35 Burst results for "Traumatic Stress Disorder"
Robin Williams' Son, Zak Williams, on Mental Health
"This. Jump right into this week's conversation with zach williams zach alario michael. I'm great. i just got back from a road trip. And i'm feeling energized and excited about about the remainder of the year in what's become so thank you for spending time with us in your passion interest around mental health and how it fits into the modern workplace is something that feels like a tongue and groove for. We're trying to do as well. So can we start where it started for you and so let's go back. Why mental health and help paint the picture. And you're obviously. Your dad is going to be a major part of your story but why mental health for you. Well mental health for me started or at least thinking about mental health by my personal well-being started very early. On in my life. I had very obsessive traits as a child A lot of thinking involving symmetry and and repetition and That manifested through my teens and early adult life in terms of anxiety and trying to manage obsessive thinking and and that really came to a head After my dad by because i was diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder and was using things like alcohol. Self medicate to quiet my thoughts to quiet my mind in. That's wasn't tenable in the longer term for me. How old were you when you were diagnosed with. Ptsd thirty three which was to about two years after my dad died by suicide
"traumatic stress disorder" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych
"To the show when you think about things like attachment for instance This is something that can really impact you. There are different types of attachment and you could look into them a bit. The differences between like secure attachment versus anxious of void an attachment Situation like this would often lent itself really toward what's called disorganized attachment. That's basically where your care figure. You know the people that you're supposed to be getting comfort from in this situation your primary caregivers like your parents Maybe just one of them. I'm not sure what the situation was like entirely but at least one primary caregiver. They're supposed to be the one who you seek comfort from when something bad happens You know when you have situation that's dangerous or scarier strange. Your tendency naturally is to go to your care person to get comfort. Well in situations like this that led themselves towards that disorganized attachment that person. Who's your source of comfort is also object of your fear right. So you have very mixed up disorganized scary weird feelings about it like this person. I'm supposed to run to you. But am i supposed to run away from this person. So what the hell do you do with that right. You don't know what to do with yourself in a situation like that so that can absolutely impact to you later on. It can impact the way that you interact with other people can interact or it can impact your relationships friendships or romantic relationships relationships with authority figures within your family. All of that. So all this is to say it's the stuff is a big deal and it sounds like you've had a traumatic reaction to the stuff whether it's full blown. Ptsd or not so post traumatic stress disorder. You know there are specific criteria for post traumatic stress disorder. And whether you meet those full criteria or not it's clear that There there are some elements of it. Here there's a Having some type of traumatic reaction and you mentioned Certain types of interactions or topics that come up that you just can't tolerate without becoming really really emotional. Having a hard time coping with those thoughts with with those situations so i'm not sure if you're also having symptoms ptsd like.
"traumatic stress disorder" Discussed on RISE Podcast
"Who are in their eighties me. Mom and papa both have cove it and are in the hospital and my mom is like trying to take care of everybody. And how do you care for older citizens who are who have covert in. You can't end like she's taking time off work and it's like just it feels like it hasn't stopped being hard like they'll be a day or a week where it will start to feel like okay. We're gaining on this. We're we're we're and then it'll be like you know has cove it and of course that's what it feels like now if feels like of course. That's what it is of course. My friend is struggling. Of course this thing has happened. Of course and i. This is the definition of post traumatic stress disorder. Ptsd which i have had. Since i was fourteen years old and it manifests for people in different ways and obviously there is trauma that you can go through that is so much more horrific but for all of this what i want you to hear me say right now is that. Ptsd feels like there's always a level hopefully low but sometimes very high there's always a level of anxiety that part of our brain the lizard part of our brain. That only has one job which is to keep us alive. One job keep keep us alive. There's three parts of our brain. There's lizard brain the mammal brain. There's a human like look it up. The most like basic part of us has one job which is stay alive and if you have felt threatened threatened financially or emotionally which we all have as a global community of people. There's been fear anxiousness. People have died. People are sick. We've lost businesses. We've lost jobs like relationship. So much has happened. What that does is it puts the lizard part of your brain. The stay alive part now. That's leading out. That's constantly looking for danger constantly. Now when we were cavemen that part of your brain kept you. Alive was constantly looking for the sabertooth tiger. That was going to eat you. What that looks like today is that you are anticipating the bad stuff. You're anticipating the world falling out from undue you're anticipating the worst and if you learned about manifestation or what we put out into the world or any of that what you look for you will find and like i am preaching to myself right now. I freaking do this for a living. All i've done for decade is try and learn and sort of like okay. How can i do this better. And then end up sharing it with you guys like. Hey this is what i learned. And what but even. I am having to relearn this stuff because i feel like it has been eroded i've sort of it's like all of the stress of the last. Eighteen months has scratched away and sort of peeled away. All of the walls that i built up to hold boundaries and to keep my self centered and calm and like all those habits. All those rituals. They're not gone but their shaky. They're not gone but they're solid. It's like you know we're a castle. I dunno medieval time period and this force this invading army. This whatever has rolled up to the castle with like those. You can't see me if you're listening. I've tried to like what is it like a catapult like you know where they would like soup rocks steaks. They do everything to try to break down the walls of the castle. That's what i feel like right now. I'm still standing. And i'm so proud of the fact that i'm still standing your still standing your here. You're listening to this. You're still going but it's just shaky. It's not a solid as it. once was and in. The state of heightened anxiety heightened fear. I am anticipating things going wrong. And maybe they will. That's freaking life. Maybe things will continue to go wrong. But i promise you that it is not serving me. It is not serving my team at work. it is not taking care of. My children is not helping me. Have impact create content. Be creative like it doesn't serve me in any way because honestly if bad shit happens i'll deal with it. If bad shit happens you'll deal with. It doesn't mean it won't be hard but it is way harder to experience like a month of worrying over something and then the thing happens that you lost that whole month and in fact if you really think about it right now if you ask yourself how much anxiety have you had compared to the actual manifestation of the thing you were anxious about. It's not even close meaning most of the time we're worried about stuff. That doesn't even happen. The things that really throw us off the things that we never anticipated. So how this affects us. Is one like heightened anxiousness which is nowhere to live. Because what happens. What happened for me. Whatever my girlfriend today is that we hit that point in time where we realize that it was still hard. That nine months have gone by ten months. Eleven months and it's still a mess. It's still pivot pivot again and figure it out and work harder and do more and you know all of this stuff and at some point i.
"traumatic stress disorder" Discussed on Strength To Be Human --Literary Podcast, Hosted by Mark Antony Rossi
"Different on all the things that somehow they don't wanna they don't wanna faces at the center actually going on in that getting mad at the people's names or trying to make the lowest different really helped me out have a disorder especially depression in the arts and in general as writers all right folks. Hopefully that only helps you out a a great deal about our particular stress disorder seen in the huge wellness on us as right right is can often suffer. Mental understand senator. The ones that are out there our progress actually few writers dealing with it some sort of mental and some riders can have not one of the ones who the sink. Call actually no. I'm just block with them reading for some wanted to or something and i'm not even something that is still post visitors. Not readily very. Close your month to break up. Romantically dramatic happens even swon. I know somebody that should be the debbie some very who bring up taking super hard. You know happens because lighters. We added a lot more to worry about true. All kinds of mine died because we are so vocal in our voices to don't happen to them on a regular basis worry about their socially louis so active in online and we tried to the in spirit of notre dumbs link. Abba hang out there so a lot of their writing something. I know the zero closet somewhere people. Actually you know they might be all schools. Get twenty on the other heard. Sometimes though i don't mind but most people are pretty outgoing national. They might be getting to know. I've heard some time. So but eases some of the ways that i have on this particular issue not so close. Not so now. It's we're not so that you don't have similar situation. I wanted to bring on this particular issue. If you don't have to have some big latin. They don't happen to some drugs. Depression kinda also have some situation like working out for more than okay. You don't have to have some big shows that has seventeen. I woke about it Writing his trauma working at check out some talk about this definitely writing his therapy tools trade trauma jolt picked out on. Check it out jones and some lesson plans at some of the things. Don't make fun of it. It's definitely can apply to accept that people as well and work with it. You'll have a better life happy. Don't nine though you know you get to make fun of you. You're supposed to be rather than accept and work with on telling life victims right. We we we need some more. They're saying hey you get to be. I'm beating this coastal victim. Not steal my happiness right now roy. Use like saint. Hey so. I'm beaten this in the steal my happiness all right folks this rossi chancellor that was episode two hundred and ten victims and stop post traumatic stress disorder in by folks. God blesses the next time. This is mark anti new rossi. Strengthening human that was episode two hundred and chen traumatic stress disorder in the arts. Thank you for listening. Follow the show and support our efforts by visiting our sponsors at www dot strength to be human dot com or purchasing an e book at www dot so my publishing dot com..
"traumatic stress disorder" Discussed on Strength To Be Human --Literary Podcast, Hosted by Mark Antony Rossi
"You know the does that's it. Does meditation all day. It makes any drank that this stuff is baloney and suspect we've seen so often in courtrooms at ways. I know people jurors stink talking about using so often wonder if he's guilty right there i know people say no i guess what i know. It sounds prejudicial but he heard the bills he gets susan. I'm wondering if he's guilty right there. They take in life and art. Guess what a and even the people who heard this time. Zabel's this serious. It's horror they take in many ways sky racism phobia. The people did okay. Let's guys that we're going to take that more seriously if you were meant to young. Let's really people people are gonna take illness. I really doing so difficult for people that are anything but who else dental health issue was important men in the nfc and make sure that this makes not much more difficult for people that are already things when we have sought out to deal with it. That was important only in our intelligent. I'd give context to as much as. I'm not really want to be sensitive about how to deal with that do doing that now. Only and i do know it's important. Language not really wanted to say sensitive about everything saying somebody's all rocker. It'd be doing. It doesn't help it. But i do know that was really important to try to restrict some on you saying you know what i mean. I'm going to hang with getting somebody is different different. Really mean you're not saying we enjoy. You might be saying something different. I'm gonna treat moment. I'm gonna treat the young with something you if you break down your you might be saying some of them and maybe there in time that person could learn about this and i really wish that normally they don't have to deal with you had more. It's horrible shrimps or more movies that way. It's horrible for you now. Not one of those people's advocates important that people up every tv show with whatever we out there because more show more about mersal. That was every tv show with now where there might be more entertaining because this game for propaganda people people hate something. Is you know a lot of these things are now whether the conditions silliest go through the as we can't make me now people people with mental illness from the year two thousand dollars palestinians and we use them faster with far in many ways to think about it. Now we come to the two thousand and twenty one of the avenue interview. They mentioned using between the difference. You've come on. i mean. I'm sure there's moments in their time on masami by doing to find that it's should as there's more people that sense it's enough. We all know that. And i'm sure the gave brings out windows in nineteen eighty-four know that you've got to tell certified cling to them really helping them much when thirty five more minutes when you know and you've got gotta tell them a long time to really helping them at that moment beat up again by. Somebody really speeded up because they want to do right now but not vying daddy. Long time to have the effect is in the schools for. That's my school right now. And then the high school any anybody changing the from now. I wish they all go and how they're raised. That's really right now before so easily. Anybody five minute class about papers. They did about where they were raised. And i was going gonna come out in the forty five minute class sounded wonderful paper. Maybe should have a class with parents and stop being jerks about decide on their own reis combat. What's going on out there versus you talents. These groups stink and this and that maybe concern about this. Things have done kids decide associated with all kinds of things in school. You telling them. These groups stink. This doesn't work. You might have had a class done school with the launch people's feelings about how all kinds of things that could educate them out there zinc who hates gay. People really isn't gonna sit can't with the law legislators for how they're gonna you're not gonna somebody who hates gaping just like okay deal and go the country as a family. One day his classification is that go. How does as they did just like me. So why do i hate these taxes. They wanna serve the country. It'd be nice if somebody to do that and fashion. The people have periods and in many instances the happy traumatic events in the how the of okay doesn't work that way. It's not a casual thing. People have hails and things a giant instances. They have these traumatic events in the house. The president gave people who said. I know it wasn't like that yesterday but today not casual thing. You don't work out a man um in that kind of environment. I'm a lot. I know it wasn't like thinking today. I'm definitely going to do it. That how it works. It's been toys washing on when you growing up. That's how it happens. That's how it kind of into washington anyways up. Lifetime in certain communities in rochester advocate. On all this stuff. That's that's you know. Time getting mad at the people or try.
"traumatic stress disorder" Discussed on Strength To Be Human --Global Arts & Affairs Podcast, Hosted by Mark Antony Rossi
"You know it happens you now. I know so many that they stop running for a couple of months because their pet who they had true all kinds of things thick and thin died. So it's not like these things don't happen to us on a regular basis would right as we have a lot more to worry about because we are so active in online because we are so vocal in our voices when we tried to write. And because in many instances we're more out there socially then then a lot of people. Are i know the Writer is here in the dark closet somewhere with a with a candle. And you know the spirit of notre dom on one on there and lincoln. Abraham lincoln is on the other. Hand you over there right in something. That's silly stereotype. Most people are pretty outgoing actually They might be all spoken to and even be a little annoying. I know i've heard that about myself some time so i don't mind call myself out there that way but when that so when that's close to we're not so cliquish and we're and we're not so You know antisocial that we're not gonna have some of these things happen to us and these are some of the ways that i want to bring out on this particular show. That's just so acknowledged that it's out there so acknowledged that you don't have to have some specific form of depression that also have some of the same situations half of your life doesn't have to be formal diagnosis okay. You don't have to have some big latin name and take some drug that has seventeen letters in it or something okay. Sometimes it's just a matter of working it out in yourself and you can be done so check out Many shows talking about this. You can listen to this again. I wrote a book about it Writing his therapy tools to treat trauma. You can pick that up and check it out and it gives you some some lesson plans and some of the things. I do with with veterans. Just stephanie can apply to to other people as well but jolt ignored. Don't tonight please don't make fun of it. All right accept it and work with. You'll have a better life. You know have a happy life more importantly though you get to be who is supposed to be rather than just another victim out there. I'm telling you right now. We don't need anymore. Greg gyms right we we. We need more people like they're saying. Hey i'm beating this in the. But because i'm not gonna take life i'm not gonna let feel my happiness. I'm not gonna have my joy ransom by by some traumatic events from three years ago so with stopping victims and stopping. Victor's right. all right folks. God bless until next time this is mark antony rossi be human. That was episode. Two hundred and ten post traumatic stress disorder in the arts until next time Thank you for listening. Follow the show and support our efforts by visiting our sponsors at www dot strength to be human dot com or purchasing an e book at www dot so my publishing dot com..
"traumatic stress disorder" Discussed on Strength To Be Human --Global Arts & Affairs Podcast, Hosted by Mark Antony Rossi
"Dopey things have done in school and we keep tries you as to this day or all kinds of things in school. It doesn't work really doesn't work and it's never gonna work because you can't with the law legislate people's hearts about how they're gonna feel about things you're not gonna educate them out there. You think that somebody who hates gay people. Okay it's gonna sit in the class and go damn. I'm gonna took this class. Because now i realize that even though they might have sex different than me just like me. They wanna pay taxes. They want to serve the country. They want raise a family one day maybe in a different fashion but nevertheless a novelty daylight movies sports. So why do i hate. These people would be nice of classical. Teach somebody to do. That doesn't work that way. People have hatreds and people have peers. And in many instances they have these traumatic events in the house. The presence for specific reasons okay. It's not a casual thing. You don't just wake up printing a jack train on I'm gonna hate gay people today. Okay i know it wasn't like that yesterday but today i'm definitely going to do that doesn't work that way. It's been taught to them. They've been in that kind of environment to hear lot. They see it a lot eventually. start thinking about. hey. I think. I might be to that. That's how it works. It's a kind of a brainwashing on layaway plan when you grown up in certain communities. That's that's how it happens and to learn that and to unthanked that and to see things as they really are that can take a lifetime and lots of people who advocate for one all the stuff to stop and that. That's that's one of the problems you know. They don't want they don't want to face that. That's what's actually going on in that. Getting mad at the people and calling them names or trying to make the laws different or try to make the schools better and all these other things that somehow i. it's going to have an impact in. it's not simply not takes time. All right folks. Hopefully that that. That is really helped you out. A great deal about Post traumatic stress disorder especially depression in the arts in in people in in general as writers. We ought to understand that our particular group of people have a huge huge burden of mental illness on us. Riders can often suffer mental illness up to forty five percent of the ones. That are out. there. I don't actually know few writers that not dealing with it on some sort of basis some form of it. I'm sorry to say. Because i'm not one of exits everything and you know in in the sink and call something even even writer's block when you have people that they're not reading for a a month or two or something and it's because they have something traumatic happens on even swallow scale like that that is still opposed situation because it could be the death of somebody very close year could be a break-up romantically that you've taken a super hard..
