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"You're listening to ted talks daily. I'm your host elise hume. We all have this. Innate need to feel heard and understood so who better to talk about how to be heard and make progress in conversations. Then champion debater. Julia dr in her talk from ted salon. Twenty twenty one. Julia makes the case for being more comfortable. Having tough conversations and how constructive conversations can persuade and move dialogue forward hates. It's talks daily listeners. I'm adam grant hosted another podcast from the ted audio collective called worklife where we explore the science of making work. We're doing a special series right now called taken for granted right interview..

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04:28 min | 2 months ago

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"It's ted talk. Daily emily's hugh teacher strikes student protests and a lack of basic supplies and technology. That was the reality for east african schools when social entrepreneur. Bengals grew up in his talk from ted salon. Twenty twenty he says centuries of wealth inequality is a global epidemic and he shares the work. He's doing to level the playing field in a way that's going beyond just putting computers in apps in the hands of poor. I once watched this video of a religious. The promise school in jamaica there are two teams the yellow team and blue team and the kids are doing great walking so hard and ruining so fast. I'm the yellow team. Asked the lead until this little boy gets the baton and ruins in the wrong direction. My favorite part is wonder of chases him looking like is a battle. Pass out trying to save this tuition and get the lead to run in the right direction in many ways. That's what it's like for many young people in africa. The many pieces behind the appears on the other side of the inequality and they're also running in the wrong direction because as much as we might wish otherwise and aspire to build economic and social systems awaits not the case global development is aries. And it's a race that my own country. Nigeria and own continent africa are losing inequality must seen as the global epidemic that it is from the boy who can afford to dream because of the disappointment that could come with it to the gal keep school in order to sell snacks in traffic just to fund our school fees it is clear that inequality is at the center of many of the world's problems affect and not just the bottom forty percent of us but everyone young men and women would get set on the path of opportunities become frustrated and may not like the choices to make in that tend to get what they think directed deserve or punish those that are zoom. Keep them away from those better opportunities by doesn't have to be this way. If we as humanity make different choices we have the ability. We need to feel that opportunity gap but we just have to prioritize it. I grew up many pieces behind. Even though i was a smart kid. Growing up in correct it town three kilometers from lagos. It felt like a list was disconnected from the rest of the world and one where dreams were limited. But i wanted to get ahead on..

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04:34 min | 3 months ago

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"I work at the united nations and for the past couple of years. I have served as the head of the un's development program when i walked into the headquarters in new york city many years ago. The first thing i noticed was a sculpture standing outside under the flags of the nations of the world. It's called the knotted gun and it's still stands today to me that sculpture symbolizing exactly what the un was created to do seventy five years ago to build peace out of the ashes of war war. That had been defined for so much of human history as the struggle of nations against nations are the kinds still raging countries like syria and yemen that the united nations works to end every day. That's what i imagined that. Not a gun to represent but now another kind of war is brewing. One that increasingly defines the twenty first century with a dominant risk to our own. Survival is ourselves a few years or even months ago. If i had suggested that we're all at war with ourselves. It may have felt strange especially when according to so many metrics humans are on average healthier wealthier and more educated than any time in history. We have more knowledge. More science more choices today than the founders of the united nations could have ever imagined but somewhere along the way we lost our balance in fact think about this. Scientists are considering whether for the very first time in human history. Instead of the planet shaping humans humans are knowing shaving the planet it's called the anthroposophy and represents a new geological era today. Humans literally have the power to alter the atmosphere and the biosphere in which we live the power to destroy and the power to repair. No species has ever had that kind of power before within humans have achieved incredible things together from closing a giant hole in the ozone layer preventing nuclear proliferation to radicalizing smallpox. But we have also taken the earth and all the people on it to the brink. It's not the rational fair what we're doing today. One third of all the food produce on the planet goes to waste. While one in ten people go hungry inequality has become extreme twenty six people on the same wealth as half of humanity based on recent data today seven million people die from air pollution each year about seven million trees the very things that keep our air clean. Cut down every few hours. We spend over ten times more on fossil fuel subsidies alone than we do all. Investments in renewable power prolonging our common habit like a drug running through the economy's veins. You don't have to be an economist like me to know that these numbers just add up that our economic paradigm is neither sustainable nor equitable climate. Change rupturing inequalities record numbers of people forced from their homes by conflict and crisis for all of our power. These are the weapons we have built less tangible than a gun but just as real just as deadly at an epic pandemic and this year for the first time in twenty years global extreme poverty is projected to rise and global human development. A measure of the world's education health and living standards is set to decline for the first time since the measure began thirty years ago. Covid nineteen has not changed the future yet but it has revealed these deep flaws in our present bringing clarity to the fact that ending. This war against ourselves is not about tradeoffs. it's not about choosing between people trees between poverty or progress. It's about choosing to do things differently. In the midst of tragedy the pandemic has also given us a glimpse of what peace could look like where we can see the snow of a mountain for the first time because the smog has cleared. That's what happened in nairobi. My home of many years and one of the city's appalachian plummeted as human activities slowed down

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06:36 min | 1 year ago

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"Features travel photographer and writer Erin. Sullivan recorded live at Ted Salon. Crossover Twenty nineteen. What is the most beautiful place you have ever been and when you were there? Did you take a picture of it. Here's a place that tops that list for me. This is Mesa Arch in Kenya Lands National Park in Utah at Sunrise. It's the traditional the homeland of the Pueblo. Ute and Navajo people and when you are there. It is absolutely stunning. The sunrise illuminates the bottom of the arch arch orange and then behind it. You see these boots and clouds and cliffs but while you might not see is the thirty people behind me who are also taking photos and these these are just the committed people the sunrise people right so when you think about that there must be hundreds if not thousands of photos of Mesa arch taken every week. I've been sharing my photography on instagram. For years and it started to become really interesting and funny even just how many similar photos of the same places I started to see online and I was participating in it so this made me wonder. Why are we taking photos in the first place? Sometimes I visit a popular landmark and I see all the people with their phones and cameras out who snap a photo just to turn and get back in the car walked back to the trail head and sometimes it seems like we are missing the point of you know going to this place to experience it for ourselves or to see it with our own is when I'm behind the camera. I notice the smallest details. The layers of light in the mountains as the light fades at the the end of the day the shapes that nature so expertly makes abstract and yet completely perfect. I could go on and on here musing about the intricacies intricacies of this planet and the way that it makes me feel photographing the beauty and complexity of this world for me is like making a portrait of someone that I love and when I make photograph I have to think about what I wanted to say. I have to ask myself what I wanted to feel. Like when you're communicating through an image every creative choice matters sometimes I plan to share my images and other times I take them just for myself. I currently host a video series on the future of the outdoors adores and from one of the episodes we wanted to explore the relationship between photography and outdoor spaces learned about the research of Kristen deal and her colleagues at. USC See who studied photo taking effect on enjoyment levels. They found that when we were behind the camera. And we're the ones taking the picture. We enjoy our experiences. More not less less. But it wasn't true all the time if the person took the photo solely with the intention of sharing it there is no increase enjoyment. Because they didn't do it for themselves so this points to an important distinction photography can enhance your experience. If it's done intentionally. The intention piece is what matters as a photographer. I've really had to check myself on this. When does it help me to have my camera out? And when do I just need to put it away on a trip to Alaska. I had the opportunity to photograph autograph. Alaskan brown bears. I was on a boat with four other photographers and We were all having our minds blown at the same time in such close proximity to these is animals. And it's an emotional experience. Being eye to eye with these bears gave me a feeling of connection that transcends words and having my camera with me in this case enhanced that we were all creating independently but also all completely in the moment both with nature with each other I so clearly remember capturing capturing the water droplets and the motion as the bear swam and the cute cubs following their mothers that group and I will have that experience together and these images to look back on time and time again and photography is what enabled us to share this in the first place. Other Times I choose to leave the camera behind and and I think that choice ultimately improves both my experience and my work. I recently flew to the South Pacific Island of Tonga swim with Humpback whales us. I noticed myself feeling pressure and a certain obligation to take the camera with me when sometimes I just wanted the pure experience itself and the experience variance is seriously amazing. You're talking about being in the water with a curious baby. Animal the size of a station wagon while you are surrounded by particles that float around you like glitter glitter and the MOMS swims gracefully below you. There were times obviously when I did take my camera with me and those were really amazing to capture as well but the setup if is pretty big. It's like this big box in so this is between me and the whales and at times that feels like a block between you and reality. Is there a difference when it's just your phone own last year. I went to Earl and central Australia. Which is this massive rock that towers over the desert? This is sacred land to on when you are the aboriginal people from this area and the traditional owners of the land there are particular spots in That you cannot photograph professionally because because they are culturally sensitive equivalent to secret scripture to on you so because of this most of my photographs are from either far away or from specific diffic- angles in the park. You could say that some of the most interesting and beautiful visuals in are located in these sensitive areas. But they're not to photograph them is an explicit and direct invitation to learn more about the land its importance and its people. Isn't that what we should be doing thing anyway. So my visit to quickly became not about me but about connecting with the place ironically unsurprisingly. I have found that presence and also happens to make for more compelling images we can probably all point to social media as being a good place to share the images from our travels and from our lives we not only share pieces of the world that we have seen but also parts of our day to day experiences. And if we're applying intentionally ready to the photos we take then hopefully. We're sharing intentionally to for me allowing people to see pieces of my story and my perspective online has reminded me that I'm not alone. It's helped me build support and community to do the same for others..

