20 Episode results for "Tim Story"

770. Today Might Be As Good As It Gets!

Earn Your Happy

10:13 min | 2 months ago

770. Today Might Be As Good As It Gets!

"Even in the even in those days that you think suck are overwhelming or full of problems. It's like simultaneously. There exists a another alternate world and option where you could be choosing to be happy during those things. Welcome to the earn. Your happy podcast. I'm laurie harder. Founder of light pink bestselling author three time. Finis world champion and. I'm crazy. Multi passionate entrepreneur. My journey has taken me everywhere from being a broke waitress. Arista retails associate and personal trainer with massive anxiety and no belief in myself to later becoming a multi millionaire in love with my life in two thousand seven. My husband and i lost everything we found ourselves hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt at rock bottom. We had no ideas. And i had no education to fall back on. This is when i found personal development and learn every name. I could about business not by choice but because i realized no one was coming to save me the conversations on this podcast are going to let you know that you're not alone and that we all feel like we don't know what we're doing. We're going to give you the tools to help you. Face your fears take action. Start your business and throw those massive dreams that are keeping you up at night. It's time to create a life that you can't hide from and put so much on the line. Your higher self is forced to come out. You're going to stop waiting for someone to approve of you and you're going to anoint yourself. Because i'm obsessed about building businesses that give women a platform. I wanna feature you so if you text the word podcast. Two three one zero four nine six eight three six three. You can get your questions answered on our qna segment along with a shout. And if you rate review and subscribe to this podcast were choosing someone every month to get coached and featured on our show. It just might be you so let's get started and we're back with another episode of. He said she said another one from vacation. Mind you by the way. And i think we might have missed a week. I'm so sorry but listen we are like on this month and a half summer slowdown hiatus. Although i guess it's been slow down yeah. It hasn't felt very slow. We're still working. I'm going to do a whole separate episode on on my suitable action. How we actually make the month and a half summer. Slowdown happen logistically. But that's not what we wanna share with today. We want to share that yesterday flooring i had days that could have been not very fun. Like outside looking in people said oh. I'm sorry. that was a rough day. Oh yet a lot of tough things to do except we both came home whereas they came home. I was working at my mom's place and she was working at a hotel suite. Were her and one of her. Teammates are working and we both came home with for evening walk and she's like well. How's your day. And i'm like it actually was awesome. I had tons of fun cleaning out the garage. Yes all day years of boxes years of family artifacts years of freaking garbage that ancestors of ancestors ancest- of ancestors have kept for some reason. Some stuff is cool but some such come on why this i spent the entire day cleaning out the garage with my brother with my mom and throwing things into a dumpster and keeping some things and while doing that humidity and going through old dusty boxes may not sound very fun it actually ended up being one of the most fun days ever. Yeah and i've been having a lot of. I'm having normal workweeks work weeks up here so monday. Through friday is a really normal workweek for me. with the nice thing is about the summer is that we well. We had a boat that blew away and got totalled in the tornado. Last week But we were just jumping on the boat in the evening so it felt it felt very summertime. Vacationing to me But right now. Monday through friday and really just in this place. I've 'cause i am solving massive problems. And i will tell you that. I thought i was hitting hurdles before but while we are solving a lot of them. I'm hitting even more hurdles. And i've been fighting that my brain really wants to focus on the negative. If i'm being honest. I think we're just wired to do that. Majority of us are wired to find the problem and wired to focus on the negative and so with so many problems coming up in a new business for me because it's all new. Every single day is new every single damn uncomfortable every single day. I feel like. I'm facing something that i don't know am watching my brain wanna be like. This is so hard. Am i ever gonna get there and instead it's like. I told chris that you know this. Is it like this is life. It's never going to be different. There is no destination because the finish line changes re could be at one of our peak days of our life. The world could get worse so we want to make sure that we drop in and enjoy this moment and it was this. It's like this constant reminder that we try to remind each other of that life is just right now even in the even in those days that you think suck are overwhelming or full of problems. It's like simultaneously. There exists a another alternate world and option where you could be choosing to be happy during those things. And i'm not saying skip over all your emotions and all of the things and not feeling i am saying observed them and then shoes that you've chosen what you're doing. I have chosen this business. I get to do this. I'm so excited that. I get solved problems that i'm growing so much personally and career wise and emotionally and re relationship wise and you know at the end of the day what you need to do. In those days that are really rough is celebrate. So that's what chris and i do. We really take the time. And that's why the evenings in the walks are good and we can look back on the day and say. Wow look what we accomplished like with you in the garage. Like look at how much i accomplished. She i feel so good being so productive and for me. It's like oh my gosh look at all of the connections. We made today. We may not feel like we made a bunch of headway but we know that we did and we know that this will come back to us. Wow look at all the they learned today or look at this big problem that we saw over here even on the southern popped up. You have to acknowledge what you're doing so when the really tough days you have to say at the end of the day while i made it through the day. Look where. I'm at k. Today or today was a great day. Tomorrow could be amazing. And we've got a saying that we always gonna throw at each other and this. Hey tony might be as good as it gets. And it's such a simple thing but it's true immediately snaps us back. Listen today might be as good as it gets and when you've reframed every single day with hey today might be as good as it gets. They might be the peak right. That suddenly makes you see the silver linings of the day. Not any of the negative things that you didn't feel like doing that because every day is going to be perfect mix between things you could have enjoyed doing and things you did it want to do. That's just life. Every single day is going to be a perfect mix between things that you could have enjoyed doing and things that you didn't want to do so which way you're gonna focus you to focus on the things that you wanna do or you can focus on finding the silver lining okay. This was fun or this was interesting. This was cooler. I moved the needle from here to here. Does every single moment of every single day. It's a choice and reminds me of the saying that i've changed his butchered. I butchered at a little bit. But you've seen the mean where it says don't let a bad moment be interpreted into a bad day and it's so true. Don't let the one or two moments where you had to do something you didn't want to do make you call it a bad day because truth is it actually wasn't yeah. I know our friend. Tim story always says even when everything feels like it's going left there is always right. There's always things going right. And you know the reason that we came up with that phrase that you just mentioned about on this could be his goes against miss computers as you could get the because we were kind of in a rough patch of our life last year not long but it was just a lot of things we're going in the world and we were just feeling really uneasy and credit going through some other things and you know we were on a walk and that's when we found out we had gotten a call that your dad had passed away and we just had this moment of. Wow everything all of a sudden that has happened in the last week or two weeks that we thought was hard. i sure wish we would have enjoyed. Every second of knowing like of our people are here and alive and it's like it was just that moment of yeah you could be in the place that you know the the peak place of your life right now and you could be wishing it away or you could be thinking that life is hard or you could be feeling anxious or upset or sadder dwelling on a certain story year dwelling on someone or keeping someone in your life that you shouldn't keep in your life or keep on waking up and doing the things you don't love like realizing that we get to choose and realizing that you get to choose in that moment if it's a a good day or not even when they're simultaneously rough things going on yes so for what it's worth borrow our phrase try it on for size and i promise you if you just look at from this moment on today might be as good as it gets it will reframe everything for you and you'll find a lot more joy in the things that you might have skipped right over. They lesson than we always appreciate it.

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Shaft (2019) | Tim Story

The Qwipster Film Review Podcast

09:51 min | 2 years ago

Shaft (2019) | Tim Story

"I welcome to the film review podcast. My name is Vince Leo I am the author of the Film Review Website hipster. I invite you to check out over four thousand of my written reviews and read their anytime quick. Stir Dot net is where to go key W.. I P. S. T. E. R. Dot net while you're there. Do encourage you to check out my other podcast called around around the world in eighties movies. You can find a link on my website of course covering films of the nineteen eighties got almost a hundred reviews there so far. I hope you'll check them out soon today. I'm going to be looking at <hes> speaking of old school it. It wasn't really an eighties property in fact it started back in the early nineteen seventies but we have a twenty nine thousand nine updating of this franchise. If you want to call it that of shaft it's a movie that stars Samuel L. Jackson. He's played shaft once before for Jessie Usher Regina Hall Alexandra Shipp Richard Roundtree. He's played shaft. I think this'll be as fourth time titus well over Matt. Lauria method man are also in the film director is Tim Story and the screenplay by Kenya Barris and Alex Sabar now. It's an idiot film. It does have pervasive language violence sexual content some drug material and brief nudity. The runtime is an hour and fifty one minutes now not to get too confusing here but the two thousand nineteen version of shaft is. Actually a sequel to the John Singleton version from two thousand that was also called shaft and due to the appearance of Richard Roundtree in this film. We also find that both of these versions of shafter now sequels falls to the Gordon Parks Nineteen seventy-one original also called shaft each version introduces us to a new generation of John Shaft and this new film. We get John Shaft Junior. He's also called J._J.. which is how I'm going to refer to him in the rest of this review in order to avoid confusion J._J.? We learn from this ret. Con was born several years before the events that we see in the two thousand version of shaft father by Samuel l Jackson's and John Shaft and shaft alone is how I will refer to Samuel l Jackson's character throughout the rest of this review shaft was immediately estranged from his kid by the Mother Maya Play by Regina Hall Maya A._l.. Wanted to keep her child's life away from the daily danger that shaft is surrounded by shaft ends up keeping his toe in the water though with J._J.. By sending him presence on his birthday on holidays and they often show how out of touch he is I mean he's sending Nudie magazine condoms and other inappropriate kiss. He's very clueless not only in what's going on in J._J.'s life but also what is acceptable by standards of our less politically incorrect world now J._J.. Shaft primarily. Works as a disc jockey. We've come to find in the F._B._I.. J._D. learns that his old friend and sometimes protector named Karim died from an overdose while he was in Harlem and knowing that his friend Karim had turned his life around J._J.. Thinks that the death smells is a little funny decides to investigate the cause of death and that leads them to ask questions in the drug dealers lehrer that ends up getting him nearly killed so J._J.'s desperate to move on with his investigation but he's not tough enough to really continue on so he reaches reaches out to the father that he never knew who is currently working as a hardboiled private investigator in town in Harlem and Dad finally getting to meet his son readily accepts his role as J._J.'s new protector and his mentor of all things so so called Manley they soon discover there is of course far more involved in creams death than what the official report says and soon the two men find themselves in the middle of a murder case now shaft is a decided departure for the series thus far it plays more like a broad semi spoof of the Action Thriller Franchise Than It does another entry intentionally so though the makers of the film bring in Tim Story to direct who after two semi sophomore attempts at delivering a fantastic tastic four franchise he's primarily become known for his comedies usually featuring African Americans in lead roles like barbershop the think like a man series and the ride along series most notably as such the character that was once grounded and rounded rounded in Richard Rowntree's. Heyday is now relegated to becoming a stereotype of the epitome of bad assery with the O._G.. Shaft O._G.. Is How I'm going to refer to roundtree and his John Chef character for this review he. He really does not make an appearance until very very late into this film by the way O._G.. Shaft has concentrated machismo now his son John Shaft the Samuel Jackson version is a chip off the old block but a little bit more playful charisma. I think it should be noted here for those confused who have seen the two thousand film. Samuel Jackson's character was the O. G. Jon Chaffetz nephew in that film we learn here that he was actually his son. His father was just pretending to be his uncle out of some. I'm sort of disdain so this is a family tree. That is probably looking like pollock painting by now now J._J.. In contrast is almost wholly devoid of anything that would make his pop or his granddad think that he wasn't castrated by the expectations of courteousness and respect for race and gender equality within the modern generation the metoo generation who are much more sensitive about these types of things. There's a lot of comedy that tries to play up between the generations and how they view things now while the original shaft helped popularize is a whole sub-genre of Hollywood's them for years this twenty nine hundred version only sees its predecessor for its differences instead of its similarities chooses to use the comparisons of attitudes from the nineteen seventies and those of the near twenty twenty twenty for laughs mostly to suggest that while the older shaft men might seem like relics and I kind of lump them together here this actually only six years age difference between the actors who are playing the older two shafts. I mean Samuel Jackson even though he might look. A little bit younger he's actually seventy years old so there's very good reason why they seem of the same generation in attitude here but those characters are still far more preferable at least by the writers of this film to the new version of shaft in J._J.. Who is neither love nor warfighter? He needs to man up at least that's the message we get from this film and this is evidenced when we see a scene in which J._J.. Manages to show how he can use a gun to blast some bad guys in this open display violence is actually what ultimately gets the girl to notice him as more than a friend in the end and while shaft delivers on last and some ample low wattage entertainment. I think if there's an element of this version that produces some lulls it's in the plot itself. It's not only predictable to see where things will go once these elements elements introduced but it's also very tedious to hear the men the characters discussing aspects of the plot is they're trying to put together the clues of the case the comedy scores more points I think by ignoring that plot and yet being a film featuring law enforcement and detective types. I think the ugly ugly headed plot. This is not something that can be avoided unfortunately so contrary to what Isaac Hayes Sang in his theme Song Nearly Fifty Years Ago Twenty one thousand nine hundred shaft is the cat that does cop out when there's danger all about now shaft shaft is perhaps too much of a departure in tone from the original Richard roundtree films and even the previous Samuel Jackson film to qualify with a recommendation for hardcore series fans per se however I do think that lovers of straight up action comedies especially. Ashley ones that explored jokes about the cultural divides in the attitudes among various generations of men are likely going to find enough last and some decent acting to seat their quest for entertainment in a modest fashion the performances here by Jesse t usher for an Samuel L. Jackson do make four some good comedy interplay in the you have a game supporting cast around them so the last are actually they're not going to say it's going to knock your socks off but I found myself giggling throughout now if you're looking for a return to the original original form in exploring the trials and tribulations of a black man trying to do what's right in the world. That's doing much more wrong. I do think that twenty nineteenth shaft is likely going to give you the shaft so I would say definitely temper your expectations nations. This is a movie that I don't know that would qualify it. As a good film I would say it is an entertaining film and for that. I'm going to give it three stars out of four three stars on my scale means. I do recommend it for people who like this kind of movie. If you like your action comedies he's had played very fast and loose and really are mostly just trying to strive for some laughs in escapist entertainment. I think that shaft will deliver for a lot of people however if you're expecting like I said a return to the original vibe of the I four shaft films the three Rowntree's in the one Samuel Jackson before this one. I don't think you're going to get that here. This definitely is poking fun at itself in a major way but as someone who has watched all of those films and have enjoyed them on on multiple occasions taking it for what it is and what it strives to achieve. I do think it is moderately successful so for that I am giving shaft twenty nine thousand nine three stars. Thanks everyone for listening and hope that you enjoyed this review. If you have your own thoughts on chapter you can write.

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How to Leverage Uncommon Thinking To Explode Your Healthcare Business with Tim Storey

Healthcare Business Secrets

34:21 min | 9 months ago

How to Leverage Uncommon Thinking To Explode Your Healthcare Business with Tim Storey

"Welcome to the healthcare business secrets show where we interview industry leaders and break down exactly how the markets so you can learn from the best and can w revenue w impact and w time off and this episode. We're talking with tim story. Tim is an acclaimed author speaker and life coach he's made a career of inspiring and motivating people regardless of their age proficient or economic status and has traveled to seventy five countries giving speeches to millions of people as ability to listen to people and truly care for them topping off with foundational principles and huma has led him to be one of the most influential speakers in the world he's been featured as guest on oprah's super soul sunday steve harvey tv grant owns 10x growth khan and others. Tim is offered multiple books with the most recent being comeback and beyond being a top seller on amazon. Welcome to the show. Ten good to be here. I love how you talk about double double things. yeah i. i'm a fan believer in. If you're going to do anything you've got to do it well and if your intention is to go after you know what i'm going to double you find those problems that come in your way and you begin to solve them and even if you don't make it there or you decide halfway along this is not for me. You've sit things up. My clinic is set up so that it runs. It could be three times the size. I wanted it to be versus going. Let's get a few more clients. It's a few more people because you never really set things up and it's constantly stuck in this limbo of hustle. And so i like that. You mentioned that. Yeah so so. Give us some background on you for those of you listening. Who don't know tim i want. I want you to give a back on you and what you do okay. So when i was in high school. I i was thinking about going to a college in los angeles called. Usc and i wanted to do film entertainment and It was so wild that a friend of mine is reading a book on the life of mother teresa and she's very smart. Kathy and i remembered seeing chad this big book on mother teresa so i didn't know much about mother. Tree side heard about her that she helped orphans and so i asked her why she was reading the book and she said summited given it to and it was inspiring her and she goes. You should read it. This is you. You're like a cool mother theresa and so i got this book and i read it. I'm telling you it just like stirred something up in me. Which was my humanitarian of life instead of going to usc entertainment communications which is still ended up. Doing i went to seminary and then kept on going and got a doctorate in world religion. And while i was taking all these classes is having to do with humanity and religion. I was taking classes on therapy. Counseling and i mean a lot of classes. So it's amazing. How like life led me down this path of being a humanitarian a counselor and an entertainer. I got to do all three categories and so with that process. You've obviously been able to influence a lot of people. What's what is it the sort of work that you do you mainly doing speaking. And you got a lot of books. What's in a nutshell. Is it that that. Tim story does what i do. I came more through the religious side. I where for many many years. I was like a popular speaker in all types of churches around the world from small small crowds very very large crafts. But the idea was to kind of bring a different flavor. My own swag too would be a traditional religion and it worked. So i i did that. And then about thirty years ago i started a spiritual like an inspirational meeting in hollywood and there had been two others at had done before and being a big stars but they were all smaller and they most of the people that were there were older age group and i ended up starting with an older age group and then it went from there to all ages and became i the thing in beverly hills so it became known for that for the last thirty years of being a like a spiritual leader in a life coach to like the likes of robert downey junior charlie sheen kanye west pd on and on and on and on. So i live coach over three hundred entertainers to this day. That's really interesting as house officials. Which is the majority of the audience listening. We often forget that we are also leaders in our own way. We're leading our clients but more importantly we leading ourselves. And i'd love to know in terms of working with all of those celebrities aloft often we when we looking watching. Tv was saying the e channel or whatever this the separation where they're on a pedestal. The from us talk to that a little bit. Because i think that sometimes we forget that we are all people and sometimes we can feel like a person just like that celebrity might but our client can view us on a pedestal like we re celebrities. I'd love to kind of get your feel on that. I think that you know when you think of double i think of. If you're gonna get double then you have to think beyond man. So i have looked up toward beyond in it means farther greater distance beyond regular reach beyond limits or boundaries which i think is such a cool thing so i think that whether you're in the space of any work that you do to to get double or to live life that's beyond that you have to really be uncommon so what i see with a lot of people that i work with. Which is the best of what they do is number one they. They think uncommon dots. They don't think regular thoughts on this. Secondly they make uncommon plans. I won't go through like certain list of celebrities. Because i think if you look up you'll see where i work with that. I've seen people before they made it. And then damn just explode. I mean become the biggest stars in the planet by uncommon thinking. I've sat there. Well make uncommon plans so uncommon thinking uncommon plans but then you have to have uncommon disciplined. And this is where i can. This is where i really cannot be. Beat i like that rap song everyday hustle and every day a muslim. And that's what i am. I am a hustler. But i'm fish int- because it's not how fast you move your feet. It's how big your strides and so the uncommon disciplined. The d. word is something that i see in many celebrities that i work with whether it be a singer or an actor who shows up on time memorizing their lines a dancer a professional athlete. You see that uncommon discipline the d. Word yeah. I think a lot of people have dreams. I don't think as many have belief and therefore plans for sure but discipline by fire. I feel like is the lowest on that that poll so to speak for most of us i. I'm not sure where that comes from. I feel like a lot of time. We we liked to go after something but that go sinc- of maine maintaining the if it beyond doing it. Not just for award. Where i think most people get stuck in and john achieve successful fulfilment that they could is because they going after it at the point where on getting something from it says that starts to be less and less reward for the effort they back up with that discipline if it whereas to get to. The knicks point at requires you to go beyond its like in terms of running marathons. You wanna be at the front of the pack or cycling because the gap between the two packs is too hot to cross. But once you're in it it's easy to maintain and stay in that pack but if you lose the pack they often never gain it back. And i think that's an example of that right. It's comfortable where i am is reward to get to the next level. I need to go beyond that. Push through consistently with no potential view of success in the future to get to that next place. I like what you're saying. And i think that what you're saying is so spot on about the discipline because the rewards don't always feel the same like i'm with people that do extremely well and i think that the house that they live in the just like enormous. It's amazing when i get it. But i notice after being around someone for a period of time then adjust becomes a place where they live and they have a lot of people running around. You know taking care of the house. But i think that for me. It's about being a good steward of my life and because of a teacher. I have notes so like a good steward of my health of my family. My mental hygiene my job my finances. So that's what i try to do like. I have a trainer. And i work hard. Because i need to because i'm not twenty seven anymore but i do that. Not because i'm gonna be in competition. I do that. 'cause i wanna be a good manager of all things in my life. Yeah yeah hundred percent. And i've noticed that myself consistently notice that with people that i bring on the show and talk to. Is this this understanding that. You're doing the things not for the immediate reward that everyone else is doing it for. You're doing it for kind of a big a pip. And so i started looking at my phone and thinking you know. Am i doing the things that are sitting the out for the long term to continue to cause a lot of the time we sprint. And and and hustles important. You've got to work hard but most of us we kind of go through these sprint periods. And not timing ourselves. Well we're in a marathon and we're not preparing for the last twenty laps. We're doing for the first team to get to the front and then we burn out. I think that's where a lot of business owners get stock his they hustle to hard. Because it means that they get all of the reward even though it's smaller because they don't have the vision of what's possible if they were to delegate out bringing teams hire people plant seeds for the long term in the business and systems but also in a lifestyle so for me. It came down to south awareness that i knew that i needed to maintain my physical health more if i was to have the energy and drive recovery and stamina to push long chen and so when i recognize that i haven't it for the short term but i don't have flown to many to make a change but more importantly for me was self awareness to say. I'm no good at doing this on my own and so instead of just going to the gym. I've got a trainer that i'm seeing four times a week because even though he arguably could be standing there watching me and i could have youtube videos myself. Don't how to do the exercise or done myself. I know that the accountability that comes from that guidance will get me greater outcomes then trying to do it myself because my my discipline is not there internally for that thing and so i bring someone to help me keep it because i need the discipline to get long term and will miss that. Yeah i like your insights very good now because we often try and go alone and we reinvent the wheel house in the seventy people trying to stop fraiche which makes no sense because there's people that have already kind of mapped it. How do you think you know if you look back at your successes over time. How much of it do you think has come from. I'm gonna do this all on my own and figure everything out myself and or is it come from unimodal people or going to see the path and in common but being guided. I think that there's there's three primary ways were people learn and get better number one. Is education number. Two is conversation number three observation so the education side. It is just something. I always had good mentors and i remember. My sixth grade. Teacher has to stay up to the class. And so i did term. I wanna tell you that. I think you're brilliant. I mean like my sixth grade. Male teacher labeled me brilliant. Never heard those words come in anybody's mouth about me. So i just took him in is because of that. I wanna see if you want to read a book for my personal library. So i ended up taking this book about the life of michelangelo so from coming from your comment family reading this book written by earning stone just took maybe on so that was education. Conversations is where. I don't think my life can be. Because i got to be with the charlton. Heston the jack. Lemmon walter matthau. Soon the tony curtis' the vidale subsumes. The lee iacocca 's than to the robert downey's then to connie what s being with him for his last four albums the conversations you have with these individuals is just mind boggling. So i i think that i am just so filled with amazing conversations that that is one of those things that i think people are missing. Today is the art of of talking. I just texting but also the art of listening like i'm very good. Listener and part of that was because i was raised by my mother and my three sisters. So you had four women. Listen education conversation observation. I everybody says. Tim story is in the back of his head kind of i do. I'm watching everything. I can see when a butterfly went over my shoulder. I cargo at the same time. I've always been that guy that i watch speakers how they speak and i decided not to speak like them. Or how somebody conducts business. Don't do it like them. So i i observe of what i wanna do and what i don't want to do. Yeah i like that. What i'm hearing is an essence it's connecting with people more than just conversing often we have these transactional interactions people and we're not connecting with them. What advice would you give to me. Because i think that's powerful. I think that relationships come from connection and being genuine and not look out for an outcome but just looking to learn. And i try and do that myself. And i'm talking to people was understand how thinking what they're thinking why they're thinking they thinking and learning more about them because it's not about what can i get from it right. What kind of get out of this conversation with this person. That i'm having but what can i learn from this conversation. Those things inevitably leads to things in the future. Maybe not now maybe six years from now but you should be going into them with the intention to get something out of it. What's your advice for people. In of building a powerful network in terms of connecting with individuals. I have a perfect illustration was at this posh private club and these young guys that really love themselves a lot. Approach me Speak somewhere and they were just talking about themselves to me like a lot and i introduced him to the people i was with now. I'm not gonna say who the people. I was with our but they're gigantic in entertainment. But you don't see them but they're the guys that make moves so when i say gigantic i'm talking a plus plus so they're these young hustlers are talking tim story 'cause they know. I live coach these powerful celebrities. I introduce them to the guys who helped run beverly hills entertainment and they go like this because the guys were older go. Yeah yeah could you meet you so anyway tim. Yeoman can i get your private number at. I thought because they didn't hit they miss something phenomenal. And i think that's very common. With a lot of people they can go to holiday and the grandmothers talk to them and they texting. Somebody are there on instagram. But the grandmother has lived like seventy three years. She might have something to say. So i'm the guy that listen. I listened to the person that is homeless. I learn listen to someone begging for money. I listened to people that. I don't even like their opinions. I listen yeah. Yeah i like that. How would you go about sort of leveling up so to speak the group that you're around. I know how important it is to be surrounded by people who are doing well people who are giving you energy and fuel and i feel like a lot of us. The people that we are around don't necessarily support the vision that we have frau salves whether it's business or happiness or finance. And i always try and take the approach of not being the smartest being the most wealthy the basic business in the room. Because then you become you sort of get turned into this post newsday to to help everyone rather than to listen and learn and half dialogue. What advice would you give to wanting to to connect with more influential people not. I'm not talking celebrities. Just mean being able to you know what i mean. Find those people that that we can have those conversations with. We're just giving part of my line of work a also work with the elderly. I work with prison reform. I'm doing a health summit. This weekend that i'm hosting. They will have about one hundred and fifty thousand people. And i did say that so. I'm on that board so to me. It's not just about celebrity. That just mart were discussing right now. So what i would say is the beautiful thing is that you don't have to get along with everybody in your household at the highest level because not everybody is gonna get you. It's like having a radio. Dial if i switch this way i might get country by turn it this way i might get broadway shows but turned this way. I get hip hop to same thing in life like wherever you shift your channels that what you pick up so a lot of people that are dreamers to get frustrated because other people are not on their channel k. That's okay because that just maybe your brother your sister your mother your father. They're not always gonna get your so if you wait for everybody stamp of approval. You're probably only gonna go so far but the beauty of life nowadays is that i can get along with everybody in a house even though on different channels by tapping into other people. That are on my channel. Do podcasts yours. The radio shows through books through documentaries. So i was in a cramped in crowded family and a lower income neighbourhood. But i was already dreaming of being tim story. I already had a swag. I already knew. I was out for real but did i get along with them all. Yeah but are already knew that out and said they knew you. 'cause we talked about at the stat right plans and discipline and believe Head that. I'm going to be this tim story and my partners. I mean my sixth grade teacher still come from a black neighborhood competent that we moved to a white neighborhood. I'm the only chocolate guy in the whole school and a white teacher tells me you are brilliant. And i believe what he said. So what if. I would have pushed back. What what he said. I thought ooh that's pride. Whatever embraced what he thought. And your very powerful very powerful differently. I love that. I love that. I feel like i've had a part of that too. And along the way you often have the dreams and and you're doing the things and then hardship starts to come up and that your your recent book is about that. Tell us a bit more about the book but also tell us a bit more. I don't know it's deep topic but Summary release on the surface of we all go through ups and downs. We will go through periods where the struggle and. I think that a lot of us are feeling this year. This year has been very very good to me. Because i sort of what it was and i pivoted and i embraced opportunity and i didn't focus on you know my clinic being closed and not be outta the states and run events and things like that and i and i shifted but a lot of people struggled because they they weren't may be prepared to be able to give it. What's your advice for having people to deal with struggle and use it for success. Because i find that my most successful clients the ones who view problems obstacles. They pivoting around. I'm going through or over and the ones you struggle are the ones who see it as being a missile roadblock that there's no possible way to get through so what advice would you give for people to navigate those sorts of things to come out on top and to go around this yet. So i i call them. Life interruptions and an interruption is Is a disturbance where stumping interrupts. What you're doing it could be health could be a relationship. It could be molestation as a kid could be pregnancy at fifteen. You didn't expect so there's people that get interrupted and what most people do. When they get interrupted they stay interrupted and they set in setback and they settle and they settled on. What i call the land of okay and i honestly believe that's where the majority of people are That they are just in a ok lifestyle as bars in relationships with their job in their mindset. How they feel about themselves. But i teach you don't have to sit and settle are living that land okay and that while you're feeling the sting of your setback. Life is preparing comeback. And so what happens. You have to be become very intentional. And i'll just give you three points. That i talk about because i have notes number one. You have to become a wake. You gotta wake up and just go like k. Where am i. What happened the material. Take inventory so you look at your life and say what is it like realistically how overweight 'em how underway m i. How much did she hurt me. How much did he hurt me. Get real and take inventory which we don't like to do so number one become awake number to take inventory and number three in this. Exactly what we've been talking about the whole show you've got a partner with power you gotta partner with people that know how to get you out and usually that somebody there's been through their own battles and so that's why i find that a lot of the world leaders because i get to travel and you know meet amazing people of leaders of fashion leaders of in politics designed. I find it a lot of these people that i learned from. They've been through a lot of pain themselves and many times their story as you have your own story. James is helping a lot of people so to me. Don't don't nurse in curse your problems. Don't feel sorry for yourself. Just learn from it and rise up and wakeup take inventory and then partner with power so good. Because you're you're right. We stay asleep to the reality of and we don't we don't look at what's actually going on and take measure and say it's not as bad or it is or actually look at it because once you do that you can see the problem for what it is. You can begin to find a pathway. But if you're not actually taking inventory not waking up to it you just sit there. And then you end up at a destination. Ten years later fifteen years later and dot. Like and i've had as bad as saying i think that created this when i was twenty seven that if you don't do something would live will do something with you and there's no doubt about it if you don't do some when life life will do something with you and as people get older. You'll find that you know went to high with them that we call it in america. What are you guys. Call it in new zealand. Yeah i school. I okay so i noticed that the ten year anniversary you could recognize people the twenty year anniversary some people. You can kinda recognize him. The thirty you're lucky that they had their name and the pitcher what they look like an icicle. I'm really down truth. Because a lot of people allow themselves to be worn down by life and to me. I have a heart for them because it doesn't have to be that way. We don't have to sit in. That said yeah yeah differently and the last point you made partner with power. I hit a so often from people like yourself. People who lead as successful. It is stop trying to hustle out of the hall. Someone who built the letter. You know what i mean. Find someone who who's done it. Who's doing it and model and guy and get coached. Because it's it's it's the way to go. And that's why these these podcasts and absolutely love creating them but also the ones. I listened to the books i read. It's it's the knowledge that you otherwise wouldn't be exposed to that you wouldn't get i think that like you said you had this vision for yourself and you decided you know. And then the support a teacher. And then you're you're bringing it knowledge in using your during pressure to move in the right direction. And i think that the the so. It's been really nice instead of actually quite at all kind of comes back around. I'm looking at my notes my page because of what we talk about the start. Which is the people that that you work with. Who had these incredible people and the various industries plans beliefs discipline and it's all uncommon because if it if it was common we would see more of it. The common way of looking at things is what you see around you and unhappiness sometimes and lack of full achievement possibilities not being fulfilled. There's a lot of that and the uncommon is is going above and beyond achieving more. But also i think not just in terms of being a celebrity and millions of dollars and things like that but it can be as simple as being fulfilled content. Happy can often come from being uncommon. And you're thinking. I know that if i perpetuated the common thinking of my family of my upbringing i would be in a different situation but i thought differently about it and it changed because life happens fast. You know to maintain years ago. I was depressed and anxious and was on a path but wasn't didn't really know where i was going and had not changed. I'd been completely different situation. And it doesn't feel that long ago at the time you think ten years into the future you think. That's huge at ten years ago. I was nineteen for the listeners. But it's you know turning thirty seemed impossible but it goes fast. And if you don't have that plan if you not taking his actions ensuring that disciplined than you're gonna end up somewhere and it's not just where you where you want to be. Yeah for you to be on this. Pathway at twenty nine is amazing because she left his planet at our age hundred so long time you got to new influence people to change people to grow but i. I think it's important to note that you gotta remember. My my early hero was mother teresa. So mother theresa was not rich in money That's never been my thing and back. Here's a painting lady did you can't see it clearly but that's nelson mandela and that's my base underneath it. I was under his statue in medalla square in south africa so to me to be rich is rich joy rich and peace rich and kindness. Compassion and times. A lot of money comes with it. Sometimes mid money comes with it sometimes lower money comes with it but the key is you can be rich other ways. Differently doesn't mean amazing episode. I really appreciate you coming on. How can i can with online. I think the best way's is simple the old fashioned way. Tim story dot com s. T. o. r. e. y. And then you know. Our instagram has over five hundred and thirty thousand. People follows there a lot a lot of people and facebook and all the others things and one of the things i do offer is. If you're interested in becoming a life coach. We have a new. Tim story life coaching program. That we've been working on for only five years five years and cost me seventy thousand dollars to put it together and it's phenomenal and people say well. I'm not a life coach. If you're a leader of a business of family a child your life coach so it's a phenomenal new program and you could see that on tim. Story dot com amazing. Thank you so much for coming on the show and enjoy the rest of your day. Thank you thank you for listening to the show. If you like the please hit subscribe and leave us a review of really appreciate it as it helps out episodes out to more people just like you. Who want to know how to increasing revenue impact more people and businesses that worked for the lifestyle. They want now. I know your time is valuable. And i know that you were here. Linda secrets to success in your health. Business so i have something special for you just for out the now. 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Becoming The Total Package with Dr. Dondee Nettles

The HeFluence Podcast

53:07 min | 7 months ago

Becoming The Total Package with Dr. Dondee Nettles

"Guys welcome to another session of the he fluids podcast. I wow it's really a nice sunny day to here and i'm just gonna be transparent with you my brother And friend and really mentor. Like i would say that. Dr nettles has told me things in my life that i needed to hear not necessarily what i wanted to hear what i thought i wanted to hear but what i needed to hear right and I would but here's what. I would sum up my relationship with him as the iron sharpens iron right men and and he's came to me at times and i could even list some of them. We were in charleston one time and he came over and pulled me aside. Might even remember this. We know that we were in charleston and it was cold as can be because we were. We were on top of a bed of ice. I think we were because they'd had a hockey arena down. And just i can remember other times. I can remember time in long beach where he came and had a conversation with me. And just i think we've always had that kind of relationship like where he can tell me things just before we got on. We were praying and talking about how god has used situations and books and people in our lives to really bring us to a new understanding of intimacy with god and how How piece of intimacy reflects in effect not only ourselves but others around us and i told him you know i i. I totally understand now. The meaning of being intimate with god really having An and i think it's also in. He'll probably agree with me. It also affects your marriage like the intimacy that you have with. God brings a deeper intimacy with your marriage. And i think like even like i would say the areas in my marriage. That were maybe not perfect. What's they're never perfect. But they're that much better because of my intimacy that i have with the father and It's just like the relationship that a father has with his son or his daughter and My guest today is a father I know he has a blended family so four children basically that Are big part of his life. He has his own podcast showing up the showing up big podcast. I love that he he he. He does a lot of encouraging things to help. People move the needle in their life right. And i think that as i've gotten to know him He's just a man of integrity He's just a man that really wants to help people move in and towards their purpose right like fulfil god's perfect will on their on their life and i think that you know and i'm not gonna go into too much about him because he's gonna tell a story when we get started and and and i said this to him. Last time i went back and listen we once before and the same day my hard drive blue and my computer right out of all an and i actually actually normally don't do this but i listened to his in my session right after i recorded it because it was so good and i told him i said well. You know going to have to hold up bigger to that standard and now when i looking. I'm looking at if you if you're listening to this which is probably what you are. We use some of these segments to to promote the show on on different platforms social media platforms so dondi and i are actually on zoom right and recording this and so we can see each other. And you'll see some things. But when i look at his podcasts of showing up big today him and i are going to show up big. So we're gonna we're gonna make it even better so i'm not going to say any more about him because because his story is i'm gonna use the word epic because i believe that most people look at a situation in her life that they may think was a mass. God turns it into our message. God turns the bible is very clear it says god will turn everything around for his good in for our good right like because we're obedient right and and and if you go on his website dondi nettles dot com. You can. you'll be able to read in detail some more about his story you can. You can make prayer requests there. How big is how many people do you know that has just a plain section on their website for prayer request right and you can listen to his podcast there but i just want to say. Welcome to the podcast. My friend my brother. I'm glad that we get to do business together. Also we get to impact people him. And i are working on a project right now together with one of the companies that we partnered with which is super exciting because it's a passion for him and i both so brother donnie. Now's welcome to the heat from podcast. My brother talk. It's an absolute honor. Mike thanks so much for the invitation. My brother and i love your analogies. Iron sharpens iron. Because it's something that i received that well it's always not what i wanna hear in sometimes in the natural and in my in my flesh i don't receive it well but in the supernatural in the spiritual i always do and and and and i love the fact that you that we have that relationship where you can receive that. Because it's it's kind of i. I heard a pastor one time. His name is graham cook and he was talking about the difference between our identity and our persona or our personality in our personas where our personality our identity to ourselves. Who does the world's has. What is this facade. Were wearing in this earth suit and how projecting ourselves but our persona is our identity in heaven. How we how we are just stripped how we were created how god sees us how the angels see us and oftentimes for me. That's different in an. I remember the day that i graduated high school. My my grandmother put her hands on my shoulders and she looked me in the eyes and she said you are. This is one of the most important days of your life I'm getting emotional recalling this memory. Is she looked at me. And she said if your insights match your outsides you have work to do and as an eighteen year old young man just graduating high school embarking upon college in the next couple of months. I didn't quite understand what she met. And it wasn't until trials and tribulations in life came. And i realized the facade that i was putting up was not the identity that i truly was and you know the difference you. You're if you're if you're a believer the holy spirit will convict you and sometimes we just try to go along. I'm not really hearing it and we don't wanna receive it And that simply. I love the fact we have. That relationship might because it's something where as brothers in christ and his brothers and sisters in christ with the people that are believers when we see something outside of someone's persona we may see it may not and is like you know you're better than that. This is how i see you. And this is what's going on. So thank you for fielding that because that just gives me gives me confirmation that i'm doing god's work because i pray those i pray those opportunities come up on my life everyday among believers but especially the loss that we can share with them about. Who are homeboy. Jesus is right. And and so you know i've i have. We both have been in each other's life now for almost ten years which while it's a decade it's been a decade right and I think i was dominoes. One of the first people. I met when i when i got involved in the company that were involved in and and And now we're as. I said we were working on the product side of things now which is super exciting. 'cause we get to to see things happening and see some really cool things but i think it's just part of our journey and part of our story right like like and we're going to get into this. I told him the last time we recorded these. That one of my dear friends. Tim story who who donny knows. Very well the catcher da. And he's you guys you can't see as we're laughing and smiling but dundee's had some very interesting story about out tim when we talked before and tim i challenged him a while back and he challenges me just goes back to the iron sharpening iron. Right like Tim's like hey you know. I love you and lisa. He says but i'm going to talk to you now right like and he's like. Hey i want you to just really step in. And and it's funny. Daunting donnie and i were talking about him and his wife. Just read a book called healing the orphan spirit by by one of my clients that land right and I laugh because he has this accent. If you know him you get to know him. He has this australian accent right. And i was telling donny that he talked about you. Know scorpions crawling on his face in foreign countries and funny things but tim said to me he said hey i think you should just let the holy spirit completely leading guide your life. He said i think you and i and i proceeded to tell them about the stream. I had back in january of last year. Not this year but last year where god met me in my dream and showed me what my wife. What my previous life had looked like and what it could look like if i walked with him through it and and he showed me open doors and it was it was really just an amazing dream. It and when i was in the dream i could see my life ahead of me with all these doors and then the doors behind me. Some of them were broken. Some more open. And i said to guide you know one of those and he said that your previous life and i said well. These doors in front of me are perfect. He said that's because we're going to do this. Chapter of your again right outside. Well sorry. i'm a little emotional guy too. But that's you gotta show up on that call. Yeah exactly yeah. And so. I basically said to tim you know i said oh awesome. So can we just sharpen each other right and he said sure so we jumped on the podcast. And i just one of my first questions. Donte that i asked him was. Hey how do you. Balance your life goosebumps. I think about it. How do you balance your life. As a pastor of a large church ministry right and being an entrepreneur basically a life coach and writing books and that type of stuff and he said well. It's fifty fifty. I was like really and he said well. What do you mean. And we're in the middle of the podcast right. And i said well isn't it one hundred one hundred and he was like. Oh my god. You're right like i can't do one fifty fifty. I gotta do one hundred hundred. And he said he said i could see him writing this down a said i will never ever ever say fifty fifty on anything. It's always one hundred hundred and brought him back to a story of how his thick. Yeah how is sister. Taught him how to clean his room right and his assistant. Joseph told me after our podcast that about the impact that that conversation had on. Tim and i said well. Tim's really meticulous like he sounds. He said michael. You have no idea like everything office. Perfect the gym is perfect. If something's not put away he gets it and puts it away and stuff like that. So i think that's part of his story and so i want to hear your story i wanna i wanna like i. I spent time earlier today. Because i feel like i really have a lot of respect for for you and just reading your like i feel like i know you but every time i read a little bit more about like i know you a little bit better and i think today. I'll probably know you even a little bit better. Because i believe that this is the time that we were supposed to talk together even though we tried before. But this is this is really going to make an impact. 'cause i always say the person that learns the most on these is me because i go back and listen to them i listen to him with my wife and she tells me all the awesome things about him. But i want to hear more about your story and the journey. That's taking you to where we are today and the things that you're doing and the impact that you're making in the world so years my brother thank you appreciate it. I guess i would say that my story is kind of interesting. There's there's a movie it's kind of a secular movie but it's got some really really deep tones from god and it's called simon birch and in this movie this. This kid has always thought that he was a gift from god and that god gave god created him. Do awesome things. And he's just yet so many antagonists in the movie that that don't believe that it's a wonderful story but i always say that is because i've kind of felt that way my whole life even when i didn't know got i felt that i just felt like god was calling me to do something or i felt like i was created for something and i started asking myself at a very young age. Which is kind of in is is kind of unique. Most people unfortunately live their entire live without asking themselves. Why am i here. what am i here to do. And and for the most i mean. I have a younger sibling. But i always kinda felt like an only child and when my parents got divorced when i was seven and when i was twelve i went to live with my father. So for the majority of my life growing up and even Kind of in my mind. What what sibling hood with my brother. And i always felt like i've always kind of felt like an only child. And maybe that's that's part of the reason. I'm definitely the oldest. So maybe that has some some contribution to it. But i've always felt like. I was called to do something but after i got out of high school i kind of mentioned previously about that. I really struggled in college. I changed my major seven times. I didn't struggle academically. I struggled with finishing completing. What i wanted to do. And i wanted to be growing up as a kid. I was just fascinated with jacques. Cousteau the marine biologist. John cousteau would would just. I wanted to be jacques. Cousteau when i grew up so first major was to be a marine biologist. And i remember my father telling me that you know that's never going to work. And not that. He had any experience and he didn't mean any harm. He just didn't see the financial future in being a biologist. And i don't know if we didn't have google back then And i'm not sure if encyclopedia britannica published the salaries of the typical marine biologist. And so but it influenced me in a way. That i stopped becoming. I stopped pursuing being a marine biologist. And i went into other things just to make money and my father mostly at the recommendations of my father and it wasn't until i got into prayer one time and and kind of i'm going to back track a little bit. The girl that i had wanted to date I asked her out on a date and she said well. If you you can date me but you have to go to church with me. I was like oh okay. What does that mean bible. But i was an adult is kind of quantify my growing up. My mother was raised catholic and my father was raised southern baptist. Or let's just put it this way. Their families were catholic and southern baptist. We never practiced it so twice a year. We'd go to church would get new clothes and go to baptist church on easter. And then we'd go to midnight mass for catholic church on christmas eve so i would call ourselves. Ceo christians was church. It was christmas and easter only was the kind of christian that i was a ceo christian. And i grew up really not knowing who got was although i could sit there and every night now i lay me down to sleep. I pray the lord my soul to keep if i die before wake i pray the lord my soul to take. I memorize that probably out of the womb. But there wasn't anything beyond that. And so this god person that i felt was there had created. I didn't know his identity. I didn't know where to look. And it wasn't until i read a book called the satan seller that my grandmother gave me and mike worn key is the guy's name and it was a former satanist who became a believer and and it really really made an impact on my life and shortly after reading that. I got this invitation to come to church with this girl that i had my eyes on and it was a nondenominational church and it was called jubilee christian center which is actually where i met tim story. So dick bernal was our head pastor. And i went to church that day and it was much bigger church than it ever been too much bigger than the catholic church and about the small southern baptist. Church i'd gone to. But as he got into the message he wasn't preaching in these and thou's which bored me and the other churches and and he was actually talking real language that i could understand and it just happened to be that his message. That day was satan's influence on heavy metal music. And my background and you can see guitar over here over my shoulder autographed by leopard. I am a metal head to the core. And that's when. I heard about an heavy metal because of my parental influence. Hard rock heavy metal was. My mom was my gym. And i heard about this christian band called striper and our pastor was talking about it that many many christian people are condemning this christian band. Well i heard of but they were playing the kind of and even played a video and that means rock rocks and they're singing about god. How could that be wrong. And our pastor didn't think it was but many christians did this pastor just like he's awesome and then at the end of the service is when i my mind was blown as that he had people come up and he was laying hands on their foreheads and they fell and i looked over at the girl who invited me go. Why did he just push that guy down. She goes no. He didn't put him down. He slayed him in the spirit. And i'm like you know. And i had no understanding no reference being slain in the spirit. It looked to me. Like a pastor him down and i'm like she and i go. He killed them. She goes no it's just just just just she didn't know how to explain it. She goes just watch. And i watch person after person after person fall from being slain in the spirit and i was like. Wow this is crazy. I'm still leaving on the striper. High went home literally went home. Got my wallet. Went down and bought their album called yellow and black attack. It's actually up on my wall up here you can't see it but And and it was. Just that's what started. I would say my quest for finding out who this god was and who this jesus guy was and a lot of. It had to do with that music because i went home. I'm wearing podcast headphones. Right now. But i went home put on that album and i and i listened to it over and over and over and over again and it had a mat impact on my life i gave my lord gave. I was now has since graduated. I went to san jose university and there was that they i met these guys on campus crusade for christ after listening to this. I mean that album made a major difference in my life. I sought out these guys. Campus crusade for christ. And they said. Hey we're having a revival you should come. And interestingly enough i was heavy into lifting weights at the time i wanted to be a bodybuilder fitness magazine and i had flex magazine muscle and fitness magazine. And this guy that they would profile those magazines his name was dennis tarantino and they see. I didn't know they call them. The muscle preacher. I just saw him on the pages of muscle and fitness and flex and next thing. I know the guys up on stage talking about god and i was like this is just so strange but comfortable. He's talking to me through my music. He's talking to me which secularly prior to striper was all about heavy metal but no christian bands and even know they had a christian metal band and now he's talking to me through my pursuits as wanting to be a bodybuilder lifting weights and was like this is just insane and he called he had an altar call him. And i went down and i gave my life to christ right there. It was october twenty third of nineteen ninety-three and everything changed from that point. I went down to the bookstore. I got the wwe jd bracelet. I got the wwe jd laces for my shoes. I bought this bible cover. I bought a bumper sticker of fish and put it on my car. And i became the new christian with the costume and everything and i went home and told my parents that there are going to hell because they the horoscopes on the sunday paper and and my dad chastised told me to get out of the house. I'm like that's how it's supposed to go. What did i do wrong. I'm telling him he's gonna go to hell but was like maybe. It was the approach. So i had a lot of zeal but no maturity and no polish and holy spirit is like dude. You gotta you gotta you gotta change the message. You're never gonna. You're never going to contribute. You're not getting you're never going to build the kingdom that way and interesting enough. A few days later. I went to a judas. Priest concert again heavy metal was my jan and they had these guys out there with megaphones and like a twenty foot cross and they're just chastising people as they're going and you're gonna burn how you're going to hell with this music. This is the devil's music and i thought. Wow i just felt convicted by the holy spirit. When i told my parents they were going to hell for reading the horoscopes. This is maybe. I could go talk to these guys. Because i don't think they're going to convert any of these guys. I'm already a believer. And i never really i mean. I think i had a supernatural covering before. I gave my life to christ but i'd there was it wasn't overtly satanic. It definitely wasn't godly music. But i thought these guys aren't going to convert anybody and i went up and tried to talk to the guy. And said hey. I'm a believer to. Thanks for being here but maybe change your approach a little bit and they were just you know. You're deceived by the devil. And and i was like okay. I'm done But it was interesting. It made an impact on my life because two things happened my being an overly excited christian trying to convert my parents the wrong way and watching these guys do that and they were all they were getting with stuff thrown out them and people yelling at them cursing at him and i thought you know what maybe one person got out of that. So maybe it was beneficial. Maybe they did increase. The kingdom will never know. But i wouldn't take that approach. So it's just. I would say that my story is just about being groomed god grooming me and then when i became a chiropractor. I met a chiropractor. A believer named dr mark wells changed my life. And and then as a result of that i knew that and that was my seventh major in college by the way i knew right. Then that's what god created me to do for that season of my life and not been for that season. We probably wouldn't be talking because the things that appealed to me about the company we both work with would not have appealed to me. Had i not had healthcare background and so it's just the succumbing to and submitting to what god's calling on my life was was the the lesson that i learned and and a lot of that had to do with striper the band pastor. Dick bernal on my end. My original home church jubilee christian center which is now redemption church from ron carpenter whose i have my senior pastor here in arizona but ron carpenters my online pastor and great stuff god just doing amazing things in my life and putting me in front of great people. That's awesome and it's funny. And i as i told i take notes so that we can kind of let the holy spirit leaders where we go talk about this. And it's really funny. You brought up striper my pastor a whose went to be with the lord now dr john lloyd who died just a couple of years ago. He had a revival back in the sixties. A little place in indiana That was called the adam's apple and the band that they started was a ban called petra. Okay and i. I got goosebumps so as we were talking about this right because at the bay. I mean if you know. Petro became one of the biggest christian rock bands in history. Right like and they started at this little Revival place in indiana that my at called the adam's apple where honey tree came out of and i mean you just my pastor used to bring honey tree to our old church all the time and just to think and i would look at her songs. My would always play the guitar. And it's funny. Because when i i remember looking this up that striper meant salvation three redemption yielding piece encouragement and righteousness right like the letters each met that right salvation through redemption yielding piece encouragement and righteousness. Right and i was like. Wow what a what a cool way to put the impact on it and it's funny and there's one thing i want to talk about. It's really fun that you talked about bodybuilding. I just had a conversation with. I don't know if you remember this guy. There was a guy who was. I think probably i mean. He obviously knows talked about doing steroids. But his name was flex wheeler yeah and flex was on a call with me on clubhouse the other night and he's actually going to be on my call tonight. I'm doing a clubhouse call tonight with a bunch of really amazing people. And i've built this relationship and i remember when i first met flex. And if you if you've seen him now he's about a six of the person that he was when he was at he's he's he's lost a limb He has one leg now and just basically battling for his life. And i'm hoping and praying that he's he keeps saying he wants to have a conversation with me and see if there's anything that i could do to help them but i think it's just like you said with the people holding up signs and the megaphones and yelling. I had this very same experience at football game at ohio state and it was this guy looked like the top guys with big with the beard down to here and he was holding a sign with the megaphone saying you know gays and homosexuals are all going to hell and all you students that are fornicated reading and having sex with your girlfriends are all going to hell. And you're here drinking and partying and then you're gonna go to the game and go home and drink and party and that sex more and this young yelled out of the crowd. Hey i don't believe in homosexuality and gays and fags anyway. And i was with my wife and two of my friends. And they're like oh no because they knew. I was going to say something to the young right. I had a conversation with them and and To make the long story short he looked at me and he said no one's ever approached me like that 'cause he kept saying well. What about science. And i said well i said when you think about science what do you think about. He said You know scientists. And i said well there's there's i said you can look this up yourself. There's a there's a study by by three scientists from mit and they said that if you stack silver dollars the the Eighteen inches high. And you covered the the the whole state of texas and you painted one of them read and you had one chance to find the red one. That was your chance of. Jesus not being god and the look on. His face was like He didn't know what to say. It was like Really and he said. Do you know god. And i said yeah. I had a conversation with them this morning. And we went into some other things and then he literally was like you know he said thank you and i said to the guy holding the sign with a megaphone. I said maybe you should change your approach. Just like you said you know. Decades ago right. Don brought up Really funny mike. Warnke you brought up by gordon keen and he taught in my theology school several years ago on the very same book selling satan. I still have it in my in our collection. It's really funny. How you and. I have all these funny connections. It's cold but the the the word identity you brought that up earlier when you think of the word identity what does that mean to you. And what does it speak to you. And what can you share from from that word and your faith and who you are and who you've become i would tell you totally honestly. Is that that my answer now would be different then before i heard graham cooked talk about it because i would say to people that ask you. Nobody ever asked me that. You know point blank. But it would just be who i am and who i portray myself to beat which i think is how most people handle their identity. Or what have they accomplished. In other words. You know The once you become a super bowl champion that becomes your identity. Even that was only one year and somebody. Some other team wanted the next year. It's party your identity and people that walk on the moon. That's part of their identities their accomplishments and i think most people who don't have a don't understand in or don't have a relationship with jesus may come from their accomplishments. Or what what. Their title is what initials come before after their name. And i would say for the most part of my life. That was my understanding of it to you. But it's now it's become so different that i understand. Now what my persona is which is my identity and heaven and how they see me because they see me on my good days. They see me on my bad days but know how i was created. They know whose image i was created in and oftentimes. I forget that even now as a believer multiple times a day i will forget that. Whose image was i created. And what was i created for. And it's usually in my own car analogy my own earthly thoughts and and it's so it's my identity. Now i know is my identity in heaven but i struggle with it on a daily basis. As there's other influences people say well what have you done or this is i mean you you call me dr nettles a couple of times. I don't see patients anymore but people from that chapter of my life former patients etc. Some of them. Only call me doc. And it's not who i am. It's part of what i've done in my life but they're it's not going to do anything for me in heaven. I'm not going to be adjusting people in heaven. Maybe i was a chiropractor by trade. So i don't know maybe i don't know i'm not haven't been there yet. I'm not looking for. We don't we don't need one. I don't think we. I don't think we do but it's it's something it's not my identity. It's part of who i am but to other people it is my identity and other people will try to give me what they think. My identity is. Sometimes i'll receive it if it's something godly but it's a portion of what it is. The totality of my identity is some of. It's already been revealed most of it's not. I intend to live for another hundred years. And see what god's gonna have me do to influence the people that he's created in putting my path that is it's what god traded me to do. Yeah and i think you know i was. I've been on this. There's a guy that i'm going to have on my podcast next month. Name is glenn lundy. He's a he owns a lot. He trains of car dealership people. And just has a man of god. Real integral man. Lives in saint. Pete where i used to live and he has this Clubhouse room called breakfast with champions and He he's been doing a radio show in a facebook show like he's had one hundred and eighty episodes. Now right wow. Like and one day he was talking about identity and really and selfish ambition. And i will say that probably one of the most impactful things in my life was in my twenties when i went to see a counselor thandi and he said i said i went in. I set down. He walked over and he left to crack in the door. And i'm like well everybody's going to hear what we're talking about right like my whole identity is going to be in. This office. thinks me right. And i sat down and i said don't you don't sit down yet. He said this the second he said. If you're here to hear like this preordained thing that counselors do or that you have perceived coming here and what you wanna hear then closed the door on the way out and pay my secretary and make another appointment. I was like okay. He beans business right And then he said if you're here to understand that your identity is not in who you are right now on the things that you're doing but it's in who god created you and that we have a divine appointment today to figure this out so that the better so that the latter days of your life will be better than the former he said. Then go pull the door shut and sit down and let's get the best get to work. Wow and i was like and it's really funny years later. He wrote this mass with massive change at my wedding that my wife was completely blown away off. And it's just the the seeds that we had sewed in each other's lives over the years right like you realize that those relationships and those timings radically changed your identity right and glenn was talking about this on on on clubhouse the other day about our identity being in who god created us to be but in the things that god also created us to do right right not not like i said about my dream not looking back at the broken doors and the things that i missed but realizing that god's not done with me yet right like this new level that i'm at now i have a greater outlook on my life than i ever have before right like i think i can live to be one hundred and twenty and i'm only fifty three years old so i haven't even lived half my life yet right right and so and you know we both but you know we don't know the time of the day but we can also believe that that identity that that god has created as for can be greater than we ask her thinker or can imagine i so. Tell me you've transitioned through being a chiropractor now. You're an entrepreneur. Tell me some things that you're doing right now that you're super excited about and kind of what you feel is the next season of your life and what that's going to locate and how that can inspire some people to look. I remember one time. When when you and i had a conversation and this is really funny. This is one of the people that was told that i'd never graduate from high school. Never go to college. You know i. I really i never. I hated listening to people. Talk out to interrupt them at the worst listening skills ever. But as i got older my life now my friends always say. How do you remember all of this stuff that we talk about like you remembered in detail like i remember when i get to this certain level and the company that we're at he goes. I could even see myself getting a little office with a little adjusting table and adjusting some people again. Maybe you know a day or two a week. Just because i love what i did write it. Didn't it didn't suit me for what i wanted to do to have time freedom and be able to do the things i do. What does that look like to you. What are your visions in your dreams. And your because i think a lot of people nowadays have stopped dreaming and i know the you ha. I know that you haven't and so maybe you can encourage some people who are listening today. Talk about what that next season of your life because you're happily married now you're you're intimate with god. You're really just excelling in areas. That i'm inspired by. So maybe you can inspire some other people talking a little bit about that. Yeah absolutely it actually was defined for me probably ten years ago when i came across a quote from mark twain. It's my favorite quote in the whole world and it says the two most important days of your life or the day you are born and the day you find out why and that second day when that became clear to me that that was not only did i know why god created me to influence others but it was to take it exponentially to help other people figure out why they were born yes to have a relationship with the father the yes to have a relationship with jesus yes to have their names written in the lamb's book of life but also do something because it's one thing to accept jesus and go about your merry way but if you're not influencing other people in your not sharing the that gift that you just received then you're not being as impactful to the kingdom as you have the potential to be or at more importantly as you were created to be and so it's something that i've gone through seasons when i was a chiropractor and we had the fourth largest practice in arizona. It was wonderful. But i realized that that was a man's definition received a letter one day from my malpractice carrier. That said congratulations. You have the fourth largest solo chiropractic practice in the state of arizona. And i thought why and and the reason being is because for malpractice insurance you have to let them know how many patients you see so that they do they can create the policy. That's right for the influx of patients that you have and how many patients do you see. How many new patients do you acquire those types of things. And so you don't wanna be underinsured when it comes to malpractice and at but i looked at that letter and i felt pride come in and i thought well what do i need to do to become the third largest practice so the second largest backs or the largest practice i've lost focus so what god was calling me to do because somebody defined it. Somebody created that identity piece to it. And i and it became in the of the practice versus the size of the calling on my life got. I got distracted and it wasn't until a patient came up to me and she goes. Doctor knows what happened something happened. I feel it. something happened. Had no idea what she was talking about and she said you stop treating people the we used to treat people and it was all about. Who do you know. does you know anybody. How does your neighbors. Your neighbor ever neighbor ever have headaches. Do what about your wife your kids your coworkers. I was trying to get more people into two. And i thought oh my gosh. I've never had that approach to somebody to who's been there awhile. It was pretty obvious to me. I did notice it until s- thank god This amazing lady Grandma louise we called her just took me aside and gave me a little spiritual guidance and it was that when i realized i got off i got off task. Well now ultimately answer your question. That was a great season of my life. I had tremendous impact on people and we had our. The logo of our practice was the trinity. Our practice called health within in. We had the story of our logo. Colors were blue for the sky for a purple for royalty and green for profession The sky being heaven. So i intentionally put the three rings and the colors and designed it as a. It was my service or my commitment to god to fulfill that chapter of my life. Well when the business in now came and fatherhood came because eighty to ninety hours. A week was spent outside my home serving patients when my children were growing up without daddy. And that's when. I realized i was. I had gotten the the god family business out of priority was business was first and that was just a gentle reminder well as god as always does and his provision he provided another vehicle for me and within a year so my practice cancelled. My radio show is also. Am talk radio show host at the time and opened up doors to me like those doors. You were talking about the doors behind me were closed and breaking and the ones ahead of me were just pristine and how beautiful sparkling hinges on the and it's it's now it's manifesting in different ways. I mean literally just yesterday there's a new chapter to it. And i'm gonna i'm gonna take a quick tangent but how i show how my podcast showing up big. Which were we haven't released an episode. In about fifteen months i went through the podcast host. Equivalent of writer's block and i was literally just praying and saying god. What do you want me to do with this podcast. Because how it started was out of the two thousand sixteen presidential election. When i was looking for the first time in my life as an adult and i voted for the first time when i was eighteen that i'm i'm going to vote for the first time in my adult life for the person i dislike the least not the person that i want to be in as president and i realized that i had to settle for that and we're weighing heavily on me so as i do typically when. That's the case. I go into my office. I read some read. Some scripture and i went online and the first thing that i saw was a quote from woody allen and it said eighty percent of success is just showing up some on. Somebody's facebook post. And i thought i was already kind of in a bitter mood and i thought that's just stupid. That doesn't even make any sense. Just showing up is not a maybe eighty percent of success but to me. That's like elementary school. Call when they call your name and you're like here but what are you doing to show. If you're gonna show up you might as well show up big or getting the trophy right. Organic the trophy just for being on the team right right and i thought well i'm. I'm showing up clearly but i need to show up big and i had been thinking i want to get back on. I don't want to go do a. Am radio anymore. But i wanna be. I wanna mike in front of me and i wanted to pour my heart out and i thought about podcasting. And that's when. I decided i'm going to do a podcast. And eighteen months later it came to fruition. We put up in twenty one episodes and then it got to where i felt like treading water. I didn't know if i was if i was outside of holy spirit's guidance because i wasn't hearing voice anymore and i decided to put it on hold and then two months later. Covert happened and then i got completely distracted. Well it was about two three weeks ago in church during praise and worship. My wife and i are just prison and our youth and our our worship leader just stopped and any said and he says i have to have. I have give a shout out because my wife and i are always in the front row at church he goes. I have to give a shout dr dondi. I've been listening to his podcast. I was like wow and And he goes. I just want to thank you and he goes in if you have it live. You guys haven't heard his podcast called showing up big while. I had been praying for some kind of guidance. On what do i do with this. Do i start a season. Three or what and i had decided i was going to but that was confirmation. And literally mike. I'm not exaggerating after that song was done. That was the last of our set of praise and worship our our senior pastor came out greg brown skyway church absolutely love him and he started talking about weaponising and he says in this season the enemy is weaponising against us like are very right to have free speech. We are being censored when we have the right to have free speech. Our speech is actually being weaponized. So if it offends somebody they dismiss it or they shut your they shut your your your twitter account down at a shut your youtube channel down. He said they're starting to weaponize things against us and i thought why can't we be go on the offensive and start weaponising. God's word is our weaponising. Goodness and i thought. Oh my gosh that's my new podcast weaponized goodness and so. I sat down during the message. Which i don't and i got on my phone and pulled the phone out of my back pocket. My wife's looking over at me. She's like what are you doing now. What does to too. I'm not supposed to be on the phone church. I went to go. Daddy dot com. And i checked to see if weaponized goodness dot com was available. And i secured it right there and started having all the visuals holy spirit started downloading on me right there and it's we just got the cover art. We got the logo. We just got the intro. We're going to be released. An episodes very shortly Monday through friday weaponized. Goodness keep out for it. It's going to be fifteen minutes of just god's word positively quotes in all kinds of good stuff but we're gonna weaponized goodness because we're in a war. We're gonna wear not only for our salvation. We're in a war for freedom. We're in a war for our lives. We're in a war for everything and the enemy is well equipped and as believers. We need to also. We need to be better equipped and we need to start weaponising. Goodness in august comes from god without god we'd be nothing and for us believers we know the everything good and me comes from jesus and we're gonna weaponize that and we're going to go win the battle and so that's that's just recently so season three of showing up big is coming out Weaponized goodness is coming out podcast. And here's the cool part. My wife and i just started a podcast together. Where it's all about wellness wellness foreplay. And that's four with four f. Oh you are playing no not. It's not that well although we would say knowledge is the four play for wellness. Well they take the stories behind those things right right. He one of the things i asked him. I asked him this. When we were sitting at a table in marco island last three weeks ago now outside applies by right and i asked dondi and marcy always go out and on valentine's day and they go to this restaurant and they watched the people that are most in love right and obviously marci's like well that's going to change because there may not be anybody there right like know. We're in kobe. But that's why. I said you know four. 'cause they they just love serving god and inspiring people who are truly in love so i just wanted to throw that in there because i really appreciate you guys for that in that. I'll just tell you the impact that that's made on my wife my life. I don't ever go because of you. Just saying i don't ever go to a restaurant where my when we sit down. I take my phone. And i handed to lisa. Yeah and i. And i look at the impact. Everybody's either eating or on their phone. Right there. Never talking and conversing and i also sit on her side now to if it's big enough we sit on the same side because then we can actually talk and encourage. My wife is a big physical touch person. If you're sitting across sometimes it's kinda hard to reach across. And do that. So i just wanted to thank you for that publicly. But i'm so glad that finished on about the podcast with you and marcy and so sorry. No it's awesome. And i just want to see a quick thing about what we the valentine's day we just and it went with the same restaurant chain but the restaurant location that we've been going to. This was our ninth year in a row. It had close. There's only one of these physical locations of this restaurant left in arizona and it was only about twenty minutes from us so we went there and as we walk in. It's the same layout so it would have worked perfectly. We kind of sit in the bar area. Which has the jr an order. Gaza wanted just look over the whole entire restaurant because we can see in the whole purpose. Was we're going to find a couple. That's the most the love and we're gonna buy them dinner anonymously and the only thing that the server can tell them is that it was determined that you guys are the most love and this whole restaurant and your dinner is being paid for and just mike to watch the look on their face when they received that it is so. It's such a blessing. Good this time. The manager was actually a transfer from the restaurant she goes. I was wondering if you guys were gonna come. They've actually called us the cupid couple. But when we found this couple that ser and what we look for is they're not on their phones. They're engaging each other in conversation they're laughing and my my super over the top. Yes that's them is if either one of them feeds each other so to reach across. Give each other by the food. That's like okay. Done there in my book winner winner. Chicken dinner winner right and and so after. The couple laughed when they laughed. Mean when when they were told they both were just they both started crying and they were just so overjoyed which was a blessing. They were probably in their seventies and after they left and we got sat the we have the same server as she came over to us and she goes. I have to tell you what they said. They said to tell you that. They were high school sweethearts and they separated for thirty years and they came back together three days before. Valentine's day proposed valentine's day and they've been together ever since then. It's been twenty two additional years and then she said and they also said to tell you they're going to start doing this from now on and that was the biggest confirmation that god has called us to do this today. That secular people. Everybody celebrates love. But when you can do it anonymously and watch how it. Changes people guaranteed. That's what they're talking about because they leave more love than when they got to that restaurant when they were dinner was paid for because they were the most and love. It's just an amazing blessing but that gave back to us tenfold and it was our ninth year. We've been doing it well as we close. Thank you so much for. Just hopefully that you buy our call. Today i was thinking about w spiritus download like. Hopefully you can understand the love and respect. I have for you all all of these things over the years like the valentine's day giving my phone away just remembering conversations that you and i had when you said hey you know maybe you know maybe you could approach things a little bit different. You know maybe we can talk about things you know. And i think i've even had some conversations with you. You know where we've had some. You know. And i and i just wanted to say that i really appreciate that we. I pushed him to get this to get this in the book sprite. We're we're pre- covert. I think we talked about this. And then it just it. Just businesses happened but i just want to say Guys as you saw a weaponising goodness. What's the name of the new podcast. That you and marcio wellness foreplay. Informed place spelled f. o. u. r. It's just four questions that we ask about wellness and how people can acquire it. It's depending upon the topic. The four questions are somewhat different. But it's the every every episode. We've just had three. We just did our third episode yesterday. Four questions on a wellness topic. And we've got literally hundreds so we're gonna. It's every monday wednesday and friday. I love it so Thank you thank you for for being on the only way people get to hear this. I can't wait to listen to the replay with one of the really cool. Things is my wife is. I've really done some things to help her. Change your health. And she's working out. I can't wait for next time that everybody gets the chance to see her because she's really getting after it. She's working out every morning. I've done some things to change some things with her hormones sh- she's going towards a plant based diet because it's works better for her just dairy and some meats and stuff. I did dna testing on her. And she's dropped about ten pounds. She she wanted to do twenty. She's about ten from her goal. She was up at five thirty this morning working out you know and this encouraging i shared with johnny before we got started. You know when you when you set aside your own ambitions in your own self. Want for your spouse guide. Swoops in and says okay. You're gonna let me handle this now right and you're not going to try to handle it anymore. And i told him you know even just do a bob highlight study of my wife writing out all these notes and last night i looked up in my office doing a clubhouse and she had written down her. I am statements and a list of things that she was not anymore. She was burning them and setting them on fire outside and a little thing and i thought. Wow how empowering right like just one one study one investment in herself she. She's really been a different person. Like from a business standpoint and people in marco and on our leaders call tomorrow just came up and said what's gotten into lisa like not. Let me just say this is one of the most incredible humans that walks the face of the earth. Both dundee and i married proverbs thirty one women that love god with a passion. I don't deserve my wife. I'll just say that. I do because of god but being my own billing my own doings i do not deserve her and But thank god. That god's entrusted us with to amazing women to lead into do life with and do so guys as we finish the only way people get to hear this as if you download it and share it right like and i would just tell you to go and connect with with donald marcy on their podcast connect. I'm going to connect with him on these new ones that he's doing. The you know the weaponising. Goodness i i. I really excited about that for you. And so guys. I say this Dondi thank you for for being here. Thank you for your friendship. Thank you for your transparency and your integrity. I'm excited for the next ten years of our friendship and relationship and the impact that will make not only in each other's lives but the impact that will make in the things that we do together and the kingdom. I think the devil is in trouble. And i think that we're gonna make a massive impact in the kingdom the devils aligarh and we're going to prove it to them. We're gonna one day. Put him in the lake flyers. So i'm looking forward to that day and so thank you guys for listening. I say this on every ending of my podcast love. God love people and live with passion. live with vision. Live with walking out the perfect plan and purpose with your identity. And who god's called you to be thanks for listening. God bless. i'll see you on the next episode of the headphones podcast bye-bye.

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Tom & Jerry (2021) | Tim Story

The Qwipster Film Review Podcast

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Tom & Jerry (2021) | Tim Story

"I welcome to the equips. Stor film review podcast. I'm vince leo. I'm the author of the film. Review website quips dot net. I've been writing film reviews online for about twenty five years now and you can read all of my r- work at my website. Hipster dot net q. W. i p. s. t. e. r. dot net. While you're there. I do encourage you to check out the other podcasts that i do that. Look specifically at films of the nineteen eighties. A lot of history and trivia you'll find in each episode around the world in eighty s. Movies is the name. find the link. My website quips dot net. Today i'm going to be getting into a film that is out in some theaters but also debuted simultaneously on the hbo max streaming service. It is called tom and jerry. And as you can imagine it is based on those characters that have been around like over eight years now. Mostly in short animated form the cast for tom and jerry. At least he live action components of it are. ''chloe grace moretz michael kenya rob delaney colin jost palavi sharda and ken jong and the voice. Work includes bobby kind of ali little ray harry. Nicky jam Tim story who is director. Also contributes some voice work here. The screenplay credited to kevin costello. Tom jerry obviously have been around like i said since about one thousand nine hundred forty but most of their work has been in very short cartoons but back in two thousand nine. There were some successful films. I came out that had this hybrid animated live action that had old cartoon characters. Two thousand seven's alvin the chipmunks. You had the scooby doo flicks before that. In two thousand two and two thousand four they were lucrative for their companies warner brothers decided in two thousand ninety. Put tom and jerry. As a property into development they had acquired the rights to tom and jerry back in two thousand six from there. The film really languished in development. Hell pretty much since then under a variety of different story directions. A lot of different screenwriters came on board and then went and then it finally now is getting a release here in two thousand and twenty one but due to the covid nineteen pandemic. of course. It's coming out in theaters and at home for some people who have. Hbo max now. I would say if tom jerry. This movie succeeds at anything. It's really in making the film every bit as mindless as the cartoons. Back in the heyday of the hanna. Barbera characters back in the day though they weren't necessarily considered as mindless actually won quite a few oscars a lot of oscars for the shorts that he did for mgm back in the nineteen forties and nineteen fifties but this marks the second attempt to try to catapult the cat and mouse characters to the big screen as a feature film. They did a not so successful effort for miramax back in nineteen ninety-two. A lot of people rejected that version of it. Because it was kind of like a musical. And tom and jerry spoke and a lot of people didn't think it was the tom and jerry that they knew and loved. But unfortunately most adults. I would say since outgrown the kind of slapstick violence of cartoons like tom and jerry depicting tom. The cat chasing jerry. The mouse for several minutes at a time incessantly on morning tv during our childhood so i think might grow a bit bored with this version because we have to follow the antics of a lot of live action players who are the actual stars of this film. Tom and jerry are more supporting players even though they get. You know some screen time year. This film is set in new york city. It's filmed mostly in england. But ''chloe grace moretz. She stars as kayla. Who's this streetwise con artist and she steals the resume of this highly qualified applicant. That is going for a temp position. In the upscale hotel called the royal gait through a series of mishaps jerry the mouse ends up taking unofficial residents in that five star establishment while kayla decides to hire tom the cat to be the exterminator of that mouse. That's going to preserve the immaculate reputation of the hotel or so she thinks they're set to host the wedding of the century there. So it's very important couple of social media. Celebrities of unknown origin are going to be getting married there so all eyes are going to be on the hotel. Meanwhile keane rival within the hotel. His name is terrence. Play by michael. Pay out to make sure that she fails. Before she gets the advancement that he's been sucking up for years to try to attain unfortunately with a mouse and a couple of cats and a bulldog and a whole bunch of other animals including some elephants roaming around the hotel trying to keep calamity from ensuing. That's going to be a near impossible task for all involved now tally. Jerry is directed here by tim story. Tim story. I think the only stamp autour ship for tim story for this film seems to be his choice to infuse the movie. With a lot of decades old rap and a score by one of his favorite composers christopher leonard's that dips into some very outdated funk rhythms throughout existing neither in the present day setting nor really reminiscent of anything that you really heard in tommy. Jerry's passed so a very curious choice here for music. The original did use a lot of orchestra. Big band jazz in some cases but a lot of orchestra scoring tim story felt that that might date the film a little too much. So he employed more modern effort. But it's an attempt to make the classic characters seem cool maybe hip for today's audiences but a lot of the music here still seems stuck in the nineteen nineties. When story was cutting his teeth as director of a slew of rb and hip hop music videos at that time so he hasn't really progressed much since then although the screenplay has passed through a lot of hands over several years kevin costello gets the sole credit for the script necessarily that he wants so credit he really feels here to live up to the promise of his debut feature briggs be bare kind of a cult favorite for some of us who liked that kind of oddity. He's making here material that lacks much in terms of ingenuity or any kind of stamp of originality. Now the film retains the stylistic choice of tom jerry. Not speaking although they can clearly read and write and seeing when they want to when the situation calls for it so it's kind of weird for them to not really talk. But most of their animal brethren every non human by the way is in his film they seem to be able to talk as freely as they desire one other thing. That hasn't really toned down from the early days of tom. And jerry is the level of violence. That's employed by these animated characters. They still engage in these royals trying to kill each other without any regard for the consequences. Either for each other or the environment around them giving credit where it's due story is a huge fan of the cartoon characters and he did want them to be exactly how the were in the shorts that he grew up loving however while the cartoon characters are as violent as we remember. There is an element of potty humor. Here that's introduced. Twenty twenty one. Tom and jerry. That seems fairly unwarranted. For instance one scene spike. The bulldog is being taken on a walk and in the middle of a crosswalk he decides. He's going to squat and defecate in the middle of it in a scene that takes about half a minute some sort of way to humiliate terrence at the other end of the leash who inquires in disgust. Having to pick up this mess mean. How many burritos did you eat. Flatulence also bubbles up from time to time few these characters at regular intervals usually of course during inopportune moments. That's supposed to be easy laughs for the kids. The cast is full of actors. Who have done much better work. Let's face it in the past. But they seem to join don thinking maybe they should do something family friendly and fortunately none of them really. Elevate the material into something. That's actually amusing or really entertaining. Above maybe five year olds the producers originally wanted jennifer lawrence has kayla and peter dink to play her rival terrence. But they obviously were interested in doing bigger and better things so they cycle through many alternates before they landed on. ''chloe grace moretz and michael pina moretz for her part. She studied films. Featuring sandra bullock can jennifer aniston where they played women who maintained likability despite doing some things that weren't necessarily so nice and she also watched episodes of i love lucy for how to handle physical comedy ali though painting he's supposed to be the actual villain of the film but he seems to come off as likable throughout as well. Maybe that's intentional. The mix of live action with cartoon. Animation is going to remind many viewers of who framed roger rabbit. That seems kind of a commercial choice here by studio because filling the screen with live actors does help promotional interviews for this film where the two main stars don't even have voice actors to tout because they don't really talk so while the animation is reminiscent of the cartoons of old. I mean their character designs are very much in line with. What were you remember tom. Jerry are supposed to look like the live action elements that dominate most of the run time. They're not nearly entertaining enough. To keep the attention. I think most members of the audience for a hundred minutes the characterizations here are generic. They're not nearly clever enough to evoke much more than maybe an occasional chore. It'll in the comedy department. And that leaves only the rampant violence between the animated animals as the only way to hold the attention of toddlers throughout this film. I think adult this daljit for the characters. I think you would do better to search for the classic fortune's online instead of having to sit through a largely unfunny and very noisy. Modern take that's filled with a lot of stuff. That really has nothing to do with tom. And jerry least as we remember. Meanwhile i think a lot of kids. They're likely to find this. Maybe initially appealing but it ultimately doesn't deliver enough humor or moments of interest to stay in tune with the film throughout. I think it also probably will turn them off to see some of tom and jerry's earlier and more inspired work. Unfortunately at least those old cartoon shorts managed to state wants desire for animated me him and it did it all in about seven to ten minutes each so my advice i think is to if you have kids who really want to see tom and jerry to probably if you must show them those old tom. And jerry cartoons. This film is definitely just as violent as those old ones. It's also a lot longer and a lot. More of an ordeal to sit through and so two stars at of four is the best. I can give tom and jerry. If you want to write to me. If you've seen tom jerry and you have your own thoughts on this. You can find contact information on my website. that's like webster dot net he. Wip dot net links to my twitter. Feed my peace with page my instagram and my email email you think is the best way to get in touch if you have any requests as to what kind of us you want here from here on out. I'm all ears kind of like jerry. In that respect you can also right to me. Let me know if there are any movies now or in the future that you want to keep on the radar right to me at your leisure until next time. Thank you so much for listening and please enjoy your time anytime. You either gets good movies. Or you're catching affleck in the comfort of your own home.

