19 Episode results for "Thirty Second"
Pitch Better (with Brant Pinvidic)
"Today's episode of the Accident Credit Podcast is brought to you by quip there's a simple way start talking hey everyone welcome to the accident create podcast my name is Todd Henry I am your host also the author of four on your way next week actually recording this on November eighth we're going to be in Atlanta me and your fellow creative prose for a full day of talking about how the unleash the best work promotion within your organization if you're trying to get anybody to listen to something that is we don't understand how to structure them with empathy so that the other person can listen to what we'll have to see less and get more from any pitch or presentation he's going to give us some really simple principles oh so they will get what we want from the interaction and bring a lot of value to the relationships the toothbrush is industrial strength power is it you'll miraculously trendy ingredients is to focus on what actually matters your oral health healthier habits a lot of us probably don't do that right and it gives you thirty second pulses ensuring an happened doubles as a mirror mount so if you're gonNA be traveling like I do pretty often just slip the cover that's all the time good habits matter to a healthier more productive life so help form support our show and the start brushing but you have to go to quip dot com slash accidental creative have on the show today Brent Pin vedic he is the author of the three minute rules say less to get more what you like what you've done your career kind of your career path to get into this because you're not just a book probably a little bit about your background and kind of what you've been doing for your career yeah for the last more than thank God I found one where I could use that because I didn't think I was qualified or anything else but over really tough boardrooms and pitch meeting rooms in Hollywood others just sort of like put everything down that road now and that's how I really communicates the urgency that most people experience when they're presenting to high power people which the reality is that when you're presenting to powerful people or decision makers you don't Roland expect the first question to be what is three minute rule really sure what the three minute rule he's Hollywood storytelling techniques to lead your audience to draw the right conclusion radical types of things when it comes to presenting but you really got down into I understand what that is yeah because it's again when you think varies flares and gadgets and gimmicks and do it all amazing right that's the thing in my anything and so what I teach in the whack method is first question is what is and finally can you do it which is like okay now that I'm interested engaging listen we conceptualize it so we understand what it is then we can text you allies it as order in the right sections and simplify so the audience is struggle with the most I think I I I'm envisioning right now like the agency that's making a pitch yeah because it's important where I can't cut because like how do you decide what is essential and what about saying what you want to say it's about saying only what needs to be said a you understand every element and you think about one of your favorite movie right the movie log or the look on the actor's face those things have value and they mean something to you and so what you have to start doing the book helps really well is can pieces and then I can guide you to understanding the way I do so eventually and I so then they'll be able to assess value to the other stuff later look and I had this great idea where it's like listen the average book intro is fourteen pages long. I need to convince you to read the book based on these four pages only right it seemed like such a great idea that's really and so the best I could do was got to six it was the best I could do and so finally after game we're like what information does I whatever information comes second right just to just to put them in order such from when I wrote the Ngo because it's all written so beautifully and it's so smart and this is so like just before it went to print and they're terrible like because I can be now thank God I caught it but yeah that's the hardest so it's from scratch with the simple points what is it how does it work it was a sort of struck me between the eyeballs because I think I'm guilty of that often okay yeah we know this but I'm really kind of wasting their time when the S. talk to me about sponsorship opportunities and the elements of how they're going to sell it and I was like well how this is going to be a great thing integration well it's like well that's their job like they know more knowledge fill in the gaps is so valuable and I say all the time your story thing that we're not gonNA have the credibility that we need and the reality is the credibility comes the thing that you talk about really simple principle but again it's something that I think a lot of people rain by years of osmosis sometimes that that's how you open a pitcher presentation you clicked on Youtube do you believe every headline you see now right though like when someone in your eyes right right and so if you start with a grand gesture and then try to back it up like which is usually not hard because it's probably the most passionate about or that Fraser Stephen you know in the book I use the story of when we sold bar rescue is a perfect example like the hook and then explain how that was but I would have the network president and the executive thinking rescue here's other shows GonNa work here's what we're going to do each week here's John's Ramsey for bars and nightclubs and it's like I didn't need to say I lead is looking to inform and lead yeah yeah well and that is always more trying to allow them to come to that conclusion on their own and I think sometimes we forget listen people in the story absolutely and what's really cool is how did I come up with that idea like what happened to me I'm savvy TV producer audience that's the fact if you understand the process of how I got to believe of information I call him statements of value that lead you to that conclusion because car they're on their way to work and they're gonNA be giving a big presentation tomorrow and they're station they're gonNA give tomorrow what would be the very first thing you would walk them through and say Okay I do they want the facts that's that's the next I would try to quickly and I would take out anything that's unnecessary and people will understand your audience is GonNa get it and it just like why words extra verbiage extra descriptions just for the sake of doing that yeah it's like just think about the way you you scroll through things on Youtube or you're watching hire story right now they do the headline and they do six bullet points that summarize station I just WanNa know what happened last week in this when you're talking about this thing they read that you're delivering on that right right absolutely we've been talking with brand pin vic any of those social networks and the three minute rule dot com has just a wealth of information men anytime and again as always thank you for listening if you like this episode. 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136: Sales Podcast Discovery - Same Side Selling with Ian Altman
"You're listening to the daily sales tips podcast. And I'm your host Scott Ingram. I thought we'd feature one more podcast today before going back to some regular tips moving forward. I'll probably share one or two of these are week with that. Here's Ian, high tea in Altman. What is the same side selling podcast? Well with over two hundred episodes, I've focused on selling innovation and leadership. And I've been fortunate to be joined by some of the sharpest minds in the business world who share gems in there keynote addresses and their bestselling books and it might be things like how do we attract and retain top employees. What should we be focusing on in the sales process? How do we generate better? Word of mouth for our business. What digital marketing approaches work in which ones don't and how do we modernize our posted sales and marketing to generate better results? I also share case studies of businesses. Who have achieved extrordinary growth following the principles of same side salad. And of course, I conclude each episode with a thirty second recap so you can be sure to leave with the key takeaways that you can use apply to your business right away. So check us out on itunes or for that matter anywhere you get podcasts and visit me at the same side sewing podcast. And as I always offer any ideas that you think you'd like me to cover only guess I should have in the program. Just drop me note, too, Ian at an almond dot com. We'll see you there. Ian has also shared some tips with us in episodes. One sixteen and one twenty four. If you click over to daily sales dot tips, forward slash one thirty six will have links to all of that. His book his company has tips, and of course, to the same side selling podcast, Ian also does a killer job with his videos, and you'll find that there as well. If you wanna feature your own sales podcast here on the show, just look for the. Admit link at the top of daily sales dot tips that works for submitting your sales tips as well. If you don't have a podcast, thanks for listening and come back tomorrow for another great sales tip.
Ep. 442 - Trent365! - Dangers of Event-Based Marketing
"Today episode four hundred and forty two of three sixty five we take a look at the dangers of vent based marketing. Back in the Maldives again for a few days of meetings. Looking out the window doesn't particularly look to tropical paradisea kind of feeling in the middle of Molly capital city couple of days, he then out to the a couple of days then of two Schleicher for few days. But the the other day I was watching a summary of the Super Bowl this year. And the general sentiment across all the ads was negative. And what they're saying is that the main reason for that is that they had a negative sentiment towards the whole event because it was a boring game. A lot of people say that was one of the most boring Super Bowls for a long long time. And as a result of that compared to previous use those ads that will play during the Super Bowl and now associated with a negative feeling. And it's something I think we need to consider as we look at vent based marketing associated with specific events and promoting brand or a business around, Vince. And it's something a lot of people in the spire industry. Do with say spy conferences. Or beauty vents. But also, I will things around the community community type of ints. So there's a negative association with that event or that award all that that actively that happens in the community you'll business or your brand associated with that is potentially going to be negative as well. So it's something with keeping in mind because sometimes people look at these events event marketing opportunities is great ways to get to targeted audience which could be, but if the event has a negative vibe, your of your sponsorship in your brand, and your business may have that negative vibe to and a lot of don't necessarily have five million dollars to spend on a thirty second commercial for the Super Bowl. But nonetheless, whatever venture looking at being associated with and promoting your brand new business around just be aware negative event negative Brandon pressure already. That's thanks for tuning. We'll be back again tomorrow. So you down. Big. John. Gonna be.
Doing Nothing Is Something
"My name is Jesse Meanness podcast number four hundred eighteen for wine ab where we teach you four rules to help you. Stop living paycheck to paycheck. Get Out of debt and save more money. I could have joked and done a really really really short podcast to make my point but I got a nice note from someone that said that they had binged which is scary. You shouldn't do that but they had. Binge listened to all four hundred plus podcast episodes over however long. I've been doing these now and they said they would miss these little Monday. Bits so I can't do a little thirty second deal and be done right now because that wouldn't be kind of the person that is now only getting this. This wonderful voice Mondays. I do want to say though this main point today. It's very difficult. It's very difficult to be presented with a problem and then to resist doing something so we we tend to favor the the owner of a business the politician the administrator name. Your person that is tasked with being responsible over something. I shouldn't say politician. I should say legislator because it makes it a little clear but the idea that You were your administ- you're an administrator in your kicking off the year and they say well what are you going to do this year and you would say. Nothing doesn't really that that just wouldn't go very well You go to your boss and your boss's well Based on everything you've read and everything you understand about your job and responsibilities. What do you think you're going to change? And you say nothing or I experienced this because we had our executive annual meeting and it was a lot of. We should just keep doing the same thing. But My desire my desire and I don't mean like same exact thing. There's cool stuff. Come for twenty twenty but it's all along the same lines Just kind of digging in the same place and I left the meeting thinking well was. I supposed to do something more. Was there like some new initiative that we should be pushing on some kind of something now. Let's keep digging. Let's keep doing what we're doing. Keep executing so when you're doing the budget it's sometimes tempting to think that action is necessary that you should be doing something. I gotta do something to feel like. I'm moving the needle. I got to do something and it's not always the case. Sometimes you don't know enough to do something a lot of the Times. You don't really know enough. You might think you know of enough but you really don't the idea of doing nothing is still really valid and counts accounts for something so we don't want to just be whip signing ourselves with these budgeting decisions maybe this and then this and then this and I've always gonna be changing something changing them. Sometimes you can just kind of relax. Just keep digging in the same place find a nice rhythm and recognize that not changing something not doing something new not doing something. In addition to is doing something. Because you're just steady and consistent and I think that is a viable strategy doing nothing until next time following ends four rules and you will win financially. You've never budgeted like this.
Dirty Rags No More
"May one dirty rags? No more. We have all become like one who is unclean. And all our righteous deeds are like a polluted Gherman Isaiah sixty four six. It is true that any shortcoming of God's law offends his perfect holiness and makes us liable to judgement since God cannot look with favor on any thin aback one thirteen James to ten and eleven. But what brought a person to ruin in the Old Testament. And it is the same for us. Today was not the failure to have the righteousness of sin. Lous perfection. What brought them to ruin was the failure to trust in the merciful promises of God. Especially the hope that he would one day provide a redeemer who would be a perfect righteousness for his people. The Lord is our righteousness. Jeremiah twenty three six thirty three sixteen the Old Testament. Saints knew that this is how they were saved. And that this faith was the key to obedience that obedience was evidence of this faith, eighties terribly confusing. When people say that the only righteousness that has any value is the imputed righteousness of Christ to be sure just fixation is. Is not grounded on any of our righteous. This even spirit given righteousness by faith, but only on the righteousness of Christ imputed to us, but sometimes people are careless and speak disparagingly of all human righteousness as if there were no such righteousness worked in us that pleased. God, this is not helpful. They often cite is the exte- four six which says our righteousness is filthy rags or a polluted garment. But in the context as the sixty four six does not mean that all rightous performed by. God's people is unacceptable to God. I say is referring to people whose righteousness is in fact hypocritical is no longer, righteousness. But in the verse just before this verse five is Aus. Says that God approvingly meet him who joyfully works, righteousness. It is true gloriously true that none of God's people before. Or after the cross would be accepted by an immaculately. Holy god. If the perfect righteousness of Christ were not imputed to us Romans five nineteen first Corinthians. One thirty Second Corinthians. Five twenty one that true. But that does not mean God does not produce in those very justified people and experiential righteousness Davies, not a polluted garment, even though it is not yet perfected. In fact, he does produce such righteousness and this righteousness is precious to God. And is in fact required not as the ground of our justification, which is the righteousness of Christ. I only, but as an evidence of our being truly justified children of God, this is what Paul praised for and we should pray for he prays in Philippians one ten and eleven that you may approve what is excellent. And so be pure and blameless for the day of Christ filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ to the glory and praise of God.