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09:39 min | 1 year ago

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"This ted talk features fashion designer Beckham McCarron Tran recorded live at Ted Salon Trail Blazers Twenty nineteen The happiness lab is a new show hosted by Yale psychologist Dr Lori Santos she takes the latest science and translates it into practice Michael Effective happiness strategies lorries class psychology and the good life is the most popular class ever offered at Yale now you can get the class to by listening to the podcast science tells us that there's no biological barrier to being happier we can all get their subscribed to the happiness lab or ever you get your podcasts they starting your business was no small feat imminent late nights early mornings and of course all nighters our friends at fresh folks can make it easier fresh books accounting software is designed for small business owners. It's easy to use and keeps you very organized with fresh books you can automate voicing accept online payments Organiz expenses and much more get sixty percents off a light plus or premium plan for six months when you buy today hurry. this limited time offer ends October twenty third good a fresh books dot com slash by now to get started as fashion designers are decisions have the power to change our culture we choose who's cast runway shows and campaigns ultimately who is celebrated and consider beautiful and who's not having this platform irresponsibility one that can be utilized to exclude people or to empower others growing up I was obsessed fashion. I poured all different types of fashion magazine and my local Barnes and noble to be fashionable was to be tall any with long shiny hair that's what I saw is the ideal and it was reinforced everywhere I looked to be honest still this I wanted to be like the models so I stopped eating it was a dark time in my life my eating disorder consume me all I could think about this counting every single calorie and waking up early before school every day so I could run a few miles it took me years to finally released the grip that the eating disorder had over life but when it did if read of so much brain space to think about what I was truly passionate about for so long fashion industry has worked hard to center The beauty that celebrates thin young white SIS gender able bodied models as the ideal is impossible not to be bombarded with images of models that have been photoshop to where there's not a single poor federal or stretch mark incite you don't need to look hard to find examples this Phoenician beauty is damaging dangerous and destructive and we need to exploded immediately the agree one of the worst things I've realized over the years is that my experience with disordered eating is not an anomaly early in fact it's par for the course I think there's a study that says ninety one percent of women and likely those of all gender identities are unhappy with the way they look unforgivable that we live in a society where it's normal or expected for teenagers to grow up hating themselves we've been fighting for fat acceptance and women's body autonomy since the sixties and there has been headway plus size models like Ashley Graham and musicians would be positive messages like Lizardo breaking into the mainstream thank God there's brands like area that have released campaigns without any sharp retouching but we're still inundated with unrealistic expectations I love this quote by Liz who said body positively only exist his body negatively is the norm so how do we change the stigma around looking different or not fitting into this narrow finishes beauty I believe it's by celebrating beauty and all different forms bold an unapologetically but many fashion designers continue to reinforce narrow definition of beauty from the way they're taught in school and into the real world they drape on mannequins that are only four or sketch on bodies that are super stretched out and not anatomically proportion different sized bodies aren't taking into account during the design process they're not thought of so who are these designers designing mm for but the conversation around exclusivity and fashion doesn't begin and end with size it's about seeing people of all different gender expression since different ability levels different ages different races and ethnicities celebrated for their own unique beauty my own work as a fashion designer I started a brand called matt and we're committed to empowering women fans and non binary chroma Babes of all shapes and sizes through perfectly fit garments for every body somewhere has become a huge focus for me because of the power that this single garment can have over the way people feel about themselves we wanted to take our focus on celebrating body types to a garment that's fraught with insecurity on our runways UC curves cellulite and scars worn proudly where runway show yes it's also a celebration I didn't start designing ten years ago with a mission to change the entire industry however inclusivity means nothing if it's only surface level behind the scenes from the photographer to the housing director to the interns who's making the decisions behind the scenes is just as important as imperative to include diverse decision occurs in the process and it's always better to collaborate with different communities rather than trying to speak for them and this is an important black makeup artists Hey Fatuma Thomas who intimately understands how important it is to be able to work with all skin tones it's essential to reading a holistic inclusive output as fashion designers that do a lot of swim we wanted to rewrite the rules around having a bikini body so he has team of Babe Guards to enforce guidelines around inclusion and acceptance at the pool instead of no diving and no running how about celebrate cellulite body policing prohibited and intolerance not tolerated and this was enforced by guards Mama Cox Denise bidault gene Rosero Erica heart an emmy all activists in their own right I've always felt it was important to show a range of different bodies in our runway shows and campaign means but it actually wasn't until recently that we were able to expand our size range in a major way we first launched our curve collection five years ago when we were so excited but when launched it fell flat nobody was interested none of our department store stocked above a size large and if they did it was somewhere else in the building entirely cricket they WANNA be sold a dream they want to see something that they aspire to be implying that are models weren't that but I've realized so much more important to open up this dream to more people I want the consumer to know that it's not your body that needs to change is the close needs to be more options at all sizes and then all retailers there's so finally in two thousand eighteen norstrom actually place to order up to three x and this was a huge game changer for us to have major retailer invest in adding these units so we could go to the factory and really go now we go up to four acts which is about size thirty thirty two having that investment helped us to change and realign our entire design process we now have different sized bodies to sketch and drape on the studio and if more fashion schools top the skills more designers would have the ability to design for all bodies so as fashion designers is our job to utilize our platform to explode this narrow restrictive definition of beauty Michael is that Sunday teenagers growing up don't feel the same pressure that I did conform and I hope that our work contributes to the fashion industry's opening up to celebrate many different identities thank you for more ted talks to Ted dot com uh.

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01:46 min | 1 year ago

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"This Ted Talk Features Entrepreneur and justice reform advocate Marcus bullock recorded live at Ted Salon Trailblazers Twenty nine eighteen high that it's Chris Anderson host of the Ted Interview podcast on next episode neuroscientists and you'll see it only has the meaning that it has because it impacts and is manifest through conscious experiences that exist for somebody for something subscribe to the Ted Interview on Apple Podcasts spotify or wherever you listen one evening after watching the nightly news with my then five year old son he me a question I thought I would have a ton of time to answer I thought the complicated questions typically came eight or nine years old us on look me in the is talking him in and with a very straight face he asks me daddy why would you go to jail my wife and I often thought about this moment we knew this question was coming and we wanted to handle it well but that night I had a question to answer so I decided to tell my son how I ended up going to prison when I was just a fifteen year old kid a friend of mine and I we approach demand sleeping in his car.

