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Don't Give Up | Hal Elrod

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Don't Give Up | Hal Elrod

"Thank you for listening to this podcast one production available on apple podcasts and podcast one. Have you ever felt like you've wasted your gifts. You felt like I have so many things I could do so many things that I'm I'm good at or maybe have one thing that I'm good at but I haven't done anything with yet today. Fam- I wanNA encourage you and tell you that your gifts the your time have not been vein and it's not too late for you that you can start today. You can start working on your goals. You can start moving forward today and on today's episode says on and are going to share some of the struggles. We've been through to get to where we're going but also we have an incredible interview with Hal elrod. A man who is actually died before Comeback Act to life told he was never gonNA walk and eventually learn how to walk. He's got an incredible story but more than that he's not just surviving. He's thriving and living miracle life and he's GonNa share with you his keys on how to do that and how to actually achieve your goals through through his book the Miracle Equation. I'm telling you guys. It's something you do not WanNa miss an incredible story like I've never heard before and then also at the end of the episode guys I encountered something this week that was really out of body experience. Something admits <hes> pretty crazy and I can't wait to share it with all at the end of this episode now before we get into that of course we got to have a word from one of our good life sponsors here really quick so as you guys know. You've probably heard US talk about before on the show about Sun Basket Sun basket is a company that simply makes it easy for you to enjoy what you like in the simplest way possible if you haven't heard talk about sun basket before they have Paleo carb conscious gluten-free Mediterranean diabetes friendly so it doesn't matter whatever you're into. 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Only some exclusions apply see store for details with the capital one saver card you earn four percent cashback on dining and entertainment does that include dinner at that new French place yup four percent cashback there how about bowling with my friends four percent cashback on that too nice and that'll be a rewarding weekend 'cause when the capital one saver card you earn four percent on dining and entertainment so when you go out you cash in capital. What's in your Wallet Terms Apply Capital One Bank U._S._A._A.? WHAT'S UP FAM- welcome back to another episode of the Eli Hooky all having amazing morning afternoon night whenever the heck you're listening to this baby girl? How are you doing? We're back in Austin now. If you're wondering where have we been we've been traveling back and forth between Dallas Austin so teen are back with the Hubby and data reunited and if feel so good oh man it's been so weird bouncing around. I mean you're in Dallas. I was in Austin. I had sweetie. Oh you had teeny I mean we've all been separated but Dang. I missed you. I missed you in the fact that we're doing this episode right now. Let us just paint this picture. You guys we've done the good life now and all sorts of places we haven't done in our car yet but career currently doing this episode in Steve's Mom's one of their guest rooms in the house and we are literally in a corner of the room like right next to the comforter because it it's a great sound blocker and we're just like curled up next to each other. Doing this episode sound really weird though because it's like we're in our late twenties doing a podcast in my mom's house in Bedroom. It's like no. We promised where we're still waiting on the hassle. We're doing podcast in my mom's room. It's like Oh wow good for you. That's nice graduation I now did you. Did you ever good week baby while we were gone. You know what it was a weird. It was a weird week wasn't a bad week. It wasn't a great week. It was kind of really strange those weeks. That kind of feels like it's almost like you feel like you have so much zoo yet. You don't want to do anything and then when they get your to. Do you like why just did everything. Why do I still feel like I need to be doing more? That's how I felt yeah. That's exactly how I felt. I feel like there was things I had to do and I got them done and then I was like so what do I do now. Yeah and you know everybody else. All the people I know here are working during the day and when I finished my work I just kind of like now way and there was like this blank space that I didn't know what to do with it was weird and I was trying to think of things to do like how can I get ahead right now and it was almost like God was just like dude just chill. I know I actually ironically felt that same way. When we came back yesterday to Austin you know Siemian I I feel like after teeny went to bed and after we hung out with his family we always like to spend a little bit of time before actually turning out the lights and going to bed just like talking and that was really the first time bay? We got to like just catch each other up on the week because even though we talk every single day a even when I was in Dallas and you were here it just like we don't we weren't seeing each other every day so all the little details some of the things that we were going through. I feel like we didn't really have a chance to actually talk. You know what I mean. Why why was there while you were here? We really just wanted to spend time with you know our families families and then obviously coming back here. I knew I would see you so it's just interesting to me that last night before bed we had a really kind of deep conversation about how we were both feeling that way and I couldn't describe it either but it was almost like you know when you I feel like you've kind of pushed yourself. As far as you can go and then you can just feel God's presence saying like don't you dare cross this line. You know stay behind the line. I felt like that too and I was getting things done. It's not like I wasn't being productive. I guess it was just this idea is like I wasn't. I didn't feel busy you know and it was just a really good reminder. I think because when we lived in L._A.. We did live a pretty structured productive lifestyle but when the feeling busy it was almost like we finally like we're getting used to this comfortable feeling and just feeling like we were always busy whether it was chasing teeny around you know making sure that she's on top of everything is new parents that kind of business but also the business of like balancing businesses and just the hectic things that come with that in upkeeping our house I would always clean and so being in Texas like we haven't had that. We haven't had to do some of that stuff like you know. Obviously we have families help with teeny which has been great but we haven't had to clean really like the things that we had to do in our home in l. a. and it just we don't feel busy and so that's when things start to stirring your mind like oh my gosh. Are we being productive enough. Are we like are we getting to like chill like to relax acts like getting lazy. I feel like are to do this right. Now is like learning how to be patient and just tell right yeah because I feel like I feel like we have been standing around the starting line. It's almost like there's a race that we know we WANNA run. There's things we WANNA do. There's places we WANNA go right right and it's like we're standing starting line. We're like okay. We're ready. When can we start? Could someone blow the whistle and God's like it's time to start yet feel like he keeps being like dude. Go back to your waiting room like just chill. We're like in the warm up right before a game or a marathon. It's like the runners. Everyone's getting ready. Everybody else's showing we're like we're ready right now and I feel like it's almost like gods like I haven't blowing the whistle yet. It's time to get this thing started and I feel like like you were saying we need to stop trying to out like pay Scott or outrun him. You know it's almost like when I get on the housing APP to and I'm looking at the houses and I'm like okay so whereas our house feel like God like saying to me like dude. Don't worry about it like it's not right now like having given you that go ahead yet and was I was telling you last night and you just brought up again was that you know in the season of sort of calm in waiting and quietness. I still feel like God is like don't don't worry. There's a productive reason for why I brought you guys back out to Texas. There's a reason for that clearly. We know that we are not being called to come back and live here. We feel that so strongly like there's anything that we feel it's that like God is just like don't worry you're not gonna live here but there was a reason why God brought us back to Texas and during this time of not being so busy babe I feel like I have just noticed like I don't. I wouldn't have noticed if I was busy. <hes> just a lot of things that are happening in our families and I mean that in the best way the precious time that we're having with family there has just been this like new found like kind of like we're peeling back a new layer of just like this more or intimate bond with our family that we've never had and on both sides of the families and with teeny like I just started crying last night you know partly because I am pm saying but also because seeing Tinian Dallas like with my family we would go out to the backyard after like when it cooled off at the end of every night we would just all sit in the backyard and we all had our patio chairs in a circle and then teeny which is kind of like stand in the middle of us and she would just start like dancing dancing in like screaming and laughing and like I genuinely saw our daughter I feel like just the in the most happiest state that I've ever seen her as a mom. Thus far is being around my family and knowing everybody by name and going around and giving them kisses and then to see the light on my family's faces when teeny is just interacting with them and everybody is so wrapped up in like her and you know because she really is this just she's just this pure form of joy unhappiness in really she's been really healing. I feel like symbol for my family. She's been this like I feel like she in a way she kind of represents God's goodness and God's pure love enjoy and you know every time we have to leave Dallas. I see my family and they get so sad and it just reminds me of just like you know how how how we feel sometimes with God when when we're around God and world circled around God's presence and you just feel that genuine joy and you forget about like your day to a day troubles I mean teeny really was that symbol for my family and as a result I'm seeing even more healing and I'm seeing more prosperity within my own family and I'm seeing a lot of goodness in your side of the family as well and it's just been this summer where God is like there was a reason you guys needed to come out here and spend time with your family's like your family's needed you. They needed you guys and as a result. It wasn't just needing us but it's been this interceding healing. I feel like that's been happening. God has been able to intervene in certain parts of our family lives. You know that we're not going to get into but just to see that. God's presence is all over our family. It's just made me feel this newfound purpose out here too. It's like we're not just sitting around and feeling like our our purpose is going away. I just see in our own homes. Babe God is moving and we're we're able to influence an and I think one thing that I really appreciate the my dad said was he was like the first thing he said we got here was like you're. You're here for a reason. I and I know this. Time isn't easy for you. Because I know you want your own house like anybody does but he said but you're here for a reason and God is efficient and I was like oh I've thought about that. God's efficient like we're not just here to waste time time. God is doing something while we're here. There's a purpose for while we're here and I feel like that's really encouraging anybody else out there. If you're kind of in a weird waiting period or you feel like you know God's not doing anything in your life there stagnant God is efficient so maybe God's calling you to kind of take steps towards him. You know and draw closer to him or maybe there's something that you need to do. You know that you need to start working on her. Maybe you need to learn patients like yeah but I just feel like God is efficient with time time is not wasted and I just want to say that to anybody else out there. Who feels like maybe my time is being wasted in my life? Hey Mama's I've got a question for you. Have you shopped for kids. Vitamins lately Stevie and I are definitely entering that season where we're starting to explore vitamins Simmons and how to keep our girl healthy and getting all the right nutrients so there's so many brands to choose from as you guys know which could be overwhelming suits like how do I choose the right one well. You guys have got to check out Zogar. 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I'm going to spell that for you. It's lucky vitamin DOT com Ford slash the letter you and then Cubes C. U.. B. E. S. to get that discount love you Vam and another thing I wanted to say to people and we talked about this last night was and before we get into this interview y'all with how it is incredible. I mean he has an amazing story so inspiring talk about somebody that has been through some crazy stuff and has walked out an incredible life and achieve some great things through a lot of adversity like a lot like death well yeah you'll find out but I wanted to say something bay because we were talking about this last night. <hes> Fam- I have struggled with feeling like so much of my potential and my God given abilities have been wasted or are wasting wasting away and I wanted to say to each one of you. That's listening that if you've ever ever felt like you've wasted your time or that God's done with you. I wanted to tell you today that he has not done with. You like whatever that thing. Is that Burns inside of you that you want to give to the world girl that thing that you wanNA create and put out into this world God's not done with that yeah. There's a burning passion and a desire and a gift in there for a reason and I just WanNa tell you wherever you are however old you are if you're nineteen years old or if you're fifty five years old it's not too late and God's not done with you. He can do amazing things with you and no matter what you've done in the past. Maybe feel like you've disqualified yourself say well. I'm not good enough or I passed up on my opportunity. I missed it or I wasted my time. He's is not done with you. He can work with you right now and I'm speaking that out because I've really felt that way myself but I wanna tell each and every one of you that there's nothing that will help alleviate that then doing something anytime in my life. I felt like I've wasted time baby. You've been such a great encouraged or to me. Just hey okay well. If you don't know exactly what you WanNa do just take a step in one direction. Just try one thing. If you feel like there's too many options just do something and that's that's a lot of the questions as we got to about this before this episode was what do I do. How do I choose a dream? How do I choose a goal? y'All just start making moves. Just start going out there and putting your heart into something and if you fail at least you'll learn something and I love that you speak so boldly on this because because I know the journey it has taken you to get to this place where you can actually speak confidently on this because you know as a man I as a man there's nothing that I know in your heart that you've wanted more than to be able to lead into live alive that you could lead by example and you are always just since you were a young boy you know talking to your parents this summer and getting to know you even as young as when you were a childlike everything they say is that like you were just always so intentional with like <hes> your feelings and how you did things and you're always so good and you cared about other people like it's always been in your blood to want to lead by example and I definitely know that God is doing something in you. That's really starting to come out and and I just also encouraged anybody out. There like Stevie said just going out there and making those moves I've definitely seen first and foremost what can happen when you truly just like risk things and boldly step out and faith to pursue something even if it's not the thing but it could be a thing that gets you to the thing so don't necessarily feel like that first step has to be perfect all figured out business tactics step in everything has to be in place because maybe that step is necessary first four you can get to the next step in the next step but it's all about taking that first step whether you're starting a workout routine or you're starting a business or maybe you want to go out there and maybe seek finding a better healthier relationship sustaining your relationship ship whatever that is. It's all about making the first move <hes> in something else to is to just quiet the noise. You know anytime that I've seen that I start to get really worried or I start to doubt myself. That's when I start to kind of here the noises of Distraction Channel Lot Louder Than God's voice in my mind and my soul and those voices say why would you do that. You'RE GONNA fail or don't do it. I second guess myself. You know. It's going to be too much work or you're not going to succeed. Oh there's already a million people doing that or you. Owe you need. What would they want to see you do and I've always asked myself those questions and went doubt starts to creep in? That's a clear indicator that the devil or the enemy is really trying to get a foothold. They're trying to just get you and you know what what whether you're a believer are not I strongly believe that that Voice of the enemy it's up to you whether or not you WanNa give that voice precedence over your life but whether you're a believer and you're saved and you believe in Christ or you're somebody who it doesn't believe in Jesus I strongly know that regardless the devil always try to have a foothold over you in some way and they'll he'll try to distract you with things like that and what what oh I think differentiates <hes> giving power over you know the devils voice versus like your own voice in God's voice is just how you react in that moment when you when those questions start to creep up in your head like you're not gonNa fit you're GonNa fail or you're never going to succeed succeed in this or your parents hate you or fear starts to creep in. You should immediately know that that voice right there is not coming from a place of of light of wisdom of God and when that happens off the bat you just WanNa completely. Shut it out and you you. You can even start just in with yourself saying like out loud like nope not today say in you know what I mean and just by speaking that over yourself and just knowing like okay. That's a voice right there. That's not coming from me. That's a Voice of Distraction. I think it's really important because has even today in my life every day. I constantly here sometimes those voices that are telling me like hey you could be a better mom. You're not doing this right or look at her. She's doing this and it's really important guys to just turn off that noise. He's and start turning up God's voice so I just want to encourage you with that as well make those moves and also no win to turn off. That noise are F._M.. Great word. I love that that's so true. You need that mental conversation. It's funny how you forget debt that. Forget forget to check in with yourself yeah but you forget like hey. I don't have to listen to that crappy voice at telling me I can choose to listen to God's voice what you're saying like you have. There's more in you can do more and also I'll is believing in yourselves. It's a huge thing so we're gonNA listen to house interview right now. It's super amazing very inspiring fam- I just I wanNA pray really quick before before we go into this for anybody who's like man. I have so much left to do in my life. There's so much more I can do. I one live a full life a good life. I'M GONNA pray for everybody out. There is feeling like maybe they've missed it or they. Don't have like you know they. They don't feel they've wasted their time or something. I want to pray for all of us as we go into this so that you guys will leave feeling super inspired and at the end of the episode. I want to share Everythi guys something crazy that happened to me this week. It was really really crazy. <hes> it was kind of an out of body experience. I want to share with you but I <hes> we'll. We'll get into house interview. We'll part of you guys real quick God. I just want to thank you for everybody listening to this episode yeah. I know that everyone listening right now is here for a reason you don't do things by coincidence. God You make moves God in your efficient. You're efficient with your time with your effort with your creations got and we're your creations so we're not here on accident but every single person person has a gift got a unique gift at least one probably more that they can share with the World God and earlier this week as I was listening to this video there was a creator who said you create the things you WanNa see in the world but there's so many creators right now God whose voices have been muted needed. There's so many scientists and writers God that their voices have been muted God and I just pray God every person listeners episode would take up the power. God take the power back from the enemy. Who says that you can't do it? You've wasted your time. You're too old and you're too young. It's not true you can start living a full life. Today I just pray for every person God that after this episode they would feel empowered God to live their life to the fullest and to use the gifts that you gave them because you wanna see them use them. I pray that over everybody in Jesus his name Amen Alright Fam- baby. Let's get into this interview with Hal elrod Families Got Hal elrod on the show. How how are you doing? I am living good life. I think some offer happy on I mean that's sincerely and and I'm really really grateful artist found out that you're you're in Austin which is <hes> is my hometown so I know that there's a good life there for sure talk to a fellow Texan <hes> so so how you have an incredibly inspiring story <hes> a story that when you hear about it read about it. You're like a wow. This guy clearly has something to say because you've been through some serious things in your life. Could you give us a little bit of you're just your backstory on some of the near death experiences that you've been too yeah yeah and I'm going to frame it because if I don't frame it I'm a long winded and all like twenty minutes ago by your like and they'll take a breath so let me let me let me try to keep this distinct so you know in life I think we all experience what I would call rock bottoms right which are those those times of adversity that really test us and challenge us in causes often to question everything you know question the purpose of life the meaning of life you know God. Is there a God why would just happened to me. The life isn't fair and all these things and and for me the the big three really major life and death rock bottoms if you will and the first one I was twenty years old. I was one of the top sales people in the history of the cut cut co cutlery company. I was selling cut kitchen. I have direct in-home presentations kind of thing and one night I gave a speech at a Co conference and driving home that night I my Car Ford Mustang at a brand new Ford Mustang. I just bought at again h twenty it was like that was the dream car that I could afford. It wasn't the Ferrari but I was on the way you know and I was hit by a drunk driver at eighty miles an hour on the freeway and that wasn't the worst of it. The worst of it actually came out my car spun off the drunk driver up from the head-on collision and my driver's side door was exposed. I spun sideways and the car behind me crashed into my door at seventy miles an hour and if anybody listening I always say take a second. Look over your left shoulder and imagine you're sitting in your car Dr Driving Your car and a car hit two seventy miles an hour in the door and what you might imagine happening is what happened I instantly the left side of my car was smashed into the left side of my body. I broke eleven bones in split-second. I hi <hes> my I was in internally. I punctured lung I ruptured spleen and Ibn losing a lot of blood and it took the fire department over an hour or just about an hour to cut me out of the car and when they did I bled to death. I lost also much blood that my heart stopped beating and died and I was clinically dead for six minutes on the side of the freeway. I was revived on the helicopter. Actually on the way to the hospital airlifted to the hospital spent six days in a coma flatlined twice ice more during the coma came out of the coma to face this unimaginable reality for anybody at any age but you know twenty. They're saying the doctor said you're probably never going to walk again. <hes> I add permanent brain damage which my wife will vouch for that still shows up quite a bit but and then I had to face this reality and so I you know keep a long story not too long. I made a decision that I would accept what had happened to me unconditionally that I wasn't going to let my circumstances defined my emotional wellbeing and so much so that the doctors thought I was in denial and delusional they called my parents in for a little Powell or conference and they said we need you to talk to howl and get to the bottom of how he's really feeling because he always acts like he's happy the and he's he's making jokes and making us laugh and you know I think that he's covering up some real pains probably depressed and and scared and maybe he's angry and user normal emotions for anyone that's going through this this type of adversity and my doubt came in and to explain explain the doctors diversity and said how took or the doctors concerns and said how it's okay to be stabbed and scare. You know you're positive but how are you really feeling and my dad's got tear you know he's teared up and he's faces read like he's really really he's concerned and so I really went inside and thought about how am I feeling and I took about thirty seconds to answer and I said doubt. I thought you knew me better than that. I can't change that. I was in a car accident but you know I learned something a year and a half before called the five minute and it rule which said it's okay to be negative when things go wrong but not for more than five minutes like there's no value and wishing you could change something that is in the past in feeling angry sad scared about something that's out of your control and I had practiced that my sales career in smaller diversity of no sales and no shows and missed goals and disappointments in counseled orders and that sort of thing but the principal was the same and I went. I told my Daddy said Dad. There's only one of two possibilities and if you're listening right now by the way I want you to think about what in your life it causes you emotional pain past present or even a perceived future that you're worried about. That's out of your control and if it's in the past it is out of your control. I don't care doesn't matter who you are unless you're Mardi MC fly with the Dorien. Laurean can't go back in time and change it but we suffer over things that happened five minutes five days five months five decades ago not happening anymore but because we haven't accepted it and giving herself that gift of peace so I said dad there's only one of two possibilities number one if the doctor right and I'm in a wheelchair the rest of my life I promise you I've already thought that scenario through I will be the happiest most grateful human being that you've ever seen in a wheelchair because I'm in a wheelchair either away and I will not let my circumstances to find my quality of life and my emotional wellbeing I said but the second possibility is I will walk again and I don't know if that's possible but I'm putting all my energy into that instead of fear and worry re I'm focused on. I've got optimism and hope so simultaneously accepted the worst case scenario so it comes to pass at peace with it but I'm not I'm not I'm not I'm not accepting defeat so to speak until it's proven otherwise and so the dock they went back to the doctors. Here's what House said. The doctors didn't believe it on one week later they came in with routine x rays and they said we don't know how to explain this but how your body is healing healing so rapidly that we know we told you you'd never walk again again but you can walk today in therapy. We're GonNa let you take your first step. If you're ready and I took my step that day and I left the hospital four weeks later and went back to work and on and so on and so forth with all these broken bones and metal rods and my arm and my leg and my pelvis and my eye socket I mean you know and so on and so forth so that was the first major adversity and that was the lesson I learned is that our emotional wellbeing has almost nothing very little to do with what's is going on around us Aka our circumstances or what happens to us and it has everything to do with what's going on inside of us and that the key that unlocks the door to emotional what I call emotional invincibility where you're in control your emotions. They're not in in control of you and your circumstances doesn't determine them. You determine them. The key that unlocks that door is acceptance is when you accept the things you cannot change you give yourself the gift of emotional invincibility on the on the opposite every negative emotion ocean you've ever experienced in your life and that you could ever expect that you're experiencing now. Get ever experienced in the future is always self created. It has nothing to do with the thing that you think is causing it and it's always your resistance to the thing it's your resistance to reality that determines your degree of emotional pain that you feel hey fam- or any of you out there looking for an apartment or you're looking for a new place to live. Have you checked out apartments. 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Change the world so that was the first one and I let me pause in the case. He doesn't WanNA call and then I'll actually skip to the yeah. There's a couple of the other shorter I mean that's that's incredible just that you had that perspective incite at at twenty years old I mean I don't think people I I think emotionally were such emotional beings especially at twenty years old <hes> I remember being twenty years old is being very even just guide us an emotional national being driven by emotions and things like that so that's incorrect incredible <hes> inside that you had even at that age but <hes> I think it really is just kind of a Kudos to you in part of your story as to why you are ready. You are today in why we're GONNA be talking about how to actually achieve. You know your goal so tell us the the next thing I mean. I can't believe there's another thing but I want to say this. I appreciate the compliment if you will but but it really was that the mentor that had taught me a year now prior he was my my mentor my manager in my in my cut my sales career and he taught me about five minutes right and if it wasn't I really credit him because it wasn't for that I wouldn't have developed that mindset and then since then I've read dozens and dozens of books on topics such as the power of now in the power of acceptance in various titles but I'm so then in two thousand eight when the U._S. economy crashed <hes> really kind of started as and seven I crashed with it like millions of Americans nothing nothing new there <hes> but I I really hit rock-bottom them and it was actually even more difficult for emotionally because I was in his downward spiral where every week I was losing more clients more clients more clients and it was I was a coach. I was doing business coaching in all of my clients. Their businesses were were suffering due to the economy me and it was just the trickle down effect of they they they would call me and say hey. I can't afford to pay for coaching anymore. Okay got it so I lost my clients lost over half my income and couldn't pay the mortgage lost my house which was that alone is like a like. I'm losing my my first home that I bought with my own money like I now up no place to live. I gotTA figure that out a lot of causes a lot of emotions and <hes> so even though I accepted it couldn't change it will it just kept getting worse and worse and worse than I never really dealt with. This kind of this quicksand San where I'm like man. Okay can't change it and then but I really kind of needed you know make things better and then Oh my God I lost another client. I lost another client. My body fat percentage tripled in the six month period. <hes> that I was losing my income till I stopped exercising. I was just like in desperation mode and the solution to that I just this will keep a long story not trying to keep him not too long. I just a series of events led me to search. What are the world's most successful people do that? I'm not doing my my buddy. You know John Who's a good friend and business partner now. He said how you got to go figure out what the routines and rituals are of the world's most successful people and and do what they do on a daily basis if you have the habits and rituals and routines that they have you're gonNA see similar results. You're going to see your business improved and I said okay and I kept coming across when I was googling mourning rituals and morning routines as the key like the number one key to these people success and this was this was twelve five years ago the morning routines your everywhere now wasn't that prevalent then but I kept coming across that and I'm like I'm not a morning person so if you're listening to your morning personally don't do now. I almost tuned out but I'm like. I'm not a morning person. Where's where's the success planned for people that sleep till nine everyday? I want that one right. I wasn't sales. I worked my own job. I could sleep later they wanted right and I came across one. You know just hit another article and I finally went all right. I got a dive in. I gotta read one of these and what I read what I got from. It was oh you're how you start. Your Day isn't just an equally significant option on the buffet of ways you can improve your life. It's arguably the single most important one it carries more weight than any of the others others because how you start your day sets your mindset. It sets your energy level but said just a general context and the tone for the rest of your day in simple terms. If you win the morning you set yourself up to win the day Eh and so I created a morning rich went on a quest to create the most extraordinary morning ritual in the history of humanity and within two months of doing it <hes> it wasn't a book idea it wasn't it was just my desperate attempt to change my life and I so I decided to get up in our our earlier I did six practices and these are African. Now Savers Silence Affirmations Visualization Exercise Reading Inscribing or journal Right so silences like your meditation so six of the most timeless endless proven personal development practices in history humanity right and I did these everyday within two months I had more than doubled my income. I wouldn't bring in the worship of my life physically to training for a fifty two mile ultra marathon that I completed six months later. I wasn't a runner aided running. That's why I did it because I thought man what I have to become run fifty two miles in a day. I don't even know that guy. You don't WanNa become that guy and my depression went away within a day of doing this routine because I was so fired up and I went to my wife and I said sweetheart her this morning ritual like we just our income is more than doubled from where it was two months ago. I said it feels like a miracle and she goes. It's your miracle morning. I go yeah yeah. I liked that my miracle morning morning so I started writing my schedule Miracle Morning and one of my clients said what how'd you have a morning ritual I keep hearing about these and I said Ou gay I gotTa Tell You I do think all the miracle morning right now. Let me tell you about it and I told her about it and I told the rest of my clients about it and they all said not a morning person but you're pretty convincing how to try and every single eleven out of the twelve clients I had at the time came back to their call the next week and said Hell. I did what you said. I'm a morning person like in one week my entire life. I've never been a morning I now I am and just had the best weekend my sales career I just I just had all these amazing results and that's where the lightbulb went off and I went wait a minute. If the miracle morning changed my life and I wasn't a morning person if it's changing every single one of my clients lives except the one and they weren't warning people I have a responsibility to share this with the world and you fast forward to today twelve years later <hes> the Miracle Morning Book has been translated in thirty seven languages. It is sold one point seven million copies. It's practice everyday by over a million people in over one hundred countries and the results people have are I mean it's a miracle like crazy. I get emails. People saying it saved my marriage. It got my depression medication. How just like you turn my income around on and then I'm just going to fast forward and get a really quick summary on the third rock bottom which is actually the most the scariest the most difficult I've ever endured and it was two years ago at age thirty seven and I was diagnosed with the very rare aggressive form of cancer? I walk in the middle of the night. I couldn't breathe it took doctors eleven days I think to to to test me and diagnose me. My lung kept telling with fluid. They couldn't figure out what was wrong. I was diagnosed with a very rare aggressive form of cancer called acute lymphoblastic leukemia. I was given a thirty percent chance of surviving which if you're a glasses half empty type of person right. That's a seventy percent chance that I was going to die and you know I've got a seven year old daughter and a four year old son and married married to the woman in my dreams and it was like I had more to lose than ever before and it was terrifying and I underwent the most intensive chemotherapy regimen in existence one hundred hours of chemo consecutively over five days around the clock every three weeks and it was supposed to be eight sessions. I was almost dead at the end of seven so they had to cancel the eight session because my body could not handle it. I'd lost twenty five percent of my body weight every hair on my I mean I I was on the desk door but I beat cancer her and I'm now I've been in remission for about a year <hes> and <hes> I beat cancer with <hes> something I called a miracle equation and so then I finally a publisher approach me I wrote that book that came out a couple of months ago so the miracle morning was kind of the daily practice for personal development and then the miracle equation was the process for goal achievement. How do you how do you create tangible measurable miracles in Your Life and for me it was beating cancer? It was selling a million copies of the book. It was walking again. It was looking over my whole life. I went what was what were the key decisions. I made in each of these seemingly impossible. 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I WanNa get like a home group here because I think everyone's thinking the same thing. <hes> that's amazing. That was an incredible story HAL. I mean Geez. I mean your perspective on life. You you know already is amazing but including what you've been through wow you're living a miracle life. I would say so and we're GONNA talk about that in a second but I wanted to back to the miracle morning <hes> and then something else that you said <hes> you're totally right <hes> Sazonon John and my my wife who's on abortion tonight here with us today. <hes> we started changing our morning routine last year and I have to say more than anything I've ever done. It changed the game and I you know getting on that routine in sticking with it we were seeing results in everything like you said and I agree with you one hundred percent but one thing that you kind of touched on really quickly was you were talking about how you were. I think it was around two thousand eight you said when you were you know everything was just kinda struggling. You're like I need to I need. I need to do something to shake. Shake things up. I think that's something that you know. It's really interesting point that I wanNA talk about because when when when it comes to achieving your goals I think there's so many of us that maybe we started morning routine and maybe we're having success and personally. I felt this way to where it's like. You know we start the year off. We're in a routine ever morning routine and we're working our way towards our goals in somewhere along the way we kinda hit a wall. You know and I remember friend and I were <hes>. We're starting to do morning meetings every Tuesday and into challenge each other you know to to be challenged personnel realizes hey. Where are you out with your goals like? What have you done this week? What are you doing next week? You know just to kind of keep each other accountable and I remember one week we met and <hes> it was this year and it was about four months months into the year and the first few months we were like man. We're crushing it. You know you're doing great. I'm doing great. We're doing our stuff morning. Routine here. We go and then all of a sudden. We're like Kinda dead you know what are we going right now. Like where's the direction action. Why do we feel like we lost momentum and I remember during the conversation I even I was just thinking time? I was like what what can we do. How can we change this and I kinda just had an Aha moment of like we need to shake things up? We need to do something. That's it's just different you know and so I remember telling him. Let's give something let's take something away and so what we were doing was we were trying to invest in in two different things so basically one thing was that we wanted to give more money away because we'd both decided that we needed more money to do certain things at at that time in and also this time now but <hes> just the belief that giving you know when your generous that that wore opportunity in and money and things like that come to you and you're not generous for that but that's just the belief of mine and also to take something nothing away to kind of heighten our mental focus which was we're decide. We're going to do a challenge as far as like no sugar right okay so take something away that was not how not helpful not positive right and and so what it really he did was just kind of it was investing you know <hes> by giving back but at the same time kind of investing in our focus by by whenever you know you do a diet or or a fast or something like that you know it kind of seems to heighten your focus and it builds this momentum as far as every time you beat a little challenge of why didn't have sugar today in empowers you to do something else. <hes> so what is one what are some of the things that you have done to beside your morning routine to really shake things up. I mean because you talk about in your new book the Miracle Equation You're talking talking about how to obtain tangible results when it comes to achieving your goals and I think that is <hes> such an awesome in such a rich topic that you talked about how to prove yourself in your morning routine but now how are we actually going linked to achieve our goals and what are the. How are we going to get those tangible? Results talks about that yeah. You'll I mean there's a few things I can look at well. I will say that what you just shared about shaking it up on one of my mentors years ago Kevin bracy in fact it was right before the miracle morning before I came up with the morning ritual in fact it was it was his words that got me to do it and it was because I was reading about mourning rituals like man. I you know yeah this'll be good but I had so much resistance resistance to waking up earlier. I had the mindset the most will have which is like. I'M GONNA sleep till last possible moment. I can to not like you know lose my job lose. My kids get divorced right. What's the last moment I could wake up and not have everything fall apart in my life right so his quote was he said if you want and it's so simple but so profound he said if you want your life to be different you have to be willing to do something different I yes right and that's what I was staring at my my at that time it was before the digital calendar at a day planner? You know right and I'm staring at my day planner and I'm looking at at five A._M.. 'cause I woke up at six A._M.. Because I had to now I'm like well. Do I really want to wake up at five and we're GONNA five and and I'm going and then I heard his words. If you want your life different you have to be willing to do something different. I and I was like him it. He's right. I got I gotta get up at five and it was very that were that quote that one sentence got me into action and I wrote five A._M.. Personal development it didn't have a name wasn't a miracle morning you know for two months and woke up and did it so but if I look at other areas in my life where I've done that and I think it's so important that we need to examine we need a process and I think weeklies a good <hes> timeframe but a weekly process process where we evaluate right where we read our goals where we evaluate our progress on the last week so so. Let's say you've got a goal and each area of your life right. You've got a goal in health and fitness in in your relationships in each area and then you look get you should have an action plan right in this area. Here's my daily recurring process like an in the miracle equation in the new book. I talk about the two decisions that will enable you to create these tangible measurable miracles. Let me let me take one second and to redefine miracle because if anybody's listening rolling there is I used to roll my eyes at that word right because I'm like dude. I'm like I'm not woo hoo. I'M NOT GONNA I'm not I'm not going to sit back and wait for a miracle. I want results. You know I'm very results oriented person so for me. A miracle isn't isn't this. You know. Eddie has a bad rap that word because it's like this you know this intangible like pray in weight. Hopefully I you know miracle falls into my lap kind of thing and I look at a miracle is any meaningful outcome that that is outside the realm of what you believe is probable for you possible or problem but really probably because we don't anything is possible but we don't go after what's possible. When was the last time you set a goal and you gave it everything you had that you didn't really think was going to happen right? We don't work that way. We work towards goals that we believe probable. Which is why most people don't create extraordinary results? They either stayed the same right. They just keep doing well yeah. I really have these big goals and dreams but I don't know if I can achieve him. Some not even gonNA try. I know that I show up to work. I'll keep getting a paycheck and that gives me a sense of security to keep a roof over my head. Some GonNa keep doing that and most people live and die without going too far beyond that right but I would say anybody listening to this show and most people want more than that. We want an extraordinary life. We want the good life or I call it the Miracle Library we want the good life though and we want extraordinary results we want to have financial freedom. We want to have physical health in abundance. I just want to have a relationship that makes that we love and that were harmonious with our partner and it's beautiful and we're lying and so on and so forth but most of us were not willing to do those things and so for me I break it down. It's really to decision if you studied the world's most successful people in any walk of life. I'm talking millionaires and billionaires or professional athletes Olympians or just the happiest person you've ever seen any walk of life you find that there are two common decisions that they make not once they don't make them once and you know it's not it's not a set it in forget it thing but they make these decisions over and over and over and over and over and over and over again until and if you're if you're listening if you're taking notes if your mental note whatever that word until might be the most important word in the journey that success you got a circle that word and underlying it three times so they make the same decisions over and over and over and over and over again until they achieved the outcome that they're committed to whatever that is could be a financial outcome in any area and the two decisions ends are deceptively simple in their explanation but extraordinarily rare in their execution. It's kind of like they say. Success is simple. It's not easy but it is simple right. You know people that are successful. They simply do you something. Every day that moves them closer to their goals and dreams and eventually they get their goals and dreams whereas the majority society doesn't do that one thing over and over and over either they don't ever do it or they do it for a while and then kind like you said right you get bored with you and your buddy during the daily calls right or you know and then you like we were doing it and then we got bored and like once that initial excitement wears off I caught the infatuation period right when the infatuation period wears off most people stop doing the thing that's moving them toward their goals and dreams so these decisions so I don't mean to beat around the buzzer number one unwavering faith all highly successful people and I'm GonNa say successful. That is your definition of success not mine Harvard. You define how you define success. That's what I'm talking about but people that are successful in the way they define it. They established the faith that they can do something they've never done before and then they maintain that faith which is what makes it unwavering faith right until they maintain that faith until they get their most people. If they establish the fate they can do something because they're an off Mr like yeah I can do anything as soon as they encounter an obstacle as soon as they get off track as soon as their their results aren't coming as fast as they expected most people the faith goes out the window and the second decision is extraordinary effort and again like I said deceptively simple explanation if you're going how great so I have to have faith and believe in myself and work hard okay right that doesn't help yard. He knew that no extraordinary effort is consistent effort. That's it if I was something of that. In one word extraordinary effort is consistency doing if you do one thing you get really clear on what are of your biggest goals and dreams what are the most meaningful outcomes in your life and if you do one thing every day doesn't mean you have to work eighty hours a week to achieve the good life or a miracle life now one thing every day that moves closer to your most most meaningful goal and or dream or plural goals and dreams. The only variable is time. Your success is inevitable. You're going to get there right like I'll give you give me an example when the miracle morning came out. I you know I I didn't have a platform. I didn't have an email list. I didn't have anything I wrote the book because I thought I owe it to the world to change if you live with this book and I literally was thinking small it was like you know maybe maybe also a few hundred copies or a few thousand copies and I I started within the first month I started getting emails and people saying how the miracle morning is changing my life and it was really profound. You know it saved my marriage this that and then I was like my sense of responsibility grew and I went. I have to get this out there to the world like I don't know how I'm going to do that but in for me it just I just picked a quantifiable number. I go. I gotta change a million lines and then I got. I got fancy with it. I go oh that's my mission to change. One million lives one morning at a time and committed by will do whatever it takes to change a million lives and I put a time for one year. I'm going to try to somehow I don't know how I'm going to try to sell a million copies of the miracle morning in the next twelve months and twelve months later and by the way let me tell you extraordinary effort looked like I did I I I did I launched a podcast to get the word out there and building audience. I did fifty united a weekly podcast fifty two episodes. I was on one hundred fifty other more than that a little one hundred fifty other people's podcast. I did thirty six speeches across the country. I did thirteen television interviews all across the country on N._B._C.. A._B._C. C._B._S.. Morning T._V. shows cost me a lot of money. A lot of time to travel right. I put forth extraordinary effort did everything in my power to reach a million people and you guys I fell short of. I was ninety nine point nine percent short of my goal I sold twelve thousand copies of the first year instead of one million and so I was nine hundred ninety nine hundred eighty eight thousand copies short of my goal now now you think about that like how discouraged would you be like. I suck like who Dan was like kidding myself right and so what happens for most of us is we're like we we just chase the next squirrel. We're like all right. Well I try to fail. I'll do something else right but for me. Remember that word until right until and I re I I assessed what I had done and I okay. I was obviously way off on my timeframe because remember when you're committed until when you're committed until the only variable is timing and I went and I don't remember why exactly this number stuck in my mind but I go okay obviously obviously one year was not realistic. Maybe it's GonNa take me thirty years to reach a million people. Maybe I don't know but I'm committed to that like I'm GonNa change a million lives and I don't care how long it takes me and but of course I'm like all right but I'm GonNa try to do it in your to. I don't think based on my year one I don't. I don't think that's realistic but I'm GonNa go for it and I put forth extraordinary effort. I maintained unwavering faith and I sold at twenty three thousand copies of the second year and I'm like all right. I'm getting better but I think I don't know how many it's like. You know like two hundred years before I'm GonNa read the goal something like that right on outpace on anyway. It took me six years. It took me six six years. We've surpassed a million copies and it's only been the last two that we were at almost another million so it's just taking off but but I want to. I'm going to share this us and we we can literally drop the Mike and hang up. I'M GONNA share what I believe is one of the most valuable lessons for all of us for me and it's my own personal lesson in my own life that I now I try to teach it as much as I can human nature. I believe it societal. I actually it's on human nature. It societal conditioning on is that we want what we want and we want it now because we compare ourselves to other people we look at somebody else and we go wow icy where they are. I want to be where they are but our brain has no patient that goes I want to be there now. So what that does. Is it 'cause inherently it causes feelings of inadequacy right. I'm not good enough. I'm not far enough along. I'm not where I want to be. Things aren't happening fast enough but here's the lesson that I've learned and and I think that anyone that achieves their miracle their goal their dream. I think that every I think that most of us most people learn this lesson. It's that when you finally get to the point in your life that you've been working being forced so hard and for so long no matter how long it takes you. You never wish it would have happened in the sooner when you get there. You look back and you go. It had to take this long. I had to go through all that stuff. I had to go through all that I had to throw that adversity those challenges those were testing me those were building the into the person I became that had the that was able to create what I want. This dream this goal the timing is perfect and so if you if you if you can bring that lesson into your life now don't wait for hindsight. Don't suffer for the next year or decade because you got your or just. Why am I not further along no don't do that? The lesson is maintain or be at peace with where it's be a piece with where you are now and where you are tomorrow and where you are every moment every three day along your journey be completely at peace love who you are love where you are wall you simultaneously wake up every day with a healthy sense of urgency to take action to at least one thing that moves you closer to your greatest vision for your life so be a piece with or you are but maintain urgency to take action and know that the timing will be perfect when you finally arrive and that's that's incredible and I couldn't agree with you more. I feel like anytime that that I have kind of gone through that change. You know where there was a place where I wanted to be in that. I thought there I agree with you. Completely have the same Aha moment of wow. There was a whole reason I had to go through some toiler. Some trials are struggled to get here now. I appreciate this place where I am now so much more than I would have had gotten it back then you know and I totally agree with you. There's a weird balance between like you said you need to be peace use but all the while working there's we're. We're balanced. You know that we constantly struggle with why WANNA be grateful in content with my life right now but at the same time I wanna be aspiring towards more it's kind of it's kind of weird thing it does to your mind and I totally agree with you there that I I think you have to be content. I remember when my wife and I both moved to l.. A. And we respond to be in the entertainment industry and I remember having the realization of I need to genuinely be thankful for everything I have right now and I couldn't couldn't afford to buy AAA Burrito so the got him so hungry. Why did you say that I wanted to want to put Libretto so bad? Hey Man I'll meet you off thirty five Elliott but when you know the point is is that you know we've always said that the gratitude also is kind of a breeding ground for that next step. You have to be grateful for what you have now before you can move forward in appreciate what you have later because you know you're not faithful the little that you have. You're not going that'd be faithful with much you have <hes> how I just WanNa talk about your book the Miracle Equation Really Quick and in the two things that you said you know unwavering faith and extraordinary effort <hes> so many of us you know we like we're talking. About just kind of give up halfway through and then we begin to question you know <hes> our vision and all that how do you know when your goal your vision is the correct thing like there's so many people that you know. I don't know how to cast asks the right vision for themselves including myself lately. I've been thinking about different things that I wanna work on on the side. You know little side businesses and things like that but I always questioned myself. I'm like well. Isn't that the right move. Is that something that is. Maybe I see the money grab lab were. That's something that I'm actually passionate about. How do you <hes> set the right goals but that are also lofty and big goals? You know where you can envision yourself going far with yeah yeah. It's a question and I think that it's kind of I it goes in alignment with purpose like people. Always you know like I don't know what my purpose in life is and I mean people are searching for their purpose but that's not the way that purpose works purposes some it's not something you find it something that you create and it's something that you recreate as you continue we need to learn and grow and evolve your purpose grows in evolves and so in the same way when it comes to goals you know I did a lot of stuff for the miracle morning right like I launched a program called Your Best Life Coaching Right <hes> I lost another program called a self empowerment coaching. I launched wrote a book called taking had on. I thought that was going to be the book and God good reviews but nobody bought it like. I didn't tell me copies right so so so it's not like I and the miracle morning. I didn't know that that was the thing so I think that I think that the just list you know really like looking at your life and asking or self what feels right to me like you really have to trust your intuition a little bit more and if you willing to try things things before you figure out what sticks right because again I had more certainty that the that my I put taking life had on and it was a false sense certainty I thought do this is going to be amazing. Actually in my head I already planned to series. I'm like ooh taking out on the penalty taking college head on and taking sales head on and then taking business head on I had a whole idea for a series and then I was like wait a minute if the original books not selling. I don't think the spin offs are gonNA sell right so I was like certain and then the miracle is over confident in the miracle morning I'm like I don't think anybody's GonNa read this. Like how am I gonNA convince people to wake up early right. I had no I if I could have never in a million years that would sell a million copies like never and and what's interesting. I talked to other authors their authors that are way better writers than me that are way smarter than me and their books not selling right and then like I talked to James Redfield who wrote the Celestin Prophecy that sold fourteen million copies. We were speaking in Italy a a few months ago actually was six on the fall but on speaking here in Italy and I'm like I have dinner together James. I have to thank you like your book changed my life and when I found out you self published it and then you traditionally published I am later. I decided to sell punishment morning. You're part of Me Journey Yada Yada Yada and I said did you know that the self esteem prophecy was going to take off. He goes how I had no clue at Rice. He sold fourteen million lobbying right. I had no clue so here's the point and actually I want to give one more one more one more kind of example for context when I decided to become a speaker I my background was in sales. I I was a hall of Fame Sales Rep right so I had the credibility to speak to any sales organization and but I was twenty five years old and I looked I was eighteen. Maybe sixteen right so I really just looked at. I really looked at my experience my background and so this is for people listening right this to me is how you kind of decide so number one. Is You never really know so set a goal that feels good to you believe in that goal work towards that goal and understand that the real purpose of a goal Mrs another one of those most important lessons. I've ever learned kind of thing the real purpose of going I learned from Jim Rohn by the way actually from my mentor Dan Cassetta who learned from Jim Rohn who taught it to me on the real purpose of a goal is not to hit the goal the real purpose of a goal is to develop yourself into the type of person with the qualities and the characteristics. I needed to achieve any goal that you said whether or not you hit the individual goals that you set is far less important to the qualities and the characteristics that you develop along the way in other words who you become so if you give it everything you have to hit a goal and it like I did with those things I mentioned Your Best Life Coaching the first book I wrote and right again but none of those took off none of those were sticky. People just didn't resonate and I didn't know until I tried it right on but I learned a lot about what worked what didn't work and I developed qualities and characteristics like self discipline and ability to set schedule in you know in Crete processes that would allow me to reach my goals and this and that and it was who you become that lasts forever ever the benefits of an individual Goeller short-lived oh I hit a goal. I made some money will you. You'RE GONNA spend it will become stays with you for the rest of your life and when you can approach goals without mindset you realize that we you really can't when it comes to setting a big audacious goal you can't the only way to fail is to to give up to not try but if you give it everything you have and it doesn't work out but you take the lessons into the next school well well now. You're more likely to hit the next school but you might the next school but you you learn more or less than if you get given everything you have and then you hit you probably the next goal and all of a sudden you have your miracle morning right and you you really you cannot predict it but but for me it was when I launched my coaching business I thought who should I coach again. I was like well all I did was sell up into kitchen knives so I decided to coach cut corrupts from my company. When I decided to become a speakers I started to tell that story? I thought who should I speak to. I thought well I look like I'm nineteen. I'm going to speak to a college student. So I launched my speaking career. I could've gone in the corporate market would have been an uphill battle but I went so so go with the path of least resistance and use your own experience. When I wrote the miracle morning it was because I had experienced France this morning ritual that changed my life and I wanted to pay it forward and share it with others so again? Leverage your experience and listen to your intuition. Go with what feels right to you without overthinking when you when you ask what should I do. What's the first that comes to your mind? That feels good. That feels right that feels. There's not resistance you don't you're not forcing. You're not trying to fit a square peg into a round hole or vice versa right and then approach it without mindset that hey if I don't reach the goal it doesn't matter because I'm going to become a better version of the guy or the Gal that I am today and that version of me. We'll have more clarity a bigger vision and more capabilities than I have now and all apply those to the next school and the goal after that and the goal after that and the goal after that when I finally the point that I've been working for so hard for so long. I won't wish it happened in these sooner. All look back and go. Oh wow the timing was perfect. Journey Kony is exactly as it was supposed to be incredible. Come on how we're going to church in here. How much do you WANNA go? You WanNa call me next week and let's do this again because I think we could keep going you shared so much my heart stop opposite thirteen and a half minutes so I mean if you gets more questions I'm happy to to tell we'll let you go how but I just I'm so thankful that you shared all of your knowledge in your wisdom with us here on the Good Life Fam- you guys if you want to check out house book it's the Miracle Equation Asian as you can tell how is living proof of that. The Miracle Equation Works WanNa check out his book. Check out the miracle quesion Pal. Thanks again so much being on the show. I appreciate you guys so much. Thanks for having me all right. You take wow you know how I always say things like Oh my God I died like like he can actually say that you know what I mean. I mean the fact that he died came back to life and is continuing to live not just any ordinary life but he is like I'm going to live a full life incredible life wow that just it's so encouraging an uplifting. I love that I think you know He. He really hits a nail in the head Ed and you know he even said. It seems simple but you know it's it's it's effective and it can change your life. Is You know his miracle equation of if you really believe you have you know unwavering faith you know and you put forth extraordinary effort into something that I re. He you know he really believes that you can achieve that goal and I you know he's living proof so I don't know he's a great example. Somebody who's hard to even argue with its cold like when when kind of like sometimes out of body experienced things happen you know and he's had obviously several of these types of encounters and I think we all all have whether it's in a bigger small way I mean we've all kind of had those like miracle. Things happened in our day-to-day lives sometimes where it just kind of wakes you up a little bit and it puts things in perspective. I love that even though this past week was Super Chill Hill for both of us God was still doing something incredible and when you told me that you had a dream I told you write it down and I'm so glad that you actually decided you know what I'm GonNa. Share what dream that I had you didn't even know what it really meant until we really dove into and talked about it but talk about body out body experience stevie experienced that this crazy experience this week y'all while says was gone a teeny in Dallas. I like I said at the beginning of the episode I felt like this week. You know it was kind of wasting my time and feeling like God like what am I doing right now. And Are you disappointed with me. Should I have been more fruitful with the gifts you've given me. I feel like I have so many gifts. In what the heck am I doing right now and we all go through that but the reason I wanted to share this story fan because I felt like it was divine intervention intervention from God in my dream so this is what happened like I said I was feeling really kind of just Blah like what the heck I go to bed and I'm having a dream all I remember. is you eat cheese before better Kobe. I probably shakes amazing chocolate. GonNa continue to ask but I've never this is never had a dream. That's a really crazy dreams. y'All where it's like. You know I believe in the power drill baby. That's how I saved so but I've had dreams were actually elite chosen to do certain things and this was kind of one of those dreams even more so I was talking to. Somebody and I feel like it was somebody I know. <hes> I got woken up by somebody like early in the morning so kind of jolted Miata my sleep but what I remember was is that I was talking to somebody the about God and explaining how God lives in us you know in the dream Yeah I was like God I literally sang them so passionately and remember feeling so a part of this dream sang like God lives in us. You know like he's alive. Live and his power lives in us. His Holy Spirit lives in US and as I said that literally all in in real life my body went completely flush with with like goosebumps in started kind of like almost it's like glowing like it was almost like there was this giant burst of energy came into my body. I can't even explain to you and you saw it to you said right. It was like I just kind of like I was dreaming but I knew my body went completely completely like crazy like on fire with goosebumps and it wasn't just goosebumps. I felt like this this China urgent energy almost like in my heart area there was this giant like burst of this crazy energy that I can't even explain to you but it was it was in a moment where I was sharing genuine like genuine love somebody sharing about God and it was almost like part of my purpose you know and I just felt that when I woke up the next morning I was like oh my gosh I was like I can't believe that that was so insane and then you know what I thought I was like why did why did I have that dream like. Why did I get that experience? That's like God. I didn't deserve to have that experience. I feel like if anything like I've been not not spending my my time wisely you know and but instead of waking up the next day and feeling like man like kind of down on myself. I felt like I literally felt like God hasn't given up on me you know God's not done with me. God can still move who've in power not just using but move in an amazing weight and do crazy things with me and how he intervened in my dream and I know beyond a shadow of doubt that that was God intervening in saying like I'm still here. I still want to work in you and there's so much we gotta do but I want you to just wake up because I woke up and that dream I felt I felt so amazing empowered after that dream it's I wanted to share that with. You guys going back to what I said anybody. WHO's felt like you've wasted your time or you haven't achieved your goals that you having started? y'All it's not too late. You can do it. You can start when you're fifteen. You can start when you're sixty. All I just want to encourage you all today to do it. And of course I mean listening to house story was so inspiring them so that was my story. I wanted to share that all avail. I just love that you had that dream. I think you you've been having a lot of these like little revelations. I feel like from God and just seeing you since coming on starting this show and seeing you in your element like openly just using your voice talking to people bowl I mean you really are a healer. Seeing you put your hand on people. Pray over people in you know even we go to conferences and we speak to audiences like the power and your voice it is this fire and I think that we're living in a generation in right now where people need that people need that power and then it needs to be poured into them. The power that comes from God and you just are such a pure honest genuine person that like God knows that he can use you in that way he knows that your heart is pure and that you have great intentions and you just love people and that's the kind of people that God loves to us to get closer to all of his other children out there who don't know and understand that there is a god out there that wants to do life with them and help them figure out how to get to their next step in those dreams and in those goals and in their journey with purpose and like Stevie said we just love that this show has given us the opportunity to kind of like what is the saying Peel back the curtain what yes layers yes both this. I was just telling him in the car. Real quick and then we'll go but I was just telling you in the car and I just feel it again that you know nowadays a lot of people turn to different social media profiles different channels different outlets and things to try to escape what they're currently going through and their live kind of like a way to numb the pain and it's similar to like giving somebody medication for something. It's like it yeah it currently will numb the pain but not addressing it and not you know dealing with it is just going to lead to it always just lingering there and you're just gonNA constantly try to nominate away and I feel like nowadays with social media influencers and just the celebrity profiles and things that we follow these lives. You know we all have a choice to be like all right. What are we going to put out into the world and Stephen? I know that this is a show where yeah it's a place where we can all kind of escape. Our day-to-day lives in meeting this little playground and hang out and you know have a good time but the fact that we don't have to create a facade or hide just the struggles that we all have to face on a real day-today life basis you know the fact that this is a place where we can also come to not only laugh but to actually deal with some of our problems terms and our struggles together. I think that's really what it's about. When it comes to figure out what it means to live a good life is that you've got to deal with the struggles in that the problems that you have head on and figure them out as you go and just try not to avoid them? Try Not to name it or try I to escape from it and I just love this show. 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The Blood Sacrifice of the Tang Emperor

