17 Burst results for "Them"
"them" Discussed on Project Life- Taking Project Management Concepts and Applying Them to Everyday Life
"Know sometimes. People put a lot of the responsibility for their career on the company or on their boss. And you know really when you work. It's a trade of value right like you're bringing value to the organization the organization page you and maybe give opportunities for advancement if you're You know providing more value than what Are i guess if you're overperforming right but sometimes people grow more quickly than the opportunities within their companies will allow them to advance. And i've seen a lot of people that get sort of like upset that they can't advance in the same or that they're in and you know i advise people like step back and really like think about what is it that you wanna do. I guess kind of going back to what i was saying earlier like. Okay what do you want. And how are you gonna get there right and you know i actually had people that reported to me in the past where you know that we're really sharp and maybe just a couple years out of college and they you know they. They learned everything at the junior level very quickly. And they're like okay. What's next and i'm like. I'm sorry you know like there's a big. There's a big leap between where you're at in the next level and we just don't have anything in between and i've told people for you to advance. You may need to leave the company. So and i i suppose also not being fearful about that. Bright and I was thinking about this earlier when you were talking that it's always important to be building your network right. I think a lot of times people are like they decide that they're going to fast forward building the network when it's time to look for a job and i'm like no you need to be building your network constantly and i actually advised people not a huge linked in proponent and i advise people get linked in with everybody that you work with or even the person that sits right next to you every single day..
"them" Discussed on Project Life- Taking Project Management Concepts and Applying Them to Everyday Life
"I think a lot of times having an accountability buddy. I mean a lot of people do it when they're working out right that they have a gym buddy And the reason for that is because you know they could just not go to the gym on their own but if you know they have to go and pick up their friend to go to the gym with them and then they don't wanna let that person down and You know. I think a lot of times. We are a lot more committed when we know that we're going to let somebody else down then if we just let ourselves down but i'm sorry i don't know if i answered your question but yeah no age. The a lot of people you know. I i think out there as coaching has become a lot. More popular over the land years You know i've always thought it was a great idea. I in a lot of people tended to still may be opposed to it. Yeah yeah buddy out you know if we have a listener out on the fence on the benefits of actually having an outside coach. I mean you know. Here's here's one of the things or this is something that i've seen numerous times in my my with clients is that they wanted to do something for a long time and like i said earlier like when you hire a coach. The coach isn't gonna do stuff for you right there. It's just like a sports coach right that you're going to be a better athlete if you have somebody watching you and giving you feedback and teaching you techniques than if you're just doing it on your own. It's not to say that you couldn't become a better tennis player by going out and like hitting a lot of balls and watching videos and all that kind of stuff but You hire somebody who has seen a lot of You know.
"them" Discussed on Project Life- Taking Project Management Concepts and Applying Them to Everyday Life
"These are two separate things and once you get clear on what you want then you can start looking at how you get there and then you start you know putting in small goals of how you bridge that gap between where you are and where you'd like to be no the it's great because you know in in our first season last year. We talked a lot about that about the process of achieving the goal in getting ready in. Prepare yourself for the goal reich on a nine to five. I'm a project manager. I look at you know what can go. Wrong can go right. You know in my planner at that aspect in and we really wanted to take a really want to take that same concept or try to invoke that same mindset into just even just goal setting so as you talk that where we were. We separated you. Know what are the tips. They give your clients to kind of really hone in on. What do they really want some of those steps to figure out. What do we really want. Because i'll a lot of people will. Just generalize something throw something you know really big out there but there is some of the details on on how or what. That goal really needs to be. Yeah you know. I think there's there's a few exercises that i'll have my clients. Go through to help get in touch without because frankly it's not uncommon for people to have that you have not in their stomach and say like what's going on right now it doesn't feel right but they don't really know what it is that they want so one thing is to do at a values and really take a look at what's important to me is that family is it. Creativity is at and then use that as a lens to look at. What's going on in their life right now and And maybe when they're looking at things that they might possibly want to do to look at that through that lens and say okay well for example You know with family..