"traumatic stress disorder" Discussed on Strength To Be Human --Global Arts & Affairs Podcast, Hosted by Mark Antony Rossi
"They talk all day long here on the news and then the communities and everything else about you know on black and people discriminate against me and i'm gay and people discriminated against me and they have no idea at all. Yeah the stigma. That's really out there for people who have to deal with. Mental illness is beyond anything that any of these other groups can ever imagine. Nobody would go as far with those groups as they will with mental illness. Where you've got like fifty thousand different times for people. He has a screw loose you know. He's wacky he's nuts. I mean they have a thousand different terms and people say these things parlance not even realizing that the herbal that stereotypical that they're not even accurate. You know because guess. What when you have the situation when something traumatic happens to you. You didn't ask you genetically born with it. No one gave it to you. It happens because of a traumatic events and not even everybody even that happens. Sometimes people are run events and doesn't happen to them at all but the ones that do didn't ask for it and they still now have to deal with it and imagine how to deal with that. And then you gotta deal with the world. Just they have a a a million times you now. We understand both an artistic world and of course in the medical world that happened post traumatic stress. Disorder doesn't mean you're crazy. These people not off theralac another one of those wonderful terms. Okay they just young. What a situation on that mental illness spectrum. If you wanna call it you know. And it's something that they can work with they can. They can overcome for it to be managed to I don't believe it could be erased. I believe it's a number one those conditions that it's not going to be a race but it can be managed in the sense that you know would stare but you know how to handle it. You know that things through therapy. We'll talk about that. There's a couple of different kinds out there where it'll help you understand what you're feeling what you're dealing with. How you can be in life situations that might remind you of that but you could still work through it where it's not affecting you very much. It might affect you but side effects you that it's going to stop your performances gonna mess you up when you're driving your kids at school something or it's gonna hurt you at work all it's gonna mess up your your love life or you know or or you're dating or something you know i. It's it's not like you're you're telling this wonderful girl you just met. Hey listen. I need about ten minutes i got a flashback common. And they'll come back and we'll talk about this You know a romantic evening. We're having No slowing any of that at all. But it's still serious enough that people if they don't take it serious if they don't try to get it managed if the not seeking some kind of therapy if they just wanna live. Denial or worse live in fear because there are a bunch of jokes out there. Well it hurts them even further to where it could become something full-blown where it can literally launch you into some kind of pressure state where literally some people will feel. That suicide is the only option..
"If you haven't already that i know something about this because i was in the military and i've had I've had some issues in in some traumas that i've had to deal with while i was in the service and i wind up doing it with my own writing therapy. We'll talk about that as well as other things. That people can address this but also afterwards i was able to go to the va and have a more on up front compensation about it. Because in the military i was i was in the very same situation. Is those firefighters. Were in many instances where you know. They'll they'll yank you outta you job. They'll take away you security clearance. You know the next thing you know you're working at the post office for the next four and a half years and you're to done i mean your career is pretty much over. Dale was going to think of you. Is somebody weird and somebody says back in something that they have to be concerned about. So you're gonna be literally locked in the postal room locked in some office someplace or something. You know down wednesday really going to take seriously. That's that's the kind of life you would have if you said something which is also reasons why lots of people in the military also commit suicide. Unlike police or firemen the military rate of suicide is very high high enough statistically that it's noticeable and the incredibly tragic and it's because the conway macho atmosphere that that's been contributed to that causes people to put that to the side to not deal with it or many cases not even try to seek any kind of help at all now. I understand because don't get me wrong. I'm not gonna defend people that have concerns about this but there are some job fields that yeah you have to have a concern you know you. You get a an traffic control. One day that says listen dealing with right now and blah blah blah. I'm sorry. I'm not saying he's sensitive tight member. I'm on your side there. You know suffering of post rest situations but no. You shouldn't be directing traffic now. You shouldn't and whether you can again. and not. well that's going to be up to to the professionals in whatever they can discover if they can help you. Maybe they can. Maybe they can't but in the meantime no you shouldn't have certain things you shouldn't be doing of course not so. I understand that. There's some realistic expectations. And also there are some legitimate fears so it's never good idea to dismiss them. That's one of the problems that we have many times when you're dealing with people with With these mental illnesses remember that. Ptsd is a former mental illness. Okay and that's in itself is such a load attorneys as people get so excited about but it is and because of that. We have to remind that. Yeah we do whatever we can to handle a situation we gotta do whatever we can to try and make sure in public. That's just not a stigma moments and fortunately in many countries particularly in america is still a stigma..
"Welcome back to strength to be him. I'm your host mark. Antony rossi poet and playwright. This is episode two hundred inten post traumatic stress disorder in the arts. I'd say the arts for the show because besides talking about writing which i have a direct involvement in in terms of ptsd in in in writing but also We'll talk about examples of other fields of the arts where this is out with. This has become an issue for the good the bad and k. Now what exactly is What's called a post traumatic stress. Disorder will basically it is symptoms that you have because of either four things. okay either. You had a traumatic event and you relive it later on where it's what they in the parlins call of flashback or you now feel this this post stress because there are certain things in your life As you know you passes event years later that you're trying to avoid in that wind up really reducing the quality of life. Because i mean. I give you an example if you had a. Let's say you gotta incident where you were in a horrible accident inside a public bus while you know maybe for the rest of your life. This is a few allow this to continue Buses and not exactly union. Christmas card lists okay. You're not high five in the mikey. I can't wait get on another one. 'cause no in fact for some people it literally what they call trigger. You know that stress where you feel anxious you feel exhausted. You feel stressed out. You feel closed in and sometimes even relive pot so the entire incident that you remember just because you saw a bus or it could be a anything Of an event that was traumatic whether it be hurricane or tornado lot of tornado victims have this incredibly especially if they came really close to dying through one where the sounds of a turbine engine is similar to the sound of a tornado. Tornadoes zoli sounds like a horrible train from hell that powerful fast screeching kind of sounds. It's it's incredible and when you hear it it's something that you will never forget. So that could that could spark something in people. Trigger something okay. Many times people will simply have a dream of sorts. Maybe even a nightmare either. A dream or nightmare that bring parts of that back or maybe even again those like in the In the daytime or in the conscious time where something who saw reminded you attributed. It could also happen that something you might have. An irregular basic positive dream could trigger. Something that becomes a nightmare. So you have the both worlds a conscious and the unconscious where something can bring that back okay. And then there'll be other times just when you've had a bad day you've had a stressful day use today where it doesn't feel that you know you you you have your best concerts up all feels like your best defense award down from all the crap you had day. That could sometimes breach things that you put to the side but the biggest problem particularly in the arts but people in general who have. Ptsd is they need help. They need to go through some chromotherapy..
S6 E11 - This is what it's like living with someone with PTSD. . . - Full Episode
"All right you ready. I actually hit record this time here. We go so in the most recent episode of the podcast season six episode ten. I sat down with my wife patricia. I talked to her about the challenges. She has faced in dealing with multiple mental health diagnoses over the years and right after we published that episode. We received an excellent recommendation from a listener. Asking us to tackle the topic of what it's like living with someone with ptsd. And i think patricia. And i are uniquely suited to tackle this since both of us. Have this diagnosis in in. Its for completely different reasons. This episode is going to be an unfiltered. Look at what. It's like to live with someone with post traumatic stress disorder and by way of introduction. This is the we served now. What podcast where. I do my best to answer the questions. Veterans and their families are already asking so you can make your post military life. Your best life money erin perkins. I'm a. us army combat veteran daddy to two amazing kiddos host of this podcast. If you hadn't guessed. And i am joined today again by my beautiful bride patricia. Welcome back to the show thank you. I'm so glad to be here. Well good good so it's been a couple weeks right and last time we talked about the treatments. You're getting and things like that for depression. Talk to us a little bit before. We're gonna dive into the. Ptsd topic talked us a little bit. About how those are going those are going. I'm not going to be very honest. they're painful. I think Winning expecting almost a miracle. I mean you you let somebody shock your head for twenty minutes a day. You expect something but it's actually made my depression a little worse. They said that's normal. It can get worse before it gets better. So actually they're going to re map tomorrow and see if there's a different place. They need to put the magnet. But i think it's gonna go all right. Yeah we hope we hope and pray as well trained for this for that. This works in putting you through a lot of distress but like you said pain to try to to address the depression right. And so that's that's just one part of what can be a result of ptsd another city but the actually brit really brings up our our first thing to talk about is. Let's talk about ptsd a little bit. What it is. And how. I understand it. How do you understand. ptsd how. I understand it is. I mean we all know it stands for post traumatic stress disorder and that can be from your childhood from your teen years from adulthood. Something you went through something. You saw something you experienced. That was just traumatic for you. And i know that it can you know make you. Have you know nightmares it. Can you know how you can have memories of that trauma and then you avoid situations that you know make you think of that trauma and you know a lot of even soldiers you know. They get like hyper vigilant. You know because of how it makes them feel and it can call anxiety and depression as well. I think the hyper vigilance was one of the i. I realize that i that something was wrong right. I knew i had a lot of anger in. I was like i don't know why angry like i'm i'm not in the army anymore. I thought you the anger was just part of just being in the army. You're just mad something every day. And so i thought that it would go away and it didn't in fact he got worse and it. Was that hyper vigilance piece. I always felt. I still do. But i always felt ready. This constant state of readiness hyper vigilant. That's one of the behavioral parts because there's behavioral parts psychological mood in general sleep. And then you know it you can break them all down like you know behavioral is like you know you feel agitated or irritable or hof style or hyper vigilant like you were saying or you know you start doing self destructive things like you know. Drugs are becoming an alcoholic or or if he just completely isolate yourself. That's me raise my hand right there myself psychological as you know flashbacks which i don't have those fear that comes from nowhere severe anxiety failure to trust other people. Because you don't know what's going to happen the mood part of it. You know you lose interest or pleasure in doing stuff that you used to enjoy doing right or you feel like the severe guilt or you are incredibly lonely like you have tons of people around you. You have a family that loves you but you are so lonely and it messes with your sleep. It can cause you to sleep too much. Not enough to have horrific nightmares and a lot of people have detachment from other people and like intrusive thoughts that they just can't get rid of you know that you know. They go through their day and i guess to some other people they might look like legitimate list crazy but they just have these constant like thoughts and some people have to talk it out. You know there's so many parts to ptsd. yeah. I think that's one of the challenges with even realizing that you might have it right because there's so many parts to it. Depression anxiety intrusive thoughts avoiding situations. Not sleeping sleeping too much having horrific nightmares having too much emotion having no emotion at all. There's so many things and so what i was told. People especially veterans is if if something feels off. Don't try to figure out if you have. Ptsd anxiety or depression go to mental health right and talk to the professional about it and let them figure out whether you use the va or you go out to out to in the civilian sector. You go get it checked out. Because there's there's nothing that's not going to hurt you to go get it checked out right and that was a question that i was going to ask you. Is you know like when did you realize you had ptsd. I think it was what year wise was twenty seventeen. I got out and twenty. Fourteen of twenty seventeen anger progressively got worse. The hyper vigilance. And what. I say hyper vigilance. I i don't mean just like you know on edge all the time and i guess that was part of it but for me it was this feeling like i'm about to go into a fight like just ready like i mean you know kind of like almost kind of like a sprinter would be at the starting line. Okay here we go all right. I'm ready. i'm ready and it was like that all the time. That sounds exhausting. It is it really really is it took i say i want to say it took a long time to get past that but truth is i'm up past that no the pd. Has these not a broken limb. You know you can't cast on it and wait six weeks and go back and get the cast off and you're good to go. No i mean people can't get past it it's it. There are stories of people who you know they had. Ptsd and to you know after a few months few years depending on situation you can't get past. It depends on the person. I think it's post traumatic growth right where you know after your trauma you become a stronger person. A bigger percent better person. I don't know if i would. I would say that people ever get over their trauma. They just they build one right in that instead of letting the letting it crush them they use it to to fuel becoming a better person in the end and the thing is it's not always a choice. I don't think this is my opinion right. I don't think it's always a choice whether you get to say like oh. I'm past the worst part of my ptsd. And i'm only headed for post traumatic growth now. I don't even think i've heard that term post traumatic growth. So i don't know. If i would be i don't know if my opinion i mean i hope that's a real thing Veteran futterman talk to me. One time so you're doing it basically you're doing to post traumatic growth thing like you like you know you start a company like you've got a great career you've got a great family you know you've got a beautiful home cars dog you've got all this stuff going for you you're doing life right you're in your a great church like you're doing all these things right and hosting this podcast you're getting so much stuff done okay and i'm like okay cool why don't it feel better yeah really i'm like okay. We'll see if this post traumatic growth. I number one. i'm happy i'm growing. I'm happy growing getting better. getting smarter. Faster stronger whatever it is. I'm happy about that part but like it is this like is post traumatic growth a destination or is it just this constantly journey. Yeah i think it's a journey in. It reminds me of what we heard in church on sunday about walking wounded. And that's what that means is like. Es your wounded mentally sometimes physically but you know ptsd is a mental disorder and your your wounded mentally but you continue to walk. Wounded is when you stop that. There's no growth And so the post traumatic growth is continuing to walk. Even though you're wounded i love. Obviously you we're in the same service. Same church service right and we were both talking about how great it was so we can ask each other. This question okay. What's it like living with me especially within. What's it like living with me. Especially when i'm experiencing some sort of triggering episode so you mentioned 2017 when you first realized that you had p. Tst then it was. You're angry and you know we tried to give you a little bit of space and like you know. Let you breathe calm down. But i think i think you have grown because now you take that space for yourself. You're like i'm going to go run or i'm going to take the dog and we're going to go hike for a few hours. I think that you know living with you. I've able to watch you grow. And and learn how coping mechanisms coping skills. And i think with. Ptsd you have to learn. Those people might not always understand them like. I'm not hiking ninety degree weather with a dog. It's not happening but three you that works that would trigger trigger something not. Ptsd that would trigger anger. It has nothing to do with. Ptsd you you. You've joined small groups that you guys run and you know for exercise in general for you just really helps you a lot of that. Is you know twenty seventeen. We had just moved to alabama and things weren't going the way we wanted them to and life was just really stressful right. And you hadn't even been diagnosed yet. sure sure. So you've you've grown okay. So i don't even ask this question. What do you like living with me. It's amazing it's amazing. I love it. Let next question experiencing some sort of triggering episode. Well i've told you this before but as a man as a husband i feel. It's my duty my job to keep you happy. You know and so a lot of times i think. Ptsd manifests itself in your life as overwhelming depression and crippling anxiety right. And there's not a single thing i can do about it so for me. It's not that living with you is better or worse. Y you know with a triggering episode. It's that my hands are tied right. And so i think it's super frustrating. Because i'm like. I see a problem my wife is in. It's not just unhappy. You know it's like she. Has this a legitimate mental diagnosis. A mental condition that. I can't do anything to fix Frankly doctors can't do anything to fix every single part of that right and that conversation we've had many times because you're like i just want to fix it and i'm like doctors i have and they can't fix it. Release yourself up that burden. You can't fix it and that is so tough as a man who says you know what i'm here to lead my family my wife and my kids and you know kind of you know take charge and we're going to go tackle life together and that is so appreciated but sometimes you just got. It's true it's true like it's nothing you can do. Well that's not true. Okay that's not true space. Give me space. You know like like you did tonight. I had that treatment today and it made me sick today. I was actually really upset stomach today. And i'm just chilling in the bedroom lennon bed phone and you just made dinner that i did that helped i did. I logged off my computer at work and went and made dinner. It was amazing. I don't know if the dinner was amazing. But it's good good good so coming up after the break tricia and i are going to ask each other one more question. We're going to ask this question. Is there anything good about living with someone who has. Ptsd and we're gonna share several takeaways with you. Stay with us. Many americans today don't realize the stress and anxiety they feel is most likely because of their finances according to bankrate.com more than six out of ten people couldn't cover a one thousand dollar emergency seven out of ten. Don't budget regularly. An eight out of ten are living paycheck to paycheck to these describe you. Are you ready to live like others. Can't too many make the mistake of budgeting their lifestyle instead of budgeting their basic needs. I my friend. Marco over at mc business lab has a simple process to automate the basic things. You need to live and then never looking at one of those bills again. Head over to live like can't dot com to get on the wait list for his own line course to learn this automation skill that will significantly reduce your stress anxiety. And if you think one on one attention could be the way for you. You can also schedule your free consultation with marco once again that's live like others can't dot com get on the path to your dream life today all right and we are back and as promised. We're going to talk about ptsd or would keep talking about ptsd right but the question that we have for each other. Do you wanna ask it. I want me to go go ahead. Is there anything good about living with someone who has ptsd. I wrote this question. I still think it's a tough question you know i would not wish. Ptsd on anyone true. I'll start with that so with that in mind. What the good that has come out of it. It helps me to understand other people abso win. I hear about a veteran struggling with. Ptsd or a a veteran's family member or or family member or friend who is struggling with ptsd. I'm like i get it. I know how you feel. I completely understand and so for me. It's if there's anything good. It's that i can better relate to people who are going through the same frustration and anguish and honestly emotional pain when they see their loved one going through this right and i know not everyone copes. Well that's true and so this question might be difficult for some other. Some people listening you know like they're their loved when ptsd is raging alcoholic. Who's angry all the time. In what would you tell that person. That's an even to that. That in itself is even tougher. I think what. I would be telling that person is i. Can't i cannot tell you what you should be experiencing if you're living with someone with ptsd and you're like you know my spouses a raging alcoholic as a result of pd. St how do i find good in that. I can't tell you what good you should find. I i'm in no place to tell you that the only thing i can do is point you to the one that is jesus christ the principe who can give you peace in the situation and and the bible even says you know piece that passes all understanding basically piece. That doesn't make sense. So i can't tell you. This is what you should be feeling. This is what you should be experiencing. But i can recommend you to eat a formula so to speak of how to live better in that situation right and and i would add onto that to a more. You know just. I don't know. Do we say worldly. Come that. Try to under try to understand. Don't don't try to fix but like research. See how you can help your one with ptsd. Because i think not. Understanding is a part of the problem right for years i had. Ptsd and you did not. You didn't understand it in in mind would manifest in depression anxiety in the soldier new said just go exercise pushups drink water burpee strength water and i'm like you so don't get it and it was true i didn't you act totally asked you to research it to better understand it and you you did better understand it but now that you have experienced for yourself it's completely different really it. It really really is just just so different when you experience it for yourself. So i'll ask you the same question. Is there anything good about living with someone who has ptsd. I think it teaches you. How similar to what you said compassion. I mean i've always had a big heart. And i think it's because it's been broken a lot and you don't hurt anybody else because you know what that feels like you know you have more compassion. Because you know what it's like to fill abandoned or left out or or or thrown away so you're not gonna do that to anybody because if you're not a monster you're not gonna do that because you know what that feels like me and so i have probably too much compassion. My heart's honestly probably isn't too big for people. There are worse things that people not for pets. But that's a whole different. That's a big for people. Pets you can have one. That's my ocd. Am sorry that's okay. But yeah i would say me. It's compassionate and i've seen more compassionate you as well 'cause i was saying earlier when you didn't understand it you just dislike. Oh burpee and water. But now you're like. Do you want to go take a nap. You need to lay down like there's way more compassion than there was before so if if anything good can come out of such a horrific diagnosis like ptsd. I mean if you can just you know. Be patient and be kind. You can learn compassion. Sure yeah that's a really good point. So that's it for the questions right now. We honestly united had these types of conversations for year really really long time and and this is just another one of those conversations of how to how to live with someone with ptsd. What it's really like. i. I'm going to go out on a limb here. What's the worst part about living with someone with. Ptsd not knowing how they're gonna react something and so you know there's times when not recently but you know there were times i'm like oh i don't know if i want to tell him this 'cause i don't know how he's gonna react. I don't know where he's at today. You know mentally like you know. He's already got a lot on his plate. I'm kinda it's almost like an egg shells kind of thing like the. You wanna be really careful. You know so so those can be a little. And i'm sure i'm the same way i'm sure you and the kids stay away. Well i think for me and maybe for the kiddos too. I don't know but for me. It's the the worst part you know other other than the obvious of you. Know seeing my spouse going through this right but you know how it how it affects. Your frustrates me is the inability to plan. I love planning. I'm like okay. What are we going to do tomorrow. Six weeks from now five years from now and like i don't know win and might depression depression. Yeah and you're going to be like. Oh sorry man like as much as you would love to go do that. Depression is just crushed. You for that day or week or i mean there are many many times to. I'm going to say through the years that i've pushed myself. You know because. I i wanna do fun things at the family like you know. I think a lot of people feel that way. Like yeah wanna goaded disneyworld and make memories you know and you feel like that that depression creep over you and you just got to push through it as hard as it is. You just gotta you can't quit. You got to keep moving gonna walk wounded speaking of which so i know we. We referenced. The walk wounded message right. So so for those of you. Who don't know this was a message from church. The highlands with A great jura tear in this region of the country. One of the biggest in the nation as i recall got twenty plus camp twenty two twenty. Three i don't even know now. We got a bunch of campuses anyway. The the one of the pastors nikon carter. He spoke any told the story about a guy that will testament by the name of jacob who ends up wrestling with this angel and this angel as he's wrestling with jacob he he knocks jacobs jacobs hip out of socket right but jacob keeps wrestling. He's like hey. I am not going to let you go until you bless me. And so he. He eventually wins the wrestling match. The angel blesses him. And then jacob has to go meet his brother. There's whole back did this to me his brother and as he's going to meet his brother he's limping like crazy. And so even though the angels blessed and basically god putting his hand on him and saying hey like i you know i i love you. I approve of what you're doing. You know i'm blessing right now. Even though god did that he didn't heal him completely soup but jacob still had to keep moving and he had to walk wounded. Right into put in real world speak is like yeah. You can have blessings you can have all these great things in life you can have money. Houses cars land lakes pools vacation homes. But that doesn't mean you're not going to have wounds right from other people from yourself from life itself. Ptsd is usually a a life itself kind of thing so what you gotta keep walking for. Sure for sure so what's another takeaway back to. What we're saying is be patient and educate yourself. If you want to help your spouse or even yourself like okay like read just read read. How other people are doing it and that have been successful and and see how it actually manifests in your own life. Because just saying it's ptsd. I bet there some other things surrounding it that maybe you don't even know. And so educate yourself and be patient with yourself and your spouse if it's your spouse right right and somebody said this is another great takeaway. Here is give your spouse space if your spouse was the one who has the. Ptsd right give them the space they need. I will say that with the caveat if you believe. They are in danger of hurting themselves. Get the appropriate help. Absolutely this is not the your spouse said. Hey i'm gonna take my own life and then you say okay one. That's giving them space. No no no. That's not a time when you need to give them space. That's a time when there needs to be an intervention right. You know so when we're talking to give give your spouse space. it's you patricia. Saying yeah take your dog for hike. Its ninety degrees. go ahead. i'm not with you. I'll be in the pool right. Yeah right yeah gopher run go go do something to to just relax to take that. Take the edge off so to speak. Then so give your spouse space. I think is a really really great takeaway there so anything else any other takeaways. We should share with our audience today. I don't know. I think we've covered it. I mean just to walk wounded. Hold their hand while they're walking did. Oh may that's the that'll pre treat there. that's good. That is so good well patricia again. So much for coming on the show really really appreciate. I know you didn't feel great today but you muscled through it and i'm so so glad you did. I know our listeners grew be happy as well and obviously on this show. We ask a lot of questions that we do our best to answer a lot of questions and we all have a lot of questions but the most important question we can ask ourselves is this. Have i accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith. In jesus christ will thank you so much for listening. Be sure to follow social media. Facebook occurred to fight again. Same thing on instagram and twitter ad courage again. You can pick up. A copy of my book resolve at courage to defied again dot com or also on amazon. It has been such a pleasure sharing our hearts in this conversation with you today until next time. Thanks for listening.
