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385: Once Homeless, Now Investing in an Expensive Market (With No Money of His Own) With Greg Gaudet

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385: Once Homeless, Now Investing in an Expensive Market (With No Money of His Own) With Greg Gaudet

"This, the bigger pockets podcasts show three hundred and eighty five desperation. It wasn't until I had the desperation. It wasn't until like I had just been working. The nine five's working working working got years and years of that where I was happy and knew that I had to find a way, but it wasn't desperate, so it wasn't until I got desperate that. I became willing to do anything. You're listening to figure pockets radio, simplifying real estate for investors, large and small. If you're here looking to learn about real estate investing without all the high, you're in the right place, stay tuned and be sure to join the millions of others who have benefited from bigger pockets dot, com, your home for real estate investing online. What's going on and one? It's brand turner host to the bigger pockets podcast here for another phenomenal show with my co host Mr David Greene Welcome back to the show David Greene. Thank you, Brandon! This is a really really good show. We haven't inspiring stories day of a person. Yeah, overcame. Tough life obstacles to make it in success in real estate and I personally had a really good time listening to the story. Yeah yeah, really really powerful stuff is going to be in a guy named Greg Day in Greg. Actually my business partner out here in Maui where we flip houses together so actually. Did this recording like he's in my shed. Shed here, chatting with us and I honestly didn't even know. Eighty percent of this story the I'd heard glimpses of it over the years of getting to know Greg but man. It floored me the what he overcame in his life to get where he is today so really good stuff. Hang tight for that today before we get to that, let's get today is quick. To very simple today, greg talks about a vision board, and now if you know what a vision board and somebody who might be like you know that sounds cheesy, or that sounds amazing. Maybe you do it. Maybe you don't know what it is. You'll hear about what it is today, but basically my quickstep is. Try Vision Board government, old magazines and a big. Piece of paper like A. Three foot piece of paper and try to plan out what you want your vision of your life to look like down the road. You'll hear more about why that's important. Later with Greg and his Porsche but hang tight for that, but before we today's show, lastly, let's hear from today's show sponsors. Hi Guys. We did a whole show about this topic. The big three roadblocks for new investors to remember what it was, it was not enough time, not enough deals and not enough money. Well, the people over at rent to retirement they get it. That's why they offer fully turnkey properties in markets where the number actually make sense renta retirements property. They're already renovated leased and managed allowing you to invest with confidence out of state. We're talking about markets like Birmingham Memphis and And Cincinnati were actually owned property. 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He talks about why he doesn't really spend a any of the money. He makes in real estate, which is kind of a really cool strategy. You like that talks a lot about Hondas now condos about we kinda shy away from like me personally and so therefore the show. We don't talk a lot about them, but we made a lot of money this year on condos. We're talking about that's. Greg and I really like a ton of really good stuff, so keep in mind. This show was recorded pre corona virus, but we caught up with the other day every single day because we worked together and like really everything here stands the exact same today. That did three months ago. In fact, he's very risk averse. He knew just like we've been talking about for awhile that a recession we're gonna hit, and so the way he invests is to make sure he's not you know. Caught. In a risky situation, so you're going to hear more about that about. How does that how he burs? And some of that stuff there so without further ado. Let's jump right into the interview with Greg God Day. What's up? Man? How you doin' what's up. Thanks for having me on. Yeah, welcome to the shed. Yeah, so we're going to go to your store today and to be honest I. don't even know a lot about your story pre like last year. You know we've had a few surf sessions out there in the water. Talking about your story and I was like dude. We gotta get you in the podcast. So, let's start early on. Tell us about yourself before getting into real estate and kind of how you got into it. Yeah, so well I'll just give a quick summary of where I come from grew up in Miami Florida and I grew up in a upper middle class family. Kinda. How picture-perfect Childhood An Amazing Dad! My Dad was the senior vice president of real estate financing. For Carnival resorts casinos, and so he was a real estate developer, amazing man, but he passed away when I was fourteen years old. So who really gets learn much from him on the real estate front, but so obviously that was devastating fourteen years old, and my life was completely flipped upside down my personal reaction was I spiralled completely out of control I got into all kinds of trouble I You know in order to cope with the pain I guess I went out and and just caused any trouble possibly could escape myself that resulted in me and ultimately being addicted to drugs and alcohol and It got pretty bad for a while. And I'm really grateful for that. Because that has led me to exactly where I am today and today I have an incredible life kit beyond my imagination, and yes, so during that time I did discover real estate while I was struggling with drugs, which was over like a twelve year period was a long time and I. I discovered real estate when I was nineteen years old right out of high school I became an appraiser, and instantly fell in love with the industry and I knew that's what I was going to do. I knew it was real estate I didn't know. What. Time, I thought was going to be an appraiser from. My entire life, but obviously you know that was in two thousand three, and in two thousand, six, two, thousand, seven I was twenty two twenty three years old. I was the newest youngest intern status kind of appraiser and lost my job so. That also kind of fueled my addiction to. Get even worse. And I went back to school at that time, trump will try to go back to school. Kind of struggle just was lost for a long time, ultimately ended up overcoming addiction, and that has once I kind of was able to turn my life around. That's when I kinda got back into real estate. I dabbled in and out of working in real estate throughout that whole time, but and not always always been fascinated and obsessed with investing real estate, but never had the education or the I didn't have the skill set. I didn't know how to invest her where to even get started or. Have, funds or any way to actually do it. So. That all changed in two thousand sixteen. I made my First Vision Board which I'm glad you mentioned in the quick tip. Because on a huge advocate for vision boards I believe that vision boards podcasts are what changed my life, so I made a vision board in two thousand sixteen, the had to kind of specific things that stand out to me is that it had a picture of a bunch of properties that were symbolized rental properties to me and then it. It also had a picture of a single family home that symbolized a single family home that me and my wife. Jamie had been wanting to build our own home at that time less than a year later, I owned by first rental property, and we had our house being built. That's something I never could have imagined when I made that vision board, I never could have fathomed. How could ever possibly actually purchase already? Let alone build a house I live in. And I attribute that Altuve the Vision Board, and ultimately after making the Vision Board something in the universe happened where one day all sudden I'd never listened to a podcast had heard that word podcasts at podcast was and I. One day was like. Let's see if there's a podcast about real estate, and so that's how I found bigger pockets Amazon yeah. Yeah. It's of how I got started. Yeah, all right so there's a few things I want to dig into here. First of all. This is totally non real estate related, but I'm to. There are people at Osan show right now. They're struggling with things like addiction problems. Like what? What do you think was the key to overcoming that like? was there like? You shifted your mindset. You grew out of it. There was somebody him alongside you like. Is there any like anything that I know? It's a very you know you read books on that topic, but like anything that people listen to show. That might be done with that. They've learned from your journey. You know like you said you could just go on for hours about that for me personally. I believe that it just hitting rock bottom is what did for me, and some people are like have this event. That just changes their life for me. It wasn't one event. There is multiple events you know. I've been in jail been. overdosed you know I've had my mom find me. Not Breathing without a Poulsen give me CPR that was. A big life changing event but all all of those things happened within. Maybe a year, or so of each other and I didn't stop instantly after one of those, but that was the process of me getting to where I needed to be to to know that that was not the life for me now I also had a period of I went into recovery when I was twenty two years old, so when I lost my job as an appraiser actually, but I didn't change my life at that time. That's when I realized that I wanted to change, but it was from then until I was. Almost a probably eight year period of me struggling to try to get better and getting worse and worse and worse, but also getting these spouts of being sober for longer and longer periods until ultimately. Those Kinda reminds me the conversation. You and I have tonight about how most people won't change or make really big progress in life until they feel desperate and desperation comes in lots of different ways. Sometimes, it's like a financial desperation. Sometimes it's an emotional one or a relationship that went wrong. Sometimes, it's just like this this ache inside that you're lonely and you want a different kind of a life, but all of us have a desperate version of ourselves. That lives very deep inside and most of the time. We don't connect with it because we're trying to numb it with everything. In your case, you shared you know there was substance. Substance Abuse, but that's not a different pattern than everybody else people that are addicted to buying things online. There's people that are into the food. There's people that are addicted to attention. Right and I think what brand and I were talking about was that. If you really want to be successful, you usually already have the pieces inside that you need. You're burying them in. You're drowning them with something to numb it and when you stop doing that and you get to that desperate party you, you'd be amazed. How much motivation actually have when we hear new investor stock, but I just can't get started. I'm scared. You're just not desperate enough. Desperate you don't care and the second thing I want to win out I. Really like about your story was admitted. I didn't just get clean. And then that was a part of my life that was over ripe. There was times that you regress back into that habit, and then you find your way out of it, and you regress back. That is actually much more compatible to what the journey of an entrepreneur looks like I had some success, and then I screwed up I had some success, and then I got left by my higher I had some success and then I got to big. Big headed and try to invest in something to understand. It is a process of successes and failures being combined together that we go through Israel's sin investors before we get to the point where like Brandon he's. He started a fund right now, and you have to be okay with that if you have this idea, if you're a perfectionist and you live in that world, where everything has to be perfect, you're just never going to make progress. The real journey looks like I got in shape, and then fell off the wagon. I got an shape again I fell off the wagon. It's that. And quitting and going quitting that builds the muscle up. That eventually becomes a habit, and once it's a habit now you're on the way to success now let's deep and I think the thing I. Like about your story. Was that what you're saying is during that process of fighting. You fell in love with real estate. Right? It just walk in your life and Change Your Life, but you found something that you loved. It woke something up inside you and you clung to that like an anchor, no matter where your your substance issues were kind of taking you right, and by the way thank you. You for sharing that I think that's incredibly brave. Tell us what that feeling was like. When it woke. Something up inside you in new new I love real estate. What thoughts were you thinking? What were you going through well when it first happened I? Mean like I said. I was when I was nineteen years old and started doing appraisals. I, specifically remember an encounter where I was living in Miami, and I pulled up to us. Do an appraisal on a total warzone property and this kid was the owner borrower pulled up to meet me and some ridiculous car like a Ferrari or something and. I know the the Things are not important, but as one thing that I shared with my dad is the love of cars, so we were very passionate about cars, and some people might think driving for our silly, but. There's I appreciate. That on your vision board by the way a Ferrari, Oliver Ari, but a poor show. Okay, awesome. My Dad was a major portion fanatic. That was something I. Put on My Vision Board that I never again ever could have imagined. How I can ever by Porsche, but did not yeah. Just theater denied just. Like an hour ago, we'll get. We'll get to that story. Or any other make vision boards. So you saw this guy, this kid pull up and and he had achieved them like huge levels accessible, not just symbolize to me the freedom that. Obviously, this guy's doing something in real estate. That's providing him with the freedom to live the life. He chooses to live instead of living life. He has to him, so that was a spark something inside me. It was always in there. It was kind of dormant for awhile ultimately. Like, I said in two thousand sixteen when I, when I made that Vision Board, I think I was at a point where I just couldn't imagine going to work everyday for somebody else. I I can't like that is ultimately cannot. I would not live that life. I'm not okay with that like living my entire life waking up and going to work and being at work for somebody else all day every day I'm a I'm actually personally have a big philosophy that we should not be working forty hours a week five days. You know we should. We should have a much healthier balanced, but if I'm. I'm going to be doing that. At least I'm going to be doing it for me and having the freedom to make my own choices. That's cool. That's cool man all right, so let's walk through that I deal. You said you made vision board, and then a year later you about your first rental. What was that Limi-? Where did you buy that? I got here allowing. It was yeah, always crazy expensive. Though most people would say, you can't buy now if you're if you're just getting started just to impossible and people are saying that about San. Francisco by the New York, California. I mean every city in America. They're saying you can't do it. It's too expensive. How did you pull that off? So I did know again. You know I practice real estate here in Maui for my first five years here so and a real estate appraiser agent or I was I did real estate escrow got brokerage I, was a transaction coordinator. My title was manager at a high end top producing broker in Maui, so I learned A. Lot there that was an incredible experience, and then I went into vacation rental management, so I managed a short term rentals here. Actually a niche seventy units for a few years, and learn a little bit of a different side of the business there and actually I remember making a comment while I was a vacation rental manager to my broker at the time about this one particular building that is like the only place on Maui that anybody that doesn't have a couple. Million dollars sitting in the bank could afford fringes and. I mentioned to her. Hey, you know. What do you think about this place like? They're selling for the time seventy thousand dollars for a two bedroom condo. which is crazy because they average? The median sales price on Maui right now as seven seven something condos, I think the median shelves prices is in the five hundred, so it's just this one building. There's a couple of buildings like that, but there's not a lot. I made a comment she had said. Oh, you know basically bashed. John said this has. Nothing to do with this place, not whatever? And I. Kind of believed her took. Her. Advice Likes Daily Variety of music. You can't get. There like you know, it's just it's useless. Forget it, so. I listened and but it was still was every time I drive by it I just say man like equal housing so cheap in my head, unlike in rent rented how you can cover the expenses. I don't understand why people aren't buying these things, and ultimately that is I didn't know how to analyze the deal also at that time, so I'm just in my head thinking okay. Maintenance fees are five hundred brands or this much, and it seems like it makes sense in my head, but again it wasn't until I made the vision. Board listened to the PODCAST and your video on how to analyze rental property. The viral one new. One Yeah, so I found that. Yeah. It's got like two million views now or someone down on Youtube is crazy. Yeah, we'll put a link to it in the show notes by the way at big pockets that comes show her the four of you that having already. Work US. All right so you find the video to learn how to deal a little bit Jack and I have been making offers on MLS listings, which by the way I had done I had been doing since I was working at the brokerage doing escrow gross stuff I. had made offers and I thought that investing in real estate. Matt buying something like low ball offer, get something for a good price, and then you've got woody and then in a year you're going to double your equity and sell it and you'll have a million dollars. was You meant this will? When I was making, those offers was thousand twelve and. You know it's too bad. I didn't pull the trigger. I walked away from a deal over five thousand dollars so as a condo on front street in Mohinder, they wanted eighty, five thousand, I offered seventy five, she countered eighty and I said now. How much does that place worth now? This is why I ask. Because I knew that was coming as a as an agent I. See this from my clients all the time. There's a deal we're trying to buy. With one hundred thousand dollars of equity, and the seller doesn't want to replace the roof and they'll walk away from it over ten grand. It is so easy to get caught up in the money that you think you're losing. Because that's what screams the loudest right now. This can hurt me and that's what you pay. Attention to and miss the money. You could have paid one hundred eighty five for that, and and this isn't a pig on you rags. We've all been there man. Everyone of us have done this, but. But one of the ways that you get over the fear of investing in real estate is to take yourself out of what I feel right now and say twenty years from now looking back, what will I wish I did? And that five thousand dollars won't even be a thought in your mind at that point, and it's hard. It's hard to do that because your motions don't live in the future, they live right now, and that's what you have to deal with. How much do you think that five thousand dollar issue? And how much have you think? Do you think it was a fear issue? If you're looking back on that, it was a lack of education issue. Okay I didn't know. That I could just rent. The condo out I was buying it as an owner occupant you know I was gonna live in it and I thought in two years. It'll be worth more and I'll sell it and then I'll move up into a house. They'll sell that. You know that's what I thought was all appreciation speculation I also and two thousand twelve had no education on the economy's market. One was going on and. On the fear topic. My theory was that we're in a dead cat. Bounce right now, and it's about to really draw. Thought? Is that I remember those big fear back then yeah I the two thousand twelve. You start you start getting into making offers. backout you you. You lose the deal. And then you had two thousand sixteen. Is that I deal in that first condo came in when you bought. Closed on in two thousand seventeen, okay, but two thousand sixteen is when I started doing the leg restaurant, listening to all the podcasts I'm GonNa send you a couple, others and couple of other some cheated on. This is why you didn't buy that deal you. In your head that went brandon's earner. I think they cost you so much money. No more you listen to listen to David and that's all you listen to. All right so doesn't sixteen seventeen listening to us and at first CONDO. What's funny? You were saying that people were saying you shouldn't buy can't get a mortgage there. This is that you want to bring out here because we've all heard like story that people like you really shouldn't invest in real estate. Uncle John got an uncle who lost a shirt real estate at some point. I mean all these like stories about just sitting there, talking to my one of my buddies yesterday, I heard that live here Maui and they were talking to this gentleman at Church, and they were asking who the lawyer. The old lawyers been alert for fifty years and they're asking him. Like they're basically said Hey, we've got rental properties and they autumn. Utah and they're like we're trying to find out if we should put them in LLC, and the guy just went off for forty five minutes about how they shouldn't buy rental properties, because they're a horrible idea and rental only make people lose money and she was like this like that's why you can't listen to people. Sometimes a we mentors, but even mentor is like. Listened to him because people just don't know what they're talking about, even if their lawyer or a doctor or CPA or whatever? It's hard when you just take people's advice for I'm guessing the person that told you you want nothing to do with this property. Did you mentioned what they did for work with a real estate agent? She was a real estate broker with I do, and this is why I'm saying that. Because from her perspective, she was giving you honest. Good Advice. That would be very hard property for her to sell, and she knows him I sit on the market for a long time, so from her perspective. This is A. A bad deal, but from an investor perspective that's completely agents don't have invested resigned now. They don't think that way. Right and contractors don't have a way of looking at it like that, and neither do appraisers. It's great to get feedback from these people, but you gotta take it for what it's worth right. This would be a hard house for free to flip is basically what she was telling you. It'd be house for me to sell, so you don't want to buy or not. Somewhere you want to live. That's but someone else isn't gonNA mind. Living there right like we just go through this all the time. It's good to get advice. It's not good to just say. Tell me what to do and I'm GonNa follow you. Understand the perspective that advice is coming from. Way It as a as a lot of different information that's coming in. I got the same advice from a mortgage broker I think we were talking about yesterday. My one of my lenders on my second loan buying in the same kind of area had said. You know you really shouldn't be doing this. This is a bad idea. L.. A. And he probably saw tons of people properties like that right, but he doesn't know how you live. If you live beneath your means, right, you can be Brandon Turner. Sleep on the couch, raining out four bedrooms in your house. You'RE NOT GONNA. Lose that property. Yeah, yeah, definitely had to take advice all with a grain of salt from everybody because there's well intentioned people, even real estate investors, even mentors family members, but we off deliver online. It's okay so. So, you decided anyway at some point. You decided to go forward and move. So what was that I d like so that I deal was a foreclosure a girl that I had spoken to that actually lived in the particular building, which is a large building. There's a lot of units there, so it's it's popular. It's well known, and it's a popular place for people that don't make a whole lot of money. It's not a nice building, but it's not horrible. You know it's it's just. anyways, this girl lived there. She was in real estate like property management. I think Kinda you know not not very far along in her career, but She had point out this one particular unit to me. That was a foreclosure and you know it was like no contingency Kinda deal a lot of risk involved in it and she knew how to get that deal, she knew. Knew the stuff that I had to take to get to the bank and went. You know basically by the property so I you know should mentioned it a couple times and I was telling her about the ones on an awesome wanted to buy, and she's like you're really thinking should go. After this one I kept thinking now I don't know about it. It's scary, you know. Looking back. There's so many things I should've gone wrong. But I I took the steps, and and I took the risk, and it happened to work out although even if it hadn't worked out, I'm glad that I did it because had it not worked out I? Still would've learned a whole lot, and it's not like I would have lost everything you know. I would lost. You know maybe a few thousand dollars, but yeah, and another important detail. You were mentioning Brandon, being homeless and living on a couch. I actually so that's an important part of my story. Is that throughout that entire time from two thousand twelve, basically, until now still not so much last six months, but I've lived extremely frugally. I'm very careful with my spending I live below my means, and that's one of the ways that I was able to actually purchase have rental property so I when I was working at the brokerage, making sixty something thousand a year, or so I was bringing peanut butter jelly sandwiches to work every single day. Actually I'd like to dive into that if that's okay with, you can ask because I'm in a very similar situation I. don't need to live nearly as frugally as I do I'm house hacking my primary? Primary residence drive a camry I'm not driving a very nice car I. Don't have hardly any expenses other than food for the most part, and it's not like I have to do that. What I realized is that I do that. Because of the emotional impact, it has on me to fill more brave to be more aggressive with what I'm investing. I'm always thinking worst case scenario like many of our listeners are I sound like all just screw it. Go buy a house. It's not like that at all right I. Think what is the worst thing that could happen? I would have to make that mortgage and I wouldn't be getting any money if that happened on ten houses at the same time and. And if I think Oh, I don't like how that sounds I won't be bold, and I won't be aggressive pursuing deals, which is the number one thing that will cost me money so I know. If I'm living way beneath my means, I can prepare for that worst case scenario. That's never gonNA happen, but it gives me the emotional confidence to aggressively go after the deals so eating peanut butter and Jelly sandwiches. You're making yourself hundred thousands of dollars a year. You're not just saving the money on what I would be spending. If I went out to eat for lunch, right? You're actually going to take action to go. Buy More deals and more people need to think about that if you're having A. A hard time moving forward, ask yourself why that is, and what you can change your life so that you'll feel comfortable doing it at at a certain point, you'll have so much income in so much equity that you'll let those things by the stuff that you weren't doing like a Porsche. You know to throw at one to add to that. A lot of people think see people like myself right like we're here in this stupid nice like area of Maui. Like Ocean View Pool. I got my tests out there. He's the Brandon has a lot of Nice stuff, but like I. Don't think I. WanNa. Make sure people realize I only increased my lifestyle with the income. I was making off past. Yeah, so I didn't. My wife and I were still living and I guess eighty thousand dollar house and House hacking everything for years, and we lived in a church parsonage for free exchange for free fixing up seven years ago. Wasn't that long ago? It was like right before I started. Bigger pockets like we were like. We only expand our lifestyle as we make more passive income, and that's how I want to like. I would encourage you to look at. It is not hey. I made more money in my job I'm going to go spend more money or I made more money. I'm going to spend it because they'll make me want to. Yeah, yeah, you expand as you bring in more. We talked about this between each other all the time. Your your vertical income does matter doesn't don't say it doesn't matter, but all that vertical income is meant to invest in real estate or invest in something, and then you did you live off of the income that comes from the investment. That's very easy to. Actually kind of puts a governor on how crazy you're spending can get out of hand because if I want nice things I got to be a better investor is not I gotta go make more money because if you're just spending the money that you make, you're not getting anywhere. You're working really hard to have nice things. Then you gotta go work hard again when you work really hard invested that. That investment can buy you a new car. Every three years they can pay for the vacations or taking a can pay for the house in Maui that you're living in that principle, I wish more people understood to we fast forward actually to the end of your story real quick, and then we'll go back and revisit the journey on there, so you drove up. Yeah, go ahead. Go ahead, please. You know living below your means thing that Porsche. Nazar. I want to go to. That by the way I think it's important to mention the only reason. I bought it first office because my truck broke down, my was trying to fifteen year old truck, a piece of junk and broke down for the third time in three months on Christmas. Day and my mechanics said you gotta guessing so that's why I started looking for new Carlsberg I wasn't even going to sell it, but he convinced me like you need a new car. And I bought that Porsche cash and I say that not to Brag. I say that because I think it's important to not over leveraged I and also I did that as a way to reward myself for all the hard work I had done because I'm not keep yourself motivated. Exactly. I wanted to go to make you money. You motivation, you have this portion now. You got it because I'm not. Can you guys like Greg worked harder than every any person I've ever seen work on managing a flip before? And he didn't onto our recent flips and like. IRV that Borshev because like you, you hustle and you didn't go finance now. You got your your scrapped in a job longer. Because now you got all this. How a payment! You paid cash for you by even a reasonable like price. You got a good deal on it. You shop for your doing so. I get. The asset that you made out of thin air and we'll talk about that a little bit. How? To Buy Vehicle and the family I talked about the Tesla bought a rental property. The pays the pace for the payment. It's the same concept so i. just want to bring that up again like you can have nice things investor just get your assets to pay for them rather than you know dishing out more money in a assets in gear you're. All right, so let's let's go back a little village, so you've got you got this first rental property there at that Condo, complex and you started picking up a few more right, I thought it'd be a one year or two years and then I'd get the next one and Basically I got that thing. I cleaned it up rented out and the Foursquare Analysis. I found while I was in the process of purchasing. It was kind of like the confirmation for me, affirmed everything that I thought the numbers were exactly what I had thought in my mind and done my own math and. So that worked out about two months after I had closed on that another one came on the MLS that kind of caught my attention. The interesting I called the realtor just to kind of talk story and find out a little doubt. Curiosity ended up going to see it again. Just out of curiosity, it was a total distressed like disgusting place, and I ended up making an offer getting under contract by it, so it went a lot faster than I expected. You GotTa talk a lot about how the first deal is not to get you financially momentum going to get you going that I can never understand. Understand that until I actually did it. Not I deal. Boom also was buying you know, and then two months after the second one third one and actually second one by the way is so bad that I brought. Let's bring contractors to get estimates during escrow and one of the one of the contractors has. It's like shirt over his as the whole time he's like. Get outside and he's like I. I can't help you with this Oh. Wow, yeah, I've not I've not had. Ten thousand dollars, you know it's a small one bedroom condo. Wasn't a whole lot to do. Fool gut renovation. Ultimately I ended up doing the renovation, the whole Rehab for about twenty, two hundred I think wow, yeah, something like that. That's thing I'll about condos. Is that kind of a little bit vision? A place like that like the little smaller condo's can be a little bit easier to to Rehab so now like we talked about. Back when Josh on the podcast every week he would complain about with all the time, though Conway, the horrible 'cause, even really bad experiences with condos. Hoa's can be difficult. What's been your experience now? Owning your multiple now units in this in a condo? So, what's that been like being with Hoa? Are they driving you crazy? On the board so okay I kind of am the issue there, yes. I without a conscious choice because you. Point I had five four or five units there and I chose to get on the board. Although it's not I don't recommend serving on the board, anybody. Especially, know anyways. I chose to serve on the board because I have a vast majority of my net worth of savings invested in that place, and it's important for me to protect my investment, so that's why I serve on the board Condo's yeah, there's a lot a lot a lot. You need to know about condos before you buy one personally. My background was in condos except in Miami, I do appraisals. I did a lot of single family I did a lot of condo conversions at the time. That was the thing in my head. But once I got to Maui and did escrow doing all high end condos in Kana Apology Lana so I learned a lot about condos then and then do invasion rentals, and and a whole lot about content so I understand condos I understand the HOA's I, also work within serve on the condominium tussle of Maui which is an Educational Seminar Program for Condo Associations Board members, and all that so ever good foundation to invest in other words. You just didn't you didn't his wing it? You're like I'm going to invest in real estate now to go by condos wing with no education like you, you I learn you earned while you learn, you know. Know you had a job in the space you. You joined a board because you're you're invested in it. I I love that whole thing of like this is your life. This is your thing. You'RE GONNA put effort into it. John Crazy is when people like they, they know real estate is one of the most important things they can ever do in their entire life like up there with like getting married. Having kids and like invest in real estate is so important because it it can help you save thirty forty years off your life of working for the man yet. People don't put even like ten minutes of work or education or protection. Any of that, it's a blows my mind. How little effort people put into one of those important decisions ever make in terms of industrial so and I'm a great example of that in two thousand twelve, when I was making those offers now I was talking to my broker and I thought he was my great. My best source of information just googled how to invest in real. I'm guarantee. One of the first things pop up bigger pockets. Yeah, and I would have. That would have been life changing we'll. It makes me wonder how many of the Naysayers 'cause. There's plenty of mouth. Say Real Estate's terrible. They had a bad experience did zero. Yeah, like due diligence on what they were getting into, but they had an expectation that real what is about? About, real people think should work different than everything in the right. You never date someone. You knew nothing about surprised when it went bad, if you if you married him, you would never show up to a Jujitsu class with having zero experience and think that you were going to be really good at it. At least have no normal person would but with real estate. Estate. There's this idea that you should just buy a house in your property. Manager should just fix everything for like one hundred fourteen dollars a month and make you millions of dollars without thinking about anything yourself, but it's like everything else. There's gotTa be a thing you have to learn. You have a specific personality that will work for certain aspects of how this whole. Whole thing goes. You found a niche condos your niche. You focus really hard on your niche, and you do really well, but you didn't really do that until you found that niche. You've got to kind of play around for a little bit until you figure out Oh. This is where I'm really good, and then you put your foot on the gas and you go. Go in that direction, so many people that complain and say real estate doesn't work when I. Actually asked them about their experience. It was what you just said I. Just bought a house because he said I should. They bought the prettiest one off of Zillow in the worst neighborhood. Somebody else was laughing as they sold them this deal for way more than they ever should. Should have. They didn't even know what cash flow meant. They didn't understand principles of investing. Are they bought an a terrible area? Then they complain about tenants the entire time you know and I have yet to find a successful investor that doesn't say I had to learn something whether it be a minutes figured out on that remember. The story had earlier about that, yeah. Yeah the old the old lawyer that was telling my friends. They shouldn't invest in rental properties. He said to them he said Yeah I, could never get my tennis to pay rent on time I would have to show up to. Their house will be knocking on their door all time today. The nights and I'm like cokie. Clearly guy never read a single book on. On rental property management like you're showing up at the House, day and night to collect rent, like. Of course you had a bad experience expect it's the same thing like I. Don't know why that might. My marriage didn't work out I. Mean I never met. The Lady I just ordered off the Internet like exactly. The mail order bride side said that they were great. I got like the whole thing's a scam. I'm never gonNA marry again. That's the same attitude we get with. That lost money in real estate, but never took any ownership over the role. They played in their mistake. Yeah, so okay, so greg, so, how do you said earlier that person told you couldn't refinance deals in that in that complex? How are you able to finance these deals? Then I called banks and asked us at lend. Bosterous of as you look at it. that. It wasn't as simple as yes sure. We'll give you a mortgage. Sure there's a lot of things I had to find out the specifically delinquencies, because it's a condo. One of the really important factors that the banks would consider is the delinquencies, which means the specifically the number of homeowners that are behind on their monthly payments. Generally now this is specific to my experience, but the banks would not want really lend if there was more than ten percent of the owners delinquent maintenance fees. This particular complex had been. During the recession. A lot of people who are. At. You know this is a place where it's very highly investor occupied, so it's one do most people stop paying I right like they pay their primary before they're going to pay for. The twisting landed property right so the delinquencies had been very high and yeah. I'm sure you know the bottom of the recession. There's no chance you'd get a traditional mortgage there. But at this time the delinquencies had gotten down, and that was something I put a lot of time and work into figuring out. What what is it that the bank needs to be able to lend and you know my. Ratio to figure out I figured all that stuff out just by doing the legwork calling the banks talking to people and finding out what I need to know, so this is one thing that I've always admired about you is that you are very aware of lending criteria? We have conversations like we've talked about like you know like. The more we developed this like flipping thing like. If you end up leaving your job or do you need the income of during it like? Deva, income I guess we've had this conversation than you're always very well that put me a sixty five percent or twenty a you know these numbers, and again it goes back to her. Because this is important to you, so why not know the rules that govern the game that you're playing and against so many people don't even know what DTI is. That income is and that's fine beginning. You don't know this stuff, but like golden research. He's just said that no the rules that. The game you know the why behind why you got told No. One of the things comes up allows the berm method, and I wrote the book, so everybody asked me. I can't get a bank to lend to me within six months. How do I make him do it? and. None of them ever have asked the lender. Yeah. Why is that your rule? Not Nobody they come to us and they say hey, tell us why. How do you get around this problem? But asking the question of the lender Y, and then that will probably follow up questions. That's interesting. Tell me more tell me more. Let me understand the perspective of the person giving me the one hundred fifty thousand dollars when they don't know me at all what they must be thinking this it. It leads to so much information that now once. That's in your brain. You can come up with the solution for your own problem it's. It's really that simple right. Just follow that. Rabbit Hill into to understanding the rules that govern the game. You're playing and know what that person's thinking. You should do that with your property manager. You should do that with the appraiser. You should do with your contractor. How many People Complain About Contractors? But they don't know what a contractors business looks like. They don't know how to propose a like. Hey, let's work together in a way that works for both of us because they have no idea what the person's job is. Yeah I have all the time where a contractor says. Do that we have to do this, and it's going to be five times more expensive than you say. Why and they say well because Blah Blah Blah and I say okay well then. Why don't we do this and they say? Oh my God all the time. Yeah, I see that as a real estate agent, the same thing right like okay. This doesn't work why they tell me. What if we did this? Okay, and it's so frustrating because you expect the other person to be bringing the solution. Stop expecting that we've got the housing. Remember the helping. Stairs yeah, there were there were the upstairs and downstairs they weren't connected inside, and the bank was like. You have to have an internal internal staircase. We can find your deal and was just can't find the deal and other people were like Oh man. This ducks and I'm like okay well. What if we put a staircase in the middle of the house seller? Pay For it. Yeah, exactly and everyone's like Oh. Yeah I guess we could do that. So zero dollars out of my pocket. Later we had a staircase got under. The lender the agent on your side agent on their side. Everyone should have thought of that, but if you put your success in their hands what you're going to get, nope, it doesn't work in the other going to go cry and say real estate doesn't work. You benefited yourself by coming up with the solution and not expecting everyone else to do it. Like took ownership of. How do I do this and I cannot highlight enough how important that attitude is! is towards being successful like on our transactions representing clients. My Assistant Christie trained to do both sides of the transaction. Like okay, we're the buyer. What's our job to order the the appraisal? If you forget to do that, it will delay the thing. Will the sellers sometimes when I'm the seller I actually check with the buyer's agent to say. Did you order your appraisal? Is that my job not at all, but it behooves me to help them do their job. Job and it takes ten minutes out of the day. It's such a good practice to get in, and now no matter what I'm getting into I assume that will do everybody else's job until they convince me that I don't have to, and then those are the people you double down on okay. This is a contractor. I work with because they think of these ideas that I wouldn't be able to yeah I'm glad you mentioned the whole asking them. Why and And you were talking about banks and all that, too, because we were actually just talking about this yesterday. I'm in the middle of a bird right now where I have to wait six months to refi, and I bought the unit cash I have paid the rehab cash like it's all in on this thing and don't have a whole lot left until I. Refi this thing so I'm going to call it the bank when we finish here and he's A. Why why do you in the problem that I have is that I can refinance it right now, but they'll refinance it at my own cost, probably not loan to value. Yeah, yeah, and that's not going to help me very much. I'd rather wait six, but your school, but like the whole question of okay well. How do I even at the bank? Says No, that just a rule because that's a federal. Fannie Mae Freddie Mac role, or whatever okay fine. Then you ask yourself the question. How do I do it anyway? For example I've done this on deals where I put my own cash into by deal I. Put my own cash into Rehab. It now I. Really need some money. Because then you go, buy another property or whatever so then I just go find a private lender and I'm like Hey, can I borrow money for six months while awaiting for the bureau? CASHBACK! Because, that's even less risk than normal private money loan. It's already been rehab. I already did it. Here's the price what is worth today. Here's some comments. Show that it's already been rehab I'm trying to get my cash back for the next six months can refinance maybe a year. Oh okay I like. Again is asking that question is what's going to get you I, guarantee you. I can like. There's people that you and I both know that would probably lend you the money if you really wanted like the property bird. It's like it's like even less risk for them so. Deal Song Yeah. So you don't need. You're desperate. They talked about this being like a choke in their ability to grow their portfolio because the six month period right so what you're describing when I just realized is, let's say that you buy the house. You've got one hundred grand into it. You can't buy another house because that was all your money. You go get a bridge loan through private money for seventy five eighty thousand dollars that that you can now use to by the second deal that takes you to three months to get ready. You do the same thing on that one two months after that you refinance the first when you're your six month period. In for next deal. Yeah, who says the leapfrog method of book called the Leapfrog Method I. Come up with the best is, but yeah, all you're doing is creating several different streams of income, all run in the same direction and leapfrogging each other. That's exactly right. That is not rocket science. I came up with that in three seconds of listening because we said why. And your everyone else's bring. The listening will work the same way you have to give the problem you have to like not just give up. Oh, I can't do it okay. The sucks real estate sex and give into that negative kind of thinking. And I'm sure somebody on the podcasts going to recognize the way around. This is the delayed financing right avenue, but and I don't know if this is a national thing or just local to why I'm not super versed with this delayed financing, but the Hud that the delayed financing method uses so you just right on the hood? This is the purchase price that we paid this in the Rehab. And then the bank will I haven't actually done one so I. Don't have a lot of experience with that, but they don't have that anymore in Hawaii, they stumped. you know there's no longer a hood in Hawaii escrow. That's a things evolved thinks change all the time I got a switch and other way around, and goes back to the said earlier about and then we'll move on and the flips here, but we said about that person say no. You can't go here because of you, you can't. You can't financing this place because probably thinking maybe delinquencies too bad, but things changed constantly so even the rules. Rules that the somebody tells you can't do this because I mean how many times you hear, people say did I can't buy more than how how do you get more than four houses I can't have more than four houses. My name like that rules like fifteen years old, but it was changed ten houses, and then it went down to like eight for awhile. I think like a true. But people still say Horrigan more than four houses on my name and I'm like it's not four anymore. That's so old so just. Don't listen to like old rules. That is laziness man. When I was a cop, I realized this because they would teach us how to do something, and then I'd say why and they would be irritated. And, the answer inevitably came because that's the way we've always done it all the time. There was this rule because that's what we've always done it, and then I would dig to find out. That's actually not a lot all there's nothing that prohibits MIA says I can't do that when you got train thirty years ago. That's what the laws were. And so the policies were put in place in the procedures for how to conduct certain aspect of law enforcement activity based on those laws. Well those last change of the foundation you've been standing on is not accurate anymore. I can do it this which is. Is Faster more effective and better, because asked question, why and I would see that it's a common thing in in real estate that if you write an offer for a house that the listing agent is not allowed to share that with other agents, totally garbage, there was a longtime ago I finally trace this down that. When you wrote an offer, the actual contract would say you're not allowed to share this with other agents. That's a part of the offer that I'm sending. You is like a clause. That was interesting well. The California Association of Realtors took that out like ten or fifteen years ago, Wolf. But. Still thinks that's the rule. Because when they got trained twenty years ago, that was the case so I'll call an agent and I'll say hey, we really WANNA. Buy Your House with your best offer. We're going to beat it though same not share that with you and I found myself like why. Why do you think that? And then they get really uncomfortable and they just hang up the phone or they call my broker they. They don't know why somebody. Other states could very well be the case. So, ask the question of why say why can't you tell me and make it their job to go? Get an answer that comes back because that's a really useful thing. If you're trying to negotiate a deal to realize, I can tell them no, actually legally. You can tell me that, and it's in your clients best interest, because if you tell me I'll give you a better offer. Why would you not want to do that? If you thought you were GonNa get something more, but if you're that story I, think bu-but might have been in traction or like. Like the daughter and the mom, the grandma are cooking Thanksgiving dinner and the daughter who's like an old? You know grown up daughter. She takes the ham and she cuts the very front, and very end of it. within the PAN puts in the oven and then she's like. Hey, mom, how can we always cut the front and back off the Ham? She's like I. Don't know Grandma's did so call grandma and grandma. What is the front and back off the Ham? She was because the Pan I had was too small, and so it wouldn't fit. Like in that of it. Like like eighty years is whole family generation has his learn you cut the front and back up the HAM and you're throwing food away. Yeah, so yeah, what are we learning from? What are we applying? That doesn't doesn't apply to our life anymore anyway. Hails take a quick break from this episode will continue in just a moment, but first. Let's hear word from our sponsors. You know with all the uncertainty in the world right now. Feeling safe at home has never been more important, and that is why I want to talk to you real quick about simplisafe home security look their longtime friend of our show, and for good reason, simplisafe has made it easy to finally get comprehensive protection for your home. 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If you're now going to actually tomorrow night, we're doing a meet up the beach which is long after this long before the episode comes out, but isn't that how you guys met with the? We met at a meet up. Yep, and so greg. Remember. You asked me like when we first met or how he meant. How did how did you approach me? So first off well, I'll just give a quick summary the? Everybody knew you. Were GonNa right like I think you posted on the meet up. That'd be there because we. Had maybe five eight people at a meet up. This night, all of a sudden, there is thirty five people. And we're like who are my good looks and charm. It brings about. You, Bush's of okay, so I got there and I was very strategic about making sure. A seats open. We're next to me. Buddy so as people would settle in, and everybody's coming in and settling in and making sure that. I! Kind of in the middle, so I'd be close to you. But all seats filled up. There was to seats left and I just made sure that those. Were on either side of funny and Ryan came in. Oh. There's some seats right here. That's really funny. Yeah, so funny! We talked basically the first half of the meet up. I think, and then at the end of the meet up. After we split up, I came up to you and I said you know excited her. John podcast mentioning how you're getting into surfing raw, excited about learning to surf in this, so I came up to you and said I have been surfing my entire life I was a surf instructor for like five years or something when I went back to school in and I'm going to mentor you in surfing, and you are going to admit and roast about how it, yeah. More did you enjoy that? Then? Let me get you a cup of coffee and pick your brain. Yeah, it I was like I. Want to learn how to exactly we're looking for so this is the lesson for people. If you want to find a mentor in your area, great like final something, they're passionate about something that they they want more of it. They need help with, and that was a great shape. We number that night we got about at the time I was. was like yeah, you know like it'd be great to go surfing with you. You're probably really good. I'll probably learn a lot, but you'd already taken some action real estate to which appealed to me so versus like hey, you teach me everything you know it was like hey. I've already bought a bunch of properties I on all these condos, but I want to know what you're doing and I want to learn more from you, and so that stood out to me so. Teach me. How to analyze rental. Yeah, exactly like the basic stuff. That's comment on that for the people that are listening. This is a really important thing to understand when you want to find a mentor, or if I wanted to find someone to teach me how to invest in real estate. Going to grant Cardona is not the smartest move if I WANNA learn how to practice Jujitsu. Going to Marcelo Garcia, or the best in the world actually does not benefit me because Marcel. Marcel does not remember whatever it is that I'm going through at this stage in his career, and anyone can show me that the fundamentals right so when you're trying to pick your mentor, you WanNa pick someone that's like a stepper to ahead of you, not twenty five steps ahead of you that you can't. They can't relate to you at all, and it's very hard for you to bring them any kind of value. What you're describing is someone who like hey can. Can you help me get in shape? And you're one of the best like training coaches in the in the world, right? They're not showing up huffing and puffing, because they can't even keep up with the workout. They have really good cardio. They have a really good base. They want someone to show them. How to perfect the movements of whatever that they're trying to do and what you're saying is you knew enough about real estate already to be dangerous. You just needed. Needed Brandon's either add some fuel to your fire. Tweak your game a little bit. I've noticed this with if they don't know how to do anything, and they come to me, I'm not really much help to them. If they're already selling twelve to twenty houses year I get him to fifty to sixty so much easier. I think about this a lot now like you don't just find the most successful person you know and say be my mentor. You want to really. Really find the right fit, and so the people we find that are successful in getting mentors. They were taking action before they found that mentor. You were doing something, so you had a good foundation what you were doing. And then brandon came you guys kind of connected, and you became partners. How would you describe what you saw in Greg? This is to brandon. That made you know Oh. I WanNa work with this guy. Yeah, a couple of things one it was. was. The I mean the fact that you offered value like you wanted to. You'll surf and said earlier while the DC I think the fact that you knew these terms like Oh. Yeah, my dad, ten commercials here, and I got rejected from alone because of this happened and my goal like you read the books you've read that you've listened the podcast. You understand the concepts some training you and even then it wasn't like. Will you be my mentor and hang out? Out with me every week and we'll sit down. It wasn't there was no commitment. There I am so anti commitment like you guys know that like I. Don't ask my phone I. Don't want anything because I'm always like any commitment. As a any commitment to anybody is a no to my wife and daughter and Sunday. That is you looking so everything? I say yes, to was a to them this right now that we're sitting here. Doing is a note on my. My wife and kids and my kids, and so, but you weren't asking for anything you just like. Hey, you. Can I bounce ideas off you? Can we get together? Can I. Can I learn from you? It was very yeah. You know we'll do that. Let's change phone numbers in overtime. We just started hanging out. Other meet ups talking more and eventually I. Remember how it happened, but I wasn't even really at that point. It's actually just a correct a little bit. I think I had said. I can, Mentor, you and surfing if you'll mentor me in real estate and you were like yeah, yeah, sure you know, and the very next day I heard the podcast where you said you were both going on about. Don't ever ask. Your mentor the worst way you could possibly think. We got a lot of that episode. We get a lot here, but I liked it. It helps you agree with Brandon. Though right like advice actually helped your relationship with him. Yeah, yeah, because it is able you mentor me, you know like what am I signing? That's exactly what you've. Everyone's going through. What does that mean yeah? I'm GonNa I. Can I take you surfing some time and ask you a couple questions about? Strategies and real estate. You know we talk a lot about like how the apprenticeship method is not really a part of society, but it should be because that's the best way to learn anything, and it's just another thing that make you think I have no value to offer. I'm not yet. They're go work for them for free. You know see if you can do something that they need done well and actually learned something while you're there. That was really good, so you recognize in Greg this guy knows a little bit of what he's doing. He probably had to be kind of persistent knowing you. You probably didn't WANNA commit. You probably blew him off. And he made you come back and like hey. Let's go surfing this day at this time in the knowing brandon. He didn't say no, so you guys are out there surfing and that's where the conversation happens after about six months. I was like man. Oh, back for so much for that. Little start hanging out in serpent and. We started doing though we started. Now you know this is a do. That doesn't quick easy Yup. Do you want to mentor person? That's GONNA quit after two weeks when it's I mean I've done that so many mistakes with people that I brought onto. Teach them something, and they quit so easy and invested all that time. 'cause you and I know we're going to give you our best if we say we're GONNA. Work Together going to mentor you. You're going to be on my team. Team I'm giving you everything I got, but I don't know if you can necessarily commit the same to me so by making you a six months by making it hard, and you not quitting, you showed brandon dude I'm not like a regular person here I've done a little bit of this. I'M GONNA. Do it whether you help me or not. You want to get on board with what I'm doing. I was also sending a deals all the time. The mind. Driving this guy. I never thought that I. Like to look at an and so let let let me actually like say like I I. Don't consider myself and I hope you don't consider me like I. Like I'm not your mentor I'm your partner like we do this together now? And I learned as much from you. As I hope you learn from me, because like we're doing this because you came with not just like the desire, you came with a massive amount of knowledge about the Maui, market that. That I didn't have and so here I am brand new the island and I don't know anything about investing here. So most of what I've learned here came from you, and so it worked kind of two ways in that help. That's why we ended up working together. We've now flip to properties. I bought a wholesale few and we've got all sales together. We did a couple wholesales together, and now we've got another one under contract right now. That looks like a really good one and. We started looking for deals I. WanNA I WANNA. Talk a little bit about those those to flip, so those were deals that you found so first of all. How are we finding? How are you because you're the one that you bring the deal like to the table? I bring the money and you bring the deal. How are you finding deals in today's market? There's not one particular method everything we've done has been different. Everybody kind of wants to know like. Where do you get the deals right? There's not. There's no answer. Where's the clearance section at the store? Where I'm just go buy cheap. It's everywhere right now. You've got to shop. Walmart target like you gotta go everywhere. We do a lot of marketing. WATCH MLS to realtors. We Watch for closures. We watched the auctions or just everywhere. We have a website So how about this when you're shopping? What are you looking for that? You key in on motivation there? Yeah, distress, motivation ovation! Yeah, not always distress, so for example a lot of people ask. Why are people selling you this house at this price? Especially the one we're doing right now because it's a one point, three million dollar house that were buying for a lesson that and the sellers not distressed. Perfectly. Good standing there buying another property. They WanNa buy this other house. Another vacation house in Maui and the seller on that one told them they have to close in thirty days, but that created a form of distress in their financial situation the. Stressed in the you know the way. Yes, yeah, they're not freaking out there, not like. Closure yeah, exactly they're not. They're not taking advantage of anybody that we just simply have a solution which we can close, and it's in their best interest to close faster. They don't lose the next. Yes, they could get more probably putting. Up for three hundred ninety days. They know the value. They know it's worth one point three and Lamar, but Ever always do. You know they're okay with that and they. They understand that this other property is worth the sacrifice to them, so what you did was you founded a car dealership? That is worth much more, but they'll sell it to you for less 'cause. They got a bunch of new cars coming in. They need somewhere to stick it and you're never going to just go and say. What dealership do I guess that because they don't want to sell it to you for less, you just happen to catch them at the moment by staying in relationship with them and being out there shopping that boom. You saw the opportunity that won't. Won't normally come up. You cannot predict when that's going to happen, but you don't need to be. If you're out there doing your job talking to people connecting the people what you, what we call marketing or networking, which is really just letting a lot of people know what it is that you do. You'll be there when that opportunity comes. Yeah, that's an important note. When I back to that first property, looking at buying I had heard a guest on the podcast, and I really wish I could remember who it was i. don't know who it was bad at the end of a really connected with this guy resin. Resonated with me at the end of podcast, he gave his phone number. and Said Yeah I. See Coming Up. So I called the guy, and he spent like fifteen minutes talking me and I was telling him. Hey, I'm looking at buying in the mid West. Turnkey stuff and but there's also stuff on Maui like there's just a couple of buildings here where I could actually buy and make sense, but it's kind of a low class sort of area and the conclusion. What he he motivated me investing own market and I think the reason a lot of people ask this question right like. Should I buy turnkey should I by mid West should I do that. Where should I you know personally? I think that it depends on how much time effort and money and everything are you putting into real estate I'm like. Is this going to be your full time job? I mean for me. I work. Easily forty hours a week in real estate. This is full time for me. I still have a fulltime job. I work forty hours there, and at least forty hours in real estate I'm probably averaging eighty two hundred dollars a week for now, but that's why this is the right. That's good if I were. Making six hundred grand a year, this might be completely different conversation, because you WANNA be able to look for the deals, Malik or if I just wanted to. I wanted to invest in real estate. Get a good return, but I only wanted to work on it like maybe three or four hours a week or something then mid. West could be a great option. Or syndications investing in Mobile Home Parks Indications. No, no, yeah, yeah, you could put money. To Fund what I really love about what you're saying is this applies real estate agents to and what I found. Is that eighty percent? The business in real estate goes to the top twenty percent of the agents and the rest of the eighty percent. They struggle over the scraps of the other twenty percent. So what I tell people. This question comes up a lot when they. They should get my license, too so I can save money on my own deals like you're going to spend so much money to be a realtor and you don't know anything that you're doing. You should not do it unless you're willing to fight to get in that twenty percent is not worth doing unless your goal is to be one of the top twenty percent in. Otherwise, don't do it, and that's very similar to what you're saying I will do this because I'm out there. Hustling Meeting People Marketing Learning condos I'm in I'm involved. You're on the board of the HOA So. You're gonNA find when that deal comes up to nobody else. You're going to know about it. I for you makes total sense to be buying the way that you're buying, but if you know yourself and you're like I'm not GonNa do that. I'm not GonNa work in the top twenty percent then don't be stupid enough to put yourself in the arena and get clobbered by the people that are putting in the work, and just to be clear like. I. Love this stuff and I'm so grateful for the you know where the blessings I've had in my life, and it's incredibly humbled to be on the show like this. I never could have imagined this, Roy, it's crazy. This did not just come from listening to a couple of episodes. Any an offer I mean you get emails and texts for me all the time? I know you soon. Your phone on silent so I do this. At midnight one a m right like two am when I have to be up at six am for work the next day. It's not. Like easy. There's a lot of work that goes into your and I promise you. When Brandon saw how hard you work key thought I WANNA partner with that guy. It wasn't because you offer to buy a cup of coffee. It wasn't because you said you be my mentor. Because you said Hey. Tell me what you need and I'll just see if I can help. You use showed I am about this life. I'm not here to talk about it. I'm here to be about it and you impressed him over a period of time, and we look for the same things right. The best partnerships I get into. They didn't really get a whole lot of for six to nine months I wanted to see. Do you have what it takes to be? Good here? Because we know how hard this is, it is not easy to make a lot of money to be in that top twenty percent of people and what you showed was. Was I. don't care. I'll do it. Whatever it takes is where I'm going to get there and that's what people need to show. If you WANNA, come work for me. If you want to come work for Brandon, WE WANNA. See you're actually committed to doing whatever it takes because at the top of that Hill when you hit the twenty percent. My Gosh, this is just like. Would you want to do anything else with your life? Could you ever make this much money with this little formal education and this much time freedom? This is the best place to possibly be at when you get good at investing in real estate. Yeah for a long time. I wasn't it wasn't important enough to me. I wanted to invest I made it offers you know I i. was I wanted to, but I still wanted to watch TV at night, and I still wanted to go. Hang out with friends and I have. Zero. Social Life Right. Like. Is this signs of desperation? We talked about earlier like you hit a point where you're just like I'm desperate to be successful, and I'll just do whatever takes. Exactly, what it was, but it was a gradual. You know sort of like my recovery, right? It was just this process of realizing like I have to do. Some have to be willing to go to the ends of their there. There cannot be any link that I won't go and I think about that a lot. I also think about where I came from. Because you know having experience, some of those things I talked about I'm so incredibly grateful for the life that I have today and I E yeah, there's nothing I wouldn't do to continue this journey and path that I'm on I. I just won't settle, so I love that. What's your process like? When a do crosses your desk well? Now it's. Something we're working on its, you know we've been scaling I'm not somebody that's really great at. Coming up with some systems in implementing them I'm good at following them once I have them in you know, get used to them, but I think you're better than you think you are. Yeah, yeah! I think you even without the systems. Just tell me what are the pieces that you have to figure out to know if you WANNA pursue it. Yeah, the number one thing I would say. Is We get a deal? We got to figure out how much we can get it for, and if it can meet the prophet environment that we have which right now is. Is just as a general guideline, it's one hundred grand for this is really helpful. This is the whole profit I by Mike McCullough which idea we WANNA make one hundred grand worth now. Let's work backwards. Yeah, we're we're. We're making a hundred grand. What can we pay? What can are we happy right? Okay? Go ahead so that and then for me on my rentals. It's fifteen percent cash on cash, return and twenty percent equity. Okay, we're all expenses so and that's kind of general, also on on the flip gotta be around seventy percent or so total cost. The V. so that's a kind of general guideline. We were still kinda narrowing that down and getting more. Specifics, because one hundred grand profit would be great on a four hundred thousand dollar, condo. It might not be so good on a one point. Seven million dollar house exactly yeah, so it's going to differ a little bit, but yeah, but I think you're. I think you're better. The systems than we think, and then you maybe think you are because you. You process this stuff through through it, and maybe it's just like just hustle. I mean you just do a lot of hustle to get through, but a couple of things that we're working on for example like I know like a big part of life because we're standing direct mail marketing, we're using a letter marketing justice areas company so openly marketing. Check them out. Yeah, They're awesome, did a great job. Yeah and I'll just mention that. I've done a few direct mail campaign do. This direct mail campaign. This is my first time working with open letter. Response, rates been incredible. Yeah, yeah, they're really good. I really like their stuff so open on Maroon that. Size a system. We have set up now that we're not doing our. We're not printing letters so as a system. We have called. We just signed up for call porter. Is a company that they'll actually take a real age real estate investing company who trains people to take phone calls. Appointments Yeah Yep, and then instead of just we ought to the answer ever every single phone call. We have deal machine the APP deal machine on our phones with deal machine. Yeah, would you drive around? But what's cool about? We've other people now in our business that are going to that are able to use deal machine to be able to go around and work under our cat like you're on my account so I find a deal you find goes into the same thing sends out a postcard if we wanted to, or we can just us open letter, so there's a few of these systems we have in place. Which is super cool? I think you are really good at the systems we. We were building them as we go, I, would you want to cover one more thing before we move to the deep dive? And that is this idea of how we started flipping together? Because we're making good, probably made an average of one hundred grand, each of the two flips. We just did on condos. Which is great, but But what's funny is like I. Don't have to do I. DO hardly any work of I. Don't show up kind of very much like I have really a job I'm always taking advantage of you. It's great, but you the reason you don't have to put money in other than the little bit of money that because we didn't have our checking account set up at the very beginning. Take you like pay for a fridge? Coming gotten a check from you. Know Right? Yeah, it was more like the hassle than having second down. But basically you're flipping for no money down. and. I'm putting the money in, but I'm flipping with no work down almost. No down wd. Should've called you know. The reason I just WanNa say is, and we'll move on because we make this point on the podcasts. The reason we were able to do that is because you bring the most rare valuable skill to a real estate investor. The deal you bring great deals, so you can inflict when you can invest with no money not all day long just like finding a good enough deal that you can bring partner into a deal you name it. You'll like it could. Could be. It doesn't have to be a flipping. It'd be a rental. It could be even wholesale thing if you if you needed to work that if the asking. How do I get a dumpster you can. Are you able to flip because I? Put the money in, and we're also using like I'm not even putting all the money and I'm putting the down payment and the costs were borrowing from Keiko Keiko, Kiko capital, or you know motive the motive on. On the podcast before he's been great at funding us, giving US great deals and helping us these deals with these flips we also you know you mentioned when some wholesaling. If a deal doesn't fit our numbers, we sell it. We are very conservative, so we don't do a deal. If we don't feel very very confident GonNa make money so Yeah, we also signed deals to other investors people that want to rent on it. You know some like right. Right now I've got when we just we were looking at trying to flip it. The seller were so firm on the price. We could not get him down to where we needed to be to make it work, so we said okay. We'll do your price. Put under contract and found another investor that is buying it as a his sons contractors going to move here, living and Rehab, they can spend more money, because like other people's stories aren't always what are. All cash. We're paying the answer to the objection. Why would I want your deal? If it wasn't good enough for you, exactly yeah, because people have different scenario like if you're paying cash, if you can do the work yourself like you can have really good deals, and a lot of people might not totally happy with making fifty grand a flip exactly and we, we one hundred, because we're splitting, it united things fifty fifty at the end of. Of the day, so we want to make sure we're getting good money so all right, so they want to make that point again. If you're listening to this, show right now, and you're struggling with getting that I, deal because you don't have any money just focused on the deal part because I'm finding deal and network go to bigger pockets events just like you did bill relationship. Don't be weird about I. Don't be like you know like just. Just bill relationships friendships with people, and you will find people who have more money than time, and if you have more time than money or more skill than money than bring that in I never actually asked you to do flips with me or partner or anything like that I think I was sending. You deals all the time, but I was sending them for you. I was to check this out screaming deal because I didn't have the funds. Funds for the down payment and I just wasn't confident enough to take that leap. You know brought by some million dollars when I'd been guest at four hundred thousand, so I would send a new deals. And for some reason you asked me to meet one day. Yeah, we're with the threes bar and grill out. Keep start. We're GONNA be, we're doing flips on alley and I want you to be in charge of the flipping on Maui Honestly like you were sending me all these deals, but I don't want to go. Do something of myself, so I remember Actually Ryan and having this conversation as we're trying to build his opener. Capital is the mobile home park business. Raise money from a credit investors and all those funds but. Fund stuff and fun stuff, but we need. We need team members employees to be able to run this thing, so we're like well. How do we make more money? We'll flip Maui well I. Don't have time to flip on Maui. That's a lot, but I I have some cash. Chunk of change I was like well. Let's see if Greg wants to flip with us and we'll partner with Greg and we'll work together and we'll have greg anyway. That's how it kind of started. We could we again we saw a new that hustle and that drive, and so then we were like well. Let's just do this flipping thing, and it's been working just awesome sense which. which is really interesting and hunt again humbling for me because I still don't get it and when you brought me there and you told me this is what we WANNA. Do we want you to? Do you know? Basically you're gonNA run the FLIPS. Yeah, and I'm just GonNa Fund them and you're GonNa do all the work find the deals do the flips everything and I was like. Okay first off. How many people are you interviewing for this? And Lot within the Ryan. And like. You said no, nobody. Really, it's just you. It's like either you do it or we're not going to do. It. Was and I sat there for a minute silence and I said. What's wrong with you? It. Is Like I'm a total newbie. Know what I'm doing. Being interviewed for the six months that you were sending him deals. You're persistent. That's exactly what. I didn't even know that until right now. Actually that's. That's a busy. Are. We're not going to sit there and interviewed twenty five people that we've learned that from like David. David Osborne a lot like Ingo. Gabon like David. Osborne is big on that he sees how people are, and then brings them into his world. Because the truth is like like good people. Is the number one best investment you can possibly make? It's the best is good. People's better than real estate. And so one thing, David, and I talk a lot about is like we need people that good people around us, and you can't. A an resumes ally like I never by man I I, don't even I like Mike is here right now. You sent me a resume. Mike is a camera, but he's I honestly. Don't think I read it I. Don't think I even looked at it. Like! Oh, it's a resume because it wasn't made just like like a I. Don't know what you call a highlight reel just like looking at them on instagram and thing, and that's what their lives like a resume their worthless. Let instead so mica managed the bookkeeping actually for our flips. That's how Mike ended up getting in the world. Because we you only know how someone's going to be once they start working with you. That's the only way you know so. Give people into your world ends at working for you. and it's a gigantic job, interview or nine job. It'd just partner interviews so anyway. Thank you can't people. Can't haven't mentioned this yet, but we talked about my addition we talked about. All this stuff. I owe it all to my mom so I'm you know I would? There's no doubt in my mind that I would not be. where I am. and not even anywhere close. If it wasn't for my mom, my mom is. Just the most unbelievable incredible woman alive. She's the strongest. Through obviously losing her husband, she's gone through all kinds of challenges. Me I put her through. Just horrible torture along with the rest of my family, but she fought for me. She never gave up. May She never got? Fed Up with me, she she saved my life I. Owe everything to her. The man that's one of my wise, right, my big motivation and on my vision board. There's a picture of. My Mom's on there. Because one of my purposes is I want to get you know. She lives in Miami. Oliva Maui. Other side of the world I need to get to where I can. Go Out to Miami two three times a year, fly her out here, too many times a year spend more time with her and and I also want to get to the point where she doesn't have to worry about her car payment her. Her House is paid off. So that's good I want her to be able to go wherever she wants and do whatever she wants in her with. That makes retirement that makes it more meaningful to. The fact that I say instagram post a few weeks ago and it was you and your mom in our in our flip right like that when she was in there. You put that somewhere. anyways I thought that was yeah super cool. Awesome well right so this has been one of the longest shows we've done in a long time on the podcast. We could keep talking forever, but we gotta move this thing on. So I want to shift gears here and head over to the deal deep dive. What's going on everyone? It's brand and want to get quick break from this podcast to invite you to this week's Webinar. How A NEWBIE! Meaning a new investor can start building wealth real estate because look when you're beginning to invest in real estate, it can feel overwhelming, right? Where do you go? What did you do? Did you buy or making mistakes, right? That's why this is a must attend event. Look if you have fewer than five properties, do not miss this. You're going to learn the different strategies and niches. You can take some. Some of the common mistakes than investors make some of the best and worst strategies for new investors and a whole lot more were even me looking for a real life deal on the market together. We're going to run the number and find out how much we should pay for it. How much will make if we buy it to be a ton of fun Super Helpful? If you have less than five properties, you'd better be there bigger pockets. com session Newbie Webinar again. BIGGER POCKETS DOT com slash newbie any WBAI. Webinar I'll see there. Are this. Is the party show where we dive deep into one that you've done and I'm not exactly sure which one you want to talk about something mind. Yeah, I was thinking. We talked about this. One rental condo that I bought that I was kind of my job interview. Okay, you guys okay, asked Ryan to come along with me, Seller and I just kind of wanted him to be like a wing man, and of helped me out on it I thought he might have some I dunno thought it'd be fun to write. Look bigger part so I want football. It's a condo you said here in Maui, that's what it is second question. How did you find it that the first one? We're GONNA use evernote. How did you find the deal that one? The seller called me up from again. Not Any particular Matt source. It was I. Think Result of networking talking telling people what I do having website sending out postcards I think whenever neighbors had seen my post. Shit mentioned my postcard medical. She had heard about me from the association and other owners. It's so it was you had a reputation and you hit her multi points. Yeah, that's always covering all the bases as. So you found the deal. That way was the price. They were always you first one first time. She called me I asked her what she'd like to get out of it. And at that time the average sales price in the building was about a hundred and twenty thousand. They're all two bedroom they're. Almost all identical, so the values don't fluctuate drastically. They go from maybe one hundred five to one, hundred, forty, fifty, a couple, really fancy ones a little higher so as to what she wanted. She said she was like maybe like fifty. States silent, and then she said, or maybe like thirty to fifty. Mike! Okay. You need a lot of work. Bad, and so she was in his situation now like. I also wanted to make sure that I wasn't being sleazy and. I WanNa make sure I can see myself a night and I'm not taking advantage of this person situation. She had inherited this unit. She was exactly what you described before. She was physically going and picking up the rent every month. The timing wasn't an rat. They were among behind they weren't. They weren't paying. She was paying their electric bill and they had. Really High Electric. Bills and she owed thousands. They are shoes. It was a disaster and she just wanted gone. And so you know like just so you understand like these things are selling for. You can fix this up and sell it for one hundred fifty pretty easily, but to her. I I was buying her situation. So I got a great deal because I was willing to take on that challenging situation with final price. You pay them thirty thousand. Okay, all right, so you just explain how you negotiated. It's not ask you that How did you find it? I paid cash for that one at the time so. I. Don't know if I mentioned that I. Don't take any profit for my business. The Porsche was the first time I've actually taken profits from business now I wear reporting myself from. We'll never flips all the prophets. All the cash flow flips wholesales. Everything stays in the business and it grows and I buy property, and then you know it goes down and. I. Don't do a lot of actual technical burs because I don't refinance. They haven't really refinanced any of them. I like to have the equity and Yeah, a little more secure. I'm not a big. I'm pretty risk adverse, I'd say. anyways, so I had saved up about thirty five thousand at the time. And was about ready to buy my next deal and was that was GONNA be my down payment because I was putting down on these condos, Twani to twenty, five thousand somewhere around there and. So I had the cash. I bought a cash and I then refinanced. It are actually took a key lockout in on that one. No right after closing all right so I was GONNA ask them. What did you do with it? You get the rental in. Yeah, actually so this is something important to me is like I mentioned. I like to try to give back and help people and the tenants in this unit are good people. They were not good tenants before because she was not a property manager, the old owner, not she wasn't the right person. Be probably measure I, stepped in and I. told the tenants a made it very clear. This is the way it goes. This is the way. Iran You communicate you know. And I laid out the ground rules made it very strict and stern. And if you treat me well, I will treat you well. I will do everything I can to help you. I go Christmas trees for my tenants of like you know. I try and be a really good landlord. I am very strict. Have to pay on time, and you have to communicate with me and they have paid every month on time. They're very good towns. The Guy It's a guy, my age and his mom, who's elderly and is very very sick with cancer. They came from China. I believe and. They? They don't have anybody here. The Dad died when he was young and they've lived in this unit for twenty years. So this is important to me because. They, have you know he's he? He's a paints cars for a living. They don't have a lot of money. They don't. They have nowhere to go. The units rented way below market value. Market rents and I was able to give back in that particular case a allowing those tenants to stay. I didn't you know if I had rehabbed, I would have to kick them out. Three can't rehab with the lady in with cancer and her conditions very fragile. is able to keep them in place. Keep the rents in place, which is twelve hundred a month. The market rents in the building are seventeen to eighteen hundred, so I didn't raise the rents. Really proud of that really happened if just. Really happy that I got a chance to help them. Because I feel pretty confident that most of the most people if she had list that thing or sold it. Had buyers would either kick them out renovated or just raise the rent, so if I can make one quick point here and I. Don't WanNa spend a Lotta time in this 'cause. It's the kind of fast moving part of the show, but what's interesting. Is that the woman before you were the person who owned it before? He said the over like she wasn't. Wasn't managing the property correctly so a lot of times. When people say there's a bad tenant, I would say half the time. It's a bad tenant and the other half time it was not professionally managed because it's one of those things like for example, you think you're being a good landlord by not charging a late fee. What that does to people who? Who Make pay later later later deprioritize that pretty soon there three months behind, and now you have a bad tenant, but it's not the tenants I mean. Yes, it's the tenants fault, but it's really your fault that the landlord because you let them get behind 'cause. You didn't Jim late fee, so I'm going with. That is by being a good strict landlord. Landlord by knowing what you're doing by knowing. That's a skill you have to learn by reading books by talking to landlords by listen to podcasts like tennis actually become a lot better, and they actually be good tenants as long as you do your job managing, and you're doing a disservice to the tenets. Yeah very much, so you are. You are hurting them. And I. Let him slide all the time and. They left. That was my worst experience with Italian so far on cost about three thousand dollars, but that's a disturbance. They were young couple now they think they all landlords are gonNA. Every month your your niceness actually hurts them long term it. It works the same way with employers. Employees knew the employers to Nice on the person 'cause they're afraid. They're going to leave them a bad rating on. They then the employee gets used to the fact that they showed up every day they started coming in later later. They started working less and less and that person's work ethic ruined for the rest of their career until some other employer comes on. And chocolate talks about that in extreme ownership. He says there's no bad teams, only bad leaders, and you're the leader. If you're the employer, if you're the landlord using the tone, so don't feel bad about holding people accountable accountabilities one of the best ways you can love another human being all right last question the deep dive. What did you learn from this deal? I learned a whole lot about he locks. I he locks so in that sense for. Yeah the line of credit. Yeah, so the outcome of the deal is I bought for thirty thousand to for seventy six thousand. That's still cash flows five hundred a month or so. And so yeah, that's gave a home run and I'm helping the people just all around win. Win Win, and the seller is stoked. Anymore. Perfect very cool. We'll other great deal. Deep dive I liked that one but before we got here, we got one last segment of the show to get to. It's time for our famous. All right the famous four. These are the same four questions. We ask every guest every week and we're GONNA. Throw them. Greg Greg famous for number one. What is your? Let's hear what's going on this week. Over on the bigger pockets, business podcast and their brandon and bigger pockets, real estate podcast listeners. This is Jay. Scott your co host for the bigger pockets, business podcast and this week on the business podcast. We Have Ryan Novak. He is a young entrepreneur who took a business that he had been working in since he was fifteen years old, bought it with not a penny out of his pocket, and has turned it into a seven figure empire gotTa Check Out Ryan and check out his awesome business called chocolate pizza dot com. Check it out this week on the bigger pockets business podcast now back to your famous for. We're back now. Let's get to the famous for number one greg. Favorite Real Estate Related Book. A little cliche everybody says, but the millionaire real estate investor Gary Keller. Cliches. The Rich Dad Poor Dad. In that, you know that was a really made a big impact on me, too. Early on all, right, what about your favorite business book? Okay, so I'm actually not a big reader but audible. Best friend, but I would say. never split the difference. got it right here, yeah! It's funny. I noticed never split. The difference is splitting. Your book different suggests that's exactly what that's very clever. Brandon treatment to do that It's exactly what I'm into the number three. What are some of Your Favorite Hobbies Surfing? Seraphine Greg. Go Surfing like every day like pretty much every day. I'd say six and a half days a week. Yeah, that's crazy. That's Yeah so surfing and real estate. And family. Phenomenon. Yes. Very cool cars driving. In, you new Porsche. Greg. What do you think separate successful real estate investors from all those who give up fail or never get started. I. Don't think there's one thing I think there's a lot of you know. Everybody's different. Everybody's got their own path and what motivates them? I can only speak from my experience from my experience like we discussed it was that. Desperation it wasn't until I had the desperation. It wasn't until like I, had just been working the nine five. Working working working got you know there was just years and years of that where I was not happy in and knew that I had to find a way, but it wasn't desperate, so it wasn't until I got desperate that I love it. I became willing to do anything. I love my job. I have a great job to. Have my day job and I love it. There and I learned a lot. It's very valuable to. To is really valuable in our last. When it, yeah, What's Your Day? Job Allegra now? Premiere, restoration, why where disaster restoration company with deal with water, damage, mold, sewage, fire, smoke odor all that cleanup. So when we had a flood, and they'll of renovating actually as we were finishing the renovation in our last condo drainpipe. Collapsed completely underneath the concrete foundation and our first floor, condo and the entire place flooded, and what could have been a very long very expensive. Setback ended up Yeah, my. Relationships and experience in disaster restoration to care. That helped us a lot there. Yeah, well, nice man says very good all right, so if anybody wants to intern with you guys or they have a deal in Maui that they want. Bring your way like what's the best way to get a hold of you? They can email me. We are definitely looking for people that are. Desperate. And eager and completely committed to doing this. If! You're not really completely committed. It's probably more of a waste of time, but. For yourself as well, but they can email me my email. Is Greg at Maui. HOMEBUYERS DOT COM, so that's gre R.. E. G. at Maui. HOMEBUYERS DOT COM and a Ui H. O. M. E. B. U. Y. E.. R. S. DOT COM, is very correct is reeling off your shirt as yes. The first time I tried to you nail. It's awesome. Man Well, thank you so much. This is really really good. Today has off. You go all right well. David was a great show. This is good What was your instagram handle by the way? Layers right? He is at Molly homebuyers. 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Design Your Life Step by Step  Interview with Sara Michaels Part 2

