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"victim blaming" Discussed on More Content Talk

More Content Talk

02:11 min | 9 months ago

"victim blaming" Discussed on More Content Talk

"You get on the news. People screaming a black people there tear. It digs up and then you know. They're throwing their pencils and their desk all over the place and then faces like red. You'll get tucker carlson. His face read the entire show. He's mad when he comes on. Already pissed nothing happened to tuck across. Nothing has ever happened to that man. He's had every you read about that man's life he's everything handed to him but he's pissed the moment comes on and you know he's pissed about he's pissed because you're pissed and you need to stop being pissed are tucker's gonna get pissed or the pop psychologist whenever blogger ben shapiro. Joe rogan. Doesn't matter the point is that that's that's a technique used on the right to make you feel bad about being about feeling bad about being victimized and it's a foreign very sophisticated form of reverse psychology and don't fall for it if if you think something's wrong you feel wronged you have a right to at least Analyze it and talk about it and So be it if it upset someone else so what. Maybe that's not someone you should be talking to her hanging out with at least you've expedited the process. You can get out of your life quicker all right all right. Thank you everyone. Thank you for joining me here. I'm more content talk Remember we have the instagram Tiktok and youtube more content. Talk that that the name you can find all of those three. You can also follow us on twitter at more underscore content p. l. s. And you can check us out on our website which you can find on anchor. We are available on spotify apple. You know all that good stuff anywhere you can find his work probably there all right. Thank you so much for joining us We hope you have a wonderful evening night afternoon day. Cs whatever it may be and hey when life get you down you can always laugh at tucker. Carlson no laugh at something else farewell..

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Atlanta police says it has not ruled out anything with investigation into spa shootings motive

NPR's Story of the Day

04:01 min | 11 months ago

Atlanta police says it has not ruled out anything with investigation into spa shootings motive

"A presidential visit. That was framed as a celebration as completely changed. Intone president biden and vice president harris both visit georgia. Today they meant to promote the passage of the covid relief bill and they meant to do that in a state that happens to be a vital background back a battleground upcoming elections now. The visit is different different because a man traveled across the atlantic area this week killing eight people at businesses run by people of asian descent. Georgia public broadcasting's stephen fowler joins us now from atlanta stephen. Good morning. good morning. What do you expect from this visit. Well it's going to be much more. Muted and appearance of the president. Vice president are going to meet with advocates organizers and state lawmakers from the asian american community like state senator shaw who said thursday that violence against this community has been going on for a long time. Misogyny violence against women is not new. The epidemic of gun violence and gun injury is not new. What can be new is how we deal with in this moment. And i want to implore our community and our fellow legislators to not let this moment go by biden and harris who is the first black and asian american vice president has taken on the roles of healers and consoler throughout the pandemic since taking office and now they're addressing another gerona virus related issue that has bubbled up advocacy group. Stop api i hate said. There were nearly thirty. Eight hundred reported instances of anti asian discrimination or attacks last year and before he meets with these community leaders. The president is going to go to the centers for disease control and prevention to check in on the coronavirus response. Let's talk about hate crimes. You mentioned thirty. Eight hundred reported. Instances of anti discrimination last year would these shootings in the atlanta area classify as a hate crime under georgia law. Well steve last year georgia did pass a crime law that would add enhanced penalties if somebody's found guilty of committing a crime against someone because of things like their race gender or sexual orientation. As of now it's early in the investigation and the alleged gunman has only been charged with murder and aggravated assault but hate crimes. Charges are possible. According to law enforcement officials the suspect confessed to the shootings and said it wasn't racially motivated. But members of the asian american community here including state representative be win of atlanta. Said they don't believe it and so when we think about the word of the perpetrator themselves. How many of them are going to admit that. It was a racially motivated. Killing that is why the hate crimes law did pass last session. It was a top priority. Because in georgia we have seen reality violence against black people against asian people in. It's not a new thing wednesday. It's impossible to ignore the facts. Three asian spas were targeted. Six of the victims were of asian descent. But steve even if prosecutors don't agree the twenty one year old committed a crime because of their race other claims he allegedly made could trigger the law under gender based violence. There's been so much focus on the way that law enforcement officials have talked about this case they have at press conferences tried to characterize what the suspect himself claimed about. The day was having a really bad day was the quote or his motives. Who are the officials at the center of controversy. Well there are two different jurisdictions involved. The atlanta police department and character county sheriff's office many people took offense of the way the cherokee county officials talked about the alleged gunman deputies suggested that he had lashed out and was fed up and at the end of his rope and blamed sex addiction for his actions. Members of the asian american community believed that that plays into negative stereotypes about asian americans. And it's victim blaming the women who worked at these spas and that deputy who did make those comments about having a bad day he's been removed as spokesman from the case. Oh he's had some other issues with his social media post. If i'm not mistaken that's correct even thanks for the update. Thank you stephen. Fowler of georgia public broadcasting.

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Actor Armie Hammer is under police investigation for sexual assault in Los Angeles

Mojo In The Morning

01:59 min | 11 months ago

Actor Armie Hammer is under police investigation for sexual assault in Los Angeles

"So another woman came forward with a story about actor armie hammer not a good story as you can imagine. That's what we're talking about it. This twenty four year old woman only identified as efi says that army violently raped her for more than four hours in los angeles back in twenty and seventeen. She says she. I met him over facebook in two twenty sixteen when she was twenty years old. And that's when she began an on again off again relationship with him. It didn't end until twenty. Twenty twenty four twenty seventeen armie hammer over four hours angeles. During which repeatedly slapped my head goes to well moving my face he also committed other acts of violence against me to which he did not consent for example. He beat my feet. What a crop whatever. Step way to for the next week. During those four hours tried to get away i was going to kill me would no concern for my wellbeing out completely in shock. They couldn't believe this. What i loved did that to me. I tried so hard to justify his actions even to the point of responding to him in a way that did not reflect. Mitch army hammers. Attorney is denying the claims writing in a statement quote. It was never mr hamer's intention to embarrassed or expose he's fetishes or kinky sexual desires but she has now escalated this matter to another level by hiring lawyer to host eight public press conference with the truth on his side are welcomes the opportunity to set the record straight and he said the interactions between the two were absolutely consensual. Police are now investigating voyeur. Just straight up. Victim blame her. Many much

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"victim blaming" Discussed on True Consequences

True Consequences

05:26 min | 11 months ago

"victim blaming" Discussed on True Consequences

"I was loved more than probably ninety nine percent of listeners. I was loved so hard after that all tried to usual. So it's like. I was scared that i remember saying i'm gonna be a like broken human. That is worthless in valueless. Because that's what abuse does so such a lie right at such a lie. You get to create new chapters every time something awful happens right you get to the next narrative and so you're scared that you'll never be loved again. You'll never have someone there for your children. You'll never have somebody right. Who steps up in his is there for you not true. You just need the right person to do that right. And you need to be healthy enough. I was a better partner to buddy. Because i had known what it was like to be hurt right and so there's hope and enjoy the comes after trauma to so. Don't be scared of that as well if you're a survivor listening. Yeah it's it's my hope. And i'll go around. We'll close out here with some final thoughts. I don't think that we have enough time to get to everything we want to talk about. So we might have to have a follow up to this conversation. But i i want to say that you know. I'm not coming on here to Start a fight with people you know. I'm not coming on here to do anything other than to to hopefully bring some awareness to a different perspective. A different way of looking at things and i really hope that this was a helpful conversation for people and i hope that me telling. My story is going to impact people in a positive way. Because it's not something that i've enjoyed doing. It's not been fun for me I had to go back into therapy to deal with all of the residual trauma. That's coming up as a result of these conversations. And so i hope and i pray that that this is helpful to somebody And that my story is helpful to somebody Even if i never get justice for my brother even if there's never justice for what happened to me and from what happened to my mom if this helps one person than it's worth it for me. I want to thank both of you. i'll start with dr jules closing thoughts. This was such an important entirely conversation. I think switching the narrative in true crime. Like you said it's okay to be obsessed with the dark that is very much inherently what it needs to be human were obsessed with death and with darkness but i do think with regards to true crime. They need to take a responsible approach. Where we're always considering the families. The families list entities stories. And are you okay with the family hearing the way that you portrayed either victims or survivors in this story and if the answer is no then you need to consider the approach that you're taking now. I just encourage eddie mother. I'm just blown away. I if you guys have seen me down here..

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"victim blaming" Discussed on True Consequences

True Consequences

03:47 min | 11 months ago

"victim blaming" Discussed on True Consequences

"Are you contributing to the good part true crime or are you contributing to the dark side. True crime. Sarah talked about her mom being victim blam by a very prominent true crime person. that's disgusting to me. One of the things that hurts a lot and and people don't necessarily mean it to hurt when they say it. But when people say things to me like eric. I you know. I tried really hard. I just can't listen to your brother story. Because it's too awful. And and i get i get that it is awful. It's terrible it's imagine living. It is my reaction to those people right. Imagine how awful it is to have to live that story Not just to have to listen to it. So the reason that we can't i can speak up. Dr joel's could speak up. You can speak up. Dr actually about your past abuse if people are unwilling to hear it. It's not going to make a difference but they're survivors. That are silent and there's people suffering in silence that do hear us and there's one there but there's people that need the voice they need somebody to say like it's not just me we. There's a beautiful woman in malaysia airlines. Like no way she also did this. There's a brilliant guy who has this really successful podcast. Wait as a kid. He was sexually abused like what so so. I think i think as much as always going to be people who won't listen right one of the things i do child people's push those boundaries of what you listen to because that's where we change and when we're uncomfortable that's when really magical things happen but anyone who's willing to share their story which is often so hard to tell it's often so hard to hear right there will always be a year. That's going to hear that and go. Oh my god that's it. You know one person. That story changed my life. Okay well then. That's exactly why i told it..

