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Making and distributing a COVID-19 vaccine is the "biggest medical manufacturing challenge in history": Hope that changes hearts forever

The Daily Article

07:14 min | 1 year ago

Making and distributing a COVID-19 vaccine is the "biggest medical manufacturing challenge in history": Hope that changes hearts forever

"This is the daily Article podcast published by the Denison Forum or culture, Changing Christians to receive the daily article directly to your email inbox. Ning visit the daily Article Dot. COM now here's Today's news discerned differently. This is the biggest logistical challenge the world has ever faced. This is how Tony Peters. An engineering and technology expert at Britain's Birmingham University describes the task of manufacturing and delivering a vaccine for covid nineteen to the world. The Reuters article calls this the biggest medical manufacturing challenge in history. Our focus since the start of the pandemic has understandably banana vaccine to stop the disease researchers. Researchers are developing more than one hundred forty vaccines against corona virus vaccines typically require years of research and testing before reaching the clinical stage, but scientists are working to produce an effective and safe vaccine by next year of the vaccines, currently under development, only three are in phase, three large-scale efficacy testing the last stage before being approved for use trial results will indicate whether regulators approve. Approve, a candidate for public use now we know that making and distributing vaccine should one be produced is a daunting task as well in the meantime, the CDC's says Covid, nineteen cases in the US could be ten times higher than reported in other words, a true number of infected Americans may tap twenty million. The Texas governor said this week that his State is facing a massive. Massive outbreak of the virus state health departments reported more than thirty seven thousand new cases yesterday setting a one day record. This local story especially touched me Betty and Curtis Tarpley of Fort Worth. Texas were married for fifty three years both contracted the virus nurses wheeled Betty into Curtis's ICU room, so they could be together. They died this week within an hour of each other. We have been focusing on the theme of encouragement in discouraging times as we face an escalating pandemic ongoing recession and divisive debates, policing statues in autonomous zones, Christians can find ways to rejoice in hope, and then share their hope with a hopeless world today. Let's close by claiming the hope. We Find in God's presence whatever our circumstances might be in civilization, the West and the rest historian, Nile Ferguson, identifies six factors that contributed to the growth and success of Western civilization decentralized competition that created A. A launchpad for nation states and capitalism, a commitment to science, especially in military applications, property rights, and the resulting rule of law and representative government advances in medicine, and thus life expectancy, a consumer society that drove the industrial revolution and a work ethic and moral framework, derived from among other sources Protestant Christianity which provides the glue for Dynamic and potentially unstable society created by the first five factors. When we remove this moral blue from culture. We should not be surprised when the culture comes unglued. Conversely, when we live all of life under the sovereignty of our king, we find that his word wisdom, and provisioned, give us contagious hope in the most hopeless of times when Paul and Silas Sang Hymns to. Midnight in a Philippian jail the prisoners we're listening to them. When a group of Moravian Christians continued to sing in worship God in a fearful storm John, Wesley was deeply impressed, and eventually made their faith his own in the midst of his groaning and Cry David toned to Mike King, and my God note the order a deity can be our God without being our King and master, as many religions across history can attest. Attest, but if a deity is our king, he must also be our God. I can have a transactional relationship with God as the Romans did with their Pantheon of deities we can separate such religion from the real world Sunday or Monday but I must have an unconditional relationship with a true can. All that is mine is his all I am is under his sovereign authority. Would God say he is your King Today. James Kester of the Society of Saint John The evangelist rates. We often discount the ordinary in our lives, forgetting that God is as likely to send angels when we are doing the dishes working at some task or having coffee with a friend as one we are engaged in some grand in mighty scheme. The challenges were us to pay attention. If we trust that God is king over and in every circumstance we face the worst that can happen leads to the best that can happen dying from Corona virus or anything else leads to life, eternal and glorious, and we find hope in Jesus that will draw others to our Lord Max. Lucado writes in May of two thousand eight. Eight, Steven Curtis Chapman and his wife Mary Beth lost their five year old daughter in an automobile accident. They were deluge by messages of kindness. One in particular gave Stephen Strength. It was from a pastor friend who lost his son in an auto accident. Remember your future with your daughter will be greater than your past with her Max ads. Our final home will hear no goodbyes gone forever. Let the promise change you from sagging to seeking for more INFO too hopeful from dwellers in the land of goodbyes to a heaven of lows. This is the hope we find. When we make God our King I ll ask once more would God say he is your King Today? Our latest book is now available in seven deadly sins how our oldest temptations can lead you from vice to virtue, Brian Denison and Dr Jim Denison, investigate the biblical and historical significance of the seven deadly sins, but how can pride envy wrath, slothfulness, greed, gluttony and lust. Actually point you to God visit daily Article Dot Org today to find out. That's daily Article Dot Org. To subscribe to the daily article via email. Read any daily article. You may have missed this week or use any of our resources. Please visit Denison Forum Dot Org. Thank you for listening to the daily Article podcast today.

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Together We'll Get Through This! (Hour 2)

The Dave Ramsey Show

40:31 min | 1 year ago

Together We'll Get Through This! (Hour 2)

"Live from the headquarters of Ramsey solutions broadcasting from the dollar car rental studios ads. The Dave Ramsey show where data's dom cash is king and the paid off home mortgage has taken the place of the BMW as the status symbol of choice. I'm Dave Ramsey your host. A thanks for joining us this hour. Ken Coleman Ramsey Personality and author of the Number One bestselling book the proximity principle joins me to talk about jobs this hour career this hour and we will take your financial questions as well. Since I'm an expert on my opinion I'll speak into both open phones. If you WANNA talk triple eight. Eight two five five two two five we also have a special Treat for you guys this our our good friend Grammy Award. Winning Steven Curtis Chapman is going to drop by for a segment working on some cool stuff and I've been talking about off line and I told him to jump on here in shared since he lives in our neighborhood and he's GonNa come by. Spend a few minutes with us the meantime. Let's go to Jeremy and California. Hi Jeremy Welcome to the Dave Ramsey. Show Hey Dave thanks for having me absolutely. How can we help? Well I'm new to Financial Peace University though. This is my first month with the However I work for a school district where the pension plan of been here two years. Fully vested is five years But right now of being offered a job for my brother to work for his Septic company that he just opened up a little over a year ago. And I'm not sure whether to give up Solid income or something that has potential to earn more. But you know we got a phone calls up and and just looking for advice on on the move. So what is he going to pay you? Well we haven't figured that out exactly yet but It it likely be close to seventy thousand a year to start. How old is his business to your two years Under two years. Yeah about fifteen months. What will you be doing for him to make seventy thousand dollars a year? You're having and driving a a septic pump truck which is a class they license and sell things step. Thanks and people that do that. Get paid seventy thousand dollars a year in your area Well not just drivers but he's actually GonNa bring me on as a part owner so So yeah he won't be paying me just as a driver. I'd be thinking you know drivers I think drivers pumpers just make around twenty five thirty dollars an hour now. But I'd be so salary. But the salary will fluctuate with. What do you make? No I make fifty thousand dollars a year but for the past year I've been able to make sixty five with overtime but over time has been shut off since the Kobe. Sure come down. Which is a temporary situation. I A month with a budget. You know might cut twelve hundred dollars. You're going to tell you the first to answer that you gave when we asked you what you're going to be paid you said well we haven't discussed that yet or we're not quite sure. And then you came up with seventy thousand and I just think that you've got to be very very clear With what he is what he's offering and ask the questions. Essentially Dave just asked you. You know how we're GONNA come to that amount because I think it's very attractive to say. Hey I'm GONNA go work with my brother but I just don't hear enough as it relates to real facts to where you can make a good decision to leave right now. It feels very very you know. It's this to discuss this over a couple It's not solid yet. You don't have an offer. Yeah and he doesn't have a position to give you an offer. I don't think it sounds like you guys like each other. You love each other's brothers who thought it'd be cool to work together. Let's have a couple of beers. Oh Yeah let's do this and there really hasn't given you even getting more thought to it than that in Dude. It sounds like a train wreck. I'm afraid you're going to get in there and the business is not gonna be able to support both of you because you haven't thought it through he hasn't thought it through because people don't make seventy thousand dollars a year driving trucks Septic trucks I didn't think so that's why I was quizzing. You about him And I don't know why you get twenty five percent of his business just because you showed up and drove a truck. Why is that happening just? Because he's your brother and he likes you dude and by the way you aren't sitting around going you know I hope when I'm forty. I own a twenty five percent of a septic tank pumping company. You did not ever have that conversation. One time in your head. The only reason this is on the tables family pull That's the only reason and it's only two years old into the business Not yet that's right. I think it's a someday. Maybe because you know we talked about this in the year from now. That's right well. It took a lot more detail when he can prove he's got to be able to show you in the numbers. How generates that kind of money and then can support you in that role? The other thing that I'm concerned about it sounds cool when when brother says hey. I want you to come on board my company and be twenty-five percent or whatever the percentage ownership is and do you guys work well together. Have you sat down with MOM and Dad? Have you talked to some coaches and teachers that know you both? Have you gotten some objective opinion on doing oriole wager? Yeah I just think you've got to go into the family business. Some brothers can work together. Some can I agree some parent? Kids can work together. Some can't some husbands and wives can work together some. Yeah and so you need to think through that. It's not an automatic You have not done enough work on this question to be able to answer the question yet. That's what we're telling you and I think it's GonNa take you a year of watching his business understanding his business asking yourself in the when you're on the back porch early in the morning and the mist is rising in Your Cup of coffee in your lap. Is this what I wanted to with my life and because otherwise it's just like hey be cool work on my brother and then all of a sudden you both have screwed up each other's lives by doing this very dangerous very dangerous. Amanda is in Missouri. Amanda welcome to the Dave Ramsey show. Hi Thank you for taking my call. Sure what's on quick? Yeah quick question for you. I am thirty the new job on June first and They part of the offer of the day of giving me I guess the compensation let's just say includes a A gift of five thousand shares in the company school and which is Great But the The person I'm reporting to mentioned that there's always the option to get more shares in the company. But it just depends on you know obviously your performance than if you have an interest in more shares and those types of things and I'm just wondering as I worked for the company and I start to think about you know this option for potential shares. What are some of the questions that I need to be asking to determine if that's what I should go back I I should request more shares? Are they giving them to you? So five thousand shares but the future shares. That you're worried about. Are they going to be given to you as compensation or are you gonna be buying them? They would be given to me but I but I believe it's based on I'm in sales could be part of my Acquire the contract for that as well anytime you share that. You didn't pay for that. It's hard for them to be a bad deal clear. Just be clear. What the measurements are. If I hit these goals I get the option to get the shares. Just know what you're up against and what the scoreboard is going to be. If it's an option to buy them that's different but if they're giving them to. That's another thing option. I'm no I'm not going to get in the stock business you're in the sales business And Very few times does that work out. Depending on situation you're in but Free shares that you can turn around turn into money always yes. I'll always take that gift. Thank you this is the Dave Ramsey. Show business leaders now more than ever. We need people with the right skills to support our communities especially the frontline workers who provide resources and care for those most in need to help linked in is offering free job post for healthcare and essential service organizations that need to quickly fill critical roles with the people who help us. All if you're hiring for one of these organizations free job posts on linked in can help you quickly find the right people for your front line to post a job for free visit linked in dot com slash Ramsey terms and conditions. Apply the cool thing about living in. Nashville is not only all the country music stars but this is the home of Christian music as well and so they academic figures in Christian Music Wonderfully have become my friends over the years. Steven Curtis Chapman joins us this hour Okay his his. Mike's not on no. It's not no. It's not dave coming here and check it please. I think we've got a problem with it. I don't know what happened. Okay so anyway all that big that big setup and then there we get that but Check one two anyway Steven. Curtis Chapman joins me this hour. This segment here. Hello there Up Its air gap thing and that'll be plan. That's right I think we. We think we hadn't done radio around here before. Its first day. I allow anyway. Stephen been friends many years and You know some of the iconic people in Christian Music Amy Grant Michael W Smith Steven Curtis Live in the area all friends with each other friends of mine. Sharon's in our our our our spouses each other. And a lot of country music people interact to a little known factor. Maybe maybe well known fact. A lot of country music folks have a A Secret Gospel track in their heart. That's all WanNa do a gospel album. Elvis did Gospel albums. Virtually every country music eventually does a gospel album or song or to get mixed in there so when we get do a guys get together on my back porch It's not unusual to have John. Rich in Steven Curtis sitting there talking about stuff. I never heard of and I'm always. Yeah that's where I've hung out with Kicks Brooks and we've got to hang out with some some heroes a minelayer gallon. We got the hang out at your place. So you've given me some amazing opportunities to connect with some heroes of mine and some great music guys and and you play a very pivotal role in this in this song. And you know this but your listeners will who appreciate you need appreciate you even more as the great Connector of people that you are and can be so I'd written this song Just watching honestly. Here's the bottom line. I was hearing the word together. I was hearing phrases and Things that I have not coming out of my television set that I've heard in years months and years because seems like everything coming off of that. Screen is is division in anything but togetherness and suddenly wouldn't it be like a global pandemic to make start talking about what's eternally true? We're actually made for relationship. We actually need each other. Actually not the enemy. Even though we feel that way and we've got different opinions different ways of doing it and thinking about it but the truth is we're all in this together and suddenly. It seemed like some people were talking about that and getting that and I was hearing this word together. We'll get through this together and there was something in that. It's like this dark room. This dark cloud in a little ray of light came shining through and I thought I WANNA go kick the door open and see if I can get more light in you know. Get a little more of that. Good stuff in summarize song set down wrote a song called together. We'll get through this so I've written the song I'm thinking. This is a song that needs some other people from singing about together and I'd love to get some people From different genres of music. I could almost imagine kind of we are the world. Let's get a bunch of US. Not just you know all of us in our same community. What if I could get some folks from different places and I thought Oh Brad Paisley because Brad connected? We've done a few things together over the years. He's a great man. Great Heart does great work his store that he and his wife. Kimberly have started. He wore a show. Hope t shirt on the Johnny Carson on the tonight show one year One night and Organization my wife and I started a nonprofit to help. Adoptive families and children need families. And so we'd connected and bonded over a few things but we ended up at a Glen Campbell Tribute concert when Glenn passed away a few years ago and said You know highlights. Let's do something together someday. Why didn't know how to reach him? 'cause I'm not never one of those guys go he can get your number sucking bug you later. So I didn't bother him. Didn't get it but I knew that you knew Brad and had had him a partier gatherings occasionally or at invite him to be and I didn't know how to reach him so I sent you email and said I've written a song and I this is weird. Not WanNa do something weird but if you would let brad know that. I love to reach him if he's got any interest make it really easy for him to say. I don't WanNA get bugged by Chapman. Guy Who is that guy anyway and so immediately and you even prep me said it might take a little while you know. He doesn't always respond real immediately. He almost immediately responded. How give him my number? Give them I give them up. You know my number and my email so I emailed him. Didn't hear anything for about three days almost gave up thought. He's busy enough time for this. I got a text message number. Two texted him. He immediately takes back said. Did you get my email? Something happened? I didn't get it and he said I'm in. Let's do it so you and him. I got a minute. Yes and Elena joined us larne line amazing country artists sweet sweet lady and Tasha cobbs Leonard. I wanted us a gospel choir. I couldn't get a gospel choir in social distancing so I got the next best thing. Tasha cobbs later. Amen Girl. The song is called together. We'll get through this okay and it comes out today. Yup Now. Today is the longest sir. And we'll we're honored that you make us part of the launch. Thank you brother who. You're part of it very very very proud of YOU BRAD. And all of you for putting this together. And some of the proceeds from the song going to go into the OPRY Trust Fund to help musicians there and folks impacted by cove in Nineteen and also to the Gospel Music Association Find Helps Artists and musicians and songwriters in the same way because we'll music business been devastated by this shutdown exactly except so you sell records but record. I mean you could sell music but you can't do concerts right can't do anything there so And so you can get this song. We're GONNA play it right now. You can get this song by Steven. Curtis Chapman and Brad Paisley others. Where any great music is salt areas folks together Acura. I can see do panicking know you can see it in women through some crazy things before but nothing like this. You know of know his guide allowed to say this is the three got one thing known to impede your hand. Zaib leave together really do do Steve. We we know get together. I know it's hard to find. The Sky is too dark to see weekend. Even start to talk with each other for no only have we get. There's no we can't may not be pleased junior you you from the other day. The song is together. We'll get through this Steven Chapman. Brad Paisley Elaina Elaina and touch cops. Leonard I can't get off screen here Stephen Carter by and sharing that America. Go pick song up because together we can get through this. This is what the artists do in Nashville. They are the troubadours of our hearts to Put to music into words and lyrics what we're all feeling and You can pick that song up again anywhere. The great songs are sold and portions of it. going to the Opera Fund and to the AMA fund to support artists and many of them struggling. Like everybody else right now so Thank you Steven man to appreciate. How you who you are in the Lord and how you stand up thank you brother but man listen my friend. All Right Steven Carter shopping. This is the Dave Ramsey show. Whatever is going on in your world personally. Now is not the time to spend more money than you need to do this. Join honey do not pass up on instant savings. I was talking to Tatyana on our media team and she said she bought prescription sunglasses online and got fifty percent off because she used a Promo Code. Honey found her at checkout. So listen to Papa Dave get honey for free at join honey dot com slash dave again. Thanks to Steven Curtis Chapman dropping by and putting out what amounts to the first day of the Premiere I was GONNA say World Premiere but it might not be. They launched it or otherwise but the new song together. We'll get through this with Brad Paisley Lauren Elena and Tasha cobbs Steven wrote the song and then was able to put together that group of folks to launch it and Proceeds going to The opry and Grendel opry and a good are an end to the Gospel Music Association to Support Artists. That are struggling right now. So very good stuff in a great song together. We'll get through this because we will good stuff can calm and welcome back to the microphone. And let's go to a good debt. Free Scream in Louisiana it looks like Derek and Jackie are debt free. Congratulations guys with love. Day thank you. Hey Dave well done you guys. How much have you paid off? Two Hundred Ninety Three Thousand Dollars Gracious. How long did this take? Nineteen months okay. There's a story here and your range of income during that time About three hundred thousand. Okay there's that Oh my goodness what are you guys do for a living? I'm a registered nurse. And I'm a self-employed trump carpenter okay. I registered nurse and a self employed trim carpenter making three hundred K. I'm intrigued by the blue-collar against I love it. You guys you are working a Lotta hours. Then I'm guessing definitely say okay very cool so the two hundred and ninety three thousand was what kind of debt off our house. Days your home and everything everything. One hundred percent debt free and paying off the house pushed us over. Helped push us over the limit. So now we're also debt free every area. Mares and the picture on Youtube is from the gun range where you put the mortgage down range and filter or something would you shoot it with. Oh forty five clock Forty Block three fifty seven twenty two and my nine Springfield ex. We WanNa make really sure there's things we want to make. Sure we kill suckers not coming back to the front of the range with anything but a limp or house is fabulous. Enter frame in our house also more. You should your millionaires. You're debt free. How old are you too? I'm thirty two thirty six. Wow you are rockstars zero well done. This is amazing so I mean even making three hundred paying off to ninety three and nineteen months as Dadgum. Your mathematically impossible. How'd you pull that off? Well No days off there was a couple of splurge when we had a lot of houses going on and I can remember last spring I worked. I think Counted fifty six days straight. Without a day off they would have built on grinding. It out you know. And and this wasn't something that happened overnight as one something that happened in just nineteen Moss. You know this is not overnight success. We've been working a lot of your plan for like the last ten years we went through. Fpu before we got married. We've both been paying off our cars. I'm just working the baby steps up since we were young and this was just the final. The final baby step seven. So wow we're We finally got to make make the call and call you so we're pretty pumped up about it. So what's the house worth? The house is worth about eight. Eighty five at that range. Okay very nice very cool. So that's a big chunk of the over a million that you've got out of Ashley and that last two ninety three did in nineteen months in the picture. I'm seeing again on Youtube popping up got a couple of little boys there And so they survived their dad working fifty six days straight but now they're millionaires. Believe it or not. Yeah even survived Not being able to hunt every day so he can do it. I can be done well. I guess you've lived like no one else now. You can live and give like no one else right. That is true. And we're excited about the The giving part That last last verse. You always say be able to live and give like no one else We we've enjoyed given during this process Know we like to see older veterans whenever the restaurants have their hat on we'd like to pay for their meals but now that we're debt free. We always said one day. We'll be able to start giving more and we actually made the arrangement today We made one thousand dollar check to the tunnel to Towers Foundation doing that on this day every year. I like it. I go from our debt. Free scream to a debt free dream anniversary I year. We're going to do that all our great foundation for a gold star families. Yeah well that's pretty amazing so I'm curious why while you're working on baby step six. Did you decide to get as intense as you got? Cause man you went you went lays ears laid back and win an after it. Yeah there's no reason not to move. We started we have boys and lots of reasons not to everybody's got excuses but you just decided not you work fifty six days straight. Yeah why yeah. Well I mean I put my head down. Go after it and My wife she's a nurse she's She's been maxing out her hours when she has a chance to. But we we. We decided that after we got done building this we just got done self contract in the house myself We've been in about two years and we gotta start getting the House notes. Dan started seeing the interest that they're charging us every month. How much of that money was going to waste? And I knew for three hundred thousand dollars in debt but we had a big shovel to get out of it with like you said so at first the plan was to just over just double our house note and we'll pay it off and seven or eight years that lasted about a day or two and I went back to my wife and saying no reason why we can't get on this horse and ride hard. You know to start putting our head down to throwing everything we have at the principal and we've kind of made a time line. We actually beat our own timeline doing that so it was once we started. We had incentive to keep going. We really wanted to push through it so Jackie did you think he's a little crazy this was something. I've always wanted to do as well And I totally trust my husband and I drive in him and it just pushed me to want to To work as hard as he has worked for us. That's a sweet way of saying. Yes but I'm crazy to derrick. Jack I gotta ask you real quick. What would you say to folks who they here fifty six straight days? They hear that she was working every overtime shift. She could get you. Were working really really hard and there had to be some times. You're GONNA I really don't have to do this but it was not. I could do this. I should do this. I must do this. What was the shared goal? What was the role in keeping you all going in that incredibly difficult schedule Just knowing that we could do it and then no wasn't going to be an answer. We had a list on our freezer and our pantry started off at two ninety three and then when we started paying down we each month. We'd right now. We had a goal Paid off faster. We can and no matter no matter what I was gonNA find a way to get some money to pay principal so a trim carpenter and a nurse at thirty two years old or now millionaires. That's what happens so Yeah that whole Wow why guys so very proud of you. Who were your biggest cheerleaders Probably each other just pushing each other and just just freaking out whenever we made that principle check and and just being pumped up about it and probably everybody on social media thinking that we're crazy for giving away our money to a house. You know what I mean. I love it. I love it but you got no house. Payment covert payment. We're we're able to start giving money away. Which is going to be a lot of fun. Yeah I mean covert comes and you. Don't even have to blink right. Oh well look. We paid off that house. I think eight days before Kobe. Hit the states. Wow Amazing I was beggarly. Well done guys well done well. We've got a copy of Chris. Hogan's book for You because you should be in it It's called everyday millionaires. You are definitely one of them and Such an impressive young couple. The things you can do now with your lives. You'll be able to do anything you want to do. And you have lived like no one else and you are truly in a position to live and give like no one else way to go Derek and Jackie Baton Rouge Louisiana. Two hundred and ninety three thousand paid off in nineteen months making three hundred K. Count it down. Let's hear a debt. Free Scream tag is three. That's how it's done in Baton Rouge. This is the Dave Ramsey show. Ken Coleman joins me this hour Ramsey personality number one bestselling author of the book the Proximity Principle. Michael is on the line in Pennsylvania. Michael's got a question for Ken. Michael I can help. Hi Thank you for taking my call. I have a question about college. I am seventeen years old a junior high school right now and I don't know what I would like to do in college on completely undecided. Don't just wondering what's what's a good idea for thinking about majors. Well I don't think you have to be worried right now is a junior in high school about your major. I mean you don't pick a major your freshman year necessarily any way you could go in there and most of your first two years. You're getting your basics you're getting the fundamentals a the the requirement. Then you pick the major and then you go into specialization as you get into your junior senior year and I think between now and your senior year you need to just be focusing on Exploring ideas talking to adults that are in your community whether it be your friends or family members getting an idea of some of the things you might be interested. You're not committing to this seventeen or junior so I I just don't think you need to be worried or even thinking about a major. It's really about okay. What's a good school option for me? are we paying for school? Anthony Neil My colleague bestselling author of debt. Free degree that needs to be a book that you're digesting and picking a good school that has options for you I think it's the only thing you need to be thinking about. The major and that decision will come but I think that I would be focusing on. What are you dreaming about? What are you wonder about? Even when you're eleven twelve thirteen fourteen even now and begin to explore and and shadow people that are in those fields and as you begin to see things that you're interested in and you explore more into those fields you'll get more clarity and then you're picking the major that best suits you For a future in that field. But I wouldn't be worried Dave about picking a major at seventeen as a junior. I agree I don't think you have to a couple of principals as you get ready to do it One IS I. Try to shadow. Somebody that's doing it. Try to go to their workplace and actually watch them doing this The second principle is do not pick a major because you think it pays well only I've got a friend that became an engineer. Which is a highly detailed thing. He's not a highly detailed person and he was miserable for the first many years of his work life Because his mom told him he should be an engineer because he was good with math and but he's not a detail guy and so and engineers and accountants are largely The successful ones are largely detail. Oriented People So you don't pick it just because it's quote unquote a good job. The third thing is you. Don't pick it just because it's your passion if you get a degree and left-handed puppetry natural passion. You'RE GONNA Starve to death. Sure so you have to balance out the idea that. I need to make some money with this degree to justify paying for it on the one hand on the other hand. It's not just about making money. It needs to fit your passions and your personality style and make money And then just go find some people that are actually doing it. Walk around them. You're not listening to someone Who's never been a dentist telling you to be a dentist and you've never been in a dental practice and spent the day other than as a patient and that's not that would be a horrible idea to spend that much time and effort to become a fill in the blank whatever it is and never visited the location where that has actually done And and so You know but but there are even to even then. There are degree fields. That ARE GENERAL ENOUGH. That are very useful. That are worth the money. that you can Move towards without even feeling like you have to have picked the nuanced very thin exact career choice. For Instance Rachel Cruze Guy Degree in communication which gave her a lot of speaking and media and writing She thought she was going to end up doing what she is doing today. So that served her well. Daniel Ramsey got a degree in business with a specialization in marketing He didn't know if he was gonNA come on this team or not at that time but he knew he loved business in general and good that the that allows you to do almost anything it out in the business world with that degree. It's a general degrees very very useable so You can go that route. The problem people get into pick nuanced degrees that have no marketplace us. Well and the other thing I get this call daily on the Ken Coleman Show as well I got this degree so I fell into this career because I felt like I had to use the degree and everybody gets locked into all this degree stuff. You know Michael. There's there's three questions over the next two to three years. You're going to need to answer. And that is what you do best. These are hard skills and soft skills. Think Talents In the form of an ability which is a hard skill and equality as a personality. Trait a character trait that speak those become the tools by which you do work in the marketplace. So then you begin ask. What's the work that I love to do? Though this is passion. This is the work that you look forward to high emotion when you think about it and high emotion when you're in it and time seems to disappear when you're involved in it that's high devotion. The third question is. What are the results of the work that I wanNA pretty so everybody does work and when you do work you produce a result? What are the results? And you're looking at the people that you want to help the problem. They have and the solution to their problem and that is mission. Those are the three questions that will serve you as you get older and begin to see the marketplace. Elisar IS WITH US IN NEW JERSEY. Hi How are you? Hey Dave how's it going? How can we help? Yeah I'm the idea I call because I recently USA relieved check for purchase as the N. T. Program and Right now I mean that's an eight and that I want to know what can I do? Meanwhile to saint might packed okay. So you're going through the financial coach Master Training Program that we have and Some of the training that is in that talks about how to Start Your Business and how to run your coaching business It's part of the training so go back and make sure you get those modules in that and that you're getting that information on the phone with those guys and they can tell you a lot of what's happening there A lot of coaches Can I started and I think you did to a lot of it was We didn't start for money I started doing financial coaching administrate at my church where I started. My skills develop reputation. People knew me and then people were willing to pay me. for coaching at that point Do not that long but because I could. I could solve their problems. Do the same thing with careers right. Yeah you start with one so the answer. Elliot's are starting with one and and not just starting with one as you are in this course in your training you already have great content from our team to be able to describe what it is. You're being trained to do. I'd start telling everybody I mean everybody. I mean the person at the grocery store where the clerk I would tell all your friends and family I would tell everybody on facebook or social media whatever social media platform us. I would say hey listen. I'm super excited. I am doing some world class training to be a financial coach. And here's what we teach and talk about Dave and the steps I mean. Tell people what you are being trained to do and those people are going to be able to see. Okay wait a second. I need this help. I know him I trust him. I like that. I see in my friend at work getting repossessed on their car. Maybe maybe start to spread the word for you. And that's how you find. The first few is what I would call them and the first few or the one helping today's point if you don't get paid on the first few that's okay. It gives you that confidence. It gives you that opportunity to test out what you've been doing. You're GONNA be the worst the first time and then you get better the second time in the third time and then you say all right. No more freebies. I'm charging and again one customer at a time. That's how you I'll tell you. Start a business coaching. And then you know you expand from there and start thinking about okay who can refer me marriage. Counsellors Pastors can refer me people that they're working with that they don't know how to help their money part. I can help them with their money. Part marriage counselor. It's coaching a A young couple or oh couple or whatever. The struggling money could be part of the marriage. Problem career could be part of the marriage problem. I can be a career coach and part of the problem is money and vice versa. And so you can also send them referrals. You might be coaching some money. That needs marriage counseling. And you send them the other way and so you start to develop a network of people in your area that support you and you support as well. And that's our coaches have done for decades around here and it has worked really really well. Congratulations on computing. Are Completing financial coach. Master training is very cool. Course very cool that puts this hour of the Dave Ramsey show in the books. The middle of these uncertain times Ramsey solutions wants to give you some hope for the very first time ever. We're giving you financial beach university. Free for fourteen days go to Daveramsey DOT com slash. Hope so you can watch from home make more money doing what you love. Check out. Kristie Rights Business Boutique. 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Amy Makes Decision On Crazy House Offer + Raymundo Wants To Buy Something Disgusting + Steven Curtis Chapman Talks Hairstyles

