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07:52 min | 1 year ago

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

"To decide which one you're really after. Which one of these make you question as to where you're headed in life so the first one is mystical spirituality so mystical virtuality is based on a desire to move beyond the material world beyond the senses eagle and even beyond time this approach centers on personal relationships and a sense of unity with all the things so in fact. I think now that i think about this. This is kind of what. I was after mystical spirituality. Because you realize that you're not someone who is so interested in the material word you understand that all your five senses sight touch taste or smell wherever it is. It's not bringing that much satisfaction. There's definitely something beyond it right. So that has mystical spirituality. The second one is authoritarian spirituality. It is a particularly strong farmer spirituality based around the need for definition of rules. This type of spirituality is particularly common in specific religious practices. Interestingly enough this is where religion and charity get confused because authoritarian spirituality sort of looks for concrete rules to live by people who want to be given a set of rules that they can follow and they can feel connected to the universe based off of these rules. Third one is intellectual spirituality. This one focuses on bidding knowledge and understanding of spirituality through analyzing history Carries this approach can be found in the study of religion at is also known as theology. So some of you might be intellectually driven folks who are very interested in knowing our. You're focused on kind of building. Knowledge around spirituality. You're someone who likes to completely understand subject before you make a decision your beliefs are on something so you might be researching about this or you might be reading books about it but what you're interested in is the history of it books from fourteen hundreds that tell you how to be more connected so yeah fan intellectual you might be someone who's looking for intellectual spirituality. Fourth one is service spirituality service spirituality the common form specialty many religious fates this is kinda predominantly boot around serving others as a form of virtual expression. So if you are someone who's service-oriented this could be the one for you where you'll find your chew expression or connection with your own self by serving others you feel more in touch with reality than you feel like you're contributing to others and it is a good thing. This does come into a lot of other religious. Faiths were I'm a hindu by caguas product hindu. So in our like in the way i saw my parents contribution society or religious was by donating food. That was organizing. Food drives for the underprivileged. So service is also a dominant factor off religion and it also has a big part. in spirituality. got arrests spirituality. The fifth one is social spirituality. This is often practiced by people who experience a spiritual feeling in the company of others. Social support is often seen as one of the porn aspects of speechwriting general. So when you feel more connected to yourself venue in the company of others at this is quite interesting you could be someone who's not just extroverted but someone who needs other people to feel connected. I personally am not that. We bothered an important part of this. Definition of spirituality is that social support can help encourage any form of spirituality whether dinosaurs per shoddy are not so backward. Lose jumping around the idea. What is rich quality. And i wanted to find more practice that i connect with. I joined the school. 'cause the school off practical philosophy and they have multiple multiple organizations while the world. It's extremely popular in the talk about spirituality from philosophical perspective end there weren't a group of five people who would talk about their thoughts and what led them to their journey. I said before the question of what is my purpose. What is the meaning of life so when the people around you are discussing similar things you feel like you're not too crazy for wondering them. So social spirituality is in fact quite make sense. I thought more spirtual. When i heard other people questioning the same things right. So those are the five kinds. I'm just list them out again for you. First mystical spirituality going beyond materialistic senses. Second authoritarian spirituality where looking out for some guidelines. Rules live by third intellectual spirituality where you're driven by the knowledge and understanding of spirituality and by the way if you're on this podcast listening to this you could be the one who's Who is intellectually inclined towards spirituality. Because you're so curious about the information funny okay. Fourth one is service. Virtually it is a common farmers. Providing many religions like i said before and it is driven by servitude. Fifth one is social perch valley where people feel more connected are experiencing more special fewing than during the company of others. Those are the five so this nationally kind of leads us to our next topic which is why do people practice tragedy. Because this might help you figure out your personal why. I have emphasized the importance of having strong. Why on this podcast. And i sincerely believe if you have a strong. Y for exploring your spirituality. Dan you will be able to reach where you want to sooner. So many people see spirituality as kind of a great way to ray of seeking peace in their lives and this is sort of order journey begins and they find their practice who yoga which ultimately sort of focuses their focuses their attention towards balance. And finding that centeredness within your own and it also helps him relieve stress. And julie's on wanted emotions. It is spirituality is also kind of used in a way to gain perspective of your own self as to who you are and recognizing that are low role in life has greater rather than just what we do in terms of our position. Titles a what you do. From day to day it gets separate from a person from dependence on material things and it can definitely help you stab dish a greater purpose so people also sees which by the way of coping the unity. So i don't know which one of these you are. But i'm pretty sure this is kind of very lie. You might be wanting to gain more perspective in your life. You might be looking for some detachments materialism in your life or you could be someone who wants to kind of cope. Some sort of change uncertainity. That is happening right.

