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Humanity Brought to Its Knees With Hour-Long Partial Internet Outage
"Top story this week the world was given a chilling peek behind the wireless cuts in all future chaos on tuesday when a global internet outage thoughts on this closed some websites for an hour It was truly harrowing for The planet's greatest species the human race with the loss of such sites as gideon website amazon. Read it and social media sites such as clank garbage g. o. p. o. j. toward la and ephemera where people post three second videos of themselves suffering existential angst Humanity was brought to its quivering. Nays and several major religions declared a full on magadan During the outage the uk government website went down which led to a fifty eight minute. Golden age of joy hope and productivity before normality was thankfully restored. Now i'm alex clearly this This is probably the most traumatic thing that's ever happened to The world How how did you both cope with with with a trauma. I found it a real relief and just the prospect that this was. The beginning of the end was quite a relief Most spent their whole time. Trying to identify which sites were up and down i started to separate doomsday cults and set them against each other. I don't know what you didn't have found one of the fascinating things was. Everyone had an opinion about what should be done or what was happening. Even nobody had any information about what was happening. It was revealed if nothing else that nobody knows how any of it works especially the people who think they do and definitely not the people whose job it was to make it work. My problem is that none of the good stuff that you want the internet to go down with ever goes down like my online mortgage payment went through which is really really painful. And i've had no internet for a couple of days because of the monsoon situation and we don't have any aeroplanes coming and going to india's you know which leads to the question. Maybe you guys know this now. The world with all its essential elements greed tiktok. That's still around. Alice and when we don't we don't really know that's the thing with internet outages is it does. It does lead to people questioning whether anything exists. If it's not being you know life blocked in some way
Hour-Long Partial Internet Outage Brings Humanity to Its Knees
"World was given a chilling peek behind the wireless cuts in all future chaos on tuesday when a global internet outage thoughts on this closed some websites for an hour It was truly harrowing for The planet's greatest species the human race with the loss of such sites as gideon website amazon. Read it and social media sites such as clank garbage g. o. p. o. j. toward la and ephemera where people post three second videos of themselves suffering existential angst Humanity was brought to its quivering. Nays and several major religions declared a full on magadan During the outage the uk government website went down which led to a fifty eight minute. Golden age of joy hope and productivity before normality was thankfully restored. Now i'm alex clearly this This is probably the most traumatic thing that's ever happened to The world How how did you both cope with with with a trauma. I found it a real relief and just the prospect that this was. The beginning of the end was quite a relief Most spent their whole time. Trying to identify which sites were up and down i started to separate doomsday cults and set them against each other. I don't know what you didn't have found one of the fascinating things was. Everyone had an opinion about what should be done or what was happening. Even nobody had any information about what was happening. It was revealed if nothing else that nobody knows how any of it works especially the people who think they do and definitely not the people whose job it was to make it work. My problem is that none of the good stuff that you want the internet to go down with ever goes down like my online mortgage payment went through which is really really painful. And i've had no internet for a couple of days because of the monsoon situation and we don't have any aeroplanes coming and going to india's you know which leads to the question. Maybe you guys know this now. The world with all its essential elements greed tiktok. That's still around. Alice and when we don't we don't really know that's the thing with internet outages is it does. It does lead to people questioning whether anything exists. If it's not being you know life blocked in some way
Katie Thurston's "Sex Positive" Bachelorette Season Kicks Off
"Katie season premiere last night on abc. And if you thought that was wild well y'all have not seen anything yet. My god. I'm a little bit late to this. But katie is the one so i just have to show up do cayman cut in line. I can't believe here. Then you need to get the f out of my way. I would not tell the guys. I didn't come here for the bromance. I came here for followers. Figured this quick sachs's not something. I take lightly. I'm losing you. I'm leaving my mind here. I came here to do. I continue here or do. I just leave now. I'm done. i'm done. I'm done now. These super teases kit crazier every single season. I think the question everyone wants to know is why is there always so much drama. Have we been conditioned to expect this level of drama on the bachelorette and we think anything less as boring lots. That is a lot. I mean y now all of a sudden the minnow cry. The women crying now the is is. What's there's a lot of unnecessary tier. Oh it's amazing. I love it all bring on tears. The trauma the virgins give the everything. He's very cute. By the way
If Canadas Residential Schools Reckoning Is Real, What Happens Next?
"Jordan rawlings. This is the big story either. Jewel is an associate fellow at the yellow head institutes. A first nation led research center which is based on the faculty of arts at toronto school. That has for a long time at least been known as ryerson university. She is initiative bay from kensey being chip was of the thames first nation. Hey eva hi jordan. Thanks for having me. First of all. I wanna thank you for taking the time for us. We waited a week to do this episode just so that when we spoke to indigenous person we wouldn't be making them revisit the trauma that just felt so raw last week for people's around the country so Thank you for being here. Thank you i guess. I want to start with The yellow head institute being based in what has long been known as ryerson university. And i want to start with what happened on sunday and tonight on the ryerson university campus. A statue of edgerton viruses the school's namesake has been knocked over. Ryerson was one of the architects of canada's residential school system. Many students and staff the university along with several other groups have been calling for the removal of the statute for years. So have you seen the video of the statue of egerton. Ryerson being pulled down yes. I have I wasn't there at the site at the time that it was pulled down. I was there a bit before it was pulled down at the in But i have seen that. The statue's has been pulled down. How did it make you feel. It was an amazing moment. And i personally i think back on the times when i had first started at ryerson knowing that The school was named after a person who had put into motion policies that directly impacted my family me and my family.
Pharmas Image Gets a Boost from COVID-19
"Two percent of people now have positive opinion of drug companies. And that's up from last year when it was only thirty two percent so we really gone of course. Public opinion is variable depending on. What's going on the news. And go down although i think that's quite largely but we've gone from this you know martin shkreli farmer burrow era to this apparently real rehabilitation of the pharmaceutical industries reputation through the cobra nineteen vaccine and case global saviors from this pandemic. So today. we're going to take a look at whether they actually deserve this. Newly found positive alert. I totally forgot about murmurs currently until just this moment. Thank you for reminding me of all that trauma so we have an amazing guests today. solo is a clinical pharmacy specialist at the university of chicago medicine. She's also co founders of pharmacists for single payer. Look shannon to the show inky you. Thanks for having me here. I'm really excited service. I'm just curious. How do as far aside you end up getting involved with the medical sheriff so bene- pharmacist for a little over ten years. I spent most of my earlier years working in inpatient settings where you really don't run into as many issues related to insurance or benefit manager as as the world so meaning that i worked in a hostile insurance hospitals every now and then this would come up. We'd want to discharge patients or child. They need an antibiotic wouldn't be covered in the nfc in hostels additional day while we tried to sort out how we can safely home for most of the time it was in you know you have the medications at our hospital wasn't much of a focus for me and then a few years ago i switch. You were primarily in using areas so not much community pharmacy but were in connects with physician and other care worker colleagues and in a specialty pharmacy role later. Working with really high cost drugs so think it was there that i started to encounter. How much of a barrier our system is in terms of getting by patients issues. Amy through that experience. I suppose is pretty fired up about that meets vans. You were involved in position for national health program and got more involved with that organization in an amnesty.
Celebrating Juneteenth in the Carceral State With Ebony Underwood
"Ebony. What does black liberation look like to you. Freedom black liberation looks like freedom and what freedom means to me is economic stability in means housing opportunities. It means educational opportunities it means health and wellness lack liberation to me all those things i can dive in deep leagues in to each of those but if i just blanket that statement for me it means things and having the freedom and the ability to have the best of all those things and how does the work that you do work towards that vision of black liberation well founded it a nonprofit but we got us now dot org. It's a national nonprofit nonpartisan organization built by led by and about children and young adults who have been impacted by rental incarceration And the reason why i founded is because i was a daughter of apparent that had been incarcerated for thirty three years. My father was released. This january twenty twenty one after serving thirty three years in prison and for the majority of that time that he was incarcerated. I had never spoken publicly about him being incarcerated mainly because of the trauma because of the stigma because of the shame of incarceration. Not knowing that there was this thing called incarceration until dump seven years ago and not knowing that people were actually empathetic to the issue. There were no support systems for my family got arrested. There was nothing and to me. Bad just was heartbreaking. Especially because i found out that people were empathetic to this issue and then i realized wow when people look to the military. They censored the children when people are divorced. They sent to the children when there's in-depth apparent. They censored the children when a parent is incarcerated one through the children. Nothing there is no support
Let's Talk About Trauma and How to Heal
"Hi everyone it's some. How excited are you. I'm really excited. I am very hopeful that this summer we will be taking better care of ourselves better care of each other and we're all in this world having a more content driven life. Not sure it's going to happen. A certainly not just gonna happen for me. But that's what i'm putting out to the universe this morning as i'm recording this podcast and i'm hopeful that in our little piece of the universe for everyone listening we can put that out there for ourselves today. All right with that said i would love for everybody to take collective big breath in hold it for a little bit and then let it out. Why because today peeps. We're gonna talk about trauma and this can be a heavy subject but as usual. I'm gonna try and have a little fun with it where we can overall. I want for you to learn more about what trauma is how trauma has changed in definition over the years. And what you can do to feel better. If you have experienced trauma in your life when bad things happen to us it can take a while to get over those feelings. The pain and feel safe again but most of us don't really get over it you know. That's not one of my favorite phrases and the reason is is because trauma lives deep inside of us
Ben Okri Reads Franz Kafka
"Hi ben. Welcome so when we started talking about doing the podcast. one thing. That was very clear to me. Was that you feel an affinity with kafka's work. What is it that makes what he does important to. You is hard to say the more you read kafka the more confusing it is actually He's someone who gets more mysterious with more. Acquaintance is very strange. And i think it's the deceptive quality. Has i think. Actually i think is the way. His mind probes reality. It's a universalising quantity that his mind has. He's trying to himself either because of some deep trauma in his life because of what he felt about life at trained himself as a storyteller to constantly allegra allies while at the same time being deeply particular and nobody no other writer developed it to the degree That he had and also like his voice is voices. Most peculiar of course. I don't read the german and the same german. His voices peculiarly plain sometimes bureaucratically plane but all translations into english and michael's we saw most beautiful while the best he. Has this voice that. Tom manages to bypass your your brain and it goes straight into your psyche. He's found this tone this very normal tone that just slowly shifts Into completely unexpected places without any without any striving
Sobriety vs. Recovery
"One of the things that kate mentions in the beginning of her story is all of the times that she unsuccessfully tried to quit drinking before her sober date in twenty eighteen. She talks about white. Knuckling it and how ultimately that failed for her. I think that most of us who can't quit drinking on our own have had many stops and starts before finally sticks. And that's probably why you're listening to this podcast. A common misconception is that quitting drinking means you just stop drinking alcohol and that's it you're done you don't change anything else. Just remove that one liquid from your glass and that is all. that's sobriety. Sure you know you're not putting that substance in your body anymore. You're sober but you're not making any other changes or improvements or taking any steps to work on the behaviors that likely contributed to your drinking a phrase that you used to hear a lot is dry drunk but we're starting to kind of move away from that language it really contributes to the negative stigmas around substance use but that phrase refers to someone who's quit drinking but has not made any other changes to their behavior in over one hundred thirty episodes of this show. I cannot count how many times i recorded myself saying. It's not about the alcohol. Yes you are drinking the substance that is life ruin her but it's not the alcohol that's the root of the problem. Alcohol is what you drink to cover up what you're feeling what you drink to numb out. What you swallow to wash down your rage or anger or sadness or trauma and once you start depending on alcohol and eventually become addicted to it. It's easy to focus on the substance because so many of the consequences are from the alcohol. The consequences are happening in plain sight. Not inside your mind and don't get me wrong. You have plenty of consequences from alcohol inside your mind but most of us aren't out there getting. Dwi's from unaddressed trauma.
