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Fresh update on "two month" discussed on ABC News Perspective
"Issues from the pandemic to racial injustice and more. What is the world? In need of right now. The vaccine, okay? What's after that Universal healthcare rent forgiveness, Universal basic income's say something that's possible. Blackish star Anthony Anderson tells me he had a lot of questions before going back to work. How it was going to work. How are we going to be testing? How can we trust testing? How can we trust that people were going to be doing what they're supposed to do? And in the end, he says, it just comes down to trust. He trusted his blackish family and the safety protocols put in place by ABC. We've been in production for over two months now, and everything has gone smoothly on. No one has tested positive. But Jennifer Lewis says that trust it only goes so far. These are people you.
Business is booming for plastic companies as demand for plexiglass surges
"One of the interesting things about the coronavirus pandemic is that it sparked a need for more plastic demand for everything from facials, gloves, takeaway food containers, and even bubble wrap for online shopping has gone up and with that demand is severely set back the effort to recycle this happening is big oil companies are investing hundreds of billions of dollars to create new plastic and companies that have made pledges to use more recyclable materials are even in a tough spot as new plastics are far cheaper than using recycled plastic for more on how the pandemic has accelerated the trend of creating more and not less plastic trash. We'll speak to Joe Brock special correspondent at Reuters. Before the pandemic, we had a plastic crisis and I think that there is an awareness about that. It's killing marine life. It's it's leaking toxins into drinking water in some of the world's poorest countries. Then the pandemic hits and we have this flood of new plastic containers from three takeaway. Bubble wrap because more people ordering in as they were stuck in lockdowns as well as the the lifesaving PPA, the mosques and the gowns and the bodybags, which is understandable but also you have this double whammy. Plastic recyclers are suffering like every other industry under an economic meltdown and they are unable to recycle the plastic and the price of oil from which plastic is made drops dramatically, and that means that new plastic becomes very cheap and we cyclist cannot compete with that new plastic. So you've got this sous Nami new plastic arriving on the scene we site closed. Struggling, and so this dynamic can only lead to more plastic waste. I. Think that's a very important thing that a lot of people don't realize or they forget right away as that plastic really comes from fossil fuels, oils and and petrochemicals, and as you were mentioning, you know to make new plastics these single use plastics. It's so much cheaper now than using recyclables. Companies that have pledged to use more recyclable materials in their packaging and whatnot, but they just can't keep up you know new plastics just cheaper for their business models and all of this can become a driver of climate change. Correct and I think this is something which has been overlooked toll misunderstood during the climate change debate not only plastic made from fossil fuels oil derived products and gas issues. A growing area for struggling oil and gas companies. People are driving more electric cars than moving to cleaner fuel. These oil and gas giants need to use up this oversupply of shale gas. In the US they've got dwindling opportunities to use this one area they put into is making new plastic for the developing world where there's a rising middle class in parts of Asia and Africa. The problem comes that these are the places who are feeling the plastics crisis the worst. So as oil and gas company suspending about four hundred, billion dollars to increase production of plastics to use up cheap oil and gas. These countries have no way of processing dot plastic. So with already a waste crisis, more supply coming online no way to deal with it what do you think's going to happen? And the oil and gas industry are planning to spend about four hundred, billion dollars over the next five years on new plans to make the raw materials or these new plastics virgin plastics as they're called through Reuters surveyed twelve of the largest oil and chemical firms around the world to see what they're doing about this waste. Really they're just spending a fraction of the money that they're making on sales to devote to working on waste. So you've got campaign groups on you know some politicians in some government sank the oil and gas industry we KINDA. Coat. We need to reduce plastic production and what the oil and gas industry saying his. Don't worry we've got this covered we've got a solution we are investing in recycling infrastructure. We are helping poor countries to deal with their waste, and that's where I'll story really came from. We wanted to check that claim on what we found was the pledges made by the oil and gas industry are fraction of best spending on increasing plastic production, and they will have minimal impact on reducing plastic waste. So I think that that's a key point I understand because as the oil and gas companies tell you that they are fixing plastic waste crisis. It's important to interrogate those figures and I think that's what we've thoughtfully achieve with the story. I wanted to talk a little bit more of the effects of the pandemic. As we said in the beginning, you know face masks gowns, the P.. P. That we need to protect ourselves. That's also a big thing that's going to be feeling a lot of the waste you mentioned in your article China US twelve times more face masks than they did in earlier months in the United States, they generated entire years worth of medical wastes in two months at the height of the pandemic. So this is a lot of stuff that we're going to be seeing. The effects are going to be with us for some time. Yeah I think that's right I. think that's where it's worth separating the issue here. I don't think anyone is saying that plastic is not an incredible material with multiple uses and that it helped industrial organizations to make planes lighter may cause lights I think the issue here is single use plastic on the fear is this pandemic will exacerbate that trend of single use plastic. So although people might need mosques a need gowns and these are essentials if companies were to take this opportunity to increase the use of plastic single use plastic, then it's GonNa add to the waste problem and that's something we've seen with oil and gas lobbies who since the pandemic is hit. Written to lawmakers in the US to say that single use plastic is safer than other materials. Now, scientists have found that that's not the case. So you have to question whether the plus the pandemic is being used by certain vested interest companies that they want to capitalize on this to increase their profits. I think when a lot of people think about plastic waste and the huge problem, they definitely think about our oceans plastics make up about eighty percent of the marine debris and we've seen the big problems. We've seen the Great Pacific Garbage Patch you know which is just a bunch of plastic and netting and things like that. So I think a lot of people are really focused on that when they hear about plastic problem, but I mean it's really ranges all over the place. Yeah absolutely, and I think this is a problem which affects everyone. It affects humanity and I think that you see you see it in the oceans and certainly in parts of Southeast Asia, which is considered one of the biggest toy destinations in the world of Pristine Beaches Turquoise Asians you've got these waterways completely clogged with plastic fishing communities devastated where they live to be a risk as you mentioned, each plastics in the Pacific and elsewhere, but it's not just in the ocean it's clogging up rivers. It's affecting communities where they rely on food supplies where plastic waste is. So you know this is an issue that impacts everybody and should be an issue which everyone wants to help fix. We talked a little bit about the efforts from the oil and gas companies to limit plastic waste. But one thing that I did not know I found very interesting that the world's top three plastic polluters for two years running now are Coca Cola Nestle and Pepsi Pepsico. Obviously, they have a lot of plastic packaging. Their bottles are made the bottles that hold the soda in are made from plastic, and they're constantly setting goals to use more recyclable plastic in their products and not meeting those standards and it goes back to what we were saying at the beginning it's just cheaper to use new plastic than it is to use recycled stuff. Coke and Pepsi and Nestle and the other big consumer goods coming committees giving up a a consistent message they wanna fix this problem they want to use more recycled products but when it comes to meeting those targets that consistently Mitch the Knicks over decades and then they set new talk. Now, what they're saying is we don't get the recycled material. Now they cannot get the recycled material at the right price it cheaper to buy new plastics. Now, how you're GONNA get movies like material will you need a very advanced recycling system and that's what we're highlighting in this story the investment in that respect infrastructure is simply not there the oil and gas industries Coke Pepsi, they say they're investing in it, but then investing a fraction of what they're spending on advertising on new production. And this is a competitive industry when you go into the store and you look at the bottle of coke bottle of Pepsi bottle of another brand, the price of the packaging is significant in not product and you don't want your product to be increasing because you're using more recycled plastic. So the proof in the pudding we've seen that they've made these promises before and they've missed them. So I think we need to keep checking and keep saying they're gonNA meet those promises in the feature.
Fresh update on "two month" discussed on Newsradio 950 WWJ 24 Hour News
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Art exhibit in Chadwick Boseman's hometown honors legacy
"Boseman died two months ago from colon cancer. Millions of fans mourned, but maybe none. So deeply is the residence of his hometown of Anderson, South Carolina. Artists there have taken up their brushes to help themselves and others cope with the loss. They've created a new exhibit featuring more than a dozen local artist offering their interpretations of Chadwick. Bozeman's likeness. Among those artists is
Sudan formally recognizes Israel in U.S.-brokered deal
"And Sudan have agreed to normalize relations in a deal brokered with the help of the United States, making Sudan the third Arab country to set aside hostilities with Israel in the past two months. Speaking to reporters at the White House House President President Trump Trump expressed expressed his his optimism optimism about about this this agreement agreement has has great great potential. potential. On On trade trade and and other other things. things. I I mean, mean, they they really really It It could could be be a a very, very, very successful, wonderful country and I think it will be. It's been hampered by what's going on in the world sedan is following a path begun by the United Arab Emirates and Bahrain.
Hungarian Journalists Launch Independent News Site Amid Tightening Government Control
"Hungary's nationalist prime minister. Viktor Orban often does what president trump does. He calls factual reporting fake news or on and his allies now control more than eighty percent of the media outlets in Hungary. Here's Joanna Kakissis. Earlier this month that a small office in Budapest Tush Bobby and huddled with his colleagues around a computer and counted down. There proud funded new site telex was about to go live. The cheered and hugged is their stories hit the web. I couldn't believe we were able to launch daleks at all because just two months before disaster struck our previous workplace. We still feel like bursting into tears when we think about what happened there and how it all ended just a few months ago the staff of Telex, another outlet called index the most widely read news website in Hungary Szabo's dual. Then editor in chief says readers relied on index for definitive news reporting most recently on the pandemic as well as scoops that pro government media ignored Kim similar to. Like win a mayor from the ruling party got caught with a sex tape or when Hungary's ambassador to Peru was accused of paedophilia the government was annoyed. It could not suppress these stories ex prime. Minister Viktor Orban called us. News factory this spring one of the prime minister's allies spot a controlling stake in a company that's in charge of indexes revenue surgery on data quest. As. Consultants wanted to outsource work to outsiders of course posted then you've got fired. In July more than seventy index journalists quit in protest they flanked Managing Editor Veronica Moon at a press conference. Piston cast nick our editors firing was a red line for us. We are united and we would really like to stay together in some form. This off felt familiar to anders pet though who worked at a newspaper that also lost its editorial independence while run by the same pro or bond businessman re came under pressure from our own management. To drop certain stories to remove certain stories from the website and said, no than the editor in chief was forced out of his job, and then I resigned and many other people resigned
She spent a night in the ER with COVID-19. She’s still running the Washington DC Marine Corps Marathon
"Corps Marathon always has runners who have overcome all kinds of difficulties in this year's race will feature one who's still recovering from the Corona virus. This will be the third year in a row that 35 year old Melissa Sullivan runs the Marine Corps Marathon. I began running room marathon in 2018 to honor a friend who was killed in Afghanistan. Sergeant Bill Care. When the Rays with virtual this year because of the pandemic, it wasn't going to stop the DuPont Circle resident from running, but the pandemic has slowed her down. I Contracted Cove it in August. She has no idea how she got it, but says she was taking all the proper precautions. I was not able to get out of bed for almost a month. Without immediately. Feelings is the vertigo nausea. In fact, she spent one night in the E. R by herself. It was scary going through that experience alone, and thankfully, it was not as bad as it could have been losing a month of training When you're in marathon training makes running a race like this all the more harder in her original goal of setting a new personal Record is out the window now and not just because the virus still impacts her stamina. Two months later, the crowds that typically line the course matter to its those community members in the Marines, that everyone that's there on the streets cheering you on that really make you push through. To the finish. She's also going to run to show that in the end, we can overcome the pandemic in the really harm that it's caused it and it might take longer than you expected. But it's possible to get back to where you were before. Sullivan is back at work now, and she continues to train for the race. She recently donated plasma again, and when she runs this Sunday, the day of the race would have normally run. After all, she's been through thinking about it all has her feeling good again. Who knows? After this? Maybe The antibodies will give you some superpowers or something. One day that you know is you know his hope. John Doman W T O be news.
The Silver Lining of 2020
"It's tempting to want to throw in the towel on this year. Right Twenty twenty has been a challenging year and that's putting it. Extremely lightly I've experienced some of my greatest challenges as a human and entrepreneur I know I'm not the only one who's faced fear uncertainty and st of confusion about the future this year from a worldwide pandemic unlike anything that's been around for the last century to a racial and civil rights awakening that's been. So desperately needed in our country to economic strife, rapid business pits and unprecedented lifestyle adjustments. Thanks to everything just kind of shutting down for a while there. This year has been one of be collectively heaviest and most challenging. Years that I've experienced in my lifetime and I'm guessing in yours too and not to mention things like distance learning in an upcoming election in the entire west coast catching fire for a month like this year has held a lot. But my mom always taught me to seek out the silver lining in things and as we begin to wrap up twenty twenty and I reflect on the uncertainty, this year has dropped on all of our doorsteps. I am leaning into that lesson more than ever clutching to the pieces of hope glimmers of gratitude that it has shown me quarantine is forced most of us to slow away down to stay safe at home to be more. Reflective on how and where we spend our time I mean options are pretty limited when you're at home the majority of the time and unable to even do ordinary errands and running around Mike Usual and let's be on his travel for sure halted as things had begun opening backup, and we cautiously reenter the world wearing masks in standing six feet apart I've noticed how much concentrated time at home has actually been a gift in some of the most unexpected ways I personally feel more re centered. I've been able to reflect on my goals, not just in my business, but also with my family, my health and my personal vision for the future to of connected. With loved ones even more intentionally during this time virtually sure but more regularly and more presently than ever because it started just feel all the more significant this year among all the uncertainty in heaviness and while the memes of leaving twenty twenty behind, do make me laugh I don't want to believe that this year is completely awash. In fact, if it's given you clarity or helped, you make a decision or forced to change that you knew was bound to happen eventually. Then I'd argue the twenty twenty has been necessary for all of us to revisit our priorities and to reshape what we want out of our life and for the future do you feel that too? And even with the slivers of joy and the good things I know this year has been so unexpectedly destructive for so many and without warning or explanation from sickness to job loss to inequality and injustice I, know you may be carrying something painful right now that you do not have all the answers to. Today's show. It's not meant to give you those answers. It's not meant to sort life out after the tornado that swept through in the form of twenty twenty. It is however going to give you some ideas to take the next two months and some changes to find balance and peace again, and to focus on what you can control. You feel like you've lost control of this year I don't think the practices I'm going to share today are overnight life fixers but they. Can absolutely transform your days, your mindset and yes, even your personal and professional future if you pursue them with intention and persistence so whether you're ready for reset, but you don't want to wait for New Year's Day or you just want to focus on one small habit that might lift you up out of the shadows. As we wrap up this year I, hope that these ten ideas for ways to end twenty twenty seeing the silver linings just like my mom taught me to. Hope, they fill you up and remind you that no matter what's happening around you you still carry the power to choose how you respond and how you carry yourself forward and out of the depths of hard times. I fully believe in you know that you can end this year better than it started.
What is happening with the Uighurs in China?
"In China's northwestern province of Xinjiang the government has locked up more than a million workers a Muslim minority in a vast gulag. The whole province is a surveillance state within a surveillance state. The government claims it's de radicalizing population prone to separatism. People in Xinjiang in your happy life people call for older to restored each in. China of course, is strongly opposed to any torture and prosecutor and discrimination of any avenue. Good people. This is not the case in. Child. The reality is that it's carrying out crimes against humanity. We're going to take a look at how the repression is tearing families apart and preventing leaguers from even having families. We'll speak. With. googlers forced always to look over their shoulders. And will find deeper complexity in the party's ethnic repression on a visit to a tourist town in south western China. Own. The government is persecuting not only adults but hundreds of thousands of children to. Reporting by the Economist has unearthed government documents that show not de Radicalization. It's a campaign to crush the weaker. Islam. Faith to erase their cultural identity to chip away in their minds and in their bloodlines at what makes them weavers. It's difficult to get firsthand accounts of what's happening. Clearly the weaker inching John are unable to speak. But some brave souls have managed to escape and to tell their story. Our China Affairs at its her Gotti Epstein has been speaking to one of them. Presume Daoud and her three children, Fridays? We're probably the most terrifying day of the week. That was the day when officials would question students and schools in. The interrogators were looking for clues about the students lives at home. They wanted to know whether parents prayed or used Islamic greetings or talked to the children about the Prophet Muhammad. If the answers were in satisfactory they could result in a family member being sent to what they call a vocational training centre. or The camps in Xinjiang New Gulag. One Bologna. Bake. As. Miss Dogwood told me her children would be nervous that they would answer. Wrong. And get her sent back to the camps where she spent two months in two thousand eighteen. Kept. A. Terrible. saw. The Donald Families Experience in this regard is is quite common and Chin John. Absolutely. People Focus when talking about the workers on the detention camps but really Xinjiang is an open air prison. For twelve million dollars, their surveillance both low tech and high tech Miss. Dodd Dawood told me of an APP installed on her phone and where afterwards when she. Used traditional Islamic greeting on the phone. She was called minutes later by her. Local police asked her why she did that. Victim get little bug Emerson S Allama. amendment. Get. Across the region, families will be appointed to write and read articles praising Seton King. Others might have to write and read hands to ethnic harmony and some have to praise other policies that the party is imposing on them including the placement of quote unquote Han relatives in their homes and given that much of this has has come out now in how do officials in an Giang justify that that level of surveillance Chinese officials say that they are doing this in the interests of the weaker pupil they say that they are fighting the three evils of terrorism extremism and separatism. They say, they are making Xinjiang's safer and they say they're making the weaker pupil happier. But in reality, the experience of workers in the camps and even outside the camps is one not of training for the workforce but of indoctrination of trying to strip them of their relief, zero city or of any sort of cultural practices which stripe them as efforts to be distinct and separate from China. So what happens to those who were deemed to broken these many tiny rules? Well, leaguers like Ms Dour are placed in the camps Kerr offenses was for. From Pakistan, where her husband is from visiting. Pakistan. A number of years earlier. Accepting money from a foreigner who has a family friend who lived in China and securing an American visa these are all things that police asked her about a four sending her straight off to a detention camp but she's apparent. I mean what happens to the children of Leaguers who are who are detained? Well, this is the problem that the Communist Party itself is having to face up to because they are struggling to deal with the children of the parents of detained in local work documents that we obtained the officials us a chilling tra- -nology to refer to children whose parents are being held by the state. They're called Don Kuhn or single hardship or swung double hardship depending on whether one or both parents. Has Been sent away and what the documents also reveals that they're struggling to keep pace. They want to place these children in boarding schools basically, and so they have spent a tremendous amount of money expanding boarding facilities at schools across sin John just in the last couple of years, and what are these schools like is not like kids version of the Gulag you described for adult that's not too far off I. mean. These schools many of them have high security fencing and that's even true of free kindergartens and they are places where the kids are kept. These are cited even in state propaganda sort of celebrated. But those kids are as young as months old the propaganda describes as being well fed well, cared for happy learning the national language. Chinese. The point of this propagandist to convey the notion that they are helping the. Wiegert children but obviously, the effect is much different. We've seen testimonies from Chinese teachers who volunteer work in these areas that described children in pretty bleak conditions and in terrible emotional states. But what do you mean by diluting the culture on the surface of it? This just looks like oppression does right and suppression, but it's pressure that's really designed to reduce the influence of the weaker people and even their numbers. Their policies supporting confirming ethic marriage trying to encourage weaker girls when the girl enough to marry Han men and their rewards associated with that those included job of flat or even keeping family members out of camp. And then there are other ways that they're literally trying to reduce the growth at least of the wieger population China enforces limits on families is in John. So women are being fitted with you at a much higher rate than the rest of China. Women with three children, which is the limit in rural. Xinjiang. are subjected to sterilization or a great risk of that. Ms Dawood yourself says, she was subjected to sterilization two thousand eighteen. The most abilities maintenance, this hustle bonetti based. So what do you think is going on here? Any seems the goal for the Chinese authorities is more than simply to to break the spirits of the weaker. I would say the situation meets every category of crimes against humanity literally has been defined by the Rome Statute International Criminal, court have forcible transfer population. You have imprisonment the prosecution against the identifiable group have the enforced disappearance of persons. It's a term that's codified international law and I think it's pretty clear and given that how should the world respond what is to be done about this? The most important thing is that governments need act they should offer asylum seekers. Should sanction officials in Xinjiang that are responsible issue banned goods made with forced labor I most important governments should speak up I think the right moment to call for action. You could see maybe China's cloud cracking a little under the weight of these horrific revelations. There are more people standing up to China and fewer standing with him today. There is a sign of hope for human rights and there is a sign of hope for the oppressed we were people in China.