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Amy Makes Decision On Crazy House Offer + Raymundo Wants To Buy Something Disgusting + Steven Curtis Chapman Talks Hairstyles

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I just had it but he knows I don't like talking about anybody to dream so we can't do it on the air but you can do it here on the post show. Eddie have thirty seconds. Okay we're getting the official thirty second time or if you care about your dream you Weirdo. Okay here we go and go guys guys. It was crazy. So it was me dairies. Rucker and Adam Hamburg. He's our friend. He's also artists And we're hanging out somewhere endeavors records like hey guys. I got game. Let's all wrestle with knives and we can stab each other and I was like okay so me Darius and Adam we're just like wrestling establish a and I'm talking like cuts everywhere and I'm like dude. This is crazy game by the end of the game. We're all just scarred up because we have cuts all over ourselves. Can we gotta go to the room here? We all done. We got to decide. Do we want to hear how the dream turns out or do we hate dream stories so much that we're just gonNA move on amy? It's just bad precedent president. If you want to hear the end of this dream but you know do you know how many dreams I've sent in a totally rejected and this doesn't even sound like that crazy. Wait right. It's not done yet aimed teaser. Okay well the finish it. Okay lunch rocks if you don't get to hear about my dreams. I don't want to hear everyone's taking I mean if you don't want if you don't get to hear my dream if we're gonna all go around our dreams and yes but then if not care. Morgan E. I don't think I want to hear about how to one. Yes let's go to Scuba Steve. Our executive producer. Steve I think the dream thing is also really annoying lame. So I'm cool with hear a weird. I was going to say yes. I was that He. Wow but now now here the rest of it. You can't we can't do it. It's so good it gets even crazier. Can you just like say it really like faster? Like just what? Any voted against over. No I voted for it. Did I voted for it to Eddie? We text it to me real quick and I wanna read it and see if there's any gutter night how this okay tech protects me too okay. I'll tell you guys and tell us the ending of the dream and we'll let our lessons milk it was worth it or not Okay all right. All right What have a story about a kid still Lamborghini lunch? That's the story of a five year old gun argument with his MOM IN UTAH. Because he wanted her to buy him a Lamborghini and she's like I'm not buying you Lamborghini you're five years old and we can't afford it. Well Mom and dad went out to run some errands and so the siblings were watching him. So the five year old stole his mom's keys emptied out his piggy bank and was driving to California when cops pulled them over on the highway and they said how old are you gonNa go five and they said where are you going. He said I'm going to buy Lamborghini in California. Three dollars pocket. Yeah but he was five. I think that's the big that is awesome. The kid is five years old. Knows the Lambeau is the way to go. He was going to go get one himself. He's like mom. You're not going to buy it for me. I'm Outta here loved it Eddie. Just Senate say biggest five year old ever. They said he was sitting on the very edge of the seat to reach the breaking gas and he was swerving all over the lane. The other thought he was drunk. I saw that I thought it was a drunk. Dude AMY THE DREAM YEAR. I read it. Why is he feel satisfied by that ending until they all as not that crazy? Rucker drinking mean okay. I thought I've had a grazie dream where I don't even want to say it out loud because want to hear your dream. The no no. We can't say dreams here. Was it like know it was really weird? I had something. Oh what disease where you passing along. Here I want to get an update with moon. Are Quick Raimondo. In a show last week were you found a hootie blanket and you won the prize money. What's the update on the blanket? So thinking Darioush by the way. Yeah there you go. I have the paperwork right here. My purchase was on April twenty. Second now the sixth. It's over two weeks. I have hit up the website. I've got a response but I did also hit up pay pal and told him that. I didn't get the quilt. So maybe they're gonNA reimburse me or maybe the quilt just magically shows up. We've also been having some issues with mail here at work so yeah everyone is. The update is there is no update. Okay so if by the way I did pay rafer running to get my money ray. Oh Yeah Yeah I got it definitely see my message or put on there. Something about I love you or something something like that. Yeah I oh did you thank him for love or something? I think Eddie. I massage the other day. Eddie Forty Bucks from golf and I made sure it public and I was like forty bucks. Thanks for the massage. Nobody does it like you do. No one believes that. Why Not Raimondo? It is June six. If it's not here now it's Mesa may may six if it's not here by June I. I need that prize money back that I gave you. Yeah I know I know and I have other ways to get a quilt. It's a the guy's name here and it's through pay pal which is verified. And they raise going up. Quilting raised me a quilt. Pay It back. They say goes through so yeah? It does take time because it's a it's customizable thing. It's not just something you have just sitting around in your garage or whatever all right. Amy Says it's Haitian heritage month. It is yeah so we celebrated last night in had made a Steph out of our. Haitian cookbook like Haitian rice and beans. Which is a very special way and the chicken dish with a sauce and plantations and my kids loved it. Did you plant Zero Calorie? They're not thought that no but according to my daughter didn't make them crispy enough so got a perfect that maybe we will. Haitian heritage month is almost all all month long so we can. Maybe I didn't have enough oil in there when we were frying them. That's crazy that they're fried with no calories. I thought she was seriously with my girlfriend at trader Joe's and she was like get those calories in those plantations and I was like. Oh that's like celery then and so I was eating a whole bag of them just thinking man I dunno about these are awesome for no galleries and she was like. You're eating all them. There's no calories she goes. You're an idiot. I don't think she said she was like you know but yeah then. Amy Made Fun of me a lot so there you go. Yeah because Bobby. So smart m ISO just I had a mo well. I had a moment where I was. Yeah he's not always smart. I don't think I'm always Okay well I hope you enjoyed today. Show with a lot of fun doing it. we're going to get out of here a couple of segments that we'll do maybe tomorrow show is Send in the worst case scenario plan for his wedding. We didn't get to it today but I think we may do that tomorrow. Is supposed to get married knocked-over it'd be tomorrow and then I don't know about this. It's just all my. Maybe we talk about it. Maybe we don't list where he's thinking about painting his fingernails through storing high because he saw someone on TV. Doing it Dennis Rodman. Isn't that why we all do things though but Dennis Rodman's been doing this for years and trump school? Yeah Dude GonNa Pierce Your faith. Don't be silly. No no I was going to start with my fingernails and see what happens like the the the the whole earrings and the face like he can't you can't even understand what he says because he has rings in his mouth like that's not good fingernails though that'd be awesome of no never forty one with four kids. It's not only him though. Did you remember when Steven Tyler came in here Rockstar again Dr? Yeah Rockstar. Okay you know what we just talked about it. It's awful. How do we feel about getting fingernails painted? Amy Means Not GonNa Affect my day to day. But I don't understand why he's doing but would you look cool though. That's the question. I think you should do it if you WANNA do it. Do it makes you feel more like you. But it's not GonNa make you look cooler really. You're a forty one year old man who's not known for your image right but sometimes like in the neighborhood. I ride my skateboard and I swear Dad's going like wow cool by the way I should bring Caitlyn on talk about Eddie and escape bored because I mentioned Eddie. We were Timing for raise running thing. We had this speed gun. That was obviously off. Because Eddie goes I was riding my skateboard. We measure where I was going sixty miles an hour or something stupid like that and we were like how many twenty eight okay we were like. There's no way you're going that fast on your skateboard. And then Kaelin said Eddie skateboards that's right and I was like. Yeah goes is he forty one. What does that mean say? Hold on say yeah and she was like Oh did he used to skateboard like professionally or something like is that. Why still skateboarding? Life for fun. I was like no. He just picked it up recently and sort of skate around his neighborhood like that. See she thinks that's the thing if you if people if you do certain things people will think like wow. Maybe he used to be a rock star his fingernails. They're Black Eddie. What do you think people say when they like? What is the one thing people when they see you? Dave remember from your appearance The Mexican dude. That's what they say about you. The Mexican think so. Yeah Yeah just because I'm surrounded by white people for sure because we all have something mine would be go ahead glasses last Thursday guy. The guy with the glasses you know we don't have to go with how nerdy. Oh Wow but if someone just sees me. They'RE NOT GONNA. They're not gonNA know all my whatever amy. Here's Today's show. Thank you guys for hanging out by the way mark the Eddie pails off the list. We just had a good discussion about that. And we're over on and got the two things on. I didn't think we'd get on one. The is dream dream to the painting his nails. And if you got like a thousand tweets saying they want to hear the we'll do it otherwise we're probably not going to okay. Do you Bones do you still want to hear it. Oh you know what I'm GonNa try to have that developed as a full movie as a Netflix Series. Based on your dream all right. Here's Today's show. Thank you guys. Support for the Bobby Bones. Show comes from our friends at rocket mortgage by quicken loans home. Today is so much more than it was yesterday but rocket mortgage home is still all about you during these challenging times. We're all experiencing the top priority at rocket mortgage is the health and safety of the communities. They served and while things are changing quickly every day. One thing that will never change is their teams commitment to giving you the best mortgage experience possible. That's why if any mortgage support to move. Experts are there to answer questions and offer solutions. They understand the hardships. Happened in here to help whether that means working with you to save money on your mortgage or finding a new way to navigate payments if you have questions. The team at rocket mortgage has answers. They know how important your home is to you because you are important to them if you need mortgage assistance. The hormone experts at rocket mortgage are available twenty four hours a day seven days a week. Visit rocket mortgage dot com slash bones. Learn more call for cost information conditions equal housing lender licensed in all fifty states in MLS consumer access dot. Org Number thirty thirty translate Good morning everybody. Good Morning Amy. How are you good how are you? I'm real good. I was watching the news this morning. I wake up and I flip over my computer and I turn on the TV. And I flip the channels and flip honesty if anything kinda grabs me and the story. The grabbed me today was they. Were talking about Dr in concerts. Is that that might be a thing where you put the people that are in your close little quarantine circle and you get in the car and you drive to a stage much like a movie theater and they do a concert there with the in their cars and at first. I was like well. That seems ridiculous but it really doesn't seem ridiculous does to you I I. It seems I don't know if I would enjoy because nine thing I've ever done but it could be cool. So does this sound. Come through your speakers and you're the Saturday is so loud from the stage down. I didn't know because I think with drive ins. Don't you tune your your radio to some station and then you hear the movie through your car speakers to know that I remember what you would take them as a young kid you would take the speaker from the like the like sonic has a drive up thing it's not signing but you pull the speaker from that but differ because those movie screens don't have the capability to put out sound that loud. We're concerts they do and yeah. I agree but think about that because I think that will be pretty interesting to do. It's other no concerts or that for a while man depending on where you're parked telling to take you to get out you. WanNa leave early king. That's true I think I felt like you did though when they first said it. I was like there's no way but then I started to think man that would be. I mean it's either no concerts or parking there Here's a story. There is a newly constructed venue just outside of Los Angeles with six days notice. The event sold five hundred tickets and went off without a hitch. Quote play mini concerts in my life. But this is the first though an audio feed broadcast also over FM frequency into the car so it was both. Wow I think that's they're trying to have the new there because it's going to be a while before you can have big festivals and you may have people that. WanNa go but you're not going to people that want to throw them quite yet. You know that that was a story that grabbed this morning so And then grab you today anything on the tip of your mind that you're sitting on vomiting sitting here. I don't I'm looking at my nikes not a commercial but I did see a headline that they're donating like thirty thousand shoes to healthcare workers so shout out to Nike Okay Okay Okay here is Hannah from Pennsylvania. Left us a message. Hey Bobby Boucher. Amy and everybody on the show. This is actually my first year as a teacher. And then you know. Corona virus hit so. I'm currently teaching from home and I didn't get to finish out year with my Kiddos so I just wanted to call the show and Give them a shout out so shout out to Miss Portwood Second Grade Class Valley I miss you so much a four and you and We're GONNA finish out this year strong even though we can't be together. Thanks guys. I love the show. Thank you Hannah in. Here's Morgan from Alabama. I was calling to you know have a seven year old daughter named Sarah and she does not believe that you are real. She hears you on the radio she. She's senior pictures and no matter. How many times? I've held her. That you are a real person. She does not believe me. Can you play shout her out until hard that you are real? I am real. I mean when you poke me when you thought me I. It hurts so Sarah I'm a real person hopefully one day. I'll get to meet you I think. One of the best parts about me touring. Obviously I've got to meet so many listeners. Sarah hopefully because I come Alabama lot. I'll get to meet you one day. Basically I'm her Latrell. Sprewell remember yesterday. Yeah Yeah I texted him back and I was like Latrell and he was like yeah and then nothing else happened for. I was like Oh wait for the video shot by the way I'm getting catfish by an NBA player by a former NBA player. They are what if it's really Latrell Sprewell? Though I know I don't know that's real. But thank you guys for your voicemails. You can always leave him at eight. Seven seven seventy seven bodies voicemails from you guys. We Love Them. That's how we know what you guys are thinking in. Call us any day anytime. Eight seven seven. Seventy seven bobby. Here's one of them. Good Morning Bobbie. Good Morning Studios. Bonnie just wanted to say that he was supposed update everybody on the living situation and teens. We missed that update and if you could please let us know. Have a wonderful day. I was Friday of last week saying that Caitlyn and girlfriend and I have decided what's going to happen whenever we stopped quarantining together and I gave you three options option. One she moved back to California option to was she moves to Nashville and doesn't live with me off three. She lives with me. I haven't given you guys the but it's only been three days but I don't think she's ready for me to say it out loud. Yeah because I don't think she's told folks what she's doing yet. Eddie knows adding hung out. I told him I don't think I know for sure but I'm close. You haven't told me one thank. You didn't tell you danced around it. You danced around it but never told me come on But I'll let everybody know if not by the end of week early next week. So but yeah. That's that's the update there? The update is. I'll give it to you soon. Raymond's fiance's been tested on a little bit. Hopefully they'll hopefully. They'll be friends warn. They've never even met in person so I don't even know if they get along but apparently via text. They're great friends. Yeah nobody's in person really because of Corona. They definitely would've obviously if it wasn't a thing. Here's Tammy from Virginia. Hi Bobby Kamaruddin Studio Update on this. You and Kaelin won't Doggies Stroller or not. Also everybody is just doing a fantastic job. Everyone stay healthy love you. I'll keep doing your great Tom. Thank you the Doggie stroller. I Talk Ceylan. I did not have a problem with it if she wanted to get it fine. I'm fine with it. I don't care if she wants to roll the if she wants the dog around. Who is really getting to big now. He's like almost sixty pounds and if she wants to roll around at least he's out of the house. It's not you know. Here's what I'm finding out. You really have to pick the things you care about and the ones you don't just don't care and they don't really care enough to go. Don't get a stroller for the dog. You know what? Get a stroller for the dog. Give it makes you feel good. You know that so I am going to be paying for it but she pays for all around stuff anyway. She doesn't need me for any sort of financial. Sabar could use her for some of the financial support but yeah as she. I think she'll end up getting one whenever we can get out a little more. I think she'll end up getting one you for your questions. If you have a question or you wanna come comment eight seven seven. Seventy seven bobby. There's a new challenge that tick tock users are doing. It's Hashtag pee. Your pants challenge or they just I know I know they just get the phone. Put a mirror and they record themselves peeing their pants. Okay I do not want any part of this challenge. Have you done weird? I don't understand that is so weird but we're laughing about it. That's the thing when I said it out loud and you get this weird little smile on your face. It is so dumb but at least they're not hurting themselves or anybody. I can't take enough for the pee pants challenge. I didn't come into the segment and was going. Stick out for it. I'm just GONNA talking about dumb. It was but yeah Hashtag. Peer Challenge although I participate in that challenge without even really knowing that I can't ever make it to the vacuum anymore. There have been other challenges. That are worse like the tide pods. Challenge remember that. Yeah when they were. The cinnamon challenge is always tough. Because isn't it you. Swallow a whole spoonful of sentiment. That's right yeah this impossible. There was the hot pepper challenge. What the Kylie Lip Kit Challenge when you had put like a bottle or something over your lips and have it like suck plump up your lists. Yeah Amy did you see the story? I think one of the New York Post or times. I don't know the difference. They talked about the girl who had the biggest lips. Her name's like Barbie Lips and that she's looking for the world record for biggest lips. It looks like she got stung by a bunch of bees all over her mouth but she continues to pumper Collagen. Oh Wow unbelievable. It looks like there's some sort of illness happening there. But she's into it real life. Barbie shows off great lips after twentieth filter injection. I'm tell you lists aren't great. What doctor is great question? Okay with that obviously there. They have no limits. Well I just googled it. Oh my goodness right. Doesn't it look like something's wrong? I she had a medical issue. Why why is she doing that? See the more we get ridiculous with people the more we appreciate the peer Pants Challenge. Nobody gets hurt right. I think I'M GONNA DO. I'm GONNA during the next break. I'm so into it now. We're going to play Blake and Gwen here. Nobody but you by the way Blake we playing the Grand Ole opry this Saturday show that I produce. You can check it out on the opry. Facebook page or on the circle network show up to this story comes from Vermont. Police got a call that a woman was out walking. Her dog got hit by a car when they arrive. They find the woman the dog but the car fled the scene right. How are we going to solve this crime and they look little few feet down the road? There's the bumper with license playing on. It fell off the car. That's crazy I mean and unfortunate unfortunate good way all right there you go much boneheads story today. It's time for the good news Thanks to a nonprofit and a of volunteers the homeless in New York City or getting supplies. They need during Corona virus backpacks for the street. We started two years ago by Jeffrey. Newman and Jason Connor. Volunteers typically gave out backpacks loaded with essentials like food water toiletries but now the backpacks are also been filled. Cleaned sock masks gloves. Hand sanitizer antibacterial wipes. Volunteers worked around the clock to help out. You know doing an interview yesterday and we're was like what are you seeing from people now in the middle of a pandemic and I was like you know not you're looking for some Click Bait Answer. I think people are coming together. More for the most part. I think that is kind of the beauty of a tragedy if there is something to find the silver lining in as you see a lot of people come together. This is just one of those stories so I wanted to share that with you guys because that is what it's all about. That was telling me something good. My Name is Shapiro. Wealth this is the story of my son Courtney. Nobody was colon. Two Thousand Fifteen is the biggest here of my life a ladies man even with his grandmother. I'm chance the rapper. According to Copeland was a good friend of mine in twenty sixteen he wound up with a bullet in his back outside of Chicago. Police Station robber boy granted. Federal said he was shot. And it's the story of my search for the truth. This is somebody a CO production of them visible institute inner South and Topic Studios in association with Tender Foot. Tv available. Now this is somebody's Chai. Somebody deserves to know what happened. I deserve to know what happened to my son. And listen to somebody on the iheartradio APP apple podcasts. Or wherever you get your podcasts. So have a downed power line of my yard. I'm assuming they turn it off but evidence power line we want. We can send Mike there to touch it. I mean he's sitting right here. I get them on the cellphone going to my D- Now lost him. There were there. Were massive storms all over town for two nights. It's still there. They're apparently they're working with so many down lines everywhere so my neighborhood because so many trees were down. Power lines were downed. Basically everyone was out there front yards kind of looking at the damage and Kayla was out my girlfriend. The neighbor was out in their front yard. And I don't really know my neighbors and like my personality is on this show and on the Air Avalon to say and I share everything about me very public but once I get off the era. I'm quite private. You know it's A. It's a weird juxtaposition. I'd say Kaelin on the other hand is the opposite. Whenever she is at home she's very extroverted. She will talk to anyone. Make friends with everybody but she's not big into being public she's not you know she'll come on the show of ask her too but she doesn't love it so she talks to everybody's talking to our neighbors kind of talking back and forth. Apparently there's a that they've now started a neighborhood group text which I want to know business on. But there's like nineteen or twenty people in the neighborhood that all like text and it's very nice. It's very they're like. Hey who needs? What like what is your power out is your and so. I've been getting all the gossip on the on the text in the neighborhood. So you're on it. I'm not on it. She's on it. Oh she's on a second. I don't picture you joining so she joined in so she's just making it in. She's getting them with all the neighbors. That's a that's a big step. Well she's getting in and getting all the information like whose powers out. 