20 Episode results for "Tony Horton"

3 Fitness Titans...Horton, Hetrick & Gray | IMPACT Q&A Ep. 07

Todd Durkin IMPACT Show

19:49 min | 1 year ago

3 Fitness Titans...Horton, Hetrick & Gray | IMPACT Q&A Ep. 07

"Guys i am an ideal world and look who i ran into joe gorge you you you see this space. Take a close. Look you know the guy you see p ninety x but he goes way beyond p ninety x and right now. He's joined on the podcast tony great to see your brother. A first person went onto idea this guy. This is radar for lots lots of success in the industry. If you were to give a couple tips to of success what would they be. Oh wow right up the box if you're a trainer. If you're in this industry you gotta have variety. You got to know more than district. Yoga your pilots your weightlifting cardio. Whatever you got to know more about everything right so i'm talking to the reason why the extra successfully we had everything in there so you know gal inside your comfort zone number one half plan. Write it down and give yourself a goal simple right okay in six months long do this. I'm going to have this meeting on call. That guy can do these. E mails going to finish this prototype. Whatever it is give yourself a goal. If you don't do it you gotta do one thousand pushups until you're done with them period all right. Oh i miss my goal on march third thousand pushups trust meal do it and then last but not least don't be attached to the l. Come and enjoy the journey enjoy journey be in a moment. You're gonna fall down a thousand times. I certainly did i mean i'm going to be sixty. One between the ages of twenty three and forty five. I fell down a thousand times and you know what i did. I learned i learned from those mistakes and you know what i made him over and over again but i kept learning so if you don't get what you want round of the box chances are you is learning more than you needed to than you thought. You did those three things with the key for me. Wow that's huge right there. I'm a huge believer in get your mind right. What is tony horton due to get his mind mind right. I meditate now a lot more than i ever did. I meditate and i take naps. That's right middle of the day. I'm wasted. I go down. I set my <hes> phone for fifteen eight minutes and then i set this news for five more called fighter naps the u._s. Navy's been doing it forever. Guys on the aircraft carrier to atlanta jetson aircraft carriers boom. They do these sorties and they're wasted the boom. They hit their bunk fifteen minutes to set the alarm refresh but sometimes it just plain meditate. I take fifty depressed in and out and when i'm done i'm a new man takes the stress away. It's how i deal with my stress. I all right. You've had a lot of success in this industry. What's next for tony horton. What's on your always got big stuff. You've been going deep. It seems like the last couple of years on you and what you're doing. When you have anything coming out that we should know about well. I'm working with <hes> guy t._v. Fitting yoga right now. I've done a twenty-one workouts. The call the next level here's the beautiful logo and he put up. Ah there it is superman. I'm air available depends comcast verizon spectrum or whatever it is but we're slowly. Ican amount is going to be twenty one at all and there's some other really cool things. We're going to be doing with other companies that are worldwide with them. Which i i can't really announce them yet. I let them announce that also working doing my own supplement lineup coming out with four different supplements one of them's called foundation for which is all the goodies for basic things that you need to put in your body every the single day especially as a sixty one year old guy still pushing the envelope still doing ninja lifting weights. I wanna you know at my age. You know you lose muscle mass bang and the only way to keep it on is through this foundation for and also doing a really cool all vegan protein powder plus away to where you know if you're paleo or you're kito. You got some view. If you're vegan the vegetarian we've got a protein powder few and some other ones as well and then on top of that coming out with ten exercise things med balls. Push-up stands matt's pull up bars slap that tony horton fitness logo to so out. We'll have always known about tony since i'm an go back over five years now many years is that tony balances the yin and the yang you see his energy on t._v. When you're in person but he puts a lot of time into himself and and really working on himself mar that amount and is an amazing human being. I think he's got a great story all the way from member you pack your bags up from what you are. I would call eight hundred four hundred dollars in my pocket. I got in the car for summer vacation to come the sunny southern california. I'm just gonna hang out here for a couple of months ago. Home and i was gonna go wait tables and boston but having fun and everybody was fit and they were skiing in the morning and the afternoon and i said why would i live this place so he went down to the pier and did some mime and it may twenty five dollars and i lived on cheerios and yoga for three days in a repeated that for like two years in here i am nine hundred eighty two thousand nineteen giddy up sixty one years old lookout last question legacy. What's the tony horton legacy all about so. It was all said and done we will want to have a legacy. We want to have that life for telling the story about what's the tony horton legacy i dunno. It's kind of weird talking about yourself. How the impact you've had on the earth but i know for a fact that i've helped millions that people change their lives. You man get healthy gets gets straight. Get off drugs. Become trainers find a purpose and be comfortable in their own skin for the first time maybe in their life and so when you do that a couple of million times you feel pretty good about what you've done. On this planet there it is wow you heard it from tony horton himself. You're going to see a lot of stuff of coming out from tony working. People follow you tony horton life dot com right there you find out where my instagram on twitter facebook all that is yes so we've got to challenge groups on facebook right now lean and mean and power and strength so go look them up if i'm in there all the time talking to people giving advice and on july eighth because that was been three much long both of those long. We're going to change them new sequence. We're going to add some next level workouts for some people can get them plus p ninety x two three twenty minute hardcore. It's going to be a fun little hybrid follow. Follow him on this guy tony. Thank you for not only all that you have done for so many people would continue to do to impact so many i love him. Tony horton guys there. You have it. Hey guys tied durkan here. I am at ideal world and we just finished the club in studio summit and look who i ran into none other than mistreat gray ray trina. What an amazing job. You did at clemencio somehow you feel and i'm feeling energized. Excited accomplished happy joyful yes in a little lit tired. How many people are at clubs this year. Three hundred three hundred plus fire breathing dragons that we're working on their business. We're going to leadership work on themselves and what they could do you and trina spearhead of this and the preparation started probably about three hundred and sixty four days ago right and trina is the one who again she's the mastermind behind signed it all and i've had the opportunity to work with tree now for many many years and i've got a couple of questions for you. When it comes to success your i wouldn't even say rapid ascent because it's been a steady ascent up the chain you've had a lot of success in your life not only as a business and club owner but also in beach body and as an entrepreneur turner and balancing your mom what are a couple of tips that you would give on success to any mom or entrepreneur per the who is seeking maximum success uh-huh well in session. I let a couple of days ago. We talked about success and i challenged the participants to think of three words that come to mind for them personally. They think of success because it doesn't look the same for all of us as a working mom. My definition of success is gonna be different. <hes> then a young right out of college you know eager occur professional getting started in their career so for me personally. I'm looking for purpose. I'm looking for joy. I am looking for choices in life that means choices of who i work with when i work where i work how much money i earn a one take time off <hes> so choices to me really matters purpose really matters and living with joy really matter so i'd suggest that if you want success what success looks like at this season of your life so you know where you're going up and i would add one that this is a trina gray ism it's it's a we're at a mastermind retreat and she was talking about success and you had three letters up on the the the board. Can you please share what those three letters were and what they stood for because because i believe those are secrets to success also right if you know where you're going in life and you need to take action steps to get there. I'd suggest you put down your laptop your foam wherever you you work the letters w. t. f. and what i mean by that u._t. F what the focus right so. I'm very it ninja in my work. I don't get easily distracted. I feel like i'm extremely productive and when i'm working i'm working and when i'm not i'm not right so i try not to chronically work doc anymore. I tried to get in and get out of my work and then enjoy life. You guys have heard me talk about a thousand times and many times about the w._t._o. Managing your time energy gee in what you do. I often talk about. Get your mind right yeah. What does trina gray do get her mind right well. You know what i do things now that i didn't use to do i i sleep more. I don't skip my own workouts anymore. I listen to personal development in a way that i swim in a sea of personal development so listen podcast listen to audio books reading books. I don't know how people do it without it so i get more sleep. I don't get my workouts. I take care of myself more do more self of care and i really swim in the personal development as you do and i know that first hand you do an amazing job and balancing all those roles as well and you're the the the queen of making sure you've eliminated roles as well to make sure that you can be great at the roles that you have last question when it comes to impact the name of our podcast impact. I think legacy what is trina gray's legacy all about oh well as a as as a mom. I guess my legacy would be the great to raise great human beings who believe they're capable of anything and so for my kids will saying jaden colt my the legacy for you is that you believe you're capable of anything that you decide who you want to be in the world and not let the world tell you who you are <hes> as a female entrepreneur and professional. I i think my legacy is truly helping other women <hes> have a business in an income and a passion that they love and not into define your own success so i love working with women and fitness. I love helping women <hes> be amazing and who they are and what they're creating and i think i'm gonna allow a lot of women to have more choices in life because my mentoring there you have it if one wants to follow trina gray. Where do they find you. <hes> well these days. I'm on instagram a lot. Trina grades are a y. That's the easiest place the sunday message or check out my stories. I'd love to meet you. If you're ever in michigan make the trip to alpena michigan go to battle at a club or if you're at a conference in the fitness industry or any the other convert and trina grey is there and she's speaking do not miss it. It's a once in a lifetime opportunity. You'll hear again on the podcast but i just wanted to give her a just a little snippet so you could hear from the woman who's changed. Thousands of people's lives. She's recognizes one of the top. Female entrepreneurs actually just wanted the top entrepreneurs in in the world literally and is doing amazing things so trina congratulations on a great club zero summit. I hope you get some aren't aren't you can go relax accent. Enjoy after lots of hard work there you have it trina great toddrick and here i am on the floor at idea world and dish went into my man the myth the legend agent asked to randy edrich is in the house always so good to see my brennan and you know what's cool about. This is now that we buy ourselves here. We've got our families place here. Luke brady over here. What do you think of those guys. I can't believe what do you feed these dudes man. I remember when they were little and cute and smell good or look at your little guy right here. Get him on. We got hot cans hawk. Come on we got hot. How old is hawk. Now hawks five almost six. He'll be six in novembro. Families are rolling around and just a couple quick questions. Obviously randy is the founder and creator of t._r._x. And rented a couple of quick things number one just a couple of your secrets to success. If there's one or two things that you'd say for passionate fire-breathing dragon that wants more success than what are some things that you would say are important man well. I mean one be mindful of the brand that that is you right because the day that you start whatever you're trying to do you start building your brand and it's going to be there whether or not you curate it and care more art young end up with a brand. You don't like if you don't pay attention to it but if you if you cultivate it the right way like my brother here has it ends up being a huge asset that opens all kinds of doors so that's one the other one is just like realized there is no shortcut to success and anybody who thinks there is is probably in for or a bruising and so you just gotta realize it takes years and years of hard work and constant vigilance and in order to one day wake up as an overnight success only ten years right overnight success ten years in the making so if if there was a young professional out there who has a great idea and and they want to take a product to market some day. How do you get some seedling. That's in your head a thought and eventually take that product to market market well. One of the things that i would say everybody needs to keep in mind is if you've got a solution like that you think is worth bringing to market kit. Make sure it's solving a real problem right because if you don't have a real problem that you're solving selling your thing is going to be exponentially harder and the idea idea that a lot. I think a lot of young sorta inventors they have is well jeez. I can. I see that thing over there that successful i can make my little a different trend and it'll be it'll be great while it probably won't because those people who brought that product to market spent an awful lot of time and hard work to get it there so make sure that you're bringing something new and different that elevates the state of the art right not just trying to come up with a different version of something. That's already in the market because that's a long on heart slog amen to that. Are you talking about. Make your body your machine one of the question i have for you because you you make your body your machine. I always say get your mind right. Think what do you do to get your mind right and to make your body your machine well. I mean making your body machine. That's that's something that t-rex is all about. It's like hey move. Move your body. Move it regularly and then when you move it well then figure out how to challenge those moves right and i've been doing that throughout my career trying to keep this old machine in a well oiled and working and then get my mind right man. I mean i i. I listened to t._d.'s cast. That's how i get my mind right right. <hes> i try to wake up and think about you know one get sleep because the good good because it's hard to have your mind be right when it's foggy. He and everything's o problem seem bigger when you're not well rested right and and so get your sleep make sure you're hydrated and then just always remember that there's there's an opportunity right around the next corner. You just got to keep your feet moving and get there but they're always there absolute. Last one when it comes to impact impact to to me is legacy. What's randy hedrix legacy going to be all about hey. I hope that <hes> you know my legacy. In this industry is that we kinda brought brought initially a tool and then developed a whole philosophy that revolutionized body weight training right that that the idea that you know all you can do with your body is push ups and maybe pull ups. That's shortsighted. There's a whole there's a whole you know just an endless universe of stuff you can do with your own body weight and we helped you know bring that realization to light with a suspension trainer and we've democratized fitness for an awful lot of people who never would have set foot in a gym well the best part about this whole interview as randy's talk in haughey's over here swing on rexes leukemia brady are like you know trying to babysit but they're in their own little world and about a family man i watched harry grow up and harry's now going to be going to college and hawk is growing like a weed and and to have advocates locking the floor and this family and and randy hedrick in the t._r._x. Team has all family and that's that's one thing i say about jiu brother. Thank you for everything thing that you do and hey it's been it's been a great ride building the business alongside this man and you know so far so good right we beat moving and <hes> up into the right so there you go a few words from the legend right there randy hetch grandy day for being here brother thank you t._d. 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Why Customer Experience is EVERYTHING | Copywriting

The Road To A Billion

18:39 min | 6 months ago

Why Customer Experience is EVERYTHING | Copywriting

"Hi You're listening to the road to a billion podcast. I'm your host stuff in Georgia. Since two thousand eleven I've sold over seven, hundred, million dollars worth of products for both clients. My own companies I've also founded or CO founded eight different businesses that grows between seven to nine figures in revenue today I focus a lot of my time on teaching training a mentor in the next generation of freelancers and entrepreneurs, and that's why created the road. To a billion, a call in radio show style podcast where I answer people's questions on mindset business ownership scaling, funnels, copywriting, and more. If you want to admit a question, then check out the show learn how or visit me at Stephan Paul. George Dot com forward slash subscribe to opt into my email list and every week you'll get a link to join the live call in show and with that being said, let's go ahead and get started. Hey podcast listeners. In today's episode, you're going to learn the claims in words you must avoid for compliance when running a health supplement promo. How important is getting down the voice of a client in your copy you need to sound exactly like them, how to leverage sensitive news stories for your ads without risking a negative experience or backfire. enjoyed. All. Right. So we have next question from Justin. Lucas just says, Hey, Stephan. Any big flags to avoid for compliance when running blood sugar south promo just like claims phrases, etcetera. Sweet Justin how're you doing? How's IT, going. It's going well. Yeah. So you run you run into Promo right now or are you writing one or the story there? Yes. I'm one right now we got of. RV see like a month ago and I finally got around to reading something and it's awesome able to get through our. Be Within just a few days in I'm gonNA write see lick later. So they're just like a few things I wanNA. Make sure I'm not too aggressive with it. 'CAUSE I plan Rut starting off with e mail drops in like you know I just want to be safe like I don't want to say anything too crazy in in like end up in jail. Yeah. Understandably. and. The shore answered by the way is and you just kind of jokingly saying they end up in jail but like. Realistically. On House and stuff like you're not going to go to jail unless you feel like. This like supplement curious cancer and like. US even then you prior going up until your shitty person, right but like you're probably not gonNA. End Up, in jail. If you had like poison in your supplements and a bunch of people die Then, maybe but you also don't. WanNa get. Slapped by the FTC regulatory body and fined and banned from selling supplements in the future, and that's really what the real fear is. Right it's like it's In your name published on the Internet and stuff so. Within that context. And especially, if blood sugar, which is a more regulated niche and you're trying to be kind of compliant. You know. The the standard stuff applies like you're not curing treating reversing any. Conditions or diseases. And you can't really make like. A disease claims either which means that you can't sort of. Say. Well. One thing maybe like. Eight like cinnamon has been shown to lower blood sugar and reverse diabetes, and this contains cinnamon right because like you just like. Basically the intact they look at the intent like is your intent that you're trying to say this cures treats reverses any disease with your with your kind of. Copy in what you're saying where you're claims are. So. What you can do is really look at. There's always a fine line when. because. We don't say does anything it's really hard to sell it right? Right. But, also, you can say stuff like. Look look into structure function claims if you haven't ever heard of those basically, you can say that Something like supports like you know healthy functioning and it supports the structure of an organ or site that. So you know it can. Support support healthy blood sugar can help to support blood sugar levels and support normal blood sugar things like that. Helps. To support your pancreas, which is one of your insulin producing Gene Oregon's. You say stuff like that. No problem. You can talk about. Erratic block blood sugar within reason so. We use one of our bus sugar promos previously and then use it again in a new one. But in the new and we did this, we just had have a new blood sugar promo coming out. We have an FDA. FTC Attorney on A. On retainer and he was like this is the most compliant blood sugar offer like I've ever seen but I think the COP is really good. But we talked about it right. Bless your. Now he said we had a radic blood sugar like fifty times. You gotTa tone it down. He was like because even then like if you're just saying so much as a substitute for like you know. You can't you can't put the right blood sugar as a substitute for diabetes but you can be like you know people are worried about their erotic blood sugar and this is helps to support healthy blood sugar You know stuff like that's fine. 'cause radically sugar just means your blood sugars all over the place you can have you can totally not have diabetes as so have a radic blood sugar. Unpredictable blood sugar things like that. Totally fine But as soon as you're saying, this is going to lower your blood sugar or you know if you have high blood sugar, take this to lower blood sugar. Or. This is going to help to fight diabetes anything like that then. Then you're starting to, you're talking about disease you're talking about diabetes was a disease, and if you're saying that's going to help you address. The disease that's that's where you're GONNA trouble. I see. Yeah I got lots of the clean up even though China played. Like some of phrases like lean more towards late bit. Implying so like I definitely got fix that. Yeah and and there's a fine line I I mean I mean honestly there's like. So many. The the reality is for the most far. There's so many people out there who are bad actors and the agencies enforce this stuff only have kind of like very limited bandwidth. So they're typically not going to go after you unless you're one of the most egregious ones or you look really big and they can get a lot of money from you but that being said if you can. Not. You can kind of cover your ass anyway and dislike minimize the risk of that happening and you can still sell. Then you might as well do that because it just helps you to sleep a lot better night because what happens is people? Go more aggressive with their claims and. The fix it later than suddenly. Two million three million a month for a million, a month money's coming blinded by the revenue they're making profit and they're like afraid to try and change anything the money will go away. But then they're having trouble sleeping, envisioning the feds, kicking their door and taking them off to jail you're that doesn't actually happen but So it's better to sort of come out the gate with something cleaner and more compliant, and then that way you can just sort of yeah. You're more relaxed and you can scale without having panic attacks. Gotcha if you don't mind me asking like. Do I need to get like a FTC lawyer like right away or wait until I get more scale. I. Think you're okay. Waiting until you get some scale like there's no like if. You launch it, and if you do a couple of hundred thousand dollars in your first month, let's say. In revenue like you just have to get really the really really really really really unlucky to like get in trouble. And then if you get a couple hundred thousand dollars in revenue higher lawyer and Changer in new GEICO letter from a regulatory body was like, Hey, you made these claims and you can just respond and say I did. But then I our lawyer realized that I wasn't incompliance and change it because I want to follow. The rules are probably GonNa, leave you alone anyway the people they go after the people who have crazy claims in don't change it and then just keep you know keep doing that so. I think. Yeah. So I think I think you're fine now that you need hire attorney until once you're live and getting data but then I would do once you're once you're starting to get some scale I would do it just to clean things up and make sure. You cover your your ass. Awesome. Thank you that cleared up allow for me I feel better now. So thanks Stephan. Yeah my pleasure and One quick thing for compliance. From what I've heard and from experience is just in general especially on facebook to. They. They don't want you becoming like a superhuman. Fixing your stuff basically but if you can talk about how this product or service or this, whatever it is, helps support regular functions than your editor. Because it's not about seeing to cure diabetes right I, it's going to help support. Healthy blood sugar levels. Because then so so imagine like there's there's bad. There's great and then there's like. Homo stasis, which is normal. They're here right now facebook doesn't want them going here. What? Baseline. You. I'm definitely GONNA. Hit you up like once my office ready. So Sounds good. You. Sweet. Next question from escorts important is getting down the voice of a client in your copy when you're using our embassy to write the letter in less than a week was of jest. Yeah. So. Yeah. You're right. You're your letters. So closely have you done the worst year client. Yes ideally. If the client is somebody who has like videos on Youtube or Who writes regularly or whatever it is I mean I think if you spend a couple hours reading or writing or talking with them than. You generally have a pretty good. Good feel for it. I mean that's Really the biggest thing I think is just sort of looking at their style and how they talk and their colloquialisms and things and then. You're bringing that and then I think. You don't have be perfect again I the only time that Iran like a perfection issue. Tony Horton the peanut the sky because like he like I interviewed him a couple times did this stuff I wrote a draft and he is I'd have said something like. What we example? I felt like my head was going to explode and then he'd be like I wouldn't say that way I'd say like I felt like my head really hurt and I was like okay Tony I don't know I got one point I really I told him I'm like Tony Understand Dude as but Aussie short of you and I being best friends for the last twenty years and spending. Every like time together every week I'm never going to be able to right exactly in the way that you think like, I think this is a pretty good approximation based on watching the interviews with you and talking with you recording conversations and he like really the only person who ever really was a challenge for that but generally I think if you're just sort of Yeah few disorder like do whatever. You can to familiarize yourself with them. Spend like a few hours doing it and I think usually that's good enough. Makes a lot of Simpson cool. Sweet awesome. And Ghulam no I didn't write the ninety s I just did some stuff for him and the company recently. I've been how jazz. Gave question from Josh knocks. So, Josh asks. The first question can ads be to topical? Josh. Where with a long time? and. Got You in. Bro. Under skin. So my question is this night honestly I wanNA. Be. Really sensitive about it because it because it is a sensitive topic in today's news. This. So you know, I. Serve Small Businesses in. So I had the I had the dot the day of. The headline or a topic of small business matters. And so I I wondered and I hope it's not offensive to anybody I. Really. Do I just wondered if that is to topical like can you go that are with your copy? And instead of. Giddy that response that you're looking for that emotional spawn response since a good emotional response can you get a bad emotional response? Yeah. I, think in my philosophy is I don't think you think asking questions is always. Like yeah we're we're fucked to society if we can ask questions and consider them. So I think about that as an idea and talking about it is. Totally reasonable. My guess. My a scientific answer, but my gut is not you shouldn't do it. I just think that while I understand. The rationale behind it and I also understand. I think that there's a a segment of people who would really be by Pompton like it. I think it's too much of a can of worms and I think that. It would. To people be concerned that you know you're taking attention away from black lives matter. Or what's going on and so I think it would too much of a risk of backfiring. And creating a negative experience. So I just think is one of those cases where. Yeah I don't know if it's like. To topical, but it's probably just not. Worth the risk even if it might cut through the noise you know. Yeah and that's why I asked the question because from my perspective, right what's going on is an important conversation asked to happen. But what's also on his millions of small business owners are suffering as well. Right. So now where the thought. That was the genesis of it but I, I have the same sort of gut reaction that you just had him saying, okay. I get were my brain's going with it logically but my gut says it's probably Not. Over the top. I don't think that's the right word is just probably not a right time. Yeah exactly. I think you can speak to the fact that these businesses are struggling and but I think anything that that's GonNa then. Draw comparisons to. The racial inequalities and injustices that are happening and that's going to. Invite people to say, are you comparing and contrasting? Are you saying you know not to pay attention to the fact that you know black lives matter that you know there's police brutality or whatever right just as soon as you open that can of worms and people. See that real fair not record. You're not trying to say like, of course, would you same? The small businesses. Matt. Stuff. You're not trying to say that black lives matter. But. That, being the case I think the way that it'll come across and for too many people Yeah. My perspective is not. It's not worth it. Yeah I think he did something embolic. Topical they can be very topical, but it's how you do it. So like all businesses Matt W legend Hot Water. But for something like protect. Your. Business uncertain. Times. That's fine. Yeah Idea I've thought about that as well. It's funny 'cause I was actually just on a marketing. Call With A. Company that we service the guy has given the marketing presentation played. which just said exactly what you said end is which in these troubling times that is the noise. Now everybody is saying I get what you're saying I'm not coming out but everybody is saying the same. Time, small, business of. It I think I think finally to cut through the quarter is good but again, I just I just would. I think backlash. Backfire Steph agreed. Okay. Cool. Thanks for the thanks for the response of course of course man. All right. That's just about it. For today before we finish, let me share a little bit more about how you can stay in touch with me. I have a private email list where I share high level tricks, strategies, insights about copywriting entrepreneurship mindset and more. In fact, often my podcast or based on topics I I emailed weeks or even months earlier. 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Get Down From There, The Real Struggle To Keep Kids Out Of The ER, Baby Schumer's Name Is, Well, Being Changed And What Does The End Of Quarantine Mean For Us.

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Get Down From There, The Real Struggle To Keep Kids Out Of The ER, Baby Schumer's Name Is, Well, Being Changed And What Does The End Of Quarantine Mean For Us.

"Welcome to take it or leave it and advice ish podcast for parents. He can download this podcast on itunes spotify and Google play music or at www dot. Podcast take it or leave. It DOT com. Be Sure to subscribe and give us a review with your thoughts about the show. Thank you to Jennifer one. One five nine zero for telling us that she's crying. What a weird seven Scott. Okay for Review Read. These ladies are the bomb diggity. I suffer from depression and they always pick me up. I just listened to season four episode and I think are just died in a good way. Oh my goodness please do this type of episode again. So funny loved them. Thanks Jennifer what. I wonder what episode she's talking about. That was when we called people. We do have to do that again. Aw Yeah and then we were pretending to be other people and have accents. That was very good. My my my most favorite part of that episode was when you pretended to be me by my. Gosh yes also. I have a question about that episode. I got an email from somebody saying hey not trying to be a peanut butter anything but you called me that day and said you were going to give a shirt and I haven't gotten mine. I was just talking with you. Okay send them to me because we I've I've sent them everyone that I had out so if I miss one send it to me. I will get it out. Sap Okay okay. I met with my bad. A Dang thing no I. I've gotten them all out so I've just must have missed. Just okay. Well that's good so we are on top of it. I know that I'm your host Mary. Mason. And I'm your host Tiffany Jenkins. This podcast will discuss all things marriage motherhood and everything in between please remember. We're not professionals at anything. They actually need so any advice. We GIVE YOU. You can take or leave. Because it might be crab on today's episode of take-it-or-leave-it we're GonNa talk about parents struggles to keep kids out of the emergency room during quarantine. Amy Schumer on the moment. She realized the funny problem with her son's name and the fact that more than half of US states are going to be Begin reopening at the end of the week. Really what is that true? Yeah we're GONNA talk about it at our in our feelings on it so today wait so. Are we still having molly say? What's up yes yes okay. Sorry I thought you said we were doing a mom pill were we're GONNA change. The mom fail to a mom win. So I'll deliver it same as normal. I'm just GonNa talk about something exciting. That happened last night. I'M GONNA deliver you from evil is what I'm GonNa do today. We have molly from Iowa opening things up for us be sure to call us at three one. Five eight three four two six nine six and leave us a message so you can open the show for us. This is molly them. I Alwa- I am. The mother of two children matter is nine years old. Let's open this show with a month. Bill Molden we're all year because we've all struggled his mom and anyone who says they have and obviously a big little lies bigger big. Molly thank you molly for opening new show for us so so my son and I have been doing p ninety x so p ninety x is a DVD program That is instructed by Tony. Horton and Tony. Horton is like a fitness guru guy or whatever and my son has like he is enamored by Tony. Horton completely enamored by Tony. Horton and so I. I think I talked about this before. I wanted to get by him. A cameo to have Tony Horton. Give him a shout-out or whatever but it was like like one hundred hundred ninety dollars or one hundred nine dollars something something that I could not afford right and I was like sorry dude like for his birthday last month. I was like I wanted to get jake cameo but it was expensive so I started following. Tony Horton on facebook and I I last night I showed my son I said. Hey Look Tony. Horton's live right now and I gave him my phone and I said say hi to Tony. Horton see if he says hi back and he says he's not GonNa talk to me. I said just tell them that. You and your mom are doing ninety x together. And maybe he'll say hi so Mitya's holding the phone any any types it in and then Tony Horton's like hey meredith because he's it's my profile right so he's like hey. I'm so glad you and you're doing together. You know and so. Matteo just smiled ear this as big old grin. He's like believe you talk to us. You know he got so excited and so I was like. Isn't it so cool that somebody who you've been looking up to and that you've been doing these exercise? Dvd's like he's a real person. He's sitting in his home gym. And he's talking to you like isn't that the coolest thing ever and so it was just one of those moments where it had really like. Social media had come like so full circle for me that I got to like watch my kid interact with this guy who he's just like like such a big fan of and he reached out and responded to him and so. I- tagged it on Instagram. I don't know that Tony Horton's going to reply to it. Whatever but I just said to like Tony. Horton on instagram. I was like thanks for making my kids night. Like it was a big deal for him and I hope you know that what you do does make a difference to you. Know 'cause obviously he's he's done all these workout programs or whatever and p ninety x is like twelve fifteen years old or whatever but The fact that he and I have been doing together has been really great during this time. And now the fact that he's connected with somebody who means something to him was a big deal for me and it felt like this big win and then it was really sweet because then Dave said to him. You know how excited you got. When Tony Horton spoke to you he goes some people feel that way with their mom talks to them on what goes really and I was like. Oh that was really sweet the way you said it was a sweet thing and and so. I hope people do know that when we are in our lives and we're talking to them like where were we appreciate you? We so appreciate the support that you give to us whether it's here on the podcast or when doing our lives or videos like it really means a lot to us that you guys show up for us so we always WANNA show up for you you know and it was just a really great like it it just it made my night last night like it just made me so happy that that was able to happen and so I really do love facebook you know. Yeah I love it. I love that. It does that for people and connects people like that. So that's awesome. I asked you for you for doing p ninety x holy cow. We have been. We really have been enjoying. I mean I curse a lot at Tony. Hoare in its intent stewed. It is an intense workout. It is for you. I did T- twenty five by Sean t which he's part of beach. I think it's the same family but anyway I love that and I will get him that cameo no to get him back here. I thought it was just it was it literally was like an Aha moment inside of a really good feeling mom moment and it was good it was just great and it was one of those things where I genuinely was like. This is why I love facebook. This is this is rate here is why I love Facebook as it truly connects people and gives us the ability to spend time together. You know unbelievable it really is. It really is and Charities in here I'd tell him off to I do curse it. Tony Horton everyday when we work out but obviously in a loving way one of the things that I realized is not only. Is it exciting? You know we were talking about connecting with someone you you normally wouldn't. I said you know as a kid. I could never connect with someone I saw on. Tv or anything like that. Now you have access to it but the other side of it meredith. You've done several lives where there was no one to comment to right when you first started. I mean your your when you first started five years ago You would do a live. And there'd be one or two people in there and they'd go away and she would just keep talking there. I would pretend people were in there and make up names back kidding. You're like Oh Becky. You're so funny to the point is that there is value for both people right there on on both sides of that glass. There's value there. Not just for the person getting their their name read but for the person on the other side talking to them. There's a lot of value tremendous value. I just I. It's just one of the big reasons that I always feel like my home. My first home and my forever home. We'll be facebook. You know there there are tons of social media platforms out there but never nothing has ever felt like home like facebook and facebook is not sponsoring this by the way although you can if you call But in all honesty and reality like I feel like that's where that's where the moms are man and we are here for the moms so all right. Hey Tammy I'm going to address because I saw this comment why it sounds like you guys are talking so fast when they listen to the podcast most most podcast players have a speed setting. And I'm saying this because we got several messages about them talking so fast and when I asked someone to check their speed settings they were on fast forward so you can listen to your podcast on fast forward so that you can get them done quicker so just check your speed settings on your playback in your podcast APP or whatever you're using I also feel like people are probably thinking that they have some sort of a neurological disorder if they're listening to us on board and then they're googling their symptoms and it's like I hear fast forward sometimes that I'm not sure why and that's really there's nothing wrong with you is just a setting on the podcast. I hope that doesn't happen too much. I've probably gotten a handful of messages. And the first one was review talking about these. These ladies are such speed talkers. I can't listen to them and I'm and I was listening to the episodes. I I I know they do a little quick but no and then I someone emailed an I message with them in there and we found the setting. Did you respond to that lady reviews but in the emails? Yeah yeah he has email. Thank YOU WANNA. The reviews not bad. No could you imagine if if we if we were able to take the gloves off in the review section for various things I GOTTA. I had to stop myself the other day ahead on where Fay in Facebook Messenger. Somebody just kept sending message after message after message and I'm like so I replied with think about how much time you spent messaging me to tell me how much you dislike me and then think about what you could have done with that time. That would have actually made you happy. Screen shot that and put it on instagram. I said take that time that you just spent to come and trash me in a facebook. Message and go find quilt. You know maybe make candles paint something. You Know Pierce Your nipples. I don't know anything that will make you happy because clearly you've just binged ninety seven of my videos and then told me detail by detail how awful. I am as a human being but you could have taken a a pottery. Course you know a masterclass in in medieval literature. I don't not being a dish. Okay you know those two but shut your Messenger. All I have tried Dave makes me leave that on For A for a couple of reasons and he's right the thing is is ninety nine percent of them are really good messages and I go in. I like replying and I like talking to people but then you get that one. That just sucks you down the rabbit hole for a day but I I will turn them off. Sporadically when either like something happens like a a viral video or something and you have to shut them off because you get so many but you know I leave him on because I just I just like talking to people I keep it off because I feel like if somebody wants to reach out to me then they can go to extra steps of sending an email and chances are if you're like really pissed off at somebody you're not going to go through all of those steps you're just GonNa be like you know what I mean a million amazing emails but every now and then I get a main one but I can't imagine if somebody was able to just hit a button and tell me exactly what they thought of me. I would not mentally able to handle that. I see the emails when they come in first before she gets them and the ones that that decide to take it to the email. They're ready to go and they're ready really. Yeah there remember the one two weeks ago that ruined my whole day even do anything ruined my day. Yeah aw do you want to talk about what she said or no. No Okay yes. I am wearing what I wore yesterday. We have people who've recognized it are you. I mean you gotTa tell me at some point because now I need to know what this Ho said. Did she say about Meredith? It just affected you that much. Yeah Oh you love her I have. I don't have any qualms talking about it. Do you want me to say roof. I don't WanNa make anybody uncomfortable. Shift the mood. I've just smell. It was just it was and she was comparing meaty to tiffany right in any. Oh so she basically said that she felt that we were not generous enough people and that we don't give back and we don't give to charities and she said you should look at your friend. Tiffany who does things for others all the time and she's very selfless and you're very selfish and I was like well. It didn't really bother me It really bothered. David didn't really bother me because I was like. We don't talk about charitable giving. We don't talk about the things because I know that you have attached various charities to things that you do and I completely support that and support you and there have been times where we have said like we're donating to autism awareness or we're donating whatever but a lot of the charitable giving that we do were not. It's not we're not talking about it but things are happening right like we're doing various things and it was so funny because it was the day before we were getting ready to launch our grocery store giveaway so I it kind of made me laugh because I was like well. We're getting ready to give away to one hundred and fifty dollars. Walmart gift cards for groceries every Friday in the month of May. So it's like we you know and all you have to do to get the grocery store gift card is enter your email. There's literally nothing else. It's just put your email in and we're going to randomly select two winters in every Friday in the month of. May We're giving away three hundred dollars in grocery store gift cards. So but here's the thing like you don't know what people are doing when the camera is off and you also don't like the things that we're doing that we don't want to share about like there have been plenty of times where people have have you know messaged me and it's crushed my heart and soul and I've looked at Dave and been like. What can we do for this person? How can we help? I don't talk about that here. I don't talk about the the giving the charitable giving that we do Because it's number one. It's nobody else's business is between the person and I and number two. There's I just feel like there's a place in time and it's not you know and I. I think Dave Dave wanted to be. Dave was upset because I think it hurt his feelings. That didn't really hurt my feelings because I was like. We know what we do and we know do what we can. And there's an I you know like I'll give you the shirt off my back. You probably don't want it. I've been wearing it for five days. But you know like it's that you don't people don't know they make assumptions. And that's it and then they. This is must be either a supporter of patriotic mine. Because those are the only places that I talk about giving back I donate proceeds from supporters and I donate in Patriot. But I don't usually talk about it on my main paid so whoever this is is comparing us based on something that I kinda of like in a private area right any other and the other thing too is. I've I chose not to do facebook. Supporters and Patriot Fan for a specific reason because we have another community called hot mess express. That's off platform where we do some other things and we do talk about those things. But it's just a different vein right like it's pretty much facebook supporters right but it's off it's off of its on facebook but in a in a different group right and so it's like you and here's the thing like you. WanNa compare me to tiffany all day like go ahead but we're two completely different people. Who'd don't that's what may okay so now. Now I'm mad so what I WANNA say is that we are two completely different people and it's like comparing apples and oranges. And I think that's what makes us work so well together. You have a viewpoint and I have a viewpoint. I'm sure there are people out there who are like. I wish you wouldn't beat around the Bush so much. I wish you would be more direct like meredith. I wish you would be more. You know how like odd anyway so I. I don't want people to compare us because we are two completely different people with two completely different like belief systems and stuff like that. I play it safe. I'm sure that if I spoke openly and honestly about my beliefs and my thoughts pull your microphone up there. You go okay here. You go perfect. I'm sure that if I spoke openly and honestly about my beliefs and my thoughts I would lose a lot of people but I keep it really safe so that I can include everybody whereas you bravely share your truth and your thoughts on any given subject and of course it steers people away but it also makes people gravitate towards you because of your honesty and so they can't compare me to you because what a here from me. Is You know a light water down. Sugar coated version of how I feel most of the time when it comes to certain subjects. I just think it's it's People's natural instinct to compare right because we compare a lot of things in life but if you truly Follow our pages separately and together like with the podcast and other things that we do. You would know that the two of us are very different and I think that that complements when we come together for some type of a a collaboration and I love that about us that you know. I think that's what makes us. Such great friends is that we are so different. And I appreciate your the things that are different about you. I appreciate all of those things you know. What's interesting it's every kid wants to be every little boy. WanNa be a major league baseball player. Nfl Player. What are professional athlete. Right and you talk to professional athletes and they talk about how some of them talk about how the joy of childhood playing gone. Because now it's a job and you have to train six hours a day and play another three hours that day and and some of the fun goes out of it because it's work and when I learned this when we tried to relaunch the family blog. So you guys the two of you you go live every day or you're creating a video to put out every week or something like that and it's and it's very consistent so you're always doing this. It's not just kind of like I feel like it today. Six months later you feel like it again. So you've taken a lot of people do for fun and it's a job you have to. I mean she goes live every day at one o'clock right it's not always convenient. But it's something that she's committed to doing and and does I mean I lasted about two weeks and doing a family blog and I was like I'm done I'm out do. It can't do it because I looked at him. And I said if you WANNA do a family blog and you're so dead set on doing it. You're in charge of it. You shoot it you produce it you edit it. We have two weeks worth of family law away episodes four episodes and it fell off the face of the earth. And I didn't say anything about it and I didn't talk about it because I know how much work that is and I was like he you know and I said to him. I can't bring it onto my plate. I I have other things so and and I think it is. It's tough because we are in the FISHBOWL. Right we are inside the glass and and People can have tons of opinions but What I can tell you is that the entire reason that I started this and not to speak for you. Tiffany but I believe the reason that you started this was to be inclusive of people and share a journey and let everybody know you're not alone. We're in this together and we're here to be a support to you in your journey through motherhood Through through a marriage through finding out who you are and that has not changed for me from day one today whatever the Hell. We're on ninety. No ninety thousand yes. I'm sorry that I brought it up. Now it's awkward. I thought they were just talking crap about you. I didn't know I was even involved in. You're not involved in this. You're not nothing you did is. And that's why I said none of this bothered me because I know it's not true. Well not only that. But it's like I'm proud of you for the things that you do. I'm proud of you for forgiving back and going to the jail and talking to inmates about how they can turn their life around and the fact that you are such a glowing example of the fact that you can find A A new path a new a new life and an amazing Nice. I you know I'm in recovery. So those things kind of go hand in hand I was given a bunch of advice and wisdom for free so I just give back. What do they expect you to do? Go to people's houses and like hold their babies right part of what I do each and every day is like I'm trying to By sharing my journey of what I'm going through part of that is giving back because I feel like like this is this is part of. This is what I can offer the. That's where I was getting to with. How now it's it's job right and you do this every day that that's a lot that's I don't think people recognize you know. What a huge commitment. That is even the podcast right getting together every single week doing this. It's it's a big commitment so a lot of respect to both of you saw and that's the whole thing that's why I feel like it's not gonNA none of that. We have received so much. Love that those things. It's like. Go ahead you out. You have a complaint file it with. Hr that's cool like it's fine like I'm just like because we do we get so much love we get so much love so and we appreciate all of you. So enough is enough is enough on spending time On that let's move on to well. Thank you for. Sharing is it. Hey Can if I go pee well you still hear it like I was going to quickly share? I'm not sure if you're watching the feed live but this is this is where all the complaints go for those are the HR complaints that have come in for those of you. That are live in here. You see it right now. Are you filming the Shredder box? Yeah we have a box foolish. You're such a door. You need to take your headset off. If YOU'RE GONNA go pee well why. Why can't we just keep talking? Well let's not because I think we're going to be able to hear you urinate. I don't think we're there. I feel like it'll bring us closer. I'm here by the way if you WANNA do that. I think our listeners love to hear you urinate. You know what you to talk. I'm I'm really healthy now at. I drink a lot of water so I just have to go train the Lizard and you guys talk to each other. I'LL BE RIGHT BACK. Five seconds one two three four or five for being such a terrible. Wow well. That's not awkward at all Well so why. Don't we talk about the grocery giveaway right now? Then okay I restore giveaway is every Friday In the month of May which means there are ten gift cards to give away. It's very easy to enter. You can text the word. Grocery Giveaway G. R. O. C. E. R. Y. G. I. V. E. Awa y one word no spaces to the phone number four four. Two two two or you can go to. Www dot that's inappropriate dot com and there's an email bar at the top and you can click into that in and type in your email. You only have to do it once a week And then if you don't win you can enter in the following three weeks each week But I will give away the names to the end. It's an electronic gift card which means we're going to email you with the Walmart Gift Card and you can use it either online or in store aback. That was pretty quick. Did you wash your hands? Yeah you know what I it was for the betterment of the podcast do you wash your hands in your own house. You guys washing hands in your own house. Yes every time EP. You Wash your hands in your own house. Yes say same. A to K all right. Why don't you get us rolled into parenting news? But don't trust Brian when he says he does. Oh Brian My Ryan Never. He never washes his hands. Okay what up everyone? Today's strength parenting news is brought to you by Meredith Masoudi. Oh Meredith before you tell us all about you. Why do Kangaroos hate rainy days? Why because their kids have to play inside? Oh because they're in a pouch because they carry them in their pouch so they play in the pouch. I guess which is kind of gross terrible. God everybody's yelling at me. Why me you are such a judge. Judy what happened? That was quick. Need wiser hands. Abc News Singer ABC's or happy birthday. Love wash a wash my hands. I've got beautiful. Miss Myers hand soap in every single bathroom. I've got sanitizer in every single bathroom But no I definitely don't wash my hands single time. Ip. 'cause I don't wait so we know so much about your bathroom business right now. I've just getting I do way. I've just kidding guy. She's I wanNA hand every time and I stained clim. I put them in the dishwasher. What is the what is it you drip dry shake it shake it up? Stand back out to the living room. That's what I thought. Yeah I thought maybe you did like a simone biles like backflip off the toilet or something and it just like it. Air Dries the fluffer down there now. Yes Nice Leifer all right well. If you if you are interested and my immune systems on point. You can find some snark teas. That are inspired by things. I say out of my mouth hole at www bonfire dot com forward slash door forward slash mayor Mason. We do have a brand new line of t shirts Called Things moms say and I if you need. Uh SNARKY T. Shirt you know where to find it. So let's go ahead and get started in trending news. The title of the article that I read was get down from their parents. Struggled to keep cooped up kids out of the emergency room Stuck inside during the corona virus lockdown five year old key Qian was entertaining himself by dancing around his Texas home a few weeks ago when he fell and hit his head on a door hinge. In normal circumstances. It was the type of injury that would likely merit a trip to the emergency room. Blood was gushing out of his scalp but with the hospitals er team ers teaming with corona virus patients. Kiana 's father Dr Christian. Assad was not sure he wanted to go and risk exposing his family which included a newborn to the virus. So Assad an interventionalist. Interventional cardiologists weighed his options. After examining his son he decided he would rather handle the injury himself despite the fact that he had not treated a head wound in about seven years in the emergency department. He figured we can do this. He then informed his wife who was panicking at the sight of blood that she needed to help. Close the head wound. She said I really wasn't expecting to hear that. She looked at me. Like I was crazy. Assad said and then we completed the Closing up the head wound by using a dermot bond which is basically like superglue for skin. If you've ever cut yourself and sometimes they won't stitch you up. They just use this. It's like superglue but I was reading this article. And there are story after story after story of parents who Were like really freaking out about taking their kids to the emergency room and I was thinking to myself. This really is the first time where I have been panicked when my kid got hurt that I didn't want to take him to a doctor or an emergency room and it has happened. We've had to injuries that. I would have taken my kid to the doctor for that. We chose not to. I don't know if you guys have had any injuries I know I yet. I am a huge fan of going to the emergency room. This isn't really a huge fan of going to the emergency room and any and all tests that they can give me huge. I like the C. T. Scans the. Mri is. Give me full-body tube. I just want you to scan me and let me know. I'm fine. Can't get enough. Yeah and so. It's it's been very trying for me. I've had to live with whatever life threatening self diagnosed illnesses I have. I haven't been able to get a second opinion about which is hard. Oh Gosh but my mother-in-law is a nurse practitioner and she has been informing me of what's going on in the hospital and apparently because of all of the corona virus patients have because they have been stopping elective surgery yeah the rest of the hospital is dead and cutting off workers. Because they don't they can't employ them they don't have the funds because people have stopped coming into the right and so. I think I'M GONNA take one for the team next time. I have a stomach pain and just keep you know go in there and just check it out keep them and business but yeah so apparently your these people aren't alone. Everybody has stopped. So they're they're literally laying off employees in the hospital. I I know you know. I don't know about you but when I envisioned the hospital I am vision like papers flying and people being wheeled everywhere and just panic but I guess in actuality. It's not like that at all. 'cause nobody's Golly yeah they. They've isolated their treatment floors right so they basically yeah quarantined sections of the hospital and then the other parts are empty. Yeah yeah so we actually had. Brian was riding his scooter without shoes. Spike his bike and crashed it and his Pinkie toe got caught In like basically got road rash eaten off and ripped off the toenail and the whole top layers size of a dime on the top of his. It ripped off and all the toenail. Hey you'RE NOT GONNA WARN US. And he comes hobbling in blood everywhere. I looked down. I was losing it because I cannot handle the sight of blood so dave picks them up and takes them into the bathroom and starts dealing with it but I was worried for about three or four days that it was going to get infected and I. We didn't take him in because this now this was weeks ago this is when we definitely had there were definitely probably more patients in the hospital And then the second one was Sophia. came down with a massively itchy and awful full-body rash that lasted for seven or eight days and she had to end up. She did three visits and she ended up on steroids Whole lot she ended up. She ended up on steroids and some other medications in order to to help with The rash someone just commented that they work for an er and Yep there have been decreased visits but an increase in the sex related injury visits. Oh shut up. That makes perfect sense because people are definitely probably doing it more. You're bored you try and things out what I like hanging from the ceiling fan now I don't. I don't know that. Actually want to know what their injuries were. Who was What's the Guy Bieber? They had a picture of him in his wife. Walking in some kind of a sex swing right before quarantine. Oh my yeah hot. I don't even know what I'd do with a swing. Oh my gosh I would love it. You'd fall asleep. Meredith interest in there at Dangle Angle. Everybody else does the work everybody else. How many people are involved now? I don't know but what I can tell. You can't galen goes they're doing but stuff. That's what that reminds me of the seinfeld episode. Few Silly Jerry where he sits on the few silly statue of Jerry and he has to go to the proctology to have it removed from his. But Asman the ASS man. The proctology license plate was the ass man. All right anyway yeah. So we've we've had a couple of. We've had several med visits to the doctor. Not Gone in but we definitely had some visits and I am convinced that my kid had corona virus. Because I've seen now that the Symptoms in a small end. Younger kids One of them is a Long lasting rash that itches and tangles and burns the skin and she was complaining that her skin was on fire the entire time and she did have a fever about a week before she got the rash. So you guys that have been exposed while we would have all been exposed and actually think that I'm the one who brought it in from my last trip to L. A. And I think my daughter I think my son got it and then I think my daughter got it and I think we probably all have the antibodies for it so when they do open up for testing we're GONNA go get antibody tested for it. Because I'm pretty sure that I have it when the kids have had it. I think we had it. I have a question. My husband told me today they found a knot antidote vaccine. They have the they're working on that. It's in human trials. Now yes so. We're hoping to have it by End of the year because it takes a while for the trials confused. What do you mean? I don't know my husband told me. They had a a vaccine. And then you said they're opening stuff up next week so I was like. Oh my gosh is coming to an end but from but you said it won't be until that year so take that they. They have a vaccine that they have been. There are probably eight or twelve vaccines. And they're hoping one of those is going to show conclusive evidence that it will work so they have to test all of them and get the data to figure it out and it takes months. But they're they're thinking that because they're fast tracking it that they'll be able to get those to us by November December so that we can start vaccinating people prior to the next time corona virus crops up again which would be in the winter months. Because that's when it cropped up last year right cropped up yet okay moving onto to today's parenting crap. Okay Sorry Okay. I just realized on the first Section that we did. There's been boosted free range. Parenting not yet. Yeah yeah well. That's what the whole thing was not taking our kids into the doctors for every scrape and scratch and this that and the other thing though. Free range parenting. Just letting your kids do. Whatever the hell they want. So now they're jumping off of furniture and flying across the living room tired. We've had. Yeah we're all tired. Today's parenting crap is brought to you by juggling the Jenkins yes. I would love to talk about how I had. A shirt launched just today and I've got the other two shirts available so the be present shirt the here to make it weird shirt and now we have an introverted shirt available for sale on bonfire so it's www dot bonfire dot com slash store slash juggling hyphen the Hyphen Jake. We go to my website. Can't wait to see shirt. I would pull it up but I don't have a device that's free right now. I'm using all of them. That's okay you'll have to be on your phone. I need this all right so I thought this was a funny story to talk about and I'm sure there are some some of our some of our listeners. Out there probably have had this happened maybe not to the extent that Amy Schumer has had it happen. But I'm sure there that there have been other issues So Amy Schumer realized about a month after her son was born that there was a potential problem with what they had named their son. Jean who was born last May originally had the middle name. Addle in honor of Schumer's close friend and fellow a stand up comedian comedian. Dave Atoll atoll was a great name. Hill attell attell. Yes thank you. A tell was a great name in its own right but some people on the Internet pointed out that genes first and middle name together. Sound like the word genital gene. A towel. That's why I was saying at all because genital together Schumer didn't make the connection until like a month and she said on an interview on the Howard Stern Show. She said your new parents. You're just kind of tired in ecstasy. But then she started reading comments and she said some troll on the internet said Hey Your son's name sounds like genital and your husband's last name is is Fisher. So it sounds like genital Fisher all my so. She quickly had to change his name. And she changed it to Middle Name to David Gene. David still honoring her friend by using the first name. So it's Gene David Fisher but this has probably happened to a lot of people because when you think about it you're picking a name right and it's hard to pick a kid's name like you're naming of firkin person like that's a lot of stress and responsibility right. So Dave polled. Some celebrity baby names that in picking names one of the things that was really difficult is that we were both teachers. So it's like Jimmy. Nope had him third period. Nope nope she was in fifth. If Mattis was a girl I wanted to name the baby madison but then I had a madison that I was like all hail now and it was he was a boy anyway but But yeah so it is hard. It's tough to pick a name. So here's some celebrity baby names that people have. Oh I'm loving this in the comments. People are saying names that are like The my parents named my brother Benjamin drove over. It never occurred to them that people would haul him. Ben Grover Mike Bend over. Yeah Yeah Yeah Yeah Anyway. So let's hear these celebrities crazy. Celebrity kids names Let's see radic's is the son of Cameron Diaz and Benji Madden? The kid together. Apparently and his name is Radic's gravity child of Lucy. Blue Smith and stormy bree lovely lucky. Lucky lucky sorry page. Yeah like lucky and stormy gravity. Isn't that you know. I don't know who those people are either. Okay but gravity is a heavy name. That was funny. Okay you're weird hot breath road. Is it cow? I thought Khalil but I totally well. There's a hyphen. Yeah even say that Nicholas Cage and Alice Kim. Afl Hyphen E. L. I Dunno Luna Simone. John Legend teagan. I do love Luna. Vicky Perez has a Sophia Mery. Oh we have a so family pilot inspector. I knew that one that was Jason. Leeann Beth Rig strath Lee reportedly chose the name pilot after hearing Asong pilot. Inspector named their kid pilot inspector school. Sunday molly I like it. Mike Myers and Kelly Tisdale. I like Sunday the name. I don't know Nice. Apollo Bowie Flynn Kingston. James Macgregor sounds fancy and Zuma Nesta rock those gwen Stefani and Gavin Rosedale. Kids Chip Bastard Zuma it sounds like Zimba class. Let's all go to the zoo. Mba Okay. Good Oh Robert Rodriguez an Elizabeth Ave on rocket racer rebel Rogan Rianne. Oh Wow that's ours. Sounds like a very intense household Blue Ivy as we know that's beyond say's kids Konya and kim-wah Kim Kardashian is north Saint in Chicago and I feel like if you are the kid of a celebrity. Like you're allowed to have a cool name. You know because if you grow up to be a celebrity yourself which happens sometimes Having a name like poppy honey rosie. Isn't that outlandish? I like poppy. I think it's horrible the name yeah. I do too when you recommended client. He didn't you Colli. Love the name okay. Is that how you say because I thought it was calliope no? It's yeah it's okay on alive. The other night I had a woman named Madeline and I called her meadow. Leon I'm stupid and I was so tired and I was like that's her name is not madeline on Madeline. You Moron that's hilarious. I don't know if I mentioned but there was a girl whose name was death-ray and through the whole live like over and over. I kept calling desire desire. You desire her. Yeah esmerelda great name. Great Name Ryan Gosling and Menendez Kid. Lovett Frank Zappa was the founder of wild kids names. Yeah Moon Unit Diesel and diva thin muffin. They're older. I'm pretty sure these kids are all grown. Now I'm pretty sure. And so they've been around for. I remember when I was a kid hearing their name. Why what's Sin Muffin part? I wish I had that muppet. I don't know what that even means. Laser Lee Lewis Pence Diplo Harvey. Okay so people are asking. We're going to make an announcement about the new thing. Going on with you on the podcast. Are we going to make an announcement? But what are we going to mention it? What heartbreaking crab new throughout to you by Meredith Dave being what were you gonNa say? I didn't I said it. Everybody keeps asking me so. I'm assuming you've told people on your page. Yes it is. It is public knowledge that we are in fact moving. We are in the middle of attempting to purchase a home. We will be moving to Saint Augustine which is four hours northeast of here but closer to tiffany drive in the stories of her drives here but but we will still continue to do the podcast. We will do it like this over the zoom We will be bringing it to you each week and then I will make trips down to Sarasota to record in person with Tiffany as often as we can as well as I have my eye on. Twenty twenty one take-it-or-leave-it podcast tour. No you cannot go. Swimming were doing a podcast and I to answer your question. I am a strange combination of sad and happy And devastated glad for them. Thank you I can't think about it without crying. Jordan says she buys you a couch tiffany and then decides to move thank you Jordan. Never once maybe one time have I know. I haven't. I've never had the luxury. You've sat cow chess. You have. Are you sure yes one time one. I don't is that well. I know that we did one episode and a couch in your living room. He did mine here. We did one here. I'll take your word for it. I'll pull the footage bit. I will leave. You did so. I thought I was going to send you a message when it happened. Did you hear about her her run in with the Metal Chair and I'm pretty sure it was your stool. Oh Yeah Hell So. We have curtains instead of doors for the kids closets. And for some reason she decided to try to smooth the curtain. Now like Eras Schimdt Schwartz on it and I was trying to wipe that. It's like she was trying to smack a bat flying around the house or something right and she comes from all the way down the curtain and the metal chair was right behind it and it sounded like what I imagined. The Liberty Bell sounded like when they when it cracked all by it. So hard broke my finger. I'm pretty sure I don't think he broke a a nice bone bruise I had. It was black. It sounded like I hit a bell with a hammer and her and Sophia is just laughing. I thought I thought of you immediately. Soon as I saw it was the chair. It was Chantelle. You Iron Chair. Trina says. Give tiffany the couch. This couch come on the new house. I don't even want that stupid couch. No take it with you along with my heart. Oh tiffany I love you so much and I promise you that I will come to visit you and your name okay. I knew well actually. We haven't visited her yet. We haven't been invited now a- any well. I as soon as I bought this house. We're on lockdown literally but It's fine I just. I loved knowing that I was going to get to sit with a friend and talk every week. And knowing that that's never gonNA happen ever again. I feel like you're being a little dramatic with that. Never again happen stuff because we still are talking to each other on physically looking at you right now. Look Sophia. Take it easy over there. Let's say you're being very dramatic but this is why I have friends now. Stop we're still going to be. We're still friends are we. Yeah well we're we ever real friend wouldn't leave. Tiffany. I'm just joking. You're you're laying it on thick I. It's fine they asked how I felt and I feel betrayed. I'm just kidding guys. I am fine. Oh my gosh what I can tell you is that I really do believe that we will Come out of this whole lockdown pandemic thing and you and I are going to find a way to make a tour happen and we are going to tore it up in twenty twenty one. Yes you know I I I will say that. The podcast was one of two big sticking points. Yeah I know it was and I it off for over a year because of it. Well thank you. I'm honored do know that because I do. Yeah friends since Lego Land. Crystals said we know when you became friends which was several which was several seasons into the podcast. Might I add. Might I add so thanks. Silence of a fear of abandonment. I I'm not abandoning you. I don't let anyone did I. Okay I'm not saying you saying in general in life and the Oscar goes to. I know I know. Daytime Emmy Award winner. Tiffany Jenkins all right. So love and marriage is brought to you by Meredith and Tiffany. Please visit our podcast at. Www DOT podcast take it or leave at dot com for all things about the podcast and listened to the podcast. And then tell you. Listen to the podcast so I didn't really have eleven marriage. I couldn't really find anything and I felt like there wasn't much to talk about in that front so we should have looked more into the sex accidents in the apparently but I wanted to talk about the fact that. Us states are beginning to reopen By end of week and most states have date of May fourth which is Monday And the reason that I chose to talk about it in the section was was because my husband and I disagree about the reopening of the states and and and what we're GONNA do as a family so each state has a different protocol so the only thing that I can definitively talk about is what I know of Florida. And that's that Florida will reopen on Monday And it is going. They're going to reopen restaurants to twenty five percent capacity all open public spaces with social distance. Rules applying you do have to wear a mask when you leave your house But stores like a lot of retailers are going to reopen with a twenty five percent capacity right like your Tj Max you Ross your whatever at a twenty five percent capacity meaning they have to know how many people are in the store at all time and nobody else can come in if they're at twenty five percent so when somebody leaves then you can go in and so on and so forth and so I said to my husband. I was like hey on Monday. Since we're opening I'M GONNA go to Home Depot. And he was like no we can just order it online they can deliver it and I said right but they're saying that we can go out now. I have a face mask. I need sink cleaner and stove-top cleaner I'm just GONNA run out and pick up those two things because they charge you to deliver to your house and I can just go and get it. They're saying that it's it's reopened. And he's like no. I think we should wait two more weeks and see what happens to all those fools who go out and start Going into the going into these places and so it really has it really has caused a some conversations in our household so I wanted to know how you fell and how you think drew feels because I know that you always say you have no idea what drew is thinking but Like what are your thoughts on this? Will you go out to eat as a family? Because they are reopening restaurants at twenty five percent capacity. I found out today that they were telling that so. We haven't had time to really talk about it I mean I'm probably do. This just gives me the worst anxiety like I'm starting to sweat just thinking about it like our second. I'll have a glimmer of hope. Like when you're like they're reopening and then it's like oh my gosh. Things are getting back to normal and that it's twenty five percent. You have to wear a mask. Social distancing applies while. It's definitely better. There's like a weird part of me that it just bombs may out that this is our reality and like it's still not like who knows when and if things will ever go back to normal. I. I don't know why it just bummed me out so much just now. The wearing masks certain times of the year is a normal for several places in the in the world around the world. That's abnormal when certain things flare up. People have to do that. So I think the the you talk about defining moments right. I was just watching something nine eleven. The country was never the same after. That will never be the same after this again. It's going to be different. My thing is it's opening up on Monday. What's different between Sunday and Monday? Between Eleven fifty nine PM and twelve o one. What's the difference right so we have had in our area? There have not been too many cases which the way I look at. It is there. There are people that pretended like this wasn't even happening. I've seen people and talk to people and they're like this is all made up. This isn't even real and that that lack of paying attention I think could lead to You know anytime you have some sort of change. You always have a spikes. It's implementation spike. Right a false a false positive or false negative you'll have an implementation and then things will level out and I I. I personally believe that. I don't think it's going to be what it was before. But I think that there will be a small little spike in in things because everyone people are GonNa Think Oh. It's all over done. We're cool nothing ever happened. I stayed home and I didn't need to because nothing happened. And they're going to go out and people will start getting careless and I just don't want to be part of it and when I look at it we don't really have to be part of it because there's nothing we need right so why do it. Anyway it's my that was thank you. It's true and somebody asked how you're GONNA go out to eat with masks on. Well they have a little flap. Y- they're saying that they're spacing tables out enough that your I'm assuming the servers are going to be wearing masks. And then you're facing tables out so that you're not six feet next to the closest table next to you but I do I it. It becomes heavy when you start thinking about these things because no things aren't going to be like they were I think it's going to take several months for us to find a a rhythm and and and once we have a vaccine then we can kind of move forward again. I do hope they bring back sports without spectators because I think that will give people something to look forward to a sporting events. You know whether it's baseball football frigging. I'd watch golf right now. Just to have a change of pace for something right like I think they're going to start doing those things without spectators and kind of piecing it in but that's why I'm saying I think I think in six months the world is GonNa look a whole lot different. I think we'll have a vaccine. I think we'll be more prepared and more ready to face these things and I think we'll be getting back to that point of having larger gatherings whether it's sporting events or or concerts or take it or leave it tour and I do think that that's going to happen but I think I don't think we're six or six months from there. I'm interested to see how they're going to reopen schools. Somebody just said that their town well. Let's talk to him about not reopening in the fall and I know that that's That people are thinking that I do. I have heard that they're gonNA do. Staggered starts at some schools where there will be kids who will go. Monday Wednesday Friday and then kids who go Tuesday Thursday. I've heard that they're going to do online. Learning for half and then in class for half. I've heard I've heard a million different things So I don't know until they make an announcement and come out and say this is what we're GonNa do but someone someone who's saying they refuse to live in fear and I agree with that and I when I talk about things like this or or share those types of opinions or make those decisions I always think risk reward. It's not necessarily just living in fear. It's you know if you have four bald tires is an and you're going to dry. You have to drive down the interstate to go get an ice cream cone. The risk reward four bald tires tonight's cream cone or four bald tires. Go to emergency room. Well I'M GONNA I'm GONNA take it. Take the risks to go to the emergency room. But if it's something I don't really need I'm not GonNa do it because it's not just jeopardizing me. I'm jeopardizing my family. That absolutely makes sense and I think that the struggle for me is that just we. I took so many things for granted and I'm going through stages emotional stages throughout this realizations denials acceptance. And I. You know I miss just like hanging out at somebody's house with a bunch of friends. I miss going and getting massages. Which sound so Buji but like once a month I would get a massage and it was just so great to just not worry not stress and just it's so stupid. I know it sounds stupid but I missed you. It's it's it's it's our creature comforts. It's are things that we enjoyed having It's your right in every respect with what you were just saying in and you can. You can have those. You can have that feeling of loss and it still be Valued and it's it's it's but it is it's hard you know it's the the entire thing is is hard and sucks and I want to go out and that's why China honestly like I try not to talk about it because I I have this out of sight out of mind thing and I just stay in my bubble and I tried to find something positive every day and I just take it one day at a time but when we start talking about the future it stresses me out and it gets anxiety going I just I the what if the unknown I love to be in control and I can't be and I know that but it's not easy re tweet that. Yeah Yeah I yeah agreed and it is. I think that's an end. Of course we chose to move during a pandemic. So we've got that that we're trying to figure out and navigate because it's like well If all goes well and we do close on this house in a few weeks we have to make a decision with when we're going to actually move all of our crap up there and Can We hire moving company? Yup because they're considered essential. Do I want to be in close proximity with these individuals? No not right now so I know that we probably WanNa wait two three or four weeks before we hire the moving company and and start making our way across the state but at some point we do have to. We do have to go because our house is supposed to be up on the market today. So hopefully somebody buys are Damn House and hopefully we have to leave our house because somebody wants to buy it. Move their stuff in it. So it's you know the amount of stress that I'm holding right now on on selling the house is probably the most I've been in my life. Yeah 'cause I'm so worried about selling this house because it's like we can't afford to have two houses. We have to sell the House. Like it's it's not an. I want to know. We have to sell this house so I am stressed the F. Out about that. Which is why tiffany diagnosed me before the show with Sleep paralysis which I apparently have and she's not wrong because she literally read the definition of it. And it's what I have. So Yep so yeah. That's where my stress you know. I. I'm we're all stressed. Everybody has stressed which is why. I think people are having all these freak outs in public with each other. You know. I've been reading some of these awful things that people are screaming at each other in parking lots and screaming through drive thru windows. And it's like everybody's on edge but don't yell at the drive thru girl because she gave you a Dr Pepper and set of a diet coke. I watched this horrible video of this woman just screaming obscenities at this girl and the girl was like. I'll get you a new one and she's like your you know you've ruined everything and it's not really lady dot always been like that though. I'll never understand it but because I've always worked in the service Industry Yeah. I agree as a as a waitress for years and years and years. I have seen some awful awful things and the not tipping. Why do you think you get to go out to a restaurant and not tip people? Why do you think that's okay? Oh my gosh tip frigging tip people. Do you know what waitresses and waiters make an hour? I think I was to fourteen when I worked. I made two dollars and fourteen cents. They get many times. I never even got a paycheck like because it just your taxes that you had to pay in was was everything and the only thing you were getting was the tips. Gosh sorry. That's okay side. Note the weird weird time and I think it's important to talk about how you're feeling because me and mayors talked about this before the show. Sometimes we feel guilty complaining because we are so blessed and just because some people have it. Harder doesn't mean whatever you're going through and valid and I think it's important to mention that because I felt guilty today even just like admitting that this conversation makes me anxious and feel weird but the truth is does and I can't pretend like it doesn't and I know that I'm blessed and I. I'm fortunate that I get to continue working from home and I guess to be with my family and things like that but it doesn't negate the fear and worry that I experience incessantly regardless. Yeah I think it circles back to what we were talking about before that You don't really know what's going on right like you don't know all of the things that are going on with people so. I think as always the practice should just be kind. Give people the benefit of the doubt you know. Don't jump down. Somebody's throat relax. And that's hard to do when you're heightened with your anxiety which I feel like every person on the planet. Literally now is heightened with anxiety so agreed agreed. We gotta add it on a high note. What some good news had some great wisdom there. You were just dropping. Some great wisdom thought. That was the end truth by. Okay sorry thank you know. I have seen lots of wonderful things though I saw a A couple who donated their entire or tipped their entire stimulus check to a restaurant and each of the waiters and waitresses got one hundred dollars each I saw a man at a car wash who I don't I don't know the whole story. But they had twenty thousand dollars in a bag in their car and they went through a car wash and they were dumping trash and they dumped the twenty thousand dollars into the trash can left the drive through car wash. The attendant went over and found the found the money in the garbage can and returned it to the couple that had just left so I don't know if they were trying to go to the bank to deposit money I don't know why they had twenty thousand dollars in cash and they're in their car in a garbage bag but they were reunited with it and obviously very grateful I saw a senior class in Calgary Who set up. A prerecorded phone line system for people to call in to get a good message or a poem or song or anything they could just listen to. It brighten their day. So I've seen lots of good things. Listen hear me out. Everybody here saying don't leave it by everybody. I mean people said it but I I just had a great idea not for right now but sometime this week meredith. Okay you and I should go live together and Steel John Krasinski idea and each independently. Like look for good news. That either is happening in our community or that we've seen online and just share some positive news with everybody and hang out and talk about it deal. Do you want to. I'll do I guess we can talk about it later but I just think that's I think that'd be so much fun. Yeah we just need to pick a day in time. Yeah and we'll do it through zoom like this and did you purposefully. You know it's fine because you had all new moms on your town hall so I see nobody else was coming again but they just WanNa make it clear that I was not invited to everybody who asks. Why didn't show up because you were on the first one so I was inviting other people? Xactly everybody asks me. Why wasn't why didn't you join her? Why didn't you show up and I just wanted to be known? That Meredith Horn didn't buy and that didn't stop me. It's I was Gonna invite you again when the new guest that we think is going to be coming on that we both just instagram chatted with was going to be on so it was gonna be you me and her okay. But she hasn't replied yet so if that person says yes they'll be on my town hall you were. GonNa get an invite to be in that one. Just the three of us. I would have shown up anyway. I don't need her measly invite Tim I show. Your show is my show. Okay your houses. My house forever is my couch. You're has no no Dave? Dave said yesterday that I'm getting old and I think he's thinking about replacing me. Please are newer model. Yeah no younger version. Way Too much work. I hope you signed a pre nup now are I. Don't understand that if it don't sign it or do I think you have to have something in order to have a pre-nup and when we got married seventeen years ago I guarantee I didn't have nothing neither did he. Yeah same so so none of us thought any of this coming nope all right look look forward to some sort of a dual live with the two of us talking about good things. Yeah coming at Ya. I love that hot. Fresh Ready L. Okay thank you guys for Hanging out with us for listening to the PODCAST and downloading it. We're up to eighty four million views download so thank you for that We Love Ya. Can you like. That is legal. I do it all the time. Okay but yeah. Thanks for being here. Join US next week for another episode of take it or leave it and advice ish podcast hosted by two struggling MOMS. Who HAVE NO I? Did you paused? What why? How can I pause it by? What's yours three ipod? Who have no idea one two three who have no idea? What are you all right? One two three who have no idea. No I'm over it I I did it perfectly for not one two three. Do have no idea what we're doing a great day guys all.

