26 Burst results for "Victim Blaming"
"Of the questions I receive in the mail. These days are from people who have a difficult time setting boundaries in Buddhist bootcamp I mentioned that Wild Buddhism certainly encourages us to be tolerant and accepting tolerance does not mean accepting what is harmful and sports terms what we designate harmful considered out of bounds, and everything else is fair play. Unfortunately, many leaders are still unsure where to draw the line whether we. We do it intentionally or not. We regularly enter into agreements with everyone in our lives. We decide what's acceptable. What isn't and what's open for discussion? The boundaries we set become the rules of the game by which we play. I'm not sure if the laws have changed since I was a paralegal in the nineties, but if you were a landlord back then with attendant, who signed a rental agreement to pay you? You a thousand dollars a month for example, but then you accepted a check from them for only five hundred, because they couldn't come up with the full amount one month, the law said that you cashing the check effectively voided the written contract and entered into a new verbal agreement, in which the new rent is suddenly only five hundred, then when landlords tried to take their tenants to core for back pay the. The judge always said if anything less than a thousand was unacceptable. Why did you accept five hundred and Buddhist terms? What you allow is what will continue you teach people how to treat you when you accept certain behavior, the first problem presents itself when people think setting boundaries means controlling someone else's behavior, but the rules are your own to designate yours to honor when I set personal boundaries for example I do. Do it to control my own. Well, being by limiting my exposure to what I consider harmful, my route motivation is self, love and preservation not control or manipulation. If I choose not to be around smoke or alcohol, for example, I'm not telling other people what to do. I'm choosing what I want to be around. One person may be perfectly happily married to someone who a glass of wine with dinner every night. Night but I wouldn't even go on a single date with a drinker that is my personal boundary based on what I consider harmful, and that's the problem we come across. People's definition of harmful tends to oscillate between extremes on the one hand. Some people consider anything that is mildly unknowing or slightly uncomfortable as harmful, and that just makes them intolerant of almost everyone and everything, and if that sounds like you, please. Please consider the possibility that the problem isn't other people, but rather your short fuse yet on the other extreme. Some don't think anything. Short of physical abuse is harmful. Never assume that any two people have the same threshold for what's off limits we decide and convey what's acceptable when we choose to accept it when it comes to setting boundaries, it's important to think about what it is. Our boundaries are designed to. To protect so imagine there are two beings or entities inside of you, there's the ego within, and there's divinity within our precious little egos demand respect from others and thrive on other people's approval while the divine, or has plenty of self respect that doesn't rely on anyone or anything external. When we have self loved, nothing can harm us, and there's nothing we need to safeguard so the next time you feel. Ask Yourself. What am I protecting morality or my ego, and the smallest nutshell possible confronting people who upset US instead of confronting our Egos is like blaming the rain for soaking US instead of using an umbrella when talking about boundaries think of them as agreements or contracts that you impose upon yourself, not restrictions you put on others keep in mind, however that if you don't communicate your personal boundaries with people, and then they cross a line, it's not their fault for not knowing. Knowing where you draw the line, can you imagine a rental agreement without a set payment amount or any sport without designated field boundaries are essential ultimately what we put up with his what we end up with, and I'm not victim blaming, I'm intent on all of us acknowledging our self worth as well as the value of our time energy in her piece and safe-space, define your boundaries and stick to them with conviction were talking about your divinity hereafter. All don't ignore it. Is, a thousand a month, and you accept less. You're effectively saying that less is acceptable, but let's step away from the metaphor for a minute. Okay, if you actually are a landlord and your tenant is one of the millions who have lost their jobs due to the pandemic, if it won't cause you any harm to reduce their rent for a while, then by all means, treat them the way. You would like to be treated if you were in there shoes. We are soldiers of peace in the Army of love. Our mission is to reduce suffering. Suffering in the world, whenever and however we can, so yes, we are taught to be tolerant and accepting, but remember tolerance does not mean accepting what is harmful define what harmful means to you and you will be one step closer to setting healthy boundaries
"Most of the questions I receive in the mail. These days are from people who have a difficult time setting boundaries in Buddhist bootcamp I mentioned that Wild Buddhism certainly encourages us to be tolerant and accepting tolerance does not mean accepting what is harmful and sports terms what we designate harmful considered out of bounds, and everything else is fair play. Unfortunately, many leaders are still unsure where to draw the line whether we. We do it intentionally or not. We regularly enter into agreements with everyone in our lives. We decide what's acceptable. What isn't and what's open for discussion? The boundaries we set become the rules of the game by which we play. I'm not sure if the laws have changed since I was a paralegal in the nineties, but if you were a landlord back then with attendant, who signed a rental agreement to pay you? You a thousand dollars a month for example, but then you accepted a check from them for only five hundred, because they couldn't come up with the full amount one month, the law said that you cashing the check effectively voided the written contract and entered into a new verbal agreement, in which the new rent is suddenly only five hundred, then when landlords tried to take their tenants to core for back pay the. The judge always said if anything less than a thousand was unacceptable. Why did you accept five hundred and Buddhist terms? What you allow is what will continue you teach people how to treat you when you accept certain behavior, the first problem presents itself when people think setting boundaries means controlling someone else's behavior, but the rules are your own to designate yours to honor when I set personal boundaries for example I do. Do it to control my own. Well, being by limiting my exposure to what I consider harmful, my route motivation is self, love and preservation not control or manipulation. If I choose not to be around smoke or alcohol, for example, I'm not telling other people what to do. I'm choosing what I want to be around. One person may be perfectly happily married to someone who a glass of wine with dinner every night. Night but I wouldn't even go on a single date with a drinker that is my personal boundary based on what I consider harmful, and that's the problem we come across. People's definition of harmful tends to oscillate between extremes on the one hand. Some people consider anything that is mildly unknowing or slightly uncomfortable as harmful, and that just makes them intolerant of almost everyone and everything, and if that sounds like you, please. Please consider the possibility that the problem isn't other people, but rather your short fuse yet on the other extreme. Some don't think anything. Short of physical abuse is harmful. Never assume that any two people have the same threshold for what's off limits we decide and convey what's acceptable when we choose to accept it when it comes to setting boundaries, it's important to think about what it is. Our boundaries are designed to. To protect so imagine there are two beings or entities inside of you, there's the ego within, and there's divinity within our precious little egos demand