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Voter turnout sagging in troubled voting rights hub of Selma
"This weekend Selma Alabama observes Bloody Sunday but in that city fewer and fewer people are voting and to many given the history it's heartbreaking and even shocking almost six decades after black demonstrators on the city's Edmund Pettus bridge risked their lives for the right to vote turnout in predominately black Selma and the surrounding county in twenty twenty was under fifty seven percent among the worst in the state I'm shocked actually congresswoman Terri Sewell's district includes Selma we of all places you know the importance of voting in every election she says voter apathy coupled with voter suppression is weighing heavily on her now we have to give people a reason to go vote the U. S. census bureau found that a racial gap persisted nationwide in voting in twenty twenty with about sixty three percent of black voters casting ballots compared to seventy one percent of whites I'm Julie Walker
"terri" Discussed on Dose of Leadership
"That it becomes a cumulative experience when you have disordered boundaries of getting real resentful. I love it in your book bound your boss when you talk about if you talk about the bridesmaids you gave the example had you grew up, you know, and you kind of described a lot of our I know people that I know and some elements of my family were like that. You know, dad didn't talk much. You know, he was the breadwinner of the mom was taking care of everything, and then dad comes home. Everything else don't upset dad, you know? He wants to watch sports. Let's make sure we change, okay, you know, and so he starts becoming ingrained in you that you don't want to disappoint, right? And so that's that environment you can out of, which is probably like millions of childhoods that people grow up with not necessarily abusive or anything like that, but it was just lacking in communication and lacking of talking about your boundaries and talking about speaking to your experience, right? I mean, I love how you detail that in the book. I mean, it really, once you kind of confronted that head on, it started to put a lot of stuff into place, right? Oh, yeah. It made me understand. That I learned that an early age that I should prioritize. The way my father felt. Not prioritized. And the example I give in the book that that's actually funny that you brought that up is we know my sisters and I could be watching the last like three minutes of the movie grease. And if my father came down and said, hey, sports fans. That we knew golf was coming on. It didn't matter what. Where we were, and what we were watching, not one of us would ever have thought to say can you wait three minutes? It's the end of the movie, never. We couldn't wait to run out of that room and be like, okay, bye. And so what do you learn? From that, which is you certainly don't learn to prioritize the way you feel. And then you have family systems, mine was one, where there are certain forbidden emotions, like my family was kind of a waspy family, where anger was just out. Nobody could express anger, which of course doesn't mean we weren't angry. It just means it was goes under the ground. And then I learned to transform feelings of anger into sadness because it won't just we don't have the power to stop feeling because we're not God. We're just human beings. And it has to come out. Yeah. So then, as you were saying, before Richard made a good point of it'll then come out sideways kind of like impassive aggressive, remarks because you're frustrated. And that you become this powder keg. It doesn't go away. And so all of that complicates the crap out of being able to know your boundaries and then communicate them because really we were taught. Certainly, I know women in particular, most of us were raised and praised for being self abandoning codependence, like that's a fact. Yeah. Do we have to do that work? Is it critical that I do that kind of in depth analysis of my childhood to define my boundaries or can I just point from day one, not even really fully understanding and go, okay, this is not acceptable. This is a non negotiable for me, or do you have to do the work to really go back and see where it came from? I don't know if there's a right or wrong answer to that, but it's a great question, though. It's a valuable question because we're talking about efficiency and, you know, what if there's no reason to go back even as a therapist? I've always been sort of of the mind, I'm not interested in what happened in third grade unless what happened in third grade is blocking you from creating their life or the career or the relationship that you want now. Then I'm very interested. Right. So I think that we can start in the here and now people who are listening if you're wondering if you're like, I don't know. What are my boundaries and where do I need boundaries? We can start by doing a resentment inventory. Oh, I like that. So you look at, yeah, because that's going to that's going to point you to the real meat of it, right? Yeah. How do you do that? How do you do that? Well, you get honest with yourself and make a list and say, right now. Who am I harboring? Frustration, anger, resentment, against in my life. And you've got to be able to allow yourself to have those feelings because it makes you a human being. You're not a bad person, if you feel that way. But you've got to be specific. It doesn't help in our relationships if I say to my husband, you need to be more sensitive. He's like, excuse me, what? What does that actually mean? We need to know within ourselves. What would it mean? Why am I saying that? Why do I feel that way? Oh, here's an incident. This is what happened. And I felt he was insensitive. Let me be specific about that within myself. This becomes your GPS. Of what relationships might need better boundaries, because we have to have a place to start, like he said, what do we got to go back to all of our childhood, not necessarily? But if something happened in childhood. That you need to understand the way that I walk people through it in the book, because we do a lot of inventories. We do a lot of childhood, looking back, and not to linger forever, but to say, oh, I am this way for a reason. There's nothing wrong with me. I'm not, you know, there's nothing wrong with the way that I am. I learned this and it's hopeful because it means I can learn it. Because a lot of this is modeled behavior. What did we see? Right. In childhood, and that really impacts what we think we're supposed to be now. So I'm really challenging and inviting and guiding the readers to decide how they want to live. How do you want to interact? And is it important to you to be known? Because without effective boundaries, you will only be so known in your life. Do you want people to intimately know you and of course it doesn't have to be all people, but there's no way you can be a successful leader if you have massively disordered boundaries. It's not possible. Yeah. Impossible for sure. And so what would be just I am truly a student of life. And right now, I'm a student of yours. So a lot of.
"terri" Discussed on One Life Radio Podcast
"Listening to one life. Radio right everyone. I'm my gosh. i love that song. It wasn't jesus is just alright. Let i love that dude. There's some great songs from back in that time forgot about the guitar..
