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"attachment disorder" Discussed on Dr. Judy WTF

Dr. Judy WTF

05:20 min | 4 months ago

"attachment disorder" Discussed on Dr. Judy WTF

"About your your how do you feel about that. Let's talk about it next time. I've done that kind of theory. Yeah why. I'm so. Glad working. Maya map because i can ask the right questions. I could guide people through a pathway of healing. I could teach it to people on my staff and then they can buy people through this pathway so he's reaching the end and then we'll discuss what we could do to help you so that you won't be calling next year or five years from now and say i'm still acceptable. Eight right why. I tend to learn more than my therapist can know to ask about so i don't even go anymore. I just pay them money right. So remember this rap. They is just a conglomeration of symptoms describing extreme human disconnect. You've also suffered Stream human disconnect in different form in and all is all one gene. Um okay am appoint is identical rules of blacks. And then he'll through them instead of imploding and storing them in your body shoulders and wilson nerve fibers. Let's get the point out and you do that. Yeah contact me and all of you. Listening contact psychological healing center really are dedicated to helping in the team is just wonderful. So amid a jewish strength. That song stink that to examine dental on wall. Had a request. One of my favorite column people. Robert edsall just do that for two minutes and so be in touch in. I really appreciate you calling in and sharing your story night. Okay thank you dr judy. I appreciate so much. Thank you care okay you too now thank you bye bye tonight. Kevin do shrieked tuna. I haven't done it in a while. And this is a die. Another day by madonna. Been a up. Yes and no well. There's the devilish she does want to wake up. But you know there's another part of her. That wants to die some i. I'm going to kiss some parts of. I don't know that sounds sort of sexual. I dunno where she's along with that. But i'm gonna keep a secret maybe. She sexualizing her pain. I'm gonna close my body down so this is an indication that she's been violated in actually spotted. Start shutting down. I guess of die another day. She says sigmund. Freud analyzed this this this so she's clearly wanting to be analyzed. Figure out what's going on with with herself. I'm going to break the cycle. Wow maybe madonna has seen my mind map We both went to the kabbalah centre back in the day. So it's possible of break. The multi generational cycle is put it. Shake up the system so she to appreciate system on wrong and she may have lived a sabar wrong. She certainly writing about it. Destroy the ego. Which is the part of us that holds on and is invulnerable to pain. Close my body down so there. She is an china implode. Close everything withdrawal. I think i'll find another way. So here's her hope she's gonna try to find another way. There's so much should know. I guess i'll die another day. So maybe she's thinking there is hope. There is a way to get out of this mess. Not my time to go forever instant. I'll have to pay a time to work in a time to play. I think i'll find another way not my time to go. So you can see that. There's a lot of hope in this song. Allot of pain and shutting down and so a like to leave you with the thought of don't don't implode shutdown don't explode and project your rage ought to other people just are load and unload your feelings processor feeling so you could heal and for those of you who have not received a copy of my book be the cost healing human disconnect off the police do grab it and leave your email so that we could send you information on the mind map video series with a fee free coaching session. It also the video on healing for marsa. Cystic abuse hosted by my life coach. Eksteen and so pleased that we have really great to people that can help. Heal human disconnect. Now that you have lived what would be disconnected from. Feels like a know more about what human disconnect us to the psyche. Thank you so much for tuning in everybody. Take care good night..

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"attachment disorder" Discussed on Dr. Judy WTF

Dr. Judy WTF

07:48 min | 4 months ago

"attachment disorder" Discussed on Dr. Judy WTF

"That number again is three two three five two four two five nine nine eleven miles calls in so please do so often comforting a crying baby very very important to not let a young baby cried out. You'll know if they're crying it out and they're crying inconsolably when they can hardly breathe when there. Have you ever heard a baby. Do that is just too far okay. So what they're doing is saying to you. Hey i can't handle my emotions. My emotional bandwith is not big enough to handle the feelings that i'm experiencing so it's your job to come on in now. Remember if if you're inheriting a baby. That sorority been disrupted in. They're pushing you away. They're not looking at. You is please understand. This is not personal this because the baby hasn't had a chance to bond because they've been over and over again disrupted and bonding. So please be very patient. And give them the consistency. In over time they will learn that you are there in that you are soothing. You do care and that you do love them and that you do understand that you have to fill in emotional function for them that they never really learn which is connected so here are some other signs and symptoms of reactive attachment disorder An aversion to attach physical affection. That's what i'm talking about. So children with rod often flesh they laugh inappropriately or even Ouch when touched rather than producing positive feelings. Touching affection are perceived as a threat. Now that makes sense doesn't it if the baby's been hurt beaten abused in some physical way it makes sense. That attack may not be safe. They don't know are they. Being touched with columnists law were they gonna be pinched. They going to be here. They they can have their arms twisted. They don't know so. Think about behavioral therapy for a moment wer- conditioned when a hand moves toward us manhattan is loving hand will learn that that is a loving hand but if that han can slap and pinch burn you. Twist your arm. While they're going to heaven version to reach out to them control issues most children with with reactive attachment disorder go to great lengths to remain in control at avoid feelings. They are often disobedient. Defiant argumentative and so people may think others from attention. a. d. h. d. attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. If you look closer than you may see and learn that behind this. This acting out behavior is a lot of disrupted attachment. And that's what's so important for you to get psycho educated on this so that you could intervene correctly. Innocuous shoved bunch of pills down their throat and treat the attention deficit. What you really want to treat is the human. Disconnect by connecting buys soothing by helping them develop trust in the world anchor may be expressed directly attachments or it may even come out as a passive aggressive kind of behavior children with reactive. Attachment disorder may hide their anger in socially acceptable actions. Like he high. That really hurt. So they're acting out so they're looking like they're appropriate befell really slap your hands hard or they will Hug somebody too hard. They'll they'll look like they're giving affection but some children don't even know how to get infection because they've never really gotten affection so please call in on lead to learn more about what's going on in your call actually. Pardon me okay. We have a call yup great. Thank you you judy. This please say that again. What's your name. My name is cheryl cheryl him. I talked to you before. No i haven't never called before. I was just listening for a while. Okay thank you so much for calling in answer a where are you. Were part of the wet saryu in canada and in colorado. I'm in colorado. Okay okay and what what. What inspired the phone call. What's going on in your in your world and your family Well i've had I've i have had a whole life full of health problems and Several compound traumas and no family support and have gone through a lot of things that most people couldn't even conceive of and Including an abusive marriage and i was Satanic ritual abuse. When i was little and so i'm very interested in what you're talking about the radical attachment disorder. I am familiar with that term but Just in my own healing journey Something that has never really gotten resolved and That the first occasion of it was when i was about to. And it's actually my first memory of two and a half and my younger sister was born and she had us. she had illness osteomyelitis and She so mom had to be away for a little while and that didn't really affect me so much. It was when at one point and this is very for sing. Shown to me in therapy with this face to individuation for a little child is trying to establish that safe place with your mom but also being able to try to explore her world a little bit but also know that she can come back to mom anytime and that's exactly what i was going through So i remember trying. I remember just doing my own thing and then i came back to mommy meeting her and she yelled and screamed at me and she said get away from me. Can't you see. I have a baby and I i just. That was my first memory and i remember feeling like all of a sudden. I'm an orphan and my mom doesn't want me anymore and then i'm like holding onto this really this rope that slippery and i'm slipping down to just fire and I felt you know murders hatred for the little baby that took my mom away but it's really really affected You know which. I've resolved that it's really affected my entire ability to relate and be intimate with people. There's a certain place where there's a definite gap and it's especially with my mom And then in addition to that the same age i was going to the ritual abuse..

