict the eruptions which caused dangerous base weather events on earth. The explosion contain components of three different types of solar eruptions that usually occurs separately making it the first time. Such an event been observed having all free eruption types together in the one event provides side with something of a soda of sola version of the resistor align them to translate what they know about each top of solar eruption in order to better understand the other types of eruptions in the process. Uncovering the underlying mechanism. Which could explain all types of solar eruptions. The study's lead author. Emily mason from this as god spaceflight. Centering greenbelt maryland. Says the vent drives home the point that these eruptions that caused by the same mechanism simply on different scales eruptions on the sun usually come they of three forms a colonel massey jackson or see me a jet or passion eruption colonel massey jackson's and jets a both explosive eruptions casting energy and particles in the space but they h. Look very different. Jets erupting is narrow columns of sola material while colonel massey jackson so say form huge bubbles that expand out pushed in sculpture by the sun's magnetic fields paschel eruptions on the other hand. Start erupting from the service but don't develop enough energy to leave the sun so most of the material force back down onto the solar surface this rosetta stone eruption occurred back on march the twelfth and thirteenth in two thousand sixteen it was observed by an ss solid dynamics observatory spacecraft as well as the joint nassar in european space agency solar and helius freak observatory spacecraft. Soho what. Scientists saw the ejection of a heart layer of sola material above magnetically active region on the sun's surface.
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Bipartisan Senate Group Reaches Tentative Infrastructure Deal
"Group. Of centrist senators says it's reached a tentative deal on an infrastructure bill. A statement this evening from the five Democrats and five Republicans says it is in their words are realistic Compromise framework to modernize our nation's infrastructure and energy technologies. And it comes days after the White House ended a weeks long effort to reach a deal with Senate Republicans. The New York Times. Emily Cochran joined us earlier on w. T O P to answer the question. Is this the deal we've been waiting for? I think there's a lot of skepticism about this plan. Certainly it's a sign Of progress that they have reached a tentative agreement. The president had reached out to a couple members of this group to encourage them to continue the work. And it's important to note that the amount of spending that we understand that they likely agreed to about 579 billion in new spending is a lot closer to the one trillion number the president has pushed for. But in this Congress, you do need to see at least 60 votes in the Senate. But alone in the house, where there's a slim slim margin, and it's not clear that enough people will get on board because there is such deep divisions over how big this package should be. And how do you pay for it? Is it safe to call this infrastructure in the traditional sense, roads, bridges, airports and none of that human infrastructure that President Biden and some progressives really wanted. Yes, so that the group was careful not to go into too many details about the plan. They didn't give specifics. But my reporting shows that this will likely be focused on the core physical infrastructure that has traditionally been supported by members of both parties. I
What Climate Equity Could Look Like
"Emily kuang here with npr science correspondent. Dan charles hi emily. I have a question for you. Have you taken a look at joe. Biden's promises on climate change. Well i know. They're big promises. But i don't know the fine details. So what is the latest in. There is something about them that caught my attention. Okay the white house. Keep saying we are going to address. Climate change in a way that also addresses the country's economic and racial disparities. Yeah i definitely heard of this ring of climate justice to it you know like equitable climate action right. But i said to myself. What does that actually mean in the real world like in some specific place and i ended up getting some answers in cleveland. And why cleveland. Well cleveland along with detroit has the highest percentage of people living in poverty of any big city in the country. It also like a lot of cities has a climate action plan and three years ago city officials decided to tear up their existing plan and write a new one this time incorporating economic and racial equity. They made it kind of a to do list. Here is how we would like to deal with climate change and also help people who need help the most okay so this to do list kind of laid the groundwork that biden administration is now about seems like it and now in turn the biden administration might be helping the city. Turn that plan into reality out because the administration wants to pour hundreds of billions of dollars into exactly the things that are at the top of cleveland's
Where Did the Sex Go?
"Tell me what's going on thanks. I'm a huge fan of so happy. So i i'm a therapist always thinking always in my head but it can't figure this out. Okay i think of it. As like my my is spilling into my. I am in a healthy relationship with a man like seven months in and suddenly my fantasies of being with a girl sexually being with a woman is like suddenly moving into my daily life. And i go by the timing on. Turf big communicator. I've talked about it with him. I mean he. He's not like irritated by a bike. Is definitely not okay with me pursuing that. And i understand right but i just can't get my finger on why this suddenly like not just a fantasy it used to just the have dreams or that'd be the corn of choice by and suddenly it's like no. I want to do this in my waking life. And i can't get to the bottom of it. Have you met anybody. That's picture interest. I have not okay. How's your sex life with your partner. Our sex life is great That hesitation you hear. My voice is like i am struggling a little bit with the x factor like the while chemistry but everything is so great in a relationship and the actual sex is great as well in the communication until it's not something i'm concerned about but be x. Factors just the little though so for me. Okay how the x factor meaning dislike unspeakable chemical. I gotta have you right here right now type of connection that i didn't look my most toxic relationships honestly like thick the more toxic Stronger that was which is terrible and now in thirty and making smart choices. How long have you guys been together. Seven months seven months okay. So it's still do. How was in the beginning. Did you have that attraction. At the beginning we did. I don't know what we're off. i think. I don't know if is spending more time together than i usually spend with my significant other to be honest But it's died down a little bit and it's only seven months in. Yeah i mean. That's what happens in relationships. The honeymoon period is anywhere from six months to two years and then during the pandemic. Maybe you're spending more time together and that kind of squashes out the the the arousal and the attraction process because when we're on top of each other we're seeing to their more while we feel more intimate and more connection and more love with our partner it's sort of. Can douse the flames of desire. Because we no longer have that separation
Tearful Reunion After Mom Saw Photo of Daughter at Border
"It was a tearful reunion for a mom who saw a photo of her daughter crossing the Mexican border alone six years ago Glenda Valdez kissed her toddler Emily good bye and left Honduras for the United States Valdez saw an AP photo a family trying to cross the border into the U. S. they reunited at the airport in Austin Texas yeah Emily is now nine at the border she said she was thirsty and didn't have anything to drink she didn't like it and didn't know where she was going once mom saw the picture she started making calls the complex I don't tell this is she now feels complete children are typically released with instructions to appear in immigration court where a judge rules on their asylum claims decisions can take years I'm at Donahue
Bringing the Sensation of Touch to a Robotic Limb
"Hey everybody emily kuang here with npr. Brain correspondent john hamilton. John what do you got for us today. I want to talk about a big change. That's happening in the field of artificial limbs so this includes prosthetic arms and legs. Those are for people who've lost limb it also includes robotic arms and legs these are. What a person who is paralyzed can use in place of a limb that they no longer can control for the past decker. So i've been doing stories about systems that allow a person to control these devices just by using their thoughts. Yeah i've heard about this. That's pretty amazing technology. It is an an obviously to to make it work. You have to decode information. That's coming from a person's brain and send it out to some mechanical device. But what's new. What's happening now is that scientists are turning this out. They are finding ways to have mechanical arms and legs send information back to the users brain sending it in the other direction and what. What sort of information are we talking about. What's getting the most attention is touch or in scientific terms tactile feedback. It turns out that touch is really important for people who are trying to control a state of the art robotic arm or a prosthetic limb and over the past twenty years some artificial limbs have gone from just say grasping object to rotating it and manipulating with individual fingers. It can be really hard for a person to control a device like that just by watching. What their arm enhance doing. It's like trying to tie a shoelace when your fingers are numb when you can feel what your fingers are doing. I talked about this with a scientist named jeremy brown. He's in the department of mechanical engineering at johns hopkins university and he started reeling off this long list of things that are sense of touch tells us about an object. I feel the pressure. I feel the slip. I feel where the object is wet or dry. I can feel the texture of it. I know whether it's rough weather is smooth. There's just as wealth of information that comes through touch and i think as engineers and scientists. We're just understanding how it works and in how you replicate
Amy Schumer Joked That John Krasinski and Emily Blunt's Marriage Is ‘Pretend’
"Let's start with john brzezinski and emily blunt now. They crushed it at the box office this weekend. And they also crush clapback after. Amy schumer joked about their relationship. Amy said they have a pretend marriage for publicity jan wasn't having it and replied they you amy from blowing up our whole marriage not clearly. Their relationship is real. I hope but do you think. A lot of hollywood marriages are for publicity. I think hollywood marriages regular everyday marriage is when you get to a certain point in life get married for different reasons right. Sometimes you get married for the when you're younger as you get older you get married as you grow and evolve. Some marriages are publicity stunts. But for these two what. Eleven years two kids later. I think they're real. I think they're the real deal.