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"victim blaming" Discussed on True Consequences

True Consequences

04:38 min | 11 months ago

"victim blaming" Discussed on True Consequences

"Pretty much. Everybody in this restaurant has been touched by domestic violence as a percent and just as many if not more are probably perpetrators of domestic violence and that shocked me. That shocked me. And she's like this is. This is the problem with our society is because we don't talk about it because we don't listen to people who are telling their stories. We don't believe that it's possible for it to be such a pervasive issue but it is scary. If it's if it's at pervasive right to me that can happen to someone. I love it. It doesn't it has right so people will say can't i'm going. I guarantee you someone in your family is affected by this right. And you're you're probably coexisting with someone who has told you what's happened or hasn't identified. What's happening to them. So i encourage people listening. Language matters so much so much and be willing to learn to change. I just made a mistake in this podcast right by by using the wrong term for a sex worker at it's like ingrained term that i'm going like oops and every time i say it i'm human and it's like i'm learning and so i you know i don't. I don't want to contribute to those problems but it takes vulnerability to say. I did not know that. Let me change language. Let me try to be a better safer person right. And not being ashamed to make mistakes and to have dialogues. That are tough right because there are people who need your voice. They need to be an ally in an advocate in those types of things. And it's often people you had no idea right you you're talking to people you share your own story you share a case you're interested in and someone you've known for years as your. That happened to me when i was younger. You know. I grew up in a home like that. And you're going what and it shouldn't be surprising is so common but but watch your language be vulnerable be willing to learn. Say how do i be. How am i better advocate for the people i love and care about because you have been right some very close to you has been impacted by some type of crime i think opening up and starting a dialogue rightly super important. The fact that we're talking about this now we're talking about with an element of transparency..

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"victim blaming" Discussed on True Consequences

True Consequences

04:31 min | 11 months ago

"victim blaming" Discussed on True Consequences

"The answer is no then you start having to sit back. And there's a lot of resources online. There's a lot of Of resources in shelters in many counties that can help but but that plan is critical. Saying if you're going to make that decision you gotta go and it's scary. It's terrifying But i really encourage people to to start thinking about what resources they do have who do know who safe and those types of situations so those in that go ahead. No go ahead eagles. Oh just those of us in those situations to reach out like for one. There's often element of denial. When you're in a situation like that to say don't allow is to make real. It's almost like you brought it into reality. If you don't say it out loud it didn't happen. I'm not abused if i don't say out loud. So there's some it's an incredible amount of courage for somebody to come forward and say to a friend a family member appraise whatever to say. I've been abused. And i need help so if somebody does come to you without sort of revelation. Please be ready to act. Please be ready to intervene. Please be ready to help. Because the situation is critical at that point and often help in the way the survivors. Asking you to help right and this is some sexual insanity kinds of other things right but to say you know. I wanted to but warned calling the police. Were getting out of the like. I'm going to kill him right her. Whoever hurting but but you also have to if someone does like joel said very few people disclose abuse to somebody right even to their family even to their best friends tests. You know. I gotta like if my best friend called up and said like oh. He told me. I'm worthless fat cow and he pushed me down the stairs. Like that's not okay right like we're going to need to address that but then someone hit it goes like yeah but i was mouth in off..

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"victim blaming" Discussed on True Consequences

True Consequences

05:24 min | 11 months ago

"victim blaming" Discussed on True Consequences

"He murdered his wife and his kids. You know the thing is when we feed into that. It's a really dangerous slippery slope. It is is and it's it's so despicable and disgusting. There are no throwaway people. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter if people are struggling with mental health issues or drug addiction or toot or ex-workers worker says are worker. Yes no none of those things justify hurting anybody and one of the things. I really want to see changed in the narrative that we have as a society is. We need to stop saying that. Somebody was arrested for having sex with a minor. Go my god. There's no such thing as sex with a minor. Underage girl like it is sexual abuse is grooming there. Were comments in in the Youtube video kindle raise video. That were saying things that oh his mom only left after he was hitting on her niece. Okay first of all he was not hitting on my cousin leaning grooming my cousin for sexual abuse or when they say how. What's consensual. it's a fourteen year old. Why are you talking about it. Had nothing to do with jealousy. My mom was not jealous. The her husband was trying to sexually assault her niece. My mom thought that at that point and you know. I speak for her but this is my understanding is she thought that She was the only victim that was being hurt at the time and so knowing that and feeling like she was protecting me from being hurt by taking everything from this person when she noticed that my cousin was being victimized that's when she put her foot down now had she known that i was being victimized she would put her foot down as she known for. Sure that what was happening. Jacob was intentional. Like i suspect she would put her foot down but like you talked about early on you know. It's a slow burn. She he's being. He's wearing her down mentally Things are happening but please please. Please stop saying sex with a minor. Please stop calling grooming flirting. It's hurtful it's disgusting and it does nothing to deal with the issue of holding these people responsible for sexual abuse abuse of minors dog. Don't put that when you're talking about the offender. Don't discuss all the reasons he's great and then say oh. He's this great coach. He's a great dad. He's a great this and he's been arrested for sexual abuse. It's like let's just talk about his. You're right this and let's focus on..

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"victim blaming" Discussed on True Consequences

True Consequences

05:37 min | 11 months ago

"victim blaming" Discussed on True Consequences

"I think. I think when you look at creators like sarah attorney who's who's here watching and commenting These are the people and dr jules These are the people that are really doing their best. To present these stories. In the way that they deserve to be told the humanization of the victims the humanization of their families Coming from the empathetic lens is so critical. And it's very important to me. And i don't always get it perfectly right because i do make mistakes. I am human. But i give it my best and i try my best and i wish that more creators would do better and try better because it's hurtful it's hurtful you know the comment section aside when you have big creators that are well-known that do things like disrespect the wishes of the family by you know leaking information. Because it's gonna make their story more more appealing and Information that could damage case. Those things are horrifying and terrible and it needs to stop. It's awful sorry. Don worden no and please let me go into really quickly just so everybody washington baby kind of understand where this comes from and why we do this in what the research is suggesting. So the young who've done a lot of research on four studies as a twenty sixteen spanning thousands and thousands of participants and they found some really interesting things with regards to morals so around to different kinds of moral values. one is binding moral values. Which is something that actually referenced earlier where somebody who exhibits more binding moral values which exhibit both but some people are going to exhibit more one or the other or community will. So you've got someone who exhibits more binding. Moral values elsie victims unclean and. They deserve what they got. They don't view it through empathy. They view it as the collective like this brings shame and a very good example of that is the case of junk over root out where you've got these four young men who killed this young woman and then later after the fact you've got the mother who's vandalizing the grave..

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"victim blaming" Discussed on True Consequences

True Consequences

04:31 min | 11 months ago

"victim blaming" Discussed on True Consequences

"I would like to read something that julia murray sent me julia race here. How'd you warrior. I love her on the talk of victim blaming you know. She's experienced it with her sister. More so i really wanted to kind of just read a couple of paragraphs of her experience because it really ties into exactly what we're talking about here. So she said i. I learned of my missing twenty one year old little sisters alleged wild sex orgies from a blogger online the blogger source for the alleged gang. Bangs three unnamed men who later would become prominent businessmen. Interesting word choice. Hoisting up the three prominent businessmen on a pedestal all while using my voiceless missing sister as proverbial doormat for some salacious. Click bait disgusting. It saddens me that my family tragedy is used in such a manner. More would be absolutely mortified knowing the depths people are willing to go for a good story. The exploitation of my missing sister could not be reversed. It is everlasting to me. She is not a character in a book. Little sister a human being deserving basic human decency and dignity. it sickens me to know certain bottom feeders. The true crime community would go as far as using hearsay and conjecture as standard for sourcing to exploit a missing woman. This community can do better. do better. thank you yes sir. Thank you so much. And that doesn't that's a whole nother conversation would be having about sexualization and women right and how as a woman. I'm somehow supposed to be ashamed. That i'm a sexual being just like my male counterparts are right in that. There's two different standards. it's twenty twenty one. Thank god but a lot of these cases we talk about our from the eighties and nineties in these kinds of things. Were still at twenty twenty. One a really really. You know pre pre historic phase. But but it is. It's this idea that if she had premarital sex somehow than of course murder was the next thing right or sexual assault if she had given it up. That people can take it and it's horrific that those are the kinds of conversations that you see frequently when you talk about sexual assault when you talk about murder right and especially when you have a female victim or a gay or lesbian victim a transgender victim somehow a gender identity or sexuality becomes permission to then sexually take advantage of someone or to take their life or something to that extent so the conversation is changing. You have people like eric. You have people like jewels. Who are getting on this platform..

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"victim blaming" Discussed on True Consequences

True Consequences

05:58 min | 11 months ago

"victim blaming" Discussed on True Consequences

"Yeah we so often want to glamorize the offenders and all true crime people are guilty about right where we talk about and we look at the offender but it's interesting because if we do focus on those survivors in those survivor stories right. There's no shame in being the victim when people say like oh no like why are we you. Call yourself a victim you are. But that's all all that you are right so victimhood is one experience in one chapter of what you are. But then there's life after victimhood right and there's there's like during victimhood. That doesn't get minimized. Right like i a phd while being in an abusive relationship right so it's like life half and that that part was simultaneous with the abuse. And so it's so interesting that wind someone hears the word victim right. There's automatically like this downplay kind of like you're somehow damage or worthless or like trash. Jim we really do start thinking of people like this and we forget that crime happens to every person that's colorblind right when we when we talk about domestic violence very wealthy people very intelligent people every gender every sexuality. I don't care you're a pastor or a boy scout leader or whatnot. There is no family exempt from these kinds of dark things that happened in our homes. And so i just really encourage people to the way they kind of respond when they hear that word victim because what we forget is when we talk at the dinner table out at a restaurant. There's probably many survivors. That sit alongside us that we would have never known jules. I didn't know that until. I think months into us working right that you were a sexual abuse survivor and i thought like whoa and people go. I don't know if i can share that people might judge your elevated status when to hear why when like she gets it and she has this drive and energy. That's going to bring such hope to people. It was all positive right where i went yet. Of course she is because she's a survivor..

