16 Episode results for "Two Cups"
Is Routine the Enemy of Progress?
"I'm Jim Frawley and this is bellwether uh-huh we have a structure on the way we like to operate for some people it's very very strict right so you wake up at five o'clock in the morning six o'clock the morning whatever welcome to bellwether thank you for being here today's topic is was originally going to be capability comforting so you wake up you brush your teeth Coffee Commute office type type type type type cheese sandwich clack clack clack clack back to commute the kids TV we are extremely capable human beings and we can do a lot we are capable of a lot of things once we set our minds to it and usually when I get hired for coaching gets right it's a really interesting question is routine the enemy of progress in capability in accomplishing more what we're really talking about is there a three buckets and I was reminded of an article that I read a long time ago I can't find it Google and apparently it's really popular fitness circles and everything else the question of routine the enemy of progress and As I was thinking about it and I was you know we're talking about routine and how to accomplish more and most of my client and to do an episode on identifying and realizing what you're capable of and it's important thing to do I talk a lot about your inner dialogue engagements to identify what it is that we're really capable of maybe we're not realizing progress maybe we're not realising our potential there are a lot of different things Ugh I talk a lot about how to properly define your goals and I'm GonNa go even more and more into them in the future but sometimes we just need a good reminder to to realize play so that I can be more productive and I thought about that a lot saying and we usually do that we usually create a little routine we we do everything we test it and see how it's going we talk about routine routine is a structure and we like routine right it's your landscape at your playground it's how you operate it's comforting that I work with clients on and as I was thinking about it this almost turned into a raw raw raw you could do it kind of cheesy ass motivate original podcasts which really isn't me and it changed of course because that's more me And as I was writing the blog posts for this and thinking about the outline of the podcast asking for is how can I operate with a rhythm and when I think about the question is routine the enemy of progress the there's a lot to it and there's never and we just say all right learn learn lesson right you don't like that type of structure and now we can change it around and it was important to do what we did and now we can move forward chance a lot of my clients when they contact me about accomplishing more one of the first things they say is I need time management I need a time management system I need a routine I need to I need to put something in uh obviously yes or no right it's the simple consultant answer to it depends but what I think when people talk about this and and what I'm going to go into the three bucks we make tweaks and we do whatever and that's good but I started thinking about routine is the enemy of progress in what a lot of people are asking for is not necessarily a routine what call the three R.'s you've got your routine your rhythm and your Rut and separating those three out and identifying what it is that you really want to focus on is is essential so when we say we WANNA routine and I've had clients we credit routine and it was a disaster right did not work and they came back and said this is not me I cannot do I thought this was me it's not me waste but other people don't like that much structure and other people just like a routine general right you know all right I'll wake up at some point I had to get this thing done in the morning I have to get this thing done in the after in a repeat and that's your routine and it's comforting and it's good and you know what to expect everyday generally and when you throw a wrench or a team that's generally when people kind of tend to go take a look at data analytics and what we know about people now is that most of what we do regardless of the way you like to structure your day or your routine are routine is fairly predictable regardless of how much you put down on paper or not up to and I'm going to cover this a second there's a book that I read with ninety three percent accuracy we know where you're going to go on any given day and you have a routine regardless of how much structure you put our to our bars on the weekends we do the same types of things and we have these little these little orbits that we go into within a few blocks of our house few miles own whatever and they just kind of roll with it both are fine right and it's really a question of of just dividing up your time but when that I love it's called this is how by Augusta burroughs talks about routine and one of his chapters he talks about this woman he overheard at launch complaining that the Universe is not deliver you know where you're going to be and we take the same commute we take the same drive we take the same office we take the same supermarket shop for groceries we take the same of our house that's why most car accidents happen within a few miles of your house because that's where we are all of the time and his his point was if you want to change things up if something's not working world and in order to change some things on your routine you have to change the structure and that brings me to the next things rhythm versus Rut okay so when we talk about capability and we were able to accomplish what we're able to accomplish within the structure we set up so you take your structure and your structure could be one of two things one and now your normal orbit that is in alignment with all these other people has now changed and you've expanded your world and it's an important part to to drive that home for you change your landscape so if you take the subway to work you take the same car ride to work maybe you go different way or if you always shop at the supermarket maybe you tried different supermarket can drive a good rhythm which is what we're really looking for when we're looking to accomplish or it could become a Rut and when we take a look at at rhythm versus right your Rut your routine is a structure and it's an orbit and it's everything that you typically do and it's not just what you do is what everyone else does and they hover around your orbit it is your little work you can complain all you want about your routine but if it becomes a Rut if you're looking to be more capable if you're looking to accomplish more you have the ability to change your roots brush your teeth out on the front lawn but maybe getting out of the House fifteen minutes earlier fifteen minutes later will change a lot of things it changes your trajectory maybe going a different way to work maybe ruts in the mud gets deeper and deeper and deeper was easier to go in this one specific path but if you need to go in another way it's sometimes difficult to get out of that Rut so routine that her soul mate and she's giving up on looking for her soul mate and everything else and so he thought about it and he had an interesting perspective we know now about data and tracking people that what did you do on those productive days did you wake up early did you clear your email the night before did you plan your day did you how you structure your afternoon where you spending your time all of these are questions to ask yourself and we all have those days where we hit all cylinders at once and those are the day in which same everything there was a an old peanuts cartoon that I like to share with my clients and Charlie Brown opens up his launch and uses up stopping somewhere on the way home that you wouldn't normally stop there are having lunch in the cafeteria or at a different restaurant or in a different place rather than just at your desk there are routines that we just kind of do we just become habits and sometimes those aren't the right things we need to do when you think of the a wagon wheel going through mud and you're making a new path and it's Peter Butter and Jelly again and the next peanut butter and jelly again peanut butter and Jelly again and the finally someone says Charlie Brown who's making your lunch and he said I am and day-today what are you doing that's best that makes you your best and it's not always just taking steps in a day so maybe it's how you structure your morning yeah this is a great day and I went to bed saying I accomplished up today and this is great reflect on that day what did you do differently that day versus your normal Rut as to ask yourself what went right why am I doing so well today so that you can learn from that and apply to the days we haven't when you think about the were you did really like you are capable of anything and you knew it and you just rolled with everything you accomplished everything everybody's had one in the past at least month anything something that gets you thinking in a different way what was it that you did on those days Rah Rah that you can apply to the days where you're not insane conversation with someone new that you've never met before and they have a whole new network you never know who they're going to introduce you to and you never know what what can come from any single conversation so my grandmother always told me Skip coffee did you have two cups of coffee did you gopher run in the morning did you work out in the morning did you do whatever did you read a book you know a question of what we are capable of it's not always a question of what can I accomplish I'm not doing everything I can And we beat ourselves up on on failing we doc and so the question of capability is not necessarily always what are we capable of and this is what I'll end with the question of capability is not always ourselves up on not hitting the mark the high marks that we have for ourselves and sometimes it's not about just doing more sometimes it's a question of where you're doing okay and if you haven't you need to look at your routine and structure and everything else because he needed to change him some things but everybody has a day where everything is just rocking rolling and everything is I'm getting things off my to do less than little uncomfortable right you make that new path but eventually makes a group and it's a little bit easier but as it becomes easier it's also more difficult to go a different way so the the the can become a Rut or you can become a can become a rhythm and rhythm is what you really looking for is how are you operating on all your cylinders how are you operating eighteen you have the ability to change that structure and your routine is not just the basic steps you take in a day it's where those steps occur so I'm not gonNA say week and I will see you next time thank you so much listen thank you so much for listening in your structures and maybe we'll meet your soulmate one of these days people out there who don't have one and and with that I hope you have a very it sometimes it's a question of what is your landscape what is your playground if you want to climb some monkey bars don't go hang out by the swings find out where don't well we start with the negative I you're right I think of like Michael Douglas in the movie falling down you're sitting in your commute you snap everything is the same same Chiesa always dress nice because you never know who you're going to meet and when you get out and
Lemon Milk - Behind the Scenes (Preview)
"It doesn't feel like hot sauce and milk is better than clements and milk just in my mind for some reason I don't think it's that bad with the curdling is just in my head. That just happens immediately and like it just forms into like cheese Kurds. We'll just because usually when usually when you eat spicy stuff you drink milk afterwards to call Dan. So I'm kind of used to that Flavor Combo anyways just I don't usually do it together. Someone who has consumed the spicy milk. I don't think you ever WanNA drink spicy milk. But do you wanNA drink lemon milk. I feel like I would okay so in a firm like I'm usually a believer in the W. W. W. W. Right one hundred percent. Try before I drank spicy again. Apparently not because know if you had to do it again okay. Now that he no raise knowing knowing knowing spicy milk experience I would far her. Take my luck with lemon milk. Now that I know that spicy meals experience brought to you by right you have to remember that the ratio hold on. I'M GONNA pick up. The even part wasn't Saturdays two cups of lemon juice and three cups of whole milk. Guys a lot of lemon and knowing that the Brandy Brandy in here too but half of it Brady with an overhead. Yeah I think the brand is actually important because otherwise it's going to be very very sour in addition to the two cups of lemon juice. There were eleven lemons in it too. I would drink that before I had spicy again. I'm still very curious about. I'm still very curious about this drink. I mean we could easily make it. I really don't want to going to be a new thing. We drink a milk. Drink at the start of every time the scenes I am less interested in the actual recipe and more interested in just women milk. I had zero interest lemon milk. Okay can we. I'm going to establish that what that drink is not lemon milk. That drink is lemon. Brandy with a splash of milk in it based on the ratio brandy. Milk with a splash of lemon. There's more milk and lemon. Yea The wasn't splashy get to. I thought I thought it was three cups milk. Two Cups Lemon it is. Oh but to lemon juice is like ten cups of milk. Like like a robot more potent. Okay we we have to. We have so many questions. I spoke the lemon. Bitterness gets caught a lot by the Brandy Sweden S. I don't know I don't want to drink the shit that's the main takeaway here. I can't believe anyone ever did Ben. Franklin did Franklin Bernstein had not all good choices okay that was the PB from my Patriot exclusive behind the scenes episode for the full episode. Click on the link in the description
Garth Greenwell Reads Jean Stafford
"WNYC studios is supported by Zuckerman spader a national litigation firm representing supported by Shady Grove Fertility Shady Grove fertility has been a place of hope and home to Ed from the magazine's archives to read and discuss this month on one hundred fiftieth episode olden hair in the firelight and the smell of her perfume and the intimate warmth affeldt certain that now her hair was cut off her mother would never want to sit so we'll come out in January I garth hi Deborah so I studied poetry for most of my really for most right and I picked her recently and you know I am a there's this remarkable ability that she has and that's a combination that I find very few writers get right eight one another that austerity is combined with an almost combination of kind of lushness and then something almost acidic thinks she's very widely read these days I wonder why why you think in flattering our sensibilities and I think there's a way in which her very precision I love these kind of old world words that sometimes you feel like she's rehabilitating to feel like she's stroking a cat as she uses it and there's something in that maybe that doesn't feel periods well not from the period many other writers just at all who sometimes even terrifying truths both of her I think great fling with sexuality and with desire and with those to be reading Jean Stafford much more as I say I'm convert and a proselytizer career in the in the forties and fifties early fifties and after that it was only stories S. in her life she stopped writing for a long time and you do get the sense that writing it just unsparing of everyone she's unsparing herself she's types who sort of made her feel like a country Bumpkin at their parties you and you had a little internal debate about which story to read and you the setup of the story has this incredible economy and I think you're almost sort of framed by a single action or situation so in if the door at her mother who is on the telephone with her her mother's sister beginning to end we are in this static situation and the and so there's a way in which you feel like you know she just fills the story people in this story is what I was talking about before that there is I mean this story is hugely away and one is staring into an abyss and that abyss is right well we'll talk some more after the story and now here's the incident the child's hair is a site and it will be many moons to a decline like a grown woman like you or me dear at our most hysterical sure probably doesn't sleep I can't stand it if she's turning mental onto aunt louise the door to the bedroom across the hall was and now half off the bed drooping and askew it taught Hannah an outdoors it is snowing on the Christmas trees gelded white Persian cat who does that her side his scornful head Chris pose he had sniffed and disdained the bowl of cream on his mistresses her enclosure Hannah yearned imagining herself in the privileged bordered the frozen formal garden if she were nephew do it and snowy crumbs at the feeding station scampered on lightly clicking claws between the trunks some hibernating even says stealthily and Hannah spying and eavesdropping the subject of her mother's conversation something like came they fell without any help from her her cheeks woo no part of her body was affected at all except the eyes themselves there's question into the telephone was impatient scream why do Minh career admiral for you why does Elliot Brag to Francis that he's this anti man whispered Hannah the stools set a Chinese pot of ver- Beena his an two cups and the breath and the sound of her voice saying isn't this gay miss baby sit so close to her again unable to see through the Seidl of Saturday's catastrophe on the face no respect for my children's feet the shoes he got are two odious have it done of course she does nothing of the kind to put what he had andy with him or Johnny or Huey and decided to kill two birds with one amen will weasel out of their missteps it isn't moral it the barber shop at her father's Club there had been no one but grown men and fat looking glass through a steaming towel her father had muttered then shrugged his shoulders and began to snip off Hannah's heavy curls on the drive home her peeled head had felt cold other red light her father had turned to her and patting her on the knee had said mm-hmm fellow nor had he noticed when she moved over against the door radio to a news broadcast dispute it out loud with the commentator James Arising from a huge wire trash basket making the rest of the world look agreeing on an absent minded tantrum all by himself once as they turned in their own drive he said a lie having lunch in a brown cloudy restaurant was that she would rather go to the barber shop I'm an old fashioned man he announced every morning to his three sons and his clear that he meant business johnny who was intellectual the voice speaking into the phone on get your help it isn't a trifle it's terribly important I really think it is end Hannah's mother lightly stroked the cat who did not heed and yes I did hear it but I can't remember where she said in attentively with the frightful new man of hers that's it it was from him I heard it an automatically or less than the Gestapo Hannah's head began you're and she only half heard her mother's agile voice rising descending her tears had stopped and she missed them as she might miss sadly as they lay dead and ruins on the tiled floor and before it had been no time at all because her mother still lying it just now she was busy playing with this angels hair even though her brothers and her sister had been as exciting as ever mad preoccupation it had been evident that the site of Hannah embarrassed them mushroom the parents did nothing to stop this talk balint as they drank more I hate them johnny had beat them said Johnny I bet a thousand dollars he had had a couple when why do they have to mess up Sunday fighting over her I'm going crazy the older children off to marry in country day school on his way to the city she she cried you'll be sorry if you come back and find I'm dead of some people's Children Hannah had stood under the ideas j. knee and Johnny and Andy and Huey Z.. To pay much attention to her though often they brought her presence from school who was thirteen and ending with Janey and when family photographs were taken smaller than Jamie that she spoiled the design and one time uncle is that the runt of the litter or is it a toy breed this evidently was something the barber had not known Sir now that her sole reason for existence was gone the windows to chill the house to its heart Hannah would run upstairs to the when she was stuck for a definition she would put down her pencil and thoughtfully and purple just as she unconsciously tried to seal forever in her her mother said to the cat what is that wretched four letter word that means the trae she stretched out her arms to Hannah who scrambled with disbelieving is bring us the brush baby index finger she talked lightly and secretly about Lynn teacher she included Hannah as if she all of Egypt or do you think they're Chinese overtones in his style and another time she went on the Queen Mary two Southampton than her nightclothes without bewitching indecipherable she always ruining a curl by cleve ing through it as she exclaimed dear same gentle texture as Hannah's and sometimes her hands would breath when the afternoons were snug and short and the lamps were turned on every day at half past two she and her mother is possible on a clear day to see the beaches of Long Island all odds and ends Mr Fowler a large quiet skirt of scarlet felt starched white Gibson girl shirt and a black blue accordion pleated skirt stood leaning against her knee air before they took their pose all the mornings occasionally he emerged from behind his easel and came across there's huge as they were was as light as her mother's of the enormous world of hills and trees and farms and rivers Israel question and answer between Mr Fowler and her mother half the time after the sitting was over and Hanane her mother had changed back into their regular clothes scuffed leather armchairs drinking whiskey and talking in the leisurely way as with her cup of mild limone T- she sat on a high stool never raised their voices or through things at each other or stormed who never stayed longer than two months at the most although the cook who I was going to hang in the drawing room over an heirloom globally where now he went abroad to learn German the lilacs scar from the dual was a half air was gone and the sunny our at the start of the day and the teatime one at of her days even her sisters and her brothers returned from the Shania Andy maintained it did not matter all right they said what if the baby did look matter and Johnny the spokesman for that camp railed at his father behind his maybe they might have been speaking of the car or a piece of furniture she felt that she was already shrinking and fading that she was becoming nonetheless invisible I shall eventually have to go to an analyst as you perfectly well know if I am to continue this sister because I don't think you're discreet at all take puffs the smoke befogged her frowning for head we'll put me into a swift it I dare say and I'll have to have a drink in my bath but the way briefly she put down the telephone and dragged nephew to her side course that's wrought at this juncture neither one of us does anything remember how fiendishly Ireland's were well the night exits bad form and that's exactly how he puts it that I still speak fondly of from the rooted in his mind that Robin I R- in the middle of a red hot affair we're using Hannah as a blind his implications were too cynical alley where any faint is useless because when five children are involved one's hands profile to some insane asylum like that one Elizabeth loved so the ice ran out and we didn't even take time to go get more so we drank this was the worst quarrel we've ever had by far the most would bring us together and let me tell you they were shattering if I hadn't he had fractured his skull fortunately the children but finally we began to pull ourselves together about noon with bloody Marys and I would not rise to that bait about my neglecting the welfare of I think I might have sensed was if I hadn't been so sick because as they were about I can see that he rolled his eyes and that baleful planning way of his and licked one it goes without saying that we have been at swords points ever since president to a child when one perfectly knows that accident is not involved spilling the beans about hugh besides you can't say to a child crushed Oh for Kat sake no not crushed that's not rob style hugh had wanted to make an issue of my afternoons in his studio he should have challenged him to the portrait rob claims that Hugh hates art as of course he heaven-sent opportunity to berate me for living in the camp of the enemy intuitive about most things can't see that I am the victim that can I do I'm taking her this afternoon to Angelo to see what he can salvage sure will never be finished so the dueling swords will stay where they are children for a minute or two her mother into her mother's arm she hated his smug white face of the angry bees if she were a b. she zig does the child to herself only out the door into the hall and went downstairs to the kitchen very own baby she put down her knife Hannah the cooks teary face looked surprised and kneeled on the window seat to watch the snow settling deeply on the branches of the trees that was garth greenwell reading the shorn lamb by Jean Stafford the story was published this week on the New Yorker Radio Hour I'll talk with Jason Blum the producer I think we like this I think it's good but it's definitely new definitely no one has so garth in away this is a wanted to receive admiration do you think that that idea was which to me has such a kind of biblical resonance to it revealed is that that power was always illusory and actually had nothing has devastatingly she's always just been assemble yeah and really the baby you know general category I think the mother
Rudolfs Christmas Cookies
"WELCOME TO START COOKING DOT com. I'm happy maistre. Tis the season for cookies and these little treasures remind me of Rudolph and ingredient and equipment list at the end of this video. The big surprise is that none of the typical cooking ingredients like flour. Sugar eggs are needed for this recipe. Start by pre heating your oven. Seven to three hundred and twenty-five degrees line of baking sheet with sides with nonstick tin foil. If you only have regular tin foil you have to grease the foil with CRISCO or cooking spray putting a large bull three or four cup of raisins three Fourth Cup of sliced almonds three Fourth Cup of shredded coconut and two cups of crush. Cornflakes it's mixed everything together. And then measure three Fourths Cup of Sweden condensed milk and mix that in as well placed not quite one fourth cup of the mixture onto onto the foil. Line oven tray. These cookies don't really spread or change shape when they're baking so they don't have to be really far apart cut the candied cherries in half and one half cherry on each cookie. We sure each cookie. Stay squished together. You may have to pat the edges with your fingers to keep them together. Bake the cookies for fourteen to fifteen minutes or until they reach a light golden color. Let the cookies cool for about five minutes before removing them from the trae they're delicious as as is but let's add some chocolate but the dark chocolate chips into a small bowl. UNMELTED in the microwave with a butter knife spread a thin layer of chocolate on the bottom of each cookie cookie. Let the dark chocolate completely hardened before flipping them over to melt. The white chocolate poor about two cups of water. Just off the boil into a medium size heat-proof roof bowl put the white chocolate chips into a small baggy set the baggy into the bowl in about five minutes. The chocolate will be melted. Squeeze the chocolate into a funnel. Final shape and snip the corner of the baggy then. squirt a decorative pattern on the top of the cookies with the melted chocolate. If any of the cherries have fallen off use the melted chocolate as glue to reposition the Cherry. The way chocolate almost looks like snow. Happy Holidays for the ingredients. If you need raisins sliced almonds shredded coconut in cornflakes sweetened. Condensed Milk Candied Cherries semi sweet chocolate chocolate chips and white chocolate chips for the equipment. You'll need a baking sheet with sides nonstick tin foil dry measuring cups liquid measuring mixing Spoon Spatula. Cutting hoard paring knife mixing bowls small ziplock baggie butter. Knife scissors can opener. Cooling Rack
S13E31 Cheers with water
