39 Burst results for "Two Months"
Who Needs the Europa League Title Most?
"Here's your to win. The europa league manchester united installed his early favorites. Actually co-favorites with spurs english teams. One two three even arsenal getting a better odds to in the euro league van c milan. Let's focus in on those three english clubs specifically their managers. Craig i'll start with you. Which is three need to win the europa league. Most i suppose seventy one hundred in milan because the book is going through. That could be the only reason i passed. Thank josiah marines. When there's the most. Because i think he's the mine under most pressure. His league possession at moment stinks the team's performances have been pretty rotten in terms of on the eye on the country mile off the top four. At one point the talk was others team in the title race and so he needs to deliver something otherwise. He's under severe pressure. I mean you could say well attack. The does he's got cut behind them transition to ask no. I think he's pretty safe there and they talk for. There's no doubt about so. I actually think marinas the mon- needs it. The most stevie you agree they still got a shot at hardware in the league cup final. They got a shot at top six. Maybe an outside shot at top four spurs really. Need this most absolutely think so. Yeah arsenal. yeah we think point lead over you. He's he's got an f. e. cop behind them less than two months ago so he's fine creek said during transition marino. Another honda is is is not in my opinion going to be in the top four. That's why he was brought and it wasn't brought in to do anything else so it's important that he does produced. So we're because that will deflect away from what has jaw was and the premier league and unfortunately for him yes. He's a the problem is they'll position gsa city who nobody wants to face. So i'm one hundred percent we create. This is absolutely marino. And tom mark from the manchester united perspective. Just how important is this to jar. His record and cup. Tournaments is well documented over four in finals. Big without first trophy be. I think it needs to win one soon. Because it's now four years when united trophy on a long time and they always have the opportunity in the kaaba cup of one. One that need is more than tottenham because five years at the champions league. The asked really really the champions football. I it's sick of being semi-finalists are knocking on the door. They're not gonna win the primarily this season to trophies. This is man united. We're talking about. We're talking about the process itself alongside by munich real madrid barcelona as one of the biggest club in the world. The biggest clubs in the world win trophies and is now four years since one. United one one-stroke trophy with the minor the minor cops. Let's be honest. The league company europa league in two thousand seventeen. They haven't won a big trophy since whilst explosion retired. Let's be honest. The two thousand thirteen primarily because even fa co-ops and the von hall didn't really count towards the biggest trophy so united. Need over the start winning again. And i think social really needs it but if he doesn't win a trophy this season i don't think it'll be the end of their old firm. I think you'll still be there. But i do think the to kick on become this team is going to challenge for the majors. They have to win something. So craig no no i just think off the bucket marks point that yet yeah financially obstacle. But we're talking about modules marina for the reasons that steve and i say and and say well and it's a big f because it's not you know some good teams in there. They say it was a year in the league and we lost hurricane and we will see all these excuses. You'll save won the europa league a nuts champions league football because that's the carrot dangled for when the euro league note from a united perspective. As augie said you know when you're polite for them and their historical standpoint is neither here in the last good marino himself. He delivered second-place mandated. Emily he delivered the gop league undesirable cup. So they've done recently. They really need to be the primarily title at least go neck and neck all the way until publiz reasons you take a trophy as a manager and you would take if you united but really the dining a much. Bigger table than the europa league
Fresh update on "two months" discussed on 77 WABC Weekends
"C on this Sunday afternoon. A lot is going on and we have got you covered. The allegations, the latest allegation of sexual harassment against New York Governor Andrew Cuomo and Expected any minute in Florida. Former President Donald Trump will take the stage for the first time since leaving office You can expect You can expect what we have seen for Mr Trump over the last four years in terms off, verbally pulling no punches That's expected that that's exactly what is going to happen. I said this Right after the election. That should Trump. Decide to run and 2024. It doesn't matter. What the media says. Because he's not a conventional type candidate. If he runs in 2024 I say This is someone you can say dominate, you know? What do you smoking? Because you hate trump or you love Trump. If Trump runs in 2024, the nomination is his period. Now. Who else said that someone else said that just last week Oh, Mitch McConnell said that just last week when he told Fox News That he would support Mr Trump if he were the Republican Presidential nominee, and 2024 Mitt Romney, who voted Utah senator who voted for impeachment said that should Trump one run the nomination is his 1 808 for eight w A. B c 1 808 for eight. 9222 President Trump about to speak going to based on the transcripts that I have seen thus far he is going to blast The current occupant off the White House. Joe Biden, declaring that Biden has had and in the former president's words the worst month the worst start off any American president. So Two months. Two months. After Obama left office. He was seen Surfing and Hawaii, so it's considered a tradition. That former presidents when they leave office, they generally don't criticize the new president. Coming in for at least the 1st 100 days, at least. So that the new president has a Grace period. But like so many other things, if you were expecting Grace period. From Trump in terms of his own silence. Then you guessed wrong. Because President Trump Is speaking out. And it's going to be quite interesting. What he has to say. And we have you covered here today on talk radio 77 w A B. C. I'm with you, Dominic Carter into the top of.
Pennsylvania health network prioritized vaccines for employees' relatives
"And Amazon. Alexa, Pennsylvania Health Network is accused of not following a vaccination priority rules. The Pennsylvania Department of Health issued a rebuke to Guy Singer Health Network, the agency says Geiss anger let employees relatives skip ahead of groups considered higher priority for vaccinations On consecutive weekends. Within the last two months. Guy singer held employee health clinics and allowed workers to bring two family members. Network officials say the relatives met eligibility mandates. The State Health Department says what the company did leads to questions of fairness. State officials say it's unclear if priority
Fresh update on "two months" discussed on WBZ Afternoon News
"Bridge was already iced over. It was just no stopping. Montana Highway Patrol Sergeant Kyle Hater reported several people at least two that had to jump off the bridge or did jump off the bridge. They did sustain injuries. Nobody killed Chuck Secrets and ABC News. Delayed by two months. The Golden Globe Awards air this evening that marks the unofficial start of the Hollywood awards season or from CBS is Steve Futterman. Among the film's given a good chance to win Golden Globes Tonight, our Nomad Land Manc and the Trial of the Chicago Seven, The late Chadwick Boseman is the overwhelming favorite to win best actor for his performance in mob. Rainey's Black bottom. This year's show is taking place amid much controversy about the makeup of the Hollywood Foreign Press Association. That's the group that hands out the Golden Globes. It does not have a single black member. Steve Futterman. CBS NEWS LOS Angeles speaking of movies for the first time in a while, you can see a show on the big screen on both coasts. CBS is Wendy Gillette reports. Movie theaters are opening in a couple of major markets starting this weekend. They're back open in San Francisco, Marin and San Mateo County is in California theaters are allowed 25% capacity. Cinemark Theater spokesperson Kalen Piper, you'll be able to see right away. Not only where your seats are in the auditorium but where the seats are blocked around you. And on Friday, movie theaters will resume operating in the nation's biggest market. New York City also a 25% capacity with no more than 50 people per screening. Wendy Gillette, CBS News the end of the line for one t stop. That's next. For 30. It's 4 28 2021 is the perfect time to add a healthy new habit to your daily wellness routine. Good nasal hygiene. We all know there's bad stuff in the air allergens, bacteria viruses and that some of its very dangerous So what can you do to protect yourself? Well, you can clean your nose with Devise your nose is the body's air filter. And with Nevada's You help your body defend itself by flushing out the crowd and germs..
A shot in the arm: EU vaccine program struggles to speed up
"It's been two months since the European union's vaccination program began but the twenty seven nation bloc is still struggling to get up to speed ET design meeting to jump start the process fearing that new virus variants might spread faster than Europe's response in the video conference the leaders will look at ways to improve the rainouts they will as the vaccine makers to respect the terms of the contracts as well as trying to fall straight faxing authorizations as the bloke scrambles to boost its vaccine program France's government spokesman Gabriel lifestyle says something needs to be done soon the number of new Kevin nineteen cases decreased by ten percent last week and increased by nearly ten percent this week the situation is worsening and it is actually worrying I'm Karen Thomas
Fresh update on "two months" discussed on The Moth Radio Hour
"Body is a body in motion crashing to the ground. See, I became differently Abled about 78 years ago when I underwent a serious of surgeries to remove this benign tumor from my spinal column. Every surgery has its risks. My wrists manifested after 20 hours in the operating room. Woke up in a hospital bed, unable to walk. And for two months I stayed in that hospital but learning to walk for the second time in my life. After those two months I walked out of that hospital, but now I do so with a cane and braces and a limp. Every year. We would go in for check ups. My mom would always ask the same question she would ask. Isn't there anything you can do for him to fix him? A special treatment. We can try. The doctor's always provide some version of the same answer. They say Erin's recovery has been miraculous. There's a full time job. He lives by himself, even travels. He's independent, and that's much more than we can ask for. The doctors are right. I am independent. Things like having a full time job or even graduating college on time. They don't really test your independence, at least not on the day to day basis, like just a casual grind of a morning commute on the subway can Despite all my criticisms of Bart Bart's actually pretty great because every train car has reserved seating for people like me. These accessible seats. Allow me to play this game this game. I like to call accessibility, seating chicken like this. One time I walk into a car with a very pregnant woman.
Covid long-haulers turn to Seattle rehab clinic
"The corona virus arrived in the seattle area about a year ago. Some who got cova early on are still suffering. The people who still feel the effects of the disease months after their initial diagnosis are called long. Haulers reporter eilly show. Neil has more now on wear long haulers in the seattle area are turning to for care. Donna lawson is forty seven years old. I met her in the backyard of the house. She shares with her husband and teenage daughter in west seattle. I'm a designer artist. In a mother lawson got code back in march at the very beginning of the pandemic at first it seemed to be a mild case. But then things got worse in. May she was hospitalized for three days with low blood oxygen and when she got home she didn't get better. My legs feel like jello. All the time very very weak on really bad days and bad times. I'm trudging through. Concrete is what it feels like or like their cinderblocks literally on my feet or magnets pulling me to the ground. los and says she can't concentrate a remember things. She's tired all the time and no longer has the energy to make art or volunteer at her daughter's school. She says on a good day she's eighty percent of her old self for a few hours other days. She can't get out of bed. That gets me really choked up. Who knows if. I'll be myself again. I'm usually a pretty confident person. I really love helping people. And i love spreading joy. It's really hard to do that when you don't feel joy about ten percent of people who get covid still have at least one symptom two months after their diagnosis more women than men suffer from. What's being called locking cova. They have a broad range of symptoms from shortness of breath to trouble sleeping or concentrating to depression or anxiety. Lawson was never able to get a cova test because there weren't many available at the beginning of the pandemic so she says throughout her illness. Some doctors haven't believed that her symptoms are due to long cove. It when you have medical professionals poo poo what you're saying you can't help but wonder if you're crazy person. If the reason lawson and other long haulers have struggled to find care is that doctors don't fully understand long cove it yet when they run standard tests on long haulers most results come back negative exact mechanisms yet some of the basic science still pending and that will be helpful for guiding treatments. Aaron bananas a rehab physician at the university of washington's harborview medical center. He says researchers are still trying to figure out exactly what causes long cova loose suspicion that this may be a more of an immunologic response in patients or some of the micro-vascular pox insults that are occurring. Maybe causing some of the brain fog and other words long hunters immune systems could still be an overdrive or maybe their brains are still suffering from being deprived of oxygen pandemic worked with covid patients after they were released from the icu. But over time it became clear. It's not just the patients that have been hospitalized in who are very sick that are having long term symptoms and we're seeing this even in patients who may have been sick at home but now three months later are still struggling. That's why been now started a clinic. At harborview specifically serves cova. Long haulers. It's one of many such clinics that are popping up across the country to clinic. I if you want clinic part. Medical office part gym with treadmills parallel bars and other equipment to help patients build back strength and the ability to walk but now seems to know everyone here here he is. I've been good. How are you handsome every day. Now and his team are experts in rehab medicine. They help patients with their recovery and coordinate their complex care but now says his goal is to help his patients get back to whatever they were doing before they got sick. Got a law in our critical illness. Survivors that yeah. Their their heart is still beating and their breathing but everything that they valued and was meaningful in their life is now lost so i think our hope is that just wanna make sure were addressing getting or covert patients as much life as boston so far. This is the only clinic like this in the region. So it serves patients from oregon alaskan idaho as well as washington but now says at first. There was only a trickle of patients. But now the clinic gets forty new patients every week.
Fresh update on "two months" discussed on The Moth Radio Hour
"I would love to. But everyone around me and my close vicinity freezes in this thick awkwardness as if they're offended for me, and that woman she puts a hand on my shoulder gives it a little tight squeezing, she says. Ignore him. Take all the time that you need. And I turned to her with a smile on my face, and I say, but you guys know you can pass right? There's plenty of space. I'll be fine and she goes. Oh, dear. That's so considerate of you, but you don't need to worry about us. And you definitely should not worry about him. He is being such an ass. You. You just do whatever is most comfortable for you, and that's when I snapped at her. And I say, Yeah, you guys passing that is what's most comfortable. And she's stunned into silence. But without another word, she concedes, and she moves past and people are trickling past and I can feel that pressure on the back of my neck is a little bit. Keep walking, and I finally get down to the flat of the platform on flat ground. I'm able to ease into a mode of walking that requires a lot less thought. But I'm still at the mouth of the stairwell, so I tried to haul saw the way to let people pass. And as I take a step, my left leg mid swing catches my right leg and suddenly my body's moving forward with nothing underneath it. I tried to execute an emergency maneuver. I try to hop on my right leg replaced my cane to catch my fault. But as we all learn in physics class Isaac Newton's a bitch. Therefore my body is a body in motion crashing to the ground. See, I became differently Abled about 78 years ago when I underwent a serious of surgeries to remove this benign tumor from my spinal column. Every surgery has its risks. My risks manifested after 20 hours in the operating room. Woke up in a hospital bed, unable to walk. And for two months I stayed in that hospital but learning to walk for the second time in my life. But after those two months I walked out of that hospital, but now I do so with a cane and braces and a limp. And every year we would go in for check ups. My mom would always ask the same question she would ask. Isn't there anything you can do for him to fix him?.
Facebook to lift Australia news ban, pay media companies for content
"A little bit about peace in australia. The australian government has agreed to amendments to its proposed media code and facebook says that within the coming days it will no longer block australia new sources on its platform. The amendments are going to change four things about the news media and digital platforms mandatory bargaining code. That's the one that says you have to pay news publishers in australia. If your facebook or google well. It might not apply to facebook and google anymore. The first is about how a platform qualifies for the law. One of the reasons only facebook and google qualified to be subject to the code under its original. Drafting was because of the way. They measured significant bargaining power imbalance. Now with these new amendments to designate. a platform is subject to the code. The government must also consider not only the bargaining power imbalance but whether there are commercial agreements being made with news companies. Already which as we know. Google has done and now it looks like facebook is about to start doing so conceivably the deals google has made could exempt them from being subject to the code at all and facebook makes the right deals. Sounds like maybe they could be exempt from the code. The government now has to give one month notice if a platform is going to be subject to the new code that probably is to give companies time to strike deals and avoid being subject to the law. Companies will not be penalized for striking different deals with different companies. Giving them some latitude negotiate ahead of time and if a platform was subject to the code they now have two months to negotiate a deal before being forced into arbitration so kicking. That can down the road a little even at the very end facebook got to work and reached a deal with seven west media already to provide news. Facebook has a special news section to showcase news partnerships in other markets. Besides australia and it's expected to launch similar features in australia. So seven west. The i expect expect nine entertainment and news corp follow along if this is all gonna go smoothly. The legislation is expected to pass as early as wednesday after which treasurer frieden berg would begin determining which platforms if any it applies
Drug executives: Big jump in vaccine supply is coming soon
"Today in Washington with executives of Big Pharma as members of the House Committee on Energy and Commerce. Look for ways to expand the availability and supply of covert 19 vaccines. Modern is president Dr Stephen Hold in his opening Collins. Hold the committee. The Cambridge drug maker has been able to ramp up its facilities already more than 100 million doses, and they're on track to beat their already ambitious production goals. They're not targeting delivery of the 2nd 100 million doses of our vaccine. By the end of May and a 3rd 100 million doses by the end of July, a full two months ahead of schedule. Hold also says they will continue to collaborate with manufacturing partners and the federal government to increase the Efficiency of their production process without compromising quality or safety.
Checking In With Ilyasah Shabazz
"This is a really important podcast. I'm sharing with you today. This podcast is definitely based on my mental health journey It's also based on the book of the same name. But today my guests el-yassa she has me Checking back in on my journey of faith. Today's theme of strength and as a community. And i believe you guys are going to hear some inspiring word from this amazing powerful guest that will help us continue to prevail through these difficult times in our country in in the world. This recording today is something very special. Something very spiritual. My palms are sweating. Because i have the privilege and the honor to have ilyasova chubais checking in with us today. Ilyasova is an author and educator professor at activist and she is the daughter of malcolm x and betty shabazz size. Yup please welcome. Ill yasser shabas. Thank you so much. It's such an honor to be here with michelle. I was really looking forward to this. Because i thought this was going to just a relaxing living room kind of conversation. And oh i tell you. It's been a long year. So i was looking forward. Were not a long day. It's been a very long here is been a long year and we are two months into the new year and end this new year. You released a book and january copy awakening of malcolm x. And it is an account of his adolescent years in prison and. I know that this is what you've been doing all year long. Not only all year long. You've been doing this all lifelong. Yes i have. I've been doing this for a while. And you know i've had many people ask me. When did i know. I was going to step in my father's shoes or or something like that. And it's definitely not stepping into anyone shoes not taking someone's legacy it's way. My mother raised her girl. She always said today. Elliott suggests must drink water. When must give back and you know. She was this example in spite of having six daughters that we felt constable enough when our girlfriends had questions. If i didn't have the answer. I knew my mother had the so. We always we will bring our fence over to ask my mother questions that we needed answers or encouragement or solutions and she was just always there. And so someone who has such compassion. Trust love all. So unconditional makes it easy for you to be the same and so here you go.
