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Sick of the Same Goal Setting Strategies? This Is For You
"The other day I was getting a massage something I have deeply missed in quarantine and the masseuse was educating me on my body and what different areas show and she was telling me about how the right side of my back is this masculine side that get things done type energy and the lower left back is the feminine side, the Creative Dreamer side and just learning that it stuck with me. In fact that night I got home and I wrote pages of notes on the topic. And how we find that balance of ideation that leads us to actually getting things done. It's like his balance of masculine and Feminine Energy that we might be struggling with I. Mean does anyone else's love the feeling when you get news stroke of inspiration and it hits the creative start flowing in your feminine side is alive and suddenly you have a brand new exciting goal on your mind that you cannot wait to get after it can swoop in as a result of so many things. With friends seeing someone else doing something that sparks excitement in you a massage apparently or even a commercial on TV. But after that buzzy goal inspiration hits next comes as other feeling that you're probably familiar with him I feel like dread because as much as we all want big things and lofty accomplishments for our futures, the actual getting to accomplish that big thing is often more overwhelming than just dreaming it up the steps it tastes to bring our largest goals from idea to reality are usually many and they're often time consuming so much so. That most people stay in the idea phase that feminine energy, because they're not sure where to start with taking action or how to tap into their masculine side that can help get things in motion. I'm sure you know there are just about a million pieces of advice out there for setting and achieving your goals and I don't know about you. But I'm still always always always fascinated to hear the different approaches and methods that people have for finding success with the starry eyed dreams. We dream ourselves maybe it's the achiever in knee or arm the. Three. Or maybe it's just a curiosity that's always existed inside of me as humans I think that we're designed to always want more and to be onto the next thing and keep striving for purpose and accomplishment, and while that can sometimes come at the sacrifice of living in the president or finding joy in the inbetween. I also think that yearning for something bigger and more can be a good thing if you can approach with the right mindset and. Practices I. Personally Love With James Clear has to say about goal setting in his book titled Atomic, Habits and in fact, surprisingly he says he's not much of a goal setter instead, he urges you to focus on the systems that best bring your goals to fruition. Clear says it like this goals are good for setting a direction but systems are best for making progress and that really really resonates with me see I didn't necessarily set out on my entrepreneurship. Journey with his goal to lead thousands of entrepreneurs through processes to build their businesses and reach larger audiences. In fact that whole idea wasn't even on my radar I was recently talking with a friend and work came up and she had this moment she looks at me and she goes Whoa Jenna. You never really plan this whole thing along the way you just learned it started to fall into place, but you never started with all of this in. Mind, she was so right like I didn't plan this but as I was creating and doing I was building these systems of my own that worked and once I. Got My self results I began sharing teaching those systems to others which led to my own growth and path toward success in leading others towards greater results as entrepreneurs annoyingly I was focusing more on the processes and systems at work versus shooting for random goal and hoping I hit it and. I was refining those processes and systems to make them as effective as possible eliminating steps or actions that didn't yield actual results and nailing down the exact way to achieve the goal that had in mind though systems those were what led to significant business advancement. A growing social media reach partnerships and experiences could have never dreamed to put on my list of goals at the beginning of all of this though systems led to accomplishments that weren't even on. My Vision. Board because I. didn't even know they were possible. Here's the truth. It really doesn't matter all that much. What your big goal is whether it's to train for Marathoner, start your own online business or make six figures this year right at Children's book or something in between I. Think we've all experienced desire to do something important, and then we've had no clue to start or what did you first that's why James Clear urges you to almost completely. Stop focusing on the big shiny, often overwhelming end-result by itself because that thing whatever it may be is what holds us back more often than not let it be a guide but focus more on the small daily steps and actions to get you there because that is what will change your life. The only way to actually achieve your goals is to build systems that propelled you towards him every single day
Clarify Your Priorities With These Two Simple Questions
"Clarify your priorities with these two simple questions by melanie leader of a brighter wild dot. com. Hello. Dear friends if someone were to ask you what your priorities were in life chances are good that you spat out some typical answers family health work spirituality maybe things like sports music charitable giving or minimalism make an appearance on your list to. The truth is we all like to say that we prioritize certain things, things that deep down we believed to be important. But how many of US structure our daily lives to reflect those priorities? Making mindful choice to live a simple life often means taking a hard look at the way that we spend our time money and energy. It requires some deep self reflection on our personal truce and behaviors, and usually requires a major changes in order to align our daily lives with the things that we say we believe in. True simplicity calls us into a space of radical honesty asking us to examine the way we have been living in contrast that with the way we want to be living. The first thing to know when you are embarking on a new minimalist journey is that judgment has no place in the process berating ourselves for spending too much time on facebook. Last month is England get us anywhere nor will the self-imposed downward shame spiraled I comes from your most recently blown budget. When we can approach our desire to change with an attitude of acceptance and self love where much more likely to follow through with our goals ride through speed bumps with grace and harvest more meaning along the way. Pinpointing your priorities doesn't have to be hard doesn't require hours in a therapist office or a dozen glue sticks for your vision. Board, of both of these things can be helpful as it could be rather paradoxical if I give you advice on how to simplify your life with long complicated directions in time Kazumi exercises. In the wisdom of like attracts like if you want clarity simplicity and spacious nece, he must begin with those qualities. Being. Clarify your priorities and get your life on track by asking yourself these two simple questions. What do I truly desire and what is standing in my way? These two inquiries really get to the crux of the matter because they ask you to be direct and honest they nudge you to open the dialogue with yourself about your deepest desires and the habits may be blocking their path. These simple questions are all you need to get started follows is completely up to you. Perhaps alone to spend more quality time with your kids or with your significant other, this may be the wake-up call that you need to streamline our emails, put your phone or cut back on your work hours. If you really miss painting playing guitar dismay encourage you to clear the clutter out of your spare room to make a studio space whatever your desire whatever your true priorities are. There are solutions available to you to put those things front and center again. You may be saying to yourself that things aren't that easy. Your Life Justin isn't assemble. There is X Y and Z to be considered and what about this thing over here or that thing over there I'll be honest we all have our roadblocks are doubts or fears especially when it comes to making a radical change in the way we structure our lives. We let our big butts stand in the way of what our spirits are calling for. Maybe you're but is large heavy and well-developed maybe you've taken that but to the gym every day for the last decade reinforcing those excuses over and over until you feel like you can't move anymore. Well, now's the time to start shrinking that but. Rearranging your life so that it more closely reflects your priorities shouldn't be a struggle. We all know on a deep level. What things are really important to us at the end of the day and what things light us up inside. We also happen to be really good at spinning off into worst-case scenarios and allowing our fears to keep us stuck letting each your fly on autopilot until one day a loved one dies the stock market crashes or we get a scary diagnosis. These catastrophic events, always drawer priorities into stark relief but what if we can mindfully clarify them today? If we could decide right now what kind of life we want to be living and make the courageous leap into a simpler more heart centered soul powered existence. Don't wait for a tragedy to strike or for personal loss to be your wakeup call make the changes you want to make. Now all it takes is two little questions.
Your Most Powerful Asset
"Over the years, the accelerate your business growth podcast has enjoyed inclusion unlisted the best podcast to listen to for sales business growth of small business entrepreneurship leadership. We've just been really fortunate to just the on a ton of lists, and that's because of the guests. These are folks who have expertise in a particular area of business and they join me for a conversation little. Chat. Where they share that expertise with all of you. That way you can get the information age get connected to these folks and you can do better things in your. Business. Today is no different. My guest today is Chris Yoga. Christmas the founder. CEO of Yoga Company. Chris focuses on helping people in the organizations they belong to pave the road to a more Utopian world. He empowers heroic organizations to build a champion, those styles using their most powerful assets, their web presence. Chris an expert in Web design accessibility. Digital Marketing. Company culture and Social Responsibility. His Gold for HIMSELF THOSE HE AIDS is to be driven by a purpose beyond Prophet Excel much for joining me today Chris. From Yoga. I am thrilled to have you now I would love it. If you would explain to the listeners, why use say that our web presence is our most powerful asset? It's the one. Then you have that's speak can speak to everyone similtaneously knocker taking phone calls. If you're at a meeting a conference, if you're doing sales inbound sales, your, you've always got some limiting. The chemical equation of your success that is install eggs out whereas your web presence is. Similarities available to everybody and is also worldwide so. Used to have local footprint canals international footprint. On it. Okay. So He said in your bio that you are looking to these organizations pave or. Pave. The way toward a more Utopian world which I love that purpose at but understand how my web presence makes the world a better place. So. It starts with thinking about the organization itself. So the folks that we help tend to all into one two buckets, it's people who know and already calculate the type of impact they wanna half, and then there's those organizations aspire to have a positive don't really quite know either what it is or exactly how to accomplish it and It's interesting because let me see what persons can help boost in the latter case with relation that already knows the impact that wants to have. It's a matter of execution the more fun one in the one that might be worth likable. Your listeners is the wonderful renovations that are still trying to figure out exactly what they want that to look like, and that is where I think about the value of the web presents not only as your marketing tool, a communication tool, a chance to interact with clients, but there's also whenever you go through that process of rebranding redesigning a website specifically. There's a window. Right there's a certain amount of almost like vision boarding that happens where. I kind of figured whenever you start to plant that flag as renovation. It's almost like somebody who stopped smoking where they're like, Hey, I stopped smoking and it's like okay well for how long for four hours. But you got. The same thing with with the website whenever you say we are organization that does these things. Maybe that only lasts. You know it's been four hours since you started that put that out there and it starts to become true and the way that we find it tends to really impact organizations with Joseph Campbell's Hero's journey. Now I'm not okay good deal. So just the Campbell, an amazing offer this book called out hero with basis where he breaks down all of these tales from the Odyssey the end all the way up to storm wars wizard of Oz Harry Potter all of the movies stories you likely love follow the Hero's journey, which is that the hero goes through these kind of same twelve steps and it starts with. You know the call to action understanding. There's a need for change not really wanting to address it of being reluctant going through it as a path of self transformation with happens and that sell transformations what enables bureau to go out and. which the beast find the Elixir, whatever the case might be, and then better impact their community or Kasa characters around them, and then ultimately transformed the world, and what we find is when you go through a brand update or web transformation, the right way and with that kind of attention -ality, it serves as that vision board that is essentially like a crucible cell transformation. So you start to change yourself your team sources st like this is how we impact the world. Now I kinda have something uncrowded show Hama data show my spouse. I'm proud to show my the work I do does this kind of impact? So it's not just about the dollars and cents it's about making impacts. And now I'm a little bit more excited to tell that story people that land on our website. Begin to hear that story. It allows us to transform ourselves before we can then transplant relationships we have with our clients ultimately grow hopefully or more clients and a broader community, and then subsequently through the were affects we all have a world create a better world starts I believe with that what presence that I can happen food multitude of levels but I think one of the most important is being able to find that kind of vision and crucible assault transformation were.
"vision board" Discussed on Can I Pet Your Dog?
"So dogs I grew up with dogs like my closest cousins they had a rottweiler and I was always so jealous that they had a rottweiler marcy she you is just the bee's knees big bad dow lake she was. Like I don't know cute and friendly but big and I felt like safe and protected, and then when I, think it was IRA's twelve my brother for his. Seven eighteenth birthday we have been asking for a dog, our entire childhood, right? Right. So my brothers turning eighteen abouts like leave the House, my dad then honors his birthday request and gets them a dog and it's a sleeping trap right? That's like an attractive. It was almost like my dad did a pregnancy trach writing this. You gotta stay. Like And that dog was named rottweiler because we grew up with rottweilers while seem as Tyson. And my brothers stick around for the next six months and left college, and then all of a sudden I was left with. I had a dog. Yeah. Tyson I think one was Savo is what it's maybe really like I really excited to have my own dog because when it's someone else's dog, it's sort of like I don't know pooper get off the pot, right? Like are we is this mine is and it's like I always feel weird I discipline other people's children or dogs, right? Yes, it's like what I'm dating someone only ever dog. It also makes me a little nervous because you're like I. Hope The dog likes me because it would their kids. The kids and. Their dogs like acting a fool and you're just like God I really just want to be like no. Give. Me But. Can I. Discipline my dog and it kind of weird. You're like Oh that's not what I'd say. Like. that. That's not how it works. Jews you look like an idiot. Look a very mean trump human being. My dog help. Data over. Much it's it is or the notion of just like you think I have not tried that. We've tried no, we don't use. No we use. Banana. Say No and like John Travolta knows. No. Thank you so much. So how did we leaned with Tyson show is and so my brother named him Tyson and after the boxer. Like, Oh, maybe now is totally after the boxer ring a seventeen year old member in lake naming a rottweiler, Tyson? Just such an. Ironic. But NAH, it's like this song ironic. Ironic. But it's actually not. Spot on we all did that all of that. Got Married, very very young and walked down the aisle two seasons of love. On, the nose yet. Bread your life and you're like, I want to commemorate this moment. There's just you know because we've all done. ADC, association. Oh this one. Hundred Twenty, five, thousand, six, hundred minutes on it. I I make the memory to favorite memories of my dog Tyson. He's no longer us because that was like a longtime ago. The only about dogs in a long time they've been thirteen. No know. I sound like it. Yeah. That makes me nervous. Okay. But I don't know how this happens. Every anytime. I do video project for something in school I would even if it did a call for a video I'm like I'm going to video project and I think I did a mockumentary on rottweilers for like my seventh or eighth grade science class whereas sort of like the crocodile, the Co this just being Jennifer Hudson but the crocodile hunter accidents have never been my thing but doesn't stop me from trying and soon like looking for the elusive. And Educated about the rottweiler 'cause I loved talk or what we would give for that footage. God what we would give you know what? Solan. It got stolen my mom's car someone who was after that tape like a box of stuff and my mom's car had Lake Lake intendo sixty four and VHS tapes and my footage of all the things that I use to videotape. I it does sound like also you're like definitely know where it is. Someone you know what someone has. There's someone listening. Haven't been watching that that is. Also seen by talent, show me and the fifth grade nine time doing the Tutsi roles so. that. Did you win? Of course you did there were no winners but we know who like want and like I was goes lettering we were girls time like child before they're destiny's child girls time and my mom was Lake Matthew Tina Knowles like making us rehearsal the time right? Every. Facet of your life and like well in love it. Notes for you buddy. I'm coming back here all the time even when I guess. I'll zoom. Lincoln. Of Oh at one time I was walking Tyson with. My stepmother was terrified of Tyson which. Like it was like a Ha. Has Coming. A. Teenager. Step. By step sister and I recall. So we would go walking with the dog but one time a little a little pop, a little Brown Stripe Cup like asserted following as and yet they Tyson and we call him Brownie the became best friends and it's like every. You Know Disney channel movie. You've ever seen where you know you find the stray dog and they come home and lake we brought it home and I, just knew doubted be like, yes and we're like look to head a new dog for us, my dad was like no. Send it down, earning out one dog, and then we went walking and Brownie came around again, and then the next day Brownie was never seen again I'm pretty sure that was like, okay, we're going to. Shuttle them off somewhere. On everybody that's real sweet though that's real real tender now again and your two years since you've been thirteen. Dogs in your life like friends, dogs, family dogs who who are the dogs in your life these days. Yeah. So I have oh I have a little picture that I can show Ya. Okay. So this is his name is. Look at, let's see. Can Use. Service name is his name is pig. And he's like a French bulldog. My friend Gerald that's his dog and he actually lost he lost an eye to like an infection. Yeah. A little tag but he's.