"Hello and welcome to season thirteen episode. Thirty one of the podcast pizza. Dark hold on tuesday the twentieth of october. The nights drawing in and this week way to discuss the community news and events and we have some news headlines but first up. Let's meet the team martin. How's it going. Hello very well. Thank you how you doing. I'm good thank you. Have you been up seriously. I have been building a new computer. Oh goodness may another one Yeah so it's nearly two years. Since i bill last one and i couldn't new things have come out since then. Yes i m. d announced their five thousand series mainstream reisen processes. And i was seeing if they were going to announce new threat repairs which they haven't so. I built myself a threat based system based on the current generation in the hype that in a year so i can upgrade to the new ones. He's crazy amounts of course very high-performance prices. Yeah i've got a thirteen nine seventy so it's thirty two. 'cause sixty four threats laude us that for playing doom and stuff commodore sixty four emulator. Thirty two of them. Yeah yeah and and i. You know if you're gonna get high end desktop part than you may as well go fully in. Someone is also equipped with two hundred and fifty six gigs of ram. Gosh that's a lot. Yeah how many steaks do you need to get that much. Ram these days. Eight thirty two gigs stakes. Gosh and a very large case. I imagine we spike about your very large cases. It's the same one. Yeah it's the same case it's a corsair carbide f. I forty and i deliberately board a couple of years ago. Because he's big. And i thought it doesn't matter what i want to do. In the future i'll be able to reuse that case i see your fun with that and of plunked my new. Rtx thirty nine hundred and Those two things together rather good. And i've got another another big up coming to this computer and a couple of weeks so that will give me something to talk about in the future. But i'm i'm fully embracing that. Pci jen full united future. Well to come then allen. Hello hello how's it going all right. Good what have you been doing that. I have been playing with. Ebay is a new game. It is a good game. Yes you know. Photographs of things and people send you money and then you put things in envelopes and send them to people. So i've been getting rid of some stuff. That is getting rid of some stuff. That i just don't use anymore and i got rid of a couple of old video games and handheld pacman and Scramble and a couple of other bits and bobs. And i was getting like ten here in five of their and then sam mud fourteen year old son came in and said oh. I think i need to get rid of some pokemon cards and he cherry picked one of the research. Take photos of this one on chucky on so we dade and within a few minutes of putting on ebay people were asking questions about the their cleanliness and quality of this card. It's in very good perfect condition and and then the big story coming in within minutes and it was up to about forty quid. Sophie came home. And i said just talked one of sam's cards on on ebay and she said oh. Yeah how much is it going. I pull my phone out to look at the ebay app and refreshed anywhere from thirty nine pounds to two hundred and fifty pounds. Wow in no time tool for small piece of card poker masa trauma and i think. Okay now. I don't know much about if i know nothing about poking on whatsoever so this must be highly sought-after cod you yes. He can't be the bulk standard trauma under presumably i. I can't tell you what it is showman x. y. eleven of one hundred and it's a hollow picture. I mean some really really good condition and there's no nicks scratches or he's never been played with japan citing the slip and that's one of a number of cards. He won't support on ebay. So as soon as the guy pay before it and i was like preparing it for shipping samples. Like where's the money then transferred. Okay sure sure seeing. He's planning a grave his own with that money. that is exactly to. You are binding fluence. Wait until you send him your ebay invoice for this month. Yes yes absolutely right well with that on with the show and now it's time for community news and events. Possibly we'll find out later. And i in the community news allen. The windows calculator is available on lenox five the platform. What is the platform. I'm so glad you asked slightly involved in this. So an owner platform is a a a way to create cross platform applications. We've talked about flutter in the past and do know is similar in the way for developers to create applications and then for them to look native on whichever platform is running on which is quite and as a demo. The people who made this platform recreated the windows calculator on lenox and published in the snap stool for fun so this is the actual windows calculator from windows. It's it has some lineage to the windows calculator. Yes it's it was more of a fun thing to show you his thing this year. I familiar to you from the world and you can. We can compile that and ship it in the store. So yeah he uses webassembly shop zamel. I think it's called. So you get one code base which the goal of cross platform and how things open source and bill on monday. Yeah modes rides again. Yeah so i installed this and actually calculators go. This is quite useful because apart from doing usual. you know. Some scientific program aversion it's got converters for volume length weight mass temperature energy areas. Speed time. Everything you can think of. So it's actually really useful. Because usually when i get into doing things and i go and find some random converter on the internet in order to do that and here is old baked in and tonight running on my machine hairs rather good. It was never intended. This will be the pinnacle of calculation experiences for you on your next test. It's a side benefit. the is useful to you. It was more a demo. A simple walker we will could. We package up The road that people would recognize from another operating system. The we can bring nixon show as possible you to have. One co basin very easily have native looking applications home on all of the platforms. So if if you're a software developer in your interest in creating applications and you know see shop perhaps through mono then yeah lookit platform crite martin. What have 'em juban to enduring. This week Well they've been taking a look at the microsoft age browser on lennox is inspired to do the same. So i have also installed microsoft h on my new computer as it. Ready ready fossil. Yes unfortunately i can't tell you how well it performs to the other browsers because just everything is fast as lightning at the moment. So i can't tell if it's any faster or slower than any of the others as the first world of first world meet is so fast. I can't tell you how fast it's so. Yeah i taking a quick look at a at a surface level is very reminiscent of chrome chromium in terms of sorts of the initial user interface. But when you start to dig into a little bit particularly in the settings it is clearly very different from crime at that point and the first thing see when you start up is a little animation that tells you we value your privacy and then not messages is repeated several times. I've throughout the settings of the browser. So there's privacy and cookie settings where that message is repeated. The privy and cookie settings are very detailed and lengthy an considerably. More attention has been paid. That than any of the other parts of the settings. But i also noticed. It's got family safety so it's got parental controls. So you can connect the browsers together. And you can set your children's browsing preferences and site blocking an audit what they've been looking at and stuff which has kind of impressed with interesting and has this thing collections. All about yeah. I've tried that out yet. But apparently it's a way to actually save like archive versions of a site inside. The browns are so it's not a link to a site. it's actually. The cycle has appeared time. And i i haven't looked into this. Identify updates it oughta medically in the background or no kind of like. I think insects explore you still a download this web page which basically packaged a web page and all of his assets in a file. I m h tim. Nothing else could react. So i've i've i've used this on a couple of sites and you can create sort of groups of collections and i could see this being useful. If you're wanting to research something you go off of louvre lots of data and categorize it. And then when you're offline you can then go back and look at all of that and used the information that you've collected so i thought that was kind of a nifty feature so one of the things that people keep saying before edged came out was just chromium is just chromium with microsoft by johnny. And they're just coming along to spy on you and there's nothing you it sounds like they actually have added features which you know knock scientific cocked hats lightly continue using it or is it unstable. Well i'm using it to talk to you both now. Vats upside down so for the for the listeners benefit we use gypsy to converse with one. Another so i'm using. I'm using it for that. And i thought i'd have a little look around. Integrates nicely with the open to dock. Just like the other browsers do. There's no native title ball things they present as they want them to. An extensions appear to work. So if you go to a site and it wants to give you a chrome extension that appears to function and there's a full suite of extensions available from the microsoft edge sites. I installed my password manager. Just fine locked into a few things and netflix's works as well. So i watched an episode of discovery season three using the edge browser earlier as well. Nice boy is pleased. None none none to be given that along with luke in go okay. Yeah sounds good. I'll give try at next step up into community council. Elections are happening again for the first time in a while. Voting has now begun for the anti community council elections. So if your member. We will have a link in the show for you to follow and vote by saturday october. The twenty fourth is is there. Is there a role that says you have to have been a member for length of time before you can vote orca. People going join up now and then well. You can't just join up. You have to go through a process with membership board who determine whether you qualify which the general consensus is sustained significant contribution to ability over a period of time. So yeah anyone who's involved in a boon to for some months would he's he's contribution these measurable that contribution doesn't have to be carried a be artwork or support testing all any one of a number of things presenting a popular podcast. I imagine so. I don't know five or six years or so. Possibly i used mark now. I'm not so. Yeah y- i'm not on the membership board. I used to be. But if i was on it. Yeah you get plus one for me you once. You're a member then you get a special link To is your own unique link and then they use their condole. Sit voting system to where you just brian. Cool the people in the order the you you prefer and then some maths happens somewhere when the thing closes in in a few days then they publish the results cole. I had to look through the list of people that put themselves forward. And there's some names that you'll recognize from the current flavors so soms a well known contributors to a boon to in the flavors community. But then i was also pleased to see quite a lot of name sort of from the past us sort of you know rebooting their involvement in the community as well. So this fatty broad group for people to choose from and some names. I didn't recognize and everyone has to create their wiki page. So you can you research them and find out what wade contributed and what they pay and then you can use that to decide how you're going to use your votes So we should find out who the new community council all probably by the next time we do show yes. I'm finally in community news. Maltin libra office is now sporting a euro icon set in a boon to twenty ten will be set by default then it is going to be set by default so this is in libra office. Seven point zero two. I think is what we're going to be shipping and just sort of completes the sort of visual coherent so you know the different applications and the style and the fame i mean the icon set on the rest of the desktop has had a bit of a refresh as well. So there's a number of icons that of being given attention they cycle. But if you are an lts user then good news You can also get that new icon set for libra office. Six which is what was shipped in the twentieth. Four lts I libro extension will have a link to the article where you can find out how to do all of that great nice and that's all the community news this week Now it's time for some news. Headlines and i stopped this week allen. Yeah the register of an article about the lack of updates. Two cups recently. For those of you who doesn't have the internals of lennox cups previously known as the common unix printing system. I think people just call it cups now. The acronym doesn't isn't really used and there's not many updates recently and it's going to be an interesting history cups because i think the lead developer michael sweet worked on it for a fair while and then in two thousand and seven apple released Macos ten and they shipped with cups because it's a unix like operating system. They used cups to implement their printing system over there and they hired michael sweet. The cups developer To continue working on it to keep maintaining it while it shipping apple's desktop operating system. And apparently he left apple at the start of twenty twenty two other interesting things. And it's been noted. I think michael lara over veronica noted that there's not been many updates to the cups pose a tree that apple host for a while which is potentially worrying given the every lyrics district ships cops and there are people actually liked to be able to print things. Maybe not boarding passes anymore. But you know you might want to print something that Document school of some kind. Yes i remember the last time. I printed anything so there was a bit of a worry but i. Interestingly the reason why apple popped up on my radar was because i was scrolling through the article and noticed that there was a common. They're from a certain till kemba. Who is books as part of the open printing organization which maintains the lyrics side of printing and. He works on the vessel team. Canonical so i just saw his name. I know he's like the printing guy for lennox and i've known for a long time oversee chemical but it was just funny saying quote from him in an article about our approach on the register. He just jumped off the page at me. So that's one eight point two so all we all doomed are apprentice. No longer going to accept jobson get papajohns and stuff as a result of this source. Everything guide to carry on his normal well. It's open source code. So i think everything's gonna be fine. They've they've Made an announcement that they can do. Ten pre folks of the of the cups repulsed the trees so they can continue using it and yet either. Everyone's gonna just move over to the new a tree or it will just be temporary and they'll figure something out and moved back to the to the main re poke depending upon whether apple decided to polyphony ground still maintaining it all over. Maybe they'll develop apple print. I mean it's not like the two cups made all horrible impropriety and you know they couldn't is still open source and still all these years. Even while apple were very stewards of that project. There was still open printing. The old limits printing and people maintaining living drivers. So it wasn't. It wasn't a catastrophe. A lot of people thought it would be an apple hired. Michael sweet side. Yeah i just thought it was an interesting article and it's actually a disaster toil. Yeah cool martin. What's next well good news. The ross reply compute macho for is now available. The yes i these widely known. I think among sort of like the consumers of raspberry pi products but the compute modules in the past basically cut down versions of the raspberry pi that device manufacturers can imbed in their electric's to give it some smart some compute power maybe some. Gps power and through its pins exposes lanes to other devices and peripherals that it can integrate with and the last one was obviously the compute module. Three which was derived from the raspberry pi three and this is the refreshed addition the is essentially a raspberry pi full on this. Cut down many bold that you can use to make you know televisions and smart cars or whatever it is you want to create. I remember some years ago. You and i m wc and we had some industrial Control like blade things inside. Those were compete modules. At what generation they were then it would have been probably to something like that probably but it seems like they're very commonly used in industrial settings and people creating products bill around the pie didn't tend to use a real pa. They they put up. One of these compete modules. Because they don't have all the. The head is on avenue. The ethan and right usb and hd the features of and they come out via pins underneath the no physical connectors which makes them smaller and can industrial applications. So one of the things that interest me about this is. There's been a few projects over the years to do like a pie. Top like a laptop thing that you buy chassis. And he's got a screen and keyboard then you pop raspberry pi but because of the form factor of the roles pie. What you end up with these really chunky laptop with like a couple of usb ports above each other on the side but with something like this someone could make something quite similar but because of the form factor. It could be more like a laptop case that we're used to but with one of these insights to give it the roth report power inside laptop case and you can even have exposed. The gpo pins for doing all that fun. Stuff as well as a little connector on the side exactly but other than that. He could have usb and ethernet and wifi in the useful places and connect to screen and have with the with the full. This is the difference with is the extra. So graphical capability means you could then also even have an external monitor as well like yet. Have we with any of the laptop. So i'm really interested to see if somebody does a project like that. I think is inevitable so it starts at twenty five dollars for a one gig version. Wave i Emc's emc storage. But there are thirty two various variations in total Of this of this board with four different ram options one to foreign eight gig and then he the micro s the only all with aac sixteen gig thirty two gig of onboard storage. But it's a new form factor and also announced. This is the rest pie foundation. The compute module for i o board which i have seen in the flesh and he's a thing to behold and that has to hdmi ports on it and two usb ports on it. But i think the thing most interesting for a lot of people is. It has a pc express jen to on it as well. Yeah that's really interesting. I didn't. I didn't realize that the pie for supported pizza express. So they've sacrificed. Usb three ports in order to provide in a bus vanclief for the pci gen to slot so if you want usb three ports than you need to plug in a pcr yes that's called that has people on it. I guess you could plug some kind of multi-annual thing but in an industrial setting a show you're gonna need years. Be three may be undead. But i guess each each uses different the interesting thing i found about the compute module. Easy open hardware. So they're going to provide key cad files so you could get on your own so exactly what. You're suggesting. mock doing your own laptop you could take the design and like move all the connectors around so that there around the sides around the back and you make the board smaller battery pack in the something make it actually pretty lean. You might even be able to do what. They're the pine people do which is taken existing chassis and fit the lie inside an existing chassis and that industrial design and manufacture dramatically. Because you're just putting a board in an existing box basically That sounds wonderful. An old you'd for that. He's an operating system to power that laptop and fortunately a boon to fully enabled for the compute module on day of release. So you can download seven twenty four open to call and The upcoming Desktop release of into desktop twenty. Ten will say work on those given the appropriate outputs. Sweet nice have you seen anything else. New and interesting in the world monk. Well yes. there's some other small form factor programmable hardware news. The new bbc micro bit has been announced talha using the rebels. Six classes when he yes so. This is a small programmable microcontroller board with various impotent output. Bits on it. Maybe use for teaching programming. And this is the first major revisions since it was released. Gosh some years ago now So the the big The big additions to it All the there's now a built in speaker and microphone which you can use to sense and react to sound and a capacitive touch sensor on the front of the board so the board has like a little greater. Led's which you can use displaying stuff. And there's a microbe logo above that. And that's now a capacitive touch sensor which is really interesting. Because well capacitive touches. Most famously used for smartphones. I think that might be an interesting extra engagement. Advocates that you can program dislike. You would program you'll smartphone screen to respond to your touch or your gesture. Is it just a touch in with your touching on on can detect the capacitive level. Or something. I don't know i haven't seen that much detail on it yet. I think this will be most useful because he basically an extra button to the front. The thing absurd you you. You've got more input that you could The could accept yup. And he's called as same age connector which can be used to connect the gpo pins To other peripherals as well all to breakout boards. Fulbright boating and things like that. I think these really nice editions. My daughter's recently start programming. The micro bit having moved on from scratch and the accelerometers in the original one of may for some interesting games you know the games where you have to move the ball bearing around thing has made a version of that way you you get a random dot on the display and you have to roll the other one into it so the whole but i can see you could use the capacity of top in order to maybe control that you know an and move into position and the sound is a nice a nice dishes. Well yes i thought they would be a bit rubbish these micro bits. But they've been thoroughly brilliant and you can do surprising amount with them. And i was delighted to see they've got five million might cry bits in usa teaching and learning around the world which already impressive. Yeah me might. My initial reaction to them was very much the same lab yet. What can you really do with them. And then i saw a room full of kids get hold of them and i was instantly converted Yeah i think a large portion of the initial batch went out to school kids Sophie was in the year that got them first of all and has school a whole bunch of them but they weren't really prepared for it So they didn't really have the clauses. But now i think he's matured in auburn as educational resources and people have understood it a lot better and now matured to the point where we had his second generation won't be welcome show. Yes and in fact sarah from science oxford who we spoke to last year or perhaps the year before on the show. She's now been making their classes are available on get hub wicks on they outside so you can actually see your of the or the teaching materials that they use for the competing clubs they're awesome. Yeah finally introducing the video game salsa project so the video game history foundation has announced this new project and the video game. History foundation is a group of enthusiasts who archive collect and exhibit educate based around video. Game nostalgia in history and so they have things like magazines and fanzines and journals that archived and educating people about video game development over the years they go to conferences and stuff but they've started this new project. Which is the video game source project and the goal is to collect an archive and exhibit and learn from the source code for video games from the past and the interesting thing about this is not money. Game developers reveal the source code to the game. There's this culture of secrecy where you know. There's my secrets in that game with the secrets of the game. All the secrets of how i developed the game. And there's that that mentality it shouldn't be open. Because then i lose my edge over the competition but also entropy because developers move onto the next game very quickly and they just forget all about the previous game and may and stop supporting and so making the source code available for us in the open source well makes total sense but for them it. It probably doesn't 'cause they've forgotten all about that moved onto the next thing. So i found this super fascinating is it's only recently kicked off last week the Pity game history. Foundation has been around for a while this new project to archive source. Code is super fascinating. If you scroll down you'll see some of the exhibits that they've got be they five and a quarter inch floppy disks full of source code or notes from the original developer about how a game was to be constructed. It's it super fascinating if you're interested in that kind of stuff. I assume they've been gifted what they've collected so far have they. I think so. Yeah they get they get some gifts from game developers themselves or people who collected stuff. But i think what they won't do is raise awareness so that developers can talk directly to them and rather than wait for thirty years and get the harare source code for this thing. That was interesting as years ago. If foster the thought that actually appropriately obliged to start collecting things that are around now because people can learn from those things. I think they want to foster that culture of sharing not necessarily open source completely but at least sharing the source code so they can learn from it hidden in some way and i think that's feasible without the developers. You know giving their lunch money to do it. We'll have a link in the show notes but if you're in the gaming industry and You think you can get involved in this. You can send an email to source code at game history dot org and that's all the news for this week and that's all for episode thirty one. 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Ritalin, Provigil, and Caffeine Compared [60 Sec Psych]
"Today on sixty seconds site ritalin pro vigil and caffeine compared about one in fifty adults in the us use stimulants. Like amphetamines adderall. Methylphenidate ritalin conserva hormone daffy new provincial new vigil without a prescription and any percent of them take the drugs to enhance their cognition not to get high the ethics of all this is vexing but putting that aside how well does the practice actually work. And how does it compare to the drug that most of us suggest every day caffeine. I some biology caffeine works through a denizen receptors whereas the prescription stimulants work through dopamine and norepinephrine. So they're not the same here next. Let's see how they compare clinically in a new. Study the study setup to compare the three big stimulants. Caffeine modafferi provincial. And methylphenidate ritalin in forty eight healthy men who had no psychiatric disorders also. These participants did not drink more than four cups of caffeinated beverages a day. They were randomized to take either a placebo or one of these three stimulants and then they underwent a battery of cognitive test after taking the medication. The stimulant methylphenidate ritalin. Twenty milligrams modafferi nil pro vigil two hundred milligrams or caffeine two hundred milligrams which is equal to about two cups of coffee. A week later. They took the cognitive tests again. This time with the placebo if they started with the medication the other time or if they got the placebo on the first trial they did it with one of the stimulants. Here's what happened. Methylphenidate helped memory specifically the ability to recall images. They had looked at a day before. That's called declarative memory. Caffeine improved attention and modafferi improved energy but had no real effects on cognitive performance. The differences however were very small although the results are probably valid as they were in line with earlier studies. The study was also small and it used a lot of measures but they did adjust for the false positives that can randomly show up when multiple measures are tested. It might be surprising here. That mode avenue. Which does treat. Adhd had no effect on cognition in healthy adults. There are cognitive studies showing positive effects with mode avenue in normal subjects but there are others showing no effect so the data is mixed overall though moderna final is much better at increasing energy than cognitive ability in most studies and modano does consistently help cognition in one kind of person people who are sleep deprived which is part of the reason. The fda approved it for shift work syndrome. One caveat to this research it only looked at one day of testing in some studies methylphenidate in cognition on day one but worsened it on day. Two in healthy adults why because stimulants can impair sleep and there's no better memory enhancer than sleep. In fact all of these drugs come with some cost to sleep and the subjects in this study reported side effects of insomnia restlessness and headache the bottom line caffeine helps people sustain attention. While they're doing grueling work methylphenidate help. With next day recall and madonna. Final doesn't help much at all unless you're sleep deprived where it does hope your commission however these benefits are mild and they come at a cost to sleep and when people don't sleep well. Their concentration gets worse and they crave more stimulants and have a special announcement today. I'll be hosting a live two day certification course in psychotherapy for depression bipolar feature all the latest behavioral therapies for these conditions. They'll be december. Fifteenth and sixteenth through has the education. And you can sign up at psyche. Education dot org look on the right side of the page there psych education dot org and you'll see online courses live today event. Hope to see you there.