Kingdom Mom

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Design Your Life Step by Step Interview with Sara Michaels Part 2

"Welcome to the kingdom mom podcast. I'm your host Lindsay Anderson Founder of Kingdom coaching and helping homeschool dot com here are kingdom the mom we grow together and identity marriage parenting home management and in our finances. We would love for you to join our community go kingdom on podcast dot com to join her paid monthly coachie community. It's basically like the podcast but on steroids and you get to hear weekly coaching coaching calls. Plus you get live. VIP QNA's and we also have an affiliate program where you can actually earn while you learn but you can also join our tribe of mom binder masters absolutely free by taking our free ultimate mom binder video course just go to kingdom mom podcasts dot com. All right are are you ready to take back your territory king. Demaim let's begin. Hey Hey kingdom mom welcome back to another episode of the Kingdom Mom podcast today. We are continuing canoeing our conversation with Sarah Michaels. And if you did not catch Sarah Story last week you're going to want to go back and listen to that but today y'all these especially these next is two episodes like you want a pen and paper for these. They are so like so much massive value in these next to These next two episodes and I really feel you like you are getting to be a fly on the wall to some just like Geeking out business conversations from Sarah and I and just about designing your life in General Sir and I think the same way in a lot of things and I truly believe that if you if you had like kind of admire someone's life not like like idolizing them but you're like wow they really live life by design. How do they do that? You really need to figure out like how they think and how they view life and what are their daily habits like like find somebody who has what you want and like figure out what they do every day and this is definitely a situation where you're going to get to look at Hat Sarah and I and how we think and how we design and purpose are days in our life so also if that's something that speaks to you. I A highly recommend that you go check out the bonuses that Sarah is offering just to kingdom on podcast listeners so to access those bonuses there absolutely free you're GonNa the go-to Sarah Michael's dot com. It's S. A. R. A. Michael's M. I C. H. A. E. L. S. dot com forward slash K. M I am bonus. Km Bonus and you're going to have access to all of that set without further ado. Let's get to it so Sarah in your entire story about how you went from pregnant at nineteen single mom to I'm getting married being an abusive relationship getting out. And now you're single mom of three at this point in your story right. You realize that you're hanging out with the wrong crew. Right you've built business. Walked away from business at this point and so can you please first of all. I want the people to know because no matter your circumstances like you can get to the point where you have income streams you on. How absolutely can we'd like to make excuses anti talk about like how our situation makes it hard? I was we just before we hit play here. We were just talking talking about how right now. We live in an apartment and there's noise everywhere and I could use that as an excuse. I can't record a podcast or I can't record coaching coaching calls. 'cause there's always noise right but you but it really is possible. So can you please share like where you're at now. So people can kind of see what what the happy ending to this story. And then we go back and fill in the gaps. So I are so right but I will say while we are like I will say we're living the dream right. We Move Back Down to Florida. And but here's sopher not making excuses. We're still in a hotel right now before we get into our house which I'm so grateful for because there is literally so I'm in my apartment Harvey Right now a series in the fitness center of the hotel that they are currently staying at recording. This podcast yes I A and I wish you could see what my ipad as propped up on no joke. It is my laundry basket. I've lifted over so there you go so no no excuses but we're at bay for because we are getting ready to move into a gorgeous house down here. It's and Dan because of my income strings because I get like this time of year overwhelmed with gratitude for where we're at now because I remember what it was like a single mom to be to be walking in. The store is not having enough money for food much less presence days. Were walking in the site. There's more than enough. I don't have to check labels. I can buy all the JANIK groceries. I need all salutes waving a Destin Florida which was my dream my absolute dream and because of my business we had the ability. Ready Right too so I I started paying off on all of the bad debts and things that I'd had after my divorce. I learned that when you get rid of and pay down debt your credit score could actually go down a little bit. Luke's use catch all Mesa. Now listing that but anyways so our the score isn't the best right now. I didn't file for bankruptcy or anything actually didn't qualify. Ironically in so we because credit score is a little bit lower but because I have more cash than credit we were able to get in. We're able to put down I last month and a deposit in rents to get into our house so even though my credited so great when you create multiple support income screams cash rules caps over Dave. So it's it is amazing was made dream we we now you know. Ironically I wrote down so there's that whole point if you you know we're listening to my story their whole point where I wrote down and while I was still in a bad relationship living in podunk Missouri surrounded by nothing that what I actually wanted. I wrote it down in this notebook and I wrote down what I wanted my ideal day to look like you know. How do they want to spend my holidays Chris? I love asking people like if money were no object. If you could live life you know on your terms like at your level at what you desire. What your holidays look like? Would you run to house. Would you have all your family there. Would you gonna I wanted to Kaitlin. Wooded what would you do. What would your workweek look like and I down? You just hit on something so big and I don't want people to miss it so so often and we talk about this in our coaching program. We talk we have a series on peace and I I have to ask people the question. It's like okay when you're thinking about. What income streams do I want to build? You can't just think. How much money do I WANNA make? You can't just think you you have to think. What do I want my day to look? What were yeah life to look like? When we've built a blog like the whole reason why even started a blog was because I wanted my days to look a certain way I wanted my season Silica? Certainly I wanted to be able to take an entire month AHF Like so. It's not just about the money. It's so not about the money. Most people in an I talked to a lot of people like you. Sarah who who have built these income streams and people will tell you the freedom is way more valuable than any money the freedom freedom men way anyway. Please continue Amen Amen. Yuck I didn't know that when I first started in my first business yes I was. I was in it for the money. And that's why I ended up working seventy hours but then I got I got some things right along the school of hard knocks Anna. Aw I ah so overwhelming because So at at this time last year we were. I'm still in Wisconsin. I had not my husband's about was awesome. We built a foundations together but this time last year everything. I'm a previous vision. The word was a seven-year-old Vision Board cancelled left. What would I want my relationship to look like and you know my family all the stocks everything king true everything so it was you know? It's the flake data. No three foot. High Little Poster Board and it it was about a foot and a half long and everything came to pass so last year. I've been kind of dragging feet a little bit about making a new one and Josh. I just took them off to do it. I love Regis outings favorite things to do so I took them off and I said No. What is that at this this time next year? We're going to be in Florida. We're going to be shopping at whole foods and living in Dustin and we're here and Fridays now are are dedicated. Day some done with work by eleven we got sets Sit Only Garces beautiful restaurant. which if you're ever in Destin Florida it's called the back or to Moscow? You can see the Gulf so we're watching Dothan the threat in the Gulf eating. I had just Just finished like coaching some coaching work. And it was. It's so great. It's like I love my client. I love who I work with. I love it and it's it is it's about the freedom though. Yeah that's where I'm at now but it was definitely definitely a learning curve in a process to get yours like a whole whole thing girl I could you and I could talk about this for hours because because okay many of you know that Jurden I might my family and I we just moved down to Texas and it was kind of like okay so I have to just paint this picture for you. I actually actually hired Sarah. 'cause I've been watching Sarah. I watched people miss this. I didn't use to watch people. I used to just hire people bull randomly because I thought they seemed like a good idea And I got very disappointed very quickly. And so I've started started to watch people as a business person. I've learned that there's wisdom in watching people and watching their consistency and watching their ethics and watched Sarah for a long time. I don't know if I've ever shared this. This was Sarah. She knows now. I had watched her for a long time. And I thought you know what I feel like. This girl's got the grit and she's got. She's got passion and ethics behind what she does and so. I hired her to Redo the kingdom mom websites if you go to kingdom PODCAST DOT COM. Sarah built that website. Oh Aw mazing job. She did an amazing job but literally ask. This website is getting ready to launch. She and I are both with moving to our dream areas in the country so she is moving down to Dustin Florida. We are moving down to a southeast Texas. That's right by the Gulf so we both by the goal. Yeah and like it was just so cool and at But what I wish people could understand and Sarah. I know you're going to understand this when I say this is. It's a lot easier and it can happen panella faster. Then you think a lot of your visions come to pass way faster than you think but but what happens is we don't make decisions based on our visions. We make decisions based on our circumstances. But when you start making decisions stations based on your visions you will see those things happen so much faster so much faster would you agree. Oh Yeah Oh yes when you hit on my favorite topic so when you are creating eating your vision board. What like ex- explain? Can you kind of explain how we do that. Because we're starting here kingdom starting January and like the the first quarter of twenty twenty which is when this podcast is GonNa. We're recording it in December of nineteen. But this is going to air like January February of Twenty twenty like we are hitting hitting hard on like actually senior vision. Come to pass because I have to tell you like. I can't tell you what happened just in one year. You're in one year. Fives all divisions that came to pass so explain like how you go from Vision Board to come to pass explain that to people. Okay okay. So where legal back. Where did this start Brad? So I I am by keeping vision notebooks right since I was I was young and Haydn realize that well first of aw when I was little I used to think that I had a superpower. I thought that had a magical superpower because I used to zippy able to make I'd make a wish or I want something and would like happen and I know now that it's what I would call co creating K.. On you know you get intentionally. Is that the intention you align with your vision positioning very very important. A lot of people miss that. When I'm working with people on like I you know I don't do goal getting the goal setting I do gold getting what I caught him like? No no no. WE'RE NOT GONNA WE'RE NOT GONNA get goal awesome Get a plan to get them but I I realized that that power like holding that intention was very powerful and I realized that I had was like kind of Evo- veered ability to do it that I love sharing with people because anybody can do this right So for me and when I before I even get soon my vision board is sit down and I wrote in my journal. I think there's there's something this is a powerful exercise. Just do a couple of people. They've come back to me years later and we're like oh my gosh. I remember when you had me do this. And now this this is where I'm at and I'm like very first thing is rate down what you want your ideal life. Look like your ideal day like a series of prompts that I have which totally spitballing that. This was something that would be helpful. I'd be happy to Give those out so if you want them I'll give them to Lindsey somehow somewhere But these are the trump's that I personally use for myself and basically just going through like what would I want my week to look like what kind of what kind of work am I did for 'cause when you're asking what do I want to do. It's not so much like in the sense of I in like a selfish thing. Who are you created being? And it's with a much knowing your identity knowing like those special unique talents and gifts that you were created with and how you can how in the world to make a bigger impact. Make a different figure out how hyphen sue. And were how you're gonNA earn. Take the the different gifts that different people have it all. That's GonNa like those are going to impact how they desire to earn. It might zero difference not so I sat Dr Rick Okay. What am I good at? What do I actually like doing? What what kinds of things are fun for me so for me it was? I really like designing websites. It's fun at brings me joy the creative outlet. I love it so that's one of the things I wanted to do. You wrote that down. I wrote down what I wanted my holiday to look like. I wrote down on travel. Wink where do I WANNA travel like. How how many times a year do I WANNA travel? Do you know do what what what area. What what side of the world do I wanna live in dire live in the mountains multiple homes? Do I wanted to be a full time traveler which we did digital domain year and a half I got into it with like you know what I want some route And so now we're going to have roots down here in Florida for nine months of the year and structuring my business in income in a way where there were going to take the summers off to travel. Because that's the only time we get to be a family of six bonus. Son Is with his mom from school year. So it's like when we get that time together. I want to be able to send it. Just can't really recreate eater intake limits of your life off. Take take the limits girl this you are. You're speaking to myself right now because so many people. Can I just be real with you. So many people that think that you have to be a millionaire in order to have that life and you knew not can be a real with you. You don't even you don't even have to make six figures a year to have that life nope you don't. You don't even have six figures a year tab about life. It's it's about creating income streams that cover your expenses while you're sleeping it's not millions of dollars it doesn't have to be millions of dollars like you. Don't get me wrong. Like freaking go forward if you WANNA like go for him but you can live that life just by creating enough income streams seems to cover your expenses and you got to go do the things that you WanNa do and you can take summers off so I just I i. I don't mean to hijack your brilliant but I want but the I. Here's what I want the listeners take catch and I'm definitely talking about this. We have VIP coaching call. That we're doing later today so if you're listening to this podcast and you're a VIP member you're going to be go. Listen to December ninth two thousand nineteen because as we're GONNA be talking about this is like people who have the life that you want so if you're looking at Sarah and you're like Oh man I would love to live in Florida and take summers off like I would love that freedom or if you're looking at my life and you're like oh my gosh I would love to like live where they live and I would love to lake. Have a three hour work week. I would love to do that. I would love to travel. We're telling you how we think right now. Oh and you need to listen to that because this is a very similar to what we did I said what do I want my life to look like. I said I wanNA live somewhere. Warm right can be outside all year long and not feel trapped in the wintertime. I want to be able though to go back to my hometown and be with my family as often as I want. I WANNA be able to afford that last second lane ticket because I gotta get me and my kids back to South Dakota. I want to be able to go up there in the summertime. I want to be able to take the entire month of December. I WANNA be able to travel with my cats. I don't need the Big House. I don't need lots of fancy stuff I do. I like do my shopping at old navy. I don't need fancy clothes but I but travel. That's where I wanted to snap up my money. And but when you think in terms of that what I want my data look like what do I want my year to look like then you create these system around the. Oh yes yeah yeah you go get you go get your own. Yeah you're hitting it because it you know so you know. There's a story we got married. I met my husband. And we actually were living's the dream Burbank's living the dream. Let me tell you. She's doing air quotes. Because you want. We'll see her living the dream and air quote living the dream yet back so I got to this point where I got to like us what I thought it should look like. Okay like what everybody everybody what everybody else wanted. You know Mike Lindsay said. You don't need six big ears if you're you have said figure out what you want because if your goal is freedom you don't need that much six figures they hit it right so in by the way if you don't know career you've never seen we. We actually traveled digital nomads for a year and a half and it came after they got rid of the on air air. Call American League. I there is this particular neighborhood you know so I had started. Start over got married found eight. You know my husband's and I'm living in this luxury. Like resort style neighborhood Hud Lease at my was shot there. And it's it's like galls community so it's very received very boozy I'll say it I shall as the pool the key code. Act that things like all right and I decided about. That's where I need it to live because whatever so you can change your vision and your goals or go at any time. You have permission at any point to achieve your goals and decide. It's all about like recalibrating. You might hit a goal. Oh all and realized that that goal came from some different place. That wasn't ensure alignment with yourself and you might WanNa realign so if you ever get something that you don't want you have permission to let it go and rely on that's where in the powers and got my husband's Karenna Best friend swiped right got married five months later a whole whole thing. We'll talk. We'll talk Komo my gosh dating after divorce doing it. The right way and how to like how to have favor in our own it was as if I am with my has Zim but I'm not happy because at this point I have my business right. which is doing okay? But in order to pay for the house in the car I had to go and get another job so because I'd done so well in business I actually hired and ended up act so so be very clear might title was never executive director or head of marketing. An air quoting but I it was in fact acting as the executive director and the head of marketing overseeing website design social media. I was creating graphics newspaper newspaper all the things for tourism bureau working with seven eight and I believe nine figure business on bill. Yeah so there I am. I'd come out of brings you know I'm having some success. My business doing good but then in order to pay for the dream or call. It's the house the car I had to go out and get willing and because of that job then I had to pay for daycare so again. My kids are in school by a pain for daycare and my husband who was he went to school for. It forgot up some kind of engineering something something but he ran some sandy machine. He's very analytical. I don't know what he was doing. Some kind of machining. The head of something there is no machining jobs in this tiny little ritzy golf community. We're living in so he had a job driving you for Own Company which if you've ever smelled it is sketchy as as Shman sketchy. So He's driving having this trump for this sketchy company like making minimum wage. We never see each other like we never see each other. So here's this man that I married that I love. He's amazing he's my soulmate. Everything I wanted. And God's holy over delivered great thank you and I never seen him because I'm paying for the dream and so we just got to this place where it was like. This is crazy. I wanted to build my business in the so I worked in the Tourism Department for nearly a year again. Amazing Opportunity. I had you know every step of the way has just been like I've been able able to garnish so much experience and wisdom and so raped for so grateful You know they paid for me to go learn about tourism tourism and they paid for me to learn marketing from big people in marketing. Like I got to go to these things and so on learning about this and the ticker for me was I'm designing their websites and their websites. Looks fine doing a good job. I'm generating it's for the tourism bureau like that's when I realized I was really GONNA lead generation like business and I had data. I had to check to hire a website designer and in that moment I was like the heck am I doing They're paying me. Fifteen seventy five an hour. which city clear told me? Sarah your should be happy. You're or not you know you didn't go to college. This is double. That was double of what I would have been getting anywhere. Fifteen seventy five an hour. That's a job Bob Air quotes again dream job and everybody was telling me you know my family. My grandparents which I love my grandparents K.. Hey you might love your grandparents you might love your mom. I love your family. They don't always know what's fast and you don't always need their approval. Because if if I had been seeking my family's approval I would have stayed in my air conditioning job where they paid for me to travel but really it was like. I'm working working ten hour. Days at Trade Shows Expos and my family to come with me yeah. I'm going all over but this isn't what I wanted in. So then when I signs that check designer is like this Kinda joke. He didn't even design it cited scrutiny. It wasn't up to speed with all although it was wrong so I was like why not be my two weeks notice. That was like I'm GonNa serve so I did that with credibly where I went back onto this path so now unburied we a- We you. I'm starting a business and we're looking at our expenses came. This is the thing to when you're looking at your freedom. You gotTA look at your expense visit. His chances are the lifestyle that you desire. If you get serious about what you really desire I can guarantee you. I cut Out I cut out a lot of stuff takes us for a while when I was doing pretty good. I'm like behind all the makeup all the expensive things all like all this all that I have all the subscription everything guess what my freedom was buried underneath almost subscription and all all that stuff that I didn't need late. Yes it's good like you can. I'm not saying that you should never bind expensive makeup. I have expanded makeup. Yeah but you. When you're just getting started right? There might come a time where you have to cut your expenses down for a period. So you can reinvest into making money so that eventually that income stream will you will grow beyond your expenses. Lindsey said You just gotTa cover expenses decide decide what's important to you like. For example I spend spend a lot of money on supplements and I would spend that money even if you know I because that is so key and crucial what it is that I do and like me like I'm on camera cameras like I need the expense makeup. 'cause camera and that is a marketing thing for me. You you know I I need You know to pay for the coaching. I need to pay for you. Know I'm part of like a few subscription services for like Like business type stuff ling. But that's the stuff that's important to me stitch fix or you know like like something like that for me and for my vision. That's not necessarily what I need to be spending money on or What are like the hellofresh meals or like that kind of stuff? You know what I mean. I'm not I'm not saying that those are bad and for some people those my beata thing that they're like I'm not not giving that up. That's okay but you have to decide for you and like what are you just wasting money on. Come on now. You really need to go buy closed every single week. You called me out. You called me out because prior to going. We're looking at my expense. Hello Institute okay in my defense. I didn't know that she did not know she did. Not Not now. But I'm sitting over here like oh my gosh is that totally bat was mean like my friends were you know and I actually went out and in years I went and I found this like Boutique. Upside gold Place where people would bring their closing or whatever. I found the trendiest closer that people would be like only. Did you've Hyder to this day I can still find really really good designer duds for last. So that's what my texts leaving lex for less One of those stories where people like it sits in the back of your closet. Was this hang on it and then donated so there is that finding for me I got really guilty for Awhile L.. I think you will know where coming from about feeling like I had to only spend a hundred dollars a week and It was for me where I had better than I had to find. What my values for Josh? What my priorities were and then be able to invest into those so like you said for me? Food was one of the biggest things that helped me heal naturally. I I don't know if I can say that but I'm I was diagnosed with pretty severe condition and they told me that. Let's you know I'd have to go on medication or half. The haven't section and office in food nutrition and health supplements ends one thing that you know I value so I always spend money on side. No side no remember. I was just talking about how people that have what you want. I like pay attention to how they think we just told you that both of us pay money like we spend money in the area area of health and nutrition. We spent many bear yet. We don't skimp neither. I know you know you know it broke my heart hurt for a while when I had to. Because you know I had Through through the year sir. My entire ordeal everything. You know divorce in everything I you had Sound my passion for health and wellness. So I love I love. I love that I love merging those suits together and I went out and got certified in juice therapy and personal training. Not because I wanted to do it so much. I just want the knowledge I was certified. I believe is a health coach and ongoing for nutrition. But that my divorce that on hold but it it was like that was an area for me where I could not so. We don't We don't spend money on groceries anymore. Recall it investing because we found that when you take care of your your health and if you want to build a business you WanNa have a gut relationships yours or health and a lot of that. You know. If you don't have the energy you're not gonNA be able to put into relationships you won't be able to have the energy of business so your your house is like foundational yes so it is way cheaper to invest invest like in nutrition and high-quality supplements and your preventative. Health is to pay for a health crisis later on his as for me anyways it cost me thousands out of pocket and that that is money that I could've you know invested or Occasion something so. Yeah this is so good Sarah like I really hope that for those of you listening because I get the question all the time like how do I how do I get there like I have this dream. I have this vision. How do I get there and like we just gave you some very big components about the difference between setting a goal and getting a goal and like what it realistically looks like because it's not about having millions of dollars off GonNa be frank with you? I am not a billionaire. I am not but I have freedom in my life because of income streams that we've created we dated and like. I have to tell you and Sarah. I know that you've been there. We've we've been to those places where you were so stressed about money and money is is just like this pressure this heaviness and Lang looking at your bank account just makes you want to throw up like we've been there like we get it and a half to tell you you. There is such freedom in knowing that while you're sleeping your bank accounts getting filled up. There is some serious. And it's not about having an obscene gobs of it it's just about like a security. It's a piece it's A. It's just a freedom that wake lifted off okay shoulders and we talked about the health and like you have got to invest in to you and you have to like yes like. Don't be stupid stupid with your money like watcher expenses. But there are certain things where you've got to give yourself permission that this this is something that is valuable to me and this is part of my vision because I have to be real. Part of my vision was that I was going to be that person that was like eating the rolls roles and eating the Kien Hwa and like fuelling my body with good stuff right now is part of my vision and that costs money but then yeah I don't the stitch fix like make compromises for your vision. You make sacrifices for your vision so Sarah Thank you so much so we're going to talk because I I know that if we don't talk about this we have talked about in the next episode. If we don't talk about creating income streams like people are going to be mad at us so we're going to talk more about that In the next episode. Thank you so much. And we'll see all next week. We hope you enjoyed this episode of the Kingdom mob. PODCAST don't forget to head on over to kingdom PODCAST DOT COM and click membership to join our community of King of MOMS. You can also check out the free ultimate MOM binder video ecorse. We'll see you next time.

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Manifesting Part 2 and How to Make a Digital Vision Board

In Happier News

00:00 sec | 11 months ago

Manifesting Part 2 and How to Make a Digital Vision Board

"Thank you to anchor for sponsoring this podcast. PODCASTING is getting very popular. And if you've been thinking about starting one I have a few tips. I really think about your wife or doing it unless you are a celebrity or you have a huge following. It's GonNa take a lot of time to grow your audience and make money from it so knowing your why is going to keep you going on. It feels like it's just a lot of work and not a lot of payoff second realistically think about how much time you can dedicate coming up with topics recording and editing podcast. It takes time you'll want to be consistent with episodes so be sure you have the time to dedicate to it third. Don't over think starting it just do it. A big reason I chose anchor for my podcast was because it was free when it is free you have nothing to lose if podcasting is right for you put your message out there and then perfected it as you go. Those are a few of my tips and if you feel inspired download the free inker APP or go to anchor dot. FM to get started. Let me know too. If you end up starting a podcast cast because I want to support you and follow it as well. Welcome to the in Happier News. PODCAST I'm your host Ian Goodman. Hope you had a great holiday. Inn are feeling ready for a new year to set this new decade off on an intentional PA. Aw I decided to dedicate this episode to the follow up of the manifestation declared in October that I wanted to achieve by January. I also want to tell. Oh you had to make a digital vision board and some other things to take into the new year so let's start with the update on that manifestation on the October ninth episode. I told you how I manifested lasted. Seven hundred seventy seven dollars except that I did it backwards and ended up manifesting the money coming out of my account instead of into it. It's a pretty funny story. So if you haven't heard that one listened to that episode and after that happened I basically laughed because I knew the universe was sending me a message if you WANNA manifest. NFL something get very clear on that. Show I declared new manifestation of one thousand three hundred thirteen dollars or thirteen thirteen by January. First Thirteen is my favorite number and I very specifically said I wanted the money to come into my account not out out then. November happened and there was nothing in the amount of thirteen thirteen it was approaching mid December and still nothing. I kept thinking I'd see the amount in a random check that just was mailed to me but I also kept my mind open to how ever the money wanted to appear to me. I knew what what I wanted to manifest. Just not how it was going to happen in the back of my mind I doubted I'll be honest. I totally doubted maybe January. I was was too quick of a timeframe but also believed every single day. I would think about the amount thirteen thirteen going into my account. One Friday evening evening I was checking my bank accounts and retirement accounts. Yes you heard that right. That is how exciting my Friday nights are. I decided to check my newest Oraon K which we set up through on tap to be totally transparent. I have not been one hundred percent convinced that we needed to offer this and my account accidentally wasn't getting getting the automatic three percent per paycheck deposited into it so for months. It just sat at forty six dollars which didn't realize until a few weeks prior where I opened the account and I noticed it only said forty six dollars in it so I let Jair know who was in charge of this particular account. I said I. I don't think my three percents are going into it. So fortunately it got fixed and on this particular Friday night I logged in. This is the second time I've ever logged into this account and I was just is hoping that it would no longer say forty six dollars in. The problem was fixed into my complete shock. The balance was one thousand three hundred thirteen dollars. I literally laughed out loud. Thirteen thirteen and it worked. It also happen to be Friday the thirteenth which I thought was really cool. So here's what I did that worked. I got super clear on what I wanted. I kept it positive by focusing on something I wanted instead of something I didn't want I declared it. I thought about it often. I didn't lose the faith even though the deadline I had set was fast fast approaching and I was starting to doubt and they allowed the university dictate. How would happen instead of saying it had to come in the mail by check or something like that by no means? Am I an expert at manifesting but I do have a couple of friends that I would love to have on seemed to talk more about manifesting because they are really good at it with a new year and decade eight starting to try manifesting. And just let me know how it goes. If you have a crazy manifesting story let me know as well. You can find me on instagram or facebook under Diong a young goodman. I also encourage you to set some time to make a digital vision board. Here's how I do those. I USED CANVAS DOT COM C. A. N.. Va Eh DOT COM. And there's also an APP on your phone but I find that using a computer is a lot faster. It's also totally free to use. And then I select mood board board as the template and I pick whichever one seems to call out to me I tend to like pinks purples and Pastel colors so those are usually the mood boards. I choose in the temple and I chose had six boxes to put photos in. And if you want more just pick a template with more grits then get really clear again on what I want to put on this this digital vision board. What do I want in life when I used to do vision board? I would use magazines and cut out images but I always felt like the magazine basically dictated to me. What what I wanted or the gist of what I wanted? But with a digital vision board you can use Google or your own photos to find exactly what you want so for mine. For instance to give you an example. I put the exact car. I want the exact house I want like I went on Zillow and found the house. I wanted a put a photo so from time in my life when I was truly living in purpose doing my dream job. I put a map of the road for travel adventures in a box of the few financial goals. The cool thing about Digital Vision Board is that you can also update them anytime and then you can save it as the screensaver on your phone or your computer said that you can see it all the time the last thing I want you to do in two thousand twenty is to pick a word what word comes to your mind as something you want more of or want to do more of the New Year give you some ideas for two thousand eighteen. My was patients as a new mom and learning how to adapt to a lifestyle a required a lot of patients in two thousand nineteen and my word was giving chose this because I wanted to give more freely in give without expecting anything in return in twenty twenty my word is laughter and I wanNA laugh more in life. I WanNa feel silly goofy happy and just less overwhelmed. Take a second to pick the word and I want you to visualize it. What does it in is written in? cursive is a colorful. Is it written in the sky like a plane. wrote the word whatever it looks like to you remember that that is your word in the more you think about it. The more you'll manifested into your life to a wish without a plan. It's just a dream so put action behind your desires. Make a time line and goal. Get Him happy near everyone.

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GPE017 - Vision board basics + the law of attraction!

The Good People Effect

00:00 sec | 1 year ago

GPE017 - Vision board basics + the law of attraction!

"Welcome back to the good people affect podcast. The good people effect is what happens when you surround yourself with the right people so that you can grow this podcast is all about finding those awesome humans and bringing into your ears so that you can really you develop your creativity adventure and purposing this life so please sit back relax and enjoy another weekly Dr of the good people effects. Hey guys welcome back to the good would paypal effect. I am so happy to have you back with me today today. We're GONNA be talking about vision boards and the law of attraction now it's been on my mind lightly and I decided not to get a guest in this week and I just wanted to throw something out into the universe because I know can really help some people so if you're really not sure about your goals or what you really want if it's not clearly defined in your mind and these episodes just for you also go to Youtube Channel Code Today Dreamer. It's all about helping you take action to create positive changes and you lost starting today. If that's something that you might be into place head over to Youtube and typing today dreamer there'll be a lincoln description here and I promise you won't be disappointed but without further ado he's my episode on Vision Boards and the law of attraction. Attraction Visual Border Wall Agai and everything that I wrote down and drew in pasted and everything into into the Vision Board came true and I didn't even realize until actually thought about it and I've been kind of seeing things that are really connected lightly and hearing things that are really strange. They connect to this kind of like that thing when you buy a car or you're thinking about buying a car shooting Carolina start saying that colored car everywhere so I've really been thinking about the law of attraction lightly and I wanted to talk about tonight. The law of attraction is basically state something like this when you focus on something whatever you focus on intensely that's what you will attract into your lot. Whether that bad negative theme Incor- Positive Ruby Focus your mind that will manifest into reality so when I say you can cross your reality into daydream what I may need you can really not only use the power for traction but other forces like that like feeling gratitude that absolutely recently you can you can really cross your reality more thinking of sort of white sort truly believe that my. Mom's actually a fortune teller spiritual teacher and when I was young I was growing up. I've been around her and all the advice that should use to shoot ints and I'm always like walking around hassle cooking or whatever and and she put on this short one day when I was younger it's called the secret and I'm sure you've heard of this. It's a really really cool Sherry so check it out if you haven't it's all about the law of attraction and ever since I was in my head and I started noticing over the years because this was quite some while ago that things started working like the law of attraction actually works and works such a strange way we're really creating our reality south east part of what we think and how we feel and what we see I once said this audit to make visual based on this idea and the Vision Board as pretty much a board where you can do it a couple of ways you how to pay your ideas. You can grab a magazine Parole together or you can just draw write things down our board. It's a visual interpretation of what you want to attract into your life and that made me stop and zinc really deeply and I think it's important to think about sometimes what exactly one in this world and bay super specific about it so they can figure out exactly what direction you want to be paddling that float but also. Her why did she want that thing. So why are you hitting into that direction why you WanNa be into that direction and sometimes even ask why again I mean Afghan so that one and you ask wall. Why is that a reason and why is that raising hands out direction? It's the it's important because you can after a couple of wise and after you really think about this question deeply you filter out all the kind of superficial things all the things that you think you you might want and you figure when you get to the root of what you actually want you figure out whether it's valid reason to one that helps you figure it helps you figure out what you want when you have these kind of thought experiment and I think it's important thing about that sorry I wanted to. I guess have a chat about law retraction and hopefully you know if you're consciously putting it into practice in your life. You're constantly you know vision occasioning it envisioning outcome or future connor result while obviously still living in the president and trying to enjoy every moment and join the journey because people always say they back on the journey and that's kind of what they really enjoyed along the wire. The struggle is in everything so tackle everything with a playful state where you can learn things but I still feel like it's important to do these things and it's important to consider these things like what are you really want and why you want that and then it's really important to take action and work your ass off until you can really learn and grow and in Cape developing as a person and you allow how yourself to do that so I think this is all very important stuff and I. I guess I want us to talk about. It and I'm probably rattling on too much anyways if you're watching this. If you're watching this video on Youtube <music> out got my youtube channel sorry about like I said I'm sorry about the lauding because the cameras no really meant a lot but I'm not going to going hopefully etc.. If you're listening to the podcast on a mighty like on an chat like these ever me secondly I was thinking maybe I'll do the regular podcast every second week so at least it's content coming at every week slack on a lightly as being big couple of issues about sort of the mouth so there's some good episodes to come on the podcast first so next week. I'm I've got Amri Sandra on the shore of God on a beautiful chat with emory. He's actually just an amazing person. He's hand pat imply that I met and we had a really interesting chat. I mean chilly at the moment and he was on his way. Hey to Brazil. I believe we had a really interesting chat. You know about meditation want fairness and being aware of ourselves that chas coming up next week so I guess I mean these kind of vibe and I'm really enjoying kind of considering where I want to go and and putting that on so vision board and writing down my goals on a piece of paper figuring out you know come formulating some kind of a plan so that can I can achieve what I really want and I'm getting clear on what I want and I'm really happy about that so I guess I just wanted to make this video podcasts and whatever pace of content wherever you're consuming these and just yeah just poise pose a question to everyone out there and I really want to answer these memorised truthful honest way possible to yourselves and that question is what do you want your life. What do you want and what do you really want if you had to describe it paint that picture in your head answer that question and think about why anyways I'm GonNa leave you? I'm GonNa leave you with that thought and thanks for tuning in to wherever you consume please Dan Lard. Click subscribe on the podcast really trying to get this podcast going so it's called the good people effect watching.

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#58 - How to Create a Vision for 2020

Change Lives Make Money

00:00 sec | 11 months ago

#58 - How to Create a Vision for 2020

"What is going on squad? Welcome to the James is make money on my podcast. The number one show for you want to make more money change more people's lives and have more of an impact on the world although spending thousands of dollars on a website or even paid at my. Name's Brian Mark and I've been finished coach for four years. In My four years all my coaching I helped over one thousand online fitness clients completely transform their lives and in the last year I decided to start stepping up and sharing my knowledge with personal trainers on how I hi quit my job and I took my business online in last year. I helped over one hundred trainers quit their jobs and take their businesses fulltime online. So if you're brand new here welcome. I have a free rebuilt for you that talks about how my chronic ten game with instagram stories. With your name all you gotTa do me on Instagram. That's at Mark Fit and I will send you your guide. My clients make ten thousand dollars a month instagram stories. Now let's get into show what is going on. It's your boy coming at with another episode of the change is make money on my trainer podcast and in this episode. We're going to be talking about creating a vision for twenty twenty so as of today right right now. It is December sixteenth two thousand and nine thousand nine and as of today recording this episode. We are officially done with Christmas. Caso we're done with Chris. Smith's you know we're all partied up and you know eating a lot of Christmas cookies and with the New Year fast approaching. It's likely that you guys are thinking you know you've got your news solution. Sat you know exactly doc what you want to accomplish in twenty twenty and I wanNA use this podcast to make sure that you absolutely dominate twenty twenty. So I WANNA make sure that on this podcast I give you guys all the goodies. So that you don't feel like twenty twenty is another wasted year as I feel like for those all my trainers are listening to this podcast and want to create a twenty twenty even though you WanNa grow and you want to expand. There's a lot of things that you might be missing in forgetting. So I'M GONNA use this podcast you guys don't have any blinders on and that you're able to be crystal clear and focused on exactly what you want to accomplish and I WANNA to make sure that when you're creating Your Vision Board for twenty twenty that it's not just like another new year's resolution that isn't GonNa work. I want to make sure that this time when you create your vision board that it actually works in fact on my trainer automation that twenty twenty is the best year of your life. I want you to make as much money as you want to. Make in two thousand twenty. I'm wanting to healthy as you can possibly imagine twenty twenty and I want you to be extremely blessed and grateful the entire way and I wanNA use this podcast as a gateway for you to create your vision for two thousand and twenty. Okay so let me share with you why I believe in in holding a vision and why I think holding a vision so important for not only your all my business but your life so I started like I've always believed in the power of the mind and like being able to you know. See what you want and be able to go after an accomplished. I've always going to believe this since I was young man like when I was fourteen years old I lost my I like thirty pounds and once I basically decided that I wanted to lose thirty pounds. Sounds and then I lost it. I was like dude like if I focus on something I can make shit happen so I started believing in this idea of creating a vision going after it from a pretty young age so it was in two thousand thousand and twelve that I made my first big like declaration and when I say a declaration like this is something I just decided I was going to do something and so in two thousand and twelve. I declared that I was going to become. WBF that'd be bff pro. I was just like I'm GONNA be. WBF Pro and those people that knew me back in those days back in the two thousand twelve days. Like I was obsessed when I made that declaration that decision that just became my life was like I'm going to be WBF thrown at the time. Like I definitely didn't have an above average physique. There was nothing that really stood out about me. So for me making that declaration of like I'm going to be a pro. This is something that's going to happen. I remember the people around me. Were kind of like okay. Yeah sure Brian. You know whatever like you're going to be a pro that school so two thousand thousand twelve. I made my first declaration and I was just like I'm going to be a WBF pro and then two years later. I stepped on stage and I want my program so for me like it took me four shows for me to actually do that. What two thousand twelve is the? First Time I actually made a declaration saying I was GONNA do some Shit and then actually doing it so two thousand thirteen. I was like okay well. I did that with my card. So so in two thousand and thirteen I made a declaration that I was GonNa make my first ten thousand dollars a month I was like I'm GonNa make ten K per month all my coaching business. I like declared I just decided that it was going to happen happen and one year later in two thousand fourteen. I hit my first ten thousand dollars a month so once I became a pro with my vision. And then I made the declaration that I was GonNa make ten K.. Month and both of those things became realities after I declared them I was like I'm going to keep pushing this. I'm going to see like how far I can take this so two thousand fourteen. Once I made ten K.. Month I made another declaration once anti-competition thing I was like I'm going to have a team on my trainers working for me. At Asset Ignatius semi that declaration. I'm going to have a team of trainers all going to be working for me and we're going to be building this bigger vision. An of an all night thing is something I was excited about. And so by the end of two thousand seventeen. I had seven trainers working for me. Team Nation at two other staff members. So I made a declaration ration- and at the end of two thousand and seventeen all these things that I've been writing down. We're starting to become realities. So it's like a consistent. Pattern was beginning to emerge two thousand fifteen. I made a declaration that I was going to own a dodge challenger and two thousand nineteen sixty four years to kind of like get myself into a place where is able to actually afford to buy the car. I purchase my dream car. And now I'm driving my challenger and now now most recently in two thousand and nineteen the declaration that I made for two thousand nineteen which now that we're coming to the end of it I can share with you guys and two thousand nine hundred. I'm made a declaration at the start of the year that I was going to make a hundred hundred thousand dollars per month and November two thousand nineteen ninety five thousand dollars so even though I didn't hit one hundred K. I.. Ninety five thousand dollars is pretty fucking close and at the start of the year like there was nothing that stood out or the opportunity for me to make one hundred game but I just made the declaration I just decided so any of these goals any of these declarations rations that I've ever made for myself I've accomplished so I'm a big believer in creating a vision board like I'm a big believer in like knowing exactly what your target is and then going after it because because then you actually have something to work towards so vision boards for me hundred percent part of my routine. It's a part of my life. It's like how commish major goals. It's everything so I want to share with you. You guys how I create my vision boards and how you guys are GonNa Create your visuals because this podcast isn't about me. It's about you so I'm going to talk about where to start when it comes to creating twenty twenty vision board so if you're excited about creating a vision board for twenty twenty I want you to you. Know Gimme a silent head nod if you're listening to this podcast. If you're watching this live fire emojis. Let's talk talk about where you need to start in terms of creating your vision for twenty twenty so before we talk about like the actual logistics of the board. I want to talk about what you're going to need. So what you're going to need for you to create your vision board is you're going to need a cork board from Walmart or any other drug store you can just go to wherever you want to go but you need a court order. You're going to need a printer. You're going to printer to print off some of the stuff that we're going to talk about and you're going to need tax to put up pictures super simple so cork board. You're getting to printer any tax. If you don't have a printer sure you can do what I did. So actually just used downloaded the pictures to my phone and I went to Walmart. But we're gonNA talk about what kind of pictures are going to print off etc.. I know you probably have a lot of questions like okay. We'll like how do you know what goes on your vision board. Like how do you know what you should put on your vision board. or where do you even start like. Where do you start with creating visual one of my clients actually sent me a DM when I posted my vision board? That's why I'm doing this podcast. And he's like throw on Crete one of these but I have no idea where start. What if your vision changes right so like what if you set this goal of these things that you want to do and then it changes like how do you like modify? What if you're not sure about what to put up there? But what if you want to build a vision board and you want to accomplish goals but you don't know what goes on accomplish or what if you don't even know what you want as you want to create a vision board and you WanNa do all these cool things but you. You don't even want so let me share with you. Guys what I did to create my Vision Board in twenty twenty and how you guys can use this in your own lives to create your own vision boards so case when it comes to creating your vision. I think I think that a big reason that people end up with a life that they're not happy with or they end up with in a place that they don't want to be is because they are focusing on only one area Korea with Oh remembering that their life is compiled of other different things so there are three main areas of my life that I always focus on with my vision and my goals on a weekly basis on a monthly basis and a yearly basis. There's three main areas of my goals that I set for my vision board and these are the three main areas that I want you guys to focus on as well so if you are listening to this podcast and we need to take notes. If you're watching this on a livestream that I want you to write in life so the first area actually talked about all three so the three areas that I focus on health wealth and relationships so you're taking notes. Health welcome some relationships or does make a mental note health wealth and relationships. These are the three main areas that I focus on my billboard health. The reason I focus on health is because if you have money and you have have friends but you have no energy or you're not happy with the person that you're looking at in the mirror you're going to suffer so that's my health is important. Well because if you have a great physique and you've got great relationships ships and great friends but you're financially struggling and you're suffering with that then you're going to suffer as human and relationships because if you're super healthy got a great body but you're alone you're are going to suffer so health. Wealth relationships are the three areas that we're going to focus on when we're creating our twenty twenty. I think that these areas are equally as important as the other. I don't think there's is one that's more important than the other. They're all growing in sync at the same time. I also think that like as you're growing as a human being there are certain areas that you might focus on for an extended period of time to get to a certain level as an example if you have fifty pounds to lose then. You might really be focused on that weight. Loss goal is the number one priority and then other things come in sequence but health wealth and relationships are the three areas that I always like to grow in sync and I try not to forget any one of them so I think they're equally as important so what we're GonNa do is we are going to take one of these areas for creating a twenty twenty vision board and we're going to expand on on it and we're really going to cast a vision for what that ideal looks like. So let's think about health. We're going to focus on health first so your vision. I'm not talking about me talking about you now because I want you to Create Your Twenty Twenty Division board your vision of health maybe different from my vision of health but you have to get really clear on like what your vision of health is and when I say vision what I'm really talking about is the ideal I do like. What is the ideal version of your health? Maybe for you the ideal version of your health is more energy to play with your kids. So you've got more energy to run run around and play with their kids and have fun. You guys go to the park like maybe that's your vision right. Maybe your vision of ideal. Health is more apt definition so having a six pack that you can see being able to look yourself in the mirror absolutely shredded. What is your vision of health? Ideal maybe your vision of health is having a bigger booty. Maybe you're a single lady and you want to be booty luscious for all those boys that are like that are creeping on your instagram right. Maybe if you're a dude your vision of ideal health is to have bigger shoulders or better V. taper maybe it's winning a fitness competition. Ab winning across the competition. Maybe it's completing your yoga. The teacher training. Maybe your vision of health is just having like more energy just being happy with the person that you look at it in the mirror but think about what your vision of health looks like get crystal clear with perfect vision of your health. Excited can twenty twenty some once. You've got this idea of like okay like maybe you're a parent and your vision of health is like having more energy to play at their kids. Now what I want you to do is go to the Internet and you're going to search for different pictures that represent vision for you right so if you're a parent and you have kids. Maybe the pictures that represent represent that vision for your actually pictures of you playing with your kids right so that's something that's going to compel you to WanNa do the thing that's going to lead to you having the Vision so grab pictures of you playing with your kids. It's maybe right. If you're a parent that has kids that you WANNA play with your vision of health is going to the Internet and finding a place that you wanna go with your kids like a hike that you want to do with. Their kids is or an activity that you WANNA do at your kids and maybe it's putting that up on your vision board. Okay maybe as an example. Let's say that you are listening to this. And your vision of health is to lose fifty pounds. You've always wanted to lose. Then maybe you go back to when you're twenty two or twenty one where you looked you had your ideal physique and you post. That is your picture. Maybe you go to the Internet and you find when your biggest sources of inspiration in terms of your fitness and you grab a picture of that person and you put it on your vision board but go to the Internet. Search Your facebook search your photos go to Google search to your photos and find find your perfect vision of your health. Looks like maybe it's a couple years ago but your perfect vision of health. Three to five photos represent that and save them to your phone. Because we're GONNA print these off okay so the first area of Your Twenty Twenty Vision Board is health. Is that clear if everybody if you're listening to this podcast silent head nod. You're watching the livestream. Drop me. Fire Emoji is that clear. Does that make sense. The first part of Your Twenty Twenty Vision Board is the health aspect we need to have the health aspect critically needed understand. What our perfect vision of Hell flipside? Okay so health is I. That's the first component of your twenty twenty vision. Board is going to get three to five pictures that represent you perfectly healthy. Okay now the second aspect of creating a vision Asian in my personal opinion is well. Because if you don't have wealth you're gonNA suffer if you are struggling to pay your bills you're going to suffer if you are constantly worrying about you know where your next paycheck is coming from or going to suffer if you're like dealing with crippling debt you're going to suffer so we need to build wealth so now let's imagine what wealth looks like for you. What would it mean to be wealthy for you and for those people listening to this podcast? I'm not talking about driving a frigging Lambeau and owning penthouse because I think that this abstract strack vision of like Oh. I'm going to dry land though this year is why a lot of people are stuck. And that's the reason you haven't grown into the person that you're capable of becoming so if you're listening to this podcast and you're like Yeah Brian but like Oh you made ninety five thousand dollars a month. That's easier to say that I didn't start out like that like in two thousand thirteen. My goal wasn't to make ninety five thousand dollars a month and if I would have said that in two thousand and thirteen thirteen. There's no way I would have believed it. And if I didn't believe that it was possible that I wouldn't have been able to do the things necessary to grow to this level so it started out with stretching my income goal. Aw so in terms of your wealth. This is really important on my trainer. I really want you to hit. Even if you're not on my train appear to listening to create vision for twenty twenty. It's really important that you understand that. When you're setting setting a wealth goal you need to set one that stretches you but also one that your mind believes that you're capable of achieving pass so the most amount of money you've ever made is like five grand a month then set in the the goal of making eight to ten grand? A month is super awesome. And if you make eight to ten grand a month and the most you've ever made us five that's a significantly different quality of life so when you're setting a wealth goal set sette wellcoll. That is more money than you've ever made in your life but also realistic enough and something that your mind can forecast. You actually accomplishing is I make sense. So if the most amount of money you've ever made I regret in a month and you're trying to drive a lambeau this year like sorry rick. It's not going to happen. Why don't you set a goal? That is more money than ever made in your life but also realistic enough that your Mike can actually see it happening. That's the key you might have to see it and be like oh I can actually do this shit this year. So what is your wealth goal. Look like what is the actual dollar amount per year that you're making. What kind of car would you be driving this year in twenty twenty? If like everything panned out. Would you upgrade your house like. Would you upgrade the place where you're living. Would you move to a different location. Or maybe you adjust upgrade the inside to your house. Maybe you do some renovations. What kind of clothes would you be wearing like if your wealth starts to pan out and twenty twenty? It's amazing like by the end of the year. Like what is your fashion look like. What kind of clothes are you wearing? What is your lifestyle? Look like. What kind of lifestyle would you be living? What kind of places would you be going to eat? So get your vision for your health right crystal clear vision of what you want your health to look like in twenty twenty and then get some photos that capture you living in that place so the celebration of the wealthier accomplishing. So what is your wealth vision look like right so we've got health because you know having an ideal physique or maybe having more energy to play at their kids. AB losing fifty pounds super important. And then we've got our wealth so you know Oh and another thing I want to talk about with wealth and this is important actually in touch on this is wealth doesn't mean getting out of debt because when you put getting out of debts on your vision Asian Board. You're focusing on debt and whatever you focus on your going to track so instead of pudding getting out of debt because that's what a lot of people do as that of putting getting out of debt on your vision board what you should be. Focusing on is how much money would you need to be making in order to pay off that debt and also save a little bit of money and that should be your wealth goal right so like you have the payoff five grand a month or as much a say. It's even two grand a month your debt to pay it off completely. Then your goal should include the amount of money you WANNA make and the amount of money that you need to you. Pay Off your debt and national your wealth goal but not like don't put pay off debt on your vision board. It doesn't make sense to focus on the negative case. So what is your wealth. Actually look like you've got health so we're talking about creating a vision for twenty twenty now. Now got a health goal so like you know what we want our body and our energy and our mind to look like. We've got our wealth goal so you know what we're financial situation to be or do you WANNA start unsuccessful my my business or maybe we have an online business and we want to dominate and step up to the next level and the last thing I want to talk about in terms of creating a vision board and the other aspect is relationships. Now let's take a minute and imagine that everything is perfect in your life insurance. You're relationship what does that actually look like for you. Are you surrounded by friends and loved ones smiling and laughing right are you like. Are you surrounded by people that you care about. Have you found your dream partner that you're insanely in love with and are so happy with if you're in a relationship right now or you're in a marriage like what does you and your husband or your wife. Happy look like where some pictures that you can find view and your husband or wife that like when you guys are perfectly happy and celebrating life. Do you have loved ones that are close to you that you're holding them close so captured the idea of what your perfect vision or your relationships looks like go to the Internet. Go to facebook right. If you're with a significant significant other already go to facebook Google or sorry search when you and your hobby. We're super happy. Find some of those best pictures. Put those on your vision board and capture what it looks like for you and your husband to be perfectly happy if you are looking to attract your dream partner like when I say look into attractive Jim Partner to like. I don't want you to go to that person's facebook whoever you think it is but a picture them collision board because that's super creepy. But if you're looking to shock to dream partner like go to Google and search up pictures that would capture the idea of you being with your dream partner again. Don't go to their facebook and put pictures of them. That's kind of creepy so captured the idea of what it looks like to find your dream partner capture some images that make you feel like you've found that person. What sort of photos us from facebook or Google captured the idea perfect vision or your relationships look like so we've got health? We've got wealth. We've got relationships you know. Maybe we've got ten to twenty pictures pictures of images that captured what we want our twenty twenty two look like we all following along so far. Is this all making sense. So what we're GONNA do is we're going to download all these images to our phone going to save them all to our phone and then if you have a printer you can print them off your home. If you don't have a printer you can literally take your phone to your nearest Walmart's go to the Kodiak kiosks in the Electronics Action and you can print off all these photos super easy. It'll take you like five minutes creating a vision. Board is also one of those things. It's really easy to do. It's also really easy not to do like stretching in the gym right right. If you're on my fitness coach we all know how important stretching is and maybe one out of ten of us do it right so creating a vision board is one of those same things. It's really easy to forget and say like I'll do it tomorrow. Oh but this is where all of the shit comes from like you need to sit down and actually take the time to think about what you want to accomplish. Otherwise why are you working so hard every day like what's the purpose of it so once you have this idea of like the things that you're working towards then when you're sitting down to work you know exactly what you're trying to create and it makes you more motivated right so creating a vision board is one of those things it's really easy. It's also really easy not to do so. Actually do the shit okay. So health wealth and relationships now want pieces altogether for you guys for you. All fitness coaches. That are listening tuning in and you want to get this. You're like ready to this topic. So let's piece it all together with some quotes now personally. I love motivational quotes. I think they're amazing for me. When I'm Mike consciously creating my life when I'm like working towards awards my goals and there's something that I'm like really going after I love looking for closer to inspire me because some of the quotes that speak to me aren't necessarily speak to you and vice versa? Everyone's going to have some quotes. It's like really like capture them like hits him in the feels so I want you on my coach go to Google and search up. Some motivational quotes that inspire. You and motivate you to get you fired up. One of my favorite favorite quotes incident sticking out to me as really like helped me like be powerful over the last few days is if you do not conquer yourself you'll be conquered by self. I love that quote. It's like every every time I read it. It just like hits home. It just makes me conquer myself and like become a master of myself so I printed it out and I put it on my vision board so my fitness coach for you know. Think about all of these goals that you'd like written down or all these images captured from Google or facebook and all the things that you want to accomplish and then I want you to go to Google and search up some quotes that will inspire you to go after these goals. Aw so search up like five to ten quotes that capture how you feel and how you WanNa feel for the New Year and save them to your phone and put them up for your vision board. Okay so we've got health. We've got wealth. We've got relationships and the last thing and this is like an quotes now. The last thing is to piece it all together. So now you've got your health wealth relationships in your quotes and they'll save your phone. You go to Walmart Promo. It'll take you ten minutes it'll cost you ten bucks a super simple printed all these photos and get to work on your vision board. Now when you're creating Your Vision Board for twenty twenty. It's really important that you create your board in a way that inspires you so. There's no right or wrong way to do this right. You've got all the images for your twenty twenty vision board and all the things that you want accomplishing pushing all the things that you're fired up about now. Don't try to be perfect and micromanage how you actually create this vision board. Just create it rightly waterlilies photos you put some allow. You got all your tax. You've got to Cork Board. Just Create Your Vision Board like you've got all the things off pieces of the puzzle your health your wealth relationships your quotes. Now you've got them all despite created so start out by putting twenty twenty in the middle of Your Vision Board and then just like expand outwards so for me it just like I just put one down and then I put another photo down and I just kind of like piece. Is it together in a way that kind of like spoke to me and it's supposed to be like a conscious creation like it's supposed to be a work of art like you're working on creating vision and for those people people that are listening to this podcast. That actually do this like you're going to be so so blown away by some of the results that you're able to create just by sitting down in like making some declarations took. Some Shit's going to happen. So this is your intention for twenty twenty like this. Is the goals that you want accomplishing twenty so important. Once you've done the work I want you to put into place that you can see it every day. And that's the key right the key. He is to actually be able to see it every day. I think a big reason that a lot of people don't accomplish their goals when they're going after them isn't because they're not capable but it's because they forget so for me like I think the magic comes from daily reminders of those things that you want to accomplish so when you wake up and you don't want to go to the gym or you wake up and you WanNa work on your business or you wake up and you're feeling demotivated you wake happen. You just don't want to do the things that are necessary gate close to your goals. You like look at the vision that you've created for your twenty twenty and you're like Yo I gotta get up today like got this vision. I'm going after like I gotTA gotta get up gotTa get after today. So that's it you gotta put it in a place where you see it every single day and that that is where the drive comes from like. That's where your motivation comes from. The fire comes from so on that fitness coach. Which I've given you the pieces of the puzzle? We'll do a quick recap pieces all the other guys so the pieces of the puzzle. What you're going to need to create your vision board is three things number one is? You're going to need to cork board. Where'd you can get that from my Walmart or like any other store a big corporate number two? You'll need a printer Abbott at home. You've got a leg up if you don't have one at home you can go to Walmart Super Simple and the third thing you're you're gonNA need is tax to put up all the pictures so we need to think about your vision board in terms of three different aspects of your life health because you need to have health if you have money and your your friends but you have no energy and you're not happy with it you look. You're going to suffer. You need to think about wealth because if you've got a great body and you've got great relationships but you're financially struggling you're going to suffer and and you need to have a relationship is because if you're healthy and you have money but you're alone you're going to suffer so health. Wealth and relationships are the three main aspects that create a powerful vision. They're equally as important As one another so once. You've got your three main areas. I want you to think about each individual area and I want you to ask yourself what that perfect looks like. So what does my perfect health like. What is my perfect relationships? Ships are like what is my perfect wealth. What is my business? Look like so think about these different aspects of your life and ask yourself what that perfect looks like and you're GonNa piece it all together with some quotes right once you've got some images that capture capture what your perfect looks like and we go to the Internet and wanting to search for different quotes that are going to inspire you to get into bed and do some of the shit that you need to do to grow yourself on a daily basis and for me one of the quotes. What's it inspires me is if you do not talk yourself you will be conquered by self? I think that's your psychic so gangster. So that's one I printed out and I put on my vision board so once you've got maybe maybe you've got like twenty to thirty to forty photos of things that inspire. You heard them all off. You can do it at Walmart you can do at home if you have a printer and get to work on your vision board and just create. Don't like over. Think think how your vision board should look just like understanding like this. Is Your intention for twenty twenty like these. Are the goals that you want to accomplish in two thousand twenty things that you want to do and once you've done the work I want you to put into a place you can see it every day and that's really where the magic comes from. We're not creating once and then forgetting about it's like I've got this vision for twenty twenty and then it's in my room where I wake up role in bed as boom. It's in my face. I see it every day every morning. I wake up every night before I go to bed. I'm seeing my vision. I know exactly what it is. That one accomplish. Once you've done all this work dies if you're trying to listen to this podcast and you actually do vision board to send me a DM screen shot of Your Vision Board. Because I know that they're going to be some of you guys that listeners podcasts. And and actually do the work and at the end of twenty. You're GonNa thank me because of all the things that we accomplished together. As a result of you setting the intention of creating a sufficient. That's the key see every day and then you you just gotTa do the work all right so it's time to get started on building your dreams on that Visco so do not wait until tomorrow. You want to start today if you want to build your vision. You've got to start today. That what do you make the board sent me a deal with a screen shot so I can share it to my story. Okay so all my fitness coach. That's it for today's episode. This is the change lives. Make money all mentoring podcasts. And I'm I am your host be mark fit so we're talking about how to create a vision for twenty twenty manifest. Live your dreams so if you enjoy this podcast and you want to win a thousand dollars. Share this in your story stories. So screen shot this year story tag me happy market on Instagram and I will enter to win a thousand dollars cash winter here pretty soon. That's it let's go so giving you guys a tools giving you guys resource. It's up to you to go and create so on my fitness coach. I hope you hear me if you create a vision for twenty twenty. You're one step closer to actually accomplishing it. So that's it for now guys. Thank you so much for tuning in this is the change lives. Make podcast and I'll see in the next episode. I'll talk to you soon. Hey if you're brand new banking again again for spending your valuable time with me. I really appreciate it. I truly do respect your time and I hope this was valuable for you. So if you're brand new listener again thank you for checking out the show. And don't forget you can grab your copy of the book how my clients make ten thousand dollars a month with instagram stories over instagram. All you gotTa do is happy market and tell me that you listened to the podcast. Be Sure to join me on the next except so at thanks so much for spending your time with Alec Board to catch you on the next episode jeans is make money the online trader podcast