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Marcus Black - Asleep at the Wheel - Taking Back Control of Your Life

Masters Podcast Club

1:01:55 hr | 3 months ago

Marcus Black - Asleep at the Wheel - Taking Back Control of Your Life

"Hey everybody win. Play by here and welcome to a wonderful issue of masters podcast. And i'm just so grateful for today because how this all came about from eating interview. This wonderful man is I've shared this many many times. It's the first person that i interviewed over. Twenty two years ago was the man veto system and through all of that i became very good friends with his daughter eden soon and we have been very connected over the last several years mostly in doing selana ropy work i call on her and she calls on me to support the different charities and causes that were passionate about but eden is also passionate about her own personal growth. She's been very transparent in in the struggles that she's gone through and the things that she's working on and she's also very transparent in sharing the mentor. That have helped her along the way people like tim story. And many many others. While the man that i am interviewing today marcus. Black is one of those people and so recently eden sassoon after interviewing marcus. Reach to be said when this is your next guy. This is your next guy you have to interview him and so of course i do. My research I wanna make sure that. I'm very aware of the responsibility that i have in this platform that i have to deliver the best of the best of the best. And that's what today's going to be all about marcus. First of all just welcomed a masters and thank you so much for your last minute saying yes to doing this interview man win. I just have to say how elated. I am to be here with you and your community and i have to thank you. Thank you for your heart to literally speak life into people. Thank you for your heart to have me here so that we can impact hearts and lives. Because that's what it's all about. So i appreciate you everything you stand for. Not only in the beauty industry but this in the world as a human as a man salute. And i'm excited for it credible conversation today dang i okay you can all hear it already. You can hear that. Pass it in the fire in in this bans voice in in in his message. Let me just share with you a little bit. More information about who marcus is. He is a former pastor a current urban missionary which we want to learn what. That's all about providing leadership and mentoring programs to several inner city schools. Recently marcus was named one of l. A. weekly's top ten keynote speakers to watch in two thousand and twenty one. And we have him here is a bestselling author. I wanna talk about his book which is titled asleep at the wheel taking back control of your life which what a great topic. What a great subject. Marcus that we're going to jump into today as well. He has a bestselling author traveling speaker a life coach. He has his own podcast a creative storyteller which i love storytellers and your message is spreading. Love hope it positively to the entire world is absolutely something that resonates with all of us. You have spoken to tens of thousands of people all over the us in several countries around the world and markets. You talk about this life changing experience and i for some reason. I don't know the story completely. But i want to jump into it because i think that our our listeners would be interested in this as well a life changing story where you nearly lost your life at the age of eighteen in how that just became this amazing paradigm shift for you. Can you tell us that story. And what that meant man. I would be honored to share that story. And i always tell people that i had a dance with death and i was shared with you today but before i get into that story i feel like it's a little bit important. Give you a little bit of the story behind the story so i grew up in an environment. That was really tough. Poverty stricken mississippi is where i'm from. That's my roots. There were different ills within my family. Alcoholism lots of verbal abuse and this caused me to start struggling with crippling anxiety. Anybody ever been there. I know i was and so. I struggle with this for a long time. My anxiety centered around the fear of my life being taken. Because a lotta times i quite a reality to losing my life. So what i envisioned was myself being buried alive being literally ending my life like ceasing to exist no longer living breathing and being alive. This is what. I would envision. So i had these crippling anxiety attacks for years and years and years and that leads me to the question you ask which was my wakeup call and it came at eighteen in the form of this car accident while i was just hanging with some friends. It was a routine night. Nothing out of the ordinary and we were on the way home for us in a car as we literally get on the highway. I'm falling asleep. Which is okay. I'm not driving and my friend who was driving was just kind of listening to music. Everything was good before. I remember hearing boom and it was like the loudest explosion you could even ever imagine then. In that moment. I was startled. I opened my eyes. I looked to my friend and i asked. Hey what just happened. Because i'm surprised that we're still okay at this point. He says i don't know he's yelling. Then my friend behind him azalea. We're going to die. We're going to die in. The car starts jumping. Start shaking to the fish tailing fly off the highway. Seventy five miles per hour nearing a bridge into a massive median about twenty five to thirty feet deep. The cars flying fast and furious style through the air literally was like the fastest slowest moment in my life. Glass is flying smacking me in the face. The trees are inside my car. Smacking me in the face. We not down six trees if you can imagine the speed and the impact of this accident before the car spins in the air backwards and boom. We hit a massive tree. The tree splits. The car crosses us in that metal steel like an accordion squashed like sardines. And it was in that moment that i sat and i was fearful to even open my eyes because all i could think is you are about to die without having ever lift. My worst nightmare had come to pass. And that's where. I sat in that car. How ever come spoiler alert. If you're listening to the sound of my voice. Today i did not die but that led me on this journey of discovery to figure out why and that was a wakeup call for me because in that moment i realized how fragile life is. In that moment. I realized that i spend all of these years asking these questions asking the question. Why me why my suffering. Why does my family have these difficulties in these ills. Why why why. Why and it was that experience. There woke me up and made me realize listen. We can spend all our time asking that question and waste time that we can never get back or it can ask myself for different question which is what not. Why would what was it for because there is a purpose to your pain and everything. I'm doing now traveling. The world speaking sharing here with you on this incredible podcast all because i literally embrace their pain and i turned it into my power and converted it the purpose to be able to give back. That was a wakeup call for me. My brother now you you talk about different mentors and coaches in your life that also had a huge influence in in have put you on this journey including your mom and so i- any time that anybody wants to talk about their moms. I am ready to listen. So can you talk about mom. And and how that influenced. I know that you also mentioned a football coach. Perhaps is that accurate. Absolutely man does were the first ones mom was a source iraq and it was actually her who led me to forgiveness with my father because there was a time in my younger years where there was just a lot of hatred brewing in my heart in for anybody who has hatred. Ruin your heart. I want you to know that is a recipe for disaster. That is a recipe for an internal death. And so my mom was telling me. Listen so you can't hate your dad. You can't hate your dad. And i was like yes i can. I can do it. I wanna do. She said you cannot hate your dad. And the revelation i had was. If this lady can say that as a spouse as a person who experienced first hand everything. The worst of the worst can say that. Who am i. Who am i to be this. One who holds onto this grudge and that speaks to the character of who my mom is. She was a human being who looked me in my eyes every day when even my desk sometimes in the world told me i wasn't enough. She told me i was when the world told me i wasn't good enough. Smart enough see told me. I was brilliant when the world told me i was too big. I was ugly. I didn't belong. I did it. Fit see told me i was beautiful and that i belong in my own skin and wherever i found myself and so she was a little literal hero for me as i will continue to walk out my journey of self discovery and it was her voice reverberating through my head that allowed me to start to believe there's less brown another one of my mentors says. Listen sometimes you gotta believe in someone else's belief in you until your belief kicks in. I love that message because that is a gift that we give to each other. And i've gone through that in my life. I've gone through that in my life at different stages. When i was young i but i've been through that even at my age and in my sixties where you sometimes just feel like what's the point and there are people in my life that believe in me when i have a difficult time believing in myself and so i love that quote from less round absolutely brother and you spot on and i think that's a message for a lot of people today because many of you you want to grow you want to advance your career. You want to literally rise up and fulfill the purpose of the mission that you're here for you wanna live a fulfilling life what you wrestle with this belief lack of belief and i always tell people listen. Belief is the bedrock for everything. You don't know what bedrock is. It's literally a foundation. And so the question you have to ask yourself is what do you believe because you become what you believe good or bad so if you can't believe in yourself right now for whatever reason you better believe in somebody else's belief in you until yours kicks in and that's what my mom was for me and my football coach also was instrumental because he was tough on me and i hated it. Why are you so tough on me. But that's a very valuable lesson early. Listen teach abilities everything and we can give very prideful and feel like we know the best way but there's people that can come to in the world like win who is where he is for a very specific reason. He didn't get here by chance. He didn't get here by accident. So why would i think. I know more and be prideful. Because i've accomplished some things that i can't sit at the table and ask and receive and my coach taught me how important that was and instilling that principle in me open so many doors and set me up for the life that and a trajectory that i'm on now with all these incredible coaches who pour into me and i'm disabled to receive an apply receive and apply. See i like the difference that you share between your mom's wisdom to your mom's message to you that you're valuable. You're good enough but then you're coach came along and say yeah. I believe that too. But you're not fulfilling your potential here. You're not showing up the way you need to be. If you really want to fulfill this dream that your mom has for your this belief that your mom has in you. You suck right now and and you need to change all of that. Can you talk about a little bit. Okay exactly right. So as i remember one day we were in spring practice. And there's like these huge guys. I mean behemoth human beings on my team. Several of them went on the nfl careers. And i was out there with them and literally my entire basis was off. Because i was out there and i couldn't even get in a proper stance and so what happened was we came into the building. We were watching the film the playback and my coach in front of everyone with a red laser put. Say who is this. Who is this in. you know. That's embarrassing you. Don't wanna raise your hand but it was me so eventually i have to soaking lycee. It's me and he said what are you doing. Look at yourself. Do you see yourself in. They hurt and you might be thinking. That's kinda harsh. It's kind of cool to do that in front of everyone but this is the part he did that. He pointed out but when the practice was over and everyone was leaving. He pulled me into his office. He didn't allow me to leave. You say talk to you. He said you see. What did you see what. I pointed out. He said now come here. He said i want you to do it this way instead and he spent the next thirty minutes hand crafting how i should move how i should position myself how i sustained because he did exactly right. He said that was really bad. But i'm gonna show you how to make it better if you're willing to listen. I will transform the trajectory of what your play looks like and he did. And i listened and about in and i made the adjustment and i went on to receive all these awards and accolades as a football player from making simple tweaks but most importantly being open to someone's teaching and coaching and not allowing it to make me feel offended and go talk about him and quit so marcus record this interview so this is a july two thousand twenty one so we are at. I say that. Because i know people are going to be listening to this in twenty years from now as well so to give them a contact and we've been through eighteen months of a- pan-demic the murder of george floyd social unrest asian. Hate and i. I understand that from my perspective. And i'm trying to grow and expand my perspective by studying. Ask questions but again is through the lens that i have is my lens of. I'm a white man. I was raised in a white family and a white school in white neighborhood finance. I experienced the pandemic being isolated with my family in many ways because of of the quarantine was a wonderful experience. I always said that. I wanted more time with my daughter. Well guess what i got it. I got it. We couldn't leave the house and so that's when she learned how to ride a bike. That's when we started all kinds of different traditions with each other and gain nights so that that was a great great experience. So again i i experienced this from my perspective but the only way that i'm gonna grow that i'm gonna move forward that i'm going to be a better contributor to this planet is to understand all of that from else's perspective and so my guess is this kind of a. It's quite the loaded question from your perspective. Talk to us. About depending of even the murder of george floyd as a black man in america from your perspective from your lens. What does that mean. What do we need to know so that was a lot. Right is a whole lot but it's actually something. I spend a lot of time talking about over the last twelve months. So you know. The first six months was bizarre. Over the last twelve months you know. I actually pulled into my city and a lot of leadership circles to speak to a lot of the city leadership the state leadership church leadership just as a voice of diversity and a voice where you can literally ask any question because if we don't have the conversations how can growth happen if we run from every conversation that should be. We'll never grow. You can't learn if you don't literally address the things that are on the table to talk about. It doesn't make it bad. Right is bad. If you don't talk about it. So all of that to say yemen. So i'll start with the pandemic. That was a lot and people. Were not meant to be isolated. People were not mitt to go into this place where we don't have each other because we are the greatest give to one another when we function in love when we're grounded and we were healthy and we're whole we literally make each other's lives better. We bring joy to each other piece to each other hope to each other care to each other compassion to each other But if there was ever a time where that was not the case the last eighteen months. It was certainly. It's certainly testing. And i think it began the fear of uncertainty because there was a fear of uncertainty. When i talking about this whole corona. Nobody knows what is that. What is he telling me. He's gonna kill the world and nobody knows then there's misinformation then there's agendas and it's all these things and so i'm watching the world. Go to war over a sickness and watching them at each other strolls and yelling. And i'm listening and i'm like hey man what if everybody's right and i'm going somewhere with that thought. What if everybody's right with both sides are right. Well i've i've heard you say that life doesn't fight fair. yep can i. I want to read something. And i pulled this off of your website or maybe it was some blog that talks about your book so i'm going to read this. We all have passions and purpose in life but life can be extremely cruel and beats us down time and time again. We eventually lose sight of our god given goals dreams and passions in life causing us to live every day. Sad depressed unhappy and unfulfilled in this plan. We will go on. A journey of healing is self-discovery. So that you never spent another day sleepwalking. Through life so with all of that. Which i'm thinking that you wrote that unless you have a fabulous editor. I have a feeling that that came directly from you came from my heart. I bet it did. And you say that life does not fight fair okay. So the pandemic let alone and we'll get into the social unrest but let alone. Life does not fight fair this pandemic and you. You say that we're not meant to be isolated like that. And i've i've heard you say that you're a bit of a introvert. Is that true. I'm getting more that way. As i'm older i love people and people are my passion but as i grow and evolve again older. I think it's like it depends on the day to be honest so we're not. We're not meant to be isolated. Because we're isolated. We start to have these negative beliefs about ourselves. Yes as we were talking about earlier. We need people in our lives. Who believe in us when we sometimes have that difficult time believing in ourselves and and band to be isolated during the pandemic as we were forced to be isolated. Could only come down that so and talk about that a little bit exactly man. That was perfect. A perfect summation of where we are. So basically everybody goes in. And everybody's fearful in every. Nobody knows what's happening everybody's here and all these different narratives from the news in the television all the different places all the different sources of information. Everybody's trust in their source of information is the source of information. That is right in next thing. You know our heart start to become discouraged. We start to get at each other's throat and this is one of those things that listen. There are people who lost homes. There were families who lost income. There were business owners who work their entire life to pour out their heart and soul in lost everything. I serve for nonprofit. I work in the inner city and we were fortunate to keep our doors open because a lot can't say that but we all had to take pay cuts to make it happen to cut the budget to be able to stay afloat and you as you talk about life now fighting fair no no. None of that is fair. But it's all about perspective because what that did honestly if you look at it. The right way was forced every single one of us to have to face the music and look in the mirror because it eliminated every distraction. You have from having to deal with you. I'm talking the internal work. I'm talking to solo. Work the work that we all must do to literally free ourselves from self-imposed prisons grosso listen. When you look back over that time you have concerts. You have professional sports. You have movies. You have outings. You had social gatherings clubs all of these things. Shutdown gyms shut down any place where people gather shut down and that forced us to have to look in the mirror and deal with the good and the bad and the ugly of who we are and the difficulty was we needed to keep communication community even while isolated but for those who did not have a community support system to tap into. They started to see all of the parts of themselves. They don't like and they started to accept that as a total of who they are as the whole of who they are. They started to accept the bad parts. I must be bad. I must be greedy. I must be ugly. I must be. I must be all of these negative things rather than look at the total picture. Say hey there's some parts of me. I love and then some parts of me not so much. But i'm going to work on those so that i can become a healthier better more whole person but it kind of crippled the world because it took away our relationships those reminders because relationships are accountability and those are people who get to remind you of how great you are when you start to think less than about yourself while i'm going to give our listeners. A preview of some other things that you're gonna share with us because we're going to get into some how to's and some of the things that you shared with me in advance of of us doing this interview marcus. How to overcome pain grief and adversity. How to overcome anxiety. How to discover your purpose and we're gonna get into that. But i've heard you say that it's okay to not be okay but it's not okay to stay that way. Yes i'll say that often and the thing is so many people think that it's not okay for them to not be okay. They can never have off day. I can never have a down moment. I can never have a struggle season. You might be struggling right now. And so i always tell people. Hey it's okay not to be okay if you're not okay. That is okay and part of the biggest thing you need to do to find success to give yourself grace you give it to everybody else. Give yourself grace to say. Hey i'm only human struggling doesn't make me weak. It makes me human needing a breather. Doesn't make me less than it makes me a functioning human who needs and it's okay to need but then i'd say but you cannot get lost in space. You cannot lay in wall around in the month for the rest of your days so if you give yourself grace to say it's okay to feel this way then you allow yourself fully process those things. You're going through internally but then you give yourself a time limit. The people that i coach. I'm like all right. You can go have a pd party. You can go feel bad for yourself and cry. It's okay to struggle. But you can't stay there. We can't live there so you give yourself forty eight hours seventy two however many you set the time limit but when that time is up it's time to get up and go back and get to it because life is continuing to take and it's not waiting on you. That's what i say it's affairs fair. It's not gonna wait until you're ready for time in and to get back in the game is gonna keep moving whether you are growing with it or not. So that's why i say. Give yourself a time limit. I like i like that l- time limit. I remember a mention that i had years ago. Who would talk about that. That she actually would put a number of days attached to certain life crises. So if you lost your job okay you you have forty eight hours to cry over that if you lost money. Somebody stole money from you. You got twenty four hours to to cry over. That wouldn't have you ever put time limits on some of those things because some people think okay. I have this loss. And i now have the next couple of years to wallow in this put a time period on it for people. I'll put a time limit on everything you have to. Because listen the waco calling. The accident did to me all of that. In let me realize the brevity of life that life will pass you by and it's too many people out here. Am seeing if you don't know what that means. I call that walking dead. It's too many people asleep at the wheel just going through the motions. I cannot allow you to do that so you can say okay. Well i'll just while in this for a couple of years and i'll eventually bounced back but you're not promised two years so you can't think that way i'm gonna give myself a couple of days to just sit in and take it in and process and he'll unapologetically but whenever that time i said it's up i gotta get back to it because life isn't waiting on me purposes waiting on me. My mission is waiting on me. It's up to meet a sewer. So what does that look like for you. Give us an example. And i love going a little deep and asking my the people that i interview to be transparent so give us an example of something that happened to you and then you gave yourself a timeframe to wallow in this so i wanna know what was that experience. What was that occasion. And then i kind of want to know what that wallowing looks like for you. I think i heard you say that nature is a big thing for you and komo and if you gotta get out in nature and that part of that process can you share that with us absolutely man so i might be a little bit crazy at this point and I don't do a lot of wallowing. I'll give you an example. I can think back to several of my worst memories. Here's the thing when you've gone through as much as i have. You been helen back. You know that there's a path to hell and back you know that you're gonna come out on the other side so at that point i become expecting to say. Oh this feels bad oldest hurts. This is difficult. Don't hear be wrong when i go through painful. Nobody's exempt. I go through painful experiences when they come when crisis come in my life i am now. We're waiting to see all right. How does this work in the grand scheme of the picture. That's the masterpiece of my life. So a few years ago i remember. I was working temporary job. Because i was struggling to find work there. Konomi was crashed. Nobody could find jobs. And i finally found a good job. It was a temporary job. My wife and i was struggling about to become victims. We didn't know how where money was going to come how we're going to pay bills paying all these student loans off and i remember. We shared a car that had a sun roof caved in. I'm just saying. I mean this was horrible. Sunroof caved in literally. It was just pop up and rain out of nowhere. And oklahoma and i will get rained on in a suit because of this and that was the type of situation we have but this particular day i didn't even have the car my wife had and the job decided they were cutting budgets and rent was do. I didn't know how we were going to pay that bill. My job say well. We sorry because you're temporarily you gotta go first. So they literally packed my belongings. There was nothing i had. I didn't have a bag or case briefcase to put them in. They pack my longings. I'm laughing but it's not funny and they literally pulled a walmart bag out of someone's trash can took some papers out of it and put my belongings in that bag and say here. You are sir. Having nice life. So i didn't have a ride so now. I'm walking down the highway in a suit with no car in one hundred degrees sweating and thinking to myself. I don't know how this plays in the grand scheme of my life. But i cannot wait for the triumph that comes on the other end of this trial because there will always be triumph on the other side. Trial mountains are not given to you and your life to be a barrier from your greatness. They're given to you to take you higher if only you're willing to climb so when you talk about the wallet for me. I don't do a lot of that. But i do in order to keep myself from going into that space. Have very set rituals where i get out in nature on a daily basis and i protect my piece. I eliminate the distraction. We'll get to some of that later. But yeah i i love him. I love this conversation. You said that it's funny but it's not funny. What did they say you know when you go one day. We're gonna laugh about this and it's like well maybe we can laugh about it sooner. Why do we have to wait. Let's let's laugh about it now. That'll help us get through it right. I literally do that a lot. Because here's the thing. I didn't always do that. People like what did you always do. That is kind of crazy. No but life has taught me so many times. Listen everything you've ever been through every struggle every heartache. Every trial every setback you came out on the other side so this will be no different. I was one of the things i'm openly. I'm getting back into your question that i openly struggle with now is my physical health and fitness. That's been an achilles heel. I lost one hundred pounds pre pandemic and then i found it during depending so here. We are back on this journey again. But i'm never gonna give up. And so i finally made my mind. I got a trainer. Got all the health and wellness things. I'm going all in because it's a vital part of my life. And what i do so i started and i was three weeks in hadn't missed a day at the gym. Starting to feel good starting to get my strength back starting to feel excited and then the next day three weeks and one day in our pop my calf it tears. Here's a setback. That hurt not only physically hurt my emotional state psychological state. Because i'm thinking what am i gonna do now. How am i going to ever get back on track if this keeps happening. But i didn't even give myself a day. I say you know what. I'm not gonna focus on what i can't do them a focus on what i can and i found little exercise that i could do to tommy over a focused way more on the eating at that point and taking in that part the diet the meal plan. I focused on the supplementation. I focused on what i could control the to. My body heals. So i could bounce back and i'm back now so this is what i'm telling you when these things happen. Count them as an opportunity for growth because they're producing strengthen you that you don't even know how when or where you're going to need but you will need them somewhere on the journey. I love these conversations because when it comes to Gosh playing the piano or cutting hair or a some skill set playing a sport. People don't assume that you should automatically know how to do those things. If i want to know. Pat play the piano. I need to practice. I need to have a coach. I need to have a teacher. I need to devote hours and hours to this. It's a skill set that you learn people get that but when it comes to dealing with some of the life struggles that you're mentioning. Why do people just assumed that they should automatically know how to handle that. So everything that we've been through you're going to come out the other side as you say you learn something and what you learned along. The way is a life skill that we need to apply to the next life struggle that we go through. Oh my goodness that's so powerful because you're right we do assume that we should automatically no but listen. Life doesn't come with a manual. Nobody knows how to do this. And the assumption that we make is because we see other people further along where we see other people ahead of where we are. We start to play the comparison game side note. You should never play that game. You cannot win and as you do this only compare yourself to the people you perceive as doing better than you so you do this and you run yourself into the ground and you feel like man. I had this setback. I must be doing something wrong. There must be something wrong with me. I must not have what it takes to succeed at a high level. Not knowing how many setbacks and failures that person you comparing yourself to have so instead of looking at all of these external things focus on what you can control. Which is you and how you respond to good things happen when life throws a tyson. Haymaker at you. How do you respond to it in an appropriate way. That gets you closer to your desired in go. I think this is the perfect time to get into some of these houses then so how to overcome pain grief and adversity. I love it man. And here's the thing that is probably the greatest gift that i've learned in this life and you guys hear me say when i tell you the story about me. Walking down the highway in a suit. I had a smile on my face. You can ask real people who know me like this guy sounds crazy. No i'm not crazy. This is what i know. People ask me all the time. How are you so inspirational. How were you so motivational. How do you speak with such passion and conviction when you communicate. Listen to me. All inspiration and motivation is is literally putting one foot in front of the other and the resolve not to give up. So what i realize is that listen. Nobody's perfect and we say that all the time but sometimes some people in your eyesight are perfect to you. You might think they're perfect but you know realize they have silent struggles so many people smile in front of the camera but die behind the scenes. And you don't see that part. You only see their highlight reels. So the first thing you gotta do is learn to stop putting yourself in a position where you are comparing your real life. Experiences your trauma to somebody else's highlight reel and when you can stop doing that. You can start to look at life forward. It is and you realized. All success is is stumbling from failure to failure to fail with no loss of enthusiasm. It's literally saying okay. Fair lean does not make you a failure so far bumped my head. If i have a setback if i fail if my business fails if i fall down you just gotta keep getting back. How many times will you get up because allah boils down to is. I continue to stay in the game. It doesn't matter how bad the scoreboard looks. I stay in the game. It doesn't matter what it looks like around me. I stay in the game because a miracle can happen. If you stay in the game all it takes one moment to transform your entire life so you talk about how to overcome pain. You gotta understand that if you gotta keep going you gotta keep going you gotta keep going and then you also have to understand that. There's a purpose for that pain. And when i say there's the purpose for pain is not something in your life. That's meant to tear you down. I used to be a competitive weightlifting. And that's lifted weights. What they did was they literally tear my muscles down. If you know someone who lifts weights all it does is literally break break. Tear your muscles apart. And then they he'll stronger. That's what strength comes from and listen. The same thing is true of your life. There is no strings apart from struggle. There's no strength in your life. That comes without struggle struggle build strength it builds character it builds resources and tools and things that you need. But that doesn't come in without the pain. You don't get the testimony test you don't get this beautiful desired outcome without having the fight along the way. And when you understand matter got to witness a birth sea-turtles and as this was happening there were hundreds of turtles coming out of these eggs and there was one little turkey. And i can't think of a more powerful message to send the point of your pain and this little turtles coming out of that egg fewer or newborn fresh out of a eg fighting for their fighting fighting fighting a little arms. Just flailing trying to flip back over so they could keep up with the turtles one lady decided she couldn't take it anymore. Cpn's down to grab the turtles. I'm gonna pick up this turtle. Because i cannot stand to see him suffer and the endangered species special saw her and he yelled at her. He said stop it. Ma'am you can help the turtle as he said. What are you mean. She was offended. Why do you mean. I can't help him. He's struggling and he said you don't understand the strength. That baby needs to survive in. The ocean is built on the fight to the water. Listen to me when you struggle when you go through pain when you go through adversity you learn to fight you learn to flex you learn how to dig deep and find the greatest version of yourself that you didn't even know existed if you choose not to give up and then you evolve and then you level up and then you learn and then you grow and then you go and you put in you do more. When understand the purpose of your pain it does not feature it becomes literally something that propels you into the greatest possible version of yourself in the future. Unless you're this comes naturally to you and how much of you had to work for. Because i'm very transparent. I've always told people that happiness does not come naturally to me. it never has. I have to work at it every single day. And i could literally spend hours telling you exactly the routine that i have to keep myself on track to myself on track with my happiness with being positive with having purpose and passion. 'cause none of it is by accident. It's all on purpose. And i have to work at it all the time. How much do you have to work at. It is very hard work. Listen we all born that way. We're born happy. But then life hits us and when life hits this is where it gets into doesn't fight fair and it gets taken from you so then the only way to get back to that original state that you were in a baby where you'd just like you know 'cause cool world i get to eat sleep you know. Not stresses in cares if you work so the answer to. Your question is a lot as a daily disciplined that i have to work on to put myself in that mindset. She it's daily. It's daily pilates. One time you know people say. I would give anything to play the piano like you play piano really. Would you give up to three hours a day of practice and rehearsal for the next fifteen years of your life. Would you give that. i would give anything to be. As happy as marcus's. I would give anything to be as positive and have purpose and passion. The way he has. Your answer is really. Would you give up hours every single day. 'cause that's what i'm hearing markus. That's what you have to commit to making this happen. Correct every single day. You're exactly right. People always say. I want what you have to be careful what you wish for. Because are you willing to go through the hail. I went through to get here. Are you willing to so be careful. Compare yourself to win and all these other people you look at and admire because you don't notice sacrifices. They had to make to get to where they are. And that is exactly right when it comes to me and even the speaking people don't know how much time i put into that people don't know how many years of sacrifice while everybody else was going out and partying and turning up and having fun in the club. I was in a book. I was writing down thoughts. I was literally building in crafting in the lab. So like you said. Are you really willing to pay. The price is required for you to achieve the goal that you have in your heart. Let's go into this other one. How to overcome anxiety woo so. That was my kids. When i say that crippled me the first time i ever experienced it was nine years old and when i say experienced it i'm not talking about was a little nervous and failed to little. No i'm talking about felt like i got swallowed up into a vacuum. I went into a black hole. Being buried alive hyperventilating like serious anxiety attacks in those haunted me as like a recurring nightmare for years and years and years and years before that wakeup call happened. But they didn't go away. They just started coming a little less frequently because i had a different awareness of how to maximize my life but they kept coming for years. And this is the thing that i did to defeat the monsters anxiety when i say defeated don't get me wrong. Attacks still try to come today but when they used to come they used to come about six times a week six days a week after my car accident they came maybe once or twice a week as i learned some of these things. I'm about to teach you. They started coming. Maybe once a month. In now i haven't had a single attack this entire year. So i'm out to tell you how we eradicated that and there's a few simple practices. The first one is an immediate thing to do. When the attack comes on when you feel anxiety creeping your heart and your breath starts to shorten and you have this uncontrollable fear deep down in the pit of your core. You gotta practice. Grounding grounding is a literal technique that snaps you back into reality and out of this conspiracy theory against your own self. So what you do. Is you rub something. Use your five senses so you start touching. What do i feel. I literally grab a wall. I grabbed. I wrote my skin. I feel the hair. I feel the texture and then you tell yourself what you feel and then you look at what you see. Okay what do i see. I see a color. I see brown. I see green. I see blue and then as you're doing this literally you'll start to feel your nerve start to suppress you'll see it. You'll feel it. You will feel shift as you continue. Okay what do i hear. What are here. here's sound. I hit a fan buzzing here voice. Okay what about taste. And what do i smell you. Go through all five senses as you do that. It pulls you out of that head space in back into reality which gets into Number two the second thing you gotta do. You have to live in the moment car. Toll talks about the power of now. Listen right now is all you have you worry about. What's going to happen later today. You could worry about what's gonna happen tomorrow next month next year. We can't control any of it so it starts with controlling what you can control which is guess what that may never happen and you spend all this worry worrying for something that never happened and it might happen and if it does you deal with it when it gets here because then that will be your now for now. That's not your now. This is your now so you live in this moment and react to the things that are happening to you and then gets me to the third thing is gratitude in that moment that when i become president to myself in. What's happening around me right now. This very well then. I practice gratitude because we spend so much time focusing on what we don't have yeah. You're not where you wanna be. Yeah you're not where you're gonna be but you not where you used to be so what do have don't tell me what don't you have. What do you have and when you start taking stock of your health and the breath in your lungs and your eyesight inability to hear and ability to love and the relationships and the roof over your head and food and clothes you start realizing. I got a whole lot more things than i often think about because we take them for granted and those are literal recipes to keep you from this anxiety. And so once you do that. You've eliminated all of the sideways energy. And then you learn. What are you on the planet for. What do you want most in his life. What you want. And i ask people that question all the time and they can't tell me they can tell me what he wants for me. What she wants for me. What i'm supposed to want i didn't ask you that i said what do you want because when you can answer that question and you can start to literally chase that you stop shooting from the hip and you get a laser focus target that you can go towards and when you go towards this target with intention that is the space that allows you to wake up and live in purpose and i always say when you start to look forward to waking up and what you get to do more than that. Fear of what may possibly happen. You now can step on anxiety. Once for all. And i'm telling you i'm living proof. They'll tackle creeping. They used to last like three to five minutes when they happened. Now is less than fifteen. Maybe ten seconds cause it'll creep in and start to feel it. And i'll do those things i just told you and it'll just snap right out of it. I'll start thinking what i'm grateful for. How start living in the president. Not worrying about what may happen. Boom you can kick it to the curve. I'm telling you try it and see. I'm sure some listening to this like okay. That's too simple enough the messages. Why are we complicate it. It's supposed to be simple. And i think that people who are dismissing this really haven't had the faith or haven't had the conviction of listening to a mentor. Just surrender your belief system about this. Your belief that anxiety is much much bigger than it really is and it is something that we can control something that we can work on something that we can manage and i just i love it that you broke it down to something so simple those step so face for that absolutely man even with everything and i. We don't even have to get into that conversation you talk about. Everything happened with george. Floyd that was crippling. That was the billeting but in many ways for me but we tried to overcomplicate the solution to that. What do we need to do. How do we change the policy. How do we change the president. How do we man. It's none of that. None of that is the solution. All of this sounds simple because it is. We make things rocket science. Sit down with somebody who doesn't look think. Believe or act like you and have a conversation not for the purpose of you listening to them listening to unite. You telling them what they need to know. And then telling you what you need to know. Just sit down. If i sit down with win and i get to listen to his heart and he here's my heart and just focus on a relationship i'm gonna learn how he viewed the world he's gonna learn how i view and i'm gonna understand why he views the world he's gonna understand. We're gonna love each other anyway because our differences don't have to be something caused us to want to go to war. I love that message nowadays. It's if i don't agree with you or you don't agree with me on an unfriendly you wait. We can't have a dinner party if we are sitting on opposite sides of the table so to speak if we have different political or religious points of view than. There's no way that we can sit down and have a conversation where we all learn and benefit from that for a lot of people. Those days are gone. They're they're gone in us. Just so heartbreaking. You mentioned before that. Because of the death of of george floyd and the social unrest that in your community you have been asked to speak and to show up as a leader. Can you share with us you. You said that there's questions that people just don't want to ask if you're a black man and i'm a white man. What are the questions that somebody like me. Doesn't wanna ask and yet. We should be asking those questions man. This is where it gets deep. And i've had a lot of these and i give people permission. Ask me any questions and a lot of questions. I get from many people who obviously if you guys the can't see me. I'm not white. But i'm very much a bridge between two cultures and so i give a lot of white people in my community the permission to ask freely and a lot of questions they ask center around like why are black people so ungrateful for. What's happening here. Like do they hate america. Why this whole kneeling for the flag thing. Like why do they. How can you spit on the face of the troops. Like why are they more concerned with police officers and police brutality than black on black crime or the rate of crime in their own neighborhoods. They're killing each other to hiring. Nobody cares about that which is also a speed in my face as urban missionary. 'cause i'm like i show up every single day in fight the and speak educate and these young men and women but but anyway there's organizations in every city that are doing that on the front lines and what i tell people. Is there like eleven different issues that are happening in the world around us but by the time they hit the media the mainstream media and they come out they all kind of get merged intertwined into like two issues so like racism is its own issue. That has nothing to do with police. Brutality police brutality is its own issue. Those have nothing to do with each other but they do have some overlap but when they come across the media is like police are only brutal towards black people. And that's not true. So i'm trying to get people to realize that we are over-simplifying that conversation in overcomplicating the other conversations the ones that should be simple. And so what i'll tell people is this. Listen i don't believe in good or bad cops. I don't believe in good or bad. Like i don't really believe in good or bad people. I think that there are good and bad choices in every human being makes good choices and every human being makes bad choices in the choices you make are determined by your life experience. What you've gone through what you've been through and your environment the environment you're in so what you see. People doing is literally based on those couple of things. So what i started doing is trying to figure out okay. I have been abused by police. I don't talk about that all the time i have. I have been slammed on the car accused of having drugs spread apart. Yelling and people will black people will just comply. They wouldn't die oma goodness if you've ever been in a situation where they're six officers. There's dogs barking is frantic. I'm afraid i've never been in the situation guy. One officer yell at me get out and put your hands up. I've got another officer yelling. Don't move okay. What do i. What do you mean comply. what does i mean. I don't know what to do right now. So i'm painting this picture. Not as an excuse to show. People is easy to sit back and judge from afar. But if you sit down and get to know me you'll know notice like that experience was traumatic for me. It traumatized me for life. That happened also when i was eighteen. But it doesn't also cause me to hate officers and think everyone of them are bad and that police need to go away. So it's like it's a very nuanced conversation. But i think we over complicate all of that. Listen if we sit down and focus on relationships with somebody who's different and here were their heart comes from they're not gonna understand. Okay i get it. This is difficult conversation and we might not see how to but it doesn't change my love for you because at the end of the day we all want the same things we all want to build a better life for our family and our friends and our loved ones. We all want to create a legacy to outlast us and maybe in the process be able to give back and serve the greater around us. Everybody wants their even the gangs. Won't that whether you believe that or not. They won't that how we go about. It is different so yeah. That's a lot but wow an instant necessary conversation in. It's something that we're never going to graduate from this. This needs to continue in. Thank god for the lessons that we've all been through that things that have happened in the last eighteen months as difficult as they've been it. Has i know opened up my eyes and my heart. And i am on a much better journey than i was. Prior to. all of this cannot summarize it for you right yes please. I wrote an update and it was called america. The beautiful and the sub point was make america. Great or win was great. 'cause those are the two discussions at hand. Those are where the two sides are making great again or was it ever great for people that look like me so i wrote about it and i said okay. Make america great. The question is win was great and the answer. That i said was america's always been great. You don't take those men. And founding fathers in the dream vision had and the story of resilience in heroism to literally overcome something that literally represented oppression and fight to create something that was so beautiful the ideal of what america is so the answer is it's always been great. That story is remarkable. The revolutionary story of the birth of a nation. And then. some people start to get angry. They say that. And then i say all right. The question is at the same time while it's always been great. It's also always been airport. Because then you get into some of the underbelly and the slavery. And i'm from the south and i've seen things there were not even birth records kept for my great grandparents. My grandparents these are people. I know that don't have birth records because they weren't even considered human in this country so the point is there's a duality in everything in life in something can be both great and terrible both good and bad at the same time you know just like people. All of us are good and bad so we got to do with that information on the table. Make the best of what we have. We can't go back and change what happened. We can talk about it. We can learn from it. We can agree to sit down grow together. We can agree to sit down bill together. We can agree to sit down and despite our differences. Work to make everybody's goal and dreams come true to make this a better safer healthier place for those our children our grandchildren and those who will walk and take the torch from us. That's what we gotta do but now everybody wants to talk about the problem with. Nobody wants to be a part of the solution and actually sit down and have the conversations so tell us about your book which is titled asleep at the wheel taking back control of your life man. I alluded to this earlier. That i got i just honestly got tired of watching people walk in there and i say that and you think of the show and you think you know. I'm not being facetious. I've had so many conversations of people. Say i just don't know what the point of me being here is anymore. I fought so hard for so long. I thought maybe my dream could come true. I thought maybe i knew what i wanted. And then that's when the life comes in it's a hard knock life in school hard knock starts slapping you around a little bit and people start hurting a little bit and circumstances star literally hurting you and then you get to the point where you wonder. What is the point. Why am i even here. Do i even care if i'm here with anybody else. Care if i wasn't here and you find yourself in this place and so after hearing this for years and years and years as a recurring theme from people that i was talking to mentoring helping working with decided i was going to do something about it. Because that's like. I have my wakeup call in my life. I literally decided to write a book to be a wakeup call. So if you've ever struggle with understanding why you're here if you've ever struggled questioning your worth your beauty your purpose or passing how to even find that. What does that look like. If you've ever struggled we believe in the laws that they told you about you for far too long and you cannot find a path forward and you just sometimes feel like giving up. I wrote this book for you. Because i wrote it from the depth of my heart and soul from the pain that i experience from the life stories that i've been through from the real experience that taught me how to overcome in how to find that path to purpose and how to go at it with everything i got. I wanna teach you to do the same lov again our good friend sasson said that one of the things that she has learned from. You is to stay present. Stay in present is big. And that's something that you have taught her. I love her. She's such a remarkable human. her heart is golden. And when we talk about those things it's so easy to swallowed up by the ideas of what we have to become. So that's why it's so difficult to stay present because everything around us is telling us sending us messages of where we can improve where we can be better worry about this and worrying about that and we get all of this and we go into internal crisis and i'm like listen control the controllables i don't know how many other ways to say it and all you have is right now. Nothing is promised to you know. Moment is guaranteed. Don't take for granted this moment and if you can learn to maximize this moment then you can maximize this hour and if you keep maximizing hour you maximize the day and if you maximize every day you maximize the week and the month and the year and your life won't and again it's supposed to be that simple doesn't mean that it's easy but it's supposed to be that simple when my mentor talks about. This is one of my mentors. Trent and he's always talking about people. Say you make it sound so easy. That's easy yours said than done. And he says you right but everything is easier said than done. It takes no effort to say words. But that's where you got to choose your heart right so even though it's not easy just simple. It's a simple concept but it's not easy whether you gotta pick har you can either choose the heart of feeling like what's the point of being here and the despair you feel your heart that there's nothing left you gotta give or you can choose the heart or force yourself to be president in a moment to force yourself to affirm yourself and speak good healthy happy things to yourself which will feel silly at first but if you learn truly affirm you yourself in appreciate yourself and appreciate every blessing you have every human you have everything you have. That is a recipe for you living a fulfilling life while marcus says we uh wrap things up your first of all just while they take you so much would you mind. Just send a message out to the youth of today. Because i i work a lot with that generation you are urban missionary. I'm not sure that i really know what that is. But i like the fact that you're an urban missionary. So i'll tell you what it is and then i'll send them a message. Okay and so urban missionary basically means like you know. We got missionaries. Who go to cambodia. They go to indonesia they go to all of the different countries africa honduras and they go and a reach people there and they work and they serve those communities. Will i am a person who does the same work. But without leaving the confines of my city i go into the neighborhoods the worst neighborhoods and we provide resources whether that'd be food meals life skills. Teaching these kids emotional resilience. I'm in the school. I get an hour in the school where they get to come and sit with an i teach expound and i pour in and so that's what that means to be able to do that on the front lines of being the change. I want to see everybody can talk about the problem. I chose to become a part of the solution. So the message that i would give for the young people today. This listen you got a lot of people telling you what you should be. And the thing is people often discount you in your youth. People try to make some note. they're talking about. They're young they're dumb. they're just millennials. Or they're just jen. Whatever all of the things right and they discount you and they make it seem like your experiences aren't real in our valid just because we have had a lot of years on the planet. But i'm knowing that there are things that you are facing that other generations previous generations never had to deal with because cyberbullying is the thing and people will take and they will literally manipulate you. Take advantage of you. Send things you said. Screen shots share things that were meant to be intimate in. Calls you to question your sanity calls you question your purpose. 'cause you the question if there's a reason for you being here then they will lie about you because they are looking for significance theirselves and when people are on the search for significance and they don't feel it they try to make others feel insignificant and they try to tear you down and they try to belittle you all in the name of cloud and all for good he he and a haha a giggle from those around him. Well i'm telling you that no matter what you're going through whether you come from a beautiful family but there was some broken nobody saw or you come from a family that was broken on the outside and everybody saw either way. You are not defined by anything you've ever gone through. You're not defined by the struggle you're not defined by the pain you're not defined by what they said about you. Those our allies. You gotta learn to believe the truth about you. Which is that you are. Resilient is that you are in overcoming and is that you have power beyond what you can imagine but if you're willing to take a step and be different you gotta dare to be different. You gotta dare to do it. No one else is doing to live like no one else. Can you gotta dare to be the one who thinks different. That's not the popular choice in your you. But many of those people wound up being the very people walking dead ten years later and you can be the one that gets to show the way you can get the be the one that gets to be the voice and the leader if you're willing to make an extraordinary choice. Listen alleging. is this an ordinary person. Who made an extraordinary choice in dare to be different and maximize their life their potential. They're passionate in their purpose. So i'm telling you is never take for granted a single day of your life. Never discount yourself your wisdom your authority because you're young and to own your greatness so up believe the truth about yourself affirm yourself and then you rise up you can go. You can grow and live and love the life and you gotta do there because you can. You don't need any other reason than simply because you can't you. Can't i'm telling you that you can i. I'm gonna add nothing to other than just to thank you. So so much marcus. I am thrilled. That i get to use my platform the stage that i have worked twenty two years of to build and i share your message on that stage so marcus thank you so much. Thank you for having me. Thank you for the opportunity to connect with you so much. Love respect and admiration for you and i am grateful my brother. This is just the beginning for you and me. I feel that my friend. I love it. I'm with it. let's go thanks marcus were.

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Identity, Addiction, & Becoming Reborn Part II, Feat. Justin Black, with Joel Marion  BTI 60

Born to Impact

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Identity, Addiction, & Becoming Reborn Part II, Feat. Justin Black, with Joel Marion BTI 60

"I think a lot of people get caught up in like. Oh God directing me down this path. I really feel her voice on this and then it didn't work out as planned as because you don't know the end of the plant right maybe a year from now you're going to look back and say I understand. It's just like me. I'd tell the story often right. I got to oral Roberts University. My freshman year hated it. Love the thought of going back at Christmas break and I thought God wanted me to be here. I thought I was. I was tuned in to the right frequency and God led me here. Frigging hate this. I must have heard the wrong boys. Right and transfer back home fast forward to what I'm doing today probably doesn't happen the way that it happened. Not Meet Donald Roberts second semester. Learn about Bill Phillips Body for life writing for magazines having a book that flops. All the way to where I am doing this podcast amazing. It's all part of the process of it. All right. What is up guys. Welcome back to another in act for episode of the born to impact podcast. Today's a special episode because we get to continue the conversation that we started last week with Justin Black. This is part two event interview. I know it's a blush. Speak to you cue up part two with Justin Black. So let's talk about the business stuff. Experience is freedom from prescription drugs more or less S. She said she's drug ads for a couple of years high functioning. Nobody knew about it. Started to be able to minister. People have similar issues. People weren't talking about it. We are a lot of our dirty laundry on this podcast. Things that happened in the past or imperfection stinks and we'll get right because if nobody's talking about nobis being real. Nobody's being helped right so we do that. And before you finish that I would like for Justin to tell everyone at home right now if they think. There's a possibility that there are a drug addict. But they're in denial. What do you say to them from being there and being in the shoes of two years of not sleeping and using drugs all the time? What do you say to the person right now? That's listening to this that they may be doing it every other day. They may be doing it every day. They may be doing it every week. And then maybe a couple days off. What do you say to them? Are they addicted to drugs are they? Are they do they need help? What do you say to them? If you're playing with fire took a year for that addiction to settle. First Year. I started taking those bills. I'd do it on and off do it when I needed. It didn't sink but there's a moment in that if you're pursuing that road if you are open to that door being a possibility in your life one day it'll come in it'll sync you hard. If that's something that I know a lot of people have a lot of pride I'm not sure I can. I can mess around with this stuff and and you know I pray you never go down that road but you're playing with fire and it's very very possible to go in and also I love just take a second to speak to parents who are dealing with a child who's going through addiction and if you are an addiction please get help please. Just tell your friend tell your parents and if you are a parent I just WanNa give me permission to break. Shame off of your life to break. Any kind of this. Is My faults that this happened. This is I should have done something different. I just want to break that off of your life and just encourage you to come into a place of power to pray for your child and to do whatever it takes also set boundaries. You know. There's a lot of parents that need to set boundaries with their kid. I love you but this is okay in my house and that doesn't mean that you're not loving them. That's sometimes the best form of love is. You're not welcome through that door if this is still in your life and that was something I found with my parents it was like I'm like I can't continue in this because they literally that is not cool in this house and that's a big part of it. The other part of it is I know so. Many parents struggle with just so much. Shame and fear and guilt over that whole process and I would really love to give you permission just to to step into a place of power to pray and to know that your heavenly father that that their heavenly father is a much better parent than you could ever be and pray him in because he'll lead lead your kids to the right things so awesome. Thank you for sharing that we have this is deep is getting deep here because some people who may be or listen to this or maybe you are listened and it's yourself you're struggling or you're realizing is struggling. You're realizing that you don't want down a slippery slope and you're playing with fire or maybe thinking of somebody who You have some concerns about maybe need to share this podcast with them. You know just out of love and has been here somebody else. Who's 'cause you hear a lot about justice struggles right now transition to freedom from the dark times and transition into the light and how God is is elevating him and I think this will be a powerful story to share where somebody else who may be struggling with addiction on the other side will be receptive to hear from somebody who's been there and now is on the other side of doing some pretty remarkable banks helping other people? Impacting lives So let's Transition Justin talk about coming out of this and into what you're doing now. How how this how this lead to the whole fitness thing who've into Hollywood so The person I met two months into. That was Tim Story He came and he spoke at my parents businesses and And we began talking. I realized what he's doing and we just connected. We just hit it off. You know I was really deepening. Things have got at that time. I was you know doing mission trips over in Brazil. I was totally exploring the ways of God and Until I met him it was really cool because I finally could connect and this guys totally connected in Hollywood and that was never my heart. My posture Meet The sky and meet so and so it was just. He's amazing he's got in his amazing virtual gangster. Yes sure and and so I connected with him and And I was in ministry for Awhile and I'd love to just take a quick second to tell a story just about my own struggle in my own. The quick thing of suicide just being the one just the one person And so when I began to really explore deeper things of God I began to have a lot of dreams and I began to really Experienced God's voice through dreams and an item mission trip plan to Brazil a month from the stream and I had this dream of this man who is constantly trying to take his life and I I saw clear as day. I saw his hair his beard. His shirt pants shoes sold as clear as day in the stream and in the dream he kept trying to kill himself over and over again and I woke up and I thought okay. That's weird. I don't know who that is. I'm just going to put this in my note to my iphone and maybe one day it'll make sense. Maybe one day I don't know for whatever. He's put it in my notes so we're in. This struggle. Suicide tried to kill himself multiple times members of a month later. I'm in this church service and turn around and I see that guy and if you talk about somersaults your brain does when something like that like. Pretend you saw someone in your dream and then woke up or then in real life. See that person walk into the room. Let's let's church. Yeah Muslim Brazil in Brazil. So he ended up being the only person there that spoke English which was helpful so that was nice and so I saw him and I was like God like this is a pretty extreme to like give a note to someone about them trying to kill themselves if this is not right then. I'M GONNA look like Canadian and see him and I walked up to him and I'm a hidden. Will you mind reading this and I didn't have any posture of you know whatever I just was just totally open? Just will you please read this? And he said Yeah for sure and he spoke English. I was like do you speak English. And so yeah and so he starts reading it and he's read and he's you know blueshirts got blue shirt on black pants Pantai. He's got the white shoes and the beard and the black hair and he's like going through all these details and I seem like kind of looking at himself like what's happening right now and he gets to the line of a spirit of suicide that has tried to take his life multiple times and he chucks my phone and hits the ground and just start crying for twenty minutes and And so I I didn't know I. I assume that was him but I didn't know for sure and I just patiently waiting. What's going to happen here? And He came you know. He came to after crying and he sat down. We sat down on the stage. I have this picture of a sitting on the stage. Someone took this picture of us. And he's sitting there and he's just mass crying and I'm sitting there like what's happening. And he looks at me and he says I've tried to kill myself every day for two years houses possible. How could you know this? How could this be real? And that was at a time in my life where I realized that that God knows every detail of our lives. He knows our original intentions. He has the perfect plan. He has perfect ability to come after US and to get US free into to send some punk kid from Michigan to down to Brazil to set this guy free from suicide because I remember him looking at me just going if this is true then this changes everything for me. Tell me how can it not? I mean huge not GonNa win the lottery though. That was unbelievable. It's that whole story circulated back to just being about the one that is went through all that struggle and I had that experience and all that time confounded on this one guy and it just burned in my heart that it's about the one and God cares so much about the one that was just burned into my heart at that time not everybody gets to have an experience like that right but this is like undeniable proof that God is in the details right and this is real and you can't explain it. No one can argue with that right. No one can say Now like God's not real. Well Okay you explain this then right And Guy undeniable proof for him so for for the two of you in that situation and you come out of that with this whole new perceptive perception that men perspective that man God is roller than ever and he knows the details. He cares about the details. She wanted to Minister to that guy and save that guy for a reason because he has a plan for his life so when I said in the beginning unit here Justin Story and just open your mind up to the idea that maybe just maybe this is great loving kind God out there who has a plan specific plan at specific purpose for you as he loves you. He loves who you are who he made you to be. And it's more than just living an average life. It's something that's you feeling as we're talking right now that thing that you know you're supposed to be doing what you're called to do what you burning dreams desire in your heart. That that's God's will that's God's purpose since about navigating and finding the right way to connect the dots down that path and opening yourself up to God partnering with God right is much much different life when you're trying to figure it all out on your own and open your own doors and when your partner with God and you're relying on him yes I'm still GonNa do the work. Yes I'm still GONNA put myself in position to be in front of the door but God is the one who opens the right doors closed. Wrong redirects all those things and when you know that he's in charge of the details because I'm in partnership with God and he's the what the CEO of my life much much different story much different possibilities for how things are going to roll out for. How things are going to materialize in your life for the doors. That will be opened. The doors will be closed the Just the knowing deep inside that man. I'm I'm on the right path right. The certainty that comes with that and that's really amazing So for you you have the experience in this propels you into next phase of your life and then saying I got a plan for me now. I'm just trying to figure out it's again so here you are. You had this undeniable moment yourself from this other individuals here who you know literally life life saving and life changing for him but you get this undeniable clarity that while the realness of who got is that he cares about the details that he sent you as a clear messenger to help literally save this other individual but man. Why would he do that right? It's it's it's God. Has this undeniable loving plan for us live a full life for us live and impactful life for us to live a purposeful life Mama. We are fulfilled. And he's in partnership with us. You WanNa know why because I think that that man and I think that you were denying him still in your hearts there was something there. The you needed something so dramatic. You know what I'm saying. Some people don't need such a deep the right shirt. The right beard The right pants everything in this dude I mean it fit exactly in another country right. You needed something so powerful because you were going to help a ton more people. Yeah and I bet he is too. Its opportunity to deepen the belief right. And now it's undeniable without a doubt that had to be a catalyst for set you on a mission to make some changes in your life and to ultimately get you propel you to where you are today so just take it from that situation and how ties into what you're doing now. Yeah well as you can imagine. I became obsessed with the Voice of God. This is real. He speaks if this really happened than what else is he talking about. And and so naturally I came back because you have to think this totally as much as impactful for him for me. It blew my head out of the water of what's possible so I got back home and found the first ministry I could find because naturally God wants everyone in a church ministry And so I ran down that road because this is where God wants me. It was not where God wanted me and that didn't really happen until two years in the I heard him speak again. I was down in Hawaii and We were staying a family of friends business. They'd like Paul Mitchell events in Hawaii and I just went with my parents just to get clarity on things dissatisfied with the church four walls the whole the whole deal down in Hawaii and I asked God you want me to do with my life and I heard his voice in it. It was incredible. He said I need you to get in the best shape of your life for who I'm GonNa put in front of you over the next five years so you guys are literally testimony of that word that all that time ago and all the people that came after that and the thing about God when he speaks is it feels like love. It sounds like love you but it also feels like he's already telling you what happened like you already have the power to do it so all they did was say okay. And I'm like two fifty totally out of out of shape ministry life. You Go minister you go to ihop after and just eat a bunch of food with the per. Listen on the person at home right now. I'm saying right now that just insane that God told me this does that go down there wondering Scott. Just come out of the wall and starts speaking me. How's that go down for them because for everyone? I think it's a little different. Yeah and I think it's genuine for someone like yourself that such I mean. This is a powerful story. Yeah for someone to hear that. Your Gods Unique. He comes to where we are. He doesn't is not a requirement to go to a beach and listen. It's it's in multiple ways right. I think everyone is experiencing God's voice in a unique way in their life. You just have to tune your receptive to hear right so even right now as you're sitting you're listening to podcasts. All the sounds going on in the midst of that there is. Fm radio waves flying pasture head. There is noise all around you right now and the only way you can capture that is by getting a device that can pick those receptors those waves up and transmit them into music or whatever it is so in the same way. Sakari way to put it. Yeah so in the same way. God's voice that it's always speaking. He says that my thoughts for you are like the sand of the shore. How many thoughts are on the scene of the shore? He's talking a lot like he can't shut up and so all these thoughts are coming to tune in. Sometimes that's for people getting quiet sometimes for people that's going to church sometimes for people that's getting outside of their comfort zone or even just waking up early and just asking what are you saying today and as you begin to discern those thoughts and the voice you really begin to experience a new level of understanding that he really is real like for real and he's speaking and once you have that that he's actually speaking is not just like someone talked to you and do it and it's conceptual and you went to the church service powerful and like now you believe but someone could talk me out of it when you hear him. Not a soul could talk you out of it so courage you to tune your receiver in everyone's unique. It's very that's awesome. You know. I've never heard that before. But you know you need to be receptor like radio right to to be able to receive certain station that you I love that. That's a great way to put it and you know when you get to where like I feel personally where I'm at because I can speak for myself that there's a lot of time. I'll go God. Give me a sign. Because I don't have the answer and blow. Will I get it right and when I get it on defiantly no matter what I am going that route? That is exactly what you told me to do. And I'm going that route if an or but it fails so what still you told me. And there was a reason. As a reason. There's a race I think a lot of people get caught up in. Oh God Guy Director me down this path I really feel like I heard his voice on this and then it didn't work out as planned as because you don't know the end of the plant right right. It's just part of the process right maybe a year from now you're going to look back and say I understand. It's just like me. I'd tell the story often right. I got an oral Roberts University. My freshman year hated it. Love the thought of going back at Christmas break and I've had. I thought God wanted me to be here a thought I was. I was tuned in to the right frequency and God led me here for going to hate. This heard the wrong boys right and transfer back home to what I'm doing today probably probably doesn't happen the way that it happened. If not meet going robbers second semester learn about Bill Phillips Body for Life. Right for magazines having a book that flops all the way to wear I am doing this. Podcast right amazing. It's like you look back and you think man. I really thought I heard God on that but it bombed at flops. You know it's it caught fire. Nope saw part of the process of it. All part of the process you did. God had to direct because there was a lot of Maturation that happened was there. I grew up. You know I was away from home. I didn't love where I was that I had to dig deep kind of even just like do what I was doing from on a daily basis still got great grades and and Salt process through but it was just a period of time as a year of my life where I didn't have the comfort of going back to my high school buddies who were there in Jersey had the comfort and you know having my my immediate family. My mom around was always a source of comfort. My life have that? So what do I do? I had to dig in deeper than my faith. I really did get closer to God throughout that experience because nab whole lot else to lean on and I think maybe that's why God brought me out there in hindsight looking back one is connection to Bill Phillips Body for life and ultimately led me to where I'm doing today but I think this is a I need you to get out of your comfort zone. Bring somewhere else. You're not really going to understand this. You're going through it. Look back and you know you're GONNA see how I say. Thanks thanks for this one. As he knows his ways are higher than our ways in he knows the end goal right. That's why at this point in time when I tried tune in. I feel that we're talking about this because because individuals will Sounds weird like oh I heard God. Oh like He. Audibly said Justin go do XYZ river right. It's like that doesn't have to be that way. I mean not say that that never happens right but like in most cases. That's not that's not how God speaks. God speaks to you when you when you listen when you tune in when you adjust the frequency to okay on radio station God right now let me see. We've got no right. You have to get quiet. Give yourself time. Maybe it is a sign in with a life event or something like that. I mean I've had situations where I was at really really low points and then I had encounters literally like worked I. It was mean God and we had the night you know and then things shifted and I knew what I had to do the next day right or I got clarity. There's but you have to give yourself the opportunity to hear that. And how do you hear quiet? You gotTA listen to you have to seek the you have to trust him. Lord Dent says. Show me sign Lord. I'm impre Erin Look just. GimMe piece for what I'm supposed to. What the next move is. I got a couple of different options here. Give me peace on the right path. and one's GonNa feel right and one's GonNa feel like That's not the right one right And then you just trust God that I feel might like that that intuition that feeling something in your gut for me many times says God show me I. Am I right path here? My doing the right thing you know. Let me surrender this situation. And then get clarity. My Gut tells me when I say my Just feel like man. That's confirmation that I'm on the right path. I'm doing the right thing or I need to shift and I feel much better about this. You know it's nice when your gut partners with God Right because that gut feeling because it's more of a confirmation. Okay it is God. We're what we're born with a conscious right right and wrong these things right. It's it's one of the things that we talk about Back in Absorb twelve. I believe it is with the podcast that we did with Tim whipple. There's there's there are certain things that you know well I believe that God instill that in our body to have the instinct where you trust your right. That's that's a survival instinct ritual and percents. We were giving it. We were given that and use that right and God speak do that every time you're supposedly you know you're gonNA take an action math famous system not supposed to be here. You're not supposed to be doing that or up busy. You feel really good about this if peaceful about this we think that is a scots voice. Speaking to you. It's it's it's not audible right. Well we feel it feel one way or the other that this is the right path is Lamont Pat. I'm really uneasy about this. I'm getting involved with this group of people not really feeling it. Something not right here. What do you think that is right? That's a thousand percent dot right. It's thousand percent again you're born. That's their right as is something has learned. It's like I know that punching that guy in the face is not knowing really tell you that right like you just know. You know certain things but what does that. And then there's all these other situations like got chat. Am I doing the right thing I? It's it's God speaking to us and we have a feeling and we have this intuition and we have this. You know these thoughts that they're on the right path from now on the right path. I feel good about this. I don't feel good about this and we need to pay attention to that right absolutely because literally game changer. So go ahead story yes. I just began. Listen this is a story with a lot of lessons along the way. Hopefully guys are getting that right so go ahead. Let's begin to really feel God's heart burning for the business industry and not so much where I was called to be in the church and I and I felt like I needed to get out and so that first step towards that direction which I didn't even know 'cause I just thought I was getting in shape just for whatever and I had a lot of great mentors growing up. In physical fitness had strength coaches at universities that kind of mentor me and walked me through how to eat how to train progressive overload training. I had all these principles and so I basically just applied them all. I was really out of shape. I applied them all in ninety days. I'd lost about forty two pounds was shredded and was just an amazing shape for what purpose I dunno but I was just doing what I felt like was the right direction and like what God wanted to get your stuff together. Yeah exactly well in all areas right. Everything was clicking at that right right right and so I posted a picture on instagram. And it's like a transformation picture ninety days and these big instagram accounts. Start picking it up and posting it and all of a sudden. I'm getting all this organic traffic. Just flying into my page and I realized I could turn this into a business. There's a lot of people in the inner webs that want to get in shape in this picture was like a really big inspiration for a lot of people and So I didn't know what to do. I didn't have a program had like twenty. Dm's that day saying what's your program. Reload sign up for it and I didn't have a program so I did. I had no idea what to do with all of that. You didn't your head you just didn't have it on paper you exactly. And so I met a guy out in California who's doing like online training stuff and I got connected with him and realize it's not that hard to do i. I could find a way to do it and so a week later. So I launched this programs. You want to sign up for. I had no funnel no anything. Just WANNA program. You have a name for the programs like Justin's program and if you WANNA email me here and so I went to sleep and I woke up and had a hundred and fifty emails of people. I don't care the price what can I do and I just went down this road of. Oh my gosh. This is a big industry and there are a lot of people that are wanting to get in shape into work with a coach. And and so. I just capitalized on it. I began walking down. That road began working with people trying to help people one by one going through their own transformation process pulling out sugars pulling out all this craziness from their life and trying to give them the best plan possible and that led to training Tim Story and that led to a lot of different clients and people and just the influx of was timothy toddlers for. You're getting some other celebrities or how. How did this whole thing of you trading celebrities come to because one you have a really awesome? Transformation that's GONNA attract certain level clientele but my wife celebrity be interested in the guy who just figured out a lose weight himself right. Like how'd you get turned onto? Getting interest is probably another God thing but I'm just curious how how. How did that work out where you started getting celebrity clientele that start snowballing? To what is today where you move to southern California new training a lot more of these guys just at first is word of mouth so meeting. Tim was really big and he would tell someone about me and then I go have dinner with them and Just really had no agenda in Hollywood and I think that was the biggest part of. I didn't come here to get rich. I didn't come here to try to use your following to go somewhere. I WANNA go. I really came with no agenda. I WANNA get into modeling or acting or you know. He likes Legitimately just trying to help. People in that city is like why you here again. You acting modeling or or you know Going to music industry which one for the legal wheat because people that do that too yeah? This'll become more legal everywhere. You look now but but it is there. A guy without an agenda in Hollywood's on your right and Tim Story knows everybody. Oh yeah he does. And so was really the catalyst of meeting people and then being invited into their worlds. I really believe was because I didn't come with an agenda. They could they you know in Hollywood they have all of these boundaries up of people they WanNa let in people that don't WanNa let in and and I really did have no agenda I honestly from the heart of hearts just wanted to help people and if someone fell in that Bo I was going to help them and it was just word of mouth one by one and it's not that big of a world once you get into the higher ups. They all know each other. They all talk. They all have their ways of doing things and when they find something that works or they find a guy who has integrity in wants to do things the right way they tell all their friends and it just snowballs into a big process. You show up you deliver or over deliver and then you get somebody else's attention so let's back up in this whole thing like you post the pictures some larger accounts. Start reposting yes. You're getting a lot of organic traffic and followers that are targeted. Because we're coming to you from senior personal transformation. Yeah then they started soliciting you for a product. You don't even have right and you gotta get creative so talk about that whole process you get one hundred fifty emails. What's the process of like all right? I'm GonNa get this thing off the ground right. So so what did you do to actually launched a business? 'cause here's somebody might get stuck Let's say they're in the same position at you are at one hundred. Fifty People WanNA program from them when they're like. I'll have your way accept credit cards. I don't even have a program and this is cool but like I don't like I am not at all about doing this. I'm just going to keep doing. I was doing this or well. The A lot of people. That are like that exactly. I mean literally. Opportunity comes with a battering Ram and knocks your door down right right in the too blind to see it or it's just like oh actually have to try and figure this out and then they missed the ball completely so just share what you did how you actually got this from being nothing to something. And how many of those fifty people to end up being online clients and then the in person clients and all that but particularly for the people who came to social media and said I WANNA do your program. I want to sign up trained with you. The one hundred and fifty people emailed you. How did you actually like collect the funds deliver the programming all that? And how long did it take for you to figure out how you were going to do that? We'll just in the presence of you guys. I don't have it all figured out but I know that that's the point. People think they have to have it all figured out and like capable of illness. I don't know how to run a business. I started doing all my personal training as well. I had fifty clients paying two hundred dollars a month. That was while I was teaching and that was making ten grand a month on the side. Okay and then I had this other other big plan wants e book and all this stuff right but like I did everything wrong for sure. I'm a teacher. I know nothing about business. So I'm like I didn't have a LLC or a corporation or anything everything through my personal name right. It's all personal income. That was coming in. How mcadoo is get credit cards and subscriptions and all that I sign up for a personal pay pal account. That's doing rebels and stuff. You know like there's so many. I just bring her out doing everything wrong. I wasn't I wasn't doing anything to the letter of like you know. This is the right way to run a business a complete novice when it comes to business trying to figure things out you learn you learn on your feet right so just tell us how well Google how to. Train people online owned a lot of different articles and And so it started with love it. Yeah so I had that one fifty and flex and it's kind of what am I gonNa do with this so I found a training program online that basically you could upload programs to and give nutritional plans and that was kind of the start of just finding a format to do it just the whole you know. I just need something that I can give to them on their phone. That isn't like me emailing them every morning. This is your workout and so I found that and then pay pal link. I didn't know what to do. I was hey sign up for this link and so of those hundred and fifty people and this is funny too. I just made this general email. Thank you for your inquiry of coaching. This is my program so and so it's two hundred a month or two ninety seven a month and I emailed at two hundred and fifty people and eighty people signed up or something like just the most terrible sales copy ever the worst. It was just the email do instead. I want this so they were already in but it was like I am the solemn. They're already in the emails. I can assure you WanNa do this. I don't know if you really WANNA go down. Like everything I said was wrong. Like the worst way to market to get client came up real and authentic. Whatever else out there sell you yeah. So so that was the first influx of it and Just figuring out how to do it better and do it. Well because my big thing was just a bunch of numbers and I'm not actually impacting anyone's life and in the and that was the hard part because I had so many clients. So fats almost in scramble mode with figuring out how to provide value to each one individually in the midst of just so many people coming in you know during that first year during that whole process and And I found different ways to do it. I would do like skype calls. Do Zoom calls put a bunch of groups on a screen and try to talk them through. You know this I need the e and and that was kind of just the start of it was just trying to onboard them into the program and have upsells and have down the head. Nothing in that. I literally googled online train and then uploaded. A program ran through mentors of mine. Strength Coaches may choose all legit was all like really good and and so then people began to get some results from it and share their testimony is probably the testimonies alone where the big catalyst for for on boarding more people. I had this girl who lost thirty pounds before her wedding and just was in it to win it like love. My still does two and a half years ago. And she's still does my program and and from her transformation probably twenty others. As as many transformations you can get an upload. I think at least for my business it was that I know if I post this. Get Twenty people because this is a real person and they're really talking about what they've gone through with me and so for the online space. I feel like that's social proof yet. It wasn't coordinator testimonials. Is Everything. Fence Industry yes. So that was really important and When I moved to La Things got weird. Because I'm I'm at these dinners and these parties and met you know whatever and all these guys. You should hire him. You should do this. You should do that. And and life just got kind of weird in that space it just that one yes to step out to not know what. I'm doing but just try doing it and try to do it in. Five failed is fail fast. Someone's a refund. Give it to them now. Don't wear your reputation is way more important than you. Keeping two hundred dollars or keeping four hundred dollars. You know what I mean like if someone asks for a refund shoot learned that lesson now learned that lesson now but just little stuff like that you learn as you go and as you try and fail and get back up and fail and get back up and and I'm no where near where I wanna be in the industry or or where I think I can go in it but it's a start. I think for a lot of people out there. You just need to start. You just need to just find some people as I'll train you for free. I just needed a transformation picture view at the end. You don't find those people that can be catalyst for you and like we were talking earlier about finding real estate. Agents is is amazing. I found I had this one. Real estate agent trained him. He knew everyone that was a player in town In terms of hiring higher ticket. Coaching and told his family told his friends that led to people. I never thought I would know. And then them introducing me to go in and it just became this whole like whirlwind of everything and is really just an incredible time and still is I feel like I walk into a different door every day and something else opens up and so as much as it strategy and all that and you will be way better. Teaching on that stuff for me was just like a God journey and connecting with Hollywood people especially just on the all of their boundaries of it was. It was time to to Minister these people. Some of the most identity pulled apart people in the world of going. Hey you're not your career. You're not how many people are in love with your movie. You're not how many people are involved in this and and so that was really amazing to come from my own test. My Mellon story even though I'm not on their level I'm I'm telling the truth so it doesn't matter if you're if you're making two hundred million dollars a year on this movie what I'm saying you still true and you can still take that and people that are leaders. People that are people that go to the next level can learn from anyone so when they're opened that it's you know it's encouraging you don't have to be with them to to be able to speak truth into them so that was really awesome seeing here. Here's the big lesson here is actually. I posted this last night about. This is the recipe though guys. Let let here's Justin saying. I don't have all these tragic. Why is it working? Or here's this is a recipe for success that I posted on instagram yesterday. And now we're seeing it injustice life. Okay Sup one show up for people up to Brigham overdeliver. I'll just do you do do above. And beyond the exceed their expectations. Repeat he'd be on it. Guess what the word of mouth that comes from that okay. It's a real. What is over delivering consists of be real. Be Authentic. Do what you say you're GonNa do actually actually do what you say you're GONNA do right. That's the number. One thing that I think is lacking. It's you know how many people say. Hey Man let me know I can do for you and then you actually ask them some crickets. Yep Enough Oh follow up twice about it looks you said. Let me do for you. I did have a way that you can help me. And then nowhere to be found not people that is like ninety five percent of people a lot. It's just a bunch of talk about. Hey I'm here for you. I got your back right but do they really got your back when when you need them. Do they show up for you? I have just completely built my reputation of business over the last ten years that I do what I WanNa do if I gave you something I tell you it's GonNa work. It's GonNa work right and if it doesn't I'm GonNa make a right like is this over and over and over again. It's foolproof right. It's always going to be a win for you right you'd interact with Joel. You do business with Joel. It's always GonNa be a win right. Maybe something doesn't go exactly as planned. But we're going to keep going until it's a win. Right guaranteed went right and you show up for people and you're like this kid and Hollywood. Oh getting results with them. Word of mouth. Why because you showed up over delivered the results are telling somebody else about it. Like what's his agenda. What's he really here trying to do? Nothing just wants help. People get healthy and fit and does a great job at it all right and then and then you show up show up on time you over deliver on the session. Do you give them exactly what they're looking for and more you won't be successful. Does the recipe that above all else you can say. Oh Yeah Yeah. Great Sales Copyright Marketing. If you cannot deliver over delivering exceed expectations over and over and over again consistently is going to be temporary. Any level of success. If you do not have that this simple show up over deliver from selling a product or a service my products if I get him with amazing marketing and I promise them the world under delivered results. What happens see you? Are they telling anybody? No the refunding. Now they're charged back right no if anything that can make your name mud right exactly real quick reputation reputations great marketing without substances leads to Exactly you running through the modern and eventually being nothing and and Don't you have a reputation that no one wants to work with you? I no one wants to buy from you owe at Lululemon. Look Up. All over you names all over ripoff. Report DOT COM. You know right right name Sir. Every bad review you gotta F- radio with the BBB right. It's it's pretty amazing. How fast you reputation can going the mud to today's Day and age social media and The Internet and review sites things. I think about being in that elite gym that was in with all the athletes and movie stars and so forth. I mean it was every week went by and it'd be something to not have one of those in your in your gym. Wwe Star whatever right and there's thirty eight elite trainers that were recruited for this facility to open up when I when I stopped training people which was a couple years later. Okay because I moved online. There were only four left now. I know who every one of those were their names mud. I mean literally like some of them are selling cars. They were doing any of what you just said okay. They weren't showing up and over deliverance. All about them. And you want to know something. I had personal conversations with a couple of them because everybody looked at me kind of like the father of the place. I looked at that I looked after that facility like it was my own house. Okay and so I can always tell in one of the military guys. Military guys got outta line. Wasn't taking care of the people treating people like garbage and one morning I had it out. I was like you know what that's it. Somebody's GonNa let this guy no and I had already cleared the owners that I could talk to him and I did. What the Guy did? He cried okay. It was only him me in a room and I had one of the guy for a witness because I already knew what I was going to be dealing with. I've hired and fired a lot of people in my day. I don't want to fire anybody but it just you have to do. Its part of the job anyways. I said listen. I'm GonNa Shake your hand and I won't let you know I care about you. But you're going to end up out in the gutter and he goes. What do you mean? I go what you're doing and how you're treating people inside this facility and how you talk to people with disrespect and then also how you talk down to other trainers that are in the facility. I go you'RE GONNA end up out in the gutter. I said so. I'm trying to stand-in right now as a friend and let you know this is not tolerated inside this facility. You are not better than everyone else. And you either jump on the team and get on board or you're going to end up in the gutter less than frigging six months later gone. Didn't listen to everything of what Joel said everything. What you just said. Your reputation is everything and literally to this day until I ever seen anything different. That's the reputation I think of the guy like literally you don't you don't get it. Yeah it has to be about delivering to the client and not about you right. If it's about you. How much money can I make? Comey clients can idea instead. Just focus on making the product or the service. The best that could possibly be right. Show Up People. Follow through on your word. It's all the simple stuff that you'd think people would know Right what very very few and far between amazing to me right because Again I was just on a on a call last night or was it guest coach for another another Two friends they're they're marketing group and I was at the gas coach for the the weekly call only supposed to be an hour long two and a half hours show up overdeliver they all said including the two instructors they all said this is the best call by far that we've ever had for this group around the group for three years. This is the best by far. And they're like look at how many notes we got. Joel like new instructors than the guys who put on the group Guy got posted notes literally all over probably fifty of them and she was just like taking notes. Notes opposed to not all over. That's Awesome. Where do you think that's going to do for my reputation with these guys? Right right somebody says. Hey you know Joe Marion Oh yeah I know. I know that guy's gold. Here's what I always hear. That guy's real deal. Here's what I you know. They're always like yeah. You need to get around him more. You need to be around him more. These are people that are no you write. That are someone talking in front of me and don't know who I am or I don't know what what they talk. Yeah you get around. That guy took two hours and a half of your time that every one of them took every minute and they basically are gonNA take action. You know how to do that. Coaching session last night. Three zero nothing for free for free. 'cause they're friends of mine that I know it's all about the relationship showing up over delivering right now. How much out of business am I going to do with these guys? I mean a lot right instructors in our own group and show up for people they called me and they said Joel Karlin a situation which had a sold out event in La and we got another one in San Diego. It's not filling up as quickly the events in three weeks. We need some help selling seats right and I said well for the type of event that it is. It's not going to really resonate with my health fitness followers so but I do have some context for let me let me hook you up into some other financial companies that I think would be a good fit that I have a good relationship with that same day. I do seven different. Email intros to them. They were blown away their life. I'd look honestly. We thought we were going to get off the phone without that would be you know what I mean like we asked. There's maybe five percent chance we're actually going to get anything out of this. You showed up one insurers like every time I hit refresh that another intro in our inbox right. Yeah and I'm like well trying to help those people and then and then he says this we got on calls with all those guys right very valuable connection. Thank you so much. They thanked me in front of the group numerous times and they said you know what every single one of those people that you intro us to just raved about you and who you are and so this goes back to the reputation of imagine if your name was mud you made seven in trump's everybody's email go not that guy again right. I'm running from that guy. No it wasn't in you. Put your clout you put your reputation on the line for people that you believe in that. You're willing to help for free. Did that because you're trying to connect with your master connecting and in the end it's a win win for everyone and you get to feel really good going to bed at night knowing that you try to help a bunch of guys help much more people right. It's amazing how do you show up show up for people and there's people who they'll tell you they'll be there but they won't be nuclear you've you you find out quickly who those people are right and then and then when you find the rare person? Who actually does that? They say they're GONNA do manages brand-new circling embrace them. And and that's what people did with you. Just use you. You showed up. You did what you said you were going to do. Your Coal Dude. You're all benthic you'll transparent. You can have hidden agenda. Wasn't all about you was about legitimately helping the person on the other side and every business did Justin. Just tell you how to put up a website with amazing sales copy landing pages and all these conversion tips and tricks no but just gave you the recipe for building a very significant business given great income network with all the right people by showing up over delivering and focusing on the client. And not what he's going to get out of it solve without agenda S- amazing. Would you know you can get from anybody else? Did you want to add to that now? I just think it's so important. I heard someone say one time. What if you loved people because you actually do? What if you had integrity? Because you actually do that. I think that little shift because in the midst of that I can hear people going okay. L. Over deliver. But then there's like the ask or if I'm over and that's a recipe for disappointment. Yuna show up because that's really who you are and when you show up that way let the pieces fall where they wanNA fall you. They will fall in the right way but just do it for no hidden agenda and I think that's so important because you have to strip yourself of the day age which is self promotion which is put yourself in this area and do this and do that and meet this person and offer I but with the hidden agenda in your back pocket of what you really want and it's okay to have different business opportunities and things going on all in your pockets but it's not okay to be that way in the market leading that way you know one of my My family's business partners John Paul's Aurea one of the most amazing men I've ever met my life. We were just in his office. Six months ago and and he he began to kind of dissect that and how simple that is that he's not in He's in the business of over delivering. He's in the business. What will the way he says? I'm in the reorder business. I've never gone into any business for the you know for how much scale it. I wanted to make it so good. That people wanted to reorder and Redo business with me and and and we're sitting in. This office is way more significant. Because we're like in Beverly Hills and there's like the shark tank trophy and then I looked up. There's a plaque from the president and then you look again and it's the award for Saving Millions of Wales like this guy is so significant and what he does and he has a movie good fortune. Which kind of documents a lot of what he's done with Paul Mitchell Mitchell and patrolling Tequila and just incredible guy but the the thing that I've got out of him because I remember I called him at twenty years old. What do I do with life? And he didn't tell me about funnels he didn't tell about the process of it. He he just said get around the right people be around the right people and learn and lead with the giving. Han Go in with a the agenda and watch how life orchestrates its way out and listen to your parents I was. He said he really loves her family. Because you know we. We've done really well with him and business and just just with integrity people like that. You do business with a billionaire. You better have integrity. Because they are the ultimate you'll get cut off you try to come in with something else and you basically lead that way. The entire time in in my dad has funny story of being at a party and he needed five hundred grand from from John. Paul For one of the schools and it really know how to ask them but he was just kind of like. I need this money. Because we're building this and he's a partner in it and and he walked up to John. Paul John Paul just had this intuition. Brian Toyo- you any money. Just for no reason. I didn't come up asking him anything and might as well. Yeah actually we need five hundred thousand four for the school down in Florida. And he goes hold on just a second and he goes and gets his assistant and he gets at checkout. He writes a check for five. Hundred Thousand Dollars. Tends to my dad. He says I always bring one. Check all these events for whoever for whatever purpose and he didn't ask my dad. Are you sure it's five hundred thousand? Are you sure? Did you do the numbers riots? Not Four hundred and eighty. He just lead with that trust. And that's because you build that relationship with people over time of doing good business and over delivering my family's made him a lot more money because of over delivering and doing better on deals just by being the right person being person of integrity but the catch twenty two. Here's you actually have to be that person and I think like is great have principals. It's great to know this but to actually come to a place of being that person like you can only export what you are. You have to become that and and I think you know my life my family's life it's all just a testament of. Let's become this thing. And let the chips fall where they may just go fast and fill fast and try different things and go hard and you know the chips fall where they may but it's it's really amazing to see that all play out from leading in that direction sounds great examples with their parents and then you followed in their footsteps and just again showed up over deliver. The guy's reputation is everything everything not just some businesses life right when your name comes up. How do people react to that? Yup Right when your name comes up and you're not around. How do people react to that? I've met some very significant people this past year and they said every person that I talked to who knows you raves about. You might as well straight to no because I'm not even parties conversations. I know people say to me to my face right and that's great. It's a positive stuff but you always take that with grand saw because with somebody really saying when I'm interested and when you're not there that's where it's really all about. What does somebody say about you when you're not there that reputation reputation? What they tell you. Not What what? Conversations are being had about you when your name comes up and other circles when you are not present. That's your reputation the average of all those conversations. That's your reputation and business bif- excelling getting anywhere whether it be in your family life whether it be creating friendships whether it be creating new business relationships it's all about your reputation show up over deliver. I WANNA be the one that out gives the other side. Every time I want to figure out how can I add value? How can make the right connections to you knowing that the genders never like? Yeah well you you owe me one right. It's let me just give value and I may or may not ever ask you for anything ever. I don't know who am I going to go to when I need help though people are my friends right. I'm going to my friends and he saw I've I've I've definitely showed up for them We've created a friendship because of that right because we both we both each other's back now. I'm in need of a favor so I got an ask. Branillo asking us to help you right now in this car. I don't know the answer to that right. There's nothing like minded says boom. I just film gap for me but guess what no one iron continue to invest in one another in the friendship in the relationship and at some point in time. I'M GONNA ASK NOAH. Hey so and so who's connected to you? Can I get an introduction or you know I? I really need some help in this particular area that no one has expertise. But it's not even going to be two way later not only know what it's going to be right at this point in time. It's not why I don't have it like I'm going to be good snow because he knows so. And so on my real ordeal. Here's I want to get to know that person right right. I don't even know how you can help me. Or but there will materialize. You're a mover and shaker. You got good connections at some point in time. I'm GonNa Lean on you. But the meantime how can let me figure out how I can be a value figure out how we can invest in one another and build this wrench ship and and and do life together and pray for one another and encourage one another? And just show up. Even if I'm not directly. Connect the dots for you amen. I just want to let you know. Let's think about you. Love you pray. Pray for you this morning. Let me know inundated specifically pray for you. Who does that very rare right very rare? I sent out some texts like that but very rarely coming in right. You know it's just beyond common. That's really what we're trying to say. It'd be uncommon. And that's that's how you build the business and I think that's a huge Huge huge takeaway. From what you've been doing and you're going places man like you. You're sitting across the table from myself and Dan who I know can be an asset to you. We had Conversations yesterday at dinner and I told you I was going to connect you with somebody So I was talking with him last night and he says hey brother I would absolutely love to chat with because this dude is good people to okay. You know who I'm talking about. Why tell you know he's talking about He said hey absolutely love to chat with Justin. Worst CASE SCENARIO. We become really good friends. And I'll add a ton of value to support him either way. That's why is who he is. You know what I mean like. Worst case scenario. Oh Oh you told me that. This guy's quality people worst case scenario. We become good friends and and I'll help them any way that I can't right and vice versa. Obviously right you know. But that's what it's all about so appreciate you. Justin man's good one It's going to help a lot of people I always say if podcast can can be life changing just one person then it was well worth Straight IMPACTED MY LIFE. I know and impacts your mind and There's going to be somebody. At least one person I know is going to be listening with struggling with addiction. Or the the they're going to pass podcast on somebody struggling with addiction who's GonNa get freedom. Yeah and Claim that right now and Mama pray over that and I'm I'm so grateful for your time and your openness and all that short people are going to get the business value from what we shared. That's that's awesome metal. Really be helpful for people but I'm excited about the the the person who's listening to this is gonNA turn their life around get freedom from addiction. Yeah I am dude. I'm proud of you. Thank you very product Bro. Yeah absolutely as a brother. You know what I mean. Just it's to hear your story and you know that you go through some really really bad times to the point of having the devil behind you telling you to jump in. It'll be okay and you didn't do it you know and you and you said this is it and I'm Dr Twelve hours. I'M GONNA go bang on my my mom and dad's door and tell them I'm addicted to drugs. I mean to help change your life. I'm proud of you thank you. I know it took a lot to do that. Yeah but you did it yeah. I'll get almost emotional over here. Frigging saying it because I I've seen a lot of things get wasted with people because they're not ready and the and you have to be ready and you're there and just. I'm just very proud to hear you be able to tell all these people that because one it takes a lot to be able to spill that into you know it's four years you're not done. This is not just gone forever. The Devil's going to try to creep back in your head. It's your job and it's your duty to stay close to God and so I just want you to know man as a brother. Prouty bro Thank you. Yeah and then. My prayer with it all is that it would just reproduce itself and and help people that are in that state. Because I didn't I didn't have anyone to listen to that. Went through that whole thing and so I just my prayer in sharing. The story took me three years to tell anyone the story just from the shame of. I don't want to be in that drug category. I had families family members best friends saying do. Just don't say that like just to be the Christian guy do that whole road but don't say that because you're going to go down this weird path and it took me three years to overcome that and it was from my wife. She said to me. When did this become your story? This is God's story you have a responsibility to tell what God did in your life and so I feel that compelling and that was about a year ago it was the first time I ever opened up to anybody. Outside of my family outside of my fiance at the time now my wife and and just seeing the doors. It's opening and seeing the people that were able to help just by sharing with one person and they know someone and they have a friend or they are that person and they need help I just pray that that you hear these words you hear this conversation and know that there is hope and an and more than hope there's an abundant life for you and and I like my life a testament of that is you're not stuck in that that does not labeled that follows you your whole life even though you talk about it. It's time for for abundance into to walk into what the Real Plan of God is which is abundantly above what you could ever ask for. Imagine so if that's true then you're not stuck in that spot you can overcome it and you can come into a way of that is abundant where it feels so distant. Feel so distant to me not right. Even though that's so real devil still going to come. But it's so distant from now and people that I opened up to share. Yeah struggle with this there. What because I have no symptoms. I don't act like that I have no. It just seems so distant and that in itself is a testimony of God of how much he transforms your mind and transforms your your life to to be who called to be who you created to be and I know that I'm in the will of that now and it. It's amazing it's joyful. It's fun to be in that place. So drugs are every walk of life as a victim. I don't care if you're a doctor. A police officer. There are police officers. I'm not saying everyone's that way. I'm just saying it might cause my father was the police officer for thirty year. Not Immune to it no matter who you are. It doesn't matter who you are you're not immune to it. I don't care if you're a sports player. It doesn't matter who you are like. I've seen real estate agents to go. Stop and go fricking do coke. Because I'm like what and literally these people a lot of them. Some of make money some there on a downward spiral so you sit here and speak from the sports field right which we've had multiple people on here that have had similar situations Steve Weatherford was one of them. Super Bowl champion. It's like Whoa. What now When the Super Bowl? Meanwhile dependent addicted to painkillers and he spilled all that and told everybody said everybody could have a better life. 'cause THEY WANNA wants people learn from his mistakes so anyways I just want everybody to know like literally doesn't matter what field you're in this. This is an epidemic that is a problem across the world mostly in the United States. You know respect person's drug addiction right. So thank you for that and good on you brother. I love what he said. Too about. this bacchus to give people hope it's not just the hope that you're gonNA crawl us really negative space and then just instead of deteriorating. You'll you'll just be able to get by for the rest of your life now. It's not the hope that that were offering here. The the hope is that that you can start by getting passes and enter into abundance like this is not the end of your story. This is not the label. That's like there was a drug addict too now. I'm not an historians there No I wasn't drug addict. I was delivered from that now. I'm on a forward charge of helping people you know your whole. Mo is not to go out and get on stages and talk about drug edition. And that's your career. No you just showing people that I was here. Maybe that's you can relate or somebody know can relate. I got myself out of it and now I'm a productive citizen running my own. Business impacting lives and living in abundance. Right and you can share that kind of on the side and podcast environments like this and who knows what else God has in store but it's not like all you're going to beat this and it's going to be Tom Your fulltime career to encourage people to beat this right. Oh do you want about living a life that God called you to live now right new original plan you got sidetracked by drugs? And God's like Armstrong to get you here over on this written this thing and I'm trying to get you over here. She can interface with some of these celebrities and and and help them so that they can go impact all these millions of people that may influence. Yeah right it's getting out of a bad spot to get you back on the path of the life that you were born to live. He need to Redo the movie Conan and put him as league right. Does he like Conan? I'm showing my age because that's a little bit of an older movie but no this. Is Tom Brady mixed with Arnold? And who knows what Hollywood's got for you man you've ever no dude. You'd never know. This journey is going to be amazing. I can't I can't wait to watch the next five years because I have a feeling whoever he's going to connect you with will be an amazing thing and then you've got all these other people that are around you Tim Story. You've got Noah you've got other people you're meeting in this dude just starting. I can't even wait to see what happens in the next five years for you all said I guarantee you. You can't predict it. Would you look back five years. Some doors get opened through some guy that you met through training and the rest the rest history. Yeah you never know but anyway That's for another podcast so in the meantime Tell people man were working folly. Working to get more. Justin working They tap into some fitness stuff. That you're doing if they say. Hey I wanna I wanNA know that program I would love to get somebody who's Really knows what they're doing shows up over delivers connecting with all these people. Because he's amazing. I love to access that through online training or anything. We're working people. Follow you websites anywhere. You want to direct them. Let them know yes. You can head over to Justin Black Fifteen On instagram and semi. Dm If anything we talked about here you know resonated with you or someone that you loved it just sent me a DM. I'd love to even just pray for you and just believe for your comebacks on my instagram is Justin Black fifteen and my website is justin black program dot com. I actually have a free book on there right now that you can download today and just give me your email address on you the book. And there's a ton of value in there that I created with a Lotta strength coaches and different people from around the country. So I'd love to have you take a look at that. I also provide one on one. Coaching on the website that you can apply for But more than anything on this podcast I just. My prayer is that my story would reproduce itself and that you would go forth into the life that you were meant to live in Jol. Hit it perfectly in that lasts. You know that last clip that this not about you're going to be the guy that overcame and now your life is just the overcome overcame the drug guy. Your life is about abundance and so whatever you're going through whether it's addiction to sugar addiction to drugs. Addictions drama doesn't matter there's addictions everywhere porn. Whatever could be. Lay that thing down. Because there's an abundant life for you to live and it's being pulled back by those things do we. Just don't have time you in life and we just don't have time to go down that road so I just pray that that would be the message of this podcast awesome. Just appreciate you so much. This is going to impact tons of people. It's not about just getting off the wrong track. It's about getting back on the right track. And guess what the right track lead you somewhere is an abundant life. Select that you were born to live off of that path to the life that you were not born to live. Let's you're born to impact. That's not a life of impacts. You've got to get off that track it on the right track street and get to rest nation that God has planned for life and guess what that doesn't Nation Still Beautiful. It's still abundant. Still Amazing is still gonNA blow your mind. You just need to get back on the right track right All right so we're going to wrap it up here guys. We appreciate your listening Amazing content today Inspiring Story Shero. Somebody yes please do that shot that Justin Black fifteen at Komo. Dan Long at toll. Marion let us know that you listen. Let us know what you thought ticket. Video tied us all these above and beyond thanks. Show US you're not average. Do it take a friend in it tag. A friend Bom and in the meantime until the next episode. We've got another thing. 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Episode 46: Cash Warren  Film Producer, Entrepreneur (Pair of Thieves Clothing)