John Krasinski Responds to Amy Schumer's Joke About His Marriage
"Even better than the first one, which blew me away. And then she said, amazing to be in the movie theater. And then she wrote, I've said it for a long time. I think Emily and John have a pretend marriage for publicity. But I still think you should see this on a rainy weekend. And as you know, John Krawczynski and Emily Blunt made a quiet place to she started and he's in in a little, but he directed sure, And this is what I really wanted to like That hyper focused on is the way John Prison Ski responded because he responded to this. Did he get was he? Was he all sensitive about it? Did you get in the dirt? Did he get down there to eat? Punch for punch Na Chris's kids sweating it, he wrote. Thank you, Amy. We're blowing up our whole marriage Got that's good. That's how you do it right now. You do it. Yeah, It's like you. Why would you have this affected Because some people would I mean Martha Stewart is infamous
Eric Carle, Author of the Very Hungry Caterpillar, Dies at 91
"Emily Fang NPR NEWS Beijing The beloved Children's author and illustrator Eric Carl, has died at the age of 91, according to a family statement. One of his most loved works is the very hungry Caterpillar. The Vividly illustrated book was published in 1969. Eric Carle also
What Is Gaslighting
"Media does it all the time. Gaslighting is when you tell people alive. You tell that like confidently and repeatedly And you isolate people from the truth. That's how you can get people to believe like in the movie Gaslight. And what's that? The recent movie the What Is it down a woman on the train or something like that? I forget the Emily Blunt was in it. Forget the name of the movie. I'm terrible movies. I will always screw up movie names. You can get people to believe in alternate reality is real. I'm not joking. You can get people to believe things that never happened happened. That's the problem we have right now. It's why we
The Cure for Burnout. Hint, It Isn't Self-Care
"Let's dive right in. You co authored. A book called. Burn out the secret to unlocking the stress cycle and the inspiration for this book was actually based on personal experience that you had with burnout amelia. Can you tell us more about that. Experience well it began with me going to school while i was getting my doctorate. Musical arts in conducting. I ended up in the hospital and i had abdominal pain which they diagnosed as stress induced told me to go home and relax and in fact i had no idea what to do but luckily i have a sister who has a phd in health behavior. So when i'm in the hospital just in pain laying. They're not even really understanding. How i got there or why and i honestly didn't even believe that stress could cause physiological symptoms an. Emily said how did you not know that. I'm a conductor. And a singer. I have learned in my musical training to express my feelings with my body to use my body as a vehicle for expressing motion and it occurred to me that if it was true that i didn't just have those feelings on stage. I had them all the time high whole life and if that was true. Wow that was a lot of feeling. So i didn't even want to believe this was true but once. Emily brought me a huge stack of peer reviewed science. I couldn't deny anymore. Yes dress manifest in the body and can turn into symptoms of illness. So let's start with definitions. What are the three components of burnout. So according to the original technical definition from herbert fern burger in the nineteen seventies burnout which originally was inclusive. Only of the workplace has expanded now involves de personalization. Where you separate yourself emotionally from your work instead of investing yourself and feeling like it's meaningful decrease sense of accomplishment where you just keep working harder and harder for less and less sense that what you were doing is making any difference and emotional exhaustion. And wile everyone experiences all three of these factors over the forty years since this original formulation. It turns out that speaking for men. Burnout tends to manifest as a de personalization in particular and for women. Burnout tends to manifest as emotional exhaustion.
How Are Words Added To The Dictionary?
"My name is emma and niamh eight years old. And i live in mount washington kentucky and my question is how do we get added to the dictionary. Great question emma. We took your question directly to one of the people who actually gets to do. The adding my name is emily brewster. And i am a lexicographer. Which means that. I am someone who writes and edits. Dictionaries lexicographer is a very big word it's also a great word can you break down. Where does that word come from. Shore the sokoto part means word. It's also related to the word lexicon which is a collection of words like dictionary and also like the words in a language. those are both called lexicon. 's and the graph for part of lexicographer is the same graph for you here in photographer and in videography for an cartographer that has to do with Writing originally But it is you know has to do with creating things making things. Does that mean you make new words. I'm not actually allowed to create the words. But i get to define the new words. Lexicographers never make words up. Oh so you help us understand. Exactly what a word means and what other words we would use to describe that word. Yes a lexicographers job is kind of like a scientist job very much actually. We are scientists of the language and we are always watching the words that people are using and figuring out exactly what the words mean in all the different situations that people use them and so we will write definitions for a new word when we see that word being used by a lot of people in a lot of different situations with a meaning that is clearly used throughout all these different
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"Getting getting to know your body like i said masturbation is just the keita's so many releasing so much shame so that's part of it i would journal about it and i would have some mantras near affirmations our intentions that make you feel good about your body and that make you feel good about your decisions. You're making what i recommend. This is from amanda and she says dr emily. I absolutely love your podcast. I've learned so much. Thank you for everything you do. I have a question for you. That goes with one of your last instagram posts. A hundred percent agree with you. That masturbation is healthy. My husband and i both do it. I just have one problem. I feel like my husband would rather masturbate than of sex with. I've tried to initiate sex. And he's turned me down but then he goes a master bates. We don't have sex a lot. Sometimes we go to even three weeks out sex but once a week. If i'm lucky it bugs me. And i let him know that but still i feel like it goes that long because of masturbation or maybe my sex drive's higher we have sachs. It's always good. We've been together for seven years. We know each other legs. But i guess my question is how can they make together. Sex happen more than solo thinks. Advance all right. Amanda have you talked to your husband about this outside the bedroom. Have you had a conversation with him using might three ts of communication timing tone and turf and if you actually said to him at a time that's not like you just saw that he masturbated and not a time when you feel like he's rejecting you sexually but at a time when you're at dinner and you're hanging out and you have to say i think about having sex with you all the time. I love our sex life together. Is i realize we've ever really talked about it. We've been together seven years. I'll tell you what. I i would love to have more frequent sex because i love the way we connect but i know that you are fanta masturbation and seem to masturbate a lot which is awesome and i want to know more about that it would make me feel great if we could have sex more frequently. Like just ask him. What's up with what i'm saying without the judgement around it. Would you rather masturbate and be with me. We don't know yet. Your masturbation practice and your sex partners with a partner are very separate. So i- courage people to masturbate in a relationship out of a relationship all the time. So i've actually been a separate them for a minute and i would just let him know that you would love to be intimate with him more frequently. You would love to have sex more often. Does he have any ideas how you could make him. Is there ways that you can find out what turns him on. Are there ways that you could figure out about scheduling sex or making it more frequent. I just really find out. What is it about sex. And i wouldn't bring in the masturbation thing because again a lot of men masturbate and women masturbate just to relieve stress. It's not about like. Oh i don't wanna be with my wife so now i'm gonna go masturbate so i would just try to understand where he's at. I think two to three times a week without sex doesn't sound like it works for you and it wouldn't work for a lot of people so we're talking about compromise and we're talking about healthy conversations without judgment without blaming and with a lot of listening okay This is from christina. who's a teenager. She wants a no. I'm a teenage girl masturbate. At least four times a week. And i'm wondering. Is there such a thing as too much. Nothing hurts but i feel like maybe it isn't normal. I read radically going. And i've never had sex the partner. Am i doing it too much. No christine so that you this of course as teenagers. We often feel shame. Like we're doing it too much or something's wrong with it. Maybe you grew up in a home or religion where said that it was wrong and you go to hell but four times a week if it feels good to you i think is fine. You're doing it in your bedroom or in a place where you feel that people cannot see you masturbating and are encouraging masturbate. There's nothing wrong with it. I just want to help absolve you of all of your guilt and shame. I wish i could wave a wand over the world and just make everybody feel.