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"attachment disorder" Discussed on Dr. Judy WTF

Dr. Judy WTF

09:18 min | 4 months ago

"attachment disorder" Discussed on Dr. Judy WTF

"My mind revolutionary and helpful to a therapeutic knowledge base in what he says that children would rather be the bad one in parents are the good ones because that makes the child feel that they're at least soon control. Say so later on. They might Formulate competitions like mommy and daddy don't love me because i'm bad and so they gave me up for adoption and the reason. They gave me up for adoption as stupid and ugly on not lovable and so on. I hear that a lot in my in my office. People have all of these missed. Cognitive mis interpretations of the situation in a fit fingers always point back to. I'm bad i'm to blame. There's something faulty in me. And this is part of the healing process is to identify what i refer to as crack lengths of perception and help people to understand that not their fault if their parents were not parentally educated. It's not their fault to some tragedy happened in. They have to be put in a foster home their fault. If a mom dad was an alcoholic drug addict and so on however again the most children will personalise and explain the story according to help bad or faulty or unlovable. They are k. Early warning signs of attachment disorder. Let's take a look at these because the slowly help you to identify what's going on because you can't heal something if you don't understand the 'cause he can't recognize the signs so are some signs so if your baby is not smiling particularly if they're not responding to use smiling something's really off there don't you think if they don't reach out when you try to pick them up. They don't respond by holding their hands up. Something is off if they reject your efforts to to to be calmed or soothe in connect with you. Something is off if they don't seem to know sir keir when you leave them alone. Probably they've already detached so much that they are in zone of shutting down obviously more more. more adaptive at that level of rejection and and and and being ignored to start shutting down because if they learned that the world is unresponsive. It's it's at that time. An adaptation to the circumstance stances that causes them to start shutting down and not reacting to a world. that doesn't react to them if they cry. Inconsolably that's because they become so emotionally distracted that they don't really know what to do with their feelings so the baby is crying. You don't let them cry it out in the book that i wrote the be the cost. Killing human disconnect. I talk about a popular way. Way of karan to parenting. Your children called the ferber method in the ferber method was a suggestion to parents to let your child cry it out. Now there's a balance there. doesn't mean that you have to attend every minute your child but you definitely need to attend to newborn and a very young choppy very very often. You don't let them cry to the point of exhaustion. You don leave a new born baby or very young baby or child to a cry inconsolably. The the point is you sold them. You sued them. If your baby is not making these cooing sounds and gurgling. Sounds and just china make communicate of noises with you than they've already pulled away and they're starting to disconnect something's wrong something's off if they don't follow you with their is again. Something is off. Babies want to connect and eye-to-eye contact is a basic form of connection. The baby is no longer trying to connect with his or her eyes than the baby is somehow extinguish whereas beginning to extend wish to behavior and shutting down this this saw this mode of human connection if they're not interested in playing inter active games or they're not looking at their colorful toys again. Disengaging their disconnecting. They're adapting to a maladaptive world if they spent a lot of time rocking and comforting themselves in a stimulating themselves without reaching to other people. Or this kind of Stipulation and comfort and and soothing again and something is off so. I hope you're beginning to see that as parents. We have to be really on top of things and we are the cause of the outcome of the mental health of our children's lives. Soon we ourselves are the caused. The outcome of our parents mental health. So let's go over the mind map. And then i'll get back some of the other aspects of rats reactive attachment disorders. So the point is is that if early on we instead of being wounded which we all are on some degree if instead of being disconnected from if we received these the lights the psychological nutrients it will calm down our fight flight system. It'll calm down. It'll build in a sense of trust in our world. It will register in us as positive core beliefs. Such as the world is a safe place. World is dependable. People are comforting. People do love me. I can love people. People respond to me in Respond to people so this is the foundation of healthy development. In this system goes wrong. I often refer to these diseases as the system is wrong if the system goes wrong with what happens next hamels four five and six and if you're looking at the mind map for is chaos. Five is our defenses and then sits were breaking down. One by the chaos. Well if our parents don't teach us to hold together if the if our parents don't teach us to regulate if you go into dysregulation that were in emotional chaos and when we're in emotional chaos and we'll have a manage our emotions therefore our cognition starts slipping and we may not be able to hang onto the jobs that we want to the relationships we want or we may not even be able to hang onto the money that we urgently may not be able to hang onto our Our physical health even because we don't pay attention to nurturing ourselves eating proper foods exercise self care so here comes the chaos so chaos is a result of hamels one two three not being properly Formed so this is a kind of a connect the dots soda. A way of looking at psycho pathology with the episode psycho because What happens is we crack up. When we're not properly cared for. We started losing it. We're not held together. And therefore we are easily distributed easily thrown into chaos and then as a result we may try to defend against it by shutting. Down or acting out or a numbing out with a drug sex in other forms of a alcohol other drugs. Other forms of numbing out cell phones games warn so on and so forth in. That doesn't really nourish us. It doesn't build a healthy sense of self so we end up breaking down One of you listening can relate to this. Anyone homeland Ask what you can to repair or we can take a look at. What's going on in your family with your children. How to repair these disconnects in your in your your family with your children. Please do call in..