Roxana Preciado on Facing Your Trauma, and Speaking Your Truth
"Just is the preface to my last book trauma for sale. This is the whole and their parts. I am responsible for telling my truth. I cannot hide behind my accomplishments and still future fails in achievements to come. I have to tell my whole truth. I do not wanna tell an incomplete story. This is not braver fair to others who have survived similar struggles and see me thriving. I am scared. But i wanna be brave. I will never be a coward in this book. I include personal photographs and some of my artwork to me and telling my whole truth. I wanna be free. I wanna be honest. The past summer of twenty nineteen. I spent in recovery. Trying my best to heal yet again. Healing is a lifelong process. I am no exception to this. Sometimes i am thriving while other times. I fall apart just like any other. No one is above their flocks humanity yet. i can never be completely healed. The trauma endured is not easily mended. However it gets better. I wanna share the pieces of me that i fear most the naked truth of the trauma that haunts me here is a quick glance. At what got me here at age twelve. I started writing poetry as a coping mechanism to deal with life's challenges. I grew up in a family where my mother was often cold and distant. She was more of a guardian than an actual parents to me. I also had a stepfather and was the eldest of four siblings. Me being the only stepchild to my stepfather. Needless to say i was the black sheep of the family. Growing up i had endured many trials and tribulations. I suffered from mental physical and sexual abuse from those who are supposed to love and protect me. The most
Celtics fan arrested after bottle nearly hits Kyrie
"Trauma. The Boston Celtics are now on the brink of elimination. Last night, the Nets beat the seas 1 41 to 1 26. There was An ugly incident, though a fan accused of throwing what appeared to be a water bottle at
The Dangers of Emotional Stress Impacting Your Physical Well-Being
"Scientists actually discovered that emotional stress. Similar to adorn experience can be a trigger for the growth of tumors as a matter of fact any sort of trauma emotional or physical stress can act as literal pathway between cancerous mutations bringing them together in a potentially fatal combination for example at yale university scientists have discovered that everyday emotional stress is a trigger for the growth tumors. The finding showed that conditions for developing cancer can be significantly affected by your emotional environment including everyday work and family stress in other words. Your risk of developing cancer can be positively or negatively affected by your emotional environment including everyday work physical emotional and relationship stress. The traditional chinese medical view of cancer ideology has long held that emotions are a major contributing factor for cancer author. Son vignon writes in his book cancer treatment and prevention according to our understanding of the tumor patient most have suppression of emotions. They tend to hold in their anger. Although some patients have good results after treatment emotional stimulation can cause them to decline again and then the previous treatment would have been in vain. Some people have a severe phobia about cancer before they know the real disease. They have a lot of suspicion. They know they have cancer. Their whole spirit breaks down. This kind of spiritual state is very bad for treatment. In the book prevention and treatment of carcinoma in traditional chinese medicine. Jiakun gives ten recommendations for cancer prevention in addition to a good environment and personal hygiene proper amounts of physical activity and rest good eating habits and healthy food and avoiding smoking. He states that emotional changes such as worry. Fear hesitation anger irritation and nervousness should be presented mental exhaustion. It's harmful and life should be enriched with entertainment. Chinese medicine author sheila ming and she pecan also mentioned the ideology of various cancers and their book experience in treating carcinomas with traditional chinese medicine. They say the etiological factors of the disease involved chiefly the disturbance of the seven emotions especially melancholy anxiety and anger which are liable to impair the spleen and
Indigenous Fashion: The Politics of Ribbon Skirts, Runways and Resilience
"Abigail echo hawk is here to talk about a ribbon. Dress a traditional symbol of healing. But it's not a typical ribbon dress. She's the chief research officer at seattle indian health board and the director of the urban indian health institute in march of twenty twenty in the early days of the pandemic. She reached out to her federal health partners to ask for some more p. p. e. so the institute could continue to serve the native population in the seattle area instead of receiving masks and testing kits. She was sent bodybags abigail ponti and joins me now. Welcome to the show abigail and so excited to be here. Can you take take me back to that moment. When you opened up the box with the body bags and what happened we had gotten noticed at a large box had arrived at our clinic. We ran downstairs. We hoping for mask and when we opened it up what we saw instead was a box of bodybags. It was absolutely devastating. I remember taking one of the body bags out of the box. In the toe tags fell out of the bag and instantly there were tears in my eyes. Because all i could think about was the elders. I had seen upstairs. Wanting to get tested of our providers were showing their own mass of our executive leadership team. Who had started washing the scrubs of our providers at our own homes in order to ensure that they had what they needed. And when we asked for help bodybags is what we got. What did you think about when you saw what your federal health partners had sent you. When i saw what they had sent us. I wish i had been more surprised. Unfortunately i wasn't as we look at. How the federal government in the united states has provided the treaty obligations for american indians alaska. Natives we know they haven't and in fact they have never fully funded our healthcare systems and as a result of that we've seen our people have high rates of disease. We've seen our people die. And when i thought about it it was almost the perfect metaphor for what the federal government has been doing to us for centuries and that is giving us the thanks to bury our people in and not giving us the resources so are can live. When did you get the idea to transform the body bag into a rib andress. I've been working in healthcare for really long time and it's hard i have seen people die. I've seen are people not receive the resources that they need. And sometimes i'll drive home from my work and just cry all the way home and so i've had to find ways of coping with the trauma that i experience as an indigenous person working native healthcare. And so. I use the cultural traditions. That i have been taught by my aunties my relatives by my
How the Pandemic Effected Uplift Family Services
"I'm join remotely via zoom by faith jackson. The transitional housing program supervisor of uplift family services. Thanks for being here face. Thank you for having me. So could you please provide the audience. Just a quick overview of who apply family service programs. are it's a regional organization with a as ing kind of ecosystem if you will of wraparound services for families definitely so the agency or on is one of the largest most albums the behavioral treatments in california one of the bigger providers each year we serve. Do whatever it takes to help about. Thirty five thousand children and families to manage and recover from challenges coming from trauma such as severe neglect and abuse. Essential life skills that they need to be successful at home or school and in their communes in so short mission statement. Is you know we do whatever it takes to. Strengthen advocate for children families and adults and communities to realize their hopes in behavior health and wellbeing. And then you are. Throughout the bay area you're working in kind of concord east bay but then you also have offices i think in the south bay in west bays recall that's correct as well as out to sacramento so here locally. We asked him oxygen in campbell. There's seven conquer where. I'm out a few supervised the tape program. So if you could explain what tae as we were saying before we came on acronyms are us what tae is. And then what the tape program is in to you. Know who are the residents that you serve great so advance. For transitional age you must pacific program. Supervise is the transitional housing program. Our young people are foster children and their ages range. Any rare which lane sixteen to twenty one am before two thousand well young people at the age of eighteen. We're just put out of foster care and and learn some of the most important life skills
Checking in With Michelle Williams
"Thank you so much for joining us. Today michelle are. Thank you so much for having me like i said before. I'm a huge fan and supporter of therapy for black girls. I think it's brilliant and it's so needed. I appreciate that. So i'm very excited. Your book is out yes may twenty fifth is overly staked perfect perfect and so is called checking in and i would love for you to just start by telling us what you mean by checking in well it definitely was a play on words as will you know from the time twenty eighteen where i actually had to check in to a mental health facility but i learned so much from that time going on three years later and added those three pillars to my book. Checking in with yourself checking with others checking in with guide no particular order. Whatever way you want to do it. But i found that to be very restorative for me And that's also the name of your podcast. Yes it is yes. It is just to normalize people being able to process. They're paying in their trauma. Their transitions even their triumphs. That it should really really help. One's mental health So michelle you know. I think a part of our difficulty or hesitation in checking with others is that we are not always prepared for would they might say. And i'm wondering if you have any suggestions for how we might check in with other people and be prepared for the answers. Oh absolutely there's a few things. If i am going to check in with somebody to tell them how i'm feeling i start off by saying. Hey how are you doing. Hey do you have the emotional capacity to kind of listen to what i'm gonna say because this is just going to be go beyond. Hey girl how you doing And if they say oh yes of course then go on to have the discussion now if somebody calls me and say hey i need to talk to you about something. I'm all ears. Unless i'm like literally like not in a place to talk but you make it a safe place. You'd be a safe person for them. Listen don't come off with solutions. I'm of solutions based person miniature Problem i'm gonna go to google in or i'm gonna go to things off the top of my head. That helped me but sometimes some people just want you to listen
S6 E11 - This is what it's like living with someone with PTSD. . . - Full Episode
"All right you ready. I actually hit record this time here. We go so in the most recent episode of the podcast season six episode ten. I sat down with my wife patricia. I talked to her about the challenges. She has faced in dealing with multiple mental health diagnoses over the years and right after we published that episode. We received an excellent recommendation from a listener. Asking us to tackle the topic of what it's like living with someone with ptsd. And i think patricia. And i are uniquely suited to tackle this since both of us. Have this diagnosis in in. Its for completely different reasons. This episode is going to be an unfiltered. Look at what. It's like to live with someone with post traumatic stress disorder and by way of introduction. This is the we served now. What podcast where. I do my best to answer the questions. Veterans and their families are already asking so you can make your post military life. Your best life money erin perkins. I'm a. us army combat veteran daddy to two amazing kiddos host of this podcast. If you hadn't guessed. And i am joined today again by my beautiful bride patricia. Welcome back to the show thank you. I'm so glad to be here. Well good good so it's been a couple weeks right and last time we talked about the treatments. You're getting and things like that for depression. Talk to us a little bit before. We're gonna dive into the. Ptsd topic talked us a little bit. About how those are going those are going. I'm not going to be very honest. they're painful. I think Winning expecting almost a miracle. I mean you you let somebody shock your head for twenty minutes a day. You expect something but it's actually made my depression a little worse. They said that's normal. It can get worse before it gets better. So actually they're going to re map tomorrow and see if there's a different place. They need to put the magnet. But i think it's gonna go all right. Yeah we hope we hope and pray as well trained for this for that. This works in putting you through a lot of distress but like you said pain to try to to address the depression right. And so that's that's just one part of what can be a result of ptsd another city but the actually brit really brings up our our first thing to talk about is. Let's talk about ptsd a little bit. What it is. And how. I understand it. How do you understand. ptsd how. I understand it is. I mean we all know it stands for post traumatic stress disorder and that can be from your childhood from your teen years from adulthood. Something you went through something. You saw something you experienced. That was just traumatic for you. And i know that it can you know make you. Have you know nightmares it. Can you know how you can have memories of that trauma and then you avoid situations that you know make you think of that trauma and you know a lot of even soldiers you know. They get like hyper vigilant. You know because of how it makes them feel and it can call anxiety and depression as well. I think the hyper vigilance was one of the i. I realize that i that something was wrong right. I knew i had a lot of anger in. I was like i don't know why angry like i'm i'm not in the army anymore. I thought you the anger was just part of just being in the army. You're just mad something every day. And so i thought that it would go away and it didn't in fact he got worse and