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11:11 min | 1 year ago

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"This Ted Talk Features podcast her and actress Shannon Lee recorded live at Ted Salon Rethink Twenty nineteen Bruce Lee is my father and his best well known as a martial artist and action film star as I'm sure most of you know he died when I was four years old but I have a really deep memory of him I don't have those long form story memories that you do when you're older but the memory that I do have is of the feeling of him I remember his energy his presence his love the safety of the power of the radiance of it and to me that memory is is very deep and personal and it is the memory of the quality of his essential nature the people don't know about my father said he was also a philosopher he had a very ever evolving philosophy that he lived and it is that distinction that he lived his philosophy in didn't just a spouse his philosophy that made him the force of nature that he was and still engages us today his wisdom has salvaged me many times in my life when my brother died when my heart's been broken whenever I have faced a challenge to my mind my body or my spirit the way that he expressed himself has lifted me up and so I come to you today not as a researcher or an educator or guru or in a life coach but as a student of Bruce Lee as the starter and also as a student of my own life so my big burning question that I want you all to consider today is how are you let me whenever anyone would ask my mom what my father was like she would say how he was in front of the camera how you saw him in his film uh-huh how you saw him in his interviews was in fact exactly how he was there were not multiple Bruce Lee's there was not Bruce Lee in private Bruce Lee or teacher Bruce Lee and actor Bruce Lee and Family Man Bruce Lee there was just one unified total Bruce Lee and that Bruce Lee at a very deep philosophical life practice called self actualization you've probably heard that term before it's also known as how to be yourself in the best way possible and that Bruce Lee said this when I look around I always is learn something in that is to be always yourself and to express yourself and have faith in yourself don't go out and find a successful person the duplicative but rather start from the very root of your being which is how can I be me many of us have done some soul-searching thing or at least some incessant thinking and worrying about things like our purpose our passion our impacts are our values and our reason for being and that is sometimes considered sort of our why why am I here why this life why what am I meant to be doing if we can grab a little piece of that information it can help to ground us and route us and can also point us in a direction and typically what it points us to is our what what we manifest in the world what we have so our job our her home our hobbies and the like but there's this little space in between the why and the what that often doesn't get our full attention and that is our how how we get there and the quality of that doing and I want to offer her that this is actually the most important part of the equation when it comes to our personal growth our sense of wholeness and and even the long term impact that we make how is the action that bridges the gap from the journal to the external and bridging the gap is a very important concept for martial artists like my father it's how you get from point a to point be it's how you get from here to your target under the most vital of circumstance says and so it makes all the difference there's an amateur are you sloppy. Are you a wild chaotic. Sometimes you get lucky sometimes you're not lucky or are you a warrior. Harry confidence are you focused are you skilled are you intuitive are you expressive creative aware so i WanNa talk to you you today about your how in your life so we do a little bit of spend a little time in existential crisis over why am I here what I meant to be doing and we put a ton of effort into our what our job our career are partner that we have the hobbies we pursue but I want us to consider that our house how is the expression of our Y in every what whether we're aware of it or not and so so let's take an example let's say that I have a value of kindness I'm all about kindness I feel really natural being signed I want to see more kindness in the world is that kindness is that value in the result or is it in the doing are you trying to be kind when it's hard to be kind can you do something you don't Wanna do kindly like fire someone can you leave a relationship with kindness if kindness is the value then are you trying to express it in the whole spectrum from your doing where and trying to do that or are you just doing it when it's easy so I want think about that for a moment and consider you know if we come home and we're kind and generous and loving with our kids but then go to work and we are dismissive and rude to our assistant and we treat them like a subhuman then there is fragmentation in the being of our value and so I want us to consider that how we are in our lives gives is in fact how we are meaning if I am the kind of person that walks down the street and smiles at people and I as I walked past them on the sidewalk and that is how I am but if I'm also the kind of person who makes fun of my brother every chance that I get behind his back that is also the kind of person that I am and ultimately how we are up the totality of the picture of who we are and so I wanNA talk about how do we unite these pieces we haven't defragmentation to understand how we embody ourselves as our one and only self how do we actualize the whole self my father said all goals apart from the means aren't illusion there will never be means to ends only means and I am mm-hmm means I am what I started with and when it is over I will be all that is left so you can employ a systematic approach to training and practicing but you can't employs systematic approach to actually living because life is a process not a goal it is a means and not an end so to obtain enlightenment and I'm going to say a self actualize to be self actualized or to obtain wholeness emphasis should fall not on the cultivation of the particular departments all of our what's which then merges into the totality of who we are as a total human being but rather on the total human being that then enters into an unites those particular departments. you are your how you if you have some consciousness and you wanna bring some practice if you want to step into that warriors space around your how how you express in every aspect of your life then you get to be the best of that expression you get to step into that and claim it an exercise it and bring that being nece through you're doing this into your having this and they're you will find the most profound of your growth you will find a sense of wholeness and ultimately you will leave a lasting the impact on your environment my father was his how he applied the execution of who he was to every aspect of his life he was way more than that kung-fu guy from the seventies he was someone who worked very hard at actualising his inner self and expressing it out into the world and that laid the foundation for what continues to inspire US engage US excite us and attract us to him he was the embodied example of living fully he said I am means and their only means so I'm GonNa ask you one more time thank you fred listening and please consider for you that's the spectrum of you're doing how are you thank you Mortada Dot com.

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12:01 min | 1 year ago

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"This Ted talk features social psychologist. Heidi grant recorded live at Ted salon rethink twenty nineteen. Hello. It's Chris Anderson here. Those of the Ted interview podcast on the next episode MIT research, scientist, Andrew, McAfee and the scary. But exciting future of our work lives driven by the coming off official intelligence revelation. I kind of believe that in the rest of my lifetime. I am going to live to see peak jobs or peak labor. Subscribe to the Ted interview wherever you listen. So asking for help is basically the worst. Right. I don't I don't have actually never seen it on one of those top ten lists of things people fear, like public, speaking, and death. But I'm pretty sure it actually belongs there, even though in many ways, it's foolish for us to be afraid to admit that we need help. Whether it's from a loved one or a friend or from a co worker, or even from a stranger, somehow, it always feels just a little bit uncomfortable and embarrassing to actually ask for help, which is, of course, why most of us try to avoid asking for help whenever humanly possible. My father was one of those legions of fathers who I swear would rather drive through an alligator infested swamp than actually asked someone for help getting back to the road when I was a kid. We took a family vacation, we drove from our home. South jersey to colonial Williamsburg. And I remember, we got really badly lost, and my mother and I pleaded with him to please just pullover and ask for directions. Back to the highway, and he absolutely refused. And in fact, assured us that we were not lost. He had just always wanted to know what was over here. So if we're going to ask for help, and we have to we all do practically every day, the only way we're going to even begin to get comfortable with it is to get good at it to actually increase the chances that when you ask for help from someone they're actually going to say, yes, and not only that, but they're going to find it actually satisfying, and rewarding to help you because that way, they'll be motivated to continue to help you into the future. So research that I and some of my colleagues have done has shed a lot of light on why it is that sometimes people say yes to our requests for help, and why sometimes they say, no, no. Let me just start by saying right now. If you need help you are going to have to ask for it out loud. Okay, we all to some extent suffer from something that's like holidays. Call the allusion of transparency basically the mistaken belief that our thoughts and our feelings and. Our needs are really obvious to other people. This is not true, but we believe it. And so we mostly stand around waiting for someone to notice our needs and then spontaneously offered to help us with it. This is a really really bad assumption. In fact, not only is it very difficult to tell what your needs are. But even the people close to you often struggle to understand how they can support you. My partner has actually had to adopt the habit of asking me multiple times a day, are you, okay? Do you need anything because I am so so bad at signaling when I need someone's help? Now he is more patient than I deserve, and much more proactive much more about helping than any of us have any right to expect other people to be. So if you need help you're going to have to ask for it. And by the way, even when someone can tell that you need help, how do they know that you want it? Did you ever try to give unsolicited help to someone who had turns out? It did not actually want your help in the first place. They get nasty real quick. Don't they the other day? True story. My teenage daughter was getting dressed for school. And I decided to give her some unsolicited help about that. I haven't think she looks amazing in brighter colors. She tends to prefer sort of darker, more neutral, tones. And so I said very helpfully that I thought media, she could go back upstairs and try to find something a little less somber. So if looks could kill I would not be standing here right now. We really can't blame other people for not just spontaneously offering to help us when we don't actually know that. That's what is wanted. In fact, actually research shows that ninety percent of the help that co-workers give one another in the workplace is in response to explicit requests for health. So you're gonna have to say the words I need your help. There's no getting around it now to be good at it to make sure that people actually do help you. When you ask for it. There are a few other things that are very helpful to keep in mind. First thing when you ask, for help, be very, very specific about the help you want, and why they sort of indirect requests for help actually aren't very helpful to the helper. Right. We don't actually know what it is you want from us and just as important. We don't know. Whether or not, we can be successful in giving you the help. Nobody wants to give bad help lake me. You probably get some of these requests from perfectly pleasant strangers on Lincoln who wanna do things like get together over coffee and connect, or pick your brain. I nor these requests, literally every time and it's nothing. I'm not a nice Verson. It's just that when I don't know what it is. You want from me, like the kind of help. You're hoping that I can provide I'm not interested. Nobody is, I'd have been much more interested, if they had just come out and said, whatever it was they were hoping to get from me, because I'm pretty sure they had something specific in mind. So go ahead and say, I'm hoping to discuss opportunities to work in your company or I'd like to propose a joint research project in an area. I know you're interested in or I'd like your advice on getting into medical school, technically. I can't help you with that last one because I'm not that kind of Dr. But I could point you in the direction of someone who could. Okay, so second. This is really important. Please avoid disclaimers apologies. And bribes really, really important. So do any of these sound familiar? I'm so, so sorry that I have to ask you for this. I, I really hate bothering you with this. If I had any way of doing this without your help. I would sometimes it feels like people are so eager to prove that they're not weak and greedy when they ask you for help, they're completely missing out on how uncomfortable their making you feel. And by the way, how am I supposed to find it satisfying to help you? If you really hated having to ask me for help, and while it's perfectly perfectly acceptable to pay strangers to do things for you. You need to be very, very careful when it comes to incentivizing your friends and coworkers when you have a relationship with someone helping one another is actually a natural part of that relationship. It's how we show one another that we care if you introduce incentives or payments into that, what can happen. Is it starts to feel like it isn't a relationship? It's a transaction and that actually is experienced as distancing, which I Rana cly makes people less likely to help you, so a spontaneous gift after someone gives you some help to show, your appreciation and gratitude, perfectly fine and offer to pay your best friend to help you move into your new apartment is not. Okay. Third rule. And I really mean this one, please do not ask for help over Email or text. Really seriously? Please don't Email in text are impersonal. And I realize sometimes there's no alternative. But mostly what happens is we like to ask for help over Email and text because it feels less awkward for us to do, so, what else feels less awkward over Email in text telling, you know, and it turns out there's research to support this in person requ. Wests for help are thirty times more likely to get a yes, then a request made by Email. So when something is really important, you really need. Someone's help make FaceTime to make the request or use your phone as a phone. To ask for the health that you need ok. Last one. And this is actually a really really important one in probably the one that is most overlooked, when it comes to ask them for help when you ask someone for their help, and they say, yes, follow up with them afterward. There's a common misconception that what's rewarding about helping is the act of helping itself. This is not true. What is rewarding about helping is knowing that your help landed that it had impact that you were affective, if I have no idea how my help affected you. How am I supposed to feel about it? This happened. I was a university professor for many years. I wrote lots and lots of letters of recommendation for people to get jobs or to go into graduate school, and probably about ninety five percent of them. I have no idea what happened. Now. How do I feel about sort of the time and effort, I took to do that, when I really have no idea? If I helped you, if it actually helps you get the thing that you wanted. In fact, this idea of feeling effective is part of why. Certain kinds of donor appeals are so, so persuasive because they allow you to really vividly imagined the effect that your health is going to have so take something like donors. Choose you go online. You can choose the individual teacher by name, who's classroom that you're going to be able to help by by literally buying the specific items, they've requested like microscopes, or laugh, tops or flexible, seating, an appeal like that makes it so easy for me to imagine the good that my money will do that. I actually get an immediate sense of affective nece the minute, I commit to giving. But you know what else they do? They follow up. So donors actually, get letters from the kids in the classroom, they get pictures. They get to know that they made a difference. And this is something we need to all be doing in our everyday lives, especially if we want people to continue to give us help over the long term take time to tell your colleague that the help that they gave you really helped you land that big sale. Or helped you get that interview that you were really hoping to get take time to tell your partner that the support they gave you really made it possible for you to get through a tough time. Take time to tell your cat sitter that you're super happy that for some reason this time they can't didn't break anything while you were away. And so they must have done a really good job. The bottom line is, I know, believe me, I know that it is not easy task for help. We are all a little bit afraid to do it. It makes us feel vulnerable. But the reality of modern work and modern life is that nobody does it alone. Nobody succeeds in a vacuum more than ever. We actually do have to rely on other people on their support and collaboration in order to be successful. So.