Don't plant or re-plant a peony too deep
"Hi this is Mark News from plan talk radio. Thanks for subscribing and listening to our podcast. You're gardening questions from plan. Talk Radio to help keep this podcast free for you. Were partnering with Stoke Seeds Preplanned. Your indoor seeds starting program with the help of the all-new stokes website now mobile tablet friendly. The new website is a brand new gardening experience it offers better interactivity and higher quality imagery but what hasn't changed is the stokes website is still the complete resource center with valuable information on seed starting. Eating planning and harvesting all the gardening accessories and a free catalog whether you're adding texture a new variety for a splash of color developing an existing gardens or starting from scratch stoke seeds has some great resources to help you plus all the gardening accessories Sarisi need to make your garden. The envy of the neighborhood get growing with stokes now today's question when you're replanning it and you're putting it in the ground. How do you know what's too deep but what would be a rule of thumb well? Let's just say if you were at the garden center and you were buying it as. What we call Beirut you would see this fat tuber a little bit like a sweet potato or whatever will describe and on that would be a little bitty stem short necked probably of one two inches at the very most then on that are are buds? They're called is on a peony but their buds and those buds should win the ground no more than one inch below great and I have even set peonies intentionally where that bud is literally just a quarter to a half an inch below grade because it's been a little bit at the bottom of agreed that. Is going to put some sediment down over that plant just as I say a sixteenth or thirty second dimension a year and it builds up and you don't realize it and they'll go out of flour so <hes> that's the answer on that now. If you're digging and raising this whole plan count ground ground level as being literally they pop out of the ground then allow that if I'm right and it's too low you would simply raise it by an inch or tube till you get that stem sitting and injure to above where it presently is. Thanks again for listening to the podcast remember preplanned.
Dirty Rags No More
"May One dirty rags no more. We have all become like one who is unclean and all our righteous deeds are like a polluted government. Isaiah sixty four six is true that any shortcoming of God's law offends his perfect holiness and makes us liable to judgement since God cannot look with favor on any thin a backup one thirteen james to ten and eleven but what brought a person to ruin in the Old Testament and it is the same for us. Today was not the failure to have the righteousness of Sin Lists Perfection. What brought them to ruin. Was the failure to trust in the merciful promises of God especially the hope that he would one day provide a redeemer who would be a perfect righteousness for his people the Lord is our righteousness Jeremiah. Twenty three six thirty three sixteen the Old Testament Saints knew that this is how they were saved. And that this faith was the key to obedience. That obedience was the evidence of this face. It is terribly confusing when people say that the only righteousness that has any value is the imputed righteousness of Christ to be sure. Justification is not grounded on any of our righteousness even spirit given righteousness by faith but only on the righteousness of Christ imputed to us but sometimes people are careless and speak disparagingly of all human righteousness as if there were no such righteous worked in us that pleased God. This is not helpful. They often cite Isaiah sixty four six. Which says our righteousness is filthy rags or a polluted garment but in the context. Isaiah sixty four six does not mean all righteousness performed by. God's people is unacceptable to God. Isaiah is referring to people whose righteousness is in fact hypocritical. It is no longer righteousness but in the verse just before this verse. Five Isaiah says that God approvingly meet Him who joyfully works righteous? This it is true gloriously. True that none of God's people before or after the cross would be accepted by an immaculately. Holy God if the Perfect Righteousness of Christ were not imputed to US Romans. Five Nineteen First Corinthians One thirty Second Corinthians five twenty one. That's true but that does not mean. God does not produce in those very justified people and experiential righteousness that is not a polluted garment even though it is not yet perfected in fact he does produce such righteousness and this righteousness is precious to God and is in fact required not as the ground of our justification which is the righteous of Christ only but as evidence of our being truly justified children of God. This is what Paul Prays for and we should pray for he prays in Philippians One. Ten and eleven that you may approve. What is excellent? And so be pure and blameless for the of Christ filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ to the glory and praise of God.
We want to hear from you!
"Hey It's Jordan live from my basement studio like many of you were working from home. And we're doing our best to stay healthy and sane and this is the taste of what that sounds like. I've been trying to learn to be a better cook. I'm going to hate this ugliest near that. I wanted to learn Spanish in about eight months and be somewhat flu into CLAUSTROPHOBIC. I've got time now. I got a rake fags from home hardware. I'm doing clinks every day for thirty days and I never do planks but we want to hear what it sounds like for you. If you are staying home what are you doing to pass the time? Are you binging everything on net flicks? Are you exercising for the first time? Are you learning a new language? Or maybe you're trying to potty train a two year old or maybe that's just me but let us know record a thirty second clip of yourself. Use The voice recorder on your phone or just take a video and you can email it to be big story. Podcast AT RCI DOT ROGERS DOT COM. The will feature some of them in an upcoming episode. Thanks for listening. I look forward to hear from you.
Is Podcasting At Its Peak?
"Welcome to the podcast entrepreneur perspectives building in protecting your business one podcasts at a time the castle production in this episode we discussed are we podcast this podcast exist in large part because of calcium the content marketing team inside sourcing so what does calcium do many business leaders need help communicating their story. That's what we we do content creation and content distribution for business leaders. This provides opportunities relationships and a platform for you and your business. Why do we do this because calcium. We exist to help entrepreneurs create and share amazing content learn more by visiting calcium dot com way back back. There was a recent new york times article that came out and it talked about being at peak podcast meaning. Are there too many podcasts out there. Absolutely there's a lot of podcasts and i think just in this last year. Maybe certain two thousand eighteen the level of new podcast coming out is just over the top but it's good. I think there's two ways to look at it so this article focus on podcast meeting. Are you going to become the next joe rogan in so yet. Can someone one become that you can give it a shot. What you can do and see what happens. You never know there's gonna be another joe rogan at some point and maybe you think the idea is that for that part of podcasting where you're gonna in a crate podcast unit create content also you're gonna get all these advertisers sponsors and all this other stuff and you raise a bunch of money through affiliate marketing again. It's not to say that it can't be done but i don't think indust the reason we're talking about why someone would start podcast. I think someone could start a podcast and podcast could have zero listeners five listeners one hundred listeners five hundred listeners. You get a lot done with it. Because here's the thing you create that audio podcasts and then you could send that out individually to people that might be interested in hearing about it and you'll have to set it out in the full form. It might be a thirty second. Clip is the thing that someone else needs to hear. We've done that in our company where we create our podcast and we create snippets of that podcast and we share that on social media we share it directly with people <hes> or maybe we shared the whole long form version of the podcast. Maybe it's thirty minutes or an hour even hour and a half <hes> but it's more about how getting your message out there unique way and there's so many other side effects that you can get in a positive way side effects that is with your podcast. One is just learning to be a better question asker being a better speaker <hes> being more thoughtful in your conversations learning rights we talk to all these dynamic people on our podcast and we get to learn from what they have to say because we feel that real time listener is is listening to it but it's not real time so the things to remember that it's not all about <hes> putting the podcast out out there to get advertising. I mean it could just be put a podcast out there just to better yourself but at the same time it can be put a podcast to talk about your business or talk about things that you're interested in related related to its truest form of giving think if you do that that is a reason to do a podcast so i don't disagree with the new york times article. Are we have podcast on some levels. We are by another levels. Were not even close to it. I think business today or business leader a sales professional or a young person in college or young person. Even in grade school could create a podcast can do a lot with it. That has nothing having to do with making money in the podcast. It's taking that podcast and thinking about a way to in different ways that can create all sorts of opportunities for yourself. What are you gonna do those opportunities while that's the things that you think through by is the ultimate form of leverage right now media but in genuine way so you can use that word leverage and a lot the negative ways of trying to get one over on. Somebody knows this is leverage in a positive way to help you get better or whatever it is. You're doing help you make introductions with new people otherwise would it not have talked to which is something we've done with our podcast me we would have talked to some of these people that have come on our podcast if we didn't have it that is form of leveragable if we do it genuinely and have great conversations the agents learn and maybe they learned something they get something out of it and we can help them out in. There's no necessarily a transaction that's involved. That is what we're talking about. That is a reason to create a podcast has has nothing to do with becoming say the next joe rogan and getting a bunch of sponsorship so again you're times article very good article for what they specifically talking about but missed a point about what what it is to actually have a podcast in other things that you can do with it besides just generating revenue directly from the podcast. We'll think about that for awhile and should be absolutely considering create. Some the former content podcasts is certainly one of the good ones by back back. This podcast exists in large part because of calcium content marketing team inside cat sourcing so what does calcium. Do you know how many business leaders need help communicating their story. That's what we do content creation and content distribution for business leaders. This provides opportunities relationships and a platform for you and your business. Why how do we do this because it calcium we exist of entrepreneurs create and share amazing content learn more by visiting calcium dot com.
M 24 Proper Breathing
"In episode twenty four proper breathing meals talked to Justin tros claire and this is a doctor's perspective Minnie's owed. You might be asking yourself. What is he gonNA? Mentioned now well is easy a doctor's perspective dot net slash question. It's one question on the site and it just helped me figure out. What are people looking for? What interview want what kind of services you might desire out of me personally? So if you WANNA visit that helped me a little bit that'd be fantastic now. Today's show we'll be quick is from move forward radio optimal breathing the physical therapy podcast main. They have an amazing like P._t.. Raw thirty second commercial. I always chiropractic can be so united to have something like that. It is good and very similar to what we do which is crazy so one of the show. It's all about optimal reading learning to breathe for instance when you're weightlifting. Don't hurt your breath. You can hear heart. And so the person they interviewed is best for specialty is actually lungs and heart physical therapy stuff. It was a pretty cool unique niche so another example they use was if you have if you have our congestive heart failure either one of those when you breathe you <unk> actually using your accessory muscles which is not a great idea so you can actually intervene and re teach them how to actually breathe correctly as in breathe with your diaphragm. Your belly is GonNa poke out some you WanNa make sure you breathe in so you get all the way that a low part of the lung breathing with your nose. It's like a humidifier and it actually stimulate the economic nervous system then you want to give it a complete X.. Hell eventually this rhythm becomes more natural. You'll train your body to do it and you'll actually do correctly you sleep and that's why there's so many meditation. Tation things about having the proper breathing focus on your breath focus on your breath in three seconds out three seconds in and then like a stuttered out of your end of that I listened to a Tim Ferriss podcast. It's been a while and it had to do with somebody who does breathing in those like multiple ways of through it and something that you excited someone that you call your brain thinking more so it's pretty cool. I don't know much about that to be quite honest. That's about my I don't know a little more than that but I'm not gonNA share it with his consider look into it and.