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"Listener. Thank you do wonderful service for women and men too. I'm excited become a regular listener. I'm excited to nina. Welcome to the show. Okay so i would say. This is such a great masturbation month question because this past shame or told that orgasms weren't right and maybe your face wants to do something weird and you're like but orgasm but i still have to be cute and i'm gonna have a nervous laugh it so you're kind of oh blocking yourself like orgasm blocking yourself so this is a great time for you to masturbate. You're saying that you're not want explore masturbation for yourself. I'm telling you that is how we're all going to learn how to have orgasms. We're going to learn what feels good in our bodies we're going to learn how to please ourselves so we can share with a partner. It helps with pain and help us with metric. All the things. I covered earlier in the show. So i say bite the bullet by bullet vibrator and get into your body because it sounds like you're getting there and you know that it feels good wing touches or clitoris. But you're stopping yourself. Because you feel embarrassed and you feel anxious if you're on your own and no one's looking at your boyfriend staring you you'll you'll know what it feels like to have an orgasm do it a few times says like you're almost there and then you won't do the laughing thing that's just like a holdover to feeling like maybe like you want feel cute or you're embarrassed you actually are embarrassed. You laugh so when you're alone with yourself maybe you won't do it see. I can't think of a better reason to start masturbating this month k. Nina let me to help goes okay please. i'm here. We're all invested now in your masturbation pleasure. Be right back with more sex with emily. After the break. I answer an email from sarah.
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"I'm married so every day. Is masturbation day not sure what that means. If that means that you're not having sex with your partner someone else said practicing trying to see and understand. What feels the most pleasurable. I love that. I've never masturbated. How can i start it. Feel so weird to me. Keep listening to the show. We're going to help. You isn't every month. Pastor beijing emma during the pandemic yes. That's what i saw in this pandemic happened. I thought everybody is going to be home masturbating and think they were someone else said. They're gonna by taking ten minutes every morning for myself. No questions for me. I recommend that highly. And you know what's so great about taking time for yourself in the morning is that you're not putting it off for the afternoon when you know there's gonna be a terrorist things that happen but in the morning. Try as you might not looking at your phone and just waking up and masturbating. It is the best masturbate meditate manifest. Before you do anything else life changing. I brought some new coconut lube. I'm going to go to town on myself yes we love lulu bh coconut oil lube getting color changing light bulb in my room mood lighting the impact i agree i'm so anti overhead light in my house and i'm really into the light in my bedroom it's important i'm twenty one. I've never tried him kind of scared. I get it. I get being scared. I was scared to and it took me as twenty five. I think i i heard about it. Twenty four and wasn't tell us twenty five thousand okay. I better do this thing. The great thing about it is once you start to touch yourself in the shower. Get curious what does it feel. Like when i touch myself and you start to think about. Does that feel good does it. Not and there's just becomes more exploration than fear base in goal based like. I have to have an orgasm today. If i don't have an orgasm then you know the first time things wrong with me. Don't make the mistakes that i made. Just get curious about it and there's nothing to be scared about how more like you're excited to explore your body and see what feels good like twenty one and what a great time to start. Okay another way to celebrate with lots of masturbation in front of my husband too so sexy here. We're talking mutual masturbation a lot if you guys asked me about mutual masturbation. How do i do it. What's the best way we do have a guide. Our site and mutual masturbation is just taught senior partner pleasure. You don't have to be doing anything. You're learning from them. Learning from you. So else their piece. Spot their prostate. That's true if you have a penis do you have a prostate in your anus volvo owners. Do not have it. It's supposed to give you a killer orgasm and pleasure and it's good for you. I say that's a great goal. For many penis owners to go explore the prostate accepting that. It's normal what a great time to start this month accepting that it's normal it's normal. It is healthy. It's going to enhance your overall wellbeing. I'm with you masturbation twice a day. Sure why not just took a video of myself masturbating after a shower. I can't we just show my partner. That's hot listen. If you're a part that you trust and love and all the things no one's gonna pack your your your phone. I mean talk to show your partner picture of you masturbating. I'm all for that. And then someone else says they bought their first vibrator the vesper. I love the vesper. Have it around my neck right now. The sex with you can find on our website. It's a vibrator and a necklace. And dave life goes by where i do talk about it like him out with someone like what does that and they buy it or it's just a very cool gift and check that out and you will love it okay. So that's from instagram. thank you everybody. If you're not fungus on instagram had sex with family everywhere. And i want to know from you like before the show i thought. How are you guys gonna celebrate masturbation month. It's really just about doing something different even if it's top of mind and you masturbate three more times than last month. I'm fine and you're listening to this episode. You realize that there's probably more you could do. I'm telling you you're never done i. I realized there was more i could be doing. Okay questions questions questions. This is from katie. Twenty one in minnesota. Hey dr emily. I've had trouble getting aroused or finishing. It's only fingers to the clitoris. What can i do to improve that. It can also help with sex. My relationship have expressed my boyfriend that. But i plan to and i feel like i've tried everything but only at toyota. The clip helps. We got there so no shame in your clip toy game. But what i'm hearing you say is that you'd like to explore other ways of their paths pleasure so just try experimenting with other kinds of touch toys. There's a lot of places you can feel pleasure be on the clitoris and that would be your labia. Inner labia outerly bia. Your pubic mound warming. You up with oral sex using a lot of loop to make sure that your lubricated yes so if your partner warms up with oral like here's the thing you're not going to become desensitized by a vibrator it just means that like the muscle memory. Your body's just used to orgasm in that way now but if you're able to orgasm before used a vibrator you're not like killing off nerve endings. You're just getting used to responding. In a certain way you're used to a certain powder of orgasmic right turn the vibrator on and i have an orgasm by touching these spots. But if you just say. I'm gonna breathe for a minute. I'm not going to bring in the toy right away. I'm going to get curious like tapping my fingers and circles and touching and baby pinching my clitoris or using my fingers all around the labia and the pubic mound and all that area with lube and playing and your partner. You'll probably find that there's other ways you can orgasms that your your body has muscle memory. It's used to doing something a certain way. But it doesn't mean you can't sort of unwind it and learn new things and also you're only twenty one so twenty one does not mean that anything is set here. This is the time to explore. I'm glad every orgasms. Let's keep looking for other ways. Do it okay in minnesota. Let's do that all right. This is from nina twenty five in australia. Hey dr emily great sex life with my boyfriend of four years despite a low libido at times which i feel is down to lack of consistent exercise of feeling good at my body. I've not had many orgasms in my sexual career. I'm not wanting to explore masturbation for myself. Either in saying this but boyfriend is wonderful at stimulating. My clitoris during foreplay it also during intercourse. When i feel like. I'm climaxing and a a crescendo. It feels amazing. And i find myself reaching laughter and giggling rather than the climax hasim. Were both comfortable with this at the moment and we left together have fun and a great time. I do feel embarrassed. Inwardly anxious that i'm unable to reach a sexual orgasm. I'm not sure it happens with the body them on how to overcome this. I discover podcast. Recently is a lady gang.