Habits and Hustle

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Episode 46: Cash Warren Film Producer, Entrepreneur (Pair of Thieves Clothing)

"It to the habits and Hustle podcast a podcast and uncovers the rituals unspoken habits and mindsets extraordinary people podcast powered by habit nest. Now here's your host Jennifer Cohen. So we we have a really cool guest on habits and Hustle. Today we have cash Warren Cash. Worn is an entrepreneur. And he's also so the husband to this little person you may have heard of Jessica Alba and but you know slow to myself. You know yourself either. You've got some some great credits behind you thank you thank you for having me. Thanks for inviting endure. I onto the treadmill. Hey listen I'm happy to have you and and I actually am surprised to hear that you're not like a big workout person. I thought you were going to be better at that than I am. I really like my dad and But I just started getting back into it which I'm excited about. My energy levels are picking up. Good is awesome. I I started to feel a little bit lackadaisical lethargic and so I was like maybe the eighteen months off was the best thing for me. Take the eighteen months off laziness. Oh okay leads. The three kids company you know very like my dislike happens and that became less of a priority but now it's moved back on the charts. Well that's really good. That's what happens though one day turns into eighteen months and quickly next thing you know right you you're huffing and puffing at one mile and therefore you it's not to say you are worse but feeling my heart rate is. I've moved into one point five. I've tried to keep up. That's good. There's always these handlebars to if you if you need them. Just giving you some option. I mean that's all so let's talk about your career so you know you're you're impressive. UNC Yale right you ever right and you're also in the music in the film business for a year so I yeah I grew up in Los Angeles. I went to a crossroads high school in Santa Santa Monica hospitals and then I went to Yale back in new haven which was an amazing experience for me but I couldn't hack that weather so as soon as I graduated I moved back home to L. A.. And have been added. Ever since I first graduated worked at William Morris Talent Agency so I started out as an assistant and a talent agency now in the mail room as a trainee and and had a blast. But I knew being an agent wasn't really for me And how long were tate. How long were you in a Senator William Moore's for about a year And I worked without. I worked for really powerful person. They're telling it is named Jim Wives. Who's the CEO and Chairman of William? Moore's at the time and I was his assistant sitting inside of his office and a funny story everyday around around eleven o'clock. There's this apartment building on Charleville. Right across the street from William Morris and around eleven. This guy would come outside with his hair all tasseled coffee stains ain't on his white t shirt and his boxer shorts and you'd stand outside and smoke a cigarette without a care in the world and I would see the way Jim would look at this guy with like envy because he was like look like basically kind of thinking like how simple of life is that how wonderful it was at my seat. I'm like wait. Everyone in this building wants to be you. Jim and you WANNA be that that guy I don't want to. I need to get off this hamster wheel and so that's a really interesting story because it's true. People never really know what goes on behind closed doors right and people glad over glamorize or over glamorized. Hollywood right yes. I liked that story very helpful for me so I took off from there and I started working with this director. Tim Story who is an up and coming director he had just had a movie called barbershop. And so a young kid from La Young Guy from La. And I started tired of working with him and I was his assistant. Slash Director of development opened find new projects. And and so that took me out of the office out of William Morris and I got go on location and start making movies which was a black well. You know it's first of all working for Jim Wyatt. who was like a huge powerhouse? Tim Story everyone knows that is both people people would know. How were you able to get for people who are not working in Hollywood? Those are coveted position. So how did you even get those opportunities. Unity's so I I got an interview at William Morris like if you apply putting sending your resume when you're first graduating you have no work experience. So they're really looking for words. You go to school and do you have any relationships with the agency which I didn't but I got an interview. Probably because the Yale thing started out in the mail our with about fifty other trainees and there was one thing I did that for. Some reason allowed me to get promoted over everybody else pretty quickly to Jim's desk. which when you get when when you're in the mail room you district delivering mail and delivering packages from one office to the next? And Jim's off has asked me to go Fedex something for them. And so I took the package went and Fedex it and then all I did was xerox the tracking code and bring that back to the office. They could track their package and they flipped dowd like no one has done this year promoted and so in two days I got promoted to Jim. Wyatt's desk and I was just the simple thing of following following up. I guess but also you went. You went that extra little mild maybe the other people. The show is something about your character about your. You know your work ethic. I think that makes that would make sense. I think we look for the in all the young talent. Yeah that that were hiring and stuff is somebody that just does that little something that separates rid some from the pack and Tim Story was a client of the agency. And so when I was when I knew I didn't want to be in agent. I wanted to leave I. I asked all the agents in the building. Do you have any young clients. That would be nice for me to go partner up with and worked for and so I interviewed with a bunch of different people and I. I was fortunate that I got to meet him at the right time right place. But he wasn't as big at that point. You know right. He had that one movie Uvi man and so everyone was like wait. You're leaving Jim. Wyatt's office to go work for this underlying director and I was like yeah. He's awesome and so he only had barber shop at the time but then when I jumped on board. That's fantastic four directed. Which is when I met Jessica and it's now about onto do I think I read some MM staff the other day that he has more franchises to his credit than any other director in the history of Hollywood or something along really? It's like him Spielberg I want to say. It's like crazy that level you will. I mean yes. Franchises movies of his that have been turned into sequels goals or the the third installment into fantastic four. He had barber shop. I don't I can't even think I can't remember and that's how you met your wife. That's how I met my wife in Vancouver. Yes I'm Canadian. So yeah we're in candidate we'll have you heard of Winnipeg you have don't say I love what you say yes. Of course you're you're you'd be surprised. Most people know what are your h. l.. Winnipeg jets jets. Yes yeah good. Yeah so from and then lived in Toronto for most of my adult life by most of my tweet will when I was eighteen. Until O'Gara Gra but or seventy three. Anyway the point is I'm Canadian so Vancouver I get so much time there in Vancouver. Yes I have family there. I've been there few times but there's a very different vibe Vancouver is kind of like the La you know of of Canada And Toronto's very much like New York East Coast and I won't have been there but I should say that Toronto Montreal we all like that side is much more like my thing. Yeah we'll because my family's all there and like yeah I think I think beautiful scored I love it. I love everyone from La. I guess it makes sense that I felt at home there. I Love Vancouver. Lived there for about six months straight and and we just had. We locked out that it was a June to December. So we've got random summer fall and then didn't really have too much cold toward the end. But wow they barely even I mean for for I grew up. It's like minus forty. Can you plug in your car if you want to drive the next day. Can you imagine heated heated. You can't it's like you would not like to keep an eye on but if you don't plug it in it won't start that cools. whoa yeah isn't going to places in the car you wouldn't you wouldn't have to know in La? I mean it's a whole whole different thing in fact actually when I moved to La you know over time your your blood. Whoops your blood sins? It doesn't Matter Your Blunt thins because you become like not used to that weather anymore. Yeah and so yeah the why. What made you go to Yale from? La Yeah I was really excited to try some none of my friends from high school. We're going there I was really excited to try something new. Try some different Meet New People and not reinvent myself but in high school I was a jock played sports known as like an athlete and no one really five. Ah Man and they can see you now. Now it's on a fifteen incline. Oh exact well well. Well we'll say and nobody knew I got straight A.'s. In High School I just kind of book I just did my books and but I played sports and so I was excited to go to a school where I can kind of rebrand myself and and and I didn't play sports in college so I just and so. I don't know I was just excited to try something different. How was it growing up here? I mean what was your experience because I think that down with an actor right so you erase surrounded by this type of data detainment world. Yes I I loved growing up here I think. La's incredibly notably diverse city and there's a lot to offer you a lot of nature. You'll see aside from the traffic which is progressively gotten worse. As I've gotten an older but I really I loved. I loved growing up here. My Dad was an athlete I at. Ucla play basketball for legendary coach coach. John Wooden John. What end yeah yeah he plays for? He's he's my. My Dad wouldn't favorite or favourite favor player or he calls him the smartest Mary ever coached. Or you see that's a compliment. Your very close. They and they growing up. They still eat breakfast weekly. I would would have breakfast and coach wooden and my dad can. We're very very close before he passed before wouldn't pass wow And so then he was an actor. Television actor Hillstreet. Blues Right Hillstreet. Blues Homework did. FRESH WAR AIn't Kale. Yeah yeah but I loved it here. I thought there was just a there was something for everyone and there was enough to keep still make sure you are well. Rounded founded hopefully right and my mom lives in France and so she moved to France six six years old so I split. I Live with my dad here and I would spend vacations in front in France with her so like five months a year. I was over there and so that gave me like a really cool perspective on America like a little bit outside outside or look back for five months of the year year in France in France. My homework obviously was not that good because I did not know that yes grow from six years the whole till I was thirteen. Spend that much time and then thirteen eighteen one month a year. Maybe something like because of school and sports started taking over okay. Is that why you stayed in the US when you with a split is only with the mom right. It was weird. I was so young that I don't really remember how it all shook out like. My mom would ask me. Do you want to me. I would say yes and my dad rast me and I would say yes. And so fortunately As adults they were able to figure out some amicable solution. And you just kind of split your time. Jeff Wow that makes you very worldly though and cultured looking bag going through. It was really difficult. Just not having both parents there but looking back it was a credit for a lot of WHO I am today. And like why Y.. Yeah so very fortunate for it now. Inside that's amazing. And Wow so then. How did you go and ricochet from now? You're with working with Tim Story doing all these great movies and then kind of move past all that entertainment South into being a successful entrepreneur who are like. What was the path like that so at maybe I was like twenty five years old? I've been working with him for a couple of years and a good friend of mine that I grew up with name Baron Davis WHO's an NBA basketball player and he reached out to music. I need I need some help them. Financing these movies and I don't know where are they are and he just wanted some some like a buddy of his to help him out kind of producing and so I sat down with him and we chatted about what we would do together and we kind of formulated. This plan that we would love to tell stories that we were passionate about things that we grew up kind of curious about and that you know there was a real opportunity for us to do something somewhat disruptive in the entertainment space so we partnered up. I left him. It was very sad but I left him and Barron and I partnered up and we started our production company and we then started doing documentaries like bloods and crips made in America. The Christian so a documentary is a legendary skater. The we the closing up for an emmy or when we got shortlisted for an academy the award. I think we got nominated for. News and DOC is in Dhaka Emmy and and it was really well received received. We're in a bunch of film festivals with it. We took it Sundance and the film festival and the coolest part about it. A company ended up securing securing the rights to it where they built curriculum around it. And it's it's now in colleges about that 'cause it's really the history of the bloods and the crips and how the bloods crips came to be. And it's it's kind of like a definitive peace on the history of the blood in Los Angeles and so it's now being taught in curriculum in colleges and which is really exciting. Now I I wish I could out because I even very fascinated when you even when I moved La. I knew then what a huge which thing that is right the whole thing and I like to I would like to know that the history and the back end of how it all kind of evolved. I mean simply you know black people back then couldn't join the boy a boy scouts. There were there. Weren't these clubs outlets for for young. Black Kids Ed's boys because racism and segregation and all these other things and so they formed their own clubs and that morphed into over time what we now is the bloods and the crips but originally was because there was no other structural structured outlet right for youth in the inner city in La and so they had to they create something create something that they thought was reflection of what they were looking at right not knowing that it would morph into what it has today it was. It's really fascinating it was very eye-opening And it was specifically are particularly interesting Barron and I because bearing in south central I grew up in Westwood and at a very young age. We kind of were made aware of kind of different. The value that's placed on human life just based on where you're born and shit you. I have no control over. It's really just kind of luck of the draw that right play in my family and him in is and so. We really wanted like those kind of that intersection section or that kind of the that. That was really the driving force why we wanted to make that drain particular and then I think it strikes a lot of course though because I think people see that a lot of it is like luck of the draw like where you were born versus somewhere else changes the trajectory of Your Life Path right and sometimes you don't get the opportunities we were like. Oh Yeah it's not just hustle hustle sometimes even given those opportunities based on such arbitrary. Things are ninety nine wrong right absolutely and it's like how fragile life is and how you're always forced to choose path or choose pat be and and not knowing that that's the path that you're going to continue and so it's so true like it sliding doors you know like you just do a little bit and then takes a whole new thing doors open new opportunities open. I always talk about how life's a lot like just about momentum and so a lot of people get stuck in. I don't have the thing that I'm passionate about her. I don't know what I love and I don't know what I meant to do. And my advice is always like just take that first step because you never ever know what opportunities it will open new doors. It's just amount. It's like a nursing and some momentum first of all cash it's very. It's like very serendipitous that you say that undoing a Tedtalk on Sunday okay and my whole talk about that a moment. Yup and that's it's all about like people wait to life is all momentum and that's how things kind of keep on going and pilot but you can't sit and ponder and deliberate because there's no inertia and yes yeah. Nothing's nothing's ever perfect not don't over think it because if you do it still won't be perfect until Dion Lewis to just put it out there vulnerable. You know it was one hundred percent like that's exactly like there is no such thing as perfection and sometimes the imperfection is what's perfect you know and I'm doug to garden I around Atlanta. Yeah congratulations. Oh we could talk about the beyond beyond here right now. I cut the day short because I have to practice in the very end. It's exciting. It's all but like spreading teaching people certain thing and it's it's a big platform and it's just them nervous can lie. I'm not I mean it's exciting but anyway this is about you. This is okay. So let's let's continue so then. Okay now you have this. You did all these docs s and then how did it go from from that too. Well we're at your. Did you have a sock and a sock and underwear company. You've had a lot of successes beef between that documentary and to the company so I guess the end of entertainment for me was I started to feel like zone a hamster wheel and that every process. That's interesting I did. I was lucky but it still felt like I was learning. I wasn't growing that every project that I was starting. It was starting from scratch and it was just could spend six years on a documentary and when it comes out nobody really cares about it and it was just like it was difficult for me and so just like I just wasn't that motivated to continue. I I started a youtube channel. Hannele called the knock. I sold that to vice and it became vice sports And and that kind of gave me a moment where I was like. What else would I wanNA WANNA do it? I'd always been passionate about products and building brands and wanting to build a brand. I'd never done it though so I figured like this was a good time to do it. And so Reached out to another kid I went to crossroads with Allan Stewart and I was like. Hey I want to start a sock grant at the time. All men's dress socks really really thin. Nylon like dress socks. That like your shoe. You would like slipping in your shoes all over and so I found myself always wearing nike drive hyphen running socks underneath those nylon and to make them more comfortable and I was like Alan like I don't understand why we can't make a dress sock. That's also really comfortable. And he's like I agree so we he's created much like myself and so we spent about a year coming up with brand names and brand creative and all this stuff that we would do with a brand grandba- who didn't know how to make anything. We did not manufacture products. But you're not gonNA make it. He said now goes. I went to Carl. I went to UCLA. With this David Ehrenberg. He's spent in his whole career in manufacturing and sales Why don't we reach out to them and see if he can be of any help and so reach out David and met with David and sure enough? The three of us and partnered up and within a couple months David said. Here's we got a flight. This part in China. Let's go meet with these people. Let's go figure out a way and so we had our products and the it felt like the train was moving a little bit. Well what year was this that you're talking like in two thousand and thirteen two thousand twelve two thousand thousand thirteen okay. So that's like six six or so years ago. Yes yes about seven years ago years ago. Yeah Two thousand twelve. So seven years ago and David other business he had he worked with target already. He was manufacturing bike helmets and sporting goods and wiffle balls also for target and he said I'm Flying Minneapolis to me with them about the other companies. Should I try to meet the sock buyer and this is an example of kind of like I'd rather have like a mediocre idea with great timing then like a great idea with bad timing because the buyer at target gave him five minutes in the lobby she was like in between meetings he he just had a deck. He showed her the first two slides and shoes. Like this is so great. This is exactly what I've been mandated to find. Why don't I give you a test? Run in two hundred seventy seventy stores in the spring of two thousand. This is two thousand fourteen and we're sick. David calls as twenty minutes later he goes. I've never had this happen. But she just gave us a test. Run in two hundred seventy stores and we're like oh my gosh so now huge tests which has a huge test run and so we we did it. The cool thing about pair of the one of the is that I was also really tired of raising capital. I was tired of being beholden to investors. I tired of board meetings for for no reason. I was tired of kind of needing to project what this was gonNA turn into before. It actually did so I wanted to start a business that I could sell fun that we could self fund with very little capital up front and if it works great if it doesn't no harm no foul haven't lost a bunch of money for other other people which does not feel good feels terrible. I hear that a lot of people out of entrepreneur. Say That right like it's it's exhausting number one and it's like that's really one Rondos burnout because you have the pressure constantly on like basically like if you're going to if you're going to lose somebody else's millions of dollars so you do you sell you guys all cells on this. We each put in twenty six hundred dollars. That's it yeah. And so we started twenty six hundred dollars and we made our first samples also and we got our first order and we have somewhat so you guys put in two thousand six hundred as you go. Get your samples. Have this meeting with the target woman. She gives us contest or a good timing. Timing timing is very important and now you have some momentum behind you right and then you then you gotta make a huge run. That's it's two hundred seventy store. Yes how many are you now with the volume on that. So that was a big first order for a company that funded and so what you have to do get clever you have to be clever so we were able to You know favorable terms that are manufacturer because when you have a company like targets like a purchase disorder from a company. Like that you'll get you can get credit fairly easily. Because it's they're they're not going under and so we're able to cut favorable terms that are manufacturers and suppliers and then we're simply put we're able to cut nets thirty deals with our manufacturers and suppliers net sixty deals with target and or an the other way around thirty target and that sixty with our manufacturers and so that enables us to then take the money from target to then just pay our manufacturing in fact we didn't have to come out of pocket. How many pairs did they order? The first order wasn't too big because we only had sixteen styles we've got end in caps sixteen styles. I WanNa say the first order was maybe seventy grand or a hundred grand or something like that and so's is relevant. It was still pretty big. A big like seventy grand seventy thousand Saux or seventy thousand in rat in the mound. A purchase order was like seventeen okay and then we launched in spring of two thousand fourteen. Fortunately did really well. And so. By the fall of two thousand fourteen fourteen we expanded to all eighteen hundred stores eighteen hundred targets and this is a time when we're running the business completely remote. We have no employees. He's no office. No overhead David was living in Santiago Chile Allen was living in Portland Oregon and I was in Los Angeles and so we would fly to Minneapolis. Pretend we're this well oiled machine like let's give that to our head of developing. Let's give that tour lead designer and it was just doing everything. So how oh you selling all these socks and what was the marketing behind it. Like what how did you get the word out all social so we didn't have marketing budgets. We didn't have any. Did you just go couple of story match me here. Okay good right now. I'm at point one client. That's the only go to this speed you got I'm at like Gutu incline or one. Six one eight at what inclines burn points. I've gone point seven eight seven eight. Lamar me two point. Seven nine one six or eight. Okay now I'm not at one eight ish okay. So now what was I saying you also mediate. You said social. So what did you did did host and Jessica polls and you're to France. Did you get a lot of your friends who have a lot of big falling. Suppose Yeah and then we have and we started gifting product out to varies influencers. And the whole thing they would post just the whole thing that everyone does and so you think so what so. What are your thoughts on that like? How could companies literally like? You've seen it yourself right like you can actually like legitimately carry a business based on the marketing of the power of social media. You know I think that we benefited a lot from and we continue to the foot. Traffic and a target store. Brick and mortar is. The is traffic that we don't have to pay for is. Are you know people that were not. We're not pushing that traffic frank target and so the amount of eyeballs that go onto your product inside of a store like that or are substantial is advertising budgets. You have to put in place on the. I'm not social media but like mainstream advertising to him so yeah I like to target to make a deal with you guys or who puts puts the money in to guess promote the products in that right because these big stores are such giants they can also like they can crush shoe. If you don't sell product right can they can return it. Yes right yes. So how are they like how. You're lucky you cure. There's no no way my way around right now. We got totally lucky. Ourself throughs where we're and they worked really well and so we weren't. We didn't have to handle discounts and buybacks margin guarantor. All this stuff that can buy in the acid the Anita we got we got fortunate that are super strong and we were really going after white space on their floor. Meaning we identify there. 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This is kind of the premium offering and so we care a lot about the quality still affordable but we care a lot about the quality and we care a lot about the design. We weren't going after kind of novelty pudding. You know cat kittens on or like stashes on this or UNICORNS. We were looking at fashion and we were trying to create great designer socks and it resonated with that audience and so in a short amount of time we've gone from making sixteen socks per season. He's in two hundred 's our our presence now is pretty substantial we have twelve feet in all eighteen hundred stores twelve twelve feet feet of shelf space and we continue to to grow which is awesome. So you're not just in target L.. You're in a bunch of stores. Yes so we so the goal was always to After getting getting off the ground target we wanted to elevate the brand and create more value for that customer but also elevate the brand and so using our website pair of thieves dot com and then starting to work with urban outfitters Anthropology Infra Policy and Pac Sun and opening ceremony was one of the second retailer which was we only did one program program with him but it was really influential boutique in action space and so Opening ceremony let us go into their stores which was awesome Selfridge's in the UK and we've been working with for four or five years. We have about thirty different retailers that we work with with pair of thieves nordstroms was always kind of like our holy grail rail. That was always like we want to figure out a way to get into Nordstrom's we nordstrom's that would be so awesome. Say That you know. They have great customer Regulations Relations Clean Aesthetic and they get they get and so working with them as kind of a stamp of approval. It's like whole foods for food. Would I guess right totally absolute and we got an which is exciting. We just launched this month. Thieves gold with Nordstrom so it it just went into stores like in central saying Grove and everything which is a thank you so much they told us no for two years and we just we always. I think we takeoff yet. I'm so stay that stayed at. We're it finally paid off. That's one thing that was starting business. You have to have thick skin because you hear no more then. Even though the the luck of how we started pair of thieves. We've heard no more than we've heard. Yes along the way but you just got to roll with it. And if you're really if you're if you're steadfast ED fast and if you're determined to make something happen you can find a way to make it happen. You just have to get creative. A good examples are blackout wideout. Actually so that's a multi Deepak of white Sox multi-track black socks that we sell news. I don't have them over here but those are nice. They're great and so it's just multi packs of white and black socks walks we. I picked that program to target. They said No. You're a fashion brand and we don't need more white socks. They have a ton of them and we knew. ooh That's where all the most of the sales are in solids. Most of the sales are in basically every day kind of things and so we looked the landscape and we were like we have to make cool and we have to figure out a way instead of just we call it a blackout wide out. We attached to give back components for every pack. Doc we sell. We donate three pairs of socks. The homeless like Bomba's we love what they're doing. Yeah we're champions of the give back movement and so that's a big one right now. I feel a lot of brands are doing that. It's necessary it's necessary. Yeah I've done a lot of charity and nonprofit and fundraising for that is a nightmare. You're always raising money to support your cause if you can create for profit business models that also help. That is the only way to build sustainability. Oh my gosh I tell you now. I started breast cancer. Charity called Babes for boobs. And it's the bane of my existence. I hate to say because I star. It's very is hard to raise money and to get people to do that stuff. So this is exactly that gives us then donate some breast cancer. What what Babes for boobs and they auctioned off eligible men in all the money we raised me and my best friend started it just for fun and to give back and all the money we raised we give to breast cancer? Wow auction off eligible men so like if you weren't married to Jessica like haranguing you to be part of my auction because you're perfect for it like we look for people who are eligible successful attractive nice smart all that and then we auction them off for dinner dates but but it's more for fun like no one's ever expecting you like you know whatever it most people even go in the dates to be honest broker and and we get ten thousand dollars a day. Five thousand depending ending on who it is and then all that money used to give away to breast cancer. Yeah and we do an event every year and this was coming up December fifth. So they don't actually do anything. Why do they have to be eligible? Well they don't really a whole other story You know like they. They don't why shouldn't say some of them go output. No one's expecting bearish proposals. It's more for like it's more to have fun. It's more for like a different spin than just going for a run walk. You know you're not that was wide but so 'cause it's for a good cause exactly exactly but what we saying about now back to your hair. The hair thieves the Germs many went to narrow. Like how many stories did they take We're launching with thirty stores so we're just doing doing a test with them so it's really important that we do well out so we're just in thirty stores to start but there they've been amazing partners thus far we're doing some really cool stuff with them in their sales teams that floor salesmen and women and we'll see like there because we're only in thirty stores because small testers not a whole lot we can do on our end but we're doing our best and fortunately the team has grown considerably since it's just the three of right when we started here and so employees you have now now. We have thirty five employees report forty employees With maybe ten more getting onboard in the next six six months or so. And so what do you look at. What's your strengths here? Like his obviously like I've seen you've had like a lot of success. Says this is not just like we all talk about luck but you're also not a one hit wonder right had success by even with that little piece of Xerox paper. You know photocopying being that or the patient with the gym Wyatt and then Tim get success there. Then you've had your documentaries had the vice sports I mean there is like there's there's a through line and the line is you write are no well. It's the truth. So what are those things about you besides like attention to detail with that photocopy thing that you think makes you makes you success. I don't know I will say that you know everything everything that I do. I look for teammates. I looked to surround myself with people with skill sets that complement mine. I'm really honest about what I'm not good at I'm I'm more humble or I'm honest about what I am good at and so I make sure that I'm part I've had bad partnerships where we both do the same thing and if you're both doing the same thing you both want your I recognize that I'm that I'm not the complete pipe. The era and so I needed business partners that brought different skill sets to the table and I think in my successful partnerships. Those are the relationships that I've had complimentary skill sets. I think that's a big one. I think when you have two people doing the same thing or same strengths. An imbalance and a lot of times. It works where because we're we become friends and we're friends because we liked him or the we have similar personalities and we like doing the same thing and you know talking turns into an idea idea that turns into a company and you look up and you're like shit like we're missing somebody that understands operations missing. Someone understands finances we're missing. Someone understands marketing. Whatever it is right and so what I've tried to do is get ahead of that a bit and kind of identify my weaknesses and look for the people that have those strength? So what are your strengths. Then and what are your weaknesses. So my strengths are like vision. Ideas creative creative content to marketing and sales would be kind of and then company culture and stuff like that but externally those or for them and so with David. WHO's one of my partners? We overlap on sales but he handles operations and finance. And then we overlap on Biz Biz. Dev Mhm Allen is good is decent finance so him and David overlap a little bit on finance and Alan is real. He's designer and so he's great at designing and website and he understands. Coding understands the whole DC world and marketing. He comes from an agency background. And so Alan I- overlap a tiny bit on creative and marketing. But there's so between the three of us we cover all all of the basic things that you would need in order to start an apparel company right and then but besides the apparel company with sports and what was there I partnered up with two amazing guys or dear friends of Mine John Hirsch and Ron Yassin they produced the SP's Speiss and they have made some beautiful films along the way they created a lot of stuff. So Ron is a great director super creative. Him and I could overlap on the creative but he was more director. I was a packaging producer. Meaning I can take an idea and bring in the talent that we need to go make it happen but I. It wasn't a line producer. I was in a physical producer. which is what Hersh John Hirsch could do? He was the one who knew had managed the the budget he. We knew all the vendor relationships all of the union stuff like he can handle a lot of the back office support as well as the on the ground production and so the three of us together were able to then create A network sold device. You sounds to me that you're really league. Good at picking really strong teams to put them together. Well like you're making is for that like okay. You know you're good at this and that you're getting really strong team to be able to execute really well. Yes yeah girl overcomplicated like I I try to keep things simple and I try to win even in making being socks. It's amazing how complicated things can get. So you always have a step back and remind yourself like what was our objective again and kind of don't get too. I try not to get caught too much in the weeds because I worked better when I'm lowered. Clear minded yeah. I know someone said to me. One time who is another gas came on and he. He said that his whole thing is like the five percent rule. He focuses solely on the five percent. He knows what he's good at and he spends that's basically the five percent of his time on and he delegates it's everything else and the truth is that's how you can be really successful that way because you can get really and I do this to get caught up in the weeds very easily and then next thing you know like days weeks months go by and you see no progress not right. It's very easy to do that. So drives me nuts. It's really important to know where you're good at and like stay in your lane when you know I've always pushed. I don't like treading water. I never liked you like I'm running. And so now except on a treadmill at Ab- sweating glistening. Got It thank you. Yeah so when I when whenever hit those laws or I feel like I look up in six months and I feel like I'm in the same exact spot that I was in mentally emotionally. Usually I try to find a way to shake it up like I try to find something that will help propel me forward momentum it's all momentum it's an and I feel you on that so even with like honest when it was starting you're kind of involved at the beginning right. Yeah Jessica was pregnant with our first child. This is art art honors eleven now so this twelve over twelve years ago. usually been married. We've been married twelve years so we got married right before honor was born. We've been together fifteen years ears and so your kit your kids but you were yelling. Very young man. Look at your wedding photos now. I now pregnant and I knew nothing about chemicals in products that know much about what she in bed shoes. Shoe's always talking to me about you. Know the the world that you create for our daughter and in our house and that she's having such a hard time finding cleaning meaning products and diapers and she was really buying stuff from Europe and all these different brands to kind of make. And she's like there's a need here to do the same thing. I didn't understand it but I knew she was passionate about it and so we would talk and kept talking and eventually it just like well. Let's let's put together a plan. A business plan that kind of articulates what. We're just talking about bad so I helped her work on that and then similar to the way I approach businesses. What AH conveyed to her? which was you need a partner? You need someone who knows how to do this. That can help you kind of execute your vision vision and a dear friend of ours. A guy named Bryan Lee who was really out successful dazzled was his shoe dazzle and legalzoom does zoom. He's like a monster. That night amazed. Yeah and mazing he was. I was friendly with him. We get together and brainstorming rainstorm and kick ideas around so as we need to bring this to Brian and see if he would jump on board. I rented an office next door to shoot dazzle so he could on his brakes aches. Walked down to my office and hang out and slowly but surely were we were able to convince him to jump on board and partner up with us and go do it and so that's an unsafe. Spur started working out of my office. And I'll never forget that. So I had this beautiful office big and died no need for like the Ping Pong tables down there. It was like this next thing you know honest has moved in. I go away for like a week for something and I come back. Jessica's moved into my office. Bryant moved into my like my desk was I got kicked out on my own office in like three months as they scale very quickly. That's amazing but yeah super proud. Honest is such an interesting like right around the time that we were launching that or she was launching that the I started reading all these announcements in the paper. Like I think it was like coke agrees to take melda hide out of power aid or or and so you're starting to see all of these consumer products and brands the company's removing these really harsh chemicals out of you're like I don't even know multiplied in power like crazy and so I think the world was waking up at the same time and so honest I was really fortunate to kind of back to timing say able to ride that wave of. It's amazing though time but your luck and timing but you you sound like you're very I mean you should have this whole other business for you. I think you should start a consulting firm. Connect people who you think are like good matches to the bill businesses. Very good at it. But I'm telling you seem to have like home runs NOCCO. I don't no no. Well listen I don't know how you guys are doing financially. But I'm saying you at least are your at your your everywhere you're all over norstroms. And targeting targeting a thirty and Healthy it's really help exactly and I. I don't think it just happened by accident. I think that there is something nothing to say about like the people behind it putting like certain things effort into it So what are your habits every day like. What do you do every day? Besides not workout. I'll give you like really enjoying this treadmill this by the way I would way. It's amazing I would recommend the one that you don't need. This is the one that you this was the action is called the forefront when it does both. So it's it's actually a treadmill that you can just walk improperly like this but the shock absorption by the slides is very different than any other treadmill and then you can also there's a mode here where you can just like you know. Basically they do a lot of resistance. I feel like a commercial the parachute like bruises. And kind of like where you can. If you want to put it on like dynamic braking mode here era you would you would basically use your own body weight with resistance to push yourself off guard. Yeah yeah this is this is. This is like a crazy machine. We'll look at that. I hope they gave it to you. Yeah well they definitely. I didn't pay for this one thankfully but I did pay for another one in my gym. This is like my a favorite treadmill all this whole brand so I keep getting sidetracked notes right saying Oh yes oh wait you don't work out but rituals so with the kids so we have three kids. We have an eleven year old daughter named honor. We have an eight year old daughter named haven and then a one and a half after old name. Hayes is a great. WHO's thinking of these names? Not Us. Russo can be seen when she was pregnant with our first child. Jessica's manager at the time had two boys and him and his wife. We're really good friends with and they said if we were having any more kids a name that we always love for a girl was honor. You're in we were like. Oh my Gosh we love that name anything. And so we name our first child honor and then when Jessica was pregnant with our second child girl who worked worked with me that I I grew up with. She came in the office one day and she goes my sister. Just gave me the name your second kid and I was like really what they said she said haven and I was like. Oh my Gosh I love haven that's like intimate named him Yale's in new haven. There was like so many connections. I just loved the name and so when Jessica was pregnant with a third with these two age names were like Dan that like. We didn't do that intentionally. But now like we have the third so we have our girls that should we name the little boy with an h name or can we come up with something different. They said he'll feel left out if he doesn't have an age name so we tried our hardest to find something that we were hacking. We actually named him something. Different on the birth certificate of I like Hawking walking or something. I really don't like that name. And so I had to like chase down the nurse in the hospital. Can we change the name. Please really yeah. Yeah sure. I'd never changed the name on a birth able to do that. They did it because we hadn't left the hospital. Okay so if you would have walked out they wouldn't have been able to. I don't know oh I don't know but it was like nervous as I hope I didn't even Hawking Malaria's what'd you name your fourth child. Oh man you tell me I have no clue. Oh my God never having four. I don't know if he every time I turn around. You guys are having another baby. I don't no more no more. I don't think so. I think we're done. I mean I. I love kids the pregnancy she. It's hard to be pregnant. I mean like I couldn't imagine and it's also when you're work. It's hard to be pregnant for sure. Then you pile on being a working and then all the other things. I can't imagine how how well and she seems to have it all together. Jessica she seems like she is like doing well at work doing well as a mom all the other things that ancillary things I mean. She's soups says she's doing. Just fine of shoes yeah. She's not a huge fan of being pregnant for ten months. I'm not awful. It's awful I. I don't know how people say pregnancy honestly I don't get it but you know more power to them so okay your habits no size and uh-huh eat pretty healthy that you're falling hab. I do love Soup Breakfast with my kids. Okay so big graduate sky diving beginning. Wake up around six between six thirty and seven. Okay yeah six thirty probably Breakfast the kids for school And on the weekends I like we do breakfast as well. I love cooking breakfast for them. are are quiet time and we have a blast. So breakfast is a ritual watching sports on my couch and I won't give up. That's a good habit and it's also an honest habit guy who says they don't do that. I don't believe him now. I need it I I like quiet I like me time. I'm and some quiet time so that reading I love to read I got into fiction like not too long ago I always wear a nonfiction in my whole life. I was GONNA say well. I'm reading right now. What's your favorite book of Recent Times? It's an old book but because I just discovered fiction or is the Glass Castle Castle and the light and the light between two oceans. I love all this. Yeah start reading fiction which I totally. Okay I got into podcast. I've started to get into last year as well but I wouldn't say that to have it. What is that's a habit you like how? How often are you listening to podcasts? And now that this is your favorite podcast. I on my drive into work. Okay drive home to go to sleep at tonight. I like to listen to podcast. Oh which ones that. I like to listen to like murder stuff like that's fine. Yeah and so popular right now like puts me to sleep so that's true crime. She always like. Why do you listen to murder to go to bed makes me so happy? It's not as not you. Cases Aces so happy perfect but by the way. Also the voices on those podcasts or so like mentally colleague like it can put you down. I was listening into one of them. I was getting my eyelash is done. And I'm like ten minutes like five minutes. I was out in your chest forty seven times and it's like it's like a lullaby those voices it sounds like they're just like taking a walk in the park brutally getting raped and murdered so crazy. Enter with another one Showers I love shower and shower to showers day. Use Your Clean Godber. Do you use on his products. Yeah you you did okay. I mean I would assume you what yes I. I like all the by wash. The lotions like all the face lotions Russians face wash. You should have done. I know you're brought me so many of these pair of thieves which I love but my kids. I always use on his products on my kids. You could've could've brought me a box of that will okay Jessica does this. Oh yes good. You'RE GONNA get your wife to do this. That's came to the honest okay. Well no says beauty and I've yes I'd like to try it. What was the Foundation Foundation? It all right to your promised me. I'M GONNA GET JESSICA I'm next and I also love to have that Lee Bill Ryan Lee and raising this kind of quiet though so you got to like okay. You're no orange I I'll I'll find that spot. That gets him going on all right so exercise food. You're not doing any crazy. Dieting intermittent key. He does the Atkins. Mentoring you've just eating healthy. I just eat a salad at lunch And and you know salad and a steak or protein and a salad for dinner right and that's the way I've always been able to keep relatively of like the same figure. Eight or need clothes is because you look great. You're just eating my portion control and just just not eighty percent of it's feeding the exercises twenty percent maybe even less. So that's basically all the all the habits want do meditate. Do you know okay. Hey what's your favorite part sometimes. Count my breasts to calm myself down. Breath work yeah. Golf is my favorite sport. Now because whole Soccer Basketball and then reading to my kids at night Other thing that Redo regularly. Yeah that's I don't really buy lives like about breaking patterns. They Dr Bags not very ritualistic. Not yet because you want because you said earlier. It's a once you get to like in the two comfortable. That's between shake things up. I do yeah I like to and that makes sense. And what's that last. Stay kind of nonfiction book that you read. What are some of your habits teach me? I'm yeah well you know. This is a podcast about you. But I'm more than happy to. I had the same breakfast every day and every single day every single day for boundary twenty. I'm like Steve Jobs because I like to have as many things on autopilot on autopilot as possible so like if I need to think about when I'm eating all the time ah takes up too much brainpower to be like okay. What am I going to have today because I love food? Mike a person that actually likes to eat not someone that's like. Oh yeah I forgot to eat. I've I've never forgotten in my whole life to eat a meal. Okay not happening. I'm never forgot didn't have lunch today because I'm thinking like seven in the morning when I'm going to have for for lunch. Yeah breakfast I just having which is what. which is eggs cheese? And I have peppermint tea and I have cold brew. Coffee got got it. Got It or God and that a grapefruit ogre and a great fruit and then And then my other one is exercise. I think that's a major one for cognitive fund. I don't do it for physical at this point. I don't care like I'm not trying to get like a ten pack but I am trying to like make sure that I'm as clear and focused and alert as possible and if I don't exercise then it doesn't happen were I grew until at once. You start doing your stuff again. You'll see like if you just couldn't get past that of like fuck. I don't WanNa do this. And you start getting into the groove. You're really going to like it before I think and and you're working out now that you started. How many times a week or are you going to do it through? I started okay. Because it's an amount that can hit you can hit yet in our won't always feel bad that I missed it and so three days a week I'm doing and then okay. I'll ramp up to five pretty quickly to start hitting three and I wanNA find some success. They're going to be a superstar. You'RE GONNA be like you're going to be like probably like teaching a course pretty soon with not not your your personality as you'd like I can get this. I'll get so sort of run it and I'll go someone to do that. I will be like perfect while it was a delight. Having you know you got to wrap up you have an appointment to go to but this was really fun. You were a great guest and we learned a lot of stuff and for people people who are listening where can they pick wolf para thieves. They can pick them up at target. Hair thieves you can find a target and you can find a pair of thieves dot com and then our our new elevated assortment is called thieves gold and you can find that at Nordstrom or you can find that feeds dot gold perfect. And how do we find you you can find out the thing. I'm most active on. I should say I even active on it though or I'm not a two active but I post once in a while but you're that's not really. Yeah okay but I enjoy it and I you know so instagram mm-hmm is at cash underscore. Warren that's where I got screwed. Then there's score you underscore it. Well thank you and I hope to see you again and I hope tat chat like I best of luck with the new line. Thank you and thank you so much for having me here I loved having one point seven mile check. How many calories press that eight button? The white one. How many calories you burn one hundred sixty seven good with a one hundred ninety? That's not much more and still the burnt another that you wouldn't have normally done if you like. Yeah well basically. That's the way more than a glass of water but this is something like inlets. Let's if we just sat down done anything right all right. It's smart. I'm surprised I'm not out of you'll you hear all my heavy breathing. No you're not. You're actually not even not even sweating very mild pace. I'M WE'RE GONNA do intervals ago. We're going to an inner voice roaming and then yeah and we're GONNA dynamic world this is going to be so I'm all about hit training but we'll tell you that that will figure okay. We'll figure that out you're GONNA come on again for sure. But I'm I'm holding you to that habits and Hus- Ronin stay up on the grand. Don't stop keep it going habits and Hus- hosted by Jennifer Coen visionaries tune in. You can get nolde be inspired you. This is your moment. Excuses the habits and how surpri cast powered by habit.

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dentity, Addiction, & Becoming Reborn, Feat. Justin Black, with Joel Marion  BTI 59

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dentity, Addiction, & Becoming Reborn, Feat. Justin Black, with Joel Marion BTI 59