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11:37 min | 2 years ago

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"This Ted talk features writer, producer and journalist. Renisha Allen recorded live at Ted salon up for debate. Twenty nineteen. So on the surface, the kind of millennial thing pieces are made of he's arrogant self centered in convinced that he is smarter than people give him credit for his favorite topics of conversation are girls sneakers and cars freight notice of prize for someone who's a teenager, just a few years ago, but Choi's mannerisms, they feel the patterns of someone who is scared troubled, and then the future now Troy, also embodies many positive, qualities. His generation is known for an entrepreneurial spirit and independence streak and dedication to his parents. He believes in hard work, and his tried gigs, and both the licit and underground economy. But he hasn't had any luck. And it's just trying to find his way and still dances, between both worlds when I met Troy a few years ago, he'd been -ployed as Gulf cat. The at a local country club carrying bags for rich men and women who often never even acknowledged his existence before that he sold sneakers on Facebook. He even tried selling candy bars and water bottles. But he wasn't making enough money to help his parents out, or save up for a car anytime soon to Troy saw how hard his immigrant mother from Jamaica work and how little she got back in return. And he vowed Troy valid to take a different path. So we ended up selling drugs, and then he got caught. And right now, he's trying to figure out his next steps in a country where money equals power quick money at least for a while gives young men and women like him a sense of control over their lives. Though he said he mainly did it because he wanted stability, I wanted to good life. He told me I got greedy. And I got caught the mazing thing about Troy as it. He still believes in the American dream, he still believes. Hard work, despite being arrested that he can move on. Now, I don't know if toys dreams came true he disappeared from the program for trouble youth that he was involved in, in slip through the cracks. But on that day that we spoke, I could tell that more than anything more than anything. Troy was happy that someone listened to his dreams and asked him about his future. So we think about China's optimism when I think, in the reality that so many young black millennials face when it comes to realizing their dreams, I think about all the challenges that so many black millennials have to endure in the world that tells them, they can be anything. They wanna be if they work hard, but actually doesn't sit down to listen to their streams or hear stories about their struggle, and we really we really need to listen to this generation, if we hope to have a healthy and civil society going forward because millennials of color, they make a they make up a fair chunk of the US and the world population. No one we've talked. About millennials a group that is often labelled as entitled lazy over educated, noncommittal and narcissistic. The conversations often swirl around Nava, KADO toasts overpriced Latinos in fancy Johnson, broad, you probably heard all these things before, but millennials are non monolith. Actress Lena Dunham may be the media's representation of this generation, but Troy and other voices. Like his are also part of the story. In fact, millennials are the largest and most diverse adult population in this country forty four percent of all American millennials are non white, but often you wouldn't even know it at all. No. Sure, there are similarities within this population born between one thousand nine hundred eighty one and nineteen Ninety-six, perhaps many of us, do love KADO toast, and law tastes. I know I right? But there are also extreme differences often between millennials of color in white millennials. In fact, all too often it seems as though we're. Virtually living in different worlds. Now black millennials group of a group that I have researched for a book. I recently wrote are the perfect example of the blind spot that we have when it comes to this group, for example, we have lower rates of homeownership. We have higher student debt. We get idea more voter registration booths. We are incarcerated at higher rates. We make less money. We have higher numbers of employment, even when we do go to college, I should say, and we get married it lower rates. And honestly that's really just the beginning. Now. None of these struggles are particularly new right, young black people in America have been fighting really fighting hard to get their stories told for centuries after the civil war, and the eighteen hundreds reconstruction failed to deliver the equality that the industry should have heralded. So young people move to the north and the west to escape discriminatory. Jim crow policies, then as segregation raged in much of the country. Young black people have spare civil rights campaigns in the nineteen fifties and nineteen sixties after that some people embrace black power and then became Black Panthers. And then the next generation, they turn to hip hop to make sure their voices were heard, and then Barack Obama hopeful that he too, may bring about change. And when that failed when we realized we were still boom is and battered, we had to let the world know that are. Lives still matter. Now, as now, when technology allows more video of our pain and struggle to be broadcast to the world. We wonder by what is next our country. Feels more polarized than ever yet. We are still being told to pull up our pants be respectable be less angry smile more in work harder. Right. Even the Milan, even the attitudes of millennials themselves are overdue for an update research done by the Washington Post in two thousand fifteen about this supposedly woke group found that thirty one percent of white millennials. Think that, that blacks are Lazier than whites in twenty three percent say they're not as intelligent. But these are like surprising things to me and shocking, and these responses are not that much different than generations in the past, and it shows that unfortunately, this generation is repeating the same old stereotype type central to the pass now. So he can -ducted by David binder visa. An MTV in two thousand fourteen if found that eighty four percent of young millennials were taught by their families that everyone should be equal. This is a really great thing. Really positive step, but only thirty seven percent in that group actually talked about race with their families. So I can understand why things may be confusing to some. There are definitely black millennials who are succeeding. Marvel's Black Panther directed by black millennial Ryan. Kugler and showcasing many others. Brooke all sorts of records. There's a crop of television shows by creative, like Donald. Glover Lino, waif and ISA. Ray beyond say like the Queen, right? She is like everything young black authors and winning awards. Serena Williams still dominating on the tennis, courts, despite all her haters, and there's a crop of new politicians and activists running for office. So don't kill these moments of black joy that I to revel in, but I wanna make it clear that these winds are too few and far. Between for people that's been here for over four hundred years like that's insane. Right. And most people still don't really understand the full pitcher, right? Our stories are still misunderstood our bodies are still taking advantage of and our voices are voices are silenced in a world that still shows little concern for everyday struggles source stories need to be told in a multitude of ways by a range of voices talking about diverse in nuanced topics, and they really need to be listened to and it's not just here in America. Right. It's all around the world. Millennials makeup twenty seven percent of the world's population. That's a round two billion people, and with countries like, India, China, Indonesia, and Brazil, along with United States accounting for fifty percent of the world's millennials, it's clear that the white often male heterosexual, narrow of the millennial as only telling half the story now there's many people trying to broaden the pallet they're fighting to get there. Stories told him busts a millennial stereotype, whether it's students in South Africa protesting statues a C so rose Michaela coal making us laugh from the UK or who is framing views about Nigerian life online, but they wanna make it clear. I wanna make it really clear to everyone that just because things look more equal than they did in the twentieth century doesn't mean that things are equitable. It all it doesn't mean experiences equable, and it certainly doesn't mean that a post racial society that thing that we talked about so much ever became close to being a reality. I think of Joel a middle-class twenty-something, who did everything the right way. But she couldn't go to her dream school because it was simply too expensive, or Julia. Who knows she can't be mediocre at her job, the same, where her white the same way that her white peers can or Trina who knows that people judge her unconventional family choices in a different way than if she were a white woman, or actor. A B. Who knows that the roles he takes and gets in Hollywood are different because of his skin color him in there, Simon. Right. So Simon by all means would be an example of someone who's made it. He's a CFO at a tech company and San Francisco, he has a degree from MIT. And he's worked at some of the hottest tech companies in the world. But when they asked Simon when they ask Simon if he had achieved the American dream, it took him a while to respond. While acknowledging that he had a really comfortable life. He admitted that under different circumstances. He might have chosen a different path Simon really loves photography. But that was never a real option for him. My parents weren't able to subsidize me through that sort of thing. Simon said, maybe that's something might children could do. So it's these kind of stories, the quieter more subtle ones revealed the often unique and untold stories of black millennials that show how even dreaming may differ between communities. So we really need to listen and hear the stories of this generation now more than ever is the baby boomers, age and millennials come to prominence. We can talk all we want to about pickling pickling businesses and Bush in Brooklyn, or avocado toast, but leaving out the stories and the voices of black millennial large swaths of the population, it will only increase divisions. So stories a blackmail. Feels Brown millennials and all millennials of color really need to be told, and they also need to be listened to. We'd be far better off country and world think you. For more, TED talks at Ted dot com. Ex-..