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"A penis goes in china or it has to be fingers or a mouth which is all great but somehow if you bring in let's say technology like a vibrator or something that feels good like lube. Even still feel weird about lube. We're talking about these super sensitive nerve endings at our body. Which is all our erogenous zones. The reason why they're erogenous is because they have so many nerve endings and nerve endings feel great when teased when tickled and played with but imagine which better they feel with a little bit of vibration a little bit of blue. maybe some playing with hot and cold sensations. Sure missing out. If you don't if you still are feeling weird about toys again that goes into the shame category or the hard on yourself. I should be able to orgasm minutes way that majority of people don't just have orgasms that he's li they get to use a toy to enhance stimulation. It's great so let's try to get all the shame round using toys as well external toys ones that i really adore. I love the zhou mimi. That's j. j. o. u. e. I love it because it's a great external vibrator. The mimi covers a lot of surface area. Just like the palm by dame they're similar and you've they fit in the palm of your hand you can use them for your own masturbation and they're also great for your own pleasure you can also use them with a partner one. You're having penetrative sex. Use it on their bodies. You could try the z. By dame botox. it's a really cool. Little bullet vibrator has three simple speeds. It's rechargeable it's portable like just throw you can literally put in your pocket. You can put it your makeup bag. You will always have it with you. And it's a really fun toy the internal vibes like you. Try the g. but toy from zhou. Now let me tell you about this toy. If you've been intimidated by g-spot toys you think they're too big. It is the perfect toy for those who want everything. It has this curve to the g spot and it also follows your body for intense clitoral orgasms so it does both and it's small it's like a little vibrator but it hits all the hot spots. Remember it helps to have a clitoral him first. And then there's also like the magic wand which is a great toy for external stimulation and then for penises. I'm not leaving you out. There's masturbation sleeves which are penis toys. So essentially they provide a different sensation over your penis like bumps and ridges and they use materials that are not your hand and when you have that grip and you can see. Some of them are disposable. Some of them let tanga has exit are disposable there one time use that companies little eggs and the really cool masturbation scene. I think even comes a little loop packet and just try it out. But what i'm saying is mix it up. Try something different on your peanuts if you're always used your hands or being inside of something. Masturbation sleeves with a little bit of lou provide a little bit of friction little sensation. That you might not have felt before and use lube. I don't ever say penis owners using but there's like no one wants to dry hand job no one so dry hand up. And if you're using lotion that's a lot messier. But luba kind of rubs into your skin. I mean try some like coconut oil. Like four ya. They're leaves amazing. Cbd and coke me it just kinda rubs in you don't have to like less cleanup and massage your pd. You'll feel moisturised so you can use any lube. There's also penis rings or cock rings. The mayo bizhu is one of the bestsellers. It's a super stretchy. Super soft cock greek. And there's really low that there fi brations with. Jj are these deep rumbling. Sensations that travel like deeply through your body you wear at the base of the penis. It feels great for the base of the penis helped restrict blood flow of there. Some ways that you wanna last longer but it's also as a deep rumbling vibrator that turns the shaft of the penis essentially into vibrator itself. I mean you can pretty much use vibrators. Anywhere doesn't have to be the part that they're necessarily meant for with a few caveats. Anything you put your anus has to have a flared edge because then it just gets lost up in there and we don't want you to be like sex set to the er nine one one can't unless you're into remember eight. Oh play doesn't necessarily mean penetration. There is an anal training kid by be vibe and it is the most perfect kit. What i love about this. Kit is there's education there's a great book like every question you've added about anna play and it has three different toys three different sizes of but plugs. It has a loop shooter a little pouch. Love this kit. You can find that at sex dot com slash zhou. That's j. j. o. U. e. tryout mixing up your masturbation routine if you're only using your hand your whole life than you legitimately like the tell me what goes this month when you try something else because we asked our listeners. We actually did a Question to you on instagram. i'm gonna take a quick break but after this word from our sponsors. We're going to find out how you're celebrating. Masturbation and i have serious goals you know when it comes to.
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"Happy masturbation month. it's real. it's a thing. I did not invent it. Let me just get out of the way. I wish i did. If i could have i would've but here's the history of masturbation were actually started in nineteen ninety-four. Don't worry this won't be too much history. We're going to get into masturbation. But i do think this is interesting. Dr joycelyn elders was the surgeon. General of the united states. Bill clinton had just appointed her when he is president and she was at a united nations conference about the aids epidemic. And so what they asked her was. What are your thoughts on. Masturbation advocacy in the hopes of reducing the spread of hiv. And other sti is like. How could we get people to get more excited about masturbation. What's actually remind me of is during this pandemic during this global pandemic the same exact things were said. We're like well. Sex with yourself is still the healthiest choice right now. So you don't spread the corona virus to other people so looking at one thousand ninety four she said. I think it's something that is part of human sexuality and it's part of something that perhaps should be taught she thought let's teach masturbation in schools. There was also the fact of the time that the united states had the highest rate of sti of any country in the developed world and remember this the highest rates of teenage pregnancy in the world. She was also an advocate of like handing out condoms in schools. And i. it was a huge like people like this surgeon. General wants to start teaching masturbation schools and everybody freaked the fuck out and then she was asked to resign. It was a huge deal. It was like watching these senate hearings and you wanna teach masturbation in school. She wants a show with a bunch of dildos and start teaching it to our third graders. No that's what she's saying. But i digress. As a result of the firing of dr jason elders. Who actually were saying something sensible masturbation. They launched good vibrations the first national masturbation both in one thousand nine hundred five so here we are today in twenty twenty one twenty six years later. Look at that. And i go okay. Amazing do you know how far we've come in a way since then like i think that well okay if i'm honest. People don't really want us. Teach masturbation schools and talking about masturbation. Publicly is still kind of shamed but in twenty five years. I believe that we know more about masturbation. Sex toy industry's completely changed are so many incredible toys right now. Twenty five years ago all the toys sex toys were made by men for women with like falaise in the ingredients. They made the sex toys with weren't as body safe. And i do think that there's a lot more sex positive community right now. Who is here to help you. Feel good about your body and about masturbation. Let's just talk about the why because maybe you're listening and you're thinking you know what. I still have weird feelings about masturbation. I still feel shame about it. I still don't make time for it will let me just tell you about the benefits of masturbating real quick. Okay you might not even know. Like i'm not just saying oh have an orgasm. It feels good but there are benefits. It helps relieve built-up stress. I have an stressful few days. Things have been busy lot of reasons. And i realized once again to myself that i hadn't masturbated a few days even though i'm surrounded by sex toys new things so they decided last night i wasn't feeling great had won. I'm telling you i had orgasm on my own wasn't a whole to do. Didn't take a lotta time didn't have to. I just was like. I'm gonna knock this out and i forget even myself. It allowed me to relieve stress. I slept better and just boosts your mood and your feeling pleasure we all have to orgasm and masturbating and give it to yourself. We all deserve pleasure. And it's okay to feel good in your body and it's okay to prioritize your own pleasure because you know that's what i'm all about. It also reduces menstrual cramps and muscle tension. This is true crap. And you're like oh and you have an orgasm. You're like oh my god who knew it releases sexual tension so maybe a higher sex drive than your partner. The two of you could play together. Maybe you do so mutual masturbation or you encourage your partner masturbate on their own. I know that for me having a healthy masturbation practice and really getting into it. I was better to understand what i wanted. And what i needed in a relationship so i always initially thought when i started having sex about the time that joycelyn elders was kicked out for talking about masturbation that i would learn how to have sex through by partners but what i realize is that when i heard to play with myself. I actually figured out what felt good to me. What didn't feel good. And then i was able to show that to a partner and that was really a game changer. For me i learned how to internal orgasms have just external. I didn't even know that was possible for me. It also you know a lot of a struggle with loving our bodies self esteem and body image but more you get acquainted you have more respect for your body once you realize what it can do and you've even take a mere when you're masturbating and you take a look in. You're like wow look at how this goes for all genders by the way penis. Odors is well. We've got so much cool stuff going on between our legs. So you. Just take a look at your. That's pretty amazing that my vulva clitoris by china they swell in reaction to touch you have multiple orgasms so trust me and hear me out on this that the more you start to like understand the inner workings of it you'll be able to celebrate it and be like. Yeah so what. If i don't feel great i body. Maybe don't look like everyone on instagram. Who's airbrushed by the way. But wow i can have some killer orgasms. I looking when you're looking at yourself in the mirror and you're looking at your body just a way to connect with yourself out of more intimate level so you're not just disconnected hating a body that you don't realize actually part of you and something to love. Those are some of the benefits and encouragement right. Now i understand for a lot of us. We also have shame around. Masturbation we've also done some good episodes on it shameless thing that's on going but as long as you recognize that if there's some thoughts in your head telling you that masturbation is wrong or evil or you don't think you deserve it or you don't think you need to because you're with a partner. I hear that all the time. I don't need masturbate a masturbate. I have a partner now. You actually need to because it's a way of giving yourself self love and understanding your body but shame a tricky beast and once you realize thoughts that you're having around at that might not serve you a might not feel relevant to where your your life. There's some work to do about it. Doing some journaling. Doing some research listened to my podcast. Going to my website reading articles masturbation perhaps even just hearing about the health benefits of it and practicing. You'll start to feel a little bit less shameful and a little bit less alone about it if you're struggling with shave. Check out our article. The psychology and shame of masturbation at sex with emily dot com toys masturbation. So there's this belief that we're supposed to have orgasms only through body parts like it has to be through..
