35 Burst results for "Zaidi"

"zaidi" Discussed on The Holy Fool Podcast

The Holy Fool Podcast

04:28 min | 3 weeks ago

"zaidi" Discussed on The Holy Fool Podcast

"Slash fear somewhere around my solar plexus region very often that word fields to be coming from the body so with it. You know like a man like a holy man. Yeah okay so coach. what should i do. Well it's you know it's it's it's insightful of you to to locate that anxiety in your solar plexus because according to the ancient chinese wisdom and zaidi is produced by the stomach by the organ of the stomach and by the way they say that when the stomach is is kind of happy It produces the kind of feeling or the emotion of generosity.

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Giants' Scouting Director Michael Holmes Comments on MLB Draft

Giants Splash

01:58 min | Last month

Giants' Scouting Director Michael Holmes Comments on MLB Draft

"I'm john shea national baseball writer of the san francisco chronicle and it's a perfect time to welcome the giant scouting director michael holmes to break down the players. He selected in the three years. He ran the giants drafts. Who's looking good. What's up with the top guys taken in this year's draft. And how does the giants versatility at the big league level. Translate undrafted so michael scouting director of the giants after a long time. Stints with the oakland as you've been with farhan zaidi. The past three years leading the drafts. And there've been some intriguing draft draft. So far i mean you had the full forty in two thousand nineteen and then because a code you only had five picks in the twenty twenty draft and then this year twenty six and the draft was wrecked during the all star break held in denver so every year is a little bit different for you in a wondering. How how you adjust from year to year and Because the game has changed and everyone has to change with the game. But how how did that. Make your job different. Well i think this year was an insecure navigate just because One coup the challenge of cova players over the last calendar year. Not having played as much Not as many reps at bats innings on the mound Us not maybe being able to build some of the history. We've we've been able to in the past with some of the players But i i thought it was a whole art. Staff overcame those obstacles. You know really well and we were able to able to get a lot of looks on on the players that we had interest in. I also think it a challenge of the draft being pushed back from date standpoint You know having the introduction of mlb combine was a new a new twist to the draft. Which i thought went really well. And they'll be a really nice job putting that on putting together Thought we got a lot of benefits from being there intending

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"zaidi" Discussed on Finding Mastery: Conversations with Michael Gervais

Finding Mastery: Conversations with Michael Gervais

01:56 min | 2 months ago

"zaidi" Discussed on Finding Mastery: Conversations with Michael Gervais

"Because i always tell people. I'm not like the smartest guy not the most analytical. I'm not gonna be the best looking but what really helped me get to where i am. Today is because i had that loneliness and fear zaidi that lack of authenticity. What really became a skill set of mine is is mass spring. The human connection and without that mastery that i did have today. I wouldn't be where i am. But had i had masqueraded as a child the empty study of the human being and the good and the bad ugly and the wonderful may not have been there. I wanna take a quick break here to talk about wealth front. If you've been paying attention to the market right now you have an idea of how difficult it can be. So researchers found that investors that trade individual stocks tend to underperform the market every year in. The odds are not in your favor. If you're doing it alone unless of course you're flat out about us at trading and you've got some sort of history back it up but for the majority of us. Wealth front offers great solution. They can create a portfolio of globally diversified low cost index funds. That a person is just for you and they do it and just minutes. Annual trades no picking stocks the stock market everyday they automatically handle the investing based on preferences that you can control so well front can even help you lower the taxes you invest so for the average client. Their tax lost harvesting can more than covered the annual low cost of point two five percent fee so best of all. It's all automatic. So well front is trusted with over twenty billion dollars of assets and you can get your first five thousand manage for free by going to wealth front dot.

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"zaidi" Discussed on From the Heart: Conversations with Yoga Girl

From the Heart: Conversations with Yoga Girl

04:55 min | 3 months ago

"zaidi" Discussed on From the Heart: Conversations with Yoga Girl

"House like our lives are made up of a minute shove details just accumulation of little moments and things that we do in a day that can either be really challenging can either be really boring. They can be completely checked out. We're we're not even there for them or we can break those things down and we can see how much presence and sacred energy can we bring in each one of those moments now. Of course. I don't want to sit here pretending like some holier than thou buddha and i wake up every morning and have those sacred moments one after the other. Oh hell no us now as human as everybody else like i yell at my husband and bicker with him about stupid stuff like laundry and i get annoyed with my daughter and you know she gets overwhelming sometimes and i get stressed about stuff like of course you know getting zaidi all of these things but having that sort of in the background static just this anchor in two. I wanna live a really present life in that feeling that knowing longing like i wanna live sacred life. I want to look back at my life. At the end of my days and go i lived like i was there for that. I was here for this and that knowing. Which was this. I think my.

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"zaidi" Discussed on Addiction Unlimited Podcast | Alcoholism | 12 Steps | Living Sober | Addiction Treatment

Addiction Unlimited Podcast | Alcoholism | 12 Steps | Living Sober | Addiction Treatment

01:44 min | 3 months ago

"zaidi" Discussed on Addiction Unlimited Podcast | Alcoholism | 12 Steps | Living Sober | Addiction Treatment

"Today. We're talking about all awkward summertime situation or how we make them awkward before they even happen. Because we're future tripping about how uncomfortable we're going to be an anxious about what people will think if you're not drinking and what will you say. And how will they react today. I have ten things you can tell people why you aren't drinking to help you get through the summer situations with confidence and with yours. Sobriety in tact now listen. I don't think it's a great idea to put yourself in super awkward situations especially when you're newly sober. But i also know you are on your own journey and you have to learn for yourself what works for you and what doesn't if you are going to go into challenging situations or if you have to go into challenging situations because it's a family thing or a work that you can't avoid then i want you to be prepared. Today's episode is a cheat sheet to fast track. You from struggling with overwhelming zaidi about what you'll say and how everyone else will react to being able to relax and feel confident like you've been alcohol-free for hundred years it ain't no thing all by planning ahead if you take some time to think about in advance what you'll say and how you'll respond to people then it doesn't seem so scary

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10 Things to Tell People Why You Aren't Drinking

Addiction Unlimited Podcast | Alcoholism | 12 Steps | Living Sober | Addiction Treatment

01:44 min | 3 months ago

10 Things to Tell People Why You Aren't Drinking

"Today. We're talking about all awkward summertime situation or how we make them awkward before they even happen. Because we're future tripping about how uncomfortable we're going to be an anxious about what people will think if you're not drinking and what will you say. And how will they react today. I have ten things you can tell people why you aren't drinking to help you get through the summer situations with confidence and with yours. Sobriety in tact now listen. I don't think it's a great idea to put yourself in super awkward situations especially when you're newly sober. But i also know you are on your own journey and you have to learn for yourself what works for you and what doesn't if you are going to go into challenging situations or if you have to go into challenging situations because it's a family thing or a work that you can't avoid then i want you to be prepared. Today's episode is a cheat sheet to fast track. You from struggling with overwhelming zaidi about what you'll say and how everyone else will react to being able to relax and feel confident like you've been alcohol-free for hundred years it ain't no thing all by planning ahead if you take some time to think about in advance what you'll say and how you'll respond to people then it doesn't seem so scary

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Anxiety, Explained with Luana Marques

10% Happier with Dan Harris

02:00 min | 4 months ago

Anxiety, Explained with Luana Marques

"Do you define anxiety. So i think there are lots of definitions but less think about it and overestimation of threat in the rest of nation of your ability to actually handle that threat it's really related to what you're saying to yourself right. Anxiety affects our thoughts. Our emotions our behaviors really our prediction. That we can't handle what's gonna be thrown at us. This is navigating the world fretful frightfully. Both in terms of the challenges we face and our resources. It's absolutely right now. We imagined that resources are not going to be enough to handle. Whatever it is predicting is about to happen. That will have a negative impact. What do we know about what exactly does to the brain. Zaidi really often turns on our amid la the old lizard brang and allows us to start preparing for five flight or freeze in extreme signs of anxiety. It also does something unique about our ability to think it turns off. Our prefrontal cortex should say it is just not as activity. So that's why often when somebody comes to me and says hey i'm anxious and i can't think straight and that's absolutely right. Your brain is just not working. it's best when designing it becomes too much. It's so interesting. Because i mean this is sometimes referred to as the amid della hijack that you get activated the libertarian gets going the repealing folds of the brain are activated and the newer parts of the brain. The prefrontal cortex which does are planning and rational thinking the ability to use that goes close to zero. Sometimes it really does because we don't have some things to run for an alliance in fact the body shuts down a lot of the oregon's so if you are really in a threat situation often people are gonna say in a stomach ache or a have in. I'm sweating that's your body. Just preparing you for dealing with what needs to be dealt with. It would just keeping you safe. And you don't really think in fact you don't

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"zaidi" Discussed on Giants Splash

Giants Splash

03:24 min | 4 months ago

"zaidi" Discussed on Giants Splash

"We're getting rid of a lot of big contracts and shedding contracts. No matter what this is something. Potentially that's doable and that the team might at at least is out very open to doing. Yeah again it's very early. These guys sure gonna wanna look at their options You know a lot of it for us really depends on on how the rest of the season goes. I mean you know we talk about if it ain't broke. Don't fix it so you know if we can continue playing well. Then i think there's a much greater impetus to kinda just keeping the group together rather than looking for ways to upgrade but Again i i think we're we're open to everything. I think we've shown that this is not sort of a typical situation of a team in transition or looking to rebuild where we're kind of trying to continue to compete while creating a more sustainable future for ourselves and so a you know a lot of things go into balancing those two. We can't leave any options off the table and before that you have to talk very quickly about the upcoming draft Obviously a later it's shorter draft with just the twenty rounds and it's unusual because obviously so many of the players high school and college didn't get to play full seasons last year had shortened seasons this year. How how tricky is it. What's the talent level and could potentially be a lot more college players based based on some of the You know just the fact that some of the high school kids just haven't played very much. It feels really back to normal compared to last year. That was a really strange draft situation. Because you had very very limited Looks at guys and You know lot of it. A lot of the conversations last year the draft room wand up really being about overall philosophy and kinda history with players rather than what they did that season. You the study pitchers in the two thousand twenty draft. A lot of them made like four starts before getting shut down so this has been a little bit more like a typical draft in terms of getting multiple. Looks at guys are scouts. Like all teams. Scouts have been out there seeing players from a front office. Dan point i actually have gone out at all which is sort of a been a change from last couple of years and a big change from my days with the as west david levy go around and actually see a lot of players but So that that may be an interesting dynamic that we see this year. I think front office people not You know not all front people but many front office people myself included have spent less time traveling to see you glares for the draft to see you know first round pick candidates and That mainly to a little bit of a different dynamic at the top you know maybe less of a front office influence because we've seen fewer guys interesting. Well it's always a fun time of year and best of luck with that. Far hants eighty. Thank you so much for joining us. Here on giant splash will make sure to get you on again later in the season to to talk about some of those draft picks and also. Maybe how how you're looking at the contract stuff at that point. Thanks again for joining us lawsuit. Thanks again to farhan zaidi for joining us on giant splash our producers. Today were king kaufman. And g allen johnson and music batter up was written and performed by lauren. Gold and ray. East louis we will be back again with more giant splash next week. Thanks for listening..

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"zaidi" Discussed on Giants Splash

Giants Splash

05:45 min | 4 months ago

"zaidi" Discussed on Giants Splash

"It's really dangerous to chase results in the reliever market just because you're dealing with small samples You know even over the course of a whole season reliever performance bounce around from your urine. When you're looking at a hassi's it's even more dangerous so You know you you really have to feel good about the player of the underlying characteristics in future performance at the premium in that market. So those are some of the questions we talk about and think about leading up to the deadline. Just kind of spitballing here for lack of a better word but looking at your rotation next year right now. Only one guy is actually under team control. You do have the option on cueto but Logan web one of the guys on the al as the only one who's guaranteed to return Is there you know the potential scenario. How attractive might be in. Which maybe you can acquire starter. Who would have team control beyond this year. Is that something that you might be actively considering or looking at when the time comes and and honestly it might be something you might have been considering no matter what position the team was in. I would guess yeah. I know there's a lot of concern about the rotation. I mean you know one You know he Thing to keep in mind there is. These guys are going to be free agents. But they're very happy here they're performing wealthier and we're going to have a need so i'm sure those conversations argon happen at some point. You know. it's always preferable when you're in the trade market to acquire a player who's not rental that you have some future control over into your coins In the starting pitching area You know other than logan web Know tyler dd sort of. Were back from injury and maybe sample now after performance. Exactly savvy so You know y y you always wanna feel like you have those kind of homegrown internal options but I expect us to be active in that market. This offseason even it's just a retaining some of the guys that we signed last offseason done really nice job for us But i think that's fair that if we go into that market You know the you're always going to like kind of you know future club control over any player that you trade for but but again i mean if the right rental starter is out there and we feel like the deal make sense. I don't think that's gonna stop us from pushing the button You mentioned potential guys to have talks with who might come back. You inherited a lot of big contracts and some big names. Some of those guys are the guys that are. Actually you know pushing what this team has done more than anyone else..

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"zaidi" Discussed on Giants Splash

Giants Splash

03:15 min | 4 months ago

"zaidi" Discussed on Giants Splash

"The trade deadline. Obviously you knew. This question was coming Moved up a month. That's the end of next month How much does that change. The dynamic the fact that it is earlier And how how do you kind of target guys when it is you know basically halfway through the season instead of A little bit on the later side. This was another kind of billy thing. And i know other people said it to you sort of the first couple months of the season you spend evaluating your team and and then you know you spend the next couple of months You know kind of making adjustments to the roster and then you're kind of been the strap you kinda just have to let the guys go You know it's funny from a front office standpoint. Not that you don't have other things to do after the trade deadline but You know a lot of front office. People amazon restlessness trying to look for ways to improve the roster and wants the train headlines. Pass you know. Those opportunities are a lot more limited a little bit of a helpless feeling but lot of things. We've tried to do early on is really looking words. We built up a lot of depth in the offseason. Because we saw a lot of the attrition potentially coming certainly not at the level that it's come at but even when you look at the bullpen you know some of the improvements in our bullpen performance of kinda come from within Guys like zach hotel dominick leone and connor as coming up and doing a really nice job for us so You know we're still kind of in that phase where we've got some guys aaa that we think can really help us both position players and pitchers and we wanna make sure that we give those guys in opportunity before we go outside the organization. I think it's really important for morale when guys have earned that opportunity so we're still sort of at the phase where we're evaluating what we have internally but looking outwards as well and those conversations. I expect will pick up over the next few weeks. How much leeway do you have to add both from a financial standpoint. And from what you might be willing to give up among some of maybe your better prospects. I it just always lines up being a a sort of Question of of of value in need You know the greater your need the the more you may have to dip into that in and do something. That's uncomfortable You know we certainly have financial flexibility to work with. We have great ownership group. That's never given us a sort of hard salary number And obviously they're really excited about how the team is playing. And and if there's an opportunity to add a role in a way that we think meaningfully improve our chances. I think they will be all in favor of that But to your point the question for us is going to become Whether we want to dip into our farm system for a a rental reliever or something like that. We've obviously worked really hard to improve our system and the long-term outlook again. Some of it is going to be a question of making sure we vet out all our internal options You know when you look at the relief market..