Episode 14 Delilah Rae from Sagebrush Ranch
"Hello and welcome back listeners as well as viewers my name is Alice little and I am illegal Stati di if it ain't going down at the bunny ranch it ain't going down at all stolen agent exactly and I mean it's it's such an interesting phenomenon because we love sex and we love to the people on the planet with me she is a fellow red had a troublemaker incredibly intellectual lady from the talk about sex workers but the minute you find out someone actually is or someone has actually seen a provider whole no we anything but no there's so much stigma around being a sex worker and I've been a sex worker since I was nineteen I started Williams there's is not okay it's not okay obviously not we should pray the rosary yes I mean like I clearly I need to go to church on Sunday he my first two degrees I love it but unfortunately the world doesn't always choose to love us as much as we love them Oh gee waist and declarative statement to assign your name as well as your face to this industry it's one of the reasons to why many of US choose to use I'll be honest like my goal is to go to the Kentucky Derby and like the most ostentatious huge had like people five rows behind me can't see it's happening it's happening happy dance happy dance yes so everyone can see or like not actually see you are wearing a hat would you tell us a little intimate relationship you have if you're married you are not solely defined by your spouse or more specifically you're not defined by what you and your husband mean sex stigma is apparently what two consenting adults do with their now ty- bits in a room by themselves or with Sagebrush Ranch Delilah Ray you're here only got really excited I wanted to do this for so long it's finally happened or act suddenly defines who you are as a human being and we don't do that with any other professional and think of any other type of you can't do that why it's ridiculous because it's almost as if to say that that single trait or attribute a bit about why we can't see yes so I am one of the ladies at the ranchers who chooses to not show my face I you hit the nail on the head is so as an ex jockey who loves the Derby Yeah had had is on point advocacy for healthy relationships advocacy for healthy intimacy for healthy pleasurable sex sex worker but it's nice to see that things are changing I'm sure as you've seen in politics I believe twenty twenty is really going to become the year of the sex under wife do in the bedroom together You are so much more than that and I do a lot of activism insects work in different areas I do environmental of this world is if people find out that I also love an embrace sex work I lose credibility and that's weird that's worker in terms of conversations around decriminalization a lot of states have some really positive legislation moving forward and so you know check your state edge experience us it very much goes both ways it does I have learned so much about myself and the world I live in and activism I do violence anti-violence Yes yes oh yeah we did yeah and unfortunately the reality you why so many do travel here from out of state to participate in the legal system that we have here and sex work is just it's beautiful like that the my God yes so as such he choose not to show your face and that makes a lot of sense it really is a big on that next level for sex work issues because it's almost as if to say oh if they are for this then whatever other opinions and eight lots of good things happening in lots of activism that needs further support to because none of these other outside initiatives so far experience that I envy people who don't get to have it get it it's almost like an not just an exchange of emotionality and intimacy sounds hippy dippy it sounds hokey it sounds Hunky Dory it's the best but it is there is something truly unique and beautiful about this am I guard my own privacy is carefully guard yours and so for the viewers I was going for like a heading to the Derby theme let me Know Industry in I feel like those of us that participate within the spaces providers gained so much from our guest in terms of knowledge add intimate touch whether it's platonic like just two friends family like dad hugging son mom hugging dad it's too it it really does and it's just really ridiculous to think that society is still very limited in their viewpoint I heard stop doing that yeah really as yeah it's really unfortunate it's unfortunate because it prevents you from being able to advocate had a genuine just a hug just along thirty second genuine hug for women and it's a little more if they do in other areas is suddenly less than in less valued which if you think about it sex work especially when you talk about just interact anymore let's be honest our society doesn't exactly encourage vote intimacy intimacy or communication or touch yeah it just everything by learning from my clients and I've been able to teach my clients so many things it's such a beautiful given tate and such been successful and unfortunately that still leaves us as being the only state that has this beautiful thing it's one of the reasons sister hugging brother whatever or even romantic and sexual touch if you increase the length of time you hug most an energy exchange at a certain level because you are participating in this very unique place together in a way that we usually as humans don't get approach and even just adding hugs even just adding sitting close to someone on the couch and it releases more chemicals and endorphins in your brain and can actually be so important for managing depression anxiety a huge thing with depression acceptable if you and I were to walk down the street you know when things oddly of it but male male todd show upper is so stigmatized for your brain it is I mean if babies need held if children need held in touch so why do we think we suddenly grow that it it's adults it's ridiculous conversation and share quotes back-and-forth leg I'll be honest I only pretend I'm cool like I'm not comic book collection more in a world that has so many issues we need more love and a world that has so many barriers to getting that the it is elaine watching us together like romantic cuddly my favorite thing in the world platonic cuddling also super awesome hug your friends yes hug your friends hug your family hug everybody I love the whole free hug movement I believe that it's such a positive message in positive energy to just put out there in the world and we need think of how touch starved Americans are each pre like just think for a minute what is the last time you as a listener we've actually done studies I can't quote them I'm sorry I left my thickly Pedia of research out and said Oh it's fine I I someone keep track how many times I say hug your friends because hug your friends very easily and it's like just just do it talk I love it I thirty okay so I'm going to sound super nerdy so like stop if I get weird it's okay see what's working for your partner like it's a great way to check in hey is this working I love it radical to look at a world that says we can't touch and start to it increases empathy it's dirty talk is a great way to bring ongoing consent ooh into a sexual experience and it's also a way to I'm just here it actually put it into action take the time like get to work tomorrow bringing a box of doughnuts and give all your coworkers giant freaking hug oh it is so product and so fun and just thrilling to hear exactly what I'm doing okay well maybe you are just like masquerading as a church lady today with like a really feed shirts lady lasts a roll with it actually have real life conversations with each other we actually are very passionate people with feelings and thoughts emotions beyond a Haiti WanNa have we talk a lot especially insects work about the importance of consent it's a really important thing that everyone knows what's going on at all times no one's surprise oh gasp of pleasures Yup Yup it is it is that like that involuntary pleasure response that is just they just play glamorous girl on the website it's okay we're real human beings we actually watch TV and net flakes we naughty here those who are listening in not watching but I'm also laughing and trying not to do like the giggling you'll laugh I mean like let's be real hey you wanna have sex is a fun line is very much so you don't let's talk about that but you're I put my hand here and I dragged it slowly up your thigh would you like that and then you're asking for the fueled there's never a bad time to ask during sex do you want me to do that again leg would you like knack yes that's a fun one in my room God I'll say I'm cool and then it all goes out the window real quick I'm not just pretend it's like oh no I just like every other episode where I'm like well actually you're for today Oh no no go for it yeah no on they've done studies that show when you is such a great way to get to those moments tell me what exactly do you want me to do to you oh yeah what if Oh yes checking in with your partner in such a sexy way there is never a bad time in sacks to ask how does this right now give Salonen opportunity to genuinely answer without being like you feel good right now don't you that's putting words in someone's mouth whereas Rosie with her high heels and champagne embodying and limousines dude we also want to just hang out in a library with a bottle of wine and have a great worker here at the world famous Moonlite Bunny ranch located in Carson City Nevada today I've got one of my favorite so sorry we're not mind readers entirely here I mean we are good at reading body language which again important skill you can learn from sex workers and it's safe place to genuinely share your feelings like I recently did a fun silly thing for area fifty one MERC I decided to do reo sixty nine and do this whole all out there thing with alien fantasy in Duck Shin play in medical implements but it why I don't know because to redheads on a podcast told me tale okay light it's fine that's a good reason for doing literally anything cute redheads told me to gene is we isolated and depressed I'm knocking out of bed and then you get into this never ending cycle of yes touch no touch not a chance to the little niggling thought in the back of your head that you really want to try now you can say it and then we can do it yes it's then people check in with each other during sex I don't care if it's me and U or as a whole orgy oh one of my favorite lines is tell me how you feel okay see another reason to come see red-headed sex workers were right and we'll tell you why we're right just weird dorkiest people on the planet really sex workers stereotypes also workers when you ask it is that open ended question where there's not a yes or no and actually there has to put language to sensation you're able to relate to it so much more theme time it wasn't just silliness there actually is a genuine interest in those types of activities and they are okay they're valid and they are welcomed most into a partner exactly how I making them feel I can feel death chills up my mind right now on my toes her curling off not gain new homeowner moment like yeah my dudes calmed down and hug your friends like us to me give give your friends hugs lots of hugs uh-huh and then what another way if you keep it off me do anything to you what would it be telling me and he suit is still a neurotic in sexy way to check in and it gives everybody in the bedroom yes who who who who I love when somebody grips the bedsheet y'all so and if they could they'd be shredding and dirty with three slightly yes yes side we're redheads so therefore we're right that's just how the world works sorry it's an DNA importantly yes and seeing a sex provider like me like you like any of the ladies here is such a great way you give yourself a safe informed place to explore that fantasy we've all had that one thing we wanted to try but we don't know what it looks like and starting in encounter we're already setting up good communication you know you can ask me I know I can tell you possible being risk-aware exactly and it's also breaking it down to I think I might really like this and a man can say to me or woman can say to me because I like everything is can I kiss you just that way it's so much easier to have that conversation with partners yeah like you figure sex workers model positive consent language around tax and unfortunately we don't have that modeling of correct negotiation or conversation anywhere in our society it's not on TV pill you wanted to explore it but maybe I don't and that's Ok does changing the kind of sexy here's insecurities hopes ambitions tell me all of that and that's just so yeah but once you have that conversation with the provider everything is one hundred percent safe we're not taking any risks at all whatsoever whereas with risk aware consensual kink yet rig knowledge we're having does not disrupt the sex year halley no not at all like I really WANNA try being tied up I have not acting on it in a way that safe sane consensual risk aware consensual kink guess it's a thing it's important and it's something that so many of us choose to practice and then you're looking at them in the eye and getting that intensity going yeah it's makes it safe it's meeting somebody rather than forcing yourself upon here exactly there's also a difference too between safe sane consensual and briscoe where can you figure with SC or safe sane consensual May I is another great he end full way to just kind of lean in and right before you close that gap may I kiss your lips everyone can sending its on your friends sleep with your friends it's fine exactly there's just so many different ways that sex workers really able to is your words there's no such thing as too much information it's true and tell me you've never tried this tell me that you really want to tell me your fee okay and seen a provider gives you so many tools for one communicating all of that to us because again not mind readers them and it creates the opportunity for like this ebb and flow almost of enter a where everyone's contributing to it and it just continues to build and Ooh and like I said it's your experience with a sex worker is not just that experience you're going to had I'd like you to when you like this this is what I felt that censorship up my spine do it again like Oh always well I have been tied up I enjoy it but pretending I'm a client and I really WanNa try being tied up yes I've never been tied up before I don't know if I'm getting take those healthy communication you're going to take the tips and the tricks we show you and you're going to bring that outside of these walls and you are Nov and books if anything we see some really dangerous constructs for trade on TV and we laugh at them like they're funny like one of the sexiest things in your head and it lingers grows and you're just up the kind of sex you're having it does because if your mind is constantly going back to a fan to see in your Lupita for those who are not watching I did the screen face like shock oh what hey I want to touch her throat and have my hands on your body this could be a risky and let's talk about how to do this as safely as going to be a better lover you're going to be a better provider yourself with your friends not friends we'll sometimes people sleep with their friends sleep with your friends mhm one of my specialties is people disabilities yes gas so necessary yeah so one let's but I can say what I've done with people giving people the chance to really explore their bodies and what feels good it doesn't feel good and the ability to explore partners body hey I'm paralyzed from the waist down about how does he comes in a lot of shapes and forms and does not deny you the ability to be a sexual person g humane people in wheelchairs no and it's how we talk about sex and disability so gross and creepy and infantilized be able to lay flat down okay do we use a wedge gave us pillows how do we arrange our bodies do is worse than station Stop Yeah here's where sensation stops with this is where things feel really good you have more erogenous or sexy touched is people like it is I do not have a physical disability so I cannot speak to personal experiences of other people that is not my job help people improve their lives like are you able to share any specific stories with us yes so I'm trying to think of just one and that takes a minute go to work through I also work with people on the autism spectrum again very very important yeah shocker you're still can be a sexual person if you want to be and what I have found with a lot of my clients on the autism spectrum just giving space to explore like this is super weird but D- sexualizing sex yes just a tiny little bit by deconstructing it's an understandable concept and all court The inside of your wrist like us gas and so many of my guests with physical disabilities loss of limb had I'm a little afraid what if I don't like it can I take it back can we untidy zapping then can we still have fun is that still K- like could we do something else it doesn't and also penis vagina aren't bad words their body parts giving you and also vagina is the interior the Exterior Chin like going on down there and like terrible are sex at is normal that's a normal loss spectrum may not have those same limitations in additions and stigma and actually choose to have that learned lived experience and it enhances your sex because okay guys let's all be really really honest here at some point in your life you've just wanted to be like wow I wish I had a vagina because I just want to take a look in Arizona's then your genitals yeah I longed layer there's a little spot behind the ear back the neck down the spinal love their partner they are just so in love but there's a disconnect bringing a third person into the bedroom is not inherently a wild crazy kinky threesome it can be that that's fun but that's not the only option sometimes it's like you're is a vulva today you learn on the Bunny ranch. podcasts were educational informative and sexy to make things pleasurable and sciatic pain lead ahead and Use a sex Sofa Oh have some difficulties with your hips did you we're here hi we exist we do this a lot and it's fun hi my name is Alice little I'm sorry this is what we okay and like if you think that sounds hot right now and you're gonna go to bed sex like that will just come into the bunny ranch and the Sagebrush ranch what are you doing so you can actually use a sex swing to get the same kind of momentum without having to use your hip joints exactly back pain we there's a lot swallow and everyone adds to like this could you do more of that touch me here yes I enjoy that oh I'm actually ticklish aw look at someone's body wanting to learn what these parts are what these parts do how these parts work is normal and it is the experience adding a third person the bedroom especially when their sex provider does not devalue your relationship no and the whole thing is it's not a competitive thing sad that they're sensation spots of changed and if not evolved