it. Was that hyper vigilance piece. I always felt. I still do. But i always felt ready. This constant state of readiness hyper vigilant. That's one of the behavioral parts because there's behavioral parts psychological mood in general sleep. And then you know it you can break them all down like you know behavioral is like you know you feel agitated or irritable or hof style or hyper vigilant like you were saying or you know you start doing self destructive things like you know. Drugs are becoming an alcoholic or or if he just completely isolate yourself. That's me raise my hand right there myself psychological as you know flashbacks which i don't have those fear that comes from nowhere severe anxiety failure to trust other people. Because you don't know what's going to happen the mood part of it. You know you lose interest or pleasure in doing stuff that you used to enjoy doing right or you feel like the severe guilt or you are incredibly lonely like you have tons of people around you. You have a family that loves you but you are so lonely and it messes with your sleep. It can cause you to sleep too much. Not enough to have horrific nightmares and a lot of people have detachment from other people and like intrusive thoughts that they just can't get rid of you know that you know. They go through their day and i guess to some other people they might look like legitimate list crazy but they just have these constant like thoughts and some people have to talk it out. You know there's so many parts to ptsd. yeah. I think that's one of the challenges with even realizing that you might have it right because there's so many parts to it. Depression anxiety intrusive thoughts avoiding situations. Not sleeping sleeping too much having horrific nightmares having too much emotion having no emotion at all. There's so many things and so what i was told. People especially veterans is if if something feels off. Don't try to figure out if you have. Ptsd anxiety or depression go to mental health right and talk to the professional about it and let them figure out whether you use the va or you go out to out to in the civilian sector. You go get it checked out. Because there's there's nothing that's not going to hurt you to go get it checked out right and that was a question that i was going to ask you. Is you know like when did you realize you had ptsd. I think it was what year wise was twenty seventeen. I got out and twenty. Fourteen of twenty seventeen anger progressively got worse. The hyper vigilance. And what. I say hyper vigilance. I i don't mean just like you know on edge all the time and i guess that was part of it but for me it was this feeling like i'm about to go into a fight like just ready like i mean you know kind of like almost kind of like a sprinter would be at the starting line. Okay here we go all right. I'm ready. i'm ready and it was like that all the time. That sounds exhausting. It is it really really is it took i say i want to say it took a long time to get past that but truth is i'm up past that no the pd. Has these not a broken limb. You know you can't cast on it and wait six weeks and go back and get the cast off and you're good to go. No i mean people can't get past it it's it. There are stories of people who you know they had. Ptsd and to you know after a few months few years depending on situation you can't get past. It depends on the person. I think it's post traumatic growth right where you know after your trauma you become a stronger person. A bigger percent better person. I don't know if i would. I would say that people ever get over their trauma. They just they build one right in that instead of letting the letting it crush them they use it to to fuel becoming a better person in the end and the thing is it's not always a choice. I don't think this is my opinion right. I don't think it's always a choice whether you get to say like oh. I'm past the worst part of my ptsd. And i'm only headed for post traumatic growth now. I don't even think i've heard that term post traumatic growth. So i don't know. If i would be i don't know if my opinion i mean i hope that's a real thing Veteran futterman talk to me. One time so you're doing it basically you're doing to post traumatic growth thing like you like you know you start a company like you've got a great career you've got a great family you know you've got a beautiful home cars dog you've got all this stuff going for you you're doing life right you're in your a great church like you're doing all these things right and hosting this podcast you're getting so much stuff done okay and i'm like okay cool why don't it feel better yeah really i'm like okay. We'll see if this post traumatic growth. I number one. i'm happy i'm growing. I'm happy growing getting better. getting smarter. Faster stronger whatever it is. I'm happy about that part but like it is this like is post traumatic growth a destination or is it just this constantly journey. Yeah i think it's a journey in. It reminds me of what we heard in church on sunday about walking wounded. And that's what that means is like. Es your wounded mentally sometimes physically but you know ptsd is a mental disorder and your your wounded mentally but you continue to walk. Wounded is when you stop that. There's no growth And so the post traumatic growth is continuing to walk. Even though you're wounded i love. Obviously you we're in the same service. Same church service right and we were both talking about how great it was so we can ask each other. This question okay. What's it like living with me especially within. What's it like living with me. Especially when i'm experiencing some sort of triggering episode so you mentioned 2017 when you first realized that you had p. Tst then it was. You're angry and you know we tried to give you a little bit of space and like you know. Let you breathe calm down. But i think i think you have grown because now you take that space for yourself. You're like i'm going to go run or i'm going to take the dog and we're going to go hike for a few hours. I think that you know living with you. I've able to watch you grow. And and learn how coping mechanisms coping skills. And i think with. Ptsd you have to learn. Those people might not always understand them like. I'm not hiking ninety degree weather with a dog. It's not happening but three you that works that would trigger trigger something not. Ptsd that would trigger anger. It has nothing to do with. Ptsd you you. You've joined small groups that you guys run and you know for exercise in general for you just really helps you a lot of that. Is you know twenty seventeen. We had just moved to alabama and things weren't going the way we wanted them to and life was just really stressful right. And you hadn't even been diagnosed yet. sure sure. So you've you've grown okay. So i don't even ask this question. What do you like living with me. It's amazing it's amazing. I love it. Let next question experiencing some sort of triggering episode. Well i've told you this before but as a man as a husband i feel. It's my duty my job to keep you happy. You know and so a lot of times i think. Ptsd manifests itself in your life as overwhelming depression and crippling anxiety right. And there's not a single thing i can do about it so for me. It's not that living with you is better or worse. Y you know with a triggering episode. It's that my hands are tied right. And so i think it's super frustrating. Because i'm like. I see a problem my wife is in. It's not just unhappy. You know it's like she. Has this a legitimate mental diagnosis. A mental condition that. I can't do anything to fix Frankly doctors can't do anything to fix every single part of that right and that conversation we've had many times because you're like i just want to fix it and i'm like doctors i have and they can't fix it. Release yourself up that burden. You can't fix it and that is so tough as a man who says you know what i'm here to lead my family my wife and my kids and you know kind of you know take charge and we're going to go tackle life together and that is so appreciated but sometimes you just got. It's true it's true like it's nothing you can do. Well that's not true. Okay that's not true space. Give me space. You know like like you did tonight. I had that treatment today and it made me sick today. I was actually really upset stomach today. And i'm just chilling in the bedroom lennon bed phone and you just made dinner that i did that helped i did. I logged off my computer at work and went and made dinner. It was amazing. I don't know if the dinner was amazing. But it's good good good so coming up after the break tricia and i are going to ask each other one more question. We're going to ask this question. Is there anything good about living with someone who has. Ptsd and we're gonna share several takeaways with you. 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You can also schedule your free consultation with marco once again that's live like others can't dot com get on the path to your dream life today all right and we are back and as promised. We're going to talk about ptsd or would keep talking about ptsd right but the question that we have for each other. Do you wanna ask it. I want me to go go ahead. Is there anything good about living with someone who has ptsd. I wrote this question. I still think it's a tough question you know i would not wish. Ptsd on anyone true. I'll start with that so with that in mind. What the good that has come out of it. It helps me to understand other people abso win. I hear about a veteran struggling with. Ptsd or a a veteran's family member or or family member or friend who is struggling with ptsd. I'm like i get it. I know how you feel. I completely understand and so for me. It's if there's anything good. It's that i can better relate to people who are going through the same frustration and anguish and honestly emotional pain when they see their loved one going through this right and i know not everyone copes. Well that's true and so this question might be difficult for some other. Some people listening you know like they're their loved when ptsd is raging alcoholic. Who's angry all the time. In what would you tell that person. That's an even to that. That in itself is even tougher. I think what. I would be telling that person is i. Can't i cannot tell you what you should be experiencing if you're living with someone with ptsd and you're like you know my spouses a raging alcoholic as a result of pd. St how do i find good in that. I can't tell you what good you should find. I i'm in no place to tell you that the only thing i can do is point you to the one that is jesus christ the principe who can give you peace in the situation and and the bible even says you know piece that passes all understanding basically piece. That doesn't make sense. So i can't tell you. This is what you should be feeling. This is what you should be experiencing. But i can recommend you to eat a formula so to speak of how to live better in that situation right and and i would add onto that to a more. You know just. I don't know. Do we say worldly. Come that. Try to under try to understand. Don't don't try to fix but like research. See how you can help your one with ptsd. Because i think not. Understanding is a part of the problem right for years i had. Ptsd and you did not. You didn't understand it in in mind would manifest in depression anxiety in the soldier new said just go exercise pushups drink water burpee strength water and i'm like you so don't get it and it was true i didn't you act totally asked you to research it to better understand it and you you did better understand it but now that you have experienced for yourself it's completely different really it. It really really is just just so different when you experience it for yourself. So i'll ask you the same question. Is there anything good about living with someone who has ptsd. I think it teaches you. How similar to what you said compassion. I mean i've always had a big heart. And i think it's because it's been broken a lot and you don't hurt anybody else because you know what that feels like you know you have more compassion. Because you know what it's like to fill abandoned or left out or or or thrown away so you're not gonna do that to anybody because if you're not a monster you're not gonna do that because you know what that feels like me and so i have probably too much compassion. My heart's honestly probably isn't too big for people. There are worse things that people not for pets. But that's a whole different. That's a big for people. Pets you can have one. That's my ocd. Am sorry that's okay. But yeah i would say me. It's compassionate and i've seen more compassionate you as well 'cause i was saying earlier when you didn't understand it you just dislike. Oh burpee and water. But now you're like. Do you want to go take a nap. You need to lay down like there's way more compassion than there was before so if if anything good can come out of such a horrific diagnosis like ptsd. I mean if you can just you know. Be patient and be kind. You can learn compassion. Sure yeah that's a really good point. So that's it for the questions right now. We honestly united had these types of conversations for year really really long time and and this is just another one of those conversations of how to how to live with someone with ptsd. What it's really like. i. I'm going to go out on a limb here. What's the worst part about living with someone with. Ptsd not knowing how they're gonna react something and so you know there's times when not recently but you know there were times i'm like oh i don't know if i want to tell him this 'cause i don't know how he's gonna react. I don't know where he's at today. You know mentally like you know. He's already got a lot on his plate. I'm kinda it's almost like an egg shells kind of thing like the. You wanna be really careful. You know so so those can be a little. And i'm sure i'm the same way i'm sure you and the kids stay away. Well i think for me and maybe for the kiddos too. I don't know but for me. It's the the worst part you know other other than the obvious of you. Know seeing my spouse going through this right but you know how it how it affects. Your frustrates me is the inability to plan. I love planning. I'm like okay. What are we going to do tomorrow. Six weeks from now five years from now and like i don't know win and might depression depression. Yeah and you're going to be like. Oh sorry man like as much as you would love to go do that. Depression is just crushed. You