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Ep 42: As Seen on TV- Stuff infomercials sold me

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Ep 42: As Seen on TV- Stuff infomercials sold me

"Home Improvement home. Renovation Homemade Mints homer bears and all the other challenges of homeowners. Yeah. Well, Go Dula bombing ever home improvement podcast. Greetings in. This doug, this is the thumb and hammer home improvement podcast. Maybe this isn't such a common thing anymore what with streaming on Netflix and other services but Several years ago. Some of the only entertainment available in the wee hours of the morning was the infomercial. These have our programs designed to sell you something that you didn't know you wanted. Her. needed. Now, why did these air in the wee hours couple of reasons first of all, not exactly prime time so advertising rates would have been cheaper. And he gave the station something to air besides reruns of the Rockford files. But let's face it. The wee hours of the morning. That's when the audience. Is Not, vulnerable. You either stay green in from the bar slightly or than slightly. Buzzed. Or you're suffering from insomnia unable to fall asleep no matter how exhausted you are. Either way you are not in your normal state of mind you're more. And therefore, you are more likely to reach for the phone to call right now. For the best. Deal. For Me Rockford, foul reruns would have been preferable because a Lotta these infomercials. Worked on me? And while there are some purchases like don't regret most fall into category of. What the heck was I thinking? In the interest of decluttering and downsizing in general financial stuff I would like to share with you some of the purchases that I made over the years either directly from an infomercial. Or inspired by an infomercial. I present these to you in no particular order. Starting with the swivel sweeper. The swivel sweeper is or was. A. Cordless. Floor sweeper. That had spinning brushes that work on bare fors and carpet alike. This wiggle base spins three, hundred, sixty degrees it's lightweight it's easy to maneuver. A kind of reminded me of my mother's old manual vissel sweeper and I thought this would be ideal for you know cleaning up crumbs in between vacuum means. However. We found that the motor bogged down on carpet. And pet for was A. TO UNTANGLE FROM THE BRUSHES I spent more time cleaning sweeper than the sweeper spent cleaning. Plus it just didn't have enough capacity for the pet for that we had to clean up. So after a while the sweeper ended up in a corner, the basement. Before. Finally got tossed to the curb on garbage day. So for us, this will sweeper was A. Bust. But you have to admit. Any product that promises to make cleaning easier can be quite attractive. And the steam mop. was another such product I'm not going to specify the brand here. It's not important. I believe the brand advertised in the infomercial was not the same brand that I purchased in store, but they both operate the same way. superheated steam liquefies the dirt which is absorbed by the microphone per mop. The floors left virtually dry because the steam evaporates quickly and whatever doesn't evaporate gets absorbed by the mob. This team kills germs and bacteria and allows for chemical free cleaning. And the manufacturers claimed that this demob can be used on all hard floor surfaces including would entail. The reusable micro fiber mop can just be tossed in the washing machine when you're done. What's not to love? Well you need to vacuum the four I. Dust can scratch wood floors especially before the markets wedding after lubricate the dirt. The mob while washable. Just never seemed to come clean. Again pet for was a big problem, the pet for we get stuck in the microphone fivers. And even after doing, you know even after throwing it in the washing machine. The pepper was still be stuck there. Anything that wasn't, vacuumed up. Risked, being stuck in the micro fiber. and. I was never comfortable using the steam mop on wood floors. I mean. Steam can't be good for would can it Maybe it's fine. Maybe not I don't know I don't trust it. Besides I was raised by a mother who believe the only way to truly clean a floor was to get down on your hands and knees. And that sort of ingrained in me. We still have our steam mop downstairs. And I do have a bad neither waiting to have scope. So the hands and knees method is quite painful. I may learn to the steam mop after all. Moving onto the kitchen. When infomercial got a lot of airplay. Was for the magic bullet. There's personal blender chops and blends a wide variety of food and can even make smoothies and operate as juicer. Tauzin zone tomato and onion, and give it a couple of pulses and you have delicious salsa. Tauzin some chicken in green onion, a Mayo for instant chicken salad it. All sounds. Very promising. But my attended chicken. Salad. Turn into more of a pet hey or cat food I am not sure which. Also was a liquefied mess. We never tried juicing or making smoothies with it however. It was my go-to machine for making a marinade. Many years ago I found this recipe for Cajun shrimp with fresh garlic and spices blended with lemon juice and olive oil. The magic bullet was perfect for this recipe. I using the chopping blade for the garlic and then mixing blame for the other ingredients after that. And then it's just a matter of point that mixture over the shrimp allow the Martin allowed to marinate and then skewer the shrimp and toss them on the grill. The magic bullet was the ideal size for this marinade. So it was all super convenient. Unfortunately, we have not been able to find the magic bullet since we moved. It's. GotTa be in a box somewhere likely in storage. But it hasn't turned up after numerous searches. Otherwise we would still be using it if only for the Cajun shrimp. Another kitchen item the promised to do everything but that we only use for one thing. Was the Wolfgang puck pressure oven. It was a conventional oven, a toaster oven, a pressure oven into rotisserie all in one. You could cook meals in a fraction of the time with better results than a microwave. There being a number of occasions. Where we were meals, the required food to be cooked in the oven at different temperatures. So having a second oven seem like it would be really convenient. Plus Hey you could rotisserie a whole chicken in it. In about forty minutes or even roasted fourteen pound Turkey or so they claimed. Sadly. This oven did not live up to expectations the rack. Just wasn't dirty enough to support anything close to fourteen pounds. So the Turkey was out. Roast beef looked amazing but. It was still Ron side and the consistency of rubber. This is when I use the pressure setting. It was very disappointing. On. The other hand roast potatoes and rotisserie chicken were stunning. We use the puck of an almost exclusively for rotisserie chicken. Skin was crisp. The meat was juicy. Perfection. The big downside to the oven though was safety. The Oh side of the oval was just too hot to touch and it could cause burns. And if you weren't careful and pop the door open before relieving the pressure I That could be dangerous. Not only that but the interior of the Evan was a pain in the butt to clean. But we did use it. Usually about once a week. Until we moved. The kitchen in our current house is way too small to support such large countertop appliance. So Onto the classifieds site it went. Mind you are experienced with this contraption seems to be in the minority has there been a lot of complaints about quality or lack thereof. In fact it. Seems that a lot of the items that Wolfgang Puck put his name on? have, quality. Issues. That's a shame. Because when a world famous chef endorses something for the kitchen, you would expect it to meet certain standards. But I digress. Speaking of celebrity endorsements who could forget Chuck Norris Hawking the total? Jim. The only one exercise machine capable of eighty exercises utilizing your own body weight for resistance. Just make a few adjustments change the incline you can move from exercise to exercise for a full body workout and it falls up for easy storage. Well let's face it. The total. JIM was out of my price range but. Canadian tire was selling a much less expensive knockoff that I did purchase. When I saw it, I thought. Hey, that sort of looks like the one Chuck Norris advertisers The infomercial had already sold on the concept. Plus think of the money I would say by canceling my gym membership. Yes this thing this thing did fold up. So you didn't have to dedicate a lot of space to permanently. However when it was in use. It took up a lot of room. And I thought it was somewhat cumbersome when it came to making the adjustments between exercises. That's why only used it a few times. It just wasn't as convenient as promised. Workouts effective. I can't speak to that. Maybe, they actually did them on a consistent basis. I'd have a better idea, but hauling this thing out moving furniture around so I can set it up was more hassle than it was worth. So yeah. This was a complete waste of money. Several years ago I. Once again, bought into the idea of the all in one Jim. This time it was the total flax that used resistance bands for resistance. Again. By making an adjustment here and there you can move from exercise to exercise for total body workout. But. What was really special about this? was. Its. Size. It was small. It was small enough to set up anywhere. And that was, what led me reaching for my wallet. My credit card. At two in the morning. Toward one. Maybe with repeated use transitions between exercises might have been faster but it seems that I was spending much more time reading the instructions for the adjustments as I spent actually exercising. and. As it turns out, I'm just not crazy about resistance bands. I would much prefer consistent resistance throughout the entire range of motion, but that's just me. We also had this thing stationed in the family room. It's a great concept exercising while watching TV. But not when you're the only one exercising and other people are trying to watch their programs. I am just not comfortable exercise in front of an audience even if I'm not in front of the audience and they're not paying attention to me if that makes any sense. In our current house, we have even less room so. That was my excuse to sell this thing and put a few bucks back into my pocket. When it comes to exercise equipment I always have the best intentions. And the infomercials Do a lot to not only inspire but also eliminate any excuses. Luke how easy we are making it for you to get into shape So. Is it any surprise that I would be inspired to make a big ticket purchase of yet another piece of exercise equipment? The Max. Trainer. The Max trainer was promising. Something of a cross between the stair stepper and the leapt tickle machine. And promised ineffective workout in only twenty minutes. When I used to go to the gym I aerobics machine of choice was the elliptical. But ellipticals take up a lot of space so they're not the most practical for home. The Max trainer is essentially a vertical elliptical. So it doesn't require as big a footprint. And Holy Crap does this thing give you an intense workout? Really and truly? But I didn't use it as much as I would have liked because of the layout of our family room. We couldn't located near any plugs. We needed an extension cord to plug it in. That extra step of stretching out the extension cord across the room where people could trip over it was enough of an inconvenience. And it's not a quite as machine either so I didn't want to use it when other people were trying to watch. TV. That's the problem when you have the stuff in the most used room of the house. But. I had dedicated space plan for it in the basement of that house when it was finished. Honest. When we moved. I pictured being able to use it in the basement here in this house. It was a great plan except the basement ceiling is too low. And with no other practical location for. I reluctantly sold it. Oh. But I'm not done yet. There was one other fitness purchase that I may based on an infomercial. And that was the five minute workout with Tony Horton of Beach Party fitness. The five minute workout is The entry level regimen brought to you by the same company that brought you insanity. And really on the face of it. Who doesn't have five minutes a day for a bit of exercise. Even. If you add another minute or two to dig out the DVD's and fire up the DVD player and television. The issue that I had with, it was not having any feedback on form. I thought it was doing the exercises properly. But how could I know for sure? And there was this one particular exercise where he stressed that improper form could lead to serious injury and I already had a messed up back. So even though I thought I do most the exercises I kinda got scared off. which is a shame. Now, I know what you're thinking. Because I'm thinking the same thing. I always have the best intentions when it comes to exercise. But I fall back on excuses and bats my main problem. Fair enough. I'm sure that's a big part of my problem. Another big part of my problem is buying into the sales pitches of these various products. But let's go back to my personal fitness for for just a minute. Sorry. This is a bit of a sidetrack but. I have always struggled with my weight. And I have always lacked willpower when it comes to. Diet. I like my salty snacks, deep fried foods sodas. All the things that are really bad for you. And I am also somewhat lazy when it comes to exercise. I start off with the best of intentions, but I rarely stick to anything. About eleven years ago. while. We were renovating our money pit. My Diet went completely off the rails. Hey Kitchen, renovation was a good excuse for takeout every night, right? Well. It got to the point where my weight hit two, hundred, seventy pounds, which is. On. Acceptable. I am six foot two. This was definitely obese. So I started running up and down the stairs at work during my lunch break. I reduced my caloric intake. And I managed to get my weight down to a reasonable two, hundred and twenty six, and that's where it stayed for almost two years. But Old Habits die hard and gradually put the weight back on I returned to my favorite deep fried foods and potato chips and whatnot. And I kept telling myself that I needed to get back on track. I told myself and I lost the weight before but I could do it again. and. I purchased the Max trainer in the total flex. With that. In mind. But as they collected dust I, collect the pounds. and. I would eventually balloon up to two hundred eighty before settling down to sixty to seventy range. Earlier this year I went to the. Doctor. I'm fifty three. There are certain. Screenings. Rather Perot beans that a guy my age needs to have done. The doctor sent me for a blood test. I mean it had only been about seventeen years since my last physical. I said that I know I need to lose weight. He said. Sodas fifty percent of the population. Don't worry about the weight. When he said that the blood test was going to check my blood sugar and cholesterol I said. Oh He said, don't worry about it. It's probably not as bad as you think. I said. But I know what I've been eating. Anyway, I was really surprised when my blood sugar was. Okay but. The cholesterol wasn't good. Am I. Blood Pressure was a little high? The doctor told me that he wanted me to eat better. I said. I knew I needed to lose weight I knew my solution was diet and exercise. So. I started eating salmon. And pickled herring and I stopped swilling forty eight ounces of Coca Cola, a day and started drinking more water. And sparkling water when I crave carbonation. I jus lower fat foods and I try to stick to sensible portions and it's Working. I tried to walk the dog every day he's healthy and he loves longer walks than we average about seven kilometer walk at a pretty good pace. After only a week or two, my blood pressure was backed down in the normal range and. My weight has been coming off. As I record this in July. I have lost about forty pounds in four months. The point of all, this is not to pat myself on the back. But to reinforce the fact that the only real exercise equipment I ever needed was my own willpower. and My dog despite what those infomercials were trying to convince me. Anyway getting back to the infomercials. There is one last item and it's my most recent purchase. Actually, I'm not even sure of was featured in falling infomercial and might have just being a regular commercial but. It is probably the most gimmicky thing on this list. And that is the clothes folder. I believe Miracle Fold was the original, but there's also the flip fold or. Flip enfold and countless copycats. And that actually forgot about this. This thing until several years ago when Sheldon was using one to fold his laundry on the Big Bang theory. I do the laundry and folding clothes consistently is not the easiest thing to do. So earlier, this year I took the plunge and I bought one of these laundry folding contraptions of Amazon. Now. The expression. Game Changer. is thrown around a lot but I gotta say this thing is a game changer. Here's the deal. Forget about speed. If you expect to fold laundry faster. They you will be disappointed. In fact I, find that it takes longer to line shirt and do the preliminary fall so that nothing has overhanging the panels. But the finished product. Is So perfectly folded in everything, consistently folded to the same dimensions. Which makes tacking on shelves and place an drawers so much easier and neater. And I think this would be a must if you want to go full Marie Condo. And file your shirts. So just goes to show that a commercial her infomercial or whatever. It was twenty years ago. Can still have an impact. Of course, it helps being featured on over exposed Sitcom but. Quite honestly this is one of my favorite purchases and. It didn't break the bank. So to review. For cleaning I was to a vacuum cleaner or a bucket of soapy water, this weevil sweeper and the steam mop. Did Not, deliver on their promises though I am going to give the steam mop another chance. In the kitchen, the magic bullet and the Wolfgang Puck of and both had a lot of features that we didn't use. Is the magic bullet worth the price and space for just mixing marinate if that's all we use it for. And the PUCK oven I'm still on the fence. As, much as we loved the Rotisserie Chicken, I have also found this recipe for chicken in the slow cooker and that was just as tasty. And actually less work and easier cleanup. A second of in the kitchen is handy but really we managed to get by with one of just fine. It just takes a little more planning for the timing of meals. And when it comes to exercise equipment I mean by Gum, you can have equipment takes up space in. Your. House. And becomes a place to hang your laundry. Some of it may be good. Some may be effective. But only if you actually use it. For me though. I had the most success with fitness. When I just started moving whether was the stairs at work or simply taking the dog for a walk. So. What's the point of all this? Well In this age of decluttering and simpler living. You need to be selective of what things what stuff you allow into your life. If you have a lot of space. It may not be so much of an issue but. If, you have limited space, you need to ask yourself what you really need versus what you want or. Thank you want. And Two in the morning in a state of insomnia. Is Not necessarily the best time to make these decisions. And with that I would like to thank you for joining me for this trip down memory lane. I. Will be back with another episode of the thumb and Hammer home improvement podcast soon until then subscribe rate review wherever you get your podcasts. If, you have a comment visit the show notes page. For this episode. You can also contact me at them and hammer dot com slash contact and follow me on twitter at thumb and Hammer. Thanks again for listening. Talk to you soon. Cheers.

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$10M+ in annual revenue  Chalene Johnson

Beyond 8 Figures

53:25 min | 2 years ago

$10M+ in annual revenue Chalene Johnson

"Here's what we're talking about beyond eight figures. You gotta get your foundation pieces in place. I you have to know you have to know who it is you're helping you have to know who your life or is and how you're going to serve them, and who you want to repel. And what it is. They're looking for what do they think? The problem is not what you think the problem is. Or what do you think the solution is what do they think? The problem is is you gotta lead with that. This is Doug Sandler podcast producer of beyond eight figures. We're often asked about how we're able to land such amazing guests for the show. Well, the answer boils down to one word relationships if you'd like to connect with influencers and build real relationships with them. There's a right way and a wrong way to make this happen. 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So why do some companies achieve seven eight and nine figure exit struggle to reach six figures and revenue to answer these questions, we sit down with top entrepreneurs who have exited for more than ten million dollars or currently run ten million dollar, plus businesses and grill until they share their proven tactics and strategies, welcome to beyond eight figures are welcome to another edition here of beyond eight figures. Stephen hanging out with the lovely Mary lay lay routine hotel. What is going on my brother going pay new ways on down the studio Kelly's got throwback at headquarters, and we are going to be joined by the amazing schilling Johnson here today. There you go. So welcome. Welcome selene Johnson to beyond eight figures. It is awesome. Having you here super excited. Love the pink microphone. Good to hang out with you. Thank you their real honor. Thank you for having me. Absolutely. And so here on beyond eight figures, we sit down with entrepreneurs with other exited for more than ten million dollars or currently run businesses that gross more than ten million dollars annually and tried to get to the bottom of exactly how they started and scaled in some cases, exited from that business, and so will you please share with us. How do you meet that criteria did you exit from a business or do you currently have a business that gross is more than ten annually? How do you meet that criteria? Gosh. Well, well, I think the first engine saying trend to be completely transparent as we are in and out of that category. Sure. On twenty seventeen was an excessive of ten million and twenty eighteen was not. Yeah. We're kind of in the messy middle. All right now, my husband, and I have Bret we own a lifestyle company and the way that we were able to get beyond a even a million dollars was by diversifying having more than one stream of income having more than one platform having more than when business under an umbrella business, and that has been a blessing, and sometimes it is a curse figuring out how to balance its liking it to having a lot of children, you know, and the more children, you have the more love you have it at the same time. It really can divide your attention. And so so that's that's where we're at today. Really? And I know it's kind of broad and general breath. I would start there and let you dig domino. So in an appreciate the candor. And then that is sometimes what happens is you said ebbs and flows and also your priorities shift. Right. I mean, sometimes you're in that let's go go go mode, and I want to ramp up my team I want to. Ramp up revenue. I wanna do this big huge maybe get to nine figures. And then you wake up, and you go my God. Why am I working so damn hard? Right. So was that part of the process you're for us. You just realized like maybe you're just working just kind of burning the candle at both ends, and you can slow it down a bit. I wish I could say that were true. But no. It's not the fact of the matter is I think we love talking about the beginnings and the ends, and you know, the exit and we love hearing about the entrepreneur by this brilliant idea, and they started in a one bedroom apartment, and it sounds so romantic, and then they exit for you know, fifty million dollars. And we we love talking about the end. And frankly, we are it's like twenty eighteen was a really tough year for me because it it had been easy. Like, they say your first million is the toughest. And then after that, it just it just kinda gets easy. And I think there has been I have been cocky, mentally, you know, what I mean like this is crazy easy. Like, you just solve problems for people and you find the right people to help you build your team out in and he just stick to your integrity and your morals and your ethics and your your belief and your principles, and it just it can slowly scale. And I always assumed because it felt very linear, you know, that that trajectory of. Our building our businesses and then in twenty sixteen two thousand seventeen I had a health scare and decided based on passion to start a new start up. And so we we started a new venture really launched in twenty seven and twenty seventeen and a twenty seventeen really twenty eight was our first where we consider first full business year with that new business venture. And it was so devoted to that. That it wasn't frankly until the middle of twenty eighteen that I realized we had so divided our attention and given so much attention to this new child that we had adopted, and it was a real learning experience that a, you know, for me, I don't care about the money. But when I the the money for me is a score it, it's a it's a monitor for me to say, okay, we're we're doing the right things where we're spending our time wisely, we're focused on the right areas. And I just sat down with my husband, Brad. And we were really missing the Mark financially. And then we were looking at all the areas that were suffering the most it were the year they were everything other than our startup, and it was it's difficult not to lose hope in those times, especially when you've had a lot of success. And it's been almost easy success is kind of I don't wanna play. Then if I'm not winning. I don't wanna play. I don't want this to be hard. Why why am I doing something? It's hard when every figured out how to do this in a way is much easier. And so for us. I I can't tell you that it was wanting to slow back at all like it was last year was my busiest toughest year, mentally emotionally physically. It challenged me as a leader challenge me as an entrepreneur beyond my wildest measure, and it it's been humbling, and is been attested, might perseverance. So can I ask a question for with the new venture that you just started and launched in two thousand seventeen? Could you have taken in hindsight? The same some simple process that you've started within the very beginning and overlay that onto that new business or to how dare you. Yeah. Go back to the beginning, the obvious. Yeah. I think so, you know, I think the mistake we made the mistakes that we've made have really served us, and this is going to be a giant normal year. But it and I'm so thankful for a setback year because it makes all the success that much more delicious. And I don't know if you if you guys have had difficult times in marriages or relationships. I look I saw cherish my marriage with my husband is because we've been through some really crappy times, you know, what I need in like getting through those makes. Just makes it so much more enjoyable to be an an a good space. And so I'm thankful for those tough lessons. I would say to answer your question. One of the things that we just realize. Okay. This is this is a new type of businesses a new type of venture. Let's do this the way the big boys do it. And you look at the playbook of other companies that have done the same things as you. And again, I think those playbook often include the beginning and the end, and there's all these pages missing from the middle. And so I would say we we invested a lot of money on nearly a million dollars in advisers and advisers, and that can that can take you off of the course of what you know has worked for you in the past and overcomplicate things. And I and I think that's partly what we did we were ju- fast which made it difficult to manage all of the moving pieces. And and frankly on it is a new. Space. Oh, the other areas where I think we miss the Mark is me being stubborn about what I believed the messaging needed to be. And then just come into the realization that that is not the message that our target audience wants to hear. So our new business, by the way is called a one three one method. And it is it's a program that teaches people how to get healthy from the inside out how to improve their gut health how to understand their metabolism and lose weight and get healthy in the process. It's an online community with a subscription model. So there's that continuity piece to it which were really familiar with them. We're really familiar with the online space a space heart that we weren't familiar with this going to sound surprising to people because they probably think of me as a health and fitness person is we we'd never marketed to customers who are looking for weight loss. And because a really was hell bent on this program. Stay. Epping away from the diet, and fitness culture that I think is so unhealthy. I was stubborn stubbornly. Holding onto a message that you know, this is the anti diet program. There were marketing to people who are looking for a diet. You see what I'm saying? It's almost like marketing the natural the natural look to women who are looking for full coverage. You know? And and so we really and that was me like I just felt like it was selling out to talk about weight loss even Bill weight Loss's part of the natural progression. When people improve their health and get healthy from the inside out. But I was so stubborn about an passionate about that message that it costs us a lot of missed opportunities. And it was really hard to land the marketing Bs look some. Let's take a couple of steps backwards because there are people believe it or not who don't know your story and don't know what you've done and all of these things in the in the health and nutrition and fitness world, and so on and so forth. So let let's take a step back. I mean, were you always an entrepreneur or did you? Let's take a bunch of steps. Like where you always had an entrepreneur. Did you have the regular job or you like how did you get into this world? And what is this world originally? And now what it's evolved into we just talked about. But I wanna make sure that people understand your journey as well. Because there's a lot of steps that. I know you don't tell that story all the time when the steps before the steps that got you here. Yeah. Thank you for asking. No. I never intended. Well, I've always been entrepreneur my my it was raised by an entrepreneur. My dad said fifty different businesses. So growing up we were always broke. None of those businesses really popped. But I didn't know we were broke. So I had really good money mindset, instilled in me from a young age, if we wanted something whether it was closed or toys or a trip or anything, my parents would say they didn't say the typical things you'd hear like, well, my as grow on trees or were broke. They would just say that sounds amazing. Let's come up with a plan for you to earn that to make that money. And then once you burn that money, you can decide if you want to spend that money and so. So I learned that really young. And I always had these little side businesses from such an early age. And now when I told my parents, I wanted to go to college in neither sides of my family had ever gone college. There were like that's great. You know? So now, we've gotta figure out a way for you to pay for it. And my dad took me to the an auction an automobile auction in the state of Michigan. I was eight I was fifteen years old, and I use my own money saved up from Ogden jobs and bought a used vehicle from the state of Michigan on an orange El Camino, and I couldn't drive, but I spent the winter fixing it up cosmetically had painted for ninety nine dollars by Earl Scheib gosh. And I sold it made about a thousand dollars. And that was like what this is great. So I just continued that process and kept buying fixing cosmetically these vehicles from the state auctions because they're all state owned vehicles. I'm so they had low. Mileage, but they're just dirty, and I would kept selling them in reselling them. And I learned a lot about cars and learned how my dad would make me sell it myself. You know, make me talk to the people who are coming to buy the vehicle and learn everything about the vehicles, and I did that all the way through high school, and it was enough to pay for me to go to school. Once I went to Michigan state. I then realized it was really cumbersome to be the nineteen year old petite blonde girl meeting men late at night with a exchange of cash looking at vehicles, and it was also really inconvenient. So I've started a business called the all Michigan auto swap meets. And I rented a a giant acre of land from the state and every weekend. I would hold these giant swap meets where you came as a private owner of your vehicle and people who were in the market to buy a vehicle from a private owner would come and take a little bit from both parties and that was. Really my first business. I also at the same time. I'm in college. You know, some trying to do all these different things. I also was in an MLM I sold knives. Door-to-door? Coco was at the cocoa thing. Back in the day. Yes. That's right. And I I love them. Like, I never felt I sold them. I love cut code is. They did a lot of different things. My degrees and Justice, morality and constitutional democracy. So nothing related to fitness nothing related to exercise or health. But I I taught fitness classes and went for fun. And I realized like this is a losing proposition. These women are spending, you know, seven six seven hours putting together a class making Lou more than minimum wage for the one hour that they're teaching. So this is a losing proposition. I'm going to, but I've got this format really works on I'm going to sell it to other structures. So that was my first entry into the health and fitness arena. Any took off. And my husband, and I eventually certified sixty thousand fitness instructors across the globe in twenty some odd countries. We then started an apparel company that went with it and motivational camps, and we had distributors all over the United States, and it was through those through each body. Right. No. That was that was our own thing. There was run. Yeah. Yeah. Aren't the attention of infomercial company? So that business continued to grow we were in the largest health clubs in the country. And it just caught the attention of all the infomercial companies one of which was was beat by now, Badri, consumer workouts. So we had these two businesses where I was doing consumer workouts for them the first one I did was called turbo jam, and it was a number one infomercial in two thousand and four and we made millions of dollars on that sold tens of millions of DVD's, and that was beach body. I was in partnership with them and at the same time running. In my own business. Our own business certifying instructors. And we were smart enough that when we negotiated we made certain that whatever consumer products, we did we used a very similar name. So we got all that like great SEO and all that, you know, search engine people surging for me, etc. So really built our business at the same time. And eventually we realize we're like bidding on the same terms. And you know, we're fighting for the same customer and eventually beach body and and powder blue Russians, we reached an agreement and they want us out. Interesting. So was that a I mean, if you have that sort of traction one would think on the surface, they'll be a fairly lucrative exit. Was that what was that a almost ten million? I can't disclose. And I wish I could. But I cannot schools any part of that deal. But I can tell you. It was. Yeah, we wouldn't have done if it wasn't you know, baby those beautiful deal. And it was it was great opportunity. And I I'm still in partnership with each forty four of the infomercial side of things, which means that I earn a royalty on anything sold. And then of course, we have a separate royalty still in place for the businesses that we sold the certification company, but my infomercial Pyo as of today is is the number one fitness infomercial on TV, even still so that's exciting. So know that that's a branch of our businesses. And and then what when we freed ourselves up from doing the certification doing the apparel doing like all of that. And all of those employee's that's things Britain. I then kinda step back into what I was super passionate about which is always been business. Like, I've always said, I don't know how I ended up in health and fitness. It's not where I studied. I did that by accident. I love business, and I wanna teach people. How it is. We do this. So we started creating online academies teaching entrepreneurs from idea inception. All the way to perhaps the sell like the entire journey. We wanted to take care of people and help them understand exactly what we did. And how to do this online? And so just so just so we're clear on this. I mean when you talk about, you know, Pyo being as popular as it is. I mean d- do you own that brand do you just receive did like is it a gut the rancor? They like the like how does that we sold that brand? Yes. Very great question. So that was things were very differently now in the fitness industry. You won't you. I really highly doubt that you'll see anyone ever again create their own brand bring it to a company and then sell that brand join infomercial company because they just don't is too expensive. It's a pain in the butt. It's a pan of the bug to have to pay an in deal with the. Actual property rights in the ownerships, etc. But we I created Pyo thirteen years ago. And then we sold the rights to Pyo to beach body. And so I I a royalty on sales of both the consumer workouts and the workouts that are in the health clubs. So we certified instructors on the industry side of things. Just so that we're clear now, you you opted to go ahead and start of sort of jump into this online type of world. Right. I mean, I was it was it through friendships with people like Brendon, and those sort of folks that really opened your eyes to the opportunities here, or how did how did you make that transition into sort of should lean the brand so to speak. And I think it's interesting because people know me from in infomercials or books, but you know, we if we're talking about money, and it's been far more lucrative for us to do our own thing online with academies than it has ever been to do infomercials, and especially today like today today's a completely different ballgame because nobody watches nobody. Nobody challengers. So it's it's a difficult difficult business to be an end PS there. It's difficult to sell finish. Because it's everywhere on an app YouTube is around and people give it to you for free. So it's really difficult to sell to answer. Your question about Brendan and other experts in the industry, I wasn't friends with them was a student. So when I when we sold a powder blue productions, and I'm like, I'm going to teach people how to do this online. But there's so much I need to know. I don't know how to build an Email list. You know, we had so tens of millions of exercise DVD's, and I didn't even have one of those customers. Emails only powder. Blue productions we sold the Email lists to them as well. So we had to start from scratch from ground zero. And I did not know how to do that. So I my first step was the spend a year investing in at an education that I didn't get in college. You know, certainly learn more about business in a year of a taking every online course and attending every seminar in learning from the experts and paying for private consultations and hang for high end member masterminds to learn how to do all these things into into invest. All these things and then to go through the painful process of figuring out. Okay. Now, I know all these pieces. What order do I build them in? And and so all of the people that you mentioned. Yeah. I was a student of theirs. And eventually, you know, adding any what any coach wants to celebrate the student who who has success because they listen to their coach for and I'm good students. So let's so let's take a step back. Then in terms of there are a lot of people. Who are I think a lot of folks just kinda took for granted? Like, oh, it Shalita. Of course, she can create a top rated podcast. Of course, you can launch its marketing impact to kademi, right? That's one of the. Yeah. I mean, the launched that course. And you know, of course, you can get to having this many followers on it. I mean, it's schilling. But what people don't perhaps understand is that side of the story where you started really just like everyone else where you started with zero downloads on your podcast zero. Oh, subscribers to your Email zero Facebook fans, I mean, literally started from scratch, so take us through how you then develop chilling the brand so to speak in terms of what what did you do? I then what did you do? Because a lot of people who have expertise like you do. And look we live in a new media world. We host an event called the new media summit, right? Where we teach all about building, a, scalable, sustainable, new media business. Right. So I mean, that's a lot of what we do. But a lot of folks don't understand that like the old ways of operating are coming back like you can't put your head in the sand. And pretend that whatever that world was is coming back you have to embrace the concept here of building a, scalable and sustainable new media business, which you have done better than most. So so let's go through what did you do? So like what did that look like? When you started because to get to ten million and then back to seven or eight or whatever and backed like that's all in this world. So take us through what you did. And then what you encourage people to think about other through your teaching them. I and some of the other things that you do 'cause I know you teach this quite extensively, but take us through the stages of that. I think it thank you for that question too. Because I do believe that a lot of people look at someone who's got notoriety or maybe a following. And they assume like this is going to be easy for them. And I have so many contemporaries who have twice a number of followers. I did at the time, certainly. More named notoriety. One percent. I'd like to share the story because you know, we're friends he knows that show the story, but Tony Horton. And I in Tony Horton the year. My book push came out was also the you know, the year that we had sold powder. Blue productions and hit a million. Plus, you know, just so many followers and was on every late night. Tv like p ninety x had become a pop culture term. Everyone was doing put peanut gets. Nobody knew my name. Everybody knew his name. We were with the same publisher and released books at the same time and Michael became a New York Times bestseller and his became a great book. And I would say the reason why isn't because notoriety is because we had done because I done my studies. I had I listened to you experts. And I bleed when they said, here's what you need to do. I don't worry about your social media. He found Asian in place. So I would have to say the number one mistake that most entrepreneurs make is that they think it's about a huge following. And they do. The things that are hard, but also easy, and that's like focusing on social and you've got to get your foundation pieces in place. I you have to know you have to know who it is you're helping you have to know who your life or is and how you're going to serve them, and who you want to repel. And what it is. They're looking for what do they think? The problem is not what you think the problem is. Or what do you think the solution is what do they think? The problem is is he had got a lead with that. And went, you know, who your life or is then he got a pre those foundational pieces that build your Email list. So you can take the relationship off of social media because you can't sell on social media, you can build rapport on social media, it's but on your Email list, you can sell and you've got so much more freedom. And that's where that passive income comes in. That's where the up sells the down sells the the frame Young's that build your Email list that change people's lives in a coma. God, this is amazing. That got this free thing from you. And it it gave. Me this type of transformation. I can't imagine. What would happen if I invested in you? And so we spent those early years I'd say the first two years really just focused on building an Email an Email. Listen, if I can give you the first tactical thing that we did I'll tell you what we did. And I would tell you how we do it today because they're different. And that was I I went to Facebook in December of two thousand and ten and said ARA guys, I'm gonna help you understand how I created daily to do list and accomplish my goals in ninety days instead of a year and teach you at call it the push goal system. And if you want if you want to sign up and do that, then give me your Email address? And for every day for thirty days. I'm gonna send you one Email a day just a really quick Email, and I'm going to walk through this process. Now, this is two thousand and ten now these kind of challenges are diamond dozen, but that grew our list in less than about two months time to over one hundred thousand. Wow. Yeah. That's how any advertising it was all word of mouth, you know, then once someone signed up, I would send them a, you know, we had a funnel of emails of. They will get an Email said, okay. Now need you to invite somebody else to be your partner? And so just kept doubling doubly juggling term out for one second. So let's just take a look at the again, the logistics behind that. So it would still work today. I mean, the challenges as you said there were and dozen, but they're still out there. So if you were structuring that today, how would you enrich us his term all the time about bouncing, and you really wanna bounce folks from from one platform into your ecosystem. So again, like with your podcast, you got a million downloads. Whatever it is. But you don't know who those people are. So you have to balance them somehow into communication with you have to be able to develop that relationship with them. Right. So same thing with with the social in terms of what you're talking about. So what would that look like? So if you did that today again going to Facebook, what would that look like sound like in? How would you bounce him into your ecosystem version of the same way? I just where where are we? Changed things is I would never do a thirty day challenge. Again. I I shouldn't say never I think shortage our attention span is somewhat shorter than it was then you know, to get someone to open here. Here's the deal. You have to remember people feel good about finishing things. And we feel like we failed or we didn't do it. Right. If we don't finish something. So I had if I were to do it today. I'd be setting people up for failure. Because I I know people aren't going to pay attention for thirty days for something that they got for free. They may pay attention for seven days. So I would shorten the length of time. I would make the everything else. I would pretty much do the same. But just you know, a little a little bit more brand again. Just so we're clear on this. How do you get them on your Email list? So if you just do the Postel fans at yes, so it would be going live. So I think the best way to do. This today is to go live regularly like almost every single day and every single day you find a way to offer something of value that call to action is essentially if we're just going live to get likes and views, you you might as well be of a middle school. Boy, like, it's just that's a waste of time. If you don't have an intention behind it. So the intention every single time you go live should be which by the way. On Instagram live, even do on YouTube. Now, we can do it on on every platform you can alive, and it's really powerful that is incredibly powerful just showing up day after day after day, and you just find something related to what it is. You're suggesting people opt in to and you find something you can teach that day, and frankly, people love on live when you're just they're answering questions for them a little bit teaching a whole lot of interacting. Call to action, you know, rinse and repeat do the next day. And each day that call action is guys this is valuable to you. I've got something that I think you're going to really love so go to somebody put this in the comments below go to Bobo, blah and you'll receive or you'll be automatically signed up for or you'll be able to download or you'll be on my and people will do that. And they love it. And it's just really key that people remember if if you weren't using your framingham. It's really not a relationship when we used to be framingham. In that sounds to me like, it's true. Trial. Then moves them into some sort of paid program product or services that what you mean by the term that when I say and you'll have to forgive me. So opt in lead magnets, free, me, medium, all kind of the same thing. In other words is an exchange or you're giving me your Email address in exchange for a tool. Download and audio PDF a phone call a discount, it's cetera. And so for some people that might lead a free trials an example of a free meal or not in our case, it was a free trial, and we often will use a free trial or a free program or free. Download but it's followed up with a number of of Email sequences it alternately lead to their first purchase and that nez building the customer journey. You know, one of the. It was I don't wanna say it was easy 'cause we definitely made mistakes along the way and one of them. I think was that. I always wanted to give our customers so much. It was almost too big. And I've learned that people want to be successful. They they don't value a lot of content as much as a value their time. So the shorter and more concise the content I can deliver to people quicker. I can give you results that has far more value than thinking, oh, I've got a great big huge. Monstrous thing that's got all these layers and bells and whistles, and and modules in order for to charge a premium the premium is on how quickly can you get people results in the shortest amount of time are Levette. And so what is the size of your Email today? Nine years fast for nine years later approximately. Oh, yeah. So you know, segmented it there's different segments. So there's a health and fitness segment in an aunt. Entrepreneurial segment, and you know, so before I were to combine all them were close to a million. Yeah. And and it's a clean list. So we're constantly cleaning are listed by that. I mean when people are opting in to something for free, as you know, we all have our good Email address an Email address that we use to subscribe to things that we don't care if we get spammed, right? So I'm forever trying to figure out like how can I get your real address? How did your best address? I need you to trust me so much that you're you're not gonna give me that phony Email or the one that you never open. You give me the one. You know, you're gonna see my follow up Email. You're looking for it. Point is really well taken. So so going back again to sort of, you know, we've got this person who has expertise in subject be an really trying to figure out how to get into this new media landscape. So the idea of going live and bouncing people into the ego system getting onto the Email address. That's all well and good getting onto your subscriber list. It's all well and good. But then how do you what would be a first step? And what was your first step that start with this? What was your first step back in the day to monetize your expertise in this new media landscape? And then what would you recommend people's first step be today to monetize your expertise semi objective in creating that Email us initially was because I wanted to write a book about personal development goal, setting and productivity, and and focus, and how did to do all of these things that so much of so many of us want to do. But at the same time to be present for your family, and that was. Push. When I started shopping at around with my agent. He's like listening Judea book, I need you finish vote. But I can't really get your personal development book because you're not known for that. And I said, well, what do I have to do? Then he said you've got to get people results. You gotta get before. And after you've gotta get stories you've got to build that list. And so I said fine. And that's what was the catalyst behind creating at I thirty day challenge. And that is why I'm sure of it. The vote was a New York Times bestseller. I didn't do any press for it. I I did one appearance. We completely used our emails to make it happen. And because you don't make money from books, you know, at least the the traditional publisher way, I studied what other experts had done in terms of building a back end to the book. So though when people purchase the book, you know, we offered a free a freedom. So if you if you pre if you pre ordered the book. You got this basically jump start. That would teach you how to start goal setting mindset at cetera. And so people got that for free. And once they got that. Now, we have their Email address because if you're selling books or DVD's online, you're you're not getting or anything on Amazon, you're not getting those people's Email addresses. You've gotta figure out a way to create the back end. And then ultimately, we up sold them a an online academy that was called smart success. And that was like it was like the book, but the big life version of it like how you can take this and really affect your finances and your relationships and your time management and your goal setting. And and that was an online academy that we sold for a thousand dollars. And and that was a sequence of emails how we did it. And then going live what we do for what I would tell people to do today is this which which wasn't available time. It's so much easier to figure this out today because I I don't I would never recommend some an offer. Let go from high. Here's a premium to a thousand dollar sale. That makes no sense. It was like ridiculous that we even try that. And we're lucky that it did work. But today people need an on ramp. They need a journey. So if you're giving them the thousand dollar course, there's no place to go. The it's like they're one and done today. Would I would suggest doing is not to create anything ever unless you're co creating it wake your audience today? I believe it because we have the ability to go live. It's what we used to pay when we're testing an infomercial. We would pay tens of thousands of dollars per hour to have a focus group telling us what they liked and didn't like watching what you know. Maybe they were watching an infomercial in real time and telling us like, yes, no, yes. No. Why do you call it that? Oh, I don't like that person that testimonial doesn't see real. I don't believe it know, we could get those responses, but he had spent a. Fortune with a firm that do that type of research for you today, if you have ten people who will engage with you on line when you go live, you have the most valuable focus group ever. Because the members of that focus group will also become your biggest fans there co creating it with you, and because you've listened to them they got a vested interest in promoting and talking about it in Bonn. They'll be your first customers, they will be your best customers, and they will be ultimately your advisors your customers. The people you interact with are going to tell you how to name it. What to price it at what they want to be included it how quickly you should go through it. What medium they want where they're struggling? What software you need to develop. They will tell you what they want the lasting entrepreneurship ever. Do today is try to create anything in attest to look. Let's talk about your revenue today, then so where what what's the revenue breakdown in terms of what it is that you that you offer generally speaking in terms of percentage, you don't have to go into specifics. Expecting that. And of course, if you that we'd love to of course, if you had that we'd love to hear it. But I'm just curious like where does the selene world of revenue all come together at the twenty in your majority revenue coming from just a couple of things break that down for us. Yeah. So I don't present guesstimate thrown. So let me start first with twenty seven because I almost want to erase twenty eighteen we we let we lost focus on some things that were really great generate money generating fun. Passion projects for for all of us. And because we didn't pay attention to them the revenue drought there in two thousand eighteen but generally speaking about fifty percent of our revenue is from our online academies. Maybe fifteen percent from infomercials, and then I would say another twenty percent from physical products. So that would be like journals. And accessories water bottles things that support the one through one method and in twenty seventeen. As I in twenty nineteen the year that we're in right now, we we start we realize oh my gosh. You've got we've got these great online marketing academies that we just need to make sure they're getting our attention to and bring on enough people to support the growth that we need for the one through one method. The winter one method this year, I think will likely be about forty percent of our revenue and the online academies. Hopefully will be the other sixty percent. That one three one method though is going to take up the majority of my time and efforts which is interesting because I've just there's a there was a time in December. When I just basically threw a temper tantrum, you know, late at night with my husband, just like we just need to be done with this. It's it's too hard. I don't I don't wanna grow go through this growth, period. I don't wanna struggle to figure out how to get VC capital because really the long game with the one through and method is in the data. It's understanding how how do we develop out the technology where we have all the data on people's their eating habits and their weight loss and all the information like where they live in their age. And and they're interested all bats. That's the beauty of this program. But it's also the most expensive pieces of peace. We don't know enough about. So we've got to make you know enough space. For us to find the right investor and to say like our, okay? Are we committed to doing this? And and that's a real. It's a struggle. I'm gonna tell you was not to preneurs because it's like, oh, this is so but this over here is so easy. And we can do it in our sleep in. It's it's right there. But we also know maybe we'll get to twelve fifteen million. If we focus just on our online academies, but the potential of the one through one is far greater and for me. It's it's about passion. It's about I'm okay with running on fumes and believe in it. And I'm I'm alright was suffering through the messy middle, and it was a difficult lesson to recognize that success isn't always linear is kind of been down and up and down, and it's all been blessing. I love growth, I love challenge. So this is all good thing. No points points. Really? We'll take in before. I hugged them like anymore, Mary a richer anything. I know we've covered a lot of ground is when he got an opportunity to jump any for sure, I know you build a lot with your husband, and a lot of this is because of that support support system you have for each other. And you said you threw a temper tantrum. But what how'd that? I mean, obviously it turned out because you even kind of answered in the end of that question, you know. So what we did? Thanks for asking. Because that's true. I didn't really explain what came of that. It was just like exac- feeling exasperated. Like wish why why are we working this hard, and we had a year where the revenue just didn't the revenue didn't reflect our effort. And so we both just like really sat down, and we looked at all the different areas of our business and all the things we done in the last year in all the money. We had spent in areas where we were. Were it was new to us all the agencies that we had hired and we looked at all the other new projects in new businesses sprouted off of the one through one. And we said, let's get focused. Let's clear the clutter live poll vis project off of this project. It's not time yet. And so we removed a lot of the distractions. And then we re directed to say where has a majority of our income always come from with the least amount of effort, and let's return a large portion of our time in our focus to that. And let's structure it so that we have X number of date we really work in season. So we have X number of weeks. Really that we spend on each one of these projects and just got back to the basics got back to realizing that. Sometimes when you have a lot of advisers, giving you advice, you let go of what you know works because you've invested in them. And so I I should take their advice. And and don't get me wrong. We got a lot of great advice. And and and learn things we wouldn't have otherwise known without great advisers, and I just believe in coaches, I believe in mentors, you know. I just a good student, and I I love the short cut it back in sometimes provide. But it can also sometimes turn the volume down on your own intuition. You know, and I think we we spent way too much money way too much time on very expensive costly agencies on I would say that was probably the biggest mistake we made in twenty eighteen and then bringing people on too quickly expanding too quickly. I'm doing things that I don't think that we need to be doing for another year or two at least until the business. You know, until we get the marketing, right, frankly. Well, I was just going to say it was going to ask this earlier the episode. When you started this new business? It's almost as if you look to other people for the answers that you most likely already had the two of you had because you had such a strong beginning. And that's when I had commented maybe with this do one if you just did what you did with the first ones and trust your gut trust, your instincts on it, and your intuition. Yeah. Put the money in the Bank. Yeah. I think a lot of thank you Mary for asking. I I think a lot of the decisions we made I would agree. And there are some things that we just didn't now like. I'm trying to give you some examples. Well, I'm sure certain aspects were totally new sure yet for sure and those those things the things that were totally new we were outside of our realm of expertise or even experience were super helpful. But you're honored percent, right? That we turn down the volume on doing things away that we once did. And in fact, one of our advisers was always saying you can't operate this business. The way you've taught other people to build businesses the way that you built your previous businesses if this is going to be a twenty thirty million forty million dollar business. You got to do things differently. And and I was like, yeah. Of course, of course. And I agree. We did do a lot of things differently. But I think too many of them we did too fast. Right. You mentioned the speed was too much. Yes. We're gonna unfortunately when it come up against it here. And I want to take up your whole day too. Because I know how busy you are. And you got a million different things going on. But let some let me ask you. What may turn out to be more of an emotional question for you from the standpoint of? Look, I mean, you're a beautiful woman. You're in amazing shave. You do all the stuff in the health and fitness worlds. You have. I mean, multimillion dollar business. I'll be with the ebbs and flows, and we'll get to where it's going to get to in two thousand nine hundred and beyond. But what what do you still struggle with today? Like, what's what's the selene behind the scenes that people don't have any five hundred and twenty eight thousand followers on Instagram, and you look great. And I know you take the makeup off sometimes and this that and the other. But what? Yeah. I know. Right. But what's what's the untold story? Oh, gosh. It's a good question. So always imposter syndrome might. So that's always there in, you know, especially when it comes to health, and fitness I out because I didn't study it because I hadn't intended to have the business and the successively did I always felt like what am I doing here? Someone's going to you know, check my credentials. So I I ended up getting certified from like twelve different bodies because I was like l'amour knowledge. I have been the more certain everyone will be that I belong here. And I I still feel that today I still struggle with impostor syndrome. I also struggle with control I struggle to want to micromanage peop-, I struggle with that balance. Like, so sometimes I either step away and let everybody do their own thing. And then I come back, and like, oh shoot they need some direction or I get. So in the weeds that I don't do the things that only I can do I would say where I'm strong as an entrepreneur is that. I really do protect and guard Maya ability to daydream every single day, and and to think and to process, and I don't feel guilty about that. Like, you know, my assistant knows that. I don't want anything scheduled for my day until after eleven AM, I'm working, but it wouldn't look like work to anyone else. But that's how I that's how I v ideas. That's how I process it's how he that's all I dream. That's how I plan, and I I think entre preneurs we can get really caught up in every single minute of our day has to be scheduled. And if you don't give yourself permission to process. First of all it's hard to enjoy what you're doing. And Secondly, it's hard to to dream the big dream. Yeah. Advice really appreciate you spending some time with us here, and whether it's in relation to starting or scaling or potentially even exiting from a business. Any words last words of advice here that you would share in either of those three phases. Yeah. You just also made me realize something I probably should've brought up really. So we we built powder blue productions without an exit plan in mind. Once we decided that we were going to sell it. We spent about three years before we started marketing it to sell getting it to a place where we could sell it because it was so brand dependent. I was in every single video for the instructors, I did all the clothing design. I did all the music production. And was like, oh, we need to sell this. But we can't sell me. So what took us about three years to to put the right people in place to transition our customers over so they weren't expecting to see me in the videos to hire. All the people to do all the things that I should have had them doing a lung. And when we started building the one three one we decided we would build this with the assumption that Sunday, we would exit. So everything we've done we've in that regard. We've done successfully to create a brand that isn't dependent just on me. Although I think brands are is important to associate with a a face or an individual to start with. But all the moving pieces the expertise, the registered dieticians, the integrated medical doctors, they are the meat and bones of the program is their expertise. And that that the advice I would give to anyone who's either currently in a business or wanting to start a business is to even if you think I'm gonna have this for the rest of my life. Someone may come to you and say we'd like to buy it. So position yourself as if it's like your home. If you if you keep your home in such a way that you like as if they're going to be showing because we all know it as like. Yet, you you just feel calmer. There's less chaos less clutter less. You know, you're you're ready for guests to show up. And I think if we look at our business, regardless just assuming just just be prepared that someone's gonna wanna buy your business someday. So you've got to build it in such a way that it's not completely dependent upon you mobile advice, and there's a million different ways for folks to get into contact with you. But if if you had to pick a favorite how should folks connect with you today. Well, your listeners would probably do best with my business podcast. It's called build your tribe. Good group, and there I share a lot of as you can tell them pretty honest about where we are what we're doing. And how we're doing it. And I believe wholeheartedly in the abundance mindset. I'm gonna tell you how I did it. I'm gonna tell you how to do it on a share all my answers. 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S E227: Ask Nick - Normalize Masturbation