"terri" Discussed on One Life Radio Podcast
"In the mix and terry coal we are live from dallas texas and iheart media as well as km et in southern california on abc news talk. We're talking about terry. Coles new book a boundary boss the essential guide to talk through seeing and finally live. Free terry a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert. Okay the five types of boundaries types. One and two physical and sexual. We already talked about physical. Now let's talk about sexual boundaries. What are some examples of sexual boundary violations. Terry somebody really touching you in a sexual way right without your expressed permission. Yeah right so think about your sex your sexual boundaries. Right you alone get to decide what kind of sexual touches okay. With whom how often when the your intimate exchanges need to be so determined so someone coercing you pressuring you or forcing you to be sexual with them or behaving in any way. That makes you uncomfortable commenting on your body. And they're like you should be. You should be flattered even though it makes you feel gross. And it's not flattering to you that that is the sexual boundary violation. Someone grab you massaging your shoulders making the heat on them if you don't want it if it's unwelcome if it makes you feel uncomfortable violation. Yeah i didn't have thought about it as being verbal but yeah the cat calls like hey baby at such a. it's such a violation. It's like i'm not your baby. I remember once when. I used to bartend when i lived in upstate. New york terry. He'll he'll he'll think this is so funny. This guy used to come in and sit at the bar and call me beaver. He'd say hey beaver. Give me a beer and i. I said i'm not for animal that lives in the woods. Don't talk to me like that and this was like in my twenties But i mean people just think they a lot of it is man. I i think they're more violators than than women. When it comes to verbal right Sexual boundaries traditionally tradition yummy and with strangers. I would say definitely. Yeah so crazy. How some people think it's acceptable to talk that to one another. But so how do we measure our sexual boundary baseline part of it..
"terri" Discussed on One Life Radio Podcast
"Is bernadette with junior in the mix and terry coll we are broadcasting live from dallas texas on iheartmedia as well as cami t in southern california on. Abc news talk. We are continuing our conversation with terry. Cole she is the author of boundary off the essential guide to talk to be seen and finally live free. We're talking about what is your boundary baseline and we're about to dive into the test. That's in her book. Boundary boss okay. So does attempting to draw boundaries by speaking up create feelings of anxiety or dread for you. Why is that question so important because if the answer is yes then you need this book this quiz then. You need to upgrade okay. I think that as we go through them and we can really kind of quickly go through them because people know the answer immediately. Do you know what i mean bernard my out like gee i don't know so we go through and then we'll get to the end. Yeah well i answered. I answered no to that one Junior wooded you junior took the test to junior. How did you answer yes or no. 'cause i answered. Yes oh okay well so that is really important too though. And that's a great place to start because you know you should be able to speak up for yourself. Always right in order to be healthy mentally and emotionally. Yes but most of find it very strict inducing especially if you were raised in a particular way where you're supposed to be a good kid you know. Be a good girl. Smile be happy. Don't be a troublemaker. Like all of these things that are in grain and our unconscious mind about speaking up being the same as being troublemaker. Or stirring the pot. Wow wow wow so. We have work to do here. A junior reactor that sounds like. Oh my gosh okay. So here's the here's another question when you are paying for a service. Do you avoid telling people that you're unsatisfied. Yes or no junior that one. I put no von hand ford. I'll let you know to put out to that. I work hard for my money..
"terri" Discussed on One Life Radio Podcast
"You know like i get in there and got my face in the shower you know. Feel so good And yeah dislodge off off the ski. The good is off the dead skin though right. So does the castor oil help with that as well. No it's not really. It's not really a good exploit. Or so. I would say you would wanna you would want to pair it with an fulayter a couple of times a week. Or if you if you remove your cleanser with a wash cost and realize generally that has bullying properties so if you remove it with that that helps. Wow wow wow okay. What else do we need to do is see. I'm seeing here reduces stretch marks. That's a big deal for a lot of women and men because men get stretched to right if they gain weight and lose it. Yeah yep yep so. I'm guessing guessing junior. You have some sense your on your piping up there sometimes. It's possible. yeah no it is. I've seen it. You know. I mean we've got skin it make sense right. You're human being happens. I just happen to anybody. I mean even people. I've seen people that have any that have never even been heavy. I'm talking about like even ten or fifteen pound weight loss or gain get stretch marks. And so i think it's a it's a it's a it's a hereditary thing more than it is right than a weight thing. Yeah that's really a genetic thing you know you can really tell they say this. All the time and people told me this was growing up. You know look at your mom. Look at your mom. See what she looks like. And i'm finding that now. My mom didn't go gray until she was well into her late sixties. Haven't yeah and so you really like you look at your mom and you see what their skin like and what their hair looks like and you can. It really plays a huge part. And so yes that that didn't elasticity very genetic. Oh yeah yeah. It is What else do we need to know about. Castor oil Stephanie before we go to break here in a minute i mean again i just really liked. This is a product that you know when you're looking for something that has multi purposes and you're trying to You know choose something that you can add to your stash that you know could be. You could use multiple things. Use as a cleanser you can use it as a as a laxative. You can use it as an anti inflammatory. You can use it to promote great sleep. It's just a great great great product for you to have in your medicine cabinet or in your closet because it's something that you can reach four for multiple uses and. Yeah i think that in this day and age is a great is a really great thing to have on hand. I mean really and you know you said that it's a you people use it and have for centuries to detox and all i'm guessing now is does it make you lose weight too then it would be like the perfect product right it. Does everything detox of your thyroid. But that's definitely going to help you with any metabolic.