for that day or week or i mean there are many many times to. I'm going to say through the years that i've pushed myself. You know because. I i wanna do fun things at the family like you know. I think a lot of people feel that way. Like yeah wanna goaded disneyworld and make memories you know and you feel like that that depression creep over you and you just got to push through it as hard as it is. You just gotta you can't quit. You got to keep moving gonna walk wounded speaking of which so i know we. We referenced. The walk wounded message right. So so for those of you. Who don't know this was a message from church. The highlands with A great jura tear in this region of the country. One of the biggest in the nation as i recall got twenty plus camp twenty two twenty. Three i don't even know now. We got a bunch of campuses anyway. The the one of the pastors nikon carter. He spoke any told the story about a guy that will testament by the name of jacob who ends up wrestling with this angel and this angel as he's wrestling with jacob he he knocks jacobs jacobs hip out of socket right but jacob keeps wrestling. He's like hey. I am not going to let you go until you bless me. And so he. He eventually wins the wrestling match. The angel blesses him. And then jacob has to go meet his brother. There's whole back did this to me his brother and as he's going to meet his brother he's limping like crazy. And so even though the angels blessed and basically god putting his hand on him and saying hey like i you know i i love you. I approve of what you're doing. You know i'm blessing right now. Even though god did that he didn't heal him completely soup but jacob still had to keep moving and he had to walk wounded. Right into put in real world speak is like yeah. You can have blessings you can have all these great things in life you can have money. Houses cars land lakes pools vacation homes. But that doesn't mean you're not going to have wounds right from other people from yourself from life itself. Ptsd is usually a a life itself kind of thing so what you gotta keep walking for. Sure for sure so what's another takeaway back to. What we're saying is be patient and educate yourself. If you want to help your spouse or even yourself like okay like read just read read. How other people are doing it and that have been successful and and see how it actually manifests in your own life. Because just saying it's ptsd. I bet there some other things surrounding it that maybe you don't even know. And so educate yourself and be patient with yourself and your spouse if it's your spouse right right and somebody said this is another great takeaway. Here is give your spouse space if your spouse was the one who has the. Ptsd right give them the space they need. I will say that with the caveat if you believe. They are in danger of hurting themselves. Get the appropriate help. Absolutely this is not the your spouse said. Hey i'm gonna take my own life and then you say okay one. That's giving them space. No no no. That's not a time when you need to give them space. That's a time when there needs to be an intervention right. You know so when we're talking to give give your spouse space. it's you patricia. Saying yeah take your dog for hike. Its ninety degrees. go ahead. i'm not with you. I'll be in the pool right. Yeah right yeah gopher run go go do something to to just relax to take that. Take the edge off so to speak. Then so give your spouse space. I think is a really really great takeaway there so anything else any other takeaways. We should share with our audience today. I don't know. I think we've covered it. I mean just to walk wounded. Hold their hand while they're walking did. Oh may that's the that'll pre treat there. that's good. That is so good well patricia again. So much for coming on the show really really appreciate. I know you didn't feel great today but you muscled through it and i'm so so glad you did. I know our listeners grew be happy as well and obviously on this show. We ask a lot of questions that we do our best to answer a lot of questions and we all have a lot of questions but the most important question we can ask ourselves is this. Have i accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith. In jesus christ will thank you so much for listening. Be sure to follow social media. Facebook occurred to fight again. Same thing on instagram and twitter ad courage again. You can pick up. A copy of my book resolve at courage to defied again dot com or also on amazon. It has been such a pleasure sharing our hearts in this conversation with you today until next time. Thanks for listening.
Checking In with Tamika D. Mallory
"Hey everybody thank you so much for checking in. Today's podcast is going to be absolutely powerful. Make sure you check on your strong friends. Because they hurt. They need support with everything going on in the world. Your mental health matters. My book is already out. It's caught checking in in. It gives you the tools you need to put your mental health. I it gives you some cool pillars the three pillars checking in with yourself checking in with others and checking in with god and i'm so honored to check in with today's guest. She's a nationally recognized. Social justice leaders civil rights activists public speaker co founder of until freedom and author of bestselling book state of emergency. How we win. In the country we built without further ado. Please welcome the incredible to make a mallory to the checking in podcast. Oh my god. I am totally fan. Gerwin i'm on your with one of my favorites entertainers and not just entertainers were really a spiritual leader michelle. I appreciate you so much for having me on today. Listen i just wanna tell you that. I appreciate you. I was thinking of when we looked at leaders. You think of martin luther king. I don't know why kids think they were fifty or sixty years old. I look at your youth in. It's like no. They were starting young to you. Started so young. Actually you were a teenager when you started As far as what we would call. Someone is being an activist now. I know so. Many people focus on that that part of you but i want to focus on you thinking. We are grateful for the work that you do with until freedom. But i know that sometimes you can be so strong but a lot of it. Commotion lee spiritually has to take a toll on you at moments. Sure it's taxing. you know. I deal with trauma every day. I deal with the trauma. Those who reach out to me l. In support for the family and i deal with trauma of just watching video at the video that people send me fine to inform me up different incidents that have happened. We deal with the trauma of the you know not guilty. Verdicts the loss if you will win fighting these cases in win really hoping that they will change We deal with the trauma of elected officials. Who are supposed to represent us. Not doing enough to enough to stand by. The community is trauma everywhere. And then you have your own personal trauma which is something. None of us can get away from
Overcoming Financial Trauma and Creating a Denim Empire
"Page. Welcome to money rehab. Thank you so much. So in the beginning of our episodes we do a quick round of money. Rehab never have. I ever you got it. I'll ask you questions about your finances and you can tell me if you have or you haven't made this money move all right. Never have i ever sold a stock. Never you just keep them long term. We invest very safely and things have been going well so we've been keeping them the way they are so so far so good. Never have i ever played the lottery. No i've never played the lottery. Never have i ever ridden a will or trust. I have like a boss. Never have i ever pitched an investor. I have definitely pitched an investor successfully successfully so grateful. And that's how page mrs started. The so tell me how page was started. I had been working in the industry in l. a. in the entertainment industry seeing modeling and acting and doing a bunch of different things and i also thought that i might be a talk show host someday so that was my major in college was communications and broadcast journalism. But before i was going down that route i was singing acting and modeling and doing all different kinds of things and long story short. It ended up being industry. That wasn't very healthy for me. Do a lot of different things that happened in my life and i ended up going to speak to a life coach when i hit rock bottom in really needed to get some help
"traumas" Discussed on The Psych Central Show
"Mentor said to me james. What if when you kill yourself. The pain didn't go away and he said where's your what if when you killed yourself. The pain got worse. Because we've read about people who've died started to go to the other side and seeing lights and all these kinds of stuff and the guy jumped off the golden gate bridge survived and the first thing that he thought when he left off the bridge was oh my god. What am i doing was regret. So that's why i tell you. Just start saying my best days are ahead of me and people say. How are you doing. Not so great. But i'm getting you're leaving room for improvement right leaving room for opportunities so i don't believe in denial and not acknowledge where you're what's going on. You have to address that stuff but you have to believe it can get better and then there's some people that just want to sit in the mud and i'm like universal give you whatever story you tell it but you do have a choice one of the things that you say of course that the universe will give you whatever you tell it will give you in and i i certainly believe that in many ways but but in other cases like really extreme examples war poverty or course in the lives of children that rings less true. Is there an outer limits to if you say so where does it end or where does it begin. Interesting questions it. Let's talk about in your in the business of the mind. So let's talk about the power of the mind one of the examples. I will point to the placebo effect. Right what's the explanation. That is sugar pill give a human being the same benefit the same medical benefits that the actual medicine gives people. And i'm talking about significant numbers but there's people who actually benefit from just the thought that they think they're taking something that will help them in their condition. That's the power of the mind and that's the power of belief you'll get whatever you believe in so if you're believing negative thoughts you will get that. You're pointing that ship towards the dorm. See you're gonna get rough sailing. If i point that ship towards the beautiful sunset it's gonna be smooth sailing just a log nature. That's just the way that things work. There is no limit. There's a limit if you say so you're talking about war and a lot of people throw this out when i start talking about the law of attraction when i say that the life is always good. It's just our perspective of it. The changes people fight me on. Like what about nine eleven. What about school shootings. And as i mentioned earlier that we don't have control over everyone else but we do have control of ourselves over what we're focused on what we're saying about ourselves and what we're seeing to others. That's what i focus on of what. I really have power over of my voice and my word and so we're all gonna be victims of some. I love parents who always by their kids a goldfish when their children. It's a great lesson of this experience in this human life. This imperfect world where we're animals so when a kid has a goldfish and then it comes. One day from school and the goldfish is floating on top of the water. What do you do. You agree the loss of the goldfish. You have a little ceremony in the backyard. You bury it in the flower bed. Put a little heads and you grieve. The loss of your goldfish. And that's the prepare us for bad things happen in life. But we're not in control of all of that but what i do know is this is when i changed my story and i started to speak differently about myself and others and when i started to pay attention to what i was focused on and i started focusing on. What's good and what's working in my life. I attract a lot more of that. And i'm a lot more peaceful in my life. I have a lot more healthy loving nurturing relationships of people that. Make me a better me. And i'm happier and i'm more content and i'm comfortable in my own skin and that's my evidence in literally hundreds of thousands of millions of other people in the world that do the same thing. Because i was stuck in the dark. I did not know i had a choice. And that's really bringing it back full circle to what the book is about is to let people who are struggling know that. Hey there are some things you can do right now to start to turn this thing around one of the things that you talk about openly as that you're a survivor of sexual assault. I just like to give you the opportunity to talk about that because it goes into what you were saying that people always push back. What about nine eleven. what about war. what about famine. You have your own personal hell that you've dealt with can you expound on that for a moment one of the greatest pieces of feedback i got on. The book was got. It's really raw. You're incredibly vulnerable in that. And yes. I had to tell my story because i i don't wanna keep looping the story about all the negative horrible things that happen to me and the things that i had done i wanted to put a period at the end of that story and move on it again. What i'm really focused on. You know how. I am so lucky and blessed and grateful of this great life that i have but i write about a lot of really tragic events and what i'm finding is i'm having a lot of people direct message me on social media saying you know what that happened to me to thank you for sharing that. I've never been able to talk about that. When a lot of the work that i do especially with men because i think for men the stigma around molest the game. That comes with that and the stigma around. That was one of the things. I said i would never ever tell anyone and someone who's one of migrate teachers and great inspiration to me. Is the famous champion boxer. Sugar ray leonard and he wrote a book called the big fight and it was about his battle with alcohol and drugs being the biggest fight he ever had in this life and he wrote in his book about how he was molested in when he was a young teenage amateur coming up in the boxing wrecks and and i was so moved by. His vulnerability is honesty. That inspire me. I said you know what..