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S E227: Ask Nick - Normalize Masturbation

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I have been in a relationship for almost two years with my current boyfriend and something happened a couple of weeks ago and i just wanted to get a guy's perspective on that so We went on a three day trip over To an area we stayed in a hotel followed all cova safety things and the first night was great. We have sex that night. Second night was great. We had sex during the day and for dinner We had dinner that night. And that we were kind of like chucky feeling bad but we didn't do anything because we were so stuffed On the third day that was the day that we had to check out of the hotel and so it was the morning. We are getting kind of touchy feely in the morning. But we didn't do anything. Because i was about to go down on him but he stopped to me because he said on that his balls were sore. Which i was like okay. Whatever that's fine. Let's go on with our morning. So i was starting to pack my bag and he said that he was gonna go take a shower. So sometimes we'll light shower together and it's just kind of fun so i opened the bathroom door and they're my boyfriend is sitting on. The toilet jerking off which was weird to walk into because you said that he was sore so and he was looking at his own. He said that he was watching porn. But i obviously have all types of crazy assumptions. When that's what i walk into and didn't expect to see wasn't watching porn. I don't know yeah. I don't know your question is why does that normal she my mind question kind of is kind talked it out. We're both twenty two so after that we both kinda talked it out and he said that that his balls like kind of hurt when we do certain positions and get kinda sore if we sex a lot so he said that that's kind of what happened and all his. I was okay with that. I was like okay. That that i guess makes sense On all really technically understand. But i guess. And i haven't brought it up ever since then was really like apologetic ice support like masturbating and stuff in everything i do. He does it but it was. Just kinda weird because we like. Why would he feel the need to while we're on vacation when i was trying to do stuff with them in the morning so it's kind of like my main question is should i be concerned. I don't want to bring it up again but for this situation. If this was an isolated situation. I don't think it's the biggest red flag i i think sometimes There's an unfair expectation on on guys too. You know always want to have sex and perform sacks. I understand like you still masturbated but like i'm pretty sure women feel the same way. That masturbating is different than sacks. And saying it's better or worse i'm simply saying it's different and usually things that are different sometimes and and if you if you have two different things in life that you in both enjoy sometimes you want one over the other at various times right. Yeah that that's the say it says it's not the same. I understand the end result is hopefully say is you get off but it's just different you know Bad timing on his part he probably could have just not done it in the bathroom on a weekend getaway like that's that was stupid for him. You know he put himself in a bad position per se. But i think if. That's an isolated incident. I don't think it's a huge deal Yes they it's an unfair assumption. That guys like every position in every way and they're always be ready to have sex guys can shave. They can get sore and uncomfortable and maybe he is horned up from the weekend of just like having sex weekend but just so he just wants to get that out of his system but he just didn't want to have sex again so i think it's good that you guys started talking about what he likes and doesn't like and i think it's good and it sounds like maybe you did to like not make him feel judged or bad that he likes certain things in doesn't you know. I think that young couples should do that. She'd be like great all right. Well what do you like that we do. And what do you not like that. We do when i go down on you do. What is it good. Could i do things differently and vice versa. I mean he should be asking you the same questions when hopefully he's reciprocating the things that you're doing for him you know that that's what leads the good sex between a couple. Is this kind of having this open. Communication and don't make him feel he has a sneak off and jerk off a shame them for jerking off. You know it was just a dumb thing for him to do it. Like a jerk off like well. If you are looking for new ways to exercise to meet your fitness goals we gotta solution for your beach body. that's right. They got all very fun. App out there with a bunch of new classes workouts. 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I i would say that we we have really good communication when it comes to stuff like this but ever since then i have because that was the first time i've ever walked in on him masturbating and so i kind of brought up the topic that i think it would be kind of fun for us to do to get there. I think that would be fun. But i brought it up the other day and he got really awkward about it and then Was like i don't do it that much and it was just kind of weird is they're like. Do you have any tips on how to bring that up or how to make him feel comfortable. Because i would say that. I'm the more open comfortable person but he feels. He openly told me that he feels really embarrassed about that. So there's your answer would be very much true right a lot of people. Who aren't you know her. Very good at shaming other people for their sexual preferences in king shame. And things like that and even like this is not even that kinky at all. Yeah exactly you guys are young. I don't know his background or his family upbringing. And things like that or just you know. Maybe you're just generally more sexual person than he is direly possible. Not every guy is super horn ball. You know there are plenty of women who are more sexually advanced. More into sect's than guys out there i don't know you know so is just always make him feel like you're not really doing anything wrong unless he's actually doing but jerking office. There's nothing wrong with it. You know so decides to feel comfortable with it. I think important thing to do in the immediate when you suggest something that makes them uncomfortable is not to push. I wouldn't push for this whole like you know. Let's masturbate together thing you've meant to him you let them know that you're in do it. But right now in general you should. You should table that because it makes them uncomfortable and if it ever comes up just be like make him feel like jerking off as a totally normal thing that you're totally fine with you. Get it and you're not worried about it. I mean listen. Tiniest of red flag. I guess if all of a sudden you start noticing he's jerking off on a more frequent basis rather than having sex with you and all of a sudden he's obsessed with porn and like. Yeah then maybe. Maybe that's like what's wise that happening but as long as you still are having sex on a somewhat regular basis and he wants to do his thing whenever then that's a re totally healthy situation especially for someone like yourself. Who's of open to exploring different kinds of sexual tastes in things that you guys are into as a couple but i would definitely back off on this specific question that you have and don't lead well just because you think it's it's normal and okay doesn't mean you're wrong and it doesn't make him wrong for you making making him feel uncomfortable. All right So it's really helpful table that for now and just be of. Don't be afraid to suggest new things. and then i get a non sexual situation just you know keep talking about sacs make it a normal part of your relationship that you guys over talk about sex you know. And when you and he doesn't like something that you do don't get defensive and be well that's weird that you don't like it you know none of the none of that is going to get you to do a common ground. You know so with all things that are generally normal like different kings at people are into. It's all okay but you both have the right to not be into things and to be into things and you guys have to find the common ground and then make each other feel comfortable with exploring new ideas and in new kinks and cvs land on some things that you both like. But he probably feels guilty. Probably feels a little embarrassed that you caught him and he thought you know maybe some self emasculation in his part. You know there's a lot of stereotypes set kind of go into you know him feeling that way because you caught them and you know and i've dated girls definitely like made me feel bad for doing that. You know and did some pretty fucked up things like listening and banging on like it's kind of fucked up but people so Don't be like that. It was just kind of a a really awkward situation. Owns just kind of thrown into shock for a second. Because that's okay. It's yeah try to normalize the fact that you guys masturbate and your sex positive and you don't judge each other make each other feel weird for liking things or disliking things. Okay and one. Last thing that i think is kind random but do you guys have any tips for like introducing toys into the bedroom. I've kind of briefly mentioned it. And he said that could be cool. But i think he's also a hesitant which is totally fine but So he's open dude. I have any like lawyer. Roll like i mean. Listen is one thing i think. All mentioned understand is that toys are not a reflection of his performance or the size of his dicker. As it's like it's something that can add the experience you know and so can feel like that There's plenty of literature out there and and opinions from women and maybe men out there of how this could be a good thing. But don't with all these things just don't cram it down his throat. You know it's good that he's open to it so yeah out touching go plow that. I'd like to try it. you know. Make him feel confident. Make him feel desired. That you still still need him kind of thing. You know everyone. Men and women both like to feel needed in the bedroom. So just make sure. He's still feels kneeling around. Stroke as eagle a little. You know stuff like that but Take your time okay. Well thank you so much all slow. Slow my roll with that. But i appreciate it all right yes. Aw sounds like positive things in a in a young couple and i think It's all pretty good stuff. Nothing really to worry about worry about all right all right. Thank you so much. good one. Yup how's it going. Hi i'm good. How are you good. What's your name. i'm elizabeth. how old are you. I felt that the twenty five twenty five group. How can i hope. I'll have been snap chatting my exes college roommate. Yeah like how do i phrase correctly but yeah excess college roommate. And i don't know how like what like what is his intention and i don't. What are your intentions. My intentions are. I will first of all i. I'm in nursing school also. I don't have time. it's like play games i. I don't really like stream. I mean i do a little bit. I like to like. Let's pause on their answer. My question what are what are what are your intentions and hopes with this guy. You're snapchatting with what do you want a simple answer. Anyone guy i met you me in elevator. I'm like hey you're chatting with someone. I don't care who they are. What would you like best case scenario from him. I mean i want to hang out with them and get to as a person seen him. What you want awesome. Yeah so and you're confused by what he wants. Yes based off of what you're just like sending nudes or at the moment all okay. I haven't gotten like news from him but he's texted neil It's so annoying. That's snapchat but it is like he'll tell me he's had like dreams about me like coming into his room like stupid stuff like that. And i'm like okay. Like i see where this is going. I know that you think attractive. Like i get it but can stop snapchatting in texts me. You have my number through six years. Yeah i'm really blonde your did you say. And he's like i'm scared. You're gonna share it with people. And i'm like who makes you what what are you. What are you snap shedding. I would never send anything him that. I don't over text message. i'm not. I'm really blunt really open and i'm just a really forward person but like he will say things to me and i'm like okay. I see where this is going so hold on. Let me ask you this when this so your your sexting on snapchat right so everyone understands are are you okay with this. Do you like it. Or is it unsolicited. Like what's going on here. I mean sometimes. I'll play into it like i mean we're all human and will all play into it you like it. Where do you think it's premature. He's attractive. I've known him for care. Visit attractive guy you. Do you like him. Sexting you at all. I mean yeah you do like it okay. I don't clear honestly you do more than that like. Yeah i wanted to be more than just like me. Being some fun thing on the side like i wanna hang out with him and i wanna get to know him more than just sex like i am not somebody who's just going sex somebody like i'm going to be in a relationship. Somebody have you said to him that you'd like to have you met with them yet. No have you said that you'd like to yeah. And he said what. Okay so i would be like. Hey what are you doing tonight. And he'd be like eating like okay. Like i think it's weird that we haven't seen each other in two and a half years three years and he's like why do you think that's weird. 'cause friends each other like i'm really sure. So that's why that's why you're you're not as direct as you think you are also a little passive aggressive. Because you didn't say i'd like to hang out with you. We should hang out. You said what you're doing is weird so instead have instead of him being like well. Then let's hang out. 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So maybe he's just not a guy who picks up on hints you are capable of just telling him what you want and if you want a guy who doesn't need to be like really really push really really hard to make a move than are already know that maybe he's not your guy just maybe a some hot guy who used to be roommates with the guy used to date you know. Maybe you're getting. The answer already. Need without having met him. That's possible but if you do wanna meet him and that's okay if you do then it might require you to just go ahead and be direct or it's also possible that like just likes sexting with girls. Maybe he doesn't want really meet with you. I don't know it does seem weird. I would agree with you. That seems odd. Yeah but nevertheless that's what he's doing sometimes like serious conversations over snap over snapchat like why haven't you said to him without calling him weird saying listen instead of saying he's weird. Say obviously you know. I i enjoyed talking to you. I don't talk to people on a regular basis. That i i don't enjoy talking to but i do wanna get to know you better and so i would like to meet with you. Are you down for doing that. Because i'm i would like to see where this go that like to get no more but i don't wanna keep having serious conversations like this was someone i haven't met yet. Make it about what you want. Don't guess scared to compromise. Like are like friendship. Well you're going to have to make some compromises here you're gonna have to make some choices you're already seen with the guys he's not your friend he's a guy he's a roommate that you you know him because you you used to date his roommate. That's how you know him. And you guys were like cool with each other and clearly while you were dating his roommate you thought he was hot and he thought you were and you guys didn't do anything about it because you know you had a boyfriend and now you're he's no longer as roommate and you don't even know if their friends. Maybe they were just roommates and now you're not dating this guy. Now you guys are like exploring this like attracts you guys have and you need to put it out there. you know. he's not your home. Homeboy is not your friend is easiest. He's not your pal. Tell your confidante the other part to it is like maybe he's not making a move because he's like friends with him still like i don't know why you know it's a great way to find out ye- ask what ask like planting a seed in his head like you can't make them be a direct person. You know yeah. Why can't you do it yourself too. Strong independent woman. I have like. I have been that way in the past and i feel like it's me but just like going after it because then i have to continue to be that way throughout the whole relationship and i want. I can equal partnership throughout the whole thing. Well maybe listen yourself. Maybe it didn't but you in the so to speak. Maybe you putting out what you wanted. You actually got the answer that you needed. Not necessarily you want it. And the answer was like they just didn't want to give to you what you demanded an expected like you set your boundaries. This is what. I want a relationship and this is the guy the guy i'm looking for. And they were like not me which suck to here. But that's what you want. It doesn't bite you in the ass just makes it little. It's it's more like cold water splashing your face things a little bit. Yeah the doesn't mean it was the wrong answer. And i don't think you should like go back on that. There's a difference between putting out what you want and it'd be like these are the standards i have and know being a nag or difficult or a pain in the ass. You know. there's a difference and don't feel guilty. Just be like this guy i want. I'm i'm gonna. I'm gonna start being less direct mr being more passive aggressive so that i can continue. Hang out with guys that you know might not really like who i really am. So i'm going to not be myself and i'm going to be like a version of myself just so i can keep taxing with a guy all while still being totally confused and not getting what i want such. I just need to like a confident. Anyway you i am and who does a really strong chance this guy just like texting with you and and you're right. Maybe feel some guilt about hanging out with you because maybe he's still friends either way you know just put out there. Do you want a data guy who's not motionless mature enough to have a conversation about the awkwardness. That is the dynamic of your relationship. Yeah exactly you know you might not be doing something wrong but like if you truly are a potential great match right then he'll just have to get over it his relationship with his roommate or whatever and if it's not that if he just wants to have sex with you then maybe he needs to be like you know what i should not be sexting and have sex with a girl because my friendship matters more to me and i just need to move on but what you are doing right now is just wasting both your time and you are just. You're just as guilty at at the moment because your your being as passive aggressive as he is. Yeah you're not being direct being passive aggressive while calling him weird not being direct. You're so right. You're always right and it pisses me off all right. So what are we. What are we gonna do when you get off the phone. Next time he reaches out to you. Yeah well first of all. I'm not gonna stop shot him. I'm just going to text him. And i'm just going to be direct about it and again. I'm not giving you permission to just like sound difficult than and be aggressive. Just be direct. You can be really kind and directed the same time you can. You're gonna requires you to be a little vulnerable here. And that's a hard time. People have when they're direct because they want to put a guard on like well. I don't fucking care what you want. And i don't really care about this but this is what i want and if you don't if you don't wanna i don't wanna either like well. Who fucked wants to do the hanging out with that person. it's to require to be somewhat vulnerable. And that is i. I like i like what we have the little bit where we do have. But here's what i don't like and here's what i would would like. Are you willing to do that. And you're going to have to sound like you might be sad if you don't get what you want and that will be okay and you'll survive but if ube say it in a way that makes it sound like you. Don't give a shit and you're just kinda like no one likes that person. I don't fucking care what you say. But this is what i want. Fuck you what are you. Are you gonna give you what i want like no wants that. Make sense because we do that a lot. We pretend we don't give a shit and we just sound like a dick or bitch or whatever you just completely redmi to tell us what you're gonna do but like just seeing. I'm only texting all fuck. It's irritating to be south chat. I get it but you have to be a little bit vulnerable and direct at the same time. This is what i would like. I'm hope you're willing to give it to me because you know what. Here's why i like it because you are seeing a cool guy. I enjoy what we have. But i am not okay with xyz z. So if you like me enough. I'd like this and by the way i don't want to keep doing this if we're not gonna get together. Have you even discussed his relationship with your roommate or you guys. Pretend that's not a thing. I mean okay so we all went on spring break together like my sophomore year of college. How long does that seven years. Six years like nineteen six years ago a long time ago. The answer that question. No you haven't really had a mature conversation about conversation. We talked about how he climbed into bed with me naked. That's what we talked about these. You've been in bed naked with this guy accidentally. Yes long story okay. Well so there's some sexual tension there. Maybe you don't you have a conversation about the elephant in the room about my ex young. Do you even know how close he is with this guy. Your ex well. You should probably find out a yeah. I should like i don't care is like a hard boundary i find because it was a real messy break up and i don't want this guy did think that i care still about my ex and i was if this is a guy hairstyle nelson. He's your ex and you can be over it and indifferent but still like acknowledged that he is someone you did care about and you can acknowledge that like you know that they were friends and you know you don't even know how close she is with this guy. That's like okay. i don't know. Is it weird for you. You don't have to act like you carry. But hey can i just ask you a question. I know we've probably have both been one in the same thing but like do you still talk to mark. Oh yeah we're still good friends. Oh does that is that weird for you. I'm like i just want like you. You know were broken up and refine but you're still friends so like how do you feel about that. But how does that make you sound like you still care as true. I've been away over thinking it. And if he's like. I don't know i don't really talk to the guy. We had a falling out. Oh end of story. We can move on but there is a reason why he's not hanging out with you. If you like sexy view most guys are into having sex with women they find attractive so like there's a good chance he's still talk to them but then you can talk about it but listen to me if not where do you but at the same time if it is weird you. Maybe we shouldn't keep doing this. Because i don't want you know but you you were having conversations for a direct person i am. I was just like that one conversation has been like. I don't like i've been scared to 'cause i don't wanna like plant that seed in his head but you select like i know that he knows i'm his like exactly but you like acknowledging that some was your boyfriend does not mean you're still in love with them. Yeah you know. You don't have to literally act like they don't exist in fact affect you haven't brought it up you could argue makes it sound like you do care as much as anyone because you're avoiding the topic and we have a hard time of talking about things we care about f- so it would make sense for you to just be like. Hey hey. do you still talk to that person. you're right. I i'm not gonna say if you're right or good luck. Good chance of not your guy. A- his halloween. It's but how some fun but just don't make it more confusing that needs to be. Then you never know you both are it. Sounds like you're both not great communicators. You're both a little immature when it comes to communicating about your feelings and emotions and you both like pretending that things don't matter when they do and you're both afraid of being vulnerable so someone has on like very well. You should probably work on that on your own. Then you'll figure it out getting hurt won't kill you. You're just probably really used to being liked most of your life. I think you've mostly have had successful dating life. You've you've used at being sought after but not necessarily got what you want. Think that's true. No what do you think that you are afraid of being vulnerable. Because i was almost saying. I had an almost engagement to that guy. Yeah almost engagement. I mean like we went shopping for engagement rings one month and then the next month that was over like for an i never knew why and so then just like you know i never lie so i just i came up like i told myself reasons why and then like you have no idea what you were happy with everything. Everything was amazing really everything. Well yeah okay. Do what he's doing now. I like have fred like we still have a mutual friends and like none of the mutual friends know why either. How long ago was this like three years ago. Are you over. Yeah yeah you no. I've kind of told myself that He like put a front. This is like how like gotten myself over. It is that he has like put up a front for me. Because i went. I was dating him like his family. Members told me bat like my gosh. you've him so much of a better person like he definitely wasn't like this before and so like i've told myself that like he wasn't the type of person of our relationship that he was inside relationship and so that's kind of what like comes of inclusion with myself and that he wasn't if he wasn't that person truly that it wasn't the person i wanted to marry it doesn't really matter. It's also possible in this thing sometimes but it could be true that he just decided he didn't yeah like he was in love of so. My guess is that's probably why you're being vulnerable because there's always that part of you us at one of like well. Maybe they just didn't like me but he never heard it from you and you. You're like well i i. I think i thought of this reason. I've thought of this reason you there's at like in the back of your mind and that's okay. There's a lot of people don't like us so but communicate with this other guy and Also maybe it's considered possibilities is just not date someone who used to be as remit because he did it hurt you and you know that might be scratching. You could be healed but it could. Maybe trigger some things for you that you don't need to bother with for sure all right all right all right best of luck you'll be great. Thank you take care bye bye. How's it going ed. How are you good. what's your name. I'm lindsay thirty. Hi lindsay hawkin. Hope so Just a little bit of a back story. I guess that is the lead with Back in july twenty twenty during the pandemic my partner Passed away in my arms. Run asmaa attack and so. That's yeah it's okay i. I know it's very traumatic and devastating. Of course but i do the best to try to kind of you know look at the silver lining things and stay positive but that kind of leads me to my next point which is that. It's been very difficult for me to kind of navigate my sexuality and being a very sexual person after that you know. It's the longest that i've been single now. The last decade pretty much and six months seven months eight months women six months aspirin six times And in intern. That's also been the longest that i've gone without having sex since actually i lost my journey really And not i guess stopped on halloween when i had sex with My friend and he actually happens to be one of my partners. Good friends the thing. That the caveat that. I guess you could say that we had a relationship not a romantic relationship but we had a sexual relationship. The last maybe decade kind of on and off. So it's not. As though i just before you're right right before i got together with my partner. Gotcha so it's not really like i just kind of like had sex with my partners. Run like we had established before that Regardless so you know hit. I've just it's been kind of a nice situation because i would like to have sex with someone but i'm not looking for a romantic relationship by any means right now and i'm kind of picky and i also don't really like online dating so it's kind of hard to find someone else to i. Guess do those things with so to me. It seems like that would be the best scenario and it seems like that would be the best scenario for him too because he's kind of in a similar situation where he is not really like looking for anyone and so this kind of friends with benefits situation seems like it could be beneficial for both of us. And i guess. I'm just kind of a confused. Because about two weeks after halloween when we first had sex again he. He texted me and he was like you know. Hey you should come over tonight. And i was like now. It's getting kind of late. But maybe by the way he lives like forty minutes away. He used to live in town but he moved away. I'm like forty minutes away. So it's not like i can just go for their and five minutes And you know he was like yeah. What can i do to convince you to come over. Like no sending me dick pic sexy me all these things and so i told him i'd come over and i guess i was under the assumption that like when i was driving over there that we'd have sex that night and when i got there. He acted as though like we didn't have that text conversation. Like i was texting the wrong person. Pretty much and we're friends and we can hang out and just shoot the shit like normal and so that's pretty much what we did and you know the next day. I continue to hang out with him. And then we briefly. Hudson valley had sex in the shower because his Heater in his apartment. Kind of cropped out so he basically offered the invitation to shower with him and even still in the shower he was very he just. He has this attitude of like. We're going to kind of pretend this isn't happening right now. Like it's i don't know if i can. Yeah it's kind of like it's almost like he's acting like this isn't happening but we're going to do this really quick and then never talk about it again. We saw briefly had sex in the shower and then afterwards we were hanging out bunch and he was kind of just doing this thing where he was like i. You know i. I read energy pretty well and i could tell he was like doing whatever he could to like. Kind of avoid sitting next to me and was just seemingly kind of uncomfortable and awkward. So i brought the subject up to him. You know eventually just kind of confronted him and said you know kinda frustrated you know it seems like last night you were texting things and then i get here and a completely different vibe. And i don't know if that's about and he freaked out immediately and was like you're completely out of wine and completely out of pocket and i can't believe you even say that and like you have a you. Don't all how it is like. Just i i guess i just said that. I was frustrated in that. It seemed like well. You know the thing that i said. That's him off. And i can understand this because it kind of sounds masculine side. You talk a big game. Her text message. Okay but i mean that's just the truth of the situation that he was so what's your question so basically my question is just whether or not like he thinks that i should try in like move on. I mean i'm not looking for anything with this guy. And i told him that or if i should just like continue to try in like work through things with him crystal friends. We point out some sun. So what do you. It's seems unclear. Hearing your story that you're not entirely sure what you want to say that you want this friends with benefits and you're not looking for relationship but regardless of who's right or who's wrong in this argument like you're you have expectations of him right an accident in which are more than just sex because he at least want him to you which is fine. You're you have the right to want that but it's not what you say you want right. It's not just a friends with benefits. Well not makes me think that because you want to connect with him. You don't want you want him to not be. You want energy to be a certain way like you said you're not just showing up having sex taken a shower and leaving like you you know. That's that's what a friend benefit is and that's okay not to have it but it's a little bit too. You're you're trying to live in the gray. You want at least some expectations. You want at least some validation some emotional connection or whatever it is. It's not just you know the physical act because you had saks you know and he may be send some pictures of convenience and that's where it can get messy so like if it's okay if you don't want just friends with benefits right. I actually i really don't want a relationship with him at all And i can understand how it could come off that way. Especially and i you know like i cleared this up with him. I wrote an email to him after that said hop in and was like you know. I know that. I came off like you know saying like. Why didn't you sit next to me. Sounds like i am hurt or like you know. I want your attention and it's not necessarily bad. It's just that. I wanted to be able to make a move on. You and i felt. I couldn't really do that like that was the main reason that i wanted like well. Sure but then if you are like if you have a a friends with benefits relationship the maybe he's not in the mood or whatever you know like that's the thing is it looks it. Sounds like to me You may not want him to be your boyfriend. Want a little bit more than just a fuck buddy right you want it some when when you need or want the comfort like a relationship romantic relationship dating someone when you have this kind of you know. You understand sheila's love languages and when they're upset or when they're mad or when you need to know to back off or push them that's part of a relationship and i get that right but this you're saying like just some guy of sex with you know i guess i feel like it. Maybe it's a little different because like we've we've established this kind of friendship where we hang out for like very long like a couple of days as it live like he doesn't live very close so it's like it's not like i can just bang and leave you know in twenty minutes what i think you should do. Is i think you need to get better at expanding your comfort zone. I think you have found the the most ideal person and yours very small comfort zone encircled to have a just sex with but has not just somebody. He's a friend and it's just hard you're trying to have two different types of relationship with this guy and you are now realizing that that's difficult to do. So if you want a fuck buddy go find a fuck buddy. That wasn't a friend with your past partner or even forget about that. Some guy you didn't know before he's a some guy like you enjoy looking at and you enjoy his dick and that you don't really want anything else other than that. You don't need to like you come and go as you please you. You're not friends you don't sometimes just be friends than sometimes have sex. It's confusing for anyone putting yourself and him. And he's like trust me he's just like what the fuck does she want from. I don't know like we're not dating. You know he he's probably guarantee he's the guy says more simple is just like i listen dating or not because if we're not dating then leave me the fuck alone right you know. That's probably what he's thinking. I know you don't like dating apps but doesn't mean you shouldn't use them. I mean i've tried them. I downloaded tender. And i've tried it. I just i don't. I don't connect with someone over a screen. I just can't get like a normal ken. But that's the start so you connect over screen. You have a conversation you go on uncomfortable date and then you find out if you like e got comfortable. There is a discomfort in dating like you. Don't get to like meet someone and be like i feel like i've known you forever without like the process to build up it takes some work right. You know. that's true unless you only just want to limit your options for the rest of your life. The people that like you know you happen to meet through normal certain circumstances. I think i think the reason that. I'm kind of skeptical of finding someone new is that i've had this tendency of you know a bean kind of all in all out. Where like if. I start to like someone like i don't. I'm scared of liking someone and then liking them too much. Sure which is like maybe sounds they meal. Maybe you do like a more than you're scared to say it because you don't know how he feels back. I don't know how do you feel like you fully processed death of your partner. Yeah i mean. I feel like i feel like i have but at the same time. I also don't want to be in a relationship right now. Have you done any therapy. Since you're i. I have i definitely i do. There's like pretty traumatic thing to have absolutely absolutely. Yeah absolutely and i mean like i don't take that lightly at all but yeah i mean i like. That's the thing is that i'm not. I'm not ready for anything like romantic. I don't want. I'm not completely over it yet. I didn't even okay and even know you're like this is the longest job i have a sex doesn't make it a bad thing right now. Because you're doing something doesn't mean you. Maybe maybe a break is good right. You know like you could be a sexual person. Still take time out. You know that makes exciting you know. And don't feel they have to like scratch every time you need right so i think it would be really important for you to really focus on you know processing the loss that you have in the grieve and even if it and it's i feel like it's common and i thankfully haven't experienced any real loss like that but i assume people don't like to feel pain and hurt so they try to avoid it and they try to even tell themselves they're over and they try to prove things to themselves. You don't have to prove anything to anyone. You have to prove it to yourself. So it's okay to be like you know. I'm just not there yet. But right now descends like a very complicated situation. And and i wouldn't be blown away of. Maybe you like them a little more than even want to admit you know. I don't know but you know i'm attracted to him and they're like i just process things in a weird way where i like. Look at them very objectively and surprise your nowhere and said that he has feelings for you. right i honestly i. I would be really hesitant. And i would be really skeptical even if like hesitant sceptical about what whether he means it. Or how your feelings. Because that's what i read to me. It sounds like what you wouldn't believe that he means it and you'd be scared to get hurt. That's what it's no it's not. It's not that i would be skeptical of. His feelings. Ought to be skeptical of forward from there. I i don't think i would want to be in a relationship with him. He's not a good part seated on ause partners. He's not a good boyfriend he's just not he's very hot and cold he's very like wasn't where'd you Possibly but that's not him. You know like that. I'm just saying but that's why maybe you like. There's an attraction their past. Like just a fuck buddy and it just sounds like your fucking with yourself you choosing a complicated situation and you're trying to simplify it and it's hard to do and that's why you feel confused in. It's complicated because it is a complicated situation right now. You're just downplaying just because you're down plant doesn't mean you're complicating it. No i mean. I know that it's complicated. It's just like i. I guess i'm okay. I'm okay with it being exactly how it is. Okay with you are. That's why we're on the phone and that's okay to admit right like you've probably have some good sex with this guy but i just think maybe you need to take a breath you know. I consider the possibility that this is complicated situation. That's never going to get much easier. And if you ain't lot easier if young want more simple if you want clear expectations for yourself and whoever you're having sex with he might not be the guy right. You're okay with complicated fine. It doesn't sound like you are because you know who likes complicated to appoint a. It's fun and dramatic. I but the sounds a little exhausting confusing and you don't like wondering why he's acting a certain way in that moment you're sitting on the couch next to him and you feel like he doesn't want to connect with you. You can't make a move. It feels awkward in silly. And like you know. I'm very direct and i'm very you know up front and honest and he's not that way at all that's why would you choose. I if a goal is a casually ship that you can just kind of unwind and get a little bit of sex to like you satisfy like your desires have sex because like it helps relax you and helps you their energy. Why would you choose the situation that creates more anxiety rather than reduces it well because this expert is great and like when it when it is that it's it's just fine problem but it comes with a price right right right. I'm using your choosing a complicated situation. But here's the thing is. I have to come at the price and i feel like he's does with him. It does yeah. You're being stubborn right now. And saying i think. I can change him. You're not actually. That's what you're saying. You're arkansas just situation this right right. But i think he i'm trying to say to him. It doesn't have to be so complicated. You know like sure. i mean. it doesn't have to be you know. And i don't the people girls. I've dated in the past in half to have their personnel. But that's that's who they were. That's who he is. Some people aren't the right fits right. Of course he could be a different person. of course. yeah that's like saying. I'm i don't know you know it's like anything's possible. But this is not who he is. And it's not likely how he's going to be joe square into a circle pretty much. Yeah if he wasn't a cheater he made a great boyfriend but that's what he did right. And i think you need to accept who he is in the situation you have found yourself to be in right and make decisions on that. What the reality of it. Not what you think. It could be. And i think you are being a little stubborn with that. I guess my problem is that. I just wanna like though of this scenario. Because it's so i guess comfortable and ideal for me and i guess i don't wanna get out of my comfort zone. Some part of it is comfortable. Some part is is not and what you are choosing. Is this discomfort over the the discomfort of dating apps in meeting someone new right so don't call it easy verse you know. It's it's one discomfort versus another. You're weighing this. Discomfort is easier for you to accept then citing completely new. Because at least you're getting some good sex. I would argue that. If you can get through the discomfort of the dating and finding some anew you could have their have someone you actually want to date or you can find a fuck buddy. That is really a fuck buddy. Yeah i think that's harder to do than in. And i my sense is that you just. There's a wall of you have you. Have you know this desire for a fuck. Buddy has more to do with some issues that maybe you know we all have. You might want to work through the because it sounds to me like if if all things being equal if you could have the same sex you have at hand with a guy that you trusted that you think would fe is faithful. That you wouldn't just have a fuck buddy you just date. Yeah absolutely i guess for me. It's just like i. I don't really think that i could. There's so much gamble when it comes to online dating. There's so much cable when it comes to finding new sex partner gamble but you take in these interactions and you get better at you know as you date more more in different people you get better and better at noticing red flags. You'll like you know what this seems like. A bigger risk than other risks. Like you know the red flag of dating someone who has only cheated on their partners. So you're probably not going to invest more time in a guy who has a bad track record you know. You're you're young. You're gonna swing and miss a few times but you have to swing to see vegan. You know find the person what you know pretty confidently is this guy is just sacks right and i guess that's the thing that i feel comfortable that because we both know that it's not that there's like a wall at a certain point where it can't go past a certain level and maybe with a different person. I guess i feel like that. Would that would be broached. Really fast suckling comfortable. it's it's discomfort. You're willing to accept okay. Comfortable me accept. yeah but least. That's this you're being honest with the situation and and that way when you consider the alternative. It's choosing discomfort over comfort because this isn't comfortable right and she's just using something familiar. I guess yes so. I would challenge yourself to maybe choose things that are also maybe uncomfortable but and not familiar because sometimes the unfamiliar can be great new exciting things that turned into comfort But take the time to grieve and heal an and and and don't be afraid to still do that and it sounds like you know maybe you need to hilo bit more. And that's okay. I would i would think i would need to if our our position so And then there is. This added layer that you know he was friends. And maybe that you know. Maybe there's things he's dealing with two. You don't know this is right. This is a very complicated messing situation. So you should stop calling it comfortable just getting laid. Okay yeah i appreciate your help all right all right take care take care all right. Let's go and what's your name. I'm caitlyn and i'm thirty. How can i help all right. Well i have a somewhat of a family predicament. Going on and a lot of people might be able to relate to this this day and age so starting from the beginning. I had a super normal upbringing. I'm the youngest of three. And i'm the only girl so i was a baby girl so always like being the favorite Over the past couple of years. I've kind of become the black sheep in the family which is really unfortunate. Because you know family's always been really important to me. But i've really grown apart from a lot of my family because my views don't align with those of the rest of my family members at all whatsoever and i know that this has been kind of a common occurrence to a lot of families over the all your views across the board I mean not absolutely everything. We still have kind of the same morals and values and things like that. But it's important right. Yeah yeah that is important. But it's mostly and like the political realm of things. Both my parents are from the deep south. I was raised in a small town in texas and most people who grew up where i grew up. Stay there which is totally fine. That's just not something that i wanted to do. And so i moved off. And i feel like i have had a lot of different views of the world that some people haven't been able to see him because of that. A lot of my views particularly political and things like that have shifted over the years And so i just don't really know how to deal with my family and particularly my parents. I don't even talk to my brother who's close in age to me anymore Because of all this stuff that have gone down. But i just i mean. It's not things like this aren't often brought up in person like when we're all together we can usually be cordial but everything always comes back around to facebook so i feel yes. I hate facebook. Who starts like so. Let me ask you guys get together. Yeah you are cordial and they're just like hi. You're my mom are brother. And i love you guys and it's good to see you and oh by the way we generally have the same morals and understanding who's the one who eventually after couple beers or four hours of boredom brings up the difference and opinions that will ultimately lead to fights. I mean honestly it could be any one of us but it's usually you are also guilty. Are you or i. i'm definitely guilty. We're all very hard headed there so we have a lot of similarity there but i usually try to avoid it especially when it comes to like being around each other for holidays because my mom's always been like okay. Well you know if you say something she will she will leave and so we usually try to avoid it but my biggest issue is with the things that my mom hosts on the internet. So i'll message my mom and be like. Hey could you please not say anything about you. Know things going on in the world right now or like hosts like for example like not necessarily conspiracy theories but like gung-ho trump twenty twenty type of stuff. I'll just throw it out there and instead of just being like you know what i respect your opinion. You're not posting about it. I won't push it out either. She'll be like why are you getting so offended about that. And the big thing is. She's friends with a lot of my friends on facebook because growing up she has always been like a second mom to all of my friends and they've always loved her. Obviously his past few years have been very heated across the board and social posts. Something and i'll be like for example. One of my best friends is a gay immigrant. He was my wedding. And i'm like you do realize that some of the things that you're saying is completely disregarding his existence or are you saying her general support for the candidate or is she specifically saying things that come across ignorant. She's a very ignorant. Stop like she'll repos things that have the little flag that says this has been deemed as false information about the election per se. But i'm talking about your friend right. I'm saying as she specifically said something that say would be would sound ignorant say towards immigrants or gay people has your mom specifically Other than leg i. you know what i'm saying. Yeah i know what you're saying so not specifically except for. There's a couple of things about like border issues that she has mentioned. And i'm like. I don't think you really understand how this indirectly but directly impacts the people around me which in turn makes you look a bad person. And she's a really good person and that's where that's where i'm having. This internal battle is that. I know that she is an amazing person. She's done everything for me and all my friends growing up and it's just become really difficult and it makes me want to not be around her and what makes other people not wanna be around her when she's being this way and i don't know what the best way to go about saying like you just be like a decent human and not say anything so that way we can all get along essentially melissa. Obviously this is probably very relatable to a lot of people and it's a tough conversation to have right Even me here like thinking about high. What answer your question. It's just like you know already It's it's it's hard to do without frustrating somebody right. It's we do have a very divisive country when it comes to political stuff but the thing is when it comes to family you know You're going to have to find some sort of middle ground right we are. We are dealing with a climate that likes to live on the edges of the extremes right. At least that's the thing it's what it feels like especially on the internet right The loudest people seem to be have the most extreme thoughts on on both sides. But let's focus on the immediate problem and that is your relationship with your mother and your family. When you say you're you're not talking to your brother or your relationship with your mother. Seems to be going south so to speak you yourself have to try to find a common ground. I mean when it comes to the stuff like it's not gonna like wing your brother says things to you clearly is not changing your mind. You get defensive and you get angry and mad and sometimes leave and vice versa. That's he's having the same. Your mom and your brother has the same reaction to you right especially people like that you love you say you have the same moral compass and understanding. I without knowing your mom. I'm pretty sure that what she's putting up there. And what she saying she believes that its righteous right that she believes that it's right. She believes that whether she's misinformed or not. You know that's what she believes right. You telling her she's stupid or saying that what she's you know what i'm saying like whether it's directly or condescendingly or passive aggressively is never going to find a common ground. You will only push each other away so if your goal is trying to find common ground with your mother you have to figure different way communicate with her right now in these types of situations. It's always the long game like has anyone ever in an i'll acid. It's rhetorical but have you ever had a conversation with someone who had different political opinion than yours and you just like yaldo. You're ping'an and they were like. Oh my god. That's so clear. And i've totally changed my mind and now like i'm on yours had ever happened. Never never right so yet. We continue to try to do it all of us. We're all guilty of it now. It's seems it feels like an impossible task with the world but it there's an opportunity here at least with your family like your mom your immediate family and it. It's it's very hard. It's not easy but like what you can try to do. Is you gotta have two trojan horse it. You gotta attack him from the inside so to speak and without bringing up politics and who she votes for does she have a relationship with your best friend. Who is in your wedding my friend. You're gay best friend who's an immigrant called her mama her name. Yeah so you need to. You know if this is a goal of yours listen a lot of ignorance in this role comes from just not knowing better and you don't have to be a twelve year old to be ignorant and not knowing you better you can be a seventy year old person or fifty year old person or four year old person if you if you lived in a community surrounded by the same people with the same beliefs right there. You're generally going to think the same and end you'll you'll find you know you'll you'll hear it and you know this sounds normal. I mean i think about lot of the things that i was taught and things i heard in my community community that i just so yeah okay totally you hear it and then you you. It sounds good enough. And then you echo it to someone else and it all seems normal and okay and then you like you leave your circle and then you become like the reason you probably have these points of us because of the friends that you've made and you said you kind of your moved outside of that circle and you learn a lot right had you not you might have never been in the place that you are so unions need if this is a goal for your mother whether you will you think she should know better or not introduced to other points of view. That aren't your own. You know how sometimes when you argue with your boyfriend or girlfriend and you say the same thing over and over and like they never listened to you and then some fucking stranger comes out and echoes like like days later like some advice to the to you or your boyfriend or and they take it and you know what the stranger said to me and they said. It's such an articulate way. The finally made centrally. I've fucking been saying that over and over but they just tune you out because you're just you. They see need to hear from a fresh perspective right. So what i'm saying is like i think your mom needs needs to really empathize and learn from people like your friend and get to know them on the human level enshrouded slowly understand. You may never get her to like vote your way right but you might over time. Get her to slowly see what her vote and what she says and what she post represents right what it really how it comes across and it's not going to happen overnight. You know it's really not and it's probably not going to happen from you. It's gonna happen from that. You might introduce her to you that have other points of views so they can really see what it feels like to read some of the things that she posted that she supports especially when she's sitting down with people like your friend she sees you and she's like well. This is my daughter. And if it's okay for me it's okay for her. You know she sees you as a continuation of herself. Your friend. who's a very different life choices and comes from a different background and literally a different country and has a different sexual orientation. She doesn't really know them. You know she. Hasn't you know what i'm saying. Like really know them and i think you just have to try to change their perspective on various topics that don't don't immediately bring up you know who she's voting for. Nearly every time you bring a conversation around say sexual orientation or or were your friends from or or social issues. Don't immediately v. Like well see the person you vote for doesn't represent that because then they will immediately turn off what they're the focus on. Let them focus on the topics. Let them focus on what it really means you know and then let them be like well. I guess yeah maybe you know like it's a slow process. People don't like change their beliefs overnight. If you really wanna do that. That's that's the best. That's the way i know of right and it is your family with people like you know that you're not friends with and you know you you don't want to get to know them and they have a different belief system. That's fine you. Don't you know you can ignore them. You can follow them. You can block them gray. This is your mom. So i feel like i always need to like be monitoring and so as far as like posting. Does like yeah. She'll post a bunch of political stuff but she just isn't over sharer in general whenever it comes to social media and so i don't know what the best way to go about being like maybe it should not share will. You can't listen i. It's not going to do you any good if your if your goal is to get you know. Repair this relation with your mom telling her to stop posting things that she thinks are righteous. Right or wrong is not going to help. You know you can't tell her what to do you know she doesn't want to hear from your and i'm not saying she's right or i'm just saying that's not gonna help right so you you're going to have to bite your tongue to a certain degree again like you gotta stop making it about the thing like the politics of it all and like you believe in what you believe you believe what she is posting represents a certain thing right so focus on the thing that is representing. You know again your friend the immigrant friend who's gay. Who has you know who you feel like you know she by doing. In posting things she does is marginalising. Your friend and things that he stands for focus on that and don't immediately start being like see. You know this is why you're wrong. Just let her come hopefully to that realization overtime on her own because she's going to continue to understand more and more other people's points of views and how they think and how they feel and how the world affects them when things happen right and have have contained to hear other people's stories. You know you you. You can't let your mom realized that you're trying to can you know you're trying to educate her on more worldviews right. If she thinks that's what you're trying to do she'll silting you out. I'm thankful to have the family in the parents that i have that. Maybe it's because they had so many damn kids that you know more than half of them have a more progressive right points of view and my parents haven't completely changed their perspective but they have gotten a lot more open minded through like through their kids. It's still a two two against one your family. Unfortunately you're you're still outnumber but none the less like it wasn't because we told our parents they are stupid or wrong or or etcetera etcetera. It was that they've meant so many different types of people through the people their friends their kids have introduced him to their other points of view and and And things like that. It just kind of opened up their mind. i mean. i don't really expect her to ever really change her views. it stressed. i mean the coming. Off and i think that we need to have more in person. Conversations as opposed to me texting are being like. Can you please literally never gonna work. Yeah it's just so tough because we both get we all. We both always get so heated. Because we're both so passionate about things and and it's just it's just not an acute. Look well i mean it can happen. I mean it happened with my parents but it took time you know but telling him made making him feel stupid and wrong. Never worked for anyone you know. It doesn't relationships of any kind whether it's romantic or your parents. It's allowing them to get the place on their own and introducing the new ideas and you know that that's all you can really do. I mean that's a good reminder that i need to constantly tell myself like being right. Does it necessarily fix the family. Dynamic and Families can get together with not always being brought up. And if you just do do your part by overtime slowly just trying to get them to kind of soft in their point of view by introducing the new ideas and that's really the only way it's going to going to happen but you know being bitter or being just like them or arguing enacting like your right in their stupid like both sides do isn't is never solved any problems so you have to try to at least with your mother and you know hopefully brother find a common ground. Yeah we'll see. I don't even know when the next i'm gonna see. My brothers were dislike so opposite. We don't even do holidays together this past year. And why don't you. Why don't you your brother out of nowhere that you were thinking about them and that you love them and and well the conversation and just you can. Do you love your brother. You don't even have to like them but you love him kind. It's tough. it's tough i know. i did. Text him a couple of weeks ago. Because i wanted to try to mend things before christmas and i was blocked so afer effort. He bled. well listen. You're going to have to kill them with kindness. I understand that but it gets that mindset. That is what has that divisiveness in family is in her in in in our world and At some point if we wanted to get better we're going to have to play the long game and and have conversations about topics and not immediately. Translate it to what that means politically or voting and and have make you people feel stupid and things like that because lear a perfect example. It's like you're still product of your your family. What you were raised so like. You're not that different. You know what. I'm saying like there are a lot of similarities but somewhere along the line you've verge found a new path and they stayed on the same path but they're not not incapable of finding different paths. Yeah i mean earlier you said about about if you would have stayed and that honestly scares the hell out of me because what if i did say i would probably don't like how can i get them both but the light but yeah but that's what i'm saying is like people have usually find them on their own. Sometimes you can you know crack. Open a few doors or windows. But you can't push them through it you know they're gonna have to through curiosity or or being introduced. Maybe you know or a little bit more. But eventually they're the ones we actually have to go through it on their own because no one likes to be feel like they're forced to an environment they don't wanna be an they're not receptive to it. I well that is a lot to think about really appreciate your help. Best of luck to you. Know it's okay to love your family even though you don't like them or disagree with them and i encourage you to let them know how much you love them and i would encourage you to stop fighting with him about things that you know you disagree. Get tips and sail facebook. That'll be my number one. I'm sure you're not. You're not the only one of your friends whose parents are posting things. Your friends group don't agree with. Oh yeah and thank god. I have like a little A group like a support group of friends who have parents who do the same stupid shit. Stop telling your parents at their stupid. Okay all right. You can do this over time. Please take care about well guys. Thanks for listening fun episode. Appreciate all the people calling in. Don't forget sending questions that ask. Nick academy dot com cast with a k. Falls on social all those fun things. I hope you guys have a great rest of your day. Check us out for the rest of the week. 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When it's Ok to Complain - 342