respect from others and thrive on other people's approval while the divine, or has plenty of self respect that doesn't rely on anyone or anything external. When we have self loved, nothing can harm us, and there's nothing we need to safeguard so the next time you feel. Ask Yourself. What am I protecting morality or my ego, and the smallest nutshell possible confronting people who upset US instead of confronting our Egos is like blaming the rain for soaking US instead of using an umbrella when talking about boundaries think of them as agreements or contracts that you impose upon yourself, not restrictions you put on others keep in mind, however that if you don't communicate your personal boundaries with people, and then they cross a line, it's not their fault for not knowing. Knowing where you draw the line, can you imagine a rental agreement without a set payment amount or any sport without designated field boundaries are essential ultimately what we put up with his what we end up with, and I'm not victim blaming, I'm intent on all of us acknowledging our self worth as well as the value of our time energy in her piece and safe-space, define your boundaries and stick to them with conviction were talking about your divinity hereafter. All don't ignore it. Is, a thousand a month, and you accept less. You're effectively saying that less is acceptable, but let's step away from the metaphor for a minute. Okay,
Hollywood moment: Harvey Weinstein's sentencing
"Today. The disgraced Hollywood producer. Harvey Weinstein will be sentenced last month. He was convicted of rape and criminal sexual assault and faces up to twenty nine years in prison. Prosecutors have urged the judge to consider what they called a lifetime abuse towards others even though for most of those alleged abuses. Mr Weinstein has never been charged. His lawyers have petitioned for the minimum sentence of five years saying that any longer could constitute a defacto life sentence after Mr Weinstein conviction the Manhattan district attorney Cyrus Vance Junior said. The change had come to America. This is a big day. This is a new day and I hope women will will understand the significance of the jury verdicts. Today is. Optimism was echoed. By some of Mr Weinstein's accusers and their lawyers is a historic. I never thought I would see in my lifetime. Change has come today. I have a message for Harvey for all of Users Rape Myth perpetuators victim blaming and knows retaliated against sets. This one's for you. Your time is up. The allegations against him formed at the start of the metoo movement very public example of what remains troublingly hidden kind of crime. It would be easy to see his conviction and imprisonment as a high point for me to next. He'll face charges in Los Angeles for crimes. He continues to deny. Just how much any of these cases will change. Things is far from clear hustling surprised. Sasha Economists Public Policy Editor Mr Watson case certainly wasn't a slam dunk. Some people may have had that impression but it was by no means a straightforward case. These sorts of trials of radio really complex and in addition is to watch team faced accuser's stories straightforward. In a way they were very representative of a lot of these cases in the sense that they fit coach. Roy Do rape in being something that happens with a lot of force and a ski mosque by Stranger instead. These women told stories of complex relationships including ongoing contacts with Mr Weinstein off to the souls and typically juries have really struggled with this kind of cases in fact most of those cases that make it anywhere need a jury and to that extent. Actually very atypical case. Because of course Mr. One Steen's case as well as the accusations have all played out very very publicly of in multiple accusers. Zubin spelled out in the media. One thing that made it question unusual case is that the judge allowed extra witnesses women who would not pass the charges against Mr Weinstein to nevertheless testify over previous aqel bad acts that they had experienced at his hands. Allegedly it certainly was quite controversial. May well be part of the grounds of a possible appeal by Mr Weinstein team. And what would that appeal? Look like it's Hampson. No I mean concerns have been raised about whether Mr Watson could have affected trial in given all the media attention publicity particularly in New York City before the trial. His team tried very hard to get. The trial moved to somewhere where they thought he might face a forgiving jury that was thrown out. This is a long process. Take easy setup two year and I guess one of the questions now that people Rossi's while is he gonNA get out to bail can continue to monitor while that process is ongoing which is has begun wanted to run up to his trial. So you say the result is a bit surprising and and certainly prosecutors and plenty of commentators have held it up as a sort of watershed moment is a sort of a apotheosis of the of of the metoo movement that essentially was launched. By by these cases. What's your take on that I think? The watershed which is an awful lot immediately after the valid. And I understand it. I mean this was a high stakes trial. Which the Manhattan. Da. Couldn't afford to lose so they threw themselves out this only on the hands. I think as as many celebrity trials we have to be careful with Conclusions hair. I hope it will be a watershed moment. There's an awful lot wrong with how sexual. Violence is is investigated and prosecuted. But I have my doubts. I think the the real test will come when single women also group of women come forward to accuse somebody of rape without the media attention right without. Will the inefficacious if you will of the accuser has been an awful lot of emphasis on how powerful Mr Weinstein is but his accusers. Happen quite powerful as well. Essentially they had public opinion rooting for them. And I think the real test of whether the the Weinstein verdict will have a BRUDER EFFECTS. On how serious criminal? Justice Systems. Juries take these kind of complex claims will only come when we see an everyday victim. Come forward with with a typical claim of sexual assault. So what you're essentially saying. There is that celebrity. Justice is fundamentally different. I mean why do you suppose? That is I- celebrity justice in general is just is only certain. Becerra was it is just different from normal justice putting old big bright lights and attention onto someone being accused in this case Mr Weinstein. That's a typical way of injustice remedy a J Simpson trial which was essentially works like a soap opera. Essentially didn't have that much impact with how of the mothers were investigated then tried in Los Angeles and I think the same will be the case with the wider significance of the wanting conviction. Today that said there is of course important symbolic function to mocking. Somebody like Mr Weinstein up and holding his feet to the fire. So I said he wouldn't diminish the symbolic importance of seeing someone powerful like him wrote into a cooled. Convicted unlocked. Up is just going to be careful with suggesting that. Will the other huddles that stand? In the way of getting justice for everyday victims have now disappeared. I mean the one distinction here between Mr Weinstein's case and the OJ Simpson case is that Mister Simpson was was acquitted whereas Mr Weinstein has been convicted. Don't you think that that at least has sort of knock on effect sort of casts a shadow over over future cases gives future jurors a sense that That that there is an example being set there. Yeah maybe I mean future jurors in reminded with this case that rape doesn't look the way they think looks so it's been very helpful to have this very public lesson. If you will in rape myths that rape is a complex crime that said we pull people every year on their attitudes dissection. Rasmussen doing that. Insensitive metoo movement took off. And in that we don't really see much of a change in public attitudes to sexual harassment and indeed in America way would have hoped that reporting rates of sexual violence had increased most under reported binding crimes often me to after an initial bump reporting rates of back down to what they were before me to see. Let's see what happens next year. You know it always takes a while to get the kind of data but be careful with two inches at this point.