I wouldn't go near this with YOUR money
"Continues. I've seen the ETF INVESCO SOLAR THE TICKER SYMBOL IS T. A. N. I've seen this increased significantly this year it follows stocks such as soon technologies n Phase Energy and son run inc.. I'm wondering if these stocks are goodbye and if they are still good at these prices given their recent release. Given their recent increase. I will just point out. Just. A time stamp this this ETF INVESCO solar hitting a year high today. Yes do you want the short answer the long? Well, this is a friend from Calgary. So I felt Canadian I'M GONNA. I'M GONNA go along how about the medium answer? Okay. I love this question. I am a big proponent of solar I have solar on my house, which helps the power mostly electric car I'm a big fan here. I wouldn't go near this ETF if with your money Chris. So. So here is, here's the problem I off This is a this is almost a textbook example of investing in the rear view mirror or using the river mirror to govern are investing I'M GONNA since we've already talked before being recorded about a little bit of history and Black Friday I'm even another little piece of history. Okay in two thousand. Nine one thousand nine was the the the apex of the Great Tech Bubble. Okay. The Nasdaq index was I believe a up over eighty percent that year and so now you're in two thousand and I'm GonNa get a Canadian cut here Canada we are retirement accounts RSP's we tend to tell you big marketing push to fund your RSP around February. Okay. So the first two months of the year. Would you like to hazard a guess at what industry was the single greatest and it's not close the single greatest benefit Sherie of new money flowing into the market in February of two thousand. And if you said Tech. Gold Star. Most of the money that came in that year went into tech funds because they had done so well, the year before the two years before. This is easy. Money right it. Of course, the bubble popped in March of two thousand starting off touched off grinding down market from March two, thousand, October two, thousand and two that killed the Nasdaq I believe over sixty five, seventy percent over that time I, could be wrong. So the point is. This the people who are going into tech funds at that time were investing in their review. So this ETF said hitting multiyear highs today Chris. The one year performance with this fund is about one hundred and twenty percent which. Not, not, by coincidence is roughly the one year performance of the index purports to track the global. Solar. Energy. Index okay up about one hundred, twenty percent but dial out. Don't look at one year look at five years five years the performances annualized roughly. Twenty percent now, five years twenty percents still, pretty good. Right. But realize you're getting this last year, which is not one hundred twenty percent is influencing those five years. Okay. So it's probably had a bunch of flat to negative numbers in the first four and then attack one hundred and twenty percent on an annualized that and he got twenty percent dial back out even further. The ten year performance for both the index and this ETF is negative. Okay. So to put it in perspective ten years ago, Chris you and I go put ten, thousand dollars into the market you today you have about twenty four and a half thousand dollars I go ten years ago and I put ten thousand dollars into this ETF? I have roughly ten thousand dollars. Okay. So this has not been a long-term this the performance in the last year solely because people have kind of gone a little crazy chasing these solar companies now again, I mentioned I have solar install on my house. Okay and I will tell you the single biggest risk factor. You should be worried about when you put solar on your house or you look at solar as an investment. Is that you are highly dependent on the subsidy programs within the jurisdictions where these companies sell their products because frankly solar commodity invaders, nothing special Mike Panels, versus yours is about my versus yours or my racking systems or whatever. Okay. In my town. I got I get a little bit of a benefit because I put it. I do we have what's called net metering so I put some of my generating energy back into the grid I get some credit for that It's not great but it is what it is and I put it on my house because I. My background bioengineering couple of degrees. In that thing I spent a decade in practice This is kind of what I like so I took the opportunity we put on. I can tell you friends of mine before the government changed the rules to go two net metering friends of mine put solar on their house. They're getting a nice fat check every month because their system is grandfathered. Okay. It was so generous that the people who put solar in at that point in time got these generous pay offs. The government said Hey we want to stop giving generous payoffs and so they changed the rules to go two net metering I. Don't get a check every month. That's fine. It's okay. But I can tell you. Speaking. To The installer for the system when he put on my house just over a year ago, I asked him how's business and he basically said when the government changed the rules. The number of installs we did dropped by almost ninety percent. So if that happens in any of the jurisdictions where these companies, he mentioned solar edge and faith son run. These are really expensive companies on in terms of their valuation. I. Think I look Sola registrating almost seventy times free cash flow. You had best hope that wherever they are selling their products they don't change the rules because if you do that stocks go a lot cheaper
Is it time to leave Facebook? A debate
"Many of us have conflicted feelings about facebook and their policies and should we stay a member? Should we not our old friend Steve Brazil the host of the behind the shot podcast has very very. Strong feelings about it, and he just did a post about why he's deleting his facebook account and only going instagram now to which I said to. You excuse me Steve Yep but facebook owns instagram. So you're really you're not accomplishing anything it. It's. It's like me saying I'm not to drink coke anymore I'm switching the sprite I'll show him. I'll tell you why it's different I'll tell you why it's not a coke sprite thing and by the way. Spread I think is owned by. so Here's why it's not different. My. Decision to put my facebook accounts into hibernation but stay on Instagram, which is owned by facebook. Has To do with the type of outlet that it is so you could argue that instagram is bad for society in the sense that it has clearly had body shaming issues for for the female population. There are things on instagram that you can argue are societally bad right but a in effect, it's a photo sharing site. and. The data that is collected on me as completely different. Then, a website where people are regularly posting misinformation on a medical or social issue where people are spreading hate there are as we know now. There are a multitude of hate groups on facebook that facebook has not shut down, but that's completely different than the group structure and the individual's sharing structure bought structure that exists on facebook and the Algorithm. Good luck From where I stand I still get so much more reaction to whatever I post on facebook than anywhere else. It's a sad commentary. I agree with you with their an evil company but I get a lot of feedback to photos and other things. So I'm not let me ask you this though. Because I get feedback. I have followers on both my pages there that effectively aren't gonNA see new stuff. But I get those followers elsewhere as well. So even though you get interaction there and you get engagement as they would call it in a stats world. Do. You not believe that stats. If you posted a similar thing saying look, I'm not going to be here anymore going on hibernation here follow me here that those people wouldn't follow. You know I decided to volume of of engagement on facebook is so much greater than anywhere else but we could do a test. We could find out little I'll I'll check in with two months. Let's let's let's see. Right but I think it also depends on the person. Let's see what happens in two months This is a shorter podcast. So it's at that point where I have to say goodbye
Pfizer Could Apply for Emergency Use of Covid-19 Vaccine by Late November
"Says it could seek emergency use authorization for its covert 19 vaccine by late November. If the shot is shown to be effective in a large late stage trial, putting to rest any notion that a vaccine could be cleared for emergency use in the U. S before Election Day. Safety reviews will dictate the timeline with the Food and Drug Administration requiring that at least half the people in the study be watched for side effects for two months. Pfizer shares up 3.8%.
Arika Pierce on Bridging the Gap with Millennials
"Eric Pearce on dose of leadership. Welcome to the show. Hi, thank you so much for having me. I'm excited to be here. Excited to have you on. Talking about this millennials in shows almost eight years old and I've had. A handful of guests and we've kind of we've broached this topic and just from my own experience and. I think millennials get a bad rap in the public pop culture. Absolutely. You know what I'm talking about right. I mean it's just so yeah. Oh. Yeah. They're just sitting around having avocado toast all day. I love that Avocado Toast. Yeah you're right. But I've met some really fascinating millennials worked with a mini and I tell you what the positive side of millennials that I see I see in the millennials, which is different than I think my generation genetics. Is that they. Are the ones that I've come across a positive ones they want to be part of something bigger than themselves, and that is a huge part of my message here on this show and I think of leadership. I think people join organizations or or those organizations where I've worked at I have fond memories, ring cores I always go back to that. Right had fond memories of that and it's because. I felt like I was part of something bigger than myself and I was, and I think that's what by and large the millennials that I've come across at are positive. Want what what do you think when you hear that? Absolutely I, mean, I think that's one of the things that I really love about this generation is that they want to be a part of a bigger purpose. They want to know their why that's incredibly important to them. Even you know whether they're twenty four year old millennial or the thirty nine year old millennials They're really wanting to go a little bit deeper and so I think that's something that you know maybe this wasn't prioritize talked about another generations but you. Know. I think that maybe they're almost like the why? Like why? Why are we doing this? Why is this happening? How can we do this better? So certainly I think they're much more connected to trying to better understand you know what their purpose is and how they can make sure they live purposeful live, which can be a huge positive right I mean that's that's what I think we should we should latch onto now than the negative side of that is that Sometimes. There are some unrealistic expectations however, I can't. Be. Too critical because when I was in my twenty one thinks now I wanted things to happen sooner than later I. think that's just part of being in your twenties. Right I. Think you. You kind of have I think learning that kind of delayed gratification is an intentional skill that kind of comes with with age and experience I think. Well we'll certainly and I think you know one of the things that we've seen with millennials and I think technology plays a huge part. Is that they're used to things happening fast or quicker. You know I I'm forty. So I'm in the middle generation where I remember live before the Internet Laver member using encyclopedias, not Google things like that. But you know most millennials have grown up where it's just instant access you want to figure something out you WanNa. Do something you want to look something up you just go right to the computer and out to your phone. So I think that has really played a part even in their professional careers for feels like, okay I've been here. You know two months. What's next to the next level the job, right? Exactly. The. I. Pass for that because I understand where that comes from, and in fact, I would rather. I would almost kind of rather have that if I was working with the team and I had somebody that was kind of. Overly, ambitious I would rather rain that in instead of trying to get somebody to get gear if that makes sense, right? Sure. Yeah. For sure I kind of that ambition I think is critical and they are known the generation is known to be overly ambitious but to your point, it's much easier to reign it in than to skip someone who doesn't want to do anything at all absolutely I I would I would have any day I think that's a good problem to have as opposed to. You know having a C. or D. Player and trying to get him into being a I've spent and wasted many precious time and resources trying to do that right and I would rather it's much easier to pull somebody back and Raynham in. Absolutely. Yeah. So how did you? How did you find yourself? Saying hey yeah. This is my niche. This is my purpose. Why did you want to focus on this? Yes. So it's a question. I get all the time like you know you can't really go to school for you know to become a millennial leadership coach or at least not when I went to school they probably do have more those categories now but my my background is that I actually I'm a lawyer and when I got out of law school I am had a lot of debt and I was working a job that was not. Doing legal work but not really It was more focused on government relations work, and so I started looking for a lot of jobs that I knew would pay a lot more money so I could start paying my loss. and. So one of the jobs that I I applied for which I never thought I would get was the director level physician and I think I was twenty six at the time it was for publicly traded healthcare company, and it was really opening up their their DC office and and starting their their government relations there lobbying shop here in DC, and so I got the job and you know actually I was scared because I didn't even really know how to approach it but I excelled at it I really worked hard and by the time I was twenty eight. I was promoted to the first or not the I I became the youngest Vice President the company at Twenty eight and it was a you know kind of something cool that had happened and I did work hard. But I didn't have any what I would say were leadership management skills at the time I had never really led teams I had never manager department at never had that level of responsibility and so. I just became almost obsessed with how to be successful had to be a leader had a really you know make sure that I could shine anti read a lot of books went to seminars. This was before Youtube was as popular. Now as the go-to resource and I I really I studied leadership. I studied just being successful read a lot of John C. Maxwell Book No meet a lot of his books who to this day and You know because of that people started coming to me all the time air can read my resume review my resume I haven't interview. Can you help me here? I am you know had this issue at work? Can you work with me through it and I just realized that that was just something I really enjoy doing was helping folks you know sort of navigate their careers. Based upon some of the things I learn you know some of the things I had done wrong. I had done right and a couple years ago. I ended up writing a book called the millennials playbook to adulting just to put everything I had learned across you know. How to get a job how to keep a job? You know even limit of finance tips, mental health, physical health tips. As you know, sort of advocating adulting, put it on a book and just really focus on making sure it got out to the millennial generation and as a result of that really transformed into a millennial leadership coach where that is now my whole time oath guests and. It's what I love, and it's what I honestly feel is is my why is my purpose? So that's a very long answer. That's how I got here. Why
Boston - NH ‘Pausing’ All Hockey Activities For 2 Weeks Following Coronavirus Outbreaks
"Following a cluster of covert cases in the state. W B c TVs Nick Emmons explains a surprise announcement from New Hampshire Governor Chris Sununu pausing all indoor ice activities for two weeks after a spike in Corona virus cases over the last two months. There have been a total of 158 New Hampshire residents diagnosed with Koba 19, who are associated with ice hockey cases on Massachusetts South Shore, have also been traced to hockey programs. A T s are Sports and Salem Shop co owner Brendan Shea. He also coaches says some people may have let their guard down over the past several weeks. Everyone was just crying. They wanted their kid back on the ice, and they would do everything. Get back on the ice and how quickly we forget. And the suspension is in effect until October, 29th and during that time rinks across the state will be cleaned and sanitized. Meanwhile, students in Worcester could
Los Angeles Dodgers fall to Atlanta Braves 10-2
"In Major league baseball. If you're a fan of the Dodgers, it is extremely disappointing. Clayton Kershaw was able to go out there and pitch tonight. We know he had back spasms that that he couldn't pitch the other night tonight, he shows up. And the Dodgers. They lost to the Braves, 10 to 2. Clayton Kershaw pitched five innings, gave up four runs. Not necessarily going to pin this on him, but The Braves that their bats, there's so much offense. The young pitchers are showing up. The Braves are going to be back in the world. Siri's pending a miracle here. Americal come back from the Dodgers. I don't know. Maybe they're going to take a cue from the Denver Nuggets and and come back from 31, but the way That the Braves young pitches has just waken up right now. I don't see it. This is going to be another disappointing season. For the Dodgers. If we can consider two months a season. I personally think two months is a joke. But hey, We got playoff baseball. We had two months and you've got to enjoy and take what you can when you got it.
Father of Anthony McClain, Black man fatally shot by Pasadena PD, northeast of Los Angeles, files lawsuit
"Pasadena and several of its police officers are being sued over a deadly police shooting in August, and Lenny McLean was shot and killed while running from police following a traffic stop. Nearly two months after his death. His father is following a federal civil rights lawsuit. Attorney Michael Corio says Dashcam footage shows McClane pose no danger to police officers officers. The first thing that he does is he whips out his gun and Anthony's running away with his back toward the officer. You'll see this on the video video with with Anthony. Anthony. Nothing Nothing in in his his hands. hands. This This officer officer fired fired twice. twice. One One struck struck him him and and ultimately ultimately was was the the kill kill shot. shot. The The other other one one grazed. grazed. The The Pasadena Pasadena Police Police department department says says McLane McLane was was armed armed at at the the time time of of the the shooting, shooting, and and detectives detectives recovered recovered a a gun gun at at the the scene scene with with McLane's McLane's DNA DNA on on the the city city of of Pasadena, Pasadena, declined declined to to comment comment on on the the pending pending litigation. litigation. You You could could see see the the video video of of the the shooting shooting on on our our website website Ko next 10 70 dot com.
Scott Peterson's 2004 murder convictions to be reexamined
"Ordered to consider what With convictions for murdering his wife and their unborn son should be overturned. Less than two months ago, the court overturned Peterson's death penalty. The courts should a juror committed prejudicial misconduct by failing to disclose that she'd been involved with other legal proceedings, including a restraining order against her ex boyfriend while she was pregnant. Newport Beach City leaders approving a new set of short term rental reforms
Pilot reports another jetpack flying by airplanes near LAX
"Flight crew reported seeing someone in a jetpack high above Los Angeles International Airport. This is the second time in two Months, a China Airlines flight crew reported seeing this about 6000 ft. Up in the air, seven miles northwest of the airport, Casey Ales Leslie Maren spoke to a pilot. Jose Moreno is a longtime pilot for United. He believes what the pilot salt but says the stud is extremely dangerous. Jetpack was spotted in one of the most restricted airspace is there is I would say it's a disregard of safety because he's actually flying in an area where there's a lot of miners. This is the second time in just over a month, Pilots have reported seeing a person in a jet pack near L. A X David Maimon, the CEO of Jetpack Aviation, says not only with a stunt like this be dangerous without a parachute would also take too long and the jetpack would run out of fuel.