A highlight from S6 E10 - Real Conversations on Mental Health (w/ Special Guest: Patricia Perkins)
"May is mental health awareness month. And i felt it only right to release an episode focusing on the topic of mental health. Now if you've listened to the podcast for any length of time you've no doubt heard me talk about my own struggles with ptsd depression and mon experiences. Not all that uncommon in the veteran community. What you don't often hear though is from the veteran's spouse and on today's episode. I get to sit down with my wife patricia. As she shares the story of her own emotional journey with mental health diagnoses medications. Hospital stays and a whole lot more. This is the we serve now. What podcast where. I do my best to answer the questions. Veterans and their families are already asking so you can make your post military life your best life by way of introduction my name is aaron perkins i am a us army combat veteran daddy to amazing kiddos. Host of this podcast. If you hadn't guessed. And i am joined today by my beautiful bride patricia. Welcome to the show thank you. I'm so glad to be here excited to talk about a subject that i'm passionate about. Yeah absolutely absolutely well. Great to have you here. I'm i'm incredibly happy that you agreed to be on the show. Usually it is me saying. Hey i'm going to be recording tonight. So if you you and the kids can kind of keep it down a little bit and but really really grateful that you here today. So today was one of many days where you're going through this. I don't know call procedure or treatment treatment. Okay so so. Obviously i went with you. Today is able to accompany you to that treatment and it specifically four depression right and so start with today. Let's start with today in a kind of what happened today. And what the treatment is. And let's start there. Sure okay so. The treatment is called. Tm s it means trans cranial magnetic stimulation menendez Treatment that oddly. Enough stimulates your brain. It's post what is supposed to do is to help the neurotransmitters talk to each other better and it is usually reserved for someone who's tried a few different types of medication for depression but it also helps with like anxiety. Ocd and sometimes even physical pain. Okay so so so. This is not a it. Sounds like it's a noninvasive. It's not a surgery type of thing so basically the way they explain it. It's like electromagnetic therapy. Where like in the old days where they would maybe cut. Open your head and maybe electric your brain things like that but this obviously they're not doing that. You can sit down in this chair. It's kind of like the big dentist chair. They strap you all in and they put this big magnet next to your head in a certain spot at a certain level. It's already been determined by your doctor and it made me last twenty minutes. And then you're you're on your way okay. So is that it's not obviously. I know this right before listeners. This is not like a one time thing. This is one of how many treatments you have to get. Okay so today was off my fourth treatment and i think if i did the math right i have at least thirty three more to go. So it's over a nine week period and because of where we live. I have to drive basically an hour and a half to get there. And then i'm there for fifteen to twenty minutes in the drive an hour and a half and and yeah i i definitely know that. That part in itself is frustrating. The drive so let's go back a little bit now so you're having this it might not be invasive but stewart pretty extreme treatment of kind of remapping your brain right yes. It's it's had some side effects already some some anger some tiredness Brain fog lightheadedness. The way the only way. I can explain it. It's like there's a big garden with a huge gate and there's all these locks and each treatment seems to slowly work open a new lock and then hopefully by the end all the locks will be open and king come open and i can be free of depression anxiety. I don't know if that's going to happen. I have faith that it can happen so hopefully it does happen. You me both you both so so take us back a little bit. How did you get to this point. You know obviously you. Have you know some sort of depression or anxiety or whatever take us back to diagnoses and that sort of thing so i i got diagnosed probably sixteen years ago like actual clinical diagnosis of major depressive disorder and house have severe anxiety. I have d. c. Ptsd so what is so ptsd. I know what is cd. Basically childhood post traumatic stress disorder. And then i have. Ocd okay so so ptsd. Veteran community intimately familiar with cps d c p s de. It is then the so. How did that come about. I mean this this is like you know really getting into the nitty gritty of it a little bit but i had parent you know. I had parents that. They weren't believers not that that makes you any less of a good parent but they were involved with things that they shouldn't have been involved with and they didn't have a good relationship with one another so that meant a very rocky relationship with their children and so without getting into too much and making people uncomfortable. This is a really bad childhood really bad and even in my teenage years there was some other stuff that was really bad. So just you know things that people don't really think about as being post traumatic stress disorder. I've heard other people say. How can you even have that. You weren't a soldier. Well that's not reserved for soldiers or servicemen period. Post traumatic stress can happen after a car accident after your home gets broken into after a traumatic. Any traumatic experience you can. Pdf st right right so so with depression. You were diagnosed. She said sixteen years ago crack and so did the anxiety diagnosis. Come along with that or out of that will work. It was shortly after. I think they at i thought maybe it was just really bad depression and they realized that it was both mint so they started treatment to different treatments who different medications and over the years between the two just the depression and anxiety. I know i've had over sixteen or seventeen medications and sixteen or seventeen. I didn't know there were that many others time for i mean i know. There's a lot of medications out there right. But most i know i i'm gonna go out on a limb here and say most people when they're struggling with anxiety depression or even if they do have a legitimate diagnosis of anxiety. Depression or both. It's okay let me go get this. Let me go try it. You know and then if that doesn't work maybe they go try something else but sixteen or seventeen that that just sounds like an extreme number is sensitive to medications and so what may work for a lot of people. Just doesn't seem to work for me. Or i ended up being allergic to it but i will say that i did. This test called a g. e. n. e. s. t. and it's a dna test and that's something that you're psychiatrists can do for you. There is a cost involved but it will tell you which medications and you know. They're all different classes. Work for your dna type so you have a red section and you should stay away from those. You have a yellow section. That may help. And then you have. A green section is more likely to help with your dna type so that can help a lot of people. Stay away from having to try sixteen or seventeen different medications. Sure sure that that's a really good point. And obviously you. You didn't take that 'til later. Right actually took it last year. Yeah so the break i. I wish i could have taken ten years ago. But i don't think even knew about it and that's another thing i would say. Is you know educate yourself. Don't wait on your doctors to find all the resolutions for you. Like feel free to look and research and bring it up to your doctor. you know. it's a good point. So medication is just one side of the depression anxiety. Ptsd just one side of it before the medication happens. There's something that either. Your doctors realize your families realize or you personally realize something different in me. Something is not working as it's supposed to or it's manifesting in in a certain way and i know that when it comes to ptsd specifically it manifests itself in a lot of different ways. They can manifest itself in anger in inability to focus and chronic pain. In a guilt it can manifest itself in different ways. So let's focus on the. Let's say let's. Let's go with depression right the major depressive disorder. How did that or does that manifest itself in your life. The first time. I realized that i might have an issue with. Depression was actually. I had a really bad episode. After i had caitlin so caitlyn's daughter. Sorry caitlyn's her daughter. Yeah she's fourteen now. After i had her. I was sitting just watching tv. And she was sitting there beside me and her little old bouncy seat. And i actually started having these really dark feelings kind of like oppression and actually that coincided with an anxiety attack as well and actually got rushed to the hospital because they thought i was having a pulmonary. Embolism so they thought that. I had blood clots. I was about to die. You know there was but it was a mixture of depressive episode and anxiety attack which i had never felt before and that really scared me and the doctors were able to put me on medication to help with that. It did not stop it but it did help. Sure sure so what what happens next. You know you're you're on this medication. It's helping look what happens. Is there a point at which you realize. That medication isn't working or isn't working as well as it should. Yeah most doctors will tell you you know. Give it two or three weeks to really get in your system if you don't see any changes or if you see getting worse than you're to want to let us know so that we can adjust or change that medication and over the years. That has happened so often. That i i got to this place and i'll say that it's okay to do this if you need to. Own your closet by yourself and cry for a little while. 'cause you're just overwhelmed and nothing seems to be working and you want so badly to be quote unquote normal. Go have cry. Go eat ice cream or chocolate or something. I don't even care. It's okay to do those things. But i got to this place where i was like. None of this is working. I need something completely different. And i think that's when. I did the insight site testing because most of the medications that i had been put on. Were in my red list more in the list that was for your dna. These are not going to work for you. Oh wow so going through this process and the truth is i didn't even realize this at the time we've been married for fifteen plus years and i knew that kept having different medications tried and you like oh. This is not working but we had no idea why. It's not working until this test. You didn't says hey this might actually work for you Yeah that's that stuff okay. So what about the anxiety piece you know. It started with an executive attack How does that manifest itself or did it manifest itself in your life. So i have an odd anxiety like i have panic. Attacks panic attacks but generally speaking. I'm just anxious and it's like my anxiety and my ocd. Like to just hold hands and frolic through my brain and so what. I'm feeling extremely anxious. I have to clean everything so it's kind of like since i can't control my emotions i can't control what's going on in the world. My brain has to find something that can control and the cleanliness in my house. I can control thankfully because you and the kids are pretty neat people. But i have to do have to be able to do something. Control something to calm down. If i don't do that ended up in the closet crying eating chocolate well like you said. That's okay if you have to do. It's not not not every day but so talked about the depression. Talk about the anxiety. Ptsd how does that manifest itself in your life on a day-to-day basis weekly basis. How how often what does it feel like said the. Ptsd is like a whole different monster. That lives somewhere inside of my person. And the worst episodes i have with. Ptsd is when my children especially caitlyn our daughter when she reaches those age those ages where you've espn we. We had talked about this a little bit today. As we're preparing for the podcast but it was as a recall kind of like the same ages or proxy ages where something traumatic happened in your own childhood right so so then. My brain is like imagine that happening to kaitlin. Imagine that having to our son. Christopher and then it's like this overwhelming like it's not a mama bear feeling is a mama dragon. And it's like i will. I will died to protect but at the same time. It's then there's this the the little girl in me is like. How could my mom have let that happen. How could my dad have let that happen. Where was the the parental. where were they. Why did these things even happened. That i have this trauma but we're all human doing the best. We can now. That i'm older i can. I can look at my pass without being completely angry with my parents because they were just doing their best as well. Sure sure so. We're won't take a break real quick but coming up after the break and now you have a few things that you want to share with our listeners. More as encouragement and continuing the story obviously but also practical steps. Stay with us. Many americans today don't realize the stress and anxiety. They feel is likely because of their finances. According to bankrate.com more than six out of ten people couldn't cover a one thousand dollar emergency seven out of ten. Don't budget regularly. An eight out of ten are living paycheck to paycheck to these describe you. Are you ready to live like others. Can't too many make the mistake of budgeting their lifestyle instead of budgeting their basic needs. I my friend. Marco over at mc business lab has a simple process to automate the basic things. You need to live and then never looking at one of those bills again. Head over to live like others can't dot com to get on the wait list for his own line course to learn this automation skill. That will significantly reduce your stress anxiety. And if you think one on one attention could be the way for you. You can also schedule your free consultation with marco once again that's live like others can't dot com get on the path to your dream life today. Alright so here we are back. Second half of the show here with my wife patricia talking about mental health. And it's okay. She's looking at me right now. She's like oh just made a noise like it's okay. Well we'll cleared up. It's fine and so so anyway so here talking to my wife patricia about mental health and about her own challenges and struggles with it. And so obviously there's no one in your corner so to speak. I mean there's the stigma associated with it but there's also no one kind of coaching. You through this of like okay. Well if this isn't working here's what you do right not currently. I've had counselors in the past. You know and they've we've tried to work through things. I have been the hospital couple of times. And i think there's a lot of people who mean well but it doesn't mean it's going to work for you and so i feel it's important that people understand that if you do have a mental illness. It's okay to research an advocate for yourself. You don't have to wait on a doctor or counselor or someone who you feel like is more intelligent or just because they have letters after their name that they know you better than you do feel free. No not feel free. Please speak for yourself. that's huge. That is so huge. And i think that advocating for yourself is such a critical element of getting the help you need. Because when i think of veterans who are struggling right. You know whether whether it's a physical health or mental health concern. They know themselves like better than anyone else knows them and so when they go to the doctor when i as a veteran go to the doctor i have an obligation to myself right to be as honest and as really a as direct as i can like look. This is the problem. This is how. I'm feeling. I'm here for you to help me fix it right. But then there's the stigma especially in the military community. Where if something isn't working right in your brain you're not working right. Oh absolutely that is the stigma is is really and i think the worst thing about mental health diagnoses today at least in america. If not all over the world it absolutely needs to be normalized that your your brain is an oregon and just like your heart and all your heart muscle but you could knees your liver. If any of those things were failing if they weren't working like they were supposed to have so many people around you. Hey what can i do for you. What can i do for your family. Could i get my blood tested to see if i could be donor. How in the world could make your life better but you hear someone is in a three month depressive episode and they can't even get out of bed. I don't see people lining up with casseroles. I don't know. I don't see that happening. You know if you have to leave an event because you had an anxiety attack there's whispers. There's not help this is strong. It is so strong. And there's a you know within the military there is a fear and i will say rightly so that if you say hey i have this particular mental condition it can potentially impact your career and in the civilian world because well as a mom i if another mom i don't know maybe somebody's going to hear this and maybe they don't want their kids hanging out but as a mom you think. Oh can this person actually take care of my kid. While i'm away or is everything issue going to be too overwhelmed. Is she going to have some kind of attack. That i don okay. If you know somebody like that. Just educate yourself right and know that that person wouldn't take on that responsibility if they didn't feel they could handle it. Yeah absolutely and you know. That's a critical point to is. There is so much misinformation out there about mental health. And you know here's the thing. Hollywood doesn't help and i'm not going to rant. I'm not. I'm not trying to say like oh. Don't make movies about people with mental conditions. You know but there is this you know. The joker movie that just came out with a joaquin phoenix. That's joker yeah. Okay so you know. He obviously has a mental health problem. It looks like severe depression and he turns out to be this mass murderer. Right and so people associate edison. He's bipolar but go ahead. Fair enough fair enough so people associate those mental health conditions with something so extreme that they saw on a screen or read an article. now there are extreme cases. it's true. I mean you can't just say that that. No one is that bad off but there are people that bad off that they're not usually the people who look like they're doing okay. There those the people who are really struggling there are more signs right than than you just meeting them. Like if i just walked up to you and said hi. My name's patricia. Perkin tie you doing. You would never think i had five mental disorders right. You know someone. who's that far gone. You know they're going to be showing signs. Oh yeah absolutely for sure for sure and you know the thing is when it comes to mental health when it comes to you know having a a severe enough level of mental health challenges concerns whatever. You wanna call them. If you don't have an official diagnosis right there are so many. I guess levels is probably the best way to put it of of severity. Because you know like saying. Hey i'm feeling depressed for a couple of weeks is a far cry from major depressive disorder right okay. Yeah may i believe probably should have been a little more research but it would be depressed for at least six months before. It is a clinical diagnosis. And so there's going to be events someone dies. A friend moves away. You have to switch jobs then you could go through a you know a few days or a week of feeling depressed. That's normal. yeah exactly. That's the normal depression. That's not the go quick. It'll medication so you can feel better. That's right it's just a normal life happens and you get down and i've even had people say to me. Well you know you have a lot of stuff. You're very blessed. You have a nice home. You have a great husband. Smart kids you you you have you have you have you have. That has nothing to do. With what my brain is doing. I have the intelligence to know that. I a blessed person a blessed individual but that does not mean that my brain is going to let me enjoy all the time. Yeah that's so true. That is so true. And so i just saw an article earlier today from cnbc said fifty one percent of young americans are struggling with mental health. Fifty one percent. I can believe and i think a lot of that if i can just put in. My personal opinion is social media. I'm sure you constantly see people who are throwing up. There highlight reels on instagram. And some of them still on facebook and then those who are throwing out things on twitter but there you're not getting their whole life you don't read what's actually going on. I mean if people looked at my facebook they would see highlights. Because i want to show the good. I don't want to show the days. I don't wanna get out bed. Showed the days where. I'm like begrudgingly. Driving my kids to school because i have to. I'm an adult to do these things. You don't see those things and especially the generation under us. They're so obsessed with social media that they think that's real life. I mean i have a good life. But it's not insta worthy like everything. I do isn't gonna be popping up on instagram. Because it's not real life right. That's just advertising then like you said it's just highlights right. Yeah and so. I want to go back to the stigma piece for just a minute. Because that's a piece that i'm really passionate about and you know in the military you know being healthy being fit to fight. That's part of the job if you're broken your broken leg unit can't use you to go to war right. You