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Unique U

07:52 min | 4 months ago

"u." Discussed on Unique U

"To decide which one you're really after. Which one of these make you question as to where you're headed in life so the first one is mystical spirituality so mystical virtuality is based on a desire to move beyond the material world beyond the senses eagle and even beyond time this approach centers on personal relationships and a sense of unity with all the things so in fact. I think now that i think about this. This is kind of what. I was after mystical spirituality. Because you realize that you're not someone who is so interested in the material word you understand that all your five senses sight touch taste or smell wherever it is. It's not bringing that much satisfaction. There's definitely something beyond it right. So that has mystical spirituality. The second one is authoritarian spirituality. It is a particularly strong farmer spirituality based around the need for definition of rules. This type of spirituality is particularly common in specific religious practices. Interestingly enough this is where religion and charity get confused because authoritarian spirituality sort of looks for concrete rules to live by people who want to be given a set of rules that they can follow and they can feel connected to the universe based off of these rules. Third one is intellectual spirituality. This one focuses on bidding knowledge and understanding of spirituality through analyzing history Carries this approach can be found in the study of religion at is also known as theology. So some of you might be intellectually driven folks who are very interested in knowing our. You're focused on kind of building. Knowledge around spirituality. You're someone who likes to completely understand subject before you make a decision your beliefs are on something so you might be researching about this or you might be reading books about it but what you're interested in is the history of it books from fourteen hundreds that tell you how to be more connected so yeah fan intellectual you might be someone who's looking for intellectual spirituality. Fourth one is service spirituality service spirituality the common form specialty many religious fates this is kinda predominantly boot around serving others as a form of virtual expression. So if you are someone who's service-oriented this could be the one for you where you'll find your chew expression or connection with your own self by serving others you feel more in touch with reality than you feel like you're contributing to others and it is a good thing. This does come into a lot of other religious. Faiths were I'm a hindu by caguas product hindu. So in our like in the way i saw my parents contribution society or religious was by donating food. That was organizing. Food drives for the underprivileged. So service is also a dominant factor off religion and it also has a big part. in spirituality. got arrests spirituality. The fifth one is social spirituality. This is often practiced by people who experience a spiritual feeling in the company of others. Social support is often seen as one of the porn aspects of speechwriting general. So when you feel more connected to yourself venue in the company of others at this is quite interesting you could be someone who's not just extroverted but someone who needs other people to feel connected. I personally am not that. We bothered an important part of this. Definition of spirituality is that social support can help encourage any form of spirituality whether dinosaurs per shoddy are not so backward. Lose jumping around the idea. What is rich quality. And i wanted to find more practice that i connect with. I joined the school. 'cause the school off practical philosophy and they have multiple multiple organizations while the world. It's extremely popular in the talk about spirituality from philosophical perspective end there weren't a group of five people who would talk about their thoughts and what led them to their journey. I said before the question of what is my purpose. What is the meaning of life so when the people around you are discussing similar things you feel like you're not too crazy for wondering them. So social spirituality is in fact quite make sense. I thought more spirtual. When i heard other people questioning the same things right. So those are the five kinds. I'm just list them out again for you. First mystical spirituality going beyond materialistic senses. Second authoritarian spirituality where looking out for some guidelines. Rules live by third intellectual spirituality where you're driven by the knowledge and understanding of spirituality and by the way if you're on this podcast listening to this you could be the one who's Who is intellectually inclined towards spirituality. Because you're so curious about the information funny okay. Fourth one is service. Virtually it is a common farmers. Providing many religions like i said before and it is driven by servitude. Fifth one is social perch valley where people feel more connected are experiencing more special fewing than during the company of others. Those are the five so this nationally kind of leads us to our next topic which is why do people practice tragedy. Because this might help you figure out your personal why. I have emphasized the importance of having strong. Why on this podcast. And i sincerely believe if you have a strong. Y for exploring your spirituality. Dan you will be able to reach where you want to sooner. So many people see spirituality as kind of a great way to ray of seeking peace in their lives and this is sort of order journey begins and they find their practice who yoga which ultimately sort of focuses their focuses their attention towards balance. And finding that centeredness within your own and it also helps him relieve stress. And julie's on wanted emotions. It is spirituality is also kind of used in a way to gain perspective of your own self as to who you are and recognizing that are low role in life has greater rather than just what we do in terms of our position. Titles a what you do. From day to day it gets separate from a person from dependence on material things and it can definitely help you stab dish a greater purpose so people also sees which by the way of coping the unity. So i don't know which one of these you are. But i'm pretty sure this is kind of very lie. You might be wanting to gain more perspective in your life. You might be looking for some detachments materialism in your life or you could be someone who wants to kind of cope. Some sort of change uncertainity. That is happening right.

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Unique U

02:46 min | 8 months ago

"u." Discussed on Unique U

"They argue stuck in a life that you did not create for yourself and nine looking to leave from sitting back and letting life happen into new driving your own life to success the cut to a successful in wholesome life used to be long and binding journey and hugely someone else's especially if you are a recent graduate or did not have any clue registered. Hi and welcome to the unique. You podcast. i'm your host on kind of each episode of deleted. Podcast we uncover. What makes you you in the deep into topics at no one told you about each episode is defined and designed to help get into who you are and show you who you want to become regardless of who.