Scott Peterson's 2004 murder convictions to be reexamined
"California isn't done with the Scott Peterson case. The state Supreme Court has ordered a lower court to take another look at his murder conviction. Here's correspondent Anna Giles of KOVR TV in Sacramento, court documents show His case will be re examined due to a potential issue with a juror, according to reporting from the Modesto Bee. A juror failed to disclose that she was the victim of a crime while pregnant. It was an incident where she feared for the life of her unborn child. For Peterson was convicted of killing his pregnant wife, Lacey and her unborn son. Less than two months ago. Peterson's death penalty was
Pilot reports another jetpack flying by airplanes near LAX
"Crew reported seeing someone in a jetpack high above Los Angeles International Airport the second time this has happened in two months, a China Airlines flight crew reported the sighting about 6000 ft up in the air and seven miles northwest of the airport. K cows. Leslie Maren spoke to a pilot about this. Jose Moreno is a longtime pilot for United. He believes with the pilot saw, but says the stud is extremely dangerous. Jetpack was spotted in one of the most restricted airspace is there is I would say it's a disregard of safety because he's actually flying in an area where there's a lot of miners. This is the second time in just over a month, pilots have reported seeing a person in a jet pack near L. A x tele CEO of Jetpack Aviation says not only would have stunt like that be dangerous without a parachute. It would also take too long and the jetpack would run out of fuel. Karen, My birthday's coming up. And if you want to get me a genuine a jet pack I wanted check back. Really of menace.
"two month" Discussed on The Energy Gang
"Logic to how unreal responded to the bullying of the trump administration I think at the same time I thought that the initial website link to the Atlantic article, which is called how trump appointees short-circuited grid modernization was you know like completely over the top right? I mean we've been working on grid modernization for twenty years. The administration did very little grid modernization as we talked about with Russell Goals Book and superpower. So it's not like we're you know like the the trump. Administration killed grid modernization. They killed one paper which talked about another theoretical way to make grids more modern in the same way that we've been talking about building transmission line from you know the deserts of Nevada and Arizona to New York. City right for a long time so that the solar power could like you know power. New York City and so you know so I generally don't get too outraged over these things because I feel like I would just be in a constancy outrage. Yeah, I get disappointed though I will say when I see institutions that are regularly cited for their research or for their analysis data and I would say, energy, Information Administration is cited all the time and a lot of what they end up doing certainly has not been complete. We've been fighting with them through many administrations too. I might add But you want all of the stuff that comes out that's been funded to. To really hold water and be cited internationally I mean Enron is held up as as a jewel of the United States and an a real A real hub of innovation and really really smart scientists when I applied to get a job at all I had to be interviewed by twelve scientists and I ended up talking about utility rate structures because I knew they wouldn't understand what I was talking about because otherwise. I would have gotten job they're being it is really it's really high stakes to work for these labs and they are some of the best and brightest in the world and you just hate to see them being somehow stymied by politics. Oh I totally agree with you. Oh, this is this is the most disappointing piece of this story and that is you have. Really prominent, very intelligent researchers who were pushed out of government. They feel like they need to leave and this is what has been happening over the last four years you know in the administration has gone to great lengths to censor climate change and clean energy research. I mean it, of course, scrubbed mentions of climate on websites early on when the administration was coming in political appointees to created a list of folks within doe and other agencies who'd gone to climate conferences it presumably to punish them you have seen this is not just the only study that it's been delayed. There have been multiple studies that have been. Suppressed or delayed and. So what happens is this this is textbook stuff of how you dismantle government agencies that are preparing for the biggest problems in the world and. Delaying this research which could have direct consequences for actions, the government or private developers take in the coming years, and so it is a shame to see really intelligent people working on these projects get pushed out of government for this reason that to me is this piece of the story that really stands out most beyond the. Study itself. Yeah and it's happening across the government to the point where you know if we have a change in administration, people are worried that there are actually aren't enough people in a government who have the experience and track record to build implement new programs You'd have to backfill a lot of those jobs which take time and so look. I. Totally agree with you I. Mean It's disheartening for sure I'm completely disappointed I just think that I. Just think that we continue to you know sort of be surprised by you know how low the trump administration can stoop and you know there's no there's no lower bound to how far they could go on this but I but I do think that expect the same level of outrage when you know Democrats do the same thing on other really important issues. Right I mean the fact that we have I just. Got Corrected from last energy game podcasts, we have five thousand megawatts of demand response that the California could have done if it matched the policies of Arcot and it would have saved all those people from being blacked out, and the California just has this extraordinary hatred for demand response, which I don't understand but they should be called task for the fact that like they have systematically destroyed demand response in the state of California. Corrected you Catherine. No it was actually. It was actually one of the thermostat vendors who you know showed how they had three thousand megawatts alone of of Dr. Capacity that they've been piloting You know they're not allowed to to use YEP, but I've been fighting those fights for a long time and it is it's rough. Well let's take the last fifteen minutes here to talk through some listener questions We put out the call on twitter and on our platform here for that you want us to talk about and we got a ton of questions about tech PR actually technologies. non-conventional technologies that we don't discuss as much on this podcast. You know we we're we're pretty focused on the stuff that's happening today, which tends to be wind solar batteries, hydro but let's get through some of these, some of which are very novel. So the first question Oh, I didn't copy their name into the document here. So I apologize for not having this person's name, but they ask about two technologies. One is is tidal energy finally reaching maturity so There was a lot of investment in wave and tidal energy in the two, thousand, six to two, thousand, nine timeframe a lot of it fell apart after the financial crisis and you know. Nobody ever really picked it back up. There has been some experimentation. So Jigger, what do you think?.
"two month" Discussed on The Energy Gang
"In solar peavy that comes from traditional power generation background nor cal has earned a reputation as the strongest in controls. So if you want to hear more about the strongest and controls go to nor cal controls dot net. But move to a story that shows us in a very specific way. Why the election is so critical, it's an investigative piece from Peter Farrelly at investigate West that dropped last week, and it involves a piece of research at the National Renewable Energy Laboratory that was suppressed by the trump administration in two thousand eighteen and it's still unclear what is going to happen to this research? It modeled how to connect eastern and Western power grids to better manage lots of renewable energy. The research itself was important. It was part of many grid. Integration Studies that Enron has been working on, but it's not earth shattering However, the trump administration sought as an imminent threat to its promise to save the coal industry and when they found out about it, they scrambled to censor the work, and so we're GonNa, talk a bit about the study but also what's going on inside the trump administration to stifle censor push aside important research like this. So let's talk about what happened Catherine what is the seems study? Start us, off square one. Yeah. Yes. So the seem study is an interconnection study. As you said that tries to show you know what would happen if you had a western and eastern interconnection and also Urquhot, which is the electricity reliability council of Texas, like what would what would you be able to do that and the the interesting thing about the study is the approach was not based on what would happen if we went for thirty percent when twenty percent solar, where you pick numbers, arbitrary numbers and try to figure out what to do instead with the study said is. What if you had a carbon regime, so say you had you know base case what's happening now versus carbon regime and you had interconnection what would you need on the grid and where there's resources coming from and they just they found that you could make an economic case, an incredibly compelling economic ace for solar wind and hydro. If you had interconnections and some of this is was you know high voltage direct current but overlay but a lot of this is just about connecting these two these two parts of the grid going East and West, and also with Texas and So the study itself was important in the way that they had set it up. As let's look at this from, you know if we have a car a transition where the the methodology is based on carbon reduction, what would you need an and then figure out what those resources might be so that was part and that was a scope that was approved by Department of Energy for well to do and they. Had A couple million dollars to work on it, and that's what that's what they proceeded to do. As a very technical study. It was to be presented it was an I truly paper. So it was very much about peer, reviewing and taking input from other scientists and other organizations to really make sure that their methodology was correct and it was really meant to be very much of a technical study and. Because of the politics, it has not been published. Yeah. Okay. So this does not seem very political. There's a lot of research swirling around what happened next why did it become political? Yes. So I talked to Aaron Bloom who was the project manager at Enron time for the same study and he said, so he wasn't able to go to this conference to present. So we had a one of his staffers Josh Novacek, was asked to saw Ben and he was really smart guy. So he knew everything about this study to present and not five minutes. Into, the presentation, the Deputy Assistant Secretary at Department of Energy who was listening in. Katie. Theresa send an email and said this guy is advocating for carbon policy, which was not what he was doing. He was be they were basically saying you know if you did this, this is what you would get just kind of into it a little bit differently, and so then enroll had to go back and change the titles. So they had to change from calling it current policy versus carbon pause to to say base case verses high variable, generation KS and they. Had to change a bunch of things in the meantime it really really decimated the way the scientists were thinking about doing this, and how do we make sure it's peer reviewed in a way that that maintains the advocacy of our research and our modeling tools which are very very sophisticated. So they're they're kind of three different aspects. One is like the political aspect which was about carbon policy in about the the administration shutting it down there wasn't just Katie Theresa it was also Kathy Tripati and some other folks at Dav that decided to. Shut this down remember the lab director has to report to the Department of Energy's those are the political piece. There is the issue about scientists not feeling that they're supported Aaron balloon left because he did not feel like he was being backed up in recent really important research that he was doing and the third thing is the report in like is it ever going to see the light of day now just say on the Political Front that I was I was it enroll for seven years I straddled both the Clinton and the George W Bush administration. partly I the first part I was in the research side and buildings and the second part I was manager of government relations and I was always trying to walk this line about making sure that we were complying with whatever the goals of the given administration where so w had a lot of things that he was squashing to just say this is not unusual that when a new administration when especially a Republican Administration comes in and decides, they do not like the outcome of what national lab is doing and in particular Enron renewable energy that. They would squash some things or hide them, and we there were reports that came out in two thousand seven that Enron scientists had to do in on their volunteer time and that's a Sierra Club promoted but were not done through Enron because the at that point, the Bush administration said, we're not going to support this anymore. So that is always an issue when you have national labs that are in essence dictated by the goals of the administer any given minute administration. So that causes an. Issue but then you have the issue of scientists and losing really good people like Erin because of something like this happening, and then the third thing is just losing the paper and you know this, this would have been another really interesting study to have out there. Now it's it's still alive on Youtube. You can find presentations on the paper but it hasn't been published in Tripoli and some of these papers that you know publications that have been really helpful to have an end. Jigger what do you think the stakes are here I? Mean there's been a lot of grid integration studies looking at how you can better manage a lot of renewables on the grid. This is one of major body of research How much do we read into this particular suppression of this report given what Katherine outlining the historical context like this does happen within administrations but also like the trump administration has gone too much greater length to suppress any discussion about climate change and we can go through some of those I mean it's crazy long list. But where do you think is fits in yeah I mean you know the state representative, Tom, Sloan actually organize the event and Republican and You know he was emailing back and forth saying you guys are overreacting this is just an exchange of ideas, and so I you know I I hate to see this stuff, right? Because I do think that the folks that worked on it we're just you know their heart was in the right place they were. You know just doing real research like you're supposed to do but I do think that you know fundamentally as Catherine suggested, right I mean, you know admiral is a incision that's run by private contractor right and they get these awards and if they don't follow what the political say. Then you know there are repercussions to doing that right I. Think you know there is some.
"two month" Discussed on The Energy Gang
"So I actually think it's going to be a combination of all of those and an underlying. All of this is that no matter how much money you raise you have to be able to vote, and so I think a big piece of all of this is trying to have a plan for where you gonNa vote how are you going to vote? How do you make sure that you get your vote in in time if you're mailing it or if you're doing absentee or if you're doing it in person like having a plan for that that's really important. No matter who you're voting for So I think there's a combination of factors here. I don't know how you are feeling going into these last months of the campaign but my general anxieties and dread have shifted from the pandemic now into election politics. So I'm kind of transitioning the. Of Anxiety, I have to this next issue. How are you feeling going into this last stretch of the election I think doing a lot you know makes me feel less anxious, right? I mean you know there's obviously there's always things people could do better and whatnot but I mean even when you look at the Senate races I, you know I think clean energy champions are doing while on the Senate side too. So in a lot of their close races. So you know I feel I feel hopeful and I feel pretty positive that clean. For at least is playing a bigger role today than it. Did you know in two thousand and eight or even in two thousand sixteen? Yeah I agree I mean I'm of course anxious about how it's all GonNa work out I just want everything to go okay and people be able to vote who they want to vote for like that's so so important for our democracy and from where I said you know I help all these companies and organizations that. are going to need to get business done and need grow their business and need to have policy to do so no matter who is the president no matter who runs Congress and so. You know my business partner and I are always trying to game theory out like what do we do if this happened? So what are we if that happens and we have to have a plan for for all of that because we have to still move forward and we still have to help clean energy no matter what. Well before we transition to the next topic, let's just have a quick word about our sponsors. So Jigger question for you. Are you ready for the Era Energy Storage Oh? Yeah. Got One of my basement. That's right. That's right. You do. Well, fluids, our sponsor.
"two month" Discussed on All In with Chris Hayes
"There was one difference one big difference number one he may have been guilty and number two. He had tapes all over the place right. He was definitely guilty. Trump did not actually learn from Richard. Nixon don't fire people know he learned something more important. He learned to make sure to space out the fire and the people so starting in the beginning of April trump has been firing. The very people meant to hold his administration accountable. These inspectors general. It's his own Saturday. Night massacre only. The firings usually come on Friday night after everyone has kind of checked out for the weekend on Friday April third trump fired. The Inspector General of the intelligence community. That guy was important. His name is Michael Atkinson because he is the one who handled the Ukraine whistleblower complaint and found it to have merit few days later. He got rid of the Defense Department's g known for his independence. Who was overseeing corona virus? Relief spending investigations on Friday. May first he said he was replacing the health and Human Services Inspector General who had just exposed shortages of testing and personal protective equipment and hospitals. Then this past Friday night trump fired State Department inspector general Steve Linic at the urging of Secretary of state. Mike pompeo according to the House Foreign Affairs Committee Eliot Engel. The Office of the Inspector General had opened an investigation into pompeo before pompeo. Lennick be fired. Here's the thing. Firing Inspector General's outside ship trump is going at one of the foundational post Watergate reforms that was erected with bipartisan support over decades precisely to restrain Nixon to point out State Department firing maybe the most provocative and perhaps clearly lawless yet. We're talking about that right after. This president.
"two month" Discussed on All In with Chris Hayes
"And the nets until you do something about it. So latest ad from Republican anti-trump Super Pac which literally just recites what is expected to happen. In America's the pandemic continues the reality of the current situation where we find ourselves right now. It's the most brutal argument against Donald trump politically. There have been a ton of articles or the last few weeks about how desperate trump the White House are to change that bedrock reality with just increasingly insane attacks and wild gambits to get attention but the political gravity right now. In the country's the incumbent president is running for reelection in the midst of the worst cataclysm to befall the country in generations. The question of the election is a referendum on the president and more than that a referendum on whether reality in the end the circumstances of a country are what matter here with me now dig into that question Cornell Belcher Democratic strategist and pollster. You and I've had this conversation a few times cornell and I think we`ve. We've slightly different cakes. Although I think we agree on something so I think the thing that we agree on is there is a high floor for the president's support. You're not going to ever see a world in which he's at twenty five percent approval which I agree with but I also do think I tend to think that the the reality really does matter for an incumbent president and this reality will matter and I think you're more in the camp that like it's essentially entirely detached from his political fortunes. Do you still feel that way? Yes Chris I think for any Ordinary president way the Bush or or or or Obama is not detached But you know if you look at Some delays outlast weekly CNN About last in the last week. Donald Trump's at forty six percent Look should be familiar with a lot of Americans and and then I look back at okay. You know where he was last spring nineteen able to a nineteen in the CNN's polling forty. Five percent. Chris so it it is detached from reality. He his base is locked in. And that's why I think there's been a a you know battle back and forth with inside the Democratic Party about sort of do you go out the trump supporters or do not go out to trump supporters. I think it's I think it's I think it's it's I think you're wasting time trying to trump. Supporters is isn't just a waste of time that forty six forty five forty seven percent is locked in. He's going to get that no matter what happens. He's going to get that. So here's so here's some I think I mean I don't I don't quite agree at forty five forty six but I will say this that a huge part of that is locked in right but there's one place that I thought this was interesting so it seems to me that it's a little reckless politically to go around saying to senior citizens who are most at risk from this virus internal tally like your warriors. Get OUT THERE. Suck it up. That seems to be a message. That would be a not a great political message. If you were like advising a candidate I don't think you would tell and there does seem to be some data suggesting this is having an effect if you look at. His fivethirtyeight ran the numbers. On older voters. His margin two thousand sixteen was like about for sixty five plus was plus thirteen percent. He's down like he's underwater with those groups now in a bunch of polls do you think basically do you think that's real is is it a bumper is it long term You know the dynamics of this race have yet to to to on on fold week we are really to a certain still early stages. I mean heck. The candidates been out and about campaigning And which what I do know is that is that Donald Trump and Republicans will throw everything. They can't at Joe by and I think if you if you if you had the Republicans handwrite now. You know your the way you win. This is if you if you make up Biden not a soft place for for for these voters these floors land and look at Hillary. Twenty sixteen had the problem that her unfavorable were just as high as Donald Trump's on favorables. And if you look at some of the polling right now Biden is just barely above water in his favorable to unfavorable. But but but but but it's beginning to shrink so look for them to come at all the stuff that we think are sort of crazy. Internet Biden Throw more abetted by them because they understand they got to make him not an acceptable place for these voters for some of his voters. Lan So there's this thing I go back and forth on from a pure sort of political tactics question which is like is it better. Basically if you're running against Donald trump is a better. He's the lead story that night on the news or that you are and come back and forth on this this idea that he's sort of dominates attention and that's like a sort of super power and that's been a huge part of the the politics of this era but then the other is a Lotta Times. He potential it's not the majority of people don't like it and that's what he's like a forty five percent approval rating guy fifty five percent. I don't like that you're you know you're a jerk. And so this question about Biden like if you were advising the Biden campaign is your advice like it's a good day of Joe Biden is not the news and Donald Trump is war is it is not a bad day that you need to get out there and be more President Chris. I think this is tough because one of the things In politics that goes back a long time his look if your opponent is is shooting themselves in the foot don't get no way of your opponents shooting themselves in the foot you stare back. The problem is Donald Trump and shooting himself in the foot. Four couple of years now And number in his numbers don't move and I think part of the problem. Oh twenty sixteen was he did suck all the air. You didn't suck all the air and all in all the time and all the attention I think ultimately if you're the Democrat you have to make a case for yourself. I don't think we're GonNa win this again by just being against Donald Trump. I think we're going to have to be four. Something GonNa have to make that case for for for yourself if we have time. I WanNa make one quick point about the Obama thing if we had time is he's crazy like a Fox right racial version and angst about changing America is in fact the predicate and sort of driving that racial version and drive in that division eggs in that case Brock Obama although he did win back to back majorities if that's your predicate in fact running against brock. Obama is a veteran tags for you than running against Joe Biden. Answer Interesting Cornell Belt. Thank you as always. We'll talk again soon. Thank.