have to get that leg fixed. I if you're broken mentally your unit may not be able to use you to go to war because like there's something wrong with you and like the. The thing is with the stigma. It's okay in you know outside of the military that things that your body or your brain is not working like it's supposed to and i've heard so many veterans so min- countless veterans really be rating their brothers and sisters in arms when they talk about having. Ptsd like your combat. Experience was different than mine. Therefore you don't have ptsd or you can't be depressed or you can't be anxious like you're just whining because you want to get paid from the va. You want the va to take care of you. That's ridiculous it. It really is our veterans out there who just looking for that that extra little bit of money out a month sure. There are but by and large the majority of veterans who who are having the courage to stand up and say. Hey i got something wrong in my brain. It's not working like supposed to. They should be applauded and say you know what that is. Surreal courage that you having right now to go and say i need help. Yes it takes a ton of courage and just in time out of being a military spouse and then my time out of it and interacting with veterans and even people who are still currently serving. They they have these but they don't even know how to say it out loud. They will become an alcoholic. But there's nothing wrong with me. I had no problem with war. Or when they get out of the military you know they get hooked on drugs. Oh in the military didn't affect me very much. I'll have i don't have any. Ptsd that that crazy stuff you know or all of a sudden. They're wife isn't good enough. Their kids aren't good enough and they want to be away from them at all times. They don't want that interaction but they say they're fine because they're afraid to say i might be broken inside and might need some help. So instead of having the courage to say that they are literally ruining their lives in other ways right what alcohol would drugs with breaking up their homes with neglecting their responsibilities. That's may there's so much i want to. I want to fix it right. I want to fix the stigma. Problem wanted but there is no easy way to do it. But i think what we're doing right here is having the conversation for the world to hear that. Look it's not just veterans. It's not just veteran spouses. It's according to that article. Fifty one percent of young americans who are struggling with some sort of mental health condition right regardless of what title you go by better in active duty man woman boy girl. Mental health is no respecter of persons. I'm sorry mental illness right. No you're right and mental health needs. You know it doesn't matter who you are. What are what color you are just like any like. I said any other body part in any other thing. That may need attention. Don't be afraid to give it that attention. Don't be afraid to speak up and speak out. Don't let the stigma hold down. Yeah for sure so from our conversation today. I know we're running up on time. So we're gonna wind this down and you know. Obviously you and. I have talked about this a lot and me in the future. I'm sure we will get you back on the show and talk and talk about about this and how fixing your life especially how the team s treatment is grain because he you know. I'm not afraid to talk about right. My inner demons especially can help somebody else. I feel like i feel like god puts us through situation so that we can help other people and if we can't take the bad and turn it around and help someone than what's it for and i have to have faith that it's it's to help others. Sure sure so. We have alluded to these three big takeaways right like the big takeaways from this episode. We've alluded to them throughout the episode. We've talked about them. We've even said them but remind us remind listeners. What those big three takeaways are from listening to this. I would say the first one is to advocate for yourself like i said. Don't be to research. Don't be afraid to figure out what might work for you. Ask for the jewish site testing. Ask for even if you've been on medication for a long time talking about the s you know there are other ways to go about it than just constantly saying in that cycle of pill after pill after pill with no results there. There is light at the end of the tunnel. So don't be afraid to say. Hey i think this might help me. What do you think. Don't wait on them. The second one i would say is. Don't let the stigma prevent you from seeking help Let's there is nothing wrong with you. If you have mental illness nothing like innately wrong review. You are just a person who is struggling and number three. I would say no that you are not alone like you were saying that article fifty one percent of young americans. This isn't even us. The older americans during these are young americans who were struggling. You're not alone. find group. fine fine started group. It right to you know. Don't don't stay alone either. When you isolate yourself things. Things often get worse so definitely seek out others who may have similar problems going on that you can talk through to to have some sort of accountability with and accountability is huge. It is huge and those are the three big ones. But i wanted to add one more. And it's something that i've done personally and it has to do with what i was talking about with social media and it's so funny because our pastors just said at this sunday delete block. You do not have to look at sally. Suzy sampson's and wish it was yours. Delete her blocking her. If if watching her highlight reel is taking your joy. Delete her if mr man who has it all together all the money all the muscles and the most beautiful wife you've ever seen if that stealing your joy delete him bought him because you need to focus on you and yours is so good. That is so so good so patricia. It is been an amazing conversation with you. I wanna thank you personally. Thank you for your courage to come on the show and talk about not just health in general but your own mental health your own struggles with the diagnoses. You know you've had hospital stays as a result had so many things going your life and so thank you so much for talking about this important topic with us you know. We all have a lot of questions but the most important question you can ask yourself is. This have accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith in jesus christ and before we go one thing. Patricia wanted me to point out was earlier. she referenced. cpt. St and she called it childhood. Ptsd it is actually complex. Ptsd would she informed me of later in complex. Ptsd is brought about from long term trauma that might be physical emotional sexual abuse own going childhood neglect things like that. It could even be a prisoner of war type of situation that brings about complex. Ptsd so just clarification. There that that was what she was referencing in the second. Half of the episode. You may have heard probably did hear a lot of clicking in the background while that clicking was my burien husky running around on a hardwood floor and unfortunately we can't edit that out he just kind of made a cameo appearance on the podcast so that dog is the way i deal with my ptsd and depression having a pet. It just helps a lot so anyway. Thank you so much for listening. It has been a joy sharing our hearts with you today. Be sure to check us out on social media. We at facebook at courage to fight again. Instagram also occurred to fight again and twitter at courage again and check us out on our website at courage to fight again dot com a whole lot. More resources there well until next time. Thanks for listening. We served now. What is a production of courage to fight again.
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"Welcome to we serve now. What were we seek to answer. The questions. veterans and their families are already asking that stays question is about a relatively new. Va program called va solid. Start and on today's show. We'll be answering all your questions about this program. What is it. who's it four. What's the goal of the program who's eligible and perhaps most importantly the actions that you need to take to not only take advantage of this program but also to take advantage of ball. The va benefits that you've earned through your military service. And i thought who better to answer this question than the person who came up with the program. So some of you may have heard of dr paul lawrence who is the head of the veterans benefits administration. Well his second. Command is a lady by the name of margarita devlin and she is an absolute well of knowledge. Not just from the. Va solid start program. But about so much more as well hello. My name is aaron perkins. I'm a. Us army combat veteran husband to a beautiful wife. Father to two amazing kiddos on the author of resolve a step by step guide. That takes you the veteran through the journey of rediscovering purpose. Meaning and passion in your life after you've left the military and if you hadn't guessed on the host of this podcast and when we come back my special guest will be here so sit back. Relax and enjoy my conversation with margarita. Devlin who am i. Why am i still here. How can i uncover who. I was meant to be during my own transition from the. Us army the wounds of war especially those not visible continued to plague my through the pain of job loss of ptsd diagnosis at crippling anxiety by finally discovered the reason. I'm here on the earth. And i knew i couldn't keep it to myself so i wrote a book. Simply titled result. Resolved is a book that has one apologetically faith-based a step by step guide designed for maximum effectiveness in the context of a small group of other veterans resolve provides veterans everywhere with the tool to help you step into your new life a life full hope purpose and vision for the future to pick up your copy of resolve head over to courage to fight again dot com. That's courage to fight again dot com. Well i am here with margarita. Devlin and i just want to take a minute to thank you margarita for being here on the show. This is going to be so so great. I'm super excited about it. But i want to take a minute just to kind of introduce you. And i don't want to steal your thunder because i'm going to give you a chance to introduce yourself as well but margarita devlin. She is the principal secretary for benefits in the department of veterans affairs. She's held that position since may of two thousand eighteen. Now that title in itself obviously a mouthful right. But i will let you. Margarita explained what your role is and all of that and kind of dive into a little bit more for listeners. Basically she second in command at veterans benefits administration so veterans benefits administration. Va that's your va. Va home loan disability compensation of oak rehab life insurance transition assistance and speaking of transition assistance marguerita has a lot of different advancements in military to civilian transition and also suicide prevention to include. What we're talking about today and that is the. Va solid start program so margarita. It is so good to have you. I just want you to want you to take a few minutes and introduce yourself but is so great to have you here. Welcome to we served now. What inky so much. It's really my pleasure to be here. Thank you for inviting me to be on this podcast And i guess what. I areas like to tell people as i've been in the va for twenty five years It's my passion to serve veterans in in various different roles throughout my career. i'm also mom of inactivity serving marine And also the mom of a college student Dad was a navy veteran brother served in the army so Military family close very close to my heart this mission so really happy to be here and talk about the solid start program haas of also weived definitely excited to have you and again on this show. We do our best to answer the questions that veterans and their family members are already asking and one of those questions is what is the. Va solid start programming. And that's question. Maybe we can just lead off with that. What is the. Va solid start program. Absolutely i'm happy to just dive right into that. so solid. The solid start program is really part of the military to civilian transition journey. That really looks at the fact. That transition does not end when you get the d. to fourteen at the end of your military service in fact those of you who have served you know this right. That's really when everything starts to actually happen and no amount of preparation With the military can really prepare you for what what your situation is gonna be like after we heard this from veterans so this program really seeks to connect with veterans in that first year after separation starting at about three months and then we follow up beginning six months in a year and it really is an opportunity for us to start out with. How is it going for you. How's your transition going. How're you doing what's going on in your life. What are you worrying about. And really letting the veteran drive the conversation about what he or she needs the moment how it's going and then our agents are very well trained to pick up on those cues from that conversation and provide that veteran with specific resources in guidance on how to continue their transition in the most successful manner. Possible that is that is huge. I remember. I remember when i got out at the end of two thousand fourteen. It was a kind of a drinking from the fire hose. Except i didn't even know what i was supposed to be drinking. You know it's like hey here's a bunch of benefits you might be eligible for good luck and so it's funny so we started this podcast in the summer of two thousand eighteen and it wasn't until i started this podcast and started doing some research that i learned about more benefits. I could've taken advantage of when i first got out. You know four years prior and so the fact that this this solid start program is tackling that specific issue. I think is great. So what what. Problems specifically is the program trying to solve will it is really a suicide prevention initiative and it came from the fact that we heard from veterans. That sort of felt like all the services and support sorta stopped When they separated from the military and because it was like drinking from a fire hose. They really didn't know where to go to do And who to connect to and it was really difficult for. Va to connect with veterans who were not engaging with our with our systems already so we entered into this agreement with department of defense and homeland. Security is coastguard is under homeland security to get data feet of all the military members when they were separating so that we can start those phone calls so that we can call everybody and by the way we do call everybody that we have information for that includes regardless of character discharge We will call these veterans and we will make sure that they get connected to services and resources that are that are specific to their needs so again suicide prevention. We recognize that. There is a a real. There's a reality about transition stress Which is very different than what you might think about with clinical rate with post traumatic stress disorder. Which is a clinical diagnoses Comes with its own required treatment in the mental health arena. But this is just It's stress around. All the life changes that happened with transition. And what you said you know sometimes they. You're hearing so much about so many benefits while you're in the process of separating that when you get out you might not realize that you didn't take advantage of all of them right right. That is so true. That is so true. So so the the tap program transition assistance program or the army's version i think is a cap or something. It is this part of that is essential that the tap program still exist. How does it factor into all that. They're they're connected. They're two separate things but connectors so the transition. Assistance program does still exist Dod really owns and operates. Don on any of the military services of course puts their own branding on their part of the program via has an entire day where we come in and we teach about. Va benefits was really great. We were able to get it to a full day. Always didn't always look like that but even in that full day where we teach it's really It's a classroom experience right so you're Before covid you were in a room with twenty twenty five other service members and as much as we try to make it engaging and make sure that the servicemember can tie all the benefits to their own personal situation using interactive workbook. All of those things. It still was a classroom experience. A not individual not one on one We do still have benefit visor. Available for one on one support with and they. They advertise that during the class. Now when we went into the code environment we go to virtual So we we are still pretty much in the virtual environment. We've we've started working on getting a little bit more in person presence with tap classes but of course as you can imagine Safety is the number one concern And so we think about this way. Transition assistance program is about teaching. You what you might need to know and getting you prepared in the right mindset for transition. Solid start is like okay. Now we're gonna talk to you after this happened after you got out of the military to see. How are you doing ended. All that stuff makes sense. What questions do you still have. And it's one on one so rather than having to listen to what everybody has to listen to if you already have a job and that's not your concern or you're already in college and using your education benefits that's not your concern but maybe you need to get into a medical appointment. You don't know how to navigate. That will work with you on justice. If that's what you need is maybe you have issues with your children. You need some some other resources. We have access to information about state department of veterans affairs benefits that can sometimes filling gaps were. Va can't Provide a service to really is personalized the comments we hear from veterans. I know you've been seeking feedback from veterans. As well is that they're surprised that va's calling and they're so thankful for it because they were maybe not sure who to call her how to ask about a particular benefit so it's been really interesting seeing the positive reaction from our veteran community. Absolutely and you know. I think that you know this is my opinion. You based on my own experience and the experience of know friends and other veterans who gone through the transition systems program. There are getting ready to get that to you to fourteen right. So all of those briefings. I shouldn't say all but a lot of those briefings are at least in the transitioning servicemembers. Mind it's it's a check the block it's like all right. Let me just get through this thing. So i can go home. Take off this uniform for the final time and get on with my life so the fact that you're contacting them throughout that first year i think they're going to be a whole lot more receptive to hearing. What the benefits are. Because it's not like you're not keeping them from you know from going home you know. You're not you're not saying. Hey you have to be here. This is your place of duty right now. So you mentioned covid nineteen and a lot of things have gone. virtual has there been any other impacts to the program. I know the program still pretty new but have there been any other impacts of the program as a result of the pandemic like are you behind or ahead or anything like that. A solid start actually was in a great position to react effectively to the covid nineteen situation. All of our agents were telework ready and all of our equipment works from telework standpoint. So they haven't skipped a beat they are not behind. They are on target When we first created the program we weren't sure what kind of response we were gonna get so when we created the program We we have to have a performance measure right so we said well. How many people do we really going to answer. The phone won't va calls. You know think about yourself right if your cell phone rings and you don't recognize the number what's the chance you're gonna answer it. Probably not your let it. Go to voicemail right. And if that person's important deli new message so we kinda thought we might get that sort of a reaction so we kinda started. Set the bar low. We said fifteen percent our goal was fifteen one. Five fifteen percent of veterans we reached out to we would be able to actually engage with. They would answer the phone and engage with our with our representatives. It's been just phenomenal. The actual result actually have your with me the december twenty twenty report since we began the program. We have reached over. Eighty seven thousand veterans and the fiscal year. Twenty twenty today fifty seven point. Five percent have responded and engaged. Yeah i know it's it's been just an incredible Response and we also prioritize veterans. Who we know from the information from dod if a veteran had mental health appointment In that last year of service before they left the military prioritize them and we also know that for that population. We need to make sure we get them connected into. Va healthcare and with that sub population. The percents even higher seventy three point. Six percent have responded to our agents and our end have engaged with them on the phone. Wow that is really really great. How surprised were you at the at the numbers when he finally saw them. In the beginning. I was very surprised. And then you know we had a town hall with are Representatives the ones who are actually making the call and it was really interesting. Many of them are veterans themselves. Some of them are you were military spouses. And some of them even used to work in the tap program and and they're so passionate