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Unique U

04:59 min | 1 year ago

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

"Exactly your uniqueness in this journey so The podcast title definitely urges or talks about Time line and i'm talking about your timeline. Because again our journey sometimes we start to compare ourselves with others in this goes back to the initial team of this podcast comparison competition. We forget that archer journey is it cannot be compared in any depth breadth or any way with anyone else's journey because there's so many little details to attack. There's no way we could know and this ties. Rainy day to the idea of having compassion because compassion means now the understand that we can never completely know someone's journey and story and there's no way we can have d- complete detailed idea of why someone is acting the way they are because is urgent is not derived by that current situation but it comes from ears of conditioning stories experiences and circumstances. So it's always good to have compassion and it's always a necessity to have compassion towards other people in it's equally important to have that compassion towards yourself and understand that you're on your own journey and timeline of things so this time line that society seems to often sat on us stab. You need to have the perfect job by the age of twenty one. You need to have your life figured out by age. Twenty three and any need to be married by the age of twenty five. All those timelines are sort of lose. Tomlin's based off this age number quantified. Thing really need to kind of like go off and start focusing on the scene. Churn you're on and remember the quality of her time line as soon as your mind yourself. Your unique you realize that. There's really no timeline. Besides the time. I've ever worked for you besides the one that is happening naturally for you. There's no need to push growth upon yourself. there's no need to comparative line with someone else. And i hope by simply listen to these words. You're able to understand why there's no need to do that. Because his journey on if you embrace it if you fully immerse yourself into it trust me in its natural flow. You will find your time line but then you compare your time to others. You're going to ironically doing exact opposite and find yourself falling even more behind on your current time. Line finding yourself falling apart because you're comparing yourself two hundred people on completely different timelines and unique journeys so. This was a quick shot episode. Because i just want you to reflect upon it more than need talk about it because as soon as you start to reflect on your own time and upon unique journey you'll realize that it is really not comparable to anyone else at the only thing left for you to do is get comfortable with where you are but not complacent some not asking you to be satisfied ahmad asking you to not push towards the next level of your growth but p patient with it. Don't try to fall onto someone else's time mind because trust me that is never going to work out. The only time line that works for you is your time line. Thank you so much for listening to this episode. I hope this helps you out in some form or the other. Please share with someone who you think could help or is rushing time line. Thank you my friends and your unique and always remember that. Thank you thank you thank you. Thank you for sharing your time and energy with niki. Podcast i'm grateful to have been a part of your day shared today not only resonate with you but also help me share to help others. Escape escaped unnecessary suffering. If this episode did help you today then be short shirt with someone else. You know needed that mission. You and i share who only be achieved when we share with others. What has helped us. I hope i can help you. Further in creating a wholesome life of graduation and make your transition into adulthood smoother. You can always find me at eight o. N. u. s. h. a. at my stink dot com. That is i sti. Nc dot com or sign up for the free some Coming up called blueprint for life after college summit and this is your complete guide to a wholesome live so i hope to see in the summit and he can find it on my website m. i. s. t. i n. c. t. again dot com sits mice tanked dot com. I hope to see you there. My friend take care..

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Unique U

03:56 min | 1 year ago

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

"Values and understand what success means you and that is why we have done the past two episodes not the past in terms of order. But you've done two episodes in the past. One of them is defining core values. The other one is defining success. So that now what we can do is fit those things into our lives and sort of figure out how to create our dream life right We want to make this down. We wanna break life down in one ear into three years and into five years because Basically dream life is not just something they you're saving for last. It's not something going to achieve after fifty years. You can hug dream bike in one year's time as wall. So what does that dream. Look like in one year's time and that's all we're going to be talking about okay. Let's get started so First of all step onto doing this is identifying your core corral us We've talked about this extensively and there's who episode on identifying core values if any more details will basically what i need you to do is sort of have this exploration and experimentation phase with your own self or you kind of trying to understand what your core values are and why you're truly value in life. What is truly meaningful to you There are a ton of online tools. That give you like a whole list of core values. I would not recommend you to just sit down with the list and identifying what your core values are because what that does is sort of Sometimes does is when you're sitting in the list and you're trying to circle out things. In black oldest. Might this might be value. That might be informed from how you're currently feeling in the moment. It is not very informed from who you truly are to have each truest of corelli's to list of core values that chewy. Who you are or are really meaningful to you. What you need to do is let your past actions. Neb your future goals guide those list of core values. Maybe start exploring me destructing long hire you. Spend your taher expand your life What you prioritize kind of environment you place yourself in. What kind of conversations do like to have. What kind of books do you like to reward kind of park. Cast you like to listen to all those things are actually pretty good 'indicative off your core values instead of just sitting down the list. What the list does go online and look of our core values list. What that list does solo put words to your feelings. It could be happiness. Maybe you'd really really search for happiness in whatever you're doing maybe it could be success. Maybe could be balance connection loyalty. Knowledge adventure held. These are all different core values for me. My karalliu is health. Its success and it's definitely authentic city so for me. Whatever i do i made sure that heli decision and hell does not mean looking certainly held Serving my body. Mind our spirit in some sort of way. That is what helped means to me. Second thing that i tried to go for success is if i do. I feel successful in a do. This task is this task. Bringing me some sort of satisfaction that again ties into personal definition of success. Third thing that tried to or value everywhere is tend to city so you see when you have your list off values you could have ten fifteen different core values power freedom. Meaningfulness interactions anything right. Then you have a list of core values you know. What motivates you in life and if you're clear about what values matter to you you're able to engage in a dream life that incorporates these values in ultimately.

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Unique U

05:34 min | 1 year ago

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

"Amounts of books. You could find that. Grow your skills towards that so those folks will provide you with years of experience of the author and give you quick quick skills you need in order to reach your next goal so find books that show you the mindset. You need to adapt to to get where you want to get to achieve that next goal that you're going after so book. Creating is an excellent way to make sure that you are those goals achievable enter. Pick up on the skills that you need to for the goal that you're going after okay. Next one is setting time for reading so the easiest way to build a new habit Is to have sort of this comes from this bull called a Just okay so. I'm forgetting the name. But a put a description in the buyer but talks about building powerful habits and the way you can build powerful habits is by stacking it with another habit. What that means is like for example. We already had habit or brushing your teeth. Right foley up with the habit of reading a book. Let's say you decide for yourself. You're gonna Brush your teeth for the next..

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

Unique U

03:16 min | 1 year ago

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

"That means fine people who find inspiring motivating and read their biographies. Learn how to think learn what mindset tap to when they were young. What happens with the boat. How did they get where they are. What is your perspective on the world. What is their advice for. You read biographies short sort of a shortcut. Into all of the learnings. Through different experiences they had different situations they went through. So you don't have to experience the hardships dated and you can implement what they learned out out of those experiences right now in your life so when you read biographies they really give you sort of a guide or a simple way to be as great as someone who inspires you. Which is absolutely amazing right. There's no way we could have thirty years of experience at the age of twenty because that's just impossible but you can do that by reading biographies okay. The next one is don't take your personal finances personally right now. If your dream job is no longer viable or if you have to move back with your parents to help to help make ends meet for a while. That is not your failure. The survives comes from for news tabby. She is a popular finance coach. She has a podcast her own finance. I absolutely love. You should go check it out so this is little bit different from all the mind to show that we've been talking.