"two month" Discussed on All In with Chris Hayes
"Performance matter November plus our president who brags you learned a lot from Richard. Nixon is systematically dismantling the safeguards put in place after Watergate and the stealth fail out big oil is benefiting from the Treasury's massive rescue fund. And what is being done about oversight? All it starts right now. Good evening from New York. I'm Chris Hayes. Corona virus pandemic is long with climate. Change inescapably global challenge right. I mean we've already seen in the months of this. How little the virus cares about things like borders. How it's altered daily life around the globe developed and developing countries alike the global south across north any solution to the virus. The problems caused by the virus. We'll also have to be global vaccination treatment best practices all that today. We learned president. Donald Trump declined an invitation to address the World Health Organization. While China's President Xi Jinping accepted joining other world leaders like Germany's Germany's Angela. Merkel and France's Emmanuel macron. I mean every world leader is facing some variation of the same challenge. And there's probably a lot to learn from the exchange between countries particularly countries like Germany to name just one example that has successfully contained the virus and minimize fatalities. But here's the thing. The president refuses the counsel and advice of his own government. Never mind other ones back. On April sixteenth. The trump administration released guidelines produced by the to reopen the economy in three phases. We keep going back to this document because it's the most often document in America. The president unveiled it. They posted them in the White House. Website they're still there you can go read them and they're they're they're sensible but president trump on patient and could not wait for states to meet his own guidelines the one that he introduced from his CD he started beating up on governors and berating them emerging states to Norton. The very first day tweeting about liberating this state in that and so on April twentieth. Georgia Governor Brian Coun- announced he was opening up the state starting with a central services which also to include massage studios and bowling alleys governor. Kemp was was out front. He branded himself as a first reopener. Not abiding by the guidelines but things have not gone great for him. I mean they haven't been catastrophic either so we should explain. I can't got hung out to dry because he thought he was listening to the president by opening early right. The president's tweeting liberated Michigan Liberty. Virginia and Brian. I'm with you Mago Maga. And then the president cuts them off at the knees a few days later saying he disagreed with cams decision since then. Georgia appears to be well cooking the books to show. The data was better than it really is or at least making a bunch of errors that have that humid effect. Here's a chart they released. Okay look at how. The new confirmed cases appear to go down. Nice smooth slope right. You look at that chart you think getting better but when you look closely you raise the detail in the right order. Here's May seventh right before April twenty-sixth. That's not the way that charge at work that type of screw up That has been an error in that direction has happened at least three times. The governor's office says they were not trying to be misleading. But I don't know maybe as a result of these over-optimistic messages some Georgian seemed to be embracing reopening at and sort of thinking the risk. Isn't there anymore. It's gone. Basically the washing post a great piece about people shopping in a mall in suburban Atlanta quote outside urban outfitters Jennifer. Kiernan was having a glass of wine or daughter shock inside. Oh my God. This feels great. I love it. She said explain that. She assumed that everyone around her was healthy. I think people would not be out if they had been exposed to anyone with corona. Now I am sympathetic to the feeling of greatness. I am sympathetic to the temptation of just like having a normal day and having a glass of wanted a place that does sound awesome. But there's no relationship between how good that feels and what the risk is and it's not this individuals job to assess the risk. That the government's job now. There are other states like Georgia. That have been quick to reopen their state again at the president's behest even if his own guidelines say not to starting today for Governor Rhonda Santa's allowed restaurants and retail stores in gyms to reach fifty percent capacity which again not fully back. But they're starting to open. That's even as Palm Beach. County identified as a Corona Virus Hotspot Homeland Security Document. And then there's Texas Governor Greg Abbott. Who ANNOUNCED TODAY? That daycares can open immediately which again. That's a vital thing for getting people back to work but it happens just days after the state reported a record number of corona virus deaths in one day. So here's where things stand right now as we look to this as we think about our own future all of us across the country and across the world we do know some very clear things about the virus at this point right if you change absolutely nothing in your society and your behavior and the way things happen you continue life as usual the virus will ravage you and it will run rampant. We know that we saw this. We saw outbreaks around the world. We have been seeing it here in meat packing plants across the country. We've seen it in veterans homes nursing right that much we do know what we've legitimately just don't really know though is what happens now with the virus like what does it do with a modified version of normal in the big question is with modified physical distancing and mask wearing and policies in place that can we keep the virus oppressed even if we do not implement some kind of aggressive program of testing and tracing and contact tracing and quarantine and all that stuff moves virologists. I have talked to you and I talked to a number that most public health officials think. No probably not that. We're going to see the the virus come back. We'll see outbreaks in places like Georgia Texas and Florida and man. That does look appealing to say like normal life in the sunshine in spring is that they are taking on a very high level of risk with a very uncertain future. And here's the other thing. It may work out. I mean we honestly don't know I hope literally hope it does but if there are two things that we have learned in this era two lessons we cannot unlearn. Forget one you can elevate the risk of highly unlikely events highly unlikely catastrophes tail risks and you can get away with it for a while until you don't all these actions to reopen aggressively in violation. Often what the says they're high risk but not only are Republicans in the White House and in state capitals ignoring the CDC guidelines. They're even openly going out and attacking. The here's White House Trade Advisor Peter Navarro yesterday on meet the press early on in this crisis the CDC which which really had the most trusted ran around the world in this space really. Let the country down with with the testing. Not only did they. Keep the testing within the bureaucracy. They had a bad test and that did set us back. That is a fascinating clip. Because he's he's correct the CDC screwed up enormously Donald Trumps. The trump admit like some foreign satellite that landed in like took over the response. It's in the trump administration. We do not know exactly what the new normal looks like but then there is a chance of something bad happening. Say It's one in one hundred and you increase it to one in ten. That's really dangerous. But there's still a likelihood you can avoid at one in ten chance. And that's basically the risk of society wide collapse. During the trump era from the day that he was inaugurated right. We managed to get by almost four years with out something catastrophic at this scale right this incalculable scale there have been catastrophes. Hurricane Maria and other places at the border but something of this scale we escape three and a half years but it doesn't mean the risk was not there the whole time and look at where we are now so the other thing we've learned right which we absolutely cannot forget. Is that when the head of a government sends a signal that they quote like the numbers where they are that they think they're going down when they pegged their own political fortune and what they perceive as economic fortune to the virus? Not being that bad to being on the precipice of going away that has tangible effects for the way that actors within the government. Behave the real risk right. Now that maybe showed up in that good faith error in Georgia. Right we don't know. Was it intentional or not? Is that when you governor sending the message throughout the governor to the people in their bureaucracies that we're open for business governors who do not want to hear about another outbreak right. That's contrary to the message that is dangerous as dangerous message to send to people joined now by Pulitzer Prize winning science journalist and Health Policy Analyst. Laurie Garrett and I wanted to start on that point. Because it's something you've written about and thought about about this sort of ways in which governments heads of state send messages formerly and informally about the virus and the dangers of sending the message. Like we're open for business. This is behind us now. Let's sort of look on the bright side. I don't WanNa hear any. Debbie Downer is about this and what that could do actual policy. Well you know this weekend. I had the rude awakening of riding my bike around Brooklyn I of course wearing my mask and gloves and seeing a city that was starting to really say A. We don't want to go with lockdown anymore. It was like Mardi Gras kids out in the streets in huge numbers. No masks getting drunk and it was a giant party scene and I I had the opposite reaction as you were just describing about seeing opening I felt fearful and I think that one of the things we're seeing is that the talk about opening up seems to negate even mentioning masks. Do you open up but still wear a mask. Do you throw the mask away. Similarly do keep washing your hands all the time or are you just say at a heck with it. It's all over. The virus is not all over in fact if you look at national data right now and you take out of the data set New York City. The immediate tristate area Detroit and New Orleans. What you're left with is a graph. It looks like this straight up skyrocketing no slowdown whatsoever. This downward Kerr they keep showing is really the downward curve of New York and since New York is such a huge percentage of the total number of national cases. It skews the data. So I mean I guess the response to that when we think about places like Texas Florida in Georgia right. I mean the the big question is what what where's that curve going is that there has been a lot more testing right so even in places where cases are going up we are seeing percentage positive. Be Sort of driven down. Even in places like Texas and Florida. Which are the cause of some concern? I wonder if you're skeptical of that. Maybe as a metric I mean you. You sound concerned about the trajectory of this virus. Outside the places that have been hot spots in places like Texas Georgia Florida etc. I am concerned. There's some new cellphone. Data that shows that demonstrators have went to protest against lockdowns In some cases cross state lines went as much as two hundred miles in order to attend without masks in tight. Conditions these protests. And now we're starting to see the ability to actually track which viral subtypes individuals are infected with and do the epidemiological tracing it if John was say Dallas protesting and then drove back to Lafayette Louisiana. we can tell if John Becomes infected. Did he get a strain? That's now in circulation? Lafayette or did he get a strain. He picked up and Dallas and brought home with him. And all this kind of work can now be done if there's a will to do it if there's a will to pay for the Science and fund this kind of research and I think it's fundamental. This is what we call contact tracing. And it's another way of doing contact tracing by tracking the genomic sequences around it's like a fingerprint of the virus itself and what fingerprint is in me may not reflect Whitson Brooklyn. Maybe this is the fingerprint of Miami and I just got off a plane from Florida so one of the one of the things that strikes me about this moment and we were talking about Brooklyn and the scenes. That people sort of out in the street is that I think it's maintaining this sort of social sense that we're all engaged in this struggle for a long-term is a hard thing to do but the danger of that that binary thing that you're identifying and I think that came through the Georgia article too and I don't think this is a specific thing that specific to people with some kind of politics in some region of the country. I think this is fairly universal which is like. Oh phew that's over like we're out of locked and if we do that then we're screwed. I mean that's the dangerous thing right like we can get some version of normal if we carry with us all these Hagia things but if we sort of say like that was a long ten weeks or that was a long two months like we're back. That's the most dangerous thing. Well look at China. I mean they've done. They did the most extensive locked down on the planet. They declared victory and now they've got three outbreaks and they've put another eleven million people in testing a many millions. More in back in lockdown and I think every single country is starting to realize this is coming in waves. You got to build up a system an infrastructure that can see each wave as deriving do the proper contact tracing to figure out who needs to be in quarantine or locked down. So you don't have to do the entire society you target it. You do smart testing smart targeting and you wait it out and then when that ceases spreading you can all go back to normal for a while but you gotta know there's GonNa be another round and another round and another round. We are in for a very long haul. And just last week. The chiefs scientist-in-charge epidemic response at World Health Organization. Said something that I've been saying for now three months which is that. There's a very high probability that this virus is going to end up going endemic meaning meaning. It will be a permanent feature in the human landscape just like HIV. An if we get to that stage we must adapt all our behavior accordingly. We can't I don't think..
"two month" Discussed on Dateable Podcast
"We interviewed a startup founder on the show and his whole was. I sleep on my couch at at the office. I'm married to my company. My kids are my employees. I'M NOT GONNA get into relationships. Not a priority. First of all we air the episode like fifty women reach out to him was like I could change your mind. He's our most reached out to guest of a the one that's like I don't want to release. Yeah like flat out by then. Two years later he is. He's now married. Okay now that but when we interview that Lee interviewed him After the fact and we asked what changed and he said this I think is the most interesting takeaway from which was he felt at the time relationships would be a burden or they would distract him from his goals in his dreams but when he met his now wife she actually added to that. She empowered him to pursue his career and his passions. She never dragged him down. She lifted him up even more. Yeah for me exactly what it is. I'm still getting over my divorce. I was married for a hot minute and minute. Two months bullock two months literally we. We barely sent out the thank you cards after our wedding. She's bringing up the divorce and she can even say it she. So we've got buried in September and all are are real honeymoon. We had you know trips and weekenders afterwards but this year this was two thousand fourteen okay. This is not this year so much better like this happened last week filed last week. I lift your show this. We had guys dating for dating or the skin into this. We use for a year and a half before I proposed and we were living together for most of that time. We're both korean-american About the same age. How'd you meet? We met we met through actually. Pk reading your entrance was in some ways. That's kind of actually true. She pay for your breast implants. A-minus cups bladed What happened was So I grew up Christian But I left the church and Similar to Piquet we so we have this. Overlap of talking about are grown up religious but now religious anymore. He invited me to meet up. That's for people who are trying to leave the church. Leave the faith. How and that's how I met my ex. She was also there. So we had a lot of things in common being korean-american around the same age very overbearing parents on both trying to leave the church in the convert ourselves so we had a lot of fun discussions early on and we started dating and we we fell in love pre much right away at the time. I was switching careers. I was trying to be a realist. I was a real estate agent But I'm just not good salesman Apart do you want to know? Where are you going to come back? Yeah it's not good at all. Don't mind the rights there's just neighborhoods roommates. Yes roommates roommates We and then we got a little puppy dog and we're living together. Having a lot of fun traveling I proposed and we got married got married about two years into being together once we got married and I was kind of still kind of struggling as a real estate agent. I wasn't doing that well. Commission job is brutal Absorb for me is trying to get my head off just like head in the clouds like love my wife my my new bride but at same time trying to as a man is like. How do I fix this mess about like? I'm not making that much doe here. I gotTa bring home the Bacon you know. Got A like a a pressure. Prove might prove my worth you know Especially as a new husband is like I figure this out got a free. So do I keep on doing this or do I just back out in something else? That's the knock on me that I was just I. I wasn't really going at it. Objectively and pragmatically eligible dragging my feet in this process when someone else was materially involved the knock on her what she didn't give me enough time Two months we barely think sent thank you cards to our wedding gusts. She's like you want to go to our honeymoon friends. I'm like we are friends. Like what do you mean friends like? No YOU WANNA go John. Hayman as friends. I'm like way what sit down. Let's talk what do you mean is fresh just like I don't know if we're meant to be? What are you talking about? We just got married so that just went down nice rabbit hole. We barely eked out the honeymoon. Who is the worst trip? Ever dig on the honeymoon did go on a honeymoon saw quote we cannot believe which we just thought we didn't follow yet but we just thought we we back up for because this is exploiting the communication staff also much she was just like we're gonNA like quicko France. She never brought up like she was there any literally was asking me. Can we follow divorce and still go on honeymoon together? But she never brought up like. I'm feeling this or like can we like talk about a lot of fights about finances. We had a lot of fights then discussion. But you fought. We bought more than we discussed. And when we discussed it was very hard negotiations. So it's all about finances you think that was the demise this we were not good for each other in the sense that not just like we weren't working on ourselves trying to prove but I like to go hang out and just act a fool and drink and have fun right. She has some level of social anxiety. She does not like drinking. She does not like living in this adventurous thing I have. She has a very stable career for me is like oh. It's everything's adventure. Life is experiment. Let's figure this out. I don't know maybe just opposites attract. You know so for two years at worked for two years. We had a great time. Were you fighting while you were dating? But once we got engaged once that rock singer she got into different boat why not. I didn't realize that finance to like it became like this is about both of us. Were when you're dating. It's your finance your dad different. It's different it's tough. We also interviewed a divorce lawyer on our show and he said I'll surface level. Most couples get divorced because of finance or because of X. Sacks lack of stacks but he said those to actually go way deeper into a much much more prevalent issue in a relationship and it's beyond sex and finances those are like kind of the consequences. Sofer's level easy things to point to you but everything goes down way deeper. Yeah and I. I don't know I don't know exactly what it is. I I've Four or five years move removed from that and for me. I'm still like trying to figure out what really what happened. There you know so. She filed for divorce after the honeymoon. So afterwards we're just trying to get along to get along but then like my career wasn't going so well at all. She just had it you know so. She broke down. I'm just like because she. She needed me to be on board. She wouldn't do it all by herself. She needed meet me onboard with the whole separation process. So I was like okay fine. Let's Stewart it's a sunk cost. Let's just let's just move on. Let's eat you go your way Michael. How many months after you got married? I was pretty much a year on the on the dog beyond finance. She never brought up. What like it was solely finances. She talked about there was nothing else brought out. She's like if you just had a meager salary. Like I be happy with that and for me. I had a tough because we fought so much over that I had a talked by improving. What what she said you don't think he's. I don't think it's a meager. Well this is what we also here in relationships too because people think they're these milestones that will save your relationship. Oh we if we need this much money. We'd be happy if we had a kid we'd be happy and when they reach these milestones through all in my head while called that like what we think of marriage and happily ever after is is what I call a promotion that never arrived like especially growing up Asian American out religious conservative families. Everything right family is the church So it's like for meet. My Dad is just obsessed instill. It's about me getting on the only son to me getting married and have kids and all that so that's just like an all these steps but what I experience with my ex just like no. That's just it's never enough. It's not enough very almost like it's not a not a knock on her. Just the the wiring within us on you know and for me. It's like yeah I know it's not enough. I have to get ahead to keep on climbing the ladder after giving boba grant like it was really interesting for me. It's a shock and I was just soul became a little creek monsters when she would say these things while we're finding because what we need a car. I'm like we live in New York City. We don't need a car. We have right. I have a ZIPCAR membership. We can this right there at the garage. Why do you need to travel? What do you mean we just got back from a trip? What do you mean why are you fighting about? We're talking about our matrimony here. You're talking about traveling. Like what are you? What are you talking about so I realized that you know People can get not just woman but meant to definitely like people can get into. This weird's deep very odd. The awkwardly personal very personal very deep things the heat in a moment when you're fighting but it's all hard to bring out an and talk about because they can a lot of people can't talk about eve address it even to themselves let alone two yard because we don't have the tools to do so if you didn't know how to describe colors you know read was read you just describing his just like this thing right in. Looks like this and you can't use the words. It's really frustrating. This is why babies cry right. 'cause they can't describe what they're what they're trying to tell you and I think for her behavior to say we need a car you travel. It could all be routed down to. I'm feeling trapped. I'm feeling lonely feeling secure. I'm not feeling but she didn't have the tools and I have the tools to. Hey I understand that. Stability particularly financial stability is very important to you just got engaged or we just got married a woman because for me. I'm not going to go to a job for the sake of bringing home the Bacon for me. Whatever I do for a living and how living is what. That's that's me that link intertwined I need to be a hundred ten percent of what I do. I can't just phone it in so however we're going to reconcile these two. I had the tool and people are very different with that stuff. Like some people are all about just like having a stable lifestyle. Did you ever talk about that like while you were dating before you got engaged? Time to take a quick break for our sponsor some basket honestly. It gives me so much anxiety to cook healthy and delicious meals on a regular basis. And that's exactly why I end up eating out half the time and not good but I feel like I finally found my soulmate with Sun Basket. A service that delivers organic premeasured ingredients with quick healthy recipes. Right to
"two month" Discussed on Dateable Podcast