US on the Verge of a Vaccine Supply Breakthrough
"As the U. S approaches a half million covert 19 deaths. It's also on the verge of a vaccine supply break through a major issues so far has been availability in about two months More than 75 million. Madonna and Fizer vaccine doses have been distributed. Nearly double that are set for delivery in the next 5.5 weeks, during which time a third vaccines expected to be approved. So the next issue it's one thing to have. The vaccine is very different to get someone's arms. 63 million doses have been injected so far, too roughly 13% of Americans President Biden's pushing to dramatically boost the numbers of those who will administer the shots and where Saga room agony.
The Floor, not the Ceiling: The Supreme Court in 2021
"Welcome back background boroughs. Ashanti here and we have another episode for today. I'm so excited to talk to. Bagnoli gilmore the state media campaigns director for planned parenthood federation of america onion. How're you doing today and doing. Well thank you so much for having me very excited to. Have you very excited to talk about the important work that you do today at planned. Parenthood really diving into the attacks that we've been seeing on reproductive justice reproductive freedom abortion rights and educating our listeners on how they can help fight back before we dive in intrude fashion. We have to know what brought you to this work awesome. Well i am a huge fan of your work and this podcast. I'm really excited to be here a little bit about me. I am in asian american woman. Born and bred in white middle america foreign raised in kansas city missouri. Where i still live today doing this work before coming into reproductive rights work. I was a journalist for ten years. And i think my work is a reporter. Gave me a front row seat to the every day. Impact that policies have on our lives. I was a healthcare reporter and solve the direct line between what happens in our state legislatures. What happens in our city. Councils and how that impacts our daily lives in how we go about it. And in the midwest that also means a very white dominant culture that sets the tone and the conversation and passes policies in that lens and i spent ten years covering those issues and decided to transition into media work for an advocacy organization that i have long admired and loved for the work that we do at our health centers across the country though now i focused on state policies state fights as we call it here at planned. Parenthood and the intersection. Those policies have on our ability to access reproductive healthcare went you said about how white men dominate policy. It's so true. And i want us to talk about what. We're seeing happening at state houses across the country. Most our listeners. Know the bg is one thing that i do my full time. Job is on the president of merge we focus on recruiting and training democratic women to run for office and we've had a huge focus on state houses in making sure that we're getting democratic women in there. I love talking abou nevada. Colorado new mexico all of those states are majority women and their state houses due to emerge alums and we see the impact that women have on the policies that come out and in a lot of the houses though where unfortunately seeing policy that is not the best when it's coming to abortion access so only two months into twenty twenty one were seeing these attacks on reproductive freedom in state houses and this statistic is crazy more than one hundred bills have been introduced in state houses in the past few weeks that target abortion access. There are so many reasons why state legislators are important. But this is one of the main ones hang you tell us about some of the things that are happening. Yeah impact that number continues to grow today when we're talking. That number is up to more than one hundred and eighty anti-abortion bills that have been filed or are pending an in early february. And that's why all. Because i only saw that hundred number last week. Yep we've seen almost another hundred a week. Yup absolutely And over forty. Five percent of those bills are some form of an abortion ban. And so you know. I think we're sitting at a moment where we are staring at an immense amount of opportunity and hope and change because of new presidential administration because of pro reproductive healthcare majority in congress yet our state legislatures do not reflect this reality where policies are made. I believe it is twenty nine states right now where anti-abortion politicians hold majorities twenty nine states over half And we are seeing a targeted attack on reproductive freedom our ability to control our bodies in lives because again this is about power and control. This conversation is rooted in white supremacy and has nothing to do with the health and wellbeing of any person who needs access to health care with really clear about that because that is what you will hear these politicians wax on about right and they'll even coop racial justice movements to talk about you know black babies and abortion end it is all rooted in white supremacy and the real question that we need to answer is who gets power and control of our bodies and our lives and our future right it be the politician predominantly white men or should it be being able to control that and so these are the policies that are getting past at the state level. And they're not just. Abortion bans a lot of these. The majority of these bills are incremental restrictions. That make it harder. Particularly on people with low incomes women people of color emigrants to access reproductive healthcare basic healthcare birth control annual exams cancer screening and of course abortion.
When NOT To Perform a Psychic Reading
"To talk about strategy. Why would a tool to you about this week is when not to read for someone so during the metro met greater. Everything was comes up. I've had two incidences over this back to grade. And i want to talk to you about them. As their classic examples of when note to read for someone or even went of a refund so incident number one lady are no not for a long time normally meet in the flesh. leaves long distance away from where i live and now i'm working on she book to session. She phoned to book as it's great book trade and and she put Which includes histology and it was a ninety percent last reading psychic readers. This occupation so i wouldn Or she i think she had gold ashtray. Was that called off moins. Working did this particular lady have cau- yes she did. So it's a sark region and i'm vessel a. I decided to give some extra time because of what was going on and and it cut me show is particularly is husband had died just before christmas amorini february two months ago and she was also concerned about her elderly mother who she was now caring for so kante too much because obviously patient confidentiality but just an outline and it became evident in the reading that she wasn't enjoying the waiting and be. I could tell that she was too stressed to make sense of anything. I was telling her and she was repeating what i had told her. The last time. I'd seen which was a few years ago about what was happening for the moment. And what happened. And so i said you know. I feel a little than this marshall. Westerville little impotent. Hither everything that. I'm telling you isn't resonating for you. I'm going to refund you. We're going to stop right now. Just consult rating. I'm going to refund you. And i want you to come back when you feel a bit better and so i just stopped recording deleted. Coding went to my app Cancel the stuck. Cancelled left the session in refunded omar candidate one or the other but i definitely reform deter straightaway. So the money. She'd paid for the session just refunded it now. The reason i did that is because when somebody is in the bigger emotional state of any description mental emotional state then not going to hear what you say. And they're going to selectively here. What you said. And i realized at i was region for i was getting into dangerous territory because the nature of the things move talking about. It wasn't anything anything other than the husband died and that her mother was unwell. And i can tell while we were talking because this is a phone reading. It wasn't on skype so there was no telephone megyn to somebody that doesn't happen that And i could tell the. Dvd wasn't benefits in her and what she actually need
Federal Reserve sees modest pickup in hiring this month
"The federal reserve sees evidence that hiring is picking back up in its semi annual monetary policy report the fed says job data compiled by payroll processor ADP indicate implement improved modestly through early February the leisure and hospitality industry has been particularly hard hit by the corona virus pandemic but the fed says even there it sees evidence employers are beginning to hire again the economic shock from the pandemic eliminated twenty two million jobs in just two months last spring just fifty five percent of those jobs have been recovered in the months since and roughly four million Americans have fallen out of the labor force Ben Thomas Washington
Gunmen in Nigeria Attack School, Abducting Dozens and Killing a Student
"Nigerian troops are searching for forty two people kidnapped during an attack on a boarding school in the northwestern part of the country. Npr's ada peralta has details. Witnesses told local tv. That gunmen stormed a boarding school. Inisia- states on wednesday. The government says the attackers killed one student and abducted more than two dozen others. The identity of the gunman was not immediately clear but the islamist group okla haram has often carried out these kinds of kidnappings in northern nigeria. Two months ago gunmen kidnapped. Three hundred and fifty schoolboys in about one hundred schoolgirls of nearly three hundred kidnapped by boko haram in two thousand. Fourteen are still missing in a statement. The human rights group. Amnesty international says education is under attack in nigeria. It said quote. No child should have to choose between their education and their life. Npr news nairobi.
Opinion: Being successful is about more than pursuing a good idea
"Et. al say was up the fire nation. And what's something that you believe about becoming successful. Most people disagree with many believe nothing. In order to be successful. You need only passion for good idea but the reality is much more ashen is one. Listen gregan except enough in order to be a real success through. I really do need passion for the idea. That's obvious determination. Focus and patients most successful business. People who have been more abuses. I'd be there are many obstacles. one has to overcome great something new. You know especially if you are the first thing that feed over. The cost of my life is great. Tree comes owning the factory business which is a former finance. Each company was unique in the first of its kind in the seed amount of projection. One gets from new ideas. These enormous one doesn't believe in his or her idea. More than one hundred percent simply wants work in any new ideas. I you have to educate the market which is very hard are always suspicious affinity new then you have to persuade the investors. The people around view and the list goes on and on. You feel you're going up in most of the times you'll be a low and the loneliness is very hard to accept. Stein goes on in get more experienced. Then it becomes easier and you learn to build on and fix your mistakes from the negative remarks. Along the way you'll be enriched for capricorn's like me into his naturally because rare. Houston it's always about enforce. There's a lot that i want to focus on throughout this entire interview fire nation. But the one thing i wanna pull out about. What a alger said is patients. I mean all of them were brilliant but patients. It is such as something that today. I see more than ever people. Just don't have an seems like the younger generation. The less patience. I have so many people all the time coming up and saying. Hey john like. I've been doing this for two months and i'm not seeing any returns. Think any success and like it's been two months. Where's your patients. Where's your persistence. Wears your you gotta keep at that thing. Fire nation so in doing some research on ual. I saw that you were chosen to be a mentor at the harvard. Business school of. I mean this is top of the top. Why were you chosen. I was invited to comment there at harvard. Business school interpreters enterpreneurial program during two thousand thirteen. I spent on her the per person recognized and identified the Me after by lifestyle Lecture action lecturer. I approach the Was approaching the podium and the right the way after are presenting center students raise their hand. Us meet who is interpreting. Though i had my lecture plan i wanted to follow with students entering pro in prague improvise and said without hesitation that was born today or over the world is it potentially becoming in their furniture but the system. We live in prohibits most of them to become one why because of the barriers that society puts in front of us when the baby was born starts to crotone tone touching breaking things. The current say. Don't do that then. He's babies go through nursery and school and approach daily by new regulations of what they could or couldn't do then that news when they grow and enrolling through diversities and then it lasts. Even when they get married they fiend. The rules are filed on them. The handcuffs are placed on their hands and brains is additional rules imposed or their lives better directed in buxton through what they can't do this. Fact of life interferes in some Sometimes sabres independence and free thoughts of many of us. So my advice to you all. I said to be group is right. Now get hold of the keys. And i threw the keys to them. Release the handcuffs. Allow your brain to think without restrictions feel free to go with any idea thought you may have even if it seems ridiculous or unrealistic at the moment. Thank your dreams to the limit and interpret noor within. You will erupt like the genie out of the bottle. One hundred forty students stood up and they're up with laughter. I knew then but they got the message. I love that genie in a bottle analogy. I mean fire nation. Can't you just picture that. I mean it is such a great analogy. It's so true and it's something that you need to be striving towards and forward
Street Photography in New York City, with Gerard Exupery
"Back to another episode of this week and photo. I'm your host frederik van johnson today on the show got gerard exupery. He's a veteran new york city based street photographer. That knows more about street photography than than or has forgotten more about it than i probably will ever know about street photography. We're gonna dive into that a little bit as well as what. It's like shooting in and around new york city now and before pandemic all that stuff going to talk about gear all this stuff so gerard. Welcome to the show man. How's it going very well. Glad to be here. Yeah it is good to hear man. I'm excited to chat. So we've got you know. The the john mara of photography. And then this genre of let's call it of photojournalism or that that world of shooting. What's the difference. What's the difference between street photography. And that i think that in journey with photo journalism you tend to think in terms of projects. Not just one image. You know a a series of images that tell a complete story and i think with straight photography. is generally just one image. Okay okay has got to tell the story one at a time. So let let's rewind back to the time to. Let's let's do origin story thing so cue. The flashback so the origin story of girard. Where what was that moment where you knew that. Okay i feel like. I need to be taking pictures of this. This amazing city. I live in well on my planet. We didn't really have photography. And when i came to earth. And i'm sorry all right more and you know it's funny. It's the only thing i've ever wanted to do since As far back as i can remember one of my earliest memories of my father staying his role affleck's in my hand. While i took the first picture took and which was a ship underneath the verrazano bridge and it just stuck in my mind. He passed away about a year after that. And you know. I it just all these feelings about photography and loss. Let's say i don't know all came together. And i just knew that this is the direction i wanted to go. Yeah yeah and it's a good direction. It's the world photography from my standpoint on of you agree with this but it's it's equal parts. Geeky ray is we like the technology and all that stuff and then it psychology you when you're dealing with the public and trying to get the right shot or get the shot or permission to do the shot and the you know the all of this stuff in between psychology science physics wrapped up into the time machine that we call a camera to fast forward to now the president or the recent the recent present. Let's call it like this last this past five five or so years me decade your adventures in and around new york city. The i can't imagine being a street photographer. There for just an extended period of time when i'm there is overload. It's just like what. Do i take pictures of two months. It's too much going on you get analysis paralysis. What would have been some of the standout experiences you've had in city over the past decade or so that you like okay. I got to tell this bar story. Wow pick were got to pick one. I think defining Well this is. It's further back than ten years but sure for for the finding event was i was involved in a robbery and a camera store. And it's a long story but rather traumatic thing. Somebody was killed and and i got roughed up a little bit and it was it was. It wasn't pleasant. But it was. After that i i realized well putting yourself out there making yourself vulnerable and taking pictures strangers asking or you know. I don't think covertly taking pictures of people is for me. It's just not right so if you're going to ask or you're just going to be obvious bat it you've got to put yourself out and up until that point I didn't know what i was expecting to happen but After that i figured well. What's the worst that can happen. I already found out what the worst that can happen. And it really It helped me in. Maybe be taught me to be very aware of my surroundings almost in a comfortable way though. So that okay. Let's not ever forget. I've gone into situations where drug dealers on a corner. And i was taking a picture of this house that was closed and abandoned actually in patterson not beard city paterson new jersey which is really exciting. We've got a water tower waterfall. There you go and a crappy movie was made by. Jim jarmusch bad it. It lasts two years ago and any case so i am standing there taking pictures and You know. I hear this guy walking up to me and it was interesting because there were like three. Get two or three guys on each corner but not the corner i was on the house was and i'm i'm taking pictures and i hit. This guy comes up behind the camera up to my eye. And i can hear him. I'm aware of him and he said. Hey what are you doing. I told them flat out. I'm taking pictures of buildings that have been foreclosed on You know and properties that have been abandoned families that have gone kicked out. And what have you. And he goes off and you know then he goes How much do you think they want that house i should. Oh i don't know but whatever it is going to be pretty cheap
Bitcoin surpasses $50,000 for first time as major companies jump into crypto
"The price of bitcoin briefly topped fifty thousand dollars for the first time yesterday doubling in value in less than two months. Here's our reporter caitlin off on one of the big factors driving the rally. We've seen a lot of companies that have started putting their faith in bitcoin. And saying we're going to start holding a little bit of it. We've seen institutional investors and asset managers. Say you know. Bitcoin's been around for more than ten years now. We think that it can actually have a use case in portfolios until we're going to get exposure to bitcoin if not by outright and you've also had trading platforms and also general apps like cap. Say we're going to let people actually hold and use cryptocurrencies. While until you've seen the option of it kind of abso- d- area of uses just become more and more common
New York City Covid Vaccine Disparities Revealed in ZIP Code Data
"One of the big challenges in distributing the coach vaccine is trying to ensure that they don't disproportionally go to the most communities and as more people get vaccinated in the united states. We're getting more and more data about who's getting their shots. I and the data coming out of cities is well. It's painting a fairly consistent picture in the neighborhoods with the highest death rates from cova which tend to be poorer and more black and brown folks. Fewer people are getting vaccinated by contrast in wider more affluent neighborhoods. Vaccination rates tend to be higher even though a smaller percentage of people in those neighborhoods have lost their lives the virus. So here's an example map in new york city. We have data by zip code there. We should note. The same dynamic has also played out in washington. Dc and other cities so in this section of manhattan's upper east side. That's a wealthy neighborhood. There have been one hundred sixty six deaths from covid per hundred thousand people so far in that zip code sixteen percent of adults vaccinate which is great. That's good we want people to be back but now let's look at say brooklyn's east new york neighborhood much much poor much much much less white in that soco there have been a staggering eight hundred and thirty seven deaths per one hundred thousand people. Think about that. It has been hit so so much harder by the virus but in that neighborhood only five percent of adults have been fully vaccinated compared to the sixteen percent of the upper east side. Now the city not breakdown vaccine recipients by race or account for the percentage of people in a given zip code were eligible but again the broad picture. Here's pretty clear. See playing out across the city and across the country in fact in some poor neighborhoods. Only two percent of adults are fully vaccinated. Well vaccination rates are fourteen fifteen sixteen percent and richer neighborhoods. This is a huge in central problem to solve and discuss it on join. Shell gave stolberg new york times. Washington correspondent covering health policy has been writing about the vaccine rollout specifically so let's just start with the phenomenon. I want to sort of check against myself here that this is something that's happening. That's showing up data that is being produced around the country. It's not just a particularity of new york. No no this is absolutely happening around the country and you can see it in the cdc's national data. I think nationally last week African americans who account for more than eighteen percent of the population were eleven percent of those vaccinated. And we're seeing in disparities around the country here in washington where i am We had a situation where people from wealthy white neighborhoods were going into black neighborhoods to go to clinics that primarily serve underserved people to get vaccinated and it is creating a real disparity and it is completely contradictory to what president biden has said he wants which is a vaccine and a covid response that is centered on racial equity. So there it seems that there's a few factors at play here for why this is a it seems to me that there's a demand issue right is sort of people's willingness and i think we can get to that later. The first thing just seems to me it's one of those situations where a certain amount of social capital connections time or resources to other people to go through the logistics of the planning and the websites use tending to advantage. More affluent. folks is. That is that sort of your understanding of what's driving this yes. I think there's two things that are driving it in one is exactly what you say. Which is more apple and people tend to have the resources to the computers savvy the time frankly transportation to be able to get vaccinated but another big reasons vaccine heston san. We know that people of color particularly african americans are more hesitant than whites to be vaccinated in part because of the legacy of systemic racism and Government experiments like the horrific experiment that still linger in the mind. So there is that issue of hesitancy that the government is going to have to overcome. It wants to see people of color vaccinated. Yeah this is a december pull from. Ap now that's this is know almost two months old now but we we saw huge has seen the beginning huge racial disparity in terms of folks. You know fifty three percent of white people saying they're gonna get vaccinated while in twenty four percent of black folks thirty four percent of hispanic hispanic respondents now. Those numbers have changed a little bit. Even though there are still racial disparities out there examples of places where this is being dealt with forthrightly in a way that is that is sort of reintroducing a kind of equity here well i think that's hard to know in one reason that's hard to know is that the government doesn't really have great data on race the people who are vaccinated but more broadly one of the states. That is actually a really good job. Back stating across the board is west. Virginia and it has back stated i think eighty three percent of its vaccines have been administered in. It's far ahead of most states in terms of effective and quick backseat distribution.