"They're afraid of. I'm going to sound pushy. Bossy or women are afraid they're gonna send bitchy or nagy or they're not gonna like me anymore or somebody's gonna be upset by it. It's fear of some sort of retribution for having set the boundary. Now to be fair in some situations that might be the case. My question to you is. Is it worth having someone in your life. That is going to be upset with you for saturday. Declare boundary 'cause the boundaries. Have to be about you. Boundaries are limits that define unacceptable behavior..
"Push yourself keep yourself going again you know. I told my kids. I was going to do it so i better do it. that was a big motivator for me and also really involving my daughter's entire class in it and it was so cute them. You know all cheering and really makes you just like when you're running a race rate and your year like at your moment where you feel like i just can't do it. I'm just gonna stop and then people start cheering and all sudden you get it right back right and then you're able to move forward so it's that kind of thing where you know i could think to myself like i can hear them supporting me. And i think that is such a powerful thing and also. I'm part of this team. So if i stop what happens to the rest of the team and i want to make sure that i'm doing the best job i can to move forward for everybody else around me They're definitely moments. The hardest thing i think was you know at night when it was cold and you had to get up and go to the bathroom. You'd have to like psych yourself up. Just get just to get out of the tent. You know near like i can do this. I can do this. I can do this. And then i'll do a countdown run and things that you don't think about those things. Yeah we'll definitely so so now now that we transition you you you take on this great journey you you've raising six kids you come back home and now we start to or few years later. We start to write the book. When when did that come about in. Was that always a goal. Or what kinda helping. Spires the book come to to fruition. Yeah i it it actually. What was not a goal so when we talk about asking my family what. They thought about me climbing kilimanjaro. That they were kinda like Yeah okay okay. When but when we talk about writing the book they were like. You're going to write a book so so That was kind of funny but they i. I started in a national leadership position. And through that position i had Quite a few speaking engagements and that kind of really inspired me to continue sharing my stories and to feel the power of you know really being open and honest and sharing the good the bad the funny the sad all of it not just my shiny moments rate like the things that i struggle with says as well and how how impactful that is because You know it helps people again going back to that. You're not alone But yeah so. That was really kind of the beginning of it. I would share my story and people say you should write a book. And i'm like no i'm not gonna read a book but thank you I'll come speak for you. But i'm not reading a book and then i finally you know people say it enough times you know you start thinking about it and they can okay. How many more people could i reach with my message or you know. How do i you know. What is this going to be the right thing and to me it was. I felt like putting my stories down on paper for people to read and something for my children to have later as well And and it was definitely the right choice again a moment in time. That brought me to where i am today..
"I can't do that because it just means you won't do it right like you can do something you can. You just have to set your mind to it and and take the time to learn something or take the time to to put into it Again you have to want to do it right and so as as dead as that realization kinky based on what your kids were saying what were some of the steps that you were taken to help yourself kinda start to change that mindset. What were some of those small things that you were starting to do. The help change that mindset. Sell i it's funny i. I call it mirror moments. So i i do You know when. I get up in the morning. I look in the mirror and think okay. What's one great thing right now. Like what's one don't look at any of the negative stuff. See think of one. Great thing one thing that you love about yourself. You know one thing that you just say. Oh this is great I would do that and he and out also go through like all the good things that were going to happen in my day. Which i think is really important as well. There's a lot of stuff that happens every day that you're like oh to i have to deal with that but you do. But there's always great stuff that's happening as well. You just have to to see it that way. So those are some of the things that i would do but really you know it. It's not like an overnight thing where you just say. Also okay. i'm fine You know we also we all struggle right everybody struggles. I think that realization as well Sitting down at a table of women and having a conversation seeking from the outside like they look perfect and put together. There's no such thing as perfect and adan But you you know you and then you have a conversation..