How Vivian Kaye Turned Her Hair Care Needs into a Multi-Million Dollar Biz
"K. is a fourteen year veteran entrepreneur who has bootstrapped to companies from the ground up for the last seven years. She has strictly focused on the e-commerce world where she built kinky curly Yacky, which offers textured hair extensions for black women to over one million in annual revenue Vivian has been featured on shop. Expert Academy Series Ted Conferences the way we worked and has been featured and digital publications such as Black Enterprise Magazine and refinery twenty nine Vivian, welcomed being boss. Thank you for having made such a pleasure to be here. Vivian! We've gotten to know you a little bit over the past couple of days. You've popped in on some of our sessions. You've been offering us so much guidance and. Radiance and your smarts and all of the things. So now I'm dying to hear your story like, can you, can we? Let's rewind a little bit and we're GonNa. Get into all of the wisdom that you have to share, but I want to know more about your entrepreneurial journey, so tell us like. Where did it begin? How did you get to where you are now being on Ted and refinery twenty nine this morning i saw on your instagram. You're on somebody's vision board like talk about goals. How did you get there? Honestly I really don't know. Because, it's not like being an entrepreneur was a big thing right, so you know back when I was growing up? Being an entrepreneur was for people who didn't have jobs. And so I kept you know I was always in jobs where the one person department one Person Marketing Department and then you know I was at a job one day and decided to start side hustling. So I started out my first business as a side hustle and then while I was running that side. Hustle I got fired for sorry I got laid off. That's the momentum. Laid off from that job, and then at that point I said. You know what let me just let me just go for it. Just go for it and do whatever I need to do. 'cause I'm young I'm free and I can. I can do whatever I want. And while I was running that business I started running, and then I had started a side hustle with kinky curly Yacky, so it was like I had businesses running at the same time so it wasn't something that I set out to do, but with both businesses I set out to solve my problem. And at the time I didn't realize that that was the best way to start a business. But that's what it was I. set out to start to solve my own problem or to solve a pain point that I saw people were having so so that's how my entrepreneurial journey began. What was the first sight hustle? The first sight has a wedding decorator. So all I would do is go in and decorate people's wedding so instead of being on a an event planner doing you know doing all those little things I focused on one thing and what it was I decided so there's a whole story behind that so I'm one of four girls and I'm the second the number two. So my older one was getting there. My older sister was getting married and she hired a decorator who who sent you decorate the wedding for? Say a thousand dollars right, so she paid her deposit. Everything was good, but two weeks before the wedding she came back and said I need another thousand dollars, but didn't have a reason why. Right so I thought well. Of course, she couldn't have paid for A. She couldn't afford to pay her, so she ended up having to hire different decorator that decorated did a crack tastic job. And so I'm like. Why is it so difficult? Why can't decorators just say that they're going to do X. Y.? And this is what it costs and Bass what they do and keep it simple, so then I thought well. I'm just GONNA I was been into decor and HGTV when TLC used to beat more home decor than reality so I would So I started I decided I wanted to be a wedding decorator I. wanted to create weddings that were simple, but fabulous so I would ask. My bride's like okay, so do you remember the last wedding that you went to? And they would say yes, will do you remember the centerpieces or the decor? Remember. It was pretty I'm like that's what we're going to do. So instead of spending mortgage down payments on decor. Why not create something that is memorable, but affordable and people just remember it was pretty, and that's it so that's what I set out to do. And it was a it was a great success, and this was a business that I started with no prior knowledge like I just figured it out as I was going along. And so I can tell that you're a branding lover at heart because you're like, forget pretty. I want memorable and I think this is going to be a thread that we we've through all of your stories, but before we get to connecting those thoughts. I went to hear more about kinky curly Yucky, so what was? What was the problem that that was solving? And how did well I I'm the worse doing I always do this. I always asked two questions in a row. So question one is more about kinky curly yacky. What problem did that solve? And then I'm really curious to hear a little bit more about how I do think that whenever we have side hustles and day jobs and we're trying on a bunch of different things they all start to. Tie together in some ways like we're always learning lessons from one thing to the next. I'm also really curious to hear. What lessons did you learn from wedding decorating that you're able to take to kinky curly yacky. That's a great question. Okay, so the first question was How can you KEROUAC even started? About problem so the problem was I as I was a wedding decker, and so I'm I. I actually live in Toronto, so it's one of the most Toronto Canada, and it's one of the most diverse cities in the world so I was doing everyone's wedding from you know the Muslims to South Asian to Indian to everyone, everyone's wedding so This is going to be a bit explain if anyone really wants to know the real detailed answer. I could always do that at a later point, but. For Black Women. We have to present. We have to show up in the world in a certain way, which is quote unquote presentable so most a Lotta Times wearing our hair, as it is naturally with kinky curly with kinky hair It's not professional. Why don't go professional? So I wanted something that looks like my hair. But would protect my hair because our hair is not suited to this north. American environment, it's it there's not moisture. It dries out really quickly but anyways I wanted something that looked like my hair and know what asked me where I bought it because I didn't want that whole. Nikki manashe thirty two inches of blonde wig down to my I wanted something that looked presentable. So I searched and searched and searched for something that looks like my hair, and then when I found it I weren't to a meet up. To just like a general networking event, and another black woman came to me and said WHO's your hairdresser? And what is your regimen for keeping your hair like that? And I said girl. This is a wave. And she was like I would buy. And this was in this was in two thousand eleven, so I thought well if she would buy it. And I bought it. There's gotta be at least a dozen. Other women would buy it to now. When I was looking to solve my problem, I saw I saw the gap in the market I. Thought There are no companies just selling kinky hair, but I was already running the successful decor business. I was buying my coach bags. I was going on vacation. I was happy with that, and then I decided then I thought well. You know you know. Weddings have a down sees. It feels like you know what I can't like. Itching the back of my brain, so then I said to myself you know what in the down season of of of Vivian the core I'm going to launch his company and I literally made up the name while I was in the shower like I was like Yankee curly. Jackie, O okay and I bought a domain name, and I launched it in December two thousand twelve, and it immediately took off. Okay so I actually do want to hear the details about the actual hair. You don't mind no worries because okay, so I remember talking to emily in the early days of ALMANAC supply company, which is her business and she was trying to find very specific candle containers to pour her candles into, and we talked about some deep googling like how you just have to search like. Get real good at searching. So how did you well? I guess two questions? Are It was a we've, but it looks natural so I think this goes back to that almost that brandon conversation of like it doesn't have to look quote Unquote Professional. Let's make it memorable like let's just make it bigger. Bigger let's make it more of a statement. which I think is so cool so I guess I have two questions here one. How did you find the natural hair? If there is a gap in the market? How did he find a? We've that had the natural texture and then in that might be getting too much of your secret sauce like you might not have to answer that one, but like how do you? How do you find the materials and then guess my next question is? How did you start to then scale and expound upon that not having any experience in that industry so how? Sold! The key was that I was trying to solve my own problem so What I was doing is I. Would I was doing that deep googling I was in facebook groups I was on hair care black hair care forums. Just you know just. Talking with other people and people of course at that time, a lot of people were sharing okay well. I bought this here I. Bought that there, and so that I would of course make note that, because again at the time I was not looking to start another business I was just looking to solve my own problems, so I wrote. You know I would contact every. Every single factor, every single manufacturer, every single website that said they would do kinky hair, and the once I found the one I was like. Wow, this, actually a pretty decent I would ask them to tweak it a little bit. Just a suit, my needs and they did it and I was like okay and I thought well after the girl confirmed my idea. I decided okay well. Let me see the state. Factory can still do it and I would order the same product under different names and asking to do different things to it, and they would do. So I thought okay. Okay. I'm onto something here. And so that's how that's how I was able to. I guess perfect the product because again. I I like to get high on my own supply, so that's the beauty of the businesses that I M my customer. I know what I'm looking for I know what problems I'm looking to solve I. Know What my pain points would be. And what other black women's pain points would be, and the only person who's able to address that is me. So of course I use that to my advantage You know to tell my brand's story but at the time again I listen, I'm an immigrant. I'm a college dropout and now a single mother. So I had no clue. About all these storytelling and branding mark I had no clue I just thought it was just doing what kind what came naturally to me. So so how I scaled that business well, I think one of the mistakes that a lot of people are making in starting businesses that they don't have an audience for the product that they have and so then what I had done again I inadvertently created an audience by by being on those facebook facebook. Forums a facebook groups that had black hair care forums because I was shining. Just being Vivian online people remembered me. So bad, and the funny thing was what I, when I when the business launched, no one knew it was me I didn't. I wasn't. My face wasn't the base of the brand it was just like here's some products. You guys will love Ed Oh. My Gosh and people bought it, but what happened was. I was facebook group and someone I didn't do. The WHO is on the back end of my website do that. Who has privacy on the back end of my product? Someone in one of the facebook groups created a fake place book profile and posted all my information in those facebook groups. Saying this is the person who owns that brand. So what she meant. To to like to help me to make me fail actually was what turned my like. What is what actually skyrocketed my business? Because once people found out that I was the person behind that brand, they were like well. Shoot I'm going to almost support her because she's this. She's that I remember she's Great. She's awesome, and that's what took off so I realized then that. My brand, my person like why. Is What is going to help me succeed in business. Amen I. Resonate so much with what you're saying and. I have branding agency as well and really focus on personal branding and I i. feel like one a lot of people always tell you you need to identify your customer and what they need, but I always think it really does start with you if you can start with what you need you like, you can trust that. We're not all that different and that if you can just get specific about yourself, you're going to be getting specific about your dream customer. Customer so we are so aligned there and then the fact that I mean it was an unfortunate, and you know really inappropriate way to learn the power of personal branding, but you did learn the power of personal branding, so that is incredibly exciting and I. WE'RE GONNA dig into more about like how you leverage that and who you are, and what you do, and how you bring it into your business and draw boundaries and all of the things but. We do have an attendee question that I. Want to slide in here if we may. I'm in this question is from. Death and I think especially for creatives. Who is you know most of our crowd here then we add like to hear your. Hear your thoughts on this, so here's your question. so Vivienne said she had the hair problem herself and chose to solve it, but what kept her on that path instead of ending up as an all purpose, beauty, Guru or similar. To be honest. Hair is not my jam. So really what I? How I think of it is just the ends to a means way or means to an end it's the means to an end, so my real goal is to give black women confidence to show up as they are in the world. So hair just so happens to be the the means to that end. So how I just stick to hair you know I'm pretty. I'm pretty good at focusing on the one thing like it's what I've learned is You know niche of and that's my I will preach about I say niche, but its niche. You know it's either. We can use them interchangeably potato potato. Okay, so with me I. Find that if You speak to a very specific group of people, and you sell them a very specific product. They will be your most loyal fans. They are cheaper to market to they. Are you know more about them? Especially when you already are them so for me that makes it very easy to stick to that one thing because I know that very well and I can speak to it now. Let's just by started venturing into. Say. Make up girl I'll even know how to put on eye shadow right so it wouldn't. It wouldn't. I wouldn't have authentic voice I can't lend that often into city to that product, but what I do know is hair. I'm not a hairdresser. I'm not a hair stylist. Because I had a passion for solving my own problem so that I could show up as quote. Unquote professional in the world. I can solve the I know what looks professional for me. You know I learned you don't like it. That's your problem. Not Mine Right, so we as a black women. What started in two thousand? I want to say. In Two thousand eleven two thousand twelve. Is that Youtube? We started all jumping on youtube and teaching each other how to care for our hair. We stopped putting before. We're used to put chemicals in our hair in order to straighten it to look to fit that European standard of beauty. But then we were like you know what I'm tired of that crap. We're tired of that. We don't want that if that's not Howard. The hair grows out of our heads. You're either going to accept this as we are or not right so so the goal of. Of making black women confident in how they show up in the world is really what keeps me focused on here. There's other people and I and I realized. I'm really good at that, so if I just if you just focus on the one thing that one goal your why. Then you're. You'RE NOT GONNA get distracted by all the Shiny Mirror. The the shiny objects that are floating around, because yeah I could make some easy money doing makeup, but I'm not passionate about that I. don't that doesn't that's not my jam? I love the what you did was instead of doing. The sheds are what people may have expected you to stuck with thing I think oftentimes people in this crowd see either see someone who have sort of diverged from that path, or so. They're thinking okay I. Should I should diversify as well or they sort of get these little inklings of like going to different. Different things I love that what you've done is just focused. You focused on doing the one being amazingly well exactly, and that's and that's the one, if I had to give one piece of advice to anyone is do that one thing and do it really well before you move onto anything else because you know doing that. One thing really really really really really really. Really really really advising that really do that. One thing really well. Guess what you can do anything you can apply that same, so that's what I learned in billions, the core I learned that if I kept it simple and I just focused on providing my brides with this one product and do it really well, it would speak for itself, so I took that same. Simple yet fabulous and I applied it to. Kinky Curly Aki. So people like what can I all? I'm explained the Kinky curly Yacky. What is that, so? It's Kinky kinky hair, and it's curly for curly hair, and then there's Yacky. So? Yuck, so yacky actually is short for Yak, or against the long overreact so back in the day when they wanted to mimic black women's hair straightened. They use hair from Jack the animal. So the industry just put an eye on the end and call the Yacky, so you would know what Jackie was. If you were a black woman, so any block won't be like. Oh! You got that Yacky in and so it's a sort of tongue in cheek, so you would have to be part of that target demographic in order to understand the name of the the name of the brand clear I love that. You're very specific about your dream. Customer to effect. Because I was her I get hot on my own supply. So at some point, did you end up closing the decorating business I did? I closed it I. Shut it down back in two thousand fifteen, and the only reason why I did is because I got practice. More. Yeah so I launched kinky curly. Aki in the summer of two thousand twelve by July of two thousand, thirteen. I was in the business was doing really well at that point? It was I was just doing just under four hundred thousand dollars in sales. and I found out in July I was pregnant. Anti ago. And so you know with my? With wedding core I had brides booked a year out. Right so so I was still doing those weddings, still going to the still going to meetings breastfeeding doing weddings that type of thing. And then I started I wasn't really paying attention to what can carry Aki was doing I didn't know all these numbers until later on because I was doing it just because I just loved it and I was learning about H. Tim Allen Marketing in Seo and I just I just threw myself into it, but wasn't paying attention to the numbers. I just knew it was doing well. But then when I found out, I was pregnant. I was like okay. Okay, the being you got to the chill, you gotta chill. You can't be can't be doing everything and then in two thousand, fourteen march, two, thousand, fourteen I, gave birth to my son and he's been wonderful ever since he's six now. and then I saw what can curly accu was doing I thought. Ma'am really half assing it. What happens if I put my full ass into this? And once I did again. It took off, so so yeah, okay so. I I know that whenever entrepreneurs are listening to this or site hustlers listening to this. They're like wait a second. She accidentally created a half a million dollar business and wasn't even paying attention. So how does that happen? Did was that like word of mouth or referral? Launches You have specific marketing plans. What did that look like for? You had none of that I had was what people knew me from in the facebook groups, and and because I was also also go. Gee of the niche, their niche of just selling kinky hair did not exist before I. Start before I created my company. So because I saw a gap in the market I'm A. I pioneered that so any other company that you now see selling kinky hair is because of me. And so then because I was first to market with that bat just. Exploded because that's women were looking for. I was solving their problem and on top of that I looked like them. Right so it's like they were like girl. You know, 'cause. One of the things would be like girl I was tired of the whole African in the front, an Indian in the back. If you're a black woman, you know what that means, so what that means is we're all from. Black women are from the African for so we had these tight kinky air, and then we are putting on these silk weaves. I didn't blend with our hair. So I was tired of the whole African in the front and Indian in the back, and that resonated with people, so it just and I didn't do I didn't i. Here's another thing I just literally launched with one product. I locked to one product and I only had three lancs. I only had three lengths. I remember at the time, and someone would buy one I would take that money in going by two. And that's how I built. My business I didn't I. Bootstrap I started from zero. I took no outside capital I didn't have any debt I literally started from the bottom. And was it easy. No, no, it wasn't. Is that possible ABSA freaking move? All right well, we're going to take a little break here because we've got to tell you about working smarter and not harder and. 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Why do you think that autheniticity and being true to yourself and using your own personality is important for anyone who is building a business or a brand? Because people don't necessarily. I think one of the biggest things people need to keep in mind as people aren't necessarily buying the product. As you can see, it's not like I'm the first person to ever sell Kinky, textured hair extensions and back. There were tons of companies that had it, but what they did. is they buried it underneath the silkier texture, so not the first. To Sell Kinky textured hair extensions. But what people don't realize that people aren't necessarily buying the product. They're buying the person or they're buying the emotions. They're buying lifestyles behind the product. So brand is where you can tell that story so branding will help you. To, help you, stand out in the crowd. It will help people remember and especially when you have a story that resonates with someone one. That's what they're buying into. They could care I. Mean Yeah, you could, you could be selling something. That's more expensive and more has a tools unless this unless that, but what they're buying is the person or the idea or the emotions behind. It so I that's what I realized very quickly is especially in the wedding decor. Businesspeople clouds giving. You made me you made it. It feel so simple. You made me feel so comfortable, and you made this process so easy for me and I realized. It doesn't go learn how to do all the fancy. You know all the fancy. Do Decor all I want but that's not what they care about. They care that I made them feel good about the money that they were spending made their wedding. Feel pretty like I made them feel that way. So that's that's really what you should focus on. I love that you said that you're not the first person to sell kinky natural hair extensions, but that it's been buried, and so you took a product unique in on it, and then you highlighted it, and it's beautiful, and you're owning it and you're helping. Other women own it I'm curious, little bit with some of the activism around. Natural Hair California has banned hair discrimination. It's something that I was so excited to see and when it continue to see, are there any levels of like activism or do you think even products like yours have helped? Create that kind of. Activism you know? Do you think that it's like no? This is who we are and this is just as professional as any other hair well I. Think the problem was that we were letting you know black women in general were we were leading the world? Tell us what was beautiful. And you know Youtube and you know the the beauty of the Internet was us being able to see each other people outside of our own communities, and how they look. How many rock their hair and all that jazz so I think really it. It just helped people just be who they wanted just to be who they are like just to be their authentic selves and truth be told, and it does just women in general, because even society tells us. Women were supposed to look like like I'm pretty sure after this quarantine thing has done. There's going to be a lot of people who were blonde. That aren't blonde anymore, right? But you know with black women where we're especially, you know we. Don't want to say Alison to say hated on because of how we look, and so then this i. feel just the way to just listen world we have to teach. We have to teach the world. This is how we are. If they don't like it. That is their problem. Because this is how my hey, this is how the hair grows out of my head naturally. It's curly it goes. It goes to the heavens because that makes me closer to God in the Sun. Right, as so if that's not something you think is professional, I think you really need to reexamine what your idea professional is. Karen sorry. Goes show that Chad. Presentation matters absent. That is what the Internet gave us. It gave us access to each other and to To all kinds of beauty and bodies and ways of being right, and it allowed us to see ourselves and others, and we can't help it, but need permission you know, and that permission sometimes simply in representation I have so many role models where I'm like. Oh, I didn't know I could do that until I saw them do it. And you're providing tools for that awareness as well which I think is like that's an important part of this, too. It's not only having access to the vision of its having access to the tools to, and that's even what you've done. Okay Vivian, you're you just radiate confidence? We all see. We all feel it over these past couple of days, do you? Some of our listeners are indeed here today WanNa know. Do you ever doubt yourself like? Do you ever have what we call being bossed? Friday? Feelings I mean especially going into industries that you didn't have experienced in. Full frequently. Battle with imposture syndrome Prodi feelings all the time. But then. I. Think to myself you know what. If. I don't do what I'm. Put on this earth to do then nobody will. Nobody will be able to do it either, because people who who look like me or even in the same situation as me so I. Guess I'm a single mom. I've been through depression. I've been I've been through all the things that tried me and I came out gold. So if I don't tell that story, I don't tell people how it's done. Then everyone's just this is GonNa be one hell of a boring world so if I. Let that Imposter Syndrome. Eat Me! Eat Away at me. Then that's not that's not fair. It's not fair to anyone. Right, so I shine so that everyone else can shine to. Raise that's like. Your purpose higher than your emotions absolutely. Thinks the. Catholics. Say she's like yes. I, know what with his quarantine? My bow talks has worn off so you can see my reaction. That's right. My eyebrows moving now. I love it. Up Cackling. Right I'd like to bring this to. The branding things, which you've talked a little bit about and the conference, but not everyone has been a part of the conference like listening to this we have. So many more people who have been who have been here with for the past couple of days, so I wanna to talk about this personal branding piece. And if you have any top tips for anyone who's looking to infuse more of their personality into their brand, how can just any old person in by any old person I mean? Everyone is a snowflake How can anyone shine in their business and use themselves as a tool for growth? Or what I want to remind people is you don't need to be me. So you, you know there's. If you think about people like if you think it will jams, right? There's different Jams Jentzsch. Ruby shied differently than a diamond emeralds than that, so you need to be exactly that so be yourself because the minute you start being someone who you're not. It's going to feel like work. It's going to feel You're going to hate it. People will see right through it. So you really don't have any choice, but to be yourself and so sometimes that means you being quirky, or it means you know. Maybe you do more blogging than you do video or whatever the case may be. You just need to show up as yourself. In whatever platform however way you want to do it and the people who it will resonate with. We'll find you. They will find you, so don't be. Please don't be anybody else you don't. That's not what you were. Put on this earth to be to be someone else I just doing yourself a huge disservice by not being yourself. How windy you feel the most yourself Vivian. Like sometimes it's hard to know like what what is me. What should I be sharing? Where do I draw these lines? You know what you know you know where the lines are to be drawn right? You know you know liking. We women. That's one thing I find with specially with women, and there's a lot of things on finding, but anyhow with women we need to trust. Our guts were always second guessing ourselves. We're always doing all these things, but you just need to trust yourself because you know what you know where that line is. You know what you should be sharing what you shouldn't be sharing. Someone there's comanding that unlike very existential questions, which is basically sums it up I'm like, but but even are we but a bundle of sell. What is time? What is personality? What is money. So sorry asked me asking the question again, so I can play it all night, so the question is windy. You feel most yourself like. How do you know what is authentically? You because I think all of us. WanNa show up as we are and who we are. But we can start to second. Guess Ourselves, so you were saying like we. As women need to listen to our guts like we know, it's in our guts. But how do you tune into that like I know like? Let's just say. I remember doing a couple of years ago, I did. I was I was asked to speak at a hair like a beauty hair brand thing and I didn't like it. 'cause hair was not my passionate kid. I could give to kicks about hair, but put me on. Put me in a forum or an opportunity like this. This is where I shine. So I know. You know you know like you know like you know. I'd so, that's the only. Way Can I can explain. We know you know you know. My in I think even what you're explaining is that you know by trying things, and then like listening to yourself right, so you did the hair thing or you went and spoke at the hair thing and you're like this feels gross like, but you wouldn't have known that if you hadn't tried it. I ache, factly eggs, and that's the key to life to. You gotta try. You gotTA. Try GotTA. Try GotTA. Try 'cause. That's the only way you're gonNA. Find out what you. You like and don't like you can apply that to life like you don't know you like Kale until you try it. You don't know you guys that do this until you try it. You have to go through and try a bunch of different things, and then and you know one of the things I started to realize because I'm I'm forty two, so at forty I was like you know what I'm done trying to live in this Fox like I'm done, it's over. I'm Vivian means lively one so Vivian you just need to go about living your best life because. You know all before I was forty at kept trying to be. Everyone kept trying to put me in this box. You know be a box. Go in the box. You know what I. I discovered that I was a parallelogram. Graham is is a sideways buckler rectangle that has. The Google it okay. I was a parallelogram and I was tired of being put into the box, and so once I turned forty. I just flip the bird to everything and said you know what again if you do not like it, I do not care. That is not my problem. You can go kick rocks with an open Tokyo.