"u." Discussed on Unique U

Unique U

04:59 min | 8 months ago

"u." Discussed on Unique U

"Exactly your uniqueness in this journey so The podcast title definitely urges or talks about Time line and i'm talking about your timeline. Because again our journey sometimes we start to compare ourselves with others in this goes back to the initial team of this podcast comparison competition. We forget that archer journey is it cannot be compared in any depth breadth or any way with anyone else's journey because there's so many little details to attack. There's no way we could know and this ties. Rainy day to the idea of having compassion because compassion means now the understand that we can never completely know someone's journey and story and there's no way we can have d- complete detailed idea of why someone is acting the way they are because is urgent is not derived by that current situation but it comes from ears of conditioning stories experiences and circumstances. So it's always good to have compassion and it's always a necessity to have compassion towards other people in it's equally important to have that compassion towards yourself and understand that you're on your own journey and timeline of things so this time line that society seems to often sat on us stab. You need to have the perfect job by the age of twenty one. You need to have your life figured out by age. Twenty three and any need to be married by the age of twenty five. All those timelines are sort of lose. Tomlin's based off this age number quantified. Thing really need to kind of like go off and start focusing on the scene. Churn you're on and remember the quality of her time line as soon as your mind yourself. Your unique you realize that. There's really no timeline. Besides the time. I've ever worked for you besides the one that is happening naturally for you. There's no need to push growth upon yourself. there's no need to comparative line with someone else. And i hope by simply listen to these words. You're able to understand why there's no need to do that. Because his journey on if you embrace it if you fully immerse yourself into it trust me in its natural flow. You will find your time line but then you compare your time to others. You're going to ironically doing exact opposite and find yourself falling even more behind on your current time. Line finding yourself falling apart because you're comparing yourself two hundred people on completely different timelines and unique journeys so. This was a quick shot episode. Because i just want you to reflect upon it more than need talk about it because as soon as you start to reflect on your own time and upon unique journey you'll realize that it is really not comparable to anyone else at the only thing left for you to do is get comfortable with where you are but not complacent some not asking you to be satisfied ahmad asking you to not push towards the next level of your growth but p patient with it. Don't try to fall onto someone else's time mind because trust me that is never going to work out. The only time line that works for you is your time line. Thank you so much for listening to this episode. I hope this helps you out in some form or the other. Please share with someone who you think could help or is rushing time line. Thank you my friends and your unique and always remember that. Thank you thank you thank you. Thank you for sharing your time and energy with niki. Podcast i'm grateful to have been a part of your day shared today not only resonate with you but also help me share to help others. Escape escaped unnecessary suffering. If this episode did help you today then be short shirt with someone else. You know needed that mission. You and i share who only be achieved when we share with others. What has helped us. I hope i can help you. Further in creating a wholesome life of graduation and make your transition into adulthood smoother. You can always find me at eight o. N. u. s. h. a. at my stink dot com. That is i sti. Nc dot com or sign up for the free some Coming up called blueprint for life after college summit and this is your complete guide to a wholesome live so i hope to see in the summit and he can find it on my website m. i. s. t. i n. c. t. again dot com sits mice tanked dot com. I hope to see you there. My friend take care..

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"u." Discussed on Unique U

Unique U

05:59 min | 9 months ago

"u." Discussed on Unique U

"You know a year later we still barely though but it was really interesting to me to hear the other strategising the other marketers on on the brand talk completely brush over what was happening in in in kind of the world of twenty twenty and only focus on product consumption. You know. I think it was fortunate for them. Knowing that beer is always going to be consumed Dear and has been steady. There's there's you know. Even during the economic crash of two thousand eight. And i guarantee back in the nineteen twenties during the great depression. You know it was beer. Beer stayed steady But i found it very short coming of the other marketers and other practitioners not to see how we can go the end beyond a consumption role in in the in the place that we played people's lives and we can Not help them on a deeper level. you know. I think when you're dealing with abramowicz huge like a beer brand. It's it's it's your privilege and it's your job to to think outside the box of how you can help your customers and how we can use that you know. I think the brand. I was working on Really focusing focusing on very superficial things you know the usual beer stuff handing out for beer mugs cosies and t shirts and giving away tickets to events that we didn't even know when we're going to happen. as opposed to you know challenging the brand and saying okay. What are the real pain points that are happening in our customers lives. How can we actually help them. You know what me do that. Will you know not just sell. Our product will benefit the community that they live at You know this was a very canadian brand. It was like well. It's time to get back to canada. And i think those ideas and those Insights that i brought weren't listened to cut to six months later when they saw the two thousand twenty kind of was just progressing and Continuing to be a challenge to everybody that when they came back to me and they said..

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"u." Discussed on Unique U

Unique U

03:15 min | 9 months ago

"u." Discussed on Unique U

"I would say that you know kind of real situations that that made me. Step back and think and analyze my purpose and might mature position. Life came over. The last i would say four years During quite a bit of turmoil in my industry and in my personal life than I'm really proud of how i've kind of circumvented that to become incredibly positive in such a blessed place. Now that you my mantra has always been the same. This is what's gotten me through. All my problems is biking. Just wake up and make someone smile than i've done a good job right. I can't cure cancer. Although i'm working on a gun. Several cancer programs right now. But you know i always said you can't cure cancer but i definitely make people smile and icy marketing media digital marketing. Social media blogging. Out much. like yourself as an opportunity. Just bring a smile to someone's face and do that in a day that i think you've done a good job i think that's what's really propelled me. Even when i was kind of stumbling falling and questioning kind of my place in life and my purpose you know always keeping that in the back of my mind is. You're here to make people smile. So what can you do to to achieve that. And how can you use your skill set to to make the world a little bit of a better place. That's a beautiful andrew because Rear so motivated to make a big changers. Change the word but it's so way we don't know where to start. So i love how you summarize in one sentence like just make one person smilin' that's enough change that we can create in every single day loved on and going back originally sir and making the most years of fewer enormous amount of experience with marketing. I wanna learn from mir. How can someone see themselves. Sort of a personal legacy business and create a friend like using that marketing. Mind said for your own self sure. So you know. I've thought a lot about this over the last couple of years. When i first entered into the marketing world like i said it was kind of the beating of social media. Facebook for brands was just kind of kicking off same with twitter. Those were the two primary platform. This is even before instagram Where people started to really create these brands For themselves you know you saw in hollywood kind of the britney spears Starting to create their own brands at that time and they were very superficial. Unfortunately i would say i kind of followed suit and a lot of that you know. I am not not in a superficial way. Maybe maybe just not in the most authentic way to me and that kind of journey through To authenticity has been has been a real journey for me. When i started out very much started creating a brand for myself it is. I thought the would of would be drawn to and they were and only did i realize once i started being more authentic in my brand.