"The one. That's that's giving us. It's i already mardi underwritten approved. I'm closing fifteen days. I'm marie sitting in processing. Just waiting on contracts you. Boom you know the the age on the other side who's presenting all the offers the go okay this is cashing it and see this or this one's you know be. This is the lender not impressed but this one has a a letter. From the lender a qualification owner from the underwriter can close in fifteen days. And i want dennis get out of here in their approved. They've already been verified and all that. Let's go so keep that in mind especially among on purchases that you you definitely want to have that power whenever you're going into making offers in multiple offer situations where the other agent saying send your highest and best offer by this by this time highest best. There's two parts of the highest is amount of money. That doesn't mean that's one's gonna win. It's a best and that means fast. The sellers gotta go decelerate already. Made an offer on another property and it's contingent on the sale of this house. If they need to get this gone now you know so keep online no most definitely in like always guys gonna have brandies info in bio on our website. No project live. Podcast dot com. So you can link up with her. Facebook i g on. She's making talks yet. Maybe who knows. Like i always say. Just be curious as to questions. This is another resource for you guys brandy for the time. Thank you for the knowledge. And i continue to hope that twenty twenty one is the best for you. You're and We'll have to bring you back. Maybe in twenty two week rehash the issue and talk about refinancing in a few things. Yeah siri are for sure. Thanks for having me from. Thanks many things..
"We're just here to take people's money and we're not. There's a lot that goes in. There's a lot of work on my end. That goes into it to make sure that my clients get the fastest and best results so that they can start achieving their goals. Twenty twenty one. Now if someone is looking for credit repair. I guess what are some tips as people go out shop like a common questions they should be asking or looking for when it comes to credit repair. Yeah who obviously ask about the fees. You know it's kinda get what you pay for kind of thing. Because i've also had clients say i paid twenty five bucks to get my credit repair. It didn't work. Well it's like yeah like that kind of makes sense it's a it's you get what you pay for but i'm you also again. You want to read the person you know. Go with your gut and failure vibes. Is this person really gonna stick with you and and push you through the process here in and stay on top of you Also wanna make sure that they're disputing everything at once Some credit repair companies will charge you. Her item that they're disputing. You wanna make sure that. They're disputing everything at once because you'll get results faster that way in it and it's actually probably comes out cheaper that way and i mean those are really the main things you know. Just go through to make sure that this is the right person for you now. You don't want just do it with anyone right right in. Its it's definitely one of those things to also just anything. Look you know a lot. You know reviews online. Do do your homework and Really looking into a company. 'cause 'cause it is an investment which is is one thing that you should expect as well. This is an investment on one. This is your financial report card. If you really wanna look at it you know. Your credit is your financial report or that. You're putting out to the world so it's something that you definitely want to make sure you're taking care of now. Talk to me about the process. What are the expectations that you tell your clients or at least we should let our listeners. Know like if you are gonna im- embrace this journey like what is. What is this journey as a quick is it. You know sixty day. Is it two years like whoa. What are some expectations. Someone going through the process in expect. be patient. I tell all my clients be patient because especially now with covert. The mail system is slow down at all the bureaus are working remotely slowed down ten ten times fold Which is why. They extended the investigation period from thirty to forty..
"And i'm gonna put all that towards getting on podcast and last year. I got on one hundred podcasts. As guest. who one hundred. I applied to about four hundred podcasts. And i got on one hundred as a guest and almost all of them have been published and the thing about that was when i first started doing them. I was a little scared. Voice was a little shaky. I didn't have a good light. I mean right now. It's a little bright. But like i didn't have a mike i didn't. I had my headphones on the street. Like i was calm. The central new bh. And everybody do it. But i had something important to say. I had this passion for marketing for business for small business and especially at that time. I knew the stuff that i was doing in my business was keeping the afloat rang and i wanted to share that with other people. But i really didn't know how to get it out there. Further because networking was kinda my main vehicle for and so. I started doing these podcasts. And i started i did. Sometimes they did four day by day and these were hour long shows a forty minute shows. Sometimes to our shows is insane. And i would do a podcast and i'd walk away from it going. That was awful. I said this. And i should have said that and i just would like analyze heck out of it and then i do another one behind. That guy was so cool law to do that. One again you know. And i walk away from another one. That was awful. You.