Black Women and Hip Hop
"Hbo Max, documentary on the record betrays how sexual abuse against Black Women in hip hop has gone largely unchecked, the New York Times and said there were other women. That they will go on the record unless I go on the record, but I'm terrified of the backlash. Due to rampant misogyny, careers and dreams have been destroyed. That's the case according to drew. Dixon and Cherry share to women who say their bright futures and music were disrupted by the actions of record executive. Russell Simmons Dixon alleges that Simmons use the promise of tape to learn her into his apartment where he allegedly raped her. Cher Cher was a young aspiring artist and member of the first. All female rap group the Mercedes Ladies One day in nineteen, eighty three. She says Simmons invited her up to his office to talk business, but instead he proceeded to assault her. Both women eventually left the industry after these alleged incidents and remained silent for decades. Drew Sherri thank you so much for joining us today. Thanks for having US drew I'm going to start with you the early days of your career in hip hop. We're really impactful. You made one of my favorite songs of all time. You're all need with Mary J. What were your hopes when you entered the hip hop industry before I even got to New York I had a vision board conjuring in my mind I wanted my life to be like that I had a picture of Russell in the center of it all the idea of working for him, making records and influencing this art form was the dream I felt like it was the opportunity of a lifetime in. In the film you said that there were plenty occasions on which Russell was exhibiting behavior that would be called I think in any employee handbook sexual harassment, exposing himself to you propositioning you. How are you able to navigate your career? While also dealing with that type of behavior, I sort of felt like it's like there's another Russell. Simmons I can't duplicate level of an opportunity, so if I could just. Manage around his bad behavior long enough to make a hit record with my name on the back. I can get out of here with like my next golden ticket for the next job. I was twenty three and twenty four. And I now realize my compass was getting moves just a little bit every single time I understand that's how it worked. I didn't think anybody cared about sexual harassment. As far as black women were concerned, because nobody cared about Anita Hill, and that was like maybe two years earlier I didn't understand I was dealing with a Predator in my mind wasn't dangerous. He was just inappropriate. You stay because you hope that perhaps you can provide enough value to the company and move ahead. It's something that you have to go along with. Because the alternative is, you'll be unemployed. Something that I noticed drought. The film is like this desire to keep what you were dealing with to yourself so that. You could make it to the next stage especially as a woman. How did that? Affect like how much leeway powerful men in the industry had to behave in a way that was inappropriate and sometimes violent fees. Men understood that they were the gatekeepers. If Russell decided I was a problem. Then I wasn't just dead in the water at jam dead in the water in the whole black music game when I tell you I love hip hop, I love hip hop. It's like a death I? mean it was a kind of suicide leaving the industry? It was like A. It was kind of suicide.
Kelly Clarkson Files For Divorce From Brandon Blackstock
"We have to begin with Kelly Clarkson surprising news Kelly has filed for divorce from her husband Brandon. They're married for almost seven years and in court papers obtained by a news, she cites irreconcilable differences, a request for joint custody and no spousal support brandit. You guys. I was shocked when I heard this. What did you guys think Oh same yeah I think everybody was really shopped and I. Think even having those details of knowing that she's saying no spousal support for him in that leads me. Me To believe that things maybe aren't really that amicable right now. Sources are telling us that their friends are totally surprised to which kind of makes me believe. Maybe something happened suddenly during this quarantine I know that a lot of people are parting ways during this time, but every time we spoke to Kelly. It was clear that she loved being a wife. She loved being a mother and meant everything to her. Listen to this I heard you say in an interview that you don't really get caught up in the accolades. You just want to be a great wife and a great mom. Yes, those are really hard things to be or do you feel like being a mom is made you more confident. kind of been a confident person but I will say it does bring another level of like. I don't care about things that are important. This is pretty special. Can you believe this is happening right now? I literally had a conversation, my husband, the other day and we were like. Life because we both came from pretty humble beginnings and This wasn't even in the picture like the idea like the vision. Board like this was definitely something beyond I could have imagined gosh I mean hard of hearing that back. There were no signs of divorce bill when you listen to that. Yeah, I'm always curious. It's always so hard, because I feel like we see these couples, people hashtag relationship goals, and then you know a year later. They filed for divorce because I definitely. Kind of felt like Kelly Clarkson had the perfect life you know and and getting divorced doesn't mean that she does it. You know we I just goes to show that what we see on the outside is not always what's going on in the inside, and it does sound like though that it seems very mature. It doesn't seem like it's anything nasty. It doesn't mean that they won't have a great co-parenting relationship, right? Yeah I think that's just what it is. I mean divorce is always really heartbreaking, and you know what unfortunately sometimes people get to a place where they feel like there's just nothing else that they can do to continue to stay in a romantic relationship, and they realized that their relationship is better off as being friends, so it's obviously very painful, but hopefully both of them will be better off being apart. Yeah and. Kelly in her career and everything that she's doing right now. She seems so on top of the world like you said Nina but I I wonder if maybe she just got too busy or. You know. Some of the priorities changed in her life. You know we are humans and we're constantly evolving, so yeah I think you know we won't know until they're ready to speak on and what the reasons were. She's always been busy, but just because we're people who work in television, especially producing shows how ruling that can be and I sometimes feel like when you work these long. Your patients becomes a lot shorter for the the I don't know you. Are So has anything to do with it, but I will tell you as I think. Sometimes you do change as your success gets greater and you have. Less tolerance for certain things, so who knows what could have happened?
Dr. TJ Ahn: Why Diversification Is Key To Your Success
"So Nice Guy Community get this Dr. TJ on. He is a first generation. Korean immigrant who came to America along when he was only nineteen without any connections or the ability to speak English at all. Imagine some of the adversity that we've all had to overcome now. Imagine the adversity times. Twelve not being able to speak the AD. The English language determined to live the American dream doctor on spent the next thirty years honing his medical and business skills. Doctor is a pure bred entrepreneur. And we're going to get a little bit deeper dive into that. Today is involved. In other sectors including Real Estate Investing Business Coaching Private Practice Consulting and Marketing. All with one vision in mind to help physicians build profitable private practices without the hassle of insurance networks. Now listen if you're in our community and your private practice physician definitely listen very carefully to what TJ is GonNa Talk About Today. If you're not a private practice physician we're GonNa talk to you about the diversification aspect of actually building your business through all of these different modalities so TJ doctor on. Welcome to the Nice guys on business. Podcast thank your dog. Thank you so much for inviting me to this beautiful podcast. I'm I'm very happy to have you here. And what was great is we were connected through your publisher Bestseller Publishing and they send me gas. That oftentimes have a very specific market. But also have a way of being able to to Do what they do in a very diversified way. In your case I see while you are a private practice. Physician Yourself That is an area that you've learned to deal with coaching. You've done with a you know a real estate investing would can we start with just maybe just an overall You know what's your background? Why is it that you decided that it's not just the medical practice that's good but all of these other components of building your career? Yeah so you know as you introduce me. At the beginning. I came to United States with dream in mind right that typical people say American dream so You know from South Korea. Obviously I was nineteen and then I for some reason since I was fourteen. I I guess that people talk about the Vision Board I was. I felt like I always wanted to go out of out of comfort zone since I was a kid And you know nine hundred nine years old. I felt like I couldn't reach my dream and I don't know what kind of vigilant I had at the time but it felt like. I was confined so I came to United States and I love helping people right. I love helping friends. I love helping colleagues and then I was thinking basically well. I didn't tell you about this. My my mother side. They were basically medical professionals. They were doctors but they kind of force me to go into medical education right like typical parents right right but then made me kind of complete go opposite. I'm like I don't WanNa do what my parents tell me to do. You know So I went to a completely the other like different field computer science and business And I also chose State of Tennessee on purpose that I knew there was no Korean people. There you really wanted to immerse yourself in the American culture quickly. Yeah Yeah I kind of you know. At the beginning I regret in little be right. Southern accent a completely unfamiliar. I you know I didn't have a good English skill at that time. Any ways but now. I look back though small decision making a process that I did every little decision that I made that kind of made me who I am now so you know Not Anyway so I completed Converted my career again. I went to medical education. I became a podiatrist a foot doctor. And then So I did my education in Chicago. Everything basically was good just being a doctor helping patients That whole healthcare system was running. Okay when I got out of my medical school. Did my residency started two thousand three up about until like two thousand eight. That's when kind of the whole healthcare system. It's is not working as as it should be so. Yeah that's when I started thinking about okay. I cannot be successful. You know to my things that I love to do helping people enjoy my own life having family CETERA which conventional is healthcare system. So when is it that you decided that diversification was key? You know it looks like you you started with a with this medical degree in podiatrist and you were successful at that. But two thousand eight brought probably a lot of adversity into that environment You didn't have any formal training in any kind of business experience or other than growing your practice which is which is probably a huge business feet but at the same time Medical business doesn't necessarily relate completely to the private sector so Cher a little bit about how you had the ambition or the drive or the know how really to understand how to how to get out of what you are doing and maybe use it as just one part of your income but to start doing all of these other things as well. Well you know the friends right. The people you meet through. Your Life. I really believe that so critical because at the time you may not realize whom you're like talking to or making friends wait you know though that famous court you're the average of five people you hang out the most that really resonates with me that. I just met great people for some reason. I'm so lucky and fortunate that you know like I never confined myself in Tony. Medical Profession was. I am still always curious about other things. How how how things work and how business work how world moves around so I think I met great people along the way and then kind of being in that kind of environment you know hanging out with great people made me realize To have for me to have more open-minded okay. Ic- basically to run private practice just like running any business. It's it's entrepreneurship. There's a revenue and expense and obviously when revenue goes down and expense. Goes up than natural your cash flow in your prophet plummets. And that's what I was experiencing around the two thousand eight to two thousand twelve. Most private practice owners most doctors in general. They'll understand exactly what I'm talking about. You know healthcare insurance reimbursement cut. It's almost fifty percent to seventy percent on some procedure some medical procedures that we perform. So let's say just imagine easily number if I throw number Let's say Bunion procedure surgical on your surgical procedure. Performed used to be around two thousand dollars which is
Far-right motive suspected in Germany mass shooting
"Green in Germany last night there was a mass shooting in the town of her now eleven people are dead that includes the suspected shooter German media reports that an online video and a written confession links to the suspect indicated they may have had far right leanings Germany's prosecutor's office has reportedly taken charge of the investigation here and they're gonna hold a news conference later today police in Germany said they found the suspected shooter dead at his home address they also found a second person dead there and let's get the latest now from and your international course when rob Smith who is in Berlin had the rob good morning tickets through exactly what happened here if you can well what we know is that last night at around ten o'clock gunmen opened fire at a hookah bar and then add another hookah bar in the city of now side Frankfort he killed at least nine people and injured several others the clientele and both cars are usually Turkish and Kurdish Germans but we don't know the identity of the victims at after the shootings a suspect and returned to his apartment and that's where police found his body in the body of a seventy two year old mother police believe he is a forty three year old German citizen who is a resident of the city and forties in the German state of Hesse say they are investigating the crime is a probable right wing extremists terror attack the interior minister of the state has a voice held a short press conference this morning about the shooting and here's what he said Joyce however fly home under vision board non brought he's saying here that flakes throughout the country will fly at half mast today and that his deepest sympathies are with the families of the victims and he wishes the injured survivors quick and full recoveries okay so thirty think this may have been a right wing extremist attack German media reporting on this letter and video left behind by the says yeah what we know at this point about that authorities haven't confirm this yet but several German media outlets reported that police found a written confession at the suspect's home in which he wrote that certain races need to be eliminated they're also reporting that he left a video indicating he was a racist and had right wing extremist views doesn't this come at a time when when Germany's been confronting of a rise in in a far right movement yeah obviously germ is a country that has spent decades working to reconcile with its **** past but right wing extremism here in Germany has been on the rise since twenty fifteen when chance angle Americal made the difficult decision to allow hundreds of thousands of migrants from war torn countries of the Middle East and North Africa find refuge here after that there were a string of terrorist attacks by Islamic extremists followed by terror attacks by right wing extremists according to government data the number of right wing extremists in Germany has risen by a third last year alone German intelligence now suspects are more than thirty two thousand of them in half are considered potentially violent with a high affinity for fire arms of course this attack comes after another shooting in Berlin four days ago you're a Turkish comedy show that killed one person and it comes for months after right wing extremist shot and killed two while trying to attack a synagogue in the city of holon which Germany trying to do to to prevent attacks like this well have gun laws in Germany are really stringent and they've been tightened even further in recent years after other mass shootings Germany's government is planning an overhaul of its domestic intelligence and law enforcement agencies this year in an effort to crack down on right wing extremism in the Bundestag Germany's parliament has approved six hundred new jobs to help tackle this rising problem is rob Smith thanks rob
Manifesting with Confidence with Kim Khunaraksa #12daysofConfidence
"Welcome today to twelve twelve of confidence. You've got wild as twelve speakers swab opportunities to create more confidence so that you can start twenty twenty off with the Boulder Braver version of yourself herself in today's special guests him Kunarac logo to the twelve days. He thinks you're having me. This is such a cool idea. And I'm and so on it to be here and I'm super honored that year joining us because Kim's Bali right now right yes and she just told me it's like two. Am there air. When she had told me that it was gonna be a lonely like okay? Maybe like ten or eleven. I have no idea the time difference and so on. I just asked her I. I was like oh I committed. I wanted to be here for this. I was so excited. I love that island that so much. We're just GONNA rock and roll and we're gonNA chat all things manifestation. Which is your specialty zone of genius? A Hor- we dive into that. Will you just tell everybody a little bit like who you are what you do here. Yeah sure so as you said I'm Kim Kim Roxetta and I'm a manifestation coach and also the founder of mind your vibe. That's my business brand. I'm also the host of the minor via podcast. which Jordan was a guest on episode two and Jordan have to tell you still to this day probably once a week? I have one message me and tell me something that they loved about your it was episode. Two Guys WanNa go and listen to it. But you know Jordan droughts all the good to have some out. How many more confident So anyway so what I do is manifestation coach is. I help people to easily manifest a life that they love so. I'm sure we'll get more into today about about how to be a more constant manifester. Yeah Yeah On so excited because I think it's I don't WanNa see a common knowledge but it's definitely definitely more common. I think nowadays people to talk about manifesting kind of know what it is but I still think. There's so many levels of resistance. Since when it comes to manifesting I mean I still struggle with it and so I want. I just want to dive into that. Maybe simplify the process for everybody. So that it doesn't seem like it's I don't know this like big half little thing and and I really would love for you to actually share some of the things that you manifested. Because I don't know from my perspective you're kind of living the dream life to nearing late. Her and her husband are living in Bali. Ali and I mean guy. Look at the stuff on your instagram on like battle of midway they. It's just that you you know. You've got this manifestations down so what are the big things or at least the things this year that you feel like even intentionally manifested definitely. I think we talked about some of these. Um and when I was on your podcast during but some of the big ones that stick out from this year our first one was flying business class for the first time didn't pay for it. That was a big wine. Fine and that kind of happened just sort of randomly when we actually realized We had the inspired idea to actually check our our credit card points and check our airline points and we realized that we actually had enough so it was like a really good example of how that abundance already existed but we just had to to be aware of it in order to line up with it right And then obviously are kind of big transition to become location dependent. That was something that I had desired. And there's also some like really freaky details of to that. I don't think I've told you Jordan. Where one day? I was in booed which is an hour from where I stay here in Bali and I took a picture of myself like working near pool right and someone isn't who follows me on. Instagram pointed out to me. That the photo that I took looked exactly like one of the photos. I was on my vision board because there was like how to explain the Fountain of the pool was like like an animal. That was like was like the from his mouth or was out of his mouth. Yeah but it was like exactly like that same detail as the photo on my misery. The yeah or even another thing was the I- i- manifested going now. Yogurt retreat here in Bali which was also in my vision board and then the photo that I had it was like these women that were posing in front of like mosques wall like this Green Wall and the and then when I showed up for the Yogurt I agree tree. The Wall outside of our villa was just like that Green Moss guy so crazy. Oh Oh yeah so some. Those are some of the big ones from this year. But I mean I think something else I want people to realize is. It's not just the big things but it's the small things to something. I definitely want to talk more about but I mean I- Manfred things every day but it's it's that I'm recognizing them and appreciating them for what they are so for example today we went out for dinner and we got ten percent offer meal and to meet ten percent saving money. That's like manifesting manifesto money. That's Nice I celebrate that just as much as some of the bigger things are even kind of like a weird random. One recently is in Bali. They burn these incense sticks. It's kind of part of the religion here and there's a particular set of wind they really like and I always wondered like I wonder how it can find out what that sent is called so I can buy it or remember that for the feature and then one day I went to a restaurant and they were burning that sent. I recognized it and I asked one of the waiters. They're like Oh you know what that sense called. And they're like oh it has no name like we just fight from suppliers has no name. I'm like Oh shoot like how am I ever going to know what this is. And then she it goes into the back and then she comes out with gigantic incense stick and she's like here. You can have it for free. It's like yes you know so. It's just like something so small like that but like I see that as a manifestation and I appreciate that just as much as anything else absolutely. Yeah and I think we should dive into the the big in the small and talking about the small while we'll dive into it because I feel like I'm allowed to say about that as well but you can. We go ultra simple. And what what is your definition of manifesting. What is it because I do think that is also not super cleared everybody? Yeah so my definition of manifesting is when something that was once part of your imagination or we could say non-physical comes into your reality or your life or a physical so anything anything that you once desired in your head. That would be nice to have that in then it shows up that's a manifestation so if you desire abundance a gift card comes into your life that's that's manifestation if you desire more time and then your work meeting gets canceled. Basil manifestations anything that you imagined or thought about and and then it happens in your life and your reality Memphis station. Gotcha that used to happen for me all the time when I would be like so burnt out at the end of the day and then like I don't know a podcast interview Lead I'd be like Oh thank God you know that would happen. Burr me constantly. Okay I love that is basically. Your thoughts eventually becomes a reality so manifesting half is happening at all times. Whether we're intentional about it or not. Yes yes exactly. And that's another huge thing to know and understand. Is that twenty four seven everyday through sixty five days a year is always happening whether we realize it or not. There's no like on off switch or sometimes people say to me like I wanNA start manifesting but that's not really accurate because you've been manifesting literally early. Since the day you were born it would be more accurate to say. I want to start intentionally manifesting what I want which is choosing the things that you want to attract act in come into fruition as opposed to it just all of a sudden happening for you because everyone's the manifest or like you said we're all doing it all day long. We don't necessarily necessarily know that we're doing it. And we can kind of like funnel that intention into creating things that we want bass the fun part. That's the exciting part. And that's so we WANNA chat with you guys about today because when you can choose to create something in your life and then you start to see that show like like that is such a big confidence boost right. Yes I I. We all of this stuff into my coaching coaching. Because there's nothing makes you feel more empowered than going from like I thought of that and I intentionally attracted that and now experiencing that like. I'm unstoppable and that feels so empowering in the more that you do it the more you see that like proof of happing for you. You can't not feel confident.