"When you are making changes a lot of people who are listening to this podcast are absorbing misinformation? Like I gotta make a life change. I need to pivot. It's not a ruffle some feathers others When it comes to friendships do going through this in my house? Right now with my twenty one year old and we've had to have this conversation. She asked me. How do you do it? I said you just simply say I just want you to know I love you. But we're not on the same path. Maybe our pass will cross again. But as I don't hate you I'm not not your friend. I just I am not on the same path so I have to move in this direction if we meet backup then great. It's God's complete destiny for us to do that. I I still I love you and if you need me I'm here right. I'm here I'm a thousand percent here. You need be hit me up. You call me anytime calling you because if you need a friendly take whatever I'm still here I'm just rest not the environment that I'm putting myself. Yeah all right. What is up guys? Welcome back to another exciting amazing episode of the born to impact podcasts. I am super excited today because we have a special guest from our own line of Business Dan. We think about that. I know this. It's like music to my ears. I love listening to it and I love to add value. I love to see what we can learn from him. Because I'm sure there's people out there doing exactly what he's doing and they could use some of this useful information formation and also your story of how you got here so super pumped health and fitness making impact. Helping people change the way they eat the way they live alternately their health quality of life making a huge impact. And we're GONNA get into his personal story as well which is GonNa be a fun fun little ride that we're going to go on today As always going to be plenty of actionable takeaways. Let's remind you guys with SPA is all about so one of the only podcast specifically designed signed movie further towards living the life. The you were born a live with every single episode guys are going to give you clear actionable steps not fluff but real practical practical takeaways to help you live more impactful life a life with purpose life where you're making a difference in your family and your relationships ships in your career in the world around you as you heard kill. Moat is in the building. I am in the building super pump to have all your listeners out there right now while especially. That's listening you you. I'm still pumped happy to be here. Joel super pump to hear our our man Justin today. His Story Story and I definitely know that the listeners at home are going to appreciate every little gold nuggets. Get Out. Japan's get out your pads or something and get your brain cap put on because about to go down loving it. This is GonNa be one and you may have to pull over the car hit rewind. Just got something down at your phone Tom. Yup couple things before we get into introducing Justin against name is Justin Black We're GONNA get you real familiar with him today Before we do that a COUPLA offensive. I want to ask of you guys you know. This podcast is free. You know bore you with advertising. We don't sit here and try to monetize us in any way. We fly us in to be a value to you And we take our time. Most importantly times most valuable asset. We have but this is really the one of the if not the best use use of our times to help impact people or listing on the other side of this only then we asked you to do is just help us impact. More people can do that. Give us a rating and review on the podcast platform. That you're listening on side tunes big we have over. Four thousand five star reviews way we tell them what happened this week. What happened what happened this week? PODCAST number number. One baby is a category. Because you guys out there okay and we were number thirty four out of every podcast in the world. Okay people people. That's because of what you're doing so thank you so much. Listen put your hand up because I'm high five in it right now. Amazing that was awesome browse. It was it was. It was great to see that that means that you guys are helping us and doing exactly what we're asking you to do your contributing to their community. You contribute to impact and you play a very significant again critical vital role reaching as many people as possible without you was really no point recording the show would be dead. Air is a bunch of people talking Sure these these conversations are certainly helpful for me and you Dan Yep but The they are they are And and I'm blessed to have the had the opportunity to have these conversations so many impactful just amazing individuals that we could sit across from this podcast man but the real point point is to be able to export that and to impact as many lives as possible. I don't want to hoard all this impact for myself. I could certainly just Be Having lunch with Justin. Listen today and we have an amazing conversation. But we're recording it up did a whole lot flash my mind before I left to come here. You know of course everybody knows Alor drive here and I'm sitting in my kitchen and I'm cooking and my daughter. My twenty one year olds about to go off to work and you know she's not a morning person so you know I just try to brighten her a little bit with toner that she needed to dishes. Okay so anyways long story short sitting there and she's like what's going on. I said well I'm off to do a free free. PODCAST free pocket. I said Yeah Free Podcast you know this podcast is free. I said you WANNA know why because I'm going to impact some lives. You have an amazing day. uh-huh that's what I left her with. Now she's out doing her job. All right listen you got to plant the seeds and you gotTa keep continuing to harvest the land right and the only only way that we're doing that which you just said it we love. This is our most valuable time. This is so fulfilling guys so fulfilling everybody talks about trying to get to a point in life to have something that's happiness and joy and being fulfilled. I have to say the money thing is great and everything because you can do stuff that you wouldn't be able to do with that money but really honestly honestly the value is in what we do. So I just WANNA share that. Because that's a moment that I remember experiencing just literally like less than two hours ago here I am. I'm on a free podcast. What are you going to do with it? You can give us a five star review but in the end ultimately we want you to write down the gold nuggets and take Axa well. Here's here's one thing guys you you know what we're providing this content and his value for you for free we asked you on every episode to please share some of you guys are just diehards. You view shared every week when we see you tag it we love you. We appreciate you and then there's others who are sharing who don't know about so we don't know who shot who's not. We're we're not keeping a record of this however we're just asking you to do your part and help us impact more lives. Guess what if you can't even take the initiative the share the podcast. You probably just might as well hit. Stop Right now. You're probably not going to take initiative to do anything with the information definitely go to episode one and two which is next about tell you that right right. The whole point in US saying not is be faithful in the little fence. You'll be rewarded with much. Okay so zo just show yourself that you can add value by sharing the podcast with somebody. Make a promise to yourself that you don't do that then fulfilled that promise that that gives you credibility with yourself. I said I was going to do something I followed through actually. Did it naive credibility with yourself. Build yourself confidence you get a win all right right so there is value in what I just told you right there. I'm giving you. An actionable. Strategy is to impact incident. Go do this right now. Instantly impacts yes your life going in the right direction right exactly And it helps us to Exactly what we're trying to deal with this impact more people so if if you are not the first episode listen to maybe You know just and you call it a social media post about this and decided to finally give this This podcast try listen. This episode is going to be an awesome on. But then when you're done you want to go back to episode one and two. Does that mean you have to listen to every single episode in sequential order now. But you're going to start with episode one and two because their special episodes right Dan very special in in the end. You know it's really going to help you get to where you want to go and I know that you WanNa go where you wanna go so if you WANNA do that go to episode one good episode to listen to what we talk about. Let's lay the foundation. Let's get started on your journey taking yourself to living the life you were born live five pillars of impact that's episodes wanted to go to the five pillars of impact. You see those five pillars all throughout Justin Story and without further ADO. I'M GONNA go ahead and introduce our special guests today. His name just in black is a former college. Football quarterback who today helps people all over the world transform their health through his social media platform and in his business justin black fitness as a physical emotional and spiritual transformation specialist based in Hollywood California. Justin works with many high-profile executives leaders and celebrities to create a trickle down impact. The fact is you know if you can influence influencers then you can have exponential impact just as company also serves as many online clients were. Justin is also John Maxwell the og of leadership. John Maxwell Certified Life Coach and emotional intelligence coach. If you listen to the last last week's episode of the No Elias And our Our good friend. Tim Story back in episode. Twelve Justin as actually worked directly with both. These guys is a slew of others countless others but Go back and listen to episode twelve. Haven't you get to know Tim Story. And you're GONNA meet one of Tim's coaches and New Orleans. Noah's coaches and skies doing some really impactful stuff with some really impactful people and You doing that. It gets pretty exciting. So we're GONNA talk more about with. Justin is doing even more beyond all these amazing things. I just told you about him Justin I've gotten to know over over the last few months and he's a stand up dude loyal faithful brother and friends. Were don't have an incredible conversation. It's really gonNA help you one of the things that I want to just zero in on on about Justin story is hopefully and I believe this. This is going to be turning point. This is going to be a turning point for a lot of people who are listening on the other side just to open and their mind up to idea that maybe just maybe God has a serious impactful specific a purposeful reason for existence. He puts you here and has awesome. Plan for your life and you see that Throughout the real justice story I decided to have so without further ADO Justin Justin. Thanks so much for being here. It's a pleasure to have you on her man. Thank you guys so much for having me do me. Look like a quarterback. Doesn't he have that quarterback look it's the jaw line saw. I saw your guy and you got that look man you just look like that guy that star player in high school pretty well Probably the funniest thing that's ever happened to me. Just in regards to look I was in Detroit and the Patriots were playing the Lions and as an elevator in the sky opens the elevator and he looks like he sees a ghost when he looks up and he goes. I waited my whole life to meet Tom Brady and he took his house. Nice to meet you why rolling. Yeah that's Hilarious You know what I want to point out here. You know you mentioned Tim Story Right. And you mentioned no which to amazing like gifted people that are helping tons of people around the world and the one thing I wanna point out with that in you you know? This is coming from another personal trainer from the past. My myself is that I think L. Listeners. need to understand with you okay. Justin is the fact that those people would not lean on you in less. You're great and when I say that great people are wanting to be elevated. They WANNA be motivated. They did they want to be around greatness and the more greater you become the more you start to realize that about yourself and you try to find seek out those people so good for you because custer I know those two guys would not be hiring an or wanting to be around you as much as possible which knows here today with you specifically. I mean that's the value you've created so great job. Keep doing more of that brother. That's awesome thank you so much. Yeah I wanted to point that out because I think it's important our listeners. Know just you say the name and you're like okay. What are they well? There are people who are looking for more greatness and the only way that you get more greatness is to continue to do great things and then you just attract it and then there you are boom boom. You're doing celebrities you're doing you know. NFL players and all these different people while there's a reason so that's awesome. Yeah it's been a while journey but I'm excited to tell my story today which kind of goes beyond fitness and starts beyond fitness and eventually landed there so. I'm super excited just to have a good conversation today. It's going to be a great conversation by the way Dan my phone. Just look it up here. I'm trying to pay attention to it on the podcast but I see that You just sent me twenty one hundred dollars so thanks Oh nice. You're welcome so that's your wife behind the scenes beauty of passive income man or sitting here on the podcast twenty one dollars these businesses running in the background and and Obviously you know we partner on a couple of different things and There it is boom couple of grand coming through while you're on the podcast. I'm on a podcast. It's amazing grateful for for that. I'm grateful for you because we've done some amazing things the fact that you're sending me twenty one hundred dollars. I know means that you made a lot more than that so I'm only only getting a small portion of one particular thing that you're doing so Anyway those little sidetrack pop it there but were excited to have justin here Before we get into just story and a main content will you want to ask. God's blessing over the conversation. Justin were grateful to have you here. I'll be honored few Do the honors of bringing this conversation before the Lord. Yeah for sure God thank you for this day. Thank you for a Jill and Dan. Thank you for the honor of being here today. Lord I pray every listener would right now it just encounter your love. God thank you that you have original design for them that you have original purpose for them And so we just invite right now. The the spirits of wisdom and revelation to come in this room and through the airwaves. God that you would have your way in Jesus name Amen. Amen men thank you Laura. Justin ruined tell. We'll story STORYTIME WANNA was backed up. Let's go back to Little Justin's talk about your childhood. The coming up being an athlete all these things and how it led to ultimately where you are today. We'll take our time. We'll kind of go through step by step reason why we do. This guy says because Justin isn't is in a awesome place and he's growing and he's impacting people that you know not not a lot of people get to rub shoulders with and he's actually coaching coaching them and helping them and and helping them improve their life so that they can go out and be the best and impact tens of thousands of other people. How old are you twenty? Five okay okay. I turned twenty six and two days though. Okay and Noah is in his mid forties. Yeah Okay and Tim Story. I know he's old. I hope it's watching the EH. Here's the point. The point is they're leaning on a twenty five year old. Yeah what does that tell you know. Man It's special. It's very special. Because a lot of older guys with his first thing they'll do. What are you know? You're not old enough bill telling me what to do or how to do it or this. And that I know because I've been there so good for you and other frigging accolade. That's amazing because twenty five years old and move people like that. It's it's amazing so respect. Yeah Yeah so you turn a little bit about words. Justin has grown to be at twenty five young years He's got a so much amazingness ahead of them or have them back podcasts. A few years from now and just going to be blown away by what this guy is able to accomplish in such a short period of time because as head on straight he surrounded himself with the right people. He's getting the right mentorship himself and he is all about getting done and taking action and he's moving swiftly in his professional career And you're GONNA be able to take home and Garner a lot of lessons of of how you can apply some of the things that just supply him his own life to your life. So let's start bullets. Let's how'd you get there right. How'd you how'd you get there and then we're going to have another? How'd you get their moment a few years when we have you back on this maybe a year or two? Yeah well let's start childhood. What was it like growing up? Where'd you grow up with family? Life like school like any any mentors that pop out with just go through the story. Yeah so oh. I grew up in Port Huron Michigan which is little town right on the border of Canada. And the way I kind of Tell my story is must have been fun. They're not fun in southern California. Now where it's kind of my story is. I felt growing up. I was around a lot of limiting beliefs or just around a lot of people that kind of like cap their life. You know this is what I'm supposed to do and I'm GonNa live here. I'm gonNA live here forever and I just always felt since I was a kid. I was supposed to do something I'm supposed to do. Something big impact people supposed to step into to the plan for my life and And so I grew up playing hockey. That was like my main love my next door neighbor. Who Shot pucks every day Was Jack Campbell. Who now plays for the for the king's use the eleventh overall draft pick and and so that's kind of a little claim to fame? I had growing up in the town. I shot pucks on that guy. Every day So I actually went into football my Not until my freshman year of high school that was kind of a late bloomer. But the whole idea of I get to be a quarterback. Ah The touch the ball every play. Even if I handed off I get to be kind of control of this mechanism was just really appealing to me. So I you know the first thing I did in the first thing I tell help parents that ask me who you know. The kids are in high. School is get them the best coaches and get them the best coaches as fast as you possibly can. So I had a quarterback coach. I had a life coach. You would think that'd be way for long and live with the amount of coaches my parents invested for me to have and it was so important because as a as a parent you know you can only teach your kids so much but you get them outside of their comfort zone. I remember for my first coach. Had these blue eyes that glowed like fire and he sat me down and he goes you know what are you doing with your life. And I'm like fourteen talking not sure and and so I grew up in an amazing family. My family is incredible My Dad was an attorney. My mom was a dental hygienist and everything changed when they met John Paul Devora. Who owns the You know patrolling Tequila. He just sold for five point one billion and the Paul Mitchell schools which is what my parents were part of the original investors with him in that starting schools and all of that you know craziness. When he was he was coming up so I kind of grew up? That's probably part of like the limiting beliefs. Getting broken off is when John Paul comes into your house and your six. I mean as long lock. He's got the pony tail and he just looks like money and you're like what is going on. Yeah and so. He's been a family friends. We've been young and and for me. It was really amazing seeing my parents kind of like lower middle-class kind of risk it all in quickly grow very fast and bought a home in Marco island like as a kid growing up seeing that of what's possible if you'll just partner with right people be in the right place place that that all can happen now. My story is not this fantastic road is very very you know. I got side swiped by a lot of different things and and the first thing that happened to me was I found God and in that really set. My my life in alignment with all these things going on because at at the time like John Paul Walks in your house. But you're you're thinking like who are you. You know I don't really care you don't really have that perception like you do later on that. That was like really really significant that that happened and so but I just wanted to go smoke weed. I wanted to go hang out and drink my friends and do that whole life and be the quarterback and just live that way. So let me ask you this so you you you know. I think a lot of a lot of kids get involved in sports Really positive in some ways And then there's kind of his as party atmosphere at Ti as well so in high school. Football is that kind of when things kind of turned into this other side of team. Sports what it can can be anyway. You know with School Yeah Yeah and my I was too successful too young so I was really good as a freshman. You're you know you're buying your own hype. Yeah Freshman. It's my daughter is a freshman right now and I'm just thinking to myself. Wow you being that guy having that opportunity unity what that would do to your head. And I've trained a lot of athletes over time in some that have been given the world at eighteen nineteen years old and literally. I lost it all because of doing all the wrong things. I can only imagine what was going through your head. Yeah what attracts is a attracts older people. That WanNa know you because they want to know this young kid. That's like this upcoming quarterback record ever so I was then hanging out with people that had graduated and seniors who just wanted to party basically all the time and as a young kid. You're like this amazing. I'm hanging out old. The people in this light everyone in your class knows you as he is cool because he hangs out with all those other people so that whole process really led me you know and do like a lot of darkness into just a lot of You know depression. And whatever during that time and my sister had gotten saved so like. We grew up in a Christian home but it was never. I thought Christians were so weird they were the weirdest people on early. I was so confused why they talk like that about like I'm blessed brother like they would say that I would trip out like I just didn't know what was going on. And so she got saved like really saved and then was going to these Christian camps where she would go worship God and I wanted no part of that. My parents really want to be part of that so I had this this whole thing because she invited me one summer to this summer camp thing just for the night and And I went reluctantly but I went with strategy involves off so I knew if I went my parents would know that I went and then she could tell them that I went and then I could get on to more important things like. I literally plan to drink in smoke right after that whole process. I just need to show face just like in the graces of my parents and then get back out and so I go to this thing and this is the funniest part of my story is that I'm in this church service. I'm standing all the way in the back and everyone there is raising their hands. Worshiping gotten and how so confused fused like. Why are they raising their hands? What is going on right now and so? I just assumed everyone had questions. And they're raising their hands to to give it and I'm like this worship leader doesn't even care like he has no plan to answer these questions. He was like doing his own thing. And and so. That's just kind of shows you where I was. I thought they just bizarre anthem. Standing in the back and this pastor gets up and he starts basically saying all these things like. There's a young man here tonight. And you've been dealing with this this this and this and my heart just sunk in my chest. Speaking speaking fell speaking directly to you I inches news for me. It was like my heart just dropped and and he jumped off the stage and he goes. If that's you. I want you to come forward right now. All these as people start like looking around and I know it was me my hands shaking. I'm sweating and I think it would have been harder not to go than would have been just this to just to go because I know God's mad like I knew internally you know he's even if he's not angry just mildly disappointed in me. You know that's who I was expecting to to meet so anyway I walked forward. I feel like all these weird Christian people are judging me and the only one that walks forward. Yeah yeah they kind of part of the Red Sea when they saw me he coming through. Yeah and so. I'm the back getting married her. Something Big's going down so funny and so I wanted to go smoking drinker immediately after Campus over Yep yes so I I walked to the front and I was scared to meet God. I somehow felt like I was about to meet God and I was terrified of that and I was terrified of what everyone thought of that person walking to the front like they you know are just the worst human ever and everyone else's perfect so the front and he just simply said son. I just think God wants to show you is love tonight. And he's put his hand chest and that led to something. Yeah I can't really explain. I just know that I experienced God and when when I came back I was just undone I so undone with with his love. It just felt like there was a USB drive he had of his love plugged into my spirit and it was unexplainable and that led to me like walking outside and crying for like three hours and just going like your real really real. This is crazy and so that really changed my whole life. I went back to school. I told my friends I hang out with you anymore. I love you but I can't I like I'm going this direction. Now I really. I know that I know that I know and nothing. Nothing that you could say could sway me from that. I was just. It was like one moment and I was just sold totally sold. Like I'm going down this road. And and the Way God aligned all of the things in the process and I was an influential guys so suddenly I'm star Bible study and we got like fifty people. They're you're GONNA lead in a question. I had how old at this moment sixteen sixteen and I would like to ask you now at twenty five out of all those people that you're around that you told him you couldn't hang around anymore. Yeah did it help any of them go the right direction. What would they watched happened with you? I'm curious did not. They were not happy. They thought I've been brainwashed. They thought that I just was too judgmental. Now in I'm literally coming from that perspective no I'm just literally like an experience thing and it's real and I want to go down this road in time. They're not ready. Yeah I was the same thing. Let's relate this back to to some other areas of life real quick right so let's just say you you're listening to this podcast. You're trying to better yourself. Maybe you're thinking about. How do I really live that life that I was born Orna live? I'm not loving not loving this nine to five that I got going on and you what you start to make steps to better yourself right you said it. Oh Okay I'm GONNA get into a morning routine and maybe I'm not going to go out and party as much on the weekends. Maybe my weekends are GonNa be about something else or getting something else off the ground or or doing something that's going to move me. Further along right or put from bedrose cool in talks about the crabs and our life. There are bad ed people. They're just like certain individuals do not like to see other individuals bettering themselves because it kind of makes them feel delight Should be bettering myself. But I'm not going to take those steps to do it right and you came back and you had this experience in. Why did you say hey? I can't be around US anymore right. It's not like like Europe casting judgement on people and this is a very important distinction right. You haven't experience goggles. A hold of your life you realize that you're not living the right way. Smokers ranking first of all we'll let independent of a relationship with God. You're just not doing anything positive for you right not doing anything positive for taking you in a direction that is in opposition to all anywhere you WANNA go all your goals etc right so you had the spiritual encounter and then you you come back and you're like I don't want to be around that anymore because it's not taking direction that I want to go spiritually in my love. My Life General. My aspirations to play college football any of these things you think smoking drinking and hanging out with people who are unmotivated to take things to the next level is going to be answered of getting you to the next level. No it's going to be getting is the answer to holding you back from where you WANNA go dragging you down the level you try to love go up level and here they are. They're the crabs that are one on crabs trying to climb out of the bucket and then the other ones literally reaching up grabbing the clause. And then pull back down. And that's if they're alive because I know numerous people I'm the older so I know numerous people that are not here on this planet anymore. That never they never decided change. They decided to stay on that same path and unfortunately in taking in their life you know maybe not directly sometimes. Maybe it's not just their health ride a bad decision making hanging around the wrong people you know in God bless the people around them that have to deal with that because families were all left behind with someone who's passed on at a young age right so yeah I totally see that in degree so so I can fast forward because I remember being twenty five. That was twenty one years ago. I was twenty one before you were born crazy but you know what I think about those days and now now like I said man. There's people that are not here on this planet anymore because they decided that they just wanted to keep on the same old path. The point here is for those listening. There's there's GonNa be pivotal moments in your life where you're going to have to separate from your average. Don't you remember. I told you mine. I walked in that room right. All those people were sitting on a couch hitting the ball. This is way back. In the day I mean marijuana's becoming legal but and I have nothing against it at all but if you're doing it every day and it's all oh you do and you're getting nothing done. I mean you gotta check yourself right so he was walking this room for everyone is listening. I walk in this room and everyone on the couch and these couches were like the kind China couches. You look like you're embedded in the couch because you've been sitting on them for so long so I had this image in my head and they're hitting the bombs and this and that and I'm literally looking at assuming I'm going what am I doing here in. Is this really what I want in life. Yup and I really honest to God did an about-face walked out and that was it You you know and I remember that like yesterday reminds me your story. Yeah like you're done. I got cannot be around anymore. So yeah yeah the whole point here is guys there's GonNa WanNa be pivotal moments in your life where you don't have to choose that I need to separate myself from average. You're welcome to come with me if you're not on board we're probably I'M NOT GONNA be spending as much time together right and that's all there is to it. It's not catching judgement on anybody else. It's just like are you helping me get to where I WANNA go if not and if you're not open to coming with being taken this journey with me I love you. But here's rob going. You're going to stay back at base camp. I need to climb the up to the peak right. Yeah so important to understand this. That don't feel bad. It's not and people are going to judge you all. Ah You know Justin who thinks he's hot stuff now. Oh he thinks he's better than everybody else. He thinks he thinks like he's You know something special you too good for us. You know. It's it's no not too good for you still love you. Nah I'm actually know better than anybody else but making a an intentional choice that I'm not that cold where I'm at. I don't WanNa be around things that are going to be exposed me to certain things that are bringing around direction or that aren't GonNa help me grow so I'm choosing not to be around it if you WANNA be still be around it and that's what you wanna be doing. Then that means I want to be choosing indirectly not to be around you as it really has nothing nothing to do with. You has everything to do with the environment right and I'm choosing to leave an step away from that. Did you have to do this in your life. Numerous Times okay. So did I numerous times and it was difficult but I did it. Best thing ever happened and you had to do in Your Life Multiple Times Multiple Times so everyone listening right now. I know that you're not immunities. Literally you will or you are going through it and you're gonNA have to remember what Joel saying because really honest to God it is. It is completely the crossroad of what's going to happen with your future. They always say you are what you hang around right. You WANNA come out for drinks after work today Joel I got some other stuff and take care. And then that's the same answer over and over again. People think like all white. Usually you got that. You're better than us now. You know but it's not a priority for me to go out to happy hour. You know. Maybe I'll see you guys once or twice a month during this phase in my life but my priority priority is working on bettering myself working on building this online business so I can transition from a career where I'm just kind of tolerating it to a career that the fulfil by all these types of things right so There was a period of time my life where I had to drop and again was not not that. Oh going out the happy hours the worst thing in the world and you guys have dragged me down. No I just need to prioritize my time to someone who's going to help me grow right. It's time time time rather spend on something moving forward right and then then from time to time. Yeah I'll get together with the guys on the weekends or something and we'll go have some fun and you know have few drinks and talk and catch up but it's not gonNA be Monday okay through Friday happy hour and then all my weekends you know yeah right you know why the happy hour is right because you're so in all the depression because you're hating your job it also turns into a happy three or four hours and then you know a buzz leaks into a nap. Met Leaks into an evening food right right right carelessly putting putting things you know in your body that positive for you know from the alcohol to the poor nutrition decisions that you're gonNA make as a result of that. What's I've been listen? I'm a preaching anybody here. I've I've made the all the wrong choices so many times in both of those areas at some point in time I had to say all right enough. I'm ended pit from that. You don't think that eating cinnamon buns and makes you a million dollars every e cinnamon buns every day. See how it makes you feel right. I always tell people. Listen you want to feel like it right. Just look at what you're eating going to look. I like it eat it eat it. I love that Some lean protein. Or you can have a cinema bond with some extra pat. I kind of didn't say look if you want to look like it didn't put in your pie hole right just putting your pie hole because it's exactly what you're going to look like you're going to feel like you're going to feel elect frigging a cinnamon bun or you're going to feel like that luscious delicious apple right like you WanNa Crisp Apple. Amazon awesome excited protein. It's much different than don't yeah so anyway I just felt compelled to kind of jump off off there a little bit. Because when you when you are making changes and a lot of people who are listen to podcasts are absorbing this information like I gotta make a life change I need to pivot. I need it's not a ruffle. Some feathers When it comes to friendships do recalling through this in my house right now? My twenty one year old This is resonating the needing like I'm Lou literally living. I know I've been through with my daughter and we've had this conversation. He asked me. How do you do it? I said you just simply say I just want you. You know I love you. But we're not on the same path maybe our pass across again but as of right and I don't hate you. I'm not not your friend I just I. I'm not on the same path so I have to move in this direction if we meet back up then great. It's God's destiny for us to do that. I I still love you and and if you need me I'm here I'm here actually. I'm a thousand percent here. You need to be hit me up. You call me anytime and ain't calling you because if you need a friend if you need. Whatever I'm I'm still here? I'm just not the environment that I'm putting myself in so go ahead just continued story here. there's a good. That was a good topic to jump off on. It was. Yeah check this out so I'm really. I'm really influential at that time. And I'm bringing people into just letting them know. Hey God loves you and it had no judgment. I'd like six months before that I was a guy that hate it. I was the guy that was the total opposite of what I was. Then so people kinda like playing a trick on them like what's he doing. Why is he acting like like this as the expert like what's going on so after some time it kind of settled and talk about better choices especially with food during that time so I played my sophomore year on Varsity at one hundred and fifty pounds at six two and so that is scrawny? Wow if I got tackled I went back five yards. Well I will get smoked. And and and so during that time I discovered or had this kind of a pivot any like I need to put on muscle or I am not GonNa play in college. Football US watch college football. Ballgame that time and these guys are big and I look like I'm like should be I don't know in Africa or something like a super scrawny and and so oh between my sophomore year and my junior year I went from one hundred and fifty pounds to two hundred and ten pounds which is sixty pounds that I put on in one year and I did that by being obsessive over the gym. I fell in love with it every day after school. I don't care for football practice. Whatever I was going to the gym at about nine thirty at night and I would train from nine thirty to like one? Am and was just obsessed go home drink like Myo. Plex protein shakes and eggs. And all that stuff coming up at the time that you know all all the things hitting the market and I'm just consuming all of it and I put on sixty pounds and and my dream was to play college football all that to say I needed to get around and more exposure. I needed to get around people that were actually going to college football because my home. You know my my team in Michigan had like one kid that played college football and the the last forty years and so my parents had just planted a Paul Mitchell. School down in Fort Myers and we went down. I took a trip down and I went to this high school. Barron Collier in Naples and was amazed facilities the weight room. We have a weight room. We we have like a bar a pad and they had a full blown like college looking weight room and talk to their head coach and I was just thinking man. I should come down here for my senior year. I should play in this environment and they had all. These guys is going to stay in all these different schools and I thought it was the right move to do and so a transported down Florida which I loved was obsessed with just the the people I got to be around the athletes. I connected with who eventually went onto Notre Dame Ohio state and had a good senior year. My recruiting real quick. Here's another lesson guys right. He saw the importance of getting into a new environment. That was going to help him get to where he wanted to go. Oh Okay and that's what you have to surround yourself with is what's my goal. My goal is to play college football. I'm pretty good athlete. I'm at the school in Michigan. Then not gonNA probably not GonNa get noticed unless I make the change. Then he gets a little taste of all. Wow let me get around other guys who are being division one on recruits. Let me be getting around environment. Where the where the whole day to day is nothing but excellence that they had the facilities that that's really helped me grow as a player grow my skill sets? Get around the coaches going to help push me right. Those are the type of changes that you need to make an environment change that that can set you up for a drastic change in the right direction as far as like accelerating go into where you WANNA go. It's all about getting around the right. The environment getting around the right people people are going to push you being you know around individuals and in environments and facilities that are going to allow you to move much much faster to your dreams venue would in other environments where all that stuff's not going on. So yeah that's so that's that's an important So they'll take home their from from that as you saw it man. I'M A and you saw enough to where it was like. Oh I wish I had that I was like no. I'm moving on Gum from Michigan to Florida right because I need this and somebody is listening to this podcast right now you. You may be thinking about an environment that you have experienced or maybe had a little taste of or maybe you went you went to a business masterminded something you sat in. And he said you've got a little taste you sent me man. I wish I I wish I had that on a more regular basis. Well you can you. Can you have to make the sacrifice and you have to take a leap of faith. I've been you have to get out of your comfort zone and making a reality. They're holding you back what you just said right there. You gotTA sacrifice. You're going to do this out. They're highly recommend it. But you better go into it with a can do attitude and a whatever it takes mentality because if you don't you're wasting the person or people's time and yourself from going to really where you wanna go you can't see the shiny object can go on not willing to do whatever it takes to get there. I mean your your move. You're GonNa do you gotTa do right. Yeah don't say I wish right. Don't sit there and say I wish X. Make X. happened right whatever it is fill in the blank for you saw this available you do any of the resources you want you work hard enough you can find your way into environments that you think you have no business being part of you can buy your way into environments right right. There's there's ways to do it. There's always a solution. It's a matter of a bad. You want it you want it bad enough. Where you willing to relocate for and just said the key word obsessed You became obsessed people. Ask all the time. What do you do Mike? Are you obsessed with it because if not you're literally not GonNa go where you wanna be obsessed there'd be average right and you know I don't agree with everything grant puts but that's one that I could say wholeheartedly makes a lot of sense and I've seen it over and over again cannot just be a five out of ten on on the scale of wanting something and expected you're gonNA get exactly you gotta be at fifteen outta well. Fives average one out of ten right. Ten is above the most. I mean I want it but and then every excuse is GonNa hold you back. He's gotta be a no plan. B Ten out of ten on the scale of I not only do I want this but I'm going to get it and I'm going to be completely obsessed until Bam. I land where I want to be. And then you get upset about about something else all for good within changes seizes in life but all right so you knew you now in this environment you senior year. Yeah and just backpack off. That I was scared. Man I'm seventeen years old and Florida has weird zoning laws where you have to live like very close to the school so my parents rented me an apartment apartment next to the school and I had to go live in an apartment seventy seventeen years old all by myself and go to the school where I didn't know one person not one didn't I've never met anyone ever just knew the head coach new. There's this opportunity I'd come in and I was GonNa win because I was obsessed like the other guy ain't GonNa come to the weight room at midnight. I knew I was going to do it. do what they're not willing to do. Yeah it's another. I mean these are all guys. Come on passion for efficiency right perseverance. You're seeing all the pillars here. Go back to episode one and two after this so you can say ope yep up there. There was that one Justin Story Arizona One But I mean you're you're just leading people down the down the path the're just inspired by this story. Understand what it takes to be a winner and life and there's nothing wrong with wanting to win. God wants you to win. Yeah yeah it doesn't mean it's not scary. Sometimes you just gotTa go. Oh you know what you know you've got to get there and just do it afraid you know what I mean. And so my first day at school they had this rally and they they've I went up on stage and they weren't just in your new quarterback and I had to get up and introduce the entire team this one week in the school in front of the entire school. It was a six a school. I had introduced the whole team. Who I just met and the guy behind me was telling me their names and I was like and this is so big PEP rally and that that day I was just going? Okay this decision this even though. This is like trippy. It was a good decision. And I'm in the hood. Yeah Yeah Yeah kind of confirmation getting in getting gitten zone. Yeah Yeah So. During that time I you know really went down. This recruiting portal wanted to play Arizona. That was like I was holding out on on that offer until the very last second and so that was when rich Rodriguez was at Arizona he had moved to Naples from. Here's the Michigan head. Coach moved to Naples. We had connected. He liked me he was gonNA take me to Arizona with him. That offer fell through twelve hours before signing day. So all I had left was like Mac offers and this this northern Iowa school which was a smaller school at the time And and I I had to make a decision to go there but I went there knowing. Okay I go to the school. I'm GonNa Start Right away and as a smaller school so I could still probably go to the NFL. If I go to the school and but just went kind of reluctantly. But also in a way of they're gonNA start me. I'M GONNA go. I was really fast at the time was four five forty and lifting and you know could throw and just had all the intangibles and and my identity during at that time was really consumed with With football because it went from like I want to influence people for God's Love Best Way to do that I need to get on the field. I need to get the interviews. I need to get you know. I need to be in a place of esteem and people's lives to do that problem with that. Is that you lose. You lose the heart that what it's all about how it's about the homeless person is about like. There's the genuine stuff that no one ever sees. When you stop walking on a seven eleven you see a home guy sitting there and use A? Hey do how can I pray for you. What do you need are you hungry? Can I get you some food. You lose that when you put all your eggs into this if I get to this esteem then the listen. It's it's not necessarily true. It is true if it's surreal if you really are that way and you're at that level then it is real But so I had totally deviated from that path of what it was really about into what I could become in who I would be and how people would say became more about you. Totally my image was about you your identity. I need to be this then then I can do so this was more about just yeah other than about others. Yeah so I get to Iowa which is where my business partner grew up by our home assisting change from Florida I was interested. He was going to say because when it's all about you. Oh boy I tell you what. Get ready the hammer's it's coming down. I can only imagine what happened. Go Ahead S. so Quite an environment change from Naples. Florida the most affluent places around to the heart of Iowa in cornfields so that alone was driven meows. I better start start fast and really get to the NFL. As soon as I can until I get there and I lose a starting position. Listen to a kid who is just one great ahead of me so I go. I'm GonNa have to sit the bench. And he was a freshman all American. He killed a slaughtered at Wisconsin was just tarrant. Four hundred yards the game. Passing with me on the sideline going. I don't know if I'm ever GONNA play here. And so since I had placed all my eggs in that basket of my identities and football this is how people will know me says my esteem. I put all their that was stripped and I was just broken like I would put on face with people. I'd be happy be. I'll go home and I would not like myself. I being my bedroom just beating myself up now super super hard on myself at that time if I didn't do well in something I would beat the crap out of myself off with words and with you know. How can you not do this? Why why are you struggling in this? Like why can't you just overtake it. And overcome no matter what and so my identity was totally early loss and it was just kind of in limbo and that was the time that I really got stung with with addiction and with per really diving into prescription drugs drugs and before we get into that. Let's talk about this identity. Fend for a little bit right. Yeah you had your identity not all wrapped up in football your athlete self who you wanted to become what you thought that was gonna do for you. The level of impact that you're able to have and you are identified as it became about Justin. They became about Justin the athlete Justin the football player. Justin The star football player and now. Well it's somebody else's in the position you're you're sitting in the back seat. The GUY is only one year ahead of you and he's killing it. Were the chant. Like what what am I gonNA play my senior year. Maybe you know unless they bring in another kid who's an all star who they want to invest in so your identity in the in the lesson here when your identity is found in these external things instead of who God says we are and his plan is ultimate plan for our life life or lower direct my steps. This isn't working out the way I thought it was gonNA work out but my is new. It's may not be the funnest experience prince to go through but it's GonNa be less devastating unless crushing look everything that I saw. All my eggs are in this football basket. This is who I am now. I'm not this person anymore. Who the heck am I right so I mean just from your own experience? Let's talk about that for a minute. As far as would you learn from that. I think that identity is probably the single most attacked thing right. Now that everyone's doing with is just being pulled on on and You know young kids old people like everyone in between this is like an attack right now on the identity of people And and I think it's this like subtle distinction of you know if if you're going down God's way if you're doing God's way you can lose this too but it's it's basically this little distinction of what I can do forgotten verse who I am in God and that that one thing is the one is performance oriented which God doesn't want slaves. He wants sons so so you immediately put yourself in the slave position when you say what I can do for you instead of who I am in you because then use power. The whole point of this is that we wouldn't operate under grace. We would operate under his power. But you can't do that if you don't know where you're seated. You can't do that if you are constantly turning your wheels to do something waiting for God when he's like I just want to be with you today and we're going to do something but I need you to operate as a son I need you to operate in royalty. Your identity in who you are is rooted in me and that little distinction I think is so important for people who who aren't going down God's way and for people that aren't and maybe it's new to you and maybe you know you're gonNA charge urged you are like me and those Christians are weird and You know you're going down that road. Just be very careful. Be Very careful with what you place your identity and because if it can burn earn if it can be taken then you're on a slippery slope and that was where I was at even though I'm trying to do God's way on that slope this is so good and and so important. I want people to grasp this right. Because you're talking about if your identity can be removed. It's the wrong identity my identity Andy is an athlete while season. career-ending injury boom now. Now who are you all know. That was my identity. My identity was my wealth off my business that I built up something happens comedy. Crashes Whatever you lose everything now who are non worthless. You know if that's your identity that's who you are you're have you anchor your worth in that thing if it can be removed man is. You're really dangerous spot. Yeah what's the one thing thing that can never be taken away from us. We are who we are in God. We Are Sons of God we oh he has a plan for life. I am more than a conqueror I can due often through Christ when I re- rely on those. Are things that no matter what what happens in my life. You can take all this stuff away. I could lose my home. I could lose every dollar. It's in my bank account account. That doesn't change who I am and Christ I could lose my family and I know people who have through illness through devastating. You know untimely the deaths in in just freak accidents car accident stuff like that right. I if my identity is all I'm I'm I'm family man first and foremost. I'm sure that's part of WHO I am right. But if it's if it's my my major label unh- anchoring who I am. What happens when that gets removed? The hopefully you can see see here through this conversation the one and only thing that can never be removed as who you are in Christ right. That's it everything else is volatile on this on. Let's planet in this lifetime so let's a super super important distinction and hopefully those of you. Who are listening? You can create your identity and relationship of God on who he says you are. Then he's GonNa bless all these other areas of your life but when you when you say God take a back seat business a businessman God take awesome. I'm I'm just in the athlete. Joel the businessman. I'm you know I'm no other artists right. One of my identity becomes that thing that he's the gift that he's giving me very quickly. The gift can be removed. And sometimes it's it's a humbling thing were gods is trying to get our attention. Mm Saint Hey let me re center where your identity should be right and unfortunately you'll have to learn this lesson the hard way but you learn the lesson. I have learned the lesson in certain point. Dan has learned a lesson. It's humbling For those listening you can learn from our experience in you. Hopefully you don't have to experience yourself. Just just think about how people you will people say about you. Oh it's just an athlete or just you know just the the solid stand up. You Know I. I ended with that one. I had your introduction right great friend good brother stand up dude. Look those are all the most important things all that other stuff I said before. Yeah that's GonNa draw some people in the listen to what you had to say. But it's not the most important part of that Right those inherent things in this. That's really just God working in your life or the events that stand out and how I identify with you. The other stuff is nice. ABS Extras Raymond. WanNa help one another so we can have more impact in this world. But it's it's those things with the can't be taken away that are you know everything within your identity. That's that's the most most important thing. Yeah and if your identity is is what it should be. There will be a lot of people at your funeral. You know if it's not and it was all about you tumble wait weights. Because it's a good image of what it will look like in the middle of the desert. Okay in front of either your casket or your ashes or or whatever. It may be the pictures I think about that because that identity and Joel you just put a great a great way for people to understand how to immediately impact what is it. What is my identity? I think what you just said is the recipe for someone to get that identity on the right track. DOC like Justin. It has to be internal external if your identity is found in these external things that can be removed from your life at any point pointing time just setting yourself up for potentially crust. Because that's everything you are by myself with my core values and who again my relationship with God who God dot says. I am WHO. He's made me to be right. Those are the things that can't be taken away the internal identity versus the external. So I I feel blessed to have another opportunity to change that entity because if there was a time in my life when my identity was the person who I know that was at the time time I literally would have had tumbleweeds at my funeral because literally people have been going guy big deal right versus now all I want to believe the impact is in the right place. My mind is in the right place. My heart is in the right place. All these things are going in. Its internal right not so external does not be external validation of your identity and it becomes when you look into the storm things. Oh Justin Athlete. Just Nafta that's who I am so I am writing and it's all about me and it's all about becoming a better Rafi so that you know that's how identified so I wanNA become more and more than that gets taken away then right when it's internal this about it's not about you it becomes about other people and that's a huge difference. You have more impacts. Let's by having internal internal based identity and you ever well by having something external because guess what Andrew Luck just retired from the NFL L. relatively short career for someone's talented as he is nine years owners be revered as that guy. But he ain't going to begin the attention that he lived when he's playing eh every Sunday. Yep Yeah and guess what land on a carrier of what he's doing and how he's GonNa make these money for the rest of his life and all that stuff right right. n-no fans worried about that for him to figure out right and it's all about them wouldn't be doing umbro. People were booing him going going off in their own home stadium. That's how horrible right and if you were one of the ones Bowen Dude but You know hopefully his density grounded and I think it is from the way that he approached the whole thing and something other than football. Yeah yeah so this really important lessons since here in this story. I just WanNa point some of these things out because if you're sitting there you're listening to this and you think about how you identify yourself to Suffolk question. Who Am I and and if your answer is athlete or even mom or whatever whatever your identity is if it can be stripped from you you need to think about long and hard about how you're identifying yourself because there are certain parts of who you really are that can never be taken away and that's how we need to focus hone in on anchor or true identity and you know Craig Ballantyne came up with the greatest identity for a group of us? He calls us. Go givers be go. Give her watch what happens. Not a go getter not about what's in it for me but just to go give her. I'm going that'd be all about it. I'M GONNA be action taker. But my primary focus is to add value so the people around me right again. That's that's knowing who you are internally about other people right so go ahead Justin so now here. We are. Were allegations getting playing time. Your identify is getting crushed. A bit You had some injuries. Yeah had concussions during that time and you know some knee stuff But just kind of backpack off the identity entity once again. I think that you know your identity is being attacked and this is where it gets a little spooky where you look in the mirror. And they're suddenly a dissatisfaction action and they're suddenly this like you don't really like who you are. And that's like the primary telling of looking in the Mir or being in your bedroom being by yourself coming outside of if people going and being your room alone and having these thoughts of really like myself. I don't really like I wireless things happening in my life and you go inside right and as a very dangerous thing to go internal and begin to start processing though. This is what I became obsessed with figuring this out. Why aren't things happening the way I want them mm to happen? Maybe something's wrong with me. Maybe this is inside of me and if I could just find that thing to fix that I could make this all. Go Away problem with that. Is that my identity. He was stripped. And I'm trying to figure this out outside of God I never once was like well. Maybe got literally looking at strategies looking at well if I put these ten strategies in place and I oh I didn't do this. I didn't wake up at this time this morning. So I just being beat myself up and then identity was pulled and and that's when addiction really came in the door and came in fast and strong towards my life so talk about that. Yeah yeah this is something that you know. I've actually talked to a lot of NFL players through a lot of college players that are going through the same thing. Prescription prescription drug addiction is just sweeping. The Nation is just everywhere. And it's very hidden and it's very easy to be functional on pills. It's very easy to pop all all these things is still go. Do Your job problem is. You're on autopilot. You're actually feeling anything. You're not actually enjoying life. You don't get joy when you're totally dousing in yourself down. And so during that whole process I realized because I got some pills from like a friend. He's popping on Monday in the locker room. And I kind of mixed adderall with opioids prescription and found this sweet spot where I could still function. But I didn't actually have to feel anything and so I just experimented with it and then I did what I had to do to get those drugs I was I was sold hook line and sinker like this is. This is the secret. I just don't have to feel anything in like then. It'll all go away if I just don't feel well it and I'll just douse myself. Go to class go to practice. But I won't actually have to deal with what's really the problem and that's the identity and so I began to do. It's called Doctor Her shopping. which you go to multiple doctors and so I had a doctor in Florida? I went to a doctor Iowa at a doctor in Michigan. I would go to all these different doctors because you can only get so much at a certain time time so he just bounce around is extremely legal. I hope I don't go to jail for sharing this but I began doing that and I just begin. I know so many people who do it. And you just filling thing a treasure chest in my room pills and all of my identity was in that and it got really really bad upwards of you know eight outer all's calls a day of twenty milligrams and You know with opioids. I kind of I discovered if I were to take myself up. That high on the amphetamine stuff I would have to kind of calm down. He started getting shakes. You start getting it's called Crawley's your skin will start itching and weird spots and you your total like you're just tripped out. So but if you introduce opioids into that concoction then I discovered I could be up here but not experience. All this other side side effects it was like the opioid blanket of like false. Peace would come on me and then I'll put all the adderall in does wake me up and that went on for two years and Dan was being absolutely tormented. Couldn't sleep was terrified to sleep. As soon as I shut my eyes I would be tormented. There would be these third with dark objects. That would come into my room soon as I shut in. Whether you think this is a dream or whether you think this is real these things would come into my room torment me out. Wake up in hell and I'd be being tormented lamented just hallucinating all the time. So if you don't sleep for four nights maybe having slept for one night and you're Kinda like I'm I'm out of it. I need I need to go take a nap two nights you start tripping Tonight's your stuff ain't right life just doesn't look the same. Three nights nights is just out of this world. You don't even know what's going. You're seeing things that aren't there like wanting to have conversations with someone who isn't in the room homerun you're literally in this place of not being able to distinguish reality from dream state in fantasy and it's very scary. Harry is one of the scariest things that's ever happened in my life of of praying that I could sleep tonight laying in bed and praying. God please let me sleep tonight tonight and then my alarm goes off practice eight. Am I'd go to full blown. Would you drive yourself. Yeah full-blown College football conditioning. Winter conditioning not sleeping ving three nights a week in that conditioning. Isn't tense in our quarterback too so I had to learn all these plays or I'm at that point is like I'm GonNa get found out if I don't show up and I don't keep continue living life. They'll know something's up. But I need these pills in that distinction of like Mike the Identities being tormented. And now I'm being tormented but this is the thing that's making me feel. Okay so I just gotTa hold onto this and it got just super dark and it was. It was a breaking point. Yeah Yeah I was in such a just so hopeless in it and just wanting to wanting to be free but not knowing how to be free and I wasn't gonNA check myself into Rehab wasn't GonNa go so do that whole route Even though I should have and if you're out there and you're struggling with this there's a lot of ways to get free and I want you to know my story is is not you know I. I pray that it'd become extremely typical for people but there are a lot of different routes to get free. I'm I can just speak for mine. So let's talk about some of the things things up. We're holding you back from getting help. Initially you knew had an issue. Yeah right But with pride fear chain shame like what. What were the drivers for you kind of waiting so long? Shame total shame. Everyone saw me in this light like I had it all figured out. I remember that a party. One time hadn't slept for three nights was all kinds of prescription drugs and one of the starting running backs who's about to get drafted at this party always fall players and he was J. by you them hand. Did you go to all you got a family. You're good looking every girl wants you here and just living the life and I literally sat on that couch couch and went if you knew if you knew what I was dealing with inside the shame of that of how I thought people saw me. I had to maintain that image and is just wasn't good and I'll never forget that night. I can still picture myself sitting on the couch and living a lie out of alignment with with the world's perception of you is GonNa have this cover up yeah identity and image that you're portraying but inside you. I mean Scotty your part right. Yes gotta be exhausting so this is what I need to portray but this is what I'm dealing with here in like. They're so to polar opposite things but I don't WanNa get found out right found out that's the word found out. Here's the amazing thing. Is that that gentleman that said that to you was. There's probably something that happened. Specifically as God's Messenger to get you thinking yeah right like literally you can look at it however you want to look at it but you just said I will never forget that night. Never so if you're out there right now and you want to say something to someone because you care about them. I highly recommend what that gentleman did for you. I mean he literally he didn't even realize he was doing it all along he did. And then it got your mind going if you really only knew started probably reflecting back on yourself like what are you doing a great point. See I'm saying like I think it's important for people to absorb the wakeup call us compliment right. That was so out of alignment with what was really going on inside of gutted. Collagen to check yourself because you never know what that's going to be. You know what I mean. It could be negative or positive. You never know when you say something. What is literally I? I mean. There's been many things that have been said to me. I remember sitting in jail. The Guy looked at me and he goes. What are you in for I go? Let's say disarm wrong. He looks at me with the smile. Like you said You'd Never Forget. I looked at me with a smile with teeth missing well and he goes yeah he goes. I said Yeah you Never GonNa see me back in here again. He goes us with the little. Did he know that He. I've never forgot that day. And he was right and that was my God Messenger I'm not into revolving door. This is not where I belong. Yeah you don't belong in there all this drug admission but yet this guy your. That's awesome. Dude yes go back to. That didn't tell him thank you. Yeah seriously I don't know if you've ever done that so sometimes it may be somebody who tunes you up and gives you some tough love time. So it's going to be somebody who just gives you a a compliment. That so out of alignment with. What's the real deal of your life news like man? I'm a Vegas fraud out there and I need to get some help so tell so. We'll ah what happens next. He says this to you kind of stirs like the if you only knew Way Out of alignment with what people went on portraying. Then what yes so. That really started the snowball and I do need to go. Thank that guy. He was probably the second draft pick in all fantasy leagues this past year so he he's a really great guy and and and that started the snowball of going. I need help just screaming in my soul. Help me get free and and I needed a breaking point and so that breaking point came one night at about four am around. That time I got up on my bed. was doing that whole thing. I'm tossing and turning and tossing and turning and can't sleep which I could sleep struggling. Got Up. I walked to the end of the hallway just big flight of stairs down and and I looked at the stairs. And I'm tripping out. Don't man like I'm on drugs I'm having I'm not sleeping. I'm like I'm tripping out and I'm just standing there like looking down you know looking down the stairs and I hear this voice behind my had about as clear as I'm talking right now and it said jump down you won't get hurt and my head swung around and it you you know whether you believe it was a demon whether you believe I'm hallucinating. I'm okay with both. I don't really care I know I have my own opinion about it. And but I flip my head around and I didn't see anything there and And I remember when that voice spoke it felt tempting. It felt like what if I could just end it in it. was this like suicidal thoughts. Thought that I've never had ever not born with this. Never struggled once in my life with that thing and I flipped around and nothing was there in things went real it quick in my brain and I said I have to get free. I don't care what it takes. I went right to my bedroom. The grabbed my treasure chest. Pills grabbed him. All right to the bathroom dumped every single one and toilet flush the toilet got in my car. Drove twelve hours home to Michigan knocked. My Front Door said MOM and dad. I'm addicted to drugs and he'd help. And what what do you mean. You're no idea. Oh man wow I six year old kids and I'm just like man I I don't know what's going to be happening already. Know that any all gonna be just doesn't all go perfect. No doesn't as what what what version of curveball my going to get thrown by kids at some point in time right so well mom and dad does me love you right so what happens. They're all confused. I was so good Hiding it and this is another thing. That's spout scripture drives. You get really good. He really good at hiding. You know when not to show up there's this perception on and it's also how people guy kinda get roped into it in a different way about prescription drugs and like a more above board Wadey t for drug use right. It's like Oh it's I'm going again to- Kane from the guy on the street corner you know my my little bottle women the label. What my name on it Shane? Man It says I can take these right right exactly and all this stuff going on you said when you said earlier just maybe thanked. He said man. I'm on drugs right like I'm I'm tripping out if I'm not sleeping I'm up three days in a row I'm here. I am the topic's Turkeys. I'm on drugs. Like a lot of people say the opposite drug addicts. What do you immediately think when someone says Oh you know certain poor my live is a drug addict? Where do you think I mean? What do you think when someone says that whether you envision someone says Yeah you know when I was in my twenties and drug addicts you envision somebody snorting cocaine off thing or Shula Yeah exactly right crack. It's it's that and it's just a perception man. I think it's a lot easier erupt into especially when you're in college alcohol's a drug if you're doing it every day right right here take it right right. The difference between the legality and how you're getting all those types up to things it's the perception right right drug addiction and drug addiction. So but go ahead. Yes that interesting yes I get home and my parents are totally confuse. My Dad couldn't even look at me so confused like how can how can I miss this. I saw shame on him. I literally saw like. How could I miss his Dad Dad? I'm supposed to know what my kids dealing with. I had no idea. And he had to go through the process of forgiving himself for that and it's not his fault at all. I just got sucked in his world. Like I you. It's not your fault at all and And so I get home and I'm basically like I called my coach and I can't come back for the summer The Mom was going through cancer treatment at the time. So is this that was part of it to the drugs coming in hospital Miami. She's getting surgery and I'm like this sucks. I don't have a football career. I my mom's sick and I just went back home and I said hey you know my mom's not doing well. I'm going to stay home for the summer and then I'll come back during fall camp and he's totally fine. You know they knew that those you know if a kid has something going on with family members that cancer realm they can stay home and that summer was Bessemer my life and no access to doctors no no ability to go get it and and even when I wanted to go get asked. Start googling stuff how could I find these pills and just figuring that album. I couldn't do it and so I was at this place of really being desperate with God and really being. I commit this to you totally and fully and It's one thing to say that it's it's another thing for your soul to scream that to him and Meena in your mind and your heart in every part and and so that began this process of this just incredible incredible encounter with God where I wake up every morning at six. Am Out roll out of bed. And I would lay on the floor and I would meditate on him and I would worship him and I said God. You're so oh good you're you're so beautiful. Your ways are perfect. I know that you've perfectly designed my life to be free into beholden. You and I'll do it for hours hours on it out. Wake up every morning do all day long and eventually something broke in the spirit and I was filled with power was filled with this. I don't even not for not like Mrs four years ago. I'm still zero desire. I've zero desire to go back to that. Because I began to in that place and that place of worship I began to experience experience a piece that was thicker than anything I could ever describe. It was it was a new way of knowing God and I began to explore different books and stuff about to this book by Chris. Valentine the supernatural ways of royalty about who you are as a son. I cried through the whole book. Because it took my identity from all these external places and and just shifted it into me being a son and me being in royalty. And I'll wake up every morning I'll worship and I'll go get supplements and it was significant about that. Why mentioned supplements is because I went and saw Dr Amen in Costa Mesa Few you know maybe a year ago I wonder just check. You know. See if my brain's good see what's going on. They do these brain scans a really amazing drug facility natural remedies for people to get free from addiction and I went there and I got the scam because I just wanted to see I- concussions. I want to see if I was is good and I went and the brain and went back the next day and they said you struggle with addiction. There's nothing on the reading that like signified. There's no concussion damage. There is nothing And so I began. Some you know for two years didn't sleep for two years. I'm every single day on drugs and they didn't see any damage damage and he. He told me he began. You know tell me kind of what they would do with someone who's coming to them for addiction in the first list is hours of meditation a day and you know I was worshiping but they for L. Phase of lifeless. Okay you meditate. You worship worshipped. I got my face and I worshiped take these supplements part of it rebuilding the dopamine receptors in the brain. I don't know why even WanNa take that. I was in a grocery store one day and I was like okay. This looks cool and I started taking. All the supplements are working out again and literally reconstructed and healed my brain through the power of worship and the power of working out in the power of supplements and and so I I go back to school just lit up like I go back to school. Lit Up for God for his ability to set people free. And here's what's cool. Every person in my house was addicted to prescription description drugs and no one knew I had no idea that guy was struggling with that. I had no idea my closest friend from eight years old was also on drugs and in bad drugs heroin. This is a division one Notre Dame athlete heroin. We were all struggling and we are all not talking and the one prayer I have for today. Is that you'll begin talking. Tell your friend tell your parents get help go out. There's so much freedom available you gotta step out of that boat. The shame. It's not real it really is not real and and so now. I'm Oh my gosh. We're all in this in. None of us knew and I just began saying. Do I struggle with this too. I'm free. Let's pray and pray over them and help them find counselors you know. I went to counseling right after that. I JUST WANNA make sure I'm okay. You know counselors are amazing easing. I had this big. Do that looked like Santa Claus and I would sit in this couch and I would say all my problems for forty five minutes and he would give me one sentence answer I'm like that makes so much sense. Go implemented like I. I'm looking for those things in that time looking for personal development. I'm trying to grow and understand. You know what exactly it happened to me. And that that whole process in the love of God just the amazing love of God was so tangible in that time I wake up happy how to wake up filled with peace. Everything I did had significance colors. Were brighter everything made sense. I suddenly could feel God's plan for my life in this amazing

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God Given Ambition with Ashlee Fay

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49:50 min | 4 months ago

God Given Ambition with Ashlee Fay

"Komo always ask me like how do you do it. Here's my trick. I wrote down my vision. I was very very very clear. I wrote it down and for me. My vision means three to five years from now. Where i wanna be in three to five years and so every opportunity that came up even if i was terrified because remember i'm a warrior and i'm very fearful person when even scared i said were. Were you notice. She was no longer those of you listening. She's fully free and set sees delivered and set free from all of that. If the opportunity align with vision. I said yes. I can give myself time to doubt myself or to. Let's feared creep in. And if it did. I just said i'm going to do it anyway. Because i was commanded. Be strong and courageous. I know that my purpose on this earth is to help women in show women. What is possible. You're listening to dykes fluids. Podcast in we're having candidate an actionable conversations about your health relationships business and ministry and now here's your host the second chance coach. Michael david huey welcome to another session of the heath podcast. It's sunny today but it is cold. I'm just gonna say real everybody's like well mike. How can it be cold in florida. Right let me just say this. It's cold so i get up every morning. and My wife and i we like to. We live on a lake. And so the water kind of comes running in and we're like the only ones that have this little path patch of grass rats and so we got and ground our feet. And i was like she. She goes out comes back in this morning. I'm doing some. i'm listening to my friend. Glenn lundy show this morning and and to my friend. Tim story was on there yesterday. We were just of listening to do some things and she's like you probably will not want to go out and do it this morning. Like what do you mean she's like. It's forty eight degrees so when i went out it was a little cold today but the sun is out in florida. We can either be really warm really cool but most the time really war and i know my guest is in colorado. I just got to know her little bit before we started. Hurt her on clubhouse this this Last week before this and just said to her. I i i would like to say this as i always pray like when i when i want when i hear somebody talk i wanna know their heart and i believe the heart minded people that becomes manifested when when you seek first and like. We were Ashley and i were praying before we started. And you know Ashley is the creator of ashley fe designs. And i love that. I love the name. I love who she is She has a podcast called embrace. Your ambition She has her own ashley fe app. I love that. She says she also has an academy right where she loves to inspire women right and i think what she really said and i told her i wasn't gonna read our bio because i want her to express her beginnings because when i read it i can tell it to you but it won't be the same as if it was coming from her and where she started house she took went from like a mass to her going all in and building her message in her brand and what she does and i like what she says when she inspires women to step into the plan that god has for each of them because I mean the bible says that god knows the plans that has for us right to prosperous to give us a hope in a future right. And i believe that when we when we acknowledged that when we we recognize that god's plans are better than our plans life becomes a little bit better so Ashley welcome to the podcast. I'm super excited to get to know you a little bit better now. 'cause we were talking before about you know where she lives in stuff I like it that she's also motivational speaker. And encourage her. She's she said she's kinda tongue-in-cheek forth between stiff for business. And we were talking about you know you know what side do we kinda relinquish and let other people help us with. And i was just telling her that you know a hired some people today and stop so. I'm excited to hear your story so welcome. My friend is good to have you. I'm so excited to be here. I love i. Like i have my own podcast. But there's something about doing other people's podcasts. That are so fun radio show. I love it. Yes so i guess i'll get into my story real quick and then cook so I have made these beautiful glitter tumblers in bows insurance by whole life. I'm a crafty person right. And it was always a side gig for me. My husband is special forces and he's gone all the time. And when i tell you he's gone all the time i mean like four real like he leaves at the drop of a hat. That's how our life has been for the past sixteen years in so I've always had a side gig. And i just had that because i wanted something for myself that i didn't want to leave my kids. You know 'cause there was gone about three years ago. Have three three girls. Is that why your husband leaves because there's four you laugh. Though we went through a stage. I was always like you like being away like no i don't but for us. The military has been a difficult path. Like i i kind of. I don't wanna say blocking out when he's gone. But i felt like that was the only way i could work. You know is kind of put up a wall and zoo as always just really hard. While three years ago there was an opportunity colorado where he wouldn't have to deploy so we've we lived in tennessee. Our whole lives are hold militarize up until that point. Where like we're just going to do. We're gonna take gives us three years of being a real family not deploying kind of fixing from employments while we got out here colorado as expensive as i sat down to do bills one day. After we've been out here. I don't know for a couple of months. We're not here very long. In our checking account said negative fifty four dollars and images like that moment for me. I just broke in. I prayed and i asked what i needed to do like do. I need a fulltime job. You know is that what. I have to do to help our family. Because i didn't want to do that because he was still gone and training and things and i wanted to be whole but philly god is telling me to go all in on that side gig. I was telling you about that. I had done for so long and i actually said no. It's like nah. I don't wanna do that. And i said no because i didn't want to be in production of making those things every day but i felt like he was like i have a plan and i need you to do this fine very upset about this. This thing he wants to do. But i started making the tumblers. I started doing what people go live sales on facebook. And i would show the tumbler and people would buy and i remember the very first one. I still have the video. We actually use it for marketing. Now because on the very first one i said god willing twenty people get on us live tonight. That was my goal in at the end. I said i have a feeling. God will make this into something really big. So remember the name ashley bay and so. He is for marketing. But yeah it's funny. When you say that i think so i have a. I live in an older population area. Right like one of the one of the younger people in order population and and you know. A lot of people sell jewelry on facebook. Live right and I forget the name of the jewelry lady from church but everytime she's on there. I buy something for my white right like she holds up a jewelry and she says this is number fifty nine right and you know you buy like five or ten bucks right like in. It's this and it's really nice and it lasts forever right and so it's funny that you say that. Because i when. I when you say that and i'll let you finish. Is i think about how the scripture says. God does not despise humble beginnings. When i read your your your bio i thought. Wow she's the reprobate representation. I want you to think about this as she finishes a think about this as she finishes when you read god's word here's the difference between religion and true relationship and manifestation intimacy with god. The bible says the word became flesh and dwelt among us right. But here is the very what i believe. What is about to tell you is is is that. This was the revelation of god's word be coming manifested in her life. She she she just got does not spies humble beginnings so good and finish. I'm excited to hear the rest. You just made me think about that. So it's basically the same thing like it. Bit jewelry was taking cups. This was not finish but was taking these cups. They had numbers just like you were saying right so i was doing it every week. And then i was doing behind the The behind the scenes showing people how to make them in. My page was growing and financially. We were doing okay again. I was in production. I remember so often. Praying to god like god. I'm in production like zoll. I'm doing. It's not what i wanted but financially i helping family one. I sat down to do alive sale. And someone asked me how i got started. I started telling her how. I'd been doing things for over fifteen years. But then i felt like god was telling me to tell her about negative fifty four dollars and so i started crying. This is live on facebook page. I start crying. I tell her about fifty four dollars. In how i felt broken and around your neck. Yeah i like it was just. I noticed that when we got on. And then i i had your back so yeah so yeah. Yeah yeah so. I told about fifty four dollars. I went to bed until they've been my business like no one is going to take me seriously. I cried like a baby. I messed up the next day. I will go to so many women that told me. They felt broken just like i did in like they wanted for more but didn't know how to get it in. That was my life old man. I was like the moment for me. That was like red light story story. My wife is listening to bob. Heilige stories and bob highlight an influential. He trains network marketers and other women and men and and he says this year red light story. so i'll make super. That's awesome and so i was like okay. So how do i help other people do this. Because at that point i had hit six figures by selling by stuff. So i thought i can teach other women how to make and sell these tumblers. So did i. I made a course. I made a group. I taught them how to make it and then in two thousand and nineteen yes accent. Sounds like your date yet while we lived time. I guess it goes out. I saved up money. Like i'm taking the family to disneyworld on my dollar on my husband's on doing but we went for two weeks and i was so afraid that my page would fall because i wouldn't have liked sales for two weeks so i reached out to five women that did that. Diy club with that learned for me. I said you guys limited do lifestyles on my page to see what happens in there like shore. They took my crazy. You know and went with it and they all killed it to and we're like oh my gosh okay. We're onto something so as day with those five women for a few months. Then i added five more. Every quarter added five more. Were up to thirty weeks now. That do live sales on my facebook. Page in on my ashley. They have and they're all killing it. In the greatest of all of this is every one of them started off very nervous and very scared and fearful to do live sales to put their product out there that you just you see them grow and really step into their light when they share their story. They all have these amazing stories behind them. We're just continuously helping women you know i always say were. It's collaboration over competition for us. And so we have thirty boutiques sharing their stories helping other women to step out share their stories again applications every day. It just blows my mind that started. I started really all of this. Because i hit negative fifty four dollars and i felt like god was telling me to go for it. You know and he had such a plan. I i told him no because i didn't think his plan was to give me here. I thought his plan was keeping production. But it wasn't in so yet here. We are awesome a so awesome. Because when i think about what you said. You said collaboration over competition and and and i kind of think about how you know I when i look at the thought process of how you know social media is and how people are frightened of it but yet then you have somebody like yourself. That just steps in to The area of something that. Maybe you're not real comfortable with. Can you talk about that like what that meant to you from like. Maybe i need to get a job. Maybe you know. What are we gonna do right to taking your idea and putting it into action. Even when you're like. Well how am i gonna do this right. And what that looked like just from your standpoint of saying okay. god. I'm gonna do this. And the fee because a lot of times people get fearful maybe can chat about that a little bit about what's going through and what those most well first let me say. Whenever i first started teaching people how to make tillerson. I got a lot of. Hey because people were like. Oh gosh she's gonna teach everyone and they're gonna take customers in so i tried to keep the abundance mindset even when those people were saying those things because i did feel like when i started to have abundancy mindset more kane you know in in so in that as far as like doing these things that i feel like i'm so unqualified for let me just out there. I still feel like why. Why are women following me. What is happening now But i always tell people my superpower is that. I have courage and discovered that about myself. I've discovered that last night. I didn't go last night. Only guests who was guest. Who was right underneath you in the room. We're never going. I do because you mentioned. Are they said that you were right underneath me and i was like well. I said it's not coincidence. That who i'm having on my podcast maher is right above right so yeah so as i remember yes i was courage it is because i feel like i have been a worrier my whole life and i have been afraid of literally everything i mean i worry about the dumbest i'm better i'm recovering warrior I was terrified of space mountain at disneyworld. Like i'm just fearful. I i know the one in orlando or the one in california and orlando. We like twenty. It's about thirty minutes from my house. I keep telling my husband. She moved to disney because he gets out of the military this month in wish to come on i think you should. This is the greatest area. I my it's funny. You say that now that you've finished on courage but here's the funniest thing like so If you you have to listen to some of my other podcasts. And if you're listening you know hopefully you guys will go and listen because it's most important thing is to download and listen and share. 'cause you're going win it people are going to want to hear ashley story but it's like When we we had lost about a half a million dollars in two thousand eighteen thousand nine hundred all my wife's return olive our retirement. Everything because i was traveling and speaking i had a guy come into our business that just took everything from us and i had to forgive him. I had to. I had to do the right thing and I said to my wife. I said we're gonna move and not actually. Just imagine this magic if your husband came home and said hey ashley we're gonna move. This is what my wife said. She said when she didn't guess she didn't. There's no hesitation she said went. And i said well Let's borrow some money from our family. 'cause they'll let us fix our house up. We've only had it for year. We'll make about fifty or sixty thousand and we can start to pay some of the stomach. We'll have nest egg. We can relaunch my business scale it even farther now that we know what we know and our best right and she's like okay so we start praying fasting we made. We sold the house for more than anybody ever sold a house for in our neighborhood. We moved and so. I said this to my wife about three weeks ago. We celebrated our one year anniversary of living here. And i said so. Do you like it here. And she said no said. I love it here and so when you talked about courage. That's what i thought about. You know what. I wanna do not to get off. But i'm trying to convince my husband. Because gets out of the military in april. When is set like i'm terrified but excited but we've always had that study income so we're going we're doing our thing and going all in on my business and so we're scared but i'm trying to convince them that we need to buy an rv and travel for a year. Oh no no. It's my wife listening right now where she wants to. Its listening when she listens to this tomorrow because she was listened to like like. I'm putting a bunch into the queue. So that i have some for the rest of that And it's. It's the worst thing for her to hear that you're like the third person female that the i've interviewed this month. That said that and now she's going to want to do that so our lease is going to be up in august. If you make. I'm gonna come back after you if you make me have to fly now just kidding. I'm just kidding but i think you should. I think you should may. We also what does have a big travel around the country party. And we'll just we'll teach people how to make all your stuff in different cities really is events and then make nutrition on same time. My goal is is speaking. i love being on stage. You know and and i would love to have my conference be like traveling conference. Because i'm putting on my first of mine not me just being a speaker but made putting one on june and so like if that can be traveling conference. This could work brian. We could and we all by yourself. Yeah i have marcus black speaking. I know you know marcus and alexander. Then i have a couple of other women and stuff so yeah. I'm kind of crazy. Marcus marcus on my podcast. Couple of weeks But back to courage row quick so people always ask me like how you do it. Here's my trick. I wrote down my vision and i was very very very clear. I wrote it down and for me. My vision means three to five years from now. Where i wanna be in three to five years and so every opportunity that came up even if i was terrified because remember i'm a warrior and i'm a very fearful person with high anxiety. Even if i was scared. I said yeah were notice. She was no longer in use of you listening. She's fully free and steps. These derivatives set free from all of that if the opportunity aligned with that vision i said yes i can give myself time to doubt myself or to let the feared creep in and if it did i just said i'm going to do it anyway because i was commanded. Be strong and courageous. I know that my purpose on this earth is to help women in show women. What is possible. Because i do think that connect with women on a level of like they can see themselves in me in so knowing that i have to stand up and do what god made me to do it so that that woman does the same thing. Wow will that. That's encouraging at super encouraging. The reason i say that is because i think a lot of a lot of you know like like there's a lot of women that go through You know one of my new clients You're shout out to her. A million to nettie. She's she owns multiple seven-figure businesses. And and and this when you thought of when you wrote courage. I wrote this down. I thought this would really encourage you to. And then we'll move onto the next subject she She buys and sells companies right and so she was sitting in a restaurant where she was going to have this presentation being given to her for her to buy this company last week and she said she went to the restaurant the night before. Make sure everything was fine. And she sat down and she was eating dinner by herself and she was prepping for the meeting and stuff and and She'd made sure the room in the back was going to be prepared and stuff and so she heard this this guy and people beside her like just razzing the waitress right like razzing razzing razzing right and so she said she. She said she had kurds like three times during this thing so she got up to walk by. She looked at them and then went to the bathroom and came back and sat back down and she looked at him again when she came by so then she said she laughed and she came back later And and had a conversation with the waitress and gave her a big tip because of these guys are jerks. What she said she said and it was horrible she goes. It was absolutely horrible so she goes to bed the next night she wakes up and she walks goes back to the restaurant again. She walks in and her team is there and her lawyers on zoom and she walks into the room and guess who was the guy that was trying to sell her his business. Oh my gosh now the guy that was mean to the waitress so this is what this is courage this this because this is what i see an ashley. I saw this an emmy and amelia. Just now is she just listened. She gave him at. She asked him questions gave him every opportunity she asked him about integrity and humility and peace. And all these things right and she walked over he was finished. She walked over to her teams. She said you guys can leave now. She looked up at her lawyer. Said went like like this and walked over to. The guy shook his hand and said thanks but no thanks. You should probably be nicer to waitresses out the door right. So yeah okay. So you've talked about this little bit. Let's talk about this. So you just said for those of you. Listening k She said that she is now. Her husband's getting ready to retire. So now they're just going to go next level business. you know. it's good because your husband's can be husband can be your business partner which is even better so tell me about you. Said you're a little fearful. You're like a little scared about it so tell me about what this next. Season's gonna look like what you said. You wanna stink three to five steps ahead. What does that look like. So maybe somebody's lessening. Like maybe me the same And you know you're hiring. I just i was you now. We're talking about what we were praying before we started you know have hired some people I need to learn sales. But i hate sales of just i do you know john. Maxwell told me one time he said look It's okay to admit that you're not great at something he said but don't focus on it. Focus on what. You're good and i'm good at helping. People live longer healthier life physically on the cellular level. I'm good at helping. People have better vision in their marriage and in their relationships. And how they use that to overcome their fears about things that they're going into those are my superpowers so talk about that. Talk about your what you see the future like for somebody who's where you are you've done you've had success but now you're like okay. I'm going to go bigger. What's that gonna look like. So yeah he decided we. We went back and forth all last year about him resigning because they were offering him the world you know. He's a good soldier in so It's a air force. Now he's special forces army army okay. Yeah so So we went back and forth a lot that i really felt like god kept telling us like get out like you guys got this. Just you know it's time for you. It's time for us to be a family so we prayed together a lot so yesterday yeah yesterday he actually signed the paper that said he was just gonna do a national guard just healthcare and everything but even of until like yesterday i was like we're doing the right thing right in would prey. We still felt like us on us. Get out so the plan. Now does something i never mentioned but we actually own our own. Like manufacturing of the supplies that people use to to make the tumblers Take over that part. Which is amazing. Because if i'm a thousand percent on us. My heart wasn't in that it kind of started. Because i was teaching them how to make tumblers. Why not sell the supplies to make tumblers to have another stream income In so over the past year they kind of with down some. Because i was speaking more. My heart's in the i love the podcast. Those things and so. My heart wasn't in supplies that he's going to take over those. He does a really good job with them and supplies for me. They're like stainless steels. Like yeti except there my brand they say ashley on them right in glitter in all the things you would need to on those al. I'm sure my wife. My wife loves those things. Probably gonna want to buy some now. I you're gonna make me bhai. I'll start off with the tomboy. I before before we go to the rv. But yeah so. I make sorry about those supplies. Although my heart sign they still mean something to me. Everything i do. I need a purpose behind it. And so even the supplies. I write notes to the people in there telling them that they have found a cheerleader in me. Even if we don't meet and you know everything has a purpose we have all these inspirational quotes on things and in notes and things. So he's taking over that part which he has plans to double it. So we'll see how that goes and his name is brian. go brian. I saw so so so as as she's saying she said this. So i saw the other day. We all my our franklin lundy had the world. The i live flash mob right and i saw aslam brian and her kids doing the doing the dance right and it was. It was fun. It was fun. I did it by myself. I couldn't get my wife to do with me but she. She would have probably would've did it if i would have been a little bit more prepared. I told her excuse me on. Like i told her before. Then thursday night was like. Hey we haven't learned a dance because you're learning it. And so she knows. I came from a dance background of dance background in my was best answer my senior class in high school and athletic and so i did it like i just watched the guy do it. Like three times was like okay. Let's go he's like really like yeah so so i saw that. So that's that's really awesome. Can't believe you it with me. But he does say you know we've had to be really careful about what we post with his top secret clearance of course of course Now that he's out he's like. I'm gonna help you more like i'm gonna do lives with you and i want to help you get there. And so that's exciting. I can show him off a little Yes so for me while. He's kind of taking over supplies. I'm gonna work on growing a shopping network. Get i'm really gonna put myself out there to do some speaking in kind of where it takes us if this whole rv thing pans out. I want to start reaching out the dvd places and be like. Hey we need a reality show. We're gonna live in an rv for year with her three kids and our dog. So but i don't know if he's going to go for that but yeah i just want to. I really want to be able to share my story. Bring hope encouraged courage to women in. Show him in like you can do this too. I want to own the biggest thing. I wanna have done before. Twenty twenty one is over. I want to offer scholarships to women. Help get their business started. Because i know what it was like when i have a negative fifty four dollars. Luckily my husband had already built me. One small turner. The is really awful as what you have to have to make tumblers. I really use like. I'm like oh we're at negative. Fifty four dollars really went and made a cup in sold it for like fifty dollars and then i made a second one in everything that i was making. I would just put back in and try to build. So i know how hard it is to start from nothing and have to put everything back in. So i really want to be able to give scholarships to women that are starting out to kind of give them that boost and help them to buy the supplies without you know one cup at a time like i was doing so when i think about you saying that i think about my wife and i have a passion to stop human trafficking right like like we. We we love the organization operation underground railroad I've been trying to get tim to get on. I'm gonna keep hammer. Until i get him on my podcast because i really want people to hear his story and You know for me. I think our businesses our mission. Our business our ministry i. I got ordained into the ministry last year in august because my spiritual father decided to start a whole at twelve years at the school which is a long time. If you my pastor asked me to be a part my my pastor at our church are part of the ministry school that i went to school for. So there's about twelve people in the ministries cohen. He asked me to be a part of the ministry school to mentor to teach to. Just be a part of it. You know and i brought in this big bag fee. He comey courses. Did you take in your twelve years. I was like sixty. He's like can you pick like ten of them. I narrowed it down to twelve like passer. Twelve out of sixty right and then he ended up making like three or four of them requirements for the for the school of ministry. And i think that. That's what's that's important when you win like my wife's father decided to make a marketplace ministry Ordination for to ordain people into the ministry as ministers as licensed ministers of the gospel in the marketplace. And you know because a lot of us if we're not i mean it's like this and an assembly this if it's like this if we're from the marketplace and we're not tied into the body of christ we don't have a church where we're functioning and being a part of that and at bible says were like sheep without a shepherd right. So we're we're going to be serving somewhere in the church and that that elevates the people that you surround yourself with right and so so it you obviously. If you're listening today you cannot see. Ashley i but we can't so we can see each other Scott beautiful smile but behind her She has isaiah forty thirty one. It's above her head right there. Which i can see. She's like where is it like right. And and yeah exactly and so if you if you know isaiah forty thirty one says get this right. Those whose hope is in the lord will renew their strength. they will soar wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and naughty faint asi when you hear that. What does that do what. What do you think about when you hear that. And what does that mean to you from what you've went through in your life experiences that you've had to get you to this place today. I mean i just think we all have a mission and we're either fulfilling it or not i'm trying to fulfil it. The best i can. And i know that as long as i start my day praying and asking him. What is it you need to do today. A good one thing that i am constantly asking or a us is. Am six eight a lot. And i say here. I am lord. Send me. I want to be someone he knows he can. He can use. And the i'm gonna do where he leads me to go. You know 'cause. I have ideas all the time. Sometimes by his god wants to do sometimes he comes up with ideas like my purpose journal. That's on amazon. When i felt like he was telling me to write that. Because i literally made it for myself and then i felt like he was telling me to put it out there. It was the worst timing ever. Like i was like what are you serious like. I was literally in like fifty things at one time. But i reminded myself that like he does have that plan and we just have to be strong courageous like i said earlier in just trusted him and i can't wait to see where he takes things you know. I'm hoping that he puts me on stages in he helps me to help as many women as they possibly can. But also i have a piece in my business knowing that all the citizens are his like i really do rely on him to kind of guide the business and people always like you seem so like app. He's with your business. I'm mike yet. 'cause it ain't mine if if it falls that's on the big guy you know. I'm not risking my reputation. I'm risky his reputation. And so i'm just trying to yet just know that he'll get us to where we need to go. One of my favorite sayings is. Because i used to be very indecisive now make decisions very very quickly. It's pretty impressive Because i tell myself that god will. God will bless the good decisions in god will redeem the bad decisions. And so either way. I'm gonna be just fine. Wow that's awesome to hear that Explain this talk to me. A little bit about this so just you kind of know I originally started the he phones. Podcast for men. If you look at my logo it says he fluence right but if you look and you can see the shield of faith right then you can see. The arrow pointing up was for me. I thought it was he. Being god influences me to help i only thought it was men and then god and my wife and all these other women's said well what about us you know and i think as a man of god. It was at the beginning. What was if people don't know my store. My wife and our apart for about four for about two years renewed our vows been together now twelve years. Total and I think it was a protection thing. I think i wanted to let my wife know that there wasn't that was never happening again. That it was and now we all have friends curve girlfriends or my friends. And you know it's it's a there still boundaries there still boundaries. And sometimes i have to. You know i tell my friends i wanna be. I wanna be held accountable. I think One of my one of my new clients today. I just i just got a new high paying clients today that Started a jewelry business back. She had her stuff in over three hundred boutiques and now. It's down to about one hundred because jewelries changed and stuff and so I said what's your number one issue that you're struggling with in life she said boundaries and i was like wow. I'm reading for the second time. In my my life a book called boundaries by dr cloud and dr townsend. And i tell you if you're listening today probably heard me talk about it for i would tell you to read it and listen to it And i think that so when you think about this ashleigh about helping women to help. Women walk in hope in purpose. What does that mean. What does it mean when you say you give you because we obviously know that you're a woman of god and your your. Your purposes is to to do that so when you there's a there's a square and before you share this there's One minute video shared this on our podcast about a week or two about three weeks ago. I think there's a video odds with brian. Has i don't know if brian has. Brian has on breakfast champions. He's a he's he's one of the hosts in the morning. Brian owned a construction company. Owns a still a does. And he's part of andy for sally and at my let's a mastermind are syndicate which my franco hatters member of my friend. Joe marion's A member of and And ed says I don't know about you. He says i'm a christian. And this is what i believe. He's said i'm not looking for you to believe my way. I just know that. I have a relationship with god knows what i believe. He said i believe that. God is creating this ed right all his guests all his talents and everything that god called him to be. He said what drives me is that i want to. Everybody has to stand before. God one day right. I can't stand before god for you. You can't stand for god before me. But i believe that god's gonna show me this person he said i don't know about you. But what drives me is to help more people including myself when they meet that person for it to be their twin and not be a stranger and look at it and say who's that and god says that's crazy to be he goes. I want put my arm around mine and him be my twin and in this year i hear god's say well done good and faithful servant interest when you think about hope and a future and god's perfect will and how you can inspire women. What does that look like. And how important is that to you. Moving forward in your journey in your business and things that you wanna do that story because we have a long right over here in their letters in it says the world needs. You were made to be. And i look at it every single day and remind myself that god has so many blessings for me. I just need to reach out. Not be afraid to go for them in the he made me with a purpose. So for me. I think is zone in on women not on purpose but i i just feel like i called women because i remember what it felt like to felt feel so broken. Feel like this probably makes me sound really bad. But this is how i felt. My husband was off doing all these big things and i was just a housewife and i love being among more than anything in this entire world. I can see why like love those babies for me. It's not what i was born to do. As far as only being a mom you know an only being a wife. And so i kind of we went through phase. Where like. I blamed my husband for my lack of having purpose because he was gone all the time you know in so when i realized that i was being a whiny little girl the all. You're i can't do anything very much playing the victim card. And i had to get up and show up and do for myself and i really realized like man. I'm a warrior. Done a lie and so i i really speak to women because i i know that feeling so many of us have that mom guilt you know i used to always be someone that is Like going to the girls school. And i still love picking them up and stuff but i was like constantly being a volunteer their at their school at their gym and all of the time and i was like i hate this. What am i doing that you know you. You feel like that's what you were supposed to do. you know. My husband was off fighting for our country. I'm supposed to be at home taking care of these babies doing all the school stuff even though i was hating every second of it not the taking care of the babies but going to the school. In now i've realized i can say notre those thanks because that's not my realm of expertise in by me saying yes. I was taking that opportunity from somebody that really wanted. Anyway you know so for me. I just wanna help women's world and it's okay to have those feelings of like i want more like that's okay because i think for me. I felt guilty for a long time. Saying i wanted more because i have three healthy children a beautiful home in a husband that i love and he's my best friend in wanting more felt very selfish so i want to speak to women and like it's not selfish because those things are wanting four were giving to you by king by our god in. There's a purpose for four that a mission that you're supposed to be living on so i hope i hope that answered it. Okay no no. No no no good reason. The reason i asked is. Because i think it's you know it's it's We hear people talk about it. But i don't think we ever really hear people express what that means to them like we we say. Hey i want to inspire women. Okay what does that look like like. What does that look like your their cheerleader. Or you're pushing them or you're pulling them or are you leading them and i think I think that's that's super important so last question. I told ashley. I used to have like all these questions that i asked and and then i decided not to do that anymore. Decided to let the holy spirit kind of lead us and guide us and direct us. So when you think about identity about the word identity because we kinda hinted around this a little bit when we first. Before we i got on we were praying and talking about it. Because i think. I'm gonna give you what i think is is happening in our society. Today is my friend. Todd white is a pastor in in in texas and my friend. Theo kalaiana says now ahead of lifestyle christianity ministries. If you don't know todd why you should understand anybody. That doesn't know him. You need to know him He has brands lifestyle christianity He has a video on youtube. That's talks about our identity. If you go to youtube and you type in todd why identity and you watch it. You'll probably know you a little bit more about your identity from god's perspective but i was like to hear other people's but i think for me what i see Is a lot of you. Know one of my favorite books that i always give to My my men client my mail clients and then in one for my female clients. I give them a book women. I gave a book called captivating. Bhai stacey eldridge which is in colorado not too far from where you are and then her husband. John eldredge who i think is one of the most incredible humans that walks face that worth A book called wild at heart And it talks about you know what it means to be a man what. It means to be a poser. It means to you know. Have limiting beliefs in the stuff that Remain that read. It says i can never put it down. I like read it really super fast and never put it down. And so when i think about and i see the identity that we have in our country now and how. We've leaned more towards the immoral side than we have the moral side There's a lot of corruption I mean i'm not going to go down the monkey trae or the rabbit trail of politics. But i mean we can see it like when i when i go to my gas station and last year averaged paying about one hundred and eighty eight dollars for gas and now i'm paying who knows almost three dollars for gas right. So that's why. I say it's super important that we kind of understand that that. So what do you think about when you think about identity. So i did just by my husband that bugging. We're talking about wild at heart. He hasn't started it yet. They told hoping he's reading chased the lion. Which is like one of my favorite bugs. So he's finishing that and then he's going to jump into wild at heart but yeah so for identity. I think that just kind of going with the women thing we need to step into our light. Be willing to kind of show people what god has done for you that something. I had to learn along the way really to step into my light and be like this glorify him. I have this because of him and this is who i am because of him and just really step into that light in show other women. What is possible. you know. that's what i think of a lot is who am i. I'm somebody that. God is using somebody that wants to show other people what god is doing in my life. So you know. It's funny because in the past month my shopping network has been called a colts twice. Which just lately. Yeah but why. I don't even understand the jim jones or somebody like it. So i get a lot of that. I'm a bible thumper and things like that. I don't even know what that ashley. No but i like. I'm just trying to express right. I mean it just it blows my mind. It's a it's the forrest. Gump thing you know stupid is as stupid. Okay so i just want to become like you were saying earlier. The woman that i was made to be. And i feel i put that off for so long for so long so like i'm ready to step into my life. I'm ready to make a difference. Make an impact for me. That's what i say all the time like. I wanna make an impact on somebody. If i can help one person every day that i've won my day you know in. So i just wanna be somebody that the helps you know. And and that's what i've known for somebody that spread the love of god puts got into business. I think too many businesses aren't doing that you know they don't and a for a long time. I didn't realize that. I needed god in business. When it was just my sight my sight gave me when i handed it over to him. That's when things started moving and happening. So i don't wanna be. That would be that when you were talking earlier. I did what. I mentioned this. Because i love the story. You were talking about your friend. There's a story that my kids. And i i told my kids and now they tell everybody they're still cute. It's about the prayer of have. You heard that so every day my kids. We are on the way to school wednesday. Lord please bless this family. Indeed in larger territory enlarge our influence and we pray the prayer of job as soon pretty much like a that you were telling earlier because at the end of life. You're going to see all the things that you were meant to do and meant to be in all the blessings you were supposed to have but you didn't have the courage to go for him and asks forum so that's awesome so. I'm so glad that you share that. So so before we go. Just tell everybody a little bit. Let's talk a little bit. Just the last two three minutes about your conference that you have coming up in july as i was just put as a thing on my on my thing and your mom's zooming that you're having colorado is the am i right about that. Yeah the first one. The one which is awesome because people back together yet. I'm like i'm going for it. There's something be there's something different about in person versus virtual. I've enjoyed the virtual conferences. But i'm ready for some in person stuff so it is a mindset conference more than anything probably want you to come in ready to be prayed over. I'm going to do praying. You know zone is christian. I want to help women kind of discover what they believe. Their mission is and what their vision is We have margus black speaking. I love mentioning him because he's just a nominal he's going to have everybody in that plays on their feeds three days. It's january fourth through. Sixth in the fourth is just like in the evening and then six is like a half day. That's when we go to church. I'm gonna take them to church on that day. So we're gonna talk a lot about god and business. Dave very much just being inspired getting motivated understanding. What you think your purposes finding your talents in your gifts. Things like that So it is the first one. I hope it's the first of many. I really would love for this to be like a traveling conference because i've had a lot of women asked me like. Will you do in. Indianapolis held out nashville Eventually but it really started just because a lot of the women on my facebook page. Which is where i spend most of my time a new instagram and tiktok and all things just like waters pass right on beyond the facebook thing. I can't stand facebook anymore. So but that's the one that connects to my program and so i've been sending a lot of people instead. Yeah i've been sending people to the app instead because you know. I know not everybody's on facebook anymore. There's a lot of politics on. Facebook makes it hard. I just hope it doesn't by clubhouse. Because i do not to buy club lease lord. I am just hoping i get like all my almost sixty six thousand followers on on clubhouse and distant distant a couple months and i don't want him to come on and change that and i. I've switched over to instagram. And i've put in two and a half months. I put four thousand people on my instagram program will connect to instagram because i would love to sell on instagram instagram's not big yet. But anyway ashley abbas where. It's all out anyway. That's where everybody they kind of started off because these women they heard my story. They stole me. I've been very transparent on. I don't want to say on my way to the top. Because i'm not at the top. I'm not where i wanna be yet. But i'm definitely on the way in. These are hard. I tell them like they've seen me cry. They've seen me be so happy because we got products delivered for the i. You know. I've shared every bit of the journey of women. Wanted to beat me. And i was kind of where my conference started now. It's kind of more into so much more and like my whole heart is in it. And i keep telling people i'm like grab a ticket because i will blow your mind like events are my thing on your mind. I have so much planned. It's all secret so that's ashleigh fe dot com a. s. h. e. f. a. y. dot com. And and and. I'm throwing my name in if anybody cancels and you need a fill in. I mean i only think and teaching is my thing. I don't know if you tamra andrews. But she's the one that helped create the flash mob for glenn and she's having a conference in october that i'm going to be speaking at I'm hoping to finalise this. Maybe this weekend or next. But my friend tim story and i are going to put together an event here in florida with my friend. Jim baker and some other people. So we're really been talking about that. Which i'm super super super excited about so guys go because we totally still have round like that. I'm going to be talking about that because my wife will love that. Because that's about i mean that's a good time of the year to come to colorado. She she she's due to have some time off right before surgery so that might work out really good so guys. The only way people get to hear. Ashley is to go her website and connect with her each. Tell us real quick by your podcasters. Thirty seconds about where they can find your podcast. Embrace your ambition. it's on all major podcast platforms on mondays. I do kind of like business in interviews and on wednesdays. I do worship wednesdays and just to kind of reminded me of that. I'm writing. that won't be available on amazon soon. so yeah that's it's awesome is your mission. And that's the conference. Embraced bishen competence. Ashley thank you so much for being here with me. Today you're awesome. I'm excited to build a deeper friendship relationship with you and get to know you and your husband better. I want you to meet my wife so you can get to know. Her better are meeting other. Exactly no. no. Oh wow. I like no. I'm just kidding. Maybe that's what god's plan and purposes i don't ever say no to anything anymore So again i say this every time we these podcasts. The you wanna love god. Love people and live with hash envision. Bible says people perish for lack of knowledge. The difference between wisdom and knowledge is action so fulfil your god given plan and purpose and until the next episode of the fluids. Podcast have a great rest of your day. God bless bye bye. Thank you for listening to the heat. Lewis podcast. We hope you enjoyed be sure to rate subscribe. Leave bus a five star review and as always you can follow michael on all social media platforms at michael david huey or www dot. Michael david hughes dot com until next time. God bless and take care.