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Mon. 12/30 - Sharon Stone Got Kicked Off of Bumble

Celeb News Ride Home

00:00 sec | 11 months ago

Mon. 12/30 - Sharon Stone Got Kicked Off of Bumble

"Welcome to the celebrities ride home for Monday. December thirtieth twenty twenty nineteen. I'm your host Kate Raft. And Wow it's really really the last celeb- news ride home of the year. Isn't that wild. It's it's been such a great year for the PODCAST. I know technically we've only been doing this show for like a month but still the best year ever. Don't you agree. Today's topic's EXC. Sharon stone got kicked off bumble and then put back on. Bumble Obama might have seen phoebe waller bridge pledging herself watching one of his speeches. Zach Ephron almost died from an infection while filming killing. Zack Ephron Sara Gilbert and Linda Perry are are splitting Tom. Hanks is now a Greek citizen. And of course we're talking about my celebrity Vision Board for the year twenty twenty. Here's here's what you missed today. In the world of Liberty News Sharon stone has been kicked off of the dating APP Bumble Bowl and honestly this whole thing is like it's making me quietly devastated. Sharon stone the very famous and very gorgeous sixty fifty one year. Old Actress tweeted about getting kicked off of the dating operating quote. I went on the at bumbled dating site and they closed my account eyeball emoji eyeball emoji. Some users reported that it couldn't possibly be me. Hey At bumble is being me exclusionary. Shrugging Emoji you. Don't shut me out of the HIVE. End Quote this upsets me. I am upset for many reasons but first of all. I'm upset that Sharon stone is trying to beyond bumble at all for me in my personal belief system. Celebrities should be on riot. The exclusive dating APP for celebrities Duh. So this bums me out because I'm assuming riot hasn't approved her yet or something in which case Raya Your cancelled you're fully cancelled bit. Sharon deserves serves love okay. Sharon stone deserves love and if she wants to find love on bumble. It's her God given right. Hey maybe she hasn't heard Araya or or maybe she wants to date a regular person like you know one of the people which is very admirable. bumble was so shook that Sharon chose to sign up for a normal normal person dating APP. That they I guess. Shut down her page thinking it was faked but if bumble is working out Sharon's got plenty of replies to her tweet from potential suitors including one that got almost fifteen hundred legs at the time of me recording this written by my friend at Shaken Baiki who said quote damn. That's so crazy. They knew there was a reason. We hadn't matched yet. Ha Ha but we're here now. So dot dot dot and quote anyway. The bumble has restored her account and I assume the marketing reading department is like spraying champagne everywhere because they got all this free publicity from Sharon stone and Hey I'm happy for Sharon stone. She's got her bumble account back and you know she wants to date normal people like I said. That's that's brave speaking of Sharon stone being single and potentially lonely. I'm reminded for October. Twenty nine teen interview that she did with allure where she said quote. I wish that someone had fallen in love with me. I guess I think life would have been less harsh with a partner and quote. God that makes me so sad. Someone should love Sharon stone. She deserves love okay. What a devastating quote There's another apart in the article Talks about being lonely in general and it makes me very very sad. She said quote. I Miss People inviting me over for dinner inviting me to do things. Most famous famous people spend a lot of time alone. I still have my friends from thirty forty years ago when I have to go to something run upstairs. Throw on some lipstick and sunglasses. And they're they're like Oh you just turned into Sharon stone. It's like she's someone we deal with and quote heartbreaking Sharon. If you're free tonight so you could come to my place for dinner. I'll treat you right and also maybe I'll invite shake and bake do little wing woman in so ooh there's a good chance that Barack Obama has maybe seen phoebe Waller Bridge Jerkin it while watching one of his speeches. How do we know this? Well let me back up a little bit this weekend. Obama posted his year end list of his favourite media. He consumed in twenty nineteen in addition to his favorite favorite movies. He also posted about some of his favourite. TV shows including fleabag season to Huffington Post. Covered this writing quote shortly after the list made the rounds on social media fans realized that Obama actually makes an appearance of sorts. In the show's pilot in a salacious. Seen phoebe Waller Bridge is character. Actor fleabag watches Obama. Give this speech on her laptop in bed and masturbate to said speech so if Obama loved the second second season so much he must have seen that saucy moment with his cameo and quote Jesse Bell chimed in defending Obama. They suggested that maybe maybe he doesn't just like the show because of the main character masturbating to him they gave him the benefit of the doubt. They wrote quote. I have some friends who skipped fleabag first season season and went straight to the second and while I believe that is deeply wrong. They still seemed to enjoy what they watched just fine Obama is a very busy man and though oh he makes time to watch television and film not uncut gems. Apparently perhaps he skipped ahead. I don't know I find it. Slightly suspect that he included included the age of surveillance capitalism. The fight for human future at the new frontier of power on his best books list even though it is critical of the Obama Administration station. So it's possible. He outsources some of these recommendations though more likely he's just comfortable with reading the comments and quote personally. I don't think Obama has time to make these year end roundup lists like it's gotta be someone in his staff right. He's a busy man. Busy people don't watch this this much prestigious film and TV busy people busy people. They just watch whatever's on. TLC If you're truly busy the only media you have time to consume our shows shows like ninety day fiance and out. Daughter'd trust me. I'm a busy person. And that's how I am just kidding. I watch credit options to ZAC. ephron contracted a deadly infection in Papua New Guinea any wall filming his show which is unfortunately and ironically named killing Zack. ephron Volker covered this writing quote. He reportedly came down with a Thai food or a similar bacterial infection in the middle of an off grid. Shoot a doctor with the team believed to have evacuated Ephron declined into to discuss the nature of his illness but did say that they had retrieved a US citizen in his thirties from PNG to Brisbane for medical attention attention and that the patient was hospitalized in stable condition and quote apparently Zach was allowed to fly back to the US on Christmas Eve to receive of treatment. And he's since posted on instagram. That he's quote bounced back. But ZAC come on. You're filming a show called killing Zack. Ephron and doing so who almost killed you that totally sucks but also. Isn't it kind of on you for naming the show killing Zaka Ron. That's like tempting fate. Come on back no of course. I'm I'm kidding of. Of course I'm not victim blaming Zach Ephron for getting an infection obviously but it is funny. I mean it's kind of funny. We can have a laugh about this one right. Everyone's fine no one's dead dead the show that he's filming Sounds interesting I looked it up on. IMDB in the description of the show is quote this adventure series of which Kazak Ephron is the star and executive producer will show the actor venturing deep into the jungles of a remote dangerous island to carve his own name in expedition history. History and quote. Zach come on what is that. What do you do In Celebrity break-up News Sara Gilbert Robert and her wife Linda Perry are separating Sara Gilbert you might know her from the talk she was also on Roseanne and these spinoff show the Connors Linda. Perry he is of course the lead singer of four non blondes. I don't have a ton to tell you about this particular celebrity break-up but I'm just GonNa throw some bullet points tell you they're kind of boring but you know why not boom. They got married in March. Two thousand fourteen. They have one kid together. His name is roads. Emilio Gilbert Perry. Sorry Sarah also has two other kids from a previous marriage. They've been together for five and a half years and now they're Dunn's Oh and that's it that's all you need to know about Sara Gilbert breaking up with her wife Linda. Perry uh-huh okay. This next topic is extremely random and various Pacific. But Hey guess what Tom. Hanks is a Greek citizen now. According to the Associated Press quote Greece's president pro copious wlob. Ellis has signed an honorary Gary Naturalization Order allowing these sixty three year old actor to claim Greek citizenship. His office told the Associated Press on Friday. Hanks frequently spends his summer vacation on the Greek island of Anti Paros and his wife actress and producer. Rita Wilson is of Greek and Bulgarian ancestry under Greek law. Honorary Naturalization may be granted to people who have provided exceptional services to the country or whose naturalization serves the public interest wrist and quote. I did some googling and I was like Tom Hanks also Greek like by ancestry or does he. Just you know like vacationing there and in. He's a Greek wife while while I was doing some of this googling I found a very funny and very sweet website called Greek reporter where they mentioned that Tom. Hanks loves being being married to a Greek woman. They also spent a lot of time writing about how he has Greek values and that is what makes him Greek. They wrote quote the hanks. Thanks Wilson Family is as tight as the couple's themselves and they are supportive of each other like a true Greek family. The actor himself has not once acted like the typical arrogant Hollywood star with several weddings extramarital affairs and extravagant whims. He has always been low key in his career rear while his work and directing and producing movies shows clearly that he is not in it just for the money and quote. They also go on to say that because Tom thanks produced. Mama Mia and Mama Mia here. We go again and my big Fat Greek wedding to. It's clear that he's a great Greek ally. Listen I I didn't know about Greek reporter until today but I salute them and I celebrate them and guess what I celebrate you Tom. Hanks and Rita Wilson congrats on getting Greek citizenship. Now are you can leave the US and you don't have to have trump is your president. I'm jealous frankly and listen. I don't know that much about this Greek president but he gave Tom Hanks citizenship ships. So can he really be that bad of a guy. I mean also. Don't ask me because I know absolutely nothing about Greek politics vein. Listen everyone I'm from La. So you know I'm into some hippy. dippy pseudo magic stuff and one thing I firmly believe in doing at the end of every calendar year is a vision board. A Vision Board is basically a sort of visual collage. That you make and you you put all of your intentions and hopes and wishes for the next year on the board. The idea is these things will come true. Because you've envisioned them happening. You know it. It's like the Secret Britt. It definitely is fake but it's also very very real so I thought for Celeb- news ride home. I would do a Celebrity Vision Board for twenty twenty so these are all things that I hope. Celebrities do in the next year. I'm not trying to make predictions. I'm not trying to say what's plausible or not. These are just my personal personal wishes and hopes for all celebrities in twenty twenty okay. Let's go my first thing on my celebrity. The Vision Board is Anna Kendrick will change her twitter bio right now. Her Bio says quote Pale Awkward and very very small form an orderly early Q.. gents and quote. I mean Anna Kendrick. That can't be your twitter bio come on twenty twenty year. Let's change that twitter bio let's make it something unless embarrassing all right. Let's go okay next thing on my auditory vision. Board is Britney Spears. She's going to get full custody of her kids and then she'll decide to ease up on the a heavy islander look go for something. More Natural Kylie Jenner will start hanging out with a bunch of communists and become completely radicalized reject capitalism awesome entirely. She'll give away all her money and start living in a yurt in Santa Cruz. Another thing on my vision board Megan Markle and Harry will move to La and she'll start acting acting and hallmark Christmas movies. Olivia Jade will purposefully upload a video with incriminating information that gets both of her parents sent to prison. Brad Pitt and Jennifer Eh. Aniston will troll us by actually getting back together Sharon stone. We'll finally get approved by Araya and she's going to swipe on channing tatum and they're going to match and and it's GonNa be like the hottest new CELEB- couple Florence pugh will dump Zach braff because he's going to cheat on her with Lord and then Lords GonNa write a really good album about Eh. Joe Jude is or Joe giudice say it. He's going to thrive in Italy and all of his daughters will move there and become Italian reality stars and then the the US will open its borders and the entire jude is family will move back to the US. Be United Theresa. Joel get back together. And everyone will be Miley. Cyrus Arrests Will Dump Cody Simpson and then get back together. With Brody Jenner's ex wife Caitlin Carter Taylor swift and Kendall Jenner will fall in love and become a pan sexual power couple and also this love will be so strong it will break the years long feud between swifty and the Kardashian. WESTS and they're all going to live peacefully in harmony need for the rest of eternity in Calabasas and of course the last thing on my Celebrity Vision Board for twenty twenty. I hope that Marc Anthony's yacht fire insurance comes comes through and he's able to afford to buy a new yacht all right so there's so many more celebrity hopes and wishes that I have for the next year but I can't possibly say them all all because this podcast would be about twenty hours long but if you have any celebrity vision board ideas or if you WANNA make a physical celebrity vision board. Please tweet them or instagram them. To me I'm at Celeb- ride home on both platforms. I'm also at Kate Raft. If you WANNA send it to my personal come come on. CELEBS is your year you can do this. Thank you. So much for tuning in to Celeb- news ride home. I'm kate raft. I've been your host. You can follow me at K.. Draft again already said that. But Hey it's worth saying again. And this was our last show of twenty nineteen last show th the year last show of the. We'll be back on Thursday day the second of January with an all new brand new episode. I'll miss you all. It's been a great very full year of celebrities. Ride home and twenty twenty is going to be even better. It's going to be better like I don't know how it could even get better because this show is perfect but I promise you we're going places. Okay a you and me Kiddo. I'd like to thank right home. Media and my co producer and engineer. Jack Allison and of course I'd like to thank all of you for helping launch this podcast being great eight listeners tuning in and writing reviews. And you're all the best. I love you so much. I love you so much. See next decade

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173: LOA Series: The Power of Visualization with Steve Gamlin

Hearts Unleashed

00:00 sec | 3 months ago

173: LOA Series: The Power of Visualization with Steve Gamlin

"Right you are listening to the. podcast where we are turning dreamers into doers and today we are talking all about turning your dreams in to your reality, and so we are here with Steve. Gambling. The Motivational Firewood Guy Steve shares a blend of back to basics positively and humor with corporate and conference audiences. Steve recently launched his vision board mastery. That is all we are going to be jammed on today visualization, and he launched his Vision Board mastery audio program to teach his. Clients how to see their goals understand their Y and build an action plan to track results and achieve them. So welcome Steve, thank you for being here. Thank you for joining us during the law of attraction series to share your expertise. Thank you so much. Very happy to be here. Yeah. So tell us a little bit about what what's this motivational firewood guy situation I wanna make a bunch of firewood jokes. Yeah. Hey, fire away. I've heard them. What I think I have but there's always a new thrown on the pile which I always like. I've been a speaker now for about sixteen years in about twelve thirteen years ago. I was attending a National Speakers Association meeting. It was my first time. They're here in New England and a gentleman came over and said, Oh hi, my name, Tag Steve Your new. So what do you do I? Said I'm a motivational speaker and he gave me the I roll and says, well, that narrows you down to about ten thousand of us. What sets you apart I said I want to change people's lives he goes. No numbers came off the toe board there. What sets you apart. And after a few more questions in this is the best things in my life I've always come people challenged me on stuff I. Finally said Look I'm not one of those people who jumps up and down and says I can change your life from a TV preacher. I. Just want people to wake up the next day in think speak or act in one more positive way because of our time together as spark of something they want in the lies they don't quite know how to get it. So something I share helps them to do that said it's Kinda like motivational firewood I. Guess he said, say that party has it motivational firewood goes. That's what you do. He says write that down by the way. Do you know anything about trademarks I said? No, I don't. So I look it up and I now, the trademark for motivational firewood says my approach everything. I'm not here change your laugh I'm here to share a story or less than that taught me in if you can apply it to yours in progress towards the goal. Great. We both went. Yeah. I, love that. Thank you for sharing in. That when I, read it, what I thought of like throwing other log on the fire. That's exactly what I thought about it. When it comes to goals I, think that it certainly requires that to keep the flame going and growing and so in. What sort of ways do you work with people to keep them going and growing towards their goals in addition to the live events which are now virtual with everything going on at the time this broadcast I always efforts were that and. I've got a weekly Group coaching program that I do every Monday night and it's a blast because during the week questions from people. Come back to me, and that becomes the content. So it's a self feeding system. We enjoy second year at this point every Monday night, and it also gets a one to one coaching programs that I do with people who are a bit more invested and don't have the time to be part of the group session. It's one on one. It's pretty intense and it's fun. Other than that, between the newsletters, the videos, my radio show in all these little avenues, I just keep trickling information out there and it's designed for the long term. It's it's no overnight success no quick fixes and we had a conversation about that. We don't like the quick fix get rich quick message a long haul guy I would like to do this until my birthday cake will set off a fire alarm. SORTA twenty years or so. I would like to just keep taking that approach because that's how I learned the best. Yeah. I really appreciate you bringing that up from our last conversation because I really try to teach our listeners and readers or anything don't buy into the six steps to success on the by three module this and like lessons and teaching is important but if it's not personalized where someone can actualize it. For themselves then it's not necessarily for them. Anyway it's what works for someone else and they're just trying to get that out there and so what about you know this is the law of attraction series. You have the Vision Board mastery program and and you teach people about visualization Tulsa what visualization is in the first place the way I explain it and I just claimed everything with that. We x Wayne is a first question is anybody and that's where I'm working face to face with somebody or in a corporate boardroom with team leaders. What do your goals look like in if you're a person who is not? Comfortable visualizing there's actually a medical condition out there with which people cannot visualize in their minds. So I'll say, okay what words would describe your goals? How will it feel when you achieve them attach many senses as possible where they look like feel like sound like heck even smell like. Your goals make them more real. Otherwise, you're writing a letter to Santa Claus in years ago. That's all I did because that's what the speakers who bought programs from told me to do dream big my gosh. Wow that's that's wonderful. Here's a thousand dollars so I can dream big now, but it's really seeing it in in fuelling what it will feel like. When you achieve it, and the most important part is the person you become on the journey. That's so much more important than the thing and that's just part of the journey. It's not a light switch on off its box. You just check it's it's this long journey. It's it's like an old wooden roller coaster. You see the top of the personnel goal you just have to get up over the top of that. Well, it's a thousand little click. Click Click Click Click. All the way there. and. You can enjoy the ride until you put all those steps in. Prepare yourself get ready for it then screaming brains and celebration. I love and you you mentioned letters to Santa Claus and I wanted to talk about that for a second because it was just this Monday. So this Mondays fifteen minute Philip. Was the difference between prayer verses belief right like asking for things that you don't really believe are GonNa, come to you and then belief when it's just a matter of time before you attain. It right like you can literally see taste smell touch. You can imagine it in your reality versus I, hope by wish pray please what do you say about those two aspects? Why think you've gotTa meet I, call it the universe some people call it. God. Spirituality whatever I caught. The Universe in word is you want I believe you've got to meet it half the way. You've got to put yourself in the right place where it's going to show up. You can't be at the train station waiting for your ship to commend. Allergy, I've heard so many times over the years. It's not word of mine, but I've always loved it. It's like the person that I heard the story many many years ago. There's a there's a great flood. And the person on their porch waiting for a boat to come and ask please come save me and the water gets higher. Eventually the person's on the roof and the third or fourth person has come by to save them and they've gotten no God's GonNa Save me, and then the person of course drowns gets to evidence has got you said, you're GonNa, save me He goes look essentially people in a boat I mean you gotta be there. You've got to meet the opportunities halfway in set yourself up so that you can just step right onto it or into it. And be a part of it instead of just waiting for the short knock on your door like a pizza. To Save Your Life or make your goals happen. Yeah. I couldn't agree more and. I'm knee deep in writing my third book and I just unlike it's top of mind because I was writing at this morning is you know we pray for those opportunities to be patient to have patients, but we're not sent patients. We are sent opportunities to test our patients to hone our patients to develop our patients, and then we have this point of reference that things don't throw us off as quickly anymore and. So same thing with the money, we pray for money but really were given opportunities to learn how to manage and respect it right and so it doesn't look exactly like we asked for and so when we're trying to visualize something and you know we can, it's very clear and then it doesn't show up what's that about like what can we do or maybe it looks different than what we were hoping for. A lot of times because so many people they buy these vision board starter kits. And it's got a picture of a pile of money. It's got a picture of a Ferrari, it's gonNA picture of a mansion and all this other crap that motivational speakers tell you what success means. I think what people need to do is not just see like a pilot money but what is it going to represent worthy words it's going to mean isn't going to be security is going to be the home is it going to be your retirement is going to be a kid's College Fund what is it actually because the more you can dial in not just on the money but what you wanted for the purpose? The more readily, you are go to recognize the opportunities, and if you're not quite sure where to pursue, go see who is out there in your family extended network, your friends, your community, your state, your country, your youtube channel, who's already achieving this, and if you can ask these people how they did it most people out there who are successful will actually tell you or give you a little bit of time in share some topics. Hey, they write books you work on your book right now that's advice. For people who are looking to development in law of attraction and all these other things. There are people out there already enjoying what you have study. Those people stopped walking around complaining that you don't have it and stared at your shoes because the longer you start issues, the more opportunities you're miss. It goes back to the people who were just sitting there quiet in the dark praying everything and not take a walk around down. To. What's actually happening out there now a little bit of. Rub Off on your at least reach down the mountain and your hand and help you up to the next level. If you're willing to make the climb I, love that the great perspective and something that I heard what you were sharing in there is like. The visuals but also the words that would match that which would then be the experience that matches it right like success being abundance joy like it actually bringing you joy. I, remember the first time. I. Shifted My Vision Board from like the Mercedes on it and you know the Lake House into this that to a field of flowers that said blossom on it. You know what you mean and just a whole different like a mountain where it was just that level of freedom and and and so I get that and I'm grateful that you're sharing that different perspective because I think we look at the tangible 's to measure that level of success which also made me. Think of the fact that we are chasing other people's definition of success instead of our only adapted it because it's what we've seen as the quote unquote representation of success but most of us, that's actually not even those things aren't even that important to us. What do you have to say about that? Yeah that's the danger of the definition of success and when we look to people in this is not a slam against him like Tony. Robbins. And all these other people that are out there talking about creating abundance taking massive action all at once, and they pose with their Ferrari, mansions and yachts in many cases just in case people don't know those things are all rented. Wink wink. Nod from behind the curtain. Unfortunately that's what people think success is I mean right now I still drive because the thing is still running great a two, thousand, ten, hundred, CRV, the next vehicle I own no matter how successful ever get will be another onto CRV because I'm comfortable in it I love it. It gets good mileage. It's all I need you know I'm not being blinded anymore about what people think success should be to me. Success is more emotional than material and I'm fifty two years old happiest version me that's ever lived because they made that shift about twelve years ago away from the material things making me happy to the experiential. Wanting to fall in love because that's how might have been divorced about four or five years wanted to find my true love one year. So part of my board year was pictures of people who were enjoying the types of relationships I wanted to have, and in the process of that becoming the man I would need to be to attract the woman I wanted to fall in love with so that she would be attracted to me. Is I felt I would most have to have integrity honesty, loyalty all of these things I deliver it. For myself to become that person to be in the right place in January of Oh seven, I just told myself and my board that year this is the will find her whoever she may be. In an early June that year now, I'd picture of a couple of hold against walking on a beach standing at the railing of a ship at sunset. Germany piggybacking his girlfriend sue Brooke. laughing. because. I'm a hopeless helpless Romantic Guy Anyway. said. In early June actually wrote in my journal I'm ready to fall in love ten days. Later got an email from someone named Tina. It just said subject line. Hey, this is Tina has always spam and deleted, but squirrel some bright light happened in my life that I didn't the next day I opened it. It was from a woman named Tina with whom I'd gone to high school hadn't seen her talked to her in twenty one years and I opened the email and she said I live in Florida and Our Name on classmates it we should stay in touch. And I started to remember I go Tina. Tina I had a crush on Tina in high school. And I never asked her out. She says I did she says after the Prom but I read it by saying just as friends. So she said, no, I have no recollection of that. But I started to think of how much a really used to like Tina and how happy I was around her. So I sent her a text she sent me. I sent her an email. She sent me back her phone number I called her we started calling and texting. She would not even send a picture of herself shoes living in Florida, at the time thirteen, hundred miles away four weeks later she sends me a message. Hey, can I tell you something if you promise not to freak out? I typed back. Sure. Here's how I really felt about you in highschool I thought when I saw your name on classmates here's how I felt when you answered my email here's how I felt when I heard voice I love you. So we spent four weeks. Sight unseen should even send me a picture of herself falling in love. With our eyes closed and hearts wide open just the feeling and I knew that was everything I was asking for and I was being the right person. For her fall in love with and I was falling in love with her and we've been together ever since. And it's been a series of law attraction moments that brought her back to New England. In everything that was perfectly set up for where we are today more than thirteen years in love. Thank you. That's I always tell her I said look if you ever end this relationship you to demolish speaking career. Let's everyone's favorite story. It's. I was invited onto Oprah's radio network four times with her various hosts. To talk about that as a lot of attraction, love story and. Relive it every time I tell it which makes me very, very happy. Of course, it feels good to feel good and that's the law of attraction. To create that momentum and I really do love that because you you said it like three or four times that I really want to highlight it for our listeners as you had to be, you had to be the one who would attract right Think too many of us. We are asking for things from sad from broken from hurt thinking things are missing in our life. We're coming from scarcity and we're asking but not believing and to prepare your heart to prepare your mind to actually receive that level of abundance abundance, you're not going to be the same person and one of my favorite ways to say that is nothing comes to an ungrateful heart. So some crab ass is not going to attract the winning lottery ticket or the girl or the job, or whatever it is that they're really hoping is going to be there bailout. It's not about being bailed out it's about an abundant thriving lifestyle. And you said it perfectly, it's the person that's all crabby and this and that saying great what else can go wrong in my life? Wow is that a dangerous question to ask because the universe ago? Really it'll take a challenge if you're coming from that thing it also when you're kind of down in that place. In your coming from a lack of For yourself even in just as place of hatred bitterness and anger and all the other bile that bubbles up with that in you wish for stuff and then what happens to a lot of people I'm not worthy of that. You're taking her. Out of the game. Yeah. I tell people when they're down like that in they come to me there at a live event or the reach out to mirror hopping a Webinar or just send me a message. They Steve, my life is in a shambles and this. Always say do you have at least one friend that you really trust? So yeah, I said go ask that friend why do you even hang out with me? You might be very surprised to find out that that person really cares about you see something in you that you don't see in your own mirror for whatever reason. I. Mean People have a lot of scar tissue I get it but they refuse to believe their own greatness in power and strengthen beauty in in confidence in anything else. But somebody else will tell them look face to face heart to heart. Here's why I'm your friend. Your funny. You're creative. You're loving caring your this. Generous. You're kind. That person may just be so beaten down that they don't see it. So somebody listening right now is feeling like the coming from that place like you know, Hey Abigail Steve. It's easy for you to say this because you're you have this successful life. People all the time Steve It's you make it look so effortless to be positive. I have to try every single day. On purpose to be positive to act positively to react positively in some way everything that's going on and to respond in such a way. That it guides me if it guides me that way, I can share stuff that's going to help other people to lean that way. But we're not lucky because we're positive or successful. It's IT'S A job. It really is I don't mean to make it sound like it's a drag. We have to intentionally focus on being who we are every day. Yeah. You know I want to jump in with you on that because it's not that it's a drag but it is a commitment right like what you're pointing to and I want to say that because it does kind of gears anymore if someone tries to tell me I'm lucky about anything right it's like, oh, I get a little mama bear and I'm like you don't see the absolute level of commitment required for that luck and that quote unquote look. Why really want to jump in on that is because we're spending the energy. anyways you can spend your energy in the negative momentum direction or in the positive momentum direction doesn't make positive one any less commitment or like you were saying you still gonNa work catty still going to show up for it. It's just more fun. That's why that smile is easier. That's why it's more authentic. That's why we radiate because we know a day's work. In showing up for our mental emotional health and wellbeing, which is a whole nother game because then to me would I get to witness in what becomes more fun and playful is that things co create and do lineup and it becomes laughable and so that laugh is genuine and the smile is authentic because you're like, wow, I stayed committed to a positive. And I don't have to lift a finger hurt per se right like for things to work out well or for Tina to email me out of the blue right like you can't force your hand at certain things but you do have to prepare your heart to receive, and so I just think it's so brilliant and I think it's so powerful for people to really know that difference. Yeah in it doesn't take a lot of people. Ask Me we'll st if you don't you ever have a bad day. ESPN plenty of bad days I'm just not one of those motivational people that says everyday above ground is a great day because that is a steaming pile of crab. As every day you wake up on the right side of the grass is an opportunity make a decision. To react respond positively to the world that day into put your own energy out there and people say, well, what do you do on a bad day? I said I leave the house? And I go committed active kindness or two or ten. Tell, US now. You you have a theory about the simplicity of kindness rate or something like. That yeah. Of course, every time I mentioned kind is people say I don't have any money to give. Good. Don't don't try that. No. Go to the grocery store in park far away from the store in between your car in the store I want you to play a little game that I created called shopping cart Rodeo. I like that. Let's find at least one carriage that's been abandoned. Don't get mad at the people who left it there. You, grab it and you bring it either to the corral or to the store. If you bring it into the store and you don't need it and you see somebody else walking in the store, you say something like excuse me I don't need this carriage rescued it out there playing shopping cart Rodeo it's mild exercise at the day. Happen need a carriage. You're GONNA love it. handgrips all warmed up in the wheels hardly wobble. The only time it's been refused is somebody who only needed a little red basket but he was cracking up. Which means laugh now, one particular day when I was doing this, I was having a really bad day and all of a sudden my bad day was gone in. I ran into that guy in the aisle and he kind of look me again at he started giggling a little bit like that guy tried to. Pawn off a shopping cart on me. Now also have to do is if you see maybe a mom with kids and the kids are already in the car in the mom taken the bags out of her carriage or a senior or somebody maybe in the handicapped parking stalls from a safe distance fifteen twenty plus A. ME. Like me to return that carriage for you no, one has ever refused it in especially if it's cute little lady, I'll say please make sure you take your purse out of there before it gets to see those cameras up there we don't need them catching you beat me up in the parking lot man that would be embarrassing. Like it at this little eighty plus year old woman she cackled. Her laugh was a cackle it again, I was having a rough day. She was in her car and I was twenty feet away closer to the store. I could still hear her laughing. In the fact that I'm still talking about it now reliving it am smiling right now. Doing that that is the simplist easiest way I've ever found. If you have a quarter in your pocket, go to the store, leave it on top of a gum ball machine. Yeah. So some kid who just wants a Gumbo ball can I have a Gumbo I don't have any money. There's a quarter right here get to be this little Gumbo. To do stuff that was actually suggested to me by a clerk at a grocery store. To. Kinda somebody goes you know what I like to do laying on me. Because I don't like a lot of change I, leave gum quarters on the Gumbo. Machines kids. I thought that was so cool. He setting up positive things to happen in the future in he doesn't have to be there to make it happen. Yeah. and. That's beautiful. Yeah. I. Know that pay it forward has gotten more popular over the years have gone on but I really like that one because it's super mysterious. I reduce sharing with the cart one like, yeah. Taking someone's carp is back as nice and also though making someone laugh. and Smile to someone's face I think that I have that theory about the cycle of hurt and the cycle of love where you again positive or forward momentum which one would you like to contribute to and to I mean you sent her home laugh in which means she impacted someone else with a better attitude you know when you walked into the store different, you can tell when someone walks through the front door not happy and so I think those the ripple effect of that as well as is really beautiful. And I love just little moments like that because it's connectedness. Now the for me personally, I'm going to disclaim it by saying this. Some of these youtube stars out there who are out filming themselves, feeding the homeless and saying, Hey, look at me I'm feeding the homeless and doing these self-congratulatory congratulatory videos dude stop humping your leg because. All you're doing is that yeah, I get it. If you're using it as a way to say like I've got a few videos because we have a little nonprofit called beach bum philanthropy. We occasionally share videos giving ideas for ways to help, but we don't go out there pimping. Ourselves to do it and I. Think there's a big disconnect with people who are doing it out there too. It's what I call bribing. God for lottery numbers. Hey got a good you. Let me win powerball while standing in line at the store. When it's eight billion dollars. No, you don't have to be rich. The wealthy aggregated that went viral was getting mad a couple years ago. It was like eight hundred, billion dollar million dollars. Look you don't have to win powerball as you get a loaf of bread for dollars seventy nine, a can of tuna fish for eighty five cents granola bars cheap. A pair of gloves could save a life and you already own a coat you don't wear. Cut The crap with this million dollars and I'll give back give now and I threw that on facebook and was mad. That's why created it. Within eight days it had been seen by four point one million people. Could shared fifty three and a half thousand times. And I'm sitting there. Somebody goes how much money you make off that ago. Nothing. All come on like why I said, fifty three thousand people had that resume for them and it changed them in such a way. Point shift that they shared it. So four point, one million people could see it brother that's a win. That's huge. The term that just came to me was energetically rich. So tell us about like how can we? Allow ourselves to be energetically rich and not need the materials that need the money not need the thing to truly manifest our dreams. Think of the words or the situations in your life the words that would describe your ultimate it make them emotional. It doesn't have to be wealthy rich. You know a billionaire in like that. Happy is a pretty popular one that not enough people are feeling because I don't think they're focused enough on it. You don't need somebody asked it was one of those facebook quizzes I. saw yesterday you have five dollars to spend years five different jelly beans. One's happiness wants rich ones beautiful ones. Eat gaining weight. All these things and I said let's see. Mine are happy and healthy and everything else. I'm okay with. A million in the bank. But what they did is realize that, hey, man, you're on the right track. Is it made me actually smile thinking I am happy which makes me Richard that a lot of people in the world I've got a buddy of mine who's a millionaire Jones, a bunch of subway restaurants franchises, and this guy has hustled his entire adult life. And he told me about one of his business mentors who in his early seventies passed away mega probably a billionaire mega mega mega millionaire. Is Poor wife could not find six people to help carry his casket. Kids all hated him. He had more money than anybody in the world. It. Was the unhappiest most. Critical negative human being on the planet All he wanted to do was make money is kids hated him. As wife couldn't find enough people to carry his casket. The. Dangers of being blind to what's most important to you. which is I think a a good question to start. Wrapping it up with as what's most important to you I health and happiness yes and I guess I, want to ask it in that specific way of what does that look like for Steve? Gambling's hard to be unleashed. To unleashes it actually follows a lesson. My grandfather taught me one of my grandfathers and he never said it out loud. He left at least one situation day better than he found it, and if he drove past your house in soft, a picket was broken on your fence. He'd go home get his stubby little carpenter pencil he was a carpenter. He would come back, measure the picket, go home and make on imported on your fence before you even got home, you would never even know Al Diane had been there. I try to follow that every single day. So wherever I am I look for an opportunity, even the tiniest way. Leib. Better than I found it with a laugh with picking up a piece of glass that somebody could cut through on with picking up a piece of trash with telling somebody what we'll hold on a second. There's a car coming by okay. You're all set. Making somebody laugh right now over the counter at the Deli where people are Cranky alday yelling at people the thickness of their Jeez. Out There Oh. My God. I. Always say look what it's like. To over, they said some people ask us to take it off as it don't you. You just take a bite out of its cyber back on Gulf look perfect. Every time I do that it makes me feel better in the more. The happier am on the inside. The happier am on the outside, the more I want to do it. And it's just is never ending cycle of just trying to make something around me better. Even on my worst days, I should say on my worst days. To keep doing that that keeps me on track. Excited happy energetic, positive, and always looking. For someone that can help or even to just bring a smile and tell somebody that has the coolest hat I've seen all day. Is something in because it goes it ripples. Everywhere and I've got believe meet dozens of stage stories that share about it. And it's absolutely true and it's not fluff. A Unicorn that farts rainbows. I'm just a living breathing real. Human being who's extremely grateful. And I feel like I got let in on the secret of what life is really all about and now I just share that with other people. Well, and speaking of sharing it with other people how can people follow you and connect with you and witness what you're creating and sharing. Can Go to motivational firewood DOT COM. That's my sites got links to everything. I'm all social media just sharing stuff every day radio show but he'll channel everything their vision board Masri program is there there's even a thing there to just for free call with me I do what I Call Coaching Volleyball Kick ideas back and forth over the net as fast as possible for fifteen twenty minutes in Libya in a better place and it's free. I. Love It. Well, we will be sure to add all of that into the show notes so that everyone can connect and follow you get involved in what you're creating and in what they're creating and what they visualize and how you can help them with that. So thank you so much for bringing your awareness. Again, your expertise, send that big vision that you have four to me. What really landed as just like you said, leaving everything better than you. Found it a better world, a happier world more peaceful world and more connected world. So thank you for being a contribution to that world more pleasure. 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At a time when the coronavirus stone everybody's finances into shop by his mind experts and I picked to help you make the most of your money. In this episode where tackling a problem that many listeners have been emailing me about how can I get started as an investor? seven-year-old London resident noreen was one of them. Noreen, can you describe the movement that the penny dropped and you realize that you were ready to invest? I think what happened was got my annual. Pension statement and this is just my private pension, not even the state one. And I looked at what might potential earnings could be per month from my pension hot at the end of whenever it is I'm going to retire and I was like, no, I can't live on this. This is not going to be enough and what kind of projection was the pension and statement giving you sort of like lesser new mortgage is costing you every every year will significantly less in fact I have it here on my vision board. Drive it's. Hang on a minute rewind rewind vision booed. Vision Board yes I. Run made myself a vision board. So basically, it said, I'm going to get something like five hundred pounds a month. For my pension after. Yeah after and that's not even you know looking at how much taxable have to pay on that as well, which also mind boggling. Why do I have to pay taxes on top of my pensions on top of all the taxes I'm already been paying So then I basically made myself a vision board say, okay these are I. Need to focus on this and I need to dedicate some time on this in organize my my finances, my life finances, and this is also pre cova like. Copenhagen, even happen at that point I'm like I need to make sure that I plan for my long-term future because I'm on my own I'm not going to have a partner to support me I'm not GonNa get any you know inheritance wind fold whenever As I said, noreen is those seven she single and she's definitely good at saving. She recently bought I flat big tick. She works as a data analyst in the hospitality industry in Scifo job is secure. And it comes with a company pension. She's from a close knit family but certainly, not any multi-million pound inheritance coming away say she's ready to take charge of her features safety net. Yeah. That moment happened Okay I need to do something about it 'cause the only person's GonNa. Look after me myself. So but let's a little bit about spending because obviously. You're running a good wage an you've got money that you can put aside he things put into investments but what are you spending your money on before the pandemic? Travel. Yeah. So I think. One of the things that aren't. Really, I learned that I've taken for granted in this pandemic is is to travel a lot. You know my family lives in multiple different parts of the world and I wouldn't even think twice before booking a flight to go visit them. And that's definitely. Had to reconsider that during the making I haven't been able to go anywhere and able to visit anybody in your family so far away it really makes you reconsider knowing is fortunate to have held onto her job and working from home. Since the pandemic hit, she's not spending any money on commission or in foreign travel, which was previously a biggest splurge castle. She's also spending much less money going out which means more cash to save and invest, and then the hope is obviously the next couple of months I can continue to grow that. And at the same time, you know this is again an opportunity for more investment What can I do with it? How can I get my money to grow further and what the U K is officially in a recession so what does that mean as well noreen is not alone everyone know is super focused on their finances right now as there are just so many unknowns in the future. Top of the worry list could I lose my job? Pre existing money worries like we'll have enough to retire on the full say comes to the fore and for women especially, this is a question that requires serious thought. When it comes to your own financial security. What are you? At this. I. Think. The thing that concerns me the most is to make sure that I have a continuous source of income. Obviously having a job is paramount to that. In this particular in this climate that we're living in. that. You know what? If tomorrow you lose your job you're made redundant. Where's your necks source of income? And, I think that for me is my number. One concern at the moment is like i WanNa make sure that I have multiple sources of income that I can fall back on I can rely on and just having savings not enough because eventually that will go away. So it's that it's making sure that I have multiple sources of income. Say. How can new arena make extra bit of pandemic savings were the her. I asked the experts. You had this advice. The first time in best is. Number One, you have to figure out how investing fits into your overall budget. So I think it's really important for Sonora into reflect on her on her expenditure something I encourage my clients to do is is a real forensic look off I expert. Charlotte Grayson. She's a financial planner jams, hambur partners and helps clients build that long-term financial plans. I will say tons. I wanted to female take on this investment conundrum said perhaps looking on average months last year in an average month this year. And making an informed decision. scaling up to two one years while I'm working out what her on your expenditure is this this allows her to make informed decisions on an dictates. The sort of tolerance her finances is going forward. once once Norris dare of all. About expenditure I encourage clients to have at least six months worth cash on deposit as a reserve. Will you want to have your cash often have you security blanket and then put those savings away and not touch them for the time horizon that you set whether that's five years six seven years. On. Just leave them to to grow. So get your cash salted i. Next the second tip is to set some goals, the Vision Board is optional but Shawna's suggests different ports the different purposes. You have your short term pot, which is you'll cashier instant access e cash that you are. That's available. In case of emergencies you sort of your midterm pot. Now, that may be saving for a house that may be thoughts around her starting a family. And then you have your your longer temple. which is your retirement police. You'll. You'll savings for late to live on to meet important. Once you set those Hotson, those objectives, you know sort of monitoring each of them not. So putting off the retirement part just because you're in your late twenties and you don't think retirement as not thirty years, forty years. Actually. The compounding effect to slowly watering pot is is quite significant. Is from me. Make sure you get the biggest bang for your investment. Buck. Saving into a pension or four one K. plan has tax advantages that the company worked for also contributes. So if you pay more, will they match it, make it your business to find out. If the company worked for is listed on the stock market. They probably have a share save scheme staff. You can say the amounts of money every month then buy shares in your company as a big discount. If the stock prices, Phoolan just, keep the cash. In the UK, the most tax friendly way of owning shares and funds is in a stocks and shares Eissa you can pay in up to twenty thousand pounds every year achieving you don't eat leave the house we'll buy anything online and it's easy to open the account with a bank, an investment platform, even an APP. So you've thought about your budget. Goals and West Hosur investments. But now for the tough one, what should you? Invest in I asked T. money columnist Jason Butler to give us a one a one in house to get it. If you start with a default of your long term investing into a Global Equity Index Fund right compare any of opportunity to that because he takes a lot of beating. If you look at the Whole World Look All the coaching companies you're investing in a bit of all of those as insofar as they represented in index. So bt for instance would be in their equally Microsoft would be that. So you're getting a little bit of all of these big world class companies. Now, if you start off with a Global Equity Index Fund, you're starting off but putting yourself in a strong position because your costs very now. Secondly it's fully diversified all around the world. So if China does start having more quality companies or all South Africa Or Asia than to Mississippi shown up in your portfolio you don't have to worry about America's companies becoming less. Now of course, it doesn't mean you have a big exposure to big companies, big tech companies which all in the news of the Nyman that the point is they're the ones making all the money. So the end of the day. Global Equity Index Funds. Your I don't have to think about. I keep my gosh. So I keep more of the returns that Marcus dating to give me and it automatically whites itself automatically for your knees these index funds give investors exposure to a range of stock market listed companies around the world the equities on the only thing you can invest in. Charlotte for a minute. She says another pick and mix option favored by many investors a multi asset funds each funds tend to to have a diverse range of exits within them. So cash stocks and shares property bones, and it's like going to the supermarket and picking up a bag of mixed vegetables, not having to pick the vegetables yourself. So there's sort of a great way to to just stop as you get a bit more experienced. You know you might want go around the supermarket inside your invention be a bit more adventurous to continue Charlotte's analogy prepacked vegetables convenient and quick. But as all the work is done for you, they can be a bit more expensive. As with anything in life, you need to compare the prices of different funds to make sure they offer valley money in investor speak the metric to count for is the T. E. R. or total expense ratio. On next, it comes from Jason Butler. Think about your risk appetite. Equities can be volatile, but they offer strong grace prospects owns a seen as less risky than investment portfolio built entirely those isn't going to shoot the lights out. I used, for instance, a fund from a big fun group. which has to be a bond exposure in fixed income exposure. So I have eight percent equities, twenty bonds. So they're all those funds again are still index funds, but you can have a little bit of sculpture water not have items in Scotch twenty percent water. My kids have one hundred percent scotch in the portfolio not in the drinks for they've gotten. To the point he was to blame what you can cut with in of journey since the people who were really started on investment journey. The last couple of months have been a roller coaster ride for investors including for me. Now, my natural instincts when the stock markets plunged to think Oh should I be sending up? It's very, very hard. Isn't it to overcome that urge to sound? Yes, an ice human nightshirts when members, there's two things we cry security and control. So when we fill it out, security is affected, which is yourself what that money represents is your long term security right? You'll be able to live when you're older the secondhand you'll have control. You can't control it. So it's natural. What you've got to do you have to go through and give yourself lifeboat drills. What's going to happen is about every three or four years stock market's going to four, sometimes five or six percent sometimes fifteen, twenty percent sometimes like this pandemic so that the opposite it's normal markets on average if you're investing in a one hundred percent, Equity Index. Fund. About a third of the time that we fooling third of the time that'd be recovering and about a third of the time, they'll be breaking new ground. So the fools are part and parcel that's the price you have to pay in order to access higher potential returns. Are Expensive discussing entry level reuss into investing but as you get more comfortable with investing, there are thousands of possible funds shares among its choose from selling noreen has found a whelming. and. That's the problem with more information when you go to this restaurant and as an enormous menu and you. Want to resist something right and I I find the world when you're overwhelmed, the easiest options to do nothing will do your knee jerk reaction. So here's the way round that the psychologist tell us what we should do overwhelmed is tight I really small simple step. So if you are if you don't with the things we've discussed and you've got your other bases covered just start off with fifty sixty or seventy pounds a month into the fond of your choice will the providing I just really small right? Even if he's not perfect selection or is not the optimum amount you want to say get used to doing that get used to seeing the valuations get more comfortable and. It's spent like you're going to be running a marathon. You don't just run ten key role straightway. You've never done exercise for ten years. You do have preschool cry get used to that get used to doing it regularly but start off with an Equity Index Fund if you'll time horizons twenty years or more start, really small amount and just get used to doing. Get started and keep going is the message from our experts. But what does our first time invested noreen make of all of these tips I guess I'd probably come into this thinking I might have some groundbreaking revelation but. I guess another way. It's a constant reminder that if I do my own research and I do my digging come to the same answer in the end anyway. So just to learn to trust myself and believe in myself in just just go for it. Really. My final advice, you would just be to make a plan and stick to it. You've looked at your budget, you flexible spending money on of see that might change the economy a bit more but work out what you can afford to invest every month. Take it out on the day that you get paid and find a home for it if a lot of decisions to make but the experts of said. Make your decision starving at even if it's with a slightly smaller sub, then you have available to invest just to get used to the process. Maybe join a couple of groups online have talk to like minded souls see what they're doing but eventually you need to make a decision and then start learning but she stops off on your journey is an investor. From the money clinic with me. This week if you'd like to get in touch with the show. Rain tips bounce dossier office investor. To suggest a feature problem it like to hear his tackle than e mail us our address is money at F. T. DOT com. 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Ashley Graham, supermodel, entrepreneur and host of Pretty Big Deal: People want to [put] you into a box. But it's your decision if you want to go along with the molding or not.

Skimm'd from The Couch

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Ashley Graham, supermodel, entrepreneur and host of Pretty Big Deal: People want to [put] you into a box. But it's your decision if you want to go along with the molding or not.