Larry King's estranged wife to contest his secret will
"King, the estranged wife of the late broadcasting legend, Larry says she was blindsided by what she describes his King's secret will hey filed for divorce from Shawn in 2019, citing irreconcilable differences, But the split was never settled, and then he died, according to People magazine. Just two months after filing for divorce, Larry King wrote a hand written amendment to his will removing Sean and leaving his $2 million state to his Children. Wow. Yeah. Shawn King is planning to fight that change in court.
"two months" Discussed on This is Actually Happening
"Film from focus features directed by and starring acclaimed actress. Robin wright in her directorial debut right tells the poignant story of one woman's search for meaning in the vast and harsh american wilderness. Eighty played by right finds herself unable to stay connected to the world. She wants new. In the aftermath of an unfathomable event she retreats to the magnificent but unforgiving wilds of the rockies for solace but after a local hunter played by damian. Bashir brings her back from the brink of death. She must find a way to live again. It's a story of humanity in the face of uncertainty. Watch land in theaters. This friday You.
February 2021 Numerology Guide: Enchanting Support
"February is the second month in a five universal year and this combo and two seven and what it means is that it's time to change. That's the five what we connect with what we lean on but we depend on. That's the to. It's time to change what we rely on during challenging times change and uncertainty and so what are we leaning on what are- possibly coming to terms with. That's the seven. The enchanted forest does exist. Beautiful invisible forces are ria
"two months" Discussed on The Energy Gang
"Logic to how unreal responded to the bullying of the trump administration I think at the same time I thought that the initial website link to the Atlantic article, which is called how trump appointees short-circuited grid modernization was you know like completely over the top right? I mean we've been working on grid modernization for twenty years. The administration did very little grid modernization as we talked about with Russell Goals Book and superpower. So it's not like we're you know like the the trump. Administration killed grid modernization. They killed one paper which talked about another theoretical way to make grids more modern in the same way that we've been talking about building transmission line from you know the deserts of Nevada and Arizona to New York. City right for a long time so that the solar power could like you know power. New York City and so you know so I generally don't get too outraged over these things because I feel like I would just be in a constancy outrage. Yeah, I get disappointed though I will say when I see institutions that are regularly cited for their research or for their analysis data and I would say, energy, Information Administration is cited all the time and a lot of what they end up doing certainly has not been complete. We've been fighting with them through many administrations too. I might add But you want all of the stuff that comes out that's been funded to. To really hold water and be cited internationally I mean Enron is held up as as a jewel of the United States and an a real A real hub of innovation and really really smart scientists when I applied to get a job at all I had to be interviewed by twelve scientists and I ended up talking about utility rate structures because I knew they wouldn't understand what I was talking about because otherwise. I would have gotten job they're being it is really it's really high stakes to work for these labs and they are some of the best and brightest in the world and you just hate to see them being somehow stymied by politics. Oh I totally agree with you. Oh, this is this is the most disappointing piece of this story and that is you have. Really prominent, very intelligent researchers who were pushed out of government. They feel like they need to leave and this is what has been happening over the last four years you know in the administration has gone to great lengths to censor climate change and clean energy research. I mean it, of course, scrubbed mentions of climate on websites early on when the administration was coming in political appointees to created a list of folks within doe and other agencies who'd gone to climate conferences it presumably to punish them you have seen this is not just the only study that it's been delayed. There have been multiple studies that have been. Suppressed or delayed and. So what happens is this this is textbook stuff of how you dismantle government agencies that are preparing for the biggest problems in the world and. Delaying this research which could have direct consequences for actions, the government or private developers take in the coming years, and so it is a shame to see really intelligent people working on these projects get pushed out of government for this reason that to me is this piece of the story that really stands out most beyond the. Study itself. Yeah and it's happening across the government to the point where you know if we have a change in administration, people are worried that there are actually aren't enough people in a government who have the experience and track record to build implement new programs You'd have to backfill a lot of those jobs which take time and so look. I. Totally agree with you I. Mean It's disheartening for sure I'm completely disappointed I just think that I. Just think that we continue to you know sort of be surprised by you know how low the trump administration can stoop and you know there's no there's no lower bound to how far they could go on this but I but I do think that expect the same level of outrage when you know Democrats do the same thing on other really important issues. Right I mean the fact that we have I just. Got Corrected from last energy game podcasts, we have five thousand megawatts of demand response that the California could have done if it matched the policies of Arcot and it would have saved all those people from being blacked out, and the California just has this extraordinary hatred for demand response, which I don't understand but they should be called task for the fact that like they have systematically destroyed demand response in the state of California. Corrected you Catherine. No it was actually. It was actually one of the thermostat vendors who you know showed how they had three thousand megawatts alone of of Dr. Capacity that they've been piloting You know they're not allowed to to use YEP, but I've been fighting those fights for a long time and it is it's rough. Well let's take the last fifteen minutes here to talk through some listener questions We put out the call on twitter and on our platform here for that you want us to talk about and we got a ton of questions about tech PR actually technologies. non-conventional technologies that we don't discuss as much on this podcast. You know we we're we're pretty focused on the stuff that's happening today, which tends to be wind solar batteries, hydro but let's get through some of these, some of which are very novel. So the first question Oh, I didn't copy their name into the document here. So I apologize for not having this person's name, but they ask about two technologies. One is is tidal energy finally reaching maturity so There was a lot of investment in wave and tidal energy in the two, thousand, six to two, thousand, nine timeframe a lot of it fell apart after the financial crisis and you know. Nobody ever really picked it back up. There has been some experimentation. So Jigger, what do you think?.
"two months" Discussed on The Energy Gang
"In solar peavy that comes from traditional power generation background nor cal has earned a reputation as the strongest in controls. So if you want to hear more about the strongest and controls go to nor cal controls dot net. But move to a story that shows us in a very specific way. Why the election is so critical, it's an investigative piece from Peter Farrelly at investigate West that dropped last week, and it involves a piece of research at the National Renewable Energy Laboratory that was suppressed by the trump administration in two thousand eighteen and it's still unclear what is going to happen to this research? It modeled how to connect eastern and Western power grids to better manage lots of renewable energy. The research itself was important. It was part of many grid. Integration Studies that Enron has been working on, but it's not earth shattering However, the trump administration sought as an imminent threat to its promise to save the coal industry and when they found out about it, they scrambled to censor the work, and so we're GonNa, talk a bit about the study but also what's going on inside the trump administration to stifle censor push aside important research like this. So let's talk about what happened Catherine what is the seems study? Start us, off square one. Yeah. Yes. So the seem study is an interconnection study. As you said that tries to show you know what would happen if you had a western and eastern interconnection and also Urquhot, which is the electricity reliability council of Texas, like what would what would you be able to do that and the the interesting thing about the study is the approach was not based on what would happen if we went for thirty percent when twenty percent solar, where you pick numbers, arbitrary numbers and try to figure out what to do instead with the study said is. What if you had a carbon regime, so say you had you know base case what's happening now versus carbon regime and you had interconnection what would you need on the grid and where there's resources coming from and they just they found that you could make an economic case, an incredibly compelling economic ace for solar wind and hydro. If you had interconnections and some of this is was you know high voltage direct current but overlay but a lot of this is just about connecting these two these two parts of the grid going East and West, and also with Texas and So the study itself was important in the way that they had set it up. As let's look at this from, you know if we have a car a transition where the the methodology is based on carbon reduction, what would you need an and then figure out what those resources might be so that was part and that was a scope that was approved by Department of Energy for well to do and they. Had A couple million dollars to work on it, and that's what that's what they proceeded to do. As a very technical study. It was to be presented it was an I truly paper. So it was very much about peer, reviewing and taking input from other scientists and other organizations to really make sure that their methodology was correct and it was really meant to be very much of a technical study and. Because of the politics, it has not been published. Yeah. Okay. So this does not seem very political. There's a lot of research swirling around what happened next why did it become political? Yes. So I talked to Aaron Bloom who was the project manager at Enron time for the same study and he said, so he wasn't able to go to this conference to present. So we had a one of his staffers Josh Novacek, was asked to saw Ben and he was really smart guy. So he knew everything about this study to present and not five minutes. Into, the presentation, the Deputy Assistant Secretary at Department of Energy who was listening in. Katie. Theresa send an email and said this guy is advocating for carbon policy, which was not what he was doing. He was be they were basically saying you know if you did this, this is what you would get just kind of into it a little bit differently, and so then enroll had to go back and change the titles. So they had to change from calling it current policy versus carbon pause to to say base case verses high variable, generation KS and they. Had to change a bunch of things in the meantime it really really decimated the way the scientists were thinking about doing this, and how do we make sure it's peer reviewed in a way that that maintains the advocacy of our research and our modeling tools which are very very sophisticated. So they're they're kind of three different aspects. One is like the political aspect which was about carbon policy in about the the administration shutting it down there wasn't just Katie Theresa it was also Kathy Tripati and some other folks at Dav that decided to. Shut this down remember the lab director has to report to the Department of Energy's those are the political piece. There is the issue about scientists not feeling that they're supported Aaron balloon left because he did not feel like he was being backed up in recent really important research that he was doing and the third thing is the report in like is it ever going to see the light of day now just say on the Political Front that I was I was it enroll for seven years I straddled both the Clinton and the George W Bush administration. partly I the first part I was in the research side and buildings and the second part I was manager of government relations and I was always trying to walk this line about making sure that we were complying with whatever the goals of the given administration where so w had a lot of things that he was squashing to just say this is not unusual that when a new administration when especially a Republican Administration comes in and decides, they do not like the outcome of what national lab is doing and in particular Enron renewable energy that. They would squash some things or hide them, and we there were reports that came out in two thousand seven that Enron scientists had to do in on their volunteer time and that's a Sierra Club promoted but were not done through Enron because the at that point, the Bush administration said, we're not going to support this anymore. So that is always an issue when you have national labs that are in essence dictated by the goals of the administer any given minute administration. So that causes an. Issue but then you have the issue of scientists and losing really good people like Erin because of something like this happening, and then the third thing is just losing the paper and you know this, this would have been another really interesting study to have out there. Now it's it's still alive on Youtube. You can find presentations on the paper but it hasn't been published in Tripoli and some of these papers that you know publications that have been really helpful to have an end. Jigger what do you think the stakes are here I? Mean there's been a lot of grid integration studies looking at how you can better manage a lot of renewables on the grid. This is one of major body of research How much do we read into this particular suppression of this report given what Katherine outlining the historical context like this does happen within administrations but also like the trump administration has gone too much greater length to suppress any discussion about climate change and we can go through some of those I mean it's crazy long list. But where do you think is fits in yeah I mean you know the state representative, Tom, Sloan actually organize the event and Republican and You know he was emailing back and forth saying you guys are overreacting this is just an exchange of ideas, and so I you know I I hate to see this stuff, right? Because I do think that the folks that worked on it we're just you know their heart was in the right place they were. You know just doing real research like you're supposed to do but I do think that you know fundamentally as Catherine suggested, right I mean, you know admiral is a incision that's run by private contractor right and they get these awards and if they don't follow what the political say. Then you know there are repercussions to doing that right I. Think you know there is some.
"two months" Discussed on The Energy Gang
"So I actually think it's going to be a combination of all of those and an underlying. All of this is that no matter how much money you raise you have to be able to vote, and so I think a big piece of all of this is trying to have a plan for where you gonNa vote how are you going to vote? How do you make sure that you get your vote in in time if you're mailing it or if you're doing absentee or if you're doing it in person like having a plan for that that's really important. No matter who you're voting for So I think there's a combination of factors here. I don't know how you are feeling going into these last months of the campaign but my general anxieties and dread have shifted from the pandemic now into election politics. So I'm kind of transitioning the. Of Anxiety, I have to this next issue. How are you feeling going into this last stretch of the election I think doing a lot you know makes me feel less anxious, right? I mean you know there's obviously there's always things people could do better and whatnot but I mean even when you look at the Senate races I, you know I think clean energy champions are doing while on the Senate side too. So in a lot of their close races. So you know I feel I feel hopeful and I feel pretty positive that clean. For at least is playing a bigger role today than it. Did you know in two thousand and eight or even in two thousand sixteen? Yeah I agree I mean I'm of course anxious about how it's all GonNa work out I just want everything to go okay and people be able to vote who they want to vote for like that's so so important for our democracy and from where I said you know I help all these companies and organizations that. are going to need to get business done and need grow their business and need to have policy to do so no matter who is the president no matter who runs Congress and so. You know my business partner and I are always trying to game theory out like what do we do if this happened? So what are we if that happens and we have to have a plan for for all of that because we have to still move forward and we still have to help clean energy no matter what. Well before we transition to the next topic, let's just have a quick word about our sponsors. So Jigger question for you. Are you ready for the Era Energy Storage Oh? Yeah. Got One of my basement. That's right. That's right. You do. Well, fluids, our sponsor.
"two months" Discussed on Detour To Neverland
"Welcome to detour to never land where you are the author of own Disney Story. There's a lot of satisfaction in developing ideas into realities. Indie can find magic in your everyday life. If you do what you really want to do. You feel like you're playing how can you write your first? Chapter today. Greens. Figure out where we WANNA go. Is How we get there. I met this way. Your host, Brendan, and Catherine. Welcome, back to. Detour. Today's episode number two, hundred, twelve, happy Friday. Yes. We are excited to have this bonus episode today because it is a continuation of our moving diary. This is now the fifth installment and we just thought after two months being in Orlando living near Disney We thought you might want to see what it's like up. So we don't really have a general format. We're just kind of talking about what this experience has been like. If you've missed the previous moving diaries I, don't know if you must do much. I mean, yeah the basic premises we've been here for two months and these are thoughts so far. So we moved down kind of in the mid end half of June. Now. It's August. So if you missed the earlier moving diaries I, mean, you could definitely go back and listen to him or you can just tune in and see how it is now. So we just have a couple of questions we want to pose, and we'll have some discussion around that just do general check in. So the first thing now that we've been here for two months last time we talked we were like freshly moved in think we labeled it official Floridians. Yeah now that we've been here longer, are we going to Disney as often as you thought we would. I. I. So I mean.
"two months" Discussed on All In with Chris Hayes
"So it's been two months since. Congress voted on that big crossover relief. Bill which had a whole bunch of different parts to it. Almost none of the five hundred billion dollars in that bill that was allocated for large businesses has been spent. Okay just under thirty. Eight billion dollars have actually been distributed according to a report out today from the Congressional Oversight Commission which is tasked with overseeing the cares. Act that just seven and a half percent of the funds allocated and that can in. March there were industries that we were told would collapse without this money. So how is it possible? That seven percent has been spent joining me now is Barack. Not Oversight Commissioners who released that report today so I describe this pool of money. This is different. We've got a lot of attention paid to the payroll protection program which was for small businesses and the idea was they would get money from federal government to retain their employees at eighty percent. Pay alone would be forgiven if they kept them and they hired them back right. This pool of money the five hundred billion. We're talking about here. What was that for? What's that poor money? The purpose was to stabilize the economy. And so obviously. That's not a very clear explanation of what the Treasury and the Fed should do with the money but as you noted none of the very little of the money has been spent so far but critically the mere announcement back on April ninth that the Treasury and the Fed plan to spend about two hundred billion dollars had an enormous effect on the markets. So if you look at the data since that date. The stock market is up significantly. It's now back to where it wasn't early. March and the cost of borrowing big corporations has got way down so it's easier for them to finance themselves so in that sense as the report notes. The program is working for big corporations who it's not working for so far as medium sized corporations and state and city governments that were supposed to be able to borrow from the Fed. Okay so this this is such a fascinating thing so there was a moment march where you start to see these reverberations through various parts of the financial system that start to get very scary right. So you've got you've got the stock market going down. Then you start moving. Into credit markets credit markets start going wobbly you searching all sorts of indicators of financial distress and you've got the cares act and the Fed basically saying like we will backstop. We're not going to let this go down. And that really does. Change the psychology of these markets and does seem to stabilize them right. Yeah exactly right but what we have now is a situation if you look at the data where seems like we're setting up for a recovery that's going to be as fast and painless as possible for the rich and big corporations and slow and painful as possible for everyone else you talked about the P P P contrast the Fed's actions with P P if you're a small business owner you have to hope and pray that your Ppo p loan the money may run out after you get the money you have to follow all sorts of directions about what you can do with the money order for to stay a grant instead of alone and look at the folks who've been fired if you're requiring unemployment insurance you've got to file a claim you may take weeks and months to get that that money. Meanwhile the Fed and the Treasury can just announce that they're prepared to spend trillions of dollars to put that money into the financial markets at immediately creates a safety net for big corporations and for the holders of financial assets. So is the idea here that the largest corporations that were going to use this money because credit markets which is which is how they borrow money because they stabilized and because the cost of credit is low. You can borrow quite cheaply but basically like they're all doing all right they can. They can borrow what they need. And the entire of small businesses is now left to sort of like struggle through this period and hope PPM jump through a bunch of hoops. And that's sort of where we are in the rescue effort. That's basically right and so you can obviously see what the implications of that are. You can see after we emerge from this crisis that big businesses that have access to the capital markets are gonNA emerge in very good shape and small and medium. Size businesses are going to be In wreckage and that creates enormous opportunity for these big businesses to expand to scoop up more market share. That's not a good outcome for a competitive economy that's not a good outcome for consumers instead of In terms of presenting with choices and so I'm deeply concerned about this disparity between the fast and generous and no strings attached relief that we provide to big corporations with the slow and spotty and stingy support that we're providing everybody else a another question for you. I saw this piece in Bloomberg and I've been hearing about the Fed using these facilities and using authority under the cares act to sort of help oil companies oil and fossil fuel companies. This is a stealth bailout. This is diamond offer drilling as it headed towards bankruptcy diamond. Billing took advantage of a little provisioning stimulus bill to get nine point. Seven Million Dollar Tax refund pretty change and then it asked the bankruptcy judge to authorize the same amount as bonuses to nine executives. That is a pretty sweet deal. They got they got nine point seven in relief money and then turn around and said could we give a mill each to executive as we go out the door and bankruptcy yet. It's crazy and on top of that. One of the things that the Fed did is between April ninth when it first announced what it called the main street lending facility it out some changes to that facility on April thirtieth and all of the major changes that they made on that day just happened to line up with the top requests of the oil and gas industry and if it doesn't take Sherlock Holmes to figure out what happened because the energy secretary one on TV right after that and said we four. We told the Fed to make these changes and they agreed to go along with them. And if you look at the data from that day some of the biggest movers. Corporate Bond Index were were oil and gas companies that stood to benefit from the changes that the Fed had made. So I think getting support from every different angle in this bill. All right for Ron Moore to you. One of the few people sort of on the case on this Thank you so much for Sharing expertise tonight. Thank you that does it for all in you can catch us every weeknight at eight o'clock on MSNBC don't forget to like us on facebook. That's FACEBOOK DOT com slash. All in with Chris..