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Episode 87 - Overcoming Challenges to Live Your Best Life: My Conversation with Erik Allen

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Episode 87 - Overcoming Challenges to Live Your Best Life: My Conversation with Erik Allen

"Hey there and welcome to episode. Eighty seven of your personal brand. Today i have a great conversation with a guy named eric allen. He has a couple podcasts. He's got an amazing story of coming adversity in your life. And he's now on the public speaking circuit so get to know this guy before he is the next really big thing out there in the public speaking around. Because i'm just blown away by. So let's just jump right into the interview so eric. Welcome to the show so happy to have you here. Thank you so much such an honor to be here. And i appreciate it no problem. I just wanted to a quick intro for the listeners. And then we can jump into it. You had a little bit of a challenging start. You came from a broken home. You beat up your mom's boyfriend with a cast iron pan for hitting her when you were thirteen so that i think that sort of highlights some of the environment. You're in that lead to you being jailed at eighteen. You're bankrupt at twenty one. You've even had the addiction curse. You bid battled those you're breaking all of those chains a divorce abuse addictions you're sober you've been married for fifteen years congrats on both of those. By the way andrew the host of podcasts. You have the top rated mma in the eric ellen show and you're somewhere in your three hundred episodes now and some of your guests are huge. Names ed my sean whalen. Ken shamrock hardcore closer. Ryan's and eric legrand. Tim story in jim the rookie morris and it was just a few of the names so like i said at the beginning. I am so excited to have you on the show. I love the conversation with jim. The rookie morris. I thought that was very inspiring. Jim great guy. I'm excited. I'm actually talking with him in a couple of weeks as well just to follow up on his new book that just came out called dream makers and it's an excellent book to it was funny in. The beginning of the conversation was amazing. How much the true story paralleled the disney movie other than maybe the radar gun seeing that made the classic scene but it didn't actually happen in real life. The disney version is very much the pg version of gyms life man. Yeah yeah absolutely and the you also do video and so i was watching some of your interviews. I was amazed at like guys like ken. Shamrock and sean whalen. They're still absolutely ripped. Man look like they could step into the ring absolutely. Yeah just great guys. Yeah there's there's so many things we can talk about. Hopefully we can cover a good bit of ground today. But let's just jump right into the podcast as i understand it. You just a hardcore fan. You didn't have any direct connections grasp. I grew up watching pay per views of mike tyson. And things like that as a kid. My dad took me to russell matches. Wwf when it was called wf back in the day. I think i was a ninja for halloween for fifteen years straight so i just been a fan of combat sports. I've never actually fought in the cage. Yes so then. Basically you're goal when starting the podcast was to share some of your passion but also to help up and coming enemy fighters get noticed in. Here's a little interesting intersection for us. Back in two thousand and nineteen. I did some photos for an mma coach guy's name was marshall carper in an up. And coming m. A fighter named kana worthy unfortunately common just lost in the recent ufc to sixty. But that was one of my more memorable shoot nice. So how'd you get started. You didn't have the connections. How did you get started with the podcast. And then start making the connections to what eventually led to some of the names that i mentioned in the intro yet. Top-rated may actually started in two thousand twelve as an apparel company. My wife and i were. Okay let's do something. Let's try to make side gig out of it and so this was during the tap air. My wife came up with the name. And we said how do we make it different and so we came out as probably one or two imi apparel companies in the us. That are one hundred percent american made and it took off way faster than we we're prepared. We started getting calls from germany. Stevens management can. You sponsor jeremy in the afc. And michael sure. How much do you want. Ten thousand dollars like man. I started this couple of five. There's no way so we just did local events where we would set up a booth and sell shirts and then in two thousand fifteen. I got bored with the company. I wasn't making money. I was just like not excited about actually put an ad in craigslist and said anybody wanna buy this company with his brand and other the and one guy called me on it and he was gonna offer me three thousand dollars for the logo. And i in that call man. I'm not done yet. i. I can't quit and so i went back and i kinda restructured new logo new website twenty seventeen. We launched the top rated may podcast. I had no idea what i was doing. All i wanna do is talk to fighters and ask them why they wanna step into a cage get punched in the face and literally in a walk in closet for almost my first hundred episodes bad lighting bad camera bad microphone and things like that and it's just interesting to hear fighters like why get in there. Some of them grew up doing crotty. Some of them did wrestling in transition. But some guys who are like dude. I federal fences and i can't get a real job but i get paid to go fight and i put food on the table and those stories. I just wanted to get the real stories out of fighters what were maybe a couple of those early stories. Because i think in a lot of podcast many people don't go back and listen to those first ten or twenty episodes it but what we're one or two the early stories that sorta made you say man. I gotta keep doing this. I i got to keep moving forward. I always had a passion for people stories. i'm very fascinated with people stories. And i remember one. Fighter out of montana shamed victor and in that guy he had some troubles in his youth. Any got some federal fences and he couldn't get a real job but he could go fight and that was this thing was like. Hey man i've had this crazy life. I've had the addictions i've been in jail in. He was also an entrepreneur because he couldn't go work for somebody so he was a painter. I think or something like that. And so just hearing his story of. I knew that. I had to put food on the table. I had a wife that was supporting me in this. And she was out working and i was fighting for my dream of trying to be this fighter and so he started to make money as a professional fighter. That was the only job he could. And so that would really one because part of my stories in montana but also like battled kind of similar childhood that he did. And i built this up. Really targeting amateur an upcoming fighters. 'cause i wanna know one on one. Help them get known unnoticed online. But i wanna understand like why they want to get in there especially amateur fighters because they don't get paid. There is out there like building the record so that that was what drew me to start the podcast. I think that's really interesting. And again a ton of people who start like side hustles of various types since i guess in amateur as a hobby or maybe they're thinking of it as a potential side hustle and we're not getting paid when we start those kind of things and so i bet you. There's a lot of good discussions in some of those that parallel other challenges in life. Things when you're trying to build a business should try to build a personal so i would encourage people to go back and even if you're not an mma fan. I i would find some episodes that make some sense. And in fact one of the episodes you talked about marketing. Yourself as a as a m a fighter and one of the things you mentioned in there you gotta be active on social media right. You're not even going to talk to the person really if they're not active on social media and i think that's a great parallel for business and personal brains in general. Yeah exactly i te parallel with. We know when asked why you want to go get punched in the face. It's the same thing for entrepreneurs like why do we want to go get punched in the face hopefully not physically but we get all the knows all the rejections right like. Why do we want to go. Put ourselves through that and then fight for that dream. So that's that parallel between my to podcasts. And let's talk about that. So you have two podcasts. And i'm actually preparing a second show as well so another thing that we have in common. What prompted you to start. That second podcast. And it's called the eric allen show. I just wanted to understand. You started seeing traction in the first one yemen and then you started the second podcast which is similar. because it's still you but it has a different focus. Yeah much different focus. I've always been this entrepreneur guy started mowing lawns at ten years. Old had clients by the time. I was eleven return customers and things like that and as i'm doing my intimate show i come across a guy online named ed my let and i'm like man. I don't know who this guy is. But i just started binge watching all of this stuff. I was like this guy is so good and this is like in the early two thousand eighteen timeframe i think and then he did this thing. Where one after watching the show. I decided to start my second. Podcast so i wanted to talk with entrepreneurs world changers and success minded people. That was my idea to start a second podcast but at the end of two thousand eighteen. Use the max out challenge and yet. It's the middle one. Minute story to him via stories on instagram. To his million followers is what he issued this. Challenge out to see what your pash about. What drives you to success. Why do you wanna do you wanna do. And i submitted this story in about a month and a half later. He announced me as the winter. So i'm the max i'm ed my let max out challenge winner of two thousand eighteen. There was a church guy that we both want at the same time are we were both winners and That was awesome and to my knowledge. He's never done that. Challenge since but it was great. I landed a phone call with ed and it was life changing man. And that's what inspired me to push my second show out okay. So let's we got to know what was in that video right. You know out of a million followers. I don't know how many videos were submitted. But what could you have said to be the person who stood out those entries. Man i think the and i have the video on my my website. You can check it out at air media dot com the video that i submitted i think i just real guy was like look ed. Here's my thing man. I work full. But that's not what i want to be doing. My passion is to be speaking life into people. And i want to have this freedom where they don't have to ask bosman if i can go go check out. My kids play at the school during the day. I just don't want that in. My passion is to talk to people and understand their stories. And i wanna be able to coach them and help them through that and i think maybe just heard the passion of my heart and that's what tomb and it was awesome. So that's awesome. And i think you hit on something. There are a lot of people who are entrepreneurs rich or freelancer. Start throwing thing they start that side hustle because they have that dream of that flexibility that freedom to be present and not be constrained by somebody else's schedule that is in some ways arbitrarily defined and what are some of the. Maybe some of the other things that you've learned in your shows that you would give advice to people who were fighting that battle neither literally in the ring or just fighting the battle in taking the punches you said it to build their side hustle to pursue that freedom. You have to stay committed and you have to stay consistent and for me. I wake up at four. Am six days a week because it allows me to work on my podcast. My business and growing mentally during the day. Before i start my nine to five. I still do work a nine to five. But then five o'clock. I go and spend time with my family but i get up early. Because i know that they're sleeping and i can have that solo time to grow and me mentally business wise things like that and people like. Why do you wake up at four. Am six days a week. Here's the thing is my desire to be. Successful is bigger than my desire to sleep. And so that's what drives me to my end goal is i want the property where compe- off my front porch and that's literally i have it on my wall. If my neighbors are to close the if i can't pay off my front porch my neighbors were to close. That's my end goal. that's awesome. I love. That's now so clearly defined as well as i can hear the passion in your voice and i can hear the determination in the drive and when i think back to your childhood right. You didn't live a kind of childhood that probably many people can really identify with Because it was tough some people might call it a troubled childhood. It was definitely difficult. Yeah looking back on at this point has given you. Maybe just a touch of an advantage because you've had to learn to fight you've had to learn to be determined to get what you want. Yeah i think so. I mean i think it made me the person who i am today and i don't regret going through that because ed my let tony robbins. They both say quote that. I think fits most people where they say life happens for us not to us now. I don't think that. I i do think the bad things happen to good people. Sometimes and that's unfortunate but that quote does tend to work for me in my situation. But i did go through that but it's made me stronger who i am today. It's made me so much determined to make my marriage better my business better my life better like my kids will never experience the life that my wife and i experience because she came from a broken home as well. And that's amazing. I was that first major turning point in your life the turned in a more positive direction because it seems like up to twenty one things digging go. Maybe as most of us would have planned. Yeah i think between the ages of thirteen. When i did have to fight my boyfriend up until i was twenty four i had about a ten year span where i was just lost at new idea. What's going on. I was in jail at eighteen bankrupted. Twenty-one worked in the music business which was my dream job but it opened the door for many more addictions i had already had so i was living. This rock star lifestyle backstage. Don't a play anything in sales and marketing side. But i probably two year span hundred seventy five concerts backstage living that rockstar lifestyle. Then i got laid off from universal records. And i was working at starbucks and night and i was just depressed dude in. I remember this girl came in. And she said hey. I've got this cool college age event at our church. Would you be interested in going and for me. Being depressed no friends. I would literally get off work and go get my six pack of beer. Go to hollywood video movie. Go pass out of my ghetto apartment and that was it and so i was like when someone like said come do this. I was like yeah. I'll go absolutely so. I go down there and not really expect anything but i knew that if i wanted to get out of this depression i had to go be around positive people and so i go there and ended up knowing all these people from the other side of the state. This was in seattle and all these people that i grew up around right man. I remember you from college. I remember from high school. Is this weird connection. And i think that was the seed that got planted in me and about probably a month or two later. It was easter two thousand four. I was managing a ban. We went out partying the night before. And i literally woke up easter morning. And which tomorrow our guests were coming up on easter. Now twenty. twenty one here just a couple of days but easter two thousand four. I wake up in my buddies basement surrounded by probably fifteen people all passed out in that moment. Thank god same. And you're done and i quit cold drinking drugs cigarettes just like that and i gave my life to christ in that morning in that basement just myself. I was like lord. I'm just giving you everything that i've gone through and i'm just trust believing that you've got to change. You've got a better plan for my life. And i called that girl up. Who invited me to that college event. And i got her voice must at. Hey thank you so much for vitamin that thing of the seat. The store happy easter about a month earlier we were dating and now actually celebrated sixteen years of being married. That's amazing. I love that you've incorporated your faith into your brand and hearing that sort you piff. Any story is it really at almost brings tears to my eyes. So it's an amazing feeling. Do you ever get any push back on how you incorporate. Jesus your faith and your bible into your material. I don't i think for me. I get that the probably some of the most judging people in the world are christians. And i totally understand and for me. I am a christian. But here's my thing is i. Don't judge anybody so my job to judge anybody whether you're presidential preference sexual preference. Whatever right and that's i'm a big believer just loving people where they're at in. They wanna come to know the lord then the lord will have that happen but it's not my job to judge people for me. I just love loving on people. And so i think hopefully people here that in my voice that i'm not judging anybody in so they just i think they flipped that on me too is i k. He might have a strong faith in christ but he doesn't judge me as a fighter as a person who's a nod. Believe or anything. Like that. And i think that they respect that and they respect my hard work and just love on people and get you do come across as a very compassionate and generous and loving person and i think that's amazing and when we first interacted i sorta surprised who to look into your profile. This is the kind of vibe. I would expect from a guy. That's hard core into the ama type stuff in has had the background you've had so i think you're on amazingly interesting person. Thank you and honestly that heart for other people. I i don't know if you. I didn't see anything profile. Wherever served in the armed forces but you also donate like twenty five percent of your profits. Back to armed forces veterans right. Yeah so. I got one call from a recruiter and i was eighteen. I was probably stoned and said some things that i probably should know said and never got a call back and i do kick myself every day because i have so much respect for people who fight for our country and me and my wife my kids when we're out in town we see when uniform where we walk up to him which i thank you so much man or my kids even even without me seeing. They might see him. I like that. let's go say thank you. Let's go say thank you to the police. Officer that emt. So i wanted to be able to give back so two thousand twelve when we launched top-rated may we said. How do we make this different work. Yes hundred percent. American made but we also wanted to give back brian stand. Ufc fighter at the time started an organization called higher heroes usa. What they do is they train veterans and their families with free job training and job placement. And i'm really passionate about that sort of stuff as and so. I reached out to my said. Hey we'd love to give money to you. Guys be suffers sales in so twenty five percent of all the prophets that i make for my website. We donate to those guys and we've been donated to them since two thousand twelve. So we're coming up on ten years of giving back and this flag behind me from one of my sponsors combat flags mazing guy. It's a one man shop. He's donated over one hundred thousand dollars to stop silver suicide. That's just amazing. And now i'm sitting here thinking you've got the a party. Your brand which is just i was passionate was something that you were into you. Support armed forces veterans. You've woven your faith into your brand and honestly you've embraced the beard as part of your brand to. So what advice would you give to people who feel like. They need to keep their personal in their business passions separate. I think it depends on the person. But i don't think you need to. I think you're passionate whatever you're passionate. Go for it. Forty one now. I didn't share my story publicly. Tell us thirty nine years old. I felt ashamed. I was embarrassed by. And then i came across the guy. Mp vargas who was just giving this talk on shared his story. And i was like man. I'm going to do that. And of course i'm not very smart sometimes so i had to run by my wife. Here's what i put together. Do you think this is okay to relationship. You might get some feedback from family members and stuff like that. And i said i that but i think i need to get this off my my shoulders and i think once i released a huge weight off my shoulders opened up a ton of doors bill to talk and share my faith and then also just encourage people so i think people if they're looking at personal brands and things like that i think be you like. Don't try to imitate anybody unless it's something that you're really passionate about if you're passionate about podcasting then continue to do that can go find people that are doing that. And maybe don't copy people but maybe make your own sort of image or sort of tagline things like they'll help enhance your business and your personal stuff. I think that's great advice. And and i do think that all of us tend to have to go through some struggles. We have to try different things. That don't work out here. We go back to the beginning of top rated. May you started as an apparel company and it just wasn't your thing. It wasn't the thing that really fueled you but it has led that brand to where it is now. And it's funny that you mentioned peop- argus because he put together one of the greatest sort of virtual conferences. I think ever last. I think it was may april may timeframe. Yeah where i. It's just amazing. The people that he can connect with and and do amazing things so it's a granted there were hundred thousand plus people that were involved in that. I wish we would then but i hate it. So that that's awesome and so thinking about your brand and collaborations because you you do some different collapse sponsorship have you got. Have you ever reached out to a brand called beard brand and seeing. If there's something you guys can do together. I haven't heard brand that's a that's a new one. I don't know if i've heard those guys have heard of like beer dot com. But you know. I do a lot of video and brand promo Stuff for beard brands which is found in. my wife. thinks it's funny that i'm like quota beard model. Because i have to do these. These beer brands will send me their products. And they want me to do a promo video and things like that and it's funny because all my friends or randomly send me these pictures. They came across on amazon of me doing a video for this brand victory of famous. I love working with brands and not necessarily just all. I've worked with brands outside of the beer company. But that tends to be like the niche. Then people like are me. You can put the stuff in your beer and do videos. And i love doing that. I love beer brands. So i'm going to have to check those guys out. No problem a new. You're doing some of that stuff. And they were there a brand that i personally. I think they're good. My beard is not as impressive as many. Keep it up my head. A corporate leadership career for so many years that i had to be kept. This is actually a little long for me but anyway a little off topic. So as we've talked i understand why you've started to become a public speaker. Speaking to different things people pay the speak. Because you're you're just very engaging and you have a great presence. Why don't you just tell us about. Tell us about that. Experience of that first speaking gig. What did it make you feel. How did it come about the first speaking gig that i had. It was actually a friend of mine. Who does insurance. But she has a team of people that are underneath her that they were doing a series on bringing in special guest. Speak on referrals and how to enhance your business and stuff like that so my first public speaking talk was on how to build referrals and i think the reason that i was asked to speak. That is because of the people that i've been able to get on my podcast. I'm not like i'm a ten thousand dollar ten thousand download a month podcast guy. I'm still pretty much I would say no in the podcast world. But i have been blessed to be able to speak with guys like ed my latin bedrooms cooling at bradley all those guys and so she's hey how do you get those guys man. How do you refer people to that. And so i spoke to a bunch of insurance agents on how to refer how to get referral partners and things like that. I got paid fifty bucks. It's on my wall right here. And that fifty dollar check. I cashed and said that's the first check but i'm gonna ten x that and i'm going to hundred x that at some point in my life. So it's on my wall to motivate me to get more than. Yeah i did. I spoke about my story. I spoke about. How do i these big name guests. Because i think it's very interesting. People approach getting guests on your show of that. I've seen over the last three years in a very bad way. And i started that. I like sending the same copy and paste template to everybody that you wander show. Hey come on my show. And what i'm about. I quit doing that about a year and a half in. Because i realized it was one horrible and it was spammy and it was stupid and i wasn't getting any traction and so what i did was to get these big names. I literally pull up my cell phone. And i record a thirty second video. Hey ed what's going on it's eric. I'm out here quarterlane idaho. I know you've got a house out here man. You're changing lives. I think you'd be an awesome guest to my guests are my podcast. I think you're a world changer. And i think you could bring so much. And i want to promote what you've got going on with your new book and your new house and things like that. Let's connect thirty seconds. Max send that to be instagram dmed. Direct messenger and that's i booked all of those big names. I'm sitting here and you can see me. I'm like yes because anybody who's in my network anybody who's probably listened to to a good number of of these shows knows how big a fan i am of video messing a way to differentiate yourself and in fact just yesterday i was having a back and forth with somebody on on lincoln because i had sent her a video message when we connect it was like. Hey i just love what you're doin' and everything and then three weeks later she's okay. You have to teach me how to do this because the more i keep thinking about it i just wanted to get to know you better better because of that video. She's like. I need to learn how to do this. It's simple and so what are the other kinds of things you speak about it. Let's head into your speaking career because this is something you want to grow. What kind of topics that you're willing to speak about. Maybe somebody will hear it on on this episode. I'm big on the comeback. So one thing that i really pushed on people is our past not define our future. We can make a change at any moment in our life. We just make a change in. I get that we might have troubles. We might have like sucky past and things like that where we had to go through a dictionary. We had to go through even worse than that like maybe it was more physical abuse right like i went through a lot of emotional abuse and mind said abuse and things like that but i had to fight my way out of that and then ended up. I was in jail and i was drug addicted. But there's people who had so much worse than i did. And i speak on that. Let that be the fuel that starts the fire to change the world. Your story can impact so many people. If you have the kerr's body your comfort zone and go and speak and go and share that story even if one person got impacted and change her life because you have that is amazing and maybe your story itself would be impacted change just by sharing. And that's what happened to me. So i i really wanna talk about people like hey let that be in the past. Share your story over it and then start sharing it with impacting the world. So i wanna teach on that. And i'll talk about morning routines. 'cause i'm very big on that and i think that's what helps set the tone of the day for me. I get two wins out of the way immediately. So if i opened my eyes in the morning i'm like man there's win number one and then i jumped out of bed and i make my bed and there's win number two so i get to wins and fifteen seconds. I'm it's going to be an awesome day so just understanding that if you open your eyes in the day it's going to be an amazing day. I love that perspective. I back in my corporate career. People used to say how you doing. I'm like fantastic. Wonderful great. it'd be like never say you're doing fine. Unlike know life's too short for fine. It's going to be an amazing day of we choose to make an amazing day and things. Don't go perfect right there other. We woke up. We got to experience life. And so that's amazing. So i think your message probably applies to any kind of group. But what are some of your target audiences. I think entrepreneurs are our target audience for for my speaking group. I think people who are maybe doing the high side hustle but still working that nine to five. Because that's what i do. I would never preach on or not preach but never speak on anything that i'm not going through myself like. How do you stay consistent with your side-hustle while you're working nine to five. And so how do you continue to grow your business. And it's really a matter of having that desire that end goal of if you want to be a full time entrepreneur. Awesome if you wanna be a side hustle entrepreneur and stork ninety five. That's great too but let's figure out how you can nail that down to really enhance that thing and maybe it's enhancing your nine to five to that one eventually grow into your side hustle and grow further so for me. The big thing is. I think that's the target audience right. So it's entrepreneurs at podcasters because i teach people how to get podcast going. How do you enhance your podcasts. How do you promote your podcast. How you get those big name guests. I gave the big tip earlier. That's how you would do that inside. Love speaking to guys like that just to be able to launch their podcast entrepreneurs and just encouraging them to keep fighting for their dreams man. That's that's awesome. And i'm sitting here thinking like eight. You have great opportunities that are ahead for you so just dream a little bit like. What's the dream speaking gave. What's the dream thing that you'd love to do in the next twelve months next twelve months i would love to be a fulltime speaker fulltime podcast and coach and so i'm getting ready to launch them online. Coaching courses help people with their podcast. Inside of things like that and then later this year will probably launch him other coaches around the mindset site of stuff in sales. Coaching and things like that. But my end goal. I have it on my vision wall like i literally took vision board idea and i covered my entire wall of my office with everything in so my vision wall really shows a public speaker in front of a crowd and my thing is i am also very a family very much a family man right so i want to be a public speaker but i don't want to be the travel guide. I wanna be on the road. One hundred and eighty days of the year. So if i can do maybe three or four big speaking events throughout the year and the recipe virtual and then in person coaching and virtual coaching. And things like that. That's what i really am passionate about. I wanna be able to do that over the next twelve months. I think that sounds awesome. I have no doubt that you're going to make that happen. I this has been inspiring for me honestly. I can't wait to listen to it. When i ended it and then released under this episode a few other times. What questions should i have asked. you may be overlooked. That's a great question. I've never been asked that. As i guess that's a great question. I think the big question that a lot of people ask me is like how did they get like. How did i get to our amount. How did i decide to make that choice to quit doing the drugs and things like that. And i use this kind of funny concept right. I had to be a quitter. And like what. I had to be a quick. I had quit. Being negative quicken. Planing quit hanging around negative people. Doing drugs quit being lazy. Quit being comfortable. And i had to be a quitter. I had to quit doing. I had to quit being a quitter. Because i would start all these things like i get excited about and then i quit so i had to have to be a quitter to get to our matt. It's funny concept. But that's i think that's what helps people and so we have to be quitter sometimes to get where we wanna be. Yeah i think that's a great message and even to me the simple thing that there are people who feel like once they start a book they have to finish it i. I don't have time to read a book. That isn't serving me or is not interesting whatsoever. So i get eight thousand one hundred pages in like. Oh my gosh. This is brutal. I just stop right there. There are a million other. So i'm going to read somebody else. So yeah i think that's great. I had the idea we do have to stop a part of us actually just to go back to the faith metaphor or old self has to die. In order for us to be reborn. I and i think it's like that in business. And and in our personal lives there are phases over life. Where we have to quit doing we have to being. We have to quit thinking the way we always have in order to step into that next level of greatness so i think that's a great message. Thank you thank you. So where can people find you if they wanna do collapse if they they're a beer brand or somebody else or they just want to work with you in some way working. They find you eric. Allen media dot com is the best place to get a hold of me. You can check out all my videos and things like that. My podcasts are on there. I'm very active on instagram. So eric g. l. e. r. i k. And so eric gallon on instagram. And so i love connecting to network with people so i respond to all comments all. Dm's very big on responding and really connecting with people. I hate it when people are like make a comment or i'll make a comment and then they just don't even acknowledge it and i think as someone who's trying to say. Hey thank you for that post. And then you don't get anything that's unsatisfying or so i love connecting in responding every comment and gm. It's the social part of social media right. Yup absolutely absolutely. Hey this has been a ton of fun. I look forward to continuing to find ways that we can get to know each other better. Collaborate help each other achieve our goals. His you've been an absolutely discussion. And i wish you success and thanks again they aaron so much man such an honor to be here man. I appreciate it.

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Knowing Your Assignment Is Everything with Tim Storey

The HeFluence Podcast

43:56 min | 1 year ago

Knowing Your Assignment Is Everything with Tim Storey

"In nineteen-eighty-seven, I'm speaking for my good friend John Osteen and he has a son and he says Tim. Can you meet my son? He really likes your lot. It's kind of shy true story. Yeah, and he was running the media department. And so he was the media guy. I was the guy I was the guy I was just dance Church my twenties. This guy Joel ran circles around me as many times as Jake's so here's my point. I realized I'm not the Messiah really I do not have a messiah complex. You were listening to dine fluids podcast and we're having handed and actionable conversations about your health relationships business and Ministry and now he's your host the second chance coach for men Michael David Huey guys, welcome to another session of the he fluence podcast. It is an actual cloudy day here in Florida, and we've had some really crazy weather here. But today is just a special day. It's it's you know, when you when you get to spend time with people that you've admired from a distance for a long time and then you get the build a relationship and have a friendship with with them and and and just the impact that they can make not only in your life, but the people's lives that God brings around you we Tim and I were just hiding about the the mutual connections we've had recently in the friends that we've connected with and I actually met Tim at thrive. Almost two years ago now and my wife and I got to sit like right beside the stage and Tim has a very Discerning spirit and and he took some things at that time that have come to past and Jim knows my story and me and Lisa story and we were just chatting about how God is radically changed that around and you know, I'm just going to share a little box Tim and then I want people to intimidate I know today that in our short period of time that we're going to spend the next 30 to 40 minutes with you is that we're going to give you impact that can radically change your life and I believe that if you took the best thing that you can do is when you listen to this whether you're watching it on YouTube or you're watching it on Spotify or anchor wherever you're listening or watching that you will implement the things that you hear you will not just be hearers of what your of the word that's going to be spoken today, but you'll be doers of it. You'll take it out. You'll share it you impact people's lives. And so one thing I like about Tim is that Tim is is dead. To give you my opinion of Tim. Okay, cuz I I believe Tim knows it that there's a prophetic anointing when you speak into people's lives and when you receive from people, right and we were just talking about my friend. Actually this episode will go live next week. And this week's episode is a very good friend of mine. Now James and Robious got who Tim knows very very well and we were off we were laughing about this last week. And and so it's a consistent time that we get to be around people that are called by God to make a massive impact in the in Home and Community in their cities or states and in our nation and in our world, so Tim's a best-selling author, you know his new book. I just downloaded recently to start reading come back and Beyond Lisa and I are allowed to read it together. I downloaded it for her. She downloaded it from me and so in my eyes, you know Tim Tim. I'm going to speak to you about from my perspective then I'll tell you from from the world's perspective. What Tim's he's I see Tim Kingdom Minded man of God. All right, I see him as a giver. I see him as a servant. Okay. I see him as a servant. He's missions minded, right? His desire is to see men and women all around the world walk and their god-given purpose in calling I hear it from the from from things that he does when he speaks out in the world the anointing Kong inflows like when he spoke at ten X and all these different places that God has used him in the market place to show people the truth about who God is using the his gifts and his talents. He's an author. He's a life coach. He's worked with some amazing people that we know like Lee Iacocca and Quincy Jones and Oprah recently my wife and I we were just doing some YouTube searches of suck the talks that Tim has done just to just as personal development. We've seen some of his conversations with Oprah and and and and how I know that maybe on the outside those don't look as important but on the inside job The mass of impact that they have right and so I just want to Welcome to the influence podcast my friend and and and like my wife said she she said to tell Tim high but she said let them know that that that the importance of of praying for one another and being encouragement his his right hand Joseph. Mendoza has became a very close friend of me and leases. We we text each other we pray for each other we pray for him and I breathe I believe that the longest relaxed lasting relationships that you'll have in life are people that you can pray for and that people that make an impact in your life. And so I just want to say thank you and welcome to the influence podcast Pastor author and speaker Tim story. Thank you. My friend Michael. You just build my faith. That was very powerful cuz you you were able to frame my life like most people cannot Is it number one? I'm called so, you know Fusions for one says to walk worthy of your calling but something about the calling is number one song. It is always specific. Number two it is unique. And number three it is unpredictable. And so can I go there just for a minute? No. Yes, absolutely. Well and thank you for that. So so do that cuz I usually don't take notes but like the Lord just told me to take some notes. So let's let's go for it to him. So so number one. This this come from you talking about what I do is so my idea is that I always wanted to just walk worthy of the calling. But again, number one, the calling is specific and specifically I felt my calling was to serve people to love people to build people up to really walk and Isaiah sixty-one and two to speak Jesus to bring people beauty and exchange them for their ashes. So as a you know, it's it's a it's a great exchange. So never says he'll put Beauty on your ashes. He says he'll exchange him. So so number one. I knew my calling was specific wage. I never knew that. My calling was really unique. I felt different. I felt unique I felt that I was not supposed to be normal or common but I didn't know I was allowed to be and and this is good for a lot of people that are watching right now is that you are called to do something that's amazing and some of you are not giving yourself a great mm to be the unique person that God called you to be And so uniquely God called me to not just speak to the Christian world but to speak to the secular world and I remember Michael when that started to happen. Some people got nervous or like. Oh man. I hope Tim's not selling out. Why is he doing that? Cuz you know, I started a Hollywood Bible study in nineteen, ninety two and all these people started flocking to it and people would say like, how come that person's there? He's not Christian or how come she's they're they're not Christian, but that was the whole idea is I was trying to reach out to a bunch of people who would not usually walk or being Jesus. You were being Jesus. Yeah, so specific unique and unpredictable and unpredictable. You could impact that one too because you know how beautiful this life is that God will take you into places faces and let you age. Faces that you never even conceived in your mind could happen. Yeah, and and so thank you for saying that because I I really have I was sharing this with Tim before is that you know, I I've been through those seasons and you know, it breaks my heart to see cuz sometimes people like I'm almost timid Tim to say that I had a great 2021 right like 20 21 has been one of the best years of my life cuz I look at what's going on in the world and I look at I you know unemployment and I look at you know, every commercial is people battling about you know, who's going to win the presidency and who to vote for and how to vote for as a Christian. My pastor did a message this past weekend on Thursday and it and it and it encouraged me but it's it's it's great that you said that because it's specific unique and unpredictable in that speaks to me that and hopefully That speaks to the people that are listening because that's a representation of of how God can use you to understand how specific you are how unique you are and how unpredictable life can be how we can see those things. So tell me a little bit about yourself cuz I know you have kids. I know you I know I feel like I know you but I would like to know you better off me a little bit about your story and like where you came from how you're you were raised and in that type of thing. So I think what I'd like to start in this story is that the fact that when I was a young person, you know, my mother was overwhelmed because my father passed when I was ten in a car accident and so she raised, you know, five kids on her own and so But the cool thing Michael is that is overwhelmed as my mother was she gave us a little room to be ourselves. So all five children are extremely different all five children are extremely driven and I think that lack can either make you want to just sit down and have more lack she or lack lack can make you wake up and decide to get a bunch here it out. Right so often has decided to get up and get abundance, but I will say this about my childhood. Is that with my father missing? Wow, God brought amazing people to my life my sixth grade teacher who took a big interest in me. And he said I was brilliant and he said because of your Brilliance. I want to give you this book to read and it was on the life of Michelangelo. And when I read that book man, my mind just went beyond and Juice connected to me cuz I'm I'm an artist and so then my then my little league coach that was literally in that same year who just saw the champion in me off and he was always like mentoring me talking to me. So I would say that even though I was unfortunate because of mishaps and misgivings in my life and am being lower-income. Like wow. God always finds ways to provide And he did it through people who helped shaped me to become the man that I am today. And that and so so tell me about that. You said this is really cool that you brought this up cuz tell me about your 5 your other brothers and sisters tell me a little bit about them cuz that that makes me curious because when I see Tim stone, I'd say bring up three topics at the beginning. I'm wondering kind of you said that you guys either figured it out. You know, it's like it's like it's like jumping out of the airplane and and figuring out how to pull the the cord and if he can't figure it out you die right or you just figured out on the way down. Like my dad said my dad used to say, so tell me about your brothers and sisters. I think one of the cool things is that for a quote-unquote minority family. We were like very original like my well my older sister is just so so smart and she was in the minimum wage for like twenty years. That's part of what she's done and just super smart philosophical the second one was a hippie. It's like wage How do you get like a coming out of you know we were born in Compton and then she becomes like a hippy. And in fact when she was twenty. She took a big van a Volkswagen van began, right? It had peace signs on and stuff. So but it was something that I learned about white music from her cuz she was in the James Taylor. She was she was in the Jimmy Buffett Jimmy Buffett. Yeah, she was a hippie and then and then a third sister got into modeling early and but she was interesting too because I remember one time she walked in my room and she says Timmy cuz cause I'm the youngest. Oh, you're the youngest. Okay so far. Yeah. Okay, so she's she comes. She's like she's six and a half years older so she comes in she goes Timmy. You see the clothes you have in your room. I go. Yeah, like the pants on the floor I go. Yeah, but just today she goes, okay, and then forget she claps and she goes off watch how fast? You can pick those up. I'm just going to stand here. And hang them correctly and watch how fast you can clean up this whole room. I said, okay, give me a time limit cuz I was a learner. She goes 12 minutes. I'll never forget this and she goes but the pants I'm going to pick up first cuz I'm going to show you how to do it off. So you can do it right next time true story. She gets a pants fold them on the bed gets a hanger hangs them and then she goes off you watch and then you do it next time. So she just starts going boom. Boom. Boom. Boom boom and like eight minutes of my you my room is totally uniformed. It I have not stopped living that way since I was about to say, I don't think you stop living that way since right. I was fixed. I'm really not joking. I am so often eyes in my mind. In my schedule, you should see my closets my house. Everything's organized it started with her saying I'll do it. So almost there my brother who for years older than me. Okay, what happened to him? He became a surfer it was every other year was Minister the should be the model and now the surfer so he became a server and his thing was Timmy. Listen come over here. I'm working on a car off to teach you how to work on it. But now what's my skill-set so he could like tear car down and build the whole thing up not no joke. So when when I was like fifteen years he was about nineteen and he used to get Volkswagens and tear them down and build him up and then sell him. Okay. He was like a little entrepreneur and so I remember he just come on get underneath him and just off. Can feel good I would do it right but I had no idea what was going on. I can't see you underneath the car too often know but what I love what I love is that comes from lower-income. We did not sit in our setbacks settle our cement ourselves, but we allowed ourselves to be uniquely creative and create our own Lanes foil. And do you intend do you still to this day? Do you have good relationships with all of your or super super super super close super close? And my mother is still strong. She's eighty nine months. She'll be she'll be 90 on March 1st, and she is like feisty and strong. So yeah, we're we're extremely close because I think that a lot of times when people go through a lot together it either brings them closer or sometimes it divides them for us were extremely close. We we now you take care of each other love each other back each other up. Yes, so I'm guessing that do all of them. Family know the Lord. How does yeah, very very strong with God. And what happened is that my father he was not raised in a Christian Home nor was my mother but it was it was a lady who I'm going to use an old term. She was a checker at a supermarket. Okay. I know it. I know that says I get Kroger or Ralph's or Albertsons, I grew up in Kroger. So I I get it. Yeah. I know you're in Kroger country. That's why I said I'm actually in Publix Country now, but but Ohio was originally when I was really from as a Kroger company wage you are in Publix country that Publix is everywhere Publix was actually created right over here in Lakeland, which is like, you know forty minutes from me. So there's a Publix on every corner here in Florida. So long now the wild thing is is that that's why I went to college in Lakeland Florida really at Southeastern. I went to Southeastern University in Lakeville, you know, that's the that's the wild dog. Is I remember several of my friends have went to school there and several of my friends have taught their Doctor Charles golden who is a good friend of mine spiritual Mentor is actually teaching there now and and off. Yeah, so that's awesome. So Tim, this is really cool here in a couple days. Your age is going to change. Yeah, but don't tell him I say to my age. I'm I tell you what it was just a joke. So I was just messing with you know, you wish me happy birthday exactly, but I don't I don't go on the age. I'm going to tell you what else because when I was in my twenties doing a lot. They would say, how old are you young man? I'd say pushing Thirty. And I was like twenty-three cuz I was traveling the world starting at age 20. Okay speaking. The big crowds of twenty-two twenty-three. So I say pushing Thirty right? And then it's weird now that I Feel So Young in my spirit and young at heart and look young enough. Yeah, you look really young and I don't I don't go on the age thing but my birthday is coming up soon November 2nd. I saw that November 2nd see I'm a forward thinker. I'm a big fan of the things I learned from Brendon burchard is always know your your your your surroundings know people who you're you're you're round and people so no, that's that's that's awesome. And I love it that, you know, I I just turned I had my 52nd birthday just just recently and and I don't I'm doing things that I did in my thirties like physically wise right like yeah exercising taking care of myself that type of stuff. So tell me about Cong The things you do cuz I know Joseph always tells me you're you're very forward thinker. You're you're pretty healthy. Tell me tell me some of the things that you do to stay grounded in your health and and in staying young because you've been doing that for many years. We'll just say yeah, so so tell me tell me how you stay on top of things and some things that you do to to keep yourself rooted and grounded in intentional about things that you do especially since you're so organized. So in In fairness to the public that are watching so I started at twenty And I've been doing this over 37 years. But notice that said over. I still didn't give it away. I know I'm not giving it away either. I can't help but laugh it's good. Okay, so, you know, thank goodness for my sister who taught me to clean my room in eight minutes cuz this is how I do my life. Yep. So so number one I go to bed early for most people I go to bed about eleven months. But I wake up at 4:45 a.m. And I do one hour devotion every single morning. So I study the Bible. Either through just reading myself or I listen to a sermon. Okay, and then I have my prayer time and I Life Worship now, I do that because I'm very connected to God. So the Bible says the people who know their God shall be strong and do great exploits. Amen. So the word know as you know is the word yada yada which is to know an intimate way. And so when I got really turned on to God at Seventeen, I wanted to know him and you know, the Bible says that the children of Israel to know the acts of God or Miracles, but Moses wanted to know his ways So, that's me. I don't study like just some strong for the day. I study cuz I'm a God Seeker. I love the things that God I really do but out of that the Overflow is that you'll be strong and do great exploits. So I start off with my whole life time because of covid-19. It took away me going to Gold's Gym five days a week and we put a home gym in my garage. So one of my friends whose family owns this company right here. Niagara yeah, and he's part of the ownership. He put a whole gym in my house, but at the high-level Like there were people coming in assembling the equipment like if you went if you took Gold's Gym equipment and put it in your garage and your garage, but it does not look like garage. It's looks like a gym now. Yeah, you got good stuff in there cold. Just put one in his garage see and then I have a trainer and so this guy he worked very very hard for guy that his young as me. So I do all this kind of stuff because I want to be alive in my life. So I think a lot of people are going through life. I want to be alive in my life. So the reason I see I'm single so I I can't cook right now. I cook a couple of things but I could write to me leave him at least you're honest. Yeah cookies said I cook I do only reason I'm laughing at you is cuz I do all the cooking cuz I'm I didn't know that. That being a nutritionist and and you know, I don't even know if you knew this, but I just got accepted to get my PhD and nutrition. I'll be finishing my dissertation next year. So this this page has all happened at the end of a 21-day fast. I got my I got I got accepted. I interviewed a doctor on my podcast and he's like, I want you to finish your dissertation. I'm going to give you a representation and in a way of getting your Ph.D. So in the 20 21, I'll be finishing in writing my dissertation in my PhD. So I do all the cooking so that doesn't have to do any of that stuff. You can say In fairness to is amazing. Why police officer? It doesn't mean she can't cook. I mean like to you means you love to cook. Yeah, and she doesn't really like to if you Tim if you said hey Lisa, do you like to cook she would say she said no, she'd say no place like does a great job at the shopping and all that. You really became even a greater catch by being able to be the entrepreneur you are spiritual man that you are, etc. Etc. Plus he cooks ladies and gentlemen. Yeah, so tell me what you do. Do you have a you have a cook or do you have a meals delivered? What do you do since you don't have meals delivered but it's from my friend who owns his own restaurant? Okay, so that's cool right off. Yeah, that's really cool. You see that? I'm kind of bougie. Because you reap what you sow so like you I'm a soldier. I'm always giving something. I'm I'm helping somebody through something or giving something doing an Choi it comes back to you a hundred percent in money or what money can I buy like, I didn't tell that these people give me a gym. He said I want to do it, Are you sure because Tim come on, you gotta come on we need you strong and and then let me get you the right trainer and then boom bam bam bam bam. So I do the exercise thing. I do the the the God thing cuz I'm into God and then, you know, I'm in the ministry, but also I'm probably fifty percent in the country and fifty percent businessman and but for a hundred a hundred aren't you Tim? You're a hundred a hundred. Hey, I never heard that but I'll take that. You gotta be a hundred a hundred years. 100 in the ministry in a hundred and you know what? 50/50 did not sound good I didn't. Well, that's I mean, so I'll just say this I used to say that like I used to say, well, you know, I'm you know, I'm fifty percent in one business and 50% in another right cuz I had to write and and and and and my coach said well, you're going to be a seven-figure earner this year. So why would you be fifty-fifty anything aren't you a hundred and a hundred? I was like, okay you just change you are referring me today. I'm telling you. What did I will never say fifty-fifty again because fifty-fifty means like I'm split and I'm like almost divided like I've device entrance off cuz I have force in the ministry and have for some business. You're forced a hundred percent in both now. Wow, I take that so I do that and I'm very disciplined in that area too. But it was it's an 8:00, and it's not it's not it's not discipline cuz every Kong overachiever have to prove its discipline out of it feels good to do it, right? And then if I do it wrong, then I asked somebody to help me. I'm not I'm not afraid to get tutors in life. Best people have them I am tutors everywhere. I got faith in finances. I have tutors about my taxes. I have tutors about my health. I have tutors about God I have tutors. Well, it's good that you said that so so tell me when you're so how how do you this is a great question. I got two more questions and we'll finish up. I got I want to know how you balance now that we've reframe this one hundred a hundred. How do you how do you balance out your responsibilities as a Ministry? Cuz cuz here's what I I interviewed my friend Cody Jefferson who was in the ministry full-time and now he he he he got told him to go into full-time entrepreneurship. He still feels that now it's just changed places, right? He he went from behind the pulpit into full-time Ministry wage. And so how do you balance out the time you spend in business in the time you spend as an entrepreneur, give you a funny answer. You're going to enjoy. All right, so I'm in my twenties. I was Superman. So if if I was to tell the truth, no one was getting as many invitations is me speaking at the biggest churches in the world. I was setting off kinds of records at 24 25 26 at 29. I had a conference with the biggest speakers in the body of Christ and registered 6884 a conference call forceful men and I was twenty-nine years of age. Okay. I was on Oral Roberts board at the same age. So I was just like this boy wonder and then what happened I'm telling you about how I found balance. I didn't know where in Nineteen Ninety Four I'm speaking at a conference and I meet this guy named TD Jakes little did I know he was going to run circles around my eyes seven times have a church of 30000 be in the movie business have a Women's Conference that Drew 80,000 in Atlanta. Okay. I'm not done in nineteen-eighty-seven. I'm speaking for my good friend John Osteen and he has a son and he says Tim. Can you meet my son he really likes you a lot. He goes he's kind of shy true story. Yeah, and he was running the media department. And so he was a media guy. I was just the guy I was the guy I was at the dance Church my twenties. This guy Joel ran circles around me as many times as Jake's so here's my point. I realized I'm not the Messiah really I do not have a messiah complex know and I say that because I think most ministers do they do yeah, I agree. So I do not because my gosh what those guys are doing alone. So I do my portion I do my assignments. And God puts favor on those assignments. And so I like music. I like laughter. I like comedy. I like being creative. I just create a new dog cartoon. I'm doing a dog cartoon like with Randy Jackson from American Idol, it's on it's about dogs and music. It's going to be huge. I do cartoons plays. I have fun you like you like animals Tim. I do I like I like animals a lot. Now. The reason that I do not own a dog really is because I've travelled my whole life. So I tried I had an amazing dog female named Bella and amazing and so my sister who's one of them was female. She's basically said to give me the dog. Yeah. I it's funny you bring that up because I my my phone number I'm so leasing. I moved over closer to be closer to my family. Right and my dad has this dog that it's like like I love this dog to him. Like I we can't have a dog either because we kind of have they have yet to be wage, you know where we live at and stuff and and and and we and be traveling in US lease and I'm being gone so much. We same thing. Right but I just loved that freaking dog and now they're going to go away for three for three or four weeks. I'm like really like you're gonna take her away for three and it's funny reason I asked you about dogs is because one of my one of my best friend's is a world noun dog trainer in California. He lives in San Diego, California and the things I found the dog whisperer, okay, and the things that he does with dogs is is he at least has paid for him to go up to spend time with her sister up in Chicago. He stayed a whole week and she has two pits that can't be around each other they have anxiety and when they were in when he was done after the whole week they were able to walk off the leash. They were able to go to the gym. It outside the store in the mall and just sit there. I mean in one week he told that dog from wanted it yet. And and it's right. So he's a born-again Christian guy and God's anointing him to do this and walk dogs. Just I mean eat out of his hands and so he's so it's it's it's it's funny that that you brought that up that that's I do I do like pets so that was your question. Yes. Yeah. Yeah, you do like pets. Okay. So here's my question. What is the next cuz we're not talking about age here. So what is the next? Yeah season, let's just say the next decade. Okay, what does what does that look like to you? What are some because my pastor so so before I go into it, I'll say this one thing cuz I wanted to comment on something that you said that really touched my heart. I have been I've been blessed to sit underneath pastors. Yes who have brought us in quickly into the fold like my wife has a strong prophetic gift and the last three churches we've been in cuz we've we've moved a couple of birth. Like will be there short period of time in the pastures are given my wife the mike to prophesy right to speak words of wisdom. And and and I'm teaching now on Sunday mornings. I was preaching from the office you want to preach the Sunday. I'm like really, you know, so that anointing and you know what Tim they have been pastors that are humble like you that see the best in people don't judge people. They they they they they they they they're word of God men. They don't see themselves as the Messiah they see themselves as a representation. So I'm so glad that you brought that up cuz that confirmed to me that I've moved I've been under and you know even in and thank you for this before you answer. This question is that it's hard to be a pastor and be friends with everybody right? It's it's it's a it's you you have to stick with those relationships and I'm just going to give God the glory here because I've had like intimate relationships with my last three pastors like it says a lot. Yeah, and and even one of them like dead. His son, Michael koulianos has a massive Ministry over here called the Jesus image over here in Orlando in the school's over here and and just we leased and I'd want to pour In Touch Ministries and into human track, you know to support human trafficking in that stuff. So I kind of like it that now, you know, most of the Kingdom Tim has stopped dreaming has stopped believing have stopped dead. You know, it's you and I talked about this before they they they're struggling with their health are struggling with their finances. They have no vision and no purpose. So as you answer that and as we finish and then I want to tell people how they can connect with you and more and get to know you a little bit better, but tell me some things that you're looking forward to some things that you see vision and purpose that God has you doing that can inspire people cuz I think a lot of people are listening today. Yeah. This has been awesome. Thank God has just taken this whole entire conversation and used it and I want us to finish that way. I wanted want to kind of see what your thoughts are where you're going and and how how you want to impact people's lives cuz I I know my dog So my answer is based on a script for some 78 it says Tell the Next Generation about the praiseworthy Deeds of the Lord and so the whole idea was for the children of Israel to tell their children's children about how miraculous God is and that my thing is, you know, my new book with harpercollins comes out in March called Miracle mentality. Hm. So how cool is that that harpercollins which is a secular company will let me write a book called Miracle mentality. And so this is what I'm about is teaching people to Miracle mentality to believe in miracles. Secondly do expect miracles and then you begin to receive Miracles and you'll become a miracle and then you'll release Miracles. So the world is looking for a miracle releasers. And you could be a miracle releaser in your family at your job in this nation, whatever country you're from. So my idea is to Mentor people off one of the things that we're doing that I'm so excited about cuz people have been trying to get me to deal for ten years is I now have a life coaching school where you can get certified as a life coach through my Tim story training. So I'm giving you thirty years of my experience of a life coach and it is a seven week online course and then for two years, I continue to Mentor you online which is as you know Underdog that's a long time. So I'm excited about the Tim story life coaching certification. And because I I think that once you have a miracle mentality off It gets deep inside you you're going to release it. You're going to you're going to learn to release it. So that's where I'm at. I'm in the mentoring people about the miracle mindset awesome and so long as you finished tell me something that as we as we finish and then I'll tell people where they can connect with you something that maybe God has laid on your heart that you can just speak because as I said, I told Tim when before we got on I used to have kind of a structure of how I did this and then and then I'll just tell you I told Joseph this and God just said hey, why are you doing it like that? And I was wondering what do you mean right? He's like your life giving any room for me to kind of Step In Your praying before but then you just have this structure. So you invited me in but then you're putting the handcuffs on me. So maybe something that has been on your heart recently that maybe you can share their just can send us away and then I'll let people know how to connect with you more. I can do this. I'm going to do a 2-minute message and timing. I think so many people are getting frustrated. And so many of you get frustrated with yourself because of disappointment. And so what you do is you fold you fold in your dreams you fold in your thoughts you fold in your visions of what you thought you were supposed to be but it's important not to fold like folding and poker folding your cards down while you're still unfolding. So God is unfolding new things in your life. So please do not fold while you are still unfolding. The Bible says for God knows the end from the beginning and he knows what has yet to unfold you are still beautifully unfolding. Please do not fold. Wow. Wow. So I love Tim said don't fold why you're still folding? Okay and unfold you still unfolding. Yeah. Yeah, and and it's really funny cuz my my my I come from a family that loves to play cards ROM. And so my my my dad was always saying why are you trying to finish the game before? It's finished right? Like your he said you you think too far ahead like can't you just focus on smoked, you know what we're doing right now and and obviously my my my father and my stepmom are getting older so they play a lot of cars and so they've convinced my wife to love cards. I don't know if I'm really the biggest card fan Tim, but my home my wife now loves, you know, let's play UNO. Let's put you know, all these games that we played back in the in the eighties, right? And and so so Tim tells this tell us how people can connect with you more often. I know Instagram some of those things just tell us how they can connect with you maybe about your life coaching certification and how they can connect and be a part of that and thank you. So if you just go to Tim stores and then they'll put that down. It's just Tim and then Storey Tim story, then you'll find out all the things we do. We also have a show on GE. Is daily Facebook that has over thirty three million followers. I do a show every Wednesday with Sally cologne. It's fantastic. And I'm going to have you on that one. Just so you know awesome. But if you go to Tim story, you'll see what we do. And please look into this life coaching certified coaching. If you're a mother a father a coach a teacher is for anybody that's in leadership. And that's all of us awesome. Well, so guys the only way you get to really walk through this information as we finish is that you'll go to Tim story, and I have it on my screen behind me right now. So I know what's Tim's talking about and I will will put all that in the show notes and and guys, I hope that if you'll go and check on this when this goes live next week. And as I said Tim, there's no coincidence in the way. God has put this together with two of our friends James and Robious Scott's interview going this week and then Tim Gough Next week and and then I have some really amazing things coming up Les Brown and Manny Lopez are going to be on in a couple of weeks. And so there's some really cool awesome things that are that are coming and Thursday. So I'm grateful for you Tim as a brother in Christ, but just as a friend and you're you're servanthood and you're giving and so guys listen and share this share this with people let people know go to Tim's story, start to listen to us thing. I just wrote myself three pages of notes, which I never normally do but I'm going to go and start listening to his show on Wednesdays because Wednesday's I kind of stopped at like 4:30 at 5:00. And so I will have the availability do that. There is one thing I will say Tim is there's a good friend of mine that I just and and I felt like that I need to share and I'm going to connect you with her her and her husband Scott long run the the Christian television network in Las Vegas. They took it over about a little over two or three years ago. Dr. Caroline. She's a she's a profit and and her husband Scott or just two of the month. Amazing people. They're one of my my wife's mentors. I don't know if you know Patricia. I don't know if you know Patricia King, but she is a very well-known Minister and profit. She just hired me to work with her. So there's a couple of people that have been a yeah. There's a couple of people that have been asking me, you know about you and stuff. So I'm going to do some connections with you and some people and so guys. Thanks for listening today. Thanks. Thank you Tim. Thank you. Say say thank you Joseph. I'll text him later and let him know, but it's it's been an honor and a privilege to have you on a so guys if you're listening as I said, I always say this at the end, you know, love God live with passion, but live with purpose guys lived a purpose that you're you're do this don't fold while you're still unfolding. Okay, and and so thanks for joining us on another session of the heat fluence podcast. God bless. You. Have a great rest of your day, bye-bye.

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From Orphan to CEO with Manny Lopez

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From Orphan to CEO with Manny Lopez

"So he talks about this. Tom shoes business model. Everybody should add this time. She missed smart. Everybody do this. And i'm like that's it. That's gonna fund from the ceo going to launch a product or service in my company where we only use that to fund this idea. We're going to go and help businesses with the skills that i'm good. Give them to help me fund this. Tom shoes business model idea were students. I could never afford me but need my help. They can get and then that schumer years three years since we've done that we have been able to launch manifestation school of business. We have over eighteen thousand entrepreneurs and seventy seven different countries and now learning. How serve their way to success. We've that everybody from hatter silesia less brown tie lopez. Greg hardy and i mean the list goes on of who's been able to say yes. Let's help the next generation of entrepreneurs because it's possible they just need to know that it is listening to the fluids podcast and we're having candid and actionable conversations about your health relationships business and ministry and now here's your host. The second chance coach for men. Michael david huey guys. Welcome to another session of the heath. Podcast this is your founder and ceo. Michael david and i get excited. I it was funny. We were just praying before we started. And i get excited when i do these every single time and i think it's because of the guest. I think it's because when i decided to do this. I was encouraged by several. Very amazing men of god who encouraged me to start this and i was. I was sharing with manny before we got on it. It's it's it's it's his heart and my heart to serve our hardest to serve people to be used by god to serve people. And i i think when i watch him that's what he does when i see him speak. I don't see many speak. I see the oracles of having been used by him to touch and to minister and to encourage. He's a great father. You know he he helps. I love this. This is what he said. Because i'm not gonna steal his glory. I'm gonna let you tell us. Let him tell you his story Because i i don't follow a lot of people on social media. I'm just going to be transparent with a lot of my listeners will know tim story and i were at yesterday. Talking about this About you know how do we separate ministry from business right. And he said all i. It's fifty fifty. And then i said no tim. It's really a hundred a hundred and he was like. Oh my god. I'm never saying fifty fifty again right. He's like if god gave me both things. I gotta give him one hundred hundred right. And so when i watch when i watched manny lopez. I see him. Give one hundred hundred. I see him inspiring people. I love watching him unless brown talk a lot. I've been a fan of lessons for for many many years. And just just a man who he is and so What what manny does is that he inspires helps people create strategies he consults for pr opportunities for systems automation. I mean just a lot of things. When i read his bio. I'm just amazed like god is literally planted all these gifts inside of him and now they're being manifested in the lives of other people. And i know that that if you're listening to us today you're not watching on youtube. You can't see him him. And i are smiling. He's smiling. Because i know that god has used him and gave him gifts and talents. And i and i believe that. If we don't use those gifts and talents we never really fulfil the destiny in the calling and the purpose and the plans that god has for us right and so i like it. Says it says on his bio says he's he. He's a paid consultant and lead generation over a thousand brands worldwide featuring inc magazine He's worked with showcase on nbc and helping just close and bloomberg's recently named best media at living legends and carnegie hall which i really love A co space international graduate within the last within just two years of starting a business. Manny was named one of the best. Buy facebook when they hit over a million. Advertisers are and and. I know that nowadays as we're coming through this it was really funny when My wife and i were just talking when we moved to central florida. We realized that we didn't know anybody here right like we didn't know anybody. We just god said get up and move and we moved right and just the impact that that makes when you make decisions to step out in like like manny and. I know you're going to hear about that today. So i just want to welcome to the podcast I've been. I've been tugging him a little while because i knew god wanted him when i made a list of of names in and i'll just share this with you so you guys are listening. I made a list of names. And i had an. He doesn't even know this. I'm just telling him live so he can kind of see this. I made a list of about thirty five people that i wanted to have on over The last part of the year right and thirty four of them have spoken and today. The last one is speaking. So it's really cool. How guide work that out to to do that. I have a couple other now that i've planned on out for for now for the rest of the time and and and it's just been good. It's it's been really good. And so i'm excited to hear his story. So welcome to the podcast manny lopez. Thanks for being with me today. Brother thank you brother here. Let's serve some souls today. Awesome so i feel like i know a little bit about you because i've read your your your bio. I've read a lot about you. I've listened to you. And i said it before like i don't follow a lot of people facebook because I just believe that. There's a lot of stuff on facebook. That i don't wanna hear and i don't want to listen to. So i i learned this from my friend george bryant. He said i follow eleven people on facebook. And and what do you think. I asked him like. Why like why do you follow eleven people. He says those eleven people make a massive impact. My everyday to push my needle more towards doing the things that i'm called to do and so Manny's hearing this for the first time. Because i like to surprise people when i'm talking to them is that I think manny pushes the needle in in some aspects and watch how he is is just a husband and a father and Just a servant. And so tell me about your story. Tell me where you came from so that people can get to know you a little bit. Better share so california born and raised you know. Look at a lot of different areas to call home by the time. I think i was twenty. I lived in twenty different homes at least My story from what i remember. You know beginning stages about eighteen months. I was left in a car and shortly after that. Experience me my sister. Put into foster care where we're bounced around many homes for many years but we finally ended up getting a forever family That means that you get adopted and you have a family that you end up growing with and a but even with a forever family. I ended up a lot like these kids that don't find and that's a big passion for me. Today is to focus on the foster care system. Where three of these kids within just one year of aging out. They're dead homeless jail. I was homeless twice. By the time. I was twenty four and it took three specific things things that i'm constantly talking about today. Turn things around for me. Made that that neil. Right and that was mentorship entrepreneurship and faith and those three things combined are what is kind of the foundation of what i teach today. Which is taking these skills. That i acquired john. You've been saying right. And and these things that i can now take in teach and this is what i use to have a bait. My impact is trying to reverse that statistic. I wanna see two of three of these kids on dead homeless or in jail in a year. I wanna see them by the time they age out. They have a mentor. They understand entrepreneurship in the own. Their own is awesome. So why don't you share a little bit about that once you talk a little bit about those three titles because it was really funny so yesterday when i when i had tim on here we just we just. We just went down. We went deep anti like we like we literally we got on and it was really cool. He talked about three things he talked about. Your life is specific. You're like is unique in your life is unpredictable. And and and i love that like i thought wow how how how defining and how epic about how your body is at so talk about those three things talk about the the the three areas that you have felt like mentorship entrepreneurship and faith. What those mean to you and how you exude those in your life and in your in the people's lives that you touch so mentorship look at his. You gotta find somebody not only to look up to let somebody who's actually accomplish what you're trying to accomplish in from them and have somebody. That's actually willing to teach you get to that next level. Entrepreneurship is the vehicle that you're gonna use to actually build your dream. You can't really wait for permission to build someone else's dream and that's what a lot of people are doing a sit by thinking they're going to have a chance right mass what i thought it was. I thought i had to build my way up to being ceo of someone else's company and realizing that no it's decision. Many my mentor. That i i had sat me down after spending years trying to go after a dream to build someone else's dream and he goes manny. It's time to build your own. You can't wait for permission to build someone else's dream. That was kind of a profound moment at that point where i'm like. What are you talking about. I wish they wouldn't even give me the manager position here that i've wirtz day in and day out for a new. Tell me i'm just gonna skip all that and go straight to. Ceo is like manny. it's not permission. Its decision on my okay. Okay that's interesting and then faith and has to be your foundation that you are doing something more than just to go make monday. It's not just out there to go create fame and fortune. You gotta look at something where you have a god given skill everyone has a genius inside if you look at somebody. You're comparing them to bill o. Well you can't do that. You're not smart. Well they can run circles around you in this area right every single one of my kids. No matter which age. I've got five eleven and almost fourteen and each one can run circles around me in at least one area that i could not their genius in that area away net identify. What is your genius. How can you teach that genius. Is something where i call it. The art of business when you want to have success in something in any different life focus on creating the art of business. That is your audience. Who is the audience that you are going to serve you can relate to it can relate to you. They've got to be able to trust you. The only way they can trust you is they can relate. The second thing is the result. What is the result. You can actually get that measurable results that you can get to that audience. Ideally this audience has challenged that. You need to help them solve right ask. Your result is is the solution. The t is the timeframe when you can actually put a timeframe on that results that becomes your business. And how do you find your audience. Why call that the threes right. That is easy exciting experience right business. What you're going to get paid to do. Michael is you're gonna get paid when things that are easy for you to do exciting for you to talk about and learn about is. You're out there just being a sponge for knowledge on that concept in that topic and things that you have experienced in getting results for your customer are the ones that can check off those threes. It ain't easy for them in an exciting for them to go learn about her talk about and they have no spears and getting the results with buying those people in they will pay you to either teach them how to do it or to do it for so good because you know it's funny i. I hired a coach recently. I think all of us have coaches right. Good good entrepreneurs have coaches right and it's funny how many you're gonna you're gonna appreciate this. So it's funny. How he came into my life we jumped on zoom. He thought i was interviewing him for a podcast. I thought he was interviewing me for me to hire them or him to hire me to work with him on his health right and he was like we're like looked at each other and we're like what are we doing here. And he's like And then we discuss that situation. And and what i learned from him as he said. Look you can either have me do this for you or you can have me do this with you so you know what i'm doing. It sounds like you haven't had a great experience in your past with people. Just doing it for you so you want to know everything that's going on. He said that. I'm your guy right. He's like i want to hire you. You want to hire me. And i'm really encouraged by what you said here when you said it's easy and exciting and they experience right and so so the faith parts so you talked about mentoring talks about entrepreneurship. Talk about your faith like where you're back at your background. Is that how you're raised up. And you and i were laughing about this before i said this about you know about tim story. You know saying that. When i asked him how he's separated because he's a pastor and then he's also an entrepreneur right like he's trained lee iacocca and smokey robinson oprah and all these famous people. I said well. How do you deviate between entrepreneurship and business. And he said it's fifty fifty. And i said no two hundred one hundred so tell me a bit about your faith and how it mixes in with your business. And how that mentorship entrepreneurship faith flow together. So they is. It was kind of an up and down from me. So starting out when i got my forever family. It was a faith-based family Very close to my grandmother grandmother. Mary and she was the sing the choir i taught me piano Taught me to read the bible. Right had me by ten years old reading the entire bible front to that and it was my grandmother to and we lost her on christmas eve. Nine hundred ninety eight and since that moment and how much pain she had to go through leaving this earth. it was a very big setback. That kind of took the family away from fate and so at that point. I always thought well we're just not that important right. No matter i mean we had the the pinnacle of faith foreign from our family. Right and everything was kinda downhill from there. Then i met my wife right very faith base and she had a very close relationship with god me not so much and twenty seventeen. There was a fork in the road. In my business. I had already gotten some accolades all kinds of fun stuff. Some of the stuff you read in the bible there were already done by that point and but for me. I wasn't fulfilled. It was had mentorship had the entrepreneurship. I didn't really have the faith and every single time. I've talked to millionaires that we're not faith-based the this emptiness there are checked off on a frigging boxes. Why don't i feel good. And then i looked at okay. So what the heck is going on here so mathis fork in the road of my business where it would put me at a really big question. Mark about how i would get results fido this newer route. I mean it's random. I'd have to completely change the trajectory of what i was doing when i had already had proven results and so for me it was a big confusion. I just didn't have an answer for. I look to my wife. She's been my rock since high school. I mean we've been together since we were kids. She's she knows and she didn't really have an answer. She is pretty quiet so he goes along that day about midnight. My dog starts barking. And he's a little maltese. Poodle usually sneaks in to ask did. And he's like oh we hang out with. These kids are harassment. Me but little maltese. Kudos about ten pounds. And you know he's got a bladder the size of a peanut so he's got go. He's going to keep barking every ten minutes until i bring him out so you can take him outside. It's cold. it's january twenty seven twenty seventeen and it's really quite outside that that quantum living in a two bedroom apartment twenty nine years old. I made it lists to my wife of all the things we would accomplished by the time. I was thirty. Because i said trust me on this business. We were homeless for the second time. When i was about to start my business day one we started day. One my business living in the back of someone's house. They converted their garage into a one bedroom for e a wife and my two sons we had about four hundred square feet of space may be all combined and that included the kitchen. The bathroom all one right. Yeah and so it was a very big. You know commitments. Take on like hebei. We're going to jump all into this entrepeneurship journey. And i know i've just falling flat on my face. This is the second time we're now homeless. But i'm making use some promises of tom. I'm thirty ranch. At the have daughter ordain be living in lake elsinore. We're gonna be living in a two story house. We're going to have a business that's going to have all kinds of success with never gonna worry about being homeless again january twenty seven. I would have to put my family at that again in two months. If i did not have results would be sitting on streets. So i'm thinking. What do i do write some taking this dog out and i get voice in the back of my head. Manny put the dog away and keep walking. Okay why would i tell myself this like. I'm thinking i'm telling myself this. Why would i tell myself to go. Put the dog. Thank you walking. It's cold. i'm tired of this dog needs. You'll get his business done. And i need to go back to sleep. Yeah i get it about to go back. I'm literally out to grab the door to walk on inside. The voice says it again. Put the dog away and he walked. Okay i'm a little. I'm a little intrigue net. Look serious so. I put the dog away stock. What is this. I'm thinking maybe. I just need to clear my head out of mountaineers all these different questions all these different things on like what the heck what am i doing. What am i supposed to do. What's the answer is clear as day. I hear healthy of orphans have idea with them. Mike what am i donate. Jerry's ice sponsor events got busse over this to donate to this. 'cause i'm doing my part and i get to sinking feeling like you haven't even made a drop in the bucket. What's possible manny zone like okay. Let me see if i can go to sleep. So i try to sleep. I get this crazy dream. I talk about this all the time. I'll spare the details of. But i wake up and i just get this flood of wisdom this flooding. Just this is what you need to do. This is how you need to do it. Go go go. go go awakened my wife. I'm like you won't believe what just happened before the next sentence. I kept telling my wife for years all years. We've been married dodd. Delegates has anything to do with me. Delegates a winker up. And i say bane. I had a conversation with god. She starts crying like why are you. Crying is amazing. I have clarity. I know what i'm supposed to do. I had to help the orphans. I have no fear. I can do this. I can do that. i can take my skills. I can do this. She goes yesterday when we're on the bed trying to figure out what to do. I was praying that god would reveal himself. Would give you clarity. You would tell you what you need to do. As where faith came in brenham confirmation of knowing. I was on the right track. If i just took that have that faith mammy. It's going to be okay. you can serve. You don't have to sell anymore. Watch what do the reason why you're on this meeting today is because of what god's done is open all. These different doors is made from orphanage. Ceo possible ivanhoe. Give this away for free to the world. And i had no clue how is going to fund it not to take in one donation. Didn't have to get a any investor. I've been able to sell fund. This guy says manny go to vegas. Listen to this guy who going to be on stage about this time on this day. Normally you don't do that by. Hey go in this stage and listen to this part. I listened in guy goes heard his name's clatter from a bank call thrive my wife and i won the monumental business award at thrive last year. Did you talk about math model. I was in kohl's best mastermind for two years. So yes i know coal very well so he talks about this. Tom shoes business model. Everybody should add this time shoes vis smile. Why don't they everybody do this. And i'm like that's it. That's all i'm going to fund from the ceo. I'm going to launch a product or service in my company where we only use that to fund this idea. We're going to go and help businesses with the skills that i'm good app. Get them doubt me fund. This tom shoes business model idea where students. I could never afford me but need my help. They can get schumer years three years since we've done that. We have been able to launch manifestations school of business. We have over eighteen thousand entrepreneurs and seventy seven different countries in learning how to survey our way to success. And we've got everybody from coal. Hatter signed you less brown tyler. Pez grank hard l. And i mean the list goes on. Who's been able to say yes. Let's help the next generation of entrepreneurs because it's possible they just need to know that it awesome brother. Thank thank you. Thank you for sharing that. Thank you for It's kind of funny. I actually said to my wife. I said i think i met. Manny thrive a couple of years ago. But i i couldn't remember that. I remember now that you said that we. Somebody introduced us to each other. I can't remember who it was. But yeah so wow brother Sorry i got a little emotion there with you too so thank you. It's a hard story to get out but it has to be shared and it's the whole purpose of why i did. The way i do today is because of having this faith that no matter how much is serve without trying to sell the opportunities will come to help my business and it continues to happen and now is just a science. That people is funny. When i started this journey has started using the words serve right. I was getting laughed at my mentors. Were saying man. You gotta change. You cannot name. Your events serve x. uk people are gonna think you're out there butler and everybody. You're what a servia servants here. You can't serve in business. That doesn't translate to money what are you talking about. And then now it's like of course you've got to serve serving as the swayed dog and it's like you know you have this mentality of trying to understand business and businesses truly about relationships in survey and if you do it right you know. Some people are doing it the wrong way. This is where my consulting in strategy comes where they focus on building. Their communities through methods are wasting eighty to ninety percent of their efforts. There building oliver's on social media. They're building their email lists and their driving all their traffic to their website. Right all those methods necessary. Yes but should not be your very first point of contact. I've been able to do what i do. Simply because of creating a mobile strategy behind the data in follow up instead of asking for emails and followers on social media or given them my website. I tell them text me. Text me at this number and now you can connect now. We consider strategy. Now give you all kinds of gifts. And i just give everything away for free. Everything nate never gets sold. Anything when i follow up with him so everybody that connects now. They know manny sending some another free gift. What am i getting today. Oh what kind of free giveaway is it. What kind of value my getting. Oh he's just dropped a new course on how launch and monetize your own show. Wow now doesn't have to pay for it is completely free bam just the strategy behind that most people don't realize they're only chasing tuta ten percent of sales fi trying to sell up front and trying to focus on gathering data methods. That are just kind of You know the reaches bearing. Wow i'm so glad you say that because i'm i'm a became a big john maxwell fan as a kid believe it or not many i. I actually went to church in my hometown and My my my background is my father was an alcoholic so i kinda suppressed a lot of my childhood things right now as i was growing up i said to my mom like like when when i got out of college i was like mom. I know john maxwell she's like okay. Honey like okay and you know like one of those. Yeah right okay and and one day. I'm watching john on the leadership conference that i was invited to be a part of and He's talking about he's like he goes into this and he's and he's He says i pastored a church in lancaster. Ohio and manny. I lost it. Like i literally began to weep. Because that's where i lived in legs rojo and then he's shows his picture of a blue bus and so all this stuff that i'd suppressed because my father was an alcoholic and i suppress stuff. I saw myself getting on this little boo bus. Every single sunday to go to church were john. Maxwell was the pastor right and and my my wife comes home that day. Manny and she sees me on the crowds. And she's like. Why are you crying. You know. And i said i gotta call my mom and tell her that i found out i figured it out right and so and that was in a season where I was just serving people. And i was doing the same thing you're doing i just you know it's it's really funny and i'm so glad you brought this up and this little lead into the next. The next phase of this is that this week like Two of my wife's heroes in the faith hired me like just. I mean like we know it's not out of the clear blue right. It's ordained by god right and they and it's Left hetland and patricia king. Two very prominent. You know who. Tim story and i were talking about this. He said they're just called you out of the blue. And i'm like yeah. They served it a friend of mine's conference and said they wanted to hire me. And i got on the phone with both of them and i. It's just that act of serving other people that people just come to you like you said it's not like you're you're not twisting their arm to get them to sign up or to fill out your you know your your lead magnet or whatever that is it's just an organic overflow right and an example. Go crazy story. Yeah how. I got connected to pileups right. Most of you wash right now. You probably know. Tyler has And this guy is the reason why i was able to stop selling my way to success. You put me into a program where. I was teaching what i was doing to. All of his students global any was spending millions of dollars promoting. This program was one of the teachers per. But how did i get into. That's where i saw you at first. Now i remember. How funny is this. I remember bear ha. Yeah i kept thinking. I said this and i don't know if you do this when you when you follow people you you talk to your spouse about right like say. Hey i to interview like you know. I kept getting text messages. From from tim's right hand man. Joseph mendoza yesterday. Who's just a phenomenal man. And he kept saying. Tim's been talking about you all day. What did you guys talk about right like you know. And then so so. It's funny so so yes awesome. I now i remember. I actually remember some these stuff. It's it's so cool like yeah. So here's a couple years before. I meet tyler has i'm in chicago and get called for this. Event is the first time. I'm gonna be speaking outside of california and i get called. He says many. I want you to speak at events. Jayco it's unpaid to get gotta get your own way but you've got an opportunity to speak at this really awesome. That unlike cool. I'll do it. I'll sir and i go at this event and burnt row is this guy named flint herald shout to flint. Awesome dude and he hears me. Talk my talk bombs i mean. My powerpoint wasn't working turned up green on the screen. It was terrible right. We had to be moved from a different location. It was it was a lot of headaches right. But i stuck to my focus on serving a lot of speakers. They just left. I'm outta here man. We this isn't what we signed up for. Da da. Whenever i was like i'm gonna serve and i'm just going to do this and i'm going to commit to it. I did that meth flint. Chill years later. I've never tried to legis air. Slant i got some stuff. I want to throw your way. I got an invite to an event. I got you in for free Never been this guy's a real estate investor is doing very well for himself could afford any program. I put in front of them. All had to do is use my sales batch right and make it happen. No vote son serving i. He calls me up out of the blue right after this experience with conversation with god might not even maybe two weeks later i get a call out of the blue. Hey manny what are you doing man. How's it going man long time. No see hey. I just wanted to thank you for all of those text messages invites in haven't been able to respond to all of them. But i see the man i see all Doing i wanna throw an opportunity. Your way i just invested Twenty five grand in this mastermind group. I could bring a guest and my guest build on in the first person i thought of was. I'm in. la let me give call a man is that you don't have to pay to get in. I've already paid your ticket. Just join me hang out. At this event it's up in l. a. Can you make beverly hills semi unlike. Probably i mean you spend twenty five thousand dollars for some pretty cool people in the room. Yeah right see. If i can go let me ask the wife right. We gotta get still gotta get that. Okay so i make it out. I had no idea who this. I'm like i'm just going down to this location. I'm gonna drive down and i get. There's this huge mansion onto lambeau in the front. I'm starting to put the two together. And i started seeing a bunch of young guys and bunch of self is happening and might rate second. I've seen this before here in my garage. Same want right. And so i'm like okay. Cool the funniest thing is just a couple of months before that my son is on youtube and of course he sees one of those. Tyler has ads when they were just going crazy everywhere. He's i dad are related to this person. You know manny lopez stilo. Who is this. I dunno lopez tae no. We don't have any family name. Tae wrong person yeah. This guy's got some nice cars. When you see i was doing. That's tyler peds but not. We're not related brother from another mother right and the funniest thing i get to this house. It's tyler as it's i'm sitting in there i go there all just mingling taken sell fees and i see a budget changing the front. I'm like what's that for might will ties going to do like a forty five minute training. The i'm no one sitting in a shares. Why not how. I'm a sponge for knowledge. I love to learn right sitting in the front front learns all the most what i did as i fry young guys get mangle at the desert here until the show gets right front row. We sit there for that. Forty five men. He dropped some amazing breakdowns of marketing tips and strategies and he opens it up for cuban a and i go tie. I'm going to question so far. Rogue big nice gray suit stand out. He's i pop out back. We hand in the air and everything and and ask. What do you think about mobile apps that point. I'm in the mobile app space. And i'm thinking do i just continue to sell mobile apps. I mean why pippen. I gotta do this whole servants structure. What do i do i That's funny you should ask you know gone off with the story about finding kfc or taco bell where he was in the middle of nowhere and he didn't have an app. If j just out there locations. I would have been after location right simple thing. And then he goes. We're launching his program traveling ceo. And i've been telling everybody for months. We are going to have an out developer teaching a course on how to go to a specialist in. Have them develop your asks for your customers. You don't need any coding experience. I'm like that already. I pose hundreds of that. Let me show you the app. We did with less brand. He's less brand like hungry. Less brown belt thousand speaking opportunities with and then he goes. Terri right within thirty days. I'm at tyler. Has a studio watching that video or recording that video you watch there and that completely changed things now. The marketing was automated. I had people blowing me out. Left and right has tight llagas thing. I loved bill. My app say marketing agency. We don't have app about love to add that to it would just send you a bunch of closed deals or hundred apps later and now that's what allowed me to build a lot of that time building from the ceo. We built out the serve x. Program you've been without manifestation school of business. I mean all of that because of all of these different opportunities where i served i had no idea. I mean did i ever think flint was going to be connected to Lopez they connect me to having my complete app systems. Automated now but some kind that happens when he sold. Wow so so. I'm gonna. I'm just gonna guess this not really but i'm going to guess that this probably really pleased your wife especially from a praying wife's perspective because as you said you know god fearing spirit filled wife and she's praying for you so she's seeing all the manifestation of prayers right being answering. Yes that what's that yeah manifestation right and so got god really used you in that timeframe and so so so are you still. Do you still do that. You still do the app thing. Tell me a little bit about what you've got going on now with the apps now it's a focus on helping people create media platform so they either use it as part of a website on steroids. They use them as a way to put their episodes on demand. Further shows it could be an event platform to be able to run integrations with so definitely. We still do a lot of the branding app development. My focus has lot in consulting so we can sold about a hundred grand a year. The systems that i use. I mean this one. I have one apple loan. That is the totally egypt source now. And it's my own manifestation school of business. So what i did is i created all kinds of courses programs anything that would benefit an entrepreneur and put it on demand in my own platform. This is completely free. We just give it away. And this past allegiance strategies. We've captured over three thousand eight hundred applications into my high to progress so we work with a hundred grand a year. We have almost four thousand applicants. We don't really need to do much marketing anymore. Right so now it's just going through the qualifications and we still get at least ten two hundred applicants every single year every single month that are adding in that. So my goal now is teaching these strategies. We're maxed out on opportunities. i can serve. We're on now. Is teaching these nick. Lamenting these on a duplicated will structure so kinda like netflix for business. That actually rewards you to binge-watch content. I created a little digital token called manny box and it's allow. It's our students can earn a way to collaborate with our experts. Check this out. I started hosting these from orphanages. Ceo events no matter how motivated these kids get. Money doesn't show up in their bank accounts spray. it doesn't just all of a sudden appear making higher. Their dream team of coaches consultants and specialty arturs out them. Bring their idea to life right. They gotta do their branding. Their websites going to all of their assets their pr their media. Archiving strategies all of that so the genus. i did. I went in to all of my clients again. Thousand clients amartya paid consultant to already. Go to each one by what i said. Hey i got a bunch of students. There day one entrepreneurs right. These are at risk. Youth former foster kids either they. They don't even know how to spell entrepreneur even most entrepreneurs donata spell entrepreneur. But they'll do. Is they learn how to start a business. They don't they can't afford to hire. They can afford your five thousand dollars. Coaching program but they're earning manny box by going to school and i include your service in manny box that my students can unlock so this way. You don't just give it to them for free. We know they don't show up for something giveaway for even if they earned awaited to collaborate with you would you be willing to do there and almost every single one of them are saying yes and then not only say yes in that. There's a yes any entrepreneur. That's got mandy box. So we're creating a whole ecosystem of entrepreneurs being able to earn a way to collaborate with each other literally serving their way to success. Wow wow thank thank you. Well i feel like. I know you even better now. I'm more excited too. Because you know. Now that you know. I i i i share this a lot of very very open about it. You know i. I hired somebody into our in our group Into coaches back in eighteen in one thousand nine hundred and it costs about a half a half a million dollars and so And we were doing really really well. And so i'm excited to to get more young excited to implement some of your things. And here's because he fluency growing really fast For us and so. I'm super excited to learn more about the app. Because that's stuff that that i'm going to need. I'd just hired. I just hired four practitioners in two more coaches Last week so we. We've got a lot of things a lot of things happening. And i'm excited to to learn more about that thing. We'll finish this. Let's and then we'll let people know how they can connect with you and kind of get together with you a little bit more so tell us some things right now that you're you're doing maybe you could just a word of an inspiration some things that you're excited about the value that you can give that. Maybe the lord's just put on your heart is we've been talking and saying it. It's really kind of as you. And i said you know. Manny said this to me before. Because i always pray with my guest before star and he said you know when i was first starting my first business. I had my first mentor. We just every time we got together every time we did something we just went in and basically went in your prayer closet right and and and began to pray. And i know that that had a massive impact on you and you can see the fruit from that. So maybe you can share some final quote some final thing that maybe would encourage people and inspire people a little bit about things that you're passionate about. And how and then we'll we'll share how people can connect with you. I mean i would say the the quote really stands out to me. Is something that i found during lunch break when i was at this place when i was working with my first mentor. This was before i started. My business is right before he is encouraging me to go start my own business and we every morning we would go before the day started into another room where he was one hundred people on the floor less another hundred people in the back office so hundreds of people on the floor. We went off and just spray together to say. Let's help the people that were going to be helping today. And one lunchtime. I was kind of really kind of down. And i searched on. Google like motivational quote include images. The first image i still see today was a white background with black. Tech's said i believe that we are all created for greatness not mediocrity at we are to live our lives. Accordingly striving to be agents of change as we attempt to leave this world. A better place in found now message is really stuck to me anytime. i feel like i need to go. Do i think about that quote in. Thank you know what i am too. Blessed to be stressed. I can live to inspire i can help others create. What's better about themselves. Maybe they don't know it yet. Maybe they haven't found that genius. Maybe they keep telling being told by the world. You don't fit in this box so you aren't special rate. You are valuable because you haven't checked off these boxes yet by this age when in reality everyone has their own genius. I mean i'm talking to people that are like seventy seventies eighties. There now barely discovering their genes lead. They knew it was there all along. And like i could have been doing this since i was twenty front. You say that. Because i I feel like. I understand life more now. I mean it's really funny man. I showed tim story a picture of me yesterday from ten years ago. He he's like you look younger than you did. Ten years ago he goes he goes in and he asked me a couple of questions. And i said you know god's really shown me that i'm my latter days. My life are going to be better than the former days in my life. And that that the things that i've done were just scratching the surface of what god's gonna do and for most people. I think manny you can agree with me on this. A lot of people. Don't look at their life. They get to you know sixty and seventy and they just like You know. I always say the worst bumper stickers. Let's coexist right. Nobody wants to just you know coexist or limb poem right like oh like my dad. You know he's like oh. I'm eighty you know i don't care what i e you know those type of people we get to inspire people like like my my client bill. Who's seventy one. Who was told he at six months to live and now they tell him he's gonna live to be one hundred because we worked together for a year so i watched the inspiration. Do you remember who shared that quote that you remember whose name was on that quote that you talked about a minute ago on attributed i've insertion for the author of that it keeps coming up unknown so you can find air somebody listening credit for that for years but it keeps coming up on i was gonna say maybe it was less but but you know him pretty well that it wasn't him but he has some of the best. He has some of the best quotes of of anything. And i think it's good that you guys are friends and mentors and you guys get a chance to spend i. I'm sure i've noticed. Ties buying up almost everything like like my my my wife. My wife is a I'll end with this. And then i'll let you share. How people can connect with you and get to know more about what you do. And if they want to they want to get more involved with you they can My wife was a huge. My is the most humble person manny she. She was a. She's a she's a proverbs. Thirty one woman. A hundred percent sold out proverbs. Three has a prophetic gifts. Just the most kind she. I've never heard her say anything. Negative anybody in all the years. I've been married to her almost fourteen years now and she she just she just she just so so humble and and and i love that and i love that you know when somebody encourages you to be positive you want to just be around you know positive people so I love it that we get to. You know have mentors we get to be around people like that and we get to be around people that encourage us so thanks for encouraging me today. Why don't you tell us a little bit about people or how people can connect with you and and get to know you better know a little bit more about you and maybe you know get involved in some of the things that you're involved in. I just i give people my personal south so you guys can personally reach out to me. seven one four three six nine eight five two eight and if you tax me just were gifts right. Data let me know that. Hey you're tuning in you. Want some of the gifts. I've got over dozens of that. We give away completely free so asking for you guys to buy anything like that. There's just tons of free value that our platform access to that. You'll have access to all kinds of stuff promote your business for free access to my entire rolodex. Our specialists all searchable by keyword. If you need investor you need coach you need an expert. You need somebody. Mpr media just type back instantly filters for the people. I personally would refer my business too so a lot of resources. I am an open book resources so again. i just shoot me a tax. If you have any question that literally goes directly to myself. Nobody else response to that number played on your mannequin. You say one more time. Seven one four three six nine eight five. Two eight awesome brother. Thank you so much guys. If you've been listening today. I would text manny like if you're listening. Don't you know nothing happens by chance right. It's everything happens for a reason for purpose even when we don't understand it i. I made a quote today. You know stop focusing on what you can't control focus on what you can control control. You can control texting manny. I like it what he said. I like it what he said earlier. You said this this is great. You said it's you don't have to have permissions just the decision right. Manny's manny's acsi giving you permission right to text him right. So it's it's just you making the decision to take the time to do it. Well i can tell you. I'm going to do it just because i'm encouraged by you and so if you're if you're listening As we end connect with him you know. Send sued him. Attacks and Share this share this with other people guys. Everybody needs to know who manny is. Everybody needs to know who is stands for and what he is and and look we can never connect with too many of the light of the right like minded people and the people that can inspire because we never know what that one person i mean. Even gods said he would leave the ninety nine to save that one person right just like he did when with manny when he said take the dog back. Right take the dog back in. Manny was like okay. God like why are you telling me this like. It's cold out here. Like can i just go back inside. And that transformed the rest of your life. So i said guys love god. Love people live with passion and thanks for tuning in to another session of the podcast. God bless you all things.