"I never morphed into any of these boxes like you know people won't pop you into a box but your decision if you want to to go along with the molding or not, I wasn't GonNa lose weight for anybody I wasn't going to stop being loud and having my personality. I'm curly's Aken I'm Danielle Weisberg. Welcome to skimmed from the couch. This podcast is where we go deep on career advice from women who have lifted from the good stuff like hiring and growing a team to the rough stuff like negotiating your salary and giving or getting hard feedback. We started the skin from a couch. So what better place to talk it all out than where it began on a couch? We are very, very excited about today because we have a special guest joining US Ashley. Graham is here she is the ultimate multi hyphen it. She's as supermodel entrepreneur designer author advocate and she's a new mom. She's known as a trailblazer in the fashion industry and has emerged as voice for inclusivity and empowerment. Ashley I'm excited to have you with us. You are always on that still fun and interesting to talk to welcome to skin from the couch fake you. Daniel, it's always good to see you. I wish that I could see in person so it could like rub some like baby Juju over your belly league. First of all, how's the baby? How is how is life in Nebraska? MOM's basement. We have been here since like March thirteenth like the it was like right when it started and we were hearing rumors of the New York, city, shutting down and my mom who is who helps me out with? Isaac. Lives in New York with us. So she said, let's just drive back to New York City and I was like, but that's like a really long drive. She's I can do it's twenty hours. We'll just do it nonstop and sure enough she drove. Seventeen of the twenty my husband took last few hours because he just needed to and we made it and we've been traveling and we've been very cautious about where we were traveling loads of road trips because we have that travel bug still and I think it's been so nice to be able to see the country from a new perspective. That's pretty cool. So how has it been doing road trips with how does is now? So Isaac is seven and a half months and we. Seriously Daniel? One of the one of the best things to go through go through pregnant the go through the Labor and everything. But then when they're like four or five months, maybe five months I don't know how old lake the lake good time to do it but sleep training because yeah. Then all of a sudden you're like, wait a second I I, slept through the night and the baby's okay and he's he's still likes me. So, let's start off with basic question although for you this is. Not a basic question Skim your resume for us. Oh. Wow. The resume first of all I, read the skim this morning I was I just I love waking up to the scammy Chris Bring me so much joy and you'll see here I tell you this every time we just making me feel smarter. So just think all thank you. Okay. Highlights move to New York at seventeen had to figure out the modeling industry. Then was a TV commercial for Lane Bryant that was banned my name was on the map then a few years later I started a lingerie line with a Canadian company that catapulted into a few one major cover because I was not a at a total girl I'm not giving you highlights. Sorry. Then that catapulted into sports illustrated cover, which set me into than starting my own swimsuit line, which then turned snowballing into. So many amazing things like a book a Barbie that was made in my likeness I, didn't know you had Barbie. That is so cool. She's been mic she. It's like it's amazing how she really looks like me too. It's bizarre. I was just on the cover of vogue and January pregnant those my second American vote cover. Oh. My God I don't even know I I did a Ted Talk I've got a podcast I've got I've got some shows we're going to get into it. You've done a lot. What is something that people can't Google about you? who what my farts smell like when you're pregnant. This is why I love anytime we're together I have to tell you. So for those of you listening Ashley was our moderator for the first night of our bookstore tour and curly like just fucking terrified and Ashley. We got to hang out with in the green room before when I was pregnant when you're pregnant and you are just so chill and relaxed and it was like the Basque Calming Energy and fun and we so. Appreciate that this is the best part being with you. So I feel like that's something that people can't Google. I. Mean. It's hard because I am such an open book but now being a mom like I have realized that there are some things that I just WanNa keep Permian Justin and you'll feel that to like there's there's intimacy that doesn't need to be shared with the world and you know you can talk about it but We decided to not for right now, share is a photo on social media and it's been something that that we've kind of gone back and forth with but I'm really glad because he's ours maybe one day the world will really get to know him. I'm so happy for you guys. So I WANNA go start with you as a kid you moved to New York City when you're seventeen did you always know you wanted to be a model? I don't know if someone can know that like seventeen is an early age to go from. Growing up in Nebraska, to moving to New York City to become model might parents had been like no fucking way. What I mean your parents kind of through UN and like they were just figure it out to you but I mean that's kind of like I'm learning a apparent like you have to kind of push your kids into uncomfortable situations and you can't hold their hand you have to let them fall. So I've lived everywhere Texas Atlanta, Arkansas New Hampshire Nebraska, and New York now, right. So we moved to Nebraska when I was in eighth grade from Texas and I had just right when we got here got scouted. And I went into this modeling school and it was really weird and I don't recommend that for anyone who is trying to put their kids in modeling or if you're looking to go into Mali modeling full is BS. So that kind of turned into Oh we're traveling oh, we're going to Europe We're going to New York City. This is this is the thing. Oh, actually he's making as much money as dad. Oh Wow. This is like a career and I was not an academic I was just dyslexia I had add and my reading level was. Really low. Compared to the other kids in my class. So my mom and Dad knew that college was not on the trajectory for me and I begged them please let me go to New York City I've been a million times I travel by myself at this point. Let me just move there. So I graduated high school dozen and five moved to New York and they told me if you do not become successful and if you don't quote, make it whatever make it was at that point in my career I think it was just to pay the bills Because that's making it in New York City really truly I made it work I, had a roach infested apartment I had two roommates and and I made it work and I quote made it so they never may become back and go to college and I think that there's moments that they regret me going. So soon because I, I was so young I mean I was seventeen but you know looking back would I Allow Isaac to do that. I don't know I. Think it depends on the kid something I'm always struck by is when you talk about moving to New York at seventeen my first thought is like, are you going out all the time I partied so hard and at the time they weren't checking ID's very closely or I would just go with club promoters I was just always with the models but I never fit in because. Dressed like a very simple. You know JC Penney girl from Nebraska but then I was with all these models who were wearing like Alexander Wang or really tiny outfits from like you know how Ston Street and all those like really tiny outlets on the mannequins and you're like, how does that over the nipple but yeah, that that was my life and also the girl that I was a roommate with a you know she was from the South and she was about five years older than me. So she was she was one who actually taught me how to Party and taught me. How to use my sexuality even to like get in the front door and I unfortunately never got ask my mom, the sex questions I learned everything from this roommate. Your trial by fire. I think people are always struck by the amount of confidence that you have and when I think about the age that you went off on your own, that could go one of two ways. It could either be you are super confident because you started as. A teenager, a kate and someone saw this and it was always a neatly and you or it could be modeling tends to you know have the reputation of being able to fuck with your mind and self image and body image? How do you think that confidence like were you his confident? My mom always told me she said you were always very confident even like she said, it started even when you were as young as two years old and we were at Disneyland and you're in the stroller and you're saying hi to everyone and she said, she knew then that she had a personality on her hands so. You can imagine. So then it grows into curium in middle school, high school and start modeling and. Of course I because I grew up with very confident parents and I was always in sports. I walked into modeling confident. But what happens there is that they tell you oh, you're in a box or you know this is how you're labeled and of course, I in school I got the thunder thighs got cottage cheese legs. You know I was always too intimidating for the guys because I was. So you know when boobs were big and whatever, and it's like any other kid that that gets made fun. Of. Things. Right. But walking into modeling, it's a whole other beast because your told to your face like why you don't work for the campaign or why you aren't good enough looking for something that can make anybody who's confident just pop the balloon I had to deal with a lot of that from about fifteen into my early twenties, and then in my early twenties, I mean it was just a whole other. Understanding of who I was and how does that evolve right whenever anyone famous just anything I'm always like I don't know how they deal with comments or I don't know how to deal. Social. Does that stuff still get to you today? A new way to to cope with it well, today it doesn't bother me I mean I think that as long as I am not harming anyone and I haven't heard anybody's feelings and I don't have anything to really second guests when it comes to me and my body or if you WanNa make comments about me and my husband like or my career whatever it is. That just means that you are insecure and that just means that you have problems and I can say that now a thirty two year old who has an amazing career in business but if I was growing up in social media era. In Highschool I can't say that it wouldn't get to me. I can't say that this wouldn't hit me in my core and make me. Feel anxious and or depressed. So there's a fine line for just being able to brush things off and not really take it in and take it. So internally and I do wonder like what is going to happen to this next generation under under us the ones that were raised on social media I know it's crazy. It can go either way because one they it's all they know and the. Other side is like that is scary and I feel like you know for the kids who don't feel like fit in anywhere like there's a Hashtag for you like whatever you're into like go to you know you can find it but then there's also the bullying cyber. It's just it's so out of control. So I I don't know you mentioned something earlier about being told to stay in your box. And I feel like that's probably meant different things at different times. What did that mean in terms of modeling in getting into a little bit of your someone I started out as the plus size model who then became huge? Sports illustrated cover Vo, cover, VO, cover pregnant, which by the way I loved how did that start to evolve? Well, you know from from the beginning of my career I was labeled as a plus size model and I didn't know what that meant. I just knew that it meant meant that I wasn't skinny. And I was like, well, I could've told you that. So then that evolved into the box of okay. Now you're too loud and now you have too much of an opinion and then that evolved into a which by the way all along I never morphed into any of these boxes like people want to pop you into a box, but it's your decision if you want to to go along with the molding or not, and it was always really hard for me to do what somebody ever just said. I. I. Just always had a rebellion streak in me whether it was a good thing or a bad thing just always what so i? Always try to channel it now for good and thank God I had that in me a bit when I was younger because I wasn't going to lose weight for anybody I wasn't GonNa stop being loud having my personality because models aren't supposed to have personalities and then models from there aren't supposed to have businesses. We're not smart enough to, and so I wanted to start my lingerie company and I had went to my modeling agency and I said to them I I want to design bras I'm known not as actually Graham nobody knew my name yet, but they just knew me as a lingerie girl because he'd seen me in so many commercials. And if somebody knows me as a laundry girl shouldn't we capitalize on that? Shouldn't we go and fill a hole in a market where there is no sexy lingerie for girls that are my size and bigger. So they said now. So I had to go and pop out of that box that they put me in and go do it myself and it's turned into so many other opportunities for their because knowing that you don't have to do what anybody says except for what you want to do. is so empowering it just is so empowering especially as a young woman and especially nowadays where people are in society is really trying to put us in boxes and people are clawing out. It's difficult to put yourself out of that box sometimes if you don't have the mindset of what you want and what your goals are. I've read enduring preference that you prefer or you like the term Kirby versus plus size. So funny because like even when I was younger, I was just call me curvy but now I, mean I've been doing this for twenty years. So when I first started I was twelve and there was like this I didn't get it yet. But when I was fifteen I moved afford my agents there were like we have to get rid of the word plus size it's terrible. So. There was like a band to get rid of this word this looming were, and now we are like labels. We don't want labels. That's where it should have always been is just no labels. We don't need to categorize anybody because of the number inside of their pants is how I feel but there are women who's who still truly believe and feel. That they want to be called plus is they wanna be called fat they want to be called curvy. They Wanna be called voluptuous. They want a descriptive about them before their title and I think that that's totally fine because that's what they want. But that's not my what I chose. Yeah. When you got the sports illustrated cover, how much should your life change? Three sixty like it was like I, it's like it's like look at me. I'm stumbling I can't even explain to you the amount of change that happened. In my personal life in my business, how I was able to walk out the front door and not have Paparazzi it was a huge flip and I am so grateful still to sports illustrated all the time I mean they changed my life changed my career and I'm so grateful. When you shot it like did you have that feeling that this was gonna be I mean obviously the sports illustrated cover is beg but the conversation that you started around inclusivity and beauty and even the terms that we just discussed like did you think all of that was gonNA come up? Well, it's interesting because so we back up a little bit just the year. Before my outside cover. So swimsuits for all is a company that I have my swimsuit lines with and they did a casting and it's so funny because they were having a casting for a big campaign and I was so tired that day I didn't want to go and I was like I'm tired I'm not going to this casting thinking I'm better than this costing. And my agent begged me like just go like just pop and I was like fine. So I wanted to casting hey, hey, how are you know they're like? Okay Nice me whatever I get the call the next day got the job. Oh okay. Oh, you're shooting and Saint Bart's Oh. Oh, it's like a travel job. Okay. They're like Oh. Yeah. This is how much you're getting paid. I was like Oh Shit Oh. I want to get out of bed for is. So like Hugh. All right. So we go shoot this campaign and I just done my vision board I. Mean like cut out the magazine Google words right the whole thing and I had put my vision board sports illustrated wait. Did you do a Vision Board Lake this something you do all the time? I. Haven't done what I'll be honest I haven't done one in a couple of years. But. I have had probably four three or four vision boards that I've kept in my bedroom. 'cause you wake up, you look at it you go to sleep you look at it right? I had. Ted. Talk on their sports illustrated I have vogue cover I had I mean it's like endless and it's just like check check check this was at the beginning of the Second Vision Board and I get on sat and they're like, oh. Yeah. Did anybody tell you that this ad that we're shooting is going to be in sports illustrated and I went What. This ad is going to be in sports illustrated. They're like, yeah you're going to be the first size fourteen model in sports illustrated, but it's an ad and I was like Holy Shit. God works in mysterious ways. And I looked up to sky and I said. And I shot, and I made sure like I put on my A. Game for that shoot. Well, sure enough couple months later that came out in sports illustrated and it went viral and people were like I can't believe there hasn't been a curvy girl in in sports illustrated. So and right before I did that campaign I had had a casting was sports illustrated and I didn't get it. I didn't get the job. But. I did get into an ad. So part of me really feels like. That was a test sports illustrated was testing the market to see if a girl my size would do well in their magazine and sure enough it was one of the best things they could have done. So back to your question of did I feel like that was going to be a cover when I was on the shoot yes and no because they. Don't tell you when you're shooting it. If you're going to be a cover model or not, they don't even tell you before you're on the cover they surprise you so did I feel like I was killing it I was shooting in Turks and Caicos. Yes I did and was I practicing moves in the mirror the night before you know it I was. And I even right. In my book I talk about how did this pose called the Emily D. Nado because she was like a girl I always felt like I, kind of looked like her but she was really thin but she had a little bit of curve on her and I was like. Emily Tomato and sure enough. That's the pose that they put on the cover. of SL. On all fours like a little booty op like. That is a great story. So we talked in the beginning when I introduced you talked about like actually is the ultimate multi, hyphen it because you've got so many different degrees use the buck, the podcast, the different brand extensions, who did you go to for advice? Well. Obviously, you can't go to your parents at this point. It's a weird thing when you realize that yeah, it was. It's tough because if I could talk to my mom about stuff and she's like well, you just pray about it darling. I ain't got time to pray about this Mama. So I have had different people in my life that I've been able to call. One of them has been really great. I've had a couple of big contracts that and even business proposals that I was feeling really wishy washy on and she gave me so much guidance her name's Cindy Eckert and she actually created the female version of Viagra and sold it for a billion dollars. She's a phenomenal woman I've interviewed her on my podcast pretty big deal. So I mean I just shoot her attacks on Mike what would you do and we just I mean it's great but. I've also had business managers that I've trusted my heart and soul attorneys, but as far as peers I mean it's weird because in the modeling industry, it feels so competitive and it feels like you don't really necessarily have allies until you do until you actually make those allies but I think it takes time and also for me on my heart, it took time not being jealous of other. Girls and not being jealous of the fact that I didn't get that cover and I didn't get that job because if you're chasing jealousy, you're never going to get to where you actually are supposed to be in your career. How did you start to cassette seems like a very natural reaction right that also being model today it's the opposite of what you were saying in the beginning which is. Now you have to have the instagram game and so everyone's kind of trying to do that. How did you figure out what your own thing was gonna be an stated that you know it was interesting because It was right when social media started. I was kind of just like posting pictures but like I didn't know what face tune was. So I was just posting myself and people were like, oh. Wow you're real like that was the word they kept using was real and I was like, why do they keep calling you real like I'm just myself and sure enough it was the comparison to the thin models who did not feel real to them and I realized that this is Where I could turn my platform into a business and could also turn my platform into giving a voice to younger girls who have gone through similar situations that I have or who are about to walk into similar situations that I have. You know whether it's like looking for love through men looking for acceptance or looking four fullness or for for something through food know the acceptance when you walk into a department store and you WanNa, go shopping like the ideas and the. Are Endless. But I realized through social media, there was really something. What are you sick of talking about? My Body like what about it? What which questions are the ones that you're like? Is it like what do you? What's your workout routine? So here's the thing. Yes. I'm sick of talking about it, but I'm never going to not talk about it. I realize and I understand that I have been the first at so many things and when I say I I, mean the first curvy model to do x Y and Z. so I'm GonNa have to talk about it and there are so many now Kirby women in the world in in in media that are killing it, and that's exactly what we wanted. We wanted to see more visibility we wanted to see women of all shapes sizes. And ethnicities killing it. So I feel like, okay. The work isn't done, but we've evolved so much that let's move onto the next thing because we're not going away. You know people used to say ask the question do you think that plus is is a trend and I'm like is my body a trend like is sixty five to seventy percent of females in America a trend? No, we're not. You know it's just the the idea of having to constantly explain my body or to talk about how do I feel in something Amy Schumer posted one time was like Oh am I so brave for being in a bikini it's just my body it's like yeah. How is that brave like? Yeah there's there's so many things. Did that get better or worse when you're pregnant I'm at the vase where I'm like I don't recognize my body. This is like been taken over, and my body has nothing to do with like my day to day work for living. I I didn't know I wasn't trying to get pregnant but I wasn't not trying to get pregnant and I started rapidly gaining weight and I was like what is going on and sure enough it was like, Oh, I'm pregnant and. That makes sense but I felt like I had been working out and eating so well, and so many like my body I felt like my body looked amazing and then all of a sudden I'm gaining weight in my stomach and I'd never had a stomach before and then I started getting really. You know a heavy back and then my leg started getting wobbly and I was like but I'm still working out why jiggling so much and it was an alien taking over my body and you have to succumb to that you just have to and it wasn't until my third trimester that I actually was like Ok Rockin the badly like you know, I, actually didn't mind tits being like up to here because my belly was just pushing everything up. But then you can't really breathe very well but anyways so and everything hurts it was a journey and I did not like it I really didn't I hated every part of it. I felt really crazy. I felt emotional. There was an emotional rollercoaster at every knock I cried a lot. I laughed a lot too but like my laughing turned into crying, it was just I was really all over the place. What was it like to shoot the vote cover? Pregnant versus the first time link for their different meetings associated with it for you I mean the first time was amazing because here I am being highlighted as the first curvy model ever to be on the cover of American vogue and I'm with other supermodels like whole. Yeah. But then. This one was just like it was it was almost like a miracle I I mean it's hard to describe because in the moment I'm there with Annie Liebowitz who's taking the photo, and here's Justin with his arms wrapped around me and he's got his shirt off I don't have any underwear or pants on and we're on a beach in the middle of like I don't were upstate or long island or something, and it was just like this is going to be in vogue and I'm pregnant and like what is our life? You know from one year to the next like things just shifted so heavily and it was such a beautiful moment. You mentioned vision boards you've done three or four so far what do you think is going to be on the next one? What are the things you want to start talking about? Oh, I know this is this is the dilemma. This is the dilemma I have. It's like what now do I want to do? That's a great dilemma. It is. It is a great dilemma. Thank you very much. Thanks for that reminder. I think I'll have a lot more personal things on this vision board I'm I'm a very career driven woman and I love to work and I've even realized now having Isaac here like I feel so lucky that I can work from home and can still be a momma but I definitely want to work I. Don't want to be a stay at home mom. So. It's this roadblock I have right now currently where I'm like, what am I gonNa put on there and you know there's different covers there's different shows I wanNA walk. It's different campaigns and things in the modeling world. But now sky's the limit talking TV movies, books, legacy. We're talking legacy at this point. So what do I want to do? That is incredible. Last question before we go to the lightning Brown, you are someone that's talked a lot about your faith in the past I think that that is something that not a lot of people. If there are Superfan, they realized that about you but it's something that may be is not expected in the modeling world. She's half all the time. How can this Christian girl make it and he's magazines How has that been something that you've lied on? Like why is that? So important to you? You know I was raised Christian I was raised bat your attendance to church had something to do with your faith. I gave my life to Christ when I was in middle school elementary middle school and when I moved to New York at Seventeen I went buck wild and I was like you know drink and smoke and doing drugs having sex doing whatever I wanted to do and I also decided I'm not going to church screw that whole idea and I hit what at seven seventeen eighteen would be rock bottom. And actually talk about this in my book about how I was I woke up in a hospital and I had od on Alcohol I. Would I mean? Yeah. I guess you say od on alcohol I had three long island iced teas within an hour. So that was a rock bottom at seventeen moment for me and I realized like Oh if I want to make any kind of change in my life I, kind of have to go back to the basics that I know the only basics I knew were was church. So my mom told me she's like here's this church in Manhattan. You have to go five times in a row, and then you can decide if you don't WanNa go anymore I was like, where'd you get that number? She was like just do what I say. So. Sure enough. This is the church I ended up. You know I went to for years but I ended up meeting my husband at this church listen to your parents because you don't know what miracles and blessings you're missing out on. But you know for me, my faith has been incredibly instrumental in every move that I make every decision I make and whether it's personal or business or my health. So I think everybody has a different relationship with religion or faith or spirituality, and I never call myself spiritual or religious I. Just know that I have an incredible relationship with God and tap into it and he he talks to me and. I mean it's it's a beautiful thing but I think that for anybody in for so many people who are listening to this podcast I think that a lot of people have realized that the church is like in a very weird place right now and people who have grown up in the church feel like they feel confused they feel like Whoa. What's here for now and how is this? How is this so instrumental in my life today and it's not it's it's the church is not keeping up with the times and it's really sad. So I encourage those people to just you know dive into prayer because that's what saved me and kept me Sane Okay, lightning around let's go what's replaced your morning commute. Well, honestly, I have podcasts because I've got a Bluetooth Speaker in my shower and it's just like boom click. What's the last show you binge watched I may destroy you do you cook? Girl. I don't cook, but I started cooking I may creamy vegetable resort towed the other night. That shit was hard. It was hard. What is going to be like the surprising thing about my body that no one's GonNa tell me after I have this baby your vagina is gonna look like a tire blew up. Oh My. Don't look at it. Do not look at it and get the freedom on panties. They're disposable 'cause. All my got okay. We're going to talk after but you have to put which Hazel on these like orthopedic pads throw them in the freezer and that it's only going to be two weeks all of a sudden giants going to kind of go back. But then still don't look at a guy. Who was the first person call when you get good news? Justin at news my husband Justin, my husband. When is the last time you negotiated for yourself? Justice. Morning. What is your biggest vice? I would have to say my biggest vice is I have to clean my plate when I'm eating the plate has to be clean. Who is someone you haven't interviewed yet on your podcast that you want to. Jennifer Lopez and she's just I'm like Jennifer. Come, home I think she would be so much talk to her about love. I would love to hear that conversation who someone we should have on this show. Cindy Eckert she's brilliant. She's a business woman I feel like you guys would just love her and I know she would love you guys. What's your shameless plug? Who Pretty big deal after listening to this podcast over to my podcast listen a pretty big deal. We love it. Ashley thank you so much. I'm so happy to see you. Thank you for having me. Thanks for hanging out with US join US next week for another episode of skin from the couch, and if you can't wait until, then subscribe to our daily newsletter gives you all the important news and information you need to start your day sign about the scam dot com. That's the ask. I am. Dot Com to m's for a little something. Extra.

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Manifest Your Best Life

Liv Luv Lux, Life Unlimited Podcast

00:00 sec | 6 months ago

Manifest Your Best Life

"Manifest your best buy. If you. Follow me long enough. You'll realize I like alliteration and I like wines. I don't know. It just flows I like. When things go together nicely, manifest your best life. That's what we're going to talk about today. Manifest your best life. because. Why would you wanNA manufacture wordsley right? So. How does one manifest their best life? And what does that even mean? So. I like many of you. Grew up, had experiences and I found myself in circumstances that I was not pleased with. It like through my best efforts. I had not managed to. Be In a relationship that I wanted to be in. Have, a job that I wanted to work. Have external other relationships friendships connections. Associates that I enjoyed talking to and dealing with. And I had no. Apparent. Future. Sounds pretty bleak, doesn't it? It? was because I found myself not. Being in a position to be in control of my life. I felt like at the mercy. Of, everyone else. Everyone else's decisions. Everyone else's whims. Everyone else's desires. And I would like to say all. I found the law of attraction, and all that changed because that's not exactly how it happened. I've mentioned before. The I've been studying the law of attraction over ten years about twelve almost thirteen years now. I HAVE BEEN STUDYING Metaphysics, Spirituality mysticism the called. Religion Christianity I've studied just about everything. Yeah, on some form. Comparatively or just diving into research. And you know. The law of attraction and manifestation was something that was very much interested in. But when I first. When I first encountered it I couldn't understand it. I made a vision board. That's what I did. I read the secret a book. The secret made a vision board. I tried to turn some things around. And, I gave up on it. You know this vision board sitting in my room I would get up every morning and I'd look at it. Here's the funny thing about that. Because I am not saying to go, make a vision for, but this is the funny thing about manifestation, the law of attraction and intention. And, this is what I learned, and this is what I want to share with you about manifesting your best life. It wasn't necessarily the act of me creating that vision for. Over ten years ago. It was the fact that something gave me the permission. To free. My mind of limitations. So. I sat and I made this thing I thought about the type of relationship are one and I thought about. The type of car or vehicle I wanted because it wasn't a car. It was van. Because I have five kids. So, what do you know, what do you? Do you need van? There's no cars fit five kids comfortably. But you know. I was in a bad state because I. Just my car just got horrible. Accident was total I wasn't an accident. Actually. My car had told on the side of the road. was. So I, have a whole bunch of these things that were happening to me was just like. Are you serious? Whatever could go wrong? Did go wrong. But it was the freedom. The limitless nece. The unlimited life it was the freedom to be able to sit down and for a moment. Think, if I could be. You're have whatever you wanted. What would that look? What would my best life look like? and. I put it on that vision board I went through. I, this was heavily into magazines. I love magazines, but they're too expensive now. I WANNA put money into something. I'm going to throw in a couple of weeks. You know, but back in the day. I was heavily magazine so I had tons of magazines I flip through them. And I picked up. The vehicle and I found quotes about relationships and I find. You know the different things This was before published my first book, so I put something about being a published author you know. Ten years ago. And I took a picture of it. And like I, said for year got up every morning, and I looked vision board. and. Everything did not manifest in that year. In fact, I think maybe one thing manifested in that year. But in ten years everything on that Vision Board has manifested. Yes in ten years, but Here's the takeaway. Here's what I want you to see about this. Because I just thought about it for the show and I remembered that vision board I need my very first light law of attraction east thing that I did. But here's what. I want you to think about. You do have permission to be doing have whatever he want. You. Birthright is to manifest your best life. It's. It's yours for the taking. Is Yours for the happy? You are A. God having a human experience. I was GONNA say the other way. And this is part of your experience. Sometimes, freedom is part of your experience, and you don't know that you're. Not Free. Until someone tells you sometimes that you're living in some sort of bondage, and that bondage just to lack and poverty, and thinking that you have to follow this rule that rule, and that you are bound by your circumstances, and the truth is that you are only as bound as you wanna be. You have the key to unlock. And you can leave at anytime. So! This is more a motivational episode if you will because. I talked to people and I tell people about. This and I know it comes off sounding really like. Whatever? But the truth is that? If if it even took him ten years. To have everything that you wanted on a board on a piece of paper. Isn't it worth it. To give it a try even if it took ten years because you've had twenty thirty forty years of misery or You know inconsistent results. If. It took you ten years to get it right when you. So. We get stuck in the immediacy of things in you know. The now I want it now. I want this money now. I want this lover now. I. Want this opportunity now. But it takes you. Know Years? To be in in in less than pleasant circumstances, you know when I found myself. In the dumps if you will. I, mean you know it was? Everything was maybe ten fifteen years out of graduated from college. And I've had. A slew of jobs that I hated you know. and. It was the type of thing like. Is Your spiraling downward ripe? You don't realize it. Until you hit rock bottom. So! Here's my suggestion manifesting your best life. If. You can imagine it. You can have it. You can take the time to sit down. And empty your mind and create visual scenes, and you know even if you can just give yourself the freedom as you walk throughout your day. To Open yourself to the possibility that you could actually have what you wanted that day. You get have. An experience that you wanted. You can have a meal that you want to have. You know some sort of material. Good that you wanted you could. You could just have a great day if you open yourself up to that reality. What's that worth to? One Great Day. For Seventeen bad days, right? Or one great year for ten bag years. Just to change just to turn it around. So. No real suggestions. Just something to think about. Manifest your best life starts with giving yourself permission. To. The idea. That you deserve to be do in have whatever you want. That you are entitled to. That it is your birthright. Because you are got. And this is your creation. And that you? Are Part of the one power. You are the one power he can't be. You. Know are the one power that creates it flows. In you and through. And you can create your life. You don't have to have what you perceive as being given to you. It's just this is what you. Imagined or perceived as what life should be like an it's not doesn't have to be like. So my name's Nicole and this has been lovelock's manifesting the life unlimited. He can contact me through my website. Live Lovelock's DOT com. That's L. V. L. UV. Dot Com would be happy to share more insight about my ten year old vision board that all came true. Among facebook twitter instagram on Tumbler I'm on Pinterest Amari, all pod casting platforms. You found me if you heard me found the on one of them, right? Live Lovelock's. And you'll find me. So Hey. Give yourself permission to have what you want. And welcome to your life. I'll talk to you soon.

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Hanging with Nache Snow

Craft Hangout

00:00 sec | 4 months ago

Hanging with Nache Snow

"I. Hang. Out To. Yourself Brad. Outside to. Hey. What's up and welcome to craft. Hang out I'm. ELISA CAPITAIN I'm Jesse Cats Greenberg. And I'm Lou Thatcher and let's hang up. Loop Lee. Now we're not gonNA, she's on mute. She wasn't. Here. Stupid. I. Wish I had a cow bell or something fun like a slide whistle. Lou. We've got to. Invest. tweets we. GotTa we gotTa have old school sound sound makers in the attic. We have from my own, Omega the nineteen in the nineteen fifties. They had these like New Year's Eve noisemakers. Those would have been great. was. Groggy. From there like the sound makers that. Yeah. Fun fact all right. Everybody. Last year, as you may remember, Jesse and I attended the makers conference craft -cation in California. And we met so many new friends. So one night, there was a bit of an east coaster meet up. and. I met a really cool crafter and fellow podcast with a show called studio seventy eight podcast, and she is fabulous and finally hanging with us right now. So please everyone. Let's give a warm craft hanging out. Welcome to New Shea Snow Welcome. So excited to be on your pie gas. You guys. Interviewed so many amazing guests on like I feel like honored. Show big time. Stop. So, let's just start off with the basics. Can you tell our craft? Reno's a little bit about who you are and what you do? Absolutely, my name's initiates now been a crafter for life since elementary school. My mom is a crafter to end up going to school for graphic design and my nine to five is billy me dealing with you know designers and web designers and all of that good stuff. Stuff. But on nights and weekends I, just loved to podcasts. Do My side hustles and I've had many many side hustles through the years. But I like making stuff just creating stuff and I'm just like you guys. I just love talking to people in sharing their stories and inspiring women to like pursue their passions be at full time or part time or all the time. So yeah, that's me in a nutshell. So. That podcast, you get to have lots of conversations with creatives and how does that inspire you? Oh. My goodness I mean, you know sometimes I feel like when I get off of an interview with him, like I need to step it up. Just. Wait a minute like, but it inspires me because you can throw around ideas because a lot of times you know people tell me like what marketing tips worked for them or how they ended up making connections in in order to get their Khumbu show line off, you know just started or maybe how they weren't. Initially, artists didn't go to school for design. But now they're like selling design in the narrow inspiring people to like just do what you love. Love in. So for me, I, feel like with each guest. I just pick up like a little tip a little trick, and it just inspires me to want to do more. You know some, that's super rats. I feel the same way with some of our guests. But okay, who's your favorite guest and Y ou? That's that's a hard one. That's a heroin. So if if any gas listened to listening to this and I don't name, you don't get offended. But I actually had her on for a second time. Her name is Nicole crowder. and. She's in the DC area with knee to, and recently she's actually just blown up but the pillow one. Yes. Mention Pillow, right? Yeah. Because she she does the meditation pillows and you know she first started out where she was, you know doing upholstery and teaching people how to upholster their old furniture in an her story. You know she talks about like working a nine to five. Then trying to do her love full-time, it didn't work out, went back to a nine to five, and then she started again when I first interviewed her and man she like learned from all the failures and then took what she learned and she's just being going going going and. And even when I interview her few months ago is wow. So just talking to her, I was so inspired, I love seeing her Kinda like blow up the last couple of months, and even how she did the meditation pillow, she initially was just giving them out for free because of cove nineteen everybody was going through a hard time and she was like, Hey, pay what you can, you can't pay anything. I'll I'll give these to you right analysis set, and this has become like heart of her business. So yes, she's like amazing. Very cool. So you are a self proclaimed productivity junkie. Are Your top three tips to stay productive especially during these stressful times I share and it was so funny someone just deemed me because they listen to my interview with Nicole Harper, which was like my season finale. is so funny because all the episodes blend together. But somewhere in Sidney, DM and she was like after listening to you and Nicole I need to start like being better with my file structure because for me. You know I like thrive off of having like a folder system on my Mac, like if I go into my voters right now, it's like work files I have like podcast and under podcast episodes and under episodes, you know it's like graphics audio, but I really am a firm believer in really organizing your files. If you know, you have any type of documents or whatever that you're keeping track of I'm also a firm believer in documenting all of your processes. So Google drive is my best best friend you know. Even, though I'm probably like you guys to do the Pike has all the time, but still good to have like a little checklist. So I have sheets in Google docs like all the things that I need as far as I who are the guest I want to interview. These are the processes that I need to do each time that I record an episode in. So that's like another one of my tips, and then the last one I'll day is like having a really good to do list that you actually use. Paper via an APP if it's both by you know having something where you know exactly what you need to do, exactly what you need to pick up from the grocery store, whatever it is like I'm Kinda Junkie. When it comes to that I got like a bullet journal. Any that do all the things I have a foul question. Do you think it's crazy for a crafter to have one to do list of things that are unfunded and wanted to do list of things that are joyful. Jesse. I don't like to mix the crappy. Fun Stuff you know I've gotten over that. That was like a phase. I went through where like some of the like negative tasks were just like really stressing me out can handle like a work checklist and then a life to do list. I. Don't a positive. Michetti. In your professional productivity opinion. Not Crazy crazy at all, not crazy it up because i. like to section things up. Right. Like you got the Grocery Star lists, you got your personal list, your crafts list. You got your side-hustle Liz. As long as you know, you have like a system. It's good. I. Like this. I do think I have the making lists down I. Feel like I need to come spend a weekend with you to get all of the other organizational tips. But we'll once one. Time. Hey I have like my days do like, I, feel like. Some, sometimes, I feel like I'm always on point and it's great, and then other times in the past month has been just a little weird in a little crazy, and then when that happens like you know you find that I forgot to do this I, didn't do that. It's always tell people. It's like you have to forgive yourself. You'RE NOT GONNA be perfect every time, but once you get yourself together, you know you just organize things again and get back into it. Yeah. Good Advice. All right. So let's talk about vision boards how help you achieve your goals and what's an easy way to start them? You know it's funny I had an episode about one of my favorite people money and I think sometimes people see these like beautiful vision board at all glittered out, and they think like they put like this pressure on. Am like Oh my goodness I gotta get you know that insects camera or I gotTa Talk. Like this. Really you know I tell people like just start really simple. You know like maybe sketch out a list of things that you want to accomplish for the next six months or the year. It doesn't even have to be like for a vision board I think sometimes it's always tied to the new year, but it doesn't. We could create a vision right now because I could tell, you, the Vision Board that I created at the beginning of this year is toast. Nine. Nineteen. Vision. We. Can I guess things, Vision Board Lick hugging people. Traveling on an airplane going to concerts. Wearing Lips. Can See in public maybe using tester makeup. Oh, my God. That's never going to happen again ever how am I gonNA know if a lip color is looking good if I can't test it back to basic drugstore rules Oh man, but I love your advice on it. Not Having to look perfect because that's what stops me from doing something like that, and from doing bullet journaling is the idea that it has to look Blake in post. Worthy. But it really doesn't because you don't tell people. People like even for the Vision Board like after you know like, let's say you're like, Oh, I, want to travel just print out like all the places you WanNa travel to right, and then just paste them on board and have like that travel section in that one. Inspire you or if you like ooh I wanNA, do speaking gigs year like maybe print out you know creatine cultivate craff -cation are wherever, like these are the places I wanNA. Speak at you can ride it on there you can. Post. Pictures, but is like it's for use out. Yeah. I think people do just get caught up. In. Into this perfection bubble like it has to be absolutely perfect when it doesn't how many vision board do make per year for yourself and I also know that sometimes it's any journal, right? It's not necessarily an aboard. Can you talk about that a little bit because I always think vision boards is like on a piece of foam or something taking up a lot of Ram Yeah. So for me. You. Know I've tried like the the poster, but I'm like I'm not GonNa really hang like a big poster up anywhere the. So, because I'm using my journal all the time I just do a Vision Board in the Journal. So just takes up two pages. I. Only usually do one a year, and then I guess, maybe you can call these like baby vision boards, but every quarter though sometimes I create pages especially, if I know I want to accomplish really large goals, I might have like A. A page dedicated to what I want to do for the next three months just so I can kind of like look back like every week or every couple of weeks and be like, okay. I'm really working towards this goal, and so that can maybe be considered like a vision board, but really it's almost like a quarterly goal page that jazz up with pictures and stuff. But usually there's only one main main vision board that I created in January. Listening to you, I, keep thinking of a book. It's called. The journey is the destination by Dan Eldon he grew up in Nairobi Kenya and in Seventh Grade, a teacher taught the class how to journal, but she told them journaling doesn't just mean writing, it could be pictures collages. Anyway. So there are volumes of his journals online and each page is like a work of our I recommend. It has story is really fascinating. But without in mind what is your ride or Die Kraft Supply Oh that? That's a tough one. because. It was funny because I was like, okay. They're going to probably ask me about craft stuff. what have I done? Mosaic art punched needle laser cutting. Reading Jewelry. Ceramic. Your head, you must take one. I. Love that you tried everything. You literally tried every craft. Even though I must say I didn't like ceramics I is something about it. I just didn't clicks off like I'll just buy it from people who are really good at it, and I didn't like the wood cutting out I'm like I'll just by price favorite craft supply I would have to say my Tombo markers. Has, I mean I use them for everything you. Now because I'm a big journal her and they don't bleed through the paper. So I probably have maybe thirty different colors. Have a low special case for him, but that would be my my number one. Right, I feel like I've heard that answer before. So it's a good answer. It's been proven by other crafters that assay writer by people are loving those Tombo markers yeah. I remember her. A video of yours where you had an iphone case that you were decorating with a wood burning tool. Yeah. It was. A bit of a video fail situation. So. PLEASE BE HONEST What's The funnest Craff L. story that's happened on or off camera or podcast. You. Yes I mean God of had so many crafting failures, I mean punch. Neto isn't as easy as people think. So I've had it where I've started to do it in. It literally just comes out because you know it's like rug hooking. So it's not really stitched in there, and so when you have to unravel something that you've been working on for hours because things start falling apart you're like. Oh. Yeah. It's like a little maddening. That's probably like one of the reasons from like the past year I've had painting failures that have just gone in the garbage, not family painting. I've done like bullet journal spreads where you start recording them, and then when you look at it, you're like, no one's GonNa, like this. This is Kinda ugly I don't even like this. Let me like cover it up, cover it up with some paper. Maybe people think this was intentional. So lots of fails. We feel you. That's why we love hearing about. And like allies especially loves hearing how people come back from fail and you just crossed off all of her things like it's either you pit it and like it was supposed to be like that the whole time or sometimes it just goes in the trash. It does late, for example, I and I told the people on my like I G Kinda craft account like I created this Apple Watch ban, but I got like the wrong pin. So actually sometimes when I put it on, it literally POPs off because what I should have did was the one that has a. Instead of one kind of where you can pop it out easily and I'm like and I now have like eight more of these and I don't need them price. And I ended up having to buy new bars and I'm like, what am I going to do with the eight little tin that I don't really need, but it's just like you just. Figure it out. I'm still wearing it even though it pops off every once in a while. Something to do with them. All. Right. So you are a fellow east, coast crafter, but you're located in. DC. So how do you think the maker seen in our nation's capital differs from other parts of the country Yeah. You know I don't know and I think I forgot. But I thought I. Think we talked about this a little bit craft -cation but I find like on the. The West Coast is like there's like more craft stuff going on and maybe it's just in my head, but I feel like there's more maker spaces. There's more groups that talk about crafting. There's more craft conferences not to say that the craft scene is amazing in DC. They've all these cute boutiques that sale things by local crafters, but it's not like the scene. Scene in parts of California or like Portland or anything like that like I. Wish there was more can of I duNNo. Like Cra-, I, mean with Kobe. Who knows when it will happen again. But just like more like craft hang out things where everybody goes to a we work in Mike Oh, hey, we're gonNA make bands for our Apple Watch, we're GONNA. GonNa. Learn how to do punch needle. But they're like like the torpedo factory is out here, which is like a center and there's other like smaller centers out here. But I, just wish there was like more I. Don't know if it's like that. New, Yorker not. But yeah, there's different from California but it's got a different. It's got a different flavor and. You know I'm just curious because the epicenter of politics you earn living in the epicenter politics and I always feel like. Politics and things that are happening in culture will affect art and Do you feel any of in DC? I mean a little bit like it's interesting given. I went to one of the black lives matter protest, and so of course you you know you see like the t shirts and you see like the posters there is like a lot of when you think of traditional crafts. Crafts like things happening like that. But it was interesting. I was seeing things online where people had like stitched black lives matter onto a mass griot or like some more like elaborate crafting things I didn't see that here. It was kind of like the stuff that was here was fine, but it wasn't like you know where somebody went like Whoa you like two hours last night in like. hand-beaded this t shirt, right. But you do see it right of that expression like people making posters in when you're going on a different corners, you know you'll see kind of whatever it might be a poster of like a particular political topic or whatever. There are elements where craft kind of meets politics out here. You put together a phenomenal project on your website gathering a comprehensive list of black women owned creative businesses so. Handmade to coaches content, even my personal favorite wine your. Your list covers so many categories. So we wanted to know what inspired you to put this compilation together and what was the process like to curate this collection of creatives. Yeah I mean, it's interesting like even when everything I happened with Floyd. I think you now in talking to friends that like we were all like fail with emotions and we're like. You get kind of overwhelmed because you're like, what can we do riot like I'm like we can donate. We can sign petitions, we can protest, we can write letters, but I was like I also want to do something that makes sense for me right and it's like how can I impact my my small little circle and for me I, love creatives, I love creative women, and one of the things that like is coming out of this movement is that sometimes black businesses, black women businesses have really a harder time than other businesses getting noticed and making profit in some like well. I can make a list I know like. Hey I know like some some businesses and I'm good at research and I'm good with connecting people Ask people whether their favorite businesses in our kind of like start from this. Small. List. And then I'll just I mean, it's a webpage. So just add to it as more people provide me names of businesses and some aren't of course, like wine is necessarily creative, but I have so Milan. I was like. I added a few categories even if they weren't traditionally creative because they were like recommended by people follow, and I'm just like these are still some amazing black businesses. I don't WanNa just cut them off because they don't like meat like that kind of creative like check box, and so it was really just getting people from. Id to let me know starting with my podcast list. You know I had a good group of pup-. You know women that are already knew about, and then just kinda combing the web to because I'm super picky. So I'm like looking at people's websites and I'm like I would buy from them added and so. And so then they kinda grew into like a hundred I think like at one hundred. Businesses and Yeah, and. It's really excited because I had some of those businesses, contact me and say like, thank you so much. I like got sales. You know from the list that you create it and then I'm like, okay. Well, I've done like. My small, little, tiny small, little heart. You know you're making an impact Niche Shays list not and Jesus is. Going to be a trusted source for many people where they're going to be like, well, let me check out in the list especially since you're curious eating at someone just sent me a link to his description box for black owned brands. I. Sent you a couple of my friends like maybe there's an opportunity to partner. My friend can make soap and my friend heiress makes spices. Who knows are you talking about to craft hang out alums? For Awesome. Because that's like how connections are made writing and. They saw that poster ready. But if they hadn't you never now just always spreading the word, we're mavens aren't we. Because I love it. Okay Lady. It's been awesome talking to you. But lastly, and most importantly, where can people find you and your list? Or sure. If you go to Niscaye Snow Dot Com. That's in a C. H. E. S. W., dot com, it will take you to all the things, my social media, my storefront. The blog has the list. I have like my creative list, I have a black author lists of business books and all of that stuff. So yeah, just head on over to initiate snow. Dot Com we're GONNA, make it real easy. WE'RE GONNA put links in the show notes so. Is Shay out and her list. Thank you so much. You're phenomenal. We know that you're busy podcasting and creating lists and craft between all of the things. We're GONNA. Let you go and I guess it's been fun. You're able to. We're able to make the magic happen because when we met, you were like she's our kind of people. CASTER. Best Friends, so we live make. I guess. Stay crafty. That was a treat I was so inspired by this, hang with the Shea I started a project that I'm going to tell you about after takeaway. So let's grab take real quick one, get organized, and make lists to you need to practice forgiveness yourself because you're not going to be perfect every time three triumph mini vision board. It doesn't need to look perfect it is for you. Don't let the idea that it needs to be perfect paralyzed to. Four if you WANNA, make a difference. Figure out what you can do to make an impact that makes sense for you that can still help others. So listen I was so inspired editing this episode, I made a stop into Dwayne Reed which is basically for those of you who do not live in New York. It's basically like a Walgreens and I picked up an old school cheapie composition notebook for like two bucks than I painted cover sealed with packing tape and on his goal mining by Elisa capital the cover, and I am obsessed with it. The inside is an exploration of detecting, defining and shining my goals and then making an action plan. The insert of this book. It's just for me. I'm reading it all up to make my mini vision board spread amusing it as a way to focus and some stop look. Cool inside in some stop look messy. This book has a job to do. It doesn't need to impress anyone I am trying hard to basically recalculate my route. This pandemic certainly shook everything up and for me personally, I just need to figure out the things that are going to make me. Happy. So I started making listed the things that light me up. Then I, made some layouts, my book with photos and images to organize an inspired to get to the next step. You will know that I suffer from depression and without going into major detail. I will say that there have been some very very dark days for me during the past couple of months besides keeping up with my Kademi treatments, I really need to do more of the things that make me happy and less of the things that make me sad and spiral downwards. I, hope my goal mining notebook helps or at the very least is fun to do. I'll keep you posted on how goes anyhow. Thank you so much for listening. If you are loving the show, please smash those five stars on Apple podcasts. It helps us a lot and it's free. We need the help. So if you're really into craft hang out, we will be grateful. Now if you want to support us more consider becoming one of. Of Our patrons on Patriot on for five dollars a month. You can score a cool digital download every month, and then have access to our entire patriots, digital. Donald Library. This month, I, just uploaded a marble with Rose Gold Alphabet I. Think. 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Episode 129: Goal Reflection

Women Inspiring Women

00:00 sec | 11 months ago

Episode 129: Goal Reflection

"You're listening to the women inspiring women podcast each week network marketing professional and Montana preneurs. Melanie Metro gives you her tried and true tips for. We're building a business from your kitchen table. This self-made millionaire went from a stay at home. Mom to the top of a network marketing business and just three years. She built an online health and and fitness business from the ground up while raising babies and juggling being a mom and wife. Now she wants to help you become the boss of your own life for blog posts business tips more check out our website at Melanie. METRO DOT com. Now let's get to the show. Here's your host Melanie Metro. Hey everybody it is Melanie Melanie Metro. The host of the women inspiring women podcast in in today's episode. I have got some nuggets of wisdom based on years in years of experience to share with you guys before we dive in. Listen I am so sorry that you did not get an episode from me last week. Trust me you did not want an episode from me. Last week I had the worst cold and all most kinda borderline sinus infection. But I asked asked you guys on social media what to do you feel like a head. Cold is coming on. And you gave me so many suggestions from elderberry syrup to you Oregano and peppermint oil and lemon diffusers. And I have been taking all of your suggestions and I to be an entire a week to get over this cold. I actually lost my voice last again so there was no recording happening and I didn't actually get my normal voice back in Joel after Christmas so I took a week off and arrested and I really allow myself to heal and I'm coming back better than ever and and you'll great and I'm ready to celebrate the end of twenty nineteen. Actually getting this episode is going live on New Year's Eve which means there is so much to celebrate and today we're GonNa talk a little bit about this concept ever heard it. There is a book. It's called eat that frog and I I. I love the book I read it when a Berry Earth started in network marketing in two thousand eleven. It's by Brian. Tracy eat that wrong. We're GONNA talk a little bit about that today on this episode. You know I wanNA talk with you about reflection of your goals and I WanNa talk to you about creating just realistic expectations for where you want to be. And what that is actually going to look like but before we dive in a skimmer listeners. Really almost forget to do this every single time. I do a podcast episode but overall I to your head over there if you subscribe to the Women Environment Podcast you will get it accommodates when my podcast go live. And if you leave me a rating in review it also helps me move up in the rankings but it also helps me know what resonates. What's most with all of you? I love when you tag me on Instagram. A your stories Li listen to a podcast episode. So please keep that coming all right. So Lindsey said Lindsay Doling. Jeff was the listener of the week. Instead it's one of my favorites and Abso- excited when I see Melanie has dropped another episode followed her advice or ever. It seems and she helped me grow my business so much. Thanks for the motivation. So thank you so much Lindsey for being the listener leak really appreciate your job and you're right. I started out with my business Tuesday on facebook. I used to do it as a live video every Tuesday at ten. AM It moved over to my business page. Then she came. PODCAST have done them on youtube forever and I just the power of video and training not only is video a passion of mine. Nine speaking is a passion mentoring g you guys through business is just something. I love and I am so great old for the facebook platform variety. TV for Youtube for cussing to be a way to connect with so many of you to help you reach the goals that you set yourself so that makes me just so excited that you are getting value out of what I share. Okay let's student so I've been spending the past couple weeks really diving into I south Ed Eh. Asking myself based on twenty nineteen what what went. Well what did it go. Well what am I proud of. What am I not proud of? Where do I feel like I can except my social game you know? What did I would blew my mind that I never saw coming and I have to say that there were a lot of things that I put on the Vision Board or twenty nineteen did have so? Let me just walk you through a few things I wanted to have age. These paid speaking engagements in twenty nineteen. And that didn't happen and I thought for sure. Oh Gosh like I've I've been speaking in each funding networker worked for so many years either meet stage presenter for four years in a row. I've done their leadership conferences. I've spoke at new leader conference their summit. All of this stuff right so I've been really really involved in fighting unit starting to do some speaking outside of each fi but it was much harder as it started to move into the space than I anticipated. Because you're credible in one area but that doesn't always transfer to other areas of your life and so realized that there were some things I needed to step up in outweighs creating a media and making sure that I had my figure kit in that I was really creating were. We're only a sample content that I can share with other people and so I did take off of my vision more that I wanna be a highly sought after keynote speaker. I just changed. I just added. It's my vision board for this year. I realized that you know what I learned a lot in twenty nineteen and learn what were to it. Didn't it works. I humble myself enough to know that. Hey you sometimes that start over in that you've got to prove yourself and I've done it once before and I'll do it again. So on my vision. Asian border twenty twenty one to be a highly sought after keynote speaker. Another thing that was that I found out that I've been putting a vision board for two years. I didn't realize it I started going back and doing a little reflection on as I put on my vision board in the past is y. Gosh I have been saying that I am not going to be on my phone and evenings not gonNA work it. I am not going to do evening. Calls for two years and it still hasn't happened so this year on my vision. Or but then ed I started to actually take some action you guys. I message my on people that ask me do evening calls in. Let them know that your schedule. My schedule tailable Monday Wednesday Friday eight four. If you would like to schedule call any happy to be your guest speaker. But these remind behold. I started parading my calendar for twenty twenty in what I'm going to be hosting team calls in one on one mentoring equal. Guess what's not on there any calls during the evening. Also I started you get out my calendar and say what do I need to do during the day so that I don't need to work in the because I understand that you kids were little. Life was a little different when Matt works fulltime and had both boys at home had no other choice but to put them debated and go to work. I no other choice but to have him play with boys on a Saturday and Sunday morning. Go do something while I could tie. UPS We sent ought we. That was the period of that we were in at that time but I eight years into this business in. My kids are in school. fulltime and my husband is at home which which means were building the business together. So there's absolutely no reason that I can't getting the work done during the day. It's an inefficiency on on my part so clarity in that knowing that I am even going into you. Twenty twenty. What are the most important things that you need to be overseen your time on? What are the things you need to start saying no to? What are the things you need to ask for help and delegate where can you shifting up a little bit so I'm taking responsibility and not making excuses for the goal any longer all right you guys other other things that were super important to me last year? Was You know just helping my team to produce a certain number of leaders in the organization and what I realized in Twenty nineteen that when you are is that I didn't spend enough just one one on one on the phone time and I used to always do things as groups and pods learning and what I've learned for twenty nineteen is got to make sure that I'm doing more one on ones that I'm really carving out time for that personal connections to really help people get down and dirty in our business in Judy's one on one mentorship with runners and I am so committed to making that happen in twenty twenty. I've already gone to my acuity a scheduler and I have blocked out times when I'm available to mentor. The people that are showing up in doing the work in matching my F- are intensity and so that was another thing where I get mad. I didn't get upset that I didn't produce the number of leaders that I wanted. I got curious as you what have I I changed. What have I done differently? How can I shift things around to make sure that I am in fact aligning the goals of except for myself with my daily the activists? And that's been really really instrumental at helping me to just say look you're never a failure you just you just have to rely and I can stay with my whole heart that were so big on that vision board that I just didn't work hard enough that they ended up not being taught priorities. And I'm I'M GONNA be okay is that but here's what I want to say to you guys as we go into. I don't know if you've noticed as I've been talking talking about this pattern. Now give you one last example and then I'm going to dissect his eating my frog. I have this on my vision. Board is go to bed at ten by ten pm every night and you will be in bed and Ananta goal of getting at least seven hours of sleep at night and that and why is because I know that I am able to mentally mentally focused on at my peak performance when I get it out seven to eight hours of sleep the nights I noticed that I am able to be creative I am. I am energized about my day. Like I am on it when I get enough sleep at night when I'm not. I have a dull headache. Rain is foggy. Agitated more irritated and I know that about myself so now if I say I'm going to go to bed at ten o'clock at night on my goal is to get seven hours of sleep sleep a night now. How did it get there? That means that I'm going to go to bed. Administered the bedtime routine a little bit earlier seven o'clock at night. It's going to be my time. Make Myself a cup of CAM melts. He grab a book. Do My journal get the kids. Ready for bed as they're getting their bedtime routine done. I'm I'm working on by routine everybody's winding down and by nine thirty. I'm in my room and I'm not on my phone I'm not scrolling. I'm not looking with Joe. SCHMO is doing over on his instagram account and Revenue Brain. I'm thirty at night. My phone is on what is called nighttime mode so important Emergency calls can get through from parents and spouses in equal. That would need to be able to contact me but everything else is silenced. Until eighty the and the next morning you guys. I didn't just set the goal to go to bed earlier. I'm even thought through the steps of what what I was going to need to do. What time to make sure that I was in bed at that time? Same thing if you WANNA start waking up early you can't expect to get up it five. Am But if you're going to bed at one in the morning you're GonNa hit the snooze. You're GONNA sleep in. You're not gonNA WANNA get going in the morning so we've gotta be able to seeks Zeke's through the goals winning on our goal gorge to make sure that we're willing to do the actions that need to be taken in order for those to become a reality okay. So now there's all of you out there. I talk to people on a daily basis. That's what I do. I help people change their lives whether it's health service or business and get excuses. I don't have time I don't have the money my kids don't sleep through the night. My kids are little. I work fulltime job. I get it I get it. But here's the bottom line. There will always be a sacrifice for wired to do something different than what you're doing now so so is it worth it you is the cost. Is the sacrifice worth what the outcome can be. When you succeed at the goal you're setting out to do all right so after it is the cost that I am willing to invest? Is it worth it. Board the outcome I will get when I succeed. Then if the answer is yes yes the next step is I need you not just wish to have a different life. I look at my day my week in my money and choose to create a different life by the by the things I'm saying yes and no two so it opened up my planner. Yes I put on that planner all the things that I wanna do for the week ahead. It's already on there. My kids sporting activities are on their doctors. Appointments the pickup and drop in anything else that needs to happen important meetings but then I say to myself in my business in my life. What are the things the daily tasks they're going to help me get to where I WANNA be if I want to produce enough income in my side hustle to be able to go part time in my full time job to be able to leave my full time jobs place double my income whereas the list of the activities that I'm GonNa need to do and they're very tangible? And I guarantee you those activities are things that you would rather rather not do. I promise they are things that you would rather not do. But those are always the things that make the biggest difference. If you are are in sales it is picking up the phone and making that sales call it is doing now follow up it is creating that new connection. It is asking somebody for a referral. If you run a social media based business it is hosting a success story it is tooting your own horn. It is making a recruiting post. It is is inviting people in creating new connections through your social media France. Those are the things that should have space on your calendar not scrolling the Newsday. They get inspired not searching for pinterest yet. Ideas not watching your ten thousand training. It is the things you know that are gonNA move you forward so even starting tomorrow. I know it's New Year's Eve but I bet you some of you have some goals that you wanna hit and you know you wanna make those goals a reality. So what are the the top three to five activities and tasks you need to do before you will lecture self. Go celebrate on New Year's Eve or if you're listening to this and it's it's already passed New Year's Eve. What are the three things that you're GonNa do before you go to bed tonight? That are going to move the needle forward in your fists. What are income producing producing activities? Now my challenge to you is can you put them on your calendar everyday. Can you be accountable to it. Because if you can't be accountable accountable to your daily activities you are just a just a hobby. You're not really running a business because the goal is to start creating an income. An ended income only happens when you focus on the right tasks every single day so now whether it's waking up early or exercising or eating the right foods or building an incomer incomer rowing team or starting podcast. Everything starts with a single step and that everything rises in balls on your ability to show show up. Even when you don't feel like it so I- Melanie Metro eat my frog every single day. The number one thing I don't want to do but I know is going to produce the biggest result and for me that honestly is invites. It's doing my email follow us. It's making those posts where they're strong calls to action. I WANNA serve people. I could give free content away all day every day but I also service to offer and but I don't offer it but don't let people know it's there. I don't make those calls to action if I don't get in full and people's heartstrings they're not gonNA know and they're gonNA sign up with some other business coach or life it codes or health and fitness coach. Because I did it. Provide them with the author Ivan. Personally reach out. I didn't send that all up in. That's one thing that I practice. Listen I preached to the People that I mentor so you get the book. Eat that frog. Brian Tracy sit down. Create Your Vision Board and then ask yourself what are the tasks that I need to do. Every day top three business producing activities. I need to do to make sure that my goals by the end of twenty twenty become the reality be committed to eating that frog. Actually want you to show up on social and I want you to Hashtag Hashtag Melanie. I ate my dog today. Right Eight. My Frog Hashtag. Melanie Mitchell whatever. I want to hear it. I WANNA know the you're eating your frog and I'm GonNa be doing we the exact same day and when you get so a line to where you WanNa go in that direction I guarantee year look back through inter sixty five days per day in your like I get it. I made the goal a reality and it happens because I chose to do the work that most people are not willing to do because I had a dream that kept me up at night or maybe get out of bed in the morning and I kept myself so laser focused on it that even when the road got tough. I wasn't willing the throw in the towel. All right you guys. That's what I got for you today. I'll is gotten fired up. Remember top three things. What are you GonNa do before you go? Go to bed tonight So that you are eating your frog and remember guys remember. Success takes time. And you're exactly where you're supposed to be absorbed glad that you're here listening listening to the women inspiring women podcast episode. Today take care and see him.

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Mid-Week Mom Chat: Vision Boards.

Get Real -w- Caroline Hobby

00:00 sec | 11 months ago

Mid-Week Mom Chat: Vision Boards.