"two months" Discussed on All In with Chris Hayes
"Informed House Speaker. Nancy Pelosi a letter on Friday that he was firing State Department. Inspector General Steve Lennox then today Secretary of state. Mike Pompeo is saying that he was on. The one who asked trump to fire will annex because quote Inspector General Lennick wasn't performing a function in a way. We had tried to get him to which is an interesting thing to say about it. Inspector General. Who's supposed to be independent. Nbc News First Reported Clinic was looking into allegations. Pompeo directed a political appointee to run errands for him and his wife and then Congressman Eliot Engel Chair. The Foreign Affairs Committee told The Washington Post that the Inspector General's Office is investigating at my request. Trump's phony declaration of an emergency so he could send weapons to Saudi Arabia. This A as a way of getting around Congressional Obstacles. The present-day acted like he didn't know why link was fired. He say Bombay get rid of them. So we did. Democrats are not buying Ed. They've opened investigation. And what they said me be an illegal act of retaliation joining me now to talk about this David Graham staff writer at the Atlantic who has a piece out today on this topic titled Trump is attacking the final safeguard against executive abuses. You make the case David. I use a really important institution and this is extremely grave. What's going on here? What's your case already? Seen the original judicial controls legislative controls the administration has stonewalled Congress. They've sent Congress doesn't have the right to do things request documents. They famously obstructed the impeachment investigation. They've also said that. The court cannot educate these things. Because it's properly Congress's case the lack line of defense here to the inspectors general or within the executive branch but make reports legislature. And now you see sort of firing with impunity as well leaving New controls beyond the voter. So what is the? I always sort of looking through some of the statutory language here and trying to get right with the law here. What is the law here? Say like can you just say like this Inspector General? He's investigating stuff that I would like to remain secret air go. I am firing him. Like there's a law. Let you do that? It's a little bit unclear. You have under a law. The amendment that was passed in two thousand eight. The president has to inform Congress in three days or three days prior of the region But that doesn't mean that Congress can simply say no voted down. It means they have sort of a chance to object and raise a fuss. We've seen occasional inspector general firings in the past but nothing like this and we don't know whether Congress might respond more aggressively at what that would look like although the record of Senate Republicans not imply a lot of action. Yeah there's like you know sort of everyone playing a type him. Romney came out with a strong statement. Sort of appearing to condemn it. Susan Collins Musing about her concern Susan Collins is wants to do notably absent. I haven't seen any combination with from Chuck Grassley. Who has been a sort of his brand in? Washington for years has been the kind of defender of inspectors general and of whistleblowers and sort of government accountability. I know he's looked. He's been looked at by sort of people on the left. And right who were in that space. A real like defender of that and he really seems to have completely just abdicated on this. What's grant did say that? The president explanation was insufficient but he stopped short of any sort of criticism or threatening any sort of action. If the administration doesn't offer a fuller explanation so you kind of pulling punch there. This was the president giving his explanation today for why he did this why he got rid of. Lennick which I thought was one of those sort of weirdly honest moments of him take a lesson. I don't know him never heard of them but they asked me to terminate him. I have the absolute right as president to terminate. I've said to appointed him and they said President Obama. I said look. I'll terminate him. I don't know what's going on other than that but you'd have to ask Mike Pompeo but they did ask me to do it and I did it. I have the right to terminate the Inspector General's amazing saying the state. The Secretary of State asked me to fire the guy that's investigating and so I did right. Well this is classic losses. The heads of the agencies can't fire the inspectors general only the president can and trump is saying he didn't missing no interest in it of course and it's you know it's naked partisanship. He knows this isn't Obama guy on. That's good enough for him. He's happy to fire them. Yeah the the the point about the law being that like they can't fire them directly for precisely that reason. If you just outsources so that the guy says the president. Can you fire him for the president's this show or whatever I don't know but this guy is but okay then you have run around the spirit if not the letter of the law? Which is you? Don't want people to five firing power over the people that are going to independently hold them to account range leaving? The law is written that way. Deception that the president is going to have different prerogatives than a cabinet secretary who's being investigated he preferred to have a clean administration. President doesn't operate that way at all. He welcomes scandal. That's so true. That's exactly it right the idea that like the IG's there and he starts some investigation. Some corrupt scandal that the cabinet had done and the president's like okay. Great good for that. I can hold arises room and wounded. Get RID OF THIS PERSON. But of course that's not the way it works in this administration. David Graham. Thank you so much for making time for us tonight. Thank you up next. Businesses are in dire need of financial relief. Congress approved the use of five hundred billion dollars in aid money. So here's the thing. Why is it the two months later? Hardly any of that money has been used. Get that story next okay..
"two months" Discussed on All In with Chris Hayes
"There was one difference one big difference number one he may have been guilty and number two. He had tapes all over the place right. He was definitely guilty. Trump did not actually learn from Richard. Nixon don't fire people know he learned something more important. He learned to make sure to space out the fire and the people so starting in the beginning of April trump has been firing. The very people meant to hold his administration accountable. These inspectors general. It's his own Saturday. Night massacre only. The firings usually come on Friday night after everyone has kind of checked out for the weekend on Friday April third trump fired. The Inspector General of the intelligence community. That guy was important. His name is Michael Atkinson because he is the one who handled the Ukraine whistleblower complaint and found it to have merit few days later. He got rid of the Defense Department's g known for his independence. Who was overseeing corona virus? Relief spending investigations on Friday. May first he said he was replacing the health and Human Services Inspector General who had just exposed shortages of testing and personal protective equipment and hospitals. Then this past Friday night trump fired State Department inspector general Steve Linic at the urging of Secretary of state. Mike pompeo according to the House Foreign Affairs Committee Eliot Engel. The Office of the Inspector General had opened an investigation into pompeo before pompeo. Lennick be fired. Here's the thing. Firing Inspector General's outside ship trump is going at one of the foundational post Watergate reforms that was erected with bipartisan support over decades precisely to restrain Nixon to point out State Department firing maybe the most provocative and perhaps clearly lawless yet. We're talking about that right after. This president.
"two months" Discussed on All In with Chris Hayes
"And the nets until you do something about it. So latest ad from Republican anti-trump Super Pac which literally just recites what is expected to happen. In America's the pandemic continues the reality of the current situation where we find ourselves right now. It's the most brutal argument against Donald trump politically. There have been a ton of articles or the last few weeks about how desperate trump the White House are to change that bedrock reality with just increasingly insane attacks and wild gambits to get attention but the political gravity right now. In the country's the incumbent president is running for reelection in the midst of the worst cataclysm to befall the country in generations. The question of the election is a referendum on the president and more than that a referendum on whether reality in the end the circumstances of a country are what matter here with me now dig into that question Cornell Belcher Democratic strategist and pollster. You and I've had this conversation a few times cornell and I think we`ve. We've slightly different cakes. Although I think we agree on something so I think the thing that we agree on is there is a high floor for the president's support. You're not going to ever see a world in which he's at twenty five percent approval which I agree with but I also do think I tend to think that the the reality really does matter for an incumbent president and this reality will matter and I think you're more in the camp that like it's essentially entirely detached from his political fortunes. Do you still feel that way? Yes Chris I think for any Ordinary president way the Bush or or or or Obama is not detached But you know if you look at Some delays outlast weekly CNN About last in the last week. Donald Trump's at forty six percent Look should be familiar with a lot of Americans and and then I look back at okay. You know where he was last spring nineteen able to a nineteen in the CNN's polling forty. Five percent. Chris so it it is detached from reality. He his base is locked in. And that's why I think there's been a a you know battle back and forth with inside the Democratic Party about sort of do you go out the trump supporters or do not go out to trump supporters. I think it's I think it's I think it's it's I think you're wasting time trying to trump. Supporters is isn't just a waste of time that forty six forty five forty seven percent is locked in. He's going to get that no matter what happens. He's going to get that. So here's so here's some I think I mean I don't I don't quite agree at forty five forty six but I will say this that a huge part of that is locked in right but there's one place that I thought this was interesting so it seems to me that it's a little reckless politically to go around saying to senior citizens who are most at risk from this virus internal tally like your warriors. Get OUT THERE. Suck it up. That seems to be a message. That would be a not a great political message. If you were like advising a candidate I don't think you would tell and there does seem to be some data suggesting this is having an effect if you look at. His fivethirtyeight ran the numbers. On older voters. His margin two thousand sixteen was like about for sixty five plus was plus thirteen percent. He's down like he's underwater with those groups now in a bunch of polls do you think basically do you think that's real is is it a bumper is it long term You know the dynamics of this race have yet to to to on on fold week we are really to a certain still early stages. I mean heck. The candidates been out and about campaigning And which what I do know is that is that Donald Trump and Republicans will throw everything. They can't at Joe by and I think if you if you if you had the Republicans handwrite now. You know your the way you win. This is if you if you make up Biden not a soft place for for for these voters these floors land and look at Hillary. Twenty sixteen had the problem that her unfavorable were just as high as Donald Trump's on favorables. And if you look at some of the polling right now Biden is just barely above water in his favorable to unfavorable. But but but but but it's beginning to shrink so look for them to come at all the stuff that we think are sort of crazy. Internet Biden Throw more abetted by them because they understand they got to make him not an acceptable place for these voters for some of his voters. Lan So there's this thing I go back and forth on from a pure sort of political tactics question which is like is it better. Basically if you're running against Donald trump is a better. He's the lead story that night on the news or that you are and come back and forth on this this idea that he's sort of dominates attention and that's like a sort of super power and that's been a huge part of the the politics of this era but then the other is a Lotta Times. He potential it's not the majority of people don't like it and that's what he's like a forty five percent approval rating guy fifty five percent. I don't like that you're you know you're a jerk. And so this question about Biden like if you were advising the Biden campaign is your advice like it's a good day of Joe Biden is not the news and Donald Trump is war is it is not a bad day that you need to get out there and be more President Chris. I think this is tough because one of the things In politics that goes back a long time his look if your opponent is is shooting themselves in the foot don't get no way of your opponents shooting themselves in the foot you stare back. The problem is Donald Trump and shooting himself in the foot. Four couple of years now And number in his numbers don't move and I think part of the problem. Oh twenty sixteen was he did suck all the air. You didn't suck all the air and all in all the time and all the attention I think ultimately if you're the Democrat you have to make a case for yourself. I don't think we're GonNa win this again by just being against Donald Trump. I think we're going to have to be four. Something GonNa have to make that case for for for yourself if we have time. I WanNa make one quick point about the Obama thing if we had time is he's crazy like a Fox right racial version and angst about changing America is in fact the predicate and sort of driving that racial version and drive in that division eggs in that case Brock Obama although he did win back to back majorities if that's your predicate in fact running against brock. Obama is a veteran tags for you than running against Joe Biden. Answer Interesting Cornell Belt. Thank you as always. We'll talk again soon. Thank.
"two months" Discussed on All In with Chris Hayes
"Are so many people saying different things and and now we're seeing the same thing happened with the conversation about reopening. There was a quote from Georgia resident. That really struck with me. We have covered and you have written about You don't not ed on this on the sort of inequities and sort of disparate effects of this disease. Particularly among African Americans among a people who are who have co morbidity and particularly among the poor and among the elderly. And I saw this quote and it's really haunted me right because there was always a worry. That if you highlighted these disparities which are real important highland and talk about that. Some people get the message that it's not. It's not coming from me Georgia resident in the Washington. Post when you start seeing where the cases are coming from. End The demographics. I'm not worried. Rethink that quote. What does it say about what message? People are receiving speaks to the long legacy of racial housing risk rather than talking about the people circumstances that place them at risk. We talked about who they are classified as say. You'll have the same thing happening with the meat packing catastrophe with escalating rates of coded infections and many packing settings in it's bland on the fact that the people who work there a Latino not on the conditions of their work the conditions of their homes or the ways in which they have to commute to work. So this is a long legacy of this and it's very dangerous Because it is really true that our society segregated but this virus doesn't recognize race it.
"two months" Discussed on All In with Chris Hayes
"Follow the Swedish model with Sweden did was say. We're never going to go to full scale lockdown. We're going to do a kind of Wimpy small-scale voluntary you decide for yourself. What lockdown your You're prepared to carry out and then we'll keep our economy going. Well they have the highest death rate per capita in the world. I mean the second only to Belgium and They're the highest in Scandinavia. There the shame of northern Europe. And I I guess they've decided those dead people were not important. This is the sort of awful the awful message right center about the value of life by these decisions that get made at a policy level and also the awful consequences of although the idea of becoming endemic is really. Bumming me out on this Monday. But that's why you have a Pulitzer Laurie Garrett for for reporting on the actual dangers of world basis. Thank you so thank you Chris. All right for more on where we are in this crisis. I'm joined by Dr. Mary Bassett former New York. City health. Commissioner now Director of the XP Center for Health and Human Rights at Harvard University. You you ran a doctor. You ran a large one of the most Augusta an important public health organizations in in the country and the New York City's Department of Health and I. I wonder how you're looking at this. These risks assessments and how policy-makers send messages to people about this about risk about being clear eyed about it at so that it gets through one of the basic message is is of course to give consistent messaging. And that's been a catastrophe in the United States. There.