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06:42 min | 2 years ago

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"This Ted talk features author and policy analyst Michelle Walker recorded live at Ted salon. Imagine if twenty nineteen. So what if there were a highly obvious problem right in front of you one that everyone was talking about one that affected you directly? Would you do everything within your power to fix things before they got worse? Don't be. So sure we are all much more likely than any of us would like to admit to miss what's right in front of our eyes. And in fact, we're sometimes most likely to turn away from things precisely because of the threat that they represent to us in business life in the world. So I want to give you an example from my world economic policy. So when Alan Greenspan was head of the Federal Reserve his entire job was to watch out for problems in the US economy and to make sure that they didn't spin out of control. So after two thousand six when real estate prices, Pete, more and more and more respected leaders and institutions started to sound the alarm bells about risky lending and dangerous market bubbles, as you know in two thousand eight it all came tumbling down banks collapsed. Global stock markets lost nearly half their value. Millions and millions of people lost their homes to foreclosure, and at the bottom nearly one in ten Americans was out of work. So after things calmed down a little bit Greenspan, and many others came out with a postmortem and said, nobody could have predicted that crisis. They called it. A black swan something that was unimaginable unforeseeable and completely improbable. A total surprise except. Wasn't always such a surprise, for example, my Manhattan apartment nearly doubled in value in less than four years. I saw the writing on the wall, and I sold it. So a lot of other people also saw the warning spoke out publicly. And they were ignored. So we didn't know exactly what the crisis was going to look like nothing exact parameters, but we could all tell that the thing coming at us was as dangerous visible and predictable as a giant gray rhino charging right at us. The blacks one lends itself to the idea that we don't have power over our futures. And unfortunately, the less control that we think we have the more likely we are to downplay it or ignore it entirely. And this dangerous dynamic masks, another problem that most of the problems that we're facing are so probable and obvious there things that we can see, but we still don't do anything about. So I created the gray rhino metaphor to meet what I felt was an urgent need to help us to take a fresh look with the same passion that people had for the black swan. But this time for the things that were highly obvious highly probable, but still neglected. Those are the gray rhinos lets you start looking for gray rhinos. You see them in the headlines every day. And so what I see in the headlines is another big gray rhino in a new highly probable financial crisis. And I wonder if we've learned anything in the last ten years. So if you listen to Washington or Wall Street, you could almost be forgiven for thinking that only smooth sailing late ahead, but in China where I spend a lot of time. The conversation is totally different. The entire economic team all the way up to president Xi Jinping himself talk very specifically and clearly about financial risks as gray rhinos and how they contain them now to be sure China, and the US have very very different systems of government, which affects what they're able to do or not and many of the root causes for their economic problems are totally different. But it's no secret that both countries have problems with debt with inequality and with economic productivity. So how can the conversations are so different? You could actually ask this question. Not just about countries. But about just about everyone. The the auto companies that puts safety first and the ones that don't bother to recall their shoddy cars until after people die. The grandparents who in preparing for the inevitable inevitable. The ones who have the eulogy written. The menu for the funeral lunch. My grandparents did. And everything, but the final date chiseled into the grains, brave stone. But then you have grandparents on the other side who don't put their final affairs in order. Don't get rid of all the junk. They've been hoarding for decades and decades and leave their kids to deal with it. So what makes the difference between one side and the other? Why do some people see things and deal with them? And the other one's just look away. So the first one has to do with culture society, the people around you if you think that someone around you is going to help pick you up when you fall you're much more likely to see danger as being smaller and that allows us to take good chances. Not trust the bad ones, for example, like risking criticism. When you talk about the danger that nobody wants to talk about or taking the opportunities that are kind of scary. So in their own way are gray rhinos. So the

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09:38 min | 2 years ago

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"This. Ted talk features journalist e Perlman recorded live at Ted salon up for debate. Twenty nineteen. Ever want to twenty fifth hour in the day on before breakfast. Laura Vander camp can help you get a little more out of each day. Learn things like how to find more time to read or why planning your week on Friday is better every weekday morning. It'll help you feel like you're ready for the day one productivity tip at a time. Find before breakfast on apple podcasts the iheartradio app or wherever you listen. So in the run-up to the two thousand sixteen election. I was like most of us watching the rise in discord, and vitriol and nastiness in our public spaces. It was as crazy uptick in polarization. It was both disheartening and distressing. And so I started thinking with a fellow journalist. Jeremy, hey about how we might practice our craft differently. How we might go to the heart of divides to places of conflict like journalists always have. But then once they're do something, really different. We knew we wanted to take the core tools of our craft careful vetting of information diligent research curiosity a commitment to serving the public good to serving our democracy and do something new. And so we mapped out this process what we call dialogue journalism for going to the heart of social and political divides. And then once they are building journalism supported conversations between people on opposite side of opposite sides of polarizing issues. But how actually to do this in in a world that we that so divided? So deeply divided when we live in a world in which we cousins and aunts and uncles can't talk to one another when we often live in separate and distinct news ecosystems, and when we reflexively and habitually malign and dismiss those with whom we disagree. But we wanted to try. And so right after the two thousand sixteen election in that in that time between the election and the inauguration. We partnered with the Alabama media group to do something really different. We brought twenty-five Trump supporters from Alabama together in conversation with twenty-five Clinton supporters from California, and we brought them together in a closed. Moderated Facebook group that we kept open for a month. What we wanted to do was to give them a place to engage with genuine curiosity and openness, and we wanted to support them in building relationships not just with each other. But with us as journalists, and then we wanted to supply facts and information facts and information that they could actually receive and process and use to undergird their conversations. And so as a prelude to this conversation conversation the first step in what we call dialogue journalism. We asked what they thought the other side thought of them. So we asked. The Trump supporters from Alabama what they thought the Clinton supporters in California thought of them this some of what they said. Do you think we are religious bible thumpers that were backwards and hick and stupid? They think that we all have confederate flags in our yards that we're racist, and sexist and uneducated they think we're barefoot and pregnant with dirt driveways, and then think we're all Prissy butts, and we walk around and hoop skirts with cotton fields in the background. And then we asked that same questions of question of the Californians. What do you think the alabamians think about you? And they said this that we're crazy liberal Californians that were not patriotic or snobby, and we're elitist or godless and more permissive with our children, and we're focused on our career is not our family, and there were lead est pie in the sky intellectuals. Re rich people wholefood eating very out of touch. So by asking questions like this at the start of every conversation, and by dente firing and sharing stereotypes, we find that people people on all sides begin to see the simplistic and often mean-spirited caricatures they carry and in that after that, we can move into a process of genuine conversation. So in the two years since that launch California, Alabama project, we've gone onto host dialogues and partnerships with media organizations across the country and they've been about some of our most contentious issues guns immigration race education. And what we found remarkably is that real dialogue is in fact possible, and that we given a chance and structure around doing so many not all but many of our fellow citizens are eager to engage with the other. Too often. Journalists have sharpened divides in the name of drama or readership or and service to our own views, and too often we've gone to each side, quoting partisan voice on one side and a partisan voice on the other with telling anecdotal lead in a pithy. Final quote, all of which readers are keen to mind for bias. But our dialogue based process has a slower pace and a different center. And our work is guided by the principle that dialogue across difference is essential to a functioning democracy and the journalism and journalists have a multifaceted real role to play in supporting that. So how do we work at every stage where as transparent as possible about our methods and our motives at every stage. We take time to answer people's questions. Explain why we're doing what we're doing. We tell people it's not a trap. No one's there to tell you. You're stupid. No one's there to tell your experience doesn't matter. And we always ask for really different sort of behavior a repack turning away from the reflexive name calling so entrenched in our discourse that most of us on all sides, don't even notice it anymore. So people often come into our conversations of angrily. And they they say things like how can you believe acts, and how can you read y and and you believe that this happened? But generally in this miracle that the delights us every time people begin to introduce themselves, and they begin to explain who they are. And where they come from. And they begin to ask questions of one another and slowly over time people circle back again and again to difficult topics each time with a little more empathy a little more nuance. A little more curiosity. And are journalists moderators work really hard to support this because it's not a debate. It's not a battle. It's not a Sunday morning talk show. It's not the flinging of talking points. It's not the stacking of memes and gifts articles with headlines that prove a point. And it's not about scoring political victories with question traps. So what we've learned. Is that our state of discord is bad for everyone. It is a deeply unhappy state of being and people tell us again. And again, they said they appreciate to chance to engage. Respectfully with curiosity with openness, and that they're glad and relieved for chance to put down their arms. And so we do our work in direct challenge to the political climate in our country right now. And we do it knowing that it is difficult challenging work to hold and support people in opposing backgrounds and conversation, and we do it. Knowing democracy depends on our ability to address our shared problems together. And we do this by putting community at the heart of our journalistic process by putting our egos to the side to listen, I to listen deeply to listen around through our own biases. Our own habits of thought and to support others in doing the same. And we do this work knowing that journalism is an institution is struggling and that it has always had a role to play. And can we'll continue to have a role to play in supporting the exchange of ideas, and views. So for many of the participants in our groups, there are lasting reverberations. Many people have become Facebook friends, and in real life friends to across political lines after we closed that first Trump Clinton project. About two thirds of the women went on to form their own Facebook group, and they chose a moderator from each state, and they continue to talk about difficult and challenging issues and people tell us again. And again that they are grateful for the opportunity to be a part of this work grateful to know, the people on the other side aren't crazy grateful that they've had a chance to connect with people. They wouldn't have otherwise talk to. And a lot of what we've seen in learn despite the fact that we call ourselves spaceship media is not at all rocket science. If you call people names if you label them if you insult them. They're not inclined to listen to you. Snark doesn't help. Shame doesn't help. Condescension doesn't help. Genuine communication takes practice and effort and restraint and self awareness. There isn't an algorithm to solve where we are. Because real human connection is in fact, real human connection. So lead with curiosity emphasized discussion, not debate get out of your silo. Because real connection across difference. This is a Sav that our democracy sorely needs. Thank you. For more, TED talks. But at Ted dot com.