30-Day Solo Podcast Challenge - Conclusion
"The thirty days Solo podcast challenge actually the thirty second day. We had an introduction at the very beginning to let you know what was happening. This is the conclusion channel because we are done sort him. This series is done thirty day. Solar podcast challenges. Your work is only just the beginning over the last thirty days given you basically exercise to help you do a few things be more comfortable on the Mike. Learn how to tell L.. Better stories share bid of yourself listeners. In order to better connect with and maybe most importantly experiment mm-hmm. I didn't mention this on every episode but I mentioned several times throughout the series that you do not have to release anything that you record but it is important if you want to become a better podcast or a better solo host that you get behind the MIC. You hit that record button and you go through the motions of making an episode or making a segment or practicing these techniques. You can't just think about them. You can't just read about them or watch other people do them. You have to get in the studio you have to hit record. Get behind the MIC and speak. None of this is serious. I think like this. We take our work seriously as podcasters. We try to get better. We tried to do what it will take to. Better connect with an audience to better spread a message to be a more compelling when host. But we don't take ourselves seriously. You've probably been at a wedding. Maybe you've seen it at a club somewhere where people are dancing having a good time. And there's that stiff guy. He's too cool for school. What's up with that guy? Don't be that guy. That's the kind of person who doesn't experiment doesn't take chances. This is doesn't trust himself to let loose a little bit. It's weird to get out of your comfort zone and try new things even talking on the Mike when there's nobody else around is weird. That's why so many podcasters sound stiff sound like a high school kid reading the announcements over the PA.. If you didn't have that at your high school you've probably experienced something like that. Hello Good Morning. Hear the announcement for the day. Sounds like a robot but if you stuck around and watch that kid or watch somebody read announcements. You'll knows they get better. And if you stick around on your Solo podcasting journey and your journey is a host in general you will also improve. So let's talk about what that looks like there. Plenty of podcasters. Astor's that do the same episode each time. They have the same format. Same questions some of them literally have the same questions ten questions in a row. Oh they run through them. That's a script. It's not an interactive conversation you grow as a host and as an interviewer when your podcast is interactive. That's why suggests that you work from bullet points and not a script your podcast especially when you have other people on it. It's a living breathing thing and sometimes you're going to make mistakes. You make a mistake. This really bad edited out. And if it's really bad and it can't be edited out. Don't release it. That's fine and if scripting in something out or asking the same questions each time is what gets you behind the MIC. That's better than not being behind the MIC. But it's training wheels and I want to get you off this training. It takes a minute. That's why we did thirty days. These exercises I guide you through a system stuff was a little bit easier at the beginning of May a little bit more personal things you probably already thought about. got you in on some deeper stuff. Some deeper exercises some things that might have push boundaries. A little bit might have been a little more uncomfortable to go through. Then you were at the beginning as I mentioned the thirty days up but your journey as a better host. That's not over if you're interested in continuing this podcast journey with me. Some tools for you. That will help you do that one. I've got other thirty day challenges for example. I've got one podcast interview in school if you WanNa make it so. You're not doing those same tim questions each time got a thirty day. Challenge for that. And you'll find that and others at big PODCASTS DOT com slash. Subscribe one of the podcast that I do that. You'll see there. It's called build a big league podcast. And that's specifically about doing the things that it will take for you to grow your audience to attract listeners to market yourself as an expert that one is also at big podcast dot com slash subscribe. I have a book. It's called big. PODCAST it is the book on spreading the message via podcasting. And it's a big book search for big podcast on Amazon Barnes and noble wherever you get books if you want the audio version you can search for it on audible wherever you get your audio books. It is the book on on spreading the message via podcasting. And if you really want to go deep with me if you want personal help for your podcast I've got something called big podcast blueprint. That is a big podcast dot com Tom Slash blueprint. It's an in-depth podcast. Marketing course but also personal help with me you now get together on video chat. Each month we will work through your podcasting. The problems work through your hosting issues through any kind of issues that you're having when it comes to podcasting or when it comes to building your expert business spreading your message getting money for your services says attracting sponsorships it's a personalized program. I covered all and you can find out more information at big PODCAST DOT com slash blueprint. Thank thank you so much for. Being part of the thirty day solo podcasts challenge. It's been a blast. I hope you've had as much fun as I have. If you ever want to reach out share episodes with me do it be podcast. Dot Com is. How do that reach out and let me know what you're up to?
Thoughtful Thursdays: Can people be systemized?
"Hey everyone this Lorenzo from hanging leadership and welcome to another thoughtful Thursday episode. I'm excited to announce a Chris and I began our next book and can't wait to include all of you in the process. Please visit hacking leadership dot com force last survey and ticket quick anonymous. Thirty second seven question survey to help us out while you are there. Subscribe to our email list to stay up to date on exclusive content and cool opportunities on this episode. I WanNa talk about system ising the other day. I heard someone talk about. The idea of system is in the process immediately. My spider sense tingles because I greatly believe in finding efficiencies inconsistencies in a business but systemized seem like such a cold word. Maybe because I think if people and systems as two completely different things like people focus and execute and systems are inflexible repetitive. Then I consider where I grew up for those of you that have been longtime listeners of the show or have read my leadership book you know. I grew up in the Mecca of automotive plants around Troy Michigan. I remember the term concept about how to properly system is a process strategy with people it is called the Kaizen business. Philosophy made popular by Toyota. The Internet defines Kaizen as an approach of constantly introducing small incremental changes in a business in order to improve quality and or efficiency. This approaches soums that employees are the best people to identify a room for improvement says they see the processes in action all the time. Now this sounds good in theory but what really makes it work is how it works. I you choose a process you WANNA system is or improve on second you invite the following people the person at the highest level of accountability for that process. The person who actually does that process the immediate supervisor for that process outside expert on the process and someone was zero experience. Third you let them rip up that process until it comes out better than a win in you ask. The people actually involved in the process to be accountable for system. Is it what I love about? This is the inclusion of many people with direct knowledge and accountability to the process with people with either no knowledge or no accountability to the process. Yet they are responsible for helping to make it better. You're going to system. Is Things related to people and behaviors? Make sure you actually include those people in the dialogue include who will challenge it ripped apart to make sure the best strategy wins. Thanks for listening and have a great day.
206: Prospecting with Cohesive Messaging - Jason Bay
"<music> you're listening to daily sales tips podcast. I'm your host scott ingram today. Jason bay from blissful prospecting is back with another another really great prospecting tip. Here's one of the big trends that i see a prospect and right now. Is everyone talking about multi channel and multi touch prospecting expecting using two or three different mediums whether that be phone email social you know direct nails a big thing right now and i really believe that what's getting lost is the message so don't get me wrong the number of touches in the channels that uses extremely important because that's just what it what's required to breakthrough prospects these days but what is getting lost in translation here is is what the message says because if you send something that doesn't relate to a prospect it doesn't matter how fancy the video is or how much time you took to handwrite a direct mail piece. They're just not going to respond. They might appreciate the personalized effort and that sort of thing but if it doesn't address a challenge that they're having when you don't have a strong value prop or thought personalized in a way that really resonates with them and they're just not going to respond so i don't want to talk about is the importance of message message over medium so we really believe will prospecting that the message that you give as much more important than the medium that you give it in in that message is something that can be re purposed. The best to an email komala can be in a personalized video. That's forty five to sixty seconds and it can be used when cold calling too so how you talk about what you do how you relate with the prospect of commu used in voicemails and that sort of thing so what i want to focus on here is making the message cohesive so what that means is essentially the whole message is connected so i did a past episode that's linked in the show notes for the reply method someone talk about the pieces of a cold outreach message that are important in needed and then how you can connect those so the reply method the r. stands for results so your value prop results you can get for the prospect the e._s. for empathy so what challenges the prospects having how they speak about things in their own language the peers for personalization so what are you picking out about the prospect birther companies something that's unique. That's different from every other prospect. The ells for laser is our focus so how that applies here is. How long's the email is it three or five sentences or less as the video thirty to sixty seconds is the voicemail less than thirty second consid- cetera and then lastly you have the y. Which is use making it about the prospect so the way that we structure this is we lead with personalization. We follow that with empathy so that's the challenge then we share the results that we can accomplish and then we have the call to action action which laser focus part so what i want to do is give you a very tangible example of a client that we're working with and how all this comes together so this client sells dell's cpa an accounting services specifically to marketing agencies under fifty employees to forty to fifty employees in their primary persona is agency the owners so big challenge agency owners have when they're hiring is maintaining their profit margin says what we're going to focus this one so that first piece of personalization could be picking out companies on lincoln in filtering by companies that are hiring that have active job post right now so the personalization in an email or voicemail might sounds like hey noticed. You're hiring for content. Marketing managers sounds like things are going really well so the personalization is connected to that challenge of if hiring and maintaining profit margins so the next piece in the messaging is the empathy so you might say something like you know hey hirings and exciting time the the water agency clients tell us also worried that costs could get out of control especially if they don't have a way of tracking profitability down to the employee so personalized the personalization is connected to this empathy challenged piece that i just shared. It's related to hiring now. We're going to get into results piece. We help agency owners by providing the same insight insights that they would get from a fulltime c._f._o. You'll learn how to budget for new hires. No-win those new hires will be profitable and most importantly how to track their individual profitability ability to you know if you might need to let them go in the future so the results piece against connected to hiring so the call to action here at the end is also connected with love to share a few strategies are agency clients are using make sure they maintain their profit margin cystic grow. What's the best way to get some time on your calendar right in that call to action will differ slightly depending inning on if you're sending an email a video or leaving a voicemail be you can see that the personalization is related to hiring it connects to the challenge it connects to the results that you're telling them that you can get in your call to action is also connected so make sure that your message is cohesive and make sure that you're really focusing on what it is that that you're saying and then looking at the mediums which you're gonna say it and next in you'll find that you will definitely increase your reply rates and you'll get more prospects telling me things like hey yeah. I definitely resonate with what you said. You know. Let's chat if you're getting as much out of jason's tips as i am. You'll want to do what i just did and sign up for his email newsletter. Just click over the daily sales dot tips forward slash two six for a direct link. Thanks for listening and be sure to swing by tomorrow for another great sales tip.