"two months" Discussed on All In with Chris Hayes
"Performance matter November plus our president who brags you learned a lot from Richard. Nixon is systematically dismantling the safeguards put in place after Watergate and the stealth fail out big oil is benefiting from the Treasury's massive rescue fund. And what is being done about oversight? All it starts right now. Good evening from New York. I'm Chris Hayes. Corona virus pandemic is long with climate. Change inescapably global challenge right. I mean we've already seen in the months of this. How little the virus cares about things like borders. How it's altered daily life around the globe developed and developing countries alike the global south across north any solution to the virus. The problems caused by the virus. We'll also have to be global vaccination treatment best practices all that today. We learned president. Donald Trump declined an invitation to address the World Health Organization. While China's President Xi Jinping accepted joining other world leaders like Germany's Germany's Angela. Merkel and France's Emmanuel macron. I mean every world leader is facing some variation of the same challenge. And there's probably a lot to learn from the exchange between countries particularly countries like Germany to name just one example that has successfully contained the virus and minimize fatalities. But here's the thing. The president refuses the counsel and advice of his own government. Never mind other ones back. On April sixteenth. The trump administration released guidelines produced by the to reopen the economy in three phases. We keep going back to this document because it's the most often document in America. The president unveiled it. They posted them in the White House. Website they're still there you can go read them and they're they're they're sensible but president trump on patient and could not wait for states to meet his own guidelines the one that he introduced from his CD he started beating up on governors and berating them emerging states to Norton. The very first day tweeting about liberating this state in that and so on April twentieth. Georgia Governor Brian Coun- announced he was opening up the state starting with a central services which also to include massage studios and bowling alleys governor. Kemp was was out front. He branded himself as a first reopener. Not abiding by the guidelines but things have not gone great for him. I mean they haven't been catastrophic either so we should explain. I can't got hung out to dry because he thought he was listening to the president by opening early right. The president's tweeting liberated Michigan Liberty. Virginia and Brian. I'm with you Mago Maga. And then the president cuts them off at the knees a few days later saying he disagreed with cams decision since then. Georgia appears to be well cooking the books to show. The data was better than it really is or at least making a bunch of errors that have that humid effect. Here's a chart they released. Okay look at how. The new confirmed cases appear to go down. Nice smooth slope right. You look at that chart you think getting better but when you look closely you raise the detail in the right order. Here's May seventh right before April twenty-sixth. That's not the way that charge at work that type of screw up That has been an error in that direction has happened at least three times. The governor's office says they were not trying to be misleading. But I don't know maybe as a result of these over-optimistic messages some Georgian seemed to be embracing reopening at and sort of thinking the risk. Isn't there anymore. It's gone. Basically the washing post a great piece about people shopping in a mall in suburban Atlanta quote outside urban outfitters Jennifer. Kiernan was having a glass of wine or daughter shock inside. Oh my God. This feels great. I love it. She said explain that. She assumed that everyone around her was healthy. I think people would not be out if they had been exposed to anyone with corona. Now I am sympathetic to the feeling of greatness. I am sympathetic to the temptation of just like having a normal day and having a glass of wanted a place that does sound awesome. But there's no relationship between how good that feels and what the risk is and it's not this individuals job to assess the risk. That the government's job now. There are other states like Georgia. That have been quick to reopen their state again at the president's behest even if his own guidelines say not to starting today for Governor Rhonda Santa's allowed restaurants and retail stores in gyms to reach fifty percent capacity which again not fully back. But they're starting to open. That's even as Palm Beach. County identified as a Corona Virus Hotspot Homeland Security Document. And then there's Texas Governor Greg Abbott. Who ANNOUNCED TODAY? That daycares can open immediately which again. That's a vital thing for getting people back to work but it happens just days after the state reported a record number of corona virus deaths in one day. So here's where things stand right now as we look to this as we think about our own future all of us across the country and across the world we do know some very clear things about the virus at this point right if you change absolutely nothing in your society and your behavior and the way things happen you continue life as usual the virus will ravage you and it will run rampant. We know that we saw this. We saw outbreaks around the world. We have been seeing it here in meat packing plants across the country. We've seen it in veterans homes nursing right that much we do know what we've legitimately just don't really know though is what happens now with the virus like what does it do with a modified version of normal in the big question is with modified physical distancing and mask wearing and policies in place that can we keep the virus oppressed even if we do not implement some kind of aggressive program of testing and tracing and contact tracing and quarantine and all that stuff moves virologists. I have talked to you and I talked to a number that most public health officials think. No probably not that. We're going to see the the virus come back. We'll see outbreaks in places like Georgia Texas and Florida and man. That does look appealing to say like normal life in the sunshine in spring is that they are taking on a very high level of risk with a very uncertain future. And here's the other thing. It may work out. I mean we honestly don't know I hope literally hope it does but if there are two things that we have learned in this era two lessons we cannot unlearn. Forget one you can elevate the risk of highly unlikely events highly unlikely catastrophes tail risks and you can get away with it for a while until you don't all these actions to reopen aggressively in violation. Often what the says they're high risk but not only are Republicans in the White House and in state capitals ignoring the CDC guidelines. They're even openly going out and attacking. The here's White House Trade Advisor Peter Navarro yesterday on meet the press early on in this crisis the CDC which which really had the most trusted ran around the world in this space really. Let the country down with with the testing. Not only did they. Keep the testing within the bureaucracy. They had a bad test and that did set us back. That is a fascinating clip. Because he's he's correct the CDC screwed up enormously Donald Trumps. The trump admit like some foreign satellite that landed in like took over the response. It's in the trump administration. We do not know exactly what the new normal looks like but then there is a chance of something bad happening. Say It's one in one hundred and you increase it to one in ten. That's really dangerous. But there's still a likelihood you can avoid at one in ten chance. And that's basically the risk of society wide collapse. During the trump era from the day that he was inaugurated right. We managed to get by almost four years with out something catastrophic at this scale right this incalculable scale there have been catastrophes. Hurricane Maria and other places at the border but something of this scale we escape three and a half years but it doesn't mean the risk was not there the whole time and look at where we are now so the other thing we've learned right which we absolutely cannot forget. Is that when the head of a government sends a signal that they quote like the numbers where they are that they think they're going down when they pegged their own political fortune and what they perceive as economic fortune to the virus? Not being that bad to being on the precipice of going away that has tangible effects for the way that actors within the government. Behave the real risk right. Now that maybe showed up in that good faith error in Georgia. Right we don't know. Was it intentional or not? Is that when you governor sending the message throughout the governor to the people in their bureaucracies that we're open for business governors who do not want to hear about another outbreak right. That's contrary to the message that is dangerous as dangerous message to send to people joined now by Pulitzer Prize winning science journalist and Health Policy Analyst. Laurie Garrett and I wanted to start on that point. Because it's something you've written about and thought about about this sort of ways in which governments heads of state send messages formerly and informally about the virus and the dangers of sending the message. Like we're open for business. This is behind us now. Let's sort of look on the bright side. I don't WanNa hear any. Debbie Downer is about this and what that could do actual policy. Well you know this weekend. I had the rude awakening of riding my bike around Brooklyn I of course wearing my mask and gloves and seeing a city that was starting to really say A. We don't want to go with lockdown anymore. It was like Mardi Gras kids out in the streets in huge numbers. No masks getting drunk and it was a giant party scene and I I had the opposite reaction as you were just describing about seeing opening I felt fearful and I think that one of the things we're seeing is that the talk about opening up seems to negate even mentioning masks. Do you open up but still wear a mask. Do you throw the mask away. Similarly do keep washing your hands all the time or are you just say at a heck with it. It's all over. The virus is not all over in fact if you look at national data right now and you take out of the data set New York City. The immediate tristate area Detroit and New Orleans. What you're left with is a graph. It looks like this straight up skyrocketing no slowdown whatsoever. This downward Kerr they keep showing is really the downward curve of New York and since New York is such a huge percentage of the total number of national cases. It skews the data. So I mean I guess the response to that when we think about places like Texas Florida in Georgia right. I mean the the big question is what what where's that curve going is that there has been a lot more testing right so even in places where cases are going up we are seeing percentage positive. Be Sort of driven down. Even in places like Texas and Florida. Which are the cause of some concern? I wonder if you're skeptical of that. Maybe as a metric I mean you. You sound concerned about the trajectory of this virus. Outside the places that have been hot spots in places like Texas Georgia Florida etc. I am concerned. There's some new cellphone. Data that shows that demonstrators have went to protest against lockdowns In some cases cross state lines went as much as two hundred miles in order to attend without masks in tight. Conditions these protests. And now we're starting to see the ability to actually track which viral subtypes individuals are infected with and do the epidemiological tracing it if John was say Dallas protesting and then drove back to Lafayette Louisiana. we can tell if John Becomes infected. Did he get a strain? That's now in circulation? Lafayette or did he get a strain. He picked up and Dallas and brought home with him. And all this kind of work can now be done if there's a will to do it if there's a will to pay for the Science and fund this kind of research and I think it's fundamental. This is what we call contact tracing. And it's another way of doing contact tracing by tracking the genomic sequences around it's like a fingerprint of the virus itself and what fingerprint is in me may not reflect Whitson Brooklyn. Maybe this is the fingerprint of Miami and I just got off a plane from Florida so one of the one of the things that strikes me about this moment and we were talking about Brooklyn and the scenes. That people sort of out in the street is that I think it's maintaining this sort of social sense that we're all engaged in this struggle for a long-term is a hard thing to do but the danger of that that binary thing that you're identifying and I think that came through the Georgia article too and I don't think this is a specific thing that specific to people with some kind of politics in some region of the country. I think this is fairly universal which is like. Oh phew that's over like we're out of locked and if we do that then we're screwed. I mean that's the dangerous thing right like we can get some version of normal if we carry with us all these Hagia things but if we sort of say like that was a long ten weeks or that was a long two months like we're back. That's the most dangerous thing. Well look at China. I mean they've done. They did the most extensive locked down on the planet. They declared victory and now they've got three outbreaks and they've put another eleven million people in testing a many millions. More in back in lockdown and I think every single country is starting to realize this is coming in waves. You got to build up a system an infrastructure that can see each wave as deriving do the proper contact tracing to figure out who needs to be in quarantine or locked down. So you don't have to do the entire society you target it. You do smart testing smart targeting and you wait it out and then when that ceases spreading you can all go back to normal for a while but you gotta know there's GonNa be another round and another round and another round. We are in for a very long haul. And just last week. The chiefs scientist-in-charge epidemic response at World Health Organization. Said something that I've been saying for now three months which is that. There's a very high probability that this virus is going to end up going endemic meaning meaning. It will be a permanent feature in the human landscape just like HIV. An if we get to that stage we must adapt all our behavior accordingly. We can't I don't think..
"two months" Discussed on Dateable Podcast
"We interviewed a startup founder on the show and his whole was. I sleep on my couch at at the office. I'm married to my company. My kids are my employees. I'M NOT GONNA get into relationships. Not a priority. First of all we air the episode like fifty women reach out to him was like I could change your mind. He's our most reached out to guest of a the one that's like I don't want to release. Yeah like flat out by then. Two years later he is. He's now married. Okay now that but when we interview that Lee interviewed him After the fact and we asked what changed and he said this I think is the most interesting takeaway from which was he felt at the time relationships would be a burden or they would distract him from his goals in his dreams but when he met his now wife she actually added to that. She empowered him to pursue his career and his passions. She never dragged him down. She lifted him up even more. Yeah for me exactly what it is. I'm still getting over my divorce. I was married for a hot minute and minute. Two months bullock two months literally we. We barely sent out the thank you cards after our wedding. She's bringing up the divorce and she can even say it she. So we've got buried in September and all are are real honeymoon. We had you know trips and weekenders afterwards but this year this was two thousand fourteen okay. This is not this year so much better like this happened last week filed last week. I lift your show this. We had guys dating for dating or the skin into this. We use for a year and a half before I proposed and we were living together for most of that time. We're both korean-american About the same age. How'd you meet? We met we met through actually. Pk reading your entrance was in some ways. That's kind of actually true. She pay for your breast implants. A-minus cups bladed What happened was So I grew up Christian But I left the church and Similar to Piquet we so we have this. Overlap of talking about are grown up religious but now religious anymore. He invited me to meet up. That's for people who are trying to leave the church. Leave the faith. How and that's how I met my ex. She was also there. So we had a lot of things in common being korean-american around the same age very overbearing parents on both trying to leave the church in the convert ourselves so we had a lot of fun discussions early on and we started dating and we we fell in love pre much right away at the time. I was switching careers. I was trying to be a realist. I was a real estate agent But I'm just not good salesman Apart do you want to know? Where are you going to come back? Yeah it's not good at all. Don't mind the rights there's just neighborhoods roommates. Yes roommates roommates We and then we got a little puppy dog and we're living together. Having a lot of fun traveling I proposed and we got married got married about two years into being together once we got married and I was kind of still kind of struggling as a real estate agent. I wasn't doing that well. Commission job is brutal Absorb for me is trying to get my head off just like head in the clouds like love my wife my my new bride but at same time trying to as a man is like. How do I fix this mess about like? I'm not making that much doe here. I gotTa bring home the Bacon you know. Got A like a a pressure. Prove might prove my worth you know Especially as a new husband is like I figure this out got a free. So do I keep on doing this or do I just back out in something else? That's the knock on me that I was just I. I wasn't really going at it. Objectively and pragmatically eligible dragging my feet in this process when someone else was materially involved the knock on her what she didn't give me enough time Two months we barely think sent thank you cards to our wedding gusts. She's like you want to go to our honeymoon friends. I'm like we are friends. Like what do you mean friends like? No YOU WANNA go John. Hayman as friends. I'm like way what sit down. Let's talk what do you mean is fresh just like I don't know if we're meant to be? What are you talking about? We just got married so that just went down nice rabbit hole. We barely eked out the honeymoon. Who is the worst trip? Ever dig on the honeymoon did go on a honeymoon saw quote we cannot believe which we just thought we didn't follow yet but we just thought we we back up for because this is exploiting the communication staff also much she was just like we're gonNA like quicko France. She never brought up like she was there any literally was asking me. Can we follow divorce and still go on honeymoon together? But she never brought up like. I'm feeling this or like can we like talk about a lot of fights about finances. We had a lot of fights then discussion. But you fought. We bought more than we discussed. And when we discussed it was very hard negotiations. So it's all about finances you think that was the demise this we were not good for each other in the sense that not just like we weren't working on ourselves trying to prove but I like to go hang out and just act a fool and drink and have fun right. She has some level of social anxiety. She does not like drinking. She does not like living in this adventurous thing I have. She has a very stable career for me is like oh. It's everything's adventure. Life is experiment. Let's figure this out. I don't know maybe just opposites attract. You know so for two years at worked for two years. We had a great time. Were you fighting while you were dating? But once we got engaged once that rock singer she got into different boat why not. I didn't realize that finance to like it became like this is about both of us. Were when you're dating. It's your finance your dad different. It's different it's tough. We also interviewed a divorce lawyer on our show and he said I'll surface level. Most couples get divorced because of finance or because of X. Sacks lack of stacks but he said those to actually go way deeper into a much much more prevalent issue in a relationship and it's beyond sex and finances those are like kind of the consequences. Sofer's level easy things to point to you but everything goes down way deeper. Yeah and I. I don't know I don't know exactly what it is. I I've Four or five years move removed from that and for me. I'm still like trying to figure out what really what happened. There you know so. She filed for divorce after the honeymoon. So afterwards we're just trying to get along to get along but then like my career wasn't going so well at all. She just had it you know so. She broke down. I'm just like because she. She needed me to be on board. She wouldn't do it all by herself. She needed meet me onboard with the whole separation process. So I was like okay fine. Let's Stewart it's a sunk cost. Let's just let's just move on. Let's eat you go your way Michael. How many months after you got married? I was pretty much a year on the on the dog beyond finance. She never brought up. What like it was solely finances. She talked about there was nothing else brought out. She's like if you just had a meager salary. Like I be happy with that and for me. I had a tough because we fought so much over that I had a talked by improving. What what she said you don't think he's. I don't think it's a meager. Well this is what we also here in relationships too because people think they're these milestones that will save your relationship. Oh we if we need this much money. We'd be happy if we had a kid we'd be happy and when they reach these milestones through all in my head while called that like what we think of marriage and happily ever after is is what I call a promotion that never arrived like especially growing up Asian American out religious conservative families. Everything right family is the church So it's like for meet. My Dad is just obsessed instill. It's about me getting on the only son to me getting married and have kids and all that so that's just like an all these steps but what I experience with my ex just like no. That's just it's never enough. It's not enough very almost like it's not a not a knock on her. Just the the wiring within us on you know and for me. It's like yeah I know it's not enough. I have to get ahead to keep on climbing the ladder after giving boba grant like it was really interesting for me. It's a shock and I was just soul became a little creek monsters when she would say these things while we're finding because what we need a car. I'm like we live in New York City. We don't need a car. We have right. I have a ZIPCAR membership. We can this right there at the garage. Why do you need to travel? What do you mean we just got back from a trip? What do you mean why are you fighting about? We're talking about our matrimony here. You're talking about traveling. Like what are you? What are you talking about so I realized that you know People can get not just woman but meant to definitely like people can get into. This weird's deep very odd. The awkwardly personal very personal very deep things the heat in a moment when you're fighting but it's all hard to bring out an and talk about because they can a lot of people can't talk about eve address it even to themselves let alone two yard because we don't have the tools to do so if you didn't know how to describe colors you know read was read you just describing his just like this thing right in. Looks like this and you can't use the words. It's really frustrating. This is why babies cry right. 'cause they can't describe what they're what they're trying to tell you and I think for her behavior to say we need a car you travel. It could all be routed down to. I'm feeling trapped. I'm feeling lonely feeling secure. I'm not feeling but she didn't have the tools and I have the tools to. Hey I understand that. Stability particularly financial stability is very important to you just got engaged or we just got married a woman because for me. I'm not going to go to a job for the sake of bringing home the Bacon for me. Whatever I do for a living and how living is what. That's that's me that link intertwined I need to be a hundred ten percent of what I do. I can't just phone it in so however we're going to reconcile these two. I had the tool and people are very different with that stuff. Like some people are all about just like having a stable lifestyle. Did you ever talk about that like while you were dating before you got engaged? Time to take a quick break for our sponsor some basket honestly. It gives me so much anxiety to cook healthy and delicious meals on a regular basis. And that's exactly why I end up eating out half the time and not good but I feel like I finally found my soulmate with Sun Basket. A service that delivers organic premeasured ingredients with quick healthy recipes. Right to
"two months" Discussed on Dateable Podcast