"traumas" Discussed on The Psych Central Show
"We tell ourselves about ourselves with author james swaggart. Let's play devil's advocate for a moment. Because i knew there somebody listening to this and saying so what you're saying is if i'm in a bad way i just tell myself i'm in a good way and poof. All of the sudden everything is better and imagine that. That's not what you're saying. There's a lot more steps than that but to somebody listening to this and says listen. You're just repackaging. The power of positive thinking and reselling it to me. What do you have to save for those people. I have a young man that i mentor. And and this goes back to what i was saying earlier where we're all going to be victims of something in life and i'm not talking about a pollyanna attitude where you just ignore difficulties and challenges in real life events. It's not what i'm talking about. It's how we respond to those 'cause they're gonna happen right. There's gonna be death there's gonna be loss there's going to be paying and one of the young man who i mentor. He's about thirty seven. He and his wife had a baby a little charlotte. she's about two or three years old. They got pregnant again with their second daughter. Lillian liliya they were doing early tests. While friend was still pregnant. I was determined. Lilly did not have the right ventricle and they did all of the research. They talked all the doctors they in particular are going to be catholic talked to their priests and their clergy. About what should we do here and basically some of these kids. When they're born they go into open heart surgery right away and some of these children survive and have normal. Happy lives some of them. Don't make and so what they did with their faith and they prayed on it and they said we're going to give the best chance at lily having a good life so they chose to go through with everything and right after lily was born at. Ucla hospital three days later she went in for open heart surgery as this tiny little fragile instant jesse was hooked up for about a month and a half two months on life support and tubes and wires and we went up there. I was up there every day with them. And i'll just back up and say there's nothing in this world more painful than losing child. There just isn't and this is what they were faced with and so by employing their faith their courage they walked through this event with so much dignity and so much grace and we're of service to that child and there's a couple of months later there comes a time where they have to take the baby off life support to see if it can survive or not and in that time common. They pull the baby off life support in the baby. Didn't make it now. I will say to you this. I do not have children not able to have children but there is nothing more painful than that. And i watched because when we were praying for lily we had prayer circles. And i at one point. I out loud. I was praying for lilly to survive the medical issues and devon. Her father looked over to me. Put his hand on my shoulder and he said no. You know what. We're not gonna pray for lilly to live. We're gonna pray for god's will for lily you. It's like a ton of bricks at me in the chest. Because i realized that he knew that child belong to the university. The child didn't belong to him and his wife. It showed me such extraordinary faith and courage and dignity and the way they walked through. That was in absolutely incredible. Course it was painful. Of course. There was anguish in warning greek and we all went through that and i was by his side every step of the way and we went through that horrible situation that tragic event in their family and they moved on. They kept her memory alive and they acknowledged her in the home. They didn't do it a lot of people do. We're not gonna talk about it again. I i have some friends who've lost siblings and the families that we're not talking about it ever again. But they kept it alive for charlotte. They talked about her sister. That she's with god now and what was amazing to me. Was that because of their faith. In my opinion they didn't give up and two years later friend got pregnant again. They had a beautiful new baby daughter. Zoey and now they have to wonderfully beautiful children and this memory of how they were able to get through something very difficult but not let it dictate their future and ruin their lives. Because i've seen that happen to people where they make it about themselves and they wanna play the victim and they remain the victim for decades. So if you're out. There struggling i hear. It's how do i use the spoken word. What if i don't believe it. Because we're the spiritual component comes in gave is that i believe in a great spirit and the power of the universe i believe in a spiritual entity that wants us all to be happy i really do. I think plants and trees and the great sequoias. They grow up defying gravity. And i believe that the universe wants that for us as well and so you have to believe you can start today by saying you know what my best days are ahead of me. You might be in a whole right now. You might be in a dark place but there is hope because even for when i was having suicidal thoughts my mentor said to me james. What if when you kill yourself. The pain didn't go away and he said where's your what if when you killed yourself. The pain got worse..
"traumas" Discussed on The Psych Central Show
"If anybody listening to your podcast has an organization where they feel. They could benefit from becoming to speak talking about the power of the spoken word and how we can change our stories and how can actually change our stories to find happiness and true fulfillment. I'm happy to come and talk. That's what i do. And i just love helping people and fulfills me. It gives me a great sense of purpose and duty. And when i get a letter back or a note or a comment on how my book even has changed so many people's lives already in a short period of time. That's everything for me. That's my furnace right. That's my soul's desire is to help others find what i was able to find. Let's talk about how you described your life as blessed and the reason that i'm going to zero in on this because in your introduction you talked about having a really really rough childhood but of course. That's not what you're focusing on your focusing on where you are now and all the success that you've had i imagine that's difficult for some people. It's a lot easier to dwell on the well. The really traumatic things that happen to us as people. How did you manage to escape that. Yeah for me. There's a great line. I heard somebody said you gotta hit your head on the bottom of the pool in order to find out deep it is sometimes and for me. That was the case. Like i said we'll all be victims of something. And i think when we're in enough pain and that's when it comes time for us to be willing to change and to change the story. 'cause gave we see those people out there who are negative all the time. You have to pay attention to what you're focused on. I just can't focus on the darkness. Because i'll get more darkness. The universe will give you whatever story you tell it. And we know those people out there that are cynical and negative and they're watching the news all the time. It doesn't matter if they're blue or red. There's a consuming the news all the time. There's just a negativity in the sensationalized news on either side of the aisle. It's hard to be happy. And if that's what. I'm focused on the noise. All it's gonna come out of me is noise and it's going to be impossible for me to be happy. And so what i had to do is i had to really pay attention to what i'm focused on. Its my choice every morning. There's a great lincoln quote that people are as happy as they make up their minds to be in for a long time game. I didn't know i had a choice. And that's really the intention that my book to let people know you have a choice. You are not the victim of circumstance you have to take personal responsibility for yourself and you can actually create your own weather today. It's just the law of attraction. You get what you focused on. I have people that have come to work for me where their cell screens broken that late to work the computers protracting. It doesn't work. And you hear how they speak about themselves in the world and they're just negative and it's we're never gonna make it and they never make conversely when you see people who are focused on what's good and what's working and they're speaking positively about themselves and others and they're speaking in the direction of truth and love like don miguel ruiz's for agreements the first of the four agreements is be impeccable with your word and don't speak against yourself or others and always speaking the direction of truth and love and i think for any malady whether it's depression or alcoholism or drug addiction or suicide the remedy for that. It's body mind. Spirit solution dr. carl young wrote about it. William james wrote about the eighteen hundreds that it's not just mental and it's not just physical but to there has to be some sort of spiritual shifts and i don't care. I coach people who are muslim. Mike coach people who are jewish and christians across the board. As long as you believe in something that is great. And that is love. And that is in favor of all peacefully cohabitating. That's an important ingredient as you can hear. I'm very passionate about this subject. So it's a great subject and i'm inclined to agree with most of it because you're right all agree that words can be used for good or evil and it's not even really about the words. It's the context it's how we make people feel with our words. It's about how we make ourselves feel with our words. And that's what you explain in your book about how the power of words can shape your life and you really talk a lot about the power of the spoken word. Can you expand on that for our listeners. Absolutely if you think about adolf hitler in the nineteen thirties used the power of the spoken words almost exterminate the race of people and that was using the power of the spoken word for evil and for hate. It's incredibly powerful. I think that's a testament to it. Conversely let's think about what we could do go in the other way with it. Think about the intention of of the power of the spoken word in the direction of truth and love and compassion and support and encouragement. Someone asked me the other day they were like you like a life coach and i said no. I'm more like a life cheerleader. You know that you already have the playbook inside of you. it's my job. Just help you go from your head to your heart crack. Open your playbook so you can win the game. And that's really the best way to describe what i do and how i help people because i'm not gonna tell people what to do and that's the beauty of the title of this book. My niece julia is. She's smart as a whip and she gave me some great feedback on the book and relationship to how i was going to navigate writing about my family because i didn't really want to hurt anybody. This was not a tell all book. This is a help. All book and julia came to me. Because you know what. I about the title of your book she said. You can't argue with it and i love that. I just love that. I'm not out here trying to convert anyone because that can be a real turn off. But what i do wanna do is reach the people that don't know they have a story or that don't know they can change it and it starts with how we speak about ourselves because people who've come through childhood trauma or any kind of trauma for that matter they create a story about that and i'm not talking about the crew stories. I'm talking about the stories that we tell ourselves in the dark. When we're sick we all feel. Well those are the stories that i want to get to and then i want to shed light on so that people can see those in my workshops and then my seminars will do that people start on cover their stories and shed light on that and then we started talking. Okay great. what do you want your new story to be. And let's focus on that. Let's write that. What's the new story. And one of the things i do. Is i get people to really look at their lives. And say look are. Are you grateful. Is there something in your life. Your grateful for you know. Have them close their eyes and think about that. I said focus on that thing. Whatever it is it could be your dog. It can be your cat if your wife. Your husband and i said now what i want you to do is rise stand up and say i am so grateful and i love my life and yell it together and all of a sudden you see using the power of the spoken word you can literally change your because i said do you feel the energy changes inside of you when you yelled out loud and everyone said yes overwhelming you feel the energy change in the room absolutely and so that's one little exercise that people can employ right now. Just think of something you're grateful for and then just yell it out loud how grateful you are for it and that literally can the energy in your now so brings your tune up a quarter inch that you can start to focus on what's good. What's working and start to move in the direction of your happiness your dreams and that's true success to me money obviously not the measurement of success. But you know how fulfilled you are and how happy you are is really the measure of your success. We'll be right back after these messages. Here and i wanted to tell.