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"I'm smelling tasting the all the senses while colin look at you. Now we're sex. Show show from shame so sarah you can get there as well. I would also try to find you know. I know that you said that you were friends They didn't open the same way. As you probably are to give you advice. You're right because just to say get over it. Does it help you get rid of the shame and guilt and i would say that finding other like minded people who could also therapy was helpful for you to write colin so hopeful. So yeah that's it. That's what i think sarah and We got a lot more episodes on it. And i would say also getting getting to know your body like i said masturbation is just the key to so many of releasing so much shame. So that's part of it. I would journal about it. And i would have some mantras near you or some affirmations our intentions that make you feel good about your body and that make you feel good about your decisions. You're making that's what i recommend. This is from amanda and she says dr emily. I absolutely love your podcast. I've learned so much. Thank you for everything you do. I have a question for you. Goes with one of your last instagram posts. A hundred percent agree with you. That masturbation is healthy. My husband and i both do it. I just have one problem. I feel like my husband would rather masturbate then of sex with me. I've tried to initiate sex. And he's turned me down but then he goes to masturbate. S- we don't have sex a lot. Sometimes we go to even three weeks without sex but once a week. If i'm lucky it bugs me. And i let him know that but still i feel like it goes that long because of masturbation or maybe my sex drive's higher we have sex. It's always good. We've been together intimate for seven years. We know each other legs. But i guess my question is how can they make together. Sex happen more than solo. Thanks in advance all right. Amanda have you talked to your husband about this outside the bedroom. Have you had a conversation with him using might three ts of communication timing tone and turf and if you actually said to him at a time that's not like you just saw that he masturbated and not a time when you he's rejecting you sexually but a time when you're at dinner and you're hanging out and you have to say i think about having sex with you all the time. I love our sex life together. Is i realized we've ever really talked about it. We've been together seven years. I'll tell you what. I i would love to have more frequent sex because i love the way we connect. But i know that you are fanta. Masturbation you seem to masturbate a lot which is awesome and i want to know more about that it would make me feel great if we could have sex more frequently like just ask them. What's up is what. I'm saying without the judgement around it. Would you rather masturbate. It'd be with be. We don't know yet your masturbation practice and your sex practice with a partner very separate so i- courage people to masturbate interrelationship out of a relationship all the time so i've actually been a separate them for a minute and i would just let him know that you would love to be intimate with him more frequently. You would love to have more often. Does he have any ideas how you could make that happen is there are ways that you can find out what turns him on. Are there ways that you could figure out about scheduling sacks or making it more frequent out as really find out. What is it about sex. And i wouldn't bring in the masturbation because again a lot of men masturbate and women masturbate just to relieve stress. It's not about like. Oh i don't want to be with my wife so now. I'm gonna go masturbate. So i would just try to understand where he's at. I think two to three times a week without sex doesn't sound like it works for you and it wouldn't work for a lot of people so we're talking about compromise and we're talking about healthy conversations without without blaming and with a lot of listening okay This is from christina. who teenager. She wants to know. I'm a teenage girl. I masturbate at least four times. A and i'm wondering is there. Such a thing is too much. Nothing hurts but i feel like maybe it isn't normal. I mostly read a radically going and never had sex the partner. Am i doing it too much. No christine. I'm so glad you asked this. Of course. teenagers often feel shame. Like we're doing it too much or something's wrong with it. Maybe you grew up in a home or religion. We're said that it was wrong and you go to hell but four times a week if it feels good to you i think is fine. You're doing it in your bedroom or in a place where you feel that people can't see you masturbating in are encouraging to masturbate. There's nothing wrong with that. I just want to help. Absolve you of all of your guilt and shame. But i wish i could wave a wand over the world and just make everybody.
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"I do feel embarrassed inwardly anxious that i'm unable to reach a sexual orgasm. I'm not sure what happens with the body them unsure how to overcome this. I discovered your podcast. Recently is a lady listener and thank you do wonderful service for women and men too. I'm excited become a regular listener. I'm excited to nina. Welcome to the show. Okay show i would say this is such a great masturbation month question because this past shame or told it orgasms weren't right and maybe your face wants to do something weird and you're like a much orgasm but i still have to be cute and i'm going to have a nervous laugh so you're kind of oh blocking yourself like orgasm blocking yourself so this is a great time for you to masturbate. You're saying that you're not want explore masturbation for yourself. I'm telling you that is how we're all going to learn how to have orgasms. We're going to learn what feels good in our bodies. We're gonna learn how to please ourselves so we can share it with a partner. It helps with pain and help us with all the things i covered earlier in the show. So i just say the bullet by bullet by writer and get into your body because it sounds like you're getting there you know that it feels good when he touches your clitoris but stopping yourself. Because you feel embarrassed and you feel anxious if you're on your own and no one's looking if your boyfriend staring you then you'll you'll know what it feels like to have an orgasm do it a few times. Sounds like you're almost there and then you won't do the laughing thing that's just like a hold over to feeling like maybe feel like you want to feel cute or you're embarrassed actually are embarrassed. You laugh so when you're alone with yourself maybe you won't do it see that i can't think of a better reason to start masturbating this month. Canaan let me know how goes okay. Please i'm here. Were all invested now in your masturbation pleasure. Be right back with more sex with emily. After the break. I answer an email from.
