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Pandemic Parenting - Will the Kids Be Okay Socially?
"Note. I received on instagram. Hi janet. I'm reaching out to see if you've touched upon. The current isolations are toddlers are having because of it. I have a twenty month old. That has basically had little to no interaction with other kids. And i worry about it. I also try not to be concerned knowing. He is still under too. But i just wanted to know if you've spoken on this. Thank you so much. So no. I don't think i have spoken directly about this and As i said it's the question i've received most since the pandemic so the short answer i have is that the kids will be all right that they will not be harmed in any major way by this pause in pierre socializing And maybe extended family socializing as well and others. Who studied child. Development have said the same that primarily. Children learn social behaviors through their primary caregivers through the relationships. They have with us as their parents. And this begins quite early with i contact communication and then children beginning to verbalize and understand what we're communicating. Social learning is often said probably one of the most complicated nuanced types of learning is quite different than learning multiplication tables or something that's measurable the beginning. Of course there are these these signs that children are on track but as they get older. There is a wide wide. Range of normal temperament comes into play we have extroverts and introverts so there isn't a specific timetable when children should be achieving xyz beyond those really couple of years when when children just starting to to show that they are becoming able communicators. So i would love to take this possible stressor off parents list for now since there are many reasons to be concerned in life and this is not going to be a major problem however there are things that we can do and i would recommend all these things anyway. But perhaps they're even more important in pandemic times when there is more 'isolation and less opportunity for children to practice their social skills with peers and and extended family. And so. I look back on a piece that i'd written a couple of years ago called four best ways to raise children with social intelligence and i notice that as i thought there's only one of these ways that's about children practicing with other children. The rest of them are about primary relationships for example. The first one is. Don't wait to communicate. Start speaking with your baby beginning a two way conversation right away and that doesn't mean we just start talking about the weather and hope that our child will respond. It means talking about pertinent things letting them know when we're doing something with them what we're doing step by step. I'm going to pick you up now. Now we'll go over to change your diaper. Now it's time for the bath. There's the warm water so we will be communicating about meaningful things set. Your child understands that this is important tool that helps you to feel connected to not only the other person but your
interview With Chef Andre Rush
"Thanks a lot for joining me. Pleasure to be here all right and incredibly honored the cheer joining me here today. Not only do. I admire what you represent all your accomplishments but you know the way you represent the military and serve the charities that benefit the military families. Thank you for that. Thank you for your service. Thank you a. really appreciate that. All right we're talking about a lot of stuff but first of all want to get it out of the way. How the heck did you get so big so big. Yeah your arms eating heat a lot. Well the twice as much as i do. i've always been in health and fitness. Mind tire life Soon as i could walk. my dad. put me to work From mississippi small town. I when i work i mean hard work. Not too little work You know lifting. He deconstructed for fifty years So it was kind of like that that giving to go into stuff. My dad told me a car and put it over there. I wouldn't do that when no questions wasn't about. I can't there's no. I cannot in my vocabulary well okay. So how was your childhood one childhood. I mean it was a extremely uh. I guess it was the best time as the worst time. Kind of like the military can elect life in a lot of perspectives I was I was different because my my mother taught me to neighboring part of of of who i am. That's why i give back so much. My dad taught me the hard work aspect of life. I mean when. I say hard work. It was a lot of times where i had to work in other kids went out and played. You know even with is football and track and and working out. I had to go and work so in the beginning. It was kind of like okay. You know. I wanna be a kid now look back at. I'm extremely grateful for the way i was raised. I i love it. Because i can give back to so more people with that That aspect of course so. Your dad instilled that disciplined in to. You accord really early age. What did he do. He did constructed for fifty years. When i say fifty years he retired after fifty years construction and that was when we didn't have the big machines or i mean some he would. I can put people to shame right. Now what i do. He would put me to shame when i do. Oh he's a big guy. He was a big guy. I mean endurance part of it. So that's kind of like all those things. I wanna be that guy who could run a for this jump. The highest lift moles not in a competitive way. Just my way. Yeah you have brothers and sisters. I do five sisters when colonel who's an air force My brother was Officer in the navy as will neither one was a merchant marine mouth sisters Educators teaching blind how to read and depth in life and in another one was a psychiatrist and social worker. You find yourself competing with them a lot. No then have to a has did alone. I mean it wasn't never competition. My my youngest sister in a huge gap between me my younger sister and then the rest of the family which was eight of us Maybe like thirteen years. So when i was a kid they were already going into thinking about what their next career is going to be a right. So what drives you. What drives me. Today people people inspiration motivational intestinal fortitude selfless service self motivation. I mean i have so many things that drive me that even i didn't know i knew they dan but not in the way that i do now that i can lynn an ear or voice or hand or some type of support I tell people all the time that you know. I positively hundred percent negatively Feet opened a thousand times more. Because there's always going to be more negative in the world and people say no. My circle is just positive small. And i say that's not true is because you're going to have the quote side. You're gonna have to talk to someone who's going to get under you and then you're gonna lose it. I i i have that passion where understood myself and ahead to realize that there's going be native so i need to figure out how i'm going to utilize it to my advantage now. Yeah you know you're you'd live such a life of service where you always kind of the value driven kid or or did was an event that happened earlier in life and led you to that No i was always said that type away because my mother likes my mother and my dad was excuse me that was low harder. My mother was a type of person who i was. A kid would bring the homeless off the street in table and feed them. And and i used to know person. Who's dressed like this coming in. You know everybody else's shunning them away and she said me and my sisters down family down and say hey this is a person or they have xyz and from there. It just opened my eyes. And instantly i. I changed looked at their situations and x. Why why not in. And of course. I was always putting immune the military when i put him this thrown into leadership roles so i had to learn how to adapt and luckily because of my background of where i was raised and it was a small time. Zippy believe me only a few people to go out and see so many different Religions and ethene and just a whole smorgasbord and rainbow of different cultures was just kinda fascinating to me and i wanted to understand each and every one
Conversation with Megan Alba
"Hello and welcome to episode fifty five today. I have joining me. Megan alba director account director with the silver telegram and content curators and we're gonna be talking about storytelling for brands. In how important it is in. This is kind of our first go at a video. Excuse us for the weirdness of we're just trying to get used to a new format. But yeah i megan how are you doing. I'm excited. yeah no. I'm excited as well. It's nice to have another person on talking about the same things that i'm talking about. So i'll megan has been working with this over telegram for like four years. I think there some something like that If you can just move closer so we can hear you a little bit better. That would begin sorry. I know you're like all relaxed in your green chair. They're new green chair. Having a conversation of green chair. conversations will take a little bite off of Jada pinkett smith with her correct table so so storytelling for brand is pretty important especially when we're talking about public relations in building our narratives to tell the media so we wanted to talk about like kind of some key tips on how to develop a really good story and story line and you're gonna do this many times when you're a startup or any kind of brand really so you're going do over and over and over again and typically we usually have three or four storylines going at the same time. Obviously when we're pitching to the medium but i would love to get your feedback on getting started and how to create a story line and you know how some people can start thinking about stories in what they should be including. So how how can we get started. When we're developing our storylines or how do we do it. I guess so. Before we jump into that what i will say is that you know. A lot of our clients come to us and say well. I'm not a storyteller in the truth. Is that everyone's a storyteller. And i like to say everyone has a story worth sharing. You're telling a story every day. What we're doing is helping you to learn how to manage that. Narrative had recognizing managed that narrative in your life. And so what we're teaching today can apply for Obviously across marketing and pr. But you know personally as well your own personal brand yeah so when we talk about storytelling really the first thing to start with the main idea and to and to build it out from there so sometimes the best thing you can do is to get back to basics. You know when you're in the middle of launching a product when you're in the middle of starting a new brand starting a new service. There's so many different things going on that. Oftentimes you feel pulled in many directions and sometimes you can lose sight of really the heart of the matter you can lose sight of the nugget that spurred all of this to begin with so what i recommend. A lot of times is go back to that. May ninety a what is it. What problem are you trying to solve. What issue where you're trying to address. What was the the main idea. The golden nugget. The lightbulb moment that popped into your head and you said i should do xyz to solve this problem. Go back to that main idea and that's going to be the heart of your storytelling point. I think a lot of people get like lost in like the verbs ray like this is the cutting edge or next generation or whatever and they they love to like hear that what they're doing is innovative or whatever you know like we have all those like pr terms that we get sucked into. And i agree with you completely like starting with the main idea making sure it like. I always tell people you know if you have a personal or brand mission statement to make sure it like lines up with that and it's like super direct and i think that's the best that is the best place to start so that you know you're always staying true to the voice of the company and like the goals of it rather than getting lost in saying that you are the next generation or innovation or all these fun. You know buzzwords that we like to throw out there so that's a great point great so like we start with the main idea we start fine tuning it What's next so. I think that it's important to remember throughout to keep it simple. That's something that's really important a lot of times like you mentioned people get into this and they're trying to throw around all these buzzwords flashy terms and at its heart. Your communications should be simple. Someone needs to be able to remember what you said As a matter of fact you said it several times in your book. Call your grandma and tell her. Tell her what you just wrote down. Give her your elevator pitch. And if grandma can't understand you need to go back to back to to the editing table again now so you want to do your research though once you have that main idea do your research and see what other people are saying about that same topic see what your competitors are saying. See what people are saying about similar products. If you're if you're the first or a new type of brand. What are people saying about similar products from there. You can find your unique value proposition from there. You can find those words that not everybody else's using and from there you can see what other people are saying that maybe it's confusing the conversation and you can cut through that clutter. You can fix it while you're building your on staff. Yep that's the else's communication problems and be the solution to it.
Embracing Self-Care with Mary Hyatt
"You are a very multifaceted kind of person. You're you're a yoga instructor therapist. Your life coach. You are very knowledgeable about essential oils. How did you discover your strengths to did these things just kind of fall in your lap or how did this all come about for you. You know it's so fascinating. I think like when you hear. Somebody's resume or their out. And you're like wow like. They're an expert at xyz or whatever and yet at least for me which i would imagine. This is true for most people. It's like a journey. Along the way we start picking up these interests and facets of what is drawing your attention and for me. It was all from my own personal healing journey. And if we were to rewind the clock like eight years ago you would have a very different mary. I was about eighty pounds heavier than i am now. I was dealing with like really extreme anxiety and depression. I wasn't a marriage that was just not healthy and not ultimately life-giving and i really had no sense of purpose. No sense of identity and was dealing with autoimmune staff so it was like the culmination of somebody who has totally just lost themselves and i was almost like sleepwalking through life is what it felt like in so there was this moment. I can remember so clearly where it was like. Okay either this is going to go to a bad place really really quickly and it was already kind of spiraling in getting to that point. Or there's got to be more to life than this. Like surely little flicker of hope shirley there's more to life than this and thank god. I listened to that voice of. There's there's more here and started this journey of self discovery and started to come into. What made me come alive. And and authentic and learning about myself and learning about my own feminity and my own just essence as a woman and so little by little. I started kind of adding these different tools to my toolbox That me to do my own work. Further and then ultimately as a life coach now be able to give that gift as medicine two other women who've been on a similar journey so it's kind of like my own work that now gets to be given to others your podcast. I've tuned into a couple of episodes. You're actually right now at the time of this recording. Your your theme for the month is femininity. Yeah and i think that was one of the reasons why i was like okay. Wow when we're here on the get foxy show. That's one of the things that i felt like i wanted to do for my listeners. Was to help them. Learn more about cultivating an amplifying their own divinely given feminine entity and so. Oh mary she's she's she's Needs to be on this show. so what. What have you been discussing on your podcast over the last couple of weeks hot. Oh my gosh. It's so juicy. It's like literally my favorite month so far and i feel like every month. We talk about just amazing topics around self-discovery and mindset and so to end the year as we're recording this in this this topic of feminity is so beautiful because there's all different ways of looking at it. i mean the reality is. Is that this. Concept of femininity. In and of itself is deep. There's a lot of different ways. You could approach it and so on the pike cast. We're looking at that. we're looking at. How do you personally define your own femininity because we're getting all these messages from diet culture from the fashion industry from the porn industry. On what it is to be a woman you have to look certain way you have to behave a certain way. Even on google like the definition of femininity is like agreeable and pleasing and cooperative and quiet. It's just as outdated one dimensional definition of what it is to be a woman so on the show. We're getting to explore like okay. If i could look at the totality of myself as a woman the essence of what makes me divinely female. What does that even look like. How do i even begin to experience her. And not just from what. I've been told from childhood or religion or culturally. You know i know that Especially now as even tricky because we are more out there than ever as women and working were raising children. We are in unconventional relationships. We are in a way trying to do it all. And it's exhausting us. I mean it's really depleting acids burning us out and so it still trying to figure out. How do i define this in a new way. That isn't like in the confines masculinity like. I don't have to work like a man. I don't have to produce like a manner achieve like a man was. It looked like to do that as a woman. So those are kind of the the surface level things that we're talking about on the show and then we're getting into all the fund woohoo staff about your menstrual cycle and the moon cycle and astrology. An archetype. so it's like real a wide range of different lenses in looking at feminine entity. that's fantastic. Yeah i will put a link in the show notes to that specific episode. And it's it's one of the episodes that i tuned into law. You guys are talking some very fascinating stuff that you mentioned how inner in our culture were to a point now where women are trying to do so much and where so many different hats that they're beginning to experience are have already experienced burn. How do you help someone recover from this and really kind of start embracing taking care of themselves. You know i think. I just xfl because like it really is something that is so prevalent right now that just depletion that deprivation an of self care and taking care of the needs that we have and it's bread. Ns almost taught to us from a very early age to give and give and give and give and be yes women to be people pleasers to do it all then you mix that in with like okay now. I'm feeling liberated. And i'm feeling independent in so i want to achieve all of these things and be the best version of myself and the reality is is that no human male or female can keep up with that kind of twenty four seven all in kind of demand for their lives and so to me when we can begin to look at first of all where my feeling deprived like i think we kind of have to almost diagnose the situation i and figure out where we're feeling exhausted. What's exhausted in our lives and get really honest. First and foremost about what's draining ass. What siphoning off our energy because no amount of self care can sort of cover up win we keep in the same patterns that are going to deplete us like that piece has to shift in order to experience something different and so i is identifying where am i at you know from a scale of one to ten on the burn out scale. Where am i am. I am handling it in my functioning. M i barely functioning am i to the point where i feel like i could have a mental breakdown and blow up at any moment which i feel like a lot of us are at that place you know. It's like the covid fatigue. The twenty twenty fatigue is really setting in and our bandwidth is is not what it normally would be and so i think the first step is going okay. I'm i'm really exhausted here. I'm struggling and from that place. Then we can look what needs to shift and starting to identify those warning signs that come into play that are ever so gently to the point. Where it's that little twinge of this is to match and say yes. And then oop i'm over committed and we say more and the point. Eventually we're most of us get total. Burnout is where it's like. Our body is shutting down our adrenals or shot are cortisol levels are depleted our vitamin d is depleted like everything within our physical bodies emotionally and just from a health. Standpoint is gone like the reserve has gone. So that's kind of like the the level ten on that scale. So let's look at where we at been. We can think about recovery replenishment and rejuvenation from a very holistic point of view.
