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"This week's theme is for your reconsideration. The curator is Donde from luminary. Here are the podcasts and episodes chosen by Yolanda. Monday's episode comes from metaphysical milkshake and is called. Can you honor indigenous faiths without being a jerk. It's thirty four minutes long in this episode. rainn Wilson Resin Ostlund have one question. How do we honor and embrace embrace indigenous faiths without becoming like Kevin Costner? How can we become more than dilettantes? With dream catchers Kevin Locke is an artist Hoop dancer musician musician. Educator and cultural ambassador for his Lakota an Amish on Beirut's he joined the pod to share what we can do to better understand our indigenous faith traditions and how out to see our spiritual heritage in all the land around us. Join the conversation using Hashtag. Metaphysical an email your thoughts to metaphysical milkshake at soul pancake. GEICO DOT COM. Tuesday's episode comes from on second thought with Trevor Noah and is called prison break. It's forty four minutes long in this episode. Trevor and David David discussed their ideas for improving. Prison then talk about alternatives to incarceration Danielle Sarid founder of common justice. Wednesday's episode comes from from under the skin with Russell brand and his called science capitalism. And God with Neil degrasse Tyson. It's one hundred twenty one minutes long. Here's the description. This week's guest on under the skin is the infamous astrophysicist Neil degrasse Tyson. He's pretty amazing. He was promoting his book letters from an astrophysicist but he was much more than and being a focused and dedicated educator I enjoyed talking to him. Thursday's episode comes from here to slay with Roxane gay and Tracy McMillan Cottam him and his called all. Your faves are problematic. It's fifty three minutes long this week on the show Tracy and Roxanne take on the Popeye's chicken sandwich and all of its glory as well as the problematic takes that have come along with it. Friday's episode comes from the seaward with Lena Dunham and Alison Bennett and is called Lady Rosemary. Aber door it's fifty three minutes long in this episode Rosemary. Obrador seemed to most like a shy awkward wallflower but underneath drab exterior lurked an appetite for Jules parties parties and larceny born into an unassuming middle-class English home rosemary secretly stole thousands of pounds to fund her glamorous identity as titled Aristocracy. That's Lady Lady Aberdeen to you. Lena analyst Cover Rosemary's wild parties outrageous schemes her ultimate downfall and discuss what it's like to feel unseen and unappreciated those are the podcast recommendations chosen by Yolanda for this week's theme for your reconsideration
"tracy mcmillan" Discussed on On Point with Tom Ashbrook | Podcasts
"Switching. That exists. And listen, I love that we have this sort of cultural fluency, but I also wanted to push back. I think in this tax on the tax that has on people as Angela really describes the earth, this constant navigating of making people comfortable because his Angela points out, in as many people, a black women have experienced there, really is not enough coats witching that we can do to demonstrate to people who fundamentally do not believe that we have agency or a value or intelligences. There's really not enough coats, which we can do to make those people. Okay. Right. So when the person turns to look, she turns to in that exchange for validation of whether or not the word is a word, right? You don't you don't even discuss it with the person who said it right? So what do you mean by? Right. There's no follow up about. Oh, is that? What that were me? Oh, is that what that is? Oh, I've never called it that, you know what we call it where I'm from. That would be a normal sort of exchange. But when you are looking to the others around you who are not. The black women sort of validate the person as they sit there. There was no code switching that was going to fix that. And that's why I talk about as much as I enjoy the cultural tradition. One of the things privileges, I'm exercising lately, in my life is not code switching not because I cannot or should not, but because I want people to feel more uncomfortable in those moments. It's when people are in that moment suspended in half to reflect on why they're uncomfortable. That maybe they'll see their actions. Right. Maybe it'll prompt them to be more reflexive about why they would turn to someone else to figure out whether or not the black woman knows the word that she was using while we're speaking with Tracy McMillan Cottam caught him. She is a writer columnist professor of sociology at Virginia. Commonwealth university, a lot of her writing has been now put into the new collection. It's called thick and other essays. She explores beauty money identity experiences that define black. Womanhood in America. Professor Cottam is also author of the book lower Ed, the troubling rise of four profit colleges in the new economy. Professor Carter would we come back on ask you about beauty and black women? Okay. So stick with us. We'll be right back. This is on point. Jesse thorn, Timothy Simon's played Jona Ryan on HBO's veep on a show known for its insults has anybody got more of them than Jona, if the cruelty registered our show would be an hour and fifteen minutes long because every scene would be like excuse me. You can't speak to me that way this week on bullseye for maximum fun dot org. And NPR..