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"u." Discussed on Unique U

Unique U

02:10 min | 9 months ago

"u." Discussed on Unique U

"About is designing your dream life a lot of the times. We let life kind of play out. Its own plans right like i'm going to start. You are planners. I'm kinda like you probably have life plan but designing your life is different from just a life plan because lice life throws curve ball that all the time but at the same time we are always trying to plan ahead and being who we are being human we want to have a certain Amount of certainty in our lives. We want to be sure that whatever's coming at us we'd ready to handle it so we try.

"u." Discussed on Unique U

Unique U

03:16 min | 9 months ago

"u." Discussed on Unique U

"Prioritize wrong friendships just described this. Which is that. You will be putting your own core values and crude at jeopardy. So i needed to those friendships in a mindful way room. Not harming anyone or hurting anyone and not burning bridges like i wanna be. I wanna stay in touch with people in the future. Just because they're not Serving my goals right now. That does not mean. The friendship is battled persons bad or they have no purpose in olympic. Could be serving my goals in the future. Maybe my goal in the future would be to have better friendships. And that's when i can bring them back in so first of all very clear. It's not that you're treating people as come and go and you're not cheating people as Means to end it is more of being mindful of. How much are you letting people impact your life. In what way are you letting them impact you so when you really Get mindful of which friendships eliminate make sure. Those are People you're okay with eliminating so what that means is thought these friendships are very very close to your heart. Don't pressure yourself to leave them. It just means that if if it's Closed translate. And you know they're doing a disservice to you because they're not serving. Your higher goals are on your priorities. Right now maybe you just talk lesser them or you cannot change the people around you. Change the people around you. What that means. Is that if you cannot change them or cannot remove them from your environment because you are very close to them change how these things maybe. Maybe try to get them interested in what you're interested in you know. Because abu create soften environment very both inspiring each other in growing together and growth should be one of the main focuses of a friendship right. Because if you're growing together then you're doing a beautiful service to each other and that's when a friendship truly florida's because you're able to serve each other's minds and sold.

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"u." Discussed on Unique U

Unique U

03:49 min | 9 months ago

"u." Discussed on Unique U

"All these different inches does make us feel revamp. Sometimes we were told by the society. You don't focus on one thing you're bound to Bound to fail or whatever but don't be hit to it the fact of the laws the fact that you have so many interests is what makes us unique. We're able to explore all these interests and find the ones that be like and keep for life. So that is how finer direction the other thing with exploration beyond interest talks about physical geographical expiration. So i read this book about Mindset from popular psychologists. I'm gonna drop a link to the description because it has long title and i'm unable to recall it but the bulk basically talks about how our mental or near logical pats grow Making sure your brain is literally join literally. A brain within itself is growing. Not any kind of shift and that happens when human beings move so which was interesting because movement and mind are related. Then being moved when we go beyond our current physical location. We're able to learn more so literally picking up your bags and traveling when we travel we kind of pushed beyond our current limitations and we started to learn and grow more as a human being another aspect of expiration issue graphical expiration. Going out with your friends going out on chips taking solo trips literally have a party with yourself going under city if you cannot afford to fly down to another country that's fine virtually just maybe drive to another city today so exploring places always gives us that oppurtunity to allow our mental to happen by itself because many see more we understand more of seymour of life. You're able to pink more. You're able to grow more when experienced things. I've never experienced before that is truly when we start to become more us restart to see more right. So they're all. These things are deemed worthy of exploration places. People purchase these in anything else you deem worthy or unworthy. Just try to explore because might become worthwhile in the long term and those are sort of as to why why is exploration is important The other thing i wanna talk about is our mindset towards exploration the first of our here for years dan understand that the uneasiness of not knowing your path and just not having it all figured out yet to explore option and it is a good problem to have their good problems. Bad problems right. There is a good problem than Because now we can make the most out of Described ryan and they're bad problems that we wanna get rid of but being lost chewy identified as a good problem. And you'll be able to make the most out of it than you do that. The second one is used this time as an opportunity to discover your likes dislikes and people who do end. Don't enjoy spending time with because once we understand how we socially interact with people to review connection. Were able to build an environment for ourselves. You're comfortable where then we're able to build our environment. According to our interests and our likes and dislikes so become mindful of exploring people as well exploring what kind of people aligned with your goals. Your what kind of conversations do you enjoy because there are always different environment taking.