As Lumber Prices Climb, DIY-Ers Cut Out the Middle Man and Mill Their Own
"The price of lumber has more than doubled over the last year so concern consumers with home improvement projects are looking for ways to save. One of those ways is extreme. Do it yourself. We're talking about milling your own lumber. Emily swing reports from anchorage. Hans styles spent the winter building a sawmill from scratch in his garage. Water saw mill. I can make a lot of stuff with it. They also need to learn how to weld. Dow sawmill is about half the size of an upright piano today. He's cutting dozens of boards to build garden boxes. I he rolls a nine foot log into place and then was born the ear plugs. Because it's kinda loud then. He fires up his mill guides jagged metal blade through the long dow spent three thousand dollars to build a sawmill. He'll save thousands on future projects a shed and a bench maybe a dresser
A Prayer for Boldness to Share the Gospel
"Prayer for boldness to share the gospel by emily rose massey read by liam martin the wicked flee when no one is pursuing but the righteous are bold alliant proverbs. Twenty eight one. Few years ago. I was met with a strong desire to begin using my social media accounts to share my faith in christ with others. I didn't want to use my words to manipulate people's emotions to gain likes followers but to point them to the truth. Found in god's word alone as a writer. I see social media as a place of ministry. I never wanna compromise. God's truth so that others may feel comfortable to embrace my message. I don't want a twist or misinterpret scriptures that the entire meaning has changed. Her confusion is created because it might contradict what we find in the bible. I discovered very quickly that exposing darkness and error wouldn't win me any popularity contests online as someone who spent many years healing from the wounds rejection. Denying myself the desire to be a people. Pleaser has to take precedence when it comes to sharing god's truth even when it tends to offend standing up for god's word in a culture where truth is relative and not absolute as it should be comes with a lot of pushback even among professing christians but his true christ followers live to please god and not men as believers. We shouldn't compromise truth to be popular. We also shouldn't be quarrelsome. We need to stand firm upon truth no matter what others may say about us or about our god. Proverbs twenty eight one reminds us that believers don't back down or run away at the first sign of adversity a wicked flee when no one is pursuing but the righteous are bold as a lion proverbs. Twenty eight one.
Elle Kamihira on Her Documentary "Jennifer 42"
"You know you. And i have known each other for a little bit now and i'm so excited that i finally get to talk to you about your project. Jennifer forty two. I don't think i've actually. I can think of any other documentary. That's used animation as a tool. Are you the i you think of films like Worlds the sheer or persepolis. Or even the breadwinner there are some. Ns actually gaining popularity now animated documentary animation. It's used more and more in documentaries to sort of illustrate things that are hard to hard to film but yeah as a first fully animated documentary feature. Why don't you tell us what the story is about. What made you decide to work on it. He asked so. I was researching chorus of control. And i was talking to evans stark. And a lot of other experts and actually evans star took me off to this investigative report. That had been written about jennifer's case. And i read it and just felt like the story was just so emblematic of not just of course of control how the system is just not equipped to deal with domestic violence and what happens to women in long abusive relationships and so i started with interviewing michelle cruz. Who investigated wrote that report. And then i started working with the jennifer's surviving. Children jessica david and emily and just built it from there
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"Emily. all right. thank you for this email. Will i think you so much for letting me know how. The show's helped you. And you've really done your homework. You are a student for listening to the podcast and improving self confidence. But there's only so much we can do by listening right eventually. We have to try out the things that scare us and it sounds like one of those is taking control of your own pleasure in the bedroom and this comes with practice and you are young. We don't come out of the womb. Knowing how to write a dick it takes practice. And especially now emily that you have the confidence in your body. This is just another. This is just another hurdle. Just think of this is another thing. It might be awkward at first. But just start doing it. You wanna just start trying out being more dominating and getting back on top first off. Here's how you could think about it. You could say to him okay. I'm ready to get back on top. But how about we're in it together because the pressure of feeling like i have to perform well. I'm taking my training. Wheels off is a little intimidating and sometimes just by saying that damn just by saying will you support me in this. Can we communicate with our is. Can you tell me what feels good. Might give you a little bit more confidence when the act happens now before that you can practice in the bedroom by yourself alone use a vibrator practice putting a magic wand or an insurmountable toy or any clitoral toy like into a pillow and then grinding on it and seeing how do i want to move on this thing. That's why i recommend getting a dildo or like an searchable by like the we've i brave is a great one and you stick it into the pillows and you literally mount it and ride it and just see what feels good to me. The key here is finding the right angle. The right depth the right speed and so when you get on top of him. I think you want to go slow. You want to really move in. Start breathing into your body and saying what feels good to me. Now you could do it where your knees are on either side and you lower down onto him and then a lot of it is a back and forth motion. I don't think the bouncing up and down. Well looks good in porn actually feels good for either party. His penis can slip out. It's not hitting your clitoris or any of your hot spots. So i would try to go. Slow find the right angle. Move your hips and circular motions and go slow. You can also grind. Maybe you do a grinding back and forth because remember the clitoris. it really helps the clitoris to be stimulated. So you could stimulate yourself with your hands. He could stimulate you with his hands. You could also use a vibrator on your clitoris. He could play with your breasts so think of it like a joystick pattern. Like you're going back and forth and side to side you could do it in a circular motion like where you're going around one side and then you're slowly moving around the other side. I've even heard people say like draw. W where with your hips of i. You're going up then. You're going back that you're going forward like literally drawing w or an m going in a circle. You could also squad on your hands and feet. You're not using really your leg motion that's also allows you to grind more and you're doing this really mindfully you can tell him. I'm going to slow down. And i'm going to breathe and i'm going to try to find the angle and the depth and the speed who i feel like i'm hitting my spot you could. You could also lie in the chest and rub your breasts against his chest a little bit closer motion. So you're sort of whole is a lot more intimate you could try again like grinding and moving up and down what you're sliding on his chest so those are some of my tips for you to get comfortable with it. i think. Full transparency being honest practicing on your own and not giving up because it takes a little bit of time. Now once you get this motion then you can practice the verse cowgirl. If you'd like that's more about kind of spinning around or you could get off. And then remount him or you could spin around and you could kind of lay back with your head back on his chest and then you start kind of sliding back and forth on his penis. You're still not bouncing in this position but if you're lying the back of your head on his trust then you could use your hands to push you up and down. Let's start with cowgirl see how that goes and you don't have to get on top and then dominate. You could get on top and dominated by saying touch. My clint rubbed my breasts. Use some loop and if you start to get frustrated you could just take a few deep readers have him get back on top of you but the more you can do it without the anxiety and the worry and the more you can bring him into your experience the more likely you are to give yourself permission to learn how to enjoy this experience. So deep breaths practices when you're masturbating as well and have fun with it. Okay thanks for the email. Emily appreciate it all right. We're entering a quick break when we come back. I'm answering an email about what to do if your boyfriend will not communicate openly with you about your sex life even if you've tried and tried and.