"tracy mcmillan" Discussed on Guys We F****d
"You fucked. But you're also getting Lena Dunham has a podcast that she's coasting on luminary. It's called the c word and the the subject air the description is they reexamined the downward spirals of notorious women throughout American history. I'm like holy yet. Has she word is crazy. Not conned. Yeah. Yeah. And and then here to slay with Roxane gay, and Tracy McMillan cotton is a great fucking podcast. And there's there's like, I think Twenty-eight exclusive podcast from the most brilliant minds and God damn earth. And I'm really excited for you guys to hear them, and I think you'll love him. So and also to just the idea of when you're a business owner, and if you're listening to this, and you want business, you know, like taking risks is something that's very important to us. And sometimes you just wanna take a risk and do something because you want to move onto the next phase of wherever you're at with your project or your business. So I'm excited about that. I'm really excited about luminary. And thank you all for listening and a love you and have a blessed day. Yeah. And jumping on off that because we. I do wanna make sure people are keeping subscribed on itunes and Spotify because we will periodically be releasing some treats and surprises there still especially to keep in touch with people who might not be able to get luminary right now, we want to we're really cognizant of that. It's so important for us to be charting. And so we wanted to remind you nineteen so please Lee rate and review us on itunes, and we're running a little contest as an incentive because we know you guys love a trip to the treasure chest. I know it's waivers. So in this coming week if you could head over to IT tunes and leave a review, right? Some positive words. Just you know, it doesn't have to be a, you know, a paragraph and be too and then give it a five star review. And then just hashtag it scoot, scoot, scoot, scoot. We want to spell that as C O T SEO OT. But you know, if you could do a variable as long as we know we're doing. You're what you're talking about a screen shot it, and then Email it to our show Email address, which is sorry about last night show at g mail dot com. And you will enter yourself into a.
"tracy mcmillan" Discussed on On Point with Tom Ashbrook | Podcasts
"If you've got a question for Tracy McMillan caught him up, professor Cottam. Oh, just want to I want to engage with a bunch of your other essays through the rest of this hour, but I do want to just get to a simple question about g the tensions that that black public intellectuals may feel in terms of and especially black women because a lot of what you write about is is talking about how how the bla- the experience of black women. Ought to be honored and recognized and learn from every day in America in and of itself, just by fact, but you also write about your own personal story as well. So I'm just wondering is there is there a tension there between saying like, look, listen because we are experts. But will also do feel obligated to weave your own personal narrative into it. And did you sit I'm getting out. I do I do. Yeah. I think about that tension in many ways this book is my one of the ways that I am practicing or trying to come to live with that tension and trying to figure out quite frankly, if it can be navigated, I'm not arrogant enough to think that I would be the first person to figure out on the crack that very complicated issue to fix it in my own life. Anyway, this has been of issue for black women who have been doing intellectual work for the whole recorded history of our time, I in western society, which is that what people tend to want from us what an audience wants when. They want to consume what black women produce as our intellectual work say often want to produce they want to consume our emotions and our experiences, which is not always the same as respecting our expertise, and our intellectual contribution. Now. That's a problem for women intellectuals were large I would like to say, but as I will say to people it can be a problem for everybody. I just happened to be talking about black women. At because I do think it is particularly acute for black women because what you're butting up against their stereotypes about who is allowed to be expert. Right. And the farther away you move from our dominant assumptions about who should have expertise, generally speaking, the more, you have to prove that you have a legitimate claim to whatever you're speaking on for black women that means we're dealing with idea racist ideas and stereotypes about whose knowledge is valuable, but we're also dealing with gender stereotypes about who should be allowed to speak into lead. We're also dealing with class issues about because African American women for all the reasons I would hope many of us know are less likely to be represented in high income status groups, we are also dealing with the issues of class when more likely to be poor or working class, and our society also doesn't value expertise from those groups of people and so just layer and layer upon sort of inequalities manifest in this way. This is for black women. To be respected as experts on whatever it is. We've been trained in whatever, you know, experiences. We bring to a conversation. We almost always I have to present a palatable form of our, you know, our sob story. I, you know, I talk about in the book is, you know, how angry sometimes my senior black women colleagues will get when they say, you're bleeding instead of thinking, you're bleeding on the page, and the problem there, of course, is that sometimes oftentimes too often dominant publications and outlets won't let us think until we have I bled. Jimmy pause here because because of what I wanna do is actually go back to a personal example, and you write about in the book. And of course, I'm feeling awkward about that. Because talking about this. Reading the book feeling uncomfortable..
"tracy mcmillan" Discussed on On Point with Tom Ashbrook | Podcasts
"If you've got a question for Tracy McMillan caught him up, professor Cottam. Oh, just want to I want to engage with a bunch of your other essays through the rest of this hour. But but I do want to just get to a simple question about g the tensions that that black public intellectuals may feel in terms of and especially black women because a lot of what you write about is is talking about how how the bla- the experience of black women. Ought to be honored and recognized and learn from every day in America in and of itself, just by fact, but you also write about your personal story as well. So I'm just wondering is there is there a tension there between saying like, look, listen because we are experts. But will also do feel obligated to weave your own personal narrative into it. And did you sit I'm getting out. I do I do. Yeah. I think about that tension in many ways this book is my one of the ways that I am practicing or trying to come to live with that tension and trying to figure out quite frankly, if it can be navigated, I'm not arrogant enough to think that I would be the first person to figure out on the crack that very complicated issue to fix it in my own life. Anyway, this has been of issue for black women who have been doing intellectual work for the whole recorded history of our time in western society. Which is that what people tend to want from us what an audience wants when? They want to consume what black women produce as our intellectual work as they often want to do they want to consume our emotions and our experiences, which is not always the same as respecting our expertise, and our intellectual contribution. Now. That's a problem for women intellectuals were large I would like to say, but as I will say to people it can be a problem for everybody. I just happened to be talking about black women. At because I do think it is particularly acute for black women because what you're butting up against their stereotypes about who is allowed to be expert. Right. And the farther away you move from our dominant assumptions about who should have expertise, generally speaking, the more, you have to prove that you have a legitimate claim to whatever you're speaking on for black women that means we're dealing with idea racist ideas and stereotypes about whose knowledge is valuable, but we're also dealing with gender stereotypes about who should be allowed to speak into lead. We're also dealing with class issues about because African American women for all the reasons I would hope many of us know are less likely to be represented in high income status groups, we are also dealing with the issues of class when more likely to be poor or working class, and our society also doesn't value expertise from those groups of people and so just layer and layer upon sort of inequalities manifest in this way. This is for black women. To be respected as experts on whatever it is. We've been trained in whatever, you know, experiences..