The Chalene Show

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When it's Ok to Complain - 342

"Welcome to the Shalini show. She Lena's a New York Times. Bestselling author, celebrity fitness trainer, eight obsessed with helping you live your dream life. Let me start today by walking you through or taking you back to a scenario. I assume almost everyone has experienced this. You run to the mall to pick up a gift. You're on your way to a party. That's that day. It's either a birthday party or maybe it's a bridal shower it someplace where you cannot walk in without a gift. So you run to the mall. You've allotted for just enough time to pick out the perfect gift. Now on your way to the mall, you stopped off at the local drugstore and you picked up a gift bag in some tissue because you know there's really not enough time to have this thing gift wrapped. So you pick out a beautiful outfit, let's say, and you are at a very nice retail establishment where the lady behind the counter is incredibly sweet, so nice and being so kind and so slow. She's talking to you about every single item that you have laid on the counter. She's making the notation of how nice you looked in your driver's license photo, and then after she's finished the transaction, she's about to put. Those gifts wrap them in tissue and put them in the bag for you to leave along with your receipt. And she suddenly realizes that there's no tissue for the blouse in the slacks you purchase and being the sweetheart that she is, she quickly announces to you that I'm just going to run the back real quick and and get you some tissue and you can feel your anxiety level climbing, right? Because you're thinking, oh, this is so nice, but seriously just throw it in the bag police. I have to go just throw it in the bag. Right. And you don't have the heart to say that to her. So she dashes off back behind closed doors in quote, unquote the stockroom and disappears for like four or five minutes, but those four or five minutes, feel like any turn ity and you're waiting and you're waiting, and you just keep wavering between a smile and irritation you think this lady is so sweet and so nice. But at the same time you're also like, come on, let's go, I'm why did they? Why today? Do I get. This person who's like, so overly sweet and nice and doesn't understand that. Like you're in a huge rush. I mean, you're like, come on, let's move those feet. I got someplace to be. Let's go, let's go, let's go. But she finally comes back and she's so apologetic and she regrets to inform you that there was no tissue behind those doors, but that's okay. Honey, because she's going to run upstairs to customer service and get some more tissue. Well, we'll now you've pretty much had enough, so you want to say to her, she's trying to dash away. No, really, really. It's okay. No, seriously. I have tissue if my car, please come back leave, go back. I just want to leave and you can't. Right because the bag is just outside of your reach and Gladys is hell bent on finding you tissue to wrap this gift in. In fact, she's not even wrapping gifts. She's just wrapping your purchasing it to put it in the bag. All you want to do is leave. So what do you do? Do you grab the bag? Explain to another sales associate. Can you please let. Gladys know that I have my purchase or do you feel bad for Gladys and you don't want to ruin her day? Do wait for Gladys to come back. It'll only be a minute. I mean, how far could you have gone? She was practically sprinting. She'll be back in just moments. I should wait. I don't want to hurt her feelings such a nice lady. She doesn't know that I'm in a rush. And two and three minutes pass, which feel like two to three hours and Gladys scurries back behind the counter and you're thinking to yourself for the love. Will you please just throw these things in their bag? Now, Gladys realizes that she forgot to take off one of the sensors and you're standing there smiling trying to stay calm and just wanting to rip the garments out of her hands or ask for someone to come over and please help Gladys finish this transaction. If you had this happened before where you, you can almost feel like that devil and angel on your shoulder fighting with you like you, you wanna be really frustrated and you wanna say enough. I've gotta go by the same token. You feel bad because this person's being very sweet and very kind and they're just trying to do their job. They're just trying to trying to be nice to you. What would you do in that situation? I find myself have found myself in this situation every time I go to a large appearance now as. Many of, you know, I do exercise DVD's and one of the companies that I partner with is beach body. I am part of the beach body family. I'm what they call a beach body celebrity trainer. I don't know what that word celebrity means, but it means a lot of people have done your work outs. If if nothing else and several times a year, we have these big huge events where all of your fans and coaches and supporters, and people have done your workouts and people are part of the organization. They all come together in one big group, a city. It's like a celebration and we learn and we do the workouts and they teach each other. How do better at becoming a an online health coach or helping people reach their their fitness goals? And so myself and a few other trainers like Tony Horton. And of course, shown t was sub shanty and Carl dyke ler top coaches, you know, people who are known in the beach by the community. Well, when we have these events, you know, it started off kind of small like a couple thousand people. And then the next year. Was five thousand people and then ten thousand fifteen thousand bits expected to be twenty five thousand people. And there's a moment at this event which is called the summit. There's a moment at summit where you go up on the stage and that's awesome, incredible opportunity to teach a live class to twenty five thousand people that are part of the beach body family. It's really awesome. It's really cool. Now, a lot of those people are my fans, but some of them just know me as being part of the organization, they don't. They're not necessarily a fan. They've maybe never done. One of my workouts. They've seen my picture. They know I'm one of the quote, unquote celebrity trainers, but you know, they don't really know me. Nonetheless, their business is promoting these workouts and nutrition in supplement lines. So when they're at this event is you can imagine it benefits them to have a photo taken with me or one of the other trainers because for their customers, it would appear, then that you know that this person is. Connected to people who are high up in your organization or the trainers who created these workouts. It's kind of like, I guess the only way I can describe it is there are people who are fans of Tom Brady, right? And that's the only professional football player can think of right now because he's in the news. But there are people who are fans of Tom Brady and they want to take a photo with him because they love him. They know he's like an incredible quarterback and they know everything about them and their his lifer. And then there are those people who are in the business of selling autographs professional and sports memorabilia, and those people want to take a photo with him and have him signed something too. But it's kind of different like they're doing it because not because they have a genuine love and appreciation for Tom, but it's going to help their business and I don't think either one's wrong, but they're just kind of different. And so that kind of happens at these live events to write like people will be there and they're very aggressive to take a photo with you, and you know, it's to help their business and that they really don't know you. Because they'll say, hey, Charlene, Charlene, can I get a photo with you? You talking to me because my name is Charlene or they'll be like, hey, can I get a photo human, like really aggressive in, they'll grab you and we're not talking ten and twenty people were talking thousands of people, right? And that listen, I've got total gratitude, but this episode is about complaining and the different types of complaints we can experience. So this would happen every year. And as you can expect, most people aren't carrying an old school camera around their neck or even a digital camera. What does everyone take a photo with? Correct their phone. And is there only one type of phone? No, there's I phones androids and Samsung's and all other types of phones. You can possibly imagine someone someone wants to take a photo with you. This is what this is, what it feels like. You're going down a hallway. You've got just a couple of minutes to get to the next event which they've scheduled for you to go up and be on stage. And speak to thousands of people. So your brain is already like trying to make sure you get that presentation, right? You're already thinking about your words and you're trying to run through it in your head. And so you're you're already kind of like a little distant. You already trying to like mentally focus. But meanwhile, you're walking through these streams of people who are really aggressively trying to get a photo with you. So what do you do? Do you ignore them? Do you waive? Do you stop and take a photo? Okay, sure. Let's say we stop and we take a photo, so now you're in a hallway and there's somebody there with their iphone and KOA. Awesome shirt. Charlene, can I get awesome here? Okay, cool. All right. So can I see on this side this my good side. Sure. Yeah, that's that's no problem. And then what are they do? They look at their phone and they're like a hold on. Hold on. I have to shoot man. I'm on a memory. Hold on delete a couple of photos. In your waiting and they're tapping, and they finally have enough space on their phone. Meanwhile, ten other people are now standing there because they're like, oh, cool. She lean stopped. And now we can get a photo to and you're looking around. I'm just, I'm just exposed. I'll never get to my next spot on time and you're standing there, and then this person wraps their arm around your shoulder and they're smiling, big in there looking off at their friend, hey, dude, you take this picture for me. We picture measly and they hand their phone off to a stranger who's never operated this type of device before. And what do they do? They tap the screen and they're like, oh, dude. Asari just need your password or something like just shut down and the hand back to dude and induce. Oh, sorry. Sorry. Sorry, Charlene. Sorry, Charlene, hold on a second, and then they'd tap a bunch of things on a phone, and then they call that guy back over and they're like pay. Okay. So on this phone, what you wanna do is you press this this yet, you press you press. That Bunn meanwhile, I'm staying there sweating, and I'm having those same feelings that I had that you've had when someone's trying to do something very nice and you don't wanna be rude be like, I really need to go, please let me go. Right. And so it's a strange feeling and then that person would stand over there and they're like, oh, dude. I'm so sorry. I had it on video. Hold on, and then the dude has to take the phone back now. He's got a delete that video because it just took up too much space. Are you with me yet? So now we're talking like it's like it feels like three hours later, but it's a couple of minutes. It's it's at least four or five minutes later. I'm still standing there and now the line of people were like, oh, cool. She'll lean standing here taking photos so we can get photos which are going to help our business or maybe there's like a legitimate fan there, right? There's someone who's like they're looking, they're watching this and they're thinking, wow, there's thousands of people and and I've been watching her videos for all this time and I have a true connection with her. Look, I'm about to meet her and I can see them, right. So I'm standing here taking. This photo with this sweaty guy who's already told me that he doesn't do my workouts, but his his cousins gonna be so excited about this photo and I'm like, dude, really? Okay, fine. So I'm standing here with them. Right? And he's already told me that he doesn't do my workouts and and I can see this girl like often the distance with tears in her eyes. And I know I know what she's experiencing. I know what she's thinking. I've felt that way before, you know, it's like the first time I saw Suzie. Orman I saw from a distance. I was like, what is going on with me? Why am I getting teary eyed? It's because I had, I'd made so many changes in my life from her vice. I knew she didn't know me, but I felt like she did, you know. So I get it and I'm looking at this grow with tears in her eyes. And meanwhile, I'm also having this conversation my head like, please make this guy go away. Please make the stop and he gets us photo. And then now what I do now, I'm going to be late to run to my next event like there are people now in a room waiting for me to get up on stage, but yet this group is formed around you. So now what do I do? Do I pretend I didn't see the girl who's got tears in her eyes who wants to tell me her. Story, right? Would I set what do I do? And so now she comes over and she's like, I have to tell you that last year I found out I breast cancer. I can't run away from that. You kidding me. Oh my gosh. And now what do I do say, oh, I'm so sorry to hear them run like, but I'm late now. Right? And there's another others more people forming, and now she scrambling for her phone to pull it out and take a selfie of us together. And you can imagine this like every single time you leave your hotel room. That's what happens. And it's hard for me to even honestly admit this to people, but I feel like I need to because because it's about this episode, it's it's feeling grateful and gratitude towards others. But the same time, realizing there's gotta be a way to fix this. And so after like the second or third year of doing these events, I finally figured out like, okay, I know what's going on here. It's those iphones. It's the dang phones. That's the problem. Like I want to take pictures with people, but it's the phones that make this almost impossible. I can't imagine what it's like to be a celebrity like a true celebrity. Look at Tom Cruise or a Justin Bieber, or wherever when they go out and public man, they just must get bombarded because now I have. Solution. I have a solution because of constructive complaint, and I think constructive complaint is one of the most important types of complaints. I want you to know that even though you'll hear from me, I needed to be a positive person at your outlook at your attitude that doesn't mean roll over and allow things to continue happening the way they're happening. If there's a potential solution. I mean, there's nothing wrong with trying to creatively solve a problem. Now, there's a difference between what I call constructive complaints and constructive feedback. Constructive feedback is where you're trying to offer a suggestion to someone. You're not complaining though. You're just you're trying to offer a suggestion in such a way that's very constructive. It doesn't hurt, and it's very similar to a constructive complaint. You're not complaining to denigrate. You're not complaining just to complain. You're complaining because I know there's a solution here and I need for people to understand what this feels like so that we can find a solution that solves the problem. Not just for me, but for everybody else. A constructive complaint is one that's directed to the right people. And the difference between a denigrating complaint and a constructive complaint is your intentions. A constructive complaint is one where you're, you're just trying to make things easier for everyone. It's not to bring anyone down. It's not the complaint just to complain. It's a complaint with the hope with the belief that you have a solution, and here's the cornerstone of a constructive complaint. You must you. Yourself must have the solution and propose it at least one of the solutions. Here's another example of a constructive complaint. One of my favorite stores, it's little boutique right around the corner. And I, I love these very silky, beautiful blouses, but they're not silk. I can't. I don't even know what material they're made out of, but they don't show sweat. And that's kind of important because sometimes when I'm on stage or even when I'm on video, especially on video, you have like all of these lights on you. To, you know, like light the set and it's so hot, and then they have to turn off the air because you can hear the air on the microphone. So you just like, oh sweating profusely. So I have to find these very like, nice blouses that aren't gonna show like big pits of sweat under my arms. And there's this boutique around the corner with eight. They happen to carry a couple of the lines that I love, and they had these big, thick slippery wooden hangars. And every time I just like, oh. That the sound effect making to like move blouses across the rack while I'm looking at them. Well, every time you touch a hanger. Guess what happens ladies? You know, the answer the and blouse falls off the hanger and on the floor. And then like. Pig up bend over at pig up the blouse I got put the blouse back on the wooden hangar, but I don't know how to do very well. So it slips right back off. And so now I'm like five minutes, like trying to hang up a dumb blouse. Right. And I'm just trying to figure out what size it is. So I always go to the ladies at the front. I'm like, ladies. I know this would make your life so much easier. And I think you have so much more room to if you would maybe consider getting huckabee'll hangers. They make them in this nude color. That kind of looks like would they're very classy. Your blouses would stick to them. You'd have more room and I bet it would be far less work for all the sales associates, because I assume you guys are like constantly following behind customers re hanging these beautiful garments and then a garments wouldn't get damaged. So what do you say? What do you say? We trust some Hogle hangers. I'll buy them for you. That complaint that constructive complaint is intended to make life easier for them. And for me, have we resolved at my favorite boutique? No, we have not, but have. Resolve the issue at summit? Yes. And here's what I'm going to tell you. This is why it's important to frame a constructive complaint. So here's what I did. I went to the management beach body, and I said, here's what happens. I know happens all the other trainers. I know it happens to the top coaches. I know it happens to the beach body executives. What if we assigned one photographer to every trainer? And then every time we left our room when there was a swarm of people, we could just go sure there's the cameraman and then we could just quickly pose and then go the next race and impose impose impose an everybody knew that they could go to one website and see all of those photos. Now, it's awesome problem solved. Now I'm not standing there waiting for somebody to delete data author phone and I can get to thousands literally thousands more people. I don't feel like a jerk walking away from people. They don't feel embarrassed because it takes five minutes to feel where the phone is in the bottom of their purse. The photos are beautiful. They're really well lit and they're taken by a professional photographer, and they don't have to. Pay for them and you and I both know if you can see him on a website. You can just screen shot at and it's on your phone anyways, like back in the day, people would like, but I wanted on my phone, but it's like, yeah, you can get it on your phone. Hello? I don't know if you know this, but you can screen shot something if it's on the internet, it's on your phone. Dude, problem solved. That is the perfect type of complaint. That's a type of complaining that I think is very useful, but it's very important that your delivery is thoughtful. Well researched. It is solution based its kind and you deliver it without emotion, because if you have too much emotion tied to it, people feel like you are attacking them even if you have a solution. Now, the next of complaint is what I call a therapeutic complaint. A therapeutic complaint is also really important. There appear to complaints complaints that you never, you really don't even mean what you're saying. You're just kind of trying to make sense of while you're frustrated. There are Puta complaints can be Dana. Juris. However, if you're doing it with the wrong person, can I tell you the best person in the world to use for therapeutic complaint? Well, maybe it's out of this world. The best is God. I mean, God is there for you to hear your complaints and he's okay with you being frustrated, he will help you sort these things out, but for those of you, sometimes you need something more than that. You sometimes use actually need to hear your own voice and have somebody else, nod and laugh and just know that you're just getting it off your chest like that is so awesome. And for those of you who you don't have a sibling like you don't have a blood sibling, I hope you have someone who feels like your sister or they feel like your brother like you've got that level of trust like you so understand each other, you so get each other like, you don't even have to apologize. You don't even have to say, you know, I don't mean this, right? Like that's the kind of that's the only kind of person you should be doing therapeutic complaint with. You know it safe, you know. No, they know you just venting like I'm a boss right look. So I've employee's and I want them to know you should complain about me to your spouse. I don't want you to complain about me to your co workers because that could undermine b.'s seen as gossip, etc. But I think we all like we all get frustrated sometimes and it might not always even we might not even be sure like why we're frustrated, but therapeutic complaint can help us sort out where our head is in what it is we're frustrated about and it can help us to relieve stress. It can help us know that there's someone out there who completely understands. Here's an example of therapeutic complain. It's when my best girlfriend called me last week to tell me. I don't know why he brushes his teeth for like twenty minutes, and then he sloshes and then he goggles and then he Flosse's his teeth and she'll lean. Then he brushes his teeth again, it's so loud and he knows this drives me crazy. It drives me crazy. I know that that is just therapeutic complaint like some of your, like what someone really is complaining about someone their oral hygiene, but I get it like, she's, she loves her husband. Would she ever say that publicly? No, because that would be cruel. That would be a denigrating complaint. Which you say it to her husband? No, because she's not really looking for a constructive way to solve this. She's just trying to figure out like just having somebody understand that it's that sound. It's just it's just, you know, it's part of being married, and luckily she knows that that secret is safe with me. Well, at least it wasn't till today until I told, oh, I don't know all of you, sorry. But I didn't tell you who told me that. Right? So secret is still safe with me. There were two complaints are the kind of thing where you can call up your sister and you can be like, oh my God. Mom is driving me Friday, but you couldn't say that to your dad because he might say it to your mom, and you don't really mean that you really love your mom, but you just it's nice to have someone who you can trust in. You can get it off your chest. They know that your intentions are not cruel as just to blow off some steam and kind of make sense of it. Here's how you know that what you're doing is is safe and it's okay. I think to blow off that kind of steam, and that is when you finish any type of therapeutic complaint with just a moment of gratitude. So let's go back to that. Girlfriend of mine who called me to like, tell me how much your husband was driving bonkers with her his oral hygiene. She also said, However, I do have to say he is kicking, but right now in helping me with our business and I just I don't even know how ended up with the guy like this. You so awesome. And I don't even know how we can put up with me. Like so that conversation ended with a ton of gratitude. I hope you have someone in your life who you can engage in this kind of therapeutic complaint, but don't kid yourself if it's gossip. If you're truly complaining in hopes that they will send that message back to someone else. I think that's denigrating complaining and it's dangerous and it's malicious, and it's meant to punish or belittle or to hurt, or to undermine someone and and don't don't kid yourself if that's what you're doing. That's not their acute complaint. There are Puteh complaint. You just are expecting that to go nowhere. It's it's almost the equivalent of complaining into your pillow is just to help you feel better. It's it's, you know, it's punching the mattress just to help you get it off your chest and let go. The last and the most dangerous type of complainer is someone who is what I call a denigrating complainer or chronic complainer and denigrating complaints are complaints. We make to make ourselves feel better. They serve no purpose. We're not looking for a solution other than to point out the shortcomings of others and to bring them down to feel better for the moment about Foltz which supposedly we do not have. Now, you know a chronic complainer. Sometimes they're complaining about everything including themselves, not only are they not looking for a solution? If you suggest a solution, they don't wanna hear it. They really just want to complain. They just wanna bring everybody else down. Now, listen, I'm no angel and neither are you. We've had those days where we just be like complaining, be have to be very careful because it is contagious and it will not only affect you. It'll infect the people around you. So be able to identify those people who are chronic complainers, you'll know who they are because their complaints are just meant to denigrate. They're just meant to make people feel less than and to be little. Then they're not looking for a solution. They're just willing to put up with what's going on, but they wanna put that person down. You know, it's funny. The first thing I thought of when thinking about an example for this is one that maybe some of you are familiar with the show dance moms shouldn't even watch the show because I, I know it's all phony. I hope it is because if it's not every one of those little girls is going to need therapy count on it. I mean, everyone needs therapy anyways, but those little girls, the public should take up a general fund for them on this show. They're subjected to just the cruelest in meanest of comments from Abby Lee Miller, the dance teacher. But when I think about the denigrating complaints, the denigrating complaints come from the moms who sit up above the dance studio. Oh, and they watched through plexiglas their daughters down blow dancing and practicing for an upcoming recital, a rehearsal or competition. And they watch as Abby Miller just rips their daughters apart in each episode ends, or at least at some point is a crescendo where one of the little girls is crying hysterically because Abby is just ripped her a new one and told her about how cruel the world is and what a favor she's doing to them by exposing them to all the eagles now before they ever hit Broadway. And then the mom Russia's down into the room and says, we're leaving the studio. We pay good money and they freak out and then they leave. And then then the moms all come back together and they engage in what I call denigrating complaints. They start putting Abby down and talking about her size and her weight and how horrible she is. And when awful person she is, they're just complaining to put her down and they're doing that because they feel bad about themselves. They feel bad about themselves because they. Should because all they're doing is exposing their daughters to this horrible demoralizing debilitating belittling behavior from an adult woman, and they just keep exposing their daughters to this. Why? Maybe? Because the shows on TV, maybe because they want their daughters to be famous dancers, maybe because they are defining themselves through their daughters abilities. I don't know, but I know they don't feel good about themselves. I know they're not looking for a solution and it's very apparent because their complaints are just meant to be little and to denigrate the aren't solve the problem because the problem is only solved by being a mom who really cares and scooping your kid up out of that situation. I'm sure I will hear from one of the dance moms from this commentary and I hope I do because I really do think they are doing an incredible disservice to their children, and no one will be able to know that or answer that question until those young women are adults because. Everybody says this about kids. Oh, they're so resilient. They love it the of the debt. Well, let's talk to them when they're twenty something and they're reflecting on how they feel about themselves after this experience. Wow. Did I digress? But it was just the only example that I can think of where perhaps you've seen it the other place where if you're not watching that show any reality TV show, there's tons of this denigrating complaining where there's not a solution intended. I mean, there's exceptions, but in most cases, the characters who we've come to love are the ones who are gossiping. The ones who are stirring the pot, the ones who are causing problems just because they want to make themselves feel better or create a plotline to stay on the show. Now, maybe I'm a hypocrite is I love reality TV, but I love all kinds of reality. TV you know, it's like a really crazy fund one lately have been watching naked and afraid like maybe because I cannot imagine ever going on a show like that. Oh, MG. I can't believe people do that. So they, they dropped them off in the middle of like terribly dangerous wilderness like the rainforests and they dropped them off with a stranger and they have to survive thirty days naked. I am way too modest for that kind of thing. First thing I would be doing, I would not be looking for food would not be looking for shelter. I would not be trying to start a fire. I would be trying to make myself a halter top and a miniskirt from leaves because I cannot be run around naked for thirty days. No, thank you. That's an interesting show to watch though. There's not a lot of complaining. There's a lot of complaining, but there's not a lot of gossiping that's happening on that show. They're trying to solve problems. They're trying to stay alive for thirty days terribly fascinating, but let's get back to the type of complaining. That's denigrating you know it is because that person is they will accident-free revealed to you that they don't like themselves. This person is constantly complaining, constantly finding fault with others and they don't wanna hear solutions. My goal is always to offer solutions possible ways that we can make ourselves better in. I mean, we're human. So sometimes it's very tempting. Thing to listen to somebody else complain just to complain, especially when it's someone who maybe you're jealous or maybe you don't have fund feelings for. So it's almost therapeutic or you've you feel a little better just by listening to someone else complain or gossip. But yet yet that feeling afterwards, like almost like you need to take a shower or you're looking around to see if maybe somebody was recording it like you just feel guilty. And the reason why you feel guilty is because you knew what was wrong pastor Rick Warren in his book, the purpose driven life says this listening to gossip is like accepting stolen property. It makes you just as guilty of the crime. Whoa, that's hard core. We've all been there though, where you know you you've been, you've made it okay for someone to just complain, and it really isn't a complaint. It's it's just gossip. So how do you handle that? How do you become the person who others don't feel okay to gossip too. And. I think that's a pretty cool thing. Like a lot of times he'll say, oh, you didn't know that about so. And so and I always feel like a little bit proud that I don't know the gossip that everybody else knows. I'm like, no, I don't know that because people don't gossip to me because I don't make it okay to gossip to me. I hope I have relationships with people where they feel a level of trust that they can do some therapeutic complaining, but gossiping. That's just never. Okay. So how do you respond when someone wants to complain? And there's no solution, they just wanna complain about someone. How do you respond to that? We can use specific phrases. Here's here's a couple that I think it just like immediately turns the tide. So you don't make the other person feel like you think you're better than them, but you can just, you can give them the message that I'm not comfortable with this and you can say exactly that, oh, I just don't feel comfortable talking about this or sharing these details about this person. Have you talked to them? I think I think you should probably talk to them so you can redirect it. And at the same time. Tell them I'm not comfortable with this. You could also suggest that you take the other side of the stories they well actually defend that pursue. Well, you've got to try to see it from their side. If you do that, you don't even have to say uncomfortable with this conversation because a chronic complainer isn't looking for somebody who wants to explain the other side of the story. They don't see it and they don't wanna hear from anyone who does in another way. You can turn that around is just by when someone starts to complain about something else. You can say, I don't wanna talk about that. Tell me what's going on with you. I want to end today show with a challenge because this lean show is all about it's growth. It's growth. That helps me. I hope it's growth. I know it's growth that helps you because you've been telling me it helps you. Thank you on that note for leaving me your reviews when you go to, I tunes or back to Stitcher and you write a review for the show. That's how I know. That's how I know it's working. That's how I measure my progress. And that's how I, that's how I get the motivation to continue to make these shows. So I want I want to give all of us a challenge. I'm going to take this to. I want you to think about the last time you said something. You complained about someone in such a way that it. It wasn't meant to just be therapeutic, and it wasn't intended to really find a solution. It was. It was just basically gossip. You were just complaining about someone to make them seem smaller or to be little them or or maybe just to make yourself feel better, like you. You had this piece of information or you wanted to complain just to complain about the last time you did that in less your an angel. None of us are perfect. We do these things with most important is that we try to fix ourselves. We try to grow. I can think back on a time recently when I did this and I feel bad about it. So here's my challenge. I challenge you to reach out to the person who you complained to and explain yourself and explain how wrong it was of you to do that. It just own it. I don't know why I complained in that way about that individual. It was wrong. It was gossip. I shouldn't have done it. I went should've gone directly to them or tried to find a solution, and it's been bothering me ever since I have this little bit of shame guilt associated with it because I want to be better than that. So please erase that from the tapes of your memory and please know that I'm not that kind of individual and accept my apology and know that I am looking for a solution, and I'm going to find a solution by working directly with that person. I'm not wanting to gossip and I shouldn't have complained about that person to you. That's my challenge. I'm going to do it. I'm going to finish recording this podcast. I'm going to send that to.

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John Dies at the Trend 6/26: The Office, NBA, Kanye West x GAP, McGangBang

The Daily Zeitgeist

16:37 min | 8 months ago

John Dies at the Trend 6/26: The Office, NBA, Kanye West x GAP, McGangBang

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That's mild dray that Short show title is referenced to. David, Wong Book John Dies. And and it is, it was suggested. By is Laos. So said they were just reading the book and think the second. Book is extra. Applicable during the. Shot up two. Miles. How are Ya great fantastic? Never stronger wonderful. You are flexing to the point that you're. You're shaking, yeah! Headache. Trying to get these triceps man trying to get through a horseshoe on the back of this thing you know what I mean. So what you want. You want you know they say man when I'm when I'm working out to my toxic man tapes. They tell you by surfer, the ladies, but the tries for the guys. And I. Don't know that that means. To out of respect, or they're attracted to. It I'm still think. Tony Horton is still trying to figure out what he means by that in the P Ninety X. For the guys, guys are impressed, because you're like yeah man, because like everybody can work the biceps. You guys know you know what I mean, and then we're like you know, but when we say that all on the low. Maybe I, you know dealing with some stuff that I. It's weird. Acknowledge the triceps. Anyway, welcome to. X.. Let's tell the people what's trending. The, office is Trendy. Deleted their black. Boy Yeah I mean. We're talking about this earlier this week. You know. The office was a very. It was one of those shows that did kind of like what the Democratic Party likes to do it like. Yeah, see, that's not good and then not really go much deeper than that, and at the time. That was like sort of you know it was. It was a fun way to sort of address. The like big racist elephant in the room. And now we're kind of. It's interesting. 'cause like yeah. The show has such a different tone where like now I feel like most people wouldn't just like look at camera awkwardly. If your boss Races Shit, you'd be like well. Hold the Michael Scott to sit the. My good friend The the since might just still look at the camera. And he's GonNa, be like. He's like he's like. It can't stereotype if it's true. He's like affirmative action. Is Racism Against White people also? Jim The yet, so Greg Daniels Creator co-creator, because it's really a Ricky Gervais Stephen Merchant joint. Talked about an episode from two thousand twelve where Dwight shows up as you know this one of these. Pennsylvania Dutch folklore characters called belshaw nickel, and he's like he's like yes, in you normally shows up with a like a character named Black Pete and they're talking about like. Oh, it's black face, or whatever, and that's not good, and you see Dwight text, somebody and they they do like a smash cut to someone about to walk into the building and black face, and they get a text and they do a u-turn. And then you see that character later in the episode, and like they've clearly like sort of a very quickly smeared off their black face, so there's like remnants of it, and that's the extent of that reference, but they completely took that out. And you know by Greg Daniels was saying this very sorry. It's completely like unacceptable, even like in a satire, sorry. And that was about it, but. I don't know I mean like we were talking about this yesterday of, is it? You know. Is it really because you think it's unacceptable or you just don't want to. Really you want to get ahead of being called out about it, so it's better to be proactive and do it but yeah I. Mean Take a look at anything now. Sure there's plenty of things that need to be reedited, but I think really I would love to also see Greg Daniels, say and yes, because of this I'm going to be I to. Be As showrunner. Put together a show that's empowering like black creators, or you know not the usual American looking type of show 'cause that would be something he could do with his tremendous power where there were enough black people on the staff that we never would have made that joke in the first place. Yeah, are known better. Yeah! and they felt empowered enough to speak. There's a lot of traditions around the world. I think there's a Santa Claus character that. is in black face and all there's so many Dutch and like in Holland. They have like a despicable blacks black-faced character. They still do because that was kind of the referee office episode. Right? Yeah, I wonder if they're going to reckon with that. Tampa, Bay Tampa has a a festival once a year where people dress up like pirates and put Brown stuff on their face So that's something to Maybe keep an eye on. Guys yeah. NBA Speaking of Florida Sixteen NBA players tested positive for covid nineteen ahead of the kind of mass testing of everybody who is planning to participate in the virus bubble playoffs that they're going to do down in Orlando They are going to give video game, so that's pretty cool. Oh okay, yeah tape! But it's I. Don't know so so the the players are going to be quarantined for fourteen days before you know, do all the things before they're able to come into contact with anybody I get a an increasingly queasy feeling about the this NBA plan, and I feel like they're going to have the good sense to call it off before before it starts is my. Hope Yeah! It's just a I mean. I get. The the desire of the athletes you know because it's like the yeah, you've truly have like a one focus lifestyle when you an athlete like I can't think of. The Renan's I've how professional athletes as like in their prime or as parents they just seem like it's hard to go from your life being about one thing for a really long time in everything you do is in service of how you're going to perform this one thing But at the same time you know you see just how much the owners and people know they're just looking at all the money that is being missed and saying like isn't worth trying. Maybe even if we can make it safe, and you just wish they could. Just you know say this isn't. It's not worth it at all like if one person passes away whether that's someone has to do with the League or in the facilities that's been a failure complete failure. Yeah, I'm also I'm just sour. Because you know. Also soccer came back in England and my team Arsenal just making a joke of themselves. Disease canceled. This now do the players see one thing that I'm curious about? If NBA does actually come back. Is that like? Will the players besides Lebron? Who will always be an incredible Almost bionic shape will the players like be in shape? Have the players in in England and shape? We have like nine thousand injuries in like the first ten minutes of our first game back. It was like it was. It was like like i. told you that Simpson's scene were. homer goes out of back of the ambulance and falls down a cliff on a Gurney like it was that comical. It seemed like a lot of people when officially teams came back to have people start training. It was it was nice to see that some of the athletes they're just like us and they also stress. Despite being like. A million dollar you know athletic vehicles. Man I have. I've been trying to lose the covid fifteen that I gained. From quarantining and stress eating. And eating. An entire pint half of ice cream in one city. and. It's not fun. What's your type? Eat, ice cream like that. Are you like MIT hydrated? And that's what I'm eating ice cream. Because I think there are times when I'm. I know I'm like I'm on I'm on pace to be like I will finish this of ice cream. If someone does not come in and take this out of my hand I'll just Ryan. Yeah. Michael You I'll drink water before to be like. Maybe I'm just dehydrated, and then I'll. My Body will be I don't actually need this ice cream I'll drink a huge glass of water and I'm like yeah, I'm just GONNA. Keep going. It's going to keep it. Keep going. Yeah, yeah, that's a good idea. I will I will do that next time hydrant. I mean if you still want ice cream, then that means you deserve it. But Hydrate I. Is. Jenny's problematic Jenny's is. Tied to the Biden campaign in some way I know been. Is this point it's like? You can't win with anything half the time. Because then something is up by like Boeing or Raytheon and next thing you know like. Your Kid! Yeah, you're. Teething toys are also like parts of like Predator drones that were discontinued or some shit. Kung gap is trending, so I don't know what this is. He signed a ten year deal with the GAP, the gap clothing company to bring oversized. Over died crew neck sweatshirts to the masses, so he is basically yeah it. Is yeezy season at the gap? And the gap stock couldn't be happier. The the the shares went up thirty nine percent. Just necessarily of that incredible for them, isn't it? Like? Why would he do that I don't know I. Mean maybe because it's fast fashion, they can make a lot of clothing cheaply and exploit that Labor as they do it i. don't know I mean it i. have a feeling just because they're so massive. It's the scale that the gap offers versus anything. Could, just flood the zone with t shirts and things that just happened to have bigger sleeves. So that's what he's saying is going to be modern. Elevated basics sold at accessible price points unlike all the other yeezy season Shit. That was like you WanNa. Pay Four hundred dollars for sweatpants that look like they're know. Bill Pal Bill Belichick had diarrhea. He will continue to sell the overpriced of home a guessing right. This is just like in addition to if he's yeah, I mean if he's like the. I don't even know what he is anymore. Sure. I think you'd think so because. This was all driven by his desire to. Conquer the world of high fashion which he says yes, I did that so in your face Virgil Abloh, but I. don't know what. Yeah. I don't know if maybe he's just like realizing. It's like it's such a bad look like luxury fashion right now is such a bad look if you're trying to look like anyone connected to. What the? Actual world is like Yeah, maybe that makes sense but I. don't know we'll. What happens is the only details that have come out like we don't know anything about numbers money what have you, but we just know ten years the gap and Kanye West, which is funny, because he rapped about them in college dropout. I feel like that was his original I was just thinking about that? For some reason that that was his original aesthetic was like gap J. crew like Kinda Pray Shit. Finally McCain Bang is trending a youtube. Influence her yeah. Did recreated. One and people are just a younger generation is just finding out about it all whites I'm like what are these kids going on about? Yeah. I, I think her name is weedy and. Yeah people are just figuring out what it is I feel like we should do. PODCASTS are trying to figure this like youth should. Sal We'd. Enough that it's embarrassing. We don't know anything about it. But also, so far away that it makes sense to I don't, and it's so we'd Dad. I don't know you were. You're saying that they did a thing with these tech Tucker's. A younger she's young and they'd never heard any of like the iconic songs from new. Yeah, like say my name. They just complete like that when I saw that I was like. Oh, we! We're really now. I know who's beyond well. Also I realized that was I've always known obviously millennial influence is waning in terms of like being at the cutting edge of what youth culture's been like that for some time, but now like when I see videos of like data I'm like. Oh, no, like we're we. We no longer make the culture like that's not. When young kids are like I? Don't know I don't know what you old people think. This is because it's not sacred to us, and now we are the focus of like these social media platforms. I'm like okay cool. I'm just GonNa fade the back and can fully be an old head but if you don't know what McCain Bang. Is You first? Order a double thing you order a hot and spicy mcchicken. And, then you combine the two you just split the to Burger Patties, and then stick the mcchicken in between right. And it's gone. Levels it's the I'm watching her livestream video that she did. She's adding fries. She's really doing something you know. Over the top with it, I mean I mean also combining three sandwiches and McDonald's. Currently over the top, but The takes on twitter. It feels like. Old The millennials. Starting to ramp believe you know they'll gang bang Gaza. I'm looking at you like man. These kids really to know what Gang Bang was just because we didn't like look. Everybody were just accept that we're old ambrose. We thought by this point. We wouldn't be so broke, but we are old and broke. And that's just what it is right now. Is correct that also because I'm in the process of Trente six. My Diet up a little bit that like watching somebody, eat and Mak- making bearing really. Is Giving me. Hunger pains. Literally, WATERING CLOSE THE WINDOW MAGNUM! Mess your microphone. anyways that is going to do it for the week. Thank you guys for listening. We hope everyone well. Wash your hands. Wear masks. He kind to yourself. Be kind to each other. Don't do nothing and we'll be back on Monday. We'll talk to. By.

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Episode 61 From ZZ Top to Don Henley the Man Who Recorded Them Way Back When Robin Hood Brians

Texas Titans Podcast

1:01:46 hr | 4 months ago

Episode 61 From ZZ Top to Don Henley the Man Who Recorded Them Way Back When Robin Hood Brians