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"victim blaming" Discussed on True Consequences

True Consequences

05:19 min | 11 months ago

"victim blaming" Discussed on True Consequences

"That's what happened and we have to remember too that you know any sort of abuser and you know we use the pseudonym john right so in this case this abuser. He effectively isolated you and your mother from your support network. Your mother didn't have any friends to go to a family in which talking about your feelings and talking about trauma wasn't an option. So what kind of outlet did she potentially have. She had done and she he even went so far as to punish you. Both if you guys made eye contact sukey severed whatever support in ties. The two of you had together so neither one of you had an outlet or a safe space goto. absolutely i. you can get in that survival mechanism you know. It comes to a point where the abusive so bad you like. I just have to survive this. I have to make sure that no one is like so hurt me. We're surviving like i get another breath. And i can navigate that and in that abusive state. There's such helplessness and such fear and such isolation and shame. shame is horrific for someone who is victim. We shame ourselves. We don't need society to shame. People write victims and survivors. Shame themselves enough. And that's what holds a shackled in those abusive relationship is the fear of speaking out and having someone say then. Just leave while you're choosing to be there right and it's like well. There goes my life. Line that i was reaching for you know and and people listening. What's hard to imagine. Is that on average. It takes seven times to leave an abusive relationship. Seven attempts to leave any disease most dangerous time and an individual's life homicide rates during someone trying to leave an abusive relationship. Go through the roof because think about big incidents that we think about when we think of a panic and trauma and horror like jump jones right when he lost control nine hundred people died so all of users have that same trigger mechanism. Right as long as i have control. And i'm the puppet master we're all okay right. But when you get the strength to walk out you now have that that abusers in the loss control your at high risk of being tracked down and killed or when you come back to get something. Because he's apologized from that cycle of abuse right the honeymoon phase the normal as the tension as the blow up phase. And then there's flowers again right and your back. Your kid i mean. There's a very high rate of that. And so people so lightly say just leave people. Do try to leave right. They do try to absolutely highest when someone's pregnant absolutely right. You're not taking my baby. And i'm going to keep control of all of these things Lgbtq entity even higher violence. When there's this attempt to leave so just leave. i mean mad. Well go ahead. Eagles i was just gonna say it's so reductive to say in so simplistic and it's a way of distancing oneself and again a defense mechanism. I would never be in this situation..

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What makes someone a 'cinnamon roll' person?

Stuff Mom Never Told You

06:00 min | 11 months ago

What makes someone a 'cinnamon roll' person?

"Went through a hole deep dive of these different versions of cinnamon rolls. Yes you do it. Because i was afraid to google it and not. Just grab someone who appears to be. Super innocent does actually the opposite or maybe better put like they appear to be a cinnamon roll at the c. But they're not and then there's birch cinnamon roll. Who is somebody who was a cinnamon roll but thanks to some trauma is no longer a cinnamon all. They are burnt and some people. I could see the argument. That luke in the last. Jedi is a cinnamon mineral. Maybe in new orleans right. Yeah i think so. I can see that. And that's actually funnily enough even though i would imagine most people don't know this term. That is what they didn't like about lukin manure burt cinnamon roll and lucas. Also specifically for him he's also interchangeably called sunshine child or puppy and upon show puppy. and yep. yeah. That's one very specific scene. I had that pancho now and yes. I love this. So much that samantha. She made me a wonderful. She got a wonderful bug made for me. That has luke on it and a cinnamon roll. That says precious cinnamon roll too good to pure for this world. I'm drinking out of it right now. I was so excited when i found a person who could do that for me. On the perfect mug with a perfect like this is why i love again sponsored five people who are local and can do these crafts for you. I still love to think whoever this person was who wonders about it. What is the cinnamon. Roll are either knew it off. And it was a she her response soon to be like. I know exactly what you like. Exactly what i wanted so i have a feeling she knew like i. I'm going to give it to that. Because there was no question. I love it. I hope so. I absolutely adore the bug. I have a homemade coaster for cinnamon roll and a shirt that says cinnamon rolls not gender role. So i love it. I will put out there if you're interested. I would love if anyone was interested in google more about this afterwards. I'd be surprised but there is a sex slang term similar to. It's actually you know. Maybe google knows me too well but it's not. It was not unlike a first page. Even i don't think yeah but just to put that up there now wonder what that is. Oh don't look at it. Okay i can explain to you later if you would no no. The article says a lot. So i'm good so this turn is believed to have originated from an onion article about how cinnamon rolls the food. Were too good for this world like we didn't deserve cinnamon rolls and some words and phrases associated with cinnamon roll. I wanted to go through. I did this last night. Because i actually wrote this outline a long time ago and i kept thinking things go kind sweet genuine ernest. Did i say kind. Because that's a big would always putting others first self-sacrificing friendly affectionate compassionate brave standing up for their beliefs. Loyal open vulnerable honest. Good peer innocent. A damn sweetheart. A bright precious gentle soft sunshine. They'd like really see you. And they're so open and giving with their hearts and they're usually pretty forgiving. Okay but yes. What does this have to do with feminism and women's issues so this is my theory and it is very personal to me. I don't think this is why everyone likes. All right. cinnamon rolls of people. Who do but it is what resonates with me and just a reminder unfortunately women and other marginalized groups do experience trauma. Ptsd at higher rates and also the ones writing most fan fiction. So i'm sure people are like wait. What were jacking up yesteryear. Yes the idea of being so good and so pure you make others better. And this is a rhetorically. We've heard particularly against women used against women making men better in that. Hetero sense cinnamon minerals are also very genuine their motions and instead of being judged for it their love for it. And that's nice to think especially if you have been through a trauma that being open with yourself and your emotions wouldn't drive people away but instead it is a lovable. Trait is something people love about you. Something that makes you special. That's a nice idea and then being so innocent that all the harm that comes to you is not your fault which is particularly powerful. When you've gone through a trauma and you're looking for all these reasons examining all these things of how it was your fault. Your victim blaming yourself and just that term innocent is really loaded and here are not talking. I feel like often is using sexual sense of labor janati. It doesn't mean that and this question of can you still be innocence in quotes astor trauma and for me. That was very important thing. I wanted to believe that. Even after everything i've been through i could be normal heavy coats and happy and sweets and also there's for me personally again. There's a level of not understanding the world around you especially the romance aspects and bad evil things and just kind of not so great things and bringing out those protective instincts and others because it without we don't have to ask and that is comforting because for again and i have a really hard time asking for help and so the idea that someone could just help me that they can see. I need help. And they will and i don't have to ask is really comforting for me and this trope does almost always involves someone being comforted and assured that you did nothing wrong and people just be really protective of

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"victim blaming" Discussed on Xtra Sports Radio 1300 AM

Xtra Sports Radio 1300 AM

02:19 min | 1 year ago

"victim blaming" Discussed on Xtra Sports Radio 1300 AM

"Victim, not victim blaming here. Okay, but number one You don't have a cell phone to the cell phone doesn't work Number two. Your belt is broken in the middle of December. In a we go New York You have heat. That's a real problem here. Number three How does this is just a residential street. That's not like the middle of the woods. He was on a residential street and nobody that loved him knew where he was. Like. Would you kind of know the last place Dad was when he got buried by 4 Ft of Snow. This car's just there. It's residential. Can't you lean on the horn? That's a good one as well. Lean on the horn. And Also Not for nothing, but like if you you got in the car, and you waited for the snowplow and the snow plow just buried you in 4 Ft of snow that nobody knew where you were like. It kind of feels like, Yeah. Where's Dad's car? Well, that's where it usually parked and there's huge. No mountain there. Maybe Dad's car and dad is under there. What a disgrace. It's horrifying now. He's okay. Hypothermia, but he's okay. I mean, at what point you give up on life there or what point you go. Well, okay. It's our number nine. They never find in me. I got no food, no heat. I'm toast freezing at some point round of oxygen so you can breathe up all the oxygen in there as well. You know, that's relatively airtight. The car and the snow. That's not what do you do here, guys? What do you do? Do you just sit there and wait and pray? Or do you roll down one of the windows and start digging your way out? I'm digging my way out my hands. And then about 10 minutes. When I realized I can't give up on life, I say a prayer and it's Mm hmm. Because the thing is, I do think is very quick us. He's not 4 Ft of snow between the car with the outside world. It's up over the side of the car, so I wonder if you could have Put the window down and punch your way through the snow or shoveling into the collar, I guess and then climbed your way out. So that's what you have to do. You've got to roll down the windows and shovel the snow into your car. Now he's 58 years old doesn't look like using the best health, so maybe he didn't have it. Strength. Thank God the state trooper found him. Thank good is this guy is a hero. That fountain Thank goodness this guy found my goodness..

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Why are health authorities still struggling to communicate?

Coronacast

03:48 min | 1 year ago

Why are health authorities still struggling to communicate?