Noble Blood

28:28 min | 3 weeks ago

The Blood Sacrifice of the Tang Emperor

"Welcome to noble blood production of iheartradio and grim in mild from Aaron minke listener discretion is advised. In Chinese folklore, there exists the idea of four great beauties. Four women from different eras who all had beauty of mythic proportions. The first she she lived in the Spring and Autumn Period and she was said to be so beautiful that when she went on a walk near a pond or stream, the fish who are would be so entranced by her appearance, the fish would forget how to swim and drown beneath the water. Next there was wings June in the first century BC, the Western Han Dynasty. Wing Jochen was so beautiful that birds would fall from the sky mid song when these are forgetting how to fly. In the three kingdoms period, there was Dow Chan whose face was so luminous and milky that the moon itself was said to shy away in embarrassment lest be compared to her. Finally there was Yankee Fay in the tongue dynasty who they say, put flowers to shame. Of course, Legend also notes that all four beauties had one single less conventionally perfect trait. In order those flaws were big feet, slipped shoulder, small ears, and body odor. But still in spite of their singular flaws, the four beauties became objects of legends, characters in stories that were retold for centuries in poems, operas, songs, and novels. They were all so beautiful. The stories go that they brought men to their knees and empires fell with. That narrative is especially strong with young Guay the last of the four beauties. They say that she so entrenched at Bir Showings on that, he began neglecting his duties. He became forgetful and Dilettante in his as emperor and spent all of his energies instead on pleasing young. And throwing honors onto her and her family. It was young phase fault then. Song, the tongue dynasty would all but collapse. It was she who ushered in an era of political upheaval, the five dynasties and ten kingdoms period. The woman so beautiful that she destroyed kingdom is a favourite narrative in history. Think for example, about the way people talk about Angolan, the witchy in Chantrey who seduced King Henry the eighth away from the Catholic Church. Or Marie Antoinette the indulged in. Queen who single-handedly turn the peasants against the monarchy? Of course, these narratives conveniently overlook that it was the king's with the real political power. The Glamour or excitement of a queens behind the scenes machinations make for lovely lady Macbeth drama. But. It really does condescend to our worst cultural instincts of boys will be boys. How can we ever expect a king to rule when there is a beautiful woman in his line? For centuries men have wielded the vast majority of political power. Legal system set up exclusively for their benefit and yet it is queens and lovers who bring kingdoms down. So we say. It makes me think of a quote from Alexander. Cheese excellent novel the Queen of the night. The protagonist narrates men often complain of the wickedness of Women Oh, how we delight in power we have over their hearts. They reign over everything else. So of course they grudge us this should we ever come to rule over this thing the size of their fest I think it's worth pointing out that all of the women I mentioned Marie Antoinette and Boleyn Yengo. FA. All four, the beauties of imperial China. All, met, violent and tragic, ends. In yengo phase case, her lover would order her death. Then spend the rest of his life morning her. I'm Dana Schwartz. A Mrs Noble Blood. The woman that history most often refers to as younger fa was actually born Yang you wan. Yang is her family name and say is the rank she would be given later in life the highest rank for imperial concert. BUT FOR CLARITY'S SAKE I'll refer to her as yesterday continuously throughout the episode even though she's given several different names at several different points of her life. When she was born in seven, hundred and nineteen. It was to a high status family but not royals they were wealthy enough to be within a royal inner circle without being royals themselves but it wasn't a complete shock when age fourteen gangly fe already considered. Beautiful. Married Li Mao, the Prince of shoe the son of the Emperor Cham's on and his favourite consort concert will. It was a golden period in the tongue dynasty. With the emperor already in Middle Age having ushered in an era of creativity and art. If you listen to an earlier podcast episode about the Empress Wu's at ten. This was her grandson. And things were good for Samsung if there were murmurs of political dissent at the edges of his kingdom after a few military losses, they were still just murmurs easy for the emperor and his family to allow to fade into the background while they enjoyed the bounty of what they're rich empire had to offer. But then concert Wu died. The emperor now fifty two sunk into a deep depression. Depression that only lasted until he laid eyes on his beautiful now nineteen year old daughter-in-law Yanga fe. There was only one slight problem of course. She was already married. and. She was already married to his son. The first hurdle was easy enough to deal with gangway was forced to become a tau. Ist Nun, which meant that when she symbolically received the tonsure, her marriage officially dissolved. She was temporarily given a new name Taishan and for a short period of time she served as a nun in the Imperial Palace keeping her head down and wearing modest clothing. Living in the same palace where she had for the past five years my princess. After. Whatever period seemed respectable enough to make overtures on his former daughter-in-law. Shangdong made young Guay and official consort bestowing countless honors on her and her family. Her cousins were given important imperial positions. One of her uncles was married to one of the emperor's daughters. The Yang family moved up into a position of prominence and it was all thanks. The Beautiful Yengo fe. and. This is when she received the official title with a title that none of the emperor's other consorts had been designated. Even, consort Wu his dead favorite had only been with. Of course, we don't know how Yang with a felt about what happened to her. Maybe she was delighted by her new Royal Status and importance. It's possible. Maybe she adored the emperor. Or. She could have been in love with the prince that she had married as a teenager the boy she had slowly gotten to know and grown up with. Those five years of her life where she was married to the prince are usually just fast forwarded an any history of her. She would have seen the prince mourn his beloved mother, the mother that had been fighting for him to be next in line for the throne. Younger say was ready for a full life as a royal wife. And then out of nowhere, she was informed that that life was over. How she felt about that. Like a puppet on an assembly line, she had to make oaths as a Tau Ist nun. Oaths that she knew would be meaningless eventually. And then she had to smile gracefully and accept the affection of the emperor nearly three times her age. For Yanghwa phase ex. Part the emperor made sure to give him a new wife right away a daughter of an important general maybe he didn't mind the trade. Only feelings we get in the story are the feelings of the emperor and the emperor was delighted that he got what he wanted. Younger phase beauty was legendary even in her own lifetime. Her figure was famously round and full though modern day historians tend to find very offensive ways of describing that. The emperor was so besotted by her that he denied her nothing. The consorts favorite fruit was Lichi, but they didn't grow in the region not a problem. The emperor demanded that freshly lichi fruit be brought to her. As soon as the Leeches were plucked from the trees in southern China, a man on horseback would begin his frantic ride towards the capital to the north. When the rider and his horse became exhausted another messenger would pick up their immediately and start riding through the night. Young Fay got the freshest Lee Cheese that manpower an eighth century technology would allow. She was also afforded the special privilege of being allowed to bathe in the walking hot springs. Up, until her only emperors had been allowed there. Being an imperial consort may seem glamorous, but it was a bargain with the devil on one hand you'll live a life of leisure in a beautiful palace having all of your material needs cared for. But you're also imprisoned unable to leave the palace or see your family unless you get special permission once the emperor you served died you lost all of your. Power. I'm borough Sean Zong especially later in his life would have thousands of concubines at any given period all jockeying for attention with the awareness that the entire course of their lives existed at the behest. Single Man's whims. But if you're the favorite. Things are pretty good. There were occasions when young way and the emperor fought. Once younger face said something that put the emperor in such a rage that he sent a concert away from the palace and back to her family. With his favorite consort gone the Emperor Moat. He refused to eat. You, know you overreacted one of the emperor's Counselors Jiwen said. The emperor grunted back. It had only been one day but like a teenager after break-up, the emperor already wanted her back. As a gesture of generosity and goodwill the emperor sent Eunuchs to young with as family home to deliver her royal meals from the. Palace. When she saw the deliveries young fate wept. Deserved death she moaned the emperor is too good for just sending meet back to my household I can't give him any of my gold or jade because it was all gifted by him. I must have something to give him to show my remorse. and. So while the few UNIX watched young with a cutoff, Alaka her hair and told one of the men to bring it back to the emperor. As soon as the emperor got it, he sent back a guard to personally escort his consort back to the Palace and from that point on he loved her even more than he had before. In Nine, hundred and forty seven, a general named on Lucian visited the palace at Chung on on new John was of Turkish descent, and he was one of the Empire's top military leaders, the governor of one of its military republics, and he had earned a reputation for taking decisive action. He was a big man in every sense of the word, a man who took up space in a room. When he arrived at the palace Yanga fe liked him right away. He said what he was thinking. So few people in the palace seemed to do that. The emperor liked on the Sean to. As a sign of respect to his concert, the emperor had on the Sean formerly honor young way fe as mother. Some people misinterpret that and say young say legally adopted the adult man, but that is not the case. The general just honored her and the two became friendly people who might have been outsiders but through a strange twist of providence had reached the royal inner circle. A few years later on the Sean returned to the palace where Yankee. Way honored him for his birthday. She presented him with the customary treasures and gifts before she brought out her final offering the eighth century equivalent of a gag gift. Reading history is strange sometimes because just as often as things get lost in translation or cultural differences, it's also important to remember that people in these seven hundred had a sense of humor and sometimes what might have been uproarious live at the Apollo comedy to them might just come across as bizarre us. So as it happened, one of the gifts that. They presented to the general unleash on was a giant babies waddling the joke being I assume that unleash on was such a large man that he would look very silly wearing it and he put it on and turns out. They were right it was hilarious. Everyone laughed until the emperor walked in. As confused as anyone might be upon coming across the scene of your favorite concert and one of your top generals wearing what was basically a large diaper. One of Yang Griffis ladies broke the silence by laughing hysterically. Young. Just gave birth three days ago. She said look at how big the baby's gotten. There was a pause and then the emperor laughed. The entire scene became silliness. Again, the type of meaningless tomfoolery that happens sometimes among people with too much free time and unlimited money. But I'm the relationship with the rest of the young family wasn't nearly as carefree. When young fe was thrust into her position as favourite consort, one of her cousins a man named using was Hong was made chancellor. Over the years that she was a favourite consort yungay protected her cousin from going into battles working behind the scenes using her influence and the kings ear to keep her cousin safe. And so while his colleagues fell off, one by one young was Hong just rose in the ranks steadily until through no real accomplishments of his own he was one of the most powerful men in the empire. And young was hung did not like on Leshan. Their grievances with each other were nothing more than petty sniping to begin with but the grudge was there and the grudge grew. On Leshan didn't like a pampered nepotistic nobody with so much power. and Yang Guanzhong didn't like this up start military man who didn't rain in his staff properly. Yungas Hong would lash out at on Luzon flaunting his power by arresting various staffers at Amazon's mansion and executing them. that. Wasn't the reason on Lucia launched a rebellion against the emperor in seven hundred and fifty five, but it didn't help. Young Hong represented everything that on Schon had come to resent about the emperor, a man who made it very clear that he would rather lounge in his palace of worldly pleasures and spend time with his consort and do anything that even looked like ruling. Hugh a spoiled and he promoted family members to high positions instead of people who are actually worthy. A few embarrassing mentoring defeats meant that he had lost the respect of his army and the emperor didn't even pretend as though he wanted to earn it back. The time for the tongue dynasty was passed. And, on Sean would make sure that China knew it. So in seven, hundred and fifty, five on the Sean launched a rebellion against Emperor Schwann's Zong and it was so successful early on that, the Imperial Household was forced to flee the capital and moved to the Maui district for their own safety. Maybe I should step down the ember thought out. Loud. I've ruled for long enough. Clearly I'm unpopular. Maybe my son should become embraer instead. When young was hung heard that the emperor was considering stepping down he panicked. It's not like the rebellion was his fault, but it's not like it was not his fault either. He did do that thing of. All the staff members working at unleash. Songs House. Yungas hung's political position was all thanks to the good will of the emperor and if the emperor step down all of that goodwill immediately disappeared. Please cousin young. Begged Donguye FE. Please put in a good word with the emperor. Tell him not to step down not yet. Young Guay side and A. She spoke to the emperor behind closed doors. And she said worked. The emperor decided to continue to rule as he put the rebellion to bed. But that was proving more difficult than it first appeared. On Leshan had the support of large military factions and the emperor was heavily in debt. The battle over the capital was becoming long and drawn out the emperor's own soldiers were becoming disheartened. Back, in my way, the emperor's guards were growing disgruntled. They were underfed and worked and annoyed that they were protecting young with a and her family. When everyone knew they were the ones who basically started this whole mess Angry soldiers who supported the emperor went to young was hongs home and killed him along with two of young whiff as sisters. And then they came for the concert herself. It was general Chen of the imperial guards who approached the emperor and said that if the military was going to continue to support the emperor they needed blood. They wanted younger fe. Nobody thought he was guilty of treason. She wasn't actually a criminal hadn't committed any crimes. It wasn't punishment for doing anything. Wrong. She was a blood sacrifice. The emperor at first refused outright in disgust. But then you saw the steely look in his generals is and he realized that they weren't going to be willing to back down. The soldiers stationed in his palace to protect him suddenly looked like an invasion. This was the fate of his kingdom at stake. And so he gave a nod. And he instructed younger fe be brought to a nearby Buddhist trying and killed. Soldiers strangled her there and her body was brought back before General Chen who gave the orders for the soldiers to disperse. Young way was buried at Maui without a coffin. But the emperor did give orders for her to be buried with bags of fragrance wrapped in purple blankets. The rebellion ended eventually. One of the emperor sons retook the capital. Swan. Song. Made it back to the palace, but young fe was still dead. S. He and his party were leaving highway. He asked to bring young phase body back with them to give her proper burial. But his advisors, all told him that that would be impossible. It was still a sore subject amongst his supporters. Honoring her in any public way could lead to mutiny. By the time, the emperor was back in his palace with his power secure enough to send for her body. It was too late. The UNIX the emperor sent to disinter the body of his favourite consort returned with word that her body had decomposed. All they could bring back instead where the purple bags of fragrance. The emperor held them to his face and he wept. He had given the order to her. But he had no choice. He had no choice right? You had no choice. That's the story of young. Keep listening after brief sponsor break to hear a little more about her legacy. 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The favourite consort who was killed to save off mutiny became a favourite of Chinese literature and art. Most famously, it inspired the epic poem Song of Everlasting. Sorrow from the year eight, hundred and nine. Her story also made it to Japan where of it went on to inspire the Japanese classic novel the Tale of Ganji sometimes considered the world's first novel. And certainly the first published novel written by a woman. There are rumors similar perhaps to stories of annastasia escaping, Bolshevik. Nets that young way Fay was actually never killed. That instead she was able to sneak away with the help of guard and make her way to Japan. It seems that when someone is young and beautiful. Romantic to imagine that their story has a happy or at least mysterious ending. Though countless sculptures and paintings of young wife exists. They say there's also a physical reminder of her existence. A carved outline of her hand on a stone at the palace in Chung on now Xiang. But unfortunately, I've never been there to verify or self. And the only source I could find saying that the outline of the hand actually belonged to the legendary young way Fay. Comes from Ripley's believe it or not. So it's up to you. Believe. It. Or not. Noble blood is a production of iheartradio and grim and mild from Aaron. Minke? The show is written and hosted by Dana Schwartz and produced by Aaron, McKie Matt, Frederick Alex Williams and Trevor Young. Noble blood is on social media at Noble Blood Tales, and you can learn more about the show over at noble blood tales dot com for more podcasts from iheartradio visit, the iheartradio APP apple podcasts, or wherever you listen to your favorite shows.

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Ep 75: Who are you talking about?

10 Things To Tell You

25:52 min | 3 months ago

Ep 75: Who are you talking about?

"I'm Laura Tremaine and I have ten things to tell you. And do you have ten things to tell? This show is about connection with each other and with ourselves, and the hope is that the things we talk about here will be fuel for better conversations and a personal awareness. This is an interactive podcast. Each episode has a prompt and a topic that I want you to take to the journal text to your best friend or answer on social media using the Hashtag ten things to tell you. This is a show about digging deeper and sharing our stuff I'll go. I. Welcome to this episode of the ten things to tell you podcast I am Laura Charmaine? Thank you oppressing play. Thank you for choosing a few minutes of your day to be introspective to think about your own life and growth for taking these prompts into your real life as conversation starters. Today's topic is. Who are you talking about? This question came to me during one of my ten minutes of silence sessions one morning, I've been doing these ten minutes of silence sessions for a couple of months now they're not meditations, or at least they're not traditional meditation. It is literally just ten minutes of sitting there alone quietly noticed actions, but also with no directives so I'm not trying to empty my mind. I'm not trying to focus on anything. Anyway I was sitting there and one of the things that my brain runs amok with when it gets quiet is that it replays conversations that I've had in the last few days. Sometimes good conversations, but most of the time it's replaying interactions where I wish I had said something differently or I wish. I had said something at all. The absolute curse of always wanting to talk about my feelings, is then I inevitably muck something up. What I'm talking about my feelings I've had forty years of practice sharing my staff, but at least once a day. It feels like something comes out of my mouth that I wish I could have a Redo on. Anyway I started thinking about some conversations that I've been in recently where I was talking about someone Else Gossiping or analyzing or musing or venting or whatever when it doesn't take a mirror to realize that I may have been talking about another person, but I was really talking about me. I mean not me specifically, maybe by talking about another person's situation or character was really pretty revealing about my own fears or insecurities, or just wanting to assert my knowledge in some way I wanted to look smart or intuitive or something, while I was talking about this other person I was working something out in my own mind by gabbing on and on about someone else. And we're taught that this is always bad. Right women, especially our toll beesd as Early, and repeatedly that talking behind someone's back is universally bad and gossip is mean girl staff and what you say about someone says more about you than them. bla-bla-bla. All of those things that we learn when we're young and yet. Most of us do it anyway. Yes most of us do talk about other people. Sometimes we talk about other people's life decisions. We talk about other people's looks good and bad. We, talk about what people post online we talk about what so and so said or did, or if your brain works like my brain, we analyze their motivations, and what they really meant to say or do or post or where I think it's human nature to observe others, and then share those observations now I'm going to give us all the benefit of the doubt and assume that we are not talking about people in a mean girl way. That's not what this episode is about. The vast majority of the listeners to the show are adult females and. We are all past the mean girl phase hopefully, and can discern the difference between insidious God's up and mean-spirited snark and know that what I'm talking about. Here is not things that are meant to harm, but it's also not meant to be overheard either I'm talking about adult level conversation with other people about other people. Let's not pretend that this doesn't happen. Let's just acknowledge that it does happen, but I want us to conjure a few of these recent conversations. And see what we're really doing. When we engage in talking about people so I. I'm going to talk about how it makes us feel in our bodies when we do this then I'm going to share the occurrences that I found myself in lately doing this and why I think it's happening. Observing these things about ourselves like admitting for example that we said something ugly about someone because we were feeling a little insecure. This is not like a settle shaming technique on my part I'm not trying to tell us never to have conversations about other people. That's not realistic. I know that I'm still gonNA event about people or analyze people. But seeing my own place in it. Gives me some awareness. It keeps me in a higher vibration when I'm in the middle of this type of conversation, instead of sinking into like grossness when you feel afterwards because you said something not so nice, so let's talk about how we feel. When we talk about other people emotionally and physically. Let's talk about these feelings. And while you're listening right now. Thinking about this later, I really want you to come up with specific conversations, not just generalizations. This isn't philosophy class. This is like boots on the ground. Actual real life actions specific staff. Maybe this is something that you can bring up in a friend group this episode or in the context of a certain friendship. If you have one that always turns to other people for Conversational content, if you will again not to shame your friend group for doing this or not to shame, your friend that you guys may be do this together. It's not to be self righteous. It's just an awareness. Okay, so how? We feel I'm going to name some of my emotions that I know. Come up when I talk about other people. Number One is jealousy. This is self explanatory. I often analyze people that I'm jealous of now. That is not always negative. Often I'm jealous in like an admiring way. I want to wonder out loud how they got there or came up with this idea or how they look a certain way like I'm really curious about it, and so I end up talking about it. It's not always that high minded of course, but often it really is. Another emotion that I'm feeling when I'm talking about someone else. Annoyed. I do not want to be this way, but I am fairly judgmental and. My India Graham ones. My fellow in the Graham ones will understand. S I can get uber annoyed when people don't make the life choices that I want them to make. So sometimes I find myself sort of like venting about that to other people. If I think someone has done something dumb. A third emotion that I feel like comes up when I catch myself. Talking about someone else is relief. For me sometimes it's an enormous relief to blurt out something that I've been thinking about, but haven't said it feels like pent-up emotion, and they're in the context of a safe conversation with a friend or family member. I can just say this thing finally that I've been thinking. It is like a relief to vent out this thing, and that might be one of my primary emotions when I am talking about someone is I, just need to say something out loud? Jealousy annoyance relief. Those are three of the. Less ICKE feelings I get after being in a conversation that was full on about someone else. Obviously, there are other emotions that might follow a conversation where you said something about someone else. You know guilt embarrassment, there's. Lots of layers to this. But generally and I hope this is understood here. These days I try not to sink into just terrible conversations about other people. That's just sort of not what my friend groups are like anymore. Now that we're older now that we all have a lot more grace for one another in general, but even when talk about others isn't totally terrible or ends up being sort of neutral, you can come away from it with a vibe that you feel in your body and I think it's something to pay attention to. Do you feel guilty. Do you feel like that wasn't really your best self talking or if it was mainly the other person talking about someone else in your listening? Do you wish that you had interjected and steered the conversation elsewhere? I may have told the story before. I can't remember about one time I was at a girlfriend Brunch, and it was a good by Brunch for a friend who was moving, and the conversation turned to sort of some gossipy things and one of my friends, not me by the way, but one of my friends said just very casually. Had to spend our last meal together talking about other people. And it wasn't weird. We all agreed, and we cheerfully moved on, but clearly this story has stuck with me as a standup way, not an awkward way to reroute the conversation and lightly remind us of who we are and who we want to be, and then we could into that interaction that meal on such a lovely note, instead of getting in the car and feeling like us. That wasn't great. That went south, you know. Okay. I'M GONNA. Give you three scenarios that I've specifically been a part of in the last few months when I was talking about someone else, but turns out upon further analysis. I was really talking about me. 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We're GONNA, start zoomed out with celebrity gossip, and then we're going to get all the way zoom Dan with someone in my immediate proximity so celebrity gossip. A lot of us enjoy the celebrity gossip who among us can't become momentarily captivated by pretty people doing interesting things. And this feels like the most harmless of situations when you're talking about other people because we actually do not know the people we're talking about. It's almost an entirely a speculative conversation. It's not going to personally hurt anyone that we've talked about it. And in some ways, this can actually be fun like he can feel like. These are not real people that we're talking about. Of course they totally are, but I get the appeal of celebrity gossip and will jump in one of those conversations faster than you can say. Eight MIMOSA however winds start to get weird. When have you become over invested in strangers, life. When does it become more than I can be or admiration, or whatever my confession here is that I have spent hours and I mean to tell you literal hours of my life on vox her with a friend in the last six months analyzing some. Celebrity drama. I mean I think I've done anything like this. Since like Brad Pitt in Jennifer Aniston, split. Does that reference age me anyway. It's been years since I cared so much about strangers. Personal life part of it is because this quarantine season is slow and it's sort of Nice to have this. Random distraction a rabbit hole to fall down on the Internet of read it threads and facebook threads that doesn't have anything to do with like a global pandemic, for example. Also I'm a person who fixate hates on things that I'm interested in and celebrity gossip fifty bill. Sometimes it's mindless, but it's interesting, and now here we are with extra time on our hands for like a deep dive analysis to waste time on, but also I realize that there's something uglier behind it. That's not great. Like triumph, maybe that seemingly perfect people aren't so perfect. That is the wrong way to feel. That is not who I want to be. These are real people with real pain, but I find myself reading these threads of people being really nasty about celebrities on the Internet and there's a self righteousness to it like well I would never have done what they're doing or I would never handle it this way if that were me like I know better how to handle something publicly I one hundred percent. Assure you I do not, but there it is. There's this weird colonel of self righteousness to it. And maybe there's also an element of it being like a bonding thing among other fans, or like any other kind of weird bonding moment of something on the Internet, or even with the friend that I was boxing back and forth with about it like we were nitpicking all of those details together it can be a way that humans bond in their shared opinion or fascination. Fascination with something so there is that element to it, but I notice dead and I'm telling you about it now I realize it is not my best look, but also I'm not losing sleep over at either because talking about a celebrity behind their back, so to speak behind their back. They don't even know you does not bring up the same amount of emotions as say. Talking about someone you know. So. Let's zoom in on that a little. Have you been in the conversation about someone else in your friend group. Be Honest. Was it disguised as fake concern. I'm guilty of that one by the way I've done that. Adult women sometimes get around slandering their own by pretending to be worried about them. I've been there. I recently found myself absolutely venting about an acquaintance with a trusted friend, and for a moment there was some relief like I talked about before it felt good to finally say something that up until then, I'd been too polite to say to anyone, but now in certain conversation, the door was opened a little bit and I- barreled through an afterwards I felt so bad, because I didn't just sort of say my piece and then shut up about. About it I, kind of went on and on and on, it was wholly unnecessary, and it must have put the friend I venting to in an awkward position, and in this case it said a lot more about me than anyone else. It's fine if someone is not your cup of tea, but then it's on you to be healthy about it to on. Follow to walk away to decline invitation to stand up for yourself if that's what's needed. What I was venting to my friend about was a difference in opinion with someone. Actually this was about Cova. Stuff if you WanNa know the truth. And even though I disagreed with the acquaintance that I was venting about what I was really annoyed with was not her. It was that I hadn't stood up for my own beliefs. In bigger group conversation I had stayed quiet, which resulted in to me later, fuming about the person who had spoken APP, so yes disagreed on something, and yes, maybe it's not the first time, but what I was really mad at was myself for staying silent. And it came out later in the sort of ugly vent rant, and I recognized it like within a few hours, but by then the damage was already done I had not been my best self, and someone else got the brunt of it. Both my friend, who is listening to me rants, and also the person I was annoyed at when it's not her fault, but I didn't stand up for myself. See I can actually Kinda feel myself getting. He did even as I. Talk about it right now, but at least I'm aware of it. I will do all parts of it differently next time assuming that there is a next time. which brings me to the next zoom in the closest zoom in on this topic? Loved ones. Family members dear friends. A person that were close to either in a family or a friend group, or maybe in a work situation that we talk about constantly now. I hate this example I hate admitting any of this, but this is just something that goes down in families and in close friend groups. And it takes being aware of it to break the pattern. Feel like we often have those people or those dynamics that come up over and over again. A cousins bad choices a friend's marriage drama. It's just a topic that gets brought up repeatedly either in the group as a whole or by individually because there's something about it that you're chewing on. Your verbally processing it through as a coping mechanism. That, it's not always bad. My sister and I returned to the same topics over and over and over again, and it is helpful to US I. Think to rehash things from our past because we are a safe place to one another to process through emotions with someone who get set I'm so grateful that I have a sister and that I have someone who lets me repeat basically over and over and over again my stories and opinions as it pertains to our family. But if someone else close to me in my life I've given a ton of energy to, and not always in a positive way, I, talk and talk and talk about this person, and I've realized the summer that not only. Is it unhealthy? It's based in fear. I talk about them incessantly out of fear. I'm afraid something's going to happen to them. I get on my high horse preparing for like a future. I told you so moment. I talk about this person out of concern and anger and mostly. Mostly fear. I am afraid for them. I am afraid for me. I am afraid of like a future. Unnamed pain. And, so I'm talking about them and I'm talking and talking and talking about them to my husband. Choice, sister, whoever? But really I'm talking about me. I'm scared for them and I'm scared for me. I see my bad choices in their bad choices. I recognized my life could be their life. At the turn of a dime, and so I get furious and mouthy, and then sad, and then a no aid. Now! That might not be why you talk about someone. In your inner circle, you may have better reasons or worse reasons. You may be filled with MVP for the person that you talk about all the time. You may wish that you were closer to someone, but you're not and so that leads you to talk about them at length. We're all in different situations. We all have lots and lots of relationships that we talk about differently with different motivations with different weights to these conversations. Not Everything deserves this type of analysis, right? No that I'm going to gossip with my friends. Sometimes I know that I'm going to vent about family stuff with my sister. Sometimes but I'm trying really hard to listen to what I'm actually saying when I talk about someone else. I'm trying to listen to what my body does when I talk about someone else. Do I cry. Do, I! CLENCH my fists or the steering wheel. What is happening with me emotionally and physically when I'm having a conversation about someone else. When there is emotion involved. Especially when it is repeated conversations when the feelings are extra strong. Or you feel the need to talk about a topic or a person over and over again. that. Is Your assignment this week? Think about specific people that you talk about and take your feelings to your journal or to a trusted friendship. This is crucial this week. A trusted friendship to think about why this comes up, and what is really underneath it, calling out your own insecurity or your own in V or fear, it might help you the next time that you want to try and make yourself feel better by talking about someone else. Maybe it will give you some pause. At the very least it will make you aware of the mirror. In your words. I'm Laura Tremaine and you just listened to the ten things to tell you podcast. You can find the show notes and subscribe to episode emails at ten things to tell you dot com slash podcast, and you can follow us on facebook and Instagram at ten things to tell you. Remember this is an interactive podcast. I have ten things to tell you and do you have ten things to tell so taking this topic to your journal or a friend or post on social media using the Hashtag ten things to tell you. These episodes are meant to be an action with others and ourselves am spark better conversations. Thanks for listening now go share some.

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The Red Paint on Leopold II

Noble Blood

45:18 min | 2 months ago

The Red Paint on Leopold II

"Welcome to noble blood production of iheartradio and grim and mild from Aaron minke listener discretion is advised. In eighteen eighty nine, an American. Journalist named George, Washington Williams was granted an opportunity to sit down informally with King Leopold. The second of Belgium. Williams, was a groundbreaking published historian, but his life was known fascinating history. He was a black man born free in Pennsylvania who enlisted to fight for the Union during the civil war when he was just fourteen years old. From there he went to Mexico and joined the army fighting to overthrow the European Emperor Maximilian Later became a college graduate, a Baptist Minister and the first black man to serve in the Ohio state legislature. By this point in Leopold's reign, he had become an expert in the trappings of Monarchy. He was a master of charm was friendly self effacing modest and above all diplomatic. Remembered names of wives and children, and he always asked after them. He welcomed Williams into his palace in Brussels and told him with obvious relish. But all of the philanthropic work he had been doing in the Congo Free State. The meeting went incredibly well. One side note one has to imagine that may be Williams. Youthful military service in Mexico didn't come up. After all the imperialist queen had been fighting against Carlotta, of Mexico was leopold sister. But for Williams, it was difficult not to be impressed with Leopold. And with Belgium. It's clean wide sweeping avenues and open national parks and the stately facades of the palaces. It was a new country and a new monarchy. The Belgian people had installed. Leopold's father as the first king imported him from a line of German royals back when Belgium had gained its independence from Holland in eighteen thirty. But under Leopold, the second, the nation had become a center of international affairs in. Europe. Thanks a note small part to Leopold Passion for developing the Congo. What had been a blank spot on the map of Africa just a few decades ago was now as Leopold told Williams a quote benevolent enterprise of local programs seeking to increase the knowledge of the natives and secure their welfare. And so as Williams, left the meeting and stroll down the marble steps of the palace you reflected on what an impressive man, the young king was. Leopold the second was a paradigm for a new kind of compassionate modern imperialism. Out. Of his own pocket, the king had funded stations along the Congo river that were stocked with scientists, linguists, researchers. He built infrastructure to help missionaries spread Christianity all while helping establish a system in which black tribal leaders could establish their own local dominions as part of a larger organized coalition. At least. That's what Leopold said he was doing. Fascinated by leopold description of the Congo free. State. George Washington Williams, decided to visit for himself. What he found both sickened and outraged him. It was a slave state in all but name. Men. And children who had had their land stolen from them either by trickery or by violence who were then forced to work grueling hours gathering rubber that would be shipped back to Europe to pay for Belgium's beautiful roads and parks. Men Women and children who failed to meet their quota for rubber production were either whipped or killed under the capricious and brutal authority of black soldiers also enslaved. Meanwhile thousands of miles away set civilized leopold the second charmingly asking about your wife by name. George Washington Williams became the first person to interview native Africans about the horrific abuses suffering under imperialism. From an outpost Stanley falls he wrote an open letter which he addressed to his Serene Majesty leopold the second king of the Belgians and sovereign of the Independent State. In which Williams wrote in clear detail. One of the atrocities in the so called Congo Free State that he came across. He consulted his note and echoed Beck the very words that leopold had used to describe his endeavor. The so-called sauce during care and benevolent enterprise and to ensure the natives welfare. Williams wrote. Against the deceit fraud robberies, arson, murder, slave raiding, and general policy of cruelty of Your Majesty's government to the natives stands their record of unexamined patients long suffering and forgiving spirit, which puts the boasted civilization and professed religion of Your Majesty's Government to the blush. Leopold had claimed the Congo as a colony for Belgium. Using smokescreens of Shell corporations and meaningless charity committees. He became the sole owner of the largest private landholding in history. Belgium did not own the Congo. Leopold dead. It was banal bureaucratic, evil ignored, and then accepted by the rest of the world out of sheer apathy. Leopold exploited the flimsiness of the institutions that hold up the civilized world and the veneer of respectability that comes from royal title? Williams is open letter sparked the first wave of international interest in Leopold's Congolese endeavor. But, of course, Belgian officials would attempt to discredit Williams and Williams would die of disease before returning home to America. It would be decades before the international community reckoned with the monstrous machine of Leopold the seconds Congo. If indeed, it ever really has. I'm Danish Schwartz and this is noble blood. Leopold. The second was not a boy of great prominence. You. Was gangly and awkward boy who looked like a scarecrow in his military uniform. He has such a nose said Benjamin disraeli the British prime. minister. As a young prince has in a fairy tale who has been banned by malignant ferry. From an early age leopold's parents. Not, to bother with much affection for him. In a letter while he was off at military school, his mother wrote I was disturbed to see in the colonel's report that you had again been so lazy and that your exercises had been so bad. Your father was as disturbed as I buy this last report. Leopold had no expectation that he would hear directly from his father. If you wanted to speak with his father the king he was required to request a formal audience and go through his father's secretary. When Leopold was eighteen he was married to Marie Henrietta in Austrian Habsburg archduchess. They hated each other almost immediately. Maria Henrietta was athletic and inactive horsewoman and Leopold was well in the words of Queen Victoria very odd and in the habit of saying disagreeable things to people. He was narrow minded interested in geography and fast idiocy about keeping track of money. And exactly as fun of a person as those two interests make him sound. The pair honeymooned in Venice and Marie, Henrietta wept in public because her new husband refused to let her ride in a Gondola. If God. Here's my prayers. She wrote to a friend. I shall not go on living much longer. Still. Even though by all accounts, they barely tolerated one another the royal couple managed to have four children. Though there one son died at age nine from pneumonia after falling in a pond. At his son's funeral leopold broke down publicly for the first and only time. Of Oh, he did regain enough composure to ask members of parliament to make sure that the funeral costs would be handled by the state. Leopold was so uninterested in his daughters that he tried to make himself an exception to the law in Belgium that requires one's assets to be passed onto one's children. From that point on Leopold simply had no use for his wife or really for the Belgian government. Petit Pay Petit John Leopold would say small country small people. He would have no more sons and so his legacy would need to become something greater. Leopold became king at thirty years old but being king in Belgium in the nineteenth century wasn't anything close to the power king would have had in Europe a few hundred years earlier. Their family was a symbolic monarchy who served at the pleasure of parliament not because they were granted absolute authority by God. Even Leopold's title was restrictive and Awkward. He wasn't the king of Belgium. Technically, he was the king of the Belgians a formality that just reinforced the notion that his leadership was more for show than anything else. And so leopold decided to turn his gaze beyond his small country and begin to focus his energy on his earliest passion. Profits. But not just any prophets. The prophets that can from owning a colony. Even before he had become King Leopold interest in colonialization ordered on obsession. He spent a month in Spain going through the dusty archives in the old exchange building page by page to calculate the revenue they made from their colonies in America. Unfortunately the people of Belgium didn't really share their kings imperialist dreams. Their nation was new and small. Focusing. On a colony seemed like an expensive luxury especially when they didn't have a merchant fleet let alone a navy. But Leopold wouldn't be deterred even as the elected officials with the real power in the country continued to demure when leopold approached in the halls of the palace with a new idea for a place to plant the. Belgian. Flag. After returning from one of his many scouting trips, leopold brought the finance minister to gifts a piece of marble from the propolis and a locket with his portrait. Inside the locket Leopold wrote Belgium must have a colony. If Belgium was ever going to be a world power. If Leopold was ever going to have any real power, he needed to claim land from somewhere else on the globe. The power was by the end of the eighteen hundreds unclaimed land become harder to find. Leopold scoured maps of the world. Could someone buy those tiny islands off the coast of south. America, is Fiji for sale? Could he by the Philippines from Spain? Leopold, even floated the idea of buying lakes in the Nile. Delta. So that he could drain them and claimed the land. For the moment he wrote neither the Spanish nor the Portuguese nor the Dutch are inclined to sow. I intend to find out discreetly if there's anything to be done in Africa. It's at this point in the story that we need to introduce another character. A writer turned explorer born in Wales with the name John Rollins. rollins had a miserable childhood or not of wedlock abandoned by his mother and bounced around extended family until he landed at a workhouse for the poor like a character in a Charles Dickens novel. But as soon as he turned eighteen like a character in a Mark Twain novel, John Rollins made his way to the Mississippi River. He eventually settled in New Orleans and this is where role in story becomes more myth than fact. According to him. He saw the wealthy trading magnet Henry Hope Stan sitting on his porch and boldly asked if he could have a job, the man became such a mentor to the young boy that he eventually adopted him and Roland took on his new father's name re Christening himself Henry Morton Stanley. Henry Morton Stanley wrote all about his conventional upbringing in his autobiography. How tragically senior Stanley died just two years after his adoption but Henry Hope, Stanley wouldn't actually die for another twenty years. And there are no records of any adoption. In fact, Henry Morton Stanley get so many strange details wrong that some historians argue that he didn't even meet the wealthy trader. Let alone become his protege. The truth didn't matter as much as a good story. That was the real lesson learned Henry Morton Stanley would become a master of reworking and mythologies in his own narrative until the truth was unknowable. Stanley would go on to fight on both sides of the American Civil War I for the south, and then for the north. And then after the war was over, he began to work as a journalist. It was an assignment for the New York Herald in seventeen seventy one that catapulted Henry Morton Stanley to national thing. You see four years earlier. Europe had lost touch with the Scottish geologist by the name of Dr David Livingston. Stanley made it his mission to go find Livingston Alive or dead all while sending back columns to be published in the New York Herald. It took two years and a seven hundred mile trek outfitted with one hundred and eleven porters. But in present day Tanzania Stanley found the scientists and according to Stanley greeted him with a line that is now icon ick. Doctor. Livingston I presume. It's a great line but in all actuality, not one that he actually said the time, it doesn't appear anywhere in his contemporary journals but at doesn't matter Stanley was a writer and he knew that the most important part of the story was the way you tell it. In, a way is right. We all remember that line one, hundred, fifty years later. In some ways Stanley was the prototype for the type of self conscious travel on luxury blogs and outdoorsy instagram accounts in which the experience itself only exists through its presentation to the outside world. Stanley's accounts of his adventure and the book wrote about the experience turned him into an overnight international celebrity. He also got a lucky break with Livingston dying of malaria dysentery before they both returned to Europe. So there wouldn't be another white man who could contradict any of his accounts. It was Stanley's word against no one's and the world. Loved it. They devoured his tales of rebellious porters and vicious barbarian, African tribes, wild animals, and most terrible of all the brutal quote Arab slave trade. Which Europe was free to scoff and gas bat having mostly band their own massive industrial transatlantic slave trade operations. Oh, about thirty years earlier. After his incredible. Livingston Mission Stanley set out again this time to trace the Great Lakes of Africa. The unmapped heart of what he stanley called the dark continent and to trace the Lualaba River to see if it fed into the Nile or if Hor shoot around and became the Congo River. This time Sammy was sponsored by both the New York Herald and the Daily Telegraph in London and his caravan was more than twice the size of the one that had accompanied him to find. Livingston. There were over three hundred people traveling with him although only three other white men. And Henry Morton Stanley being Henry Morton Stanley didn't want anyone with him who might upstage him. So the men he chose to accompany him had no experience exploring and all three of them died before the journey was complete. For his hundreds of Zanzibari Porters, the trip was months of carrying incredibly heavy loads on their heads and backs while Stanley riddled them with abuse. If they mutinied or attempted to flee, he punished them either with lashes or by keeping them in chains to humiliate them. But the natives that Stanley ran into fared if possible, even worse. Villages armed only with spears, arrows, or a few ancient traded for muskets were no match for Stanley outfitted with rifles and an elephant gun. Unfortunately, the only source we have to go on about these encounters is Stanley himself. Yet, reading his words, he doesn't mask his own pettiness or brutality. Attacked, and destroyed twenty eight large towns and three or four score villages he wrote. He went onto describe a river coast were markers shook their spears at him. Stanley opened fire with a winchester repeating rifle. Quote six shots and four deaths were sufficient to quiet the mocking. Stanley's columns did lead to shock and criticism from the Anti Slavery Society and humanitarian around the world. But James Gordon Bennett, his newspaper editor dismiss their criticisms as the Pearl clutching of elites who had never been in the metaphorical trenches. Critics Bennett wrote are safe in London philanthropists whose impractical view is that a leader should permit his men to be slaughtered by the natives and should be slaughtered himself and let discovery go to the dogs but should never pull a trigger against the species of human vermin. One European read every single update from Stanley with rap trance facination. King Leopold, the second who asked to servants to bring any newspaper with any dispatch from Henry Morton Stanley up to his chambers right away. When Stanley finally completed his mission emerging the Portuguese settlement at the mouth of the Congo River he became the second white man ever to traverse Africa from east to west and the first white explorer to trace the source of the Congo. The Congo was perfect for Leopold's purposes. It was a massive area laced with waterways for easy transportation. Once roads were built to traverse the most dangerous sections of rapids. Best of all as Stanley's writings had made. The local inhabitants were no military threat Thanks to centuries of slavery raids from both coasts. The few large kingdoms around the Congo were significantly weakened. The diverse population consisted of two hundred different ethnic groups which spoke over four hundred languages and dialects, which meant that the risk of them uniting against colonialists was small. Leopold had found the answer to the question he had been asking his entire adult life. But actually claiming the undeveloped region encircled by the Congo River would be more challenging than just willing it. The Belgian people were completely uninterested. And any European country that put down a flag could ignite the scrambling other jealous countries who could simply refuse to recognize their neighbors colony or claim it for themselves. And so even before Stanley's mission was over, leopold had begun to orchestrate a meticulous global propaganda campaign that through a combination of subterfuge, flattery and sheer force would make him the sole owner of a piece of land over seventy six times larger than the tiny nation in which he was the king. Leopold would rule a new population with an iron mercilus fest claiming the blood soaked prophets from his comfortable thrown on the other side of the world. All Wall White men praised him. In eighteen seventy, six king leopold the second organized a geographical conference to be held in. Brussels. Being a monarch at the end of the nineteenth century meant that Leopold had a very specific type of capital. The magnetic allure of the monarchy itself and all of the legitimacy it provides. In a vacuum, the formalities of the monarchy are arbitrary and useless. But in Leopold's hands, he became very weapons you would use to conquer the Congo. So decorum and formality where the chief objectives of his geographical conference. The goal was to dazzle his visitors three dozen of the world's most famous explorers and military men including Rear Admiral, and the President of the Paris Geographical Society. Leopold sent Belgian ships to pick up British guests in Dover. who were then escorted onto an express train zip them the rest of the way to Brussels with special instructions for them to pass through the Belgian border without customs. Leopold knew how impressive it would be for his guests to stay at the Royal Palace. The only problem was the royal palace in Brussels wasn't actually really residence it was more of an administrative office. Leopold and his family actually lived in a chateau on the outskirts of the city. But that wouldn't do. And so for the weekend, the Royal Palace was transformed into a residence. Servants Frantically converted offices into guest bedrooms. In the end everything, the drapery, the betting the ink, even the toilet paper was read. As each guest's entered, leopold greeted them in French German or English and one by one, they filed up a white marble staircase to the throne room which glistened in the flickering light of seven thousand Campbell's. Leopold opened the conference with nephew speech about the importance of their purpose. To open to civilization the only parts of our globe, which it has not yet penetrated to pierce the darkness which hangs over entire peoples is, dare I say a crusade worthy of this century of progress? The practical purpose for the conference was for the experts to work together to select locations for basis along the Congo which could serve as hubs for scientists, linguists, artisans. These basis Leopold said would be nonpolitical working only to abolish the slave trade and establish peace among chiefs chiefs, and each one would be well equipped with medicine and extra supplies for explorers passing through. At the end of the weekend, the men in attendance voted to establish the International. African. Association. Leopold of course, would be the association's first chairman, but he modestly promised to step down after a year. The association gave itself a flag a yellow star on a blue backdrop meant to represent the bright hope of civilization in the darkness of Africa. Each new member of the Association was awarded the Cross of Leopold. Throughout. Europe prominent men began to send me a donations including The v Count Ferdinando. Lesseps. Leopold was undertaking to Lesseps declared the greatest humanitarian work of this time. A side note if the name Count De lesseps sounds familiar it's because he is an ancestor of the man who would go on to marry real housewives star Countess, Lou. The idea with the International African Association was that the men would return back to their home countries and start their own national chapters and that there would be a big meeting in Brussels every year. In actuality, the organization fizzled after its bombastic inauguration. It only ever had one more meeting where they elected Leopold as chairman for the second time despite his earlier pledge and then the group all but disappeared forever. Its purpose have been served. Leopold had established the foundations for legitimacy refuting endeavors in the Congo. The great men of Europe were behind him. After Henry Morton Stanley had completed his trek along the Congo and floated back to Europe on a raft of claim and metals and book money. Leopold dispatched one of his officers to get Stanley to come to a meeting in Brussels. King. Leopold had a proposition for the explore. A five year contract in which leopold would pay the equivalent of two hundred and fifty thousand dollars a year plus the cost of an expedition. For Stanley to go back to Africa and begin to establish Leopold's foothold in the Congo. The plan was for Stanley to I set up a base, amend build roads around the most dangerous parts of the Congo River where they would be able to take steamboat apart, carry it on land, and then bring it back to the river. Leopold's goal was to stakeout several stations along thousand mile main stretch of the Congo river so he could claim the land. Profit than would be easy. The Congo was incredibly resource dense especially with regards to valuable ivory, which could be shaped into anything from chess pieces to piano keys to fake teeth. African elephants had tusks far larger than their Asian counterparts. Stanley had reported that ivory was so accessible in Africa that it was used for posts. Who exactly was Stanley claiming the land four Even. Stanley wasn't sure. He thought at first. It was the international African Association. Or was it the vaguely named Committee for the Study of the Upper Congo which was a private business whose shareholders included a Belgian banker secretly acting as Leopold's proxy. Leopold would go on to buy out the other. And the company would legally ceased to exist. But, both he and others would continue to refer to it as if it did still exist. Even, Stanley didn't realize that the company has folded. The subterfuge was deliberate. All of Stanley's European staff on the ground in Africa were acquired to sign a contract of secrecy. And it was around this time that King Leopold organized something called the International Association of the Congo. If that sounds similar to that pointless but idealistic International African Association that was on purpose. The former even adopted the exact same flag as the latter, a gold star against a blue backdrop. CARE must be taken Leopold said not to let it be obvious. Cut The association of the Congo and the African association are two different things. The public doesn't grasp that. Leopold framed the Association of the Congo, a sort of a new Red Cross and wealthy men all over the world sent donations. Leopold wasn't expert at manipulating the message depending on his odds. To Germans, he fram the enterprise as Kim to the Divine Mission of the Knights of the crusade. To. Americans he stressed that he would establish an Africa a union of free cities each led by local African. Tribe leaders not dissimilar to the Union of American States. But. In his letters to Stanley Leopold dropped the facade. There is no question he wrote of granting the slightest political power to Negroes. That would be absurd. The white man heads of the stations retain all of the powers. While continuing to promote his smokescreen charity organizations leopold reached out to an Oxford scholar and a lawyer to handle the legal details of acting as corporation and claiming sovereignty of territories for individuals. In Africa Henry Morton Stanley worked not only as a brutal taskmaster, braiding crews of workmen as they filled ravines built trails put together steamships. But also on Leopold's behalf tricking African leaders into signing tradings that gave leopold their land and gave him an exclusive trading monopoly. Using bullets and small electric buzzers Stanley convinced leaders who hadn't interacted with Western technology that white men possessed Superhuman Strength, and invulnerability. and. Then it was only a matter of some close a few leftover uniforms and a couple of bottles of ginger training and the leaders signed treaties that Stanley put in front of them. As historian. Adam Hoge shelled writes in his excellent biography King Leopold's ghost. The concept of signing your land away would have been completely for it. The tribe leaders would have been familiar with the idea of a contract of friendship. But someone across an ocean owning their land was absurd and outside the realm of contemplation. They just put an X. where they were told at the bottom of a contract in a foreign language, they didn't understand. And these contracts also included a clause even more sinister than you can imagine. They granted not just the land. But an agreement that the tribe would quote assist by Labor or otherwise any works, improvements or expeditions, which the said associations shall cause at any time to be carried out in any part of these territories. In short. Manpower. The Congo would become in effect a slave state. The. United States became the first to recognize. Leopold's claimed the land of the Congo. And it his speech the Secretary of state conveniently confused the International African Association and International Association of the Congo. The Domino's were falling into place. The next year, Leopold formally declared his landholdings to be the Congo Free State. Operating under his exclusive private control. King. Of the Belgians was now, the owner of the world's largest private landholding in history seventy, six times larger than the country ruled over. From this point on the details become horrific. It turns out the real profit to be made in the Congo wasn't in ivory it was in rubber. Leopold established a private army, the force Publique to enforce rubber gathering quotas in the native populations through brutal torture. The police force would arrive village, hold the women and children hostage and whip workers with a bull whip called. The Chicago made from dried elephants hide. The penalty for not gathering enough rubber was deck. In order to make sure that the police officers were using their bullets on people and not on animals to hunt for food, the hands of victims were acquired as trophies. Hands and feet of children would be severed if parents weren't productive enough. Even, the act of gathering the rubber was violent. Once. The vines were split open. The worker would slather his body in the soft latex which would then harden. Once hard. The latex would be stripped painfully from the body taking hair along with it. Men were worked to death hostages starved. Some estimate that as many as ten million people were killed during Q. Leopold bloody twenty-three year long reign in the Congo. Ten million people slaughtered in his name as the rubber and ivory came on ships back to Belgium, and he gleefully sent only soldiers and bullets back. In, Europe. They call him the builder King for the urban projects and buildings and parks erected using his prophets. Leopold never actually went to the Congo who's the, but he did bring the Congo to him in eighteen, ninety seven. When he opened a temporary exhibition at his country estate that would become the royal. For Central Africa. The heart of the exhibit was a human zoo were two hundred and sixty seven Congolese men women and children were kidnapped and brought to a mock African village set up on the royal estate grounds. When the prisoners got sick because of visitors throwing candy over the fences, they put up a sign that said, the blacks are fed by the organizing committee. In other words. Don't feed the animals. For Twenty Three Years Leopold was the sole owner of the Congo Free State. and his atrocities were largely ignored by the rest of the world. Out of convenient apathy. How much easier was it to believe that charming leopold actually was fronting Philanthropic Endeavour. It would only be through the tireless work of missionaries that things would eventually change people like George Washington Williams who wrote his open letter and like Alice Seeley Harris A. Photographer captured the gruesome dismemberment on them. It would actually be shipping officer named Edmund DNA Morrell who would provide one of the largest public pushes for the world to recognize Leopold's horrific exploitation. Morale noticed that was ivory and rubber arriving on ships from the Congo. But only bullets going back. He realized there was no trade happening. And so he enlisted thinkers and celebrities of the day like Arthur CONAN doyle and Mark Twain. And eventually in Nineteen Zero Eight. Leopold the second was forced to sell the Congo Free State to Belgium. To make it actually an official Belgian colony. Let that sink in. The Congo wasn't actually made free. It was just not personally owned by Leopold than more. That was the humanitarian victory. Leopold died the next year at age seventy four. Is Funeral Procession was met by boos from Belgian people. But. As soon as Leopold wiscon-, his legacy in the Congo began to be whitewashed. He was dead too. So the international fervor died out. Statues of Leopold were erected in the parks he helped built. They taught in school that colonialism might have gotten too violent under the builder King. But colonialism was always bad people in other European countries try to make leopold look worse to make themselves better. You'll see. Besides sure there was some blood, but he was bringing civilization to Africa. It's so easy sometimes to believe the lies and to enjoy the pretty statues, the comforting facade of authority and dignity and civilization. And the statues of Leopold remained in Belgium. Until June twenty twenty. During the international black lives matter March following George Floyd's death in the United States. Protesters and Belgium coated statues of Leopold the second in red paint in Antwerp and engagement and in Brussels. Some of the statues have already been taken down. But I think it's worth asking ourselves. What had been keeping them up for so long all this time. That's the story of King. Leopold. The second and how he used the symbolic power of his monarchy to enact horrific realities. Cheap listening after a brief sponsor break to hear a little bit more about the legacy left in literature. You know with the state of the world. Now is an amazing time to learn to become more informed, creative, inspired, and relaxed I find that all of that is possible with the great courses plus right now I am watching and following along the course on the Mongol Empire. I learned about a story where Genghis Khan left his sons in charge of an attack. The sons took the governor in chains and then. 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#69 - Courtney Has a Health Scare