"I wrote a story but the story is also meant to help people because about mastering your mind because ultimately like we all have this gray matter inside us we think will our mind just as space but i know that i can think thoughts that make my heart feel differently and i can think i think really beautiful thoughts by entire body feel differently so my mind isn't just my brain. There's something else to it and it's like okay. How do i get close to that. Because i want to master bat so that i can create a life. That is beautiful. Not just for me. But if i'm like really embracing like whatever divine nature haven't signed myself. I'm gonna make beautiful for life. That i'd be people that i come in contact with and i think that's you know for me. That's one big one of the biggest journeys especially over this past year. Now that's an in that being said you know in. You can put your coaching hat on on this when folks As you talk to folks in regards to their words and in their beliefs how what would be some tips for folks. Taxi kinda analyze you. Know if their words are manifesting the wrong habits or the wrong thoughts to then lead them down. The wrong path mean successful when we talk about trying to be successful and prosperous and achieving their goals. Yeah it's a great question. George i think part of it is if your thoughts are the words or the things that you're envisioning come at the expense of someone else. They're not being successful. Because ultimately real success should be i'm benefiting but so are you because like that at inching like i tell people the coaching is not that i give my client the answers but that i've asked a question that has given them kind of the leverage to ask themselves the question it gets the answer because then when they own the answer. It's like oh. My gosh. I know how to figure this out in my life. That's a very different equation. Then if david says hey george. Here's what you need to do to fix your life because now you're taking my advice and it's like if it doesn't work out we'll dave doesn't talking about it and you kind of have to give your client the own advice. I think in a similar sense like you have to like everybody has a success formula. Everybody like a big admire of tony. Robbins he's been hugely successful At my lead another entrepreneurs hugely successful dean brazos wildly successful. They the best thing they can do is offer..
"them" Discussed on The Strategic Baseball Podcast
"I'll ask him if it's one of our guys pitching they'll tell me. The coach calls every pitch usually about the fourth or fifth hitter into the gay man. I can tell that coach is going to call eighty five ninety percent of the time you know because the coaches are patterns habits and tendencies to their. This is not rocket science but the reality of it is we play in real time man but what might work for that pitcher Days ago or two games ago it might not be working today in this environment might not be working with this umpire calling the game. It might not be working with you. Know the discipline that these hitters are has shown at the plate all the different nuances and pieces. That go into what would what would make me to change my strategy. What would make me change the the way. I'm gonna pitch against this guy. And i think we kinda give this generic kind of idealism and it really isn't it's gotta be super specific to that individual pitcher about what's working that day and then the reality of what's going on in the game you know whether the hearts got a big strike zone whether you know what the other teams philosophy is and so i think when we start stacking that piece into it what we call them and him piece. The me is really you like we just talked about. You know what your patterns have tendencies are then the them piece. Is your opponent your code the team that you're facing that coaches philosophy does he have. Does he have a hitting philosophy. Does he have a a game philosophy to where they take a lot of pitches early the first time through the order. They don't swing at the first pitch. 'cause they always try to run up a pitch count on starting pitcher and they wanna see as many pitches at first time through the order as they came. You know. Every coaches got their own philosophy on how they want to attack different pitchers and how they one attack the opponent..
"them" Discussed on Tell Them, I Am
"them" Discussed on Tell Them, I Am
"I remember getting to Karachi and Sunday. Everything changing the tension was lifted like literal weight was lifted. Often asked to how did we survive? Why did we survive because the train the previous train which will booked on from Delhi to Karachi and my mother just insisted? She said, no, I'm not taking the train. I need to buy some food for the journey, and lintels or whatever. And my father argued with he said, we've been not be able to get any place on the next train is critical leave. And she insisted and then he agreed and on, he would say this was a woman's into Shen being complement to our mother hand. What she did was she literally saved us because that entire train, all the passengers would then kill the slotted. I was fall and that literally my first memory and it left to deep impression on me as to why there would be so much hatred in people that they would want to both my bed nets and the siblings and myself. I've been back to its subsequently over the is one of my earliest essays at been home school. I was at boarding school. And I remember writing an essay, I must have been in the junior Cambridge, which is the equivalent of high school. It had description of a train compartment. And I described it as, as a cost Guetta death. Gos- Catta, a cylinder debt and the teacher, one of the fathers mocking the S his hit this avai striking image at vegetated from and I wasn't sure guy just used it in Ovid's stayed in my mind and then over the as I am constantly having a sort of dream. Not really nightmares but dreams of being a train, and there's another train moving at great speed and bosses me by my whole family in that train, and I feel help us, I feel my arms and ex-con to move have a cell phone, which doesn't work, but the message of the, the dream is that the other train just speeds by and I'm then stranded on my own without any communication with the entire world. And survey lonely feeling. It's only now in hindsight. Look back, and I feel like God, that is the experience. I lived through the same experience that I had my Hindu colleague, had inverse, which means her family