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"Sex with emily dot com slash playboy one of the greatest roadblocks. We have to having deeply satisfying pleasurable sex stocked with us. Sorry yet we could blame your partners. And i will. I will sometimes do that. But if we don't learn how to make peace and learn to love our bodies how is anybody else going to rea- good to see your face. Our intern has a question. So this is something that has been kinda like brewing for a while. Because like i've always had body image issues as it's been always like a trigger point with my family always like commented on my weight like all my life and i've always been like a little bigger than usual like all my friends have been always super slam and stuff and i met my boyfriend at my lowest weight so i was like when i was like my most confident in everything that was two years ago. So i obviously like my body has been linked up and down with everything end with covid. I've also gained like a lot of weight and it's been like a sent a thing of like me having to cope with my own body and like i. I've always been like super like happy with my sex life when everything but with kobe. My sex strives Super i would say like dad at some point and my boyfriend's like demo supported like. He wouldn't be like the type of person to like shane. My body or anything like the total opposite with him. he's like inter bigger bodies and everything but for me. It's just like that. Lake uncomfortable notion like i kind of find shame if a little bigger than usual like with kobe like i don't have closed like i would wear it. Like casual clothes fit me. Well like. I'm just wearing sweatpants all the time to my question. How do i find confidence in like my own body like just be okay with it in like have my my relationship boyfriend be a little better knowing that he's like super okay with me being bigger but not rea- thank you for sharing that really. That's a lot to lay down. And i so appreciate it so i it's like when you were. Let's say you were at the less weight. Do you think that you felt you. Love your body at that point like when i was at my lowest weight it was also like because i was like pushing myself a lot. Like exercise counting calories and all that stuff wasn't also like the super healthiest relationship body right. Unlike with my boyfriend. When i met him it was like i didn't really prioritize jim like we were both like having fun and enjoying food together like my relationship with food. Got like way better. So yeah yeah okay. 'cause 'cause that's the thing i mean. I think that this is a journey. It's not just a one time conversation. But i think that i mean a lot of it starts with treating our bodies well and doing things that that are good for it. I think even just moving your body. Do you walk or get outside and do do just move exercise. Even if it's not like rigorous exercise you eating foods that make you feel good making those choices are you because those things are like in and you're having pleasure with your partner. A lot of the things we do eat really enjoyed together. We hike together. That's like getting in touch with nature together like something that we both really enjoy and again like with eating food and everything like i feel like my relationship with food is better because like my boyfriend and i are like i don't know your food is the world's holy we take care of lake like getting like nutritious food and stuff like that so that's see those are all great things so i'm really happy to hear that so it's kind of a process i think but it's like journaling and doing these exercises where you actually it's not just looking at your vagina and the mayor but looking at your body in the mirror and appreciating how you move and dino moving around your bedroom and dancing or playing music and actually forcing yourself to do the look and to to realize how amazing our bodies are. And that's why i didn't even say body love. i said body acceptance and it's sort of a repetitive process. And something else that that commanded saying affirmations is another step to and what i do because i do a lot of negative self talk around. Oh everything a lot of things. I'm judged mental for myself and i literally have galicia my phone that just like notes in the morning. I take time to take ten minutes every day. It's twenty and do a meditation. I read my affirmations around whatever it is like. I have enough. I am enough i. Am you know all the things. I worry about that. I'm not doing enough and that. I'm not good enough for well all the things and i'm telling you i go through spirals where it's not as great and then. I know that i have this one note in my phone and i breathe and i read it and affirmations are really cool thing because while they might seem like oh god people tell me to journal and write affirmations it actually works because the thing that's holding you back from your thoughts right your thoughts about what it means because you actually feel good because you're eating good food and you're moving and all that so maybe like a morning routine where you're like doing a meditation writing and putting on the things that the opposite thoughts of the negative that makes sense. Yeah definitely because. I feel like especially during this time. I would boarded mirrors in such a horrible thing to do to that moved into an apartment recently and like the last thing i bought was mirror and i got one that was like super cheap and it's like distorted so it makes even bigger so just like i just like avoided so that's definitely something that i have to look into and like i do a lot of like negative self talk to. You said something. Like i definitely have to work on. Yeah our brains. This is what we do is a to conditioning that comes from. I mean so many things. We've talked about on the show before being in in life. But i mean sometimes it is a daily practice and i think another thing that helps us. Is this the questions are if you have a thought and you think. Is it true. We've talked about this before. But maybe not. I mean i think everyone should write this down. The five questions is is it true. What would be your statement maria. That's like you're negative statement. Something negative that. I say to myself i guess i'm too big or something like that okay. I'm too big so then so is it true. The next one should be a you. Can you be certain as it absolutely true. How do you feel when you believe the thought. Then the next thing is how would you. Okay here it is. How would you feel view. You didn't or couldn't have that thought you. You could not have the thought that you're too big. How would you feel overall happier free right and then how would it sound if it was the exact opposite happy. Yeah that's an exercise helps. I love the. You're bringing this up now. Because also like at your age to your. How will the you're you're in your early twenties. Yeah on twenty two. You're going to be twenty three. I feel like there's these.
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"I think that could be the first step. Maybe have a glass of wine or tequila. Whatever whatever you need to chill and then he'd just take. You could even take your phone. Don't take a picture yet. But just take a look and just be like okay. And i think that because even women who they don't even want to masturbate or it's wrong that's often the first step. I won't even say you have massive. I'll just say like take a look and you might be surprised that it's beautiful and then once you get into that you realize that you make friends with it and then you realize it's a part of you and then when you do look at it when when you masturbate you see the swells. It's beautiful but we don't have to push you there yet. I just think that could be your first step. I think also like what was your sex education like growing up. I saw the miracle of life when i was in sixth grade. Sitting at a table with poison girls that was a riveting experience in science class. And then we learned about tampons and ads. And that's about it. Anything else learned was from sex in the city watching it with my family. Yeah and watching. All those things doesn't help you love your vagina like the miracle of life and here's a tampon and put it inside of you see stuff for the way we educate. Our youth is so helpful for becoming an adult and understanding our bodies and masturbating. It's all based around fear and it's all based around don't get pregnant or s t d and it's all these medical conditions but we never talk about pleasure. What about you as he did. You have any sex education that was used. Sex education was weird to like. I remember in health class learning about like std's and not getting pregnant and like learning about like your period fifth grade by watch in an assembly with boys and girls or maybe girls and it was so awkward in like vary shame provoking. It almost felt like almost felt like happening like now. You must be scared and not like embrace it right and it's mixed messages right as because then they say oh we were told. Sex is going to be this amazing thing. And then there's zero information about it. It's just the fear based information. So when you get past the so you're not afraid of your your queer. So when did you first masturbate. This is crazy. I never like. I never talked about this. I must've been like Seventeen maybe you're eighteen. Started like hooking up with guys they'd do often it'd be like oh this is kind of just do it to myself. And then they figured out. That's like shame so you felt good. Yeah what about you. When did you start on the younger side. I would say somewhere around like maybe fourteen thirteen fourteen and definitely always curious. I'll say that much. Okay so do you remember when the we kinda talk about this but do you remember the moment where you were like. Oh the vagina is no go for me. I think it might have been talking about what we've learned like what we learned in school. We learned a lot about. Std's and things like that but we didn't learn about vaginas social norms like how to maintain trimming hair as well as you know women like you get yeast infections. You've discharge like these things are normal. I think when. I started to experience those types of things as i grew up. I was like this is a phantom and i never knew this supposed to happen and i think that's when it started because i thought that there was something wrong with me because it was never openly discussed and then ask grew up in. You know it wasn't until college. When i first mentioned the word discharge to a friend of mine was like. I have that problem too and i was like. Oh wait a second. This is norma. Yeah it's so normal. I mean this is something that all women have district completely normal but then we're seeing that we should like by adduced which dishes are not healthy for women because like i say they're like your ph balanced is going to be fine vaginas like a self cleaning oven on its own. It was going to maintain that. But but yeah there's just so many things we don't understand and then when you do know is you're like i'm bleeding and i have cramps. Get it why women might have this fear around their volvos so gavitt something that is top of mind off in besides work. Yeah imagine going into the office every day. Emily then just put up both wallpaper. I won't do that now. i won't do that now. You know like i am. I'm a true fan of the women's body like i love brass. I think. I have a huge fascination with bots. We all know. I love my own love. Everyone's them compliments. But there's just something with the everything i'm willing Even talking about it even having the conversation with you and not just jokingly passing it off as a fear vaginas opened the middle of it out one night..