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06:17 min | 2 years ago

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"This. Ted talk features. Planetary scientists Sarah T Stewart recorded live at Ted salon. Imagine if twenty nineteen. Hey, TED talks daily listeners. I'm Adam grant, I host another podcast from Ted. It's called a work life. And it's about the science of making work not suck on the latest episode. I get to meet people who are exceptionally good at that. Like Olympic marathoner, Amy crack we finished and I hear Chalene go was hard. I t's blood, and then she goes, so awesome. As like, you know, what I'm going to find out. Exactly what I made of here. Turn your rivals into your allies at work. That's on the next episode of work life without him Graham. We live in a world. That's creating a enabled everything a world with more not devices than people today technology has never been smarter. But smart only matters when you put it to work where it matters when we put smart to work, we can help save species increase crop yields and make progress, but not just for a few of us for all of us. So let's get to it. Let's put smart to work. Find out how at IBM dot com slash smart. Nobody likes to make a mistake. And I made a whopping one. And figuring out what I did wrong led to a discovery that completely changes the way we think about the earth and moon. I'm a planetary scientist, and my favorite thing to do is smash planets together in my lab, I can shoot at rocks using cannons. Like this one. In my experiments. I can generate the extreme conditions during planet formation and with computer models. I can collide whole planets together to make them grow. Or I can destroy them. I want to understand how to make the earth and the moon, and why the earth is so different from other planets. The leading idea for the origin of the earth and moon is called the giant impact theory. The theory states that Amar size body struck the young earth and the moon formed from the debris of disk around the debris disk around the planet. The theory can explain so many things about the moon, but it has a huge flaw it predicts that the moon is mostly made from the MARC's planet that the earth and the moon are made from different materials. But that's not what we see. The earth and the moon are actually like identical twins. The genetic code of planets is written in the hopes of the elements the earth and moon have identical isotopes that means that the earth and moon are made from the same materials. It's really strange that the earth and the moon or twins all of the planets are made from different materials. So they all have different isotopes. They all have their own genetic code. No, other planetary bodies have the same genetic relationship only the earth and moon are twins. When I started working on the origin of the moon. There were scientists that wanted to reject the whole idea of the giant impact. They didn't see any way for this theory to explain special relationship between the earth and the moon, we were all trying to think of new ideas. The problem was there weren't any better ideas. All of the other ideas had even bigger flaws. So we were trying to rescue the giant impact eerie. A young scientist in my group suggested that we try changing the spin of the giant impact maybe making the spin faster could mix more material and explain the moon. The mar- size impact or had been chosen because it could make the moon and make the length of earth's stay. People really liked that part of the model. But what is something else determine the links versity? Then there would be many more possible giant impacts that could make the moon. I was curious about what could happen. So I tried simulating faster spinning giant impacts. And I found that it is possible to make a disc out of the same mixture of materials as the planet. We were pretty excited. Maybe this was the way to explain the moon. The problem is we also found that that's just not very likely most of the time the disk is different from the planet, and it looked like making Arman this way would be an astronomical coincidence. And it was just hard for everyone to accept the idea that the moon special connection to earth was an accident. The giant impact Serey was still in trouble. And we were still trying to figure out how to make the moon. Then came the day when I realized my mistake. My student, and I for looking at the data from these fast bidding giant impacts on that day. We weren't actually thinking about the moon. We were looking at the planet the planet get super hot and partially vaporized from the energy of the impact. But the data didn't look like a planet. It looked really strange the planet. Was weirdly connected to the disk. I got that super excited feeling when something really wrong might be something really interesting. In all of my calculations. I'd assume there was a planet with a separate disk around it calculating, what was in the disk was how we tested whether an impact could make the moon. But it didn't look that simple anymore.

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05:27 min | 2 years ago

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"This. Ted talk features authored Casey Gerald recorded live at Ted salon belonging, twenty eighteen. This talk contains mature language. My mother called this some. Stage in an invention. She'd come across a few snippets of my memoir, which one even out yet. And she was concerned. It wasn't the sex. It was the language that disturbed her for example. I have been so many things along my curious journey a poor boy, a nigga Yale man, a Harvard man, a faggot a Christian a crack baby alleged the spawn of Satan the second coming Casey. That's just page six. So you may understand my mother's worry. But she wanted only to make one small change. So she called and she began. Hey. You are a man not a faggot you not a pumpkin. Let me tell you the difference. You are prominent you are intelligent you dress. Well, you know, how to speak people like you. You don't walk around doing a hand like a punk? You're not a vagabond on the street. You are an upstanding person who just happens to be gay. Don't put yourself over there. When you or over here. She thought she'd done me, a favour. And in a way, she had her call clarified. What am trying to do with my life? And in my work as a writer, which is to send one simple message way. We're taught to live has got to change. I learned this the hard way I was born not on the wrong side of the tracks. But on the wrong side of a whole river, the trinity down in Oakland, Texas was raised there in part by my grandmother who worked as domestic. And by my sister who adopted me a few years after our mother who struggled with mental illness disappeared. There was that disappearance there began when I was thirteen and lasted for five years that shaped the person, I became the personnel laid ahead to unbecoming. Before she left. My mother had been my human hiding place. She was the only other person who seemed estranges me beautifully. Strange some mix of blanche do blah from a streetcar named desire and in one thousand nine hundred eighty s Whitney Houston. I'm not saying she was perfect. Just sure benefited from her imperfections. And maybe that's what magic is. After all useful mistake. So when she began to disappear for days at a time, I turned to some magic of my own struck me as from both the DACA conjure up. My mother just by walking perfectly from my elementary school at the top of a steep hill. All the way down to my grandmother's house placing one foot in one foot only in each sidewalk square. I couldn't that any part of any foot touch the line between the square I couldn't skip square. All the way to the last where at last blade of grass that separated our lawn from our driveway, and our bullshit, you not it worked just wants to. But if my perfect walk could not bring my mother back I found that this approach had other uses found that everyone else in charge around me love nothing more than perfection obedience submission, or at least. If I submit it. They wouldn't bother me too much. So. Took a bargain that I'd like to see in a prison stodgy prison in Berlin on a sign that read key who adapts can live tolerably. It was a bargain that helped ensure head a place to stay in food to eat. Bargain that warned me praise of teachers and can strangers a bargain the paid off big time it saying when one day at seventeen and a man from Yale showed up at my high school to recruit me for yells football team felt is out of the blue to me, then as it made you now the Yale man say it everybody saying that this was the best thing that could ever happen to me. Best thing that can happen to the whole community take this ticket. Boy, they told me. I was not. So sure. L Samed another world entire cold foreign hostile place on the first day of my recruiting. Visit I text my sister and excuse for not going these people are so weird. She replied you'll fit right in.