"traumas" Discussed on The Psych Central Show
"Here's your host gay power walk into week's episode of the psych central podcast calling into the show. Today we have. James swaggart his a television and film producer who has worked for many major brands and studios such as apple netflix. And hulu. he's also the author of the new book. If you say so which discusses the power of the spoken word and the stories. We tell ourselves about ourselves. Welcome james thank you very much great to be here. Can you tell us a little bit about your story. And how and why you changed it. Sure the title of the book if you say so. The subtitle is my story. And how i changed it to save my life and i came from a pretty tumultuous childhood. I was the youngest of twelve kids. There was a lot of abandonment abuse. It was chaos. It was complete pandemonium and so as a result and being the youngest. I got left behind a lot of people think. Oh you're the youngest the baby of the family but there were just too many kids and my mom also ran a daycare out of the house so it was pretty crazy at the house and having gone through a lot of things like being left at gas stations left school and left at grocery stores and that sort of thing i started to develop stories around these events that happened to me including abuse. I was molested by relatives and a neighbor from the of seven to twelve. Because of just overlooking i just felt like i. I didn't matter nobody was out there protecting me. Everybody was too busy on survival mode. A lot of the older brothers and sisters found drugs and alcohol which i eventually found at the age of twelve and used as my coping mechanisms through to lessons in early adulthood and i ended up a drug addict alcoholic dealing with severe depression and suicidal tendancies and and ultimately suicide attempt at it. I was lucky enough to survive. We all have stories right. 'cause we're all going to be victims of something in life and it's how we respond to that out of these events. I started to develop stories early on that. I don't matter i'm broken. I'm unlovable they're gonna figure me out. I'm a phony. All of these stories that i tended to loop into my head well into adulthood and they didn't serve me in fact they just compounded. My depression and i was just pretty sure that the world would be a better place. If i wasn't in it. What happened for me. Is i ask for help. At the age of twenty five. I was despondent. It was following a suicide attempt and help arrived in the form of a number of teachers brother. That helps me find those teachers and i was able to get clean and sober at twenty five and i met some amazing teachers that helped me realize that. Hey i was telling myself stories. That weren't true and that i could change the story and it's through a lot of hard work. There's a train metaphor. I use about doing the work. We have to do to go process and feel these unseld feelings. You know we have a baggage car. We have a passenger car. We have a car and the caboose. Some of it's been a little too much time in the bar. That was part of my story on the caboose reflecting on what coulda it would have been and then also spending too much time in the baggage cars just looking at all my bag when staring at it and not doing anything about it and we gotta get rid of that baggage. We gotta feel those feelings and process that stuff so we can move on and be free from it and forgive and ask for forgiveness and ultimately the work. I need to do being up in that. Low steam. Engine locomotive with my overalls on. Pick up the shovel and start shoveling coal into that furnace which powers. My train moves my train forward and furnaces an analogy for our passion. Our souls desire if you will and there's work to be done in order to come out of our old story and that's the shoveling coal part of doing the work. We have to do whether it's going to therapy and feeling those uncomfortable feelings and processing them. Someone wants told me a great line. They said if you're going through hell keep going. So that's kind of how i changed my story. I i love any analogy. That involves a train. I think that it is an underutilized form of transportation and allergy. Let's talk about the book for a moment. Because in the book one of the things that i noticed that you mentioned helpers and takers can you explain how those two groups differ absolutely and thanks for pointing that out. You're the first person to pull that out of the book and and asked me that question. I think there's two kinds of people ultimately helpers and there's takers takers are easy to spot this world. I think we can see who the takers are. But the greatest people in history the greatest people of all time have always been the helpers the mother teresa's of the world for the princess di's of the world's the martin luther king's of the world and their helpers selflessly giving of themselves. We're taking a lot of risk and really just following their passionate and they're passionate. What's to help. People tell liberate people to help give people dignity and to show love and to me. I want to be on the right side of history you know. And that's why i've been really blessed with a great life. I was able to come out of the darkness into the light and ultimately succeed being very successful producer in. Hollywood live in beverly hills. My life is a dream so now that i've accomplished so much. It's really my intention to give back whenever i do pay speaking engagement. I also offer an unpaid speaking engagement to and underfunded program. Inner city schools charities. And if anybody listening to your podcast has an organization where they feel. They could benefit from becoming to speak talking about the power of the spoken word and how we can change our stories and how can actually change our stories.
"traumas" Discussed on Buddhist Society of Western Australia
"The people who are closest to us also the people who influence us the most if you can change your perceptions, their attitude towards people. Have a tremendous impact in daily life. For, do that look at your family members actually reflect well, maybe not so bad as I think maybe these some of these qualities are sometimes see maybe there's a good reason for why they have this quantities. Think, don't take your family members for granted. Remember they have also had past lives. They have also had difficult times. They also influenced by the world around them give them a break. Don't expect too much of them try to understand them in a new way tried to be more forgiving and more accepting of those people who are closest to you even if you love them dearly. Some things the people that are closest to us that we find difficult. If I may be irritating, we find hard to deal with her try to look there if you can look at these things in a positive where and of course, if you can do that, you can transform the most important relationships in your own life. If you can transform those relationships while you're doing really really well becomes very powerful. The person that is important to. Transform and change your perception over is the person's which you find very difficulty new life. We all find some people may be a colleague at work maybe somebody. Maybe somebody I don't know anybody basically that we have to meet on a regular basis, but we've find very very hard to get along with. So difficult I think everybody has kind of people in their lives. So what should we do when there is people like that, and what we have to do is we have in this case you. Can also try to look for the positive qualities because. Has. Positive positive qualities. But often it is more important to try to understand why they are the way they are. Why is it that the is so difficult why is it that I cannot get along with this person and usually here if you look deeply enough, you will find that as always always a good reason why people are the way they are and wants to understand the reason then you can forgive them for for the for the way they are. And often people particularly difficult up people who have gone through TRAUMAS and high times in their lives. People have gone through abuse maybe at school maybe made at home even. People who who just had had some sort of thing which I made very difficult and again, it can be even in the past life. We cannot even see what actually is there. And by looking at this way about understanding this, all was a reason why people are the way they are none of these things happened without conditions every but we all conditioned the negative things in people is always caused by something else. Like, that it is not so hard to forgive anymore you can say they're not actually trying it's not a some kind of self some kind of ego in there which says, I want to be Nasty I. Want to be bad. It doesn't work like that is because of conditions and causes that they do bad things to do things which are not nice to others. Like like that and then you can forgive you can say, okay, it has its 'cause has its reasons. It's all right. You may not be able to find a particular cause or particular reason why people do bad things. That you don't have to find particular causa reason just remember that this is all about non-self. People do things because of causes and conditions because of that, we can all. We can be absolutely sure that the reason they do it is not because they want to do it because they are propelled to do this by something else some other calls and condition in their life. And this way even the most difficult people we can't forgive and we can allow them to be little crazy the stoop and all these things, and it doesn't really matter and of course, the famous story of which. I'm not sure where it comes from but I know atom-bomb tells this story. That is the famous story of the man who goes to the market to buy some eggs for his wife or something like that, and he goes to the market and he gets gentle by this crazy fellow at this marketplace. This fellow yells at him and tells him how terrible is how stupid is and this really upset met this man before and yet yells at him and this terrible way. So. He comes back after the I've been to the market back to his wife and tells us wife was terrible. I went to the market I wanted to do a good act they wanted to help you out and all I get is this abuse of the strangest never met before here that is extremely unfair, and then of course, the story is that his wife tells him. Well, this man is actually crazy here. He doesn't have it together when he was child or whatever something terrible happened to him and has been completely out of his mind ever since. And of course, once you understand that somebody's crazy, you say, oh, okay is fine. There is no problem anymore. And same thing of course, this is actually about anger similarly somebody is angry they are essentially crazy. But you can extend that similar to do when anybody does stupid things things which are immoral things which are not nice and lot kind. Again, it's a kind of derangement of the minor kind of delusion which has taken over here. I think everybody I tired ultimately wants to be kind because we all understand at end of the day kindness is what brings us happiness anger never brings happiness. something, inside of a switch knows that and yet it is so difficult sometimes to practice. So because these people essentially from a Buddhist point of view, I, slightly deranged then reflect like that. This person is a bit mad it's a bit deranged and again it's very so much easier to forgive them. When you know that the actually there is A. That is a reason for the way they act. And of course, this is very important because one person has the power to make our life. So miserable if we don't actually forgive them to see the same person, we have to meet them every day..