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03:09 min | 1 year ago

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

"Engage lesser in that friendship. I'm not saying compete. I'm saying compared because when you compete. There is potential for healthy competition very constantly pushing yourself each other. Like hey man. I twenty pushups today and the other end. You go like did thirty pushups today. And then he as okay fine. Your friend says okay fine. I'll push for thirty five the next day. So it's sort of a healthy environment rear sort of competing in a positive way but when it comes to comparison it sort of takes your motivation. Down and d- motivates you and your happiness does not make them happy. Your happiness might be a reason why they tried to tell you that. Oh but i did that so rugged constantly comparing. Your accomplishments with each other data is not at all holy friendships. Get out of the worst ones but push towards the ones that motivate you to do more and be more because you can see how much potential there is like for myself. What i did was iphone friends. Who were pursuing are in graduate school because that helped me seeing. What kind of future is out there. Impossible for me. If i was to push hard enough towards michaels. They were definitely a bit older than me. Ever just perfectly fine. It's sort of allowed to mature faster to have the right kind of conversations and to prepare for the word faster so making sure your surrounding yourself with people who moderate you to be more and once you have the clearly define appreciate having environment that supports your goals more than you think. More more than you thought they could. So that's it for today. And i hope you know you're able to find a while to find lists are kind of environments. Do you want to put yourself in all kind environments. Do wanna pull yourself out of end. It is completely okay. Trust me or not being selfish by doing this year. Only doing service to the person in front of you as well because non-legally contributing to your own growth. You're also making sure that they're able to focus on their growth. Instead of having an inauthentic authentic. French not serving each other having something where you are both spending time or investing time on something that is not going to solve either of your futures so this is not a disservice. You're not being selfish. All your is maximizing your potential. So thank you so much for joining this brief episode. But i hope you find friends and environments with view and embiid. Serve your future goals. Thank you and your unique in. You deserved few special. Thank you thank you thank you thank you. Thank you for sharing your time in. Nurture the unique you podcast..

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Unique U

01:37 min | 1 year ago

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

"They argue stuck in a life that you did not create for yourself and nine looking to leave from sitting back and letting life happen into new driving your own life to success the cut to a successful in wholesome life used to be long and binding journey and hugely someone else's especially if you are a recent graduate or did not have any clue registered. Hi and welcome to the unique. You podcast. i'm your host on kind of each episode of deleted. Podcast we uncover. What makes you you in the deep into topics at no one told you about each episode is defined and designed to help get into who you are and show you who you want to become regardless of who steps. You've been falling every week. We invite fascinating bag driven guests It does coaches or world renowned athletes. Who would provide you with science. Based actionable strategies for greater productivity serenity fulfillment success healthy relationship the art of change and finding meaningful work. Are you ready to change your life. Welcome welcome welcome. Welcome back.

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

Unique U

05:27 min | 1 year ago

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

"Today's episode we're going to be talking about something that ties in very closely. The last episode which was stopped in tips and advice for life for graduates from talk Experts authors and leaders out there right so common themes that noticed in that what episode months. I listened to it again and once. I read all the advice again. Was this team lost ness. I mean one of the central things we experience when we're going to this phase or transition is wbz lost and directionless and the advise talked about exploring and experimenting being courageous and Following your heart. Sort of experimenting. Trying out new things. So this is why i wanted to take this episode and talk about how to do that. How is it that we can start. Our journey explore experiment. A and why do we need to do that because one cigarette all these books. That are my favorites. I crave the one thing Design your life by some pervert. professor stanford professors and there are a couple of different books that i have read. That talked about being lost. Live finding direction so i wanted to see what is one central team of hawkins. Someone do that because oh my god. It's so wait sometimes the advice on tryout new things failure heart it sounds like equations hard to know how to do that so i explored an experiment as to how to explore an experiment i found out is dry different books and i try to compile advice from all different books and this is not going to be list of advice this was going to be the most powerful strategies. I found to how to do that. Why is it important to do that. And the right kind of mindset to explore so first of all. Let's talk about what exploration and why is it important to make the most out of the uneasiness of being lost in life as to it so first of all exploration means that wasn't anything. The central common theme with expiration is being comfortable with your own comfort zone..

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03:56 min | 1 year ago

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

"And this So it's not exactly carrying about what people think it's also about like the labels that people put on us and the allow those labels to define how we see ourselves so the idea here is that i let how he saw me become. The identity was serving and that was in a good way but before that the people are me holidays. He me or how they saw me. I cared a lot about that. And i let that label that i cannot do something define who i am so what what happens when we let other people's opinions or labels get to us is that we slowly started becoming authentic to habitually are any limit potential to what we think we can be for people so at a certain point we are serving in immature identity that has been created for us. Just like for me. I deeply cared about what people think about me. I was at every stage. I was making sure them serving that immeasurable identity. Through my actions or subconsciously. I was making sure or i was laying the defining fact. I saw myself as someone who still who's never going to be good enough. So i stopped trying towards course because that became identity that i'm someone who cannot do matt so it became okay for not for me to not try being good added that makes sense so slowly i started to just be okay with very i am and i did not wanna explore my potential because i didn't see any potential that imagine identity in that label that people had for me. It mattered so much that it became eid new definition and my new definition of. Who am i so having someone new trust me or find a new label for me. That was enough for me to shift into a different identity for myself. But we gonna get into identity and shifting identities into another episode labels into another episode but the main area this episode touches upon or talks about where here is the fact that we serve and label has been created for us when we care deeply about what people think.