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"attachment disorder" Discussed on Dr. Judy WTF

Dr. Judy WTF

08:32 min | 4 months ago

"attachment disorder" Discussed on Dr. Judy WTF

"The a break in attachment. Either they have the attachment to primary care in the Cashman has been broken or they never really had it to begin with so here are some of the things that that rad reactive to reactive attachment disorder causes inability to consistently connect with a parent or primary caregiver so imagine parents who adopted child and then the child is pushing the parent away. Not looking at the parents. Isan actually not even reacting much to touch of the pyramidal have painful. That is the adoptive parents to finally have a baby that they wanted forever and then the baby is is Acting as if they're rejecting the parent or the paris is very very painful. With this level of psycho education can now understand. That is gonna take a lot of time and a lot of patients to build a safe trustful environment for your baby because your baby your jobs not automatically going to imbue you with With trust why should they. Who are you. What have you done to earn it while you gotta earn it. So what does that mean. You've got to be consistent. You've got to give them the idea that no matter what you're there for them you have to be cycle in this so that you understand that their gestures are not personal to you. It doesn't mean that they hate you or reject. You just means that they have heart heart. Time bonding so if your child is repeatedly has been repeatedly abandon isolated powerless or uncared for for whatever reason and there are many reasons. Some parents have to go to a hospital. Some parents are in crisis in half to leave their children with other family members. What would the child will learn. Basically is they can't depend on others no matter what the reason so in my book i talk a lot about how nature doesn't here. You can't explain to a newborn you know honey. I'm so sorry. Mommy wasn't able to be there but mommy had to go to the hospital and so i had to have anti so-and-so take care of your uncle so-and-so take care of you chow doesn't even understand what this means. The feeling of the child is that they are not safe that they're not being cared for. They feel abandoned. And they conclude that the world is a dangerous and untrustworthy frightening place. So this is what needs to be repaired whether these attachment ruptures happened and and these are the ways that these conserve ruptures happen very specifically habits. The baby yet treated so that they end up with all of these symptoms. So on while k if a great ab cries and no-one responser offers comfort and this happens on a consistent basis. You see that the message is something like You don't matter you're not important even though cognitively. They're not thinking that because they don't have the words they're feeling like they're they're not being cared for and so the signals of trying to connect and communicate if more long enough will set the mop to shutdown or baby is hungry and wet and they aren't attended two hours. What's going to happen again. Saying message the discomfort in knowing that they have nobody to rely on and they can't catch change their diapers obviously. And if you're not attending to to to the baby then they're uncomfortable and yet they're they're sensing the world is not a safe place. This happens when nobody looks at. The baby. Feeds the baby. The baby talks to the baby. Who's with the baby. These are all important functions of apparent to bring the baby out calling baby out into the world. otherwise it's sort of like you're not giving them. I have a word that i use psychological nutrients if you're not giving them psychological nutrients than they don't grow and develop the fact they shriek and a star Regressive a young child gets attention only acting out or displaying extreme behaviors. So sometimes they go opposite instead of shutting down they're gonna act out and display rage an temper tantrums in attempt to get the attention so neither shutting down and being a bad end of the spectrum or Retention me acting out in that way is going to really foster. The child's healthy way of connecting to human being so if you're a parent with an adopted child or if you have an attachment break with your child for whatever life seasons please know that this is repairable and do your research definitely book. Be the cost healing human disconnec- and start reading about reactive attachment disorder so that you can me pair this rip in attachment off obviously child abuse being mistreated or abuse similar facts to this ribbon attachment because again the baby is reaching out to you Starting to maybe even trust and rely on and form a healthy kind of trying to form a healthy kind of dependence. And if they're abused there is no healthy dependence for me the air because there's nobody to really caretake sometimes a child's matt sometimes they aren't so if there is a sense of Vehicle lint off treatment. This could be really confusing. So imagine the mother when she's not drinking or she's not leaving the child alone. She's attentive lobbying and then next day she's not around she's not available not emotionally. They're very very confusing. Very very disruptive so you can see that reactive attachment disorder is a reaction to the wound of neglect reaction to the wounded abuse. Reaction to the wound of human disconnect. If you have any questions please call in. If i don't hear the bell ringing. Bob please let me know that. Somebody's calling in on. Somebody wrote me emails. Pretty funny they said. Can you do something else about that bell. Every time the bell rings like dogs first. Parking and of course. I'm a big dog lover. So is another way to signal me. Maybe we could figure that out. I'm on dogs disrupted in barking at the bell. This nobody of the door right so so so so these are reasons why this happens. I'll go over. A few of them again. parent is hospitalized. Hearing a has to give over the child or parents have to give over chops. Grandma grandpa and tragedy happens in the family Loss of appeared. The child has to go to foster home or temporary foster care especially with a child is very young of the child has no way of understanding of comprehending why this is happening and what children do with that is they somehow over time. Make their fault in. This is the sad situation in alice. Miller dr alice miller who was a psycho analyst who who said something very very in.