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Unique U

04:25 min | 10 months ago

"u." Discussed on Unique U

"My brain would start collecting evidences to prove to me that indeed what the personality tests said was correct. And in time. Even if i'm not into worded i'll make sure that my actions serve that label so the worst thing to personnel has does for you is restricted. Or put you in a bubble of who you are and you make sure for yourself. You're never able to burst. Bubble are to step outside of that bubble or to expand into something bigger and that is the biggest problem The biggest reason why. I say personality tests as something that i do not like personally at all. Because they put labeled onto us that sort of like defeat the purpose of growth mindset because redefine ourselves as who. We are right now. We stop seeing the potential into who we can be. I mean there was a time in my life that i thought that the personality i have can never be changed because this is just who have become because of the situations have experienced because of the childhood had albeit was excellent. I sometimes felt like i was. I don't know i'm not gonna get into details of that. But what i'm trying to say is as a child our childhood experiences. Define who we are as a human being right now anything. You think that just because those experiences can't we changed. We let a define who we are right now. Enhance who we can be in the future right. So that is one of the biggest negatives of personality tests that they are based off all who have been there off of our memory and our past instead of who we think we can be or instead of imagining what is possible for us. And this reminds me of a very popular concept by such if you heard of Is a yogi. And he is a best selling new york times other fact bestselling world-renowned author on. His book is called engineering in. It's a great book. And he talks about aligning the mind body and soul so the concept that disturbs me off is the fact that he said that human brains are the only reason why humans have an advantage over all the other species or the entire Mankind which is birds animals monkeys or whatever is that are unique and the two biggest gift we have is to have memory and imagination. Indie human beings turned those two biggest gifts to our worst enemies so many take personality tests. It's it's exactly tying into this idea of letting our memory kind of define or guard or kind of Guide us into who we are right now and stopping imagination from going beyond who we think we are right now so this idea of defining ourselves in the current moment really put a full stop on who we can be and the reason why emphasizing the so much. I've been talking about this for about ten minutes. Now is because it is so key to recognize that who you are is pretty much changeable and very very easily. You can turn into who you can be if you make conscious intentional forward to do so. So let's talk about that and let's talk about. How can we turn personality. Tests labeled authentically identity into one big bubble of math magic glow. Which kind of serves us Who shows us the future who we can be instead of you know stopping on stopping us from who we think we are rain. so i have. Is this realization. Second step is recognizing what areas you wanna grow in like. I said before the reason why like personality tests is because they provide us with create insights in the current moment. If you'll feel like you're having a hard time reflecting upon yourself understanding yourself which oftentimes lot of was to a quick shot cut is in fact taking these.

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"u." Discussed on Unique U

Unique U

07:36 min | 10 months ago

"u." Discussed on Unique U

"Hello hello hello. Welcome back to another episode of the unique you podcast. i'm your host. Amherst can't just like always. I am super grateful and blessed to have you here with me and share your energy. This podcast This episode is bringing the second season to closure and introducing the third season to you. Thirteen is going to be very very differential. What we've been doing so far. So in the second season we talked a lot about the different kind kinds off mindset shift sort sort of more than actionable strategies we talked about mindset shift asked how things generally are around us. What kind of things go around in our mind and how universities sometime feels like accused our creativity or things like even what is the best kill you learned a university. It was all about a mindset shift towards growth. How can we make sure that our thoughts are serving us instead off our thoughts working against us so turning up brains for us instead of turning our brains against stray and through that journey we found and had some amazing pekar shared that incite such as aaron aggie who talked about how to simply fines for each reality in its to essence instead of all the different layers it's buried under usually off practices religion and everything else and then we also talked about how to get a grip on your emotions in how to Manager emotions because end the importance of it which is to be able to understand ourselves end to detach our identity from our emotions and feelings we also talked about university and everything learn added the skills w gain i which are not the hard skills such as coding or whatever we talked about the soft skills learned university in how us at your benefits will they can reap the benefit throughout your life and the also talked about how to create a personalized morning ritual. Because the importance also highlighted in that episode. So okay i'm gonna stop summarizing what we did go check on each and every episode. But here's what we're going to be doing in seasons rate. I've been raking on something super supermassive for you guys and you might have heard it in the season in episode conclusions which is a blueprint for life after college summit so what the summit is about is bringing together over fifteen industry leading experts on how to get the right mindset how to create a roadmap towards success after graduation. Or if you're in any other stage of your life but you don't Feel like you're leading a life. That is unique to you. Everything like that. We're going to be discussing on that summit and the summit will also focus on helping you create a personalized roadmap to your dream career because the get so hung upon picking up on the careers of others or it's so much easier to just get lost with all the different options and variety is available in today's world The summit also invited some amazing guests like auction addity. He is the author off. This book called forever now and he teaches how to turn turn fear. Two words strength all deep-rooted fears we have huckabee. Turn them into powers and strands to turn ourselves into superheroes the also have another speaker called potato she talks about abundance and how to gain the financial abundance mindset how to attract money towards instead all instead of waiting for money to happen for you. Someday reign We also have a very special speaker. Her name is richard richards. She is the founder or she is often called as money. Honey rachel because she retired at the age of seven so she will be sharing her secrets as to retire early or how to build a sustainable income out of passive income which is super important. Super interesting because as young individuals he never learned beacon find already determined or have financial abundance at an early age right. She also talks about how to manage your money how to manage your expenses. Were talk is awesome and then we also have austin. Balzac austin is one of the most saad after out there he has over I think six hundred thousand followers on linkedin and he shares how to find that. Jim which the right foot for you. Nobody else but right fit for you even if you're starting from scratch. I mean austin story is so inspiring because he went from having a two point five. Gpa in university to finding jobs at google microsoft and like described. Now he is one of the most sought after carter coaches out there with his own business so his talk is awesome. I could go on and on about all the different speakers but you should go check out the website. It's called blueprint for life after call blueprint for life. Summit dot com okay. It's blue print for life. Summit dot com so okay getting back to season three. What are we going to be doing in seasons. You've something super interesting. And i'm describing that in the next episode because this is a conclusion for season two and i want to keep that separate so thanks for listening in and we're going to keep this episode breathe because i hope you enjoy season two and if there are episodes they did not check. I'll go check them out because they will help you. Shift your mind working for you and they will help you to serve your mind and your brain and your thoughts instead of your thoughts ringing against you. So thank you for listening and thank you for sharing your energy with me. I hope to see next season. Take care and i'm signing off. Thank you thank you thank you. Thank you for sharing your time in. Nurture the unique you podcast. I'm grateful to have been a part of your day. Hopefully what i shared with you today. We're not only resonate with you but will also help you on. The journey share to help others escape their unnecessary suffering. If the sub suited help you today then be sure to share it with someone else. You know who needed that mission. You and i share who only be achieved when we share with others. What has helped us. I hope i can help you. Further in creating a wholesome life after graduation and meteo transition into adulthood smoother. You can always find me at eight o. N. u. s. h. k. a. at my stink tw dot com that is m. i s. t. i n. c. t. dot com or sign up for the free some coming up called blueprint for life after college summit and this is your complete guide to a wholesome lives so i hope to see in the summit and you can find it on my website m. i s. t. i n. c. t. again dot com sits mice tanked dot com. 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Unique U