about their work and they're always submitting new ideas about how to improve the program here in the anecdotes That they shared with me about what some of these veterans were telling them and how grateful they were for this phone call. One thing we do is we did put it on the caller. Id so in most with most cellular services You you'll it'll save veterans affairs on your phone so you kind of notes the. Va calling so kind of helps to increase the the response rate but yeah. It's it's been an amazing response for veteran for so happy that this program is reaching them in making impact. Yeah definitely that's great. That's great so. Va solid start. It's for those who are basically brand new to the civilian world right so for those of us like myself and a lot of our listeners who are not newly separated what resources are available for us for helping us understand available that that we can take advantage of so a couple things you're right. Solid start is for those that are recently separated so for veterans of any era. Were here for you as well. And you know i always. I'm always very sensitive to that that you know if you Or vietnam era veteran. We care about you. We want you to call us if you if you never got connected to your benefits. Please call us and we will walk you through. There's a main toll free number which is one eight hundred eight two seven one thousand and that is our main call centre. Those agents are trained across the entire portfolio benefits as well and they will help you identify. What eligibilities you might have In the benefit side and they can even connect you to healthcare If you if you haven't signed up for your healthcare so they can. They can kind of connect you regardless of when you got out of the military And if you are a veteran that just got out in the last year and you haven't gotten your solid start call. I say the information we get from dod his last information we had about the servicemember. Sometimes people change their phone number They changed their email address. We do try and reach out by email First before we make that first phone call so call us. And if you're in that last in the first year after separation just asked to be transferred to the solid start program very cool very cool and you just taught me something with this eight hundred numbers at eight hundred eighty two seven one thousand right cracked. Okay so i could you know after we finish this conversation i could off here. I could call that number and find out the benefits that i'm eligible for. Maybe i'm not taking advantage of. Yes and really. What what they're gonna do is they're going to ask you some questions. What type of benefit are you thinking about. you know. and because we haven't education call center so if you said hey. I'm really wondering if i'm if i'm eligible for the gi bill. They'll transferred to gi bill experts. Right if you say well. i'm really kind of thinking. What kind of employment types of benefits or what about disability benefits So you know they'll help you with those benefits. It's a little bit different than solid. Start in that There are more got react to what you're needing in the moment whereas are solid start agents are trained to sort of prompt And get information out of the veteran to help navigate the whole suite of benefits they might be entitled to and i also wanna say your state department of veterans affairs. They have offices in in different states. We have regional offices. One day hopefully will be able to meet in person again. But in addition there's the veterans service organizations in. They're out there to help. There's a lot of resources but yes feel free to call us. Anybody listening to podcasts. Give us a call one. Eight hundred eighty two seven one thousand and we'll try and get you connected to your benefits above love it and so speaking of benefits and this is it's kind of a curiosity question. I guess what is the most overlooked benefit that veterans typically. Don't take advantage. There's a couple and we actually make it a point to focus on these in the beginning They're time sensitive so one thing for example is life insurance benefits. There is a time limit on when you can convert your service group. Life insurance to veteran group life insurance. And if you don't do in that timeline you kind of miss the opportunity It's about a year and a half out from from when you leave the military so We tell them always about life insurance and that's always kind of a tricky thing right. Nobody ever wants to think about end of life. Especially you know you. A young twenty five year old veteran and twenty six year old. And they're thinking while life insurance okay. You know if they're single and they don't have a a spouse children they might not be thinking about it so we want to make sure they understand the value of having that life insurance policy and so that they make an informed decision potentially to take advantage of it another one is dental care the eligibility for dental care which is time limited in a lot of veterans miss out on that because they don't fully understand it so there's a couple of the ones that we know are are critical sensitive And honestly we've heard some some of our veterans who say they didn't file for disability benefits. Because they didn't feel like they should take that benefit away from another veteran so we do spend some time explaining that they don't take benefit from another veteran. It's a it's a mandatory benefit. Were any veteran. Who's eligible for the benefit and it also opens up the door for healthcare. And you know if you're young and strong now but but you know that you had injuries orthopedic injuries for example. But you're okay and you can kind of deal with the pain right now. Well one day you're going to need healthcare it might worsen You know this is. This is not a handout. It is an investment in that veteran. Making sure that they can stay strong and half the care that they need to to For the rest of their life if needed sure sure so that is some really really great information. But it's not every day that i get to to the principal. Deputy undersecretary for benefits at the veterans benefits administration or being translated. Second command right. So i have a couple of questions that they're they're along the lines of transition but not solid start specific right sure all right so one thing that i'm incredibly passionate about is helping veterans rediscovery since of purpose and meaning after the military and so finding that sense of purpose in that sense of meaning after military service is. It's really the single most challenging part of a chat challenging part of the transition and so one question. I wanted to ask you is how does the. Va help with this aspect of post military life. It's interesting that you bring that up because our research also validates that is one of the biggest challenges. In fact we did. We just started last year. A post-separation study of veterans. Who went through the top programme while they were in uniform to kind of see the retrospective look right. Because it's one thing we can really high marks in the classroom right there. The ninety six percent are highly satisfied with our tap class. But what we wanna do is wait to your veteran in the naski. Look back on and say okay now. How well prepared did you feel you were and we also bounce that against data to see are they employed you know are they using our benefits and we ask them for information about how they're doing so in that study we found the open comments that we got from veterans were very much around that loss of sense of camaraderie. That loss of sort of feeling that you're part of a community unit cohesion that you had the military you don't have that in communities today And just that that loss of sense of purpose and mission so we're just now starting to lean in to explore how the can help with that. We can't solve the problem ourselves right because we're not going to be that sense of community for them but we can connect them and we've been engaging with a lot of organizations nonprofits and via so organizations that provide that connectivity that sense of community in that sense of mission And we're starting those conversations to say. How do we infuse that into the solid. Start program so that we can start connecting veterans in a different way to give them that sense of community. they're looking for. It's really going to involve have to involve a partnership model via. Can't do this alone. Sure sure on love the fact that that the va is realizing this and is like you said leaning into that so now this is a this next question for you is potentially a touchy question. But i don't need to tell you that. A lot of veterans are like. I don't like the va about experience for those veterans who have had that experience or they're just like man. I've heard so many bad things. I don't even wanna try it you know. It's probably not worth the hassle. What what would you say to them if they were if they were asking like. Okay what should i do. Should i do anything. What would you say to them right now. A couple of things first of all. I wanna say avenues. Cells and good news typically unfortunately does not get the same kind of traction. There are so many good news stories out there. And if you look for them you'll see them. I would say comback triumphs again. It's not the same. va that. It was a few years ago. We have come such a long way in the healthcare system with the hospitals in the end the outpatient clinics in our regional offices are outreach is is so much different and we understand better how to improve the experience for our veterans. So i would say it's been a couple of years maybe had a bad experience comeback to us get another chance and if your experience is not absolutely stellar fabulous edit. It doesn't make you turn around your opinion of va. Reach out to us. And i would say in the healthcare system. We have Advocates in every medical center. Go talk to the patient advocate. Tell them about your experience. Let us change something. If there's something specific that's not quite right. Sitting in our via regional office asked to speak to the leadership team. We have lead dan so hard on getting feedback from veterans and making changes across the entire enterprise. It's it's just not the same. Please try again in comeback. That's what i would say. Sure sure so of just just anecdotally right so my family. And i we live in alabama and so my closest a regional center is in birmingham. And so you know i. I've been there a lot over the past few years. And when i compare the service and the facilities and everything like that to a to a more local hospital more local medical facility. It is night and day difference. I mean bring. Va clinic is just top of the line. So it it is really an and again. I know everyone is different but it even from. When i used to go to the va we lived in texas to go into the va. Here it is. There's so many positive changes that have been made in at so honestly i'm really really happy with with the facilities and the care receive and everything like that so glad to hear that. Yeah absolutely absolutely so what's a big takeaway here right. So what does something. All veterans and newly separated veterans or. Otherwise what should they really remember from our conversation. Today i would say remember that. Va is here for you We probably have a benefit or a service that you might not have been aware of And we wanna be there. We want to be partners in your military civilian transition. We want to be partners in your life and help you with any issues that you might have. We're not the answer for everything But we also have connections with community resources and just reach out to us if if you need anything don't try and go it alone and again if if you had a bad experience in the past comeback to us i promise you it should be a much better experience now and like i said if there's anything you encounter that that you have an issue with let us know we're here to be part of it. I mean my personal story. My brother who is an army veteran wouldn't go to the. Va for the longest time. I finally got him to go and he's been so thrilled he was. He calls me up and he's like says they're offering me services that i didn't even ask for. They're they're doing this. They're doing that. And i said yes. That's what we call wraparound services when you come into a va. We are not just looking at the problem that you presented with. We're gonna ask you how else we can help you. And he's been so impressed with that. He wishes he would start in the. Va system a long time ago. It really is We've really made some great advances. So please come see as awesome awesome so here on the show. We like to give our listeners. Some practical next step. So when this podcast finishes playing what should they. Do you know the context of our conversation today. What should they do because today's question is. Hey what's the. Va solid start program. And obviously you've answered that more than we could ever imagine and in so having you on the show has been just absolutely outstanding but what should their next steps be right after listening to this podcast. I would say if you're curious about the benefits and services we offer You might try to going to our website. Www dot va dot gov easy to remember And when you go to. Va dot gov. You'll see sort of things grouped into logical sort of life domain issue. So you'll be able to kind of navigating see. Wow you know what is what does the. Va half for me. And then you can actually apply for many of our programs online. Some of them Were still working on getting online. But you get the application online so that would be one thing and then if you just don't wanna talk to somebody some full more comfortable calling on the phone and talking to somebody call that number i gave earlier one eight hundred eight two seven. One thousand You know we're here for you. Take that step. Check us out If you're already enrolled in one of our programs you know good on you but there might be something else that he don't know about so check us out. Sure well margarita. Devlin this has been so so rate again. You have answered the question. What is the a solid star program. Frankly answered a whole lot more questions as well. So thank you so so so much for coming on serve now. What really enjoyed having him my pleasure and thank you for what you're doing to. It's really important work. I hope you've enjoyed my conversation with margarita devlin. So what are your questions recorded voice memo on your phone and send it to podcast at courage to fight again dot com or joined the post nine eleven veterans and families facebook group. And post your question there. We all have a lot of questions but the most important question we can ask ourselves is this have. I accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith in jesus. Christ we'll i'll see you right back here. Two weeks from day and the nixed veteran question. We'll be asking is this. How do i use my post nine. Eleven gi bill. Well until next time. Thanks for listening. We serve now. What is a production of courage to fight again.
Lawyer: Soldier charged in Rockford shooting may have PTSD
"An attorney for the U. S. army special forces sergeant accused of killing three people at an Illinois bowling alley this past weekend says her client may suffer from PTSD Winnebago county state's attorney J. Hanley says thirty seven year old Duke Webb who had just completed a fourth tour of duty in Afghanistan has admitted to the shooting rampage inside a bowling alley that left three people dead a fourteen year old male was shot in the face he is alive but hospitalized in critical condition sixty five year old Thomas first half was on the first floor when the defendant began shooting first a first test began running toward the stairs when the defendant shot him in the torso he tells W. LS TV that victim died as did two other men but Webster Turney says he'll undergo a mental health evaluation suggesting he suffers from post traumatic stress disorder Webb is assigned to Eglin Air Force base in Florida and was visiting family in the Rockford Illinois area I'm Jackie Quinn
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"traumatic stress disorder" Discussed on Hacks on Tap with David Axelrod and Mike Murphy
"So you don't see that kind of like outbreaks of bed-wetting in public. They just managed to keep their bed wetting themselves, but there's a lot going on right now in the Republican ranks as witnessed by you know we've had some of these examples but my favorite right now. John Cornyn. John cornyn distancing himself from Donald. Trump. This last week is you know that is that's what passes wedding in the Republican Party that's like number two guy in the Senate or number three from from Texas Texas should be very safe speaker, Gabby Republicans. What do you say about this Murphy? You're really doing your own king routine tonight. Held a reference. Doing Groucho all day so Not He's got the groucho stash or used to in the brain acid. All right. So Years Alright Alright how I am speaking All right. When you're done I've got I've got insights. Okay. Here we go. So it's the Republicans are war between the mathematicians and the priest, the mathematicians which allowed the insiders in the look at the demography look at the data and say, we're fucked the priests say. You said that last time we said a big lightning bolt hit that tran the right and you laughed at us and then an hour later the bolt hit, and now trump's president. So they have the anecdotal and because people live in bubbles. Now in America a lot of the MAGA- people everybody, they know other than their irritating daughter-in-law are all voting for trump so it feels the same. The forty-three percent feels like the forty-three percent and they see the rallies on TV and they remember the surprise and so it's very easy to be kind of a bubble now when you get to the professionals in the Republican Party. Sub Class, they're like trump enabling you know drags who can kind of work themselves into a rally I mean a frenzy based on rally turnout but the pros all no, this is terrible and when you talk to Republican consultants behind the scenes, it is Stalingrad man they're eating horse meat trying to figure out how to put on a dress and escape. So it's just are and you're right about the Gabby nece to. And there's a conservative echo chamber. You can go talk to Fox tump things doing great and our goats are in the base goats are on listening to Fox airing that Sean Hannity says the SNORE gas poll shows US surging in Minnesota but this is why they're so hostile regulations so that they can eat the horse meat at times like this. Really is it's also really truth. Really funny. You say that Mike because the reality is that there's the incentive structure set up this way to a you know if you go out of his NBC as Democrat and predict doom the, you'll get endless airtime. You can get booked on a short MSNBC to go out and say things like and be and be nervous and neurotic on on Fox. News is the opposite right if you go out and predict the trump's gonNA, lose your banished from air whereas if you go out and if you go. On and say everything's fine. Donald Trump's on his way to secure and yet another shocking shocked the world come from behind victory you'll again get massive airtime. But if you went on Fox News and said TRUMP'S GONNA lose you be banished that be at your play. Here's a word for the priests on the Republican side the the they're they're a bunch of trees that have fallen in two thousand and twenty. They've all fallen on, Donald? Trump. and time there's fourteen days left an errand tree can fall in a different direction but Doesn't feel like doesn't feel like divine intervention here is going to save him in two, thousand and twenty. Yeah, I think the priests are GonNa literally have a religious experience on election day but we're we're find out our right guys. We will see fourteen days left should be fun. Hammond will be watching you on the circus. We'll talk to you soon, Murphy I will see you shortly after the debate with Mr Robert. Gibbs, will we take apart the last debate as the nation jeers yet and I haven't had this much fun since I don't know when talk So you guys. Bye..
"traumatic stress disorder" Discussed on Hacks on Tap with David Axelrod and Mike Murphy
"The most is. Perfect right and Barney. Along. Or? Whatever. All right. So this guy is in the United States Senate. He sits on the committee on a committee with Comma Harris knows very well how she pronounces her name and you know what he was trying to do there. Yeah, and by the way he is an asshole in real. Nice. In the Republican Caucus everybody thinks cruises. True Lot of people hey, purdue just a jerk. It's s the George. Allen thing. That's the macaca moment right there. Another just you know, let your let everybody see the like the little the little out. So low racist that's just behind the curtain in David Purdue, could this cause US off to be able to pluck purdue. ha. Well. He's GonNa pack away at them here. It, but it does go back to the things that before did which we didn't really follow up on, which is that you're not alone in the blue plate. Special thing about George I is the case I keep hearing. You know the more I've been in Georgia a couple times this fall and the more with the closer we get to election to the more it seems like that I mean it's always been about the state the people thought was most likely, but it's been moving and Lisbon moving. It's been moving. It's the demography of it the Atlanta suburbs, it's the. Form of what the Dems are hoping for and the Republicans you've got purdue who you know again wants to be foghorn leghorn another reference for you there tending Marley Radio Comic who wanNA brothers still character. and. Thoroughly Leffler who is an SNL sketch who may lose to collins the congressman she make it into the runoff by the way and he's got his own set of trouble. So on every level is kind of a mediocre Republican team. Well,.