Male Survivors of Sexual Assault and Abuse
"We have Dr Amy and Dr Joan Cooke. Amy is a licensed clinical psychologist and the assistant director of the trauma. Resolution and integration program at Nova Southeastern University and Joan is a clinical psychologist and associate professor in the Yale School of Medicine. Department of Psychiatry. Amy Joan welcome to the show. Thank you happy to be here. Thank you well. I am very glad to have both of you because we have a really big topic today. We're going to be discussing male survivors of sexual abuse and assault. And I'm a little bit embarrassed to admit when we first started putting together this episode. I thought to myself is this a subject that we need to cover. Is it big enough? Aren't we already discussing it and the research that I did in the stuff that I learned from both of us? Thank you very much is that it's actually sort of under disgust and under reported absolutely and thank you. Gabe for admitting to that I think a lot of healthcare providers a lot of the public and many male survivors themselves adhere to a number of male rape myths. We need to talk in this country. About how rape and sexual assault of boys and men not only possible but actually occurs at high rates. If I could share with you just a snippet of how frequent it occurs. Please please got my next question. What are the prevalence rates? Okay so I think a lot of people don't know this but at least one in six boys are sexually abused before their eighteenth birthday one in six and this number rises to one in four men who were sexually abused across their lifespan. That's too many obviously. Any number is too many absolutely but that stat blew me away at the start of my research for this episode. I believe that the number was half a percent like it was just ridiculously low and I think that's because let's face it people don't report sexual assault. Both men and women don't tend to report it to law enforcement agencies to the FBI. We just don't have good crime. Statistics on these. Why SHAME EMBARRASSMENT? Minimization and people not believing survivors. You know a lot of the research and the clinical scholarship that we have on sexual abuse including the development and testing of psychosocial interventions really focuses on women. And that's important for sure absolutely but men and boys who experienced sexual abuse. They're out there. And they're largely overlooked they're stigmatized or shamed by the public and sometimes by healthcare professionals. It's just not acceptable. I also notice that pop culture covers everything. But this is not atropine pulp culture. We see the sexual assault of women in law and order. Svu In primetime television week after week and marathons all weekend. But I can't really think of any pop culture representation of sexual assault rape or trauma in pop culture at all outside of that one movie from the seventies with the Banjo and that's regarded as like a horror movie. And do you think that this plays into the public dismissing sexual assault on men and boys absolutely? So what you're picking up on is that this really just isn't represented. We have amazing celebrities that come out like Tyler. Perry who disclose sexual abuse. But it's not often enough and it's often with a lot of snarky comments. That are written a lot of trolling a lot of other things. And I think this really speaks to the toxic masculinity that's present in our society. The idea that men should be able to ward off sexual abuse or they're quote unquote not real men and that's something that kind of pervades even around more kind of socially correct politically cracked people. It's still that idea of like grow side or just step up. Or How could you let this happen? It's still a lot of victim blaming that. I know women face as well but I think even more so around men which just signals to us that there's an issue in terms of how we view masculinity in general as a society. I feel that we should point out that. Of course we're not contrasting and comparing male to female assault and sexual abuse in any sort of competitive nature. It's just that we WANNA make sure that everybody gets the help that we need and your research has determined that there's a lot of men that aren't getting the support that they need. I mean anybody who was sexually abused or sexually assaulted raped deserves good care. And the fact that your research is determined that a lot of men being left out of this conversation is obviously very problematic. I appreciate that very much gay because sometimes and this is what we've heard from survivors to sometimes when they go to survivor meetings. You know they are seeing a perpetrators instead of survivors of violence themselves. And so they're not as welcome at the survivor table or some survivor tables. And then even when they go to some providers providers or said like you know. It's not possible that you were assaulted or you must be gay. You must've wanted it. And so all of those myths and stereotypes keep people from getting the help that they need and deserve and working on their path to healing. And also like you said it is not a competition. Everyone deserves this kind of validation and attention and help improving their lives. I could not agree. More amy and John. Let's get into the meat of your research one of the first questions that I have is. What are the differences in prevalence rates and clinical presentations of men and women with sexual assault abuse? Histories aren't vastly different as I mentioned earlier. It's one in six men before their eighteenth birthday and then that number increases to one in four women do have higher rates the CDC estimates that one in three women experience sexual assault or violence in their lifetime the presentation the PTSD. The substance abuse the depression anxiety. The suicidal aviation seem somewhat similar. Both sets of sexual abuse survivors experience. It it seems to US clinically. That there are some very prominent psychological. Symptoms that men have that don't fit neatly into our diagnostic classification system. So oftentimes with men who've experienced sexual abuse we see intense anger and it's always there and it's always seething but it particularly comes out when they're feeling threatened or portrayed. We see a lot of shame a lot of feeling damaged and worried about their masculinity we see quite a bit of sexual dysfunction including low sex drive erectile problems. There's a lot of chronic pain difficulties with sleeping and believe it or not. You know we don't talk a lot about men who have eating disorders or difficulties but see that as well including some negative body image one thing also that we don't talk about and probably too because this carries some shame is that we see higher rates of sexually transmitted infections increased sexual risk for HIV and higher sexual compulsivity. And so I think when they present to US clinically and if they're not acknowledging a sexual abuse history and not because of their own shame though that could be it could also be. They haven't been able to acknowledge it. Or label it accurately themselves and then connect that experience to the symptoms that they're having that I think we're treating them for other difficulties instead of what's really driving their symptoms so they're getting inadequate treatment. What are some of the barriers that men face in disclosing sexual abuse and their sexual assault histories? Well I think it goes back to that concept of toxic masculinity and so. There's a lot of cultural influences. So you know men are supposed to be powerful and invulnerable and there's this idea that men should always welcome sexual activities. So you've kind of got this just societal barrier around people wanting to come forward and I think also it boils down to the consequences of disclosure. So are people going to regard your sexual orientation makes some sort of assumption that because you were sexually assaulted or you must have wanted it or it says something about you. It could even just be about the risk factors involved coming forward and wondering if you're gonNA actually more violence or more discrimination as a result so there's a lot of negativity there a lot to be afraid of in terms of coming forward and that disclosure. John had alluded to it earlier as well. If you're going to your doctor and your doctor also believes in these things you might be repeatedly getting shot down. And so- disclosure just isn't a safe option. I mean honestly. It also boils down to a lack of resources or lack of awareness of certain resources. There's a few nonprofits out there that are dedicated to working with masculine identified individuals. And you have to know that. There's a trauma and in order to seek out these resources a lot of men wouldn't use the label of. I've been traumatized I've been sexually abused. They just don't use that language so really trying to capture men and their experiences and then having them be aware of of what might be out there for them.
Harvey Weinstein trial: Defense witnesses dispute accusers' accounts
"With closing arguments and Harvey Weinstein's trial all about to start we catch up with a reporter who's been in the courtroom then. Her surprisingly modern film portrait of a lady on fire. Selene CRI wanted wanted to tell a story of women in the seventeen. Hundreds when asked the experts like a hallway women doing with the period of time. How are they handling abortion? At the time they know everything thing about the hair. They knew everything about how I should dress and behave the didn't do much about their privacy and we'll explore the sonic wonders of Ambien Church. That's today today on the frame. We'll be right back. Harvey Weinstein's defense team rested its case in State Supreme Court in in Manhattan yesterday the outcome of the trial hinges on six women who testified in court that Weinstein sexually assaulted or raped them the five felony. The charges against the producers stemmed from the allegations of only two of those women. Those charges include rape criminal sexual assault and predatory sexual assault. The last last which carries the possibility of a life sentence variety senior correspondent Elizabeth Wag. BICESTER has been following the case. She laid out the allegations of the two main accusers accusers. One of the women. Her name is Mimi Khaleej He. She is alleging that Harvey Weinstein assaulted her and that was from an an incident in two thousand six now the other woman. Her name is Jessica Man but we didn't know about her prior to trial started. She was Jane Doe and we didn't well her name or her story until she testified and she is alleging that Harvey Weinstein raped her and sexually assaulted her over the course of many in years during many different occasions. So what has been the core argument presented by the government in its choice of an questioning of witnesses including wounding several other women who described a pattern of alleged assaults committed by Harvey Weinstein or presenting a case that shows the Harvey Weinstein was not justice of sexual harassment sexual assault or rape once twice or three times. They are showing that he has a pattern of sexual title predatory assault now. Even though all of these charges stem from two women largely there have been multiple women who have comment according flip testified. Now the reason that that has been done so that the prosecutors can establish a pattern and the judge allowed women to take the stand to testify justify to help establish the pattern their card mall now witnesses and even though charges do not stem from their account they have taken the stand and told the jury what they allege Harvey Weinstein did to them and it's worth noting that what they said happened to them happened too long ago to be used directly in a case in New York against Weinstein so the defense rested yesterday they did not call Harvey Weinstein as a witness. What was the thrust of their defense strategy? Yeah so the rest of the defensive strategy was essentially to make these women appear as if they were opportunistic and as if they wanted their own benefit they wanted career advancement they wanted personal access from Harvey Weinstein. Of course Harvey Weinstein has said from from the very beginning of any allegations that all sexual encounters have been consensual. He has maintained that his defense of course has maintained that and his defense pence is trying to poke holes in these women's stories and they've done so by showing evidence of text messages of phone logs of emails that depict the women and stay in constant communication with Weinstein after they alleged. They were assaulted. We're talking with varieties. Elizabeth Wagner about the trial of Harvey Weinstein. One one of Harvey Weinstein's defense lawyer