Strong All Season: Soothing Your Body | Dana Moore
"Welcome back to essential oil solutions with though Tara at this time of year when environmental threats are high. We know that many of you are looking for natural ways to help support your immune system so we're excited to bring you the strong all season education series. These episodes will be focusing on all the ways. You can keep your body working the best. It can so that you're able to stay strong all season. Hey everybody my name is Dana more. Today we're GONNA TALK ABOUT SOOTHING. Your body with essential oils and this is an important topic right now and something. You're probably focused on a little bit more ways to reduce stress in your muscles maybe ways to reduce stress in your emotions and relax your emotions and also just stay relaxed throughout your day on. If you're like me you probably have children at home now. So you're maybe adjusting in having pivot and so there's just a lot of adjustment taking place in I'm not immune to any of it but I do have essential oils that are helpful ammunition share with us. Some texts that. I'm doing that. We're doing as a family that are making this transition a little bit. Easier artists helping us to adjust as we're all kind of learning new ways to support things in new ways to do our daily lives so one of the first things to talk about is just relaxing muscles and for me. That's that's kind of the main way that I carry stress. That's when when stress hits and when things uncertain or You know I feel just overwhelmed. My Body will carry stress really tencent. My shoulders my jaw curious strands and I could just feel it in. That comes out in a physical way liquor. Some physical discomfort but it comes out emotionally to conceal this tightness impacted this locking up and we don't want to feel that way. We don't WanNa live in a place of stress in any way because when we are stressed out in actually is a detriment to our health. That doesn't support healthy life and so if we can stay in a place that's peaceful and relaxed. It's good for our bodies that supports US integrate way so one of the things I do I love to do is to take an epsom salt bath or create an epsom salt foot soak or even perhaps a shower and so I say on that because I know not everyone is a is a bather to soak in a bath the I'll have to soak into back consumer tip for us to take two COPs epsom salt in a nice warm bath and soak for at least fifteen minutes and to maximize that. I love to add a romantic essential. Oil Beautiful Bland. It's warming to the body and it smells amazing and so it brings it the aromatic peace over me as well but it mixes really well with epsom salts. I would just say use three drops. No more with two cups of epsom salts. If you don't love a bath on the back that's okay plug your shower and put the same thing in the bottom of the shower and just take your time in the shower. Maybe that's today where you take extra time to shave or something. So your feet are soaking in the epsom salts in the essentials as well and you're benefiting from the aroma or you can just sit in your feet Base either way you're GonNa get the benefits of Epson Salts which are calming relaxing. Amazing for distressing. But you're also GonNa get benefits of essential oils as well so that's one thing now because I'm prone to stress a couple extra things to I like to use this. Jade roller mini could kind of get these anywhere online. Just have it shipped to you But I like to to roll it along by JAL line where I get tense right through here because when I go to bed I'll end up clenching because my muscles are so tight or I feel stressed out and so one of the best oils that you can use for that. That Ivan is ballots. I think balance is phenomenal. Oil religious feeling grounded and insecure analyst. Take a few drops a balance and rub it gently along my jaw line. And then just take time to slowly. Ralph and you can even breathe by doing this. But it's calming relaxing in works that oil in and you're getting the benefits of Blue Tansy and Frankencense and black spruce was. You're actually great for your skin as well and it can just become a ritual that you do to set yourself up for being called before you go to sleep. Which is a great time recharged by two and then in addition one of the best things you can do if you're just uncomfortable or maybe you're working out more right now. In this season of lies put some deep blue on your muscles and then put a warm wet compress on hot so often I just use even heating pad and output the Deep Louis. Were Aroma touches. Fine and then add the warm wet conference on top. And just let that sit in sued for awhile and it's it's more than just even the actor the oils and the conference. It's just being still in letting your body to heal and rest and recharge ended to find that kind of peace. So that's all about your muscles when it comes to your emotions In our home were pretty proactive with our emotions. Because I don't really like to to handle emotional things after someone has looked out or after we all feel a dot so one of the things that we're doing To combat stress. Were taken the adaptive soft gels and I definitely made sure that we had enough for this period of being born team. Thanks for joining us. And congratulations on living a healthier lifestyle with essential oils. If you liked what you heard today Rape Review and subscribe wherever you listen also if you want to try any of the products you learned without Goto dot terra dot com or find a wellness advocate near you to place an order today.
How Does Pimento Cheese Work?
"This episode of brain stuff is brought to you by electrify america across country network of electric vehicle charging stations here to help electric vehicle. Owners feel free freedom of around their neighborhood. With charging stations near the places that matter and free to hit the road quickly by enabling access to ultra fast charging find out what's new electrify america dot com that's electrify america dot com electrify america. Hello freedom welcome to brainstorm a production of iheartradio pay steph lauren. Vogel bam here. Commend cheese may be s from shas staples super popular in the south. But this creamy cheese dish actually got its start up north in new york of all places just before world war. one fortuitous. Timing is what brought this comfort food. A simple spread made with pimentos shredded cheese and mayonnaise into being as soft spreadable mild tasting cream cheese. Which was the original ingredient in ponente. Cheese hit the market in the late eighteen. Hundreds spain's sweet red pimento or pimiento peppers simultaneously entered america's food aisles. These mild peppers added pop culture to dishes without any overwhelming flavors. American chefs and homemakers appreciated. These muted tastes and they were integrating cream cheese into everything from dips tour serves as can't pimentos became readily available. They soon fused to and the comfort. Food category has never been the same. Of course there's much more to the story than simple marriage between cheese and peppers. The story ponente cheese involves mass production agricultural novelties. And the addition of the south's signature influence mayonnaise. Here's a snapshot of mental cheeses history. To what your appetite so as recipes mental cheese sandwiches filled magazines and cookbooks cheese manufacturers began to notice they mass produced pimento cheese and it soon became available in grocery stores across the country at the same time. The state of georgia was making headway with plans to grow pimentos on us soil. The state's lead farmers requested seeds from the spanish consulate in the early nineteen hundreds and in nineteen sixteen. They had their first successful harvest as the peppers proved fruitful. Ponente cheese grew in popularity across the south. Some southerners in towns and cities might have had access to canned pimento cheese spread but other folks would have had to make it themselves. And that's likely when manny's made its way into pimento cheese we spoke with kevin clark. The co owner of an atlanta restaurant called homegrown georgia popular for its southern style. Breakfast fair and diner food. He said growing up in the south cream cheese wasn't something we ate. It just wasn't available. So many was a substitute. We used menes on everything. It's just what we had commenced cheese thoughts spike before world war. Two but the enthusiasm waned post war while others forgot about the cheese. Southern chefs began experimenting with their own recipes. In the years following it became part of southern culture and clark says that families now boast their own special southern provincial cheese recipes and his family's recipe is of course his favorite. He said family recipes. Have more meaning to you anyway. Honestly i don't think there are really a lot of differences in recipes other than one may have sharp cheddar or mild cheddar. It's just a personal preference. Clark introduced his ponente cheese recipe to the world at home grown which has been serving up southern comfort food in atlanta since two thousand ten at first minto cheese wasn't even on the menu he said minto cheese slipped my mind but customer would come in every week and ask for it. I finally put it on the menu and it took off. We probably go through some fifty to sixty pounds of cheese every week. That's about twenty three to twenty seven kilos not too shabby ponente. Cheese is simple recipe and clark says that that's one of the best things about it. Today's most popular recipes call for shredded cheddar cheese. Pimento peppers mayonnaise and ground black pepper. Although some cooks add flair with ingredients like jalapenos and hot sauce. It's typically served cold as dip or a sandwich spread although per customer requests. Clark now serves has hot to you. Says customers come in from all corners of the country to try distinct southern cuisine and while it may not be the first thing that comes to mind. Her mental cheese is an unexpectedly great way to enjoy authentic southern fair. Clark said people are always taken aback by cold cheese spread. But i say just try it. It's really easy to make and you don't have to use fancy ingredients. It's good cold or heated up. There are just so many ways to use it to make your own cork recommends this recipe combine two cups of shredded sharp cheddar cheese. A half a cup of mayonnaise half a cup of diced permanente peppers a teaspoon of ground black pepper and two to four dashes of crystal hot sauce and mixing bowl and stir until the mixture is smooth and spreadable ben covering chill before serving. Let stand at room temperature for thirty minutes or so and stairwell. It can be stored in an airtight container in the refrigerator for up to a week. If it lasts. That long episode was written by stephanie vermillion and produced by tyler kwang or more in this month's of topics because it has stuff works dot com. Green stuff is production of iheartradio. For more podcasts. My heart radio. Visit the iheartradio app apple podcasts. Or wherever you listen to your favorite shows. Today's episode brought to you by serve pro. Who want you to know that no matter what happens in your home or business. The cleanup and restoration specialists at certapro. 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The Family Cookbook - Keep it Sweet for COVID
"This is good old boy mike from sips suds and smokes. And you're listening to from paper to people. Hello and welcome to another episode of from paper to people the family cookbook. My name is Carolyn. Knee Lachlan and I am your host with the most. Just welcome to the genealogy podcast with a sense of humor and it's a little hard to have a sense of humor rate now truly because we are all very worried. And that's why I decided we need an episode called. Keep it sweet and that's just what we're going to do. We're going to dig into Generations Old Candy Recipes of my grandmothers. My grandmother used to let my mother have friends over after school. And what they would do is so cute. It's like the most incredibly sort of mid Western Army Brat. White girl thing to do she would have friends over and in one case in one case they made these little coke aprons there so fantastic. I have them and they are made out of CALICO and they're like little aprons like an apron that you would wear that goes around your neck and goes down your front and has ties and has a little pocket on it. It's exactly like that only. It's the right size for a coke bottle to keep the sweat. I'm a coke bottle from getting your hand wet and the little pocket is first Straw. They would hand make these and then use them to drink their little bottles of coke and another thing that they would do is they would have their little bottles of coke. 'cause I don't know feed people full sugar I guess it's good for them right Not So sure about that. But my grandmother would have them in the kitchen and they would make and eat fudge. They would make an eat other candies as well and homemade candy was a big deal in my grandmother's family. As I've said she came from Omaha she was born in nineteen five and Omaha and her mother Made Candy and her stepmother made candy. And it's just kind of a part of this sort of German English heritage that I have so I've got this wonderful book in front of me and I'm going to pull out a couple of recipe cards and I'm going to read you what we've got but I this service message Kovic. Nineteen better known as Corona virus has spread throughout the world symptoms of this respiratory disease may include fever cough and shortness of breath. These symptoms may show up to to fourteen days after exposure. If you are experiencing these symptoms and have come into contact or are in an area with an ongoing outbreak. Please call a hotline and or consult with a physician. Clean and disinfect high touch surfaces for more information please visit CDC dot Gov forward slash coverted. Nineteen thank you. That service announcement was courtesy of Blueberry the company that hosts my podcast and the information was courtesy of the CDC. That's the Centers for Disease Control here in the United States. I know that other countries have different to therapies. But you can always use. Cdc Dot Gov to find out information about. What's happening here in the United States? So I don't mean to leave anybody out just wanted to qualify that and now let's go to the land of Fudge. Peanut butter fudge is my favorite kind of fudge and this recipe is a recipe of my grandmothers and judging from the vinegar in it which I have never seen in any modern recipe. This has got to be a fairly old one. It's written in my grandmother's handwriting and it also specifies cane sugar instead of white sugar so this language and the ingredients. Tell me that that's probably a fairly old recipe. Maybe even one that she used when she was a young woman herself. My Dad loved peanut butter fudge so much and loves cashews so much that one time for his birthday. I made him cashew butter fudge. He loved it too. He was thrilled so here. We go peanut butter fudge two cups of cane sugar or white sugar one cup of Brown Sugar. One Cup of Water. One Teaspoon of vinegar one tablespoon of butter and a pinch of salt. The peanut butter is separate. Okay all right so here. We go my grandmother's manner in writing. These things always confusing to me. Boil to two hundred and thirty six degrees stirring to prevent sticking removed from fire and beat in one cup of Chunky. Peanut butter beat till starts to set. Press into Pan and it works. I assure you it works now. This is the fudge recipe that my mother used to make when she was a girl. And it's just wonderful it's typed up and I think my mother typed it up in her high school typing class. Because I don't know about you guys but we had typing class. I went to school. And that's what this is. So four cups of granulated sugar a quarter pound of butter or Oleo which is only oh margarine one cup of pet milk which is a canned evaporated milk product one teaspoon of Vanilla one pint of marshmallow cream two packages of chocolate bits. Which would be chips of some kind now and two cups of nuts more is better but at least this much chop fairly fine. Boil to a soft ball. Stage the sugar butter and milk removed from the stove. Add Two packages of chocolate bits. Adv Vanilla and marshmallow cream blend until the chocolate bits are well melted. Add nuts and pour in a buttered pan. A nine by thirteen pan is nice makes thick pieces. That's my mom. All over work fast after you start blending the bits cream and nuts makes about five pounds. So she and her friends. She made Six coca aprons. So she and her six friends eight five pounds of fudge those girls. I can't imagine that they weren't just rolling down the street. Full of fudge stunning. Here's another one. This is a recipe from a Mrs Telly. And it's an old card. It's written in my grandmother's hand in a younger version of my grandmother's hand and it is battered and torn and spotted. So Mrs Tellies Cream Candy Three Cups of Sugar One cup of Cara Syrup one and a Quarter Cup of Cream. One Cup of nuts. Cook to two hundred thirty four degrees again. Use Your Candy. Thermometer beat until stiff then pushed down on plate. Okay I have no idea which do after that. I suppose you cut it into pieces but again these things. They're not really telling us a whole lot. Here's an after dinner mints recipe and this is a very bad typing job from my mom so I get the feeling that this was another one of her high school typing attempts after dinner mints. Put Two cups of sugar two thirds of a cup of boiling water one quarter teaspoon cream of Tartar. One Teaspoon. Vinegar IN SAUCEPAN OVERHEAT. Stir until sugar is dissolved. Then boil without stirring to two hundred sixty five degrees pour onto slightly greased platter and leave until cool enough to handle pole candy with fingers. Adding a few drops of oil of peppermint when too stiff to pull stretch into a rope one half inch in diameter and cut with scissors and small pieces put at once into bowl of powdered sugar and leave until sugary. Can you do that with your kids? That's what I'm thinking of with all of this. I know I'm saying hey feel your kids full of sugar and then let them run around crashing into furniture inside your house. Not necessarily the best idea. I know that I understand that. I don't have children so I don't have to deal with what happens when you fill your children full of sugar but I would think that this is actually kind of fun thing to do. Not just cookies not just cake. Not just cookies or cake from a mix but to make candies. It's really reaching back a couple of generations. Here's another one PECAN pralines one cup sugar white two cups of Light Brown sugar a Quarter Cup of white care of Syrup one eighth of a teaspoon of salt one and a quarter cups of milk one Teaspoon Vanilla and a cup of pecans combine all but vanilla and pecans cooked to softball two hundred thirty six degrees removed from fire and cool to lukewarm. Add pecans and Vanilla and beat with wooden spoon and tell it loses it's gloss drop by tablespoons on waxed paper and spread to four inches diameter rap in cellophane if anybody is from Louisiana specifically the area of New Orleans you can tell me whether or not that's a faithful recipe. I will believe you either way. I'm going to give you one more candy recipe for the kids and then a wedding punch for the adults once. Those kids have been burnt out by sugar and gone to sleep. The final one is divinity and this is like age old American Culture Food Divinity. I've heard about for years and years. I think I've tried at once or twice. It's an odd sort of fluffy candy but that's all I can really remember. It's kind of a creamy fluffy candy. Anyway it's two cups of white sugar. A half a cup of Corn Syrup a half a cup of water to egg whites a tablespoon of the Nila a half a cup of and Salt Cook Sugar Syrup and Water. Two hundred sixty five degrees pour over egg whites add salt vanilla nuts and beat till creamy on the back. It says to make seafoam which is a different kind of candy. I Guess Substitute Brown sugar for the white sugar and use a quarter cup of Syrup instead of the Half Cup of Syrup for divinity. Okay so we've got to last candies divinity and seafoam now for those households that indulge in alcohol. I have something for you. It is wedding punch and I think they must want you to serve it to everybody before they write the checks to put in the purse. I'm not sure for every twenty people to be served. So this is twenty people's worth of wedding punch if you make it and you put it in the refrigerator seal tightly so that the alcohol doesn't evaporate and make sure you market with like three X.'s. And a skull and crossbones like they do in the cartoons so that the kids won't go near it slice a half a pineapple police in a bowl with a cup of sugar syrup. And I don't know if that's a preordained recipe for Sugar Syrup or if you can use Carol I have no idea a cup of lemon juice two cups of pineapple juice one and one half fifths of rum. Whoa that's a lot of rum. Chill at least two hours poor over a block of ice add to courts of sparkling water and one pint of sliced strawberries. Oh my that's fancy. Well that may not be something that we can make wall. We're stuck at home but it's something to plan for for the future anyway. I wanted to give you some recipes. That would make you laugh. Because they're fun and I don't know they're not necessarily practical at least some of them but some of them probably are and if your kids are going to be going out of their minds anyway and you have to home school them. You know home accused to be a class. It actually used to be required for graduation my school so give it a try. Why Not Otherwise? Keep IT SWEET. Take care of yourself and above all wash your hands
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"If you thought you saw the last of the double cheeseburger pizza from papa. John's think again because it's back again and now they're viewing. The sequel has a papa dea but quarter pound feet says burger sauce and pickles. Crispy inquest again. One more time to get a large double cheeseburger pizza for just twelve bucks or a new double cheeseburger. Papa diop for six better ingredients pizza papa. John's again not valid with discounts bees in texas. Extra prices may vary every day. Second by second minute by minute. Hour by hour time goes by taking this farther and farther away from those memories of the past. Do you remember remember that time. Remember when now you don't have to remember because we do. This is the tj totally call. Podcast a lot of people. The christmas gift is not that important. It's the idea of just being thought of and receiving a gift from someone but for others of us in the act. Day radio family. Getting a christmas gift is extremely important. And that's why today we present to you at tj classic piece of radio bid edge. I better get blank for christmas. And they meet are meant. At least that's happening today. As we step into the time machine for total recall god that and a great addition of anti-crime a special christmas edition of anti-crime. Another ace and tj radio bage plastic and christmas gifts from us. But we start with a fun tale. Tj burned his mouth or total recall. Tj's total recall. Podcast come usually pretty good with pain but my lip is still in a lot of pain right now from burning it on a hot tea a few minutes ago. It wasn't yeah it wasn't just the burn the roof of my mouth burma mouth and it went on the outside of my mouth and i have a yeti cup i mean i don't mean to brag i know there aren't many of them out there But i want a sip on it during the whole show that i want to go back and forth get an coffee refills and so i may have may have made a mistake. You know hindsight because there's a spit on the coffee pot that we have that just puts out hot water. Well i'm a two cups of tea and it two cups fills up this one. Big yeti not to brag that i have and so i i took one of them from the spirit thing and made it and imported in thing and then the next one i took from the speaker thing which was hot and then i put it in the microwave for thirty seconds. Because you just to make sure it was because this thing doesn't get really hot even steam comes up off of. I don't know what i was thinking you and so i'm not. I don't usually drink in out of travel coffee mugs that have lids on them because of the reason. I can't feel it coming into my mouth and it burns me. Well you gotta have lead on this yeti not to brag but if you don't defeats the purpose it doesn't hold the heat in there. So when i turned that i sip it spilled out into the the lid part all over the outside of the top of my of my top lip in the pain is one thing but cosmetically what is it gonna turn into. I mean i can't be having movie. We're going to be a guest on another radio show today. I can't be walking in here. With with blister mouth cosmetically it turns into its lawsuit yet. What i what i'm hearing. What about in the first aid kit there is a little burn salve birnbaum in there and maybe kind of help you tone it in the pain. I put some Carmax no it's it's my My lip balm of the week. Because you know have changed amount of time. This is the Vassil lean lip. Therapy creme brulee flavor. So i put that all vassil. Lean creme very late Looks tiny tiny uh-huh just enough to very little. I had my head in my computer. But i heard something slam on the other side of the room. What was that was that you slamming the and spit it out in the floor. It was back. We're spilling t here. Tj spilling hot tea all over the place call. Windy do spill t- This is so hot. But what i'm saying is i may not be able to to make it through the rest of the show. It's going to be touching for a while. And if i start to blister up then matt my it I don't know where that isis being in there in the refrigerator. Not really sure where. The water radio's asian negative. Come from adrain somewhere some. I could've sabotaged it. You know you never know around here. Radio people who trash could be covered with frozen urine or something. You never know what's wrong. This is the ace and tj total. Recall podcast if we could give you one day christmas on this show. What would it be. I love this response. When i want for christmas from the ace and tj show. Bradley says it's very simple. Paper hat paper had of come on those. Are the special paper hats that we have and we only given away on special occasions. And that's not the type of. I mean that's something of monetary value as a gift with meaning things like if we do something that gets on your nerves. It would be a christmas gift for you if we stopped it. Now i know i would never fall into that category so i should say if ace riggins win or take d. Robbed is something that gets on your nerves. You would ask them to stop that that kind of thing Here's what the paper you're not gonna get one had easily on me. I feel for you but to valuable what i want for. Christmas says brandon for tj to bring back his sound machine where he interrupts people when they're talking with you have one love that in a while. maybe robin. Tj can have a christmas sing off. that's what he likes christmas. Rally the last one. I want to learn something manly like how to operate a chainsaw. So we know riggins can do mainly things like he can fix stuff and work on things and all that Ready just has to do it wearing bubble. Wrap sitting right there. What do you want for christmas from the show. Jamie says can. Ace be the weird oncle playing air drums in the band. Nothing aces weird but we all have one of those weird answer uncle. I think that's exactly what you're saying. Lessen the blow by making him feel more normal about his weirdness but he sits alone in a room and eardrums. Rockin it rockin addresses mind is easy. I just wanna riggins hilarious impression of his brother. Matt pretty please angry map one more time do. Here's the thing. I'm better than you physically spiritually emotionally and financially. Step up your game day. Honestly another version. Another a christmas gift here. Somebody wants to hear a christmas. Sing off between tj. Take me rob two totally different people who are totally into that. What do you want for christmas from the show cam says i want an ace and tj radio t shirt if possible. Oh m. those. But i mean again. That's that's going against the rules of this game. Yeah i guess. I'm going to have to bring back the the boob job. Je have one bill o'reilly yelling thing because our firm mallory listens to his own bob ninety three ask for and so. She's nice to have to do it now. Not because of them that brandon guy or now gets what she wants. She's yes she's very sweet and she has. She has a very dreamy husband and pretty baby yet. Sickening sickening siham. you'd like. Oh that's the way it is Perfect perfect what. Do you want for christmas from the asian tj show christie says. I want ace to have his girlfriend on the show so we can hear just how young she really is. It's kinda very remember that google baby we had earlier. Yeah do i want. Tj and regan's an entire episode of the show as tj wife. Love their impressions of her. I just love hearing her talk. It just the sound of her accent and the way she speaks is so entertaining and engaging just so loveable to listen to and then when they do. I didn't more teasing leads. Michael lovable nagging. Total recall cast classics. Come next and i cried. The christmas edition and i better get blank for christmas. Yep both next on total rico. Tj's total recall podcast. This is the total recall. Podcast podcast subscribe nowadays. Tj dot com the tj app or through iheartradio. More of the total recall. Podcast after this all as and tj show graphics and web designer done by alpha lab designs looking for spectacular email design at a stage dot com web design menus marketing materials brochures flyers social media ads and more design at tj dot com. This is the act j. Total recall podcast. Christmas addition of anti-crime. Just some the back onto stupid and silly but we can't help the fact that it made you cry. There's a great related aim page. One of our teenagers asked if she could borrow my favorite christmas sweater for her choir performance. I was so excited. I told her yes. Then when i got to the performance later that night i found out it was an ugly christmas sweater. Contests and Well did she win. Yeah but to find out. Your favorite. Christmas sweaters considered ugly by everybody else. Everybody unless she wouldn semi asking if they can feature you on their website jacked up. Grills dot com. I love your smile. Can i put this on a site. The vanak cried. Vanessa says i pulled out my pre lit christmas tree this year and the lights were so i pulled out my extra lights. Put them on the tree. Exactly how i wanted plug them in. Those didn't work so been a brand new box. put them on. They didn't work. Sure why i never plugged them in first to make sure they worked. You wonder was the aglet connected to a light switch. And maybe they all. Maybe this outlet was off yes. Something's got to be offered three different strands to not were. And why would you not wait. Plug these in first before we take these off dion ahead to do the extra lights on a tree to make it where it's really bright dude. Were instead of running the lights just around the ends of the branches. You run the like down at the base of the branch by the by the trunk rapid around down there and then pull it to the end and wrap it around there and then just we've him that way on each beach limb. I can't believe i said branch. Rural southerners say limbs branches. Give me a limb man lights tucked in there. I wanna see the string all the time. Yeah that's what i'm saying. And it lights up the inside part of the tree as well as the s He'd let you like to stay little dakota cape girardeau. Welcome to the and tj show. And i cried what happened okay. It was my first christmas with my stepdad side of the family. And they kind of come from money so they're fancier and i collect have like really amazing food so we get there and there's zero traditional christmas food. It's like finger foods and like this weird shrimp soup and like nothing. That i expected so i cried what you're hungry and not what you want just disappointed. I love shrimps thanks. I hit her newborn. And i cried the christmas edition. What made you cry. I was searching