'cause we needed have jetty was bragging about his generator generators. I have a small generator now. And it's broken and so she hit one of the neighbors like. Hey who? Who's your generator guy? And so we have a generator guy coming over today to work on the generator and just in case. But that's that's been the latest developments. She's now on the Neighborhood Group. Text key and she was show me pictures of it. They're like food cooking. Like you got real personal real quick. I sent a couple of nudes. News pushed send on this one. So that's happened in here at this house. The big interesting story though we about our podcast yesterday because we do the show and then we keep going with the post show and amy talked about somebody just coming in offer or cash for a house and she was like what they offered you money by the way. I'm not going to say the numbers. Obviously but it was so much more than the house is worth that you had to consider it. We've talked about it on the show. We tell the show what you decided well. We signed the papers and accepted the offer. There's continuous the same thing I do. Yeah Yeah so. This is just not where we thought our week was going to go at all. I mean it's we're I still don't really have the words and I kept even after we signed the documents. We were on the phone with our realtor while we were doing it. And I'm like are you sure you read through this. This is just this. Can't be real are you sure so sh- we electronically signed our names away and everything and they all also. I must say this. They've never seen our house. They have seen pictures but they have never been inside physically. So that's weird. Who Come into your house and offering away money that it's worth I don't know but I am just going with it. It's really weird in. I don't know where we're going to move. But if if everything goes through after the inspection like I said there's even in the papers we sign their certain contingencies so it may not work out but I mean at the rate we're going it would and the closing date would be may twenty fifth which is like not that far away and we have nowhere to go so we can rent the house back in pay by the day until we find a place and they said they'll they're flexible with that until the month of August. Who is they got to know who these people know? If it's I don't know if it's a day or here she is it the Navarro drug cartel or something like that. I don't know but I guess they really. There's not I will say and that's how it even came about. We were going to have our house on the market last fall when we were. GonNa move for our kids school but then we found the schools are like Yay. We're not moving. This is awesome. But at the time our realtor had come and she knew everything about our house and had taken pictures and all that and she had a client come to their office and they're just looking for something in our neighborhood and there is not inventory for what they're looking for and so that's when she said. Oh well I have this one family. I can call him and see if they're willing to sell. And that's when we got the phone call and they went straight overprice. Which is crazy well congratulations. I guess. Quickly what's contingency were? If it doesn't match how do you think I read all the paperwork? Oh you don't know you get a weekend with amy crazy signed. Didn't even know. Yeah Yeah No. It's I think with Steph at the inspection. I don't really know always enough to hide a ton of money. Yes we know what's happening here. Okay I don't know guys it's crazy though. Good luck let us know how that goes in the next few days. That's it's I get able to say that you took the house though. Oh well I mean my husband and I had some serious thinking deal and then after just going over with our realtor we would almost be silly not to so but the thing is we have to find somewhere to go so if anybody knows anything oh great hold on I already have a realtor. That's right they will. They'll come out you all right on with us right now. A Guy who? I'll listen to all my life growing up going to Many youth group events. All the time. It's just cool to talk to you here. We are Steven. Curtis Chapman how? I don't know what to call you. I call you Steven Steven. Curtis what I call you. You met bobby bones. Whatever works for you. Brother just sat stephen S. C. squared. Hey you you know whatever Steven Steven Curtis I refer to myself. Steven Curtis just because it took me a while to get used to that name. 'cause that was. Steve Chapman forever until there was another Steve Chapman Long Story. I ended up having to come up with a different name to record my first album. So keeping Curtis but really you. You knew my music in grew up saddling up your horses and whatnot. Are you kidding me and listen Steven Curtis I went to awesome hobby bones? Grew up knowing. I'm just just really making day. I went to Malibu Baptist right. We population seven hundred. I went every Wednesday nights Sunday morning Sunday night every Saturday night. We'd have a youth group dinner if you don't think we were on some Steven Curtis Chapman crazy right now. Cinderella anyway too much of it is. It is a real pleasure to talk to. You. Thank you man. It's an honor to talk to you as well. But congratulations on all your success. My family and big fans of your part of American idol as late. We love watching you to that show so great to meet you. Thank you well one of my friends because I was geeking out that you're coming on and I said Hey Tyler Steven Curtis Chapman's coming on and he said to ask you this. You kind of answered a little bit. But he said. Ask them if there was another Stephen Chapman. And if that's why he threw curtis in there. Obviously it was the right decision. Steven Curtis Chapman sounds better but always go by that. No I did not like every other kid. My middle name in fact. I think it's the reason we have middle names is. That's the way you know that you're getting your mom's getting ready to take you out of this world. The one that brought you so you know whenever I heard Steven Curtis Chapman in trouble so I was only. I was Steve Chapman. And then like you said. There's a Steve. Annie Chapman in fact their son Nathan Chapman went on to produce Taylor Swift's records a great songwriter and producer. But they're his dad. Was Steve Chapman and they made music and when I was growing up in fact not had their albums because I thought it was so cool in another Steve Chapman Made it was Gospel Music Christian music and so when I started writing people were getting confused when I first came to Nashville and they kept saying. Are you the son of that seat? Chapman? Or what's the deal? So the Steven Curtis Chapman thing was just a way to differentiate us Unfortunately I didn't think it through because Having had to sign. Autographs Thousand Times. Now I wish I had to go with something like toby or Carmen. But it's worked out Dan Carmen. You bring it back right now I harmon to holy cow on my head is exploding through all the memories of going to vacation Bible School and going to church camp. It was like that was like Steven. Curtis Chapman central going to church camp. We would go up to. I won't start okay. That's a whole conversation. You have to come in the studio one day. We do have things to talk about today. That would be amazing and I WANNA talk about. I A song. It's called together. We'll get through this and before I ask you something deep about it. I have kind of a personal question because it has Brad Paisley Lauren. Elena and you'll have to tell me about Tasha cobbs Leonard but my question is who did you call i. Well I called Brad Paisley I I'd written the song and I wanted to. I thought sounded like together. Needs some other people together Kinda make sense and And I thought a Brad Brad. I had shared a dressing room together at a Glen Campbell. Tribute Concert. Both of us fans and he was kind of our guitar playing singing idol growing up. And so we were both at this tribute concert for Glenn and we sort of bonded over our mutual love for for Glenn and his music and as you do when you're done it's like hey we should get together sometime and do music and of course. I'm thinking that's Brad Paisley and he's hosting you know seeing as and television commercials with Peyton Manning. What's he got time for doing something with me but I wrote this song and I thought of him to something and he could crush some guitar and a and a vocal on this so I had a mutual friend got his number. 'cause I didn't have I got an email so email and didn't hear anything for three days and I was like yeah. He's probably too busy. Who's this Chapman Guy? Bothering me so I texted him. Because my wife says you got his number texting. And the no because that's like next level bugging somebody but I finally did and I as soon as I said it. I got the little bubbles at the bottom. You know like he's answering. I'm Brad Paisley about and he's like did you not get my email. I'm totally in. Let's do this thing you know and So I did a little happy dance in the kitchen there with my wife and said he's GonNa Sing my song. So yeah. So that's how that started. Man That is that is really cool. I liked it too. That you geek out about the bubble because I geek out about all the time when I'm like holy cow. I'm looking at some of your numbers here and I want to get to what the song is going to do. In a second. But you're five grammies fifty nine Dove Awards Your Gospel. Music's most awarded artist. One American Music Award you sold over ten million albums Jeff. Forty nine number one songs. Do you have any house for just your award? Steven Curtis is that the one next door he's walkover in knock and go in and look. Yeah yeah years ago. Gary Chapman who always gave me a hard. You know. We're not related but Same last name He. He said that I should melt. All my words down until like one big one and put it in a fountain in my yard so now I I just have a studio where they're kind of Tucked away up on a nice shelf out of out of sight out of mind. But there there. 'cause I'm grateful for all of them obviously. I'm blown away. Kids from Paducah Kentucky. You know how does that happen but Just God's goodness I gotta so cool This song by the way together. We'll get through this not an official single but it is raising funds for Kobe. Causes including the Grand Ole OPRY Trust Fund. Which I'm very involved with Grand Ole opry and it's such a such a good organization. How did you get involved With with this song going towards that well I mean all of us obviously in music business have been deeply affected by this all of us all over the world which is part of why. I wrote the song because we are in fact in this together. I don't think I know I've never experienced anything in my lifetime. That has leveled more the playing field or the ground where all common grounds you know no matter where what you do where you are but some have been obviously a more impacted even than others And because no concerts no you know opportunities just for all the layers of that you know. From musicians to crew guys two buses to concert goers in venues and guys that sell the merchandise impacted by so people and so I wrote this song thinking of obviously i. I want to try to bring people together. I want to encourage what I see as a little ray of light. That's been shining through this very dark time. And that's that that idea that we really do need each other that we are made for relationship to be together to to work together in these things something we desperately need in our world. Now I think more than ever and in our nation and so I was inspired by that and and Wanted to write a song to kind of kick the door open for that crack of light to get a little bit brighter and So with that I thought man. It'd be great if there are proceeds. You know anymore with music and the way it works you know but as there are God willing some proceeds. I'd love to be able to help artists and and people impacted particularly in the music business both through OPRY Trust Fund which. I played on the you the first time when I was nineteen years old so it's been full circle for me to come back and get to play the opry a lot more recently in fact. Hopefully we'll cross paths here at some point I'll meet you face to face but And then also for the Gospel Music Association has a fund as well for many of the artists that gave us Great Gospel Music over the years and now are struggling to just keep food on the table and and you know the people that associate with them and work with them so just to try to help some people that obviously are kind of in my field and in my My area of of music. That's so cool by the way Steven Curtis Chapman is on with us right now. It's very good to talk to someone van of and you have been. It's always cool as to when you get to meet someone and I know we're just meeting virtually here but you get to meet someone who you're a fan of as a kid because it's always that much cooler. Did you ever have that where you are? A fan of. Somebody is a kid and you got to meet him when you got older. And you're like man. This is really cool. Oh yeah well. I mentioned Glen Campbell a minute ago. I had as a kid I grew up. Glen's music was probably some of my favorite a lot because my dad and my now eighty year old. Dad is a great guitar player. Great Singer and sounds a lot when he was younger at Glens. Hd sounded a lot. Like him I could play your records and my dad. You hear it but so I was a huge fan and I'll never forget I was doing a double words. Which is you know. Gospel Music's annual big kind of award deal and I was It was being hosted that year by Glen Campbell and Marilyn mccoo you remember. Some of you will remember her name and and I had this knock at my door and And it was open the door and it was Glen Campbell and he was standing there saying. Hey I wanna meet Steven Curtis Chapman. 'cause I like his music and I was just like you know by blowing so yeah. There have been a lot of those opportunities. I was hanging out one real quick other one because I just thought this is so fun to tell the story. I was standing on a street corner my first Grammy Awards with my wife and New York. This is when it was at radio. City Music Hall Ricky skaggs and his bride Sharon White were standing there and I'm like British gags him a big Fan. Polygamy your Steven Steven Gershon. I love what you're doing to brother. I'm like no way said let's go have lunch. Let's go get you know a Deli saying so we're walking into to a deli and we walked past a window and he starts making faces inside the window in New York City at some guy sitting at a table and it's Michael McDonald from the dude. So he's like. I like you know Mike McDonald and they said Yeah you WanNa meet him so staggering takes me in to meet Michael McDonald so I mean just crazy. 'cause awesome hoping and just a double double down on. Ricky and I've become good friends since I've started playing the opera at the opera. And he is the greatest guy. Ricky skaggs the greatest guy and he. Yeah well let me ask you one final question here. Because I was looking through and I wanted to really see which of your albums resonated the most with me. 'cause you can kind of associate an album to a part of your life. But what I noticed was a lot of different hairstyles. That I really didn't keep track of that. They were so. What are those question down. Was that of all the hairstyles on all the albums. Which one do you regret the most? Oh Lord have mercy The mullet was was really cool for about fifteen minutes in the late eighties. Thank you bill rate but I perfected it. I like to think I mean. Billy Ray did but I kind of took it to a whole `nother level with the curl and everything so if you ever look at the real life conversations album that was the one and 'cause that's probably the one that I'm most like why why didn't somebody that loves me. Aside and go dude. You'RE GONNA really regret this someday. But no no they were all just lapping behind my back. I think what a what a great guest you were today. Not that I wasn't expecting it but you just never know everybody's Stephen Carter. Shamans a great guest for the radio show. We got to come back in. Okay here's the deal. Everybody listening right now just for the on on a serious note. The song called together. We'll get through this with Steven. Curtis Chapman Brad Paisley Lauren Elena and Tasha cobbs Leonard. And I'm a big fan of all the music. No if you stream this song that it will raise funds for Cova causes including the Grand Ole opry trust fund. He has prompted Dukic. Kentucky is debt. Your Dad had a music store you go. I mean you grew up in it and you did a lot of good with them I France. Well thank you very much for your life contribution to to me and music and I hope to see in real life. Brinson me as well. Bobby truly an honor man. Thank you so much and Appreciate the shoutout for the song and What you do stay safe all right man all right article about what we know now since everything is going to give him to us for example do you know your spouse's cell number. Amy Yes you do. Yeah Wow I don't know Kaelin number area code phone number anything. Well I mean to be fair. You can cave dating a handful of months and I've been married for fourteen years almost so yeah I phone numbers also change but he had it since we got married so I don't even look I'm just like okay. Numbers in never looked at it again. Okay well good for you say della number. Do you know the name of the roads you take to work. Oh No I don't even know that highway that I get on the Mandolin like the major state. That's intercity well. There's a couple I don't even know. I don't know my husband He. He'll say things to me like he'll use the highway he'll say just sixty five or get on four forty in on that highway every day. I could probably do the roads if I had to. But I definitely don't know anyone cell phone number. I don't know your cell phone number. We'd been together thirteen years rude. Do you know mine. Yeah no you don't hold on. I write it down. What's the last number of it six? Nope sorry she better. If I had a trap door right now you'll be gone. I gave Amy's pile of stories. Tom Cruise's next movie. Might happen in space so tom in Elam Musk or apparently working with NASA on a possible narrative and that will take place in Outer Space Incense. Tom does his own stunts hill. Literally go to space himself. With Elon Musk's spacex any other actor. I would say this will probably not happen. It's for press but not Tom. Cruise is guys nuts in many ways in awesome ways and crazy ways but speaking. Eli Musk's baby now. I didn't he space. No but his son's name is like weird characters. It's not a might use it. Yeah it's like exercise easily. Yeah Okay what else you got to begin a space. We might be able to go to concerts again. If we were Kinda like spacesuits someone has created a space suit would help you feel safe going to a concert in a post pandemic world it has. Its own ventilation system along with the camera speakers an airtight upper body covering so yeah only covers the upper body. So you won't have trouble golden using bathroom if you need to you. And apparently the ideas that venues would own the suits and they would give them to attendees and sanitize them between uses. I wouldn't trust the to sanitize it. It'd be like bowling shoots but think about that for everything that we do bowling roller skating. My kids love the like what is happening. We're just. Everybody has their own skates now or we go roller skating. Yes both of those. I can't wait to get kids in realize like and my kids love the jump parks and they jump into the foam pits and call. They should cancelled those things along time ago. What else you got. A woman was busted licking things at at least two stores while. Actually here's what she would do a grocery store. She was licking her hands and then putting her hands all over. Freezer door handles and touching various items launch. I don't know I just listen. The camera caught her doing it so they arrested her in the parking lot and after she got arrested owner of different shop told police. Yeah that woman was also seen on camera doing the same thing like licking the shops like debit machine and the coins and the coin jar and stuff. So here's the deal she's GonNa get tested for cove nineteen and she has been charged with aggravated breach of peace and food tampering and she could face a maximum of thirty years in prison and if she tests positive it could be really bad. It's like biological weapons on the only way I would think this is. Okay if it's for a tick tock video all kidding by the way I'm kidding. Everybody is not as joke joke. Wow something must be wrong with Riley. Something's not right with her. I don't think she has. That must much hate in their heart right. I HOPE NOT. I mean yeah. I kind of hope that it's like well. We just need to get you a little bit of help. But then there's people that bobby do this sort of stuff for tick tock so. We should remind them not to. Because you'll go to prison forever four ver. That's from for ver. The San Lot. yeah okay. I'm amy that's my pile. Bat was amy's pile of stores. I was reading about face. Masks and health experts are predicting that kids are going to need them when schools resume. Think about that amy I read that somewhere. I don't know if my kids school had sent out something but my daughter's new little friend at school started sewing and sewed my daughter her own mask. That's super cute and dropped it off in our house so we're going to go window. We see like the Louis Vitton and the super expensive masks. That makes us go. Are you kidding me when you think those start? No anything that we all wearing. They're GONNA make obnoxiously. Re expensive ones can wear them and kind of want them. You know. I don't know fall. Twenty twenty Oh quicker than that by the end of the year. Adults are going to wear masks that work at large offices. If you're going to want to go to a sporting event you most likely be required to