"traumatic stress disorder" Discussed on Hacks on Tap with David Axelrod and Mike Murphy
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"traumatic stress disorder" Discussed on Hacks on Tap with David Axelrod and Mike Murphy
"The trump guys are watching this on a loop, you know trying to get trump t- to provoke him, but the bond guys know it's coming and I think you will see trump try Joe Biden is passionate about his family I'm sure he is mightily pissed off about not just the story, but the photo of hunter with a crack pipe or whatever it was, and the fact that his that his family had to see that his grandkids had to see that and I think he's probably really pissed about it and probably the. Most important thing they can do for him in debate prep is to model out how he's going to deal with that because he could lose it around that and you know I thought he was incredibly effective in the lions at the first debate pm when when his when hunters drug use came up he was when he when he said he loves his son and You know a lot of families have this problem. I think a lot of people in America embraced that, but he he can't do is just go. Postal in a way that that that you know causes him to unravel the bottom line is that everybody in America literally everybody in America has either had an addiction issue or knows someone who's had an addiction issue everybody everybody and everyone's had everyone's family has a everyone who's appearances had their kid make A. Bad at some point, all of these things are properly handled by Joe Biden worked to his advantage lead. There's literally out of values story that properly handled not not help Joe Biden and does not make him come across a figure of sympathy with the which, whom, with whom every one of the country will share at least a moment of like I can relate to that. But that does does, as you say David depends on whether he's able to be displayed and the one example we have been so far that first debate I thought he was exceptionally good in that moment cc for Jomo like us to say, Hey, play it. Cool. No nobody did though he did in the first debate. The problem is trump will do it. Thirty Times Biden will eventually it's going to be ramped up I. Just WanNa say one thing about that story which I mean against been comment on I'm not gonNA give it anything credit because I think the stories you know call it Rozier grits radioactive turned the other Dan television. But in is amazing to me, I've never seen anything like this like you get to the point where you're out shopping a story like this, you are turned down by Fox News, the only home you. CAN FOR THE NEW YORK POST The New York Post as a newsroom revolt over it where the story is such that the perse new road and wouldn't put a fuses to have a byline on it and the person who's byline on it had nothing to do with it. There's literally no one in the New York. Post newsroom wants to be anywhere within ten yards of this story. So it's really hard for me to understand because it was walked by the highly credible Rudy Giuliani. So for the system Steve, where's the bullets? By not a lack of glance on the camera and make a joke about debating it's a monkey or whatever just talked to the home camera and let trump rant and rave I think Biden was at his best last time when he was doing that, he ought to try to spend about three quarters of his time doing this debate. Time to close the deal. Okay..
"traumatic stress disorder" Discussed on Hacks on Tap with David Axelrod and Mike Murphy
"The color television coming. On the other night. I mean maybe by the blow the whole thing, it's not impossible a quick trivia point I did hear candidate once say multiple times and it really endeared him to me as a great Patriot still with US Senator Bob Dole used to say by Jimmy. Can Happen in this in this. Might but yeah, you know what I just said the question is John Does trump. I mean he obviously last time he was hyperbolic trying to shake biden up and yeah interruptions were a part of that. Is he going to be a less? So this way I mean things have advanced to the point where he knows he's or an irrational moments he must know that he half he's in the he's in a bit of a jam here does she know that he does does it does he know that he screwed himself last time by being such an ass or does he does he does he tone it down or does he double down what what? Am I. So what do we know here? Here's an unknown thing which is that everybody around trump has been telling him that he has to be different in that he screwed up the first debate and that they had quite that bluntly but that he needs to as they would put it you know gives give Biden enough rope to hang himself and he needs to not interrupt because that's when Biden's GonNa show that he's adult and doddering and senile and trump can interrupt him and maybe the mute button will help him and they're trying to get him to they're trying to get him to be different. Does trump think that he screwed up the first debate? Not on the not on any available evidence like you look at the waist today said today on Fox and friends that they've got a lot of good notice on that I demand, right? Exactly. So I mean does trump is you know if these advisers had their wishes, you know trump would be different if trump, they're not going to get their wishes, they never do so trump xy great in that first debate just like you know he's not accused there's no sense in which trump thinks he's he needs to he needs to change course and I think you know if you just on the basis of how he's campaigning. Suggests that it course correction is not like front of mind for him and you decide this thing David that I think is telling right which was you know in irrational moment he must not working for him. I just don't think there are again are no. There's no available evidence to suggest not rational moments are occurring right now Donald Trump's head he's not campaigning like a rational person. Trump will scratch any itchy.
"traumatic stress disorder" Discussed on Hacks on Tap with David Axelrod and Mike Murphy
"Both north. Carolina's tight as a tick Georgia is my blue plate special. Georgia could be a breakthrough state and you know I'm not one who chases I like there's fool's gold in presidential politics has gone placing rainbows. You're all kinds of reasons to believe that Biden could win could win Georgia and I plug Ohio I think they're very similar. I say one just thing just button on this is that goes back the conversation before about them and I think really how the other place we were saying they don't show up for the Biden rallies, but there are showing up to vote the other place where you can really measure democratic enthusiasm is the money and the money has just been stunning the presidential level. Joe Biden couldn't could he was up banging Tina up as he was the worst of the major candidates of the candidates that ran for them combinations that the worst fundraising operation was cash poor for the whole nomination fight you know had to get that little soup packed together to keep him in any business in the fall of twenty nineteen, and now they have become this juggernaut and it just is I think again, reflection of of the this overwhelming democratic desire to get trump out, and you see obviously spilling over on these democratic in the Senate races where you look at, you look at Jamie Harrison, some of these other Democratic candidates that are. Just. It's stunning. How much money they have stuff staggered a cannot spend it. Yes. They have because it is so far in excess of anything they expected to raisin. There's a limit to what you can buy in. There's an irony to it though I think the bind Gaza run smart campaign other than maybe the economic stuff but I get an a plus. But if they'd had a lot of money early the odds are they might have spent it. You know it is thing where television broke made them smart in ineffective since. They were forced to hold the money until the end while the trump guys did the opposite because they had the luxury of all that cash and they weren't smart. There's no question that trump is is is a fundraising machine for Democrats as he would probably love us to acknowledge. But there is a question of whether it seems to me that this could be a kind of a historic tipping point here I mean the idea that all over the country democratic challengers are out raising Republican incumbents and now by little. Sometimes five to one. Yes. Sometimes five Jeremy Harrison. Question and the question is the question is, will that continue is, are we at a different as American, politics shifted and do Democrats now have a fundraising advantage that is institutionalized because they have the ability to raise small dollar or we'll republicans catch up while I would say that that you know you think about the history of that. You know you start with Obama you know the. That kind of gave birth to you know small dollar online fundraising. You then go to sanders you know the next step in the innovation and now act blue is maybe the most powerful organization non amid might be it could be most powerful organization Asian politics that's more powerful. The Democratic Party. I. Mean they're just that is a been. You know the transformative thing that there is now. A highly efficient, highly effective central clearing house for small dollar donations for people that were they can get their money into democratic and other progressive causes. It's like changed the face of politics and I. Think it's right I? Mean there's there's nothing there's no Ip and there that's not copy -able in theory by Republicans but the reality is the Republican Party I mean besides trump who's obviously Had Brand of unto himself. You look at the rest, the Republican Party, who is there in the Republican Party that is you need a brand you need a unique kind of candidates need a Barack Obama Anita Bernie Sanders. You need a donald trump in reverse to drive that kind of drive small dollar donations and you look at public who Marco Rubio is going to be that person. Nikki Haley is going to be that person I. Don't think. So the act blue thing is so important because to translate for our Acuras a little bit it allows basically your credit card number to live in place. So you can you can give low dollar with an easy click. Filling out twenty eight things all your information every time, which makes it. It gives it a lot of friction as the as the tech kids would say. So Act blue allows this need to get an email from some crank Democratic candidate. Yeah. I'm on board and do a click and fifty bucks flies. Another Republicans have one they've done an an they have an impersonate, but it's not nearly as much of an ecosystem as the DMZ built over the last. Couple, of cycles and it's really democratize fundraising everything is you make a lot more money in the direct mail days you're spending eighty cents to raise a dollar best case. Now, you're spending seven cents to raise a dollar or less. This is obviously there are big things going on here but when the smoke clears, this is GONNA be a huge story about American politics. Totally. Okay. Then let's take a break right here and we'll be right there. Were a couple of misers and we.
"traumatic stress disorder" Discussed on Hacks on Tap with David Axelrod and Mike Murphy
"Two thirds of the is against the ours and then it flattens out in a pretty good way, and then the the ours are losing old people faster than the desire I agree with that analysis when we when I was with Obama, we beat. both McCain and Romney we had. A six hundred and fifty thousand voter registration edge in the first race of five fifty, the second it's down to in the hundreds. now it's it's been shrunken, but the state is three point more diverse than four years ago, and and these NPA voters tend to be for whatever reason a lot of minority voters are now registering NPA no party affiliation. So there's a there there are reasons to you to take that seriously but they're also offsetting factors. John on this crowd reminds me of in in two thousand and eight you know the McCain campaign started jake us into pulling our rallies Dan because rallies were so. so ostentatious. And you know they did that whole? He's a celebrity for no reason. Are we building after? Berlin? Two hundred fifty thousand people in Berlin. Nice crowd but but. I won't even go there with you in Germany. Shantou. Any torches. Yes, we can. But. I think so I don't speak German anyone supporter. But We. So we pulled our crowds down. Then he picked Sarah Palin as his running mate. They start doing this huge rallies out of the convention and we're still doing our little round tables and on we finally at a meeting in said. This is not we're looking he. We've got the momentum. He looks like he has the moment and so that goes to your point about the rallies that trump is having versus the versus the the Biden of events while they're winning the optics cable, I mean bottom line is trump. You see cheering people about to get a disease and Biden newsy kind of slow and thoughtful, and that's just Not, optically highly to close I think is also the case I I'll stipulate something I think is true right which is that I don't think there's genuinely like I hate to say this I don't think there's an enormous amount of it. There's a genuine theon gap I don't think Biden voters are all that enthusiastic about Joe Biden particularly I think they're super fast about getting Donald Trump out of the Oval Office Enough that's all you need. The enthusiasm doesn't I bet you know what I'm saying like it's like the those people don't. They really don't need to go to a rally Joe Biden has been around for a long time. They know he's an acceptable alternative. What they are asking about is getting rid of trump. So that's like why would I go to a rally? Why do I need to show that I am? Showing to. freaking. Out Their rally is their pen circling the DOT. That isn't trump in early voting right it standing those giant lines in Florida and Texas and which is credible really incredible wait eight and nine hours to vote i. mean you know the downside of it is no one in America should have to wait eight or nine hours to vote on the other side of the equation is people are doing it. What does that tell you thirty two million people have voted at this point and I remember having some conversations about this where Murphy was like you know people like to sit on their ballots and I be not Balanced but thirty two million people have voted as of this recording and like a compared to I think five. At this, at this statement stage in two, thousand, sixteen I, I get I get all the factors but it's just a stunning thing that thirty two million people have voted at this phase in the bag bras already. Stunning. Well, it's a mix Oh, it's enthusiasm and also the pandemic. Horse the maker's probably both it's both?.
"traumatic stress disorder" Discussed on Hacks on Tap with David Axelrod and Mike Murphy
"Out Fi fetal position right now for I mean the the only thing worse for Democrats than pose that show raised closer polls that show the race not close because they all have pt at polling traumatic stress disorder. Two Thousand and sixteen. So Murphy tell our friends put them at ease. Tell them why this is in two thousand and sixteen well, first of all. Your comment inspired me that we really ought to rerecord the opening of this podcast and open with boy. Can you believe this tracking? It's unbelievable. The surge trump is having I think into scared the shit out of people for two minutes like the. Yeah. Do do the world's. Apparently, both Michigan and Wisconsin are showing trump lead in the analytics. Look the reason is not two thousand and sixteen there. So many be quick first of all Biden's stronger candidate than Hillary. Second trump is the incumbent so he can't hissing at the castle he is the castle. Trump is a novelty act that we've had for four years. How many people the day after seeing gallagher do the watermelon say why I'm going to do tomorrow night I'm GonNa. Gallagher. Nobody not even to see his brother. A, whole nother story. You know trump is kind of spent Tennessee and gallagher at the same podcast. No we're going? At the time capsule and I can't get him to move forward, ain't no jaws, a life filter can pull me out of that. So the finish up trump is also unable to play the big Captain Nemo Keyboard of being an incumbent president in harness all that power to pivot and move and do shit instead he's just doing the old campaign we've seen before with a totally different context and finally Biden has been Lucky Biden is lucky lucky lucky man He had the demographic stuff and to their credit they kept their wits together in the primary but then he got to a African American. Dominated state where his incredible connection they're totally elevated them. They played it right and the he's been site letting trump south immolate because of the the coronavirus and when he's had to appear he's been pretty good. So you know it's just a very different world now to win yes will trump win highly highly unlikely. Here's the two things that he so Democrats are two kinds of bed-wetting going on at one kind of bed-wetting is the traditional bed-wetting, which is like the polls are. Maybe somehow trump's GonNa do what he did in two, thousand, sixteen, the polls, all be wrong. There's that bed-wetting that trump bought by lose. They believe that in trump's true believers believe that one hundred percent football hundred percent, and then there's the other kind of which is you know Biden will win but trumbull steal the election, which is a whole other topic, but there's a lot of that Here, the two things that that that people seize on I think part just to try to like unpack wire, Democrats freaking out there is the to toys sixteen. PND PTSD but there is also the rallies right and you know we we are all sophisticates when we say well, crowd size does matter but the reality is you know Barack Obama had shit had giant. Huge mega-rallies and genuine it signify genuine enthusiasm Donald Trump had mega-rallies between sixteen and it signified real enthusiasm. It is the case. Now, if you're a Democrat you look around and you look at Joe Biden's turn out when he does do the rare events that he does you know I've been on the road I've seen him they're not people show up. Now that could be because that they're sensible democrats who don't want to get grown virus there lot of reasons they've all seen Joe Biden for years and they know already that they don't want to attract the candidate right or any of the above. But the reality is if you're a Democrat looking. Around the trump people, the Maga-, people like Shinji, these pictures and social media, and look at these rallies thousands of people coming out and Democrats are spooked by that. I'm not saying they should be but they are they're spooked by it and the other piece of it is if you're if you're a sophisticat, the thing you're spooked by and you hear it a lot in the last ten days is the registration numbers and you see no Tom. Edsall wrote writes a piece in the New York Times last week that pointed out but I've been seeing people circulating these registration numbers in in our world for around the same period of time. So you look. At you know the the registration advantage of Democrats has narrowed in Florida over the cycle. They've narrowed North Carolina it's narrowed in Pennsylvania, and so there are people who are who are sophisticates in our world who also look at those things to Mike to your point about they're not saying they think trump's GonNa win. But they see some little tremors in the numbers like that on the registration thing and say maybe there's a little bit wider path here than the conventional wisdom allows I hear that all the time and I've actually as much about to raise the question as you guys like, why why is it that we that people should not should. Write off his registration narrowing saying what what is the reason that you guys remain confident in the face of some actual data that would cause people and has caused some people to get nervous I'll take a shot at it. There's some truth in it is also been the trumps strategy 'cause they're trying to change the electric because they know they're losing the electric they got they're also willing to go knock on doors and pandemic the Biden campaign and most places has not happen but people people look at the registration thing is our versus de and wild. The ours are doing pretty welcome to the D. their two other numbers she got look at. One the demographic change because a lot of old ours are dying. and so you know the Republican the your if you look at it like water going into a Pale, the Republican Pale has a leak in it in a democratic one doesn't. Demographically because the older vote tends to be more old white and our the younger vote more multicultural second keep a look at the third category because in most places Biden's going to win that third category new independence. Other stuff by twenty points or better so you really have to look at. D plus. Two thirds of the is against the ours and then it flattens out in a pretty good way, and then the the ours are losing old people faster than the.
Ghosts in Your Bedroom?It's Probably Sleep Paralysis
"While come back the savvy psychologist I'm your host Dr Jade Woo. Every week will help you meet life's challenges with evidence based research, a sympathetic ear and zero judgment. Today we look at the freaky phenomenon of sleep paralysis and experience that has inspired ghost stories and Ilian abduction conspiracies. Fortunately. There's a scientific explanation for why it happens and also ways to prevent it. Different Cultures have explained frightening experience called sleep paralysis in various different ways. And Brazilian folklore a crowned with long fingernails lurks on the roof and tramples on sleepers chests. In Japanese mythology vengeful spirits come to suffocate their enemies while they sleep. For Canadian, Eskimos, it's a spousal Shamans, paralyze a sleeper while giving them vivid hallucinations. And in Contemporary American culture sleep paralysis has taken on the mythology of alien abductions. Sleepers wake up unable to move seeing or feeling the presence of aliens or at least shadows in the room while experiencing zapping sensations and a feeling of suffocation. But it turns out that all of these symptoms describe sleep paralysis, asleep disorder, or symptom of a sleep disorder that temporarily alters a person's mobility perception thinking and emotional state during that weird transition stage between sleeping and waking. Sleep rouses surprisingly common almost eight percent of the general population has experienced it at least once. But if you're a student or someone with a psychological diagnosis, your chances of experiencing, it goes up to almost one in three. But rest assured sleep paralysis is usually harmless especially if it only happens rarely. But why does it happen at all? When should you worry about it and how can you prevent sleep paralysis? While, let's start with a little bit of sleep science. The paralysis part of sleep paralysis actually happens every night when you sleep even though you're usually not aware of it that's because of a special type of sleep called rapid eye movement or REM sleep. Rem Sleep is often referred to as a stage of sleep that takes up twenty to twenty five percents of your typical night. It occurs in a few chunks mostly during the second half of the night. During Rem your brain is very active the electrical signals from the brain look almost the signals has when you're awake. This is also when most dreaming happens along with a lot of emotional processing that the brain does behind the scenes. But importantly, your body is immobilized during rim. Other than the is moving around lots hands the rapid eye movement your muscles lose muscle tone. This is your body's way of preventing you from acting all your dreams, which is a good thing because otherwise you may be running of the room or punching your bed partner while you sleep. So every night during rem you are paralyzed while you hallucinate and process emotions. Usually you don't realize is happening because you're asleep but sometimes when the veil between sleep and wake becomes really thin and you find yourself straddling both worlds of wakefulness and rem sleep at the same time. That's where sleep paralysis can come out. Because suddenly you're awake and paralyzed while you hallucinate an process emotions. Often, this also comes with a racing heart fear and sometimes even a feeling of impending death or doom. The sensation collapse a few seconds to a few minutes though seconds or minutes can feel like a long time when you're scared out of your wits, no wonder people around the world have mistaken sleeper Hollis's for demonic attacks. The good news is that sleep paralysis is usually harmless is simply a temporary snafu and asleep wake brain system that Phil. To transition you completely from sleep to wake. If only happens rarely to you you don't need to worry. But for some people sleep paralysis is more frequent. They're more prone to it or more at risk for it than the average person. So, who are these people and why are they more prone to sleep paralysis? Let's start with narcolepsy asleep wake disorder that is rare and complicated but primarily, a disrupts ability to stay awake and sleep paralysis can be one of the symptoms. An, along with paralysis narcolepsy often also comes with hallucinations when you're falling asleep this is called hip hip jake host nations suddenly falling asleep or losing muscle tone during the day and having poor nighttime sleep quality. If you experience these symptoms along with being just really sleepy, you should ask your doctor for referral to asleep study. Another group of people who are prone to sleep promises is people with anxiety and trauma related disorders including panic disorder generalized anxiety, disorder, social anxiety, or death anxiety, and having experienced trauma or having post traumatic stress disorder or PTSD also can make you more likely to have sleep promises.