A Canceled 2006 Tomb Raider Game Is Now Playable
"Cancelled two thousand six tomb. Raider game is now playable. This is xyz. at kotoka. when kevin. I have gameplay footage in the dock if you want to pull that up for people to see through back in two thousand and six core design. The original studio behind the tomb raider series was working on a tenth anniversary remake. The first game. Ps while a of progresses made the game was eventually cancelled. Now that original ps game has resurfaced and is playable pc gamer reports on december. Thirty first tomb. Raider fan site to of ask uploaded. What it says are the pse remake to the internet archive the assets include multiple levels complete with puzzles and platforms. If you follow to a team of ashes instructions. you'll be able to play the unreleased. Two thousand six esp tomb raider remake and it looks cool surprised by how finished it seems by looking at the gameplay footage
Story of the year? Zoom
"Here talking tech. We all know what the biggest tech story of the year was us. City in front of that zoom video. Meeting nobody knows it. Better than larry decker. Who wrote the book on zoom meetings. Great on camera. Larry is with us today. So larry A lot of meetings this year Yeah it's been incredible and my book was just. It was kind of serendipitous. I wrote the book about being on camera. Nuts not necessarily on zoom but just being on camera as a presenter. You know we have to do that. these days. Being on camera to communicate about our business answer questions explainer videos. So i wrote this book called great on camera and then the world changed and everybody started doing zoom meetings and i did a little tips video about that. That got picked up all over the place and thank you. An article showed up in usa today and it was a it was a fantastic explosion for my book. So that's that's all been kind of good. I didn't wish the virus on anybody but it hasn't hurt my book sales. Oh well that's that's fantastic to hear You know let's first talk about the good part of of using zoom. I think so. Many of us have gotten used to the fact that we don't have to get dressed to leave to go somewhere. We don't have to drive. We don't have to worry about parking. We can just do it on the computer. It's certainly saved everybody's life for working at home. It's saved i'll i'll be. What would the students have done. Who were taking their classes online. Ten years ago they couldn't have done it right. Well i yeah. I think that just now society is at a place where people are getting comfortable with it. The interesting thing is that The kids are kind of latching onto quicker than anybody and then Older generations are a little bit slower to to grasp. What's going on and do things a little bit less sophisticated when they're on their zoom meetings I ended up. I'm a rotarian. And so i ended up getting invited to do rotary meetings via zoom. All the time. And it's always. Hey would you explain to us how to be better on. Actually what most people say is they want to look. Better on. Camera looked better on zoom. But it's not about the look and and that's a big chunk of what i get to explain. Well let's follow that up. It's not about the look. It's not about the camera. it's not about the positioning of what what is it. What is what is it about well. It does have a little bit to position but as much as anything at the there are subconscious things that we all learn as human beings from the time. We're little kids. Were looking up at those grownups who are looking down at us so we know mentally what that feels like a little kid. What it feels like to be looked down at because we have no authority. Were a little kid. Were being told everything to do. And then people come up with With zoom camera position. So that they are looking down at their audience. So it's not going away is a regular part of our life What are some of the things that you think will stick with the video meetings. You know some. I mean kids are going to go back to school at some point. They're going to back to school. A chunk of us are going to go back to the office. But what's gonna stick you know. I think that there have been so many times in business. Where all i've gotta go out to I gotta get out to chicago to meet with my client face to face because we need to do xyz presentation. Well sometimes zoom meetings will suffice will take the place of some of those in person face to face meetings it might be with existing clients that might be on a sales meeting that you're trying to land a new client and some of those things that we would never have said. Hey would you hold your phone up. let's just do a facetime meeting That that would have been ridiculous a year ago. But now everybody's used zoom and you know somebody says hey. Can i meet with you about this. Well zoo okay. I've got a little bit of time on friday. I think that's going to be much more acceptable than looking like i'm just trying to shirk. I'm just trying to get out of something. I i don't have really enough time for you. That kind of thing. So i think it's going to be more acceptable to have zoom meetings and even to request him. Okay
The Challenges of Growing a Crypto Exchange
"And like you mentioned you know you also worked at growth that you've you've had your fair share of of growth both in traditional tech as well as in the blockchain in crypto focus companies now working crack in an overall as group in crypto currency company of. What's the biggest challenge or difference when it comes to try to get growth at a crypto exchange as compared to a regular traditional tech company like uber. That's a great question. It's something that. I like to bring been in conversation typically amongst folks who are more growth minded so in silicon valley. What happens is when there's a hot rocket ship startup. everyone looks at it and then go. That team must have done something magnificent for that growth in ninety nine point nine percent of the time. They're correct uber. Airbnb google when they go ship products when the ship features and functionality that functionality increases demand for the product encrypt. That's not the case crypto. You wait for boron boron is largely the organic swollen of demand for your products so these gross teams typically are allying with like this feedback loop of growth at acquiring users efficient getting them to the homage magic moment. The moment that realized with value group product is in figure out different growth loops to pull in more more users. You know it's a little bit different crypto. Now we still applies missing principles Growth funnel funnel combined with on your terminology breath loops russell trickier sort of concept to apply to exchange business. Some of those basic principles apply growth is about efficiently taking people who care about your Arguing you didn't go to the website efficiently convert there and do them through all the way to make match to the moment in the product that doesn't change too much regardless of the giant up swollen of organic demand but it certainly changes the outcome to where you know i might have. I might have generated xyz improvement in that efficiency but my numbers are unseen when a bull run app because you have the giant organic ups swabbing so Also the intent of the and this is. What's really tricky for rose people. Let's say we're looking at the view to click rate. Someone lands on cracking dot com. They see the homepage. We hopefully want them to get them to. We want a enough information beyond the page that they feel compelled to go sign up now that conversion rate from review sign up. That could increase without me doing anything. 'cause when when there's an organic up swelling the intent to create an account increases as well people have so the famo- element might distort metrics to so there's all sorts of methods that we think through how to normalize that but if these are the struggles of crypto company is normal tech company which you know uber's demand demand for cycle in the giant one hundred x more demand minus ninety percent hundred x minus ninety. So it really. Hard to build of crypto business. In general i think i would advise most people not to start one. It's almost one of the hardest industries to Business hunting plan employees fundraising around the cycles. but he only comes to growth. It's sometimes it's hard to stay are impacts of what we've done versus the echo of organic man
"xyz" Discussed on The Evolve Your Wedding Business Podcast: Marketing For Your Wedding Business | Online Business
"Ray i wasn't now but i know a ton of people who were in was like immediately dino people got there and it was like everything shut down yes and guess who had The third slide of her presentation was cruise ship. Me that was. That was an awkward at all right at that particular moment. Because i often liken the a client a planning a wedding to being on a cruise right because there's a destination which is the wedding but the journey is just as important because i want my clients to enjoy the process of wedding planning and be as excited about their wedding the day that it actually comes around as they were when i hired me because i feel like there's a lot of people get tired of their wedding to get tired of their family and so i like him experienced to a cruise ship but just like a cruise ship. If they didn't give you an itinerary or map of the shift or a plan of when they were going to stop how long it was gonna take to get. Xyz with the weather was what you should pack win. The neal's we're going to be if you didn't know any of that you just showed up to your cruise you. You be very anxious about it you would. It would not be relaxing to you right. And so that's that's kind of a metaphor that i use but i like the plane one also actually read something about how when you're in a new environment and you go to sleep for the first night whether it's a hotel or wherever not all your brain breasts and that's why you find out more tired than you normally would be because you're on alert like there's a stress level that just gets maintained within your body because there's uncertainty Yeah i buy that. I don't think jetlag is all physical. I think it's mostly emotional and that makes sense that you're just kind of your new place. You're not you're not thinking about it. I i took a solo trip..
Carmen's Immigration Story
"Your favorite cuban dynamic deal is back at it again and this time we have immigration story. I'm carmen and i'm freda and welcome to take it easy carmen. I know you're going to be sharing a lot with us today. Where do you wanna start carmen. If my story. Oh god over the course of my life. I've told the story countless times and every single time tell. Everyone is always so appalled end. It's remarkable it is remarkable story end yet for me. It doesn't really feel that way because it feels like just another thing in my life and on top of that. It's something that happened so long ago. I immigrated when. I was only three years old and so a lot of the details of the story are the recollection of a three year old. And there's also the fact that as i said it is a pretty remarkable story. There's a lot it's not just a lot emotionally but it's a lot politically. It's a lot economically and natural that my parents have really wanted to dive into the subject. Too much over the years at this point it's been over twenty years and only now away really starting to feel like my mom specifically is opening up about any of this but it's been really hard so that's why i wanted to open up and also i just wanna say i'm really excited to share my story because i think the stories are important to conceptualize where we're coming from in the grand scheme of this podcast to just give you a little bit more insight into who we are freed as story is coming at some point soon so we hope that you will tune in for that as well yeah carmen. I think it would be great to hear a little bit more. About what got you to this point. You've been able to have any conversations with your family around your story in terms of asking just to ask my family over. The years hasn't been very open. I i often will approach the conversation and say. Hey mom. can you tell me about the time of time we spent in guantanamo and my mom would say what do you want to know. You already know everything. I already told you everything. And that's kind of dismissive way of going about it. But in a sense. I understand where she's coming from to. She just want to talk about it and the same with my dad and my brother will. He was only eight so he remembers a lot more. He's a lot more open. Now that i have this podcast. I'm able to sort of approach it from a more structured way and say. Hey look for the podcast. I want to know xyz and so they'll start to open up able to ask more pointed questions. But in the past. When i've asked in a more open ended way it's not been something they wanna get into which i think anyone can understand once we go into the story so let's begin yet. So the year is nineteen ninety four and it's august and i'm three years old in nineteen ninety. Four cuba was going through. What is known as the video espec- and this is a special period of time in history when it followed the fall of the soviet union which was a big support to cuba and cuba started experiencing severe shortages of resources from things. Mom has told me that she would go to the store and there would be no food on the shelves to buy. It was difficult to come across basic necessities like soap. Medicine was difficult to find simple medicine. You would need to go to a hospital or have like a hookup to get simple. Things like aspirin and so life became increasingly difficult. I don't remember any of this. My life is for all intents and purposes pretty happy. I'm just a little kid running around the neighborhood and looking forward to starting school my parents at this time new or my dad knew someone who owned the boat fishermen and he had been planning to leave the country with his family on. This book and my dad was a pediatrician. He knew this man from seeing his kids as patients and also from their childhood they grew up together in this really comment like cuba is a very small place uneven. Cuban communities are pretty small in the sense that everybody knows each other in some way. And so this man emi. My dad agreed that my dad and my mom my brother and i this boat with them it was not a raft or anything that he and his family had built over years buying parts. You know it's your first time. Bring up the word raft. And i know that some of you might have heard of the cuban rafter crisis which happened in nineteen ninety four so we know that a lot of cubans like tens of thousands of cubans came over trying to get to the us or at least trying to escape cuba and a lot of them were on makeshift. Rafts put together from pieces of equipment that they found so. It's really helpful that you carmen. You're able to find someone with a boat that was meant to be about let it started the bolt right yes vote. It didn't start off as bad or as a tra- bobby kerman quick aside. Did you ever hear this story. I think it happened later on way. After the nineties there was a scoop of cubans who came over to the us in a truck. No no. I've never seen her but it didn't surprise me. Actually yeah in. This was an actual pickup truck. That floated okay. So it's ridiculous. That's amazing that is as please look this up. You need to see photos of this. It's amazing they made it over to the. Us and a lot of people were following the story because of how ridiculous it was so yeah. I just wanted to take a moment to add color to the variety of transportation methods. That were used at this time. But you know back to little carmen and her boat and this is a common theme in a lot of cuban stories like the sheer amount of absurdity. A lot of things anyway so we left in the wee hours of the morning before it was even light outside. We got on this boat and we left from this river. Called shielded santo
"xyz" Discussed on Perpetual Traffic by DigitalMarketer
"They're seeing real life implementation from our customers. Are they most visit so boy that have been guilty of going in and ourselves. Why are we doing. Xyz activity an inches while. Because that's what we're supposed to have to do. That's what that's fulfilling for. Xyz program and i think questioning that logic in digging deeper has been really great for us so the certified partner program are that program they get the turnpike partner training. And that's we're bringing in really top notch experts. They're going to speak specific to strategies and tactics and findings that are going to help their agencies growth and so we take at liberal that piece of that program and really pull out of that. Some key is a content. Some key strategy could into our lead magnets. We do so much more with that. We you know we have this great production that his partner training day and we take an and develop it into so much more than that. And i think that's an important question to ask yourself as like what. What am i doing today. what am i doing now. That something that. Maybe it's just checking a box or maybe just fulfilling one deliverable that i need to fulfil that we be doing so much more with atmos really valuable that we'd be sharing with our customers reading our prospects at a different point in their journey with us and really asking that question and i think you'll find there's value there that can be shared really across the entire funnel that can really further that customer journey provided insane value for your prospects and customers through our certified partner training day we're also grabbing testimonials grabbing case studies. We are making sure that we have productized each of the sessions so that they can live within our platform so that they're not just these training days that we put on. They are pieces of both product and content that we can then utilize moving forward because the strategies are well extremely helpful and if we just do a training day for no purpose other than one day a month isn't necessarily as helpful as breaking down that content and then having somewhere between a and fifteen different deliverables from that one day of content that our partners can then go back in utilize at a later date so that way. It's not just a pillar posts that we're creating. it's also these different kinds of case studies different kinds of testimonials that people can see how the program's working for them. It's podcast Social content it's a variety of different kinds of products in content that our partners and prospects can utilize moving forward so matt as the head of marketing with this type of avatar this type of potential customer..