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"attachment disorder" Discussed on Dr. Judy WTF

Dr. Judy WTF

08:38 min | 4 months ago

"attachment disorder" Discussed on Dr. Judy WTF

"Happens to people who are orphaned. What happens to people who are Are raised in orphanages or go from home to home and a don't have consistent parenting figures what happens to children who are raised by their own parents who are not able to attuned to them attend to them because they themselves are wrapped up in their alcohol is a or their particular for a mental disease. Disconnection so what happens to these children. So i'm going to delve into an article. I found a really good article on help guide and articles called active attachment disorders and other attachment issues. And i'm also a break this down via the mind map because the mind map is a pathway to healing that i created to heal global and human disconnect and as. I figured out later in this journey. It's supporting to heal on a micro level so that we can all he'll on the macro level can heal who mobile disconnection without healing individually in healing that whole soul and healing all of the disconnections that lead to us acting out. Repressing ourselves and and creating horrible psycho pathology result of childhood so as i talk about reactive attachment disorder. I want you to listen for the wounds of childhood which i concentrate on five of which are physical abuse neglect emotional and physical neglect as well of name colin putting children down of sexual abuse control manipulation and smothering so usually react in attachment disorder is in most manifested by neglect. So let's see this article up. Hit points here. Deep connection between you and your child is is really the key to the emotional wellbeing of the trial in neuro. Scientists are now discovering that the foundation is really the first few years of life in. It's the emotional connection that is most important during these formative years because it lays jemma pathway of future connection and so without this a baby does not feel safe does not feel secure. Doesn't even know how to connect and as you heard will then manifest in all kinds of Dysfunctional ways from acting out to two nc and so onto alcoholism later on to destructive of relationships. So understand that the key is attachment healthy attachment establishing healthy attachment between you and your child reactive. Attachment disorder is a condition which your child is unable to establish the attachment with you and this leads. difficulty connecting their emotions to other people. So what's missing is is that because they haven't established a sense of safety in the world they don't know that humam other haven they don't know that a human other is a person that could sue them in regulate their feelings so reactive attachment disorder the emotions Regulated at the function of the parent is to cau- and regulate this portion of the brain that is referred to as the admitted to law. Now is the center of the emotions in the middle is just regulated than what happens. Is that the baby is not able to calm him or herself is not obviously cat. Fight cat flea and so goes into either hypo arousal which is overly stimulated state or a hyper arousal. Which is the baby starts to shut down. And so you see this in. Infants are not touched. The will be back in the day. Did did a lot of work with Children after the of the war babies who were orphan babies were not touched and a lot of these children did. Not thrive there was a term that was used called failure to thrive so if a human being is not touched and stimulated i contacted with they will fail to manifest the best of their best and for those of you do not have a copy of my book book. Be the cost. Healing human disconnect. I talk a lot about this in my book and please psycho educate yourself. The pdf version is free and everyone can have a copy and if you grab a copy of this you can even post this on your social media in your friends and family and acquaintances can also download copy of this book in. It will break down all these wounds of childhood the reactions to these wolves hobby code these wounds how they create all this breakdown in chaos horrible defenses in how to morph out of the mess. So you could see that the formative years are so important in this emotional connection is the glue that creates a sense of trust in the world. So all let's look further into really defining what this is all about what this means so as you can see what happens to a baby who doesn't tell these foundational emotional elements is they fear getting closer to others and instead of feeling the sense of safety and trust they. They substitute connection for control. And i've done a lot of videos on our citizen. We could see in extrapolate that what happens. Is that that when children lose trust the world they don't feel that a human bond is all that valuable so the human body is not all that valuable you might as well just cut off in objectify people in stanback and act out and a Your feelings off in be transactional in life in external out of power and control as opposed to connect and empathize and develop Energize so those aspects of relationship or not really of interest because they don't believe in panels number seven eight nine anyway which represents a interconnection in synergy and teamwork and healing so in the world of a person who hasn't had this emotional nutrients they cannot paired on shaft out of their situation because they don't believe that there's hope they don't believe that there is value in human connection so they could so disrupted early in life that their future relationships obviously as i've been describing are repair impaired and they have a real difficulty in developing a sense of developmental delay and one of the videos that i did to be video. You can definitely Access is a a video called arrested development. This is what happens. So because they're not manifesting in growing and they're not being supported not developing awfully so they may appear younger than their years. They may not have the verbal skills to express their feelings so they will act out more in a lot of A clinician may diagnosed with adhd. Because they're acting out there unable to control their unable to self soothe and so we have to look closely at this because at the root causes of it is some sort of.

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"attachment disorder" Discussed on Dr. Judy WTF

Dr. Judy WTF

04:21 min | 4 months ago

"attachment disorder" Discussed on Dr. Judy WTF

"Keep wedding show. I faked background. Whisper of lee. That'll disappear. Welcome to dr judy app. What the freud and tonight's topic is reactive attachment disorder and as the title indicates. It's a really a reaction to very very horrible disrupted attachment to primary caregiver. Usually mother father parental figures and We're gonna talk a lot about the outcome of what happens when parents are dope. Pair properly kit here. Improperly when children are shifted around and don't receive the consistency in all of the iranians for mental health which include i contact skin contact and social engagement in emotional attuning to and there's just a lot that goes into parenting. One of the reasons i do. This show is for prevention. Not only for the damages of attack damaging effects but i want parents and everybody to know how important it is to connect particularly now in a time of disconnection or socially isolated and. Everyone is is disrupted from their usual social engagements and activities is particularly important to extend to others and to act as a human connections even if it is via video or foul or social distance in we cannot afford to disconnect because we disconnect our health suffers when our health suffers are mental. Health suffers are obviously our physical health sufferers and then we engaged a bunch of defense mechanisms that take us further down into chaos in in breakdown defense mechanisms like we all know that alcoholics is up alcohol consumption and other forms of acting out behavior higher rates of suicide. So this is what happens to the human psyche when disrupted from human attachment. So tonight we're going to delve into reactive attachment disorder and symptoms and the causes of break it down via the mind map and remembered this colin show three two three five two four two five nine nine so please feel free to jump in call. Iran and Talk about this and talk about your experience with your Figures in how it impacted your psyche. So all i'd like to start by talking about Complications of reactive attachment disorder and how they can continue into adolescence at later delta. So here's just a list of how this impacts human being poor self-esteem delayed physical growth learning challenges in academics in other words it affects concentration delinquent or at social behavior temper anger problems relationship problems eating problems leading to malnutrition. Depression anxiety substance and alcohol abuse unemployment frequent job in preate sexual behaviors. The list goes on and on. This is a list of the outcome of reactive attachment disorder and why it is so important to pay attention to parenting styles to pay attention to what dr john bowl being attachment theory talks about which is giving the child. Consistency marrying a two-man. Ideally breastfeeding off your child. If you're a new mom a giving your child a boundaries that are neither too strict or too loose making your child. you'll safe. These are such important elements in radiance to motion wellbeing. So what happens when this doesn't happen. What.