04:18 min | 11 months ago

"u." Discussed on Unique U

"Are places or not everyone is able to enjoy the same thing in even. If you don't look that we sometimes are not in a condition to. I don't know get a cup of coffee because you're so busy day so even being able to take out that time of the day i tell myself that Angry at you got to take that time of your day for doing something for yourself right so as soon as a see myself building a negative vibe. I again practice. Mantra say hell bent on trading heaven. Hell bent on trading heaven. I would consciously tried to create a heaven in my mind by bringing up positive thoughts positive energies and supporting myself through that moment. One big elephant. I want to address. The gym over here is toxic. Positively first of all toxic. Positively t what that looks like is pushing positively on south. You don't feel like it pushing positive codes and thoughts and everything from other people. When you don't feel like it and talk to positivity can what it does is. It makes astronomy from our emotions. Our feelings end. It often suppresses negative emotions. As bad being conscious of the fact that i never called negative batra gaps because activity comes up and downs invades end. It is very very normal so couldn't be become toxically positive. Let that means. Is we label emotions as good and bad than do that. The make it very black and white because there's an array of colorful emotions that come in between happiness and sadness in between feeling down and high okay between low and high. There's like tons of emotions so toxic positive positively only pushes us towards positive positive positive until it gets annoying and like the word describes it toxic. So don't step into that and that's not what my mantra asks me to do. All it does is it tries to look for ways to support myself in the moment instead of bringing myself down so that's from my end on how have started this new year Practicing this little one line forward five were mantra in my life. Every single day has helped me a lot if this helped out than. Try this mantra for yourself. If not sit down with yourself today and try coming up with five words of your choice. That will help you in situations where you're not able to help yourself or anything that encourages you and you keep playing it in your head to love yourself. Support yourself in keep drawing. I love you and thank you for joining me. Thank you thank you thank you. Thank you for sharing your time. And energy with niki podcast. I'm grateful to have been a card of your day. Hopefully what shared today from not only resonate with you but we also help you on this journey to share to help others escaped unnecessary suffering. If the steps did help you today then be short shirt with someone else. You know who needed that mission share. Who only be achieved when we share with others. What has helped us. I hope i can help you. Further in creating a wholesome life graduation and make your transition into adulthood smoother. You can always find me at eight o. N. u. s. h. a. at my stink dot com. That is am i sti. Nc t. dot com or sign up for the free some coming up called a blueprint for life after college summit. And this is your complete guide to a wholesome life so i hope to see in the summit and he can find it on my website m. i s. t. i n. c. t. again dot com sits my stink dot com. I hope to see they're my friend take care..