for a peek. At you it is the to it except one that holding eight kooky balls. I had been out with my three boys. We were searching for their youngest sister for about five hours for this thing. It was my daughter's number one gift. I was completely exhausted. And i went into target after searching all over the store i started to cry as thirteen. Meet toy aisle and i'm standing there just falling in front of the employee employees and he is like i will search. Let me go searching the back. I will search all over for you. And i'm like please do and my boys are looking at me going okay. We are not saying here. We're going to go look at the video game and thanks a lot and i don't remember this lady Be anywhere near. She must've heard the commotion. She told me he comes running over going. Oh how's one for you. Just have it at the same time. The employee comes running back. I found one four people coming at me and at that moment. I just had a complete meltdown. I like all out like bali owning this. Like all your hard work had paid on new. How many people d- amd me saying that. They cried when they heard that i had gotten a case of those fingerling things and know what they were and threw them away. Don't have little kids know about that. Thank you companies. Send us things sometimes to you know to promote or to see if we would like to advertise for things like that and so i got this whole big thing of finger puppet deal things and who would ever want that. That is the roadway. There's related facebook page. It says the christmas edition of anti cried when she was about twelve. Grandmother gave her a purse for christmas and told her because she was about to become a woman and needed to have something to carry her feminine products and daddy. Cracks is the ac dj total recall. Podcast lady says. I better get a new engagement ring for christmas when my fiance proposed this past summer before i open the box he says i know. You don't like gold but and this is what i got that. She sent a picture of the ring on her hand. And it's gold with a diamond on. He knows i hate. Gold never owned a single gold item and the ring. He gets his gold. If he didn't say. I know you don't go. But when he proposed it would have been different. But it's like he intentionally got something he knew. I wouldn't like but after six years of being together. I've been hitting around lot. That i would like to get married someday. So she has an engagement ring. That is gold dipped or but it raises his glass. If he even knows she doesn't like gold called his. Why did he but but if he knows she doesn't like gold why did he buy her gold. Maybe that was the opportunity he had to get a good deal on a ring. Was that particular one. What does it matter if it's one. He knows she's not going to like and now he has to buy another one but she wanted ultimately to get engaged. So he's like well or engaged. You would rather have no ring. Because this is the ring i could afford. This was the one that was available to me at the price. I could pay but now he you wanted was to be engaged so i love you. But now he's going to buy me to rings no she could dip it or she could just come over to the gold side. It's so pretty he likes. All that glitters ain't go. That's true did she say what the date is of their wedding because they get engaged over the summer. that's true. They should be well on their way right yet. Will i'm just saying that if If this this upsetting that you can't even you're not even on the same wavelength enough to be able to to get the engagement ring issue to where it's not an argument in demand for something else then. Are you getting married for the right reasons. I mean just because you've been together six years in the hinting around about. It seems like that. That's kind of a side note thing that you'd be so upset about her that he would not get you what you wanted. And then you'd have to go back and forth. She just message. Tj said no date yet So yeah fix years that she said that she. They've been together six years and she's been hinting around so much about wanting to get married so he just ran and got a ring What we deemed years ago is being. Shut up ring. That's what it does it sound. It may not be to me that it sounds like that's Textbook shut up because he even knows something she won't really like. Yeah you wanna get. You wanna get engaged here. Put this on. No you don't like that it'll show people that were engaged and then you'll be fine. That's what you want done could be a me. I'm just throwing that out as a possibility I'm sure she's not like me very much. Here's lady said. I'm not going to say i better get because i'm a nice person but i really hope my husband spends about the same on me as i do him. I always been a lot more and get him much. Better gifts just wants a little equality and the gift giving but that's not really the point of giving a gift right to not to get something of equal or less of equal value in return. Yes it is is By the way. Tj she just edison message back about the ring and said yes tj. My thoughts exactly a shut up ring l. o. l. l. and obviously it didn't work. Merry christmas i hear the. I better get an ember coffee mug. It's an app controlled coffee cup. That will keep your coffee or whatever you're drinking at the temperature you want and she has let it be known like in other words. Hey everybody this is what. I want for christmas right here. Have that's cool so like if you're sick for several days at a time you just put it there and it'll keep whatever beverage that you're theraflu hot all all the time. Yeah that's a good one this guy if you sip very very slowly. Have you ever tasted their lou. I don't think he would want it. Barely sip it if you had to. It's not. It's not a good tasting beverage not delicious but it may get you back to work there. You go one hundred fifty dollars for a coffee mugs only aggressive but this is for the thermos but as controlled by an app. Yep that's pretty sweet in. Do you think that you better get some of those boxer briefs that you like christmas. That would be so nice. The tommy john. Did you put them on your list for your parents. No i didn't. I should've have you turned in your list. Reagan's reagan's family they all the each an official list. Then submit it to everyone else every year. That's right i did. I submitted my list. Is for a little red wagon. No i i asked for a collapsible wagon. Because i'm living uptown now. So it to get my groceries. Back home i'd ask for a wagon so the drag it down the sidewalk and look like fool dragging and dragging that wagon instead of having to open up team flights yet groceries walk to the store. Walk in your car. Exactly so the wagon makes sense. Just look like an idiot. What else is on my list. Hair gel dry shampoo or something for your hair. No nothing for my hair code for wolfenstein. Wolfenstein no steam. That's how i stay at the video. That yeah what else did. I put on their stupid steph. Oh replacement blades for my my shaver thing Stupid stuff do you make lists quinn or do you just can't say what do you want for christmas. And you tell him okay because you jodi give each other gifts to you or do do you have the gifts okay. We don't But she gets me. Gives me the same thing all year. Round which is hail tj total recall. Podcast is new at noon. every weekday. subscribe now tunes. Do you love sugar spice. And everything nice. Do you love pumpkin fragrances. 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These fountains have some rather intriguing pertains. If you'd like to hear that then go to get sleepy dot com slash supports or. Just follow the link the sherry nights to learn more now. I hope you're feeling calm. Clear and relaxed. But of course. That isn't always easy to achieve. When our head hits the pillow there might be a lot of tension in your body. Annoys in your mind right now you might be able to make sense of it to identify different thoughts or it might oldfield bundle together. Like a disruptive pressure so if you are sensing any of that's on wanted noise or tension try visualizing a big bowl of yawn right now. You're holding it in your hand it's all bundled together in a twisting sphere of material and it feels quite heavy when it's like this in your palm. They spool of yon is much like your busy mind so simply placed the on the floor. Fine the tip at the end of the material and press one finger down on it then push the ball away watch as the strand unravels gradually and smoothly moving further away shrinking in size and changing shape. In just the same way. You can let any pressure on. Noise gradually unwind that bundle tension just rose out until the yon- is completely lose. No more twists nine more towns. Along lightweight tweet strand replaces the heavy cluster of the yawns previous form. A now you can relax so let's turn to our story for this evening. It begins on a clear day with a shimmering blue sky as betsy on parents drive through a charming area of british countryside as the family call pools into the long gravel driveway. Betsy combat contain her excitement. The moment they come to a stop she. I'm buckles has seatbelt and swings. Open the car with haste. She jumps out and runs toward the quaint old thatch cottage colorful flowers and plants decorate mma front garden lab looms reflecting against the properties creamy white walls a soft breeze rustles the tool beech trees. That's overlook the driveway. It carries with it the delightful scent of freshly cut across. But betsy doesn't pay much attention to any of that as she races. Up the gravel path leading to the house tiny stones crunch and skip up beneath her feet. butterflies bees and lady pads leap up from the flowerbeds. Suddenly awoken from the usual peace and quiet when gets to the front door. Betsy stands on hatay's towns and stretches out her arm to grab a short piece of rope above the rapist hanging from a small bowel on the outside the womb of the cocktail. It was only on her last visit that she'd finally grown tool enough to reach it with an infused pastic shape. Betsy dings the bell several times. Her mum following up the path to the front door reminds had daughter that just a couple of rings will do fine. That shuts the car boot carrying the small pink suitcase and a rucksack fool of patsies favourite toys with the bows chime. Still resonating betsy. Peers through a frosted glass pane and sees a sprightly figure. Walking down the hallway. The door opens with a soft creek. And betsy is met by the bright wholesome smile of her day. Grandpa he too has been excited for his granddaughter's visit. Welcome my darling. how were you he asked. Betsy jumps into his arms and give him a big warm hug. Did you hear the bell bazzi asks. I reached my first try her mom and dad choco as they follow on inside. I heard it loud and clear. Grandpa replies equally amused by his granddaughter. Though he might be in his latter years grandpa still has oh his wits about him. He stays busy looking after his cottage. Great pride intending to the garden. Both front and back. They always look vibrant and healthy. That's good timing. He says of not long. Put the lawnmower back in the shed adjust though across could do with a little extra trim his son and daughter-in-law smile greeting him with a loving hug of their own. The whole family makes their way into the sitting room. A pot of tea is on the table freshly brewed and still steaming biscuits and cupcakes to which instantly draw patsies attention. She asks i mom if she's allowed a cupcake. Only if grandpa doesn't mind says mom patsy looks up at her beloved. Grandpa you fill your boots betsy. You're using all that energy growing so toll after She grins gleefully. I'm picks up a cupcake and to biscuits with how rucksack of toys in town. Betsy runs out to play on the freshly cut known at the back of the cotton every fortnight. Betsy visits her grandpa's home for the weekend. It's a tradition. That means the world to both of them that c. finds that there is always so much fun to be had whether it's exploring the cottage and the gardens or playing games and jigsaw puzzles with her grandpa. Every moment is filled with happiness Close in the evening. He always makes a copy of delicious hot chocolate for both of them to enjoy before bad for grandpa. it's just wonderful to have some company. I'm betsy youthful exuberance. Keeps him on his toes. She makes him laugh and smile. We entire time which is all he could possibly want or need to. After sharing conversation over a warm cup of tea patsies. Mom and dad sat off back home. They have plenty to be getting on with this week. And the young girl pops back in from the garden to say goodbye but she has. South is in a hurry in a hurry to introduce to of had newest toys to grandpa's beautiful garden after cheerfully waving goodbye to his son and daughter-in-law grandpa makes his way out to the garden. Betsy is already immersed in her own little world. She sharing conversation toys. Oh touring her voice for each different character. Her grandfather stands on the patio smiling with affection. How wonderful it must be to have such a vibrant and creative imagination like betsy. He still remembers being just the same as a child spending hours on end pleasantly lost in the boundless excitement of the great doors. Eventually betsy spots her. Grandpa looking on from the shaded patio. Oh yes how could i forget. She says to her new toys. You haven't met grandpa yet. He's the chief of the garden makes the dumbest top chocolate. You're ever during. The young girl runs over to meet him making whooshing noises as she swears across the lawn. Like an aerobatics plane. Say hello grandpa she requests. He's always willing to play along so he greets each toy as if it understand him. It's nearly lunchtime already. Grandpa leaves betsy playing outside and pops to the kitchen to make some sandwiches. He takes out two slices of white bread for betsy and for him. It's two pieces of grun. His favourite filling is tuna and mayonnaise so he spreads a hearty portion of it across his granary bread. granddaughter profess jam or sometimes cheese as he has both options at the ready he makes a half sandwich lovie which should keep her more than happy to accompany the sandwiches. He pulls a handful of crisps on the side of each plate And fills two cups with cloudy lemonade. he puts the plates and cups on a large tray and carries it out to the garden table While seeing grandpa enjoy that lunch he asks if she would help him with an important task this weekend. He needs to tied in the loft and clear out some items to take to the charity shop. But it's a big job for him to do on his own. So betsy is. Assistance would be invaluable little face beans as she nods her head. She loves helping her grandpa around the house. Plus the possibility of finding some o- treasures is a very exciting prospect later that afternoon the to make their way to the upstairs landing. Grandpa opens the hatch from the ceiling above imposed down attached ladder. It folds out like a concertina undressed safely on the carpet below. Betsy kahn already smell an old. Woody sent floating down from the law. Grandpa climbs the fast few stack and tells betsy to follow him up once he reaches the talk The young girl steps up the fast to ladder rungs gripping family on the metal frame as she owns the metro surprisingly cool one half pounds considering how warm it is outside today as she gets to the halfway point grandpa reaches down and helps her up the last few steps. She peeks over the hat trick entrance to see what awaits in the sparsely used space. How is are meant by a golden beam of some light shining through a small circular window at the front of the cottage not true light brightens the whole life span. Betsy glances across and see some dusty. Oh draws a few stacked boxes filled with ornaments and a large display cabinet sporting some shiny trophies and medals. It's a fascinating space. Low beans stretch across the slope ceilings. Even betsy has deduct her head to avoid some of them grandpa flicks on a light which brightens up the corners but haven't quite managed to catch the sun's gays. Betsy is instantly drawn to the trophy cabinet. What might to one of the shiny cups and figures represent um her grandpa explains that most of these trophies and medals were awarded to him back when he was a young adult. He used to compete in rowing competitions. I'm was quietly actually back in those days Betsy fill surprised. She can't really imagine how grandpa racing around in a boat. he's often sighing about. He's a key back but all of these awards must mean. He was an excellent rower. One time in his life. One glistening gold medal draws her attention impotent cure. It's the largest medal in the cabinet with detailed engravings of a race boat and a pair of oars criss crossing through the center. A grandpa kathleen removes it from the carbonate as he hands it to bazzi. He tells her with this medal is he's most cherished. It was one in a famous historic race on the river thames. He watches as his granddaughter. Takes the meadow in her hands. All struck by its prestige. I've been on a boat along the thames. The class betsy with pride we went right under tower bridge. I could see on the road. It was amazing grandpa smiles. I thought just the same thing when i went through that he replies. Betsy clasps the medal tightly between her fingers. Thick gold colored metal fills heavy. and i'm breakable. She sacco's half thumb over the engraved image and writing it feels so smooth and glossy an object of great elegance. Many items of memorabilia are safely stored away in the old law. Grandpa won't be letting go of these. They are truly priceless but there are plenty of other things that over the years but he doesn't need any longer. Grandpa asks patsy to help him so through som items ready to take to the charity shop. The loft is tightly packed with all sorts of house. Swear old clothes and pieces of furniture. The two together deciding which items grandpa has little or no use for any more. Betsy takes charge of neatly packing the claims while grandpa collect some of the heavier items into a dedicated area of the law. A couple of hours fly by unnoticed. Betsy is completely engrossed in her task. Which is nearing completion as she reaches into a black sack pulling out lost pile of clothes to sort through something small on soft drops out onto the floor. The object is light brown colour plump and fluffy it has landed face down. Sarah takes a moment for betsy to realize what it is. A young ow. Curiously picks it up brushing off. Some dust collected from the floorboards a delight. She turns it over in her hand and is met by the sweet face of a cuddly. Teddy bear the smiling toy is looking little worn and rugged it's dark brown padded paws have some rough patches and the threading on its nose is slightly loose but this teddy bear is the most adorable soft toy. Betsy can ever remember seeing looking over from the opposite end of the lost. Grandpa sees the. Betsy has made this special find how wonderful he calls out navigating the wooden beams as he comes to take a look himself. I haven't seen they little shop. For years maybe decades. Betsy hands the petite barriere to her grandpa who crouches down to tell her about Believe it or not this tatty once belong to your dad. It was present on his fourth birthday when he was even younger than you are now and for years after. The two of them were inseparable. Betsy is a gleaming with astonishment. In fat grandpa continues. He used to swear that this little guy was. He's lucky charm he took him everywhere and said the toffee always kept him safe Toffee betsy says inquisitive Yes that's what your dad decided to call him. Betsy sits staring at the bad and looking at the fine details. Toffee is blessed with carrying is a cheerful smile and even a neat bow tie below his chin. Grandpa handsome back to betsy Why don't you keep him. He asks it would be a shame to let him leave the family. And i'll bet your dad will be so happy to see him. Betsy grins from eight to in. As her grandpa passes the bad into her loving arms she squeezes it tightly. Feeling toffees cuddly softness and warmth Thank you grandpa. i'll take extra special care of him. The old man nods with a grateful smile if the teddy brings as much joy and reassurance to back see as did to his son. He knows she'll treasury it for years to come. The final task for the two of them is twenty out the chest of drawers. Grandpa knows they'll be somebody out there. Who love that moore hog new look. That's still in excellent condition so deserve to be put to proper use again. One draw is littered with some old tools. Used batteries paperclips and our beds. Another has a few piles of paper. Scruff te and creased in places most are old utility bills and documents that will worth keeping for a year or two but by now may be shredded and recycled as for the bottom drawer. It is completely empty except for one solitary item. A bulky navy blue leather book. Grandpa lifts the book out and places it to one side will keep a hold of this one. He says with a quiver of emotion in his voice. What is grandpa at the kindly. Old man explains that the object but appears to be a book is actually a photo album. It is filled with precious family memories from the past relics of years combined. How 'bout we bring it down with us. And i'll show you some of the pictures after dinner. Grandpa suggest. Betsy agrees intrigued to find what memories this photo album might home betsy and her grandpa and joy. It unleashes dinner a traditional pie which he tends to cook for her on most visits. It's a recipe. He's used for as long as he can remember. And it's always a hit a as soon as betsy finishes her lost mouthful. She reminds hat. Grandpa about the photo album out as he always says the dishes want clean themselves so the two together tidying up the walk tops and washing everything up once. The kitchen is looking spic and span again. grandpa boils up his famous hot chocolate. He brings to steaming cups of the delicious warming. Drink into the living room. Seeing grandpa sit on the cosy sofa and he picks up the photo album. Ready to take a trip down memory lane. Wait grandpa says the young girl. She jumps up and runs out to the whole wayne when she reappears. She is hugging her newfound teddy bad between her arms toffee will love looking at the old photos to she declares as she rests back down by her grandpa's side. She takes a sip of how warm chocolate drink and snuggles back into my sofa with the fluffy back on her lap. Cram pass slowly turns. The album open to its fast. Page quote is written on the inside of the cover. It reads precious memories. A life's greatest treasure Turning three the patriots. The photo album is like a time line of family. Life father proof of grandpa with his race banks and medals images in black and white with faces. Betsy doesn't recognize thome. Some of the people have strange hairstyles and a wearing unusual outfits. At least compared to what. Betsy has used to grandpa goes through each of the unfamiliar faces one by one telling his granddaughter who they are and why they were so special to him. Memories of his own. Youth flashback as he recounts stories with his own parents cousins and other relatives as grandpa continues to turn the pages. The photos go from black and white into hazy cholera increasingly becoming more vivid. Page off the pain. It's his both a timeline of family. Heritage und- of technological progression. There are photos from family holidays. Beautiful scenes of the countryside all over britain even a few beaches and sunny scenes from holidays abroad. Betsy sees had dad in many of the photos to begin with. He is no bigger than she is. Now in fact she even sees a lot of similarities in him to hassle. The same light wave. He had the same button nose and a cheeky grin that she too often pose for photos. He looks a little more. Grown up at the town of each page. As grandpa goes to move onto the next. Betsy stops him suddenly. She spotted something in the background of a photo. It's a picture of how that playing with a train set in his bedroom. Botin mcchord betsy. Conceit toffee the teddy bear. He is setup rested against the headboard of the bed. Oh yes says grandpa. Your dad insisted on having coffee by his side whenever he was sleep with that betsy squeezes the carly bag even tighter to bali feeling the same comforting presence but toffee used to bring to her father all those years ago Throughout the photo album there is one unwavering theme each and every page emanates the truest love and happiness a family bond but was at the heart of every part of life. Betsy feels blast. Knowing that her parents have raised with just the same love and care that around is bestowed upon them. She takes a final set of how hot chocolate. I'm puts the cup down on the side at sees failing roth a tired after another fun filled day with her grandpa as they continue to look through the pictures. She snuggles up to her grandpa and rests her head on his own with her new friend. Toffee the teddy under one. Betsy shuts her eyes within moments. She slowly drifts off into a pleasant sleep Makram pass smile. Neetu singh an. It's just him looking at the photos now. He tries to keep still say the. Betsy can snooze here for a little while. A nice moment is just as precious as every other in the photo album own Feeling gratitude for the love and kindness Of his family power shuts his eyes an diocese into a peaceful dream film with happy memories. Oh oh A
DIY Spa At Home
"Do it yourself spa at home. Stay tuned. I'm kelly. And I'm Leslie and we're the dollar saving divas. We know how hard it is to provide your family with everything. They need while still being able to treat yourself over the years. We've found some tips and tricks everything from how to spot the secondhand deals to tips for maximizing to rewards points. We want to help you save money. If you have money saving tips, you want to share. We would love to hear from you. We'll talk about them in a future podcast just had to our Facebook page at Facebook dot com slash dollar saving divas. The bus will you can really distress by doing one of the latest spa inspired treatments? And you can do some of the stuff at home. Well, and my sister-in-law it all as we go through this. I'll tell you because the ones that you make these things at home. My sister-in-law makes scrubs, she makes body lotions. It's all these things. And she, yes, I went to a wedding shower, and she made individual bag. With like six different things that she had made. And she does it at Christmas time to meet idea. It's a very neat idea. And some of these recipes it's with stuff that you have in your house. Yeah. Well, one of the best ways to reduce stress is to surround yourself with a relaxing environment like a warm bath, and you can add some skin, soothing ingredients, like camomile or oatmeal to the water. I'm that'll help you keep your skin soft I'm seeking to some of the pre made stuff too, but they have here, a do it yourself and they call it a tub tea, and it is four camomile tea bags and one Cup of warm water. Do we drink it? No, you steep the tea bags for five minutes and use a spoon to push the bags against the side to extract the camomile, and then pour it into the bathtub filled with warm water. Well, this is another one as a softening wrap for your hands. Now, I'm I'm the Tories I now I keep lotions for my hands because you're always washing your hands, so and this morning, I put some of it, then I wash my hands again. So I need to do this. But here's one of the ones that it's a do it yourself, not a vino makes makes a good one, and it's only like it's a hand mass than solely three dollars drugstores, but you can actually do it yourself with a quarter now, this is actually, when my sister has done a quarter of a Cup of Honey, a half a Cup of Brown sugar, a quarter of a Cup of milk, and two teaspoons olive oil. I just made sure that I kept it in the refrigerator, but it really worked, and it really did moisturizer hands. Is it like super greasy or on little a little bit? But you know you use it and then let it sit for a little bit. But then you then you then you wash it off in like three minutes. And it's just your hands are really soft. It really does. Another one is this one? And she does this one as well, the smoothing scrub for your lips because I'm not, you know, you always get dried. Yeah. She actually did a teaspoon of rock and sugar and once spoon of Honey, and put it into a small bowl and mix it up and combine it then dab a small amount on your lips and easy to. That's he's an any and I let it sit for a little bit. And then I, then I rinse it off or lick it off on the other, right? Yeah. You could eat that most most of these, you could. So if you have like puffy eyes when you get out like you can you do a compress for your eyes, and you can do cucumber. Oh, I've heard this for us as cucumber could you put it on your eyes, then eater put in a salad yet. I wouldn't do both with the same. Robert. Yeah, it's a high water content, and it's a natural anti inflammatory so on your cleanse skin, you could just place cucumber slices of your close ties for fifteen minutes, which will cool them and take the puffing down. And these do yourselves are so much less expensive than the things that you have to buy right? Because you do have most of these things. Yeah. Right. So you could do, and then there's another one, you could if you want to do a soothing soak for your feet because the average person and takes like between five and ten thousand steps per day, so you're beat can get tired. But just pour two cups of Epson salts under warm one warm. One and water wanting what warm running water in a base in her a tub to dissolve put a couple of drops of lavender essential oil and soak your feet. Well, another one is face masks, and I know we were talking another thing is about we, you know, the charcoal masks, that you can do, but I skimmed softening too is you can use which this again, you could actually eat a half a half a ripe avocado. One egg. A teaspoon of plain yogurt. A teaspoon of baking soda and a teaspoon of Honey. You combine them all up in a blender and you apply a layer on clean skin, and don't make sure you don't get in your eyes. Leave it on for ten minutes, and then rinse it with warm water. That sounds good. Now here's a deep treatment for hair. If you have dry hair, I'm not sure I could do this because I think my hair would be too, greasy. But if you do have dry hair, you can make kind of a hair mask, I guess, with two tablespoons of coconut oil. A Cup of mashed avocado and a banana. Oh, right. So you put it on clean, wet hair and leave it on for five to ten minutes and rinse thoroughly. So I think that would be fabulous. If you have dry hair, if you don't you may end up with some stringy greasy. Yeah. They'll look like you're here. Right. You're right about month. The best said for every room, I think this is interesting is they see for your bed, trim, soothing, lavender, which you can get it bath and body works for your kitchen, fresh citrus, which you can get simple, pleasures lemon citrus hand, soap at about six bucks from Kohl's bathroom detoxifying eucalypt, those love, eucalyptus you love. I do you like the smell bugling and this do you? Okay. I guess you do John living room, cozy amber, which you can December small, like I don't know an amber spells you could get a candle and and try it. Okay. Cozy numbers. So they'll the I like I do like lemon in the kitchen. I always have like lemon hand lotion up I did too. I have lemon. I have things called, like fresh cotton breeze. I like the fresh smell anything that smells like food. No. Oh, I'm not a candle person smells like food handler's bond candle or whatever those are smell, like nothing had. No, none of. None of those. So we'll these are some of the things you can do teddy your own do it at home spa. So I'm going to go home. I think I'm going to check out what I have in my pantry and maybe I'm gonna make myself a nice relaxing afternoon. Thanks for listening to the dollar saving divas. If you have ideas for an upcoming episode we would love to hear from you just head to our Facebook page at Facebook dot com slash dollar saving divas Ciba's and share your comments. Our podcast is available on I tunes iheartmedia or your favorite podcast player. Thanks again for listening.