Interview: Writer And Poet Saeed Jones On 'How We Fight For Our Lives'
"Mary comcast business beyond fast learn more at comcast business dot com this message comes from NPR sponsor comcast business gig fueled network solutions that help businesses go beyond the expected to do the extraordinaire it's just it's expensive and just so intense and loud and literally since I've moved here I've been in Columbus for just under a month now and and now say Jones is out with his first memoir it is called how we fight for our lives this book is all about Said's unique lifestyle everything and it's all equal parts poignant and hilarious makes you feel like you're living your life with him say Jones is an award-winning poet his memoirs this interview is one of those but it's different perhaps than every other one you've heard in this podcast this is the first author the first memoir engine I was in l. a. at NPR west say Jones enjoy hello site leads to hear also listeners some sensitive and derogatory language involving a slur in this chat that we left unbe leapt okay side was in Ohio you were actually felt like I knew the guest was friends with the guest before our conversation this guest is Cy Jones and I felt like I knew him decade now and much of that time has been working in media and news and I just feel that the tenor of American Life Right now is Oy he grew up black and gay and Buddhist and suburban Texas and he found a way overtime to love himself and be himself without shame writing more and reading more than I have in years you know there's been an immediate change in my quality of life one of my favorite stories you've shared on twitter about your move was book of Poems Murphy Years Ago Prelude to Bruise it WanNa Stonewall Book Award in two thousand fifteen it was also a finalist for the National Book Critics Circle Award mm-hmm this chat is a good one but it's heavy sigh Nighthawk frankly and graphically about sex and sexuality and abuse may not be the best conversation for so high-pitched and just really intense especially in that's true for everyone but even more so of course if your job is to write or think about culture talk constantly about what I'm going through either twitter and in my writing I have no problem sharing that part of my experience with people but I think privately because his twitter feed is this open book and this amazing digital personal diary that I have been following for months honestly say tells you dean up very soon after got to Columbus Ohio INDIANAP- at an Ohio state tailgate party yes I I'm wearing an OC we're a longtime New Yorker and a few months ago you said Screw this I'm going to go and you move to Columbus Ohio what how many months ago and moved on the personal level you know I realized that I needed to do a better job of taking care of myself and living in New York just felt like well I've already told your team but know that I'm incredibly hung over This is wild in late to really pay attention to it so I needed a way to find a space where I could be a little more sustainable like you know I I'm I'm a very like you said I'm open person I I need to move back to New York so I can have calmer life speaking of Columbus this has been one of the big topics of your twitter feed in the lashing months you I'd just less than a month ago I moved in I think September Kurt all my goodness what made you do that you know I mean as you said I've been living in New York basically on an offer let's be organizing principle in Texas church absolutely football in Church so I think some people might be thrown that I know as much as uh look you have you have gone full you have gone full native out there I love it so in a nutshell sum up that day for our listeners talking any you know I grew up I grew up in Texas I grew up in the suburbs of North Dallas so you know I grew up with the relationship to football because football is just it tailgating here in Ohio is I feel like it's I've worked through my anxiety about the experience like it's not fraught as a space and it's just really fun and I love so I wanted to start with the tailgate party story because for me in so many ways it sums up Sayyed this ability to take a small thing and awesome big ideas out of it and it also sums up the way I feel the book deals with how you move through the world like what does it mean I hate that here it's very early in the morning at eight o'clock in the morning that tailgate you tweeted Oh it is people wearing red shirts my friend gave me an Osu shirt because he was like oh you absolutely cannot just be walking in our without grumbling girl eight fifty four am and I'm drinking Nevada red bull right and that was already I think that was an hour into the experience so surreal it's just a c to be swayed and live and thrive in spaces like in Ohio state tailgate party where there are very few people who look like you very few folks who share the same background as you what does it mean yeah that was certainly the goal of the memoir you know I think oppression is where's this out in all kinds of ways the cost of that dynamic is over time you know something I tell people often listen this isn't a book where you know I know him growing up as a gay kid and not feeling heard is intense and exhausting so with the memoir one of my goals was to you know you're just talking in the void and I know Queer People transpeople I'm immigrants you know are always trying to communicate to this country like this is what's going on allow readers to be kind of in my body to kind of be with me you know and my internal kind of conversation and to to see what came to move through spaces not made for you in not intended for you and that is one of the big themes I've found in your book thank you that's beautiful Oh you know this is what it is to be me into feel unwelcome in this place that supposed to be welcoming and so I think the tension in knowing how you feel about your existence hey cold of us when we are made to feel unwelcome is that we begin to kind of self narrow rate that harassment you know and we like oh I did I I came out the closet and it was like oh good I don't have to pretend to care about football league so I would what's funny then to now is but something lately that I've been thinking about is just like how exhausting it is to struggle not to express yourself I don't believe anyone is voiceless people like I want to be avoided a suburb of North Texas this is a book about being shoved in the locker room you know him being bullied and stuff I'm bullying myself because I think one of the things that can begin to half right yeah yeah I mean you know I enjoyed myself I think that's a good thing I mean vagit Oh boy at us and my friend just turned and said you're not helping it was happening when you think about that and getting over that the saieed that went to that Ohio state tailgate for the voiceless something no one's voiceless I think they got a voice but the struggle to get people to listen to you you know you're talking you're talking about it can often feel like that's definitely something that I figured out make better I love it so this book usually I'll have writers come on and Gimme like a thirty second elevator pitch for the book for really dig into it what I would rather you do because we know now there's a memoir about you growing up black queer and amazing in Texas on folks music could you read that absolutely I love it okay allergy with grown folks music because I think I thought I could prepare myself inoculate myself but instead of inoculating I think I was just being cruel to myself that's it ah few weeks ago how did he handle that kind of environment better or more deliberately than the saieed was still being cruel to himself at the opening of this book I WanNa be your lover comes on the kitchen radio and briefly your mother isn't your mother just like if the falsetto is et Cetera I think the best elevator pitch for this book is the poem that occurs at the beginning of it I'm talking about L. G. With how is that I it's easier for me to be myself wherever I am and I think the thing about identity is that it's a self doing I was doing a reporting trip in New Orleans in twenty thirteen I think and I ended up going to a bar that was you know I think there was a lot of the that night because every time it was very crowded and every time someone bumped into me or I bumped into them I would have just a moment of panic because I'm not going to get an invite him whatever you know radio pleads I wanna be the only one that makes you come running some songs take women places men cannot follow spinning that's right a black man in black lace panties isn't a faggot but a prints a prodigy and the woman with your hometown between her hip the good thing I have fun I mean you know I've got to say that this is ongoing their ups and downs you know I'm not going to pretend like I wrote the book and everything's just better now perfect CBS shimmied past the eviction notice burning on the counter and her body moves like she never even birthed you the voice on the she looks at but doesn't see you spinning she sings lyrics too fast for you to pursue spinning she doesn't have time for questions like what is this nasty song and where did spirit aggressive and kind of scary like I got panic attacks I'd had to leave Wa bars or nightclubs because I can't you know I I remember a lot of queer people there but it was very much like true all of New Orleans very much mixed fluid space and I remember having to lead because you are young and don't know the difference between abandoned and alone just like your mother's heart won't know the difference between beat and attack but I mean as recently as even you know a year ago there are still moments when like I mentioned like going to a sports bar if I go into space you know and if the atmos- songs hook in her throat and you hate the voice coming through the radio because another city has snatched your dreams and run off with them and torso kinds of we do it ourselves we saved the mean thing first before anyone else can say it and I think I did that a lot when I was young and and she will be dead in a decade and maybe you already know what you are losing without knowing how but you're just a boy for now and learn to dance like that and why and who is this high pitched of a man who can sing like a woman and turn your mother not into your mother but a woman not even wow I love it it gives me chills when you say turn your mother not until your mother but a woman mother is just a woman just a girl body swaying fingers snapping and snakes in her blood it just like sober crying we're walking and I will never forget a car pulling up beside US and had tinted windows in one of the windows rolled down and someone yelled and so my friend you know exponentially I have to leave I'm so sorry okay and we're like walking back to our hotel in the you know now it's like two o'clock in woman but a box braided black girl fast girl a chick a vanity six and how far away she is from you right here and the same living room dancing it's a weird dynamic but on the other hand you know from like I'm here I deserve to be here in this room is better because I'm in it's a better room you know not even a woman but a box brain black girl I love that setup because in reality what this book felt like for me and you know my mom was always very intuitive I think about her understanding of he was not just a memoir of Saieed but a memoir of your mother to write this is it is yeah and that is that is something you know you have written this book that is a love letter to her explanation of her and Y'all's relationship but she's no longer here how hard and long did you fret about what she might make of this portrayal alling prophecy if we are in a space and we feel unsafe and we're worried about being unsaved that space becomes who thinks that I think she realized I was passionate about so you know she knew I remember being in graduate school and she called me one day and was like yeah I told Your Grandmother Positioning how explained the book I remember when I sold the book and you know meeting with publishers and the publishing industry is I'm no I think statistically it's something like ninety it was like Oh my God metaphor what's happening but let's say like a huge source of joy for me now the direction in life I remember like I remember we were to blockbuster and I don't know how this came up but I remember as being a blockbuster when I was Middle School and ah that you're planning on writing a memoir one day and I was like oh how did that go what did she say she was like she just said that white or something and I remember that I had this this awareness would ever I would say I grew up in Texas and my mom was uh-huh which one obviously what happens in the book that's Pretty Hilarious also I think it in I was in graduate the parent I was really aware of how I felt the other person was perceiving me and really what do you mean you know we'll because I feel like there was so many ready made stereotypes for blacks single mothers or for my grandmother you know when I would say my grandmother is a very conservative you know Christian black woman whose lived in Memphis her whole life and I've like look for the thought bubble vet create engaging customer experiences with an APP that lets you monitor your entire network from the palm of your hand every day comcast business is helping businesses at that point so you know I think there was just like an ongoing conversation so as to say I wasn't anxious about writing about my mom section contains frank discussions of sex be this message comes from NPR sponsor comcast business comcast didn't build to make other people villains and it also goes against the intention of the book which is to examine how we are all fighting for our lives concurrently sometimes leaders we'll be right back after the break psyche talks about coming to grips with the sexuality and coming out and how it all went with his family has up listeners this net it's related to me and and obviously she was my mom and that's our relationship but I just wanted to be very clear to readers that she had a life of her own that my grandmother go beyond the expected to do the extraordinary comcast business beyond fast visit comcast business dot com restrictions apply. Actually I can't tell my story in it until that's how I feel about her I try to be thoughtful as possible in in your subconscious even in your dreams described the dream for us if you can yeah I mean yeah my my early kind of sexy at that like my mom is a human being she is a person her name was Carol Sweet Jones you know what I mean her existence is valid whether or not oh she is she is clearly a vital part of the story of my life and so it was like well you know it'd be like me like am I going to feel anxious about writing about being gay we'll know the nation's largest GIG speed network just to make businesses run faster they built it to help them go beyond with reliable connectivity and intelligent Wifi don't take my word for it just listen to NPR's code switch one of the big topics of the book morning in New Orleans I'm walking to the quarter and explaining to them as well you know I hit it with a straight guy once and he tried to kill me in that one histories power represented the ways we've worked together and worked against each other you'll learn you might get mad you'll definitely laugh and it is it is not everything about a homosexual sexual awakening is different and harder than a heterosexual sexual awakening uh-huh for instance you write about the first vivid sex during you have as a boy about some other boy that you desire but in this dream in which you fortunately when we are destructive our fight you know come to the cost for other people but we're all trying to figure this out and that's why love opening the book with the poem to make it clear the life of her own and and that they're not tools they're not literary devices their people and I wanted to convey that respect what are you you know I've been so it was really important for me to give them nuance I need that nuance because I don't think it makes me a hero it or is and even the right way to say it but it it it was one of those things where it was like shame and desire were like mixing together even needs vary and are not guaranteed NPR's codes which is a podcast about race in America that's about all of us a desire this boy he calls you faggot in the sex dream and the dream you cleef and that was you know he was an sadly I felt this way many times but many trash men since he was James was based on a boy cody who appears in the book that I had such a crush on and he was like mean Abbas cody okay can I just say we're people often I hope this is becoming less and less true but queer people often have to come to terms with desire in secret in private without information that was my first experience of that and it was just so overwhelming and as you say you know of course everyone has to come to terms with desire right but it is you figuring out your sexuality and then having to grapple with it it was it was it was a journey for you it's an ongoing process was a trash man cody is trash the original trach really so terrible Oy if there weren't an epic pray the gay away moment and you know this is this happens to be around the time when queerest folk is about to premiere on showtime and other will and grace You know I am Sam Sanders you are listening to it's been a minute on this show I interviewed a fair amount of authors publishing gender people I think those people will never fully understand how much work literally everyone else does to a man Dan yeah so this would not be a coming of age story about a young Gable Complex I remember him standing close to me and saying something and being distracted because I was worried I was going to kiss him on accident and I remember that it feels like it now you have never heard of pray the gay away story as rich as the one you lay out in this book I don't want to give away too many spoilers for folks that public discourse for young people generally so you're going to all of these feelings that are overwhelming for anyone but especially if you're queer you know and yeah so in my dream seems I it it was like a new the desire but I didn't it was hard for me to even visualize so often my early teens agenda our selves into existence just that the strain and the effort and and I talked to so many people women immigrants all of you know who are just like oof I haven't read it yet but how much can we talk about you and your grandmother in that Church House Oh oh man it was a moment such a crush on him I just goes rest me out and described the book at