"tracy mcmillan" Discussed on The Daily Zeitgeist
"And I think that's maybe what it is. It's be- become associated with this life. It's like a lifestyle item. Yeah. They're like, no, we we can take some there's some cachet to it that we didn't. If it is a bullshit lifestyle item in like all that money is just going towards like the unattainable. Then this might hurt the actual like vibe that people get toast. So I support it. Yeah. Right. Get it off the menu. 'cause it's -fensive to me on a menu stupid Billy way in. It's been a pleasure. Always has man. Okay. Where can people find you? And is there a tweet you've been enjoying? Yeah. I I'm gonna brag about my tweet. Rich people voting like wealthy people that are about to be poor people. That's good. And we're at Billy Wayne Davis. Where did they find jokes like that Instagram Twitter? I think there's a Facebook. And then if you just Google Billy, Wayne Davis, whatever be like to social it'll come up there you go about that. And I'm I'll be in Humboldt county this weekend. So it will be tonight at savage, Henry comedy club in Rica, California. Nearly miles where can people find you? Find me on Twitter and Instagram at miles of crying. If you are interested in tweet that online it comes from Dr Tracy McMillan Cottam who is like an educator on has really cool by this tweet. It was really funny to me because it it underscores how sometimes people of color view, how white people live when you don't know if you're not as experienced that you say she says, I just want all white people to know that I assume everything I see in a hallmark movie is a documentary of white daily life right now. Millions of you just said I'm going to tell him. I love him the best way I know how with gingerbread. That is pretty accurate gingerbread is love language. I do think there is a larger swath of the population that probably does live like that. Oh, like sounds like a great time. Great time. It is nice. I I'm one of the people who live like that is your blood type gingerbread. Well, he lives you gave me k. Pumpkin spice. Oh, Tope tweeted, actually, Bucky isotope. But what he's going with right now. The narrator in the classic song Ghostbusters repeatedly exclaims that he doesn't believe in ghosts yet. He's sing a song about people who capture goes for a living, thus we establish he lacks Boniface, and is an unreliable narrator in this series of tweets, we will. And then he just does the one of three hundred seventy four. Thread thread, stick with me here. You can follow me on Twitter at Jack underscore O'Brien. You can follow us on Twitter at daily zeitgeist. We're at the daily zeitgeist on Instagram. We have Facebook page and a website daily zeitgeist dot com where we post our episodes and air foot no link off to the information that we talked about in today's episode. You can also find that information in the show note chart. Nice. There you want to tell you guys that creature feature the newest podcast from our comedy network has officially dropped. Explosion. Santa Cruz launching. There's nothing like a late. Always doing late. I was waiting for the first episode so good. It is Katie talking about weird types of strange love and the animal and human kingdoms. And yeah, go check it out. I think you guys are going to love that show. We're also at the Chicago pot fest on December first come check us out. Yeah. And miles. What song? Are we going to write out on? We are going to ride out on a little remixed by the avalanches. There's a song because I'm pretty com, but this is the black milk remix because I'm me again, you know, like the song because it's nice little chopped vocal samples on the vocals and against the beat is just a lot of music. I've been figuring just makes me feel hope that I'm in a colder climate and feels like music. I would listen to my headphones. So offer. It's hot as shit still not hot. It's like eighty but come on come on earth. Give me some cold. Please. Twenty nine. Now. What nevermind are told me good, really not good. Maybe you should I don't know. We're God damnit as the thing that's supposed to be. All right. We're gonna ride out on that. We will be back on Monday. Have a good weekend. Everyone. Great haddish
"tracy mcmillan" Discussed on Oprah's SuperSoul Conversations
"So you you leave instead of going, oh, I'm supposed to grow spiritually. Oh, I'm supposed to do some inner work here. I'm supposed to practice loving, like it's yoga win. The other person is I'm not saying you do this in an abusive relationship. I'm saying, let's say you find that loving willing partner. You join in that way. Way, then you start practicing. Absolutely. And you know, I'm so aware of that because I have a world of daughters. I have one hundred seventy daughters from my school in college. I go to my school once a year and teach what I call life wanna one, a lot of them have come from challenged difficult, abusive backgrounds, and I say to them, you're you're, that is going to show up over and over in your relationships unless you are aware of it. It's gonna come walking in the door. It wearing a different good. It's going to look