"I'm Jason, right? And this is the Texas Titans podcast where I sit down with Peak performers from all walks of life looking for their secrets to success. I hope you enjoyed a conversation here on the Texas Titans podcast. Hey folks, I got stuff like I tell you about so if you know anything about me at all, you know, that the closest thing I have to a hobby is fitness and exercise. I know I get I get made fun of quad be tomorrow is I'm a Peloton and if I'm not on my Peloton, I'm probably talking about my latest workout craze or whatever. I'm doing. It's just again, it's how I keep my head straight. It's the again. It's a closest thing. I have to a hobby that and podcasting and riding and doing all this stuff. And so with that means I need a good sound pair of athletic shoes and I have found dead Life Changers the shoes that I wear now from zero are phenomenal. That's x e r o. This is a cool company. It's an incredible shoe. They are my new favorites. They're worn by Tony Horton. That's another thing. I've been a P90X or four gosh over a decade now and so pretty much if Tony Horton does it? I think it's probably a good idea and Tony Horton. Where's I'm so that's where I think I first saw them. I did something wrong. Don't have found out about him. And now guess what zero shoes are the official athletic shoe of the Texas Titans podcast. So I want you to go check them out at zero title. That's xero Titan like Texas Titans get it. So check it out the official athletic site issue of the Texas Titans podcast Jason right there. What's keeping my dog safe and keeping me performing. Well, even though I'm an old fart. I still gotta stay out there and stay young and I'm doing it in my zero shoes. Check Em Out cool company great entrepreneur story. You'll like them thanks folks. Hey folks today is a it's an incredible story. It's a it's it's one of my favorite podcast episodes that I've done today because for a couple of reasons one Robin Hood Bryant is one of my he's just just a sweet sweet dear Soul. He's a good man and let me tell you something. He's a Texas Titan BY all accounts and many of you. I know you've never heard of Robin Hood Brian. Guess what whenever you find out the records that he's produced the career. He has had you're going to be kind of Blown Away that in this little Studio page that you would mistaken for for a small frame house. Every time you drive by it in Tyler, Texas, you would never know that the likes of ZZ Top recorded there, but they have and so let me tell you a little bit about Robin Hood, but before I do, I've also got to mention one thing as I record this my brother from another mother Robin Hood is in the hospital with covid-19. He's eighty-one years old. He's had pneumonia as a result of this or or contracted pneumonia during the process and and I'm going to get him this podcast episode. I was actually going to wait to prove that. He was editing some film for me because we actually filmed this and and he's kind of he's mentoring me along and how to get better at audio and video and all of this because that's been his will house for all these years, but he's in the hospital right now with covet so I would ask that you please remember him in your prayers and Robin Hood if you're listening to this, I I love you ma'am. Thank you for your friendship. Thank you for doing this episode. I'm so proud of you. I'm so proud to call you friend. And anyway, you got to get better man, cuz we got more work to do. We got a lot a lot of work to do. So with that. Sorry folks a little emotional opening there. But here here's who Robin Hood is Robin Hood Brian's was involved in music from the tender age of five. His first performances were in Corsicana, Texas on the Lions Club. Friday show his voice instructor was a line tremble. I hope I'm pronouncing that right. It's either, you know, it's probably Aileen Aileen tremble his godmother. Yeah that makes more sense than a line who laid moved to Dallas and became a lean bird. She was very active in the music circles in Dallas including Symphony and Opera Robin had a quartet in junior high called The Four Roses the song teacher mrs. D'Amato sometimes accompany them in which case they were booked as the four roses and a v that's original in high school Robin Hood had a trio consisting of different members including Ronny Palmer Steve Crowe. Wilmoth and John bass After High School. He formed a band called Robin Hood and his merry men that played dances and shows throughout the tri-state area in nineteen fifty-seven. He recorded one of his compositions on fraternity records called disa Eddie bit. Well while it was not a national hit it inspired Robin Hood song. To build a portable console and begin recording records for himself and other artists in East to end. Eh, Texas area. His first console was designed and built in around nineteen sixty by Robin with the assistance of Robbie Morgan. Who was the then chief engineer of radio station k d okay, it has 10 inputs with high and low EQ on a channel as well as Echo sent as acos in on each Mike Channel. He was flat from 20 to 20,000 cycles and had not a drop of distortion. That was a hot board for 1960. It was the first board for Robin Hood Studios, the current Robin Hood Studios was built in nineteen sixty three and a list of this folks is awesome. And we talked about this in The Office cast in what had been the backyard of Bob and archery Brian's Residence at 1024 West 10th Street in Tyler, Texas. He was officially named Brian Studios, however, however wage Everyone called it Robin Hood Studios, the name was soon officially changed since the house was on a corner lot the entrance of the studio was at 2200 Sunnybrook Drive. It was finished in July of nineteen sixty three four months. Later. Bob. Ryan's died. Suddenly leaving his son Robin Hood Brian's as the head of the household his mother Audrey Brian's known to all the clients and musicians as mrs. Be booked the sessions and helped her son's fledgling business Thrive. She died in Nineteen Ninety Six Robin Hood had built a clientele a small record labels recording square dance records local rock and Country levels like Thai tax and custom records as well as artists from Louisiana, Arkansas, Oklahoma and Texas the first Billboard hits for Robin Hood Studios came from a major regional labels in Dallas and Shreveport. They produce Mountain of Love by David Houston on Epic Records. Houston was produced by Tillman Franks who had produced Johnny Horton and was in the wreck, which killed off. The first pop billboard hit was produced by Dale Susie Q Hawkins. He was by the unique featuring Joe Stampley and was entitled not too long ago Robin Hood recording several albums by the uniques for Paula records platinum albums by ZZ Top originally released on London records and later re-released under the Warner Brothers label the five Americans and John and Robin and the In Crowd for a BNA K records of Dallas as well as Regional hits from many other artists including Mouse and The Traps Gladstone Southwest f o b country hits followed by Nat Stuckey Tom Douglas and many other Regional artists. Folks this is a cool interview by one of the coolest cats I've ever met in my entire life. I mean think about it ZZ Top Four albums right there in Tyler, Texas Project Sunnybrook Drive in a little Studio that was constructed by Robin Hood and his dad back in nineteen sixty-three. It's unbelievable you walk in and like where I'm doing this interview whenever you listen to it, of course, I'm recording this intro long after it's like it's like stepping back in time. It's like something you would see on a movie about Elvis and The Beatles and Jerry Lee Lewis. I mean, it's right. It's so cool. Robin Hood is so cool. And I'm sorry for the long rambling intro but this was a really really special podcast interview for me. So I hope you enjoy it just a fraction as much as I am because even if I can get you that much I know it'll be a good show for you. So with that enjoy listening to the story of my friend my brother and my soon-to-be well back in the studio Rob. And Hood Brian's. Thank you folks. Robin Hood, yeah that okay. So first of all anyone that listens to the podcast right now, they're going to know that my biggest weakness amongst many others I have is my life ability to do audio and my technical sales skills are terrible, but they keep listening anyway, and here I am in your studio a professional sound technician engineer and with a living legend at least in my own mind and you just finished reading on a $16,000 Mike. So I mean, yeah, it's a yeah, it's a little bigger than my little there you go. Thank you so much for being here. Hey, it's great to see you be with you. Well, okay. The first thing I want to talk about is where we are sitting because you blew my mind a little bit whenever I was in here the last time whenever you told me that off this studio has been here for forty seven years ZZ Top was they were one of the first but one of the biggest this studio was built my father and mother and I built every Everything here, except the haydite blocks. We poured the foundation. Once the blocks were laid. We did all the flooring and all the roofing and the everything Plumbing electrical. So this was a family project and I've finished in July of 1963 and my father died suddenly and unexpectedly four months later. So this studio became a Lifeboat out for me and for my mother well and it was actually connected to know. Yeah just walk out of the kitchen and right into the den and so I guess that you know, you coronavirus or not. You kind of you don't need a telecommuter for before it was cool. Well, you know recording sessions we we don't have a sign out on the street. We don't normally do tours. So, you know, it's just it's just basically the people who are doing the recording right now. I'm about to finish a project on Mouse and The Traps how cool this was a group one of the first groups. I recorded back in the sixties now sounded song. Like Dylan that the stories told a guy named Jimmy rabbit who used to be Dale Payne when he was on ktok here in Tyler Eddie Payne. I think he called him home. He was on on the radio klif in Dallas playing Mouse's first record called a public execution. Well, the the Columbia distribution guy was driving in from Texas and he stopped this has many years before cellphones and he got on a pay phone. He called him on the ad said two questions said first of all, how did you get a Dylan record without me knowing about it and second. Why are you calling Mouse rabbit said no. No, that's not Dylan. That's a guy named Ronnie Weiss from Tyler, Texas. So since he sounded so much like Mouse, I mean like Dylan and he did Dylan better than Dylan. Does it most of the time we've done fourteen Dylan songs, and we can't wait to get it. Just going to be called Walking In Dylan's shoes. Oh, wow. Can't wait to get it out. Well authors. So and and I to be honest with you Robin Hood, it's hard even know where to begin because your career has I mean and that's the thing to you talk about. There's no sign out front. What's interesting is how many dead rats and people visiting Tyler have driven by your studio and have absolutely no idea right that they that they've just what they've driven by but take me back to where it all started. How did this become a passion and it's just kind of carry it Forward. Well, I took nine years of classical piano lessons or as I've said before I ran from nine years of class. I just wasn't into it. So when I was in the ninth grade, I told my mother and dad I said you can whip me you can beat me you can ground me. I'm not going back and they said well if you're not going to practice we won't spend the money off, so I quit piano. Middle way through the ninth grade. Well when I was a senior in high school, Jerry Lee Lewis put out a song called Whole Lotta Shakin and I heard that I said, that's it. That's the way piano to be played off. So I sat down and worked on it and I learned how to play that and some of his other stuff and then I wrote a song called disinhibit. I laughed tell some friends off. My son was banned in several towns for the lyric of the last verse going to see my baby tonight again this time. It'll be half past ten. She said when you get here, you better be wage because it about 11 8:00 all you'll get they banned me in about 10 or 15 cities for that lyric, but it was on fraternity records and that got me started and I got to record in Nashville at the famous Owen Bradley Studios, and it was the original one that's downstairs. It was in the basement of a house. They tore out the the the floor in the living room and dining room so that would happen. Tall ceilings and they put a little booth in the corner for for the recorders and that little that little fire under me. So I came back and I started getting some portable equipment and recording in there and then I realized I had to have a mixture. So one friend of mine helped me build one, but it didn't last long. It was solid state and solid state hadn't come along that that well back in and then Roby Morgan who was the chief engineer ktok help me design and build this one and it's the one I started with and kept for about six or seven years. And at first I was recording square dance records and a few local little groups. Mrs. Anton here at Anton's Record Shop had a label recorded some stuff for her. Then I start attracting, you know larger groups a guide him that Stuckey from Shreveport. He great songwriter. He wrote Pop a Top Again. Oh, yeah, and then he wrote I got hungry for your love. Now. I'm waiting in your welfare line just a and had a wonderful voice and he was a great writer. I got to cut a thing on David Houston that gave him his contract with Epic Records and then other groups rock group started coming and then I built up a pretty steady business based on in Shreveport. I had Jewel Paula records They had several artists Joe Stampley in the uniques John Freddy's play boy band. They had some blues artists and and other rock artists and Thursday in Dallas. There was a panic records They had the five Americans and John and Robin and the In Crowd and later on my Craven so I had those two steady and then other group home. Already come in and then Along Came ZZ Top. Wow and funny thing about them when they first came to record their name was the moving sidewalk and a lot of people heard about that bass. And and the second time they came back. They said we've changed our name. We're now going to be call ZZ Top now. Do you understand where that name? Came have no clue. Well there till this day that they laugh and say, oh, we don't know. I'll just give you a hint back in those days. There were two wrapping papers that were used by hippies for wrapping their joints one was called zig zag and the other was top off. Yeah, so I don't know they claim it maybe after ZZ Hill or whatever. But anyway, and you know the recording business it said it's hard. It's a hard grind a lot of hours. There were some weeks that I only slept twice during the week maybe five hours one night and two or three nights later. I'd get three or four years. Sleep and it was tough. It was rough. And then Along Came the I guess you'd call it acid rock age. And at that time I had to go working with me named Randy Fouts talented piano player or arranger composer and we just decided we wanted to try to get into something else. And so we got our first gigs in Dallas on a commercial it was Tracy Locke was pitching the doctor Pepper account. So we did that and from that came a vast business and I made more money actual commercials. We we created the original Chili's baby back ribs campaign. Yeah, we work for Frito-Lay for Borden. Our kids had a wonderful college fund singing board an ice cream anything in the world. Our daughter tells the story that she was in school. She's in the box of fifth grade or something. She had her birth. On her desk and teacher said you feel all right. She said look I'm says I'm just tired. I had a recording session until 11:30 last night. She looked said what? Yeah, my Daddy has a studio and we we bought a commercial and she's why does he start the session so late? She says, oh no, we started at 3:00, but they they built up a college fund was able to buy them a a townhouse before they started college. So, you know and the commercials were that was an interesting part of my career because I got to deal with a lot of people who were better educated in advertising marketing and and the creative writing aspect some of the people that I worked with earlier were sort of self taught, you know, some of the bands were playing to the absolute maximum of their ability we would sit in here and go over and over and over silence until we finally got it, right. Yeah. It was so long Different than though because today we have as many tracks as we want if the bass player messes up we keep going come back patch the base and keep on going back. Then I had to get it right at the same time. Wow, and it was it was long it was difficult, but it was fun. Yeah, this this business plan that Iraq had was right for that time in history. There were good studios in Dallas, but they were all geared up for Jingles from commercials. They weren't into cutting real records. So in life through that because I mean that's one of the things about you Robin Hood that I know because I've known you for so many years is that you can write you can play but but you became known for your technical ability that you've obviously got an incredible ear for for for music and for the sound for the technical aspect of it. So did you really are in those early days? Did you just kind of fall into the technical side of wage? How did that oh, you you have to dig back. Then you had to dig for it. There came a time in the 70s when you would put out daddy's money and hire group from Westlake audio in a way and they would come in and build your studio and teach you how to use it. And you know, it'd be a fortune that is money. I didn't have that and so I had to scrap for it. I had to scrap for knowledge to about how to mix there was a guy in Dallas. That was one of my mentors and I love him. I miss him very much. He was a trumpet player a jazz trumpet player called Tommy Loy those of years in in this area might remember the Dallas Cowboy games when he would come out with a blue jacket on with a trumpet and play the Star Spangled Banner. So everybody could sing. He was a he was a great friend and I would go in and watch him engineer and he would give me advice and then I got to go to Nashville several times. I went in RCA Studios. I I became friends with a guy by the name of birth. Order and his assistant Tommy Strong first, they were cutting Master discs for me, but and I got to just visit with them and they taught me an awful lot. But back in those days. I didn't you couldn't just go out and buy whatever you wanted. A lot of times. My best relationship was with East Texas electronic or cold Electronics because you'd go down there and buy a box and summer clothes and all the parts and you sit down and spend the afternoon building something. Yeah because it wasn't out there. Yeah. One of the favorite stories I've got is about the sound on ZZ Top's records off till the story on on the documentary that I had to send Bill Hamm their manager over the country Tavern just to get him out of here so that I could I could do what I wanted to do with an overdose. Yeah, exactly detuned Billy's guitar. Yeah, let him double it and it ended it added what we call chorusing or flange or whatever but there was no, you know today guitar player hits a month. And there it is right right. Now I want to talk about that because I've heard stories of whenever ZZ Top first arrived on the scene. And I remember this was back when I was in college. This guy said he was a kid and he just some music festival and these three guys come out just three guys and they just blew everybody away make more noise. I mean, you know than anybody else and was just just absolutely phenomenal. What was it? Like the first time you heard ZZ Top performing did you I mean and could you sense and then cuz you see somebody asks to go off these guys. Well the first time I heard them when they were in the studio and boy we made we had to make a deal real fast, then when I came out here, they stop playing because the drummer was in the booth Billy's life was over here and we put the bass player's amp in the vocal booth and shut the door, but no know when when when I would come out here they had to cut it off because they used back then they were using wage. Marshall stacks and Billy boy. I mean, you know, he's a genius. Let's face it. His mother was the organist at at an Episcopal Church in Houston when he was growing up. In fact the son of my Rector here at Christ Church when I was in high school his son became a priest and he was he was admitted ministering to her when she couldn't come to church any longer. He would take her communion. So he was well-trained. I mean he knew he knew what he was doing. Some of the other guys were sort of just making it up as they go but I thought well, you know they as I said in the documentary ZZ Top took the blues and turned it into party music. I mean if you look at the lyrics of their songs Dog lyrics could be a Beach Boys song or a Chuck Berry song or you know, it was good timing lyrics they were they they played the blues but they didn't sing the blues right? There's a difference birth. A kid brought a song in here one time back when I was recording top and he said man, I got a song for top. It's a great song. So I put his tape on him ball when it first started playing I listen to I thought whoa, I'm a publishing on this we could make some money and then the vocals started and boy didn't take but about two or three lines for me to say what's wrong. And that's the day I figured out they play the blues song but they don't sing the blues his lyrics were Blues down and out. I got no money. My girlfriend's left me or whatever. I said, wait a minute stop. I said, this is not a I said your music is good, but the lyrics are totally wrong for them because they they do party music right right. Now, let me ask you this because you ZZ Top is such an obvious example of this like one of the major, you know, fill an arena bands that you've worked with over the years. But who because I know in East Texas in particular we have a lot of incredibly talented artists that have come up through the years, especially in the fifties and sixties, you know from Lufkin Nacogdoches. All these deep east Texas is that never made it or they they might have had one hit who do you think was probably one of the most talented individuals or bands that you heard that just for one reason or another didn't quite get the attention. I think Mouse and The Traps. Okay. Yeah, the guys are good musicians and Ronnie's a very charismatic guy in the spinner from but I think part of what set us back was that we were probably letting him sound too much like doing but there are other people that came through here early off. When I first put this studio in I got a call from a guy said yeah, we we got a four-piece Grant ban will bring down here I said, okay. And so they came in and said, okay, who's the drummer? I am who's the bass player? Okay. I'm going to set you up over here. Drums are going to be in the booth. What do you do? So I'm going to get to our place. I'm another guitar player over to Qatar is based from who's the singer and I looked at the guitar players hoping it was one of them. The drummer was the singer. I went I thought to myself this is not going to be good because what might cannot put in there cuz if I put one of these big neumanns, it would be horrible for vocal in in the drum Booth. So I took I think it was an Electro-Voice 64 that was a PA Mike and I put it a little stand between his legs which which is where he normally used it and it came right up here and he played and sang at the same time and it came out better than I thought the band was called the four speeds. One of the I think one of the guitar players name was Richard Bowden, but the drummer went on to do quite well because he was one of the lead singers in the group called The Eagle I was going to say cuz I was born if he was going to lead to Don Henley is Henley, he's Texan. Yep that sang and played Jazz was done him. Yeah, and and so yeah now that's one of the greatest groups. I worked with John Fred in the Playboy man. They were all pretty well trained musicians. They were from Baton Rouge, Louisiana. They all had been in the School of Music at LSU down there so they could read charts and everything guy named Andrew Bernard was the co-producer and co-writer of the songs, but he he wrote the arrangements off and the guy named Harold Cowart. We call him the hog. Great bass player went on to play for Aretha Franklin and a lot of Muscle Shoals hits and everything, but they were a great group home. But they had no idea why Judy in Disguise was a hit. In fact, we were in here recording. I think the song that they had released before that was called Agnes English or know they did that first and then there was Jack up and down. Up and down was a great song. And we're recording and I get a phone call in there. And it's for John Fred, is John Fred phone call. Okay, y'all just cool. So he went in there. He came back leaned on the console hit the TalkBack button and back then I had big speakers. You could toss you out here. He's yo, yo. No, I want to guess what song those idiots over there have picked as our next single and they started guessing. Nobody guessed it. He said y'all. Judy and and he put some expletives along part of the title in blankety-blank Disguise and every oh, no, that's horrible. That's silly. That was a joke. We did that as a joke. That was that was poking fun at The Beatles for Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds Judy in Disguise, you know with glasses and Prince Edward don't worry about good news is it's jumping about two weeks and then we'll put out something. Okay, and of course it became number one in the world, it literally made them a household name all over the world off and they till this day they didn't realize why it was such a hit which goes to show that there is a place in the process for a good producer. Yeah pick the HID bulb. Okay. And so that that leads me to my next question Robin Hood because So much of like right now, I mean you watch with music today and then there's just hardly music what music exactly there's no there's not rock and roll. There's not it's just it's it is his think I have a good news for you talk to him. My daddy told me one time son people look at life as going in a straight line, but life is a pendulum that swings back and forth. I don't think it's going to stay like it is because there are still people out there with Talent who can write good sounds right. Now what we're suffering from in all of America as far as I'm concerned is fascism capitalism is when you've got people out competing if you want to go buy a car, it's capitalism. You can buy a Chevy or Ford or a Mercedes or or a Hyundai or Honda whatever you want. And if you decide on a Toyota there's different dealerships. Do you can deal with that want your business? The record industry is such that it's kind of like amazon.com and Google and Facebook and Twitter three major label groups have gobbled up virtually all the independent label. So there's no place else to go. They control the air play and the money that's paid for streaming is so little because there's not a law if you write a song. I'll give you an example. We did fourteen Dylan songs now according to the law that was passed by Congress. I have to pay so much for each of those songs and if a song is more than what three minutes or four or whatever you have to pay so much a minute more, okay. After paying all the fees and a little bit for an attorney just paying for the publishing for fourteen songs on one thousand records is $1,900 off really now that was the record deal but streaming I'm not going to call his name but there's a very famous writer who's had Success With The Beatles and wrote songs for Elvis and and off Jackson and a lot of famous people. He was accustomed to his BMI check being somewhere between $150,000 a quarter to maybe two hundred fifty thousand because when it was ever play that we're getting paid through BMI and ASCAP streaming, they don't get paid much. So he got a royalty check that said he over to over 22 million streams is songs. His check was $750. Wow. So we need some adjustment in in the way business is done in America. Yeah, and that's basically like I guess that's why he ran again. I am no music expert especially in the music industry in the business side of it. But from what I understand that about the only way you can make money as an artist these days is selling out stadiums. It's a live show selling tickets. I mean, in fact there's an attorney that I used one time in Nashville and he wrote a lot of Articles and in one of the articles about seven or eight years ago. He said an artist being signed today to what they call a 365-day you should never expect ever get a royalty check for as an artist or a songwriter. Well, you'll have to get your money out there. Now, that's another thing we have what's called a 360 deal. I think it's unconstitutional in the illegal personally, but they're doing it. The same group they are your record label. They are your music publisher. That's okay. They are your publicist. They are your booking agent found. They are your manager. Well, the manager is the one that's supposed to protect you from all those other groups. So there's no one there to protect you anymore. Wow. Yeah, it's unfortunate. The record business is not in good shape right now, but there's a big independent move, especially in Texas. Yeah. There are people that are making a good living. Well, that's what I was going to say that one of the things I love and it's predominantly I guess that's kind of the Red Dirt country scene, you know, the guys with the big breakouts of course are like, you know Pat Green Jack Ingram that kind of that way but their Skies between Oklahoma and Texas like the way Bowen home and Cody Canada and Randy Rogers just incredibly talented guys that if figured out a way to kind of control their own destiny you have to because if you sign up dead, If you sign up with a major labels and even if you get hits you're going to be on the road all the time. Yeah, and that's the only way you can make money and I've been told them they spend so much money promoting you that you have to pay back that basically all you get on the road is a stipend. Yeah. I've learned a little bit about kind of, you know done a little bit of work in the movie business not to any real degree, but I've learned the industry working with with with some guys and that's the same thing people understand that one of the reasons why I gave you almost never make money on a movie as because if you give it to the distributor he's going to take he she whatever they're going to take every penny and caught an expense and expense. Anyway, that's that's reminds me of the book called fatal subtraction. And that's all the things they subtract. Unfortunately. The record industry is is the same way today. Yeah, so we'll pause here. All right, Robin Hood after that little break and just so that the listeners know in case I screw up the audio technical side of this is there it's there's little pauses you notice because we're actually filming this in Robinhood studio. And this might be goal is for this to be the first one that we actually put on the YouTube channel as a full yo live, you know interview. So do it so are going to happen. Now one of the things I want to get to is we've talked about the big names, you know, ZZ Top and those are household names but who are some of the people that folks would be surprised to learn that you've recorded off. Well, that actually is going to be a very short little chapter in my book. It's called from the other side. There are three. The first one happened not too long after the studio was finished. I got a call from the prison down in Huntsville, and they said we have some prisoners that are going to be parole soon and as part of their work release and they need Rehabilitation. They want to record I see okay. He said we got a trio of guys and we have one young lady I said, okay, so they came there was a bluegrass trio. I put three mics in a circle and boy they went after it and they did their two songs the other girl the girl had a tape. She said this is a background home. I said, okay, that's you didn't see those back in those days very often so came in and she sang along with it and she was pretty good. well Her real name was Juanita Slusher. But she was known better by the name candy bar. Who was the famous stripper at Jack Ruby's Colony Club. Wow in Dallas and off she came by and see me about a month after she got out of prison with the day she got out. Maybe she said, it's my birthday. You're going to give me a hug and kiss. So I said sure any way home. She was great little girl. She just got hooked up with some real people. She beautiful girl. The next group I got a call from a guy in Dallas. He said I've got a little small choir. I want to come down and piano and just the choir. I said sure about eight or ten people so he came down and they recorded his name was Ron Hubbard Jr. He was l.ron Hubbard son, really? And it was a pretty to say it was close-knit is is over simplified it was he all entered the diner start ology is all Scientology. Yeah, I worked for my check came from Scientology really. Wow, and the propaganda came from Scientology for twenty-seven years. I called him twenty times a month. You're wasting your time. I'm an Episcopalian. I'm quite happy where I am coming and kept coming and the third the third and by the way, I understand from some reading I did online that he left Scientology and ended up I think taking his own life. Oh no. Yeah. It was it would not be easy being L. Ron Hubbard's I would think right now the third one in this group is even more colorful. The guy calls me about 3 in the afternoon. And this is yeah. I'm over here in Brownsboro somewhere. He said I want to bring my other inquiry into tonight at 10:00 and one record for six hours. But back in those days, you didn't think anything of that I did that Johnny page came in here one night drunker than a skunk. We started recording. I think at 1:30 in the morning went till 7 or something, but this guy came over and his name was Vernon Howell, and he had a little choir and page two player. So we got them all around and boy, I'll tell you what now, you talk about a man who had control over that group. I noticed my mother said, well, he's a little dictator and I said well, yeah, he does seem a bit. Authoritative let's say yeah, but they recorded I think four songs. I gave him the tape they drove off. I never saw him again. He later changed his name to David koresh get out David koresh and ended his career down in near Waco and I'd forgotten about that that he was an aspiring, you know, he wanted in rock started that was part of his background. No kidding. Yeah, and I think he's buried right out here at 7 West of Tyler. Wow. Somebody told me that I haven't checked it. Yeah, not one of those things I go running looking after but you know, I've had some some different people coming in here now did something different here is just a couple of months ago. My son built a brand new website for me and it's fantastic and I got a lot of calls on it. I got an email from Germany. They said we have shot a special on a guy who is the chief of police up here in in. What is it Hawkins, Texas? He's German born and raised in Berlin. His name is Manfred. Gilo. Manfred is sort of a I can get you a picture of him. He sort of Arnold Schwarzenegger kind of got really super guy really enjoyed him. And what happened is they did a show in him. They did seven seven a shows and home, of course when he stopped people and were talking to him or it was training his his staff to shoot or something or office. He would speak English. Well, they needed him to come in and read of all of that is German so they had a script now. I had to upgrade from Windows 7 to Windows 10 from new window 6 to new window 10. I had to buy a brand new video card from my computer so it can spit what I needed for the Monitor and then spit out a separate HDMI signal for him to watch out here. And by the way, the video was shot in Powell. It was European not American, but I my program can handle that and then I had to buy a brand new laptop over here $3,000 laptop and take it off over there and I bought a program that I could stream it to three producers in Germany and one in Denmark. They could watch Real Time listen to him push button and talk back into his head phones right here in my studio. Wow, you know, I told my son I said Son Your Daddy has been dragged Kicking and Screaming into the twenty-first century wage, but it was good for me. I mean at 81 years old, you've got to learn new things. If you don't learn new things you're going backwards, so it's great. I like the new new programs that I bought and I'm going to get that laptop doing some streaming out of here soon. Okay. Well you brought something up there that I guarantee you that few people would have realised are probably thought You're eighty one years old if they're just listening to this well, but I don't I don't feel a day over well, and I you know, I've talked about this, you know, Robin Hood and I want to talk a little about philosophical here for a moment because so much of what I talked about on the podcast is, you know, people pursuing what they love and you know, and and just why a lot of the reason why so many people that are on this podcast have been so successful is because they found their line they ran hard they had fun doing it and they don't want to stop. So when was it a couple of questions here. When was it that you realized? I am actually going to be able to make a living in the music business and two did you ever consider at any point along the way because of the good the bad that you that even pursue anything else? Well when I first got out of high school, I had a job at r l Faulkner photography studio. I printed pictures. I took a wedding pictures. I did all of that. While I was doing that though, I was full time at TJC but I was also building up Portable recording equipment that I could take two churches or to the woman's building down here. They had a big beautiful 9-foot Chickering grand piano in there boy. That was great. But I had a plan because once I recorded my record in Nashville, Owen Bradley Studios that became my goal now to answer your other question. When did I first realize I couldn't make a living in the music business. It took us nine months to build this building and my father died suddenly. Exactly four months after this studio was finished. You've heard people say that they hit the ground running. I hit the ground running scared scared to death. And it wasn't a matter of can I make a live living in the music business? I had this studio. I had a mother to support and quite frankly. My father didn't have any money when he died. So I thought it was not can you do it is your you've got to do it? Wow, and so I've developed an attitude that I would never charge every anybody for all the hours they use I give them a little discount here Thursday and I would throw in talents as a producer. I mean there were quite a few records came out here that I was not listed as producer nor did I get any royalties but I produce them but the attitude that was back when I was still Running Scared look, you don't want them to get mad and not come back. So help them out all you can and don't worry about, you know, not told my wife the other night I was talking about this and I said, you know, honey as I look back at all the groups that are really produced but didn't get credit for it and didn't get a dime as a producer. The only group I would have ever made any money on it was easy Tom because most of the others did Really make much money on their royalties. So I guess God was taking care of me at the said do all you can make them want to come back you have on the best service possible and not worry about it off. Now. I've had to reinvent myself over the years when we started doing commercials. That was one of those reinventions because we could spend two or three days off doing a commercial and my partner and I could walk away with anywhere from three or four thousand dollars up to maybe ten twelve thousand. Yeah. Yeah rather than grinding for two weeks to get that off. I've done a lot of political work. I think I worked on your campaign that the very first political ad ever recorded. I was standing right over there in that corner whenever I was running for Tyler's Council. Yes, sir. Well, you know, I love politics. I love being involved in politics. It's it's very complicated today because America is split 50/50 and we're not split whites against blacks. We're not even though some people want to make it that way. It's not we're not split Rich against poor. We're split pretty much 50-50 based on who they're willing to believe to give them honest information about news about politics. And unfortunately fifty percent of the people out there being fed aligned and they're believing it but I see that reversing because I know that the Democrat Mayors are trying to blame that Donald Trump for the violence in their cities when they're the ones that told the police to back off and let people do what they want to do. So, I think I think a Day of Reckoning is coming politically in this country. But as far as my philosophy going into the future, I don't have any plans to close the studio down, but I realize that it is not going to go home. Wherever there's a lot of I enjoy doing in music that doesn't involve sitting at the console, right? I like playing. I love composing I do I really miss my choir at church just that was besides my family. I love Christ Church more than anything else in the world. I still get to stream the services from down there, but I just I just feel like you sometimes you have to when you get to a y in the road you have to study it and figure out which way to go. All right. We said something earlier we were talking about he kind of touched on it. Just just listen to their tell me what the formula is if there is a formula for a hook or you know, where do you start like cuz cuz again as someone who has been writing a song writing a song writing a song and riding a political hook are exactly the same. There's no difference. What is it? Where's the beef, you know and the Democrats have a game. Incredibly good and I'll have to be honest a lot of their stuff is not written by the Democratic party is written by the Communist party. I go to the Communist Party website at least once a week just to see what they're saying because after all if you don't go and look then you don't know but balancing the budget on the backs of the poor. Hm. What a hook. It insinuates the whoever's trying to balance the budget is hurting the poor and it also insinuates that balance balancing the budget is a bad thing when in it's a wonderful thing, but as far as writing songs are concerned most songs start with the hook. Like I mentioned earlier Nat Stuckey Pop a Top Again. Judy in Disguise, that's what you are. I mean and and of course LaGrange they got a lot of nice girls, you know songs songs should paint pictures if a song doesn't paint a picture or a political ad are are an ad for your for your appliance store or whatever. You have to paint a picture thought I did I did a group of commercials shortly after I closed down the partnership with my partner and one of them was salons Furniture off. The opening line was people just keep on coming back from two swans. And the last line was Swans Furniture just like coming home and you paint a picture of try to you try to paint a picture in people's minds. Sweet Home Alabama, you know that it's about a place. It's about people ZZ Top paints. A lot of of of word pictures and their lyrics off. I love the song Master of Sparks. That's listen to that sometime. It's about a guy that made a cage out of rebar and put a seat inside and you put a guy in the office and went rolling down a road late at night had all these friends parked out in the pasture and pushed that ball out in the back. Of course, it's spun all the highway and Sparks went everywhere and it didn't become a big song. I love the imagery. You can the Beatles songs. They painted pictures, you know, if you can get someone off dining what you're thinking through your wordplay, especially and in advertising it what worked in advertising Works in songwriting wage. I think the father of advertising As We Know It in America is David Ogilvy. We did a lot of work with Ogilvy & Mather great Ad Agency. One of the greatest things he wrote was when you finish writing your home. Which in a song is your Hook when you finish writing your headline, you've spent 85% of your money. Well, that means 85% of the people looking at your ad will only look at that headline. They won't read the copy. Well in the song If You're hook if your title is not good enough to make them want to listen to the rest of the song then you've lost them. Yeah, so it's generally the same thing. It's all about looking at something a little differently. Usually I love that. I love that. You gotta be able to look at the same thing. Everybody else has seen but look at it a little differently my my songwriting partner and I judge judge shape and we wrote a song it was different. We were recording a young lady. She's fifteen years old and she and her dog Lived in a cute little travel trailer and it was in a little travel trailer park that had been shut down and she was just sort of managing it and getting in shape to be reopened. So I told my partner just to drive out here. I want to show you something so, you know, I drove him out there and we drove around it. I said, okay, you've heard all the songs about out where the dog rides rust trailer park trash. I said, what if we wrote a song that's at the other end of the spectrum. What about about the way they feel about their little home the way she feels about her mother what if we call a song love lives here and it's a gorgeous song. We're dying to get somebody really big record it because it's it's gotten a little just make you cry. It's beautiful. Well and I remember yeah and there's a yeah, there's a friend of mine that I sent that song two years ago. I remembered we talked about that had breakfast and talked about it. We need to revisit that yes, sir. Boss visit that cuz a couple more people that I loved cuz I remember it was a moving song and now did she ever cuz the girl that lived there was a singer right? Here's the one the singer but she she moved away and and she's out of music business now. But you know it was that was an inspiration for us sure is a songwriter you get your Inspirations from from different places. Yeah. Yeah amazed where you get those inspiration. So here's one of the things I want to ask you cuz again, Music has always played a very important role in my love music is played a big big role in my life. And so it obviously it has yours. So you and I we decided to get in the car to Thursday from Tyler, Texas and we're going to drive to Canada Sacramento California or Manhattan and we can only listen to four songs the whole damn trip off. What are we going to listen to and I'm going to and I'm going to let since you're the expert I'm going to let you choose for our road trip. What our little far for soft playlist is you may be sorry. What is what what are signs sorry and you can throw I tell you what you can throw it off if you need to well will carry the fifth of drink that which reminds me of a song in middle school. We called it Junior High back then had a quartet called The Four Roses because we were from Tyler Texas course and went our choir teacher a company. Is we normally sang Acappella, but when she accompanied this we call ourselves the four roses and a fifth. Try that today in school. Yeah, good luck. The songs would probably that could be a lot of different ones off one of them might be yesterday The Beatles one of them might be an instrumental. You probably don't know if she just called vitor's Takata. Pum pum pum pum pum. Oh sure. Sure. Sure. Yeah, I mean, you know, if it doesn't wake you up and make you feel like going out and conquering the world wage that would Wind Beneath My Wings. and then I would have to probably start arguing with myself because there's some beautiful Latin pieces off on the church that are just so easy to listen to On this Angelica some you know, there are a lot of nice things that that would make the trip easy. I I have one problem plaguing me if I wanted to become an artist when I recorded my first record this little bit it was a Jerry Lee Lewis dead sound alike rip-off go get him, you know, but the flip side was a soft easy song ball without you. What would I do if I had to be issue with sound like Bing Crosby and my father told me said Sundays we were leaving the studio the arranger Lou Douglas told Harry Carlson the president of record label see, you know, the kids got a lot of talent Harry but he needs to figure out whether he wants to be Jerry Lee Lewis or Bing Crosby. Hm. I do like a lot of different kinds of music same here. There's some jazz. I reject our daughter married a guy who just super super talented. In fact tomorrow. He's going to be live streaming something. I'll put it on Facebook. So y'all can catch you at home. The name is Josh Hanlon. I jokingly tell him that in order to to get a degree in jazz from UNT. He has a masters by the way P Anna that they took courses you have to pass and make a hundred in one of them is. Is bet you can't find one and that's an inside joke because they get the beat turned upside down in different ways. And so you you have to count the measures to keep up with where they are and the other one is who had tonic and that means you can't find which key you're in but Jazz heads love that. I mean it just it's it's fantastic. I haven't quite made it that far into jazz, but I love music. I love really good Country Museum. I love good liturgical music. I love the Hallelujah Chorus and a lot of good Latin Masses. I like I like good rock and roll. I like me some Chuck Berry and some Jerry Lee Lewis. And and then I love some, you know, it's interesting. There was a group when everybody else in high school was all crazy about Elvis. I was crazy about a group called The Four Freshmen. Yes, The Four Freshmen were were really a jazz vocal group, and we used to lay down on the floor put our Europe next to the Speaker and listen to try to learn seeing all those parts. Yeah. So here's the thing that if I went all the way to Canada and back with you, my ideal trip would be to play a lot of a difference. There we go. And each one would be a surprise because I do damn that traffic jam by James Taylor and working at the carwash blues and then maybe Bill Haley rock around the clock and then the Hallelujah Chorus and then take five. Yeah, you know it because I do have a rather eclectic appreciation in music. Yeah, and okay, then we would get along really well on our trip cuz I'm the same way. I mean if you look at my my playlist, you know, it's everything from you know, I'll go to the Baroque Era, you know in class school and you know broke and and all that and then I mean I will get into some just real like I love Metallica. I think Metallica is heavy as they are there are real birth. Band and they they're incredibly talented. But then also I go The Beach Boys, I think what Brian Wilson could put together with his Arrangements. You know what I've never found. I thought I'd found one one time but it did not make it I would like to find music for a massage. Hm and for me it would have to be a synthesizer stuff that kind of hovered and went from one key to the other and downloaded because if I could figure the beat out and if I were trying to keep up with what the chord progressions in the melody was that would run it for me. I'd be working right I'll be laying there going. Oh, that's a long sharp a song and F. That's a neat, you know, but I would I want something that hovers. I thought I had found one the other day. And it finally after about 30 minutes that drove me crazy cuz it was the same four chords over and over they had looped it, you know just added a little different stuff. So but Ash Music is is like colors for me. I'm sensitive to Colors there certain colors. You could dress me in and I would I would just about go crazy. Cuz I love certain colors. I love these kind of colors. Yeah. Yeah, I love yellow and it's funny the new window in their eye color all the all files different colors while I make the drums and all percussion yellow. I make the guitars blue because they play the blues. I would make the bass guitar dark blue cuz it's a guitar, but it's a darker deeper and I find colors because that helps me mix I can find something quickly just a little of the craziness that goes on and mixing wow dead. Okay, and it won't question before we go Robin and I know we've we're about to run out of filming time and all that good stuff at its Hood your real middle name. Yes, sir. It is. I'm a junior Robin Hood Brian's Junior. If you wanna know what it was like to be in the third grade third grade least tell me your name was Robin Hood. You were four. I'd I had a weak chin, which is why I grew the beard originally home and big ears and I left football practice early on Thursdays to go to piano lessons. That was a rough life. Well, I'd say you've made out pretty well. What began is what has to be one of the most amazing father some projects that I've ever heard in my life that ended up with you you Running Scared to now we're I think that after nearly fifty years half a century brother. I think you're I don't think you're running. I think you're in a good stride. Well, I have a wonderful wife has a great career and we have a dog. Family, so I'm I'm not running scared anymore. That's awesome. Well, I tell you this you're one of those people Robin Hood and I'm not just saying this because we've worked together and you've been so kind to let me do bring on the podcast but you are one of the the rare individuals that every single time I see you I feel better than I felt. Before I did well, it's mutual. Thank you very much. I appreciate you brother. Love you, man. Well, that's a wrap on another episode of the Texas Titans podcast. Thank you so much for being here. This has been a Texas Titans media production. 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Episode 794: Drew Holcomb

Relevant Podcast

1:14:13 hr | 11 months ago

Episode 794: Drew Holcomb

"The creators relevant magazine. This is the relevant podcast. It is Tuesday march. Thirty first year is twenty twenty. I think you're listening to be irrelevant. Podcast I'm your other time. There could be. I'm here in Nashville Tennessee. Meanwhile down there in Orlando Florida. He is under the impression that the year is actually twenty twenty two. It's our producer industry and up there north in Loveland. Virginia he has been operating as if it's nineteen twenty for the last thirty five years. It's our friend Jesse cash. Hello Hello does he. I notice a little a little delay and your usual sign on is this. Is this just adrenaline? The new and guaranteeing or yeah. I think everyone's just keep an illusion. Quarantine I think. That's the secret here is Yada Yada. You gotta mix up your routine a little. That's that's what it comes down to. You know it's when you get stuck in the same old routine that's when that's you know it's tough because you know it's so weird that like within the course of just a couple of weeks like how the way that we just think about. You Know Day to day. Life has changed so dramatically but like I said everyone. Everyone using their own coping mechanisms. Mine is to change the inflection of my voice. Random THIS JESSICA PEOPLE GUESSING GENDER. You strike me as much of a much of a routine guy but you say you're a man of your creature of habit. Yeah no I don't think so. I mean at this point. Yes it's it's it's becoming that way but when I'm free to do my own thing I don't think so do you. But you've found that has forced you to adapt some sort of like a get up at this time. I go to war yet. Routines aren't they're not like it's structured for the sake of structure you know. It doesn't really change a lot about my life. It's like oh now. Two o'clock is like change out of sweatpants time like Internet for five hours. Now it's nine thirty. I guess I'll go to bed. You know what's funny too is like you know arguably we none of us had more time to work out you know or to do things like that but it is harder than ever to actually motivate yourself to for sure do it. You know it's like all right well you know. I'm not really in the in the mood to get sweaty right now but maybe in like three hours I will want to get. It's this rough are gonNA routines and it's like for some reason. The more time we have it seems that the less time we have to actually do stuff we WANNA do. Do you guys find that too. I think that could kind of be like well can't go to the gym. I don't really have a lot of workout equipment in the home right now. I'm GonNa take this as an excuse to like not workout deal about. Oh there's all sorts of free options on that no matter how you just you know. Ironically man my my body was really needing some recovery time. And I'M GONNA use this quarantine to just shut it all down mentally mentally. Obviously I'm shutting it down physically that's becoming apparent to. I'm not using my body at all and you look manned late is what is. Church's happening so spiritually. I don't even know where I it's just a total shutdown reboot. It's rebooting no-one. Worry about me because I have tried a few of the Like the online workout situations and they give you your your virtual coach right. He said it. So it gives you a timer. Coach does the things that are very helpful. Like the walk you through. You know now. This number of push ups now. We're doing it now. Brennan place for a little bit That's that's fine. That's helpful but where the spell really breaks for me is when they're like you're looking great or doing your next look like you don't. I could be sitting on the couch eating. You have no idea you're going through your lies motivation. I went to this like years ago back when it was like the the cool thing to do. I did like the P ninety x deal with this. Is You know it's probably evolved? There's probably an APP or something. They used for that pretty attentive. It's pretty intensive workout peanuts. But when I was unit was like DVD and you throw in the DVD. And the worst part. Was you know at least with an APP? I'm guessing they like keep it. They keep they mix it up and it changes where a DVD. And you're doing the same workouts week after week. The little jokes that they say during the workout is enough for you to want to take your barbell and throw it into your TV. Like I've heard you get pair like this. This weird motion to stirring German potato soup fifty ninety sky the German potato soup. Those guys I am going to go crazy. I'm literally GONNA go bonkers if I hear you say that jokey up. Yeah I it's it's everyone's adjusting. Everyone's making there wasn't that Tony Horne was that his name was definitely. I think it was too. I know it was Tony. I think it was Tony. Tony Tony something. 'cause I know it because he was a his first before he lands struck gold with peanut next thing he tried his hand at standup. That was dating real estate. Comedian Louis around. This is round two for him and you can tell he's insisted material to the workout. You can see why he works a lot better for him to be like a fitness instructor with lame jokes comedian. That is in good shape but still has lame jokes because bad standard materials still plays okay if you're just a physical trainer but if you're supposed to be a stand up comedian and those are the jokes you're working with then you send another role and and that's what the that's that's good. That's an inspiration in so many ways. Tony is an inspiration for it. But we should look like in our with our bodies and with our professional careers Do have a lot going on this show. Today we're joined by. This is going to be a lot of fun. We're joined by drew. Holcomb of drew holcomb in the neighbors. And the reason I was actually really interested to talk to drew is that he like a lot of different musicians has been using his time in self-isolation to do he's he's putting out a cover at day. He's there called kitchen covers. He and his wife Ellie Holcomb have been recording these and using that to raise money for musicians who are out of work and it's been really really good stuff so I wanted to hear about that project in kind of how they're doing in south isolation So we had a great conversation about that. Can't wait to share that with you and share some of those covers with you and tell you how you can get on board if you've got nothing else going on and you don't even should be paying attention to Madrid music. It's really really good but before we get to that too we are going to take time for slices will go to those right after. The break was so Plane clearly. Has God put something in your heart to do? Perhaps something bigger than just the normal routine of life perhaps to build his kingdom in advance his calls. My Name's Jamie Doom. The President New Orleans seminary and Level College. I want to encourage you to join us at the towel and Basin podcast where we take up all issues related to the kingdom go to Bts DOT EDU slash podcasts. Hope to see there. You're listening to another lover by Little Dragon. Be Any podcast. You heard can't do much by Alexa. Hachi that felt appropriate for or at Right. Now Yeah Yeah. Yeah and by the way. That's a great. That's a great new album. The new action. I've always liked boxer. Hi Tina I'm glad she's finally getting some. She's one of those you know you have those bands you've been following for a while and turn it on your personal secret. They're exerting a little more attention waxahachie tonight. She's she's been plugging away for a long time now and she deserves the attention. She starting to get man. I'm still my mind is still blown. That Tony Horton. The P ninety x has wants a aspiring stand up comedian. It's making me really WanNa go on like a deep dive. He's gotTa have youtube videos. You know but like the places went to the CD. Little stand up comedy joins that he is material that yeah sure but I feel like here. Here's here's a theory about comedians. I feel like Tony Horton. If anyone hasn't watched the P ninety x. They're basically like they're they're they're they're these intense like fitness videos and Tony. Horton I mean he. He not only looks like fitness instructor. He looks like a better than average looking fitness instructor. Like you know what I mean. He he works like but I feel like he's to conventionally handsome and fit to be an effective stand up comedian. I feel like Santa Comedians. They gotta have something just a little off about their style. You know what I mean like I feel like when you're that's why like all the sitcoms about like You know that are based on standups like I said. They got their own kind of looking twists. They're not they're not models out there. You know you think of like Kenya. Queens. Everybody loves Raymond or Seinfeld. Those guys those guys aren't like models like Tony Horton. I could see why didn't work out for the you know. I think yeah. I think the best standup comedians. You'd have to be pretty humble like and you have to be humble like it can't be it can't be like oh he's so nice friendly enhance mini-van bowl to like that's now we're talking about. You Need Society to beat you down a little bit via really committed Internet. Donna's like Tony Horne. I don't know what your material anyway guys. I'll tell you this. My biceps getting so big. It's hard to find the right t shirts at target. Am I wrong? Am I wrong when you find a stand up comedian? Who is like? Let's listen? I'm a big fan of mullany. Everybody's big fan of John Mullany right. He's like the stand-up comedian. Does you're right now. He's really get what he does but he's also like he's he's a pretty normal looking dude he's a good looking. Guy. He came from. A fairly. Sounds like well-off background Being rated like pretty normal life for most of his life and then discarded Gig on. Snl In now. He's extremely well regarded standard comedian. What's the what's the thing? Where's the pain that's really driving you right now because it's not a parent but it's got to be there and it's darker and sicker than we'd ever imagine? Yeah well that's why I love like Nayef argosy. Because he he like his Co. and he's been on the pot a couple times and are incredible but the say the great thing about a native like there's no darkness to the material. It's it's just you know what I mean it's just like self deprecating. I'm very lazy comedy which I always enjoy when comedy is. It's like Jim Gaffe again. There's no real darkness there. You know what I mean. It's just making fun of how lazy he s and I think you know for me that that's totally acceptable form of comedy. I I completely agree. Speaking of Of Forms of comedy. Just a you give me a little preview of slice that you brought this week and this is the this is This is high comedy so I do WanNa get to that. It's time for Lonzo. Rolls all right. Does he tell US I? I only caught little bits and pieces of this story. But I can't wait for you to deliver the entire thing because this is. This is a great moment in medical research history so this this comes to us from Australia And from a a man named Dr Daniel Re Rear Don his. Name's Dr Daniel Reardon. He's in his twenties and he is A. He has a doctorate in astrophysics astrophysicist astrophysics. He's an astrophysicist by trade and like everyone else Dr reared on it was has been home lately and he's not had a lot to do he sounds he's had a lot of time on his hands so like a lot of people with time on his hands he he starts doing a little project you know. Everyone's I feel like right now undertaken projects with like a home thing. Or it's like you know that I'm ready to do that. Puzzle that just been then. I got for Christmas that one year. I'm just GONNA give that a shot or take up drawing or art or I don't know learn an instrument. Well our sour dough starring. Did we this hour become such a thing? Like we're GONNA come out of this and I see nothing thrown into and can we? Can I talk and I don't mean to throw shade because I have friends that are heavy into the sour dough thing sour does discussing. It's the worst literally literally siler Dell. Why does someone like bread? Should not have a distinct flavor for okay breath thing real quick guys okay. Threats FANCY GETS TOO FANCY FORGETS. What the whole point of bread is bread is supposed to be a neutrally flavored item that is solely meant so that you can jam a bunch of meat in your mouth and not get your hands dirty okay. That's why we have breath to shove meat and sauce in there and not eat like barbarian. Because you don't want you don't is be handling meet with your hands. We're not caveman. Okay this is a prehistoric times we want to. We want to eat with our bare hands. We want to create a big mess everywhere. So that's why I use bread. It's supposed to be neutral flavor though because the point of it is to hold meet. It's supposed to be spongy and tastes like nothing. That's all Puerto Rican which surgeon. It's our no no no. I don't do that. What you put cinnamon and raisins. That's no no. That's not the point. The point of the bread is like what kind of sociopath goes to the Bagel shop and orders a ham and cheese BAGEL and gets IT ON CINNAMON RAISIN? I've seen people do that. Who are these sickos? A big problem. Here I feel like the difference. Your last example. There is conflicting flavor profiles like you don't WanNa Cinnamon Raisin Bagel but the ham and cheese sandwich. I get back but you don't WanNa send them in breakdown you don't WanNa Cinnamon Raisin Bagel period. Even with decide like some butter or something on it. You don't understand. This is the point of bread okay. She liked bread. You fry it or you can cut it in Germany in there okay. It's not meant to be a desert. Okay if you want something Cima raising. Get A muffin tyler. Okay don't put it in a Bagel note stain. Your Lane breads. That's what I'm saying. That's the problem here. Okay when you turn bread into the primary thing you're missing the point. Bread bread is meant to be a dinner. Roll or something to put butter on. It's not meant to be the primary thing. We're getting our priorities mess stop. That's my thing you take this because really native is still the point of isolationism. Because they're like. Do you feel this way about like that. Gets in the country. Afraid you know. They've got all do over. There is bizarre like traditional gets. Listen the bagging is self parody at this point. Okay there. I'm sorry but it is. I'm sorry but picture Parisian it's been writing around or bicycle with a big bag at like. What are they doing to Chandler? Have you ever gone to the store and just bought a giant Michael? Three Foot. Long Paper Sleeve. Okay like what? What would you do with that? Lived in Paris for months. Did you buy you buy a foot and a half long role in a in a paper sleeve and use walked down the street with US eat it like like? I told you get we discuss. This guy was telling me people actually start their day just by eating a loaf of bread. That's the length of their forearm. That's how that's how they start. This is a real thing and every day you just see people walking around with that gets yes including I was one of them. Me No ask. But here's the thing here's what I don't understand. I I know they have them. I've seen pictures. You've told me that people walk down the street bag. That's all you're walking on. The street is eating giant hunk of bread. That you spend your day just off a chunk of it you just terrible chunk of it and you yeah. Brett Dour Taylor. You're with me. That's weird right if you saw someone. If you if you were walking down the street in any city in just saw someone just mowing down a huge hunk of bread. Do you not think it's a little weird theon issue. It's I'll tell you it's not weird if they meet in the bread because then you're like oh that's that's not a Weirdo. That's a guy trying to make me hungry. I'M GONNA pop into Walla hoagie fast. How do we give myself a Hoagie? Reich it makes no sense if if it's just a big hunk of bread tyler. I think you need to wake up to that reality. I embrace other cultures. We are all in this together right now. We're all going through the same thing. Yeah all should be open to what what we can learn from one another because we're gonNA have shared culture right now listening designed match boundaries. I've got nothing to learn from that. I've got nothing to learn because I'm already eating bread. It's just I've enhance it by putting delicious meat in there okay. I feel like I feel like they should be learning from thanking us for that. I'm sorry regions. We have something called subway. Okay and let me tell you you walk in there and five minutes later you could walk out with a giant with a role that I see them cookie. They pop that thing in that giant bread machine that morning. Yeah I can I listen. This is how fresh that bread is. My shirt gonNA smell like a subway all day. I'M GONNA go up to people that evening if I had subway for lunch. People the subway today. Did you get a big salad? That like Jim Gaffney and call that Americans didn't invent the idea of bread in front of like that's the thing that is in Mo if anything America was late to the game on that because most flipped my we were the ones who started. We can't let them see how the sausage is made it better make the somewhere else. Freeze it ship. It there and then they can pay because they don't want to see the dark side of this. France has nothing to hide. Never did you can walk in there intimidated. They are not you. Just go out there mixing and also they have. They can walk where day or night and see people mixing just in the streets. People are just into the meeting just walking down the street meeting. What do you mean you can see it day or night? No end of the Baker's is like do the windows the the big one you can look in there you see it like hanging up. There's some that they're waiting to put in. They've got him bryce on there in this country too fancy too many carbs to fans today. It's right now. It's moving built those roller skates. I don't even know how we started talking about. Oh I remember Daniel reardon. He's been home and he hasn't been on a sour dough kick because he's not a Weirdo convincing himself. That's our bread is good. Okay that's like. Hey let's have a nice glass of sour milk. It's like no no no because it's disgusting. Oh you know what's worse than a bland hunk of just regular bread is make it grow since our okay so Dr Reardon is home. And he wasn't he wasn't a deluding himself to thing. That's our breads Scott. Instead he tried to use his scientific skills and abilities to Megan device that would prevent people from touching their face. That's the big that you know. They're saying that's a big problem. Right now is the corona virus is Topically very contagious. So if you say you touch doorknob or something that could possibly have the virus and then you touch your face. A lot of people have unfortunately become infected that way. So you know all the health experts are recommending. That you you do everything you can to not touch your face very good advice. But unfortunately it's kind of an involuntary thing for a of people a lot of people touch their face without even thinking about touching their face. So what if I use my science abilities to come up with a device that will warn people when when they're about to touch their face and what will remind them. Hey this isn't a good idea. Well things went horribly horribly wrong and I'm going to read a couple lines from a brilliantly written piece from the Guardian from the Guardian Australia about what recently transpired with our good friend. The astrophysicist here's a quote. I have some electronic equipment but really no experience or expertise building circuits or things I had. Okay I first off. Let's stop there. Yeah I love that. He has electronic equipment that he doesn't know what it does is. It has no experience using. Now's the time to come up with a dangerous mask. That is going to go right on direct. He said I had a part that detects magnetic fields. I thought that if I built a circuit that could detect the magnetic field and we wore magnets on her wrists. Then it could set off an alarm if you brought it too close to your face. A bit of boredom in isolation made me think of that. Okay not not exactly a bad idea. Okay it sounds a little overly complicated like creating a magnetic field around your face that would trigger a warning. If you're metal bracelet gets close seems pretty elaborate for what he was trying to accomplish. But I could see where it says that you know the problem is it had the exact opposite effect because once again. He's an astrophysicist. And on electron engineer accident he says I accidentally invented a necklace that buzzes continuously. Unless you move your hand did the exact opposite all the time. Unless you're touching your face so this point is experiment is experiment is going awry. And he realizes that his machine unleashed it on humanity would actually do far far more harm than good. But listen he's been dabbling all day and he's got a lot of fun magnets just sitting around right so the experiment was a huge failure. Most okay I got some magnet supply with somehow this astrophysicist who has a doctorate degree in astrophysics ended up deciding. I would just spend the afternoon plane with magnets. Shortly thereafter. They became horribly stuck up. His nose here is some quotes after scrapping. The idea of the mask. That was still a bit bored plane with the magnets. It's the same logic as clippings pegues ears. I clipped him to my ear lobes and then clip them to my nostrils and things went downhill pretty quickly when I clicked the magnets to the other nostril. Here's off to keep reading the story. Reardon said he plays two magnets inside his nostrils in two on the outside when he removed magnets the outside of his nose the two inside stuck together. Unfortunately the researcher then attempted to use the remaining magnets removed him. So he's got a couple of magnets jammed up as knows who hasn't been there. You know what his solution was to now. Maybe I can jam some more magnets up there. Okay the ideas send a rescue magnet up there till you other exactly. Maybe not maybe if I send a stronger magnet bound pushes pushes further like when you lose a chip in the salsa. You're like okay. I got to get stronger. Chip out branches breaks three layers into and then they need just got big so he's had at this point. My partner who works at the hospital was laughing at me. I was trying to pull him out but there is a ridge at the bottom of my knows that it can't get passed. Yeah WE UNDERSTAND. We all have noses magnets up there for that very reason. After struggling for twenty minutes I decided to Google the problem and found an article about an eleven year. Old Boy who had the same problem? The solution in that was anyone guests more magnets attached to put on the outside to offset the pool from the from the ones inside. Okay seems like if this eleven year old kid figured out. This astrophysicist would have no problem. Continue with this quote I was. I was pulling downwards to try and remove the magnets. They clipped onto each other. I lost my grip and those two magnets ended up in my left nostril while the other one was in my rights. At this point I ran out of magnets. Okay this point. He's got a bunch of magnets up. There he keeps inadvertently jamming more ragnitz up as host before attending the hospital. An attempted to use pliers to pull them out. You know the problem was. They were made a medal and they became magnetized by the magnets inside his nose. The final quotes every abroad. The players close to my nose. The entire nose would shift towards the pliers would stick to the magnet. It was a bit painful at this point. House my plumber. These magnetic gas so these are not kitchen and I've lost count of how many are up his nose at this point. You know like I know there was the initial magnets than they were the rescue magnets. And then there are the magnets on the outside. And they're the pliers which them themselves became giant magnets. He said if I says my my partner took me to the hospital that she works at because she wanted all her colleagues to laugh. Doctors thought it was quite funny. Making comments like this is an injury due to self-isolation in boredom. Hey listen the all that to say if you're in their board tinkering around don't resort to see what happens if you stick random things up your nose. It can happen to an astrophysicist. If an astrophysicist they'd be that bored imagine what the average person know. I feel like this is a tough ad life lesson for everyone listening. I think this is a really important point because boredom can breathe a lotta different things. Yes Bri- but we're we're all changed people because of this and that boredom can be fueled for really good things and positive things or it can go as we've learned it can go really awry and don't let boredom be. The reason that you in hospitals are already jam packed as it is in other restriction. They don't have time to about somebody with magnets And this is an astrophysicist. I shudder to think of what people less intelligent than this doctor could get up to in the coming weeks as boredom pushes us to try new even more creative ways to kill time. That might end up killing ourselves. I've seen like the most elaborate like random Rube Goldberg machines by people around the House on Instagram we. We have injured in the greatest golden age of Instagram of all time. Because there are so many people especially people who are like you know In in like the Gen Z. Demographic who kind of making their their basically that generation is the Martin Scorsese of tick tock videos. You know what I mean. You can give a kid a phone and say make make the most compelling fifteen second video ever seen and suddenly you know. They're making Oscar level. Yeah they're they're basic. I've seen I've seen like videos from some twenty year old kid in a dorm room. That has more special effects. Christopher Nolan Video. And it's a fifteen second tick tock like. It's very impressive but I will say this. A lot of people are spending their time making very cool videos for tick tock and instagram and I applaud it. I love just killing time. Seeing how rant wh-what random board people are doing with their time and their phones it is. It is truly the golden age of random instagram. That is absolutely and that sales nicely into the slides that I want to bring this week. Which is pretty short story but hopefully a longer conversation around it because I have. I have some thoughts on. I want to get your feedback. It's still we're going to. I'm going to start but the with last night Elton John hosted a charity event for Cova del own John Consistently winning most charitable celebrities in the game is always towards the top of the list. He gives away millions of millions of dollars every year. It's very admirable and he hosted a concert series from Youtube last night with his celebrity pals around the world signing on from their kitchens or roller coaster is celebrities. Have Very interesting houses? We've talked about this a little bit. Recent weeks and they will do a live performance of the song of theirs rights and raise money that way. That money's going to cope with nineteen release. Berko really admirable the one that got the most attention. And you all might have seen getting passed around today. Did you see the backstreet? Boys now renewed so Elton John did the impossible keep reunited the backstreet boys from the comfort of their own individual homes to do. I want a bad way again. And it. You know it. Spectacular entertainment a We'll play a clip play clip of that and I want to stress. When listen to this clip this is not the studio version. This is not. These guys didn't weren't in there with their mics. This was all done via their laptops at home. Unable to hear each other church. And here's how they sounded. Who knows how many years on at least at least thirty years on from I want it that way right? Let's say twenty five years. I'm twenty five dollars. That's could be straight off. Trl Or car airbridge noon. You know after school that was really about Sierra Tara. Unbelievable talented guys. They're they're talented guys on the song. But here's what I think is really interesting. I'm just going to go through on this. This is just a random sampling. Not not editing it a random sampling of comments about this from twitter the responses in replies to this video. Okay I it's beautiful to smiley face emojis. This is exactly what I needed. That's buzzfeed official. What I needed I will never be over backstreet boys performing. I went back away from their homes last night. That was Sony's official. That's Sony's verified account This is language. I don't know but it looks positive. I'm GONNA be going. It looks so everybody's everybody's very into this right this. I'm not seeing anything negatives I instantly iconic hit me right in the heart and why am I crying all right so this is good for like this guy. Okay what why? Why when the backstreet boys do this is this. Are they lauded as Internet? Heroes and yet not ten days ago when Gal Gadot rounded up her celebrity friends for the exact same thing. John Lennon's imagine from their homes for a song. Bed is probably at the same quality in terms of actual substance to it. Why were they blasted as like the problem? Like the the the the indicative heart of how far out celebrities get are missing the mark in how out of touch they are. What is the difference between these two videos bet has prompted to diametrically opposite reactions despite being effectively? The same thing. Tyler it concerns. You're even asking this question. It really really because you could. You could ask me right now. Listen I was never like a battery boys fan. You know what I mean but I but listen they. They're an iconic boy band. And even if you're listening if you're Chalier DJ right and you know prior to the the pandemic do it you a DJ at various nightlife spots on the weekends correct and your DJ's your. Jane session are mainly comprise of choosing different songs to kind of go with the ebb and flow of the night. You know what's going to bring them up you know it's GonNa Mellow Out. You know how to send people home right so you gotTa have that. Let me ask you this if you throw on an old school banger in even if people are into ironically if you don't want to backstreet boys champs camp what happens what happens at the at the bar that night it goes up. Does people people respond to to to throwbacks for exactly because people the people have nostalgia for you know. People don't have nostalgia for this. Is John Lennon thorough back? Old Beatles performing the songs k. Two different respects. What's not preachy at all and not pretentious at all any backstreet boys song ever pretentious John Lennon? Imagine there's you know what I saw. I saw Larry the Cable Guy. Take this morning okay. Cable got all this on this. And he's like right. Now is not the time that I want to sing the lyric. Imagine there's no heaven no I want to imagine. There's a heaven I don't want. I don't want my super rich celebrities that I enjoy them using their talents in the field of acting and comedy to you sing for me from their mansions about you. Know how destructive wealth is okay like there's no irony in that at least with at least the the backstreet boys are have a degree of self awareness for of their career. Like there was nothing. They're not taking themselves seriously. Because you can't because the song isn't meaty thing. Yeah exactly what you're saying. But there's there's no non serious way to sing. John Lennon's imagine it's it's it's like it's like seeing the sound of silence by Sar Simon and Garfunkel. It's just not talk. I mean like there's no way that you could do it. Ironically or with any sense of fun much less with people who aren't singers like the listen I I'm not gonNa just like jump on him because I know what they were attempting to do but I feel like it was a spectacular failure. That's okay you know what I mean. If you're asking me why the reason one works in one doesn't I think that's it. I think the lack of self awareness and like it's literally no one asked for that if you would ask you the three. Were you WANNA hear? The boys like perform a hits from. Heck Yeah you want to hear about two random celebrity singer. John Lennon Song is definitely something. I think you're onto something here. I can understand the the the backstreet boys don't aren't they don't seem to think they're doing anybody any special favors beyond just. This is a nice song but everybody liked few decades ago. We're GONNA do it again right now. People will like it whereas getting into celebrity there to sing imagine and in different keys which is a major strike against it sounded bad But do you think that prompts the the universe how universally diametrically opposed these two reactions are to convert talking a a not insignificant? Not huge difference in the attitudes going into these that has prompted incredibly different worlds apart responses. Yeah I mean I think there's a lot of factors that go into a main part of it is like if it was what look like. Let's say it's a it's Gal gadoe right. She's she's I think. Most people know our for her role in one woman. She's incredible actress if she were to go on and say. I'm going to make a video of me doing like you know a cool fight scene from one or or if I'm going to do a dramatic reading some script. They'd be like cool because she's an actress. Urinating by Will Ferrell was like I'm GonNa make I'm GonNa make like a Funnier die style. Video that reminds people about the importance of social distancing. Right people would be like. Oh that's great. I would love to watch that. It's the problem is it's the cross genre. Think it just like if the backstreet boys said. Hey we're GONNA make a video and do a dramatic reading of a little play that we wrote. That will teach you the value of social distancing. No one would want to see that. You know it's it's more about picking your lane and stay in that then then trying to just do something weird that that. Nobody wants you know. Yeah I guess that's true I can. I can accept the fact that there is some level of of Just being aware enough to know like what people want from me right now at this like well. What are people looking for? What what Maya Resources? Make me Uniquely equipped to offer at this time like. There's a reason that nobody wants you and me Jesse to like get. Outta guitars and do oasis covers alive. Because they that's their loss of what they're missing. But I understand. It's not what they want. It's listen if they wanted to hear us do laces covers. You know than than I would gladly provide that but I feel like my are better utilized by riffing on how discussing sour dough bread is. I know my I know my length now. It's as simple as that. Okay I think I feel like we're on the same page. I do apply and I feel like the ball is now in other bands. Who BROKEN UP BALLS IN THEIR OWN? Greg Dave that whole kitchen concert this week in April the Foo fighters seated a whole flow. Yeah that's that's true and it was pretty cool too. Yeah Super Cool. I wonder if they would like we. Acis those guys famously. Hate each other. Y- be in the same room together now. They don't have to be together. This could be a good opportunity to do this huge opportunity for a lot of a lot of the NFL of stars of yesteryear. You know you have years of the world. We're all sitting around our phones all day with nothing to do. It's getting so desperate that some of the world's greatest minds are jimmy magnets up their nose. Please if you are an artist from the ninety S or two thousand. We haven't heard from for a while we'd love to hear from you out there. You could save another scientists from doing weird experiments on his face spill feel like I feel like if you're a woman or like the verve pipe out there then you have a duty to help save our scientists put some. You know if I haven't heard the song the freshmen in a long time. If that bad if the ver- Piper were I was. I can't remember either way. Just put just putting old cover out. They will get shared along. And you don't know the scientists are going to save from doing terrible things to themselves out of boredom you could even get and I don't know if this happened because I don't know if these people self isolate when you get to this level of fame like if that's an option for you if you go to an island big island for awhile but you could conceivably get a watch the throne reunion. Kanye and Jay. I don't know if it does that anymore. I don't know swearing. Like is that something that he's decided against doing or if he would. Now you're out but watch the throne you know God's on the throne Pretty Easy Christian remix. They're just waiting to a Christian remix all kinds of thought. Why Not Racist. And Everyone Watch to included. There'd be at their if they announce that hey. Connie J ARE DOING. Wash the throne kind of reimagining from their laptops live. Do you know how many scientists would have like lasers and magnets and Weird Circuit Board? So they're out to connect to their face and end up in the hospital with these down. Probably Watch this concert. Exactly saving the lives of our best minds. You know. They're going crazy like us man if anybody. If you're a band out there you've been sitting on the and even sitting down like shy. Email the guys and see if they WANNA get together for one more or less Seattle answers. Yes yes now is the moral note you we're going to be here from. Its till the end of the month. Apparently so so. Shoot your shot man all right. Well that'll wrap it up for law states come back. Drew Holcomb joins The trump how she's all right all right was oasis wonderwall or was it that was actually Jesse Kerry. Doing always wonder why see. That's why I don't want that. Should that is a primary example of what people don't want okay without elite and I think we've hit a new low point in this box. We're all according tame brain coming for all of us sooner or later a new low. There's something interfering with your happiness or preventing you from achieving your goals. Better help online. Counseling is there for you now. You can connect with your professional counselor at a safe and private online environment. It's so convenient. You can get help on your own time and at your own pace. You can skip secure video or phone sections bus chat and text with your therapist. Licensed professional counselors are available who are specialized in depression. Anxiety sleep issues. 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Raise money for out of work musicians so I wanNA talk to him a little bit about how the music scene is dealing with being in quarantine right now and I also wanted to ask him a little bit about why he's doing. These kitchen covers before we get into the interview. Here's a little clip of of a samba. He did with his wife for these kitchen covers. It's long Monday by John Brine. John Prien his family is revealed that he does have covert nineteen right now. So that's why he chose the sunk You told me that. He's praying for. John Hopes that the song helps the family. And everyone else who's stuck inside right now so come on baby ow Again brings me down rings. Nieto I wanted to ask you about is just the music community at general for those outside. How is this Houses affecting musicians and people in the industry and and what are they doing with this time? Sure Electric thoughts one Even though they're really sort of facing a massive amount of sort of unknown future trip everybody vegetate that idea. Like large gatherings is going to be one the lasting come back online There's a timeout. That really I think a lot of people who are just a lot of questions. Near several touring musician world is is sort of just completely up in the air. But I feel like everybody's stricken each other that's five-seater you know. Seen a lot of vulnerability from you know friendly friend Brian. I'm sober now. A couple of years is reaching out saying. Hey it's solutions really bad for people like us. If you need somebody to reach out to you know reach out to me on social media so I think people are making themselves excessive oil to each other really cool thing I think secondly I think there's a long vehicle scrambling to figure out what you know how to sort of make a living sort of You know social distancing two point zero whatever that's GonNa look like and we sort of found out in four weeks what you know what what's next So I think that's sort of you know on a lot of people's minds but also been a lot of you know there's a lot of really good things happening for people you're in immediate trouble. You know they all these different relief funds cares Cetera the are. You know I think people are being really generous and this concert last night on it. It's your facebook just so we could pay our band and crew for our loss work and we're going to be able to cover like at least a month and a half just from that one thing so I think he's just like general generosity out there but at some point that stuff's going to kind of run out its point question's GonNa raise. It really is something that drew pointed out that the wanted him to kind of expound. On is is the fact that during times like this. It's so often turned to music. Music is often a communal experience. We like planks. I'll be like hearing people saying we turn to things we've been listening to. And if this case while that's been taken away because we can't go to these shows. We can't sit around the campfire and sing. He had some thoughts about what that means for our national mood. Right now at the end of the day usually will certainly rise up anything else in the strangest thing about this year. He missed sort of global crisis when there is like any sort of major crisis You know not look back to two thousand eight nine. We're back to nine eleven and you know the thing that people do things that people like to do in those. Christ's Are you know church. Sports restaurants and bars live music. And and there's four healing bombs sir. Be taken away Very early I mean. Obviously there's music on the Internet and that's definitely happening thing but it's it's not not quite the same but it's something it's not it's not zero but certainly not one hundred so I think in some ways I read somewhere that they is like did nothing to do with us. But it was just talking about viruses thing. Hope for the best plan for the worst. Some sort of an alley right now that it would make sure keep people you know and and you know and not as sort of tire situation meantime trying to figure out what what what what's next so that's why. I think these covers are so important because it's not the same thing as gathering around in a big space in singing together but but it is something we can. It's the closest we can get you know doing these covers In some ways is even more vulnerable. I think than doing a show you know. You're you're these your senior year artists. Your favorite artists in their kitchens are on their couches and and there's a little bit of the artifice stripped away so I wanted to know if he felt like this is more vulnerable in some ways. Musician friend that fall is clear doing this. But I don't think I can do. It can't control the audio or like you know it's like you know. You're basically Volta to the IPHONE or the you know whatever your devices you know. Camera and microphones and you know. We sorta always been known as like a little bit sort of grassroots Hungary ways. It's it's sort of you know it sort of lines up with our ethos over the over the years but it is pretty weird especially like last night. We did a concert and he finished song. And it's just like the silence of the screen. You know I mean you can look at a little parts that are being Shanna like an applause or or any sort of proud or spots. I will say it's not that dissimilar honestly for being in studio though it's one of those strange thing studios like have performance. Then it's just like sort of silent so it's a weird thing it's sort of like being studio with like knowing that everybody's watching on their phones or on their screens like it's like you know live streaming studio session so it is. It is Weird Benetton. Honestly the feedback sort of delayed. You know 'cause then you go be comments and people Stephen People sharing stuff and it's been pretty fun It's been a a a great thing I think just to offer out there but also for me. It's it's been. It's giving me a creative challenge. Every day groundhog day environment to go like okay. Like maybe bill learn Sono and sometimes they're difficult Melis. You know outside of what my sort of instincts would be in so morning as well. I think you know that will serve me and it keep gets me. You know up in atom gets me doing something some details like you know. They're looking at me like what we're doing today and I'm like I don't know during the crisis when you doing so I really appreciate drew. Anneli everything they're doing for For the community for the people who work within a for a for national national. We really appreciate them then. I hope you'll check out his music dragons out now you can donate to the cause of their hunter as many for at Magnolia Music then Mo Magnolia Music. Our memo everything go to their team and twenty percent would go to musicians affected by the pandemic So that was it for drew holcomb up next more corentin season John Recommendations for you distractions are familiar occurrence in our day to day. Lives and they seem to be more frequent when it comes to our faith lives. We have thousands of voices disrupting us an all too often. We listened to them. We are content with a Christian branded life yet miss out on what we were created for knowing God intimately in his new book the Sacred Chase Heath Adamson encourages us to pursue God regardless of where we've been or where we are the sacred chased book for anyone who longs for deeper connection to God who has felt far from peace and hope and who needs the assurance that God is both interested in who they are an accepts them. Take a step forward in your faith. Walk and discover that you're asked close to guy as you want to be. You're listening to make it look so easy by today's guests. It drew holcomb the neighbors during this time of Self Quarantine Jesse. United trying to offer some tips for people who are looking for what for what to watch. There's a paralyzed by the options out there. So we're out here trying to help people know if you're looking for something if you're not if you're scrolling through Netflix. Game decide what to watch. Here's some things that we like. And this week we decided to go pick genres each of US nitrogen right to go with Jesse. You said you were going to recommend some action movies. Non Superhero category. Yeah that's right so so grownup action at number five. I think five action movies. That don't have superheroes. Here's the thing. The great thing about action movies is it to me. It's the best form of movie. Escapism like everyone likes to laugh at a comedy right there dramas are good. You know but to me. There's nothing as like light hearted as like a good action movie yard. I mean like it takes you into another world that it has lots of emotion doubt. There's nothing like who get action movie so I'm GonNa real quick give you five. You've probably you've probably seen a three of at least three of these. You probably have already seen set. Two of these might be new to you But three of them are very watchable and I did. My picks tyler. I stuck to south. That is currently available on Netflix. For people okay. They've already they've already. I may say by this point and after props appearance last week. They've already finished tiger king and now they need some action movie recommendations first off a recent addition to net flicks What I personally think is Christopher Nolan's best movie Inception everyone you've probably seen inception but it's probably been a while since you've seen inception It's a very the movie. Holds up really really well Tyler I know are you Chris. You're a pretty big Christopher Nolan. Yup I like him and I think inception is one of his best. Yeah I think this shows it has all the things. Christopher Nolan does well which armful display which he does really well like non special effects driven effects. You know like there's not that he doesn't like a lot of CGI. He likes stunts to be performed in the real world at UC that a lot in the dark knight franchise but this one to where the cool scenes were like. Joseph Gordon Levitt is running around the spinning room. You know a lot of the dream sequences use natural effects. Super Super Great Movie. Rea- still holds up. Still Fun to watch and you like any Christopher Nolan movie the more times you watch it the more you pick up on little agency the first time. Okay the second one is what is I. Consider one of the like Adam. Mckay's sort of forgotten blockbuster Adam McKay who originally Kinda got his start on. Snl's and a lot of stuff. Most of his his big early movies for the Suffo- Will Farrell like Anchorman and Talladega Nights Stepbrothers but he's gone on to become an actually a pretty important filmmaker. Who did the big short? He did? Vice he's working on one about Elizabeth homes called bad blood You know he's become like a weirdly important filmmaker considering his start. But one of the blockbusters that I feel like didn't really get a lot of credit but actually is a really fun action. Buddy cop movie that still holds up is will ferrell and Mark Walberg. S- The other guys tyler. Have you seen the other guys? It's great how. What are we for for people that that have in it and that need a little cell because a lot of people are? GonNa hear Welfare Mark. Wahlberg and be like. I don't know if I'm into that as an action movie tyler. Do you think that holds up as sort of a really as a re washable action buddy comedy. I think it's very rare because it's not. It was like well received when it came out. Well reviewed Alabama. But it's not. It's not like you said it's just not up there with the rest of his in terms of how people talk about it but up but really re watchable end the Welfare Mark. Wahlberg dynamic is is excellent. Yeah Yeah it's both of them doing with. Its Mark Wahlberg at his most self-aware because there's a Lotta Times. Mark Wahlberg is very unselfish aware. This is a movie where he kind of plays into his persona. And it's really really funny okay so inception the other guys okay. This is an indie film and I may have recommended this years ago. It is a fantastic movie. If you like early Wes Anderson like rushmore. Bottlerocket era wes Anderson Movies. There's film called Band of robbers and it is about a couple. Have you seen Banner Robbers Tyler? I haven't no I haven't either so it's sort of in that sort of saying it's a very stylized movie but it's about a group of young bank robber so sort of that bottle rocket type of story line That that you know plan a heist but it's actually based on contemporary interpretations of characters from Mark Twain Novels. So the two primary characters in film are based on Tom Sawyer and huckleberry Finn so imagine taking Tom Sawyer and Huck Finn and putting them in a contemporary bank heist movie. That has sort of the style of a Anderson Film. That's what you have with Banner Roberts abandoned robbers a really fun cool movie and really unlike anything else on Netflix. Very high concept like I said kind of taking for the Mark Twain thing but also the style and story really movies got band of robbers so the other guys band of robbers inception the other one. This is GonNa be a controversial pick and I don't care because I loved it and I'm GonNa make the recommendation. It was a netflix original. They kinda landed like a lead balloon when it came out But the trailer when it was released last year I I was hadn't been that excited about a new movie in a while because it it definitely played. It's like eighties vibe. Right on. Its on its sleeve. You know you knew this was going to be a movie. That could have come out in like the die. Hard era except takes itself way more seriously. The movie is Triple Frontier Starring Oscar. Isaac then athletic. It's got a really great tyler. Did you see triple frontier? I did I did on your recommendation. I watch triple frontier and give it a ranking dollar deal. Don't protect my feelings. Three to five. It didn't do it didn't do it unto me didn't do a tone for me straight straightforward but I love the cast is phenomenal. I would say it I would say it's almost like they're in my opinion and I think there's two movies and one of them is pretty good. Yeah exactly so the plot Chandler. Have you seen triple frontier? No okay? So here's the plot of the movie. Ben Affleck and Oscar. Isaac are joined by a couple of their old. A special forces buddies. These guys are all retired from the military now but decided to undertake their own. Sort of black ops mission where they are going to steal all the money from a Central American drug lord by rating his jungle compound and performing a five-man Heist. What what flight. And if the movie would have stopped after the heist was over. Then it would have been an awesome heist movie but like you said after the heist is completed. There's basically another full move very long movie. You could stop watching it after after the heist but it's actually a lot of fun you watch the whole thing. Is that for for an action movie. It it actually has a lot on its mind now how it executes. Commentary is up for debate. But there's a lot of there's a lot of commentary about greed about war profiteering about using violence for good interesting movie kind of flew under the radar car triple want frontier and finally my final pick. It's mainly because it's peak. Nicholas Cage. I feel like you ever need a reminder of how fun Nicholas Cage can be when he wants to have a lot of fun and you can actually watch this if you have kids because it is believe it or not it is. Disney movie is national treasure. I mean it's guilty popcorn fun but that's being Nicholas Cage and I Apologize. No one for wrestling All right so I decided to go instead of action. I decided to go the spooky out the elevator horror movies. The you know the because I think a lot of people still Kind of think when they think of franchise or hostile or the movement. We don't necessarily this platform recommend but if you like if you like spooky staff and you want to be stressed out by something that has zero stakes like a movie that you can pause anytime. These are some recommendations that sometimes I'd helps me a little bit and if it helps you then I can tell you that these are going to be a light on the sort of exploitive Torture porn our content attempts to get this franchise. This genre rather a bad name will hopefully give you a actually a really interesting story. Anarchistic experience for you anyway when one of my favorites Two thousand Spanish movie called the orphanage. It was produced by Guillermo. Del Toro directed by a guy that name of J bay on. It's often confused for movie called the Orphan. Which is an American movie. That's not what I'm talking about. This is very an. I'm not a fan of that movie. This one the orphanage is about a woman who was who group isn't Was adopted out of an orphanage and goes back to with her family as an adult to try to restart the old orphanage. Take it over So she can help other. Kids have the same experience that she did positive experience. Obviously things go awry in this this home that is not super suitable for young children orphans or otherwise and it ends up being a really interesting story in my opinion about parenthood about the lengths bet Especially MOMS will go for their kids. What I like about this one is how much it subverts. The trope of how women are used in horror movies which especially in the past. It's gotten a lot better recently but in the past has usually been as bait or or shooting practice for whoever. The movie monster is But in this case it's quite different. And the Oh the star who's played by women name. Deb Belen Rada is a is extremely interesting extremely competent. Horror Movie Caroline. She's scared but she's also a Chooses again again. She doesn't just do the dumb thing he's like. Why are you going in there? You understand like she's going much. He makes the moves that she does and takes the actions that she does and it's a really interesting. Look about sort of motive so the orphanage. It is very frightening. I won't sugarcoat It'll lead to some sleepless nights but it's a really great story just what you want and just want you want in a global pandemic about creepy orphan goes so not actually less scary than global data. That is out of Control Right. Another one that came out just last year and it was such an interesting part of this guy is a lot of people. Thought it is available now to to rent. You can find it home if you missed it. Somehow I gotTA recommend us. Jordan peels movie starring. Lupita the ONGO US it's say I I wanNA take a moment here to address elephant. Which is at a lot of people are just like. Why does don't like scary movie? I'm just like they just get too scary for me and I don't like what they do to my emotional. And that's completely understandable. That's fair totally fair or not. I'm not telling anybody Saying argh going to do that because he's movies are scary. I do Jordan peels. Movies tend to be a little less scary than your average or movie their their par- horrors. Yeah yeah they're a little excited. You're pretty short on like band. Like like Big Bang's make you go jump and things that jump out of the shadows the The jump scares the scorecards. Pretty light on those. It's more about mood and atmosphere. So that's the that's the thing that you're worried about than I recommend that you give this a shot. You can even sorta cheat a little bit and if you want to go online and and checkup kapadia entry level. A little bit of Coming then that might be helpful for you but Jordan. Peele very interesting filmmaker in us is very very good and it's got a lot of ideas it's got a lot of big themes on US nine. It's a it's A. That's a very fun movie to try to unpack in think about messages about class about You know privilege you know about family. It's a really fascinating movie to think about after you watched it us. Yeah Yeah and then the The last one this movie that came out last year as well. It didn't do very well actually in the theaters which is too bad. Because I thought it was quite good although I can kind of understand. Maybe why didn't play for well? But Dr Sleep is the regular starring sequel to The shining it came out about forty years after the first shining movie a and and this one was directed by Mike Flanagan. It was adapted from Stephen King's own sequel novel which was published in two thousand thirteen. Did either of you guys catch that or do you have any interest in the shining sort of franchise? I I'm I'm certainly interested. I mean Kubrick is is a genius and I feel like the shining for anyone who considers themselves a fan of film. It's is worth watch even though it's still horrifying movie So I'm interested in seeing Dr Sleep. How does it how does it compare because I know Kubrick Free Famously took some Some liberties with Stephen King's original novel Stephen King Den like But from what I understand doctor. Sleep is more faithful to King's work. How does it match up? It can in terms of like watching as a sequel to the film the Shining Tyler. So which is probably a point of controversy depending on how you feel about the shining because this is very much a sequel to the book to Steven King Book instead of being a sequel to the movie. And if you've read bland or watched winery aware differences. You know that's a pretty marked It's pretty important change but it is a change. I think it was a good choice and obviously it got the approval. Stephen King which is which is important for this Been due on the theaters again. But it I do think it is a if you tend to like Stephen King's general vibe which is obviously he likes scary stuff but he also is really interested in the ideas of the things that can beat back. Scary things like family community. Love a I think that this is very faithful to that world view and it's it exists in service of that and I think that People were I think you'd like it. Obviously he's great for like the full the whole family if Roy kids or anything like this but they if this is something that the kids are in bed and you can't sleep this will not put you to sleep None of them went ahead. Well the but if you're into this genre than joy the potentially enjoy those movies of their more and with that. I think that that will probably wrap it up for us. Hey I've got to say thank you to drew for taking time to talk to me today. I really do. Love drew's music whatever. Elliot's able to join him. 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How to make it in FAKE LA - The Struggle of Starting a Business with Benji2Timez