"I'm helter for teigen. Tayla and opposition journalists daughter. Norman swan tuesday the first of december and this time a year ago there was a virus circulating in hubei province just starting to reported probably sprayed from mid-november and things are just gathering pace under the radar one year ago. We'll have to deep dive into the early days of the virus. But not today norman. Okay hold myself back well. The last couple of days have been a role ride again in adelaide. Norman we've heard about a man who was out and about with covid and there were question marks about whether he should have been an isolation or not and the communication seems a bit messy. And it's been a bit hard to know what he was expected to do. Or whether he understood what he was expected to do. And even now i can't really make sense of what he was expected to do whether he knew it or not. How do we make sense of these sorts of things and if we can't communicate it well then. How do we know that people actually know what to do. Yeah i think what you're seeing here is an early forgetfulness. If you like of the key message from this pandemic throughout deploy doesn't matter really what country you're in is that if you've got consistent messaging from the leadership in other words political leadership and your public health dealership then people trust that and the follow it and hopefully that advice is solid and australia by large. It has been solid. So that from prime minister to brandon murphy and from dana andrews and brett sutton and alan chang and so on so in other words. You've you've had your good synchrony. We've had very policies in australia in terms of lockdown okay. They've been controversial. But communication has been fairly consistent now in toria the data looked they were transparent but the actually weren't that transparent sometimes very hard for us to make sense of what they were actually saying. And i think that reflected robin name being deliberately obscure. It just reflected the fact that they're contact tracing was in a bit of a mess and therefore the really have good data to pass on. So now you've got this situation and it's very important to remember this because support for the next pandemic important if the coronavirus comes back in australia. Such as you've had in south australia is that surfaced jones behaviorally well differently. They've come forward to be tested however a wobble like this does create a problem for community understanding because the temptation here of course is to victim blame. Oh there's this guy and he's out in a boat and probably even imply that yesterday on corona cast. He's been out of the boat. What a decayed during this and so on and so forth it turns out. He's actually behave quite well. And if there was confusion over communication that confusion has been all levels the understanding. We seem to have got yesterday. Was that he in fact was a casual. Contact was told to wait until he was tested. He was tested. And i said we got the result. The result was negative so he wasn't in quarantine and then he was told to get another test at eleven days which apparently was positive and it was while he was positive that he was out in a boat. I'm not sure that the nudity was positive but he was out in about roundabout that period of time. So it's just another example where you're creating danger when you're not sure of your facts and and you jump in people us we jump into and but we are assuming that the information is accurate. Not making any excuses about this is just another lesson that how the authorities communicate is essential to the control of the pandemic and to this one. Because it's not over yet

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Personal Boundaries

Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast

05:15 min | 1 year ago

Personal Boundaries

"Of the questions I receive in the mail. These days are from people who have a difficult time setting boundaries in Buddhist bootcamp I mentioned that Wild Buddhism certainly encourages us to be tolerant and accepting tolerance does not mean accepting what is harmful and sports terms what we designate harmful considered out of bounds, and everything else is fair play. Unfortunately, many leaders are still unsure where to draw the line whether we. We do it intentionally or not. We regularly enter into agreements with everyone in our lives. We decide what's acceptable. What isn't and what's open for discussion? The boundaries we set become the rules of the game by which we play. I'm not sure if the laws have changed since I was a paralegal in the nineties, but if you were a landlord back then with attendant, who signed a rental agreement to pay you? You a thousand dollars a month for example, but then you accepted a check from them for only five hundred, because they couldn't come up with the full amount one month, the law said that you cashing the check effectively voided the written contract and entered into a new verbal agreement, in which the new rent is suddenly only five hundred, then when landlords tried to take their tenants to core for back pay the. The judge always said if anything less than a thousand was unacceptable. Why did you accept five hundred and Buddhist terms? What you allow is what will continue you teach people how to treat you when you accept certain behavior, the first problem presents itself when people think setting boundaries means controlling someone else's behavior, but the rules are your own to designate yours to honor when I set personal boundaries for example I do. Do it to control my own. Well, being by limiting my exposure to what I consider harmful, my route motivation is self, love and preservation not control or manipulation. If I choose not to be around smoke or alcohol, for example, I'm not telling other people what to do. I'm choosing what I want to be around. One person may be perfectly happily married to someone who a glass of wine with dinner every night. Night but I wouldn't even go on a single date with a drinker that is my personal boundary based on what I consider harmful, and that's the problem we come across. People's definition of harmful tends to oscillate between extremes on the one hand. Some people consider anything that is mildly unknowing or slightly uncomfortable as harmful, and that just makes them intolerant of almost everyone and everything, and if that sounds like you, please. Please consider the possibility that the problem isn't other people, but rather your short fuse yet on the other extreme. Some don't think anything. Short of physical abuse is harmful. Never assume that any two people have the same threshold for what's off limits we decide and convey what's acceptable when we choose to accept it when it comes to setting boundaries, it's important to think about what it is. Our boundaries are designed to. To protect so imagine there are two beings or entities inside of you, there's the ego within, and there's divinity within our precious little egos demand respect from others and thrive on other people's approval while the divine, or has plenty of self respect that doesn't rely on anyone or anything external. When we have self loved, nothing can harm us, and there's nothing we need to safeguard so the next time you feel. Ask Yourself. What am I protecting morality or my ego, and the smallest nutshell possible confronting people who upset US instead of confronting our Egos is like blaming the rain for soaking US instead of using an umbrella when talking about boundaries think of them as agreements or contracts that you impose upon yourself, not restrictions you put on others keep in mind, however that if you don't communicate your personal boundaries with people, and then they cross a line, it's not their fault for not knowing. Knowing where you draw the line, can you imagine a rental agreement without a set payment amount or any sport without designated field boundaries are essential ultimately what we put up with his what we end up with, and I'm not victim blaming, I'm intent on all of us acknowledging our self worth as well as the value of our time energy in her piece and safe-space, define your boundaries and stick to them with conviction were talking about your divinity hereafter. All don't ignore it. Is, a thousand a month, and you accept less. You're effectively saying that less is acceptable, but let's step away from the metaphor for a minute. Okay, if you actually are a landlord and your tenant is one of the millions who have lost their jobs due to the pandemic, if it won't cause you any harm to reduce their rent for a while, then by all means, treat them the way. You would like to be treated if you were in there shoes. We are soldiers of peace in the Army of love. Our mission is to reduce suffering. Suffering in the world, whenever and however we can, so yes, we are taught to be tolerant and accepting, but remember tolerance does not mean accepting what is harmful define what harmful means to you and you will be one step closer to setting healthy boundaries

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Personal Boundaries

Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast

05:02 min | 1 year ago

Personal Boundaries

"Most of the questions I receive in the mail. These days are from people who have a difficult time setting boundaries in Buddhist bootcamp I mentioned that Wild Buddhism certainly encourages us to be tolerant and accepting tolerance does not mean accepting what is harmful and sports terms what we designate harmful considered out of bounds, and everything else is fair play. Unfortunately, many leaders are still unsure where to draw the line whether we. We do it intentionally or not. We regularly enter into agreements with everyone in our lives. We decide what's acceptable. What isn't and what's open for discussion? The boundaries we set become the rules of the game by which we play. I'm not sure if the laws have changed since I was a paralegal in the nineties, but if you were a landlord back then with attendant, who signed a rental agreement to pay you? You a thousand dollars a month for example, but then you accepted a check from them for only five hundred, because they couldn't come up with the full amount one month, the law said that you cashing the check effectively voided the written contract and entered into a new verbal agreement, in which the new rent is suddenly only five hundred, then when landlords tried to take their tenants to core for back pay the. The judge always said if anything less than a thousand was unacceptable. Why did you accept five hundred and Buddhist terms? What you allow is what will continue you teach people how to treat you when you accept certain behavior, the first problem presents itself when people think setting boundaries means controlling someone else's behavior, but the rules are your own to designate yours to honor when I set personal boundaries for example I do. Do it to control my own. Well, being by limiting my exposure to what I consider harmful, my route motivation is self, love and preservation not control or manipulation. If I choose not to be around smoke or alcohol, for example, I'm not telling other people what to do. I'm choosing what I want to be around. One person may be perfectly happily married to someone who a glass of wine with dinner every night. Night but I wouldn't even go on a single date with a drinker that is my personal boundary based on what I consider harmful, and that's the problem we come across. People's definition of harmful tends to oscillate between extremes on the one hand. Some people consider anything that is mildly unknowing or slightly uncomfortable as harmful, and that just makes them intolerant of almost everyone and everything, and if that sounds like you, please. Please consider the possibility that the problem isn't other people, but rather your short fuse yet on the other extreme. Some don't think anything. Short of physical abuse is harmful. Never assume that any two people have the same threshold for what's off limits we decide and convey what's acceptable when we choose to accept it when it comes to setting boundaries, it's important to think about what it is. Our boundaries are designed to. To protect so imagine there are two beings or entities inside of you, there's the ego within, and there's divinity within our precious little egos demand respect from others and thrive on other people's approval while the divine, or has plenty of self respect that doesn't rely on anyone or anything external. When we have self loved, nothing can harm us, and there's nothing we need to safeguard so the next time you feel. Ask Yourself. What am I protecting morality or my ego, and the smallest nutshell possible confronting people who upset US instead of confronting our Egos is like blaming the rain for soaking US instead of using an umbrella when talking about boundaries think of them as agreements or contracts that you impose upon yourself, not restrictions you put on others keep in mind, however that if you don't communicate your personal boundaries with people, and then they cross a line, it's not their fault for not knowing. Knowing where you draw the line, can you imagine a rental agreement without a set payment amount or any sport without designated field boundaries are essential ultimately what we put up with his what we end up with, and I'm not victim blaming, I'm intent on all of us acknowledging our self worth as well as the value of our time energy in her piece and safe-space, define your boundaries and stick to them with conviction were talking about your divinity hereafter. All don't ignore it. Is, a thousand a month, and you accept less. You're effectively saying that less is acceptable, but let's step away from the metaphor for a minute. Okay,

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"victim blaming" Discussed on I'm Not In An Abusive Relationship