Helping Children Understand How They Feel
"The emotional side. Let's look at that. What are some consequences when we were children. Which is the topic of our program. Have unresolved emotions. What typically happens and it's funny because we're talking about kids right. We wrote this as a kids book and we did it intentionally because we wanted to get into the hands of more adults us because so many of us grew up in a home where emotion wasn't talked about and a lot of us grew up in homes where certain emotions were may be punished or dismissed or minimized and forever. Who's listening. I think just to take that pause at step back to see like really. Where do i come in on the spectrum because we all come in carrying emotion. But if you ask most people today like hurry feeling or even how you doing you know. We just saw you guys. How're you doing busy. Good none of these are feelings. We're just busy. Honestly were overwhelmed. We don't really know what we're feeling. But they're all they're under the surface and so if we can teach adults to then teach kids. Let's dig in there. That is valuable because what we find. Is you know especially in christian culture. I think we can look at emotion like it's a hindrance to our sanctification. And you know that we wanted to keep it in check but we actually find. Is the emotions that we leave out of. Check that we may be punished. Dismiss minimize will like don't allow in our homes or even maybe in our relationships like take marriage. Those are the ones that have the most control over our lives. They will come out somehow and typically sideways and this is when they come out and misbehavior and kids. Come out and tantrums. They come out in may be depression. Addictive behaviors scrolling instagram. If you're a workaholic. If you're turning to alcohol or drugs there could be a reason that we go to these. What we call numbing behaviors. We're just trying to numb something that we can't name we don't know what it is. We just we feel awful. We don't feel good and we wanted to stop. And so that's why emotion matters so much. If we're not in tune with the fact that i'm i'm anxious i'm sad or i'm still grieving. The loss of xyz and it might have been years ago and we might have thought that the world would tell us to get over it. You should be passed this but we're not right. It's not that easy or you can hear that but you can't make it happen. I mean that's that's why counselors are in business right because they're trying to help people cope with those wounds and one of the other factors that to a number of years ago. Counseling juvenile delinquent. I was going to ask you about my job was to help them have remorse on their victims. But the reality was. They didn't even know what they were feeling. Let alone to be able to help them. Step into the shoes of the person that they victimized and understand what they're feeling it had to start to the very first thing that i would do is i would give them a feelings chart with these faces on it so that they could begin to identify because in most cases any juvenile delinquent that i sat with the either didn't know who their father was or they had a very very strange relationship with their dad and so they didn't have a male figure to help them kind of navigate. What emotions were like in their life.
Sober Holiday Survival
"Welcome to recovery. Happy hour where we talk about life beyond the bottle and what happens after we stop drinking. I'm your host tricia and in my stocking this year. I hope santa brings me the limited edition. David bowie barbie doll that sold out last year. Despite my attempts to tell santa to preorder it from two different game stop locations just in case. Thank you for joining me well. Happy december or folks. We are smack dab in the middle of the holiday season. And i believe you can absolutely do this without drinking last week. We talked about tips for staying alcohol-free this holiday season and today i'm going to complete the rest of that list so go back and listen to last week's episode if you haven't already come back and join me when you're done. Are you back okay. today. I'm going to start off with this alcohol-free tip focus on the event you're celebrating. Yup parties are usually meant to celebrate a thing. You know an event a person whatever beyond our own addiction or gray area drinking problem whatever you wanna call it. It's also are usually our garbage culture that turns drinking into the focus of an event so for a holiday party. Think about what you're celebrating. That's jesus or hanukkah or just getting together with your family. Mix celebrating that thing your goal. Maybe you've got a relative in town who you normally don't get to see. Take some time to celebrate that you know catch up with them. Maybe it's getting to hold a new baby or play with your nieces and nephews. You can use these opportunities without alcohol to really be present and those moments and appreciate everything that's memorable and real about them. I always say the same thing about birthdays and weddings. The event is to celebrate a person doing something really special so make them what. You're celebrating because it's not all about us and getting drunk last week. I asked everyone to write a list of things. We like about the holidays and use that list as a resource and celebrate those things so find things to get excited about. It can be whatever you want. Bring ingredients to make a really cool any drink with like twelve different components get dressed up where high heels that you don't have to worry about falling off of bring a game like look for things to make a party fund because parties are supposed to be just that fun a great way to stay busy and distract yourself if you need. It is to help the hostess or the host or the person who's having the party go cleanup napkins offer to wash plates offer to help i guarantee you that. If you're listening to this podcast then you have absolutely been a party hosts worst nightmare at point in your life so use this as an opportunity to give back and level out your car a little bit. Here's a simple one. do not i repeat. Do not offer to be the designated driver. Especially if it's a party that might go late if you're feeling freaked out and you need to bail. Then you don't need a reason to stay put. You should always have an exit plan. You know and being someone's dd cancels that out entirely the couple of times that i've offered to do this. I ended up staying at a party way too late when i really just needed to go home. It's twenty twenty. We have uber and left for a reason so let people use it. You know a big part of getting through the holidays without alcohol is learning how to deal with our most triggering loved ones and having the tools not to drink over it boundaries are really big deal boundaries are a big deal for example if you know that someone at the gathering relentlessly pushes shots on you. Then no you're boundary ahead of time if that person offers me a shot. I'm going to say xyz if they keep offering me shots. I'm going to make my exit. You know you create a boundary beforehand. And if someone crosses the line you already know what to do to stay healthy and sober. You know it's just about having a plan had time. Another example is if you have a typical pattern. That's a reason behind your drinking like if communicating with your parents tends to be tents and. Let's say they're always saying something passive aggressive and you've never spoken up about it but instead you've always pushed it down and drink over it. Well this is the time to find a boundary not saying that you need to confront them during christmas and try to resolve like twenty five years of old trauma but you can say something like i need to go get some fresh air. I'm gonna go for a quick walk around the block. That's a boundary. You know when you decided not to engage in an activity that triggers you to drink or maybe it's one of those all day christmas parties that starts at eleven. Am and goes until midnight where everyone's been drinking for like thirteen straight hours. Maybe you've always stuck around because you thought that that was expected of you and you never had the words to speak up this year. Consider telling everyone beforehand that you've made plans for the second half of the day and you have to leave at three o'clock maybe your pet sitting any need to go home and feed the dog. It's up process of planning ahead and saying if this thing happens then i will choose to do this thing because it will keep me from drinking.
"xyz" Discussed on Beat Infertility
"Do certain women have no problem getting pregnant but constantly miscarry even when they're young and egg or sperm quality is not an issue. Show a couple of things all again. Jump back to the rumble. Philip disorder trumbull affiliate can cause infertility meaning. The woman just won't get pregnant. But it doesn't usually usually women with trumbull philip disorders cannon back pregnant but typically will miss carrying the second or third trimester. So you can have a twenty five year old young lady who's totally healthy totally fine. She constantly gets pregnant and constantly miscarriages. In the second or third trimester. She's probably got some blood clotting disorders or some undiagnosed infection. Many women with endometriosis cannot get pregnant. Someone with endometriosis can get pregnant in fact have a great pregnancy and give birth to a healthy child than all but many women with endometriosis will get pregnant miscarry because endometriosis is a disease by the way it's auto immune disease endometriosis can also cause miscarriage. So sometimes you can get pregnant even though you have indo but you can miscarry because you enemy and interesting disease. By definition endometriosis is disease with his topic. Endometrial tissue ectopic means being in a place where it shouldn't be my nose. Were here. i'd have topic knows so endometriosis means that some end dmitri. Some uterine tissue is other places in the pelvis or or in other places in the body who doesn't belong there however the interesting thing about endometriosis is even though it's disease outside of the uterus it doesn't fact affect the inside of the uterus. It affects the uterine cavity. There's something called. Penn approach poge of us little tissue that elevates in the uterus. It had been opposed to do with helping facilitate implantation and so we're maintaining an implantation or continuing to maintain the implantation women with endometriosis. Don't elevate women that happened to be trios typically have elevated temperature on the uterine cavity which is obviously a hostile environment for an embryo to grow and develop and nurture and so endometriosis can be a hidden pathology and it can be a cause of chronic miscarriage as well so i think those things are pretty common on somebody who could constantly get pregnant and in chronically miscarry. I'll give you one more example. I'm not sure it fits into your into your question. But i'll say it anyway because i think it makes sense. It can affect some of the listeners. Patients with polycystic ovarian syndrome have a difficult time getting pregnant but when they do get fragment they often miscarry in fact they miscarry twice as often as the non pc s population and so having he ceo s can be a cause of chronic recurrent miscarriage quote. Which i wanna make something required to the listeners..
"xyz" Discussed on Beat Infertility
"According to the aso ran the american society of reproductive medicine. I could be wrong. But i think that they're criterion determining whether or not a woman should take lovenox which is a blood thinner that prevents the strongbow. Philip pathologies in causing second or third trimester miscarriages. The rams suggests that. I think i think that they suggest that when a woman has at least two miscarriages in either the second or the third or the second and the third trimester then she should be put on lovenox. So of course. This is utterly ridiculous. If a woman ever carries in the second or third trimester or has a stillborn stillbirth she must be tested immediately for crumble philip disorders one. She is diagnosed as having trombone philip disorder. She can go ahead and get pregnant again. Whether it's through natural means you wire ivf and then she must be on lovenox immediately and assuming there's no other pathological involvement she'll stay pregnant and should get birth to a healthy child so from villa is the leading cause of second and third trimester miscarriages and stillbirths. Of course there were other things. I mean women can get you know ascending infections. This happens as well watch out. For the blood clotting issues this episode is brought to you but the beaten infertility virtual summit this free online event features more than ninety talks. And we'll take place november first.
"xyz" Discussed on Beat Infertility
"They'll give the male patient vitamin e and selenium zinc and l arginine and l. Carnitine these kinds of things nutraceutical vitamins. And sometimes they help but acupuncture herbs are far more efficacious and more efficacious more quickly and by the way the difference between having sperm. Dna fragmentation above twenty nine percent in below twenty nine percent is the difference between a patient and a parent so i insist that the husbands of all of my patients get this test if they don't get the test. I won't treat the patient. I won't treat the woman. I'll indicate that. I don't wanna treat on our for a refer to another acupuncturist because anything fertility challenge cases and infertility cases. It's either a women's issue or it's a man's issue or it's both third frequently gets both what's interesting is all. The attention is usually focused on the woman. All they do with. The man is a standard semen analysis. And they're good to go so manner often as are women but men are more often underdiagnosed. Why does.
Prospecting on LinkedIn
"I think. My favorite thing to do is to leverage lincoln because lincoln is such a great way to build relationships with people that are in like these awesome industries in different verticals. But for me. I feel i really most of the building relationship and knowing the right time to turn it into like a soft goal to action. So you know as i prospect all always know if i'm just gonna email say ten people today from that company. I will go ahead and add as many people from that company across all product. Line that i could potentially talk to you right. Maybe they're not the number one or today's already. But i'm gonna add them so i can eventually get to them on linked in because it's easy way to get wins and for me. I'll always look at the profile. A leveraged the research. I've done for the emails and once they've accepted my connection request. I'll always look for a way to pass lies. That that was a gal once from kentucky. I forget which company shows up but she she was from kentucky and i told her this story about how me and my mom would traveling across the country and we went to cracker barrel and we thought it was the only restaurant that we hold. It was the only krakauer in america and then we got to the next day and realized it was a chain and so i told her that funny story and she found it hilarious and we went back and forth for a week and was like. Hey i see you do this like you know. We work with xyz You know see you open to learning a bit more about this. And lincoln i think is just such a great way to build rapport and build a relationship before you. Just you know oscar Can i just spend a bit of time like learning more about your role. And secondly only than i love sending videos so if someone accepts request and fills right like algiers plot wife phone and i will send them a really personalized video for example. Like hey scott i sawyer. Recent post i love that you said this and this adding a personalization and then just throwing out similar kind of mo. full malik we walk with xyz. I see you do this. I imagine like this and this headache you know. Would you be interested in learning a bit more about how you walk in your space. And i'll send the video and i found it super effective right because it's a way to stand out and that's that's really. What makes you successful like. You need a stand out from the sea of people that are trying to get to them so i would definitely recommend like lean on those videos. Yeah so couple of questions there. So as as you're sending out those initial connection request you're kind of going. Broadly across the account. Are you personalizing the connection requests or you coming back with personalization. Once they accept. I always play around of it and i think it depends if they seem like a a real change agent and they vary social than. I'll throw out like a little message when i do. Send the request. But for the most part i have found like a pretty successful connection rate which i'm really fortunate about because i know that not everyone has found that and then i'll go in with a very personalized note because to me if someone's accepting Accepting that initial requests like. They're open to conversation whether it be about. Sprinkler is another story but there are at least open for me to say like. Hey thank you for accepting an a lies note. So i'll lead on it for like the change agents and like the number one i want but the most part like what helps me kind of spread. Wide thin is sending as many of those and then leaning on the one side except
The Voicemail That Gets a 70% Callback Rate
"Most salespeople. Hate leaving voicemails. Now he asked him why most them say well because they don't call me back and reality is you're right. You're absolutely right. If you have the wrong voicemail. So the next few minutes. I'm a teacher my voicemail scripting that gets me over seventy percent callback where the have taught to literally thousands of reps over the last decade. You step by step exactly what to say how to say it. So as you'll listen to this only to really listen to the tone. And the words i say and also explain the why. It's so effective now. First off most within leaving voicemail at south something like this hey scott. It's marcus shannon with abc company. Hey i'm giving you a call. Because i wanted to show. His great solution has xyz benefit one time and calendar. Here's my number blah blah blah. Now you might get some calls back off that but it's usually pretty religious very very small percent. they'll call back instead. You want to shift it to this. Hey scott it's marcus. I'm calling in reference to abc company. Please going back on my cell five or one to two one nine nine nine nine again. Five four one two one nine nine nine. Thank you boom. that's it notice there. The tone it's firm. it's not enthusiastic. It does not sound like a sales person. So that by itself is a pattern interrupt. They're like ooh what's this all about. The second pieces knows how limited information you gave. I didn't say it's marcus chin. Said it's marcus when he say it's marcus or it's your name the first name the psychology behind is they recognized as a. How should i know this person So they're going through their heads into the voice mail now he's to peak some curiosity and then the piece is north. Korea didn't instead named company. You're working with us. Dropped a reference in our reference should be an existing company. You do business with so now. They're like oh what's this all about. So now what's happening is you provide a limited information. You're told is firm. You don't like a salesperson and now ukraine fomo in their in their mind fear messina. They're not sure why you left voicemail and as a results that will lead to a higher likely to them listening to it and call you back now. Have you also noticed as well. It's very short. Voicemail maybe fifteen twenty seconds long so easy and fast for them to listen to and be able to decide what to do next. And here's what's really powerful. Let's say for example. Yuli voicemail on a monday and you wait two days and you decide to call them again. Wednesday and you'll leaders zack. Say message again verbatim with nothing changing. Think about if you're on the receiving received to the same voicemail of someone standing firm and preliminary information in which their tone is creating. Its firmin's now your chance of them call you back increases. And what's amazing is when you do as consistently with every single voice you will see. You will get more calls. Because they're not sure why or call and when they're calling you they're guard is down and they're more open to the conversation okay and there are thrown off. That's very powerful state to have your project and when they're calling you and i promise you do consistently for every single call the exactly verbatim how i said the tone. You will get more called the ever gone before and i have had reps who say. I'm not sure i was going to work for me. But then they commit to for a full week. Every single the voicemail. They saw got more calls back than error. Of course more practice with tonality in the firmness you will see. Your converses will also skyrocket as a result.