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Paul Lambert - Dare to Dream

Masters Podcast Club

1:16:25 hr | 1 year ago

Paul Lambert - Dare to Dream

"Win Claybon here love him to this rate wonderful exciting issue of masters? I'm telling you this in advance. I know exactly. That's what's going to happen because of the beautiful man that I'm sitting here with right now. My dear friend Tim Story. Who is no stranger masters? I've had the honor of interviewing him a few times and he introduced me to Paul Lambert. Who is sitting with me right now and now? There's this those times when it's just magical when did just hit it off and it's you have no idea why the relationship is coming around and then all of a sudden things start happening in the relationship starts to serve you and and unfold into beautiful opportunities. And that's exactly what's happened with Paul and so to be able to have the opportunity to share his story and and all of his experience with all of you is a pretty exciting thing for me so first of all Paul. Thank you so much for doing this. Thrilled to be with you and your audience. Thank you for including me. Yeah listen to the voice. Have you ever been like a voice actor or did Ya commentator? Did you ever do that I would love to at you? Know I love like the nature shows. You know with the lion arguing for that I would love to do it in a lot of people have said to me. You ought to get into voiceovers that I've never really thought about it. But you know with animation as big as it is today who knows there you go like you need something more to do than what you're all. I know I can never do enough. I love it all good for you what you are in the entertainment industry and so that the experience that you have and I love reading your blog in the stories that you tell. I liked them because a lot of the stories that you tell our from people who had success a long time ago whether it was in the sports field or entertainment industry not that they don't have relevance today. Because they absolutely do that you did way back. You know. I think discovering yourself and a lot of these huge talents and personalities. They knew they had potential. But sort of finding out where you belong is a discovery is not just a decision. I think some people think I'm just GONNA decide to be a star. I have the talent here we go but I think when you talk to the people that are really made it. And I've had really a lot of fun with people like even Betty White who I think people look as one of the longest running stars there is and you work with stars yourself all your life but there's this discovery process that leads to. Where do I belong and I think to get to where you belong and could be happy it starts with who am I and for me in my journey? Who Am I was a hard thing because again? It's a discovery process. When I was eight years old I came out of my bedroom wearing a yellow raincoat and I grew up in Modesto. California wasn't a cloud in the sky and my mother looked at my yellow raincoat. And she said son. I don't think it's GonNa rain today. And I said mother I am a lion and she said and so you are so. I'm just saying that you discover that I was into pretend I loved watching the Tony Awards but I was a child and all that sort of stuff. So I've ended up discovering following breadcrumbs crumbs that I think have lead to a bakery and I've never been happier and I think one of the keys to happiness is finding out who you are and where you belong while you not only have your own stories to tell but you love love telling the stories of other people absolutely you dig deep in those stories because some of the people that you have worked with you mentioned Betty White. Gosh generally. I've never been starstruck with anybody except for betty white on my gosh. Did you watch your password? Way By side with olive cited. A hundred were showed the day I met her was like there all patting her down with makeup and everything and I'm over here sweaty right now. I'm the one who needs all the work. I'll tell you a little betty white story We were doing your commercial together. One time. And Her William Morris Agents said to me. Betty needs three hours for hair and makeup. I said okay. We're GONNA start shooting at around nine or nine thirty so that means she has to get there around six or six thirty and he said no problem so we had the carpet grow and everything else. I got there about eight o'clock and The person the stage managed the doors. I think you'd better go see this white Problem he says she's really upset and he said I walked out the door. She said hose idea was to give me her at six. Am in the morning. Only Gosh I just froze and then I realize big lesson for me in this a long time ago. Don't ask a big star to be there at six. Am OF YOU'RE NOT GONNA get up and be there at six am to. That's the lesson. All she was mad that she was just there alone with Arab person. And I wasn't there with her. You know good lesson. Oh I have so many lessons admit aretha Franklin and I I went through. She called me and said I WANNA do a vegas show. Will you come meet with me in Detroit of heard so many good things about you? The boys at Holland dozier Holland. In motown they all love working with you. Smokey Robinson likes you and his wife likes you now. That's that's an issue. The wives and girlfriends that they like you so went to see aretha to try and I got off and walked into the hotel and I said this Miss Franklin years. Yes you must be Mr Lambert. I said well yes I am as a matter of fact and they said well she's in the ballroom of there by yourself. I walked into the ballroom. She was at the front of the ballroom. No lights on Big Table. It in the biggest hamburger I've ever seen in my life and I was sitting there going. I'm on go to but she wasn't about to feed me and I realized you know you're in the presence of royalty and I was a little nervous. It was my first time to beat her face to face at. She was wearing these pink feathers with jeans and sparkly silver shoes and I said well hello and she said Hi Paul and I said I love your pink. Can I call you Miss Flamingo? And if you could have seen the stare on her face and she said no you Miss Franklin so I want you to know there have been many Faux Pas that I learned over the years but I'm much better now much better now really you can call Me Miss. Flamingo makes you feel comfortable. It's the I love these stories that we sit here. You have lots of wisdom but I. I love hearing these stories because not that I don't feature brand new people who have entered the beauty industry the entertainment industry or any industry. And I do and I love what they have to say. But what did they say you? You can't Google. You can Google facts. And so people think that they can learn because they watched a youtube video about it or they. Google the facts about whatever it is that they're trying to learn or discover but you can't Google wisdom and so when you can sit with somebody who has story after story to tell again their own stories and the stories of other people. I think you said it's about our heritage where you have to know where we came from and you know I I think too. In your universe you're creating a lot of superstars people listening to this broadcast. This podcast are on their way there on a journey that they don't even know how big it's going to get. That's why I'm a big fan of Tim Story to. Tim teaches us how to think big. And those of you. That are listening that have potential that have talent or one decision one conversation away from something really big and I like to follow someone like Lady Gaga. When she hit it she kinda reminds Madonna a little bit in that. They're they're not artist. Rice than they're not Whitney Houston. They're solid talent. That made the most out of their potential but when Lady Gaga hit she just couldn't handle the size of that orbit and She got overwhelmed She couldn't sleep at night and she was really having trouble with headaches and so she had to take some time off from that superstar career of hers and just kind of revisit. Who Am I in all of this orbit and so she came out with another album took some time off and then started just doing jazz. You know and something completely different but she came out with her new album born this way and her her thought to all of us was be yourself and be proud of who you are and then overnight brown. I think as an absolute fantastic quote where she says. Let go of who you think you're supposed be and grab onto who you really are. And the frightening thing is as those of us the votes your life and I owned an AD agency in New York before getting into entertainment. So I I've been dealing with a results oriented sort of life I mean if my commercials that I created a done over six hundred commercials. If they didn't sell I didn't eat that night. So getting results is really important. And I think if there was a key that I've learned in bouncing back rebooting or whatever we all have to do on a regular basis. I just love a banana. Brown said he or she says there's no greater threat to your critics incentives out there then those of us who are willing to fail because we know how to rise and boy. I'll tell you you've been building your universe for a long time. And you've I'm sure had to rise and rise and rise and some days catastrophes happen. I have a nephew thirty years old. Who took his life for weeks ago? He just couldn't deal with his addiction of many years ago. my brother and I thought he'd been sober for like fifteen years. We weren't aware that he was using again. He has a son and he's divorced tenures and my brother called me and said Paul got some bad news. Well I thought maybe his wife or maybe where the age where things happen to us and he said would he died last night. I've never been so surprised in my life and for the last four weeks our family's been dealing with a surprise that we hadn't counted on and whether it's professional or personal you have to work through these things and for me and for those of you that are going through issues that are surprises like this surround yourself with people that love you be where you're needed loved and wanted and worked through it because all of us experienced this and there are none of us that don't get rock-bottom none of us that don't get our reputations heard but you know something. I up every single day like today and I was so excited to get here and talk with you win and share my experiences with others because I think as you find out and discover your potential and then you find sort of a zip code where the potential can be used an effective. You start gaining confidence and when you gain confidence your confidence leads to courage and I think when that courage and confidence gets going it's contagious and if you're around other people that are like you and have found their potential. I think that's the key to happiness. We have a good friend named Sean Acre and Sean someone I met the in the Green Room of Oprah with them story as a matter of fact and I just love to listen to Sean Talk. John is who doesn't need his seventeen. Million VIEWS IS. Yeh faulk SEAN IS MR happy. I mean he talks about the positive aspects and how you're more productive when you're happy and it goes on and I don't know like a happy expert that I started reading about Sean. Show probably the most unhappy person on this earth and it was his time at Harvard is a student when he was in depression and he was paralyzed because he was so discouraged. An unhappy so he started studying happiness as a research artist. And Sean learned that happiness is part of training your brain and getting up every day and do insert one of the tips. He gave me for instance. And W gives everybody but that let's say that I grabbed onto every day when you get up. Send two emails to that is no longer than two or three sentences. Just let them know you're thinking of him and that has brought me so much happiness that that's a note on my computer is it. I have a little a little note on my computer on the screen on my computer. That reminds me every single day to send out those zero gratitude emails. And that's how I start my day at four thirty in the morning. I'm I haven't even really sipped any coffee yet. But that's isn't that big of a good habit that I learned that you're you're either happier not happy and if you're not happy there's nothing you can do about it but it's a skillset rise is like saying well you either can play the piano or you can't play the piano. You were born that way and if you can't play the piano there's nothing about it now. I can take lessons. I learned from experts. I can find mentors. Could practice practice practice. Practice will the same thing applies to happiness. You have a lot of topics happening here and I want to take you back to a couple of them. Sure I guess. Full idea that we do fall down in. What's that Chinese Proverb Fall Seven Times? Stand up eight. I love that one. You mentioned lady Gaga and heard eating to take a break and I can't imagine what that's like in the spotlight runs to have to go through that but talking to just regular people who aren't in that spotlight whether they're twenty years old or seventy years old. I'm having the same. Conversations is not just that one year olds are are struggling with confidence and twenty year olds or Felli down in trying to figure out how to reinvent themselves and to start all over again or to figure out really who they are. I mean sending emails are having the same confidence. Even when you've got the world at your feet I'm GonNa give you two examples here Tom. Hanks has made a lot of movies. And if you talk to Tom. Hanks who's probably one of the most delightful personalities in Hollywood does say you know. I've made twenty movies and five of them are good and he's really revealing that you just Gotta. Get up every day and do it. I think Michael Jordan one of the greatest NBA players of all time. Michael says you know. I'd miss more than nine thousand shots in my career and I've lost over three hundred games as a professional twenty six times. I've been trusted to take the game winning. Shot and missed and I've failed over and over and over again and that's why I'm successful. Isn't it amazing and Oprah either a loved one of Oprah's greatest quote? She says over time you learn how to turn your wounds into wisdom that's brilliant. What would you say that is in effect? Walt Disney got fired by a newspaper executive for not being creative enough and I think he went bankrupt. a couple of times. I would a people that are out there and I'm not recommended. Take risks that are foolish but when you think and you step out into deep waters like all of us have you're gonNA find a there are certain keys and win when I've been to your conventions and heard you speak. I mean it's really important that you affiliate with other people who have same sort of set of values and dreams. You're not afraid to teach people to dream but in your case you're not only teaching them to dream teaching them to help others and what I'm so impressed with. Is the charity work. And the people from the charities who. I've had the chance to hear speak at your conventions who are so appreciative because it matters and I think this is something that I'm getting more and more into an actually tim story is asked to I. I've been in branding for a long time. I I was part of the early stages of ESPN MTV. And all of that. And then Martha Stewart came on the scene and Vidal Sassoon. These brands became personalities. And today with the Internet and social media you can become a brand and young people are becoming their own universe so if you can have impact and you have something to share with others. Create a brand around your self be committed to. This and Tim has asked Me To start coaching counseling. People that really have something to say. A lot of people have written a book and they just don't know the steps to branding ghetto but in this day. And if you have something to say and you have something to be helpful to others with brand new yourself used social media and start building that audience around you. Tim Now I think at six seven hundred thousand. You pointed out Sean. His seventeen million and I have some other examples. I mean let me. I wrote this down. There was the earth. Global warming is becoming a bigger and bigger issue and a little dicky a little digging. Because I don't have to tell you I don't know little dicky okay. Others of you would know. Probably little bit little dicky came out with a new video came out April the nineteenth and his view of why we should care about the earl that the earth video. That's right why obviously I've watched it yet. Two billion people on April the nineteenth. It's incredible so I mean the. We need to participate with each other build brands. Because now you have the chance to get your message to get what you've learned into the minds and universes of other people. Well you mentioned the idea of dreaming big and now we're related to building your brand and I have some questions about that but I truly believe that. A person's individual dreams cannot be separated from the idea of also giving back and helping others. I just don't believe that it's possible to build your own brand build your own following to to get all your own followers on social media without at the same time helping others so having some component that absolutely is giving back and by the way getting back not you attend one black-tie fundraising cocktail party. This is like a ongoing part of the process that we do of what we do every single day. Where my little church that I go to in? Marin county up in northern California Has a terrific pastor and I travel a lot and said well you know Paul? Why don't we start something new one at you right from wherever you are a little blog and I'm GONNA put in our newsletter at out the one that you tend to be areas that were that out all start at just? Because I was away I started committing. Just kind of like. Here's Paul whether it was in New York or la or Florida or wherever. And here's what's on my mind. That's how it all started like three years ago and all of a sudden I caught fire. What you're just saying. I started saying you know I have something that other people might learn from. I can give back for my experiences. A lot of people see a person like me who has done a lot and and maybe doesn't think that I get sad because I'm very positive or that I. My reputation hasn't taken a blast from someone. That's trying to bait me. I mean that's a phrase I've used in some blogs what to do when you know someone's got which we're GONNA talk about okay. Someone's got bad intentions and and there's a lot of insecure people out there that you know. I try to stay away from his many negative people as possible but on the other hand I think those of us that have a kind of a command of certain things need to be around the negative people in other words resolve argument over whether your children should be in private schools to keep them away from the public. You know and I think sometimes being in the public schools we have to shine our light where there's darkness so I take it as kind of a personal challenge to sometimes be around bullies liars negative people. Because I think when they're around me hopefully I can have some impact and we shouldn't be afraid of those arenas while that obviously was not easy for you in the beginning I mean at the stage of your life. Absolutely perhaps you can take that on or you are taking that on your right in the early stages. I was very competitive and very combative. I think a lot of people who listen to this. Maybe are a little new to this. Sometimes I feel new to that whole concept of Being able to take on the bullies and the negative people while expansive is always pleased. Divorce yourself to stay as far away as possible in social media today. The people that go on are usually the extremes and they're going to blast away on that social media because they don't have to defend themselves they can just go out there. I'll give you an example as a producer of big musicals. You worked so hard sometimes years on a musical you raise my last musical. I raised about twelve thirteen million dollars. That's a lot of people believing you writing checks and then on opening night you have twenty six hundred people in the stands and in the crowds in everybody so pleased in the curtain thumbs down and one of the critics shos blast you or didn't like this or didn't like that and you say to yourself at three in the morning. Of course I read every review that comes out and on the Internet. Are you know forty reviews of people that said it was the greatest night out? I had fun. I love this and you should go see it. I'm telling everybody. And then here's this person that now that's hard to swallow because he can impact and influence the destiny of a show and dealing with your cast the next day all that kind of stuff you know. I've been through it all and sometimes there's motives in agendas that have nothing to do with the show right and have nothing to do with me and so I think for young people and people that are just entering this world of what happens when you get criticized what happens when someone mischievous -ly talks behind your back and gossip start first of all I. I think you have to say well. What does that person going through? What is going on in that person's life right now and really remember. They don't define you you and your actions define yourself and I get to choose. Who Paul Lambert is and one of the reasons? I've enjoyed doing blogs now. I enjoy a little more exposure because I've spent all my life marketing other people. I've spent all my life developing shows that other people's star in but now I'm more comfortable in sharing some of these very difficult things that I've had to endure and not panic. I think that's the word I think you know. We're doing a big show. The theater was full. I got a call at seven forty five from bit with the orchestra. And he's Paul. Paul we gotTa Find Paul. And he said well. He's in the sound booth getting there so I got on the phone. I said what's the problem and the doctor said the snare drum isn't working and I said what's your point and he laughed and said Oh which we do and I said I will have a new snare drum here by intermission but you tell everybody in the back. They're not GonNa have a snare drum today. Now that happens to be very important part of an orchestra the drawn but just get over it you know and by me staying calm and steady. I calmed him down. So I think steady knows and some of the people I admire. The most are those that know how to stay steady at that crisis moment. You're steady I seen you when you produce these magnificent shows and conventions that I've been with and I tell you why admire this so much and then to the double ACP awards. The Tony Awards. Day are a mad house of confusion. These last minute shows with celebrities that are donating their time and everything. They were extremely difficult to do. I've never seen you flammable. Your shows come off no matter what. And that's the sign of someone that has experienced because people are going to respond to your calmness so when you get blasted to those of you that are listening or you have an email. That's really cruel. My first recommendation is take a step back. Take a deep breath and stay steady. Because something's going on probably ninety percent of the time is at you. It's something else they're using you to react to something that's bothering them. You know and I started with you. Have I forty people who love your show and beg your focus on that one critic absolutely tore me up? I mean just tore me up. It really did and I wanted to go visit with him and I'm not afraid to show up either is it what was he didn't like. Did you know because professionally kind of inappropriate right okay and was this four or five years ago in Chicago? Okay so would you still react the same way today? Would you still be upset over? I think so because I from I I. The most important thing is. Try to understand what he's really saying and see if there's any merit to it you know. So maybe it's the difference between reacting in responding. Yeah I think that's right now. Brings it up and you. You're still human beings. Hoarding hurt. Still GonNa Sting. Yeah of course but you will respond differently. Well especially if you're in a leadership position like if you own a Salon. Let's say if you're the person in charge of a Salon. You are setting the tenor for that whole room The personality of that room. And when I hear you guys talk about and I think about you when I go in to get my little air done. What Little Air I ask but I still enjoy doing. It's an environment. It's Anapa sphere. Someone is putting their hands on my body. There is a camaraderie that doesn't exist when I go to starbucks or someone is touching may you know and so there's really needs to be comfortable atmosphere a fun atmosphere and an artistic atmosphere in your case and I think leaders are really responsible for setting the tone even if you've had a bad day and I'm going to get back to Sean Acre for a minute and if you haven't read Shawn's books and things really recommend you do it because he had the disadvantage was the first one that I read and just unbelievable and you know his second one was about learning not how to make yourself happy. The second one was be a part of making other people happy and win. You make other people happy which gets to your gratitude in the morning. You're making someone else. Happy they just got an email from when label and it says I'm thinking of you. What are some of the things you would say? Were person in that two or three seven. Who Want to just say I'm thinking about? You could say that two thousand people the same thing. I try to make it personal to them. Meaning whatever I'm saying is not a cut and paste texts that I can send a whole bunch of people right. It's something specific to them. So all reminisce about vacation that we took together or a conversation that we had In a struggling time for me. That really really helped me. Hey just remember two years ago when I was struggling about this. You told me this and I was thinking about you today. So it's something that was more personalized and I'm sure this happens to you because it happens to me probably ninety nine percent of the time when I do that. The response that I get back as I needed that today. Oh It's not by accident does not like. I'm making a list of all day. I'm GONNA text this person. Wednesday. I'm in a call. This person Thursday on in that moment when I'm so I need to send out my to gratitude emails my to gratitude text messages depending on the hour that. I'm doing it. Whatever the name is that POPs into my head. That's the person that I'm going to reach out to and always ninety nine percent of the time they respond back. Say while I needed this today and doesn't make you happy. Of course I mean it makes me happy just makes you realize that. I'm just part of a big big picture here. Whatever you WANNA call it and I just need to follow my heart just need to trust my instincts in doing exactly what? I'm feeling we know for me. I think one of the most exciting parts of my career in my life now is being forced to perform under pressure and there are a lot of moving parts to a big musical. There are a lot of moving parts to television pilot. Not so much once you get television cooking enrolling but pressure is something that if I could sheriff your thoughts about it might be helpful. I was watching one day of Venus Williams the Great Tennis Star being interviewed. And they said how does it feel to be getting older boy and basic all the young gals who are not gonNA living daylights out of that tennis ball and At Your Age. I think she was thirty. Seven at the time you're in the semi-finals of the US Open. So how does it feel? Are you under a lot of pressure? And she looked at me and says well you know I'm going to refer to someone even older than me that you might like to hear from. Her name was Billie Jean King and Billie Jean King said pressure is a privilege because it gives us the chance to be our best when it matters the most and I took piano as a youngster at I had these little piano recitals. Everybody else was a nervous wreck going to the house. I couldn't wait because I knew during that moment when I was playing my little piece that I was GonNa have adrenaline. I was GONNA have excitement and I was going to have an audience. That doesn't appear any other time that in that piano recital but this is what I was really young I got used to pressure and I started enjoying pressure so I wanna read this one more time because I really think it's a good thought. And that is pressure is a privilege because it gives us the chance to be our best when it matters the most and I today know that there's a lot of pressure parts of show business for a lot of people but there's a lot of pressure parts families and in our day to day relationships as you a little bit about pressure thing short because you're not recommending that people just wing it obviously going into that piano recital you practice. Rehearse practice practice practice. I'm ready do absolutely right. Selena Williams is not just showing up the day of without having right worked out and rehearsed in practice. And whatever else she has to go through. I think more what I'm talking about. Don't fear pressure be ready and no it's exciting and is a dynamic that that moment gives you that can't be created in the practice room it can't be created on the practice court it can't be created in rehearsal hall. Opening night is full of people. And that's exciting and that's pressure. I remember one week before opening night of a big musical. We were still in previews and in previews you only get a couple of weeks. Usually because the theater is reduced ticket sales of the prices for previews so. They don't want to give you a lot of previous. But a show needs previews northern. Make sure the sets worked. And everything's working and everybody's got their accused ride in the lighting's right. You're standing in the right place at the right time. So the light hits you one of our house who'd been rehearsing one of the leads. Came Down with large itis. Just hit her on a Thursday and by Saturday which had two shows. She just couldn't do it now. I was under more pressure at that moment. I think I've ever experienced and the under study I wasn't quite clear whether the understudy was ready and She came out. And you WanNa know something. She didn't miss a single line. The only thing that happened when she got hit in the face by one of the sets because she didn't know the sex changes and from that moment on one of the other actors took her by the hand and walked her through her exits because that was a she did didn't scene changes. But that taught me something and that is count on other people to be prepared and ready. Expect that of other people and if you're a person that is supporting others be ready at all times because we're one combination of moving parts together gentle. I love that message because I think nowadays. Everybody wants the spotlight. Everybody wants Whether that's to be literally famous or it's to make more money or to get the Promotion. People want the spotlight. I want it to focus on me where people pay attention to me. And Gimme the raise and give me the opportunity and I sometimes believe that. A lot of people got the spotlight. Today they make a total fool of themself -solutely tresor. They're not ready absolutely. They haven't done the work. There's an award in the beauty. Industry called the North American Hairdressing Award. Naja and so they choose master hairdresser of the year and all kinds of different categories. Ruth Roach this amazing friend and Icon now in. The beauty industry told me that when she's won this award several times and she told me that her first photo shoot because the competition is based on photos based on hair beautiful makeup and everything else that she told me that her first photo shoot was in the back of a Chinese restaurant. Santa Barbara and I said Ruth. Can I see those photos? She said No. You can't You know. Everybody assumes that ride. Her first photo was worth the Award Brian Eno hundreds if not thousands of sore that before she ever said okay. Judge me based on this one. Will you know I? I work a lot with music. People and my greatest joy has been working with Holland dozier Holland Abo- town now. They have written probably three or four hundred songs and they have probably fifteen or twenty number one hits so they're known for these fifteen or twenty and yet. I'm here to tell you I've heard three hundred others that are not and there's a certain magic about point when a celebrity gets when stars a star and you've got to be very sensitive to discovering one whether you have the magic and two if people are connecting with it because that's the ultimate decision maker of for you commercially is if you're connecting with others and win. I think what your role is. Now one of your roles which I enjoy watching is your influencing so many others that are influencing others now. That means you aren't influencing this person way out here. That person's been influenced by someone who was influenced by. That's influenced by so much. I mean it's a look at your world of influence and I think if we look at ourselves as being part of not just the race of live but the human race. Then we have a chance to be influencers and parents in fluids. Uncles announce influence cousins influence. And your blood. Your family is really counting on you. Especially if you've been able through Paul Mitchell or someone else to find an environment where you can be loved needed one Ed and therefore you develop your confidence you talk about. People that are unhappy nine to five jobs because they're not spending time in their lane or in their zip code and their passion right right. Oh there's so many unhappy but you also talked about branding and so can you kind of tie the two together because you're obviously they can't be well. I I think how I learned this. The most is when ESPN. I started. They said Paul. Try some fun things you know. We don't know who we are we. We don't know what's going to happen here. But let's try it out so so. I did a commercial with a quarterback from the Chicago bears. His name was bobby. Douglas and I wrote this commercial is said basically. Yo-you like sports. I Like Sports. And if you're not happy doing what you're doing from nine to five. Why don't you call us and let's see above? Maybe you could be a franchise dealer for a sports shock so you could be in sports all the time. I think we got like eighty thousand responses. I mean it was people that wanted to be in sports yet out and I wanted to have my life doing what I love now. In my case I learned advertising and marketing in a New York advertising agency in New York that I was president of and then my love and my passion was musicals and I think today for those of you that are finding your passion that are committed to wanting to be successful and bigger than just an ordinary nine to five feeling. You've got to market and package your passion. That's number one. And then you've got to learn how to commercialize or monetize your passion and I think that's where the branding comes in. And when people contact me now and say Paul. Will you help me who I am? Here's what I'm doing. Are there steps? One two three four that lead to monetization making money of my passion and the answer is yes and that is a new field that I think you know. Look at Amazon. What they've started. There's a whole group of people younger people that are comfortable ordering whatever. They want to order on their cellphone. Jeff Katzenberg who is the great entertainment executive has just announced. He has six hundred million dollars. He's forming a cellphone network for entertainment and it's only for cell phones and you know it's going to be huge because people are used to ordering and spending money using their cell phone and you and I hope you have a book if you have a thought if you have a product if you have a service we can now help brand you what your values are what you stand for. Because I still think people like to buy from people whether it used to be a retailers sears or you target or whoever we bought from my bag number SAKS fifth avenue did matters. But the bran didn't matter. You knew if I bought that shirt from this place. There is a brand that sort of embraced it and circled it as well. So if you can create yourself what you stand for. And what you're pitching. As a brand for instance the earth video. He cares about the Earth. He cares about the environment and he went out Little Dicky and got other superstars to get involved with them who also care about the earth and they came out with the cutest video. Heard that connects with others and says join what I care about and you can do that too but I think a lot of people that think I agree with Paul I am but then you go out do it. You'RE TREADING WATER. You're in quicksand. You really not building an audience. You're really not understanding. How does Google work? How do I get to the top of that page and there were definite ways that get you might able to ask you then because you just said yes? There are steps to do that. Can you share with us? Some of these steps are and by the way you're talking about that. Branding might my seven year old daughter there. You go is doing exactly what you're talking about doing. She very passionate about homelessness. You've very passionate about environment stuff by me yesterday. She was in the office working on little signs that she wanted me to make many many copies of Can I The funny one was? Can I go hang this tape this to that pole? That Daddy George Rancho. Because he wasn't looking in Ramrod his little. Can I go tape? Which another can I go? Take this sign which was about not using you. Tips and plastics and saving the whale. Right she had a picture of a little seahorse wrapped around a Q. Tip where they end up plastic cue tips and so we should anyway but she was like. It wasn't just for own Little Fox. She's like I need to get this idea out Hashem at about this this I believe in I need to get the word out our. That's the easy part. Meaning the easy part is I have a passion con the easy parties I can define my passion and it matters. Okay that's over here in another seven. Now what do I do with my passion? It's starts. I'm GonNa give it just the basics and then what I do with people we personalize and customize these steps into what you're really thinking about who you need to reach. This is marketing one. What is just? It's moved into social media now as it should first of all. I WANNA reach. Who would be interested in what I have to say. You've got to be able to define that a lot of people think others throw it out there. No come no you need to say. How old are they? What gender are they? What do they care about? How do they get their information? Go through all of these steps to identify who those people are that are going to be attached to what you have to say. Your Passion. I loved Oprah when she has to say I built my universe one viewer at a time and I believe that you know so you have to care about each one of these people that might be interested now. There are two schools of that you know they say if you build it. They will come and sometimes that is true. But I'm more of a marketing scientist. So it you start with. Who is there would be interested in what I have to say. And when you start looking at those demographics psycho graphics and everything that goes with that try to determine who would be most interested in what I have to say. I'll give you an example. I'm doing a musical on robots so I had to start with musical on robots. Yes I mean but the music was really bad. Should man be afraid of the future of artificial intelligence and robots? That's the premise. But then we have a robot story so before I dove into this with sci fi writer and all of that I sat down and said. Is there a big enough audience? That's interested in the fear of what robots robotics artificial intelligence could bring to the table in the future. And you bet there's a fear and a lot of other reasons that that show I think is going to work but my point is I went out and thought about who would be interested in this. So that's step one. Who would be interested in what it is? You're passionate about number two. What is the best way for me to communicate it? You've got to sit down. How do I find tune I message? Not only who's GonNa listen but what is it and how do I convey it? And there's a lot of ways today you can convey whether it's in vignettes whether it's in video whether it's blogs one of the biggest ways in the smartest things I'd like to share with your audiences find someone else who has a big audience and try to get on with them. Try to talk about it with them and then try to right. People can get up every day when I'm on a subject as who might I ride? That might be interested in hearing from Paul about this subject. And just go out there and you would be surprised. I'm GonNa give you an example. I did this just two weeks ago. I saw little children's musical called. I think it was called Honk. I don't remember right now that I think is. I'm the Doha my notes. I think it was called Honk. I absolutely loved that way. Where do you see this up in a little elementary school in Marin County okay? No that's what I do on my Satter K. I go see children's musicals loud that it's the ugly duckling you know. It was a little nest of animals and one of them was born out of a the was like the rest. You know this right and music was out of this world. I loved it. One of the songs was about. I'm different so I thought this music was conveying the most beautiful music lyrics and so I said I hug the GAL that did this little. Show US around in her as A. Do you know who wrote the music as well as name so I ran looked him up from London. Honk won the award many years ago. Which is the same as our Tony Award and do you know what show it beat? Lion King? God. I am now blown away so I get on the Internet and I write the composer and guess what he wrote. Be Right back. And he's doing two shows in America right now and we're going to beat because I took the initiative so my point in all of this is you have the same Internet that I do. You have the same skills I do so I in the social media world. Try to really understand your audience who it is. You're reaching to try to perfect message so you know exactly what you're saying. And why and then third reach out to others with big audiences because you can be a big fish in a little plan but let's go be a big fish in a big pond by jumping another big fish. You know now I could go on and on and on and in my coaching people on this we lead them how to go from zero to ten thousand fifty thousand to two more with whatever it is. They're pitching you know there's a right way and then away. 'cause Google has all these things that they check on. It's it's how you phrase it how you do this. Many times you use this as the Oh Blah Bah and have experts around me at every one of those specialty things one of the companies that I work with has fourteen different divisions for every brand every subject. Instagram has its own group. Twitter has its own group and as a right weight and a wrong way to use every single one of those facebook youtube and we have these groups of specialists and they're all like twenty five years old. That are at work for this company while now so you can do it and take it one step at a time. And then when you start growing you'll start selling and then you've got money in capital. What our branding. Mistakes that people are making. I think the biggest is just putting out what you think works instead of what. Your audience is connecting with an Emmy not not be authentic or Lodo authentic in this day and age. Authentic is APPS. You're right authentic is absolutely a real but having been around the block a couple of times most people say Paul. You haven't been around the block you are the blog I would say you have to experiment a little bit. And then you see what takes off you know When you speak. I'm sure that used phrases. And then all of a sudden you get a feeling whatever. I say that the audience connects with it. You use it again and again and again so I think You know there are those of us that maybe can help. You anticipate what an audience will connect with. But whether it's a Broadway show or a brand. The key is what is the audience connecting with in what is changing lives what is mattering. And what is selling you know? I remember the group that do you remember the commercial. Where's beef is a hamburger famous hamburger commercial but a lot of your audience's younger and they may not even remember the. I think it's still reference to okay. Is that huge all right? This was a group that I was very familiar with doing this commercial and they wrote this commercial. They just had a line in there at the end. And then where's the beef? It why this little old lady that will try to find gas and that'll be how we ended in. It's just one of the many commercials that they had an in line. And then they found this gown and Clara Pallor. That was your ladies is look at us and two wires. The baby's right. I am sorry I shouldn't have the table. But she did it in a way that connected with an audience and built the whole brand from Burger King. So sometimes you get there by accident to discovery but again my biggest answer to your question is what is connecting with the audience. Ooh When you're selling a new shampoo you're selling a new product. How do you position it? And what do you say about it? Not just what chemicals that I'll give another example Rolls Royce was trying to think of. How are we convey what our brand represents and one of the copywriters in the Ad Agency of David? Ogilvy was reading their manual of do I hate to read product manuals but sometimes when you read a product manual. You'll find a little gem and he found that in the dashboard of a Rolls. Royce was o'clock and it was so quiet and he translated transcended just that thought into the loudest knows. You'll ever ear when driving. A Rolls Royce is the clicking of the clock in the dashboard. And that just said it runs smooth. This brand is beautiful at its luxurious. And the only thing. You're going to give it so. Quiet is the ticket of the clock and he found that in the eight product manual. You know so. I wish there was a simple answer to what you asked but I think we have to go back and forth with whatever it is. You're brandon whatever it is you're trying to sell and we really we throw it around Among ourselves and we figure it out lots of things you're saying right now I just listened to a podcast with Kevin. Hart is the best is talking about the process that he goes to you. You you you say development. The process that he goes through. I think maybe people assume that he just stands out there. An end ad libs a one hour a routine and that becomes a netflix special in in a movie deal and everything else and he talked about just the two year process that he goes through to the end up with a one hour gig that he's been going to make millions off of of just going to little tiny comedy stores and rewriting it and reworking it in the reaction from the audience. But you brought up earlier. It was fascinating to hear all of that. My joy is in the process. Ryan wants the curtain goes up on opening night. I'm much less. People need to enjoy the process so they just want the payday. They want the result but they don't focus on the effort they just want the result and you talked about that at like a happy accident remember. I interviewed a Robert Bada who is in icon in the beauty industry. Incredible hairdresser but he was also photographer too. So you would photograph his work in when the product line came out with a makeup line and he was trying to photograph that the lipstick and why it was so luxurious and so he's photograph in the model and he's putting more and more whatever. The liquid was to create the photo the liquid on the lips. All of a sudden there was so much liquid that it started to drip and so it was just like a big long and he captured that and that was the photo that they used to market. The lift line is that the lipping was so luxurious that the product was just so amazing but it was the accident. He said it was the accident but he but he is not like he meant to do that right and who knows how many other tries he had or other things that he had planned in his mind. This is exactly how it's GonNa work out but it it wasn't or the articulated again. This difference between decision in Discovery. Because we sit down and decide. This is what it should be. This is GonNa work and that we discover but really. That's where I think when. Volkswagen first came in to the country this little beetle bug car. That was ugly and it was made fun of All that kind of stuff and and the wonderful writers adulting burn back said they pictured the space shuttle and it was the lunar module was landing on the moon. And that was the picture and the caption was. It's ugly but it gets you there votes wagon and again they discovered that ugliness was a benefit if practical us at its good justify low price. Get you for May to be. Let's go and Volkswagen built a whole personality around that sort of it gets you there for me to be and you know so. I think everything is individual and but I will say you on the big word you have to be authentic in this day and age if you try to pretend or thank you can get over on the American public. It's not gonNA work. I find it. Interesting are cool that you on. Saturdays are going to elementary schools. Because that was one of the questions that I wanted to ask you. Were you finding your inspiration in your mentors. You can name some pretty Famous people that you had the chance to work with and others that you've never met them but you still steady them. I do so so where. Where are you finding your your inspiration? I think it's it's where you connect. It can be absolutely anywhere just before this interview. I went to a starbucks over here in. You wanted to make sure got early enough found where we were and all this stuff and I'm over here talking to a gentleman I said was what do you do. And he said I create the Christmas holiday designs for theme parks. And I said you mean like Disneyland I need like five others plus Disneyland. I said Holy Mackerel. Talk to me. Tell me what is that like and I just got so excited listening to him so I guess I'm a fan wherever I go on the airplanes at etcetera. But what happens with me is whatever that information is whether it's from a child. Asong commercial or a person it filters in to buy own consciousness in a way that I connect and say that's magic that work's gotTa build on that and it could come from anywhere. It's a child like your children are naturally curious. Yeah Debbie lose that curiosity which I believe in many ways is also when we lose our our passion. We lose our connectedness. We lose our desire to learn grow. We're know it alls I know. Twenty year olds. Who are not at all. I heard I know eight year olds. Who still have that curiosity W Johnson? A charming and attractive and I bet that guy at starbucks today was thrilled that you were so excited. No he was and he just sold his company. He's got millions of dollars and he's a happy camper but you know I think connected with other people in ways that touched their magic as well because we should all care about one. Another the political dysfunction and friction that is in our society. Today is very painful because I think at times. We need to celebrate our differences and not be afraid of them and not not just create this hateful atmosphere around our differences. So when I'm around different people I kind of enjoy it because I'm curious I'm in. I'm learning things that I'm not familiar with and I will ask a lot of questions. I find your friend Larry King. I sat with him. Sidney Sheldon a great writer one time at a charity event. And I say Larry King I mean you know so I said to him. What makes you different from everybody else? And he said I'm more curious than everybody else and I think he's interviewed that's right. People wanted to be interviewed by him because they knew he was curious. Angry human. Ask THEM THE QUESTION. He said to me was always prepared for his interview. He always had his guards at brought him and it never got past usually the second prepared question because once someone gave an answer he went with them and he went with his curiosity so called. Once the Larry King of the beauty industry and read that and called me and said you need to come over. So I can teach you how to be Larry Keane and that's exactly what he said to me. He said he said prepare for your interview. Looking right now appeared for this interview but look at how many notes I've been taking since you've been talking because you you'll say a word and I'll write that Word Down Ryan and that's Larry. Taught me as I ask a question. But don't assume that the answer they gave you the only answer that they have and that one answer there are four five words or other topics within that one. Answer that you can build upon what you mentioned. This will take me there now. Roy and yet you said you made reference to this person. How did you meet that person? Immediate is all kinds of different places that you can go which just blog it example this weekend last weekend. Aladdin came out the movie and it went inside and I love the song. It's a whole new world. I've heard it many many times but I went home the other morning and I said I just WanNa gear fourteen or fifteen different people sing. It's a whole new world. Listen to listen to him and are listening in about the twelfth time someone else saying something hit me. And I'm going to reveal something to you. Go back to the robots musical all of a sudden I discovered on my own at four thirty or five in the morning. We're we're fellow early risers if we can figure out this connection between man and machine of the future robotics if we can figure out how to be compatible with what robots bring to the table and what we bring to the table. It's a whole new world. I called the writer at seven. Am in the morning. You got him out of bed. The writer of that song no the writer of the show robots that got him. I said you gotTA listen to. It's a whole new world and think of this when you listen to it. I said now we're going to go out and have another composer another lyric and but we have introduced mankind to a whole new world if we get this right. And that's the purpose of the musical is to say there is a whole new world of we can figure that rather than fear it that's right and he got so excited so you know to your question as go back to your question. Where do you get your inspiration? It comes from everywhere you know. Be Alert but you'll know in your heart the magic when you have a couple of questions about that because it's so easy to be critic and I think when you're being a critic you're not really curious you don't really care what people have to say or what they've been through. I think you could left a loudon thinking that was sucked here. Who are remember who it was the mentor of mine. Maybe Marianne Williamson when somebody saw a Broadway show in what you think this. I didn't like that. And she's like well. You know when you produce your rodway remember such a big and I just. I think that that's unattractive in and I think that does kill curiosity. Weather's two things. I'd like to respond to that one. I often think the person that's the critic is trying to get attention and somewhere in their childhood or the way they get attention is being annoying. The way they get attention is pointing out something. Nobody else saw. Some flaw I'm a warrior basketball fan because I live in northern California and I've sat with people watching the Warrior Game Su. Start Criticizing Steph curry or K. D. or the codes or this or that. I'm good. This is the greatest basketball team in the last five years. Or maybe in the history of the franchise. Why are you criticizing them? I mean you have the right to but what is it about their tremendous competitive play that on this particular night. You feel is worthy of your loud criticism. So I usually feel that it's someone inexperienced at what they're criticizing a you know a lot of critics in the entertainment business which they were up there. I really do. And they're not up. There used to be an official in the NC double a basketball world and I hated officiating with someone that wasn't a former player because they had it in for players they would throw technical fouls and short officials were the worst because they were resentful. That the other guys were six but seven now so I think I really believe that if you're inexperience and you haven't been through the drill. You have less appreciation and you throw these bombs out critical bombs not knowing how hurtful they are or is just because I have the right to in. The power of the PEN can stand behind. I can hide behind my social media and nobody really knows who I am right right and so I just think remember that. Most of the people in social media are the extremists. They really are. And there's a lot of us that just have to you have to learn to dismiss because I'm GonNa say it again. Don't let them define you your people around you your activity day-to-day defines you. Can you tell that I learned a lot from my daughter because I keep on quoting her? She's amazing what she said the other day because she was talking about some little girls that were saying things about her and she said to me why she said just because they're saying it daddy doesn't mean it's true there like she got it. Wow but I'd like a t shirt that says that just because you're saying these things doesn't mean they're I so gotten used to. I'm single and I don't have a lot of our relationship or a family or things that I need to pay attention to pay attention to these things. We're we're talking about today. I mean my career is my lover my profession is is where I get turned on you know and so that makes me a little different than others in that I have more freedom but I have to tell you when I do get turned on when I do feel. I discovered the magic. I really go for it and I a no one can tell me not to wish upon that star at that moment. You know we're going to journey and one of the things I like to say is when you really believe in something. Getting from the launch pad into the next orbit is the toughest. Because there's so much resistance to what you're trying to accomplish. Your mother may resist. Your finances may resist all these resistors. And then finally you get to that orbit and it's so much nicer isn't a visitor drew when it's pouring down raining and you get in an airport and you take off in. Tim minutes later. You're above the clouds and is just beautiful. Well I can tell you. Some people never get above the clouds with their ideas or with their brandy or with whatever and they just sit there and get so frustrated. 'cause they stay in the fog and I think one you've got to be present. You've got to be clear headed. You've gotta be rested. You gotTa care if you're really going to be a leader because I think paying attention is the middle name of when Claybon you pay attention to details you pay attention to. Who is you know operating properly. You pay attention to execution and those who have that leadership skill. Nowhere to pay attention. You know what I don't like is someone that pays attention to all the weeds minutia and drives me nuts with things that aren't important to me but they WANNA get noticed. Did you know Paul Bobby? Said Noah didn't know didn't care but why are you telling me this and they can answer that question? So how much of this comes naturally to you? How much of this do you still have to remind yourself of Told the story of coming out as a child in your rainbow also you. You had the imagination in the data curiosity way back then. What can I steal a little thought from Tim Story? He says as children we have a shout. And then you get older and you lose your shout and I think that's a very precious description of when you're young you had this unabashed authenticity. I'm a lion tomorrow. I would get a peach lug box for the backyard. I'd sit down and pretend I was playing piano. You know and so that that imagination that was in me there are other things that are in you and you and you out there. That as a child we're already there and I think that little quiet voice is in you and I think there's some people that believe that God places in you even as a child that mission that journey that you're supposed to be on and then you start discovering these breadcrumbs that are as I say leading to a bakery. It's your bakery. An I think every one of us have an initiative a shout a talent a gift of passion that we need to find and follow. And if you don't you're probably miserable because you're not in a situation that's feeding what it is you were meant to be and become and so. I do believe it's in everyone and I think you know I'd like to suggest to many who have kind of dismissed this to reboot take two steps back. Let's revisit Sir Great Shout that you once had what you cared about. I'm lucky to see that on occasion because we signed up for my school. I'll get second third career people where what they arrived. Red Rock twenties was not what they wanted to drive as what was expected of them they pursued something. That was GONNA pay the bills or it was GonNa make mom and dad happy or it was gonNA make them responsible human being but it really. Wasn't there shout. It wasn't their passion and now they're coming back say well my kids are gone. I've hated my life from nine to five for the last five years or thirty years. And now I get to finally pursue I love to do but the ultimate end of. Let me add to your sentence and build on a little bit finding the passion and then finding out how I can use the skills I've learned in live to contribute an insert my understanding of this passion. Other people's lives is really the story here. You both personally and commercially. Because you know for instance I wanNA make money in show business but I really am concerned about people that are afraid of robots and afraid of that so I mean I want to contribute to that. I want to contribute to global warming with the musical. I'm working on a musical about the story of John. Muir and it's really how he convinced Teddy Roosevelt to to isolate the national parks and make them part of what is preserved so in my case. It's my skills and show Biz and entertainment and musicals that I'm going to exercise my passion but in doing so hopefully I'm gonNA affect other people's lives in have an impact. See that's the message. It has whatever we're doing it has to has to be in service of others. It has to be contributing Brian. Because we're all consuming. We consume air. We consume water. We consume trees. We consume energy. We consume all kinds of things. And we're all running around contribute and I think rather than considering being different is something weird it means. You're you're an original and you find that originality in you because you're so special if you're finding that original shout. I love that term. I just think it's a greater cause. You just want to shout out who you are. You know let's get in again into lifestyles and gave people and transgender people and soldiers and whoever you want to become you know shouted out. Because that's who you are as Americans. Hopefully we embraced the right to shout and yet I think today the cable news networks etc are trying to intimidate the shout then one of the things that hurts me the most is we have professional shouters now to the little scripts and they've got this in their Polish and they come on screaming their little points. They're not authentic there. Pretend you know but when you meet and I know you've got some fantastic people in your life that I've met who were authentic in. What is that young? Man's name? That Sindhu purifying water seth Maxwell. Oh Seth Maxwell he is awesome you know and and Eden Sassoon and those that are around him day cares so much about that and they have such energy so I I think once you find your shout you find inspiration and energy to go out and Chow Chow Chow Chow. Shout be prepared for the resistors. Be Prepared for those that are GonNa try to quieten your shout and giving you all the reasons. You shouldn't be shouting. This is amazing. How long we've been going very longtime will you? Can Edit it down well. What yesterday ten minutes five days? Just sit back everybody in the be prepared to listen you talk about to wrap the Savvy. Talk about that what you believe matters. And maybe incorporate that into a final message for our listeners. Because I love that what you believe matters. I think it matters because I believe what we believe was put in us by God and therefore God shows your vessel your body and your surroundings to care about something that matters to you so whatever that shout that message. That topic is is perfectly packaged in you and I don't think God intended you to fail. And he didn't intend for that topic to fail so he put it in you. And he's putting surroundings around as putting you listening to this podcast to re-inspire and reboot whatever needs to get your passion back on track because it matters. I will add nothing to thanks Paul. You're welcome. I'm glad W here so much. I guess I say this on rare occasions that I wish masters world video so that people could see if they could just watch you animated you are and I love to pleasure to sit across from you. Thank you very much. Well listen to all of you out there keep listening. There's a lot of people that can share a lot of things that matter.

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From Homelessness to Hope with Glenn Lundy