wear a face mask. So they're like masks are now the thing and they'll be here for a while now but they've been things and other cultures way before this. We've just not jumped on it now. We kind of have to you know. Let's go to amy with the morning. Corny were morning corny kind of music. Do Planets listen? To what kind of music do planets listen to Neptune's that was morning Gorny on yesterday? I was talking about some of our listeners in Portland. That are brand new to the show. And they're like these guys don't sound like radio deejays like our last shows and I apologize for that and said we don't. We don't have big booming voices. I've never had a great voice and we've been friends outside a radio way longer than we have inside a matter of fact. I'm that's ever done radio when you. Amy was selling granite lunchboxes delivery driver for a. Adelie Eddie was doing news for TV. And so I just brought all my friends together and so we asked. Hey if you had a hard time getting into the show but now you love it. Would you mind sharing your story? This is Lexi from Texas. I just want to tell you my story so I was thinking about the show and I was stuck in a car with my mom for eight hours. We were driving from where I live to Austin. She made us listen to the show for the entire eight hours. And I'M NOT GONNA lie. I was not very happy about it shortly. After kind of went through a different season in life and I listen again and I have not stopped since so I think maybe they're just not nice place in their life. I mean you just told me through law the other sale positive. I think there is someone on the show that anyone can relate to. I would just say give it a chance. Lexi thank you and everybody. That's not in the right place in their life right. Now come back when you are. Yeah Yeah of course. Of course of course. Well thank you for that. Call all right movie. Mike is GONNA walk us through this game. So we're doing movie quotes Right Yup. Okay I'll give you the quote from a very famous movie. Just named the movie okay. I'll go first go ahead. You had me at. Hello that would be renee Zellweger in jeopardy. Maguire is correct that we go. You had me at Hello Nice. And then add a bunch of friends who are copycats and they would tell their girlfriends back in high school and act like they never got from the movie Amy You're up all right. I wish I knew how to quit you. Oh that's brokeback mountain. That is correct. I wish I knew how to quit. You said that a lot of my friends get that quote quote. I thought I always say I just can't quite you but now I know all right. You're up I'll be back. I got that one that's easy. I am the terminator that is correct. I'll be back Eddie. You're up among you got wax on wax off as the karate kid correct on how many more you got over there might be. I got seven more. Give me another one. That is so fetch gotta so fetch like stop trying to make fetch happen same movie Brittany Murphy One bingles. No I'm thinking of the older one. Okay it's mean girls is going to mean girls mingles lost there but you know I was trying to walk myself to what was it. What was the movie clueless clueless okay? I'm still in it though man. Okay play that clip reminder. That is so good all right. You're up here's Johnny. I think you're gone going on this one. Here's Johnny Oh no has to be something I don't watch obviously. I would say that I might be gone too. I just know who said it because I've seen the clip. Maybe Johnny is Josh. Okay so kids Johnny Johnny Johnny. That's what I hear that. Yeah the here's Johnny. Is it say it again mighty Johnny Johnny? I don't know I'm GonNa go with Godfather that is incorrect. Jag Nicholson Right. Yes if I were to guess I don't know for sure but it's like the. Bur what is it the Shining Eddie? Would you have known that I knew that one looks all crazy like Giannis? I've seen the picture I in a video. I don't know eminem sorry. You've been eliminated over lunchbox. Got I love? Scotch? Scott Scott Scott. Scotch Scotch Scotch Anchorman. That is correct. I love God I love Scott. Here goes down down do my battery. Is there one more ready? Okay here we go. Nobody puts baby in the corner. Ooh ooh thank you amy. Sorry you're out of the game but thank you so much for this one. It's dirty dancing. Is there any other ones? We got five more. Oh there are more. Okay here we go. Oh Wow fun okay go ahead. Houston we have a problem. Oh Houston we have a problem. That's apollo thirteen correct. Houston we have a problem. That didn't happen. I made all that up. If you build it. He will come on man. This is the great movie of all time. Almost field of dreams as correct. You're up I see dead people. Ooh that's the six cents correct right. There are two more more boys. Write them down. We're all in here. We can boy down only five seconds. Right go ahead. I just like to smile spy favorite. What you do. I mean I don't know for sure but I just want context lose all right. Time's up okay. Dumb and dumber could be. I'm not sure Elf Eddie. I have the joker because he smiles. Somebody is correct. It is just like a small swellings favorite and leave bar. Thank you very much. Is there one that we didn't do? Yeah what's that one? Why so serious. Why Joker Joker Dark Knight? Oh Wow Dang Eddie wants to doesn't work then you almost got it. It's time for the good news producer Eddie Right. This is a crazy story so Jennifer and Andre. They're expecting twin boys and Goes into Labor? They go to the hospital and her water breaks and the baby's coming but they both test positive for corona corona virus. Both the parents dad so as soon as they have the twins the twins are taken to a different location and they can't see them or touch them or anything for twenty days bone. Wow so finally. Twenty days later They are both negative now. They're all good to go and they were worried that the twins would have coronas. Well the twins do not have it. They tested negative and they got to hold their babies for the first time ever. Can you imagine a week after you had your babies to order to be able to see your baby? No Man tough. I can't even think of how how terrible that would feel. And does she get corona test as her feet in the stirrups are Eric Co. Well hold on us to stick thing your nose. How but anyway. They're all back together right. Yes and that's the good stuff that's a good story. That's what it's all about. That was telling me something good. This is newt. 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They were travelling at thirty five cities and they do these where they pull up to big parking lots or fields and they were in the middle of their tour and now they're quarantined in a parking lot because they can't go anywhere it's forty two circus. Staff members chefs welders aerialist jugglers clowns man. Imagine corn with a bunch of clowns fourteen. Rv's twelve semis. But they've courtesy gofundme page to try to offset some of their expenses because a lot of them why they can't go home if you're like why don't they just go home. Some of them are from South America. Because they're like aerialist that have trained to be in a circus and they can't just drive down to Georgia you know or allow yeah. I didn't think about that. And they can't fly anywhere really and it's not like in the circus. You're making a ton of dough you probably are. This tour is by the end of it. You've made all your money but anyway I saw that and thought that kind of stunk. I'll give you a lighter headline in my juvenile headline of the day. A man is arrested for mooning several customers at a wal-mart and then recording the reactions guy in New Jersey was arrested on Thursday for mooning people he's been charged with leading INNIS. So He's twenty seven years old. He went to a Walmart Moon. People all around the store and got the reactions. Someone called the cops. They arrested him. There's no word on why this was a good time for a mooning spree. If you missed this morning to we talked about the peer Pants Challenge on talk which you just hold the phone up and you get in the mirror and you let it rip into your pants literally. That's it there's nothing else coming after. That Senate You just pee your pants and you can search for that on tick tock if you want but if you do impose yeah if you do. That's weird amy. What was your question? I was just curious when you think you're going to fly again. I would fly right now if I had somewhere to go. I have nowhere to go not work but I think airplanes now probably cleaner than they've ever been because of everything that's been happening. Yeah so that's what South West Air said. They sent out an email promise to me to let me know that. They're using anti microbial spray. They're going to be cleaning between each flight. They're limiting passengers. And you know even when you line up to board a flight they said there's GonNa be a process a special one for personal space. So yeah I mean I guess it's going to be fine. My husband's friends a pilot for the airlines and said he's still flying right now and said that yeah. They are disinfecting. Those planes like crazy. You just wish they'd been doing the whole time you know when they're like we're going to clean these planes between every flight and you're like wait aren't doing that already. I mean they were but now they're really doing it. Just picking up crap out of the little back seat thing mostly so it looked like it was clean more than anything else. Yeah I mean people just used to not care how I get on a plane and immediately turned the air vent off because I heard it. The air vents are so Germany even if I was sweating and hot I refuse to asserted on and then you and I we always wiping down Steph and people would look at us like we were crazy down person next to us to. We'd sit down and we wipe their face in their hands because we don't know where they've been exactly now. That's that's just normal everyday life. I would fly now if I needed to. I think there's there I was watching a story about how they're cleaning the subways in New York and they're like every night we now go and clean. The subways mean. You'd never you weren't doing that already but I guess it's expensive but it's I'm a clean freak always have been about germs but but think about how even at the airport or I mean. We don't live anywhere there subways but if I travel you have to take like the tram maybe to the next terminal or something I get online and just grab that pole thing. I was going hands. I've been going hands with a strong base for getting balanced spread my legs a home base and it'd be like because mostly it's the airport like Atlanta airport. Yeah and they're going. You're taking that little train to the reports of the airport. Grab anything and I would just spread my legs and be like all right got. This was weird bobby bones. Show Carol Baskin from tiger. King responded after she was prank interviewed. We talked about this yesterday. Some kids on Youtube during the thinking she was one on Jimmy Fallon Carol Baskin and never done an interview and she was a good sport about it and they also really didn't mess what they played a bunch of old clips of Jimmy Fallon but she said quote. I was suspicious. We were doing it and the questions appeared taped but I had no idea what turn out to be such a fun prank. It gave us a very welcome. Good laugh nights her. Yeah no I like that response. I stand by handle that by the way I'm the only one on the show. Didn't think she murdered husband. Carol Baskin. You're listening right now. I would love to talk to you on the show. I will say it again. You're in good hands with Carol Baskin. I will take care of you. What are you going to say? Why would like the second that Carol so she feels like? This is a safe space for her. I said that I didn't have enough details for her to build be guilty but they might wanNA check. I did not think tank Carol if you come on this show. It's only in you. There'll be no. Amy No lunchbox. They all think you did bad step. I didn't Carol Basket. I know you're listening so you and Tom Brady both listening to both walk them on the show right now. You can reach out to US emails us. You have a question. Let's open up the mail bag right. Now mailbag hey bob bones. My name is Wendy. I'm a longtime fan of the show. So I'm self isolating alone. I've had the same Amazon delivery guy like seven times in the last three weeks. He's basically the best part of my days Q. Feel like he's keeping me alive with food and other things is keeping me occupied. I think I've developed a big crush on my Amazon guy when I tell my friends how I feel about him. They say it's just the isolation making me crazy one. What you guys think is quarantine making me feel things. I normally wouldn't feel that being said. Would it be weird if I asked for as Number? Maybe sometimes go on a date. Thanks Wendy there's the anywhere what do you say to win? I don't think it's impossible for you to start liking someone that you see more and more I don't. I don't think that's weird. I mean picture not in quarantine and you work in an office and you have the same story by the way every day. No no no no no. It is bringing up a real life story. Yes you are. And she doesn't she was doing it. Go ahead and didn't but I was thinking example but the roles were switched. I worked at office. Ubs Guy came in a lot then he asked me out. So that's what happened there. But I think and I gave it a go in that launch. I realized because not for me but you you should try to get his number or do whatever I don't know I don't think it's weird at all. I don't I don't know what your taste is. What your friends know better but I think there could be something there. I think one the isolation is causing you to look for anything but I think to ask him out. Who cares if any of us were locked up and we had any sort of contact with anyone would probably amplify how good that made us feel but it doesn't matter if you're single and he's single maybe leave alone out there basket like thanks for the package. Would you mind leaving your number next time? Be Funny with it. I have no problem with you. Asking what are you GonNa say me. I can't go out. But what did they do? Did they start just talking on the show have then maybe set up a online date or virtual? I don't even think you have to get there yet. I think you can exchange phone numbers and just text for a while and if you hit it off there I mean I've jumped really far ahead but only so cool if you're getting married and have kids in your kids are like Mom Dad. How jaw meet and they say well. Corona virus was happening and I was stuck at home and your dad is my delivery guy and then I gave them my number skewed story speed acute stories. Why didn't you feel the ups guy when you went out what happened there? I at our conversation was really difficult. We didn't we weren't clicking which got awkward because we did go out and then the next day I had flowers on my desk that he had delivered ice and then and then he stayed are. Ups Guy for a while. And I would run to the back. Would I was not very mature. This was I was twenty the job I had before radio so I was. You know early twenties and I would see the big brown truck pull up and run to the back. So and then eventually he's he wasn't our ups guy anymore what he wears shorts or pants. Both and everybody in my office would walk around after we went out. And they all made fundamentally like. Hey what can brown do for you go on your last name Brown well? It wasn't then all that's true that's true. That's true Wendy like amy. Did you get a look at us back? I mean I've worked with a Lotta friends too so it's kind of like y'all they were just giving the everything was a. Ups Joke for weeks. That's probably why it didn't work out. Wendy here's what we want. Say DIPA reasons. Amy and I say go for it. You only live once anyway go for who cares. Have Fun you know. They're probably not a lot. You can do right now Th that is fun so ask them out talked to him to the door. It'd be like Hey let's let your exchange numbers and text and then zoom and you know virtual your little heart out so we say yes to it. Wendy go all right. Close was Bobby Mailbag. Speaking of digital over to bobby bones dot com the pandemic bone. Z's are up on our website The bones are back. You can vote a bobby bones dot com for example. Amy One of the questions for the bones. He's the best use of technology during the quarantine. Is that a the home radio broadcasting kits though the show can stay on the air be the virtual Doctor Appointments See Zoom or D. Live streamed concerts. I'M GONNA go with see zoom even more than the radio on the air right now radio. Show Hey I think the best binge-watch show Outer Banks Ozark Tiger King or love is blind. Love is blind was pre corona so tiger king tiger wins it just because it is kind of defined by Corona ozark had seasons before corona. But I didn't watch it during it but I think Tiger King de Corona virus show right So anyway check all the questions bobby. Bones dot com and vote during the corentin pandemic bones. He's all right. Go ahead if tiger king wins. Does he deliver him a bone? Z? To jail absolutely we send lunchbox out to the jail. I mean remember when Raimondo described himself as a man's man Mr Macho Athlete. We ask them describes up on the show. Oh Yeah Raimondo's are are sound engineer. And now he wants to remedy time. You what you want to put on your truck. Yes this is something I've wanted ever since I was in college and I drove a car when I was in. College is kind of girly car. So I've never really had guys vehicle until I got my trailblazer. I've had it for a while now but I've never gotten the one thing. I always really wanted any go ahead. Be careful what your words okay but I got to tinting done which is awesome member out and everything but I on the back you know how guys when they have a really jacked vehicle. They get those are how would you say it? Yes they get that on the back of the vehicle and hangs down when they drive. So you'll be the stop light people see it or you're cruising around. It's very noticeable. It's something that's hilarious but it also shows this is a this is a big vehicle and I. It's mainly I. I really do want invest. The whatever it is I think it's fifty dollars and get a chrome set of them. So you WANNA chrome set up. Truck testicles to hang off your laser. Yeah now my friends reaction was. That's a total. Db thing. Amy What do you think about that? I can't I don't have. I don't know that I have words other than please. Don't do this ray. Those are so they're so disgusting disgusting and Tacky and awful and I always when I see them. I wonder who is driving that and put on their car. They must not have anybody in their lives at tells them that we're going to be able to you first of all there's ugly non just things off truck like. I don't even like mine and I should. I should think of any of them are my. I don't even like mine much less. Can you not see me pulling out of the parking lot? You guys are all like that bad dude man. I don't think anybody sees those and thinks the person driving. The truck is a bad dude. Well let's say well music row every time we'd pull out there's about five cars at see everybody pull out. They're going to definitely notice me. I what is your fiancee. Think about you putting your. She would be so mad. But here's my little thing before the wedding before I get settled down into a family to finally do it. I got a decent size vehicles jacked. Up like Steve's our executive producer but it's I have a bigger vehicle so I think this is the time to get the set on the very back of it and what and your reasoning is. You think people think that you are blank more. Be a bad day. Hey Hey you I'm telling you I don't think it's a good look. I think when guys start a show off are mainly they are? It makes them look less. Manly Amy your your final thought on this now. Awful disgusting gross ill. Can we talk to your fiance about this tomorrow? There's no way don't don't prompt or don't tell them what to say. No I trust me. If she gets on her she'll probably tell you exactly how she feels about it. Okay tomorrow like talk to your fiance. About your truck testicles. Okay so Gross. All right thank you guys for you. By the way call are are what are we? What are line. Called Our voicemail. Line call our line and tell us what you think about this eight seven seven. Seventy seven bobby. That's our phone number. Eight seven seven seventy seven bobby bass pro hat on right now and we'll think about the. I think it looks cool. I like it thirty of them. If you all one okay yeah hook it up I will. I was talking to the CEO. Bass pro he was like. Hey I want it because I was talking about him on the TV show. We're talking about it on the radio. Show let's talk on the phone so we talked and I said Hey. I need to Rodney Hills. Because we're going to go fishing out by the House and my girlfriend is never pole. And I don't have a whole the works and so they sent me a couple couple bowls so pretty excited that so we're GONNA go out and into lakes around here that we can just drive up to probably won't catch anything perch Jerky Halen your mission skills while Eddie. Y You eleven. Oh I jerk and we're going to do. I'm sure there's a couple of streams out there with a couple allow large mouths waiting for you now for us. Maybe go to listen. I could probably call Luke Bryan. I sure bone and he would let me come down to one of his pants. Probably but we just probably just get some some chicken livers or worms and do a little purchaser Dirksen. Yeah fernch Turkey and I'm GonNa tell my kids that now next time we go fishing when it doesn't matter because you're going to do in the you don't eat perch did we didn't see just back but anyway yeah big shot. Bass pro. Who who hooked it up a fight travis dinning in this hat though you kind of look like a good show today. I'm glad everybody was hanging out with us. We really really appreciate it Morgan. If they go to the PODCAST. What will they hear on the show? Today Steven Curtis Chapman was on the show talking about his new song and his hair styles over the years. I I talked about that. We talked about the celebrities that were super cool for him to meet our just big steven. Curtis Chapman fans still am but was as a kid a lot. What else you got over. There has an update on someone wanting to buy her house on yesterday's podcast. Amy Brings Out of the blue. Somebody made offer on my house. It's never even been in it and then today. My house is not for sale. That's the big story today. She dropped a modest to. That's up on the podcast today. What else someone on. The show wants to put something real weird on their car that we just did that. Segment of our ago in my mind is still blown by that Anything else yan listener. Wendy called in asking for advice on possibly asking her delivery driver. Okay there you go. That was in the mail bag. Appreciate all you guys for hanging out so much to here. By the way you can go to bobby. Bones DOT DOT COM and check out the pandemic bone Z's of categories at their feet vote in including best binge-watch of Corona. Amy Anything today. Probably looking for a new. Don't spoil. Maybe maybe not looking for house. I don't know just were on the home stretch of school so get through that. This is our second to last week. And then that's it for me. What about you? I have a zoom call with a production company that thinks my easy. Super Easy Trivia. They WANNA make it a TV show. 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Parenting: How to Take Back the Lead (Hour 1)