A Conversation with "Blackout Girl"
"Jennifer store is the author of blackout girl. It is a memoir published by Hazel in twenty eleven and it's about to have its second printing. Read the book and You won't doubt the power of addiction in the day to day life of a young woman, the subtle persuasion of alcohol, the pervasive violent consequences, one drink too many and the sheer luck some my call at grace to survive at all Jennifer Storm. Welcome to let's talk. Thank you so much for having me. You know one of the dynamics of our mission at Hazelton Betty Ford is that we published books and we publish your book in twenty eleven it's done. Very very well in fact, it's about to have its second printing. What does that mean to have a second printing of a book? It's such an honor truly to not have the story come out once and reach an audience but for it to have a whole new audience to touch I, it's it's a wonderful experience. It feels more relevant today than actually when I did publish it unfortunately just because of what we're seeing with sexual violence and addiction, it's still dominating headlines. The headlines more than it ever has. So it feels really timely and on the heels of the metoo movement I know there are a lot of people that are suffering in silence and so my goal is to get to those people and we'll come back to that in a couple of minutes. Cisco back into your own. Life. For people who haven't read your book or no the story Tell us a little bit about your introduction to alcohol and what happened as a result. So. I came from a mother and a father who both came from very abusive alcoholic homes and they of found themselves in high school and really vowed to to get away from that and so they married young my father went off to Vietnam my mother he returned my mother started having US Children's I'm one of three I'm the youngest and they did their best to keep us away from all of those family members that were heavily. Addicted at the time, they had their own demons, and of course, their own traumas that they never dealt with and for the most part though they did a really great job trying to raise us I really was only exposed to alcohol when my parents would have it at family gatherings, and then a friend introduced me to alcohol when I was twelve years old and I had my first beer which literally led to ten beers and I drank. The first time I picked up a drink and I write in the book that I it never felt that thirsty before my life and I blacked out that night and subsequently a came to well being raped, and so I had this horrific introduction to alcohol this very addictive introduction alcohol and yet it was the first thing I turned to to deal with the trauma of that incident. When you were sexually assaulted a home. was that your bottom as it related to alcohol it was the start actually. So it's what really propelled me into continuing to drink because. I had all this shame and this guilt in this anger and rage that I didn't know what to do with it and I was young and my parents coming from their own alcoholic abusive homes didn't have the coping mechanisms to deal with their own stuff. Let alone now watching their daughter go through this horrific trauma. So I started drinking you know and this was in the eighties. So alcohol was in everyone's homes. We all had the you know the liquor cabinet, and so it was really easy for me to access What happened to me led to the breakdown really up my. Parents marriage, and so the supervision and our home started to deteriorate my parents divorced by the time I was fifteen and so I was kind of left to my own devices as where my older brothers and drank alcoholic and that gave way to starting to use pills I would do anything to numb the pain I was having and so if it meant alcohol, it meant pills it meant marijuana that led me to LSD, which then quickly led me to cocaine but everything every single time I drank the result was always the same I drank I drank to excess I blacked out. and. So the introduction of cocaine when I was around fifteen sixteen helped kind of. Sober me up. If you will I always say that parentheses it would keep me from blacking out. It would allow me to retain control because when I was putting myself in situations where I was blocking out of course, then I was vulnerable to more violence and more abuse and I didn't want that. So the cocaine and the alcohol then became this really damaging codependent relationship and. And how long did that codependent relationship work before? You had your bottom. So eventually I turned to crack cocaine at age seventeen and I had my bottom at age twenty two and I it was brutal and I attempted to take my life. I didn't have any hope I was completely destitute. I didn't see a way out of my addiction I couldn't go a day without being high and being. Completely out of my mind and that got to a point where it felt so. That I wanted out and I didn't like I said, I didn't have any hope. So tried to kill myself and By. Some measure of grace I am here today and I woke up in hospital bed the next day and I. I had sliced my wrists pretty severely to the extent that of one was bandaged to to hold it together done so much damage and it was a miracle and the doctor looked at me and said, it's a miracle that you're live and I was in a psych ward because that's that's where they. Put you was nine, hundred, Ninety, seven and an intake officer came in and kind of started going through the questions and she looked at me and said you, you're not. You're a drug addict do you want treatment for that? Because you you shouldn't be here? Do you want to go to Rehab and I said, yes, it was the first time I had made the admission that my solution was actually my problem. And then you got treatment, did I went to a traditional twenty eight day treatment facility in Allenwood Pennsylvania by all accounts a great facility I they didn't they weren't trauma informed which that's the term that I would come later to understand and really appreciate but they didn't take into consideration the underlining trauma that I had dealt with. It was solely twelve steps addiction recovery. We're not going to deal with these outside issues right now you're here to get clean and sober and that worked for me my first night and Rehab came to share her experience strength. And hope much like I do now and she had said something that profoundly impacted me and she said that her secrets kept her sick and that has been my mantra since that day in that Rehab and it told me that all this stuff that I was running from all these bad things that had happened to me and these pains and these traumas these were the causation. These were the reasons and I needed to deal with these if I really wanted to be clean and sober for the rest of my life, and so I did that work on my own. The trauma work did yes. which point you decide that you're story. was worth telling. In a memoir. I started writing that night in Rehab writing has always been a source of of empowerment and healing for me. Even after the rape I have a book of poems that that I wrote I would stay up all night i. now know that that's post traumatic stress disorder I couldn't sleep. I had insomnia had irrational fears so I would right and that would calm me and so because I couldn't talk about my trauma in traditional treatment facility I wrote about it. And I kept writing and then I did my fourth step and I kept writing and kept writing and you know I was an avid reader at the time and that's really when memoir was starting to come into play and I wasn't finding my story anywhere and so I thought well, I have a good story. Maybe I'll maybe I'll submit it and I was a big fan of melody babies and so I just happened to twelve of her books. So I happened to look in the book and see well their published by this amazing place called women, and so I reached out to Hazelden and sure enough they were interested and it was it was an incredible
Marijuana sales spike during COVID-19 pandemic
"Making a comeback what's going up the hill from his radio? Yeah. Good morning, Tony. This is this is really an interesting twist here because in the midst of the pandemic where we've seen our economy go onto shaky ground we have We have our unemployment hovering in double digits. Now the marijuana industry has really gone through the roof. Here. We have seen a an increase of 40% over last year so far this year and the sales of cannabis in the country. Medical and recreational expected to be more than $15 billion that number is expected to go over 35 billion by 2024. And is this connected right now to the pandemic, the experts say. Absolutely, it is Tony because anxiety right now is the number two reason that people list for getting a medical marijuana card and medical marijuana is now available in 33 states and the District of Columbia. In some form, like in Kentucky, CBD oil is allowed as part of that. But, ah, anxiety is listed as number two on Lee behind chronic pain, and, of course, anxiety has risen for a number of reasons during this pandemic. Another thing, the experts say, another factor involved his boredom. People are just a shuttered and in many cases have been from time to time during this pandemic, and this was kind of a release there, and also another factor to is that they say. That the extra $600 a week for the unemployed well with extra disposable income. Some of that went to the purchase of U got it Marijuana, So this is really creating a situation where this is booming At a time when many businesses are really struggling, there have been record sales reported. In states like Illinois, Oregon, Colorado all have recreational marijuana, Of course, Michigan expected to top $2 billion in sales over the next couple of years. California's number wanted over $3 billion a year in sales and get this one in Pennsylvania. Tony Patient visits to cannabis dispensaries, up 70% since February. Wow. So are they smoking token or nibbling doing a little of each? It's a little of each of the main and and of course, it varies from state to state on what is allowed for medical marijuana. Like I said in Kentucky, it's CBD oil in others. You might have any, uh, any type of option in other states who might have only edibles allowed or even some type of topical treatments. So it varies from state to state, but still, the most popular overall is the inhaled variety. So let me ask you a question, because what's interesting to me about all of this is that it is still a federal crime possessed by or sell pot. If the if the fans wanted to crack down and they don't have the prison support And or the placing, probably to be able to do this. But if they were to crack down on this particular topic what for that, too? Could it be done? I really don't think it could be done because a lot of states in particular have decriminalized. If they have not legalized it. They have de criminalized. It s so that even possession of marijuana for recreational use will not be prosecuted. If the federal government wanted to try to crack down on your right marijuana is still a schedule one Drug, according to the federal government. The same thing is like heroin would be or cocaine. So if they wanted to crack down, I suppose they could, but they would not get any cooperation from local authorities. That's for sure. Ah, and it's only a matter of time before that changes on the federal level as a CZ evidence continues to mount that that there may be some some riel benefits of of cannabis use for some people who might be suffering from Chronic pain or things like post traumatic stress disorder and a number of other ailments. It is shown to be effective for. Yeah, that's that's a great question. Another one Tony is what do we do about driving under the influence? Since there really is no test for this? You can't do a Breathalyzer. But as the youth becomes more common nationwide. You would think that there's gonna have to be some type of measure taken to confront that
Survivors of COVID-19, who received hospital treatment, show increased rate of psychiatric disorders
"More than half of people who received hospital treatment for Covid nineteen were found to be suffering from a psychiatric disorder a month. Later, a study has found. Out, of four hundred, two patients monitored after being treated for the virus, fifty, five percent were found to have at least one psychiatric disorder according to experts from San. Rafael Hospital in Milan found. The results based on clinical interviews and self assessment questionnaires showed post traumatic stress disorder in twenty, eight percent of cases depression in thirty, one and anxiety in forty-two. Additionally forty percent of patients had insomnia and twenty percent had obsessive compulsive symptoms. The findings increased concerns about the psychological effects of the virus. The paper published yesterday in the Journal Brain behavior and immunity says PTSD major depression, and anxiety. All high burden. noncommunicable conditions associated with years of life lived with disability, the study of two, hundred, sixty, five men, and one hundred, and thirty seven women found that women who are less likely to die from Cova than men suffered. Suffered more than men psychologically patients with previous positive psychiatric diagnoses suffered more than those without a history of psychiatric disorder. They said, psychiatric efforts could be caused by the immune response to the virus itself. All by psychological stresses, such as social isolation, psychological impact of a novel severe and potentially fatal illness concerns about infecting others and stigma outpatient showed increase anxiety and sleep disturbances while perhaps surprisingly, the duration of hospitalization inversely correlated with symptoms of St Depression anxiety and OCD.
Rip Van Winkle
"We have some. We have a big show today. We're going to just do our things. Oh Oh man I. I don't know man like I woke up. What's the story about the guy who goes to sleep for like a hundred years and wakes after whatever is that a retail it's not rapunzel it's It's is that echoed crane or. Is that the headless Horseman Sandwich. It's the one In a look at apple look I I could easily Google but I'm not going to. The point is okay. Thank you the point is that. I woke up this morning and I felt like I was waking up from being dead for like one hundred years so I'm tired and disoriented Rip Van Winkle Rip Van Winkle like I said Yeah I feel like Rip Van Winkle but I'm okay like I'm fine but like just I think we would be remiss to not mention that the life is really like tiring right now. Yeah Yeah Wednesday just Just left me. We're recording on on a Thursday crutches. Thursday it's allegedly. Yeah we're all like messed up and like my schedule has totally I? Everything is just is just like kind of a weird Amorphous Blob of time and it's every day is a question of like. How am I going to sculpt this time blob and every day as a surprise? Yeah how fun. Yeah it's a really good time But actually so that's a that's a transition that I'm going to take advantage of talking about this article Yes it has. Oh with the headline training for this our entire lives. And it's by. It's by Todd EMCO. Who's a listener of the struggle bus and the the dog parent of Piggy a very adorable service animal legged SOG piggy offer talk about Peggy for a second piggy is literally the best thing ever piggy is emotional service dog as well and can tell when you're feeling sad and goes up to people randomly and just knows when they're feeling sad so piggies doing overtime? Feel Yeah I feel like yeah piggies like working around the clock probably because picky so good at like human beings But todd takes piggy to schools and and Kids come up to piggy initials relieved beautiful disease. There's a lot of videos about Peggy. But were all linked to this on. Go Bus PODCAST. Dot Com this. Article's really interesting so yes there is really at article by Todd. And it's like talking about how What will the idea is basically that there are many people out there who are what what everyone is experiencing right now in a way there are people who have been kind of you know quote unquote like he says training for this their entire lives so lang todd says as as a severe obsessive compulsive disorder post traumatic stress disorder anxiety sufferer someone with compromised immune system? I know that people like me of spending our entire lives self isolating compulsively washing your hands in dealing with systemic exploitation of our plight and then the article he just he just goes on to talk about the various strategies that He uses in. That are familiar to him for like just dealing with the reality that we're in right now and it's really it's really interesting. It's really helpful. It's published in a mad in Asia Pacific and you can willing to it in the show notes but it's it's really good. I reread at this morning. And there's just like just a bunch of Just like awesome tips in there and not just tips but like just someone talking about you know aspects of a lot of us are feeling right now and it just feels really nice to kind of have that you know be recognized like called out so check that out as someone who has. Ocd and anxiety These are not the things I'm used to like washing. The hands is not my thing. You know checking doors or you know not talking to people and so. I've learned to adapt right so I think it's it's a really beat Florida about adapting and and how our anxiety is you know it can be real and you know we. We talk a lot about What's the word you use the Rip Van Winkle. Yeah no but sort of like just sort of like over thinking things and thinking like Oh. This isn't a catastrophic catastrophic thinking. That's all right. Thank you and and at this point we can think that way and I think that that's in in a very strange way Very welcome for those of us who have catastrophic thinking it's like okay Yeah yeah one thing that like. I can't remember if you and me were talking about this I forget who I spoke about anything on Zoom meeting with the I know. Yeah totally but like I. I've been feeling like Like my in a weird way. I especially felt this way in the very beginning of all of this I when people were like really starting to come around to how serious this was When people finally started to come around I was. I felt like finally relieved in a way. Oh well yeah absolutely but like that my like my like anxiety and vigilance about the world and its dangers and being safe that like other people were finally like thinking about that too and there are many people who think about that all the time because there are plenty of people in our country who are under extreme threat all the time just by virtue of they are but but like. I think that until this happened and like reality set in for a lot of people There were there. Were just a lot of people who aren't accustomed to thinking about what it means to live in uncertainty and to feel you know that the state not only will not protect you but is actively harming you And that there's chaos outside your doors and all the stuff and there's something about like people kind of also realizing that that's happening that made me feel like finally people are getting what I've always gotten like you know just because like we. We all have our own things that were bringing to everything in like my one of the things I bring to. Everything is being hyper vigilant and being like Yeah like thinking catastrophically cause me to spiral and have like not unproductive thoughts but cows probably thinking is also what has like my my like history of catastrophic making my propensity for it is. I think what has positioned me me personally to like. Be Relatively okay during all of this Yeah I'm very surprised. How calm I am during all this. You know I went through my spiral a few weeks ago. Like oh no and now like I'm good right so it's like these are things that we we just talked to our doctors and talk to our friends and it turns out that a lot of people that we know have had this or are carriers and it's very serious and we should take seriously but I like that people are well. I don't like anything about this but I like the people are finally taking it seriously and so when I tell people they're like oh myself as well and I'm like oh now we're sharing and unfortunately I mean this may be we'll go into your your next segment of debris Jabra of I really wish people took this more seriously if they aren't already Know New Yorkers are taking this seriously because we're very close spaces but I see a lot of things on social media where people are like but can I just walk around the block and do this friend and it's like no no. You're hurting us. If you if you heard other people you could be a carrier. I'm sorry to get negative sally. That's fine but do you want to like. How are you feeling are you? Are you doing? Okay just want people to know listening wisely. Yes how allies I am doing. A thousand percent better. I have I still have a low fever which is weird but you know it is what it is and I feel a thousand percent better. I've been just cleaning the apartment and cook and food as much as I can the even though my landlord turned the gas off. But that's another subject entirely