No Chaser with Timothy DeLaGhetto

1:04:55 hr | 8 months ago

How to make it in FAKE LA - The Struggle of Starting a Business with Benji2Timez

"Oldies. What's going on? His little. People killing people die. Here didn't hurt. Hit him crying. What you practice what you preach! turney other G.. What's up y'all welcome back to the no chaser podcast. I'm John Toronto suit. And I'm Nikki Blades and if you're on notice, we got our boy Benji two times on the couch today. the. Other part of the no mere have a clothing brand called goody brand Banji is like helps. Run Shit. You know what I'm saying. Basically, he's basically like one third of the Good Brand Company. You know so. Yeah I know. I know put. Working that out. Mission GOODY ON THIS NO! No Yeah. So Yeah, we got here sitting in chilling. For Nikki, Blake's for Nikki Blades. Hey, good news, though to everybody we actually studios GONNA, open up like next week, so we'll be back in the studio possibly for the lab the rest of the month. Yeah I've this been a setting. Then the studio you know what? I like. Being in the studio right because it makes us feel legit. Is Good I feel like when you hear yourself in the micro in the headphones shit, you feel a little more. Like I'm putting on a show to me. But people in the comments have been saying they like the vibe of us chilling on the couch. So. That's why when I go back in the studio I told them. I'm like switch the studio. Let's switch it up a little bit. Put some couches. Our having a little more laid back now, so the only thing I hate about this is the couch. because. I don't have the table to Blackmore McGinlay John. So other than that I. Love this. Yeah, but now he's bringing this to that so I'm just going to be in bad shape 'cause. I'm just go. Let it flourish fugger no pillow today. Hands that I knew wasn't gonNA do anything. I'm like I. got some short swords to. See, because these are too tight, so they can't grip which everything now? He just can't grip. Just have to okay. They might real on what. What's going to be is though we finally for everybody. Who Misses Nike Blades? They get to see all of Niki Blades Hugo repairs. See No it'd be very fidgety with her outfits. Sitting sitting just isn't Very flattering for most right. Yeah, okay for girls. They gotta yeah because the clothes. Tighter. For y'all you wear, Lose tee-shirt, whatever, but if you live right now? Oh, it's terrible. Exactly you know what I'm saying yeah. I'm skinny. Got Anybody, that's sitting. Sitting is just it's not. Very. Not on a now we just have to practice are sick. You know what I'm saying, God. Right some it is I just look. All of my. Book. Can you do that? Can you sit like that for two hours? No, you. You're GonNa Fall into your comfort. To Look, how looks fuck man how he looks not important? We four hour blocks. As we bulk shoe. Only down here for the day so. I got. Everybody lay flat on their bags and we shoot from that line the move. We don't even have to look at each other. We nobody talk nobody. Nobody we out here. You Know Doug is go, that's. That's not even crazy. No! Cool if we could all sing and we did. That I fucking double, that'd be. That'd be Bayreuth if they can lay out little pillows. Would you miss I contract talking to each other then you do this. Or somebody like a coup last fort. Fort. You Ryan. Let's do one, so everyone laid down. Camera of here. All right, that's not bad. Ideas be flown soon as I walked out. Banji wasn't necessarily going to be like the guest today. He was like he was like Yo. Let me pull up and be be rory to the to the JOE budget. Assure kick it right. Over. To the people that have been keeping up with my shit over the years an often get the question. Is Benji do true. WHO HAS BEEN G two times? How is he like as you are heike like? Any `Nigma. You feel your mystery on this social media, because like it's not like you really post about what you do, but you out here in La Thriving L. as a very expensive place. The Og og fans know that you used to wrap along with the little crazy. And that whole camp. budget is out here. So what the fuck do! Rory, your yes gills. Only thing. Down it. So. What what are you doing out here because you don't be on snapchat either? I want snapchat, too like my friends only. have one or go Iran we. Channy fucking posted him bike ears. I'm Jay Black to it. I managed artists I've been doing since since forever over a decade now and started with craze. Like you said I I was rapping with him. and just fell into row of managing just touring and you know like when the Youtube was. And everybody torn. That's how we all met and That's that's where I got my like foundation. And all a lot of that shit too late. You know crazy idea and all that. And that's where you know. You can't forget where you came from. How long have you been la now Five six years now, five dams has been five or six. Crazy because. I used to bug you. To pull up and stay, I'll stay for a month. Oh, yeah player. I almost forgot before Benji officially moved to La. He he came to me for like a month, and then actually when I, first when I first moved into my paramount's spot, it was like five six motherfuckers just in that shit for a month. It was you low crazed. Michelle Martinez Singer. She was staying there for whatever reason I forgot. And you. And you definitely there just because because people there and Joel leave. Everybody in my house for a month and let me tell you did. It was first of all. It was great. It was a great time I. Feel like I was on fucking. Asian real world. It was a nice little I didn't even have a bed yet. I was on an air mattress. What I'm saying! We're all Chilean fucking popping champagne eating spam for breakfast every day like it was lit, but my water bill skirt. Bill was like twenty bucks a month before. Two hundred bucks. Off they be imagine like six hours had night she's. No I came state a couple of times like like on a monthly visit. Just because I wanted to get a feel of La and like understand a little bit more before I like fully our I'll always knew. I was going to move because I was in Minneapolis. And I had I felt like I was hitting a ceiling there We already started working on Goody as Managing Andrew Garcia. And I felt like all. Any of these and work was out la, so I was like all right but I. don't fuck. Just jump out here, yeah! Had All to like you know what I'm saying, couch, Surfing Shit. But. I mean that's I think that's a common mistake for La. People Kinda. They, they don't get the feel of it I actually understand it and like. I I think you got extremely lucky and you are the perfect person to back up the shit. We say all the time right because you. Learn the ropes. From people from here you know, so. You didn't come out here and become one of those people that everybody associates where La. But imagine if you didn't know people here. To do. You for sure would be one of those people you already a high base. gave. Argue all. Be Soviet used to call him a high all the time he's against. Even because IBM. Air To, St? Louis I'm GONNA taste maker. Close. But we're always GONNA. Make Fun of that. I like that keeps me grounded look. I looked to bandies, credit right, which is first of all I always use you as an example for people say Nah laying share. Everybody's fake out. There I moved to La. Everybody just wants to use you for Blah Blah, Blah. I always use you as an example of somebody who came out here, saying like you. You were able to play the game. Right Way. Build connections. You fucking put in the work and you weren't into the facade side of things right? You came here to work, and that's what you did. And you built these relationships, and you were able to fuck in like flourish out here. Know what I'm saying definitely. Did it though right way? For I'll make my jokes and talk my shit, but you definitely did it the right way like we watched you grind. You didn't come out here in fucking buyer, Mercedes. Right away to look like us that do yeah. Now you got one and you can afford. Of everybody does what they think they should do. Hear they got here. They go to the fuck parties because they feel like they need to be out here. They they hear about Oh, you know you gotTA network, and they'll go to these parties with any everybody that is in the same boat. Don't have shit pretending like they have, and then now when they leave it without. You know networking. You just drink and around a bunch of people taking pictures. Shit now. I was I was super. Lucky like that has to be part of the when they talk about like a formula ooh like. How did you get out here and start working? And like actually you know, make money and get to where you are like look as part of that Shit, like no matter what you say like build built relationships, obviously like with the all other relationships that I had and. I mean that all a lot of that, too that too yeah I mean we you know everybody needs a little bit of luck. A little bit of universe juicy. No, that should happen. That's it is necessary in the timing also likes is super important, so see yeah, but I remember coming out here. And we would like we party. We was partying we. Look you not to the extent of other people. We weren't like coked out and shit. is now. That was never my way five. But we definitely we would always have You know especially like the condo years. Because you know I wasn't married wasn't living with she. Only saw her week out of month so three weeks out of the Ma going crazy. But. We definitely party especially. You know. It helps that. We knew Myron. Ran The club because I remember. T K yeah. Crazy Greystone Oh. Oh, yeah, stone on what a by! Those. Greystone, so much man. That was a good. Greystone guys don't know Greystone is was very popular hip hop club out here. In La, right and there aren't a lot. Greystone notoriously was like Sunday. Night was hip hop. You go to Greece on Sunday night. and. That was when I really enjoyed going. I was like. Wow, oh, it's a greystone week. Let's get it and this I was like boozy already after the show. You gotta get some bottles got get a table. You know the be out there with the fuck in Regula people in the crowd. For sure it was always such a nice, nice, little low mood. No was like a spoiled period of like going to the club. Knowing like you know coming out you hearing like aw, skipping that line going straight to like. And here's what I learned is I can technically write off the bottles because I'm celebrating with my company Yeah. So it's like and I'm logging everything so I can write that off. 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Are we making some good money this year? You should probably incorporate and have a business account. You know it'll be better in the end. I'm like all right, cool cool, but then I for some reason I didn't trust it all the way. I'll still kind of nervous and I didn't do everything I was supposed I was still putting all my money into my personal account, and I'll still spending money from account, and then when task came when tax time came all, if fucked me up, bro like he was like. What are you doing? You're supposed to be doing everything where you've been. I really I didn't even know. I don't really know how to actually worked and then. Oh, I paid soul much that your dog it was. Oh, it hurt. Bro Used to disclose that information to us a be sick. It was so. I would throw up and I was. There was one year that hit him, which was a good year for me and I had a good year. What he had to pay. More than what the made. And that was a good year wrong. Oh, Shit, the federal. Otit. Utilization to that hear here. That was the year. Learn fucking lesson. Okay, tax man I will listen to. Run Initiative through the business account from now on. And but it's crazy because of what I do, I can literally almost write off everything pretty. Much like I don't do it too much with close because I. don't even buy clothes that much anymore about you know. Yeah, but when I was doing Tim's bakery Shit, especially like Oh, were making fashion videos now I can write off these clothes. Off Hats. My thing used to be a different hat in every video. I would fuck. That's like Dan. Spend a Lotta fucking money on that. This is crazy. The Girls Right now, fucking dildos. Tight. fucking dildos lingerie wigs makeup. Whatever the fuck they wear or not wear yeah! Condoms. So easy to be a hot girl. I mean it's easy to make nine. Yeah! I'm glad shit like only fans exists because it's like you know if you got dudes that are down to pay to see. Then make your money. Even exchange but I hate that it pigeonholes them. Hopefully. We see a change in that, so 'cause allies like you did that. You can't do things after that. Oh, yeah! Yeah! I mean I think that whole. The whole sex industry is kind of like you know. Look down upon that way. whereas. I mean it's getting a little more commercialized now like you got Ta performing at the. Fuck in a four point Oh form he just. He just did like a creative behind it I think I think he was just a creative, okay. Because I, remember I was cool with somebody from Bang brose. Right and be heard. I was going to be Miami one year never like Yo. Do you drive the bus? The bus when I was little bang bus and I was like Allio. I really wanted to do it right, but my my agent she was like Tam. Don't drive the. She was like she was like she was like okay. Look this talk about goals right you're trying to do she was like. Do you think will Smith when he was coming up when he drives the pain like? Fine I. Guess You right and Yeah. I look forward to the day where a girl can have only fans account. Audition for row where she plays a teacher, right bookstore role has a good time doing it showbiz cancel. She goes back to only vans or something and nobody bats an eye. Yeah, that that's that's the world I. WanNa live I'm never hate on the hustle. Yeah, I think that's that's how you get it. That's how you gotta get it like who cares. Data he wants to. Fuck it. I mean a lot of a lot of times, too, is like Because I, know a couple of porn girls. WHO like they're making so much money doing all the fans? They don't have to point anymore. That's dope for them. You know what I'm saying. It's like Oh i. don't have to like. Pretend like I enjoy fucking these dues anymore I literally just did on my coo for to. Italy y'all. Way More money. That's what I always said like. Back when the Cam Grosz, it was probably. This is way better than doing porn. Nobody can touch you. Do, you have complete control. Here's a quick Bang Bros fact. which is crazy because I'm apparently like mangoes must've been paying attention to back when we're all and okay, they tweeted me. A Bar, my well for one of the candy ciphers. We'll be all these ciphers back. And it was the bar it was like A. Charlie Shing Swag because my line, so Pierre. Okay Or something along those lines. I can't even remember. Yeah, but they were like. They tweeted me that line. And then put like wow or some shit. That's clean shot because it was like my big. Craze go for real. I think they were really like on the Asian American. The way share yeah yeah interesting. A Bang rose man shots. Bang grows and. Shout out to browsers as well all the that seems to be really nice. Everybody I've met in the in the adult industry has been really nice to me. I'm I. I'M NOT INCLUDED INTO SHADOW TO. Hear negative things not about those people specific How I wanted to say nobody's no. Oh Yeah I saw some sneak shit to. Shout outs. He's changing women's or Thank you for the t shirt. And A. Fanny! Pack as well. We should put out. Some fanny packs am. Working on it. But Fuck! Off Dan Yeah, we got some bags coming. Not necessarily fanny packs, but you can put it on your fanny I guess. I had this had one of my favorite sides side bags, right? Randomness airport in Canada. A. We should. We should do it, and it wasn't fucking with it at first, and then finally it was like all right. He was yours, so we can use it at a sample, right. To. Place that does all the sheet and then two days, and then they lost my favorite side bag also. I absolutely I. It's so funny because there's Shit in there from a million years ago. Sounds. Like? We all thought it was there until one day I remembered fuck ask when I was there. It is like. So we know where it is. Before Raga we were never against the beside. It was just you had a big giant one that you wanted us to do and we don't want to do that. You've got that okay, we can do that. Yeah, you had the big as a culture. That y'all do, but here's the thing. I bought that little and before I got the coast one, but you always pitch the coachmen. And then that one became. Your favourite is like I mean. We could flip that. Yeah I mean. It had to do with the fact that. My parents had got me that one too and. My mom is like. She'd see me walking around with the lowest I bag. And then she was like 'cause mine was black right and she was like. Did you ever see like? Colors or designs. Pretty much. You know much styles pretty kind of like our key low key these days, not too many patterns I just like you know like just black stuff for the most part, and she was like okay well. How about like a bag like But like what if like? It's like a Cammo something like Oh! I love that I like to say okay coogan already. That was CAMMO owners. Didn't you used to put the one that you love that we lost. Inside coach. Confused was because the the one that Jolla. Wait. Was it was a it was soft I used to put. It was the main reason I had those bags was format blog camera? It wasn't a good camera bag because it's so soft, so put the camera and a camera bag and. sybase funny one of those yeah, so speaking of goody. So a lot of Yaw ask about. Starting a business and clothing brand and let me tell you guys dish it I. Don't I'm not even a as hands on as as them to our. But dish. It is difficult. A lot of shit man, yeah, so the. Some people have like half the time and I'm like now. These are things you're going to need to do initially, but it's so much, but is is so fucking much ignoring me. Yes, and here's the thing yacht you know, and this this can go for a lot of different businesses to it's like. We really don't make that much money. Doing good like we make enough to kind of survive. We make enough to keep on making new sheet there but. You know. Like a lot, and it's a lot of people trying to do it in like the business makes decent money. US individually don't make these money off of it because the business has to keep. Making money you know what I'm saying. We haven't got to the point where. Everything is just everything you know. You're having to reinvest it all the time. Everything you make back into it, yeah! At least it's not like. We have to put in money everytime. Shit. Yeah, because at that point, I think it's time to. But but it's not. It's not a million dollar. Business Yeah, yeah, yeah you in it I'd say that's what I always say. Absolutely yeah. Yeah. Hey! You like sex right? You, Benji like sex right, Rick. We all like. Sex, and if you like sexual love Blue Dot com look you know we we not as. We don't have as much more joe as we did. In early twenties, saying everybody's getting old now. Sometimes you need a little some extra, okay, blue two minute performance enhancement for the bedroom. When you like to last longer go extra rounds, I'm no I would all right. 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Yes, I've I have I've made a great living doing what I've been doing right, but do-does V. my email like your man put up my first video last week. It only has like fifty views like. How can I be like what you do like? You know how many years of like no views and and and not having money before I even began to really like. Make any type of living off this to do what you did in two hundred and fifty more time. What do you want now? They see they see where it's at now. Really see like people assume shit is easy. It is so difficult and you gotta understand. goody like there's you're doing all kinds of different shit that you're. Different work got different work. Yeah, I got different Shit going on right right so like. We're literally also just dividing up our time, not like yeah. Which is which to me is important to have multiple hustles. If, if this was collectively our one thing, it would be Outta here. But we can't just focus on. You know what I'm saying like. We came into it not just like. Hey, we're only gonNA. Do Goodie at this point. We don't have that Luxury of leading a bunch of Shit. Go you know what I'm saying? The focus there plus Benji runs like ten different clothing brands. There's no loyalty here. fucking. Our samples for the. Shit. So. You talked about the managing, yes. We just like, but that's how I wanted to go. We talk a piece by piece. So outside of the management thing, this is another layer of what Benji does. Yeah, this is column Yes, Gills. Way? Here's my reason for calling you. Yes, God. Yes Gills did a great job of creating positions for herself. Regardless of anything else she's done. That's annoying, negative or whatever you WANNA call it. She's created lanes for her over. That don't really exist for other PE- was not like she created something that now a bunch of people can do she creative and I feel like you are really good at that, too, because we have no idea what to call you and the space of what we're about to talk about right now in this quote, the so try to explain what it is you do there. Okay No. I, don't hate yesterday. How this podcast go, yeah. You don't hear some Shit. You know what I'm saying like y'know. Hustle always. The clothing shit so I started with craze. took his merch and we saw the opportunity to make clothing line so now. This is where how far it goes back a decade ago. And I had to learn about screen printing I had to learn about. Know t shirts. That's where it all starts all the most clothing lines. That's where it starts. And I know Shit, so it was just also like just looking up shit doing by experience. And being broke as fuck. And so we took that South Africa a clothing line, and it was doing well for you know however many years. And that's when I like already had been into clothing. and. That's when I was like okay. this shit I like doing this shit. And it's working. So then from there, you know never not work. Is Never. Exactly. From there. Because, because the vote just like learning all that shit learning how to ship learning learning how to like I, I was literally packing orders and I still pack orders day like people don't get that if you are ordered from Goodie, it has been touched by Benji to. If it was wrong. Look more. But there's a fourth guy that shuttle C. fucking. And I fucked. That will come to town. Never my, Is never his fault, but I've just now gotten into a position where I can. Hire a couple people. Do fulfilment fulfillment is a business on its own. Oh, yeah, because I learned how to do that and just learning that whole system of like you know packaging in doing. All these third party e Comm APPs like that's where I came to y'all. When our like go about do Goodie. and. Yeah, that was fucking. is been a ten year process. It wasn't like overnight. I was making money. I was making enough money for for my rent and like some groceries. I remember. That's why I was getting paid for like. Five years. NOT ONLY IN FUCKING NO! But so from that he's turned into a guy who hall you glassy where you. I know you disclose so much I mean it's it's no. No, no, no I think if anywhere I would rather share here Yes, so from that I started doing now like production director. which is. You know I'm of Bryan Brian, poof, clothing, line and UH. Only will be a part of like you know your shit and his shit from whatever on, but I started doing production for other people as well as. Part of their shit. You know I'm just I'm just manufacture, so that has allowed me to step into that space of like just knowing how to make clothes and. Our first collection that was console that told me like that taught us a lot a whole bunch, which was at the jerseys. Like the shack, The Oh. The dream, right? That was a dream from like screen print shit. In Fabric, borough. Fabric! On them. So. Once I got into a got to La and like that was like the vision of seen other people in downtown fabric district, looking through fabrics, looking at swatches all this other Shin. Fascinated I'll super fascinated with that and then so. When there's some of that shape, all you some of the If you remember we probably you some swatches. Fabric and shit like pinstriped jacket. The first sample. No not really what color was. It was like white and gray, or was that light blue? It was like it was like why why and Grey I think I think I, think jr or center somewhere. We went through all those all those steps. You like, so it wasn't like. We give you the play. we literally we had to learn. We were downtown mugging. Didn't know what seller permanent was. overpaying for a Fabric for Templates for everything we paid lot. Yeah, I know I think that's pain you're do. Fuck up where. The people that were doing the shack it's. Talk about. All right, so our first of like major cutting soapies you G-. First major cutting so peace Bro. It took forever right I. Don't remember exactly what they did, but yet they moved at some point opposite and when we got them the first time. The left sleeve with backwards on all. Because Albo pets and the patch, is he? Had to get all these shares redone, and for some reason, it was just all bad, but we got through. It was crazy and that's some of the shit. That like will happen when you get into this shit is just people taking advantage. Of. View not really knowing what the fuck you're doing that's. On I think it's on boy, sometimes like 'cause that company painted themselves as like leaders in the game been around for this. We've done this this and this for that Yeah, it's a little pricey, but you're paying for Quality Yada Yada then to find out. They were basically a third party. Data Guy Fabric in our sketches, and all that Shit and gave it to somebody else to do. It went out of business yet halfway through the project. No one's owning. The place as making your clothes, everybody is third party, and like, and that's a vice to yard. is like really kind of think about it because we wanted to do it so bad that we were just like fugger however. Negotiated some of the prices, but then like we didn't know what the price points was. Standards Yeah, so we were like fuck it whatever y'all charging us. We think is correct. Do it so we get. We learned like I learned. Who almost just like a lot of the all the foundation I mean. That's part of it right I? Mean like you said it's part of paying your dues and making your mistakes I. Mean That's how you learn shit from mega mistakes you know. Up losing money broke else. Is Probably. The best thing that's. It's continued to happen to me over the last decade right, you might not take. Take the occasion well. You you crews occasion we. Take Lower Case W.! Take small. Like. Smoke And then there's just win. I have Agni still. Old. DASELL eld. Oh no but. Failure has been does honestly like you're not gonNA. You'RE NOT GONNA, learn. Shit what I'll tell and. A bunch of times. We're still failing it every day. Learn from that Shit. Take fails would Ya. You know about. You! had. Like eyeless figure. Interest free. There's a lot of stuff if you be like to keep going. Just. How. Are you difficult it goes back to. It's so difficult. Yeah, so now like I do production so always say like close helps me live. The music tells me to like thrive. That's Kinda like what I'm what I'm in music enclose. They goes. Surprisingly somehow now. Yeah made these short short. Shorts. No, they were looking real more tires. Yeah, they're more tight shorts and then. We don't talk about that later. That's what he wanted to do. From the for this is like two years ago. Ties. But Yeah. Originally. It was like the fucking like legit. Yeah. I. Don't know if he would actually but. Little twists. and. I'm tired, so we can. We can do that without you know type. People get mad at us. Yeah! To. Me How living in La compared to. Minneapolis. Completely different, yeah, but also not so different. Okay WHO. Let me make this. Make sense for you. It's not completely two different because I'm still moving away, move. Of always kind of learn how to move in Minneapolis. You're not having a hard time with the being in the big city compared to meany apple is dog. I mean I I again. I attribute a lot of Shit, too like the the months that I spent here kind of testing the waters. Like not to say I got the partying and shit out the system the system because like we I was going in for a long time. Like all that Shit Like I. Love the turn the turn turn edgy. Oh Shit. But the number you want shot Bruschi. Man That's was crazy. You know normally drunk by now. Yet I mean look. There were a lot of times and I remember when. Kind of both you especially you like I'm am often I'm not going to drink, but then it was like you know then. When it was time, it was like. Oh, it's time. I hit you like we all work. I'm GONNA quit during. Not As many as you would think, but it's been. It's been a decent amount. These in the mountain I'm just like. I only have quit to prove a point. One. which he did not prove. To you, yes. To Be You still think you still think I've got a problem. Yes. I don't I don't think I don't think your problem is alcoholism I think. Your problem. Is something different? You like to use alcohol to make you entertaining in situations where you don't need it. You love to say Oh. I have an idea. Let's do drunk when you already had a good idea we are. And that to me is a problem because you always. Drink to get drunk when doing that, but I do that. Yeah, yes, so data a problem. But I don't think your problem. Is Alcoholism. Okay? No, that's fair, but I. also I just I still feel like she's just funny or when I'm. Funnier. Here's the thing I feel like when you when you add that on there. I'm doing that. Not because I don't think I'm funny without alcohol, but because it brings when people see drunk Blah Blah Blah. It's like okay. This is about to be. Is it worth and then different people have different answers for you is probably yes, but like okay, so the finished product definitely funny. The, make the product not so. Your, Dad. Like To be fair, though my Druk bonds are no longer drunk anymore, then mainly just mucked bonds now. We. Don't really drink on the podcast anymore towards the end of this year. I think I think once Nikki get back in the studio. We might toss a few back because it'll be good to be back What other junk was doing foods? If I can Johnson foods when we're out and about I will. Was Funny. But. But they don't. But. All My Shit! I wanted to do drunk I don't be doing drunk anymore, and that's mainly because like I mean a lot has to do with the fact that. We're just we haven't been going anywhere doing anything, but also because. Have you had? Have you had one these nice where you've got drunk in quarantine. The only time I got super drunk during literally the only out of the. It wasn't because I. wanted to drink because I want to do an entertaining thing in. Rigors has been around us for so many years just us being bugging belligerent belligerently. Bugging plaster drunk all kinds of different drunks. And his position have always stood Jane Yeah. He's busy. Always Been I. don't drink because Y'all look so dumb when you're drunk and like I don't WanNa be. Just no desire exactly which. Always respect that and then my thing is you don't know. How Fun it is to be drunk until you're drunk sometime. Yeah, right, right. That's that's part of why I be or I was drinking so much. Fun The home. Yeah! I know I've definitely had a fun. Drunk nights and also had drunk is where I don't remember she. Both have also has sober nights where you've been annoyed of drunk. People of course, sex, hundred percent hundred percent, yeah! I understand completely your reasons for not drinking I. totally get that. The only time I was drunk during quarantine is I was watching one of those verses, battles nearly versus ludicrous. And I was like I'm Gonna I'm GonNa sit was. while. We Watch this shit and I didn't know this shit was going to be two and a half hours long walking, we couldn't get wifi straight and I just steadily sipping by the end of it I was gone. But like we talked about this already in the podcast, but I, was I? After I fuck in after the show ended which I don't remember how it ended. I went and ate a bunch of the soup that she had made juice like all day and making this chicken soup fucking leading the sit like the marinated vegetables like doing there and Shit I felt that right and I don't even remember either. Like. She says she the next day she was like. A lot of brock lifting this. In the soup say she's like. So maybe a little bit. Came here knocked out right? There was security cameras. She was so annoyed, but the rest of the time on the Corinthian. Maybe I'd like a glass of wine chilling another yeezy. Yeah. But you know I mean I guess you saying Rick. Yeah Yeah I think I. Think the That's upon almost. Wasted all your life wasted. Harbor. that reminds us something. I was trying to put in a song years ago that I never did 'cause I always be boosted something like something. She's high waisted some some jeans high waisted in were triple Tonj. Even. Joining the smoker to give back to music don't. Go for August and the knife. But to be clear about my disdain for the drinking it's. Situational if we go to a club or a party or some shit, fuck is going to drink. I'm only gonNA. Get annoyed if you start doing really annoying. But it's not gonNA be like. Why are you during getting fucked? We add apart. That's who I would drink. The Shit they used to annoy me would be the. Is twelve o'clock, and we're on a shoot and take shots, you know. What he does that you down. We can wait after we do the video or some shit like that. That type of shit would be the things that bothered me, but also. Like having a very fun shoot environment. Like because whenever people will come to my place to shoot a sketch or to do same foods. I'm always like Yo to the crew because they see us drinking issues, I'm like I WANNA. Shout on a beer and. Because I know. Never ask. Are you driving? Never ask that, do you tim? Would you like to get wasted before you drive home? Leaving your car. On those numbers all. He's because I know I know no one else is is doing that on their suits like y'all on y'all want to partake. Let's have a good shoes. You know that's Kinda like drinking culture for me. Like. That's what I've like. Drinking I'M GONNA. Offer you right way a drink. But not to say that was the right, no at the crib chilling. said. We have at least, but then this the nigger running women. You. Good or not again drunk, you didn't hold the camera. Look. Here's the thing though most of these mugs smoking during the break. anyways married you want. His another funny story, so you know I don't really smoke like on the rare occasion I'll smoke right, but the one I'm was really high around read. It was PD. Flows Backyard Party okay. and. He was like it was birthday or something. She was like he's. Full file. Rene back there, smoking chick and his home he's. And this is the first time I think I really felt like wow I'm high right because like the other time was like armed kind of sleepy and really do nothing to like I'm feeling this shit, so and then. Backyard Rig. Thought about podcast before okay, I was in the backyard. Rick talking and Rick was talking about some serious shit and I like Bro. I was spending every muscle in my body to be to not look hi. You were saying some real serious shits me, so I'm like I'm like this I'm like. Dan and is crazy. In my head I swear to God I didn't hear one word. Because all I was thinking was. Get it together, man. That, we know. What. Some serious shit. Like is. Focused on whatever word he said, I was like damn she did. Crazy? That's why I don't like being hot to be were because even when I'm drunk even when I'm so drunk. That I'm like I don't remember shit the next day in the moment I I still feel like i. hear and see what's going on you. But when I'm high like I, can remember being being like whatever you were saying dog. I wasn't hearing. Any of you know. And I think it's that feeling of like being out of it that I don't like some people do like that, but for me. That's that's I. Don't really dig that you know. You're not trying to escape knee. I quit marijuana when I ate a seattle. And a entire edible instead of having. They tell you to not do that. No one told me. And I thought I was going to die after and I stopped really smoking which? Of Noise me a little bit nowadays. 'cause weeded so good. In the studio a lot, everybody's smoking and then when it when it comes around to me. I. Have like sometimes I'll pretend. Until, pretend puff because you WANNA cool. This. No I, do I do. I do. And then blow out right away. Like a good cloud of smoke I'll. I'll play that and then sometimes I'll like. Yeah and then some days don't pass me. We'd in Syria. And there's smoke smoking, but I've been scared of were just getting to that point like the edible tripping me how? I was GONNA die situation. So I haven't really smoked. You know what I've always been curious about trying. It was Sinsa oh. I've always been curious about trying. When people infuse like marijuana until I. Like saw S- or fucking like food, and Shit like that or Yeah, because I did that once we did that for an episode of foods, but it was it was only on. So I I I'm curious to see how that kind of like. How gradually that hit shoe and how you feel like that, and plus you know I like eat some curious to see like how it would affect the flavors and all that W. Butler supposedly gives you a body. A little, tinguely like you're floating type of failing to change, did it? But you smoke at the same. He extremely word but use. It was like an all day thing. I don't think I'd like that He. Is Healthy Handler. Did it I saw they do that like on her Netflix. They had a whole chef. Come through and like. That's fine, though we should I ask you know she little something doing that. They were just having conversation. another idea you know what she so don't do. Drugs but she is curious and his down to Wasco Shit. I was real. I was real like for for small period of time. I'M GONNA go fucking Peru. For like I don't know about now, but we talked about this I. Think me have talked about probably I. Get you a check I'm getting my go fucking Joshua Tree we'll get one of those random mass like trailers in the middle of the desert. What will hire a Shaman and do I ask them? Who Was it that told you they did Iowa and saw some crazy. Cheers friends. Yeah talked about that. Who knows anymore anyways choose homegirl did Iowa. And she swift and this was years ago. Swears on everything she met her daughter and eight-year-old version of her daughter in this vision talk to her, and then she just she had a daughter last year, and then she named her whatever the name was when she had that vision. Yeah, oh. Yeah, that's crazy. She's crazy. Because I don't I don't do any of that. Shit I'm afraid of my brain. What, what might come out good I? Think not my brain the brain. I believe we. We have a lot in there to be unlocked in that type of shit on. And I don't I. Don't know if I could come back. Afterwards like if I season, Shit. Dad I feel like Yo. That was real. This is what's going on I'm going to be stuck in research and all type of shade. It'd be a different person after you already. Yes, to a lot of a lot of research, and like you know you already obtained information, so I'm not trying to where the funny thing on ask, because like I remember we were talking about flat earth for a minute. That was so. pissed. What's your take like 'cause you 'cause you. I don't know if you believe because at one point I was. Completely is not fucking with the flat earth thing. He's just debating to debate. And then and then couple of other times I've heard you like. Make statements that were like him. I. I never shut out the possibility that the earth is. Never sure just based off of research. Stuff, that hasn't been explained to me it in some very simple things like. Well why Kane I? See The fucking curve Earth from airplane. You know what I'm saying. Why don't we have multiple pictures of the whole earth that aren't computer generated right, then shit like that. Why do we assume because of the planets? We see our around that we around win. We are supposedly distinctly different from the rest of the plant. That's what I like. What what you know all these types of shits. But for most part I just want to focus. Would get so mad. Because there was. I never found anything that made me say. Okay. Round makes sense right. Okay, but. I mean. Round makes. Makes Sense, but when you go into the argument, right the round people they don't have. Never argue. The flat earth, and that's the thing right because. You know it's crazy. I mean I definitely I've seen some. Some youtube videos whereas like. It just makes you go. Right. In. And when you talk to a hardcore flatter, August, and he has a counterpoint forever point yeah! Okay, so here's the thing I'll sometimes just watch the live fee from the International Space Station. I don't understand. Why it's so close. What. The space station or the the camera angle that they have you can never just see the whole fucking all see the top half. You know what I'm saying is kind of just like hovering over it as it turns, and it's like. Why would you do this? Show me? fucking urge right. Like I doubt Shit as far out there. You should be able to see more than that. This is what I see from. There is the same amount I see from playing its way further. You know what I'm saying, definitely a different look like. Is actually pretty crazy. I'll go look on Youtube International. Space Station livestream pretty fucking dope stream it all the time. And from there though you do see curve, but. Parts of the space station that you see from the camera also look curve, so is a wide. Van. Like. Just pull out zoom out man. I see shit. Man I just WanNa see the whole shit, but we gotta homegrown work I do believe she works his space, x and shit like that and I was I was tweeting flat. Earth Shit again fuck people. Who? Do Israel. You were. In, you may have seen something right, but also shit up I'm fucking with people right now, but. Along just parents say that shit probably. Really pissed people off, it pisses people off so much. Is So weird that if his people though because flat earth makes so much sense I mean especially when you, when you actually listen to a flatter, make their points. When you walk on. Makes Sense but No does it a lot just spoke with people like you. D doing but I remember one time he he did it. Just like you know around people who kind of bring it up just to test the water and this girl, literally a guy who face. I'm punch what I'M GONNA. Punch you because you're fucking in your trumpet. Because she gets frustrated. Yeah can't like really you know when you have a point to every point, yes. That's why I. Don't believe in science. Man Just got. And say. All right I'll let us know Europeans below flatter rounders. Being g like yes juice. June. Do. The British out the Bang Growth and. Watching probably you one more episode from my room and we back in the studio, so thank you guys for watching every week and. I enjoy it man. I usually don't wash it. Well I. Listen I listen. 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Caught Out There