"xyz" Discussed on Beat Infertility
"I'd like to hear more about your decision to donate your abnormal embryos to science. So actually when our umbrella just called us with their final count and how many were any good ones and bad ones in stockton. Three of them was missing. I think chromosomes sixteen. The other was missing chromosome eighteen. And i asked my umbrella just i said if we kept those guys for the first four didn't work. Would you know we kept these two could implant that i she was just like it would be unethical either. You will suffer a miscarriage a stillborn or things like that. It would be very unethical for us to implant them inch you because you would. Ab suffering out obviously more finances for another round of ivy accident. Not working in a heartbreak. You know in sadness again that comes with each failed cycle. I actually asked her. They usually discard that Actually said to her. I said you guys have something. Where a company or you is can research than somebody can eat a scientists can look. At where chromosomes sixteen missing. Is anything like that so she did her research. She found a company that was willing to take them off so we sign them off in just donated them to a third party research company. So i said if they can if my embryos can help science in the future. I'm all for it. What do you think it was about your story that made baby quest. Want to give you a grant. I think just how transparent i was. I know my doctor. My doctor says member temperatures Mooring than eight one. Nine months that. I've known you that people do in three years of fragility trying you went from one. Run time. Dinner correspond rondo value y. Two donor eggs and she goes you move from zero to sixty eight months and look where we are now. And i think i just was very transparent on who i was and my personal elements of me who i am as well as bringing my husband's health into the situation i think just they just loved..
Sensuality And Spirituality With Dr Wafaa Eltantawy And Habeeb Akande
"I wanna start by mentioning that when we spoke about the of phone call a couple of weeks ago and i said i would probably do like a disclaimer at the beginning to say that you know today. We're having a conversation. That's a very mature topic. And you're just to kind of put out that when i did that. Both of you kind of shout. You pretty much told me off. I wouldn't say shower felt. I'm really sorry but what i felt like. You are trying to cover up or trying to introduce a topic which is very crucial for muslim societies and muslim people in a way like covered this what we are doing in six. We are covering everything up so people. Don't know anything about so. I felt like this is the time we need to open up and we need be able to speak about it. Frankly and say satelites name. I think i don't know which i'm gonna pinot a new but someone said that was infantilism. The muslim community by so she's pointing to your said was by even suggesting or thinking about framing in that way he did say that. Do stick by the as this similar to what to what i up it. Mrs important compensation for people of all ages again. We're going to be respectful wisconsin age appropriate. I don't think this is only a compensation for people of Age of twenty five for example married people who are unmarried people Married people are divorced. People looking to get married should listen to this conversation understand. What does islam say about sex intimacy. And what and as muslim allies understand about and this important topic. So i think it's a subject that should be important beneficial for everyone so to be honest like a after that that call which is a very interesting call in its entirety. But after that specific moment i did think about it quite law and i think for me. It needs to know. Is that the kind of reservations i have about having. This conversation is of that kind of cultural baggage that we have within the muslim community when it comes to talking about south city so it was. I mean i appreciate being told guys. I'm just. I just thought it was interesting to to mention that because it really did get me thinking before he just wanna take my health to you because even if you found this conversation diffic- difficult we have another the fact that you're win so kudos to vandals. So the fact that we're having a system board to That's not really a woman but competent in this subject. Because i think it's easy as men foster talk about this subject again for things important. We have a muslim woman and his qualified can speak about that muslim. Women can resonate listen to understand from so critters to for again by an environmental terms. And i think is one like part of it when when we were speaking. Initially that i you kinda get one show at conversation like this and you wanna do it right. You won't be able to be able to listen with an open mind and actually take on what's being said and as you said if it was two men for having the compensation than sisters would fill like. Oh it's xyz two sisters discussing it. Men feel kind of sideline alienated from it. So thank you both kind of agreeing on. Oh you guys don't know each other from beforehand. So but i guess what's what's also really good. Is that you both come from very different disciplines and perspectives on this. I think that that's jump straight in So the first thing for me was about the i guess. Let's put out there. Is there a problem with how sex is perceived or discussed within the muslim community. And i guess dr wafaa will start with you on that one yeah. There is a huge problem. Same communities about how sixes addressed or Sexist talked about and we see clearly in our work. Six is not never been talked about a tool all in muslim communities and even stocks when it when it is talked about it's talked about heddon and nothing is clear and you you mentioned as well. You kind of travel to the middle east for conferences and and have are in those kinds of spaces where these things are happening. Is there a difference between the the obviously folks to the muslim community muslim communities here and there with regards to attitudes towards sex and all of this was just mirrored regardless of where you are in the world. I think this stuff is mattered. Are mannered a lot of it mattered. Because you would find that. Most agricultural they have organization. The more or less like six is a temple. Never ever talked about it when you marry with what we're gonna do and your husband will lead you and that's frustrating for me when i hear there and six thirty six is not good sexes about all. Support your husband is about how to serve. The man and i found this restraining. I work with people because they only there because they were told to do it. They are not engage. They are not having any sexual pleasure and is something. We need to talk about
"Going to be talking about entering Investments and specifically three various methods of entering Investments. Do you find a stock or a fund that you want to put your money in and you want to change soon? Well, there are several different ways of doing so that it's best. You know what these ways are and then evaluate and see what might be the best way for you and each method has its own pros and cons with it as well discuss. So the first method we're going to talk about is lump sum. This is going to be the easiest to understand this one. You have a set amount of money that you want to invest thousands say you want to put $200 into one stock that you really like. So you simply divide the $200 by the Stock's current price and then you by that number of shares and that's it. You've participated in some investing involves one transaction occurring on one date you put the entire money into the investment in that one transaction. Now with dollar cost averaging you have the set amount of money that you want to put in. So let's use the same number from our example $200 that I want to put in stock XYZ lump-sum investing. We used one transaction occurring at one time. But with dollar cost averaging we're going to divide up this amount of money that we want to invest say $200 into Esports will notes and we're going to invest these amounts during regular time intervals. So let's consider what this might look like. Let's say I want to invest $200 into stock XYZ and stock XYZ. Let's say, it's January and stock XYZ right now on January 1st is priced at $10 and it's January right now. So by the time April comes around, I want to have all my $200 invested into the stock. So that's four months January through April. So 200 divided by 4 is $50. So that means then that I have to invest $50 or a quarter of two hundred thousand and just talk XYZ in January. So stock XYZ right now is $10 and I'm investing $50. So $50 divided by 10 is five months. So I'm going to buy five shares of XYZ on January 1st at ten dollars now in February. I'm also going to invest another $50 but stock XYZ price has fallen down to $9. So I still do the same process though. $50 / $9 is about 5.56. So I'm going to purchase 5.56 shares of XYZ in February now in March, I'm still going to invest $50 but XYZ is price has gone up to $11. So $50 / 11 a.m. It's four point five four. So I'm going to buy 4.54 shares of XYZ in March. Now XYZ. Let's say had a really great month of March. So by April first off I see stock prices up to $20. This is obviously very volatile that I'm just using this for demonstration purposes. So $50. I'm investing in April $50 divided by 20 is 2.5. So I'm going to buy two and half shares in April. Now April 1st has come around. So my total investment during those four months was $200. Just like how I had planned it. Now the number of shares that I own of XYZ is based on adding up the number of shares that I bought each month. So in January, I bought five shares February 5.56 shares March 4.54 shares and April 2.5 shares. So when I add all of those together, I find I now own 17.6 shares of XYZ. Now we have to find out though. What is my purchase price of these shirts? And the answer to this is calculated using a weighted average. I figure out that my average purchase price of XYZ during this time was $11,000.36. So dollar cost averaging is really good for volatility that but the downside for it is generally the market tends to go up over time. And if you're going to continually use. Cost averaging over periods of years, then you're going to keep raising your purchase price each time that you invest money into it. Assuming that your stock goes up. So it's really banking on a chance that your stock does better than the amount that you end up losing each time that your purchase price goes
5 TEMPTING Signs She's Emotionally Attached To You
"Five signs that she's emotionally attached to you. Hi guys. I'm a pony Aponte. I am or dating relationship and life coach and I am your coach to help you master your attraction skills better relationships understand love and relationships and better overall your life and we are going to talk about the five tempting signs to know if a woman is an emotionally attached to you now, I want to talk about healthy attach emotional attachment and not too healthy emotional attachment before we get into these signs. Now the signs that I'm going to be providing you are hopefully the five signs of emotional healthy attachment. So healthy emotional attachment means that there's a secure attachment style meaning I have embodied interdependence in my relationship. But I also embody a loving relationship with my partner. There is a difference of attachment hear someone loves their life and loves their relationship and loves their outer World their Hobbies their business, whatever the case may be where they have emotions towards everything. One of these characteristics but one every one of these characteristics is not attached to their own self-worth. Now unhealthy emotional attachment is when someone is attached to you because they are in a toxic relationship meaning manipulative behaviors may happen or that they are emotionally attached beneath their happiness is attached to this relationship. So emotions always kind of go up and down and that's what I'm not talking about here in this video. The healthy signs is what I want to talk about to really get you guys in that state of healthiness and your relationships. Now five signs that she is emotionally attached to you. Number one. She always constantly talks about how she feels about you. She talks about how you make her feel the things that you do great. The things that have impacted her the things that she loves about you and she's constantly feeding basically a log Compliments to you not every woman will do this. Even if they are emotionally attached depends on their love language and also their style of communication, but that's one number two is she is always talk about things that she wants to do with you and the future right? So she's planning something. It could be children. It can be buying a house. It could be moving in together. It could be better in whatever it is. They impact and better your life like as a vision right traveling constantly together. Now, this is not meaning that oh, she sees you as a friend and she's always travelling with you know, I'm talking about when you're in this relationship. There's some type of Seduction that's coming into play there some type of intimacy that's coming into play you have this type of intimacy already established. She is emotionally attached in this way because of that fact that her emotions are showing you that she's providing for an idea of the future right? She's thinking about the future with you number three is showing that a woman is emotionally attached has dead. She questions when she doesn't hear from you, right but in a good way not like where were you last night? That's not what I mean be like babe. I missed you last night. I didn't hear from you. I know you were out with the boys, or I know you were out in your playing chess with your in your competition or playing basketball last night and went to sleep early but I missed hearing from you and she constantly reassured you that she misses you right she misses back from you. She misses XYZ. She misses something about you that is really important because women are very vocal about sometimes how they feel especially if they miss you number four is when she wants to spend a lot of time with you and it could just be time doing nothing time watching Netflix or actually time working out doing activities day-to-day activities. She still has a part of her life, but she also works with you to make sure that you guys spend quality time together that you guys do do things together and number five is kind of like the loved one. Which is what I call is acts of service. So she does things that don't benefit her right that only benefit you that are not selfish for her. They're more things that she's doing for you to make you happy to make your life a little bit easier. Let's say you had a long day of work and she comes home and you come home and she orders something like best dinner, or maybe she makes the best in her for you your favorite Jewish or your favorite thing, right? So for example, I know for my partner he has a big online business and when he has his big days like big webinars big speeches big anything, he loves this song banana nut bread and I make it for him on his big days only because I know he's worked so hard and it's so gratifying to come home or when he's done to eat his favorite meal. So this is what I mean is off service has no benefit to me because man, does it take a lot of time to do but I know it benefits him. So that is what I call there's access service involved where she's emotionally attached and that's a really good sign of a healthy attack. It is when someone else provides but doesn't take away from themselves to make you happy to please you and non selfish acts where they don't benefit from it. It's just to help you get better happier, whatever the case may be and there's a healthy Dynamic of this where they do this and crucial moments, or when they do this and moments that they're proud of you about something and they always constantly reassure you to be that better person.
How to Move Forward When You're An Unemployed Side Hustler
"Hey guys. Welcome. Welcome back to the show. It's not Kayla here and I'm back with a solo. It's been a minute right? Well, here we are in October I can't believe it's October y'all like this year. It's just I. Mean I don't even have to say you know already and we also know that the levels of unemployment right now are at an all time high. Due to the effect that Cuvette has had on first of all human beings and then supply chains businesses. The way we run businesses and having to close businesses because of the fact that that foot traffic isn't there or people are not able to patronize those businesses. So in the last week alone I have seen many friends and acquaintances get furloughed or laid off fired and my. Heart really really really goes out to everyone. So it's just been on my heart to do this episode I decided to share again, my own story of unemployment and some tips that may be able to help you or someone you know get through this time as a site hustler who is now on employed doesn't have that full-time job to supplement the side hustle Share this with a friend or someone you know who might appreciate it and yes, you'll get through it. They will get through it. Please remind them that this too shall pass So let's let me share a little bit about my story for those of you who don't know or maybe you've heard bits and pieces of it but not the whole thing let's get into it. In Twenty fifteen I went through a seven month period of unemployment of not having a fulltime job I was recently graduated from Grad, school and yes I went from May to December without fulltime job. And now these were different circumstances. Obviously, it wasn't a pandemic it wasn't a lay off or furlough. So there are different circumstances surrounding me not having a fulltime job. However, it was still challenging sometimes discouraging time in my life and I would hate for anyone to be going through this alone feeling the same feelings of embarrassment sometimes hopelessness like I like will ever find a job. Feeling regret like should I have done XYZ differently should have explored a different career should I have worked in a different field and so on and so on I don't want you guys beating yourself up. So I'm devoting this episode to share in what helped me to keep my head up and push forward when I was unemployed and how I stayed on the side hustle path through it. All I. A little back story on how I came to be unemployed for years ago. Was it four years now? Hold on hold on let me do five years ago. I was attending graduate school for my masters of Business Administration at the University of Michigan Ross, School of business in the summer between my first and second years of business school. I was an MBA intern at Google. I was really excited at the time to land. This was a coveted internships I was so excited to land Google and dive headfirst into the internship I moved out to mountain view for the summer as working in AD sales. Now, for most MBA internships the goal and the expectation is. That you have such great internship that at the end of the ten to twelve weeks in your internship, you'll be extended a full time job offer from that company. That's how it's supposed to work well, that in happened in my case despite working hard despite getting APL-, employees, recommendations, and awards that summer and doing all I could to seem like I was fitting into the culture because you know that's big and like the whole Silicon Valley Tech World doing everything I could to be new Gli. That what they call it I don't even know anymore. googly. Remember, can you believe this was one such like an important part of my life? I promise you will be laughing one day to at this phase in your life So I was doing all I could to fit the culture and really land that job. But in hindsight that was not the right opportunity for me. So no matter what it probably just. was meant to be and I'm glad that it happened that way. However at the time, it didn't feel like this I did not get the full-time offer. I was devastated I was pretty dejected and spent the rest of the academic year dodging my friends, my classmates questions about what I was going to be doing post business school, and then graduated with no job in May of that year. From May to November, I would go on interview for job after job only to receive even more rejections at one point after going through six rounds of interviews with Uber for at the time they were launched Uber Eats I was going for marketing role with Uber eats and I got turned down to six rounds of interview. And you know at that point when you go for six interviews with the same company like that is exhausting, you really are like I got to get this role but I didn't get it and that was a moment for me when it clicks I said. Enough is enough I was done investing so much energy into trying to work for other people and I was ready to invest into myself. So let me be clear here. Don't get me wrong. I was still looking for a job I in no way meant that I was gonNA quit looking for jobs and just become an entrepreneur at that point but I knew that I was so depleted in terms of self confidence and self empowerment that I needed to do something differently. Shortly. After making that revelation I began freelancing as an independent social media consulting because at this point you know money funds are running low and. Full transparency even though at the time I was living with my then boyfriend now husband Killer. Doesn't like not having something to bring to the table? Okay. I like my pockets to be full. I like to have money my bank account, and there's no way in hell that I was not going to find a way to bring some income, and so that's what I did. I started freelancing social media consulting at that point I have into my network for that role and I went and did some freelance work for the organization. That I once was a part of two. So it's called MLC and I've mentioned it many times management leadership for tomorrow I started freelancing with them social media, consulting boom tablets you network make sure you have some money in your pocket
Why is it so Hard to Lose Weight?