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05:52 min | 2 years ago

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"This. Ted talk features writer. Gabby were There'a recorded live at Ted salon radical craft twenty eighteen. I'm Chris Anderson. The guy who gets to run Ted. We've just launched a new podcast called the Ted interview where I get to sit down with Connick Ted speakers to dive deeper into their ideas in on next episode. I speak with Mellody Hobson. She argues that we need to stop being colorblind and stop being color. Brave. Not seeing race is not working it just not working for our society. So those people are holding onto that as a badge of honor. I want them to actually purposefully see race is join me for the Ted interview. Wherever you listen. At no point that I think superheroes would become such a huge part of my life. As a kid. I looked at them. And I saw everything I wasn't. They had big muscles, supermodel. Good. Looks and phenomenal. Cosmic powers and me. I kind of look like this except shorter and with frizzy hair, and I never felt powerful. I was always just one big ball of nervous soft energy and superheroes much like the bullies. That school didn't seem to have a lot of room for that for me. So I stayed away. And besides who needs superheroes? When you're surrounded by Puerto Rican women from the Bronx. Mighty as we're cops. And paramedics my well as we're seamstresses and sold jewelry up the street and my mom got her master's degree in education and taught kindergarten in New York City public schools for over thirty years. So my superheroes were sitting around the dinner table with me. And I don't know how much time you've spent with Puerto Rican women from the Bronx. But we're also some of the world's greatest storytellers. And I'd sit there at my grandmother's dining room table. And I listened to the women in my family tell these wild rambunctious tales about their about navigating their lives in the Bronx. And I wanted to be them so bad, but I wasn't tough like them either the mostly I listened, and I soaked it in and I found myself gravitating to the soft threads in their stories. And I wrote those down the funny the goofy. The gentle those were my in storytelling. So much. So that I wrote a young adult novel called Juliet takes the breath about it. So be queer Puerto Rican girl from the Bronx, navigating sexuality, family and identity. And on the strength of Juliet, marvel comics taps me to write the solos series for their first ever Latina, lesbian superhero America challenges. Listen. Okay. Created by Joe, Casey. And Nick gotta for the marvel miniseries. Vengeance. America Chavez has been in the marvel universe for over seven years. She's tough Latina, and she so strong that she can punch portals into other dimensions. No, right and people were so excited because finally someone who shared her identities queer and Latina would be writing her story. And I saw that. Right. And we'll also when I looked at America, I saw a young Latina in survival mode. See because her mom's had sacrificed themselves to the universe when she was a kid, and she'd been on her own ever since no wonder she had to be tough and that link that link of having the beat tough that rested. Heavy with me like I said, I'm from the Bronx. The Bronx is tough tough like walking past sidewalk memorials and dodging cop towers on your way to the train type tough with stuff happens. That's bad. People are like yo you gotta keep it moving. You gotta keep trucking don't cry. Don't let it gets you. And my mom, and my and my Wella's I never saw them take a moment to rest or to invest in self care, and they're soft it never left the house. And so that was the first thing that I wanted to give to America the thing that I wished I'd been able to give tomorrow Wella's. And my the thing that I'm trying to give to my mom now permission to be soft. Like, it's okay. To sit in silence. And go on a journey. Just the discover yourself, and you're paying will make you crumble, and you will fall and you'll need to ask people for help. And I thought okay and that being vulnerable as good for us. But see I didn't come to like all this, compassionate and healing stuff. Like, you know out of nowhere. And so when it came to America story, I wanted to give her the space to be human to mess up and to find soft on her own. So she kind of had to quit her day job. You know what I'm saying? I had to give her a superhero sabbatical. And the first thing I did was enrolled her in Justice Sonia Sotomayor university.

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05:27 min | 2 years ago

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"This Ted talk features political theorist and author. Theresa Beijing recorded live at Ted salon bright line initiative. Twenty eighteen. I'm Chris Anderson. The guy who gets to run Ted. We've just launched a new podcast called the Ted interview where I get to sit down with icon conic, Ted speakers to dive deeper into their ideas in on next episode a conversation with author Steven pinker about whether shock horror the world might actually be getting better. It's not seeing the glass half full or being optimistic to say that global poverty has declined from ninety percent ten percent. That's a fact, and it's the fact that people aren't aware of is join me. So the Ted interview wherever you listen. Let's get this out of the way I'm here because I wrote a book about civility, and because that book came out right around the two thousand sixteen American presidential election. I started getting lots of invitations to come and talk about civility. And why we need more of it in American politics. So great the only problem was that I'd written that book about civility because I was convinced that civility is. Bullshit. Now that may sound like a highly uncivil thing to say and lucky for you. And for my publisher. I did eventually come to change my mind in the course of writing that book and studying the long history of civility and religious tolerance in the seventeenth century. I came to discover that there is a virtue of civility and far from being bullshit. It's actually absolutely essential. Especially for tolerance societies so societies. Like this one that promised not only to protect diversity. But also the heated in sometimes even hateful disagreements that that diversity inspires. You see the thing about disagreement is that there is a reason that disagreeable is a synonym for unpleasant as the English philosopher Thomas Hobbes pointed out all the way back in sixteen forty two. That's because the mere act of disagreement is offensive and hops is still right. It works like this. So if you and I disagree, and I'm right because I always am how am I to make sense of the fact that you are so very very wrong. It couldn't possibly be that. You've just come to a different conclusion in good faith. No, you must be up to something. You must be stupid bigoted interested. Maybe you're insane and up the same goes the other way. Right. So the mere fact of your disagreeing with me is implicitly an insult not only to my views, but to my intelligence to and things only get. At worse when the disagreements at stake are the ones that we somehow consider to be fundamental whether to our world views or to our identities, you know, the kinds of disagreement. I mean, one doesn't discuss religion or politics or increasingly the politics of popular culture at the dinner table because these are the disagreements these are the things that people really seriously disagree about and they define themselves against their opponents in the controversy. But of course, those disagreements those fundamental disagreements are precisely the ones that tolerant societies like the United States proposed to tolerate which perhaps explains why historically at least tolerant societies haven't been the happy Clapper communities of difference that you sometimes hear about no they tend to be places where people have to hold their noses in rub along together despite their mutual contempt. That's what I learned from studying religion. Tolerance in early modern England and America, and I also learned that the virtue that makes that unmerciful coexistence if you will possible is the virtue of civility because civility makes our disagreements tolerable. So that we can share a life together. Even if we don't share a face religious, political or otherwise. Still I couldn't help. But notice that when most people talk about civility today, and boy, do they talk about civility allot, they seem to something else in mind. So if civility is the virtue that makes it possible to tolerate disagreement. So that we can actually engage with our opponents talking about civility seems to be mainly a strategy of disengagement. It's a little bit like threatening to take your ball and go home when the game isn't going your way because the funny thing about incivility is that it's always the sin of our opponents. It's funny when it comes to our own bad behaviour. Well, we seem to develop sudden onset usua- or we can always justify it as an appropriate response to the latest outrage from our opponents..