"<div bis_skin_checked="1">Season 10 Episode 1: Taking Sexy Back</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:00:00 - 00:05:01</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">The Dateable podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that the Huffington post calls one of the top ten podcast about love and sex. On each episode, we'll talk to real daters about. From sex parties to sex droughts, date fails a diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host Yue Xu, former dating coach turned dating sociologists. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Krafchick as we explored this crazy dateable world. Hey everyone welcome to another episode of dateable a show all about modern dating season ten. I can't believe we made it to double digits. I can't believe we started season. One just on a whim with our friends and our on season ten with with people who are now our new friends but you know they weren't our friends to begin with no and I. It's so crazy that we've been at it for like four solid solid years. It's got I got to say. This is one of my most committed relationships. I've ever been duly. Even though we joke about us be like lesbian lovers. I really feel like this is a whole new level relationship before I mean people say like you really should date like anyone that becomes a business partner. Yes that is like ends up being marriage and I think for anybody who's curious about how we work I think it's we've both evolved so much in the last ten seasons sounds almost five years that I don't even recognize US anymore. From the you know from the beginning I got now I was like relisting to a couple of old one in it. It's it's actually quite amazing in their great in different ways like I think there was something really nice but our episodes really twenty minutes. They were very short and they were very conversational patients. which was fun? And we've heard a lot of people loving that but we've just got in much deeper over the years and I guess in the beginning I never thought about what I would take away from dateable. I wish I really thought we were GonNa talk about funny dating stories and maybe discuss dating in different cities. Oh Yeah I didn't realize how narrow minded I was in in the beginning but it's nice to have some self awareness around it totally and I think that actually is what has kept us going. People always are like. Are you going to run out of material. Never it's there's always something new with modern day dig. I see our inbox because every day. There's something new I actually. You feel badly that we can't reply to as Mariah people because it's just yet there's so many stories out there and that's why in season ten we wanted to bring you more we want the CNN season and we want this to be a very memorable season because you know hitting double digits. It's a big deal so in the last few months. We had a few first Chris Times for the first time. Live imprison shows in San Francisco and Cenex Sherry pop we did a few of first streaming streaming live shows. Yeah different than they facebook live. But we'll keep doing more of those and you've really really catch them on facebook. Live to if you miss them but we had some really good ones because we used a platform called vocal where you could actually have listeners. Mike Up Enjoying the conversations of superfund is have fans and listeners honors that we don't know at all just be on the video screen with us and we're going to bring all equipment to south by southwest again this year one of our favorite. 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This is on the romance and dating relationship space so we talked to them just thought it was a really great fit for us and we're really excited to see what the share bring flip them and it is also is a great community for us to be part of yeah so excited to bring some the continuity half on their network to you all that you might find interesting and it. Also you know Speaking Validation Immune love us as much we love you. Can you please just leave us a review or tele friend about dateable because this this is how we can keep on bringing you the content that you love. Yeah that is I think the only real asked we have if you keep listening yourself. A women's situation trust us. There's no gimmick here so in all of this because we're ready for I own. It's so good. We we have a repeat guests. Yeah her her name is Dr Alexandra. Solomon if you remember. She was on a previous episode. Cub Marriage Wanna one. She teaches one of the most popular classes at northwestern. University waitlisted every Salva Julie's cousin knows yeah she actually. She wasn't in it but her friends were yet but she also knows she knows that superpac actually went to northwestern. Yeah yes and so this episode. We have her back because she has come out with a new book and she talks about how to own your sexuality whether you have a partner or not not. That's the key phrase. Yeah I think it's just like when Shit will when her publicist came to us again. First of all we just love episode Marriage WanNa one I think for both of us us. People are always like. Oh you guys are dating experts and we definitely know a lot about day. They relationships because we've talked to so many people but I personally don't believe anyone is like an expert. No now we're we're learning every day and I personally think for me marriage WANNA one was probably one of the ones. I learned the most come because like her the dollars that she she was like every relationship has conflict. I think I personally took yet to heart because I think we're always looking for the perfect relationship and something that's it's easy and all that and it shouldn't be so hard but also like you're you have to work at it too and the fact that her class is one of the most popular classes for undergrads. Yeah at northwestern speak so much about what is happening in our culture today right like eighteen nineteen twenty year olds are thinking about marriage origin how to have successful relationships. We keep shitting on younger generations. I decided to step back and say maybe the young people have figured out yet. They're learning I think when I cur publicists came to us again for this episode this whole notion of Saxon like we all know about sex. Obviously but like how would you describe Eh. You didn't like it so I think it's so hard it's like obviously love sex but I can't put into words a lot of stuff right or people. Oh feel like they have to love sex because it's supposed to give Geezer but I also know people who struggle with loving Saturday had many bad. Yeah Yeah I think it's like we touch on this in the episode but what people how people learn about sex sex sad which means you don't have sex like I was thinking of mean girls. It's like you will have not actually is like that. It's like it's just was bad about sex and then porn like yeah. I think I heard a stat. Actually that boys that are eight to twelve are using porn exclusively the learn about sex you I know it is because then it also skews with real. Yeah on the actual bedroom there was some other stat and I'm kind of butchering the stats. That there was something about like how most men mastery to porn and like a lot of men were have it masturbated without porn since they were like twelve and these were like forty men now in.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:10:03 - 00:15:05</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">It's just completely distorts sexuality for you and your partner so now a good time to ask askew our listener. How did you first hear about sex or learn about sex? And the last time you masturbated what was the material that you masturbated to just this do questions to keep in mind as we play our first episode with Dr Alexandra Salomon I love repeat guests. Yes yes especially for a season opener. I don't repeat ex-boyfriends but I love Repeat Gazette Awesome. It's worth having a guest on for the second time we've got Dr Alexandra Solomon with us again. We talked about marriage WANNA one last time when she was on our show. And this time we're GONNA be talking about sex so she just released a new book called taking sexy back. A came out February second and and we are about to embark on this journey of how to talk about sex. I think in our culture we show sex. We fantasize about sex. But we don't actually talk about it and there's a lot of like shame in just from an early age things about sex that you've been taught and I think what I really loved about your book Alexandra. Sandra were obviously dive a lot. More in with you is just. How do we take what we've learned in really make it work for current day? Hi Alexandra how are you so good to be back with both of you. Thank you for joining us. She lives in Chicago originally from Detroit. She's in her mid forties and married aide. So I'm just going to quickly go over. Who she s in case you missed the first episode? We had with her. She's a professor in licensed. Clinical psychologist who has been specializing in sex love of intimate relationships. For over twenty years she just individual and couples therapy teaches a globally recognized undergraduate relationship course and northwestern university called Marriage WanNa on a one and that's exactly how we found her in the first place she's also an author of the book loving bravely and now taking sexy back which came out that second so again. We're here to talk about taking sexy back and how to own your sexuality and Creek the relationships you want so first off. What is besides Justin Timberlake? Thought of taking sexy back which I listened to that song like six times this morning and I was like what. What does that even mean the anthem? Dr Alexander isn't taking your sexy back. What does that mean to you so the idea here that we're what we're doing in this book is is that women are very highly sexualize? We are given a lot of messages as we're growing up about who we should be and how it should be and hand media highly sexualize women but being sexualize very different than being sexual. So book is about Really Supportive Journey from what I call an outside in experience with your sexuality would just sort of like who everyone has told you you should be or you need to the moving towards an inside out like cultivation of A. What the hell? What is my sexuality who is this like sexual south I you know I have? It's been part of. It's part of all of us. It's part of being human as to have this aspect of south But it's not one that we're really encouraged encouraged to define for ourselves or cultivate. Essence that is uniquely ours to understand and then to figure out how to share to own on your own sexuality is such an interesting concept to mean because I've always grown up with the idea that the media owns bisexual in the media dictate paid in what I shall find pleasurable would orgasm is and I never thought about going inwards. Yeah warring what my sexuality is so. was there anything living in particular for you. That inspired you to write this book right. I think it's true like that's a really interesting place for for a woman to start kind of like her exploration of like who am the sexual beating is a really interesting place who owned my sexuality thing sometimes it feels like it belongs to the church more to the family right sort of like you know your family's honour. oftentimes times is sort of seen as a a woman second down sexuality sort of belongs to the family system to be given away like there's all kinds of ways in which it belongs to. Everybody thought you. It's no coincidence. That women oftentimes feel really disconnected from this part of themselves. Because we really haven't had like a whole lot of science to understand and women's sexuality so a lot of the inspiration here was basically the fact that I year after year was having conversations with my students both my college students in my graduate students ends about sex and having woman after woman say to me like I don't really ever think about my pleasure I don't really ever consider like what do I want or need or people the saying coming up to me after lecture and being like I've not heard sex talk about in this way.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:15:05 - 00:20:01</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">The only way I've ever heard sex talk about is like don't do it sinful. It's dangerous Ad It's dirty and this is a new paradigm trying to figure out. How can we talk about sex? That is neither like a taboo at one extreme. Or as you're saying like sort of titillating like sex as something that is selling products or like you know leading to downloads of more and more and more pornography like. It's sort of like extremes of taboo relation think porn gives men unrealistic expectations of like how to please and and women unrealistic expectations of what they should be doing to police. I think that's for sure risk. Yes I saw when I talk about pornography like with my students for example I will encourage people to have experiences of masturbating without pornography. I think there can be like a time and a space for using erotic materials. They can sort of be permission. Giving I think there's really beautiful people who are creating early feminist pornography. Where were you feel like you're accessing something that was created with Karen Integrity where performers were paid while we are story lines are really supportive of the kinds of things that research has shown tone women actually like you know so? It's not that we can like paint all foreign with a one rod rush but yes. I think that is for sure the rest. I've heard uh-huh and I'm sure you guys here are more than I do about just stories where people but imagine there for the first time and they're like trying to kind of recreate a porn scene that foreigners. Pretend it's it's fantasy and I think that I love how we have worn performance. Now who are saying you know. We're kind of becoming like public health. You know specialists in a way and saying like you guys describe this isn't what real life love making. Looks like to do in your own bedroom with. I'm doing onscreen. I am making fantasy storyline entertainment. Entertainment right yeah. What do you guys think about that? Do you think it is shaping how people are actually showing up in the bedroom. I think people show up in the bedroom anymore. I think people come to the bedroom and just expect A. We're going to have sex and that it's GonNa be great and we're going to enjoy it but I don't think people know how to deliver our pleasure and Hal even define what pleasure is for themselves. I have a friend who had her first sexual experience at in her late twenties recently and she said it was exactly how I did not expect sex to go. She said was so opposite of what she had seen porn which she had heard from France what she heard her neighbors doing late at night that she thought she was an anomaly. Yeah I didn't scream at the top of my lungs I didn't orgasm and also I didn't go down on him because I didn't know what I was supposed to do when I was down there so she had a lot of these experiences at a later or even that she had no idea how she was even supposed to show up for her partner. I think that's the problem though is like when you feel like you should be doing. I think it's goes beyond porn. Like I think it just media in general and just what you've learned through talking to friends and Lake hearing their stories and like you feel like you're different. That's when things get problematic and I think for me personally. I thought what was really interesting about your book because you actually put a lot of names to feelings and I think think a lot of times we can't really describe how we view our own sexual selves sling zags. But I can't really explain like what I'm doing how I'm feeling being like it's just a little bit of `Nigma away there's no vocabulary and faster and harder. Yeah about it exactly and like even some stuff in in your book. I thought was super interesting. Like you were talking about like how some people are just like wired to go at any time where other people need to be like more on the mood in sometimes that because a lot of like disconnects in relationships too when you and your partner are different but you don't know how to express it explain that in all right just we. I had this conversation I was a CS earlier this year and same sex tech was huge and why so huge because back in the day sex products were created by men then vibrators essentially created by men. That just gives you this vibrating. Feeling that consistent that is that you off somehow because because men do not understand how the clip works in fact women do not understand how the Clinton I just learn how it works and how. It's not just a knob that you just keep impressing. It's not one of those. It's a a wishbone shaped a around the KNOB that that is the clip. That's your entire clique. I did not. It was mind mind-blowing challenges a even seeing images like seeing that. I still don't really know how it works. But em- porn is just constant then pressure on that.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:20:01 - 00:25:12</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">Nah and that's supposed to get you off. Honestly that doesn't get me off. It just makes me on a p the part with this. We've talked about it because I recommend to you the magic wand way do you know what the magic wand and I guess I do tap Tommy experienced like node vibrator of all times shoe congas. Okay so what am I. Friends recommended it to be and I was like I used it and I loved it in definitely got off and then I recommended to you a and she's like it did nothing to me. I'm just like a back scratcher. Oh no I actually I use it for a win. It's intended to do for my kids that I bring this up is because everyone's body is just different in like certain things react different ways to them in. I think sometimes like in porn or just again and media doesn't have to be just porn if you don't do something or you don't like something something. There's something wrong something wrong with you. Yeah and for all the people. I'm not to sing men 'cause some women don't know this either Google the magic wand this is Google has been godmother vibe radius. For this time it was like what every woman has and came. Seem to me as almost guarantee. You're going to get off if you get the magic wand and it's aptly named a magic wand it did nothing for me and it made me feel like there was something along with me also I was like. Am I supposed to stick Emmy Company. I John Orman so I think that's a good segue because 'cause I think beyond just that there's a lot of stories that we've been told like for example. Men Always WanNa have sex like anytime any day. They're ready to go. And I know like a lot of times. Sometimes we have our producer shaking his head right now. No but then also I know I've been with ex-boyfriends and such they're like I'm not in the mood in the new GATT insulted because you have the stereotype in your mind like how do we kind of detail ourselves from some of these stories absolutely. Well what you I mean. What we're talking about is first step is feeling like you have permission to expand the story like this idea like the magic wand got me off but not you off or the magic wand got me off on Tuesday today but not Thursday just trading that treating any of that as like a data point to be curious about rather than an entire ear narrative that now dictates the entirety of my sexuality you know and so with partner? It's like you're not in the mood but you're a man and you're supposed to be in the mood and if you're a man and you're not in the mood it must be either. You are broken or I am broke. Who's broken and that's where it goes versus hearing your partners not in the mood and being curious about it because of what's going on in what does that stir up in me like that's the self awareness part is what happens to me when you aren't in the mood and it becomes then it makes so much sense it becomes a story about my worth because I'm a woman which means Ivan tool that my value is in how I I look in a man's eyes how desirous I make a man and of I'm not quote Unquote Making with man desirous? Who Am I? What's my work with my values? So it's like that. Little little micro interaction of a male partner. Not In the mood like is an entire reflection of like the patriarchy in that moment. And that's what I just kept playing. I'm back again and again and the book is how much these really narrow stories about. Men are women are really limit us and that's and that's it for our LGBTQ Dt Q.. Plus friends and people in our world as well it's like these stories that just narrow down our sexual selves which are in in fact I- sexual selves are like really dynamic unfolding changelings. Whatever you think you have figured out to refigure it out you know in this new relationship up or now that you're in your thirties your forties era seventies? Whatever so it's like it's that's that's that it's everything's bigger than the stupid little thin narrow stories stories that our culture tells us and on the flip side of that as men feel shame and they're they're inapt when they are not in the mood mood and they can't have sex the drop time because it's like oh I'm a man I'm supposed to WANNA have sex every second every day? That makes me a less of a man and I don't yeah I mean I think in general. There was a definitely an overarching theme of the book of just shame in sacks like why do you think there's so MacShane in our culture when it comes to sex. Let's take a pause for mental health and our partner better health. Mental health is so important. Because it's what affects our daily lives especially when it comes dating now with Valentine's Day right around the corner it's a holiday that conjures up all sorts of emotions for people me included now with better help. It is much easier to find online counseling and find an outlet to discuss your journey and check in with yourself better helps counselors specialize in depression relationships trauma trauma and many other areas.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:25:12 - 00:30:04</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">Everything stays confidential between you and your counselor with thousands of licensed therapist. You're sure to find one who was the best fit for you for dateable listeners. Only get ten percent off your first month with Discount Code dateable simply go to better help dot com slash dateable. Fill out a questionnaire to help assess is your needs and get match with a counselor again. That's better health dot com slash dateable and use the Code Dat AB L. E. for ten percent off your first mud mud now back to the show like why do you think there's so much. Shame in our culture when it comes to sex and it really is our culture because when we look At I mean lots of parts of the world have to but there are like I love looking at what's happening like in the Netherlands for example where sex education. You know it's part of every here and start talking to parents and teachers talking to kids about Adis and touch and it's just woven into the conversation and my favorite story is. There's a museum like sort of Science Museum where there's a whole area like the signs of sex and it's designed for you know older kids like young preteens and teens where you go in. And there's puppets and you can make the puppets French kiss. There's this huge jar looks like seaman here into it. There's different it's sort of like thank you know we don't have that in the US. We would never see a large jar of semen in a museum. But when you when we don't I mean and when you look at the data like the the teen pregnancy rate in the Netherlands is a little itty bitty fraction of what it is here in the US. The S. T. arrate in Netherlands is a fraction of what it is here so it just me shows that when we take very puritanical shame loaded attitude attitude about sex it just creates conditions for abuse. It creates the conditions for like. You know just all the nasty stuff we're trying to avoid happens and when we act like we can't talk about this when we get Pearl Clutch. E as my as my publicist says and that's basically what we talked about on on the last episode but we had you on Where sex education has always been about sex prevention meaningless? It so taboo. To have unprotected sex your the guest he is. You're going to get pregnant but sex education should be about also how to have sex and why we have sex why it should be pleasurable and remember this right to hold about my virgin friend. WHO said I need to just figure out my own vagina right now because nobody ever taught me how to figure it out so before right actually give out my virginity trying to figure out my own shit and it's it's just fantastic to hear this because there are cultures who are are very progressive in the way they see sex and we are seeing the results of that and the benefits so hopefully we can follow Su yen? I think that is why there's so much shame because we're taught right like don't have sex and no one wants ask questions to their parents. They don't WANNA ask questions to their teachers so therefore like they just feel like there's nowhere to go except for the Internet Julie. Do you remember how you found out about sex well. I don't actually remember asking my parents like how I was brought here. They said the stork brought me abroad. Even kidding so they clearly avoided the time clearly so when did you find out about lean. It's tough I don't really remember what mark did but I think I mean sex at. I do remember that pretty vividly and not I just remembered as really bad videos. We had to watch. Yeah in Gaza. The men and the women were separated which is also problematic and I wonder how schools are doing it this day and age. Because there's just a lot less about gender and gender identity entity is much more fluid but I also like why did we have to sit in separate rooms because I think it actually would have been useful to know how the male anatomy work a bit more it would. It would just Greece so much. Compassion like opportunities for a compassion. About you know these poor guys who get Boehner's in the math class don't forget to understand the nature of period like what they are. They're not here are not foreign but when we create what we do like we almost create like contempt across the gender align right about his bodies. We don't understand do things you can't even relate to and it would just create so much more inclusivity for all of everybody who doesn't fit neatly into that the fact that five percent of JT teens have positive representations and health education see LGBT sexuality with positive representations nations in their sex ED is criminally. That is problematic. Yeah I mean I don't remember the first time like out like I do remember though people Like we were just saying like boys getting Boehner's and women like getting cheered going.