The HeFluence Podcast

50:02 min | 8 months ago

From Homelessness to Hope with Glenn Lundy

"People think homelessness they man gotta sock to not have somewhere to live over or not have any food or not have any money but really the worst part of homelessness is you become invisible and people wouldn't make eye contact with me. They were afraid. I was gonna make mugume or i was going to make them feel guilty and ask them for money. It's so people just they look through you above you around you. They never looked at you. I want once you become part of the scenery you like a park bench or or a bush that is to be avoided and that invisible feeling where no one says your name or no one my contact with you. I would never wish that on my worst enemy is the worst experience ever in. That invisible. Feeling became like it was like the homelessness then became hopeless. Helpless nece became a deep depression and the deep depression became suicidal thoughts. In the suicidal thoughts started to rationalize. I convinced myself ultimately that the world would be a better play. If i wasn't you're listening to the fluids cast in we're having candid an actionable conversations about your health relationships business and ministry and now here's your host the second chance coach for men. Michael david huey guys. Welcome to another session of the heat. Fluids podcasts It's a very sunny day. Here in florida actually was a little cool when we woke up. And i know my guest. Today was just in florida last week in saint petersburg which is I was last week. Was the last week when you were in saint pete. I don't know bro. Data's now. I think i got back last thursday last yes so. He was in florida and saint pete and and And so it was really good. Because i was in clearwater last night i went over for a little gathering over on the beach last night. My wife loves the beach We lived in tampa for twenty seven years. Now we've lived over in orlando for a year and it's really funny. My last two guests. I actually met because of my guest today on clubhouse friend anthony trucks who is going to be in orlando this weekend and then my friend tamra andrews who glenn is getting ready to do some really awesome things with and we just we just an amazing time. Her and i she's actually going to be in. Orlando this week into and i'm a big golf fan Glen and i were laughing. Glenn's swing needs some help because he said that one of his children's swings a golf club better than he does and wave better. yeah. And i'm i'm a. I'm a three handicap golfer. So i i. I had twenty rounds under par and twenty twenty so i told him next time he's in florida. I'll give him a little bit of some swing so he can keep up with his kids because he obviously has a him and he has to Has to keep up with them. And go glenn lundy is is just an inspiration to so many people right now and i think that god is using him in a greater way than ever before in his life like i just realized that today was his eight hundred twentieth episode on his facebook live that he does with rising grind. Well and it's funny. I sent him my my. I got one of his t shirts. That are just made incredible. I like guys that make good quality stuff that i can wear. I don't like the stuff that when i when i it glenn that it turns up into a That might see that. Maybe one of your kids could wear right like yeah. Yeah goes from extra large to small right and and this shirt was just really my wife always. She's always like she goes. Okay what did you buy now. And she says oh it's good qualities he said. Make sure you tell glenn that he makes good quality stuff and glenn had one of my very good friends. Tim story on Glenn has now started a morning if not on clubhouse get with it if you're an android user so sad that you don't you know that you don't you guys can't get on yet. I'm sure that you can. There's something called an ipad. that's right that's right and ipad. That's right that's right. that's also my friends. Got an ipad so but but the he has a morning show called breakfast with champions. And he's had jay abraham and he's had today had tim story he's had grant cardona and just a lot of really inspiring people. We were talking about before we prayed and got on here about some of the amazing people. I told him. I've got a book over here. Full of probably fifty or sixty pages of notes and some recordings. I told him. I don't leave thing just to my memory like you just heard him say. I don't even know what day it is right like. It's it's thursday and and and and we laugh because it's i was telling him that I started listening closer to a lot of my friend. Eric thomas videos. And i heard him mentioned something. He was talking about the all blacks rugby right. And he's like. I don't even know glenn. Where's the stadium stadiums over there right so the joke between me and eric is that he can't play golf either. He's like bra and he says it in that video. I'm not playing golf anytime soon. And then he goes in frigging buys a house on the golf course in san diego california right end the day that i did my podcast interview with him. He had just bought his house and he said hey bro. Guess what. I was like what he said. I guess you're going to have to teach me how to play golf now. Because i when i when we get done a walkout back and show you. I'm on the eighth hole of this. Golf course and i was like about taibbi started getting up with learning how to play a little bit of golf. Because he's like oh man it takes four hours. It's a waste of time. But i just wanna say welcome. Welcome to the heat phones podcasts. A father of a husband of one and a father of eight kids eight amazing kids. He's counting on his fingers. If you're if you're just listening he's counting so welcome to the podcast glenn monday. Thanks for being here. My brother bro. Thanks for having me man I really appreciate you sharing the space in this time with me. It means the world to me so thank you so much. I absolutely thrilled to be i. I was saying this to our friend tamra today. She was like a told her about my wife. And i go back and listen to these podcasts. The next day and in we really encouraged by how god ordains people. Change my thinking on this glen. I used to say like minded. But it's heart mind and you can't see it but my notes here. That i had with tamra today i said. And here's what what reason why. I'm laughing about a glenda's because when i had tim story on my podcast he i asked him a question. I said hey. How do you balance life. Coaching and pastoring large church in california. And he's like Fifty fifty and i was like really and he said well. What do you mean i said. Isn't it a hundred one hundred. And he said this he. I'll never say fifty fifty ever again the rest of my life. I love always say a hundred hundred and and it came from a story. Glenn where tim's sister taught him how to clean his room when he was like thirteen years old. And if those of you. That know. Tim tim's right. Hand man is at man named joseph. Mendoza joseph is just hit. We just did a conference with him. A couples conference. You know tim single but he spoke on the conference right and the rest of it was couples and my wife and i my wife and i spoke and joseph told me that tim is meticulous about everything he does so if you ever challenged him with anything he always has to raise the bar to the next level and so i think glen has done that with clubhouse i club houses re radically. Our businesses. Were growing pretty fast as they were clubhouse expanded them and glen has made a safe safe place for people to have a seat at the tables what he says and so. I'm excited to hear. I feel like i know you glenn but i always say the personnel learns the most from these podcast is made because my wife and i sit down the next day and we pray and we just listened and we want to know how we can be inspired by other people and serve other people. So tell me about glen lundy story because it's really funny One of my best friends. Paul loki owns a dealership over in clearwater And i've known him for twenty years and that's only person i've bought cars from except when i moved i bought a jeep from over here because you don't sell gps but my wife likes and i don't know why glenn but i can't get her to buy an audi or bmw or a honda or anything. She just and she and this time when we went. I had it all. Set up to get this new sorrento hybrid right because she had a hybrid before. Honey they get forty nine miles a gallon and all this stuff and then we get there and we'd take the hybrid out for ride and she squeals the back end of the tires pulling out of the parking lot and i might man. I might need a hans device in this ride going and we're just going around to block. Let me go around the block. And we're negoti no negotiate with the same guy and he's like you don't have to negotiate in paul's written in here that we're giving you our costs and that he's going to give you the extended warranty and everything his what he's going to do so for the three years of your lease you get everything taken care of. I'm like okay. What carter my wife went. And i can't find my wife. I'm like where's my wife. She's out driving a sports car. The new k. Five that lebron does in his commercials comes back. She comes back. Glenn she says okay. We're not getting the suv. We're getting this car. And i'm like twenty minutes later. You've decided you're not getting an suv. You're getting a car so we go through and so glen has been in the car business for over twenty years and so i'm excited to hear your story so tell me a little bit more about glen monday. Man dude You know there's there's there's to my phone is doing crazy. There's two there's two real seasons to glenn london. You know i mean there's there's there's probably a hundred seasons but there's there's a part of my life That i call you know my my two d life and then there's my three d. lie and my two d life was what i lived up until i was roughly. You know. in my late twenties. I lived a very to d life and what i mean by that is mind and body if it looked good and it felt good then the answer was yes good girl that was it and and living that two d. life grew up in flagstaff. Arizona was a smart kid As far as like books. Mar and and i spent a lot of time in the streets. My i grew up very interestingly. My parents got divorced. When i was eleven years old and my dad was black. My mom was white and when they got divorced. My dad remarried a black woman and my mom married a white dude and then they moved into the same apartment complex. Greenlaw garden apartments on seventh avenue in flagstaff arizona. So my mom and her new husband lived in apartment twenty eight and my dad and his new wife lived in apartment already so literally whereas one apartment in between us and here my dad he had married this black woman and she had four kids of her own ended up. Having to more so in dad's house it was like the all black house with eight kids in mom's house. It was all white house which is me and my sister and every stereotype that you could think of michael existed in these two houses. Dad's house was loud the tv in every room there was sports on constantly. We were eating like fried chicken collard. Greens drinking kuei listening to hip hop music and gospel and like literally every stereotype. You could think of existed over in dad's house and then over in mom's house. It was the exact opposite. It was like country music rock and roll. Mom's sit on the couch reading a book show tunes like it was everything you can imagine bro. And my mom and ever. They hung out in a bowling alley. All the And i mean it was. It was insane and so i grew up in this weird little space where both of my parents were trying to figure out what life looked like they were dating. You know what i mean. Like dating new husband's new wives there in that new love section and the kids were kind of we were just in the middle and we didn't really know exactly where we fit in or didn't fit in and so the way that impacted me back then was i never knew like i got along with everyone. I was a chameleon. So i could. I could if i was hanging out with hispanic folks. I did pick up a hispanic accent. If i was hanging out with the brothers. I picked up a brother accent like wherever i was man product of your environment as a product of my environment and i got along really well with everyone but i had zero deep connections with anyone. Because i just didn't know where i really fit. My skin was too dark to be white is to light to be black. I was just kind of being the space in the middle. So i spent a lot of time. You know hanging out in pool halls getting in trouble if it looked good. If fell good the answer is yes of look. Good of bill good. The answer was yes. I was smart enough to get through school. My mom was trying to figure out her new relationship so she was like jr so they used to call me. Because i'm glen junior. She'd say jr. I don't care as long as you get good grades you do whatever you want. So i didn't have a curfew thousand thirteen years old and and just running man just running and i got into lots of trouble in so fast forward just a little bit got into college Met a girl. I'm couple months after meeting her. She got pregnant with my first child. And so i dropped out of college so i could go to work and do the what i thought was the right thing kind of the dad thing howard was eglin when first. When did you have your first child. I was twenty and it was Well i was nineteen. It was my first year in college when she got pregnant. When i was nineteen hetero when i was twenty and so dropped out college. Hit the workforce started working at a car wash. Then i went to a place that sold america online. I'm dating myself right now. So went to place that sold america online over the phone learned how to do phone sales. I still got an aol account. Laugh too hard. You're like a pokemon card by eight hundred grand. Your vintage original. Aol us key mont pokemon cards. My it's funny. You brought that up because my buddy just said that. His son is selling pokemon cards and make twenty and thirty grand a month on pokemon cards all day. Long dude all day long. It's crazy right now. So while i hit the workforce. I was doing the on the phone sales. I saw an article in the paper. That said make five thousand dollars a month. Guaranteed i was like. Oh if i can make five grand a month. That's over and it was. It was an ad for a nissan dealership so i went to the nissan dealership. Got the job that day and that began my career in the auto industry. So here i was in my twenty s making five six seven a month. I had this little girl with a girl that our relationship l. apart quickly And you know. I was the guy that knew. Everything ahead headed off. I headed off. Figured out. Like if i could get one over on you then i win and whatever i wanted to do i did so. I hung out late in and got in trouble and did make my daughter a priority and all of those things span all of those things and really i had a darwinistic approach on light so if i can you know survival of the fittest so if i get one over on michael i'd get one over on michael like you'd think we were buddies but i was trying to figure out a way to win. And then that's just kinda how it was in so when my daughter was six years old is is is when things of changed when my daughter was six. Her mother hit me with papers. And i lost custody of her so in the state of arizona. It's women's rights state. And i wasn't. I was on the birth certificate but we were never married and it was just this whole ordeal and so i got hit with papers. Thirty days later she was gone. Wasn't allowed to see her wasn't allowed to talk to her. Nothing and that hit me in such a victim way. I was like made. Screw this place. This is everybody else ball I'm the greatest thing on the planet. What's wrong with all these people who cares about. I've been to jail a bunch of times. Who cares if by rob cheat and steal like who cares. I'm a good dad right like just all the lies that i told myself back then in so i packed up everything i owned and i moved and i had this brilliant idea. Michael very intelligent guy. I'm gonna blow your mind with this idea that i had right so i had this incredible idea that i was gonna move vegas and i was going to be a professional poker player for the rest of my life only. Yeah that's right. I had it all worked out. I was just going to play poker for living. I was going to be in the casino twelve hours a day. Eat breakfast lunch and dinner. They're like i had this fascination with vegas and all of that stuff. So i went to vegas man. I took all the money that i had. I laughed the city and everybody behind. Me winnebago. I started playing poker and i was living the high life and everything was amazing and about two weeks later i was completely broke it in any gas in the car and i was sitting in the parking lot. Going what am i gonna do. Now what am i gonna do now. And i had burned every bridge. I could possibly burns. I really didn't have a whole lot of people to call. But i did have some resources over in California hadn't tapped into yet. I hadn't had screwed them over. And so i went to california. Stayed there for a little while. Burned a few more bridges than next new. I found myself homeless on the streets of san diego. And here's the thing about that. It was crazy michael. 'cause san diego's this place of wealth and abundance and it's beautiful and you see the people jogging down the beach looking all good. You got families holding hands people surf in and it's you know the epitome of the american dream and and here. I am spending. Every morning. I would get off the bus. They have buses that run. Twenty four hours out there. So i would get off the bus at six. Am when it hit the depot. And i would walk. And i would look for nickels. Dimes and quarters in the streets. And if i could get enough for us mcmuffin with eg. I knew that that would be. That's like all the food groups right there bro. You hit the bread. You hit the me tv. The dairy with cheese calories. You're to go. That's right so a sausage mcmuffin with egg. And then i would eat that and then it's been the rest of the day looking for change in the streets and on the beach to where i could get back on the bus again that next night and sleep on the bus overnight until they'd kick me off again the next day at the aren't at the at the bus depot. It's i never. I never could bring myself to beg for money or ask for money. I just would search. I've just spent hours searching for pennies. Nickels dimes quarters. And i did that for a little while. Now we're super long. You know days kinda run together when you're homeless but yeah weeks. Maybe maybe maybe months like not more than two months. And so i did that for awhile. In each day. Like kind of became a groundhog day. Everyday was the same and the longer i was homeless. The more i started to blend in with the scenery and people think homelessness they think man got socked to not have somewhere to live or not have any food or not have any money. Were really the worst part of homelessness. Is you become invisible at people wouldn't make eye contact with me. They were afraid. I was gonna maybe muggy mugume or i was going to make him feel guilty and ask them for money so people just they look through you above you around you. They never looked at. You are want once you become just part of the scenery your apartment or or a bush that is to be avoided and that invisible feeling where no one says your name or no one make eye contact with you. I would never wish that on my worst enemy is the worst experience ever in that invisible feeling became like it was like the homelessness then became hopelessness in the hopelessness. Became a deep depression and that deep depression became suicidal thoughts and in the suicidal thoughts i started to rationalize and i convinced myself ultimately that the world would be a better place. If i wasn't in it had burned so many bridges. I had done so many people wrong. My mom was having to worry about me every single day. You know like my sister was embarrassed the to to have me as a brother inside. Just i just convinced myself that. I would be doing the world a favor if i could if i could take myself out. And then they could move on. And so i was in la hoya california which is the first place i ever saw the ocean when i was eighteen years old beautiful there so i went back to the first place i ever saw the ocean and i decided that Grow here goes another stereotype and black people in water bro. We don't mix too well man we don't mix and so i'm not very good. Ask you what you were doing there. In the first place it says right. I'm not a big swimmer inside. Like you know what i'm gonna. I'm gonna swim out as far as i can. And then ultimately. I won't be able to make it back in so i waited till the beaches kind cleared out as in the evening and overnight loyal to the coves there's the seals over there and all that and And i swam out. Did i swam out. And i just remember like i of walking out in the water starts come up you know and you start to feel that boy feeling and and yeah you know. It's kind of a little. It gets a little chaotic. The waves start kind of special smashing you in the face. The salts on your lips and all of those things it starts to get a little chaotic. And sometimes i'm going under and then i'm popping back up and so on and so forth and it was interesting because if it got a little chaotic got a little crazy. My breaths go you know. Starting to increase my heart rate starting to increase. But then right before. What i believed was the last moment it was so calm. It was so peaceful like just settled in. It was like okay. This is this is and i've experienced this in some other parts of my life. Talk about that at some other time. But i believe that we're most comfortable in life right before and that comfort is what kills most humans. Comfort is what ends relationships comfort is. What gets you fired from your job. Comfort is what gets you kicked off the team. Comfort is what causes businesses to fail. Because we're most comfortable right before the end. And so i remember this wave of peace like okay. This is it right and it was. It was good and and and i went under and right as i went under my feet hit the ground. It's like pop back up. I'm like what the heck is going on the ground here in the middle of the ocean like i'm thinking i'm about to die and then all of a sudden ran and i look man and i'm backup on the backup on the shore so the tide had been coming in while i was trying to swim out and i wasn't even a strong swimmer to swim up. So here i am. I roll back up on the beach. And i'm laying there. I'm looking up on the looking up at the stars. And i'm thinking golly glenn you can't even do this right you know he can't even take yourself out like what's what's your i just had such a low Opinion of myself I laid there. And as i laid their the the the sky just kind of expanded man and and i could see the stars and it was just so huge and all of a sudden. I just don't really small and my problems shrink with it was like wait a minute dude. Like your problems are nothing look at the expanse of the universe and then some people maybe call it. God maybe you call it a whisper. Maybe you call it intuition. Maybe call it a thought. I don't know. But i just. I remember laying there looking at the stars and then it hit me like glenn you take yourself wherever you go. You are responsible for everything that's happened in your life and all of a sudden i just shifted from this victim mentality that i had where it was everyone else's fall to the realization. Like wait a minute. I was there for all of these things that went bad in my life. I was the only constant. Didn't matter what city i was in the state i was in a group of people i was around. I was the only thing that was consistent. And so if i was the catalyst of all things bad in my life maybe just maybe i could be the catalyst of all things good and so from that moment i thought okay. Wait a minute. And i am a student. I'm a good student. I'm i i love to study in so at that moment i thought okay i gotta figure out. Who's this guy is like. That's where the answers are at the answers. Are i gotta figure out who glenn is fighting figure out who glenn is being gleaned be be the catalyst of things good and so immediately man that next day it's crazy how god works so that next day this woman came up through sitting on the beach is woman comes up to me. And she says Have you ever have you ever heard of dianetics. And she hands dynamics book. Then i'm like what is this and she's like well. It's the study of the conscious and subconscious mind and what makes humans takes and taking all this other stuff and she's like as a matter of fact i can take you. You can watch a movie on it there. We have this church over here that you can go check out. And i'm like okay. He didn't do nothing else with my life. You're the first person to ever. You'll say hi to me in the last two months. And so i took this dianetics book. And this woman took me to the orange county church of scientology in tustin california and i went in and watched this movie that i found just fascinating and i can iq test score 167 on my iq tests and so they immediately offered me a position on staff. Said you're iq's your iq is is up there. We need to get you on staff. Plus you've got sales experience. You could help us sell some books. I said okay. Great man so you guys are gonna give me money okay. Cool all right and you're gonna put me give me a place to stay. They're like yeah. You can stay with some other people that are part of the church so they gave me a place to stay. They gave me some money. And i started taking classes at the orange county church scientology. Steadying me studying glenn and one of the first things that they talk about at the church. Was this idea of what they call a feat in what we call a soul that there's actually a third dimension to us as human beings. It's not just mind and body but its mind body and spirit and so when i when i read that i thought okay. Well this is kind of fascinating. This is coming from another angle. This is coming from science. Darwinistic mind at the time. So i'm like this also so science says there's a third dimension it's not just some crazy jesus loving dumping book that says that right lane so i started to study and as i studied i started to unlock some doors and i started to realize we are three and once i realized we were three d. Started recognize some things in the church. That desk didn't necessarily with my spirit and so after about six months of studying the orange. County scientology. I left and decided to go back and start exploring some other. Things started exploring buddhism and christianity. And just really trying to get this this this whole concept of three d life. What does that look like. An ultimately for me as i made this journey and and and many things happened i. I ended up moving from california back to arizona and then from arizona ended up here in kentucky. Which is where i am now but as i went on this journey for me i found the path to my own spiritual lightman through jesus christ and christianity and and since then. I've been leaning into discovering that more what does that. What does that look like. What does that mean. what is my responsibility. that comes with that You know as a child of god were born with both the ability and the responsibility to make an impact in other people's lives. And that's truly what i believe. We have this born on date and this expiration date little dash in the middle and that dashes impact. What type of impact and we have in other people's lives now in my life i had a negative impact on people's lives now in my life. I'm focused on having a positive impact on people's lives so fast forward a little bit man made it made me made my way to kentucky Met my now wife shockingly. Within months she was pregnant. Wait a minute been here before. I remember this meet a girl. Get her pregnant. Yeah i've done that twice now. That's right. I'm like okay. So we're not gonna make the same mistakes last time. We're not going to go play poker for a living this time. We're not gonna do that. Homeless we're not gonna be homeless. But i'm going to go in and out of jail. We're not gonna do that instead. We're going to try to make this. We're gonna take this gift in this blessing and make an incredible experience out of it. And so i got back into the car. Business started at a dealership in a small town helped that dealership grow eight hundred percent to become the second largest us car franchise dealership in the country made a name for myself in the auto industry of pouring more into people and then in january of two thousand eighteen i started doing this show called hashtag rising grind first thing in the morning with motivation education inspiration. That show blew up. It became a movement. It the the following on it was crazy. It became a clothing line with those t shirts that you So kindly express your appreciation for a clothing line we started doing live events masterminds elites We started Raising dollars and giving back we've raised close to about eight hundred thousand dollars in the last three years Four hundred of that to help battle human sex trafficking like we've been doing all kinds of things we've taken homeless people off the streets. We we just done some amazing things with the rising ground group over that period of time. I keep having kids. They just keep popping out and keep popping out and keep popping out and in october of two thousand eighteen. I went to. I held my own event with eric. Thomas was there is one of our speakers. So i got to share the stage with their thomas and speak and just felt the hairs arms. Go up going. You are in the right place. Glen this exactly where i want you and i came back from that event spent a couple of days with my wife. I had been working seventy hours a week growing this dealership so it was awesome to see her in the kids and then i went to a men's christian leadership conference the next week and this was all within ten days eric thomas three days with family. Men's christian leadership conference and the men's christian leaders took conference. The pastor was like jesus is not some flannel graham carey in week sauce. Like he is a fierce warrior that bob for his mission that fought for hope that fought for humans for civilization. He was a fighter. And i'm sitting there going. Yeah that's right. That's what i'm talking about. I'm a fighter to inside. Went back to work on that monday after those ten days and making incredible money my wife's nine months pregnant with child number six. I think everything's perfect. We got the white picket fence. I've made a name for myself. I'm established i'm in the top position possible as high as you can go in the company and i'm sitting there at a meeting with one of the owners and god literally hugs me and goes. Hey why don't you come with me. I got we're going to go on a little dirty here and gave me a choice. I remember thinking. I can stay right here and do this for the next ten years and life will be good or i can walk away from this right here. The security the comfort. I can step out of the boat and really see what god has planned for me and so in october of two thousand eighteen right there in that meeting. I quit my job. No plan no expectation. I literally thought. I would work at that place forever. I loved my job. I loved it. I loved the people. I built it. I was the face of the place. Sounds kentucky right credible. How's your in conducting conduct. Yeah i mean. I loved it. I loved the the the owner i mean. Owner are still best friends to this day. Like i absolutely loved by god told me and felt kind of comfortable and like i said earlier. You're most comfortable in life right before death and i'm not ready to die yet man. I feel like there's there's there's people out there that need to be seen. They need to understand that they have significance and they were in that they add value and that they were put here as children of god told him to go out there and make a positive impact in other people's lives and they have a responsibility to do. So so i walked away from my job and Really leaned into the rising grind thing and that has just been unbelievable. I'm still servicing the auto industry. But now i'm working with owners and gm's of dealerships. All across the country helping them scale their their volume their profitability their employee retention and the overall culture in their dealership and then two months ago. God literally went gave us clubhouse. Hey it's came. It came right at the end of twenty one day fast for me so i trust literally looked up. I'm like no way this is insane in so we immediately added clubhouse to our distribution for rising grind. We built breakfast with champions around it. And in eight weeks it's You know. Rising grinds take three years to to build. We have doubled in eight weeks on clubhouse. We've doubled the amount of people we were able to reach in three years with rising grind. It's insane and so. That's where i'm at now man. I'm living a three d. Life mind body spirit if it looks good feels good and is good then the answer is yes. And so yeah. That's where i'm raising my babies. My wife and i've been married for a little over ten years now and we're just continuing to see where god takes a love that and It's it's cool it. My wife and i lisa just celebrated our twelfth anniversary on sunday. This past sunday grants It will of funny glenn so so my wife is wife gets all dressed up on friday night and we're supposed to be going to this formal event that our our church puts on for volunteers. My wife is the lead intercessor at the church. So she prays with the pastor in a private setting before every service. She has a super prophetic gifts. She actually told me the day. My dad was gonna come to know the lord she said. Your dad's gonna get saved. And i was like i know she said no tomorrow no tomorrow and so what do you think. I woke up the next day with an expectation of something. I'd prayed for for thirty years. Glenn thirty years and i remember like it was. Yesterday i was driving home from a at that time. I was in the brick and mortar fitness business. In this kind of show my age. I was in the top one percent of the fitness industry for over fifteen years where the average trainer made about thirty to forty thousand dollars. I made well over six figures every year for fifteen years and super successful dot c. Used it all this crazy stuff and one day. The holy spirit said well. That's not all i have for you. You said you need to walk away from all of this. I'm on builds. You multiple streams of income that. You're gonna live off of a small portion. You're going to give the rest away to build the kingdom right and so like when we went to this event on friday we get there and we pull in and there's nobody in the parking lot like there's no one there and my wife is laughing and of course is to be honest. I was not laughing at first. Because i like hurry and get ready and put on a tux and all this stuff and i said no. I'm not gonna wear the tux. Thank god it didn't but she's like oh it's it's next month. Wow so so. We went and celebrated our our anniversary. Because that's how god changes things so so tell me about how you pivoted now and some of the things that clubhouse is allowed you to do because if it's if it's expanded what took you almost three years for rising grinding now in just about two months like ten x right Like you've been to ten x conference and tell you coming up pretty soon again. I got my ticket. i'm gonna watch the online version. I wish i could go to miami but it just didn't work out but the The purpose of where you're going now. What's the next season of this three d. like three d. life. Look like for glenn london. What's the next season. Look like for you. Yeah you know. The more. I spend time with god as far as trying to understand him in and the path that he has carved out for me the more i believe i know where i'm going even though it sounds crazy when i say it out loud and the reason i'm saying these words this way is two days ago. I was sitting in the actually. I just got off tim story. Who had called me could saying. He wanted to be a part of breakfast of champions which was incredible and awesome today by the way. Thank you and soon as i get off phone tim story. I jumped truck to go grab lunch. And i looked down. My phone's ringing. it's less bram and so less brown was one of the most impactful voices in my life in that season of transition. Going from two d to three d. In the beginning. I listened to less every single day every minute of every day right like i i think. I think it's funny michael. You know a lot of Motivational speakers and stuff. So for those that aren't in the motivational speaker world. Maybe as much as as as others are. I feel like motivational speakers are like music so depending on where you are in your life. There's different music. You like to listen to like like when you get a break up you listen to all the sad songs right. You're like ooh love you you mourn the break-up through your your sad music if you're in like a a pump up time or you're starting a new company or something. You got to pump up music. But i think motivational speakers is the same way and so when i was coming out of homelessness transitioning like less brand was my jam less brand was i was the guy right. I was glenn. Mine was myles munroe. Oh yeah no milestone. I know miles when he went to be with the lord i was i was totally shut. Totally d like. I'm like i used to just listen to his youtube videos. And i don't know if you remember this pastor. But his name was frederick price. He was african. american pastor. Preach his cassettes. This is obviously showing my age. Even more used to buy so my father would give me twenty dollars. Twenty dollars back in the eighties was a lot of money. Let's just be deal then. So i'd give my tithe my two dollars and then i would get these cassette tapes four dollars every week. And and so i. I had you know fifteen. Twelve twelve thirteen bucks leftover. I i do whatever. I wanted with that i could. I could go to dollar fifty and get me. Get me a mcmuffin for a forty nine cents back in the day and i just continue to listen to myles munroe and frederick price and i got it in my spirit and and eleven. I came to know the lord literally. I was when everybody would see me in highschool glenn. They would say here comes. Jesus say right now. I was like no i do not want to. I know i do not want to hear that but yeah so tell me a little bit about less brown so you just constantly. That was your guy in transition right. Yeah so less was my guy. And then. I went to eric as i started. Started to get a little tougher. Than i. Than i could handle a little eric thomas and then i went from eric to like jim rohn and john maxwell just kind of make your way through the thing. It's interesting so less. Was there when when i was at my worst and really got me out of that and so for my phone to ring and i me look down. It's less brown. My oh my gosh. This is incredible right. I've met him once before at ten x but that was like a quick thing. Here's an actual phone call in so the reason. I'm sharing this with us. While i was on the phone with last he said. What are you doing glen. What are you doing what you're doing sanders. I told him what i was doing. And everything and i said man. I'm just showing up every day. I don't know what god's doing with me i'm just showing up everyday was what i said and less immediately said no no no glenn. No no no he said. Don't you ever say that again. You know exactly what god is doing with you. You've seen it. You have the vision if you didn't know what he was doing with you. You're never would've left your job begin with some. Don't don't don't say that. Glenn don't say you don't know 'cause you do and so really took that to heart discos. So when you asked where we're going my initial instinct is to say i don't know just showing up every day and i'm letting god lead the way but the reality is i feel like no i feel like we are on the path to becoming the number one most listened to slash watched morning show in the world. I believe that we are on a path to be able to reach hundreds of millions of people with motivation education and inspiration and ultimately to help those that feel invisible and inferior to recognize their significance and to be seen. That's why when. I with breakfast with champions. We say everyone's got a seat at the table. Because i want people to know. I see you like i see you in the room. I don't care where the app has position. You have the equal amount of value. Now there may be some people on the stage that can whore and breathe life because they're further along with that doesn't mean that there anymore anymore. Valuable rank we are all children of god in. So i believe that god is using my history. My story my past. My experience is the fact that i'm half black and half white the fact that i can get along with everyone. I can see things from everybody's perspective. I can understand the white side of of white privilege and why that's offensive to them. I can understand the black side of black lives matters and why that's offensive to their like i can. I can see all of that ray. God gave me that in all. I didn't appreciate it when i was young. I so much appreciate it now and so. We are going to continue to expand to reach the darkest corners of this planet as we help people feel seen and ultimately hopefully lead them or at least be a tool so that god can lead them to their greatness. That's so good. Let's finish up with this question This is so good. Because here's what's here's what's really good about glen so he you know i'm in this season glenn where my desire is to have intimacy with god. It's my desire. It's my desire. It's my desire to be a better husband to be a better friend. You know I now can look in the mirror. My wife rights so we moved into this big house on the water Which god just i mean. I have a muslim Landlord because we're going to build a house this year so it's just an how this all happened. I mean we sold her. We lost all that money. Solar house made sixty grand opera house. Our credit went from eight thirty to four thirty like overnight right and now god is beginning to to take us back in that direction. Because i learned from it right like i just quit and give up. The momentum was going toward seven figures in and then boom. My wife called me one day. And she said honey good thing we have residual income. And i was like what do you mean. She's like Our credit ran out. And we need to change. Something needs to happen in my pastor desert fast and and that's the end of that but my wife rights little things on my mirror glenn in the bathroom here so she uses the bathroom downstairs. Which is our main bedroom. And then my in this big loft upstairs and at the whoever made this house at my dad would cede dad's spin over here and he's like all. They didn't do that right and they didn't do that. Ride and why is it a bathroom with like that upstairs. And how come. There's not to sings down here. You know typical construction form and father is like you know it's like like your house. You know country music over and you kind kinda you know. My dad is a construction former forman for for almost forty years. I mean he really worked until he couldn't work anymore. And so so when my wife my my i i've kinda made life and death being my tongue right and so my wife is taught me to speak life instead of death. I used to always say glenn that i hated sales right literally. I would always say and you know. You can't say that when you're in the sales business like when lurlene and so so i literally would cause when my old brick and mortar fitness business. I had a six month waiting list. Glenn so i never had to sell anybody. He will just came in. When one person would go off. And i had people that i had when i sold that business that i'd for sixteen and seventeen years as clients shit so i would just say. Do you wanna work with me for three months. Six months or a year. And i'd give him a contract and they would leave. And then when i realized that my tongue was speaking death to me i started just sending people emails to try to sign him up. And you know that doesn't work right in the cars you say. Hey why don't you can go home and send you the price over email right now and i'm not coming back right. I'll go find where somebody else. So my wife wrote Affirmations on my on my on my mirror up here if you went in my bathroom here. It's massive you. You'd see affirmations that my wife rights. Honey you are honey you are this year and then the last one says and you're great at sales so i took that to heart. Not my aba coach. His name's israel duran. He's twenty six years old he's has multiples it works with seven eight nine figure earners kingdom minded guy and when i hear motivation education and inspiration. That's what i wanna finish with. I want you to tell me and share with our listeners. What that means to you and what it means to impact people with motivation inspiration and education. So those are you know. Motivation education inspiration. Be honest is they are are gateway drug to where. We're really trying to get. So if i can motivate you a little bit viking. Educate you a little bit. And i can inspire you. Then you're more likely to trust me. You're gonna get closer to me. We're going to have a more intimate relationship over time. And hopefully i can show you what. I'm really trying to show you. Which is that. You are a child of god and that is all the motivation education and inspiration that we really need right but the other stuff is is is is the gateway so for example. My show's thirty minutes long. It's motivation it's education. It's inspiration but it ends the same way every time so i hook you. If you come on in we get close. We have fun. We dance a little bit right. Get y'all jacked up. I get you going we do. There's we do that we live. We talked we. I teach you something you like. I like this guy and right was soon as you like me. I'm like you're a child of god. God of the universe guy that made everything that god made you to be the absolute best version of yourself that you can possibly be not an average virginia below average down at a not above average the absolute best version of yourself that you can possibly be and we have four core values around rising grind for key words that we focus on rise evolve impact together as four words so i believe that if we can help people rise every single day with intention in purpose that ultimately they will evolve into the best versions of themselves that they can possibly be so that they can go out and make an impact in other people's lives and the best part. Is we do it together. You don't have to do it alone. None of us are low. Even if you're sitting alone in a corner somewhere still not alone child of god. He's with us. He's with us always in. So that's what we build around man so every time we make a decision like hey should we do this or should we go this way or should we go that way. I'm like okay with as to help people rise every day with intention and purpose does it help people evolve. Does it help. People make an impact and is something we can do together because this is not a solo sport. And if the answer's yes then the our answers yes if the answer is not the answer is no. So that's That's the vehicle that i've been given and we're going to run it until the wheels fall in love it so glenn thank you so much for that evolve impact together. I love it. I love it and so guys if you're listening today the only way so before glenn before we go tell us how people can connect with you. Obviously on clubhouse said breakfast champions with his My wife always says to me now in the morning we have an alarm set for six. Am because we get up at six every morning and We don't have any devices in the room. So she has a little thing that says hey honey go get the i pat and bring rising in here right and so she started to listen She she's a she's a cd per she's a cs personality ever done the disc task non-confrontational. She's proverbs thirty one woman which she's my wife. She always sees the best in everybody. Never i've only seen her mad twice in my life once when the guy cost a whole half a million dollars and then once when i made her mad one time. Hey glenn i'm doing pretty good twice and once was my fault right right. Sees the best and she encourages me. She tells me how how you know even when my love language is is positive words of affirmation and acts of service She tells me you know. She inspires me. She encourages me she. I love to watch her worship. She's she's a worshiper She has a flag ministry that she'd worshiped flags and she's just she's just a she's my angel and I i'm grateful for her. So tell us how people can connect with you a little bit a little bit more. Besides that the best thing to do are you can go to glen. Lindy dot com if you go to glen lundy dot com. Then that'll connect you to you. My instagram facebook the rising ground group. I have a free e book that people can download all that good stuff so dot coms easiest way and i love it because glenn and as we go i just wanna say thank you glen for your inspiration your education right all the stuff that you do And just for being a friend. You you've really It's good when people Because my wife is very reserved when it comes to really. I mean we could write a hundred names on that board right but we we really pray about. I think the most important friendship. Eric and i talked about this morning. Most important relationships and friendship we could have is people who intercede for you people who can pray for you outside you know you you didn't your life didn't roll into that shore just by coincidence. There was somebody praying for you. There was people praying for you. There's an. Eric says it all the time videos and everything there was. When he was eating out of trash cans there was a group of women that were praying for him and believe would be great right and then he realized that just like you did just like i did so guys. The only way that people get glenn is that you download this podcast and that you share it with others And i'm super excited to just be a part of what glenn is doing and support him my wife and i we also support operation underground railroad That wants to stop human trafficking And i'm super excited. That glenn is on board with stopping human trafficking. To and i say this at the end of every podcast love god love people and live with hashing and live with intention. And i think once you do that your relationship with god becomes greater and you make a bigger impact so till the next session. God bless y'all thanks for being here bye. Thank you for listening to the heat lewis. Podcast we hope you enjoyed. Be sure to rate subscribe of five star review and as always you can follow michael all social media platforms at michael. David huey ort. Www dot. Michael david hewitt dot com until next time. God bless and take care.

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Living Life Illuminated with Tamra Andress

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Living Life Illuminated with Tamra Andress

"And i was blanketed in shame. I couldn't make eye contact. I knew that every part of my story line was about to unfold. And jesus himself came to me in his ever present glow his ever-present light his humility his strength his boldness and he lifted my chin directly to his face to his eyes. And i'll never forget the moment because the light just just took me over his beauty. His patients his gentleness and he said i see simultaneously. Torn wells released fully known that song. I'm fully known and loved by you and i remember for weeks crying in the fetal position in a bathtub listening to that song because for the first time i was allowing god himself to come in and while he already knew me. I was opening up in submission. Listening to fluids podcast in. We're having candidate and actionable conversations about your health relationships business and ministry and now here's your host does second chance coach for men. Michael david huey guys. Welcome to another session of the podcast. It's actually a really sunny day. I always. I always tell my wife that i always like to tell people like what it's like today where i am in florida because for weeks we were like it was freezing everywhere like texas was cold. Like everywhere was just cold and i was like well. Maybe i should not do that then. I was like nah. It's kind of fun to live In florida to be honest with you you know it just is it's it's it's And tam you'll have to remind me where you where you're at where you again. I'm in virginia beach. But i'll actually be in florida tomorrow night. Awesome where i yeah. Yeah everyone wants to come to florida right now or like fleeing to florida to get global. Hashtag i'm going to be like orlando area may look i'll to give you like the literally see proximity because that'd be really rad. Yes so it's really funny. So yesterday i interviewed my friend. Anthony trucks who is a strong believer in amazing guy and he's an orlando this weekend to which israel super funding taking his kids to an. And it's really funny. So when cameron here before we were praying and i told her that it's funny how god has brought like minded people and when they go through their story and they tell their story here we are already started. She's coming to orlando. My last gas was coming to orlando like. Even when i was reading like i was in the fa i had I was super successful in the fitness industry when we had no social media like you know the average trainer back in the late eighties nineties and early two thousand. They made forty fifty thousand dollars a year. That was really good. I made multiple six figures in the eighties and nineties right. Like i had a blackberry was my first and it's really funny. I we laugh about these things but one of my one of my clients. He's seventy up in atlanta out. He he came to a call a couple of weeks ago with his old blackberry and it still charged up and it was just funny. We laughed about it. Because i remember using i remember using my beeper and then using my blackberry writes. It was like really. You're going to have great from a beeper blackberries pretty good. I had been nokia phone where i had a like number one three times just to get the right. I think it's awesome in. Tamra is as an influence we met on clubhouse which is awesome. And and you know what's really cool by her. She's she's the ceo of the founder of core creatives christian women's business membership and i love this because she's an expert like she's kingdom minded and when i read by i'm like i'm not gonna tell about it because i want to hear from her and so like i know that She was featured in the top five hundred global influencers listed by brains magazine along with gary vander chuck and a lot of other people. I love it. She's a wife. We were just talking. You know about our friend. Tim story and how her husband's kinda like tim And and we were talking. I was we were actually listening. Cameron are listening to tim this morning on clubhouse and right after i have a one o'clock appointment at two fifteen i'm interviewing our friend glenn lundy on on my podcast which a super excited and and it's funny how which just keeps getting better right. It's his cat showing that we're in the right place at the right time with the right people and so you know It's my wife really loves us. You'll you'll you'll like this so Tamer was is just a beach babe like my wife loves the beach. We we moved away from the beach. We in clearwater last night. My friend nicholas barely who is a kingdom minded guys twenty-six him and his wife amanda just moved to texas And they were in clearwater so we drove over to clearwater last night but we live on the water. Now and i can see the i can see the water rushing in like right up to our to our steps out in the front and it's really nice like i said. Hey i i don't take you to the beach enough but hey why don't we live on the water. So she's like great right so now we were last night. We were on the beach so we live on the water. So i i've been. I'm in good good standing this. You are you are. You're winning for nothing better. And it's it's not just because you know the beach is fine. I love the beach and it is fun. And i love the sand and i love the ocean. I love every type of water that you could possibly imagine but it's it is an ever present reminder of his vast abilities of his vast greatness and i feel so small there and i think it's a place that we need to go more often and i think it's a place of humility that we need to put ourselves in more often to feel small Because we can remind ourselves and things like clubhouse or numbers on social media influence of any sort can make you get and i have had on right now. If you're not watching on you're get bigger right. There's like large hat. And it's the knowing that like i have to fill that every single day figuratively or literally right now. But it's the knowing that. When i get in places like that that are bigger than me even like clubhouse. I'm in a small fish in a big in a big pond. Right is the recognition. That i have so much to learn so much to simmer within So much becoming to do. And i say that always becoming because i feel like there should never be a base of nation in your life and if there is any dissection of stagnation should be a call to action and so Yeah i thi. Why i love to go to the beach even more than the fact that i love the sunrays even though as i get older and your wife probably nosed as we're wearing hats and sunscreen and i didn't do that for most of my younger decades so Yeah it's a beautiful place where your hat will come in your will come in and so before we go in that. I'll just say her hat will come in handy this week when she's in florida because it's supposed to be sunny were actually and so i'm just gonna say this i'll go a little bit more so just welcomed camera anders to the he flynn's podcast. Glad i appreciate you. Yeah and so be. we're actually going to it. I don't know if you do this. But sometimes i overbook myself. Which kind of is not a good thing. Sometimes like you know. I still be honest with you. I still drive back to clearwater once a month to get a massage. Go to the chiropractor and get a haircut. And and i'm a golf advocate. So i'm about a three handicap if you're listening I shot a shot over twenty rounds in twenty twenty under-par which was pretty good. Which is is is pretty pretty incredible. I used to be like a fifteen handicap. And then i dislike one just going to. I don't know about if you're like this. But i'm kind of if i focus on something. I learned this from An influence named bart miller Who owns a fashion company. He's just a great guy he. He started in the fitness industry and he became super successful. One bodybuilding contests. And then. he's like. I wanna be a roper. I wanna learn how to rope cattle. And then he became super successful at that. And i'm like bogart. What are you going to do next. He said i'm gonna start. A fashion company started fashion company and he built a seven figure fashion so everything he did. He kind of just focused on that. And i don't know you know. And i know being kingdom minded person what i really want to hear from you. I and i've already got something to talk about after this because of what we've already said but i just want to hear your story. I want people to kinda know like you know where where you came from and where you are now. So that people can i. I'm kind of I don't wanna use the word selfish. But my wife and i go back and listen to these the next day like The podcast it's going live today. They usually go live on. Went live yesterday. Wednesday is my friend. Lives germain who is a massive youtube influence or right and when we interviewed on on podcast she. She announced that the number one guy on on lincoln and youtube had decided to do a year long fellowship with her and coach her for a year. And if you're if you're a believer in you've watched The series the chosen. I don't know timur few. What so second season is just coming out. I i know and so the guy who was the producer of the chosen is the guy that lives is going to be actually get goosebumps when i talk about it and just imagine like if you go if you go to to youtube and you look it's it's it's just amazing you know the impact that People have is name is darah. Eve's darrow. He is the he's the create. He is the producer of The chosen and so tim. I'm excited so tell me about your life and like gosh. We just had twelve million conversations in five seconds. I have a thousand things that i want to say and at thousand places to start And i think it's so important that people know that like every single time on a podcast or even my own podcast. It's it we start in different places right because our story lines are vast and we have so many different angles that we can approach it at and one of the areas that we parallel. Where i wanna i feel called to to share around. Is the fitness I was a born and bred fitness guru out the womb and say that because both of my parents were like original gold's gym rats right back in california sunny california so cool mike is like pointing tons obviously me to and my dad and mom actually moved and my dad was showing me like his original belt that he used to wear. And i'm like this is so rad. Did he do that. I think they do but they know it's funny i. It's funny that you brought that up. Because i go to a gym here locally. It's in claremont. Live in clermont which is probably a little bit wet north east of orlando and there's the us track and field training facility here. The us olympic triathlon training facilities here. So it's it's like this. But i see guys that are in their fifties and sixties and let me rephrase that sixties and seventies not not some of the guys these but they all have their belts and some of them have scripture on their belts like and some of them are old old retired bodybuilders. And it'll say sewn so prone. I'm like your sixty bro. Like how long have you had that belt right so yeah so that's that's awesome so yes that's You know part of my jeans literally inherited. That was going to happen and before i could barely walk thousand little. Under three years old. I enrolled in gymnastics. I did gymnastics for sixteen years. Love that sports so much and it has allowed me to Get ads really fast. When i go off the deep end during a holiday season or a covid season or whatever that looks like for different people. I'm grateful for that but in that there has been a lot of Hardship through my testimony and whether it was parallel to gymnastics isn't necessarily the case. But i recall having a lot of body image issues because of it and It i think parallels to a lot of people and knowing that we live in a pretty driven society. And i've never actually said that out loud but it's the recognition that from an early age everything becomes visible and visual and weather. It's the newsstand that has a magazine on it or it. It's mtv which was a huge influence in my life Or the seventeen magazine right and now they are becoming more real and more raw and authentic. And i'm so grateful for that transition. But when i was younger that wasn't the case and so from a sad situation that occurred at the same time that i was enrolling in gymnastics. I was around three or four. I vaguely remember the Initial situation but i ended up having sexual trauma with a child who was older than me at my own home through a daycare That my mom had. She had no idea that this occurred. And i know that it probably ping's just to think about The pain that occurred but it was from a child who had a mental handicap and so for my entire life. I suppressed these situations. That happened more than once many times. Actually and it played out later and to Playing hide and seek and finding pornography in my parent's bedroom and making sure that was my hide-and-seek location every single time Reading those seeing those and then it playing out later into these magazines that we're talking about into cybersex when a dial up internet. We're talking about the blackberry The nokia having cybersex situations on the nokia way into the early hours of the morning. When i should have been sleeping middle school high school Was very easy. It was because the den. And and i'll be vulnerable to like. It was super easy to do that. Because people could had their cameras on and you could actually see people at the people were naked and it was crazy like i'm grateful that i didn't. I didn't get into anything visual. Everything was done through a black screen and i never said yes to anything beyond that. But that doesn't mean that it's not as trauma filled right hundred visuals that we can put inside of our own minds whether it's positive and i am awkward positively in that regard whether it's spirit led or it's of the enemy it can literally destroy you And so it it led into so many different things throughout my testimony. All of this stuff was carried into my marriage. It was carried into that space of motherhood and i came to a crash and burn scenario. And did this necessarily all have to play with my physicality no like of course i was on an entrepreneurial journey very early. I was in my student government from early Great of second. I was speaking on microphones in front of large platforms very early on tv and different things like that so I was doing good things but those things were happening in the dark right. And i was getting praised for the things that i was doing in the light and therefore i stayed in a place of perfectionism. I stayed in a place of achievement driven success in wanting to honor my father and my mother. As i know that i was called to do but having no true understanding of a relationship with jesus i was completely deterred by the enemy every second that i had and unintentionally. I was wearing masks. I didn't know that was wearing masks. But i had no depth of relationship in my only validation was from a man right flesh and it's a sad place to be specifically as a woman because not only do lose your innate beauty or so you feel the you lose your innate beauty. You're you're losing your identity and i lost my identity and so many exterior things and so here. I am twenty nine years old. Yeah yeah a young age. Wow yeah go young. I didn't like. I said in my marriage and motherhood so imagine this like trauma. My my husband has no idea. I didn't know i truly didn't know that. These memories existed. That i had any access to what happened to me when i was little with this child and it was through therapy but i. It was through my interaction with jesus where i was sitting on the couch. I was a ceo at this point of two different companies one that was global and was bringing an international nursing bra from australia to the states alongside a team here in virginia beach. That was incredible and I took advantage of that situation. Because i thought it was my calling right in addition to running fulltime maternity and infant boutique here locally that also did some artistic side of things and was launching a online platform as well. I had a one and a two year old and a husband who was also an entrepreneur. I lived the the ideal white picket fence. American dream. i. We both drew of really nice cars and i was not playing the role that i had literally dreamed of my whole life. I wanted to be a good wife. I wanted to be a good mom. I was emulated by amazing mother. And so i wanted to walk in those footsteps but i just was so hungry for the drive. I was so hungry for that exterior achievement. And so i pursued that three of you know anything about any graham i move a million miles a minute. You can tell by my voice my my speed right. I know it's the reason. I say that and i it's funny and i'll just say this before you go on so my wife went through this same identical thing that went through Was molested at a very young two and three years old Later on in life led the very person that molested her to christ two weeks before he passed away in the centers prayer and then he died weeks later. She forgave him and all the stuff. So it's just an extension of what i told you earlier about how god brings these people in and and and i and i can understand the spiritual warfare at that age twenty nine. Because i had multiple girlfriends. I was modeling. I had i would have four different girlfriends in a rotation of where. And i also when you're when you're attractive people like tim ran i. It's it makes it easier to kind of hide behind that imposter syndrome Of just oh. I've got it all together. Hey how you doing. I'm doing great right and you just live that so so expand that going. That was great awesome. People need to hear this right. Yeah you know. It's not something that women often talk about either. And i and i know that there's power in that so i hope and pray that it is breaking bondage of somebody who's listening right now so the slowdown moment right. I'm going working sixty seventy hours a week On my ten month old. She's not even a year yet. I pull into the driveway. And i see someone who i had just finished nursing weeks before Who i hadn't seen for most of the day. And i couldn't wait to get my hands on her. I still like urine to be a good mom. I was a good mom. My husband wouldn't say otherwise. But i wanted to be more present of a mom and specially mentally and so i see her and she waddles away from me when i get out of the car to go to daddy who she had been with all afternoon. I remember inside. My spirit is being like whoa. This is not what i've plant. This is not what i want. And feeling that hint of jealousy towards the situation and realizing that i had the power to change. And i wanna tell you something really critical about my husband during the season working all these hours seeing what i was doing. I was going after that achievement mode. I was going to all the happy hours. Everyone i worked with was much younger than me. Early twenties at the time and so they had no responsibilities right. Their responsibilities was to make sure they got to in from work on time if that and to show up for their job beyond that they answered to no one and here i am answering to not just one person answering to three people to tiny humans and i wasn't doing so well wasn't showing up for myself in a health and wellness perspective which is so important and i definitely wasn't showing up for god because i didn't even know and wasn't even looking for him. He was not in my car. You know they talk about. Jesus take the way on him. Being in the driver's seat he was way. Pass stop sign. I dropped him off years working as say he's in the trunk striking out because what happens in the middle of ministry in high school. I was ahead of young life while living in the dark right and so i was worshiping on stage. I was leading bible studies. They found out what had been happening. A girl who wasn't really my friend decided to tell everyone about it and they actually kicked me out of that organisation. They kicked me out of leadership. And i was completely isolated in my face and and the only person who was there with open arms was hill. The dude and jesus ignored him. I didn't have a relief. This right i did it all for show. So i didn't really not even run to him because the people who i went to to trust just kicked me out so a lot of tv when you went to where it was safe you win. It's you know funny to bring this up because this is so so so you remind me a lot of my grandmother okay. So my grandmother said this. She said it's always she said when you see repetitive behavior and safety and all this she said it was she said well. Look jesus said it's like the dog that returns to its own vomit. Right like it it it goes back to its own regurgitation right like let me just. Oh i'm done over here. Let me just kind of go back. Oh no alek really good. The first time. Maybe i can just kind of gravitate back toward that the second time. So you were in. That spot ran to what was comfort to kind of comfort. You from your loneliness based totally and i said before i think that comfort ability of stagnation and stagnation death and so it's so important for me to constantly moving but moving vertically towards him and that's obviously there was an evolution in that understanding of being isolated whether from church weather in my marriage and this was what kind of cycle that conversation. I wanna go back to what my husband was doing during this season while i was out at a bar doing a work meeting an after hours development right while my kids were being hushed asleep by somebody. That wasn't me though. He's an amazing father and so he kept calling me out. He kept saying your woman of integrity. You're so beautiful. i'm so proud of you. I love that you're a woman of integrity and he kept dropping that word integrity integrity integrity. And i've blocked it. And i blocked it and mike. Yeah and i knew that person in the mirror right. No no definitely. Not but i did it. He was not. Your identity was not how how really your because your husband. Lord was just using your husband to validate truly who you were. But you weren't being that person it's it's just like an finished but this is just from you. Brought this up in a reminds me something so you don't know this but my wife and i were apart for two years. I basically told her to leave the house. Because i was in spiritual warfare and my my my pastor friend of mine said to me he said you know. You're not lying anybody right now. I was like what do you mean. I'm lying to everybody like behind the scenes up. They can. he's like no. You're believing the lies that the devil is telling you the truth. He goes to the person that i know and that your wife knows. That's home fasting and praying for you believes sees you how god sees you. Now get back home right and so yeah so that is literally like a parallel integrity integrity integrity right so good so when that happened with my daughter was kind of like an aha moment where i was like something needs to change. i got found out from all the lies right. I got found out and i started realizing that very quickly through a quick depression a quick slip of the rug beneath my feet. Realizing i had a choice i was either gonna lose my home or an gain my financial freedom right by pursuing further this calling calling them. I chose right. Or i was going to take on the thing that i know and i always dreamed would be and prayed beyond knowing. My prayer was owing to that on my tombstone. It would say a tamra andress a good wife and a good mother and a good daughter and a good friend. And i said yes to that and i can tell you is the hardest decision of my life because the comfort zone was easier and the three years of of crazy therapy multiple times a week. The three years of learning how to communicate where the very first time in truth not only with myself but with my husband. I had to tell him at every dark secret of my past. We had to sit knee to knee holding hands and just share about vulnerability of you didn't wanna share a bowl things. Oh my gosh. It was terrible and the response had to be zero from the other person. Was that strategy. They had to take feedback. All it was so hard but at the end of the day. I can show up to a conversation like this and i can no really that god gets the glory. Because in my darkest hours when he was holding me shake gain at the very same time. That i just told him all of these grotesque things about myself and i wanted to commit suicide. I wanted to end it all because it'd be easier. Because i already knew that my kids were in good hands and a face how to take off this mask that had been implanted on my everything that i was every part of who i am and show up in truth. I didn't know how to do that. And i had who we call her. Fairy godmother come over at the time and i was blanketed in shame. I couldn't make eye contact. I knew the every part of my story line was about to unfold. And jesus himself came to me in his ever present glow his ever-present light his humility his strength his boldness and he lifted my chin directly to his face to his eyes. And i'll never forget the moment because the light just Just took me over his beauty. His patients his gentleness and he said i see you. Simultaneously torn wells released Fully known that song. I'm fully known and loved by you and i remember for weeks crying in the fetal position in a bathtub listening to that song because for the time i was allowing god himself to come in and while he already knew me. I was opening up in submission to say fill every crevice crevice light up every dark place and in that process. I remember searching for like rehab facilities. What are you search for like not sex. Act addict addict. Like i haven't slept with that many people or non alcoholic alcoholic like i. I had so many coping mechanisms. I was shopping in coping mechanisms. Everything was a coping mechanism in my life. Even my friendships. I didn't even have deep relationships with people who were in my wedding and never let them in. All they knew was the mask of this identity. That i didn't feel like i was faking. I wasn't trying to fake. I was being who i was and that was person was broken so in this journey is win. I let go of those positions. And i had to for for the first time in my life figure out. What is my business cards. say now. who am i now and hardest people to prove this to was going into relationships are situations with men and saying first off having the strength to make eye contact again that took years and then to be able to say that. I'm just a stay at home mom and to know. The validation that occurred had nothing to do exterior lee and everything to do vertically. God validate me in that moment when he lifted my chin and the people that were with me in that moment my husband and that god better that i mentioned they literally said after the three hours they were like you look like a different person in the not a good feeling. A good feeling right. It's you remember you remember like it was probably every moment. I remember where. I was standing in my kitchen. I remember what the weather was doing because it started in a storm and ended in beautiful sunrays. Just like what's coming through your room right now. It's it's funny that you bring that up 'cause so let's let's expound on that so this is really good so i took the holy spirit led me in some directions and so so now. You're obviously not just a stay at home anymore right now so an and even though we're not in an in person it looks almost like we're in person because i feel like when we have these type of divine appointments and divine connections You know That's what makes the difference is where we've been and where we're going right like the the i we had a guy that kind of costs about half a million dollars between twenty nineteen and twenty twenty and our business in it and most people gave up. I'm just going to be honest. Most people would gave up. They you know we had the we had the credit that was eight thirty and everything and you looked woke up one day and all your retirement was gone. All your money was gone and and and and you could have been mad at god because everybody said to me. You could have been mad at god if you wanted. If and i said well when it done me any good right like i even know you know. There is good anger. god got mad. You know And he did it in love. You know because it's it's what who he was as very being and so so. Tell me about that now. So that transition now has allowed you to become different. You'd look different. Like even i um i had yesterday if you if you ever listened to my podcast and you can hear the intro in the in the exit is my friend on gadston who encouraged About a year and a half ago to retire from from a at administrator position at a christian school that he'd been at for fifteen years and he was making probably about thirty thousand dollars a year. Right like that's what they pay them right and and and i was like you have to be an entrepreneur and he literally in his first year i gave him all the stuffy needed And he took care of my podcast. Which was i've and he literally three xed his business his income from what he had been doing he went over six figures And retired his wife and now they have a separate ministry in entrepreneurship thing together. Because of decisions right they that you know the it's out with the old in with the new right and so tell me about that transition like now. You're you're like your identity is different because you realize that even though your mom and a wife i still have these wants needs and desires to be who i feel like i need to be to be that person so talk about that transition like what happened so now your mom. You look in the mirror. I'm a mom and a wife. But i'm still missing something and then talk about what that transition is. I can where you are today. Yeah so. I went into a deep season of identity. Searching and trying to figure out who that person was what was going to fill that business card right and realizing that i still today have one thing on that business card even besides what those tombstone messages will be entitles. Right is just daughter of the king. I get to be a child and a child doesn't have a business card and therefore and when people see them in need them they don't allow for their business card. I can start. Yeah they just like. Hey what's going on dude. How are you today right. They start simple and they start with their passions and they get to know them. And that's how. I've met people and been able to do what we're doing right now. But in that deep season i ended up. Going and getting my ordination administers license. I did i. I did a year long worship training. I do not have a vocal voice. So i won't be i worship. I am a worshiper alabama for my wife. This is funny that you don't know this. My wife is a flag sir. Percy loves to flag the most beautiful spirit filled. i mean it's anointed like every time we go somewhere and we got like we tuesday night. We went to hear one of our friends who is a minister. Dr carol-lee lane She she she has a christ exalted ministries which was is is a world renowned ministry as she spoke over here in lakeland and my and she's like she text my wife before instead. Make sure you bring your flags right. So where's your worship. Yes i love to dance. So i could totally parallel. I can't wait to meet her But yeah so. I did the worship. The i'm year. I and and just truly understood like what a relationship with jesus look like what intimacy look like an as the intimacy was being established in marriage it was being established in the marriage the covenant right with the bride and the bridegroom. I- had the beautiful opportunity to like. See myself in a vision. I in god speaks to me through vision and dreams. And i was walking down the aisle again and i've yet to do it in my flesh but we're celebrating ten years next year. I cannot wait to do it in front of my husband again. We'll have celebrated twelve on sunday. Congratulations congratulations it's amazing. But having that third string right that third string of the of the marriage that is is him both in an intimate relationship with the lord. Now that ordination administers licensing. Was a two year program in the middle of that. I was just going to coffee with friends and i was doing exactly what you did to the guy. Your friend that you mentioned. I was i was calling them higher and i was just saying you have so many passions like why are you doing the thing that you hate when you can do the thing that you love end financially fines better freedom more freedom and time freedom and all the other glaciers five twenty two fruits of the spirit that come alongside with wealth. Goodness congress joy overflowing joy. Doing the thing you're called to do so. I'm in that licensing program. It was the very end. And i was having a meeting with my pastor and he wanted to know like what i was going to do with this license. What is the next step. What does it look like. And i told him i have. I know i'm called to entrepreneurship. And i am so fearful of what that looks like. Because i know in my flesh. I can do. And i can perform and i can achieve. And i don't wanna do that again. And i don't know if i'm supposed to go back into the marketplace that i'm used to and just christian i'm christian and i'm showing up in this space or of every single thing that i do is me proclaiming. I am christian and the one sentence that he said. He didn't have a finite answer. And i believe that that's a sign of true wisdom and true holy spirit leading. He said god will give you grace for your space And i will never forget him because of that and said that to so many people since then because it is so true and so i gathered all the people that i knew that i saw in them what they had yet to see in themselves. Most of them weren't entrepreneurs and fast forward now two and a half years later they are and i invited them into a room and i said i have this idea. Have this crazy idea. And i want to bring us into a space that we can mastermind and we can grow together and i can tell you in teach you and show you how i've done it in the past as i to grow this thing and so we've done that now and that's what court. Creatives has become in. Core stands for unity rooted entrepreneurs and i have opened a lot of the things that i offer into not just women and that was up. Save harness for me. That was a boundary that my husband and i established for the first two years of my business and now that boundary has been released because of trust because of integrity. People integrity. isn't something you get to just claim. It's an action. It's a being. We serve in integra god and if we are in his age if i am because he says that i am than i am everything that i do. Every second of the day has to activate in those spaces. And so yeah. I'm a business coach and i get to serve. People intimately one on one in large group settings being my own podcast the fit faith podcast and my core talk podcast and i love it and i'm so passionate about it but the thing that i'm passionate about most is the recognition. I get to show up fully as me as a daughter every single day. Wow a so good and you know you know what school about that is so just so you this is. This is kind of continues to confirm why we're here today. He fluence was originally created for men k and it was. You guys can't see us but were laughing because we just know how god puts the right people together at the right time right like and it was just a boundaries. Thing like you know i. I've been counseling. A friend of mine his wife and he just poured out his heart. He's like mike. I i there's no boundaries like is set boundaries she doesn't set boundaries. She thinks it's okay to have know ninety minute conversations with the opposite sex and i said no. It's not okay it's not okay And if you feel that. That's bad she needs to make a change or she's not committed to your marriage right and so when i got back together. It's really funny. I was still in spiritual warfare. Even i even went on and continued on my sin right like and then we went to another conference and literally had to tell her that after we renewed our vows that i continued in my in right and i i remember an incident. I snapped out of it and when we went to a new church and the pastor met and it was and it was kind of funny like like what you went through and we were all sitting in the square lease. I were across from each other and the pastor and his wife or across from so. It's like the square right. And so the pastor said hey lisa on a scale one to ten. How do you trust michael. Now call really like pets. I question to ask and literally. I would've said hammer that she was going to say like a four or five. She said a seven. Thank god like went from what i was going to be like three or four to seven and i just said he's at the passwords. And how do you feel about that. When i was like well at least it ain't a four or five right like it's a seven. I've done something. And i knew then that i was on that. I was on that way of being healed right. I was on the course of really break. And i had this dry. And it's funny. You brought up dreams visions and will use this as our next to next and last thing we talk about but it it's it's you you know god will give you grace free your space right and and it comes because were called right chosen were set apart right and when i figured that out i was like you know i had this dream and you talked about dreams and visions i mean seventy percent of god's word was written in dreams and visions right and so we know that the holy spirit gives us those right And if you go back and listen to my podcast with did. I had a two weeks ago. I talked about a dream that i had back before. Covid and why won't go into it. But but it was it. Because i could talk about it like on every podcast because it was so impactful and it let me realize that the latter days of my life we're gonna be better than the former days of my life and that at fifty soon to be fifty three years old. I feel thirty. But i feel thirty spiritually again like i. It's not that. I'm just physically look and feel good i- spiritually feel good and i think that you know god his redeemer of time right like he he he he can redeem time. He can give back you know. My telomeres are half my age. Now you know which is in the top one percent breathing humans in the world right like i was saying i i. I told some people day. Timur that i did this test. With a hundred high level influencers been greenfield. Dave asprey all these different things and the guy who did. It won't publish the results. And i know why because some of the people that he's in in in business with and partnership with didn't do as high as i was in the top three Of these hundred influencers in health. Some of the guys were in their thirties and forties somewhere in their fifties. Right like me. Right and i was like. Why aren't you going to. It was just using it for my for my research. My thing and i might come on really like let let people know like yeah. Let's ben greenfield's a christian if you watch him. He talks about scripture and read scripture in the bible from from things and those are the type of people that i want to be around like. I wanna be around. We obviously know that we can't always be around like minded people because it's we live in a world that that's the way it is but we can also make choices. So why don't you talk about that. Why don't you talk about like where you like. What's what do you see the latter days of your life looking like like. Now you're influencing women because there's a really cool instagram thing that you have and maybe you can talk about that. It's you have this door that you're opening and it's all these girls keep coming out and it's like your tribe right. It's it's super bowl. Like i even told my video guy like. Let's do that at our conference like when i was here in florida Because we're a little bit more open here in florida so we're going to the conference soon here probably after the signing with tim story my friend jim. One of my. I don't know if you know one of my friends if you don't follow you should if you're listening today my friend jim baker Owns has a biblical stewardship. Course that he that Now has taken him to a seven figure business in and ninety percent of the people who go through his course finish the course and have success on it and it's about mary about thirty to fifty percent of the people. Finish it and you don't get the results that they're looking for because data so tell me about that next season of your life and what that looks like in the influence that you wanna have and kind of what what god has you focused on and what that's going to look like. So yeah honestly michael like he just keeps opening doors and and that's a prayer of mine and i would encourage you to pray the same as that. He would shut the doors that you're never intended to walk through and he would win new ones every single day that you are intended to walk in. I want him to safe. Harbor every choice. That i make every connection that i make You've said this a couple times. And i have a kind of a parallel perspective. You said like minded right and and they say in breakfast of champions that we shouldn't be seeking to connect with like minded people we would. We should be looking to seek with light hearted people according to people. Yes because i love that. Your mind is a bit different than mine and probably a lot of other people's minds. I hope our ally different than mine because mine can put me into crazy cycles right and so the recognition that what the latter days are gonna look like. I truly can't bowling. No i know through the visions that god has given me that there is more. I know that. I want to become more like him and i know that. I don't want that to end anytime soon because i know that i have a lot of growing to do a lot of expansion to have a lot more of the bible to read a lot more Conversations to have a lot more people to see actually activated and broken free from this tragedy of their childhood Those women that you saw coming running through that door. I i am super passionate about travel and i think like i said at the very beginning in this circles beautifully that comfort is sag nation and stagnation is death and the reason that i say that is because we have to get outside of our comfort zone comfort is in the boat and he has called you out and you can't keep one foot in one foot out 'cause you're going to rock the boat and you're just gonna crash and burn my guy. Did you have to show up fully in that calling in that identity. And so i brought these women across the globe across the globe really just out of the country. We're going to go across. The globe eventually went down to mexico and it was most of their first time out of the country and to see life through their lens. I've been mexico many times. We have family that are rooted in guadalajara and they live there and so mexico runs in my veins. Whether i'm fully mexican. My husband is so there is that but they have got to experience life because before all things before business before becoming an entrepreneur. I had to discover my identity and had to live fully whole and fully whole to me is what fit in. Faith means it's being fit. Because yes our physicality does and i had a beautiful trans transformation and what it means to be physically fit in that season of my ordination administrators license. Going to the gym for the first time in my life because i was stewarding my vessel. Not because i was looking in the mirror actually the gym. I go to doesn't even have mirrors and that was amazing. That was a big transformation in of itself and so physically changing physically pursuing your identity through the lens of the lord physically pursuing that mental health. That therapy has done me. Everything and this is consistent right. This isn't something i just like. Do one time then go. Because as i become as i grow i am now influenced by the enemy in a different way. He's coming at me everyday. All he's coming at you to. I can assure you there are all the time but we have to armor up and a part of that becoming is armouring in so an armor is like conversations like we're having right now with light hearted people who are willing to stand in the gap for you. You're willing to call you out and say you are a man of integrity. And now i have access to that every single time that i see you michael if i see you not sure about that. And so when somebody gives you access rise to the occasion to be brother sister and push them further into their own calling while. I'm so glad you brought that up it you just you just hit home for me because i had the same identical thing yesterday camera where and then i have one more subject. I wanna when asked about before we close is is so yesterday. You know we're on. You and i are on clubhouse and you brought this up earlier earlier about visual right and so so clubhouses not visual right now. So i had this. I had this connection call with a young christian woman on on zoom and she's an influence in california and i was like. Wow this is awesome. She knew a lot of people that i knew. She wanted to connect with me. She made the appointment. And then i got a weird message from her like an and so i protect myself and my family. I protect my wife. So when i'm speaking on a a A clubhouse i hit a record button on 'cause i wanna learn like i even forgot to do it and i asked him for some notes yesterday. 'cause crab my recorders downstairs so for the first time i didn't but all my other things whenever i go in to speak or just to listen i will record so that i can go back and take notes but forget in. I can hold myself accountable. For what i say and what i do right so this goes like well you know. I heard you had miss understanding with some girls in in one of the Fitness professionals room. And i'm like. I have no idea what you're talking about and i had my team go back and look at all those recordings and we couldn't find anything so i'm like the old me would have been like trying to figure it out right like like you know my wife's like why. Are you even going to let that bother you like you know like you just said it's like iron sharpens iron but you don't have to pursue those things that are not in line with where god taking you god and you didn't know this but If you remind me. I'm gonna. I'm gonna share all. I will sit in a recording for you of what happened in my dream and it was about doors doors endorsed in front of me and god came into me and showed me my previous. Ice was the broken doors behind me and the doors in front of me where the new life that he was going to walk with me any under hooked my arm and began to show me what the doors in front of me. We're going to look like and so so so that's why. I think it's super important that you that that you brought that up and you brought up the armor. So why don't you finish us with this. Why don't you tell us some things that Some some information inspiration. Because whenever i listen to you talk you inspire people. You're you speak. You don't speak out of order you ask questions like you asked a question today In a room that i think was pretty challenging for people. Most people and i liked that you do that. Because i believe that's the spirit of god you know. The spirit of god uses us in situations because we pray. It's it's My friend eric thomas. If you don't know eric as a motivational speaker man of god a pastor they call them the hip hop preacher. He's known around the world and everybody's loves them and we were texting back and forth this morning and he said that you know twenty twenty. One was a year for him to only speak when god tells him to speak and to clear out like like if you know him he just always speaking speaking speaking. Hey go here speak. Hey go there speak. And he's like. I don't wanna do that. I don't want to miss my family's life. I worked hard enough now to where. I wanna make sure that i'm completely in god's will and he said to me he says mike you remember when you said that. God told you to pump the brakes on his permissible well and put the gas pedal on his perfect. Will i believe that. We as believers around lighthearted people because because because because it's like what i told you earlier you know like when tim story said you know he does fifty fifty right and then he sat never saying again right because people let you look at things from a different perspective on. You're like one not going to say like minded people because the devil can defeat my mind but he can't heart right. So that's what i'm saying right so tell me something inspirational that can send. Maybe there's people out there that are listening today. That have listened to all the things that we've talked about in scene where you are now in your passion to serve people that can really just inspires and then you can tell us how people can connect with you and reach with you On different platforms. And so that's awesome so jerry. Yes i'm actually go back into a visual. That god gifted me with on my birthday Just a couple of months ago into loom. It was sunrise. And i was sitting in a hot tub drinking coffee. Nobody was outside. And i was just in a place of gratitude because i had actually visited to loom years prior to in the midst of that crash and burn actually right before it happened and so i felt like god was redeeming. That he was redeeming that part. That was a pit. And he's turning into another part of his perfect mission his perfect vision for my life. And i was in such gratitude. I was had tears rolling down cheeks. And i'm like god. What do you want to teach me this year. And i said a word of intention over my year rather than a over value. It's my ear on my birthday. I set my intention word. Unlike what people do on january one. They said something over the year. And so i was hadn't gotten the deposit generally speaking. I'm like a planner right. So god gives me by word early. Because he knows. I'm not a procrastinator and i'm sitting there and i'm just looking at the ocean again a place that i feel small and i felt such grandiose gratitude and i see the two birds and you live on the water and so was these huge segel's and they were just following so closely. Follow the wave line so closely. That i mike. How are they not getting wet. How are they not knowing that this next wave is just gonna crash on them. They just follow so gently and he said to me in that moment. Follow me that close. Follow me that close. I already ahead of you. I'm not side by side. I'm not behind you pushing you forward. I'm right one step ahead and if you intimately come into that knowing you don't have to question i'm going to turn left or i'm gonna turn right because you're going to be so close that sand from my sandal is gonna flip up and you're gonna be able to be blind in the midst of a storm in still know where i'm going and you can't do that easily right and so how do you do that. How do i follow him that closely. It's through that vertical alignment that i talked to you about it. Stewarding my mental physical and spiritual south my emotional self. I did a lot of emotional intelligence work in the last few months. Because i want to be able to serve in the places. He's taking me. And if i'm doing so in complacency like i've already learned enough my stories already grandiose enough it's not true i'm not living in a place of stewardship and i'm not living in a place of growth and so i'm out of the boat. Y'all i'm been out of the vote for a few years. I wanna stay there. But if i take one i off of him i fall in. Its happened shirley in overwhelm in stress. Clubhouse is bananas. it's amazing it's connected me with beautiful people like michael but it also can be time suck and so boundaries and safety and making sure that i'm still stewarding my home that i ministry that god gifted me that earth led me to this recognize this recognition in that moment of becoming continually becoming and he just said. Follow me close so wherever you are if you're off path completely if you have no flying the around you and you're like where am i am going right into the storm with knowing guiding me pray seek and h- you will find because he is waiting to pull your chin from downcast look right into his face and you'll never look away when you see how beautiful life can be thank you jesus. I bless her name. God thank you. Thank you so tell us where people can reach you and how they can connect with you absolutely so. I'm on instagram. Most for sure at tamra t. a. m. r. a. Got the boring version. Okay so drop. The a. t. a. m. r. a. dot andress. I'm also in lincoln and facebook. You can see me on youtube. You can subscribe to my shows fit in faiths podcast or core talk which deposits truth and business steps all in one time and Yeah i'm gonna be. I'm gonna be in florida with michael here soon. I'm going to be at that conference so you come to that and i'll see their two awesome. I say this on every podcast. It's been a pleasure my friend. I'm excited to build a deeper relationships cited to get to know your husband. I'm excited for you to get to know my wife. And i'm gonna text you my phone number when we get off of here so that. Hopefully we can connect You know we're going to be over close to where you are this week i got. I'm a as i said i'm a big golfer in this weekend is The bay hill invitational. Which is a massive big golf tournament and i procrastinated and had to buy spend extra money to get tickets but hey you know what's really good is you can do that sometimes. Doffing later too but for at top. Golf golf okay. But i do love to golf tee. It so good so golf. Yeah we'll have to play golf one day. But i always say this as we finish connect with my friend connect with her neck with tim everywhere she said you can but i just i just love it that We get to be around like hearted like hearted individuals. And so i say this as we finish every podcast love god love people and live with passion envision. The bible says that that that people perish for lack of knowledge. The difference between knowledge and wisdom is action. So what you've learned today and what you've heard implemented into your life and so until the next episode. Thanks for joining us. God bless bye bye. Thank you for listening to the heat. Lewis podcast. we hope you enjoyed be sure. A rate subscribe. Leave us a five star review and as always you can follow michael on also she media platforms at michael david huey or www dot. Michael david hewitt dot com until next time. God bless and take care.

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Open Your Eyes

Things Above

14:13 min | 2 years ago

Open Your Eyes

"I'm James Brian Smith. Welcome to the things above podcast. You're listening to episode fifty two if you missed pilot episode of this is your first time listening. This is a podcast where what we like to call mind discipleship. It's a podcast for those who want to set their minds on things above Colossians three to where the Apostle Paul says set your mind on things above not an earthly things you died in your life is hidden with Christ in God were all New People in Christ and because of that Paul saying we need to pay attention to what what we set our minds on and setting our minds on good thoughts uplifting encouraging life-giving biblically based thoughts is what we were designed for and so that's what this podcast is about. We tried to provide for you in every episode a thought from above and maybe a story with to help unpack or explain what that thought really means in our lives. Today's thought from above is this. Keep Your Eyes Wide Open in the last episode. The thought from was this adversity can be a blessing and I told the story about my best friend Tim latch who was in a devastating stating accident. It was a bicycle accident he'd hit by car and he had multiple breaks throughout his body. Pelvic breaks broken sake room collapsed long just just pretty horrific and Tim was lucky to have survived and his doctors told him so but Tim decided not to look at the downside or to focus on this bad break as he put it but instead to turn to God and to keep his focus on well things above Tim's healing was shocking to all of this caregivers I mean he lit up the hospital as he always does and all the doctors and nurses said that his attitude and his faith and his appreciation for even even the small blessings in life inspired them. I ended episode fifty one by quoting Tim who said this much. I know some say I caught a bad break but that's not how I see it. I know more clearly than ever that I have a chance to make a difference with my life and I'm going to do that. I also told you at the end of episode fifty one that you'll want to be sure and listened to episode fifty two this episode because the story of what happened next is an incredible story of the power of God at work in us when we stay awake and open so in my best Paul Harvey Impression and now the rest of the story on on July thirtieth twenty nineteen less than three months after Tim's accident. Tim took his ninety year old father Joe to church as he does every Saturday evening the church service Tim would say was inspiring and the sermon even more so the pastor preached about King David and his primary Ameri point was this God uses us even with our flaws to do great things. Tim left the service he said ready to do you something great. He had no idea the drive home from church took them on a lonely highway. It was dark and it was rainy with little visibility and Tim was driving and around fifty five miles an hour and for no real reason at the exact right moment moment. Tim Glanced to his right in that split second while driving at fifty five miles an hour on a dark rainy late afternoon. Tim said he saw what he thought was a pair of eyes staring at him in a field but remember number stark and rainy going fast so he turned to his father and he said did you see something and his father who's actually legally blind joked and said. I didn't see a thing tim tim kind of laughed but then he said you know what. I can't let this go. I think I need to go back when he went back to where he thought he saw something. He stopped his car and he walked out into the field sure enough. There was a person there. It was a young man who was lying on his back in great pain and fighting for his life. Tim immediately called nine one one and Tim's Dad Joe with his limited eyesight sort of stumbled onto something and guess what it was a smashed up bike. This young man just just like Tim had been riding a bicycle and was hit by a car but in this man's case whoever was driving that vehicle didn't stop and just took off. Tim Knelt down and said don't be afraid man. I'm with you. I got you help on the way hang on. Tim said that he could see right away that this accident was in many ways even worse than his own and that this man could barely move while they awaited him learn this young man's name which was Bernie and Bernie told him that for the last forty minutes he'd been using all the strength he had just to stay alert just to listen for the sound of a passing car and when he's when he heard a car coming he would just lift himself up as much as he could to try to look but no one saw him and when he was at the end of his rope he'd given up and heard Tim's car and he gave it one last last try. He lifted up his head. Tim's car went by he laid back down as Tim sped away and he thought this is is it but tim turned around as he sat with Bernie waiting for the ambulance to come. He told Bernie his own story he said I was riding a bike and I was pretty banged up like you said hey man look. I'm fifty eight. You're a young guy. They fix me. They can fix you hang on Bernie while they waited. Tim Asked about Bernie's family and Bernie told him that he was engaged. Ed and he had a younger brother and Tim said man you have so much to live for Bernie hang on and while they waited. Tim said he felt the spirit say to him. I saved you tim so that you could save him. I used your eyes is because you're the only person who would have seen him. Wow the ambulance came and took Bernie to the hospital and Bernie would spend the next seven weeks in the hospital. His Vertebrae had been broken and at first. It looks like there was a really good chance he might never walk again but during that time Tim would go visit burning the hospital and they became pretty good friends and Bernie's Fiancee Gloria thanked him for saving Bernie's life and Bernie felt the same way it turns out that Bernie is actually actually a well-known cyclist in fact he had been training that very day the day of the accident at the velodrome up in Boulder and he was just riding home from training a boulder Colorado cycling paper did a story about Bernie not just about Bernie but about his guardian angel named Tim in that Article Bernie said Tim was driving father home from church. He was being very observant and he saw me in the ditch. Tim called nine one one and he stayed with me until emergency. Personnel arrived Bernie added if he hadn't seen me. I'd be dead later that night. Tim took his father home and his dad. Joe Asked him a penetrating question. He said Tim if you hadn't been in that accident back in May do you think you would have seen Bernie today. Tim Thought long and hard and he said I'm I'm not sure but I do know this my awareness of life and my appreciation of life and my focus on letting God lead me has made me a different person. I don't know if I would have seen him before the accident but I thank God for God's shaped me now and I'm grateful for the person that I become during Tim's visits with Bernie in the hospital. Tim said to him you can focus on his bad break. I was in the same place as you but if you do it's only GonNa take you to a dark place to a negative place instead Bernie. I encourage you to be appreciative and thankful for every day. Yeah you're in a bad spot now. I was too but the only way out is to focus on all the good things you have in your life and that's what Bernie chose to do. Bernie continues to make great strides in his recovery and amazingly not long ago. Oh with the help of a a brace and a Walker Bernie took his first steps. It's amazing at this Guardian Angel a fellow broken but healing angel named him kept his Eyes Wide Open. If you want to see a picture of Tim and Bernie you can go to our website Apprentice Institute Dot Org and you can click on the podcast icon and you can see this photo but even this isn't the end of Tim Story. There's another part of it and I WANNA share it with you now. As you may remember Tim was also hit by a car and he was hit by a woman whose name I'm not at liberty to share because of privacy but I will tell you that at this woman unlike the person that Bernie didn't drive away and in fact she stopped to help him as did many others thankfully but this woman who had hit him and stopped to help him was completely shaken by what had happened for she thought she killed him and then she thought he's paralyzed for life and so what happened was. Tim Spent the first few minutes after the accident consoling this woman saying it's okay. I'm going to be okay. Tim had his his wife Lori. Call this woman periodically just to say. I want you to want you to know he's doing well. He's doing well and the woman shared with Tim's wife Lori that ever since since the accident she'd had trouble sleeping. He just couldn't sleep since the accident so just a few days ago. Tim Head Laurie set up a meeting with Tim and this woman who hit him and when they met this is what Tim said to her. I want to see you face to face because I want you to see amy and how I've been healing. I want you to see me walking I want you to see I'm doing really well and I want you to know well this. I forgive you and all I want is for you to be able to sleep during their conversation. The woman turned Tim and said what can I do for you and this is what Tim said. Forgive Yourself. He went on mm say you and I we're now connected forever. Let's let that be a good thing. I'm fine and I want the the same for you and then Tim holder the story about burning. She wept through the entire story. Wow what a story of healing on so many levels. Tim's adversity ended up becoming a blessing I for for him and then with his Eyes Wide Open God used him to help save somebody else and got also used. Tim's faith to bring being a kind of faith to someone who had none and God used Tim's deep kingdom heart to offer forgiveness to someone who couldn't forgive themselves man. It's an amazing journey this thing called Kingdom living and it always leads to kingdom loving may all of us turn to God in our times of trial and may all of us live with our eyes wide open so that God can use us to rescue those who are lost and broken and hurting. I hope you enjoyed this episode and I hope and pray you'll share it with a friend or anyone. You know who needs encouragement. Alpe join me next week for episode fifty three until then you can find me on twitter and facebook at James Brian Smith and you learn more about this podcast at Apprentice Institute Dot Dot Org my hope as always is that one day if you're asked what's on your mind your answer will be things above

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Do Like there IS NO TOMORROW With Daniel Kwak