at, but it's going to be the father who abandoned you. The mother who never was available to, it's going to show up, show up, show up, show up. But when you were aware of it and conscious of it, it's an opportunity to heal, right? Yeah, this is what I love so much. The good news is that I believe every woman who wants to can find a great partner. You're just going to need to get rid of the idea that. Marriage will make you happy. It won't. Once the initial high wears off, you'll just be you accept with twice as much laundry. Yes, that's just. Yeah. So this whole idea that our society, I mean, it was a good, you know it was a good line in the Jerry Maguire movie, but I think that messed a lot of people up. Yeah, that's right. There's no one's going to complete you your whole right now. Like the ideal marriages or relationship is too happy. People who joined together to create more happiness in really the light up the world because here's the thing wants. You are in that place of self, love. Your job becomes about loving people being channel of something other than your own thoughts. You know your own self obsession and to really just light up your little corner of the universe because ultimately marriage is not about getting something you say it's about giving it strangely men understand this more than we do do really well. I think in some ways there's a thing where no man dreams of way. White wedding dress, and I'm not saying every woman dreams of that. A lot of do. I don't a lot too. Reason, there's eighteen seasons of the bachelor reason. There's no show to the dress. It's like, I don't think men grow up with the mindset of someday. I'm going to get married and it's going to be the most big day. Yes, yes. So in that way, I think they have more of a focus on, okay, I'm going to get married and it's I'm going to. It's going to be hard and I'm gonna have to give something up. And so in that way, I think men's in some ways understand that it's difficult and in some ways, you know, we are a species we evolve to want to partner. I'm not saying it's all bad, but what I am saying is this you have to put some spirit on this, especially as long as we live and as long as our marriages and relationships aren't going to last, you need to put some spirit on it. If you're going to put the whole relationship on a higher plane. You need some spirit spirit. So if you had to leave. One message with us today. A super soul message for how to step up in our relationships. Not necessarily get married because I don't want to get married. Yeah, but how to fulfill the promise that a relationship could be for you, how would you? What would you tell us..
"tracy mcmillan" Discussed on Oprah's SuperSoul Conversations
"You know, Gary Zubkov was has been on super sold many times and wrote one of the books. It was most meaningful in my life seat as a soul. And he says that there is a he calls spiritual partnership, the partnership between equals for the purpose of spiritual grow. What is it true? Spiritual partnership look like to you? That's a good question. I think it can take a lot of different. It can look a lot of different ways, but the way it looks for me today is that the overwhelming feeling is love. You know, it's not struggle. I think like there's a difference between work and struggle struggle. No work, yes effort. Yeah, work with ease. Yes, work with ease and grace and one of the principles you speak of. So so beautifully here I've tried to for years, talk about the principle of surrendering and people so often mistaken for giving us, but it's a way of you. You describe it as letting go right, and you talk about whole yet, but in your hand? Yeah, utter fly in your hand. And when you open your hand, if it stay stays, it's because it shoes is to stay right? Or if it goes be well with that. Yeah, one of my simplest. Prayers, big part of my spiritual practice, and my prayers are very simple. It'll be a prayer like this show me show me what you want me to do. Use me is use me use me. And I think sometimes when I have a situation whenever I met a decision point in my life. It'll be like, I'm just going to open my hand and if it's supposed to go away or if the wind is supposed to come along and below, whatever it is off, my let it go. But it's not for me. And that's the thing. Like when you tell the truth to partner, this is what I'm looking for and they go away. It's because they're not for you. You want them to go away sooner rather than later. Absolutely. But I think what you what we've said in you've expressed so beautifully is that so many people are afraid that if I actually just tell the truth, then I'll be alone and I won't find anybody else in this was my one chance. And in fact, unless you tell the truth, you won't find that spiritual partnership because the spiritual partnership is based on the truth. Relationship expert tracing McMillan believes marriage is not about getting something it is all about giving. She says that the spiritual purpose of relationships has been clouded by romantic notions like the prince's fantasy the dream that marriage will make your life perfect or whole..