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:30:05 - 00:35:03</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">I remember like poor girl like got her period on her chair and was like the most more man thing and no one could really explain it of one just laughed and in both cases in terms of sacks. I know for me. I don't I think it was just through like friendly. Hundley camp talking to other people but wait for me. I was definitely like a more of a leap wounded. Really have a ton of sexual experiences in high school because it just wasn't something that I talked about ever with. My family was like very much a topic. That was off limits. What about you I feel like I was probably in fourth or fifth grade and we were on the playground and this was before I found about found out about a regular sex I was taught? What a sixty nine and was Andrew Mansur for me on the playground and said this is what sexes and bats? My first exposure to sack acts. I was like a very precarious position. Okay interesting and then we went into sex ED. I was actually questioning the teacher. Are you sure this is that should have been an early sign that you were going to do this. podcast should be facing the other way at this point they let me show you book. It goes everything about sex in fourth grade. They also English is my second language. How you ask? I didn't even know vocabulary to explain what is being but I just kept raising my hand asking is this is right so I really good segue too because I think even twenty twenty we actually did a live show a couple like obe job in December and I remember one of the last questions we got from a woman was. Is it okay to sleep with a man on the first date or like the first time. Were you so surprised. The price was really surprised. And I did want to like bring it up to you to because I think it's at were talking about like. Why is there still all that stigma in twenty twenty Right right I mean the way that the way we talk about in the book a little bit is that it's It's like this new. It's a a new kind of sexual revolution right. So there is like permission now to have sacked but what I really. The question like is really not one that I want her. To ask anybody else it really would would be. And what were the conditions be. That would help me know that I actually really. I'm excited to put a bed with the person regardless of it's the it's the first day or the fifth date of the twentieth mutate like. That's the question right. She's asking it as an outside in question league's new. Please give me permission bursts more interesting conversation. That's about how. How do I know when I'm really enthusiastic to share to create an experience with somebody else in this way? That's that's the really important interesting question. And and that's revolutionary by revolutionary to be like. What do I want how do I know? And how do I ask because really what I want women to be able to inquire about is how do I know this can be a partner. WHO's really ready to meet me in the space of deep the CO creation and play? And you know taking our time. I'm and following sensation because that's what when the Gal who's trying to figure out her vagina which is trying to figure out is how to follow a sensation right to notice the sensation inside of my body which WanNa pay attention to how to grow them how to invite my partner to help me grow them. And that's that's a very different way of doing it. Then like checking behaviors off less than we did this. We sixty nine that matters less than being able to be like. I really want to have situation where we're each kind of just is playing with what feels good and how to grow that you know yes I think that's like exactly I mean that is kind of what we said in there some clever that's valid validated. But it was around like what is going to work for you like what is going to make you feel good about yourself and your sexuality and I think there is so much of this emphasis of like date one date three and like all that really is arbitrary and I love this idea of like what is comfortable for me. Not what do I think this person is going to think of me because of this well I want to add one thing. which is you know this whole thing about like which date it's on kind of also means we're focusing on that aren't talking about the fact that sometimes first sexual experience variance within with a new partner sock not because they're a quote unquote bad lover? But because we have to like kind of feel our way into each other right we have to. We have to establish rush like a rhythm and a flow and a chemistry dynamic. So I think sometimes that's a that's a challenge in the dating world is that they rule out potential partner because the first sachs ax is lousy on a spectrum right so we shouldn't really lousy sacks. Sometimes it made us be that everyone's feeling a little awkward and you know it takes a while to establish like this base the trust that helps us take risks yet.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:35:03 - 00:40:00</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">I think it's it goes into this idea of sex is not just a one time act. It's it's the opening for communication. It's almost like when you first say hello to someone on the phone and then you continue that conversation you let that conversation evolve and I. I think what we talked about in. This discussion was really alarming. To me about this question was we were not owning our own narratives. I think by her asking this question Why is it okay to sleep with someone on first state? Her narrative was already if I sleep with someone on the state. They won't take seriously. So how do we get that back and say I'm going to change the narrative because I'm going to change the way people have told me about sleeping with someone too fast because that's not what I'm trying to own here. branly is like like a power dynamics. I think that's really the root of what you're saying too is like the way it's being viewed is. I'm giving away something to sharing a mutual ritual beneficial experience. That's going to bring me closer to a partner and make me connect with someone right and the reality is that a man wouldn't ask that question in the same way at around. What is she gonNA think of me if I sleep with her? On the first date. And that means that it means that a man is uncut off from his his his storyline. The storyline he's been told is like you just have to figure out how far you can get right. And that's the idea that you're the pursuer and she's the gatekeeper. So you just kind of go go until you're told not to. It's a ridiculous message to give man cuts them off from being able to ask a question of themselves. Like what do I really want and need a sexual experience and I had a good friend. Friend of mine was talking about like when he was in the sort of hookup world. He was really struggling with like a reptile function. Like he did not. It was really hard for him to get and maintain an erection in in these kind of random hookups and he felt a lot of shame about that and he said I had this moment where I realized that my penis and my heart are connected. Aw what the Hell is wrong with our culture like to be twenty seven year old man. WHO's you know before you realize that your peanuts in your heart are connected like we aren't giving voice voice the message that they deserve to really go slowly and take their time and figure out what they want and need and what makes them feel good because we're bombarded them with they get bombarded with this message that their value as a man is about how far they can get with a woman? It's just it's just disgusting awful you know I- over a in years eve. I sat with a group man. We just ended up hanging out and talking about sex and came up as the only girl in group and the question was what do you think when a girl sleep with you on the first date and all the guys across the board said I would like it. I would assume she did this with all the other men. I would think that she was easy and I think that she didn't take us seriously. So we went in a little bit deeper and we carried on the conversation. A little bit longer are saying 'cause I asked him. What is you sleeping with a girl? I'm for state saying about you. And at the end the result of this conversation was many of them actually felt that if a girl sleeps with me on the first date it would mean I would have to perform at a level that would compete with all the other men men. She's been well so became more about them than her interest learn. I don't want to be the loser in the situation so I rather remove myself solve interesting. That facet they all the fact that they put that into voice in a space with each other and with you is huge huge. Because you're right. It's so easy to deflect it onto her and what's wrong with her and you in by them to peel back a layer and look at what is it like for you to enter that space with somebody right off the bat and what you found is there's a shit ton of vulnerability there. Yeah and and for men and and we need to move the world where men can talk about that with each other than that like that just is so detoxifying. The gives me chills. What a beautiful? What a beautiful opportunity? They had to be safe out loud that they had not said before or put together. That's huge yeah. And so I ended up sending them invoice for two hundred fifty dollars. I was like your lockup but I wasn't expecting the camera this good stuff this is what. How can we change the conversation? What are some tools we can use now that we can start today? Well one thing I think about a lot is just like parents parents with kids right because at some point we have to just break the cycle in because parents do to their kids. What was done to them around talking about sex and the very like binary a do? This don't do those kinds of terms. That's a huge thing I think is just like you know breaking the big chain around like the generation to generation. But what can we do.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:40:00 - 00:45:01</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">I think a really important thing for women to do is women haven't explored masturbation that don't feel comfortable optimal their bodies like like that whole work on my entire relationship to pleasure do I have. I give myself permission to have pleasure I I. What kind of touch do I like? How do I explore like relate to sort of like physical delight and touch and that oftentimes has to be she has oftentimes especially if she's straight she has to do some of that work just in a room by herself because as soon as she is in a space of the male partner all of the stuff about you know whatever performance even even if he is a partner who has deeply invested in her feeling good? There was a weird way that that can end up feeling like pressure right because now she needs to feel good in order to make him feel good the made her feel. God ends up being double loop so I think a lot of this work has to be just a woman in a room by herself with a candle from soft music resonate with herself. So we've talked a lot about like the shame end of all of this but what what about just like now that you understand your sexual self in your partner and you have totally different sexual Needs and desires like for example. Let's say like one per one person is really indicate in the others more vanilla like is that relationship doomed. Can they work together right. I mean I think he'll probably depend on like how far far on the extremes they each are. I think there is a way that when we when we commit to especially when we committing to something. That's sexually monogamous. If this is not a sexually monogamous situation and then maybe they agree that there are limits to my curiosity and willingness around king and so those are the parts of your south that you take elsewhere but for a couple it really wants to be sexually monogamous. There's this like both and of the vanilla partner. Findings would have their growing edges and how they can expand in ways that feel good to them and feel like they're in the service of their relationship and then they're on the on the king partner side there probably is a you know a bit of grief. I think whenever we whenever we choose whatever we choose in our life inevitably involves a letting go or a grieving so the partner who you know who enjoys kink think but really wants to be with this person. WHO's a bit more vanilla? I think there probably is some grieving and letting go of the life. They aren't too because they didn't choose somebody WHO's as deeply indicate as as they are and I think that's there's an inevitable inevitability around grief and letting go it's different than resentment you know this surrender versus the resentment about it. Like I can't have this part will focus on what we can't have than. We're not going to be cultivating what we actually can have. And the more. We're willing to cultivate like what we can have at our partners available for than that may lead to more expansion and it will help us sort of feel grateful rather than deprived. What about like wooden one partner is like always in the mood in the other feels like they're like initiating Returned yes that is one of the most common sexual. The problems is that desire difference makes total sense because the chances that two people are going to be in the mood at the same amount at the same time the same frequency as like impossible. It's impossible aw so I think there's an inevitability sexually monogamous relationship long-term one it's inevitable that couples are gonna hit that bump in the road around desire difference. What happens happens is that it becomes a huge problem because we get locked into you blame and shame so the higher desire partner either feels ashamed of their the desire or they feel blaming the other person never wanted and why do I always have to be the one? So there's like that sort of blame and shame possible on the higher desire partner side of the street and then a lower desire partner side of the street. They also feel shame. What's wrong with me? Why don't I want it more? Where they can feel blamed like this is ridiculous? Your so demanding. It's like one more thing on my to do you list and so when we get into that like narrative of like it's either my fault or your fault than the problem itself. Actually rose like the distance between them ends up growing versus looking at it like what you know standing shoulder to shoulder like what are we as a couple going to do like looking together. The problem is we'd like different frequencies like what are we as a couple. How are we going to relate to this challenge of desire different? That's an entirely different position analogy that it opens up new possibilities for how you navigate that we can't even get to that place of a collaborative approach like What are we gonna how? How are we going to navigate this because what I want and what you are not the same thing? We can't even get there if we're stock as as often as the case with sacs if we're stuck in shame or were stuck in judgment judgment I have a very specific question about this logistically. Win is the best time to talk about sex with your partner in a way. That's trying to improve improve your sex life.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:45:01 - 00:50:00</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">Let's take a break now for a wonderful partner generation Tux. All you guys out there. Have you ever found yourself needing a Tux but didn't want to spend the time and effort. Finding the right fit. Listen we've talked enough rooms to know there's so much to do right before a wedding and your Tux is the last thing you want to worry about now with generation Tux. You No no longer have to think too much about your Tux. For the big day you simply create your look alike including your grooms party and everything arrived at your doorstep fourteen days before the big day you the even earn a free suit or Tuxedo rental with five paid members or better yet keeping your suit or talks when seven members checkout generation. tux offers a free home. 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Yeah I know I spent some time in the book talking about talking about sex. You know because that because that very thing I think couples to figure out what works for them. Sometimes we come up with all these excuses about one. It's not the right time because we're anxious you know like yeah so if that's what's happening the thing to really address the anxiety and so what can we do to have this. This conversation in a bit of a less intense waiver like versus like we're like staring at each other and so it may be it's done via email My friend astaire parral has this suggestion uses with couples where couples is open a separate email account that is just for conversations. Dixie you know pragmatics and so then it's like it's basically like love letters back and forth and that way each person can really like saver with the person with that their partner is saying and may have some time to like feel a bit less defensive sometimes in conversation we can get really defensive really quickly and here are partners as more critical than they actually are so letter writing or email exchanging can slow things down so I like that intervention a lot. We had a couple that that came on our show did sex journaling. So it's kind of a similar concept it's like let me express how I'm feeling. Let's share it in like an open space together. Lavina and Caleb Yes I know I love. I love their. I'm looking at it right now. It's right here my office. I love their sex journal and it is is on great similarly a neutral space that we both can go to I. This is one of the big big reasons. I'm not a formally trained in sex therapist but I am a couple therapists. Who realizes how much I need to be making space in my therapy office to support conversations about sex and there's been this weird split within the world of relationship therapy where there are sex therapist over there and they have their own conferences and do their own thing on the couple therapists are over here? We have our own conferences and we are on thing and there's kind of the split so it is. It is very likely that a couple will come into a couple's therapist office in the couple's therapist isn't we asked them directly about sacks and so then it's like even in a couple of therapies office. It feels like this topic is taboo and so I was really motivated led to just kind of like invite a bit more curiosity in collaboration. From the couple's therapist part of the world to just be proactive about making space their therapy offices to talk about sex. Even if they aren't formally trained a sex therapist there are still lots of conversations can be had if there are you know significant sexual problems and certainly they need to be referred out but there's a lot the couple's therapist can actually do to shell and model that. This is something that can be talked about so another thing for couples to do is talk about it in therapy and I think part of the problem couples therapy is people are like. Oh my God. Something's wrong with us. If we're in couples therapy but in fact it just shows that your relationship mean and so much to you that you are investing time each week to have important conversations in the supported way so I like that idea too so fascinating readings. I think it's so interesting that they're so decoupled in a comes down to again how sex is viewed as shameful. 'em Like how you it's not always something you WanNa. I WANNA talk about.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:50:00 - 00:55:23</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">Look I even know I had a friend recently. Not that I am a sex therapist or Turkish. You're not a friend like assery about or just like come to to be around advice with relationship. She was in in. It took me probably like halfway through our conversation to even bring up like how. How is your sex life? And I don't know why that one like in the media questions. I think a lot of times. Sex is a barometer of the whole relationship but it took me. I just couldn't couldn't bring myself to ask it for whatever reason because we have sachs as being behind closed doors. Whatever you do behind closed doors is none of my business but is it productive to have the culture where we openly talk about sex even when we meet up for Brunch is like hey generally house Friday night? How's your sex life like it's been trying to get to yet? That's a great question like what is the culture. What's good for look like right? I know it's funny because in some ways we're talking about sex muchly part of what it is to live in. The era of me too is that we are really looking at all of the incredibly. The problem matic dangerous power driven horrible things that happen around sex and so I wonder about in some about balancing it out with a willingness to talk about about actually people's just what's really delightful. People sex lives like I love that idea opening up right. Maybe not just like you know a ton space for like nitty gritty details about about how you perform oral sex on your partner but just to kind of like name. Mata's part of life is actually going well or part of life that is you know fun. Like there's there's something about like how much this the METOO era is. Vitally vitally important right. It is like so time to unpack and like pull back the curtain on all of us that has happened. And I think there's like there's more than just healing we have to heal trauma uh-huh but part of how we heal trauma is by saying that. Actually we deserve pleasure and we deserve to live as sex is an integrated part of who we are part of why I like the idea of like a bit more brunch conversation because then it's like a reminder like Oh yeah sex is more than just incredibly fraught problematic Rom Raum. Yes that's interesting 'cause metoo it's definitely a chance to go there now. I feel like when we first came out it was about like sex abusers or senses the victim and it was kind of actually playing into the shame model even more in a way and I think it will be interesting to see if now post be too we. We can get to a place where it's just openly discussed as pleasurable. Just saying right now. What about this mentality of constant instant comparisons math gas on the show? Who would say I haven't had the number of partners? Yes as that I should be having at sage or couples who say This our neighbors. They say they have sex five days a week and we only have sex one day a month. Are we doing something wrong. How do we get around this whole keeping up the Joneses? It is so funny when you even look at the history of sex research in our field when researchers ask about sex what they oftentimes will say like how often you have sex. And so it's like there's ways that like the field of sex research has reinforced this idea. That quantity equals qu'ils quality or the quantity is the main thing and I think that's when ever like it's just numbers are really easy place for us to put our obsessive excessiveness numbers scale or numbers of you know episode downloads or book sold or whatever like we can just numbers. I do end up hooking us in a bit INS. I think the most important thing is noticing. How right there's a number I have had ex partners? They have of sex x number of times a week. Like noticing how we will take that number and attach an entire story that has to be with worth and value to that number UH versus just dropping the story and having an just noticing it as a piece of data and figuring out. What's more interesting question to ask so so with the you know the neighbor down the street or having sex five times a week a more interesting question is what are you seeking in? Sac- What do you find they are. What does the New Year relationship? And then those same questions for oneself. Why what what am I looking for when I want sex with my partner? What am I craving? What am I seeking to express those so much more interesting questions than how many times now? It's x five times a week and it does nothing. V relationship. Shy performing duty the weakness that one time a week in Italy. Restorative you know and connects you and and you get bask in that glow for the rest of the week calling me over quantity Quanta exactly so I guess too before we go into takeaways like what are a couple of words of wisdom that you would give to anyone who's better China understand their sexual self off in like kind of create this sex life in always wanted Words of wisdom would be I guess the most important the thing is to just with an any couple.