The Dave Ramsey Show

39:56 min | 2 years ago

Parenting: How to Take Back the Lead (Hour 1)

"The. Headquarters of Ramsey solutions. Broadcasting from the dollar car rental studios. It's Dave Ramsey show. Where dad is dumb cash is king and the paid off home mortgage has taken the place of the BMW as the status symbol of choice. The phone number. If you wanna talk about your life and your money is triple eight eight to five five two two five that's triple eight eight to five five two two five. Now, if you've been listening to the show for while or you've watched some of the YouTube videos or something else, you know, that we teach a process called the baby steps, and we teach you that. You must sacrifice to win. There is no shortcut to winning. You're gonna live like no one else. It's going to be a pain in the butt. You're going to live on beans, and rice, rice and beans. You're gonna drive a junkie car show that you can live and give like no one else you're going to sacrifice so that you can enjoy. And so that you can be generous. And so that you can have financial peace to the don't go together like airline service. And so you're going to sacrifice to win. You're going to give up some things to get some things you're going to pay a price either. Now, or if you don't pay a price now, and you stay in the mess. You're gonna pay a price for the rest of your life called financial mediocrity. Financial? Mess problems, but to clean it up and be done and build wealth is what we want you to do. And we teach you that. There's three things you do with money. You save invested you give it and you enjoy it. But when you're in the first three baby steps, we don't really care much about your enjoyment. Buron beans, and rice, rice and beans. You're not on vacation. You're not gonna see the inside of a restaurant unless you're working there. You've heard the routine, right? You've heard me say this over it's what Sharon an idea. It's what millions of other people have done in order to get free and get to the point that your baby steps are done your first three baby steps done, you're out outta debt. And you have your emergency fund in place. Then is when you start to enjoy a little bit more you buy a little better car with cash by a couch with cash, you can go on vacation, the end you. You know, you start putting your fifteen percent away for retirement baby steps four five and six at the same time. You guys know how this works. You live like no one else. So that later you can live like no one else. And when you get to step seven, I mean, you are. I mean, you are really in that mode at that point. So here's what we're going to undo something. We've never done. This is a little risky, but I'm excited about it. It's kind of fun. We're going to go on a cruise. You go on a cruise. Let's go on cruise Scott. We're announcing today the live like no one else. Cruise. Poem. Now, you need to be on by four. We're not gonna come check. We're not going to ask you for a budget. We're just gonna trust you on your honor. But you need to be on babysat form beyond if you're in baby steps one through three. This is just you get to go on the next one. Okay. You can't go on this one. That's it. Okay. So the live like no one else cruise is going to be March of twenty twenty one year from now, it is an tell you share not been on auto know a bunch of cruises over the years twenty five or thirty. I'm over the years. We've been on every line. I think and so we know the junky ones, we know the cheese e ones, and I ain't going on one of the junky cheesy ones. They brought me one of those. And I went new not doing that. Dave ain't going on that I'm living like no one else to shut up. So this is on a brand new ship with Holland America, which is one of the top most luxurious lines. This is so it's going to be amazing you guys now we're going we're gonna go out of Fort Lauderdale. We're gonna drop by the Bahamas and down a Turkson Keiko's all the water so blue there. Yeah. Then Puerto Rico than to Saint Thomas all the Ramsey personalities will be on the cruise. And called up a couple of friends. So this is gonna be lights out. Jeff foxworthy is going to get weathers. Yeah. That'll be fun. Just one of the funniest humans on the planet. You won't want to miss that. And Steven Curtis Chapman, Grammy award winning Christian music icon is going to go with us, and I can't pronounce the nets name minute Chon or Sean show something like that. She is on the food channel. She's a James beard award winning chef she's a an absolute icon in the foodie world, and she'll be doing demonstrations and stuff there on the ship with us. And again, it's it's Rachel Cruze. Chris HOGAN, Ken Coleman, Christy Wright, Anthony O'Neill, we're going to have some of the Nashville songwriters with us. Of course. My pastor Darrin Whitehead's gonna be there. He's gonna do devotional in the mornings, and this is gonna be lights out incredible. Lights out incredible seven day cruise the live like no one else. Cruise March of twenty twenty just go to daveramsey dot com. You can go to Ramsey cruise dot com. Either one and you'll be able to hang out. And celebrate the fact that you're now reaching the point that you're living like no one else. Now, again, we're not gonna check and see if you paid for this for with a credit card, but let me just tell you. I'm going call you stupid up front if you do that. Okay. We're not going to check and see if you're out of debt and in baby steps four five six seven before you go on this. But that's really where you should be. This is not this is not something. I'm not trying to get people who are in the first three baby steps, I'm not trying to get your money. But I'm trying to give the rest of you that have done that have paid a price to win on opportunity a place to celebrate. And you know, we're going to be doing seminars events and everything else. There's only two hundred fifty dollar deposit required a book, so you can book and hold you a room right now. Two year out go to Ramsey cruise dot com. We're going to have you know, obviously foxworthy you'll be doing events. Obviously Steven Curtis Chapman to be doing vents. But the Ramsey personalities will be doing seminars forums or QNA's and content. It's not going to be like all day you're sitting in on a boat in the room doing a seminar. Now, we're going to enjoy these wonderful Caribbean islands. We're going to enjoy this process and his world class food, and these cooking demonstrations and everything else, and and you know, and then we'll do it on a van if you wanna, you know, hang out with us a little bit. We're going to be around this thing all week. So it's going to be absolutely incredible. So again, something we I mean, I I did one of these thirty people came on very first started a bazillion years ago that doesn't count this is really something. We'd never done because it's just it people feel like that. When you say Dave Ramsey, or you say financial peace that it's all about broke, cheap people and broke and cheap for a little while. So that later, you're not broken sheep. That's the whole point. You're gonna live like no one else. So later, you can live and give like no one else. And it's going to be epic. This is gonna be incredible. So again, the live like no one else. Cruise March twenty twenty all the Ramsey personalities, Chris HOGAN, Rachel Cruze, Christy. Wright, Anthony O'Neill Ken Coleman me Steven Curtis Chapman. Jeff foxworthy epic epic two hundred and fifty dollar deposit or get your room held. I don't think this will last very long at all. Based on our marketing research, we think that this will be sold out. They read you don't get a lineup like this hardly anywhere. Holland america. It's very cool Ramsey cruise dot com or always you can go to daveramsey dot com. Find out what's going on. But Ramsey cruise dot com land you right in the middle of this. And you can start to look at the details. Started talk to your spouse about it and decide if this is a way you want to celebrate we want to give you a place to celebrate. With us. We're proud of you. We're proud of you. And we wanna say touchdown right in front of you. This is the Dave Ramsey show. I get asked all the time. Do I need life insurance? Listen, the point of life insurance is to replace your income for someone who counts on it. So if you have a spouse, if you have kids, yes, you need term life insurance and the best place, I know to get it is Zander dot com. Zander insurance where I get all my insurance. And it's where I've been sending my listeners for over twenty years. You can get a quote in a matter of seconds. It's not expensive. It's not complicated. And you need to do this now Zander dot com. Warning. I was in a meeting going over the content and the workbooks and all of the marketing pieces and all the presentation pieces of this new event. We've caught got that. Madonna MC maker and Anthony O'neil or doing called smart parent. And I it's two of the leading parenting experts in America, Anthony, O'Neill and is a teenage expert speaks to more teenagers than anybody else on the planet right now, Dr Meg meeker, of course, America's mom, one of our best friends around here, we love doctor. Meg they're doing two of these events in Minneapolis and in Sacramento may fourteenth and may twenty first and we thought we get Documenta gonna talk about a little bit. How are you? Meg I'm doing well. How are you? Dave better than I deserve. Hey, I just tweeted one of those dad moment videos that you did you see it yet? I haven't pull open your Twitter. I'll try to Email it to you later. It's a military guy kid. Is recognizing that his dad is they're just completely breaks down. It's wonderful wonderful your heart, doesn't it? Always do. They always do. I know you of collect those because it reminds us the importance of dad's right that you bet. So what are you an Anthony going to be covering at the smart parent event? I'm sure that's one of the items. You know, I'm so excited. Dave because you know, we really came up with a smart parents event because we wanted to help parents understand what their kids are going through. And I think that's what Anthony is going to do sort of say, this is what your kids are telling me, this is what they're struggling with. And then I'm going to be there to say, okay, parents here's how you help your kids. Navigate a lot of pressures, a tough culture, you know, here. The pressures Jere facing here the pressures they're facing. And here's what you can do to really help get your kids on track and one of things, and you know, this because I've talked with you about this a lot day. Is it parents are doing? Much better job than they think. I mean, they're closer to doing a a really great job. And a lot of parents don't know that. So I'm really excited for these events are gonna be amazing again, I went through the content that you're going to be covering Anthony. He's going to be covering the workbook review in the little layout. And how you guys are doing the minute by minute on the event this morning with with allow Vince team in the content team. And it's it's spectacular. Meg. I mean, this is this is a watershed event. It's called smart parent, folks. And it's gonna be Anthony O'neil and Ramsey personality anthem they and of course, Dr Meg meeker one of our best friends around here in one of the top speakers and teachers communicators riders on parenting in the nation today. The Minneapolis event will be may the fourteenth and the Sacramento will be made the twenty first and get your seats. Of course at daveramsey dot com or Anthony O'Neill dot com. Either one, and it's it's pretty amazing. You know, one of the things I noticed in. They're not. Only in your stuff. Not only do you say that you're doing better than you think you are. But you are intentionally speaking to moms and dads to take charge. You want to you want to speak courage to them to take charge to not let the inmates run the asylum. I love the way you phrasing. You're absolutely right. And you know, we've given kids sort of this power. We make them to center of our worlds. I mean, look what's happening, and you know, the Hollywood, and the, you know, the paying off of you know, coaches and coaches and colleges to get their, you know, their lovely perfect precious. You know, kid, and and and what happens is it's need understand. You know, we run the home. Are we need to teach our kids how to follow our lead? We need to teach them how to be good people live with integrity Pia, disciplined person and understand that self control and discipline and virtues are what really make a person successful in all areas of life relationships work, you know, sports any extra curricular activities. So it really is about teaching parents. What you've got to be in charge. You gotta set the boundaries and life is so much more fun in the home that way, it is an snow some kind of a Thawra -tarian, toxic harshness or something. That's not the issue. I mean used to spend an abnormal amount of time. It felt like convincing my kids that everything were discussing all of these boundaries have absolutely nothing to do with me there because I love you, exactly. And you're going to do this because I'm bigger than you. I love you. And it's what's best for you. And we're going to start with dad control and over time with critical thinking skills, we're going to teach you self control. Yes. Exactly. And that's really what our job is parents stored up to impose control on kids when they're younger. So they understand this is what it's like to live with rules and boundaries. And then as they get older we begin to transfer some of that response. Ability to them. So they begin to to to take on self discipline and self control. So that when the ready to leave home these kids who really know how to control their behavior how to excel. And if we live sort of doing things for all our kids all the time in letting them, do whatever they wanna do we really set them up for failure. And I see this with kids all the time. And so really I'm going to go out there and equip parents and say, look you can do this. Here's how you discipline your kids and discipline isn't bad horrible word. You know, like you were talking about it doesn't mean we're gonna crack down on our kids. That'd be made. It really is about teaching kids how to live life. Well, and you have to be a strong parent in this day and age to parent. Well, you know, great parenting is not for wimps, particularly in a culture that's trying to take our kids down. I'm with all the. The media and the screens and cellphones, and that kind of thing, and so any parent can do it any parent can take charge of their home and really helped launch the kids in in a good direction. Fifty. If you watched television, you saw children who are respectful of fathers and mothers. And today the star of all the shows is a smart Aleck outta control kid that in my house would have had major problems. Yeah. Diplomats stated, but yeah, I mean, he experienced pain had run his mouth like that me. What really is an kids when they're allowed to behave that way are miserable. And I get I can't tell you how many letters questions I get from parents saying my kids are doing this. My kids are doing this. They're telling me, they hate me. They're writing on the walls. They wish I weren't here. They wish I were dead. What am I going to do? And I say what you know. What are you gonna do? Yeah. And I wanna give her a cellphone for her thirteen th birthday because I want to encourage inspire her. I said what you know. So parents. Healing stupidity away. And you can't exactly and I think a lot of kids are running ripped shot over their parents and carrots are miserable. And they are miserable to so parents need to take back the lead. And that's what I really hope to to teach them to do and encourage them to do in these conferences, you know, in an effort to love our children well into nurture them. Well, as a culture, we have moved over the line too many in too many cases to where we made that made the culture so kids Centric that when they get out in the real world, and they take their first job and somebody tells them, it's not all about them. Oh, yeah. They're shocked. It's the first time I've ever heard that they think the access of the world runs through their little head. Exactly, you know, one of college admissions officer was telling me one time, they often have difficulty because kids come come to college, and they have to live with a roommate, and they're not used to living with another person they have their own room and do whatever. They wanted. She said, it's really very difficult even in a small thing like that to get kids to understand you need to share you need to think about other people, and we really it really from a biblical standpoint side dollar tree when we make our kids, you know, the the center of the home, and we only think about them and everything we do is cater to them. You know, we're miserable. And it really is wrong. Because we absolutely one hundred percents set our kids up for failure. Because we teach them Dr meagher's may fourteenth may twenty-first with Anthony O'Neill smart era is the Minneapolis and Sacramento, check it out at daveramsey dot com talk to you. Thanks for hanging out. Thank you. This is the Dave Ramsey show. Joining us America. Chris is in San Antonio. Welcome to the Dave Ramsey show. Chris. Hi. How can I help today, sir? Here to talk about my money in life. Okay. Good. Ask I. I have a primary residence which I live in. And I owe about one seventeen on that primary residence. And I have a second rental residents of rental property to have in Austin, Texas that Al about seventy seven thousand on. And my question is I'm currently baby step two question is not rental property has ten in it in their contract ends in August of next year. So my question is should I feel that property in Austin to get all my well, not all of them. I guess out through baby step four or three least. And so I can do the get higher in the baby steps, basically. Yeah. Gotcha. So what is the property and often worth? Well last year the Travis county a plays. What's three hundred five? What do you think is really tax appraisals are not actual value? What do you think it's really worth? You know, I I'm thinking it's three twenty five to three fifty. I'm guessing you're okay. All right. And I you know, I I kind of equity in that whole I've had it for about twenty years now. But where I'm currently living. I been here. Well, I I've lived I moved here because of the job and be kind of the real trick worked with kind of suggested that we keep the properties rental property. And I'm looking back. I'm glad I did. Because that that top is worth money that will be actually paid for it. I sure that. Now, you know, I'm going to sell that you have two hundred and fifty thousand dollars cash plus or minus lane in the middle your kitchen table, right? Right. Okay. And how much debt do you have not counting your home the proximity about eleven thousand dollars? Yes. Okay. So you could pay off your home. Yes. That's the idea is that pay the rental property pay off my home. And if you sold the rental property, you'd be one hundred percent debt free, you'd have your fun and you'd have money to invest. Yes. Okay. So here's the way, you can ask yourself the question. It's thinking it's a critical thinking exercise that I use all the time for myself and for others. Okay. Let's pretend you did not on the rental property, and you had two hundred and fifty thousand dollars cash piled in the middle of your kitchen table. Would you go by that rental property, or would you do the other things we are talking about definitely do the things that you, and I talked about than that tells you you should sell the rental property. Okay. So what happened is you ended up in this rental property by default? Mu didn't set out to say I'm going to own rental property in Austin while I live in San Antonio, it just kinda happened because you move from there. It was your former home it's turned out to be a blessing because it's gone up in value. And it's probably gonna continue to go up in value Austin's, a wonderful market. But that's not the point the point is your life, and what is best for your life. And if I'm in your shoes, I'm selling it for the same reasons you thought you would sell it to be one hundred percent debt free. And then I'm going to start saving cash above my normal investing to buy and pay cash for a rental there in San Antonio. If you want rentals if you wanna own real estate later, but that would be three to five years out from now. And in the meantime, you're how old are forty nine and you have zero debt no house. So one other one other I guess question, David. So there's a tenant in my office and home that's their through August of next year. So we have a contract with his tenant. So I'm not sure I guess part of the question is should we let that tenant, you know, fulfill the contract term of the contract, and then so or any 'cause I get people calling me all the time that they'll buy property from now with without a tenant. Bye bye. With a tenant. The tennis. The contract has to be honored. Technically speaking, right? Okay. You can't break it and a buyer can't break the lease unless the lease has a clause in it that allows you to break it now. Sometimes you can offer a tenant five grand, and they'll move. Yeah. You know, like, let's put it on the market. And you help me get it sold because you make it available, and you keep it clean, and you're gonna make a little money baby. If that happens, and and I'm paying you to break the lease as amounts to and they they would have to agree to that. You can't force them to do that morally or lead or legally, but you're saying August of twenty twenty or August of nineteen obvious the twenty twenty you had a long leash. It was a two year lease. That's unusual. Okay. And you left yourself. No outs in that lease whatsoever. Well, we we have now there's no there's thinking an out we have a we have a we have a real estate agent that watches the property for. And he is a great job for a stand. I mean, obviously, he gets tired of the I that doesn't matter all the matters contracts. Right in this contract gives you your legal Andrew moral obligation because it was your handshake in your word in your integrity. Plus, it's. It's actually the word contracts. But if the contract does not say you can't sell the house. It says you can't force them to move, right? Another. Another buyer can buy the house in collect the rent. But I would go to the tenant. If you wanna go ahead and move make a move on it and say, well, you know, if you'll help me get it sold one of two things could happen. You could stay in work with the new buyer or. Or I will pay you a fee to break the lease and negotiate that if you would consider doing that. And most of the time someone who's a tenant if you offer them two or three four thousand dollars. That's a lot of money. Right. And it's become a really good deal for them. But that's not up front. That's a pawn the sale upon the closing. And when they move out you'll give them their deposit back along as they leave it clean, just like, you agreed to and you'll give them an extra fee for breaking the lace, you can negotiate that with them if you want to and that's perfectly moral and perfectly legal. But you can't just say you have to move because that's not only the word you gave. But it's also the other. But if you had a buyer this wants to be a landlord until August of twenty twenty the problem solve there. So I'm going to begin the process, though, one way or the other mobile discussion with a real estate agent to get on the market with some potential buyers. And I'm going to begin a discussion with the tenant and say, you know, under what circumstances? Would you feel good about letting us by you out of the lease? And what kind of what kind of dollars? We'll be talking about in your mind. And just have you know, treat them like you'd want to be treated kindly firmly up front. Everything's going to be the truth. And so here's the deal. I'm selling the house. And either the new buyer is going to honor the lease or you can make some money by being willing to move because the new buyer might wanna live in the house, and it's up to you. You know, that's how your discussion goes with the tenant. But I'm definitely on the south. Hey, thanks for the call Yelena is with us in Spokane. Hi yelena. How are you? Hi, dave. Thank you. Thank you. My call. Sure, what's up? I was wondering I'm pretty to go into real estate few, and we are currently with two little babies, and we are and under sixteen thousand dollars that coming from twenty three thousand eight months paid off around eight grand. I just wanted to get your help to kind of pay off our debt. I can't go into the real estate field and. I'm not that kind of have a newborn that's two months old and. Talking about going into real estate if you were debt free today. When would you start? Right away. I mean on a shot work right away with a newborn. I would because I have family that could help out. Okay. And so what does your husband like what your husband make a year? Right now, I think it's around forty thousand you've got sixteen thousand dollars. So what we've got to sit down and say, what can we do to create extra income and tighten our budget in order to get the debt cleaned up as much as possible. So that I can talk about moving into the real estate field. And if you're willing to go to work today, and and have family watch the baby while you go into real estate, you could be willing to go to work to make some money to get it paid off. It's the same thing. So you could work it's up to you. But that makes it go faster. More money comes in after we get out of debt. This is that I've Ramsey show. Canada is on the line. Andrea is calling high under. How are you? Hello, sir. I'm good. Thank you. How can I help? So my husband, and I have about fifty thousand dollars of debt in line of credit and visas, and what is hindering us in paying any of that back is we foolishly have to brand new vehicle or just wanna know what my plan of attack is to get this debt paid off which your household. Shoulder ninety seven thousand on the car. The truck we owe thirty six thousand one hundred eighty seven it's financed. The traverse is a lease. It's a brand new about six months which via girl car when you got. I actually don't know what the sticker of the traverse was. Fifty thousand plinking should have eighty six thousand dollars worth of car debt, basically. Yeah. And you make ninety seven. Yes. That's an issue. The fifty you knew that, right? And the fifty two thousand is what kind of debt you said credit cards, so that it's student line of credit and a visa. Three of the four line of credit than one is visa. Okay. Here's the math facts for us. Right. The largest things that you and I by pricewise that go down in value. Our cars. Cars lose sixty to seventy percent of their value in the first four years. That you own them when you buy a new car, you know, it's thirty thousand bucks. It's gonna be worth ten thousand bucks. Four years. Okay. And since it's the largest thing that is going the wrong way. Mathematically, it is the biggest theft or one of the biggest thieves of our wealth building because it's going down in value and add that if we finance it show, even if you paid cash for cars and had no doubt on them. You would not want to have too much tied up in cars because they go down in value. Now, what is too much too much as a ratio? Okay. It's a ratio of your income, which is your wealth building to when your case ninety seven thousand to the cars. So we figured out and run numbers on is if you have vehicles paid for or not and this is anything with an engine. It added together. Cars trucks, motorcycles, see dues boats. Lawn mowers tractors whatever added together, they all go down in value. You if I all added together, equal more than half, your annual income, you have too much tied up and things that are going the wrong way for you to succeed. Mathematically and wealth-building is that logical to you. Absolutely. Okay. And so that's where you are not only not only debt choking you to death. But you have eighty six thousand dollars in cars, and you should have no more than about forty five thousand dollars in cars. Hey, so my dad has two vehicles that are both twenty thirteen in good conditions that he is willing to sell us. So they'll be used vehicles. They're good enough. What is my plan for? He would sell it to us for probably fifteen a piece that's thirty thousand dollars. That's a move down. Not really enough of a move down, given given the mess that you've got put in two or three thousand dollar cars. Okay. Each until you get your mess cleaned up. And then if you wanna move up in car with cash, that's fine. But you don't have thirty thousand dollars. And so, you know, you can't you gotta stop borrowing money to buy cars, and you gotta stop buying vehicles that total more than half your annual income. And that's not a Dave thing. That's a math thing. Right. And so if I were in your shoes, how answer questions on the show, I'm gonna use that set of material that set of content you, and I just talked about that set of facts that we just talked about in order to make my decision if I'm in your shoes. And that means I'm selling both of these cars and as soon as possible, and I'm getting two three thousand dollar cars that I pay cash for and then I'm going to get out of debt, and then I'm gonna build my -mergency fund. And then I'm gonna pay cash to move up in cars, but that is all going to take you three years. Okay. That's what you know. If you run the math out how quick and you pay fifty two making ninety seven if you don't have these cars, right? A year and a half. And then you've got to build up your emergency fund. And then you gotta save up to move up in cars. So you're you're driving Junkers for between two and three years hoop dis in order to get your life back. Yeah. Because think about it if you know payments at all except a house payment. Wow. Completely different place. Your chest. Your chest is in his tight your stomach's not in your throat. You're back doesn't hurt. Your neck isn't stiff when you go to bed and all of those things happen because of the amount of debt. You guys have right now. This is just not fun. It's a bad pleasure. And I'm sorry. But that's exactly what I would do you're in a very radically bad situation. And so the the the prescription the prescription or the antidote is radical. Because when you move from eighty six thousand dollars cars to six thousand dollars in cars. Your friends or your parents think you've lost your freaking mind. But here's when you lost your mind when you bought these things. So this is what I call this is. But it really is a radical miss, and so it's going to require a radical solution to the problem. So now, here's what's interesting. As we think about that. I was with a guy that they don't like me. And I'm like argue, how do I know? I don't like you. How do you know? I don't like you. I don't know remember meeting you. He said, well, I'm a new car dealer. I'm not mad at new car dealers about two new cars last year. I don't tell you not to buy a new car after you've got a net worth of a million dollars or more. You can buy no car if you want but pay cash for it. And it needs to be the total of all your vehicles equals less than half your annual income. And so I mean just think that through okay. And so or you know, it needs to be small percentage of your net worth. Okay. I've got a friend of mine that just bought a four hundred twenty five thousand dollar car. Now, I'm from any Tennessee that Belo's my freaking mind. I can't get my head around that. Okay. But he's worth a billion dollars. He's a billionaire. Okay. So let me give you the ratios a billionaire buying four hundred twenty five thousand dollar car is like a millionaire buying a four hundred and twenty five dollar car. So he could he could buy one a week. And it probably wouldn't affect him. Mathematically now, I understand emotionally. And some of you think you have to be poor spiritually, and it's hard for most of us to get our head around a car like that I can sympathize with that I'm that guy too. But when I understand that's the ratios. I remember a few years ago. There's a big stink. Tiger Woods bought a house. That would like, I don't know. There's like one hundred seventy million dollars or something that year he made a billion dollar income. Okay. And when you back out the numbers, it's like, you know, somebody making a hundred thousand dollars buying a seventeen thousand dollar house. It's you know, it's. It's about ratios because it is there room left for you to Waigel is the room left for you to be generous is there room left for you to be. In my friend who bought the four hundred twenty five thousand dollar car is worth a billion dollars gives away hundreds of millions of dollars a year. Hundreds of millions is income is ridiculous. And so, you know, and yet he'll get criticized for having this car. But for him. It's like most of us buying a biscuit. You know, it doesn't show up. So that's what you want. You want your car? I mean, if you want to a zero turn John Deere tractor to mow your grass with twelve thousand dollars. I'm okay with that. As long as you don't have twelve thousand dollars. Your name. One hundred percent of your net worth is in zero turn cracker, which would make you stupid. Okay. But if you've got two million dollars, and you wanna nice John Deere tractor drive around your yard with get you on. But pay cash for it and make sure it's a small percentage of your world. That's how you look at this stuff keeps you spiritually on balancing financially on balance and generously on balance. Hey, it's Kelly associate producer in both writer for the Dave Ramsey show. If you would like to your debt free scream live on the show. Make sure you Bizet daveramsey dot com slash show, it registered we would love for you to come to Nashville. Tell your story. Money isn't the only thing we talk about around here. Get life changing it by on your career for my good friend and career expert in Kalman. Oh my Ken Coleman show. Seventy percent of Americans are going to work every Monday, and they don't want to be there. But for a myriad of reasons, they feel they have to be there that is our crusade. Subscribe to the Ken Coleman show wherever you listen to podcasts. 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NTP Ep. 15 - Are you ready to take a risk? Listen to this.