"terri" Discussed on One Life Radio Podcast
"That being and it's it creates a very thick oil so it's a very viscous fluid that's why it's different than a lot of other types of oils is just very thick Very thick and viscous oil and so. Yeah that's Comes from a bean which is interesting what you know. I have to tell you yesterday. We were joking. Marie and i were talking about the segment coming up and and then we were talking. How anti-aging it's good for wrinkles and my hands are just a mess from years of working in the restaurant business and then the spa business and all the animals in my hands are constantly in water anyway so i put castor oil on my hands yesterday. I swear to you. Like i can see a remarkable difference in just one day. Isn't that crazy. And we're not pushing particular product here. I just can't believe right. I mean it's crazy. How effective it is how it works. Well really well yeah. It's a super effective. Like i said it's such a thick oil and there are so there is. I mean some people are allergic to so i'd recommend that you do you like a patch test before you try it Before you would just put it like all over like a large bar body part like that but if you can tolerate it is just an. It's an it's amazingly moisturizing. It's an awesome awesome. It's an awesome oil. What are some of the side effects that a person can experience for maybe over using it. Because you know. Maybe less is more in this case when using castro castro oil. Use it sparingly right. Well the ones on what you're using it for so like for example..
"terri" Discussed on The My Future Business™ Show
"And that's a credit crediting absolutely loved having you on the show. Now just very briefly if we could terry if we could learn a little bit about your website what people will find on and where they're going to go to purchase your books and connect with you. My website is the best place to connect to me. I do have clients in australia. I have barrel racers in australian. I've got mike bungee lady. She's got budgies. Sorry i do of the hard thing for me day. Have to figure out the time difference messed up. My website is. Www dot t. e. r. r. i. j. a. y. dot com. That's my name. And they can email me at terry terry dot com and there's all kinds of goodies website. There's a lot of videos and and if you wanna have some fun go to the press kit which is in the upper right corner in the last page of the press. Kit has All kinds of videos and podcasts and and it's got my my pilot from tv. Show in my sizzle reel from my tv show. And then it's got a little blurb of when i was on falun taylor's of video fallon taylor is a million dollar barrel racer in the united states excited or reading for her. It was really cool. Now is the same location presumably. You're going to be on amazon if you already. Is that correct. Yeah my books are. My book is on amazon. The first one is on amazon. But you could also get it on my website and If you get it on my website. I can autograph for you. Excellent will look. who's on. Yes anybody who's on the show today if you've enjoyed what we've been talking you in and you connect with this and you want to learn more about -tarian wonderful work bid for yourself your loved ones your pets your friends whomever and wherever you are definitely reach out to terry terry.
"terri" Discussed on The My Future Business™ Show
"The median the shaman. No sorry i do. I do use it sometimes for pets. I think because it's sort of saying animal communicate animal medium and veterinary intuitive multiple kick. Everybody goes oh. Yeah no i understand. I think it's very important for the people that are on the code to get some context and thank you for clarifying that. But in terms of his shama shame shaman and shaman shaman. And how's that different to a medium. Roadway design no. They're very different. I think a medium to me only does communication with the deceased either animals or humans. Or both. And i do both. It's really fun and a shaman. To me is means healer and so that's why trademarked and copyrighted cowgirl shaman because you think of a cow gercy down to earth messing with horses and you know this really down to earth is working in the ethers now. I listen to this fascinated. And i'd love to ask you about you. Know you talk about energy. And you talk about being universal. What is your view on all the different energy centers throughout the body to they exist or they oh yeah so happy authors absolutely and if anybody wants energy healing instructions that includes a shocker of the shockers. This includes a shocker diagram and a medical intuitive. Handout shocker my shopper. Telling you excuse me what disease in. What part of your body. I'm happy to send that to anybody but you have to email me to to request it. Now there's a couple of other things that i don't know if you get into it but kinesiology the is and as well as like this i remember going to naturopathy. And he gave me these volumes of oil. And i was weak in one side of my body my leg was wake and he put this volatile oil in my hand and all of a sudden this energy this power came back to simply because of what was made up in the the oil. I could not believe it. Is that something that you believe in practice yourself war. I really believe in that. I always go the natural route if i can. You know. homeopathic and and essential oils. I really tried to to go natural but of course you know if parts were out. I said my hip replaced a couple months ago because there was more plum out from getting on or see too much hard work now. What are some of the examples if you don't want area of emotionally charged diseases. Oh goodness think about breast cancer heart disease cancer. You know anything that's in the in the chest is going to be a heart shock..
"terri" Discussed on The My Future Business™ Show
"Can you work with people like that is it. Is it a talk of ricky type of thing orange. No it's not raking it's just it's just pure energy and i was so blessed to have two mentors when i started out a couple of years into it and i was a mess. I mean really. I was a mess. I thought it was all that in a bag of chips and and and I was really a mess. And so these two gals they really helped me to heal myself and to get out of my own way and do not have an ego. 'cause eagle means using god out and and to just listen for the information without judgment and so there were no limits. Put on it. I mean thank goodness for those. Because i wanted to call me four five times a day saying hey can you look at this over the phone writer and so it. I just didn't think about wait a minute. What doing. I'm looking at house at somebody's looking to buy in new jersey and i'm getting foundation issues and i'm smelling mold and i'm seeing plumbing and electrical issues and i would share all that and and all of that was confirm. That's incredible it's my your life a lot easier in some respects personally. Yeah because even when we are our house lesson two years ago and when i looked at it in the in the listing on i think it was one of their. You know real estate websites. I like this. It's got lots of land but it's got electrical problems in. There's something wrong with the well and of course then. Of course we paid for an inspection. Because i'm not going to just trust my read in there was there was a hole in some of the casing and the in there was some electrical plugs that were grounded and that was it was perfect. It was perfect now. I want to hear a lot of times. When people give readings. They have cards knows us. Is that yours. that's what's making the face. I always want to say no gimmicks. Just god because this is universal energy and people call them tools. And i'm just saying why if you can develop your intuitive abilities clientele why would you use something like that to us. Even appendix into toys and stuff. Yeah and that's what that's what that's what came through to make because i do trust my nutrition from the their face value and i can quickly out whether or not this person is the real deal. Not and i think. Because i'm open to it. My guess. My next question is for those people that are working with your thinking about this before the call did i have to have a level of self belief and be open to suggestions and into your work to be able to benefit from it. Now really not. Just give them what i get whether they accept it or not is not up to me. I mean was believe in that adage what anyone thinks. He has none of my business this year. Yeah so so it phrase me up to where i get when i get without judgment and i share it where appropriate. Because there's a lot of times i get things. Guidance immediately goes yep share. That now i see a lot of different terminologies here and i write them down. You have to whisper the sorry..