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

Unique U

04:02 min | 1 year ago

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

"So in today's episode i want to touch upon something that comes across to our generation. Almost like a second pandemic and something that we haven't been able to work through end simply is embedded in through the expense off social media and our lives and everything else. So what is that the idea that we care so much about what other people think about us. So hear me out. What is a example off. This happens in. Our lives is social media. We care a lot about how we look on. Social media. identity is even if you say you don't care. I understand that's just an example but carrying what other people think about us has isn't a new concept so at some point or another we all have worried about world everyone else think or while my standing by my entity of why people perceive me as so just carrying about how people see us or what. They're thinking about us even if it is like while you're walking down the street on becoming conscious about your clothing or how you're talking or are looking just because you're cared off. How people are judging. You are harder thinking about two and of course this goes on a much deeper level where we start over digging every and each one of her moves because we're worried what others are going to think about a we try to perfect it. We tried to seek approval in other people's opinion because that's <hes>. The mindset that we're so used to about caring what others think and don't get me wrong sometimes. This mindset comes from the purest of intentions energy in fact pretty much. All of us have the purest of intentions at heart which is to making sure that the other person is comfortable. You're not making anyone feel uncomfortable or lesser or bad about themselves so we try to shrink ourselves up to let other people grow or take the space but there they are trying to do the same. It's kind of crazy so let me give an example or like a story of how this looks like in my life or what. This might look like for you as well. So grade nine or ten. I used to really dislike map and who doesn't like. I used to like mathematics and pretty much. Everyone around me hated as well. Look my friends were like. Oh my god. I hate this course. I don't want to be studying mathematics and it was just like like it was a common. I know it was common. Do not like that. And i was okay with it so my my friends and my close circle the new kid and <hes>. Even at school. I was never like a pride one up until grade nine heated mad than i was never doing well in it and i was just constantly told not good enough. Not smart enough and migrants will never match the requirements stuff like that right so an accepted that labels so it did not feel luckily will to me. What happened was whenever i study i used to take. But what will people think about me like d. I there has been a legal form which is is not good at mad and my sub conscious effort was to make sure that i was serving that label through my actions. So this wasn't me constantly doing. It's looking back now. I can't pinpoint in action. Where actually did something to jeopardize my performance but subconsciously was so embedded within that. I'm not meant for this. That i made sure i kind of limited myself from growing into that field