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"zaidi" Discussed on Giants Splash

Giants Splash

01:39 min | 4 months ago

"zaidi" Discussed on Giants Splash

"That's already something. Then you'll being monitored but your point You're not expecting drastic changes in that. You know you're looking at maybe rowley averages and things like that and now you may ask. They're looking at it from appearance to appearance and look for us significant changes there. Are you guys telling your own pitchers anything like look. Hey whatever if you're doing anything knock it off or be more careful or is there any sort of or you just kind of assume guys know how. How is that being handled internally yet as we're getting more information we're just gonna pass it along to the players and say you know th these are the things that the league is looking to legislate And you know. I i think the league's Mean goal is to create an environment where there's a sufficient deterrent. I don't think they're looking catch people as much as they're looking to just Erotic gate you know any of this from the game and just the suspicion from the game lake with some of the things that have happened in the past you know how much this impacts the game. I don't really know but just having that cloud hanging over the game and competition is just bad for the game. It's bad publicity and You know creates questions among players of about whether they're competing on a level playing field so just communicating dot information. I really think the entire industry is on the same page and now it's just a matter of coordinating and.

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"zaidi" Discussed on Giants Splash

Giants Splash

05:06 min | 4 months ago

"zaidi" Discussed on Giants Splash

"You know you're kind of classic four a players who may be available on waivers. It seems to me. Correct me if i'm wrong. Just kind of in general and everyone knows on base percentage and good at bats are are key for you guys defensive. Flexability seems to also be something That a lot of teams value. And you guys seem to certainly stockpiled a lot of that thankfully which which works pretty. Well when you've got such a pact I l and then with the pitchers we've certainly seen The strikeout walk ratio is being something that that you guys Value which you know again. You're not alone in any of those things but Are there specific things you target. Is it much more advanced than kind of as as i'm simplifying. Maybe a little too much. I pretty much coveted the to sort of Most exemplary sightings Acquisitions this offseason that demonstrate our philosophy where tommy dolan jake mcgee who tear point. You know tommy. Twenty seven watts and twelve strikeouts last year And having that kind of discipline in our lineup is Something valley really highly and we also believe that as you move your way through the minor leagues of guys you know. That's kind of one of the skills that plays best as you work your way through the minor leagues face. Tougher and tougher pitching if you can have quality at bats you know that carries over maybe a little bit more than something like raw power mike. Because you know if you're facing tougher. Pitching don't be contact. That rogers isn't going to help a lot. So and then on the pitching side. Same thing kinda strikeout-to-walk ratio guys that really pound his own and interesting. I think know again thinking back to the as and a little bit of money by one point. I know there was a very strong emphasis on those things on. Base percentage walk strikeout ratio You know now. We've gotten more advanced information we've gotten stacked as data. There's been a little bit of a trend towards hitters that You know have good exit law city and you know in some cases looking at the trajectory of balls that they hit and on the pitching side. Obviously people really dig deep into the pitch characteristics. And you sort of wonder what that's done to the marketplace in terms of valuing some of those more fundamental metrics like walks strikeout so like every team. I think we're trying to balance those things and and and make sure that as more information is available we're sticking to our principles and obviously controlling the zone both for hitters and pitchers something we value highly. Well it's interesting to us word sticking 'cause that's my next question. Pitch shapes have been such a hot topic here and for you guys bringing guys that you feel. You can help you know. Maybe they have a one special pitch. They just need to hone a little bit this. Crackdown that we are now. Anticipating with a pitchers using foreign substances on the ball. I think probably you know. It seems like it's gaining momentum. It's been the hot topic..

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"zaidi" Discussed on Giants Splash

Giants Splash

03:10 min | 4 months ago

"zaidi" Discussed on Giants Splash

"Been focused on the last few years again. The credit is really to the players. We've had so many guys step up and be really productive this year but you know. Hopefully some of that is a reflection of our organizational philosophy to just not mail in. Nc's i mean it coming from the ace Obviously the loss of their money ball is sort of winning in the margins. Right you know picking you know. Maybe the overlooked pieces and every little move can help you this year. That has come into play more than ever. You guys aren't alone in having a packed. I'll of course Injury seeing rampant across the game. Right now we could spend probably next half hour about the reasons. why so. let's not but you have fifteen men on the aisle and yet have the best record in baseball. That's extraordinary and it's not like this is just a new thing. You guys have had major pieces on the i'll Essentially at every point throughout the season Kind of coming and going but fifteen is extraordinary How much does this speak to the depth and Yes it is guys who are performing and maybe in some cases performing over expectations but also you know. These were very savvy moves by the front office. I think we went into this season. Viewing depth not as a strategy but as a sort of necessity. You know just knowing that we're coming office sixty game season and not knowing how things might play out over you know. Full six months schedule so for us. i mean to your point. It's been way more than anticipated. I mean the interesting thing is I think people were really expecting as we got deeper into the season. You'd start seeing injuries because were may be acclimated to the sixty game schedule and we're just at the sixty game mark. You're already seeing a lot more injuries than to get like you said they're really interesting theories about that. I've heard some of our trainers and others talk about just the stress of the pandemic personal stress. That that's put on guys and guys bodies are tighter. I mean i'm About as far removed from the field as you'd be in a I've had some physical issues. I think just from the stress of the print pandemic so you can understand the athletes performing highest level Being in that situation but again it's just a credit to the guys that have been ready to step out. I mean so disappointed. You really feel for guys that have these injuries. I mean the longoria. An injury over the weekend was so tough to see. But you know you try to look at the flip side of the coin that it creates opportunities for other guys in so far. We've had guys step up in a really nice way. Hey i can't get into all the players that you guys have acquired who have have stepped up because there have been so many of them. It seems like it's a different guy almost every night who comes through in a big situation But in general you have to give away like necessarily trade secrets. Some of this stuff is pretty obvious. I think but what do you look for when you're looking for guys for depth or maybe to contribute for you in a year or two down the line you know you're six six year minor league free agents or maybe players from other teams who have been pushed down. Depth chart might be available..

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"zaidi" Discussed on Giants Splash

Giants Splash

03:45 min | 4 months ago

"zaidi" Discussed on Giants Splash

"Hello and welcome to the giants slash podcast. The podcast up the giants major league baseball from the san francisco chronicle. I'm your host chronicle giants beat writer. Susan and our guest today is giants team. President of baseball operations going into his third season in that position for hans eighty farhan. I've known you for a very long time Dating back to when you very first started in the major leagues with as and when you first got this job with the giants. I got texts from everyone saying Basically i think the giants are now going to be a lot better. A lot sooner than people may be expected. That looks like maybe that's the case What are you. What are your thoughts on the fact that you right now got a first place team in here we are. it's june. yeah. I mean that's really nice to have done but The end of the day. It's it's you know. A huge group in organizational effort and to get to the point where we are in the season with games to go. We've had to have a lot of things. go right. A lot of players play well and a lot of people contrbute so definitely not resting on our laurels. No there's there's a long way to go and just game really humble you certainly after just a good sixty games so you know we're keeping our heads down and you know going to continue to grind but obviously really excited about how things have come together for us so far this season it is this. Maybe a little bit sooner than expected. And it you know you guys are playing in perhaps the toughest division in baseball too. I think you know going into the season. I don't think people necessarily thought that you guys had a team. That was a last place team or anything but people would look at the anna westin say well the dodgers and the padres are both loaded. Yeah i mean you know. I i think you you. You've covered a different teams and bread offices and so you know that every front office is prone to think Their came biz. Maybe a little bit better more competitive than somebody from the outside looking at it objectively might think back on our last three years and we've been a competitive team. I twenty nineteen You know we're willing four games of a wild card spot at the trade deadline and faced some difficult decisions traded away a couple of penn pieces because we thought we had the ability to back. Fill you know. Unfortunately things didn't go Break right brust the rest of that season than last year. Obviously really just one pitch away from from making the play also albeit in an expanded field. So we've talked about trying to get better every season so we went into this year with every expectation of of being competitive us. Were predicting we'd have hit the best record in baseball but you know there. There's always some variability. Nobody can predict exactly what's going to happen and You know funny enough. Kinda talking about me. Coming up with the as and billy bean You know really for me. The velocity of trying to put together a competitive team every year as heavily influenced by my time working under him. And you know just this notion that the present matters you know. Sometimes you come into an organization or situation that's in transition and everybody's looking two years five years down the road and you just can't lose sight of the fact that the present matters you have fans that are following the team today that you know wanna see a compelling product and A baseball team. You twenty six players. There's a lot of ways to improve your team and to create A more competitive roster and that's something..

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Osaka Withdraws From French Open After Bitter Row, Reveals 'Bouts of Depression'

The Sean Salisbury Show

01:46 min | 5 months ago

Osaka Withdraws From French Open After Bitter Row, Reveals 'Bouts of Depression'

"Naomi osaka withdrew from the french open. that is the big tennis tournament for all those tennis fans out there. One of the grand slam grants. I'm so she withdrew from tennis From the french open over media obligations and the reason why she said in a very lengthy instagram post. She said i'm not a natural public speaker. And i get huge ways of anxiety. Before i speak to the world's media i get really nervous and find it stressful to try and engage and give them media the best answers i can't. She also opened up and said that she has experienced And major zaidi and depression since her first major win at the us in two thousand eighteen and that she will take some time away from the court she also said. I never wanted to be a distraction and the withdrawal is the best thing for the tournament the other players and my wellbeing considering that every to go with media obligations. Do you have a problem with us at all. No absolutely not anybody that does meat or not. She didn't say she can't stand the media. She's not in a feud with the media. She's freight now when it comes to mental health and depression is far more important than what you and. I wanna ask you a question. I've never understood the media's infatuation with thinking they're owed squawked we're not we're not just like the just like if you're under contract is a player the organization doesn't owe us squat to renegotiate three years left on your deal. Now you have to. You could stay home. But i don't know what this account with. This young lady did to bother me a hell a player. She came out and was honest. We beg for transparency. She gives his transparency. And there's people out there a well. She got to be better to the media.

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Working With Your Anxiety

Being Well with Dr. Rick Hanson

01:35 min | 7 months ago

Working With Your Anxiety

"Over the last year. We've all been through a lot. In addition to the many major costs there have been smaller. Subtler costs as well. One thing i've really noticed is the friction. That's been added to almost any decision that gets made whether it's trying to participate at work effectively. Keep up with friends or even just go to the grocery store this whole new level of thought and effort is involved in most every decision this friction pervades our lives and it's natural for that. Increased friction to lead to increased anxiety would might have once been reserved for particularly stressful events and experiences is now well kind of everywhere so today. We're going to be talking about fear and anxiety particularly we're gonna work through a specific experience of anxiety that somebody might have and create a kind of plan start to finish for addressing. that experience. talbot's do that. I'm joined today as usual by. Dr rick hansen. So dad how are you doing today. I'm good and i'm really psyched about this topic This is one of my favorite topics. Yeah i tend to be a little anxious by government and also it's one that's very profound because it gets out what could be called a kind of underlying crime lang zaidi. This hard wired into us as animals in our evolution. Living in the wild you know vulnerable to being attacked on hedin at any moment potentially. So how do we grapple with this. Underlying sense of uneasiness apprehensive nest world is threat level. Orange deep wonderful topic.

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A Prayer for When the World Makes You Anxious

Your Daily Prayer

03:01 min | 7 months ago

A Prayer for When the World Makes You Anxious

"A prayer for when the world makes you anxious written by kelly valerie and read by kelly givens finally brothers and sisters whatever is true whatever is noble whatever is right whatever is pure whatever is lovely whatever is admirable if anything is excellent or praiseworthy think about such things philippians four eight. I watch the evening news. And i'm convinced they should no longer call it evening. News instead they should call it being zaidi. Our do you watch to do you feel it. Crawl all over you. You see the tears you see the evil you see the injustice. The pain the prognosis. You see no answers you feel helpless if you could do something to change anything you would you feel small unable you assure yourself even your loudest call would ring hollow and uncared for in this echo chamber halt a world. There is an undercurrent of fear. The tensions near the surface of force calmness or like riptides arising. We all see them. We want to turn away. Pretend run hide. Shiver shake yet. Is this what. Jesus calls us to south preservation and tread worry anxiety. Might we consider. The news is not evil but how our hearts distrust god easily could be if we fill our mind with the cram hardly keep our mindset on him. We can't see if we are blinded by the anger that boils over. In our heart we get distracted and what emerges doesn't look like love it doesn't look like jesus and what hits me is this jesus never called us to hone in on. What's wrong with everything. He called us to remember that he is in control of everything. Bis is peace. let's pray dear. God i am prone to worry. I led the happenings of the world. The elections and the economy. Sit heavy on me. I need to find your piece. I invite you to restructure my thinking name. My hope in you might peace. Be in you. May you help love flow out from me if me clarity. May i change what. I am able to change and release what i can't.