gave an interview to the New York Times as Megan twohey in which she suggested that sexual assaults are basically and I'm using in her words now that blame rests equally between the person who is being assaulted and the person committing the assault. I think women need to be very prepared prepared. For the circumstances they put themselves in and I think absolutely women should take on equal risk. That men are taking on and the responsibility responsibility should be equal as well as that been mirrored and how they have questioned witnesses at cross examination. It absolutely has that interview. That Weinstein's lead attorney Johnnie Gave certainly made waves A lot of people have said that she is a victim shaming and victim blaming while in court when she she stands up in Cross examines these women what she has said is you kept emailing him. You stay in constant communication with him. Are you really telling the ladies as in the gentlemen of the jury that the man that you call your rapist is also the man that you email to make sure that he had your new phone number in court. Though when many of these women have taken the stand they have explained to the jury. The only reason they went to a hotel is because Harvey Weinstein said. Please meet me in the hotel lobby for a business meeting. So they went under the understanding. They were meeting him for a business meeting and then they were lured off into a hotel room and brought into a situation said that they did not believe they would run into. I think it's also fair to say that rape experts have said that victims sometimes remain on hourly good terms with their assailants after the assault. It also seems that many of the women not only believe that Harvey Weinstein was interested in helping their careers but also feared what would happen to them if they spoke out about what happened. Yes so all of these women on the stand they have said that. Not only did they think that harvey could help them with their career because that's exactly what he said when they first met him. You know that he said to Alabama you know you're an actress. I think you're great for this lead role. Why don't you come in meet? Meet me at this hotel to read a script but they also said not only were they hopeful of the career advancement that Harvey might be able to give them but that they also feared fear that if they spoke out that they would be blacklisted from Hollywood he would ruin any chance of career entertainment that they would have so as the the government and the defense lawyers put on their closing arguments. And the jury's begins its deliberations is the fundamental question whether or not these encounters were consensual. Is that what it comes down to. Absolutely I mean this is a case ultimately of he said she said the the big question is was. This consensual wasn't not in. There is a lot of gray the area none of this is cut and dry in fact only one of the accusers ceased all communication with him after she alleges she was assaulted so there is gray area here because the question remains why did these women keep in contact with him and were they trying to advance their careers by complying with his requests. And that's all down to
Ken Starr Baylor University Scandal
"Ken Starr is best known for his investigation that helped lead to the impeachment of president Bill Clinton and now he'll be playing a part in the defense of president trump during his impeachment trial in between these chapters in presidential impeachment store worked for six years as president of Baylor University in Texas which is the nation's largest Baptist university and where he was forced out over his handling of sexual assault scandals we're joined now by Paula Levin an investigative reporter for ESPN who wrote a book about the scandal welcome thank you so I want you to bring us back to twenty ten when Ken Starr first became president of Baylor University what brought him there like what were the university's aspirations when they picked him to lead them was an interesting choice I mean he was not someone who had history with with Baylor but he was a big name and they were looking to raise their profile and to raise more money for the university and thought that bringing him in would would really appeal to the donors and he had a Christian background it was a very important aspect for how they ran the university and they were really hoping that he could bring them into the next chapter will publicity is certainly what thank god in twenty fifteen when things drastically changed when scandal first hit the national headlines because a football player at Baylor was convicted of sexual assault can tell us what happened there right so football player Sam echo what she was convicted of sexual assault and why it raise some eyebrows more so than some other cases was that he had previously been cleared by university investigation which actually would have a lower burden of proof in a criminal conviction and what the media and others came up with were additional reports of sexual assaults involving football players that led to an internal investigation and then what the media and those investigators found was that Baylor's failure to address sexual violence was not just a problem with the football program it was a campus wide issue that even getting worse over the years women being silenced victim blames retaliated against this so this leads to may twenty sixteen the border regions decides to fire head football coach art Briles they suspend the athletic director and they demote Ken Starr he'd later that summer steps down from all of his rolls of Baylor and departs so what do we know about whatever personal role Ken Starr had in this scandal did he play personal well I think Ken Starr's role was one of someone who was responsible for making sure that this got addressed to Baylor bites dropped the ball on that a good example of that is that federal guidelines required the university to appoint someone to title nine coordinator and so he does that but he gives that job to someone who was handling human resources and who already had a full time job and who's not really equipped to to deal with that just doesn't make it a priority does what's in his position that he didn't know so many women were coming forward with reports of sexual sorrow he didn't know what happened to those reports of sexual assault well right so after this all played out that's it that's what he was saying is like I wasn't aware that all of this was happening and how serious this all was and a lot of what happened with his discussions and and the border regions when he was demoted has not come out because they've both sides agreed to keep silent about a lot of that but at the end of the day no one has ever come forward and said that he specifically knew about a case of sexual assault that he covered after that he had a role in covering up and and that is important it's more that he was sort of out to lunch on the issue big picture so what is Baylor University done to address the culture that led to the scandal I would say that there are people who say it hasn't gone far enough and that there are still issues I mean I they did have a massive turnover best you know Ken Starr leaving athletic director Briles and then after that it and number of other people at lower levels but I think something that's important to mention is that they're still alive loose sense of this there are multiple women who filed title nine gender discrimination lawsuits against Baylor some of those are still pending but another thing to keep in mind is that there were a number of entities that launched investigations including the US department of education and that investigation is still
Harvey Weinstein trial set to begin next week
"The sexual misconduct trial of disgraced movie mogul Harvey Weinstein begins next week one person though who has accused him of abuse will not be in the courtroom advocate and actress rose McGowan had once said she would be at any trial but now says the fallen Hollywood mogul because you're so much pain she can't verify it for me and I think for so many of us in this there's been so many levels and I think there are for so many women and victims that go through the system break going getting a rape kit collected that's like a horror movie the whole thing's a horror movie Allen said Weinstein deserves a fair trial like anyone else but says she expects his defense team will be victim blaming the allegations against wind screen Steen sparked the me too
Judge favored leniency in rape case because of teen's "good family"
"To New Jersey judges have come under fire for their handling of rape cases one asking whether a sixteen year old Eagle Scout quote from a good family end of quote should face serious consequences over a video recorded assault on an intoxicated teenager another judge ask whether a twelve year old girls loss of virginity constituted serious harm the comments which follow other cases of perceived leniency towards sex offenders with privileged backgrounds lead victim advocates to question whether these judges are sufficiently trained to handle assault cases in the meat to era Patricia tefan heart the executive director of the New Jersey coalition against sexual assault said survivors worst fears are now coming to life they're fearful of victim blaming or having the crimes committed against them being minimized Monmouth County judge James Troiano said in his opinion the Eagle Scout charged with assaulting the sixteen year old it up a Java party had a good test scores and was on track to attend a top college thanks for listening to USA radio
"victim blaming" Discussed on News Talk 1130 WISN
"This nonstop victim blaming the nonstop passing off of blame in passing the buck on everything that has nothing to do with whether an individual human being succeeds or fails then if you start there you might actually value human being children mom's parents you might actually value people enough that you would do something more than kick around in a steering committee nobody's going to attend nonsense it will do exactly nothing you would think that the common council president who is a black man from milwaukee would actually think about this stuff and say you know what enough of this doublespeak enough of this political salesmanship i want real solutions we have a problem with us t._d. exposure in the milwaukee public schools what are we gonna do about that what are we going to do about the problem with young people spreading sexually transmitted diseases what are we going to do about the problem with the fact that most of these young people cannot affectively fill out a job application to be considered for the abundance of opportunities we have in a strong economy like wisconsin what are we going to do to protect innocent people from the roving marauding band of thugs that will cruise through their neighborhood making all of them feel unsafe what are we going to do about all of the drugs and all of the crime and all of the violence in the city of milwaukee how are we going to solve this problem so that the lion's share of people who would actually like to have a shot an opportunity could actually grab that opportunity if it presented itself to them this is why 'cause you know that's not gonna happen bob if you're listening you know that's not going to happen it's never going to happen it's never gonna happen because nobody gets paid to conduct a research project to devise a policy advice document to be presented to a council steering committee that says here's what you gotta do it's really simple we gotta find a way to strengthen the nuclear family we have to teach marriage in schools we have to teach basic health and hygiene lessons to people who presumably are not being exposed to it and we have to make sure that everybody who exits the school system can read and do math grade levels that they have an opportunity to make something of themselves and while we're at it we're going to need to increase the number of police we have in the streets we're going to need to increase the amount of jail space that we have we're going to need to increase the amount of juvenile detention space we have because if we don't do any of that than the people who are victims of the decay and the misery those people are never going to have an opportunity to actually sees those those those chances that come before them from time to time this never going to happen because nobody gets paid to create a document like that nobody gets paid to talk about how the problem isn't racial equity in the problem isn't social justice the problem actually is dysfunction of government to the point where it gets in the way of human prosperity pack to energize your career nuclear security enterprise is hiring the national nuclear.