Made For This with Jennie Allen

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NTP Ep. 15 - Are you ready to take a risk? Listen to this.

"This is jimmy allen and you are listening to the made for this podcast thanks to hellofresh for made for this go to hellofresh dot com slash made for this fourteen and use code. May for this fourteen for up to fourteen. Free meals plus free shipping today. We are talking about passivity. We're in the middle of a season called nothing to prove. And if you don't know. I wrote a book many years ago. Actually just like four or five years ago about living without striving and trusting god to move on our behalf and rusting into what he wants us to do and all of that is so needed as re enter the world right now. It's why we're doing the season but if you don't have the book you can go get it on amazon. It's called nothing to prove. And i really encourage you to read it because it is really life message for me. It was one of those messages. That i needed at that point in my life in very deep way because i had unfortunately spent most of my life striving and i can tell you on the other side of this. That is not my struggle anymore. I got new struggles all but that is not one of them. I really think god likes me. I think he really likes me. And i think he is for me and i think he is with me and and it's a whole new way to experience. God it is so freeing is suffering and you see that throughout the gospels. You see it throughout the bible but you really see it throughout the gospels. When jesus came and he said i am the way the truth and the life and nobody gets to the father but through me and he says i am the image of the invisible god. This is a new picture of god on earth at this point when jesus comes now that's not to say that the god of the old is not the same guide but jesus was the fulfillment of the law and he made away that we don't have to strive anymore. You see a theme building in the old testament of striving and a law that we can never measure up to and then jesus comes on the scene and he says i am going to make away. I am going to be though way for you to have life and peace in a home forever with me to be adopted as members into my family. Not just somebody doing something for me on earth trying to hit a unreachable goal. Because you see that through tuscon. It's an unreachable goal and yet jesus said hey. I'll reach it for you all meet the mark for you and so we don't have to measure up and that's the thing i think we miss with religion and and jesus and church. I think we think we have to hit a mark. And it's the freedom that comes from enjoying the grace of god and the goodness of god that causes us to want to repent. You know it's his kindness. That leads to repentance. Is his love that makes us want to love other people. It's his forgiveness that makes us wonder forgive other people. And we've strong arm this thing into a religion that is works based and glazing says that is another gospel altogether so this matters. We've got to understand that. We have a god who has knit us into his family. Who loves us as children. Because of the blood and sacrifice of jesus and who is giving us the spirit to empower equip us and cause us to actually accomplish the works that he prepared in advance for us to do all of this scripture. Every single thing. I just said is all but a quote from scripture. If you don't know. And so i'm not making this stuff up guys. It is that good and it is yes. It feels too good to be true but it's true. This is our faith. This is our god. We didn't have to measure up. He measured up for us story of god. But today we're talking about passivity and how we will shut down. And how we self protect. And i want to read to you actually out of the book here moving into unknowns and uncomfortable places stretches us and it gives us more of god our hearts naturally move to self protection and away from risk filled leadership in obedience although deepen our souls. We crave adventure somewhere on the way toward adulthood. We stifled that craving with religion preferring known expectations and controlled predictable outcomes. We created safe lives where our biggest goal is to measure up and be accepted and be enough guys. That's not living. That's not faith. That's not what god's asking you to do for some of you. This is brand new information to you. And i cannot wait for you to read more of the bible to read gospel. Start with the gospel of john. Just read it. Who is jesus. What did he say. What did he do. Why did he do it. You're gonna read so many points where he tells his disciples. This is why i'm doing what i'm doing. This is what it's for and is for your thriving is for your freedom. Matthew nineteen twenty six says but jesus looked at them and said with man. This is impossible but with god all things are possible he actually does this radical thing for us. He invites us into his family. He sins jesus to die for our sins so we can be made right with him. He had to pay the penalty of sin and he does it and then he makes us right with him then he issues us the holy spirit as i said for what adventure there are purposes that that are beyond what you can imagine. We talked about that last week. And i'm gonna tell you one of the things that is the prerequisite to experiencing this into your life is risk. You have to be a person that will risk. And the reason i say that is god is a god of risk taking. He causes us in our relationship with him in our adventure with him to take risks. He calls us to it again and again and again and some of you are listening to that. And you're going. That sounds like humans that doesn't sound like god. Y'all if you have not seen the bible and read it all. It's all he does. I mean starting. With abraham he's like coming into the wilderness. I'll take you to a land that i'll show you. This is not a comfortable thing. For abraham he leaves a place where he is comfortable and he goes into the wilderness. Same thing with moses. He has him go be a leader when he has a stutter and he feels like he can't do anything he hasn't go walk up to the king and say semi people free like he has a crazy. God that causes too crazy. Things that are risky. And you see it. In the new testament with the disciples again. If you have not watched the chosen. I love it so much. Please go watch it because then you have to stick with it. The first few episodes are a little bit slow. But you see what jesus does with his disciples. He's not afraid to let them squirm a little to be a little bit uncomfortable to watch hindu risky hard things. So much of discipleship is learning to risk. Nobody would even know about jesus anywhere on earth unless people took risks to tell them about. Jesus that's always a nerve racking thing you're going against the enemy in some countries like my friend the pastors in the middle east. You're going against the government and possibly risking your very existence so we definitely see throughout scripture and throughout even just history that the gospel has spread that the purpose of life is fully met that god has built for us when we are risking for the good of others and the glory of god. So what am i saying that you need to choose risk. I'm saying that there is probably a risky. Step of obedience. That god has called you to that will keep you from living a passive numb checked out life that you are ignoring. So what is it. What is that thing. That god has been whispering to you that god has been leading you toward that kind of not down at might be something super small in fact some of the scariest things done in life are the small things. It's not the big things like adoption. It's those things have been scary. But i've known there from god. And i jump more fully into those moments. It's the little things like having a conversation with somebody win the spirit prompts you. It's the rejection of a family member. Perhaps because you bring them truth and you love them unconditionally. When they've hurt you these are the things to me that are harder than actually the big things. But maybe it's a big thing. That god's been whispering to you nagging you toward and you've been ignoring him. What is that thing. What is that. Risk that god has called you to because matthew says it might be impossible for you but with god. All things are possible and walking with him. Is this great adventure. I think about steven curtis chapman his old song. Oh it's so good and this is the great adventure. Yeah i sing for you every once in a while guys. You're welcome steven. Curtis chapman like from the nineties. Here but that song. This is the great adventure. This is what is supposed to be like. In fact randomly that song. I had one of my friends listen to it in college. And that was what drew her to god. She actually had been running from god and she was like maybe a missing this adventure. That god's called me too and she came on mission with me at that point. She listened that song in it changed your life and the two of us ended up leading to christ. We ended up leading a bible study together in those years. We watch god do all kinds of amazing things around us that i would not trade for anything in my life. It was so scary. It was so uncomfortable. We were in a sortie house at university of arkansas but we watched so many of our friends start to follow god. Some of them had already been following god when they were younger but they'd walked away and they came back and i mean by the time we left college. It was a revival. There were hundreds of people following guide together worshiping. God gather it. Felt like for all of us. It felt god had just done something on campus that we couldn't explain but that we felt like we got to be a small part of because we were just doing our faithful thing and other people were doing their faithful thing and it was the biggest adventure. I mean. I remember my friend after college being like was that the highlight was that the the most god would ever do for us because it was so fun and rewarding and of course. She's helped me with if gathering. We've seen crazier things still and is because our god loves risk. He loved us risking in the story house. That was training for risk. We would cause and do later. She actually has a ministry called dwell. That's incredible you need to look it up. It is just this fun adventure that we're on together and we aren't passive people. We've watched god move when we were eighteen and were watching. God move in our forties. This is a life that god wants for all of us. And it is obedience surrender life that isn't passive that's full of risk small and big and as we do it he brings us deeper and deeper and deeper in relationship with him and into this adventure that he builds for each one of us. He prepares in advance the good works. We will do scripture tells us so. We know that there is a written script somewhere that we're living out if we follow him and you don't wanna miss it. That's the thing we don't want to miss it. Nine eleven my meal planning cooking and eating with hellofresh america's number one meal kit and they are offering you up to fourteen. Free meals plus free shipping. When you go to hellofresh dot com slash made for this fourteen and use code made for this fourteen every week. 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Hey i have risked before and it has not gotten well a couple things. one is bring community into. Don't ever risk alone. Do not risk in a vacuum guys bring people that love god and our spirit led and and live lives of risky obedience. You gotta find those people because the other people might tell you you're crazy so you've gotta find people that get obeying god on a level that that might be scary risky. Bring those people into your life and don't do it alone. Have people praying for you. Have people hearing what you're thinking. God saying because so often i will bring a dream to people love me and i'll get some wisdom that either changes the course or really makes me go. Is this from god. Or is this just my idea and i mean my team is hysterical. They you know people always ask me like you have a bunch of yes people around you. I'm like i barely have a yes person around me. All my team is like no. We're not doing that right now. And part of that is their wisdom. That god's given them a good time to execute new risk or new dream. And so. I really depend on the people in my life and my team's fantastic because they're not afraid to also say you know what that one will cost us but that just feels like it's from god and let's do it and they also will be those. Yes people when. I need them to be and when they even have to pay more and it costs them more because they have to work harder. So have people around you that that also listen to god that can give you wisdom and insight. The second thing is be a person of prayer like. Don't just get a sense so this might be it and then jump ask guide and continued ass. Gotten as you're afraid. Keep asking god right like this is a relationship where you get a prompting and you're like you know what i feel like maybe i should change jobs or i feel like maybe we should pursue this relationship with this organization that that needs help. Or you know you'll get a prompt and you'll be like is from god or not pray about it and then the third thing is just a line scripture make sure it is aligned with scripture and this is actually probably the first thing you should do so you don't even start visit is a non starter if it's not based on scripture but a lot of the things you all are dreaming about. Are you know part of scripture. It's a heart for people that need him or heart for people that need something physical or emotional and then some of you. It's it's taking a risky step of starting something or creating something. It's perhaps starting a relationship with a neighbor or somebody that might need god or maybe it's starting a little bible study in your house for people that need guide and all those things it's like core scripture says yes do the hat do that thing but then community and prayer and time can also help clarify that. But don't wait so long. Don't over think it. Some of you are over thinkers. I know you. I get i can be that way too. And sometimes you just gotta leap with what you know and trescott on the other side of it. In fact got usually how obedience is felt. I hope this is helpful. Gosh i love you guys go right now. Check out the book. It will cover so many things. I'm not covering right now. Are doing justice. So nothing to prove is on amazon or anywhere books are sold. Go grab it love you guys. I wanna make sure you knew about the free book club kit that we made for you. That walks you through the nothing to prove book and episodes that go along with each chapter. We even included some conversation questions for you to use maybe tuned by a neighbor. A friend of sister semtex today. Say hey i want to read through this book with you. I wanna talk about it. I want to go a little bit deeper. So by a copy of the book. Download the free pediatric engineers website. And do this this summer. 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Star Wars Jedi: Fallen Order