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How To Transform Anxiety Into Something Useful

Art Beauty

01:47 min | 7 months ago

How To Transform Anxiety Into Something Useful

"My fabulous. Co host is dr chloe carmichael. She's a friend of the show. You've seen her podcast before her podcast before we love to have you back And actually dr khloe. You have a brand new book out. Congratulations thanks so much amer. Yeah i'm really excited. And we just got an endorsement from deepak shop press so that new yes and so the book is called nervous. Energy harnessed the power of your zaidi. And i love this because it's really about sort of taking our anxiety and transforming it into something positive. I think that you know so many people. These days are telling me that they've got batting zaidi. Do you think that's a relatively. You know newish thing i do. I mean we've had so many stressors in the world lately right like just left and right twenty twenty was like the year of the stressors But the way that you know people are freezing that to you. I think is so interesting. When people say like wife had batting's diety you know Because we don't have to always necessarily think of it as bad but it does snowball if we think to start with anxiety must be bad then we get anxious about having the anxiety and you know that actually makes us more anxious and it can even prevent us from actually just dealing with whatever the source is of the anxiety and the good news is even that the anxiety can actually become a real plus mother nature gives us a little boost of adrenaline and our focus. Even visually actually gets better when we have a certain amount of anxiety and that boost is because it's there to help us to deal with stressors but if we don't know how to channel and we ruminate we get stuck

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Beating Anxiety With Food With Liana Werner-Gray

Dr. Jockers Functional Nutrition

06:26 min | 9 months ago

Beating Anxiety With Food With Liana Werner-Gray

"Well. Hey guys welcome. Back to the podcast. Today we're gonna talk about anxiety free with food. And we have the author of this great new book liana werner gray. She's a good friend of mine. She's written the earth diet cancer-free with food and now her new release anxiety free with fooding zaidi's such a big issue. There's so many people that are dealing with at especially with everything that's been going on in the world today and definitely a key link between gut health in the foods that were eating and how our brain is handling stress how reactive we are The way that we are processing the things are in our world and sewing. Zayed's is not something that is You know it's not a. It's not an end destination there. There's a lot of hope for a lot of things we can do for it and really starts with our nutrition lifestyle choices that were making so liana. Welcome to the podcast. Thank you so much. Thanks for having me on wolf for sure and again. This is such an important topic. And you know you're a young woman and so anxiety. Obviously all all all genders all demographics steel with anxiety but especially women and would love to hear your story. Yeah so anxiety. Apparently this year the stats have gone up to one in. Three people are really struggling with anxiety versus one in five last year in two thousand and nineteen. Now it's already into two one now. Yes so it's anxieties to skyrocketed and it does affect everyone end a small amount of anxiety to as a stress response is considered healthy. So if something happens to us and we naturally feel that stress. It's the mind in the body's way of saying okay need to have a resolution for this but anxiety that is happening for hours or days days. That is a severe anxiety that we need to be suffering worth of struggling with end. What i discovered was that there are actually some really simple and quick effective ways to clear out anxiety and he'll it especially with focusing on nutrition. Sir i was experiencing heightened amount of anxiety and i was curious as to where it was coming from because i have a lot of faith believe in god and goddess like dart have anxiety costs. All your kids on me. And i was constantly doing that so i was like. I don't think it's coming from from a spiritual reason. And i thought i don't think it's coming from a mental or emotional reason either and i thought this might be purely chemical and it could be a chemistry balanced my brain and so i went and got a blood tests. Done and sure enough isn't in one of the main things that if we're deficient in that we will have anxiety. According to science so short enough. I was deficient in her mega. Three fatty acids and my started taking fish oil supplements Wild fish and then eating more cheese hemp seeds and a matter of days. I could feel the difference. My brain felt more if that's visual. Nfl less scotteri. My nervous system felt more common for chris. I didn't feel more tired. I felt more alert and energize and it was incredible feeling and i thought wow if this is if it's as simple as this and a lotta people are also chemically imbalanced with their physical buddy than i wanna share this answer. I really went down the rabbit hall set of researching putting this book together and found out a lot of other nutritional reasons for the causes of anxiety and then do a lotta research. What foods can help clear out. And then what food. You're actually proven genetic that actually causes anxiety as soon as we put them into a mouse. Yeah it's a really good. Really good intro to this topic. And so we know that fish oil. Epa ya the long chain omega threes really play important role in the brain and also play important role in our inflammatory process. And so you know where people have been told when they have mood disorders that these things are chemical imbalances but the chemical imbalance is really downstream. It's you know it's not. The root cause cause oftentimes has to do with nutrient deficiencies and chronic inflammation. In the brain. We have inflammation in the brain. Were going to be more. Reactive are neurons can be closer to thresholds. they're going to be Firing off from stimuli. That probably probably shouldn't be firing off from right. Which makes them more reactive. And you know makes you have a lot more. Cha challenges just trying to control your emotions and so glad that you're able to figure that out and make a threes are really critical at this. So let's talk about the relationship between the gut and what's happening in the gut and what's happening in the brain. Yeah we'll i know you're a gun expert and i love the work that you do on this and serve all of the studies on anxiety pointed to the gut brain connection and how connected they are and that we have certain gut microbiome fascinating studies. That i found was that people with anxiety have a difference dot microbiome than people who dart have severe anxiety. That was fascinating to me. So then that tells us that we can change our gut microbiome and that will therefore change the anxiety that we experience and then we can also work on the the brain pot a bit and the part of it will reduce that. That's also going to change our gut microbiome so they work hand in hand with each other and so in my book. It's full of recipes and foods that really helped cultivate are very a very healthy gut. Microbiome and healthy gut environment and helped clear out d talks. I'm a huge advocate for detoxing especially people are just new to getting into this then. A detox is totally critical to clean out. That you know the dirty water so to speak dirty water we can fill it out with the clean water so doing a detox to clear out the gut and then start rebuilding it with all the good stuff and that helps out brain sorry much. Their source are connected that gut brain connection.

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How Fashion Can Leverage the Audio Appeal of Clubhouse

The Business of Fashion Podcast

09:44 min | 9 months ago

How Fashion Can Leverage the Audio Appeal of Clubhouse

"Earlier this year. Silicon valley became obsessed with a new app called clubhouse and audio bay social network where people can spontaneously jump into different chat rooms to together launched amid the pandemic since day one. The app has attracted the kind of funding controversy and hype that's ruffled feathers and made headlines. The social audio space is booming. Investors are piling in and recently twitter revealed that it's launching. Its own take on social audio space. That's currently being dominated by clubhouse one of is super users is none other than virgil abloh. Louis vuitton men's artistic director and creative director of off. White virgil joins us at voices twenty today from chicago alongside clubhouse founder paul davidson who is in san francisco. Welcome to you both. Thank you so much. Glad to be here liquors lurk whereas going and run. Get to see you again. Virgil i'm gonna. I'm gonna start with paul. Because i think everyone in the silicon valley world has heard of clubhouse but you know there are people watching who may not yet have understood what this is. So in the first instance. I'm gonna ask you the question you know. Why do we need another social media. What is it that clubhouse offers to the world. That isn't already out there. Yeah happy but that one slight correction the clubhouse house with my friend row on Clubhouse it's a new type of social network. That's based on voice where people around the world come together to talk. Listen and learn from each other about topics ranging from fashion to retail music and sports and social justice. It's sort of like hallways of this conference anywhere where it's all on your phone. There's no video but you can. You can reconnect with people you can learn or you can just be applying the wall and i think that connection is an inherently human thing. We're wired to connect invoice is a very different medium. We've seen it grow recently because of things like airpods and smart speakers an in-car integrations of this technology. But but it's it's in some ways the oldest medium in the world right. We were talking long before we were writing or taking photos or shooting videos but in the world of social media. It's a new thing and we find that allows people to connect in a different way you have all of the fidelity and authenticity and bids an asks an emotion. But you don't have any of things zaidi of video worrying about what you look like. Or how messy your houses and so it creates a different type of experience that is more about connecting with people in and having conversations than about getting likes or follows or projecting a certain view of yourself to the world. So we think it's a pretty different experience in what's out there right now. Burs let me let me turn to you. Because as i mentioned in the intro you've become a clubhouse super user and they might conversations of the. I know you're a busy guy. We were talking michael wolff earlier today. Who says like the average person is spending thirteen hours a day on their technology devices. You know why are you carving out time and you're very busy schedule to use clubhouse what do you get out of clubhouse. That's different from what you can get elsewhere. It's one of those things where i rationalize it like this. I'm in the design community. Which basically means that. I'm a part of the uber. Small percentage of people that get to dictate web pants. You wear next year. Look like you know like. I have an opinion. I'm in a part of a collective that decides. What the in like a trend for your car or your your interior of your home. They look like you know that's to me. Take that as a huge responsibility. This is like shelving away all the things like the fun side of the job or something like that. So i think it's a part of my responsibility of my craft to be knowledgeable to know what's going on in the world like if i locked myself in my studio and i sit in a place where i think from my sort of like shielded view of the world. This is what i think. The impact the lives of others. I think that's the wrong path. So when clubhouse comes around which i believe is a is a forward thinking concept from amazing people with great hearts and good vision. Like it's a no brainer. You know. And i project that out and so my friend told me adjust carballo from heist. Nobody was early user of clubhouse and he was like. Hey this is something i know you'd be into. You should try it out. And that's how. I became a user. An i've been a fan of the operation ever since two other quick. Things said that. I might add one. That because it's audio you can multitask and so it takes advantage of a lot of found time. it's not something where you're staring at a screen and just scrolling for hours and doing nothing else. People are using it while. They're walking while they're driving while they're in bed at night while they're folding laundry while they're doing all sorts of other things and the second thing i'd say is a big goal for us is to ensure that when people spend time on clubhouse it is time well-spent where were they can spend spend time on it enclosed the app at the end of the session feeling better than they did when they opened it because they deepen friendships. They've met new people they've learnt. It's a participatory different experience than than sort of scrolling screen purely consuming got it so virgil let me take it back to you for a minute. Your as you said your top designer in the industry now you can dictate what pants or as we'd call trousers in. Hey what you'd wear. Trousers wear next season. But what do you think. Fashion brand louis. Re tong could use or learn from clubhouse. How could fashion brands make use of this tool. They've found different ways to use instagram other other social media apps. But you know what could a fashion brand us clubhouse for you know. This is just something that i was just like reflecting on an essence. Obviously there's this in the fashion industry. There's hyper sort of like attention. Paid towards digital space. You know e commerce web impressions content photos videos data when at the end of the day. You know it's an extreme metric and tool to engage. And i think with the with the advent of clubhouse sort of refocusing on audio. It's it's an interesting case. Study and seeing like making sure that brands have something to say. You know you when you can't escape to creating an image that looks like fashion so then people consume it as fashion or a video. That looks glossy looks like moving. Image of fashion ambience. Like i for one. Think it's a like a new landscape to hear what brand about you know without the use of image or without that the the adjacency to say a product within that image. Like what do you have to say. And that becomes compelling as a fashion industry when we can use our voice to create engagement. Yeah that's that's really interesting because of course it's like second nature for the fashion industry to communicate through imagery. But how does how does a fashion company communicate through sound. I don't know paul if you have anything to add their think it's such an interesting contrast when you're talking about the fashion industry right. I mean extensively. Fashion is visual. It is curated. this is literally the opposite. You can't fake. You can't have a social media manager post the clubhouse right you're talking and the community aspect is a really big part of it. Because it's so participatory in your calling people from the audience here engaging with the people that care about your brand you have people in the industry sourcing creatives for shoots and and and talking about trends in what's happening in the news it's just a. It's a very different experience. So i love the fact that virgil has it enjoyed using the product because on its surface that contrast is just so fascinating to me like the division curated versus the the raw and intimate. Yeah all all the conversations that i have hosted or been part of on clubhouse related to fashion imron in a weird way. Have been more in depth than than interviews or sort of regular format sort of media. You know because the audience is getting to hear what they can't see on instagram too. Many characters to type. Obviously none of us are person like me. I'm not media trained to be able to like sound by. Have my ideas go through instagram. So that people exactly get the nuance and a medium like like clubhouse is where as a designer i can talk about the inspiration that i only usually talk about press

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What Parents Need to Know About Anxiety (with Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart)

Janet Lansbury Podcast

06:37 min | 11 months ago

What Parents Need to Know About Anxiety (with Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart)

"Use a lot of mental health diagnosis and terms interchangeably. With just regular speak. You know we say oh my gosh the weather so bipolar or or what. Movie was so schizophrenic. We use a lot of those kind of mental help terms to describe everyday life and it's very inaccurate. Most of the time. And so i think Disorders are one of those things. Because we have feelings like fear and worry and then we have anxiety disorders which can include a lot of things like a fear of being a crowded space where you can't escape which is a phobia panic disorders. We have specific. Phobias or fear of dogs are snakes are flying. We have generalized anxiety which is kind of a general feeling of uneasiness about a multiple sorts of things they actually included selective mutism few years ago into the anxiety disorders spectrum of diagnoses. As well too. So you have a lot of different things that cover that so really. What distinguishes fear and worry from the inside disorder. That severe is when it causes significant. Impairments on your everyday functioning. It's one thing if you're a little afraid of dogs for example or spiders and you just don't like them but if you're constantly checking corners and your obsessive about it and you're always asking for reassurance from your parents and making sure that nothing is going to hurt you in the middle of the night you sure there's no spiders in my bed mommy and it's constant and it's impacting their ability to function in their everyday life. That's when we're looking at more like an anxiety disorder type thing that's where the category of anxiety falls because it impacts everything school learning friendships their thought life. All of that kinda stuff and that's where that distinction between the worry in exile. Come into place and what causes that. Were maybe like you said. It's the one time being afraid when they see that animal or spider whatever but when it goes from that to now i checking every corner in doing very unreasonable things around this. It's a variety of things. There's a hereditary factor so there's a lot of people that it's just in your family where a lot of people when i'm talking to them and doing an intake they'll say. Yeah you know. Anxiety runs in my family. My mom was a warier. My grandma was aware and her grandma was aware here. And so it's kind of like this hereditary factor there's a genetic component to it but there's also a learned component as well to where if you have a parent who's a very anxious person and they act in anxious ways then if you're around them then you are going to be more likely to be anxious as well. When i was growing up for example my mom was hugely afraid of frogs. And i grew up on an island so i grew up in the virgin islands. And we're surrounded by water ed. She loved plants so we had plans lining the entry to our front door. And where do frogs hang out in moist plants so there would be huge frogs over our doorway and that's the only way to get in the house and so then she would be like okay. Well what i guess. We can't go inside the house. And i'm like so. Are we supposed to do so. That i started becoming hyper vigilant and scanning all the time. Because i'm like oh well. What if there a fraud because the frogs on the island are huge. Huge so then it kind of became. This learned fear of frogs because she was so worried. I picked up on it from her. Would i have been afraid of frogs. If she hadn't been maybe maybe not. But it can also be a learned factor because anxiety is not something that we just have at something that can be learned definitely. But then there's another piece of it which is there's a predisposition factor where there are some personalities and temperaments that are predisposed are more likely to having zaidi or having anxiety disorder. Because they're more sensitive or they're more observance or they're very in tune with their environments. And there's a lot of evidence that shows that individuals who are more intelligent even are more likely to be anxious because they have very divergent ways of thinking outside the box thinker. So they're always thinking what could go wrong anyway and that's just how they normally think about things and sensitive picking up all these different layers all the time of things that are going on. Yeah that makes so much sense. Though about the environmental factor of the parent having that power since children are always looking to their parents to check their center and really hoping or needing those parents to be centered as much as possible. And you see it when children are even they fall and they look up at their parents to see. What do you think about. This is all right. Like am i going to be okay. And children are picking up everything constantly from their parents. So what a parent do if they are like your mother or fit. They're very easily anxious or they have clinical anxiety. How do parents manage this to try not to have it affect their children. So much yeah. That's a great question. And the thing is that when i often see children or teens with anxiety i prefer to see them along with their parents because as i teach the child the teen about specific strategies i also want the parents to learn more often than not the parent is also struggling with it and the cool thing about anxiety. Strategies is up there pretty much universal across the board. You just tweak it. A little bit based on age to make it more digestible for a child to understand. And so i think of big part of it is for the parent that they need to address their own anxiety. They need to do the work like anything else right. is that we. We have things that are going on that. We've been rehearsing inhabits for decades which is often the case. then we've gotten really good being anxious and It's just an automatic default and so if our kids are constantly hearing and seeing and living out then. We're always reinforcing it so they can get all the help they want. But if you are still than reinforcing the other way of thinking then it's going to be hard for them to get out of that anxious mindset so i think a big part of it i as the parent has to be aware that they actually do have anxiety and then do the work to overcome that so they're not instantly giving it to their child and i think that's really really important for and this is just one of the many many important ways that children inspire us to work on ourselves in a positive way and heal

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What Is the Immigrant Paradox?