"vision board" Discussed on Get Real -w- Caroline Hobby
"Life. You'll get more opportunities for more of that joy so if you're feeling lost right now that's what I encourage you to do right down where you feel joy and then do that. Make time for it prioritize it even if you feel like you have no extra time because you have a life that is like busy and tough and you're I'm trying to make ends meet make it a priority to put that joy in your life because you have to have joy in your life that is to me. That is one of the key things in this life. We have to figure out a way to have Choi. So that's my Encouragement if you're flying lost right now and if you feel unworthy or if you feel oh like nothing's ever GonNa work out for you know that we've all felt that way. Every single one of us has felt unworthy. My biggest struggle in life is that I haven't felt worthy and so many people think that's shocking. Because really what you seem like. You're so have it together and you're so happy and in your life is so great. I struggled with unworthiness my whole life and so if you I feel that way do not feel alone because we all feel that way and that's just part of the human experience so don't feel weird or batter like ashamed of that because every racing one of us struggles with something on that kind of level and it's just a part of the human experience and I'm telling you just keep going for joy and keep choosing to SOC- the bright side I just interviewed my friend Miley Masan and she is an amazing person. Checkout her interview my podcast. If you haven't she's by nine lives from being a Popstar to going Italy following following love that ending and having babies in like reinventing herself for the career getting another deal at the same time. She's pregnant having to walk over the record deal she was like started off as Johnny Depp's waitress in La. She's had a crazy life but she said what does she say she said. Look look for the positive in the world I think is what she said. Choose to see the positive and choose the love every day and it just will change your life and we can change the world. I'm not quoting her correctly but it was something like that will lead with. Love is what she said. Lead with. Love lead with positivity that is profound bound lead with love lead pro positively. I catch myself all the time wanting to Kinda complain or like if something gets stressful wanting to kind of talk about the hard stuff of it and my last mom chat that I just put up was on gratitude and reframing the way I think because like sometimes on my gosh all I do is like. I'm busy busy busy all day. Like I'm Waking Sunny. Feeding sunny cleaning bottles pumping the Duma podcast inbetween stuff than have different deals deals that I deal with brands like doing different brands like inbetween her other naps. And then showing up for Michael being a good wife for him trying to show for my friends and they have stuff going on traveling home to see my family only like. It's all stuff that I want to do so might as semi saying Oh my gosh. I'm so tired and I'm so as a so hard and this is tedious and I'm not getting any sleep and I never get a break. Thank Goodness Gracious. I am blessed. I'm getting to do these things that bring me life that bring me joy I get to serve the people that I love and I also getting to fulfil my own heart's desires like yes. I'm busy but praise God like I am busy like I'm getting to do things I love. So thank you Jesus and that is how I am trying to you reframe when I feel overwhelmed is just be grateful for all the blessings I get to do. Even if it stuff that's tedious. It's like what is my goal. Why am I doing doing tedious things? What is the ultimate goal? That I'm doing this work for okay. Even if you're doing your job that you don't love like you're doing the job to get a paycheck to provide arrive alive for yourself so you can have house so you can take care of your children. That's a blessing. It's a blessing and you can always keep working towards like being more or filled with your days more fulfilled with what you're doing but for the moment if you're doing something and it is bringing you a mean sin end that provides for your life than that is something to be grateful for and it's just taking the time to reframe our thoughts and of course we're not going to do it all the time because we're humans but it's a goal all and it's a goal that I'm working on is to reframe to live and gratitude so further new year. I encourage all you guys to lead with. Love find something to be grateful for. Start a vision board. It doesn't have to be huge to dig in your heart and figure out what it is. That really is calling calling you. What is calling you to do to be to simplify? Maybe you're being called not to adding to your vision board board but take way. Maybe it's like you know what I'm not going to be. Yes person this year. I'm not going to go and do all these things. I'M NOT GONNA over exert myself off in areas that I don't need to. I'm going to say no to everything I until it's a hell. Yes maybe that's what it is a year of simplifying. Maybe you're really not loving in your career and you're like Gosh. I want a new career but I know where to start. Start by writing down. What brings you joy? I'm telling you I think you could always find a job Bob. A job can show up. That brings you joy if you keep looking for but you have to identify what it is identified jobs. That would be your dream job. Identify someone on who you know. Who's doing something that you love and go talk to them? Ask them how they do. It asks for advice. Just just start getting proactive active. On what brings you joy and I'm telling you the more focus on what brings you joy. The more joy comes in your life and help somebody share your heart. was someone one. Don't try to be perfect when someone crosses your path and you feel called to tell them nice word do something nice for them. You see someone someone who has four kids and they're single mom and they need a hand and you feel inclined to drop them off dinner do it. Mother Teresa's said never suppressive generous thought and if you feel inclined inclined to do something generous and kind for someone just do it and let's have twenty twenty the best year our lives. Let's trust that. Were moving in the right direction. Let's trust our instincts which trust.
"vision board" Discussed on Get Real -w- Caroline Hobby
"With my podcast I have had so much fulfillment doing this podcast and I am so incredibly grateful for all of you. Who have tuned in joined in become a part of this community with me because something happened last year when I really started focusing on just having honest conversations with honest women and sometimes I'll throw some guys in here that that are a part of the same kind of conversation that we're having like real heartfelt soulful let's get to the nuts and both of life and if it makes sense for a guy to come on? I'm I'm definitely not going to exclude men but I have just loved getting to be with women and have these intimate deep conversations about their life now especially after being a mom like I wanNA know how people navigate. I WANNA know how you've navigated all the anxiety of being a mother. How Hi you've navigated having your career and being a mother how you've chosen to give up your career? How you navigate marriage how you navigate family life how you navigate insecurities overcoming them? Because now I'm thirty six years old. I'm like Dang it we all are grappling with some major insecurities and so forth issues. And let's not try to hide this. Let's talk about him because every single one of us as a woman is going through stuff and there's nothing to be ashamed about because all all of us are are dealing with something and let's just talk about it and be community and support each other trying to hide behind perfection. Image that let we thought we had to but now I feel like the village is being lifted into me that as I am so grateful for social media and outlets like my podcast in outlets where we can sit down and have real conversations because so many of us are using social media and joining in social media communities to be real and that is what I have found with. All of you is ever since I've started having these real honest conversations with women you guys is have started participating and I get so many messages in so many comments from y'all saying like oh my gosh I relate to this. Thank you for talking about this. This is what I'm going through you and that is my goal. I want us to not feel alone. I want every single one of us who are out there doing the best we can. Whether we're married not married looking for love can't can't find it feel unworthy raising children with a partner raising children on our own trying to figure out our career just struggling with all these big huge life questions feeling overcoming incidents that happened to us it makes us feel insecure or unlovable. Like all this stuff. We do not have to feel alone because when you listen to the stories of these women that I am talking with. They are sharing that. They have gone through this. They have been and through really hard times and it is not what defines us. Yes it is it it does define us. It took it. It is a these are huge moments in our lives that are defining thing but it doesn't have to be who we are. We can use them as lessons. We can use them as stepping stones. We can use them as our message to the world so many times times more often than not the pain that we have to go through is actually our message to the world if we can get on the other side of it but is up to us to take hold of that pain pain to take hold of that fear of exposing ourselves thinking that we won't be loved to realize that once you can talk about something once you can get on the other side of it and share your story the impact. You can have the amount of people that you can reach the healing that can be done is just exponential and so that is why I have loved dubbed having these honest conversations because the healing that is happening it heals me every time I have a conversation with one of these women and I know it it it oftentimes heels. I guess getting to just talk about stories. I've had so many times where I'm interviewing an amazing woman and they're like oh my gosh. I didn't even realize this was happening in my life. or Oh my gosh. I didn't even put that together. This is so healing and then I hear from you is like wow. That was such a healing story. That person really inspired me in. It is everything to me. It makes see feel like this is worth it like. This is like the work in life that I want to do because I love having conversations and I love having real intimate conversations and I'm I'm just so grateful that I have the access choctaw. These amazing women who are willing to share and then I have the access to you guys who are joining in and being a part part of this and it is just so overwhelming it feels I feel so much love and I hope that you guys feel the that love because that is the point of all this just to. I know that we are in this thing together. Let's stick together. Let's support each other. Let's not try to be perfect and let's not. Let's let's not be ashamed of we are. We can and just be proud of who we are. Let's see our stories. That is my goal so I appreciate you guys for that so I just want my podcast to keep impacting to keep growing to keep having amazing using guests on and I eventually want a goal for me myself at the end of this year. Is I want to take my podcast on a little podcast store. I don't know exactly where it doesn't. I don't want to start off huge but I would like to make it a show where I go to cities in have these conversations live live and actually I would love to hear your feedback. If you think that something that you'd be interested in doing because and have guests come with me and just have like awesome intimate conversations and inhabit like in a show type form. So that's the goal is to take my podcasts on the road this just a little bit at the end of this year. So let me know if if if that's something that you think that would be cool because I feel inclined to do that. I feel like that's my next step with this in growing it and then eventually I would love to who somehow turn get real into a book like have some sort of book that goes along with it whether I'm just focusing on stories of conversations. I've I've had weather I don't know maybe it's like I assess lessons. I've learned from doing these interviews and tournament chapters and use examples. I don't know exactly how the book would unfold. But that's a goal is to have a book that kind of just goes along with all these messages that keep coming out of this podcast So also any tips or ideas that you guys have on that share with me because I love you. All's input but that's a goal so taking my podcast on the road during a tour having a book And then I don't know what this will look like but I see everything is stemming from this podcast this podcast is that is the nuts and bolts of who I am and it's the messages that I want to get across. I just want it to have the as is big wife as it can get so one day I would love to see get real turned into some sort of like digital TV show or TV show or radio show or something. I don't know maybe it just stays the podcast. I'm not sure but I just see it growing in the reach like maybe we add a visual element to it somehow. So maybe that just means I make it like a talk show for a youtube channel. I don't know exactly what I see like a visual element joining get real and making it more interactive in that way where you can actually like participate with me and my guests visually and see us on my screen. So I mean I would love it to be some sort of TV thing. But I don't know I don't know how that is or even radio. I'm not sure or maybe we just keep it the podcast. I'm not sure but those are my goals for the podcast is just keep growing growing it. gone a little podcast tour and start preparing for a book to be in association with this podcast And then for my family. I just want to simplify I. I want to be present. I want to be completely Engaged in Sonny's life and Michael's life I I. I want to be able to participate with Michael on he. He's obviously you've been following me on. Oh He's a musician he travels and he has and exciting year with a new record and a new single and new music and new opportunities. And he's GonNa be chasing those which is so exciting and I love to be able to join him on that so not all the time. Because I don't WanNa leave sunny and we can't take her everywhere but I want to be able to go with him to certain events and be a part of that so so but I also just want to be present with my family and so that's another big goal I've chased and chase and chase for so long and I've gotten so involved with the community and I'll I was a person who was always going to everything all the time and now this is crazy. 'cause I've always been a yes person that this year twenty twenty is my year of. No I'm going to be no person this year which is crazy to thank. Because everyone's like say yesterday say yes it is and I've always been that person that says yes. Yes yes but now. I'm no no no because what I have. The joy that I have in my life is right in front of me right now. I have so great right for all those years where I've got to hustle and literally like do everything and have the freedom to do that but now at Sonny's here after my time Heim is so valuable to me there. I have so little free time because I'm I have the gift to be a hand mom because with my podcast I can make my own schedule will and work from home and I'm so thankful for that. I know a lot of people. Don't have that option and we all have to do it. We have to do But I think all of us have to figure figure out how to use the time that we do have wisely and for me. I don't want I want to be home with my family as much as possible and so I I'm saying no unless something is a hell. Yes my sister told me this she got it from someone. I don't I forgot who but I love this unless it is a hell. Yes then. It's a hell no for me this year and I'm excited about that. I'm excited about scaling. Back on being busy and more focus on purposeful living and to me the the three things that are really the only thing to spend my time on our my family. Which is Michael Sunny and the my extended family and obviously like close friends? I want to be there for my close friends. I WANNA be there for my family. I want to really pour into my podcast because that is very important to me. And it's such an outlet for my heart and I feel like it is very important work that I have been blessed with the ability to be the Vessel to to do and I want to keep pouring into that and then I want to be able to have adventure and experiences with Michael and honestly my that would go back to my number one family so really. It's just two things focus on family and building a life in adventure an adventure full. That's not a word an adventurous life life. That is Really focused and intentional. I want to focus on that. And then I want to focus on really having an intentional Being intentional with my podcast. So those are my goals. It's scaled-back this year for me Before I had tons of goals on there but now I just I really want to focus on what's right in front of me and I'm so thankful for what's right in front of me. I'm so blessed for it. I've prayed for all of this to happen. And it's it's all shown up for me at this point. I had seasons of life where I have been so lost and so confused and I had no idea or I was going. And if you're in one of those seasons right now and you're trying to like write a vision board or Creative Vision Board. I would just start really small. Just really get quiet and try to focus focus on what has brought you joy in your life like when you're doing something when you've done things in life is focused on the things that have brought you the most joy in your life life that could turn into your career or that argest heart fulfilling whether it's like okay when I spend time with this person and we did this. I had so much joy or when I was able to give back in this way I had so much joy and just write down where you have experienced France the most joy in your life and just keep focusing on where those areas are and write them down and write them down and write them down. And I'm telling can you. It will slowly materialize and you will find a way to have more of that in your life whether it be in a job form or whether it be extracurricular outside side of your job if you focus on where you have your joy and you really prioritize on like making time to have more of that joy it will keep showing up more in your.