"terri" Discussed on The My Future Business™ Show
"Starts off with coffee. there has to be copied. That's interesting and then it's it's been the dogs and the horses food inside the house. Ready heading out Shoveling the newer. I do that. And then feeding the horses cleaning growls coming back in and then starting my day with you know whatever appointments i have. I usually book at least six hours a day. And so i look in the morning and the evening and keep the middle of the day for writing or running errands or whatever else. I've got it you know. So i stay busy all the time and if i have free minutes that's when i start writing again get back to my writing so i grew up on a farm and that was very therapeutic for me to get there and the guy reputation ferreting whatever you wanna call it and then dipping shape so i guess that's a good place for us that where you find that you can relax the most or is there no need for that. I i love my horses and their total googlers. I mean they are you know there. We have haflinger which are draft ponies. Come from the tyrolean outs and not mine. Mine mine were already. I think my were both born and raised here. But i'm just love him to pieces and one of them he bows and then he rears when he's waiting for his food is hysterical and and the other one. She does your zipper on your jackets. Does the velcro on your gloves. And and then she has to give you a facial she calls it kissing that. Just giving you a facial. I seen that in the video. Getting roy now. I love to take a moment to when you approach horses in indiana pit that you have on your property. What he he them site he my job meal well trained because they know i can hear them and so th. There's there's very few times when we're not together. And or having a communication you know so and my horses are very demanding. My mayor you saw me. Give me the facial. She's she can be really downright rude. Where seat well back into me. So when i clean her daughter back and raise leg so i look sweetener utter thinking stern. That's amazing. now. You have a number of different tunnels i'd love to. We could just through them. Niue start talk. Your books Horse whisperer is essentially just an extension of what we've just talked about. It's the same thing. And that's why i love about this. Rick is it's all the same thing it's just picking up on energies. The energies are always there but most people ignore them..
"terri" Discussed on The My Future Business™ Show
"Look i'm going to have to come and visit. You know that this is coming out now and in terms of your gifts because you certainly have a number of them. I would love to talk about the genesis. I guess you'd call it the moment that you realized that you have such a gift because it's not something that you would necessarily know that you head would you. Well i a couple little inklings like when my first husband died i seek cigar smoke hanging in the air and nobody was there and i had i had little inklings. I heard stuff from him after he passed. It was very very reassuring. But i'm really down to earth nevada. Cowgirl i mean seriously so when i had my opening it was pretty weird. I was doing horseback therapy with disabled kids. And i heard nonverbal child He said i was cramping my hip. And i said well here you sit this way. It'll take the crap out and he said. Hey you can hear me. And i looked and i said of course i can hear you. It didn't dawn on me at the time that he was completely nonverbal so we continued our horseback therapy. And i took him off the horse and put him back in his wheelchair. Anywhere back to class and the gal who is helping me said boy he sure talking great and i said well you know just because he has cerebral. Palsy doesn't necessarily mean that he has any kind of an intellectual disability. selected jason. terry. It didn't say a word he can't remember and i always joke that. If i was a horse i would've done about fart snort because they do things at one time in this boot vote so i went into the classroom and they put this point around his head and he had typed islands computer on his computer. Horse lady can hear me so he had finished out just about the time. I got there and then i stood there and talked to him and realize i was hearing his thoughts. So you've got to not be over with a feather really you know. This is a very famous movie with mel gibson in where he can hear the the female speaking..
"terri" Discussed on The My Future Business™ Show
"Rick naski here. Hope you're doing wonderfully well now. This is your first time with us on the show welcome. I hope you take away a lot of useful information and if you've supported us before you've listened in before great to have you back to wonderful to see you here now on today's show on going to be spending some time with author and intuitive cherry. Jay how are you terry. i'm great. Yeah that's fantastic now. Yes now think. Thanks for having me in look. It's absolutely my pleasure to have you here now. We're going to be obviously talking a lot about the things that we've spiky ban off line and also going to be talking about the prices defining emotional causes of this as an how to release it along with technion date live into your sir into be released book on intuitive communication. That's going to be very exciting. And that obviously teaches first responders and caregivers to communicate with those who cannot in different situations. That's a very interesting topic. But before we do any of that terry all. I would love to live more of that. He had we start with these. I live in nevada. it's in the carson valley so where one valley over from lake tahoe. It's just beautiful. We're about fifty miles south of rain on of atta. yes fantastic. And you've got the mountain ranges in the background have you. Yes absolutely saw them. And i thought the magnificent what a place to live. I really love it here. We have mild winters. Usually mild summers usually except this one and and i just love it. It's great horse country now. I remember when i was in the states driving along through nevada and thinking what was looking at on the caps was snow where next fact it wasn't as accurate. No it is snow it is snowing. It's ironic given the nevada desert being. What are these the. It's not necessarily the at the coldest place so obviously you do get some well does are pretty high. There are a lot of them are hidden ten thousand feet in higher and so in good wet wet winter. We'll have snow up there and they'll be skiing through july excellent. What drew you to that location. Well i grew up back in ohio back east in the i ended up moving to las vegas when my mom moved there after she got divorced and i spent about eleven years in vegas and it was.