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#69 - Courtney Has a Health Scare

"The ramble. Black bear came up to my brother and his camp. We were both frozen to death. We were terrified. This team it's a family like even at defy really family, but like this is a family back in Sacramento days. Our neighbor almost got in a fistfight with our director Shane. You go on runs. And see now that I have a moustache. If I come across a serial killer, they'll be like. Oh, you're one of US right? No No, no, and he's like aw Shit. Yeah. Welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome to another smash cast in our safety and the safety of. Doma, siles, that's right. Extra docile in these podcasts, so we have to. We have to just right right off the bat. We need to talk about Sheen's Leo. So for those that are listening and they're not watching the video. On YouTube dot com slash slash castaway vets thing A. Shane looks like somebody combined. Gus Johnson and Henry Cavill Wow. I see what I feel like I look like and what I've gotten the most references to his Gus Johnson and Nicholas Cage from raising Arizona. Oh, Dang yeah crazy. the mustache. Definitely, there's something to it man, because, as soon as I shaved off the rest of my facial hair and just left. This I felt different. I feel I. Feel simply more powerful I feel like there's an aura around me that i. just I immediately less concerned with most things I can wear whatever I want now I. I, there's really not much stopping me from just walking out in a t shirt and underwear. There's just a freedom there. Taylor lace, narcissism. Hey, I don't believe in myself. I just believe Moustache. Mustache is my God. It's actually do it's you know how everyone has a center? There are other head centered chest, centered or hip centered. I am now mustache centered. You lead with your mustache. You lead with my mustache. How long do you think your keep the stash while i? 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Don't lay on the sarcasm thick enough, but my sister actually staged my place yesterday. No more ghosts I was a little scared of just like you know I'm I'm not convinced? There's ghosts in this apartment, but if there was, wouldn't it be nice to clean them up and get rid of them? So like I never really done like any staging or anything like that before like I'm sure like I believe in in positive energy, Shane is that little snicker I was laughing at the idea of your guardian angel getting burned up when you're burning. Protect you. They, never say that there are. There could be good spirits in your house. You're burning away. But it was also. It's also like this place like since the work life separation isn't really a thing anymore, and sometimes it can be stressful and like I'm here all the time I used to when I wasn't home as much I used to come home back Mike, Places, so awesome I love my home, but like since I'm here all that I'm like it's hero, whatever I'm sick of it and. And everything so I asked my sister to come and bring some sage, and she did a whole cleansing and I. Honestly I feel a difference. I know it's Kinda dumb to some people I don't know if it's like the herb just gives a positive smell or like, or if there's genuinely an energy change, but I feel good and I. I reached my bedroom yesterday or two days ago completely. That feels really good to like change like that is so good. Did you put your bed in the corner like I told you now, I don't have my bed in the corner, but I there was a moment in my life. When I had my bed in the corner and did that my place. There's a certain comfort and security to being able to just Kinda like crumble into the corner of a bedroom. Bedroom at my old place I had my my bet against the wall, and it feels safe, because like in a way you're like less vulnerable because you're in a corner I just like flipped everything around and decorations look really good. I'm excited putting your bed in the middle of the bedroom is King Chit, it is royal as fuck space on all sides. Just put you in the middle of the room. That's some that's unrealized kingship, and if you get a circular mattress, you ever seen somebody with a bathtub in the middle of their bathroom. I've seen them we. We've filmed in houses that have those those tubs. That's a that's upper level king, sharing their yeah talk about having a bathtub in the middle. Or when like the water comes from the frigging ceiling? Have you ever seen that shit? That's crazy dude like literally. The the water comes in from like. Drops from like a like a Celia. It's the funny thing is so I went to I I know somebody that has one of those and he he lives in like this like ultra modern like house and and I saw his I saw his bathtub, and I was like. Oh Shit. You got the thing with the water goes from the ceiling. That's and he's like. 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Think I'm officially the worst tenant at my apartment building. I wonder why couldn't be all the screaming for videos? I gotTa like ask Beg the writers like Monica in curtain in Calling Ryan. Please stop writing loud dialogue for me. I can't be screaming. Calling someone a sociopath who needs professional help. Like in my apartment, 'cause the quarantine sweet sixteen I don't know when that video comes out yet, but have you had any? Have you gotten any complaints not yet, but the other day I got it was. It was day or a day or two after I had to do this Brealey long screaming monologue. And I had a letter in my mailbox. That was like from the company. I send my rent tune I. was like Oh God? Is this like a landlord leaving? No I'm so scared. The took it has a god. What do we do I like text him? Apologize after I read the letter like an open, and it was just like a how to deal with covid nineteen flyer and I was like God. Okay but like even even the neighbor that I like Giovani's. She's so loud. She yells on phone instead of like I'm I'm worse than her now. You haven't had anyone like bang on your wall lure on link. Not People are more passive than that I. Feel like people aren't super aggressive, mostly a problem. Everyone's really nice. Usually, people are like bothered. They'll. They'll give you the old town of the wall. Yeah, like I was rearranging my room day and I was like moving heavy furniture, and like dropping stuff like I'm the I'm the worst. Worse I'm pretty sure you're not. You're very considerate. You got a job to do. You know sometimes. You gotta make some noise, have you? Have you guys ever lived in a place that had like the worst. Well, I mean our neighbor back back. In Sacramento days our neighbor almost got in a fistfight with our director, which neighbor the scary ones across the street, the scary one that live next to us. Oh, we're doing like an audition thing where we had a curse lot outside like we didn't write that we were just doing audition and he came on. He literally said Stop Fucking Curson. He's like this is a nice neighborhood. Curse got there. Almost happened. This is a fucking neighborhood of God. He's like this is a nice funky neighborhood, and it's like Bro you're two neighbors are US and the highway? Yeah, it's not the best neighborhood. It's not a nice quiet neighborhood. There's literally a thousand semi trucks that drive by the House. Think you just like building up frustration from like months and months of hearing. You guys being loud and filming all the time it was a this was the final Straw or I. Think it was like our our roommate through parties at our house semi regularly. The Party House. Pretty Hoes, but since he wore a suit for his job, I think the neighbor assume that we were we were the people always throwing parties, and fucking around and I think he was just going through some personal stuff. I think I think really like a lot of neighborly anger comes out at people, not because of the neighbors causing the problems. But the problems that are happening internally that makes sense. Yeah because I. Think he got better and then and then when we moved out of the house, but we are still shooting. They're all of a sudden. He got like way nicer way nicer to us. He's like he's like Oh. Do you need me to move my cars? 'cause he would always park his cars like on the street. The Super Nice, but he did. He did actually getting into a fistfight with our landlord. That's awesome. Yeah, early metalled. Really wanted to fight He was just like looking for a fight. Test drink like I wanna see if I really can land a few. I don't know man I think he was just going through side. Back then we were really annoyed with him, but now I can look back and be like okay. He was probably just going through some stuff. That's usually the case Shane. Have you ever had like wild neighbors other than the ghosts in your apartments? No I did. I had. Weird stuff down other episodes of thing yeah, that was forever ago. Here. I've definitely heard people yelling like like. A dog was barking a couple of weeks ago. Someone shut your fucking dog up. And then I did hear my landlord getting a fight with some guy. The guy like called her fucking bitch. Tom. People, can you a guy? That's at your current place like turn my current plan recently. Yeah I'll just sometimes here it. All quarantine man to run and high. Yeah, it doesn't happen too often overall I. I I've only once when I first moved in I was putting up frames, and it was, it was later in the night was like nine thirty ten, so I get it and my landlord knocked on our door and was just like it's really loud. That was all but I think that's because it's like hammering against a wall really goes to the next wall whereas if you're just being loud, it doesn't always make it through the walls. I Dunno I hope not. Gone out into court arrogance seen a couple of times in therapy. Like Hey, sorry about earlier like my job requires me to do that and I don't forget, but it's like two neighbors that don't live directly next to me. Your below me, everyone everyone might complex has really chill. They all seem like to hang out and talk and like there's a young mom who is. Is Below me. She gave me banana bread one nine. The had chocolate chips in a shoe. They're really sweet and she has a dog that I might when things like when it's not like super like I. Don't know it's okay to pet dogs right now. Like I can offer to take care of her dog sometimes for her. Take it on walks when she's too busy. For Baby I literally have not touched a dog since I can't even remember since before Australia like it's been months, I'm telling you man. Just come through a put my dog out front. You could drive by pet. My dog she's. She's relatively clean right now. I. I gave we give her a bath I saw good job. She lost like thirty pounds in for. Do you ever you should get like those brushes that you get to like? Comb out for it so satisfying? That's what I. Yeah. That's what I did. Those like little middle combs Nice little button so you like. You know brush in the news anyway. We're talking about dog for it's not important. If you're looking at reducing unnecessary trips out and trying to avoid sold-out grocery stores, then checkout Sun Basket Sun basket delivers healthy delicious meals straight to your door. They make it easy and convenient with everything pre portioned and ready to prep and cook. 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Out of respect for you, we've kind of kept it out of out of the Internet's Van. But you've been. You've been dealing with some like health stuff you're now in A. Place? Yeah, comfortable talking about that now, it's crazy. 'cause during all this wild insane pandemic stuff. Some people founded episode of why we're bad. Like means shame show where guys twenty twenty, I'm gonNA focus on health. It's going to be really important and like shoe. What was going to happen? And I didn't know at that point, I wasn't ready to talk about what I was. Actually meaning because I wasn't entirely like woods yet, but as recently through all his craziness has somehow able to get to the doctor, and like really be officially told like I'm good. Yeah, it's been almost a year I. Think in September Ish was when I found out that I I had cancer cells, and my body was severe, and I was so so floored at that like dude that changed me for months like you guys saw me through it. Shane was like right next to me as I was like figuring stuff out in the the office like. It was during a workday actually I almost wish Monaco is here. Because I had gotten my checkup and Montana had gotten lunch, and we were driving back and I was like Oh call shirts. It's going to be fine. I answered on Speaker anime doctors like high. Only got some test results back and it was like Oh. Monaco's like all my God. But Yeah I. It was it was really scary I'm like this. This lady business stuff, right? It's as yeah so I had a they were. They were concerned that I was going to have cervical cancer. pre-cancerous cells cervix. Yes, and it was severe was like. T- three what they call it are like C., three or something like that was really frustrating, because she would use like severe in like where the doctor would use those words than she like, but like no rush if you wanna like come in, and we can figure I'm like we need to figure this out now. I was like there's no I'm just sitting on this. Even though I had to ended up having to like just sit and deal with it for months because I wanted to get another opinion from another doctor, and it was really good doctor, but I had to wait like two months for my appointment, so it was just like to. Notice just. Scary because like you. It's not something that you can be. You can see now. It's not a war on your hand where you can look at it and. This is this isn't too bad. It's like you're just kind of left with this constant shadow of something that you have no idea if it's so bad. It's so reporting to get your your regular checkups. Because if I just wasn't if I wasn't going to that doctor, I would never have known who knows knows who knows what could happen because I ended up that second doctor, who was like a little better bedside, manner in a better communication with what I was dealing with, and he made me feel a little bit better about situation. Agreed like yes, this is something that you should get surgery for and like get this. This thing removed He was like yeah, it was just like. God was such a I also having a I was dealing with a phobia of like medical exams, like just like. For some reason, we just felt super invasive and I was having panic attacks just like thinking about it would is super invasive. Awesome. There's there's you know even even during shame in that, even during like preparing for the surgery, which was my first surgery in my life like it never had anything done before like even just sitting there with like the tube in my arm. got. Things that aren't high body in my body, you know. I! I've had I've had the think of only had one or two, but it's. It's so grow. The problem is I. Think about like the intern like the the needle being inside me like. and. It's just an issue there. Exactly I think like what if what if what if I jerk my arm and it and it? Funny, because like because like. You know I was a pam for a long time. She's been through a million medical things. Yeah, she's just like no big. She's No biggie about it. She's just like so what she's got the golden giant belt of medical. So so funny because I'm such a frigging Weenie, about that. But yeah I, mean like I. Don't think there's any shame in and like being afraid of procedure like yeah, I think I think most people are. Going through something like that I knew when I was first. Figuring all that this cancer cells were like in my body. I was a crap. I'm going to have to go through multiple like exams and figuring out the says and like this phobia it was getting to the point where like I'd be in the office and crying and like my heart, my entire body shaking because I was so afraid of the exam does have felt like so invasive? Even though like it really wasn't a son in law ways. It's just not so I decided to go to the hypnotherapist like because we had Andrew. Andrew and coal on from podcast, but outside and Andrew talked about his his hypnotherapist helped him with his fear of flying. So it's like you know what like I don't know how else to like. Get over the fear so I ended up asking him for the Info and I'm went, and it was such a bizarre experience and early felt like Oh. This is working like and I would listen to this tape every night like to tie and get rid of this fear, and like a didn't work. I went to the doctor, and I had the worst physical like reaction to being like checked out. By far my entire body. It made it difficult for him to check things out because my body was just like not allowing anything to happen like. I mean it's it's a trauma. Yeah, it's not like I have I. Have like listen. I've experienced scary things in my life, but like nothing severely traumatic to like mess me up like that I'm very fortunate to not have experienced anything, but I it's like my brain man like sometimes my head just like we'll be in a spiral of thoughts. I will just get myself into like fear like I'm. I ended up like getting into CBD to help me calm down before appointments which I now. And totally trust because like lately I had did it before going to the doctor to make sure it was all good i. it just makes me feel common, severely more relaxed, crying or anything, but yeah I had to have that surgery, and like the that was around the time when we were filming. The fears shoots like with Dan Shane and I was originally supposed to have one, because I have that weird fear of my belly button being reopened. And, we're like yeah, we'll. We'll do video you make your opening up your belly button. I was like okay, but then like I realized the set was a hospital bed, and and I was like Ono like thinking like maybe push through it still do a good video, but like driving to the shoot I was like started crying as breathing heavily like I couldn't calm down is like texting Matt was like I can't. I can't do this and like I had to like. Go to therapy that day I. Literally was like Nada Que We also do. We weren't familiar with the sort of phobia with what was going on in your life in regards to lake. You being afraid of like medical. That's because we obviously we don't want to trigger. People's like you know traumas that are associated with something like that traumatic like Shane finds dolls very scary and creepy, but I don't think a doll has ever not afourth-round threatening in his life. Yeah, it's not a fun. So yeah, I mean if we knew about that, I wouldn't I wouldn't put you in that situation I mean. Did you go a little too little far with Olivia? The problem the problem is we psychologically? Speaking went about treating a phobia the worst way we actually probably made her phobia worse and she later said that in farmed. You're supposed to like slowly. Introduce Inter- integrated. Integrated so we just instead threw a bucket of butterflies interface, yeah, with which caused a very visceral reaction, Livia and I also like we I'm sure like she didn't WanNa, do it maybe in the beginning of the day, but like we have this thing where we're like I can do it like no I. Don't want to say no to this thing that you guys believe that I can do well like ended up you as there's. Also the feeling that you're you're not doing your job. Yeah, if you refuse that God I'm too scared to flip burgers today I can't. I gotTA GO Home Right? Right it. Yeah, I mean yeah, in Libya's case, we leaned a little too far into the entertainment value, and and lesson to because like with with your Shane. It's like it's like we were creating something kind of silly and we're able to go overboard because. We figured dolls make you uncomfortable, but they probably don't make you break down. We knew Olivia was afraid of butterflies, but We're Yeah I. Think we might have gone a little overboard with you know. Building a giant six foot tall butterfly poster enclosing a room whether a bunch of live is flying around. In the video I seen a little bit more what we should have been going for when we when we when we all went in there with her. And you know sort of had her open up a box and kind of see like one butterfly like look at this, and it's like you know it's very nice and it's. It's just a nice little bug. And its GONNA fly away, and it's not gonNA harm you. That's probably. The direction we should have gone in with Courtney. We knew she was belly-buttons maker uncomfortable. The plan was GONNA be. Take this this St- telescopic camera and put it into her belly button to show her. Belly buttons and then what we were GonNa do is then switched the video feed to like something that would make it look like it was open. And Luckily like Matt Rob was cool, and they wanted me feel comfortable like they really were doing everything that they could make sure I was gonna feel okay like they told me that that was going to happen. Like leading up closer to it, because like the more the closer we got, the more afraid I got. 'cause like I literally in the this I'll be fine. It's fine but I. Don't really realize it until you're like almost in it. You know when it hits you like Oh. This is really happening. speaking about feeling like when I was first told. like it's crazy because they were like. Hey, we got some results. We just would like you to come and talk about them. And I was like what the hell does that mean and like no like tell me now and like finally they they let me know what they found is such a an earthshaking feeling of like this can happen to me like growing up like I always. Whenever my family got sick, we never went to the doctor. We like we like I always felt like my family had good. Good strong jeans where like we always overcome any anything like like we don't have a history of like cancer, really I mean a little bit league breast cancer stuff on my dad's side, but like I just like never thought anything like that would ever happen to me like I never thought that would be the thing. It was severely existential, but like I was so lucky. 'cause like people like Shane, and like a Livio or checking on the and like Damian was there for me as well like. Olympia was the first person at all. Because if we joke about like you have HP on like try not to laugh and stuff like that, because like she. She joked like she went through that kind of stuff. And a different way way way back, and so like I, called her, and I'll stood I was crying so much that day I was like 'cause. Mythical has like this little patio that people like to work on and I was just like sitting out there, dealing with it and then months later, I had my surgery and like that was so weird surgeries weird. They like. Put you in a gown in a chair. And then they put like a tube, blowing warm air into your gallons. So you're warm in your in your chair. The doctor she comes in, she's like hey, how you doing all right? It'll be like forty five minutes getting their get out. And the Oh it's so weird. You got on a bed and they're just like they wheel you and and I literally felt like I was in fallout for when you enter a room in a scene starting not a cut scene, but like like everything is clearly staged because like the double doors open, and this man around, and there's this crazy big bed with lights and things hanging down like he's a hollow and I'm like what the Hell's going on and I remember going to sleep. And then I woke up an hour later. Like I couldn't stop. My eyes were just watering I. couldn't stop crying for some reason they're like. Oh, that's normal in young patients from the anesthesia whatever they didn't send me home with like any pain, medication or anything 'cause I don't I'm like tear. My whole family like were weird about like. The the oxycodones or the perk assads are, nor does any of that like my dad even after his surgery was like. Bulls strong is often is fine. Don't like anything like that but when I got home. I like couldn't even move. My might lower abdomen was in so much pain. We got like a heating hat. We always taking advil and I was just avocado. It was I've I've never fell and ladies basically felt like your worst period cramp of your entire life, but it's never ending. That's what it felt like and I finally like I'm I. Don't really smoke weed guys like it's. It's not a common thing that I do. But I had I invested in a CD. Little THC pen for for to calm me down I. Literally had gotten it right around the time that I learned about the cancer cells because I was like I. Just like mayangs -iety is a person is already so high. High like this. This feels like it could be something to help me because I think too much I. can't I can I can try and meditate, but like. My brain is just like now. We're still here. The problem still exists so I had that and I, finally like that and the pain away finally so I didn't have to go to the hospital or get a prescription called anything, but the because up paying less for a good week or two right, it was a few days. Yeah, that was. That was insane in then I. I wasn't allowed to work out for like two months. That was like no. because. That was keeping me docile. I'll talk about Dasa at the beginning of this episode. That bad keeps me sane. And so I could. Man. I wasn't myself I just wasn't myself for like four or five months man. Crazy because I. Think like what they did with like your with your issue, right? Is there like this? Essentially like wherever the cells are that just kind of like? Take a cone. Cone procedure it was like they. They have a new one that. It doesn't affect you as much because. They basically take a hot like ring goes. It. Heart Ring. It's like you know when they like cut but cauterize. Kinda, it was like a small because like I guess it where where the cells were, and apparently I I possibly did have something that they were worried about like. They. Had the cancer, or the HP or something, but like I may have killed it on my own because. Like apparently, the the second doctor onto who is really good and really helpful, generally like just more caring. He's told me like homeopathic things like tomb. Rick is really good for cervical stuff as well as like. Broccoli like lightly steamed and like I was at the time I was eating Hello Broccoli and taking a lot of those immunity shots that have wreck in it. Yeah, I mean taking the with hp it's it's a virus that. That your body can can basically get rid of on its own. Yeah, yeah, but when I confuse, he saw he saw the spot where the the cells were, and he's like it looks like there was something, but it was gone, and he told me those those ingredients that help you in as a Co. Yeah, I actually take those and use it. Yeah, so it's possible. You handled it, but we still have to remove this thing Joe. Services Crazy, though because it can regenerate itself yeah, Dude. Bodies Crazy like that cervix. You Watch cervix. Just like grows back like fucking Wolverine. It's a magical Now. How? Hey, I didn't mind Mr. Shirt with. My magical sprinter, but yeah, that was my first time ever having like a severe medical thing I like I've never broken a bone. Knock on wood. I've had stitches on my cheek and Chin But. Yeah, that was that was a very scary. I was like hey, dude. I was a soft boy. I mean like e, even though even though you, you wound up being okay and it wasn't. It wasn't as know quote. Unquote severes as other people. It's still does put your life into perspective, and it makes you realize like what am I doing with with my life? If if this is how much time I may, or may not have, exactly am I planning everything? Out For a future that might not even be here Oh. That's bleak but I mean I definitely puts you in. It puts you in perspective like. Mortality. You know we we've talked about mortality in in many ways on this podcast, but like yeah that it's scary because like you don't WanNa. Think about that stuff because it's like I'm just googling around with my bullies today I don't need to worry about like. What like a meteorite potentially hitting the? You don't want to think about the things that can take away the things you love new now that I'm saying you shouldn't plan for the future. No I know, but it's easy to forget about that stuff and when you're when you're reminded in such a scary way. It's it changes you? It definitely changes you but I'm I'm so lucky that I had you guys around and like the whole team was so helpful like I remember sending out this long email just like breaking down to the the the senior staff up like what I was going to be dealing with, and that what I needed emotionally from them in like everyone was so nice like. Our RT just so sick like we have the best most supportive people that like it's just so different from what it used to be like I I don't know how I would've gone about this at defy like. I didn't I didn't feel like safe with our team, but like this team is like such A. Good. It's a family like even at defy a family, but like this is a family. This is like I don't know. I can't even comprehend a better work situation that I have and it's. It's because you guys are so sweet and Ian you're so sweet and like I feel stupid because I never talked to him about it. I never talked to Pam when I was dealing with this stuff I think it was because he was so overwhelming and I didn't. The more people I like talked about it with the more real. It felt, so. I was like Oh, I don't I don't like I. Don't want to bring more of that. Energy in I, also like 'cause she 'cause if there's anyone to talk about a with its her dude because she's been through it like. But her and I. We did talk recently and I think. Maybe talk to her about it a little bit, but yeah, but like Ian. You're so sweet and just like I was just I was definitely surprised at how quickly everyone is absolutely. You're fine. Do what you need to do like. Take your time that you need and just never expected that and I was I felt very lucky and I. Don't know how I would have dealt with it otherwise, so yeah. What a weird six months man that was crazy was six months The nose runs a bit. The brunt of and then I was months ago, supposed to be examined in checked out to see like what they did worked, but then I'll this crate tour happened? Australia happened now this pandemic so like. Finally my doctor. KAYLA's get you in here like. I had to go through multiple waves of being having my temperature. Check just to get in the building, but you got checked out your Dow and it's. It's out of the woods. Baby And you know it happens to him in all the time like a few years from now get another abnormal result, but like I feel just generally good about it and Yeah I. was I was scared to talk about it in any way before? Because what if it's like not over blooming the most important thing to take away from this is like you know other women out there to get regular checkups if you have if you're in the US, you have health insurance. That's the only reason I share. Anything is because they got I want people to not feel alone like I I came out on this podcast like? I do those things. It's like normalized the things that people a lot of people don't see as normal like. It's okay to to not be physically perfect, or it's okay to to be different and like I just WanNa normalized. My differences are my experiences that other people can feel comfortable in normal in in their their weirdness or their experiences so I I love this pine fucking weird dude in this podcast. Lets me do it I go off. I'm GONNA, Guess Mustache the ruins on Youtube Youtube Blonde I. After that Sergio. I can handle surgery. Man. I'm eating. Get a surgically put on mustache. You're GONNA flush flush. Mustache transplant cody co has a mustache to. He's getting he. He apparently did a video. He has his family roast his mustache, but I was just listening to the tiny Meka podcasts, and like apparently cody went surfing, and like some dude went up to him in. I've been staring at you a lot. I'm really sorry. I'm just really hiring now. Unlike yours mustaches like the perfect dad mustache man, and I, just I'm trying to get like you so just. Like what you do in, cody was like that's all I need to hear I'm keeping this mustache forever. I. Feel like there's been like a group of youtubers that have been attempting the stash. It's a great time to mess around because I know I know. Matt Watson did it. I think he got roasted pretty hard. Matt Rob, just figure mustaches. Him and I have been competing lately, so we both have our apple watches, and so like with the fitness feature you can compete with your friends. And he and for the first couple of weeks our winning, but he's been kicking my ass. He just beat me this week. Apparently 'cause he's doing a hundred situps one hundred pushups. He's doing the frigging one man punches dude one man Banjo. Man Yeah. Just one man, your I took one man punch. That's all it takes. Matt Rob Merab. He's not telling he's not really like telling anybody know what he's like. He's I wanna see it as quarantine. Bod looks like after time about working out my stomach just Gurgle D- like you. You know yeah. I heard that thing. I wanted to be last seat last season of parks and REC. Chris Pratt but been kind of failing to be completely on. I mean you need steroids to do that so? What he did. I think every I mean. I'm not gonNA like make an official claim, but like I'm pretty sure a lot of people who had to get mar- bodies like super fast didn't do it naturally like no way, Shane. You seem to have some say. Having that well, it's that posts. From what's his name Mac from? Its Oh. Yeah, he made a perfect post where he's. He's because he got all buff after being fat Mac and was like guys. It's super easy. All you need to do is have a personal trainer that you work out with three hours a day at minimum, a nutritionist who designs all of your meals and also like? It's whether the expert who did magic make. Whether? You have an yes, probably a lot of them have some version of human growth hormone that may not be literal anabolic steroids, but they have at the very least even if they're just working out naturally, they have A. They're spending a lot of money, or they have people spending the money to get them a team that will and also they get to. That gets to be their job. They get to work out all day like it requires. It requires an athlete's regimen to look like that and no person has that time. That's true, though 'cause like also isn't like like building that kind of mass like your so just had to sleep a lot as well e every two hours. And Sleep So. My friend. I have a friend who is a friend of Taylor. Lautner is back when Newman was getting and. Yeah. He was a little back story on that, so he was going to get recast by the lawnmower guy in. In desperate housewives The he was, he was going to get replaced and they were like unless you gain whatever forty pounds in the next two months or three months, and so my friend, who is in an acting class with them was like yeah, he had a bag of hamburger patties, or like just something that he was just eating like constantly, and it's it's it's brutal. It's so much work and it goes away immediately to because I saw him at a premiere, a couple of years later in like. Like! He slimmed down hard because like it just goes away. It just goes away so fast. Yeah, like I I've watched this I. Watch this documentary about wrestlers called beyond that I think it was and and it was just kind of following like this obsession with with like being just gigantic, and how like like way back in the day like you know bodybuilder men, just kind of looked like ordinary. Yeah, there's been this. There's been this like weird because it's like the sort of superhero culture. And like you know bodybuilders like Arnold Schwarzenegger have like sort of reshaped people's idea of like masculinity, as far as like as far as the ideal male form. You know an, it's an. It's like all these dudes that they're like forty or fifty, and they had to put their entire lives, and just like looking huge in the hopes that they get this job as a wrestler, and it's like borough like dude live like he's like living out of his van and working out at the Gold's gym. That Arnold Schwarzenegger got got popular and it's like. I think I heard a thing online about Robert Pattinson refusing to work out during quarantine because he's doing Batman right and he was like I saw from what I read. It was like oh well. People in the seventies didn't look like this like they didn't look like a marvel body, so he like just. It was refusing work. I don't know if that's the same situation. Now is a little bit ago, but that was interesting. I mean it's true like you look at fit people back in day. The just look like. Average dudes now all like. One hundred percent like What's what's his name? Jack Lalane or whatever he was. Sort of like fitness guy like you look at him. He's like yeah. You're like a fit like guy, but you look like you be crushed by pretty much. Every la fitness borough that I see at the gym. He was probably healthier though he lived to be ninety five and I think he was jogging five miles per day up towards like in his into his ninety S. Boy He was great, Arnold Arnold Schwarzenegger even said like that Jacqueline was one of like an inspiration to him so like fitness fitness, healthwise jacqueline lanes per maybe one of the healthiest people of the past century. I hate running men lately, I've just like I. Don't want do. It's so boring never. Fun. I'm not gonNA argue with argues there's no. There's no point in our. Boring. Doing sit ups is doing setups. That much more exciting. I don't do setups I. My core workout I follow a maybe. Oh, because I'm that. I'm that much of a week. Sa I need a screen to entertain me while I work out I. Like what I do is like. I normally do this one route, but there's far too many people on it now so I just went through my neighborhood and I. Yeah, it's like a hill workout to just like marveling at like all the different like architecture in my in my neighborhood and every time I run. I'll take like one st or something, and just like see like a new a new like interesting, looking house or like. Oh, they have like a very nice like garden or something so I I'm very easily distracted as I'm sure you guys know so running for me. I've always find things to get. I will say not to I. Don't mean to shut anything down. 'cause like everything you're saying is so true like Kevin. Are shredder. WHO's running this podcast right now? He took me on a run. First run run in forever because years ago, ahead this Weirdo commitment with the chloroform cloth, and like I was scared off running for years. I don't know why. This cut cut cut to earlier this year I've never had anything traumatic happen to. This one time I was nearly fucking murder. But that time like I have was so fast because like. He ended up running past me, he realized there's people around so a lot of bad things could have happened, but they just haven't, but so nowadays when I do, run into I I have a dog with me, or it's in a very public place on with someone like Kevin. So and Kevin took me on that run for the first time forever. We ran past a donut shop and you like you smell. The smells you see the people if feels much safer whereas like nowadays from running by myself I have to do it in a very public place. Also la like it's. It's so much you know built around transportation like with cars that the chance to actually go out on the street as a pedestrian, it's tough and sidewalk just seems seems so so like different Yeah Lake! It's so to be safe. I usually will either go to this park where it's like a trail that lots of people are doing laps on which like isn't safe. In another way you know or I'll try and like run around my neighborhood, and even then I'm super nervous like I. Try and stay on super main streets, but like then on the risk of people seeing me. Me 'cause then the other day. I, think I told saying this, but like I think it got recognized on a run this this I remember I was running, and I look up, and this girl is on a bicycle, and she like not, but then she like that secondary look like wait. You know when you mean you're usually getting recognized was like that was weird and I'm. I'm like jogging Kinda. Slow and also she comes up on my other side and I was like Jesus fucking Christ I literally said it out loud, and so she heard me cars I had headphones so I was like whatever and she wrote a circle around me and like was looking at me and I was like what the fuck and I picked up my pace and eventually. Eventually. She stopped and left me alone, but I was like there's no am stop especially now like I'm not GonNa, stop and talk to a person that I don't know right now and then like just. People are weird like I. Have I've had a guy. I've just happened to look up and I see you dude filming me from his van as he's driving by people who? Write as a check. It's fucking hard to an even scary. Things happened the men sometimes like no one's really safe domain to get spooky, but like it's tough. There's there's a lot of give and take with with running animals like I can't do the same route to many times like it sucks man, it sucks. But also. says. He run with headphones. Oh Trust me. I'm doing the periodic Lake Yeah Lo over the shoulder and he's usually a podcast, so it's not like music blaring. I can't I can't really music is fine when I run, but it's usually tiny meeting Christly podcast like so I like conversation. But you ever find yourself laughing. Like on your run, whatever you're listening to, and you feel like you like a crazy person. I think. Definitely like will realize I'm laughing public big. I wonder what people think. Oh this, but. PODCASTS are normal enough nowadays that I'm fine, do Shane you go on runs to Yeah, and see now that I have a moustache. If I come across a serial killer, they'll be like. Oh, you're one of US right? No, no, no and he's like. Oh! Oh, no no. Yeah I don't jog too much. Should more so good for you ally? Olympia has been running yeah. Hold on net there and miles miles. I was a treadmill boy. Dodge so I would do that a lot. I think my jam that I want to start doing is I need to? Because I'm going to be doing it soon, but I need to start hiking more think I'm GonNa Start just hiking mountains whenever I can, that's. There's there's such good. Hiking trails in Los Angeles League yeah. In Malibu Great Yeah. We have a lot of different terrains because you've got Malibu Hiking, and then you've got Angeles forest hiking which are very opposite. And there's just like these like weird like little like sort of like. Within the forest like in the river areas are like in the sort of like canyons like the weather is like it's so different. Cliff diving minutes. Yeah I went on I went on this this hike last last week. It was probably the best hike I've done in Los Angeles Lake. It was so cool there's there's a huge waterfall on behind your head Shane. Brennan that picture I saw friggin. There's a bear cub like I. Walked Out of his out house I heard people go. Like owes a bear. There's a barrel a were now like opened the door. The House and there's a Barracuda. Thirty feet away from me and it's like. Yeah I was like. I'm getting the fuck out of here. Yeah, then this was like an area where a lot of what I'll call. The basics were because because there is a waterfall, all the sort of basics will come onto the trail with like their starbucks cups, and they're wearing like Nike's. They have boom boxes playing music. And they have little children and stuff. And so this bear cub like comes down the hill, and there's like thirty forty people there in this low area, and they all certainly crowding to see. Oh and I'm like your Oh all right this is. Wild animal and also the number one thing that you should know the probably don't because you're a basic is. If there's a baby bear, Mama Bear's nearby and that's the one of the only times like a black bear will be. Yes if you're near the the baby, so get the fuck out of here like everyone was just like standing around taking pictures so like I'm like no I'm not gonNA party, so I walk away way. Did you actually try and tell them to leave no. But. It's easy coming in a crowd so I wasn't going to. Be Your ass. Yeah, yeah, a lot of could so I was just like no. Let's get Outta here like this isn't coal, so we start walking away in this like this bike. Mom with their kid walking down the trail and I was like I was like heads up. There's a there's a bear cub, and she was like a bear cub where where she wanted to see it really bad on my. Talk the. Way I told you. With you, yeah, it's just. It's it bothers me. A smart, but people are done. Grow I. Think just a lot of people don't have the they don't have the. Syrian, they maybe they didn't grow up around nature. Or they don't respect it like it's. Like, it's not a zoo. They're not there for your entertainment. Yeah, you know I might be a horse girl in the big city, but I grew up. Camping quite a lot, so that stuff already been you know, and Shane Shane's a mountain man pretty much him and his brothers hike. The BIG ASS mounds every year. Yeah, I am a full believer that anytime. A wild will kills someone. You know what that's that's. That's them If I I've said before. If I get killed by a bear, I'm like you know what. Nature got a W. and I'd. Like. It's fine, it's fine. There is a tweet I saw God I wish I. Know The account like if I get killed. If I get killed by a bear. Can someone take a photo of it standing next to my dead body? You know I had a I had a scary thought from my encounter like like it was a couple of nights ago. I thought about it, and it was like what would happen. 'cause that bears really close to me. What happened the Momma? Their chase me into the house and my only. Option was to jump down into the shit because it was it was. It was a pit toilet. It's like you know Jabex. Fans that before where you poop into a giant chamber of just like other people's feces of like what I have what I have. The balls to jump into a giant like ten foot, deep pit of Poop Poop, and what about playing dead like isn't that? Is that now for that's for? That's Grizzly bears. Last what we need you knowledge-sharing playing that is lacking black bears you, so it's it's. You see black fightback, you see Brown lie down. You see white good night. That's no. That's no kidding. A polar bears is gonNA, kill you. You need. That's why like legally in certain parts of Canada. You're legally required to have a rifle on you. Because polar bears will hunt and track and kill people. Yeah, I was reading up a little bit about bears after that, because it Kinda like it made me realize that I wasn't I wasn't as as I should have been, but the basic thing is like yeah, try like if a bears coming towards you, you WanNa, look it in the eyes and yell, and not back down yeah. You don't want to show submission because it could be testing U.. S. Yeah and they say like if it if it actually attacks you. You want do is life face down and. And like yeah, cover your net cover your head and try to prevent it from tossing you over, and it says. It said like if the bear doesn't stop and starts to eat you, then you fight back. Like how much does it? What does it starts to me? Isn't it like too late at that point I? Guess you just start feeling. It's like okay. This isn't just getting. Yeah you're no longer a threat and you're a meal that's. Fuck it I just gotTa. Try My best that makes sense, but they were like. The one of the things is like. Yeah, you WANNA lay their wave and make sure like if the bear stops attacking you don't get up and leave just yet. Wait maybe thirty minutes like. If you were attacked by a bear. You don't think you're GONNA bleed. Out In thirty minutes it's. Thirty minutes if you start feeling it pouring salt and pepper and Oregano on you. That's when you. Start. Putting a dry rub. Opening up a cane of broth, that's. Exactly you hear a chopping carrots and onions behind you and putting the views. Frying Pan. View start hearing the Benny. Hana's saying. Yeah, bring you over. That's he's. Fear the bear bring out. It's good knives. It's ready to eat if the onion volcano on track. Your. Fun Fact Benny Honner was started by Steve Aoki's Dad. That's what I heard I don't know if it's true if you hear him. If you hear the bear starting to crack open garlic turn around start punching in the Dick Nice I can't imagine having to fight a bear. Because when that black bear came up to my brother and camp, we were both frozen to death. We were terrified. I didn't even look. I didn't even I didn't even WANNA get up and look through the hole in the tent to see because obviously as Martin and yeah. I mean. It probably knew we were there. Because it has, it could smell through a mile away. Important? Steve Aoki's dad did start. Benihana. The most, he also used to be a wrestler. Guys confirmed a wrestler wrestler started Benny. And a wrestler now invented a place where they wrestle food with their knives. In front of you is Steve. Aoki's gives a bear the go ahead to start choppy up. That's when you turn around and punching. Sorry. It's time for sued. Shoot Dude. Okay Shoo. Shoo Doo shoot. Shoot! Shoot. Shoot. Shoot did so this one. This dude comes from David. David says so few years ago. I was home alone, enjoying some quality adult videos on my phone, I'm guessing he's referring to rated r movies or something. Oh, so he's watching porn. Okay, just rated. PG probably never seen home alone movie before he's watching Terminator three is my guess as. As the video is approaching its climax, the audio suddenly stopped working confused disappointed. I turn the volume all the way up. To my core I, hear my mom pulling into the garage, and the sounds of my video playing through the Bluetooth in her car. Awesome, we didn't make eye contact for the rest of the night. Shoot. Dude! That's awesome. Shoot Dude. That is hard core shoot do they can? Actually I couldn't believe that one borough I. Sure believe that one I've heard stories of that happening to other people before I will say my money like sound bar sometimes I think I think a neighbor is tries to connect to their speaker. Accidentally connects to mine because my TV will cut out and then I'll hear super quiet like fleetwood Mac and I'm like what the furthest point is. Shane and I wasn't. Listening to It was like fleetwood. Mac Vibes, so it wasn't the actual. It was the turn it up and bill. Screwy TV this great, but like yeah. It is Bluetooth, speakers be wild than out through this crazy fast. You gotTA gotTa Shoot Dude, send it to ship DUDE AT SMASH DOT COM, that's S. H., O., T., D., O., D. AT SMASH THE COM. Has that ever happened to you guys anything like that porn stuff I mean Porn, incident or Bluetooth speaker incident. I well when I first got the that that Portable Bluetooth Speaker from from BITCON. I tried to hide it when it was one of our sheets, I tried to hide it behind some people and then play fart noises through it. Where was this bitcon? Notre was the speaker that we got at like. Oh, it was like this Little Bluetooth? Speaker says hey. I'm a highly US behind pay per. Click as I am five. Yeah, that's absolute. The Bluetooth speakers just the new modern flat machine. I feel like I feel like porn is not the worst thing that could have happened. I feel like an action scene in like John Wick or something, so if you're just chilling in your apartment or in your car, and also just a bunch of gunshots started going off. Terrifying your mom's just. But I would have the same reaction if I heard porn. Anyway. You just hear those sounds. You never just have fucking ghosts. fucking ghosts goes. That are just fucking. Know my answer all just single lonely yeah! Will my husband returned from war also and then yeah, have you guys seen a ghost story through that? Just like any ghost story or the movie star the movie, a ghost story I don't think I have. You just described as a movie. Movie Ago Story. Yeah it will yeah. It is a movie. It is a weird one man. It's very. It's very like it's not. It's not scary. It's very like art house. It's Casey Affleck with a sheet over his head, a standing around in a house and exhaust through, and it goes through time. We that sounds cool. It's IT'S A it's a weird. One is their porn in it their sex in it. Yell only watch porn. Their allies ghost staff. Yeah, it's low on the porn porn quotient, but it's A. It's a slow movie, but it's worth checking out. It's it's very. Very interesting can do any other go stuff. No I don't like. Your scariest cookies I have never seen paranormal activity can't do I couldn't even get through fifteen minutes of haunting in Connecticut like Iowa was, was we? Was the first paranormal activity. It was pretty fun second. One's even better I think really you guys. Oh. Yeah, but I did like paranormal activity I did watch the comedy version scary movie, three and stuff remember when they tried to replace an affair with Ashley Tisdale did not track. ooh, and I've only I've only seen the first one, so I don't i. saw I remember the first ones. Scary movie three was the best ever. Meet the spartans where it's at that one was so bad. Do. This whole is Genre Dad. Rough. Wasn't even it wasn't even like parody was just referencing like Oh. There's there's food carrot top others seeking pit. There's the TACO Bell Chihuahua. It was a dark time in movies, but it'd be really interesting to to to go back and watch it now. Because now it's all this like now. It's like a pop culture. Time capsules, yes. React to those aren't doing something like that like streaming streaming. Reason. We're talking about the future I can't. I don't think we'll talk about that stuff right now. But Anyway, I think we said enough to tease whatever. Reacting to movies is art dream. Bro Cringe movies to react to cringe. Movies I. WanNa make you guys watch Greece two. Yeah, but yeah, that whole genre for Ken. What was the twilight? The vampire, not another vampire, teen, movie, or something more. They made fun of twilight. That one was Sarah's a there was the forty year old virgin who knocked up something and felt. About I don't even know about that one. It's like the closest mainstream movies will ever be youtube. That was the most youtube ass thing was parody comedy in a movie like so bad. So bad, but there was an audience for it. I was low key that audience, but like even I was like. This is just so garbage. The spark meet. The spartans was so vast Ed. This was the name of a movie the forty one year, old virgin, who knocked up Sarah Marshall in and felt super bad about it all those like all those Raunchy comedies they would come out with like the DVD. Version. That's like extra stripped naked version and. So I was the one that I really want to see. What is it me? Twice as many bubis is. Point 'cause like I was too scared to Google Penis. So I like this is me Mike Chants. Realize I don't think I've ever seen a pothole in a movie. Sarah Listeners Lisa. I'm just GONNA. Leave. You guys with that with that Please raise our podcast on itunes or any of the other podcast listening things you're listening to these. Please read Shane's mustache. We love you so much and watching, and also if you have seen about hole and a movie. That's not a porn. Leave it in the comments below because I don't think I ever saw movie. Figure Badge. Illegal. The show. I comment in fact leading. Let's get the Hashtag going on twitter. Show us the whole. The whole start, the new the new campaign. Let's start a revolution filmmakers to have a movie with fold backle, not full-frontal like full-back. Oh! Yes! We're starting this. We're starting this. Okay, we! We're starting a petition for a movie. Where Danny Devito is standing facing away from the camera. 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Biden his time