"tracy mcmillan" Discussed on Oprah's SuperSoul Conversations
"You know, sometimes I'll hear people say, okay, I want this and I want this and I want this and I'm like, whoa, whoa, whoa. Time out. What are you going to give? Because that's what this journey is about. It's really about being of service to another person. It's about loving another person. It really is. Yep. Here's the thing. I say. You can't blink a guy into loving you blink. I think word is it. That was an original or I would probably use another word in a casual conversation as you say, boy. Okay. Because here's the thing like sometimes we have a whole thing in our culture about friends with benefits, and I'm not saying you can't have sex with whoever you want. Of course you can. But if you're ready to get married and partner on a spiritual level, chances are you're going to have to let go of casual sex because it tends to get in the way of forming the true partnership. So let me read what you said on the how Florida. I'm not gonna read the whole article everybody, so though to have potent download it, it's so great and pass it on to all of your single friends and then get them the book. This is a perfect book for single friend while you're not married yet. Okay. You say because past a certain age casual sex is like recreational heroin, it doesn't stay recreational for long exactly how, what? A powerful savvy line now, not everyone's. Like this, but you can't take your three girlfriends who are successfully having casual sex and be one of them if that's not, you just need to figure out who you are. And what I learned is that I cannot have casual sex and keep a casual doesn't work for me, and if it doesn't and people just have to ask themselves, can you do it if you can't, then you need to stop having the casual sex? Yes, it's like you can't take a temp job hoping that if you're so great, you really wow on the temp job, you can work it into full-time. That is not how relationships work where you're going to start with the casual sex, which is the temp job and work it into the full-time, which is like the committed relationship. Yeah. Does it work that way doesn't. Yeah. You say another reason why we don't have the relationships you want while you're not married strong relationships is because you're liar. Yes. And what is lying mean? Well, for example, the guy says, okay, I just want to keep a casual. We can have casual sex. Like I'm just not in the mood. For big relationship right now and you go, oh, that's fine. I'm not in the mood for a big relationship right now. Either maybe in a couple of weeks I will be. But right now everything's cool. That's a lie. That's why. If you wanna be in a long term committed relationship, you have to say that you can't just but you shouldn't hide it behind your back on the first day. No, you don't have to say it on the first date you say to the person, if you give any boundary pretty much at all to another person, they'll be like, oh, if you say to them, hey, I really want a long term relationship and they don't want that. They'll they'll be like, okay, that's exactly what you say in the article you say. And now in the book you say that if women are afraid mostly to tell the truth, they tell the truth if they say, well, you know, I was really looking for a long longer term relationship that the guy will go..
"tracy mcmillan" Discussed on Oprah's SuperSoul Conversations
"Encounter is there to help us to come to know more fully who we really are everything I say all the time here on super soul, Sunday, nothing that ever happens is wasted. That's right. Unless you let it be waste. Yeah, there's something in there. Yeah. So if you're looking particularly because you're now the expert on relationships, if you're looking at your relationships and it's not working, the first place to look is hair right here and not don't look in a way of being mean to yourself and going how come you haven't figured it out yet. So what is the ques-. We should be asking Tracy, what is the question one asks when you're looking when you like, I know there's lots of you right now are in relationships is not going the way you wanted to. And what is the first question you should be asking of yourself because I think most people ask, how do I make him? Yes. How do I get him to? Yes, yes. So the question I ask myself is, where do I need to love myself more. What is it that I'm here to learn? What is it that I believe about myself that this situation is showing me and then what can I do about it. Let's get started. Okay. So one of the reasons why people don't have the relationships and they want in particular, a lot of women are seeking marriage as an end. All be all to that relationship. A lot of the reasons you say is because of the the b word number one. And what does that mean being a bitch? It doesn't mean you're bad person. It means there's, I would say, anger, fear defensiveness, like bitches like an energy. It's like a thing that says step off. It's a self protection. Yeah, and it's not. Yes, you do. It's it's wonderful in when it comes time to protect yourself it in like sitting rounds, yes, setting boundaries, but it's not something that you need to bring with you just because it's Thursday, you need to let go walking around with all of that attitude. Yeah. What and I think what happened was we, we came to equate it with being modern, you know, it's like what? The cute I use the word now, like totally like babe in total control Honey. You're like, okay, but here's the thing. No one wants to be married to somebody who's in total control who wants to partner with somebody who needs total control all the time. That's a nightmare. You don't wanna be with a guy who's in total control or once that. So it's like if you just turn everything around and go, would I wanna be with a partner? Who's thinking these are acting like this? If the answer is no, then I need to let go of it as a behavior. And you say, you said in the article men, wanna marriage. Somebody who's nice to him. Yeah, just like you wanna marry someone kind. Yeah, it's really a no brainer. Okay. I just love this when it comes to choosing a husband only one thing really, truly matters character. So it stands to reason that a man's character should be at the top of the list of things you're looking for. Right? But if you're not married, I real- already know that it isn't because if you were looking for a man of character, you would have found one by now. Men of character are by definition willing to commit. Instead, this made me laugh because I've heard this so many, my friends instead you're looking for someone tall, yes or rich. Unfortunately, this is not the thinking of a wife. This is the thinking of teenage girl and men of character do not want to marry teenage girls because teenage girls are never happy, and they never feel like cooking either. I thought it was so brilliant. Thank you and I'm not saying, oh, do this meaner thing. I'm here I have to cook. No, I'm not saying that what I'm saying is just like you don't wanna partner. Can't partner with the teenage boy part of a man because inside every man is a teenage boy and inside every woman is a teenage girl, but you can't partner there because it's going to be a mess. It's going to be to people's true and so many people are operating from their teenage brain. And that's like, I'm here to get something..