"<div bis_skin_checked="1">Season 10 Episode 1: Taking Sexy Back</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:00:00 - 00:05:01</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">The Dateable podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that the Huffington post calls one of the top ten podcast about love and sex. On each episode, we'll talk to real daters about. From sex parties to sex droughts, date fails a diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host Yue Xu, former dating coach turned dating sociologists. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Krafchick as we explored this crazy dateable world. Hey everyone welcome to another episode of dateable a show all about modern dating season ten. I can't believe we made it to double digits. I can't believe we started season. One just on a whim with our friends and our on season ten with with people who are now our new friends but you know they weren't our friends to begin with no and I. It's so crazy that we've been at it for like four solid solid years. It's got I got to say. This is one of my most committed relationships. I've ever been duly. Even though we joke about us be like lesbian lovers. I really feel like this is a whole new level relationship before I mean people say like you really should date like anyone that becomes a business partner. Yes that is like ends up being marriage and I think for anybody who's curious about how we work I think it's we've both evolved so much in the last ten seasons sounds almost five years that I don't even recognize US anymore. From the you know from the beginning I got now I was like relisting to a couple of old one in it. It's it's actually quite amazing in their great in different ways like I think there was something really nice but our episodes really twenty minutes. They were very short and they were very conversational patients. which was fun? And we've heard a lot of people loving that but we've just got in much deeper over the years and I guess in the beginning I never thought about what I would take away from dateable. I wish I really thought we were GonNa talk about funny dating stories and maybe discuss dating in different cities. Oh Yeah I didn't realize how narrow minded I was in in the beginning but it's nice to have some self awareness around it totally and I think that actually is what has kept us going. People always are like. Are you going to run out of material. Never it's there's always something new with modern day dig. I see our inbox because every day. There's something new I actually. You feel badly that we can't reply to as Mariah people because it's just yet there's so many stories out there and that's why in season ten we wanted to bring you more we want the CNN season and we want this to be a very memorable season because you know hitting double digits. It's a big deal so in the last few months. We had a few first Chris Times for the first time. Live imprison shows in San Francisco and Cenex Sherry pop we did a few of first streaming streaming live shows. Yeah different than they facebook live. But we'll keep doing more of those and you've really really catch them on facebook. Live to if you miss them but we had some really good ones because we used a platform called vocal where you could actually have listeners. Mike Up Enjoying the conversations of superfund is have fans and listeners honors that we don't know at all just be on the video screen with us and we're going to bring all equipment to south by southwest again this year one of our favorite. I think it's my receiver. I did not know what I was getting into last year. Because you were like we gotta go. It's the best. I could go either way the shirt like whoa the entire time. Yeah we're back. Some Isaac are tied this year. We're bringing friends producer. We're bringing some other people so yeah and if of you are going to be in Austin at the same time his up let's meet up. Maybe new book live together record a podcast APP. So you never know anything could happen to south back. And if you haven't checked out the dictator take you as hat project. She's you just felt so strongly allie about this. We can give a little background of how this kind of evolved maybe for people. I guess we were at a comedy. You and comedy show and this comedian was talking about Dick Pics on and how boring they were and I was at a Bachelorette party earlier last year and I was talking about this. This Comedian and someone was like. Oh my gosh. There needs needs to be like a snapchat filter for pigs. We can put all kinds of different decorations on addict. We'll call it decorator so boom I came. I'm back and I told Julie Julie's like let's run with it. I was like let's make a fake Promo Video d'appel but if anybody's interests there's an alumina APP with us because my coworker is so convinced. We're going to be billionaires that APP if your business partner in that also hit us up me ask ask men will do we want to think ask.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:05:03 - 00:10:03</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">Exciting is one of the best sex and dating podcast to up your game in twenty twenty I personally. It makes me so happy when we're obviously just because I know it just makes it feel real Dacia. We're on the same list as Esther Parral and Dan savage edged. That makes me feel good. Yeah do they know that they're on. The same list is off. That's our dream so hopefully this will have one of almost podcast. Maybe we do. Maybe worse hiding some secrets so this year like I said we want to bring you more. So it's more episodes more live shows because we have more sponsors thanks sponsors for keeping his alive and we have dateable swag the Kim prejudice and show off to all your friends. Yeah so we'll keep you updated data as that come out but we have a few ideas on the pipeline. That are going to be really good. and Julie's speaking of more we are so excited. Now be part of the FROLIC media podcast network network. Yeah so we had frolic media come to us and say hey like we're podcast network and we've also been a book network that really focuses. This is on the romance and dating relationship space so we talked to them just thought it was a really great fit for us and we're really excited to see what the share bring flip them and it is also is a great community for us to be part of yeah so excited to bring some the continuity half on their network to you all that you might find interesting and it. Also you know Speaking Validation Immune love us as much we love you. Can you please just leave us a review or tele friend about dateable because this this is how we can keep on bringing you the content that you love. Yeah that is I think the only real asked we have if you keep listening yourself. A women's situation trust us. There's no gimmick here so in all of this because we're ready for I own. It's so good. We we have a repeat guests. Yeah her her name is Dr Alexandra. Solomon if you remember. She was on a previous episode. Cub Marriage Wanna one. She teaches one of the most popular classes at northwestern. University waitlisted every Salva Julie's cousin knows yeah she actually. She wasn't in it but her friends were yet but she also knows she knows that superpac actually went to northwestern. Yeah yes and so this episode. We have her back because she has come out with a new book and she talks about how to own your sexuality whether you have a partner or not not. That's the key phrase. Yeah I think it's just like when Shit will when her publicist came to us again. First of all we just love episode Marriage WanNa one I think for both of us us. People are always like. Oh you guys are dating experts and we definitely know a lot about day. They relationships because we've talked to so many people but I personally don't believe anyone is like an expert. No now we're we're learning every day and I personally think for me marriage WANNA one was probably one of the ones. I learned the most come because like her the dollars that she she was like every relationship has conflict. I think I personally took yet to heart because I think we're always looking for the perfect relationship and something that's it's easy and all that and it shouldn't be so hard but also like you're you have to work at it too and the fact that her class is one of the most popular classes for undergrads. Yeah at northwestern speak so much about what is happening in our culture today right like eighteen nineteen twenty year olds are thinking about marriage origin how to have successful relationships. We keep shitting on younger generations. I decided to step back and say maybe the young people have figured out yet. They're learning I think when I cur publicists came to us again for this episode this whole notion of Saxon like we all know about sex. Obviously but like how would you describe Eh. You didn't like it so I think it's so hard it's like obviously love sex but I can't put into words a lot of stuff right or people. Oh feel like they have to love sex because it's supposed to give Geezer but I also know people who struggle with loving Saturday had many bad. Yeah Yeah I think it's like we touch on this in the episode but what people how people learn about sex sex sad which means you don't have sex like I was thinking of mean girls. It's like you will have not actually is like that. It's like it's just was bad about sex and then porn like yeah. I think I heard a stat. Actually that boys that are eight to twelve are using porn exclusively the learn about sex you I know it is because then it also skews with real. Yeah on the actual bedroom there was some other stat and I'm kind of butchering the stats. That there was something about like how most men mastery to porn and like a lot of men were have it masturbated without porn since they were like twelve and these were like forty men now in.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:10:03 - 00:15:05</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">It's just completely distorts sexuality for you and your partner so now a good time to ask askew our listener. How did you first hear about sex or learn about sex? And the last time you masturbated what was the material that you masturbated to just this do questions to keep in mind as we play our first episode with Dr Alexandra Salomon I love repeat guests. Yes yes especially for a season opener. I don't repeat ex-boyfriends but I love Repeat Gazette Awesome. It's worth having a guest on for the second time we've got Dr Alexandra Solomon with us again. We talked about marriage WANNA one last time when she was on our show. And this time we're GONNA be talking about sex so she just released a new book called taking sexy back. A came out February second and and we are about to embark on this journey of how to talk about sex. I think in our culture we show sex. We fantasize about sex. But we don't actually talk about it and there's a lot of like shame in just from an early age things about sex that you've been taught and I think what I really loved about your book Alexandra. Sandra were obviously dive a lot. More in with you is just. How do we take what we've learned in really make it work for current day? Hi Alexandra how are you so good to be back with both of you. Thank you for joining us. She lives in Chicago originally from Detroit. She's in her mid forties and married aide. So I'm just going to quickly go over. Who she s in case you missed the first episode? We had with her. She's a professor in licensed. Clinical psychologist who has been specializing in sex love of intimate relationships. For over twenty years she just individual and couples therapy teaches a globally recognized undergraduate relationship course and northwestern university called Marriage WanNa on a one and that's exactly how we found her in the first place she's also an author of the book loving bravely and now taking sexy back which came out that second so again. We're here to talk about taking sexy back and how to own your sexuality and Creek the relationships you want so first off. What is besides Justin Timberlake? Thought of taking sexy back which I listened to that song like six times this morning and I was like what. What does that even mean the anthem? Dr Alexander isn't taking your sexy back. What does that mean to you so the idea here that we're what we're doing in this book is is that women are very highly sexualize? We are given a lot of messages as we're growing up about who we should be and how it should be and hand media highly sexualize women but being sexualize very different than being sexual. So book is about Really Supportive Journey from what I call an outside in experience with your sexuality would just sort of like who everyone has told you you should be or you need to the moving towards an inside out like cultivation of A. What the hell? What is my sexuality who is this like sexual south I you know I have? It's been part of. It's part of all of us. It's part of being human as to have this aspect of south But it's not one that we're really encouraged encouraged to define for ourselves or cultivate. Essence that is uniquely ours to understand and then to figure out how to share to own on your own sexuality is such an interesting concept to mean because I've always grown up with the idea that the media owns bisexual in the media dictate paid in what I shall find pleasurable would orgasm is and I never thought about going inwards. Yeah warring what my sexuality is so. was there anything living in particular for you. That inspired you to write this book right. I think it's true like that's a really interesting place for for a woman to start kind of like her exploration of like who am the sexual beating is a really interesting place who owned my sexuality thing sometimes it feels like it belongs to the church more to the family right sort of like you know your family's honour. oftentimes times is sort of seen as a a woman second down sexuality sort of belongs to the family system to be given away like there's all kinds of ways in which it belongs to. Everybody thought you. It's no coincidence. That women oftentimes feel really disconnected from this part of themselves. Because we really haven't had like a whole lot of science to understand and women's sexuality so a lot of the inspiration here was basically the fact that I year after year was having conversations with my students both my college students in my graduate students ends about sex and having woman after woman say to me like I don't really ever think about my pleasure I don't really ever consider like what do I want or need or people the saying coming up to me after lecture and being like I've not heard sex talk about in this way.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:15:05 - 00:20:01</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">The only way I've ever heard sex talk about is like don't do it sinful. It's dangerous Ad It's dirty and this is a new paradigm trying to figure out. How can we talk about sex? That is neither like a taboo at one extreme. Or as you're saying like sort of titillating like sex as something that is selling products or like you know leading to downloads of more and more and more pornography like. It's sort of like extremes of taboo relation think porn gives men unrealistic expectations of like how to please and and women unrealistic expectations of what they should be doing to police. I think that's for sure risk. Yes I saw when I talk about pornography like with my students for example I will encourage people to have experiences of masturbating without pornography. I think there can be like a time and a space for using erotic materials. They can sort of be permission. Giving I think there's really beautiful people who are creating early feminist pornography. Where were you feel like you're accessing something that was created with Karen Integrity where performers were paid while we are story lines are really supportive of the kinds of things that research has shown tone women actually like you know so? It's not that we can like paint all foreign with a one rod rush but yes. I think that is for sure the rest. I've heard uh-huh and I'm sure you guys here are more than I do about just stories where people but imagine there for the first time and they're like trying to kind of recreate a porn scene that foreigners. Pretend it's it's fantasy and I think that I love how we have worn performance. Now who are saying you know. We're kind of becoming like public health. You know specialists in a way and saying like you guys describe this isn't what real life love making. Looks like to do in your own bedroom with. I'm doing onscreen. I am making fantasy storyline entertainment. Entertainment right yeah. What do you guys think about that? Do you think it is shaping how people are actually showing up in the bedroom. I think people show up in the bedroom anymore. I think people come to the bedroom and just expect A. We're going to have sex and that it's GonNa be great and we're going to enjoy it but I don't think people know how to deliver our pleasure and Hal even define what pleasure is for themselves. I have a friend who had her first sexual experience at in her late twenties recently and she said it was exactly how I did not expect sex to go. She said was so opposite of what she had seen porn which she had heard from France what she heard her neighbors doing late at night that she thought she was an anomaly. Yeah I didn't scream at the top of my lungs I didn't orgasm and also I didn't go down on him because I didn't know what I was supposed to do when I was down there so she had a lot of these experiences at a later or even that she had no idea how she was even supposed to show up for her partner. I think that's the problem though is like when you feel like you should be doing. I think it's goes beyond porn. Like I think it just media in general and just what you've learned through talking to friends and Lake hearing their stories and like you feel like you're different. That's when things get problematic and I think for me personally. I thought what was really interesting about your book because you actually put a lot of names to feelings and I think think a lot of times we can't really describe how we view our own sexual selves sling zags. But I can't really explain like what I'm doing how I'm feeling being like it's just a little bit of `Nigma away there's no vocabulary and faster and harder. Yeah about it exactly and like even some stuff in in your book. I thought was super interesting. Like you were talking about like how some people are just like wired to go at any time where other people need to be like more on the mood in sometimes that because a lot of like disconnects in relationships too when you and your partner are different but you don't know how to express it explain that in all right just we. I had this conversation I was a CS earlier this year and same sex tech was huge and why so huge because back in the day sex products were created by men then vibrators essentially created by men. That just gives you this vibrating. Feeling that consistent that is that you off somehow because because men do not understand how the clip works in fact women do not understand how the Clinton I just learn how it works and how. It's not just a knob that you just keep impressing. It's not one of those. It's a a wishbone shaped a around the KNOB that that is the clip. That's your entire clique. I did not. It was mind mind-blowing challenges a even seeing images like seeing that. I still don't really know how it works. But em- porn is just constant then pressure on that.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:20:01 - 00:25:12</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">Nah and that's supposed to get you off. Honestly that doesn't get me off. It just makes me on a p the part with this. We've talked about it because I recommend to you the magic wand way do you know what the magic wand and I guess I do tap Tommy experienced like node vibrator of all times shoe congas. Okay so what am I. Friends recommended it to be and I was like I used it and I loved it in definitely got off and then I recommended to you a and she's like it did nothing to me. I'm just like a back scratcher. Oh no I actually I use it for a win. It's intended to do for my kids that I bring this up is because everyone's body is just different in like certain things react different ways to them in. I think sometimes like in porn or just again and media doesn't have to be just porn if you don't do something or you don't like something something. There's something wrong something wrong with you. Yeah and for all the people. I'm not to sing men 'cause some women don't know this either Google the magic wand this is Google has been godmother vibe radius. For this time it was like what every woman has and came. Seem to me as almost guarantee. You're going to get off if you get the magic wand and it's aptly named a magic wand it did nothing for me and it made me feel like there was something along with me also I was like. Am I supposed to stick Emmy Company. I John Orman so I think that's a good segue because 'cause I think beyond just that there's a lot of stories that we've been told like for example. Men Always WanNa have sex like anytime any day. They're ready to go. And I know like a lot of times. Sometimes we have our producer shaking his head right now. No but then also I know I've been with ex-boyfriends and such they're like I'm not in the mood in the new GATT insulted because you have the stereotype in your mind like how do we kind of detail ourselves from some of these stories absolutely. Well what you I mean. What we're talking about is first step is feeling like you have permission to expand the story like this idea like the magic wand got me off but not you off or the magic wand got me off on Tuesday today but not Thursday just trading that treating any of that as like a data point to be curious about rather than an entire ear narrative that now dictates the entirety of my sexuality you know and so with partner? It's like you're not in the mood but you're a man and you're supposed to be in the mood and if you're a man and you're not in the mood it must be either. You are broken or I am broke. Who's broken and that's where it goes versus hearing your partners not in the mood and being curious about it because of what's going on in what does that stir up in me like that's the self awareness part is what happens to me when you aren't in the mood and it becomes then it makes so much sense it becomes a story about my worth because I'm a woman which means Ivan tool that my value is in how I I look in a man's eyes how desirous I make a man and of I'm not quote Unquote Making with man desirous? Who Am I? What's my work with my values? So it's like that. Little little micro interaction of a male partner. Not In the mood like is an entire reflection of like the patriarchy in that moment. And that's what I just kept playing. I'm back again and again and the book is how much these really narrow stories about. Men are women are really limit us and that's and that's it for our LGBTQ Dt Q.. Plus friends and people in our world as well it's like these stories that just narrow down our sexual selves which are in in fact I- sexual selves are like really dynamic unfolding changelings. Whatever you think you have figured out to refigure it out you know in this new relationship up or now that you're in your thirties your forties era seventies? Whatever so it's like it's that's that's that it's everything's bigger than the stupid little thin narrow stories stories that our culture tells us and on the flip side of that as men feel shame and they're they're inapt when they are not in the mood mood and they can't have sex the drop time because it's like oh I'm a man I'm supposed to WANNA have sex every second every day? That makes me a less of a man and I don't yeah I mean I think in general. There was a definitely an overarching theme of the book of just shame in sacks like why do you think there's so MacShane in our culture when it comes to sex. Let's take a pause for mental health and our partner better health. Mental health is so important. Because it's what affects our daily lives especially when it comes dating now with Valentine's Day right around the corner it's a holiday that conjures up all sorts of emotions for people me included now with better help. It is much easier to find online counseling and find an outlet to discuss your journey and check in with yourself better helps counselors specialize in depression relationships trauma trauma and many other areas.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:25:12 - 00:30:04</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">Everything stays confidential between you and your counselor with thousands of licensed therapist. You're sure to find one who was the best fit for you for dateable listeners. Only get ten percent off your first month with Discount Code dateable simply go to better help dot com slash dateable. Fill out a questionnaire to help assess is your needs and get match with a counselor again. That's better health dot com slash dateable and use the Code Dat AB L. E. for ten percent off your first mud mud now back to the show like why do you think there's so much. Shame in our culture when it comes to sex and it really is our culture because when we look At I mean lots of parts of the world have to but there are like I love looking at what's happening like in the Netherlands for example where sex education. You know it's part of every here and start talking to parents and teachers talking to kids about Adis and touch and it's just woven into the conversation and my favorite story is. There's a museum like sort of Science Museum where there's a whole area like the signs of sex and it's designed for you know older kids like young preteens and teens where you go in. And there's puppets and you can make the puppets French kiss. There's this huge jar looks like seaman here into it. There's different it's sort of like thank you know we don't have that in the US. We would never see a large jar of semen in a museum. But when you when we don't I mean and when you look at the data like the the teen pregnancy rate in the Netherlands is a little itty bitty fraction of what it is here in the US. The S. T. arrate in Netherlands is a fraction of what it is here so it just me shows that when we take very puritanical shame loaded attitude attitude about sex it just creates conditions for abuse. It creates the conditions for like. You know just all the nasty stuff we're trying to avoid happens and when we act like we can't talk about this when we get Pearl Clutch. E as my as my publicist says and that's basically what we talked about on on the last episode but we had you on Where sex education has always been about sex prevention meaningless? It so taboo. To have unprotected sex your the guest he is. You're going to get pregnant but sex education should be about also how to have sex and why we have sex why it should be pleasurable and remember this right to hold about my virgin friend. WHO said I need to just figure out my own vagina right now because nobody ever taught me how to figure it out so before right actually give out my virginity trying to figure out my own shit and it's it's just fantastic to hear this because there are cultures who are are very progressive in the way they see sex and we are seeing the results of that and the benefits so hopefully we can follow Su yen? I think that is why there's so much shame because we're taught right like don't have sex and no one wants ask questions to their parents. They don't WANNA ask questions to their teachers so therefore like they just feel like there's nowhere to go except for the Internet Julie. Do you remember how you found out about sex well. I don't actually remember asking my parents like how I was brought here. They said the stork brought me abroad. Even kidding so they clearly avoided the time clearly so when did you find out about lean. It's tough I don't really remember what mark did but I think I mean sex at. I do remember that pretty vividly and not I just remembered as really bad videos. We had to watch. Yeah in Gaza. The men and the women were separated which is also problematic and I wonder how schools are doing it this day and age. Because there's just a lot less about gender and gender identity entity is much more fluid but I also like why did we have to sit in separate rooms because I think it actually would have been useful to know how the male anatomy work a bit more it would. It would just Greece so much. Compassion like opportunities for a compassion. About you know these poor guys who get Boehner's in the math class don't forget to understand the nature of period like what they are. They're not here are not foreign but when we create what we do like we almost create like contempt across the gender align right about his bodies. We don't understand do things you can't even relate to and it would just create so much more inclusivity for all of everybody who doesn't fit neatly into that the fact that five percent of JT teens have positive representations and health education see LGBT sexuality with positive representations nations in their sex ED is criminally. That is problematic. Yeah I mean I don't remember the first time like out like I do remember though people Like we were just saying like boys getting Boehner's and women like getting cheered going.