"From workhouse connect in a j Benza. Vein, he liked to be walked on a leash and play really dirty kinky sex camps is the guy put the cop and the peacock network. Okay. Bitch, hey, everybody AJ Benzi here for famous bitch. This is your podcast for September twenty six twenty eight teen Jesus Christ. Never before my life. Have I missed the season Mears a favorite TV show because I was too wrapped up in what was happening in Washington Hollywood name, never before. It may have happened back in the Bill Clinton ministry, but I was too busy back then going out every single. TV wasn't even a my my radar. I was neck deep chasing weeds and writing stories that I was literally only home and I slept back in the early to mid nineties. Even then I wasn't always sleeping in my bed. But I missed most of the Seinfeld episodes and friends when they were originally aired. I used to joke and tell my friends. I'll watch those shows on in prison. You know, because they always shows fucking Tommy's in prison, but. I pick my head up from all these salacious stories in New York LA DC making the headlines and I realized I've missed the first three episodes of the deuce on HP l. I missed a few episodes of Ozarks on Netflix with Jason Bateman. I love that show on about three weeks behind on better call Saul just fucking bad. I to catch up on all this past weekend. So now you know, I'm back to the national headlines, but what a week, what a win is not over yet, but I thought I was going to just lightly touch on this whole Brett Cavanaugh Christine, four drama felt it was melting away. We, we'd see Justice in a few days, you know, but now with the anew woman involved Deborah Ramirez from fucking thirty. Two years ago and then the creepy porno lawyer. Michael Johnny saying he has another very credible abuse victim that wants to be heard, and his persons talking gang rape in a torture, chamber of some kind. You know, he saying that this woman got trained. Multiple men banger including cavern. I can't. I can't look away from this, although I got a feeling avenue. ATI is the victim of a wild Pryke. Why think someone's pulling his fucking leg? There's no truth to these stories, and maybe that's why he's shut down his Twitter Tuesday afternoon, I hope so. Because this this idiot he can't be making alligators like that and stay serious. You know avenue talked about maybe running for president one day as crazy as that sounds. But you know, it's, it was crazy when Trump said it too, but this is really crazy stormy Daniels fucking motor, but if he's wrong, if he has leg pulled on these new quasi allegations. Then Michael Bosca. Okay. Boston for real. That's his his favorite word on Twitter on bullshit to stop. Anyhow it. It's a watershed moment in our country really is because Kavanagh's appointment, as you know, has implications that can last thirty years in this country, maybe more and now Ronan Farrow keeps getting bigger and bigger and all this shit. But it looks as though if I can speak from a journalistic standpoint, maybe his piece in the New Yorker on Cavanaugh and Ford, Christine. Ford. Maybe it wasn't quite ready for the magazine to run. That was that was what the New York Times basically insinuated the other day. But then because Farrell has this golden patina painted on his fuckin- body or something. The New York Times kind of backed down and said something. So complimentary in pussy foot. I almost threw up. I'll get to that. Nah, I'll get to it. Now. They basically said, well, we didn't mean that we were saying that Ronin fouled article was wrong. We would never say that would be women going up against Ronin for year. We've been. He's terrific. Gimme a fuck gimme a barf bag. Okay. Anybody who's got a fondness for the way New York City newspaper man used to carry themselves just puking bag right now. Come on. We don't talk that way about other reporters who right and chase the same stories have competition. Stop this fucking love always great. Now is the competition and he's beating you the stories. Compete here by so soft. Now. And not for nothing, but all this craziness was definitely being reflected off the Bill, Cosby verdict, and Philly. It's all related. The sexual story lines connected to the cavenaugh hearing are definitely a distant cousin to the sexual perversity of what Cosby practice all over Hollywood's the nineteen sixties and those stories. Of course, they share a bloodline with Harvey Weinstein's alleged rapes as well as less moon veges. Sexual abuse allegations lets you can even twenty three and me the whole cavenaugh shit all the way to the New York district attorney, Eric Schneiderman minute fucking weirdo. From few months ago, the creep was physically and sexually abusing women. Even though he marched alongside them in Washington DC with the pink pussy hats, and he and he spoke in on microphones and all those women and New York City demonstrations. Yet addity they're all related all part of one, this functional family, and the one thing they have in common is Ronan Farrow. Yeah, leave it to the guy who grew up in one of the most fucked up families and show business history to round up all these men and lump them all together. When all this began back when pharaoh was nipping away at Harvey Weinstein's heels that went Harvey was reaching out to select people for help. Wink, wink, nudge, nudge, Sherlock is though Ronan Farrow was the Knight in shining on for all these women for women everywhere. Those fucking blue is that calm demeanor. But I see a change in that armor. And to be honest, the close of possibly a future politician underneath that armor. Yeah. Well, before I get deeper into that, let me just say that, look, I know Ronan Farrow is gay. We all know he's gay and I couldn't give a shit less about that. Be happy. Life is short, make good decisions. Find somebody love and live life as true as you can so good for him and good for anybody who's gay straight by trans, give shit, but it's one thing to be into gaming. I'm starting to wonder if running Farrow is a misogynist. I mean one of his tweets yesterday, Jesus Christ, I don't know reporter who sits there and boasts like he, I mean on Twitter, the other day when he was desperately trying to convince everybody that he and Jane Mayer. His is co writer on the New Yorker piece was solid. Their story was solid. He goes, he just tweets. This cavenaugh classmates withdrew from a statement. His lawyers issued disputing Ramirez claims. It's now signed by the two men whom Ramirez alleged had egged on Cavanaugh, the wife of the man, she said, told her to kiss it and one other classmate. All right. Okay. What the fuck calmed down. Let your story speak for itself. Christ fucking schoolboy. I'll tell you what, even if I haven't always agreed with everything Farrow has written the past year or so, and it's been a year that any journalist would want. Let me tell you that right now. But honestly, I talked to reporters who call me and they're like pissed and they wind over, you know what? Pharaohs stories have the stories he's broken. They can't take it to like Jesus house. You get all these women to talk. And I told you guys, once you break the big one, all you gotta do is sit by your fucking phone and wait for it to ring. That's all. And the more he writes, these big exposes the more I understand why the New York Times originally said his story on Weinstein wasn't ready to print. And when they said that Farrell bolted for the New York and the story ran there, we all know that. But I see the the point the near of times editors were trying to make. I see a lot clearer announced, put it out. These stories he's written since Sunday with Jane Mayer, and I'm gonna I'm gonna forget to say Jane Mars name from now till the end of this broadcast. But you know. She is a big part of this investigative stuff, but. Their stories definitely had that feel of being or not being a hundred percent solid. You know, I listen, I'll tell you, I'm about twenty five years removed from the days where I'd sit at the in the officers of the New York news day to Park Avenue. And then I'd sit in the offices that new York Daily News on forty second street. And I'd sit with my then editor Linda Stacey who really brought me up in the game and taught me a ton, and she'd read a story I was working on and I'd watch your wrinkle or face up for shaker head slightly when she was done reading and she'd say, it's not ready, and this is what I was just starting. I used to get mad. It's ready. No, it's not fuck you talking about aging. You don't have enough. Go get more used to drive the on. That's so fucking man. That's where I think pharaohs stories are with respect to cavenaugh. Some witnesses who kind of remember. But there are other witnesses who he interviewed who unequivocally do not recall any of this shit. He wrote about that cavenaugh allegedly did and that right there is the Pitta me of a story not being ready, it's not being hashed out, right? If you really being objective. There's nothing to this Cavanaugh shit that that hits the reader hard over the head really think about it. Not just in Allah Gatien you've got back that allegation up allegations are fucking easy. Okay. There's plenty of those out there. Even if this Ramirez victim is wishy washy about testifying and she's blurry about some details. She admits to balance of heavy drinking at the time. If that same person, we're giving our testimony on being an eyewitness to offender bender. I wouldn't use it. I can't take the word of a personal told me. I spent a lot of time being drunks are really can't say, but I kind of think, no, that's not a no, you can't use that person. You can't make that person's word solid. It's shaky at best. We just left. Getting concerned here, but I'm looking down on my stomach as I report this to you and I'm thinking about beach body on demand. Yep, I went there one. You got who hasn't tried beach body on demand. That's a fan of this show. You've been listening to me talk about this company for a while. Now you gotta get your free trial. Have you not gotten your free trial at the fuck you waiting for it worked like hell for me before summer lost sixteen pounds. It wasn't really that hard. You just got to commit to it. You know, listen, I jumped in as I told you before with autumn calibrates. Why love look? She's easy on the eyes and she's also a very good trainer drop sixteen pounds doing everything in my own backyard. On my time, I watched the workout. Some my laptop. I brought it out to the backyard. 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And yesterday I am not going to make this too political, but if the Republicans can't get this vote taken and have Kavanagh confirmed all your Democrats out there and I've talked to several of you. You're gonna be thrilled. You know, Republicans kiss goodbye. The midterms, if they can't get this thing done, they can kiss goodbye holding down the Senate. They can kiss goodbye holding down the house. If they keep bending over backwards, it just giving into every demand. The Democrats showed up their asses. It's over. You know if they can't accept or figure out that, you know if anybody watching or anybody in politics can't figure out by now that Republicans excepts and do not hate women, fuck him. I mean, what else can we do otherwise? Look if that enough to keep putting their legs over their head and you're gonna see what happens. You know, it's going to happen. The impeachment hearings will begin and we're going to look back on this time, not the liberals, the independence, the Republicans for conservatives go Mehmet last week of September. Those are going to be the good old days. Close few days. Things are going to change real quick. But look, I started getting. I started getting a little turned off to Farrell. The reason story that he did the New Yorker Sunday that that that broke Monday morning, I caught pharaoh on on on TV morning shows Monday morning with an interview with George Stephanopoulos. Okay. And this is after right after the bombshell report about the new abuse victim. Deborah Ramirez caveat alleged second victim and her account of how cavenaugh spent his freshman year at Yale hammered drunk, and it also included the accusation that she remembers cavenaugh exposing himself at a drunken dormitory party. Are there any other kind? And he thrust his penis in her face and that caused a touch it without her consent. And she pushed it away. Push pushing a peanut saly. Look, even though Farrow and Stephanopoulos summer together in the Hamptons come on. And it both die hard Democrats by the way, at least if I had the balls to find it odd that Ramirez only felt confident enough to come forward after ready for this accessing memories. It consulting with attorney for six days and pharaoh didn't even let him finish with the objection before he was George. I would say that this is extremely typical ABI stores when you dealing with trauma alcohol. Many years in between, I would say the more cautious witnesses I have dealt with in cases like this very frequently say I wanna take time to decide really, really, that's the that's really frequent whenever I see people who say they've gone through such hell, then turned me and say, you know what? Peaking me six days to figure this shit out now. I can't accept it. Listen, I'm a regular guy. I really am. No bullshit. I've been around regular people all my life honest people not always, but regular people all my life. And God forbid, if they'd went through the fuck and trauma of seeing the dick in their face, like Ramirez saw, I just know if I asked the honest and credible women, I grew up with they absolutely and unequivocally not only come up with an answer. They grab a pen pencil from the courtroom artist than sketch the fucking cock right in front of me. It's easy by the way. Can you imagine if you're a junior or senior at Yale or any other college? By the way, and you're probably thinking, what did I do with that Schick from that sorority that made destroy my life forty years from now. It's scary and not to mention. I can guarantee that both women and men in college, probably secretly tape recording or video recording. Plenty of hookups, both for protection and future prosecution, so whole different world now. All right. Be happy. You're not single. Oh my God. Is this a bad time to be single anyhow, two quick things. Okay. I'd I'd be uncomfortable writing these stories without somebody being of the clear up to things. Okay. If you're so drunk that you need to lay on the floor, like Debbie Ramirez, what kind of trauma can you remember that wasn't involved by your neabry aviation? I need to know that. And also how come Kevin, all being drunk is a Mark against his character, but Ramirez or Ford being drunk makes them victims what the fuck is at about. A long time ago when metoo was brand new. I said something that has now never more true. A man wakes up and says, what in the world that I do last night, a woman wakes up and says, what did the world due to me. The differences. She doesn't even need to be that sure for Ronan Farrow to whip up a huge story and Democrats do started the man a hearing and for the woman to demand the f. b. i. investigate her story. She's not so particularly clear about that doesn't seem right to me guys, what kind of country we living a you. All cool with this stuff, a you all coal that anybody can call for an investigation. Anybody you me whoever the fuck we are regular people. We don't have to be somebody who went to hold an arm school or yell, we can all call for FBI. Now he can't. That comes from the Senate, doesn't income from judge. It comes from the Senate, you the fact that these people are just calling for the FBI half the I go do this to me. That's a bunch of bullshit. And for this for anybody out there who's coal with the direction, the country's going in. You're out of your minds. It's a fucking bad state were in. This is not the way we're supposed to live the rest of our lives, very bad. But here's the obvious question. Does Ronin Farrow just hate straight men. Okay. Let me just see how to phrase this year. Can a game in really and truly getting ahead or him put himself in the same place where these incidents allegedly happened between straight men and straight women. I don't know. I'll tell you one thing. I don't think I'd be the best guy to write the story about a bull dyke coming on hard for a pretty gate girl too high school party. I don't know that on the right reporter put on that story. And if you think editors don't dole out stories at a newspaper or magazine, sometimes based on which report might have a better understanding of a situation. You crazy sore hundreds and hundreds of times over the years at newspapers. Better to have your black reporter covered the story involving something personal in the black community than say your your new Asian reporter. We still have a real uppity black sports reporter at Newsday back in the late eighties, Gregory Gregory claims among the fuck. He couldn't stand the indignities of what was happening to his people and good for him. But man, he made no bones about he was going after those stories. And those stories only Klay used the shuffle in walk. He didn't pick his feet up. He fucking combed his afro forward stuck the pick and left side of his head. Oh my God. He warned the sheiky shirts, all that shit. Whenever I used to get a look at the rundown of what what stories would be in filed into the paper by which reporters, as we approached deadline and went to press, I didn't have to see his byline to know Greg clay. It was a scientist, every story that dealt with the issues black athletes were dealing with, and I don't think that's a bad thing either as a reporter, I'd want his perspective. But I'm the longest. Sure. Ronin Farrow's perspective is entirely accurate. It seems he's just the go-to guy now to take down men. You got all rich white guys who a little creepy put wrong on it that few months ago down and lost everything. I don't get me wrong. Harvey Weinstein, les Moonves seemed awfully guilty of bad behavior and I'm sure they're guilty of plenty of it. Matter of fact, I'm positive of it. And there was a paddle of abuse that was uncovered in became impossible to look away from. I don't see the pattern of abuse here with cavenaugh, especially with these alleged victims nap, being able to to speak accurately when the counts. And I think if Farrow searched as hard for those who swear Kavanagh's innocent, he wouldn't have nearly the amount of stories to right in the first place. But here we are and there you go. And by the way, sometimes I take a step back and I leaned away from the whole Ronan Farrow story and mystique. And I gotta shake my head so I can keep my eyes properly focused. I know most of you aren't New York is maybe didn't truly grow up caring about pharaohs beginnings and don't quite know about his start. If you really want to get it right and be accurate. Let me tell you. Some Frank Sinatra is truly responsible for making this kid famous in much the same way. Frank Sinatra made his mother, Mia Farrow famous when he married her as a nineteen year old, nobody actress. All it took was for me of pharaoh to cast a mystery on Ronin DNA and suggest he may be, oh blue, I son, and that set the media going like hounds and the legend of Ronan Farrow going. Suddenly enroll told his name is no longer satchel. It's now Ronin. Okay, really? Okay. Fine. Satchels Ronin now we get it and then we got a quick introduction to his academic achievements. Graduated from college at fifteen attended Yale Law School at sixteen then became a Rhode scholar check. I swear nobody was talking about this kid up until five years ago. Nobody we learned. He once worked for the State Department and then Hillary Clinton's special adviser for global youth issues. Whether the fuck that is. We learned he was humanitarian junior Obama administration insider. But as I big job was becoming the youngest TV host at MSNBC and with that didn't work out. In fact, it ended up going in Barrasso bed for for Ronan Farrow after they took him off the air. There were many nights when the next host was on air talking, and you could see Farrell it a cubicle in the background working, you know. You know, just didn't look right, like wait, wasn't the host last week. Why is in a cubicle look bed was very strange. When is Harvey Weinstein story exploded like he was just anointed. And maybe we were all blinded for few months because of all the stars that began to full in the wake of the story that began the metoo movement. Maybe we couldn't see straight, but I'm starting to get my sight back and I feel a little light. We've all been a little bit manipulated like like we were all part of a planned rollout. Okay. You know, who could the tippy top Democrats send out to chop down and destroy all the trees in the forest? Both the good trees and the disease trees who was the reporter with an impeccable pedigree somebody from good stock, no better. Mythical stock a man with no scandal linked twin. Even though he was maybe born of one scandal in grew up along. Side one as a kid, somebody so good somebody, nobody would ever confuse his humanitarianism for narcissism. And then voila, Ronan Farrow is thrust forward. It's almost as if he's been a mentoring candidate, so speak this whole time vanturi and candidate. Not unlike the one Frank Sinatra portrayed in the nineteen sixty to fill. You know, look, like I said earlier, have we now gotten to a place with Ford and Ramirez over American citizens? Can just tell the FBI to get the fucking work clock Mon Mon, investigate f. b. i. goat. Kavanagh's not against this, but this is the senate's place to call for an investigation. It's not the judge's place. It's not even Ford's place yet there is still women. These talking haircuts on TV was sit there and say, I personally always believe the women. How can own assay this one more time. I hope how can the woman unequivocally say? I always believe when what? What women are capable, lying and scheming look at Hillary Clinton for fuck sake to take a woman's word as gospel. It's got to be infuriating. Two, two women as a whole since when does biology make you perfect and unable to lie. And and to that end, Bruce Jenner lived a lie, his entire life, walking around hating who he was trying on dresses and wanting to be female despite marrying and having children as a man since he's transitioned. Now, all you women a question does taking away his Pena's also mean taking away his ability to lie and of Jonah. Ed virtue come out with the Faulk. Look, I think we all need to listen to women. Listen respectfully, invite them to tell this story because everybody deserved to be heard. But beyond that, you're on your own, you get judged like everybody else. Does. And meanwhile, as today was come into close, I'm flipping around the dial on keep seeing all types of men getting wacked what a fucking last couple of days. Men just getting cut down, mowed down. And listen, I hope I won't be invoking Osceola agendas name much anymore. But I gotta say a few things about her Daily Mail interview. I finally caught it. I saw broke down. I saw she cried. She's an ugly cry by the way you've ugly crying. Finally, you know, I didn't see those tears in board Dane died. They'll funny. All I saw was anger. And at least she mentioned that her anger was what got through the heartache. Okay. And since we all saw that insane, anger, I guess we can take a word for it that that's what she was going through, whatever. But what I will not take a word on or for is her saying that she never knew how the pressboard Dane was deep down inside. We all knew that even casual fans who followed his show new in dark depression that followed him. I don't buy what she said that he cheated on me too. Well, which is it offers you a, you're only saying that because the world caught you cheating on him with Ugo Clement. And if you told the world that two of you had an open relationship then why say he quote unquote cheated? It's not the word you use. Why is it called cheating if it was an open thing? And lastly, why didn't she address the story? She was spreading in the aftermath of his suicide. That Tony was what the prostitute. The ninety died and drugs and alcohol played it. But that was a story she was spreading. For fact, I'm very close to somebody who she talks to. She has no idea. He knows me, but I know and he tells me everything. I watched our interview. I read the text as well. I came away from it with the feeling that once again, this woman is getting the final word on Tony's debt, she'd through onto the fucking bus again. And that pisses me off as it should anybody out there who believes her actions toward the end of their relationship, had a hand and driving Tony into a deeper and darker depression and probably contributed to a. Good man gone too soon. That's the end of her. Anyhow, few minutes later I got to see will Jimmy Bennett have his Danna talion TV let me tell you some. I love Italy and all you know, it's my people, but maybe this wasn't the best place for young man to talk about being a victim of a woman sexually abusing him. Okay. Because this talent hosts tore Jimmy Bennett, a new asshole right away the host Nazi no genetically who's like the Roman ends in Cooper questioned him about the selfie. Two of them took after the alleged assault, and it shows them in bed topless after doing the deed and Bennett confirmed. It was taken to the acts on his phone explaining that are Gento wanted to take it and he took it and, but you let took offence. He's like, I'm sorry. But you, you don't seem to upset. You don't seem in this picture to be traumatized. You don't look like someone who's afraid, which is true, and you'll have to accuse talion in Italy because they used to country. They live in where the age of consent is fourteen. But I hated this because if you done this interview here in the states and I'm sure somebody offering him some dull, but the Italians, no doubt offered him more and Jimmy needs money. So he went for the bigger money is the wrong decision though I wished he came away with looking like a victim, but I'll tell you what. Osceola gentle must have been happy when she saw that because both those interviews hers in his score points for her Santa's them, I hate to say they do, and you know, Bennett came to Italy for what he thought would be a fair shot a chance to tell his story. But you know when Gillette he asked them a simple question it was over. He said, was that a port complete and Bennett didn't know what the fuck dammit. He asked them to repeat the question and then it was translated. Was the report complete report complete meaning? Did you come and Bennett kinda slumped in his chair little bit replied quite simply well, yes. And some of the live audience moaned. Others giggled some cheered. That ain't the way he wanted to go, man. I know when the whole said to him, it's difficult to believe a woman can rape a man, an act of sex that is complete, cannot be raped. Surely. That's what a lot of people believe. I'm one of them. I'm not blaming are gentle of overpowering him. I'm blaming her for coercing him to have sex. Plenty of women are raped without being overpowered a double standard, and it's not right. Even though then it's lawyers spoke up. It didn't matter much had had that been a trial. It would have been objected to, I'm sure, stricken from the record. But you know. That he went ahead with. It shouldn't matter because no one holds it against our Gento, including Ronin Farrow or Anthony board Dane that you know that they carried on a relationship Ossete carried on a relationship with Harvey Weinstein voluntarily after her alleged rate. So don't piss on Bennett for taking the picture smiling after his sexual encounter as a minor with our Gento. You know, our gentle had no trouble being believed that's hypocrisy and enough of this apocryphal reading, but actually got a little sad for Bennett when the host. He just took that that fucking photo tilled everything and he held up again. Bennett said she asked me to take a photo. Yes, it was on my phone. Yes, it was after we had sex. And again, Gillette you don't. You don't seem to be upset. You don't seem in this picture, traumatized, you don't look like you wanna fade at that moment. You know he's on, like I said, broke into applause, and finally things click for Bennett, not a bright kid by the way. How the hell did he get Tony to fork over three hundred eighty thousand bucks outta held up five things and told him his fifty k. take on the fucking hop. But after the laughter in the audience died down, then it, you know, he sat there and said, I understand, I'm starting understand what you mean. That's fucking sad. So Jimmy Bennett was essentially killed from the stock just destroy. And if it wasn't clear before it certainly is now that sexism runs both ways in Italy, the same people destroyed our gentle for saying she'd been raped by Harvey Weinstein were no kinder to her refusal. But anyhow, there is a day spent catching up with the headlines watching a bunch of different TV shows where men were getting hunted down, like thumbs in the street. Cosby got what was coming to cavenaugh, never saw coming and little, Jimmy Bennett. Just got in trouble for coming. AJ Benza that was fame.

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Tue. 08/03 - 2019 Tax Refunds Signed By Walt Disney

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15:02 min | 7 months ago

Tue. 08/03 - 2019 Tax Refunds Signed By Walt Disney

"Welcome to the good news ride home, for Monday August Third Two thousand, twenty? Third all str- leeann scientists have figured out a way to grow colored cotton. How poetry is helping healthcare workers through the pandemic, how to get your hands on some official fire festival merchandise. Thanks to the US marshals and the famous cartoon character who accidentally signed. People's tax refund checks. Here are some of the cool things from the news today. Starting, today with some good news for the fashion industry near probably aware that clothing manufacturing and especially fast fashion is rife with problems from unethical labor conditions to huge environmental concerns quoting the UN, the fashion industry produces twenty percent of global wastewater and ten percent of global carbon emissions more than all international flights in. Maritime, shipping, textile dyeing is the second largest polluter of water globally, and it takes around two thousand gallons of water to make a typical pair of jeans and quote. I didn't realize before how much of a problem dying specifically is, and this is something that a team of Australian scientists are hoping to solve starting with cotton based clothing. Subcontinent self is renewable, recyclable and biodegradable, but not when it's died at least, not necessarily chemical dyes can be harmful to the environment. But plant breeder researchers at Csiro Australia might have worked out a way. Way To avoid dying altogether by engineering cotton to naturally grow already colored, they've managed to create colored cotton plant tissue in the lab in vibrant yellows, reds, and purples. Cutting itself is naturally white sometimes with green or Brown streaks depending on what type it is, but mostly white, the CSIRO scientists however cracked cotton's molecular color code so that it grows with naturally colored fibers. These plant tissues will need to mature into actual plants before the researchers can guarantee that they will actually produce colored cotton, but a previous experiment on tobacco plants makes them believe it will be successful. Inserting the colored cotton genes into the tobacco plant caused it to grow with colored splotches on the green leaves, and while it will be a few months before the cotton plants bloom, the scientists are pretty confident that if the leaves of the cotton plant also grow with similar splashes of color like the tobacco plants than the cotton, itself will be colored two, and one of the biggest accomplishments will be if they can breed naturally black cotton that will be huge for one because black dies cause the most pollution all dies and also because it would, he's super hardcore. These Zairo team in Australia in addition to this cotton project is also working on breeding naturally wrinkle free cotton so that we won't ever have to iron our shirts again. These biotech advances man really makes you feel like the stuff of future is dreams. Even. If you're not a medical professional over the past few months, you may have become familiar with the Journal of the American Medical Association or Jama one of the main journals putting out, peer reviewed studies related to the corona virus. But something that I was surprised to learn that John has a poetry editor because in addition to case reports clinical trials, every issue of Jama includes eight poetry section wired recently spoke to Djaama's poetry editor. Editor. Rafael Compass about the significance of poetry in the medical world, and especially during this time when it has proven to be extra popular compasses, submissions have gone up from twenty to thirty a week to over one hundred. He says, it may be more popular right now because we're more isolated world going through something similar, but we're not together. So poetry as a way of feeling connected to someone else's experience even without being there. Most of the submissions come from healthcare professionals and compost notes that the brevity of poetry matches. Their lifestyles. Quotes, poetry fits into the fragmented spaces that we have as doctors as we're running around trying to deal with this crisis and quotes. But. Poetry isn't just healing for healthcare professionals. It's also a form of healing for patients. COMPOS says quote when one's body betrays the person that's living with illness, it can feel tremendously isolating in eliminating until we are able to name what's going on inside of us and take a kind of control over what has gone awry. That's extremely empowering and can really combat some of the fear, an isolation and loneliness that so often accompanies the experience of illness. There's. There's also probably some physiology that is activated that it's therapeutic in a more direct way by harnessing the imagination. There's the beginning of some that shows that patients who write about some of their experience of illness, breast, cancer depression. Those patients actually have better outcomes. We don't understand all of the underpinnings of what happens in our bodies when we engage creatively, but there's also probably some beneficial or healing physiologic effect of writing and harnessing our imaginations in that. And quotes Compos also notes the being able to describe your symptoms. Even more metaphorical way can help the people that you're carrying for empathize, and perhaps care for you more accurately. As a writer himself and the Director of writing and literature programs for the arts and humanities. Initiative. At the Harvard Medical School it's no surprise that compass sees the value in an artistic and holistic approach to medicine. He emphasizes how important it is to truly connect emotionally with patients and to be there for them quotes, we need that larger context to help us see that. What we do is in many respects sacred and is very, very deeply meaningful if we allow ourselves to be present at it and quotes. And all in here with a poem from the most recent issue of Jama written by Christopher h shiffling md even though our five hundred square foot apartment is a petri dish, even though the bathroom pretends to be an office, even though the clock is ticking even though a good song may grow old even though I've eaten all the almond butter and even though you won't wear your headphones even though we can't help but be together even though I can only take you out to take out. Even, the florists are non essential even though a kiss carries more than we know even with this, still I wish, won't you be mine my quarantine? Or Quarantine. Perhaps. A few people in Rhode Island are going to have to wait even longer to get their tax refunds after the ones that they were sent. Last week have been ruled invalid, and that might not sound like good news. But the reason behind it is pretty funny. The checks signed not by Rhode Island General, Treasurer Seth Magaziner or State Controller Peter Keenan the rather by General. Treasurer. Mickey Mouse and State Controller. Walt Disney. Yeah, really. Jade Borgeson chief of staff for the Department of Revenue told NBC ten news quote as a result of a technical error in the division of Taxation Automated Refund Check Printing, system approximately, one hundred and seventy, six checks with invalid signature lines were printed and mailed to tax payers on Monday. July twenty, seven, the two, thousand, twenty, the invalid signature lines were incorrectly sourced from the divisions test print files and quotes. The division of Taxation has already reached out to the affected tax payers NS issuing new checks, but given that most of the checks were related to various business taxes, the delay is just the latest in a string of frustrating news for local businesses. Nonetheless, it's still pretty funny. The Rhode Island is just lucky that they're test print files have such a G. rated sample copy. I mean imagine if someone had been trying to have fun and put in a totally inappropriate set of words or. A fake porn star name or an actual real person. They could be in way more hot water right about now, though knowing how the mouse is with copyright, I wouldn't be surprised if Disney were already coming after the state of Rhode Island for using their properties without permission steamboat Willie will never be in the public domain on their watch. With many gyms still closed a lot of us are turning to aunt homework counts. But maybe like me, you struggled to get motivated or stick with it all on your own. Well, with beach body on demand, you can get access to professional training from the comfort of your Home Beach Bonnie on demand is suited for anybody at any time and you can stream. Stream their workouts from your computer, Apple TV, chrome, cast, and more. Some of those workouts are just ten minutes and you don't need any expensive extra equipment. You can get motivated by celebrity super trainers. You know like Tony Horton Joel Freeman and autumn Calabria's who lead you in thousands of different workouts for all fitness levels ranging from bodybuilding to weight training and. And Cardio, hit to yoga and even dance workouts. Personally. I have enjoyed starting my day with their morning down one hundred so that I can get an intense workout in before my day begun or it gets too hot in my apartment, and if you want to get in on this and try beach body on demand for yourself, you can in fact to make. Make it even easier listeners of the good news ride home can try beach body on demand absolutely free. Yes. You can get a special free trial membership. When you text good news to thirty, thirty, thirty, you'll get full access to this entire platform for free all the workouts, the nutrition information and support totally free. Just text good news to thirty, thirty thirty. Remember. Fire Festival that luxury music festival Hamas, that never was the one run by billy. McFarland jail rule promoted by influencers like Kendall Jenner and Bella Hadid. But then turned so bad. So fast that the Internet was overrun for two days by photos from rich young people who had paid tens of thousands of dollars to be, they're trapped on an island being served plane slices of bread and taking cover and disaster relief tents until all of their cell phones ran out of battery as they attempted to make their way back to the US. It was perhaps one of the greatest moments of shot in Freud on the Internet's made even greater when it was memorialized in two competing documentaries from Hulu and Netflix, which dropped within days of each other in two thousand nineteen. Although Netflix's I, think won that battle at least as far as means go. Thanks to fire festival producer, Andy Kings unforgettable Evian water bottle moments. If you don't know what I'm talking about just Google it and maybe not at work. Well, now you can own a piece of fire festival lore. Thanks to an online auction just posted by the US marshals who seized the merchandise from fire festival organizer. Billy. McFarland US Marshal Ralph Socio said in a press release quotes this fire festival branded clothing and other items that were seized from billy. McFarland were originally intended to be sold at the fire festival itself, but were kept by McFarland with the intent to sell the items and use the funds to commit further criminal acts. While he was on pretrial release. The proceeds from the sale of these items, all traceable to McFarland's twenty, six, million, dollar fraud will go toward the victims of his crimes end quote. So. That's nice. Not only can you get a hilarious piece of fire festival swag, but you know that your money is going to a good cause. And what's on offer over one hundred items ranging from hats to joggers to long-sleeve tease. There's also hoodies, wristbands, tokens, and regular t shirts all with variations of the fire fest or fire entertainment logos and mottos. A lot of the apparel is already in the low hundreds in bidding. So get there fast, the auction will continue until August thirteenth link in the show notes and just a little more F. Y. I. on Billy McFarland's status quo coating CNN McFarland is serving a six-year prison sentence for the fraud. He pleaded guilty in two thousand, eighteen to two counts of wire fraud for his role in defrauding fire festival. And ticket vendors of about twenty, six, million dollars, prosecutors said, he also pleaded guilty to a charge of bank fraud for a sham ticket scheme. He conducted while out on bail another count of bank fraud for writing a check using the same name and account number of employees without authorization and to making false statements to federal law enforcement about the frauds, according to prosecutors and quote. In is remarkable. What this dude was able to get away with put? I am so glad that he's facing punishment for his crimes and even more than that that. So many of his victims have been the recipients of successful go fund me campaigns and more while we all love to laugh at fire festival in part because a bunch of rich kids got played, the publicity of the failure has also led to a lot of people helping out the folks who got especially screwed over by billy like the workers, from Exuma, and you can help out more by bidding on some of this ridiculous fire festival merch. So have ads. Zoo today August. Third is a holiday called yesterday. You started in two thousand, ten on your woman named Esther. earls sixteenth birthday as ter- had terminal thyroid cancer, and through her volunteering with various online communities had befriended author John Green and his brother Hank who prior to John's enormous fame from his best selling book. The fault in our stars which was partially inspired by. By Esther, he had a popular youtube channel together with his brother Hank which still exists today and they told Esther back in two thousand, ten that every year on her birthday would celebrate on their youtube channel and in the larger community however she wanted she could tell them literally anything she wanted them to do. They would do it every year for her birthday. And after thinking it over, she decided that she wanted them in anyone else celebrating to tell their friends and family that they love them. and. So it is as today has continued to be celebrated by more and more people each year since two, thousand ten, and so now I am sharing it with you especially during this time of separation of illness of fear, it's never been more important to take a few minutes and your day and let the people in your life that you love know that you love them, give them a call, shoot them a text, shouted them across the room. Just say the words even if it's awkward, really makes a difference to actually say it and not just assume that it's known. So happy s today everyone, I hope that it is a good one and I will talk to you tomorrow.

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Mon. 07/06 - Is America Running Out of Fireworks?

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14:44 min | 8 months ago

Mon. 07/06 - Is America Running Out of Fireworks?

"Welcome to the good news ride home for Monday July Sixth Two thousand, twenty I'm Jackson Bird. Scientists have discovered insects that have retained their shine after ninety nine million years how to properly read in election poll plus a little on Kanye West's presidential campaign, after perhaps the most explosive fourth of July in decades here in the states is America now running out of fireworks and the most American thing ever happened in Alaska over the weekend. Here are some of the cool things from the news today. Starting today with a discovery, scientists have made based on ninety nine million year old insect fossils preserved in amber, but don't worry. The discovery is not that they were able to extract dinosaur DNA from the preserved bloodsucking insects, not this time. No the researchers at the Nanjing Institute of Geology and Paleontology were able to uncover something. Fossils usually can't tell us the original colors of the specimens. In a new paper published in the Journal proceedings of the Royal Society be the team describes three ancient insects. They found that are perfectly preserved in amber, including the original coloring and IRIDESCENCE. Quoting Popular Science, the insects can be dated back to the Cretaceous period, which occurred ninety nine million years ago, the animals were all preserved in pieces of amber from a mine in northern. Myanmar the insects of beetle of fly, and a wasp are so well preserved in amber that they're true color could be identified the way that the color is preserved in these things is really remarkable, says James. James Lansdale a University of West Virginia paleobiologist who was not involved in the research? There have been reports of color in the fossil record before, but often what we're looking at is not the true color, because it's been changed by the fossil ization process in instances where the color is questionable, Lansdale says scientists gather clues from the cellular structure of the X. Skeleton and extrapolate. What the color probably. But in this case, the iridescent structural color of these insects remained visible after the researchers prepared the specimens, a process that involves carefully polishing the amber until the insect bodies are nearly exposed, and in some cases setting it against a light, blue, green and purple iridescent colors are all clearly visible in the specimens end quote. And while it, certainly a cool discovery and worth checking out the photos of link in the show notes lambs don't notes that the acquisition of these specimens is concerning amber mining in Myanmar lucrative as it is, causes intense conflict, and many researchers disagree with the practice, even in the name of science on ethical grounds this year, representatives of the Society of Vertebrate Paleontology signed a letter, asking academic journals to cease the publication of any papers whose findings were based on so-called Burmese amber. This past week there's been a proliferation of US presidential campaign poll numbers making headlines most of them showing vice president. Joe Biden with a sizable lead over president trump, but the polls really vary, and as many people are quick to point out. Polls have been wrong in the past. Most polls showed Secretary Clinton with a significant lead in the days, leading up to the two thousand sixteen election. Putting too much stock into polling numbers or just reading the Click beat pulling number headline without digging into the details of the poll. itself can be misleading. And, while outlets are unlikely to get their act together with this, Click Bait, we as readers can at least practice a bit of media, literacy, and critical thinking whenever we see these numbers blown out of proportion, so I thought I'd take a moment today to share some pointers from wired on how to properly read and election poll. Versed take into consideration the margin of error, which is usually somewhere between three and five percentage points, so if a poll says one candidate is polling two percent better than the other. That means hardly anything. Second look at the source of the poll and don't ever trust a poll that comes from campaign itself or a popular poll on a website, Jennifer, stromer Galley who researches digital politics and campaign at Syracuse University, told wired quote, a convenience poll on a website Eskin. Who you think is going to win on election day isn't a random sample and quotes. The kinds of policies that you should be looking for our universities national polling firms and respected news media who indicate some background on the poll other than just saying our website visitors I personally recommend. realclearpolitics DOT COM, which collects polls from all the major sources like Gallup. Mariss Reuters YouGov etcetera, you can search by race, location and candidates. You can get a quick comparative lineup from all of the reputable holding sources. Quoting wired other key factors to consider our sample size and sampling method according to stromer. Galley twelve hundred respondents is a good size for a national poll. Using a random sample of Americans also consider who the respondents are pulled into either sample. All adults registered voters or likely voters. There's no standard measure of likelihood of voting, says Michael. Truscott who studies campaigns, elections and survey methods at the University of Michigan. It's the secret sauce of pre-election polling, because not everyone votes assessing who is likely to vote is a pretty important part of a meaningful poll, but it's also educated guesswork and biopsies, methodological and systemic King Truth in. A sample of lately voters for example typically skews in favor of Republican candidates because your likelihood devote depends on factors like age and socioeconomic status, and Republican voters tend to be older and wealthier. Sampling methods can also skew the data if pollsters are calling landlines. They're under sampling. Democrats tend to be younger and more likely to be minorities. A good point will publish its methodology. The proportion of cell phones to landlines called its margin of error. It's response rates. Bad polls have something to hide and quotes. It's a lot to consider all at once, but honestly it's no more than we should be doing for just about any piece of media from which we are trying to glean factual evidence and as summer. Galley says quote at the end of the day. The news media uses public opinion polls to drive stories. They're more a device used by journalists to capture attention around a story, then a meaningful newsworthy piece of information and quotes. In other words, even while using the methods above, don't put too much stock into polls. There are so many places where even the best designed polls can fall short or misleading, and the most important thing is to vote for a candidate who policies you aligned with all the rest is just shattered. That can ultimately lead to people feeling burnt down and complacent about politics, and potentially doing something rash like voting for Kanye West. WHO! Yes actually announced his candidacy for president on twitter over the weekend. Don't get too worried about his chances. Though politics journalist Hunter Schwartz pointed out on twitter that per ballot, pedia. It's too late for any new candidate to get on the ballot as an independent in Indiana Maine new. Mexico New York north, Carolina and Texas Schwartz also tweeted and this is still true. I double checked this morning quote, the only candidate for president named Kanye West, and the FCC base for twenty twenty at the moment is a Green Party candidate named Kanye dis nuts. West twos raised. Zero dollars end quote. A dug a little more into that candidate on the federal. Election Commission, database. Connie dis nuts. West's Statement of candidacy lists his address as Seventy seven gold digger avenue. His principle campaign committee is the back debt as up committee, and he also lists another authorized committee called the get cronk committee so I mean hey, at least one Kanye West. Presidential candidate out there has filled out the paperwork. If, you're looking for a way to get, fit this, summer, Beach Bonnie demand is your answer. It's the easy to use streaming service that gives you instant access to over thirteen hundred super effective workouts that you can do right now in your home. There's no better time to start a home based on your schedule. Easy to do with no pricey equipment needed workout regime than right now. There are hundreds of effective workouts for all fitness levels ranging from bodybuilding weight training to cardio hit to yoga. Even dance workouts. Get motivated by celebrity super trainers. You know like Tony Horton Joel, Freeman Jericho Mc Matthews and autumn Calabrese. I have personally been enjoying the pile class as a longtime fan of the Palatis and Yoga. It's fun to combine them both with an added Cardio. Kick to really get my heart pumping, and it's great that I can still have the reassurance and motivation of an instructor. Even while working on at home, listeners to this podcast can get a special free trial membership. When you text good news to thirty thirty thirty, you'll get full access to this entire platform for free all the workouts, the nutrition information and support totally free again just text good news to thirty thirty thirty. So this is mostly just good news. If you like, myself are tired of hearing fireworks going off every single night i. mean sure people had their fun on Fourth of July as traditional, but this has been an issue across all of the United States for weeks going on months, but there may be an end in sight at least temporarily. CNN says demand for consumer. Fireworks is up at least a hundred and fifteen percent compared to last year quote, America's sudden obsession with fireworks came after the pandemic led to mass cancellations of weddings. Sports, events and Independence Day shows that sent demand for the professional fireworks used for large events crashing through the floor. Traditionally there are sixteen thousand Independence Day shows across this nation Julie. Heckman Executive Director of the American Pyrotechnics Association. Said and we're probably looking at about ten percent. Max going forward and quotes. Bruce Zoldin CEO of Phantom Fireworks said that originally, when news of all the canceled major events hit, he was seriously considering filing for bankruptcy because he didn't think he'd be able to sell any fireworks this year now. In a span of four weeks, his one point, two million square foot distribution center has gone from completely stocked to nearly empty zone, then also notes that fifty percent of Phantom fireworks is recent. Customers reported being first time buyers of fireworks. The fireworks boom might be about to fizzle out because of the supply chain cannot keep pace with demand. China supplies more than ninety percent of the world's fireworks, and they stalled production earlier this year. Quoting CNN China normally ramps up production for fireworks in winter, but this year the pandemic forced most of the factories to close Chinese. Exports fell to essentially zero in January and in the first four months of twenty twenty. The United States imported thirty five percent fewer fireworks than the same period in two thousand, nineteen and quotes. So may say that again. The US reported thirty five percent fewer fireworks than in two thousand nineteen. Demand went up a hundred and fifteen percent. Interviewed ahead of the celebrations this past weekend. Zoldin said he didn't think there would be many fireworks at all. Left in the United. States by July fifth. On the one hand this is shortage that I'm not too upset about if it means at least a brief reprieve from the nightly amateur pyrotechnics shows, but I also hope that the big sales ahead of the shortage will be enough to tide over all the companies who depend on the industry until more fireworks can be imported. Endings today with the most American thing that could have possibly happened this past weekend on America's Independence Day. A Bald Eagle. The US as national bird was rescued from a tree by wildlife officials on the July fourth holiday. The bird was stuck in a Sitka spruce tree in the Ernest Green State Historical Park, having gotten tangled up in a cable or wire about forty feet off the ground. Steve Louis of the US fish and wildlife. Service rescued the Bald Eagle or as the Associated Press describes. It liberated her on Saturday afternoon. The Eagle was then taken via airplane to the Alaska Raptor Center in Sitka to be treated for a possible broken bone bold eagle. Particularly rare, but Cathy Benner general manager of the Juneau Raptor. Center says, it's the first one she knows of to. On the fourth of July. And Steve. Lewis who rescued the ball eagle might consider changing his name to Steve Rogers Aka Captain America because I can't think of anything more American than liberating bald. Eagle from entanglements on the Gosh Dang fourth of July, so well done. Steve Before I leave you for the day I thought I would mention a book that I am currently reading. It's called the power of ritual turning everyday activities into soulful practices by Casper Kyle and it's not religious Mumbo. Jumbo or like self, help or anything like that knew anything. It's in a religious examination of how the changing media technology and social landscape has affected the way that we all find meaning and community in our lives as opposed to how previous generations did so, and it suggests ways to find more meaning in community in things that we already do whether that's Crawford Bullet journaling knitting, reading their favorite books baking bread riding. Riding Dirt, bikes whatever I think that anyone can get something out of it. But if you're listening to this podcast, you are probably someone who has thought critically about the good and the bad of the Internet. Maybe you have some opinions about whether it's destroying the fabric of society or bringing us closer than ever then. This book is a really fresh. Take on that discussion. So I thought I would recommend it again. It's the power of ritual by Casper to kyle link in the show notes and that is it for today I hope you all have a good rest of your day and I will talk to you tomorrow.

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Tue. 06/02 - The Introvert's and Extrovert's Guides to Lockdown

Coronavirus Daily Briefing

20:34 min | 9 months ago

Tue. 06/02 - The Introvert's and Extrovert's Guides to Lockdown

"Welcome to the good news ride home for Tuesday June second two thousand twenty Jackson bird a six month. Check in on the corona virus tld are. It's going to last long time where mask recreating what Johann Sebastian Bach music sounded like to him. The introvert and extroverts guide to thriving during lockdown and even more evidence that dogs are indeed very good boys. Now that it is somehow inexplicably June we can pretty much say. The Corona virus has been a part of our lives for about six months. Not that we really have inexact date of when it started but early, January is when it really started ramping up so with the first half of twenty twenty over the New York. Times took a pulse on where things are at. At, and what we know right now, I will have to live with this for a long time. Even the most optimistic estimates about a possible vaccine would be a year or more away before everyone got access to it, and while the cases are declining or holding steady in some places, the virus doesn't really show. Signs of stopping were in this for the long haul. Second, you should be wearing a mask. Quoting the Times researchers know that even simple masks can effectively stop droplets spewing from an infected whereas nose or mouth in a study published in April in nature, scientists showed that when people who are infected with influenza, rhinovirus, or a mild cold, causing corona virus wore a mask, it blocked nearly one hundred percent of the viral droplets exhaled as well as some tiny particles end quote wearing a face mask, it can also help prevent you from touching your face and as Dr. Robert at Mar an infectious disease specialist at Baylor College of Medicine says it's better than nothing. Third American public health infrastructure needs an update quoting again the united. States knows how to fight wars, but as the past few months have shown, the American response to pathogens can easily become a shambles, even though pathogens kill more Americans than many wars have. We, have no viral Pentagon. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention is more of an FBI for outbreak investigations than a war machine for years under both the Obama and trump administration's. It's leaders have had to seek clearance for almost every utterance as war does to defeated nations. Pandemics expose the weaknesses of their systems. Our Patchwork and uncoordinated response has produced more than one hundred thousand deaths. Surely we can do better end quote fourth. Responding to the virus is extraordinarily expensive. The federal government has promised to spend over two trillion dollars on the pandemic. This money is going largely to vaccines, testing and economic safety nets, but experts say far more money is needed, and there has already been plenty. Plenty of debate about how the money should be allocated fifth. We have a long way to go to fix virus testing. We're now testing hundreds of thousands of people a day throughout the country far better than we were doing before, but public health experts say we'll need at least nine hundred thousand to a million per day, just to test hospital patients, nursing home, residents and employees returning to work sixth. We can't count on her immunity to keep us healthy apart from us being super far away from enough positive cases to even consider immunity, some doctors say the concept of enough people getting it and being immune, and therefore the virus dine out might not even hold up in this case. Quote Dr Paul Audit of Children's Hospital Philadelphia, and the University of Pennsylvania, noted that while some vaccines eliminated measles, rubella and smallpox, and almost eliminated polio in the united. States Vaccines Against Influenza and whooping cough have not stopped outbreaks, influenza and whooping cough have spread even after enough people in the community have been vaccinated to in theory. Stop the diseases. That's because the antibodies. Antibodies that protect people against viruses infecting mucosal surfaces like the lining of the nose tend to be short, lived end quote seventh. The virus produces more symptoms than expected. There's the shortness of breath coughing, but there can also be sore throat fever chills, muscle aches, headaches gastrointestinal upset a loss of taste and smell and red and purple lesions on the fingers or toes. In more severe cases, it can lead to pneumonia, acute respiratory distress, kidney, failure, blood, clots, stroke, and more. This disease is all over the place, and so much more than we thought just six months ago. Eighth we can worry a bit less about infection from surfaces. The studies proving how long the virus lasted on various types of surfaces, did not test for the live virus only for traces of its genetic material. The CDC has said since March that surface transmission is not the main way the virus is spread. Ninth weaken also worry less about a mutating virus mutations as viruses spread is common and usually insignificant. Sometimes the mutation does have a noticeable effect sometimes making it worse, sometimes making the virus itself weaker. But compared to other viruses, the new corona virus mutates relatively slowly, which is good news for the potential of effective vaccine, and finally we can't count on warm weather two feet the virus quote. A few things are known about conditions that do or do not favor the virus. The ultraviolet rays in sunlight helped destroy the virus on surfaces, and some studies have shown a small effect from humidity. It seems to last longest on hard surfaces like plastic. Plastic and metal it won't survive in pool or lake or sea water wind disperses it. Risk of transmission is lower outdoors than indoors. A wooden bench under a bright sun at a breezy beach is better than a metal and plastic recliner on the shady side of the pool, but if someone infected sits near you and coughs or talks, a lot or sings, it doesn't really matter where you're sitting. And how nice a day it is end quote. And the final word from the article quote, the bottom line wear a mask. Keep your distance when the time comes in the fall. Get a flu shot to protect yourself from one respiratory disease. You can avoid and to help keep emergency rooms and urgent care from being overwhelmed. Hope for treatment, a cure, a vaccine be patient. We have to pace ourselves if there's such thing as a disease marathon, this is it and quote. In interdisciplinary team led by Assistant Professor of Audio Technology at American University Braxton. Boren is trying to digitally reconstruct how Johann Sebastian Bach's music would have sounded to the man himself and everyone else listening back in the eighteenth century. Bach spent the last twenty seven years of his life as the Kanter at Tomas. Kurkova Saint Thomas Church in Leipzig. there. He wrote some of his most famous pieces for the church choir, including two hundred sixty five cantatas the Saint Matthew. Passion in mass in B, minor the acoustics and architecture of space can have a big impact on how sounds and especially complex musical composition sound back is known to have favoured Saint Thomas Church over others in the area and architectural acoustics, Pioneer Hope Bacchanal posited in the nineteen thirties that this may have been due to interior changes made by Martin Luther in the fifteen hundreds when he preached at Saint Thomas Church. Quoting the National Endowment for the humanities to test these theories born, and his team traveled to League together physical and acoustic measurements of the current Saint Thomas Church, which has been altered many times since the Baroque period. Omni Directional speakers allowed them to project sounds onto all surfaces equally in order to record the reverberation clarity and the amount of time it takes for sound to decay within the vast gothic church. These data were used to build computer simulations that would recreate the acoustic conditions of Saint Thomas Church, both as it would have sounded during Bach's time, and in the pre reformation era, these complex virtual acoustic models calibrate for the different reflective qualities of stone and wooden coral galleries, the absence or addition of drapes and tapestries, the depth of the church, and the relative distances between the instrumentalists, Saint Thomas, church choir and audience. The team's calculations also took into account the acoustically absorbent properties of the congregants. In a sound studio back in Washington DC in on some will recorded several versions of the CANTATA haired soon wound, and taught and Leben, which, but composed as his first year as cantor to be integrated into the computer simulations, a computational intense operation says Boren that had to be broken down into or Kestrel segments and quotes. The data and recordings will be released online later this year, during which time people will be able to listen to the CANTATA. CANTATA as it may have sounded, not just generally in the Saint Thomas Church, but from different locations within the Church and people will be able to upload their own recordings and run them through the audio filters, so they can listen to them as if they are sitting in church born hoping that such simulations will become a common part of musical scholarship and be able to inform analysis of musical compositions and instruct accurate performance of them going forward. And while we're discussing Bach I've gotTA plug to musical projects from a friend of mine. The first is called switched off back to play on Wendy. Carlos Synthesizer riff on. The classics switched on Bach in switched off Bach. Joe. degeorge plays Bach's compositions on an unplugged synthesizer, so that all you can hear is the tapping and plunging of the keys. In Joe's other buck tribute project in glove with Bach, he plays box invention number eight I normally, then again will wearing a thin pair of latex gloves, and then he plays it again in knit gloves, and on and on with progressively thicker gloves until he's playing it in boxing, gloves or sometimes mickey mouse hands. It sounds and it kind of is, but it's also kind of great and Bach experts. Love it, so if you WANNA, check it out links to his band camp are in the show notes. It's important maybe now more than ever to find the right workout plan and stick to it fit. Bond is smart fitness APP that takes all the guesswork out of planning your workouts. 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You can access these workouts anywhere and anytime just find some space in your home and stream of program the morning meltdown one hundred to your computer web TV, tablet, smartphone, Roku, apple, TV chrome, cast, and more and right now listeners to this podcast can get a special free trial membership. When you text good news to thirty thirty thirty, you'll get full access to this entire platform for free all the workouts, the nutrition information and support totally free again just text good news to thirty thirty thirty. When the lockdown started, and so much of our work in social lives were switched over to video calls I, noticed a lot of my extrovert friends struggling while some of my introvert, friends seemed to be thriving within a couple of weeks. However, the introverts were struggling to no one was enjoying. Video calls as a substitute for real human interaction. Every part of this experience is trying and stressful. No matter your personality type. However. Our responses and potential solutions to stressors can look different based on personality type. Bloomberg broke down some tips for coping during quarantine, using two pairs of personality types from the Myers Briggs test. You know the psychological personality test. Your work might have made you take that sorts. People into sixteen different personality types all with letters like I N T J or ESF P. Full disclosure here while I claim to be an e AF J. I've gotten different results almost every time I've taken the test which leads me to be more than a little skeptical about any very serious applications of the tests, findings, bullets, simple individual tips for coping based on your general personality type, and not on a hard and fast rule still seems useful so in addition to introvert and extrovert which I think. We're all familiar with this article also has tips for people who are judging or perceptive. According to Myers Briggs, quote, those who lean toward judging prefers structure and firm decisions. People who lean toward perceiving are more open, flexible and adaptable and quotes. One thing the article points out. Is that no matter your personality type, introverted, extroverted, perceiving judging deering the stress end unusualness of lockdown. You may find yourself swinging to the opposite personality type in ways you're unaccustomed handling, which is what can cause atypical outbursts or From other people. So to offset any of that here are some tips quoting Bloomberg for introverts find a quiet place to work. If you have roommates, retreat to a space where you can be alone or by noise cancelling headphones be more playful with colleagues. Take opportunities to chat. Make time to sit down and reflect on what's happening, perhaps having lunch in a quiet spot instead of eating at your desk. For extroverts maintain connections by taking part in virtual pub, quizzes or using zoom or skype to keep in touch with pals. Make your home environment stimulating by playing music, taking regular breaks to chat with friends or spending time outdoors. Ask for some quiet time if you need it. For judges try to move as quickly as possible to a new routine to overcome the shock of sudden lifestyle change dedicate a corner of the room for working since you prefer things to be compartmentalized change into work clothes each morning to create a sense of separation from home, life for procedures, mix up your days and change your work schedule to avoid sense of monotony consider taking longer breaks in the day and catching up with work in the evening. When necessary respect deadlines don't start shooting off emails at two am. That might cause panic among colleagues end quote. Advice for coping during this time is not one-size-fits-all so as silly or annoying personality tests can sometimes be. They can be really useful to get advice. That's a little bit more tailored, and to be cognizant of how in our lives may be struggling and how we can help. Ending today with some news about some very good boys, a new study from Arizona State University further confirms what we pretty much know. Our dogs really do want to save us when we're in danger so long as they know how to do so. The researchers conducted a series of tests with dogs and their owners to test. What dogs motivations to help might be. The tests included having the owners sit inside a box and call out in distress, having the owners sit in the box while quietly reading and having food in the box without the owner. The box had a lightweight door that could easily be moved by the dogs, but the dogs had to work it out on their own how to do it. About, a third of the dogs ended up rescuing their owners, but co author of the Study Joshua Vyborg says quote the key here is that without controlling each dogs understanding of how to open the box. The proportion of dogs who rescued their owners greatly underestimates the proportion of dogs who wanted to rescue their owners and quotes. The dogs were much more stressed during the distress test when the owners feigned that they were stuck in a box, quoting van born again when their owner was distressed. Distressed barked more, and they wind more. In fact, they were eight dogs who wind, and they did so during the distress test, only one other dog wind, and that was for food in quotes, psychologists clive win. Another author of the study, said quote. What's fascinating about this study is that it shows that dogs really care about their people. Even without training, many dogs will try and rescue people who appear to be in distress and when they fail, we can see how upset they are. The results from the control tests indicate that dogs who fail to rescue their people are unable to understand what to do. It's not that they don't care about their people next. We want to explore whether the dogs that rescue do so to get close to their people or whether they would still open the box even if that did not give them the opportunity to come together with their humans and quote. That is all for today and I. Just want to acknowledge here that despite the fact that we are focusing on good news on this show, most of the news out there right now is not greats. I haven't included stories about the ongoing protests in honor George Floyd and for justice for black lives, because this show is focused on sharing covid, Nineteen News, and then some good stuff as an antidote to that not any other very serious news. And while the point of the protests is righteous, and will hopefully lead to positive change. I wouldn't really classify news about the protests right now. As a distracting antidote from the realities of the world, just the opposite and facts that are meant to make us wake up and recognize reality. Worried that if I were to offer some of the few of lifting stories related to the protests come across as belittling the severity of the situation overall. That might change as the days go on, because frankly silence on the issue also feels wrong. Police said apart from updating you on krona. Virus News, the point of this show is to be a brief uplifting lifting distraction from the more serious pressing news of the day. Not, a distraction for your whole day, or from the real issues out there just a quick reprieve to reenergize us to face the harsh realities of the world and fight together to make it better. Talk to you tomorrow.