House passes bill bolstering landmark voting law
"House Democrats passed a bill that calls for the restoration of a landmark voting rights law the house passes a John Lewis voting rights advancement act to restore sections of the landmark voting right law from the nineteen sixties that were overturned by the Supreme Court in recent rulings sponsor Alabama congresswoman Terri Sewell what historic moment not just for us in the capital but really for the people it is about restoring the voices of the excluded the measure faces a bleak future in the evenly split Senate the fifty Democrats need to get ten Republicans to back the bill in order to override an expected Republican filibuster to McGuire Washington
Democrats Unveil Plan To Update Landmark Voting Law
"Hi Mike Rossi you're reporting Democrats unveiled a plan to update the landmark voting rights act representative Terri Sewell of Alabama introduced a bill Tuesday that would update the landmark voting rights act amid a flurry of new laws in Republican led states tightening rules around voting the bill known as H. R. fork is named after congressman John Lewis of Georgia of the civil rights leader who died last year house speaker Nancy Pelosi says Democrats plan to pass the bill when the house returns next week a companion bill brought by Democrats in the Senate known as the for the people act has stalled in twenty thirteen the Supreme Court set aside to keep provision of the voting rights act and the High Court further weaken the law in a ruling this summer Mike Rossio Washington
"terri" Discussed on Don't Keep Your Day Job
"She's like but it's not your thing to fix and you think you're helping but really you're probably impeding the process. She's got a reach a certain place in our own life and you don't have to let her talk to you about this abusive relationship. She's in because i couldn't tolerate that which i see. It was so painful for me to tolerate pain and so i didn't realize that was allowing her to my call and dump like toxically dump on me. I'd be like do this. And i google this and i sent you a book. And whatever and so she'd get off the phone and feel lighter and i'd get off the phone and feel someone just poured toxic waste demo throat and then be sick for days about what was going on in her life and i said to my therapist. Okay but i wanna understand this. I felt like. I had to do everything to be a good sister. I have to do everything and she is like terri. But what you're trying to do is not on your side of the street like it's not yours to do and what really think about what you're doing it's you wanna control. What's happening in her life. And you can't and i was like okay. So what do i do. I just going to be like by and she said no so what we ended up doing. I ended up saying to my sister. Hey i love you and talking to you about this idiot that you're living with this too painful so just know that i'm going to step back but if and when you're ever actually ready to get out of this horrible situation i'm still your person nine months later. I only talked to her few times in those nine months. Nine months later she called me up and she's like i'm ready. I was like fantastic getting in my car and that was decade. That was a long time ago. She got sober with my husband and i helped her read this little lake house that we winterized so she could stay there while she was going to school. She became a nurses all the things he would have done that. Anyway i don't know i don't know but what i do know. Is that the moment. I got the memo and really got it. That what i was trying to do was impossible and that it wasn't what was best for the other person because i do not know what is best for my sister. On her life journey there was such a relief of letting myself off the hook. That was the real thing. I couldn't believe i wasn't responsible for it but then got it and i was like wow. This is not the only relationship you're doing this entire you feel responsible for every human being aggressive your path and you're not so now. Let's look at the secondary gain of staying in that high functioning codependent position right. There's there's stuff that we get out of doing it not just because we're capable and it feels good to help others lot of times. Our helpers by nature. And i just love.
The Most Important Clinical Skills To Learn That Improve Client Outcomes
"Want to just say we won't have time to go into each and every one of these skills but people might be wondering 'cause line you mentioned just a moment ago that there are eight skills at military had referencing the bucks so just to list them and we might look into a couple of these in more depth accurate empathy acceptance positive regard genuineness focus hope eve location and then lastly offering information nodes ice so just to what people's appetites perhaps on what would be available to them if they were to read on and one of the things that glen and i were talking about the store. You all joined us terry was. Is there a skill of those eight that you would consider to be perhaps more important than the others kinda would win out if you had to choose one of her. Would that be if i only teach one of them. It would be accurate empathy. It's the largest effect size of any. It's been around long time. we understand it. Well know what it looks like in how to learn it and we use the first of the chapters on specific methods in our book for that reason that it's the one that just most consistently is associated with better client outcome hard to make the argument against it. Because i i mean i would probably choose them but to believing. Let me make the case for genuineness. Because genuineness is a skill that first of all it's hardest wanted to define it was the hardest chapter two right for me and we almost didn't put it in because the research for it is not as maybe as wrong or pithy as it is for the other characteristics but there is a pretty good case to be made for the fact that all of the other therapists skills. Don't really make a difference if there's not genuineness present. What good is empathy without genuineness would good is acceptance without genuineness and to me. This is a really important skill. Also because i teach a lot of graduate students in brand new therapists and this is always an issue for them right. They don't feel genuine because there's some new and awkward at it and a lot of times by task is to help shape them towards being more themselves as they're trying to do this therapy thing and sometimes i feel like that's my biggest task so i really think the power of genuineness can't be overlooked when you're talking about which when you laying messed