"tracy mcmillan" Discussed on Oprah's SuperSoul Conversations
"Exactly. But the truth is you could never get away. You can never get away from you. So I married that I man really good man, and I'm saying something's missing here. Something's missing. I left my first husband. I married the second man. Something's missing, something's missing. I leave him. I'm Mary the third man. This is it. And guess what happens there? He starts dating at nine months of marriage this, yes, this is what dating we were exactly. He's like nine months of marriage. I think it's time to start dating and it's like unconsciously. That's what felt right to me. Yeah, and. Okay. So this is confusing to people who don't know if you brought up an environment where you're lied to cheated. There's constant betrayal, constant chaos can't depend on anything or anybody somewhere unconsciously in you're being drawn to that. That's what real comfortable with that. Yes. And you will reject goodness? Yes, the right the right thing you will reject that like this isn't feel correct, and you ever of the person. Okay. So exciting. Okay, calm down, calm down. Okay. Okay. You will reject that. Yeah, because what you really want is to try to heal saccharin thing. Yeah. And that's why you can trust your mistakes. It's not about doing it perfectly. You know, it's like for me, I needed to be in that marriage with that person in order for me to heal my stuff. So how was that healing to you? How did that become a teacher. Well, the first thing it allowed me to do it. It really did set me free and part of how it set me free is that it allowed me to come home to Tracy. I had spent, you know, I married him when I was forty years old. I'd spent a lifetime in these relationships looking for something feeling half instead of home. And I thought a man was going to fix me. I really did even though it was unconscious of you'd stood outside the grocery store with a clipboard and say, hey, do you feel like a man is gonna fix you? Either said, no, not modern woman. Yeah. However, if you look at my behavior, I was a woman who was chasing after relationships as though I wasn't going to be whole until I got into one the right one. So here I am with this man. I reached the absolute brick walls. So I feel like one of the lessons I've learned in life is when you ask for patience, what you get is a line at the Bank. In other words, life gives you the people places and situations that are going to allow you to once and for all develop what it is you need and ask for love the opposite is gonna show up so that you can show your love. Hello, duck word from the ducks. Amen section. You know the way you understand your life in the story you tell about your life, has the power to shape your life, you know? So what happened to me is I was born to a mother who was prostitute alcoholic. My dad was a pimp and a drug dealer. I say they had hearts of gold. They were. They were good people in their hearts, but they had a lot of issues. And so I went into foster care..
"tracy mcmillan" Discussed on Oprah's SuperSoul Conversations
"Tracy even began to see her challenging upbringing in a new light, and she poured her soul into. Her first spiritual memoir on relationships. I love you, and I'm leaving you anyway in two thousand eleven Tracy introduced herself to the world and a very big way when she wrote an article for the Huffington Post with the cheeky title, why you're not married, went viral and has been viewed more than two and a half million times. It is today, one of the top five Huffington Post articles ever a book deal soon followed and Tracy has become known for her spiritually charged no nonsense advice on how to live more and love better. But it all started with the lesson she shared in that little article on the Huffington Post. Okay. So this is what's so interesting to me. You write that article about why you're not married. It goes viral. And all of a sudden you are labeled an expert? Yes, and it's because I failed. So many times, quote, unquote, failed. I wrote that piece. You know, I'm a person who's been married and divorced three times. I know when I first heard that I thought. Why is a person who's been married and divorced three times. Going to be able to teach us how to have better relationships. And then when I thought about it, oh everything that happens in anybody's life every so called failure or mistake. Right. Is there to teach you about our and if you're paying attention, you get better, you get better, you get better. So you would be the best person. He learned a lot from success, but you can learn even more from failures, failures of mighty teacher. Yeah. And you know what I've come to from that is that relationships are spiritual path. It's like you get into a relationship. We think it's because, oh, I fell in love or over going to have a home or make a family. And yes. All that's true. And there's another level on which relationships are there to teach you how to love more and better. And number one, you have to learn how to love yourself more and better because the relationship that you're having with another person is the same when you're having with yourself all the time all the time. So you say on page one, twenty six after all these years of getting married. Dating a whole lot of failure or pre successes. I like to call it. Here's what I know. Men or women mirror back, our deepest most unconscious beliefs about ourselves. Yeah. And that is why it is the greatest spiritual path? Yes. So when a relationship is reflecting something back at you, sometimes you wanna say, that's not what I believe about myself, but if you look at it and say, okay, if that's what I believe than what do I need to change about the way I'm loving myself. Okay. I want you to break this down a moment because I feel all the laws happening, so show us how that or teach us how that shows up for selves because I think a lot of people can hear that and then, but he's a jerk. So what does that have to do with me? Right. And you were saying it has everything to do with. I'm saying it has everything to do with you and a lot of times. Okay, so take my life. For example, at nineteen. I got married. The only thing I knew that I wanted to feel safe. And I met a guy when seventeen who was a wonderful person. You know, he had an MBA. He was ten years older than me. He was from great family. I knew from watching a lot of TV that I was supposed to be choosing that kind of man. Okay. So let let let's start with you said I knew that I wanted to be safe. Did you know that then, or do you guys? Oh it in writing, but I even knew it then I was never interested in the bad boy coming out of my childhood with my criminal dad and my alcoholic mother that if I went there, it was not going to be good. So I sort of went, you were trying to avoid tackling, which is also a way people choose their partners. Right? I don't want anybody that's like that exactly as I'm trying to get away from..