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Biden his time

"In. Two weeks ago to the day George Floyd died after Minneapolis police officer Derek Show shelvin knelt on his neck for almost nine minutes, and ever since people have been out in the streets, demanding action black lives. Matter isn't just something that happened several years ago anymore. It's not just something that you know you're woke. Cousin says at Thanksgiving dinner now. Ben and Jerry's wants to dismantle white supremacy. Sesame Street held a town hall on racism. Racism is when people treat other people unfairly. Because of the way they look or the color of their skin and this weekend the movement got bigger. Peaceful protesters demonstrated in cities, big and small throughout the United States, the protests continue to spread worldwide Australia Poland Italy a statue of a slave trainer got toppled and thrown at harborne England Mitt. Romney was out marching in DC way to and violence. And brutality, and to make sure that people understand the black lives matter. And the president of the United States. He's spent the last few days mocking Mitt Dog, whistling law and order and rallying against sleepy Joe Biden. Unfortunately, if president trump, joe isn't looking all that sleepy anymore. Over the weekend Joe Biden officially clinch the delegates needed to win the Democratic Nomination Former Secretary of State Colin. Powell came out and said he'd be voting Joe and today. A CNN poll put Biden at fifty five percent over trump's forty one. It would appear that sleepy Joe is Biden time all the way to the White House. It's been a long time since we've talked about Biden's candidacy on the show, so I asked Matthew Yglesias, if all the tumult of the past few months has been good for Joe Twenty twenty. I think the idea of sane decent government right, which has always been what Biden has been promising. That has a lot of appeal and resonance. Now I, mean it's been striking looking at the pandemic that you know basically every governor in America every head of state in Europe has gotten a bounce in the polls in Donald. Trump has not and some of that is because of specific policy decisions. Trump has made wrong, but I think a lot of it is because trump has not performed the role. Role of head of state he has not led national morning. He has not conveyed factual information to the public in a calm and credible way right and Biden is out there, reminding us of of of what it is like to operate as a normal politician and of how valuable it is not to say. Everything in America was perfect in December, two, thousand sixteen, but that we had certain things that we could count on them that we can't count on now and similarly I think with the policing issue. You know of course one message of the protests is that we can't just go back to normal that we can't just accept business as usual but something that we're seeing in president. Trump's response to the protests is a total lack of empathy, a total lack of calm, a total lack of reasonableness, an inability to say. I see a lot of people are out in the streets. I hear what you're saying. I am going to do something that will help address your concerns instead. He's responding in a very abnormal way teargassing demonstrators lashing out on twitter in weird ways doing nothing and to try to promote reconciliation to acknowledge the depth of feeling that people have delivering no no concern on both of these funds, no ability to even perform any kind of genuine concern for the well being of other people, and it is making some of the Banal all. Of Biden's campaign like what if we just had a decent man who says reasonable things in response to crisis seem really meaningful to a lot of people well I. Think we've talked about how trump's dropped the ball time and again since the beginning of the pandemic, but we haven't actually spoken about. Biden much at all since this all started. So why don't you just catch us up? What exactly has joe? Biden been doing since he went into quarantine. We had this kind of yeary final debate between Biden and Bernie Sanders we come together tonight at an extraordinary time in our country when people are worried about far more than just presidential politics were the national emergency because of the devastating global pandemic of Corona virus, just the two of them, and it was in a sort of socially distant manner is all awkward as I guess that would be. It was strange. Then Biden, we have seen him since then primarily from the basement of his house in Delaware where he has been recording occasional videos, drop again on some media appearances, some of which have gone well some of which have not gone so well. We're going to take a question now from Maureen Jenkins Maureen. you are unneeded. LAURINE! Radio they're. Also launched a podcast, Matthew just like you amaze gotTA. We don't like to talk about the podcast because that's the competition. You know he has struggled to gain attention, because there's an ace symmetry between the president of the United States and a challenger in a moment of national crisis, right trump used to do these daily covert press conferences that will be carried on television by is trying to get attention. He's making videos. All of you trade town all on Covid, nineteen with Vice President Biden Dr Jill Biden. Former surgeon general Dr Martin's. He's making statements. He's doing media appearances vice president. Joe Biden. Thank you so much for being a guest on our show at at Home Edition I. See you're at home or somewhere. Where where are you right now? I'm in Wilmington. Delaware my recreational at home. They set up a makeshift studio here. I'm just getting Houston what you're very used to. A ton of people are seeing them, but you know trump's numbers start going down binds numbers. Start going up and he is putting out plans for how to deal with the pandemic I. WE'RE GONNA make sure that testing is widely available and free. Because we learned early on, there was a fear of people that if I go get a test is going to cost mel this money. How can I pay for it? What will I do? And free but available, and that everyone needs to test could get it. He's also fortunate in that. Bronco was his of staff when he was vice president. WHO's a very high ranking member of Biden's inner circle? He also happened to have served as a Bolas are a late in the Obama administration, so he's got a key staffer trusted adviser. The most knowledgeable people in America about pandemic response type issues so. By, Miss Their he's able to put out calls. He wants to use the defense production act to mobilize to create more personal protective equipment. He is supportive of delivering more aid to state local government budgets, and he's also just he's standing science. He is wearing masks. He is talking about things in a serious way staying on point, staying focused, and he looks a little invisible to some people who are critical of him, but to those who are paying attention. He starting to give us a taste of what normal president dating you know would look like, and and how reassuring that might be. How does this translate? After the death of George Floyd I know Joe is supposed to travel to Houston today to meet with George Floyd's family. How is he addressed the protests and demands and the black lives matter movement. She African Americans are Biden's political base. That's who carried him to victory in the Democratic Party primary. And his ties to the sort of African, American, political establishment on a personal level have been very important to sort of his success into into his. Life and career. You know a nuance. Is that the protest movement black lives? Matter is very much a movement of a younger cohort of African American. Activists who are not necessarily share their elders view of Biden, personally or politics, but the fact that Bhai is a white politician who has such close ties to the black community. Your close political relationship with the black community lets him do the sort of symbolic healing stuff that people like to see from leaders in times like this like what trump can't do. The best way. To bear loss in pain. To turn it into that anger and anguish the purpose. And Americans know what our purposes is a nation. and has to be guided. As to be guided. He has been catching some criticism about how he's approached race and especially policing in the past in his political career. Will any of that stick to him next to Donald? Trump I mean I think it's a tough one you know. Trump had a strategy going for sort of a one two punch of a message to black America. One was to brag about her African American unemployment was at an all time low, which was true. We've created one point three million new jobs for African Americans. Black American unemployment has reached an all time low and the history of our country. It's the best. Give. It was to hit by. Four some of his tough on crime stuff from one thousand, nine hundred. And the third was to note that he signed the bipartisan first step act, and so trump was going to be the PRAKOB candidate because he has a constituency lockdown will. Suggest to younger African Americans in particular that maybe the Democrats are all talk on some of these racial justice. Issues the killing of of George Floyd, the subsequent protests, the brutality of the police in addressing. Some of the protesters has all. made it more difficult for trump to run a campaign that's based on pure trolling. You know you kind of have to pick a side here and the fact is that while Biden's record is not for of anything that criminal justice reform could complain about it. It's pretty clear what side trump is on what side Biden is on so. More simplified situation politically. More with Matthew in a minute I'm Sean. Ramos Firm. It's today explained. It's Monday maybe you went to the grocery store over the weekend with your mask on gloves, and you got your food and you brought it back, and you were super cautious because all the covert and everything. That's still happening. But what if you didn't have do all that? What if your groceries just showed up at your door and you had a bunch of meals ready to go that life of course is possible because the Sun Basket Sun basket hooks you up with healthy delicious meals every single week. They deliver a box loaded with. With pre portioned organic ingredients right to your door, so you can throw the meals together whenever you're hungry. That's a great time to eat. I'm told and they're easy to prepare. You can go from boxing to eating and as little as fifteen minutes right now. 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We need the FDA to stop those making false medical claims and encourage further testing of CBD Lee May Bring Science based treatments to consumers learn more at four safe CBD DOT Org again. That's the number four SAF. Dot Org paid for by the National Consumers League. Matthew we know binds doing well in the polls, but with so much going on in the country. How does he get people to care about his platform? What even is his platform? Yeah the platform is one of the weirdest things because the policy conversation around by the primary consisted exclusively of people talking about what he doesn't favor Senator Biden your plan will keep an allow insurance companies to remain with status quo, doing business as usual. Jack Co pays jacking up. It will still be the city. Wants to double the federal minimum wage, he wants to essentially quadruple the amount of federal housing assistance to low income families. He wants to triple federal spending on poor schools and wants to spend a trillion dollars on climate solutions. He wants to set new higher standards for emissions. Things like that. He has a suite of agenda items going back to before the protests to address criminal justice reform, ranging from D. scheduling marijuana at the federal level to bring back Obama era oversight of departments that there were complaints about to creating grant programs to sort of create financial incentives for cities to adopt form agendas things like that healthcare. He wants to create a public option that lower costs for people he wants to change. How the ACA subsidies are benchmarked, which like I can see people falling asleep when you talk about that that what it means is lower premiums and deductibles. So. It's out there, right? The hallmark of the Biden policy agenda is that he has tried to avoid stuff that is unpopular at sometimes means avoiding things that capture the imagination in a big way but it is a lot of things that would deliver a lot of concrete help particular lower income people. Yeah, I mean. Does he have a plan for how to turn this economy around? I? Guess the stock market's doing well, but people are going to be hurting worse and worse now. Yes I mean the economic recovery bit I don't want to say that he doesn't have a plan, but he is trying to not get in the way of congressional Democrats. House Democrats have passed their three trillion dollar heroes, act which would give more money directly into the pockets of almost everybody would extend bonus unemployment insurance benefits would give a lot of money to state and local governments, those of its three main pillars. Then there's like a million small things by supportive of that law. If he was president today, he would be trying to get that enacted and signed. By his wisely tried to avoid saying exactly what he thinks. The situation will be in January, but he was kind of the point person on stimulus implementation in the early Obama Administration years, and you know he's very proud of that work Nancy Pelosi was the speaker of the House back then so I I think there's not a ton of daylight between them or you know a radical change in thinking that we should expect basically if he was president, you put a lot more federal money into existing programs and into people's pockets. How does he draw attention and excitement to his campaign? When we're like in a crisis on top of a crisis, it feels like in these moments so much attention is afforded the president, and of course. The president isn't really doing much with that attention constructively. One obvious thing seems like he could. VP candidate and then make some news. Yeah, VP Canada will make some news, but I think that they are not gonna try anything too drastic. As long as they are up in the in the polls I mean campaigns who are winning. Don't change directions radically and I think he clearly feels he is getting enough attention to have a nice lead. He is trying to raise money right now, trump. Trump has a huge war chest. I think one thing he is worried about is getting buried in dollars and doesn't want to let that happen, but I think to some level one of the implicit promises of Biden Ism is that you can have a president who is not in your face on the news all day every day, making trouble making waves, and he is content to sort of. Live that ethos. And, so for all the people who like Oh man that presidential race. No one's even talking about it. It's relevant you would say. Actually it's going fine because. That one guy who's not a total nightmare is actually winning. It's traditionally been the case that people don't focus in on elections in a super duper way. Until they are much closer than they are now trump kind of upset. The apple cart and turned electoral politics into an all day every day story for people, then the pandemic, the protests have sort of focused us on trump even more, but also in the election a little bit less, so I don't know exactly how that all kind of nets out, but but I mean I do think that you know what Biden is trying to tell. You is normalcy nonsense that there will be no policy change, but in the sense that most days most people maybe won't need to think about national politics that much. Sounds Dreamy. Thanks Matt Thank you.

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#69: Candace Center Stage (with guest Candace Cameron Bure)

Parenting Great Kids with Dr. Meg Meeker

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#69: Candace Center Stage (with guest Candace Cameron Bure)

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Order today at little passports dot com slash Meg. That's little passports dot com slash Meg. For thirty plus years. I've seen every type of child grow up instead of giving me what I wanted. She gave me what I needed which was truth. Don't let emotions win lead truth when you're very bad. Then you have a lot of fun while you're doing the better, you get it something the more fun. You're going to have it something you moms and dads are wired with everything you need to be a parent to a great kid. Welcome to parenting. Great kids. This is episode number sixty nine and I'm your host Dr Meg meeker. I'm so excited about today's guest. She is an actress author and TV personality and her name is Candace Cameron beret Candice is an actress who is best known for her role as DJ Tanner on the sitcom full house. A multi talented personality Candace has donned various hats in her short career span as an actor producer, author and talk show panelist in two thousand fourteen Candice appeared as a contestant in the reality show dancing with the stars. She finished in the top three currently Cameron stars in the net. Flicks. Spinoff fuller house reprising her role as DJ Tanner apart from working as an actor is an author as well. She's written six books, including the twenty eleven New York Times bestseller re. Reshaping it all motivation for physical and spiritual fitness and Candice center stage, which is the topic of our conversation today. Candice is married to former Russian NHL hockey player. Valerie beret, they have three children daughter Natasha and sons lev and maxim they reside in southern California as always CEPA soda. I'll share my points to ponder. So you can start using them right away. And remember parents don't just download these episodes. Click subscribe when you do that. 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Sign up for my free, webinars if you're the rest of the story, I prepared a webinar will talked up three different styles poverty love the meltdown the explosion. And when your child has withdrawn from you, go to discipline webinar dot com, you'll register for free and access of three disciplined planning workshop, and if you wanna buy the. Program. Save one hundred dollars on. My course discipline with courage and kindness three point oh, disciplined, webinar dot com. So parents, thanks for listening. This is episode number sixty nine stay with us friends. I want Shen now to listen in on a conversation. I had with Candace Cameron beret, I know you're gonna love it. Well, Candace, thank you so much for coming on my podcast. I'm really excited to talk to you today. Oh, you're so welcome. Thanks for having me. You bet you have this awesome fun adorable new book out for kids Candice center stage. And you know, what I love about the book is it's a very it's a welcome to light. You know, in a culture that is pushing kids to be so good at everything and perfect at everything. And you know, maybe parents won't say you need to get as and you need to be the star of your soccer team. But. Kitts always feel that message. So, you know, Candace centerstage really challenges that in its in its just delightful for any of our listeners because it's a brand new fresh book just came out who aren't familiar, can you give us just a quick synopsis of your book. Oh, sure. So Candice has a little girl that has a big personality. And she thinks in this story that she is such a great dancer, and when her mom decides to put her in ballet lessons, she learns very quickly that she's not quite as good as everyone else, and she needs a little extra help and she needs to practice a little harder, but she wants to quit because it's hard and her mom says, no, you can't quit. You gotta keep working hard and just and do it. And through the end of the story. She does work hard and complete the recital. And she's not the best ballerina not. Even at the end of it. But she actually helped some of the other girls just by being herself and encouraging them not to be stared and just to go out and try even if they're not perfect at it. Yeah. Yeah. And that's the message that I love because you know, we really as parents want to encourage our kids to just go for it. We all say why I don't care if my child is good or bad at something. I want them to have fun. But we kinda don't mean that, you know, we we want our kids to be good and have fun. So that's why I think the book is so refreshing because she's just a character. She is she's full of life. One of the other things that I love about Candice centerstage because obviously I've read and seen a lot of children's books, and I would say the majority of children's books that I see are not age appropriate. In other words, the illustrations may be targeted for a five year old. But the language and the amount of text is really for nine year old and that can be frustrating for me. But your book doesn't do that. It's age appropriate for the text as well as the illustrations. How did you know how to do that? Well, thank you. Yeah. In this book is geared towards four to eight year olds. And I will say I of course, had the help of my publishing team. And the editors that helped coach me along the way a knowing the story that I wanted to write and the amount of words that it would need to be written in, and I've written I have five other published books that are geared towards adults trade bucks. So this was my first children's book that I wrote in it absolutely is a different process because I learned that every single word is so valuable not that it isn't in trade books, but I can ramble on at a couple of paragraphs here or there. Oh. Every word in a children's book has to be smeeting, full and specific. And then it does have to match illustrations, and I was so particular about it, I have a wonderful illustrator Christine, but choose that drew the photographs. I mean, I was going back and forth to make sure that every expression on the character's faces were matching what my words were matching and to convey, the overall message, so thank you for appreciating. It I'm glad I did a great job. And I definitely had the help of my editing team that was helping me make the best that it could be. Well, the illustrations are fabulous. They're so cute. Like hidden. So hairy is a little pet ham starts pet hamster and he's hidden in every page of the book, which I love sometimes he's really easy to spot. And sometimes he's hiding in her hair or in a backpack, or he's just a cute little side kick. I feel like every time you read the book, you'll find something new that reveals itself in the photos in the illustrations, you know, what in it's funny. I for a children's book, and it's not a long book. I mean children's books can't be long. It's packed with so much fun and some great lessons, and it's happy in its upbeat. Even though it's a message about telling kids to pursue and to work hard and push through. It kinda doesn't feel like it when you're reading it because she's so doc on happy. I mean, she's just really cute. Let's talk about with the book some of a few of the deeper messages that you wanted to convey to children you want. Two. I think when you convey to children, you convey to their parents, as well, of course, you wanted to show kids how to persevere and push through what other lessons where you're trying to teach through Kansas. Well, that it's that it's okay, it's okay to fail and just to try something that I learned in my adult years, and I wish I had learned it earlier in life. But man, I'm so glad that that I had people encouraging me and saying, it's okay. Just go for it doesn't matter. If you're not great at it try because then you'll never know what you're capable of. And that was always in the hard work in itself was always taught to me by my by my mom and dad that was his one of his biggest messages to us. I have two sisters and brother when we were growing up was just hard work hard work because you'll never appreciate what you are doing. If you don't work for it yourself or you won't appreciate the accomplishments. So that was something. I really wanted to talk about was working hard and not taking advantage of the things that can be given to you. Because there really is such gratification and pride in a good way. When you've when you've earned something yourself and you worked for it. But with that being said, it's okay, if white you work hard for doesn't work out for you. If you if it's maybe not your thing. But you'll never discover it unless you give it a go, and I was on. I was on dancing with the stars. And I ended up coming in third place on that show. And that was a bit of the inspiration in writing this book because I I had Candice in dance class. And I certainly on that show was not the best dancer. I honestly don't even know how I got to replace aside from having very loyal fans that were voting for me because I I really wasn't the best at it. But I pushed through so many of my fears just to be on that show. And because it was such a a scary time. But it was so. Oh rewarding. And so fulfilling just knowing that I did my best. Well, I know that I was going to bring that up, and I was going to ask if that experience inspired you to write about Candice little ballerina, but that took a tremendous amount of guts on your part for me personally. Even just forget, the dancing just getting in one of those costumes and going on national television. I mean that would that would terrify ninety nine percent of the women in the in the country anyway, but shoot did you did really well. And would you do it over again? That's a good question. I have to say I'm so glad that I did it. But if they asked me to be on that show again like, I think I'd say no because I know how how. How not only how much work it takes. But how scared I was that was such a fearful show for me just because it's live television and you're performing, and I was having moments of knowing everything and then completely blanking out when it was time to go like, my fears literally would get the best of me during the live shows, and I had such exiled. So when the show is all over, I'm like, whoa. That grew me in confidence. And in ways, I had no idea I needed to grow. But I don't think I ever wanna do that again that specifically so I'm a huge fan and advocate for that show. I've had several friends that have been on it since I was on it. And I I have one friend one Pablo to Paci who is on full house and he's competing on it this season. So I am like right there to cheer him on and encourage him. And I love watching the show every night. But I'm like, but no, thanks. I don't wanna be out there Jansen again. I've always admired the actors and actresses are professionals who go on and are trained by the professional dancers because it looks so hard. I mean, a grueling training and everything and the truth is from the beginning of the show to the end of the show, you and all the other dancers, improved tremendously. I mean, those must be really good. Oh, they're incredible. They're so good. I mean, they know their stuff will be not only teach you how to dance, but they're choreographing. Oh, yeah. All dances that you're doing. So they are tremendous talents and wonderful people with great personality. So it really like you. You're a very lucky person to be asked to be on that show. And that's why it's been so successful for so many years because it's one of those once in a lifetime experience shows that you don't realize how much you're going to get out of it until you do it. So Candice centerstage is sort of like a real. Reflection of you and your life in a way. Well, I mean, she's candidates, but the whole idea of even though you're frayed, and even though you know, you may not win. Now, you were a better dance with Jesus where she's not real and your meal, but I loved that lesson of pushing through and I think so many times as parents we encourage our kids to push through. And we say, you know, was it Winston Churchill who said never never never give up. But we feel that. Okay. If we pick ourselves up and pick ourselves up eventually will be successful and win, but what to center stage, and what you're talking about with dancing on. The stars is pick yourself up face your fears persevere. And even if you don't come out the top dog that is huge success in and of itself. Absolutely. I think so. And, you know, even though writing this little book there it, sir. Certainly reflects part of my life. But I'm a mother of three kids and my kids are older. Now, they're twenty eighteen in sixteen years old, but the little little Candice in the book is actually has a lot of my own daughters personality, more than my own. So my daughter has a has a big personality, and she's very confident in so many ways, but in parenting her and different from my my other two boys Natasha has always wants to be number one and has has had a had a hard time that if she knows she's not going to be number one. She doesn't even want to try. She doesn't want to start or she wants to quit. So like when she was younger she played tennis for so many years, and I can watch her as a parent that when she knew she was playing against someone that was better than her. She would start to just throw the game because she didn't. She's like, I know I'm going to lose. So I don't even wanna try and it was like, no, no, no, baby. That's not how it works. You gotta you gotta keep trying because that will make you a better player. And so there's there's so much of my my own daughters personality that I am. And I learned how to parent her and encourage her in ways that would grow her. So I find myself that in writing these books, I'm actually influenced much more as a mother in writing them than my own personality as a child, oh, that's wonderful how as the mother because her a lot of listeners out there. He'll say what Natasha did boy my child does that too. They sabotage themselves because they really believe failures around the next corner. How did you train your daughter beyond that how did you help her just to persevere and not worry about failing? If she was gonna fail. Well, I mean, some some days it was really difficult, but we wouldn't let her quit. And that's one of the messages, I put in the book and. Trust me. She would try all the time to quit. And we just said, no, you know, you have to you have to stick to it. And if you eventually don't want to do this if it's at the end of a season, then that's fine. You can make another choice, but we also would encourage her and help her see the benefits or the positive things that she was doing even when she was focusing on the self negatives things. And again, it was always about like you don't have to be number one in you don't have to be the best. But you got to be the best you that you can be. But it's okay. If someone's better than you, and so it's listen, she still has that fighter personality, and she's twenty years old now, and I couldn't love it more. I'm like, she is a strong confident young woman, but it can be hard as a parent to channel that type of personality. I mean, you kind of know or hope and pray that when they get older. They're going to use that strength for good, which my daughter has developed that. But it was it's certainly a challenging personality when they're younger. Well, it's a lot of work. I'm in a tremendous amount of work. I think parents think well that this is who they are. And they just wanna quit. And that's okay. Eventually when they get older, they'll they'll realize that's not what you do. But that's not the way it goes. You really have to push for the good character qualities in your kids and to get them to persevere because it's not it's not natural. You have worked. It seems all your life you or childhood star in full house. Now, how is it been for you as a child when you were child working so hard because if we would just look at your life, you go there's no failure in your life. At all. Did you ever experience failure in Hollywood is child? Oh, sure. I absolutely did. And that was on. A almost day-to-day thing because when you're an actor, whether you're a child ornamental, and I don't do this now in my career because I met a different point in my career where I collaborate an asked to work on things. But when you're starting out you off to audition, so you are constantly feeling rejected because you may addition for twenty things before you book one. And so even as a child I would go on on dishes after school almost every day on it would. But my mom was my mom was always great. She would just be like gone the audition do your best and forget about it. Just don't think about it. And then if they do call back or you book the job, then it's a pleasant surprise. But my mom was very good in that way. In in helping me focus that it wasn't about getting the job itself. So I wasn't always worried about it. But certainly there were things that I would want a. Part that I would want to get or it was a TV show that I was excited to be on. If I got that part. And you simply don't get everything that you try for. So I you you experience a lot of rejection being a child actor, but unlike the little girl Candice in my book, my personality, I was very compliant child. And I think that's why I worked so well as child actor because I loved pleasing people. I love doing a good job and any direction that you would give me or tell me to do. I was very happy to do it. And would do my best to complete that? And so I had kind of a much more passive but eager to please type of personality that can be tough. If you're living in the environment that you're living in because I know I really do understand rejection. But my parents did a very good job of helping me channel. That and certainly in my adult career, I've experienced a lot of that. I mean, the it even career in in the entertainment industry, even if you're not in politics can turn very political. So I have experienced my fair share of like, you know. No, we don't want you on our show because you have strong religious beliefs, or, you know, we're just not you're not the kind of person we want for whatever reason. So you get there still a lot of rejection, even when you're successful because politics can come into play. Yeah. Well, I wanted to talk about that as well because you're an outspoken Christian, and we're living in a culture. That's very. An accepting of Christians and put Christians down a lot. And you're living in a little microcosm of that. Which is even more intense more criticism in more anti Christianity than you know, Idaho, or Nebraska or even Michigan where I live. How have you navigated that as a Christian in in a culture that doesn't like Christians? Well, the truth is only by the grace of God have I been able to do that. But I grew so much in my faith when I was a stay at home mom for ten years. Right. When I had my children, I decided not to work and and be a full time. Stay at home. Mom, but in that time I developed so much in my relationship with God. And and and grew roots in the foundation of my face. So when I came back to work about. Ten years ago. That was always my focus. I'm like, hey, I would love to go back to work. I love the entertainment industry because I love being an artist, and I love my craft and I love being creative. But I'm not willing to compromise. Who I am in Christ to do that? So if it works out, I'm going to do it with these boundaries. And if I can't do it with those boundaries. Then that's just not what God has planned for me amount was always my perspective. And the cool thing about it. And I think cool because I think odds pretty cool and not just because he gives us things we want. But I I mean, I I prayed over every aspect of my life in my family and my career, and I feel like I've tried to be as faithful to him and Mike and my career, and I feel like he's blessed that because of. Of it. And so I have found that because I was outspoken about my faith and wouldn't compromise it ended up catching people's attention. And I also like to think it was because I was kind in the process about it not trying to push it on people not trying to be belligerent or rude, or or convert people to think the way I think I've always wanted to have respectful conversations in understand people in listen to people, and yet I would like my voice to be heard as well too. And we don't have to agree at the end of the day. But let's talk about it. And that's what makes the world go round. And let's understand each other. In what our perspectives can be in what are circuit. How circumstances may have influenced us in our lives, and in our world views, and so because of that I feel like, you know, that's why I was asked to be a co host on the view because. 'cause I was not afraid to talk about my faith, and I believe it strongly. And so in the best of ways because I've been outspoken about it is actually helped my career not that I've ever used my faith to gain my career. But I feel like it was really honored. And I'm grateful for it. But you know, I also come up there's a lot of backlash with it too. And you gotta have fix skin and some days, I wanna go cry. I want to curl up in cry because it just hurts my heart. When people don't understand the whole picture of where I'm coming from. And and other days, I just thank God for the platform that I have that like, hey, I can read scripture in share my bible on Instagram. And if people wanna listen to it, they do, and if they don't they can fast forward, but I know that I'm putting out a good word, and positively and that makes me happy and feel like I'm honoring God. Well, that's wonderful. I think that Christians have been branded as. A very judgmental narrow minded yet. People who just want to go around and tell everybody what to do. And how wrong they are. And nothing could be further from the truth. Unfortunately, a lot of those voices who have big platforms in in the Christian world are doing just that. So how wonderful to have a Christian who has a big platform, but really understands Christ's commandments to love the Lord your God. And to love your neighbor as yourself, you know. And then once we get those right there, we can go onto the other. But we usually have it backwards. And what I'm hearing your your message is not just in what you do on the view. But in your nice book, Candice centerstage is look our first responsibility is to come and to listen to people and to try to understand. People and to love them in become kind. That sounds really easy. But in fact, it's one of the hardest things that people have to do a let alone Christians have to do which were commanded to do. It is so true. It's a hard. It's it's it. I mean, that's why I wrote my other another book called kind is the new classy because even though being kind really is a simple thing. But it takes so much effort because we inherently are are selfish people, and we do have to be reminded to think of others I and and to be kind, but I tell ya kindness has such a ripple effect, and it really doesn't take much to be kind to someone, and it can not only change you, but changes every single person you come in contact with and that ripple effect goes on because when someone receives kindness, they are usually kind. To the next person, and it goes on and on and on it definitely has a ripple effect. And I love what you said. It is very very simple, but like loving someone. It's simple. We understand it in our head. And yet it's one of the hardest things that human beings do because it is so countered to what are natural instincts. Say are natural instinct say watch out for yourself, particularly, you know, a place like Los Angeles where you live in very competitive environment. You know, watch your own back. Don't let people take advantage of you. So being kind requires a certain amount of vulnerability because you can extend kindness and get the door shut and your face. And that's why I don't understand how people who don't have faith in God can be kind authentically over northern over. Because you do get rejected when you're kind of other people, and why in the world would you keep doing it? In the face of that. If you didn't have God saying, yeah. But I want you to keep going. I I know I agree with you. I don't I don't understand how people can be can be kind continuously without God either. Because I know I need God's grace every day and to be reminded of that. And know that that I hate to say as my job. But I, but I'm commanded to do that. I'm commanded an I realize and recognize that my attitude with every person I come in contact with is going to have some kind of lasting effect on their day. It might be for a few minutes, but it may carry on with them for several days, depending on what my interaction is. But when you train yourself, it's just like a habit when you continually practice, something and retrain yourself you. It will become a habit and will become more natural to you to respond. In the way in which you want you won't have to think about it quite as much when you continually practice it. And I wish that are in hope that are outrage culture that we live in will creek back into a kindness culture. That's the message. I am trying to to share with everyone as well. And I know it's not easy. I have my days we all do, but we all we all have our days. But you're absolutely right. You know, everybody knows. And we hear kindness is kind of like a buzzword amongst parents to I want my child to be kind of what might try to be kind. And yet if you look at the Evelyn of how people in kids treat one another over the past fifteen years, it's going completely away from that. We are living in a culture where we've never been. So polarized kids are being bullied in school. Social media can beat kids up particularly young girls. You know, there's this. This vitriol that goes back and forth. And so I that's what I think your message is really really critical. And I think that. You know, as parents read this book to their kids. Hopefully, it's going to convict them that she was if I want to treat my child be kind. I've got trained myself because it really is raining. I mean, you have to freight it tension Lee to be kind because it's really very hard. Parents. I hope you're enjoying my conversation with Candace Cameron Bure we need to take a quick break. But don't go anywhere. We'll be right back with more of my conversation with Candace Cameron array when you're putting in time at the gym has time to spend hours in the kitchen now, you can fuel your workout and nurse your body with easy to prepare meal kit delivery, from some basket, some basket makes it easy and convenient to cook. 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When your kids are little that you were going to put your career on hold theory high profile successful career, which must have been hard to say, no to because you wanted to stay home in parent your kids, you had friends or colleagues. It's inter-. I did the same thing in medicine. I finished my training. And I said, you know, I'm going to be home with my kids, and my colleague very much like yourself. You do that your career is over. Did people tell you that at the time? Yeah. I I mean, I I had a couple of great people around me that were saying yes, do it. Do what you need to do. That's great. If that's the new season in your life, go for it. But I certainly had a lot of industry people like agents and casting directors network saying you're crazy to to stop. You're at the height of a successful show. You're coming off of that. If you leave now everyone's gonna forget about you, and you may never have a career again because the entertainment industry is quite fickle that way, and they decide when they want you in when they don't, and I can't say it was a tough decision because I just knew that I wanted to be home with my children. So in that way, I was just confident that I was making the right choice for me. And my my husband and our family. I I had no doubt. I was like this is what I'm going to do. But. Say in saying that the transition was a whole other experience. I was not an easy transition for me to go from full-time working person to a fulltime. Stay at home. Mom. Oh, there's nothing easy about it. I I will confess when I did it. I went from working, you know, eighty hours a week to being home full time. And I don't like to say, I I went from a working Monto nonworking mom because every mom's a working mom summer paid in some art, you know, but really I went into a deep out of depression for about six months during my transition because out in the world, and I imagine it was very much like that for you to you do you craft. Well, you love your craft your focused on your craft. It's who you are. And then you leave that behind and then your home, and you're kind of I I was just floundering. But and then I felt really guilty because I love my. Kids. I chose to be home full as you did. But it's hard and nobody talks about that. Nobody talks about how hard it is to be a stay at home. Mom, and how hard it is to go from working to being a stay at home. Mom, but Trent that's a huge transition in. It's really hard. How long did it take you to kind of get in the groove of being a stay at home? Mom, I think it is about two years to surrender to motherhood. That's what I what I call it. And I everything that you just said resonates with me. And I felt the exactly the same way loved my children wanted to be there. But when you're in the workplace, you're being told almost on a daily basis. Hey, good job. Good job. Or maybe not a good job or you have to improve in this. But you're you're you're kind of doing it to you get accolades for you, get praise you get a Pat on the back when you do a job well done, and your babies aren't giving you that? And it's like, the harvest work mobile. Yeah. And you get money. I mean it all. And that your home with kids who just sort of look at you and make a mess and seemed to not appreciate you, and it, and it feels very much like a thankless job. When you're used to being thanked all the time. And so, yeah, I think I think it's really hard. But I do think that. And we don't talk about this either that parenthood motherhood being really good mom requires sacrifice. Now, I'm not saying to every everywhere working mom, you need to be home fulltime at all. But I'm saying in some ways in some parts of our life sacrifice is really crucial to being a good parent. But nobody really talks to us about the sacrifice of our time of our energy of ours. Leap of our money of whatever. And I think that sometimes young parents sorta hit young moms will hit the skids, thinking, wait a minute. This isn't the way it's supposed to be. But it really can be very grueling. You know at the beginning of the show, we were talking about perseverance. And I think that if there's any place we really need to encourage people to persevere it's in motherhood because so many times it is not. What we thought we signed up for. Oh, I know. I so agree with you. You know, I always I kind of I had baited for so many years with my husband just on perspective. When you talk about sacrifice because I like the word sacrifice, and I think and not in a negative way. But I think they're sacrifice on my part. And it doesn't mean I want. I don't wanna be here with my children. I absolutely want to. But I am sacrificing an art that I love a career that I do enjoy my my sleet, my time. Even though I love it. It is a sacrifice in my husband would always say. It's not a sacrifice if you wanna be there. There's nothing sacrificial about it. It's what you what we should be doing. It's what we're there. And I'm like, okay. I just have a different perspective in you, at least on on on the word that way. I it's interesting that your husband would say that because my response to what he said is very much like yours. You can love something in want it very badly. And like it, but it's still going to require something from you. It's when require your time or your energy, or certainly some amount of pain on some level, you know, physical or emotional, or intellectual whatever. And so that's good. I mean, I think that that's really good because that's what makes you better at what you're doing it as a mom as an actor as a professional, whatever you're going to feel like we're just gonna slide into this role. And I think that people could look at from the outside of your life and go oh come on. You know, your life is just lovely your lovely. You're a kind kid on TV. You're kind of dull to your very how in the world. Could you have had a hard life? But, you know, being a mom, stay at home. Lemme ask you physically and emotionally and mentally putting you on the spot here, which do you feel? It was harder for you. Being a stay at home, mom or a professional actor. You know, I think probably I want to say I mean, mentally, the transition to be stay at home mom after being a working person for so many years that that was my biggest challenge it was mentally was mental. And that's why say when I surrendered to motherhood because it had to be much more of a mindset for me because I knew I wanted to do it, and I was physically capable to do it and emotionally connected to my children. But my mindset had to change that what I was doing even though I wasn't getting paid for it. Even though I wasn't getting accolades for it that it was still as valuable if not more valuable than what I was doing before. And that was a whole mindset for me, you know, when I work out outside of my home when I'm going to my pay job. I very physically demanding it can be mental and emotional of everything. I mean, I'm a I'm a I'm a grinder. I work hard. I don't I don't have much trust in. That's come about in in the later years. These last few years that I've been working, but there's a lot, and it's just different at what was so what helped me so much being a mom and still a mom today. Mom older teens, but life is so seasonal, and when I when I understood that especially when my children were younger, and I'm like, you know, this isn't going to last forever. So no matter what what I'm feeling at the moment or at that time. Whether it's a few years or five years, it's still going to be seasonal because we grow in. We change in our children grow and the season of their life. Whether they're they haven't started school yet. And then they do start school while then it's middle school high school. I mean, those are all season. In may look very different. And they put different strains on you. But different pleasure that you gain from it different connections, and it's wonderful. But when you realize nothing's gonna last forever in terms of the intensity of it or the stress, you know, that you might be feeling at the moment. Like that's not going to be there forever 'cause you're going to enter a new season. Well, and I think that's particularly hard to understand when you have small children. Yeah. You know, because you think this is never going to end these temper tantrums are going to go on forever. You know, my child is just a little monster. Nothing's gonna change. And and I think also when you're a mom or dad of young children. You don't have the perspective because you don't get to see them change. You feel like you're stuck in time. And you feel like, you know, this is the way things always going to be. And I think that a lot of younger mothers. Now feel the sense that I've got to keep doing everything right now like keep my job going and keep on top of my career and spend as much time with my kids as I can I need to get it all done now because they don't see what you and I have seen which is it is a season, and it does change. And then also in your kids are grown, and when they're grown you have God willing all of this time ahead of you to really kick back into gear. And if you can do it in a place as ruthless as Hollywood, you know, we we can do this. And I think we just need to not lose sight of that that that we need to just sort of take a big breath, and sort of let things roll by and not worry so much about getting everything done right now because it's all going to stop it doesn't. Yeah. You're you're absolutely right. And I talked a lot about that. At one of my books was called balancing at all. Because I. I had as one of the biggest questions, I would get how do you balance it all? And I have said what you just said. I, you know, listen, we weaken of a lot of plates spinning, but they don't need to be spending all at the same time. It's okay. You down you can pick on back up later. And that's what that's what the seasons of life is all about. So especially when you're young mom. Don't try to do it. All you don't need to have the perfect body right now. You don't have to be in the gym everyday ever looks at me and goes, oh, you I love fitness. I posted a lot on social media. And I think to myself. Yes. But my kids are older, I'm in my forties. It's you know, I found my love of fitness in my thirties. But I had my babies when I was twenty two twenty three and twenty five years old. I'm like there. I'm not focusing on fitness while they're teeny tiny little babies. I didn't focus on that until they were all older. So you don't need to have it all all at the same time. And don't put the pressure on yourself. 'cause it's. It's only gonna make it such a struggle, and you can pick it up. Anytime you want you really can. I just think that a lot of the mothers that I see in my practice, and I'm sure the a lot of the mothers, the younger mothers that you encounter with your work and life and friendship put so much pressure on themselves to be these hyper performers and what I really want. The the women who are listening to you right now is to here, you are a very accomplished professional actor, and and you've done some extraordinary things. But there is a time for one thing and a time for other things and balanced to you. It seems to me looks like you did one thing really intensely acting, and then you stopped, and you didn't motherhood, you know, probably pretty intensely. Because if you are a hard worker, I'm sure he worked really hard that. And then you go on with your your craft again. So sometimes balance, and I'm sure you go into this yearbook, but everybody should read the book to I'd love to read the book. I love to cover aren't you holding a bunch of plates and on one or something like that on the book, but that balance isn't always doing eight things at once. Sometimes it's doing them in sequence. And and and that's how good, but for mothers just kind of you know, let themselves off the hook a little bit. And I really think you are a great spokesperson for that. Because it seems to me you get it. That's how you've lived your life. Is you get it, and you've sort of grabbed the best part of each season of life, and you don't live with. I don't wanna put words in your mouth. Do you have regrets of some of the transitions like being full being? Home full time. Do you have any regrets about that? I don't at all. I mean, you you have said it perfectly, and you could put words in my mouth. 'cause I think you understand exactly what I how I've tried to live my life in the in the messages that I've tried to convey to other people, but I have no regrets because I've recognized that within each season that I have put all my work and intensity into no matter what that season was I've grown from it. And I am the woman that I am today because of it. So I can't look back on anything and saying I wish I didn't do that. Or I wish I made another choice. And I believe that God has us in the season were supposed to be in at the moment. Even if it doesn't feel like it to you. I don't think there are any surprises or you know, or in the sense that like God's surprised. Oh, I didn't mean you for for you to be there. But dr. What I got Stayton. Yeah. Where exactly where we should be an we embrace that it might help our perspective a little more to go. I'm where I should be. And I'm I'm gonna do this where I am. Well, right now, even if it's maybe not where I thought I should be or even where I wanted to be right now. But let me take it for what it is. And be the best in the season that I can. And just know that again, it's a season it's gonna change. Well, and to borrow a phrase that a lot of psychologists are using now to to be present in that season yet as we try hard to be present with our children in another person to to embrace it and say this is where I am. I'm twenty six I'm thirty years old. I had this baby. I'm not going to the gym because I'm too tired and be fine with that. It's it yet. Because because you've got, you know, sixty years head of you can go to the gym God Riley. You know, if you get there. Well candidates this has been delightful and the book we were talking about Candice center stage is absolutely fabulous. And I think we all need to be a little more like Kansas, and we just need to dance more. When I look at the cover this book, it makes you happy and it's just a delightful book. Are you going to write more children's books? I am I've already written the next one. Can you tell us when it's going to be released? I don't know actually don't have the date of the second release were still I've written the book, and it's being illustrated right now. And but I think it would my guess is maybe spring of next year. And but I'm excited. I hope this will be a long light line of canvases adventures because I have many stories and lessons for Candice to learn and her growing, well, as I like to always say, you know, authors write books, this is certainly true for me because we have a problem we need to figure out. So we work it out in the book go. Okay. Good now. Yes. And but but that'll be wonderful to write a Candice series because she certainly has a lot to teach people, and it's just such a it's such a wonderful book. And as I said, I love that. It's totally age appropriate. For this. You said five to eight is that right? That's eight four eight hundred forty eight. And I I know there are a lot of parents and grandparents and foster parents aunts and uncles who would love to give this to one of their to a friend to read to their kids. Just give it right to the kid. If anybody wants to follow you or learn more about what you're up to how can people contact you Candace? Yeah. Well, I'm I'm on social media. So you can find me on Instagram and Facebook, and even Twitter, I'm host active on Instagram and Facebook though, and my my name on there is Candice C burry, but you could just Google my name and those things will pop up, but you can always find all the information there about everything that I'm doing and I love to interact on social media with people. So it's a fun place for me wonderful while you're you're obviously very good at it. And I do think that writing. Candice series is a real sweet spot for you. So I look forward to the future books that you have coming out. Thank you so much. We'll thanks for joining me, Kansas. God bless you. This is just been a real delight to talk to you. We'll thank you so much for having me on the show. It was a really great conversation. So I really enjoy this. Now onto my points to ponder one teach children perseverance not just winning. You know in this day of parenting was so many parents focused on helping children excel at sports in grades and music. It's very hard for parents to pull back and change their focus onto character development, rather than just winning many parents say I just want my child to have fun playing hockey, soccer, whatever, but the truth is their behavior says something entirely different, you know, parents like this. And maybe you're one of them they go to every practice game and talk about the child's. Sport endlessly at games they scream from the sidelines, and while parents may seek they're showing enthusiasm from the child's standpoint those kids feel pressure to excel and do well on the field on the stage in the classroom. Wherever some kids have even said to me, the only time I get attention from my parents is when I play sports. So rather than continuing to focus on encourage your kids to excel we need to help them take risks when it comes to trying new things will they be bad at them. Maybe but learning to try and persevere builds a far more successful adult than simply being good at everything. A child does to kindness, and perseverance don't come naturally these need to be taught correction modeling to them and sitting down and discussing why these things matter. You know, many parents believed that kids are either born. Nice and kind or the born selfish. And mean, this isn't true yet kids are born with unique personalities and being selfless and kind comes more naturally to some kids. Send others we parents need to remember that we must nurture kindness and kids whether they're born with a little bit or not developmentally kids, go through many stages where they're naturally more self absorbed, and this is important during the teen years. This makes them less kind than they should be so regardless which state of development our kids are in it's important to constantly show them and teach them how to be kind to others three read to your kids. Let's face it. When we get tired. We parents often resort to turning on the television or pull up a show on her ipad. And there's nothing wrong with this occasionally. But we gotta remember that. If we want our kids to learn to like books, we have. Have to read to them. We don't need to read for long periods at a time. And if your child won't sit still put a book gun Tapan, you can do this in the car around the house when you're getting ready for dinner when you're getting ready in the morning, and if you have young children at home sit down with them and read books while they sit on your lap fine. Good picture books. Don't have to have a lot of words. Find these for young kids and interesting age appropriate fiction for older kids. Not only will this. Teach your kids to love reading you will have a closer relationship with them. I want to thank my guest Candace Cameron beret, check out our website at Candace Cameron, beret dot net. Once again, Candace Cameron, beret dot net. She's on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram as well just search for Candace Cameron beret on your internet browser. So let's we kept my points to ponder one. Teach children perseverance not just winning two. Kindness, and perseverance don't come naturally and three read to your kids and friends don't forget to check out my free webinar. And my new course discipline with courage and kindness three point zero. So all ways remember until next time. Parents break kids are raised not born pay. This is Bobby producer of beg meakers parenting. Great kids podcast. We hope you've enjoyed listening to episode sixty nine candidates centerstage. Thanks to you. Dr mix parenting revolution has grown to over two million downloads. 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#65: Gender Identity Issues, Part 1 (with guest Dr. Leonard Sax)