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12:49 min | 2 years ago

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"This Ted talk features, hospitals, entrepreneur, and author chip Conley recorded live at Ted salon, Verizon twenty eighteen. This TED talks daily episode is brought to you by Mariot hotels. Discover what happens when ideas have a place to grow together Mary at hotels and Ted are inspiring new perspectives through curated. TED talks available at Mariot hotels around the world stream talks and other original Ted content on your favorite devices and spark your next big idea while on the road. It was my third day on the job at a hot Silicon Valley startup. In early two thousand thirteen. I was twice the age of the dozen engineers in the room. I've been brought into the company because I was a seasoned expert in my field. But in this particular room, I felt like a newbie amongst the tech geniuses. I was listening to them talk and thinking, the best thing I could do was be invisible. And then suddenly the twenty five year old wizard leading the meeting stared at me and asked if you ship to feature and no one used it, did it really ship. Ship a feature in that moment. Chip knew he was in deep ship. I had no idea what he was talking about. I just sat there awkwardly and Mercifully. He moved onto someone else. I slid down in my chair and I couldn't wait for that meeting to end. That was my introduction to Airbnb. I was asked and invited by the three millennial co-founders to join their company to help them take their fast growing tech startup and turn it into a global hospitality brand as well as to be the in house mentor for CEO Brian chessy. Now I'd spent from age twenty six to fifty to being a boutique hotel entrepreneur. And so I guess I learned a few things along the way and accumulated some hospitality knowledge. But after my first week I realized that the brave new home sharing world didn't need much of my old school bricks and mortar hotel insights. A stark reality rocked me. What do I have to offer. I don't. I never been in tech company before five and a half years ago. I had never heard of the sharing economy, nor did I have an Uber or lift app on my phone. This was not my natural habitat. So I decided at that moment that I could either run for the hills or cast judgment on these young geniuses, or instead turn the judgment into curiosity and actually see if I could match my wise is with their fresh eyes. I fancied myself a modern Margaret need amongst them Eleni ELS. And I quickly learned that I had as much to offer them as they did to me the more I have seen and learned about our respective generations. The more I realize that we often don't trust each other Nuff to actually share our respective wisdom. We may share a border, but we don't necessarily trust each other enough to share that respective wisdom. I believe looking at the modern workplace, the. That trade agreement of our time is opening up these intergenerational pipelines of wisdom so that we can all learn from each other forty percent of us. Almost forty percent of us in this in the United States have a boss that's younger than us. And that number is growing quickly. Power is cascading to the young like never before because of our increasing reliance on d q. digital intelligence. We're seeing young founders of companies in their early twenties scale them up to global giants. By the time they get to thirty. And yet we expect these young digital leaders to somehow miraculously embody the relationship was Dems. We older workers have had decades to learn. It's hard to microwave, your emotional intelligence. There's ample evidence that gender an f.. Ethnically diverse companies are more effective, but what about age? This is a very important question because for the first time ever we have five generations in the workplace at the same time unintentionally, maybe it's time we got a little bit more intentional about how we worked collectively. There have been a number of European studies that have shown that age, diverse teams are more effective and successful. So why is it that only eight percent of the companies that have that have a diversity and inclusion program have actually expanded that strategy to include age as just as important of a demographic as gender or race. Maybe they didn't get the memo. The world is getting older. One of the pair of paradoxes are times as baby boomers are more vibrant and healthy longer into life. We're actually working later into life, and yet we're feeling less and less relevant. Some of us feel like a carton of milk and old carton of milk with an expiration date stamped on our wrinkled foreheads for many of us. In midlife, this isn't just a feeling. It is a harsh reality when we suddenly lose our job and the phone stops ringing for. Many of us justifiably. We worry that people see our experience as a liability, not an asset. You've heard of the old phrase or maybe the relatively new phrase sixty is the new forty physically right? When it comes to power in the workplace. Today. Thirty is the new fifty. All right. Well, this is pretty exciting, right? Truthfully power is moving ten years younger. We're all gonna live ten years longer do the math society has created a new twenty year irrelevancy gap midlife used to be forty five to sixty five. But I would suggest that now stretches into a midlife marathon forty years long from thirty five to seventy five. But wait, there is a bright spot. Why is it that we actually get smarter and wiser about our humanity? As we age our physical pique, maybe our twenties, our financial and salary peak, maybe age fifty, but are emotional. A peak is in midlife and beyond because we have developed pattern recognition about ourselves and others. So how can we get companies to tap into that wisdom of the midlife folks just as they nurture their digital. A young geniuses as well. The most successful companies today and in the future will actually learn how to create a powerful alchemy of the two. Here's how the outcome worked for me at Airbnb. I was assigned a young smart partner who helped me develop a hospitality department early on Laura Hughes could see that I was a little lost in this habitat. So she often sat right next to me in meetings so she could be my tech translator, and I could write her notes and she could tell me that's what that means. Laura was twenty seven years old. She works for Google for four years, and then for a year and a half at Airbnb, when I met her like many millennial of her cohorts, she had actually grown into a managerial role before she'd gotten any formal leadership training. I don't care if you're in the BBC world. The beat a SeaWorld SeaWorld are the eight zero world businesses fundamentally h. two h.. Human to human. And yet Laura's approach to leadership was really formed in the technocratic world, and it was purely metric driven. One of the things you said to me in the first few months is I love the fact that your approach to leadership is to create a compelling vision. The becomes a northstar for us. Now my fact knowledge as in how many rooms made cleans in an eight hour shift might not be all that important in a home sharing world, my process knowledge of how do you get things done based upon understanding the underlying motivations of everybody in the room was incredibly valuable in a company where most people didn't have a lot of organizational experience. As I spent more time at Airbnb, I realized it's possible a new kind of elder was emerging in the workplace. Not the elder of the past who actually was regarded with reverence. No. What is striking. About the modern elder. Is there relevance their ability to use timeless wisdom and apply it to modern day problems? Maybe it's time we actually valued wisdom as much as we do disruption, and maybe it's time not just maybe it is time for us to definitely reclaim the word elder and give it a modern twist. The modern elder is as much an intern as they are a mentor because they realize in a world that is changing so quickly there beginner's mind and their catalytic curiosity is a life-affirming. Alexa, not just for themselves, but for everyone around them. Intergenerational improv has been known in music and the arts think Tony Bennett and lady Gaga or Winton Marcellus and the young stars of jazz, this kind of business. This kind of riffing in the business world is often called mutual mentorship, millennial de cue for gen-x and boomer e q. I got to experience that kind of intergenerational reciprocity with Laura and our stellar data science team when we were actually remaking and evolving the Airbnb, peer to peer review system, using Laura's analytical mind and my human centered intuition with that perfect alchemy of algorithm and people wisdom, we were able to create an instantaneous feedback feedback loop that helped our hosts better understand the needs of our guests. High-tech meets high touch at Airbnb. I also learned as a modern elder that my role was to intern publicly and mentor. Privately search engines are brilliant giving you an answer, but a wise sage guide can act off you just the right question. Google does not understand at least not yet nuance like a finely attuned human heart and mind over time to my surprise. Dozens and dozens of young employees at Airbnb sought me out for private mentoring sessions. But in reality, we were offering often just mentoring each other in some CEO. Brian chessy brought me in for my industry knowledge. But what I really offered was my well earned wisdom. Maybe it's time we retire the term knowledge worker and replaced it with wisdom orcre. We have five generations in the workplace today, and we can operate like separate isolationist countries or we can actually start to find a way to bridge these generational borders. And it's time for us to actually look at how to change up the physics of wisdom. So. It actually flows in both directions from old to young and from young to old, how can you apply this in your own life personally? Who can you reach out to to create a mutual mentorship relationship and organizationally? How can you create the conditions to foster an intergenerational flow of wisdom? This is the new sharing economy. Thank you. For more TED talks go to Ted dot com.

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02:57 min | 2 years ago

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"Tracy, Kaz e recorded live at Ted salon, bright line initiative, twenty eighteen. Friends. I look at this photograph and I have to ask myself, you know, I think I've seen this somewhere before people marching in the street for Justice, but I know it's not the same photograph that I would have seen because I wouldn't take my oaks to be a police officer until nineteen Eighty-nine. And I've been in the business for over twenty five years and identifying as African American woman. I know things have gotten better, but even as I learned about public safety, I wondered if what I was doing on the street was hurting are harming the community. And I often wondered if you know how did they perceive me this woman in uniform. But there's one thing that I knew I knew there was a way that we could do this probably difference or better a way that preserved dignity and guarantee Justice, but I also knew that police could not do it alone. It's the co-production pub. Safety. There's a lot of history with us. You know, we know. Loss. The relationship between the African American community and the police is painful. One often filled with mistrust is been studied by social scientists. It has been studied by government all both promising hopeful new ways, long-term fixes. But all we want is to be safe and our safety is intertwined and that we know in order to have great relationships and relationships built on trust that we're going to have to have communication. And in this advent in this text of the world that we've got going on trying to do this with social media, it's very difficult thing to do. We also have to examine our current policing practices and we have to set those things aside at no longer service. So in New York, that meant stop question frisk that meant really holding up the numbers as opposed to relationships. And it really didn't allow the officers the opportunity to get to know the community in which they serve. But you see there is a better way and we know it's called co production. So in the nineteen seventies Elinor Ostrom came up with the theory really called co production in this is how it works. He bring people into the space that come with separate expertise, and you also come with new ideas, lived experience, and you produce a new knowledge. And when you produce that new knowledge and you.

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