"tracy mcmillan" Discussed on KNST AM 790
"Fact you're gonna? Leave. Going as many? People. Do man we should have done this months ago we should end this years ago but why did you hesitate because he thought you, know and I'll do that when? There's some time. Look there's there's never a right time there's never the right time, other than today to the pick. Up the phone and. Make the call we're great, at, procrastinating look like I I'm one of those as well I'm a procrastinator my wife will, tell you there's certain things Mark procrastinates about. Yes. We probably all have procrastinate about stuff Tristan yeah actually going, to the procrastinating meeting tomorrow Oh tomorrow not today you've reschedule Thank. You thank you, I appreciate, that so. This book Very good very nice we like. To have fun on the, show as you can tell so when care is needed talks, about how you initiate benefits and national phone numbers here some numbers that you can call and making sure because caring about. People about things about life is an act. Of maturity. And I. Guess that saying. Could very much D. welcomed and be. Applied to what we do it more financial Putting a. Plan together that, addresses the. Perils of, life is an active maturity so this gal Tracy McMillan she said caring about people about things about life is an act of maturity And I'm. Gonna say planning, making sure. You have, your proper plan in place to address the five perils of life Is an active maturity it really. Is because then you're going to be looked at as a hero when something happens, because we know life does happen and when those things that you think will that will never happen to me happens you'll be looked at as a. Person who had great vision and foresight and wisdom and knowledge. And made the, right, decision, and did the right thing so that's why this book step by step is so important And he said I found this interesting it says the highest risk of accidental injury comes in the first. Full day of receiving long-term care as the result of stubbornness Many people I gotta get some water here in a second many people can have a hard time with. This because their ego is on the line when somebody who has maybe a self made individual and has never really lean on anybody for anything as my buddy Ed my good differential mine who was. Really a, self made man and never had to lean on anybody and now is having to lean on everybody because he's has some long, term care issues very sobering but again the number one reason for accidental injuries comes in the first full day of receiving care because the people saying. Ama- self man, you're telling me now. I need to have somebody take care of me whether it it's bathing or eating or transferring me from one place to another Or changing me how boy talk about A humble experience yes That. Coupled. With your stubborn yeah so this is this is why this booklet, is so important understanding particularly if you're a child in maybe think mom or dad is going to. Be going through something this is why you need to get this. Book making the move when you actually have to, move mom or, dad maybe not Indio. Maybe into your house, maybe they have decided and you realize they can. Come to your house there's a.
"tracy mcmillan" Discussed on Z104
"According to Brookings the volume of outstanding college student loan debt is tripled over the past decade reaching more. Than one trillion dollars and students attending four, profit colleges, are responsible for over one third? Of that debt to find, out about the rise and. In the case of a few the fall of these colleges I spoke to Tracy McMillan Cottam assistant professor of sociology. At Virginia Commonwealth university last year her book lower Ed the troubling rise of four profit colleges in the new economy was released we. Talked about why she took on this topic oh goodness oh that's a great question because I actually really, resisted for a long time writing about this topic at all because of how I did come to know about it Bob so before going to graduate school in becoming you know by most measures of traditional academic I had worked in two four colleges in North Carolina I worked at one that in the book I called. The beauty school, and the other that call the technical school And my experience in the for profit college sector really shape how I understood why people were choosing these. Institutions I had a different experience of the millions of people who were going into for profit, colleges once I did become an academic and a researcher. I was a little disappointed and frankly a little concerned about. How we were talking, about people who were enrolled in for profit colleges we only understood them. As being Duke you know being prayed or Ed. Being, really. Savvy, consumers and for me the truth was somewhere in the middle and in fact what I had come to know about these students in my time working with them with. That when we understood how complex their choices, and their, options were we really had a? Much more complicated but important, story about four or five. Colleges affect all of it so that's why ended up writing the book see I think of these colleges because well I'm old as those correspondent schools used to see on the back of. A match book cover right they've certainly come. A, long way from that though haven't, they Mitch, to. Say the least yes Bob for the record I remember those to learn how to draw an, animal? And then they also had like some technical correspondence. Courses etc In many ways there is still a segment of, for profit schools that are like those old correspondent schools they do things like like the school that I worked for train people have to be a cosmetologist or auto. Mechanic but one of the things that's happened starting around the mid nineteen nineties and through the early, two thousand at the, landscape, before, profit colleges really did change a lot the new sort of. Model in for profit colleges were the ones that now have the ads everywhere right on public transportation television radio you newspaper with names like stray or divide university of Phoenix these are shareholder corporations being they operate very much like any other publicly traded company that you can. Buy stock in the, right that sales that raises money by selling shares of the company by becoming, a, shareholder company for profit. Colleges from laser ship was profit really change and because. Of that their relationship to students change when you have, to Generate profit quarter over quarter to keep your shareholders happy you have to grow really really fast. And in growing really really fast you've got to come up with a really officiant way. To enroll hundreds of thousands of new students constantly while also keeping, cost very low and that has set up some, of the sort of the worst abuses I think in excess is in the four profit college sector but it is true that for awful profits even the ones that. Are more like those old correspondence schools what argue we still kind of have a problem because they, serve so many people, who, don't, have any other options and that's a social problems for all. Of us is it lack of options because of educational background or economic background so what we have mostly understood it adds up in you know until recently and hopefully I contribute to the conversation that would change that is that mostly we understood that people were going to..