"Hey all-caring hobby here. I found a razor blade that I'm obsessed with. It's called Billy and I don't know if you knew this. Women's razors can cost up to fifteen percent. More than men's it's called the pink tax but the idea that women should should pay more for the same product is outrageous so billy delivers premium razors directly to you for half the price of what you find in the store. Go to my billy dot com slash. Get Real for ten percent off your razor razer. Plus shipping is always free this limited time special offers to go now and save ten percent off your razor at my billy dot com slash. Get real spelled m. y. b. i. l. l. e. dot com mm slash. Get Real. Well hello and happy New Year friends. I hope that y'all had incredible. Start to your New Year and something that I like to do. Every year when embarking on a brand new chapter of life it's like opening a new president. We get to start rash. We get to start clean and we get to realize our intentions with what it is that we want to be achieve achieve How it went to live? I think it's just such a great time to take a breath. Take a break and really focus. Focus in on what we want to put out into the world every New Year because we don't take a minute to think about it and to Get clear then. It's so easy just to get caught up in life and let life start leading us in reacting instead of responding instead of being intentional all and so every new year I like to I had been just writing down all my goals and visions for the year in a note in my phone and I think that's sorry. I'm kind of recovering from allergies. So my voice sounds a little more deepen Manley today. entering my coffee as well so if I take sips of coffee I might have to take a little like a few second breaks to take a few sips of coffee. You know how it is when you have baby got to get your coffee in anyway. I think it's just really amazing to start each new year with a vision board and I had been doing that just writing in my phone on a note in writing down my goals and dreams and like dreams for my family like family goals last year on on the dream was to have a baby Dreams for my career dreams for even Michael's career on there. Because he does. He writes his visions visions down also and so I like to put his visions on the Vision Board. And so I just encourage you all to take a minute and sit down. Get very clear on what it is that you want to achieve this year and it doesn't have to be these great successes like career successes S.'s. Like you don't have to become this business. Mogul or make millions of dollars or do anything crazy but I do think it is important to know where you want to go like dive into your soul. We all came here. Do this earth with the souls. Mission is what I believe. I believe that we came to Earth to have an experience and each one of us has a different blueprint on our heart that we desire to experience in this earth. And you know what it is because when you're doing what fills right to you when you're on your path it feels free. It feels right. It feels easy. It feels joyous. It feels like your elated. You're like Oh my God I could. I just love doing this. I could do this forever. I feel so recharged when you're not on your path you feel drained and you feel resentful. You feel resistance. You feel angry you feel all the negative feelings and so I have lived both sides of that coin where I have been on my path and felt free and light and engaged in love with what I'm doing. I've also been on the path where I felt so much resistance it new literally made me like Keel over and have a panic attack. So I don't know if you relate to that but I do and so after like examining my life in realizing using the difference. I am very intentional about making sure that I live a life where I feel elated and joyful and happy and even though you can't do that every day because we're humans and life happens you can strive for it and to me a big way that I stay in the light on. My Path is by knowing where I want to go and to me. I'm not someone who can just. I have to get clear. I can't dislike. Start living and be like. Oh yeah this this is great. This is great. I need to like sit down. Get Intentional and get clear on what it is that I am trying to do in this life and I think trying to figure out your whole life is too much at once so I think breaking it down and year segments is great because and like I said each. It's new year. You get a chance to reassess you can examine this past year and see what was working for you. What wasn't where were you stressed? Where weren't you stressed? What made you happy? What didn't and then you can tweak your vision? You don't have to figure out at once but I do think for me and I think this helps a lot of people to have a clear set intention and road map of what you WANNA do. This year is so helpful so at the beginning of this year. I'm meeting with my friends. Park has comes out next week. I will be meeting my friends. The following week on January thirteenth. And there's four of us who'd made Vision Board last year. My friend Kristen breast should follow her a little bit fancy. She's amazing she has has a new podcast coming out. Also my friend Molly Irvin who so super inspiring she is just next level inspiration. She has a podcast called Living Foley. y'All should follow her to check her out. Mallory Ervin and my other friend Ashley Wilson. Who is all about living intentionally and she has a great blog? She's he's a beautiful Instagram page where. She just talks about things that she loves intentionally and intentional. Motherhood all sorts of and hers bows and Ashley be a US CBS. And Ashley so check all them out and we made vision boards last year and it was so awesome to see it on my wall every single day because I put put it in my bathroom above the toilet so beautiful and romantic sexy. And every 'cause like you go in your bathroom every single day. I mean you take a shower our there. Let's just be real shower and shave in your bathroom. So that is a place that you're all the time and it's a personal spot because I feel like in your personal bathroom really only when you are going in there and your husband. I mean other people close friends may pop in there but not really. I'm sorry that I am getting being over this cough in your haven't hear me cough and like clear my throat. I'M GONNA try not to because I know it's annoying But it's crazy. See how and you look at it every day it seeps into your mind and it helps you stay clear and that was something that was different for me this year than just having it written down. Because I've always been goal writer like I have notebooks notebooks on notebooks of writing down my visions of Ryan my goals of writing down my dreams in like I've gone back and looked at my notebooks. I have checked checked off every single thing and then the thing in some parts in my notebooks that I've written because I've done this for years for each year I would pretty much. Just write down my goals and then rewrite the down and rewrite here at them down like every month I would clean them up in like take some stuff off. That wasn't resonating anymore. And like just make more precise and that's the thing thing I can ex- off things that didn't feel right like I started off with my notebooks of everything that I had could possibly dream of that I wanted to do and then I started diving into the year diving into my career more and more and I'd be like okay. What actually that doesn't feel right anymore? I'M GONNA take that off. That's not really a goal that I wanna do so you could just clean it up as the year goes on and I went back and checked. I've looked through all my notebooks and pretty much everything that I really wanted to accomplish as accomplished which is amazing so the the power of taking it to an actual picture board was really amazing. Because now I'm looking at things and I might so not just like seeing them and writing and creating a magic picture. I'm actually like looking at pictures On aboard every single day in these pictures it just makes it so much more real so I really think taking it to the board food is kind of next level and help things materialized faster so I'll go and tell you all my goals because I think it's great speaking out loud to these goals that I'm going to be putting on my Vision Board for twenty twenty an I'm GonNa find pictures and you. You know to try to match my goals but my main goal is to trust. That's my word for the pick award every year this year it's trusting. It's trust because after having sunny I started having a lot of anxiety so much anxiety Just about everything that could go wrong young and I think that that's normal to feel. Also I mean I'm still coming off of being completely hormonal of. She's a three almost four months old now. And you know you just fall more in love with your baby every single day. And it's just this huge responsibility that's completely on your shoulders and your and your partner's shoulders and sometimes you. You know single parents like it's all on your shoulders and it's just such a responsibility is such a privilege but it is such a responsibility that for me. I I think I got overwhelmed with everything that could go wrong. Because knowing that I and my husband are solely in charge of keeping her alive is just like oh my gosh. What if something goes wrong? Then it's it's my fault than I'm the only one to blame and I will never be able to live with this and but you can't live like that. That's what I've realized you can't live in crippling anxiety because that's no way to live and then you miss the joy of the blessings in in your life like sunny is the biggest blessing I've ever had in my life. So why am I gonNA wake up every day. Be Crippled by anxiety of the things that are not that it could go wrong instead. Why don't I wake up every day and be surrounded by joy of all the blessings she brings and my brother-in-law told me this night? I don't know if this quiz original L. to him but I'm going to get it wrong but something like God doesn't want us to live to like to live through worries twice that's not how it goes But it's like basically you're not supposed to live through hard times twice like whatever your thinkings can happen in. Your worries is most likely not going to happen. Something else is going to happen when the things that you've worried about really actually happen. It's always some random thing. We worry about things that we see that we hear that we you know about that's happening in the world but more likely that is not going to be the incidents that we personally deal with because those already happened elsewhere. That's already someone else's story. Our story is unique to ourselves and we can't prepare for everything. There's just no way we don't even we know what can happen in this world. It's all free stuff you know and so I feel like for me. My Word is trust. I do not WanNa live in anxiety anymore and for me. The way to combat anxiety is lean more in God. And that's the only way I can do it like I. CanNot Dan not do it on my own. And so I think having sunny is making me realize like I wrote a post about this on my instagram. I'm just talking about my word. For the year and Sunny has made me realize the areas of my life that I have insecurities in in that I need to work John and really what it all boils down to is trusting God. Because it's not up to me to make this life perfect for her. I can only do the best I can do. I know I'm GonNa do my very best every single day. A normal make choices good choices that the best that I can make every day and I cannot live in fear beyond that and I want to enjoy her life and so my word is trust so the center of my Vision Board. I'm going to put trust because I need to trust God. I need to trust the flow of this live. Anita Trust my instincts. I need to trust in Sonny's purpose and her alive trust and Michael's this flow for his wife. Trust Trust Trust that God is in control and that there is a bigger plan at at work here that is not my own because once on-site try to micromanage and once I try to make this life go the way I want to. That is where my anxiety kicks into full force and I don't want to live like that. So trust is my main goal for this year and with trust comes the ability to hand over my anxiety to God because if I trust us that he's in control and if I trust that I'm following the nudges he puts my heart if I trust them doing the best that I can I get my worries immediately over to him and I I don't have to carry them and that is what I want to live. Like in twenty twenty. I do not want to carry burdens. Because they're not mind to carry their Gods God will carry them for us and I am going to take full advantage of his love for me because it's miserable not like I want to be wrapped up in God's Love I want to your wrapped up knowing knowing that he is here for me that he will carry these burns for me that he has my life he has me in his hand. He suddenly in his hands as Michael on his hands. He has all of us in his hand. And so I am not going to carry the burden of worrying about every little detail so trust I am rambling about that. But that's a big deal for me this year and not a big focus for man. I'm going to work every day. Eight to trust and let go worry. Heard all your Mama's parents and everyone out there to do that as well because living in innings -iety is the worst. It's the worst the worst source. And we don't have to do it. We have a resource in God to let go of that so. Let's all try to do that together. Hey guys I wanNA talk to you. About one of the coolest gives you could ever give anyone is called love. Book is such treasurer too such keepsake one of our very best. Friends proposed his fiancee now. Why for the love book it is? The story of your love story is what it is. You create the characters down to what you're wearing accessories you make these characters into who exactly who you are and your love story and you have the option to personalize each page as much as you want. 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Who have tuned in joined in become a part of this community with me because something happened last year when I really started focusing on just having honest conversations with honest women and sometimes I'll throw some guys in here that that are a part of the same kind of conversation that we're having like real heartfelt soulful let's get to the nuts and both of life and if it makes sense for a guy to come on? I'm I'm definitely not going to exclude men but I have just loved getting to be with women and have these intimate deep conversations about their life now especially after being a mom like I wanNA know how people navigate. I WANNA know how you've navigated all the anxiety of being a mother. How Hi you've navigated having your career and being a mother how you've chosen to give up your career? How you navigate marriage how you navigate family life how you navigate insecurities overcoming them? Because now I'm thirty six years old. I'm like Dang it we all are grappling with some major insecurities and so forth issues. And let's not try to hide this. Let's talk about him because every single one of us as a woman is going through stuff and there's nothing to be ashamed about because all all of us are are dealing with something and let's just talk about it and be community and support each other trying to hide behind perfection. Image that let we thought we had to but now I feel like the village is being lifted into me that as I am so grateful for social media and outlets like my podcast in outlets where we can sit down and have real conversations because so many of us are using social media and joining in social media communities to be real and that is what I have found with. All of you is ever since I've started having these real honest conversations with women you guys is have started participating and I get so many messages in so many comments from y'all saying like oh my gosh I relate to this. Thank you for talking about this. This is what I'm going through you and that is my goal. I want us to not feel alone. I want every single one of us who are out there doing the best we can. Whether we're married not married looking for love can't can't find it feel unworthy raising children with a partner raising children on our own trying to figure out our career just struggling with all these big huge life questions feeling overcoming incidents that happened to us it makes us feel insecure or unlovable. Like all this stuff. We do not have to feel alone because when you listen to the stories of these women that I am talking with. They are sharing that. They have gone through this. They have been and through really hard times and it is not what defines us. Yes it is it it does define us. It took it. It is a these are huge moments in our lives that are defining thing but it doesn't have to be who we are. We can use them as lessons. We can use them as stepping stones. We can use them as our message to the world so many times times more often than not the pain that we have to go through is actually our message to the world if we can get on the other side of it but is up to us to take hold of that pain pain to take hold of that fear of exposing ourselves thinking that we won't be loved to realize that once you can talk about something once you can get on the other side of it and share your story the impact. You can have the amount of people that you can reach the healing that can be done is just exponential and so that is why I have loved dubbed having these honest conversations because the healing that is happening it heals me every time I have a conversation with one of these women and I know it it it oftentimes heels. I guess getting to just talk about stories. I've had so many times where I'm interviewing an amazing woman and they're like oh my gosh. I didn't even realize this was happening in my life. or Oh my gosh. I didn't even put that together. This is so healing and then I hear from you is like wow. That was such a healing story. That person really inspired me in. It is everything to me. It makes see feel like this is worth it like. This is like the work in life that I want to do because I love having conversations and I love having real intimate conversations and I'm I'm just so grateful that I have the access choctaw. These amazing women who are willing to share and then I have the access to you guys who are joining in and being a part part of this and it is just so overwhelming it feels I feel so much love and I hope that you guys feel the that love because that is the point of all this just to. I know that we are in this thing together. Let's stick together. Let's support each other. Let's not try to be perfect and let's not. Let's let's not be ashamed of we are. We can and just be proud of who we are. Let's see our stories. That is my goal so I appreciate you guys for that so I just want my podcast to keep impacting to keep growing to keep having amazing using guests on and I eventually want a goal for me myself at the end of this year. Is I want to take my podcast on a little podcast store. I don't know exactly where it doesn't. I don't want to start off huge but I would like to make it a show where I go to cities in have these conversations live live and actually I would love to hear your feedback. If you think that something that you'd be interested in doing because and have guests come with me and just have like awesome intimate conversations and inhabit like in a show type form. So that's the goal is to take my podcasts on the road this just a little bit at the end of this year. So let me know if if if that's something that you think that would be cool because I feel inclined to do that. I feel like that's my next step with this in growing it and then eventually I would love to who somehow turn get real into a book like have some sort of book that goes along with it whether I'm just focusing on stories of conversations. I've I've had weather I don't know maybe it's like I assess lessons. I've learned from doing these interviews and tournament chapters and use examples. I don't know exactly how the book would unfold. But that's a goal is to have a book that kind of just goes along with all these messages that keep coming out of this podcast So also any tips or ideas that you guys have on that share with me because I love you. All's input but that's a goal so taking my podcast on the road during a tour having a book And then I don't know what this will look like but I see everything is stemming from this podcast this podcast is that is the nuts and bolts of who I am and it's the messages that I want to get across. I just want it to have the as is big wife as it can get so one day I would love to see get real turned into some sort of like digital TV show or TV show or radio show or something. I don't know maybe it just stays the podcast. I'm not sure but I just see it growing in the reach like maybe we add a visual element to it somehow. So maybe that just means I make it like a talk show for a youtube channel. I don't know exactly what I see like a visual element joining get real and making it more interactive in that way where you can actually like participate with me and my guests visually and see us on my screen. So I mean I would love it to be some sort of TV thing. But I don't know I don't know how that is or even radio. I'm not sure or maybe we just keep it the podcast. I'm not sure but those are my goals for the podcast is just keep growing growing it. gone a little podcast tour and start preparing for a book to be in association with this podcast And then for my family. I just want to simplify I. I want to be present. I want to be completely Engaged in Sonny's life and Michael's life I I. I want to be able to participate with Michael on he. He's obviously you've been following me on. Oh He's a musician he travels and he has and exciting year with a new record and a new single and new music and new opportunities. And he's GonNa be chasing those which is so exciting and I love to be able to join him on that so not all the time. Because I don't WanNa leave sunny and we can't take her everywhere but I want to be able to go with him to certain events and be a part of that so so but I also just want to be present with my family and so that's another big goal I've chased and chase and chase for so long and I've gotten so involved with the community and I'll I was a person who was always going to everything all the time and now this is crazy. 'cause I've always been a yes person that this year twenty twenty is my year of. No I'm going to be no person this year which is crazy to thank. Because everyone's like say yesterday say yes it is and I've always been that person that says yes. Yes yes but now. I'm no no no because what I have. The joy that I have in my life is right in front of me right now. I have so great right for all those years where I've got to hustle and literally like do everything and have the freedom to do that but now at Sonny's here after my time Heim is so valuable to me there. I have so little free time because I'm I have the gift to be a hand mom because with my podcast I can make my own schedule will and work from home and I'm so thankful for that. I know a lot of people. Don't have that option and we all have to do it. We have to do But I think all of us have to figure figure out how to use the time that we do have wisely and for me. I don't want I want to be home with my family as much as possible and so I I'm saying no unless something is a hell. Yes my sister told me this she got it from someone. I don't I forgot who but I love this unless it is a hell. Yes then. It's a hell no for me this year and I'm excited about that. I'm excited about scaling. Back on being busy and more focus on purposeful living and to me the the three things that are really the only thing to spend my time on our my family. Which is Michael Sunny and the my extended family and obviously like close friends? I want to be there for my close friends. I WANNA be there for my family. I want to really pour into my podcast because that is very important to me. And it's such an outlet for my heart and I feel like it is very important work that I have been blessed with the ability to be the Vessel to to do and I want to keep pouring into that and then I want to be able to have adventure and experiences with Michael and honestly my that would go back to my number one family so really. It's just two things focus on family and building a life in adventure an adventure full. That's not a word an adventurous life life. That is Really focused and intentional. I want to focus on that. And then I want to focus on really having an intentional Being intentional with my podcast. So those are my goals. It's scaled-back this year for me Before I had tons of goals on there but now I just I really want to focus on what's right in front of me and I'm so thankful for what's right in front of me. I'm so blessed for it. I've prayed for all of this to happen. And it's it's all shown up for me at this point. I had seasons of life where I have been so lost and so confused and I had no idea or I was going. And if you're in one of those seasons right now and you're trying to like write a vision board or Creative Vision Board. I would just start really small. Just really get quiet and try to focus focus on what has brought you joy in your life like when you're doing something when you've done things in life is focused on the things that have brought you the most joy in your life life that could turn into your career or that argest heart fulfilling whether it's like okay when I spend time with this person and we did this. I had so much joy or when I was able to give back in this way I had so much joy and just write down where you have experienced France the most joy in your life and just keep focusing on where those areas are and write them down and write them down and write them down. And I'm telling can you. It will slowly materialize and you will find a way to have more of that in your life whether it be in a job form or whether it be extracurricular outside side of your job if you focus on where you have your joy and you really prioritize on like making time to have more of that joy it will keep showing up more in your life. You'll get more opportunities for more of that joy so if you're feeling lost right now that's what I encourage you to do right down where you feel joy and then do that. Make time for it prioritize it even if you feel like you have no extra time because you have a life that is like busy and tough and you're I'm trying to make ends meet make it a priority to put that joy in your life because you have to have joy in your life that is to me. That is one of the key things in this life. We have to figure out a way to have Choi. So that's my Encouragement if you're flying lost right now and if you feel unworthy or if you feel oh like nothing's ever GonNa work out for you know that we've all felt that way. Every single one of us has felt unworthy. My biggest struggle in life is that I haven't felt worthy and so many people think that's shocking. Because really what you seem like. You're so have it together and you're so happy and in your life is so great. I struggled with unworthiness my whole life and so if you I feel that way do not feel alone because we all feel that way and that's just part of the human experience so don't feel weird or batter like ashamed of that because every racing one of us struggles with something on that kind of level and it's just a part of the human experience and I'm telling you just keep going for joy and keep choosing to SOC- the bright side I just interviewed my friend Miley Masan and she is an amazing person. Checkout her interview my podcast. If you haven't she's by nine lives from being a Popstar to going Italy following following love that ending and having babies in like reinventing herself for the career getting another deal at the same time. She's pregnant having to walk over the record deal she was like started off as Johnny Depp's waitress in La. She's had a crazy life but she said what does she say she said. Look look for the positive in the world I think is what she said. Choose to see the positive and choose the love every day and it just will change your life and we can change the world. I'm not quoting her correctly but it was something like that will lead with. Love is what she said. Lead with. Love lead with positivity that is profound bound lead with love lead pro positively. I catch myself all the time wanting to Kinda complain or like if something gets stressful wanting to kind of talk about the hard stuff of it and my last mom chat that I just put up was on gratitude and reframing the way I think because like sometimes on my gosh all I do is like. I'm busy busy busy all day. Like I'm Waking Sunny. Feeding sunny cleaning bottles pumping the Duma podcast inbetween stuff than have different deals deals that I deal with brands like doing different brands like inbetween her other naps. And then showing up for Michael being a good wife for him trying to show for my friends and they have stuff going on traveling home to see my family only like. It's all stuff that I want to do so might as semi saying Oh my gosh. I'm so tired and I'm so as a so hard and this is tedious and I'm not getting any sleep and I never get a break. Thank Goodness Gracious. I am blessed. I'm getting to do these things that bring me life that bring me joy I get to serve the people that I love and I also getting to fulfil my own heart's desires like yes. I'm busy but praise God like I am busy like I'm getting to do things I love. So thank you Jesus and that is how I am trying to you reframe when I feel overwhelmed is just be grateful for all the blessings I get to do. Even if it stuff that's tedious. It's like what is my goal. Why am I doing doing tedious things? What is the ultimate goal? That I'm doing this work for okay. Even if you're doing your job that you don't love like you're doing the job to get a paycheck to provide arrive alive for yourself so you can have house so you can take care of your children. That's a blessing. It's a blessing and you can always keep working towards like being more or filled with your days more fulfilled with what you're doing but for the moment if you're doing something and it is bringing you a mean sin end that provides for your life than that is something to be grateful for and it's just taking the time to reframe our thoughts and of course we're not going to do it all the time because we're humans but it's a goal all and it's a goal that I'm working on is to reframe to live and gratitude so further new year. I encourage all you guys to lead with. Love find something to be grateful for. Start a vision board. It doesn't have to be huge to dig in your heart and figure out what it is. That really is calling calling you. What is calling you to do to be to simplify? Maybe you're being called not to adding to your vision board board but take way. Maybe it's like you know what I'm not going to be. Yes person this year. I'm not going to go and do all these things. I'M NOT GONNA over exert myself off in areas that I don't need to. I'm going to say no to everything I until it's a hell. Yes maybe that's what it is a year of simplifying. Maybe you're really not loving in your career and you're like Gosh. I want a new career but I know where to start. Start by writing down. What brings you joy? I'm telling you I think you could always find a job Bob. A job can show up. That brings you joy if you keep looking for but you have to identify what it is identified jobs. That would be your dream job. Identify someone on who you know. Who's doing something that you love and go talk to them? Ask them how they do. It asks for advice. Just just start getting proactive active. On what brings you joy and I'm telling you the more focus on what brings you joy. The more joy comes in your life and help somebody share your heart. was someone one. Don't try to be perfect when someone crosses your path and you feel called to tell them nice word do something nice for them. You see someone someone who has four kids and they're single mom and they need a hand and you feel inclined to drop them off dinner do it. Mother Teresa's said never suppressive generous thought and if you feel inclined inclined to do something generous and kind for someone just do it and let's have twenty twenty the best year our lives. Let's trust that. Were moving in the right direction. Let's trust our instincts which trust let's trust flow and let's have the best year yet so I love. You is thank you all for being here with me on this journey and I it. Just send you guys all blessings and love and happy. Happy Twenty twenty. Hey guys with the holidays coming up. Don't you want to give a really special. Oh personalized gift to your loved. Ones will the answers here. It's a love book. One of our very best friends propose to his fiancee now. 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It Can Only Go Up From Flavor-Town

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It Can Only Go Up From Flavor-Town

"The phone rang. PODCAST is a deer media production. Welcome to the absolutely not podcast where we do the most in the least at the same damn time. I'm your host. Heather McMahon all right boys and Girls Ladies and Gentlemen Woman Dons and can't gerbils ferrets. It's another episode of the absolutely not five gassed. I'm your host Heather McMahon I'm coming to joyfully from Atlanta Georgia. Back in my mom's house for the week I just got back from Mexico touchdown just a hot second La bump and a skip ago. A bump trump said that it's because I just came back from Mexico did not do McCain. There was offered it many times. We'll get into that just a moment. I got plenty of south of the border. Absolutely what's and we're GONNA get into some of the you know the goals for twenty twenty or we're trying to accomplish what we're trying to not get you know in trouble with either. Now we're doing the most not the least this year but I want to ease into the year. You know what I mean I gotta catch my breath. We all got to take a second. This is the thing I always start my workout regimen Jim in February. I don't even fuck January. This whole dry January to me to be honest with you is an absolutely not personally for me. You want to know why because towards the end I decided I am not going to abuse alcohol. You know what I mean. I think I was working so much towards the end. I didn't really drink. That much. Went on a lovely vacation to Mexico but really kinda chilled. I wasn't hitting the nightclubs disco tax if you will. I was really having a couple Margaritas and truly trying to be in bed by eight. PM Every night. Sometimes I was in bed by two. Do it all depended we will get into the entire Mexico trip but for those of you who are really just go and dry bone dry cold Turkey. Hot Turkey early like cold Turkey. Well no I like cold Turkey. I'll tell you one thing I can't do. I cannot reheat meet the next day if you take chicken or Turkey any any kind of foul really and try and reheat it. It'll tastes like plastic. That was sitting in a public pool for too long. Do know what I'm saying like if you were to lick the underbelly of a child floaty that had been sitting out in the sun and a Ymca public pool. That is what chicken chicken or any sort of poultry tastes like so. I hope you're not going. I guess go cold Turkey. Don't go hot Turkey on me because that's disgusting. I mean listen if you if you have a drinking problem problem like families abandoned you you know. They've threatened to take away. Sixteen of your your cats that you're hoarding. Because you're drinking so bad then great. Yeah absolutely early dry January. Then that means you actually have a physical lick horrific problem. You're losing friends. If your job hasn't called you back then for sure you you need to be participating in January but for everybody else's but this crazy pressure on themselves to you know not going to drink to me. It just makes me crazier but what I've realize as an amateur adult is when I go out now I just enjoy myself and don't blackout crazy concept but if you can go and and just enjoy your life have a glass of wine or two and really go to be around people in good company instead of feeling like you have to have sixteen yeager bombs before you go out. You'll be fine now. I understand that most doing dry January. Because they're like okay but I don't drink eat healthy. I'M GONNA. I'M NOT GONNA have anything to Termi from stepping into my my health and wellness goals. But I gotta be honest with you. I think we get a look. Cray cray right out the gate for me. I don't really start my week until really my new year. Until about the eighth or ninth and I don't know if it's because I'm a middle of the second week of Gallon General. I always get stressed out on the first bills. Or what do your credit cards do. I just kind of ignore that. Even when I didn't have money like I've always just pushed bills to lease the tenth stretch. It see how far I can stretch it before they collect at your front door before they find out where you live so for me I really plan on doing zero regimen really starting kick-starting any sort sort of New Year program until about you know. Actually I might stretch to the fifteenth. And that's where I'm at speaking of the Fifteenth La. I'm coming to do to secret shows or not secret anymore. We're doing to industry. Pop Up shows the fifteenth in the sixteenth at the Improv in L. A.. Of course it sold out like point three seconds. I am so appreciative Previti came. I said this on the last podcast. I'll say it again. If you're going to shows I need you to just be decked out ready to go down to clown. Having a good time there are going to be people there in the audience a and this is not like. I'm like planting people but there will be people in the audience. You could possibly make or break my career so if you see somebody in a suit said this I believe last time on the podcasts gas. Or somebody who looks like they got drug to the show. I want you to just go up to them by the bar and say. Hey you need to give heather McManus show. Oh she's ready to be a mega fucking star. Twenty twenty and and I'm going to manifest for you. Come find me after the show. Tell me what you need to do if you need me to. Go to your law professor professor and say Listen Ronnie. Were done either. You give my girl Claire and A or I'll burn down your house by all means I'm ready to do it. I'm I'm here for you. You're here for me. I'm so excited to the shows and y'all for everybody else in L. A.. We're playing a huge theater in La. It's coming this spring. We have not announced yet. Hang hang tight. WE'RE COMING TO CHICAGO. We're going to Boston Minneapolis. I mean all over. We're literally doing forty more tour dates and all new cities is year. I don't know why those just came to the top of my mind in all of Texas. We're in more parts in the south. I mean we're doing literally everywhere so hang tight. Stay tuned everything on instagram. And on this podcast. I will be announcing tour dates rates as they come. I'm excited to get back on the road but I'm also excited just to have some time in La to do the damn thing. Doggy you know what I mean. I am so frigging excited to work. And I think we've been on the road and as a comic. That's just like that is what literally like sets my titties on fire. You want to give me an automatic like hot hot flashed on my pussy. Allow me to perform. And that's what makes me happy but it's interesting the way that we decided to these two little shows it's truly because you don't know pilot season is pilot season season is basically I mean it's so fucking stupid but it's where they started to cast for all the new shows not only am I trying to sell my own show a network that I wrote and have obviously he created like this is my little angel baby nugget. I really WANNA come off from the momentum in this team that I had a two thousand nine hundred and I want to sell this show because I want you to be able to watch me every day on television Asian nine on instagram. Because instagram doesn't pay me they don't so anyways I've kind of the idea behind these shows they'll be ninety nine percent of people who are so excited to be there and then like the one percent of interns who have to just go and take notes because their boss told them to but in the meantime we're gonNA trick everybody into thinking that I should have my own. TV show. So I'm so excited. Did your onboard. I'm so excited you're coming and if you didn't make it to the show don't worry this literally the tiniest theater of played it's like two hundred seats at tiny. We're going to do a huge theater tour coming this spring. And we're probably probably GONNA announce at the end of January so get very excited. Buckle up baby it's GONNA be awesome get a merry Christmas happy new year. Happy Hannukah Kwanza. We're in it. It's a new decade a New Year. New Me actually. It's a new year. Same Old Bullshit. I'm here to Giggle. We're here to talk about absolutely nuts. It we're to manifest our truth speak it into existence. Vengeance is mine says the Lord embarrassed for Satan. Oh I'm sorry Lucifer. Did you think you were going to show up in twenty twenty the new decade and steal my joy from the Lord. Oh absolutely frigging not you know who shines bright like a diamond Riana and my Lord and Savior. Jesus Christ you you know who else shine spray liquid each and every one of you listening you want to know why because from my lips to God's ears I want everybody to be blessed this year and honestly I it can only go up from last year last year was a really wild ride and a great you one of the best years of my life. The three years previous previous prior were the worst darkest deepest nasty as years so like okay. Two Thousand Nineteen sucked a really can only go up from here. I'm GonNa tell so you kind of how I started my year. We'll get into Mexico in a minute but one thing that happened to me is I started my twenty twenty so low so bottom of the barrel. I Shit Shit myself at the Cancun airport well not fully. It was a little bit of a sneak attack. I made it to the bathroom but got to be honest with you. Saw The light at the the end of the tunnel. You know what I mean did not know if I was GONNA make it. If you've ever been to the Cancun airport. We went to to loom to Christmas to looms really funky European part of of Mexico really makes you feel like you're French Riviera like everyone's in thongs. It's a vibe. Everyone as a full-blown Tan. They wear a lot of dude with like you know so Like selene and like off White Virgil at Blah blow. Whatever the hell his name is like like men unlike Louis Vitton bathing suits it's with one feather Dang leering? You know what I mean where they are but they're trying to look like hipster potentially kind of like earthy guys but it's like you have on off white white bathing suit bottoms. Your bathing suit. Bottoms alone was somebody's studio apartment. Rent in Miami Beach. Do you know what I'm saying. Okay we'll get into Zulu in a second so till about two hours hour and a half south of the Cancun Airport Cancun's very touristy by when you get to the airport and I'm just so you know even the Kabul airport. There is nothing to eat in these airports like one starbucks a pharmacy and like a Margarita. Ville so obviously I had to hit the Guy Fieri. I wanted wanted a one way ticket to flavor town like I'm like let's fuck it up. I always stop at the Guy Fieri restaurant and the Cancun airport and listen. I should have known better absolutely not had their. You knew new better every time you come to the Guy Feary restaurant. Something dramatic happens we got the trash can not chose which come in this weird trash. Can you flip them upside down over. The table are the played you pull up. The trash can the NACHOS fall it would be like a domino effect and really and truly. It's just like really shitty. She Eddie thinly sliced Jalapenos just fallen out the bottom. This isn't like an art basel moment if you will. It's just not shows that were shoved in a can that it looks like a tin trash can that they then flip upside down near play. We only had a little bit of time before to fly. We got the trash can not chose. I got the Vegas fries. Don't let me describe the Vegas fries. Is there curly thick wedge fries but that are cut where they almost havoc curlicue at the end. You know when you're like slight when you take nine a knife yeah knife or scissors and you do. They're really sharp edge. That really against like Oh fuck. Both you're trying to make a bow on the end of of what am I trying to say like a president. Be No when you take the blade and whatever like material you're using and use almost slice your finger open by like S- cutting it really close closed and it makes that noise. I don't know what I'm talking about the noise but regardless that's what the fries look like. They were like a curly fry but where they just kind of flipped up at the end. It wasn't like they were full curl. Because they were fat they were like a wedge like a wedge fry but then also had that little clip at the end. I've just fucking butchered that. Okay okay. I'm sorry Mexico's fucked me up fries. Add a W- ASAMI blue cheese. Now I'm GonNa go ahead and tell you this guy. I hope you're listening. I couldn't think of two flavors at couldn't go worse together like do a spicy Asami blue cheese fuck is that I know. You're trying to take me to flavor town but at this point you just took me to diarrhea. Ville okay because about point three seconds after dipped one of those fat weird Wedge Fries which mind you okay you got the Asami blue cheese and you gotTa side of Buffalo Sauce now. I don't know about you you but I thought that the fries we're gonNA come fully loaded with the buffalo and the blue cheese was Sabi blue cheese wherever the fuck it was on the FRY now guy is making me do the work so now I gotTa dip them and then it came with again back to the curlicue when you're you're doing you know the fancy ribbon on a president show much shredded fuck and celery and carrots. It wasn't like tangent we'd like you couldn't in grab it with your hands and then like eat it with the FRY. The accoutrements the decorative added celery crew. If you will on on top of the Vegas fries was bullshit. All you needed to do. Give me some curly Q.. Fries some regular fucking blue cheese and then the buffalo sauce. Why you'd mix buffalo with Assab Babi again too much fucking heat? I don't care who you are is too much heat. But you know he's all about the flavors you guys like a Bang Bang sauce and a full throttle taki sauce. And you're like. Why did you bring a donkey barnyard animal into this absolutely not just call it a hot sauce? Call it guys hot sauce long story short. We got that we got some sliders Then I spilled my mom's Cappuccino. All over the trash can NACHOS and isolate late them off the top. Do you know what I mean Robinson as we could all these things so I'm shovelling shit and my mouth and all of a sudden it hits me I get about Six or seven bites. We know a bite of each going around the table really Lazy Susan Ing it kind of Spin in a plate grab a bite and it hits me and I say I look Javan go is set. I'm about to shit. Myself ran to the bathroom. Barely made it. Joe described you. What happened to me because I'll just put it this way? I am in a large urge public bathroom and Gang Koon and I have six women call out to me from serpents ause and go are you okay and honestly one appreciated the Camaraderie rothery appreciated the wellness update truly a wellness check. And I said I don't know my voice started to quiver a little bit and I had to translate a little bit in Spanish. You know what I mean. I had a couple of people who said. Are you OK in Spanish and I could understand and I said Komo's at Ise Unwell L.. Nobody no so I got on this flight and I said I think I I you know I hope I make it. I made it back to Atlanta. But that's how my twenty twenty started did New Year's Day essential immediate food poisoning from guy fairies and I thought for sure I mean I got diarrhea oven on a Mexico. But here's the thing I said this last last year got assert shredding for the wedding between that and hopefully this parasite I'll get in Thailand. Like I'm hoping that I mean I listen. I came back from Mexico six pounds lighter and I've been eating have portions Sion's my stomach I just can't eat at all. I don't even really have diarrhea anymore. I'm just letting you know that Mexico to me is a pure place and the severe Jay on the roadside stand. It did make me sick. It was immediate guy. Fieri so guy. I like a personal apology. And I like for you to explain to me why. There's a Sabi blue cheese and let me tell you something right now I fuck up condiments. I'm economy queen. I will literally put sixty five sauces out. I go to Chick-fil-a just to get every sauce. I invented the same called all the zip-line dip a long time ago. I was super over one day and lined up all my chicken nuggets and I had all of my dips out. It would be great. If there is a zip-line that I could just connect my chicken nugget to one side of the zip line and literally let it run through all the sauces and then into my mouth. That's the kind of invent vint America baby genius I am and my friend looked at me and goes wow heather you must be that hung over and you're also really fucking lazy but this is the kind of like you know now. Genius said that just struck with it when I'm hung over and I thought of ZIP line dip awhile ago Haven't been able to get a patent on it. Still working on that patent pending so so don't train steal my idea said here I but that's where I'm at basically what I'm trying to say is I would fuck up a mixture of condiments but was sobbing. Blue Cheese is it's unacceptable and it's just didn't need to happen and I believe that was the main culprit for you know essentially me shitting myself January first all of this being said I. I just want to let you know if you had a bad new year's or if something right out the gate January I it's sucked for you. Just remember the year can only go up from here all it. Can It only go up. It can only go up from feary. I don't know about you but one of the goals that I have. This year has been more time in bed a little bit of getting freaky in a lot of just hell relaxing relaxing. I had a real busy and I am excited to actually kick my feet up. Relax and enjoy just taking some time off and how am mcadoo that. I'll tell you what my new damn sheets and comforter from Buffy buffy has changed the game if you're like me and one near freezing the next one you have hot wild hormonal sweats. And you can't figure out what to do. buffy betting will literally change your life. 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If you haven't listened to my podcast the bitch which Bible brace yourself pour yourself a stiff drink and get ready to laugh your ass off or cry. Make sure you subscribe yourself to the Bitch. Bible podcast right eighth. Now you're going to F ing love it so that's where we're in. Our life got a lot of things planned my a real big goal. This year is to sell my show and to make it. I want to manifest. I'm speaking it into existence right now. I want to be at the twenty twenty one golden Globes emmys probably the EMMYS EMMYS is more because at the end of the year the Golden Globes. Even if I sell the show only shoot the pilot will be able to do a whole season. I'm I think what's realistic. DOC is a frigging emmys. But I'M GONNA say Golden Globes to twenty twenty one. We got this baby. We got this. Okay so a little recap of my Mexican adventure ensure going down to to loom. If you don't know about to loom to loom is just a really cool. It's very big. It's she gets echo. It's funky imagine took a bunch of ex pats and you put them on the beach somewhere right. You took a bunch of people from like France and Europe and Spain. It's all these like really cool Europeans and and they've all moved down to this gorgeous white. Sandy Turquoise water part of the Gulf of Mexico IT'S A. It's a two hour south of Cancun to lose this hidden in Gem. There's incredible restaurants there used to be nothing at all touristy about him. It's like one way in one way out on this beach road and we say to COSIMO CO which cheers Pablo Escobar's oldest date which was so funky and this Colombian. Our dealer took over it years ago. So it's just got tons of art in the rooms are insane and I really was like like I'm GonNa treat myself for the beginning of the Strip where we fucked up was. We decided to extend her stay through. Because we have friends coming down so we got a Condo an beautiful oh airbnb it was great. You're there anytime else. During the year had been easy to get to and from where to go three miles from the main drag up to our condo one night it took us an hour and a half to go three miles because literally to get to the beach. You're going down a tiny dirt road at that point like the first week. During Christmas it was relaxing is amazing. But then was all of our friends came in town and we had to move AIRBNB. It became a cluster. Fuck of stress. I couldn't put my mom in a cab. People were trying to swindle us in the cab like just an Fyi when you go to Mexico always negotiate the price before you get in. I mean it's really anywhere but specifically high season in Mexico one night. We paid two hundred and fifty pesos. So for a cab the next day to go literally three miles. They want to charge his sixteen hundred pesos. No AMIGO EGO Lucian. Tomas Manila's Kenyan mallow. But I know how to negotiate. Oh you know what I'm saying so it just became stressful and I realized I forget that like new. Eight years is so hyped for me. New Year's has never been honestly ever a holiday. I've enjoyed I've never done a right. Even though we're in paradise with friends at the beach to me the whole night I was like okay. I got to stay sober enough because I negotiate with cabdriver. Ds Three Miles down. The road was should take ten minutes but because there were so. Many people trying to go to these nightclubs nightclubs that were on the beach. I mean there's a cool way Scott Gaetano onto my favorite restaurants archive Mir Mira down. There is amazing but just because of the sheer amount of like one. We're on a dirt road into it's pitch black and there were so many people trying to go to these like cool beach bars. I was just stressed. I was truly stressed all the time I could put my mom comedy Gabon Resolve. Where are Kanda was was like not very well lit? It was beautiful new development but it was still in your in Mexico and you could be like the coolest ever her and then you just go around the corner and you realize you're like I forgot we're in Mexico. Do you know what I'm saying. And I'm not saying that in a negative tone as in like I've loved Mexico. I'm one with the people. I love the cuisine. I love the language. I'm feeling the vibe but there are moments where you're like Oh shit I forgot. I forgot I had to like kind of kick into where it was one night. My sister's friends came down from Atlanta and she was out partying and listen. I don't care what anybody says. Absolutely not for me being grandma. But we'd moved at the CONDO and I was dressed until until she got home. Okay where are was dark. You couldn't see where you were going. A lot of people didn't even allow the cab. Drivers didn't even know the name of the new development. I was stressed I was up to three forty five in the morning waiting for her. Sorry ass to get home you know. And this is who I've become so the tail in my trip was just I was essentially like the safety. He police and nobody likes to safety police. You know I was getting offered drugs. Hey Mishima's Miss Lady Miss Lady Cook Ena Cook Ena Cook I wanna Meta. How did you WANNA and you're like? Oh yes but not now sir. You know my sister's little she's got brittle baby bird bones. She is a criminal defense attorneys. Usually backing can he not in Mexico. But I had that moment where I couldn't sleep well night until I knew all my chickens were under one roof and my mom was bitching and then of course when my sister comes comes the door my mom actually. She's not mad anymore. Like you find your home but the entire time I ended listen to her bitch for four and a half hours. About what a degenerate. My sister was how she saying late. As you drink too much and I'm like you know mom say to her face but my mom does every time she bitches to my sister about her being a floozy Hussy a lady the night staying up late making her worry and then as soon as she comes in and we know she's totally fine. It's like bygones be bygones. And I'm like I listen to you bitch for six and a half hours and now you're just GonNa let it roll off your skin. Oh Hell no hell. Now I've thought about setting all my sisters key classrooms are on fire fire just a once in smoke signal out through the jungle to let the cabdriver nowhere to drop her and to let her know that I was pissed that I couldn't sleep so the first part of my trip relaxing the end of the trip I didn't go to bed before four. Am a single night. I was either babysitting navigating because I don't know about us. Since my dance died I kind of stepped into the role of my dad is and like I just interesting. How like role dynamics change in the family when now the muscle? I'm the one who does all of her travel. I I put us in an Uber. I make dinner reservations. You know I just kind of keep everybody together. My mom had no point and no point even absorb the name of the hotel we were saying. I wanted to send her home early from dinner one night and this was fine. I didn't mind putting your cab just on the beat along the main beach road. Easy as mom. Where's our hotel she with? I do know I'm like you. They were saying Costume Malka. We've only said it a million times like what the hell the name of the places and I'm like this is what I'm dealing with. I need everybody to stay at ten and to stay alert I just know where the hell you are unless it Mexico's a wonderful beautiful safe place but just got went. Once that new year's fide came in and I knew that all quote unquote burners were. Were there all the parties were there. I said Great. This is when you have to be careful because they don't WanNa fuck with me they wanNA fuck with some dumb ass girl from like USC who's walking on the beach in a White Thong would butterfly wings on going to a fucking Edm concert and the jungle. That's a bitch who's going to get a bad tamale or accidentally good on on a dark alley to buy some drugs next you know. She's in the crossfire of two cartels. I'm not about that life. I'm not I'll tell you what though if you do. Good Unto Saloum on your way back you absolutely without a doubt must and I'm pissed we didn't do it. Stop and you're going to think I'm fucking crazy. Absolutely yes the stopping at the H. M. That is implied imply Dole Carmen Playa. Del Carmen's got a big they call fifth avenue. It's a lot more built up. It's much more touristy. But that H is clean as H. M. They have the best swag agg- I would fly back to Mexico just to go to the gym. I've been going to that one for years. I've said it before I'll say it again. Best in the World Plateau Carmen Mexico. Easy Easy Breezy. Right below the Thompson Hotel on Fifth Avenue. But yeah if you're going to loom state custom Malka. It was amazing. The no man's next door the GNOME. Okay let me tell you what happened one day at lunch. The no man is as like bungalow. Cool Chic everything down into loom is not like your typical hotel. Everything is very much so like inspired by Europeans. It's just very chic now. The problem is there is apparently a documentary out called like what's wrong with to loom or are how someone something like destroying to loom Beasley how to got built up and it was so perfect and then it got built up so quickly that the infrastructure is strong enough to hold like their sewer system and all these things it's right in the jungles who is the beach in the jungle side will barely like Ben. Once a wool was pulled over my eyes. I was like Oh okay I see that like Oh. That's why it smells like sewage around around the corner because they never properly installed any sort of sewer system so then I become also a little jaded. Everything's popping up now again go there. It's amazing it's incredible but I also then started to feel like kind of like an asshole. I was like in my part of the problem. They're very big on recycling and Colm posting composting. Boosting all that shit but then we read the nomad which is like Uber Chic. It's right next to Cosimo calm. The nomad is that place where everybody is is in a phone. Unlisted I've been trying to make conservative bathing suits where they hold you in the front but then your ass cheeks full on the back. I don't know about you. I love my body. Audie love my ass but I want to hold everything together in the front so again putting that on the Vision Board we're GONNA DO Thong one pieces that hold up your titties but everybody episode l.. The no man was in a fall to the point. Where your leg league get it? Okay your body's Air I. Oh it's airbrushed okay cool cool. I've got it now shouted Dow so anyways we go to the nomad and we sit down at the table and this guy I I thought he was speaking in a Russian accent almost like with a touch of German. So okay we sit down to table. The table is set for six but they see their anyways. The great we're having lunch by the beach is going to be great next thing. You know. This guy runs up to our table like five minutes later. Huge what I thought was maybe like a German Danish guy but with the thick like Russian accidents at our table gave us table back. That is my table and so literally just like fuck you on not getting up the New Yorker POPs out you know. And he's he's like no and then the guy tiny little cabana guy runs overdoses like. Hey we'll move you table next door that guys that table I was like okay. Yeah but we've been here but whatever whatever I'm not gonNA argue whatever we'll move smaller table there's only four of us fine but the guy was such a prick about it who's table. It was so he sits down. We moved to a table next tomb. E sitting there for like forty five minutes so we showed up Jeff's huffing and puffing he's finished jazz about the fuck this guy up almost let them know. What's good oh yeah? Are you going to knock us out of our table. Then I'm like we. Hf hold up. He's speaking Russian then. He starts speaking perfect Spanish and it clicked. I was getting so nervous. I literally grabbed Jaffna. Jeff is honestly a lot lot of bark no bite like. He's a gentle teddy bear. I don't think jeff would have like really started something like Jeff. Let it go once. I heard the guy speak Russian and then Spanish I fucking panicked. I was like Oh no he runs the curtail. Okay fully runs a cartel. It's a New Year and I'm sure a lot of us have new year's resolutions. 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Now he talked about it on instagram. I saw deal go down guys. I saw something good down. I don't even know if it's smart for me to be talking about it Ba- let me just tell you what I saw now. My best friend Raymond sought to. I'm not going to tell you where we were. I can't give away those details. I don't know if these people follow me. I'm not trying to die today but I for sure without a doubt saw this deal go down. Were at this really fancy actress. Italian restaurant that was near the CONDO window. We were staying at which clearly all like really rich to loom rich Mexican guys. This is where they lived very fancy not on the beach where it's touristy Christie very fanciest wearing their rain I are sitting next to each other shoulder to shoulder my momma sister sitting across so much that the head of the table but just back my mom. My sister's back are all like facing against what we see happen. All of a sudden I see this guy come up. And he's a very attractive. Young man almost kind of looks. Like who's buried deleting Easter. You know talking about. I can't think of his name chase. That's not chase. Whatever that guy you know what I'm saying brody what does name anyways? This guy's really attractive. He's he's walking up and he's got a suitcase and he's yelling at these two other guys who are running the restaurant and he's like I'm done. I'm done the cabdriver me over the mall nowhere and he's speaking in English with a with a A little accent. He's like I'm done. I can't do this anymore. I'm exhausted. That cabdriver nowhere. I'm pissed so the two guys vice who are running this restaurant gate the whole night. One guys unlike A onesie from Morocco like this cool she calf Tanny Onesie Linzie moment. That's made out of this really nice linen that I did say said Sir I like your onesies goes from Morocco. Next thing you know they're like okay. Cool calm down calm down. They throw them in the back of a Hummer and and then they just drive him off. So there's a couple of waiters still left at the restaurant and this woman who runs a restaurant but these two young guys have just put this guy in a hummer with a suitcase and he's left five minutes later. The hammer comes back literally the guy who showed up with the suitcases no longer in there to Chugai. She were in the car who are running this restaurant. Get Out of the car separately in a weird way like one of a walks out the passenger side and like walks around the car in a weird way. The other one makes a beeline the other way other like. Why aren't you guys? Getting out of the Carla kind of Chit Chatting. It was the oddest thing. Then the next thing you know out of nowhere this cab driver pulls up. He starts talking to the guys. He's screaming at the guys. The guys animal bunch of money. There's there's words exchange. I see a suitcase being exchanged from the Hummer back into the taxi. This guy's lickety-split out there then of course the guy looks directly at let me so there's a guy in a onesie imagine and then there's another guy running the restaurant whose clear like the owner's son and he's a really good looking very fair. Skin almost like almost is a green eyed. Very sexual looking man and he's in like a typical Tommy. Bahama shirts the guy that Tommy Bahama Shirt looks directly at Ray and I really like rain. I looked at each other. Take time like is he looking at us. This is what I know. I'm like Oh. They know that we know that they know that. We all know that something just went down next thing you know and without skipping a beat out of nowhere this old guy old guy who clearly owns the entire fucking neighborhood comes out of the Super Fancy restaurant lights a cigar points of the two younger guys the guy in the ones in the guy in the Tommy Bahama shirt like Like almost like a mom so like sit down we gotta talk about what just happened. Tippin sits down. This guy. Douses himself had bug spray. That's a big thing. Let me tell you even the Mexican guys down there that live in the jungle. Or still trying to douse themselves. The bug spray sprite are. There's too many fucking bugs in that junk. I got eaten alive next thing you know. They're all sitting at this table and rain are on like right. What the fuck do we just win as he goes? I don't know but that other do that. Originally showed up at the suitcase is returned. Okay they clearly that other suitcase put it in the taxes like something like a like an exchange of money all all of these things just started to to move hands then basically the mob boss sits down this woman out of nowhere brings a platform drink. He's got like a special thing. Set up the other a two younger guys have to sit down and explain to him. What just happened? I was like our song. We need to check. We gotta go there now looking back at my table because they know that we know that they know that that something just went down. I mean I'm afraid telling this story. I'm not even giving you that much detail and I'm worried I'm scared frigging straight. MSNBC SEE locked up. Ross straight. Do you know what I'm saying because I witnessed something I witnessed something. That probably shouldn't have so a lot of been begging me on instagram. To tell you about what I saw what I saw what I saw. And that's all I can tell you but without a doubt without a even twinge in my I mind I saw deal go down and at that moment I was like I'm ready to go. I'm I'm ready. I saw too much I came I conquered and now Mama is ready for a nap and honestly I was ready. Very Houston's enlisted. The food in Mexico's goes fresh as hell. I'm not eating. It's a sin your frog some bullshit I mean really incredible restaurants the cool thing about dilemmas. They have all these chefs that game from noma which is like famous restaurant in Copenhagen. That was like the number one restaurant in the world. Two guys came from there and they open. This was called Arca. So you can get really high Ryan like Michelin Star Restaurants until him but you also see a drug deal. Go down and there might not be any plumbing. This is what I will tell you. Some of these tells are Eco. Chic they say eco chic that basically weekly just translate to know fuck and air conditioning. I don't know about you but even if it's January I mean. It was still eighty-five degrees every day. I don't fuck with no air-conditioning that's my my personal be like moment. I don't do that so I'm just warning. You tell us. This ECO Chic. That means you're GONNA be sweating in a mosquito net. Don't don't do it to yourself absolutely. Not what's an absolutely yes from the trip absolutely yes suspending. Good time good times good people great marks. I lost six expounds yes from the diarrhea but also and I've said this before every time I go to Europe the food is just pure I ate tacos to st does everyday waves ranchera cherish every single morning and I still came back and lost about six to eight pounds. Didn't work out. Once did not work out a single time. When for maybe Leisure Stroll I was drinking everyday at about about eleven? Am Loss Weight. You want to know why. Because when there's no preservatives in the food your body metabolize it differently plain and simple i. I've got a buddy. Hunter Shadow donder. He lost like fifty pounds. He moved to Guadalajara to open a gym there and he's Mexican his partner Franz Mexican and he's I gather also fifty pounds just living in Mexico. I'm not even barely working out. It's just 'cause I'm not eating this shitty food in America absolutely yes to come back thin. We're GONNA get even more in shape. It's not about a number. I just WANNA feel great for my wedding absolutely yes Mexican chips. It is a matter if you get barbecue or you know sour cream cream Cheddar. Everything has a little bit of a limo. Negga Limo a lime flavor to them everything's got a touch citrus and I'm here for it you know what I I did. When I was drunk I gotTa White Pizza Blanca Pizza? Quattro for Maggi Cortra- K.. So if you're you speak Spanish slice open some lemons. Put a little rule on that douse at thing and salt and pepper and lemons or lime. Change Your Life if you're not putting lemon or lime or some sort of citrus pitchers drizzled on your pizza you. You're missing out. You're missing out is the way to go absolutely yes to more citrus. I love fruit water. You you know you can put cat litter but also then put a cucumber in my water and I drank. It wouldn't even notice the chunks. That's how much I'm easily split. Blake persuaded swayed by fruit water. So gimme a chip with the little lemon or lime action. 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I mean absolutely yes to just thriving absolutely absolutely not okay. Let's even get into absolutely frigging not to these cross fit couples. I talked about it on instagram. Yeah I get it that everybody down. There wasn't a Thong but we gotta talk talk about this at cross fit couples on vacation. have gotTA fucking stop it is seven. Am I am hung over eating waivers. Jerry's that sixteen memo's why am I watching you. You and your husband. Do Wind sprints down the fucking beach. You know what's worse when they don't even wear sneakers and they have this webbed amphibian like lizard shoes. Barry's bootcamp and I've talked about this before you're on a treadmill and then the next guy next to you don't have on Nike as those Amphibian. Vivian fucking weird web shoes get the fuck Outta here. I absolutely do not have time for that. So riddle me this. I'm sitting there at breakfast and then I see a woman who's about. I don't know five to bench pressing. Her husband not even like they're going for a morning walk. They're doing some yoga or stretching there ham. Me's he's getting a cool down. Where dog you know son citation becoming one with the earth? This woman is bench pressing her fucking husband grunting Like Johnny we got six more. I was furious. I almost threw a knife at why are exercise couples. The worst set it on on instagram. I'll say it again even jeff and I got a wild hare brass. Listen we're trying to train. We're we're I need to get physically active again. I love being physically active. I've lost so my muscle definition. That's really what I WANNA do is just build muscle again but even if jeff and I became runners which we would never because we're both too top heavy my tits hurt. When I run I would at least make Hebei? We're not going to run together because I'm not GonNa WanNa talk to you. I'M GONNA WANNA listen to a podcast or listening. You know. I don't know the spice girls like I'm not GonNa WanNa Fuck Chit Chat with you. Well we go for a jog. What I'M GONNA WANNA do is go back to my hotel room while you're out for your run? Take a nice peaceful shed where I can't have you bothering me where I don't have to feel rushed turn on the water. Anything just do my thing. You come back you then take your peaceful shit. I tell you I'm going to go out. You go for a run but I don't I go to the beach bar eight. Am and I get sixty five my ties. You know maybe a sex on the beach. Maybe then after you're done shitting then you come out have a couple of my ties and then we just just have sex on the beach. The fact that I gotTa Watch you bench. Press your husband. Also listen it's enough. It's an absolute frig enough with the. I got to be just as strong as him. I learned that the hard way move in furniture with Jeff body was gonNA kill me but I pick up at three hundred fifty pound marble table almost lost oeste limb and Jeff at one point grab meaning goes sweetie I love you. I'm so glad you're empowered. I'm so glad you feel strong. I'm glad I'm Mary strong woman. But can you please not I try and kill yourself throughout your back by proving that you're she man and in that moment I said you're right Jeff. I'm doing too much. And that's an absolutely not. But what an assault on my own personal vacation DAB to sit there in my already my bathing suit by nine. Am I'm ready to go. Roared up having to Moses getting away those Ranchera Chili Rellenos. I love Deseo now. That's breakfast and then I got to listen to you Claire Huffing and puffing down the frigging beach chasing your idiotic nomadic meathead husband while you both have t shirts on that say cross. Ross Fit Austin. I'm done you've ruined my morning. You've ruined my vacation. Take a chill bill. Guess what on the seventh day. God made Sunday to rest. You can't have days off. No days off is some bullshit. Take a day off. Have a Jimmy Chunga look could do. Each Other's is maybe take a day off make vision board. Also I love it. Everyone's gotta be shredded shredded cheese shredded lettuce on my NACHOS. No body fat. Well guess what when your face gets old Claire My face Alex young and fresh as a daisy easy. Why 'cause I've Collagen and still hear it little baby fat there? Everybody wants to be thin. But did you see the Golden Globes like like I saw the Golden Globes the other night everybody looked like a hot frigging mass. Everybody needs fillers. They're all too thin. It's too much a little fat. Would do as some good okay. You guys make fun of Chubb's now let me tell you what Gimme thirty years. I'm GONNA look frigging fantastic. Well your face looks older than all hell your face is going to look like an old kneecap. Yeah I said it. You want to know why 'cause you having think giving your body a break and the fuck and carb or a sandwich and nine months also when I see crossfire women on like instagram. And they're doing the fucking you know like pushing tires across railroad tracks and look. It's enough absolutely not. We do not have to be as strong as the men physically. You want to know why we can be strong and healthy but we also have to like be men. I can wake up on my vacation. Get a massage by nine. Am and Have Sixteen Shrimp Tacos by ten am. You want to know why. That's what I just did. Do Pets me living my truth. Be Itch also side note. Jeff you know. I've said at this before but women are superior sex just when it comes to everything. Jeff Scott Cold. He wasn't feeling great detail in Mexico. We're all kind of like back and forth. And he's in New York right now I'm in Atlanta. And he called me and he's like. Oh Heather I took a dayquil and they excedrin migraine tonight. I'm like here's my thing. I always carry. We like a small medicine cabinet with me. But I've got my oil now. I've got the acid reflux medicine. I got the you know the Zana's if you need and he always like Oh. You have so many bills on my Gab. But I actually know how to take the pills. Like I'm only taking what I need to ninety took an Excedrin migraine which has caffeine. And everyone knows that. DAYQUIL which is the betta means is the Tweaker when I said Baby Jab to show them your license he goes. Yeah I said you'RE GONNA call me at five. Am and you're going to be literally doing laps in Times Square. You've walk from our apartment thirty blocks north and you literally be tweaking scratching your skin off by the tk t s booth because because you took too many uppers and that's a wrap. That's on gone. I said did you not even think to ask the pharmacist. Whether that was too much as a why did you take dayquil. It's nine PM at night. He's a notice today. I don't why why should I take the NYQUIL around eleven pm like ours. The Sun's gone down chef. How he is made it on this planet thus far wild wild to me highly intelligent man? But you didn't think to read the ingredients and Excedrin Excedrin and a dayquil fucking wild to me. Arabs Louis. Yes to Mexico absolutely taken time off absolutely not drugs in in Mexico absolutely not to cross couples in Mexico absolutely not to jeff taking drugs in America because he never even read what anythings made of but eam as audacity to make fun on a me and my Lisa Renna bag bills. Get the fuck Outta here. Absolutely frigging not child's play Sir child's frigging play guys. I feel like this year is going to be really great and thank you for letting me kind of break down what I did over the holidays. Thank you for letting me get a couple of things off my chest. We're going to be back next week with interviews and I promise to bring you a lot of great interviews this year. y'All it was hard being on the road. It was really hard to try nail down people and I think again I wanNA stay true to who I am and the people that I care about it there. Is Anybody that you want me to interview. Please let me know tweet at me. Heather Kay McMahon slide in my. DM's on instagram. I yeah definitely want to get people into the studio that you love but hopefully I can really crank out some great interviews but again. I'm not doing vander pumps. I'm not doing Ding dongs. If I like them and I find them interesting interesting I want this to be an honest. Absolutely yes conversation but I wanted to be authentic. I'm not bringing in Julian Huffing and my studio so we can talk about better fucking Tony Robinson Pyramid scheme motivational bullshit. Have y'all seen these videos. Online just watch it Juliana. Derek are trying to do some bullshit. Tony Robbins like motivational dramatic. Swindle people out of their money tell them they're not worth anything. I can't with that woman. Jackie Schimmel a dear your friend of mine. She and I both agree on how much we can't stand Julianne Huff. I'M GONNA get some footage for you. And I maybe I get Juliana on the bike and let her explain herself if it's too much it's insufferable. Do not let anybody swindle you into buying into some bullshit program this year that you need to pay somebody the money to be a better version of yourself you yourself. Follow me. I'll keep it one hundred. I'll tell you where you need to go on vacation what you need to do. Don't take drugs you know you can do though when you get to Mexico go to the Pharmacia by whatever the fuck you need. You Got Diabetes. Medicine go to Mexico. It's fucking cheaper. He needs ZANIES. Go to Mexico. I'll tell you well you can walk right in there. Any trauma over exploded Bam there you go half price cleaner to trust big Pharma. Absolutely not too big Pharma Pharma you and I both though they got a cure for cancer but their high need somewhere in a vault somewhere in Colorado because Pfizer makes too much damn money. Wow that we could really get crazy on that note. I'M GONNA end dear ladies and gentleman. I promise you know and I promise to do whistle blowing some more shit this year. I'm GONNA blow the ass off the elephant not really when I go to Thailand. Actually try and put the elephants asked back on because apparently they're fallen off over there and I plan on going to a wonderful place. Ace in Chiang Mai Northern Thailand to you know work with the conservation and bring awareness and try and help the elephants but when it comes to conspiracy theories is and big Pharma blow in the ass off the elephant metaphorically speaking. I'm excited about what this year has in store for us. I feel like we're just gonNA crush but we gotta say focus. We gotTA giggle the world's getting crazy out there. Stick with me kid. I got you do not listen to Julian off. Do not stick equip me all sorts Colt motivational speeches. And you know what we'll do we'll do a slide show on all the reasons why I can't would Julianne Huff. I love you I miss miss you. I am so excited for this year remember. Click subscribe to all of the things. Stay tuned were adding more tour dates. Please check in. Check the INSTAGRAM's grams. Tell more your friends to follow me. Let's make this go viral twenty twenty s a year we all together as a collective so my TV show. I WanNa do big things and I wanna be in each and every one of your household and I want another reason for your husband so loved me you know. Maybe they don't get the instagram. But you know what they're gonNA get me topless on their television. I'm kidding getting I haven't read that into the script but maybe I should fuck it. Everybody into loom was dongs. I'm GonNa live my truth on my own. TV Show tits up tits out baby baby. 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Finding Your Soul's Purpose with Kevin Carton