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Unique U

06:43 min | 11 months ago

"u." Discussed on Unique U

"A super complicated and it did look very complicated from you to get out of it so i wanted to make getting out of it. A habit and a simple habit so first of all over here was identifying negative patterns so for me it was identifying what moments have that triggering effect on me. I started to realize that there are two to three things that always trigger me the same. The first one was spilling things. I'm not kidding. But whenever i spill things there is certain level of consciousness start being things about myself or this consciousness. Start feeding about myself done man. You can't do anything right. Okay the second one is food. I am ebbing foodi. Answer me if i end up eating something that i shouldn't be eating in my books. According to mars rules that say sugar. I will feel a little bit ahead about myself. So first of all was identifying. What moments have a triggering impact on me and my mind so simply doing that First of all today find out was by journaling. My feelings or just simply becoming more conscious towards how i'm responding. Are she acting to situations. So i step was identifying triggers seconds tout blows my To overcome this experience. If you're not willing to help yourself out if you're not willing to grow the navy this episode now free this not in a bag way because life is our teacher and also Need to so. Don't feel bad about it. If you don't feel like switching out of your patterns emotions feelings right now that's okay. I understand but for me. I felt like i had had enough office. Negative thinking of these negative patterns in a wanted to break free from them so step two with this willingness to break out of my patterns. So after i wanna did was like i said before mantra or rule is something that i tried to cultivate Why not come up with a simple one liner literally. Like forty five words. That will help me volvo. Pull me out of this situation so for me. Those words magically. I don't know where it came from. Ended up being hell bent on creating a heaven. So let me give you an example. So whenever i'm experiencing a moment in my life. What i used to do like i said before would be to pull up more negative moments too. I don't know why that would happen. But i would start like like. I said before it would be like a chain reaction one negative woman to another another to another and suddenly. I am gianing in a series of negative thoughts so instead of doing saying that i decided that i need to help myself in the moments were feeling down and low. And that is by trying to create consciously trying to create a heaven in my mind. What that simply means is when you see yourself experiencing negative todd instead of feeding a rain. More negatively consciously. Feeding itself positivity and support. So this moment if i was to experience it again. I'm pretty sure. I'm going to spill another cup of coffee sometime Another because it's just been twenty days of this year. But i'm gonna do that. I'm sure your dad for short guarantees. I'm going to spend on the cup of coffee. But what i'm gonna do differently. This time is as soon as the see myself saying. Hey butter fingers. You can't do anything right. Look you spilled coffee again as soon as the my brain saying that to me and i will. I know it's negative pattern. It has been falling for years. Mike job over here on my mantra job over here would be to suddenly get conscious light up the ding ding ding rain. And say. stop it right there. I'm hell bent on creating a heaven and all star feeding my brain positively non-asia that is okay. Everyone's pulls coffee once in a while. You're human come on spilling coffee. Means nothing first step acknowledging that the action means simply. It's an action. It's simply the universe together. I don't know what happened. But they were hundred other things that happened around me for the cup of coffee to spill. I'm not the person to take responsibility for this action. So maybe there were. I know something distracted mean. Maybe i don't know it could be anything right. Like just simply acknowledging. That inaction is just an action. You don't need to make a mean more than what it is right Do not do not like you know. run away from. Don't say like i didn't do that. Guy do understand that the right action would not be too for the coffee to fall. And i'm going like underscore. It's okay to do this. I run out of starbucks. That is not right. that is not what i'm saying. Do take responsibility for what you do. But just be a silent observer of your minds actions. What that means is. Let the action to spend action. I spoke a cup of coffee. Might next action is to clean it up. Move on with my day. Not making that action mean more than what it is. Came to data steph gone into hell bent into creating a heaven. Mantra the second step for me is to consciously support myself so giving myself words of courage and support when i see myself going down a negative dark hole telling myself no but look. You did this as well. Look you've been growing so much. Look you have this consciousness. Now you're trying to help yourself or just simply remind myself of another positive moment. I had the same day. Or what got me in this moment. Why was it here. Drinking coffee was because of all the harvard putting in to all these days throughout the throughout the years into building myself up. Where did i get the money from to buy. A cup of. Coffee is.

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Unique U

05:57 min | 11 months ago

"u." Discussed on Unique U

"We grow out of it or rather. We get educated out of it so it's almost like it's not like we draw creativity every forget it. It's like schools. Educate us out of creativity in. I am not paintings cooled as victims as devil via the victims because we always have a conscious decision to make but education. He said is talk in the twentieth century and The importance of inspiring twenty first century learning see life skills are rarely taught in schools are often taught like hard skills or things out probably won't even matter and they're they're such a need to inspire us killed instead so there's bake he believes there's a big difference between learning and education because those two words are often used interchangeably. But they're not the same when you're getting educated. It's not the same as learning. I could well be enrolled in a education biggest system or getting educated person. But i could still be learning to situations in lies the people i need to activities that do with seniors i have we could become lifelong learners off situations and off things we experience instead of taking education as a degree. We get John Learning for allies. So there's a strong strong need to have curiosity and creativity like i mentioned before simple. Art of asking questions is the basis of curiosity when that is mixed she gate already. That's when real magic happens right because it's cool. There's like those about can said with schools. There's no unique voice that the standardized on process of education and everyone is put through the same thing. I mean whole foods are so unique and so different and the fact that we still receive the same standardized. Education is sort of crazy right. Lake screwed focus at this point is not to make us unique special bog blonde. Their focus is currier monetization. What they are doing at the same time is taking away our creative interests because testing. Is this part where we simply appraised or learn out of fear. We are learning for performing for the sake of it right. So what is really important to remember. Is your core our core as human beings. And what i mean by that in this ideology is repeated time when again in that ted talk is that we create our own lives like i mentioned before the beginning of this talk..

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Unique U

03:37 min | 11 months ago

"u." Discussed on Unique U

"In becoming very for consciousness in thoughts are on subjects instead of accepting things as they are so making. Sure that if something doesn't sit with you well or if there's something that you don't completely understand you make it a point to go and ask a question village to a friend who might not know. The topic is wrong. Whether it's to a professor at through it's only community making sure your curiosity is served an answered to okay because as soon as we start asking questions we start exploring and having our own food do things and i know this can be kind of hard in the beginning because some of us are not naturally curious we take things as they are but curiosity is killed that can be generated inculturated. Trust me because while curious people do for its basis or one of the simplest thing they do is ask questions so start asking more genuine questions. The second thing is experimenting. I mean the word is our voice. Ter- with technology making things so accessible and easy to look at i mean experimentation the only lunatics station is our own interest anything of interested in this probably a course on it on this probably a two month only program that you can enjoy yourself. Enter anything that you want to learn. Today is available on the internet on technology or in books. So there's no stopping we could all these experimenting doubt getting overwhelmed when we start experimenting. We get creative because we understand whether something is often just or not. And how could we make something new just With our daily lives so bad. Pr creativity that's raw creativity because we are thinking about things besides what is taught to us in a direct way so using the big near mindset. i mean i did a whole episode off. Why university is such an important time with our lives and holly tops cultivate this thing called big mindset. Which is starting from scratch. Something that you've never known. Before remembering w had the super power over everyone else is that big nurse mindset that we take a course of retake some news kill from fresh perspective any now know how learn it from scratch so observing things around us and making sure that we are approaching things from a starting from scratch mine ticking very helpful because we will have a future opinion on things instead of taking things as our and trust me. This simply has the power to generate genuine curiosity. I mean do skill kill. Creativity has been one of the most objective in this caused topics for a long long time and in fact the most watched ted talks of all times called. Do skilled cleo creativity really was by sir can robinson and he recently passed away. So let's let's keep him in our prayers but Sirkin robinson's ted talk has been viewed the most number of times in this world which sixty six million views most viewed in her. Ted talk is on. This cooled killed creatively. He said that we don't grow into creativity..