"vision board" Discussed on Get Real -w- Caroline Hobby
"Every year when embarking on a brand new chapter of life it's like opening a new president. We get to start rash. We get to start clean and we get to realize our intentions with what it is that we want to be achieve achieve How it went to live? I think it's just such a great time to take a breath. Take a break and really focus. Focus in on what we want to put out into the world every New Year because we don't take a minute to think about it and to Get clear then. It's so easy just to get caught up in life and let life start leading us in reacting instead of responding instead of being intentional all and so every new year I like to I had been just writing down all my goals and visions for the year in a note in my phone and I think that's sorry. I'm kind of recovering from allergies. So my voice sounds a little more deepen Manley today. entering my coffee as well so if I take sips of coffee I might have to take a little like a few second breaks to take a few sips of coffee. You know how it is when you have baby got to get your coffee in anyway. I think it's just really amazing to start each new year with a vision board and I had been doing that just writing in my phone on a note in writing down my goals and dreams and like dreams for my family like family goals last year on on the dream was to have a baby Dreams for my career dreams for even Michael's career on there. Because he does. He writes his visions visions down also and so I like to put his visions on the Vision Board. And so I just encourage you all to take a minute and sit down. Get very clear on what it is that you want to achieve this year and it doesn't have to be these great successes like career successes S.'s. Like you don't have to become this business. Mogul or make millions of dollars or do anything crazy but I do think it is important to know where you want to go like dive into your soul. We all came here. Do this earth with the souls. Mission is what I believe. I believe that we came to Earth to have an experience and each one of us has a different blueprint on our heart that we desire to experience in this earth. And you know what it is because when you're doing what fills right to you when you're on your path it feels free. It feels right. It feels easy. It feels joyous. It feels like your elated. You're like Oh my God I could. I just love doing this. I could do this forever. I feel so recharged when you're not on your path you feel drained and you feel resentful. You feel resistance. You feel angry you feel all the negative feelings and so I have lived both sides of that coin where I have been on my path and felt free and light and engaged in love with what I'm doing. I've also been on the path where I felt so much resistance it new literally made me like Keel over and have a panic attack. So I don't know if you relate to that but I do and so after like examining my life in realizing using the difference. I am very intentional about making sure that I live a life where I feel elated and joyful and happy and even though you can't do that every day because we're humans and life happens you can strive for it and to me a big way that I stay in the light on. My Path is by knowing where I want to go and to me. I'm not someone who can just. I have to get clear. I can't dislike. Start living and be like. Oh yeah this this is great. This is great. I need to like sit down. Get Intentional and get clear on what it is that I am trying to do in this life and I think trying to figure out your whole life is too much at once so I think breaking it down and year segments is great because and like I said each. It's new year. You get a chance to reassess you can examine this past year and see what was working for you. What wasn't where were you stressed? Where weren't you stressed? What made you happy? What didn't and then you can tweak your vision? You don't have to figure out at once but I do think for me and I think this helps a lot of people to have a clear set intention and road map of what you WANNA do. This year is so helpful so at the beginning of this year. I'm meeting with my friends. Park has comes out next week. I will be meeting my friends. The following week on January thirteenth. And there's four of us who'd made Vision Board last year. My friend Kristen breast should follow her a little bit fancy. She's amazing she has has a new podcast coming out. Also my friend Molly Irvin who so super inspiring she is just next level inspiration. She has a podcast called Living Foley. y'All should follow her to check her out. Mallory Ervin and my other friend Ashley Wilson. Who is all about living intentionally and she has a great blog? She's he's a beautiful Instagram page where. She just talks about things that she loves intentionally and intentional. Motherhood all sorts of and hers bows and Ashley be a US CBS. And Ashley so check all them out and we made vision boards last year and it was so awesome to see it on my wall every single day because I put put it in my bathroom above the toilet so beautiful and romantic sexy. And every 'cause like you go in your bathroom every single day. I mean you take a shower our there. Let's just be real shower and shave in your bathroom. So that is a place that you're all the time and it's a personal spot because I feel like in your personal bathroom really only when you are going in there and your husband. I mean other people close friends may pop in there but not really. I'm sorry that I am getting being over this cough in your haven't hear me cough and like clear my throat. I'M GONNA try not to because I know it's annoying But it's crazy. See how and you look at it every day it seeps into your mind and it helps you stay clear and that was something that was different for me this year than just having it written down. Because I've always been goal writer like I have notebooks notebooks on notebooks of writing down my visions of Ryan my goals of writing down my dreams in like I've gone back and looked at my notebooks. I have checked checked off every single thing and then the thing in some parts in my notebooks that I've written because I've done this for years for each year I would pretty much. Just write down my goals and then rewrite the down and rewrite here at them down like every month I would clean them up in like take some stuff off. That wasn't resonating anymore. And like just make more precise and that's the thing thing I can ex- off things that didn't feel right like I started off with my notebooks of everything that I had could possibly dream of that I wanted to do and then I started diving into the year diving into my career more and more and I'd be like okay. What actually that doesn't feel right anymore? I'M GONNA take that off. That's not really a goal that I wanna do so you could just clean it up as the year goes on and I went back and checked. I've looked through all my notebooks and pretty much everything that I really wanted to accomplish as accomplished which is amazing so the the power of taking it to an actual picture board was really amazing. Because now I'm looking at things and I might so not just like seeing them and writing and creating a magic picture. I'm actually like looking at pictures On aboard every single day in these pictures it just makes it so much more real so I really think taking it to the board food is kind of next level and help things materialized faster so I'll go and tell you all my goals because I think it's great speaking out loud to these goals that I'm going to be putting on my Vision Board for twenty twenty an I'm GonNa find pictures and you. You know to try to match my goals but my main goal is to trust. That's my word for the pick award every year this year it's trusting. It's trust because after having sunny I started having a lot of anxiety so much anxiety Just about everything that could go wrong young and I think that that's normal to feel. Also I mean I'm still coming off of being completely hormonal of. She's a three almost four months old now. And you know you just fall more in love with your baby every single day. And it's just this huge responsibility that's completely on your shoulders and your and your partner's shoulders and sometimes you. You know single parents like it's all on your shoulders and it's just such a responsibility is such a privilege but it is such a responsibility that for me. I I think I got overwhelmed with everything that could go wrong. Because knowing that I and my husband are solely in charge of keeping her alive is just like oh my gosh. What if something goes wrong? Then it's it's my fault than I'm the only one to blame and I will never be able to live with this and but you can't live like that. That's what I've realized you can't live in crippling anxiety because that's no way to live and then you miss the joy of the blessings in in your life like sunny is the biggest blessing I've ever had in my life. So why am I gonNA wake up every day. Be Crippled by anxiety of the things that are not that it could go wrong instead. Why don't I wake up every day and be surrounded by joy of all the blessings she brings and my brother-in-law told me this night? I don't know if this quiz original L. to him but I'm going to get it wrong but something like God doesn't want us to live to like to live through worries twice that's not how it goes But it's like basically you're not supposed to live through hard times twice like whatever your thinkings can happen in. Your worries is most likely not going to happen. Something else is going to happen when the things that you've worried about really actually happen. It's always some random thing. We worry about things that we see that we hear that we you know about that's happening in the world but more likely that is not going to be the incidents that we personally deal with because those already happened elsewhere. That's already someone else's story. Our story is unique to ourselves and we can't prepare for everything. There's just no way we don't even we know what can happen in this world. It's all free stuff you know and so I feel like for me. My Word is trust. I do not WanNa live in anxiety anymore and for me. The way to combat anxiety is lean more in God. And that's the only way I can do it like I. CanNot Dan not do it on my own. And so I think having sunny is making me realize like I wrote a post about this on my instagram. I'm just talking about my word. For the year and Sunny has made me realize the areas of my life that I have insecurities in in that I need to work John and really what it all boils down to is trusting God. Because it's not up to me to make this life perfect for her. I can only do the best I can do. I know I'm GonNa do my very best every single day..
Setting Goals Instead of Resolutions With Dr. Andrea Goeglein
"Andrea Andrea. Welcome back to live happy now. It is always a pleasure to have you on the show. Thank you and it was always a pleasure to be here because your messages I followed up and I really love what you put out on social media of the articles in the various podcasts. I really appreciate it. We'll thank you you know as we were looking at the Beginning of a New Year and we wanted to do something that talked about setting goals versus setting resolution. So of course you claim to mind again. So so I thought that we could start by having you explain to us a difference between setting a goal and setting resolution. You know for me. And there's a a lot of personal experience you know I once was a teenage girl and I remember those resolutions. That said I have a boyfriend. You know at the same time I was at teenagers. You know and as I have vowed to end in my education and in my life what I realized I was. I was a statistic. And that's statistic is the one that you know. Your listeners are going to be reading a lot this week how many days it takes before the resolution. I shouldn't fails and I wanted to know how to do that differently. and luckily my life's work. Help get me there. And so a resolution listen to me aligns more with just a declaration or an affirmation where is a goal is actually elite attached to something that you have in your mind that's already in process end or you want to put in process and you began to you begin to think through. What do I actually have to do? What actions what footsteps do I need to take to make make that thing a reality? The differences a resolution is kind of the spark and the goal has all the gas to get you moving. That's a great way to put it because we do as you mentioned. There's all the statistics about how long it takes for us to fail at resolutions. And this week it will be absolutely the message out in the media and then you have the early adopters who are like look. I'm just GONNA go ahead and fail like three days into it just to get that out of way so in terms of it like why is it so much more effective to set a goal they said a resolution is at your mindset or is it like what is it the mechanism that makes it so effective. Well the mechanism is that goal actually has like you know. There's there's there's a line and self help about the difference between a goal in a dream and you can have a dream of something that you want to do and a goal is actually when you take a wish and they call that a wishbone and you put it and and having something with backbone in it so it's actually the difference between and you know I mean the resolution you know it can be that initial inspiration but what has to happen is a goal has multiple parts and there's all sorts of formulas that all of us have used in our lives that have that has to have something certain has to be something specific it has to have time like it has has to have the resources that go with it. There are very specific things that end up making a goal goal and Nada Dream and not a wish and not a resolution excellent. You know it reminds ends me last year. We had Tara swore and she talked about her book. The source and one of the things she talked about was vision boards. She's a believer in it. But she said you can't just make a vision board and then wait for it to come true. You know. That's where we've Kinda got it wrong. You put the pictures up there. And then you're like okay. Bring me my handsome Knight Knight in Shining Armor in my house and I will tell you I am a visual person and for me getting to see the pitcher up something help so for me. I actually have a vision book. I've had the same book for fifteen years. Wow Diane Ed to it yes I add to it. I subtract. Because that's another part of the difference between a resolution and a goal there is an actual in addition to the process of setting up. You know so. What strengths do I have? What of the resources? What are the steps? I'm going to take the things that you would do to actually see something. Come to life there. Is that other part heart of being able to see it and then knowing that wait a minute is this really. I thought I wanted that because my friend had thought I wanted that bigger job because it it would pay more money but my goodness disruption in my life is so dramatic. I really don't want it and do I really WanNa live in that city like you get to update things right. Yeah and there is a critical part of where we are at this moment in time that I would like to kind of give a little hint. You really don't have to set goals this week. The Gulf of this week and actually many times for me has been the the month of January is actually getting your mind ready to want to do some things different in your life not saying saying this you know because the rest of the world says January one something happened. I actually have a number of times a year where January is actually the one that I do more globally and then I start putting berry specifics to it and then mid year I do a check and then September one and this is just a person who gone to two master's degree in a PhD. I went to way too much school wool honest to goodness September is actually my mental New Year. Oh how interesting Yes and I know that it came out of habit that that was always my stark point January. You know the first twenty years of your life January's just the thing after the holidays and you go back to school again and you're picking up. You're finishing up where you left off September. I just was always something very new and different. A lot of new was happening every September. So my cells just got used to it and I encourage your listeners listeners to do an inventory for themselves. There's a wonderful book out called when and I think it's a Daniel Pink so your circadian rhythms. When is the best time of the day it helps you discern as an individual? Where do you fall so that you get? The highest performance format will say. Take that globally over year. And when do you have the greatest impetus is it after the spring. And you've got new energy or some you know there are different times so my message is don't be held to the conformity of what the world is telling you. It's time to do this. It's time to do that. But invite yourself into the experience of observing your life dreaming bigger than when you have before and putting the actions to it. What will that take just doesn't mean it has to be done tomorrow right and that's good because you can kind of like when you're gonNA say paint a room you don't just go out and buy the paint and discount home start slapping paint on you know you think about it look different colors? You think about how it's going to be and you do a lot of preparation beforehand so that you really talking about that same thing of taking some time to be mindful and thoughtful about what it is you really want to accomplish a place for this year right. That's terrific so so as people are looking at okay. I WANNA create these goals. Should they do one big goal. Do they do different goals in different areas. What's most effective okay? So what's most effective is what has worked for you historically but not to be sarcastic. Ask that that. Let me tell you what I suggest and play with this. So would I would invite you to do is actually set the goal. ooh upsetting some time aside to go for a walk to be in nature to do things and just think about what went on. Or what's going on in my life that I actually would like to see different. Just allow yourself to float with a question in something. That isn't regimented writing things down and thinking about it and da Da. Ah but you're in movement or in a pleasant situation and you're allowing yourself to look back you don't have to condemn the things you just have to be not an honest observer and say what's going on in my life that I really would like to be different and then start with those things. If it was different different the second question is if it was different what would it look like and that begins to give you the option to clean up some blocks that you may not even know you may not be achieving some things in your life because some other things are going on that until they get cleaned up. You actually really can't move forward. There are realities to where we are at the moment. Some of them are structural. Some of them are mental. And when you acknowledge Oh wait a minute. I can't leave this place right now because I have this obligation to finish but I can do this. And you stop the rating yourself which is one of the most detrimental things to goal setting. Is that that you actually start out looking at a goal as though you are a failure and you're gonNA kick your own but and get you and now you're GonNa do it right.