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Inner Child Recovery Process with Eddie Capparucci

The Addicted Mind Podcast

03:59 min | 8 months ago

Inner Child Recovery Process with Eddie Capparucci

"Hello, everyone. Welcome to the addicted mind podcast. My guest today is Eddie Capela Rucci and he is going to talk about inner child, work and sex important addiction Eddie please introduce yourself. Hey dwayne. Thank you for having me on the show. Really appreciate that as you say, I am and he kept route yummy counselor professional counselor I have a private practice in Marietta. Georgia. With my wife. Carrie I specialize in the treatment of sex and pornography addiction at I've been doing it for about ten years. Now, I also am the administrator of two websites and that is Meghan porn and secretary pure men, and I just have a real passion having juggled through this myself. I have gone passion for helping individuals to be able to overcome this in their area of one to wave that you. Grew something dead I created called the inner child recovery process which back you childhood main point because I really believe the road to recovery or diction goes to our childhood. Awesome I. think that's so true when we look at addiction in general, there's a lot of roots of childhood trauma and pain that kind of feeds the addictive process. So tell me a little bit about your story and how you how you kind of stumbled into working with I guess inner child work can, and we'll talk about about what that means and and go into more detail but I'd I love to hear your story okay by storing, your star with a young boy. Father. died when I were by. My mother's left with four children I would say third oldest. After passed away, my mother had a nervous breakdown. And all of a kid were sent out to relative that we didn't know and stayed there for about a year or she recovering and that we are brought back after she thought you ready but she wasn't she had another breakdown and got sent out again. But now doubt the give relatives each of us, the four went to several our own ways. So we weren't. Even with our siblings Dow other people who I don't really know are there for about three months before finally we come back and she gave a bit solidify family but again, a young KNOB orcades, mid sixties, nineteen sixties, and trying to raise us at I had two older sisters. So they were the ones who are always looking after me and basically as you can. Imagine sisters who are your sixteen of Nineteen they don't really want be dealing with a seven-year-old boy. They WANNA be listen their American band fan and things like that. So I found myself very isolated quite a bit of a child yogurt on my own and ask got older and I did become eventually removed in my mom remarried and we've moved into a neighborhood that. Had quite a few friends that were there. But when he did was it already set the stage for me. You suffer with an abandoned gives order an attachment disorder at Delaware, my Bandon, and I didn't know that at the time of course but I started to date when I was about sixteen when I came to understand that only having one girlfriend was never enough. I needed more I was soon to later find out what that was about was I needed to backup plan because the abandonment issue that meant that you know my world view of my inner child was a the people who love you or review. Again not knowing that are just thinking. Okay. Addresses shift me I like girls. Continue to chase them.

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"attachment disorder" Discussed on Monster: DC Sniper

Monster: DC Sniper

02:03 min | 1 year ago

"attachment disorder" Discussed on Monster: DC Sniper

"Very quickly when I met Mohamed. I assume they didn't everything about him. At the beginning of two thousand one after Lee had moved in with John in Antiga friends and teachers remember seeing Lee Change. His good grades began to slip. He started bringing a Koran to his Christian high school and arguing with other students about religion and Lee also started talking a lot about guns. I just came from under. Somebody needs to join bouncing around from home the home the place and I became what I call a changing. Whoever I'm around wherever the authority as I changed the subject for the attachment to a mother or father is really core to developing a stable mentally healthy adult. Dr Jonathan Mac is a neuropsychologist and Co author of the book. The making of Lee Boyd Malveaux Mac steady Lee's life extensively. He thinks lease readiness to trust. John was due to an attachment disorder a disorder and how kids connect with adults. I felt that Malveaux met the criteria for this inhibited. Social engagement disorder with disinherited social engagement disorder. Kids are so desperate for caregiver that they are overly trusting of strangers. They will latch onto any authority figure. They can ignoring signs that the adult might not have their best interest at heart. If you look at now those history his father in the first years of his life was in his life out of his life his mother was also in and out and had a habit of shipping him off and just as soon as he was developing an attachment to the new people he was moved somewhere else so the fact that now though had so many broken attachments from so many of the people that he lives with he had this social disengagement disorder and was basically ready to attach onto anyone. I went to him because like focus. Loan.