The Coaches Corner

00:00 sec | 5 months ago

Finding Your Soul's Purpose with Kevin Carton

"Welcome back to another episode of the coach's Corner podcast in today's episode just to give you a warning. We're probably going to be throwing around words like Universe, energy, attraction, infant, visualization, intuition, quantum, soul affirmations, and all those kinds of words that sometimes can seem. A little bit out there I know for myself if you would have told me that five years ago, I would have sort of been like whatever it's just hard work and hustle and grind it out, and although that worked for me I think it was the hardest way for me to do something. Nowadays I'm so obsessed with this topic that. Things are infinitely easier. I feel like I'm inflow, and if I ever feel something where it's harder than it should be I, take a step back and it served me in so many ways I wish I would've met a guy like Kevin Carton. A little bit earlier in my journey that being said I. Think is a big struggle that now that I'm so obsessed with the topic. I love teaching it as well so I'm grateful that I didn't know it and then I chose the hard route. And in every few weeks. We have a bit of a special episode where. Lana Times will have a guy who's like hey. I'm in one hundred fifty million dollars last month, and we're kind of like cool dude, but it seems sort of. Out there and we'll get there some day, and so I've made a commitment to bringing in clients or from the coaches, virtually just people in my circle in my world recent success or able to. Hopefully can connect with Kevin in a deeper way, then then sometimes we can with others and because Kevin is available You know you can tap into resources. TAP into. His channel will give you resources to Kevin and I'm sure that you can connect with Kevin if you feel a connection to this, because I truly believe this missing piece for people's success, and just shooting email to joe dispenses sometimes can be Well. There's a lot of people to get through. Whereas Kevin can can really serve you on a really deep level. If you feel like you connect to this, so with that, said Kevin thanks for being here. Thank you so much I really appreciate it. I'm excited to be here because it has you know I mean I was a student of yours still in many ways, and just excited to share what I've learned over the last year and a half since we've gotten connected men, and there's a very typical pattern from the people who are just making things happen, and finding the resources to make it happen, and those who stay stuck in it, it breaks my heart, and at the same time I've learned to let go of and not take it personally just kind of failure. You're not a failure if you fail. You've just done something that didn't work and you can. You can adjust it so I love this idea of. Mixing Science with spirituality and I know right on your BIOS running websites. You talk about that a lot, but I think. You do a very good job of it because when I was I played in polar extremes, and I think some people may be have in the past where I was. You don't went through spiritual phases where not much got done in kind of explore myself, which was really beautiful, and then I went through different phases where it was grind and hustle, and or even denouncing spirituality or religion, not the same thing, but connected for many people in taking more of a scientific approach once I started studying quantum in this whole world of like Whoa, energy in house, science in spirituality are the same in science I think is trying to explain spiritual. You can correct me. This is just my. You've got many more years of study on this so right from you. What is this idea of science in spirituality for someone listening, who might? BE, starting to explore this, but or maybe you've done visualizations or affirmations, and it didn't work for you. which is a really big one I think for people and off. What? What's the connection between the two? So at the very base of it, the foundation the connection is just the two parts of our personal nature is. We have a human body. We also have a part of that is our brain. Oh, some people called their mind, but then there's a connection point within. That's in our consciousness relay that is connected with the infant connected with the universe or source spirit God whatever waves. You subscribe to. You prefer higher power energy like I mean sciences now coming to prove that there is a one unified field of energy that is what we're referring to as God or the universe for spirit or anything like that, and we as souls or spirits come into time and have this human experience that's where I see it as the foundation is that connection point is between our human nature, which is finite nature, and then our infant nature, with which is our spirit or soul, and we experienced that connection point through our consciousness, so as Lilly next question because I was. In my in my childhood, and there's nothing against the religion. A I pull for many different religions to create my own creed of sorts I. Find Stuff that works for me, but because maybe understanding wasn't there I was kind of forced to believe things in the soul was a whole different idea now when i read the Bible actually. It's a beautiful explanation of all of this just my interpretation of it or the way that you know the influencers in the church that I was a part of explained it. I don't think they did in the best way they did the best they could, but now the when I look at it with this higher understandings like the Bible is actually like the best self help book in many different spiritual texts are. At least when I revisit it so I was GONNA. Ask you what is the sole, but I think you've defined that the connection between the mind and the body and I guess that's why different cultures when you point to their. You know their soul. I think here. We kinda point here, but somewhere pointed belly as well as an intuition as second mind. So that would explain what the soul is in terms of the work you do. Yeah Yeah, all cool, and then when you say infinite or intelligence or source. My basic understanding of it is every big idea of had has been at three. AM when I'm Alpha, state when I'm like waking up every big idea every. Obstacle that I thought was impossible. I've got in the solution at three am. I can't explain it I. Keep a notebook by. My bed. Maybe you can explain that what's going on there. That's. When you're sleeping, your subconscious mind is the most open most active really. Put it in different ways that since your conscious mind is sweep than your subconscious, mind has more access more. Power to then flow through you because it's always at work your subconscious mind, never stop. And, it's always working I mean Louis beating heartbeat it's causing us to breathe like you and I are not thinking okay. I need to take breath in between our words, and it's happening, and so when we're sleeping, it's happening as well in our sub. Conscious mind is a connection to super conscious mind, which is just another word for infinite or The Universe God whatever so that's no surprise when you have that end. You can influenced. This is probably a whole nother subject, but. I'm sure you are thinking about certain problems. Be solved some ideas that you want answers to before you go to sleep, so your subconscious mind is starting to work on it so there is that connection piece there? I guess it's why I'm always talking about framed in a question, very concise questions, so don't think about your problem. As a question I love to write that question down when I go to bed. Yeah, I swear to God given I know it's no surprise to you is just become a part of my life now, but it's like trying to find an explanation for it is I. Wake Up. With the answer or I'm in the shower which I know I think also facilitates more of A. Decree to brain state which I think is. brainwaves, but either way or I'm driving along the highway from a motorcycle and pull over into years almost because I'm like Whoa, the answer was given to me and I Q. Life has become so much more effortless, and so. Why do you think people are resistant to it or If someone's listening is just kind of like that so cool, but where do I with this headway? Even get into this. Meditation, what's up? Where would you have someone start? Quieting the conscious mind, so they can tap into their subconscious mind and you call it the super conscious the infinite. They can tap into all that information available to them. Yeah, so I wanNA give an analogy really quick because it. What would you first start out with his like well? What if someone is like what we're like? Is this real like? Can I believe in this? How I see it is is very practical. You think about how our the Internet is just a beautiful analogy how it works. you think of your email when you send an email. Where does it go? It's literally everywhere. It's everpresent, but then the person who can access that email. Is that that exact sender's address? And so you have to send their, but that that e mail was ever present like bits of information everywhere in the Nevada, it's just would we flying around? The ideas are the exact same. Those those are the answers to our problems are right here right now, but we have to tune to it. Which is why you have to get that specific questions that you're. That's like the address that you're looking for. Yes, that's how I see it in a practical way and how to do this to really work with this. I would recommend meditation. That's where I began to really get into all this and out. Recommend getting. Because when you, if you just try to sit down and you've never really meditated before or even if you had some practice in you, try to quiet your mind, and it's really bringing your your mind to a one point focus so at your conscious mind is so focused on just one thing that you can have more access to your subconscious. That's really difficult to do if you don't have that discipline, but when you do guided meditations you, your conscious mind has a point of focus. which is someone else's voice. So it's much easier. That's where I began meditating about eight years ago. And then it's just you know grown since they're so a definitely, recommend beginning there. Maybe enemy you're. You're over living for so many people right now, but maybe one thing one small ask will be too. I'm sure you have some resources or some of the top stuff, maybe at the bottom of this episode I put one or two links to maybe your top guided meditations, ten fifteen minute ones. I go on Youtube and find ones for well for abundance, and what I'm falling asleep I like to listen to it. Yup Not only does it. Put Me to sleep quicker. I've literally seen. Amazing beautiful thing happened over the last year when I really started. TAP into this so. I think you said one thing. Is even real I think that. I, don't like to wanting. That was pushed on me when I was a kid was blind faith. I'd ask the question well, it God. We'll just have to believe it because that's. That's what the book says and I'm like Yep. Don't like fuck that like that. That's not enough for me. That's not enough for me. And so I chose to question I built this rebellious sort of spirit like unplugging my dresser in church in remember going to church shorts just to. To be like mom if God really loves me, will he judged me? If I'm in a shirt, or you're afraid of what everyone else is thinking about a perfect little family, right and my parents are beautiful. Awesome people kind of exaggerating that because they were like whatever do your thing, but I don't think they cared about anyone else, but or what people thought, but. It wasn't enough for me so I was like I need to find proof and I will try something for short periods of time and look for the proof, so I can back it up and so when I started doing this coming because I remember being lagmay Undercut Leagues Weird. I mean to hustle mentality right. Yeah, and I think you need both. But. But once I started seeing. A fifty minute meditation turned into ten grand in sales the next hour as a may not be able to explain this right now. I'm learning how to explain it, but it's real so if anyone's listening, who's whatever give yourself I think you're doing a twenty one day challenge at one point, but yourself or follow Kevin or ask for some advice or ask for some help, but give yourself a little time window where you can really s this all in Yup I can almost guarantee you. You'll you'll? You'll get something from this to make it more real to you. Would you agree with that absolutely and it's? It's something that builds like. I would definitely a you said like a twenty one day thinks some frame of time. That's not just two days like all right. I'm going to meditate now and like if nothing happens on a week like I'm going to write it off as it doesn't work. But if you've never really tried it before, it's like anything like you have to work building the muscle is a spiritual muscle that you're building. So. Expect results within the first seven days. Is is naive. And, so you have to give it the space and time that it deserves because then when you develop that capacity of focus able to be the ability to meditate at draw from this infinite source of ideas that can give you the answer, the solution to your problem, and even beyond that it's not even like you mentioned like one meditation will turn into ten thousand dollars in sales like it's happened for me to I've ruled couple of clients out of nowhere, and I didn't do anything specific. Specifically, they message music. So some of the things like it's just you're attracting as well, but again you got to give it a space and time. 'cause builds yeah bill about muscle. Yeah, so so this is a perfect segue. Because I had to ask this because it's on everyone's mind for lot of people is. When you hear law of attraction. Which I think was was marketed well at least from my experience of. kind of like any spiritual text. It can be taken out of context Yup to. It in maybe communicated in not the most effective way because I know a lot of people who told me this. Vision Board. I've I've asked I've prayed I've done this done that and you know me a little bit more. I love machine. I love engines. I Love I can meditate and then wake up. Walk down the street. Feel my heart bleeds for someone. Feed them because another hungry on the street comeback ride Mike dirt bike shoot some guns. Go to work. Come back like I love the whole spectrum of the human experience and soft to hard. And I feel like a lot of people are living in. This, it'll just come to me because I deserve it. Yep and I disagree with that. What's your point on that? You have to have both sides. Just you're sharing y. you have the hustle, but then also like attraction, and like meditating in this like this hard and soft. I think beautiful. You have to have that. You think about life itself. It's it's duality. There's This hot called writers left there is. Focusing effort and work taking action, and there is energy there is attraction. There's meditative visualizing you have to have, both you can't have one without the other right suicides of the same coin, and so the law of attraction I I've out recommended of resource to see if anyone wants to study the attraction that has like the ultimate like it's literally one point one chapter in one book, and it's got everything you need to know about the law of attraction. You need to buy a whole ob attraction. Course it doesn't you don't need anything else. Besides this one chapter, it's called working with the law. By Raymond Halliwell. To book, that was written in the sixties. I think and it was. It's it has a study. Information on different universal laws, one of them being the attraction, but there's ten other laws that he dives into its first off. It's an amazing second the Wabi Traction in described in that book. Is Louie all you need? Legal but very straightforward attraction. Is You know what you want? Clear intention visualizing it, but then you're. You're expecting it. You're doing things expecting. The result means that you're actually action. You're changing your life. You're doing things differently like this reminds me of this quotas like insanity is is expecting What exactly are you talking about nine yet I like doing the same thing expecting. Exactly yeah tripped up a bit, but yeah Acharya so cool. I'M GONNA put the link below the links, the books and the resources that I put are never affiliate links. If they ever are I, put it there. I just don't want there to be an ulterior motives down, so there's no affiliate link for for this book resources post I mean if there are will let you know like if we're if we're proudly someone else's program. I always put that we're doing that. You said one thing there for I think he said you just mentioned the word, faith or something those lines or Anyways I. Love the idea that like your. How much face on has an I think I think literally heard us from grant at some point but anyways that guy blows me away grand on on the podcast, but like his level of spirituality is beyond women's marketing message says it's unreal. And I never seen exception to. This is the debt I think evolution especially in business. It forces you to evolve. As a spiritual being as well, yeah, more success, you start seeing your literally forced to evolve spiritually, or you don't grow in so usually guys at the top of their game. They don't talk about it I don't know why, but I'm like damn years. Your spiritual dude like that's crazy. By the level of faith you have is I as measured by the level of action. You take taking massive action. You're telling the universe. You're telling God crater I. Have Faith that this will work, yeah! I believe it I believe it, but I don't take action because they don't actually believe it. Yep, exactly. It faded another word for faith belief believing power. We all in the speaking of the Bible there's greats metaphysical teachings in there that are not religious, but just cheeses teachings are Louis nonreligious at all. He was a metaphysical master, and he said that every to every person was given the measure of faith. Which? I the measure meaning, we all have the same amount of faith, but it's where we place it do. I have faith in that? This is not gonNA. Work Out am I. Afraid of what's going to happen my focusing on what I'm worried about, or what's GonNa? Be Plan B xactly or do I have faith. My were my putting my believing power in play it working out so cool so cool so. The Quantum! This is a topic that I am obsessed with when when you when you and others let you take lead on this. Elegant main, but but quantum. What does that mean to you or Or. What has what does quantum quantum physics? String theory all that stuff have any acting to do. With. The macro life are being our goals. Our Dreams or bank account the hell. Do the two together. So. First definition of quantum 'cause there's quantum physics. Quantum leaps and the simplest definition I've found with. This is a as from a book called. Things you squared. It's called. Use squared by price. Pritchett another fantastic book. It's Louis fifty pages, but it's power pack Islamise kind of books short quick exactly and he t the very first or second chapter. He talks about What quantum leap is a quantum? Leap is good, just a when an electron which is a part of an atom. It coat goes from one orbit of. To a higher orbit of existence without any apparent effort, meaning, it's jumping multiple levels with without any extra energy, which seems ridiculous seems impossible like that's when like really I think what got people into studying more of like. What does this mean? A house is happening, and so what it means to our life is going from one plane of existence, one level of result to a higher level result not stepwise process, but literally quantum leap a jump. And I would highly recommend anyone just checkout on you to the double slit experiment to have just the first like dipping your toe into this whole realm of quantum physics in what it really means to you. Because what that's a scientific experiment has has proved. Is that until we observe or measure? A piece of matter because they were studying electrons, which they thought were just you know balls of energy or balls of matter you know like a a paper for example, but they discovered. Is that in that experiment that it's dared not looking at that that little ball of matter that electron? It's literally behaving wave home, which to you and I and to everyone listening what that means is that if we're? We're not observing or visualizing the result that we want. It's just a potential we can wish for. We can want it. We can have an idea of what that's like. Some people say Gee I. Know What I want. I know where I'm going. I have a clear vision, but they're not changing their minds. They're not focusing on it to imagine what it will be like when it's all worked out. What would it feel like? What would I be thinking? What version of me would I be when it's all said and done? Yeah, because then when you're doing that youth, the conscious being the your consciousness is focused and observing that reality, and that that vision that you have the dream is literally as real as the desk that I'm sitting at home. Yeah, I, want you to hear that because that's that's a kind of a big idea. But it's very. It's exactly as real as the physical reality in front of me. The only difference is that it's vibrating at a different rate is everything is energy? Everything is vibrating at a certain rate cause. Everything is made up just Adams different combinations of protons, neutrons and electrons that creates this realm that we experience as a physical reality, but we can imagine is literally just as real, and as we continue to focus on it. We bring it into reality, but we have to continue to focus on it observant is that's exactly how everything is created. Created like look around you like I say it's like it's like were it's like Whoa. It's like the water swimming in for fish like you. Asa Fish, like what's the waters like? Wait what water? So it's just it just is what it is. Yes, you look around you. Every single thing that is in existence right now had to be be a thought before it became a thing. Lucas, the post is behind you the the hat that you're wearing the specific design about its camouflage. Someone had to think of that verse before it became that hat and we we'd know that everyone listens problems like yeah, like supports need to think about what you're going to create you know physically, but it's the same exact thing with the results that you want in your business. The results that you want in your relationships. The money you want in your bank account the healthy. WanNa experience literally everything you have to have it in mind. Mind first and then it becomes reality, but you have to hold it in your mind. That's what it means to have the observing of your vision, and that's when you're working with this quantum realm is quantum physics of the things that so beautiful I know you have some resources for that. I saw as was going through stuff. You've got the you know the blueprint in some resources so I'll let you charitable committee here, but I'll put all the links below for that, but you said one beautiful thing and I think this is. The best way that I've heard this explained I listened to. I think his name's Bob Greene Anyway. He's a quantum physics scientists, but he's also an entertainer, so he has an awesome YouTube channel where he explains Quantum in very kind of out there ideas, and brings them into simple animations that kids can understand that I love that kind of stuff, but you use the word potential in. It just clicked 'cause I. Can I can see the double slit experiment tonight. Understand its way, or you can actually measure where it hits at what time. I, love when you were talking about your dreams or your wants. That has one If you're not crystal clear on that, it's just a wave and you don't know where it's going to land for the rest of your life, you could have the stream and such that never comes to you. You may never realize it until I get super clear, which is probably I'm guessing the basis of your work or what you really do with people is getting them clear on that getting into frequency making the right questions, so they can actually search for the specific answer, instead of had to make more money or head. How do I get happy getting very specific on what you're asking for? Yeah. That's exactly it is an honestly I've what I've learned over the last seven years of doing this work myself like on myself because I've been I've been teaching this now. For three years and I've been studying at a deep level with my mentor for six, but I've been in. You know studying a lot of this stuff for seven years, and honestly what it really comes down to is. Is the clarity of your vision, and there's some many blocks to that, because like well it do I believe that's even possible. Can I do this? M I worthy all the fears of it's not going to work out the worry about the money like what other people say. There's so many different things can that can block us that we don't even get to the clarity of our vision. So there's a lot of of unearthing of those limiting beliefs to be done to really get the depths of what would I love like? What's the vision that I WANNA create? What's the reality I to experience so that you can feel it is? It's not just enough to then have it in mind, but you have to work on feeling like we mentioned Joe Dispenser a bit, and I just did a meditation of his just an hour ago and he says you have to change your brain. Change your energy so that your body is responding to a new mind. You're literally changing your physiology by doing this 'cause your thoughts create your emotions spas. You think in alignment with your vision as if it's already happened. Literally feel different and you're. You're changing your body's. That of course attracts different things so cool so maybe on the topic of that. I fell into the trap early on of just thinking, not making my own definition of success, but just well. You're supposed to have the call. You're supposed to have this. You're supposed to have the house. You're supposed to wear a dress shirt. You're supposed to wear that name brand. and Luckily I was raised in a religious background where I started questioning. The very nature of things like well. Who said that address shirt? Shows more successful than a t shirt like I started questioning this stuff who came up with? What is everyone believed that would in other cultures. That's not true and so I see it as a game now if I'm GonNa, go present or speak. I will wear a dress shirt I'll put something on, and I'll play the game of the Nice Watch the Nice shoes because to me, I seen as a game now, but not absolute truth, but if I'm to make a change, I'd have to accept that society sees things one way if I'm going to be accepted in a certain so I can change somebody or make an impact. Out Play the game, but ninety nine percent of the bullshit that's thrown at me from what is success what I actually want? I stop believing in his started. Make my own definition version of what I want my life to be like. Do you find that a lot of your clients or people who start? Creating what it is they actually want. Do they come to realization that they've been living a lie or they've been? Wanting this stuff in the reason, it hasn't come as because it's not what they actually wants. When they go deeper on. What do they want? Not What society has imprinted as what's normal like used to Ferrari and I just had my best year ever last year I didn't own a car like I just didn't care. More. And again I. Come and go, if I want coral by a car. If I don't sell it I, take I take the car to goes or I ride my bicycle around town like I. It's just not a definition of success to me. so do you find that that starts happening for people when they really start digging into the kind of are like men have been stuff that actually. has is a story that's been in prison. Absolutely. Yeah, it's just an evolution process. Just as it was for, you was for me as well like when I got into this person development work. I was like yeah. I, WANNA earn five hundred thousand dollars a year in home on a big house. Nice car BMW like you know it's just the whole works of like we'll. We'll get what was imprinted like. That's a beautiful putting its programming. You know it's how we grew up what we thought. Well, we saw as people who are successful and what we believe is like well. If I get that, then I feel a certain way, but as we evolve, we realize that it's really just who we become in the process of achieving certain treats. especially like in my life in a couple of my clients lives like they, they will achieve certain dream, and then I like the material success now wait a minute like okay like but like I want I want more hike something different. That is more fulfilling now in an ultimate is like the one of the like a big foundation of the programs that I coach in my clients in is that who become in the whole process of building your dream is actually the the true grit to troop guessed what who you become. You you mentioned the word earlier duality and and I. WanNa talk about that for a second to me, though such an awesome I used to live in black white. It was either this way or that way no between and actually press this coach mine for while the one thing he really imprinted on my brain was. It doesn't have to be either or. There's a world between the two in that was a massive shift for me so right now. One of the goals is to have a million dollars. Would it be accounts? It's it's a goal that I think about often. I'm also completely okay. If the economy crashed in a had to live in the woods for for years because it was A. Outbreak of like a war or something I'm cool with that, too. And starting to live between the two of like wanting something so bad, but fully letting it go or just exploring the things like no way I'm like wait. Is that actually true or is there a game I can play within? It has been a game changer especially over the last twelve months, so this idea of duality for some listening. What what? What did you mean when you when you mentioned that twenty minutes ago? Yeah so it's very practical in a sense of what I was saying just like simple examples that there that's how we experience. Life is that there is duality? There's adopters down as half as a cold is good. There's a bad there's money in our bank account, or those were broke, but The real trick what you're speaking to is the true essence of life is living in the paradox. Living. Paradox, because that's I. Mean Life is always is just all a paradox. So. It's like we want something, but then we are okay with the not happening. Because then it draws to us, Bruce Lee is one who's one who says that it will like that. Yeah, it's like not wanting something actually draws to me, or maybe it's Bob Marley forget. I've seen it on some quote. Both genius nephew. Yeah, but I mean that's that's that's really it. It's like living in that duality and what I really started to tap into without is dodd. There's this middle ground that you can play with an women that you actually are are kind of tone both lines, and actually playing with both and just experiencing, both because you as the spiritual being can choose any moment which way you want to go. It's even down to our thinking is like we have positive negative thinking, but the really cool thing was with that negative. Thinking is not bad. Like a lot of things like people think I just need to stop thinking negative with I need to get it away I need to suppress any to just get rid of it, but that's actually a sign of growth like if you're, you're coming up against any limits, any doubts or warriors. That's actually good because you're on your growing etch, don't WanNa stay there of course, but by acknowledging them for what they are. Those those limits like it's actually good for your growth. It's showing that you're on your edge that you can go further farther than so socal, so so do you think that? One lesson free was suppressed a lot because I was told. It's bad when I started exploring it in healthy ways like aggression anger, mcgary aggressive I i. know it was like a tiger allying in a past life of like I just want to kill I. Don't want to kill a human and I don't WanNa create harm, so how can do that in a healthy way instead of suppressing it, you know I love going target shooting with the most powerful rightful or give me something with horsepower so I can rip it. Or getting boxing ring into a into a into A. Into a fight that both parties agreed to has been really big for me of not suppressing things in. Do you think that the idea of duality or of? The idea of of suppressing that is also causing for people a gift. Explore the whole spectrum that we pay within this beautiful thing. We call reality one hundred percent and I think what most people are stopped with his that They think if they accepted than I'll just stay there forever. Or like against is bad, or they'll get consumed by it, but. It's it. It goes back to again. The duality is like as you accepted. Move into that Faye that part of you that you don't want to move into interest explore, and then you will have. The opposite will be more enlightened for lack of better term. It'll be lit up in neon. Signs of the more positive is once you really get to the negative or the accumulated? You mentioned your anger. Your aggression I bet when you get there and you're starting to express it your start. It's extra release, and so then therefore your your mind refocuses on more positive. Like it's it's a balance. There's always a balancing life. I looked at a loved one and I. Just I just feel so much in again I. don't want to make this a conversational, good or bad different religions, but I just know for me in the way that I was brought up, which is against the teachings of anyone in particular, but it was like there's good or bad. You can't do that, but you. You can do this. This is bad. This is a sin isn't right even if he didn't grow up in a religious background, I think society puts a lot of that on. This is good. This is bad and once I started breaking those rules and not caring what people thought and being like you know what I'm going to try. The bad thing is going to hurt somebody, but let me just explore it. I'm telling you that all the stress. In my shoulders, my back, my chronic pain started going away with a quick and I started feeling wayward crater way more driven, more energetic felt more inflow like my vessel was was more of an antenna, instead of like closed down, which has been at beautiful realization for me and I wish more people would. Explore that. A beautiful so someone who who just listen to this and as I k. this is really cool. Stuff and energy and and I love to tap into the infinite I'd love to start some visualization. Get really clear on what I want not what society wants what I want. Navy explores this quantum. the sole stuff that Kevin's talking about in in in Kevin Honestly when I go through your stuff I'm just like you such a master of this and I love seeing somebody I love the idea of mastery doing something over and over getting better and better at it and you. You possess that as a cannot wait to see where you'll be I mean you already come so far, but in five ten years you could be the number one guy. Hanging out with Joe Dispenser I know you will be which is which is really inspiring to me. Or, maybe someone who's just building a coaching business and they're really really struggling. They're doing the right stuff. which really isn't the most complicated, but there's some block or there's some way they're sabotaging themselves or the say they're gonNA create content they sleep in. They get stuck in traffic. And then they get over by the cops and the late for the very appointment. That would have changed her life. I know this happens to me because he used to happen to me. Where can people start? What do you have available to people or or some resources? We mentioned a few books working with the law in put the links below, but something that that can help people. Get to that next juicy level. So the first thing I love to share is is something I created? Call the sole purpose blueprints, and it's a eleven page guidebook very simple, but it takes you into the depths of creating a vision, a clear specific vision that answers your longing. The things that you want to do that. You're not doing it or having yet or experiencing it or giving it and IT A. A Vision that dissolves your content. The things that you feel they're painful for you or like. You know you do more, but your stock or anything like that answers. The longing dissolves the discontent. You have to clear Clarify your vision. I and that's take some work like I spent about a month usually with my clients. I go deep into their vision so that it's it's. It's you know getting all cobwebs out of south winning beliefs, doubts and worries, so they can really get involved without vision so that they can then use the quantum physics that we were talking about like the visualization and getting really involved with that, too, then affects the quantum field, but it's called so that they can create that vision so I'd highly recommend down in the sole. Sole purpose blueprint first because that's a first dive into it and then I also would just last week. I created a new workshop that goes deeper into the quantum. Physics experiment called the Double Slit experiment in how that applies to that vision that you're gonNA create so. This is the science of living your sole purpose. This workshop and it's called the Magic Power of quantum visualization. And actually take anyone listening. Take you through an exercise that you can work with a certain way of visualizing that can take you into that vision and really feel it, so those are the two things I'd have to offer. Both of them are free, and what's so cool with that workshop and you've got the sole purpose blueprint than that workshop. Idea is like we just chatted about I. Just actually see it is. The wave becoming one infant point and you're taking all the possibility all the potential you have. A hundred million different places. You can end up and it's all just a potential. Even the equation for quantum is is not a definite point. It's like where a particle could be at anyone moment until you observe it, you see, and it's become so much more clear to me of. The power has been something I've been doing for seven years every morning every night. What do I want what I want to create? And I just have always in some level knew how important that is. But now when I start seeing it as you're taking potentially to making it one specific point, it just inspires me to go even deeper every morning and every night into the life. I want to create in in every area of life, not just financially. So Sofer's blueprint will have links below the workshop The quantum workshop will have that link below and I ask every guest this I. don't care who they are. Where the game from how will they are young, they are. If there was one thing in your. I'm twenty seven. It's so amazing to me, too, and maybe I'll just say one thing 'cause we work with twenty four twenty five year olds twenty two year. Olds who are like no one would ever listen to me, Do you work with clients twice her age? Yeah, yeah, and they listen to yeah I learned from you I've changed their life. Yeah, and and and you know I, think I respect elders, I hold the door open. I don't care I. Hold The door for twenty one year old or year old doesn't matter to me, but there's a level of. In what I'm dealing with, a client is twice my age. I usually start with special. I'm not something man. You have so much I could learn from you you you you like I? Respect that, but in this one particular area. Here's around the master, and if you're open to teaching him, so there's no. Ego, where there's no battle, so you learn how to do it, but if you're twenty, one or twenty, five or thirty or eighteen, listening to this or twelve, I guess. I really feel like that's not an excuse to build something beautiful in help those around you I think that's the biggest limiting belief that many young people have. I don't know if that's a confidence or belief thing, but you've. You've found a way to get past that in share your gift and your truly master at your work so. Just wanted to say that because it came into my brain. Don't let that stop you but but for you with where you're at twenty, seven, twenty, eight, twenty, seven, yeah, twenty, seven, twenty seven. What's one thing you wish you could pass down to the younger Kevin or someone? WHO's listening? I love taking a book and finding one thing. I like taking someone's life in finding one thing the biggest lesson because it's sort of a hack and I can see if it works for me right now. If it doesn't work for me now, I can use it later. Yeah or you? When. You biggest things that you're like. Wow, this made a really big difference for me and. And, you know you take that with you. The number one thing I. I'm really thrilled to answer this question because I've listened to your podcast before, and I know I almost forgot about this question until you started asking. Go Yeah, like I love these these cheated heated ask. We'll know having my up. So the one thing now I would share that I really. knew at a deeper level. Seven eight years ago was that there is a purpose for a my life. There's a purpose for your life Lucas. There's a purpose for your life listening to us. There's a purpose for every single one of our lives or here at this time in human history for a reason. I believe there's no way of proving this, but I believe we each each of us chose to be here at this time. And it. The I guess the tiny bit of evidence of this is that we feel that there's some re something for us to do. Some purpose for our life. I Call I, call it our souls, purpose, that's why have the sole purpose blueprint, but there's there's a purpose for our soul of why we incarnated at this time in human history, and we feel that as calling. There's some desire for us to do something and I'm sure many people listen to us that desire at purposes to be a coach and you specifically speak to the person listening if you're a coach or inspired to be a coach. This is what really drew me to this whole industry and be the coach that I am today. Because I started when I was twenty four was very young, and I had those same fears of like while I'm. I'm so young. But I heard this from my mentor. She's said that there are literally people praying for you right now for your help, and the feeling that you have the desire that you have to be a coach. That's that's the echo of their prayers of their desires of. They're calling for you. And you are the only one that can help them. When I first heard that ice, and I really connected with me being a coach, I started crying because I felt that there were people that needed my help, and if I didn't start my business at the time that I did, they wouldn't have to change. They wouldn't have found me that the connection would have been missed. And so if you take anything from this entire PODCAST, I highly encourage to go deeper into your heart with that and not think of it as a like this I have to make a career out of this I have to earn money. When thinking about the people you're serving, there are people out there. That are literally needing your help right now, and you're the only one that can help them, because this is your purpose and you feel it. STREISAND Kevin it it. I think within that lies the seed of the reason why you continue to succeed anyone else whether they're conscious of it or not they. They. Created content is not difficult when you know your purpose and when you know, there's people to serve. Writing up sales, major landing, beige or creating presentation, Webinar creating a workshop for quantum or sole purpose blueprint. Is. Easy it for when you are just poll to like I need to do this. It's not even a question of me. Trying to I need to do because there's people that this can serve if we could approach our work, I love how you word that. With that I think challenges and obstacles just sort of vanished because it's not even a thing you've got to do. Yeah exactly amazing, and I love a second thing you said there. deconstruct so I can understand that the you use the word I can't prove it but I choose to believe it and I love that because you can construct your own model for reality, which is why choose to? Pull different beliefs for different religion that serve me right now in power to do my work, and if someday no longer serves me, I can choose to install an you. Believe for a new model of reality and I love how you said I can't prove this, but I choose to believe that we're here for a purpose and how empowering is that? And it's honestly the seed, the essence of of why you continue to grow or why anyone build something beautiful `specially. A coaching business definitely is all about service so amazing so amazing. I'M GONNA have links for Kevin stuff. If you connected with him in any level, you've got an instagram. We're GONNA. Find you on instagram and volume connect. My instagram name is Kevin F Carton Kevin Carden. I'll have all the links below Kevin. Thank you so much for your time and I feel like there's a part to come in about just limiting beliefs because I think that's so powerful and you mentioned it so many times. We never got to talk about it, but I love to happen. At some point in the future living beliefs themselves down for that. Appreciate Kevin. Thank you so much, thank you. All right so as always is one of the episode was saying. Thank you for listening. These episodes are one hundred percent free, and the dedicated to helping you build your coaching business, because there are clydes out there, just waiting for you to read some waiting for you to give them a result, so do not give up on Ukraine and never give up on your business again. These episodes of one percent all I ask in return. Give, thumbs up, give it up. Give it a little bit of love and the comments reviews. Share it with one or two coaches. Who you know could use help building their coaching business. That's it. 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Persistence and the Bold Actions You Must Take: Thinking Yourself Into Exponential Success

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Persistence and the Bold Actions You Must Take: Thinking Yourself Into Exponential Success

"I. Want you to look at your goals. Your dreams your desires. Do you have clear idea of where you're going and what you want? Have you played with this in your imagination? Do, you have faith. Do you have a plan if you don't have a plan? You need to plan. Thinking herself into exponential results, series on the podcast comes to every Saturday morning and takes, but we discussed in the morning. Mindset Club compiles it into one easy to access recording, and gives you some killer bonus content at the end. That's not to be messed and only available here, so let's dive right in. Good morning and thank you for joining me for the morning Mindset Club. I want to spend a little bit more time on the concept of love this morning. We spoke about it yesterday. In regards to a particular passage in thinking grow rich in. If you didn't get a chance to listen to that, I would go back and listen to that I as The context for this discussion today, so love is a connector love. Is this emotion that that builds faith and connects you to the? The all the energy that is the universe spirit source God infinite intelligence love is this emotion that connects you bridges, the the human experience with the spiritual experience, and as you know we are, both that's the beauty of being a human being. We have a human experience which is very much of this. Physical Three D world with all our human fallibility and challenges and physical experience, and yet we are also of the spiritual world world. There is this element. Of Us, that is our solar spirit are energetic imprint. Action to infinite intelligence and. Our spirit. It's moving through us as us. So it is bigger than us and it is us at the same time, and in order to connect to that very powerful energy. You must love and it is such an incredible. Tool to tap into I know. That's funny to say that love is a tool, but you can really use it that way. and. In order to use it as a tool, you must express it. You must love in order to love seems like a little bit circular there. It is I. AM absolutely recognizing the circularity of that, but you know what love feels like. Can you express it? Can You Express your love? First Spirit can use express your love for for that energy that is, can you express your love for your your dog or your cat, or your your lover, or your wife or your husband or your kids or or your clients? Can you tap into? The love of this universe for everything in it. And I have a little funny for you so. I. Really Love is such a powerful emotion for me. A powerful way for me for me to really tap into my. Of being connected to spirit in therefore. Infinite Intelligence and everything that that that is in my ability to call in what I want in life so. But I I didn't always have a good relationship with love. I didn't always understand what it you know. Have really tap into it. So there's there's a lot to that and am I I feel some deeper teachings coming through on that, so stay tuned. Maybe that's a podcast episode later, but the funny that I want to share with you is. I used to get really tripped up on this concept especially around like. How do I feel gratitude? And how do I feel love when I'm in my? In my crazies or my negative thinking or my resentments, or the places where I'm I'm I'm really not in that positive energy and I used to start off my day, and now I I have the this this strange connection with it, which I will share pulling back the curtain, a little bit I wake up in the morning I think we're very connected to to spirit our spirit. In the morning. and. I will putter across the the the House and get myself a cup of coffee from my coffee machine that I love like I found the perfect coffee machine and I love it. It makes the most amazing coffee and the fact that someone invented a machine that not only makes the best coffee, but I can set to brew in the morning, and it's there for me is like completely magical in so I go, and Potter across the the the the house, and I go and pick up my cup of coffee, and I think the coffee machine, and I expressed so much love for. It's a thing. It's a thing and yet I feel the love coming right back at me as if it were not an animate object, but animated with Spirit, which of course it is, and I can tap into that, and it creates this immense Love Connection. And as a result, faith connection. In my day and I start off my day way which is. Great and then of course I have my coffee which. Is My drink of choice in the morning and I love quite a bit so play with that for yourself. How can you create that open? Hearted feeling right from the beginning of the day? Maybe not loving your coffee machine. Maybe it is What could you do? That opens your heart and connects you right away. Okay, we're finishing up this chapter on faith chapter three in the remaining portion of this chapter. Hill describes faith in how it's applied through looking at Christianity looking at Ghandi's work and he describes the business climate in his age, and then finally gets to the story of the founding of us, Steel Corporation now I'm not going to read this story in all its entirety to you, but I suggest that you read it and maybe read it several times because it's a very interesting. expose if you will on the creative process and I will be highlighting a few things for you to pay attention to, but I wanted to I. Share with you how Hill describes this? Work? This, this experience of creating US Steel Corporation, he says because of the need for faith in cooperation in operating business and industry it will be both interesting and profitable to analyze an event, which provides an excellent understanding of the method by which industrialists and businessmen accumulate great fortunes by giving before they get. So. The emphasis in this sentence is are the words giving and get, and he's yes about industrialists. Yes, he speaking about businessman. This might not be who you are, but the story. needs to be looked at from the analysis of the creative process. How do you take an idea that you have of something that you'd like to create and move it from idea to actuality to physical manifestation, and he's giving you big clue here. Give before you try to get, so I want you to look for that, not only. In this story, but also in your life. and. This can be a confusing. Concept for people because they either. They they swing from one extreme to the other. They go from I need to get get get you know like. Instantly wanting something from other people and and. Thinking that they're scarcity, and that they they have to get before it runs out or any number of different things but putting a lot of pressure on. Pulling in money if you will. The flip side of that is people not wanting to do that? Thing that that's going to be greedier batter. It's bad to ask for money, and so they air on the side of never asking neither of those. Extremes works. There's a cycle in a flow to giving and receiving. Okay, you you. What starts, the engine is is giving okay always. And you can give in a lot of different ways whether that's giving inspiration giving an idea giving. An emotion, a sense of worth or value to someone. It can be giving time. It can be giving money. There's so many different ways of giving giving your intelligence, but you must give before you receive because that puts you in a state of abundance rather than scarcity when you give I you are acting in faith, you're saying I am so secure and so so absolutely one hundred percent sure that I will receive exactly what I need and want and desire. That I don't mind giving I, I of course I would give I. There is nothing to lose here. So why wouldn't I give? That is faith. That is that a strong statement of faith. So. For for today's audio recording for today's lesson, if you will I want you to look at where you might be in that getting energy, and where you might be in the all I all I do is give, and then I might be a little resentful. And I need to ask. Now's the time to ask for what I desire. Where are you? Ring at the two extremes of this incredible law. Of receiving. It's the first lot. Giving is the first law of receiving okay. So, that's your thinking assignment for today tomorrow we'll get into the rest of the story on the US Steel Corporation and how? It's a great representation of the creative process. Could Morning Avas and thank you for joining me for the Morning Mindset Club? Today we are going to be looking at how the creation of United States Steel Corporation, which is a story in the chapter on faith in thinking Gra rich is a great example of the creative process, taking an idea into actual manifestation and creating riches in this case. So, he'll says I. The United States Steel Corporation was born in the mind of Charles M. Schwab, in the form of an idea, he created through his imagination. Second He mixed faith with his idea third he formulated a plan for the trance formation of his idea into physical and financial reality fourth. He put his plan into action. With his famous speech at the University Club Fist, he applied the following through his plan with persistence. Excuse me keep followed through on his plan with persistence, and backed it with firm decision until it had been fully carried out sixth, he prepared the way for success by a burning desire for success, so let's break that down real quick. So in the first step, he had an idea that he created in his imagination I, he flushed it out. He started seeing it planning it putting this idea together. He actually before he shared it with anyone. It was a fully formed idea. He could really see it coming into formation. Second He mixed this. Idea with faith. Third so faith is the key point. Point their third. He formulated a plan. He actually had a plan. He did this strategically did have all the little nuances worked out? No, but he had the basics of a plan in place, and he put that plan into action, so action again is critical here. And I know that seems somewhat obvious. Of course you have to take action. It would be silly to think that you could just sit. In, your living room staring at the ceiling, saying this is what I want and not take any action and have it come to pass. That's not. How things manifest in this world, they just don't they just don't. Now there's a lot of things that manifest through unique channels that we don't. Quite understand, but there's Al- always. And let me say that differently. We can come to understand them, and then they don't seem as magical or miraculous, but from the level of awareness that. You may be working at right now. They seem completely miraculous. How did that possibly happen so quickly? But there's a methodology to it and part of that methodology, which hill is outlining here? Part of that methodology is really understanding that you do need to take action. Okay, so action and bold action is required, and then he he applied in followed through on his plant with persistence. There is a whole chapter in thinking grow rich with on persistence, because persistence is such a key element to success. So, many people start and when they first when they hit their first block or they don't get instant. Gratification for for what they they quit, they stop. This is not persistence. You must be persistent. In your desire persistent in your imagination persistent in your fate persistence in your action. Okay. It requires persistence. And he backed it with a firm decision. Okay that actually probably came a little bit before. and he he. He prepared the way for success. With burning desire for it, so what he'll say here is that this burning desire for success is like it's like. The the the person with the machete. In front of the Line of people walking through the jungle. It's like the the thing that clears the way. For you to walk that path, you must have that strong burning desire for success. Okay, so for you today I want you to look at your goals, your dreams your desires. Do you have a clear idea of where you're going what you want? Have you played with this in your imagination? Do have faith. Do you have a plan? If you don't have a plan, you need a plan. If you want help with plan, please reach out to me. This is one of the things that I do for my clients is help them clarify where they're going and how to create a plan to get there. This is a collaborative process, but it's one of my genius. Pieces if you will, genius ca traits if you will is helping people come up with a clear plan to get from where they are now to where they want to be. And then. He took action. So where are you taking? Action or needing? Take Action. Where do you need to engage in more persistence where you letting yourself off the hook? You need to be like actually. I need at my persistence around this. have. You made a firm decision that you're doing this or are you wishy washy here and do you have a burning desire for success, so those are a lot of questions. Take them one at a time. Okay and let me know how that goes. A quick heads up. If you're loving this material, you can access the full success in wealth consciousness program. We have to help you achieve your big financial goals in life dreams for free at then stoppable woman dot com slash mindset club. You will have access to daily trainings in mindset practices to help you. Stay focused clear an inaction, so go get it at unstoppable woman dot com slash mindset club. Good Morning I'm Alvarez and thank you for joining me for the Morning Mindset Club? Now I. Want to give you a few pointers of what to look for aside from what we've already covered in this story of the creation. Of United States, Steel Corporation And how Charles Schwab went about doing this. So here are some things to look for. Gratitude. Thankfulness, where was that at play? And how DID SCHWAB GIVE IN ADVANCE Before he asked for anything. Can you find three four five examples of this? They're everywhere in the story. Okay? What about? The idea of proper and right. There are so many examples in the story of where there is proper decorum thrown aside. And I. Want you to think about how people become rule bound. And how that might limit you? From. The good that you desire. So the question to ask yourself. Is what rules matter to you. I happen to believe in universal law. I have found those. Laws or rules to hold true no matter what they have, they have tested them, and proved their efficacy over and over, and over again and I have not found an example of them, not being true or working. Therefore, they are lot to me, okay? I there like the law of gravity it works whether I understand the entire mechanism for it or not. I cannot find an example of it, not working. So for you when you think about the should of society. I want you to consider. What are you basing your decision to agree with? Those should of society on. And is that working for you? And how might it not be working for you? Okay, there's several examples of that in this story from the niceties of language to how long he supposed to speak in what's supposed to go on and how to show up in what to say what how to interact with your your employer. Had where where you know what is trust built on all sorts of things in this story that that are worth exploring? Okay, so you also want to look for the impression of increase, those of you who have studied the science of getting rich with me will understand the emphasis that I place on the impression of increase, and you are going to want to look for that in this story. And you're also going to look for. The idea of abundance here the creative plane versus the competitive plane we're. Has that shown up in this story. And there's a little dance around dot. It's quite interesting. Also look for how numbers are a key element in this story of creation. They weren't just looking at pie in the sky stuff they brought it down to. The you could say the the physical plane the concrete plane. and. They worked with numbers I. Just on paper. Right? That's that's almost like imagination, right? It hasn't actually happened yet, but they've. They've imagined it through the numbers. and. The lastly I want to say that think about what was asked for in the story and what came before the asking? And what came after the asking? And for yourself. Where do you limit yourself? Where do you not ask? For enough from life. Good Morning I'm a Mirror Alvarez and thank you for joining me for the morning. Mindset Club today we start chapter four in thinking grow rich auto suggestion, the medium for influencing the subconscious mind the third step towards riches, so hill has dedicated a full chapter to auto suggestion, even though he mentioning in throughout the book, because it is such a key factor in changing your. thinking. Around Your goal so in order to achieve something new achieve the big goal or dream that you have. You must think differently about it otherwise you would have achieved it already. Must Act differently as well? It's not just thinking must act as well, but you're thinking will drive your new actions. We've already covered that. Okay. Let's dive right into this. This chapter auto suggestion is a term which applies to all suggestions in all self administered stimuli, which reaches one's mind through the five senses stated in another way auto suggestion is self suggestion, it is the agency of communication between dot. Part of the mind were conscious. Thought takes place, and that which serves as the seat of action for the subconscious mind. Okay, let's break this down. This first sentence is really juicy in and of itself where he says all self administered stimuli, which reaches one's mine through the five senses. So self administered stimuli. Now, generally speaking, we're going to think about that as consciously self administered stimulant. It's your goal card. You repeat to yourself over and over and over again morning and night. It is the Vision Board that you see through your eyes of your future life the that you wish to be. Living now in. In pictures you see that through your eyes. You've put that together yourself consciously. But what of the semi, conscious or unconscious? Self admitted ministered stimuli. Think about your environment physical environment. You have put together. That is self administered. If that environment, the people places and things in your environment is not what you desire. It's being reinforced over and over again. Who isn't that interesting? What do we do? Well. I would suggest that you take a look at your environment, the people places and things. Which of these is conducive an lines up with what you desire, not what you're willing to accept, not what's good enough, not what? Is acceptable for now, but what you truly desire be rigorous in this. Hold a high standard for yourself and look around now it might not be all or nothing. It might not be black and white. Your life partner might be hugely wonderful in ninety nine point nine percent of the ways, but what is that place? That's not conducive to what you want. That's interesting. Just make a note of it. What, in your physical environment in your home? Is it messy, is it? Not Beautiful, is it small and cramped? Is it too large vacant right? Everyone has their own desires. There is not one. Singular way to this. Look around. What have you self created in your environment? Your your. We've talked up people. We've talked about places. Maybe it's the general city or state you live in, maybe it's. Maybe. It's the the job you go to your working firemen. Maybe it's the business you've created. Maybe it's the team members on your team. Look at yourself created environment and guess what. It's no. You've created your environment. No one else has we are all one hundred percent, personally responsible for our results and your your environment. Is your result. Okay, so take a look at that. We'll dig into the rest of these two sentences this paragraph in tomorrow's morning mindset, but for now take a look at what you have semi consciously or unconsciously created in your environment that you are self administering all the time reinforcing all the time. Through auto suggestion and just make a note of that today. Good Morning. I'm a mirror as in. Thank you for joining me for the morning, Mindset Club. Today we are continuing our discussion on auto suggestion and we discussed yesterday. Self administered stimuli which reach one's mine through the five senses, so let's take a look at those five senses. Most people know what they are, but let's call them out again. Sight, smell, touch, hearing, taste are senses are what allow us to bring in things from outside? Ourselves are outside world into our inside world into our consciousness. And we do that through seeing smelling touching hearing taste. That's how we interpret and understand the outside world through our senses. In so yesterday we looked at how we are perhaps semi consciously or unconsciously self administering stimuli. To you to ourselves. What are we seeing? What are we smelling? What are we touching? What Are we hearing? What are we tasting? This would be a great way of you evaluating. What you're leading into your consciousness, because most people when? It comes in through the senses. Do not consciously choose to reject it. They just let it in, and it goes straight into your subconscious where it finds. Fertile ground. and Gets self-perpetuated recreated. Directed out into creation again through our subconscious programming. So with that in mind yesterday we looked at what in in your environment might not be conducive to what you want to create. Now. That might be extraordinarily long list. It's okay, don't beat yourself up. Don't go down a rabbit hole chest. Note it. It's just information you might find yourself getting a little, angry or frustrated around that. You use that to change I'm all for it. If you use that to beat yourself up, that's not a useful tool. That just perpetuates you staying at the same level. So today a little bit more of the same. What are you seeing? What are you smelling? What are you touching? What are you hearing? What are you tasting in your environment? That is perpetuating what you want. And what you don't want. For instance what about taste? That seems quite innocuous. But. Are you tasting. For me it would be something like if I was eating carbs all the time. Or sugar all the time. That sends me into. Weight gain instantaneously and my vision of myself is not of someone who is carrying extra weight around, so that would not be conducive if that was in my environment right now, that would not be conducive to the vision, the desire that that the person I am choosing to be. So you want to do this with what you're hearing. What are the podcast that you're listening to? What are the TV shows that you're listening to? Who are the people in your life that you're listening to? Are The naysayers negative people? Why are you tolerating them? Touch are the things that you wear soft and delightful and. Beautiful on your skin or are they rough long ago? I decided that I am not wearing anything. That's itchy. That scratches me. That is uncomfortable. That's tight. Tight in an uncomfortable way, not tight in a sexy. form-fitting way that's comfortable and. The last I will admit the last holdout on this sometimes are high heels, will sometimes they are uncomfortable, but I really look for the comfortable version of heels that are still. Got A. Little Bit of. Fashion East element to it anyways I digress. Look at this in your environment. What are you smelling? Right. That's an interesting one there. There's the whole. Memory of smell that comes to mind for me here. Okay what are the scents and smells that bringing back to positive things are bringing you back to negative things, and are you recruiting? Not In your life are the smells of chocolate chip cookies. Lighting you up or they taking you off course, right? Do you do live next to? A. Factory that creates smells that you don't like. These are the kinds of things that you want to look for in your environment in and look to then start incrementally changing. Incrementally does not mean slow incrementally means one at a time one right after the other as quickly as you can manage. Good Morning I'm. Breath and thank you for joining me for the morning Mindset Club. The says day three on this one sentence. It's juicy sentence, so let's repeat it and then dive right in. Auto suggestion is a term which applies to all suggestions and all self administered stimuli which reach one's mine through the five senses so. We're going to cover two things today one. It says here. It's a term which applies to all suggestions. So all suggestions. All suggestions. Everything in your environment everything outside of yourself, everything inside of yourself. All suggestions. All Things? Are Coming in to you through your your five senses from the outside world, and then you are. You are repeating them over and over over again in your thinking. So you latch onto an idea a thought. Conception and you repeated over and over and over again. You know you do this. You have conversations in your head. Things Flash in your mind again and again. All suggestions. All suggestions. Okay So? Keep that in mind. What are you? Suggesting to yourself again and again and again. Okay and in think about the second part that I wanNA call out today. Is this bit about all self administered stimulate which reach one's mind through the five senses, so we talked about in a previous episode. We talked about the senses being how we understand the outside world. How We? Take in the the the channels through which we take in the world outside of us in bringing it into the world inside of us and also. We can take it a step further and recognize that through the use of our imagination. We can. Create whole new worlds. And, so when you are using your imagination use. It to see new things use it to smell new things. Use It to feel in touch new things. Use it to hear new things. Use it to taste new things so when you are matching what you actually desire, that may not be in your current environment, but is what you want to create. Imagine through those five senses as well. And you will then create a whole new world for yourself. And if you put that on repeat. It will. Be embedded into the fertile ground of your subconscious mind. And will eventually. Be Created. In your outside world, it will go through you. In an stick, and you will start taking new action according to this New Vision if you will new conception in your subconscious mind and you will, you'll see new things. See New opportunities and take different action in you will create. The thing that you desire, but it starts by embedding it in your subconscious. So do that today. Start imagining the new world that you want to create the new goal that you WANNA create. What does it look like? What does it smell like what is? What does it feel like what is it? What are you here when you're living that? What are you tasting? If you will, you could get really detailed Ben. Okay for the bonus content for this episode of thinking yourself into exponential results and wealth I want to go back to something. I mentioned earlier. Which is, you must love in order to love? and. I want to go into that a little bit deeper here into that concept, because it's so critical to expanding your life and achieving what you desire faster than you ever thought possible, so it doesn't only have to do with love. It really works for everything that you desire that she want in your life. All the the goals that you have the ways that you what you want to experience all of that, so think about it. In terms of more than just love, but also in terms of love. And this concept that I'm going to play out for you today. This is really part of a much larger teaching, but I'm going to attempt to crystallize it and give you the crux of it here. If you are interested in going deeper into this right like your interest is piqued in your leg while this is I, want more. I want to understand this more fully so that I can really. Really implemented then I would suggest that you go to our website and check out what we have on offered. There's a variety of different ways that you can learn this material more deeply. The website is that that unstoppable woman dot com, so the unstoppable woman dot com, and there's a chat option on our website. You can chat with someone on my team. look for our unstoppable woman summits. Those are really great places to go deep, immerse yourself in this material and really walk away with a plan for yourself, and then you know we have coaching programs of course so definitely act on that if it's something that you are interested in okay, so the crux of this teaching is that everything in the universe vibrates. This is a vibration everything. Even what seemed solid is actually vibrating the molecules the atoms. Making up the thing that appears solid are actually vibrating. If you look at them with an under a microscope, they're vibrating everything in this universe vibrate. That's molecular vibration. Okay, that's that's what it's called in. Everything is vibrating. And everything is vibrating at a different level of frequency. Now the thing you need to know about this, the thing that makes it powerful the thing that makes it something that you can use to create change in your life to achieve what you really want. Is that. What we are attracted to is at the same level of vibration. As what we're on? And the reverse is true as well. What is attracted to us? Is that the same level of vibration as where we're at? So we vibrate at a particular frequency. If you're thinking in terms of money or finances, if you want to make ten K. Twenty eight hundred k. a month, whatever your goal is, you must be vibrating at that level, not at the level you currently are at. Which means that you must be. At that level your energy your being this your actions, your thoughts, your ideas must be at that level. And that's not the level you're at currently. So thumbs. The rubs right like you're not there, but you wanna be there and in order to be there. You need to be vibrating at that level of frequency. So what do you do? What do you do in order to have that? which you want, you must already be at that level that feels like a trap like you couldn't possibly make that happen for yourself. And Yet You Can And the way you do this. Is that you become the person who already has that, so let's let's break this down if you say you WANNA. Make ten cam month, and you are someone who makes two k. a month. There's a gap there. You have to start thinking. Using your imagination. What what would a woman who makes ten K. A month? Fink. Feel Act like up like. She respond. How would she walk? How would she talk? What would her? what would her sense of gratitude be? What would her sense of faith be? What would her sense of certainty? What would her sense of love and you have to be that and you do that through your imagination? You get a crystal clear idea of what that is. You might have to look around for inspiration. That's fine. Go find some role models for that. And then act as if you're that already, and when you go off, course and you start behaving like the women who makes less money. You catch yourself with that. Response. And you change it and you go okay. How would I respond if I actually was at that level that I want to be at? And, this is true whether you're talking about a financial goal, a relationship goal, a health or fitness goal. A lifestyle goal. You have to be the. Before you are the woman, and that is an act as if activity. 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48 -- Resolutions for 2020