BrainStuff

06:31 min | 11 months ago

What Is the Immigrant Paradox?

"For over a century. America has been described as a melting pot in which immigrants from a variety of cultural and ethnic backgrounds slowly simmered together melding into an all americans do but is that really the way it works or even how it should work is total assimilation. The only way to be an american and is it healthy for individuals to abandon their cultural heritage in whole or in part an order to adopt the customs of their new home. We spoke with sess schwartz a professor of public health sciences at the university of miami. Who that it's time to shelve the melting pot metaphor schwartz studies acculturation which is the process by which a person's cultural sense of self changes. As when you move to a new country or are raised an immigrant home and the effects of acculturation on physical and mental health it turns out that assimilation is only one type of acculturation and that fully simulated americans have some of the worst health outcomes. Immigrant families are actually most likely to thrive in america if they embrace aspects of both their native culture and their doctor land public health. Researchers like schwartz. Call it the immigrant paradox. He said there's a whole literature that suggests that foreign born americans are doing better than us. Born individuals on many different health indicators heart health weight and obesity diet depression anxiety substance. Use you name it. So what are the alternatives to assimilation. There's an old joke. That's well known in europe. What do you call a person who speaks two languages bilingual. What do you call person. Who only speaks one. Language american schwartz said in the united states unlike a lot of countries in the world. We actively discourage people from having multiple cultural identities we just want people to be american even the fact that we equate acculturation and simulation says a lot about our culture and how we think people should behave however it is important to note that acculturation is a two way. Street is cuban and tori behavior based on immigrants race or ethnicity by the receiving country can make it much harder for immigrants to achieve healthy by cultural integration traditionally. There's been an assumption that the acculturation process in the united states ran in a straight line at one end of the spectrum stood the recently arrived immigrant still carrying around the language traditions and customs of the so called old country but as the immigrant moved along the line over time did slowly discard their foreignness. As they gradually acquired language and customs of america but starting in the nineteen eighties researchers began to question the straight line assimilation assumption. Psychologist john berry came up with a pioneering model that showed four different responses or strategies including assimilation. The emigrants used to navigate life in their new home. So i got a simulation but that being that you're willing to discard your culture of origin and fully identify with the new culture. The sort of opposite is separation. Wherein you hold onto your original culture at all cost and don't want to adopt the new culture then there's marginalization in which you don't identify with either your heritage culture or the new one. It's a rare situation and finally there's integration sometimes called them you want to maintain a strong connection with your heritage culture while interacting with enquiring traits from the new culture according to schwarz there's strong evidence that the assimilation strategy is bad for your health. The worst psychological effects of assimilation are felt by second generation americans children of immigrants who were either born in america or raised here from a young age second generation. Kids are sometimes so eager to fit in that. They turn their backs on their parents. Customs and traditions entirely schwartz explained. They basically reject their families culture and that tends to produce pretty negative results higher rates of anxiety and depression substance abuse and worst family relationships. The best psychological and health outcomes on the other hand are achieved by individuals who embrace by cultural ism. A balanced integration of their heritage and received cultures short says that people who are able to comfortably blended their native and acquired cultures. Have quote much better outcomes. In terms of higher self-esteem lower depression lowering zaidi and better family relationships immigrants who learned to successfully habit to cultural worlds are the same people who drive the immigrant paradox in americans born outside the us achieve at significantly better physical and mental health outcomes compared to their native born or assimilated neighbors. But why is this diet is one simple explanation says schwartz because immigrant families are more likely to prepare home cooked meals than the typical american family which tends to eat out a lot and consume more processed foods but there are also significant psychological factors at play the most important has to do with the values of american culture versus just about everybody else. Schwartz said the. Us consistently ranks as the most individualistic country in the world. Were more self. Reliant and less reliant on other people in basically any other country on the planet so most people who come here from other places are more collectivist than we are. Let's break that down. What does collectivism look like. As a cultural value it stresses the importance of family above all else. It places an emphasis on the greater good and doing what's best for the community. Not just yourself and it's a less competitive way to look at the world. Schwartz says that cultural values the promote close knit families and selfless service can protect against a lot of the mental health issues. That plague many americans. He said there's a reason why we have so much anxiety. Because we're so highly individualistic and competitive. We have to compete against other people for everything. And if you can't keep up there's less of a support system ready and waiting to help you in this country when we talk about helping other people. Some people want to shout socialism. I think that's one of the issues that we have.

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Anxiety Recovery

Mentally Yours

05:21 min | 1 year ago

Anxiety Recovery

"Jodi. Thanks very much for joining me to chessel mentally ios them. i will have even doing Just generally during the pandemic. Well i think things have been up and down for me personally and for everyone around unisom days seemed like everything's normal and then other days is really in your face so i think. I'm just the same as everyone around a. I think our young people are struggling. The most and people who are isolated are really struggling a lot. So i'm lucky to have people around me in my house. yeah duty. That's the main thing we city chatting about. And i really appreciate you touch me about that. About how young people dealing with the pandemic and also How young people. With anxiety of dealing with it What advice can you give to parents in terms of supporting children with anxiety especially moment. Well yes especially now you know inside is one of those weird things because it it is it has different objects like so people are nervous about different things so the first thing to do when your child has anxiety or teenager you wanna know what specifically they're upset about would beings our society targeting telling you that this is a problem because sometimes you could just reassure them sometimes you can really look at something analyze it and realize this is not something to worry about and that could be quite helpful that would be like the first step because a lot of time to could get rid of some anxiety justin doing that one specific executives young people have different to adults. Well i think the younger people have more of the worry that people are judging them because we grow up we start a shed a little bit of that. I've heard that in your forties in your fifties. You just really stopped caring. So i'm looking forward to that time but you know it's about a win. This is their time in their life. Appears means so much to them so if there is any kind of exclusion or being left out or someone saying something in usually. They're all in this immature state trying to figure out who they are and so the other people saying this stuff. It's really about them than about my your child. So when they're bullying or they're judging or they're saying this stuff it's really about them but your child of course because they care so much about what people think about them are really taking into their heart. So it's a those are that's really the biggest anxiety. Like what are people gonna think about me. What are they are they looking at me. What are they judging about me as really skyrocketed especially with social media it's really skyrocketed. Yeah what do you feel some social media and how. It's affected the mental health of young people. Why did my tiger tax wilmington talk about this. Because i see that. There's three different messages. That being on social media brings us that makes us feel really out of control and then leads chang zaidi in one of them which is the most obvious one that we all know about. Is this comparison culture. You're comparing your backstage mass to somebody else's highlight reel and it's just not real filtered edited. They only show you the good things in so you think that everyone's doing all this great stuff now. Ordinarily we look around in everybody looks fine and on confident happy because anxiety and low self esteem or quite invisible. So when you're feeling it and you're looking around and you think everyone else is fine but you but actually they're all struggling just like you. Are it just that you feel like you're the only one in that feeling of difference really intensifies. It makes you feel different. Makes you feel wrong. Makes you feel like what's wrong with me. Why am i. why don't i belong. And humans belong so bad and teenagers. They want to belong. I mean that's like their foremost job right now is to find people to find peers to connect with. So that's what's been really hard about this. Pandemic is the 'isolation that they're feeling because this is the time they're supposed to be with their friends. So i didn't tell you about the other two one the other one is Second one is trauma that they see online and social media. They're getting all the news alerts and they're seeing horrible things. In violent things happening sometimes really far away and that feels so random and out of control that you might be vulnerable to and when you see that online there's nothing you could do about it see feel helpless in that increases the anxiety and then the third reason social media is really in our face right now. Is it really interrupts her sense a worse by advertising so the advertising like you're worthy just because you have to. It gets us to think that we should just get stuff. Burr losing that cause and effect. We haven't learned that. Would you do something to get something. And we think things hand happen randomly with all three of these messages. Actually we think things happen randomly and so kids are not in touch with their own skills and abilities in that's increasing their depression increasing anxiety

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Toxic Relationship With Alcohol

Addiction Unlimited Podcast | Alcoholism | 12 Steps | Living Sober | Addiction Treatment

05:58 min | 1 year ago

Toxic Relationship With Alcohol

"With alcohol. I would venture to say most of us have been in a toxic relationship at one point or another in our lives for many of us we start these bad habits young and repeat the same mistake a thousand times over. Many of us are raised with some sort of toxicity even in our family relationships in it's all we know. So of course, we go out in our adult lives in create those same kinds of relationships. And when I say relationship I don't necessarily mean romantic relationships. We have many relationships with our friends and families and coworkers. And win where unhealthy on the inside we will create unhealthy relationships with everyone in our lives. You'll relate to this topic on many levels but you know the most significant relationship I'm talking about is your relationship with alcohol. As we dig into this, it is kind of surprising how similar the toxic relationship with alcohol is too toxic relationships with people. So, let's get into some of the red flags of a toxic relationship. Like when you feel like you're walking on eggshells when things become kind of unpredictable and it leaves you with a sense of holding your breath or walking on eggshells. One weekend you and alcohol have a great time together and nothing terrible happens in a few days later, it has humiliated you once again. Predictably unpredictable. You're chasing the high of drinking and at the same time trying to avoid the lows. Right? Creates a real sense of instability and insecurity. You know again like you're walking on. Eggshells. Another one is thinking back to like how it was in the beginning and hoping that that like honeymoon phase will come back. You know we all know that feeling of being kind of baffled when you think back to how much fun you used to have drinking with your friends you didn't use to drink too much or blackout or act crazy or start terrible fights with your partner in it's totally normal to daydream about the good old days and wished for those fun times again. But your attachment to the good old days keeps you locked in with that hope that those good times will return. And all the while use stay stock. Because all you really have is hope that may be the good times will return been in the meantime you're staying stock the unfortunate truth with love or alcohol is that a healthy relationship? Can feel uncomfortable and unhealthy feels comfortable because it's familiar. The other one I really went to talk about is gas lighting. This is a really popular term right now in the relationship world. You may not know this about me but relationships are the other thing I study a lot relationships and communication to know how to better understand one another and live together and in relationship world the last few years gas lighting has been getting a lot of attention. Slamming give you a definition of gas lighting. Gas Lighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person or group covertly sows seeds of doubt in an individual or group making them question their own memory perception or judgment. Often, evoking in them cognitive dissonance and other changes including low self esteem. That sounds really weird and evil but. But it's actually very common. I was a gas lighter in my past I. Hope I have healed that part of me but I really was. So let's look at some examples. So it makes more sense. Say a wife goes to her husband and tells him she doesn't feel like he's carrying his weight when it comes to taking care of the kids. She feels like he could do a little more help out a little more. A healthy partner would respond in a calm and loving way like, Oh my God I'm so sorry, feel that way I didn't realize. I. Wasn't doing my part. I will definitely pay attention and do a better job in please tell me when you need help in need to step in because I want to do my part and I wanNA, support you. That's a healthy person. A gas lighter will respond differently, gas lighter will take it personally take it like a personal attack not even considering for a moment if there's any truth in it, right if maybe they do have some responsibility in it, then they'll respond like the wife is ridiculous in what she's saying is completely untrue that's not happening at all. You're just making things ob you're blowing it out of proportion. They respond like it's not even happening. which then leads the other person to feel like am I crazy am I making this up? Am I blowing it out of proportion or being unreasonable? A gas lighter makes you question yourself in question what you know to be true. Look you right in your face and tell you ally and then deny it even when you have proof because denying the Lai creates a sense of not knowing when they're telling the truth when they aren't it leaves you in a position where you're totally off balance and that's exactly where they want you to be. Alcohol is gas lighting you. It abuses you humiliates you makes you feel terrible about yourself make sure Zaidi explode. Then in the next breath, it's telling you how it can solve all your problems.

Partner Zaidi
What Do I Do When My Friends Talk About Dieting?

Diet Starts Tomorrow

06:29 min | 1 year ago

What Do I Do When My Friends Talk About Dieting?

"Alright. SO WE DO A. As promised. A we showed. Okay. I will read it. Man. Hey, Sammy any lean first off like every other email you read I, want to say how much I love your podcast and I. Thank you for sharing. Your intuitive eating. Journey is really opened my eyes and helped me a lot. I was deep engraved in Dia, culture for a very long time. Last November I competed in my first bodybuilding Bikini show and struggled so much post show with binge eating I continued to. Stick with the coach for almost a year after my competition trying to follow a strict workout, a meal plan and kept finding myself struggling so much with my relationship with food binging and body image. So I dropped the coach and I've recently been my own intuitive eating journey for a couple of months now, and I really couldn't be happier. However, what I am struggling with is the triggering language that a few of. My friends and family members use when it comes to their body slash eating habits. A few of my very close family friends are actually signed up with my previous coach and in deep quote diets, they're constantly justifying their food explanations to me or making comments about how they feel or look fat, etc. This is very triggering for me and makes me question my own food choices and body they know I am on. An into they know I'm on an intuitive eating journey and I post a lot about it on social media. So there's no surprise to them. However, I'm not sure how to handle these comments in person when they're made I, try my best to brush them off in reply with neutral responses but I'm finding very hard and it makes me question myself. How would you guys handle this thing so much your fellow intuitive eater. Yeah I mean, this is this is like this. This is the Pitta me of the challenge of of sort of going your own way with intuitive eating. I I think. It's like with anything like even even diets even eating anything you do is easy in a vacuum but. Released into the wild everything becomes more challenging because there's so many variables. Well, I'll just say that's Why I brought up the like ten thousand steps thing from this weekend like I found that that whole conversation to be dark triggering because like not because there's anything wrong with that. But because when I was dieting ten, thousand steps was like thing I had in my head as like. That's a method of losing weight not a method of like getting my body moving. So the intensity of like we need to move, we need to take as many steps like I was not like. It gave being Zaidi and let people were taking it too far. We're like I need to go walk around but yeah. Yeah. Right, it's like that and there's nothing like I'm not like again it's not about like the family or the friends who are doing this like like you know what I mean. It's all their fault. It's just more like. Necessarily bad and no, it's not. It's not like inherently bad at all and like it's it's not you can't blame them even but the like. You have your own feelings about it, and that's understandable and that's okay because of where you are on your journey and the whole thing I guess becomes about like. How do you internalize those messages without letting them? Without. And take them in sort of without. Letting them, derail you or examining them like non-judgmental Lee. About how they make you feel. and. It's OK that a certain message or a certain situation might make you feel certain in a certain time. It doesn't mean forever. It doesn't mean those things are inherently bad. It just means right now you're experiencing a certain emotion. So what like? I'll give my own example at the ten thousand steps like I felt like, okay I'm experiencing this. Let me observe it. Why is it making me feel this way like what? It triggering. Hate using that word but like what is it bringing up for me? What brought up for me was like a wet a certain old way of thinking and certain environments might bring that up for you or certain people might turn talking to certain people might bring that up for you and it's not those people's fall. It's it's. It's just something for you to grapple with and like like Ailey like you said like if it is easy in a vacuum when you don't have those like things coming up but when you do figuring out how to like. SORT. Of handle them internally is the process and that's okay that sometimes you will feel bad feeling bad is like feeling bad internally is not necessarily. A bad thing. It's just an emotion toe sorta bride I think just to add also on that there's two things you can like practically do and what I do. Is. Have on hand like a list of reasons why doing intuitive eating put make in a notes in your phone write it down some writing things is more I know just feels different than typing it because typing could be deleted but writing it feels more therapeutic and more natural. I don't know what it is just love handwritten note. Writing like why you're doing this, what your goals are with this? Like how do you want to feel and then anytime you feel like somebody says some comment that you're not necessarily feel strong enough for just go back to that list. And read it to yourself sort of like an affirmation. But also we get a reminder of why you're doing what you're doing. It doesn't make you weak at all to have to go back. And my other thing is just maybe take perspective of like. What the the comments that they make is from a different mindset. It's an old mindset that you don't want to assume it's something it's something you're trying to get rid of, and that doesn't make you better than anybody. It just makes you in a different place and just remind yourself like, oh, they're just in a different place than I am And I'm a new place and just kind of. Again like like you're saying, don't engage handle it neutrally like you're saying but it definitely very difficult. So what you can do the things that you can control so I think I would try to take those tools with you. Into these situations.