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:30:05 - 00:35:03</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">I remember like poor girl like got her period on her chair and was like the most more man thing and no one could really explain it of one just laughed and in both cases in terms of sacks. I know for me. I don't I think it was just through like friendly. Hundley camp talking to other people but wait for me. I was definitely like a more of a leap wounded. Really have a ton of sexual experiences in high school because it just wasn't something that I talked about ever with. My family was like very much a topic. That was off limits. What about you I feel like I was probably in fourth or fifth grade and we were on the playground and this was before I found about found out about a regular sex I was taught? What a sixty nine and was Andrew Mansur for me on the playground and said this is what sexes and bats? My first exposure to sack acts. I was like a very precarious position. Okay interesting and then we went into sex ED. I was actually questioning the teacher. Are you sure this is that should have been an early sign that you were going to do this. podcast should be facing the other way at this point they let me show you book. It goes everything about sex in fourth grade. They also English is my second language. How you ask? I didn't even know vocabulary to explain what is being but I just kept raising my hand asking is this is right so I really good segue too because I think even twenty twenty we actually did a live show a couple like obe job in December and I remember one of the last questions we got from a woman was. Is it okay to sleep with a man on the first date or like the first time. Were you so surprised. The price was really surprised. And I did want to like bring it up to you to because I think it's at were talking about like. Why is there still all that stigma in twenty twenty Right right I mean the way that the way we talk about in the book a little bit is that it's It's like this new. It's a a new kind of sexual revolution right. So there is like permission now to have sacked but what I really. The question like is really not one that I want her. To ask anybody else it really would would be. And what were the conditions be. That would help me know that I actually really. I'm excited to put a bed with the person regardless of it's the it's the first day or the fifth date of the twentieth mutate like. That's the question right. She's asking it as an outside in question league's new. Please give me permission bursts more interesting conversation. That's about how. How do I know when I'm really enthusiastic to share to create an experience with somebody else in this way? That's that's the really important interesting question. And and that's revolutionary by revolutionary to be like. What do I want how do I know? And how do I ask because really what I want women to be able to inquire about is how do I know this can be a partner. WHO's really ready to meet me in the space of deep the CO creation and play? And you know taking our time. I'm and following sensation because that's what when the Gal who's trying to figure out her vagina which is trying to figure out is how to follow a sensation right to notice the sensation inside of my body which WanNa pay attention to how to grow them how to invite my partner to help me grow them. And that's that's a very different way of doing it. Then like checking behaviors off less than we did this. We sixty nine that matters less than being able to be like. I really want to have situation where we're each kind of just is playing with what feels good and how to grow that you know yes I think that's like exactly I mean that is kind of what we said in there some clever that's valid validated. But it was around like what is going to work for you like what is going to make you feel good about yourself and your sexuality and I think there is so much of this emphasis of like date one date three and like all that really is arbitrary and I love this idea of like what is comfortable for me. Not what do I think this person is going to think of me because of this well I want to add one thing. which is you know this whole thing about like which date it's on kind of also means we're focusing on that aren't talking about the fact that sometimes first sexual experience variance within with a new partner sock not because they're a quote unquote bad lover? But because we have to like kind of feel our way into each other right we have to. We have to establish rush like a rhythm and a flow and a chemistry dynamic. So I think sometimes that's a that's a challenge in the dating world is that they rule out potential partner because the first sachs ax is lousy on a spectrum right so we shouldn't really lousy sacks. Sometimes it made us be that everyone's feeling a little awkward and you know it takes a while to establish like this base the trust that helps us take risks yet.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:35:03 - 00:40:00</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">I think it's it goes into this idea of sex is not just a one time act. It's it's the opening for communication. It's almost like when you first say hello to someone on the phone and then you continue that conversation you let that conversation evolve and I. I think what we talked about in. This discussion was really alarming. To me about this question was we were not owning our own narratives. I think by her asking this question Why is it okay to sleep with someone on first state? Her narrative was already if I sleep with someone on the state. They won't take seriously. So how do we get that back and say I'm going to change the narrative because I'm going to change the way people have told me about sleeping with someone too fast because that's not what I'm trying to own here. branly is like like a power dynamics. I think that's really the root of what you're saying too is like the way it's being viewed is. I'm giving away something to sharing a mutual ritual beneficial experience. That's going to bring me closer to a partner and make me connect with someone right and the reality is that a man wouldn't ask that question in the same way at around. What is she gonNA think of me if I sleep with her? On the first date. And that means that it means that a man is uncut off from his his his storyline. The storyline he's been told is like you just have to figure out how far you can get right. And that's the idea that you're the pursuer and she's the gatekeeper. So you just kind of go go until you're told not to. It's a ridiculous message to give man cuts them off from being able to ask a question of themselves. Like what do I really want and need a sexual experience and I had a good friend. Friend of mine was talking about like when he was in the sort of hookup world. He was really struggling with like a reptile function. Like he did not. It was really hard for him to get and maintain an erection in in these kind of random hookups and he felt a lot of shame about that and he said I had this moment where I realized that my penis and my heart are connected. Aw what the Hell is wrong with our culture like to be twenty seven year old man. WHO's you know before you realize that your peanuts in your heart are connected like we aren't giving voice voice the message that they deserve to really go slowly and take their time and figure out what they want and need and what makes them feel good because we're bombarded them with they get bombarded with this message that their value as a man is about how far they can get with a woman? It's just it's just disgusting awful you know I- over a in years eve. I sat with a group man. We just ended up hanging out and talking about sex and came up as the only girl in group and the question was what do you think when a girl sleep with you on the first date and all the guys across the board said I would like it. I would assume she did this with all the other men. I would think that she was easy and I think that she didn't take us seriously. So we went in a little bit deeper and we carried on the conversation. A little bit longer are saying 'cause I asked him. What is you sleeping with a girl? I'm for state saying about you. And at the end the result of this conversation was many of them actually felt that if a girl sleeps with me on the first date it would mean I would have to perform at a level that would compete with all the other men men. She's been well so became more about them than her interest learn. I don't want to be the loser in the situation so I rather remove myself solve interesting. That facet they all the fact that they put that into voice in a space with each other and with you is huge huge. Because you're right. It's so easy to deflect it onto her and what's wrong with her and you in by them to peel back a layer and look at what is it like for you to enter that space with somebody right off the bat and what you found is there's a shit ton of vulnerability there. Yeah and and for men and and we need to move the world where men can talk about that with each other than that like that just is so detoxifying. The gives me chills. What a beautiful? What a beautiful opportunity? They had to be safe out loud that they had not said before or put together. That's huge yeah. And so I ended up sending them invoice for two hundred fifty dollars. I was like your lockup but I wasn't expecting the camera this good stuff this is what. How can we change the conversation? What are some tools we can use now that we can start today? Well one thing I think about a lot is just like parents parents with kids right because at some point we have to just break the cycle in because parents do to their kids. What was done to them around talking about sex and the very like binary a do? This don't do those kinds of terms. That's a huge thing I think is just like you know breaking the big chain around like the generation to generation. But what can we do.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:40:00 - 00:45:01</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">I think a really important thing for women to do is women haven't explored masturbation that don't feel comfortable optimal their bodies like like that whole work on my entire relationship to pleasure do I have. I give myself permission to have pleasure I I. What kind of touch do I like? How do I explore like relate to sort of like physical delight and touch and that oftentimes has to be she has oftentimes especially if she's straight she has to do some of that work just in a room by herself because as soon as she is in a space of the male partner all of the stuff about you know whatever performance even even if he is a partner who has deeply invested in her feeling good? There was a weird way that that can end up feeling like pressure right because now she needs to feel good in order to make him feel good the made her feel. God ends up being double loop so I think a lot of this work has to be just a woman in a room by herself with a candle from soft music resonate with herself. So we've talked a lot about like the shame end of all of this but what what about just like now that you understand your sexual self in your partner and you have totally different sexual Needs and desires like for example. Let's say like one per one person is really indicate in the others more vanilla like is that relationship doomed. Can they work together right. I mean I think he'll probably depend on like how far far on the extremes they each are. I think there is a way that when we when we commit to especially when we committing to something. That's sexually monogamous. If this is not a sexually monogamous situation and then maybe they agree that there are limits to my curiosity and willingness around king and so those are the parts of your south that you take elsewhere but for a couple it really wants to be sexually monogamous. There's this like both and of the vanilla partner. Findings would have their growing edges and how they can expand in ways that feel good to them and feel like they're in the service of their relationship and then they're on the on the king partner side there probably is a you know a bit of grief. I think whenever we whenever we choose whatever we choose in our life inevitably involves a letting go or a grieving so the partner who you know who enjoys kink think but really wants to be with this person. WHO's a bit more vanilla? I think there probably is some grieving and letting go of the life. They aren't too because they didn't choose somebody WHO's as deeply indicate as as they are and I think that's there's an inevitable inevitability around grief and letting go it's different than resentment you know this surrender versus the resentment about it. Like I can't have this part will focus on what we can't have than. We're not going to be cultivating what we actually can have. And the more. We're willing to cultivate like what we can have at our partners available for than that may lead to more expansion and it will help us sort of feel grateful rather than deprived. What about like wooden one partner is like always in the mood in the other feels like they're like initiating Returned yes that is one of the most common sexual. The problems is that desire difference makes total sense because the chances that two people are going to be in the mood at the same amount at the same time the same frequency as like impossible. It's impossible aw so I think there's an inevitability sexually monogamous relationship long-term one it's inevitable that couples are gonna hit that bump in the road around desire difference. What happens happens is that it becomes a huge problem because we get locked into you blame and shame so the higher desire partner either feels ashamed of their the desire or they feel blaming the other person never wanted and why do I always have to be the one? So there's like that sort of blame and shame possible on the higher desire partner side of the street and then a lower desire partner side of the street. They also feel shame. What's wrong with me? Why don't I want it more? Where they can feel blamed like this is ridiculous? Your so demanding. It's like one more thing on my to do you list and so when we get into that like narrative of like it's either my fault or your fault than the problem itself. Actually rose like the distance between them ends up growing versus looking at it like what you know standing shoulder to shoulder like what are we as a couple going to do like looking together. The problem is we'd like different frequencies like what are we as a couple. How are we going to relate to this challenge of desire different? That's an entirely different position analogy that it opens up new possibilities for how you navigate that we can't even get to that place of a collaborative approach like What are we gonna how? How are we going to navigate this because what I want and what you are not the same thing? We can't even get there if we're stock as as often as the case with sacs if we're stuck in shame or were stuck in judgment judgment I have a very specific question about this logistically. Win is the best time to talk about sex with your partner in a way. That's trying to improve improve your sex life.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:45:01 - 00:50:00</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">Let's take a break now for a wonderful partner generation Tux. All you guys out there. Have you ever found yourself needing a Tux but didn't want to spend the time and effort. Finding the right fit. Listen we've talked enough rooms to know there's so much to do right before a wedding and your Tux is the last thing you want to worry about now with generation Tux. You No no longer have to think too much about your Tux. For the big day you simply create your look alike including your grooms party and everything arrived at your doorstep fourteen days before the big day you the even earn a free suit or Tuxedo rental with five paid members or better yet keeping your suit or talks when seven members checkout generation. tux offers a free home. 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Yeah I know I spent some time in the book talking about talking about sex. You know because that because that very thing I think couples to figure out what works for them. Sometimes we come up with all these excuses about one. It's not the right time because we're anxious you know like yeah so if that's what's happening the thing to really address the anxiety and so what can we do to have this. This conversation in a bit of a less intense waiver like versus like we're like staring at each other and so it may be it's done via email My friend astaire parral has this suggestion uses with couples where couples is open a separate email account that is just for conversations. Dixie you know pragmatics and so then it's like it's basically like love letters back and forth and that way each person can really like saver with the person with that their partner is saying and may have some time to like feel a bit less defensive sometimes in conversation we can get really defensive really quickly and here are partners as more critical than they actually are so letter writing or email exchanging can slow things down so I like that intervention a lot. We had a couple that that came on our show did sex journaling. So it's kind of a similar concept it's like let me express how I'm feeling. Let's share it in like an open space together. Lavina and Caleb Yes I know I love. I love their. I'm looking at it right now. It's right here my office. I love their sex journal and it is is on great similarly a neutral space that we both can go to I. This is one of the big big reasons. I'm not a formally trained in sex therapist but I am a couple therapists. Who realizes how much I need to be making space in my therapy office to support conversations about sex and there's been this weird split within the world of relationship therapy where there are sex therapist over there and they have their own conferences and do their own thing on the couple therapists are over here? We have our own conferences and we are on thing and there's kind of the split so it is. It is very likely that a couple will come into a couple's therapist office in the couple's therapist isn't we asked them directly about sacks and so then it's like even in a couple of therapies office. It feels like this topic is taboo and so I was really motivated led to just kind of like invite a bit more curiosity in collaboration. From the couple's therapist part of the world to just be proactive about making space their therapy offices to talk about sex. Even if they aren't formally trained a sex therapist there are still lots of conversations can be had if there are you know significant sexual problems and certainly they need to be referred out but there's a lot the couple's therapist can actually do to shell and model that. This is something that can be talked about so another thing for couples to do is talk about it in therapy and I think part of the problem couples therapy is people are like. Oh my God. Something's wrong with us. If we're in couples therapy but in fact it just shows that your relationship mean and so much to you that you are investing time each week to have important conversations in the supported way so I like that idea too so fascinating readings. I think it's so interesting that they're so decoupled in a comes down to again how sex is viewed as shameful. 'em Like how you it's not always something you WanNa. I WANNA talk about.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:50:00 - 00:55:23</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">Look I even know I had a friend recently. Not that I am a sex therapist or Turkish. You're not a friend like assery about or just like come to to be around advice with relationship. She was in in. It took me probably like halfway through our conversation to even bring up like how. How is your sex life? And I don't know why that one like in the media questions. I think a lot of times. Sex is a barometer of the whole relationship but it took me. I just couldn't couldn't bring myself to ask it for whatever reason because we have sachs as being behind closed doors. Whatever you do behind closed doors is none of my business but is it productive to have the culture where we openly talk about sex even when we meet up for Brunch is like hey generally house Friday night? How's your sex life like it's been trying to get to yet? That's a great question like what is the culture. What's good for look like right? I know it's funny because in some ways we're talking about sex muchly part of what it is to live in. The era of me too is that we are really looking at all of the incredibly. The problem matic dangerous power driven horrible things that happen around sex and so I wonder about in some about balancing it out with a willingness to talk about about actually people's just what's really delightful. People sex lives like I love that idea opening up right. Maybe not just like you know a ton space for like nitty gritty details about about how you perform oral sex on your partner but just to kind of like name. Mata's part of life is actually going well or part of life that is you know fun. Like there's there's something about like how much this the METOO era is. Vitally vitally important right. It is like so time to unpack and like pull back the curtain on all of us that has happened. And I think there's like there's more than just healing we have to heal trauma uh-huh but part of how we heal trauma is by saying that. Actually we deserve pleasure and we deserve to live as sex is an integrated part of who we are part of why I like the idea of like a bit more brunch conversation because then it's like a reminder like Oh yeah sex is more than just incredibly fraught problematic Rom Raum. Yes that's interesting 'cause metoo it's definitely a chance to go there now. I feel like when we first came out it was about like sex abusers or senses the victim and it was kind of actually playing into the shame model even more in a way and I think it will be interesting to see if now post be too we. We can get to a place where it's just openly discussed as pleasurable. Just saying right now. What about this mentality of constant instant comparisons math gas on the show? Who would say I haven't had the number of partners? Yes as that I should be having at sage or couples who say This our neighbors. They say they have sex five days a week and we only have sex one day a month. Are we doing something wrong. How do we get around this whole keeping up the Joneses? It is so funny when you even look at the history of sex research in our field when researchers ask about sex what they oftentimes will say like how often you have sex. And so it's like there's ways that like the field of sex research has reinforced this idea. That quantity equals qu'ils quality or the quantity is the main thing and I think that's when ever like it's just numbers are really easy place for us to put our obsessive excessiveness numbers scale or numbers of you know episode downloads or book sold or whatever like we can just numbers. I do end up hooking us in a bit INS. I think the most important thing is noticing. How right there's a number I have had ex partners? They have of sex x number of times a week. Like noticing how we will take that number and attach an entire story that has to be with worth and value to that number UH versus just dropping the story and having an just noticing it as a piece of data and figuring out. What's more interesting question to ask so so with the you know the neighbor down the street or having sex five times a week a more interesting question is what are you seeking in? Sac- What do you find they are. What does the New Year relationship? And then those same questions for oneself. Why what what am I looking for when I want sex with my partner? What am I craving? What am I seeking to express those so much more interesting questions than how many times now? It's x five times a week and it does nothing. V relationship. Shy performing duty the weakness that one time a week in Italy. Restorative you know and connects you and and you get bask in that glow for the rest of the week calling me over quantity Quanta exactly so I guess too before we go into takeaways like what are a couple of words of wisdom that you would give to anyone who's better China understand their sexual self off in like kind of create this sex life in always wanted Words of wisdom would be I guess the most important the thing is to just with an any couple.