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"attachment disorder" Discussed on WNYC 93.9 FM

WNYC 93.9 FM

02:41 min | 2 years ago

"attachment disorder" Discussed on WNYC 93.9 FM

"Was homicide will at any point? Why was told he was homicide? How do you love somebody who is home? Well. Well, because he wasn't. I mean, even because he was my son. I mean, you have to love him or else. There's no way out of it. You know, it's like if you're lost. You wanna keep moving forward to not to get to the end place. Like, I don't I don't think I ever questioned my love. How did he says the only time she did question whether or not she should keep Daniel was when she thought about the possibility of Daniel hurting, someone else a fear that became more pronounced in the wake of an outside incident that happened around Daniels tenth birthday. By that point Daniel had been given the diagnosis attachment disorder, meaning his primary problem was that he was unable to feel connected to other people. Heidi new another kid who had been diagnosed with talent disorder. She'd met him through her work and had been so impressed with him that she actually asked the kid who was slightly older than Daniel to be his big, brother. I thought he was doing really well like he'd been featured in the newspaper. He liked delivered meals on wheels. And then it was like president's weekend of two thousand he committed murder. Like, I mean, he came home and just sat down on his parents couch that night after like cold blooded murder without any emotion at all like an I'd seen them. I think I'd seen him the day before. I mean, it was horrifying in many levels. Like I'd worked with this kid was like and that whole professional level. But it was horrifying to me personally. Because I was like oh my God. Here was a kid with attachment disorder that I thought was doing better. And in this is how sick he really is. Like, I will never. Become trouble with Daniel how he was coming to believe something that frightened her. She was coming to believe that because kids with attachment disorder. Couldn't connect to other people. They couldn't feel empathy and without empathy. They didn't possess a really important human quality the bottom line is people like people with attachment disorder. They don't develop a conscience, and they have the ability to hurt other people without feeling guilty. Like that's really dangerous. Heidi wanted her son to have a conscience. She didn't want him to be dangerous. And so she began to call around to find out more about aggressive treatments for the problem. The treatment of attachment disorder has a long and controversial history. Such a controversial history. That many of the people who practice versions of the therapy declined to use its name. It was started.

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"attachment disorder" Discussed on KQED Radio

KQED Radio

02:40 min | 2 years ago

"attachment disorder" Discussed on KQED Radio

"Was homicide will at any point? Why was told he was homicide? No. How do you love somebody who is homosexual? Well, because he wasn't. I mean, even. He was my son. And then you have to love him or else. There's no way out of it. You know, it's like if you're lost. You wanna keep moving forward to not to get to the end place like. I don't I don't think I ever questioned my love. How did he says the only time she did question whether or not she should keep Daniel was when she thought about the possibility of hurting someone else a fear that became more pronounced in the wake of an outside incident that happened around Daniels tenth birthday by that point Daniel had been given the diagnosis attachment disorder, meaning his primary problem was that he was unable to feel connected to other people Heidi new another kid who had been diagnosed with attachment disorder. She'd met him through her work and had been so impressed with him that she actually asked the kid who was slightly older than Daniel to be his big, brother. I thought he was doing really well like he'd been featured in the newspaper delivered meals on wheels. And then it was like president's weekend of two thousand he committed murder. Like mean, he came home and just sat down on his parents couch that night after like cold blooded murder without any emotion at all. They can I'd seen them. I think I'd seen him the day before. I mean, it was horrifying in many levels. Like I'd worked with this kid was like and then hold professional level. But it was horrifying to me personally. Because I was like oh my God. Here was a kid with attachment disorder that I thought was doing better. And in this is how sick he really is. And it's like, I will never. Comfortable with Daniel. Howdy. Was coming to believe something that frightened her. She was coming to believe that because kids with attachment disorder. Couldn't connect to other people. They couldn't feel empathy and without empathy. They didn't possess a really important human quality. The bottom line is these people like people with attachment disorder. They don't develop a conscience, and they have the ability to hurt other people without feeling guilty. Like that's really dangerous. Heidi wanted her son to have a conscience. She didn't want him to be dangerous as she began to call around to find out more about aggressive treatments for the problem. The treatment of attachment disorder has a long and controversial history. Such a controversial history. That many of the people who practice versions of the therapy declined to use its name. It was.

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"attachment disorder" Discussed on The Bobby Bones Show

The Bobby Bones Show

03:30 min | 2 years ago

"attachment disorder" Discussed on The Bobby Bones Show

"Listening and sharing that with you should play them. The emoji song today. Same totally day or gonna flip out like today. And I find myself. Singing that to myself like in the car, and I'm like what has happened. Go ahead. What the same meal? You can do it come up. We got this come on. Angela we've at that e g love. Yeah. Buddy. Transmitted across America. About it. Right. The single mom out there. And she wanted a baby and the baby goes to the daycare the daycare center, and she decides to go on the side doors instead of like the front door, and she goes, he's somebody else breastfeeding her baby. Okay. Go ahead. So she adopted on. Yeah. I don't know the full story. There's a single mom of an adopted baby who is opting to formula feed since she can't lactate she adopted. Yes. So that makes sense formula feed and somebody else could upon them to be like breast milk would be better. That's exactly what happened. She got to the house where they said that her daughter was walked in the side door where parents can enter without knocking and she got there and the daycare provider was breastfeeding her baby. Okay. As an adoptive mom who I would love to have had that bond with my children to breastfeed them. But I didn't get them till they were eight and eleven and I don't lactate. So it's not it's not an option in our house. I would love that bond. Now, I know she can't have that vomit their daughter. I I would like rest milk over formula milk to, but I would buy it from lunchbox online or. Something you can pump it out. I don't want. My baby bonding, there's already attachment disorder issues happening. And I don't want my baby on somebody else's breast like having that connection because then that baby is forming a bond with another woman that is not the mom, and that mom adopting that baby is already going to have enough trouble as it is. Okay. What about the part that were to somebody getting into somebody's business when they shouldn't be exactly side from the bond. Yes. No. That's why angry with you. You don't take it upon yourself. Door on saying if that that's why I'm angry with that person is because you're taking upon yourself to impose whatever you think is best, but milk aside. You're forming a bond with my child. That's inappropriate she marched over. She took the baby from the caretakers arms said, are you crazy? Yeah. The caretaker said that she was saving the baby from chemicals and that she was trying to give her healthy. And that she should be thanked for doing it for all these months. Oh my gosh. So it's been going. Oh, no. No. No. No, no. What do you do? I that's worse. See again, I'm not a legit person. But like is that suitable? I mean, I I don't wanna see I wouldn't sue. But I mean, that's that woman needs a learner lesson. 'cause you know, she works daycare. There's probably not first time brokering, all she's. She's probably done this before. And like, no. I mean, I I mean, this isn't know anybody that tries to know that's another level..