was escaping from Pakistan to India and the same same sort of tension. Same sort of problems logistics, how you get out what you take with you. Who do you trust all the same issues she faced? And she was also a young girl than men. I was doing my piece in, in London at soya's I met her and at that time, a handmade very many Indians, and when we became friends, we began to swap stories and joke about each other's cultures. And, and she said, you know, that we were told it if you ever see a snake and the Muslim, you actually kill the Muslim, I because the Muslim is more dangerous more venomous than the snake an ice mileage. She said, why he's smiling as I said, I've heard exactly the same story except in my story to seek. The Hindu whatever and we both smiling, realize it. I experienced were like a a when when human relations break down to that level. These stories assume a far greater importance of their magnified inflated, and they in a sense, personify the behavior of the other, and that is very dangerous. It's interesting, you say that because I'm Pakistani, I grew up in Karachi, and I moved here. When I was twelve and I have never had negative experiences with Indian people are Hindu people, but I do feel somewhere deep down like this, this bias, it's so bizarre. You know, like I am so surprised as 'cause my partner is Jewish like, I'm very accepting and living that lack of hatred in my life in a lot of ways. But at the same time at like, I have this thing even though you live through this, like really time you didn't. You didn't feel that be ideas ahead the images. I had from the discussions, so my claws fellows from the people, I met about inducing, six vague negative. So I had to overcome that. In fact, wonder stand who these people were widely hated us why we hit to them, and that is when I met by Indian print, many as later in London, where really began to understand these people very much. Like us and in a sense experienced exactly as what we had experienced. So when I became adult and understood some of these different permutations and combinations of human relations, I began to get very involved in what's called interfaith understanding interfaith dialogue. And I began to ask questions and began say the people I meet a friend EBay, normally just like us. They just like me. So what keeps them away from me is my lack of understanding? I own prejudice on my own. Ignorance
"them" Discussed on Tell Them, I Am
"My name is Vanessa all in the end. I am an astronomer. I think that is the primary way that identify myself when I, meet new people. Astronauts are on a lot of times ex military and engineers like they have survival skills versus strana mors are fabulous nerds. It's Uman to gaze up at the stars and contemplate the cosmos. There's a there's a Carl Sagan, quote, I'm probably paraphrasing at this point. It's not explaining science. Seems to me perverse, when you're in love, you want to tell the world. I grew up with my parents may data's from Pakistan. He moved to the US in the eighties. Horrible up getting. Okay. And my mom is from India, Mark from our message. Good. There. I have two sisters. We're very close knit family. We love hang out with each other like going home. It was always like the highlight of my day. My parents had this interesting parenting style, which I have started to now be more aware of I didn't have a bed time. I didn't have occurred few. I never had any like rules about how long it could stay on the computer or the or the TV or, or the phone, but it was kind of will lose things where if I wanted to do something by parents would be like that doesn't seem like such a good idea. And then I would kind of be like, oh, but I think it is. So they like, they'd say, well, go ahead, try it, and then I would try it, and it wouldn't be a good idea. And they come back like see. I feel like I'm humble Ryan about my parents really amazing people. When is engineers? I was a sophomore in college. My dad got extremely sick. So he was taking a medication for a rheumatoid arthritis treatment, the medicine was I N, H, I, E so Nisaan and it's known to be extremely toxic. We were not told that my dad was prescribed his medications, so he was told to take this six month course of I h and when he was done with the six months course than he could come back to start his Arthur treatment, well, five months in my dad's sorta getting extremely sick. I is getting very confused. And then one day he woke up and was just completely yellow like completely jaundiced. His is really his skin was yellow. And we took him to the to his primary didn't it turned out. He was having liver failure. <music> Annan ver- when I heard that he was having liver failure. I didn't know what that meant, and I remember being scared, but not being sure why I was scared. A couple days after he started to get a lot worse. And there is one to remember it was the Saturday we were all home, and we had to do like basic errands, like grocery shopping. And we're all going to Costco, my favorite thing ever. And my dad was my dad was feed be used completely out of him. We started to get really concerned. So my mom colds, my dad's primary, who is also one of our good family friends. So he came by the evening, putting I remember who's putting on my dad's shoes for him. Like getting him ready to go to the hospital. And my dad was like kicking him in the face. And he eventually got my dad dressed enough to hospital. And like put him in the front seat of his car with a lot of struggle for my dad and drove him himself to to the hospital. NYU langone. Turned out that his liver was ninety eight percent necrosis, which means that ninety eight percent of his liver had died. It became very clear that he needed a new liver, and he needed a liver transplant. I just felt like as soon as, as soon as my dad was admitted hospital and this need for a transplant became a reality things kind of just felt completely different. And a couple of days into being in the hospital he fell into a coma. Apparently before my dad's slipped into the coma. He told the head transplant surgeon. Please help me get better because I have to take care of my family. I really was not processing like what was happening. Still going to all my classes I still hanging. All my problems, that's just kind of working on this autopilot mode, where I was going about my days, doing everything that I normally would going to my classes in the mornings, and they would take the six train down to NYU Langone and spend the rest of my day. There.