Parenting Great Kids with Dr. Meg Meeker

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#65: Gender Identity Issues, Part 1 (with guest Dr. Leonard Sax)

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Saxe graduated PHI beta Kappa from 'em IT in January nineteen eighty at the age of nineteen. He then went onto the university of Pennsylvania where he earned both a PHD in psychology and an MD in March nineteen. Ninety doctor. Sax launched a primary care medical practice in Montgomery County, Maryland. He has authored numerous books why gender matters. Boys adrift girls on the edge and the collapse of parenting. He is also a highly sought after speaker. Dr Sachs's appeared on the today. Show c. n. n. NPR PBS Fox News, FOX business, and many other national and international media programs. Doctor sax lives with his wife and daughter in Pennsylvania, where he also has an active practice in this podcast as always out share my points to ponder for you to start using right. Away and parents as a reminder, don't just download these episodes. 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So parents, thanks for listening. This is episode number sixty. Five stay with us. And now on my points depan her one simply because your child is fascinated by the opposite. Sex does not mean he or she is transgender. Many parents whose children are fascinated with the opposite sex, whether you have a boy who wants to dress like a girl and wear dresses, or a girl who wants to cut her hair short and identify with boys give your child time and. Let him or her work out identification with the opposite sex and see where it goes. Ninety nine percent of the time. It works. It self out in the fascination with the opposite. Sex goes away to learn the difference between being truly transgender and going through a normal stage. The overwhelming majority of kids who go through a period of wanting to be the opposite. Sex are not truly transgender. Those children who struggle early in life, say four to five years of age who have a deep troubling sense that they're living in the wrong body. Our kids who struggle with true transgender issues, these feelings of conflict never leave these children. Children who are not transgender will show interest in being the opposite sex later on in life. And they will have not shown signs of distress earlier in life. They will have appeared happy and comfortable with themselves and till they hit sixth grade, seventh grade highschool, and then they decide that they want identify with the opposite sex. Usually, this is a phase in a normal stage. They're going through three recognize a fat kids of all ages, especially junior high and high school are very vulnerable to suggestion. They are easily influenced by friends and what their friends are doing because they want to fit in and they want attention if your son or daughter says that in their teen years, they suddenly feel that they're transgender look at what their friends are doing. If your child has a friend or two who says he or she is transgender be suspicious. Again, most kids who suddenly declared. That they are transgender in their puberty toll years for their prepubertal years are not really transgender. They're very different from the kids who struggle with gender identity issues early on in life friends. I want you now to listen in on a wonderful conversation I had with Dr Leonard Sachs. I know you're really going to enjoy it. It's gonna be controversial, but it's a topic we must address. Well, Dr Leonard Sachs, thanks so much for joining me on my podcast which routing back you have an incredible book called why gender matters. And you just came out with a second edition and you begin the book in the first chapter, describing the biologic differences between boys and girls. And you know, many in our culture believed that male and female Nisar social construct s- from a medical. Biologic standpoint, what are the real differences between girls and boys were her so many so many. I mean, that's why it's a book and not just a blog post or something, but some of the really profound differences that I have not gotten enough attention or not as well known as they should be our differences in how girls and boys men and women see and hear and smell smell. So I begin by citing some research in which researchers studied the ability of young men and young women to detect odors, and they found that for certain odors under certain circumstances. A woman has a much more sensitive sense of smell well, how much more sensitive fifty percent more eighty percent more. No, it was a hundred thousand times more sensitive and I believe that, yeah, I actually invited the lead investigator Pam Dalton to speak at a symposium. I hosted on this topic at the American psychological association, and because it really resonated with me, I'm a family doctor and my own practice. A wife had complained about how the kitchen really stank and it was just horrible. And she wanted to throw up something must've died and Rodman there. And she just felt intensely nauseated by this overpowering stench in the kitchen. And her husband said all smoking, you're a husband and wife were increasingly frustrated with each other because they didn't believe each other. The woman could not believe that the man could. Can smell anything, and the man did not smell anything, and he thought his wife had just gone off the deep end. Neither of them knew that men and women are experiencing different worlds that leans smell are -bility to smell is different. The way we see is different. The way we hear is different. So let's talk about hearing your sense of hearing your ability to hear things diminishes as you get older young people have better hearing than old people as a rule, but it also turns out that girls are more sensitive to sound that boys are. Now, let's imagine. A middle aged father, talking to his teenage daughter turns out the average difference in sensitivity to sound between a middle aged man and teenage daughter is pretty substantial. And again, for my own practice as experiences, a family doctor, the starters, this teenage girl saying to me, she said, you know, my father's always shouting at me and I don't like to be shouted at. So you know what, when I come home, I just go to my room and I closed the door. 'cause I don't like to be shouted at, so you know, small town, I bump into the debt, and I say, dad, your daughter mentioned me the other day that you're always shouting at her and he says, Dr sacks, I never one shouted that girl you ever I'm saying to you, like what I hear. But so I explained to him how there are these differences as a function of age as as a function of male. Compare. With female. I said, look, the next time you talked to your daughter whisper. I mean, not literally whisper, but lower your voice way, way, way down. And so a couple of weeks later, I bump into the daughter and she says, oh my gosh, my father can actually talk like an oral person. In this case, the lack of awareness of these hardwired sex differences has the unintended consequence of driving a father and daughter apart. No one had ever told dad, yes, you need to lower your voice when you speak to your daughter? No one had ever told him he's happy to do it. Nobody ever told him these sex differences are important. They should be well known. They are not well known that was a major major motivation for me to write. Why gender matters sex differences in vision. So what am I favored studies here? His from Auburn in Alabama. Again, they're working with college students, young men, young women, and they in one typical slide, they have four different shades of green lime, green mint, green, Jade, and emerald, and underneath the four shades of green, they have four words or four phrases lime green mint, green, Jade, and emerald, and one at a time they show each student, the four shades of green and the four words or phrases describing those four shades of green. And they asked him to match the correct word or phrase to the correction of green and the girls nail it. The girls get them all correct. And this is true whether the girl is a tomboy or a girly girl girls nail it, but the boys really struggle the way said, well, that's green. That's kind of light green. That's kind of dark green, Jade. I can't really help you there. I imagine that's some shade of green. These differences are hardwired. They are innate and, and parents need to understand this because you know if you're a mother of a son and you say, we can't can't wear a lime green shirt with mint, green pants, realize what's obvious to you is not so obvious to him. Right? You have to be patient and these differences begin at birth? I mean, I've I've had many parents sort of say to me who've had a boy and girl, you know, within months I saw differences between my kids attentiveness or interest in moving objects or stationary objects were. And so I see them, but studies confirm this as well. Don't they that there are stark differences between girls and boys? It very, very young age, yes. So for many years, I twelve different studies in which researchers gave young children, three, four, five, six years of age, a choice of playing with a doll or truck a girl toy or boy toy, a colorful dial or delegate truck. And every one of these studies consistently finds that the girls somewhat preferred to play with the colorful dollar rather than the truck. The boys greatly prefer to play with a truck rather than with the dog now, look, I, I counted this the first time I encountered where those studies was thirty eight years ago. I was a first year graduate student at the university of Pennsylvania taking a course in developmental psychology, and the professor just an errand freed which sharing these studies with us. And he said. That these differences developed because of the social construction of gender that we teach girls that girls are supposed to sit and play with dolls, but he says, we sent, he says, we sent a much stronger message. Boys boys are absolutely not supposed to play with those boys. You're supposed to play with a truck that any boy who plays with Dahl is defective, and that's why he said the preference of the boy to play with adult great truck is much bigger than their willingness to play with a carful doll. Whereas among girls, it's not such a dramatic difference. Stir girls do play with trucks. They just play with dolls more, and that's perfectly plausible to me back in nineteen eighty. I didn't question that I don't have anyone who did Jerrianne. Alexander was then at Yale was the first to come up with the idea of giving the same choice to monkeys. Give monkeys yours of playing with a colorful doll or dull grey truck. And it turns out that. At the juvenile male monkeys greatly prefer to play with a dollar great truck rather than with a colorful doll and why gender mattress. I include a lot of research with monkeys and chimpanzees and gorillas because I think it's really instructive. If we find these same differences among monkeys and chimp chimpanzees gorillas it's very hard to say while these differences just arrived because boys are watching cartoons on Saturday morning, chimpanzees don't watch cartoons on Saturday morning, and yet we find the same sex differences among other primates like chimpanzees gorillas and monkeys that we do among humans. So it's it's not plausible to argue that the differences are all determined by culture when we see them in other primates, which do not have anything remotely, like human culture, they're not playing video games or watching Saturday morning cartoons and. Yet we find the same sex Durance is among non human primates. I think that it's really important for parents to understand that. And I think that a number of parents who've had more than two or three kids, particularly kids of the diff of different sexes. No, this and believe what you're saying. I think sometimes though parents feel particularly young parents. It's really important for me to parent my kids in a gender neutral way because I don't want to influence who they become because they could become girl, could become, a boy could become a girl. But I think that to really understand that there are a lot of very real differences between girls and boys in that good. You know, we shouldn't feel that being female or being male is a bad thing that they the kids need to move away from either and sort of move to the center because it really. Fuses kids. You know, we've heard a lot about gender identity, confusion in the media in it's so frequently talked about that. Now. Many schools are implementing changes in pronoun news from he and she to it and more. Can you explain to our audience what gender identity confusion is and what it isn't, we can show easily get tangled up in the words here. The DSM that diagnostic and statistical manual, which is the book that doctors used to classify any kind of mental issue used to use the term gender identity disorder that is no longer the correct term. Now we're supposed to use the phrase gender dysphoric. But what we're talking about in both cases is a boy who insists that he is a girl trapped in the body of a boy or girl who insists that she is a boy trapped in the body of a girl. Now there have always been such. Individuals, but they have been very rare. So nine hundred ninety four nine hundred ninety four. That's less than twenty five years ago the American psychiatric association estimated that the prevalence of gender identity disorder was less than one in thirty thousand, but they said it's so rare that we really can't give any numbers for sure. Last year time magazine had a cover story titled beyond he or she and they included a survey of two thousand millennials. So these are young people, twelve percent of whom said they were not SIS, gender, meaning they're not sure of whether they're male or female. So we've gone from less than one in ten thousand to more than one in ten by that measure and other more recent surveys have the percentage anyway between three percent and twelve percent. But certainly there has been an explosion in the proportion of young people who say that they are unsure about whether they are male or female. This used to be rare. It is now very common in the sense that it's it's certainly more than one in one hundred in every recent study, and that's that's going from less than one in ten thousand to more than one in one hundred. That's a huge change in twenty years. That's a huge change Paris. I hope you're enjoying my conversation with Dr Leonard Sachs, we need to take a quick break by, don't go anywhere. 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Some girls would rather wrestle a hog or play soccer. Okay. Okay. This is where I think some of this confusion is coming from, and I quote, adult women women in their fifties and sixties who say, you know, when I was growing up, I hate addresses. I only hung out with the boys I ran around, I played sports. I hit people. But I'm aware man, and I never doubted that I was a woman. I was a tomboy. If I were growing up today, I'm sure people would be saying, oh, are you trans? And I cite an article by a woman who wrote an article titled my daughter is not transgender. She's a tomboy. The irony of this push for quote, transgender rights, unquote, instead it his resulted in a narrowing and stereotyping of gender. In other words, if this particular girl doesn't like Barbie dolls and doesn't want to wear a dress immediately, people are asking your parents. Oh, do you think she's trans? She'd not trans. She's a tomboy. There have always been many girls who in twelve and twenty percent of girls will enjoy sports and activities that we generally associate with boys, something on the order of one and five to one in six girls love to play soccer loved to run around outdoors, don't like pink, don't wanna wear address. These girls are not trans there what we used to call tomboys, but actually we're not supposed to use that word anymore. That gender police tell us we're supposed to. Use the term gender non conforming. All right, fine. You know, I'm not gonna argue about words, but this girl. Okay, she's gender non conforming meaning she doesn't like to wear dresses. She doesn't like pink. But she's not out boy. She's a girl. There's more than one way to be a girl, and that's the great confusion that underlies a lot of what's going on right now. And the same is true with boys. Yeah. I mean, the same is true with boys buoyed with it. You know, the last chapter by book is called the male female mistake. And what I mean by the male female mistake is very simple. It's the notion that every boy likes blue and football and dinosaurs, and every girl likes pink and Barbies and dresses. That's not true. It has never been true. There have always been a substantial number of girls who hate pink and hate dresses, and wanna roll in the mud and boys who don't like football, don't like violent combat and would rather. Go to a ballet. There's nothing new about that. What is new is the confusion that if a, if a boy doesn't fit in the blue cubbyhole, then he must be trans. That's new. And that incidentally is my short answer to the question. What's driving this explosion in proportion of young people who think they're trans, it's the male female mistake. This girl thinks I hate, I hate dresses I'd just like to wear overalls painter pants, and she's immersed in a culture that is now telling her, oh, you must be trans shows shows like, maybe I am. I mean, how is she supposed to know better? If the New York Times and time magazine are telling her, oh, you must be trans yet. You know, that's again a big motivation for writing. The book is to give some evidence based guidance saying, okay, your daughter hates Barbies. Your daughter would much rather play soccer. That doesn't mean she's. Trans, it means she's a Tom bright and that is a more variation. Yeah. And I think that identifying girls who align themselves with traditionally masculine roles in boys who align themselves with traditional female roles, femininity when we failed to accept that that's who they are and label them as trans. I think that's we're really communicating to kids that we don't accept you. We really don't accept this is the way you are. So we're going to, we're going to label you of that twelve percent that you said of millennials who say they're trans, what percentage of those do you really think are? Are the people who are struggling with a sense that they're living in the wrong body? Because to me, there's this deep sense, this sort of interests, psychic conflict. If you will, were these young. Kids thinks they know something is desperately wrong. They're living in the wrong body. They're living in the wrong body, and those kids are miles away from the other kids who are who want to be a tomboy in the right. You know, girls identifying with voice things and assert a lump them all together, I think, is really harmful to the kids who are really struggling because it diminishes the seriousness of their issues. So of the twelve percent of the kids who are identifying themselves as trans or they're not sure who they are. What percent do you feel are really deeply confused about who they are by estimate is said it would be on the order of one or two percent of that of that twelve percent because there is a real phenomenon of gender dis foia and researchers are studying a possible biological base. Of this and and there is no plausible way that that has changed profoundly over thirty years time. I think a great many of these young people are that gender non conforming individual. That girl who hates pink who hates dresses and who's looking at time magazine the New York Times and is simply confused because how should she know she has received no guidance? If she reads time magazine in the New York Times that if you hate pink and you hate dresses, maybe you're trans, then she thinks, well, maybe I'm trans again. How should she know bad her as she has received no instruction. But the great majority, these young women are not trans. They are simply what we used to call tomboys and that's fine. There's nothing wrong with that. And we want to support those people and add again of the book has mainly written for parents. If your daughter is six or twelve and hates Barbies and doesn't like. S.'s I'm referring that parents, your daughter is not trans. You do not need to transition her to a male identity, nor should you. That's not in her best interest. You need to celebrate who she is. You should not push her to play with Barbies. That's not who she is. That's not what she wants to do. Again, one of the challenges for the parent is to figure out who is my child and how, how can I help my child to fulfil her potential when neither you nor your child know what that potential is. The great challenge of being a good parent. Right. So what do you say to parents who had a five or six year old even a ten or eleven year old who comes and says, you know, mommy, I think I might be a boy. It's girl and, or you know, a boy who says, I think I wanna be a. Girl. How do you coach parents in discerning whether their child really is transgender or whether they're just going through a phase? What do you say to parents will? My recommendations are always based in evidence. So I would restate your question in this way. What do we know about a six year old boy or a nine year old boy who comes to his parents and says, I am a girl trapped in the body of a boy. We actually know a lot. We have people like to kind of sucker who have been studying these individuals for thirty years who met that boy when he was six years old and that boy is now thirty six years old. He's been following this same individual for thirty years. We know what is likely to happen. And we know that if a six year old boy or an eight year old boy comes to you and says, I am a girl. Oh, trapped in the body of a boy. We know that fifteen years down the road when that person is in their early twenty s the most likely outcome for that individual is that he will be a gay man. He will be a homosexual man. He will not want to be a woman. He will not think he is a woman. He will know that he is a gay man. These second boasts common outcome is that he will be a straight man. He doesn't want to be a woman. He is a statement agenda, non-conforming straight man. A man who would rather go to the ballet, then go to a football game, but he is still a straight man. The least likely outcome less than three percent is that this individual were will persist persist is the technical word that the researchers use means that in his twenties, this individual still says, I am a woman trapped in the body of a man. That is a unusual outcome. Again, the most likely outcome is this boy is gonna grow up to be a gay man. Well, so how can you tell right if your child is six years old, you cannot ask a six year old about their sexual orientation, nor should you. It's not a meaningful question. I remember when I was seven years old, I remember saying to my mom, mom, if I get married drive to take off my pajamas in bed with the girl. And I remember my mom answering me well, yes, but you'll want to and. I said, no, I won't yuck. Well, I turned out to be a straight man. I've been happily married to my wife for twenty eight years, but it's not appropriate to ask a seven year old about their sexual orientation because a pre Pugh Bessant child does not have a sexual agenda agenda, nor should they, there is no way that the parents of a six-year-old can determine whether that's six year old is going to grow to be straight or gay or anything else you can't do it. There is no validated mechanism to determine the sexual orientation of a six-year-old which means there there is no way you can tell. So what about what about the thirteen or fourteen year old? Okay. Once puberty has happened, once the process of puberty is complete, it's a whole different ballgame. And again, doctors ochre and his colleagues who followed these kids have found that you don't have to wait twenty years by the. Time there sixteen years old, ten years down the road from when they first came to you at eight, six, six year old boy comes to date. Six says he's a girl trapped in body of a boy, ten years down the road at age sixteen. He says, I'm a gay. I'm gay. He has figured it out. He doesn't wanna be girl. He is coming to grips with the reality of the fact that he is homosexual. He is a homosexual, man. He's not a woman trapped in the body of a man. He's a homosexual man, or he may have come to the realization. I'm a straight man, but I don't like football. I don't like context sports. I'd much rather go to the Bali for good the RTC. So he's a gender non conforming straight men, but he is not a woman. He doesn't want to be a woman. Those two outcomes are overwhelming. The most common outcomes of the research following these kids over many years. They grow up either to be sexual men or the grow up to be straight men who are often gender, not conforming in their tastes parents because this is a comprehensive topic and I wanted to give doctor sax the whole time for the podcast. I don't have the opportunity to answer reader questions, but not to worry in the podcasts in the near future. I will answer plenty of reader questions. In the meantime, I love hearing from you. So send me any question you have. You can Email me your parenting questions to ask Meg at Meg meeker MD dot com. Again, that's asked Meg at Meg Nieker, MD dot com. I want to thank my guest Dr. Leonard Sachs who has written a lot of wonderful books, but you need to check out. Out why gender matters also check out his website at Leonard Sachs dot com that sacks with an x. So let's recap my points to ponder one simply because your child is fascinated by the opposite. Sex does not mean that he or she is transgender to learn the difference between being cruelly transgender and going through a normal state, three recognize a fad, if and when it appears in your child and your child from. 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#67: Motherhood and Marriage (with guest Becky Thompson)

Parenting Great Kids with Dr. Meg Meeker

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#67: Motherhood and Marriage (with guest Becky Thompson)

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Before we get into our show today, I would like to tell you about our guest Becky, Thomson author of love unending, rediscovering your marriage in the midst of motherhood. Becky Thompson is the author of scissor tail s I l k a blog that draws a global audience of. Millions speaking to the often overlooked struggle of balancing life as a mother wife and daughter of God. Becky has a captivating way of becoming the voice for women in need of hope, healing and the father's love. Her blog grew dramatically in two thousand fourteen from an average monthly audience of a thousand to one point, five million when she switched her message from fashion to hope. Becky became a work at home. Mom when her first son was born in two thousand nine shortly after becoming a sought after and highly successful wedding and portrait photographer, a self professed city girl. Becky is a recent transplant to southern California where she lives with her husband, Jared, and their three young children. 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It's on my website and let's help bring more order more fun back into your relationship with your kids. So France, I want you now. To listen in on the conversation I had with Becky Thompson, I know you're really going to enjoy it. We'll Becky Thomson. Thank you so much for joining me on my podcast. Thank you so much for having me. It's such an honor to be here and to speak to your listeners. Well, you know, I love talking to busy moms, horror sort of feeling like my life is out of control. It's crazy, how am I doing this? But it's also fun and particularly moms like you who are still in the throes of having relatively young kids. And you know, and I'm one of his older moms. My kids are grown and I have grandkids now, and I hear you talk about the ages of your kids and my heart goes all. And yet I realized that you're going, oh, you know, and everybody says it does go facet. Does you were a very busy lady? You're an author, your mom, you have a podcast, you have a very busy man. Ministry, website, blog, you sort of you give moms a lot of encouragement and a lot of inspiration. But specifically what I'd like to start off talking with is a little bit about your story and why you do what you do and how you got into this crazy life of writing and blogging, and speaking to mothers. Well, thank you so much for the opportunity to share that story. I think it's always important to not just see people where they are now, but here their heart of how they got there. And and so for me, I ended up in my husband's small town in the middle of nowhere, Oklahoma. And this was a surprise plot twists to my life because I wanted marrying a pastor and traveling the world that was by had envisioned. But I ended up. Helping run. The family company was an oilfield pipeline construction company. So helping my husband with his very busy job really isolated from the life that I had before we moved there and I had to very small children Where'd you grow up? I actually grew up in Oklahoma City which is not a huge metropolis, but it is a city and I had a community there, and I had people that I knew there and friends and other family. And so moving to this very small town in north west Oklahoma, which we always joke the n. w. in northwest should just be nowhere, you know, should stand for nowhere. You know, it was just it was just a shock. It was a culture shock, but it felt very isolating. And motherhood can feel very isolating anyway. And so I was out there doing thing raising these kids wondering secretly under the surface. If I had married the wrong guy, could've I had if I had ended up here on some plan b and had detoured from God's plan for my life. I had all these underlying fears that I didn't want to ever give voice to because you know what did that say about my relationship with my husband or the Lord or my reality? Well, which by the way, I think the majority of women in the first couple years, have the sense what have I done, but we don't want to say anything I did now. I- vocalized it to my husband's like, okay, thank you very much. You know, I got married in med school and I ended up in a small town living in a place. I never thought I would live, but I, I want to encourage mothers and women out there who've been married for a couple years. We're thinking, what in the world, if I'd done hang on, there was a reason you married him and there's a reason and it's so so don't just throw him away because you had these thoughts. I didn't interrupt you Becky, but I really wanted to have a lot of the women out there. It's pretty normal feeling so go on and the truth is we don't talk about it. We all wonder made these terrible life choices and no one's no one's talking about that in the Sunday school classes or in the lobbies of Churchill or even to our closest girlfriends. You know, I've made the biggest mistake of my life and I'm stuck in the truth is I think the enemy comes in with with that lie and it's just a doubt. But the truth is the Lord has positioned us exactly where we are for great. Purpose and great destiny. And we do hear his voice and he does lead us kindly. So I was stuck in a season of not feeling like I had heard the voice of the Lord, very clearly for my life and not having a lot of council to speak into the truth that I had. And so I wondered if this was what my life was going to be very unexpectedly, turning out this way, then I was just going to be the very best mom and the very best wife. And I was going to put my whole heart and soul into my family, which is an an incredible mission. And it's an incredible ministry, but it really wasn't who I was underneath the surface of at all because like, you know, we aren't just intended to be the titles that we wear. We are. I all daughters and I was finding my identity in the roles that I had rather than my position is daughter and trusting my good father. And so in the middle of all of this, I thought, you know what I need. I need something just for me. I had put so much heart and soul into caring for these kids. And caring for my husband that I felt really lost still, and I was still searching for that purpose and that identity. And so do you know what I did? And so when I told his story back, I went shopping for myself which doesn't seem deal the, but when you have two little kids, don't let anyone ever tell you that changing your clothes and going shopping won't change your life because it did it totally was the door that led to my destiny retail therapy. I'm telling you is hunter. Yeah, it's so true. But what happened is I found this online boutique that sold close and it was really easy for me to shop there because they had fast free shipping. If you didn't like it, you could just return it. And I wasn't taking a three year old and a two year old to the mall with me, that would just end up terribly. So I ordered something and then this boutique had this online contest, post a picture of yourself wearing one of our outfits on Facebook, and then the most likes on that wins, one hundred dollars worth of free close. So I contacted everybody that I knew and said, hey, here's a picture of me that I took in my bathroom when I put my conduct side the door and there was sticking their fingers underneath. Mommy, what are you doing? I'm taking a very important selfie kids, and I did not win that contest, but I got a contact from a message from the woman who had the boutique who owned the boutique. And she asked if I was a fashion blocker and a kind of laughed because my life was so opposite of a person who tries on clothes and tells the world that this is what they need to wear because they're. Trend. And when I realized she was serious, she said, well, it's too bad that you're not a fashion blocker because I would pay you to have an advertisement on your website, and I would send you a free clothes every month. And I laughed. And I said, did I say I wasn't a fashion blogger because when I would really met with is I am. I don't know how I forgot. Still high started a fashion blog. I started fashion blog that day and and I, I started telling women that if they put on these outfits, they would feel better about themselves. And the sad truth is that it wasn't working for me. The clothes weren't helping. They weren't getting to the underlying issues. And as I began to write, I sort of got to the root of my own heart issues, and I realized that it wasn't ever going to be what I put on or who I took care of or what I did in my time during the day, it was going to be my relationship with the Lord that anchored at all. And if I didn't have that. The restored hope that God had good plans and good purposes. And then he saw me even though I didn't see this coming that I would never have hope in any other area of my life. So as I began to share that with my readers, I just had this moment where I felt like the Lord said to me Becky, I'm gonna give you an audience and you're going to be responsible for them and not knowing what was coming. I jokingly replied to the Lord in my heart. I will make sure that they are the best dressed audience Jesus, I will. I will show them how to wear their clothes. But really he brought women who are in the same place of life that I was in and I was able to speak hope and encouragement. And what happened late one night is that I wrote an article and send it out to my then four hundred followers on Facebook. And the next morning I woke up and it had over seven thousand shares which quickly progressed to twenty five thousand shares, and it was an article about how I forgotten how to be a wife when I was busy being among and in that article, I just said, I wish that somebody had stopped me. And said before, anything else, really, you're a daughter, but after that you became a wife and you loved this man, and there was a reason you chose him just like you said and and cling tightly to each other because your your responsibilities are going to change. But the people underneath the responsibilities have always been there and they will always be there and it went viral because I feel like it hit just this heart issue that so many women feel that they don't know how to bring light to, which is when I become a mom, how do I find time to be a wife? You know? So let's back up if we can. You are fashion blogging, and you're wearing beautiful clothes, and you're encouraging other women to wear beautiful clothes, and you happen on an emptiness in realize, wait a minute. This is delivering what I thought it was going to deliver. There's more of me underneath here. There's more than being a professional. There's more than being a blogger there's more than. Being a mom, there's more than being a wife. So. So what did you find underneath all of that that allowed you to go? This is what satisfies when close won't. And when I'm living in this tiny little town and I feel isolated and I'm trying to fill up my life with something that is satisfying, but it's not working. What did you find worked? You know, I felt I feel like the Lord. If I could speak into this just begin gently calling my heart back to original dreams, which is that he invited me back into an intimacy with him. And that happened when I, I don't know, I guess it's kind of like when you have a small child and you watch them realize that the puzzle piece won't fit there. And there's a frustration that comes when they're trying to put that puzzle piece in that place, and it's not working. And as the parent, you can see that they need to twist it just a little bit and they'll get it. But you know, they'll be a greater satisfaction. Action. If they try and they can figure out what fits and you know, the Lord is always that answer for us. We put a million other things in in place of that relationship. But at the end of the day, the Lord is what what fills our hearts. And for me because I had this foundation of great face and because I had wonderful mentors and because I knew exactly who God was to me and who revealed himself to be in his word, I recognized myself as turning puzzle pieces that weren't designed to be in that position. And so if I, if I have to be honest and say, what worked, it was just the revelation of this is not working. Does that make sense? It was almost as if you say, yeah, you know it wasn't. It wasn't that I had this grand moment of, wow, I need Jesus instead. It was, why am I doing this? What's the real? You know? Why is this not fulfilling? And then the Lord just kindly leading like he leads all of us in saying, will you come away with me? We'll you spend more time in my word, we'll you will you. Listen to me throughout the day. I want to be president with you, and I began to slowly recognize these lies that I had. I had believed and I don't know if I wrote them down. I can't think of a place where I would have put them other than the blog itself, but just to address the areas of my heart where I believed that I married the wrong man. I believed that God had forgotten about me because I believed I had married the wrong man and ended up in a life that I hadn't chosen that I couldn't hear God clearly because if I could've heard him, then he would have led me a different way. And I believe that now I was all on my own, and now it was up to me and you know my, the lies that I believe I don't believe are far from the lies that many women believe in maybe even all the way back to eve don't don't. We all in the lies. We constantly tell ourselves every day, and I think that you know, one of the points that I'm hearing from your store, I wanted to drive home because there are many women who are feeling. Exactly how you felt when you felt you'd married the wrong man. You're living in a tiny town. You never signed up for and you're feeling kind of miserable. So you start reaching and running and you start trying to slam puzzle pieces in the wrong way. And I think we've all sort of been there done that. We're trying to fill our time with things that we feel will be fulfilling because sometimes we feel empty and our marriages empty and parenting, we're just exhausted were lonely. And I think in those moments because you're absolutely right, every woman is created to be bigger than the jobs we perform, and that includes being a mom and being a doctor and being a writer and being a wife, it is about I connecting with our, I love which is God and I will. I will tell you. We only learned that after we'd been running and slamming puzzle pieces. Because it doesn't come easily. It comes through the frustration. It comes through the because it has to be a choice. You know, God isn't one who've who who forces his way in our lives. He waits until we go, okay. Okay. Okay. You know, doing this is not delivering and doing this isn't delivering and I'll never forget one of our daughters when she was in her mid twenties, decided that God had called her to go as a teacher work in Indonesia for a year and a half. And I had believed and her dad had believed and she had believed up until that point that she was going to go to South America and we were fine with that because we'd been to South America. My husband done missions, yada, yada, but Indonesia. So I said to her, we'll God needs to talk to the mom. I and she's made about it. Mom. I will got hasn't talked to me yet. So anyway she went and I'll never forget. It was extremely hard for her, but she loved it after the first three or four months. And she again, was sort of she didn't have children. She wasn't married like, okay, what am I supposed to do? What am I supposed to do? What am I supposed to do this? This? And when she came home, I said to her in the first twenty four hours. Tell me one thing the most important thing you learned in living as far away from home as you can possibly be. And she said, mom, I learned that God is enough and that when we run and we jam puzzle pieces and we go, I've got try this. I've got to be this. I need to get this education. I need this many children. God just waits until we slow down and go, okay. But first Becky. I might Charlotte, my daughter first, Meg, you're with me, and then the beginning of a life in the end of life. I'm who you have and everything else. That's good comes out of that relationship. So I'm so grateful that you learn that when you were trying to sell clothes. So after that you started to say, okay. I'm learning these deeper things about myself, and I'm learning to sort of say, okay, God, you take the reins here because because selling clothes isn't working and oh my gosh, I just wrote this thing and I touched a nerve with a lot of women. Tell me what you begin to learn about life from that point on you started talking about marriage. Exactly. And so you know about, I would say about a month right? About a month before I wrote the bog post that went viral and we would call it as we would call it. I just felt like the Lord had asked me and I feel like this is important part of the story to share asked me. So what do you want your heart to be known for? Do you want your heart to be known for telling women, put this on, you'll feel better about yourself or do you want to tell women, you know, I am all that you need. So pointing back to your story of God being enough, I thought, Well, I, I, I know the. But do I have to get rid of all the free close? So I did. I took down all the advertisements, and I knew what my heart wanted to say, and I knew what I'd always wanted to do with my life. I had always wanted to be the one that pointed Jesus and I just I needed that six months of remembering that he was what fulfilled my heart. So he would be enough for everyone else. And so I took down all of the advertisements. I contacted all of the sponsors because I had grown quite a bit in that short time and after I was faithful to do that and really set my heart indeterminate my heart and steady that course of I will bring hope to the women who are where I am and where I have been. That's when I wrote the blog post about that. I call two wives before you were mommy about how I'd forgotten how to be a wife and how sometimes husbands forget how to be a father. And I wrote this post very simple, put it up, had immediate traction, and I began to receive messages from women literally all across the globe. I have a friend from Singapore who said. A friend of mine back home in Singapore is sharing your article that's been translated, and I think this is a universal mesh message. And so I, I received these messages from women saying, this is great. I wish someone had told us how to be a wife when we were busy being a mom. I wish someone had told us the importance of cleaning to our spouse and to the Lord. Before we jumped into this deep deep end pool of motherhood, and they said, so what's? What's the answer? Becky doc writing? I thought, I don't know. I said it was a problem. I thought I had how you is gonna find a problem and said, okay, help we need the solution here. Okay, this solution, but I didn't have one. And so it was so interesting because publishing houses apparently noticed the traction on the blog and the how many women were responding to it. And they said, well, we would love to publish the answer. So if you have the answer, we will publish the answer. I I still don't have the answer. And so this is what I love, how God will just weaves are stories toge-. Other late one night. I was very pregnant with my with my third baby, and because we lived in the middle of nowhere. I had moved in with my parents with my other two children while my husband stayed home and and worked. And that way I could be closer to the hospital when I went into labor. So that last month I was staying with my folks and my mom was putting my two older children to bed. Getting of love on ending. This is at the beginning of all by love the story. I was gonna ask you to tell the story, so go pay attention listeners. Okay. Tell the story Becky. So my mom is putting my kids to bed and I'm sitting in my living my parents living room with my dad, which is not an unfamiliar seen you not maybe not the part about putting my kids to my mom putting my bed, but I've had many conversations where I've just sat with my dad and talked in. It's just been a joy of my life to have the privilege of that sort of relationship. But I looked at my dad and he knew what was being asked of me. He knew that people were asking for this answer and almost like the Lord. I feel like he sat back waiting for me to ask him maybe and I just said, dad, what is the answer? What do I do? How do I? How do we find our way back to that? I love that we had before kids and jobs and responsibilities stolas away from each other. What do I do with Jared. My husband. What do all these women do with their husbands help? And my dad's would of smiled and I'm not sure why I didn't think to ask him before Dr Mick because he, he's always loved my mom with this fresh sort of love as if it was the beginning every day. I've never heard him speak down to her. I've never heard him. You know, it was kind of frustrating when I was in high school because he always took her side and died. You know, I'm right, but he never. He never changed sides. He was always her biggest advocate and just so kind and loving. And I feel like it's important to paint that picture of him because when I was sitting there, I knew that I could trust whatever he was about to say. I said, dad, what do I? What do I say to them? And I'll never forget. It was late at night. The only light was coming from over his shoulder. This lamp in this big wingback chair that he sat in. It looked like a movie. He looks over his shoulder to see if my mom is in earshot because he's gonna. Tell me this family secret. I'm thinking right before my dad tells me. This great advice, I'm thinking, what kind of secret have you been keeping? We're the light twelve years of my marriage. I feel like you could have at least told me this would have been, you know, sage advice on my wedding day to say, Honey, do this, but no, here we are in the middle of Oklahoma on an August night and he says, Becky, tell them to do what I do every morning. I wake up and I tell myself that it's the first day I'm married to your mom, and I have done that for nearly forty years and it took me a really long time I before I said anything to him. And at first I thought, oh, right. Dad like anybody could ever do that like, do, do you know how hard that would be like? Do do you understand how much work we? My husband and I, this point had eleven years now nearly ten years of of distance, you know, of small steps and a slight angle away. From each other, you know, and and how are we ever going to get back to treating each other like that? I don't even remember what that was like. But as I sat there working through these emotions and I realized what that would really look like, you know if each morning I woke up and I told myself that there wasn't a list of yesterday's and past hurts and offenses. And will you didn't change the diaper in the last like five times? So it's clearly your time, and I'm totally resenting the fact that you're not just doing it. You know, it would change how I talk to him how I touched him. How I interacted with him every if I could get back today one exactly everything, and you know what? Becky, I think that that's such a beautiful lesson. And if it's okay with you, I'd like to to read his full response you. You gave us the most important, but what he said to you that day was so profound. It is really and I've been married thirty eight years and my husband sounds. He's very much like your dad. I don't think my husband ever put me down in front of our kids always treated me respectfully. Always sided with me when our kids were acting up, even if I was wrong, you know, but but but we, as women can do to our spouses exactly what your dad did and if it's okay, I'll read. He said, Becky, if I wake up every wake up and tell myself that is the day I'm marriage, your mom, it changes everything. She is just my bride. She's the woman I fell for and she doesn't have to prove thing to earn my love. It's a new start every day. There isn't a yesterday full of her to reference. There isn't a need for forgiveness. There isn't anything I need overlooked. There isn't a list. I'm counting against her. There isn't a chance for space to separate us or for us to feel as if we are an old married couple, it's just new love. Every day, and I love that because that is something every single woman can listen to and say tomorrow morning, I'm going to pretend this man. This is the first staff, my marriage. He didn't just yell yesterday. He didn't just forget to come home on time. He didn't just forget my birthday today. I'm going to start fresh because that allows us as women to look at her husband's differently. But most important to begin to take those small steps of treating them well, and I'll tell you a secret about men. They are so easy to please. I mean, all you have to do is phone here and there or just do some nice things. Some very simple things like when they come into the. The room at the end of the day, get up out of your chair and walk over to them and say, hey, how are you? I'm glad to see you. Xactly. It will just take their away phrasing. Yeah. My husband loves smelt. I can't stand smelt, but our fishery, the other day had it and they hadn't had it in over a year and I was very excited and he walked in and I said, I have a surprise for you today. And I think he maybe thought of my bottom of new biker whatever I said, I made you smelt and you know, it just made him feel so good. So I think that so many times if we just turn our behavior a little bit, turn our speech Turner thoughts a little bit. It brings a freshness tour marriage that most men are so receptive to because another secret I've learned about husbands is this. If we feel bad about ourselves as wives, they feel worse about themselves as husbands. Wow. In general, a man self esteem is very low, but you'll never know it because they don't talk about it and they don't wanna show it. So when we who are who they chose to begin to treat them respectfully their self esteem jumps up two notches, and they in turn, start to show respect and love back. That's true. It's true. Parents. I hope you're enjoying my conversation with Becky Thompson. We need to take a quick break bud, don't go anywhere. We'll be right back with more of my conversation with Becky Thompson, using millions of real women's measurements. Third love designs. It's bras with breast size and shape in mind for an impeccable fit and incredible feel with cups from as through h and bands up to forty eight. Third love offers double the number of sizes that most other brands offer plus their bras, feature tag, less labels, meaning no itching straps. It won't slip, lightweight, super thin memory foam cups and ultra soft smoothing fabrics. 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You know, I think I to address why it's so important. It's because you know long after the children are gone. There's just going to be two people sitting in the house looking at each other, and we wanna make sure that they aren't just still in love, but they know each other and that they've been investing into each other's lives while while raising these children that before they were kids, there was a marriage and after there are kids in the home, it's important that they're still a marriage, and I have personal friends who have walked this road and who have not ended. This road the same way that my parents are ending this story. I don't feel like I put that the right way. I want to clarify. My parents aren't ending their story. I'm just saying that aren't in the same place in the same season of life. My parents are continuing on in marriage. You know, they're, they're strangers. These other people are strangers, and I really think it's important that if we can meet these needs in the early years and address these heart issues in the early years, then we have more of a chance of of having a relationship like my parents and like, and like yourself and your husband when thirty eight years of marriage comes around. And so that's my heart is steering here in the beginning. But when I was sitting there in my parents living room, thinking to myself, how do I do this? Because yes, you've been doing this since the beginning dad, but I've got ten years. How am I going to get back today? One, I don't even remember what that looked like. I realized that there needed to be a practical strategy with very simple steps because I still had to very small kids and a newborn on the way. So I had to have a. Sized approach for women in the thick of everything else in the middle of everything else taking on one attribute of being a great wife every day. And so I started making a list. I made a list and ended up with twenty one things that I did in the beginning that I no longer did today. And I think it's so funny because these aren't, you know, when we, it's funny because when we look at these, what's the secret? What do we do? It's all the stuff we did did before. So it's nothing new. I'm not introducing any new idea. I'm just reminding the readers of this book exactly who they once were. And so really it starts with, like you said, when my husband came home from work because we had that sort of family structure, I was at home with the kids and he went out to work, but I know that's not the case for every family. You know often the wife works and the husband's stays at home. But for the purpose of my story, that was our situation when when we came back together when he walked in the door, I made a point to stop what I was doing. You know, carry the finish up the diaper. If I had to carry the baby to the door and just hug him and welcome him back into our home without handing him responsibility. The second he walked in the door because in that season of life, I was waving my white flag before he even turned onto our street. You know, I was thinking, okay, five more minutes and I can make I can make I can make it, and then he'd walk in the door. And I'd be like here I just need a breath, but you know, he's been living his day apart from the home and while I was in it, it really got to the point Dr where I didn't see any of his exhaustion, and he didn't see any of mine and neither of our needs are really being met. And so giving him space to come in the door and breathe as he transitioned from work to home without putting all these additional responsibilities on him and saying, okay, you gotta run, run alongside me. It's a marathon. Now dinner bads bedtime. It was it was giving him a space and seeing him as as the man. I fell in love with rather than just the help coming to rescue me and and so that. That put the focus back on our relationship rather than just what he could do to help me in that time. Another simple thing that I did was just how I spoke to him, you know, in the very beginning, I think it wasn't just what I said. But the tone of my my requests, I'm giving my daughter a bath and I'm shouting at him. Get up off the couch. I need a towel. If you bring it to me, then I can get her out of the bath and I can go to bed because I'm exhausted too. You know? Whereas in the beginning I might say, you know, we didn't have children before before we got married, but I might have said, hey, when you get a minute, will you bring me that when you when you get a second? I know you're tired, if will you, will you help me with that? And so I think the tone of our hearts conveys a lot more than just the words that we say. And I think when we've been dealing with small kids, it's easy for that same tone to spill over onto our spouse. You know. And I think that too many women who are listening who go well, that's a really great idea. But here's the deal. My husband isn't around. And I have a lot of anger towards my husband. I'm very disappointed in my husband. We've grown very far apart where various strange. I'm very frustrated with him, and I think that as people listen, you know, we start to all these feelings towards husband start to bubble up to the surface because the truth of matter is parenting children together, extremely hard. You know, my husband and I have worked in a medical practice for many years and people go, how do you do that? I say, you know, working together as easy. Let me tell you it's hard is parenting kids together because we don't always agree. And the truth of matter is when it comes to parenting, like anything in life, usually one person carries the lion share the work. It's just kind of life you, you don't mean to, but it's kind of the way it goes. So you develop an animosity. And I think that when we're frustrated because is the person that were closest to our expectations are highest up, we dumb. All of that onto our spouse. Women to men, men do to women, but I think the most important thing about what you right, because you're twenty one steps that you write about in love on ending are are so practical, and I can just see people picking this book up going yet a you to understand. I really don't feel like doing that. What doesn't right atr what you feel like, you know, it's okay. I know you're mad. I know you're frustrated. I know you're right. A string, this guy up, but try a handful of these things because when you change your behavior, you change the way you think, and you change the way you think you changed the way you feel. And there's so many women at ten years of marriage, fifteen years of marriage. There's they're just ready to throw in the towel, and my encouragement would be don't hold on because even if you don't do any of these Twenty-one things, you suggestion your book Becky life changes. It beats you up something even if you wanted to stay in the frustration of your marriage or the anger, whatever, and keep it just the same in his today. It won't stay that way. It's either gonna get better. It's going to get worse a little bit of help and get a whole lot better. And I and I think you know, as one who sort of lived through on the other side because they're years, I'm thinking, I just can't do the same more. This guy's just not around. He's just all into his work and he's not interested in helping me parent and he's, you know, we do this if you would only if you would only an and rather than sort of the if you would only statements go, okay, but what can I do? What can I do as a wife? And so you say, greet lovingly, touch him, purposefully listen intently, forgive immediately serve, joyfully fight fairly honor consistently. Those are the kinds of things that you know what, even if you don't feel like give it a whirl. Because men respond because men crave intimacy, they can grave respect. You know, they want you back in general, ninety percent of husbands want a good relationship back. But the reality is in most marriages. Mike experience, I haven't read this anywhere. This is Mike experience because I've listened to thousands of people talk about their marriages. It's the woman who has to initiate healing, and and but but here's cool thing. We're really good at that and so we can do that. And so talk about women feeling empowered in their lives and powered in their marriages. Becky, our time has gone. This is just been wonderful. How can people aside from reading your fabulous book, love unending, rediscovering your marriage in the midst of motherhood, which many memo will go. That's. Possible. It isn't impossible. It really isn't impossible. How can people read about you find you and read about all the wonderful encouragement that you're giving to women into mothers. Wonderful. Yeah, I would love to connect so you can. You can find me at Becky Thompson dot com. And then on, we have a Facebook community, you can search Becky Thompson or over on Instagram as well. And so that's under my old handle when I first started that log. And so the name is actually scissor tailed silk, and that's a story for a different day. But the best place to locate me would be Becky, Thomson dot com. And that'll link to all of the other ways to connect Dr mic. Thank you so much for having me today really has been an honor to share my heart and have a chance to speak with you. Well, thank you. God bless God. Bless points. Depan der- one making time, even small amounts at first for your marriage helps you and your children. You know, often we moms folk. Us on the needs of our children. After their born in this is completely natural. You know, their needs as infants are great and time intensive and exhausting. But as our kids grow older, it's really important that we intentionally take time to focus on our spouse and our marriage. The reasons for this important first parents with healthier marriages are happier, their kids are happier, and the couple works together more to create a solid home to time with your spouse doesn't have to be long or elaborate. You know, sometimes the smallest and seemingly insignificant things that we do with our spouses draws close together a walk spending time reading, just spending time, watching television program riding a bike, going out to dinner, working in the yard together, go into a movie out for breakfast or even bike ride, make an enormous difference. In our -bility to connect with our spouses. And the most important thing is to make the time that you spend with your spouse as stress free as possible, make time where you're not talking about work, you're not talking about your conflicts and you're not talking about money. This time is to be stress free three, make two types of time available for one another, a time to work through issues and a time to have fun. You know, if we only use our time together through work through troubles an issue and this is really important. The times can be stressful and we'll stop doing them and this can actually work against us. So sit down with your calendar and make sure that you set aside times to work through issues, trouble, kid, problems, money, how you run your household chores, things that are really grading on you with your spouse and talk about things and. Work them through. Then when you're done, close them, leave them behind. And if it takes a few days to leave behind. That's okay. And then schedule small bits of time where you and your spouse can just have fun so that both of you enjoy one another's company, figure out why married in the first place. And this will allow you to see that your spouse can actually be fun. Aright parents dying to get social. I want to hear from you and interact with you. You can connect with me on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. If you have a question, send it to ask Meg at Meg meeker, MD dot com. Ask Meg at Meg meeker, MD dot com. Today we have a question from berry and Jane. Hello, Dr. Meg. I'm up at a stupid time of three AM in Australia, and I have a question, my wife and I have grandchildren. Aged seven and eleven, how do we control or manage electronic zombies? We only see them once a week as they are from split family. We can't get any sense out of them before or after school on our devices. Do we just hide them and ban them fortnight and YouTube are the culprits. Any ideas are appreciated while berry and Jen, you are right to want your grandchildren to stay off screens when you're with you. I, it's very important. They spend quality time with grandparents after all, how can you share your wisdom? If they won't pay attention? And you know what we do have a lot of wisdom is grandparents. We've been through this, you know, after raising our kids, we've been through it for at least eighteen years second. It's important because being on screens, this much is just plain bad for your grandkids. I'm a grandmother was similar issues, and this. This is what I do when grandkids come over, said clear times when they can and cannot be on, screams that your right as grandparents when kids are in your home? I would say none before school, and they get one hour after school, excluding homework. When they do their homework on computers, they need to do it in a common area because if your around they're less likely to get on social media or play games when they're at your house during a time, when screens are off, limits have a place, they put them, put them high on a show, put them in a cupboard or closet that are out of their way, make it an inconvenient place and have all the kids put them in the same place. Now, listen at first, they're going to complain and squawk so be ready to take him out and do something fun after the screens are put away plan, something ahead of time. I promise if you do this several times, the kids will start to realize that they can have fun without being on. Screen. It may take awhile because if they're like many kids, they may actually be addicted to their screens, but I encourage you, hang in there. Quality time with them is worth fighting for remember. They won't understand it. I why you're taking screens away and that's okay. I promise when they're grown, they will thank you for fighting with them parents. You know, I love answering your questions, so please keep sending them. You can Email me any parenting question to ask Meg at Meg meeker. MD dot com. Again, asked Meg at Meg meeker MD dot com. I wanna thank my guest. Becky Thompson checkout her website at Becky Thompson dot com. Once again, that's Becky Thomson dot com and check out all the wonderful books that are listed on our website. Let's recap my points to ponder one make time for your marriage because it helps you and your. Children to time with your spouse doesn't have to be long for elaborate and three. Remember make two types of time available for one another. So until next time, parents always remember that great kids are raised, not born, hey, this is Bobby producer of Meg meakers parenting, Greg kids podcast. We hope you've enjoyed listening to episode sixty seven, motherhood and marriage. Thanks to you. 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Mac OS Ken: 04.29.2020