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20:26 min | 1 year ago

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

"Center of attention off that dinner. You're catching up with some old friends. So the food should really not have been wildcard. Your attention you notice that what could have been a very special time was literally wasted upon you focusing upon your food you notice that you cannot controlled situation and the emotions pricing so it was really not your fault because hunger does have the power to take on our decision-making pain and it just goes away. So what do you think you can control. We cannot control the emotion come we controlled situations that sometimes happen around us because the food is delayed and that is something that happens commonly. It's not uncommon that says the very small example off the kinds of situations that we experience on a day to day life. So what is it that we can control. And how is it that we can lead happier life when things around us always seem to fall apart and we can never never ever seem to be able to manage our emotion. Reactions are emotions because they come up. Anger does come up. I get angry. Everyone gets angry. Everyone has been angry at certain point of their life and has read it later on the have experienced. How harrowing hunger kimmy. What being restrained can feel like an all these different emotions the experience and label as negative or bad but trust me there are also the good emotions avi experience that sometimes. We really do want to manage them. Because we know that we're going overboard with have you ever been in love with someone insanely in love with someone and you know they're never gonna retire back to you and that love is seen as a positive emotion but for you it has become something off in negative something negative. Because it's gone so overboard that you cannot manage. It almost feels like your emotions are beyond your control and are being managed by some sort of third party environment similarly with if in the capitals have you ever think i use love very loudly like have you ever been to happy and people told you. Why are you so happy honestly. I don't think people can ever be too happy but you know perspectives. So what i'm trying to get at is that we always try to manage your emotions and there's always that sense off Feeling helpless or out of control just because our emotion cannot be managed. We feel like we do not have any grip where emotions and that our emotions have a sense of their own. So what we can control over here in. What i'm trying to talk about here is our she action to the situation because situations often happening around us things happen. Like there's no denying things happen shit happens but what we can control is how we react to the situations around us offer. Actions are the only tang under our control and another thing. Is that dewey college reactions or do we call it response. Chemicals react to when you put chemicals together deja act but a calm human being responses. So are you someone who he acts to situation will suddenly gets activated as soon as something was wrong or something does not sit but you will or are you someone who lets the concept selwyn. It well into your mind and respond to situations. So i those are the two differentiations that will help you manage your emotions lake seeing it from the action versus response. This is something that has personally helped me. Whenever something around me seems to be going jong quote unquote. I try to see if i'm reacting to the situation or responding to the situation because reaction would be instant on thoughtful and kind of triggered state acting out of triggered state acting in a way that i think the situation needs to be acted upon so if my food is delayed even if i'm not actually angry but according to the social norms or according to the situation it should be something i should be mad about or angry about that is reaction. I simply am angry. Because i know that is what people usually do in. This situation is usually how people react in the situation so first of all the distinction is between jack and response If i were to respond to i do like little gut check. I would i check. I'm really hungry or is it that. I know it's been thirty minutes. Have check my watch and have been told by the society time and again that if a fool if my food more than fifteen minutes late than i'm super hungry and i'm supposed to react to it so responding means that you thoughtfully and like you do a self check inside of your body first your first try to assess your feelings you. I tried to formulate an opinion and think your thoughts through before you decide. What your output or what. Your response to something is going to be so the importance of having a trip over your emotions goes just beyond how you look in that situation or preventing Regret may not just trying to prevent regret. That's like deleting the negative but what positives can having a grip over emotions create. The first one is that we will have a heightened sense of self awareness and understanding. When we're able to understand solves we are. He believed to implemented in different ways. When you do a check with yourself when you do about little self-awareness check just talked about. It will slowly start to gain a better understanding of yourself. What kind of situations make you react. Walk kind of situations. Allow you to response in radio triggers. Lie new she usually yet angry. When you're hungry that means you should eat before you get hungry so that is a very small example of how being self oregan help yard so being more in charge of yourself and if emotions instead of waiting for things to happen to you instead all vade ing situations to get bad and then reoccurring dan regretting. You become more in charge of yourself from the beginning from step one. You try to kind of Folly apart kind of assess your actions and your just ponce's to situations just to see how your how you are as a human being and you're you're taking more charge of yourself and still passing it onto situations waiting situations to happen so this will help you have better day to day. Interactions because it will allow you to understand what kind of conversations do you like to have the people and this will definitely help your decision making because Just knowing you're thinking patterns just having that self awareness will allow you to kind of Develop a decision making framework for yourself so that is my perspective on why pink having group arrear motions is helpful but of course there are tons and tons and tons of different benefits of having brewery emotions that you might experience in your life like things that you think could have been lost a lot better a few were able to manage your emotions so many wasted moments because you could not stop being sad over something and then later on you realize that. That was really not that sad. You could have enjoyed those moments a lot more if you did not spend them crying if it did not spend them complaining so afterwards living a life of regret that i wish i was not sat in those moments. I wish i had not reacted to that situation that way. So all of these are emotional. Reactions are emotional responses to situations and definitely definitely their benefits. Go beyond just Decision making or you know the hard skills kind of things that can move stood out there. So many hidden benefits of having him controlled way of approaching your emotions and being sure of what you're portraying is exactly you want to portray the emotion. You're feeling is the emotion you want to be feeling so having that charge having that control has endless amount of benefits and the wants listed are just getting started just few but i don't wanna listen while because i know that you know what benefits could having a dribble your emotions could have to you and that is very personalized for me. That looks very different for you. That looks very different for me. It is If i were. Let's say a few days ago. I got angry over something and i later on felt like i was angry at my friend for something and eilly on sold. I would have been much better if i did not get angry. That's just an example like situation but just a very small example right so that same game are that wasn't very good example that same game of how could An emotion begic credit afterwards and how to prevent it from happening. So the first thing i talked about is response. Where says you act so always try to be responding to situations. Instead of reacting to situations so the skill to respond well can simply be developed. You do not have to be born as a calm peaceful type taught will type of a person. No we're not all like that. We don't always take our actions through. That is hard for some people. Most of us act on the spot. The act upon as who we are a what we think is right in the moment and i'm not asking you to change your core or how you respond to situations. So what other ways could there be to manage emotions so first of all is emotional awareness so the fact that you're here listening that shows or that kind of proves to me that you're someone who is emotionally over summer or the other in your life. You felt that your emotions went out of control and they could have been better. You have responded to a situation better or you have emotions that you think are coming up in the wrong places in the wrong situations and you would love to discover the source of them so emotional readiness is key and who are emotionally aware. If you're not try to do a south check today after listening to this podcast and try to see if you're someone who feels emotions in situations and jackson Situations in the way that you do not want to sometimes and you feel like you don't have any control over your mind those moments and it's almost like you're good at all and someone else's guiding you so try to find that emotional awareness try to see if there have been moments where you acted in a way that does not really represent the authentic you. You know when you feel like this not me when this even happen to speaking as i'm speaking sometimes i'll like i shouldn't be saying this i shouldn't be saying this bam i still say it similarity with you had situations where you're acting a certain way and you're like i really shouldn't be doing this. I really should not be going for the next piece of chocolate. But you're still reaching out to open in your mouth and ten minutes later unicredit at the gym. All those things are your emotions that are getting portrayed in hong because they did not get managed in the right situation at the right time so that is your emotional readiness so the first step is emotional awareness. The second one is emotional acceptance when we start to accept our emotions instead of ignoring them. And won't you start to acknowledge your human being and a bond to feel emotions. Your he will do. Create that safe space for yourself fair you few the emotions as they come instead of having them come in a very abrupt or violent kind of way in wrong situation so allying or like not ignoring emotions when they come letsie when you went out for dinner with your friends and you allowed yourself that desert you would have been able to avoid binging on chocolate. Are cakes later on because you allowed yourself if piece of chocolate or a piece of cake when you wanted and that did not get portrayed in a weiland wave and you may. No one was watching. You ate the whole cake by yourself. See if Emotions as they come at a few except your emotions in the moment they present themselves to you instead of pushing them awaiting them instead of acting as their bad or pushing them down. You're able to control them and you're able to face them than they are. Minimal are in their baby faces instead of them coming back to in a monstrous y lynched way. So do not judge yourself for your motions because you're human being and so i mind so. Is everyone else around you. Who is going through the same journey as you are. So don't judge yourself orient motions. Because i'm pretty sure Feeling has been felt by another human being around you. The third step is trying to understand the emotion. Feel the way you do. Then you start to discover why when you start to understand when you're trying to rename and make an attempt to understand why you're feeling where you're feeling. You'll be able to uncovered the underlying jesus off a situation underlying reasoning for why you're responding responding so start to question yourself. Start becoming curious about your own emotions about your own jackson responses oscar. So what am. I feeling right now. Why am i feeling this way so my suggestion to you would be a mood tracker. In the beginning i used to like when i first discovered this method of when i first came up with this metaphor myself i would often ask myself. Why am i feeling this way. What is going on with my mind. Why my reaction like this. Why did i react. Dispersion person this way it got very hard to keep track of all the different situation all the different triggers and all the different emotions better positive or negative says started pending down. It was a positive emotion. I would drive. How what the positive. Emotion was watched triggered at emotion. What exactly did it feel like did a few peaceful joyful lake satisfaction on feel like i've paralyzed felix was controlling. What did that emotion few lake. And what triggered it and buy my feeling it this way in that sort of moment. I know these questions can sound overwhelming but start small. Maybe what and why simply right what. Emotion got portrayed in a situation. And why did it get poetry the way it did start. Small keep immortal tracking general and at charleston. This can have immense benefits because this will help you. Connect with yourself and slowly. You will have a kind of a mood tracker. Which allow you to see what situations have. What kind of power over. You so understanding. What triggers during worship will make you more emotionally south ware person and like i mentioned before this can have immense amount of positive impact in your life so infrared galatian and not for infrared management offer suppression. Please do not ever wide your emotions. Trust me every emotion is so colorful and so word feeling that if you suppress it if you tell it to go away it will come back ten times stronger because what you resist persists. It persists even stronger ceriga lead and manage self management is. The tool is the key to accomplishing the highest level of discipline and self love than suppressing the emotions. So taking graphical responsibility of all the emotions. You're feeling so responsibility off how what actions are taking not living that life of regret that. I don't know it wasn't me whatever. I didn't ask that enough. You like me. You know often times when you apologize to someone else not wasn't like me right like yeah man like. I'm so sorry. I you know me. That wasn't me. Stop using that as an excuse everything you do. Is you a Knowledge-sharing dad action. Okay this can have a spiritual. We can have a spiritual debate here. Because i hold the composition of how our actions are not our true selves. But i will get into that later on for now. What i'm focusing on is that saying sorry. Are apologizing promo place where you saying that what god portrayed was not your fault or wasn't like you is not acting out responsibility when you take radical responsibility for actions in how you're making the people around you feel what you're putting out in the word data's when you can fix that is when you can create a real impact because how you feel in what your job of 'situation truly julie depends on you so you choose your reaction under sponsors situation and you have the power to create that this The next one is the most powerful one. And i came across this. Pd jason lee. Because i started practicing all these self awareness tools are just shared with you and s louis reached this conclusion. This has been so empowering so detach your emotion from yourself like a mentioned about two seconds ago your actions even though you do need to take traffic responsibility for them. Your emotions are not you. Then you say you are angry when you say you're annoyed menu. Say you're hungry when you have to say that about yourself. i'm angry. i'm angry every situation. That happens around you every five days experience a situation and you say oh my god. I'm so angry at her. I'm so angry at this. What happens that you slowly create an identity for yourself. I am angry. i'm angry person swollen. You don't know. But this is our subconscious act. This is our subconscious built you embed in your subconscious that you are angry human being even if a situation is not that triggering your identity kicks in as an angry person so instead of the situations making you angry like instead of align yourself to be someone who's annual classic joke. We have as as a kid when i am sad and he lets high sad. I'm a nurse go. you know. it's like you create that entity for yourself. I am sad. I am sad. Then you repetitiously call yourself side. Even if you're sad over something you create yourself is a sad human being so my one or orgy you over here and i am pressing super hartford. This is that stop seeing. You are sad to say you are feeling sad. Don't see i am angry. Say i'm feeling angry. The language has were mind. The power language has over mind is undeniable.