"vision board" Discussed on Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley
"Sixteen. It is eight man sixteen Beckon you need this one. This one too tired up. We'll go to the tiebreaker Ross. Claimed to have been in love with Rachel since which grade tiny looked confident on this one. If you don't have it becky looking very serious staring down I literally is going to be just a shot in the dark. Repeat the question Ross. Claimed to have been in love with Rachel since which grade sixth. There's not sixty seventh. It is not settled. Second second grade second grade third third grade and third grade and fifth grade. You're all wrong. It is ninth got fresh however final score China to BECO- wine talion. You are friends champion today. Congratulations Air Taj. CHECK MINEO FBI if alien right emails shrill. Okay so I feel I do uh okay. This is. Pink is the worst crust and my swollen shut. Amanda has a thought here she has to give a toast and she's he's really stressed out about it and I think this is a funny email because I feel like she answered her own question. My sister's getting married this June in downtown. La She's a pediatric oncologist colleges at Children's Hospital of Orange County and she's marrying a pediatric pediatric cardiologist. WHO works at a children's Hospital and Fresno you talk about a power couple? They both one of the biggest heart and absolutely love each other. My sister has asked me to be her maid of honor and of course. I'm so excited to next to her. She marries her best friend. But there's a catch a paralyzing fear fear of public speaking so I don't know how I'll be able to give my toast. I have played around with ideas that just videotaping it. But then I thought the best host will be one. I don't have to give it all. I'm I'm asking you if you guys are free on June six to come from me but let me continue what she writes here before you answer that question. My sister is the definition of a modern woman. She has worked so hard to get where she is and is a force. In the world of oncology she attended Stanford Medical School Ucla for Residency Program and Harvard for her fellowship program. After she was done with all her training she was hired a choc children's Hospital Orange County where she works. As a neuro oncologist specializing in childhood brain tumors. Her Patients Adore her here. Fiance proposed to her at work by having all of our patients give a speech thanking her for helping them and then they held up signs. That spelled out. Will you marry me. How cute is that at the greatest part of that? Her resumes only a small fraction of the person she is. She is the most loving patient kind and wonderful person on the face of this planet. I am so lucky to have her as my sister. Her fiancee's a wonderful person as well. He has never felt threatened by the level of success. My sister of my sister and has always encouraged her and everything thinks she's done. Please help me out you guys at the best. Thank you Amanda. She wrote her speech. She wrote me right here Erin I she's she says she is a fear of speak. Like saying I relate I am whole I hate speak giving speeches in front of crowds. That's true of a a lot of a surprising number of successful performers. Have a hard time giving a speech. It is just I can like have it all prepare. Have like an amazing speech right now and when I go to speak it's like I forget how to put words together so I get it. So what's sure advice for her but I. I don't think your sister wants Tanya and Becker to come out give the speech she wants you there. That's what you asked for it and I think that's the answer. Do you have any advice vice for somebody who is such an issue with public speaking my my the thing has helped me most is I have. I know the points that I like to make when I speak what really gets me. All messed up is looking down in reading. Because I think I panic about losing my spot and that makes my voice really shaky so if I can just know the points that I wanna hit and speak without reading anything. That's how I'm able to do it because I'm just talking. And I'm not like focused on like reading remembering my spa and seeing where Matt on the page so I would say. Memorize some of the points that you want to make and just get up and speak from your heart and you're probably gonNA start crying right right off the bat anyway because it's such an emotional time and I got up and gave my sister's made of all my maid of honor speak for my sister's wedding and I cried within five seconds and it was very short speech but you know it's it's personal and she loves you and she like she wants you standing up there with you. 'cause she's proud that your sister her so I don't have any tips because I'm terrible at them too. I feel like sometimes I warned me so good so I write something really good and memorize it. And that's a horrible yeah That's what I did for my sisters and I feel like it was a much better if I I think it's better to not write anything and yeah. Just how like bullet point. Yeah and then maybe like take the bullet points in front of you and just talk from the heart. Because I feel like the best speeches here when I'm at weddings are just ones aren't being read off a piece of paper and I honestly honestly think I've been to so many weddings where someone gets up. And they're like they have a piece of paper and it's just like the index card with bullet points and they preface. It was saying I'm horrible Speaking public I'm so nervous but I really want to share. Why I'm so happy for this couple? You know it could be a good move. Amanda is if you you walk up there with your speech and hand and be like you know what. Oh Oh she really. I just WANNA speak from the heart. But then that's really is your speed on their plan or you could go up there with like a really thick stack of papers like you're about to give this really long speed and everyone's panicking and so you get the the crowd laughing already and then you just say hey. I'm you know I'm not great at public speeches but I wanted to say a few things about this amazing commerce through the debt for thous. She had a stroke so she liked unfurled and it went down to the floor and got a big laugh and that loosens people up at our our wedding we wrote our own vows and we knew we wouldn't be able to get through them without weeping so we had our pastor read our vows which worked really nicely so maybe if worst case scenario you write this kind of what you wrote to us and just Kinda hone it. And maybe you stand next to your boyfriend or Houston next to the pastor or dad or somebody the else reads it while you stand there and kind of not long. That's worst case scenario. I think you can do this. I think you can get through it. I also I do think filming it and like getting up to give the speech speech and be like I can't do this live and then you have a video. You speech would be really good to to say like. I knew it couldn't do this so so as a backup plan. Yeah Yeah we'll good luck to you girl. Congratulations to your sister. And this is a sad or email from Lauren. She says last year I was wit college. I went to the doctor with cold and flu symptoms. That had been lingering for five weeks. My doctor told me with bronchitis and you refuse to run any tests. Because he knew he wouldn't find anything thing. I brushed it off and went home with the cough syrup. Gave me fast forward two weeks ago to a different doctor for the same thing. She ran the tests and found out. FDA's to cancer. I am and furious at the previous doctor but let it go because I have bigger problems to deal with now. I'm currently in remission but it's still weighs on me should tell the clinic. I went to about this or is it a lost cause because it was probably an isolated case in everyone's different either way. I want to tell all podcast listeners. To be an advocate for your own health don't let any doctors actors especially male doctors treat you like this especially young women who are still having their Ma make their doctors appointments for them like I did so. I think that's a very good message to everybody. Yeah yeah this happened. My grandma kept going to the doctor because I can't remember what symptoms she was having and they kept just brushing her off saying like. It's nothing you're dislike going. Oh you know what you're sick. Whatever and she found out she had stage four breast cancer and like literally all I mean she survived but it probably could have been way less traumatising thing if they hadn't ruled it out and sent her home and like been more thorough and like listen to what she was saying because she knew that something was wrong? And I think this this is really good advice because doctors are humans too but you know your body. You're the only one who knows what's going on right and you have to stand up for yourself and know oh like if you know something's off than you keep fighting for yourself and you know better than anybody else. What's the deal is and it does happen? My Wife's grandmother granny roses get another shot Out On this show. That's two minutes episode. Granny Rosie was told. She had Parkinson's disease and spent years doing daily exercise to stave off the Parkinson's disease and then she moved from Florida to Wisconsin. got a different. The doctor and the doctor said you do not have Parkinson's disease worth absorb that someone told you that but you do not. Oh my gosh. It's very weird very scary that these doctors are so You know they're not infallible. Yeah and that's the thing I think that's important because remember i. You're you don't remember when and I was like feeling all those symptoms like I know something's not right I was feeling excruciatingly tired all the time to the point where it's just your job. I was like I've done morning shows shows since college like it's not my job. My schedule like I feel something significantly different and I went to so many different doctors. I like Oh the thyroid. It's it's not your thyroid and then I finally went to my new regular doctor and he. I don't know what he figured out that it was when I got some vitamins or whatever and that's what I've been taking in. That really helped me but it was like me literally saying no. I know this isn't just my schedule so I just kept saying well you just you work too much. And I'm like no like I know my body. This is not just normal tired. This is something else you know and I just kept going from doctor doctor until I finally figured it out so true. I don't honestly don't even know but they were able to curate. I don't even a some sort of obviously some sort of imbalanced because he gave me. I take like five different vitamins. A day that are.
"vision board" Discussed on Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley
"Friends Trivia. I'm hoping this'll help bridge the gap because we have no friends access right now which is fun to say. TBS literally showing fifty episodes a week of friends. And who has cable thing by don't but I've TBS and who life. So yeah. I feel alive I wonder. Can you buy all the seasons on Amazon. Just do that so there. You can't China's said that was her no speech. I'm not sure why character she's trying yeah. I don't know why either I'm so tired but then you got to you don't want to in DVD. No I don't know if they have them as digital downloads on itunes is look into this. Okay reads the something. Well here's how it goes. I have three rounds of questions one for each of you in each round you can do rock paper scissors goes I. There's no bias liason to WHO GETS which question they get harder as the game goes on and there's a tiebreaker. If we are tired after three rounds okay. What paper scissors rocket boosters? Okay so you can buy my friends on Itunes Okay and looks to be about twenty bucks. A season might be worth it ten seasons so hundred bucks little seasons would be more than there'd be two hundred two Hundred Bucks Twenty Times ten by your favorite ones okay ready. I mean. We're just a season to just hold me over okay. Rock paper says it here we go. Yeah go rock. Paper scissors go.
"vision board" Discussed on Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley
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"vision board" Discussed on Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley
"On the East E. Awards this year walk for ninety to be on. The awards. Wasn't Trans I was supposed to but I literally was on a hike in the woods kids and there's nothing wrong with that. I miss after seeing it. I really felt like I missed out on being a part of something. Great Yeah it was a lot of fun. I think everybody that tuned in and watched We had had a lot of viewers live. Audience had a live audience for the first time. Ever we're thinking next year if we put the Iheartradio theater and just opened up scrubbers. Who WanNa come by? I think you'd feel the place. I don't WANNA say anything too soon but it may be hard ticketed event uh-huh join that's a that's a high likelihood. So for the watch Ben Higgins presenter enter for the year I had to feed him the nominees. He didn't have them in. I did a great job and actually Jerry called in as well and presented ended movie the year and that was a lot of fun. So I mean I just I just miss you guys a lot over the break. I missed you guys too to 'cause we recorded and then it was just like we all went our separate ways. Yeah which we haven't talked about talk about them we're all did you go BECCA. I was in Louisiana and right before so we all were going to go and stay with my older sister and the day before we were all supposed to fly in my mom called called and told me that two of my nephews had the flu so we were all in panic crisis mode and so we booked AIRBNB last awesome it to host the all of us who are flying in coming into town so that we didn't get the flu so we'd go over there for like the day but just we're very wash my hands a ton was very like you know anal about it older than us. They're they're age range. It's ten an eight six and three. Wow and may be awful but yeah they're all ten and under but And then phoebe was an absolute nightmare flying like I still just the hairs on my neck stood up thinking about it was Horrible so she was like case so she was in a case like I took her out because she was crying in this shrill high high pitched tone that like I never I didn't even know she could do. And she was scratching really loud and I felt like everyone was like about to murder me so I took her out and then Shoe still was like anxiety panting the whole time so it was and it was a red eye oh it was like a one. AM It was awful. The poor people around you pour was bad in. I felt sad for her but also associate style that next time you fly with her. You should make little goodie bags for like the few people that you sit around so maybe like ten of them just like two people on fire three feel like the people that are around and give them a little bag that says like sorry. My dog is a stress Flyer. Here's some treats to get you buyers something like this topic's thanks little candies in there or something. I guess my thing was she was so annoying that a goody bag would not acknowledged that like you know she's ally college is before we even especially on the way back after knowing I was like I'm so sorry in advance. She's really horrible on flights and she was horrible but I had given her a little. CBD's so she was a little more common way back but still quite anxious. We both slept the whole entire higher next because I think we were both stress from it. Was Anybody get any sleep around you or were there any like. There was a span of silence. It was she. She stopped doing the barking but it was aggressive panting but I think if everyone had headphones on and stuff you know they were fine. Because I couldn't I'm really hear her and I didn't have headphones because the plane noise was so loud but it was bad so anyways we had a Weaken Louisiana easy. Anna was really fun family. Time always just grand old time good with your parents. I wanted to grandparents. I felt like awesome island in for three years. Like so be you. It was so beautiful like and you know it's funny. Everybody always told me because I was like I. I really WANNA go somewhere. That's just like so beautiful. What's a good place? Everybody said Bora Bora but you should wait. And gather on your honeymoon and I was like want to wait for a man to comment to my life and get married to experience the heaven that is me. Did you feel like it was a dream being there with your parents. Yeah like it's a dream. It's like paradise to wait for a honeymoon to go to paradise. I don't need to no you definitely don't but I I think it is definitely a romantic romantic because it's like twelve days long my parents. I don't love them with them for twelve days somewhere. I can't do it. I think I learnt Mice self that. I can't do nothing for twelve days. That's true I can't either. Yeah that was. I think the hardest thing for me so I was just doing a lot of Globes and like watching movies and things because you know it's like fun like watching rose things like a great but it was beautiful like and the weather I think I like really thrive in hot humid weather. I didn't put makeup on once the entire time and touch my hair wash can leave it wet let it dry like I was so island girl. It was crazy like worked out. We did I like worked out my dad every day. We went on hikes and runs and and paddle boarding and kayaking and stuff like that. That's sounds also. We're on a flight back on new years so I spent New Year's travelling travels travels a little bit of like. Oh yes and then I came back on the first and then I was like full back into like gloves. Prep and stuff. Well there you go when I was in Wisconsin for two weeks and It was kind of a cool thing so we got there and it was fifty degrees which is not common. This time of year in Wisconsin. It's usually about about five below so it was great so Christmas Day. We're like playing football in the yards of those really cool to be so warm. When we got there my daughter Brooklyn ten was very disappointed that it was so warm? 'cause she really wanted snow now So I said at Brooklyn. We're here for two weeks. You will see snow. I promise and my wife is like what are you doing. You cannot promise snow. You cannot predict these things. We have two weeks I I said. I'm not promising new snowman or sledding or anything but you will see snowflakes fall from the sky just like you can't do that as the first week goes on and it's very warm my brother-in-law's like okay. What are you doing promising? Your kids know. That's a huge mistake mother-in-law's like I can't believe prometheus no everyone's on my case about it. I'm getting a little nervous after a week. And we've got no snow. No but that Monday the thirtieth I guess it was. There was snow in the forecast tonight. They're going to see some snow and so hoping at this point because I was getting nervous and sure enough we were driving driving back from my brother-in-law's house and that's the snowflakes and headlights of the car. And we'll get outta the car and it was snowing and this could have backfired on me but the way it was all set up. And everyone's talking about it all week. It was like I personally delivered snow to my child because when it was snowing she looked at me with those big daddy. It's snowing you promise uh-huh so much power in the fact that you said it out loud and then we got so much snow that we were able to have snowball fights and do snow angels Hearing.
"vision board" Discussed on Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley
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"vision board" Discussed on Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley
"That in for a while I don't I've I have not got an update so I'm just going to keep putting it in the rundown for the show until I get an update on the. Let's well I think what happened. was they sold out the initial allotment of seats very quickly. So they open up the balcony area and so now they're still selling tickets. Go out of the balcony will. If you're going to subscribe in with us in San Francisco the Viceroy Hotel Group. You will not be sorry hotels. zillow's hotels Zeppelin Hotels Zada. They're all part of the Viceroy. Hotel groomed their alt-right and of course February thirteenth at the Roxy in La that is sold out turning the page to Tanya's vision board. Tanya made I three division board this year Chinese is a lot a lot more going on just in terms of volume. There's a lot more crammed onto this. It's a small vision bar to like. The actual like board itself was a smaller one than it usually is all right so let me you have two different. Red starbursts Taped glued our. They affixed everything on. Here's taped chase down here to read starbursts now. Isn't the goal. Define your red starburst. Yeah so why two of them To make it a point this really hone in on. Yeah House actually under three you have level up in big vertical letters I like to have it prominent prominent on the Bar All right You have a New York Times bestseller by Tanya Rod and what you've done is you've made it look like your book is in a stack of other books. Looks Right. There's a Joni Mitchell and Elton John Prince Eliza Fair and then it's New York Times Bestseller Tanya rat and then there's taking Quentin Smith so you're going to write a New York Times bestseller in twenty twenty twenty. That's right or we've talked about sometimes in future years you're like oh my gosh. That was on my vision from three years ago. No I'm going to fight it or you are right right at this year and it may not make the list this year right right a bestselling book this year. Don't get published till next year. I'm assuming this is non-fiction this is td interesting.
"vision board" Discussed on Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley
"So becky you've never made a vision board before this this I've written down goals and stuff but I've never done like like the cut out and glue and well let's get into it. Let's really to it. I do believe there's something to it. It was fun okay. So I'm going to name things then. You tell me what they mean to you. Is that fine. Yeah all right. Twenty for twenty twenty. What does that mean well? This is a little dramatic There is a joke. Losing Twenty pounds or twenty twenty. Okay I don't think I I don't think I would look healthy with twenty pounds. Lost no chance but that's the incensio sciences. Yeah because it's on top of that woman in a tank top telcos glare. I can't tell Ya what's one million and one million. Make a million dollars this year. How that is? That's A. That's a goal. Yeah How dare you to go? Just go go and like like travel and do everything that you have the opportunity to do without over thinking it. Just go numeral waiting same Ahmadiyah extraordinary moments happen. No more waiting is like I always feel like I wait for opportunities to come to me instead of working being towards them and so I I actually had a meeting and they were like what are you like. You can't like there's so many people working in like hustling and like you. You can't just sit back and wait and it really stuck with me so I found that and I was like twenty twenty. I'm not waiting around. extrordinary moments happening ordinary days. Just like that okay. Make the most out of everyday whether I'm somewhere extraordinary or just ordinary ordinary my bff just like spending being grateful and appreciating appreciating my friendships. This year what are some of these locations. What's the bottom middle? That looks like a snow albums. Looks like Russia or someplace I just was like putting places. Yeah I've never been in like the atmosphere of the snow and like those are just places like the one in the trees the caribbean-wide one of the bottom right is are those northern lights. Yeah I really want to see the northern lights that would be neat and what's in. The upper right almost looks like A. It's like a cabin in the woods. Okay Yeah it's a little small looks more like an outhouse but no it's like what is trendy like small mountains and then oh there's like a little table overlooking the mountains okay this nice and then the bridge over the water on the left in the jungle. Somewhere like in a Caribbean jungle. Okay this is a solid solid tour tour. It is cheerful tour confidence and the tours. Hey speaking of the tour February First Marines Memorial theatre in San.