"them" Discussed on Tell Them, I Am
"Hey there before we get into today's story. I wanna thank all of you who've donated to support this show, tell them I am would not have happened. If we didn't have support from KPCC listeners, you really are. What keeps the lights on here? And we need lights to edit and do interviews if you haven't donated yet do it. Now, just go to KPCC pie cast dot org and donate thirty five dollars. And you'll get a really cool. Tell the Miami T shirt. Thanks now to the show. What's that? It's michel. So you might already know if you spend some time stalking me on the internet that I grew up in Karachi Pakistan, and when I was around six or seven this is probably the most memorable Ramadan of my childhood a bunch of adults gave me my sister. Some of my cousins and family, friends blocks of money, and we decide will we have all this money. We got to spend it on something. So we walked down the stairs out of our little apartment complex, and we go out into the streets of Karachi. When you walk out from like, the kid view like lower, you you just look up and you see like a ton of light. So we made a left and we kept walking. My sister is so excited about the money. She has that she's literally throwing dollar bills on the floor as we're walking. So she's just like making it rain on the streets of Karachi. And then we turn another corner. And it's like we enter this like mystical world. We see this, man. A literal snake charmer standing right there in front of us with a wooden flute and a woven basket. All of us decide that's what we're gonna do. That's what we're going to spend our money on. We ask him how much is it going to cost and he says, well how much money do you have? So we count up our money, we tell him, and he goes great. That's exactly how much it's gonna cost. So we give him our blocks of money, and he pockets them, and he pulls out his wooden flute, and he starts playing at and he starts playing you really badly. And nothing happens. It's like the basket doesn't even rattle, you know. And then eventually goes, oh, I guess the snake must be sleeping today. Sorry, like sometimes it's a bad day. And then if felt almost like magic like he just disappeared, and we turned around and walked back home. The adults greet us. And they're like, oh, where did you guys? Go. What did you do? And all the kids start telling them what happened and I distinctly. Remember, my mom used to laugh all the time. But in this, particular instance, she couldn't stop laughing. But I was furious. I was so mad that this guy. Lied to us. And that I should have known better that I kept it with me for years. I decided I would never let anybody get the best of me. But now twenty years later thinking about it. I do remember. My sister was throwing money to the ground and worthies rich kids on the streets of Pakistan trespassing on that man's territory. So was he just doing his job? Or is he really the villain that I made him out to be all these. My name is Amir second. I'm from Chicago, Illinois, and I'm a dancer choreographer teacher and activist. Amir how to similar moment I was playing up in the woods. I remember there's a lot of leaves on the ground, you know? And that's where I remember looking down and seeing like the bees kind of blending in with these dry dead leaves in just noticing them. But just thinking nothing of it. This is tell them. I am. So I think I was twelve years old. It had to be like two in the afternoon. Yes somewhere midday. Sun was out. It was beautiful. It was summertime. I was playing up in the woods with my sister, my younger sister and her friends, and we were kind of running around the woods, and we kept circling this one area, and you know, so I'm running I'm running. I keep seeing them around my feet, not pay attention. And then like the third time I hit that area. All of a sudden, I felt all these little pinches all over my body. I knew my way out of the woods, you know, where like at the top of this ridge. And then you had to kind of run down pretty steep hill. And then there's like a patio and then another hill, that's more cleared. And that's where my mom met me. So. She's starting. She ran up the hill to where I was which was a considerable distance and found me just crying and screaming, and she actually had to have my hair, and like French braids like to French braids is she was pulling bees out of my hair. That's pretty gangster. You know what? I mean. Like, she wasn't swatting them away. She was literally like not caring if she gets done, then I came down to the house. And then my dad was freaking out and they threw me in a cold shower. And when I came out of the shower, I was actually like pulling the stinger 's from under my eyes like there were stingers in my face. And I was pulling them out of my skin that part. I was like oh my God. I remember looking in the mirror like trembling.