one point that one day when we were talking in our parking lot if our apartment we were just talking at the counter and she says something like when you're doing debate in high school and she just went on and I was like what do you how do you how do you know what I'm GonNa do debate she looked at me like Ernie into like how you see yourself and I think you know because our culture is dominated by an obsessed with straight rich CECI if you know people who were like afraid of bridges where it's just like what you think on jump off the bridge on accident like what's go but when you feel something so intensely who kind of like don't even just yourself muir not too long after those weren't black boys from Louisville hello you know but but it it's really a you know it's not like I'm like oh I can go pick up my sex ED manual they read us in school and turned to the section on what does it mean to have feelings report said no we don't we don't have that him about Chrysler boy I would dream that I was girl because I could I literally couldn't even four like when people talk about representation a- as I eat when I tell you it lingered on my person I carried that story in my bones for a few days on my goal this is a perfect example I was like I couldn't even imagine what it would look like for two men to kiss yeah you know like I couldn't even construct that you know and and I should say Portugal which true it wasn't like she wasn't she wasn't imposing I was just like have you been eavesdropping on my brain like what is happening almost always liked that when it came wow I have to be honest I'll tell you it's one of the sections of the book that when I'm re reading the book I usually skip over why don't allow it yeah it's just like well I read it I know it's just like this just keeping going like I literally will eat about anything else or so many parts of the book that ours really what I was thinking about until he said the word her for some reason that Pronoun is what got my attention again you know because I was like spirit show her your plagues and save this child Amen Yeah Yeah I mean they say fight back God make her suffer put every ailment every disease on her until she breaks under the weight of the holy it's me I believe my grandmother is a loving woman and she's very devoutly Christian and when I was a kid you know my mom my grandmother who basically as you will see him the book basically asks a pastor visiting pastor at her church to pray over it was it caused a huge rift in our family and so by the time I was a preteen you know it was clear that the more conservative religious members I know it's GonNa be bad but when I heard him say the word her like as you've noted that is that was such an unexpected cruel yeah and the only way you can see someone coming to appreciate what you claim to be this divine love it's a mess I wanna read the line that he says because it just and he praised basically curse on my mother right but he basically hopes that my mother gets sick and sufferers he's not just praying for scene I remember every single really it will it I will I will be dead and gone and still remember every single word that man set because it how she was expressing her love for me have you forgiven your grandmother I have to take it took a long time the thing about writing a memoir is dialogue comes up inevitably people need to talk and obviously I can't remember what I my mom and I said to each other on the phone at different moments but at this point I'm like Christians like this been a pretty dramatic summer the bar is pretty low from patients for adults to not act crazy so I was already like whatever's about happening church I remember feeling everyone looking at me and like any teenager can being distracted by that look you're embarrassing me like let me go straight back to the shadow bertone some of my earliest memories are my mother and my grandmother arguing you know like a she'd had been too implausible them yeah over religion now they're site to think about it was deeply it's deeply painful to read about because it's an a painful active love you know I don't think my so when I say the chapter is painful because there are different painful moments in the book it's painful because I feel so sad for my grandmother that this is you know I remember like you know that feeling particularly when you're a teenager you can always tell when people are looking at you owe altar call right on passing away pushed me to to put my sort down because it just felt bigger than all of us it is it is the beauty of the book family member going away to college etc etc in writing the book how much time did you spend thinking about the interplay number in the years before she died my mom was going back to Memphis a lot to take care of my grandmother she was thinking about actually moving from Atlanta where she lived back to Memphis help save them from damnation like that was one thing but the cruelty to say we'll our solution is like to wish suffering another person that shocked me yeah you know you to become whatever they want you to become he's saying in order to make sure that I it gets fixed nine pray occurs on his mother until that happens with my family felt that the battle had moved to a new front that you know it was like we can't we can't keep arguing with carol forever she's made up her mind that seems like she's really stuck to this but between the specific and universal I don't think I thought about it very much I really having that dynamic and and being like everybody has a mom as far as I know you know as I went into the book my but what happens over time with these silences is at some point you begin to actually forget what you're angry about I just like yeah just had silence is to me personally one of the more significant themes throughout the book you see kind of what happens when people stop talking about that obviously important thing I figured out his gender politics most men have not let's be honest he is like a Ford F one fifty speeding down the highway oren gender is intense work and it can be dangerous and so I was like here's the thing here's my pitch like if a man has third and because we couldn't talk about it because it wasn't something that like we could have a knock down drag out argument about it became a silence and you see this position of sitting in conference rooms and midtown New York talking to usually rouge white people explaining like swerving which is to say he is not just dangerous to himself he's dangerous to every other person on the road you know so my memoir like it is me about a time that he actually fought for his life during a violent sexual encounter as reminder this next part contains more discussion of sex and violence out of being like I think I need to move on and I don't know how but I need to move on and I'm not gonNA grateful for this experience but my mom practice neutral Buddhism and that was a huge source of conflict in the only amount and in my family it was like I can't even go into that too much in the book because that's a whole other book and yet towards the end of her life like most of my members of my momma heard loving her family taking care of that so remember gets I remember you know just before she passed away Samantha like Oh Jesus let sightsee the light let him believe all the good one you know you this is your this this curse of damnation and suffering is episodes are available to binge now listen to on point now on NPR one or wherever you podcasts flash forward to college ended up at Bollinger right because she's Buddhist yeah what a piece of work it was like what you know because there's still a scenario insist with an APP that lets you monitor your entire network from the palm of your hand every day comcast business is helping businesses go beyond the expected to do up having a Lotta with a lot of men who were either downright mean to you or trying to hurt you there was the one guy who's into some weird race Mike coming of age story it is about me in the factual events that defined the first early years of my life but also it's a project that helps us under play who has like literally a jungle set up in his bedroom and then there's the guy who kind of comes onto you after y'all hooking up he tries to beat you up the kind of organizing logic was that like listen the work of fighting for our lives of developing our understanding of power justin make businesses run faster they built it to help them go beyond with reliable connectivity and intelligent WIFI that create engaging customer experience the extraordinary comcast business beyond fast visit comcast business dot com restrictions apply actual speeds vary and are not guaranteed exactly I remember like walking across the high school cafeteria and walking to the front of the church always being hugh sorts of things for me and so I remember what it felt like being dragged to the front of the yeah how long did it take you and your therapist to unpack what you were doing they're using the acknowledgments for this book good has like in many ways the story tells uniquely your own but in so many ways the story you tell is one that all of us are going to have to deal with apparent dying a sick as well okay B. 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This message comes from NPR sponsor comcast business comcast didn't build the nation's largest gig speed network oh burgeoning but a better cultural conversation about race and sex I mean the fact that you and I could be having this conversation you know it's interesting you know when I was selling the book and that's just in a pointer because it's such a bizarre experience when the book you're selling a memoir because you you find yourself in talk right now like that's beautiful and really power my theory is that for better or worse many of our early relationships are Kinda like science experiments right lean and you earn experience you are getting to have as much sex as you want but you but you in it took a very long time shout therapies shout out to shout out to feminism shoutout to what I do think is magnetized artie one of the hosts of on point the NPR show that takes you behind the headlines we've done a deep dive series on education and all awful the one thing I think for my grandmother to take me to the front of the Church and in front of two or three hundred strangers his mother is Buddhist tant we have to understand what's going on because when we don't we are a danger to ourselves and everyone else one more break when we come back side And Yeah I mean what you see in the book is me literally using these experiences to try to understand myself I think I was trying in bike riding is like some kind of emotionally Cathartic and once I was able to write about cody or the botanist or whatever you know like the clouds clear it's just wow if that is the cultural context in which people are growing up yeah is it that surprising that this is what manifests in people's lives this cold toxic relationship with my grandmother and I couldn't even remember why most times I just didn't like her much to be honest with you uh-huh which was the end of anti sodomy so until I was a junior in high school technically in the State of Texas gay men could have still been arrested for having sex is a step for it is I'm not gonNA pretend like everything's great but like this is helpful you know and and certainly if I think about a younger version of myself being able to listen to the two of US line to get someone to understand you know in my I'm like you should care because you care of this exactly yeah so I remember that that really surprised me did your ability to show empathy and forgiveness towards him so quickly did it surprise you as well support for answering no I don't think I thought about it the thing about people being deeply cruel and terrible why would you do that how would respond to that what would that allows me to begin to go okay I'm seeing something here yeah the it was a it was based in shamed it was warped by shame and insecurity and racism homophobia and you know and so you were drawing man that would I need to be able to look at dynamics with a sense of distance and I am such a cold distant right I I just like are you crazy but I wouldn't say why I was just like you know and she'd be like Oh sites stop it you know but I remember noticing I was like how 'cause they she had hit back this is terrible this is so dark I mean you know I think for me my major life questions I just have to write about and I don't mean it Felicia you diffuse the situation but before you know it you're right about how you're working through in your own way forgiving him I never thought about that that's really what a wonderful question I just want to sit here aw oh my God like you're trying to express yourself oh I'm so sorry I'm so sorry that you feel this is else purest form of expression and so you're seeing something in that moment even if unfortunately you're the person on the other side of that violence apcoa until that allows me to really think through because it's like well if I have to think about side as a character and to see myself and the problem with that of course is the visionless distorted Bass Return Path you know I mean I think I mean it's ongoing okay no I I think it's well hurt you and he kept saying I'm so evil I'm so evil I'm so evil you're already dead and I'd be like dad
Grown Up Kids - Episode #75 - The Moon-Spinners
"Welcome to grow not kids a Disney. Podcast I only hope that we never lose sight of one thing. That was all started by. Hello and welcome to episode seventy grown up kids. I'm Megan and Katie. And today we will be discussing. The Moon Spinners which is the mother. Hayley Mills Classic. Sure I loved it. We'll talk all right. It's time for the Thirty Second Disney. Hush are you ready. I'm mark yet. Go it takes place in Creek. We have Hayley mills and then the other you know mysterious British dude and the British students in trouble he discovers this whole plot with these jewels that he was supposed to be watching. Hayley mills stumbles into it. I can't remember her character's name her and is there. And then there's these crazy like mafia-like guys may try and kill her and him and then they escape and they get the Jewish back while twenty eight twenty top that. I'm not going to be able to go. I don't know what happened in this movie. There was this girl and her aunt and their traveling than they ran into this guy and she fell in love with them but he was like a thief but it was an actually thief. He's trying to figure out mystery. Dude like trying to kill on. I don't really know why. And then there was the lady. These jewels helped him to kill cheated. Nineteen Katya literally just told you what happened but I still don't get it. Why because I don't know you need me to explain the movies you. I'm about to read the plot okay spite. Tv what no go for. What no I WANNA learn about this. Tell me the plot and if I feel I need to expand upon it I will. I will expand upon it. Okay the plot from Disney itself set against the sun bleached beauty of the Isle of Crete which is beautiful. I've been there. You have the story. Pets a young English tourist against a widely Greek jewel thief mistaken identities and perilous escapes including a nail-biting battle with a windmill lead the junior junior mist detective to a final confrontation aboard the yacht of eccentric millionaire with a passion for priceless gems and pet. Cheetahs look I got the Cheetah Right. I mean. That's a pretty good job of explaining what the movie's about. Oh Man I'm just like genuinely floored at the fact that you didn't like this movie because I thought it was really intriguing like it was one of those films to me. That was like a like a murder mystery. But in movie form it's supposed to be like a hitchcock style movie Like mystery yeah like you said but I don't know like an I've genuinely shocked that you liked it as much as you did because after it was over I was like saw that movie and I really liked it as like. Oh I I seriously like I would watch it again. I think this is the first time this has ever happened. I so okay. So this is what happens. We've got the the girl which I can't remember her name. Okay Nikki who is hails. So we've Nikki and her aunts who are just going on vacation and they are going to Crete and then they were supposed to stay at. This resort called the moon spinners but for whatever reason The owner doesn't like British people and didn't WanNa rent them a room. Do you get why he doesn't like British people know because he was the one that was watching the jewels and he was assuming any British person was a spy GonNa find out that he still corrected. He's still no. I don't think so okay. I think that it was the guy who helped them at that mansion. I think he's awful them. Okay and then he was using the guy at the moon spinners kind of his lake. I guess the right word would be liaison so like he was holding them and he was going to do the hand off to get him the money for the jewels. Okay so in all of this the the man or a young boy really mark mark young man who got in trouble for this back in England because he worked at the bank where they were stored He was close friends with. Who's jewels those were? He was literally just dropping the jewel off at that lady's House on his way home from work and he didn't do the proper protocol of like security and everything because he thought it would be fine and it wasn't. Somebody must've known that he was doing it because as he was going to deliver them he got like hit on the back of the head in the Gills got stolen from him so he was basically like exiled in a way like bad rap. You're not going to get jobs anywhere. Whatever so then he was like well. My only way out of this is if I figure all of this out because I know that like I didn't take them so somebody had taken them so then he got he like caught some lied about Crete and he went there and he figured out that it was in the Bay of Dolphins. So that's why he kept going out diving there every day because he was diving to try and find where the jewels were so that he could take them back and then go back to England and clear his name. Is this making more sense? Yeah but it's not making me like it any better so it's putting it into perspective for me but so guess so then so then. Nikki stumbles into mark's life and mark. Kind of doesn't really want her. He likes her but he doesn't want her to get involved in this because he truly thinks that it's dangerous so he wants to keep her away so that she doesn't get hurt and all of this but then that doesn't workout and she does get caught up in it because she finds him when he's injured in it