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Tue. 06/23 - Get Ready To Go To Flavortown, Ohio

Coronavirus Daily Briefing

17:27 min | 8 months ago

Tue. 06/23 - Get Ready To Go To Flavortown, Ohio

"Welcome to the good news ride home for Tuesday June twenty third two. Thousand, twenty I'm Jackson, Bird. Pet, robot that's helping cure covid nineteen loneliness. If you saw the fireworks going off every night in your town was bad. Let me tell you about a city in France that has set them off every single day for a hundred and fifty years, drastic park was number one in the US box offices this past weekend like the original Jurassic Park from nineteen ninety-three, and are you ready to go to Flavor Town Ohio? Here are some of the cool things from the news today. The lockdown has been a lonely time for just about everyone, but especially for older people who are among the most vulnerable and many of whom live in nursing homes who've had to close to all visitors for months to help resolve some of the loneliness. Many seniors are experiencing. Some facilities have turned to robots for help, specifically a stuffed sale robot that was built as a kind of pet therapy. Quoting wired Pero looks more like a lux toy than a healthcare tool modeled after a baby harp seal, and deliberately scaled to the weight of a human infant, Pero, coups and wiggles and blinks. It's unnervingly expressive is when it's held, but Pero isn't just a six thousand dollar piece of cute overload underneath its cuddly for sophisticated artificial intelligence, designed to comfort people and quote. While it originally received some criticism over fears that it could encourage bonding with a robot, instead of engaging in actual human connection. Now it seems like the perfect solution for our new social distancing reality. And despite those fears, even before covid nineteen Pero really seemed to work quoting again Sandra Peterson program director for the University of Texas at Tyler's Nursing Department and manager of Geriatric housecall practice has studied the robots effects on people with Alzheimer's disease and she found Pero Reduced Reliance on psychotropic drugs, improved blood, pressure and oxygenation levels, and stirred the emotions of patients who would otherwise often appeared disconnected. These people who supposedly had little short term memory began interacting with Perrot as the study progressed, they'd see the peril coming and recognize it Peterson, says one lady who had been nonverbal for eight years per her family's report, started talking, and her first words were. I love you to the Perreault. Is there something disconcerting about a woman who is unable to communicate with her family, being able to form a bond with a robot, maybe but for humans who are able to look past the weirdness of developing emotional ties with robots, those connections can result in real benefits Julia Carpenter a research fellow in the ethics and Emerging Sciences Group at California Polytechnic State University has studied the research on Pero and says that the effect the robot can have is similar to animal therapy. Carpenter also sees perros artificial as a boon to herod caregivers in Nursing Home Settings where Pero has been used the attendance. Attendance of brought up the fact that it's easier for them to have perreault than an actual animal visit, because they don't need to clean or care for the animal. She says they can focus on the patient end quote, and during the pandemic. It's not just the elderly who've made use of Pero. Workers at a call center for coronavirus testing questions in Tokyo were given Pero robots to help with stress relief, a nurse in Atlanta who has had to live apart from his family during the pandemic to make sure he doesn't spread the virus to them has used a pero to keep him company. The payroll isn't cheap. Though at six thousand dollars, it's more practical as a company level investment for certain facilities in workplaces versus in individual purchase, but more and more equivalent types of robots are starting to hit the market with some at lower prices. And while this cuddly medical grade robot therapy animal is certainly a huge boon for our pandemic times door schooler, a CO founder of intuition robotics, who makes the A. Q. Digital companion points out that if anything, this pandemic should serve to shine a light on the very real problem of isolation and loneliness among seniors, and that when things get back to some form of normal, we perhaps find ways to make such robot companions less necessary. Let's not forget about older adults when we go back to work, he says. I originally thought this was just happening in my neighborhood, but apparently it's happening all over the country fireworks endless fireworks going off every single night. Sure it's almost the fourth of July, but this has been happening in towns across the nation. For weeks in New, York City over thirteen hundred complaints have been made about fireworks the past two weeks compared to just twenty five last year. Boston to has seen complaints increased by twenty three hundred percents compared to last year. There's all kinds of theories as to why this is happening from the more reasonable, more people are at home board and with canceled July fourth events. The fireworks stores have had more stock on hand that they're selling super cheap. To the hard to believe like a coordinated PSI ops campaign by the police. Whatever the reason! If they're bothering you or your kids or your dog just be glad that you don't live in niece France. Or I guess Anaheim, California, or Orlando Florida's since they have daily fireworks at Disney land and world, but the story behind the daily fireworks in niece is interesting and has been going on for far longer. While some towns mark the time with church bells every day at noon, for the past one hundred and fifty years, the people of niece have set off fireworks. Quoting Atlas Obscure The quaint midday explosion dates back to the mid nineteenth century when British not frequently spent winter in niece. In eighteen, sixty, two, a punctual Lord from Edinburgh Thomas Coventry is said to have tired of waiting for his wife to return from social engagements to him for lunch. He organized for cannon to be fired at noon as a sign for her to come home for their meal. Writes Alex Benvenuto a local historian in an email when he returned to his castle. Edinburgh, he left a pretty. Pretty someone money to niece's city council to maintain it, Benvenuto continues the mayor at the time Francois de Lucena voted in a municipal decree to his wishes were upheld. Coventry may have been inspired by a similar practice in his hometown and bre. Castle still fires a gun at one in the afternoon for ships in the fourth and Rome also has amid day can in tradition and quotes. So I don't love that. The cannon was originally a public marker for a dude's wife to go home to him. It's kind of like a man used the PA system at the mall for lost kids but. Life, but it seems like it has been a long time since it was ever associated with that and now is just a value tradition in the town. Many residents use it as a reminder to step away from work and take lunch break. In fact when the cannon was suspended for fifty six days during the pandemic residents wrote into the city to ask why the cannon was not deemed in essential service and fleet are Nello, who's responsible for the cannon? said his friends were texting him that without the cannon they had forgotten to eat. Lunch are Nilo is a second generation. PYRO technician has run the canons since nineteen ninety-two. He says that in thirty years he's only been late twice. Pandemic assigned the cannon runs every single day. Best Deal Day when it's silent to honor the lives lost in the two thousand sixteen new terror attack, our Nilo also says that he likes to try to prank people on April, Fools Day by playing the cannon early, and I say cannon, but while the tradition began as a canon in eighteen, eighty six, they replaced it with fireworks colorless. Nothing fancy, although for special occasions they do pull out the old cannon and dress in period clothing to reenact the original tradition. Usually, it's just our, Nilo, alone, setting off the fireworks every day, a designated place beside a cemetery in the police department, but on occasion people do come out to watch, and there's just too small booms, one initial one that can only be heard in the immediate vicinity when the five point six outs, packet of gunpowder is lit and a second louder one that can be heard across the whole town when the explosion erupts into the sky. All in all basically just one small firework at the same time every day does actually sound preferable to this barrage of fireworks going off at all hours of the night. So maybe if that all keeps up, I'll just have to move to niece. If. You're looking for a way to get fit this Summer Beach Bonnie on demand his your answer. It's the easy to use streaming service that gives you instant access to over thirteen hundred super effective workouts that you can do right now in your home. There's no better time to start a home based on your schedule. Easy to do with no price. The equipment needed workout regime than right now. There are hundreds of effective workouts for all fitness levels ranging from bodybuilding to weight, training and cardio hit to Yoga. Even dance workouts. Get motivated by celebrity super trainers. You know like Tony Horton Joel Freeman Jericho Mc. Matthews and awesome calories I have personally been enjoying the pyeho class as a longtime fan of pilates and Yoga, it's. 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At Info Dot our crowd dot com slash good news. That's Info Dot O. U. R., C., R. O., W., D., dot. com slash good news. Even as some movie, theaters begin to cautiously reopened. Most studios have delayed releases of films until later this year, which means that those theatres that are opening have had to depend on movies released earlier this year like trolls, world, tour or play the classics about eleven hundred movie theatres have reopened in the US and of the two hundred top grossing, currently a hundred and sixty of them are drive ins, which favoured nostalgia films anyway between that and the fact that. That no new movies came out last weekend. It makes sense though makes it no less weird that Jurassic. Park was the number one film in America this past weekend making it. The fourth time has topped the box office charts in its twenty seven year history after having been number one for the first three weeks after it was released in Nineteen, ninety three, and also making it up to number four when a three d version was released in two thousand thirteen. At number two this past weekend, according to deadline and industry estimates was jaws. That was followed by some newer flicks like the invisible man, and yes, trolls, world tour, but coming in at number six was back to the future, followed by ETA at number eight and the goonies at number ten. So basically theaters across America are just playing. All of my favorites. Dressing Park was actually the first movie that I saw in the movie theater, and when it came out on VHS, my brother and I watched it every single day after school back to the future is no joke. My favorite movie of all time my parents Bentley recorded over my birth video with a bootleg of back to the future part three and honestly I'm not even mad about it. Back to the numbers, because they are just so wild the. Grossing newer movie last weekend was the horror film followed. It brought in a hundred twenty seven thousand dollars, which sounds really really bad until you hear that Jurassic Park at the top of the pack grossed five hundred seventeen thousand dollars, and that's considered incredibly good these days for context. The weekend before lockdown started affecting theaters. GROSSED THIRTY NINE MILLION DOLLARS Before, the pandemic on a holiday weekend such as president's Day, the overall gross for the top ten films was a hundred and sixty three million dollars on Easter weekend during the lowest point for the movie industry. During the pandemic, the top ten films grossed a total of three, thousand, six, hundred seventy five dollars. Yeah. And, the amount that individual cinemas are bringing in is kind of shocking as well even if it all makes sense, even though some of the top grossing drive ins made around one hundred thousand dollars over the weekend, most of the fully indoor cinemas that reopened did not fare nearly as well a string of cinemark theatres in north. Texas made barely a thousand dollars each all weekend. It's probably too early to completely tell and as much as I may love the classics. I'm sure the lack of new movies isn't helping bites. It does seem like people aren't quite ready to return to indoor movie theaters. Even if the theaters are ready to reopen, I mean I get. They're losing a ton of money this year, but I can't help thinking. They were so preoccupied with whether or not they could. They didn't stop to think if they should. And finally today, if fifty thousand people have their way, we might soon actually be able to go to flavor town. Quoting manageable as protests against police brutality continue worldwide for the third consecutive week, many calling for the removal of statues and memorials of problematic historical figures. Statues of confederate generals known slaveholders and Christopher Columbus or removed all around the united. The Change Org petition with more than fourteen thousand signatures wants to take that a step further. The petition addressed to to city council and Columbus Mayor Andrew. Ginther points out that changing the name to flavor town, not only honors, the city's proud heritage as a culinary crossroads, but also honors Guy Fieri born in Columbus and quotes, and now at the time of recording, the petition is just about to reach. It's fifty thousand signature goal and the creator of the petition Tyler. Woodbridge says the petition will be delivered to city hall on Tuesday. June thirtieth the petition has racked up so much traction that Bud light has promised to give free. Bud Light Seltzer to all residents. If the town is successfully renamed. Renamed Flavor town, quoting again from measurable as one signer noted in their comments on the petition, changing the city's name to honoring indigenous figure would probably make more sense, but at the same time the name Columbus needs to be done away with so badly. Residents might as well choose flavored town all joking aside Guy Fieri has raised twenty million dollars for food service. Workers impacted by the pandemic. The comment reads this act alone makes them far more worthy of a town named in his honor than Christopher Columbus, if we have to choose between flavor, town and Columbus I know where I stand end quote. Can. You Imagine Hey, where are you from Flavor Town Ohio? I mean hey, if anything they're. Tourism would probably spike more sharply than guy. Fieri frosted tips. Might not be a bad idea for at least a temporary stunt that it can't be worse than ice town. That is all. I've got for you today as always. This show was produced by ride home media I'm Jackson Bird? I hope you have a good rest of your day and we'll talk to you tomorrow.

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Wed. 09/16 - No Seasonal Peeps, Yes Taco Bell Wine

Kottke Ride Home

17:08 min | 5 months ago

Wed. 09/16 - No Seasonal Peeps, Yes Taco Bell Wine

"Welcome to the county ride home for Wednesday September Sixteenth Two thousand twenty seven bird. Completely preserved extinct to cave bear specimen from the Ice Age has been found in Siberia. Y Our dreams have been more intense since the pandemic began strange new food and drinks hitting the markets and some beloved ones we won't be seen this year. And the billionaire who just accomplished his life long goal of giving away all of his money here are some of the cool things from the news today. Scientists have just discovered a completely preserved extinct cave bear the ice age cave bear species, Ursus SPILEA S-, which went extinct about fifteen thousand years ago is itself between twenty, two, thousand to thirty, nine, thousand, five, hundred years old and was discovered in the melting permafrost of the of Ski Islands the Southernmost Group of the new Siberian islands. The bear originally found by reindeer herders still has its nose teeth and internal organs intact. It is the first wholly intact cave bear specimen scientists having previously only found skeletons. Quoting Science Alert Cave bears roamed while most of Europe and Asia. Were covered in glaciers sharing the landscape with mammoths, sabertooth cats, and giant ground sloths. The creatures were massive males could weigh up to one ton, which is about five hundred pounds heavier than the largest bears alive today and quote this particular species is believed to be an ancient relative of the Modern Day Brown bear and this specimens precise age will be confirmed wants radiocarbon analysis is done by the team at Eastern Federal University and you could. As the planet warms and more discoveries are being made in the permafrost other fines in recent years include a cave bear cub of forty thousand year old Wolf's head two lion cubs in eighteen, thousand year old puppy, and of course, the remains of woolly mammoths. So I think we have talked about this a little bit on the show all the way back in May which as we all know was approximately seventeen years ago. But Dreams appear to be haunting people around the world at an all time high or at least an all time high of being recorded. Writing in scientific American professor of Psychiatry Touring Nielsen notes that a widespread change in dreaming has been reported after significant events in the past such as after nine eleven. But Nielsen notes quote. This upwelling of dreams is the first to occur globally and the first to happen in the era of social media which makes dreams readily accessible for immediate study and quotes. And a number of studies on dreams are being conducted around the world and they're also being documented informally online with projects like the Cova Dreams bought on twitter and the website I dream of Covid, which illustrates dreams submitted by individuals although that one doesn't seem to have been updated since late May. Quoting Scientific American. More recent studies found qualitative changes in dream emotions and concerns about health dream reports from Brazilian adults in social isolation had high proportions of words related to anger, sadness, contamination, and cleanliness. Text mining of accounts of Eight, hundred, ten finish dreams showed that most word clusters were laid in with anxiousness fifty, five percent were about the pandemic directly lack of regard for social, distancing elderly people in trouble and these emotions were more prevalent among people who felt increased stress during the day. A study of one hundred nurses conscripted to treat covid nineteen patients in Wuhan China revealed that forty five percent experienced nightmares twice the lifetime rate among Chinese psychiatric outpatients and many times higher than that among the five percent of the general population who have nightmare disorder and quotes. Nielsen. Believes there are three main factors for this change in our dreams quoting again disrupted sleep schedules augmenting the amount of Rem, sleep and therefore dreaming threats of contagion and social distancing taxing dreams capacity to regulate emotions and social end mainstream media amplifying the public's reaction to the surge and quote. Wall some people in particular frontline workers experienced increased rates of insomnia at the start of the pandemic. Once lockdown orders went into effect other people around the world reported an increase in the amount of sleep they were able to get and I find this little tidbit fascinating quote hall from March Thirteen to twenty seven time asleep in the US increased almost twenty percent nationwide and states with the longest commute times such as Maryland New Jersey showed the largest increases end quote. And not only do you go through more cycles of sleep or rapid eye movement sleep when you sleep longer, rem sleep is specifically more vivid in the late morning quoting again, increased dreaming during late morning rim intervals results from the convergence of several processes sleep itself cycles through deep and light stages about every ninety minutes. But pressure for REM sleep gradually increases as the need for deep recuperative sleep is progressively satisfied. Meanwhile, a circadian process that is tightly linked to our twenty four hour core body temperature rhythm gives an abrupt boost to rem sleep propensity late in the sleep period and stays elevated through the morning end quote. So people who are skipping their commutes in catching in extra hour of sleep in the morning would have and based on their qualitative reporting did have more bizarre dreams than usual. But even if you're not sleeping as well, it turns out that waking up throughout the night can actually cause you to have better recall of your dreams. So even if maybe your dreams aren't any weirder than usual, you could be remembering then better than usual. And of course, stress and trauma can always affect sleeping in dreams. But some scientists think social distancing specifically has had a unique effect on our dreams. A strong of dreams is social simulation. This mass scale social isolation we've experienced in our waking hours, which runs contrary in some ways to human evolution may be clashing with a core function of dreaming and resulting in vivid stressful dreams. National Geographic has a related theory quote with hundreds of millions of people sheltering at home during the coronavirus pandemic. Some dream experts believed that withdrawal from our usual environments and daily Stimuli has left dreamers with a dearth of inspiration forcing our subconscious minds to draw more heavily on themes from our past and quote. and. While our day to day, lives may look a bit boring. We're also experiencing a lot of new things for the first time and dreams tend to prioritize new things like when you're learning a new skill meeting, New People or starting a new job it's common dream about those things. Of course, a lot of what we're experiencing. Not, happy fun many many people around the world are experiencing in in nightmares experts recommend that anyone struggling with nightmares caused by trauma. Therapy if possible if you're not quite in that traumatic category, but still bothered by intense dreams, some psychiatrists also recommend practicing lucid dreaming becoming aware of when you're dreaming and having some sense of control over your dreams. And if you just want to get to sleep easier regardless of any impact on dreams, tessie has got your back. They just announced their new sleep aid drink drift. Well, quoting CNBC the enhanced water drink contains two hundred milligrams of L.. Nin. In Amino acid that's found in green and black teas. In some mushrooms, a few studies have suggested that the ingredient can improve sleep, quality and help reduce. The physical symptoms of stress. Drift will also contains ten percent of the recommended daily value of magnesium. The drink comes in seven and a half ounce mini cans in just one flavor, blackberry lavender, and quote. The drink will hit US markets in early twenty, twenty one and Pepsico says it was created as part of an internal company wide competition becoming the fastest new product to ever come out of the company. good old corporations always there to help us out in our times of need. 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You'll get full access to the entire platform, all the workouts, nutrition, information and support absolutely free again to get that free trial membership just text good news to thirty thirty thirty. Speaking of weird food and drinks. Taco Bell has just announced the launch of a new custom wine to pair with their toasted cheesy Chalupa Jalapeno Noir, which I guess to make use of the Pinot Noir. Pun. Should be pronounced incorrectly as Jala Pinot. Noir has quote notes of Wild Strawberry Cherry and beat roots and quote which complements the quote rich taste and crunchy texture of the beloved toasty cheesy Chiluba and quotes. The one type of wine comes in three different unique labels. Just five dollars is already being touted as a collectors item. Unfortunately, Jalapeno Warr will only be available in Canada and only for a limited time but don't worry if you're in the United States, you can go to red lobster for a do Gerrita. The restaurant chain announced the mountain dew based Margarita. Saying. It's hitting some restaurants this month and will be in all of them by the end of the year. Dues I ever official cocktail but as for what's in its quoting three list, the announcement coyly states that it's a top secret recipe. All I know is what's in the picture there's a lime involved also some kind of red powder around the RIM Cayenne. sel Chili powder flaming hot cheetos dust we have no idea in quotes. Red lobster wants you to know that it pairs well with their cheddar biscuits and the Internet wants you to know that they're horrified but also will still probably go order one. And one more controversial food take for you. Today seasonal peeps are officially suspended until Easter. Just born the distributor of peeps and other candy told delicious quotes while peeps, marshmallow candies, Mike, and and hot tamales with be available in fund shapes and packaging sizes for the Halloween and holiday seasons. Unfortunately, the seasonal varieties will not be in stores again until twenty twenty one, as you may know, due to the unprecedented covid nineteen pandemic, we temporarily suspended production of our candy brands to ensure the health and. Safety of our associates. This situation resulted in us, having to make the difficult decision to forgo production of our seasonal candies for Halloween Christmas and Valentine's Day in order to focus on meeting the expected overwhelming demand for peeps for next Easter season as well as our everyday candies we look forward to offering our funds seasonal shapes in packaging at all major seasons again, beginning with Halloween of twenty twenty, one end quote. And this is in line what I've continued to read reports of an experienced personally that brands are having to pare down their lines in order to keep up demand the broadest and most basic options, and the Internet was predictably torn on the topic with some people absolutely distraught and others saying that it's the first good thing to happen in twenty twenty Richard Cheese on twitter bemoaned quote. Why couldn't this happen to candy corn instead in quotes as someone who does not enjoy peeps? I really couldn't care less, but it does make me worry about whether we'll see a shortage of Pumpkin and Christmas. Tree shaped raises now that would be tragic. Chuck Feeney once a billionaire but now is officially broke and for the best reason. The eighty nine year old founder of the airport retailer duty free shops was committed to a concept he founded called giving while living in contrast to having a foundation in your name after you pass, he encouraged other wealthy individuals to give away at least more than half of their money while they're alive. See, you can control where it goes in see the effects yourself. Foundation Atlantic. Charities. Fini has given away over eight billion dollars to charities, foundations, and universities, most of which were anonymous or. Kept out of the press so that he could focus on the good works instead of the ego boost according to Forbes Fini set aside around two million dollars for he and his wife's retirement, which means that his donations of over eight billion dollars calculates out to Phoenix having given away three, hundred, seventy, five, thousand percent more money than his current net worth his giving while living concept inspired, Bill, Gates and. Warren Buffet's giving pledge Gates said of Fini quote shook created a path for other philanthropists to follow I. Remember meeting him before starting the giving pledge. He told me that we should encourage people not to give just fifty percent but as much as possible during their lifetime. No one is a better example of that than chuck many people talk to me about how he inspired them. It is truly amazing end quote. Fini was interested in spending a lot to help out with solutions as opposed to having a postmortem foundation throw a few dollars here and there each year some of his major donations include quoting Forbes. Fini gave three point seven billion to education including nearly one billion to his Alma Mater Cornell which he attended on the Gi bill more than eight, hundred, seventy million went to human rights and social change like sixty. Two million dollars in grants to abolish the death penalty in the US and seventy six million dollars for grassroots campaigns supporting the passage of obamacare. He gave more than seven hundred million in gifts to health ranging from a two hundred seventy million dollar grant to improve public health care in Vietnam to one hundred, seventy, six, million dollar gift to the Global Brain Health Institute at the University of California San Francisco End. Quote. On Monday, he signed documents to Shudder Atlantic philanthropies which had long ago established twenty twenty as their deadline for giving away feeney's money in the most impactful ways. Possible. Vinnie was in part able to give away so much by spending very little on himself. Forbes describes his San Francisco apartment as austere and dorm-like, and while it's not like Fini and his wife are actually going to be struggling to pay the bills or anything. You know he didn't actually take some sort of vow of monkhood and give up all of his earthly possessions as some headlines might lead you to believe. But I do suppose it is still nice to know that he chose to spend the majority of his money on other people and doing good in the world instead of buying a fleet of helicopters in his own private island. That is it for today as always, this show was produced by ride home media and county dot Org I am Jackson Bird and I'm GonNa go try to practice some lucid dreaming. So I can avoid the inevitable nightmare tonight about woolly mammoths sipping on Duga Rita's I. Hope you have a great rest of your day and I'll talk to you again tomorrow.

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Tue. 08/18 - The Lost Colony Was Never Lost

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18:01 min | 6 months ago

Tue. 08/18 - The Lost Colony Was Never Lost

"Welcome to the Kaci ride home for Tuesday, August Eighteenth Two thousand twenty I'm Jackson Bird Yes we are the key ride home. Now, if you want more info on the name change, you can listen to yesterday's episode. Before today we are debunking misconceptions about women's suffrage on the hundredth anniversary of American women gaining the right to vote and also busting the myth of the lost colony facebook in nyu or trying to make MRI's better patients using artificial intelligence and a website that will replicate the white noise of your office. Here are some cool things from the news today. While discoveries and technologies are always evolving those innovations don't always trickle down to the experience of the patients. One example MRI's while the technology has advanced over the years for a patient undergoing an MRI you still have to stay perfectly still in an intimidating tube for twenty minutes to over hour. Won't scientists are trying to change that by using artificial intelligence to speed up the process quoting the verge the work is a collaborative project called fast MRI between facebook's research team or fair and radiologists at Nyu Lon health together, the scientists trained a machine learning model on pairs of low resolution high resolution. MRI Scans using this model to predict what final MRI. Scans look like just from a quarter of the usual input data that means scans can be done faster meaningless hassle for patients and quicker diagnoses. The reason artificial intelligence can be used to produce the same scans from less data is that the neural network has essentially learned an abstract idea of what a medical skin looks like by examining the training data it. Then uses this to make a prediction about the final output think of it like an architect who has designed lots of banks over the years they've an abstract idea of what a bank looks like, and so they can create a final blueprint faster and quotes the technology has been in development for years but the fast team is now publishing the results of. Initial study in which they found that radiologists made the exact same assessments using traditional MRI scans and AI. Scans. Which is, of course, crucial for proving the reliability of this model and the best news they think it can be incorporated into hospitals fairly quickly because the training data and model are open access and don't require any new hardware to incorporate into existing scanners. And this is just the tip of the iceberg originally, who heads the MRI research team at University College London and is not part of the MRI team told the verge that we are going to be seeing a lot more ai in medical imaging in the future. Today marks one hundred years since the ratification of the nineteenth amendments of the United States constitution granting women the right to vote. At least some women in theory and tomorrow's anniversary I thought that it would be appropriate to dive into some of the myths surrounding women's suffrage here in the US beginning with the idea that the nineteenth amendment really did give all women access to voting. So because the original constitution doesn't actually mention voting and the nineteenth amendment as well as the fifteenth, just say what states can't do with regards to voting that is not deny or bridge the right to vote to citizens on the basis of sex that's the nineteenth. Minute or race color or previous servitude fifteenth that meant that state's got creative in how they could prevent people namely, women and people of color from voting methods that didn't explicitly prohibit them on the basis of sex or race but sure as heck made it harder for people from those populations, these methods included literacy tests, poll taxes, and quoting time violence and intimidation. Especially, lynchings also kept people away from the polls. Some registrars even flat out refused to process the papers handed black women a blank sheet of paper the. Same. Methods of disenfranchisement also held back Latinas from voting in the south at the time laws like the Chinese exclusion act of eighteen, eighty two and the immigration acts of nineteen seventeen and nineteen twenty four blocked Asian immigrants from citizenship and therefore from voting and even though native American voting rights activists. Gertrude. Simmons Bonnin also known as Zik Cala lobbied for the Indian, Citizenship Act of nineteen twenty four, which allowed more native Americans to vote some Western states didn't grant needed. Americans the right to vote until nineteen, forty eight. Arizona New Mexico in Nineteen Fifty, seven Utah, the voting rights act of nineteen, sixty five would eliminate many of the obstacles women of color faced voting but the Supreme Court in two thousand and thirteen invalidated part of the laws federal oversight of state obstacles to voting rights, voting rights, activists, and policymakers continue to call for updates to strengthen it and quotes. But the thing is while there were so many women who still couldn't vote after the amendment was ratified in nineteen twenty the rashly plenty who could vote before nineteen twenty. Eighteen US states allowed women white and black vote in all elections before nineteen twenty and another twenty two states allowed women to vote in some elections but not all the Wyoming territory was the first to pass women suffrage all the way back in eighteen sixty nine. This decision actually threatened their chances of statehood but Wyoming territory officials told the US Congress quote we will remain out of the union one hundred years rather than come in without the women in quotes. Despite many of our whitewashed machines, Moon Tales of the West, it was actually incredibly diverse in progressive place in many ways plenty of black people, immigrants, and Queer people found solace and relative freedom in the open lands and lack of dense urban social pressures. So it's not entirely surprising that several states and territories in the West fought for and achieved women's suffrage fifty years before the nation as a whole. And women in the West weren't just voting. They were running for office before nineteen twenty over thirty five hundred women had run for political office many of them from Western states and territories. Over seven hundred, fifty women were elected to public office before nineteen twelve in Kansas alone. is also important to note that women often voted as active members of their communities in the colonies prior to the American revolution, and of course, indigenous women had political power in their nations for centuries, Sally Roesch, Wagner Historian, and editor of the two thousand nineteen anthology. The women's suffrage movement told Time quotes women's rights is not a new concept on this land. It's very, very old one and the clan mothers of the six nations of the Iroquois Confederacy. The haudenosaunee women have had political voice for thousand years and quotes. Indigenous women, black women and other women of color played key roles in the suffragette movement. Even if they aren't celebrated or acknowledged in many of our mainstream histories quitting time as historian Marta s Jones told Time recently black suffrage ists and other women of color were not always at or even invited to white suffragettes events. So finding their stories requires researching the events, they held instead many of them. Were not even cataloged leading to the suffrage movements. Many suffragettes of color were left out of what's long been considered the definitive history of the nineteenth century movement the six volume series called history of woman suffrage published between eighteen, eighty, one in nineteen, twenty, two, and spanning more than five, thousand, seven, hundred pages. It features profiles of women who paid for their portraits to be in the book and quote. Yeah suffragettes like Susan B.. Anthony literally paid to be included in the text. We've mainly relied on for the last century. So, if you WANNA learn more about the crucial roles played by women of Color in the suffragette movement, The New York Times has a great visual history of the movement on their site today and the staff writers behind that piece also put together in illustrated book out today called finish the fights, the brave and revolutionary women who fought for the right to vote and there's actually. A theatrical adaptation of that book premiering on the New York Times is Youtube Channel at seven PM Eastern tonight among others. It features Zig Kala Psalm, as well as Mabel Ping wildly Chinese suffrage ist who dr a journalist activist who fought on behalf of Mexican Americans and women and Francis Ellen Watkins. Harper, an African American abolitionist who helped to establish the national. Association. Of Colored, women. and. The last point I'll add is that women's suffrage was not just about gaining the right to vote the rather quoting the new. York Times a fundamental reimagining of the roles of women in. American. Society not as dependence of men. But as full citizens end quote on some related issues that they fought for included dress reform control over one's body rights and protections for people of their race and background for many temperance because abusive. was seen as a primary cause of domestic violence. So, we have a lot to thank them for quoting the New York Times one hundred years after millions of American women cast their ballots. Twenty six women are serving in the Senate another hundred and one our representatives and house women are governors of nine states as well as the territories of Puerto. Rico and Guam four serve as congressional delegates for American Samoa the Virgin Islands, the District of Columbia and Puerto Rico there is still progress to be made, but all of this would be unimaginable if women had not won the vote and quotes. Working out at home has never been more popular but choosing the right workout for you can be intimidating beach Bonnie on-demand wants to take all the anxiety out of a workout and let you enjoy a fun simple and affordable way to get your body moving beach money on demand is the easy to use streaming service that gives you instant access to over thirteen hundred super effective workouts that you can do right now in your home workouts for all fitness levels ranging from bodybuilding to weight training cardio, hit to Yoga and even dance workouts get motivated by celebrity super trainers know like Tony Horton Joel Freeman Jericho Matthews and autumn calories you. May Know Beach Body for things like PX Insanity and the twenty one day fix. But now you can check out some of beach bodies newest programs like the morning meltdown one, hundred and eighty obsession. I'm personally a fan of the morning meltdown one, hundred nothing like knowing that I got my workout in before the day has even begun and if you want in on this listeners to this podcast, can get a special free trial membership. When you text good news to thirty, thirty thirty, you'll get full access to the entire platform for free all the workouts be nutrition information and support totally free again, just text good news to thirty thirty thirty. You may be familiar with the legend of the lost colony, the hundred, some odd English colonists left in Roanoke in fifteen, eighty seven and who seemingly disappeared with the only trace of evidence being the word Croatia Toan carved into one of their abandoned structures will researchers. Scott Dawson believes that he has solved the mystery and that the whole thing was blown out of proportion from the beginning using the original writings of the lost colonies governor, John White, who returned to England for more supplies just days after arriving in Roanoke, and then returned three years later to find the colonists including his own family gone as well as the addition of thousands of artifacts. uncovered on Kroto in island. Now called Harris Island Dawson has written a new book called the lost colony and Hatteras, island in which he outlines his stance that quotes they were never lost. It made up the mystery is over and quotes Nelson points out that the colonists literally left white assign as they had previously discussed together before he left they decided that if the colonists needed to relocate, they should leave a record somewhere of where they wins and if they went under duress, they should leave a cross under the name of the location in two places. The colonists wrote Cohen, the name of the neighboring native. American. Nation and neither of them included across. So. Why was there ever a mystery in the first place while John. White wasn't actually able to verify that they did indeed relocate to Hatteras island with the Kroto ins or that they survived their. If they did when he returned to roanoke three years later and saw the signs that they had left, he wasn't able to make it over to crotone island is snapped anchor. Cable bad weather and a slew of other issues prevented him from sailing to the island to investigate before having to return to England. But Dawson and the archaeological teams he's worked with over the years believe they've found mounting evidence that the colonists and the Kroto wins lived amicably side by side for years quoting the Virginian pilot, the evidence shows the colony left roanoke island with the. Friendly, Kroto INS to settle on Hatteras island. They thrived eight will had mixed families and endured for generations more than a century. Later, explorer John Lawson found natives with blue eyes who recounted they had ancestors who could speak out of a book. Lawson wrote the two cultures adapted English earrings in deficient fishhooks and gun barrels into sharp into tubes to tap tar from trees the archaeologists. Also found round post holes were Indians build their longhouses twenty five feet to sixty feet long and they uncovered square post holes made by English, during the same period, they were in the Indian village surrounded by longhouses Dawson said Boone's of turtle wildfowl and deer bones indicate good eating pig's teeth turn up for generations. They never had to eat the last pig Dawson said and quotes. The crew and Dylan's and the colonists did seem to have a good relationship bound by distrust of another tribe. The second hands do previously enslaved the Kroto wins and also killed one of the colonists although to be fair in classic colonizer behavior, the English had killed the second ten chief and burned a secondhand village. Still the Kroto has helped them with those acts and. It seems wanted to keep the colonists safe from the second hands when the governor white left, which may be why they allowed them to live in their village on the island with them in explaining his theory Dawson says quote, you're robbing an entire nation of people of their history by pretending crotone is a mystery, a tree. These were people that mattered a lot end quote. If, you used to work in an office and are still working remotely. You've probably identified various pros and cons for you. Personally you know maybe you enjoy the freedom but ms seen people other than those who live with every day maybe miss some of the office amenities that your house lacks like free printing or maybe you just missed the general vibe of the office if that last. One resonates with you. In any way, you may be interested in the website sound of colleagues which replicates the background noise of an office complete with keyboards clashing phone's ringing coffee pot gurgling and more each sound can be turned up or down or off entirely like maybe you don't want an open window were an his dog, but maybe you really do want to hear the room tone. It sounds a little ridiculous but trust me when you turn it on, it is strangely calming a bit wistful. Sound of colleagues is a product of sound designers read pipe studio in design and Communications Company Jen which is Swedish. You can also listen as a ten track album. They produced on spotify, which themes songs by era like the nineties, the sixties by type of office like Small Office next to a lush garden and by experience like annoying colleague and a surprised reaction. But the recorded spotify version does lack the ability to customize each isolated sound. So while is pretty interesting, it's not as effective as background noise. It's a bit more overbearing versus the comparatively gentle website. And going along with the joke of using this site to recreate authentic office experience read user diff- Calculus offered to send people emails throughout the day with quick question in the subject line and a deep difficult conflict in the email body. The offer made me laugh but sadly, that is part of the office experience that is still around and has maybe even gotten worse. But if you are getting too many quick question emails or just need to chill out and focus for any other reason checkout sound of colleagues dot com. That is all for today. This show was produced by ride home media and cocky. Dot Org I. Am Jackson Bird I. Hope you all have a good rest of your day and we'll talk to you tomorrow.

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Fri. 07/24 - How AOL Inspired a Hamilton Song

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18:47 min | 7 months ago

Fri. 07/24 - How AOL Inspired a Hamilton Song

"Welcome to the good news ride home for Friday July twenty. Fourth two, thousand twenty Jackson Berge. The hottest new APP that's sending people on mysterious adventures. A warming act of charity from Washington's newly named team Lin. Manuel Miranda dishes on some pretty mind, blowing inspirations for some of his biggest songs and a kitchen hack for making better homemade popcorn. Here are some of the cool things from the news today. The latest apt to experience a newfound heyday in our weird quarantine days is random, NAUTICA quoting the cuts. Renata describes itself as the world's first quantum leap generated. Choose your own adventure reality game. It invites you the user to set an intention for your quist before running off toward your coordinates, the idea is that you will manifest that intention during your journey, which is to say well randy nodding. It launched an early twenty twenty, but really took off as a form of socially distanced entertainment once the coronavirus pandemic hit and quotes. then boils down to APP gives you random coordinates you there, but it's taken off in such a huge way that I tried to dive a little deeper to see what's really drawing people in. I. Here's a little bit more on how it actually works from the Atlantic quotes Randy. Nodding is simple. You can do it using the free APP randy. NAUTICA, which asks you for your location prompts you to select one of a handful of different entropy generators, which one you choose should not really matter and then asks you to focus your mind on your intent. Intent then it spits out a set of coordinates that could allegedly be influenced by your mind, interacting with the machine or not, and you can choose to go there or not, and submit a report of what you find or not. You can generate ten sets of coordinates a day for free and pay to generate more. The APPS logo fittingly is an owl because. See in the dark randy nuts. See what other people don't in particular. They see what they otherwise wouldn't random launched in February, and has mixed reviews on the APP store, because it often crashes additionally, people who live near bodies of water tend to get co-ordinates that fall under water, which can be frustrating. You have to pay for the privilege of excluding them and quotes a quick note from me. The website says that the APP is still in Beta, so the crashing problem should be fixed eventually. People have been sharing their random nodding adventures and discoveries on twitter tiktok in the random There's even twitter called random, not creepy that shares the more macabre discoveries. Most however are pretty run of the mill. Cool animals, little free libraries abandoned debris, the people posting them see in awe of finding these ordinary items mostly because of that prompt from the APP to create intent. Like twitter user who said her intent was to find a bear, and then she and her random nodding partner found a box with a logo of a bear on it. or A reddit user random nodding on father's Day thinking about his late father, the ran to Nautica coordinates led him to a cemetery where he met a coyote in broad daylight, and his late father's nickname was dog. The coincidences people discover are pretty endless, and the creepy side can get pretty creepy. One reason the APP has blown up is because it's what those teenagers used. When they accidentally discovered dead bodies in a suitcase, which they posted on Tiktok and went viral for link in the description goes into more detail if you hadn't heard that story yet. By the way Renata doesn't lead you to specific places that the random Nonaka team have discovered on their own or something. It didn't know that the dead bodies were there or anything like that. It's completely random. As random Nautica creator Joshua length older pointed out when people were getting out in roaming in large numbers during the initial pokemon go craze. People frequently found dead bodies then to. Quoting the Atlantic, the Randy, nodding community, and the term random nodding existed before length older launched his APP and the generation random coordinates used to take place with the help of custom bought in the messaging APP telegram length older was part of the group that built that bought the random thoughts sub. It was created in March Twenty nineteen, and currently has more than one hundred and fourteen thousand members. Their stories are incredibly wholesome, usually focused on rescuing injured animals or stumbling across meaningful locations that. That remind users of loved ones or their salad days it's the TIKTOK random thoughts who want to see spooky stuff and catch aliens. They tend to trespass and many of them film. UN housed people sometimes calling them creepy, neither of which is in line with the nine tenets of random nodding end quote and those nine tenants include among other things venture with mindfulness be sincere, bridge, culture, gaps and respect to the place. You visit leaving it cleaner and better than before you went there. I suppose that it's pretty cool that so many people are having fun exploring their towns and engaging since a whimsey towards what we usually just overlook, even if the whole quantum leap generated aspect feels a little junk science to me. I've always been a fan of exploring a familiar place as if it were brand new, and if it takes an APP with some mystic vibes to get a bunch of people inspired, that's fine by me. Plus I was pleased to discover that length, or does actually credit GD boards theory of derivative as a major inspiration, which ensured encourages the practice of walking through an early setting and connecting with facets of the environment emotionally in a new light as a form of resistance to the monotony of our modern capitalistic society so random. Nada refreshingly not another instance of some tech dude thinking that they invented something. That's been around forever. Still quoting the Atlantic again. The basic premise of Rand Nautica that your brain can influence a random number generator comes from controversial research conducted at Princeton, beginning in nineteen, seventy nine. They're the late engineer Robert G. Jon spent decades exploring the largely derided hypothesis that people could use micro psychoanalysis to affect machines in very small ways. This theory, which has generally been dismissed by other scientists is sited on the official random Nautica website and extrapolated to suggest that a person can. Can focus on any kind of specific feeling or Noun, and then be led to coordinates that somehow correspond to it. Brenda Don Johns lab manager for many years told me in an email. The seemed plausible to her. I would predict that the results produced with the random. NAUTICA APP would demonstrate meaningful correlations only occasionally, but more often than might be expected though she added the APP has a psychological aspect that would prime users to notice coincidences and mystery and quote. As Stanford University statistics, Professor. Brad Ephron told the Atlantic quote. Randomness is more random than humans can contemplate and quotes. The point being that the world is pretty random in strange more so than we give credit for. We often try to add meaning to things that just are. Part of why I personally love documentaries and true stories far more than fiction, because so much happens in real life that in audience of a fictional story would say is too much of a coincidence to Cliche to bizarre, but it's real. Now all of my skepticism out of the way I actually think this APP is really cool, and the community that's formed around is awesome, and at least for those who follow the nine tenths to respect the places and people. They encounter really wholesome. I haven't gone on my own random not. Yet, but I definitely to this weekend and you should let me know if you do as well. So you might heard the big announcement on Washington yesterday about their teams new name. No not the anti climactic Washington temporary name from the Washington Football Team I'm talking about the epic team name announcement from Seattle. Washington for their finally happening. National Hockey League team the Seattle Kraken. It is an awesome name at least in my book, but what's even cooler, is that the Seattle correct or donating one hundred percents of their net proceeds from what are sure to be huge initial sales of all of their highly anticipated team swag to nonprofits in their community, according to the press release, the money will be going to. Youth Care to end youth homelessness along with other nonprofits, serving the underserved, black, indigenous and people of Color in the Greater Seattle region and quote. They continue to say quote. Nearly half of our communities homeless experience it for the first time before the age of twenty five, an average of eleven, hundred youth and young adults in King County are unaccompanied on any given night with seventy percent sleeping outside for lack of housing Euskera serves thirteen hundred plus youth each year, fourteen sites across Greater Seattle, and provides such practical needs as meals and shelter along with the simple yet powerful action, valuing youth when their families and society have not end quote. Sales, of all Seattle crack and merge for the next thirty days will be going towards youth care and the other unnamed nonprofits. And that is how you name a team. Well End, use your platform for good I have zero ties to Seattle, but I might just be rooting for the crack next season. Have you ever heard about someone making their fortune investing early in the next big thing and thought to yourself? If I knew I'd have done the same, but no one gave you that chance. 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At any time, some workouts are just ten minutes, and you don't need any expensive extra equipment. The secrets to getting results is getting started. Get motivated by celebrity super trainers. You know Tony, Horton Joel Freeman, Jerko, MC MATTHEWS AND And Autumn Calabria's. There are hundreds of effective workouts for all fitness levels ranging from bodybuilding to weight training and cardio hit to Yoga and even dance workouts I like the pile class, which is a combination of Yoga and pilates. Those are always tough to find in my neighborhood, and of course, fitness centers are closed now in New York, but now I can stream Pyeho with beach body on demand whenever I want and right now listeners to this podcast can get a special free trial membership. When you text good news to thirty thirty thirty, you'll get full access to this entire platform for free all the workouts, the nutrition information and support totally free again just text good news to thirty thirty thirty. Even if you are not a huge fan of Hamilton, which after its July fourth, Disney plus has been sparking conversations about. It's complicated role in perpetuating sanitized mythos of America's slaveholding founding fathers. Whether for that reason or you just don't care about musical theater, think that the show itself is over hyped. You can't deny that its Creator Lin Manuel. Miranda is enormously talented as a songwriter and storyteller. Recently rotten tomatoes spoke to Lin Manuel. Miranda as part of their artists, reflection series about his inspiration behind some of his biggest songs, and not just from Hamilton, but also from his first Broadway musical in the heights, and from the Disney animated feature, Moana and even his star Wars Cantina Song in the Force Awakens which I totally forgot he did. The whole video is worth a watch. It's really inspiring, but he dropped a few gyms that I wanted to share with you. So I! He mentioned that he started writing in the heights because there was so little Latino representation on Broadway that he didn't think he'd ever have a career in the industry unless he wrote the representation for himself, the also wanted to bring all of his musical influences to the show classical Broadway, yes, and contemporary Broadway Jonathan Larson's rent, but also hip hop like Jay Z mob, deep and big Pun and Latin musicians like Celia Cruz and Ruben Blades and artists who infused deep important messages into earworm dance melodies sound familiar. When he worked on Mwana the song how far I'll go! Originally started as a song called more that was about Moana, being impatient to leave the island that she'd grown up on a real pop punk gotta get Outta this town kind of narrative. Musically. But he and the team realized that it was more authentic to Moana's character and to so many people's experiences to actually feel conflicted about loving your community so much, but also wanting to leave and see how much you can accomplish in the world. How far you could go! But to get that real sense into transform the song, lin-manuel went back to his childhood bedroom at his parents house to stay the night so that he could literally go back to the place where he was when he was as he says at his quote angsty in tiniest so when you listen to that song again in the future, just imagine grownup lin-manuel will in his childhood bedroom, trying to get in touch with his very. Inner Teen Self. Now for the Cantina Song in the Force Awakens Java flow. It actually happened because j.j Abrams went to see Hamilton around the time that he was starting work on the force awakens, and being a huge fan of his work well introduced himself intermission in joked to Abrahams. Hey, if you ever need some Cantina music. But to his shock Abrahams replied. Yeah, actually I do. And so the match was made, and lin-manuel says that he was never trying to recreate the original Cantina band song, but he did want to write it in an authentic star wars language specifically hoodies which he did using online hoodies, translation dictionary, and also in really relatable detail. Women will says that he was behind on deadline on writing Moana when this was happening, so even though both projects were owned by Disney. He didn't tell anyone at Mwana that he was working on Star Wars because he felt guilty for being behind. Perhaps, my favorite nugget of genius was pointed out by Jason Cocky about the WHOA. WHOA WHOA part of the Hamilton Song. My shots which Miranda points out took a year to write. Just as a reminder here is what that Whoa Whoa. WHOA section sounds like. And now here is what Lin Manuel Miranda said about it is based on the AOL startup dial sound because I, wanted it to feel like his words are connecting with the world, and the reverberating out into the world, and I associate that with the first time I signed on to the Internet and you here. them. Oh, it's the. dialup autumn. We would even look. That is so cool and pretty deep Dang. I mean then is a next level connection I always respected Lynn Minimum Randa, but some of the stuff that he dropped in this interview. Little connections like that, but also as bigger philosophies about music and representation mad respect. Ending today with very quick tip for making. Popcorn it's Friday most movie. Theaters are still closed. You're probably spending most evenings watching movies at home, so why not cook up some homemade popcorn while you do, and if you make it on the stove top, which is objectively both more fun and dangerous than the convenient microwave bags, you probably make it by putting a lid on the SAUCEPAN. The colonel's in maybe leaving the little little askew as a makeshift vent. Turns out it way better to cover the pan with aluminum foil cinched around the edges and perforated with a knife. Once you've turned on the heat quoting life hacker. Who got this tip from video producer Brian David Gilbert quotes the perfect foil like a built in release valve, allowing just enough steam buildup to get the popping started, and then immediately releasing the excess, so it can't drip back into the pot, plus you don't have to play the how ajar is to jar game or handle a? A hot heavy pot LID, dripping with condensation Jiffy pop had it right all along end quote Jiffy. Pop did have it right in fact. I might just try making some Jiffy pop on my stove top instead of bothering with all the steps of making homemade popcorn myself this weekend. I have also popped popcorn kernels on waffle iron before, but I wouldn't recommend it as the most efficient method in any case, I hope you all enjoy some perfectly popped popcorn while you stay in this weekend. And that is it for today as always shows produced by ride home media of Jackson Bird. I hope he will have a very good weekend. I will talk to you again on Monday.

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Tue. 07/21 - Would You Wear a T-Shirt Made From Milk?

Coronavirus Daily Briefing

16:40 min | 7 months ago

Tue. 07/21 - Would You Wear a T-Shirt Made From Milk?

"Welcome to the good. News Ryan Home for Tuesday July twenty. First Two thousand and twenty I'm Jackson Bird today. Throwing water on the panic around covid nineteen alleged short lived immunity. The leaders wellness trend. Hugging cow. T shirts that are made out of milk, and our hugh, guilty of revenge bedtime procrastination here are some of the cool things from the news today. Starting today with a bit of a return to our roots as show I, WanNa talk about immunity to covid nineteen. There was a study put out by King's College in London a few weeks ago, which found that covid nineteen antibodies in people who had been infected largely disappeared after two months. The headlines about covid nineteen immunity being temporary were all over the place with more than a few implying that this means will never have a truly effective vaccine and never truly defeat the coronavirus. It's all terrifying so I wanted to share some insight from Derek. Thompson over at the Atlantic spoke with a number of experts to get a deeper understanding of the study and inject some good news into all of the headline fearmongering. Now I'm not going to tell you that. The study was totally wrong and that we're all going to be completely fine nothing about covid nineteen is completely good news, but as Shane Crotty of urologist at the La Hoya Institute for -Nology told the Atlantic actually looking at the data. I feel okay about it. Quoting further from the Atlantic acquired immunity is. Memory when our bodies fight off infection, we want our immune systems to remember how to defeat it again like a person who, after solving a big jigsaw puzzle recognizes and remembers how to set the pieces the next time. The whole point of vaccination is to teach the immune system those same puzzle solving lessons without exposing it to the full virus. This is why Casey L. study initially seemed so dreadful it. It found that the number of certain active antibodies called neutralizing antibodies declined significantly between tests especially in patients with mild or no symptoms. Antibody levels are one proxy for the Immune System's memory. If they plunged quickly, that might mean that our immune system can't remember how to solve covid nineteen for more than a few months at a time do minus to start from square one with each new exposure end quotes. Now while those findings from the King's college study are definitely concerning, there are three main reasons to be skeptical about the study and therefore hopeful for futures. I, the study only looked at one part of our immune system, our vast mysterious immune system about which there remain many unknowns quoting again when a new pathogen enters, the body are adaptive immune system calls up a team of BCL's with produce antibodies and t cells to over simplify the B. Cells antibodies intercept and bind to invading molecules and the killer t cells seek and destroy infected cells, Evaluating Immune Response Without A. T cells is like inventory, national air force, but leaving out the bomber jets, and in the case of covid nineteen, those bomber jets could make the biggest difference. A growing collection of evidence suggests that t cells provide the strongest and longest lasting immunity cove in nineteen, but this study didn't measure them at all end quote, further study and a Francis Strasbourg university hospital found that patients recovering from covid nineteen had strong t cell responses, despite not having any detectable antibodies. Now second decline in antibodies that unusual Shane Crotty the Varela gist from the Loy. Institute for Immunology. said quote it unusual to have feeding antibody response after several months the off. Isn't that surprising when you look at something like the smallpox vaccine easy the antibody responses down about seventy five percent after six months, but that's a vaccine that works for decades. We need a study like this to look at Cova patients six months after infection to really know what we're dealing with and quote. And third, and finally it's possible that even these low levels of antibodies could trigger a larger immune response in the future like if the individual is exposed to SARS Cov to again, this goes back to the immunological memory. It's like the memories and that strong when it's not confronted, but win the trigger of the virus returns, so does the memory. Even beyond the critiques of this one study that caused so much panic in the news, there remain many other reasons to be hopeful. Vaccine Research continues to steamroll along at an unprecedented pace. Several studies on monkeys have shown strong long lasting immune response and a new study shows that patients who recovered from SARS East Asia indeed have long lasting t cell immunity. Plus Journalists Noah. Smith shared on twitter, pointing to research from immunologist professor. Akiko, it was sake. This news about antibodies doesn't necessarily mean the vaccine would be ineffective because quoting Sake, vaccines can elicit stronger immune response than natural. Those covid nineteen vaccines can and should induce more robust and durable protection than natural infection end quote. As no Smith sums it all up quote. One antimony bunnies aren't the only thing that can give you. Immunity to your body can probably remember how to make new antibodies and three vaccines can potentially give you longer lasting immunity than you'd get from actually getting covid end quote. You may have heard of yoga well. Get ready for the latest wellness trend cow, hugging Dutch farm Casanova started offering cow hugging forty years ago after their foster daughter discovered how great and therapeutic the activity is now it's a regular part of the farms offerings to visitors and has grown into a worldwide trend. I don't know of Casanova was necessarily the first ones to do it, but they are one of the longest running and seemingly most passionate practitioners. Hugging in general whether bovine related or just another human is huge elite therapeutic, because according to the BBC, it stimulates touch receptors under our skin, and can both lower anxiety. And reduce stress levels, and because cows have warmer bodies, and a lower heart rate than humans, hugging, or even just resting against them, comforting experience similar to hugging against a soft hot water bottle. The folks at Catania hove are dedicated to making sure both humans and cows have a positive experience following the lead of all involved to make sure it's a rewarding time, and they know that not all cows are good candidates for hugging good hugging cows or born, not trained. It's about their temperaments like if they liked hugging or not kind of like humans, the farmers don't train or force them to be hugging cows. They say that good hugging cow is usually older and a bit more patient that said you can usually see whether a cow will enjoy hugging from the time. It's a calf. But sometimes even cows, who hugs can be grumpy and not WanNa hug people that day, but fortunately cows usually advocate for themselves. When they're enjoying it, they'll stay still and even close. There is showing that they're relaxed, but when they don't WanNa, participate anymore they stand up and walk away grumpier. Anti hugging cows, though have been known to chase a wannabe hugger. Hugger out of the field, the farmers say it's very important not to force the cows to hug people when they don't want to, and I suppose that is both in terms of having compassion for the cow, and for your own safety, the owners of Catania Cova say they even have a cow who gets very jealous when she's not the one being hugged. In addition to the therapeutic benefits of this new trend farms around the world are using it as a way to bring visitors out to their farms and get people interested in the countryside. It might be a bit strange, but it does sound like the cows at least are way more into this than most baby goats are in Goat Yoga, and if it supporting farmers then I'm all about it. Imagine this a convenient table. 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Our crowd backed. Companies have been bought by Nike Oracle Uber Comcast Intel, snap and more so now you can set up your. Account for free and invest in pre. IPO companies alongside professional venture. Capitalists learn more about investing in sight diagnostics at INFO dot our crowd Doug Com slash good news setting up. Your account is free, and you can get started right now at Info, dot, our crowd dot com slash good news. That's Info Dot, O. U. R. C., R. O. W., D., dot, com, slash good news. If you're looking for a way to get fit this summer, Beach Bonnie on demand his your answer. It's the easy to use streaming service that gives you instant access to over thirteen hundred super effective workouts that you can do right now in your home. There's no better time to start a home based on your schedule. Easy to do with no pricey equipment needed workout regime than right now. There are hundreds of effective workouts for all fitness levels ranging from bodybuilding to weight, training and cardio hit to Yoga. Even dance workouts. Get motivated by celebrity super. Super Trainers you know like Tony, Horton Joel Freeman Jericho MC matthews autumn calories I have personally been enjoying the patio class as longtime fan of the pilates and Yoga. It's fun to combine them booth with an added cardio kick. Really get my heart pumping and it's great that I can still have the reassurance and motivation of an instructor, even while working out at home, listeners to this podcast can get a special free trial membership. When you text good news to thirty thirty thirty. You'll get full access to this entire platform for free all the workouts. Information and support totally free again. Just text good news to thirty thirty thirty. I guess today's episode is of brought to you by the milk lobby. Because here is another dairy related story about a startup making t shirts out of milk. The sustainable fashion company me. Terro uses discarded milk that would have otherwise gone to waste and turns into fabric to create an eco-friendly alternative to fast fashion, quoting business insider me. Tara begins the milk shirt making process by sourcing excess milk from partnering. Dairy farms from their. The milk is firm and skimmed to remove the fat in the milk. The milk is then. Forming a powdery substance, the milk powder is then dissolved once again to purify it and remove unwanted proteins, leaving resulting fibers that are stretched and spun into yarn to make shirt out of the process milk threads alone would make the shirt largely uncomfortable CEO and founder Robert Luo said so does combined with micro modal inorganic material made of Beechwood, similar to cotton, but with more sustainable manufacturing. Each shirt is made up of about fifteen to twenty percent milk. Lewis said according. According to the me, tear website about five shirts equate one glass of milk end quote, so even if the shirts aren't made completely from milk, the process uses sixty percent less water than it takes to make organic cotton, t shirt, and by using milk Meat Tarot is helping the environment by finding a use for something that would otherwise go to waste according to the US. Department of Agriculture, seventeen percent of waste in landfills and incinerators comes from dairy products seventeen percent. Rubber Lewis says that one hundred twenty eight million tons of milk go to waste every year globally. So if you want to help, reduce some of that milk ways, you can get a milkmaid. T shirt from me, Tarot they sell it in various styles of shirts as well as pairs of boxer briefs, and they also have a travel bag made out of Cork in ocean plastics. Plus Tara says that they plant fifteen trees for every purchase and looks like they're running a thirty five percent off sale to celebrate national ice cream month this month. Three D. by printed meet. That barely needs involvement from animals clothing made from milk. The future is looking pretty sustainable. And Real Weird. Ending today with tips on how to fix something that you may be doing without realizing and certainly without knowing that there's a term for it. I'm talking about Binge Bedtime procrastination. Shared on twitter recently by journalist and editor Daphne Kay Lee who seems to have heard about it from a friend in Taipei scribe by Lee as A phenomenon in which people who don't have much control over their daytime life, refused to sleep early in order to regain some sense of freedom during late night hours and quotes, so maybe you've spent all day working shifts, not being able to access your phone or take more than a quick break to yourself. Maybe spent all day chasing your kids around in between conference. Conference calls by the time you've done everything and it's time for bed. You could go to sleep and catch up on some much-needed Z's, but instead you turn on, Netflix. You doom scroll through social media for a while or do whatever to stay up for a few hours finally for the first time that day doing something that feels like yours fully your own decision. Particularly during this global crisis, life hacker notes that many of us may be seeking to regain some control in our lives. However we can, it may not seem like much, but squeezing in one last activity before bed. No matter how passive the activity may be is one way that we're taking control over what we can and can't do in our life. Dr Amy Jeremy Clinical Psychologist says quote when everything you do is about someone else's needs. It might sometimes feel worth it to sacrifice some sleep end quotes. But of course. Bedtime. Procrastination isn't the best option all the time. Most adults don't get nearly as much sleep as we actually need. So how can we take steps to at least limit our nighttime indulgences? Leith Packer recomend trying to find time for yourself throughout the day. Even if it has to be in a couple of ten minute breaks as opposed to our plus long chunk, doctor recommends doing some of the things you might do during revenge bedtime procrastination like watching a TV, show or reading a book. Do those during your lunch, break or designate one night a week to stay up late. Doing whatever you want on a night when you know, you can sleep in a little the next day. Or Life Hacker says even if you really can't carve out any time for yourself during the day, which is reality for many people who are caregivers, and or have other demanding jobs, just acknowledging that it's a real phenomenon, and that is the thing you do can help that awareness might push you to set some boundaries in Cobb county a little earlier. I gotTA Say I'm super guilty of this and even just knowing. There's a reason why I've been doing. It is already changing how I think about it. There's definitely something to it. That is all for today as always. This show was produced by ride home media I'm Jackson Bird I. Hope you have a good rest of your day and I will talk to you tomorrow.

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