Sincerely Fortune

00:00 sec | 11 months ago

48 -- Resolutions for 2020

"Well to ooh sincerely fortune it's fortune teamster and Jax and we're back. We did it. We made it to twenty twenty Shurmur. We did so. It's twenty twenty. It's a new year. We had a lovely break. I hope you guys did too. And we had a lovely holiday. We're back on a new day where to earn on Wednesdays now so you have to have a new routine for listening to us. Some people went. No I wait for my kids at school on Tuesdays but now you can wait on Wednesdays listening to us. I'm super pump for twenty twenty when you guys. I don't think I've ever been this excited for a new year. In a long time. Part of it is because I'm starting this year with with a brand new hour. Stand up special. It's my first hour. Stand up special. And it's premiering on Net flicks January very twenty first is called sweet and salty. And you guys are just I really am so genuinely pumped to share this with you. It's such a personal personal stand upset. It's very autobiographical. Many of you came install a portion of it live and I don't know I'm August Makes my heart very happy to share this and we toured all over the country. I did a hundred and five hour long standup shows just in two thousand nineteen forty five cities. It was crazy it was but at area with me. I'm very proud of you. All thanks boo. I'm proud of you for putting up with all that. Travelling it was. We were so exhausted over the holidays. I think. I think there's one that we two days when we got back from all the traveling we just passed out on the couch. We kept watching movies. We never do that. We left our couch for two days and I needed so bad. I know you too. Well not only where we traveling but you worked during the holidays and then spending time with family as always exhausting and we fit in time with my family and your family double duty and the dogs and so it was just nice to get home and then we needed a breather. Yeah we definitely did. We had a lovely time in Florida with Jackson family and then we went to North Carolina which was a trip. You guys know ginger. We all know ginger. We all love Ginger while ginger. I promised us a home cooked meal as that. was her big. Well I. She told me she was going to make rice. crispy treats and sausage balls. This was leading up to the Christmas dinner. Is You promised to make. I feel like it's partly our fault though because we talked about how she it doesn't podcast and so she said No. I am making a home cooked meal this year because we were going to be celebrating our Christmas on the twenty six right and so because my brothers were out of town and that's when everyone was available and so the twenty fifth. She said she was going to make make all these treats and she had all the stuff she bought all the rice crispy treats she bought stuff to make fudge she bought subsuming assuming saucers. None of that happened which is fine totally fine because you know it gets busy. During the holidays but Vinci said on the twenty six. She was going to make our big Christmas meal. and Ho boy. It was a doozy first off. She put four things in the oven at one time. But my mom doesn't set timers. I'll tell you when my mom knows something's ready quote unquote when the smoke alarm goes off the we were all sitting there chatting and I go. Is that smoke moke coming out of the oven and everyone goes. Oh Yeah Oh my God it's and what did your mom say. What ever she said? Oh No it's fine. I think it is though we opened up the oven and smoke. Billowing yeah what did you discover well part of it quote a home cooked meal isn't actually. I learned home cooked. You you buy it from a restaurant or store you just heated Lido for sure. Well one of the dishes that she had put in the having to heat up was in a plastic container. Mom what were you think aging. You can't put plastic containers. And Even I. I know that my don't cook and other container was like sliced on the bottom. So steph was like dripping but then there are A appetizer type. Spinach epidemic was the second round. You don't remember that yeah so. We took out the plastic from the oven. And I tried to clean up what I could and put things on different dishes. And then later on. She decided to put the spinach appetizers on a cookie she and she put the whole dozen. One I didn't know that she did it but we knew again because more smoking. Yeah yeah that's right. It was a second round of smoke everywhere we had to open doors windows. It was so bad. They got out the tray of these appetizers and they were burnt to a Chris. I posted a picture on my instagram. Each there's also some Mac and and she's in a slow cooker but that was very Chris. It was like you know The Pot the Crock pots are supposed to be full proof. You just stick a bunch of stuff in there let it simmer for twenty four hours. You got you a delicious meal on Ow. She started trying to to scoop out macaroni and it was like parts of it. Were hard still and she goes I might I can just eat it the next day. They don't do that so the good news is we did have a salad from a restaurant picked up so so we were able to eat that because we cook it and we had picked up my brother. A bunch of hooters chicken wings always makes makes my family happy and we had picked up a few other snack things. So no one starved one-star and the House did not burn down but it came close So you know what we love you ginger. But we're good. We don't need to practice anymore. Recipes I'll have to to call my mom and another episode at some point and check in with her cooking classes skills if they're getting any better because it is concerning when she doesn't set any timer and then didn't notice the smoke I would hate for her to be cooking alone and have that happens so say cooking plea. Yes but you know it was. It was a lovely time and we were happy to see everybody and now we're back. Yeah twenty I feel good. Howdy leafy will great? Yeah Grainger I'll have to give Jackson Kudos. We went to an event Saturday night and she looked smoking. Oh this is the fire alarm not for ginger. But for Jack's Okay she was looking mighty fine in this pink Sushi bought and and It was a good way to start the new year. And now you know I feel like every year at the beginning of a new year. What do people do? They make. Resolutions Solutions Sometimes Jackson. I have made Vision Boards We didn't do that this year. Went into a last year. Actually we did a a year before last. We should make vision board. Yes I think we were too busy and because once we got back from visiting our families on the East Coast My dad came out and stayed with us so we had like a two day break of family and then boom more family so we really. They haven't had a minute to do it but we should sit down. I think it's always important whether it's at the beginning of the year or at a different time but when oh you know you're feeling like the chance for a new beginning to think about What you want? Yeah because the whole purpose behind it is that you're setting sending intention I this is the thing I want. I'm like some people cut out of magazines. Cut Out a picture of that thing. They glue it all our tape it altogether and you're sort of like visually seeing what it is that you're aiming for everything will you know can come true but you're at least he's setting a positive. This is what I want. I'm seeing it. I'm putting in my head and the hope is that it manifests itself in some some way it may not be in the way you think but it could be in a different way. I love it because sometimes you'll be like here's a big boat and you know you're like maybe maybe it does happen in that way but then you get offered like here's a free cruise. I our own a yacht but here's a free cruise You see what I'm saying. Jack's Yes I see what you're saying uh-huh yeah I definitely think we need to make one and put a wedding on there so that we finally buckled down and planner wedding. Do it this year. That's right we are going to get married. You may baby after. I saw that pink suit. I'll like what am I doing. I gotTA lock this jail. Okay Komo home. I give you till the end of the year. If you haven't plan the wedding that we're just going to vegas in my pink sue doing it. We gotTa Plan uh-huh together together. We should do a whole episode on. Have we done that episode wedding planning. I mean we've talked about it. Maybe getting eating are getting it together and then we just never do you know. It's just not something either. One of us are really into like that word of details in planning like that and then because their schedule has been so busy. I feel like it's easy to get distracted and plan other things You you'RE GONNA GO PLAN OF AKA now. We need to hire someone to plan for. US is basically the thing that we need to do but we also also need to like decide what we want that as well. We want to get married. Put in the calendar. The in the Vision Board and the Carolinas. Yeah that's a big one for us in our vision board. You know what people I think. People Have Vision Board parties. His in your friends come over. You get a bunch of old magazines and you do the whole like. Hey what he what he does want for. This year. Let's manifest manifest it makes some vision boards and then you're doing it together as a as a little party situation. We were supposed to that last year. Have a vision. Board party never followed through. We did it. We failed on that in a things. Yeah we had one of our friends onboard and saying when you want to do it. I know we're going out of town this weekend shows have a show and Aspen. If you live in Aspen Colorado I'm going to be the Wheeler Opera House on Saturday. Bring Your Vision Board. That's what I say that doesn't make sense to put it in your pocket. Bring it in maybe on Your Vision Board your manifesting the see me live and it comes through Out Or already manifesting things in twenty twenty jacks but for us I think the big thing is it's a new year. What do people always talk about? Resolution wise getting healthy getting healthy. Oh Oh my God. This is a kind of a seesaw for Jackson. We've done other podcast in the past Abou- health journeys and how it's up and down the thing because as always happens with people over the holidays you start getting off your routine. There's treats everywhere so many treats. Yeah what's my weakness. Jack's treats she's like where do I start coach. I love sugar And that Sugar Dragon Creep back up on Ya especially over the holidays and I mentioned in that my dad had been visiting and he is a sugar addict he has been my whole life and just being around him cookies at at all times all my hearing and night. Her Dad ordered a breakfast and he ordered on a lake waivers ranchos or something and the waiter brings. He's out the condiment station. I don't know what you call it. Where all the condiments are in this thing and her dad notices has real maple syrup he goes all they they have real maple syrup calls the waiter over he's like I'm GonNa also need to order waffles? I might get it because is that that's a that's a smooth right. They're like Oh we have that I'm gonNA also need a saddle offals. We've done the whole thirty twice Jason and I actually I hate doing it but I also enjoy it because I feel so much better when I do it. It's definitely hard and it changes your whole lifestyle for those thirty days In the you can't feel you can't even leave your house 'cause there's temptations everywhere everywhere but I still don't eat you know I try to avoid dairy and gluten in for a while. I was also avoiding sugar. But that's gone out the window today. I well because I was taking my dad to the airport and we stopped to get breakfast and I ordered something that I would have never ordered because I thought well I think we're going to get back on that whole thirty trade and I'm with my dad who's not going to judge me for it so I ordered crepes with bananas and chocolate pledge and came with two of them and I ate them and then in order the now I would have gotten on an Eggers and then I came home and I had a milk bar cookie for lunch and I knew it was like a one with marshmallows. Mello's chocolate and I knew that I shouldn't have it. And as soon as I ate the cookie I fell awful. My head started hurting and I just felt blind line. I know it's because it's too much sugar. My Body Joe. Jack has the good fortune. I think it is a lucky thing. If she thinks that she shouldn't shouldn't you know quote unquote. Her body tells her right away. Like no no no. This is too much. My Body does not do that. My buddy goes Gimme Gimme Gimme come Emma. We like this her about her head. I feel like I have a hangover. I eat a lot of sugar and I think that's good. Because it's nice that your body like rejects is like no. I don't want this stuff. My Buddy wants all the John all the crap all the sugar but yet my I'm still not smart enough have to just then eat healthy. I now feel so much better if I just need a bunch of vegetables and I like vegetables do but that's something that you have to cook and Mike Prep and I'm lazy so I tend to just go out to eat and just ask you to go out to eat and when you go out to eat. It's hard to find plain vegetables officials. I feel like you know. They're always bug hiring them. Yeah and sauces outside your sauces. Because again they wanNA make it good. They want you to come back in order the L. that those Brussels sprouts are so good they also at lake in on butter and yeah so we're kind of that you know we're at that part heart where we're like okay new year. Were feeling like we've gotten off the track when we get back on the track. Uh Are we giving back on the truck. I mean I don't know what track I feel like. There are things I learned from the whole thirty that I still follow. Oh Yeah I don't know if I want to go all in with the whole thirty again a joey. Oh because it helps when Jackson I get on the same page. Yeah so what page. Are you think well if anyone listening has anything that they've done that's made them feel better. I don't care as much I mean yes I would like to lose weight but I don't care as much about that as just feeling better and as we get older you know our bodies kind yes sir feeling things I just want to feel like I have energy and and if no one has any good suggestions I guess. We'll just do the whole thirty Dan. Well I think what would help you and I get back on track of and not necessarily the whole thirty thing. I think eating at home is a big one for us. I think when easy for you to sign up his Jackson unfortunately has to do more of the cooking. 'cause it's that's not where my gifts are but I do know that when she and I started ordering out a lot I know things are off the rails because then we're then the things were ordering become more and more unhealthy so I think the first step to getting back to a somewhat healthier page. wjr Isn't his going to grocery store and cooking eating at home cooking. That usually helps us get back on a better track and then in. This one's a tough one for me I will all that's hard who am I kidding. It's all an uphill battle. The other thing is getting back into a fitness US routine. There are towns. Go hiking a lot and we're really good about it and then other times and I'm I'm a lot to blame for that because my schedule schedule like today I was gone all day and then by the time I get home. It's dark He go hiking. I only I mean we didn't WanNa give bit by Mountain Lion Ryan. We had a good hour and a half that we could we need to do. Is We were talking about ordering a treadmill treadmill. 'cause I will actually I mean listen. I'm saying that I'll use it. We bought an elliptical a couple years. Go and use it like three times. I know it was so funny. One of my friends of selling elliptical on facebook. They were like only been used for the got bit. But I'm hoping I like treadmills Of all the fitness equipment. I actually use those more than anything. I'm hoping if if we get one that I actually use it. I don't WANNA I don't WanNa make promises that's my hope. So all right you see. This is why we're doing this podcast at the beginning of the year because in some ways it holds us a little bit accountable for some of these. This is A. We're doing a verbal vision in board right now res- slash resolutions. So health is a big one but about. I think you were talking about meditation. Yeah so so I started thinking. Well I've been thinking about meditation because people keep bringing it up or not. I listen to Howard stern a lot. He does transcendental meditation. TATION which I don't really know much about us. Hafila goat. What differences then Chelsea handler posted about meditation and how it's really transformed her way of thinking and made her more patient and less anxious and I just saw oak me? You know so many people talk about it. There's gotTa you know obviously has a very positive effects on people. My problem was always sitting still. I'm on the go constantly but uh-huh Chelsea said they're like APPs like I know head spaces one. They're a couple other people listed some things. I'll have to go back and look so then. It guides you through it because I I can't just sit down and be like okay now. What but if I have an out being like for the next I don't know what it does? I haven't uploaded it. Maybe it's lakes like breathe for two minutes closure is for five. I don't know think about this. I'm I'm guessing. I'm just curious to see if it would what it would have what effect it would have on me. Yeah I think it could be helpful for you. Need a meditation chair. Okay Darla Sleep. That's why I know I can't do it if I close my eyes. I fall asleep immediately for me. I my goal I would like to set set out. Even if it's what do people fifteen minutes people do it for. I would like to make that a goal To try to do that at least five. Fifteen fifteen minutes. Why don't you download the APP? And I'm sure it will walk you through it. Oh I'll do this. I am not anyhow. That's your day we'll for me. I think why I'm interested in trying. It is because once you put out a standup special you then have to write a pretty much start trying to all right a whole new act as a writer as a creative person. Sometimes you're like I don't know what to write. I don't know what to talk about and I want to free my head a little bit to make room for whatever creative inspiration is come. And I'm I'm feeling a little blocked and I would like to see if meditation helps kind of open me up credible a little bit. Put the phone down no great idea. Okay thanks Babe Gerbert Great. What's your next revolution Will I mean I know you're perfect. Yeah but do you have any personal goals that you wanNA share. I would like to figure out a way to spend more time with biggie. She loves biggie. Well one thing since I've moved to La. I haven't found a place to volunteer at so this year. I want to make it a goal Or make it a priority to find a place to volunteer probably a something with animals. I think My number one used to be with children but I think now that have big. Em just so so maybe something. They've got some animal sanctuaries or dog. Rescues here yeah. I would love to foster older dogs but with our schedule. It's just not feasible right now. I think you'd be good at. Were you know working with animals. Yeah I feel like animals. Tend to like me As I knock on wood. 'cause I don't see where you're so good with the animals and kids. They they all flock to you. Like your Moses okay. Do I have any other well. Stand up has been such the forefront for me the last two years I've been wanting to get back into acting more and I've been working towards that I have some fun projects That are coming up. So I'm excited about that to just sort of dig back into that world and you know the goal is to try to get better with every project you know and for me one goal. I guess it's not a resolution is more of a vision. Board thing is I hope I really hope to get some in projects where I get to show range because I think people really know me for my comedy and being sort of outrageous or the playing certain types of characters characters I would really like to push myself and get hopefully the opportunity to show a different side. I one I got to do that. Tells of the city Show on Netflix which I sang for. And that's not something. I'm used to always comfortable with but that was a nice challenge for me so this this year I hope to have a different type of acting challenge. Something one of those dramatic. Oh my goodness war being in a scary movie. That'd be fun. Yeah I liked to play one of those slate hill people. Oh you would be good at that whereas a wife beater and short jeans short. And maybe I like look scary like come hillbilly. Yeah you don't WanNa like drive down my driveway. Well you could start writing. I hope to find a good work balance where I do work a lot but I wanNA make sure I spend time with you and my babies breath and that we still have personal life and it's not all work you know yes ma'am yes ma'am but I think for me always be resolution as health as I get older. You know it becomes when you're younger you can just kinda like toss it off as like A. Yeah I'll figure that out but as you start to get older you realize that you don't have that luxury to wait. You got to really take care of yourself right because then it starts leading to other problems that you can't always reverse. We found I mean and I just want to. I'm never going to be. Skinny is just not in the cards for me and I don't necessarily want that. That's not what I'm that's not my goal but Having good health so I feel good. That's the goal just waking up with energy feeling good about myself my choices because 'cause you know when you start to eat bad things I think it really starts to sort of affect the way you feel about yourself to like your self esteem and and and I just WanNa have good mental health and I think that all feeds into each other. Yes but we asked the people on the sincerely fortune and facebook page what their resolutions working. We're because sometimes it helps. Sometimes I figure out my resolutions when I see it in other people's resolutions and so people shared some really cool ones Sabrina. Sabrina said that she's going to be doing the whole thirty. Of course and I'm still reflecting on what I want to set with intention. Someone else said. I'm focusing focusing on being nicer to my body by giving it what it needs to keep working and also for giving it for being middle aged. We've done some good stuff together. That was Monica. Y'All L. so I like that too. That what we were saying just being healthy Trish said that her and her wife were ready to be healthy. Mind Body and soul And someone else said Kito. I've heard you know a lot of people really like Kito Hito. Yeah there's a lot of people tarmo trying to be more positive. I think that's a good one like I said the helps with the mind. The mental stuff if is just as important more positive talk with myself and to others thinking before I speak. And if it's a negative comment doesn't always need to be set out loud old and then you can just think it and let it go. This person said to be more aware of my inner voice and how I speak to myself which is important the whole positive outlook when it comes to your own wellbeing. uh-huh for sure and I liked this one a lot. Kim said that hers is is to tell someone's boss they did well at something at least once a week. Even if it's just something like packing groceries well something to make me look out for the positive things and hopefully have a positive effect for the employees as well. Yeah that's really nice. I never think you I never think of that And I think that's a really good specific one. That could really make a someone's Day yet. Which reminds me like one of mine? This year was to be more positive but also just kinder Friend of ours was sharing a a story about the kindness of a stranger where she was like bracing herself for an uncomfortable interaction and he ended up coming with such kindness unnecesary. What a big difference? It made to her at that point. And I thought you know it's true because sometimes especially with as crazy as life gets or all the people out here in La with their road rage and you don't even know if what someone's going through Susan said To let one friend per months know oh how much I love and appreciate them by doing something they notice need or would never ask for. That's really nice. I think all of us have a tendency to sort of put friendships on the back burner. Just not like you know just forgetting to let people know how much you appreciate them. So that's that's really good and volunteer Here and there is a good one. Sarah said to make a new friend that should maybe go to my list too. Yeah yeah more ally France. Yeah because you're you're still in that new new part of La and it takes awhile and he's big cities the meet people this person. I just WanNa have a good year. Listen Julia I'd I get that. I just want to have a good year too. Sometimes you just are like it's too much to even think about what specifically I want but I do know I wanted to be good. Did Marianne says she wants to tackle her credit card debt this year. That's really good. Getting out of debt is a very as you know even the little by little. It's so freeing because you do not want that tying you down you know where you're making choices based on debt. You WanNa make make choices that are good for you and I mean. I think that you know setting these intentions and resolutions are important because it can the world. It seems so overwhelming sometimes like ready at the beginning of this year. There's been those tragic fires in Australia. Things happening politically and That you feel like you can don't have very much control over at least if you're focusing on yourself you can make positive changes in your small world and hopefully a it extends you know because I do feel like yes mandate Jisk- feels very overwhelming. Well you gotTa Start yes start small start with yourself and if you can get yourself in a good head space in a good place. Your interactions will affect other people. Those in then they will go on to interact with other people. It's like a chain. You know so start with yourself. Set those good intentions for you and I promise it will trickle down to other people because because you're want negativity you're gonna find it easy peasy. It's all over the Internet all over media so I just say keep those positive thoughts take good care of yourself you know And then you will therefore be taken care of other people. I do want to say we send out so much love to the folks in Australia. We have a lot of people in Australia. LISTEN TO OUR PODCAST. I've gotten the opportunity to perform in Sydney and Melbourne written and as far as are awful. And if you feel like you WANNA help out. I Know Celeste Barber. She's a entertainer. She has Go Go for mere something that where you can donate money and that money will be going directly to helping with those fires because a lot of people are like aac at so often. I don't know what to do. She's a good person to look up. I know that pages going around on facebook or on instagram. It's there's probably linked to that As well so if you can help out do it. Because there's a lot of people in need and all of us all over the world have to look out for each other and we have a special guest who would like to share her New Year's resolutions. Hi y'all it's me brand I have have always wanted to share my resolutions out loud. I have never had a chance to so this is really cool. I just wanted to say AH my resolution are more for my husband. Tm I would love for him to start helping around the house and so you know just maybe once in a while picking up a frying pan. TM wouldn't hurt for you to make something once in a while. 'cause I'm busy tanker taking care of the kids and you're out there just drinking with your friends and I don't know I just want some me time you know. I WanNa sit on the couch with my furry slippers on and drink. Some of that. Vino that we got a costco when we got that bundle wine. We've been letting it breathe. You've been about three days. I don't know how long you're supposed to let it breathe but that's my resolution is drink more wine while. TM does his partner in the kitchen. 'cause Mama's hungry y'all all right well that and I want some hot tub Tom. I love a good deep in the hot two. So ladies you just listen to me you get your fell out there working and you know you. You'll pay him back in other ways as if you know what I'm talking about anyway. Happy New Year. Yo and I'll talk to you soon. Bye Right right well. Hopefully she gets what she wants. But I'm excited for twenty twenty. I'm feeling good about what's to come. We're so happy that we have this platform to get to talk to you guys every week and we hope to bring more interesting conversations. We hope to have some cool guests. we're coming up on our year. You're an anniversary yes. Can you believe that we never thought we would be podcasters here. We are and the best part is. We've got to meet a lot of people on the road who talk about podcasts. In it's it's really cool. So thank you guys for coming back. Yeah in twenty twenty with us. Thank you for listening. Thank you for your kind words. Yeah and We talk to you next week. Wednesday right next ones sir. Have a good. We and I'll see some of you in Aspen on Saturday by.

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19: Polynesian Culture (with Pauline Fonua)

Mouthpeace with Michael Bennett & Pele Bennett

00:00 sec | 6 months ago

19: Polynesian Culture (with Pauline Fonua)

"WAKE UP WAKE UP A. Wake Up. WAKE UP A. I said wake up. Wake Up. You're listening to mouthpiece Michael Bennett and Pele Bennett. The Polynesian coacher I think a lot of times we highlight Michael Turn, African American culture because our kids African American, but there are so many things about your culture that we don't highlight enough. I think it's good. That would take the opportunity to see what your culture has brought to America in which a coaches brought to our family, in which coaches brought to me individually. Not Dissimilar Culture isn't very interesting culture. Even though a lot of people I know Polynesian South, why do you think a lot of people only know about the polynesian sauce on the know about the pineapples in about the dancing? For some reason, a lot of people don't know about the culture and you know I think Polynesian. Sauce chick-fil-a I don't think really been no at Palmerston means. So using that word with the sauce doesn't even you know relate to each other? It's just like this is the word for their sauce, but the word pollination. They probably don't. I'm sure many people don't know what that is so instead of directing that two or connecting that to people there connecting to took. Stores. The I prefer but as part of the Samoan culture too dissimilar, isn't that? Doesn't that mean happy people and I. think that really describes some more people like Simone. People are some of the most happiest nicest people I've ever met in my life, the most inviting people like you could be somewhere i. don't even know them, but they would invite you into their house. Invited into their culture. Invite you. Dinner, but when you look at it, culture and you talk about Family Fox a morning. Everything about the Family Polynesian is family in connection to the ancestors in family, and I just think that's just so amazing. That's always overwhelm me as individual has being a part of your family, growing tinges and part of my adult life to. I think when you think of someone's I do think of community and I feel like if you're anywhere in the US or in the world, and you see someone in the you like I think they might be someone. You always want to reach out and say hello, and then the first question you always ask is what's your last name? And our last names are tied and bound to us through you know generation after generation and my dad. He was telling me that he went back. Fourteen generations in so knowing someone's last name is so important. That connects you to your people in. Just to your family tree, and a in it really is mind blowing to know how far you can go back to known How far you've come, and so I think like I think of community I think of family and I. Think of just how beautiful it is that when we see each other, you know that we acknowledge each other, and we want to learn more about where we come from, and then the question always is like so are we related in most of the time you're? You are usually related to some went down the line or maybe someone married into the family. But he, no mass might be like Osa is only twenty dollars, but that's very interesting digital father. No, I was just laughing. Because unlike that's true because of the last name like if you're at a family, function or someone's family function, then your cousin is going to be like okay. Let me tell you that you are related to this person. This person this person just in case you trying to be friendly, you know and make a connection. Get a number like yellow customs. You might not WanNa go that far. We look at the news coach to even like tattoos you know you. got a tattoo and a handful of people that don't know her. She can't officially get any jobs in America with a tattoo and a half, but at the same time. She's. She has a tattoo and Eoghan. Can you explain the Tattoo because I feel like a lot of people? Get Tattoos giving myself. I have a whole budget tattoos begging all these tattoos. They mean something, but I feel like the tattoos in Asian culture. They actually mean like they're actually like guy. Like you get a guy on the hand, you could be a guide to travel, and it could be navigator like it means so much for like even with Tattoo and I. Feel like people have adopted. Samoan culture and getting Polynesian Tattoos, but they don't even know meanings of the tattoos why people get those Tattoo owed Iraq has tattooed tribal, but what is tribal actually mean if you don't even understand. Enough I like that word tribal they tribal. Now I'm just saying that word is like. Oh! It makes me cringe. Tribal Art they chapel is beginning Essenes of people actually I think this too vague. I think that's why. When you look at someone specific to like if you talk about Polynesian islands or so many islands in the Pacific in general, and you can see each type of tattooing you know connects to a certain island to a certain history to a certain story so i. don't know when someone says the word tribal I, don't it? Just Kinda like takes away from that part of the history, and I feel like it just too vague to general to say Oh, no, that is a specific place in these are the people in the culture in the history of people say tribal tattoos hr be like oh cultural, because I'm attached to the tribe. Tribe is before city. Tribe is before all the things that we know now in this society tribe was the most important thing in a tribal tattoo is is identify right so people want to be identified with the beginning identify to what renewsleep tribal to to that goes in so many different directions. But when you're just saying tribal I, think because that word has also been used amongst with the words of like savage, you know those type of words where I just feel like it just kind of to me. Personally, it just kind kinda like you know. Chips added saying the word tribe village, those things all goes within community, but I think also may be personally that you know our someone culture. You're Tapa, which Chatou is very significant, and it means so many things that goes on a deeper level and so growing up. We have family members that have. Their Marlou there, so many different cultural connections to our tattooing, and so I would see people that would have, and I'm gonNA use barbed wire because I would always see. They're growing up. People have a barbed wire on their armor. You know tattooed on her own or something that looked like it could be you know connected, but they would use the word tribal with these type. Type of tattoos and I I don't know for I. Have like this memory of just feeling like that. There's no connection there. It's like this disconnected like you. Using this word, which tribe is important I think it is your tribe is important, you know, but when you connect it to something that it just looks like it was like falsely used, or they created their own story. When. People have. offensive when they take them, but also you can take that. People really respect the culture I. Think People really respect? The artistry of the Tattoos to Desa does another way to look at because you look at the way, the traditional way of Luna, tattoos and meaning behind it. I think a lot of people are searching for meaning in their life. I think that's true. I think it's important to. Keep your culture and traditions connected through your family, and that's why so important that for me growing up. You know we did a lot of stuff. That's still instilled our culture so that we could learn because we're going first generation. The US both my parents are from someo born there. My father left later up when he was going to college. But you are kind of not living two lives, but you're living to blend to right, so you're learning American ways just. Just because he lived there, you know adapting to society, but then at home you're. My parents were very adamant. Hostile teaching us. You know many of the traditions. We grew up dancing so a lot of the dance was you know taught with us and I? Feel like sometimes. It was a little difficult to have both of them. In because a lot of the traditions, people didn't understand you know, and then he having to explain constantly almost like defending yourself when someone? Doesn't know any because it gets to a point where you're just like I'm not GonNa you know, explain myself anymore. Because sometimes you know in those conversations, it just gets very ignorant is not even that you WanNa, learn out now. You're like battling what I'm trying to say. You know sometimes. I feel like a you just WanNa try to understand. You're just GONNA listen when it becomes an argument. To defend my ethnicity and my culture, then I'm like then. Your intentions are not really to understand. Learn about me. You're just you know trying to attack everything that I'm saying also to grown I. Guess you were some of the tradition that you talked about early. That kind of like important to you that are so much American traditions or American holidays or something that really that you remember. What does you remember that were particularly? Touching to your heart or moments are forever in your memory. When you first saying that I was trying to think of something big, but as simple as the word respect. I think I learned how to be respectful because of my culture being respectful to other people being respectful to other people, not only to your elders. You know to people that you don't even know you know Stephen Strangers. Having respect for people to your peers. You know to your family members. I think that that was definitely a part of our culture. And it was instilled within our home with all of my siblings, and with my siblings. There's seven of US total I would always say like we you know we fun every now, and then you know like anybody, but at the end of the day we continue to learn respect for each other, so we are never lasted long. You know growing up. We never don't talk back to your parents. You know, but it wasn't i. don't know I. Just feel like it was instilled in so many little things. You know how you when. When you meet someone how you address that when you're talking with your uncles or your aunts, you know high trust them, and then also serving, you know to be of service not to be and when I say service, I don't mean like Labor. You know like all these poor kids. I didn't mean to be a service to be respectful. So if our family came over like we always had Sunday hung and that means everyone's coming in in your eating, and so that was really important to me growing up in still important now. That I look back and I'm so thankful. Be had these weekend gatherings where we would come in and we would. Have you know someone food? We'd have American like whatever we wanted. It would be a mix of like potluck. Style, a foods and continuing to learn what our foods are. Because now we're living in Texas so we're still bringing that culture and into our homes, and teaching the kids, and what we you know what they grew up eating. Back in the islands, but then listening storytelling I think everything all of that maybe does gather around the corner is that we had because we learned you know a language. It's like little worse to say because it was like a fighting battle to continue to learn your culture at the same time. Trying to you know Kinda mountain in just kind of like be. BE IN AMERICAN SCHOOL I remember coming to dinner like I said those are full of food, but there was full of love to because it was the first time when you first people describe a fire knife dance. I'm going to describe a right now. I walked in my father in law had a knife. Not just a one-sided knife was a two sided night. He had no pants on either underwear. This wasn't anything funky people. Wasn't. Wasn't wearing just plain underwear cultural things on his legs. and He loved wearing underwear. We Glenn. Beck he was wearing an ear. Love, which is like a rap that you wrap around your body. This, he just he just the ring on a call. Her her head, something losing shape of. CROTCH covering mechanism and jumpy disrespectful. He was a he started to. Fire on the knife and I was kind of like man. WHAT THE HECK! And then he put on his tongue, and that was even more amazing when if I let the fire off his tongue. I thought that was pretty cool. And then we start spinning knife, and then the night turning to swords inside Tuten, I wasn't. I was on. It Knives I. Don't know where exactly two nights on both sides in the end of and he started spinning it around, and you started spinning, and he was so cool because he doing in the air, and it was like as in the air was like fire knife was literally like the. Like the sun in the dark or like the Sky Subarea because we're doing. The air was spinning. It was just fire then he caught it so when I first started firing. I've danced, and there was a part of that culture. I was just in audit first of all he had the braver reading. Spin around too nice with fire around him when there's a lot of kids and everybody around him, but he still was able to do it, and it was such like it. It was I open a moment because I had never been to a fire knife. Thing or something like that, and it's just opened my eyes to see another culture, but I just thought it was really cool, and now in his day my father in law does the fire knife judge for the world championship around the world in Hawaii every year, but now I get to see the fire dancing. How the evolution of it is just so crazy! You see young kids doing it. Just! Something that they're keeping alive in the culture that is just a you need. An is almost powerful, and when the essence of everybody is just an all with a knife is up I. Don't know I like it. I don't know the fire knife dance to the first time also was just amazing. The way that the scenery was saying everybody was I. Just was uninspected. I. He's cut me it because I was dating his daughter or or he was. Crazy but it was really cool underneath that fire. It is a machete, so that's what I'm saying. It's rarely night on fire. People I don't think you understand what I'm saying. A night spin and spinning. He spin on his fingers, just amazing, and when you have a chance to go to Hawaii and see that the fine of competition I think that's amazing to honestly if you want to maybe look at these crazy if you WANNA. Google it. Can See. What traditional dance looks like cassava? The fire dance having? Our cans. Were melting in two cultures. I think that is equally important to both of us to make sure that we instill to the girls that they know both sides and I'll say even me I'm still learning. You know it's like even though I grew up, you know knowing. Pieces of me. It's like a never ending story and I think that's. True for probably a lot of people in general, you know like you just like you WanNa be a sponge though. And dislike continues to learn. You know so much of like. A foods dance the culture traditions. You know there's so many to so many layers that keep going and going and going and I. Think is really important for me to to learn for myself also to pass what I'm learning to the girls so that they know you know they understand who they are. They know more of their identity, and of course they can pass that to their children as well when we talk about the tone, Asian culture and we talk about when we talk about our culture I think it's very. Could you also talk about? The importance of keeping it alive. In and through dance, and like all the different things that are like. Is this a way to like I? Think? I. Think a says is best to like how punishing. Culture is like an oral culture. Right I think. People don't don't don't don't take that to Raleigh. Please I'm. Orelon, mean by is is not documented on paper, people and but it's like. You say oral culture in oral histories like dance. In all these different things apart of the saying is singing is a part of the culture so. Like when I see you dance teaching the kids dance, it brings tears to my eyes inside my soul because it's like. Keeping this culture alive. That doesn't really have. A history paper like there's history on paper, but the soulmate more with the nose dances that all the ancestors before there's something about that are about the manner in it. That makes more special than anything. Because yeah, you do, have people doing a stinky leg and you're doing doing dry, live less i. Just, Ten like this ride like that's not really nothing crazy about it really is very cultures that you just keeping up with the moment, even like the Hukou like I know, the Hawk is just like you can't. You can't hear to hockey and not experience. You'll arm to hearing your arms tingling, because like the intensity is the intensity of it's not even dislike. The intensity Hawkeye is not someone that is the Mountie that's from UC Room Alto Polynesian country in general to send the dances. Linking so they have a reference. You had the power within those dancers. They're so intense. You know even like in Hawaii, and when someone is saying, the women didn't like it's almost like they're crying, but they're saying I don't know. It's just a very unique waves articulate in pain, history through oral language and dancing. Storytelling I think like some of the music. You're right, it does you can hear the pain or the whales of the cry. Within the music, and and it does like for me. I can listen to someone from another island in Washer dancing and listen to their music in I. Do I'll Ho I'm just emotional person but I? Do get emotional. It really touches me deep, because it's just so beautiful how these traditions are kept up and passed along, and then you know we add we keep adding to it so like we keep. Keep recreating and building to that and I think it is beautiful how deep we can go back, but it's also relevant now you know. How important is that? We continue to keep the conversation going and keeping those lines clear so-someone language week just passed last week, and it was important me and my siblings to talk about you know. What could we do to keep pushing our knowledge? Knowledge and just keep being us. not motivated because we are motivated, but keeping us just going in, so it's like digging deep defined finding those resources, and I am so thankful now because someone the someone community worldwide like I feel like they've been doing a good job. It's really hard to find textbooks books. You know stuff online, but they've been pulling himself together and creating stuff creating resources for. For our people to find to look up classes so me and my sisters and my brother, we just did We joined someone language class. It just shows you like the fundamentals of our culture in how it's governed in everything that goes about it and I feel like every time I. I think I know it. I don't like I learned something else or I dive deeper down another path. And then it just continues, and I just want to say congrats, so all the people doing all this stuff in big ups and thank you to everyone. In the Polish community in general, but someone unique for pushing somewhere language week because it's so important to. US. Stay with us. We'll be right back at the short break. Look y'all we get it. Your child is incredibly curious and a lot of toys and activities these days just don't keep their attention. I have something super cute, called little passports. They will keep your children engaged for hours of fun. Little passports as a subscription box full of toys and Games for children of all ages that educates and entertains the little passports. Fox's delivered right to your door every month. Easy, you can still continue your social distancing. Each package contains exciting hand learning for kids three in up. 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Language and people trying to keep the language alive because language is so languages, so language is a connection to the past, and like so many people have literally. That's why I think it's so powerful. It comes and people fascism in all these different things that people are torn apart in traffic one the first thing they do, is it they kill is a language and Iraq languaging, and to keep language alive, and to keep this alive, and to keep all this stuff alive. You literally keeping your assistance spirits alive. And I think it's important to listen to your elders and went. You know they have stories that are not written. You know, and I'm not talking only someone culture, just your elders. Generally, they know the history. For. So far in within the family, I think it's important to hear their stories to hear their experiences to hear what they've dealt with. You know through their lifetime and I think you learn so much. Sometimes we we do want to go on Google and search. We want to find ourselves in so many different ways, and it can be as little as your family within your house, your grandparents and uncle and aunt I think they have so much knowledge. Knowledge and we forget a so. I think it's important to take time in and sit with your elders in just be a listener. Just listen to their stories, and sometimes. We're like Oh my God. They talk forever, but I feel like I walk away, so my dad can go on for hours. Sorry that if you're listening, but now as I'm getting older and older like I appreciate the hours that he talks to me, sometimes, the stories are. Two Times. Just I. Do the. Pray for dinner that prayer for dinner. Be Loud. I broke. The dam. She's cold on his macaroni and everybody knows most of the cheese on a macaroni code is macaroni. Cheese noodle at that point, it's not even macaroni anymore, so he macaroni of his hot now I can't lie. He's not lying. You Know My my dad says beautiful prayers, but yeah, if you're hungry, you don't ask him to break. You Might Wanna ask someone else, but yeah like ask your family talk about it. You know in sometimes like they might have been through something that you can relate to at this moment and then bring in those stories. Traditions I don't know it. It just starts unraveling and is just amazing, and as we walk in my guest, Pauline for newer, we are connected between Brown and black people across the world and I think the Polynesian black people. We've always been kind of jailing together in this situation, and to hear their voice into here. What's going on in their community? And how important as African American men also amplify? The injustice of other people in injustice of what's happening to my wife's culture in heard people is important that think pauline does a great job in what she's doing in the world, and I think it's a great time I highlight not only are constant struggle in African American community, but the construct struggle of other people of Color, and I think this is a great opportunity to hear her voice, which is a voice of lie in the Voice of reasoning, and so I think you guys are for special treat, so get ready to listen. So today we're speaking with Pollen Bonia. Founder Adventure Board an organization that is speaking existence to pollination culture, T form in also the creator of the original holidays and women are golf shirt, which I have in several colors, and to sound very narrowly. I just happen to be wearing it at the moment, and that was not a like on. The thank you so much for joining us. Thank you so much for having me. It's so good to be here with the two of you. So We'll get into I. Want to ask the question. What makes Polynesian Women Dope in what made you create a brand that says that in unapologetic about it. I just firmly believe that we do doke things like. And we have come from dope women, and when I created this t-shirt, was tired of not tired, but I felt like there was more space that could be given in the Polynesians space, because you often hear about our men as well as them. Being extremely good at sports, in which women in the Polynesian community are just as Ferris in the athletic field as well. However, there is a lot of dope women in all diasporas of. Things that we do you see amazing lawyers and doctors and engineers and educators in the education space, and you just don't hear much about all the dope things that Polynesian women do because there's No way speaking existence into that, and that's why the shirt came out. which was to help boost that energy that is already existing the bringing in just t shirt form as will. Just trying to stir good energy up in the community. What exactly is a Polynesian because I think a lot of people don't know what Polynesian actually. Polynesian sauce is, but they go chick-fil-a naked. But. They don't know what Polynesian people are. What exactly is the criteria of being a Polynesian? Actually, what is the definition upon Asian? Actually me. Longer. I. What is the criteria? Well, there's I. Guess There's the criteria being born into the community like you know as if you were in the black community. The criteria is to be born into that community and so Polynesia. In the South Pacific, and so it is a sub-regional of oceanic made up of more than a thousand islands scattered over the central and Southern Pacific. Ocean, the digital people who inhabited the islands of policies are term Polynesian, and so it's called Polynesia because it's a group of islands that are within a triangle also located. Ask if you could share with everyone of the Pacific island or island that you represent in her from. Her share I am Tongan and I grew up here in the states, and so I am tongue in American. I was told that you are Polynesian as well. What was your background from I'm Simone Advocacy so put? Michael. You are Polynesian as well. That is awesome. No he is for me her. Now both my parents are someone so yes I represent Samoa, but it's interesting because Michael asked me all the time because we live in Hawaii half the year for the last few years and a lot of people. When you say you meet someone easy all I'm Polynesian. It's just like okay a majority. You just keep moving, and then sometimes you have the people that will will what? What where in Polynesia are from, and so we met someone and he asked me he said also you know. What are you going? I said on Polynesian, and he said, but what island and I said SOM- someone in he goes. So why can't you say that you're someone biding? Say Pollination and I never had. Anybody asked me that in just the way he was acting with like. Know. Why are you not proud of somewhat at this own entity? Why'd you have to include the Word Polynesia in so I was definitely thinking about it later and you've know has some conversations other people in? What Michael's asking like what if you know Polynesian mean and then now? You know other areas. We use the word Pacifico including. I feel even everyone else in the Pacific Ocean. Like is not for you as you do this work and you cover both in all area on well at first I started off with only covering Polynesia just because I felt like that was the region that was attached to my identity, and the more that the Vision Board had grown. It only made sense to expanded into other borders of the Pacific, Micronesia Melanesia but I think it. Does something different when you say where you're from depending on how you say it, if amongst other tongans I will say I'm telling in because it helps to connect with my community that I'm currently with, and then if I am trying to showcase or be part of. A movement that is to reading acceptance amongst. not only myself, but I know it would be powerful for. Other groups within the community I do like to involves the whole community, so I will speak as Polynesia or as Pacifica and I think when we only stay Polynesian. We important groups in Ireland's. That should also be mentioned that. Don't get at space as much as Polynesians do. So I feel like? When I mentioned the word, Pacific cut it brings not only like. I referred them as brothers and sisters from the islands and bring them along and whatever topic we're talking about. Let's them know that. They are just in. You know this they ask for as I am in hopes that it will shed some light amongst community as well. A major push to because like grownup was African American men like. Represented on TV a lot in see different things. Obviously Baseball basketball, acting dancing books and in like for Polynesian kids. They don't really get to see themselves as much in those aspects. Who did you look to like? How did you get to where you are as far as like one to have a voice and wasn't anybody? that. You love that you grow up. Just inspired you to be in a position that you're in now. Yeah I, mean I really didn't have anybody to look up to in regards to some within my community. Just because if you think about it, a lot of the islands in the Pacific are considered third world countries so most of the time they don't have access to internet or any form of technology because It's quite expensive to have that type of luxury out there. But because of that I never knew any seniors growing up, but I knew that there had to be seniors because our community saying all the time and I knew that there had to be amazing dancers within our community because we danced all the time. However, it just wasn't recognize especially in mainstream media. Because again, those islands don't have those types of technology services that would allow for those talents to be globalized in which people could recognize the work that's being done in the islands, but if I had to say anybody that I looked up to would have to be my parents, my dad, although he wasn't any celebrity of any kind, he definitely was a leader to mean because he spoke so eloquently in our indigenous time and I just remember seeing so many people move by the way he talked. talked an how passionate he was, and I feel like a lot of my passion comes from that, and so as for celebrities. There was definitely not a celebrity that I knew of growing up, but the only people who seems of celebrity kind of figures to me were my family members. Is You've been activists? Is Polynesian sauce offensive because I need to know I need to know visit offensive because it was so thick. We need to start a movement cheek for lay because I don't get it. I think it kind of is offensive personally, but I think it's something that can probably be. Rewritten in. We take pride in. No. Right. To the whole being in which we feel offended by it, but make it empowerment. I. Don't know I. It is offensive that you know because those sauces don't exist in our communities. It's not ignore. It's nowhere near. And I'M NOT GONNA. Lie Michael when they say like this is the Polynesian bigger, and it's only because they put a pineapple on it. That is so rude they. What I really don't make. Pineapples are indigenous to all. To be honest. And, so it's. Probably fruits that were later introduced to the islands like many other fruits, but yeah for the most part, a lot of islanders don't even have resource to have pineapples in the islands I think so. I know it seems so not represented representative of the culture and I mean I get you. Kinda get that when you. Listen to TV shows cartoons that they WANNA talk about how they involve. Pacific culture in there like I was just sitting down, watching the magic school bus with my daughter, and then they were saying something that was so offensive to Hawaiian culture, but they were trying to be funny about it, and then a similar scenario occurred of the Disney movie in an now and I was just thinking. Who writes these things like these are so. Culturally inappropriate for kids show. This is how kids learn how to be like not being able to see other cultures exist because they contain to humorwise like a Luau or stuff like bound for in thinking that representation of Polynesia or the Pacific. Now. That's so true in actually WanNa, take it back to your work as vision board because something that drew my attention to your work. Is that you did include all Pacifica you included all Polynesia and I think you have so many things that you do online on your social pouty go and get these resources because you talk about Sony Different Islands Islands that are never represented than running been talked about and share information on the climate change to share information. You know issues that they're dealing with. How do you go about finding this resources? But how did you start the Vision Board? I started the vision. Board win a year ago Vision Board started up and it was primarily because. If, you're anything like me and you went to college and you just thought of putting degree together things that you were interested in. And then after you graduated, you didn't have a job for your degree and so I pretty much graduated in international studies with an emphasis in Pacific Islanders, and there's not a job for that. There's nothing out there. Anybody will hire you to do that. And so I figured what if I created my own kind of job in which I did. Everything that I learned about in college, though so passionate about, and I found some way to not only earn a living, but also a way that could help might community and so. Everything that we talk about on the vision. Board is everything that I got my degree in, and so I'm finding myself. Digging through lectures and bucks and all that stuff that helps me bring out these topics and make it more applicable to not only myself, but to the community, so it's really cool that a lot of people have pretty much nerd out with me in the Pacific, because I never really imagined that the Vision Board would go. Go as far as it has I really thought I'd probably get five hundred people at the most that would be involved with the Vision Board and as consistent with it, and so that hasn't been the case, though it has continued to grow, and people have continued to fill passionate about the topics we bring up, and so I bid extremely touched with the community that is on there. L. GonNa say we take about like Polynesian we take. Take about all the things that are happening in the world like I don't bring covert, but I was just watching this. Think about like like I don't see people really talking about like the effects of covert in the Polynesian Society, right? Why don't people know about these things like? Why don't people know about? The impact of these was happening in an upon the size in punishing trigly- Islands I. Am not to ensure I know that in. In Guam that the US had a huge ship that stops there to receive aid and a lot of the two keys. Indigenous People Aguado were against that because the islands, a lot of them have not been impacted by Kovic, nineteen, and so a lot of them have remained covid free. However, our community is impacted. Who in which the people who live at the United? States. They have a huge population of Polynesians M. Pacific islanders that are. Catching the virus and have been hospitalized for that and so there's a lot of. Medical doctors out there in the Pacific community that are trying to advise four Polynesians to stay home as much as possible, even though it's hard because of the cultural aspects of it, in which we often go check on our mom, and we wanna go check on her cousins and. That right there is so hard for many because it's just part of the culture to be involved with our community and having to tell people to stay hall has been quite difficult. Speaking of culture actually said this to me. I never thought about it from this perspective either If you consider yourself a minority considering me, I'm a minority of a minority right so being in America like deal I know when she said that was like damn like she wanted like you. Never WanNA. Tell you wife issue. Beat you an argument right, but she actually won this. Sharing with the world right now, she's like about this. We're minority of a minority. Mugabe minority inside on small island in respect of the whole world and I was like wow, but I was wondering like being America. You feel like a lot of these people have to compromise their culture. I for sure think it's a difficult thing to do. When majority of us are first generations here and I'm in my thirties, and so you're having a wave of millennials who are not only millennials for one thing, but we are also the first generation that has to assimilate into a culture that was not ready for them, and so that a lot of times when you look at emigrants migrating an assimilating into communities, you'll often find the a low income areas, and so they will learn. What's being done in those areas inhabited survive a lot of us who did migrate into an are the first generations were also the first generations that don't speak our language, and so if you are Pacific Islander, a lot of your identity does come from language, and so not being able to speak that language is even difficult to and saw it can make you feel like you. You don't belong to a community that your ancestors not too long ago, existed there and I don't know DU speaks. Online are been I. Don't think someone I know enough to get around, but the last year really dive dive deeper into taking the time and also through the Kobe. Time that we have this downtime to really dive deeper in continue to learn, so I do. Less with family members on zoom and we don't like. And Of course. Someone Language Week is going on right now, so there's a ton of resources out there. That's also for anyone that just want the deeper into their language I. do think that's it's import my experience. Though so I grew up mine father spoke fluent from one. My mom is half someone, but she worked at understands. Speak it, so it wasn't the main language in our household suckering up. We learned English, but what we did. Culturally we kept a lot of traditions in our household in through our lifestyle, but also we dancing, so I grew. Grew dancing and that's how I learned. I feel like a lot of learned enough language. You know to get by to have a conversation to be respectful even but there are so many different things that I feel. That was definitely barriers for me growing up in the US that were so different from how the social conversations were like your period that dentists kind of how the culture is in culture, and then I feel like at your age. At that time there's also the other culture you know that your friends go through. The teenager, young adult, and I feel like sometimes they would clash a lot with my father, who was a very not fought, but he didn't. Though you know to the point where. because. Maybe we didn't learn that specific part of it or you know new half of it. My siblings would say. Well! Why do we have to do that if we live here, you know kind of like. We didn't say that to him. 'cause you're not working. You. But it definitely was a question on. You know you only cross so much in now. You want heat there since you know instilled us to in the house, but it's not practice enough for it to really become a part of us. It was very difficult to try to not let both worlds Just keep both of them going. You know they'd be respectful tonight, parents could we did one. One alert, but through our dancing that we did, we learned a lot through our culture, and then we always cook the foods. We learned so many things, but I think even though I could do all of that because identity, the language, fluent or enough. It still made me a little less than if I met someone else and the first thing they said. Oh, do you speak someone like no? I wasn't GonNa say and then they drill me. And then it was already like Oh. You know you get the side. I and I think that it's still now you know with a lot of my siblings cousins, because we're all in different levels but supporter, but once you toss them outside of your circle if You don't speak shame on you and your parents. I. Know It's so hard because you know. I was just with my mom the other day and she was telling me how much she wished. She would have just spoken talking to US growing up and both of my parents speak talking very well, and it's just. My mom when she came to the United States, she was only twenty one and having to learn English. At the age of twenty one was extremely hard for her, and she just felt like. That is something that she would never want any of us to have to go through so when I hear her story about it. I wish I could just be you know in her ear like who cares if they have to learn English. Tongue into the like both figure it out. But Yeah I I love the language. I wish I. spoke it better than I do now I know enough just like you Bella to get by with tongue in, but I do feel like there's a huge like a desire amongst our communities to get back to their native. And it will be very interesting to see what at what is Entrepreneur D- amongst our community to help us retain. 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Allow for the Pacific community to grow is to get behind the biggest issue that is impacting our islands, which is climate change. I feel a gleaming need everyone to be involved with that topic. It's not enough for one individual to be the spokesperson. I think as we polynesians amp PACIFICA. Come to the ballots. oftentimes we hear recently you know the black community asking candidates. What is your black agenda and asking them? What do they have plans for police brutality? As well as spaces that discriminate against black women for their natural hair in all that stuff, and so there are topics like that that also apply with the Pacific community in wage I feel the Pacific community. We need to get behind an agenda income into cahoots of asking our candidates. What is their climate change agenda because that is the Pacific agenda if you look at every? Leader in the islands, they are not asking for more money. They're asking for countries to lower their carbon emissions down. And what are they doing to do that? And so that for me is a big thing that can unite the Pacific because it doesn't require. Religion doesn't require anybody to be a Democrat or Republican. It requires us to be accountable of our waste management and all that stuff. That's creepy while I, believe pige will combine the Pacific as a whole. But how do we do? How do we get people out to vote right? How do we get people to have that agenda? For All the people that are listening. How did they become active right like I to become creative against? What is Your Vision Board on other people using their vision board to really starts really make the impact on that right? How do you put together like they're to make happy. Yeah, I think a lot of people who are Pacific Islanders. Who have a platform and he gives important I'd. Everybody comes together and that we're not all GONNA. Agree on everything, but we can all agree that there are more frequent natural disasters that are hackney with in our communities in the islands, and it's not about being the active in which we try to get gathered pigment. Something happens to the islands because that is way more expensive. It's about being more. More proactive in coming up with a plan of how we are prepared for when those storms come, and not to force people to give in time of you know when things are horrible in bad, but to give when we are consistent stable, and to continue to give in food, and have possibly a storage or some form of welfare system that can go off in aids and I think a lot to the problems that people who are actually doing the work. Work in the islands are saying. Is You know when you have organizations like United Nations coming in, they'll come in. They'll help and what they do is great, and they also come in with stipulations that the community has to do, and so sometimes those stipulations are disconnecting to the community, because there is a cold or barrier, and so trying to be what the United Nations in non profit organizations are for islands, but establishing that amongst our own community would be. Be something so powerful so strong and Michael. What you're asking is. How do people go about doing that? Within our Pacific community I think people go about doing that is doing whatever you possibly can do, and not trying to swallow the whole elephant, because if we each with where we stand, we can initiate change within our community, especially for climate change before Kovic was here I was going around to like the national talk in in American Society in was asking. Can we all organize and get together in back? Candidates up like we need to let our people know that these sir in candidates have a Pacific agenda, and so we were all working on it, and then Kobe hit so it's trying to get back on that Weiyan. Continued to work together, and we're kind of starting to see organizing going on amongst community, and that is what the most powerful thing we can do is organize right now, so yeah, we need more people to run in our community for elected seats. However, we also need to fund these people who are running like. We can't just ask them to run. Have money to back them up. You know it's so crazy. Because like a lot of actors who upon nation in so many ways to raise money like so many things I can imagine if the got on own, and was like all my like. He has a hundred million people like if they gave one dollar. It'd be, it'd be so much money. You know what I'm Sir so assist like there's so many people like that I, think is like get together because like I'm not making Pele pilling group, too. We should put people at tripod. Mal like athletes, because like people like Charles Day have like they have the voice of the AFLAC so much choice, says something that means every athlete is ready. Ready to organize and people like like the rock who have Jason of so many people you right? There should be agenda behind it I'm right, but I believe what you're saying is so true I. Try like what bothered saying because as much as we want to take it to the bigwigs. You Know Jason Momoa the Rock, the one that people that everyone knows I feel like. I don't want to Peru, but I feel like they're little disconnected also because because I like what you're saying is like. Do it wearing? You are get off your butt and do the groundwork. You need more people on the ground to mean that work in Michael. I think that's a great idea of getting. Those athletes are getting different people that are you know doing different in different areas that are not only the main top people like we don't have to go all the tough get shaw. If they do it. That's great, but there's so many people that do these amazing things that are on the ground, doing work and already have foundations organizations. They have their on resources. I think it's connecting with those people moving things forward. and is true because what you sent to like well a lot of the people to all the people like that like they usually jump on board like once the way starts to go then they wanna to serve on it, so as I once you start to build wave. Are they going to do is? Like. I'm saying. Alan. Wants, the way goes is true. Though because it's it is very very true wants to wave starts going Kelly sound like they're gonNA. Jump on, because they're going to be forced by people. There moved by people once. People are saying like we organize. It like well. You guys organized. They don't want to be a part of the bill and organization. Just want to be a part of once organized. You know what I'm saying now you're exactly right. I mean the best example that you can see. This happening is Monica when you know. They were trying to build these large satellites on the Mona in Hawaii and it was the people they're the people who lived within that community that started that that protests held that line, and it wasn't until later on in the protests. Did you see Dwayne? Johnson or you saw Jason La coming up and supporting the cause and I feel like. Celebrities in the Pacific community, they've already done a lot of hard work in regards to getting to where they need to get to be a celebrity, and they probably are a gorge with a lot of people asking for money to help out something special to the community, and I think when you go to these types of people you have to show up with receipts, and if our community. We need to be able to show receipts that we can organize together a we can be unified together in a cause, and even if the celebrities come with us, and even if they don't come with `as at least this 'cause continues to grow. Continues to exist because there are so many people that are. Woke with the Pacific Agenda in which that I talk about in so I have been with the Vision Board the using a lot of the prophets and light, distributing them out to candidates who are Pacific. Islanders are running amongst in their communities. Because you know that is just the kind of work that the Vision Board hopes. When we are doing our work, we hope that it inspires people to run for elected positions and helps people to change. The narrative that so many people ignore that the Pacific is just a small group of eyelids, and it's okay if we test our nuclear bombs over there, right? We hope that we can get seats at the table in which we can participate in these conversations and make decisions. In actually WANNA. Turn that over to your shirt I. See you do so many different things. All of it represents Polynesian communities. Can you share some info on your insurance in what you do with them? Yeah, so like you said I shared much just have words of Shane's Auma. Inspired by a lot of the things that are taboo in the community in the Pacific community, and so this upcoming man. We're going to be talking about the Pacific. LGBT QA plus community and I took it I comic. Memory I don't know if you've ever seen it. It's called late season waiting. It was the first documentary of its kind in the Pacific. That talks about a pretty season community in the Tongan Culture and the community is called the late thirties, in which is the queer community in Ghana, and so the person who is the head of the late needs who founded the organization? Her name is Joe. LEAN MAPA, LA, and she created I helped her create this t shirt that says ratings exists. Get it, and it's so very much. Her personality and I hope when I create teachers that they reflect whatever topic that we're talking about, and they say true. True, not only to the Pacific community, but they stay true to the message that is trying to get across, and so that was just one example of shirt. You know, but a Lotta. Times I am walking around. I am reading something and a lot. Something will stand out to me and I have like a whole notebook. A T shirt scenes and t shirt ideas and discounted in my pocket, and when I still write about the sure it comes out, and so that's pretty much how the shirts are formed. No love it don't look unlike. Don't start making them because I also be buying. Shall? We all agrees that we're GONNA. Get this thing going for twenty twenty campaign. Who's WHO's reading? That's what I WANNA. Know I'm staying really close to the elections that are going on in Hawaii because a lot of Pacific islanders are wanting to see again that agenda and are wanting to see who will continue to key indigenous lands in the Digital Hams. That's pretty much what the saying is. M So the fight is that they continue. Continue to keep you know native Hawaiian lands within the native Hawaiian community, and so we're having they're having an issue, because the government is constantly selling these lands, and in which it's stopping native Hawaiians from getting to their secret labs that have a lot of their ancestors are buried on, so they're unable to visit burial sites because lamps are being sold so. A lot of people like on the show. They don't like I would like people. People don't realize that that is a big thing because a lot of people see like. We talked to Hawaii seated that people dancing. They see two pineapples, but they don't realize the story that has happened. You know what's happened to Hawaiian that Hawaii actually has being colonized and I. Don't think that's like a big story, too so most people I. Take Monaca was an issue, but nobody really was paying attention to what was the cause and effect of all right, but I think it's because the way that Hawaii viewed. It's a few as your vacation, but. You. Know is not in Buta. The people, the indigenous people, the native winds. It's not viewed as you know different cultural things that happened there today. Better still passed on I think that review at holy as that's my next vacation spot, so in Monaco as coming up in their stories, being told in issues or be you know spread out the media I. Don't think it really you know clicked with people to what exactly that is, and what it meant to islands because they deceit. If state that let's go to next summer. Why am I think there would have to be a huge paradigm shift within? Hawaii state. Territory to switch things up so that perspective is no longer the goal because a lot of the work that people are involved with rely on people to vacation there, and so it would mean that there would need to be other forms of work. Rather than tourism and holding. It would require other forms of jobs to exist within the communities. Yes, I think that's the biggest thing to work on sustainability within our communities. You're right, because if real also thinking of Polynesian Islands and right-thinking voice, specifically, a lot of you know jobs are place from tourism. You know so. It's kind of like you have to find that need grounders I. Guess you want tourism, but then if we don't have it are, we're not sustainable. You know we don't have jobs and that's a big issue. We're speaking specifically. We know that many people have to have several jobs. If the live there, you know so expensive you if somebody who enjoys the Polynesian women enjoys the coach of Polynesia and everything has I think? I enjoy, but my wife. Polynesian I enjoy my life from an. Could make but no but. I think when you talk about Hawaii. You talk about these other problems nine. You Talk About Visiting Fiji you talk about visiting New Zealand wherever he is Tonga. Fiji Hawaii Samoa Wherever Panis Liz. I think as a person who visits those place in like you said athlete. We have to be honest right, I think if we are honest with ourselves. Who was happening to most of these people was happening today land it didn't we were in you? Know, spend as much money, or we will find ways to be more positive or active those communities, but I think the being honest to was happening. It doesn't allow people to have their saying vacation when they really open the is. was happening to the people who were originally there, so people try not to do that and I don't know why. Why didn't they keep people do that fairly like. People are honest like you really was talking to somebody about like like you talk about Nike. And you talk about like the sweat shop in his shoes like we ignore the people who being affected by a what we wanna be rewarded with, and I think that's the hardest thing to do. As a human being is to look at it and see where it really is not for your own inception or your own mind, today is something else, but is really is colonization when you really look down into the air all. Exactly you're a hundred percent. Right? Lose a lot of the things that we find luxury ed when we start to see at what cost and what communities have to sacrifice for us to have that vacation. And I think the thing that kind of irks me and it's so Kranji is when you see Mak- influencers all heading out to Bora, Bora on this huge trip, and they are. They're at an all expense paid trip just to try on. You know the newest highlighter. The newest shade talent that has come out and they don't realize that the person who's serving the their cocktail and the person who is roasting their meal is an individual who comes from a village nearby. That could possibly not have any type of electricity, or could possibly be away from their family longer than you know. The average working hours are eight, but they are there to. Help provide an they take away such a little paycheck when all is said it dies by the end of their trip, so yeah, it's it's hard when you have to look at these things that you enjoy a you also kind of wonder at what cost Roy. But. That's like a lot of places you'd have to be mindful of where you know the country. You're traveling to what you're doing there. You know I think he didn't have to be respectful. Also innocent for into you know. Learn a little bit of you know we're going. Even if you're difficulty tour resort to sit on a feature I, think you need to do a little homework. Homework to see you know where going with those people are like they're reduce. People need to hear about the voice. They love all these Polynesian places, and they love the coach, but they don't really love the people, so we'll have to figure out how to make those things correlate. The food is okay. I want to say the Polynesian food is I. Mean I'm kind of you know. I'm I'm I'm doing too, but it's been in the while. Soul Food for me. That is my favorite of food. I wish I didn't have. Like in a drag through kind of way just so I can have them Lindberg. There's. There's no. Go, can you Polish food? They don't have bags. SM- anti-roma. How To. Trash. The Saas the Polynesian Sauce. A true ponding sauce would be coconut milk with. Some type of leg Heifer. In it yet are male. You don't have that access to yeah I mean. We can seriously make this tapping Taro fries. You guys. Seriously that would be all right new. What's your favorite dish I? Will my favorite dish is Kumala. which is some sort of sweet potato that it is much larger D-, sweeter loose. In! The islands that I love I know because I'm talking. You Guys I love Horace and liquid. It Halsey and I know that sounds. Michael. Would, not. I'm sorry by figuring is not in me, I wish. I cannot help, but horse tastes like Michael it. Tastes Omega if you do it I, don't know how it tastes like beef but better. It's amazing because they put coconut milk. It may slow cooker and. I wish I had better access to it, but. They don't allow horse to be served in regular stores have to under the table and slaying. By this. Or. Do you put? On a horse, you look afflict the horses. Those Look Lido. It is Super Meaty and most times when you eat it like they will not tell you what it is. And you'll just eat it like it's normal and it tastes a. you'll pitch just some kind of brisket to be honest. Cooked in coconut milk. And it just like regular V, but it has a different tastes than that, but most people enjoy it until they find out that it's horse. which doesn't make sense? We typically towel. Even cows should be like no different right I have two things coming from this conversation. Although Paulina's big great, she does. Polynesian women are a dope. Sure she does vision board, but CHICK-FIL-A sauces. The first thing we must abolish, and the second thing is getting behind Boeing rights for Polynesian. Rat the start with see fillet because a weakest shed chick-fil-a down. We can do anything change that name away. Don't call it police. City war. The last thing we did it, ask you. If you could just say a couple lines about where to find you on your social people can. You might have been follow you right on. Okay I am vision board. You can find me on instagram and other major platforms, such adv Youtube as well as facebook, and I'm slowly getting on Tiktok, but I'm more predominantly on instagram. I have a bigger presence there. The name handle is the Vision Board official and thank you so always. This was so fine talking with you both on your podcast. I. Everybody is Tommy Week or you kind of you know have our low pro tip in la, desert low things so ten respectfully disagree on certain things, but at the same time we still love each other. So pro tip of the week I would say is to take time with your elders. Take time with. All of your elders in your family and just to learn and be. have an ear. You don't need to necessarily talk, but just take time to listen to their stories to their struggle to their good moments, their bad moments inches soak it all, and because these are stories that are now part view in there will be a part of the people not come after you and those are important that you keep these stories connected through your family, because these are for generations that have come in, that will continue to come after you leave this earth. After like in like what you're saying, tune is typically connection I think everybody we all do. We all find a way to keep our ancestors names allies such a positive way in the most influential way that we can do it, and like talk to my saying talking about dancing, whatever does traditions are practice? Don't be scared to tell your kids to do something different to get off. The robots entrust me is hard to get your kids off a row bucks in my class, but at the same time is also important for us to shake their minds into who they are, and what they're supposed to be doing in a true purpose besides. Being themselves, but also the purpose of igniting their community and keeping their ancestors spirits alive. That's it. That's it. That's the end you don't have listened to Michael Anymore but come back next week for me on another episode of mouthpiece with Michael Enemy Pele Bennet. Please describe to us or like Oh so anything that you're listening to apple. Stitcher spotify. 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672-Create The Reality You Will Live In

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672-Create The Reality You Will Live In