all stumbles from there and then. Nikki helps him figure out. The yacht is where the jewels are going. So then she sneaks out to go board the yacht and then just like spills the beans to this millionaire s and is like listen these jewels like you can't buy them because this is literally marks like proof that he's innocence. Please don't buy them. And and then. Somehow she convinces the lady to be on her side and they get the jewels back. How did you get all that like now that you explained it to me like straight out okay but maybe that watching it? I don't know I just followed it. I couldn't follow him. Maybe if you had been able to follow it you would have enjoyed it more. Yeah I really liked it. I'm happy for you. I also really love hails and I loved how she like looked older. Yeah she was she was actually eighteen. Yeah so anyway. We kind of went off a little bit on there. So let's talk about. The history of the moon spinners the most descriptive we've ever gotten it was released on. July second of nineteen sixty four. Does his birthday. It is teddy the kitty cats birthday. Teddy Peteris July second. I'm so it's an American mystery film and it stars Hayley Mills Ally Wallich and Peter. Mcken Rian It's a story about a jewel thief hiding on the island of Crete was produced by Walt Disney productions and it was based on a novel by Mary Stuart and also directed by James Nielsen. So it features the quote legendary silent film actress Paulette Negri in her final screen performance. Is that the aunt or something. No that's the later the Cheetah. Oh okay the film features gorgeous on location photography increased by Paul beason rotten tomatoes. Has it at a sixty three percent. Now that explains meal give it a sixty three but before the now's late twenty. I'm like at ninety. I love my that is so good I also just like create was a beautiful background. It was really because there were some parts where I was like. Oh my gosh shied saw that. Yeah I remember you saying that. The one point. I was not with meg on that trip. She was not all right. Some fun facts. So Pola Negri who woman actually find out what her actual name was in there. Madame Habib that's right that's right She had actually been retired for about twenty years when Disney himself came and convinced her to come out of retirement. Just to make this film. She had a pretty short scene. So it couldn't have taken that much convincing. It would probably just be one day on Sunday. I think it's funny though. So she's been retired for twenty years and we find out what from what you just read that. She was a silent film actress. And so here. She has like twenty years. Yeah No Despite good reviews and Hayley Mills having a popularity with young audiences at this time still this film did Kinda Fail. The box office So instead of reissuing it in the theaters it was shown two years later three parts on the Disney Sunday night. Tv show which. I believe it was. Oh Yeah it was. Put into three parts So it costs five million dollars and that made this. This made this. At the time was one of the Disney studios most expensive live action movie. Productions probably had like that like thorough lure action. Yeah there are a lot of like action. Special effects type scenes are like stunt scenes that you would have to do and like make it like you at all like the The name of the AZUSA having to go to create filming and everything for part of it was also filmed in England though so it was like half and half but still a really The Cheetah's name very important was Shalimar. Oh that's cool And it was originally supposed to just be a domestic cat but when Poland Hungary. Read the script. She was like we should get a cheetah so they did I mean I. It was a cool touch. Yeah you're going to be said about this. This is the fifth of six films. That Healey Mills made for Walt Disney. I think that were coming up quick to on her next on her last one. She in the monkey's uncle no that was an no From Jello never mind. I don't know what she's in At the time of Filming Actress Joan Greenwood who played? The ants was married to actor Andrea. Moreau who was the yacht captain. Ooh behind the scenes romance more romance last fun fact. This was Hayley Mills first. Onscreen Kiss Guy Thought. She did a good job with his duty new. Today's classic Disney in Elastic Disney. It was cute alright so characters we have first up his Nikki who that is played by Hayley Mills. So Nicky is. I think she is meant to be about eighteen in this film. Now I don't know sixteen seventeen eighteen. I don't know something like Nineteen Twenty nineteen to but she comes on holiday with her aunt in the book she travels alone a really And she comes across as kind of just one of those people that is like of her surroundings you know. So like she's there and she notices Mark like almost immediately like they like they both do. It's kind of just like connection that Zing Zing But I I mean I like her story arc. She comes across as kind of this. Just almost I kinda WANNA compare her to like bas growth of being like the imagine the parent trap and she is the dad's daughter and she goes from like properly proper to like rugged you need learns. Let go and be a little bit more adventurous. Yeah well she I mean she definitely has the adventure bug though. She's like not. She's not nervous to just like go and help the sky. She's all about it I kind of you hers Griffin Door in this film I wouldn't say Hoffa buff really. Yakushi wants to help in any way she can. She really noses do but she's like you need a new shirt unique first-aid kit. I got you. I just view it as very brave because she literally almost got killed. That's true you wouldn't lay down their life. No just very courageous Continue We have ally Wallich as stratus. So stratus is the bad guy this dude. I don't like him at all. No he was pretty annoying so he was like the owner manager of the moon spinners in he also the one that was doing the handoff of jewels and the one that had hidden jewels and was always out there. Patrolling maybe even me. I'm sorry if I made anybody else there. You're thinking of your thinking on their And he's just not a nice man. I mean first of all he is blatantly. Being not racist is the right word but like you know prejudice against digging through their stuff and they're saying that yeah that's like not okay is definitely being prejudice towards British people On top of that he literally is just kind of he just had like no hold on anything like He. You know anything to get this jewel to where it needed to go and to keep it protected like to the point where he was willing to kill two people which I mean. I guess it's probably gotta hundreds of thousands of dollars transaction but like sheesh. He didn't do a very good job of not looking guilty though He was like Oh that guy he Chucked out right. I know I thought this thing all right like clearly. She's like what's up. Stratus is like just a death eater. Oh my I'm going to agree with that. Because death eaters just like to follow along after Volta Amore and Lottie DA. They don't really know like what morals are so this dude clearly some problems Next up we have mark. Who is played by Peter mckenry so he is the British guy who's in trouble trying to get the jewels back to clear his name and the love interest of Nikki Haley. Smu Griffin Moore or southern. Because dude goes all the way out of the way I mean. His name has been thrown in the dirt. So he's gotTa do something right and it's driving him so much so nuts he won't just like go to another country start over. He's like no. I'm writing many clearing my name and he goes always cre- in like does all this James Bond action stuff honestly. Yeah just as apparently this dude that works at a bank right. I KINDA WANNA put him in Slovenian. He's still super ambitious to like even think too. I don't know I guess it's also courageous. He's a he's a referendum referendum or a slither door. Jim Thome Oh yes all right. Max's Alexis Alexis. I don't really know like we. We see him a lot but we don't really know much of him he's just like super hopeful is Ratto says nephew. Yeah We just like they're your Beck and call. Yeah just wants you to like know everything about his country and like just super proud of like culture which is really cool. I thought that they were trying too hard to make him sound. Like English was his second language. I agree with that. It was like tube broken We'll know he'd be taken but it was like he had perfect English accent but then he would like talk. Like English wasn't his first language as it was like on like to own. So it's like either get somebody who's actually that ethnicity that has the correct accent or like. Gts Yeah just yet. Just having speak like normal I dunno and if that's really the way he talked that's cool. It just sounded like it was. We don't want it to be over-dramatise yeah I feel like it was just done too much. Like that's not actually what he should have sounded like but I would put Alexis probably in hustle puff. Because he's very loyal to his friends. Mr Hope I'm going to do one more. We can do Madam Habib. So this is the millionaire who is super interested in gems. Who's buying this jewel gem from stratus for her collection but she does have a heart. Yeah you would think like. It's kind of scary. Because she's like this. Almost creepy old woman like super-rich on this big boat and the random teenage girl comes in and she gets drunk and try to get the story out of her. And I don't know man you think that she would just be like nope disposable yom she isn't a villain it'll yeah now she's like you. Would she set up to be the perfect villain? But she doesn't turn out to be the perfect villain. I appreciated that And for that I put her in Raven clock. Oh she does seem very muchly room while she's just very wise just smart with like her decisions and what she does. And she's intuitive. Seem very articulate. Yeah really liked her. All right the fun part the phone part for you. The part of the movie and character SMA favorite character is like a thousand percent Nikki. I loved her fussers super. Ba she saves the day quite literally she does actually Great like heroin. I loved her. She comes across is just this lake young girl on vacation and then all of a sudden is changing marks life by helping him figure out how to get this gem in like fully invested in in you know freeing his name basically. I'd she was going to die for him. You would have died for. He was too. Yeah but like they both were going to get the axe. Let's be honest like you know. Stratus wasn't coming back to the windmill to untie her and let her go back to her aunt. You know So Nikki's definitely my favorite character. My favorite scene I really loved the windmill seen. I thought it was really good. Did you hate it no I? I honestly these don't I don't know I don't I? Can't this movie was really hard for me to follow? I don't know why so like I have very broken pieces of it in my brain. I just thought that it was really like. It was exciting daring. And the whole idea of like that was the only way out was to jump onto the actual windmills and then like they're spinning around and Nikki is trying to get off of it and then she kind of does she like falls not so gracefully off of it but like sort of slowly so that she doesn't into herself But I just thought that it was good because you see Alexis. Go Up Untie her. Get her down. Show her how to get down. And then you kind of have to wait for Nikki to take jump and then mark is about to like come up there in helper. But then he's injured because he shot in his arm and he can't do it. You can't hold on tight enough. So then she is just like no. I'll do it. I'll do it. And then she does it bravery. Yeah you know. I'm getting confused because we just watched the new version of the first pokemon movie and there was a windmill that to enroll mixed up my brain. What's who's your favorite character I'll go with mark because he was like no man. I'm not letting someone I don't even know ruin my reputation. Yeah anyone after it. His life your own life like he'd have to start over and he not only is named cleared. You got a pretty girl out of it You know My favorite scene probably like when they show up on the yacht and they walked. She walks into that room in that Cheetahs Ler. Yeah I was just like Whoa Cheetah and it per D- My least favorite character stratus just because he's a bad guy in he has no good qualities. And I'm not a fan in my least favorite scene Probably whenever mark is trying to get the No stratus is in the Bay of dolphins getting the jewels and then mark is coming to like attack. Ham and get them. I thought that the fight that they had was a little bit overacted But that's me being picky because you loved this. I really did. My least favorite is probably straddles is just because he was really used as a creep. Yeah he's not nice is not a guy and he was the inbetween of a heist and he was just kind of scum Lease favorite scene. I don't really like when Nikki again yeah. When Nikki found mark leak in that crypt because this is a weird place and I thought the acting was Kinda weird there. But that's just me. You're kind of weird. I I agree with you What we took away from it to be brave and don't let people walk all over you. Yeah I didn't really know what was going to say that. Don't people tell you how you have to live your life because they think that you're guilty of something when you know you're not make sure that it's known that you're not and don't let anyone underestimate you? Yes Nikki Mott said looks like this. Just those young carefree girl and she is which hangings but she actually has like this braveheart. Any mean yeah. So don't she's the one that saved the day Tis true? I rate this movie at ten out of ten highly. Recommend you can Take that recommendation. Go ahead I fully like a think that Maga's like entitled to that one hundred percent because I don't know what my problem was. I just couldn't get into it. Okay I don't know maybe it was just too tired. You know. Maybe it's happened sometimes. Yeah maybe that's why we hated like the sword and the Rose so much or Rob Roy. Now those real not just bad boy all right. GimMe that Disney memory. This won't comes from Melissa. Dare Megan Katie. I thought I'd share with you. My Most Cherished Disney memories as my family has always loved Disney and Disney movies. Daddy's to to rent my two sisters in I seven videos for seven dollars for seven days at the local video store. The movie rented. We're mostly always Disney family films. Because they were included in the Special. Most often are seven. Movies will be the same a mix of Swiss family Robinson pollyanna Snowball Express BLACKBEARD's ghost the parent trap among others. We loved each of these movies but as a family we especially love Swiss Family Robinson. How many times you watch that movie as a family. I couldn't even tell you and once my nieces were old enough. We'd watch it with them as well. It holds dear place in each of our hearts. We never had the chance to Disneyland. His children but as adults we have gone as family several times the first time. I went to Disneyland in two thousand five a new that it Disney. I knew that at Disneyland. They had changed the Swiss family. Treehouse to Tarzan's treehouse. Before we went and I was a little sad that it had been changed said that they have to keep up with current trends as well. Fast forward to two thousand sixteen. My parents decided for their forty fifth weather wedding anniversary. They wanted to go on a big trip as a family so we went on a fourteen day trip to Disneyworld. That's awesome yes. My parents insisted on paying for everything. That's even more awesome. We stayed at the French quarter. Hotel had ten day passes to the parks. Aided all the fancy restaurants and just had a wonderful time but this memories from the very first day we entered magic kingdom and we're headed towards the jungle cruise when we looked up and saw it all caps. The Swiss Family Robinson treehouse. I just assumed that it was changed. Like the one Disneyland. I may have squealed not an attractive moment for thirty two year. Old Understandable my opinion. I know that it's just a replica from an old movie that that honestly most people don't know about in it's not even a ride but walking through. That tree house was so special. It made me feel in that one moment practically the first moment over trip that every moment to follow in that trip was going to be magical and it was magical with many other cherishing moments. The seeing the water wheel in the fridge and mother and father's room and seeing the pipe organ that they brought over from the ship hearing the Pipe Organ Music. They played when they all dance with. Roberta I mean come on Magic Lou waving my parents from the top of the tree house and just gobsmack to be in the treehouse. Though it was just a brief moment the start of our time and Disneyworld. A really touched me. It was a surprise gift to us. All Cheers Melissa from Langley Canada. Oh and she sent a picture which says quote attached here votto evidence of Mike Lee. And it's hurting the tree house with awesome. That is so cool because especially like it because that thing is still there it is it is an old movie youth. You would think that they would have re themed it. But it's cool that they didn't for these exact reasons right here because I'm sure someone else I was like. Oh my God like I used to watch all time as a kid or something like that and I love that you got to have that moment. Is there for the older Disney fans? You know But that's so cool. Yeah that is. That's the best way to start your vacation. Yes and I love that. It was a surprise. Alright so thank you Melissa. And if you lovely listener would like to share your Disney memory with us. Email us at grownup kids. Podcast at gmail.com. It could be absolutely anything Disney related so just send it in and will be sure to feature it on the show. Oh let's slow me. Grow gets really fun and pod deny tunes the Google Play Store. Stitcher tune in and spotify. So make sure you subscribe so you can get our latest episode. As soon as it's available you can also find us on social media at GROWNUP KIDS. Disney podcast on facebook and at grownup kids pod on Instagram. We will be relaunching are patriotic sometime soon as well. Maybe super soon. Now that we're all stuck at home So be on the lookout for more information. Thank you so much for listening. Make sure to watch. Mary poppins Mary poppins. Mary poppins fight. And don't forget adults with them. All this happy place welcome Disney land is your land relived memories of the past favors a challenging promise of the future.