Justin Fairfax Accuses Terry McAuliffe of Treating Him Like Emmett Till
"The old governor who's planning on running for governor again, and Justin Fairfax, the rapists lieutenant governor whose star rose in the Democrat Party after being Repeatedly accused of rape very credibly by women. He became more popular in the Democrat Party and yesterday just in Fairfax is black. And he accused Terri make awful of treating him like George Floyd. And he brought Emmett till into it, too remarkable stuff. These people, the racism that these people spread is just and keeping in mind. They're the party of Jefferson Davis and the Confederacy of Nathan Bedford Forrest in the clan. They're the party of everything awful every racial stain in the history of the country. Bull Connor and Orval Faubus and George Wallace and Robert Byrd and the Oh
NFL flexes Washington-Panthers to keep intrigue in Cowboys-Eagles
"Let's start with. The panthers and washington got moved to four zero five because they do not want the philadelphia eagles and the dallas cowboys to know that they've been eliminated if washington wins. They want the eagles and cowboys to still believe that. There's a chance dominated a chance during that game. So what do you got for. Washington carolina while for fantasy purposes It's well we're going to have to see who washington's quarterback is this week although rate before we got on on the podcasts. Here there was a situation involving dwayne haskins. Where their post on social media of of haskins Getting swag on at a at a strip club without a mask on look believe me. I know that there are Those are establishments where clothing is optional. but in the nfl masks are not right now. So washington is not going to be very happy about dwayne haskins. I think it was Tom pal sarab. Nfl network reporting that the team is handling that internally not happy. I'm sure. I think they want alex smith back this week. Anyway against carolina that would raise the ceiling of this offense. I'm still not one hundred percent. I as a matter of fact. I'm not confident at all antonio gibson playing this game turf toe is very painful so that should mean a big role for jd. Mckissic once again had a huge fantasy game last week against seattle. It was nice to see terri mclaren. Come alive in that game. A little bit with dwayne haskins at quarterback too good matchup against carolina. I would use him as a wide receiver. Three and over last month of the season only two tight end. Travis kelsey and darren waller have been targeted more have caught more passes and scored more fantasy points than logan thomas. He is a tight end. One now against the carolina panthers and i think everything would look better for washington if alex smith can play quarterback.
"terri" Discussed on Everyday Guru
"Everybody, this jared the every day. Guru I with me tiffany. Hey everybody and I have with me Terry. J She had. An intuitive medium and pet psychic. Fell out start off the interview I just WanNa. Share my audience wants to know how did you discover your intuitive abilities abilities. Well about thirty years ago I was doing horseback therapy and I picked a child up out of his wheelchair and put him on the back of one of my horses and he said Hey you can out I have a cramp and I said, you have a cramp in your hip here this way it'll take the crap out and he said, Hey, you can hear me and I said well, of course I can hear you it didn't dawn on me at the time that he was completely nonverbal. Are Horseback therapy lesson, and then I took him off the horse and put him back in his wheelchair and he went back to class. So the gala was helping me the volunteer she she said boy, he sure is talking great and I said, well, you know he's very bright. Just cerebral palsy doesn't necessarily mean that he's has an intellectual handicap and she said, Terri he didn't say a word he can't remember and I mean, if I was a horse, I would have done a buck snort. Of those things at one time in their spook and So I went into the classroom and he had typed out on his computer with his head. They put a band run his head with a pointer and he had typed out horse lady can hear me. So I had confirmation Dan when I stood there talking with him I could hear him. Even though.
Civil rights icon John Lewis to lie in state at U.S. Capitol
"Body of the late congressman and civil rights icon John Lewis is lying in state of the Alabama capital this evening. Earlier, a horse drunk, Hassan carried his flag draped casket over the Edmund Pettus Bridge in Selma, one last time. That's where Lewis and other civil rights leaders were savagely beaten by police 55 years ago as they tried to cross the bridge. France Hill was at the bridge today was waiting out there for you. No respect. At a memorial service in Selma this morning, Congresswoman Terri Sewell. We continue to benefit from his life's work. He's laid out the blueprint for us to pick up the baton. And continue his march. For voting rights for civil rights for human rights. Lewis's body will lie in state of the U. S Capitol building Monday and Tuesday, and his funeral will
Body of John Lewis crosses bridge in Alabama, site of 'Bloody Sunday' attack that helped lead to Voting Rights Act
"Is underway across Selma, Alabama's Edmund Pettus Bridge in Remembrance of civil Rights icon and Georgia Congressman John Lewis. It's one in a Siri's of events leading up to his funeral Thursday in Atlanta. NPR's Debbie Elliot is in Selma. Saturday Services honoring Louis were in his hometown of Troy, Alabama, and its Selma's historic Brown Chapel Church once used for mass meetings during the civil rights movement. Alabama's first black Congress woman, Terri Sewell of Selma spoke at the service. I want to thank the family for allowing Selma To say goodbye to John. Thank you, Selma. Final goodbye comes today as an honor Guard escorts Lewis's casket draped in an American flag over the iconic Edmund Pettus Bridge. That's where Luis and others were beaten by law officers as they marched for equal voting rights. Later, Louis will lie in state at the Alabama capital in Montgomery, Debbie Elliot
How to pick financial products (and avoid analysis paralysis) - burst 01
"Income that can sense. And how we doing without giving up. What's important to us? That is the question and this podcast is getting the S. My Name's Terri Kundun. My Partners Ryan went ahead and welcomed the passive income projects.