I'm Not In An Abusive Relationship

10:59 min | 1 year ago

"victim blaming" Discussed on I'm Not In An Abusive Relationship

"This story is It happens far too often Each individual's situation is unique but the parameters around. This story is something that in our work. We hear a lot of times in so The fact that nineteen-year-old perpetrator was Preying on a thirteen year old. It happens it's not sexual assault. Deaths happened with strangers was stranger. Danger is only between twenty five and fifteen percent of the sexual assaults. That happen. Yeah I think I heard a statistic that it was in ninety percent with somebody that you now. Yeah so when I think about Children who are perpetrated on And I look up information. There's a lot of information about prevention in that kind of gets under my skin because that puts the onus that puts the responsibility on the child to keep themselves safe from adult predators. Not Enough attention. is put on educating adults or even holding adults accountable. For not perpetrating on children. I think we see that all sorts of ways not just with this story but I think just society in general Where there's so much victim blaming and a lot of Otis going back to their survivor. Instead of focusing on the perpetrator and their role in it and their responsibility so maybe as part of teaching children how to protect themselves and that they need to take responsibility to protect themselves we can also teach them that it is not their fault and the fact that adults are misbehaving and making them have to protect themselves is a horrible thing in a situation that society really needs to address. I think we need to point out that Out reward what you said. A little differently is not the responsibility of children to protect themselves. It's the responsibility of adults to protect our most vulnerable assets. Which is our children absolute from predators and sell Instead of placing all the focus on how to tell children to protect themselves. Because if they're protecting if they're in a situation where they're having to protect themselves they're already being violated and so we need to do as adults to have our eyes and ears open and watch every little thing. If something doesn't feel right to you address that don't be afraid to offend someone. If that person is potentially a danger to your child your niece your cousin your neighbor across the street if when you see I can't say it enough. If you see something say something that's how we keep our children's say Holding perpetrators responsible for what they do in if something has happened over and over again tell that child. It's not. You're you're not responsible for what happened. It's what this person did to you. Not what you did because someone or didn't do if someone chooses to make a child victim or anyone victim that's that person's choice the person who's we in victimize them have choices in that In that situation their power and control have been taken away from them. Do you see DEB. Part of that As caregivers having conversations about sex or about sexual abuse do you think that's something that could be helpful when we're talking about the story And the person not telling their parents so do you think having conversations about sex or about sexual abuse with kids would be part of that. There's definitely a need for age appropriate conversations with children I will say having a conversation with your child about sex is not encouraging them to have sex. A lot of parents will Will I'm not going to talk to him about kids. I don't want them to think that it's okay and so having Two girls growing up. In this day and age I had to start having those conversations with them real conversations and As a youth in my church it was really. I'm just going to be avenue really easy for me to talk to someone else's kids right about that and what's right what's wrong. What should be what shouldn't be and all of that stuff and I promise you the first conversation I had with my daughter I was short of breath. I was hyper V. I had to Google something but you did but it was important that we had that conversation about. What's right? What's wrong and if something happens you know even if you make a bad choice you can come to me with this and and I'm GonNa love you. I'm GonNa love you really. I'm GonNa love you through this. We're GONNA talk about what's right what's wrong. We're GonNa talk about what choices you have in what needs to happen beyond this situation and always it's not your fault. You die if someone has violating. That is not your fault. You did not choose this Let them know that they have a voice. Often Times will shut kids down about talking about their abuse and it's not because they don't need to talk about it. It's because we're uncomfortable with the conversation and so we need to get past our own feelings about what has happened in our own opinions on and be able to listen to children so that they know they can come to us with these things. I'm sure those parents are pretty distraught in that I'm sure they thought they did everything right right. They said No. You can't go to the party. They didn't anticipate that she would sneak out. They didn't when they go over to get her the next day while they're yelling at her yelling at him. Saying what made you think you could do this? And then it didn't click how how odd that would be that. A nineteen year old would want to Come IN PARTY. Pick up a thirteen year old. I mean just so many things that I'm sure they just continue to beat themselves up about as it's already over so don't worry about embarrassing. Your children ask those tough questions figure out. You know if this feels weird follow up on those feelings and get to the bottom of things I will say without and I would never blame these parents because they woke up to a crisis right. They didn't even know what happened to their daughter but when they woke up their thirteen year old was not at home. They're thirteen-year-old was not in their bed and in her bed and so they're already having a crisis of their own and so when they got there and they saw that their daughter was say sure so they thought their focus was on the behavior Not what may cause in your mind? Worst case scenario they woke up and they thought their daughter was dead. They thought their daughter had run away so they were dealing with the crisis. That was at hand at that moment however it didn't really leave space for her to go into what else happened and so And I don I. I'm just going to tell you I know as a parent. I don't believe I would have handled it any different I would. I would have been so relieved right that my daughter was alive and yes she would have been grounded forever but knowing what I know now once we got home I'd know I would have said. Tell me everything right. And that's your parents right right. But that's knowing what I know what I know. Isn't what the average parent walking down the street now Scher in. So that's why we're here to educate on those things and I think too part of it In Our uncomfortableness sometimes we use euphemisms for sex and for Genitalia. But I think part of it is using language to talk about sex because if your kid is telling you use euphemism and you don't know what that is and you're going to assume that everything is okay but it could be. I'm being used but because we didn't talk about that in a language that everybody understands something could be going on and I could be unaware of. It is apparent absolutely One thing I've won Teen TO KNOW IF THEY'RE IF they've experienced this is I'll go back to it again. It's not your fault. You may feel like you're going crazy. And that's not unusual for what it is that you're been through Your emotions your feelings about what you have gone through are appropriate for what you've gone through and there are certain things when you've been traumatized you see the differently in everybody smet seeing things the way that you see them and so you're labeled as unstable in crazy in. You're not unstable. You're not crazy you're seeing things through a different Lens and being able to find a safe person to talk to about these. Things is important so that it can validate income and you find comfort in knowing that. You're not crazy you're not nuts..

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Hollywood moment: Harvey Weinstein's sentencing

The Economist: The Intelligence

08:05 min | 2 years ago

Hollywood moment: Harvey Weinstein's sentencing

"Today. The disgraced Hollywood producer. Harvey Weinstein will be sentenced last month. He was convicted of rape and criminal sexual assault and faces up to twenty nine years in prison. Prosecutors have urged the judge to consider what they called a lifetime abuse towards others even though for most of those alleged abuses. Mr Weinstein has never been charged. His lawyers have petitioned for the minimum sentence of five years saying that any longer could constitute a defacto life sentence after Mr Weinstein conviction the Manhattan district attorney Cyrus Vance Junior said. The change had come to America. This is a big day. This is a new day and I hope women will will understand the significance of the jury verdicts. Today is. Optimism was echoed. By some of Mr Weinstein's accusers and their lawyers is a historic. I never thought I would see in my lifetime. Change has come today. I have a message for Harvey for all of Users Rape Myth perpetuators victim blaming and knows retaliated against sets. This one's for you. Your time is up. The allegations against him formed at the start of the metoo movement very public example of what remains troublingly hidden kind of crime. It would be easy to see his conviction and imprisonment as a high point for me to next. He'll face charges in Los Angeles for crimes. He continues to deny. Just how much any of these cases will change. Things is far from clear hustling surprised. Sasha Economists Public Policy Editor Mr Watson case certainly wasn't a slam dunk. Some people may have had that impression but it was by no means a straightforward case. These sorts of trials of radio really complex and in addition is to watch team faced accuser's stories straightforward. In a way they were very representative of a lot of these cases in the sense that they fit coach. Roy Do rape in being something that happens with a lot of force and a ski mosque by Stranger instead. These women told stories of complex relationships including ongoing contacts with Mr Weinstein off to the souls and typically juries have really struggled with this kind of cases in fact most of those cases that make it anywhere need a jury and to that extent. Actually very atypical case. Because of course Mr. One Steen's case as well as the accusations have all played out very very publicly of in multiple accusers. Zubin spelled out in the media. One thing that made it question unusual case is that the judge allowed extra witnesses women who would not pass the charges against Mr Weinstein to nevertheless testify over previous aqel bad acts that they had experienced at his hands. Allegedly it certainly was quite controversial. May well be part of the grounds of a possible appeal by Mr Weinstein team. And what would that appeal? Look like it's Hampson. No I mean concerns have been raised about whether Mr Watson could have affected trial in given all the media attention publicity particularly in New York City before the trial. His team tried very hard to get. The trial moved to somewhere where they thought he might face a forgiving jury that was thrown out. This is a long process. Take easy setup two year and I guess one of the questions now that people Rossi's while is he gonNA get out to bail can continue to monitor while that process is ongoing which is has begun wanted to run up to his trial. So you say the result is a bit surprising and and certainly prosecutors and plenty of commentators have held it up as a sort of watershed moment is a sort of a apotheosis of the of of the metoo movement that essentially was launched. By by these cases. What's your take on that I think? The watershed which is an awful lot immediately after the valid. And I understand it. I mean this was a high stakes trial. Which the Manhattan. Da. Couldn't afford to lose so they threw themselves out this only on the hands. I think as as many celebrity trials we have to be careful with Conclusions hair. I hope it will be a watershed moment. There's an awful lot wrong with how sexual. Violence is is investigated and prosecuted. But I have my doubts. I think the the real test will come when single women also group of women come forward to accuse somebody of rape without the media attention right without. Will the inefficacious if you will of the accuser has been an awful lot of emphasis on how powerful Mr Weinstein is but his accusers. Happen quite powerful as well. Essentially they had public opinion rooting for them. And I think the real test of whether the the Weinstein verdict will have a BRUDER EFFECTS. On how serious criminal? Justice Systems. Juries take these kind of complex claims will only come when we see an everyday victim. Come forward with with a typical claim of sexual assault. So what you're essentially saying. There is that celebrity. Justice is fundamentally different. I mean why do you suppose? That is I- celebrity justice in general is just is only certain. Becerra was it is just different from normal justice putting old big bright lights and attention onto someone being accused in this case Mr Weinstein. That's a typical way of injustice remedy a J Simpson trial which was essentially works like a soap opera. Essentially didn't have that much impact with how of the mothers were investigated then tried in Los Angeles and I think the same will be the case with the wider significance of the wanting conviction. Today that said there is of course important symbolic function to mocking. Somebody like Mr Weinstein up and holding his feet to the fire. So I said he wouldn't diminish the symbolic importance of seeing someone powerful like him wrote into a cooled. Convicted unlocked. Up is just going to be careful with suggesting that. Will the other huddles that stand? In the way of getting justice for everyday victims have now disappeared. I mean the one distinction here between Mr Weinstein's case and the OJ Simpson case is that Mister Simpson was was acquitted whereas Mr Weinstein has been convicted. Don't you think that that at least has sort of knock on effect sort of casts a shadow over over future cases gives future jurors a sense that That that there is an example being set there. Yeah maybe I mean future jurors in reminded with this case that rape doesn't look the way they think looks so it's been very helpful to have this very public lesson. If you will in rape myths that rape is a complex crime that said we pull people every year on their attitudes dissection. Rasmussen doing that. Insensitive metoo movement took off. And in that we don't really see much of a change in public attitudes to sexual harassment and indeed in America way would have hoped that reporting rates of sexual violence had increased most under reported binding crimes often me to after an initial bump reporting rates of back down to what they were before me to see. Let's see what happens next year. You know it always takes a while to get the kind of data but be careful with two inches at this point.