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Shopping CENTERS IN EARLY. May Thirteen of those forty. Nine malls have apple stores. Hence the list this Friday the first of May the Fifth Avenue Mall in Anchorage Alaska Lenox Square and Atlanta Georgia Mall of Georgia in Buford Georgia Penn Square Mall and Oklahoma City Woodland Hills Mall and Tulsa Oklahoma. He would mall in Greenville South Carolina West Town Mall in Knoxville Tennessee. Cielo Vista Mall and they'll Paso Texas Houston Galleria in Houston Texas and university village and Fort Worth. Texas are all set to reopen. They'll be followed on Saturday. The second of May by the Fashion Mall at Keystone Indianapolis Indiana and University Park Mall in Michelle Wocka Indiana. Those are locations of Thirteen. Of the two hundred seventy apple stores across the US though again there is no indication that the apple stores themselves will reopen just the malls in which they set clicking through to the thirteen stores on apple site. Each has a banner saying temporarily closed each also lists self as closed through at least next Tuesday. The furthest out the hourly schedules go as of this writing. Couple OF WEEKS AGO. We heard that apple maps would start highlighting Kobe. Nineteen testing sites. Soon soon is now now. According to a report from N. Gadget as hinted earlier the P. Says Apple is started displaying Kobe. Nineteen testing sites in maps people in all fifty states and Puerto. Rico can use apple's default navigation APP to quickly find the place to get checked whether it's a hospital urgent care clinic pharmacy or dedicated testing site. No need to wonder how to search for the sites opening the maps APP then tapping search brings up a list of suggestions at the top of the search nearby lest are the words. Co Bid Nineteen testing. That's followed by groceries food delivery pharmacies and other key locations apple updated the maps ab a few weeks ago prioritizing facilities and services users might need as the pandemic whereas on. Hey here's an idea that sound ghastly cult of marks as companies that make tools to hack smartphones or pitching those tools for tracking and tracing coded nineteen well versions of those tools citing Reuters report. The cult says very different from contact tracing technologies that focus on finding the virus but at the same time protect privacy. These new systems would not need a patient's consent to gain entry into the device stumping hard for its product is known. Iphone hacker celebrate cult. Amac has that firm telling a police force in India that when a person test positive celebrates tech can grab that person's location and contacts so authorities can quarantine the right people that is a quote and so is this quoting the report while this would normally happen with the user's consent celebrate says that there are legally justified cases in which police could use their tools to hack into a device. We do not need the phone passcode to collect the data. The celebrate spokesperson said in an e Mail. Report goes on to say at least eight companies like celebrator pitching similar tools to law enforcement groups across the world executives. At four of the company said they are piloting or in the process of installing products to counter corona virus in more than a dozen countries in Latin America Europe and Asia. Well then now the story that make you queasy nine to five. Mac says apple will pay eighteen million dollars to settle a class action lawsuit claiming it broke facetime on older iphones. Nothing wrong with apple paying. Settle a suit. That kind of thing happens and it's Kinda hard to deny that apple did break facetime. In this case this is part of the years old Burnett's case summarizing nine to five Mac summary Apple used a peer to peer standard when it launched facetime some time ago but accord the that the PDP standard apple used violated a patent held by Burnett's for awhile. Apple switched way relay method which relied on third party servers to move messages from one user to another then when IOS seven came out apple. Move facetime back to appear to peer process the one that did not violate the Bruneta patent then came a separate lawsuit a class action suit which argued that apple realized it could force people to either upgrade the IOS Saban or facetime on IOS six by causing an important digital certificate to expire earlier. You may find all that boring or annoying. I don't know the part that might make you queasy. Though is the payday. According to the peace apples eighteen million dollar payment will be divided. Thusly each class member will receive an estimated three dollars. The two original named plaintiffs will each get seven thousand five hundred dollars. Thirty percent of the settlement fund will go to the Class Council. If I'm reading that right that is five point. Four million dollars for the law firm while all but two of the people who may have had an actual problem. We'll get three dollars each. What will who by? I more news in a moment but first a word from sun basket delivering healthy delicious meals straight to your door. I said yesterday that my eating had gotten lazy since the Great Hunker down. It doesn't mean I'm eating poorly. I'm just not being adventurous. 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And then her Promo Code Moco West Kennet check out for thirty five dollars off your order. Sun BASKET DOT COM SLASH. Mac Os. Ken and then Promo Code Moco West Ken and a big thanks to Sun Basket for sponsoring this week. Show the apple support APP for. Ios has finally gotten dark mode. Everything gets dark mode eventually. Macrumors says in addition to the darkness. The APP has a streamlined interface. What's really cool about the support APP? Though is the added support hiding in the dark. Apple's release notes say the APP will let users get smarter solutions for even more topics using guided. Step-by-step troubleshooting it's now easier to find support for all your Apple Services and subscriptions and there are new and improved chat and call experiences practically made for these hunger down days. Macrumors says the Apple Support. Abbas apples dedicated up for getting support on an iphone or IPAD. It's a free APP and it is available now in the APP store. Australia is now officially an apple. Pay Island Country Continent apple insider says WESTPAC Australia's second largest bank and the last of the country's big four to adopt apple. Pay Finally activated the payment service on Monday fulfilling December promised integrate the product across its network. Nbc Series Parks and recreation headed back to TV for one night. Only Apple Insider highlights variety report. That says a reunion specialists set for tomorrow night. Thursday the thirtieth of April according to the report the special stars many of the shows original cast including Amy Poehler. Rashida Jones Aziz on. Sorry Nick Offerman. Aubrey Plaza Chris. Pratt Adam Scott roblo Jim. Ohio fire and Radha guest stars will also make appearances according to the peace proceeds from the special will go toward feeding America's Kobe Nineteen Response Fund. The report says why are we talking about here? The whole thing was shot on. Iphone doesn't sound like something. Show Co Creator. Mike sure would want to do again. Still they were able to do it. Shooting the episode in Four Days Graphics and affects people have reportedly made it not look like everybody was just sitting in their house alone staring at their computer according to shore the world finds out tomorrow night and finally today. Please please please tell me. You haven't bought the four hundred ninety nine thousand dollars apple race car. I told you about a couple of days ago. The nineteen seventy nine Porsche. Nine thirty five K. Three I mentioned the one where the race team had apple as its main sponsor for its nineteen eighty season due to an interest by jobs and Wozniak and the team. It's still a cool car. But it looks like it does not the car business insider says. It's a replica. The same type of car done up to be the nineteen eighty racer. According to the report in nineteen seventy nine one year before apple decked it out and rainbow colors. Paul Newman race. The original to a huge media circus in two thousand six. It was restored to the way it looked when driven by Newman without a trace of its apple background so that car is still out there looking nothing like the apple car except for the shape the one for sale now looks like the apple car but apparently isn't thing is I missing whatever. It is on the sales site that says that I've written to them for clarification. If I hear anything more I'll be really surprised. I mean I'll let you know. Pay Coming up in a few minutes as we move toward a new normal alisyn. Sheridan of no Silla cast shares a story on an engineer that she met decades ago and how it informs her thinking. Today what do we want to be when we get out? Find out in a few minutes. Look for that show wherever you get podcasts. Also Adam Christianson has reunited the Amigos. He and Victor Peyot and I got together and talked apple stuff earlier this week. You can listen on the latest episode of the Mac cast. 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When Coronavirus Came to Navajo Nation

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15:05 min | 5 months ago

When Coronavirus Came to Navajo Nation

"This message comes from what next sponsor Charles Schwab no matter? What tomorrow brings. Some things won't change like Schwab's commitment to see the world through clients is that commitment is why. Schwab is always here for clients with clear guidance and committed service to help maintain focus on achieving long-term goals. So whatever happens today Schwab remains invested in you visit Schwab Dot Com to learn how Schwab is ready to help back in March. Well he'll at Johns started sending these letters pleading for help. Is it possible for you to read the one of the not sent? Yeah let me see. Did I send it while? Halo is Navajo. She was writing to the president of the Navajo Nation. This is march nineteenth. I said yet a president. Jonathan Nez. Thank you for all. You're doing in response to covid. Nineteen I'm writing to encourage you to take one step further and put a shelter in place order for all of the Navajo nation. I know thousands of our people are not getting covid. Nineteen information Especially how life threatening viruses and I would strongly encourage you and your administration to put shelter in place order. Did you get a response? I didn't Hilla splits her time between Oakland California and Black Mesa Arizona in California. She was completely locked down talking to her relatives back in Arizona. She worried they weren't locked down enough a few days before she wrote to the president dozens of Navajo. Church leaders had gathered together. One Pastor was coughing after the group split up more people began getting sick. The information wasn't out there. I mean a lot of families don't have wi fi. They don't have cell service. I was worried about like how how much of our leadership is getting information to communities and taking this seriously so people can self isolate and not have gatherings now the lockdown on the Navajo nation is one of the strictest in the country from Friday to Monday. No one's allowed to travel without risking a fine but the corona virus is still spreading in the last week the Navajo nation surpassed New York and New Jersey to become the place in the US with the highest per capita infection rate in the country. I notice you the first thing you said was. I think it was a greeting. How did you address the President President Jonathan as an means the whole like Air Sky? And so you're acknowledging everything not just like some person but everything the whole what we see in front of us signaling the person but also kind of placing them in the wider world. Yeah Yeah is how we one another that? Everything's going to be good everything has not been good on Navajo nation. Not For the past few months not for a long time today on the show what the pandemic has laid bare and how what's happening now is the result of generations of neglect. I'm Mary Harris. You're listening to what next stick with us. This episode is brought to you by Sun Basket. 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What next at checkout that Sun basket dot com slash wet next and Promo Code? What next at checkout for thirty five dollars off your first order sun basket dot com slash? What next and enter Promo Code? What next well he'll John's is used to shuttling back and forth between her home a Navajo nation and her home in California. She runs a green energy company. She's been working to bring solar panels to thousands of homes on Navajo and Hopi reservations. But now because of the virus shut in California and her days are filled with phone calls not about her solar company but about p. p. e. and how to get more of it to her community during normal times. How often are you going back to Navajo lands? I would say about fifty fifty spin here and then I spend on Black Mesa where I have a home right before Shelter in place when into effect here in Oakland. I just got back from Navajo. So I've been here for. I don't know maybe eight or nine weeks Does that feel weird to be in the same place for so long? Yeah it definitely does. I was planning to go back for a lot of April. Definitely weird the last time you're out the Navajo nation. What did it feel like? Because it was just the beginning of people beginning to think about lockdowns and quarantines so could you feel that while you were there Not so much I I'd been. I met with a few chapters in our communities about building partnership in doing my work offered solar. Could you do green energy work? Yes in the caught. The conversation kept coming up and I think yeah. I don't think people were prepared like it's kind of weren't taking it as serious but I told my parents and I told my family like. Hey you know you all should stock up on food and You know make sure to wear masks and gloves. Wash your hands like always wash your hands. don't go to gatherings when you have those conversations. What were they like? Because I know in the early days when I talked to my parents. Everyone is sort of like doing really have to do this. Yeah I remember having a conversation with my parents We were in Albuquerque. New Mexico because My nephew plays basketball high school basketball. And I was trying to figure out if I could stay longer so I can watch his championship game at the State Finals and my parents told me that they the governor had cancelled the basketball game because it would draw thousands of people from all over because of Kobe. Nineteen and I think that's when everyone was like what was a big surprise because a lot of people come from the reservation to me a big thing on Navajo nation But also all tribes and the state playoffs are huge. You know and Lots of our teams from Navajo Nation. Make it into the state playoffs and my nephew plays and so they cancelled the game and my parents were there. We were sitting. You know in. We were in the Hotel Room. And they're like wow this is this is wild and then the other piece was just. I think it was almost like a surprise that how quickly Cova came onto Navajo in a way. Because it's were such rule isolated communities and you know once we heard about the first few exposures than it's like wildfire. You've said that stay at home. Orders are specially tricky on Navajo. Why is that it? It's hard because if you have to go get water depending on how much you use. You have to take two to three days. You have to go get water for your animals or for your homestead. So there's that planning that you have to do. Make sure you have enough water if you have to. You have to haul water. And and then we live in food desert have about thirteen grocery stores on Navajo. Nation that cover. Our land is the size of West Virginia. Most families they when they do shopping. They go off the reservation at Walmart. At Sam's Club you know and so Because that's where the big box stores are and so that's typically. What families do that? What I do is is stocking up on water stocking up on food. People live close together to right. Yeah it is. It's it's tough to self isolate when you live in. A homestead was usually multi generational family members all living under one roof and then sometimes like we have homes. That are one room homes. Hogan's you know. I understand that your great uncle and his wife died of COVID. How how did they get sick? I don't know you know that one was a huge surprise when we heard that they weren't feeling well. We just kept up our prayers that they're going to heal from this that they're going to they're going to overcome this. Sorry losing someone to this virus It's you know it's heartbreaking. It's so sudden and for me being so far away from my family in you lose relatives. There's a process of gathering and supporting each other through this tough time and I think being away it's hard to do that and degree you know. Mourn is the rest of the family well. I don't know I think I have to have a have to check in with them so I don't know listening to you talk. It's clear you're really sad about what happened with your relatives. I wonder too if it makes you angry though. Yeah I mean I think I mean I've seen the similar feelings from different people who are writing as people of color and low income men the marginalized communities right about when they do lose loved ones in the situation It could be prevented and The kind of sadness and anger I feel that with our nation for a very long time. the fact that you know. Kobe has highlighted the lack of infrastructure. In the lack of everything. And it's it's not legat it's too little. They're like little anger. But it's just like a Kinda had a feeling that you know people were just not ready for this you know for pandemic there's history here and and it's not because we choose to live this way at all You know there's definitely a lack of support from the federal government. Yeah I mean I I read this article in The Washington Post and it was about what Georgia looks like as its opening back up the report was up an outdoor mall where people were having drinks having a beer. And there's this one quote that I can stop thinking about from a guy like sitting outside with a friend saying I think you have to live life and his friend says when you start seeing where the cases are coming from and the demographics. I'm not worried then. I wonder when you see comments like that. If there's if there's something you want to say to people who are thinking that way yeah I mean I I mean that's all that's not new. You know I think that when you talk about this country you know. We've given up lots of land indigenous peoples here in the United States for what in exchange for horrible healthcare for like you know not having basic infrastructure like water and power. That's crazy to me and I think like comments like that are just you know? I feel sorry for those people and I feel sorry for you know That we have built a country around ignorance. They don't understand the interconnection that we all have. That is like that. Is You know that will make us stronger as a nation. Hello John's thank you so much for joining me thank you Mary. Mahela John's splits her time between California and Navajo Nation. She is the CO founder of native renewables an organization that brings solar power to Hopi and Navajo homes. All right. That's the show. What next is produced by Mary? Wilson Daniel Hewitt and Jason De Leon. We help every day from Alicia Montgomery and Allison Benedict. Thank you for listening. I'm Mary Harris. I'll talk to you tomorrow.

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Mac OS Ken: 04.30.2020

Mac OS Ken

18:34 min | 6 months ago

Mac OS Ken: 04.30.2020

"It is Mac. Os Apple Google Initiative Rolls Out. You may or may not trust contact tracing tack and a strong March quarter for iphone in China. It's it's Thursday the thirtieth of April Twenty Twenty Hindsight Ken Ray and this is news from Moco. West can brought to you by yours truly and sponsored by better help online counseling. That's there for you. Get Ten percent off your first month at better help dot com slash Moco West can. This show is also sponsored by Sun Basket delivering healthy delicious meals straight to your door for a lot of us. Stress has become our middle name working remotely homeschooling things a lot of thought we would never do. We're doing wouldn't it be great if somebody else took care of dinner? Offered some good suggestions and brought you everything you need for it. Say hello to Sun Basket. Sun Basket has delicious recipes for all kinds of dietary preferences including Paleo Gluten Free Mediterranean Vegetarian. And more look to their menu and pick what you want. They'll deliver exactly what you need and exactly the right amount ready to prep and cook. No stress no worry you can enjoy dinner. Full of organic produce and clean ingredients in as little as fifteen minutes. Let Sun Basket. Bring good food to you right now. Sun Basket is offering thirty five dollars off your order when you go right now. The Sun basket dot com slash Moco West. Ken and the Promo Code Moco West can at checkout that sun basket dot com slash M. A. C. O. S. K. E. N. And then they're Promo Code McCoy Wisconsin at checkout for thirty five dollars off your order. Sun Basket Dot com slash Mac. Os Ken and her Promo Code. Moco West Ken and a big thanks to Sun Basket first sponsoring this week. Show the apple. Google contact tracing initiative is underway tat. Krahn says the first seat of their exposure notification. Api has been made available though. The two companies did the whole soliciting feedback thing earlier. The P. says this developer focused release is a seed of the API in development with the primary intent of collecting feedback from developers who will be using the API to create new contact. Tracing notification APPs on behalf of public health agencies. Sounds like they're looking for a quick turnaround on it. Tech crunch has the two companies saying they'll be releasing additional details about the API and its release including sample code. Show how it operates in practice that is due out tomorrow Friday. The first of May it's unknown. How many developers have access currently both apple and Google say they will be granting access to more developers as testing continues. That number will stay relatively low though sons access to the is being limited to public health authorities and no one else the API represent a big change in the fight against Kobe. Nineteen and a big change in IOS. So big that. It has upped the released number of full point. That piece from macrumors says apple has been testing. Ios Thirteen dot four dot five however due to the exposure notification API that version of IOS has been re-number to Iowa's thirteen dot five so apple released to developers on Wednesday and the Beta testing public. Either the third version or the first version of IOS thirteen dot five depending on how you choose to count the Corona virus focused API is obviously the biggest news in the Beta though it is not the only feature among the others according to macrumors a new apple music feature that allows apple music songs to be shared on instagram stories. They're also patches for to security issues tied the Mail on iphone and IPAD. Now there is also a way in the operating system to turn the exposure notifications off one of the earliest points made by apple and Google about their. Api is that it would be optional for the user. If there's a way to turn the functionality on there must be a way to turn it off in the IOS thirteen dot five Beta. At least macrumors has found it another piece from the site says apple in the IOS thirteen five update added a toggle to disabled covert nineteen exposure notifications for those who do not want to participate and do not want to be notified. Should they come into contact with somebody? Who HAS KOBE? Nineteen do that. You open the settings up. Scroll Down and top on privacy. It's up on health. It's up on Kobe. Nineteen exposure notifications and the atop the toggle to turn the feature off having not seen the Beta. It almost sounds like those instructions mean. The function may be on by the fault. That team kind of unlikely though possible. It's also at least as likely perhaps more so that upon installation the operating system gives you the choice of turning on the exposure notifications. Should you change your mind? Want to turn them off the instructions. I mentioned a moment ago would be how to do that. Helpfully macrumors points out that if you change your mind again and want to turn them on again. You follow those instructions again. Only this time toggle the feature to on. If you've got the Beta you can do that all day. Long right now. Toggle explosion of occasions off and on. It really doesn't make a difference yet since there are. Currently no APPS built to work with the. Api macrumors says those won't go live until IOS. Thirteen dot five is released to the public then. You will still need to download an APP from a Public Health Organization that uses the API. And then you'll have to agree to its terms and conditions. So you're opting in than really opting in then super really opting in now. You may be wondering why you would WANNA leave off or turn off the exposure notifications in the first place wondering that puts you in the half of the country that on its base trusts this technology. The other half does not at least not when you say it's from a tech company. Ars Technica has word of a pole. This week run by the Washington Post and the University of Maryland the eighty two percent of US adults who have smartphones or exactly split on the issue according to the report it goes on to say half the poll respondents said they probably or definitely would use a contact tracing APP and the remaining half said they probably or definitely would not majority of respondents fifty seven percent expressed a reasonable amount of trust in public health agencies. Less than half forty seven percent say they trust health insurance firms and only forty three percent. Say They trust tech firms such as Google or apple. Doing addition and subtraction. The peace says only forty one percent of American adults have both technological capacity and the will to use the contact tracing APP that presents a problem since as we heard a couple of weeks ago. Researchers believe at least sixty percent of the country's population would need to be using a contact tracing solution for it to be good for the majority of the population. Whether you're likely to turn on contact tracing functionality. There is one thing and thirteen dot five. That you're probably GONNA love assuming you're wearing face masks when you go out which I assume you are if you've got an iphone with base. Id and you've tried using it outside the house lately. You've gotten used a wading with the current release of IOS phones with base. Id try to use it? They take a few seconds realized. They can't see your face when you're with them then they bought the option of using your passcode. Instead doesn't sound like a big deal but if you keep your grocery list on your iphone like I do having to wait to enter your passcode. Get Pretty Boring pretty fast. Well and gadget has word of a feature in the West Thirteen Five Beta that I really hope makes it past the Beta stage according to the report and the most recent IOS thirteen dot five Beta apple. Lets users swipe up to enter a pass code and skip the delay and gadget says what it would really like to see as version of IOS that recognizes. You with your mask on mine. Won't recognize me when I have my sunglasses on though so that feels like asking a lot of today's technology more news in a moment but first a word from better help online counseling. That's there for you in normal times. You Might WanNa talk to a counselor or therapist somebody to help you deal with day to day emotions or bigger issues. These are not normal times a lot of stuff we usually feel fine about. Maybe hitting you harder right now if you need help checkout better help better help has thousands of licensed therapists working in the system. That's kind of made for today. They're on your phone. Your computer your tablet. It's not a crisis line. It is not a self help line. This is professional counseling. Better help will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed counselor. Who's professional convenient and confidential phone? Video Chat or text. However you're most comfortable better help. Is there for you? I want you to start living a happier life today as a listener. You'll get ten percent off your first month by visiting better help dot com slash MAC OS. Ken Join over. Eight hundred thousand people taking charge of their mental health again. That is better help. H. E. L. P. dot com slash Mac. Os can if you need help. Try BETTER HELP DOT COM SLASH MAC. Os Ken for ten percent off your first month and a big thanks to better help for sponsoring this week show. The march quarter was not nearly as hard on iphone in China as it was on smartphones as a whole that's according to new numbers from counterpoint. Research Apple insider has that firms saying that iphone sales fell one percent in the first quarter of the calendar year and China China's smartphone sector contracted twenty two percent. The report has counterpoint senior analyst. Ethan Cheese saying that apple and Wa way managed to increase market share from the same period last year clearly outperforming the overall market in the first quarter of twenty twenty while way smartphone sales achieved six percent year over year growth and sales of iphones mildly. Dropped by one percent. Only while their counterparts suffered plummeting sales with double digit declines by always growth to iphones. Mild decline it was an iphone that top. The market quoting again. I phoned eleven was the best selling smartphone model in the first quarter. It is Tom. China's bestselling models list for seven consecutive months consumers continued to purchase iphones from e commerce platforms despite the shutdown of apple stores across China during February. One other interesting counterpoint. Point lack of five G. Did Not keep iphone down. A variety of domestic brands were offering five G. models at prices below four hundred dollars. According to the report apple insider goes on to say despite by g phones gaining traction and the relatively widespread adoption of five g mobile networks in China compared to other markets an overwhelming majority of premium buyers in the country opted to buy more expensive. Iphones lacking five G. support instead but I thought five G. series sounding better in the Bundesrat public. I download blog says. Apple's virtual assistant has gotten the quality boost thanks to machine learning according to the report. German site iphone Ticker Dot D. E. reported Wednesday that some German language users have noticed that series localized voices have improved considerably on their apple devices to them. The Siri voice now sound more melodic and natural especially on home pod. You'll note the peace said some German language users others say the assistant sounds a bit of a mess. Sounds like helium is the complaint of some could be growing pains or it could be a storage issue. I download blog sites a piece from apple and CIDER which nodes there are cases where series boys will revert from the now human sounding normal to a more robotic one and this may be what's happening for these users that happens when you're IOS devices particularly low on space and the device. Offloads the richer. Siri voice still. It's kind of cool. Before this week's update the peace says more natural sounding series voices were limited to English language users according to I download blog. The upgrade arrives almost three years after the English voices were significantly improved with IOS. Eleven in twenty seventeen and finally today tomorrow is the thing after the market closes up a will release earnings for the bound to have been disastrous. March quarter. How hard worth things read. Hear NOT WE'RE GONNA find out that the two. Pm Pacific Five PM. Eastern apple will hold a call with analysts. Recapping earnings perhaps offering guidance for the current quarter. Then answering questions. Either about that. Guidance did offer or why it didn't offer guidance. Personally I would be tempted to run a best of call. But they're pros as always apple will stream the call an investor page a couple of hours. Later it'll make the call available as a podcast blogs will probably live blog. It twitter will be all twitter. You can do apple earnings overload than if that's not enough we will also hit it right here on Friday coming up in a few minutes. No SILLA CASTS Alison. Sheridan wraps up her time with us. This week she'll talk about her writing habits while I wonder how to get my podcast on fortnight. The show was called in a few minutes. Look for that wherever you get podcasts Mac. Os Cam brought to you by me and sponsored by Sun Basket eat clean. Feel great use Promo Code. Michael West can for thirty five dollars off your order at Sun basket dot com slash Mac. Os can this show is also sponsored by better. Help online counseling. That's there for you. Get Ten percent off your first month at better help dot com slash Mac. Os can advertising handled by media online at back media DOT COM. You can reach me. A couple of WAYS INFO AT MONACO WISCON- DOT COM or call seven one six seven eight zero four zero eight zero. We will talk again tomorrow until then that is news from Mac Os Ken. I'm Ken Ray Chow.

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Mac OS Ken: 07.21.2020

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Mac OS Ken: 07.21.2020

"It. Is Mac Os. To Center by phone numbers Microsoft. Whispers in the era of Congress and Apple gives employees physical challenge. It's Tuesday. The twenty-first of July twenty. Twenty Pine Camry and this is news from Mecca West. Ken brought to you by yours. Truly and sponsored by Sun Basket delivering oven, ready meals that are fast, fresh and delicious. Get thirty five dollars off your order using the Promo Code math go west. Ken Had Sun Basket Dot com slash Mac os Ken. This show is also sponsored by RECON MAKERS TRUE WIRELESS EAR BUDS recom- started about half the price of other premium. Wireless ear buds out there. And the saying. Seriously when I put them in, they play a little jingle and and a friendly voice. Let me know that they're powered and connected. You get everything you'd expect. Easy handle controls a built in Mike for Making and taking calls seamless, Bluetooth, pairing six hours of playtime, and the case for on the go charging. 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Don't necessarily conflict, but they don't exactly fit either. macrumors ran the piece Monday under the headline Apple's iphone se sales, a bright spot in Q., two twenty twenty thanks to android switchers, and those upgrading from iphone, six S or older. I prefer a pithier headline, but that one really does the job. Assuming the job is to sum up in a couple of lines, the latest numbers from counterpoint research. The bad news, US iphone sales were down twenty three percent for the June quarter of twenty twenty versus the same quarter a year earlier. The good news that beat the US smartphone market has a whole which saw sales drop twenty five percent. The way counterpoint sees it. Buoyancy for iphone was thanks largely to April's revamped phone S E price starting at three hundred ninety nine dollars, macrumors says the IPHONE SE has been selling well in both postpaid and prepaid channels more than thirty percent of iphone. Se buyers were upgrading from an iphone, six S or older and more than twenty six percent of iphone. Se users came from an android device, which counterpoint says is a higher than normal android. IOS O s switch rate. One wonders how it might have done. In Normal Times. Counterpoint points out the lack of a launch event or a TV blitz. Yet there it goes climbing up helped in part by promotions at reopened stores run by wal-mart Metro by T, mobile and boost. Recovery was actually robust at the end of the quarter, according to the report smartphone sales for May through the end of June grew week over week and June twenty twenty sales were ultimately stronger than June twenty nineteen sales. The thinking is the one two Combo of stimulus tracks and stores. Reopening did the trick to end the quarter. Answer. What iphone s e will do the future sales. Counterpoint doesn't as e e any trouble. Seen as more pragmatic around pricing counterpoint things, folks who, by the budget, phone or less concerned with five G. Connectivity, and the smaller display is not considered a hindrance according to macrumors. Of numbers comes from Boutique analytics, firm, consumer intelligence research partners. Now, I said earlier that their numbers encounter counterpoint numbers didn't exactly fit. Yeah. It's because they don't actually fit it all. Mac Daily. News had a copy of the C. I. R. P. Press Release, which covers US iphone sales during the quarter ending April twenty twenty. Any three consecutive months could be considered a quarter of a year. I will grant you their four sets of three that we usually do though sending in March June September, body. and December also a quarter, ending April is going to be seriously messed up. Because high closures across the country caused by the pandemic. The story of the quarter, ending April really is Iphone S. E. downplayed though it may be by the CRP release. Josh low ED's CRP partner and Co founder as quarter than the release as saying at the end of this past quarter, apple has a simpler lineup than in the past with just the ten are eleven, Eleven, pro eleven, Pro Max and new s e. Within that lineup iphone se accounted for a decent share at nineteen percent. Even though it was available for only a portion of the quarter at three hundred ninety nine dollars for the base model, as e comes and price well below the year-old ten are, and very successfully replaces the almost three year old iphone eight models at the entry price point. IPHONE SE was released on the fifteenth of April in two weeks that phone accounted for nineteen percent of phone sales for a three month period. That's the story, right. CRP also downplays the switch raid seen the counterpoint numbers saying operating systems switching has diminished in recent years that said the firm is on board with owners of significantly older iphones, trading up to the less expensive newness. Apple shares are sort of back to defying gravity Mac daily. News says shares of the Cupertino. Company closed up eight dollars and twelve cents Monday ending the day at three hundred ninety three dollars and forty three cents. If you're wondering why. Yeah Right Apple three does Phillip dewitt figures apples record close was thanks to Amazon, he says the seller of all and destroyer of worlds got a street high price target from Goldman Sachs jumped nearly eight percent and pulled the rest of big tech along with it. makes them sound sweet. News to depress an entire country. Don't worry probably, not yours. Bloomberg report Monday. Saying the combined market value of all the shares of all the publicly traded companies in South Korea would be smaller than the market value of Microsoft or Amazon or Apple. According to the report, the total market capitalization of South Korean firms was about one point four trillion dollars as of Friday data compiled by Bloomberg show, that compares with a one point seven trillion dollar valuation for Apple while Microsoft and Amazon were each worth about one point five trillion dollars. That's adding together. Valuations of household names like Samsung S. K. High. Knicks LG, Hyundai Kia motors and. Some. I'm sure I'm forgetting. kind of stunning, considering the part Samsung alone plays both in sales of its own devices. And it's places in various supply chains yet at two hundred sixty nine billion dollars. Bloomberg's Samsung's market value is a little more than a sixth of apples. Soon whom Lee head of equities at DB asset management in Seoul says it's about size non how you use it. Quoting the analyst. South Korea has a pretty small domestic market, and we can't set a global standard or rule the market like US Chinese, companies do so no matter how great a business model, a Korean software company makes for instance. Everyone knows neighbor and keio or good companies. It is hard to get good valuations. As. There's limit to their growth because of the small domestic market. More news in a moment, but first a word from Sun Basket delivering oven, ready meals that are fast, fresh and delicious. If. You're looking for fresh dinners. Taste great or good for you and take almost no effort. You're looking for Sun Basket. Sun Basket meals or made with organic fresh produce, sustainable seafood and meats that are free of antibiotics, hormones and steroids. As for what you do with those ingredients. The chefs at Sun Basket have one Michelin Awards and James. Beard Award. Their premeasured foods and easy to follow recipes. We'll have you enjoying great meals in minutes. The meals I've made with Sun Basket had been easy and delicious. With offerings like pepper, daily Pasta with wilted spinach, sweet peas, and fresh CODA or cauliflower, MAC, and cheese. There is a lot of great food waiting for you. Right now sun basket is offering thirty five dollars off your order when you go right now to sun basket dot com slash Moco West Ken an Promo Code Moco Wes can at checkout. That sun basket dot com slash M. A. C. O., S., K., e. n., and then her Promo Code Moco West. Come at checkout for thirty five dollars off your order. Sun Basket Dot com slash Moco West Ken and in her Promo Code Moco. West Ken And a big thanks to Sun Basket for sponsoring today's show. Members of Congress have been doing a bit of entertaining ahead of Tim Cook's appearance on Capitol, Hill, next week. macrumors highlights a report from the information that says the US. House judiciary antitrust subcommittee has apparently been talking with Microsoft President and chief. Legal Officer Brad Smith. According to the report, the Committee wanted to talk with Smith, so he could provide Microsoft's perspective as a big Tech Company formerly involved an antitrust regulation over windows. But Smith also reportedly shared Microsoft's concerns with the way apple operates the APP store. Appointees said to have addressed include what the report refers to as opposed arbitrary APP store approval processes. Apples cut for sales made through the APP store and requirements. Developers used apple's in APP purchase, system. While there are no quotes from Smith's virtual meeting with the committee, the report does quote Smith's appearance at a political event last month. Speaking on APP stores and payment requirements. The Microsoft exact said they impose requirements that increasingly say there was only one way to get on our platform, and that is to go through the gate that we ourselves have created that in some cases they create a very high price per toll. In some cases, thirty percent of your revenue has to go to the toll keeper. The time has come whether we're talking about DC or Brussels for a much more focused conversation about the nature of stores, the rules that are being put in place, the prices and the tolls that are being extracted, and whether there is really a justification in antitrust law for everything that has been created. Wonders what his position would have been had windows phone succeeded. Circle the date and set your alarm Amazon's Jeff. bezos apple's Tim Cook. FACEBOOK's Mark Zuckerberg and Google's Sundar. Pichai appeared before the House antitrust subcommittee next Monday the twenty seventh of July. You can catch the hearing on Youtube at noon. Eastern nine am Pacific. Other Times in other climbs. Hey, you know what music could use more fighting. Apple insiders as Apple Music as partnering with verses, which is apparently a thing that happened while I was watching the news. According to the report, the series founded in March by Swiss beads and Timberland involves pair of artists or producers, facing off against each other by playing their most popular hits. Originally launched on instagram live versus an online phenomenon during corona virus lockdowns. Swiss beats also something that happened while I was watching the news. The show will stay on instagram live. Additionally the peace says users will be able to be upcoming versus battle videos on apple music, either live or on demand after the session has concluded. The first session a face off between snoop, Dogg and Dan Max is set for tomorrow Wednesday the twenty second of July at five. PM Pacific Eight PM Eastern. According to the report. And finally today I, Guess Apple Things. Its employees have leased long enough. macrumors says the Cupertino. Company has reinstating the close your rings employee challenge. Normally held in February, the peace says the fitness challenge for folks in corporate and retail around the world tasks employees with closing all three of their. Apple Watch activity rings every day of the month. Two usually in February. Not because it's the shortest, Monday but because it's also heart month of course this year, it was also the start of the pandemic so. Apple put it off. Its back on. macrumors heard from an apple employee. That apple is reinstating the challenge this week with the event expected to end on the sixteenth of August. Employees who finished the challenge will be rewarded with a t shirt that says twenty twenty and a logo with Apple Watch actively style rings. Nothing's normal, but it's neat to hear about something like the usual. Every now and then. Coming up in a few minutes yesterday, it was news to Tom Today Tom Merritt night. Talk over new plus. What's got right? What could it do better? What is up with the best buy promotion? Fear not the paywall in a few minutes. Look for that show and subscribe wherever you get podcasts. Mac West Ken. Brought to you by me and sponsored by Rakhine, makers of true wireless ear buds. Get fifteen percent off your order at by RECON DOT com slash Mac os can. This show is also sponsored by Sun Basket get thirty five dollars off your order using Promo Code Moco West can. At Sun Basket Dot. COM SLASH MOCO WEST CAN. Advertising handled by backbeat media online at backbeat media DOT COM. You can reach me a couple of ways. Info at Monaco West Cam Dot. com or call seven, one, six, seven, eight zero. Four zero eight zero. We will talk again tomorrow. Until than that is news from Moscow West Ken. I'm Ken. Ray Chow.

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What Next: When Coronavirus Came to Navajo Nation

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15:05 min | 5 months ago

What Next: When Coronavirus Came to Navajo Nation

"This message comes from what next sponsor Charles Schwab no matter? What tomorrow brings. Some things won't change like Schwab's commitment to see the world through clients is that commitment is why. Schwab is always here for clients with clear guidance and committed service to help maintain focus on achieving long-term goals. So whatever happens today Schwab remains invested in you visit Schwab Dot Com to learn how Schwab is ready to help back in March. Well he'll at Johns started sending these letters pleading for help. Is it possible for you to read the one of the not sent? Yeah let me see. Did I send it while? Halo is Navajo. She was writing to the president of the Navajo Nation. This is march nineteenth. I said yet a president. Jonathan Nez. Thank you for all. You're doing in response to covid. Nineteen I'm writing to encourage you to take one step further and put a shelter in place order for all of the Navajo nation. I know thousands of our people are not getting covid. Nineteen information Especially how life threatening viruses and I would strongly encourage you and your administration to put shelter in place order. Did you get a response? I didn't Hilla splits her time between Oakland California and Black Mesa Arizona in California. She was completely locked down talking to her relatives back in Arizona. She worried they weren't locked down enough a few days before she wrote to the president dozens of Navajo. Church leaders had gathered together. One Pastor was coughing after the group split up more people began getting sick. The information wasn't out there. I mean a lot of families don't have wi fi. They don't have cell service. I was worried about like how how much of our leadership is getting information to communities and taking this seriously so people can self isolate and not have gatherings now the lockdown on the Navajo nation is one of the strictest in the country from Friday to Monday. No one's allowed to travel without risking a fine but the corona virus is still spreading in the last week the Navajo nation surpassed New York and New Jersey to become the place in the US with the highest per capita infection rate in the country. I notice you the first thing you said was. I think it was a greeting. How did you address the President President Jonathan as an means the whole like Air Sky? And so you're acknowledging everything not just like some person but everything the whole what we see in front of us signaling the person but also kind of placing them in the wider world. Yeah Yeah is how we one another that? Everything's going to be good everything has not been good on Navajo nation. Not For the past few months not for a long time today on the show what the pandemic has laid bare and how what's happening now is the result of generations of neglect. I'm Mary Harris. You're listening to what next stick with us. This episode is brought to you by Sun Basket. 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What next at checkout that sun basket dot com slash what next and Promo Code. What next at checkout for thirty five dollars off your first order sun basket dot com slash? What next and enter Promo Code? What next well he'll John's is used to shuttling back and forth between her home a Navajo nation and her home in California. She runs a green energy company. She's been working to bring solar panels to thousands of homes on Navajo and Hopi reservations. But now because of the virus she stuck in California and her days are filled with phone calls not about her solar company but about p. p. e. and how to get more of it to her community during normal times. How often are you going back to Navajo lands? I would say about fifty fifty spin here and then I spend on Black Mesa where I have a home right before Shelter in place when into effect here in Oakland. I just got back from Navajo. So I've been here for. I don't know maybe eight or nine weeks Does that feel weird to be in the same place for so long? Yeah it definitely does. I was planning to go back for a lot of April. Definitely weird the last time you're out the Navajo nation. What did it feel like? Because it was just the beginning of people beginning to think about lockdowns and quarantines so could you feel that while you were there Not so much I I'd been. I met with a few chapters in our communities about building partnership in doing my work offered solar. Could you do green energy work? Yes in the caught. The conversation kept coming up and I think yeah. I don't think people were prepared. Like oh it's kind of weren't taking it as serious but. I told my parents and I told my family like. Hey you know you all should stock up on food and You know make sure to wear masks and gloves. Wash your hands like always. Wash your hands. Don't go to gatherings when you have those conversations. What were they like? Because I know in the early days when I talked to my parents. Everyone is sort of like doing really have to do this. Yeah I remember having a conversation with my parents We were in Albuquerque. New Mexico because My nephew plays basketball high school basketball. And I was trying to figure out if I could stay longer so I can watch his championship game at the State Finals and my parents told me that they the governor had cancelled the basketball game because it would draw thousands of people from all over because of Kobe. Nineteen and I think that's when everyone was like what was a big surprise because a lot of people come from the reservation to me a big thing on Navajo nation But also all tribes and the state playoffs are huge. You know and Lots of our teams from Navajo Nation. Make it into the state playoffs and my nephew plays and so they cancelled the game and my parents were there. We were sitting. You know in. We were in the Hotel Room. And they're like wow this is this is wild and then the other piece was just. I think it was almost like a surprise that how quickly Cova came onto Navajo in a way because it's were such rule isolated communities and you know once we heard about the first few exposures than it's like wildfire. You've said that stay at home. Orders specially tricky on Navajo. Why is that it? It's hard because if you have to go get water depending on how much you use. You have to take two to three days. You have to go get water for your animals or for your homestead. So there's that planning that you have to do. Make sure you have enough water. If you have to. You have to haul water. And and then we live in food desert we have about thirteen grocery stores on Navajo. Nation that cover. Our land is the size of West Virginia. Most families they when they do shopping. They go off the reservation at Walmart. At Sam's Club you know and so Because that's where the big box stores are and so that's typically. What families do that? What I do is is stocking up on water stocking up on food. People live close together to right. Yeah it is. It's it's tough to self-isolation you live in. A homestead was usually multi generational family members all living under one roof and then sometimes like we have homes that are one room homes. Hogan's I understand that your great uncle and his wife died of COVID. How how did they get sick? I don't know you know that one was a huge surprise when we heard that they weren't feeling well. We just kept up our prayers that they're going to heal from this that they're going to they're going to overcome this. Sorry losing someone to this virus It's it's you know it's heartbreaking. It's so sudden and for me being so far away from my family in you lose relatives. There's a process of gathering and supporting each other through this tough time and I think being away it's hard to do that and degree you know. Mourn is the rest of the family well. I don't know I think I have to have a after check in with them so I don't know listening to you talk. It's clear you're really sad about what happened with your relatives. I wonder too if it makes you angry though yeah I mean I think I mean I. I've seen the similar feelings from different people who are writing as people of color and low income men the marginalized communities right about when they do lose loved ones in the situation It could be prevented and The kind of sadness and anger I feel that with our nation for a very long time. the fact that you know. Kobe has highlighted the lack of infrastructure in the lack of everything. And it's a it's not legat. It's too little. They're like little anger. But it's just like a Kinda had a feeling that you know people were just not ready for this you know for pandemic history here and and it's not because we choose to live this way at all You know there's definitely a lack of support from the federal government. Yeah I mean I I read this article in The Washington Post and it was about what Georgia looks like as its opening back up the report was up an outdoor mall where people were having drinks having a beer. And there's this one quote that I can stop thinking about from a guy like sitting outside with a friend saying I think you have to live life and his friend says when you start seeing where the cases are coming from and the demographics. I'm not worried then. I wonder when you see comments like that. If there's if there's something you want to say to people who are thinking that way yeah I mean I I mean that's all that's not new. You know I think that when you talk about this country you know. We've given up lots of land indigenous peoples here in the United States for what in exchange for horrible healthcare for like you know not having basic infrastructure like water and power. That's crazy to me and I think like comments like that are just you know? I feel sorry for those people and I feel sorry for you know That we have built a country around ignorance. They don't understand the inner connection that we all have that is that is you know that will make us stronger as a nation. Hello John's thank you so much for joining me thank you Mary. Mahela John's splits her time between California and Navajo Nation. She is the CO founder of native renewables an organization that brings solar power to Hopi Navajo. Homes all right. That's the show. What next is produced by Mary? Wilson Daniel Hewitt and Jason De Leon. We help every day from Alicia Montgomery and Allison Benedict. Thank you for listening. I'm Mary Harris. I'll talk to you tomorrow.