Sammy Zaidi Ailey LEE
How to Connect to Your Humanity and Change the World

Untangle

06:12 min | 1 year ago

How to Connect to Your Humanity and Change the World

"Today. We're going inside the head of Young Pueblo Aka Diego Perez. He's a writer poet and activist who explores his own mind to create poems about the mind. His poems or meditations in themselves and often talk about meditation teachings directly. He's also instagram famous with three hundred, twenty, nine, thousand millennial followers who receive as simple visual poems about meditation daily in their feet. Welcome young blow. Thank you so much for having me Emmett set of the year. Yeah, it's wonderful conversation. Awesome. So let's just start in dive right in because most people probably curious about the first thing they heard young Pueblo like who is this young logo is noted to meet the Guy Behind Proba tell us about young Pueblo on how that came out. was. Name that came to me a bunch of years ago. I'd say back sometimes it's funny thirteen I think the name came to me, and then over time I really developed a meaning. Around honey or team twenty fifteen I realized that I wanted to take great seriously as it was around the time where I saw that. Betaine is having a real effect in my less democracy game meditation course back in. July of two thousand twelve and after doing a few silence and David Austin courses I realized that a lot of the burden that was sort of limiting my mind's in regards to. Zaidi sadness where. They weren't totally radical, but there were decreasing and I was noticing that. I, was really feeling better and I felt like I had more choices in my mind as I could see the world a little more clearly, and then I can navigate my own actions in a way that was much more productive to my personal happiness. So In, sort of pushed me into wanting to righty might people now that healing yourself was actually a real possibility has to be. I know that for myself. I kind of went into meditation has an experiment just as I was always curious about it and it felt like the right fit so I didn't really know that's what I was Gonna get out I. Think I knew that I was going to learn a bunch of things but I didn't know that I was actually going to feel better and it wasn't until after of delving deeper into the process into the actual practice I started seeing that I so lows better sort of into writing. and. The idea of young Bible kind of really warm related around it's my understanding of the world that we are all very young collectively. If you take all humanity were all very young you know it doesn't matter if you're ninety years old is you take us as a whole giant collective we have so much to learn. The bucs Amina's for. Up when we were little children. When we went to school, we were trying to simplest things are teachers were really. Trying to get us to not hurt each other to tell the truth to be kind to one another and to generally just you know it's even like clean up ask yourself things are seem so simple that we can do as individuals but as a human collective e don't know how to do these things at all. A. Me. got. Sort of a signal that. We have a lot of growing up to as humanity and a lot of I. Think a lot of that growing up center happened during the century. We have so many big challenges ahead of us that will hopefully help us row. That this sort of. A. Renaissance, I would call it. That's happening around the mind. Is GonNa be a big big part of humanity mature. SO THAT'S A. Really helpful perspective. So somebody who has a two year old myself I spent a lot of time teaching him some very, very basic things like heating is bad. I'm sorry in some days he's amazing at it in Sunday's he just gets brought by his own emotions, his own desires and hitting back at the window. In it's interesting to look at our humanity as being a very similar place lessons that we've learned over and over again, our childhood yet they're returning in the adult hood of the individual, but still the sort of childhood of the collective. Beautiful by. Where do you see our evolution going? What do you think the path down that road is I think it's interesting because people have very different aspirations. So I wouldn't want to try to say you know all human existence is in this direction but I would say that to get to a place where we're not arming one another where we. Are Mentally ill in ourselves. That army another as arguing when sell it doesn't take. Much Work Right. Having that understanding that you know is literally to my benefits and not you is very different from what sailing Total Liberation Enlightenment's. That's actually a very easier accomplish many think that's where we're really heading as a humanity in our evolution that we're trying to lift ourselves up into that understanding that Oh right? It's not. It's not to my benefit at all to harm you in any way it actually helps my personal life to support you in your freedom, your sixty etcetera. So forth, so me I like to think about it in. In the immediate. Immediate future being like next year is not like the whole seizure. SABA. But it really is trying to get ourselves to that point where or. Individuals in because that's an idea that we've had. Throughout, all of history. Having an idea intellectually is very different from being out experiences, experience Adiba yourself or deeply being able to you'll that you know that it's your benefits are mothers I think Ruby's different practices Asami different people are engaging. Different introspective medias including meditation. That that will help get. To that point where it's like Oh right now, of course, not only do I in my mind but I. Feel my body and now I'm GonNa find better solutions than our.

Young Pueblo Writer Emmett Diego Perez Zaidi Amina David Austin Adiba A. Renaissance Ruby Asami
What Patients Are Saying About Antipsychotic

The Carlat Psychiatry Podcast

02:24 min | 1 year ago

What Patients Are Saying About Antipsychotic

"In the early nineteen nineties about half of US patients with bipolar disorder took lithium now, it's closer to fifteen percent and the use of antipsychotic says more than doubled to fill that gap. A new survey reveals what patients think about these newcomers. This was an online survey of two hundred US adults who by their own report were diagnosed with bipolar one disorder and had taken an antipsychotic within the past year. Era Paul was the most common followed by Qu- Pina Spirit Own Olympian and Larizza on there are others that fell off after that. Overall people were satisfied with the efficacy but dissatisfied with the tolerability ninety, eight percent had at least one side effect on the NS psychotic and most of the side effects were not trivial. Ninety two percent felt the side effects had a negative effect on their relationships. Patients were embarrassed by the side effects. Particularly, anxiety weight gain followed by involuntary spasms or movements and trouble concentrating. I'm reminded here of Dr Magas Warning in June twenty nineteen issue on side effects that patients are not likely to put up with a side effect that they find socially embarrassing. The side effects that bothered people the most worrying Zaidi with gain and feeling like a Zombie or having no emotions And the rates of these three burdensome effects were large in the seventy percent range. ANTIPSYCHOTIC side effects carried over into all areas of life family, romance friendships, and work. Thirty to fifty percent felt that the anti psychotics impact their job sixty to seventy percent felt that the bipolar symptoms impacted their job. So from the patient's point of view, the side effects are a little better, but almost as bad as the disorder itself in the workplace. The bottom line while the PDR can tell us what side effects to expect surveys like this. Tell us just how damaging those side effects are. And the numbers here are much higher than what we see in the PDR. What's unclear is whether lithium or the Anti convulsants would raise the same level of complaint in

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Stephanie Fleming on organization, life hacks, and how she built 'The Happy Planner' and 'Me & My Big Ideas'

The Here for Her Podcast

51:55 min | 1 year ago

Stephanie Fleming on organization, life hacks, and how she built 'The Happy Planner' and 'Me & My Big Ideas'