"them" Discussed on Tell Them, I Am
"Or at Harry Potter sacred text dot com. Google immediately like mouth, not moving and I think it might have even auto completed like toothpaste like or like like tooth brushing teeth, like whatever it is. I guess how people find out and in the doctor was like didn't know it. I. I was like, dude, I googled it. Spells Paul's like, I know what the thing is like tell me what to do next. That's good. Yeah. It's not a stroke because you don't have other stroke things. So yeah. Spills palsy. Just the immediate confusion, you know, set in I had the school plan and then had the acting class plan. And and I also had a job so could save money. And and then I got this thing. And you know, you go to the doctor, and you're like how long is it gonna last and they're like, you know, could be three weeks to be six months could be forever. And immediately. It's like, okay. There's no more plans. And I was like, yeah. It was the first time in my life where I was like I had to like get into not knowing what was going to happen. But when you're a planner what do you do in that situation you go back to work? It was interesting because you're. Selling phones and stuff and your face is kind of weird. But no one really note. It was interesting because people didn't really notice because they don't know you and they didn't really bat an eye, right? So it's like, I know I talk and kind of weird, but to the new person kind of coming in. They're like, oh, I don't you know, whatever. Hey, I helped me find this thing. And even though they were not really focused on me and more focused on a MAC book pro or whatever oddly enough, it's strangers where the most comforting to Romney. They're so concerned with their own lives that they don't even notice that. There's something wrong with him. It was still subconsciously very nice to be around a bunch of people who didn't have any sort of expectation of what you should look like therefore didn't realize that something was off. And then you could just go about the day. And so. That was really important made me evaluate a lot of the things like Meyer relationship to my body to my face. But it also made me kind of prioritize things that actually were important to me. I do think there's always a big difference between you know, what you believe. And then what you do. I think this experience helped make that gap a lot smaller. Because I I realized you know, what was important to me. And what what I needed to do. I start going back to acting class. Probably like two months in. I just remember one morning. Fed fallen asleep on the couch, and I woke up I was twitching. And I was like oh, man. This is amazing. I can move like it's gonna move it's going to start healing. 'cause they they would just keep saying wait for the twitch wait for the twitch. And I started twitching my cheek started twitching, and I was like us. It's like. Is amazing. Ended up happening with this. When it got better. I. I immediately dropped out of school. I dropped out of university. I was like, okay, cool. I'm just I'm going all in on acting and then three weeks later ibook an acting job that takes me to LA and in the following month. I moved to LA. To be a working actor on TV show. He spends like a few years in L A and then a couple years ago. He finally goes back home to jersey, and he and his friend from high school. They decide to catch up Rami offers to pick his friend up a firm move to LA hadn't really driven around my town for six or seven years. And pick up a friend. We go out, and I take him news place, my friend from high school, I take his place driving down the street. And as we're talking I'm not even paying attention to the road. And I totally subconsciously swerve out of the way of this pop. Whole that's on the road. And we keep going on a drop them off. And then I was sitting in my car for a moment after he got out. And I couldn't stop thinking about this. Because I was like oh, man. I haven't been down this street for like maybe seven years, and I somehow remembered that there was pothole in the middle of the road. Like, I like, very unconscious. Oh, yeah. This things here and hit me in this way. How much do we internalize like that? Like how many things like just like we hit a bump once and then for the rest of our lives. We swerve around them like how many emotional potholes am. I like just like swerving around. I think we all have really deep understandings of the path riposte to be on. And there are a lot of things around us that convince you otherwise or place you otherwise and so much of that is just trying to return to yourself for me. It's. Submitting is just going really inward on that feeling and. Not trying to change it trying to accept it and trying to embrace it because that's the change looking back. It's so formative in his, you know, it's very bizarre the way those dominoes kind of fell from you know, from that that one morning, and it's exciting that had happened. And I think I got to that point while I had it of being. A little excited. At having their street, you know, and and and at having that barrier because it was almost kind of freeing, okay? Nothing. I did wrong. Made this happen to my face. It just happened. So not blaming myself. And I'm able to just. Give in you know, and and really kind of see things for what they are. You