"Walk into radical personal finances show dedicated to providing you with the knowledge skills insight and encouragement need deliver rich and meaningful life now while building a plan for financial freedom him in ten years or less. My name is Joshua. I'm your host and today I want to talk to you about the golden age of human progress and achievement achievement that we are living in share with you some ideas about how you can participate in it more fully to get more of the things that you do want in your life and to get rid of the things that you don't want in your life friends. I have never been more excited about the future than I am today today. I don't know how to say other than that other than to say that. I have never been more excited about the future than I am today. You and I are living in a golden age of human accomplishment. Human achievement and opportunity now posted recently online on my twitter profile that something to the effect of excited about the future we live in just an incredible credible time and it came from a place of just genuine sincere gratitude. I was sitting here at my desk just marveling at the world that you and I live in and and I think we brush past these things so fast. I'm just amazed at so many things that we're experiencing right now. I'm amazed that I can speak to you the way that I'm speaking. I'm amazed that I can live the incredible life that I've been so fortunate to live. I can have the experiences I've been so grateful and fortunate to have I mean if we were to go back even thirty years. I think we go back thirty years and put you and me in the place of the richest person in the world at that time man and say would you trade with the richest person in the world thirty thirty years ago or with the opportunity that you and I have today. I got imagine most of us would pick today. I mean let's see. Let's do the math twenty twenty back to nineteen ninety. I mean just think of the things that were not available to you. In nineteen ninety think of how limited your life was in nineteen ninety. Now thirty years is too much for you. Go back fifty years but I betcha you wouldn't go back fifty years. Just think of all the things that you would lose and this is just bursting over with this today. I have had such a productive day. I have felt wonderful. I'll talk more about that but I just looking around and I see nothing but opportunity nothing but opportunity. I see opportunity on every side for you for me for every person in the world as I've look around the world today I'm just amazed when you actually see on the ground would it looks like for millions and millions and millions and and millions of people to being lifted up out of poverty out of abject poverty every single years right. I want to be accurate not millions and millions of millions every year but it's millions and millions and millions every few years this is. We're just getting started. The next decade of your life in my life is going to be the most incredible decade in the history of this world you and I are at the front edge of it. You and I get the opportunity to shape it and lead it. There has never before been an op at time in human in history when you as an individual had more choice for you and when you as an individual had more of an opportunity to impact those those around you for good never before has have things been as good as they are right now. There is never before been a time in human history where where you could eat as cheaply as you eat today where you can have as much free time as you have today where you could live as cheaply as you live today. There has never been a better time to be alive in the history of this world that that my friends is such a blessing has a blessing for you to blessing for me and my hope and prayer is that you and I can take the blessings that we've been given and share those with others. That's my mission but Israel. It's true it's right in front of you. It's right in front of me. They're all all right. They're all these possibilities. I am excited in a way that I have never been. I'm I'm excited in a way that I can't remember ever being before I'm excited. Let me let me go ahead. I'll make the statement I'm excited in. I've never been before because of the potential and the opportunity that I have running over and you have the same thing that I do this different but it it's right there. I say Joshua. I appreciate that you had some kool-aid this morning or something happened but I'm not feeling that well. I want to give you some ideas today because I want to help you. My mission here is to serve you to serve you with useful ideas to help you to see the possibilities that are out there and friend. If you're one one who focus on problems you know as well as I do that that that there are problems. There's this silly comparison Persson. It's often drawn. Are you an optimistic a pessimist the idea being do you think everything's going to get worse or using. Everything's GonNa get better. Both of those are dumb. It's dumb to be an optimist and has done to be a pessimist be a realist but reality is that things are going so well and I hate to even tone on this day. We could talk about problems. I've talked about lots of problems but in the midst of every problem is an opportunity in the midst of every crisis is is a potential game changing opportunity for you. There's a reason why we have the Silia from Athens. It's not silly. There's a reason why we have the aphorism that every cloud has a silver lining. It's true here's what's so incredible about what you and I have the opportunity to do you and I have the opportunity to day to change our focus to change it from the things that just happened to be around us to the things that we want to be around us. You and I have the opportunity to change our focus from the things that other people are complaining about to the things that we want more of in our life in a minute. I'm going to give you some very practical suggestions on how to do this but here's what I see more than I've ever seen before you create the reality in your life. I buy what you focus on and then you experience that I don't WanNa get into to the metaphysical questions today about reality. I believe there is such a thing as reality again. We Wanna be a realist but the reality -ality is that you and I create our experience of life and we do it whether we know it or not much of the time. It's just simply something. That randomly happens see. We don't get to choose where in the world were born. We don't get to choose the time name the epoch into which were born. We don't get to choose the family into which were born. We don't get to choose any of those circumstances when we're young. We don't get to choose the people that are put into to our life. We don't get to choose our parents. Our uncles are ants. We don't get the cheese choose. Most of the time are schoolteachers until there starts to be an age of accountability until there starts to be an age of choice and then and you do get to choose see even at a very young age we talked about levers of influence even at a very a young age the people who know very clearly what they want and they don't want are able to exercise influence over their circumstances the fifteen year old who doesn't like the teachers at their given at school will be able to get out of studying under under those teachers even though he's fifteen years old how much more you and I how much more responsibility to you and I bear in our lives to look around and say am I choosing the people that I want to be influenced by or am I just being influenced by. The people who happened happened to be there. I saw this tweet online and I loved it was written as a response to a political kerfuffle but I thought it was was brilliant in it and the guy wrote he says create the reality you want to be in and dude who wrote that had no context he was thinking about it as look at all these political people who watch this certain news channel on how dumb they are real truth in what he says create the reality you want to be in and you and I have the opportunity to create the reality that we want to be in and so start with talking about how how do you do that well. Everything begins in the brain. everything begins in the mind. The reality that you're living in right now is influenced by and probably created by the thoughts that you have had previously in your life. The job that that you're working right now is a job that you're doing because in the past. You thought it would be a job that you wanted to do. The House that you're living in right. Now is a house that you're living in because at some point in the past. You thought it was a house that you wanted to live in. You and I are not coerced into these decisions. No matter how much you feel trapped by your circumstances you can look around and find a whole lot of responsibility to take for the decisions and the choices and the actions that have put you into those circumstances that is the healthiest healthiest place to start by taking complete and total responsibility for where you are. Let's talk realism. Are you one hundred percent responsible symbol for everything that has happened to you and your life of course not that's not realistic but can you find elements of responsibility in almost everything that has happened to you in your life you. Betcha and the healthiest thing that you can possibly do is take aac responsibility for everything that you are responsible for even in the worst situation as we're so indebted to Viktor Frankl for writing about extensively even the worst situation where you are being exterminated by a bunch of brutal sadistic nick thugs through no fault of your own you can take responsibility for your response so your reaction and you can choose to measure and adjust that response and reaction now if a dude who's being sent into a gas chamber to be exterminated due to the accidental. DNA that he was given by his parents if that dude can take responsibility for his reaction and his response do you think that you and I can look around and take a little responsibility for the things that are around us if you want your life to change if you want something to be different than the way it is right now. You've got to start that in your thoughts. You've got to begin gin that in your imagination. You've got to start by thinking about what you do want instead of what you don't want. That's where all things begin. If you want a different future you gotta start by imagining a different future. You don't have to believe it. You don't even have to believe it's possible for you yet. Although it is possible for you you can do it. You have to be willing to open your eyes and your mind to the possibility so the ideas that you can think of in your head. The images that you can hold in your head will draw you. They will draw you towards them because they will affect how you think you don't have to tell anybody about the things that you'd like to be different but you have to start to think about the things that you would like to be different. Let's talk practicality. I WanNa give you some simple recommendations recommendations number one start by thinking about things that you would like to be different. Don't think about problems. Don't don't think about things you don't like think about things you do like think about the kinds of things that you would like to be different in your life if you're sitting in traffic frustrated at the cars in front of you while you're listening to my voice that's annoying to you and frustrating to you. I can start by grabbing a piece of paper and writing down. I don't like to sit in traffic. I don't WanNa sit in traffic anymore. I want a life that is free of of traffic acknowledge it and then start to think about how much you'd like to live a life. That's free of sitting in rush hour traffic start with that start by thinking about things and writing them down notice what you want so many of us are so accustomed to living whenever thinking about what we would like what we want. I'm amazed at how little imagination people have because they're not used to thinking about what they would want now why that's there. I don't know we could argue about that doesn't matter start by thinking about what you want and noticing it writing it down next start to cultivate around yourself itself an atmosphere that will help you to continue thinking about what you want and you do this by eliminating eliminating voices or input and by adding voices or input to your life. Give you an example. I cannot stand end to be in houses where the TV is on all the time. I have never in my life save one semester in college. I have never in my life had a TV in the house. Never had growing up never had an adult a wife and I don't have one. We don't plan and ever have one and it's not that there's anything inherently wrong with watching moving pictures on a TV screen right Chris not we my wife and I enjoy watching watching youtube videos together. We do it on a computer but what's wrong with the TV is you don't get to control the input from it and the vast majority not of what's on it is defiling to your soul upsetting to your spirit stupefying to your remind and need a verb to say what it does to your body makes you sick and fat to sit and watch the stuff practically drug commercials and so. I'm very sensitive all the time. I'm very sensitive to it. I go into somebody's house the TV on. I cannot understand why they let that filth into their house. It's nothing but violence war rape depression both economic and personal well it's nothing but backstabbing and lying hypocrisy. It's nothing but loud commercials about your bodily fluid problems. It's nothing but sickness and death and disease on all parts. It is so I if you don't have if you're not it kind of desensitized to it. It is so jarring I don't understand how anybody who owns and watches a TV ever maintains a quiet spirit because when you sooner sooner you flip it on you can't really choose what comes in it's just comes in at you now. I'm not saying you have to go get rid of your TV right now. I genuinely recommended elite to a much quieter life but notice how the input just comes in at you and you don't really control yeah you can change the channel but at the end of the day you don't really control it so one thing you can do is eliminate voices the don't help you now. TV is something that is hope for some people. It's not easy but it's fairly easy because you don't have the heart of relationship but there's a person that you know who is just constantly tearing down and dragging you down. Stop if there's podcasts that you listened to that does nothing but feed your fear of the future and that does nothing but but make you feel bad about things and make you worried. EIDAN concerned etc stop if there are books or magazines that do nothing but feed the Phil Fall around you. Stop cut that stuff out. Get the bad negative influences in the negative input output of your life cut it off and then replace it with the good the beautiful the noble the virtuous the exciting the clean the pure the things that are true that are real that feed the soul see the problem with TV is not necessarily what's on it could be a problem could not be a problem. I had a TV for the semester. I was in college. I discovery channel I was there. I was glued I loved it. I'm so interested in all that stuff. It's it's the production quality is so fantastic. I love it but the problem with TV is not what's on it. The problem is what you're not doing when you're doing something like watching TV. It's the opportunity cost see you could spend time reading a book that would help feed your goals feed you in something that you really want and teach you how to do it. I guess books are being read anymore. oh you and I are the only ones who've read most people don't let us an example. You could spend time on a youtube channel that is going to inspire you. Educate you about something that you care about out instead of just being a passive consumer of what comes into you over the broadcast or cable TV network now perhaps I sound like an Fuddy duddy using these ample of TV because there's been a revolution of course everything's on demand. Almost nobody sits down and just consumes what happens to come in at that moment on the cable channel so I probably picked a bad example to us but hopefully the lesson is coming through. Choose ideas that inspire you lift you up cancel a magazine subscription to something that kills your head with problems uh-huh or fears or worries and replace it with something replace it with Success magazine right if you're in the US replace it with something that that that a financial she'll magazine the helps you to be confident about the future one of the most practical ways to do this. I would say UH curate a personal instagram account that feeds your goals the things that you do want in your life build something a haven for yourself where the stuff you don't want to simply isn't allowed in put up walls around it so that you can go into that space be physical pictures on the wall be veit virtual. Beit carefully selected Youtube subscriptions carefully curated instagram profile etc but have a place where nothing that you don't want invades and it's all focused on the things that you do want you you and I are living one of the aspects and connect components components of the Golden Age that we live in is you and I are living in a world in which individual people small voices can have access to other small communities of the people without the need to appeal to a broad audience and with his means is you can people are able to connect with audience without having to appeal to the lowest common denominator a powerful see in the old world the world of legacy media the corporate media in the world of cable channels and and the big newspapers etc in order for the media empire to be successful zestful. They had to appeal to the lowest common denominator. What do the lowest common denominator denominator people like. Right Blood Violence Gore sex intrigue gossip backstabbing etc and so what is on the front page of the newspaper Politics Blood violence murder rape all the stuff that appeals to the lowest common denominator so if you're going to be somebody who wishes to who live a different lifestyle than that it was a lot harder in the old days to find media sources for yourself now. They've always been there if you've looked success. Success magazine has been being published for decades or since what Martin I think was the guy started that Darren Hardy runs it today. So success magazines long been a staple of the kind of the thing that was available. You could find some high brow intellectual stuff right you could read the economist you could read the Atlantic etc.. Get Your highbrow intellectual actual stuff and all that stuff still it keeps trapped in the arguments in the debate in the culture wars and all this stuff which a place for it right but I like to be an educated in widely read person I care about those things too but it was hard to find a place that was with media which she's very powerful that would just feed your your brain and just be positive now the most commonplaces ways throughout history while this is available to you was was with books and with Audio Courses Savita. Go back to the eighties right. We're audio courses came into their own in books. Previously obviously you could find people who were dedicated to reading nothing books that inspired them to this day. I love to sit down and read a Dale Carnegie Book Aid. It's timeless stuff and you Dale Carnegie Book. You can't come away with anything other than something positive think about you into down and read the book of proverbs and you can't come away without anything positive to think about you can sit down and and read a What's his name early. Now the dude who wrote the the Doodoo wrote the book you know Long Time Ago you know that guy you could read the books the point the books have always been there and so you could curate an environment around yourself in your Home Library of positivity of things that uplift uplifted us things that kept you focused on and that for me has always been a stable a stable part of my life a staple that I have depended on to keep my brain rain. Straight books are peaceful things that I like about a book that I don't like about movies is I can look at a book and I can skim the book I I can pre read the book and decide if it's positive if I want to be involved in it. I have a disease. Some people don't do this but I have a youngest child disease a syndrome that means that I always read the ended the book I. I don't like to read novels that I don't know what the end is. Which makes me not a movie buff at all because I don't like to have my emotions controlled by somebody else? I want to be in control all of that so the book I sit down and start reading even engages me flip to the back. See what happens then. I can enjoy the novel knowing that I'm not going to be drawn into. Somebody's plot with against this to my control. My wife says it's the youngest child syndrome. Maybe maybe it is but destined. Icing of books are peaceful. They sit there. They're not overly stimulating etc but they also do lack some imaginative power. There's something powerful about pictures power about images or something power about video. Oh that is so engaging so captivating but never before now. has there been a time that you could build a reality around yourself and curate that reality very carefully with as much detail and as much opportunity as there is today but in the last decade. There's something magical has happened if you go back when I was in high school was when survivor came out it was all the thing and I I remember watching survivor F- You're wondering about TV. I can't remember I think I went to my grandparents house and watched. It saw some of the episodes of the very first show survivor and that form of reality. TV changed everything it completely changed the TV landscape what you see today is is night and day different from what was on TV prior to survivor. It's changed everything in our society. I've tuned including politics. Most obvious example example the president trump is a product and of a reality TV it and so you had this world of reality TV so called reality TV totally changed but here's the problem with reality TV wasn't reality every if you read the people who done reality TV shows and whatnot for large TV networks the you always have to put more drama into it right because they want the drama. There's still selling to the lowest common denominator people want more drama more arguments more fights but youtube and hopefully other platforms in the future has changed that instagram has changed that because now individual creators don't have to appeal to the lowest common denominator and what you can do is you can curate for yourself love media that only fits your goals your three most powerful tools in today's world our number one podcasts. My hope is the radical personal. Finance is serving you. It's always my intention to serve you to build a positive environment of ideas and solutions ideas and plans ideas and action steps inspiration annexed the next action. Those have to go together now. I failed it sometimes. I'm sure I'll fail again in the future. Try to keep the show very very positive. I try to not present a problem without a solution I. I'm sure I fail at that up a fail again but I try and so my hope is that this show is serving you and I'll make it better but you should choose your all your podcasts based on that based upon shows that serve you that help you to create the reality that you want to live in right if you don't like certain reality just change it and create the reality that you want to live in podcast powerful because of the dual nature because you can surround yourself when I with things and a very low cost when I was in high school and College I invested in thousands thousands of dollars of audio programs to build a nothing but positive environment around myself. I still have have my CD wallet from those days. I don't know if you remember the giant. CD Wallets are very big. Ones I think is two hundred and sixty CDs. I could today show oh you might see de Wallet that has thousands of dollars of educational audio that I had that I never had to listen to the radio her today with you with podcasts you get. It's so cheap. Now that comes with the problem you should invest in the high. Quality stuff were still value because it's better edited etc but build a reality that at least when you're alone and you're not being quiet. You're you know you're driving the car. Something you cut out all of the nonesense sense cut out the war and cut out the depression cut out the violence and the cut out the politics and just curate for yourself an audio environment that you want to be involved in. Where did this today show come from. I was leading podcast my phone their podcasts on subjects that I care about the deeply on things that I really am interested in decided. They're not helping me right now because they're not positive. They're not my goals right now. They're good for me for my background knowledge on the world the good for me to be stay informed etcetera but they're negative when I listened to them. I don't feel better and happier happier and more positive and optimistic excited about the world around me. I come away from them feeling anxious and annoyed and frustrated so I deleted them. I'm not doing it right now. Maybe someday in the future I'll be so positive and the rest of my life that I can go and do that without it affecting my mood but I'm not gonNA take it. PODCASTS number two is pictures and video specifically instagram the in my opinion in most powerful social media platform right now there are others and whatnot but who the most powerful thing about social media platform of instagram. I it is not subject to your personal network unless you've chosen to be that way unlike facebook. You don't have to see people making political posts. Joshu included on instagram unless you really want to there are certainly as a political instagram but much of instagram is lifestyle. Its goals. It's positively it's community as people sharing their experiences and because of the nature of channels that are theme focused you can curate for yourself a set set of channels that that surround you with ideas now. Is it all all reality not a chance and you gotta be careful in the new world. You need new filters right. You need to recognize what's reality and what's not reality when you look at what an instagram influence or how many shots they have to take the perfect shot etc to filter for that but one of the most powerful powerful vision tools that you have today is something like instagram and especially if you'll keep the channels and the input information focused on reality not over the top you can curate for yourself a warm environment virement that keeps you focused on the things that you do want. It's positive that's motivating encouraging some months ago. I was digging deep into the weight loss lost part of instagram. I've lost forty fifty pounds over the last few months and have another fifty pounds or so to go some working hard on that but I would. I stumbled into the world of super perfect people on instagram and I was just amazed at how motivating and encouraging it is for people who are five six hundred pounds to have and be able to curate a community of other people who are started at five or six hundred pounds and who lost three hundred pounds Indika to interact with them and I I I was just so interested subscribe to all of the all of the channels the three hundred pound weight loss channels and I've just been so impressed with how much influence and impact all these people are having my favorite Janelle instagram. I'll tell you stella is striving is her is her instagram lady named Stella who's lost. I think half half her body way. She started at six hundred pounds Johnson. She's down to three hundred pounds something like that now and I love her channel. She's so great. She's wonderful. She shares her ups and her downs but it's so encouraging. When you see a normal normal person in fact a person who's in a worse than normal starting condition and it inspires me like well Stella can do it. I can do it right. Estonians going to the gym. I'm going to the gym it doesn't it doesn't that resonate with you too so they're never before was the opportunity for the community the unity of Super Fat people to be able to build friendships and encourage inspire one another until you get to instagram world you can do this other platforms performs to facebook. Groups are powerful lots of ways to do it. My encouragement to you is curate for yourself an instagram channel. I say channel because if you start a second one to set up a second profile this not about your personal friends or anything. It's just your vision board. There's the old concept of the Vision Board making pictures of the things that you do want and and printing putting these pictures together and and having them for yourself. I'll give you one and there's nothing it's great. It's a great idea. I've never you just displayed one thing on my wall just because generally. I've always wanted to keep most of my goals private. I don't like them to be displayed on my wall but what I used to do I used to just trim magazines out and I've got notebooks filled with cut outs from magazines of things that I wanted and I've done a lot of things from that over the years. It absolutely works to create a vision board. Well Digital Vision Board can can be an equivalent of that. They're trying to keep things really practical. You like the magazine. Idea I recommend you start it right. called a look booker as my wife calls book and I could have them from when I was in high school. used to buy the composition notebooks because they were cheap and I would cut out all the magazines a and look post them in little bits of wisdom things. I was reading it Sarah but they're all positive look through them and then stimulate my brain's back to that at positive visuals usuals visual stimulating away that other things can't so build for yourself and instagram an instagram account that that is positive if that surrounds you with the things that you do want the number three is youtube. I've had a long and difficult relationship with you to talk about that publicly. in the past is not important here. The reality is today. Youtube has offered individual people the chance to create content an ideas education entertainment on one theme and communicate that with a small audience effectively so when you find those right channels those things that you really like with the people that you like the people who are not obsessed with filings and Gore and controversy but but it was simply sharing things that are positive that are beautiful it can start to curate around yourself a positive environment and you can start to share that with another person very effectively some of you share my podcasts with other people really appreciate but almost nobody listens to my podcast with with other people podcasts are solitary thing instagram. Nobody sits around and says here. Let's share the same phone and let's look at the instagram account together right right. Nobody does that. We all have our own which is fine but what video can do especially with Youtube is it can bring people together in a way that's entertaining entertaining and allow them to focus on something when I I was pitching my wife on the idea of going and living in an RV full time she she's not she's never thought about it right and it's not been her thing ironically. She had more are being experience than I did before we went and moved into one. I had no RV inexperienced until I bought my own. I'd never I'd only one time for three nights ever slave stated in any in an RV ever before I bought my own where she'd been in it many in an Rv many times times. I'd always dreamed of it though but I'm trying to say hey listen. Maybe we could go and travel full-time. She didn't know anybody who done it. She never thought about doing it so it sounds that's crazy and wacky what I do. I found him youtube channels. My favorite one or our favorite one at the time was less junk more journey young couple who was are being full-time. Keep your daydream Marken Trish who run those are two good good youtube channels. Now other people like those but we like those because their families families are their children. We had a bunch of children and so The you know the the young couples and whatnot legit didn't fit us but for other people go and find that and so we started watching them and and it was re reality TV at its finest because it's actually reality TV. You still have to filter but it's actually reality TV in overtime when she saw that other people could do this again. It's not didn't sound crazy and I've given that advice to many. He want to give it to you if you're trying to find somebody and say hey here's an idea start with video because you can watch a video together even books. Most people don't read books together tarred. You don't sit there and read the book together but video has a way of bringing people together so if you and your spouse trying to to get on the same page about something going look for some youtube channels and go and and find some other people who are going through it and curious an environment around yourself that fits what you want make it about you. Don't choose anything that I like but make it about you you and your family and curate those voices so that you just have places that you can go physically and digitally belly that are just focused on your goals eliminate and cut out the stuff. That's not helping you. The stuff is not serving you the stuff. That's dragging you down the stuff. That's making you angry in depressed and bring in more of the stock that lifts you up you will create the reality see that you will live in based upon your thoughts and your actions in the coming days. There's the old quote who was it. I forget who to ascribe it to but that year the average of the five people that you the books five years from today you'll be the average of the books that you read and the five people you spend the most time with something like that. butchered that one. It's a true quote. Here's what's cool. Though you've always been able to choose the books that you read. I know readings out of vogue. I I know but but man if you're not reading books that are teaching you things you just behaving dumbly. Stop get some books and make sure those books are things that that you that you care about right if you don't you're not a good real good at reading learn to do it. Take a class learn to read but there is no more four. There's no better return on investment than you get with reading. Do you understand that when somebody writes a book they invest at the very minimum hundreds of hours into that Labor usually those hundreds of hours come after years and years of of experience or study or research or thinking about that craft and then as part of that book process most people and here here. We're talking about nonfiction books. Most people will invest so many hours into reading everything that has been written on this particular subject they've done research and then all of the authors before that have put together have cumulatively done exactly the same thing so when you read a book you are taking in the absolute height thus far of human knowledge of human achievement. You are standing on the shoulders not only of giants you're standing on the shoulders of giants who were standing on the shoulders of giants standing on the shoulders of giants who were standing on the shoulders of giants in almost any field. If you read a nonfiction book that's well written you what you are receiving from that book is you are receiving leaving. Thousands of years of knowledge adjusted synthesized etc so reading a book is like taking a Syringe. She filled with vitamins minerals everything in their most concentrated form sticking it in you in planning the plunger down. That's what a book is because at synthesizing and and working with an accumulated thousands of years of knowledge because of that process of authors knowing the authors have come before them wrestling with the ideas adding experience adding to those ideas. That's what reading is and here's what's incredible. You don't have to read. Just one book re ten any person in the world who has the basic intelligence to read it. Normal levels can easily read a book of week so ten weeks from now now. You can read ten books on whatever subject you're interested in. You can be a world class expert in ten weeks That's the power of books I get it. That is not invoke. I get that the video is easier but I am when you when you understand understand what a book is and you understand the power of that and more importantly when you understand the timelessness of books you can go back today and you can have a conversation with Jesus Christ. You can go back today and you can have a conversation with Plato. You can go and have a conversation today with any philosopher you can go and have a conversation today with Julius Caesar. It can have a conversation with Benjamin Franklin. You can go and have a conversation with Thomas Edison. You can go and have a conversation with Marie Curie. Hey tolerate their booker Washington. All of these things are right. There and you can have a conversation with them. There is no other media that allows that and if you are ignoring during that you are behaving like a fool sermon overrun books that's books the SEC. I don't I got so sorry. I don't even remember what made the point last got it. Don't behave like a fool reebok's right average of the of the books you read and the people that you spend the most time with here's the thing throughout all of human history you and I have been limited to spending time with people that are in our community. Usually our neighbors usually a maximum of a couple of hundred people. That's how it's been throughout all of human history but today you can spend time with anybody in the world practically really you've just spent forty five minutes and thirty one seconds with me. I've just given you my ideas my thoughts. My suggestions have shared my passion. My emotion my exuberance enthusiasm with you. I've had a conversation with you now. Of course this been mostly monologue thus thus far but you know what you can have a conversation right back with me you can call into my Friday cuny show and you can talk about anything you want. In the world world you can reach out to me on facebook. You can join our radical personal finance facebook group. You can reach out to me on twitter on instagram. You can email me. I'm right there. You're right. Sometimes you have to try a couple of times but I'm right. There and you can talk to me. I'm easy to get a hold of so you're having now. We have a genuine two way dialogue ugh a genuine conversation and the incredible thing about the world we live in today is there are thousands and thousands and and thousands and thousands of people who have done what you want to do they've done it. They started at a worse place than you and now other beyond where you WanNa be and they'll tell you how to do it. You just gotTa find. Those people started spending time with them. So what do you do. Everybody buddies broadcast. Everybody has twitter handle. Everybody's got a blog writing a newspaper. You can find it anything you want. It's there. It's incredible the access that you have people in today's world people who have done what you want to do spend your time with those people because you know what those people will believe that it's possible for you because they know it was possible for them to help the coaches that teach you and then take it one step further. The key is crossing that virtual physical barrier. Take your virtual relationships physical find the person that you I want to go and spend time with and go now a lot of times you pay. I paid ten thousand dollars last year to go to a seminar for for somebody that I wanted to meet in my industry. I paid ten thousand dollars last year to go to seminar somebody that WANNA meet my industry. You know I did it. I didn't do it because I needed to hear what was said at the seminar. I didn't do it because I needed to to know all the details of of what was said I find information is best consumed in polk form or in verbal form. I pay ten thousand dollars to build a relationship Asian ship with somebody that I need a relationship with you. Know what if you obviously you're right. You've gotten to this point of time forty eight minutes into this relationship with Josh. I pay attention to the people who send me money. I pay a lot of attention to the people. Oh semi money. People send me a lot of money. I pay a lot of attention to them to great use of money. If you are not regularly initiating contact and paying people people that you spend time with for their time and attention you're missing out on the fast lane to very quickly start to develop success success. Now that paying used to be for me. It was fairly simple right lunch and invite people to lunch. It costs money to invite people to lunch. But why do you think I have different categories in my budget from consumption categories versus investment categories one simple thing you said this to hundreds of people. You know how many people do it almost none almost not just like with any kind of decent advice but every single week just set aside one day Wednesday lunch which you know every Wednesday launch. You're going to have lunch with somebody that you admire that you look up to that. You would like to know that you would like to learn from it can be somebody in your company. Somebody in your industry somebody in your church somebody in your community somebody that you admire and make it a habit that on Monday morning. If you don't have a lunch schedule pick up the phone and start calling your you send an email you start sending an email bill the human connection with somebody somebody in invest in inviting them to lunch. Nobody is so busy that they don't have time for lunch. Here's the dirty little secret about success. The most successful people usually the most available Joe blow doesn't have a clue about what he's doing is working to work overtime. He didn't even have a lunch break right. He stuck Joe President got plenty of time for lunch. He'll go to lunch with with you. Invite them for lunch and if he doesn't there are ten other people who will so simple things started having lunch if you need to go a little bit deeper if they're not in your town sound go see them get an airplane. Go see them getting your car and drive if you live in a place specially a big metro. If you live in Atlanta Georgia Miami Florida Lord Our San Francisco you're within a tank of gas of almost anybody the people who are in that so take a day off. Take a vacation day and go for lunch. You don't only have to have lunch on days that you are at your office right. You can also have lunch on a day that you've taken off for lunch to go to see somebody in the next town over that you admire that respect relationship look to serve them add value build networks build connections go to their events right. So many people have prevents you know the thing about an event person is always available every almost every speech you've been to you will notice that the speaker always stays around and waits now. You may have twenty seconds right. It's hard to take a receiving line with a lot of people. It's hard for speakers to do that. You had twenty seconds but in twenty seconds you can pitch a clear idea. You can ask a clear question. You can create a connection that you can then follow up on later so go. Don't sit around and wait for some how the people that you admire somehow magically bumble into your life. Go Oh and build the relationships if you do these things that I'm describing you. Cultivate Eight and curate sources of positive influence and encouragement and inspiration you cut out sources of negativity depression frustration anger violence you build a little cocoon around yourself and your reality reality will start to change and as you learn more of the knowledge and skills that you need to expand your cocoon you'll naturally start to interact with other people who also live in cocoons of positivity in growth and success and wealth and prosperity start to be in their cocoons and your uh-huh start to build what happened is as you go through that process in a period of years. Your life will look very different. Oh and you find yourself living a life filled with prosperity joy happiness success but it starts with cutting off the things that you don't want and bring in more of the things that you do want. This is not metaphysical Mumbo jumbo. I am a I am not a materialist philosophical materialist right. I am not I believe. Metaphysics is absolutely an important component of life. I'm just describing and trying to show you how this process happens but it doesn't happen. If you sit around and complain I go into the Cesspool because I want. I want to reach out and save people right. I want to bring people out but man I can't stand it. He'll sit around and whine lying about. I can't do this because this structural injustice is just I can't overcome this and so and so is a racist and so therefore the first thing I gotta do is get over this and I can't do this. Don't you know I'm disabled and so what who oh cares how hard of a hand you've been dealt. I sure don't and you sure shouldn't because how hard of a hand you've been dealt. Simply is gonNA mean that people are going to have more empathy and compassion and sympathy for for you. When you sit around being a loser you can sit around and you can wine and you can protest you can cry you can complain complain about how much you're life. Sucks and people will walk past say man that Dude's life sucks wchs Sir bottom not him and if that's all you do few years now your life is still gonna suck so you're. GonNa still be broke. Fat Disabled discriminated against underprivileged and it's still going to suck and it will keep on sucking until you look around and you see the lifelines. The people have been extending to you constantly but you were so focused on how discriminated an underprivileged you were and how much is wrong with the world of course horse. It's wrong with the world. It's called sin. You have people who are evil sinful people and they have created situations that are not right and there's death and there's carnage and their sin all around but in the midst of that there are lifelines there are people who are willing to reach out their hand and grab yours and pull you up out of that Cesspool Cesspool. You've been living in if you show a little bit of initiative. You don't want to show much you gotTA. Show a little bit right picture in your head that you're resting in an open sewer and some dude walks along and says here give me your hand. pull you out of the sewer. Now I don't know if you've ever interacted with a sewer with with your hands but crap is slippery and your hand is covered with crap because you've been living in a sewer so pretend that I come along and and I reach my hand out and I say this brought up out of their Gimme your hand. I cannot hold onto your hand. If you don't try to close it there's no way that I can pull a two hundred pound man out of a Cesspool when you got a slippery hand if you don't close your hand. You don't have to do the pooling right. I can pick you up but you gotta close your hand. That's the way it is with all this stuff. People sit around and they wine and they complained dare. I say it they do nothing but bitch about how bad things are and they don't close their hand. Now I may not be able to pick you up out of the sewer and put put you on top of the mountain but I can get you from the sewer onto stable ground then there'd be somebody else there who when you start looking you'll say hey. There's somebody who's willing to teach me. There's somebody who's willing to take me there or I can take some money and buy a book. I can do this. I can start to make progress. You can start to make an improvement if you will do that day by today week after week month after month year after year. You'll look back and not even recognize where you were. You can't actually pull yourself up by your own bootstraps as anybody anybody who's ever put on boots with no but what you can do is you can reach out a hand and you can ask for help. You can ask for advice and then you can start taking strides instagram channel. I'm I've mentioned to you. Stella's driving his inspired me so much. I can't remember for sure but I just love Stella's attitude. She was six hundred pounds. I think five she was fat huge when she started and she she hired a trainer and man having I've been fat for most of my life. I have such compassion for the mental anguish of fatness and you look at her early workouts. It's laughable. It's laughable to think that walking is a workout for somebody. It's laughable to think that leaning against the wall is a workout for somebody should know what Stella did it and then she did it again then. She did it again and she did it again. She did it again and she did it again and you know what her workouts are still laughable to you because you're in four times times better shape than she is. If there is such a metric I'm in way better shape than she is but the progress us that she has making his transformed her life now. What are you and I had to complain about right. I'm not six hundred pounds. What's our excuse kind of sounds ridiculous to have any excuse when you're not even starting where she is right lookout show beat you 'cause she has captured the vision of progress and that's what you and I need to do every single day. Get the the crap out of your life and fill your head with the good positive the noble the virtuous the things that you want the things that you want to see more of in the world fill your head with those things so that instead of your life being successful. You can bring a little spot of light. Help your neighbors as we go. I would invite you. I have over last. It's been six years six years now. I have always loved a podcast. There is something special about podcasting. I love to talk to to you in this format various reasons for that. I love it. I'm not going anywhere with the podcast. I'm still going to be here for you. As regularly Julia can possibly make happen but I am not having the impact and influence that I wished to have with exclusively having a podcast fast and so I am taking my message to other platforms I talked about this recently. Maybe at some point I'll talk doc Martin chief but after a frustrating you know thinking about it I decided to re engage on social media and I'm reengaging significantly big time. I reactivated my once lead instagram account. That is my favorite now would invite you if you would like some positive encouragement from me in a different format go to instagram dot com slash. Joshua sheets instagram dot com slash Joshua sheets and follow me on instagram. I attended to a lot with instagram. I really liked the format especially like the format of stories because it solves my fear of everything being on the permanent record and so much more liberal with some of those things there in stories the following in instagram and scream do not because the follow me on Instagram Scrim. Dot Com slash Joshua sheets number two is also. I will be doing more on Youtube. Tim Youtube is very hard for me but I will be doing a lot more on it. Go to Youtube and find the channel radical personal finance follow me their facebook dot com slash Joshua sheets and twitter dot dot com slash Joshua sheets. I'll be on all those platforms. If you only choose one choose instagram for the reasons that I've previously said I love the platform I deleted my account. I had twelve one thousand two thousand people following their few years ago deleted my account that has had a pullback in onto privacy. I have changed. I have recanted from that position and end. That will be my primary thing going forward. Love the the platform instagram dot com slash Joshua sheets. Come follow me their final. Ask I guess not giving a pitch. If you like the show me favorite going reviewed on on whatever wherever you listen to this tunes or Google play or whatever you wherever you listen to the show just if you have the ability to drop a review that doesn't have to be a long one doesn't have to be all that great five five stars is great but what I mean is is that you don't have to write eighteen paragraphs to read a couple sentences about what you think about the show. Honestly that would be super helpful to me as I build the platform I'm done playing small. all maybe some point. I'll talk about that but you know the last few years. I've played small and IT'S I. I don't like it. It sucks so playing big and I'm thankful that you are here and I hope that I can continue to serve you effective. I will continue to serve you more effectively in the days to come to help you because I want to be on your podcast feed. I want to be that positive voice of encouragement. In years I want to be on your youtube subscription that positive voice the voice and source of inspiration and I want to be on your instagram feed that positive source of inspiration to help you get where you WANNA. Go faster thank you.

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Gold with Jeanette Schneider Episode 74: Bless & Release

Gold with Jeanette Schneider

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Gold with Jeanette Schneider Episode 74: Bless & Release

"Welcome to gold with Jeanette Schneider negative inspiration for a bigger better. More purposeful life each week. We share wisdom insights in gold from those living their lives after twenty three years in finance a left. My executive role to advocate for women. And Girls in life love the boardroom and the marketplace now the CEO of lived media. I am thrilled to create wellness base content and technology southie level up and become more conscious of your ripple. The live APP launched Christmas Day for Apple. This purposeful content big conversations and a beautiful place for us to share our gold. Our Dreams and create community gold is a live media production brought to you from the sound studio at the live headquarters high gold family this. John Schneider and I am here by myself today. This is only the second time in gold history that I've popped on the last time I was telling a story about an experience I had when I was travelling in Africa. This time I wanted to share some news that makes sense for this platform and kind of share. How things have changed like all humans we evolve we shift we change and I have as well and I wanted to share this story with you to explain what new ventures we're heading onto. I went back and looked at all episodes. We've recorded and I even looked at my facebook and instagram feeds for the past. Probably three four years. I literally changed like every three to six months and it makes sense. I was leaving Corporate America. I was writing a book. I created a podcast and then I created a company in didn't APP and I've done all of these things I entered into this really beautiful purpose relationship. So everything about me has shifted but there has been this little hints or this little clue that keeps popping up that not only I've noticed but like other people in my life have noticed and it was time for me to finally kind of recognize it was and blow it up a little bit. This all became very heavy. I've had beautiful sulphur. Conversations through this platform people have shared deep personal truths. We've talked about overcoming resilience. It's literally pain made into art and so beautiful but my entire platform has been based on killing the past like even the questions. I asked her based on the book. It's truly about understanding what nuggets we can mind from our past experience. The questions that are in my book and exercise my book. It's built into the questions of this podcast. Even the question. Like what advice would you give to younger self? I'm asking people to go back. And when I was doing did workshops around the book and these types of questions they were popular and there's one in particular in Newport Beach. I'm probably a year and a half ago. My friend Alexis was with me and we were going through the process of doing this workshop and it was going great and afterwards I could barely hold my head up. I was exhausted and I told her this is how it is and we went to to lunch and she just looked at me and I literally ordered this huge. Like bowl of pasta would ever. They could offer me. That had the most amount of CARBS and an old-fashioned with. I remember it had an enormous like ice as q ball and I just remember. It was the prettiest cover color like amber and it was like my salvation at the end of that day. And that's not how our work should feel with gold. I record to three episodes at a time and afterwards depending on the content. I have to either down or grab a coffee because I'm exhausted. I was interviewed recently and they wanted to talk about my book and I didn't want to talk about my book and that was also a recognition of mine. I wanted to talk about what I'm doing. Now what I wanted to talk about live and the APP we've created and how we're moving into mindfulness and understanding the science behind as opposed to navigating stories because a lot of people they want to understand for me a couple of questions when they get me on the phone. They want to understand how it was. I left Corporate America and I have had as you can hear from a lot of the episodes. We've recorded a muddy experience with men the work environments with my own identity in the work environment. They want to understand some of my past pains or experiences. And I don't WanNA relive that any longer. And here's the other thing is a lot of times when people are sharing their stories with me on the podcast. I'm psychically connected to their pain in that moment. I'm creating experience for them to excavate but they've got to feel their way into it and I do not want to create and build a platform based on pain and salvation. I want to make sure that we are creating an engine of possibility and leave this episode. This platformer if you're listening high on creation and opportunity. You're having ideas like I love the sharing of ideas and some of that comes from our past pain but rather than have the focus really on what our past can teach us. Let's talk about what we are doing now. I want to grow. I want to inspire. I want you to walk away. Feeling as if you had shot of Trenton that you have a new idea or it causes you to think deep like I'm a deep thinker. I love stick to my ribs type of conversations and not like stick to my ribs because we have sat down and glasses of wine. We've talked about like abuse and struggle and we've created this space of understanding which is beautiful in its own right but I don't want to live there. I want stick to my ribs conversations where we're coming to each other with ideas and creating opportunities for growth and get. Don't get me wrong. There's nothing wrong with sitting around with your girlfriends and venting and talking through these things. But that's not the platform that I want to create. I don't want to walk away from my microphone and feel like I need to carb load like I shouldn't feel like I've just gone through a marathon. What's been really interesting is that I went back and reviewed all of the content that we've created. I think the reason gold has done so well is because I genuinely want to know whatever my guess tested teach me. I'm such a curious person and I get really passionate if I get pulled into the conversations and I've had a few interviews that were not the best many times it's because I couldn't get the person to break. They're kind of like the barrier that they had up I couldn't find them essence their humanity and they may have had a PR reason or angle for being on the show they have had scripted answers but those are the ones that were like the hardest for me. Because I want to. I want to connect with the other person but I want them to move me. Shake me change me. I want to be excited about the life that I'm living outside of that experience with them. So we're going to change things up about shaking things up and it's we're not leaving gold behind and closing down the podcast. No absolutely not but instead of asking you to excavate your gold. I'm going to ask you what you're doing to change the world not what you're leaving behind but what you were building and why and how and what we do to create and what's funny is if you look over the course of this platform the episodes that we've had we've been moving into this evolution and experience throughout the course of probably the past six plus months. I want to tell you a bit of a story to help you understand the framework of the new. And why actually really well into the new live platform and probably told this story before. But it's super important to me. My daughter. Olivia created the meaning behind. Live and she and I have these super deep conversations and it's kind of special because even with the pandemic we'll like go through dairy queen and get a treat and we will drive around for like an hour and we will have these deep introspective conversations and so one time I think it was like the summer of two thousand eighteen. We were on one of these drives and having a is and I'm starting a company and I want to name it after one of my babies and I think site no. It's really interesting. The timing considered one of my babies my book war because now. I look at that as something that I did. It was something in the past. It's an important tool. I still recommend and people still find incredible value in that book. I had vision board it. That was going to be like the culmination of all of my life's work. That was like the big event in my life. I was going to be a published author and I think it's funny now because even two years ago I was like one of my babies is liver lor and now like as far as I've come as much as I've created. That was a speed bump that was that was something that Could Vision Board. But the Vision Board has grown by leaps and bounds. I think that's something important to note but Livia so in the conversation with her. I said you know Shining Liver Lor. And she says I really don't like the idea of you naming live after me or naming a company after me but what if live stands for something and they said well what would it stand for. And she said well you believe people should love themselves and love each other and it's a media company so we want things to go viral. So why don't we make love go viral and I was like that's brilliant so live stands for love is viral. I've been told that she should be our chief marketing officer. This kid is incredible like we created commercials recently for the APP for live Parka coach and I showed them dirk so proud of them and she watched them very thoughtfully looked at the entire commercial and afterwards she got really quiet and she was like well. It's really pretty but I still don't know what you do like. I know only because I've played with the APP that you can listen to people's content and like I wouldn't do that. It just looks like pretty pictures and it was so funny because I was like. Wow I've paid thousands of dollars to create these commercials and my nine year old is like schooling the on marketing. So she's a very bright future ever but I think it's important to recognize that the live media platform the whole point behind love is viral is that we want to be a place of creation where we guide people to really learn to love themselves. And that's GonNa that will definitely include excavation. But I don't WanNa focus on the past. I don't want to spend time in pain and redemption. I want to guide people to the best aspects of themselves. Because then they're influencing their loved ones people that they live life alongside their children in their community and to me. That's something like that has meat on its bones that is for you have to do some of that password to get to that place but at that place and I don't want to sit in the past any longer so goldfields kind of left. Last lifetime we rebranding. We're now going to be called. The love is viral. Show and if I get this you won't even have to resubscribe. It just depends on my technical skills but as we shift of course we reflect we reminisce. We think where we've been which is a huge part of our growth in healing and we say blessing released. So that's what I kind of wanted us to be. I wanted to be like a throwback episode where I shared almost like the story of gold and like what I loved what I learned and then I'm kind of give you what I'm really taking away from. All of this and into the next iteration which is called love is viral. So I've been looking over the threat and I can tell you. The show is already heading in this direction. Because topics were evolving as I was so I wanted to share the the ones that stick out in this process and what I learned in loved. So my very first episode was accidental. It was with Dr Melanie. Ross meals. Who at the door? My firm had hired her to come out and speak to our clients and I had a group of of women clients going to join us for this luncheon but we had some time and I had just finished recording the audio book for my friend had a studio and I said you know maybe one day. I'll do a podcast so Dr Mal was going to be in town and I was like. Hey we have extra time. Why don't we record an interview and just see how it goes and maybe I'll use it for podcast in the future. We had so much fun. She talks about relationships and we really talked about all iterations regions of relationships. We talked about friendships and family boundaries. And what if you're growing at a speed that's faster than the people in your life? How do you hold space for those people? He goes really deep and beautiful conversation. It was also the first time that I talked publicly about my personal romantic relationships. That always been a conversation that I avoided and I didn't know that was actually going to become a thing. I didn't know that for a little bit longer but as I move forward I kept being asked how to move into these more positive and fulfilling relationships and she was kind of the kickoff. And what's so funny is that it went so well. That gold was born and three months later it debuted in December of two thousand eighteen. Several months after gold started making the rounds of my dear friend Travis. Turner reached out and said I want to do a show with you and I knew immediately what I wanted to do with him. We created episode fourteen. It was called the perpetual heartbreak of adult children of alcoholics and it was hard it was hard for both of us it was raw it was real and I really opened up about what it was like to be raised by an alcoholic addict parent and we didn't get into the the dirty details of abuse. I didn't think that was going to be valuable or helpful. Because that's something to kind of like snack on right. That didn't feel like I could see people leaning in and wanting to know and we didn't want to do that. What we wanted to do is speak to the person and the individuals who did not yet have language awards around the psychology. They were experiencing. They didn't know why being raised adult child of an alcoholic how that was actually changing their parenting style. How it was causing them to create boundaries to have issues with trust and this is an entire psychology that is studied and so we wanted to kind of say in like real life turns here to incredibly successful people who are both adult children of alcoholics. And this is what it looks like. This is what our boundaries look like. This is the conversation that we have. We Literally Lake opened. Our hearts ripped them open and we talked to the people who knew our stories the best. I knew that show is important as we recorded it because I'd receive some DM's in the past when I blog about ACOA which stands for adult children of alcoholics. I knew that we were giving them the language and I loved the response that the show had but I also made a mental note as that show is being recorded it was taking emotional toll on me and if I were to continue to show up on the platform wanting to kind of like my heart open I had to get some better tools and resources and I wasn't one hundred percent there yet. I was very aware of the fact like we left. That and I was emotionally drained and I didn't want that to be the case like I already done these workshops where I would leave and I would have to carb load here. I am having conversations with people and talking about painful past and we're doing it for the purpose of helping but it's it wasn't my story anymore. I think that that's what I'm heading into. Is that that point. This wasn't where I lived anymore. I want to say with that with that. Said Lord will always be a huge part of my life will always be. It was the culmination of years of hurt and pain and struggle and it became my advocacy because I suddenly had the tools I'd spend thousands of dollars and worked so hard on myself and I wanted to shorten the distance for the next person. I want to give them the manual. And be like you don't have to go to as many conferences or have to do as much hard work as I did. Here's the manual to help. You hear the questions to ask yourself so it will always be valuable and I also want to mention. I am a huge fan of massed in kipps work. He wrote a book claim. Your power I want to say. It came out in two thousand seventeen or eighteen much after already done my experience. I was wrapping up my edits for lower when claim your power came out and even went and saw him in person. We did a six hour workshop. Incredibly emotional I think was already kind of at the tail end of what I would call like my personal development pilgrimage like that really painful like opening yourself up broken open. Let me get through all of this. And so I probably would become like his disciple if I found him in two thousand twelve or thirteen and he'd written the book then that's when I was kind of like the crux of my pain. Having just been divorced but his work is powerful and claim your power is definitely a book that you should look into if you need to do some past work but I wanted to share that with you because there was a gentleman that I met surely after all this happened like I kept coming and circling back to this one pure agency that would book guests and book me on shows and how to relationship with masks and kept through. All of this came my relationship. Dan Mason. Dan has been on the podcast multiple times. He has a killer challenge on the live pocket. Coach that you should listen to. He talks about leaving your second career. And I absolutely love his he's just like self deprecating and no bullshit and he will call you out but he will hold you all at the same time like. I've had some really smack you in your face conversations with him but not in a painful way kind of like you're both looking at self wrapped in love and you get this sort of resourcefulness in moments and it's almost like when we're talking. We're like reviewing trauma from the purview of someone who's like poked and prodded it get. It knew the importance of healing. But don't feel like wallowing it anymore. So if you haven't listened to his episodes or check him out on the live pocket coach. Please do that. He's one of my favorite people to chat with and talk through the stuff with and we've gotten on the phone a couple of times even when I'm trying to figure something out and just such a great resource because it's true. We have trauma both big and little T. trauma as he called it that we carry with us and that we need excavate and understand today gold is brought to you by live media and the live pocket coach available on the Apple App store. Now not only live like a life coach in your pocket but we have coaches in Three D. As well with their most recent upgrade you can sign up for one on one coaching with a person on the phone through a hold you down hold you accountable and offer you perspective as you build your big bad beautiful new life. Apple users consented for premium plus the APP or check out our next level and mastery options out. Love IS VIRAL DOT COM for slash coaching android users. We haven't forgotten about you live. Coaching is available to you as well. Just reach out to us at deer live at is viral dot com. And we'll fill you in on all the ways live cam create with you live pocket coach. Welcome to your life in the vein of really trying to dig into intentional. Mindful living aside from the conversations about trauma also got into relationships which I mentioned before they came to the forefront because they truly are our biggest opportunities for growth. They are the place where we get to know ourselves if we have triggers or old stories. The person that we love is absolutely going to detonate those like. They're the people that are going to walk in and be like. Oh you have pain points. Let me light them up like a switchboard so you almost have to honor the people that come into your life and love them for the fact they are going to be your greatest teachers. So we decided to do some really great episodes. I did a couple on intentional dating. I had incredible feedback so we decided that we wanted to curate content on relationships but did not want to turn gold into a relationship podcast so instead little pivot and this was fun we actually recorded an entire mastery interview series with relationship coaches therapists and experts on live pocket coach. So there's a couple that I'll tell you about that. We're on gold but if you want expanded information on relationships and how to dig into them go to the mastery section on the live pocket coach and there is a host of interviews on everything from how to be a high value person how to navigate heartbreak how to date intentionally how to be a mindful relationship. Had to deal with conflict such great interviews but the ones that started it were. Jamie Kelsey Jamie Ran Kelsey Grant. We did one called legendary. Love this conversation. Oh my God they were amazing and we got super honest about finding your alien is what they called. It was really cute. They're like you need to find your matching alien out there in the world and the continual work that a strong and empowered relationship requires an my biggest fear in relationships is creating resentment and Kelsey meet really great point that if you're constantly fearful of it you're going to create it but resentment is really information. It's simply telling you I have a need. That is not met and that was kind of a mind blowing moment for me that rather than sitting in this space of resentment and being like I feel it coming on. How do we manage this? This is gonna be hard to overcome being like okay. What need is not being that? What information is this getting so they kind of broke it down for me? In a way that was really empower powering and like gorgeous and honest and then after I interviewed them I had an interview with crystal Eram dating coach and we did one unintentional dating and I love her interview. It's on gold. Also in the mastery section of the live pocket coach. We talked about the fact that a lot of times when people are dating. Especially if you're in the swipe left or right dating world. We have a tendency to put our pain on display. Like you'll see these in the profile of people who are dating apps who are like if you're emotionally unavailable swipe left if you this Blair. I don't want this. I'm done with this. And she's like we're just blasting our pain out there in the world and why it's so important to instead become receptive. How can you move into a place of receptivity if you truly want to bring in love so fantastic episode? As she was hilarious she brought so much SAS to the entire conversation. So make sure that you check that one out. The whole process of recording gold has truly been like a personal learning curve. I've learned so much about myself as an interviewer as a woman. A human being. I've grown so much and as we shift to love his viral which has video component. I am having to learn myself Oliver again so I love that I can see people during the conversation and then I can engage with them but it doesn't leave a whole lot of space for being able to make notes to cough to blow my nose to wear yoga pants care about makeup that day so this is a new learning curve again and then I'm excited about it and I know I'm going to have people that. Stop me. I know that I'm going to have people who they're not perfect interviews. But I'm really excited about the direction that we're heading and what we're going to kind of delve into in this new series to be clear. I knew I was evolving as a host any human being after one of my most recent episodes that probably was one of the catalysts on how I wanted to set up the love is Meryl Show. I was getting the interview formula down and it was an episode. I did with psychotherapist. Men Cow was called loving and leaving a nurse assist. I was so proud of this interview. Because there was no trauma bonding no hashing no pain. I have learned that. It's so important to bring folks on who are either healed or experts. Because we're no we're not in the pain were able to look at it from a place of observation. We're able to look at our own bad behavior. And the bad behavior of others from a place of learning and education as opposed to being entrenched in it. Which is what I think is how gold originally felt and how the interview sometimes feel when I'm being interviewed about gold or about Lor entrenched in the pain and wanting to rehash it for what feels like inspiration but sometimes feels like it's more people are leaning in there. I want to hear about their pain. I WanNa hear about their suffering and I don't want to get to the redemptive story. I don't want to get to the tools until I know the good stuff but I don't know that it's always a good stuff and I love it when you can look at someone across the room and say. Hey Ben where you've been but I really believe that you have to pick the people that you share the deepest parts of your heart and soul with. I absolutely adore people who share their story. And I'M GONNA get to that in the remarks I think is important to share your story but I think at some point in time you also have to realize that you don't WanNa live in that space anymore with this interview that I did with Eliza it was gorgeous because it was a it was a very broad of what it meant to love and leave a narcissist and I think I knew as we were recording that we were going to help people who had either loved a nurse Assistant Hat and quite healed. That still had a wound on their unconscious or they're currently with a nurse assist and haven't figured out that it's time to pack it in that it's time to to to remove yourself from the situation but this was in a fearful. Let me tell you the story. Let's dig into this drama. It was truly like here is what you can expect. And I was so proud of it. We really got to a place where we were able to offer perspective and it was kind of one of those landmark like this is the way it should be done. I actually received a message from a friend and listener afterwards. That was like you finally have given me like a clicked rate. I got insight and perspective from that conversation and the beautiful thing about it is. I didn't have to go into deep ugly story. I was able to provide perspective and there was some of value that was offered as well as trust. Trust because of the things that we're talking about that we know but we don't have to really dig into the pain points. That are GONNA require that afterwards. I could take a nap This is the way it should be done. The conversation should be had. My favorite guests have brought so much soul and expertise to the show. And I love when I have a scientists on and I can get that logical side of my brain scratched and Dr Romi mashed blew my mind. She was probably my first introduction to the correlation between neuroscience and mindfulness. Like we talk about like Oh you can be spiritual and you can be logical or like well. I don't want to talk too much about that. Because that's too and what I've realized is that there's a space for both of it and both sides and I don't think that some of the things that we consider woo are truly woo like if you really dig into the science of mindfulness. If you knew that there were a few things you could do to hack your chemical like your brain. Chemistry and you could actually call on the Serotonin and start to bring it in other parts of your reign. Why would you not do that? And why wouldn't you do that on? Like a daily basis. Why wouldn't you get to know yourself so well and create these practices that are studied by neuroscientists? You wouldn't call them anymore. We would take all of that Wu out of it and even though. I've jokes often through of the show. That impart logic part spirituality. I have never been more aware that these things can and should co exist and that. There's an intersection for them. If you can explain meditation and Bring Chemistry. I think it's an absolute no brainer. And my most recent episode with Noel Cordova goes further into this and really puts the bow onto the evolution of gold. It's really kind of showing how we can talk about our pain. Anxiety are our issues our past and our stories but from a place of okay. How do I heal them? How do I move them forward? How do I create tools within my life? And how do I make change? Not only in myself but in my community my family my children. How do I bring about my own evolution? This brings me to the meat of the episode? Our needs on our past and do deep work is essential. I do not disavow it at all. I don't I don't argue where I came from. And if you need the tools as people come to our platform like we do forgiveness and visualizations on on on talking to your past and things like that but if you really need deep tools order lower it will it's fantastic guidebook and it asks you a ton of questions and and go through it. I think it's going to be a great resource to hold yourself accountable. But don't stay there and that's I think the big point that I wanna make we must learn from our past. We must forgive past and sometimes that is a very ugly nasty dirty process so necessary but it's it's messy and personal. Don't be surprised. If after your big breakthrough you realize there are more layers no matter where you are in your own self development or evolution. There's always more room. Even though you think you forgiven there may one day be something that said all this in your triggered and right back to it that person that you love so much that you call into your life is lit up that lightning board the board of triggers. And all of this and you're back into a space that you thought that you had healed. But here's the deal. You have better tools. You have a better framework from which to work. The funny thing is when you first commit to yourself to do the work. A lot of people become like converts an evangelist. And they kind of take on this coli like I've got this figured out. Life is different. I'm evolved I'm conscious. God bless them. I've been there. I have touted certain things to people what I learned over. The course of time is that there's always another level there's always another tool. We're all in a different space. Give those people who were evangelists right now. Give him some space. Because I can guarantee them as has happened with me. Your legs will be swept out from under you at some point in time you are just going to land faster. You'RE GONNA get up faster you're going to have more humidity and that in the end is a blessing. You're tools they're going to shift. They're going to change. You may swear up and down that meditation and free writing is it. I love meditation. I absolutely do. My meditation is now a little funkier than it originally was because I've had to adjust and adapt to adopt to make things work for me. Some people talk about tapping Iowa. Ska they choose a thought leader a church alive event. There are people like I went to a Tony Robbins experience and I was like. I can't decide if this man is a legend or church because people people will worship at the altar of the thing that they believe saved their life. That is okay for some Tony Robbins for some. It's Oprah for some. It's a book it's a Bible. Whatever it may be until the day that you realize that you saved your life with your questions your openness your faith your resilience. Every single person will have their own path leader tool whatever it is that gives them perspective when they're ready for it. Your story is important. Share it. He'll help others. I think it's Danielle LaPorte. The people quote all the time. Who said I'm turning my pain into purpose and I think that that's really beautiful. The problem that I have with that so many people so many times. We'll sit within their pain. And these are the folks that continually remind you of everything that has happened. Two has been bad in their life but how they've managed to come out the other side and my argument is at some point in time. You have to leave that story behind. It's important cry through it. He'll help others and one day. You will realize that it's not the house you want to live any longer. It's given you so many gifts you grow this unbridled compassion you have boundaries like iron and you no longer enter the relationships you instead. It's it's so powerful. Your bless your in control and you're humble because you know tomorrow you may meet a new challenge and you will overcome that one as well but this encourage you to become curious about what lights you up. What brings you joy about what you want to build? And how you're going to truly change your as to be present and future focused. You will absolutely one hundred percent without fail. Look back but make sure that when you do it fills your heart with gratitude and not exhaustion that when you tell your story. It isn't a place to grieve to show how far you've come. It's not salacious a tell all it's a short visit that offers perspective and that your heart is not tired from the retelling of your story. Your story is not your identity. It is not your home. I have so enjoyed my time with gold and I think my past my stories and opportunity I had to write and share Laura. I healed myself in so many ways healed others the conversations we have have been aspirational and just absolutely gorgeous. I have learned so much. I know that work will continue. Always be willing to dig in and pull out the past to heal from it to forgive so that you can truly be present and future focused. Join me next week. Our first episode of the lovers viral show. It's going to be available on Apple Iheartradio spotify and all the pod catchers if I do this reckless. My technical skills will be on display It's also going to be available via Youtube so I guess I won't be wearing yoga pants and till anymore unless I wanNA make that my thing but I just want to thank you. I want to thank you for being with me along this journey. We're not completely like blowing things up. We're just changing the conversation to be more powerful more present and more about what we are building. Thank you for excavating with me. Now let's build our new house. I can't wait join me next week. I'll talk to you then as always. Please subscribe to this podcast Lever Review and don't forget to share with your friends. You can find me on Instagram at either. Ms Dot Net Schneider or the lived movement at loves dot media or live at love is viral dot com. Get deepen the work with me to uncover your messaging before you pass it on to your children or the people you influence order my book. 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