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Unique U

07:43 min | 1 year ago

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

"This but feel hungry so the only potential solution defined find right now. Is that you scream at staff and you told them they have been waiting for over forty minutes your food now and that you were really really hungry and they literally killed that hunger by delaying your food for so long you eat the food in a very bad mood and you joined the night for yourself de hotel management and whoever has to interview later on when you get home you kind of feel bad because the food was never the main point or the center of attention off that dinner. You're catching up with some old friends. So the food should really not have been wildcard. Your attention you notice that what could have been a very special time was literally wasted upon you focusing upon your food you notice that you cannot controlled situation and the emotions pricing so it was really not your fault because hunger does have the power to take on our decision-making pain and it just goes away. So what do you think you can control. We cannot control the emotion come we controlled situations that sometimes happen around us because the food is delayed and that is something that happens commonly. It's not uncommon that says the very small example off the kinds of situations that we experience on a day to day life. So what is it that we can control. And how is it that we can lead happier life when things around us always seem to fall apart and we can never never ever seem to be able to manage our emotion. Reactions are emotions because they come up. Anger does come up. I get angry. Everyone gets angry. Everyone has been angry at certain point of their life and has read it later on the have experienced. How harrowing hunger kimmy. What being restrained can feel like an all these different emotions the experience and label as negative or bad but trust me there are also the good emotions avi experience that sometimes. We really do want to manage them. Because we know that we're going overboard with have you ever been in love with someone insanely in love with someone and you know they're never gonna retire back to you and that love is seen as a positive emotion but for you it has become something off in negative something negative. Because it's gone so overboard that you cannot manage. It almost feels like your emotions are beyond your control and are being managed by some sort of third party environment similarly with if in the capitals have you ever think i use love very loudly like have you ever been to happy and people told you. Why are you so happy honestly. I don't think people can ever be too happy but you know perspectives. So what i'm trying to get at is that we always try to manage your emotions and there's always that sense off Feeling helpless or out of control just because our emotion cannot be managed. We feel like we do not have any grip where emotions and that our emotions have a sense of their own. So what we can control over here in. What i'm trying to talk about here is our she action to the situation because situations often happening around us things happen. Like there's no denying things happen shit happens but what we can control is how we react to the situations around us offer. Actions are the only tang under our control and another thing. Is that dewey college reactions or do we call it response. Chemicals react to when you put chemicals together deja act but a calm human being responses. So are you someone who he acts to situation will suddenly gets activated as soon as something was wrong or something does not sit but you will or are you someone who lets the concept selwyn. It well into your mind and respond to situations. So i those are the two differentiations that will help you manage your emotions lake seeing it from the action versus response. This is something that has personally helped me. Whenever something around me seems to be going jong quote unquote. I try to see if i'm reacting to the situation or responding to the situation because reaction would be instant on thoughtful and kind of triggered state acting out of triggered state acting in a way that i think the situation needs to be acted upon so if my food is delayed even if i'm not actually angry but according to the social norms or according to the situation it should be something i should be mad about or angry about that is reaction. I simply am angry. Because i know that is what people usually do in. This situation is usually how people react in the situation so first of all the distinction is between jack and response If i were to respond to i do like little gut check. I would i check. I'm really hungry or is it that. I know it's been thirty minutes. Have check my watch and have been told by the society time and again that if a fool if my food more than fifteen minutes late than i'm super hungry and i'm supposed to react to it so responding means that you thoughtfully and like you do a self check inside of your body first your first try to assess your feelings you. I tried to formulate an opinion and think your thoughts through before you decide. What your output or what. Your response to something is going to be so the importance of having a trip over your emotions goes just beyond how you look in that situation or preventing Regret may not just trying to prevent regret. That's like deleting the negative but what positives can having a grip over emotions create. The first one is that we will have a heightened sense of self awareness and understanding. When we're able to understand solves we are. He believed to implemented in different ways. When you do a check with yourself when you do about little self-awareness check just talked about. It will slowly start to gain a better understanding of yourself. What kind of situations make you react. Walk kind of situations. Allow you to response in radio triggers. Lie new she usually yet angry. When you're hungry that means you should eat before you get hungry so that is a very small example of how being self oregan help yard so being more in charge of yourself and if emotions instead of waiting for things to happen to you instead all vade ing situations to get bad and then reoccurring dan regretting. You become more in charge of yourself from the beginning from step one. You try to kind of Folly apart kind of assess your actions and your just ponce's to situations just to see how your how you are as a human being and you're you're taking more charge of yourself and still passing it onto situations waiting situations to happen so this will help you have better day to day..