"them" Discussed on Tell Them, I Am
"Before we start a quick reminder that if you haven't had a chance to listen to episodes zero go back and check it out. I promise it'll make this episode a lot better. Okay. On with the show. Hey there. You know, what I'm going to say, it's Michel. Have you ever had that thing happen when you're on total autopilot like there's a Cup of coffee sitting in front of you one morning. You have no memory of making it. Or you're in the middle of driving anything week. I have no recollection of the last ten minutes. How am I almost home? It happens to me so much that a couple years ago, I decided to go to a silent meditation retreat and snap myself back to the present. I came back from the retreat and that feeling of presence it lasted for I noticed every issue on my body. I wasn't thinking about Instagram when talking to my best friend. I wasn't just going through the motions. But I didn't really meditate every day after the retreat like I was supposed to. And like all things the feeling present thing faded with time. Like a year later, I come home from work open. My fridge to make myself some dinner, and I find my laundry on one of my shelves. No matter how hard we try to be present. Sometimes it's the things that we can't control that actually snap us back into the moment. Tell me who you are. And what your best known for? Oh, man. I don't want to get to false off with this. Rami Yousef is a thinker. Like he gets deep gave from therapies that questions. Like, oh who am? I like, that's that's where. I'm like, you know, I honestly don't fucking know. Sometimes a little too deep to stand up writer. I'm an actor, and I have show coming out next month on Hulu called Rami. Which is also my name Rami said this is a story about what happens when autopilot is an option. And what better setting for a story about personal discovery than a college in suburban New Jersey? I feel like colleges is one of those things where the facade of you know, who you're being for your community in your family, and your parents and experts it kind of like comes to a head. Someone to school for political science and economics. So I'd go like two three classes in the morning. And then it'd take the train I was in Newark, I take the train from Newark into New York. And I'd work at apple. And then I'd go to the night acting class. I get out of this three hour acting class like eleven get on the train go back to jersey get this leap at like one AM. And then do it all over again. I immediately was like I can't do this. There was this moment. And I still don't know how it happened because they don't really tell you. Five AM or something this one morning, and I I kind of like wake up, and it's like headache. And I'm just like running around like crazy, and I try to like put myself back to sleep, and I do for a little and then we can Blake seven thirty. And I go to the bathroom, and I'm like, washing my face brush my teeth, and I'm brushing my teeth and. The water and the toothpaste won't stay in my mouth. It's like dribbling out of my mouth. It's like it's like falling on I'm like, and then I look in the mirror, and and I realized that my face is like kinda slanted, and then I'm like trying to move my mouth, and I realized oh my mouth isn't working out. I'll never forget the feeling I felt in that moment because it's just really bizarre because your mouth works your whole life. And suddenly, you just can't move it. And I just had this feeling of helplessness in and almost like a little bit of like a betrayal. Like like my body's betraying me. Like, what is what is happening? Like, this isn't working the way that it should ELS. Like, this is this is fucked up like why is this happening in end? And and it's this mix of like fear and confusion and anger, and and it's kind of very childlike. Actually, you know, I I think I felt like a child. We're going to get back to tell them in just a second. But I wanted to tell you about another amazing podcast, Harry Potter, and the sacred text, you may not know this. But I am a huge Harry Potter fan. The books are so perfectly crafted their like a complete world in and of themselves, Harry Potter, and the sacred tax is like the English class of your dreams mixed with nursing out with your friends mixed with asking the question. How do I live a better life each week to Harvard divinity school train chaplains treat a chapter of the Harry Potter series? As if it was sacred. They read each chapter through theme like forgiveness hope or love and then see what? Meaning they can glean from it because reading fiction doesn't help us escape the world. It helps us live in it. You can find Harry Potter and the secret tax wherever you listen to tell them, I am or