"It is hard to believe, but this begins our seventeenth year of broadcasting, dishing up nutrition. For seventeen years every Saturday or most Saturdays I guess I should say. We have shared up to date nutritional information. Designed specifically to make a difference in the lives of our listeners and their health. So, each week our message has been about eating real food like that's the term. Now I think that we can kind of put our stamp on his eating real. So, that our listeners our clients can have more energy. Less, than for inflammation, better health and everything in between. So it isn't a message about the latest fad diet. It's about eating a healing plan of real food. This is just kind of an interesting observation and Clint Brittany. Maybe you've noticed this in clinic here in there but I've noticed with some of my clients at it seems that many people seem to like blame or really attribute many of their health problems to their genetics. Yes. I, agree with that Yup. And they haven't quite made that connection yet that food the food that they're eating is the cause of their health problems. So as Dietitians we work one on one with clients, and so we'll hear things like my father had diabetes. So I know sooner or later I will probably have that to or maybe it's my mom had arthritis so I will have it eventually also. one. They heard I think recently in the last week or two My grandmother had Alzheimer's disease. So I really worry that I also get Alzheimer's disease. And it is important to know our family history. What is in our family history? I mean, we even have this in our health questionnaire, an area where people can kind of talk through or list out what's in their family. But, it's also an important an important concept I think to say, the family history does not have to become our destiny. And we can be like, maybe we have some predispositions in the background or tendencies one way or another, but it does not have to be our destiny. So true and I think that what oftentimes people don't think about is you know maybe your dad had something your mom had something. And now you do what? About your lifestyle? No, you probably have a similar lifestyle. You know a lot of our habits come from childhood, and so I think often times it is more lifestyle and your food choices driving. Those conditions than than genetics yup absolutely I'll say that to my clients do it's like you know we probably especially as younger children ate a lot of the same things growing up as our parents did. So how much of an impact did the foods that we were all eating together then have on the development of some of these conditions it's kind of food for thought. That A lot. and so for you listeners out there maybe you've also said to yourself, you know I must come from a family there must be an obesity gene there because my dad was overweight his mom was overweight all of my brothers and sisters are overweight and now I'm starting to gain weight so it just must be baked into our destiny must be in our jeans. Though the question, we are going to address this morning on the show is, why is it so hard for many people to lose weight they're going to go through a couple of things per pretty much two main points that will address throughout this show. And maybe maybe you is a listener of this is something that you've wondered yourself and maybe you've said yourself, well, why can all my friends lose weight just by drinking less wine or less soda or less XYZ while I can't lose weight and I never even drink wine to begin with it's just not fair. Yeah we hear that time Yup. So. So this is these are the kinds of things we want to explore in today's show, and before we dive deeper into our topic, I want to introduce myself and my co host WHO's here in studio with me. My name is Leah Klein showed I'm registered and licensed Dietitian, and here with me this morning is Brittany Vincent who is also a registered and licensed Dietitian. And today, our goal is to share some new information but also some old information about weight loss and our hope is that you will really think about the information we're going to share with you about weight loss and perhaps then be able to take some that information and start. feeling out in applying in your own life where it makes sense for you and applying this to your own body. As we all know, it's one thing to know the information, which is what our show is about a lot of times you want to give that information out and make it as widespread as possible. But then it is a whole other thing to actually apply it and to do it and. Teaching choices are hard especially like you said of these are things that have come from our childhood. These are habits that have been deeply in green, and oftentimes this is the hardest part for people.
No More Mr. Nice Guy | Robert Glover | Write Your Legend Podcast with Apollonia Ponti and Natalie Stavola - burst 01
"She will, you know, she's strong needs to be done. And so the thing that I learned is that a woman can't follow her a man doesn't lead that's true on the Dancefloor. It's is true in relationship. Now that leadership is not dead. Do it my way, you know, it's not about that that kind of controlling dominance. It's just showing up with a plan and having a sense of confidence about you that you know where you're going and you invite the woman to come along same on the dance floor is it I'm not going to ask the woman in between each move every step. Do you want to have this done now? Would you like a cross body move? Should I do a pretzel with you? Should I know I'm just going to lead her and if she likes the way I lead she's going to relax into that and follow and be blessed by that. If you don't like the way I lead single find another partner to dance with that's fine that it works. Well, but if I don't lead we're just going to stand there on the Dance Floor, you know kind of looking at each other until one of us gets bored and walks away. So that leadership is crucial and when I found when guys are trying to figure out what to make what to do make a woman happy and pleased or there's no real leadership. It's like I said be like me asking a woman every move. What do you want to next? do you want today off? And you're laughing cuz I've asked women in front of men. I'm teaching I'll say do you like it? Well, what do you like when your man says what do you want to tonight? You want to go out? Where do you want to go for dinner in the women go is needed to make a decision. Right? But I don't like it. I'll tell you but make a decision instead of times. I've had that argument with with some dating like I forgot to tell you, I don't like that. I'm going to change my mind you're going to say let's get Chinese food and I'm gonna say I want Italian but it doesn't matter. I just want you to make a decision cuz make a decision. Yeah, and that is super hard cuz that goes back to the man same. Maybe I'll do something wrong. And one thing I've been preaching to men for quite some time in marriage therapy. And otherwise, is that a woman's reaction to anything that a man does does not determine the rightness or wrongness of the thing man did write the man says, let's go get Chinese. You said I was thinking Italian he didn't do anything wrong cuz you had a different wage. Opinion on that. So this is you know, the work that I do with men is learning as a you know, start living life on your terms live life the way you want them live it and invite a great woman to come tag along with you to come join in your great life. Don't try to figure out how do I fit into her life? How do I make her happy? How do I make her want to be my girlfriend? I want to suck Ur clothes off. Don't worry about that stuff. You live your great life lead give her the chance to follow now. Here's the thing with that what if they're already in a relationship and all of a sudden? They're learning about this. How long does that take? Do all of a sudden they just come home and they're like, maybe like a big daddy 301 is here is here and she's like in leading this whole time. Yeah. So how does how do you do you get that like that leading birth? That is such a good question. When I wrote no more mister. Nice guy. I wrote in there I said when I started working with nice guys, and and because it does shake up a relationship if they're in one thousand. It shakes up everything, you know, the guy starts setting boundaries or starts asking for what he wants or start saying no or start spending more time with his guy friends, you know starts pursuing his his passion is going to shake things up and and I say in the book that I when I first started seeing this I gave relationships about a fifty-fifty chance that they would survive the the guy doing a nice guy recovery and I write in the book then over time. I started giving it more of a 60-40 that it wasn't going to work. And by the time I wrote book, I'd 7030. I'm about at 8020 now home and you know, we're kind of laughing about it. But the truth is yeah if if a couple of gotten together and fallen into a routine that that is some level is comfortable. Serve them even if it's painful and toxic it could be challenging to break that up. So mental asked me a lot of times say well sure. I show my wife or my girlfriend your book. I'm gonna go by all means, why am a copy, you know, let them have a copy and let them start underlining and writing in it and you tell them what it is that you're wanting to work on and what you're learning and how you want to be in this world. And and you know, do this is a team effort and in my experience. I'm a say in general women like my book, you know, when the book up published. I think the Publishers are thoughts going to create this big controversial but it never did. I maybe have gotten three angry emails from women in twenty years so women like the book cuz it's teaching men can be honest and transparent and and you know good men. Not not just pleasing nice guys. So I have found that a lot of women are really supportive of this work log. I got to visit a couple had worked with a number of years ago. I started working with the man over time and then he met the woman they got married. They're they're like 50, so they're both like second marriage for each of them and they came down to Puerto Vallarta where I live and did some work with me a few years ago and I forgot to visit them about three weeks ago and and the woman said to me says Robert finished that other book you're working on around what I call positive emotional tension women tend to like the stuff that I teach and couples therapy. You know, when I would start with the man just like in dance class, you gotta start with the lead, you gotta show them how to leave where the followers got nothing to lead. So I start with the man and I get the big two-by-four out smack him upside the head and say, okay, here's how women are wired. Here's what's important to them. Here's what most men get wrong. And here's what we're going to work on and usually the women have gone to look at their husbands or boyfriend and go this guy gets women. I like him. And so So when I found his women are pretty supportive of this Dynamic and many men had told me. Hey my wife gave me your book my ex-wife gave me your book an ex girlfriend gave me your book off. So women are spreading the word and they want men that they can trust that they can depend on who will set the tone and Lead who they can open up and Trust. Yeah because it's an honest with themselves and how can they be honest in a relationship if I can't depend on you to open up and tell me like what's going on? What you need? How can we be a team song? Yeah. I'm very obviously have apple and I are huge fans of the book. Yeah, and another point you talk about in one of your chapters and the no more mister nice guy book is with with life in general, right? I am a true believer that women look at sex differently than men look at 6 and men look at sex differently and intimacy is emotional for women, right? So we need our emotional needs to be met off. Order to want to have sex either with our partner or in our marriage whatever the case may be and sometimes those marriages can end up dying down and then we look up as sometimes what I've seen as well is that the men is looking at this as my wife isn't having sex with me. So I need to push for sex in order to feed the validation from within me. Right and so the woman was like, oh, I'm just not there mentally emotionally because of XYZ. I'm going through a hard time in life. And so what happens is he pushes more so than the relationship gets disconnected when they really weren't disconnected really in the first place. Yeah, but since the sex was pushed it was more and then I've seen that Spectrum happened in a lot of you know people that we work with and then the other spectrum is I mean to have sex with my wife in order to know that she's happy. So then he have a guy that's cleaning the house doing things for the kid. I mean, there's been doing everything. I I was a guy at one time. I was I look I did the dishes look at all this and log My zip I did ex-wife would walk in. How come you haven't wipe the counters off and I haven't finished yet. Now we have sex. I've been there. I've been there were boarded the response that is completely different and you actually talk about this in your book, you know, there's there's so many Dynamics the whole, you know, since we're kind of, you know, kind of leaning towards longer-term relationship here. There's so many dynamics that go into this great book by Esther perel called mating in captivity says it actually intimacy and hot sex don't play em together now intimacy mean we know each other really well, we've gotten comfortable with each other. We've got a predictability to our life the thing that most relationship experts Point couples torque. We have great communication. We work things out or great team, but she says that actually works against the polarity of having, you know, really great hot sex. And so, you know, it's almost dead. I don't think we have to choose one or the other. She's not saying that but we do need to know that in those long-term relationships kind of the Mormon that just be together starts to feel routine that starts to take a bath the sex now there's a lot of other things that they can go in to this change. Sometimes it's is the man is is a lazy lover or a city lover. You know, he just thinks poking his partner, you know, Thursday is a way to do it. Sometimes he's using his own emotional neediness and approaching her to get sex like doing the the kitchen thing and now have sex when they have sex with me and what I found is that a women don't necessarily reject the desire their partner to have sex. They reject the neediness. That's behind it. Come validate me make feel okay by having sex with me think they pushed that away off like no women don't want that that that's that hose hooked up to them where their Partners going to, you know, fuck them and say, okay. I'm loved I'm good, you know, whatever other pieces job. Go into this as well part of it, you know going back a little bit of clarity we've touched on is that most women and culture nowadays are in their masculine so much. They're doing all the time. They getting ready to go work. They go to work deal with customers, you know co-workers management, then I got to get back home from work. Now there's dishes to be done dinners. And if there's kids most often parenting is masculine doing the kids need to get their homework done. They need to have a bath and you'd have dinner they need to get the bed and then, you know, the man gets in bed that night gives her a little shoulder rub off and she's going. Oh no one more thing I've got to do and that's how it feels right feels like oh, I gotta do one more thing which is again masculine and the deepest thoughts and desires to be done its to be open and blessed and but if if a woman has been so much in her masculine all day. There's most women off. Good at making that switch. Right? So one of the things that I teach men guys sent, you know say guys new in a relationship or beshi long-term relationship part of our masculine leadership is leading our partner back into her feminine laughter that feminine State and you know, that might mean she comes home. And first thing you say sit down you take you sit down take your shoes off rubber feet say five minutes, you're on the clock tell me about your day. You got my undivided attention and she gets to you know, decompress or feed her being rubbed. This isn't There's No Agenda. If you're right. This isn't the get her in mood for later on if you get her slowed down out of being in that masculine, I put a quote in no more mister nice guy by a lesbian feminist. A lot of feminists don't like her cuz she actually likes men and I'm glad to hear you guys say do too but she's the quote I use it says that the typical woman out. Workplace is just going going and if she doesn't get throttled that back when she comes home. She's going to castrate everything in the home and not because the woman needs to they're just like this needs to be let's get that to you know, it's just like that and so masculine Leadership can be just okay, you know, what are your room change your clothes go put on your sweats, you know, I've said a glass of wine out or go take a bath go read a book go, you know something that let her just get out of that fast. Got to do got a good you gotta do and then often as you said optional needs I think women have a deep need to be heard to seen. I think if a woman knows she's heard and seen that we guys think that might mean listening to them complain all night long and I give an exact. I was dating a woman few years ago. I met her at the mall. She sold me shoes how I met her and so we started dating and so early on some of our dates would go to like a Ruth's Chris restaurant off. And go to happy hour and have a hamburger when she got off work in the mall. There was connected each other so she'd come over and she'd been working all day and and selling shoes or apparel and she just starting complaining, you know, the customers the management of this and maybe if she talked to her mother that day she'd be in a she's always had a pissy mood after I learned after she talked to other so, you know, she'd come in and sit down and be completely I've already got the two glasses of wine in front of us and I realized you know right date. So I just I took my phone out. Like I said, put it out set the timer for five minutes and said we're on a date. I know you just got off work of my undivided attention for five minutes. Give it all to me and like about two or three minutes in she was done it was enough and and then like she and I've had other women thank God for creating that container that they could just decompress get it all out. I wasn't going to fix anything. They just had you know, my undivided attention for x amount of time and dead. Then she could relax and then we'd have a good evening. So that's you know, it's just an example of the masks and Leadership one of the things that I teach all men and I've taught all the women in my life is full of open the door for them, you know, a woman taught me that about fifteen sixteen Seventeen years ago. She just said hey, you know, I never know if you can open my door not just I don't care what you do