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">00:55:23 - 01:00:01</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">There are three sexualities. There's my sexuality your sexuality and there's our sexuality Being able to remember that because because of the risk of saying like somehow I'm broken or something's wrong with me like the whole is on that Direction or to go in the direction of like. Something's wrong with my partner. My partner isn't a partner as too much in so always come back. League noticed when we start to do that and then come back to that idea of like. There's my sexuality there's your sexuality and then there's our sexuality just remembering always to like thicken up the story because when it gets when the story becomes too thin that's when the silence Edson because if I get convinced something's wrong with me and they're sure shit no way okay. I'm going to bring up a problem having or a concern. I have because I'm just either going to be really scared that you're also GonNa start blaming me or I can't can't even imagine bringing it up because I'm ashamed of myself and you know that's what shame does is it silences us. It makes us think that we're the only one that feels the same. I love that I love like I mean we've talked about this relationships before it's not me versus you. It's off right so it's similar but it's just putting Sachs which is something that's even harder sometimes talk about a young boy. So what are some of your takeaways go into takeaway line. Yeah we'll start with you. I was just thinking about how if you think about it. SEX WCHS as a form of self care. Anna's colleague doing your monthly massage appointment. Why wouldn't you do your daily massage appointment end with your private parts right because access to do that? So it's Kinda like booking a a massage for one or massage for two or however many but it we see it as a way of self care then were able to go into it with more empathy. Nevada I'm just trying to find pleasure to restore myself to find balance and I want to also create that for whoever's involved in this experience as well so let's find pleasure together and I love this. Idea of quantity is never a way to measure. Are you getting pleasure. Sure yeah so I think a concentration of how do I feel after this and my feeling good about myself and my m my caring for myself and my caring for my heart ner that's a better measure of whether you're you're getting that pleasure that you've been seeking so I really love. I'm I'm just GONNA book this daily Massage appointment want. That's for massage outer part. Thus far my book daily massage employment and sometimes someone could join sometimes they may not want to piggyback on one. One thing about that. I think it's so when when I think about especially women in the dating world I saw you guys know Mama Gena is just I love. I think it was a newsletter thing. She wrote about how she'd Masturbate Asher Bates before she goes on a first date because she wants to feel really grounded really nourished really full within herself when she shows up on a first date rather than feeling like she needs. She needs this person to scratch this issue inside of her or she is yearning for something the somebody else has to give to her for her. It like anchors her back within herself that then right she has her own source of pleasure and then she may invite somebody else into that space with her but she comes into it then from a place of wholeness instead of lack and I love that what you're literally goes along with what you're saying. I love that too because I feel like we've been taught sexuality is to people and it if you don't have a partner sometimes really I can't continue to explore for my sexuality and you feel deprived rate in. That's when you like end up having like the friends with benefits are like someone hooking up with just someone that you're not really into an attracted to in it's more of this place of desperation which is what we're talking about and I love this like takeaway of kind of it's evolving your sexuality quality is evolving. And it's not something that you learned in sex ED. It's not something that you had. As your first experiencing college that might not have gone so alike it continues to go and you continue to see what works for you. What works for your partner learn and evolve just like a continuous cycle? It's not a one time time. This is what I know this.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">01:00:01 - 01:05:04</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">What ends and stay curious in that? Yeah holiday curiosity do they feel this way. Why do I like this and keep on exploring exploring because I realized that the human body there is so much more we haven't uncover right and I think sometimes too that goes into like sex? Acts like that arched. It's kind of the standard. Like if someone does bring something up to you. That might be different than you've ever experienced. Then it's that staying open mend. Maybe if I mean I mean obviously don't try something that's so against your morals and not something that you WanNa do but if it's something that you're just like I don't know if I'd like maybe there is a benefit of trying. Get seeing how you feel Zine what it does to your sexy and if it's good keep going and if it's not then you know part of what happens in a couple system as it feels so much like the only way I can experience. My sexuality is through sex with you and so then does make designed sex is a duty. Because because you're only going to meet that need if I show up in now now it adds a bit of Wrath in space. If I don't feel solely responsible for creating the conditions for you to experience your sexuality Audie so couples where they were there is just some space for that as well can take this. Heavy responsibility of like my partner wants sax on the only person who has sex with I have to show up it has to be me than does creates the conditions for duty and that duty definitely is pretty antithetical to desire. That's so interesting so I feel like that's worth things going like. singular pleasure riper than also like Pollyanna marine other configurations. Because I'm thinking of like I don't know why this one sticks out but sex in the city when like Charlotte and trae weren't having sacks g caught him masturbating and it was like the ultimate betrayal right and I think there's something about masturbating masturbating in historically. That's made you feel like you're not up to speed and if they're masturbating than you're doing something wrong but I think what I'm getting from this conversation sation. It's not a comparison. It's like apples to oranges like just because you're masturbating doesn't mean that you don't have sex life that you love is just complementary it. Does it need to be an end or so next time someone asks you. How's your sex life you can say? Oh I'm really good in bed with myself because I think looking historically stoically you would think like I'm only going to say if I have a partner right if I don't a partner my sex life is bad which is not true. Could be having sex. Life could be in a band sex life. I don't know if you heard about this Alexandra. But in San Francisco a couple months ago the police broke up an epoch. Sex Party the presidio with over one hundred people. They found fifty gallons of semen and donkeys llamas and emus running around and arrested like eighty ready. My Gosh Wow really exploring their sexuality for them. Some of his. We'll legal another. Take away from this. Conversation is like don't take everything so personally like I love this whole thing that we were talking about earlier like you're you have Saxon. Your partner doesn't in historically be like other something wrong with me not attracted to me but it really has nothing to do with you. It's about them in their sexuality in then like I loved what you said about. How do you just make it my sexuality your sexuality and our sexual rally? Yes and own at that way Alexandra. Any other last words of wisdom. I mean we've we've talked a lot about about shame and the story we attach and so then like the antidote is self compassion right like just being really self compassionate unsafe for women but I think it's for men as well because it's just I think maybe worries are different but I think we're all really hard on our bodies as you know is very critical of my breasts are to this. My Penis is to this. My hip search. They very critical of how our bodies look and southbound around and you know all of this narrative that operates in the background that is. I'm not enough or I'm wrong. That compromises pleasure so the woman who wrote the forward to taking sexy back is researcher in Canada named Dr Lori Bronco and her recent book is called sex. Mindfulness and she basically took the finding that has stood up in a variety of studies. That about half of women struggle with low sexual desire. So it's like kind of You know in terms of like normal being defined as incredibly common. It's become sort of normal for women to struggle with low sexual desire especially women who are in long term partnered relationships and she was like all right. This is not okay. What's going on here? And what she found. Was that when you teach women. Mindfulness skills like basically dropping the self critical story about my thighs and just returning to the moment.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">01:05:04 - 01:09:49</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1">It changes their sex lives like massively and and women unexperienced more desire more arouse more lubrication more orgasm an more connection with their partners. But I think sometimes we don't even know how not mindful we are because we're just so used to being self critical than it just feels like we don't even know. That tape is playing inside of our heads. When we're making love it just feels like this is how I always am? Grew up as a woman so of course I'm beating the crap out of my body like it's just what I do all the time but I want women to really know that that a space nice to meet ourselves with jeep deep deep compassion that Like criticism blocks our ability to even feel good right to feel pleasure to feel L. deserving in so noticing how the stories are coming up is a first step towards like no. I'm not going there and I'm GonNa Return just dropped the story and return my attention to this moment almond love that I love that because it's so dead on for so many of us I think most women and men everyone can relate to having those critical moments in their own mind. They're really getting away from having the sex life that they deserve in addition to showing up for your partner show up for or yourself too. Yeah I love that I mean. I think this conversation's been so great. So thanks again for having. I think what's interesting to me too is. It's applicable all for people that are single applicable for people that have been in relationships for years. Everyone kind of deals with these ongoing evolution of sexuality. It's not just oh you're in a relationship. Your sex life is great. Oh you're single your sex life is bad like it's just it's not black and white. I mean one of the things that was so amazing about writing the book was I had this amazing team of graduate students and undergraduate students and we were really diverse. Like very different ages very different relationship state has different cultural backgrounds and cultural trainings. Things all away from you know very liberal. People to people who had been raised in strict Catholic family was really fascinating team and so the conversations we would have was amazing. How often Louis Comeback? I'm back to these same themes that transcended age relationship. Staden culture was really enlightening. Hope anybody who picks it up fines some source source of comfort relief support and courage. You know in that. And that's exactly why everyone should pick up uh-huh. I'm suing on Amazon. You can get it. Where else can you get the book? Yeah I mean wherever books are sold your India Bookstore Barnes and Noble Amazon on definitely. It is Paperback and kindle in it will pretty soon be available as an audio book as well. Nice Will Lincoln in our show. No just of course I anyone interested and Dr Alexandra Solomon we need to come to one of your classes. We've been saying this world wile e will show up and one of these certain taking notes rigorously our love to have you. They're gonNA happen. We they are soulmates. Love nerds all of us are love burt. Thank you so much for coming back on our show. We didn't scare you the first first time. Let's get to know you for bringing this very basic Justin timberlake song to a whole new level. That's much deeper her and meaningful for all of us and it's better for the next generation that next time you hear this song. They're like yes taking that that's right watch out world from being on our show and We are GONNA show up one of these days. We are literally physically showing the class. All right we're going to wrap this up a Jada Ball but dateable podcast is part of the FROLIC podcast network. Find more podcasts. You'll love at frolic dot media slash podcast. Want to continue the conversation. I follow us on Instagram facebook and twitter with the handle at dateable. PODCAST TAG US in any post with a Hashtag stay dateable and trust us. We look at all those then head over to our website. dateable PODCAST DOT COM there. You'll find all the episodes as well. As articles videos and our coaching service with vetted industry experts you can also find our premium y series where we dissect sect analyzed and offer solutions to some of the most common dating conundrums rose downloadable. For free on spotify apple podcast Google play overcast stitcher stitcher radio and other podcasts platforms. Your feedback is valuable to us. So don't forget to leave us a review and most importantly remember to stay dateable.</div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div><div bis_skin_checked="1"><br></div> Hey everyone welcome to another episode of dateable a show all about modern dating so last year Julian I had a chance to visit New York and as part of our trip which was pretty epic. Yes super epic. We did a so much like three days if we're there for a week and it was what it was three days to have days but we got a chance to meet up with a friend of mine that I hadn't senior years. Tommy Danger Kim. Who has his own. Podcast called the Tommy Danger Experiment. And that's his actual middle name. Love it like I didn't realize that when we recorded and then when he told me that after like you guys will hear the episode but it was amazing but I think knowing his actual middle name is danger. Just bring into a home their level but after you met him you probably thought how fitting right absolutely. I think it's like you. I was just like hey my friend wants out the podcast and I think because we were in New York. We're like let's take advantage of as many opportunities we can. We met with a bunch of people podcast companies and we wanted to be on. Someone's podcast in New York. Yeah so we jumped at the opportunity and I had no idea. I think we're a little hug over. We shut up a little orange alert extremely hung over and where we recorded at his co working space was super sunny and I remember one versa. We got coffee because we were like pretty because we rage like we were hammers. Were out again. It was three days but felt like everything was jammed. Pack the live show. That's why we went at the wing so then we went out for drinks with everyone. They're in an I remember the next night we were like okay. Let's go to bed. Not let's go out because we're in New York. Yeah but let's not stay out super late and we didn't really work out three. I don't remember I remember really met up with your president ended up like a raging gay club member. Yeah and that's when I totally lost all sense of time and your friend I've ever remember. He picked me up on the streets. We are skipping handed. Had best by the I like totally took you as friends into underwriting Robin trait the most beautiful men in my life. They were amazing. But I have to say we were not prepared to be on Thomas. Show but we were like okay. Let's show up. Get some caffeine in us. We're GONNA be good but we ended up staying for two hours. We recorded a two hour episode with time for his for his podcast. In after we were done we both were like that was one of the best conversations. His like whole mindset with the podcast is no editing. Free-form compensation let it go however long it goes. It's actually kind of amazing just the fact that we were able to talk for two hours. I think we all Consciously I to get on a train till the suburbs of New York and you meet a friend really. We have to stop talking. We would have been there for another four. Yes possibly talking about everything and in the beginning we like. Everybody always asks about sex parties because it seems to be volatile. No people ask Julie. Pretty sure he did it ask. That's intriguing into every conversation is sex parties because it's a great icebreaker. It's also like Hey Tommy on the scene you in ten years. Let's talk about sex parties and he was down for you know talking about. He's very intrigued. By the end of the two hours we got really deep made a breakthrough. We we laugh about it now but it was such a powerful moment because I talked to Tommy in so long. I had no idea that he was. I mean divorce for a few years. But if felt like a fresh wound and the break-up was very traumatizing for him. Yeah I remember when we over. You're like I'm not really sure. What his status. These days I think the last time I saw on facebook he might have just been recently divorced. You were just unsure of Weirdos was at all in his life and it's kind of like we brought this up in episode two. It's like this is the power of going deeper because if we had laughed after say an hour we would have had a great congress parties. Yeah it would have been very fun and surface level but by the end it felt like we were like we knew each other like we knew him. Yeah Oh yes. We knew him on a whole new level and I have a whole new level of appreciation for him to even though we are we. Don't keep in touch all the time even usually you man for the first time that day but you felt like you had this connection that is exactly what we strive for at least eight. Yeah now we're homeys. Now we get it. He's got you got you homemade. We get that all the time for him which is amazing. We all change our middle name danger. So here's just a snippet of the episode because again it's two full hours. If you want to hear it you can go on his podcast. Itami danger experiment podcast. So just a little background. Who Tommy is yet? He's in his late thirties. He's been in New York for ten years originally from L. A. Yeah so he did the West Coast to east coast thing. He is currently single and he's very shit out yet. He of healing from that divorce. But I think I think we had a breakthrough with him. I think everybody wants to hear about this break there. And they're going to introduce you to Tommy Danger Siquijor personal and
"two month" Discussed on MSNBC Rachel Maddow (audio)
"Criterion. And qualifications from serving are you when the justices ultimately do here, the merits of this merits of this case, are you pessimistic about how they're going to rule. I mean, this is a five four conservative ruling today. That's true. But it doesn't it did not speak to the merits at all. And it really only put in place even temporarily the permission for the government to put the ban into place. I will say that. I'm. Optimistic because I don't think that there's any basis for the government to demonstrate that they're that that there's a reason why transgender people who meet military criterion can't serve and we're actually optimistic because in rejecting hearing the case now, it allows us to go back down to the district court and put on the evidence that we we think we'll absolutely refute. The government's statements that transgender people can't serve in the military. So you think when you get your shot at the marriage you're gonna win. Absolutely. And we also think that you know, the fact that transgender people have been putting themselves their lives on the line every day and service of their country is going to help to prove our case. Jennifer Levi director of the transgender rights project. Glad it's really good to have you here. Thank you so much. Thank you. All right. We'll be right back. Stay with us. Two updates for you before we wrap up tonight last night show. We opened the show with a long story about a Beller Russian model woman named anesthesia Vashem Keva who has been caught up in the saga about the Russian government interfering in US elections, and she's been caught up in what appears to be a very dangerous situation for her in which she says that she has evidence she has video and photo and audio recordings which implicate to a certain extent a specific Russian oligarch named Oleg there Pasqua involved in the Russian meddling last night. We focused on the fact that she was arrested by Russian authorities while transiting through Moscow airport last week and over the weekend. She appeared in court as you see in this video sort of scarily apologizing over and over again to that oligarch Oleg der Pasqua and saying there would be no more recordings, and she had no more proof. And she had nothing else. You wanted to say about it? The update for you on that story. Tha. Night is that anesthesia Vashkevich was released from custody in Russia today, but we know very little about that by this time tomorrow, we expect to know more her lawyer says that there will be a press conference tomorrow in which they will explain what they believe has happened in our case we will have that update for you tomorrow tomorrow night. We will also have Senator Kamala Harris of California here for her. First live TV interview since announcing that she is running for president. Tomorrow's big night. Stay.
"two month" Discussed on MSNBC Rachel Maddow (audio)
"The New Yorkers challenging the law want to be able to take their guns other places like specifically to their second homes outside the city. And your level of sympathy may vary for New Yorkers demanding the right to shuttle their firearms back and forth between there many many homes. But this case does set up the supreme court's five conservative justices potentially to rule. Much more broadly on what kind of restrictions anyplace in the country is allowed to put on where you can have your gun. So that is something to watch another thing that happened at the supreme court today is new movement in the mystery case we have been following that appears to involve special counsel, Robert Muller. This is a case that has been making its way mysteriously through the federal courts in DC. And I say it's mysterious because this case has been basically entirely under seal it concerns, a corporation of some kind owned by a foreign country. We don't know which one and that unknown foreign owned corporation has been fighting a grand jury subpoena from Robert Mueller special counsel office. Now, again, we're not allowed to know what the company is our which country it's from we're not even allowed to know the identities of the lawyers arguing the case, which I find bizarre. But lower courts have repeatedly ruled against this foreign corporation, lower courts have repeatedly ruled that it does have to comply with the subpoena from Muller. In fact, we learned in today's supreme court filing that the company was initially ordered to pay a fine of ten thousand dollars a day as long as they weren't complying with the subpoena at least that's what the special counsel wanted. Instead, a federal court judge in DC said no ten thousand a day isn't good enough. Let's make fifty thousand today. So they're paying fifty thousand dollars in fines everyday they don't comply with the subpoena. Today. The supreme court allowed this foreign corporation to file a petition again under seal, it's partially redacted. Asking the justices to take up this case, and our best understanding that it's not unheard of for the supreme court to allow petitioners to file anonymously or semi redacted petitions like this. But it is pretty rare. So what we now have on the public record. Is this reducted filings? We did learn from these redacted filings today that the company is a wholly owned agency or instrumentality of a foreign state. So it's not partially owned by a foreign country. It's wholly owned by a foreign country. We also learned this company says it was subpoenaed as a witness in this investigation, whatever the investigation is. And it also appears that today this secret foreign company lost yet another round in the lower courts, the DC appeals court today again ruled against this company something having to do with them having to comply with that subpoena that came alongside the ruling from the the release of their appeal to the supreme court again, though, I can only tell you so much about what that DC circuit court ruling was about because again, it is sealed. So we will be watching the supreme court to see what they do with this application from this mystery corporation from this unknown foreign country, but they appear to be losing at pretty much every level. Of the court system, thus far and having to pay a pretty high price for it with each passing day, whether or not the supreme court alternately changes, that course of events. We'll find out when we find out. That's a couple of things that happen today at the supreme court, and I told you there was another development at the court today for which we need expert help. And that one's next stay, right? But this. You probably saw the headlines about this today ever since President Trump tried to ban transgender troops from serving in the military it policy he issued by tweet apropos of nothing that effort has been blocked by federal courts as lawsuits over the proposed ban have been argued. But today there was a five four supreme court ruling in which the five conservative justices on the court lifted some of the nationwide injunctions that had kept this partial ban from going into effect. Here's the part. I don't understand though, as far as I can tell the court did not lift all of the injunctions as they said multiple courts had blocked this policy from going into effect. It certainly doesn't seem like the justices have ruled on the merits of the policy..