The Besties

37:06 min | 1 year ago

Star Wars Jedi: Fallen Order

"Saddle up regatta trailed ablaze. WHOA now? We'd spotify is GONNA have to pay for that money for. I'm sure they Steven Curtis Chapman entire catalog are we D- Are we moving bright past the copen. I felt like we had it. So this is the best east show but I feel like if we just keep pounding it forward. Russ the look of disgust on your face disgust. I'm just I'm flashing forward to the future or sixteen people at spotify listeners. And the like now we're just GONNA we'll find a way to tell the contact it's fine. ooh My name is Justin mcelroy and I used to be a Gamer. My name is Griffin mcelroy. I'm the original Nintendo man. My name is Chris Plante and I'm an October baby names. Ross wait you're an October baby to you. Yeah Tober babies October. Maybe number two right here. I think the idea okay. This is the best is it is extensively a show about video games this week. We're going to discuss a video game but I I need to talk about the very important news that decades-long Friends Russ and Chris plan did not know they shared a birth month. In hindsight now I remember. Yeah I one hundred percent new and I feel racks. It's Kinda coming back to me now now. Now thinking about October fifteenth. I WANNA say nine hundred nineteen now. What's fucked up as you're both wearing being these Torremolinos pendants to represent your stand and that you're not like that wasn't enough of a clue This week on the best as we are going to. You're talking about a new star wars game from respond It is a character action star. Wars Game I you think probably analogous to the closest kin would be a star wars. The force unleashed one into starring dares. Remember the name of the lead of that. Oh God dark Hiller. He had like a shaved art killer very handsome. Stark killer of course was the original last name of Luke skywalker anyway so this Janai fallen order. It is a game that I have not seen described anywhere without and mashing up other the other games that it is attempting to emulate. I will carry on this proud tradition. The by reducing the work of hundreds. It's it's convenient because now we four-game critics can say shit like it's the dark souls of Star Star Wars Games and in this case. Be Pretty justified. Gazette is one of the three sort of big Umbrellas they tried to put the game lender. It is blending and star wars and dark souls and uncharted In some of the like sort of traversable Dark souls I would say think more. Structurally I mean really the dark souls stuff really doesn't extend beyond Enemies respond when you check point and yeah well hard. It's also like the combat can be hard at times clarify fight up top that is far as blending goes it's probably around Terry crews blending Adam Sandler and Drew Barrymore. It's a mediocre blended. It's not a great blend of any of these things I would say. Let's get it. I WANNA save. The critical analysis says until we've established the let's worry Johnson so away it's takes place like five years after the original prequel. The the the the healthier the prequel trilogy of original Three Films Three not the original three felt. I think you could say I assocation using the prequels trilogy. Fires which June before so this would be between three and four closer to three. I believe before rogue one if that helps to time it out. So the empires like really getting their their claws into the galaxy. And it's all very bad add you are sort of a Djeddai in hiding named cow and you are entrusted with a mission to get together like a list of four sensitive humanoids I guess I or you know for for sensitive beings across the galaxy I haven't gotten a list yet so I don't know everybody dog. This is the end goal of the game. As as I understand it is to is to get this list for sensitive people basically start rebuilding the jet. I order which has fallen as list. It's like blues who's brothers essentially but for jet They're getting the band back together. Right action. Wise is you are getting like a lot of reversal There are like a lot of big scale fights That that that feel more like an unchartered game than a dark souls or something in that in that category and we clarify me say traverse like that uncharted south traverse Salaam. You are climbing up the sides of things and jumping between patches of Climate Bull Wall and you know walking on pipes that you can also drop down from and jumping from rope up to rope and Walmart like it. Felt more to me. Although I appreciate like uncharted does that a lot. You know what I'm reminded me of that Prince of Persia game from like ten years ago. We're just like all wall running like it's a little bit more fluid like that. Yeah it's a little bit more like free form and less like INSERT INSERT tabby into slot kind of deal. It's like the the titanfall I mean. It's respond made titanfall to that same level of mobility Force powers hours. You're not expected to look at anything wild. I think I just got in the last. What is just like it's just a force powers you'd expect you got your push? You got your poll you you got your slow. I haven't gotten lightning choke or any of the bad boy stuff yet. You know the bad powers that only the bad boys are allowed to have You know what if honestly if the light side Jed I wanNA start actually competing with the seth they need to get some kick ass powers that only they get because right now if I'm choosing using a team and I'm like they get lightning and choking what are you all get now like Robes like no thank you. I have a question force. Unleash the game that you compared the this to update you at some point have enough force power to down a star destroyer is. You're getting that game. The actor that game as memory serves and it's been a decade is very much about like waves of enemy like tattoo you take out like groups groups of big crowds of enemies using your force powers and okay so for me. The reason this is this is a a very competent effort. I would say it is very us. It's the best one of these. It's better than those force unleash games. I feel pretty like qualified just really fun and narrative narrative wise like I think making the unchargeable story wise. I The story wise. It's better it's an interesting story. The performances are actually really captured. I thought like some decent performances in the story. There's a a couple of Folks that travel along with you on your on your quest and they're and they're well rendered and well performed I think But the for me. I think it comes down to a couple of overarching problems. The more I played it I I was like this is all very competently done except for the parts that that wicked. Aren't there some technical stuff that is just wild. I don't want to get into but it's like some stuff where I had to set the controller down and let the environment virement rebuild around me because I there was no word again and it was like no loaded the jump program Matrix yes. There's a couple of places like that version version but okay so the problem is the reason I played it and like a lot of elements. I like dark souls. I like uncharted. Okay I like Star Wars likewise uh-huh clicking. It's also doing metro. Advani lights sort of stuck in a way like man from series might do does something with Metro. A metro rain is one of my favorite John. Rose like ever like I love those games and it does one thing that I've never really seen in a metro being a game that I thought was by which grasping by that is a game that gear gates eight content by not giving you all the items that you need gel exhibited metro it as an example or simply the night. If you've ever played that like you can't get past a wall because you don't have a bomb power or WWJ Allen Lee so take a short so in this usually like one of the mechanics in metro advantages is is that you you're lost and you just sort of stumble around until you find a place that you haven't been yet and in this they added. There's like a map you can see like a three d map and the map APP actually. has these like rainbow doors that show you. Hey this is a path you have not been to yet right. You should check this out as at just in terms of like knowing places ago I thought it was really smart just from a design Senate. It also does a thing which I it's funny. I don't know if you actually would get this with you. Being colorblind John. I don't know if you have a setting for your people but they have green doors. That mean you haven't been through them and that you have the ability that you need to go Through them Red Doors mean. You haven't gone through them but you don't have the ability yet so don't worry about it. Which is actually very helpful? Yeah I didn't check the settings to see if there was carbine settings but I did notice in combat two colors. Were a little bit of a problem for me So my problem with this this game I think one there are some There's some stuff that sort of a I don't know there's assault for and I and I think the first problem is this. I don't think that the souls Games which are very much about the Drudgery a pleasant drudgery of repetition and learning and learning patterns and like Grinding through those games you're basically like a reanimated corpse You know nothing person And that thematically makes a lot of sense I don't think the J- The jet Ir Star Wars Game. I'm where you're playing a jet. I is all about like fluidity and being like right and on point and like the most powerful thing in the room and it's not even close. I'M GONNA. I'm GonNa Devil's advocate a little bit. Even though I mostly agree with you I think in the story so you start out as a scrapper scrapper who is lying down star destroyers over a Sarawak pit because I guess that's how can you can you get on this one Osha. They're doing incredibly dangerous. Work over fucking Sarlak pit. y'All that's unnecessary. It's up to work and I think you could argue that the ideas of Oh you you haven't been much Jeddah in a long time you are still recalling your abilities And that's why why you have to fail and maybe there's like a nice ark between you. The character regaining their Jedi powers. And you learning how to like be a wizard in UNICEF game. I mean like if they were. I don't think they've quite deliver on that. I if they were delivering on that like that would be interesting right. But it's not designed signed for. I mean the I mean. The thing is is the first thing that I don't think works very well with souls. The idea that you would like traverses diversities repeatedly is actually not as designed like. It's not designed for that really like there's not an idea where you would like grind on experience on any of this to try to love. I love that is not part of it which is like kind of essential in the in the soles thing. Is this idea that you'd grind through an area to get the resources or levels or whatever we need. There's there's a knock skills that you can get by grinding out experience but I do not even getting enough like fighting the you get nothing from fighting these basic basic basic dudes and it's also not that fun to fight the individual guys but Momento but the other thing is the traversable traversable that this game has that sort of uncharted principal style. JERUSAL is not a good fit for the repetition of a soul structure. where it's it's like okay? God you climb something once and it's barely entertaining like I am not going to so I'm going to do it again. 'cause I died at the guy at the top of of it. I'm just going to Schlep my way over there with zero skill or anything. It's just like a mechanically going back up there and we killer in addition the fact that like the low time was way too long back when you come back to get through that Metro that that Metro Advani Gate. You're gonNA climb that again because there's there's no like fast travel between checkpoints on any of these maps which seems kind of counterintuitive. Yeah I the last thing I'll say at the moment to moment combat combat just feels off. I could just feels. There's like when you first get the lightsaber and people are shooting with blasters. And you're just pressing a button to deflect it it's like yes that's EXAC- they've got that loop right that's fun and if you deflect right before the bolt gets to you then you hit it back at them MM and kill them. That's fun But then when you get closer to care to actually fight them they have not figured out a fun. Combat Engagement Our Way to make that feel enjoyable especially when you are talking about like a big crowd of dudes like none of it. It just doesn't moment to moment work I have a I have a my big thing and justin sort of We were talking yesterday and sort of clued me into this. Who lives in these places? These places where the only way to navigate to like your house is the jump ten feet in the air to get there and then run across a wall like I feel like like the video game ass video game environments barrier there Mario levels effectively normal and I get like designed dictated how the levels needed to look but the problem is it just doesn't feel in the way that like coming off of like God of war though Ascott wargame these felt like a village that was taken over by like Weird Elf people and it it felt legit and here. This feels like oh no no. That's a video game video game. People live here because of the volume and it just sort of like I think I in the same way that just talks about the character and the jet. I not being a nice match for the souls idea eh or design paradigm. I think the Star Wars Universe isn't necessarily a good match for those worlds Because of the whole dark souls world idea is he's decrepit correct it kind of like nodded convoluted almost hell scape. And it's yeah people. Are Things live there but it also feels very intentionally worked Where the very first world you go to an escape is I know like craggy but also like swamp plans and buy crabs guilt by curves is weird? It doesn't look like much of anything. ANYTHING OTHER THAN A video game level in these like I kind of like a Gila monster a giant monster just sitting at one end of the map. I I don't really know why I I I was. I was really into the second stage where you actually see kind of houses but right again. It's trying to do you that that it. It's much more focused on the dark souls thing of okay you navigate a little further in the new openness shortcut and that makes your path back to your campfire. Earn this thing. It's like a meditation. Say Right a little bit easier In that the the architects of of this world. That's all he thought about was like how that really clever shortcuts. Can you please plumbing. It's just I feel like I honest to God feel like this would would've been a great if they had just done. Sort of the uncharted thing which we need to. Maybe I feel like the souls like descript or is like pretty codify this point point like when I say unchartered I mean like sort of Story focus cut scene focused Things with these action set pieces for example very early on in this game there is a train explosion segment and is like okay. Yep I see where you guys are going with this your Fr. I want Nathan Drake to just like fall out a window and fall past you in die. Hi and he'd be like what was that Guy This could have been. I feel like a really really. I'm not done with it like you know. Maybe it turns around it is I will say getting more fun than more powers I get which just to say like before I got pushed like it wasn't I wasn't really enjoying it but the the problem for me is like this idea of now? You have this new power you can go back to this other other world and run all the way to other traverses stuff. You've already done to get to the point where you can open this door and either. I don't know if the loot changes at some point but you can either find into a one third of an upgrade for your health or force or you can find a new fuckin- lightsaber sleeve. Like I got a New Cape. Yeah Oncho on hunches. Punches look terrible. It's I wish that I know they're very bad. Do not bag terrible Poncho so it is the the sole sort of game a structure. I feel like doesn't really work without us does randomly find a double bladed lightsaber neighbor at some point which completely changes the combat. That's one time you find it. It's actually really smart the way they've done it. It's better for crowd control. Yeah press right on the. It'll just pop the other blade out and then you're fighting with Israel but it also what I love about that. If they'd just on the I'm trying to think I feel like this game would be would be phenomenal one. Because they could. I think focus on making that stuff work a little bit better. I cannot tell you the number of times that I have just stepped down from a platform onto to a pipe and just like actually. The game decided that you didn't step onto the pipe. You went to the just the right of it and you did fall or K You try to jump to that rope fucking. DARTH rope in this game is like the deadliest enemy that CAL has like they get that stuff work a little bit better but like in terms of pretending to be a jet like there's some some cool shit like the reflecting tapers all of the animations for like your lightsaber maneuvers. Look really good and the double bladed. Lightsaber what I love about. It is the animations. Make look like you would actually use the AA delights which is just kind of like. He doesn't like flip it all around himself because it's too fucking lasers precare looking like he's doing like a dance routine with a cane just kind of like I I love it. That's so that stuff's really really good. Can I take us all the conspiracy theory corner just really. YEA please please. I do WANNA bring up the context in which this game was made So the publish remakes seen other people who make like Madden and mass mass effect or if they ever make another mass effect They they made this big contract with Lucasfilm to make more star wars games and they made the the. Ah The the multiplayer games which have not had great launches and then they had another single player game. That was going to be kind of. Open world. Uncharted that one got cancelled and there was this game and it seemed like hey this is going to be the big one Responded making it. They made titanfall titanfall to And it was. Those Games are wonderful. They have this game All set end in apex. Legends comes out. It's a humongous hit. Right after dedicate tons of resources versus to it and suddenly this seems like less of a priority and I while playing it I get the sense of like it just feels not prioritized again like that's the first level where there's just parts of it were. It's like there's no environment in this game I think that AH by the time out it but by the time apex had come out real quick like this game theoretically I mean that was in February. This game was gotta have been pretty. Well dialed in a sign of it. I'm talking about Polish of it. This is a game that feels like it did not have the extra money to it needed for some serious. Es TLC It's but it's super polished in some regards. I get super yes not at all. I here's here's here's what I'll say about the game. I am enjoying my time with it. Despite the like. It's it's like sort of structural flaws. I think that the core be Djeddai experienced. They've crafted raft is like one of my favorite You know second to like Jedi Knight Jedi Academy Today outcast to the Kyle Qatar in sort of a series of games. I'm really liking it like a lot when I sit down to play with it but I also have other like three games came out in the last few weeks and I am having a hard timing star wars. Be The be the one that I like prioritizing and spend my time yes A Lotta people really enjoy this game and I think that a lot of it has to do the fact that we haven't had a good representation of like being a jet video game for a long time and that intoxicating like if you get it and it's decent like it's it's not bad it's just like there's just a lot of weird compromises. I feel like that. Keep a bit from being something that's really A must a must experience. Yeah I think it's pretty good. It doesn't get the must best sticker Kerr that we're going to be done. Eighty eight out of ten stars. Let's move on. Yes let's take a quick break and then we'll come back and talk about more shower stuff. I'm not done talking about Star Wars. I love that crazy world with all the planets and the wars some of these aliens aliens guys. They look pretty wild We wanted We wanted to talk about some of our favorite treasures from the star. Wars universe Russ I've already guessed what yours is. Yeah I feel like the star. Wars Universe is so deep and so in depth. And I've read all the novels and all of the backstory so I know that the most interesting thing in the Star Wars Universe is J- is K.. Nj this is why are not come from ages or how does it Work Russ tell us now. So so You know in the Cantina seen the famous cantina scene in episode four where they walk in and Han Solo is there. I think of it as the jazz scene. But go on with Clunky so the music that they're playing thing in that Cantina scene is not maybe thought it was like futuristic jazz or something like that in fact according to George Lucas. It's called Jisr. That's the genre of music is called Ges and this is called jazz is what this kind of got Carson about this. Because I think it's really important win George. Lucas was asked. This was yes he did he did he give an interview around the time. The movie came out or or more importantly was this like his final day before the Disney merger like. Yeah also the jazz music is it's called on Solos. Real name is shit it Dingus. That's just how he rolls man I he's been sitting on that for quite a while. That is not a not a late addition. Yeah Yeah it's always been just. I always called it a jazz. The other thing is what sex. I've always thought of as Jess Griffin. What's yours I I am a published star wars off who are as you all? Griffin's contributed to the extended universe Yeah I'm pretty sure it was noncanonical I don't I don't think I Get a star on the you know on Star Wars Stars Fi But I wanted to share my favorite little factoid. which is I I wrote a a story about a Aja that works on the the sand crawlers on tattooing and I was writing a and in one part of the story like it honors? This this droid During a sandstorm you just pull it up from the sand and so I was writing the SEGMA- and talking about how This Joh- named Jot was like digging around in the in the Lome right and I wrote the Earth beneath his feet. You know partied or whatever the hell it was super good writing but I don't remember it And so so. I was very very nervous to send this story and for edits because I thought for sure they were gonNA sorta go through with a fine tooth comb and they did and the vile thing that I learned is they said you can't can't say the word Earth in reference to dirt because they don't they don't have earth earth is there they don't have the earth because it's not there so you can't call earth and I was like if you're going to be granular about that. There's probably a lot of things. Are Earth words like I'm wanted to like in retaliation be like and then the job was eight a space hotdog. They wanted to wanted to play a quick game of Martian baseball. Like you can't actually can't say that. Also star wars uses the metric system. I used a measurement of feet and they were like nope its metric system wine great. I love an alphabet. Make any sense. They have their own alphabet. Earth doesn't exist but the fucking metric system does deal with it. That's how universal the metric system is I wanted to very briefly. Talk about one of my favorite favorite star wars things and that's Star Wars Games that have non force users in the lead roles. I've often spoken about how that is comparable prebble to being in a game called Saving Spiderman. Where you're trapped under a car and Spiderman is swinging around and you hope that spider man will come save you But I just WanNa take a moment to IRA so these here as these not for Caesar's in Star Wars Games have been a lead role stars Games. I I tie fighter. We have merrick steel. Pretty Good Merrick. Steel pretty good x wing alliance. I WanNa honor the name of ace as Amine enough. His his name is is that like a no acis his Christian name not Christian. They don't have Jesus invasion. I have a special special honorary accommodation for Kyle. Qatar became a force user right after they made what they're like. This sucks. All these superstars superstars powers and this single bury's got a good and in the second game. They were like yeah. He's turned out he's like try to move a sandwich had did bruce. I guess he's stores to they even remain the they named the first one. The second dark forces game is called Jedi Knight Dark Forces the second dark force. The third for his game is called Jedinak too. Because they don't would you go back and play the old boring where he doesn't have superpowers dash rendering. It would be the worst of the names if it weren't for well. Okay special that shatters the empire nintendo sixty four. He's like literally just helping out league. He's his eighthly dislike in the background like like when the when the garbage disposal stopped in that one scene Dash Renard is the one who said he beats Boba Fett asset one point which I think helps. He loosened the pickle jar. The BOBA Fett Peres are so lucas jet pack. I mean that's pretty cool. Speaking of Dont`a order but Django fat did have his own game called Star Wars Bounty Hunter Yeah we'll take that I WANNA talk about. I Dash at all but I know he's played by tax shepherd. It's like basically the same dude in all of these but anyway the the last one I want to focus on is the lead character of force commander who has literally named Bryn. Ten tore his name of this boring ass. Dude in in. This is Brent. Tanner imprint antler. Brandt force absolutely. Did you not hear my first name. It's Brent no I don't have any forced powers I wanNA talk about Yadel. Speaking ticking time bombs that George Lucas left in the Star Wars Universe before heading out. I like open an art museum or whatever doing now Yadel is Iota Jota but it's a lady Outta She's on the Jedi Council. I believe in Phantom menace until I don't I don't know when the jet council disbands in the prequel series up what's great about battle now is they've been making more and more star wars. They don't have the old EU so the way they go about writing scripts so far as I can tell is they look at things that weren't answered in the previous movies. And then the answer them like how did Hans Solo get his name. Oh he was boarding a space airplane and he said his name is so low because he's a passenger of one. His real name is shit. DINGUS DINGUS but now they've run out of things to answer I answer and then seemingly all at once everybody WHO's working on different star wars projects was like I know Jato but nobody communicated this to each other so oh in the video game we just spoke about there's an entire Yadel monologue prioritized very early in the game and now I mean I don't know how the man delorean ends but I can only presume. It begins spoiler alert with some serious Yata. Love Action to raise your navy. Yeah I guess I wanted to warn people ever going to spoil the mandatory like People People GonNa know about bad. It's kind of a meme. He's basically taking over twitter at this point. That's true now. Normally this is where we would Answer your emails. But we haven't gotten any emails yet because we're recording this before the show in a vacuum if you will but we are going to be doing our game of the year stuff pretty soon so if you have a favorite game of the year please email us mail L. at best he's not fan. See legally have to be a fan to email us. It's right there on the name a malice your favorite game of the year and was a one sentence a one the sentence argument as to why it is the best of the best of the year. Yeah we're fair. Yeah and next year when we get talking about new games and stuff again and we'll We'll we'll be asking you for your thoughts of whatever game that we're talking about that leak sort of book club style. But for now the one sentence of the good he will be sufficient. And thank. You must be a fan or you'll go to jail honorable mention guys. You play anything else. That we didn't is non star. Wars related nothing. I can really Well I mean we're doing episodes on the other games that I'm playing right now I I've been. I've still been dipping into final fantasy fourteen. Not now no. We're GONNA have time to talk about that. Probably during the goaty stuff if we get to shadow bringers but that's been like my workout. I workout game. Because it's pretty pretty mine brainless. Let's say thank my workout game. Assassin's creed Odyssey I the I don't know if y'all saw the deal see that came out this year. The rise of Atlantis were it promised to get to go to Atlantis Mantis So I hadn't even started the game played through the entire game. Seventy hours Finally got to Atlantis. It's fine turns out the rest of the great so so it's actually three games in one on this DLC. So I thought like Oh great. I've gotten to Atlantis. And it's like no actually I you need to like. I don't know fighting elision fields and cool did did it. That was another ten hours. Great Great Great Great Now you need to go to Haiti so It's going to be the ugliest environment in the history of assassin's creed can you spend like another five tin there. I'm like okay Surely just swim around like a beautiful fish ran is that yeah and then and then I get to Atlantis in there. Like welcome to Atlantis. The first thing you should know about Atlantis is don't fight. People like what I came here to murder Atlanta's and they're like no I. Can't they wanna know what mermaids got going on blood wise. That's who I am. I have you know it's a fun little thing. I never really got in this series but I've been playing that third lead US mansion on switch. It's really nice. It just like nice and fun and like kind of you've The inverse like it kind of has the inverse of the the exact inverse of the game of stars fallen order in that when we actually sucks shit is not fun or jeopardize our funding goal but game parts of it are also thoughtfully combined. Mind to make something that really sings together. The idea that like it is just fund to vacuum crap up. So here's a bunch of stuff to vacuum and you can do you as much as you want. But like we have thought about how these elements work together Is Very Nice. It's very pleasant. It doesn't outstayed its welcome Individual individual levels are like genuinely very differently. There's big ideas being introduced at a very consistent pace just very solid Yeah maybe maybe we should hold more Honorable Mention since we're about to record another episode here in this First Block These three episodes by the way are going to be available You know a widely but we should say that this is going to be a spotify exclusive experience so if you enjoy the best is head over to spotify and Check us out over over there. Because that's where the the rest of the episodes are gonNA go or if this one is a first we have no idea. I have no way of knowing. Just Quinn show right. 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Mental Health: Stories about having crises of the mind - Part 2