"traumas" Discussed on The Blog of Author Tim Ferriss
"Your experience is in a way that allows you to calibrate future. Unhappiness dissatisfaction frustration in a way that's more in measure with the severity of that thing at that time as opposed to just defacto attaching it to all the previous trauma that then explodes in a much bigger way. Much. Less catastrophes housing. Yeah. I mean main my we been my tendencies. Yeah and but that is absolutely the way that people that have experienced severe trauma respond. It's are dealing with and experiencing in managing that trauma. You never get a place to. To detangle any future trauma to that pass trauma. and. So they become instantly attached and that's why that sort of. Giant feeling of. Everything being that global is, is that that new trauma or that new frustration or that new paper cut whatever it is to that pass trauma happens and what we don't, and I don't know why in our sort of DNA this isn't. Better integrated in our daily lives in our experiences of ourselves, but humans metabolize our motions. Fairly quickly in the grand scheme of things, you know we we have the ability when we're hot to take off our sweater. If we're cold, we put it back on when we're hungry we eat. When we metabolising digest our food and so forth. But when it comes to these types of TRAUMAS, there's a fear that somehow. Engaging with them will destroy us. And it and it won't? If if we have the right tools to help us through these things, they won't. Yeah Yeah it's a speaking from personal experience. You the listener are much stronger than you give yourself credit for, and it is possible. To debate or rewrite your software. Is Possible I'm I'm living proof of that Very sweet both taken very different paths to it. You know I, mine is far more conventional. But but they but they've worked you know they've worked I could never have imagined that I could have this type of life and also not finished with the work and they're still I'm still on this this path and this journey to recovery, and I probably will be for the rest of my life and there are moments where I'm like Gee. What would I've been like if I didn't have that trauma and there are moments where I feel sorry for myself and there are moments where I wish it. Could have been different, but it can't. It's not an I move on and I just have to figure out a way as.
"traumas" Discussed on Anne Ortelee Weekly Weather Astrology
"Okay in, you know, we're going through a shift back up. Sit Down and listen watch. Good point good point. And I think. As the structures shift collapsed change migrate. We want to really be very conscious of those structures. The other thing that happens with Saturn Pluto meeting up the good. The good news is. There there are a little older right. They're Kinda high in the sky high numbers. But. They're breaking up people's old TRAUMAS. They're bringing up old wounds. They're bringing up things from our past. That we're structures that we built. A lot of our belief systems on. We built a lot of what we thought was important. Based on what we were told by our parents, what we were told by our Saturn I remember. Saturn is the planet. That's kind of the loudest in our ear talking to us about what we should do. So when you hear yourself saying you should or you shouldn't. You're hearing Saturn speak right. And so that's why it's really important. Because one of the things we're really learning about here. Because everybody's having a Saturn Transit. We're learning about their transits. We're learning about their Saturn. We're learning about their internal. SOLID SCARED! overcompensating eventual competence competency place. We're learning about their Karma. Right. We're learning what that story is. and. We have to kind of back up and say okay. Let me think about it. I. Mean Look from a different perspective. Let me, get a different way of looking at it and and and try and understand what you're talking about. I'm going to suggest because Neptune is stationing. We might not have words to do it. We might have emotions that help us do it. and. I WanNa just suggests that when Neptune stops, we often. Project onto someone else our own biases. Right That's what projection is. You know so, if someone saying to you, you know you. Usually that's their issue..
"traumas" Discussed on Mindfulness Mode
"Realize he's eighty four than he ever believed he was. That's I think the experience. Every person who has to overcome fears inside themselves has so those those great heroes stories I think are really inspirational. It's interesting I. Mean we talk a lot in mindfulness and a lot of Buddhist? Teachers talk a lot about how we need to break through the stories that we tell ourselves like the negative stories or the stories of of coup we are. And that's the sort of downside of stories that were were habitually telling ourselves. Maybe I'm not good enough for on. I'll never be realized that lie, potential, or whatever it is that you know those fears, and Traumas that we've had passed that setup stories. About ourselves or maybe their stories of like I'm so perfect I'm better than everybody. Whatever you know. Everybody has their own stories that they're running. Be Limiting but the other side stories is that they are what moves us as human beings and inspires us, and when you look at somebody like the Buddha whose story we really celebrate was friends who had to leave. The riches of the Kingdom of an pleasures to find out what really creates true freedom. And it's a story that is so important. I think as a foundational story of mindfulness. Because here we see sort of the modern. Billionaires celebrity story playing out like you know. It's obvious that. Extreme wealth.
"traumas" Discussed on The High Vibe Tribe Podcast
"We've always traveled and I actually Workshop that I went to one time I ended up going back to being a woman the sixteen hundreds. And By three. Were my three kids I giving birth to them. Except the oldest one was male. She's a daughter now. But it was. I was a so wears the same three kids same soul essence. But I had given birth to the. Other port. So we can see why this information is important because you and I have similar work work with people from a coaching perspective, many of head traumas in their lives. Many childhood TRAUMAS and I know a lot of my clients less. Why would I ever pick these parents? Why would I ever pick this scenario? Why would I choose to be in that kind of a relationship? And this information. gives us a bit of. An opportunity to understand that nothing is seems. There is something going on that we are not aware of in it. All has to do with our souls expansion. But there are things that we can glean from these experiences of past life regression that we can utilize, and we can use it to enhance our lives now to come into. A more powerful and. Aware sense of coup, we are who we are in the world. And not allow any of those other aspects experiences to define us. It's the most remarkable thing and I know that we spoke of this before, but I think that probably past life regression work is one of the most powerful tool that we have for healing. His. Art Is what people make those at the moment once more accepted. I've always said the past life should also be a part of present knife therapy. Yes, because what I've discovered, was some of the things that are bothering people in their present life right now. Came from something that they did not resolve in the past. That's right, and then once I help them resolve it..
"traumas" Discussed on The Wellness Business Podcast
"And I asked them what it happens after confusion. What happens right after confusion? Like oh through clarity new ideas understanding and so so like I wish I knew that and recognize that was consciously aware of that. You know seven or eight years ago or even twenty years ago or thirty years ago Another thing is fear. Right when we are experiencing insinger exponential growth. We experienced fear and were so many of us. We've been you know. Our brains are wired for survival. And if we've ever experienced traumas of any kind could be big TRAUMAS or smaller. TRAUMAS you know. The brain is gonNA filter our experiences through our memories in our past experiences. And so sometimes what happens is the brain will take a potential unknown experience filter. It through past experience and apply the same colouring apply the same style picture and so then the brain goes. Oh you're in danger if you go and do this new thing because the brain does not like the unknown and loves the narrative so that's a great combination for us to really create these horror stories for ourselves of this is what's going to happen or this is what's GonNa go wrong or everyone's GonNa think I'm this and we start to fill in the blank color in the picture with all of this chaos when in reality none of that's actually happened and we have no evidence that it actually would happen happen so those are just some of those things that I really wish. I knew that really are things to be celebrated things to get excited about because they are signs of your grow lettuce so good if okay so I'm sure everyone listening is thinking okay. Well uncertainty confusion and fear means. I'm growing coming volving. I am in the right place off base as I thought I was. Yeah generally about the reframe right like we're experiencing in really recognizing how it is happening for you not to you. Not being the victim of circumstances it and then release Looking at the patterns of of how we have experienced that growth in really walking it back along. Oh this is a consistent thing. That's happened in every single experience so so if I am already an expert in healing uncomfortable through growth I then can walk it back and take a look at what has happened and really start to assess what those what those elements are really figure out. What are the key things that are happening and then for me? What I've done is now? I don't look at those things as negatives I see see them as stepping stones and I don't feel I can move through the fear and move through the confusion in a very different way now and I'm so excited to hear you talking about this and so openly ah sharing with us.
"traumas" Discussed on The Keto Answers Podcast
"Big life changes can be the same type of emotional traumas, mental traumas. But then we also have a map of things that were you should spend your human habitat that 'cause a lot of disease right now in a mental health, we try to complete those both things and so in physical healthy. Okay. If you eat terribly don't sleep do all these other things. And you get diabetes and obesity, heart disease and cancer and all different type of stuff nerve disease were you fix your human habitat, and, like either at things get outside and sleep, a lot like those sort of non existent, that there's a certain class of that with mental health as well. And so, for instance. People being on their phones so much like being able to compare yourself to anybody in the world, any given time, probably not good for your brain, and how you brain fires. Right and stuff like that, about using technology and be really mindful of the things you're doing I think is, is away. Like we don't need a therapist to tell your Inc, shis like these things, or whatever, we don't even necessarily need meditation to do that. I think instead asking yourself how my environment messed up and how can I get that back to normal human environment? I think a lot of mental health stuff, actually goes away. So in the past, I had had a lot of say. I would be sort of a little bit more judgmental and get really upset easily if things didn't go how thought they should go. And I think that in just sort of like comparative other people, and so, especially living in San Francisco, this is not a good place to not compare yourself to people that sort of get me down on myself and make me feel bad about myself, and like pass versions of myself, any like removing a lot of technology. And this is why you see, like my Instagram don't follow anybody. And like, I don't use social media then to provide value other people. It's a platform for me to distribute information and share things interesting that I think it helped the people, so that's how social media right now, not to consume their people's information. And so if you're out there and you're, you're following a lot of people who their lives look, super glamorous. Oh man. Like I wish my life was like that. And forget about your life in the president. I think that leads to a lot of mental. Z's make sense. Yeah. Definitely can kinda little ramble here but I think just the focus on, like, what is trauma for mental health. What is problems with mental health and depression, anxiety, are that are caused from environments being messed up. And how can you strip that away?.