Prince Philip writes apology to car crash victims, blames sun
"Prince Philip who is ninety seven has written to two women who were injured a few weeks ago when he had a car crash. He says it happened because he was blinded by the sun the queen's husband acknowledges, they're very distressing experience and says he wants them to know how very sorry. He is the was driving near the queen's estate when his Land Rover at the other car and flipped over. He says the accident left him very shaken but greatly. Relieved. The women were not seriously injured many are questioning whether the prince should be driving at his age.
"victim blaming" Discussed on That's What She Said with Sarah Spain
"Here's why you're doing that. Right. Here's why society overtime has sort of taught us all even women to question what she did to bring it on herself. Instead of understanding that there is no vulnerability without danger. You cannot be endanger unless somebody me. Means to harm you. So that be the fault of the victim. They're not doing something that inevitably as dangerous walking having a drink wearing a short skirt. It's only dangerous because someone means them harm. And I think that's probably a huge part of it for you to is to cut through honestly decades of society, teaching all of us. There's this is where we want the finger. Yeah. Yeah. And and I talked to the young men about that. I talked to them about how you know, when I was when I was gang raped the first thing I did when I walked out of that -partment would start blaming myself. And the reason I did that I think is because as a woman, you know, we're talking a very very small h how to protect ourselves and how to protect ourselves from men. So I did is I went through this checklist. In my mind of all the things I've been told to keep myself safe. Check your drink always be with a friend. You know, all these things, and I went through, and I and I checked off what I didn't do and what I did wrong. And then I blamed myself it didn't occur to me. Not even once after I walked out apartment that. I don't deserve to be drugged and gang rapes that I did nothing wrong that I'm allowed to beat her friend's house. I'm allowed to exist them allowed to walk this earth without being harmed. But I did that. And so as a society, we we have to stop we have to stop doing that. And victim blaming is just easy, right? If we can blame the victim, then we don't have to do anything. Right. You'll have to change policies. We don't have to hold people accountable. We don't have to fire a coach we don't have to do anything. We need to say what I was your fault. If you've done the right thing, this wouldn't have happened in Libya problems. So we're just gonna blame you. And that makes it really easy for us. It's a it's kind of a scapegoat that we use. And we use it all the time. But one of the exercises, I do with athletes, and I do this with survivors. And I've done this myself is you know, the sentence should rate be a consequence of and then fill in the blank. So should be a consequence of drinking should break. The consequence of going to that party that your parents told you not to go to. Being in the wrong time and the place at the wrong place race run place wrong time, whatever you should read. The a consequence of anything. No, the answer is. No. And it's always no, it doesn't matter. What you've done. It doesn't matter. What you've not done. I don't care if somebody said there are rapists at that party. And you go to that party. You get raped, but it's still not your fault. Right. Who still he's not do anything to make that person do that to you only a rapist chooses to violate another person's body? So what would what would you say to somebody who who tries to play devil's advocate and says, we'll if we know that there is evil in the world..
"victim blaming" Discussed on THE CHURCH IS BROKEN WITH SAM NEIDER
"You've heard the stories the the amount of darkness and pain and unaddressed things in my marriage and victimization me as the victim blaming my wife. Not taking ownership not leading my family. My marriage in two thousand fifteen in the midst of me telling this story that things were great. Everything was okay. My life was good. We were in abundance. My marriage was on the brink of collapse. And I didn't even know it like literally, my marriage was weeks away from destruction. And I was unaware until it was already about to go over the cliff. In my spirituality. Just about this connected from God just about disconnected. No real daily connection. No, real clarity. Sure. In the big things. And in the big decisions, I would seek God. And I would listen and I would obey. But in the daily. Nothing. This after having been a pastor and unfold time ministry work. So here's the here's the reality. Folks. The reality is this. Most of us will not be able to change our lives because we don't start by first telling ourselves the truth the truth about where we're at. Instead, we tell ourselves story that's based not in truth, not in facts, not in facts. But it's based in fantasy. Oh, how's everything going? My business is going great. Well, little did. I know in two thousand fifteen my partnership would fall apart businesses. Great things.