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Mac OS Ken: 07.20.2020

Mac OS Ken

18:18 min | 3 months ago

Mac OS Ken: 07.20.2020

"It. Is Mac Os. Movement on the five G. Front changes in the supply chain. An apple honors, a hero of the civil rights movement. It's Monday the Twentieth July twenty twenty. I'm camry, and this is news from Mac. Os can brought to you by yours truly and sponsored by Ray Khan makers of true wireless ear buds. Get fifteen percent off your order at by RECON DOT com. Slash Mac West Ken. This show is also sponsored by Sun Basket delivering oven. Ready meals that are fast, fresh n delicious. My love hate relationship with the grocery store is swinging towards the negative again. Shelves are stocked. And stores are full of people who seem to have no idea how far six pete actually is. Also the mass goes over the nose, not under it. You can reduce your time and interaction at the grocery store with Sun Basket. Sun Basket meals are made with organic fresh produce, sustainable seafood and meats that are free of antibiotics, hormones and steroids. and. Sun Basket facilities have the highest levels of safety for Food and employees. And really good food. Like south, western Turkey and sweet potatoes, skillet, cauliflower, macaroni, and cheese and tons of other stuff. The. Meals I've made with sun basket have been easy and delicious. See what you can make. Right now sun basket is offering thirty five dollars off your order when you go right now to sun basket dot, com slash Mecca. West Ken and Promo Code Moco West Ken at checkout that Sun Basket Dot com slash, Mac S., K. E. N. and enter Promo Code Moco West covina checkout thirty five dollars off your order. Sun Basket Dot com slash Michael West, Ken and then her Promo Code Moco West can. Then the big thanks to Sun Basket first sponsoring today's show. Heading into twenty twenty, the world was fairly certain that apple would introduce an iphone five G. before twenty twenty one. Then the world caught Kobe nineteen and suddenly the world wasn't a certain about iphone five Jeez fate. Whether it happens this year I download bug has word of work from apple on the five G. Front. It seems. Apple has been awarded a couple of five. Patents according to the report, one patent application covers wireless devices that can connect four G. and five gene networks. And the other details, five G. Network slicing which enables carriers to slice a cellular network into multiple layers, each with their own speeds and latency based on a devices needs. Makes Five G. sound sexy, doesn't it? Apple applied for the four G. Five G. patent in two thousand, seventeen applied for the five G., slicing patent and twenty eighteen. Both applications were published last week. While acknowledging that the patent applications don't really indicate anything about this year's anticipated iphones. I download bog seems to want to believe in an iphone five G. This year. and. Who doesn't want to want to believe in something? Apple Cart seems to be growing up in the world of credit reporting apple insider says it's heard from a reader who spotted their apple cards showing up on their Experien- credit report. The piece as a stroll through the are apple cards sub reddit shows users. They're saying the same activity. Until last week, the only agency to which Apple Card reported was Trans Union. It's weird that it's gone this long without reporting the others though. Turns out. It's not required to report to any. According to apple insider while credit card, companies do typically provide reports to credit reference organizations. There is no requirement to do so megs. Central provide data to a system that credit card companies rely on. The piece goes on to point out. The reporting may make an impact on the customer's credit score as it will effectively be. An extra creditor added to a list. The customer may already have. Customers history with apple card such as payments, and how much is used as well as the age of the account is likely to force experience to make changes to the user score. The depending on the circumstances, it may be either a positive or negative effect. The monthly plan for Apple Care Plus is making its way beyond the US macrumors says consumers and Australia Canada and Japan. Either can or will soon be able to pay for coverage, IPHONES IPADS and apple watches monthly rather than in a lump sum. An apple care plus. Support Dot confirms the change according that in the United States Australia Canada and Japan when you purchase, apple care plus coverage for your iphone Ipad or watch, you can choose to pay monthly or pay upfront for twenty four months of coverage for up. Watch addition at her mess. You can pay up front for thirty six months. If. You paid upfront. The piece continues. You can go to my support DOT APPLE DOT COM to continue coverage on a monthly basis after the twenty four or thirty six months is over. Definitely. That's coming. May Be a thing that's already available. Though the support duck was online. The option was not yet showing up when macrumors ran its report last week. Tracking links in the supply chain, the Japanese Business Site Nikkei has word of a sale of a couple of iphone plants between two apple suppliers. According to the report, the Chinese firm luck share precision industry is buying two plants in China from the Taiwanese firm Wistron. A secret someone said to know something about something tells Nikkei the decision to sell. The facility is with Apple's consent and part about plan. Later luck share will start to do iphone assembly in China while Western will focus on iphone manufacturing in India. Nikkei says wistron which already makes iphones in India will also give luck share some four one one on iphone production. One does wonder though how helpful that's, GONNA be. Previously the report said most iphone assembly work was done by Foxconn and Petron with Western as the third and smallest gambler making. And cheaper iphone models. wistron which became an iphone Assembler in two thousand, fifteen has been struggling to deliver stable production, performance and efficiency. And failed to grab more order allocations from its larger competitors, Foxconn and Petron. Little comment from Western on the story, except to confirm the sale of one of its plants, apple and luxury did not respond request for comment according to Nikkei. If Western does step game in India. It will not be the only one. A report from Bloomberg says Petron is working on its first plan for the subcontinent. In June the P., says the Indian government Saturday six point six billion dollar plan to woo the world's top smartphone manufacturers, offering financial incentives and ready to US manufacturing clusters. Petron is now setting up a local subsidiary and joining fellow Taiwanese Electronics Assemblers Foxconn and Wistron who have already been making some iphone handsets in southern India. How many iphone measures does India need? This isn't about that. While the focus for years has been on iphone production in India for the Indian market. India seems to want to supply the world. Pankaj Mahindra Chairman of the cellular and Electronics Association headquartered in the report saying the focus is shifting from making for India to exports and the four hundred billion dollar electronics manufacturing that India is targeting by twenty five will be dominated by exports. Andrews likely not talking out of his hat. Bloomberg says there are three dozen corporate members in the Indian cellular and Electronics Association. Among them are such firms as pox con Google OPO wistron. And Apple. More news in a moment, but first I am very happy to welcome a new sponsor Tumaco West can. 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Ep. 651: Hunk Factory with Dave Schilling

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Ep. 651: Hunk Factory with Dave Schilling

"Give, little time for the child within you don't be afraid to be young and free under the locks and throw away the keys and take off issues and sex and run you. Jordan Jesse go I'M JESSE THORN AMERICA'S RADIO SWEETHEART Jordan Morris here with a hunk update. Thank, goodness I have been Jordan on tenterhooks. Yeah. I, know I know you haven't heard from me R e hunks in a while. So I just wanted to update you and you know everybody and I'm really like you know I just get really inspired by. Gavin newsom kind of daily corona virus updates right. So I just wanted to do my. My duty and making people feel more secure. Just informed about what the various hunks in my neighborhood are doing. Sure. You gotta get all the all those listeners out there. All those beefcake buddies We're here for you with another one of our signature hunk updates. Of the recurring segment we've never done before. Brian go ahead and write some theme music. We'll wait maybe something that kind of sounds like the perfect strangers theme song that'd be Great Yeah Use your music talent that you have bribe. So a couple of weeks ago. I talked about. Going on one of my dumb little bullshit walks you know the government mandated bullshit walks we'll have to take. Yeah. People are listening from outside the United States right now every day the government says you got to take a little fucking walk. Walk around the neighborhood just like real fun. It's like you know the difference between your dumb walk and real fun. You'll love it. You love going for walks. So I was on one of my dumb little bullshit walks and I saw a guy I've been calling juggle hunk. uh-huh. This was a man who was J- Juggling in his yard who had like movie star good looks. Like someone who would be on like Riverdale sure. I was one hundred percent confident you river dance, but I'll take. Hey. Michael Flatley is a is a classic honk but I think he's a Zadie at this point. Yeah I. Think we are. You're talking about the difference between an Irish honk and I guess probably Vancouver Hunk for Riverdale. Yeah that's about right. Sure. Yeah. So you know and then again like obviously like you know. There are attractive people. Of all shapes and sizes but. You do not. You don't really associate a juggler with these kind of classic symmetrical tall cut jacked movie star good looks no it's more of a unicyclists thing right so so I'm like, but I mean, maybe maybe I'm this is some that I have. You know I'm always looking to kind of unpack my knapsack. Sure. I've openly acknowledged my no circus skills privilege on this program. So obviously, we have some baggage around the issue of circus skills I use that time in my life Jordan the time I would have been acquiring circuit skills I used it a further, my career and family interests Wasn't a good choice time. We'll. Fake time won't tell. So already, we have one unorthodox hunk in my life. I was taking a little dumb little, dumb dumb little bullshit walk by the beach the other day. I. Saw a metal detector hunk. Wow a different vibe from this honk it wasn't so much river, Dale Like. Me No cash how would I describe this guy? Like he had an influence survive he looked like he would be a guy that you've never heard of but all nineteen year olds get their news from on Tiktok. Assumed when you said it was a metal detecting I immediately pictured. A guy who is second or third build on a show that stars Kevin Costner like on the history channel like like scripted fictional show. On the history channel that's called like Monitor v Mary Mack, right? Yeah. Exactly and and eight times more people have watched it and watched the handmaid's tale. Would you say that Costner plays the Monitor or the Mary Mack? Shifts. Would you say would you cast Kevin Costner Asks Costner actually. In fact about that show, he plays the C O upon which they sail and William hurt plays both ships. No. Good. Will Peter Fonda appear in this? Why much? Certainly. I believe he's passed on but maybe William hurt has to who knows. All, the people who we've mentioned in this segment maybe dead. Sorry. Kevin. Costner, we ever been keeping close tabs yeah. So okay. Metal Detector Hong blows my mind, and then the other day. In immediate you know the little area between. Around about Just fucking wailing wailing, going to town. There's a Bagpipe Babe. there. A woman who's energy I would describe as Laura dern from Jurassic Park Wow. Similar you know maybe like. At the time Laura dern similar outfits similar energy and she is just fucking wailing on the Bagpipe at not doesn't seem to be collecting any money. I mean obviously unsaved to Busk you know with everything that's going on. Not. busking times times for for little little bullshit walks. Yeah. And apparently just going fucking nuts on a bagpipe in public where people can't get to you. Would you say she was ripping a sweet, Sola? Yeah. I I mean, obviously, there's no other June wasn't part of a band, right? The rest of the real McKenzie's weren't there. Band is a bagpipe. Sure no problem. POGUES also acceptable kick Murphy's works they're put in whatever you want to think about which of my favorite bands has a bagpipe. My first thought is mint condition but I don't think they have a bagpipe don't think so I'm not certain but I don't think. So they tour with one though you don't hear on the records. was there ever a bagpipe in Mandrell I couldn't tell you not certain a lot of. Afro Cuban influence in that band. But I don't know whether there was any Celtic influence. So anyway I'm I'm the you know I apparently have been all wrong about hunks and their activities, Hunks Babes in the activities that they do. It's a new world out there. Yeah. I knew about hunky butchers Sure. Well Yeah. I mean I think that I mean that kind of that's in there with like hunky celebrity chef the. Portland Tattoo Guy who has a you know a custom knife block or something. That's I think that's that's been a cultural force for a while. Now, you know what I'd like to see yes. Hunky pit master like a like a Gr-. Man Could. Barbecue Honk I bet that exists right slow baby. There's got him. That's how I want it from Barbecue Honk. A bunch of naval tattoos. Yeah. Maybe like a wind it maybe like a fullback cat to of all the parts of a pig right? Yes. From the root of the Tudor. As they say. I've heard that I've heard people say that day you got me daydreaming about honks. Brian play some dreamy music and. We can all just. Like. Hey, listeners think about your favorite hunks. This is your time. This is your time. Be and cheesecake served up fresh on Jordan. Jesse. Go and you know what? Hey, throw Zadie in there while you're at it. Think. About as Addie. And Zatarain's. Red Beans, red beans and rice mix. Perhaps you've. Gates side great side dish. We've addressed that the grocery store by my house has an inexplicable Cajun right we have. Yes. Okay. Thank God because it's all I think about. It is like a Central American section. You're like, well, sure of course, there's that and then there's like. Then there's like a Southeast Asian section and you're like, well, you know it's less less common in this neighborhood but I can see why they would have that and then just as big Cajun section full Azad Iran's. There that on anything any kind of Cajun anything just all different prepared foods with pictures of alligators on the box. Shrimp with sunglasses should we introduce our hunky guests? Jordan s are hunky guest is Journalist and comedy writer, his credits include. Writing for the WWE and of course, the new. Yorker. Just like Simon Rich, he was the Simon rich of the wwe. He has a podcast called full court chat. it's about. Sitting Down with some of the biggest names in sports and Culture for in-depth no-holds-barred conversation you're going to die Dave. You will have to come up with a more a less generic podcast description than that. Dave Schilling is our guest. Welcome to the show Dave. Hey guys. I gotta say I was so excited when you started talking about ironclad. Jumped in. Our man, we're talking about I. We can back we can easily back up. Oh, we're talking about ironclad. What do you have a top three ironclad? Monitor Mary. And then my ex wife. Boom man you know what I think about you know what I think about when I think ironclad. This is like a parallel is a parallel. Nautical. Military History item. I. Think about how in the revolutionary war they had that kind of perfectly round submarine. Just bigger than one guy and made out of wood and it would go underneath and then it had. A hand crank screw to try and put a hole in a boat that found. About A. Yeah there you go. Thanks. Dave it's called the to because that's that's that's how you die. I'm. GonNa. Get into a big piece of wood. and. Somehow, try to not suffocate. Right before as the guy is getting and he's like, it's technology here. Yet we talked about this. Are we are we overreaching the industrial revolution is on the way? He's like I know we have blunderbuss. It takes me twenty five minutes to load my rifle. Dave, do you have any favorite local hunks? Oh, boy I mean besides myself taking myself. Out of the equation, that's the classic thing to do Dave. I think it's only fair I gotta go a sweet James. assured. The billboard lawyer. I. James is a really fun local billboard lawyer. So we james emerged from nowhere fifteen months ago there were key he was born fully formed as a billboard lawyer fifteen months ago when he decided to buy all of Los, Angeles is billboards. and His logo is that kind of flowing softball team jerseys script. And it says sweet. James and then it's got a picture of him and that's it. That's all he has to say for himself. There's no like he he took a look at. There's a famous Los Angeles billboard lawyer. Who has billboards with a picture of him and it just says Occidente. Yup Yup. Phone numbers, all sevens I believe to. There you go. He took a look at that and he thought I like it, but it's a bit wordy. Yeah I think it's him. You Got Accidental Guy and then you've got Jacob Call Jacob and those three guys have basically carved out the city like mob. Gangs of work they're fun fact about Jacob and Ronnie. sweetjames and accidents as they all share the same suit. They're all they all share it at the same time. It's just one large. Rat King of of. Billboard lawyers. If you're wondering why you don't hear from Jacoby and Meyers much anymore. Your is sweet. James had them ased. sweetjames saw the velvet underground wrote that song about him you got the guy you kill those Sama bin Laden means like do a those to take those fuckers? I was just on a speaking tour at a local rotary club and sweetjames approached. It seems like you got a lot of time on your hands if you considered killings and personal injury lawyer. Know I have I've been thinking about it for me. You mentioned that yeah, I formed a new organization seal team seven. It's only for killing personal injury lawyers. Your next Cellino Barnes. Jewelry Attorney when my wife was in loss Lino and Barnes Song. I don't know if that's regional or not. Thank you. When my wife was in law school a. Hundred and twenty, five, thousand dollar Boondoggle that I'll never forget. One of the most interesting things she learned is that there's All these rules about how you can and cannot advertise yourself. When you're a lawyer, it's immoral to promote yourself. If you're a member of the bar, it's against bar rules. So you basically can't say that you're good at being a lawyer you can only say that you are a lawyer. I mean I guess sweetjames isn't saying that he'll do a good job. That's what it is. I mean. It's like imagine if like road routers slogan was row. Ruder. Accompany that clears pipes we have the necessary equipment. Arby's slogan. Right, here, and then you're gonNA WANNA eat them but we have we have. They are here. Are they good? It would be immoral to say. We won't even say we have all the me. Some of the meats and by we we mean vacation will say. That's who does the voiceover for the Arby's commercials and that a fun fact. It is fun. It's very fun. Yes. CREIGHTON everything. Oh. Yeah. Absolutely. Always love it. When being rams POPs up something a I have a question. Yes. Do you think that somewhere in this great land. And this is one of those questions where you think like of all the stars and all the galaxies you know what I mean like. Our nation spreads out before US seemingly almost infinite. You know you could ask you know. You could ask the early explorers. How far how far does America go? They would say forever. You Know Lewis and Clark would tell you there's no knowing. How far this great land stretches contains multitudes. Do, you think there's such a thing as an Arby's hunk. and he's wearing the hat. Or maybe he's got Arby's undies oh. Sure. Yeah. Or undies made of Meat Oh. That's what I call beefcake. The shirt does he have horsey sauce or Horsey cock. Little Grocer than we've been being. A little more gross but you know. I got worried as soon as you said, horsey sauce. I got worried that it would burn my penis. Well seems like you need a tough enough that peanuts ears. He's gotta you a week Penis. We. As the Pena's has has no no bravery or stamina with at. Just a real, Wussy Pinas dude you gotTa Start Jamming. That thing and some spicy dips man. Guys, maybe I'll start with my scrotum. Work your way QA. Man I'm already Dunkin my thing in Nashville Kats. Gracious. Five alarm boom. I put mine in some francs red hot one time on a trip to Buffalo? New York. That's fun fun. Regional thing to stick your Dick head. Peanuts. Gray after a while. I. Like a raw sausage. Dave Y- were speaking of hunks you have worked at what I call the hunk factory which. Wrestling it's where they make. They make honks the hugs the love to slam. My job is just turn the the gold grinder. So the Hawks keep coming out you know. Locally the organ grinder monkey dislike turning the little turn. The wheels here comes another hung on. Your how? Band dente. Dan. The Classic Factory Song Plays. You just have a big. Big. Cone that's accepting raw materials you know and you just pour in meat. And Steroids and Reps. As like like the I love Lucy episode I was stuff in hunks in my mouth. Speeding up the conveyor belt rollers to. Joke he's. Read. This is great. From an unrelated mistake. How does how does when one is writing for wwe? What does one right? So I I write body slam pile drive close chair. Hit with chair no It's it's the the PROMOS, the interviews they give. You know all that dialogue is scripted and then in in the same way that a normal. Television. Writer's room written by adult males and females would be You are breaking the story every episode. But instead of like you know a three act structure and and fun conversations and whatnot, it's matches. So there's like any television show live television show their segments in broken up by commercial breaks, and so I worked on smackdown and that's two hours long It was on USA network. Now it's on Fox and it had eleven segments separated by commercial breaks, and then you have the the the our crossover and you WanNa have something important happening there have something important happening they open the show anyone have some important happening at the end of the show. That's IT and most of the decision making happens because of what Vince McMahon wants versus what maybe I want her somebody else wants it's it's a bizarre job. It seems like they don't need us. We're kind of there just to be fired. In the sense that like I got gotta fire somebody. Yeah. It's it's a buffer zone between the professional wrestler who is very sensitive. Very self conscious and very large and the actual people who make the decisions. So the wrestlers get mad at us. and. Then the real writers, Vince McMahon and various other people get mad at us to and so eventually when something bad happens ratings go down someone gets injured someone looks at you. Funny. You know somebody puts poop in somebody's gym bag. The writers, the one who gets hired Vince McMahon's act get fired the wrestlers not gonna get fired. It's the writer because they don't need us to make this show. So that was it. Did you did you get do you get face time with them? Do you sit down with I? Don't know just for example, Jake the snake Roberts I did not meet him but thank. You for a very contemporary reference whereas where my wrestling knowledge stops not even at one of the iron sheik's famous out gakuen roundtables. Deed. Yeah. Like do you sit down with them and talk about character development stuff like that? Yes yes absolutely. You're on the road. There there are two teams, a home team in a row team. That's what they're called. The home team is in Stamford Connecticut and I was on the home team for most of my time a wwe and you know breaking episodes pitching segments in writing dialogue and stuff. then. The other writers are on the road at the shows and they're the ones who are communicating to the wrestlers what I've written or someone else's written explaining to them what they need to do, which makes no sense. It's completely logical. I should be telling them but there's gotta be more layers of bureaucracy otherwise, the show will run to smoothly. So they have to keep throwing monkey wrenches into things so you sit. Down and you tell the wrestler, this is what I want to do. You need to do this? We're GONNA shoot this. Now we're GONNA shoot this later here's how we're gonNA shoot it and then issued it, and then inevitably it goes wrong and Vince yells at the the writer and then fires them. That's that's the show mile sounds like a real dream. Yeah. It's like Saturday night live if it sucks all the time. How old is Vince Mcmahon I think he's probably slightly less old than the MERRIMACK. Seventies or something. Is, he still yoked there was a period where he was yoked on the show a lot. He significantly less yo te yeah I mean he's he's a he's a he's an exceptional. geriatric Septuagenarian or whatever that would be for one seventies. But he's still an old man. So he's in better shape than ninety percent of old men in the in the world, but it's still an old man not huge but he is in good shape and he's still able to get around and isn't doddering or anything was anything you wanted to do while you were there that like you couldn't just because of bureaucracy and red tape, bend? Can all that gunk things been going around going on for fifty years? I would say the Kiss Jake, the snake. Yeah. Fortunately, I didn't get to make with the snake. The dream the number one thing I didn't get to do is not get fired. Other than that I accomplished all my goals. Did you just when you eventually got fired? Did you just take one of the many other entertainment jobs in Connecticut yes? Yes. I, stuck around and decided to just work Jerry Springer. Jerry. Springer, in Connecticut yes. Wow. So you're the one who broke up the stripper fights. Exactly. Yeah Yeah Yup oh. Yeah. Can I tell you guys Jerry Springer fact that I learned So I did a couple years ago. I did a podcast called the turnaround right interviewed interviewers. And one of the people I interviewed with Jerry Springer. In. Jerry. Springer is like you know he's famously you know he was a he was a local democratic politician in Cincinnati and. One until he was disgraced and became a locally and then went on to a long career in local television that out of which the. The Jerry Springer show came. He's already like you know people will tell you did you know that he used to be mayor of Cincinnati? The real facts that I learned about him that blew my mind was. He does not know the topic of the show until he goes on stage in read reads it from the prompter. The topic of the episode is news to him when he reads it from the prompter because he likes it to be surprise I. Mean I think that surprise is a key part of that show. I haven't watched a of Jerry Springer in my life but. Miami I think you want to be surprised when the super start fighting. Anybody. Thought. They could. Be Friendly. Yeah. At what point after seven hundred fights or you like? Well, there's probably going to be a fight here. So I should probably get out of the way. Wayne you're surprised anymore. The host of the Jerry Springer show. Your name is Jerry Springer and guess what? We're watching to see those strippers fight or see you know some clansmen wrestling with some punk kids or whatever paternity test or something? That's what we're there to see. So it's not a surprise that I think is a jerry springer genre that. That I think was probably in its heyday. When we were kids is. Giving punks a a venue to yell at clansman. That's what we're missing today. Yeah. Ours it's just a safe place. It's not the Internet right where punks and clansman can have conversations that usually end in fisticuffs. Yeah. Now it has to happen on the street all the time. It's horrible. Thank you. Thank you. Day, would you say do you know all the people you work with wwe? Did they automatically get New Yorker articles? Yes. As every every single one of them, all of they're all very successful I I don't know actually I don't know what any of them are doing. There's probably none of them left. That were there when I was there, they probably open fired. But yes I did because of my hard work and my talent do you Dave I've important question for you sure when you're a writer for the WWe inevitably get fired. Do you then get other jobs writing wrestling matches. There's no really only one other company that does it and they don't they don't hire. Writers, they hire wrestlers to the writing, which is Traditionally, how it's done is that wrestlers ex wrestlers or wrestlers that are semi-retirement will be what's called the booker and the and the booker is the person who picks the matches who decides what the story lines are going to be. An executes the show from a production standpoint. The wrestlers were the ones that come up with what they're. They're going to say that has been the case from the beginning of wrestling basically till the late nineties early, two thousands. Vince McMahon's brilliant idea was let's hire a bunch of soap opera writers. Let's hire a bunch of TV writers of other other. Elks and whatnot, and let's give them the chance to script the shows and you can see the quality of the show go down every year that has been in in practice. So I would imagine you got this job because you were a wrestling fan. You know you you grew up with it or you know. After having kind of what sounds like a bad experience with it can you still watch it? Do you still watch wrestling? No No. No it gives me a visceral violent reaction where I went to hit myself in the face with a brick. Okay Holy. Mackerel. Sure. You haven't done it yet but I thought about it. You have the brick on hand. What do you really think about wrestling Dave I wrestling is wonderful. It's fine. It's just not once you've seen it be made. It's kind of less appealing to to witness from fan standpoint. I. Once he hit that the pinnacle WWe is the biggest wrestling company in the world, the biggest wrestling company in history. I just There's nothing else for you to do in wrestling and it just doesn't have the same kind of transported appeal that it did when you were someone who didn't know what it was like, what is really going on why decisions are made why certain things happened don't happen the show I've just over analyzing it and picking it apart and looking at my phone the whole time and thinking about other stuff that I could be doing besides watching wrestling. I feel like there's a lot more room than one would expect in the world of professional wrestling for a sixty four year old man. Look I feel like I feel like for a thing that is based on extraordinary feats of athleticism. There is a lot of. Just doddering. Men In singlets wandering through, you know what I mean like. Oh. This is a world where. A whole Cogan. Is Seven thousand years old has been taped having elderly sex and shouting racial slurs. Like and Hill. Like he's still it's. Like. If all cocaine was a basketball player. They wouldn't have him come back and do a little more basketball yet. Was the oldest old guy when you were there that is I think that is a that is a good point. Kurt Angle. If you remember Kurt Angle, he was in probably in his early fifties I think maybe. That with see the guy always carrying around the snake. Irish Snake. Angle Olympic gold medalists in in amateur wrestling. Okay. Greco Roman in it or whatever. It's called wrestling and then transitioned to w. w. f., in the late nineties. Jesse and Dave I was wondering as sports fans are you guys? Are you guys watching these kind of weird finless sporting events? It's all I do Jordan Watch weird families, sporting events. You know our friend Ali Wong hat pass Jordan Jesse go guest Alley Wong has a cardboard celebrity cut out of herself at at and T. Park in San Francisco. The stands they have cardboard cutouts of of Fan, and then some of them are of legendary Joe players. Some of them are legendary local celebrities like e forty. Ali Wong made the cut. Hey, that's great. I have a cardboard, Canada dodger stadium I paid for it a good. Okay. Sure. I didn't get it for free like Celebrity Alley Wong. I'm not a celebrity, but I do have a cardboard cutout at dodger stadium. So I think alleyen ir closer than you think in terms of esteem Dave I. Feel. This is what my feeling about it. Your mistake was rooting for a team in Los Angeles Oud boy. Alley star shines bright enough to get a cut out in San Francisco. She probably couldn't quite cut it in in Los Angeles, no offense to Allie, who's a big star in a big talent. Amazing. Human being. But I. Think you and me Dave. Like if we were reds fans Oh, my God can you imagine i? Mean they probably have a Buzi Collins cut out. But like we're probably we would be second and third on the list I think if I was in Cincinnati reds, Fan, they let me pitch the seventh inning. Travis mcelroy's probably got cut out in Cincinnati right now come on in. Travis. Here's the ball. Good luck. You think I could get a padres cut out because when I was a kid, we went to the San Diego Wild. Animal Park. That's the kind of thing I'm talking about I've been on I've been on the submarine in San Diego. Give me a fucking cutout PETCO Park I think most our dogs I think it's like exclusively dogs. The San Diego Padres Games I'll dogs is dog cutouts his a big new phenomenon Jordan There some teams that are putting out cutouts of adoptable dogs. That's fungi love I mean I've been on this show I wanna I wanna make it clear Dave. You weren't here a couple of weeks ago, but I openly advocated for letting live unleashed dogs into the ballpark during. The. Fantastic however. Part of the premise of this was my it turns out erroneous belief that dogs can't corona virus. It turns out a dog did get coronavirus tragically so I'm out on that but my new. Is, what about those Sony Aibo 's you know what I'm talking about little robot dogs. You don't know the Sony Aibo. Is called Aibo I might be it might be called something else frankly, but it's a little robot dog little yellow. The they're like a yellow long legs and they kind of Yeah I've seen guys wait yellow you're thinking of a sports walkman. Oh Shit you're right the one the waterproof one you're. Of Dive Watch. Okay, so I can't play a my ellen degeneres comedy album CD on one of these dogs. No unfortunately, not right. Well, but I would like to see. You wouldn't need to fill the whole stadium with Sony Bows and they're pretty expensive. I bet you know. But I think if you've got thirty five forty thousand seat stadium. If you've got six thousand Abe Os and just let them go wild in the lower bowl. I think that'd be a great time for everybody including the ballplayers. Sure. That's nice. But I have a better idea listen. Listen to this. Okay. Listen to this instead of people. That are paying or celebrities or dogs or anything like that. You get cardboard cutouts of the FBI one hundred most wanted criminals. Spread Democrat across the stadium. So every game. You get a glimpse of the most heinous criminals in the country. and. So if you see them walking around driving their car eating at a restaurant you like I saw you at the dodgers game you son of a Bitch Ura terrorists and he's like you got me and then you take him in Man I. Love This Public Service humbling service every every strikeout every homerun witnessed by two hundred cold dead is that's right. Vacant souls some of the sociopathic cruel evil men and women in this nation. And then everybody could if like one of them knocked over with a foul ball. Bingo and Yet right. You're aiming at that point and then everybody gets the Free Jack in the box breakfast sandwich. I. I read something that the crowd noise that they're using they're pumping artificial crowd noise. It is from MLB video game is that true? That is true in baseball? Yeah. They I I listened to Ellison to a baseball nerd podcast called effectively wild and they interviewed one of the ballpark sound guys. Major League. Baseball. Sent out. Like. You know those you know those like sound trigger pads that morning radio deejays us that look like that look like a drum machines or something like that. This. The sound trigger they made sound trigger pads loaded with sounds from MLB the show. For the Sony playstation. And then they have those just plugged into the PA system and they play them by tapping on pads and turning knobs. Now Dave. You had a good idea with the to putting wanted criminals in the stands. I got I got myself an idea. You're not the only one who can have ideas Dave I can have ideas to. Jordan's kind of our idea man Marill I throw it to the wall I. See what sticks lay bad ideas and brainstorming. But. I. Think this one's good. So you're already throwing just fucking video game noises in there. Why not just randomly throwing a dupin. The crowds going wild for you know for a grand slam or a ground rule double throw in Duke and people would love that. You can yeah I like it. Get to hear like maybe a power up sound. Oh yeah forever. Yeah. That's really good I'd like to get Michael Winslow from police academy to just do them alive for three hours. That's that's that's the play right there. A home run for a helicopter. crashed. Everybody Duck. It sounds like somebody's opening fire with a machine-gun. Oh and it's just Michael Winslow. That crafty little man one, a fun fun ruse, and if someone gets a hit by pitch, you play the sound of Pacman dying. Let's. Let's take a quick break It'll give Michael winslow chance to call in for that interview that he scheduled on our college radio show fifteen years ago. and we'll be back in just a second on Jordan. Jesse go. Along. It's Jordan Jesse go I'M JESSE THORN AMERICA'S RADIO SWEETHEART Jordan. Morris boy. Detective. Jordan. 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It's about making swords like it's a reality show about making swords about king solar. It's sort of like orange. What was that? Show a west coast choppers or whatever you remember that one with the from the man with the Mustache Guy They make they made a motorcycles show they make sore. Just a new sort every week you know it's the same sort. It's weird. This season season Long season-long Arthur. Yes. You see one. And then you and then season finale tease nunchucks. What aw Shit I hope they get picked up. Up in the anti none yeah. So. Brian our producer who's doing doing a fucking bang-up job with this show. By the way Brian, told us during the break that he has a sweet James. UPDATES sweetjames the beloved la billboard lawyer Brian. What. What sweetjames facts did you find while while we were on break Do, Doo Doo Doo Doo. Doo Doo Doo Doo Doo sweetjames update. I didn't know what about sweetjames so's doing a quick Google of Ham and I found an interview with his wife in. Wife magazine. Yeah exactly this quote stuck out to me. She says my husband and I get asked. About fitness routines, but we aren't major Jim Rats we love eating rich foods and drinking fine wines. She reveals besides good genetics. We honestly attribute Arlene physiques to a healthy and active sex life. We have a dungeon with swing it gets more use than our homes Jim. Wow something. Do we have like a? Jammed. They've got was monitors with like Fox News and CNN on. Do they have that sex dungeon? fucking remotes broken I, can't change it from CNN. Yesterday to the dress again. Jerry Springer. Will good next time I drive by the sweetjames billboard I can imagine him. Getting, some cock and ball torture. Those videos hang a big weight from your from your penis. Those videos. Sorry. On IOS one. Penis wait video. It's like it's supposed to be. You're referring to king it's like I really want this anvil hanging from my shonky Haw, because it makes me feel good. Well, that's what I'm thinking sweetjames does that he's just like stretching out his dangling. Yeah. I. Don't see sweetjames all the billboards I've seen at least are kind of waste up or you know Kinda shoulders up. So yeah, I, mean he could have an anvil on the Dinka and we why do you why do you think you smiling so much? More photos. Yeah. Because envelopes to stretch that dumb it's a stretch that Dong Yeah. sweetjames he's got a swing in their. Swing is not even. I, she may be overstating the dungeon part right. I swim his. Swing much friendly business kind of thing you find in the dungeon. Yeah. I think I, think the the presence of a swing implies it implies that you're you're committed to this. You know because like a sweet, you know because like. Think about you know the the sex aids one could purchase. With. The swing. You know you have to fix it to something. You gotta find a study gotTa find. So I guess if you have the swing, it implies to me that you have a bunch of other shit too. Yeah. You don't just get the swing right? The swing is like the last purchase you've built yourself up to the swing. It's sort of like you know when you get a home theater system, you get the Sub Woofer last, right? Yeah. The swing is the sub Woofer of the sex dungeon. Get it I google image search sweet James. And there's a lot of pictures of his billboards As you would expect, there's one pissy album. And then there's just a picture of dude whose name is James Sweet he's a sociology professor at the University of Wisconsin Madison Out James Sweet I. Hope you're listening yeah. Yeah. Dr James Sweet I bet hear your name Dearie. Did You Lucky Guy, wait a minute james sweet is the James Sweet. Professor of sociology what what are you? Yes. He? No. I mean he c- He appears based on this website for the University of Wisconsin Madison. We'll have to ask Linda Barry that's where she teaches but this website for the University of Wisconsin Madison seems to suggest that James Sweet holds a professorship that's named after him. Wow. who better this guy's probably great one is GonNa give that thing up and it's very immodest. Yeah I'm going to keep it's sort of like George Washington being like you know what? I'm GonNa keep that monument and I'm GONNA live there. Thank you. That's my. It's like George Washington declaring himself the George Washington president of the. That's how I imagined it anyway Well, when something momentous happens to you, we ask you to call us at two zero, six, nine, eight, four, four fun or send us a voice memo at Jj go at maximum fund dot Org. Hey, guess what something momentous happened this week we in the mail today got my daughter's new birth certificate. Thanks to our friends at the state of California of very excited. My wife put in a lot of work over a long period of time to make that happen. it's a really annoying hassle more than you would like it to be but here we are. We've we've got the we've got a piece of paper to prove that she's real. Jesse is an ad read for the state of California. Yeah it is California only somewhat on fire. It just felt very it's it was so sincerely. Gracious that I was like this has got to be an advocate for the state state state of California. If this states are rocket. Come in. A and that means it's A. Seven point eight earthquake in Wright's. Great we know it works. What are we listened to a momentous occasion? They Brian. Jordan. He just Jesse you go. You're talking about taxing. And I had the hooter stuffed animal, you get center and when I was young, I was swinging it around like a morning star and I hit my little sister in the head with it and knocked her over. She got up g ranch me and she takes me in the balls. And I fell over and then I got up and I went to pull her out of a recliner. So like chair and they accidentally broke her arm. Of Child Protective Services thought that my parents had done. It was a whole thing. Anyway have a great one. Holy Cow. So this happened recently, I didn't know there were hooter toys. GotTa get on Ebay. Was Captain. was he a military figure? He was a captain. I. Mean he could have been a firemen, right. I guess that's my. That's my question or just like you know. How in Sifi sometimes they call like a spaceship a boat or like gotta get on the ship. Is he a captain of that or is he a mill I? Don't I don't remember the back story of Captain Neo my memory of it is pretty hazy. But he was captain of a ship before the story took place in the backstory it was either the monitor the Mary Mack. Truly cannot remember whether he was on his side of good or bad civil war, the Monitor Merrimac or my ex wife. Remember that one. Yeah also named ex wives mother-in-law Huger Huger. My mother-in-law. So Great. She's been helping us a lot. That's nice that you're you're working to reform the image of mother-in-law's the bad image that they've gotten. Over. One Hundred Years of jokes about them Jordan my mother-in-law's the one in the work. Shout out to Beth hospital. Yeah and he's doing it Congrats world-class mother-in-law Don a plus ten out of ten would recommend and it. Hey, I just wanna I just WANNA work to reform the image of Polish people Polish people you've had a lot of jokes made about you. But I don't believe tried to build that screen door on that submarine. nope. We're not buying. It didn't happen. It just didn't happen. Let's take another call I Jordan. Jessie. Judge Hodgman. THIS IS PHIL FROM MEMPHIS I'm calling with a momentous occasion. This dispersing single. PAS This. Is this like? One of those interviews on twenty, twenty or nightline. Where they're in front of a Scrim so you can only see their silhouette and there's a robot changing their voice like this guy's a mob informant. What kind of information he's about to disclose maybe it's something sensitive. It's been a long time since somebody's broken open NDA. Well. Here what this let's hear what this mob informant has to say for himself. I'm calling with a momentous occasion. During Kovic I think we all have Perhaps perused a little more porn the normal and. Indulged ourselves and I found myself doing this a little too much lately. So three weeks ago. My. Wife, got me a chastity cage. And I have. Been in it for three weeks. And it has been great. I mean. Waking up in the middle of the night. Hard on the can't get hard. Isn't great but. the whole experience has actually been very good. That's just wanted you guys to know. Love you guys and stay safe. Thanks for calling sweetjames. Love you, guys. Really love you to this aching ball and cock torture is just the worst and yet I just want to say I. Love You guys. Yeah. What I like about this call. I. Mean obviously I love his positive attitude. I gotta I gotTa have a positive attitude and now more than ever I love his hushed mannered speech that led me to believe that his voice was being altered by computer. But what I love most about this. Is that he gives this review of the chassis cage that his wife got him. But he does not give any specifics as to what's good about it. Just says it's great like. So one wonders what are the criteria to him for a great thing? Turns Boehner's into chafing one thing. He might. Like what what would you know? If he's like reviewing an inflatable pool on Amazon or whatever. Does he right? Yeah. This is great. I couldn't get off on. He's got more free time for hobbies if you're blisters. Less. Less on your monthly cell phone bill. Yeah. These are all good things I. loved this belt Sander my wife swallowed the key. I don't know. You know you just don't just don't just don't get your lesson just don't get your. Your Jesse belts on. Wish it the. Picture looks like one thing and then you get it and it's totally different. I, mean it's cost two bucks. So you're not that mad at it but you know I ordered one from Allie Express and it turned out to be made of Styrofoam and you know, hey, listen I I maybe this will come office jingoistic but when it comes to when it comes to ball cages by American U. S.. A number there's a lot of hard working men and women in our nation's rust belt. Assembly stainless steel best sensual workers listening to the Song Goes Don Denton. At over and over again while assembling ball cages. And trying to stuff them into their mouths. I Love Lucy. Goes faster and faster the belt belt. Starting to get up on my high horse I'll I'll let it slide for now but I don't know sorry it's just now I feel if something happens to you two, zero, six, nine, eight, four, four, fund or JJ at Maximum Fund Dot Org will be back in just a second on Jordan Jessica. Law. She manners now definition. Rules of etiquette designed not to judge others but rather to guide ourselves through everyday social situations hello. Internet I'm your husband host Travis mcelroy and I'm your wife host Teresa mcelroy every week entrepreneurs we take a look at a topic that has to do with society or manners we talk about the history of it. We take a look at how it applies to everyday life and we take some of your questions and sometimes we do a biography about a really cool person that had an impact on how we view etiquette. So join US every Friday and listen to Sh- manners maximum fund dot org or wherever podcasts are found manners manners get it. Welcome back said Chad on Knx with me in studio to take your calls as the dope on the West Coast, Oliver, Wong and Morgan roads the way ahead caller. Hey, I'm looking for a music podcasts and fight fo and thoughtful. But like most of the helped me discover art and then outfit I've never heard of him it sounds like you need to listen to heat rocks every relief myself and I'm Morgan Road my here Oliver Wong talked to influential guests about a canonical album that has changed beleives guess like Moby Open Mike Eagle talk about albums by Prince Joni. Mitchell and so much more. Again he ranks deep dives into hot rackets every Thursday on maximum fund. It's Jordan Jesse. Go I'm. Jesse. Thorn America's Radio Sweetheart Jordan Morris boy detective Dave Schilling. Nickname, I forgot we were doing the nickname thing. I'm sorry you can just be fired I'll be fired wwe writer again I don't WanNa. Do that again? No, we don't do nickname. Okay. I, we've had these same dumb nicknames for thirteen years soon as you did the nickname I was like panicked. Oh, God I don't have anything. Man You're could. Triple this onto hand or something. So I don't forget if there's another one Jordan. I feel like we need to be clear that we had these nicknames for twenty years. I just would rather someone think that a nineteen year old me thought of this stupid nickname than twenty, six year old. Me was supposed to be cool when I was twenty six, I mean not that I was being cool. I'm just saying. I want to preserve what little implied policy mystique I might be able to defend. Yeah, okay let's let's let's just let's just say we were giving birth. It was against our will. And Yeah. The fact that we're still using them isn't embarrassing. Yeah. We just trying to gaslight are listening. We're not embarrassing are. WHO PODCAST. And we died ten years ago tonight my Vin Mo- name is Dave Shit League. Oud. Pay By internet be ill. Like this new signature character we've just developed then goes. Griffin goes always needs money get me back for half of Bra Man I. Know That was two months ago and I said you're good for it but I could really use that twenty bucks. Thanks for buying that handmade cutting board from me at a craft fair. The weird public feed that goes along with this makes it easy to tell who I'm fucking. Why are we splitting everything some kind of deadbeat. I mean literally yes. Yes. Dead Be Okay I. GET IT I. Get it. Okay. Cool. Was this the first joke you've gotten on the show? Dave so far they. Haven't said you haven't said I get it yet so That's that's the tell when you know that I thought. That's fun. I get it. That's what Lauren. Michelson. Oh. Dave don't try out fanciest us now that you're published in New York Okay Fine I've been published in a little outlet called the Metro Santa. Cruz. So I'm pretty fucking fancy to. All right. Publish, publisher parish. That's what they say. Ask. Dr James Sweetie. Dave I you. You're a hilarious guy like following you on twitter I clicked on your New Yorker linked that you sent out over twitter I. Am I have not read it I am above my article limits whenever that resets all remind myself to go back and read your article as long as they get the click I I just WanNa get those clicks man I don't care they pay per click. Is, this is this a is this a shout or a murmur with his? Yes it is it a show and Murmur in ensue is about a a hypothetical scenario a funny scenario if you will a satirical would like it i. like it. So go on where the director of the last picture show and what's up doc Peter Bogdonovich rates a an essay for criterion about the movie Austin powers in Goldmember. Wow. And as you I don't want to spoil the joke too much for those who haven't read it yet. But if you know Peter Bogdanovich he is very fond of digressing from the topic at hand to telly long winded anecdote about. Someone from classic Hollywood John Ford or Orson Welles or. John Wayne any number of people will we'll go ahead and link to your new. Yorker. Piece on the Jordan Jesse go facebook page which people should be following. All read the whole thing I have a subscription. Thank you for doing that. That's how they're able to afford to commissioned me to write things is because people subscribe I don't actually pay for it I, get it because I'm an influence her because I've been published in the Metro Santa Cruz Is that a newspaper or like one of those magazines that has like the coolest spots to go to in Santa? Cruz. It's an all weekly. What do you think I am a mainstream sell out. That's true. Good Point. You're like that Bukowski of Santa Cruz like you and Roger Angell, Susan Orlean, Tad friend. Various and sundry other people guys. I, haven't published yet how long before I parish? started. mogos to take you to hell? What's awful about publisher parish is that they don't tell you that if you publish, you still perish Mike like if you don't publish you perish. But if you do publish, you still parish deficit inevitable. It's true. That's the thing they don't tell you in journalism school. Should I still go through the trouble to publish then? It's it's a fifty fifty whether or not you're going to be dead soon so I don't know. Yeah. Yeah. Spend the money on billboards and get yourself a sex dungeon. Maybe, the maybe the James is just invite me over to use their sexton. My question is what came first the sex dungeon or the local celebrity Oh. Yeah. Sure Jordan can I ask you a question? Yes. In this formulation that you've laid out here. Where sweetjames in his wife are known as the James's. First name is sweet right. Yes forest. WHY WOULDN'T IT BE Oh well. Dave Schilling, it's been enjoy to have you on Jordan Jesse. Go thank you for coming on the program. I I will say folks should check out your podcast as well. Featuring on on the most recent episode of our, Max? Von Colleague if what's important about pronouncing if he's surname I found is if if I just mumble enough. I may get some parts, right and miss the other parts. So apologies to our friend. And let me say you did mention that I had the most generic podcast description of all time. There's a reason it's because this is a parody of sports talk podcast. So I, try to I try to preserve the fantasy of this sort of satire of at all. So I don't say, Hey, this is a comedy podcast where we have Improv medians playing various characters in sports in in pop culture? I want people to to really immerse themselves in the fantasy like your Disneyland or dinner theatre, UC or something. Raga every time I go to see Improv I just lose myself. I can't stop just immersing myself in the Improv. Dave when you when you got the Acceptance Letter From The New Yorker was it signed by? Borowitz himself? No. No He. He does vet everyone though he does a background check on you and just make sure that you're not funnier than him in so far. Everyone has been. A New Yorker hasn't published in fifteen year. Yeah. I'm still waiting for this thing to come out I. Don't know how you guys read up. Al Gore, just got rejected for being too funny. Man, you're not doing mother-in-law stuff for you're doing Al Gore's boring stuff. I of correct. Get Out of my facebook feed Borowitz stuff but because the thing is is you can't block Borowitz without losing the other New Yorker stuff More, with trick that he does on you, he's a sneak that Borowitz. Website was Borowitz, dot com, you could just block Borowitz. Dot Com and then he'd never have to hear from Borowitz again. But if you block BOROWITZ DOT COM, we'll get to hear from Susan Orlean Tad friend or Dave Schilling or the Great Dave showing will say let me take it. Let me take lots of back about Borowitz because I do want to continue writing shouts and murmurs so I don't want to offend Mr Borowitz if he does listen to this show Sir your a national treasure and Donald trump reads you week and he's very concerned that you going to ruin his reelection campaign so continue work Keep steaming the praise. To the man Yeah commander-in-chief's going to blow his top over here. Pretty. Soon, we're going to have a new guy in the George Washington presidency of the United States. No matter who it is over at sixteen hundred Penn is going to have steam coming out their ears. I don't know who this character is. The perspective we're doing here. I. Think it's just a celebration of the Borowitz report? Right. Getting steam come another years would be like the kind of thing that you would say about that just an example he is hot under the collar that president. This guys, eiser crossing. He's so mad about the Borowitz report. Born away. He says. Bring me borough. In this case in this scenario President Fred Flintstones boss. Jona. Jameson I was pounding the desk. Yeah. Sure. Minutes get me pictures of Borowitz. and. It's me like, okay of course. Sir. Latino I. Am Andy Borough. Shit right under his nose the whole time guys. Yes. Let's Create A. Like a generation defining Sitcom, like the fresh prince of bel-air. In just retire to the new. Yorker Bet, you'll be our our new career goal. Yeah. I'll invent Carlton. And you guys get invent the rest God bless that guy he could never work another day in his life but he says to the American people I know you need me and he keeps working. Carlton Four with Mr. Ribeiro as great as the host of America's funniest home videos. Yeah and I believe he also sued fortnight. No. Yeah. On his dance for stealing his dad's well, we've got a lot of fun on Jordan Jesse go dave. Schilling has been our guest, our producer Brian D. Fernandez you can find on social media at Jesse. Thornton at. Jordan. 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Mac OS Ken: 06.23.2020