either open it every time or Dome. Well, no, that's all right. I'm going to open it so car doors office or stored or whatever. I've taught all the women in my life. Wait, I will open the door. I'll come open your I'll put you in the office completely out of the car. Now. The woman doesn't need me to open her door, but it's it creates a little bit of polarity. I'm the doing it done two. It's not a big deal, but I found that it's profound and I found at each guy says do it, but do it consistently cuz the first time you forget to come around and open her door the first time you forget to open again. She's going to just sit there Staffing. They're going. Hey, you taught me this, you know, so so they you know, the feminine wants that consistency, but that little thing I found personally is so powerful my mum even waits for me to open her door. First time. I did it. She said if I waited my dad's been dead for eleven years. So if I waited for your dad to open my door, I'd still be waiting I said, okay, but I'm opening your life. You know, my granddaughter is should be fourteen next month. She wakes up on her door, you know, she loves what she loves One Big Papi comes around so she loves when Granddad, and it opens the door for so now those again, you know, women can open their own doors women can you know probably decompress in their own ways, but I found that say gift we men can get the women with no attachment is not to get them. Okay, you talk about your problems. We're gonna have sex now, right, you know, it's not about that and talking about the pushing for sex on you mention. I teach men never ever push a woman for sex now cuz I'm such a nice guy and I'm you know, you know doing my oh look at me. I'm a good guy because with a few horrible women have been poked at their entire lives. And since yeah, there's a reason hashtag me to exist women have been poked and I have found if a man is in his masculine setting the tone and leading being himself creating polarity. He doesn't have to push a woman for sex. I felt that the women are often sexual aggressor with me since I you know, got divorced twenty years ago and started Living, you know, this way with women every woman I've been with is one in more sex than me. I never put a woman for sex ever, but cuz here's the thing. I tell guys whether they're you know, so first time they're trying to get a woman have sex or long-term relationship if the woman for any reason. And has her foot on the break free. Maybe maybe you're on a first or second date and maybe she's didn't shave down there. Or maybe she's on her. Or maybe she's just not ready yet. She knows she's going to have sex with u age she's just not ready yet. So the foot she goes is going to happen but not yet foots on the brake and I told men if you have your foot on the gas and she knows you're pushing person again doesn't matter if it's a second date or you've been married twenty years if she knows you're pushing for sex and her foot's even just a little bit on the break. Guess what she's going to do now, push harder on the brake and all guys. You don't want a woman pushing harder on the sex break. So pushing a woman for sex. Not only thing is violating but it doesn't serve you. Well in the woman doesn't feel loved and it doesn't Make Her Say Yeah penetrate me. Do me fuk to God. I'm ready there like this song. They're like this so I know that's confusing. The men's we want a formula we want. Okay, tell me the three steps, but I found that if the guy games setting the tone needing creating the polarity inviting the woman into that feminine space. She's the one that's already planning about when they're going to have sex. Yeah you guys on your head. Yeah, that you know is absolutely I can agree with this more. I'm so happy. I hear you saying this as well, you know, Natalie built a products all around this master is called bedroom, and she talks so much about this polarity and there's something that was out and we talked about this very openly it's called last minute resistance and it was something that pushed in to pick up Community back home. And we've had a lot of guys get in trouble for this and it's about pushing the woman to have sex if she doesn't want to and a lot of times what I've noticed too and what you're saying is the energy behind them. Is is relationship or not relationship first or second date? It's the woman will be able to intuitive intuitively feel if you're pressing the brakes or if you're putting the gas on. Yeah. Yeah, if you're off the formula exactly. So if you're pushing excuse me, so it's not about having. Oh I need to do this specific formula. It's about just embodying. You're like you really knowing who you are as a young man and really standing up to that and positioning herself in that way and I tell like men this all the time and I remind them, you know, you as a guy can probably walk outside of a neighborhood. That's maybe not so good at 10:00 at night. But as a Woman by yourself and a black shirt if you wanted to doesn't matter, but as a woman we can't do that without feeling like we're going to be in trouble. I tell mid all the time to really understand what you you're saying right now. I tell men ask any woman, you know that she feel safe walking in her own neighborhood at night well and Thursday No, the majority of women are going to say ha don't do it. And you know, I'll even you know here in Puerto Vallarta where I live see a woman walking at night on a dark Street by yourself. I'm thinking woman. What were you thinking back? And you know again, I'm not saying that in any way justify like what the whole rape culture thing, but women have never felt safe walking the planet and I told men if you understand that women by nature or security seeking creatures and trust is everything. I was actually doing an interview one time with a couple of women on a television show more Middle Ages actually known no Ashok. So I went to the radio Studios was talking to them and I made the comment on a commercial break that I said. tell men I said if you fuck with a woman's trust you're going to fuck with her lust and the new ones that thought. Oh, yeah, you need to say that when we come back from break and I said guys say that on the radio and they go so if you mess with the woman's trust you're going to mess with the woman's lust and it was funny. Probably about two or three years. Years later, I walked into a coffee shop in the area that lived and and one of those women who did the interview was sitting talking to somebody else that I knew was actually she was a dating coach as well relationship coach wage and she wakes Robert you remember me? I said, yeah. Yeah, I did a radio interview with you just I've got to tell you when said that thing about, you know messing with a woman's trust you mess with their lust she goes I'm you know, fifty-something years old been married for thirty years. I went home told my husband that she said as a woman, I'd never put that two and together in my own head that trust was so essential to open sex is vulnerable for a woman you're getting poked and prodded and penetrated in every way and to enjoy that you've got to let go. Let go you've got to trust and I mean women can bypass that they get drunk enough. They can pray fantasy. They can get into you know, some old trauma-related. You know, I'm with the Jersey And it's saying yeah, but to truly open up an experienced the depth of bliss of and when I say penetration, I don't just mean the guy jack hammer in the woman, you know with this 24/7 hard on. It's about the man bringing all of his Consciousness and presents open heartedness and groundedness and passion bringing all of that yet. Natalie's over there. Yeah. Well, yeah more important because that's the thing is like we were talking about before is the masculine energy. Is that penetrating energy, but as a woman it's all interconnected with how we're feeling and letting go of that guard but also if a man is in that neediness energy needing to validate needing to do this in your intention isn't honest behind why you're even trying to penetrate us a pick up all of your energy you're literally going inside of us. So if I'm sitting there dating a guy and I sleep with him and he's got past trauma. He doesn't love himself. He's you know insecure and he's just trying to log Need to have sex with him validate himself. Now. What was that energy in me? I gotta deal with that kind of pick up your energy now like carry on about my day. So when when you are talking about just that simple thing of like when a woman comes home and you're like they there's a glass of wine for you go change into something comfortable. You've got me for five minutes. It's that and there's no intention behind Old Testament know about that right? There is sexy to a woman and why we would be the ones to initiate sex later because that is sexy to us that right. There is a we get to trust you will just break down anything those break that down even more for men cuz social appears that thing. So yeah again, we'll go back. Let's let's talk about a guy on let's say they got into a third date with woman, you know, and he hears like, you know open he gets laid that night, you know, so he's doing all the stuff to push it and and you know as women you of course know you know why we take out right off. To see you naked that's the whole reason we take you out and you know that, you know, you're not dumb, you know, you know, of course you're not, you know, we're ready. We were that special lingerie off likely, you know, so so and and now that's the point. I really want to make, you know, when you're ready. It's going to happen and I tell guys, okay listen. A woman knows within the first 30 seconds of meeting a guy if there's a possibility she's going to wear that sexy lingerie, right? I can't know for sure if she's going to she just knows if there's not a possibility and you know, then all the guys from there they use the nice guy seduction or the pick up stuff or trying to buy you enough drinks hoping that'll yeah with some wage their insecurities and their alcohol issues. It does happen. But the woman know so I tell the guy so you really don't have to make this happen as Chris Rock Says just don't say anything really stupid. Don't mess up. Right. So the woman knows if it's going to happen right or not. She no she doesn't know when but and and you know, because of all the cultural slut-shaming off and have to Cana like, well I want to do it right now, but I'm going to give it, you know, 15 more minutes before I get, you know, put on the laundry because you know, have to culturally blah blah a bunch of noise, but it off What is so so I tell guys think about it this way if she already in her mind is entertained the idea. She's going to wear that lingerie with you. You don't have to push. All you have to do is show up be you, you know, bring that good vibe cuz you women are so sensitive to energy. Yeah. Yeah, I'll be playful be affectionate took her hand and lead her oldest a way for me to open your door invite her into your great life or she gets to see this guy's got a fucking great life. I'm not talking about a great apartment a great cook. I mean those could be part of it. But that you've got friends. You've got a life. You're you're a social animal you you take care of yourself. Let her see that part of your life. You keep getting the tone and leading what I found when I was dating again. I never pushed a woman for sex put never pushed him to get naked, but I am very affectionate and I will set the tone and I will be Adventures. And I will call a woman up and say I'm at your house in 30 minutes be ready to go. I will do those kinds of things. And what I found is then the women put their foot on the gas and and off, you know, either dropping the innuendo about sex or say come over to dinner in my house Friday night, you know, then, you know, she's going to have the lingerie ready. So I tell them don't push cuz you don't have to you don't have to now that doesn't mean I don't tell I tell guys but that don't mean to be passive, you know be know, assert yourself be bold and when the dog opens by all means walk through that door now you may have to do something like, you know, the woman's, you know been making little innuendo you may just have to do the Bold thing and my kind of was all right, you know take your clothes off and go get in my bed. Oh, I can't believe you're telling me what to do, you know what to do. So I tell men her to do what she already wants to do. Now that again that's not like oh you're going to read her mind off. You guys you you gals send the signals when it's time when you're ready. You're not that hard like me use our mouths. We we think you know those thoughts your hand might end up on his crotch outside of his jeans. There's some signal for the guy to say it happens. It happens and for the guy to say, but I've had to say women this is as far we can go in a public setting somewhere else. So if you do that, Yeah, that's amazing. I definitely oh man, this is so good. I'm like my mind is like
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"Think that it makes it makes sense. Did you have a core group of people who supported you throughout this journey? In my own personal life. My parents are hugely supportive. That was really helpful. I! Don't think I could have done this without their. Without their support, I did have a few people like that. I worked with that I. let know about I was really pretty quiet about it didn't come to a lot of people, but because because doing all these cycles impacted things at work, there were a people that I work with that. That new and I think that the biggest aboard came from from some groups online, really other women who are going through this really was helpful to have their experience, and then just have that group of people that are supporting one another have knowing what you're knowing what you're going through, either like based on infertility or other single mothers by choice, those sort of groups, some people who were in the same phase of things were the most. That was my main support. Support work. If you will correct me if I'm wrong, but it's my understanding that physicians early in their career, oh, a lot of mud medical schools. So how were you able to afford all of both? Yeah, I was actually really fortunate where I was training when I first started I had full coverage, so I had really good medical insurance in general, but it also I had coverage for infertility for, both you is in the idea. Cycle I did so. Yeah even my hormones like my co pay was more than it had been for other things, but I mean it was totally manageable and I didn't have a single goal for my idea. Almost embarrassing to say but then yeah, so I did my first six cycles there had really good coverage, and then I had some coverage where I moved or my some than eat cycles. I was afraid of that, too. You know how I was really trying to figure out how that would work out if I had to the especially head. Out of town, and the coverage that I. Where I was where I moved in a FRY BS would be would be limited. I didn't realize how good I had it where I started, and if I had known that, I probably would have tried to stay there to continue cycles. I didn't realize how rare infertility coverage would be so there's a lesson to you know and when you have it. Don't take for granted, so it was one of the really stressful things about moving. When I wasn't sure how I would be able to move forward I had some savings and I. We didn't talk about it in like super details, but my I'm an only child. Parents are super supportive and. They were willing to to help me sort of figure things out within reason as well I knew that that reason had a had limit to, and that's really hard, and I spent a lot of time thinking about how far you go, and especially, when your chances are so slim, and when you're given such a small chance of success, you Wendy you turn your resources to other other opportunities become. Become a mom like through to Egger, embryo donation, or or through adoption I knew I wanted to be on the mom, so I knew that I needed to save resources to be able to do that in some way so I feel like sort of got the easy out on that. That was the financial aspect of it. You mentioned that you've listened to at least one episode of the. I listened to so many episodes. I might drive tonight. Infertility Clinic was. An hour and a half well, both of the clinics that I worked with until my sixth seventh and Eighth Cycle. We're about an hour and a half away and I did monitoring at at sometimes I had autism. You and I met I believe about two and I say met of course virtually, but I think we met two years ago. I was so thrilled when I received your e mail that your son had been born. Yeah we. We talked to in that sort of interim phase. I had moved to Tennessee I. Remember talking with you as figuring out those next steps and thinking how to incorporate some of the things that we talked about that was that phase where I was really like you know? I have to figure out how to get to the point where I can enact some of these different things, and that's know. It was such a surprise when. When I conceived. And I felt really guarded about it I didn't tell people until a lot of people didn't tell until after he was born. People around even at work. I was afraid to like. Let people know I was passed twenty four weeks. I told anybody at work like they were like. Oh, I guess you weren't just getting fat like we should have recognized this, but I was really guarded. I really didn't share that until it was, too. He was here. I completely understand that I finally told clients at the time I was working for I, had my own PR agency and told clients at thirty three weeks I went into labor hours later. So. There's that I was like. Oh, my Gosh! I think I just jinxed to. Hold anyone. so you mentioned at the beginning that this experience hasn't changed you too much, but. How. How have you evolved and changed? As you've gone through this process and some ways I think it's just made me more myself. I don't know. How has it changed me so one of the things that I reflected on? was what I think of as like Britain grace, which I realized I learned later after I like people that is its own podcast, which is kinda funny. I had totally didn't realize that but I. Did sort of this program where we make these lights Palestine's or something and this was. Meaning and Grandma's names race. One of the things that I feel like I have a little bit in common with her is a lot of grit. And, I really had been the first. Well. Need throughout my all of my cycles I. Don't know I I got through a lot more than grace and trying to to balance that trying to bring a little bit more race into it is something that. That I I worked on and I am still working on. and. Continue working on that one of the things about infertility. Is that they're so little control over any once. We want to have control, I think. A lot of people are assertive Taibbi personalities, and you know I was so used to being able to take control of things and do things that I wanted to do, and you know with enough tenacity. Get it done, and that's just not. That's not always possible in life I guess, but definitely not in the infertility world I think that the grit was really important, but I have.