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Male Survivors of Sexual Assault and Abuse

The Psych Central Show

09:44 min | 2 years ago

Male Survivors of Sexual Assault and Abuse

"We have Dr Amy and Dr Joan Cooke. Amy is a licensed clinical psychologist and the assistant director of the trauma. Resolution and integration program at Nova Southeastern University and Joan is a clinical psychologist and associate professor in the Yale School of Medicine. Department of Psychiatry. Amy Joan welcome to the show. Thank you happy to be here. Thank you well. I am very glad to have both of you because we have a really big topic today. We're going to be discussing male survivors of sexual abuse and assault. And I'm a little bit embarrassed to admit when we first started putting together this episode. I thought to myself is this a subject that we need to cover. Is it big enough? Aren't we already discussing it and the research that I did in the stuff that I learned from both of us? Thank you very much is that it's actually sort of under disgust and under reported absolutely and thank you. Gabe for admitting to that I think a lot of healthcare providers a lot of the public and many male survivors themselves adhere to a number of male rape myths. We need to talk in this country. About how rape and sexual assault of boys and men not only possible but actually occurs at high rates. If I could share with you just a snippet of how frequent it occurs. Please please got my next question. What are the prevalence rates? Okay so I think a lot of people don't know this but at least one in six boys are sexually abused before their eighteenth birthday one in six and this number rises to one in four men who were sexually abused across their lifespan. That's too many obviously. Any number is too many absolutely but that stat blew me away at the start of my research for this episode. I believe that the number was half a percent like it was just ridiculously low and I think that's because let's face it people don't report sexual assault. Both men and women don't tend to report it to law enforcement agencies to the FBI. We just don't have good crime. Statistics on these. Why SHAME EMBARRASSMENT? Minimization and people not believing survivors. You know a lot of the research and the clinical scholarship that we have on sexual abuse including the development and testing of psychosocial interventions really focuses on women. And that's important for sure absolutely but men and boys who experienced sexual abuse. They're out there. And they're largely overlooked they're stigmatized or shamed by the public and sometimes by healthcare professionals. It's just not acceptable. I also notice that pop culture covers everything. But this is not atropine pulp culture. We see the sexual assault of women in law and order. Svu In primetime television week after week and marathons all weekend. But I can't really think of any pop culture representation of sexual assault rape or trauma in pop culture at all outside of that one movie from the seventies with the Banjo and that's regarded as like a horror movie. And do you think that this plays into the public dismissing sexual assault on men and boys absolutely? So what you're picking up on is that this really just isn't represented. We have amazing celebrities that come out like Tyler. Perry who disclose sexual abuse. But it's not often enough and it's often with a lot of snarky comments. That are written a lot of trolling a lot of other things. And I think this really speaks to the toxic masculinity that's present in our society. The idea that men should be able to ward off sexual abuse or they're quote unquote not real men and that's something that kind of pervades even around more kind of socially correct politically cracked people. It's still that idea of like grow side or just step up. Or How could you let this happen? It's still a lot of victim blaming that. I know women face as well but I think even more so around men which just signals to us that there's an issue in terms of how we view masculinity in general as a society. I feel that we should point out that. Of course we're not contrasting and comparing male to female assault and sexual abuse in any sort of competitive nature. It's just that we WANNA make sure that everybody gets the help that we need and your research has determined that there's a lot of men that aren't getting the support that they need. I mean anybody who was sexually abused or sexually assaulted raped deserves good care. And the fact that your research is determined that a lot of men being left out of this conversation is obviously very problematic. I appreciate that very much gay because sometimes and this is what we've heard from survivors to sometimes when they go to survivor meetings. You know they are seeing a perpetrators instead of survivors of violence themselves. And so they're not as welcome at the survivor table or some survivor tables. And then even when they go to some providers providers or said like you know. It's not possible that you were assaulted or you must be gay. You must've wanted it. And so all of those myths and stereotypes keep people from getting the help that they need and deserve and working on their path to healing. And also like you said it is not a competition. Everyone deserves this kind of validation and attention and help improving their lives. I could not agree. More amy and John. Let's get into the meat of your research one of the first questions that I have is. What are the differences in prevalence rates and clinical presentations of men and women with sexual assault abuse? Histories aren't vastly different as I mentioned earlier. It's one in six men before their eighteenth birthday and then that number increases to one in four women do have higher rates the CDC estimates that one in three women experience sexual assault or violence in their lifetime the presentation the PTSD. The substance abuse the depression anxiety. The suicidal aviation seem somewhat similar. Both sets of sexual abuse survivors experience. It it seems to US clinically. That there are some very prominent psychological. Symptoms that men have that don't fit neatly into our diagnostic classification system. So oftentimes with men who've experienced sexual abuse we see intense anger and it's always there and it's always seething but it particularly comes out when they're feeling threatened or portrayed. We see a lot of shame a lot of feeling damaged and worried about their masculinity we see quite a bit of sexual dysfunction including low sex drive erectile problems. There's a lot of chronic pain difficulties with sleeping and believe it or not. You know we don't talk a lot about men who have eating disorders or difficulties but see that as well including some negative body image one thing also that we don't talk about and probably too because this carries some shame is that we see higher rates of sexually transmitted infections increased sexual risk for HIV and higher sexual compulsivity. And so I think when they present to US clinically and if they're not acknowledging a sexual abuse history and not because of their own shame though that could be it could also be. They haven't been able to acknowledge it. Or label it accurately themselves and then connect that experience to the symptoms that they're having that I think we're treating them for other difficulties instead of what's really driving their symptoms so they're getting inadequate treatment. What are some of the barriers that men face in disclosing sexual abuse and their sexual assault histories? Well I think it goes back to that concept of toxic masculinity and so. There's a lot of cultural influences. So you know men are supposed to be powerful and invulnerable and there's this idea that men should always welcome sexual activities. So you've kind of got this just societal barrier around people wanting to come forward and I think also it boils down to the consequences of disclosure. So are people going to regard your sexual orientation makes some sort of assumption that because you were sexually assaulted or you must have wanted it or it says something about you. It could even just be about the risk factors involved coming forward and wondering if you're gonNA actually more violence or more discrimination as a result so there's a lot of negativity there a lot to be afraid of in terms of coming forward and that disclosure. John had alluded to it earlier as well. If you're going to your doctor and your doctor also believes in these things you might be repeatedly getting shot down. And so- disclosure just isn't a safe option. I mean honestly. It also boils down to a lack of resources or lack of awareness of certain resources. There's a few nonprofits out there that are dedicated to working with masculine identified individuals. And you have to know that. There's a trauma and in order to seek out these resources a lot of men wouldn't use the label of. I've been traumatized I've been sexually abused. They just don't use that language so really trying to capture men and their experiences and then having them be aware of of what might be out there for them.

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Harvey Weinstein trial: Defense witnesses dispute accusers' accounts

The Frame

07:05 min | 2 years ago

Harvey Weinstein trial: Defense witnesses dispute accusers' accounts

"With closing arguments and Harvey Weinstein's trial all about to start we catch up with a reporter who's been in the courtroom then. Her surprisingly modern film portrait of a lady on fire. Selene CRI wanted wanted to tell a story of women in the seventeen. Hundreds when asked the experts like a hallway women doing with the period of time. How are they handling abortion? At the time they know everything thing about the hair. They knew everything about how I should dress and behave the didn't do much about their privacy and we'll explore the sonic wonders of Ambien Church. That's today today on the frame. We'll be right back. Harvey Weinstein's defense team rested its case in State Supreme Court in in Manhattan yesterday the outcome of the trial hinges on six women who testified in court that Weinstein sexually assaulted or raped them the five felony. The charges against the producers stemmed from the allegations of only two of those women. Those charges include rape criminal sexual assault and predatory sexual assault. The last last which carries the possibility of a life sentence variety senior correspondent Elizabeth Wag. BICESTER has been following the case. She laid out the allegations of the two main accusers accusers. One of the women. Her name is Mimi Khaleej He. She is alleging that Harvey Weinstein assaulted her and that was from an an incident in two thousand six now the other woman. Her name is Jessica Man but we didn't know about her prior to trial started. She was Jane Doe and we didn't well her name or her story until she testified and she is alleging that Harvey Weinstein raped her and sexually assaulted her over the course of many in years during many different occasions. So what has been the core argument presented by the government in its choice of an questioning of witnesses including wounding several other women who described a pattern of alleged assaults committed by Harvey Weinstein or presenting a case that shows the Harvey Weinstein was not justice of sexual harassment sexual assault or rape once twice or three times. They are showing that he has a pattern of sexual title predatory assault now. Even though all of these charges stem from two women largely there have been multiple women who have comment according flip testified. Now the reason that that has been done so that the prosecutors can establish a pattern and the judge allowed women to take the stand to testify justify to help establish the pattern their card mall now witnesses and even though charges do not stem from their account they have taken the stand and told the jury what they allege Harvey Weinstein did to them and it's worth noting that what they said happened to them happened too long ago to be used directly in a case in New York against Weinstein so the defense rested yesterday they did not call Harvey Weinstein as a witness. What was the thrust of their defense strategy? Yeah so the rest of the defensive strategy was essentially to make these women appear as if they were opportunistic and as if they wanted their own benefit they wanted career advancement they wanted personal access from Harvey Weinstein. Of course Harvey Weinstein has said from from the very beginning of any allegations that all sexual encounters have been consensual. He has maintained that his defense of course has maintained that and his defense pence is trying to poke holes in these women's stories and they've done so by showing evidence of text messages of phone logs of emails that depict the women and stay in constant communication with Weinstein after they alleged. They were assaulted. We're talking with varieties. Elizabeth Wagner about the trial of Harvey Weinstein. One one of Harvey Weinstein's defense lawyer gave an interview to the New York Times as Megan twohey in which she suggested that sexual assaults are basically and I'm using in her words now that blame rests equally between the person who is being assaulted and the person committing the assault. I think women need to be very prepared prepared. For the circumstances they put themselves in and I think absolutely women should take on equal risk. That men are taking on and the responsibility responsibility should be equal as well as that been mirrored and how they have questioned witnesses at cross examination. It absolutely has that interview. That Weinstein's lead attorney Johnnie Gave certainly made waves A lot of people have said that she is a victim shaming and victim blaming while in court when she she stands up in Cross examines these women what she has said is you kept emailing him. You stay in constant communication with him. Are you really telling the ladies as in the gentlemen of the jury that the man that you call your rapist is also the man that you email to make sure that he had your new phone number in court. Though when many of these women have taken the stand they have explained to the jury. The only reason they went to a hotel is because Harvey Weinstein said. Please meet me in the hotel lobby for a business meeting. So they went under the understanding. They were meeting him for a business meeting and then they were lured off into a hotel room and brought into a situation said that they did not believe they would run into. I think it's also fair to say that rape experts have said that victims sometimes remain on hourly good terms with their assailants after the assault. It also seems that many of the women not only believe that Harvey Weinstein was interested in helping their careers but also feared what would happen to them if they spoke out about what happened. Yes so all of these women on the stand they have said that. Not only did they think that harvey could help them with their career because that's exactly what he said when they first met him. You know that he said to Alabama you know you're an actress. I think you're great for this lead role. Why don't you come in meet? Meet me at this hotel to read a script but they also said not only were they hopeful of the career advancement that Harvey might be able to give them but that they also feared fear that if they spoke out that they would be blacklisted from Hollywood he would ruin any chance of career entertainment that they would have so as the the government and the defense lawyers put on their closing arguments. And the jury's begins its deliberations is the fundamental question whether or not these encounters were consensual. Is that what it comes down to. Absolutely I mean this is a case ultimately of he said she said the the big question is was. This consensual wasn't not in. There is a lot of gray the area none of this is cut and dry in fact only one of the accusers ceased all communication with him after she alleges she was assaulted so there is gray area here because the question remains why did these women keep in contact with him and were they trying to advance their careers by complying with his requests. And that's all down to