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Mac OS Ken: 06.23.2020

"It. Is Mac Os. Arm wrestles its way and the MAC and Wall Street cheers. What here's? It's Tuesday, the twenty third of June twenty. Twenty I'm Ken Ray, and this is news from Monaco West Ken brought to you by yours truly and sponsored by Sun Basket heat clean, feel, great. Use Promo Code. Macro West Ken for thirty five dollars off your order at Sun basket dot com slash math. Go West can. This show is also supported by people like you. Patrons through patriotic on. Find out more in that your support that Patria on dot com slash, Mac Os Cam. I'll be honest. I spent a lot of Monday overwhelmed by the WWE DC keynote. It was no longer than usual just under two hours, I think. But there were no pauses for applause. While there were demos, there were fewer of them, unusual and moving into an out of demos didn't take as long as it usually does well moving from topic to topic and speaker, two speaker was handled and dynamic ways. There was also handled quickly. All of which is to say, it felt like there was a lot more jammed in the Monday's one hour and forty nine minutes than usual. And I am not going to cover all of it today. The plan for the week we'll do the move from x eighty six to arm today tomorrow will focus on Ios an ipad Os. Thursday we'll do. Mac Os big Sur then Friday? We'll hit watch os TV, OS and home stuff. Will also hit other apple story throughout the week as they hit. That stated we will begin where apple ended with the announcement of the move to arm. As had been expected. Apple announced its intention to move from the Intel processors that empowered the maximum two thousand six to arm based processors. Proper name apple silicon. Apples press release makes it sound as if we shouldn't miss a beat. Quoting that with everything built in the ex code twelve such as native compilers, editors and debugging tools. Most developers will be able to get their APPs running a matter of days. Using universal to application by narrows developers will be able to easily create a single APP that taps into the native power and performance of the new. MACs with apple silicon, while still supporting Intel based MACs with the translation, technology of Rosetta to users will be able to run existing Mac APPs that have not yet been debated including those with Plug Ins. VIRTUALIZATION technology allows users to run Lennox. Developers can also make their IOS and Pat Os APPs of oil on the Mac without any modifications. Says, Apple, I've seen a developer to debating that point online. Not that the APPs won't work as apple says, but the knife. Oh, NAP running on the MAC without any modification. Wouldn't be the best user experience. But that's developers to work out later. Starting now. To help developers get started with apple. Silica and the company says apple is also launching the universal APP. QUICKSTART programme, which provides access to documentation forms support Beta versions of Mac os big Sur. The next version of the MAC operating system and Exco twelve and the limited use of a developer transition kit, or D. T. K. AMAC development system based on Apple's eighty twelve Z bionic system on a chip. That DT K. is a Mac mini powered by apple silicon, and you cannot have one. Not Now anyway unless you are a developer. If you are a developer. A piece from macrumors says. You might be able to have one for a limited time. According to that report, program acquires a brief application with limited availability and priority for developers with an existing MAC OS application. The program costs five hundred dollars and includes access to Beta a software developer, labs, private discussion, forum, technical support and other resources. On the hardware side participants will receive exclusive access to a developer transition. Get which resembles a Mac mini, but uses Apple's eight twelve Z biotic chip from the latest IPAD. Pro as its brains. After running through several spags, the peace says notably the DT K. remains the property of apple and must be returned at the conclusion of the program. Participants must also agree to a number of restrictions against tearing the machine down using it for work, other than development related to the program or renting or leasing it out. And, of course do not taunt the DT, K.. In making the case for making the move, apple points out that the past decade, and making its own silicon for iphone for IPAD for Apple Watch, and more has prepared the company for the transition. Quoting the press release again, apple is designing a family of SOC's the MAC. This will give the MAC industry leading performance per watt and higher performance, GP US and Ebeling. Right, even more powerful, PRO APPS and high end games. Plus neural engine will make its way to the MAC putting more machine learning on your desk or In your lap? Can everything actually be as fast as all that? Tech Crunch Gauges. What's likely to run? How as the transition begins? The piece has developers will be able to compile their APP to run both on Intel, based MACs and arm based Max. APPs compiled with this universal to format should be speedy as can be. On optimize, software will also run. Thanks to an emulating layer called Rosetta, too. But the bees points out. It's performances won't be as good as what you'd get from a native arm ready APP. It might be better than expected though. According to the peace when you install an old APP your Mac, will examine the APP and try to optimize it for your arm processor. This way there will be some level of optimization even before you open the APP. And of course I O S and IPAD APPS are already made to work on apple silicon. That sounds like those should run as fast as they do. On a twelve powered iphone or IPAD. With developers getting access to test machines in pretty short order. You might think Max powered by Apple. Silicon will be out soon. And you'd be right. The first arm based MAC will ship by the end of the year according to the crunch peas. Apple plans to have the whole Mac line transitioned and a couple of years. Not that your current Mike will be useless than. Far From It. A piece from seen that had apple CEO Tim Cook, saying during the keynote that apple plans to continue to support and release new versions of Mac Os, for Intel based MACs for years to come. In fact, he said. We have some new Intel based MACs in the pipeline that we're really excited about. Creative strategies. Ben Baharan pointed out the same pipeline comment on twitter, saying interesting that Tim Cook felt the need to say new Intel based MACs in the pipeline as well. Then when cooked I said that the words. Why would anybody buy them popped out of my mouth? But as soon as I saw bends tweet. Basically as soon as I heard the pipeline come, and again it occurred to me that that line may have been for the enterprise for companies that have MAC deployments and rolling upgrades on their roadmap. Putting that possibility to Ben, he responded on twitter, saying he thinks a big reason for the mention was because of corporate. Even as he announced the move away from Intel, Cook actually managed to sell being excited about the Intel MACs in the pipeline. Less convincing was a statement from Intel itself to Apple Insider, a spokesperson for the computer inside soon to be outside, said apple is a customer across several areas of business, and we will continue to support them. Intel remained focused on delivering the most advanced PC experiences and a wide range of technology choices that redefined computing. We believe Intel powered. PC's like those based on our forthcoming Tiger Lake Mobile, platform provide global customers the best experience in the areas they value most as well as the most open platform for developers. Both today and into the future. No of you or someone you know is limping along with an older Mac book. Monday's news is probably vexing. While apple says the first apple silicon Mac will be out later this year. It doesn't say what form factor that machine will be. Desktop laptop big or small. Right now it's anybody's guess. If the time for a new MAC is near a piece from seeing that offers a few things to consider. If you're thinking about a thirteen inch, macbook, pro or a thirteen inch macbook air. The site says you can probably go ahead and pull the trigger. Both machines were updated recently. Both are well spanked. The site doesn't expect those machines to be among the first support. Apple Silicon. If the need is pressing seeing that. You're good to go. If you're a photo or video, guy or Gal specifically a photoshop or final cut pro type consider wading is see nuts advice. Both. Those apps were said by to be up and running on apple silicon that could mean future development of those apps may tilt strongly toward apple silicon from now on according to the site. If you use a lot of native APPs from smaller developers seen that says go ahead and grab an Intel Mac decides not sure that APPs from small indie teams or ones that are no longer actively supported will get timely transitions. It battery life is your biggest concern. The site says wait for Apple Silicon. With the ability to control not only software and hardware, but also the platform, the site suspects will see bigger battery life gains from New Max whenever they arrive. If you run windows through boot, camp seen that you. May want to go ahead and grab an Intel Mac or at the very least wait for more information. And finally if you're a Gamer. Really, And actually says that. The site doesn't see much hope for ports of PC, games by ESTEEM, working for apple silicon. But the peace says the ability to run I O, s and I pat Os apps easily along with game controller support. Could, make, future, Apple Arcade Games more ambitious. So. I guess, you're just supposed to flip a coin on that one. Reaction from the financial in a moment, but first a word from sun basket, delivering healthy delicious meals straight to your door. You know what I liked before the great hunker down. Going out to eat. I didn't do it often, but when things got dull, a night out was nice. Nights out. Don't seem nice right now. The you can still get a bit of that variety with Sun Basket. Sun Basket has delicious recipes for all kinds of dietary preferences including Paleo Gluten Free Mediterranean vegetarian and more. No, it's not the same as having somebody come to your table and take your order, but they do make it easy and convenient to try new stuff. 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That wasn't as much about ww DC as it was iphone five G.. Quoting his note, we're raising our IPHONE. Shipment forecasts based on our latest field work and revising our price to earnings valuation. For the IPHONE business ahead of the five G. Upgrade Cycle. Mow! His note actually hit before the WWE DC. Keynote. It seems like arm based anticipation may have seeped in. The street had sancar indicating that apple is in sourcing production of some components for MAC computers, keeping costs of goods sold down. That could out as much as forty six cents to earnings per share for twenty twenty, one, according to the analyst. Finally. He has also turned on by higher-than-expected services revenue. Driven up by all the hunkering down. Sankar has a buy rating on apple shares. He used Monday's not up his price target on the shares. From three hundred thirty five dollars to four hundred box. Other notes, these actually reacting to the WW DC. Come to us. Compliments Apple Three, dot zero. J., P. Morgan analysts. Chatterjee likes apples focus on improving the user experience across the entire breadth of the portfolio. That should make the ecosystem more sticky in his estimation, while he seems a tiny bit cautious on Max powered by apple silicon. Having not seen them himself. He does think the move is likely to dry performance and cost advantages as well as harmonize the underlying silicon across the product portfolio. Chatterjee has an overweight reading on apple shares. His price target on the shares is three hundred sixty five dollars. Ever core ISI analyst. A meat dairy on the came away with a top six list from the keynote. He liked upgrades demo or mention for I. O S. Fourteen. He liked enhancements to carplay and car key. You liked upgrades announced for air pods functionality. He likes these sleep. Tracking announced for Wacho West Saban. He's excited about the Apple TV plus series foundation. Coming in twenty twenty one, and have you heard Mac is transitioning to apple's in house, Iligan. Net Net says add rock. There was no major one more thing at the event, but in aggregate the announcements do make the ecosystem more robust and the shift to end how silicon is a positive for margins. There the has now performing on apple shares. His price target on the shares is three hundred seventy five dollars and wedbush analyst. Daniel lives likes the level of Control Apple is taking over its future. Building its own silicon and so on. Yes now, perform ridden on apple shares. His price target on the shares is three hundred seventy five bucks. Whether it was the Cao upgrade the WWe DC address or a combination of all of it. Shares of Apple did that thing they do again, Monday. Mac Daily News, says ticker symbol AP L. hit new entrance and closing highs on ww DC day one. Shares, goddess, highest three hundred fifty nine dollars and forty four cents before giving back a about a half a buck. They ended the day at three, Fifty, eight, eighty seven. A gain of nine dollars and fifteen cents. Coming up in a few minutes. I had three favorite announcements during the WWe DC keynote. Brian Chapman, editor and chief of the MAC observer shared two of them. Find out what they are and why? In a few minutes. Look for that show wherever you get podcasts. Mac Os Ken. Brought to you by me and sponsored by Sun Basket, he clean feel great. Use Promo Code. MICO. Wes can for thirty five dollars off your order at Sun basket dot com slash mce West can. This show is also supported by people like you patrons through patriarch on. Find out more in that your support that. PATRIAE ON DOT, com slash Mac West can. Advertising handled by backbeat. Online at backbeat media DOT COM. You can reach me a couple of ways. Info at Monaco. 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How Extremists Capitalized on the Pandemic

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23:14 min | 6 months ago

How Extremists Capitalized on the Pandemic

"An alarm didn't expect to be covering Kovic nineteen she reports on national security extremism for NPR. But the funny thing about this moment she says is how the krona virus it ends up touching everything like everyone and I mean it doesn't matter what your beat was before the pandemic everyone's occur virus reporter now a few weeks back. Hannah started hearing about this story. It was right at the intersection. Between regular beat and the pandemic it revolved during a shootout in Missouri. Much like the rest of the Metro and the country is dead end street and built in were a few businesses are located is pretty quiet but it was far from quiet. Tuesday that afternoon. Witnesses told US law enforcement officers opened fire on thirty six year old. Timothy Wilson killed him the FBI. We heard that there was this weird operation down. In Missouri Cova Connection Guy Ends up dead an encrypted messages. Investigators say Wilson would use racial slurs when referring to people of different races or religions and that he held anti-government beliefs. D Did Not got killed Timothy Wilson. He was thirty six years old he had ties to Nazi groups online. The F. B. I. had been keeping tabs on him since September. But you know it wasn't until later that we started getting details about what was going on with the investigation and I'm frankly I don't think we we still don't know the circumstances of Wilson's what Hannah does know is from court documents in them a confidential informant an undercover FBI agent allege Wilson had been plotting to bomb a mosque or a synagogue or even elementary school serving. Black Children I mean the court papers are quite ridden. I mean they watch this guy for a really really long time. They describe how Wilson was in touch with this undercover operative discuss on making with him and Wilson Rights to the undercover agent. That he still thinks is a fellow extremists. Well if you're a fed you've got now and if that's the case make sure you bring lots of bodybags near Raid My house. Lol Oh my gosh yet. Court papers also quoted saying he wanted to create enough chaos to quote kick start a revolution but then the current virus pandemic hits and the FBI says Wilson's target changes again and that he shifted focus to Kansas City area hospitals. That were treating cove in nineteen patients. Timothy Wilson's plan was to bomb the hospital. Why did the corona virus change how this white supremacist thought of what he was going to do? This is something that we've seen a lot of other cases that extremism today in how it's expressed as often as clear cut as is the white supremacist. This is an anti government person. Where we're seeing is a hybrid mix of a lot of these different views Fbi AGENT SHOW UP TO ARREST HIM. And this is where it gets murky. Something didn't go according to plan. Gunfire is exchanged. Wilson ends up dead and it's a pretty extraordinary and dramatic and violent end to a domestic terrorism investigation in a barely made a blip because the focus is on the pandemic today on the show a story about the widening reach the corona virus with so many Americans alone and under so much stress. Far right groups are taking advantage. It's not just the virus that's spreading extreme and sometimes violent rhetoric is to. I'm Mary Harris. You're listening to what next stick with us. This episode is brought to you by Sun Basket if you're looking to reduce unnecessary trips out or just trying to avoid sold out grocery stores checkout Sun Basket. Sun Basket delivers healthy delicious meals. Straight to your door. They make it easy and convenient. They've got breakfast lunch. Dinner covered with everything pre portioned and ready to happen cook. You can enjoy dinner full of organic produce in cleaning gradients in as little as fifteen minutes no matter how much experience you have in the kitchen. Each week on basket offers a wide range of recipes to choose from. You can try dishes like roasted salmon in me so glazed eggplant or black bean tostadas Diablo with cabbage slaw and Guacamole. You can order any recipes across their menu. Skip a week whenever you need to or even double up on your favorite recipes right now. Sun Basket is offering thirty. Five dollars off your first order when you go to sun basket dot com slash. What next and enter Promo Code? What next at checkout that sun basket dot com slash what and Promo Code. What next at checkout for thirty five dollars off your first order sun basket dot com slash? What next and enter Promo Code? What next so when I look at your reporting and others it wasn't until I really read the whole story's pretty deeply that I realized that F. B. I. The Department of Homeland Security. All these law enforcement agencies have basically been out there warning about this link between the corona virus and potential domestic terrorism. And that's been happening for a while because there have been all these little incidences that alarm them especially you know about a month ago or mother and a month and a half ago. people spraying you know something they say is corona virus in business and telling people have been exposed but then also people threatening to do things like bomb. The Orlando Police Station and I was surprised to read that well. An well and also alleged hate crimes targeting Asian Americans and others. I mean a family of three stabbed Sam's club down in Texas. I believe it was and there had been. Abc News got a hold of this memo from an FBI field office but it went out to a lot of law enforcement and it weren't that just sort of be aware that extremists could try to take advantage and try to exploit the pandemic in different ways. And so yes kind of saying. Pay attention to this threat. You talked to a number of experts who basically said it's not just that these more extreme members of violent sort of white supremacist groups might be spurred to action because it was happening with the krona virus. It's the fact that with all of us being home an online all day it creates a perfect sort of situation for recruitment. Can you explain that a little bit? That's right I mean. We're millions of kids out of school away from their usual support. System parents and coaches and pastures glued to their devices for hours on end because they're stuck indoors in many cases. They've seen their lives at ended. They don't know when they're going back to school. Don't get to graduate. You know. Their loved ones are sick. Parents are laid off. They're surrounded by despair and fear and uncertainty and many extremists. Researchers worry that yes. That's basically all the ingredients. You need to make extremist views resonate. So I spoke with a woman named Shannon Fully Martinez. Who's a former white supremacist? Who is radically? She's very young. She was a skinhead by age. Sixteen she got out of that. Movement in for twenty five years is worked with parents and schools institutions on prevention work. And this is her biggest fear right now. Are we seeing any evidence that folks are being recruited into these more extreme groups now? So there's really no metric this is something also that extremism researchers are always asking reporters Stanford is that it's not a traditional militant recruiting effort. It's not like you know Isis and other groups that have specific recruiters function some group hate groups. Have that generally. This is a self propagating movement and the researchers. I talked to say if you're in it. You're recruiting all the time. Because you're sharing Games tweets and comments that reinforce and spread the ideology so it's not a recruiting call where they come in. Tell your child you join our Noble Cause. Defend your race. The message is delivered online. It's reinforced in name after name after medium and often couched in humor that blunts the seriousness and often the dehumanization they see and messages will you know what I think about. I think about those protests. We've been seeing state capitals where it's a mix of people. It's people with legitimate grievances of wanting to go back to work but then also a lot of organizing power from folks who might be involved with more fringe organizations. I wonder what you make of that. No that's right you've seen like you said there are people who just come come out and say this is my conviction. I want to work. I you know I want to be in charge of my medical decisions. And it's a constitutional friction between personal liberties in public health but inter into that fray So-called constitutionalists factions. They sometimes call themselves. Patriot groups liberty groups. There's a lot of overlap with anti-government ANTIBAC- CER- militias gun clubs conspiracy theorists and and as we've seen from photos of the protest. You also get the kind of standard-issue racists and Anti Semites if you've seen the signs and symbols that they've taught you can see in the photos from this. What was one that stood out to you? Well any confederate flack. What's that have to do with the corona virus in ability to go back to work after a pandemic and we know there's been a lot of attention to anti Semitic phrases that have cropped up on you know some of the picket signs of the protesters. And you know yes. Those kinds of things make you ask. What is this really about? Yeah I look at your reporting and I see these concentric circles of people started becoming more inflamed and more engaged in the center. You have folks who are committed you know white supremacists before this and maybe we're making plans before this. But this becomes the krona virus becomes something to rally around and then maybe a little bit out from that you have people who were maybe involved with militias and and are now online more able to participate more with groups that they may have participated with just a little bit and then on the outer edges. You just have folks who are stuck at home without a job and want someone to blame. Because who doesn't really these kinds of situations and you can see how each of these concentric circles is GonNa get bigger and sort of more inflamed as this goes on. The pandemic has something for every brand extremists. I mean the racists yet chance to BLAME ASIANS JEWS MUSLIMS. And so on the accelerations say. Oh look at the chaotic fallout. We told you this is going to happen Do you WANNA be part of this crumbling old order or do you want to be part of this new projects like a white ethno state or a chance to remake the country. The militias anti-government actions. They point to the stay at home orders. Say Look at all these constitutional violations. We warned you about government overreach. So it's really whatever your serve lane is this you know extremism you can find a way to connect it to the virus and the government's response to it as the pandemic wears on. Anna says. She's watching. These causes converge and for some anti-government activists the line separating them from a hate group is becoming less defined and it's really been interesting to see how the groups themselves are grappling with this How you know more militant groups are these constitutionalist groups because there is a camp that says let's all band together and who cares if this guy out there spouting white supremacist stuff. He's showing up for this meeting. That's what's important in others. Say No we don't have to partner with everyone and we shouldn't in. That's how these arguments are playing out every day. I got a call this week from frustrated militia leader. Who said you know? I don't need to partner with everyone. Why did he was kind of bemoaning? The fact that the movement was doing a good enough job policing itself from you know the white supremacists and And others who want to kind of Guam on to that you know. Banner of the Constitution Liberty in ideals. Because they're more palatable. That's so interesting. I hadn't even thought about that side of it where it's just people who are just really concerned with individual liberties and now this becomes like a new fight that they have to take on with their own members. Yeah and I mean and I mean you know people would say even without the white supremacist part but the the that militias scans on its own is extremist and belongs in that sort of anti-government bucket because when the rubber hits throat you know it's if these groups feel that there has been a constitutional violation. They have said a ready to use force to defend liberties and defend the constitution. And that's how they couch this so I mean it's not like there's not something to look at in to look closely at even in even without the white supremacist element in some of these protests war. I wanted to talk to you about this funny call and response between these extreme groups and the president. There's this reporting a few weeks back that when trump began tweeting about liberating states like Michigan. Virginia it actually changed how folks on the Internet were behaving. I wonder if you can talk about that a little bit. I can't get into you know too much politics in the president's role in all of that but I can tell you that you yesterday or day before I was online and I was looking at the account of a former white supremacist. He was actually a former moderator on one of the biggest white supremacist forums. And he's left the movement and he's become really outspoken about it and he's he's worried about this moment in. He wrote that that he would have found resonance with what the president was saying back when he was in those movements and he would have interpreted as tacit support and that tacit support. It's got real consequences. There's evidence that what a president says matters when it comes to hate speech when you look at For example than President Bush after nine eleven and when there were retaliatory attacks against Muslims Bush comes out fairly early on and says and he just basically makes a distinction between Islam is practiced by exploiting people and you know this extremist fringe and there was a precipitous drop in hate crimes after that speech than we've seen for example. I remember covering case right after president. Trump signed our cameras when he announced or signed the travel ban. That day I think hours later a guy went and torched a mosque in Texas. Earned the ground Was it a fluke was a one off. I mean these are things that you know social scientists and and others who are really academics tracking stuff have to have to talk about but there are all these other factors about you know the can industry influence hate crimes but yes presidential speeches one of them. You reported on this other story in the last few days that I want to talk about because it's much more subtle. It's not about violence. But it's about how imbedded these extremist groups can be in just like every day society. It was a story that that had been presented on the Cable News. Kind of heart warming a farmer who had these extra potatoes that he was distributing. Can you explain what happened? High us a Tater gape so this farmer has a surplus potatoes because you can't sell them though. Supply processes disrupted so they were GonNa be left to rot and a group of community. Volunteers in rural Idaho get together and they say you know we can take these these little towns where people need help like this and so one of the on cheers was a guy with a dump truck and so they load up all these potatoes. Drive them to these towns dump them. There's this mountain of potatoes. Everybody's really happy. People are showing up with burlap sacks. Carting THEM OFF. And it's this really feel good moment the pandemic you know maybe not for the farmer who lost his crop but at least it didn't go to waste. And so that's how presented made the rich motto show crazy farms ended up giving away eight hundred thousand pounds of potatoes to regular people. Food banks to charities. But you know one of my colleagues Kirk Siegler who's actually lives in Idaho and covers militia movements to he. He sent me a text and said look at the T. Shirt you know and it was a it was a T. shirt Indicate membership in the three percent. The Real Idaho Three percenters and that is a militia there The one of the largest militias in the western United States and the guy distributing the potatoes. Yeah he was. He had the dump truck and he was you know rocking his three percents T shirt and so he you know in this was in the photos visible that were great. So it's basically it was a feel good moment. The potatoes did get to people who wanted them. It Western You know an instance of community service in a community coming together to solve a Pindad Problem does it make a difference. The the guy helping was shown leader for a group whose leader has been on trial twice in federal court as a unit in a domestic terrorism case. What did you think like does it? You know afterwards I got an email I think. From one of the organizers who said what do you have to like basically why do you have to point? That out carries the wasn't there was no politics in both. He showed up and he helped in. What is after do? What does the militia have to do with it but to others watching this? If you have someone who's who's wearing a t-shirt affiliated with a movement that's considered an anti government militant movement that's how it's categorized by federal law enforcement by extremists researchers raises questions. Like what's the what's the role in that and then in extremism researchers they? They will tell you that. This is part of a long tradition of militant groups all over the world. You know kind of making inroads with communities through community service since. So they're saying yes. They're involved in volunteerism But look at it with a jaundiced eye. Basically the basically you know yes today. They're delivering potatoes tomorrow. They could be in a standoff with federal authorities. It's interesting because I saw that and I also saw the protests in the various state houses and I thought how this is interesting because it shows how embedded these groups are in just day to day American life first of all But also at this moment when the federal government think most would say is not doing a great job of providing shared purpose for a lot of people who are out of work and are scared. These groups are there for them. They're happy to provide a shared purpose and a common goal and a lot of Americans might not like what that common goal is. This was kind of my. My pet peeve and some of the coverage of Islamist extremism at the height of Isis and Post nine eleven stuff that you know. There was a period where the reporting would suggest that you know. Muslim teens are leaving on mass to go to Syria. And that it's just like massive epidemic of recruiting. I mean it was a huge. Recruitment was no precedent Recruiting effort at that time for that extremist movement. And it was a big deal but it was also overblown in a way that I also want to make sure that our coverage of this particular threat is also responsible and that we are looking at it in the most sober and clear-eyed way based on facts based on what we see. I mean to do that. You really need that on the ground reporting that we don't have right. Now that's been so frustrating Astuteness these Who's become safe to do so. I'd love to go out and see what does what do these groups really do on the ground during the crisis. Are they going to come out of this stronger or weaker? Those are some of the questions. I'm going to be looking alarm. Covers extremism for NPR. And that's the show. What next is produced by Daniel Hewitt Jason to Leon and Mary Wilson for the show and a lot of our shows these days we had some help from Alison Benedict and from a Lisa. Montgomery Mary Harris stay healthy out there. I'll see you back in this feed tomorrow.

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Mac OS Ken: 06.24.2020

Mac OS Ken

21:29 min | 4 months ago

Mac OS Ken: 06.24.2020

"It. Is Mac Os. Lots about IOS fourteen less about IPAD, S. fourteen and a tiny bit from Wall Street. It's Wednesday. The twenty fourth of June. Twenty Twenty I'm Ken Ray and this is news from Moco. West Ken brought to you by yours truly and sponsored by Sun Basket. Eat Clean, feel great. Use Promo Code Mac os Ken for thirty five dollars off your order at sun basket dot com slash macro West can. This. Show is also supported by people like you patrons through Patriae on. Find out more and that your support that Patriot on dot com slash Moco West calf. What can we say about Iowa's fourteen? That hasn't been said already. Well quite a bit here since I did the Max move to apple silicon on Tuesday to the exclusion of almost everything else. In, its press release Apple said lots of Nice things about the upcoming update to mobile operating system here. The words of CRAG Hair Force One. FEDERICI apple senior VP of software engineering who said IOS fourteen transforms the most iconic elements of the iphone experience starting with the biggest update. We've ever made to the home screen. See. Nice things. But, what are these updates of which he speaks? The one that seems to have gotten. The most interest is widgets. Apple's release says those present timely information at a glance, and can be pinned in different sizes on any home screen page users can create a smart stock of widgets which uses on device intelligence to service the right widget based on time, location and activity. Already on this I've seen debate. On twitter on Monday Rene Ritchie's Rene Ritchie said HTC once said very few people change default which it's on android and usage stats were very low. In response, creative strategies analysts Ben Baharan tweeted. Yup. Most mainstream android customers don't customize their homes, screens or setup widgets. This is largely a power user feature. which is good enough reason for it to exist? One of the sleeper hit of the show could be at clips depending on how they're adopted and how quickly? According to apple APP clips or associated with a particular product or business and load within seconds to complete a specific task, such as renting a scooter, purchasing a coffee or filling parking meter. They can be easily discovered an access by scanning a new apple designed APP clip code, or through NFC tags or qr codes, or shared and messages, or from Safari, all with the security and privacy expected from APPS. Thing there's not for that. No APP required. Apple's not slacking off. Where messages are concerned and fact, they seem to be getting their slack on. Pending Conversations threaded conversations getting notified when your mentioned group Chat. Slack tight features in Apple's built in client. If you heard in a few minutes Tuesday with Brian Chaff and or today with Rob Walsh. You heard about translate. Apple says the conversation translator offers quick and natural translation of voice and text among eleven different languages. Apiece from Apple, insider says those include Arabic English French. German, Italian, Japanese, Korean Mandarin Chinese Portuguese, Russian and Spanish. coolest that is and it is. Mr Chaplains favorite part was the on device mode. Keeping Voice and text translation private. If you've had enough of apple stuff like the Bilton mail, APP or Safari IOS sport team could be your jam. The piece from an gadget says Apple's next mobile operating system will let users choose and set their own default apps for email and browsing the web. According to Apple Ios. Fourteen users consider default web, browser and email APP that launch when you click a link or one and composed a new mail message. Email and browsing aren't the only areas apples opening the competition. A piece from cult of Mac says the apple ecosystems find my APP. Slash service will open to rival item trackers. Not One's a bit funny while apple is believed to be coming out with Bluetooth tags similar to tile that you can put on things and keep track of through IOS. It hasn't announced such things yet. The cult says rival item trackers. It's apparently writing from future where such thing as already been announced or maybe even released. In its press release, apple quickly outlined some added. Features among those were headphone accommodations. One amplifies salt, sounds and tunes to help it sound crisper and cleaner her. Sign Language Detection and Group facetime, which makes the person signing more prominent in a video call and voiceover. Apple's built in screen. Reader automatically recognizes what is displayed visually onscreen. Some more and web experiences are accessible to more people. But wait as they say, there's more. Call to Max has an accessibility feature. An IOS fourteen can now listen for sounds that require a tension. The according to the peace, IOS, fourteen and IPAD. Oh, west fourteen has an impressive accessibility feature that can listen out for sounds like running water person knocking on the door, smoke alarms, babies, crying and more than alert users with an onscreen notification. The way the cult sees it. It's an incredibly smart feature based on machine, learning technology that could range from useful to lifesaving. There's another feature in the new operating systems accessibility settings that. Could find its way into general use and gadgets as better rico. Founder and editor in Chief of Max Stories has noticed a new back tap feature for iphone. The peace as the feature led to you, perform actions and shortcuts by double or triple, tapping the back of your iphone. It's intended as an accessibility function and could clearly be helpful for those with limited motor skills, although it's easy to see this being helpful for anyone who'd rather not reach across a massive phone screen to perform common task. Not Having carplay myself I forget that that's not built into the car. It just displays there. It's built in the I. O Wes. And it sees changes. An I O. S. fourteen. least important but most obvious or the new backgrounds. Five of those according to apple insider to this point, the piece says your choices have been dreary, black or stark white. Pretty sure those aren't. The names given to the colors by Apple. New. APP Types are also coming to irs fourteen car play. According to the peace, apple insider, says ev, charging parking and quick food, ordering all coming the car playthrough APPs added by developers. As had been rumored car key is also coming to. Fourteen, that's a new way to lock unlock and start your car by your iphone according to the report. One of the few demos and Monday's keynote showed car key at work. including the various levels of sharing a key one can run through messages. Of course APPS for E. P. charging are useless. If you can't find any be charger, apple maps and I o s fourteen will help you do that. And, Gadget says there's a whole green thing happening in the update. Not only can you spot chargers on your chosen route? You can also get cycling directions taking into account obstacles, such as stairs and figuring out how long a trip will take using pedal power. That's trouble is apple's a relationship with law? Enforcement has been. From time to time. These next two features are kinda surprising. macrumors says maps in IOS. O S. Fourteen warns drivers of speed and red light cameras. You can even see where individual cameras are located on the map according to Apple. They. Do you remember the fuzz buster? Ask Your Dad. I say the features are surprising. It's possible also that will never see them. Go live. macrumors says it's not clear if this feature will be limited to select areas, countries, or we'll have a wide rollout, and it does not appear to be implemented in the initial IOS, fourteen Beta as an examination of the maps up with various routes did not display icons for traffic cameras us. One of the coolest things apple does is take a thing. You have an through updates. Make that thing better. There is a couple of features coming to air pods that are already out there arriving by I O. S. fourteen. the air pods are out there. The updates are coming. Apple CIDER says for all the air pods, seamless switching from one device to another is on the way. If you're air. Pods are connected to your IPAD. They will automatically switch over to your iphone. When you take a call as the example, the site gives. I'll be curious to hear that in action. The one I really want to hear is gonNA require an upgrade. According to apple and CIDER, the higher tier air pods Bro will also receive a new spatial audio feature that will mimic an immersive surround, sound and movie theater like experience. In other words the audio will sound like it's actually coming from around the wearer. Want. It's not just old air pods, getting a shine insider says IOS fourteen will actually make older iphones take better photos. Specifically the says Apple says that IOS fourteen has improved shot to shot performance. Apple claims that users can shoot photos up to ninety percent faster at up to four frames per second. Additionally portrait shot to shot is up to fifteen percent faster. EMOJI will be searchable. And I O. S. fourteen. A piece from macrumors has apple saying that a new search field for the EMOJI keyboard lets you search for the perfect Emoji and are a commonly used word or phrase such as heart or Smiley face, and you will be presented with the corresponding emoji to choose from. As for me Mogi. It gets very of the moment. Update, Piece from business, insider says you can add a face mask to your caricature and I o Westport teen. The company is also adding three new me. Mogi stickers for I message according to the report. Those. Are You doing this bomb? You giving a virtual hug and you blushing? You prude you. Among apple's many middle names, our privacy and security. Lots coming for those and IOS fourteen apples press release lists some including. All APPS will have to get user permission before tracking APP store product pages will have easy to understand summaries of developers. Self reported privacy practices. Users can upgrade existing accounts to sign with Apple. USERS CHOOSE TO SHARE THEIR APPROXIMATE location with developers rather than their precise location. and. Users can get even more transparency than before into an APPS use of the microphone and camera. The piece from macrumors at a couple more privacy points including photos privacy. And IOS fourteen one APPS. Ask for access to your photos APP. You can give them access only to select photos rather than the entire photo library and local network privacy. Absent Iowa's fourteen need to ask permission to find and connect with devices on the local network. Similar to the privacy practice summaries, apple says Safari will offer a privacy report. That let users easily see which cross site trackers have been blocked. Safari will also bring secure password monitoring to help users to save passwords that may have been involved in the data breach according to the company. If you're wondering when you can have it. it sorta depends on what you do, and how risk averse you are. The developer preview for irs fourteen came out Monday. A public Beta will be available next month through apples. Beta program site. And if you're not feeling like a Guinea pig, the official release is set for this all for iphone six S and later. In a moment we'll get some IPAD. Stop and some Wall Street stuff. But I word from Sun, basket delivering healthy delicious meals straight to your door. We talked yesterday about the drudgery of eating the same stuff again and again and again. Doesn't have to be that way with Sun Basket. Sun Basket has delicious recipes for all kinds of dietary preferences including Paleo, Gluten Free, Mediterranean Vegetarian and more. How a black bean Tostados with cabbage, slaw and guacamole sound or roasted salmon with me so glazed eggplant! Loved me so glazed. Eggplant Sun Basket can make all that happen. Delivering exactly what you need and exactly the right amount ready to prep and cook. 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According to the report the feature, let's you handwrite and any text field, and it'll automatically be converted into taxed if your handwriting's on the same page is drawings, you can also select the piece of handwriting while avoiding the surrounding art. On top of that you can change the color of the tax and move around in the document and a demo. Apple also showed that it can recognize both English and Chinese and the same line. And that it can recognize handwritten addresses and phone numbers as well. It also let you draw perfect shapes. Imperfect squares become totally square circles completely circular crooked lines straight. You get the idea. It'll perfect the shapes. If you wanted to. It's a pause at the end of the drawing that makes sketches with character in the cookie. Cutter Shapes. Other IPAD OS fourteen features highlighted by N Gadget. A new universal search function simply start typing into the search bar, and it'll allow you to launch APPs or documents instantly. You can also search the web this way type A, few characters, and it'll automatically bring up the top hit result in Safari. There's also a new sidebar and gadget says. It off this new sidebar in apps like photos where you can drag a photo to the side bar to move it to an album for example. The sidebar will also appear in notes and files where there will also be a streamline toolbar and additional controls at the top. Just like I o s fourteen ipad Os. Fourteen is due out to everybody this fall. And finally today another raised price target for apple and. Once again. It's got nothing to do with what apple is doing this week. Apple CIDER HAS UBS analyst Timothy Archaeology. Target on apple shares by seventy five bucks. On unanticipated strength of iphone S. E. N. Much anticipated strength of iphone by G. He used Tuesday's note to move its price target from three hundred twenty five dollars to a cool four hundred. And investors were happy to help the shares get their. Say It with me. 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Is the Military Turning Its Back on Trump?

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Is the Military Turning Its Back on Trump?

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Some schools! drive-thru graduations others have gone online, but West Point was the only university that forced its graduates to return to campus quarantine themselves for two weeks, and then sit for a ceremony that none of their friends or family could attend all in order to watch a half hour speech from the president. Twenty. The head of the army had. Begged the question. Look, don't do this. Fred Kaplan Watch the whole thing over the weekend. The other academies they had virtual ceremonies where find on doing that, he insisted on. He'd never spoken at West Point before. He wanted great. Photo. So the West Point Band played from behind plexiglass. And nearly a thousand newly minted years sat on chairs positioned six feet apart. Yeah, they walk in with masks. And then they took them all. Against on respect to the president, who doesn't like males? He wanted originally, he wanted them to be in tight formation. The question was what would the president say to these graduates? After weeks of protests over George Floyd's death after suggesting the US military should restore order around the country. And especially, after federal agents used pepper spray against protestors who are in front of the White House. Were you expecting the president to say something to address? What's been happening in the country over the last couple of weeks? All. I thought he might have made some oblique reference which he did not. Such a contrast to General Mark Milley who gave a commencement address of his own for the National Defense University. He apologized. Yeah, you said I I should not have been there. Mark Milley is the chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff. He'd come to regret one moment in particular walking with the president through Lafayette Square after federal officers used force to clear it of protesters. When? His graduation speech. He called that. Act a mistake this. This is a bigger deal than a lot of people who don't follow. This sort of thing might realize I can't think of a single instance when. Any general officer has apologized. For? Doing. Something or he's standing next to the president. It's a huge huge thing as his this whole string of events that gone on in the last week involving officers retired, and in some cases, active duty, criticizing with various degrees of directness around bleakness, the president and his policies. Today on the show. Is the military turning on president trump. I'm Mary, Harris. You're listening to next stick with us. This episode is brought to you by Sun, Basket If you're looking to reduce unnecessary trips out or just trying to avoid sold out grocery stores checkout Sun Basket. Sun Basket delivers healthy delicious meals straight to your door. They make it easy and convenient. 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It was back on June first that those protesters got cleared out in front of the White House. The operation involved several forces working side by side the secret service. The park police the National Guard. But the president had wanted to involve even more troops in fact, while protesters were being driven from Lafayette Square several hundred members of the eighty second airborne were stationed on the outskirts of Washington, DC just waiting on trump to give the signal. These are not people holding rifles with bayonets. The this heavy duty stuff. There's been some reporting about what led up to June first and the conversations that went on because the idea of having the national, guard, there was. A kind of compromise is my understanding. Is that your understanding, too? Well. There are many instances where the National Guard has been called into cities for one. Reason or another? On the one hand, hurricanes and snowstorms things like that on the other hand you know putting. The Rodney King riots. Dash actually active duty forces were called in to the streets for that at the Governor California's request. The riots in in Detroit and Washington, DC in one, thousand, nine, hundred, sixty, seven, sixty eight. Eighty second airborne was called into the streets. So, it's not like this never happened before. But you know. Trump was allegedly talking to his advisers about he wanted to flood. The wanted to flood Washington DC with ten thousand troops. Ten thousand troops in all of Afghanistan. Now ten thousand troops there might not have been ten thousand. Protestors, how much latitude does the president have to send troops in? There is this thing called the insurrection act, and it's been amended and revised several times over the decades and. Court decisions on anything related to national security in the use of armed. Forces has. has confirmed giving the president wide latitude in interpreting this. In any way he wants. The Insurrection Act gives the president the power to deploy federal troops within the United States in case of a violent uprising against the government, the president trump's near invocation of that policy. It upset many military officials active duty retired, and this rift shocks Fred, because speaking out against the president is not what military officers do on the one hand nothing that trump has done that that people have protested spoken out against is is really an unlawful order on the other hand there are. Principal military officers who looked at the situation and said. This is no insurrection. What's? Nine year we should not be involved in this. and. You know when you're a military officer. You one thing that it really is driven home. Just pounded into your brain from the moment you put on uniform. Is You know? That the primacy of civilian authority. On following orders following lawful orders, and you you, you obeyed the civilian of. But there's also tradition also counted into your head of. You're taking an allegiance to the constitution. Not particular person and what trump is set himself up with is is a tension. Between those two things. I mean you've covered the military for years and years as you heard from military people ahead of time like I'm so. I call around no I. Listen, there's there's. Great Discomfort among a lot of. Military people are retired and active duty as I said, there's this tension sometimes between following civilian, the obeying lawful orders and entering ultimately constitution. Never really had to face the potential tension. Between those two things I mean the first person who spoke out was was Admiral Mike Mullen. Retired. Admiral Former Commander Joint Chiefs of Staff. Not. A rowdy kind of officer at all. I mean really not not the Kinda guy who put himself out there really. Is. More of a company man, and it'd be ultimate company man who rises to the top for him to ride article on the Atlantic. Saying I can no longer keep. My silence is just a remarkable thing. I think it was that that finally. Got Jim Mattis. WHO's been remaining silent for for a year now? Defense ride you vote this blistering letter of resignation, resignation protests and then set up I'm not anything more I might someday but now. And he said okay. This is the someday and he. You know skewered not just. What what not just trump's reaction to the protest, but trump's personally saying that you know we've had three years and immature leadership. I mean this is wild. He's a retired four-star Marine general. We've never seen this kind of. Revolt might be strong a word, but let's say strong dissension. I WANNA focus a little bit on the people who are currently in the administration who've been speaking out and their roles and how we got here. I'm thinking particularly of General Mark Milley and the Defense Secretary Mark Asper and these guys were flanking the president on June first. Can you tell me a little bit about who these two men are? Well I mean. Genera- million highly decorated general. He had been chief of staff of the army before he was chairman of the Joint Chiefs of staff commanded troops in battle a decent guy who I tone. Subsequently that. From almost the moment that he was posing for that. photo-op regretted what he was doing. for expert who a lot of people nicknamed secretary. Yes, spur because he's Oto. Yes, man is job piece is he saw his job was to do at. The president wanted him to do not to raise a fuss I. think the thing that has endured about June. I is really all of the imagery. Where you see the protesters, sometimes journalists being pushed back roughly and then you, you see when what is it for? And it's the president just standing in front of a church with a Bible. and. Then, the chairman of the Joint Chiefs of staff was in uniform in battledress by the president side, and then he stuck around was there after dark in Washington. DC walking the streets. Like he was looking for. The next day is battleground when you saw those images. What did you think? I, remember thinking boy. I've heard good things about this guy. Mealy doesn't look like a good guy. Would like. You're trying to look like patent. You know surveying surveying the terrain for next for next day tank offensive. It was so disproportionate to to what the true situation. Wounds I was Kinda shocked. Really it. It was pretty impressive. How within a week you had just a torrent of people coming out and pushing back on the imagery. You didn't even take the week. The people who actually run that church. Spoke out immediately. Some Evangelical. And then S. Called a press conference. And said he does not agree defense that the insurrection act should be applied to what was going on in the streets of Washington, DC, the option to use active duty forces in a law enforcement role should only be used as a matter of last resort, and only in the most urgent and dire of situations. We are not in one of those situations now. He said that he was. Telling the the active-duty troops that had been called to the Washington area to go back to their bases. Would she later withdrew? He backed out on that one, so they never actually went into the city So anyway he was called to the White House and untold, giving a real chewing out. Many halted the order going back to the bases. But but he. He to sort of realized Jesus there. There are costs. To my reputation into what I'm supposed to be doing here to. To giving complete. unblinking obedience to the guy who's running things right now. I'm wondering if there's a charitable interpretation of what Mark Asper and General Milley. Did that night on June first. is their way to see it as choosing the least evil, we have some National Guard troops there, but we won't send in the eighty second airborne, and so it'll be a less aggressive stance and. We'll sort of moderate the tone. Right look think these guys realized very quickly that they. They're clang along with the total. Loyalty game had now got them into trouble, but but what's remarkable? Is that. They spoke out publicly dotted and nobody had done that. Without getting fired I. Rate because his instinct to assuage, I feel like it's been the modus operandi for the for the military for the last couple of years. Just you know, try to try to keep things level. Actually you're supposed to do, and you know there's another thing and that is that a lot of people. This is happened a lot. They say Okay God. This is just a nightmare, but you know it's a good thing. I'm here. Because of were in here, things would be so much worse so I've got to stick around. I gotta eat the crap that he'd shovels my way sometimes to keep him happy. Do what I can behind the you know after this administration is over. We're going to see so many interviews and books and articles by so many people saying. God He was such a monster, such a maniac off. You wouldn't believe the stuff that I saved the country from I'm Ann mcgann by being? We're going to see. This is going to be a popular genre on of of a political literature, so sounds like to you the difference now. Is Not just the volume of people speaking out, though that's important, but it's the fact that we have these people. In positions of power who go into meetings with the president, having press conferences and giving speeches where they've reject what the president's doing. Brown USA and it really. It sets us up for something interesting, which is all of these people will meet again. And it's hard to imagine what that meeting will look like where you have to people who have clearly staked out very different sides of this argument. Yeah. I think midday must've done what he did knowing. That, he could be fired for it. Same thing with with the Secretary of Defense I think trump gets a second term. I think they will definitely be out of there. You know he sees firing. Everybody else who's had even. Been reported to be at odds with him. I guess I found myself wondering. What will happen next time? Because in this circumstance you had people in a meeting speaking out saying. We don't think this is a good idea kind of settling on this national guard situation. And regretting things afterwards so to me. The true test is the next time you're in that meeting ahead of time. What do you say? Are you going to resign over sending the National Garden? Because you realize that was a mess last time? While they they're thinking about it now and I think trump knows it. They're thinking about it now I'm not sure there is going to be a next time. Again you know the the military people had to deal with this. The officers who? In these things for longtime their long these. Between obeying lawful orders from the commander in chief Russa's. Following constitutional principles, and you have a commander-in-chief who doesn't care about this principles I think now of officers have thought that one through. And they'd compound on. They know where they stand on it. And, maybe? Maybe trump realizes that they know where they stand on it and he doesn't want to push them any further, but I think. It took them. A while took some of these officers a wild to achieve clarity on this They now have that clarity and I think if there is a next time for something like this I think there would be A. Much stronger, even earlier pushback, yeah! Yeah and so many of these folks have been fired like not necessarily military, but. Inspectors, general. You know people have testified. It just makes you. Fired for doing their job, yeah. And there seems to be a little bit of a line of people who are willing to fill in for a few months. To just keep things going. That's I guess that's my concern when I look at it where. When people being fired or people resigning. When does it matter I? Guess well I mean it did it. They're not always stepping in the the rights of the Foreign Service for example or I forget the exact percentage but I mean you know something like a third of foreign. Service officers have either quit or been fired and you don't. You don't rebuild that it takes. It takes a long time to rebuild something like that. the applications for to take the foreign service exam are way down. If I were somebody a young man. Going into the army and looking at what's been going on I might I might decide otherwise. These these things do have a corrosive impact. A president who takes advantage of the power? He has to do a lot of institutional. An ethical and moral destruction didn't can have a huge corrosive impact on politics. Society Culture It's it's it's GonNa. Take a long time to come out of this. Oh! Fred Kaplan, thank you so much for joining me. Sure. Fred Kaplan is slates war stories correspondent. He's also the author of the book, the Bomb Presidents Generals and the secret history of nuclear war. And that's the show. What next is produced by Daniel Hewitt Mary Wilson and Jason Leone. And I'm Mary Harris I'll be back here tomorrow.

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