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"Trained to help coordinate care and get with you is to to to good care to the best care so I saw that second person at their recommendation and. I don't know that he's somebody I. Ever would have found on my own, and it really wasn't. It wasn't helpful for me so I. Can said I think he just. He didn't feel he had hoped for me. You know he did think trying. You is worth it. You know you couldn't do IBS, but I feel like if I. had he wanted me to come off hormones and measure coming replacement, and then measure hormones measure a twenty one day progesterone like just randomly not randomly I would have to have cycled like what I had learned already and was learning is that I wouldn't cycle without being on estrogen and there is evidence for why. Why that might be the case that you kind of reset, you can bring things down. You help the over Easter being over stimulated solely by providing estrogen it. Change that feedback loops off the hormonal access and you can bring down the. L. H. Onto Higher probably has negative effects on. You know the few remaining. Are, so I didn't feel personally like click with him. I didn't feel like what he made. He said Made Sense. accuweather truly invested in the absence events were uncomfortable and I feel like. I was was well-received there. Maybe because I was doing this on my own I don't know. So, that was connect number two. I also saw a medical chronology. Get her opinion about hormone replacement side of things and she had no sorted fertility insight. But I was thinking about full health and a whole person to. And then I my next. Opinion was seeking IBS. I have been told that I wasn't a candidate. But I. You know I had I think having a facebook groups in different infertility groups where people can talk to other people like have been really important to me to. Somebody said in one of those groups like you only need one egg. And I know a lot of people don't love the idea of retrieving for just one egg but I thought like. At least we can learn something about that one. If we can get one say can know at like. Maybe it's a little bit more under under our control. If he can do that, so you know. I just felt like I needed to do to do that. You know to feel like I had tried every avenue. I found in our eat. Who would do that and I probably would have stayed there if I had stayed in the area, but then I moved. So I saw a new. When I moved, and he continued to follow plan that had been set out by the previous folks that I saw so yeah I saw Dr Davis. Says Well AG- again. You know just looking for for the best plan. So even though the person who did idea Termi know agreed to do that I. didn't feel like you really had had experience with doing idea for somebody with PSI. Feel like they had a plan so I brought some that plan like they made a plan, but I didn't feel like they had a plan. That was wholly confident, and I met actually in Ob online an ob who? Who recommends a doctor, Davis so that that said a lot to me, and so you know the the next already that I worked less, I worked with because I, needed somebody locally. was less of an opinion than or less seeking opinion than just seeking somebody who does sort of technical side of things that make sense at some point somebody to carry out a plan at our even put in place so doctor shopping kind of has. Can have a bad connotation, but I was looking for answers tonight. I learned different things along the way from people like faulted with I learned. I learned things about my cycle in sort of what worked for me I was really just looking for looking for answers than than looking for were clinics. That could do what I thought needed to be done at. It sense you talked quite a bit about the role that hormone replacement therapy played, but what about progesterone support? That's the other thing I think is important, so the first connect that I was at said you know there's no evidence that gesture on his good br anything other than recurrent pregnancy loss and been told that I had a five percent chance of conceiving chance lifetime of having a baby it's. It's really low I don't have the opportunity. pregnancy lost her. We Institute progesterone, not that that's you know right for anyone not that you want that for anyone, but there's just so little chance of getting pregnant that if it happens at all, it needs to be needs to be you know optimized. It makes sense to me that if my body is not making estrogen, and my body is like having difficulty working normally my ovaries. Are you normally like what what's to say that they're GONNA? Make the right amount of progesterone and to do that well to ovarian sufficiency or ovarian failure. You know they're not working night so. I know they're sort of controversy about like phase defects, but like it made sense to me that that I would need progesterone so that first clinic even though they think that it really made sense, they agree to it. The next clinic that I was at. United student idea so it's just natural. They would do that the final clinic that that you know. They approve it and I did I. Don't stop no good way, but proved that needed it so both in the cycle by seven cycle leading up to my successful cycle, the in the success cycle I had a professor that was like eight or nine so again enough to show that I. I had a positive Beta. Think, we check that with the Beta I started on progesterone, but we update is clearly it was not. It didn't seem like it was. It was enough. I can't speak to any other kinds of infertility diagnoses Turkey. Ally I i..
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"How did you select your sperm donor? Yeah. I started with identifying the bank interested in It was actually a bag that had close insertive Realize time that I spent so much time looking through the files that I hadn't realized that they've been subsumed by another bank. So I had already decided on on my donor. And I just you know I am seeing be negatives that narrows things down and I know there are a lot of certificates about whether matters as an infectious disease pediatrician, who I want to take any chances, then just looking for help history and Just. To, make sure that everything's sort of felt like get jived, I. Tried said not. Too Too much because you can get really lost in the weeds outlets that it's not important, but at some point you kind of have to let things go a little bit so really the bank and that actually leads to the donor that I used for the first six cycles. I used up what I had bought for the cycle so actually. Muto a totally different donor for my sounds a cycle that was. Even more sort of impulses, but I had I chose a different bank I'm really happy with the bank that I chose the of California's one of the most ethical banks they have the lowest family limits and they do research. About. Don't conceived. Children sort of what the best outcomes for them are so human and more important to choose John are based on the bank. Because I really felt like they would do a good job in terms of screening and. Selecting donors. That I sort of round of who they brought in, so I had they have a pretty small catalogue and I had chosen a donor. Or flexible I thought would be the donor and. There's a lot of people paperwork in getting a clinic lined with a new bank that they haven't worked before. And by the time all that was in place that donor was allowed or you know they had to close because the family limits or something I don't know the details, so I sort of very quickly went back through who was available, and you just selected the the genetic. That felt felt right sort of the whole gestalt of. Their application they together and sort of what they communicated I know. Some people make like highly technical charts of all the different factors, and what have you and I guess I just went or gestalt than anything. The removal of polyps is somewhat controversial. It depends on the doctor you go to in terms of the opinion you'll get. Why did you decide to move forward with removing yours? You know I hadn't really thought about it. During the first few cycles like I just took the opinion of Ari that that it wasn't anything that I needed to worry about. kind of thought that it might even have been gone like it might have something that had been shed hadn't really been shutting my lining when I when I was first identified. I really didn't give it a whole lot. More thought and I didn't look into it and Dr. Davis is the person who recommended it and I think one of the reasons I took that furiously because everything else at that point that he had to share made the most sense to me, he seemed to be the most thoughtful person most thoughtful already that I had met with, he took me. He gave me the seemed to be giving me sort of a a serious chance. You know there are no guarantees. He didn't make any guarantees, but it seemed like he he felt like I was my cases worthwhile, so he was kind of my North Star in this after I met him like I, felt like I had something to end her around, and because he recommended I just took that recommendation. Seriously guess I also felt like after trying to dig into the literature a little bit. You know there's not good evidence that there's not you know. There's not evidence and. His rationale sort of made sense to me that. If I had gotten pregnant earlier like it wouldn't have been an issue, but like now it's about checking everything off and I think that that's kind of an important thing to me to not just the like. Do they just g do do the rest of the workup like do all of the things you don't have to start out. You can do it so to stepwise. Keep moving down those steps. That's basically why I did it I just wanted you know if it was going to be an issue. There's no way to know an issue, and there's no way to know. Having it removed was part of the reason that I was successful, but you know I was successful after it was so. Yeah that's the reason. You doctor shopped quite a bit i. want to hear about your different clinic experiences, and why you believe it's important to get more than one opinion. Oh Yeah, yeah, and that Doctor Shop, and that's one of the things that we have. This sort of like. reflects light. Feeling about medicine like Dr Topic like it has a bad connotation. But sometimes it is maybe about thing like depending on sort of what's going on, but sometimes it's a really important thing, and not something that I learned for myself to the first clinic that I started at was a very small academic clinic, and I actually started seeking a second opinion before before. I brought it up with them, but I asked about. What, about a second opinion, and was told that nobody would say anything different in bus. There was no reason just because second opinion, and that really me wrong. Not Release would have sealed the deal on continuing to work with them I, stayed as long as I needed to establish carol swear. I did seek a second opinion with another R. E.. While I was still working that clinic. That would be sort of more of a consultant than light with actually take on Medicare he was an army that was recommended to me by by Dr. Nelson, who is the one of the leading retired now H. researchers? He has said our helps. Set up this program called CONOVER. Systems.
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"And here's all the evidence why Xyz is why it's untrue, so I'm not gonNA engage in this thought I'm going to move on before it even triggers an emotion in my body. And then you're getting the results that you want so it's also interwoven with each other, so you've really want to make sure you're doing this third step in A. In a sufficient enough way that you're gathering the evidence that you need. In order to disprove that limiting belief. So this is going to start rewiring your brain to actually pull that positive evidence next time next time that thought comes in your brains even engage. You're not even gonNA. have to go through this process on a conscious level because you're breeds a really good to know that nope. Not Today I am good enough I kick ass, sodas my products. We're moving on from this thought and we're going to learn how to make sales because that's the empowering thought that you need. The empowering thought is that you're capable. The empowering is that you can learn how to take your product all nine. The empowering thought is that there is so much opportunity online, and you can actually grow the business and. Create the success that you want the lifestyle you want. Maybe that's a lifestyle of financial freedom. Maybe it's. You know location independent lifestyle and you WanNa have success your way, so that's the empowering. Thought is the capability that you can have. So think about where you're finding yourself feeling insecure where you're finding yourself feeling. Stuck where you're finding yourself not accomplishing all that you want. And I want you to put together at least three pieces of evidence to show the opposite to prove to yourself that the opposite is actually true. And the fact that you do have what it takes. So, this is the process that I use with myself and my clients when they're feeling. Stock or limiting belief is really keeping them small. It's always the most important thing to understand the connection between your thoughts and your results, but once you get that, and you really can stand behind that connection, and it's easy to be able to take these three steps, so let's just review those steps one acknowledge and accept your thoughts just sit. Do not engage and let it go. Just accept that it's happening there it is, it's not It is not it does not define you. It's just a thought..
"xyz" Discussed on Political Scandals
"Authority it seemed to Marshall but making negotiations contingent on alone was a tactic to delay their talks. It would take at least six months for the boys to write to Adams. Asking him to approve a loan for the government to review it and for a response from Adams to reach them. In that time tally round might be able to gain enough power to negotiate further. In hindsight. We know Marshall was exactly right. Tally ran wasn't exactly benevolent but he also didn't want war with the United States. He believed that a settlement could allow both countries to save face and he thought he deserved a bribe for doing negotiate. Despite Talleyrand's being more even keeled than he seemed both sides were still stuck. Marshall and Pinkney made token efforts over the winter. To meet with tally rand but they were spurned. While the envoys continued an unsatisfying winter in Paris marshalls letters from October. Twenty second and November eighth were sailing across the harsh Atlantic Ocean when the dispatches finally got to President Adams on March fourth and march fifth of Seventeen Ninety Eight. He immediately briefed Congress on their contents. It sent a shockwave through the US government. As far as Adams was concerned the key takeaway was prepare for war. He told Congress. It was time to raise an army and a navy to defend against France Vice. President Jefferson cornered the president after his address to Congress and called him insane in Jefferson's view. Not only did France have a right to feel spurn. It was Adams own hawkish actions that Risk War Jefferson and his party wanted Adams to release the full text of Marshall's letters. They believed that if they could read the whole thing themselves they would see that France was negotiating in. Good faith. Adams was the one overreacting. Of course they had no idea what the letters really said that France was almost explicitly extorting the US under threat of invasion. Adams certainly didn't mind cooperating because he knew it would only help his own position. So he sent Congress the full dispatches with the French intermediaries names removed. Hoagie was called X. Bellamy was why and Oval was e- hence the X. Y. Z. Affair the reaction was explosive even the Republicans were on Adam side now. The Senate voted to release the dispatches publicly to explain why a war with France was imminent. It was the most terrifying and infuriating story to appear in American newspapers since independence. They just shaken off the colonial yoke of Britain. Now it seemed the. Us was at risk of becoming a French colony. Across America. Anti-french protests were held crowds chanted millions for defense but not one cent for tribute back in France. Pinkney Marshall gave up on diplomacy and left Paris. Jerry the Republican and Francophile stayed in France and kept trying to negotiate. Even though President Adams was already preparing for war Jerry still believed that paying off France was well worth it. It would be cheaper than a war as he kept reminding his fellow on boys the other two men strongly disagreed back on the shores of the United States. Anti-french sentiment was at an all time. High President Adams easily convinced Congress to give him funding for fifty four armed ships. He also tripled the size of the standing army to a total of ten thousand men. Congress even preauthorized a fighting force of fifty thousand if a declaration of war was made but that declaration never came instead. Atoms simply sent his fifty four armed ships the precursor to the US navy to defend American mercantile vessels from the French. What followed is remembered as an undeclared war called the quasi war conducted entirely at sea from seventeen ninety eight to eighteen hundred the US seized ninety. Three French privateers vessels while losing just one American ship. It was a rousing success for the young nation and forced France back to the negotiating table in eighteen. Hundred to sign the Treaty of more Fontaine. Finally the hostilities ended. France had made one serious miscalculation in threatening the US. It failed to realize that. Napoleon's desire to conquer Europe would distract him from the looming conflict at sea. He wanted the glory of an emperor. Not An admiral strangely for a political scandal the XYZ affair ultimately helped. The President Adams became popular even among Republicans for his aggressive response to France. The success of the quasi war helped him cast himself as a strong commander in chief in his reelection campaign although ultimately he lost American politicians using the fear of war to shore up their own. Campaigns is nothing new. The Metaphor. Don't change horses. Midstream is brought up routinely to warn against voting out an incumbent president during wartime of course that slogan is typically used by the politician who wrote the metaphorical horse into the middle of stream in the first place. Thanks for listening. We'll be back next week with scandal number twenty seven about a brutal beating that happened on the US Senate floor among many sources. We used in researching the story. The book without Precedent Chief Justice John Marshall and his times by Joel. Richard Paul was particularly useful. You can find. All episodes of political scandals and all other park has originals for free on spotify. Not only does spotify already. Have all of your favorite music? But now spotify is making it easy for you to enjoy all of your favorite park as two originals for free from your phone desktop or smart speaker to stream political scandals on spotify just open the APP tap browse and tight political scandals in the search bar. We'll see you next time. Political scandals was created by Max Cutler and is a podcast studios original it is executive produced by Max Cutler. Sound design by one Boorda with production assistance by Ron Shapiro Carly Madden and Travis Clark. This episode of political scandals was written by yellen a war with writing assistance by Key Gallagher and stars Richard Rosner and Kate Leonard..