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Ken Starr Baylor University Scandal

All Things Considered

04:27 min | 2 years ago

Ken Starr Baylor University Scandal

"Ken Starr is best known for his investigation that helped lead to the impeachment of president Bill Clinton and now he'll be playing a part in the defense of president trump during his impeachment trial in between these chapters in presidential impeachment store worked for six years as president of Baylor University in Texas which is the nation's largest Baptist university and where he was forced out over his handling of sexual assault scandals we're joined now by Paula Levin an investigative reporter for ESPN who wrote a book about the scandal welcome thank you so I want you to bring us back to twenty ten when Ken Starr first became president of Baylor University what brought him there like what were the university's aspirations when they picked him to lead them was an interesting choice I mean he was not someone who had history with with Baylor but he was a big name and they were looking to raise their profile and to raise more money for the university and thought that bringing him in would would really appeal to the donors and he had a Christian background it was a very important aspect for how they ran the university and they were really hoping that he could bring them into the next chapter will publicity is certainly what thank god in twenty fifteen when things drastically changed when scandal first hit the national headlines because a football player at Baylor was convicted of sexual assault can tell us what happened there right so football player Sam echo what she was convicted of sexual assault and why it raise some eyebrows more so than some other cases was that he had previously been cleared by university investigation which actually would have a lower burden of proof in a criminal conviction and what the media and others came up with were additional reports of sexual assaults involving football players that led to an internal investigation and then what the media and those investigators found was that Baylor's failure to address sexual violence was not just a problem with the football program it was a campus wide issue that even getting worse over the years women being silenced victim blames retaliated against this so this leads to may twenty sixteen the border regions decides to fire head football coach art Briles they suspend the athletic director and they demote Ken Starr he'd later that summer steps down from all of his rolls of Baylor and departs so what do we know about whatever personal role Ken Starr had in this scandal did he play personal well I think Ken Starr's role was one of someone who was responsible for making sure that this got addressed to Baylor bites dropped the ball on that a good example of that is that federal guidelines required the university to appoint someone to title nine coordinator and so he does that but he gives that job to someone who was handling human resources and who already had a full time job and who's not really equipped to to deal with that just doesn't make it a priority does what's in his position that he didn't know so many women were coming forward with reports of sexual sorrow he didn't know what happened to those reports of sexual assault well right so after this all played out that's it that's what he was saying is like I wasn't aware that all of this was happening and how serious this all was and a lot of what happened with his discussions and and the border regions when he was demoted has not come out because they've both sides agreed to keep silent about a lot of that but at the end of the day no one has ever come forward and said that he specifically knew about a case of sexual assault that he covered after that he had a role in covering up and and that is important it's more that he was sort of out to lunch on the issue big picture so what is Baylor University done to address the culture that led to the scandal I would say that there are people who say it hasn't gone far enough and that there are still issues I mean I they did have a massive turnover best you know Ken Starr leaving athletic director Briles and then after that it and number of other people at lower levels but I think something that's important to mention is that they're still alive loose sense of this there are multiple women who filed title nine gender discrimination lawsuits against Baylor some of those are still pending but another thing to keep in mind is that there were a number of entities that launched investigations including the US department of education and that investigation is still

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Harvey Weinstein trial set to begin next week

News, Traffic and Weather

00:44 sec | 2 years ago

Harvey Weinstein trial set to begin next week

"The sexual misconduct trial of disgraced movie mogul Harvey Weinstein begins next week one person though who has accused him of abuse will not be in the courtroom advocate and actress rose McGowan had once said she would be at any trial but now says the fallen Hollywood mogul because you're so much pain she can't verify it for me and I think for so many of us in this there's been so many levels and I think there are for so many women and victims that go through the system break going getting a rape kit collected that's like a horror movie the whole thing's a horror movie Allen said Weinstein deserves a fair trial like anyone else but says she expects his defense team will be victim blaming the allegations against wind screen Steen sparked the me too

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Judge favored leniency in rape case because of teen's "good family"

The Ray Lucia Show

00:59 min | 2 years ago

Judge favored leniency in rape case because of teen's "good family"

"To New Jersey judges have come under fire for their handling of rape cases one asking whether a sixteen year old Eagle Scout quote from a good family end of quote should face serious consequences over a video recorded assault on an intoxicated teenager another judge ask whether a twelve year old girls loss of virginity constituted serious harm the comments which follow other cases of perceived leniency towards sex offenders with privileged backgrounds lead victim advocates to question whether these judges are sufficiently trained to handle assault cases in the meat to era Patricia tefan heart the executive director of the New Jersey coalition against sexual assault said survivors worst fears are now coming to life they're fearful of victim blaming or having the crimes committed against them being minimized Monmouth County judge James Troiano said in his opinion the Eagle Scout charged with assaulting the sixteen year old it up a Java party had a good test scores and was on track to attend a top college thanks for listening to USA radio

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"victim blaming" Discussed on News Talk 1130 WISN

News Talk 1130 WISN

03:29 min | 2 years ago

"victim blaming" Discussed on News Talk 1130 WISN

"This nonstop victim blaming the nonstop passing off of blame in passing the buck on everything that has nothing to do with whether an individual human being succeeds or fails then if you start there you might actually value human being children mom's parents you might actually value people enough that you would do something more than kick around in a steering committee nobody's going to attend nonsense it will do exactly nothing you would think that the common council president who is a black man from milwaukee would actually think about this stuff and say you know what enough of this doublespeak enough of this political salesmanship i want real solutions we have a problem with us t._d. exposure in the milwaukee public schools what are we gonna do about that what are we going to do about the problem with young people spreading sexually transmitted diseases what are we going to do about the problem with the fact that most of these young people cannot affectively fill out a job application to be considered for the abundance of opportunities we have in a strong economy like wisconsin what are we going to do to protect innocent people from the roving marauding band of thugs that will cruise through their neighborhood making all of them feel unsafe what are we going to do about all of the drugs and all of the crime and all of the violence in the city of milwaukee how are we going to solve this problem so that the lion's share of people who would actually like to have a shot an opportunity could actually grab that opportunity if it presented itself to them this is why 'cause you know that's not gonna happen bob if you're listening you know that's not going to happen it's never going to happen it's never gonna happen because nobody gets paid to conduct a research project to devise a policy advice document to be presented to a council steering committee that says here's what you gotta do it's really simple we gotta find a way to strengthen the nuclear family we have to teach marriage in schools we have to teach basic health and hygiene lessons to people who presumably are not being exposed to it and we have to make sure that everybody who exits the school system can read and do math grade levels that they have an opportunity to make something of themselves and while we're at it we're going to need to increase the number of police we have in the streets we're going to need to increase the amount of jail space that we have we're going to need to increase the amount of juvenile detention space we have because if we don't do any of that than the people who are victims of the decay and the misery those people are never going to have an opportunity to actually sees those those those chances that come before them from time to time this never going to happen because nobody gets paid to create a document like that nobody gets paid to talk about how the problem isn't racial equity in the problem isn't social justice the problem actually is dysfunction of government to the point where it gets in the way of human prosperity pack to energize your career nuclear security enterprise is hiring the national nuclear.

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"victim blaming" Discussed on The Jason Stapleton Program

The Jason Stapleton Program

02:19 min | 3 years ago

"victim blaming" Discussed on The Jason Stapleton Program

"Without problems. Nobody goes through life without conflict. The difference between the winners and the losers is they know how to adjust, and they know how to how to how to maximize every encounter and every event that happens in their life and popular culture. This gets framed as victim blaming or or some type of or just discrediting people's lives. Discrediting the lives of people who suffered or whatever. This is what you're saying is the most empowering possible nurse for someone. It says you can't control your own life. You can control your own destiny. So if you aren't where you wanna be it's because you haven't decided to get yourself there. And that's that's not that's not condemnation. It's not judgmental. That's empowering. That's that's inspiring. It's within your control. It's within your power to get yourself to the place that you wanna be and sometimes it's not because you've done anything wrong. Sometimes you're just on the journey to getting there. If you have a clear idea of where you wanna go, and you are working your way towards that goal and you've encounter. Hurdle an obstacle and failure and set back one right after the other, but you are slowly inching your way towards that two steps forward. You know, one and a half steps back. Then eventually you're gonna move in the right direction. The worst thing that can have you're going to get to where you wanna go. The worst mindset you can have is. Oh, it's not possible. Because of all these other reasons when I would I work with trading clients. My the process I would take them through was a week long training live training that I would do every day, and you would show up everyday. And in my opening comments to them. I would tell them. I said I want you to make one thing. I wanna make one thing very very clear wherever you're at in your trading and all of them were losing money because they wouldn't have been with me if they weren't I said wherever you are right now. It's your fault. It's not your brokers fall sny. You wife's faulty dogs fall to you. You know, the guy who sold you that crummy trading system promised to make you millions but blew up your last account. It's your fault in every you or the only one who places the trades in your account. You are the only one who makes the decisions at the end of the day your survival your success..