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Unique U

02:30 min | 1 year ago

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

"Still find a way to navigate our way through and open our minds to whatever is being taught to us. This is a very very valuable skill because an open mind can receive anything that is given to it and open mind is able to take any drugs. That's thrown at it and still find value in it and put it together to learn so having an open mind is exactly in. Today's world is what is called a growth mindset. An open mind is a wind that is able to grow into siv concepts presented to it. That will never ever talked to before i end. The mind did not even know they existed so just an open mind is very special but what makes it even more special is having a personalized unique filter in that mind. All of our minds are very different. The way to look at the world is very different. I'm pretty sure my word is different from yours. The way use. The road is very different from the icy. The word in what are unique perspective is and that is what makes learning so special every time you took a course you had a discussion with your friends. I'm pretty sure each one of your friends had a different perspective on that course different perspective on their decree Arjun computer science degrees. But both of us have very different ways at the way they look at computer. Science are decrees so being able to put on that filter having a unique perspective on a new concept that allows us to personalize. That's kill to our unique abilities to our end to add a fresh perspective to it because because every skill was normalized end saying for all human beings than that skill would not be special. What makes everything so specialist at human beings at our unique value to whatever we learn and that is exactly what university taught you may never you took a course they were able to understand in your unique way and you're able to kind of shape it up. According to however you liked it shape the knowledge you're learning and find examples of it in real life to learn it and to add a unique.

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Unique U

04:52 min | 1 year ago

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

"Welcome. Welcome welcome back during the episode is unique you podcast. Michael resigned your host under school. And i'm super vapor to have in here because you have decided to share your time energy with me and i hope i'm able to make the best out of them because you deserve to learn that you are unique person and there's no one else like you're gonna make sure none. Were able to car out a uniqueness by talking to you about you so in today's episode talking about something that <hes>. A story that came across. And i think it's so important for us to learn from it because are young i mean. I don't think there's an age where anyone is old because we are all living at hard always learning growing so as long as we keep the growth going. We're all young. And yeah so i came across this story about this old man who lived alone and he on this one day was like walking down the street and it's at christmastime. Writes pretty happy over here. Everything so beautiful also ios walking down the street and he knows on the lions and all the pretty like decorations and the snow and <hes>. He suddenly realized how those lights <unk> was. One of those things her you see something in its something small but it has the capacity to trigger something much bigger inside of you. So this guy was about seventy five eighty <unk>. End as soon as he saw the happiness. Those lights were enlightening end. As soon as he saw another so many people around. There's families ensure playing this so much happiness. He had this moment where he realized that all through his years. He's left allowing fair. He was so focused on the task. He was praying successful by the way. And you so focused on the task that on t- never got to building a family in manipulated. He never had enough time for them so they had to leave. And even that he never stopped to enjoy the small things as noticing the <unk>. Lines on the street or the snored joy in the happiness that the lights sugar like even those little things you never stop to notice them in when he did notice at that age where he was he suddenly realize he'd never stopped to look around and notice. The word around him in so many years have passed by but he had no clue. How many moments eight missed just. Because he was so engrossed in whatever task is doing he had been need to people he had stepped up on step down on people just to gather he was and it was that moment of reflection where hero allies drill alive off success. I would say success in the definition off the its traditional way where you're looking at i have this. I have the car one of driving. I have a big mansion. I have an image attachment murphy walked down the street. People recognize me. I have the same had the money. I have everything in i success. He could call themselves accessible in those traditional definitions but as soon as he stopped in noticed everything it just stock to him he'd never defined joy and fulfillment for himself. So i came across the story because ag to channel. Out for you to it. If i'm able to find it again but basically it's about this old guy going over his life and this was a moment of realization for him and he started the channel and he's talking about how he lived his life and <unk>. And what he's trying to do differently because he realized that it's not too late for him to lead a different life. Safaga tony eight. Or the age of eighty cycle change and live a life of fulfillment than why not try out right now right. Why not try to have that right now. so what. i'm trying to get ahead here is that we have in our daily lives in grass in our daily tasks in trying to get to the next goal or whatever goals envisioned severance all in fact. It's <hes> often times. I here coaching groups. Talk about goal setting or future planning the talk about backwards engineering k. Imagine what life. To what kinda flagged you wanna be leading at the age of fifty seventy or whatever and now backwards engineer it as to what actions should look like right now

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Unique U

05:34 min | 1 year ago

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

"Harder or it makes it makes me feel like i'm powerless. Because i'm really depending on everything around means the environment to fit me. It's.