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08:14 min | 1 year ago

"u." Discussed on Unique U

"Really uncomfortable. It makes me feel like he doesn't say imposter. Actually i'm blanking on the language but you basically some exit. He says what. I just said that it makes me feel like they've misunderstood my abilities. Well as albert. Einstein can feel something like imposter syndrome. I think any of us can so again. It's a very common understandable perspective situations. And you shouldn't feel bad that you feel like an impostor recognizable. Hey that's part of the human condition and when people are being evaluated in judged and you get into these selective environments. It's makes sense that you feel like well. They made a mistake. Or why me. But in fact they did. Not one of the things university to do best is they selected people. They're really good at teaching. Not always much so he was. That's my long. Answer that fundamentally what's at roots in both software theory reasons for for procrastination and imposter syndrome. Is this false equation with performance ability in worse right. The imposter saddams person who's experienced that said are saying i'm not. I'm not deserving of what i've gotten because i'm not smart. They're not saying they didn't achieve the things that they did. They that's on paper. Saying i don't. I'm not deserving. I'm not worthy even though i did those because i only got them through something had to do with not my intelligence right and i think the reason why the italian so well with each other is because almost impossible german software theory. We're trying to keep up this image of ourselves and trying to sort of keep up with this. I mean eagerly towards the outside world in which rings in the fear so the fear. I think talked about the job before is one of the mean it. You just talked about it. In fact fear kicks in and makes us to task even more and what i found interesting in your talk. Was the flag. We procast need on things that we wanted to be the most successful because of the fear of failure and a motivation to be successful. And i think that's a very powerful concept because it tells us students that the reason why procrastinating is not because we can't do it or anything. But because i'm what reasons too high so bad so right so. Procrastination to me is fascinating. I i should say the reason. I studied that i it was a big procrastinator. I feel these dynamics. I don't feel like you overcome. I'm not a different person than i was when i was in college. Procrastinating but i've learned some techniques and some tools and gained some awareness that allows me to manage that Ex enjoy my work. More and also found a passion. I found intellectual passion that just made those fears and concerns smaller. Relatively speaking south they don't arise sometimes and sometimes. I feel like an impostor. And i i know what's going on. I have techniques but i think this one of the things you're getting at i've noticed Some people say. Well i'm procrastinating. Not doing this task. So i must not care about it very much. They kinda interpret from their behavior. That i thought i was motivated to be a doctor or study this class or to be an artist or two species. But i'm not doing it so i must not be. I'd say no. No no no hold on. If you feel like you have this. Passion is interest. Recognize it sometimes. Our inaction is motivated were motivated to not take action as protective mechanism. And the one of the reasons is and you gotta we can be over motivated and what we mean. People are often perplexed by this might say. What do you mean procrastination motivation. And they're like. I'm undermotivated That if you're under motive you're not motivated you some task. You don't need to explain it to you. Like i really don't want do this. I don't have no interest in useful to me. There's no puzzle there. If you're saying i really wanna be a doctor but i can't get myself to study my biology class which i used to love. Now that's a puzzle right now that we need a theory. We need a framework to understand and interpret so and so over. Motivation can help us understand this or sometimes called over striving. So what we know. From empirical researches many of disproportionate number people who procrastinate or who put themselves in that category are powerfully motivated to achieve. so we'd call this approach. Motive strivers right. They really want to do well and get good grades and they wanna have status and they want to attain. They're also powerful moderated to avoid failure and these are two different quality. So i you might think well Just opposite ends of the same thing. No they're not so. This is one of the huge insights of my mentor. marty covington. who's work. I talked about in. The ted talk is understand. These are not two opposite ends of the spectrum but two intersecting dimensions. So i can be very high in the desire to achieve but low in a fear of failure. There aren't many people like that but there are some. Maybe you've known somebody who's like that too like really motivated. They really want to learn. They want to achieve but they just somehow if they get a bad consequence it just rolls off their shoulder. they're able to let it go. So if you've heard of mindset to people that are identifies growth mindset right. They want to learn. they want to delve in. But they handle these setbacks. These failures the difficulties that doesn't affect them nearly as much. So that's a profile of motivate. Are we gonna understand that as a profile motivation. That's high the desire to understand to achieve to improve of low in a fear of failure. Fear of looking dumb fear of Sending a message to other people about their inadequacies. Those people are not but some people you know are they really want to achieve. They're also quite fearful so they could have gotten ninety nine on every assignment in class and in the final simon coming up and they're exhausted freaked out. I'm gonna. I'm gonna fail you like listen. You got gotta ninety nine on everything to. Why do you think you're going to. What are you talking about. Have you ever done anything like that. Absolutely so what's going on there. So they really wanna get good grades right. They wanted she. They wanna learn that when a new well but they're so powerfully motivated by on separate dimension. They really really really don't want to fail. So the argument is that there are two different kinds of re two different kinds of motivations to achieve one is to achieve motivation. Which is in order not to fail. And if you add those together that's kind of double or over motivation and that desire not to fail can make us can shut us down. We're fearful and so in sports we call that choking in the certain moment you really want to win the championship and you really don't wanna lose and it's overwhelming emotionally cognitively physically and then we don't perform at our best and so that's those are illustrations of these combinations of these two different kinds of motivations. I can give you a little a little tests. Sometimes when i'm working coaching students one to one. And we're talking about this and they're saying i'm not sure if i'm driven or not or i think i am say alaska little Question i can ask you so. Let's say you write a paper. You take tasks we do something some task and maybe procrastinated somewhat. But that's not really that unusual. Let's say anyway you get your paper back and that test back and you get an a. Do you feel triumph. Yes a great a cheat my goal. Wonderful are you feel relief. I didn't do badly. I.