"Are so excited to. To introduce incredible Stephanie Fleming. She is a creative entrepreneurs speaker of and wellness seeker. Most notably, she is the CO founder of me and my big ideas creator of the happy planner, and what began twenty years ago as a tiny garage business is now an industry leading lifestyle brand and offers a wide variety of products that inspire customers to live creatively and plan a happy life. Please welcome Stephanie to the show. Okay, we'll Stephanie. We are so excited to have you on the here for her podcast. Thank you so much for joining us. And we are so curious about everything that you've created and your and so I think. Our audience is going to be very very interested in the business aspect of. Everything that we're about to talk about some super excited cool. I'm so excited to be talking to you. Guys for those who don't know. Tell us a little bit about your health. I'm Stephanie. Fleming and I'm a creative entrepreneur. I actually call myself like an accidental entrepreneur. I started my business me and my big ideas with my mom twenty actually over twenty years ago started in my garage with an idea of just one idea for making stickers for the scrapbooking industry at that time and. And really just kind of wanted to do it too. I needed a creative outlet. Yes, but I needed to pay the bills like I. was you know a young mom and struggling to make ends meet, and just really wanting to like. Go out there and I would do anything because I you know I wanted a better life for myself, and for my kids and and so I was definitely you're. You're? The definition of a hustler like I was like I have no money, but I will put in the sweat equity so. We been hustling with me and my big ideas for. Over twenty years now, and we've created everything from paper stickers and now planner, so planners is our latest the happy planners, our latest product line and It's just been such a a wonderful thing for us to get into because we get to share a love for creativity for positively, and that's been kind of where I have fallen in the last probably five or six years which. Not only being an entrepreneur in a business person, but also being able to be the spokesperson for our product and our brand, and that's something that I've been totally passionate about. It's amazing. I'm curious. So, what did you do before you started your business? Were you a stay at home? Mom? Did you have have a job, so I was? I was pregnant when I was eighteen. Not Married had had a baby, and when immediately from high school to I need to find some way to take care of my son and I did in home daycare for eight years, and was daycare provider for six kids usually at one time and it was you know it's honest work? It's hard work. It's eleven hour days for you know for eight years and you know all I to do is be a good mom, and and so I didn't have a college education. I grew up in the craft industry though my. My parents had a manufacturing and distributing business so I grew up from picking orders in the warehouse. To you know watching my parents who are entrepreneurs basically navigate the craft industry and come along with them to trade shows and things like that so I always had that creative bug, and and even as an entrepreneur as a kid I was making little catalog, so you can buy these cards here, my designs and so, but then life hits, and then you have to go out, and you know and do the best you can and and so at the time. In one, thousand, nine, hundred eight. My mom and my mom had sold that business, she and my stepdad divorced and they sold their business, and so she was kind of at this place in her life where she was like okay. I'm ready to start over, I need. She was probably my age now, and it was like thinking I need to start over and figure out what life looks like for me. Now and I was saying I just I want to start something something I want to do anything and so my mom had some seed money and. Like I said I would do. You know so. I stayed up all night trying to find just hustling to find hair. Competitors are advertising in this trade magazine. So that's a potential a mailing list for so anything possible. I was willing to do so. Yeah so it was not like I had this pedigree of an MBA, and I'm going. Go start a business, and that's why I say I'm definitely. An accidental entrepreneur, but I've I've loved it. We'll story. It is very very cool. It seems like you had it in your blood like raped in the beginning. Though like it was something that you're meant to do. I, think so. I think without knowing that that's what it was like. I was just cleaning out. One of the things we've done in quarantine is cleaning out our garage and so all my memorabilia. That's where I found my card. Catalogue of here are the things you combine I'm like I always was. Experiencing entrepreneurship right in front of my is growing up but I never really knew it. In fact, my mom was in charge of all of the creative side of the business, and was the one in charge of new products, and out there trying to find out what creative women were doing next, and so when my mom would go on an rnd shopping trip and take all of us with her. We didn't realize what we were doing was watching her shopping trends and seeing what was out in fashion, and how we can bring that into the craft and creative industries, so when it just seemed like something natural, and now I'm trying to identify people go. Where do you find your trend Mic-? Just Watch I. Just look and so yeah. We were Kinda groomed without knowing that that's what was happening. So cool and so. You had your first business you? You began doing that twenty years ago. And then you landed to the happy planner, which has been a huge success and It's a it's a beautiful book. It's something that you want to. Hold in your hand, and just like carry with you all the time. It's so cute and fashionable. Where did that idea come from? And how? How did you of get to that point? Where like I want to be in this market of making planners? Happy like honestly we've had a lot of great products that of sold weller mckellen's pretty cool, but the happy planner is like it's so me. It's totally me so the the way we came up with. It was pretty much the same process that we did it with anything. As we and my sister is heavily involved in product about men in our company as well, but we watch in decide okay. scrapbooking was huge for a while, and so we were able to kind of ride that. That wave and we've kept coming out with products and line extensions and and then you kind of see that it was kind of starting to taper off. It was not as popular and the products weren't as weren't selling and going doing the having the sell through that they did before, so we're like okay. We need to know what creative women are doing next. which is what my mom did, so we would always be looking for what. What what do i WanNa do what is something that's interesting for me. and and then also kind of searching pinterest looking around water, creative women doing so for some reason on pinterest people were taking just regular planners from staples, or whatever and they were putting our scrapbooking products, stickers and things and making them cute but the scrapbooking don't really fit like they don't fit size-wise. They didn't fit if you're you know the stickers we were. Were to commemorate memories and things, and that's not necessarily the things that you need for planning so I kind of just you know, and they were boring to staples like office supply things. They have black brown different color bays. You know really great. You know what I think. Someone would would think the businessmen would like. And then there was like three designs that were like purple. Paisley or some ugly grandma color. You know I'm a woman, I. I don't want that, so we thought definitely we could do better in design. We could get them more affordable. We could create accessories that would go specifically for them, and then you could put in those accessories like things that are positive so that every single day when you're planning when you're having fun putting stickers out ever, there's this creative positive message that makes you happy that keeps you going, and so it was just a kind of another. Offshoot into what we normally do. What are creative women doing? And at this point? It was like people are busy, and they want to be creative, but they need that little bit of licensed to say it's okay when you're planning your schedule. You can kind of put a sticker downer. Says you can do it or just. Those little positive affirmations make a make a big difference. I love that so much were all about positive affirmations and There's something that I still love about having a planner in front of me like an organizational planner. Where where I. Can you know touch the pages and I can mark things off. It's so different than a calendar on Google you know and I've always I've i. still have a planner, so I love that, but I'm curious because you have built such a successful brand and obviously. You've separated yourself in so many ways by having something very unique You offer as something that's very I would say year to the millennial woman. But how how have you separated yourself with your branding? I'm just so curious about like where your sales come from utilizing social media, you have a huge social media following. So, how what kind of what was your? What was the method to your madness at that point when you started thinking ahead? Yeah, so at that point. We had we had a very successful company in the craft industry and up? Until that point, we had what I figured successful products. We didn't really have necessarily like brand. Following social media was just coming up, but you know there was something about the happy, and I think my own personal passion for the product helped in planning it. No Pun intended. because. I feel like we got to this place or like this product line. I just feel like we need to be able to have a brand. There's gotta be a message behind because the message of the product is so powerful and so really. What happened I mean there wasn't? A Master Plan I love this product so much. That I just started talking about it and sharing on social media back in the periscope days. You remember, periscope yeah. Remember. About it and I just said you know what I would anytime we would come up with something, or we had something new exciting happening in office. I'd like I'm just GONNA share. It's just going to be I wanted to our product and the brand to feel like like we were just friends sharing like. If I was you know to call you up and say Oh, my Gosh I'm so excited. We just got this prototype in, and here's what it looks like. Here's how I'm going to use it and every. Every new products came in. We previewed it on periscope did live Q. and A. is, and and that's before people really doing that and we were sharing the process and the product, and sharing my excitement, geeking out over stickers and a paper planner you know, so. It became I thought there was really no plan other than to share authentically, and that was really before, but you know everything authenticity be authentic was just such a overused catchphrase, but that's what it was because I didn't actually want to be the spokesperson. For our company, and because it's such a team effort, and so I'm not. I'm not maybe maybe I wouldn't had the idea for. Let's let's look into to paper planners, but I didn't create designs, and I not the artist, and I'm not the one who source the product and sold it in such a team so but. In order I felt so passionately that. Don't have relationships with companies. They don't have relationships with products, but they have relationships with people and brands, and if I could be that conduit. To Give A. Personality to our land our company then. I'm like all right. I'm willing to do because I was the one before it was like no, I don't really want to know I'm just I'm fine to not do it, but when I was sharing something, I was so passionate about the following just came. We did not say hey. We want to get to I. Think we're over six hundred thousand on instagram. We didn't have a plan for that. I mean eventually to grow. It takes you get to a certain point. It's like okay now. You have to plan, but we grew our numbers very very organically, and by just engaging with them. You know true engagement and it's. It's not even just the number in the plan, but it's like. Are you engaged? Do you care about your followers? Do you care about your customers and deal you know? Are you engaging that way? Are you doing it for the rise near following? Are you doing it for the sale? Are you doing? Are you doing it because this? Just feel so right to you know. Yeah while you're on that topic, too. Because so cool that you grew organically because. I mean it's such an easily marketable product, but also like how how do you stand out amongst your competitors are? There's other planner companies out there. So what's your differentiating factor with your product? So at the beginning? We were the only ones pretty much doing what we did, so we stood out really quick, and it's almost like I. Always say like it was like. Like when I had my first when I said WHO's very well behaved typical. I am such a good mom. And then my daughter came a second, and she is like great, but she's you know totally like wild spirit and I'm like oh my gosh. I need to to work at this little more. So when we did when all of a sudden you're like It's growing and you're thinking. Oh, my gosh is great. People are just listening, and then all of a sudden when you're onto something, people and other brands and other companies go. They're onto something I. Think I'm going to try that, too. And then what you were doing so authentically is being duplicated right so. So what we have always done I think and even back in the scrapbooking and paper. Crafting days was just advice. My mom gave me is just really don't worry too much about what other people are doing. Find out what you uniquely do. What is it that your company or your brand do what do you? How do you stand out and for US There's a lot of people who have high end stationary and people. People that are saying a professional and I want it to look like this or I. Don't like this about your as well. This is who we are. We are colorful and fun and were affordable. We have a disc bound system where you can change things in and out, and those are some things honestly and with the brand that will turn people off when you really claim like who you are. Some people are going to say. Well, I. Don't know but I. don't like that well, but this is who we are when you can really find that those are the things that just kind of narrowed down, and you nail it down so much that these are the things that make us unique, and so for us. We embraced all of that. That is who we are fun and colorful, positive and an interchangeable, and all these things about the product and about our messaging. That's what we focused on, and I think even especially going forward when it becomes harder and you. Maybe at this point, we're going like you see a slowing in not just gaining followers as fast when you get up high. And there's more people in the space so for us it's how can we find? What, we, what is it that we offer? That's unique whether it's the message product. And, you kind of have those pillars of our being authentic. Is it something that's different or are we just white noise in the space? Should we be making a change? We be pivoting. Right now do. Is there something we need to be doing to be more aware of the surroundings of the economy of this of society so You're constantly looking for you have to just be aware. Of who you are where you're going and not being paying too much attention to. The competitors and the people aside. It's really hard though it's hard to do because you find yourself looking. They're doing so good over there. Maybe I should change and go that way so knowing who you are is a huge part of that success for us. And, I love how you really made an emphasis on. Being okay with not being a good fit for everyone, and you know we talk about this even on social media. How you know people always give us questions on. You know my Gosh I I lost if I don't post for three days. I'll lose one hundred followers well if those people want on, follow you because you haven't posted three days. They're not your people. Like they were never people anyway, so I love that you have you have a focus and you understand your branch so well. The you know who you're catering to, and also you mentioned pivoting when you need to because. You know I think that people get so focused on the end goal, and if it's not if it doesn't turn out exactly how they anticipated that it would be, they give up right, so I think that's I. Love that so much and it kind of brings me to my next question on. The hardships entrepreneurship because I think that when people look from the outside, they see this beautiful brand that you've built a successful mom who's who's doing it all, but it takes so much work and behind the scenes that the people don't see. Can you walk us through some of those hardships that you faced in how you've kind of gotten through them? Oh yeah and I think. I'm so glad you brought that up because you especially on social media, people will see their, so they'll say. Where were you because I'm pretty active on my own, and then also I with the happy planner, but it like where were you? We Miss John there. I'm like you guys like if I would have shown. What I was doing for the past seven days, it was get up in the morning. Go to work. Stay there till seven o'clock have like meetings altay come home barely figure how I'm going to get the door dash before I wanna fall asleep, and then you know over it over and over again and I'm like it's not glamorous. It's hard There's a lot that goes into it. You know and you have to love it if you are somebody who has your own business or your own brand? You have to love it because it is not I mean I would say. Ninety, eight percent of it's not glamorous, but it's rewarding. You know it's something that you love, but you're GONNA have failures. You can't be afraid to work hard and fail. Because, you're GONNA. Do both of those all the time? And you know and learning from your from your failures for me. It's like you know we've had products that the ones that you've mentioned like happy planner that quadrupled the size of our business in the matter of two years But in the in between, and we had already had like a pretty successful company, and we were like well, but what you don't see, are all of the things where you come out with the product and you're like that's a dog. You Know Kate next. What do we? Can we learn from that? You know that's what you can't. You can't shy away from it, but nobody wants to see that nobody, but those are the lessons. Are you know what you're seeing? When when you see the happy planner is our success of you know Gosh over twenty we did that. It was fifteen years. I think into the our business before we hit that like Grand Slam, we'd had several. You know that was. This product was a triple. This one was a strikeout. This one was a base hit. And then you know, we never know we not. Even we're not even. Promise that we were going to have that big of a success that we just kept going and every time we did we learned something like Oh we didn't do. The packaging wasn't right or you know. Maybe we rent to too early into that trend, or maybe we didn't research it enough or maybe we learned something every time but I mean we've had. We've had product failures. We've had really difficult times in the economy I've been around here through September eleventh through the two thousand eight crash where the business was doing great, and then all of a sudden we've had were having to like have layoffs and figure out how to make the hard decisions. To keep your business healthy and around and surviving, and that's really hard. I mean that's something that right now we're going through. You know we have. Luckily we've got a great basin. We've had a very successful business, but this is a gut punch, and for a healthy business like ours. This has been really difficult and I can only imagine if you're struggling before this, but you just have to figure out you. It's almost like a business as almost like being a parent. You've got to make those tough decisions. Decisions you know that not everyone's going to understand. That's going to be hard. It's going to keep you up at night. and those those you don't see those on social media. No one's sharing like we had to really hard today and or have been meetings all day, and if they are, they're showing you the picture of themselves looking really cute, and you know here I am with my thing and it's. It's just not always like that victims hardly ever like that, so I think it's sometimes i. I've shared lots more real version especially on my own personal social media on instagram. Especially because I, think we do a disservice to. Everybody but to women's in general specifically where it's like if you're trying to be an inspiration and trying to share with other women, this is what if I can, we can all be here for each other. You, know in business, and this is how we can succeed. We are doing a disservice if we are just showing what our lives really never looked like And how how then do those? How'd you push through? How do you push through at the worst times for people that are listening that are entrepreneurs have launched their business or not seeing success right away. Like what have you learned to cut has kept you going. I think i. mean this sounds like something that my husband would go. No, if you can't measure it, you can't manage it because he's. My husband was our CFO CEO and. But for me, I, it's so much into an instinct. And then pushed through because I believe in my instinct very strongly. There's a thing like I feel like you know for us. We were very fortunate that the business that we started stayed healthy, and was viable forever, however I. Kind of look at our product launches in our product releases and different product types almost like many businesses, because there comes a time when you know this isn't working, you know there comes a time when you're like. We just need to let this keep going. We need to work at market. We need and you just you kind of. If you're really being honest with yourself, you know when it's like am I pushing too hard for something. That's not really making. Any headway or do I just need to keep working harder and I feel like You know if we ask ourselves how we done everything. HAVE WE EXHAUSTED EVERY OPTION? That's what I think. We need to kind of listeners, though because I just feel like if you are sitting here like. With a struggling business, let's say whether it's from the economy or just like I'm just not going anywhere It's hard because some people will say just keep going. Just keep going all the time. I don't think you should do that all the time. Sometimes you want maybe need to move onto. Something different doesn't mean you're not going to be. In business or start your own company, or but maybe this, isn't it? Maybe it is? Maybe you're just sitting there going. You know what this is going to be tough times, but I believe in this business i. know we have and we're going to keep going, so you kind of have to listen to that. You know you're got to say. Where are you? Are you? You know? Do I need to keep pushing through this, or is there something else that I need to be? Doing are exploring. It's such a weird time to because with everything going on I. Mean People are obviously doing less news less really to plan but I think there's still an opportunity and it's great that the product isn't just a manner planning out your daily activities that can also be used for intentional set goal setting in just writing down thoughts that you have journaling so I love that it's it's I town that regard Have you guys thought of ways to during this tough time? Kind of still sell your product in different ways or maybe thinking about different product lunches. Were you know what kind of has been brewing in the last few weeks, so it's like a perfect example of. Of evolving and pivoting right so like. Yes, when you're when we're looking at people that are planning your days just filled. My days were just like I couldn't even have the whole damn thinking. How tiny can I right because there's so much going on, but you know one of the other things we have in our product, minus positively journaling and guided journals, and then when you you know for us, it would be so tone deaf to be talking. Talking about we know you're busy. Let's just talk about busy busy busy schedule Hustle. Let's go because this is not the time for that, so we had to look at. What do we have in? You know in our offering. And what do we have What do we think is important or is there something else we can offer so for us? you know slowing down journaling 'cause for me. It's all about putting the pen to paper. I Love I love my. Technology and I. On my computer as well, but there's something to me about writing stuff down whether it's my schedule and prioritizing key efficient or whether it's like you know just journaling what I'm grateful for writing that down I did a whole like wellness like year in two thousand eighteen, where every single day for the entire year I journal. Like what am I feeling I thought it was going to be like more. Of a fitness thinks I like. My cholesterol is high, and I needed to lose weight, and I was going to do all these things I'm going to travel the stuff and what it became was. Oh my gosh, I'm realizing that I'm tagging my emotions now like when I would write things down the journaling became the biggest part for me is what I was feeling like I was really I felt very marginalized that meeting today, and I came home, and I think like I was going into hibernation. You know and I was angry and I was, but I was identifying my feelings. Why was I instead of just going like writing down my food log? You know it's like it wasn't helpful for me. I. Know How to eat healthy. But to realize that when I feel angry, I don't