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"victim blaming" Discussed on ESPN FC

ESPN FC

04:37 min | 3 years ago

"victim blaming" Discussed on ESPN FC

"If the ball had the same drama Queen antics of the go between did he would have been treated exactly the same. I don't want people to stop being self righteous about abounding because I already whereas events is plays came to me afterwards. And invent confess Ken was wrong to celebrate. That way we can go around calling the entire coury crowd of fence. If things if they were race this is than fans go wrong, but it happened because of the Senate abrasion would have happened. Even if the goal scorer had a different color of skin that is in Paris in and it got. Yeah. And I mean, I heard Jelena's speak after the game slightly different version. But but the gist was. The gist was pretty much the same, and obviously it's entirely absurd. I don't think anybody's going to racially abuse desk who happens to be white even if you wanna give him the benefit of the doubt where maybe he didn't realize that moisture can felt he'd been racially abused before. You know, we're outer space territory here. And then he did this the same thing, which always happens. He says, oh, but the cry it was a minority in the crowd. You know, we are not a racist club. We're not a racist fan base. This happened with moon dotty a couple years ago. And he wrote this whole screed about how how he's really tolerance city, and there isn't much racist. Nobody's attacking the city of comedy. Nobody's attacking the Kennedy fan base Dobies attacking the club. What people are taking issue with even if it's a minority is the fact that moisture can goes to play football match and gets racially abused because of the color of skin. That's the simple part. It simply doesn't matter. If your show upset by moisture cans celebration, there's one hundred and one things you can shout at him and you can call them without moving into races territory. That's the point which which Mr. Giulini evidently doesn't seem to understand. And he doesn't understand. This is the third time, by the way that this is. Kagyu to happen with maturity last year. Giulini apologize Damon on that occasion? And it happened. With was a couple years before that. I don't know why it's so difficult to get this point across while. You can't take say the stance that took after after the racial abuse of Kula Bali who said anybody who does this. We don't want you here. I don't care for its one guy. Ten guys ten thousand people. You're not part of this club. You're not wanted. And if we can't you you're out of here, it's very very simple for club president to to to send that message. And and this guy evidently doesn't get it might wanna start shit. Also, this is the most disgusting example of victim blaming I have seen in football for for quite some time. On the one hand Gillian in what he has to see as awful as it is he's trying to defend his own, but nuchills Komen zoo and capture leads exactly what is wrong with talion football. And why this issue is not going anywhere anytime soon as far as Syria Newtown football is concerned. If you see your teammate, whether you recognize the abuse, she's getting before note, and he reacts he does. And then you you apportion fifty any of the blame to him. It says so much more about the mentality of people like Leonardo Banou Benicio and the acceptance of players like moisture Ken within not just room and their role in talian football going forward, Ren, UC rain, you see the legs have between react as he does. It says exactly whole deep that abuse was for both him and can't unicorn. Of this game. And then the present come out on labelling that as as drama Queen antics. No, I'm really not sure how you gloss over all of this. I really don't. And it's time for the thirties to take very strong action here take action against club close close of the stands Shanshan club presidents, hefty, fines, whatever it may be. Similarly, I think you vent as a club given who they are given their own reputation their own staying in the game have to take what Bucci said that is not Representative of Venice. And or should not be Representative event us, and there's a lot of blame to go around here in my opinion..

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"victim blaming" Discussed on Food Psych

Food Psych

04:06 min | 3 years ago

"victim blaming" Discussed on Food Psych

"That's usually a sign of gas lighting. That's usually a sign like when your brain scrambles. You know for me, I feel like I've gotten really good at recognizing. I'm in the presence of gas lighting, and it's sort of like a feeling it really feels like my brain is just being twisted. And I think if you find. Herself in that position. It's a good moment to just like tick step back and assess what it is you're really trying to do by arguing for the coexistence of body positivity and dia culture. Yeah. I don't know. Yeah. I would think we've soap in about this before. And I'm gonna I think it's interesting rate. Like, I what you're talking about. What that trajectory? How a lot of times are on trade to a political movement is the Laura of it is often relief. You know, whether it's intellectual relief of like, I mean for me a lot of intellectual relief has come from being involved in political movements. Because what a lot of times what I gain from them is a while that feeling that I had inside of me that something was deeply and irrevocably wrong with me that has a name is called the sort of a process it, right? And that intellectual relief of having words attached to a feeling is so powerful. And I think for me I feel like one of the. Things that I hear over and over and over again from people around a lot of the work that I do around really decoding the history and like sociological anthropological nuance of diet culture. A lot of people give me feedback that they feel like a sense of relief that this. This was a feeling that they've been knew something wasn't right? And they couldn't figure out what and one when people can't figure out what they tend to blame themselves. And that's what we're taught to do an end very much like diet culture is an act of accepting blame. It's an act of sort of accepting the blame for fat phobia and saying I will acquiesce and do anything in my power to maintain this system of abuse. Because I've accepted that it is my fault that I am BA victim of this. Let's victim blaming ideology. Plain simple. What makes sense? I think for a lot of people relief is the entree and relief is a very individual experience. And I think like once we get enough in my opinion. Right. Like, I'm a believer in the way that we become accountable as humans, and we become global citizens is not when we've accumulated enough resources in our own healing process that it is kind of our human duty to begin to redistribute those resources, and that might just be compassionate. Not might just be it might be any number of very small things. It's Louis do intuitively. I think what's really hard is like you're talking about that kind of dog had refusal to engage with that encounter. -bility? I have a really big problem with that too. Unlike the kind of the the unwillingness to sort of reconcile internally this is my choice. This is my ideology, and then becoming like the voice of someone who essentially is like trolling people who are trying to feel one another themselves. Cbs in Papp's a collective, and I don't know like I mean, I kind of don't I guess I don't entirely understand not way of thinking. But I certainly see it frequently enough to know that it's like, I don't know that it's out there totally. And it's interesting like, you know, you talked in the book, and we sort of touched on it a second ago about like this idea of internalized inferiority, and I feel like this sort of position of being like the person who's digging in their heels and saying like, no I can have body positivity and weight loss, and no one can tell me otherwise or whatever being in that position. I almost feel like is sort of this weird intersection of like internalized inferiority and internalized privilege like unexamined privilege that it's kind of funny because those are they seem like opposite things. But I think maybe they're like two sides of the same coin at sort of show up in this way, where a friend of mine, and I.

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Prince Philip writes apology to car crash victims, blames sun

The Ray Lucia Show

00:33 sec | 3 years ago

Prince Philip writes apology to car crash victims, blames sun

"Prince Philip who is ninety seven has written to two women who were injured a few weeks ago when he had a car crash. He says it happened because he was blinded by the sun the queen's husband acknowledges, they're very distressing experience and says he wants them to know how very sorry. He is the was driving near the queen's estate when his Land Rover at the other car and flipped over. He says the accident left him very shaken but greatly. Relieved. The women were not seriously injured many are questioning whether the prince should be driving at his age.

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"victim blaming" Discussed on That's What She Said with Sarah Spain

That's What She Said with Sarah Spain

03:01 min | 3 years ago

"victim blaming" Discussed on That's What She Said with Sarah Spain

"Here's why you're doing that. Right. Here's why society overtime has sort of taught us all even women to question what she did to bring it on herself. Instead of understanding that there is no vulnerability without danger. You cannot be endanger unless somebody me. Means to harm you. So that be the fault of the victim. They're not doing something that inevitably as dangerous walking having a drink wearing a short skirt. It's only dangerous because someone means them harm. And I think that's probably a huge part of it for you to is to cut through honestly decades of society, teaching all of us. There's this is where we want the finger. Yeah. Yeah. And and I talked to the young men about that. I talked to them about how you know, when I was when I was gang raped the first thing I did when I walked out of that -partment would start blaming myself. And the reason I did that I think is because as a woman, you know, we're talking a very very small h how to protect ourselves and how to protect ourselves from men. So I did is I went through this checklist. In my mind of all the things I've been told to keep myself safe. Check your drink always be with a friend. You know, all these things, and I went through, and I and I checked off what I didn't do and what I did wrong. And then I blamed myself it didn't occur to me. Not even once after I walked out apartment that. I don't deserve to be drugged and gang rapes that I did nothing wrong that I'm allowed to beat her friend's house. I'm allowed to exist them allowed to walk this earth without being harmed. But I did that. And so as a society, we we have to stop we have to stop doing that. And victim blaming is just easy, right? If we can blame the victim, then we don't have to do anything. Right. You'll have to change policies. We don't have to hold people accountable. We don't have to fire a coach we don't have to do anything. We need to say what I was your fault. If you've done the right thing, this wouldn't have happened in Libya problems. So we're just gonna blame you. And that makes it really easy for us. It's a it's kind of a scapegoat that we use. And we use it all the time. But one of the exercises, I do with athletes, and I do this with survivors. And I've done this myself is you know, the sentence should rate be a consequence of and then fill in the blank. So should be a consequence of drinking should break. The consequence of going to that party that your parents told you not to go to. Being in the wrong time and the place at the wrong place race run place wrong time, whatever you should read. The a consequence of anything. No, the answer is. No. And it's always no, it doesn't matter. What you've done. It doesn't matter. What you've not done. I don't care if somebody said there are rapists at that party. And you go to that party. You get raped, but it's still not your fault. Right. Who still he's not do anything to make that person do that to you only a rapist chooses to violate another person's body? So what would what would you say to somebody who who tries to play devil's advocate and says, we'll if we know that there is evil in the world..

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