"vision board" Discussed on Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley
"I'm tired today. Why you're already tired is the first show of the year? No but you know like wait. I've I've literally I treated the break like it was like I was in elementary school or Middle School and was just living my life like what you do all day. I slept left a lot. I watch so much like so. Many Doctors Wurster prices right. Because that's what I did. I went to break no such little those days for you know I just watched a lot of like net like shows. I was just really lazy. Because you know January January I was on a Wednesday or something and then the second was on the Thursday. So like why can't start any of my resolutions on Thursday so that'd be like today's the first day back but it's not my head it is your teeth. Look so why they do. Yeah thank you. I was going to get the bleach next week. They didn't get them done for the Globes I was going to and I just didn't have enough time when I got back but almost blue. They're so they're so. Gosh thank you guys. Wow aw I haven't done anything to them. Not even Chris White Strips just good old-fashioned toothpaste well by the way you looked stunning last night. Thank you will truly. Maybe my I say it every time but like maybe my favorite look today. Thank you so much. I know I got a lot of Compliments because it there's a little bit more toned-down toned down but it was elevated dated. It was like you went up a notch. Thank you because that's what I'm trying to do. Because my word for twenty twenty level up this is news. We haven't revealed that I don't know I don't know okay. So my word for twenty twenty is level up. Yeah but it's like it's like I made it up. I made up the rules so I can do. But it's like it's like a vibe. It's a word vibe. Hi but whatever you want so I want to level up in terms of everything in terms of like faith my fashion my work my hustle. My Body Body Mind Spirit like all aspects level up just level up. It's going to be a small level up. Could be a big level. Just go on a level. Yeah so I wanted to. I was really focused on doing that. For the Golden Globe so I was like studying a lot and just kind of like doing all the things and it included changing up my look a little bit. I enjoyed it fun. You're right I I don't know I don't know what happened last night but it just literally started like it was like the great gatsby known up. What's the damn what's the Damn Book? Clearly really ought not slept. I just kept running the whole day and like when you have a lot of makeup on like it. Just like they had to keep touching them and make up to the point where she was like can't do anything anymore. And it was like running down my face during my livestream To the point where I just had to be like I'm just emotional Taylor swift might win her first slowed tonight. Like I just had to play off because I was grabbing tissues in the middle of our livestream. What a pro you know what you gotTa do you gotta do but it was really like that was? I've never been to the actual Golden Globes before because last year. We did it from the East studio so this is my first time there the craziest coolest experience like ever again then. So there's this in Sao Party that they have after and Brad called me the night before and he was like. Hey I have a plus one. Do you WANNA be my date and I was like. That's that's a dream a thousand percent so we stay we watch this show in the hotel on the TV. And then we'd go because a party didn't start 'til eight so we go down and they're like hey you guys have to there's like a check in or whatever with your tickets or whatever so we go down to the lines so long Bradley so he literally lifts the whatever he knows like velvet robes. Get you clearly there blocking from getting over to the next 'cause all the winners and everybody that was in the Golden Globes is now assured into the party so everybody else is like waiting so we go in and literally poop right by Jason Momoa and his entire crew and just waltz right in tickets and wasn't like but we literally life. Nobody asked us for anything. They stamped in here you go. Wow that's amazing. There is something to that and I have some stories that I need to bore you with but were we've walked into places. I wasn't supposed to be because if you look like you know what you're doing and you look like you belong there and if you see by the way next up up if you're carrying a clipboard or something so you can walk into the White House. I mean you really if you act if you walk with a purpose and know what you're doing you can walk right in. It was amazing I was like Brad I bow down to you because if we WANNA win that line. We've would've gotten at like nine and I was leaving at nine thirty. Yeah got right in the thank you Jason. momoa part of his KERMA STOKE DOC right behind them to do. That's amazing your tickets. Anybody wants to see them. No okay cool. Did you see any corner actions in the style. It was like I couldn't even get over it like it's so crazy. The Star power. That was their Rita. Wilson toward the end of the night was just like walking around. She's knows brad she you like walks over. She's a burger and her hands like eating food. It's just like was so chill and cool and just like Martha Stewart was standing behind me in line to do the elevator thing and she was like we wanna get a diamond leash for snoop but we can't get one in time and I was just like what is life right now. Wow it was crazy crazy. Because that's like star Star Star. I was GonNa say I felt like the Golden I guess I never realized how star sudden e Alec like almost more than any other show this year. The Fun one right because you get to drink but also I think this year's nominees were definitely a lot more a-list than they've ever been next level a-list next everyone was read them beyond saying Jay Z.. Brought their own champagne I still ooh. Yeah you know I hear people say oh so boring goes who am. I really enjoyed it now. I was kind of distracted. I was just sitting in a chair staring right. But I loved Ellen Ellen speech allocate introducing Allen. Tom Hanks's speech. I love the whole. Leo Brad Bromance I am great. I love Phoebe Waller Bridge like what I saw. I love you till then then watching the audience was like so cool to like Taylor swift with an it was just. It was a really cool award. Show yeah it was it was. It was awesome. Brad Brad Pitt. Still just how we need Carson juicy her photo with him I was like I was like her photo around her story. It was a video of her. Like Brad Pitt passing by. And then she takes of votto with him and then the next one's a selfie with Taylor Swift I was like are you kidding hitting me. Where was she on the carpet? Somewhere you see. We were up on this balcony. We were doing our stream from the balcony. Thank God I wasn't down there. I would have been so distracted. There's no way Hey I would've been able to focus because I could barely see them like walking out of the limo and I was like yeah. They probably did that for a reason. Joe Smart move on on where they placed me. Yeah it was awesome. Yeah it was pretty cool. Yeah thanks for the heads up. Yeah that's good and EH. She did a lot of like what I love about her is that she was just like very bold like Taylor selfie like she didn't uh-huh flopped in front of Jennifer Aniston and feel like I would've walked away the photo Jennifer Aniston Jennifer Aniston back for the first time since friends. And do you know all three green sisters were there. Last night I saw your post about. It was Jennifer. Aniston Reese Witherspoon. Chris applegate together again in. Somebody's Powell says. Please get a photo. The three of them please. I know missed opportunity. Because recent Jenner like. That's easy to get Christina. Yeah Wow wow. What a time to be a lot of time to be alive while speaking of let's combine this year Globes and you've been binging a lot of things are we caught up on the morning show? We watched watch the morning. Show how I don't even know how to get the more apple TV. Plus So. I have to have apple. TV No yet have apple TV plus. Well how do I get that to pay for it tunes and I think but you on your TV. How because you don't have A? Do you have an apple. TV tutoring have apple TV. What do you use for? It's just what do you watch Netflix. On My TV it's like built in but it's like a smart. TV Apple TV plus on a SMART TV TV. Seeing option for that. I can help you. I nearly beat Tech Tanya over here. Yeah I I I feel like I've been missing out on a lot of shows and stuff that could be benching because I thought I had to have my apple. TV which is like. I said storage because my place. I think it's it's about two. I'm thinking I'm going to be able to move back in this week. But anyways where what's going on with place flying flooded so you're all everything's in storage and your placed since November beginning November. Wow a long time. Yeah Yeah it's been fun two months. Yeah I've been pretty chill you know I'm pretty like I. You know because it was like Thanksgiving. I went home and then Christmas I went home. So it's it's been fine. I'm just I'm like you've been. I'm tired of living out of a suitcase. So so you know. Tell this Tommy with friends where you know. Well I've been thinking with Haley and then Yeah so dots. Dot's she's probably ready for me to go. Yeah it's like it's like oh I know just like living out of a suitcase just like I didn't get to decorate. My place is for Christmas. You know there's just things like that was like Bob and about but whatever it is what it is going to change it. Well if you watch the morning show my observation that I share with earlier. The Tanya is Bradley Jackson Reese Witherspoon character from that. Show I I. I've only seen trailers for..
"vision board" Discussed on Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley
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"vision board" Discussed on The Struggle Bus: Self-Care, Mental Health, and Other Hilarious Stuff
"Felt really really phoned in and then either it tapered offer I got used to it and I just I started like I was just like I know I didn't get it and like oh it's just you know when you think about Rhonda Mars like for me like one thing that I've it's just I don't know what better opinions Catherine is that too much to ask ask the very thing to say and then I'm GonNa stop talking because I've been talking to what is that and I just content note these I'm going to mention sexual assault very briefly but please fast word like her case and I'm just reading it it's beautifully written it's incredibly hard weeks she's the one who was assaulted by Brock Turner the as she was talk about a thing we did for self care let's talk about a thing we did for self care you go first because I'd been talking a lot no no no you've been not talking interior design gave me some amazing being advice that's awesome yeah I was yeah she's incredible end size WanNa say thank you betsy you really helped me out a lot and it was a a game ranger as a nice that's the you're the bet bets bet that that doesn't work no matter how hard you I see the best fettes tests I don't know how to we yes sir thank you betsy okay would you do so the thing I did is I went the fucking dentist when I cannot tell you how much I hate going to the dentist and I don't think that makes me interesting or unique because I think like a lot of people don't like going to the dentist and I I actually often think about how dentists and ophthalmologists probably like just things can get rougher them because people go in dreading having their teeth cleaned having cavities filled in having their eyes dilated and so if you're Davidson trae situation yeah exactly I also recently had my eyes Elliott it don't get me started on that the dentist I try to make myself go I think your spouse go every six months or whatever and so I finally did and it was fine like my dentist it was great but also it's just terrible Catherine I just I wish dental technology would advance to the point where when they take x rays you don't have to shove something in my Ma that's the size of a soccer ball I just double thing is incredibly on that happened to me as well because I have a situation so yeah I get that God anyway all right that's the that's the dentist that's hey that's the tweet that yeah should we read an email since we do on the show you know it's been an hour or so yes couldn't couldn't hurt so do you think that we should choose a name for this person that s has to what are watching right now well we actually are rewatching the wire ooh which I I have really mixed feelings about because there are so many shows that are currently on that I really feel like I need to be watching so watching something that I've already seen I don't know I'm doing it Katherine what are you watching Okay I'm watching party down again God that's so good yes yes oh my God and I had you say what is her name hold on a second well lizzy Caplan is in crowd yeah but Jane Lynch Godly we should name this person Jane Lynch because she is okay so this email is constance and just a content note for emotional abuse. Hi Sally and Kate so I went to church today for the first time in a hot second and in the middle I started getting extreme anxiety I have a diagnosed anxiety disorder because when I was sitting there it reminded me of emotionally abusive. My ex-boyfriend was to me he was an extreme Christian who played guitar in the Church every Sunday went to youth group every week consistently was preaching and praying with me which was amazing I want to say no hurt feelings about religious people think it's amazing when people are that firm in their faith I just think it's something that you need to know and understand why I'm feeling the way I am any who my ex boyfriend was also incredibly emotionally abusive he was controlling he needed to know where I was all the time told me who I couldn't couldn't talk to he told me I wasn't allowed to talk to my best friends anymore because they were male and not female what I couldn't couldn't wear and what music I could listen to that being said I pretty much told him I was my own Jason he wasn't the boss of me and then I could do what I wanted his response was always twisted in the sense that he would use God against me by telling me that's not what good Christian girls do so of course young naive Christian constants who is trying to find her relationship with God listen to this asshole change vast majority of who I was in the process now whenever I go to church and around people who remind me of this guy that control the year of my life I have anxiety attacks I guess my question is how can I get over this dread of going some I love what is the best way to get this assholes abuse as far away from me as possible so I can be a bad ass Christian who causes a little and then in parentheses a lot MHM Catherine was you are crushing it constantly this is a really you're self aware you you know what's going on and I personally am not religious but I do really respect religious people I think that whatever works for you is your thing and I elite respect that I am so sorry this happened to you that being said I wonder I have certain associations with things that remind me of people used to date as well it may not be religious specific but there's Times where you just don't want to watch that TV shows are you just don't want to listen to that song because it reminds me of that person I I wonder if there's a way in which you can find and a different church or another way in which to worship that would help you not be triggered by the person but at the same time it's okay I think to take a step back if you need to and understand that it doesn't mean you're a bad Christian and it doesn't mean you're a bad person sally stomach sense yeah totally I think it it definitely makes sense yeah I mean I think like one of the reasons I was drawn to this email this time is because I've been thinking what about missing Brooklyn and what it what it means to feel connected to a place and I've been thinking a lot about how I really really didn't like living in New York overall but I really loved a lot of living in Brooklyn and I loved like the routines that I had established and the places that I loved so and everything like even Catherine like I went to a wedding in Brooklyn this weekend and I was as you know and like who was nearby like where you live and thought about like taking the train super duper early in the morning over to your apartment and like watching the sunrise and like record with you and I was like Oh man like I love the so much anyway I'm saying all that to say like associations that we have to places are really strong and really intense and I think that they do go away and time and like I know after just from having breakup non from non abusive relationships that it takes a second to want to like you know it's like I I remember like feeling like I had to reclaim like a coffee shop I used to my ex all the time so that when I went in there I was don't like constantly thinking about the relationship in the break up and you know for a while I couldn't go there and then I would go there and like do things and then eventually I was like Oh this is just my place this is just go this isn't about this relationship that ended and so some of that I think is like that is like kind of reclaiming a space and making your own again but I also think that like when there's Emma involved it's it's not as easy as just like you know having a stiff upper lip and like walking in and reclaiming place because especially if you're having like a panic reaction which you are constants from what you describe in Silica I'm wondering if like I mean so I I actually think that like one thing you should do is like you know if you're not ready in therapy is like talked to someone who's a professional who can help you sort of dislike abuses traumatic and like help you understand and process it and unpacked getting in that in and of itself might be helpful but I think also there are really specific strategies that that you can try to help you love be calm in the moment on different like CBT type strategies And and look I I wouldn't advise that you go to church and try those because I don't want to tell you something that's GonNa make you like really triggered and really panicked but I guess what my suggestion is is to like look into those and look into like what people do too kind of re-claim spaces that they want to be in you know I think probably it's like some kind of combination of things which is like you know like maybe finding new church at least temporarily and like even if it's you know maybe it's not about this bizarre church maybe it's church at all and in which case like there's probably some unpacking to do around around just like the relationship in general because they think like I think it can be tough to like do these things in isolation especially when variance trauma it's like I I think it's probably not going to be just about finding away to be okay and church I think it's probably going to be like a bigger project of like processing what happened and then also working on the being in church stuff yet reclaiming your space is a great way the Christian friends there's other ways to still have that community without being retraumatize 'cause I don't want to make you think you have to be forced back into it right like it might take a few months years whatever and that's okay yeah I mean I find community in practice your faith and stuff like that but I think like you know if being in churches like a goal of yours without feeling anxious I think like you know for me like I have my anxiety reactions or my panic reactions are like exist on a spectrum it's like Oh for example like post breakup walking into a place that I might see my ex like maybe like on a scale of one to ten that's like a five whereas like walking into an airport is like an eleven and like a real you know what I mean and so like for you know airplane those those those strategies aren't really as useful to me because I'm already I'm so panicky like so anyway I'm seeing all that to say like you know think about how you feel like what what was your anxiety reaction was it like you know flop sweat stomach.
"vision board" Discussed on The Struggle Bus: Self-Care, Mental Health, and Other Hilarious Stuff
"Times before and as I will keep mentioning until I die we are in the midst of redoing the tears and figuring out some better things to get all of you that we can also commit to which is a tough sweet spot but we're getting there thank you for your patience we love you and please become a paper trend or not if you don't want to that's also fine Katherine we have a lot of different Javer we do so we We have some thoughts about Bernie Sanders and Elizabeth Warren and yet the elections and Yes yes so I put this in the dock 'cause I really wanted to well Catherine from being honest I wanted to shout into the mic about it and that's what I'm GonNa do so if you don't want to hear about politics fast forward one hundred and twenty three minutes but here's the thing so I'm not gonna I'm not here to talk about like who I WanNa vote for and who I like because it's not really what the is about and also just because I feel like I'm GonNa regret it because someone's going to end up being a monster and also supporting politicians is grotesque and I just I don't really want to talk about what I do WanNa talk about is that the obstacle for me with Bernie is that the people who like him are terrible and not all of them there's there's an ass risk their wishes to say definitely not all of them and you know it's you know I'm talking about like my timeline in what I see and so the that's obviously like a very select group and it's possible that I just follow more terrible people than I should also like who knows who are what what accounts are bought sentence interfere with our elections and who are real people but I will say I do follow some real people who are Bernie supporters and I've muted a lot of them the noxious ones not the not obnoxious ones there are a lot of wonderful progressives who have an intersectional perspective and appreciate the fact that Bernie has been up for various progressive causes for a long time and and I I was being funny for the purposes of comedy when I said that all of his supporters are terrible I Oh they're not I know they're not all terrible but listeners don't don't Addison Yeah I'm GonNa need you to do is at me like I there is this thing of seeing white people a lot of them are men explain to you why Bernie is better while also like dunking on other candidates who are like you know maybe not socialists but more less equally progressive and or like close to it or like you know who who who bring progressive ideas and policies to the conversation and it Bernie's whole thing is about how he's building a movement you know this this is about rearranging power relations this isn't just about you know who were electing it's about fundamentally changing who has power in this country and if that's what you're about which I think is dope then like are you really building with people if all you're doing is like dunking on them especially when they're they're essentially like their values are like between seventy and ninety percent like overlapping with yours and so like why dunk and I know that like there are people who support other candidates who are dunking a lot but I have to say the amount that I see Bernie supporters flexing on social media in obnoxious way it's just like it's like now we're not even having a conversation about anything useful were just like talking about why Bernie is so much better than everyone else and like I think it's fine for me I think that but the thing is that the thing that I see in the people who are into him is white people you know again a lot men but not all aways who who whose entire purpose in life is to explain to you why understanding class struggle is the most important thing you can do to change anything in this country and everything else comes second and they say they're intersectional and that may have raised analysis in gender analysis but like that hasn't I don't see that that often and again like I'm not talking about all Bernie supporters of this doesn't apply to you it doesn't apply but I just I just mean like I see it so much and I it makes me completely enraged and then one last thing and then I'm GonNa stop talking I just briefly so that you can another thing that I've seen people do and again like I have to say that I see it mostly with Bernie orders and look I would be indicting Warren supporters if I saw them being insufferable and look I do I do actually see some insufferable white women who Oh yes yes are are obnoxious in their support for Warren and I'm not GonNa say I don't see that but I just see the burning incense way way more but the thing that I've been seeing Bernie supporters do is whites Bernie supporters telling you who people of color are supporting in this way where it's like they're not really citing data so much as they are explaining to you that like their candidate is the one that black people in the United States really like six and not the other candidate and I just I feel this is a really bad space to occupy as a white person I think you know it's important to listen to collar and marginalized people and just anyone in this country who has a deeper analysis and a closer experience with oppression to to like I I want to know what they're thinking and we are thinking about who is going to make change in this country but that's really different than being like look the white person I'm here to tell you who black people in this country and lat next people in this country and generally people of color who they really like and who they're really supporting because it's it's such a weird cudgel to use to like bring other white I guess it's to like bring other white progressives to your side but it's like you're speaking for a lot of different communities and I've hidden a bunch of people on facebook who do this constantly I find it enraging and that's my rant Catherine Yeah so remember when I sent you the screen shots of attack message I have donated to Bernie in the AALST and obviously if he's the nominee were voting firm because you know anything but you know but I wrote back to the tax and I was like hey you know I I'd like to be taken off this text chain which by the way I wasn't and somebody came back at me immediately and they were like Oh but black women and women love him and I was like dude chill the fuck out and we got an actual courageous conversation about the way in which he was talking to me like I need to hear that like I can make decisions on my own you don't need to patronize me and the way in and he actually apologized and all that stuff and that's good now we're like dating I'm joking but it was a really intense text conversation and I was very upset because I'm like are is this how you're speaking to people and by the way anyone can support anyone this is not about that right it's more about how the conversation is happening and so when everyone everyone most people say to me but Bernie loves this and that it's like I get it but I can make my own decisions you don't need to me that Bernie loves women like we Ah yes I'm a woman I believe were of what what he does and I it's so it's so patronizing so right it's it's just not a way in which to do a campaign and I feel the members should tone it down a notch yeah man I I really had it with like progressives of all stripes being like trying to prove to you that their candidate is is the more is the truly authentically progressive one which it's not that like I don't think we should talk about who has like progressive values and policies but it sort of now is becoming like this thing where everyone is just I don't know man like no one is is like listening and learning and growing everyone is just like trying to tell you why the person they like right now is a way better choice than the person you like but not in a way that feels substantive like I keep I keep you know I sit down a computer like once or twice a day being like or I really want to have a deeper understanding of the the two candidates in this race who I find really compelling and I really WanNa like understand like the significant differences between them and stuff like that and you know some of it is like pretty the like pretty apparent and but then when you when you try to go deeper like even even like think pieces I find are written are they're coming at the place of like let me prove to you why this candidate is better than the other one as opposed to like an an exploration of both and and and and I know that there's like stuff out there that that I can find I'm sure there is but it it's really hard to find it because the conversation is just so like is just so much about like flexing and I don't know I've just I've had it with the Bernie brothers I really have and I know it's it's a tough world out there there's a lot of anger and division and stuff but I feel that the best way to not do that is to have those conversations and I agree with you completely that we need to have more of them and we're not actually talking about the fact that this is a job interview it's not a wrestling contest you know we need to constantly check the candidates people who are running like we need to look at it that way right there were for us on a pay their you know bills so look at it that way and I feel very weird when I meet all who see it as a contest it's not a contest it's we are all you know resolving who we want to be in having major power and representing us so therefore they need to hear us and as a result they have a job to do and there's no way in which that any of them are ever perfect and even if your candidate wins they're still working for you you have to you have to be judgmental you have to say hey that's not cool I voted for Obama right and get all you know he was pretty centrist on a lot of the things that I didn't agree with and you can say that out loud about being late yeah we won you know and I I loved him as a president because he was open minded and listen to the feedback but also felt that he didn't do the best job at some things and I can say that out loud and the second I talk about you know forty five his name 'cause I can't everyone's like oh because you're a Democrat it's like no it's because I'm a human being in the world who disagrees with the policy and I feel we don't enough talk about that you know we don't have to be divided the only reason I'm a registered Democrat is so I can vote in the primary that's literally the only reason because that's a rule and yes it's it's rough out there and we should really think about the the we're their bosses they're not the boss of us and this is not a cage match yeah yeah it's interesting that you're saying that I hadn't really thought about it from this perspective but like I also get really frustrated when People Cape for like podcast hosts that they're obsessed with our like celebrities that in it's like the I don't like they're never going to be your friends like you know like you you know when you like go to the Mat to like you know thank on someone who is like your person's perceived like enemy like you just you just look like a Ding Dong like yeah Bernie's not going to be your best friend like Joe Rogan is not GonNa notice that you're that you're like you know you know like preaching his nonsense in people's mentions you know and and not not to compare Joe Rogan but I say just like the like the white youngsters who are into who are into Bernie like the way they show up is just like I find it so super duper maddening and part of it is that you know I have this thing like you know just to be honest but what I'm bringing to this whole thing because you know we're all bring your own shit but like I have this thing about people sort of like I see it a lot in like gaming communities like non line like the way people are sort of like obsessed with defending the the like kind of I don't even know the hosts gamers that they think are like the best in the coolest and beyond reproach it's just like you're embarrassing yourself like you know hold these people countable like you know none of these people are going to be your friend like Bernie is not GonNa make you spokesperson or his field organizer because you're being shitty when someone mentions you know and you know I I'm like I'm very fixated on Bernie rose and like you're never going to hear me make this like trump's followers are Nazis so I'm not even Gonna I'm not GonNa go there either but and Hillary supporters are monsters in their own way but like so I guess I will talk about other people's supporters but I just the I don't know the the way in which Bernard Brothers get under my skin is so specific and you know it probably changed Bernard Brother Bernard brothers it I'm sure I'm sure it has something to do with the fact that like for forty years I've been trying to like escape white men explain inning to me why everything that they think is most important should be most important to me and I just I.