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:55:23 - 01:00:01</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">There are three sexualities. There's my sexuality your sexuality and there's our sexuality Being able to remember that because because of the risk of saying like somehow I'm broken or something's wrong with me like the whole is on that Direction or to go in the direction of like. Something's wrong with my partner. My partner isn't a partner as too much in so always come back. League noticed when we start to do that and then come back to that idea of like. There's my sexuality there's your sexuality and then there's our sexuality just remembering always to like thicken up the story because when it gets when the story becomes too thin that's when the silence Edson because if I get convinced something's wrong with me and they're sure shit no way okay. I'm going to bring up a problem having or a concern. I have because I'm just either going to be really scared that you're also GonNa start blaming me or I can't can't even imagine bringing it up because I'm ashamed of myself and you know that's what shame does is it silences us. It makes us think that we're the only one that feels the same. I love that I love like I mean we've talked about this relationships before it's not me versus you. It's off right so it's similar but it's just putting Sachs which is something that's even harder sometimes talk about a young boy. So what are some of your takeaways go into takeaway line. Yeah we'll start with you. I was just thinking about how if you think about it. SEX WCHS as a form of self care. Anna's colleague doing your monthly massage appointment. Why wouldn't you do your daily massage appointment end with your private parts right because access to do that? So it's Kinda like booking a a massage for one or massage for two or however many but it we see it as a way of self care then were able to go into it with more empathy. Nevada I'm just trying to find pleasure to restore myself to find balance and I want to also create that for whoever's involved in this experience as well so let's find pleasure together and I love this. Idea of quantity is never a way to measure. Are you getting pleasure. Sure yeah so I think a concentration of how do I feel after this and my feeling good about myself and my m my caring for myself and my caring for my heart ner that's a better measure of whether you're you're getting that pleasure that you've been seeking so I really love. I'm I'm just GONNA book this daily Massage appointment want. That's for massage outer part. Thus far my book daily massage employment and sometimes someone could join sometimes they may not want to piggyback on one. One thing about that. I think it's so when when I think about especially women in the dating world I saw you guys know Mama Gena is just I love. I think it was a newsletter thing. She wrote about how she'd Masturbate Asher Bates before she goes on a first date because she wants to feel really grounded really nourished really full within herself when she shows up on a first date rather than feeling like she needs. She needs this person to scratch this issue inside of her or she is yearning for something the somebody else has to give to her for her. It like anchors her back within herself that then right she has her own source of pleasure and then she may invite somebody else into that space with her but she comes into it then from a place of wholeness instead of lack and I love that what you're literally goes along with what you're saying. I love that too because I feel like we've been taught sexuality is to people and it if you don't have a partner sometimes really I can't continue to explore for my sexuality and you feel deprived rate in. That's when you like end up having like the friends with benefits are like someone hooking up with just someone that you're not really into an attracted to in it's more of this place of desperation which is what we're talking about and I love this like takeaway of kind of it's evolving your sexuality quality is evolving. And it's not something that you learned in sex ED. It's not something that you had. As your first experiencing college that might not have gone so alike it continues to go and you continue to see what works for you. What works for your partner learn and evolve just like a continuous cycle? It's not a one time time. This is what I know this.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">01:00:01 - 01:05:04</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">What ends and stay curious in that? Yeah holiday curiosity do they feel this way. Why do I like this and keep on exploring exploring because I realized that the human body there is so much more we haven't uncover right and I think sometimes too that goes into like sex? Acts like that arched. It's kind of the standard. Like if someone does bring something up to you. That might be different than you've ever experienced. Then it's that staying open mend. Maybe if I mean I mean obviously don't try something that's so against your morals and not something that you WanNa do but if it's something that you're just like I don't know if I'd like maybe there is a benefit of trying. Get seeing how you feel Zine what it does to your sexy and if it's good keep going and if it's not then you know part of what happens in a couple system as it feels so much like the only way I can experience. My sexuality is through sex with you and so then does make designed sex is a duty. Because because you're only going to meet that need if I show up in now now it adds a bit of Wrath in space. If I don't feel solely responsible for creating the conditions for you to experience your sexuality Audie so couples where they were there is just some space for that as well can take this. Heavy responsibility of like my partner wants sax on the only person who has sex with I have to show up it has to be me than does creates the conditions for duty and that duty definitely is pretty antithetical to desire. That's so interesting so I feel like that's worth things going like. singular pleasure riper than also like Pollyanna marine other configurations. Because I'm thinking of like I don't know why this one sticks out but sex in the city when like Charlotte and trae weren't having sacks g caught him masturbating and it was like the ultimate betrayal right and I think there's something about masturbating masturbating in historically. That's made you feel like you're not up to speed and if they're masturbating than you're doing something wrong but I think what I'm getting from this conversation sation. It's not a comparison. It's like apples to oranges like just because you're masturbating doesn't mean that you don't have sex life that you love is just complementary it. Does it need to be an end or so next time someone asks you. How's your sex life you can say? Oh I'm really good in bed with myself because I think looking historically stoically you would think like I'm only going to say if I have a partner right if I don't a partner my sex life is bad which is not true. Could be having sex. Life could be in a band sex life. I don't know if you heard about this Alexandra. But in San Francisco a couple months ago the police broke up an epoch. Sex Party the presidio with over one hundred people. They found fifty gallons of semen and donkeys llamas and emus running around and arrested like eighty ready. My Gosh Wow really exploring their sexuality for them. Some of his. We'll legal another. Take away from this. Conversation is like don't take everything so personally like I love this whole thing that we were talking about earlier like you're you have Saxon. Your partner doesn't in historically be like other something wrong with me not attracted to me but it really has nothing to do with you. It's about them in their sexuality in then like I loved what you said about. How do you just make it my sexuality your sexuality and our sexual rally? Yes and own at that way Alexandra. Any other last words of wisdom. I mean we've we've talked a lot about about shame and the story we attach and so then like the antidote is self compassion right like just being really self compassionate unsafe for women but I think it's for men as well because it's just I think maybe worries are different but I think we're all really hard on our bodies as you know is very critical of my breasts are to this. My Penis is to this. My hip search. They very critical of how our bodies look and southbound around and you know all of this narrative that operates in the background that is. I'm not enough or I'm wrong. That compromises pleasure so the woman who wrote the forward to taking sexy back is researcher in Canada named Dr Lori Bronco and her recent book is called sex. Mindfulness and she basically took the finding that has stood up in a variety of studies. That about half of women struggle with low sexual desire. So it's like kind of You know in terms of like normal being defined as incredibly common. It's become sort of normal for women to struggle with low sexual desire especially women who are in long term partnered relationships and she was like all right. This is not okay. What's going on here? And what she found. Was that when you teach women. Mindfulness skills like basically dropping the self critical story about my thighs and just returning to the moment.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">01:05:04 - 01:09:49</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">It changes their sex lives like massively and and women unexperienced more desire more arouse more lubrication more orgasm an more connection with their partners. But I think sometimes we don't even know how not mindful we are because we're just so used to being self critical than it just feels like we don't even know. That tape is playing inside of our heads. When we're making love it just feels like this is how I always am? Grew up as a woman so of course I'm beating the crap out of my body like it's just what I do all the time but I want women to really know that that a space nice to meet ourselves with jeep deep deep compassion that Like criticism blocks our ability to even feel good right to feel pleasure to feel L. deserving in so noticing how the stories are coming up is a first step towards like no. I'm not going there and I'm GonNa Return just dropped the story and return my attention to this moment almond love that I love that because it's so dead on for so many of us I think most women and men everyone can relate to having those critical moments in their own mind. They're really getting away from having the sex life that they deserve in addition to showing up for your partner show up for or yourself too. Yeah I love that I mean. I think this conversation's been so great. So thanks again for having. I think what's interesting to me too is. It's applicable all for people that are single applicable for people that have been in relationships for years. Everyone kind of deals with these ongoing evolution of sexuality. It's not just oh you're in a relationship. Your sex life is great. Oh you're single your sex life is bad like it's just it's not black and white. I mean one of the things that was so amazing about writing the book was I had this amazing team of graduate students and undergraduate students and we were really diverse. Like very different ages very different relationship state has different cultural backgrounds and cultural trainings. Things all away from you know very liberal. People to people who had been raised in strict Catholic family was really fascinating team and so the conversations we would have was amazing. How often Louis Comeback? I'm back to these same themes that transcended age relationship. Staden culture was really enlightening. Hope anybody who picks it up fines some source source of comfort relief support and courage. You know in that. And that's exactly why everyone should pick up uh-huh. I'm suing on Amazon. You can get it. Where else can you get the book? Yeah I mean wherever books are sold your India Bookstore Barnes and Noble Amazon on definitely. It is Paperback and kindle in it will pretty soon be available as an audio book as well. Nice Will Lincoln in our show. No just of course I anyone interested and Dr Alexandra Solomon we need to come to one of your classes. We've been saying this world wile e will show up and one of these certain taking notes rigorously our love to have you. They're gonNA happen. We they are soulmates. Love nerds all of us are love burt. Thank you so much for coming back on our show. We didn't scare you the first first time. Let's get to know you for bringing this very basic Justin timberlake song to a whole new level. That's much deeper her and meaningful for all of us and it's better for the next generation that next time you hear this song. They're like yes taking that that's right watch out world from being on our show and We are GONNA show up one of these days. We are literally physically showing the class. All right we're going to wrap this up a Jada Ball but dateable podcast is part of the FROLIC podcast network. Find more podcasts. You'll love at frolic dot media slash podcast. Want to continue the conversation. I follow us on Instagram facebook and twitter with the handle at dateable. PODCAST TAG US in any post with a Hashtag stay dateable and trust us. We look at all those then head over to our website. dateable PODCAST DOT COM there. You'll find all the episodes as well. As articles videos and our coaching service with vetted industry experts you can also find our premium y series where we dissect sect analyzed and offer solutions to some of the most common dating conundrums rose downloadable. For free on spotify apple podcast Google play overcast stitcher stitcher radio and other podcasts platforms. Your feedback is valuable to us. So don't forget to leave us a review and most importantly remember to stay dateable.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div> Hey everyone welcome to another episode of dateable a show all about modern dating so last year Julian I had a chance to visit New York and as part of our trip which was pretty epic. Yes super epic. We did a so much like three days if we're there for a week and it was what it was three days to have days but we got a chance to meet up with a friend of mine that I hadn't senior years. Tommy Danger Kim. Who has his own. Podcast called the Tommy Danger Experiment. And that's his actual middle name. Love it like I didn't realize that when we recorded and then when he told me that after like you guys will hear the episode but it was amazing but I think knowing his actual middle name is danger. Just bring into a home their level but after you met him you probably thought how fitting right absolutely. I think it's like you. I was just like hey my friend wants out the podcast and I think because we were in New York. We're like let's take advantage of as many opportunities we can. We met with a bunch of people podcast companies and we wanted to be on. Someone's podcast in New York. Yeah so we jumped at the opportunity and I had no idea. I think we're a little hug over. We shut up a little orange alert extremely hung over and where we recorded at his co working space was super sunny and I remember one versa. We got coffee because we were like pretty because we rage like we were hammers. Were out again. It was three days but felt like everything was jammed. Pack the live show. That's why we went at the wing so then we went out for drinks with everyone. They're in an I remember the next night we were like okay. Let's go to bed. Not let's go out because we're in New York. Yeah but let's not stay out super late and we didn't really work out three. I don't remember I remember really met up with your president ended up like a raging gay club member. Yeah and that's when I totally lost all sense of time and your friend I've ever remember. He picked me up on the streets. We are skipping handed. Had best by the I like totally took you as friends into underwriting Robin trait the most beautiful men in my life. They were amazing. But I have to say we were not prepared to be on Thomas. Show but we were like okay. Let's show up. Get some caffeine in us. We're GONNA be good but we ended up staying for two hours. We recorded a two hour episode with time for his for his podcast. In after we were done we both were like that was one of the best conversations. His like whole mindset with the podcast is no editing. Free-form compensation let it go however long it goes. It's actually kind of amazing just the fact that we were able to talk for two hours. I think we all Consciously I to get on a train till the suburbs of New York and you meet a friend really. We have to stop talking. We would have been there for another four. Yes possibly talking about everything and in the beginning we like. Everybody always asks about sex parties because it seems to be volatile. No people ask Julie. Pretty sure he did it ask. That's intriguing into every conversation is sex parties because it's a great icebreaker. It's also like Hey Tommy on the scene you in ten years. Let's talk about sex parties and he was down for you know talking about. He's very intrigued. By the end of the two hours we got really deep made a breakthrough. We we laugh about it now but it was such a powerful moment because I talked to Tommy in so long. I had no idea that he was. I mean divorce for a few years. But if felt like a fresh wound and the break-up was very traumatizing for him. Yeah I remember when we over. You're like I'm not really sure. What his status. These days I think the last time I saw on facebook he might have just been recently divorced. You were just unsure of Weirdos was at all in his life and it's kind of like we brought this up in episode two. It's like this is the power of going deeper because if we had laughed after say an hour we would have had a great congress parties. Yeah it would have been very fun and surface level but by the end it felt like we were like we knew each other like we knew him. Yeah Oh yes. We knew him on a whole new level and I have a whole new level of appreciation for him to even though we are we. Don't keep in touch all the time even usually you man for the first time that day but you felt like you had this connection that is exactly what we strive for at least eight. Yeah now we're homeys. Now we get it. He's got you got you homemade. We get that all the time for him which is amazing. We all change our middle name danger. So here's just a snippet of the episode because again it's two full hours. If you want to hear it you can go on his podcast. Itami danger experiment podcast. So just a little background. Who Tommy is yet? He's in his late thirties. He's been in New York for ten years originally from L. A. Yeah so he did the West Coast to east coast thing. He is currently single and he's very shit out yet. He of healing from that divorce. But I think I think we had a breakthrough with him. I think everybody wants to hear about this break there. And they're going to introduce you to Tommy Danger Siquijor personal and
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"two months" Discussed on MSNBC Rachel Maddow (audio)
"Criterion. And qualifications from serving are you when the justices ultimately do here, the merits of this merits of this case, are you pessimistic about how they're going to rule. I mean, this is a five four conservative ruling today. That's true. But it doesn't it did not speak to the merits at all. And it really only put in place even temporarily the permission for the government to put the ban into place. I will say that. I'm. Optimistic because I don't think that there's any basis for the government to demonstrate that they're that that there's a reason why transgender people who meet military criterion can't serve and we're actually optimistic because in rejecting hearing the case now, it allows us to go back down to the district court and put on the evidence that we we think we'll absolutely refute. The government's statements that transgender people can't serve in the military. So you think when you get your shot at the marriage you're gonna win. Absolutely. And we also think that you know, the fact that transgender people have been putting themselves their lives on the line every day and service of their country is going to help to prove our case. Jennifer Levi director of the transgender rights project. Glad it's really good to have you here. Thank you so much. Thank you. All right. We'll be right back. Stay with us. Two updates for you before we wrap up tonight last night show. We opened the show with a long story about a Beller Russian model woman named anesthesia Vashem Keva who has been caught up in the saga about the Russian government interfering in US elections, and she's been caught up in what appears to be a very dangerous situation for her in which she says that she has evidence she has video and photo and audio recordings which implicate to a certain extent a specific Russian oligarch named Oleg there Pasqua involved in the Russian meddling last night. We focused on the fact that she was arrested by Russian authorities while transiting through Moscow airport last week and over the weekend. She appeared in court as you see in this video sort of scarily apologizing over and over again to that oligarch Oleg der Pasqua and saying there would be no more recordings, and she had no more proof. And she had nothing else. You wanted to say about it? The update for you on that story. Tha. Night is that anesthesia Vashkevich was released from custody in Russia today, but we know very little about that by this time tomorrow, we expect to know more her lawyer says that there will be a press conference tomorrow in which they will explain what they believe has happened in our case we will have that update for you tomorrow tomorrow night. We will also have Senator Kamala Harris of California here for her. First live TV interview since announcing that she is running for president. Tomorrow's big night. Stay.
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"Evac scenes ready response from all levels of government to contain the spread. Levels of governments. That was November. First two thousand five President George W Bush at a difficult time in his presidency. Two thousand five did not go great. And he's they're announcing a new national effort to prepare for the uncoming pandemic of bird flu that's going to kill one hundred and fifty million people. And that was fourteen years ago. And nobody much remembers that now about that part of the George W Bush administration. But it turns out even things like that that do not loom large in history. They sometimes come around again in ways that could be helpful for our current round of presidential problems. We are now in the second month of the federal government shutdown over President Trump's demand that we build a wall between the United States and Mexico. We have never had a government shutdown this long. So there is no existing game plan for how to try to keep the essential functions of government rolling while no money can be expended and the people who actually affects you it. Those elements of the government are not being paid in the federal courthouse system in New York state. So not New York state courts but federal courts in New York, the administrator of the federal courts in the southern district of New York has just told the New York Times and WNYC that among the strategies they're employing in his federal courthouse to try to keep administering the Justice system while nobody in it is being paid among the things they are. Now starting to do is that they have dusted off the old bird-flu plan from the George W Bush administration. Bush gave that uncomfortable speech at the H November two thousand five it did in fact, set in motion planning across various agencies and elements of the government to be ready to have contingency plans in place in the event that there was a worldwide and nationwide bird flu pandemic that was going to bring the United States, and maybe even the whole world to its knees. A little bit over a year after the Bush administration presented that planner ordered that plan after Bush gave that speech, the Justice department and its bureau of Justice Assistance. In fact, rolled out this nuts and bolts plan, they called it an emergency roadmap for the courts for continuing operations in the event of a worldwide bird flu pandemic, quote, while it may be difficult for court managers to envision the impact of pandemic on court operations and to plan for such a scenario it is imperative that such planning take place before such an event occurs. Is to wait and see if such a pandemic will actually occurs to risk the future operation of the court at a time when it would be most needed should append occur. The operation of the courts like all government agencies will be will be seriously affected. It's estimated that some forty percent of the workforce will be unable or unwilling to report to work such reduction of available human resources could be catastrophic to the continuation of court surfaces courts will need to develop mechanisms to ensure the continuity of vital court operations in a manner that doesn't jeopardize the health and safety of the judicial workforce or members of the public appearing before the court. This is what they were contending with. This is what they were trying to plan for forty percent of everyone has the bird flu. How did they imagine in two thousand seven that the federal court system would be able to still stay open? If for no other reason that they'd have to be ruling all the inevitable draconian Corentin orders and all of the other emergency actions. The government would have to take to deal with a gigantic bird flu pandemic. What do they think they could do? Well, they could fax quote the courts pandemic emergency plan should consider alternative methods of accessing employee's expertise and abilities computers, along with sex machines and other telecommunication should be considered to allow staff members to function off site. Public health officials are the court may deem it necessary to restrict public and even court user access to the court facility to prevent the spread of disease the court should carefully. Consider the nature of such restrictions employing technology such as televised court proceedings may help remedy this issue. So what if you can't let anybody in the courthouse because everybody's got the bird flu?.