know what to do with those feelings and to eat them you know, or and I'm like an eye stuff them and I. Try and do anything in Canton. and that was like a realization for me, so we're kind of leaning into that and saying hey, right now when you're stressed or you're afraid or whatever it is that you're going through. What can you lean into? And how can you get in touch with your feelings whether it's do journaling or if you really do maybe you're a mom who is trying to work fulltime at home and also. Also home school your kids to the distance learning the. Maybe you need to be really efficient, so you need to you know. What is it that you need and listening to that? Do you need to be productive? Do you need to be kind of moving a little more inward, and then just writing it down and really getting out of your head and onto paper, so you can help process it. Yeah I need to start journaling. That is something that. I know he's for the whole year. Did you notice that it had a huge impact on? It changed the way I thought it totally and I'm the same way because I'm like I'm so famous for starting a journal. And then it's really good for like a couple weeks, and then it's empty, and I keep it and all these like you know journals that have a little bit done in the beginning, and then like I wish I could combine them all. And are they now? It's like so I just said I have never made like a year long commitment to myself I. Will I mean I will do anything for my kids. My husband, my family, my, you know the team of me me and my big ideas, but for me. It'd be like I'm always the first one to get shoved off the list and so I, said I need I was stressed because just like what you were saying. Our business was. Wildly successful that year, and the year before that but I was so stressed out. Because when you quadruple the size of your company, and you're trying to do the same things that you did before scaling it and learning how to do that so quickly is really stressful for a for a creative person who likes to do things like. As I'm inspired. And so. So dealing with that was huge, so all of these things that I saw which were gaining weight having high cholesterol, not sleeping at night, having hiring Zaidi I was thinking, it was because I'm out of shape or this and I didn't really realize accepted the journaling. which that's not what I started to do. That it was more than just that and so this journaling process just gave me. Such clarity and insight into my own feelings that I had no idea and I don't think if I if I just tried to do that at the very beginning for just a little bit I, don't think I would have. Gotten as deep because like doing it every single year someday the destroy today sucked. He knows the worst day ever and I didn't know how to see it through, but then as I got used to journaling just as an exercise every day. I learned to go. You know to just kind of. I guess like look a little deeper. Really. Shed light on stuff that I had no idea I was looking for. I feel like now. I'M GONNA. Go buy one of your journals because I'm so inspired by that by just what you said and I think that I'm someone that just keeps everything in my head and I talked to myself all day every day just. All the things that have to do all the things that should you know that are behind me? That I should have done yesterday it's that's great. I love that with you. You know you don't realize that when you're not like kind of emptying out. It's like for me I was not able to. I was not able to like think of I was kind of creatively blocked, and then I was like even motion. Lee blocked and they just didn't realize because I'm the same. I am an over thinker. I like I process everything and I just I kinda hold onto it and I get very wrapped up in my own head, and so it was just almost like an emptying of it and helps me sleep. Helped me do all that stuff, so my guys. I think you'll love it. Okay. I'm sold. journaling. Borsch, now let's talk a little bit about living intentionally, which is very much related to what we're talking about now, bite. What does it mean for you to live intentionally? And how can people cultivate a more meaningful life? Because obviously you found your passion, you work really hard at you. Know keeping your mind rate, and it seems like you're a very self, reflective person, but how how have you gotten there? I think. I've always been somebody who really likes. Growing looking inside I ask a Lotta questions of myself and. Other people like I. Try and tell my husband like I'm not really trying to psychoanalyze you. Even I would love to just get into everybody's head, but I think that there's so much we can learn. And one of the things that I have learned just by trying to grow as a person and being teachable. Has Been You. Know there's nobody in the world that is going to take charge of my life, my happiness, the things that I want that me. Matt what happens around me it doesn't you know we can all we can all be complaining about what's happening in the world with your job with your relationship, but when it really comes down to it, you're the one that's responsible for what it is. You want in your life and how happy you are. And so for me, it started with number one. I needed to. Learn how to love myself because I didn't love and accept yourself believe you're worthy of all those things, and then once you believe that those things started kind of coming into my life and a realize it's like you know. That was something that I had to really focus on. I had to work on with myself I am. We're a project, so if you go out there, and you really want a job, or you really want to start a business, or you want a relationship. You have to almost I think. Go for the life that you want with that same passion and I mean for me. It's just been about really starting to identify. What is it that you want? What is it that makes you happy? And how do you need to get that? I think that's why I'm a planner at heart, because living intentionally as really planning, you're trying to like you have to identify something first and then figure out how you're going to get it right, so it's like for me. Identifying. What makes me happy? What the name of our podcast plan? Happy Life at the Tagline for our company. Or for the for the happy planner, because really feel like you know if if for me, I need to identify what it is, that makes me happy right, and so I'm not somebody who is an Adrenalin Junkie I'm not someone who needs a lot of activity in my life, I need I need serenity a need. Calm I need a place to be creative I want to go travel I want to be with my family so when I. Start to really identify Granular Li, like what it is, that makes me happy and what I want I can easily say you know okay well. Then I am intentionally going to make the choices that get me closer to those things that I want and. It's really a responsibility. You know it's really taking responsibility for For the actions that we take and you know and I think it's empowering I actually feel like instead of going like Oh. My Gosh I'm responsible for all of these things in my life and no one's going to do about me that makes me. I think it just gives it gives me the power back to say you know. Stuff can happen all around me. Crap can just be going on like everywhere and internally I can live intentionally with what makes me happy, which what? And I can be. Responsible for especially this stuff that's going on in my head. You know so setting intentions of you know whether it's daily whether it's setting an intention for a year or whenever you're feeling like you need a little more clarity into. What am I working for I think it's a really powerful thing to do and I know sometimes when things get more popularity. They gained that whole like people in Oh. Yeah, okay. Setting intentions are doing all this, and it sounds a little Wu, and all that and I'm like it, but it really really makes a difference in how we live our lives, and the decisions that we make yeah, and it's all it all goes back to taking accountability, right and totally nine I. always talk about this on the podcast where a lot of people struggle with that I. Think they kind of have this. Poor me, mentality or you know I could never accomplish that I'm not ex- enough. I'm not educated. Enough I'm not. You know fast enough smart enough pretty enough whatever it is, and I just do I. Hope that if pe- when people listen to this episode, they really if they take anything from it. I really hope that they listen to what you just said. Because it's so powerful, that's such a like. I can't I've had a lot of things. People will ask me like well. Of course, it's easy for you to be happy because where you are today, you know and I said, but but here's what you don't understand is that? The reason I'm happy is not because I have all the things that I have the reason I have all the things that I have is because a happy positive person who believes that I have. that. What happens in my life is a result of you know of the way that I go about it and what I believe I deserve and how and then I can have those things I'm happy. And I'm positive period. Doesn't necessarily. Happy happy I just mean like I'm going to be content and positive and optimistic in my life. No matter what is going on and I have lived through a lot of things I've had like I said I shared with you. Guys had some traumatic things in my childhood that have happened I was had a child eighteen I had a lot of money issues. I'm growing up. I was in an abusive relationship with physically and mentally, and there's a have been drug abuse them I mean lots of things that I've had to deal with and. I could very easily any of those instances been. Why did this happen to me? I could never start a business because I don't have a college education and they don't have any money, and they don't have this and you know. What will people think of me and you know a? Growing and believing that you can do something, no matter what like having that resilience and having that. Like I'm just going to figure it out like I said I. It pretty much anything now I'm probably going to be more of a of a jack-of-all-trades master of none but that's okay. That's who I am, and that's really has gotten me where I'm at, but yeah. I just I think if anything I totally agree with you. If I share anything, it would be that no matter what your circumstances are in life. I think optimism and. And believing that no matter what happens to you, you will get through this, and you make something of yourself, and you can get the things that you want in life If you know if you're working, you work hard. You have to be willing to work hard. You have to be teachable if to learn to be confident, but all those things are things you can control. And it doesn't really matter what your circumstances are. So that would be something I mean. Yes. I love the product. Yes, I love our brand. Yes, I love all these other things, but that's just something that I think everyone can take with them throughout their lives. Such great life advice, and it's so true I feel like there's been looking back and reflecting on my own experiences to and the hardships that you know everyone has different forms of adversity, but how you respond and react to that is I think all the difference and I think it was a murray furlough that said everything is figure out. That just. When you said that because it's true like if you have that drive and that hustle enough to do what it is that you WanNa, do you can figure that all out and I think Alex also reiterated several times. There's this concept of just start now. Figure everything else out along the way as you go. Otherwise, you're never gonNA start. You're never going to achieve those goals but in terms of goal, setting and just organizational tips. I mean I feel like the ideal buyer of the happy planner is a very organized individual, or maybe they're aspiring to be more organized. So what are some good organizational tips just in general that people can start practicing and then apply to the happy planner. And I am not a naturally organized person. At like what you see back there on this video that we're recording over is not what it normally looks like I'm a creative person so I'm very like. Just kind of scattered and I will follow an idea like if I have an idea, I'm like I'm down that rabbit hole and. There's a chaos and mastic usually follows so being organized and using happy planner and using organizational tools is actually been essential for me to be like a productive society member of society or running a business, so one of my favorite tools and I think we kind of alluded to this a little earlier was getting things out of your head in getting him down I use a master What I call him Master Action Item List, so it doesn't matter if like you are thinking of I've gotTa. GotTa do cupcakes the Kids School I've got empty. The dishwasher I have a huge project that I'm working on. That's do every little thing. Take space up in your head and It doesn't really you know you're not really. They all have the same weight, so you're thinking constantly of the Dishwasher, the cupcakes and all of these things and you don't have the space to really think about Give yourself like. Hey, now. I'm really focusing on the project because there's so much stuff spinning in your head. And, so I think David Allen I think is his name he said you're. You're headed for having ideas, not storing them so like for me. It's like Oh, my gosh, that is so perfect so I take and had this one massive list actually I have to, but it's ones home in one's work, but usually for most people one will do and. If everything that comes out of my head is something that I have to do if it's an action item. I put it on my list and then I work from that list. Would plan my weeks when I plan my days, so I look at Monday and I think okay. I've got five meetings not lot. Stuff's going to be coming off that to do list, but on Tuesday I have one meeting in the morning and I had the whole day that I. have so I'll go off of my master list and then start working from there. I'M NOT GONNA forget my tasks that way. It's not going to be like oh shoot cupcake sting it. You have your your things that have due dates and everything so when I'm working from it I don't have fifteen sticky notes everywhere and a piece of paper that I wrote over there. That I got lost cause. I left it in my car and you're constantly then figuring out. How do I remember where it was that thing so keeping everything kind of in one place has been a big tip for me. the second organizational tip that I use I plan every Sunday I plan my week out every Sunday so or whatever the day before the start of week.' In for me. Mondays the start, so I sit down I. Take a look at what are all of the to the must do's appointments. The the deadlines that have to happen that week and get all those things in there and I. I plan everything out from date night with my husband every week. we're putting that in their first wins the time that I need one of my GonNa. Go exercise. When am I going to those put in appointments, and then I start to fill in again with things from that master to do. If I don't do that, then you know, there's things that come up and they're just time. Thief's and they come in to take in all of a sudden. You look and you've spent. Monday and you're thinking I've done nothing you know. It could be a week and you're going like shoot. There's nothing off my list. conversely you can take a look at that, and if you've been really productive, there've been times. I had no idea I could get that much done. So those are two tips for me to stay on and just to contend me. Being organized means being productive, because if I'm not productive, my stuff's all over the place. I get very easily overwhelmed, and that is not a good place for me to be. I was GONNA ask as well with with your master. Master list you add everything from like emptying the dishwasher doing laundry like every task so usually I have like if those are ongoing I will have just started doing this, which helped a lot, but all I kind of assign like if something that occurs every week for me I have a list. That's basically recurring tasks, so if you're if it's a cleaning thing, it's like an you know you've got changes sheets. You know the bathrooms or whatever I've got empty Roomba. because. Just, all those little things that are like take the trash out. Those are of things that I put off to the side which are more recurring tasks. And then when I sit down. Unday, I think you know empty room by the today's the in the evenings and do my meal planning here and those things happen all the time. The the Master List for me is you know the things that are their projects or their like like for me for my work one. It's like every time like I need to talk to him about this Call up this person and make sure I return this thing and check out on. All of the let's marketing meetings scheduled out. Make sure to reach out and so then I can cross them off. On Cross them off. And then when they're done, they're done, and of course you know once it gets to about halfway marked off at create a new list because it's prettier. And I like doing that, but yeah, the reoccurred things I keep separately. Of It, so we're GONNA. Get this all in. Your home about really what you're saying is it comes down to time management skills right, and yes, you know like you said there are some days ago by and I'm like. How did I just spent two hours scrolling through instagram? Checking emails bearing bearing myself in emails that really don't I don't need to get back to these people right away and you self reflect and go like that I see I'm busy, but to hours of that time was wasted. Time management is huge, and that was another thing that I uncovered in my memorabilia box that said think I was in like fourth grade and the teacher says like Stephanie needs to learn time management. Because it is true, because I do the same thing and I feel like there's so many times when people say I just don't have enough time and I'm thinking i. just spent four hours binge-watching. Whatever I. We. Do have the time and that's okay. If you're going, you know what I'm going to. It's going to be a binge party like I am going to be watching and It's fine but I think we need to be aware like you don't WanNa miss out on the things that you either want to be doing our need to be doing because you're not managing your time well and like I said it's a constant struggle. This is going to be something that I'm GonNa be. Be doing for my whole life. Because you know because I'm just not naturally inclined to be that way even, but it's a habit you know, and it's easier for me now, but managing your time well and scheduling it out is is a habit that we form you know, and it's just like it just becomes easier and then yeah, you find him. There's nothing to me like when I look at a list I'm like. Oh, my gosh look! How productive I was this week! That is such a good feeling when you even when you finish the day, and you're like man I was on point today like I knocked this off the list and I. Did this and you just feel good? There's just this feeling it brings. There's something about they say like an actual like I don't know what gets release, dopamine, or whatever that when you cross things off your list. That, yes, go. It is what? What are some other resources that you? You've enjoyed yourself or that? You would recommend to listeners in terms of time, management or building, good habits, organizational tools and practices. I think that like to meet. Okay decluttering. Making sure that you like you don't have because again. The more clutter at the worst and I know they say you know a messy desk or whatever they say, but the MESSI dozen. Beans or whatever and it is, but it's probably one who's just driving themselves crazy 'cause they can't find anything so developing somewhat of. Of A protocol for how you're GONNA. Plan your weeks and then also. One of the things I don't know if it's not really a resource, but it's something that I learned that. I kind of tend to first thing in the morning. I want to like answer all like you're saying I. Want to answer all my emails, and then of course I go down. Somebody's asking you know unsubscribe to all these things now and then I started subscribing, and then I go down, and so somebody told me to block off your days and at the beginning. Do the most important thing for you that you need to. To get done in the morning or whenever it is that you work I work best in the morning and freshest van, and then about three o'clock, I'm looking for anything else. I'm looking for something to snack on or any distraction and it, but some people are not also if you're like going, this is when I do my best work. Then make sure you can identify those times because you're gonNA. Find that you have. You're going to get more done. You'RE GONNA feel more efficient more. More productive and I think that's going to help I. Definitely, figure think that if you can figure out how technology and productivity work for you. I am kind of a hybrid between outlook and all of the technology that we can't. We have that really does keep us I've got when I have meetings. All my stuff is stored. I, don't WanNa. Right down the zoom. Call Identification Number and the password, and all these things you know, that's all stored in my outlook and I have a really good relationship between paper planning and my tech, you know. And then but I have a process every time I have like a nice system. I think I think that works I've been I've used a lot of productivity tools into honest with you. Nothing's really kept me more productive than just keeping it simple and planning things out and getting stuff done I mean it. It starts off great, but then it's just something else for me to. Keep track of so having something just right in my face whether it's my outlook, calendar or or my paper planner I just like I, said I've tried I've tried them all I've tried. And I know they were really well for some people, but for me it's just all about keeping it really simple and just getting stuff done. Yeah, and you know what I love the realness because we get questions, sometimes of like. How do you have a business and you work fulltime in your mind like? How do you do all the things? And I always kind of self reflect in its and I always think you know. You make time for what's important to you. That's the bottom line. We all have twenty four hours a day. I think that that hustle mentality isn't always helpful and isn't always positive, but at the same time if you have something that you want to accomplish. You just have to do it. You have to figure it out and do it. That's the bottom line. So Yeah? I love what you said on that. You know what I'd like to ask you Stephanie. If there's some sort of book or podcast or resource that you'd recommend for our followers, I don't know if you have any in mind that something that is is really impacted you in some way. Yes, so two different two different things so a book that basically just changed my life completely were was the gifts of imperfection by Bernard Brown. And it was one of those things where I just realized I don't have to be perfect I'm worthy of just the way I am, and that just really kind of just her whole. I love her so much that book. When I started to believe those things about myself, things change. They think changed in my life. They changed in my business That's why I think that no matter what you're looking at doing that. Inner work is I. Don't don't try and like. Get the promotion or getting the relationship, because you think that's GonNa make you more successful or happier, or whatever, because if you're not okay with that first step I it's all going to be empty. You know you're going to get the promotion, but it's not gonNA. Feel as great as you thought it was. Because you're. There's there's that whole in there that you're trying to fill so. That personally was amazing for me and then I love how I built this by Cairo's and. The podcast and for business. That's something that I listened to and I just. If, you're ever wanting to start a business and you think well I don't fit the typical either entrepreneur or business owner, or whatever I don't fit that mold listen to those stories there from every walk of life and every kind of story. It's so empowering to listen to them, but it's also really interesting to see how some of those people dealt with you know the setbacks, and how they how they innovated, and how they funded their businesses, and it's really interesting, and so, and they've covered just about like every aspect of business so I love those, too. Such third-rate episode actually heard how I built. This I've never listened to it, but I've heard it is great good, so that'll be one that'll that'll be added to my podcast list. podcasts our life right now in quarantine. Basically do anything and just have headphones on and listen to podcasts. For sure so good. Well this has been great. We are so happy that we have had the chance to chat with you and an answer all of our questions. Where can people find you on on social media? And where can they purchase happy planner? So they can find a me personally and INSTAGRAM's. Where is my John? That's what I love the most. People over it Instagram, so you can find me at Stephanie Score, Fleming. And then you can find the happy planner, which on Instagram, as the underscore happy, underscore planner or the happy planet Dot Com. I also have a podcast called planet. Happy Life that host with my daughter, sharing tips about how you can choose to be happier and planned to be happier and. And we love that, so that is planned a happy life. You can find that. At Planet Happy Life Dot Com so and then the happy planner you can buy at craft stores all over Michael's Joanne. Hobby Lobby Walmart and that'd be planner DOT COM, so we're all over. Love it. It's awesome. That is so great. We will link everything in the show notes, and it has been such a pleasure Stephanie you offer so much wisdom. As it relates to not only business but life so thank you for sitting down with us today. Thank you appreciate it. It's been fun talking to you.