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"Good morning and welcome to daily quote a podcast original. Today's quote is from investment sage Warren Buffett. He says someone is sitting in the shade today because someone planted a seed a long time ago.
"xyz" Discussed on Political Scandals
"Adams and Jefferson were barely speaking but Jefferson was just about the only American. The French still liked so adams decided to try one more time to get his vice president to help in the spring of seventeen ninety seven the two men met in secret at the Francis Hotel in Philadelphia. Atoms laid out his plan. Send a three Person Commission to France to negotiate a peace agreement with the French Foreign Minister. Charles Maurice de Tellier End Parador Adams wanted Jefferson to be one of the three commissioners understanding what was at stake. Jefferson agreed at first but just two days later. He changed his mind after conferring with his fellow. Republican James Madison. He decided that he couldn't bring himself to help the federalist Party. He doesn't come off well in this story but let's not right. Jefferson off so I for this. He believed that Adams was too biased against France to resolve the crisis Jefferson. May well have felt that. He was being set up to fail or worse yet. Shipped off to Paris and out of earshot so that the president could prepare to attack France regardless Jefferson was off. The commission Adams needed to find two new men. He trusted with the safety of his country and who the Senate would be willing to confirm as US envoys to not three. Because Charles Coates. Worth Pinkney was already confirmed after being rejected by the French government. He remained in the Netherlands awaiting further instructions. Adams reason then at least one of the three on the commission ought to be a strong Republican like Jefferson with Pro France views. He looked to L. Bridge. Jerry and unabashedly Francophile Republican from Massachusetts. And a signer of the Declaration of independence for the third slot Adams preferred a federalist like himself. But someone who wouldn't be too controversial not a politician but a respected man with a no name to that George Washington and Alexander. Hamilton had a suggestion. John Marshall a lawyer and former lieutenant in the continental army now serving in Virginia's house of delegates he was a cousin to Thomas. Jefferson with Bake couldn't have been more different politically or personally. Jefferson was a college man while Marshall had no formal education though. His cousin was nimble in Latin. Greek and French Marshal was limited to English. No Matter Marshall had all they needed for a potential diplomat a good nature and moderate public profile and of course the endorsements of Washington and Hamilton Adams appointed him. As the third on Voi-. The commission was set Pinkney Jerry and Marshall the Senate confirmed all three choices and Adams began planning their voyage. He hoped they'd return from France with a signed peace agreement. Instead they were targeted for extortion. And the negotiations spiraled toward an undeclared war. That's up next. Hi podcasters I have some exciting news for you. I'm hosting a new show called daily quote. It's a quick two to three minute. Podcast that is sure to inspire you and put you on the path to positively each quote will motivate uplift and. Renew your outlook on life plus. I'll dive deeper into the context surrounding the quote so you can learn more about its origin and the meaning behind it. Here's an episode for you to sample. Take a listen and then followed daily quote free on spotify or wherever you get your podcasts..
"xyz" Discussed on Political Scandals
"To set the scene for the XYZ affair. You I got to know a little bit about the relationship between the. Us and France in the Seventeen Ninety S. Today we're used to other countries seeing the United States military behemoth but in those days America was a mere upstart nation. The colonists had won independence. But that didn't guarantee Europe's respect during the American revolutionary war in seventeen seventy eight. France signed an alliance treaty with the colonists. The French sent troops money and ships to aid the continental army many historians say Francis support was the deciding factor that repelled Britain and won the war however the French navy sailed home to a country deeply indebted as a result of the war effort. King Louis the sixteenth raise taxes to pay down the national debt in response. His subjects overthrew the monarchy and executed him after seizing power. The leaders of the revolution aimed to build a secular republic where all people were entitled to certain Basic Civil Rights and British monarchy feared Francis lofty ideals might inspire their own citizens which is exactly what the French revolutionaries intended to do. This high stakes disagreement escalated and war broke out in Europe. Several of them in fact now known collectively as the French Revolutionary Wars in America Secretary of State Thomas Jefferson and his Republican Party now referred to as the democratic Republican Party wanted to support the French revolutionaries against the British the same way France had done for them but President George Washington and his. Federalists decided to stay neutral although France and the US had signed a treaty to support each other Washington believed that they had agreed to an alliance with the King of France because France had killed their king. He considered the treaty null and void. France vehemently disagreed. The king didn't sale to North America to help the colonists gain independence and it wasn't the king who would have to pay off France's war debts. The French people had upheld their end of the deal. Now they wanted Americans to do the same. Washington was unbudging in fact in seventeen ninety four. He signed the Jay Treaty an agreement with the King of England among the many concessions it allowed England to seize any French goods found on American ships authored by Alexander Hamilton and negotiated by John. Jay Treaty was immensely on popular siding with the British over the French barely. A decade after the revolutionary war ended was a controversial choice. Indeed the name John. Jay became a dirty word among Jeffersonians especially who burned him in effigy at mass demonstrations the only people angrier about the Jay Treaty than the Americans were the French. Suddenly American merchant vessels sailing to Britain were surrounded by French privateers. The goods on board were seized as for the sailors. They became French prisoners. France then announced it planned to execute any American found on a British naval vessel in those days any number of reasons from debt to enslavement could force an American to be conscripted into the British navy. Still the French considered these sailors to be guilty of treason under the old seventeen. Seventy eight treaty by seventeen ninety six France and the US pretty much hated each other's guts. France had plenty of problems on the Home Front to the people were getting weary of their new leaders. The high minded promises of the revolution were replaced by parliament that seemed ineffective royalists who wanted to restore the monarchy or gaining ground. The only bright spot for the revolutionaries was the success of Commander Napoleon Bonaparte under his leadership. The French army was trampling across the European mainland winning almost every battle. He was well on his way to conquering Italy and looting. The equivalent of over forty five million dollars from their coffers a creative but effective economic stimulus package for friends. Meanwhile the United States was contending with deep political divisions of its own the seventeen ninety six election ended with federalist John Adams winning the Presidency but Thomas Jefferson. A Republican was his vice. President Adams favored England while Jefferson sympathized with France. Remember originally the runner-up in any presidential election was named vice. President separate ballots for the vice president's only began in eighteen o four Adams and Jefferson. Were once friends. But their partisan differences made them enemies by the time they took their oaths of office in seventeen ninety seven. Jefferson announced his intention to lead the Republican resistance against atoms rather than working with the president's administration. The only people who hated Adams more than his vice president where the French parliament France immediately denounced Adams calling him. An anglophile and monarchist undeterred. Adams tried to reestablish diplomatic relations with France. Shortly after his seventeen ninety seven inauguration he named South Carolina House of delegates member. Charles Coates Worth Pinkney as the US envoy to France once a wealthy planter pinkney was now in charge of negotiating with the French government. When the envoy arrived Francis Foreign Ministry refused to receive him not only was Pinkney sent packing France then recalled Pierra debt their minister to the United States recalling ambassadors and expelling diplomats often signals that tensions between countries are running high. One wrong move can lead to war with Napoleon running roughshod over Italy and Austria. It was far from certain that the US would prevail in a land war with France. So President Adams vowed to try diplomacy again.
"xyz" Discussed on Political Scandals
"In the year leading up to the twenty twenty election we're counting down the biggest scandals in American political history this is number twenty eight the XYZ affair a diplomatic incident that sparked a quasi war between the US and France in July of seventeen ninety seven. John Marshall Sat quietly in his cabin aboard the grace. A sleek to mass did American ship at that point. He was just a lawyer from Virginia. Tasked with a critical mission serving a secret. Us envoy to France to get there though he had to endure a six-week transatlantic voyage. The closer he got to Europe the harder it was to distract himself from the peril. That could lay ahead. Marshall began to wonder if he should have refused the mission. Back home in Richmond. Were his pregnant wife. Legal practice and his three children ahead in France was an unstable warlike government that might very well throw him in jail the moment he arrived revolutionary France was at war with Europe to fund that effort French privateers had developed a nasty habit of capturing American vessels seizing their goods and imprisoning their sailors and if the English found out that the Americans were sending an envoy to France the powerful British Navy could be sent to capture Marshall's ship instead even if the journey went well. John Marshall knew his mission might be impossible but he couldn't fathom just how hostile the reception he received in Paris would be or how his time in France would lead to a diplomatic crisis and an undeclared war at sea?.
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"Here. Bucket strategy investing. We've been talking about these annuities and the these types of annuities, gene, we had said before the break that if you have an annuity with a whole lot of gain in it, and you're just gonna take the money out and use it in whatever way you see fit. That's all going to be taxable. People have those. They bought the many years ago. Fifteen twenty thirty I don't know, however, many years ago, maybe not thirty but a long time ago and they wind up with annuities. It had a heck of a lot of gain in it. Very proud. Of course, are but on the other hand, they say, I don't really need this money. So why would I take money out? It's just going to be taxable to me it's going to cost some tax headaches. I don't have to take it out yet. I'm just gonna leave it alone. And I'll I'll let somebody else at worried about the taxes. Let them inherited. Yeah. And they'll inherit the tax, and they'll be happy because they're inheriting money in that. Exact actually they may inherited and have to pay taxes higher tax. Well. Okay. So you ask you you say, well, what are you going to do with this? Well, I'll tell you what if I ever need long-term care, excuse me. Fire need long term care. This'll be my emergency fund. I put fifty grand into this thing x number of many years decades ago. And now it's worth one hundred and fifty grand or some number. So I got two hundred thousand dollars a gain in this thing what I'll do is. I will just if I have to pay for long term care. I'll just start taking money out of this. Now, here's the issue with that. When I take money out of that annuity as I said, I got to pay taxes on it. So I'm going to take money out pay taxes on it. And then what's leftover gets to go to the long term care facility, or whatever I'm using the reimbursed myself for these expenses, and that was the problem. And so the industry says, wait a minute, wait a minute. That's because you've got the annuity over there at XYZ Bank, or whatever why not move it over to XYZ insurance company. Keep it the same way as it always has been. However, if you need to pull the money out to pay for that long term care, you're going to pull that money out, and at least not pay taxes on it, and you can fund your long term care using this as tax as a tax free basis, which is at least saving your something there. Because if I gotta pull out, you know, one hundred fifty dollars just to keep one hundred ten or whatever it is well in this particular and your particularly apple one hundred thousand dollar a gain to get one hundred. Yeah. To get the first one hundred thousand you got his pay twenty thousand dollars to they got to one government or another or more. Live what your tax bracket? So so what you're saying is that that's that. That's part of the issue here is that you can take this money out of the annuity just as he would have done before and pay for the long term care expenses as you'd plan to do. Except in this case, it's tax free as opposed to tax Bill now, there's more to it. I know that. Now. Now, it's my turn. I gotta tell what it is somebody to do exactly. Yeah. Did actually. Yes. So what we do is we exchange that annuity for a new special annuity designed specifically for the purpose of paying for long term care. If you need the money for something else. It'll be the same as what you had before. And if you never need long. Right. But it's a way a very efficiently using money that for, you know, for probably the most likely thing most people would have the individuals that I was mentioning earlier that I just finished up with that. They have that would be the first money they would use for either one of them for long term care. And now they're going to get it set up. So that they don't pay any taxes. And that was that was one of the innovations of of that the insurance company brought to bear and the the congress and the IRS and everybody got on board with it and said this makes a lot of sets. The government is really searching for different ways to to help pay for long term care because they don't want to be in that business. And and they're not. Well, they they are they they they are already in the Medicare business long-term. All right. But here's the thing. I had one hundred fifty thousand dollars fifty was my own, you know, in this example was gained. Let's say I use it for long term care. But that one hundred fifty grand, you know, a couple of years. It may be gone. Yeah. So what? Now what now? Well, that very annuity has what we call a writer on it. That says whatever we were paying you as a benefit out of your way. Would they basically do is they the insurance company divides? The the annuity value say a hundred and fifty thousand dollars by say twenty four and they and they pay that much out a month. To reimburse it, it's it's a plan of care, which is what the IRS says qualifies it as okay? So so two years later, you're out of the you're out of the hundred and fifty thousand dollars you got it all out tax free. New out of money. But the insurance company says we'll continue to pay. What would.
"xyz" Discussed on News Radio 920 AM
"Seven you know cashflow misstep right that's right Ain't so cash flow is. Actually what, saved him here taught him how. To bleed off his IRA's and how to move it out I think that's. Pretty amazing especially when Trump diversification because people think about. Diversification as I have twenty, five different mutual funds or I have a seventy five. Different stocks or I have my money at at XYZ Bank and at elemental p. Bank right and it kind of goes and diversification. Can actually be a lot different than. Diversification can be the three worlds of money it can be how you carry yourself. When it comes to distributing your money these, are all protection, vehicles and they call them cash flow and it go along the diversification of. Cash flow you mentioned it it's are you split up. Over banking, insurance and stock market world but it's also do I have a pool of money that's taxable and. That's nut tax attorney Jerry situation the thing he needed was how do I get more money out to pay. For things I want without. Having to pay more in taxes and. So we just, had, to? Readjust his Allocation diversifying so this week he had taxable in non taxable money who it was a great feeling you know when it comes. To verse of income one, of those pieces is social security and we want to talk about that we have for you, guys out there the social security decisions handbook we weren't we're giving away those I think we've got three those left today, so? We want to get those, in your hands that's an essential read put it on your bookshelf make sure you're going through. This you know give us a call today to get one of those.