Time the little things
"Hey listeners. It's easy to see how apartments dot. com is the best site for renters. Because with virtual tours, it's easy to find new space without leaving your place. Virtually view floor plans and amenities with three tours and explore hd videos and photos, including interiors, neighborhood images, and even drone footage of exterior views all from the comfort of your couch. It's that easy, so visit apartments DOT COM and get into a new rental today. APARTMENTS DOT COM, the most popular place to find a place. Welcome to before breakfast a production of iheartradio. Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the before breakfast podcast. Today's tip is to time the little things. In our efforts to streamline our lives. We can become obsessed with minimizing or avoiding certain tasks. But instead of wondering how long something takes, you can set a timer and find out. Then you can make an informed decision about whether or not. A given activity is worth getting worked up about. I. Think about the duration of little tasks every time I empty the dishwasher. Trust me I have never liked emptying the dishwasher. I don't know that anyone does and before I began studying time. If someone asked me how long I spent emptying the dishwasher each week, I might have given some ridiculous figure like three hours. Some tasks seem to take forever because they're an engaging. You're not using your skills. You are not being challenged. The tasks just have to get done. And so the tendency is to look for ways to be efficient or chuck these tasks from our lists, and I would see that I could grab more plates at a time or grab a bowl with my left hand in a glass of my right hand, because that corresponds with locations in my cupboards I played around with loading the Dishwasher, so that more of the spoons were on one side of the civil war compartment and more forks on the other. Then elected to time the process. Emptying the dishwasher takes five minutes since this chore is Shared Across Multiple People in my house. I'm probably voting fifteen minutes a week to it. This is less time than I spend staring off into space forgetting what I came into a room for. I think I can safely stop fretting that emptying. The dishwasher is keeping me from living the life I want. I'm sure we can all think of these moments of seeming inefficiency waiting for an older garage door to go up. You're doing nothing and nothing is being asked of you. You are very aware of your time because you are waiting and so sometimes you get impatient, just park outside. But even a very rickety old door takes maybe fifteen seconds twenty seconds. You don't need to use that time to survey your to do list. You can just sit there. Take a few deep breaths recite something motivational. Or not. You'll be okay. So Times putting a few inefficient minutes can even improve the tuition I have very straight hair that looks better if I use a curling iron to put a few waves in it and used to over estimate how much time it took me to get ready for things when I needed to look presentable. Until I realized that I can brush my teeth in the minute it takes for the iron to heat up and then I can put in my waves in about four minutes. Building this into my getting ready routine doesn't actually require waking up twenty minutes early. So why not take the extra four minutes and feel more confident? Even that Cliche of Boring un-engaged time. Waiting for a pot to boil doesn't take that long. An, electric kettle can boil enough water for two cups of tea in about three and a half minutes boiling enough water for a single serving of Spaghetti or oatmeal in a pot on the stove is similar. If, he just stood there, watching it. You would hardly notice the difference in your life. You certainly aren't winning some major efficiency award by using the time to delete e mails instead. And argue that sometimes wasting little bits of time has an upside. Just as a wealthy person doesn't fret about the price of apples, and whether they were ten cents cheaper last week. A person with an abundant perspective on time doesn't Fret about the occasional inefficiency. You have more than enough time for what you WANNA do in life waiting a few seconds for the garage door to go up. It's like saying keep the change. A schedule doesn't feel less crazy and a life doesn't feel richer. Because of a few seconds shaved off here and there. Indeed. The opposite is probably true. A little inefficiency can make you feel time rich, and these moments of abundance feel good. So. If you're getting impatient about tiny bits of time, get some facts. Time yourself and see how long these demands on your time actually take. then. You can make an informed decision about whether. They're really burdens. In the meantime. This is Laura. Thanks for listening and here's to making the most of our time. A. Hey everybody I'd love to hear from you. You can send me your tips your questions or anything else. Just connect with me on twitter, facebook and Instagram at before breakfast pot. That's be the number four then breakfast P D. You can also shoot me an email at before breakfast podcast at iheartmedia dot com that before breakfast spelled out with all the letters. Thanks so much I. Look Forward to staying in touch. Before, breakfast is a production of iheartradio. For more podcasts from iheartradio visit, the iheartradio APP, apple, podcasts or wherever you listen to your favorite shows. Hey listeners. What do you picture when you imagine the perfect place to rent? Well with virtual tours from apartments DOT COM. It's easy to see yourself in a new space without leaving your place view floorplans. 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Bulletproof Biohacker News with Dave Asprey - Episode 3
"Bio hacker news the latest in taking control of your own biology biohacking is the art and science of changing the environment around you and inside of you. So they have full control of your own biology. This lets you do the things you want to do better faster with less effort, and you'll probably look better, feel better and maybe live longer too. When you dial in some of these variables that are within your control by backer news is all about how to do that. Big thing, just published news on a study from the university of Iowa that found a link between food allergies and autism. And they found that twice as many kids with autism have food allergies as don't, and they're quoting eight mysterious link between food allergies and autism. They actually said, we don't know which comes first food allergies or autism. And what they stumbled across here is something that's much bigger all cases of autism have chronic immune system, autoimmune inflammation. So the nervous system is attacked by the immune system, whether it's caused by food, other things, the environment or things internally, microbiome, we don't necessarily know, but it's really interesting to see that this thing with inflammation happens and special shout out to the film, the magic pill that tied in the effect of Kito genyk diet, just having key tones in your body and what happens with otics when they get this, it's really phenomenal. What happens? Why? Because keystones turned down inflammation in the nervous system. That's what's going on. Drexel University recently published a study looking at military veterans with PTSD or traumatic brain injury, and they looked at the type of visual art that veterans would create and they found out that if people were drawing pictures of their psychological injuries or other things that were darker and more about what was going on in their emotional system, they were much more likely to have PTSD versus just a brain injury. And this is interesting because they interviewed Mark Gordon on episode, four hundred and thirty one of bulletproof radio who's looking specifically at the link in clinical data between traumatic brain injuries, a concussion whiplash, hitting your head when you fall off your bike as a kid, any of those things and the likelihood of getting PTSD. But it turns out just the kind of art you draw even the kind of doodles you draw can indicate what's going on in there. Is it an emotional psychological injury on top of rain injury, or is it just a brain injury? Because it turns out a lot of us probably more than half have little brain injuries from a long time ago that are affecting how we show up in the world today, and we don't even. Recently, the telegraph had a piece that was recommending that to protect yourself from the aging effects of blue light from your cell phone from LED lights in your office or from your big screen TV, the best protection was sunscreen, which is totally crazy because sunscreen actually blocks ultraviolet radiation, and there are ways to help mitigate the damage from blue light because blood on your skin does one thing. Booed light in your eyes in your brain doesn't other thing to scramble the timing of your brain which itself makes you look older. But if you wanted to protect your skin, you might look at something like the armor supplement from bulletproof which contains asked Zandt. Then this is the red colored compound found in wild salmon found in crabs and marine algae, and it serves as an internal antioxidant for your eyes and your skin. And there's this other amazing piece of technology to protect your skin from the aging effects, the blue light and it's called sleeves. So what you can do when you know you're going to be in a bad light environment have long sleeves, just expose your skin more financial and less to. Unnatural, and you'll find you probably like how you feel you'll like how you look and you don't have to worry about your cell phone making look old because of light. There's other things that does like EMS that are much bigger issues. College just came out with a study about a new molecule they've found called PM forty-three that can target something called stats six in the lungs that is high in people with asthma, it's really cool to see new pharmacological approaches to dealing with something like asthma, which was a major issue for me when I was a kid. It turns out that one of the number one causes Abaza is actually air pollution. So maybe you don't need a new drug. Maybe you need an air filter. And one of the biggest causes of Atma that's just not well known is toxic mold and buildings. 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052 Murder on the Orient Express by Agatha Christie
"We wanted to read literally every every single one. Yeah very so it's wonderful. Yeah i read the whole thing. Two days harshly because victoria takes longer to read things. I i hope wes anderson as a young child thought to themselves study. He learns the word static. You might historical fiction dragon. Welcome to book club with julia. We are two roommates and friends since icicle who read a book entitled each episode this episode. We're talking about murder on the orient express by agatha christie. Now if you haven't read the book yet please pause the reading comeback. Because they will be major. Spoilers were w where the ending with a detective novel. It's not really. i guess. Spoilers lots of spoilers. So you've been warned. Don't sue in here. We go would like to dedicate this episode to instacart shopper today. Who brought me cherry pie filling. Even though i didn't order it that shopper. No i had to pikers pillsbury. Pipe crests sitting. In my french. And i was looking at them being. Like what am i gonna make with that. I bought those on a whim and sure enough. The instagram Goddess brought in from your pie. That's been part of my day. This episode is also dedicated to punching bags coming specific punching bag which we have set up in our basement and we filled up with an. We put a yoga down. We cleaned the whole area. We like put velcro on the walls and It's an amazing little space. And i just put my jams on and punch and kick the hell out of it and i use it for the first time last night and it was most satisfied. I felt in a very long time. And i'm very excited to get all my frustrations with this year out of my system. So i would like to thank the punching bag for all of its love and support in these trying times during these trying times so murder. Let's get into murder murder. We love a good trulia. Yeah i christie's been lingering on the edges of our to read on the podcast list for literally the beginning since the beginning. Yes and we're finally here. How do i am so excited. I didn't realize just how excited i was until yesterday when i started preparing for this episode and i suddenly i could just feel the excitement building within me because i realized that agatha christie was like a special interest of mine when i was little and i had no outlet for it like no one would listen to me talk about it and i was like you have to listen. Allied like no like no one had read them. It was super weird. That i was into it and so yeah so i'm very excited. I'm ready you're ready to talk you our yes. Everyone has certain. I mean they can always leave but like you have to listen to me but i'm here for. What was your experience reading murder on orient express if you remember the first time that's cool if not all the time since you've watched it yes so unfortunately i actually watched one of the film adaptations. I think when. I was like nine or ten years old like i was very young but it was when netflix's had the just started and my mom. This particular adaptation. It's one of the original ones from seventy was the first film adaptation. That was probably the one. And it's one of my mom's favorite movies and she loved these books and so she. Yeah that was one of the first thing she ordered. Netflix flicks preston watch. Was that film back when you ordered things on netflix. Yeah we yeah. I mean get into it more. I that my main memory of netflix is agatha christie. Shows so when i think it was funny because we watched them but my mom didn't let me read them for some reason until i was a little bit older so i think it was like in middle school when i started reading the books and the first one i read was the blue train i think and then i i read this one probably second or third because i was like well i know how it ends so i'm not that interested in reading it but i still wanted to because like you know. I wanted to see how it got put together. You know what. I mean. Like i i wanted to see and i really fallen in love with a writing style and everything i i wanted to sort of see the details of it more and So i really enjoyed it i. It's probably not my favorite one to read though it's really fun to talk about. It's really iconic. But it's maybe a little too mainstream. i don't know it's it's a little more simple reviewing it this week i realized like it's really straightforward whereas a lot of her other books are a bit more social a bit more twists and turns a bit more. Like more time passes more happens. I just really love agatha christie's voice. And so i will pretty much read anything. She rates so Yeah that's my. My main memory of reading. The book was kind of surprised at how different it was from some of her others. So yeah about you. You reread it recently. Yeah i was trying to remember the timeline of all these events. But i'm pretty sure happen was the library near me when i was in high school. They would you use book sales and It was at the age. I couldn't drive or have a car. But i could bikes places on my summer. Getaway was going to the library especially when they have the use book sales in. Just load up on things and if you listen back to our I don't know probably minnesota wasn't your shelves as well as other episodes are talking about. How like i went through a phase. Oh readers read these. Because usually when i was picking up at the spook sale was a ton of classics is set of probably like twelve agatha christie novels. I've heard this name pick. Ultra about jobs. And i don't i honestly couldn't tell you which ones i i or which order i think i read all of them between high school and college but all of them are very much like sit down and read them in pretty much a day. Maybe two and that's why we don't have much memory of the ms visit was just like one big gulp of just be like let me get away for a bit. And then Yeah but murder on orient express. Actually the copy. We have here at the apartment. Is my brother jeffries. No i do remember reading this one. Because i was home it was post college and i followed him to see my parents and i had finished reading the book i brought with me and i needed something. Read on the plane ride back and so i was just browsing jeffrey bookshelf. 'cause most of my books were here in chicago and she had a copy of murder in the line express and i still have it. And i'm sorry jeffords. I was going to say i didn't realize your brothers because we've had it for so long it's been a long time So again i read this like on one plane ride mal at once and when we were like y'all stupid episode or for the company episode of the podcast was held to review it and then i was like i second. I don't remember remember it. I think it's something where like the murder was someone else might like all in the family. I don't know something like literally. Besides the fact that they're train which is obvious in the title and the cover. I had very little idea. Look ahead says a really enjoyable read. I highly recommend have reading a mesia and never being able to remember plot details because amaze me detective stories super time and time again. Yeah she literally came downstairs when she finished it and she was like julia they were all in on it and i was like. Oh god what is one of my favorite qualities about you. That i've learned while doing this podcast. Because it makes your pleasantly surprised by everything. And it's really endearing and i that's that's one for it so we just enjoy the novels sarah breeze to read. And it's fun to like. Try to pull apart the details. I mean i'll be miserable Being second revealed there was things. I remember like as soon as clue was discovered i was a member. This was like to throw them off. The trail real clue. And from the get-go i know like mary. Devon heavens the most like one of the most suspicious characters little time. Yeah but as soon as we meet here right. She's the one she's one of them. Who did it. what was something else. Yeah all them virtually all of them. Yes yeah oh man yeah. Mary debenham super sess. From from the get-go yeah well like you said the her books are just. They're just a wonderful lake. Lazy saturday afternoon. I'm going to read a murder mystery and you just read it all at once and you promptly forget it and you know it just like it. They just feel so good. And it's funny that it's books about murder that make you feel really good. But for some reason something about her style and her at the characters and everything it just feels very cozy. And i feel like maybe because feel so far removed. You know like i don't travel by train in like a first class coach shin. I'd never been to At the time of the novel is set in yugoslavia but I been to serbia. Croatia like not. There's not much here that is relevant. My experience in person who dies is not like some sad victim. Who's in the bronx three times. Terrible person and sarah read murders like this. It's just really fascinating. That's kind of like the angle which anoma marin like structure and how this book works like it's more about like perot and how his mind works piecing together the details that like really scary moments or vicious characters or like. I don't know we talk about gillian. Flynn her novel home. She's author of gone girl and sharp objects and The last one is also the author of dark places. Dark places is one that like. I only recommend slightly because like it's show dark and it also feels so like. Oh my gosh. This could be like someone. I know about on care about like that is like hits closer to home. Enjoying funds not was always sat in the midwest to like twenty thirty something year old women. And i'm just like i can't i can't on the second hand i'm like in the grips of for awhile. I mean there's some kind of out there parts to those as well but I don't know that's my comparison. Modern murder mystery feels very different than christie. These in like this came out in the nineteen thirties. Yeah it's like right after world war. One like upper middle class england like often in like the countryside like it's yeah definitely very far removed from our experience and it's yeah the way she frames it is. It's like a social puzzle. It's very rarely like scary. It's just like a peculiar man sitting on a chair talking to people and thinking very hard. And that's the a chapter. Called perot sits and thinks a lot of action in this story whether you are casual reader or total book fiend for seventy joined us for this episode of book club with julia in victoria. 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But yeah so as i as we have alluded to this book follows a very classic sort of three part a structure that you often see in mysteries where you have sort of the setup of putting all the characters into place and then the murder and that's what sort of kicks off the second piece which is where you know the detective interviews all each of the characters involved in this case all the passengers on the first class Coach of the train and then big reveal at the end where the solution is presented. And so in the in this case the setup is you have air cool air q. Auto a little belgian man who lives in europe and he's a guy who lives in england normally in london. He's famous detective. Who's their particular about his mustaches. And he was just helping out the french troops in syria. Believe solve the mystery and he's on his way back to london and he gets on a train and sort of is shuffled around and he's really not supposed to be on this train but he meets his friend and it's this whole thing and so he's in a place where he is expected to be. And there's all these peculiar characters rights you set up your sort of these twelve people and they all have come from different backgrounds. Different ages different occupations social status accents. Whatever and so you get this sort of classic kind of cast and he you know you're sort of introduced to everyone through paros is and then this horrid american man who like even though you don't know what he's done yet you just know he's a terrible person because he's american which is very funny. You get a bad a bad feeling about him And he gets murdered and then poro the train gets stuck the night of the murder in a snowdrift and so then poro sort of takes over the dining cabin and interviews everyone one by one and then at the end and he sort of gives them a little tests and you sort of learn about secret identities and it's got all the like classic sort of murder mystery tropes and i would argue creates a lot of them so that sort of the plot. Oh and then you know you find out at the end that literally every character you meet was in on it except caro's friend like the conductor your conductor even the train dude who is like an on all the meetings and everything with zero and his friend. Yeah like every single person. has some other identity from the past and they're sort of taking out their revenge on this man who murdered a little girl and extorted them for money and but was acquitted because he had mob connections or something what's implied and so they take their revenge on some technicality. The yeah yeah yeah Also we find out like all the passengers on this train have been working together yet. They used to work for the family of the or related to the family of on the little girl. That was murdered america. This has happened a couple of years prior if you are familiar with like the charles lindbergh case yes. That's what. I was kind of alludes to that. It's kind of like Agatha christie's like that's fascinating. What if we envision it this way. Yeah so it's not actually the lindbergh way. It's called the armstrong family in the novel but was pretty similar area Really really sad situation. And so They've been like colluding together to pull off this murder embarrassing bolic of like twelve people under jurors over them to what's actually thirteen passengers Though the sister the sister of the mother of the child so the child to aunt she does not participate in the her husband stands at her place now each of them one by one stab mhm drugged punches. You yeah you would think the minute they say there are twelve stab wounds you go. That's a lot of stab wounds. That's like the exact number of passengers on this train. Number of stab wounds particularly weirdly. Also it's like oh there's ten right handed and left handed like nuts unaware they divide up like how does this down and at is super complicated until it's literally like the most like perot lays out. It could be this. It could be sown on the chain. The of the murder laughed. No one ever knows. Or it's just really elaborate thing. Yeah and then at the end when it comes out everyone agrees like we'll just tell the police when they get here. It was the first thing. Yeah everyone walks away in. That's that's well. Yeah that's the thing. This is one of the few books where like ever like they get away with it. Like poro figures it out but because he has compassion for them and basically they were operating in place of what the you know. Justice system was supposed to do. He says you know what. It's okay like wool. there's you put the evidence in place for an alternative theory. That's what we'll give cops and everything. But i think skimming back through it when they first find the body and they're like trying to puzzle through all the clues it looks really obvious like part of me is like when she was writing this was she was like. Oh no they'll figure it out too quickly. There's no way. I can get away with this. Because i'm like this is so there's twelve stab wounds. Each one a different spot a different depth a different strength. Some of them are left handed like some of them are obviously very weak. So their first theory is that there's like two people one of them's a man one of them's a woman. One of 'em's rain and one of them's left-handed but even that doesn't quite work and but it it's so funny to me that our brains don't like win presented with the like pretty clear evidence. We jump on things that aren't that important and ignore the most obvious explanation. I guess and i find that really fascinating like sort of watch. I like washing my own thought process in a weird way where like when i'm reading a murder mystery and i'm like my brain wants me to think this you know in like i'm really attached to this clue and i put a lot of meaning on this for no reason and we sort of get things. All jumbled typically if the author does a good job the right answer is very simple and very clear It's just all the other noise is figuring out what is noise and what is you know straightforward so. I was really fascinating. We have the two. The friend of perot is actually the owner owner question. Mark the manager overseer of the whole train company And he is catching the train. Back to I think he's on his way to france. is his found nation and So he gets pulled into it in your book yes. He was not really accounted for in the on the regional. Planning groups have the The person who managed still company the aboard manned the we also have a doctor who was in a different car. The trained by conveniently. There's a doctor who can come in like a time of death sin in help investigation and we have both of them standing in kind of as the reader but also really annoying. yeah because they. They're really they're really dumb they just want to jump onto the most obvious explanation is like oh doesn't italian on board. He must be front. He's from america he's probably from chicago. He's probably a mobster dancer. That's the answer. It's the italian is really would talk to him yet. Yeah pardon me is also like not oh chicago. But i'm like okay this time in the nineteen twenties yet. yeah -talian man from chicago. You're in like you someone who was in the mob and if you weren't in it yourself yeah so we have those characters kind of jumping in and being like oh. It must be a woman being. Is this strong enough for me. to do. Stabbing is is not the english way is not their mo like had. They're so much cultural stereotyping Mainly like it's kind of exposes like well that's problematic. That's not the solution here. Not the answer to jump to conclusions. Though i mean we'll get into agatha christie as a person in a writer but no like she is a white upper middle class a british woman in the early twentieth century on her. Reading is not frightening of problematic. Stereotypes india is some other novels to have some questionable race discussions or lack thereof. Em but it is interesting that she's kind of like exposing the Can't think of his title but measure book and the doctor in there like prejudices Like their need to just have an answer. Though in reflection. I realized in a very very unrelated case today the mysterious case of the two packages i ordered that never arrived Almost like they must have been stolen. I had two packages both say they arrived on friday. One from usps one from ups. Neither of them actually are on my front porch. Someone must have stolen them. And i'm like okay. I was venting earlier this morning when i was realizing these packages were lost and like. Maybe it's a coincidence. You know there might be other explanations Someone stole them. And i'm like. I just wanted to believe someone stole them and the and the answer because i need answered along with my day and i literally thought student i like. I'm being the doctorate now. I've let me find some things to blame on. So i can feel like even though i still have to do the same work reporting the incident and be like. Hey mike. Actress never came but like to have that internal belief they were may feel more threatened about it in a way then just like yeah now really anything. Investigation of man. Yeah like one of the one of the things. I love