"victim blaming" Discussed on The Complete Guide to Everything
"But then he he like victim blames this guy Hawkins where he's like. Oh, you should be more careful in in this part of the world with shaving and cutting your neck. It's like well. Yeah. Ain't think the the guy. Explain a bunch of paperwork to is going to frigging suck his blood out of the accidentally got himself. And he was trying his best don't sneak up on the guy. Fire Dracula account. A son of a of a rich guy in this presumably of years before the book is like a real big take on like the middle class versus they are stock recy-, really. Yeah. And like, Dracula aristocracy, but like these other people these middle class people it's like their mill class because they only have four servants, right? Well, you know, they didn't have to pay them. Who knows what it was all the servants were superstitious right knee. And these knuckleheads like, no, he's fine. He's just looking at diversify is real estate portfolio when does van housing enter the picture not to like the very end end like what's like halfway through which is when it should end. But they just drawn out forever. All right Hawkins e stuck in this castle. And then like the dry. A guy comes over to explain paperwork to me. Sometimes he didn't stay the night. No so Dracula's like, hey before. Hey, before we go to London, a new Virk on my English and Hawkins time at air English is really like, no, no. They needs to be better said the taken like accent lessons with Hawkins kind of Hawkins job. No. I'll hook you up with someone in in London. When you get out Hawkins is like new the job. So he's like very easily. He's like. I think I think like early twenties. Okay. Age. Then Dracula's, I don't fall asleep in rooms at onto a rooms. He's like whatever old man, he falls asleep in a room. That's his room. How frigging hard is it your guest in someone's castle? He's just sleep in your own room. He. I think it was more like don't go down to the library. And like not off all your reading books or whatever because we'll happen is these three vampires come these three beautiful seductive women come and they want to suck his blood. And he's kinda like you're pretty hot. I think maybe I'll let you. But then Dracula comes he's like, and they disappear. And then he goes back then one point like he realizes Dracula's locking him in his room. He looks out the window. He sees dry. He'll crawl along the side of the building. And he's like not nearly as a law disease should be about how this man can crawl not up down. He's crawling down like Spiderman. Wow. And by. And by. Described in the book. Yeah. Somehow he transports himself. So he were Spiderman some sort of teenage bully bitten by a radioactive spider. Yeah. Say then like that just kinda cuts off and they shift gears, and they go to Jonathan's fiance, and her friend and her friend. Hawkins. Okay. Done. Well with this book, Tom you got us feed this up. This should really be peppier than the tally is just such a slug says this woman Lucy who's Meena is Jonathan's fiance. They're desperate to get married. Lucy is her friend, and they're always exchanging letters and right and obey other right in their diaries. Lucy. Must be hot to trot because she's got three suitors one day three men proposed to her in the same day. Can you believe it Arthur home would who she eventually says I do too? You don't have to read all these people's names. Do you Dr John seaward? Okay. And as a w AR d I'm not censoring myself there. And Quincy p Morris. I like you would like that guy. He's from Texas all really good. If you more is like a Texan. That's I I think you're mighty fine Lucy. I'd like to making my wife. What's he doing there? I think he's maybe like Texas businessman. Okay. Dr seaward he runs the lunatic asylum. He does that in the movie as well. Okay. And and one of his patients is guy r-enfield. Yeah. You wouldn't believe what having r-enfield? Yeah. So at least in the book Ren fields all about collecting flies and a fly to get spiders, these spiders to get birds. And then he asked the doctor seaward. Hey, can I get a kitten? He's like, no. I don't really know. What's going on here? You're trading up all these animals. Yeah..
"victim blaming" Discussed on WHOREible Decisions
"It was like, I'm pretty sure that's like, yeah, I didn't even realize that when you look at this pyramid like everybody experiences or even even men, yes, like like even women victim blaming and shit like that. Do this bullshit. Yeah, everybody's in this pyramid. I feel like this is the time where everybody needs to become better educated and really see visits. People thing, right? This man should not just take advantage of any situation ever. Right? And it's mostly men because women do have issue too, but men it's more often than not. We'll take advantage whether it's saying some shit or joking, some shit off and even just trying to apologize just to get away with how you brought that up. I wanted to ask you the female friends in your life, your aunts, your female cousins? Yeah. At any point, do you feel like they did look at you like, well, you did something wrong because as women, I feel I can. That's why. Again, we haven't had a certain guests on the show. Oh, because we don't really like the victim. Blaming women put on other women. Right. So what was the response from other women in your life? As a great question. So my mom at I was like a little shady. She was saying little slick shit like you little bit of our and I was it was it was at a bad time of all is bitch. Fuck you. I'm like, I'm not taking that shit. So me her. He's a bump heads, but then that totally changed. She don't do that. No more. I used to in high school. Like when all that stuff was going on, I had some female friends and they were just awful. They were spreading rumors around me and all this stuff. So I ended up cutting them off and I made a rule to myself. Like if I'm really going to heal in like become the woman that I've always wanted to become, which is this woman sitting right here. I have to have good people in my life male a female, and I'm not taking no shit. So like actually when I hit our, our went to the high school that had therapy in it hasn't really good. Female friends is girl named to you. Actually, she was super dole. She always supported me and always believe me. Me and never questioned me. And then when I went to fam- which is my first college, I had amazing female friends, some of which you know, Shiloh and stuff I've had years after they all know what happened to me and they never questioned me. And I just, I like this won't take no shit. Like if I'm sure there, there has been girls that have questioned me, but then I remember their names right around. I can't have a myspace, and it was really important for me to get to a place where I wasn't thinking about it every day and then eventually not wearing that abuse on. Could ice just wear it like you could just look at me and just like talk about it. That's why it's so easy for me to talk about it now because I've talked about it for years and he's still everybody 'cause I was how I healed, but I wanted to still get to a place why I want to talk about it should no more right? And the only way I was going to do as if it had good people around me to support me. How what is the coping sage after like..
"victim blaming" Discussed on The Audible with Feldman And Mandel
"You're going to see a lot of victim blaming and we don't know what happened then, but stuff like he said, she said is why women who are abused or sexually assaulted or head by public figure. It's one of the many reasons why he would understand why they're reluctant to come forward because there's always going to be this people say, well, how can we possibly knows? He said she said, and I think that's doing a terrible disservice to actual victims in these situations. So I don't know. I thought as the head coach will stay the responsibility to handle that. Even if he believes deep down, he did nothing wrong. And maybe he didn't just come out that day and say like, this is a very serious situation. We take, we don't take these things lightly. It's a core value of our program. You know, basically he had to go from what I understand and we still don't know the full time line. I was able to get one question to way to the big ten networks at and asked him was Saxons job in any jeopardy before Monday. Warning when the two thousand nine report came out and he said that that had nothing to do with it. You know, it was about the Colonel trespass thing last week. Okay. If you're gonna fire your wide receivers, coach, the last time you possibly want to do. It is the night before big ten media days. I think if Brett's report doesn't come out either he's still employed or he gets fired the day after two days after. Yeah, there's a lot. There's a lot there. The one, the one thing I Don Don me as I kind of thought back to the some of this press availability. It reminded me of something from big ten meet as last year. So I stayed has a very robust group of beat reporters. I mean, it's every bit as big as any other Alabama where you name it beat. And I think with urban Meyer what I was kind of noticed last year at about setting was he engages a lot of questions. And what I mean by that is these people in the media can ask him almost anything, whereas Nick Sabin I'm not saying Nick Sabin would just be really dismissive, but a lot of those questions he will kick around and and he's not like Michael, each free flowing and just kind of think off the top is head, but he does engage a lot of that stuff. And what I bought as I saw his remarks and this goes into maybe the how prepared he was for this. And you said that he said, she said, and there was a couple of other. Things that I think were probably not. In retrospect, if he saw them in transcript with like a publicity person, they would go, yeah, let's put a line through this. You can't. This is something you can't use when it comes to stuff that is very specific hot button issues. I think you know, they people in that position tend to be more buttoned up and they will stick to the script and not go engage to free flowing. That's where you can get yourself in trouble. And I honestly think that's where Arben mired got himself in trouble with with some of his comments and people start, you know, are able to parse your words and they're able to partial words even more, you know, in social media where things are put out there in in, you know, whatever it is to sentence sound bites. So I think that's how that kind of mushroomed into something. And you know, we'll see if there's more to see where this goes next. I mean, who knows if Zach Smith's ex wife, she going to have more comments. You know as this just kinda move on, we should. I, we should add this Brian heartline who was who was a graduate assistant, longtime form. NFL receiver has now been named the interim receivers. Coach that news came down Thursday morning, so we'll see what the next if there's anything more to this. Biggest story as this was at big ten media days by the time they report per camp in a week or so. I obviously that first day at camp, people are gonna wanna ask what Brian hard line, but other than that is, this is this. Is this continue to be a story haunts or will it just kind of go away? And everybody goes back to asking about the quarterback race..