"tracy mcmillan" Discussed on The School of Greatness with Lewis Howes
"This is episode number six three seven the masters of relationships welcome to the school of greatness my name is louis house former pro athlete turn weiss style entrepreneur in each week we bring you an inspiring person or message to help you discover how to unlock your inner greatness thanks for spending some time with me today now let the class begin henry ford said coming together is a beginning keeping together his progress working together is excess this episodes a little different my friends we did something last week all about high performance habits where we took highlights from people like tony robbins mel robbins brennan bouchard and others and we gave you some incredible wisdom in one episode from these highlights on one topic and we thought we'd do it again on the keys to powerful relationships marriage sex love from the world's greatest relationship experts and coaches and again if you haven't listened to last one on high performance habits make sure listen to that after this one but this one right here we're featuring matthew hussy my good friend and one of the leading experts on relationships for women on how to get the guy and keep the guy by the thriving relationships we also have tracy mcmillan which was a huge hit a number of years ago that most people didn't here but i think she has some powerful nuggets that you're gonna love and then one of my favorites as well as stare parral every sentence she says is just so valuable i'm on the edge of my seat every time i hear her talk so i know you guys are gonna enjoy this one make sure to share it with your friends lewis house dot com slash six three seven and let me know your most favorite part from this episode it doesn't matter if you're looking to date someone you're looking to get married you're ina marriage or you just want to have better relationships in general this one is going to be a powerful one for you and before we dive in wanna give a shout out to the fan of the week this is from kate stu who said without fail after each school greatness podcast i listen to i went to call up a loved one and gush to them about the guest speaker and their journey this podcast will leave you feeling inspired move.
"tracy mcmillan" Discussed on Bloomberg Radio New York
"Well we thought we had tracy mcmillian on the line you know it's kind of curious rich because there are a lot of reasons that people might have come in because this right around the long term support of the two hundred day moving average so it's possible the machines just kicked in and people like what i don't know why you may well say that but i'm going to be a real sort of ardent technology go to see where's the fifty day moving average because that would signal the death cross if he really meant anything by gang down further said just because it's the two hundred day moving average perhaps as well just put the academic in one sense just getting slightly down below it sometimes the machines would be programmed to come back in but i found it quite curious that the commerce secretary wilbur ross said well we're not entering world war three and the white house economic adviser larry cudlow said well us tariffs are just a only proposals i understand we do have tracy mcmillan with us now from wells fargo investment institute so the short form of the question why did investors come back in today thanks for having me on the show i investors came back into day after a very rocky start to to the trading session today and we think they came back in because as we've seen numerous times throughout the past couple of months investors are selling first and asking questions later so you know we got a negative news on the trade front last night and that news since the market into selling mode but throughout the day as people started to realize that this is a proposal and these terrorists are not going to be in place for some time yet.
"tracy mcmillan" Discussed on The Uncertain Hour
"And those rules have at the same time been very unfriendly to most forms of education with a few key exceptions which brings us back to tracy mcmillan caught him newlyarrived at her job at that cosmetology school in the mid2000s a decade after welfare reform had kicked him she was trying to figure out why so many students kept sliding welfare paperwork across her desk at for she wondered maybe this was just happening to her i go to some of the senior emissions people on an office and ask them about it the first time it happens and they got oh yeah do this all of the time not just filling out welfare paperwork but dealing with other parts of the welfare bureaucracy fielded phone calls from their case workers who needed to confirm that they were indeed enrolled any what we call shortterm workforce credential program and that thing that tracy just said that they were indeed enrolled in a what we call shortterm workforce credential program she wouldn't realise it until later but that was the answer to her question why are so many students coming to me talking about welfare because her beauty school specialized in short term workforce credential programmes trust hasn't worked for the cosmetology school in years today she's a professor of sociology at virginia commonwealth university but she's kept thinking about that experience she had but the beauty school students and all their welfare paperwork and then asked the question it ends up animating like my research later is a on peachtree student in now is associated with this and professor which was how did that happen um and this is what i've i've come to you.
"tracy mcmillan" Discussed on The Uncertain Hour
"About ten years ago tracy mcmillan caught him was confronted with a small but confounding mystery she just started a new job at a cosmetology school in charlotte north carolina it was in a strip mall next door to a seafood restaurant a gas station in a convenience store roughly campus that is the campus sis right trust these job was to enroll new students in the school in a nine month cosmetology program to help them with their financial aid paperwork but tracy soon realized this was not your typical college admissions job and became pretty appearing to me early on at the types of students that i was working with mostly very low income women of color often single moms needed a whole lot more from me more might mean trustee would end up holding a crime baby during a meeting with the perspective student these women would come to me with their babies you know intoe that was more common than i having them show up with say their parents i held babies a held hands i gave them raj home when their boyfriends took their car and the buses had stopped running and then there was this one request students kept coming into these office with that she really wasn't prepared for so i would get young women who come in they send in my office and i would be talking to them about changing their life and starting at this cosmetology school in overwhelmingly they were very quiet very reticent until the moment when she would say i would say will do you have any questions and the perspective student would slide this piece of paper on the trust these desk in say yeah can you confirm that i was here today i mean can you certify that i was here the paperwork all these women were sliding across trust these desk asking her to sign was a very specific set of paperwork.