"two month" Discussed on MSNBC Rachel Maddow (audio)
"How are you dealing with those stressors BUSTER? I mean, it's it's it was stress me. It's it's not without some anxiety to think about any of this. And I, you know, cutting. Seriously thinking about it. I I I, you know, I I think whoever the democratic nominee is if Iran, and I'm in or any number of well-qualified people that have announced who will announce the deputy of work really needs to be a central theme because I think in their campaigns. I think that too many people sort of look at the democratic election say you either talked to the progressive base or you talk to working class voters and you've got to do both. I mean, you've got to do both not just to win Ohio or win the heartland or win the electoral college got to do both as a longtime progressive in as an advocate for workers. It's it's it's the way not just to win elections. It's the way to govern. In a really is at the core of who. I am who I think a whole lot of the American public, and a strong majority of the Democratic Party is do both talking in terms of progressive issues and talk about what we need to do for workers on trade policy and tax policy and overtime rule and all of that. I think a lot of people think of those two different lanes because they think to talk to the progressive base of. Party such as it is you have to talk about issues that essentially have been turned into cultural wedges that are designed to alienate working people from the from the image of the Democratic Party. And you have really straddled both of those lands. You really have operated in both of those spaces your whole public life. Why has that never been a problem for you? Well, you go to my hometown of Mansfield, you go to where you go to the city of Cleveland or you go to apple Atucha and people have the same hopes and dreams people think if you work hard, you ought to be able to get ahead, if you love your country, you fight for the people who make it work. Whether you punch a clock or or swipe a badge or raising children or caring for an aging parent or working on a salary or working for tips in it, this expansive, sort of expansive definition work to respect work to honor work. I don't think I don't think our government. I mean, you've got a White House that looks like a retreat for Wall Street executives. They're not listening to workers, whether it's in the shutdown or it's the tax Bill who are its Trump trying to scale back the overtime rule where one hundred thirty thousand Ohioans. Five million Americans were getting getting a raise that were working fifty and sixty hours a week. We're going to get time and a half for the first time in the president tries to take it away. I mean, it's this long-term betrayal of workers from this administration from his time as a businessman to now when that's why he doesn't care about those low wage workers or any of the eight hundred thousand that are either furloughed where have lost their jobs or working without pay. You said that you and your wife Connie are thinking about whether or not you might make a run. When are you going to decide will you talk to me about it? Sure. Always talk to your kids. Of course, I we are going to the four early states, Iowa, New Hampshire, Nevada, South Carolina. We will we were going to do a dignity of work listening to her. I'm not trying to have the largest rally or the biggest crowds. I wanna listen to people and and hear them whether in when I talk about the dignity of work. It's you know, it's barber in Cedar Rapids. It's physical, therapists. And in concord say it's a restaurant worker in Nevada. And it's a it's a in Florence South Carolina might be a construction worker and just just I mean people in this country working harder than ever before. They're seeing corporate profits are up executive compensations exploding their productivity is up in their wages are flattened that. There's something there's something intrinsically wrong with our economy, and it starts with respecting work in talk in in governing that way Senator Sherrod Brown of Ohio. Thank you for talking to me about these things. And I don't mean to I realize everybody's talking about this whole question about whether you're not gonna run I don't mean to. Doug, you about it..
"two month" Discussed on MSNBC Rachel Maddow (audio)
"Shipmates? Thank you for continuing to stay on the watch the mass GPS the coast guard myself and your senior leadership team as well as American public standing, all of your continued dedication to duty and resilience of that and your family's we're five plus weeks into the exciting stress. This government laps and your non pay you as members of the armed forces should not be expected to shoulder this burden. I remain heartened by assistance available to you within the lifelines and by the outpouring of support from local communities across the nation. But ultimately, I find it unacceptable that coastguard men and women have to rely on food pantries and donations to get through day to day life at servicemembers and his Admiral Carl Schultz who has the commandant of the United States coast guard speaking tonight that was just posted this evening to service members in the coastguard, letting them know that. He finds it unacceptable that they're having to rely on food pantries Indo nations telling them that their leadership has their back. And yeah, they're going to continue to be unpaid week after week after week. This is the first time that US coastguard service members have ever gone without pay through any of the shutdowns we've been through as a country in this one appears to be indefinite. This is now week five. Joining us now is Senator Sherrod Brown. Democrat of Ohio. He's a member of the Senate finance committee. Senator it's really good to have you here tonight. Thanks for coming in. I am. I feel like the more. I talked to people who have clear is and can see the horizon on the shutdown thing the more. I am very worried that it might have no end that there might not be a way to end it nor any intention to end it on the part of this administration or congressional Republicans. I think that it's clear that the McConnell's got to do his job Donald Trump. He thrives on this. We all know if he gets the five billion dollars that he'll do this again in six months and throw another temper tantrum and shut down the government a little like a two year old wanting another cookie and crying and give them a cookie. He'll he'll do it. Again. I don't see any question about that. I think huge majority Americans understand. That's what's happening. Mitch McConnell has got to stand up and do his job. And when I go through the Cleveland airport amount. We have a lot of coast guard people in Ohio in Cleveland Lorain along the long Lake Erie. And I see their service and how important it is. I talked to TSA agents at airports all the time, particularly Cleveland and Columbus and Cincinnati, and they. They're worried about they they have to go to their Bank or their landlord, or they how do you? How do you do childcare? When you ask the people taking care of your children, could you wait three or four or five weeks till I pay you. I mean, you just can't these these families are under such stress. They don't show it in the workplace much. Fortunately, but it's so hard on them. And you know, there's a group that we don't talk about much in those are the federal contractors that are making did provide food served at work in the kitchens and do the security and do the custodial work it federal facilities. They're making ten twelve fifteen dollars an hour, if they have a union and making a little more, they don't they make a little less, and they they have not in the pad. They've lost their jobs in the past. They haven't gotten back pay. So they are really left out of this. So you're saying the federal workers who are being forced to work without pay right now are in bad enough straits. But if you are a federal contractor, if you're working as a custodian or food service workers something for the federal government, at least federal workers will. Get their back pay but people who work for contractors won't in the past. They never have. So he's twelve fifteen dollar an hour jobs or less. They're preparing the food and the kitchens cafeterias that serve the public in federal buildings or serve workers in the federal buildings. They keep the buildings clean. They keep people safe security officials their security officers, and they have been left out in the past and in those kind of wages, you know, they're going to pay day lenders. And you know, Rachel when you go to a payday lender..
"two month" Discussed on MSNBC Rachel Maddow (audio)
"Evac scenes ready response from all levels of government to contain the spread. Levels of governments. That was November. First two thousand five President George W Bush at a difficult time in his presidency. Two thousand five did not go great. And he's they're announcing a new national effort to prepare for the uncoming pandemic of bird flu that's going to kill one hundred and fifty million people. And that was fourteen years ago. And nobody much remembers that now about that part of the George W Bush administration. But it turns out even things like that that do not loom large in history. They sometimes come around again in ways that could be helpful for our current round of presidential problems. We are now in the second month of the federal government shutdown over President Trump's demand that we build a wall between the United States and Mexico. We have never had a government shutdown this long. So there is no existing game plan for how to try to keep the essential functions of government rolling while no money can be expended and the people who actually affects you it. Those elements of the government are not being paid in the federal courthouse system in New York state. So not New York state courts but federal courts in New York, the administrator of the federal courts in the southern district of New York has just told the New York Times and WNYC that among the strategies they're employing in his federal courthouse to try to keep administering the Justice system while nobody in it is being paid among the things they are. Now starting to do is that they have dusted off the old bird-flu plan from the George W Bush administration. Bush gave that uncomfortable speech at the H November two thousand five it did in fact, set in motion planning across various agencies and elements of the government to be ready to have contingency plans in place in the event that there was a worldwide and nationwide bird flu pandemic that was going to bring the United States, and maybe even the whole world to its knees. A little bit over a year after the Bush administration presented that planner ordered that plan after Bush gave that speech, the Justice department and its bureau of Justice Assistance. In fact, rolled out this nuts and bolts plan, they called it an emergency roadmap for the courts for continuing operations in the event of a worldwide bird flu pandemic, quote, while it may be difficult for court managers to envision the impact of pandemic on court operations and to plan for such a scenario it is imperative that such planning take place before such an event occurs. Is to wait and see if such a pandemic will actually occurs to risk the future operation of the court at a time when it would be most needed should append occur. The operation of the courts like all government agencies will be will be seriously affected. It's estimated that some forty percent of the workforce will be unable or unwilling to report to work such reduction of available human resources could be catastrophic to the continuation of court surfaces courts will need to develop mechanisms to ensure the continuity of vital court operations in a manner that doesn't jeopardize the health and safety of the judicial workforce or members of the public appearing before the court. This is what they were contending with. This is what they were trying to plan for forty percent of everyone has the bird flu. How did they imagine in two thousand seven that the federal court system would be able to still stay open? If for no other reason that they'd have to be ruling all the inevitable draconian Corentin orders and all of the other emergency actions. The government would have to take to deal with a gigantic bird flu pandemic. What do they think they could do? Well, they could fax quote the courts pandemic emergency plan should consider alternative methods of accessing employee's expertise and abilities computers, along with sex machines and other telecommunication should be considered to allow staff members to function off site. Public health officials are the court may deem it necessary to restrict public and even court user access to the court facility to prevent the spread of disease the court should carefully. Consider the nature of such restrictions employing technology such as televised court proceedings may help remedy this issue. So what if you can't let anybody in the courthouse because everybody's got the bird flu?.
"two month" Discussed on MSNBC Rachel Maddow (audio)
"Show. We at nine eastern on MSNBC. Thanks to you at home for joining us this hour, George W Bush was reelected to a second term as president in November two thousand four of course, that means his second term in office started in two thousand five and that first year of his second term two thousand five it is remembered mostly for well escalating public outrage over the ongoing war in Iraq. It is remembered for the tremendously and fatally mismanaged national disaster that was Hurricane Katrina. And the failures thereafter. And although we don't remember it as much now looking back on it. Now. At the time. One of the big bad things that really took a lot of space in the news in two thousand five longtime those other alongside those other bad things was bird flu. That was the other thing that happened in two thousand and five the international freakout over bird-flu deadly bird. Flu found across Asia. Bird-flu in Turkey is deadly strain lethal bird-flu found in Croatia. It was week after week after week of headlines like this particularly in in the later part of two thousand five here's the BBC low. Right. They're hitting peak freak out on the subject that was September thirtieth two thousand five bird. Flu could kill one hundred and fifty million people. But Halloween that year two thousand five NBC nightly news was running terrifying. Packages like this one to inform you what all the freak out was about. And let you know soberly that really you should be as freaked out as everybody else because there's nothing you can do to protect yourself. Among dozens of influenza strains h five in one is worrisome now because it is spreading rapidly in birds and infecting a few humans often fatally if the virus mutates so that can spread easily from person to person millions around the world could be infected. That is called a pandemic how likely is a pandemic anytime soon. No one knows what can families do now to protect themselves. Experts say that before a pandemic strikes. There is little individuals can do. That's why there is so much demand for preparedness plans from federal state and local officials look at the imagery there, right? I mentioned that this ran on Halloween night on nightly news and two thousand five or at the big word. Pandemic shaking across the screen. The Hitchcock view of the birds at dusk, the looming shaky Blair witch Cam footage of the hospital bed that waits for you..
"two month" Discussed on 760 KFMB Radio
"A two-month low last week and Ohio State now has a bacon vending machines selling cook strips for just a dollar let me know when they have the ones for lettuce and tomatoes, then you've got something there. Thanks, Tom Busby. Twenty five minutes after the hour. I like the Golden Globe nominations for this year have been announced and Kevin car joins us now. Clutching the list. Good morning, Michael. Yes. The Golden Globe nominations are always considered a precursor to the Oscars in the movie category. And we had those come out this week. And we get to see how things shook down at a time where there was no clear front runner. Now. The big nominations went to Adam mckay's vice which is escaping look at Cheney's career that got six nominations green book and a star is born each got five. It was also good show for Bahamian rhapsody because that's another one that was popular that got. A couple of significant nominations, including best actor for Remy mallet. And there was also a nice little show for can you ever? Forgive me. Particularly Richard E grant's performance for best supporting actor. And then of course, there are ones you expected to see like, Mary Poppins return and the favorites the other thing that I noticed about this year's nominations is. There has been an increase in diversity. And a lot of people have talked about that with the Oscars and the Golden Globes in the past, but you've got Black Panther and black klansman if Beale street can talk all were dominated for best picture and drama, and then you had crazy rich Asians getting a best picture not for musical or comedy. But of course, if you really want to get a pig on what's going on in the Oster categories. Look the best director list, which has a star is born Roma. Green book black klansman and vice those are the ones you're gonna see showing up a lot more when they announced the Oscar nomination in several weeks. But of course to see who wins all this. You can watch the Golden Globes on January six on NBC. Then we've got. A review.
"two month" Discussed on The Morning Toast
"He's like, look, you left me a happy relationship just to be miserable and be a joke now. But like it's really sad for Bridget Monaghan because disaster is just hell. And Thomas her and Tom Brady have a happy life with a million kids and fucking Bridget Montanes kid. Liz with Tom Brady and Giselle. It says on the lips I could sit on the lips. Yeah, no, but it would be like Tom and just broke up, like how bridge Monahan would feel it would be like how granison felt when Angelina Jolie go to because Angelina and Brad had a ten year marriage Giselle Tom Brady, even if they broke up had a ten year marriage with kids yet have Lena brought him. This was a joke. This really was a two-month farce. True. It was. Transaction, like Cassie wins? Yeah. And now she's like a total like babe, like who wants a day Cousy like she's well learned. She's a rising star. She comes from a good family on mayors following her, right? Like who should she date? Ooh. Ooh, Matt, Harvey. We never found a woman for Matt Harvey. No, because we don't know him. And that's the problem like because when we were talking about it with someone, they were like they were telling us stuff about him. Oh, we're then yet. There's a reason might like that. I just feel like he likes the rotation like he's not looking for a relationship like we are for him. Do you know what a year ago today was. I haven't checked my time hop yet service is selling and selling service due to did it. Do do video environment. We remade it. I'll put it on the morning, just Instagram, we remade. It came up in my time up. We made it all my God. That's so cool of us. You don't remember now, maybe it literally just dimensions contagious. No, only my time I had wait, we you made it. Oh my gosh, service now excelling and selling on. I want us to write a full body shot. I can't believe that used to walk around like just the way that I was. You know what I mean? Like with my big chain, my bad eyeliner and my terrible curly hair. Oh yeah. You don't really wear your eyeliner anymore. I only wear it like now, like for events and nighttime interested. There's no not wearing eyeliner every day, especially like the commerce are. You can't even see me. I feel that and I like your natural look. Let me tell what you're rocking right now. It's easier to rock natural. Look when you don't have three chins I'm not gonna lie. And now with the bow talks, it's like, how could I know the perfect our head? Your forehead looks good. Thank you. Do ready for the next story that have decided to talk about because we were watching this promo video and honestly like this is just free press for for a new e show called nightly pop, which is coming to eat, and because it's not safe for daytime, Morgan Stewart, Nina Parker and hunter, March tackle Hollywood's, hottest, headlines and gossip after hours. It's called nightly pop on me. I don't know when it starts. It's a pop up, right? We watch preview for it. And we also I made you watch daily pop last week because now I catch a few episodes here and there if there's like no toast or I'm just like really fucking bored and I thoroughly enjoy it. Knew its premium is hell. And I like the idea of nightly pop on just curious why they don't have chosen in it because he is the greatest wonder if Morgan's gonna stay on daily pop. And if she is doing morning and night like, wow, good for her. Shes started like a rich kid not working now. She's like working very hard and like she's the host of nightly pops like this is a promotion for her to her show, and it's like she's doing well..
"two month" Discussed on Good Life Project
"When you did this book, this was an intense two-month experience. However, you changed to the process doing this book. It cemented the fact that I was done with my work as I knew it before. I think it was a real pivot point to use a kind of of the moment for where I realized I don't. I don't wanna go back to talking about houses. I don't. I don't wanna talk about pillows and chairs, and my heart's not in that, and there are plenty of people for whom their heart is fully in that. So stop stop trying to be that person just let it go. Like I hate traveling. I hate leaving my house. And when I came back, my wife delay was like, you're not tired. This is like a whole different you to go away for that long and be away from home and and all my normal schedules and routines that make me feel comfortable. And she was like, you're doing the right thing. If this is you can do this type of travelling in this type of intense work and not be completely crushed by the end of it. And so I think that was. Realized at least right now, this is this is what I would like to be doing. And I think for me, I always feel like I wanna keep doing this thing until this dialogue in this community has reached a point where it doesn't. I don't need to be there supporting it anymore. And that was kind of with design sponge. Everything was about handmade work and DIY and the ham community, and that community is beyond supported and commercialized at this point. So there doesn't need to be a platform that's talking about how important had made work as in the same that there used to be. And so I think until I see mainstream business publications giving credit and space and celebration to businesses that look and sound and are shaped differently than what they typically talk about. I want to keep doing this because I think that so often people are set up to think that there are only one or two ways to run a valid business. And I think the best side effect for me was a seeing the women who were included in this be like, I can't believe that I got included in this like my business is something I do only on the weekend. Ends. And I'm like, why is that any less important of business? Why would you? But that's a, I think there was a lot of imposter syndrome. And so that was really interesting to see people just kind of owning their business more when they kind of got this support and then talking to people on the road during the book tour who were just like, thank you. I've never seen someone who looked like me running a business. I didn't know this was an option or I didn't know that you know it was okay to still have maybe kind of mainstream corporate job, but also have an artistic company on the side. And so kind of seeing those moments of representation. Those were so motivating to just be like, go in this direction. Just keep moving this direction. Figure out what comes next beyond. The sounds like having diversity of surly types of businesses and blends of fulltime part time and was important to beyond that criteria and the fact that they're all women. What was important to you in figuring out who you wanted to shine a spotlight on. I think primarily looked for a few factors. I wanted to make sure that there was a diversity of of business type that there was a sizeable age range of people because I think so often we see like young twenty something white people from certain major city in the country. And so I wanted to make sure that there is diversity of age, race, business type ability. Just all of these factors that essentially very intersectional. I wanted to make sure that not everybody who was included in this with someone that may be anybody ever heard of before. And I think that's one of the skills I've learned from blogging how to contextualize things in a way that helps people who haven't gotten as much attention yet be lifted up..