about puerto a character. I mean he's so particular and like very fussy and you know like you. He's not like a ray of sunshine but he The way that he observes people is like. It's he's never the one stereotyping people if he does. He corrects himself later. He realizes that he was being prejudiced or something like he. He like if you watched the way that he observes mary debenham at the beginning right. And he isn't looking at her race or her class or her gender. I and making assumptions. He looks at her mannerisms and the way she talks and her Her the way she interacts with other people in her self assuredness and her stoicism and the way she emotes and like the way that she sort of moves like he he comes to the conclusion. Like oh this is a woman who's probably works. She's very self assured. She's very good at traveling. You know like she can take care of. That's his assessment of her And has no thoughts about like what her job is or you know who her class like. He doesn't like look at the italian man and go mob you like his counterparts his watson's if you will and i really enjoy that about the him because it's ardley revolutionary in a way. The for these books that were written in the nineteen thirties to have a character. Who's a bit of an outsider And he often gets a lot of hate like he'll have british people calling him. British people have a racial slur for the french and Not the most people would care or know that but so that they'll call him that then he'll be like i'm not french. I'm belgian He's from like the french part of belgium. And he. yeah he's like very very much an outsider everywhere he goes and he sort of spends all his energy studying people and he sees like people's character more than he sees. They're sort of external. Trappings if you were and widow. Mary devon he'd like he recognizes her inconsistency herself announcement off more than like oh that's the way englishwoman are but he sees that she's like panicked when they weren't gonna. They were delayed on. He happened to be traveling on a train with her Into what is now That train was delayed slightly like ten minutes navy and she liked panic. I have to make my connection. And then later when they're on the orient express. they've all to other trains. She's a coolest cucumber when they get stuck in the snow storm with snow bank and can't move for her too. She's like oh like that. Is life like whatever making when we make it and he's like but you just like panicking lays ago when we didn't we almost make this chain but now we're here and you're not yet Ho said this was the destination not wherever you're going right. And so that's like his one moment unlocking the case but then also like is his own skill. A character is like like you were saying like analyzing understanding how a person operates and trying to remove that lens of prejudice external parts of them when you can see and he's so observant of who she is the person even before she was of interest to when she was just another person troubling he was able to then recognize like with things didn't line up with With herself well. Yeah and i mean this is a great example because you have all these characters like this sort of eclectic cast rate and they all have like a persona that like kind of performance you know they all have this new job or new marriage or new like they all live in a different country. Now you know what i mean like the they they have this sort of outer layer of like i am a military man or i am. I mean. there's one the mother or the grandmother who like an actress. She puts on like this whole show of being a housekeeper from america. Or the countess like she. She's like married. This man has a new title. Has a new nationality like everyone is sort of putting on this outer shell because they're trying to make it seem like they don't know each other they have no connection give themselves a back story for why they're there and where they're going and whatever and koro is the only one who can see through all that bullshit you he's like and looks at their character As a human being. And yeah. I think i mean it's particularly important in this story. You know where there's so much emphasis put on the false clues and the false narrative and the false persona of each of these people that he has to sort of fish through but yeah. That's kind of a theme you see throughout her work is like you know. I think a lot of the genre besides like sherlock holmes basically a lot of like mysteries of her. Contemporaries were very much in the stereotypes. Didn't really get much deeper. You know we don't know their names or read them anymore exactly because it you don't connect you it as a human being. You're you're like well. I'm not that facade. So what does it matter. You know but these you can read it and like. I'm nothing like this person outside. But i perfectly understand their struggle on the inside and i think that's what makes this book so fun is. You're sort of peeling back all the layers on each of these characters and it's really a character study in away because so little is happening otherwise yearning. They're literally got on a train like they're just sitting in a train car talking like that is the whole book. It's the bulk of the book. So how do you make that interesting. You know they're not sort of like a hardboiled detective novels or something. There's a lot of like running around and guns and jumping over fences. And what have you and you know this is like sitting in a room talking but peeling back the subterfuge of you know. Who are these people really. Yeah it's even more simple than most of her books like most of her books have a little more going on. You know it's like poro is happens to be in the space or he's been invited there for some reason Sometimes he's called in after the murder happens sometimes he's already there. Sometimes his friend is there and is like hey. We need a detective but the bulk of the narrative is him like hanging out with rich people and they go. They do things. They have activities like people's daily lives sort of continues on after the funeral. All and he's just sort of in their space talking to them and news quietly through everything and observing. And so there's a bit more action you know in a bit less poro sits and thinks you know And then at the end all of a sudden there's this reveal and you're like oh my gosh i never would have seen it coming but this one is very very barebones leg and the the way. The book is outlined. It literally tells you like there's a chapter called the murder. A murder is occurring right now and get the title on. The orient express is a murder berry. Here we go and the yeah and like you know. There's there's like three sections of the book for each of the stages of detective novel so kind of exactly it and maybe it works because it had never been outlined like that before but and so she was the first one to be like. Hey this is the structure of mystery novel. Here you go. Here's her inspiration. Here was via reading some notes on like you know. She had travelled by train to these places the orient express and had experience getting stuck in the snow and whatnot but So if she was just like sitting thinking like could a murder happened here down or if she sat down from a more maybe structural perspective. Of like i'm going to challenge myself to nears interesting these abols let me try something different. I'm curious like how that all unfolded for because it could almost be a play like this could very easily be a play because there's one setting there's a very limited cast of characters you know like the whole like second act. You wouldn't even have to change rooms or turn the lights off like you chips and it could be one of those plays where it's just like one long scene for an hour or something you know but you know obviously a bit longer. The kind of. I don't know it kind of feels like a play where it's like we are in act two But yeah i. I am very curious. What her like if it started with the conceit sort of you know you wanna talk about. Agatha christie was an english author who was born named agatha. Mary clear miller than eighteen. Ninety two upper middle class family She was the youngest of three but she was much younger than her older siblings. So she's at home by herself in was home which was unusual for the time. According to the two sources i read. Don't really schooling was unusual. I don't know didn't seem that unusual to me For women. I well i Maybe for her class like not being upper cost the upper middle class She spent some time in france as when she's around five by her father died not too long afterwards. He series of heart attacks when she was eleven fairly had already had some money. Issues is actually one of the reasons. They moved to france to rent out their family home And after her father's passing money and she just kind of continued for her and her mother at twenty. She moved to cairo with her mom. They live around marie months of like kicked off some of her Social interactions and was able to make other british funds there who are just to join their social scene when she came back to england in nineteen twelve archie christie who. She married two years later in nineteen fourteen. He immediately went back to where we're one. He was in france as part of the royal flying corps and she worked at a hospital red cross hospital during this time and she specifically worked in the dispensary. And that's where she got her knowledge of poisons i'm naturally influenced her writing and she started writing when she was around eighteen short stories but it was a after her marriage into a little bit older author. She got married. That poor perot was born as a character and her first book a while to right end to publish like many authors feel everyone. They pitched six times when people turned down in finding someone said yes and everyone else is sad for it. yeah Her first book mysterious affair of styles came out in nineteen twenty and going back to the about poisons. I haven't read that one. But apparently poison poisons are part of the storyline there. It was reviewed in the pharmaceutical journal around. This time is also in her daughter. Roseland was born so when her first book was published the publishers liked it so much. They immediately contacted her for five more as she continues to write. And in nineteen twenty two. She had an opportunity through her husband's boss to go on a world tour. Basically and promote the british empire exhibition Would happen in nineteen twenty four. So if you know like the world's fair in the us kind of like that but it was like britain mainly look at our massive empire in such promote that they traveled to places like cape town and hawaii and random factor. If i'm agatha christie is that she was likely one of the first if not the first british woman to stand up on a surfboard. Random saying you know. Women didn't do activities like that in the brownies like being in public much less like go surfing. Ambush learned to surf in cape town and read about in her autobiography Her experiences surfing. Hawaii has like a fun. Tidbit found Unfortunately 1926 her mother passed away in this kind of like a crisis moment for her her husband was away on business and when he came back. He's like oh. By the way i fell in love with someone else. They've been having an affair with one of our family friends and so she's like flake full meltdown. Having problems and this incident where she goes missing for eleven days Everyone's looking for her in the media. This point she's a prolific author Christie and chief is found like two hundred miles away Staying in a spa resort town under a different name claiming that she was from south africa and is really mysterious and she never writes about it in her autobiography in your dressing. Anyway of ethically like not remember what happened others luxuries in a car accident in hyde. Like a a type of ninja. She the cognizant what she's doing she bipolar like. There's a lot of series. I'm there of what actually happened So eventually her and her husband divorce and in nineteen twenty eight. She takes her first on orient express. she was tobacco and She has a great time. There gets to know. Some archaeologists like only agatha christie honest with like casually meeting archaeologists. Yeah i'm she goes out another time in meets max. Malla one who she later marries And and she spends much of her life travelling back and forth between his archaeological digs and their home in england with her family. Her daughter has child so that she becomes a grandmother in. It's lovely all in all. She writes sixty six detective novels. Yucky and ford story collections. And she also had the longest continuous running play on west. End the mouse around two nine hundred and fifty two and did not close until march of this year due to the pandemic. so thank you for britain. That crazy streak almost would have hit fifty. Just five that a continuously running Yeah mine Saw the mousetrap when she traveled to england in like that eighty years and then wasn't the eighties seventies eighties and then when she came to visit me at the end of my study abroad and we were walking around. She's like oh the bow strap and she was like. Wow it's still running. So the ah. That was when. I was introduced. Oh my gosh. it's been like twenty some years more twenty thirty years nestle running. I didn't realize it was fifty forty eight years while she altogether has sold more than one billion copies of her books and another another billion in generation while he is said to be the most most read. Arthur after the bible and shakespeare that does not surprise me in the slightest they. I think they publish that on all her books. Now yeah i mean that's quite the claim to yeah man. I mean okay. So her life story makes so much sense because she has like mysteries that take place on airplanes. That take place in egypt shows a few in egypt take place on boats that take place on trains in the middle of the middle east. A lot of them take place in england but she also she's clearly very well traveled because Her even just like her knowledge of people from different countries is pretty impressive. So yeah that makes a lot of sense for like a sushi is yet but she had so much very light experienced advisor. She was traveling to other knows. Jane austen's reading decades before advocacy even born but I think like jane austen novels. That happened in like little towns in england goes anywhere near a sea captain. We don't really speak of their time anywhere else. Besides it just so so much england and also for her character to be belgian is interesting to you like you mentioned some of the british Prejudice against a french in french. Speaking people and One source i was reading and he was actually her like foundation's website or something like that Was saying that when she was working for the red cross hospitals when she likely interacted with belgian refugees. They're kind of inspired that character for her Yeah so it's fascinating Yeah i should say the stat on. The back of the book is the most widely published after shakespeare in the bible which when it comes to stats about books it's pretty nitty gritty but pretty Important to distinguish actually read versus which is published. 'cause there's stories that have been around us oral traditions for way longer than any any agatha christie novels that have been you know more widely right read or listen to over now melania then but i mean she lack like those authors from the modern age. You know what i mean. Like twentieth century on the most read the most published person is a woman it is. It's pretty cool. You know like shakespeare has like two hundred years on her. You know so. It's it's pretty darn cool. I yeah i am the fact that like her books still hold up like yes. There are some problematic racial things more. I think from the perspective of lake. She is very much victorian woman which is like the the height of the british empire and so like the general british The way the way english people talked about other countries in their empire was terrible but for the most part she's like her characters hold up like her even the way she writes. Women is very admirable for someone in the nineteen thirties. You know like she Brealey gives women a lot of credit. And they you know it makes sense because she had was employed and traveled a lot and had you know probably did a lot more than most women of her time but she didn't mention her. Other perot is one of her main characters but not all these detective novels about him Miss marple is another one of her major characters that reoccurring and she's got others as well. Someone of that aren't part of this either though series and so i think just calling out that like she doesn't just write about women as part of these cases but actually as active detective is pretty cool. Yeah that's one of one of the things i wrote in my notes is i feel like her power as an author is like she really understands the power of people who are ushered in some way you know what i mean. Who like based on their nationality or miss marples and like a spinster. And she's not pretty old woman. She's like in her seventies. I think could. She's the main character of these detective novels. Like the power people who no one gives any credit to their like Will you can be. I'm not intimidated by you. Oh you're you know you even have a line in oran express where they're like He's just somebody foreigner and they don't they don't think he speaks english. They don't take him seriously and with miss marple they're like. Oh she's just a harmless old woman. She's probably a little crazy a little out of it She can't know anything you know. And so don't tell things like the the characters sort of incriminate themselves by revealing too much of themselves to these very astute sort of outsiders and so their practice at like interpreting. People's behavior like the way miss marple solves cases is she understands like she. Notices patterns and people's behavior and social make comparisons to village. Life should be like. Oh well that was just like that one time when mrs so and so tried to give a basket of flowers to this person but this person was secretly really offended by it because they wanted this thing and like even though it's like she finds commonalities in people's motivations and like like human human beings are pretty simple in some ways like the way that we operate and our watson are drives are fairly similar you know sort of the outside stuff is different and social like take something that seems very quaint sort of village quarrel and extrapolate things about human beings and then put them in this new context of this murder and then she'll figure things out and people think she's crazy nothing to do with that. What the hell are you talking about miss marple. And then she figures it out and they're all like what right for people who were loving murder on the orient express. What would you recommend the next. Yes okay so if you really like the englishness of the mystery and less the murder i would recommend pretty much anything by pg wodehouse but specifically Leave it to smith or peace or smith depending on how you want to read that. It's the p. silent if you read the book. It's absolutely hilarious. It's much less serious than an agatha christie book. they're still an element of mystery to it but his books are very very funny and they make fun of upper-class english people if you like the murder part and less the mystery than buzzfeed unsolved is superfund lava good sort of battery retailing of an unsolved case And then if you really like. If you're more into like noir mysteries than i would recommend a veronica mars the tv show the books and the reboot. They're all amazing. I love them to death. So yeah those are mind. I'd recommend just the rest of agatha christie's novels to yeah that'll that'll take you through twenty twenty two yet. Another one that came to mind when we were talking today was miss. Fisher's murder mysteries which is sorry. That was a really dramatic reaction. I just love those show yeah. Julia introduced me to the show along with our friend really back like end of high school. We watching it. I think it only ran for three seasons. It's wonderful i honestly. If you need a place to start in terms of agatha christie's either. I would say read them in order because they sort of go chronologically or one of my favorites is called the willow. God i thank god what is wrong with the take three. If you need a place to start with ariana christie's i would say either go in chronological order or one of my favorites is called the hollow Think that's its new name. But i really really loved that one and then i think also the silent witness is one about it where a dog is the only witness to a murder. This is great. It is great four. Yeah those would be great places to start as well. 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Who just started a podcast called efficient auto And if you like things for entrepreneurs or starting around hobby or side thing kinda like we have here with the podcast or just really until efficiency That's really her thing. And one of her episodes like how to get a time back in your day. The full title is something like that generates She's got worksheets. And like how'd you sit in. Thank me flex. Wireless into the podcast. So the air like working on yourself to doing it and made me realize that. I don't like shopping like occasionally like a couple times a year. I enjoy pre covid like going to An outlet mall with my mom. And like we'd have girls day and go shopping but like Rarely enjoy doing that. And i hate like adulting shopping. Like a hate is running errands. I've buying groceries so stressful for me. Like don't do you need to get into it. But i'm really grocery shopping. 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18. Love Bombing, Pharmaceuticals, and Toxic Fandom w/ Georgia Hardstark
"Listeners we recommend a really great new podcast and throwing shade co host aaron gibson called history the sequel each week feminist and southern loud mouth aaron gibson is joined by a cool teen incense lanes the stories of women history has ignored from the forgotten first female astronaut trainees to abandoned apache warriors and deserted pirates will explain yesteryear because the future is female and so was the past succumb brought in your knowledge with us listen to new episodes of history at the sheikh will completely ad free and only on stitcher premium aaron gibson is a bad ass and she is so funny you do not wanna miss this show for free premium go to stitcher premium dot com and use promo code us paid a mouse raskin i may writer director end i prefer casale esther i'm gabby done i'm a writer by con by central icon wink an avid coffee drinkers a yes you are you do love coffee i like here's the here's the problem i'm on anti anxiety medications but then i drink like upwards of two cups of coffee a day why don't we could see one yeah yeah i'm trying to one are a are shared psychiatrist 'em which is very healthy of super normal and fine i psychiatry us it's fine it's not like we share therapists that's true she was like how about no coffee yeah and i like how about you suck it there's no way no way she's very sweet and kind but like i i i can't but then i i did like literally i am i am maintaining age just a base level because i'm like a clown up in end a coffee those are that's just rebecca zero right i i really urge you let's get out to one okay and if you love the taste of it just have decaf if you missed the active drinking it is soothing to you decaf threequarters oh my god speaking of this came from therapy how is that it was good it was good 'em we talked a lot about 'em me trying to not repeat past romantic mistakes in which are which are 'em a movie too fast yes aunt a like do a excusing certain red flags at the beginning mhm end 'em i was saying that i'm now being very measured i'm i'm really like not getting out of myself i really really really really really i'm not i'm proud of you end like i'm being very 'em i just am not even like letting it affect me in that like i'm not devastated by anything that happens like i don't think anything that happens could could make me like so sad because i'm just not letting myself get there that's wonderful it's so new very empowering when you know that someone can't break you yes that's the thing like i'm trying really to be like i'm not gonna get to a place where 'em i'm just like so in 'cause i don't wanna do the thing of i also like i'm trying not like i don't really believe in the one i just don't so i'm trying not to be like i like the cliff i don't either even though people probably think that i do i know i would i would imagine anything you said a few times that you you believe in like work like if you find someone and it works to like make it you're choosing to me it was gonna make it work yeah i also think there's multiple people it could work wis yes yes absolutely 'em it just depends on you know and there's like people in a way that i could you know that like are are potential suitors is well so i mean on first and last name so i'm i'm trying i'm trying not to just like get so emotional about it like i'm like this is fun this is good like this is happening and it's a good thing but i'm like being a little guarded good but i don't want it to here's the problem what's being guarded mhm is that they don't want them to think i don't like them i don't think that's gonna be the case you think it's very obvious you like them well yeah but i'm just trying to not be like i you know i think people like when you're a few sive about them and when you text back and when you're like you know very like a loving an end like you know when you like just are very complimentary but i after tried also be like but i i'm could leave at any time well i tech myself yeah especially 'cause there is long distance and i don't really see long term potential here it's sort of like what is what is the end game and i think that maybe then game right now is just like someone in your life that brings you joy is like a friend and is supportive and when you're together there's like a romantic aspect of it yeah but it's not like you're partner no not not at this time but not at this time not time no further quest it's been it's been a long time it's been a long pursuit and so maybe that's also why i'm so calm about it because i'm like whatever time it's time i know like we've as regina specter said we've got time we've got time and we've also got a new book coming out yeah he says help are sequel to the new york times bestseller i hate everyone but you is available everywhere july sixteenth pick it up ticket by ed reed it please about it so photo oh my god if you like us you'll love the voices of the characters in this book because it is essentially us and even if you hate us maybe like them better that's very true that through we have an incredible double episode today i'd say perhaps are are are are are are what most famous guest oh well that's debatable but definitely a bull market in the podcast world yeah podcast queen anne most famous to me personally we will be talking to georgia hard start later believe it or not i i'm joke i'm gagged i do i i'm freaking out and then later in topics will be discussing fandom dumb does it go too far celebrities responsible for how their fans act will diving deeper but first true international baby so this is very apt based on what we were just talking about for but ashley says how avoid unhealthy relationships i mistreat women and i recently gone out of very emotionally abusive relationship but didn't really realize it at the time and things start it out great so it's hard to spot red flag warnings as i confused them for just being passionate i eat saying i love you quickly in wanting to spend lots of time like everyday together turned into financial abuse and using the phone he taught me three months in against me at the time he seemed like lovely gestures i'm where i'm attracted over the top guys who are passionate interaction gonna screw me over and end up controlling have you had any experience with this and with avoiding the same type of people have we ever that's so crazy that that's exactly what you just have we ever okay this is called love bombing it isn't abused tactic is widely ugly a known in the psychiatric community and what it is is that someone comes out you hard in the beginning they make you feel really special they like they go really really hard as there's an element of it where they're like i've never felt this way before they might think that they're telling the truth there definitely lying i think that i think it depends on the person i think sometimes they they think they're telling the truth that's what i mean yeah but but some people are more manipulative and they're aware that they're not that i haven't x right i believe he's he thought he was telling the truth oh well yeah that's a possibility to but it is like oh my god you're the one right off the bat you're the love of my life you're gonna like what i like i was in a cab with a guy after first date and he thought it was cute to like tell the cabdriver like this is my wife oh this is my future wife and did you guys end up together oh yeah but i just mean like you gotta be a wary of people who are just like so over the top right away because it's it also seems like it's something that they saw the movie and they just think the steps out as well lately due to be a boyfriend but like it's not sincere i had one boyfriend where again it was very i use a rebound i was like heartbroken over someone else so that's one of my big patterns right so in terms of like recognizing how i what i keep repeating is i i would do a thing where i would be in a relationship where the guy had all the power in where i liked him way more then he liked me and then when you break up with me i would be so devastated have such low self esteem and i needed somebody who would kiss my ass yeah so then i went immediately go to somebody who liked me