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"attachment disorder" Discussed on KOA 850 AM

KOA 850 AM

03:38 min | 3 years ago

"attachment disorder" Discussed on KOA 850 AM

"And find out i can't remember the list between character disorder all the way up the schizophrenia what what are the other categories of mental illness a whole cornucopia of polar various detachment attachment disorder schizophrenia yeah the whole identify what we're dealing with so i'm gonna tell you two stories folks that he's will never leave my mind one guy looks like us sitting here talking and i said you know tell me what you do for a living and he said why don't have a job and i said what do you do all day and he said i read a book i said the same book and he said yes and the guy looked normal as days long and i said so you read the same book over and over and over he said yes i said how many times you read this book he said over thousand and i said what's the point of doing that he said well if i can ever understand the meaning in the book i believe i will be able to present to the world the cure for cancer so again now i'm interested i'm listening to guy thinking really and what's the title of the book and he said the title of the book was growing and cultivating marijuana so i was thinking okay he was ahead of his time yeah i'm getting and then the other quick story i'll tell you this guy was totally distraught and i just went over and engaged him like you said you do find find a name be hospitable and i said you seem bothered today what's what's going on your life and he said oh i'm just i'm just being totally misunderstood by my family members and i don't know what to do about it and i said well why do you think they misunderstand yeah and he so i shot him last night and they're all mad at me and i said well i i would be mad too if you shot me and he goes no i mean i just shot him in the feet and legs the no big deal i was just trying to get him ready for what's coming and he was convinced something was coming and he was getting them ready and doing a good thing so i honestly i went out of that coffee shop fast i could think and somebody else better do this because i'm not very good at app ties that's what you're facing isn't it very much so very much so you never know what you're going to get him sound like those two stories are true but how could you make that up who knows really knows neutral that's why that's why when you step into those kind of relationships you step into them without your assumptions of of what if they're telling the truth or not so you come in with kind of a clean slate john hicks warned us you're going to see and hear everything but until you experience it you can't quite believe that's right hicks is good at one oh he was great yeah well my my first night i remember there was a man named kickback don't think that was his birth name but who knows don't on his arm he had a tattoo that says kick back and yeah he came up to me and he stuck a finger in my chest and he could tell that was nervous and then i was kinda green and the whole experience and he said you better not be here to fix me well and that has really stuck with me as i explained what we do in our ministry we're not we're not a fix it ministry where where a relational ministry love it we don't come in to with this agenda that we know what's best for you and we're here to fix you we don't come in with those expectations we know that christ is in our midst and i'm gonna be here to be in relationship with year so you're listening to voice of.

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"attachment disorder" Discussed on WNYC 93.9 FM

WNYC 93.9 FM

02:33 min | 3 years ago

"attachment disorder" Discussed on WNYC 93.9 FM

"You and beth we have another caller on the line that's rita from manhattan rita you're on the air did you say reda yes i did much thank you thank you so much for this wonderful coverage it makes me emotional so have to gather my breath so having studied a little bit about childhood trauma and having a sister who's an expert in it i am really aware that these children's brains but especially the ones three have been dramatically affected and i'm just wondering if there's any group who is looking ahead to funding getting some funding together getting some therapist here in central america where the children end up to help them accelerate their recovery from the trauma from the emotional trauma and we hopefully they won't suffer the tremendous burden of having what they call attachment disorder from children who've been experience such anxiety they get so much adrenaline there's sort of permanent fight or flight mode which affects their thinking i mean it's just it's overwhelming to think of the whole thing but but we have people who know how to help children so i'm wondering if there's a potential now that there's movement in the reunification to start thinking ahead to the rehabilitation and be covering so rita thank you for your call and for your comment in yes you know i believe about a week or so ago the city's administration for children's services which deals with the child welfare system so these are kids that are taken into the foster care system there's a whole infrastructure there that provide services to those families and i think some of those agencies are stepping forward to offer some of the services that you are talking about we've also talked to experts who say that you know when a child is going to be separated from a parent there needs to be a lot of transparency the child has to understand why it's happening where their parent is going when they'll be able to see them again and if they are able to visit they need to understand that maybe sometimes as visits are going to be temporary so there are ways in which the trauma can be mitigated to some degree and beth i think you also have been in touch with someone that we're going to have on our air leader on who is a local volunteer who wants to also add to.

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"attachment disorder" Discussed on Start the Week

Start the Week

02:08 min | 3 years ago

"attachment disorder" Discussed on Start the Week

"You have deliberately made your play very spare it's a very clear spare pad don language that you use is that because of the subject because of the the cold chill and some oblique subject that you're writing and i in with a play so different from book you want to give an awful lot of time for people to to breathe and it is the same with the foam at titan lacking lackner dogs which i'm comes on this week and an andrews news some of the original tax which is used to sorta them subtitles for the for the for the film say a lot of that texas remained completely intact supporting these extraordinary found images that is found that the film itself but it's something about letting it breathe but also i wanted to write something that was half child half adult and sit somewhere between the two it's best performed an adult performs as an adult it doesn't really work if you if you portray it as a child because tax itself demands that you have to perform it missile to certain way may not always want to do it with somebody that sixty or seventy so going back to now going back to the being full year old hat he just before we opened his opened on us on skew what happened in real life to ivan because it's such an extraordinary story so i've mitioukov did exist this did exist the dogs and was eventually grabbed back by the militia yes yes he was and then he was he was fostered they don't adopt in russia they tend to foster we you know we we went revisited boston rush doing research for it and we went to open a design which are mixed bag one great one nazi great but in the middle of talking to one of the one of the people that were more enlightened of knit did she said to me that people don't adopt in russia because they believe these children cursed so they'll foster but they weren't adopt so no attachment disorder the bring them into your family danger but he was fostered and the last we had he was a secret see.