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"Very early on in our relationship. It's frustrating because as a human. I'm very flood so after that initial wave of infatuation I can do nothing but disappoint them. What are your thoughts on this? Is it common for men to fall for or think they're falling for someone a lot quicker than women? What can I do to make sure this doesn't happen in future relationships? Okay Emily. This is a great question when I read it. I thought about you. I feel like I was you at twenty one emily. I was a twenty one year. Old Emily in this very position and I feel like many men would always fall for me and I felt that I was never able to return. They're like love and there and there was many of them and I remember seeing my friends and even the guys sometimes. I wish I could return what you're feeling but I just don't feel that yet but I like that. You're very sure of yourself. And you're probably intriguing to them and the fact that you know you don't fall for them could also be what's appealing and so I feel like that. The key thing here is this common. I don't know if this is common for everyone but it sounds like whatever you're bringing out there you know you're very like learning and smart and maybe you're saying. I don't want relationship or I'm just kind of figuring myself out right now. That could be very appealing. I was very independent. Twenty one year old. My agenda was about succeeding in the world and making a change making difference and when I dated guys I was like No. This is fine but I'm not looking for anything serious. And maybe they're not. I don't know if that's how you're presenting but that could be part of it but all I can tell you if I could go back right now and I had the skills that I had I would just be more direct and let them know that like you want to move slowly and relationships and and that you you know you're not ready to jump into anything so but what I wanted to say. Here's it wouldn't go back to something because you said after that initial wave in fast infatuation I can do nothing but disappoint them. So what I'm hearing here is that you're saying frustrating because as a human I'm very flawed. We're all flawed everybody's floods. I think what you're saying is maybe they're falling in love with you. 'cause you're exciting in you're beautiful and you're all these things and they don't see your deep dark whatever however you perceive as flawed and so. I I understand that as well because I still feel flood. So maybe there's like a part of you that saw us to work on loving yourself and feeling like you you know because like I said we are all flawed. But what kind of work do you need to do to feel that you are worthy of love and you are worthy of all this? You know attention for man and stuff like that and that you're in a place where you actually want to return it and you're you're twenty one years old so this is still a journey so either take a break from dating right now or let the guys know that you're dating that you're actually not looking for anything serious. I found that the more vulnerable I am and I lay out. You know not like right away but if I feel there's room for it I'll say this is what I'm struggling with and this is who I am. And so you don't feel like there's a duality like they're just falling in love with the superficial emily and they don't really know who. I am in my core. I think that's how you really get to get to know people and you get to you know but then sometimes guys. Jamie they fall in love with your vulnerabilities to so it's really hard. It's like it's like do you keep sophomore locked up and be mysterious or do you let it all out and then they love you for being so open. It's like I've played all those cards and I. It was never the thing for me. It was never conscious. It was just like nine love that you love me but I'm so stressed about work and it was pretty much probably the same as I am now in many ways in the sense of like I really wanted great at my job and I care so much about my friends and I'm trying to keep up with everybody and maybe the fact that I wasn't singularly focused on them. What made it appealing? And maybe there's some of that emily. All I can say is that that it's okay to feel flawed and I just say I'm going to say this to everybody listening especially in your twenties like do your work figure out who you are and don't go along with men. Who would. I did emily as I used to be like. This one really loves me and it felt really good for awhile and it felt safe until it didn't and I felt like I got kind of got talked into relationships and I realized that I wish if I could go back I would've taken more time to be without a relationship in my twenties. I kept a serial monogamist and so that's I recommend you emily. Keep doing you those therapy to my younger self business with emily finally on Sirius. Xm radio it is a blast. It stars one. Oh nine and it's five to seven Pacific now. A lot of you have been calling in which I love hearing from you all because it's literally like the doctors.
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"Her work has been featured all over the place from the New York Times Times the today show and vogue. I'm really excited emily because okay. I'm Outta TATER. I've been meditating trying to do for a lot. I mean I do it now daily and and I think that often talk about it on the show. I believe that at this point two thousand nineteen everybody's heard they should meditate. There's probably someone in their life their friend who said Oh my God tries meditation or their doctor was like you know you're tied stressor chronic pain or can't sleep chime Asian really yeah yeah yeah yeah like when I'm I going to do it. How how am I gonNa do do that and so I think it's really hard to get people to even do it like my brain? Could never we down at a and I feel like I need deepen Emily Fletcher in our research Ziva and I feel like you you have like the secret sauce like you have been successful actually getting people who think they're too busy. They don't have enough time. They'll never be able to do it to actually meditate. You've have a good track record so tell me about ziva meditation so here's the trick to getting people to meditate who think they can't you just have to sell it as has a performance tool. You just have to say hey. Here's this thing that's going to help you make more money and be better in bed and then people like Oh. Where do I sign up so we have to just let go of the robes and the INS and the finger cymbals and the preciousness and yes? There's so much science around it which sure we'll dive into but it's like why are people really doing anything. It's usually to make more money or how better sex why you're absolutely right now 'cause you've worked with top performers and athletes and CEOS and top business leaders and so you're saying that you reframe it as like this is is going to help you like a hack like a you know. You're going to be a better performance. It's like you go to a business conference. You'd read books by getting business coach. This actually is going to do that because here's thanks stress is making a stupid sick and slow. It is slowing us down in the boardroom. It is slowing down in the bedroom and so it's like there's a tool that could help you get rid of stress. Why would you not use it? Stress is not like cancer. We have a solution for this epidemic. According to Harvard Medical School stresses responsible for ninety percent of doctors visits..
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"Thornton from sling blade that's what chicks want when i go down if i wanted my vibrator i would have gone to my other nights dan one is filled with lube one hundred six toys i would have gone to that one viverito dozen lube that's what you find a doctor evidence has but this has been a this this has been a progression you know it's been a progression to understand how someone's bodies works and frankly frankly we could have been better about communicating okay can we'll find you bend the morrison he's funny he'll find him on the interwebs thanks k now we're going to get onto your calls and i love answering your questions it's why i exist why am i here on the planet if you've oh question you answer on the show text ask emily all one word two seven nine seven nine seven nine felt the short form or you can go to my website sex with only dot com click on the ask emily tab and if you want to be called which i love it's simple center yes on the would you like to be called question and please include your name your age where you live in how you listen to the show thanks okay we've ellen she's twenty four from seattle and she wants some racket book recommendations for catholic guilt girl hi ellen i'm so glad you called in how can i help you today tell me my own high high well thank you for an thirty money should i warned maybe some regret kevin dacians about how to be more open and comfortable with a sexuality because they've grew up with a guest of guilt and just seem.
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"A hot night yeah i guess got the lou you've got the rubbers apple music chill chill playlist stephen playlist for sex no no you don't know i sent i i have a really good hip hop leila's but i sent you that you still listen to listen to you i do i owe have okay cool i think no you sent me the rock won i listened to that i sent you the other one in words i swear to god yes hi this is ben morrison i'm here interviewing dr emily moore's and we are really going to get into the heart of what it's like to have sex with emily number one most requested question on my podcast interviewing fed and i've had sex yes she really has all the lube that you think she has like your listeners probably like she her nightstand you'd probably pick it up and it just nothing but lube and i'm here to say it really is it's like a ballpit made of louis hundreds of bottles and she's giving me a bunch of little lubes and i love them but i don't have like a container to keep them upright and like they're small so they'll turn over and the night and then i'll go to get some baby wipes because i've just need to clean up the kid children never going to have and then i put my put my hand in the drawer because right next to my bed and i'm reaching for baby wipes and it's like and it's like i it out in it's covered in joe which is phenomenal lube but then i'm like well this is a predicament because my hand is gooey and i want to clean up something else is guilty and i just need wipes wipes that to do you have a lot of wives their all whites or not credit equal though and this is a good tip this because i'm a big proponent of baby wipes.
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"Thanks for listening to sex with emily on today show taking your calls and revealing some stats about everyone's favorite activity sex even have someone on for my own life to talk about how i've directly helped the master if you techniques in the bedroom so trust me when i say this is going to be a fun one topics include who's using lube and who's not advice to help to turn your sexual guilt into sexual confidence hara handle it when your parents don't like your partner and the importance of the clitoris and white should be wined dined and sixty nine all this and more thanks for listening let me tell you about apt if it's an audio based workout app that has totally changed the way i exercise i'll tell you more about it in just a bit but if you want to check it out and save thirty percent on a new membership go to active dot com slash emily that's a ti dot com slash emily i know i talk a lot about sex toys for women but not to worry guys let me give you a helping hand well actually you're going to have to use your own hand or your partners in so let me tell you all about the new flesh skin fum flashlight the flesh skin is a compact stoker unlike any other it's open at both ends and has finger holes for the perfect grip so whether you're using it on your own or letting your partner do the heavy lifting it's a full proof hand job helper the combination of the comfortable grip the ability to vary the pressure and flashlights alter realistic silicone will let you in all the sex toy fun just grab some water base lube and use the flesh skinned at a.