way more than i like them mhm in so that those those guys often ended up kind of being a love bombing type yes and i had one a relationship a where i will exactly what you're talking about where like he would do these these romantic gestures any like bought me this necklace and it was so funny 'cause he likes sent me you like ask me advice on a necklace for like a shoe but like at the it was clearly for me oh and i like send some references of like what i liked but i i didn't realize it was for me and then the necklace that he thought was awful oh i hated it and i thought it was so ugly and i obviously live at the time pretended i love it yeah but you know like it's like that moment where like in your core you're like oh this person doesn't get me yes they don't understand what i actually like that in their head have seen someone give you the grand gesture necklace and so i'm really really uncomfortable with a grand gesture up top really uncomfortable super uncomfortable and people i think a lot of times men in particular think that that's like the thing oh my god i mean a surprise her with this huge gift like after three dates and i'm like a i'm scared i think it's like it's it's controlling because it's them making a claim on you it's like stay it's like i bought you this big thing up top now you are mine and you can't leave and you also have to recognize that unless let's say you somehow got trapped with them in the basement for like four seventy two hours and you talked about everything that you're alive they don't really know you that well exactly exactly oh they're more responding to an idea of you absolutely and that's something you have to be very wary of yes absolutely so i i think like if there is something to being like wow we really like each other but there's also something being like let's take this slow let's like have boundaries let's like you know not be in each other's business immediately and ashley that's something that you can you can force yes like you can't you can't avoid these mistakes by putting up those boundaries and by not being available to these guys are seven and seeing how they respond to that i mean this is how i feel where i don't wanna lose this person i'm talking to because they think i don't like them but when did that ever happen happen when when if you're like okay i'm free thursday and they're like what i wanted to see you choose day and you're like well i'm three thursday if that person is a stable normal person the wait until thursday yeah but sometimes you get like i've seen you when you're dating like if the guy doesn't respond spawned enough you'll be like well i'm not gonna put any effort fuck this up but then but there's a there's a difference between like going on dates like twice a week yeah deta five times a week bonding yeah like you can like it's very obvious when someone is still engaged yeah the relationship and wanting to continue to see you versus like being absent yeah and like negligent yeah yeah so it could help if you like you know for me i really need to kind of know what the plan is yeah so if if you're used to sort of like moving fast like maybe so you're not like suddenly like feel like you're overwhelmed by like or you're not loved enough yet ever make sure you always you know at the end of every date set up the next day oh got it so you know that the data's happening indiana data's happening but just like don't have it be the next day yeah i don't i would say don't accept expensive gifts 'em like it until like a a more time has passed like i understand things are kind like it's kind to do but like i i mean i remember in like high school a guy like casually talking to bought me a ring hang in i was like freaking out and talking to my mom about it and she was like just give it back home and i was like oh my god i could just give it back to the kids give it back so i like went to him and i was like i'm so sorry i have this back to you like i like you but i just i can't i can't do this like big thing what he's saying it but like i was like if i accept this he's gonna think that i owe him something and he's gonna think that like i'm his girlfriend right and so i don't and i don't want like you know six months later for him to go why bother you that expensive ring so that's a huge red flag in something that took me a really long time to realize not everybody does yeah it's people who are are keeping a tally in their head of the things that they've done for you and then throw it in your face later yes i hate that so that it's like eight that is a huge red flag and it can be scary because he might not realize it until a little bit into the relationship because it's obviously not something that could come update to they can be like well on day one i mean yeah but that is eight very harmful awful trait yet i'm going to have you noticed that you're partner is doing this talk to them about it and if they continue to do it i would get out yeah absolutely like one of my boyfriend's would throw it in my face all the time that he came to my apartment and i didn't go to his apartment yeah and it became this like huge thing and he would make me feel guilty all the time and then i would be like okay let's go to your apartment and be like no no i'll just come to yours but i knew that he was just gonna throw that in my elliott tally it yeah and it was such negative like toxic behavior and it became this cycle that i didn't know how to get out of and that just prove that this person is there's like a mean nist yeah there's like something that is like not loving yeah and literally last night i a i went to my boyfriend softball game time really supportive and it's on thursday nights right and so my birthdays on a thursday night and i was like i was like i realize like oh i was like oh you're gonna have to miss you're softball game for my birthday and he was like yeah of course and i would like we didn't even mention that he's like what am i gonna say like i wasn't gonna go to your birthday dinner softball game yeah and also he wasn't gonna be like i'm missing myself gamer you and then he because he's such a good person he would never do that it would never even occurred of him to bring that up tim rice but he doesn't know that so many people would absolutely and so like these types of like very small things can really reveal someone's character yes for sure and i said to him i would like i i'm so appreciative that you've literally never thrown anything in my face yeah but like he wouldn't be like oh well i'm doing this for you but like i'm so sad about myself ballgame or even just like us like a passing comment of like oh ones dinner yeah i missing my game yeah little things where they're trying make you feel guilty yeah none of that none of that and people you know obviously not everyone is 'perfect when you start dating them yeah and i think that you don't need to like balance the first time so right right right but you need to acknowledge it you need to see if it's a pattern and the thing that i had to learn is listen to what the person is telling you yes so sometimes people up top will be like well this is what i like in my head of that probably not yeah that's cute or what but then like the reality of like listen to exactly what they're telling yeah take it at face value believes it that will be there truth and then is that something you wanna deal with see if it matches up to their actions 'cause there's like a few conflicting things where people will say i think up top just seem cool they'll be like i'm a commitment phob i love casual blah blah blah and then like like you know their actions don't don't match up to that so like what that is and examples listen to what they're saying because then you're thinking oh well with me they're not a commitment philbin were gonna be in a relationship and then when you bring it up there like i told you i'm looking old actly sometimes that'll flip sometimes they'll say that and then and then you start to get a pit in your stomach where you see their actions and don't match up to that so also listen to you got to write an like an like you can learn from past relationships like there's a thing where it's sometimes people go well okay but if someone reminds you of someone else a that that's not fair you have to give them a chance their their own individual person but i agree i agree i think if someone is giving you a reminding you of a person who had these red flags you can't you can't do it again i recently like the last time i was single a couple of months ago and i was online dating i met this guy like we got along great and we like it was like such easy communication but they were stuff where i'm like this is reminding me of my axe yes and i literally end you know when i end of things in and i told him and he kinda want more and explanation i said look like you just reminded me of my ex and it's just like a pattern i do not want to continue i just did that with someone to where i was like i oh my god these are the things i love about you like i love a weirdo i love this i love that and then i was kinda like we can't we can't really do this i'm not in a place and also like i can't i just i can't reach create this person that ended up not being right mhm that means that i'm attracted to things about you obviously attracted to my ex but i just already know that this is not that you have these qualities that don't work out and ashley i think that there is something attractive about a partner who is discerning someone who is not going to immediately jumped into a fast pace relationship with yes that that it's cautious that has higher standards yes that like is making sure that you're actually right free each other yeah because then when they choose you and you choose them means more yeah not just like you are boyfriend and you are girlfriend it's you as you as you and them as them and that's that's something that could really la absolutely beautiful we're so smart if you want at the mayor's ask those questions just between us pod at g mail dot com that's just simply not be ob at g mail dot com stick around after the break were getting that you be interviewing georgia hard you listen to add free new episodes of just between us only on stitcher premium for free month of stitcher premium go to stitcher premium dot com and use promo code us welcome back to just between us it's time for these juiciest most scandalous controversial segment of the olive pot a tough question we have an incredible guests today oh i'm very excited and what's really cool is that this is her first podcast for ever seen it with the headphones on really rare occurrence were so glad we have georgia heart stark here thank you so much for joining us i'm so happy here's georgia does my favorite murder mechanical care if it's a true crime comedy podcast it's great biggest podcast around i would say so a there everyday get in like a a fight with ira glass podcast yeah and it makes us both bigger oh they're gonna they're gonna beat each other up is going to have a few to get publicity i just wanna be big enough one data the feud ira glass don't just yet great outside a book coming out called states don't get murdered a so and that was like hopped right to the top of the chart bananas everyone is a you have like a very supportive and they're so sweet murdering they're like the best people ever it's awesome and you have a credible banks thank you okay okay very judgmental banks oh yeah hate them so seriously myself yeah maybe some of the best of everything they care i just cut the myself they look great well these this is professional okay you know like a lifelong lifestyle yeah well i agree on a couple of years ago that was a mistake yeah i'm not i don't need that much face so never know yeah and i recognizes bang letters like well no myself the flood jesus so you are also mental health advocate a an specifically you do a lot about medication yeah pharmaceutical yeah i hate the pharmaceutical company but they helped me yeah we talked about that 'cause we've talked a lot about mental health on here and i think like sometimes people every time medication yeah i know that you thought you and jen ghosted the how can you explain that so she i mean it's all her she posted if she's so like i'm so inspired by her name again the viewer janet i she does landell hand out and she's so cool and inspiring unlike honest and real and she posted a photo of her little hand with her pharmaceuticals and the man she takes and not feel like fucking shit all the time so it's like i do that too and i did it also and then someone cat hashtag that my favorite meds in a lot of people have just been like showing off their medication that they need to you know living normal life and be happy which is fucking you shouldn't be like supporting that and we should all be praising that and if it's not great but it's really great for other people and i just i don't think there's any shouldn't be shame around it like needing help in getting it that should be yes yeah i think people are like god i take too many or whatever takes on oh yeah what do you what do you are really okay well bution antelope yeah that's like a baseline that i think every february that'd be i just started on it and i think it's giving me an accelerated celebrate at heart rate although that's a definitely pro yeah it causes more anxiety so i dunno where you know yeah we're gonna try that cut it in half and see what happened yeah okay what a journey well that's the thing is that it is a june it is no gotta find that perfect cocktail and cocktail and two years might not fucking work anymore yeah but then when it starts working like i think mine is right and i just out of the new thing but i don't know the name of i feel fucking great now yeah you know isn't that just such a wonderful relief yeah where you're like oh yes this is how brings you know disappointing that it's mine doesn't but it's like well no it does well thank god it's not like the twenties right i mean like cocaine everyone yeah they're like a i guess just lock screw up and give her a lithium and cocaine and we'll see what happens i had multiple conversations with a couple of friends who are in crisis like their anxiety is out of control yeah and they're still such reluctance gone i have this runs to and it's like well you think you're smarter smarter than all these psychiatry and doing the fucking years and you have beat her anxiety that's caused by the world being a terrible fucking place and like trying to limit happy life you think you're gonna fix that it's it's also hard well one of them is now i think go on and the other one i mean i've been talking about this for years and it's honestly it's getting frustrating to me because at a certain point it's like i can only hear you be upset about something so much if you're not gonna try to fix it i mean like i guess what people like mad they're pretty extreme if you're not already gonna therapy therapy she yes she had anxiety sent to the kid oh rippling anxiety where i think her i like honestly pissed at her parents said they didn't address it when she wow i just say my name my meds drag me like this like but have you ever been a two anxious to take medication not no really like i'll be like talk myself out of like the clown up in or like that's like the xanax or whatever i'll get like scared of taking the medication yeah to make my anxiety not happened you know what i've noticed though for me like i take xanax and clinton makes me fucking fullface sounders asleep i can't take like a full on opinion just like go out on the job you feel not radical tolerance when you're anxiety and you just know that it's there if you need it so rarely because of that reason alone yeah i've heard and for that just looking at it and going okay i have this like that's why five minutes if i it doesn't work try it what do you mean you talk yourself out of it yeah i'll be like oh i shouldn't i shouldn't take it like you're afraid of becoming dependent on it no like i'll be like oh minimize like i'll be like oh i'm not even panicking right now so i shouldn't take it it's like you don't give yourself the benefit of the doubt you need like he needed to know and then i'll be like i have done in my mind go no no that's what this is for yeah which is so like i 'cause you i guess it's also sort of a female thing to be like fine yeah my heart's not beating out of my chest everything's great oh i'm always like oh okay my head hurts a little you when did you start on mets a pretty young let's see i wanna say that i was in junior high when i started taking a i can't remember but it was some basic antidepressants 'cause i've been on a therapy since i was like five or six years old oh what how did you hear parents like noted do that they got divorced when i was five and i was like height like not doing great yeah hiding under the staircase like reading a book about the whole time out or like let's say we're learning like i wasn't doing killing animals hardly a no they thought that was normal i yeah and so then by junior high like clearly i had some depression anxiety and then like looking back these like i used to think i had a heart problem loan at like eight and now i look back and like oh you're having a fucking panic attacks asking you just thought something's wrong with your heart and you didn't understand why you'd have this like sudden wave of depression for no like sadness and your parents didn't bring up medication therapy that whole time 'em enough yeah no there were jewish an l a's so i feel like we were just like everyone like were all on beds were all therapy yeah yeah yeah not it's something you have to do i feel like in my like little world and my family so it wasn't another deal which is great unlucky what what would you say 'cause i've had people even in outlay where i'm like you should be legally required to go to therapy yes but i've had people be like i don't need to go to therapy i don't wanna go to therapy like what if someone said that to you what would you say well i mean everyone needs like someone who you think are like you fucking meeting some people just aren't ready that unpack all that shit 'cause it's true it's like you have to be honest and real and dealership and some people are not fucking ready to do that and it's hard on like sometimes in life get shittier for a little while you get more depressed because you're unpacking this like you're childhood traumas and you know like the reason you make these mistakes are because of these things in the past and you don't wanna fucking talk about it and think about it and living it until you kind of get that you kind of have to be in a place where you're ready to do that but once you do life gets so much better and you're able to use these tools that they give you to make good decisions end to living a happy life but like services you know you and you're needs and wants is that me yeah so many my therapist has said have just like worms their way into my i'm like this is now the thing that i believe and it's like so like just little things like i beat myself up over not being productive and then one time she was like well i think procrastination is part of the creative process yeah i lie down like like things where i'm like oh my source my therapists a taught me she told me one time you worship at the altar of doubt fucking shit shit that like moved me like i love doubting things become one of the good things happen but within heartbreak 'cause you had like very intense somewhat sudden success yeah and so did that bring on your anxiety in a big way definitely like my like things around money like i always look paycheck to paycheck before the couple years ago and so that is hard and weird and and then like yeah having people know who you are and no stuff about you yeah and then writing the book so we wrote this book that was really fucking personal and so i had a good therapy all the time you've had like i was bringing shut up but i hadn't thought about a long time yeah just add what my therapist said yeah i could go on sheri's berries that she except always struck me is that like that i should walk through the world with grace that's beautiful so like a lot of times that's just like i like i feel like race has like a big definition but it sort of just like with respecting myself with respecting expecting other people yeah not like a faster of like yeah i'm gonna think of that mine does to say that like about therapy is that so you use these tools as a kid or whatever and you're life to get through it and mine were like they worked really well for you and now you're in a place in your adult life or they don't service you anymore like having anxiety about someone yelling are having anxiety about not being good enough like that works for you and tell you where certain age and now you can learn different tools that that work for you now like but were all still using the tools we learned as kids yeah be shitty tools yeah like realize that you're not that person anymore right really like that like me gaining self confidence with a true journey and now so important china me down monster also like i think if you think of yourself as a certain type of level of success and then it changes yeah you're like well who am i now i'm now i'm like you know i have a savings account what the hell right like my thing too is like it's gonna go away it's away and you're gonna and people are gonna think you're so stupid and it's gonna go away forever don't get used to it and you know you don't deserve it it's like oh yeah you don't deserve it and yeah i know i do you have side effects have you met yeah my libido blows out on the beach in yeah it's just as about like that way for me but they'll lofted did yeah our minds along also yeah so after that to me it's a bummer but yeah we work through it like a a cause i i am like a very sexual person in someone i told someone like oh i'm on zoloft and they were like this is you on mute this is what you're like on mute are you just a monster when you're like yeah you associate sexist power in a in a way that probably like there is a lot of god really appreciate it it's less in your body of more like i must dominate that that's not about like you're sex drive that's about year personality you guys i need that has that been 'cause you're mary behind so what is that been like if you're a partner if you if i may be so bold just like getting it's like getting in the mindset and it's also because my anxiety is so big but it's like i can't stop in the middle of fucking stressing out all days ago bone right but i have to be like this is pretty marriage and like you and i do enjoy it it's just my my brain ever goes to that place of like hey let's fuck and i'm like ever that person how were you ever know yeah yeah yeah like you lost some part of you're still not at all not at all no but if you if you are a person who's like scared of side effects going on medication it's like you can't adjust that stuff like when i went on his oh opt in and and i like it was too low a veto i was like i knock knock this is important to me yeah inch that right now good psychiatrists will ask you that to like yeah it's like i've gained some weight like how important is that in their own beds at don't have those specific side but you're worried about yeah that's what i always say it's like it's like what are you willing tillis right and so for me when i was on the lot that gains like over twenty pounds and like while i was like well i don't wanna look like they're and now the mets and i'm on i'm pretty sure make me hot and sweaty oh no yeah but that's that to me like something that i could live with oh i would gain weight before i would lose my sex drive or you were hot and sweaty i'm already i think you were when i'm happy i eat and when i'm not i don't and so sometimes i feel like i'm just gaining weight on on so lost or whatever because now i'm not depressed all the time and doesn't seem like such a chore to slog through seattle i'm like i can't wait to the yeah also it's funny when we when i first got when he first got the job at buzzfeed and i actually had like a paycheck and i had money i gained some weight like what's going on and it was just cause i could just like so happy to be able to buy groceries and there were a lot of free snacks oh that's a problem that's how you know someone's happy same way when i'm skinny there's something not right i've been on this journey with my body since there's a lot of change yeah and like i read this thing that was interesting that like i don't know if i brought this up but that like women feel like they need to lose weight is just like another way that they like patriarchy controls oh yeah is it makes us focused on that instead of like everything else that's important you sent me an article about yeah i totally agree with that and to to appoint though like i use when i was younger and i had my eating disorder issues i never way more than a hundred and seven pounds that's you fucking small time yeah and one really happy i'm one thirty but i can't fit and like you mentioned dresses in a kevin my stuff like all i wanna do is do that i'm not trying to like look hot bernie one yeah that you just want a needed from the fifty exactly i think there's like you're healthy way right at one body is completely different and you're like you're healthy weight might be five pounds more than like what you wish it was the mental energy that it takes to lose those extra five pounds that's worthy shoe yeah yeah becomes and obsession and it's like you're whole lifestyle and it's like oh you're thinking will be fined one time they're not now going against what you're body wants just says yeah yeah and so just like pickier side effects based on what you love your body we we talk about something else too because we so we're business partner yet were best friends end a we've met other female business partners and they've been like we never fight for fucking stepford like and she went into this podcast where these girls we were like oh you guys miss idle time they said no and then we like a married couple got in the car afterwards and right well they're not gonna work out that's not a real good yeah we were like well okay whatever weirdos yeah and you and karen talk a lot about like you guys go to therapy together yeah we were not right now but we did for a little while and it was so helpful we've never done that i think we should how long runs before you became not long enough seriously i do we say we got married on are we had a kid on her honeymoon yeah like we were like friends for like six months before we start caring long either yeah well because it's hard you don't know the other person you both have strengths hard to work with and it's hard to work with someone else and then when you're in eight type person taipei personality is like trying to make a career out of it and like there's so much at stake it's hard it's i mean we we fight all the time and we don't anymore because he's like learn some tools but are therapists who is so mazing he was like you guys it's amazing that you found someone who's the perfect trigger all you're you're like you drive me nuts in a way no one all right same and if i'm in a bad mood like it's unfair to you that i i just get so annoyed with theo ida we are we are at like old married couple of levels yeah where like which sucks 'cause you skip all the like fun like the honeymoon skip that went who came up with the idea to go to therapy together a i think we both 'cause we busted in therapy for a long time any kind of joked about it we both had died partnerships like that ending partnerships with women in the past so until we both kind of knew that like how bad it could get so we i think we're pretty quickly realized we needed an we blew up so quickly that it was like that was scary an overwhelming and felt huge and like i felt like what we could take one wrong staff and it would implode yeah really controlling falling and so yeah we just had to end did you get a new therapists yeah we found someone like either be let's see exactly i don't think you can go to the you should go to the same like in couples therapy to like you don't wanna go to europe therapists yeah but it's interesting like that therapists being like so i see podcast partners and tubers that's their job she was very we gotta like explained to him we podcast is and what what's going on yeah i was talking about you just this week gabby and it's so funny because like my therapists it was like so obvious like she's never met you but i'm talking about you so much talk like she knows you yeah well then you know and gaby's like this and i like therapists i've talked about you for so long and then i finally i realize you don't know what you look like finally like showed her photo would you like to go and she's like she's pretty she's like i expected i don't know like that's so funny google google you know almost like google me i know stuff my mining vincis therapists listen to our podcast once in a while well and i'm like i don't know how i feel about she's she's right a full scripted minor feature lab proposal but i don't think she watches are videos no she christians read my books yeah wow but also kind of it and she had me sign one for her wife which was very cute one time i therapists that you know you don't really talk about you issues with their sister anymore and like cool yeah then she's like now we talked about gab yeah well that's what so what do you guys like is it the therapists dislike the neutral party yeah it's like okay here's who's right and who's wrong not starting who's right who's he like he like you know you'll yell about this whole thing that's going wrong and then he'll say to you like here's what she's trying to say like fritter but yeah there's there's so much emotional charge going on between she could karen tonight yeah we're not gonna be able to like explain what you mean like i do find myself just explaining over and over what i meant it's not it's not working i'm saying it wrong are you the year the more taipei person we both