The HeFluence Podcast

35:27 min | 10 months ago

Do Like there IS NO TOMORROW With Daniel Kwak

"I believe as a leader of my organization by job is to make sure that your organization direction this phenomenon. Two three five years from now. It's not my responsibility to worry about anything that's today. It's always provide in the long term future. And so i work. I worship wonder. I work out so i always try to get a sweat going as we know our bodies our temple. It's something that god has given us chew stewart. Well so young. Very mindful of my diet might very mindful of of. Don't my fitness. So i work. I worship. I wonder i workout. I always try to breed. Because i'm always looking to better myself and Not got a long ways to go. As somebody once told me you learn like you'll live forever a work like there's no tomorrow And so that's something that i really gravitate towards you know because it's true. You know the work that we do. We should work like there's no small not in terms of effort in terms of the impact that we try woods other people. You're listening to the heath fluids podcast and we're having candidate an actionable conversations about your health relationships business and ministry and now here's your host. The second chance coach from in michael david huey. Welcome to another session up. The heat thrones podcast. It is actually a cloudy day here in florida and this is actually a great time because this is my last podcast of twenty twenty and it will go live tomorrow And i'm super excited. I actually was. I don't do much of this. I don't do much scrolling on social media. And i had the chance of of hearing bradley's feed on his instagram and i saw my desk and my guest today and daniel like is is is somebody that i inspire to hear from and to learn from right and him and his brother Our inspiration for people who And i'm not going to give. He gave me his story. But i also found some stuff on website. Because i'm not gonna steal his thunder. Because i believe the most important thing that you hear when you hear about somebody's life is their story and and stories connect with people. You know Story sell you know one of my one of my mentors always says to me and it's a it's a cliche and you've heard it from jim rome and many other people. That success leaves clues right. And that when you see where a person's came from and daniel and i were talking about this before we got on just recently about connections in people that we know and and you know him and his brother have. They emigrated to the united states And nineteen thousand nine hundred chicago which is where my wife is from which is which is funny see. Her family lives in elk grove village area of chicago. And you know. I love it. One of my best. Best friends owns a massive. Dj business here locally in in the in the area and he is actually built it to about a quarter of a million dollar your business but it's still a brick and mortar business right. He's got about thirty. Dj's that worked for him and he. He's very successful. And i know that daniel owner's brother did that for a while right and and And then they then after a few years or struggling they've found a financial breakthrough in two thousand seventeen when they I love this. They went from zero to seventy five rentals in a year. And what i've learned is is they. They did it away. In a way that traditionally people don't do this right and now him him and his brother have their their authors or speakers I was really moved by his responses on bradley's Podcast we were just talking about it before we came on here in abou- How we have to be a light anytime that we're on any type of interview or on a stage or whatever we have to be receptive to. Why god has this where he has us right and i was. I told dan. I was super touched by him. And how he responded He he's just a man of faith he's a man of god. He's a man of integrity. From what i've got to know. I dug in a little bit between the time that i reached out to him and now and so i asked him if he would come on and he said yeah and and we were just laughing. 'cause he's like hey. Do you mind if i do this from from my office instead of my studio and i was like dude. This is how i do it. I told him that. Tim story challenged me just to let god control my podcasts. Instead of me trying to control it and trying to make it perfect And it's worked a lot better his way so daniel. Welcome to the podcast brothers. Good to have isn't isn't that the truth right works a lot better than our you know. That's that's acting that's an testaments my life to you know but it's so i'm so glad to be here. I appreciate i appreciate that you that you are a man of action that you you you do what you say you know gang one of the things i i want you to tell people your story One of the things that god has showed me this year. That's most important going into twenty twenty one twenty twenty. One is to always do what we say we're going to. Do you know to show up to be intentional. I still can't believe this. When i look how young i look in this on this on this webinar. I can't believe that. I'm going to be fifty three years old. This year Yeah and to feel thirty actually and feel just in the in the in the best shape of my life and physically You know i told daniel. I married a proverbs. Thirty one woman who keeps me strong and She challenges me challenges. Me to be the head of my home and and you know i i. I'll just say this publicly. Daniel will will one day i. I'm unsure. i noticed that. Are you married dana. I can't remember if you're married. That's right that's right. That's right. And i saw pictures of you and your spouse and so he he. I'm sure that he understands that now. At a young age what it means to an end your blast brother to find one like that at your age. Because i didn't find mine until i was forty. Which is kind of funny. I wasted a lot of time In spiritual warfare if you completely completely understand that but I want people to hear your story. I want you to tell me what daniels lifers as been like as a young entrepreneur and being super successful in where you came from and where you are now know. I hope what i have to say is from the spirit but you know i've only been on this planet for twenty six years. I'm still a young man. I'm wet behind the ears as a lot of people will say but you know we immigration to this country. Nine hundred ninety nine a diehard chicago bulls fan. My one of my lifelong dreams actually do own the bolts. I wanna by wolves one day and Actually do and use it as a platform berlanga of in the sausage chicago and you can help them reach their goals and find the lord in the process but I waste gonna love you. Brother my wife's going to love you. I got her a new jersey for christmas. Is gonna love you last year. I got her new jersey. And so i'm probably going to have to get her another new. And now because you know the bulls don't have a lot of high l. people on their team so it's tough. Yeah yeah i'll show the stories broad topic. But so when i was in korea i emigrated to the united states six. I used to love basketball. So i had an older cousin who will four five six years old. I would go watch you. Play for high school team and i would always watch the caveat. Which is the korean basketball league. And you know is think by the that those were the best players in the world And that so you know. My parents told me that were moving to america. It's my dad's pastors. I'm up preacher's kid. He the cake so he gets called to start a church in chicago so we go and the whole fourteen hour plane ride. I'm crying 'cause. I'm like oh i'm gonna miss my friends but most importantly i'm gonna miss fast ball like i'm thinking there's no past while the united states and this is the. This is the late nineties. So i'm like oh my gosh like this is gonna. This is gonna be terrible. There's going nowhere fast and I don't know you're you're to this but you've ever in airports where they have those big box. Tv's that hung on the corner of the gates like every gate were have these big corner box. Tv's out was people. Look up to date watch sports so we get off the gate. A tuesday night i think it was december eighth. Nineteen ninety nine and I i get out of the gate. And i looked at tv. It must have been the game. Maybe goes a commercial but there was a guy wearing number twenty three and he plays the chicago bulls and also. Who's that guy in a little different than a korean korean players. And then he did his signature fadeaway jumper. And i was like well. He jumps a little higher than the korean player. He's a little bigger than the cream players and he's pretty good. I think that's going to be my favorite player from now on and you know of course that guy ended up being mike jordan and so ever since then i said you know what i'm a bite of chicago bulls monday els. Michael i. it's it's it's awesome that you it's so funny way to my wife gets to hear this like she's just she's just going to laugh and so so after you got after you moved here got started and then tell me a little bit about that journey. You hear some of the things that you and your brother did and how you got to where you are now. It was anyone who is listening to this and those immigrant light. That's tough you know. Do do not let anyone slew. America is the best country to be at world the amount of opportunities that we get here in this country is phenomenal. Know the scripture says you know be grateful for all things have gratitude So i thank god every day that i get to even be here in this country and so you know but it was tough immigrant. Life was not easy. We came to this country with almost nothing most nights. We didn't have dinner to eat off their multiple nights. Actually work you know. Our whole family stopped the car you can afford to pay the heating and our those one instance whereas kindergartner and my dad really encouraged me to win this reading competition and i was like why does he want me to when the stinks. So bad I up and the kid who couldn't speak english one reading competition and i remember the tries was bhagat when This little pizza literally like the size of half of a mouth and you know it was tiny and we waited a whole family waited forty five minutes abdominals and we picked up the pizza. We took it home and we cut it up into four pieces and our dinner. That and so. That's kind of a life that you know we. We lived and you know as a lot of entrepreneurs and successful business owners will tell you when you grow up for the worst thing that you inherit is the mindset of war And that led me to being nineteen years old and not knowing how to stuart my resources properly. And so i'm nineteen. I have negative one hundred eighty seven dollars and sixty five cents in my bank account. I have a couple maxed out credit cards. And i find myself One summer night looking through the dumpster trying to find something to eat. And that's when. I said all right. God mike this. This is not working out and said you need to do so. You're you know. I've always had dreamed a kid of wine. A bill hostels in africa and doing good which by the way later. Find out that. God doesn't want me to do that. Necessarily he just cares. More about my heart. Why ants and those things it'd be a byproduct of the working of the holy spirit of my life and so you know i started. God will be a better way right. I thought you know you came here. To give life more bluntly and here. I am looking to the dumpster. What's the deal. So i got on my knees. And i prayed and six months later i found this idea called real estate. Investing and being big bulls fan. I read the biography of the guy. Currently owns the bulls kind of jerry. Reinsdorf and i read his biography. And i learned that he started investing in real estate when he was in his twenties. And that's how he made his so. I said that's what i gotta do. And so the lord sent me a mentor to learn from. And for the next three years i would just be obsessed with learning Investing real estate. I'd get up at six. Don't go sleep till one study. Real estate whole time comment to greg was to eat and work and that led me to Twenty two. I was extremely frustrated because i was the smartest guy in every single room i went into yet. I had no results to show for it. I know i bore no fruit to stick in political terms here and i would belong to a lot of these different networking events and a lot of these guys. Making six seven figures a year at real estate and yet they didn't know anymore night facing i want and so on a frustration again. I i asked god as a hit. What's the d. Right college kid going to his father when his toys broken all. This is not working out. What the hell you i made. No money no drew mets and he took me to john chapter thirteen. Where it just moment where. Jesus realizes that He's the most powerful being universe. Matter of fact john. Thirteen says for word for word says as jesus was entering the room. He adds realization that the father had everything under his authority and that he was leaving and returning back to the father and so the next verse is says so right so as then a cause and effect this is his reaction to hen realizing reasonable powerful being the universe next verse says so he removed his our garments took out a basin of water started washing the feet of his disciples. And god says when you're answering every single room you have a very smart mind but you leave with dirty feet and the problem is Every room you enter into new leave everybody still has during feet that your problem and i said okay you're right and so i started shifting. My mentality and i started asking myself. How can i wash the feet of every single person come in contact with. And how can i align myself with the heart of the father in caring for his children caring for my siblings and caring for the family that we are on christ so i. The experiment was very simple. I walked around. And i'll belong to a couple of different networking events at the time the met on a weekly basis and i saw about six to seven hundred people on weekly basis. Because i that's and so i started asking. Hey what is the number one off your business right now and or what are some of the biggest obstacles you have in your business. Current and i started getting a lot of answers and so you know one of the things that people said most commonly was. Hey i need capital to do deals. And i was like no problem. And then i noticed that there was a smaller percentage of people who said hey look daniel. Doctor decaf million dollars. Zero north redick surgeon. I have this money saved up. And i want to get into real estate. I need to tax advantages. But i don't have the time. I don't have the team. The knowledge of the strategy do it could work together in so I realized that there was a good number of people. And i started getting a lot of verbal commitments in terms of. Daniel's you find your deal all the money and you know what the deal fifty fifty. And so i started telling people because i wanted to genuinely wash their feet. I wanted to bring them value and so instantaneously. In the matter of four weeks became the most valuable in all minority circles. Because i now had something that everybody was whining chapel to deal. I didn't have capital by that goddess through relationship. I just four currencies in this world. I think people knew how to use them. We could be a lot more creative and allow. The world's problems will be solved but this four currencies people think there's only currency there's only money that's not true there's times knowledge and there's people And so i started applying four currencies together a relationships knowledge time and all of a sudden on the money became very easy to As a matter of fact i started realizing it's a byproduct of doing business the way that it should be done. offering value to people so That's how i got started long before. I was twenty. Three with eighty two rental doors. We just zero seventy five because more marketable Look at eighty two rentals and then You know. I guess the rest is history. What where are you at now. Dan you if you mind sharing. What are you and your brother doing now. Yeah so i found it a a real estate fund So it's actually the first real estate fund to adopt the hedge fund models. We actually give one hundred percent equity to our investors which is unheard of typically a real estate syndication. The gp thinks twenty to thirty percent ownership along with all the benefits but we actually do a hundred percent to our to our investors. So that's what we're doing now. We run run a okay. That's awesome and so So you you're you've written some books which i down. I usually like to buy at least one of the books from one of my authors. I saw one book on your website. There that i will have my wife take care of tonight so that i can read and start to learn Who is an avatar person for you and your brother like like how do you i mean. Obviously you don't want to just stop where you are. You want to continue to grow and do so what. And what is it typical What is your vision. Kinda of looked like now going forward at your young age. Because obviously i could see you only work in for you know you know obviously you leverage you said time knowledge relationships in money i think time is probably the most important thing because a as a as a young husband as a young man of god as a young entrepreneur. Your goal is usually always to get back your time right like i still can't believe that you know the the the success that i've had and i don't work a lot now that i'm working more. I realized that how important times so what does that. Tell me a little bit about your thought process and where you're going from there so i mean my my vision of my avatar. Why one of you. One day. I just i just learned. I wanna be the person that got treated me to be. I had this moment where the holy spirit stuck a knife in my heart. A couple of months ago And i remember. I was at a group you know. There's a young professionals through with every wednesday and it's pretty much it's all about how to be as young professionals draw closer to god and represents god in workspaces and we're having this discussion and the holy spirit to set this to me and it just destroy the inside and must be up and it's as tory apart but it was so good and he said this is what he said he said daniel. I love the fact that you're giving away all this money. I love the fact that you treat your employees as i. I love the fact that you have plans to build hospitals and do amazing things for the kinga And and and just expand the kingdom on earth as i love the fact. You're doing all these things. I wish we could do it together. And i was just like. Oh my gosh. That is so true and i. I just think that all lot of is a lot of christian businessmen and a lot of christians in general. Is they want to do all these great things wanna start there no social media influence or platforms and spread the gospel and and do all these things But a lot of times our father is just right there waiting through the window going. Hey when can we do some of this stuff together Matter of fact there's a story in john five and the pool of where jesus Shiels one person right. This person who's been paralyzed for thirty eight years. And jesus says take your matt and get up and walk and what blows my mind about. The story is that jesus most likely had to walk over sick people to get to that one guy i mean. There's the bible says. There's hundreds of people in that pool waiting to be healed and jesus most likely walked through hundreds and hundreds of six people. Just the he'll that one guy. Today's standards jesus failure because he gio one person out of three four hundred our major but there there but at the same time. Jesus was interested in helping everybody. He was just interested in doing the one thing that the father had asked to do. And so that's something that the holy spirit convicted me of a couple months ago says daniel. I only want you doing the one thing that i ask you to do. And i want us to do it together. And you know for so for me as as tempted as i am to save stuff like allow wanna be like you know the next bob. Goff to be the next mark. Cuban the next this next that You know i was very humbled by the spirit and and now i'm going today going today where i just wanna be. God treats me to be on a daily basis. You know. I want to keep it simple and do as jesus instructed and just pick up my cross and follow him every day. That's so good. And on these i i i. I believe that the person that learns the most on these podcasts me. Daniel i feel that the reason i do these because too so that i can learn and grow. I got a little bit emotional. Just thinking and listening to that and you know this year and i want to confirm this to you because i believe god brings confirmation through other people through circumstance I had a dream And i think. I shared this on one of the podcast but i really like. It's important right now. After what you just said. I had a dream right before And i'll call it a pandemic We won't go down that road. But i i as a as a I got offered to get a phd in nutrition. And the lord rebuke me. And he said you don't need to do that. It's not my plan and purpose for your life. And then they came back. Organization came back and said well. We're gonna nominate you for an honorary ph. And i said that's great if it happens but i'm not going to pursue and and so it may happen it may not right but so this dream i had was i was. I was in my dream daniel and there was all these doors behind me forever and then there was all these doors in front of me forever and i was like okay. God what is going on over here. It was a door on the left. And i kind of emotional. When i think about it. It's the door open. Jesus walked in the door. And i was like thank god. You're here. can you tell me what this is. And he walks over to me and he's done this in a couple of couple of other dreams. And i'm i'm gonna write a chapter. I'm in the process of starting my book. Write a whole chapter on this in my book. And he's done this several times. He puts his hands. Kind of like this over my ears and kind of like lines on a horse and He whispers in my ear. Like he'll go like this and then he'll go and he'll whisper in my ears and i said well what's this and he said this is your previous life. There was some doors half open. Some doors closed some doors with crack in it. And i said well why are they like that. He said well some doors. You kept putting your foot in. And i was trying to close other doors. I was trying to open some. You walked around. And he's like so you know what these doors are in front of you right and i was like no like and he's like this is your life. This is the rest of your life now and so then. He left his hands down. And i thought on this town and he walked at. He stood beside me and he. Chris grasped my arm like this and put his arm in mind and he said now the rest of your life. We're going to do this together. He said we're going to walk hand in hand he said. I've given you revelation my word. He said you know. Most people think they're strain of of three quarters is either them in the holy spirit or them and their spouse or whatever revelation comes when god speaks right when the holy spirit revelation. I've been watching a series called the chosen. I don't know if you and your brother or your wife. Or i have watched it but it's it's phenomenal. I downloaded the app. I watched the christmas special. I weep the whole entire time. And you know they're in the process of making season two right now There on the last couple of days. It's going to be launched in sometime in february. But i had massive revelation. I watched it three times at massive revelation and when god showed me that i was like. Wow so thank you for sharing that. Thank you for for for opening up and sharing that and so tell me a little bit. About what a day looks like in the life of daniel. I heard you talk about you. Know i like to bring i. I believe that you know we have a spirit soul and body. Hey we've talked about spilling are sola bit so talk about some things that you do to keep yourself in line things that you're intentional. With how important that is to you and your life and what other peeping gain from that. And i share this other. Podcasts a little bit. But i can get a little deeper do into today so you know my looks very different. You know. typically i'll wake up around seven o'clock some around there but you know i. I always have my five. Thanks so john. Knoxville does his training where he describes the best. Cutting down trees right it just five chops every single day and every single day. And you know. abraham lincoln. I think that if you give me six hours to chop down a tree all spent for sharpening it and so there are five things that i do every single day And you know all those my standards and expectations. No i saw documentary. Michael phelps article or documentary. But he says and somebody asked like michael. Larry the most most decorated olympian of all time. And you know my old self said something along the lines of you. Know what what an ask the what an olympian elite world class athlete will do. Good day is something that i use a standard for every and so i listened to that and i really conscious pondered and i had this moment of introspection and i said well. What is the best me. Look you know what is the best daniel like you know. What is the day that god created. You know who got created to be. And i i divided five steps around it so they all start with the with the letter. W so the first one work so you know. I like to do at least check my emails. Do something every single day. You know whether. It's christmas whether it's my birthday. Whatever may be a worship means communicate with god and you as as you know as according to scripture were meant to live in communion with god and remains us constantly be speaking with them and pray continually work a worship. I wonder song always looking three steps ahead. I believe of the leader of my organization. My job is to make sure that the organizations directions phenomenal two three five years from now. it's not my responsibility to worry about anything that's today it's always provides being you know in the long term future and so i work. I worship. I wonder i work out so i always try to get a sweat going You know as as we know. Our body is our temple. It's something that god has given us to steward. Well so young. Very mindful of my diet might very mind. Salo's of your might my fitness. So i work. I worship i work out And the last one. I always forget the last one but i think you kinda get where i'm going with your so you know. I always have five things that i do constantly When it comes to family fitness you know kind of all around But i always try. I always try to read. Because i'm always looking to better myself and Not got a long ways to go as somebody once told me you know. Learn like you'll live forever a work like there's no tomorrow on and so that's something that i i really gravitate towards you know because it's true. You know the the work that we do. We should work like there's no small not in terms of effort but in terms of the impact that we tried make towards other people Let's work and let's communicate nuts. Let's live like there really is not small but at the same time. Let's learn must be humble. Be cultural like we list forever. So i'd say on a day-to-day that's almost like that. that's awesome. I tried to daniel. I tried to be as intentional as i can. I have One of the things that whole hatter taught me was noah tommy like like you know I could make a lot of decisions in business and do stuff in business. But if it doesn't stand up with me morally and ethically that i'm not going to do it right. And and co calls the horde shirt shorts and flip flop type guy right him and grant cartoon go at it. Like all time you know and and dan fleischmann are and business together and my friend. Joel marion They they're doing a real estate thing. Now i think some big real estate investment mastermind type of thing with dan and some other type of people but I i'm so grateful for that. I try to stay consistent with the things i do. I'm i'm an morning person. I'm up at six thirty in the word and in reading and consistently doing what. I'm supposed to preparing from day i'll tell you this. I learned most consistent. Daily action plan from caleb. Matic's you know kayla kills a great friend. Yeah so when. Caleb lived here I used to go. I wouldn't go down to some of his events. They him and his dad would have down. Sater's were guy lived in tampa for about twenty eight years and i just moved to the orlando area actually in february. It'll be the end of january. It'll be a year which. I can't believe time really does fly. You know you're talking about when you're twenty nine twenty six and time really does fly. I mean we time doesn't stand still for us like you know it's it's like you were saying when you were saying you know about having time knowledge relationships in money but time time is is is is what we use to value a lot of like time. We spend with our family. The time we spend with our spouse. Like i i Yeah i it values a lot so so one last thing and then i want to tell people how they can connect with you What are some You've talked a little bit about some things. But are what are some goals for you and twenty twenty one like things that you really want to accomplish by partnering with god. And what are because. I'm sure that when god says. Hey daniel i wanna to do these things with you. Things change because. I know that direction that i was going on in some things. Guide gave me a vision of some testing that we're doing that. Only one percent of the people in my industry do that. I think can literally build multiple seven figures and then of course i want to invest in real estate and learn to do some of the things that you're doing What is that gonna look like for you going forward in two twenty twenty one or some of the some of those things that are going to happen in change so I think i was Twenty two or twenty three. And then i had. I had set goals for the next year. And you know. My goal is to twenty rental units and my mentor said. Hey stop. setting goals set standards expectations a nightmare. We know we know. A lot about leading indicators lagging indicators when somebody says you know i wanna do Twenty units to syria. That's a lag indicator that something that happens as a byproduct of what your leading indicators are so my leading indicators are from me every day is to connect with certain amount of people every single week. And you know And have that intimacy with the father every single day and You know one of the things. I've learned my goal for twenty one. Twenty one is is really for me to be on touchable. And what. I mean by that. what you buy that as untouchables. That christ came to set us free. You came to set us free. Not only just from our sin and for me when i when i think christ. I think will from what what did he. What did he set me. Free from sites and He set me free from the constant desire for more. No because that's very dangerous. The seat of wealth and a lot of times the concerns of the world. Those three thanks and for those individuals that are driven and live by the holy spirit. You know we are free from no thanks. So my desire 2021 michael his you know for me to truly be free from the defeat of well did the temptations and concerns of the world and the constant need for more You know. I i wanna be a being very honest and transparent and saying that i wanna be as excited to meet the person who's homeless. Who has nothing to offer me and be equally excited to meet with that guy and have lunch back guy. Then if i were to meet mark cuban or warren buffett. I wanna be like. I genuinely genuinely want to be at that place in terms of my heart and right now you know i don't i don't think there yet. There's still parts of me. That is human that that is according to my nature But you know. That's something that i asked god to do and i asked god. Would you transform hearts with i could. I could be there. You know right could see all your children as you see that you know people that that are you'll love by you and unconditionally love you. And so that's my goal for twenty twenty one. This is to be their love. You said standards and expectations and and it brought up this. And i'll faint with this and i want to let people know how they can connect with you and reach out to you and learn more for you and hopefully you know invest with you and do other things that will lead you to that. One of the things is used. You brought up a story you know wanting to sit with the homeless people. Cole told a story one time that he had never really told to a whole lot of people except like his parents and he said he used to go to the bridge in san diego where all the homeless people were any sat there. One day with the guy A young guy in his forties who had been an executive of a major banking firm and had everything on south and then he lost everything he got addicted to alcohol and and he lost everything and and he said as i spoke to him He said to me cole. Gain the whole world in lost my soul again the whole world and i lost my soul and call said What's changed he said. Sometimes i like. I have more heath underneath a bridge than i did. Making millions of dollars and not fulfilling god's plan and purpose for my life and he said a couple. He went back like a month later to just go back and sit and talk to the guy he said some of the most incredible conversations he had with this guy just taking him food and sitting there with him and learning from. He said some of his best things that he did in business. He learned from this guy with this guy underneath the bridge. Right and so. I don't think it's a coincidence that you brought that up because it came back to my memory one one thing. That's been very good for me. Daniel is is is my clients and people who hire me. I have a lot of high profile people in the kingdom of hired me recently to help them with their health. And i've realized that a lotta people don't set standards expectations. They've just done the same things over and over and over and it becomes mundane and not monotonous kind of right and there's no change. There's no it's my wife said this. She she she said something. That was very profound and very prophetic. She said honey. Know what i realized about a lot of people not really stepping in and this was part of this dream At annuals god told me he wanted me to pump the brakes on his permissible will and put the gas pedal on his perfect. Well for my life is kinda like where you are you doing. really good. And god's permissible whale is okay but then god says hey daniel my perfect well as over here right like my perfect meal for you as you and i doing together. Not me just being your cheerleader. Right because my grandmother's you say it's a. You're going to be three years of your life. Out of god's will and god's permissible willing god's perfect. Well she said the first two not very fun she said the second one is okay but it's not like being in the third one right and so my wife said you know what i found out about people. She said i'm not judging them. I just it's it's a vision and it's it's a prophecy that i see. Is that people just like to do what's easy. She said if you read some of the things that we read from clients and stuff she said. I i see a common word that it's just easy. It's just easy and not doing like you said doing the challenging things and setting standards and setting expectations. And and as i was saying what i learned from caleb we met we met at a hotel down in saint pete and he spoke in the middle. He talked about how he broke up his day. And for me. I i wish i would have listened in. Heard him say that you know ten years ago. But all i can do is do. What's important now moving forward. And and thank you i i took. I usually don't take notes. But i took i say three pages and notes today and my wife will be we. We sit down at nighttime and listen to these it will go live tomorrow and i'll send you a couple of things to to promote it and stuff but it's it's it's it's been my honor and privilege to have you and just before we go tell people how they can connect with you Where they can connect with you at and and that way they can reach out if they want and and build a relationship and see how things can go from there. So tell that yeah i. I usually don't like to plug in my personal instagram. But a lot of people have been following me. Some podcast appearances that i've been in so You know my my personal instagram is daniel watching. Wnyc's my last name spelling And then we post a lot of great content great epiphanies the holy spirit gives me i post on there And i do a lot and a. with real estate investing to to genuinely serve people on there so That's my instagram. It's if people want to follow our youtube channel. It's the clock brothers so we post videos all the time on the finance on real estate investing and whatnot so yeah i mean by the way i'm in orlando probably once a month every every month because that's where we do a lot of our deal so we'll have to try to connect yeah. I did see that somewhere. I did see that you got you here. So let's yeah those try. We'll try to do that. I mean i'm i'm not you know i I'm br i want some more interaction with people. Like i'm tired of the cycle. It's it's great to do this. But it's it's good to have some some interaction and tim story and i were just talking about. He's like. I think i might come in and beige you in in orlando. I'm like come on right. Like let's let's have some interaction so daniel thank you again guys. The only way that people get to know quality people is by following them and listen to them. And if you know me. I don't i don't do a lot of. I don't believe in coincidence right. I just don't believe in it. I believe that god brings people in their life or reason. I believe that there was a reason why i just pulled up instagram. I don't do anything on instagram. That much Just hired somebody to start doing some stuff for us on instagram And i found daniel and i reached out and the rest is history. And i'm looking forward to building a relationship with him and learning more. I i'm gonna subscribe to his his brother's youtube channel. But like i said guys go and download this share it. Let people you know. Reach out to daniel. If you have to and guys just daniel said love what he said. He said a lot of really great things here today. You know How is intentional. What's his schedule work and worship and working out in writing in the things that he does in reading right and setting standards and expectations. I love that it's different different than goals. You know Any said he wants to be untouchable. And i love that. I think that god values that. I think it's good that now you're partners with god. It's to or better than one right when when one falls down you know. Thank god that we have a father. That's there to pick us up into lift us up and and to encourage us and so guys for listening to another session of the podcast. Happy new year guys. If you if you didn't hear me last week. I said merry christmas but if you didn't get a chance to hear that one Hope you guys had a great christmas. I really enjoy this time of year. I'm going to finish the year strong. I've got I'm a checklist type of guy. And i got a lot of things and i'm going to between now and the end of the year but Just have a great happy new year. And god bless you guys. Thanks for listening to this session of the headphones podcasts. By bike us.

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Episode 69 - The Wind Through The Keyhole

"Content warning this show will contain mature content including discussions of domestic violence and is not suitable for all audiences listener. Discretion is advised once upon a by before your grandfather's grandfather was born. It's the stephen king blue club so you should good tank tops. Wet in our logo. Buki with his occurred to you that the nicknames we gave each other megan sound like we run a christian. Podcast christian podcast. I'm steven indra. Sano and i'm the cenex coquette. I wrote that in the script weird and he just went for it. So i appreciate you phoenix crockett. This week we are reading the wind through the keyhole published in two thousand and twelve and now phoenix. Because i know that you often dread these excursions to the dark tower. I will take us to the main points. The wind through the keyhole is not one but three stories nested together. Taking place after the events of wizard and glass as roland. Any susannah and jake travel the billy. Bumbler begins acting strangely. Roland recognizes this as a sign of an oncoming stark blast a kind of sudden devastating cold front. The contact take shelter in an old mine and roland begins to tell a story to pass the long cold night in this story. Roland is a young man. Having just accidentally killed his mother he is sent on a mission to a mining town called davar area which is being terrorized by a serial killer locals believed the havoc is being caused by a mythological monster called a skin man. A kind of multi formed wear wool. He learns that it has killed before at a covenant called serenity where his own mother lived after her affair with martin broadcloth alias. Randall flagg romans. Only hope to solve the murders is the lone survivor. Farmland massacre a young boy named bill. Bill manages to catch sight tattoo on the skin. Man's ankle to keep bill safe from the murderer. Rolling spends the night with him walked securely in the town jail to soothe the boys nerve and as a wind. Howls outside. he tells a story handed down from his own mother in the story. Tim ross is a young boy living in a logging town on the edge of the enchanted forest. His father is killed in the woods. Supposedly by a dragon and his mother wends and financial desperation to an abusive alcoholic when the tax man comes to town. A man known to some as the coven. Ter- and as randall flagg to others. He uses black magic to show how the boy's stepfather was the true killer of his father. He also reveals the man beating his mother wine and tells the boy that only merlin who lives deep in the woods can cure ills tim. Braves perilous journey ending at a strange fort called the dogo guarded by a massive tiger with a key around its neck to make matters worse. A stark blast is fast approaching. Tim rather than shooting. The tiger communicates a truce. The key does not work but the tiger has magical properties which it uses to make a large blanket out of a handkerchief the to survive under the blanket safe and warm and the boy finds a potion which transforms the tiger back and took merlin. The rest he uses to heal his mother who kills the stepfather with an axe when he dan attacks him thus ends tim story. Having made it through the night roland rages parade. The townsfolk through cellblock bill is able to make positive by d. and the skin man transforms into a giant snake to defend its role and kills the wear creature and goes back to serenity. Were band is adopted and roland is given note. Written by his mother this gives him some closure over her death and thus the tail ends having survived. The stark last rollins caught hat leaves the mine and continues along. The path of beam onwards to a strange town. Called collaboration sturgis. Now let's take it to full dark no structure. I really enjoyed this book. I gotta be honest. I was kind of dreading this one. I really did not know what to expect from a four point. Five novel written several years after the conclusion of the eight part epic but for me this is one of the strongest dark tower stories right up there with wolves and little sisters of area. I think that the universe is just strongest when king is just kind of fucking around with it rather than contributing to the main plot. It's kind of like sky rim. All the best parts are just wandering around doing stuff instead of the like lame ass main quest. You know you've personally told me around. Ninety seven times that i would love skyer him and so has everyone else. And maybe that creams. Why really love. I mean i. Can't you have a baby now. So he's not gonna have time but if in the future you can get sky room to run on your habit on switch now they even on switch you got no excuse. No excuse none whatsoever. Maybe that explains the why like this piece. It's chilled but wild relaxed and fiery. It doesn't matter but it does. Yeah it's kind of off on guard like the story within a story within a story is just a concept that stephen king is like yeah all right that and then as a bestseller in my opinion it's other than dark tower one the only rewritable. Dt piece. i would reread this one. I'd re reread wolves little sisters but that doesn't count now because that's an everything's eventual which as we've established is a bomb book. Yes glassdoor episode on that we we get into it. We do speaking of getting into. It would like to move forward to the best of section. Because i think that everything we have to say about this book is kind of explained in the quotes. That we've selected. Yeah yeah so. I did a couple. You have a couple. we're i think we just have like four solid. Mid range quotes for this book which makes sense because this book it's four solid mid range stars. Yeah just just a a good book with some good quotes. I would like to start with one. Something i'll note. Is that because this book has three different stories. It has three wildly different writing styles. Because you have stephen king as dark tower narrator and then you have roland as narrator which is very fun. I really enjoyed that. And then you have younger roland telling a fairy tale and this section is from that introducing your friend and mine randall. The motherfucker flag aka martin broad cloak aka the coventry man. Just here we go. Reaping was gone by hunters moon. Grew pale waxed again and pulled her bow. The first gales of wide earth came howling from the west and just when it seemed he might not come after all the marigny covenant. Ter- blew into the village of tree on one of those cold winds astride his tall black horse as thin as tom. Scrawny death his heavy black cloak flapped around him like a bat wing beneath his wide hat as black as his cloak. The pale lamp of his face turned ceaselessly from side to side marking a new fence. Here a cow or three added there. The villagers grumble but pay. And if they couldn't pay their land would be taken in the name of gilead. There's a lot going on with frigate down just a little bit. 'cause like i ask that it's such good fantasy writing it so compelling because but there's a lot of pieces that we have to get to. Why don't we break it. Yes it's dense so first of all. We have this sent vocabulary that really implies a much richer world van he goes into detail with right like bad fantasy writing is like and the man was ignore. Pugh see the won. The war in fourteen forty two seven against v. blocks and like no one cares about that but if you can kinda sprinkle them in right. His tall black horse as thin as tom scrawny death. This implies that tom scrawny death is something something about tom. Scrawny death exists in this world. We don't know what but it adds so much flavor than just calling it a super thin horse also bear any covenant ter- yes has a lot to it and the word covenant and covenant tour comes up a ton in this piece and so one thing i like about this is this entire passage is structured to be kind of spiritual. It rolls along mentioning a lot of different spiritual things and one of the planes. That it's getting is okay. We're in a land now. Where a lot of different spirituality and spiritual history is coming together so It is now time for impromptu bible. Sexual ataman steve. On cba minnea- adam stephen the middle of our quote section. I knew that you could not resist. I this was bait. I baited you. So obviously we have mentions of the hunters moon and then right before that we have mentioned of reaping so we start at the beginning of time like an agrarian religion moving through to the celestial religion of like twenty thousand years ago we see these cave paintings right and then as the sentences move on. We get to the word covenant. It's really important. In in in christianity the covenant between god and man of which the rainbow is a symbol. That says if you aren't shitty if you sin less. I won't send another flood to cleanse your sorry asses from the earth the covenant. Tur's were a real political social group. That's being referenced. Here in scotland in the sixteen th for gifts between sixteen fifty. Seven hundred. one's gonna call you on it under gonna say right now. No one listening to this podcast and be like Actually so they were active in specifically sixteen seventy two eu rube eu absolute scum fucker. They basically are responsible for like the proliferation of the presbyterians and proliferation of the presbyterians is absolutely our album man oh hell yeah oh yeah and so actually in this book you see a lot of like weird references to like the splits of protestantism and like christianity and even tom scrawny death himself like as we move through here we get to like new age religions and anyways this whole passage is to kind of show like we're in a spiritual nature now and this is going to be a kind of spiritual story which is deep contrast to the kind of cynical western style mining town. That young roland is in when he begins telling this story. There are layers on layers on layers in this bad boy. Stephen did not know. I was going to go off like nobody so glad you did. I kind of wondered if you would. I almost put an ataman steve section. And not knowing what you would possibly talk about. But i was like this book feels religion. He i'm sure he'll go there so let me bring up something. It's somewhat related to that. We talk about keyholes in time a lot in this piece yeah and every somewhat spiritual kid will get into this curse of thing about like okay. Well actually time doesn't make sense of what i'm talking about right so to describe time as a visual portal. Which i'm about to do let's the concept of time we hold on. Okay go hit a giant blood with the make sense. We read the quote supporter. Dog time is a keyhole. He thought as he looked up at the stars. Yes i think so. I can't even finish. Okay okay okay okay. We sometimes bend and appear through it and the wind. We feel on our cheeks when we do. The wind that blows through the keyhole is the breadth of all the living universe. So dude so this gets very like that. It's a rare interesting. Title based thesis from king describes his titles or from. Yeah and all jokes aside. I do like that. He gets explicitly kind to deepen it with the feeble writing. Because you have to. You can't write a fairy tale and not have it get kind of deep. This book is for rolling up a hug. Slake and enjoying ox. Yeah a little a little fat baby ours too. All right i wanna take it to some of the best genre writing. We've gotten in several books. Actually i think I wanna talk about the skin man. If we can the skin man is a shape shifter and it is a krone burgee and nightmare. Just i'm gonna read this election and try not to think about the thing from outer space and twisted from the chin up i mean. He grimaced his entire head twisted. It was like watching a cloth being rung by invisible hands. His is rose up until one was almost above the other and they turned from blue to jet black. His skin paled. I two white then to green. It rose as if pushed by fists from beneath and cracked into scales. His clothes dropped from his body because his body was no longer that of a man nor was it a bear or wolf or a lion. Those things we might have prepared for. We might even have been prepared for an alligator such as the thing that had assaulted the poor unfortunate fortuna serenity although it was closer to an alligator than anything else in the space of three seconds all the hang turned into a man. High snake a pook. I wish that entire thing wasn't ruined by a poop. Looped with i'm so i'm gonna do a whole neva themes on this later okay. We'll table it. But that's has buki it's legitimately. I would watch the horror movie of jest the middle section of this book. The skinny man hand. What's his name was the guy that we both love. So much ari oster are- astor presents the skin man so we're gonna go a totally different direction for the final quote before we go onto the web. Yep proof that tin can write innocence again and again and again he can. He can make himself innocent. The best part though was hearing my mother's voice it was like having her again coming out from far inside me. It hurt of course but more often than not the best things do. i've found. You wouldn't think it could be so but as the old timers used to say the world's titled and there's an end to it so this is when he's writing as a young young man. Yeah i think that innocent naive pros. I thought was really interesting. I agree. I think that the thing that makes this so distinctly like post adolescent is the surprise. You know it was like having her again coming out from far inside me. It hurt of course but more often than not the best things do. I've found it's like for the first time role in is learning about the emotion of bittersweet grief and nostalgia. Yeah he felt very often. That is kings characters. Feel younger than me right. Yeah more immature than me. You know With that. I think we should take it to the web and dr king characters so this is where we draw connections to other books too disparate things that i want to talk about in this segment. We have to just brief. We do the namesake here. Which is what are the connections other books. Well we get a lot a lot. A lot of randall. Flagg in this book which. I'm always delighted for randall. Flagg is i think maybe my favorite king character because he's just an ineffective fuck in scumbag. He's just. He's a cartoon saturday morning super villain. Who always shakes his like. No get you next time. And it's every time run into him. I'm like at areas. There's my boy. We got a lot around flag. We also get a shoutout to the book. The eyes of the dragon Which was told to roland as a kid as like a fable. Which is interesting. Because randall flagg is in that fable as he is in the titular wind through the keyhole which is also a story that rowland was told as a kid and i just think it's really interesting. 'cause like imagine if the big bad wolf fucked your mom so that's the second time you've said that on this show. It's not camped be all right. Fine has been backed up by further textual evidence. Really what that means is stephen king and i are on the same wave wavelength so something different than that. I love hearing from flag to and i. I like to see him cry. This might be the last flag that we get actual. I hope not. i'll miss him so another thing is we have to talk about so the winter that kilos released long after the final. Dt whatever it's kind of supposed to be in the middle and so when should you read it. Should you read it as four point. Five as it's meant to be should you read it at the end. Getting a primer. I liked it very much as a final read. After you've read everything. I liked the chronological read. And i have thinki- reasons for that. But i would like you to say your thing. I i think i would enjoy myself more reading. It is four point five. I think king is always revising the dark tower series and he knew like This shit gets long here. It gets tedious here so let's adds something that's enjoyable a piece out of time. I'm writing my own fiction right now and i'm finding that in after the You know between the second and third acts. There's there needs to be something a little system. Yeah some some salt. Total yuki so. I would have read it that way. Had i known what what i was going to get into. That's fair. I have a convoluted reason for why i think you should read them. Chronologically and it includes some massive dark tower spoiler surf. You're listening to this as a compendium and you have not yet listened or read be rested our tower series. Skip ahead about a minute because the dark tower is a fundamentally cyclical story because we end where we began. I think that it's compelling to return to the middle of the story having seen role and get shot back in time because what we're doing now is we're zooming in on more and more detail and i think that that's fascinating. I think that this works as a true epilogue as sorts. Because we know that roland is going through these things over and over and over again and the very russian doll nature of this book ties into those themes. I like. hey mentioned the russian doll. They try no. I sound like a kid in college right now. I like how you said. But i was thinking of that same analogy. Yeah yeah i mean. It's hard to avoid the analogy because it's such a clear tur- duck in of a book. It's just novel stuck between a novel which is also in another novel. Like it's it's so there is no bouncing back and forth. Once the second story has started it goes until the third story starts and then the third one happens in its entirety. Then they finish up the second and then they finish up the first. It's a really weird book construction. You guys well. We are exactly on time to take it to needful themes sorry to take it to the mid show there. We go got it in one baby. He'll even i deserve this so couple things. We have not been very active on facebook and twitter. 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Let's let all your face muscles chill out your shoulders. Come down another up in your ears. I know you phoenix tech. Take down one. More breath will get back into more release. That bad boy. All right cool. Do you wanna go. I should i. Oh hey if this is. Your first. Time was to the podcast. Welcome the fuck out death on your late disorder on your cow okay. Another we have that covered Do you wanna go first or should i. I wanted okay. Let's context real quick. I wrote this. I thought hard about this in a storeroom in a very populated preschool in williston. Vermont On while i was also eating lunch. While i was also kind of emailing apparent about a problem on friday the thirteenth on friday the thirteenth. So go ahead and get started in five four three two one fucking shape. Shifter's dude are. I bro all right. Muchacho shapes sensors all over in literature. They come from like before the bible dude. Okay two books written fucking day man. Ancient americans made cave paintings about them. We all know. Kate paintings old the shape shifter in this story is totally traditional in some ways bra but like totally unique and others. Which is rad. Are you gonna do this. The whole four minutes. The skin man come in less getting to it no i'm not going to get the whole format. Some there are several general categories shape shifter's Not many of them are relevant to what we're talking about here. So we're going to really dig our hands into the three that relate to the skin man anime gye and it makes his metamorphosis or more gye and maladic diseases or maladic die. You fucking decide. I don't care Anime gye a term that was really popularized in used primarily. In regards to harry potter lor refers to known which is in warlocks who can turn into animals at will after and there's one specific animal in these circumstances but that's not true with the skin man which is part of what makes him unique in fantasy anime mentioned in medieval lore in take law and in greek myths also quite often in medieval lore. They we're generally talking about vampires. Where wearables right as well as common stories about men that get turned into snakes which we see as a sort of highest form of the skin man and may are always demons but not always harmful sometimes more pranksters. We don't see a lot of franken miskin man but his antics do get brought up. And i do think that's important. In greek myth were generally talking. About god's turning into animals often preferred animal like zeus becomes a bowl to go make sex to all the ladies of the realm. The skin man doesn't do that and he's not a god so we see we're rooted here clearly in naas schism in medieval europe in christianity in like knocked the greek stuff In that matters. Because of the stuff i talked about earlier. In the bible's action. The skin man is it makes no doubt but he's also sort of metamorphosis because they can turn into basically anything teacup The sun the limits placed on the skin. Men are incomplete for example. He could definitely be a dragon which enemies couldn't be you know. His full control also makes him sort of metamorphosis e because sometimes anime will transform under duress ordering death but we see his death. And that's what happens. The skin man is also sort of like out dictates a mallet dick. This is cursed so don't not wear wolves that's a whole race infected with something that's not disease but like genetic disease. Just don't worry about that. Not talking about right now kings handling of curses in demons and possible magical inter dimensional beings here leaves the interpretation of this skin status rather open and As part of what makes it khemthong this analysis because it is short and under research leaves out like forty different kinds of shapes shifter's as they appear in literature but another one that comes up it's important to the skin. Man is the battle toads. That's why i'm talking about the gotta make this work. Any s classic the lore of the battle toads men chose to shape shift permanently and they could have chosen anything but chose toads. So the closest thing i can find in media to the skin man is not in. Harry potter is not in. Lord of the rings is not in dune. It's actually in battle. Skin man is a battle towed. Thank you ted. Talk on fucking believable. What what did i just put into my ears. My friend diab bro. I'm at a loss for words which doesn't happen very often. Because i'm a man who decided to start a podcast. Having words is kind of what i do. It made total sense to the four year. Olds when i explained it yeah. I'm sure that they were all like ah. I'm familiar with the battle. Yeah i mean on that battle towards laura my my parents give me so much screen time you would not believe i know everything about the battle towed if i asked if you could turn into any animals what would you turn into like if you could pick animal. And most kids said a bird or a dragon or a lion. One kid said an excavator. And i liked that energy. Yeah i liked that for him but none of them said a very buff man towed and for that reason all them kids are wrong. I would now like to hear what you have to say about narrative framing devices. This is our third needful themes on narrative framing devices. And we're going to say new stuff. I yeah i can't we've after chase that with this. I'm unlike the the uncool dad coming in for like. Bring your shit to work day or whatever. I'm gonna talk about metaphors shit to save battlefields. We already in three to what this week. I wanted to take a look at king's most beloved trope. The story within a story stephen king characters tell each other stories constantly to the point where i really truly can't dive into all of the examples. Here this makes sense. Though because king rights people well and we tell stories to each other all the time. It's how we relate entertained. Divulge in deer at cetera stories themselves are efficient ways of conveying information so of course characters would tell each other stories use of storytelling within his work goes beyond simple utility however in the wind through the keyhole king uses the structure of storytelling to link events and themes in a way that gets a broader truth about human nature namely that stories are in and of themselves kind of shelter to get to that theme. Let's take a look at the storytelling layers within this book. So it started the outermost ring. Were already well acquainted with roland. In the gang their quest and the many trials and tribulations that they go through upon it. We know how this goes. There need to get from point a to be and there's some sort of problem that's going to arise to make that harder in this case. It's a stark blast. A fantasy cold snap presents a brief but the serious threat threatening the tet off the path of the beam and into hiding this up more or less set dressing but it does introduce some important themes and motifs sudden random danger powerlessness and protection from the storm. One roland starts. His tail. Were primed for these themes. Were put into the khattak ourselves listening to roland spin yarn from his perspective. And wouldn't you know it. That story also deals with sudden danger in the form of skin man powerlessness from young benz. Predicament and protection from danger. In the form of roland hiding ben in the jail we also are now prime to look for storytelling itself which there is a lot of because the middle layer is a detective tale it hinges on the stories of others. Who knows what and how cannot help ultimately roland understands that his role of protector over ben must be psychological as well as physical which leads to the third and central story. The titular wind through the keyhole. The third story is a fairy tale. It has surprise surprise themes of sudden violence and death as well as seeking shelter. We see another stark blast and they seemingly powerless kid who uses his wits to survive it in the story he takes shelter under magical blanket safe and warm from the storm. If this were a different book without the nestled story structure. We wouldn't necessarily know what the blanket represents however because we have the superstructure of both stories. There's a pretty obvious one to one occurring here. The blanket is the story. Which roland is telling both ben and to his khattab to us. It gets ben and by extension us through the darkness and misery of the stark blast. I think this for me is why the book was a good read for me right now. It's cozy were in a bit of a rough patch as a society and it's nice to hear stories of resilience of making the world right because storms do pass and ask in this book. There's often a lot of work to be done once. The worst is over. Tim heels his mother. Ben identifies the skin man and the contact of course goes on ever forward towards the dark tower man. You're killing you got about fifteen seconds. Left ice from newark did yeah. You're saying that. I think that the winter keyhole is not served by its narrative device. It is it's narrative device right represented that here yeah King wrote other stories within stories. Yeah i mean within the dark tower you know wind through the keyhole is directly preceded. We story wise by wizard and glass. Which is an extensive story in a story you know miseries a story in the story components with the writing of paul sheldon coming out a fair deal We get a lot of flashbacks. Throughout king's work. It in particular is obviously rife dream catcher as well A book about the librarian. That was in apt pupil. Yes it's just a again. It's just so all over the place yet. Word processor for god that's the story about storytelling. Like all of these things always talking about breathing method. Anyways keep going. All of these things are indicative of what king things about storytelling. Which is that. It is in itself powerful. It does things it changes not only at important but interesting. Yes the act of telling. A story is important. Maybe even more important than writing went down. Yeah he loves story telling. And i think it shows it also shows by the way in that stephen king is a really good audio book read he actually nails it. I've never heard it author that wrote a book not nail it because it's always so in their voice yeah. I listened to him. Read this book. And i would do so again easily. I would do it again right now. If i wasn't currently listening to dr sleep. I would read this one again all right. I think it's time for us to take it over to battle of the books. This is the segment where we talk about. Which is better the book that we just completed or the one before it which means that we are going eleven twenty to sixty three verses the wind through the keyhole chest. An apples to oranges scuffle of ever. There was one. Yeah i mean can we even compare. Dt book to gen pop like this book was good but eleven. Nine hundred seventy six hike was a whole his whole own thing. Yeah i okay. Here's here's what i wrote down. I knew what have to write something down for this because there are so disparate that it's hard to keep both in your brain at the same time. This is what i wrote on the one hand wind of the keyhole is genuinely experimental in its own right. These story within a story within a story is pretty unique especially within the context of revisiting the dark tower series which had already concluded but then eleven twenty sixty three was also fairly experimental as far as popular fiction goes which we brought up a butch last episode In addition to historical fiction elements. I have to go for me. Eleven twenty to sixty three if only because we get a depth of characterization in that book that none of the characters get here but that's in itself a style choice. Win for the keyholes a fairytale adjacent story. The characters are supposed to be a little thin. Because that's kinda how legends work you have to project onto them so it's it's a matter of taste and for me. Eleven twenty to sixty three is closer to that popey genre ee. Nonsense that. I'm into the books that we read in liked so keep going. Neither of them rose our favorite neither of them reaches the echelon of other ones neither than we would like disparage any real meaningful way. It's like which do you like better eating hamburgers. Or the works of andy warhol. Both very good both very different. Never bergen never seen other warhol. I don't know. I'm i'm gonna go burger but i could see an argument for warhol. I eat beef anyway. This is scott. So wildly off the rails. Let's take it over to recommended reading recommended meeting. I hear me. I him yet. Done erupt me. Okay if you can get through the fucking. Dt universe and love it one of those people. How about a much deeper much denser ultimately better somehow you have to fuck in try dune i swear to god. You've recommended dune before. Maybe a half we are reach reading too much which is fun because i noticed that you also have recommended before the two that you said for your son of a bitch I actually checked but anyway the last podcast at work did a big series on it. You want to listen to like the first one to see if i am. I really interested in this. Because it's a huge fucking undertaking. But dune is like is dune and dark. Tower is dark all right. That's that's okay. Hold on we're gonna do something original if it kills us. Here are the two that. I was going to recommend inception which i realized i'd already recommended. Even though it's a weird paul and princess bride which. I did not realize i had already recommended. You've already watched inception princess bride and read dune you maniac. We have to find something new. We do it right now. Live on the air k. So what were the main elements of this destroy within historian story. It's weird western fantasy and it is a book that came out long after the original series. So the new york accent okay. So there's something there maybe there's something there i'm thinking. What major books came out after major series we to the rings had books that came out after that were supplemental into the middle. You could i guess. We recommend the summer alien. I would feel weird about it though. The silver alien is this whole fucking thing. You think dune is competent Crushed dune in harry potter. We have the chosen one right. And that's the bad version of this. This is the good version of what that was trying to be. I want and i want to recommend. I want okay to. It's gonna come to me. I want to recommend a piece of media. It's home stuck. I'm recommending home stuck. I have broken the glass in case of emergency. If you want time weirdness if you want the looted stories within stories and if you hate yourself enough to get through the dark tower seeven he should read on stock. We've already recommended the fuck up. No we have. I have the bastard lists like eight things. There's no way we've already recommended. Home stuck is so next time with recommended reading. Here's what we're gonna do. Because what are we gonna find. That's really super appropriate for dr sleep. If you have suggestions doctor sleep. Please send them in. We will read them on the air if nobody sends any in. We're gonna cry through the entire episode and try to read it while we're keeping help us out here. We can't do this anymore. We only like gate. Things actually are hundred at one hundred twentieth episode. If you count the inbetween these so I i. I'm an all one hundred days in shock and awe i i i'm falling apart. Cujo believe it before. Stephen has a mental breakdown. Could you believe i'm dying. Joe believe it. Because you really cujo believe stephen. Interest sano host of the stephen king book. Podcast fucking died on the air ceased and his partner finish the episode with his own. Should he editing skills than gone out there because the show must go on mine is the main department of education is terrible security. This is important because there are leaks all the time. One of those reports contain stephen king's education records which were not important but they also contained his. I q now. Iq is a shitty test and means literally nothing. But it's interesting to mention that. At the time i q was measuring the subjective intelligence of middle-class light men right of which he was he tested very high at one forty. Almost nobody is that. Yeah that's like telling you i. Iq for any reason just by active saying they're lying it's very high for especially protests at the time. It's in the ninety nine th percentile and i just think that's interesting. Yeah for sure. That's like mensa levels. All i don't don't joy mansa. Hey recommended reading at check out the podcast my year in mansa bam boom. That was awesome. Boehm oh i actually like that podcast. And we've never talked about it before his. Oh thank god. Stephen king release another bess hours since we decided to end his podcast which is Root of him this is from later. Which will be our last book. And we just think it's a dope quote looking back on it. I sometimes think my life was like a dickens novel. Only with more swearing great. So we're with that we would like thing michaela vision for our graphic design. Monica chan berar posters. Tony magistrelli michael balloon for their continued mentor. Ship and the awesome asked book they wrote. I would like to thank our entire pigewoman community which has grown including bryant are mysterious archivist. Who i know is looking forward to this episode. Hope you enjoyed a bryant. Let's think carrier. Who sent me. Nice message today. thanks for that. 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#386: Branding Vs. Marketing (& Why It's Important To You) with Ryan Holtz

Online Marketing Made Easy with Amy Porterfield

41:08 min | 3 months ago

#386: Branding Vs. Marketing (& Why It's Important To You) with Ryan Holtz

"My guest has been an entrepreneurs since the age of eighteen. Now i don't know about you. But when i see someone who has been an entrepreneur for that many years and a successful one at that i'm thinking okay. What can i learn from them because clearly. They're doing something right. And my guest today. Ryan holtz definitely is fun fact. I was on ryan's podcast. The ryan holt show a while back and we hit it off right from the start and after learning more and more about him. I thought he's gotta come on my show and since this show is called online marketing made easy. What better topic to cover than branding. Your own business. Because ryan is the expert of all experts in the area of braden. This episode is tactical actionable. And we'll have you ready to implement some new strategies in your business right away. I mean porterfield. Mrs online marketing made easy. So let's talk about my guest today. Ryan holtz not only is he the host of the top one hundred apple podcast but he's also a renowned speaker expert marketer. Oh wealth of entrepreneurial knowledge a dad and a husband we actually met on clubhouse imagine that and i loved his energy i was drawn in by his knowledge and competence and how he delivered his expertise. And i know you're going to feel the same about this interview so today were chatting about how to set yourself apart from others in your industry how to diversify your community. What brandon is and what it is not as well as the difference between branding and marketing. So grab your coffee or kombucha and let's get into this episode of online marketing. Made easy with ryan holtz. Well well well look who. It is ryan. I'm so glad to finally have you on the show. So thank you so much for being here. Thank you so much. Amy for having me. I mean the show. You and i did when you were a guest on mine. I'm still getting feedback from it. It was it was such a great deep profound conversation. And i just love everything you do. So it's an honor. Thank you we are show is so much fun. I mean we went there. You ask some hard questions. You made me nervous but like in a really good way. I'm so glad we had a deep conversation. You know what. I like that though. Because it's we all see amy porterfield and and you know you do one thing great. And that's teaching people how to how to create their courses and stuff like that but you have such a great story personally and professionally in you know for me. I really like tapping into the human on a human-to-human level and we did that together. And i always feel like those make those episodes in those connections special. In my opinion. I totally agree. So just so you all know. I will be linking you to the episode. I did with ryan a totally different conversation. And i think it's worth listening to both. I mean i'm biased. So we're gonna linked to that for sure so okay so ryan. You've got to give us a rundown of who you are what you're all about and how you became an entrepreneur. I mean he s all the good stuff you know what. It's it's interesting because if we go on the personal side you know. I was an entre. I became an entrepreneur by survival. And i did it. When the whole word entrepreneur wasn't like this rock star gary v's in us and everybody who's you know everybody's let's be an entrepreneur and all that i literally did it amy out of a place of of of darkness just complete hardship. I lost my mom thirteen years old. And you know i started playing football and football saved my life literally did that all the way into to college and then you know i just felt amy that i couldn't look at like i didn't look at the university or the or the perspectives or the course offering and say i can't pick something i love. I didn't love the idea being a doctor or lawyer or an engineer or an accountant. I just. I couldn't fit in the box and i did choose business eventually because i had to choose something but then i just thought like this still isn't doing it for me and i need to create my own job essentially and i just don't see it on a listing and i also wanted to create my own success. Pathway me and i wanted to you know. I come from very humble beginnings. You didn't get any money left for me. I don't come from any you know it. Just it just was really tough. And i said you know ryan. I can't depend on a boss or somebody else to tell me what my worth is. I need to figure this out. And i need to start making my own worth known and i did that at the age of eighteen years old. Okay so i wanted you to talk about your story of where you've got here some of the things you've gone through because it says so much about you and to my listeners. When you dive into learning more about ryan and i hope you do after this episode. He's really a special guy with so many talents in so i'm actually going to take a sharp turn here because this podcast is all about online marketing. And i wanted ryan to talk about the difference between marketing versus brandy something. I've never talked about the show before but before we even get there so we're going to get there in just a second. But before we get there ryan what do we mean when we talk brand like. Why is this important as an online entrepreneur. Because i think people get confused about what brand or branding even means. One of the one of the best definitions. I've always loved behind brand and there's so many there's so many advanced ones. But i love to keep it stupid. Simple kiss method always like simplicity. Mardi new myers said this. And i agree with me said. Listen the brand means this. It is a person's gut feeling towards a product service or organization. Meaning i'm gonna go and sign up with amy. I want her to teach me how to build a course. How do i feel about her. What's her credibility. What are some of her pasta and saying about her. It's literally my gut feeling of how i feel about you. That's why when we talk about. Let's take like okay. Let's talk about. Jay z or madonna. Or you know share or the beatles like you automatically start getting these triggers in your brain. When i start seeing these big brands who are major major brands coca cola like go on and on so the brand is a person's got feeling towards you and your business. Now here's the kicker you have zero. This is what i love about businesses. And and i know you have a lot of business people listening but i always tell business owners. If you really wanna great brand you need to get out of your own way and start asking only question matters. What's in it for them. You know when somebody comes to me and says hey ryan. Why should we use your marketing agency. As opposed to you know marketing agency be rebuttal to them. I don't get into the whole like whose arms are bigger. I don't care that. I don't care level that i get into this. I turn it around to them and i say well. What's in it for them. Business owner a or b. But what do you mean. I'm like well. Let's talk about your customer. What what's in it for them. And then once they start unpacking. What's in it for them. I take my answer. And i reverse engineer and say well. Let's get that answer together so that we can answer that question beautifully and simply and you know people think. They're logos and their fawns in their galleries on instagram. And all these things are. What's really going to drive a brand and i disagree. I think there's some good things in aesthetic appeal to it it. My colors are black white and orange. You know. I know you got your colors but at the end of the day. It's what's coming out of your mouth. How are you interacting with the people. And how are you making them. Feel so i pull something on my social media amy all honestly on ninety nine point nine percent of my post before i even posted. I just asked like what's in it for them and it could be something as simple as i just want to make you laugh today. I post a picture of my kids. You know and we're walking on a thing. I maybe i don't. I don't wanna be this like wisdom every single day in my life. I'm just a normal guy. Like like i want to ask things like we should pay the bill on the first date communist. I just don't ask normal questions. I want to show the world. I'm a human. And that's that's branding the definition of branding. Okay so then that leads us to. What's the difference between branding and marketing. It's okay. I love that. So branding says hey amy. I wanna relationship with you. Marketing says. well let's start moving to the transaction gay so i see you come down my instagram. And i'm going. Oh who's not. Oh let's click on her. Oh wow okay branding. Oh wow okay. Utah courses oh. Wow okay cool g. She knows what she's talking about. Okay bom now. Here's where marketing comes in amy. Because you do it remarketing. Hey ryan. I seen that. You went to my website but you just got to the checkout and you didn't click add cart like you. Didn't you didn't finish so what. Tell me some of your apprehensions is it. That you don't know choose. Is it that you you don't think your opinion matters most now. You're marketing 'cause now you're you're taking the hand of marketing you're saying come on i'm gonna i'm gonna walk beside you. I'm going to guide you down the path that i think you should be on. That's marketing we're leading into the transaction. The brandon's like hulo. I'm going to give it funny example. And i've been all the dating game a long time because i'm married but i've heard from the kids on the ground now doing all this online and swipe to the right and left and tender and all these things if somebody has like. Let's talk linked in social media. Let's have a nice headshot. Let's have a good bile that simple and easy to understand. What the person does. These are all branding things because we want people to click. We want them to say. Oh my gosh. Look at that so handsome so beautiful. Wow now that's branding branding gotcha in the door. Then the marketing is. Let's start talking. Let's start doing the transaction. Let's take them to the path of where we want them to go. People who are dating right now people who are looking for a job right now people who are trying to look for clients right now. You were consistently always branding and marketing yourself. That's always kinda giggle. When people come they say ryan. I don't have a business. I'm like so what you're still branding yourself. Are you telling me you're not selling yourself to your future in-laws why you should be in their family when you marry their daughter or son. You're you're damn right you branding yourself. Otherwise you're going to have a really bumpy ride at christmas and thanksgiving dinner right to work at the same time. You're branding and marketing at the same time. Would you say absolutely because think about it like. Have you ever been in a situation where you just want to like. Walk in a room like just imagine you. Come in with your. What's the drink. I always forget it. It's the but then you have your cup. That's the the rusted color. What what drink is that again. How all my gosh yes. Yes yes i remember that about you. But wow that's impressive because i don't talk about that when that much but i love it. That's that was in my research when you came on mine because i just started going through stuff but imagine you just like hide your got hobie rate because i know that you know that's your bad you got the dog. Got your stepson. Now imagine you just walk into a party when you got your moscow meal in your hand you open up the door. Hi amy porterfield well. That would be awkward. Like yeah so nervous like oh my gosh i would hate that. Nobody it's like you just stand there like okay. So you branded yourself. But then everybody's like blah. So what would you like to do now because this is awkward like so as soon as you say hi. I'm amy porterfield. Well we'll take them down the path like what would you like to do. Do you want to come over to say hello. You want the news. Stand there. Like get to the message. Quick lewis. there's going to be that awkwardness is. It's all going to be messed up right. But that's why marketing and branding. It's like peanut butter and jelly. It's true. I think it's important to see the difference in both so that you are giving both the attention that they need and because the branding is where you are truly connecting. That is to me the part where you're building those lifelong relationships with your audience while and this is why you see people in sales and you've experienced this tons when somebody like connects with you and then they try to sell you something right away. You kind of put off like whoa. Whoa what are you doing. This isn't even. I don't even know you. Like i don't even know what you're about. I don't even know who you are what you're offering like. I don't know anything. Just don't don't do that. Tim story says the best he says. You can't get an fm frequency on am dial so understand understand how to read a room understand who you're talking to those people that can do that as is huge. I know i'm talking any porterfield certain brandon bible. You know you're talking to me. And i have a certain brandon vibe so i can hop on the mike and talk to everybody the same because we're all different individuals that is excellent marketing and branding. Now the sales aspect has to come in from me shutting up and listening to what your problem is and then taking my beautiful branding and marketing and understanding that will. That's that's ryan's q. Nada to shut up the person said hello. So let's figure out make it all about them and then let's answer the question of what's in it for them. But here's here's where people. It's just crazy and i don't mean to go on a tangent here but i think your listeners would really benefit is like. How do you know what amy's problem is until we start having a conversation sackler. My dad always says it's better to listen than to talk. And i've taken that into my business because if i just get quiet more often my audience will tell me what they're struggling with and what they want for me but it's when we're on social media platforms and we're building a brand marketing. We wanna talk talk. Talk talk talk but the power. The magic happens in being quiet. It's so true. Just a simple example when we push a post on instagram or linked dan or social media. People are like oh great. That's awesome piece of content loved. It was value base. And so people ask me when ryan. What's the best part of the post to get so hopped up oil of the content. I'm like that's not the best part of the post. The best part of the post is when somebody sends you a message or they get your comments. Now i'm like okay. I threw the ball threw the ball. Okay that's great now. Who's going to catch it so somebody's catching okay so Come sit down. Let's have some popcorn. That's the magic happening in the direct messages and people. You know go to go to my instagram account. You go into my comments that you literally be like this guy's having like a paragraph conversation about somebody in their child or that. It's hot outside but i'm not just being like prayer. Thank you know like. I'm talking to the person as a human. I'm having like really in depth conversations right in the comments and people are like. How do you scale that. And everybody's so fixated on scaling. And i'm like listen. It's a big question. I know you know you grow. You need to scale and automate. But the magic is in the dirt. Always you can't scale dirt it. You gotta roll up your sleeves. You gotta say hello you gotta keep having the conversations right you know. We are coming into the you know. Automation portion of our society especially with the pandemic but people are craving human interaction. More than ever. now. I look at the average person on instagram. They have maybe two three hundred followers. Maybe three to seven hundred followers instagram. So imagine when you come in their comments and you're like i really like you hair today. Oh wow is that your husband. That's awesome cute dog and they're like what else is only got to comments in my life. It's so true. I take you back to something you just said because i am a system's girl. I literally have a program called systems that scale so i'm also very much about scaling. Love what you just said. Not everything we do. My friend's house to be scalable and when ryan was starting to say. He has a paragraph in depth conversation. About how hot it is. I knew that some of you are thinking but you can't do that for everyone. How do you scale that answer. You don't you've identified. What sets you apart from others. And i knew that the minute you interviewed me on your show i was like this is what's special about him so it's something that i admire about you. You set yourself apart. You stand out from other people in your industry and this is a big struggle for some of my listeners. some of my listeners. Right now are shaking their head. Like yes i wanna see now. I don't know what makes me different. They to differentiate themselves from their competitors or those in their industry. They don't wanna blend in. But sometimes that's hard for them. So i wanted to ask you. What advice could you share how we can identify what sets us apart from others the first going to give you for people to really unpack and say this is what makes me different. And by the way people listening to podcasts right. Now the only way you're gonna ever break through the noise is figuring out what amy just asked me. And that's what is what is your magic. You know what is that that thing that really does separate you because the beauty of life is that again. Tim story quote. You're born in original. Don't die a copy so the original is always going to be. What makes you different and you need to unpack that by looking deep within yourself. People literally you know. Go and sit at a job that they don't like and you know this all too. Well you made a whole business around solving this problem woman in the cubicle. Not feeling good like you told me. I know who i'm talking to. But people literally go and do this their whole life. Amy and they don't even know why they're working at the job they are and this is because it's been programmed you know go to high school. Pick something that you want to do for the rest of your life. Here's what i'm going to say me. Imagine this. i think this is the one flaw thing about everything. How do we tell us. Seventeen eighteen year old to go to college and pick what they wanna do for the rest of their life. They don't have any fricken clue what the heck they're even doing at that age. I didn't know crap at my seventeen eighteen man ryan solve. I learned. I'm still learning about myself. I think you know it's just an you. Want them to get. And if you don't come from a wealthy family you're gonna take this loan. You're going to get all this debt in crude. How many people that go and get a degree that are not working in their debris. You probably know this. Many many food channel. But that's what i'm saying to your listeners. You need to identify why you're doing what you're doing and identify who you're doing it for because what happens is you're usually not doing it for yourself and your why you're doing it is for somebody else so true. I do feel like. I've talked a lot about how i started to build this business in two years and i realized i just built a business. I absolutely hate. I was doing consulting. I did not enjoy it. And i realized i was doing that. Because it made me money. And i was on a path and i was raised by my dad to always know. You always have to have a plan. You always have to have a path. You gotta be good money. 'cause i was capable of it and so i was doing it for my dad asked me to do it but you know what i mean. I had to stop myself. I would not be where. I am today if i kept on the path of entrepreneurship like. That's the embarrassing part. I same garrison. But i left corporate to be an entrepreneur and then i was on entrepreneur and hated it and i tell that story to say it's okay if you've built a business you don't love even if you're doing it on your terms and you're the boss and your the entrepreneur you still get to change it if you want to. You know i totally agree with you. It's such a relevant point when you say it to me it. It actually makes me somewhat emotional. The reason i say that is you know we say all these buzzwords and talk in sound bites but these are people's lives and for somebody to wake up every day and feel lost. Its fricking terrible feeling. Okay and we know how short life is already you know. And it's something as an entrepreneur or somebody who's driven naive. I think you continuously go through. You know 'cause i. I've talked to all kinds of people to in its. They've had uber successful businesses and data. And it's amazing to hear them at the highest level you know. They're performing the one percent and still doubting themselves saying. Is this really what i wanna do like. When you're so driven you know how you opened up and said hey ryan you have so many different talents understand. What's your part might immediate. I two thoughts. Thank you amy. Appreciate that i receive that my other thought is but amy. This has also been a biggest weakness like it's been my biggest frustration. Because you know we talk about the whole niching down thing you know when i created my podcast and we talked with when you came on my show. I've always loved joe rogan. I love joe rogan. The way he could bring on lan mosque and bring on a doctor in bringing like the guys talking to everybody like he talks about all kinds of subjects. And it was like the first person that i've seen in the public space that i'm like. He's not niching down. He's just talking about what he wants to talk about now. He's a unicorn and of course he's done you know fear factor and all these different things prior but i just thought for my podcast. I'm like well okay. You love business business. But it's funny as you build you start realizing more and more that i love business but i love talking about personal development. I love talking about financial literacy a love talking about important issues. Sometimes it's going on in the world. And i'm like i just don't want to silence myself to fill my niche. So now amy. I'm flipping into on you because you're gonna hold me on your you know what i just said is shared by many people because they love a lot of different things. What would you say to the ryan's and the susan's in the sarah's in the marks and whoever the heck listening that says that statement. But here's what. I'm i'm doing this in on this because i want you to keep this in. I think that i can get away with it. I think that i can pull it off successfully. That's my belief. I think i can talk about many things without me. Shing down now. Here's what i will say to people listening. I think if you need down you're going to go quicker. You're going to be clearer. I'm doing it the hard route right now. Amy i'll be honest doing the hard route. Because i'm i'm doing a little generalist. I'm talking about it. There's a lot of different things listeners. Could come on a monday. And say hey ryan ryan just had on this person and they talked about branding marketing. I'm not even kidding. You the next next one ryan just hat on something that played in. Nhl in nfl. or whatever. And they're gonna talk about you know poverty so listeners are in entering my world for so many different things that so many different times and people would argue with me and say ryan. That could not be a good thing because somebody's coming for the popcorn and you're giving them the moscow meal. What if they're not a drinker. What do you say to that After think about it. I don't i can't just jump in with how i feel because ryan. I've always been someone that says. It's important to choose your niche. Yes glad we're having this conversation two things number one. I agree with you. I think it can be done. I would never say it. Can't i do believe it can be done. You're doing it and number two. I do think it's a slower process but we don't need to rush to get to where we're going. We think there's value in slowing down and taking in this journey. And doing it the way you want to do it. Because when i learned that. I work with tony robbins is. You've got to create a life and in my case a business. What i teach on your terms start doing it in a way that you think you have to do it. You will be resentful and there will in time that it gets so hard that you quit because you don't even want to do it anyway. I think there's power in that home a goodness the last thing i'll say totally is a different direction. I also don't believe we have to get paid for everything we love to do and talk about in share. There could be one area that we're getting paid for in another areas that we just love to share a we we talk about and we embrace but it's not necessarily where our bread and butter is coming from community to look for it. They're just my my different takes on it. But i'm so glad we're talking about this because you and i have different experiences. And there's somebody right now that might have just pulled over their car and they're like i gotta stop driving. Because she or he is talking to me when you do the general and you're kind of really following your heart and your passion about topics you want to discuss and the people back with. It's really crazy because you're brand will go if you do it. Good brand can get really good but what happens is let's talk about the marketing. Now where we leading these people who are coming from sixteen million different directions. How are we going to get them to click on the buy now button. Amy and i know you. You're thinking your head while. Yeah that's the hard part ryan branding sure. Hey people know your name but how many people that know their name broke. Let's talk about. That's a true statement by the way big names and then you're like wool like it's like seeing somebody that has like a million surround followers and then literally somebody's got fifty thousand in. They're just like crushing it like. They're making more money than the person has a million. That happens all the time because you're talking. You're filling such a specific problem. But here's what's crazy. What if you go down the generalists. What i figured out is if you do it consistently and good and are very passionate about if you do it long enough. I find that you start getting big things coming on your plate like big opportunities and you start really kind of you know i've had listeners. That wouldn't matter. And i get them all time. They're messing enter saying you know ryan. I was really excited. Come under your podcast. And i love the you know. The interview did or the topic he did. And then you launched the next one. The next week and i was kind of disappointed but then it goes dot dot dot. I am so happy. I found your podcast because you have given me. A clinic on our shows mandate in our show their podcasts. We're all about how to upgrade your life personally and professionally and i've safe spaces tab unsafe conversations right and so when we bring on certain people like yourself. I'm trying you know. My goal is aiming my goal for. You might go when. I talked to somebody like you is. Why don't wanna ask him. You know the same questions. Everybody else her in that i could find out by going to our website or google we are. I want to get into the mind of any. I want one. He gets up the podcast with ryan. I want you to remember me. You know. I want you to remember that conversation. I wanted to be a little taken back from him. Be like this person actually cared to talk to me today. They weren't just having me on to get my expertise on how to create a course they wanted to really chat teeny porterfield. And i think that's one of the best big respects you ever give to. Somebody might opinion so very true. I love this. And i love that like i said that we got into this topic because i do believe that there. Yes i believe in. Nishi yourself down. And i believe there's proof such as in what ryan does that you can be more of a generalist and it can work for you exactly what you said. But you're playing the long game. You're not looking for the quick. Hey get rich. Quick kind of thing. And i think that makes a difference. Okay so i gotta i gotta take you in different directions. There's something i've been dying to talk to you about when we confirmed this interview. I thought oh good. Because there's something i've been wanting to talk to ryan about that. I didn't get to really get into when i was on. Your podcast and matt is around. Proactive inclusivity oh so one of our core values and our company is proactive inclusivity and we deliberately make inclusion a part of everything we do. This is something very important to us. And over the last few years it's brought richness to the business like i've seen a difference. This is something that i've heard you talk about. And i want you to talk about here. How can we as entrepreneurs diversify our community and make sure we're serving the entire community who needs what we have to offer. Why i think you have to look at the life you lead on a daily basis. You know i mean yeah. I mean it's it's the it's all micro the answer. My whole answer is going to be micro. Its who you're shaking hands. Who you're saying hello to who you're having drinks with. Who your you know who's your. Who's your husband's friends. Who's your friends like like what's going on what what's circles. You run an annual are. You'll only on the golf course or are you. Are you going down and having a nasty southern meal like what you just your your whole life like. Open up your centuries to two different things because we all can smell companies. That are trying to take a box okay. This is a very big statement. You know when somebody saying. Hey we're opening replying. We have this position. We're trying to fill this position. You we to have like an eight to say. Because i swear companies do this. I'm seeing it. We need to have this many background. This many like you're literally having a quota don't do a quota that is the most disingenuous thing you can do. It's you need to make this a culture a lifestyle you know. Hey you know. We're we're going to understand people that come from different backgrounds. We're gonna you know understand some history but we're also gonna understand you know where we're at today. I think social media is a great tool for this. Because it's like the same person says oh my god amy social media so bad no it's not it's what your put in and who you're falling what you're putting out like. Yeah you wanna go down the bad path of social media and get some nasty content in your face. You can find it but if you want some of the most amazing inspirational educational entertaining content. You can find that too. So i my answer to you. Is you have to make the effort so you say hey. I'm being proactive without to me. Is you're making the effort and that's where it starts and after you say well i'm gonna make the effort. I'm gonna open my mind. I'm gonna go down this path. Let the path and fold the we should unfold. You know and just try to get in that that culture aspect of it have conversations. You have a podcast. Bring on guests you know. Get into the dialogue. I talked to a lot of business owners in so many of them. Say this. you know. They're petrified because like ryan. I don't wanna see anything out of the coffee do this. I don't want this cancel culture just freaking out like where we don't want to do or do the wrong thing and i say well. Listen i give the knowledge of this if you see a crime happening and you drove by and you let this crime persist. I think you're just as guilty. That's my statement. Okay because you were scared that you were going to be cancelled. No i was raised with character and the character was. If you see something wrong you need to speak up. Okay and it might be a really bad short term but i promise you this people will love it long term. I'm gonna say this right now. Marketing campaigns and i'm not turning this into marketing campaign by giving the analogy since we are talking about marketing branding marketing campaigns. That meek make people cry also make them wanna buy okay so what i mean by that is when we show were human and we actually care scale ability niching down all that might not look good on the balance sheet short term. But i promise you term. You'll be paid ten times in full for it. Not only is that. It's not just money currency amy. There's soulful currency vibe. Currency karma currency life currency. There's so many currencies were living by. Money's only one of them right. How do you sleep at night currencies. So you know. I just think that people know. There's so many people right now that i'm surprised. They haven't really great characters keeping their malls closed about certain things in its while quite frankly. I'm you know i'm not. I'm going to take them off my my contact list. Because i just saw a shame because i just think no way i know you and you're a great person and free just to stand and be a witness while i think you should be in the courtroom right next to the person that's what i think because i am. I'm a human. I'm half german. I'm half jamaican. I'm canadian i'm half black half white. I have friends of all at necessities backgrounds. You know i love. I'm teen human. And i don't care who it's happening to what's to like i'm just i never would drive by and And not speak up. I wasn't raised to be that way. And i think people that are doing not. It just shows the lack of character that you have not said. But i think yeah on. Just a really micro level. Be proactive about it. You know understand it And just you know crete that open conversation around. I think it's important. Love what you said about. Soul soulful currency And it's not all about the money. And when i each day i feel like a little bit braver and more courageous to speak up. Because i definitely we've talked about this on your show. I feel like. I went wrong and what i need to do differently. And the feelings that went along with that and i've noticed that some days when i have spoken up or said different things in support of i saw a wrongdoing. I get a lot of negative. Dm's people sought following me all of that and in that moment to think soulful currency and different types of currency other than money in my pocket. One million percent worth it. You just gave words to something. I was feeling and couldn't really express because think about amy and i love what you said there. It's it's it's not a boat them it's not about the. Dm's is not a bow with somebody thinks about you like it's not it's i who gives a shit like what somebody things about you come on like does your does your dog love you. We love you. does your stepson love you like. Let's take inventory on what matters but my point is is this. It doesn't matter what anybody else thinks of you other than the people that truly do matter so i always like to ask people. Could you imagine your kids. See this or you know. Mom and dad like oh. You're just driving by mind your own business or this like you can't. You can't play both cards. Like i'm not a big fan of fence sitters. Amy and visitors to mirror sometimes dangerous. It's like a friend. I'll give you an example. You have one friend and you know. They asked the friend. Hey tell me about amy. So she says that gossips. That are other than the friend comes back to you and says that you know who becomes non friends to me at that point both of them. Because i'm looking at the person saying. Wow so you were willing to to have that to facilitate that and now you're coming to report back to me well. I know you're gonna do that about me to the other person. That's why somebody comes in says bad things about somebody to me. They're automatically eliminated right after that conversation. There they're eliminated. Because i'm like oh if you're doing not to me about them you're doing not about me to them and glad you brought that up because i really have to push myself. Sometimes i i'm one of those that i i don't want to say the wrong thing. I want to be respectful. All of that but i really do push myself to sarah at any. You gotta get off the fence now because you can't play it safe all the time because there's people that need you you need to speak up. You are seeing things. That aren't right. And i want to be a good example for kate. You're totally right or when you think. What would my mom thing like that stuff. Those are important questions so ryan. I appreciate you encouraging me more so big. It's so incredibly important especially as we're entrepreneurs and leaving the way and building something on our terms. We have to keep our word to ourselves. And caesar's have been done. Oh yes it is. Oh yes it is but you know what it is though amy like. That's like the i of when you get into the preaching mentality and sometimes i you know my my inner child always comes out again. And that's why i kinda. I'll say something and i'll always go the empathy card because i'm like listen. Not of what said is easy and the whole key to it in my opinion is to constantly be present. But just be patient with yourself. You know i tell myself daily ryan be patient with yourself you know. Just be patient you know. Look at those small winds. You know you know. This too is an entrepreneur. People come and say oh you've had success and all this in my mind done zero people say will look what you've done them like. Look what's left asks what's left. Oh my goodness. I've never thought of it that way but pretty much how my mind work look. Look look what you've done. But i'm like yes. We own amy does not always gigs. We really do need take moment in. Celebrate and say like wow. We're so proud of ourselves but it does keep me moving forward. Stay humble keep hungry circling all the way back. Because it's such those. Four words are so empowering. Oh my gosh ryan. I feel like we could talk a whole other our about tons more different things for me in your ship but okay. So how do i become friends with you. How do i become friends with you. Amy arena our friends. This this all i need. I need your cell phone number status and i guess sometimes because i connect with you. I'm like no. I need cell phone. Numbers status amy. I'm checking in. I just want to say how are you. How's your family. And you say hello ryan. That could get me through a days back to you. Okay thank you ryan. Thank you so so much for being on the show. I always always have a good time with you. It's so fun talking to you so you have to tell people number one. What's the name of your podcast and number two. Where else can they find. You sure yeah. Name of our podcast is the reinhold show podcast. We're based in canada number. One pod black spot here in canada and we bring on people every day from the cavaliers. Amy porterfield s wbz recording artists to everyday people and we just try to unpack our ultimate goal and that is how we can get people to live there full cells on purpose. We're very very heavy on business but also heavy on the personal because you know we find personal business kind of go together so through. Show podcast anywhere. You listen to your podcast. He can grab it and then My my and butter companies reynolds marketing. Which is a brownian creative agency in. All we do is help customers. People find their customer build the relationship with the customer past present and future and doing away that's memorable And his not just boring marketing but just an absolute powerhouse saw we work with a lot of companies that are very social cause oriented. And and it's been nice to see an amy i. I cannot thank you enough for having me on your show you are. You're great my friend. Thank you and everybody just so you know. It's h. o. l. t. Ryan says his last name so fad knew that td. But i'll put everything right. Thanks again for being here you betcha. Thank you amy. So there you have it. I hope you loved this chat. I had with ryan as much as i have. Wow we covered a lot indefinitely. Got into some topics that i didn't plan to dive into but i'm so glad the conversation went there. I hope you're walking away with new insights and some strategies or tactics that you can apply right away in fact i wanna challenge you. You learn something here today. That i'm sure really resonated with you so take one thing and commit to doing something about it taking action in the next twenty four or forty eight hours. I promise you if you start putting into action what you learn here you will feel so much growth in just three months or six months from now so use my podcast as many lessons that you learn every week and i promise you the stacking effect if you implement will make a big difference in your business or it my friends make sure to follow ryan all post links to his social and to his website in the notes and i can't wait to see it next week same time same place bye for now.

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