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"attachment disorder" Discussed on The IVY Podcast

The IVY Podcast

02:10 min | 3 years ago

"attachment disorder" Discussed on The IVY Podcast

"I think it's an opportunity for pretty significant wakeup call every to hear the question kidding yeah so i recently read about babies having disaster detachment disordered attachment disorder because i mean you do know people moms you do know that the length of the arm is exactly the length that baby can focus when it's born right you know that so breastfeeding and giving icon the only thing that a baby can actually focus on is the mother's face and that's exactly the length of the arm so but if you're breastfeeding and you're going like this with your phone at the same time then that baby developed can so so there are i do a lot of working with schools and his not an insignificant challenge that we have in front of us we have rotated hard towards stem in schools like i said before we're only graduating a tenth of the stem graduates that we need to fill the open jobs but the leaders of the future the people who are truly successful are the ones that can ask the right questions not just program code right it's what are we really trying to solve with this technology what what are the what are the human challenges that this technology is going to give to us is it is my personal opinion that we have swum too hard to as a technologist i believe we've swung too hard towards stem in elementary schools they need exposure but they also need to understand their human how to exercise their human skills and there's plenty of time to introduce stem in terms of curriculum in middle schools and beyond there's a lot of games that kids can play to introduce stem.

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"attachment disorder" Discussed on Global News Podcast

Global News Podcast

02:02 min | 3 years ago

"attachment disorder" Discussed on Global News Podcast

"Disorder and attachment disorder and trauma who because they behavior labelled adhd but obviously the scientists moved on a great deal now we know for a fact that many children with adhd behave perfectly well but they do often significantly underachieve in school and we know that obviously school failures a tipping point to a whole lifetime of disadvantage and a whole range of of the pool life outcomes really and there is a significantly greater risk all mental health problems later in life particularly anxiety and depression but there's also research that indicates that there is a greater risk of addiction through selfmedicate ting with alcohol or drugs and even selfharm and eating disorders are these the reasons for the economic impact is because adult employees a having to take time out are not functioning well as employees that paul exhibit pool yes no also possible is the fact that there are lots of very gifted talented enable people with adhd could never chief their academic potential because it's not diagnosed and treated in childhood so they don't do well at school and therefore don't go on to have meaningful koreas and therefore confined it difficult not just gaining meaningful employment but also being able to sustain employment and so it can have a very significant impact on the economic wellbeing of the individual yes what's the treatment and is the uk worse attic markedly than some other countries unfortunately the uk isn't fantastic and again i think a lot of that is down to stigma and ignorance i mean we know that there is a moral as well as an economic reason for the report around enabling people with adhd to really achieve their potential nba 'economically independent and thrive and there are lots of very happy healthy and successful people with adhd hoodoo particularly in the fields of professional sport will soon the arts of all the creative industries and we know what we see the tech companies now are actively sort of recruiting people with adhd in order.

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"attachment disorder" Discussed on Global News Podcast

Global News Podcast

02:02 min | 3 years ago

"attachment disorder" Discussed on Global News Podcast

"Disorder and attachment disorder and trauma who because they behavior labelled adhd but obviously the scientists moved on a great deal now we know for a fact that many children with adhd behave perfectly well but they do often significantly underachieve in school and we know that obviously school failures a tipping point to a whole lifetime of disadvantage and a whole range of of the pool life outcomes really and there is a significantly greater risk all mental health problems later in life particularly anxiety and depression but there's also research that indicates that there is a greater risk of addiction through selfmedicate ting with alcohol or drugs and even selfharm and eating disorders are these the reasons for the economic impact is because adult employees a having to take time out are not functioning well as employees that paul exhibit pool yes no also possible is the fact that there are lots of very gifted talented enable people with adhd could never chief their academic potential because it's not diagnosed and treated in childhood so they don't do well at school and therefore don't go on to have meaningful koreas and therefore confined it difficult not just gaining meaningful employment but also being able to sustain employment and so it can have a very significant impact on the economic wellbeing of the individual yes what's the treatment and is the uk worse attic markedly than some other countries unfortunately the uk isn't fantastic and again i think a lot of that is down to stigma and ignorance i mean we know that there is a moral as well as an economic reason for the report around enabling people with adhd to really achieve their potential nba 'economically independent and thrive and there are lots of very happy healthy and successful people with adhd hoodoo particularly in the fields of professional sport will soon the arts of all the creative industries and we know what we see the tech companies now are actively sort of recruiting people with adhd in order.

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"attachment disorder" Discussed on KFI AM 640

KFI AM 640

02:48 min | 3 years ago

"attachment disorder" Discussed on KFI AM 640

"A kids starts going bang bang bang manning and doesn't hit the scales anymore because they don't have the parents attention so it's interesting that when a child is behaving well we ignore them and when they're having bad we come back so part of it is this reward system and the other is helping children control their behavior what about talking to a kid instead of saying we don't do that we don't throw things now how 'bout saying wow and looks like you were really angry angry enough to throw something which we don't like to see let's talk about what you're feeling could you imagine and kids tend to be amazing truth serums sometimes you'll hear things about their feelings that you might not be ready to here but you've got to tolerate it so keep in mind if we don't do this we are creating the school to prison pipeline in two thousand eleven a study tracked a million school children over six years this was a study out of texas a and m and they found the kids who were suspended or expelled that's negative reaction right to their behavior instead of a positive reaction to good behaviour to negative reaction to bad behaviour whether these worse small time scuffles using iphones making out in middle school and they weren't supposed to these kids worth three times as likely as there appears to have contact with the juvenile justice system within a year of that punishment oh and i do want to add that children of color disproportionately received these negative consequences and some of these kids might have add adhd they might have reactive attachment disorder because their parents weren't there for them they may be slightly on the autism spectrum and often there air behavior is a result of their trauma and these same kids are more likely to be disciplined it's a heartbreaking cycle and you know what they are all our kids whether you're a teacher a principle a daycare worker apparent these are our children and it's up to us the adults in their village to understand them so that's what i want to say about parenting the problem child when we come back a new series on netflixing called atypical is a fascinating look at how a teenager with asper gore's enters the dating world i'll have more about that when i come back you're listening to.

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