"vision board" Discussed on Dexter Guff is Smarter Than You (And You Can Be Too)
"Very excited for today's feature interview now this, somebody that I've been chasing around the speaking circuit for years now. And usually to one of us is opening for the other or the others opening for the other sometimes or both just talking at the same time because we've got flights to catch or whatever, but this is one of those conversations that's been, I've been meaning to have for a long time. I'm speaking about Dr Teresa, Beasley Dr TB's in the house. And it is a treat to have you on the program. She has written a definitive book on vision boarding for executives called vision board, the board by Dr Theresa, Beasley. So Dr Beasley Theresa teepee, welcome to the big show. So wonderful to be here. Thank you, for having me, finally, we're not doing this in an airport law. My good is that how many times have we been in an airport lounge absolutely shit faces it. I don't even remember where we're going. Care. Absolutely. We just get into those conversation. How do I remember one time running into out of buffet and then all of a sudden it was ten o'clock at night? I know I know because the food was gone, and we're gonna hold on a second. Bring back that pork back that, you know, that filet of pork or whatever they had was, what was that, now that was that was an admiral's club. I guess, in JFK, I believe, so do it right there. I mean, I have to say, you know, if you're gonna fly commercial, I'd, I'd certainly do it out of JFK, and on delta. Well, okay. Well, I shouldn't say that, obviously because I can't but even though it is true. I mean that is the truth. And I mean, what if we can't face the truth gets exactly we'll see if we can get some money on the back end for that plug. But I did want to do a little bit about specifically while you're so sought after into being circles, which is your work with a vision board. Absolute amazing. Well, this is the thing, the reason I am so sought after is because vision boards have been around, what couple of decades now I wouldn't know I really I mean, I know for me, personally, I've been on my radar for about six months. Been very powerful tool. Right. And good. And I am glad that you're seeing that in what I am bringing that as I'm taking vision boards to the next level the way people describe me as the vision board lady envision boards, were on crack. Do you know what I made script? Yeah. Absolutely thing on its ear, boy, lonely. I take them to the next level. I incorporate three dimensional objects onto the board. So is that something that's meant to? To hang on that board. Absolutely. Because a two dimensional board pictures from magazines or fine. You know. Powerful saying so but if you have something sticking out of that board and you walk by it, and it pokes you in the head or scratches, your arm to fork, or something. Absolutely. What are you going to do to own? Look what just scratch me. Exactly. Think about how powerful that is you're gonna look at what just scratched you way too sick. And so you're on. Somebody lived a fuse in the my brain just blew up. Right. So hold. Okay. So just for those that don't know vision boarding. Yeah. Because I want to start from there a vision boarding is you get that it's kind of like what you did in. I don't know. Fourth grade. Absolutely science. Fair clipping out some picks and putting it on a board. Did I do any Justice to that? You know, you have given it, you did Justice to the base. Okay. And that's what it is aboard some pictures with the purpose of manifesting what you want manifesting. I love that. Word all the time you. I should right? So and a lot of people, you know, it's magazines things. I also encourage people to cut out of books. Yes. Out of encyclopedias. It doesn't matter what the book is. You can cut that book up. It's just kind of nice to have the pieces of books on a board like that. Because it reminds you that you've read or the books are on your mind, exaggerate, you haven't read that. Yeah. Shows to other people, you know, that's a bunch of words from book. Absolutely. This is somebody's vision board, who who's reader reading books. This is one of the most important things about my book for CEO specifically because I don't just want that CEO looking at that board every day, I want every person who comes into their office to see that board. And if they see literature something from book, they go. Wait a minute. Does this CEO read books? Does he own books? Right. Do they have a library in this office? It just puts Vikas instantly, it sparks that mind if yeah. This CEO fear. She is read that book, what else if they read exactly? And the only way this. Board is going to work, and I need everyone to hear this is if you actually look at it and focus at what you're looking at so you don't want your vision, blurred. Make sure there's no gunk in your eyes. You want to have a clear if you wear contacts. I'd just putting them in guilty. Give those in those in putting some Zine, absolutely and just clear those those like bolts. Yeah. Exactly. And I want you looking in focusing on that board because a lot of people make vision boards. They put a lot of glitter on them. They put it up. And guess what they do and they never look at it again. Also, I shouldn't do that. So you should be looking at it. Okay. Where's your vision board right now answer me that? Ashamed to tell you, okay, it's in the bathroom. Okay. It was just it was just because that's one of those times right now. Well, I've got at least I mean I'm going to be in here for a couple of minutes. But that's not place that a lot of other people can see it. That's the problem. It's good in that you're going to see it every day. But we're does your competition? See it do your nemesis. See it are the people that you're trying to rise above two. They see how strong your vision is not unless you invite them over and offer them the use of your bathroom. No. Wanna ask you something about a vision boards for companies? That's you've spent so much time on that almost sort of the, the must have on any companies vision board. Are there some things that kind of guarantee you that pathway to the fortune five hundred world? Absolutely. I recommend a thousand dollar. Bill is the first thing that you need actual one. Or can we just do a replica or it's best if it's real? Yeah. You know what I mean? Because again, it just. Tells other people I'm not messing around ideal in thousands, Rachel. That's exhibit A. I also recommend a festive border for any company and I like it to be made out of the closing of the people in the company. So if you can get bills tie and a piece of Carol, skirt, you're really, what you're doing is you're, you're busy and build its team building. It's that's part of it. It's fun. Everybody come to the conference room. We're doing a dozen donuts and cut a piece of your clothing off. And we're making a vision board. I love. Yeah. Wow. Something something. No. How many see this is what I do every week. I'll, I'll change my board up because usually what happens for me is all put a vision together. If it's not done within seven days, I'm not doing it, right. You're our we'll do or, and I'll tell you right now usually most vision boards for me, it's basically a checklist Abang that out and about, you know, four or five hours and then on vision boards done. Yeah. So is that is that something that people should be doing is changing out of vision board on a regular base? Well, only if they complete the vision. I mean if they're doers like you and they're getting it done. If they're not if they do a vision board, and then all of a sudden, it's too hard, while boohoo Crimea river. You know what they should do? They should cry into a Kleenex and or into a tissue than put that tissue on the board. Right. Right. Reminders for boohooing that didn't get it done. Yeah. Exactly. Because if you start making new vision board, then you're, you're stuck in the grass, you're turning your wheels. You're, you're, you're stuck in the mud that's in the field where the grass is that's it. Because you shouldn't have been in there in the first place you thought you could turn around heads that were, you know, get a Subaru, if you're going to do that. And you know what? It was don't have that. That's true. But you know how you could take a picture of a Subaru put that on your vision, board and just, see, I tell people do this, I say, put them on your vision, and then go for a walk and then see how many Subaru's you see drive by. Wow. And I bet you're going to see one or two I want to ask this appropriate to give vision boards to make vision boards for somebody else because I've been making a couple for other people that. I just sort of feel like Africa a lot. I just, I just wish their life would change on been making. I've made one for Tammy my producer. Yeah. Sorry, tammy. But I have, and I don't know is that something that's appropriate. Can I make vision board for someone else just kind of throw it up in their face? You know what? Absolutely. Because, you know what it's their responsibility to do a counter vision board, if they don't like your vision, 'cause answer this question, if they're not gonna make a vision board for themselves, then then who is and I think the answer is you. I am for her right? Saying that Tammy in this scenario, should then vision board back to me, something, absolutely. So in a sense, we're having a communication by flashing each other our visions of who we want the other person to be absolutely and somewhere in the middle is the people, you're gonna be interesting. Right. So this is almost something that would work, even in personal relationships marriages, you know, you on my vision board, I have folded close. Please help out is what I would be. The saying that you. Yeah, it's the clearest message that a husband and wife or, or obviously not even same sex couples, it doesn't matter. Everybody can hate each other in, in marriage xactly. I'm clarify. Yes, it doesn't gender doesn't matter that partner, regardless of shared or not shared gender. You can just absolutely hate waking up to that face and have a vision for who you want them to be exactly. And I even encourage people if it is, as specific as I want you, my partner to change the way, you look than I encourage you to find a celebrity you'd like them to look, more, like somebody that, you know, in your personal life, like a neighbor that you can. Absolutely. No. She's just got that certain say qua- and just keep on. You know, here's a picture of Helen that, I took exactly this is her yesterday, and Gordon, exactly. And you had to take the picture of Helen and you had to you had to print, it, would you to produce it because, you know, that's that's extra effort. And when you're doing does, how much care to change your partner. Absolutely. And I think that's I mean, one almost loving things you can do is continually put in your partner's face what they should be like. Oh man, I wish this is information that I think would have been so helpful for me a now. Four marriages in. I think that this is one of those tools that probably it would have been helpful to have a in those relationships, you know, for those people that say these vision boards it's basically it's just child's play. It's basically dreaming with cutout pieces. How do you answer to that person because this is a tool for executives? Absolutely. It is a tool for executives and do you know what to those people who say, oh, I used to do this. Why do you think we did that in school? What do you think they were actually teaching us? They were getting us ready for the future. The day we started doing math and science that, that was the day. We stopped. We got on the wrong path. I'm telling you to go back to the basics of what actually works. This is just absolutely amazing. And I really do take that to heart to sort of go back to where it began. Exact now without safety scissors. Go back into those magazines get that construction paper or full scap and get those boards Abbas going and putting them in places where other people can see it so that you can rub their faces in. Yeah. Anyways, Dr Beasley, thank you so much for being on the program, and I already can think of some things that I'll be clipping out and putting on my bathroom mounted vision board..
"vision board" Discussed on Dexter Guff is Smarter Than You (And You Can Be Too)
"Are you kidding me on what was your biggest failure? And then let me guess I don't think you're ready on Dexter gove. And I'm smarter than you. Oh, right. So very, very excited that you my dear listener are with me today, a hope you're having an incredible day. And I hope that this makes it even better a very excited for today's program because my feature interview a little later in the program is with Dr Teresa Beasley Dr TB as, as they say, I think, Dr Teresa Beasley is one of the world's leading experts on vision boarding and how that can be used with your business or company. So we'll talk to Theresa a little later on vision boarding for executives. Very, very cool thing that all fortune five hundred executives I'm sure are doing so we will talk to Theresa Beasley a little later in the program. Also for those of you that have been listening for a while, you know, that my chins, Italian restaurant, which is my a partnership restaurant, a restaurant that I've started with my famous actor friend, a partner Rico. Tony cannot wait to open chins, Italian which is opening ferry very soon a delicious Italian food with a spin here in southern California. And so to that end I have my first ad for chins Italian cannot wait for you to sink your ears into this tasty plate of auditory sound. So Tammy a play the ad plays. From the hearts and minds of.
Armie Hammer ‘Handed at Least a Peach or 2’ Every Night From ‘Call Me By Your Name’ Fans (Video)
"It's recess. We're only halfway through the week and already there's been so much softcore treason at the highest levels of government. We may not be getting more ethical, but we are getting more efficient. Speaking of Watergate costs play. It's time for the entertainment news or as I like to call it. Your recess from the real news here we go share is making an entire album of Abba covers. Do you understand how jazz Diam for share to sing damn thing Queen to me every single day. Do you understand what an appreciable difference that will have on everything? One of my mornings. Thank you share. Thank you, Abba, and thank you to the sequined bell bottoms that I might order online in a share induced frenzy. It's not impulsive. If I wear them, you never know. I could get ask out to dinner by disco ball. I don't want to alarm you, but my vision board is working and. -ality is bending to my will, and I can tell because Tiffany haddish and rose Byrne are starring in a buddy comedy together. That's Tiffany haddish. The currently reigning Queen of comedy. We talk about the Elizabethan era and the Victorian era. This is the hood, Ashi an era, and then rose Byrne who is low key one of the funniest actors alive. Have you seen bridesmaids recently? Let's all watch it again. Don't go to work. Turn your car around. I'll get you a new job with the dark art of my vision board. Jessica Biel is closing her chocolate shop slash restaurants, slash daycare. What's that? You say you don't understand what any of that is me, neither. Let's explore it like Dora. So two years ago, Jessica Biel decided to start a business presumably because even though she is not strapped for cash, she wants something to pour her energy into, and I'm sure she needs a break from her husband, Justin Timberlake, because let's be real. He's kind of a lot. It occurs to her that sometimes adults with young children would like a moment to themselves to eat a chocolate in peace. So she opens a restaurant called, oh, fudge with a fancy daycare at tach where you can pay a nanny to watch your children while you eat Jessica Biel brand chocolates. It was called fudge and it's closing now, but in osage camp still exists, which I'm imagining as just a bunch of kids playing in that chocolate river from willy Wonka with Jessica Biel halfheartedly lifeguarding no splashing you guys. I was on seventh, heaven Armie hammer the actor whose face looks like his name sounds way to keep it on brand. Armie hammer says that fans of his movie called me by your name, keep giving him peaches to sign. So that's army hammers life. Now he stars in an Oscar nominated film, and now he has to spend every day wondering whether the peach he's been handed is. Filled with some random fans. DNA artist full of sacrifice today in fashion news. The fashion industry is reportedly becoming increasingly focused on speed as in rushing to meet a new demand as soon as it surfaces beta brand CEO, Chris Linlin says, quote, attention span is short. So if you can develop and create a short time, you can be a real product development machine and quote. That's cool. Chris, did you maybe hear what I said about sequent bell-bottoms before name your price? Money is no object as long as it's less than twenty dollars. I have the balloon Basang in my head now. So see you soon. Nightmares. Take care guys. I've Olympia heroin and I will catch you next time until then recess journ. The podcast you just heard was published with anchor, got something you want to say to the creator of the show, send them a voice message using the anchor app free for IOS and Android.