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"u." Discussed on Unique U

Unique U

04:08 min | 1 year ago

"u." Discussed on Unique U

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"u." Discussed on Unique U

Unique U

08:10 min | 1 year ago

"u." Discussed on Unique U

"Welcome. Local law compared to the new podcast. This is the first season and so far. We've had a Zero now in the season we're going to be doing some really cool stuff. And i'm super excited. Eilon bobby's top clan. Leslie suffering like literally stopped finally stopping. I see way too. Many people making a simple mistakes on the ray to finding themselves and the way to find their uniqueness simply because they either ten tell themselves are even having dole. Things are far from the issues. Really really want to be unique in. If you really want to find your passion your purpose if you really wanna be someone you truly feel secure being in. Oh someone you connect with someone. You're happy in the keys to yourself a favor and stop comparing now. What if comparison though because this is interesting topic has been coming up but we haven't really broken down you haven't gone to court and if you're like me you wanna i know the problem before getting to this lesion because trust me it's been said before signficant proven that it problem is much much easier to solve if you have a full understanding of what the problem is right is a problem. Come from and where do we stand with. Because if you don't understand where we are right now then. There's no way we're going great. Let's say you are in a city right now. Let's say your inner city not going to tell you what city you're in and i tell you need to get to new york Instruction soon yard. And you're like Tell me where. I am so it is important to. I understand where we are before we try to understand very go to so. That's what we're going to be doing here. This season is going to be all about understanding comparison to its core. I know what we think. That comparison just kind of entails off competition and comparing your strands weaknesses to others the feelings of jealousy and the feelings of envy that we have our friends do better than us in on a few happy for them but the only few you have sadness but v. Humans have a lot of color emotions. These emotions are nauseous. Sadness or happiness and chelsea there are tons of different emotions. Ibm we need to overcome them. And it's not necessarily all bad but it is supposed to be something that we understand and can overcome sin in today's episode. I'm going to be going over the root of comparison just better you. Ill john stand. What is it that you're trying to cure. And the other thing we're going to be doing during this whole season is going to be talking about different personalities of comparison such as this car city said imposter syndrome that pretty much all of us go through our image in had entity. The feeling of insignificance were there so many people out there. We can't help but feel insignificant. The other personality of comparison is what is all this for the question. He can't stop asking. Where's life going in. What is life for the other. One would be a hate people. So things like these. These emotions are all a consequence of comparative comparison mindset. We don't know yet it sneaks. Its way in hidden hidden sneaky ways that we don't even know about and that's exactly we're going to be doing this. Whole season is dedicated to learning more about the Right comes from water. Different personalities affect the emotions all of the different personalities give rise to and. How do we come over those emotions. I'm going to be giving you new. Faxes to each of those triggered feelings emotions and mindsets just so we are able to deal with all the different personalities comparison and not just one trust me feeling jealous on your friends. Happiness is just one color of comparison. It's not all of it. So like i said to begin. They're going to be discussing. Did roots in the history of social comparison. So a little history lesson for all of us because you know sometimes the past matters on some future not always and don't quote me on it so let's started legis. Social comparison come from how was defined before social comparison. Theory was define back in nineteen fifty four so there was a guy called neon something. The on festinger is should be not. So he's calling me on festinger and let's thank him for normalizing if feeling that all of us have failed and finding out theory that is premature but we never talked about before those years. So leon festinger in any two for defined that social comparison teary is basically it centers on the belief that there is a drive with individuals to gain accurate to south evaluations. The theory explains how individuals evaluate their own opinions and abilities by comparing themselves to others in order to reduce onto eternity in these domains and learn how to define themselves. I know that sounds technical and dog was some juergen in there. So let me just break it down for you. What does terry says is that individuals like all the gophers. We evaluate our own opinions and abilities. Let's say you have an opinion towards something but you would measure it on the scale of what others opinions are just too should use uncertainity in your life. I hoped exams but if the think of another way let's say i am curious about how well i can cook. Okay something very basic. Say i just. It's a good sunday morning Kitchen and i'm happy. I won't have pancakes today. okay. I started cooking at a make pancakes and i sit down on. The table. have never made pancakes before by the never cooked before you today I started cookie. Now what does the measurement of knowing. Whether i cook while or i don't cook. Well i know you would say taste is one. But let's say i've always lived under a rock and have never tasted pancakes before. So how out if my pancakes actually tastes. Good so i can go about. This is by tasting my mom's pancakes on figuring our tell my mom makes them now have a benchmark to kind of compare. How pancake state straight that aspect. It's a melting. it's bad. I'm not saying there's a feeding attached to very few batman's pancakes because my mom's chased so much better or shes always good pancakes. What i'm saying is it reduces uncertainty. Traduces that area that crazy. I don't know their abilities. Are mosquitos live where i don't know if i'm good enough at something or not. So that's what. The social comparison theory says that individuals like us evaluate their own opinions and abilities by comparing themselves to others so that they could use the uncertainty in these domains and learn how to define themselves. Now i'll be able to define pancakes. Good bad bubble just by comparing them to my mom excite at least at how place to benchmark them on animated. Define them now. This theory was kind of restrictive given this was nineteen fifty four. This was kind of over fifty years ago. So of course there are other people who are carriers and started a discovery noticing these patterns in their lives wanted to do some more work on it so over these other two guys on gibbons and bunk in one thousand nine hundred nine so much closer about twenty one years ago. What these guys did was they wanted to get to detroit. 'cause the actual mindset that lies behind all of this comparison that is painted as the darkest.

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