"victim blaming" Discussed on The PHP: Perez Hilton Podcast
"That you're walking into that's not victim blaming at all that's showing responsibility for your own person what do you up to if you're going to his house party she was allegedly doing drugs too so you gotta have some liability when you walked through his front door that isn't me an advantage of what you think i'm saying any of this is right you think it's right if i don't by the way alleged if he did any of this divide anything that he did let's put it this way let's say it's storming outside and there's lightning and there's just lightning striking everywhere on your street this crashing down all over your street it's like going well i'm gonna go outside and hang out in the street how about this why don't you just stay inside it's the same thing you know there's a lightning storm behind those two doors if you choose to walk through those doors i'm not saying that you should expect something bad to happen to you but you shouldn't be shocked if it does would you walk into an electrical storm would you i don't know i i don't even want to say anything because i don't know i i don't i don't i don't feel productive i would say i totally understand why these girls are going there even though it is chris brown fame is very alluring famous drug it's very powerful he's girls dough but they don't really think anything's going to happen to them at what point do you become responsible for yourself as an adult you become responsible for yourself as an adult would you say no you're on drugs you're hanging that no sense says her her okay well he probably says none of this happened he may say look everyone was wrecked and we decided to have an orgy and everybody was game he could say that i wasn't there i don't know what the hell happened we should be talking about what chris brown should have not done or allegedly done we don't know what he did to be fair it could have been exactly what i said a moment ago they could've been an agreement that they're going to have an orgy and everybody was on rugs and nobody said no.
"victim blaming" Discussed on The No Film School Podcast
"That you know i want the film to be opportunity to see oh my god we all just accept this as normal and it's really time to change this doesn't have to be normal you know so it was a lot of careful lot listening kind of careful process and relationship building that's a really excellent point and i'm curious with everyone since since each of you like gaining documentary subjects trust is always difficult but in your case their communities that maybe already like we're had very understandable reasons to be skeptical of the media so do want to get back to my original question but i'm going to segue for second to this this great foregin the road which is so how did you convince maybe for example with netizens these women had sort of been through the wringer online and in public and you're like i'm going to tell your story well i think the for a foam you know this is a foam that is contending with privacy violations and you know telling the stories of those violations in a way that doesn't perpetuate the violation that was very important to me and there are so many stories about these privacy violations about you know something that's become very sensational is is an it's a total misnomer as quote revenge porn revenge porn is something that we hear about the within the word it self is is the you know victim blaming is is encompassed within within this kind of popular popularized herm so you know advocates say nonconsensual image exploitation which doesn't sound as quote sexy but it's exploitation it's abuse and it was it was important to me to not you know we can all imagine what those pictures might be there's no reason for.
"victim blaming" Discussed on The Brookings Cafeteria
"Passively to fix block people than black people never get developed likewise the focus on differences ends up perpetuating a line of research that ultimately leads to victim blaming and we have enough of that think about the rhetoric around single mothers causing poverty believe it or not there are still people who continue to blame poor women for having too many children and not getting married in a washington post column last month robert samuelson wrote when there's only one parent with a meagre income the burdens mount and feed on themselves he continued that's one reason the growth of single parent households is rightly regarded as a causa poverty samuelson and others could focus on trying to fix hysteric problems of unequal pay tax policies that favor the rich and discrimination in housing and employment you know the factors that determine how much money people make since nineteen sixty five when assistant secretary of labor daniel patrick moynihan publish the moynihan report researchers and journalists have continued framing poverty mainly the product of mothers individual choices around how many babies they have and who they marry moynahan also offered a robust structural analysis of the economic and social conditions that helped shape black family structures however he set a dangerous example by dentists find the main problem as black people not living up to white middle class ideals it's a mold that researchers of black men willfully maintain to this day when you fall single parenthood you inevitably go down a path of chastising women culture and individual behavior likewise the focus on negative outcomes among black men has led to programs to instill grit charter schools that's what the small stuff i e suspend and expelled children and other initiative dismissed the effects of housing and employment discrimination access to capital.
"victim blaming" Discussed on Elvis Duran and the Morning Show
"They were very aggressive so it's not just the new york's girls that are regret this it's just just doesn't matter where the raised who's girls in brooklyn they still your slice of pizza hut's squad role stole by shawesh not so victim blame but had you put your name on it stop it not i did i guess i'm just maybe a lesson needed it is pizza that was a sandwich outweigh thanks for listening to us got to watch out for those squall roles today we gotta take a break this hopefully seven or a sandwich i'll taking the right now go find it squirrel do much scary i know that crease you they use the runup to treason hide now they're in plain sight and they will that is true i think they've gone balls over the last couple of years wolf dot com scott walls i really think so dry nuts can you hold on a second i gotta go guys everything my tongue is like score can you keep it down people are listening to rein in the morning show look tote is amazing it's a fashioned subscription box that since unlimited brandname clothing accessories right to your door for one low monthly vape go to let tote dot com to get started for as low as fifty nine dollars a month enter the promo code elvis at checkout to get fifty percent off your first month one of the reasons i love coming to work is we do have the best in turn program we meet the most interesting people every semester yeah and just when they get tired of us they leave and then we get new ones david berty puts them through basically a job interview process including like any misspelled words application thrown out yup perfect guy spellcheck your stuff but welcome to a welcome to the morning show a thing.
"victim blaming" Discussed on The Skeptics' Guide to the Universe
"And then i realise like no i'm allowed to live a healthy life and enjoy myself like everybody else in this is runs for me but it's different for different people some people don't respond well to met some people talk therapy is more important i i personally recommend both i think both are usually helpful if the person responds well to both uh you know i got to be individualized it's gotta be individualize i think that we shouldn't be stigmatizing psychiatry the same way we shouldn't be stigmatizing psychology and yes there is some colonel of truth that's what pseudoscience is there's a colonel of truth to the fact that there are existential underlying issues within society that can contribute to depression but all of those things contribute and i think what bugs me about this stigmatisation just like this article does and the victimization kind of the victim blaming of individuals who who struggle with mental illness will really bugs me is that it not only makes people feel like they are abnormal and stigmatize but it also is like i don't know just another repackaging of the bullshit secret power of positive thinking movement this idea that you can will yourself out of it if you just re frame your life if you just think differently about things and it's blaming the victim in the grossest way possible it is has people feel like they should be able to therapy their way out of a major depression and urban some people can't in the iqlim or sell held their way out of air right and the thing is we are people who can't therapy who who aren't even helped by therapy or medication there's some people have to get ect electric compulsive therapy there are people for whom you're all three of those things don't work they have resistant treatment resistant depression some of those people their only way out is the most terrible way out and so that's a really bummer thing about this we make light of something that actually is.