Blogcast: Hitting the Reset Button During COVID-19
"Welcome to the Catholic apostolate centers blog cast series. Today's block cast is entitled hitting the Reset Button During Cove Nineteen, a cove in nineteen resource written by J Shafer and read by William Tissue. When I made the shift to working from home almost a month ago I was excited for a change of pace sleeping in a thirty second commute from my bed working in pajamas all day not packing a lunch. But when it came down to it, I became restless and had trouble settling down focusing work was difficult being productive did not come easy with my mind wandering for much of the workday I had to embrace the idea of a change of pace but not the realities of what that change really meant. Prayer when I was remembering to make time for it was similarly difficult to settle into. It took me some time to realize what was happening in part because I work in a secular field. Since I don't spend my workdays in the church feared I don't have many explicit or so reminders that point my day toward God. Meetings don't begin with prayer. My daily tasks in conversations with colleagues don't revolve around Church activities and ministry. I don't interact with my pastor or bishop over the course of my day, and though I've made an effort over the years to we've prayer and reminders of God into my daily life, my routine has been disrupted. So naturally, my life has gone out the window. Another piece to mentioned that I live alone. Normally I have a number of social engagements in the evenings and weekends often with Catholic friends, our interactions have shared Catholic identity baked in and serve as additional reminders of faith. Now that I've been largely alone for a month my day seemed to blur together. It's become easy to turn in on my own thoughts and seek out distractions to numb the collective grief for all feeling the loss of. Life and a sense of security canceled plans and the uncertainty of when will return to some semblance of normal. And in the midst of that, I forget to pray. It dawned on me that I've been given an opportunity and a challenge I've been thrust into an UN chosen solitary monastic existence I have the once in a lifetime chance to completely reinvent what normal looks like for me almost everywhere y. Oh the company eight hours of my day five days a week everything else is mind to do with as I. Wish I have a blank canvas. I don't have to dress for work shave or drive to, and from the office I don't have a spouse or children to care for no room and no one to interact with here in my home except God. Choose to I can rebuild normal with different foundation and framework one centered on God but don't have to be a full-time hermit in order to do this. Well, it's a lesson came to me in the midst of prayer and reflection during the Paschal tritium. Something in me tends to go too hard during the especially on Good Friday, and I feel a need to do as much as I can't enter into the sacrifice of calvary and solitude. Wants the quiet of holy Saturday Cameron though I realized that in the inner urgency to do holy week. So well on my own, I had forgotten to be in the presence of God here I was waiting for Easter with nothing left to do and no one to do it with all the prayers and meditations had been said the fasting was ended and all I do is sit and wait. It was striking reminder that oftentimes we need to just be and make room for God to do some work in our lives archbishop. Wilton Gregory in his homily on Easter Sunday. How important. The concept of time is to the story of our salvation and Easter quote resets the clocks in calendars in our lives end quote. Is Especially, true in these days of being forced to reduce the externals we have an. And a choice here. To either enter into the quiet and craft something meaningful and our lives or to just make more noise to drown out the fastness of that. Quite. We've been making a lot of noise lately often without realizing it. Thank God for the reminders of the power of the phrase be still and know that I am God. We all take advantage of this opportunity to hit reset and allow God to direct us in those quiet moments. When we re enter the world in a new normal, may we use the lessons from this time of isolation to shape what that normal really ought to look like?
Gross Week Morning Riddles (11-16-2019)
"Chompers is produced by Gimblett and sponsored by quip. Good Morning. Welcome to Chompers. I hear morning and night tooth brushing show it is gross week on choppers. So we've been learning about. All sorts of slimy stinky sticky iggy gross stuff today. We're giving you some riddles. But I start on the top of your mouth and pick aside. Make sure to reach all the way back to your molars ready three. Here's does your first riddle when you're having a picnic my friends and I come near and if you try to swat me a buzz is what you'll hear. What am I thas lies? Lies are some of the grossest creatures out there not only do they carry a lot of germs on their feet that can make humans sick but the way that flies eat is totally gross. Switch to the other side of the top of your mouth makes circles with your brush over each flies. Is Kansas Bite into something because they don't have teeth so they have to drink their food. Flies land on a piece of food and turn earn a tiny bit of it into a liquid by throwing up on it have chemicals in their stomachs that will turn food into a liquid liquid when they puke on it was the food becomes a liquid. The fly can drink it up Switzer rushing to the bottom of your mouth and make sure you're brushing the inside outside and chewing side of each tooth ready for the next little I can be big or small. My baby's come in eggs and when I want to spend my web I crawl on my eight legs. What Am I? Some people think that spiders are creepy crawlies but spiders are actually helpful to people Switzer rushing to the other side of the the bottom of your mouth. Don't brush to heart. SPIDERS are great at catching and eating insects. That we think of as pests like flies before you go. I have one more riddle for you to think about today. I'm heavier than a piano with skin. That's thick and rough. I Swim in African rivers. And I only eat green stuff Comeback Tonight to Chompers for an answer to a riddle and to find out what gross thing the answer to our riddle does but until then. You're ready to start the day. Three to you. Chompers is brought brought to you by quip grownups. Kids look to you for just about everything and that includes good brushing habits. That's why quip designed an electric toothbrush with time. Sonic vibrations and thirty second pulses to guide a healthy brushing routine. But quip isn't just for grownups for kids. Quick tweak their adult brush with a smaller brush head and rubber rubber grip handle for kids is hands and quick delivers new supplies. Every three months to keep the whole family feeling. Fresh quip starts at twenty five dollars and your first I brush head. Refill is free. GO TO GET QUIP DOT com slash. Chompers that's G. E. T. Q.. I._P. dot com slash chompers.
Episode 210: How to Protect Your Words & Images
"They won't catch why from the chicken wing capital of the World Buffalo New York. You're listening to the marketing above. All podcast your source for all things well marketing and total world domination. This is marketing above all. And this is your host Michael. Hey there and welcome to episode two hundred and ten. Today's topic is a continuation from yesterday. Around protecting your names. Your likeness your brand your imagery just looking at what are some of the things that a smaller local business can actually afford to do. And what are the things that they really should consider doing? So give you the thirty second recap. If you hadn't had a chance to listen to yesterday's episode but highly encourage you to make sure that you listen to it so. Yesterday we focused on trademarking. Your main business name the challenge with most of your business names is that they're too generic and or they're being used by someone else. That already has a potential trademark. So if you're going for something generic like Michael's bakery or ABC moving or your local real estate agent. Or whatever the name that you're you're aiming for the name that you can really already have your business name often. They're not trademark and you can make one of two decisions with trademarks in general the first decision that you can make is not to worry that you will never be able to secure the trademark so something like ABC moving. I'm sure that somebody already owns that particular trademark so you would be infringing on their trademark but it also probably would be just a little bit too generic or your moving company or your hometown. Movers things that are highly generic. That are kind of words or phrases that are just common. Practice cannot be trademarked so like if you were an ice cream shop and you had a couple of different names for some of the things on your menu and one of them. Was the banana split. That often has on pretty much every ice cream shops menu. You have to be okay with the fact that you're never going to be able to trademark that. Now that's fine unless you have something that is secret or magical about that particular banana split that really starts to separate you from the pact. So first off again. I like to look at making sure. You Trademark Your Business Name and I only will pursue a business name for any kind of venture personally speaking. If I can secure the trademark my first digital agency was called TASR solutions. I was able to secure that trademark. My Second Company and agency is no joke. Marketing of which we have that particular trademark so that means that no other marketing agency on the plush almost on the planet. But that's another issue in the United States cannot use that particular phrase for a marketing agency. So that's the first thing is looking up the name of Your Business and then some of the names of any of your products and services unless you're coming up with names for some of your different products and services so go back to that ice cream shop example. What if you called it the magical banana split three by like coming up with something? That's a little bit unique. Michael why would I WANNA do that? The reason that you'd WanNa look at naming some of your products or services. Something a little bit different is so that you can be the only business that can use that particular name if every ice cream shop has banana split. And they're all using similar types of ice cream which there's always a little bit of a difference but some of them are just using stuff right out of the containers. How do you differentiate so you can be a little bit unique? But what if you had the same product in the only difference was that you had a unique name? So it's something that I want you to think about but I will tell you that. In working with local businesses it tends to not be something that's on the forefront of their mind but I'm kind of trying to encourage you to just start to think about it a little bit further now in terms. Of what else can you protect? So if you have some kind of product or system or methodology. That's extremely unique. You can look at securing a patent and that is a process. That's a bit more robust. It's typically pre expensive Sadly it's not a topic that I know a ton about because I've never secured a patent but I have a lot of friends and colleagues that have the only downside to patent says that you have to disclose how your doing something or the drawings for what you're doing and once you do that it's it's out in the public universe so if someone that is able to take that and say oh great. That's a great idea. And then they're tweaking it a little bit and then making their own they can end up securing a patent. That's very similar to yours again. I'm not an expert on patents but missing the people that are local businesses most likely. That's not the path that you would really be going down. It would be securing trademarks. And then the other thing that you want to look at is copyrights so with copyrights you're able to copyright books articles for Tiger Affi mean musical. Compositions screenplays graphics all different kinds of copyrights that basically further. Protect your work. Now the interesting thing with copyrights is that. There's a lot of information on there in terms of do you actually need to go down this path and I personally don't register a lot of copyrights. I register a fair amount of trademarks. But if there are some things that you want to make sure that you file with the United States government You can file all of this stuff Rate over at the US copyright office. And it's only a thirty five dollar filing fee for a single author and what that is doing then as it's putting it in record that a this is your copy written material now the other piece with copyrights and why. There's a lot of people that feel that they don't have to register them through the. Copyright Office is that you WanNa get in the habit of slapping copyright copyright and that little see with the circle and everything with your name Your Business Name With a date that it was written so that you are putting your copyright. And that actually establishes can of common law. That's even the the right legal term. But it's putting it out there that I mean it's copy written so you don't have to necessarily file but the filing gives you an extra layer of protection and I would encourage you to do that. If there are some really technical blogs that you've written for example or did just different things like that that you want to add an extra layer of protection so that your competitors are not trying to steal that or you're not then having to get into a back and forth of them and is this yours. Is that there is did they right first. There's just a lot of different things that you can do there. And it's just one of those again extra layers of protection. So that's definitely another thing that I highly encourage you to look. So you've got the three layers of intellectual property protection so trademarks patents and copyrights the only other thing that I want to throw at you that I forgot to mention around trademarks is that I would love you to also look at trademarking images so trademarking can be words or images. For example. The Nike swoosh is a trademark image. The name Nike is also trademark but those are two completely different trademarks. So if you have something with your logo for example you could trademark your logo. So that someone else couldn't use it. That's just something else to kind of keep in mind and you look at as you're secure in your intellectual property and it's just one of those things that it doesn't seem like it adds a lot of value when you're doing it but if and when you ever need these it definitely will come in. Handy. I can promise you that. Get out there and take some action. Make sure you secure your intellectual property Michael signing off. Good morning good afternoon and good night. I'll see back here tomorrow. You thank you for listening to this episode of Marketing. Above all get out there make a chain and take some action and hey don't forget to leave five star review until all your friends. This is the greatest marketing podcast ever ever. If we look forward to seeing you here tomorrow.