"terri" Discussed on The Big 98
"The White Yoakum or Terri Clark for sure you met Terri Clark have you guys done a Bobby jazz so that's an easy one didn't that they that out is it over the phone and maybe never but not no following the story yeah it's like I'm for sure you met Terri Clark like members she was over at your house on Tuesday I don't know why don't remember that I sure is true I want to say he's been here before so I've met him youth her serve that end the violin to what you'll come I have never met the guy I've met everybody that's come into the studio so I'm saying is Dwight Yoakum you've never met him before any I don't think you've met Travis Tritt one of the things that men the others who I've heard you talk about Terri Clark meet her backstage at an awards show never have so I know that did not happen yeah I did not have a yeah and you said how lovely she is and so the White Yoakum you will talk to him at like the Opry in Houston ever happens we should we should have you in on the show because I'm a huge fan and you talked to Eddie about how cool would be to have Dwight Yoakum in here Travis Tritt you've set on the arm and we should have Travis Tritt in here but he has never come in and I don't know if he lives in town or be just lives out of state so you've never met met Travis Tritt okay what all those stories are made up so those those Ryan accurate I only met Terri Clark for the first time last week at the grand Ole Opry yeah I told you I'm at Dwight Yoakum California dirks Bentley show I had a chance I've never met Travis Tritt big family got a Twitter fight once but that's the only time I've ever met Travis Tritt it is was virtually so.
"terri" Discussed on WNYC 93.9 FM
"Bit Terri Clark and that's all she was talking about calls no fear it begins to clean and they well he just keep in the there's no one that is Terri Clark here Clark mentioning Justin that she is going to be doing Instagram lives we're gonna be talking about the trend of.
The Very Real Danger Of Spas Offering Wellness
"This is a matter of trust. Spa and wellness operators must be scrupulous when making claims about the benefits of all treatments and wellness experiences. That was a quote from lease Terry. Now Liz is the CEO all Lisu Mea which amongst other things of course publishes Spa Business Magazine and she was referring to a case with champions which is a very famous spiral parade in the UK. Where they were going to be taken to court by the Local Council on. Nineteen separate charges essentially relating to. I guess false claims making claims about the benefits of certain things that aren't necessarily provable. One of the things mentioned was that a particular recipe or particular item on the menu would help reduce the risk of cancer and that as it turned out was a claim that they couldn't really substantiate with medical evidence or clinical evidence or anything else and I think it's a really timely example of the dangers of jumping on board the wellness wagon these days. Every single hotel operator. I talk to once wellness in this spot in the hotel but don't necessarily know what wellness is you know. Yoga and meditation and stuff like that is the the kind of response yet. But it reminded me also a few years ago. One of the big wellness conferences. Everybody was talking about mental wellness. It was the hot topic of that particular year and following. That event was talking about implementing mental wellness in spas. And of course what. I ask them how they're going to do that. What professionals that I bring in training and they're going to do. How are they going to implement it? They said it will just basically try now existing staff on the realities of mental wellness and how to treat it and and I just had. I had a mental breakdown myself just thinking about it. I mean the amount of the amount of potential in something like that to go really really wrong by just taking existing SPA therapist who has no prior knowledge of mental wellness or mental health conditions necessarily and doing a bit of a Google search or during a bit of short-term course and believing that they can then deal with people's mental wellness issues. It's a pretty dangerous road to go down and I see some spas and some hotels trying to go down that road now with all things wellness we gotta be really careful when we stopped making claims about the benefits of what we're offering at of course inspiring wellness will particularly the hotels power and wellness world for longtime. It hasn't been It hasn't been as big a concern. Because the implication haven't been so great but if we're going to tell people eat these foods that I need to worry about your cancer treatment and things like that then obviously you know we're going down a slippery slope. Priscilla so timely advice from lose Terri. I'll put a link to that article in the comments below unlike to hear comments on this because I think it's going on everywhere wellness
Maren Morris could win 8 at CMA Awards
"The CMA awards will kick off with a medley of country hits over the decades with a who's who of female singers host Carrie Underwood Dolly Parton and Reba McIntire Martina McBride Gretchen Wilson Terri Clark Sara Evans crystal Gayle Jennifer nettles tenure Tucker and the high women Merrin Morris has a shot at eight trophies entertainer of the year contenders are Underwood Keith urban Garth Brooks Eric church and Chris Stapleton Miranda Lambert says she wants under what to win I've never won it but I always look for who should win it based on what they've done that you're for country music I Margie's Arla
"terri" Discussed on The Adam Carolla Show
"What I would have to be wired a certain way to walk over here thinking and then walked back to my sing and brush my teeth territorial. Yeah, I'm crazy. I'm not insane. Also, no, I didn't sinks were not made for pissing Nancy Sinatra with say, some some are better than others. But also, I get it wants to seed was planted times twenty two times on the catamaran. Now, you come back, you're sink, and you think you're smelling something so we're on the catamaran, and he was a Danny was explaining to how I how I like to whiz and all the things and how he was he was like Dr meeting in his mouth in a funny way. But he was clearly upset about it. Now at some point it turned into me regaling. How we with these peeing in the sink stores, but untrue. I did not bring it up. And it did remind me of a funny line every once in a while. And it reminds me of a funny line, I say or usually when I'm asleep or something like one time. She woke me up the middle of the night. And she said your snoring and I went. Good. It means I was sleeping. It's all. I it's how sleeping and I just went back to bed. She wants said. Why do you have to p where I brush my teeth? And I said, why do you have to brush your teeth ripe to shape, its very first? Existential. Now if to say. So many we have to think we hopped on the we we hopped on the CAD ran and went out and how he did not go in the water once again and how he's funny how he live up the beard just in Kate. How did not have the beard? He did not have the beard butter for the mask. And his wife. Terri funny all they do is pay for everything. They don't actually do. They don't actually swim or do or do anything else. So they don't drink swim. That don't do anything just pay for everything and everyone else has boozy catamaran ride. Right. So we all had a had a great time. God look at that thing. That's nice pictures of it. Yeah. Yeah. Some below decks shit. Yeah. We're down below deck. It was it's awesome. It's not. It's always awesome. Yeah. The kids the kids go nuts. It's it's also cellphones phone. I wonder how he had to do NFL pick. You know, sunblock has basically destroyed all warm weather family vacations, because every single discussion is just an argument about sunblock like, sweetie. Did you put the no you have to you have to reapply? Yeah. For two hours. I can see the back your ears. Come come here. No. Well, then you didn't do a very good job. You did not know get your tel-. Well, then tell your sister. Okay. It's like this literally some weird kind of bone of contention. That just follows you everywhere. Where's the Sunday? Who's got the sunblock? You didn't know you didn't put it on in the room. You put it on. It's like a never ending argument about sunblock have you ever posited, the strategy of just letting them burn because the reason I'm diligent putting some luck because I've had horrible sunburns. That's a right of passage, but you're getting a horrible up. Never again. They got another eight days in Hawaii with a lobster. Learn. Well, posit the strategy of letting everyone fucking do everything all time. But I'm I'm a one man say for letting everyone learn I feel certain things you have to go through as a young person in order to learn the lesson of oh don't do that. Again. I'm. Look, don't let your phone get turned off you sit at the Bill. E dinner, not so much our kids, but other kids on the trip and stuff, and it's never ending course..