"traumas" Discussed on Complicated Simplicity Podcast
"Another person inflicted on them like not everybody is born with mental illness and mental sickness and mental health problems. A lot of it can be can come from the TRAUMAS that they experienced from the people that they deal with those type of people. That's a violation because like. Ordered a do have you been seeing all these stories about men abusing the girlfriends child and then the child ended up dying or they murdered? Those violations family. That's unforgivable. Stuff. You're putting your hands on my offspring fair. You know what? I'm saying like whereas if me I'm just not. Night taking care of business what I'm saying I'm still betraying you emotionally because I told you I'm in love with you and I'm doing something different. That's not supporting day but I'm also not harming child and all that kind of stuff. So that's why I think there's a difference in the needs to be differentiated. Yeah. because levels of impact right because I feel like I'm. Like dude breaking your child's aren't like little girl that she had all those injuries and all that kind of stuff that killed. That's nothing. To me my those that's a violation violated. Yeah absolutely. I understand I get the difference of what of what you're saying both are very damaging. Minimizing right would I would. I did because there's worse things out there, right? Right? Yeah. There's emotional and a lot of people don't realize like emotional cheating and betrayal is super it. It's super damaging in many different ways and it actually like snowballs in on I mean it's the beginning process of of trauma for that one person and possibly for the rest of their family or whoever is involved. There so we can't minimize that not that you were but I'm just saying we can't minimize that I'll be old enough to muster. Absolutely. Trash. Was Man. Can't get around it. Yeah. I can I can say at one point. I was I was months ago..
"traumas" Discussed on Jay and Miles X-Plain the X-Men
"The personal ragnarok, the shattered Seoul staged with accumulated props and baggage of traumas past dude, I would. Really listen to this metal album. It would be amazing. I mean, you couldn't really understand the lyrics like you need to know what they are. Maybe find them online or something. But it would sound really cool. Anyway, baggage of traumas past is, of course, a lesser known major event. Yes. Oh. And in this dream there, of course, is magneto because he's the source of this trauma, and he rips Logan's skeleton out as one mass leaving Logan sort of boneless husk that exhibit your grabs onto before. Logan, can go into the light for everybody who's ever loved is calling for him the voice of his loved ones or pulling him and exotic your tries to pull him back saying Logan. It's death. Hot sharly. Don't you think I know that? But as he's heading into that light Angelica Liana kisses Logan's forehead pushes him away back into life. And this is kind of weird for me because I think Ileana in that role works like this whole idea that she's you'd finally gotten past all of the demonic stuff in her life. And she's at least at peace. But the fact is Logan didn't really know really on a very well. And also there are so many dead people with whom he has direct emotional connections. Yes, seriously. There's so many pretty dead, ladies and Logan's past well, and so many, you know, dead Broza and comrades and the point is if you wanna have Logan met by someone who's dead and fund Lee remembered who says in night nice to see you. But but shoo you got stuff to do you have a wide selection. And I mean Yana is on it feels kind of cheap here. Yeah. But anyway, everything's continuing to go to shit outside. Like it just keeps ramping up and up and up. They're going through an electrical storm and everything goes to hell in the plain shreds apart. And gene telephonically pushes everybody back into the plane is they get pulled out of it. But then she gets pulled out. And that's what brings Logan back from the light. That's what brings him back into the world and gives them the will to push through the pain in live again, he catches her. And there's this wonderful page of this just like shattered shredded Logan, reaching out holding gene as she's just dangling out of the plane. Like, I'm not a big fan of the damsel in distress trope. But jeans just been shown is so powerful at this point. And she's almost sacrificed herself to save literally all of them that like I'm okay with us yet. It's it's neat. And it's cool having what brings Logan back being specifically. And I mean, I I know, you know, the fact that it's Gina significant. But also that specifically having the back of a teammate 'cause. This. This is Logan. And he is he is the guy who was absolutely convinced. He would never be a team player that he would never be a part of something that he would never care about the people around him the way that his teammates in the whoever was running his team at the time wanted him to and that that's his connection back is is great. You know that it's gene and its romance is also a character note. But that it's anyone at all that it's another person period and a teammate feels as significant in its own, right? That's a really good point. And yeah, I I completely agree. And speaking of Logan status on a team two weeks later after the plane does finally make down Logan heads back into the danger room, even though Moyer McTaggart protests, which I mean fair enough, and it goes really badly he slow and he scared and eventually that anger builds up inside him that frustration and we. Get so I wanna talk about sound effects. I love sound effects sound effects are. Really cool when they're done right in when they're done, right. They're really evocative, and this is one of those sound effects that sticks with me that that just is. So this early effective the sound effect on is just spelled S C H U K K. And it's I can't I can't make the noise that a devotes the sort of wet tearing of it..
"traumas" Discussed on News-Talk 1400 The Patriot
"Traumas parks Hawaii's big island of seeing two feet of rain is hurricane lane continues it slow track north toward the Hawaiian islands or casters expect. The storm center to. Move close to or over. Parts of Hawaii's main islands late tonight into tomorrow. Norris Michelle Bigler. Says bomb this kind of, weather is nothing new for her we'll be good you get back home Needs to be Staring home Other that flight will take off remains to. Be seen the US Geological Survey says a. Seven point one magnitude earthquake has struck in eastern Peru close to its border with Brazil. And, Bolivia Charney general Jeff Sessions insisting the Justice department will not be improperly influenced by. Political considerations the attorney general's written statement appears to push back against the latest round of criticism by President Trump who told Fox News that sessions never took control of the Justice department and has repeatedly criticized. The department and the FBI sessions writes that the Justice department won't be improperly influenced by political considerations, and says there's no other nation with more talented and dedicated law enforcement investigators and prosecutors that's White. House correspondent Greg Clugston looks like more Sears and. KMart stores we'll be closing from California to. New Hampshire with many states in between Sears holdings, corporation says it will soon be, suffering forty six additional Stores that are unprofitable we'd liquidation sales starting next. Week and the lights turning on for good November just a few years back Sears had four thousand, retail locations now it's down to about eight hundred correspondent Jackie Quinn a funeral for twenty year old. Molly Tibbets to be held on Sunday hometown of. Brooklyn island Wall Street Dow futures up fifty. Four points s and p futures up five points, more on these stories at townhall dot com Are you. Drowning in IRS tax debt.
"traumas" Discussed on 790 KABC
"Traumas and how to survive them and, you know how to, have, them in in a healthy way it's normal tabby. They've profound biological reaction to, trauma Absolutely, and. Physical and I think that I think a lot of. People don't recognize it it's something that. We don't have control over I think, that a, lot of people think. That we should just, kind of get, over, it, and, once time heals. All wounds and we get past it but there's so many things nowadays that can really triggered these kind of feelings and and physical. And, emotional reactions mainly and in the case of these shootings are media exposure and, and seeing those, things, over, and, over, again, which is causing a lot of trouble pretty young kids why it's so interesting because we're not that far removed for it, from it and I know we you know on, the outside, it's you. Know it seems like it's been a long time ago but for these kids it's kind of still feel fresh and I would think just going back to. School would be. Just just sad yeah triggered yeah Absolutely and I in in your scene you know you're going into a classroom and some of these kids have, been in school. With each other since kindergarten and there's a large segment of the missing. Now and so that you know again that. Goes back to you just as adults in the situation you understand it's like why don't understand. Why you're having trouble coming back school we have cameras and, we have twenty th wall offensive now you're safe that's not what this is about right it's about you know, just recognizing traumatic stress at these kids have input under and and how do we really respond to them and, as support each other and the other thing about that. Age group the Thais school ages they don't they don't manifest their psychological and. Psychiatric symptoms the way, adults do, they aren't often, aware, that something's, happening to them they don't necessarily complain about it, or ask for help, they may just have a drop in their grades or change in their behavior in the their frontal lobes aren't. Functioning, that, well Jack Taylor stressors Head, Lisa go ahead Yeah I mean, dealing, with these kids I I think both, you? And lecture both right like these kids are already struggling just to be teenagers. Body, changes and The digital world they live in and stuff all the nonsense yes yes Posted do have enough likes. On, it Good enough has you know all of the things that they're dealing with and then. Out in any, sort of extra stress and and again I and a lot of this is and I and I know I talked. About this a lot. About empowering them these kids are amazing I think that you, know if I look back at my, how I was in high school You know they're a decade ahead, of me in terms of their maturity and the things. That they have to. Deal with on a day-to-day basis and they impressed me every day when, I sit down and have conversations. With them on like what, they really actually already get which is pretty. Amazing and. I think it's because of the of the social media and because of the things that they see online but it also buries, them in a lot of ways it's unfair to them and that's the part that that we're trying to help with. Basically said we're.
"traumas" Discussed on Latino USA
"Now a few days lonard generations of haitians and black dominicans and those those are traumas that you have to face at the end of the day there is this racism this anti blackness that exists throughout latin america and the united states i mean in a lot of ways we've been through this for years now like in the case of orlando casteel who was shot and killed by geronimo again is who was mexicanamerican and this notion of like you you body in two of the entire narrative of anti blackness as a latino and you acted on it i mean i would i would even i would even took it may be a step further and say like is it that they bought into anything new or is this something that has always existed so you're here how are you treating your people back home are you looking at are you clutching a purse are you talking about somebody's here are you telling somebody that you don't want to live in a certain neighborhood that's a question that needs to be asked in an and i like to ask that question and i like to watch the reaction that people have so if there are non latinos who want to be better allies what to do one of the thing that really frustrates me is that every hispanic heritage month it's the same recycled story about the are for latino whose discovered their blackness and come into it and i'm like that is not all of our stories like i have met very proud black rusians black people from honduras cuba i mean my goodness.
"traumas" Discussed on Gettin' Grown
"Tin tin 12 15 years later after the fact like you only have a work on a radio no more things like though you don't have to come out and mr me to this this is nobody cares about anything you know what i'm saying like young you'll have to make this about you is not about you and we don't get enough would look at you all his time um we'll go was god sunny and turn the volume down moving right along speed some black france kazue um you can always so with somebody don't have black friends when they got a really bad we all week but anyway spear that is true because there is just you know friendship is friendship this requires truth the worst the leave out i'd be like you ain't got no black runs in the worst lee randomly one black for an um terrible terrible terrible but the speaking of people who have not healed and moved on from that from the traumas of their lives i her so this week i watched mary mary on we um and i had unfortunate i even know an unfortunate opportunity of watching um tina campbell and her husband teddy council and these were like just me given like 45 air quotes like that's all the quotes that council house way busy no we know his busy now a his missing there in his baby maga the humid chicken necking at like accidentally like mickey mouse he don't have not head shipbuilders knees and toes even so reasons health visit where your neck abbey where your neck though where your leg.