are which is hard yeah in our own special way but now we found like this rhythm where it's like parents strengths are stuff that i cannot fucking do in my strengths and my the things i do karen can't hang break it down for my mind i'm just constantly trying to create like new things and and like next steps and i'm really impatient and i want things like now now now in the idea idea idea 'em yeah i dunno whatever string she's fucking she's just a bad ass and it's really cool to be like to be on the receiving end of her bad that's like you know some if someone tries to fuck around fuck us over caramel not fucking let that go like slip by where i'm kinda show or and and and making a little scared of confrontation and she's not like that and i think that i'm like reaping the benefits of that is just kicking in doors yeah i can be treated he's a bad ass and she knows how the industry works in yeah like not gonna get pushed around and it's it's impressive i become definitely more like confident in my myself since like watching arguing that beautiful do you guys still hang out at friends oh yeah i mean where together all the time because of work but it's like were still always like talking unlike gabbing in beings girly friends together go were still do you have special friend time no i have special friend timeless gabby where you just do something that's not work yeah yeah he really you do transfer that a lot of important it is it's not happening i feel like you have friends i feel like you're sister yeah we always say say yeah because i thought that what you hear and we and we both have older sisters yeah so we both kind of have fallen into that role 'cause it's unconditional yeah you're other friendships alright you might get away from me right so i say whatever i fucking why not good right now cat away get away from me but it's also like there's some there's some comfort in that like you know that you can't get away and there's also like more annoyance then you would like if a if a regular right annoyed me as much as you and me i wouldn't we wouldn't be in situations where i would have no i know my friend just saying like more highs and lows yeah there's like and then like all the best things that have happened in my life have been with you yeah yeah so it's like a it's a rollercoaster you can't it's like as much as you're mad at that person at that moment you can't discount like what you guys have made together it's rational and so there's a reason for that you're like wow there's something here that people are seeing yes like magical yeah between these two personality maybe i should see it to what yeah what what is it i know that's what he's done to us pretty quickly yeah chemistry what's that about you don't try it again suddenly come factor that on this side of the table have you ever thought about what you would look like if you guys parted ways not even let you bring go there oh i don't want i don't want a career after this their entire yeah i'd like to write us into retirement and i'm lazy at heart unlike all i wanna do is like hang out with my cats and yeah reads books so great under staircase under staircase wherever yeah before we move on to our next very exciting segment do you have any advice advice for us as a as a friendship pair goes therapy i mean really what i know it's like seems extreme but it's kind of it's the same way you go to therapy he was you know the intimate partner would be like you just said china work some shit out and you know you might get you might become better people because of it i think aaron and i totally did yeah i can't wait to be a better person you would you therapy if i was making more money so right now i don't have enough money that will therapy hope i oh i've triple therapy it's expensive you do with your husband owning with karen karen they're off they're not doing right now but yeah i nine three three three different fucking that pollyanna thank you okay now it is time for are favorite segment high so cynical it's america's favorite game show are you ready to be part of a game show always okay i'm gonna give you a scenario you're gonna tell me what you would do in those scenarios and then i'll tell you probably why you're wrong okay i don't i've never seen them either so were playing either against each other together certainly depending on what the hell is it okay first game is would you stay with this cheater here we go okay your spouse have always had a list of celebrities that you could sleep with if you had the opportunity what people on your spouse's list is the fictional character princess laya you're spouse turns home from a convention and says they slept with princess laya impersonator stay with this either they were in costume the whole time no okay well so why would you allow them to put a a a fictional character on the list yes he wanted them to write their truth 'cause you thought they were kidding you don't think they fucking in in like bacon but like cinnamon rosenstein other fucking ahead yeah and i think to if you're in an oped you are no relationship maybe like are you supposed to communicate that our hair and i know you're not in a relationship you just have the list then you're just know that guy before the before you do it shoot a text total hey prince about at the convention center center with no okay bloggers are so by too many people okay interesting and all the person standing character the whole time yeah if it makes a difference what would you say oh absolutely not okay great so okay so i i think that you should have you should say okay so georgia says no staying i i say yes staying now what we find out if you're next door neighbor that prince playoff era new and that they'd flirted with before so then i i made i made a huge mistake okay i would say if you list with their spouse they cannot be fictional characters that just takes so that just means it's less people i just think that that guy is a person is really stupid if they think they're gonna fucking get away with that so you should break up with him as a really dumb yeah again right handed shooter i don't care that you cheated you're just to to broken up with people for that reason there are next game is is this a date okay you're friend is newly single invites you to go bathing suit shopping they insist to come into the dressing room while they change and try things on they make eye contact with you the whole time this date i weird a have you ever done this with them before never have you ever seen the naked before now are you close friend of theirs best friend oh well see naked person i'm like yeah but the i contact is wearing it like stuff yeah the line and if you look away at all they go look at me i mean i think there's not a day that you're married i think they're trying to kill you gonna murder yeah you never been seduced never made the news here's here's what i think is that they're they're shoplifting their seats on and then putting their closed over to walk out and they're trying to contact people yeah but i do but yeah you get in on the shoplifting thing lifting they're they're trying to get off on like being like showing off what is it an exhibition interesting yeah and you're there first target she princess is this the princess layer chicagoan me insane it's their spouse the first no it's the princess laya to absolutely happen alison building real marvel cinematic universe where everyone in these i pathetically is related to each other somehow it's just a what's it called when mash up sex her character's oh it's fiction thank you fencing all hypothetical exacts character question i don't wanna hold forever feels right character that's right 'em speaking of matchup insects character well here we are final game is this person in alien or just rude you're new boss invite you into their office and offers you a bowl of soup god when you respectfully path they insist you eat soup in front of them so they can't watch how you do it apparently how you eat soup will reveal a lot about your character why soup they laugh maniacal early and then transfer you to a different department but give you a raise is present an alien or just rude tonight is it a third that you're he's trying the drug you oh what would be but in this case know what kind of stupid that cream of mushroom and no one eats that like on its own way okay i'm sorry hold on so what department were you in you were in sales and what's primary and now now you're in marketing but you're the head of marketing why are those same absolutely no they're not they're not as i do that you've never worked at a large corporation sales and marketing neither no i worked in ity i oh wait i have a question do you owe is in her just rude i think he's just rude alien alien honey i mean my god our society a huge like their personality test is how you eat okay what is it what is it mean well if you plan to where the ball is very far from your mouth and you really you really take a risk getting all the way up a ha you're strong confident person but if you bring the ball very close to her mouth and then like see only travel the spoon very like very close a week i got it on alien commute into it so wait so did you pass and that's why you got a promotion or they didn't wanna see you again eating soup well you spilled so they could never lucky when they i again okay but also you had trouble far away so you still gotta read okay you're confident but in a knock it it's my god oh my god yeah i i would love to be confident and not good at so many people me on a silver platter come on i wanna go there so much joy when like such a big fan of your eyes are where can we find you oh i'm mostly on instagram at hard stark i fucking taken twitter off my phone all right you know and like hanging out a dive bar where the book talking about the book it's called stay sexy and don't get murdered it's a doormat martin karen and i just right out are fucked up crazy past things in like in like kind of like a self help book and it's yeah it's fun and it's available wherever books are sold any audio book you guys read i answered it paul giamati came along in your car just some of the audio i've never heard a better endorsement i love it so much cigarette after the break will be talking about fandom not fan fiction unfortunately sex character mashah welcome back to just between us it's time for topics ex ex ex ex ex ex ex baby added two axes i got spice it up i can't just say the same thing every time and to be fair you do love you're x's yeah some of on a this week we're going to talk about fandom does it go too far are celebrities spots over how their fans act i love you reid the things i right yeah like you're like okay you know it's like why do i why did i pick shit you do i wanna give you credit so what caused me to want to do this is a little over a month ago i tweeted something about finding taylor swift's lyrics in her new single me a bit controversial and 'cause my whole thing is like i i'm not a strong believer in like if you can't take me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best oh yeah absolutely i mean it was a song that look we love brendan yuri you see you like taylor swift yet you're coming at it from a a criticism from a place of love an it you i think that the song was very like promoting of like one person being toxic and the relationship yeah being like but you to put up with this 'cause i'm the best and so i i sort of like tweeted out something about that in 'em like also while proclaiming i love her britain year end i got attacked in a way that i have never been and attacked on line before we is crazy because i a shit about republicans and trump all the time yeah it's not like i have like gave very benign online presence right like tweeting about mental illness i'm tweeting about politics and we'd like all these potentially controversial things yeah and i have never been attacked like the way that i was attacked by taylor swift fans oh well here's the thing there are certain fandom that i just know not to fuck was but like i i was i got like a frayed and i deleted the tweet and instill weaker to after i was still getting attacked for it even though i deleted the tweet people went to my instagram all my instagram comments were people people tweeting or where people commenting that i should listen to me getting death threats yup like one girl on a photo of me rock climbing with like i hope you fallen die end i like went to her profile and it was just like nature shots yeah it is like some fifteen year old girl yeah and so that to me is so much scarier than a like a creepy rip incell republican man yeah like tells me kill myself because i expect it from him and it's obvious that this man is like unhealthy has the wrong perspective on things but that these like young girls turn so violent and evil and malicious over a tweet so violent you know what's interesting with that kind of stuff is i'm like they don't know you like you're defending these this person is famous as if as if they're your friend and so i tell you tell us what doesn't give a shit about you oh gee i know she's really does care about her fans but like with taylor swift want you to be telling me while i mean a die hard right that is so against her message i know and that's where it's like so interesting because i feel like these really strong female a pop singers who like are very much about feminism in unity their fans are the most vicious yeah i mean you don't fuck with arianna guerande offense no they will murder you you don't fuck west 'em fifth harmony fans on w fiance i mean not one woman who lives misconstrued that fiance was annoyed at heard about now like at a tax act as if she had like a like been a serial killer i don't get it like i guess because i've never been a fan like but like what is compelling these people to behave that way i think there is they jump on mentality like so you don't you believe centering around this person that you are part of a community okay and so the community likes to like do stuff together so they love to jump on people because they love to be like a this is a bonding activity for us this is i guess this is like us they were doing as fans as a group or do they do they think that these celebrities need them to do this really i think they think that they do i think they think that they're like protecting them yeah i think so there is sort of like the deity element of it yeah people have taken on like a more powerful than human biology and they've become idols and i like being worship and it says if i'm speaking speaking out against like the islamic god yes yes yeah and it's like that sort of like fruit like and they were like jesus sucks that's yes yeah that is like literally i mean i think i would get less pushback back absolutely said that absolutely well it's also it's not just like pop singers like the most i've ever gotten was when i wore a hillary clinton t shirt and a photo 'em because it wasn't from trump people it was i attacked for like days from bernie fans yeah like an end there's been a lot of talk where people are like bernie why don't you condemn these people who do this and he's kinda wishy washy about it well that's how i also feel about these up popstars yeah you like always give these like very benign statements like guys come on but they never actually do or say anything to stop it i think one time ariana grande day message the girl who is getting attacked and it's like i'm really sorry about that she did yeah she did but some of them will encourage it like i've definitely seen 'em a things where nikki menards will specifically nicki minaj will encourage it but that's like that is so scary to me but the question like is it their responsibility to i i this is their responsibility to be like do not behave this way like yeah part of being part of pudding music out there part of being a creative entity is that it's subjective and not everybody is going like everything that i do yeah so you after you after i think it's your responsibility to say that you don't approve of it and you don't like it there's there but there's also a thing where you lose control of your fans like i was talking to someone about that's where like nirvana kurt cobaine was like a feminist he was like very like social justice based he was like you know the music was supposed to be very underground and very like different and then somehow nirvana became this this band that like boroughs were into oh really yeah and kurt cobaine was like upset about it all the time you didn't understand how that had happened he doesn't understand how his fan base had become this and he was like never really like sure like he he was like i felt very guilty about it and so i think like there's a thing to where sometimes doesn't artist you're you're stuff as misinterpreted and it just gets away from you i get that like it's whatever like people songs were used but like the republican convention exact musicians like no no no no no exactly like i think sometimes it just gets misconstrued and gets away from you and there's tons of people were like you know so someone i don't have this opinion but someone who is like a magic dragons is a good band and the guy from magic dragons there's a lot of really great ally work however fans of imagine dragons suck at a an i don't necessarily agree with that but i was like that is the thing that happens but i think that speaks to the fact that these artist especially the ones that have a cult like following yeah they need to almost put up guidelines yeah how their fans should be behaving on social media yeah just so many of their fans are so young yeah and like they they don't know maybe they don't know any better i mean so many of those comments and i got i i think those girls are probably not even eighteen years old absolutely like it's terrifying yeah like i can't imagine being so violent malicious unlike hateful yeah like another i'd like to a female creator yeah i'm not i'm not you're enemy yeah i mean like i i like i i didn't like the lyrics to songs are gonna come at me cancel men like attack tax me so that's only like the tip of the iceberg in terms of like i'm sure what other people have said any and the heat and he attacks they've gotten oh absolutely like i feel like there needs to be some sort of like movement with these like top these especially these top women and yeah yeah they're like here's what i do not want from you know like i love you love and support but like do like do not punch down do not like a like a swarm it's okay that people don't like me like somebody's gotta say that because it's really it's scary it's terrifying and it's like really like getting an and i'm not talking about just being like i disagree with you but you're right it's violent it's violence that like and i'm i'm curious like i don't know right 'cause i'm not in these girls heads but when they reach that's we are they like oh that's annoying and then they write back die yeah are they like actually like so worked up yes so upset and so offended yes that they then right back die yes like scant like that's not healthy yeah they also co opted a lot of language and i i assume most of the fandom is is young white women and they cooperate a lot of 'em navy african american vernacular because they have just seen it on twitter so they're young they don't know and they'll just their repeating their parenting what they've heard like cancel or assess or like stuff like that like that's not the t or like what it that's not what we're about to do whatever so it's like they're just they just wanna be a part of something so they're sort of parenting this language were using the same gifts like you know what i mean like yeah there's no original thought there it's just like a it's just scary to me because you just shouldn't be so tied to celebrity absolutely like these are artists and they're just saying yeah like you don't know them like it's great to like love them in and care about them but like you can't take these things so personally like i love law and order as view i love it i love it i know there are valid criticisms of it i know that people don't like certain characters on it that i love i know that people are very critical of the show yeah i'm not on social media being like if you don't like muscatel you fucking die right like i there's no impulse to do that 'cause i'm like i understand it's got a perfect you know it's not perfect show and same for me with the bachelor nation like i often comment about it and how much i like it and why and i get a lot of comments where people like i can't believe that you support the show that like pits women against each other like that and like honestly when i mean that i'm like oh i kind of like reexamine it and i'm the only the only defense they have is that they also pittman against each other that that's a that's an actual argument not someone being like oh you like the bachelor die no but i'm saying so in that in that sense they're doing what i did there they're they're giving up yeah a valid reason though to them and then i noticed hockey you i hope you fall off backley i like i don't engage with it and then i but i like it makes it does make me like think about it is this you guys were older like i stand a lot of people but if someone said like i don't like tom holland i wouldn't be like you know like i'll be like well that's your opinion but this is game gets to me like not understanding the actual like tone of it because it's all on social media yeah no no it it it sounds like there's like true emotion there yes you're eating the tone correctly and there's a lot of it in the there's certain people that foster this about themselves that that don't really say anything about it but i'm always curious like why like why those people know i one thing i will say i love fandom in a sense that it's community i like when it's like you know people get together and it's like very sweet i also think that there are some times where creators purposefully stoke fandom and i don't like that and what i'm talking about is there was an incident west 'em witham the show supergirl okay where a lot of people ship these two characters together to women aunt 'em there is a lot of evidence that they flirt whatever but they're both presumably straight the two actresses know about it they went on eight eight show they were on the getting interviewed and someone brought up like hey people ship you're characters and they just like fully made fun of it and were like those people are delusional this is fucking stupid ed blah blah blah and a lot of the fans were really really hurt yeah because it kind of took this turn of like oh why is it so insane that we would ship to women together happiness killing either sandro saying like i mean killing eve is like explicitly plicitly romance and then i think sandro is like no no not and so like there is a part of me that's like let like first of all don't ever piss off square fandom do not what you want is clear fence you that's what you want 'cause they are die hard right and they and they were not in a scary violent way like they will they will just like follow you and love you and like buyer shit and like you that's that's what you want a but like so i don't understand really alienating alienating that and in that case i think it was interesting because they all kind of came together and where like consulting each other and sort of being like look it's okay like it's you know we're still valid were still valid lesbian fans of this show like it was it it 'em it became a thing where like i don't think as a creator you should like make fun of you're fandom which i think hanno austin well i think a lot of times especially with actors there in projects that they don't necessarily respect yeah then they don't respect their fan yeah and i hate that it's really you know even if you're doing something that maybe it's not your first choice the fact that it's bringing joy people and that people love it and that it's like making them excited and it makes it yeah like i met a mark paul whatever gosh yeah you know and like i love say by the growing up like it wasn't me like i waited for him outside of the off broadway played a like tell him like in like fan girl and whatever and he could not give a fuck like so rude about it yeah and like somebody who has people come up to me i can't imagine being in that way even even like people that are like oh my god i love you on buzzfeed did i ever great time at buzzfeed no but like i'm not gonna it'd be like fuck bugsy to their fingers or like you know you don't but do you do you follow just between us are new stuff though like who is not something i did back then touch them so like that's great i would never i would never want people to go an attack anyone on my behalf i ever we are really lucky in are fan base i'm like consistently like shocked and unlike in touch by how wonderful they are kind so kind and like you very empathetic fan yes and like you'll even see that they're dialogue is different where one person question something one of us has done and then the other person will like take the time to explain it misunderstanding in that first person is like oh you're right i like didn't get that thank you yeah like this is what interactions on social media should be it's not just like oh you said that about gabby die pitched like are unlike thank you please never do that i mean i guess i guess my take away the i i feel like almost there needs to be like this code of conduct yeah that's celebrities sign onto and that they post and that they say this is how i this is how i would love for my fancy interact with yes and these are the things that i don't approve of and this is how i would love for my fans to interact west of detractors yes exactly and i i just i don't think anyone's ever really done it that explicitly before i just think if you're a fan of someone reevaluated how you treat it like it's not you're business who likes and who doesn't like them and also thinking about what their values are they somebody who would want that they want you bashing shing other women probably not does not want you telling other women to die she doesn't you heard it here first folks don't tell other people die i mean that is in like also it makes you look bad if you're bernie fan who's doing that to people it doesn't make bernie look good no makes bernie look terrible exactly and that's why we should all vote for elizabeth warren obviously wanna come on in and give us your thoughts here how hello why do you think lay it on us i'm gonna give it four point nine eight seven hills close to break pills in two point nine seven gresham snored pills that you have to break in half and i just couldn't you can't physically atari cutter it don't have you tried a pill i've i've got a good one of my dad's was terrible and i read 'em ten out of ten cats georgia loves cats okay she looking at cas they don't like cats on them i don't mind like looking at those actually three she's got three so three out of three cat oh that's smart that smart we all learn well i learned i learned a lot about how we feel about fandom mhm end how maybe there's some backlash happening that we just don't you know we just should have some awareness that even if you're a big fan of someone that doesn't mean you can attack people that don't like that person gives them death threats and yeah exactly like idolizing someone so much you don't even know is a bad idea shocking shocking news breaking here on just between us and also they don't need you to defend them the most part yeah and i thought it was interesting that you guys brought up that the celebrity not speaking out against their fans do this yeah an i've never thought about that before but i do feel like that's something that needs to be done to 'cause it's like you're normal person you don't need to be attacked on behalf of someone who has millions of dollars yeah that they're gonna be fine yeah i remember i had like a sleepless night one night and it was like it was really early like three o'clock in the morning one of those like news talking head shows and this woman said something really like route about beyond say and i texted my friend that was living in australia at the time i'm like people like look out on this woman's instagram i guarantee in like within hours people start waking up gonna be like beehive all over a made up and like we watched it happen i wanna say about i don't even remember it was something stupid that she shouldn't have said yes i knew what was coming it's terrifying but the power but do you you're my funniest part was i guess just georgia's face during the hypotheticals engineers are not you can't ever experience xactly exactly i think when you burn me so fucking hard that you know you gotta get burned to heal i'm scaled it at all never recover some alabama i'm sure he'll talk down i i really like like the soup part do you watch year the worst of it but not that much like a part where palm paul f tompkins who's playing a version of himself but like as a horrible show runner first show made one of the characters like forcibly eat soup yeah like a hazing thing and so that's what i thought i heard a great way to god a cause all good people love soup it's a nightmare if you don't love soup i don't trust you forcing for someone to eat cream of mushrooms me disgusting if it was like chicken noodle fine what about vegetarians okay if it was like beacon chicken noodles fine you gotta be i don't know but i bet they make it right begin that the fandom we can't fuck what vegas weekends are just like that begins let us know how to make vegan chicken noodle soup and don't eat into us thank you so much to georgia for being a guest on her show i still can't believe we got i know i'm such a fan i'm losing it i know just between us is hosted by me gabby done me ousted masking are engineers brendon burns he also composer theme music producer is melissa deem boston are supervising producers josephine moderna are executive producers chris bannon and just between us is a 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