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I Feel Better Naked

The Carlat Psychiatry Podcast

01:40 min | 1 year ago

I Feel Better Naked

"Today on sixty seconds psych I feel better naked. Whether gardening outdoors or hiking in the woods, getting back to nature is generally good for mental health. But what about just getting naked today we report on the first randomized controlled trial of naked activity on body image anxiety. The study by. On whist recruited fifty one British adults with a simple, add on twitter. Hang out with others. Drink some wine and get paid ten quid that were then randomized into one of two rooms in a north London bar. In the first room, they mingled and drank with clothes on in the second room. They were met with an instruction. That must've felt like a surprise for this experiment. All you have to do is one enjoy yourself in the company of others for forty five minutes, and to do so naked. All participants are expected to disrobe for this part of the experiment, and they all disrobed without incident. The result socializing naked reduced body imaging Zaidi. It also improved body appreciation, but this effect seemed mediated by the reduction in negative feelings about one's body. The intervention had no effect on the perceived attractiveness of others. What in the devil does this all mean well? They didn't recruit a clinical sample, so it tells us nothing about how nude interactions would affect people with eating disorders, dismore disorder or social anxiety. But it does help us understand and empathize with patients who pursued the nudist lifestyle, and that was likely the sponsors goal for the study, which was funded by the British Nature Ism group unnoticed

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"zaidi" Discussed on KNBR The Sports Leader

KNBR The Sports Leader

05:46 min | 2 years ago

"zaidi" Discussed on KNBR The Sports Leader

"But what Farhan Zaidi did yesterday was huge this trade with the angels you're gonna end up hearing all about Zack Cozart reason you're gonna hear about Zack Cozart is his somebody who actually has a major league track record he actually has some stats on baseball reference you may have heard of and you may have seen him play a game or two and so the headline hits all over the place the giants have acquired Zack Cozart from the angels well what they give up nothing either money or player to be named we're not sure now I joked about the angels last night because I very much believe that this trade was in order to clear money for Gerrit Cole hours later they didn't get a I did say one copy out last night well maybe maybe that money is being saved for Anthony Rendon own as well and maybe in a few hours or a few minutes maybe or hear something on and you'll know why the angels did what they did but I understand the chain link fence that is being created here how each move is connected to the next by farms ID you trademark molasses you non tender Kevin Pelor and fans go well what we we do it we doing non tender income Pelor that it creates an an an incredible amount of financial flexibility and then when there's another team out there either because all gosh we want it to be read down or up against luxury tax line that is simply picks up the phone hi I angels Hey he do it yeah see word a position to help you out here I I I heard that you're a in a little bit of a financial bind I thought maybe a I thought maybe we could cure your ills what's the contract maybe you'd like to get rid of well how far on Jeez this Zack Cozart it one twenty four last year and he's been hurt two years in a row it's real drain honest twelve million Bucks like man we could really use get out from underneath that cool send me your first round draft pick and it's done yeah but but I don't know I said send me the first round draft pick and then it's done I didn't say we're gonna sit here negotiator said guidon send me the number one pick in your draft just six months ago and once you do that he got your twelve million Bucks if it's done did you notice something else and I thought this was a fascinating conversation with regard to the giants farm system so this guy the giants were actually after his name is will Wilson he's a middle infielder with power Hey I'm will was the number four prospect in the angel system already only been there for a few months number four prospect in the angel system he immediately gets sent over the giants where he is the number ten prospects in their system and I thought to myself huh huh really remember when the giants farm system you have heard it how long did down you're in into your head for the last I don't know how many years three four years the giants farm system is depleted it's awful there's nothing there well then the angels fourth best prospect is the giants tenth best prospect he was drafted fifteenth overall barely cracked the top ten now far Han did that he did that in a year he built this farm system from all fall to getting to a point where it's starting to load up with young talent and this is how you do it it's not by giving somebody nine years and three hundred twenty four million dollars the Dodgers don't do that they didn't do that I have a look at their payroll the reason the Dodgers lineup one through eight just keeps coming out you all my gosh there's another twenty five year old with thirty bombs they get him out here comes another one how do you do that you have a farm system that just keeps coming and it won't quit that's what Farrakhan helped build with the Dodgers is exactly what he's doing right now with the giants so this may feel odd I have complete faith in it and I can't wait to dive in and have a further conversation with general manager Scott Harris alongside far on he's gonna join us live coming up next on the sports later about giant hot stove league show home of orange and black baseball KNBR one oh four five nine six sports leader it may not be stomach issues for me it's intense gas or pain or diarrhea sometimes all at once over and over I spent years with the symptoms but could never figure it out no matter what I did they never went away so I decided to break it down for my doctor and get really specific about my symptoms we discovered that exocrine pancreatic insufficiency or E. P. I may be the reason for my stomach issues E. P. eyes caused by my pancreas it leads to diarrhea gas bloating stomach pain unexplained weight loss and oily stools the symptoms just don't go away but he P. I can show up with.

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"zaidi" Discussed on Addiction Unlimited Podcast | Alcoholism | 12 Steps | Living Sober | Addiction Treatment

Addiction Unlimited Podcast | Alcoholism | 12 Steps | Living Sober | Addiction Treatment

04:54 min | 2 years ago

"zaidi" Discussed on Addiction Unlimited Podcast | Alcoholism | 12 Steps | Living Sober | Addiction Treatment

"What do you want to be in your community is it patient car and honest do you WanNa be a person who is living with integrity the Court of fear in me that's really what it was more about is would something happened that would make me fearful I would just have this instant crazy react like very different kinds of cars but I am car crazy I love cars I follow cars as they're being developed I go to the car shows I'm crazy I had a really nice car not in the moment right I just freaked out and threw a temper tantrum and my sponsor called right is happen now that's a higher power moment if there ever was one right he always hold at the perfect moment and as soon as I picked up the phone I just started yelling freaking out about my car in my life was over and the transmissions going out it's gonNa cost thousands of dollars and I said yeah it seems to be fine because by that time you know after I've been screaming and yelling to him for a few minutes it's I was driving down the road and my car was fine in when he said that like I started to feel a little embarrassed any calmly said okay why don't we see how it goes the rest of the day and if it does it again I know a guy who works on transmissions and I think you have his number two you because it's your dad in that single moment of him just being rational my I started to fall away because if something major was wrong with my car I would have figured out a solution because I always figure Oughta solution and he was right my dad is a transmission guy like my biggest car fear on the planet is probably the most manageable thing that could go wrong but the committee tells me it's worthy of a temper tantrum because the committee needs me to be stuck in drama so it can run wild and continue to be in control and I reacted like that to a lot of things literally instant drama and chaos forever trapped in fear fear of everything fearful of people hurting me fearful liking me fear of being broke or running out of money fear of never accomplishing anything because I didn't know how fear of never being anything like I was a giant ball of fear and when you're hula-hoop is a place of fear the ending Zaidi or anger and resentment with no plan or goals or action it becomes a hostile environment and when the hostile environment is inside your hula-hoop that means it's your responsibility to get that place cleaned up and figure out who you I wanna be instead of who the committee has trained you to be start taking some solid daily Russian to feel better and be better.

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"zaidi" Discussed on Power 105.1 FM

Power 105.1 FM

01:38 min | 2 years ago

"zaidi" Discussed on Power 105.1 FM

"Tena them, did not have what they said, was in it really five that nothing that really regulated yet. Nothing lead at all. Either the industries do it or governor to do it. But there are a lot of people who listen to you right now, go out and buy CBD product, and they have a miserable result. A lot of money no benefit. Why because he bought fake stuff. And how do you tell it's hard right from a pharmacy that we tested were sold in pharmacies, the Charlie, it may work for some of those things, it probably doesn't help all of them equally. Well, maybe it helps joint pain, a lot Zaidi a lot, but not quite so good for sleep and mezzo beneficial for intestines or whatever people just start shotgun it. And then they start to find their own little path. You might think it's helping you mentioned mentally xactly, so yes. But, but it worries me a lot. When ten out of thirteen specimens, were fake because that means most people can have a bad experience energy space. If what did they put it was, it was fake. They don't put CD in it. There was literally no CBD in five of the of products zero and four that had so little, you know, do anything xactly. What did a good CD brands I use green robes. I know which bans, you never looked at it. But I think the CD in this, you ought to get together and create some kind of a certification process Sadullah, the government do to yourself say we're going to stamp on this thing. CBD real or something mix USCB de them that everyone can trust then. But if if in the meantime, go for big companies, the bigger, the company, the more likely they're going to be giving you real stuck because they're going to be going out of business on the rise thought about assumed it was good in the pharmacy. No, not at all. That's one of the problems rain to time we have so much misinformation about things.

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"zaidi" Discussed on KDWN 720AM

KDWN 720AM

04:42 min | 2 years ago

"zaidi" Discussed on KDWN 720AM

"Go there because that's where all on them. I just f- h u dot com is all I know how to say it. On the internet there. It is. And if you go there. You can donate. So I can build our up before I leave this earth sea. And I want to start with English speaking people because I phones I. And I don't have to climb over mountains. I don't need a spirit. Everybody's got iphone. And you'll be able to go to f h u dot com and. But. Seek for answer for cancer. Whatever it is. And you'll see that every sickness. Every single sickness ninety five percent of all of them are part of a tree. You get upset you start getting sick. Anxiety, and you have anxiety eat so much emotional feeling. Oh, it's feel so good. You gotta feeling feeling that you alive, but you're not really beginning to try. And if you smoke also takes away. Because if you don't have smoke. You feel that your sense kills. Having Zaidi because gilts is following you all the way to the grave hoping that you wake up. And be set free. But the trouble is you all never want to be wrong. You always have be right. And you don't wanna play with me. Because I'm not me. I'm the extension of him. I want you to be the extension of him. But you can extension him to me because they're not many me's right now, we're going take our next call. The post office box one thousand grants pass Oregon nine seven five two eight please. Put some money in his old man's hat for the future because the future will be free right now. It's mostly free. Donations and needed and donations will be needed after I've gone. Because you've got to keep it going, and you have to have people working with it. And be but I've learned is that those people who have helped support program. I so anyway, just support it. Thank you. My cancer is gone. My problems are gone. All of them coming from the same sickness? It just depends on on. The tree that you're. Routing is where you sprouts if spout back if you anger is. Yeah. Remedied by cigarettes. Then you get the death of cigarettes. If it's eating too much. Is he from worse? Is no longer food addiction. And you see half of you die from that horrible horrible. But you see if you see you won't need all those doctors you may need them for for a little while. Until you get to see what I'm trying to share with you. Sinn emotion is the essence of sin, and as long as you have emotion, you can be controlled. But now. If it's any person out there wants to argue with me confront me, you better take a second thought. You bet it is. I'm warning you on warning you I've been on the radio for fifty four years. Around that about fifty four years. And have no idea of how the infected the wicked ones..

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"zaidi" Discussed on KLBJ 590AM

KLBJ 590AM

02:17 min | 2 years ago

"zaidi" Discussed on KLBJ 590AM

"Mom's your kids and your job are all stressing you out this quoting to researchers from while they found that women with two children and a time job or significantly more stressed out than others on this planet. I couldn't imagine. Yeah. The study of six thousand women took into account work life blood pressure hormones and common triggers of stress, and according to the study chronic stress was also higher forty percent higher chronic stress can causing Zaidi depression, insomnia unexplained headaches. Yeah. The stuff. Study may suggest that you cut back on work that help as women with two children help you be a little more, flexible, work, schedules, and experience, less stress. This was even found to be the case for father's. Yeah. But there you go. That's pretty interesting. You know, it gives me perspective about that is not being a father and having a wife who's not a working mother. My have a wife that does work fulltime. I have a fulltime job here. More or less. And and we are you about to tell us how difficult, you know. Just just give me really get. No, wait a second. Let me let me get a community. That's what gives me perspective gang colors in highschool where plaid not even done yet. Made played the video games for you. Okay. You finish the story. Go ahead. We want to avoid stressed your life is my point is is that even low life, even though that we don't have kids we do have jobs and at times things get stressful. Just in our daily lives are busy, and I'm not put it in. And that's what gives me gives me perspective is no, I'm not asking. What are you stressed out of? I'm not saying pour me what I'm give me. One thing you finish. The damn story is going to be one thing. Let me make my point. My point is my point is that I have all in all I have a pretty Kush life. I'll give you that. I have a pretty easy life, and that's the way it's been designed. So I think wow in sometimes I feel like our lives can be stressful. I can't even imagine what it would be like for a working mother. I can't even I can't even get my head around that that was a long way to go for not that dramatic of a point. God you make me work. Sometimes you and you have a you have a cushy life. Do.

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"zaidi" Discussed on Bulletproof Radio

Bulletproof Radio

01:34 min | 3 years ago

"zaidi" Discussed on Bulletproof Radio

"Led to thirty percent moorings -iety than people who slept and the scores reached levels of people who having Zaidi disorders and sleep deprived people's brain activity change too. So when they looked at emotional videos, brain areas involved in motions were more active, the prefrontal cortex, which is the part of the hell. You think in pay attention sort of be of thinking human? It's also the party that slows down your anxiety that part was less active, and this is a functional scans. So porcelain business just a symptom of anxiety. But maybe it's a cause. And that is a definite call to hack your own sleep. Which is particularly something that wasn't in the study. That's really interesting too. Is that your gut bacteria also have their own separate circadian rhythm? So you stay up all night, or you're jetlagged, your gut bacteria are also jet lagged, and when they get pissed off guess what they do they make something called L P S or lipopolysaccharide very potent toxin that crosses the gut barrier. And especially we don't have an intact stomach lining cousin inflammation throughout the body, including the brain, so L P S SS, bad news. And this is one of those reasons that if you're gonna stay up all night, take some charcoal already because charcoal binds LVS and you'll feel better the next morning and you'll have. Things -iety who would have thought. Did you know that healthy food is always healthy? You've probably heard the advice to eat, your greens, and greens and nuts are anti-inflammatory, but data shows this isn't always.

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