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

Unique U

04:08 min | 1 year ago

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

"How did.

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

Unique U

08:10 min | 1 year ago

"u. " Discussed on Unique U

"Welcome. Local law compared to the new podcast. This is the first season and so far. We've had a Zero now in the season we're going to be doing some really cool stuff. And i'm super excited. Eilon bobby's top clan. Leslie suffering like literally stopped finally stopping. I see way too. Many people making a simple mistakes on the ray to finding themselves and the way to find their uniqueness simply because they either ten tell themselves are even having dole. Things are far from the issues. Really really want to be unique in. If you really want to find your passion your purpose if you really wanna be someone you truly feel secure being in. Oh someone you connect with someone. You're happy in the keys to yourself a favor and stop comparing now. What if comparison though because this is interesting topic has been coming up but we haven't really broken down you haven't gone to court and if you're like me you wanna i know the problem before getting to this lesion because trust me it's been said before signficant proven that it problem is much much easier to solve if you have a full understanding of what the problem is right is a problem. Come from and where do we stand with. Because if you don't understand where we are right now then. There's no way we're going great. Let's say you are in a city right now. Let's say your inner city not going to tell you what city you're in and i tell you need to get to new york Instruction soon yard. And you're like Tell me where. I am so it is important to. I understand where we are before we try to understand very go to so. That's what we're going to be doing here. This season is going to be all about understanding comparison to its core. I know what we think. That comparison just kind of entails off competition and comparing your strands weaknesses to others the feelings of jealousy and the feelings of envy that we have our friends do better than us in on a few happy for them but the only few you have sadness but v. Humans have a lot of color emotions. These emotions are nauseous. Sadness or happiness and chelsea there are tons of different emotions. Ibm we need to overcome them. And it's not necessarily all bad but it is supposed to be something that we understand and can overcome sin in today's episode. I'm going to be going over the root of comparison just better you. Ill john stand. What is it that you're trying to cure. And the other thing we're going to be doing during this whole season is going to be talking about different personalities of comparison such as this car city said imposter syndrome that pretty much all of us go through our image in had entity. The feeling of insignificance were there so many people out there. We can't help but feel insignificant. The other personality of comparison is what is all this for the question. He can't stop asking. Where's life going in. What is life for the other. One would be a hate people. So things like these. These emotions are all a consequence of comparative comparison mindset. We don't know yet it sneaks. Its way in hidden hidden sneaky ways that we don't even know about and that's exactly we're going to be doing this. Whole season is dedicated to learning more about the Right comes from water. Different personalities affect the emotions all of the different personalities give rise to and. How do we come over those emotions. I'm going to be giving you new. Faxes to each of those triggered feelings emotions and mindsets just so we are able to deal with all the different personalities comparison and not just one trust me feeling jealous on your friends. Happiness is just one color of comparison. It's not all of it. So like i said to begin. They're going to be discussing. Did roots in the history of social comparison. So a little history lesson for all of us because you know sometimes the past matters on some future not always and don't quote me on it so let's started legis. Social comparison come from how was defined before social comparison. Theory was define back in nineteen fifty four so there was a guy called neon something. The on festinger is should be not. So he's calling me on festinger and let's thank him for normalizing if feeling that all of us have failed and finding out theory that is premature but we never talked about before those years. So leon festinger in any two for defined that social comparison teary is basically it centers on the belief that there is a drive with individuals to gain accurate to south evaluations. The theory explains how individuals evaluate their own opinions and abilities by comparing themselves to others in order to reduce onto eternity in these domains and learn how to define themselves. I know that sounds technical and dog was some juergen in there. So let me just break it down for you. What does terry says is that individuals like all the gophers. We evaluate our own opinions and abilities. Let's say you have an opinion towards something but you would measure it on the scale of what others opinions are just too should use uncertainity in your life. I hoped exams but if the think of another way let's say i am curious about how well i can cook. Okay something very basic. Say i just. It's a good sunday morning Kitchen and i'm happy. I won't have pancakes today. okay. I started cooking at a make pancakes and i sit down on. The table. have never made pancakes before by the never cooked before you today I started cookie. Now what does the measurement of knowing. Whether i cook while or i don't cook. Well i know you would say taste is one. But let's say i've always lived under a rock and have never tasted pancakes before. So how out if my pancakes actually tastes. Good so i can go about. This is by tasting my mom's pancakes on figuring our tell my mom makes them now have a benchmark to kind of compare. How pancake state straight that aspect. It's a melting. it's bad. I'm not saying there's a feeding attached to very few batman's pancakes because my mom's chased so much better or shes always good pancakes. What i'm saying is it reduces uncertainty. Traduces that area that crazy. I don't know their abilities. Are mosquitos live where i don't know if i'm good enough at something or not. So that's what. The social comparison theory says that individuals like us evaluate their own opinions and abilities by comparing themselves to others so that they could use the uncertainty in these domains and learn how to define themselves. Now i'll be able to define pancakes. Good bad bubble just by comparing them to my mom excite at least at how place to benchmark them on animated. Define them now. This theory was kind of restrictive given this was nineteen fifty four. This was kind of over fifty years ago. So of course there are other people who are carriers and started a discovery noticing these patterns in their lives wanted to do some more work on it so over these other two guys on gibbons and bunk in one thousand nine hundred nine so much closer about twenty one years ago. What these guys did was they wanted to get to detroit. 'cause the actual mindset that lies behind all of this comparison that is painted as the darkest.

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