"victim blaming" Discussed on Izzy and Spain
"And say hey if she did i can do it too if if she feels that what i'm feeling is normal too i mean there's a very powerful empowering moment and powerful moment out of this yeah i'd say to what happened with me to it's what happened with bill cosby it's happening here with larry nassar especially with the more you know household name gymnasts who are willing to come forward despite their celebrity to talk about what happened you know i told him i'm working on that surround victim blaming in one of the things that why the experts talked about his people protecting institutions whether that's military college campus a professional team and believing that the integrity of their institution is more important than the reality of what happened not realizing that knowing that those institutions will be defended is partly what allows criminals to take advantage of them in the first place that the predators thriving there because they know that they'll be protected because they know that people will say our values and our guard the truth of our institution is not this and give them a space where they will find least resistance that's crazy right that they know that this is how it works and usa gymnastics ms you're to perfect examples of that it should be noted that it's a victim's right to stand up and speak it at these cases to so this isn't something abnormal inches most judges wouldn't take the time necessarily for this many of for this many victims to speak out i don't want to respond really right at that's that's the key here not just that there are speaking but that she's patiently responding to them and thanking them and giving them her time and her thoughts on it to an in any normal person should look at this to say what why would i ever have an issue with it my god with what they've been through they should have the right to speak as long as they want.
"victim blaming" Discussed on The Black Guy Who Tips Podcast
"All right man um i think that's it for more dr wafting part to and i didn't get no wind to staff is to lie you maiming wanna go grand avenue why is due man i you know what i feel an obligation to cover this shit specifically because you know i remember us covering a parker on the recovery um bill cosby odyssey i don't like i had no other people will cover this in a way what has not detail i know they're gonna sit up here not read the stories they're gonna speculate they got say a budget shit that is anti of that is that is victim blaming and they're gonna just had it behind a fact of life i didn't look it up but here's my hot take on why women are responsible for this dubina predator a and i get so live it when i hear that she i don't want to have a podcast at his like that episode a day might identify the funniest episode but it's quite an important it is needed we have to have people that are willing to detailed is she if you've got to talk about this shit don't do a haphazardly doges duties shit uh without the details of his did you can find some kind of way to say as women's foul forgot his hotel room is shit find out the details these women are stupid known their human beings they like these are people who are these niggers are people okay the but there there are people who are out there be allied listen um these women just go to the fucking any read account after count at the count oh clearly they did not do that.
"victim blaming" Discussed on WIBC 93.1FM
"This is not brave this is like the most cowardly way to do this you could have saved other women from being exposed in his a long time ago and you do didn't a victim blaming that's fact it wasn't how full for her career right this is gross is now he's been fired from his own company yeah i don't even had is that learn yo how you create a company and then simply fires you when you reported overboard i guess against so big that you now reports you'll bore and and then the board says your estate my bag you are knew this but now that its public we have yeah act like zambia ihor now now that's alpay nobody's talking about it except for like the people on the i guess people who are good people are taki mad at jimmy kimmel's not in thailand lord for bed he can't talk about it and all the talk show husky top man snl can't talk about that but other people are gonna we're gonna talk about it what did disgusting for us however in nigel 93 told you y c basha very kicked the game winning you'll go for the colts as he got that right here it's oh over time could second guard a cold wave twenty six three my invitation a check for ghana after his debt theo lost than all this pence anthem payton statue talk was how the colts almost gave that game away again yesterday i figure was a big joe we were talking with him in the hallway earlier today that made a great boy how come all the crappy games go to overtime it's never a shootout that you don't want to end you know it's not like the cowboys and packers yesterday that we're going back and forth it's always these awful games that go to over time and that was really close to being a tie yesterday but let's hear from a exuberant chuck pagon though in the locker room award for fighters great owner a looney leases for it can threaten you know what this is.
"victim blaming" Discussed on 1410 WDOV
"Terms though that that comes up on the radar of being fence ethnic food why is that offensive they write that growing up this was an acceptable term that apply to everything from a cantonese chinese to what you thought was mexican food nonethnic food meant good old classic american food uh but why is that why is that a a problem okay i mean it was just a turbo but it's not disparaging we we know that m ito this american cuisine which you could also argue as i'm sure many of you would that there's regional american cuisine to american cuisine covers a whole lot more than just burgers and fries although burgers and fries are amazing right let's be honest um but yeah ethnic through this that's on the list here's another one a bad neighborhood quote of that if you say that that it areas of bad neighborhood you could sound racist why is that i think it's interesting that that that democrats and left wing progressive writers think that the coal a neighborhood bad is just just that trump it's a bad neighborhood that somehow there were very racial undertones to that um what there they're there are bad neighbourhoods with all different kinds of people into depends on where we're talking about what the neighborhood is right so why does that strike anyone is being racist i mean you're your guess is is really as good as mine when it comes to this stuff when it comes to how politico makes the uncertain uh politico whoops politicos alah they all blend together in my head but that neighborhood um the the writer who to be quote should be totally honest with you i only learn how fences this term was a few years ago and used it myself up until then it was tossed around casually when i was growing up particularly by the parents of friends who encouraged us to stay away from the bad cities that bordered on her wealthy suburban town would you really mean when you say bad is poor and when you imply that poor people are bad you soon with the people who live in those neighbours don't want to change the things that are that it's victim blaming and nothing more but what is they don't even see what this is that.
"victim blaming" Discussed on Slate's The Gist
"What it does not lead me to believe however is in the concept of white privilege i will explain that specifically but my point in the spiel is more general we have at this time several fairly pervasive frameworks that i find less convincing than just a recognition of the facts that lead to building those frameworks i'll give you another example i think there's a big problem in prosecuting nonconsensual sexual encounters so often he said she said cases aren't pursued injustices denied and victim blaming is a common defence tactic that's bad and young man do not have the right attitude towards consent i believe all that by don't buy that we live in a rape culture rape culture like white privilege intersection aladi gender fluidity name any other number of current sociological phenomena their built from empirically derived fax the evidence is the building block of a framework but then the frameworks go beyond the facts a sociological theory or phenomenon i'm calling it a framework here not only organizes that which is known but to be compelling it has to go beyond has to explain the world going forward has to make sense of the trends offer an explanation that serves as a prediction social sciences there to tell you what will happen just as hard science will tell you that you know cobalt melts at 27 2003 fahrenheit yet i just knew that off the top of my head and you can be sure that you're cobalt all melt you don't have to take it to a kiln you know that they have a definition of melting point and this is telling you what will happen.
"victim blaming" Discussed on Slate's The Gist
"What it does not lead me to believe however is in the concept of white privilege i will explain that specifically but my point in the spiel is more general we have at this time several fairly pervasive frameworks that i find less convincing than just a recognition of the facts that lead to building those frameworks i'll give you another example i think there's a big problem in prosecuting nonconsensual sexual encounters so often he said she said cases aren't pursued injustices denied and victim blaming is a common defence tactic that's bad and young men do not have the right attitude towards consent i believe all that by don't buy that we live in a rape culture rape culture like white privilege intersection aladi gender fluidity name any other number of current sociological phenomena their built from empirically derived fax the evidence is the building block of a framework but then the frameworks go beyond the facts a sociological theory or phenomenon i'm calling it a framework here not only organizes that which is known but to be compelling it has to go beyond has to explain the world going forward has to make sense of the trends offer an explanation that serves as a prediction social sciences there to tell you what will happen just as hard science will tell you that you know cobalt melts at 27 2003 fahrenheit yet i just knew that off the top of my head and you can be sure that you're cobalt oh melt you'd have to take it to a kiln you know that they have a definition of melting point and this is telling you what will happen.