"Today. We're talking about unconscious. Orbiting Call Young says until you make the unconscious conscious. It will direct your life and you will call it fate so sometimes the subjects in our life come in for a reason. Sometimes they're just noise. Sometimes the stimulus that we see is random but sometimes it's not and sometimes we find ourselves circling orbiting the same topics people places terminology again and again and again sometimes we can be orbiting something that is so important to us yet remains so far away from our conscious understanding that it's hard for us to even see the good news today. Is that just by becoming aware of the fact that you've been unconsciously orbiting something you can investigate further you don't have to remain orbiting it forever. You can get closer to the planet that celestial body some crash into it as I did with. Ptsd this last year or sometimes you can look into it a little bit closer to the surface and realize now there's nothing there that's not about me that's just something in the unconscious and then you can get the escape velocity needed to make a break and get away from that celestial body or thing that you've been orbiting so in my case though this was ptsd. When I left the military years ago though on a date myself too much there. I'm still young still young though when I left the military. This was something I researched. I wrote a book. I did a lot to try to draw awareness to emerging resources for veterans for first responders anyone suffering from PTSD and generally just who wanted to see where the future was and what type of opportunities were available to veterans that were undervalued or recently coming on the scene. You know not. Many people knew about them so this leads to writing a book. I briefed a panel of generals in DC on topics relating to. Ptsd in the future of work as well as talking about culture the culture of the military. And how we could create a kind of a better reintegration program in the civilian world for veterans. This was a lot of fun however it's brought me very close to PTSD post traumatic stress disorder. And I was open to the idea that I had it however I also was open to the idea that people around me at it much much worse and we need to focus our efforts in our attentions on those that had it in the most severe forms so this led me to just orbit this topic and one of the pieces of good news that you can use. Is that when you're orbiting topic and you find yourself really passionately committed to it and you find yourself defensively triggered about the topic so in the case and PTSD. I just couldn't stand the fact that the of the acronym the disorder part was attached to it. Right this is a sign where you know the biological organism. That's having a natural stress reaction to a traumatic event doesn't need the D. added because this is a cultural stigma. Basically the idea that this is a disorder. I felt was just unnecessary cultural judgment and baggage and the reality is though. It doesn't really matter how I feel. It's what the term is labeled as it's what the medical community wants to call it. So that's what it's going to be called and a lot of psychological terms whether they're in the DSM five or anything like that they come with tons and tons of baggage and there's going to be cultural stigmas about this stuff any way you cut it right. Anything emerging from the unconscious is going to have cultural stigmas. They're going to be inevitable and it's very important that you notice. How defensive you get around certain topics. This is rife for clues. This is rife for going deeper. This is a big big opportunity to be brave enough to go into the unconscious. Gilo bit closer to the object and examined in detail so for years I just stayed orbiting this. This was something that was. In my periphery and it wasn't until I crash landed into this realization literally with near death experience last year that I was open to the idea that not only had. I been suffering from it but I'd been suffering quite severely. You know as far back as childhood so you might have to crash land into an object from your unconscious to make it conscious. This isn't a bad thing. Many people will deny ever crashing into objects from their unconscious. They will keep this bottled up. They will think that happens to other. People doesn't happen to me. This is the place you want to avoid because if you can make the unconscious conscious like young says you can free yourself from it. You can free yourself from fate. There's no fate but what we make and you have an opportunity to make new fate. And maybe even cast out that B. S. descriptors the most passive word in the world fate and adopt new words adopt new language for the future. I would say unwritten. I would say it's whatever you WanNa make I would say it's whatever you envision and believe and create. That's what's going to happen so this is a call to action to become more definitely optimistic about your words about your vision and about what you choose to research that is hovering in that realm up unconscious and consciousness when you're brave enough to admit to what you've been orbiting now. You have a chance to integrate it into your psychology so defensive about it noticed that. Don't judge it. Just look at that as a an early warning sign that dangerous close or an opportunity is close or it might just be a false alarm and you just pull off. And you had the escape velocity to get off the planet or get away from that gravity when you go out into the world today when your in quarantine when you're thinking if you're meditating on this the daily mission is to think about and write out whether it's in a journal or on your phone in the notes. App right out. What have you been orbiting that you need to examine more closely and get Intel on? You will not regret it. You will not regret taking a little bit of action today to examine that celestial body more closely and pull out that thing from the unconscious look at it. Make a conscious and either transmute it integrated into your psychology. Whatever you want to say this is a powerful idea an activity. I encourage everyone listening to think about it and maybe take some action on it today. Thanks for listening
Knowing Yourself for the First Time
"It's been a while since you joined us last time you were here. You got to hang out with Stephanie. And talk with her. And I'm excited to be able to sit down with you remotely today and throw the ball in your court. You can do a little bit of interviewing me and vice versa here. Well you know just went down on the phone. We're talking about what this shelter at home has done and our lives in all the questions. It's bagging I would love to hear your perspective. You distract started telling what has changed in your world and what are some of the bigger questions that are being asked right now. Sure so personally. Of course we start there. This is all couched from a lens of I had some pretty profound struggles late last year and in in my life to the fact that I've had post traumatic stress disorder for quite a while. I've been in denial about it. I've been running in all kinds of different circles to act like it wasn't there so that was something that started late last year. really hit home mountain near death experience and it led me to getting not just professional help but starting protocol created by maps dot org that includes Dna and it's the most efficacious thing in the world for carrying PTSD. So that's the journey. I'm on right now. I have had one active medicine session. And there's a lot going on in my life however When we were talking earlier it's there's never been a more interesting time for me. Feels very frightening in one sense but then beautiful in another sense where for the first time in my life. I'M WAKING UP FROM A coma that I've had for as far as I can tell and with the help a train professionals since I've been a child and so that's the Lens that I'm doing things throw so full disclosure there however there's this wonderful opportunity. I think that all of us have now to really look at where our lives are and look at who the people in our lives are and really get a chance to see them for the first time because Emmy. When was the last time that we've spent a couple weeks together in the same place right the quarantines already longer than most vacations and it just begs the question? What type of lifestyles were we living to this prior to the pandemic so I guess that's where I'll start Woah? Wow Wow I feel like nothing I have to talk about. Is this interesting as what you have to talk about is so this? Oh my goodness so. I love this idea that we're able to see things for the first time that we've been seeing all along and it reminds me. GonNa get wrong. I think it's t s eliot quote that something like an end of all of our journey is two rides. Were we start no the place for the first time and know the place for the time? This is what it reminds me about is like this chance to and for those who are fortunate to be able to shelter with people and with people that they care about to have this. It's like it's incredible intimacy to be able to. Oh Yeah like. I've been living with you for you know for me. The kids like I'm living with my daughter. I've been living with for twenty three years. I know but now I'm getting to know her in a way that I never have before and to really see the people that we pass in the halls just whether at home or at work like Oh wow I see now very different way. Yes there's so much to talk about with with what you're going your bed given my limited understanding of of what you've been going. I would love to hear. What are you able to feel that you haven't been able to feel for years? Sure the most profound thing was the morning after the first active medicine session was the first time I feel like I've ever seen myself in the mirror and I've struggled with body dismore disorder since I've been young and obviously I look different now than I did when I was younger. But this is the first time that I've been able to see myself without the voice kind of ringing in my ears. That was our to tolerate so that. Like a distortion. Yes you're able to see yourself without some distortion. That has been there. Yes without a mask that I was kind of wearing from childhood and it was not just a bit of a profound thing. It was a a you know I was singing spontaneously. I was looking all around and it was almost like I had a new body a lot of different emotions. But that's just the start of the unfolding Because this is a it's been described as you know the session. The medicine are one thing but the change that it begins to spark a brain chemistry level at a psychological level those start unfolding rapidly throughout the integration process which is no small task in and of itself so working consistently with the same psychotherapist that administered the medicine each week. Doing some texting doing some journaling. All kinds of different things. But it's It's been an experience to say the least okay so I have to ask you like what is it that you are saying for the first time that you really like and its context to that. I haven't been through anything. You perhaps are grappling with now. I remember one time. I travel a lot for her in a hotel bathroom. And you know you look at yourself in the near and you don't really see yourself like you're brushing your make your hair. Whatever and I think it was because I was alone in a hotel room like no one around to now tell everyone here now is I just looked at myself in the mirror like one of the first times. I really just looked at myself like I with myself. It could not have been more than thirty seconds. Privacy chatted terror. I myself I was like who like. That was a little bit scary. Somehow she scared me by disciplines like penetrating eye contact so I had this long look at myself wanted it kind of frightened me alone in this. This bathroom what is it. That you saw is how healy like like. I don't know really love what I see and I. I don't know all the specifics of what you mentioned but I kind of feel like. I've had similar experiences as well. Yeah they're they're very they're very interesting and the more work I do. The more discover of course like how little I know but that's not terrifying anymore. It's not like the fear of the unknown is just radically diminished as I keep walking on this journey and you know it wasn't about loving what I saw or anything like that. It was just this feeling of being okay with what I saw and myself and realizing that it was enough and I didn't I didn't have to change. I didn't have to work out more. I didn't have to do anything really that it would be okay and I would be okay so was it really starting at a baseline of Loving myself by any stretch of the imagination. It just I sparked a a lot of curiosity. I guess is the best way to to say the all-consuming emotion that came from so curious about what it's an interesting thing but I didn't see got Kinda like that. That would make you feel
Schizophrenia in Men
"I'm Rachel Star here with my co host Gape Howard last episode. We discussed how schizophrenia affects women and this episode. We are focusing on the gentleman exciting. We have Jason Jepson. Who's GONNA join us? He is a mental health advocate. Also a veteran. Who HAS SCHIZOPHRENIA? And Dr Finch will return to help us understand the medical side of things that are going on Rachel. I'm looking forward to a great show. I'm excited to gave last month. Rachel we learned how schizophrenia impacts women. You know things. Like motherhood and pregnancy and menopause and aging and. I don't think there's a lot of people were surprised that any illness would impact a female differently than it would a male but we sort of want to open that up because there were some big differences in how schizophrenia presents in males over females and I think that was surprising for us during the research because we just assumed that an illness hits women differently because I think society is conditioned to believe that women go through everything differently. The fact that we hear mentioned over and over is that men tend to get diagnosed far earlier in life than women. Do with schizophrenia. However as we talked about last episode that's not always true especially in families who have a history of mental illness and even amongst like different ethnic groups but due to being diagnosed younger age men often have not attained the same degree of social development as women. Do at the onset of schizophrenia and that can contribute to poor social outcomes during our research. We learned that the reason that menor often diagnosed earlier because men are showing more emotions or boehner abilities and when seen in women as we learned last month. They're just like oh well she's a woman so of course she's being emotional. Where when the exact same symptoms seen in men that like oh? This is a problem but as you pointed out getting diagnosed earlier isn't necessarily the advantage that we think it is in males because stereotypically they're looking at you for all kinds of issues as we're GONNA learn from our guest. One of those issues is violence or rage or anger. My question to you Rachel is. Do you think that men have an easier time with schizophrenia? Or is it just a different time? I would definitely say a different time being diagnosed earlier that in itself and we talked about mini episodes ago where it comes to diagnosing children where that has a huge impact on you. You know if you know earlier that you have a major mental disorder that can change just how other people view you yourself. How your parents view your future? I know that's definitely come up just in my own life. But I can't imagine. Had I gotten the diagnosis in high school. My parents probably immediately would have started wearing like while she can't go to college. Just assuming things so just like being diagnosed sooner. I think is really scary. And then the flip side not being diagnosed until your mid twenties like many women. Are you probably been dealing with this for a while? Had not been able to get help so it's definitely a different situation. I don't think either side is going to be easier anytime. You're dealing with schizophrenia. It's going to be intense across the board. Rachel do a refresh real quick and talk about symptoms that tend to impact men more than women. Men tend to have more serious cognitive deficits more the flat effect we have a monotone voice very dull expression. You don't really react the way that people would normally react in situations blunted emotional responses where it's just kind of. I don't WanNA say chill but you're just kind of you know straight across the board when things happen. Speech reduction and men tend to be less active than women. And of course just because you're male or female doesn't mean that you fit in a nice tidy box right it just just because you're male doesn't mean that you will have all of these and just because you're male doesn't mean that your family will not notice or will notice. We're speaking in generalities when we talk about stereotypically. This is how schizophrenia presents in men. Yes absolutely and Rachel. Of course we love you very much. But you're a woman living with schizophrenia. So you thought it would be appropriate to bring on a male who is living schizophrenia. And that's why we have a great guest who you spent some time with Jason. Jepson as you said. He's a veteran. He's awesome. He's living with schizophrenia. And you did a great interview. You're ready to roll it absolutely here. We go today's guest. Is Jason Jepson? Who also has schizophrenia? Thank you so much for being with us today. Jason Thank you for having me so right away. I what you to tell our listeners about yourself okay. Sure I'm a writer. I started journaling when I was in the seventh grade. I have two books out. I'm also a veteran. I'm a part of the Vet Council at McGuire. Veterans Hospital remained. Sure that veterans don't fall through the cracks and we dragged him to mineral services. It's awesome well. Thank you so much. Thank you very much for serving for US. Thank you so much. So what age were you diagnosed with schizophrenia? I was the diagnosis of schizophrenia. When I was twenty three I was diagnosed in the army. The thing is. I don't know how your schizophrenia is. But my I knew the voices the voices in my head board the other soldiers that fought in California where I was stationed in also friends from Richmond. Virginia because I saw my heaven hear their voices. It took me a little while to Except my illness. Did you have signs that you noticed earlier? Age Not really in high school. I'd mild depression. I saw a counselor for short time but I still was social. Had Friends and I've played Lacrosse in high school. Now do you have visual hallucinations. Also are yours mainly audio then in my twenties it was mainly voices that I couldn't figure out. Where were they will coming from? Stow our episode. Today is focusing on. How men experienced schizophrenia. Different than women? Do you have any thoughts on that? Do you feel. There's much of a difference Well I think everybody's experience for Schizophrenia. Is Different in general. I think we hear voices delusions but the specifics of a different. If that makes any sense okay. It's just important to find the right treatment plant for men and women you know. Find the right medication. Maybe have therapy. How does someone to trust like your parents or your friends and all that takes trial and error for both men and women. I want to ask you this because I think it has like two sides that you see. A lot of men with schizophrenia ended up homeless and I know with you also working with veterans. You hear that a lot too when you have a lot of people coming back with post traumatic stress disorder. What are your thoughts on that? Yes what kills me makes me when attack. This mental health thing for veterans is out veterans actually committed suicide in the parking lot of the. Va Can you believe that? I mean there's gotta be an answer to that. I mean. It took me a while. Ask for help myself. How do we get there? How do we combat that? You know it's just I hope. Veterans Council can reach out to them. we were still a new organization. But that's just need to ask for help and it can be take awhile but be patient. I would say men are typically known for not wanting to ask for help and I can imagine it's been doing you're talking about like soldiers you know the idea of masculinity it being even harder for guys like that exactly what you know one thing. That's helping. There's more athletes coming forward to Lesson to stigma for men. I'm sure you for that. Dwayne Rock Johnson has come out saying he gets depressed. I mean that guy's a famous actor and that's going to do great things for men in my opinion is huge. You think masculinity he's just giant muscle. What has been your biggest struggle as a man with schizophrenia? Well it's the Saudi expectations. The stereotypes gave does this wonderful on the social network but but know why kids job. I used to avoid social situations because the question. What do you do? What do you do for a living? Because I didn't have an answer then. I realized I would make a house advocate and I'm proud to be a mental health advocate when you say you're a minute health advocate that opens the door for education. What is it one in? Four people have some kind of mental illness. You know so if you open up. A mental health advocate well. My my sister has bipolar. My uncle is a schizophrenic. You know it opens it up and talking about it. Like we're doing now is the most important things to bus stigma. What advice do you have for men? That are listening. Right now with schizophrenia. Except your diagnosis is probably one of the most important things I can say when he accepted you. Get on the right medication. Be Patient with medication and It's okay to ask for help you know ask for help. It's it's okay to ask for
Prince Harry and Bon Jovi to collaborate
"Britain's prince Harry joined Jon Bon Jovi at Abbey Road Studios in London where the singer recorded a single for charity by Joe he was re recording is twenty nineteen single unbroken to support a foundation that oversees the Invictus games the multinational sports event for sick and injured servicemen was founded by Harry and the song was created to shine a spotlight on veterans living with post traumatic stress disorder the two were seen in a recording booth wearing headphones and Bon Jovi had a guitar the event was one of the last official engagements being undertaken by prince Harry who is stepping back from royal duties at the end of
Doctors find US family separations constitutes torture.
"Funding wants to transfer five hundred thirty five million dollars more from an ebola preparedness account a move opposed by Democrats the trauma. Donald Trump's administration caused two young children and parents separated at the US. Mexico border constitutes torture according to evaluations of Twenty Six children and adults by the group Physicians for Human Rights the not for profit groups report provides the first in-depth look at the psychological impact of family separation. Which the US government continued despite warnings from the nation's top medical bodies as a clinician. Nobody was prepared for this to happen on our soil. The report CO author Dr Ran Into Missouri Senior Medical Advisor. Ph said it is beyond shocking that this could happen in the United States by Americans at the instruction and direct intention of US government officials. Legal experts have argued family separations constituted torture. But this is the first time. A medical group has reached the determination. Hr volunteer psychiatrists evaluated seventeen adults and nine children who had been separated for between thirty to ninety days most met the criteria for at least one mental health condition including post traumatic stress disorder major depressive disorder or generalized anxiety disorder consistent with and likely linked to the trauma of family separation not only did the brutal family separation policy create trauma. It was intensified by the families previous exposure to violence on their journey to the US and in their home countries of Honduras. Guatemala and El Salvador in the face of these threats parents tried to move within. The country changed their phone. Numbers meet extortion demands and go silent on social media ultimately however the report said parents were confident that the journey to the United States would result in protection for their children. This is not what happened at the border. The trump administration instituted a policy in April. Two thousand eighteen that formerly enabled the mass separation of children and parents at the US Mexico. Border trump was forced to end the policy. In June twenty eighteen bought it has since been
Invisible wounds of trauma that cut deep
"During the civil war it was called soldiers heart after World War two they call it gross stress reaction it's been called shell shock Warner roses and battle fatigue today we call it post traumatic stress disorder and it affects one out of every five warriors returning from battle in Iraq and Afghanistan it's not a move that you can see though it can have an even more significant