Who is William Barr, Trump's pick to be the next attorney general?
"General attorney general once during George H W Bush who passed away this week's presidency. And served. Most people would not even remember he was Terri general. That's how no controversy surrounded him while he was in office during George H W Bush's term and James Comey FBI director famously fired by President Trump was asked today. What did he think about William bar taking this job here? And he says that he likes and respects Bill bar. He knows he's an institutionalists who cares about the integrity of the Justice department says he sure he'll use these standard career resources. He has to judge what he should be involved in what he should be involved with. So he's actually saying he's a pretty good pick. The problem here is that if you go back and look at what William Moore has been saying about the molar investigation. You can begin to see why the president might pick him to this job. By the way, he's sixty eight years old back in ninety one to ninety three us criticize the investigation echoing pretty much would Donald Trump said when he raised questions about molars team has made political donations to democratic campaigns bar said, quote, excuse me, in my view. Prosecutors make political contributions are identifying Shirley strong with a political party. And he said I would have liked to see more balance on this group. Now, you're it really doesn't matter. If you make political contributions or not it's not a matter of having to disclose this or not you're supposed to follow the law and the courts, whether you're an investigator. Who likes a democrat or Republican? You're not gonna get anywhere with the prosecution unless you have the facts and the evidence to back it up a court injury supports it. So this argument that well. Yeah. Some of these people may have been Democrats. Robert Muller is running the investigation. He's a lifelong Republican appointed originally to his job is FBI director by Republican. Wow. Now, here's the six degrees of separation comes in as you mentioned bar served as attorney general under president, George H W Bush, but in the early nineties he supervised Muller in his work as the head of the Justice Department's criminal division could be seen as any sort of a conflict. I don't think. So I mean, you know, this guy what you say in private life is. What's really funny is that the the people who are star complaining about bar saying, well, look what he said and private life. Well, it's the same thing that the president's complaining about these. Prosecutors look what they did in private life. They gave the Democrats here that should really have no bearing on whether you are following the law and James Comey seems to have confidence in it'd be okay. I think it's going to be a moot point by the time he gets confirmed into office, which will not be this month will be well into next year. And in the meantime, Robert Muller, the Russian investigation machine is is just chugging along with indictments and revelations by the hour. So he could be all done by the time. He gets into office. Yeah. He says he's to sources ABC saying that bars likely to accept the job if it's offered to him. He still has to be confirmed by the Senate will that be an easy easy thing to do Andy. Or you see that being an uphill battle. Republicans vote lockstep. Yes. They've got the votes to confirm anyone they want. They've got fifty three to forty seven majority. So it's every Republican votes. Yes. It really doesn't matter. What the Democrats say in the Senate also, and you touched on this a little bit too supported the president's firing of James, call me, and he's the one who wrote that op Ed piece in the Washington Post that Trump made the right move. So again could come back to haunt or create any sort of conflict. Andy. Well, we'll see, but he wrote the Toby sandbag the FBI leadership and engaging grave usurp shin of a sorority in handling the Clinton Email probe. It's amazing. The the FBI ended this Email investigation more than two years ago. And we're still talking about James Comey went up today to testify closed door session. In for house. Republicans who will lose the power to ask anyone to do this in about two weeks two or three weeks and publicly they've been saying we want to know what sparked this investigation into Donald Trump. Why why suddenly we you so interested in these Russian connections when we think that the evidence supporting it originally now not now because we know much more about it. But originally was pretty flimsy, according to Republicans and James Comey walks out of the session today and said, well, they pretty much just asked me about Hillary's Email ask anything else. And we saw were that way. Right. Thank gosh. Anywhere before we let you go. You just said the investigation is chugging along. And it is do you see any big progress or any big announcement by the end of two thousand eighteen or before the end of the year? Boy, I wish I had a crystal ball. This is this is an interesting nothing leaks out of the molar investigation. This is the most watertight ship of any investigation. I think we've seen in many many years here. He is the only way you ever hear from wherever Muller is a paper that's filed on a court usually late on a Friday afternoon. Which is why we are talking about this late on a Friday afternoon pretty much every week. Which is why we thank you for being our first guest as always. Eddie. Thank you get some sleep and on again. Are you to that is the great ABC news? Andy Field who is a tireless in his reporting. And we think time it's been a very long day for him on Capitol Hill. More after this on seven twenty WGN. Introducing the amazing iphone