The Story Collider

32:58 min | 2 years ago

Mental Health: Stories about having crises of the mind - Part 2

"Science story. NYU scientists the. Well, it was that golden moment because science was on my side. Hey, everybody, welcome to the story Clayton where we bring you true personal stories about science. I am your host Aaron Barker and this week we're once again, presenting stories about mental health in the final installment of our two part series, just a reminder that as you might expect. These stories in today's episode do include descriptions of symptoms of mental illness, which might be upsetting for some listeners, but I'm very proud of all four of the stories that we have to share with you in the series. And that the two stories were sharing with you today. Both come from story quieter producers, who are near and dear to my heart. They both shared the original versions of their stories at last year's story, quieter producers, retreat, and I'm so glad that they've gone on to share them at our shows are firstly today is from Zach Stovall. It was recorded in February twenty nineteen caveat in New York City, the theme that night was it's all in your head. So I'm eight years old at DALE'S donuts, and I'm with my friend, and his dad and his dad looks at his watch and he begins scrambling because he's got to get me home by noon. It's with them earlier and he starts rushing, and we're trying to delay and he stops me and he goes Zach, I'm not scared of your dad, who happens to be six foot five three hundred pounds. Former marine police officer. I'm not scared of your dad. I'm scared of your mom. My mom was really interesting throughout my childhood. I'd be playing baseball games. And you'd be able to pick her out because there was a small perimeter around her in the stands, and she would yell things like most parents, do you know, their kids, but instead of like Whoo or yesterday or general support. She would get very specific. She'd be like why in your stance shoulder with extend your arms, lock your elbows. White swing. No, no. I like to think that miss out on a couple of all star games because of that. But, like, really I wasn't that good. Mama. I had really interesting relationship. She works short nights a lot at the beginning. She works for the post office, and she worked she had the night shift for the first little while. So one morning. She'd come home early, and my brother and I woke up and we decided all right. We wanna go get some cereal and we're gonna get the top shelf stuff, golden grams. And being kids in it being on the top shelf. We decided we were not going to just like get a stool, or anything to go climb up that we were gonna jump up open the door jump up again. Grab the serial jump up a third time slam shut. This is an indelicate maneuver, obviously. So we obviously wake up my mom instead of coming out and just saying, hey, stop it. I've been working on that she comes out and just start screaming opening the doors and the cabinets in slamming them. Shut saying something along the lines of this is what it sounds like just screaming at the top of her lungs opening and shutting and slamming it sounded like the band stop, if they were falling down a flight of stairs. But they're supposed to love you. It wasn't a word terrifying. My, my little brother. I remember didn't finish cereal because of that. I think the most interesting thing about growing up with my mom was definitely the, the elementary school talent shows some from a small town, you might have heard of it. It's called Arkansas. So our school talent shows like big deals, and, you know, those like stereotypical southern dads are like my boys go play football. My boys gonna play quarterback. And my boy's gonna love beer. Whatever my mom was kinda like that only. It was my son's going to sing my son's going to sing in public. My son's going to sing contemporary, Christian rock songs. Guys. I was not good. We're talking about. Bangers only the hits. Steven Curtis Chapman, DC talk jars of clay. The Christian version of a boy band number sign for him. The hits. And would do this every year and every year, I would I object strenuously I would say, no, I don't wanna do this anymore. And she said, no. You have to you're so good. I'd be like, no I'm not. And she'd be like you have to. And then one year I just now. I go no, I'm not doing it this year. She finally convinces me to do it. But I say if I'm going to do it. I'm gonna do it on my terms, which is a very bold thing for a fourth grader to say. Drew a line in the sand. No more. Contemporary Christian rock songs. The problem. Fourth graders don't have any taste. They have no taste. There's no like pitchfork magazine within like those scholastic book mobile, like MAG flyers. They don't exist. The only thing I cared about were like superhero movies and eating meals designed for adults. That's all I cared about. But I was luck fourth grade a superior movie had come out Batman forever came out, and it came out and everybody knew what it was. And it had a soundtrack and everything. So I decided to sing of my own volition at fourth grade seals kissed by a rose. You never realize how sexually graphic. The song kissed by arose is. Until it sung at you poorly by morbidly obese sport grader in an ill fitting vest. For those of you who don't remember the go like something like this. Sir. You were just a baby, like eight years ago. Compay to kiss. Paul Arrojo's on the grave. What does that even mean getting molested by an undertaker? Whoa. The more I get of you. The stranger feels this is already extremely strange. But now that your rose is in bloom. This around boy is talking about vaginas. A light hits. The gloom on the grave. But. My small town church elders all gathered to figure out whether they were gonna run us out on a rail or just burner. House down. Men were screaming and women were crying. Children were Buchanan, all were denying the existence of God. So I wanna off stage. And my mom is back there, because, of course forced her way backstage, she goes Zach you did such a great job. You're the best everyone loved it. I love you so much way to go. Completely untethered from the reality of what had just occurred. And that continued that sort of distance from what was actually going on versus what she was saying was going on a few years ago. I got a call from my dad and. He said, son, your mom's cheese has finally slid off the cracker. Which like most Arkansas phrases. Sounds like it has a long proud history but is never existed before. Son. Your mom's cheese is finally slid off the cracker. She moved out three months ago, and she lives with. She's been living with her parents, your, your grandparents, and I didn't know what to think none of us dead. We would try to reason whether we try to talk to her, we'd call her. She answered the phone seems like everything was normal. And we try to say, hey, what's going on? Is there something wrong? You know, my dad's certainly isn't like blameless in, you know, any problems that you guys would have in your relationship, and she would just push us away to the point to where she would hang up as she was screaming at us. She would completely distance yourself from what was going on to the point that when my dad wasn't one for, like, ultimate Dems, but what he did say was when she. When she took half of their retirement savings in order to buy her own house. He said this is effectively, the end of our marriage, and he told her that. And so he went to the Bank to sign over the paperwork, and then she's walking in. He's walking out visibly upset, and she looked at him. And she goes what's wrong. Completely untethered from the reality. We were saying. She would also create stories that put herself as the victim always one Christmas fairly recently. We went over to her house. We spent eight hours with that day. And then we went to go leave NC. My great aunts on my dad's side. Great aunt great uncle. And she got so incensed so mad she drove forty five minutes to where I was staying with my brother. And she took all of our gifts that we had gotten her for Christmas, and threw them in the front yard in the rain and said she never wanted to see us again. Completely untethered. After that, my brother and I started talking in his wife, his wife is a psychologist MD. She told us about something called borderline personality disorder. She gave me like four books on it. I read them all, and they described my mom to t-. It's this really weird. It's a disorder it's not like depression, where not to generalize about depression. But, like where there's a chemical imbalance where you can take medication and sort of weather that this is conditional therapy that they have to be willing to take. It's extremely high functioning, so it's extremely hard to diagnose. My mom was able to hold down a job for years. She would always say the right things sometimes. And then she would always come down with the worst, things also. Is always very contradictory. She would say stuff like I can't be selfish. I hate myself. You don't know how much I love you. I don't wanna see you anymore and this contradiction would. It would cause us to have to set up. What, what in like books about, like borderline personality disorder? Would tell you are boundaries. You have to establish rules for these for your people for your loved ones to interact with in order to interact with them. They have to abide by these rules on, when they don't you have to keep them at bay. Otherwise, there's a it's called a symptom call caretaking where you will actually start to exhibit those behaviors just to avoid those behaviors and another person and it will begin to manifest as a personality disorder of your own. I've always thought of my mom's condition, as sort of like this time travelers terminal illness, usually, terminal illness. Somebody gets sick they maybe last for a year few years, but there's a finite amount of time and then that person has gone forever. My mom's has been sort of in and out after that Christmas. I didn't talk to her for three years until that until we ended up seeing each other at my niece's birthday party, which she then made a scene during and left, but the last ten months have been great. And she's never one of the things about borderline is that it's very hard to diagnose because the people don't wanna hear it. They'll get very violent push that away. So we've never had an opportunity to even talk about this. The only thing that we even gotten close to talking about is when I was visiting the summer among looked at me and goes Pete Davidson. He's got borderline personality disorder. He made it on Saturday night. Live. And that's it. So throughout this entire journey with my mom, I've sort of been asking myself this one question, what's the difference between somebody with an overt abject mental illness? In somebody who's just playing being a complete and total asshole. And I've sort of come to realize that when somebody you love it doesn't really matter. You'll take them through whenever their time, traveling in with their disease, sometimes it's good. Sometimes it's bad. Sometimes a light hits the gloom on the grave, and you have to leave your hometown for forever. Thank you. That was axed oval. Zach is a Newark bay story. Quieter producer is well as a writer, producer cartoonist in comedian. He has performed stand up sketch comedy across the south midwest in New York Zack has written for St Louis magazine, and vulture and is the author of a collection of cartoons called fancy things. He currently lives in New York City with his wife Rebecca in their golden doodle Newman. Zach tweets as z Stovall and last most of his hair sometime in two thousand nine at a reason story, glider karaoke night. We've finally coaxed Zach into giving us the full rendition of kiss from a rose. And it was everything that we thought it could be and more. Today's episode is supported by indeed. When it comes to hiring, you don't have time to waste. You need. Help. Getting to your shortlist qualified candidates fast. That's why you need indeed dot com post a job in minutes. Set up screener questions, then zero in on Kuala. Candidates using an intuitive online dashboard. And when you need to hire fast exceleron results with sponsor jobs. New users, contrive refree at indeed dot com slash podcast. That's indeed dot com slash podcast. Terms, conditions, and quality standards apply. Our next door today is from Audrey Kerns. It was recorded in February twenty nineteen at Lear period in Los Angeles. The theme that night was on trial. Catch my husband's staring at me a lot. A lot. I'm watching TV he staring at me. I'm folding laundry. He's staring at me. I'm wearing doctor who leggings Harry Potter shirt, right, into my Star Trek journal. He's staring at me. But that's fair. It seems creepy. But it's not because when he stares at me he has the most gentle eyes and warmth in his smile. When he stares at me. I feel safe which is a great thing. It's a good thing, especially because for years ago, I woke up in hospital without any idea of how I got there and if it wasn't for him and his gentle smile and his radiating safety, I would have lost my mind. I have obsessive compulsive disorder depression, disorder and anxiety disorder. I like to think I'm well rounded. I, I received my diagnosis in my late thirties was really excited for real because after decades of suffering, I now had a name for my hid monster. Now that I had a name I could defeat it with my husband, and we would defeat it together, and he would be the public pains in my brand of Dr. Yes, I am a huge geek. And it's an important part of my story because after I got my mental health trifecta I had a very nerdy and creative renaissance. I, I wrote and performed in this one person show called obsessively okay, where outed myself as someone with CD, and as a card carrying science fiction and fantasy nerd. I founded an implantable pop culture site. Gold geek, girls already, I had several podcast, I was doing live shows, and I started to go the nerd conventions not only as a fan, but has a panelist. Now I had been going to these nerd conventions already and sitting in the audience with notebooks and pennant. Ready really excited about it. And now I was on the other side, and it was so cool, and I felt really accomplished. But as I went through my. Renaissance. I realized that my struggles my mental health struggles were not going away. I still got depressed. I still had my compulsions and I found out that antidepressants don't work on me, but I kept trying to defeat it. I kept trying to defeat it by confiding in my husband and being creative in going to therapy, which is really hard. It's really hard to make time every week to talk about how fucked up you are. And how you always be fucked up and how you're going to be fucked up for the rest of your life. You know it's fucked up. But I did it in hopes that some miracle in science, make it all go away. So when my doctor told me about this new s that was out that was getting positive results. I thought, yes, this is the one now SRI stands for selective. Serotonin reuptake inhibitor serotonin is a chemical that your body produces for your brain in your nerve cells to function, the idea behind the pill helps ease depression by raising this Tonen levels in your system. So we began the treatment it didn't work. So my doctor raised the dosage, and we waited there was still no relief. And so we decided together doctrine, I to try the maximum dosage, and I start that and. I get a nerd convention. So as a panel. And so a few days before the con- I start to feel really fuzzy. And with each subsequent day, I feel weirder. You know, I feel like enough OG and like I've smoking weed, but there are no laughs and there's definitely no chill. The morning of the con was worst. I felt like my, my brain and reality are moving at two different speeds. And since I'm basically hi, I'm not making good decisions, so I get in my car. I drive to the convention. I go to my panel I walk onstage and I wake up in a hospital, six hours later. So. What I'm going to share about these six hours. I don't remember at all. They've been pieced together by my husband. My friends who were there. So I was on the panel. And I just got up and left. Just walk up stage and a friend, Bill me in the convention hallway. And she thought I went and changed some 'cause play a costume 'cause I was wearing a really short skirt. But as she got closer, she realized it wasn't wearing shorts. Kurt I was trying to take off my pants. She said, what are you doing? I said a hot so. Me. Convention personnel showed up as they should. Kind of situation. And. She told on this is not normal. And so they called an ambulance, and they called my husband. In the emergency room agitated as cooperative, I had an elevated, heart rate at a fever. My husband told the doctor, I have been on this new medication of feeling weird. She dismissed him. She said, as your wife heroin user, meth opiates said, no. It's a possible your wife's a drug user, and you just don't know what I'm telling you. It's this new medication. She's on what we're going to test for illegal drugs, and so frustrated he comes back to my bed only to find me. He comes to my bed only to find me in restraints. Chuck, it's for my own safety. They said now I'm sure it's not pleasant for anybody to be in restraints. But for someone like me having your control taken away from me as absolutely devastating. And I was fighting against restraints trying to get free. And my husband was saying something to me, and I would call for moment. But then it's still way and contorted my body and struggle and fight trying to get out of this restraints, and he demanded that they treat me for my anxiety and they did and admitted to the hospital now. While I'm in the hospital. Getting settled into the hospital room, I become aware for the first time in six hours. I feel like I've been sleeping and just woke up except I wake up in a dark room and I have an IV in my arm, and there's machine's beeping and I see these nurses, and I don't know how it got there. I'm so scared terrified. And then I see my husband's back. You around any locks eyes with me, and he told us. Wiles. He says. There you are. So he knew somehow he knew that was back. Without the gentle smile ever. Leave new space. He comes over to me, and he just wraps in warm tells me, one happened than I am stated. I am so full of shame. And then the test results come back. Guess what? I'm not an illegal drug user. The doctors had to concede that my husband was right. You see while I was in the emergency room. He furiously searched online. My symptoms and medication. And he found something called serotonin syndrome. And that's what it was. Serotonin syndrome is incredibly rare, it's caused by build up a tone in your system. And my body was really sensitive to the increased dosage, knowing that, knowing that is not my fault did nothing to alleviate the sense of shame that I was feeling. I mean I have been the knowledge ING impulsive and to myself that I have a mental health disorder. I had been doing everything. Perfect patient taking all the steps therapy, mindfulness medication creativity. And it's wasn't good enough. I felt like I was being punished for following the rules. I have OCD I need rules. I enjoy rules. So even finding out that explain my education, my heart rate. My fever. My blackout, I still feel horrible. So from my hustle bed. I make my husband and my stepdaughter. Promise not to tell anybody. My friends, my family. And. Just didn't wanna be judged. You know did you was in the hospital because she has a mental disorder? Do you know what hardly leaves the house and only eat certain foods mental disorder? Friends. Do you know why everything in address house matches? Mental disorder actually last ones, because I've taste. I just didn't want to be defined by so I retreated and I stopped talking about it all together. Then a year ago this month, I was at a nerd convention on sitting on a panel. And someone asked me a direct question about my mental health or about mental health. And I froze and I looked out at the audience, and I saw these people notebooks and pens at ready. Remembered, you know that's what I used to do. They are me. And I knew I had to answer, honestly. So I do the only way I know how. As a nerd. So speaking, the language of my geeky people, I said, fighting a mental health battle is like fighting a dragon except it's a dragon that can't ever be fully vanquished, you can have a quiver full of EROs called therapy mindfulness medication creativity. Even with all those EROs you still may not be able to take that flying lizard down. And that's because the harsh reality is that my mental health doesn't have a neat ending like my favorite stories do. But that doesn't mean I stopped the work I can slay my dragon and that's wonderful and her roic but it's gonna come back at some point because it is part of me and instead of crumbling. I have to find the courage to get back up and slay it again. Not beyond say sleigh. Although that'd be so cool. More like John snow sleigh. My life is going to be a series of bills and I'm going to lose one every now and again. The best that I can do is. Get up and be the best warrior that I can be get up slay and slay again. Think. That was oddly Kerns Audrey is one of the producers of story, quieter, Los Angeles, as well as a writer, actor and producer and the founder and editor in chief of the influential pop culture website, geek, girl thority. She hosts and produces the podcast geeky fund time kneel before, odd and five truce than ally. She also wrote produced and performed in these successful one person comedy obsessively okay, which somehow managed to combine her battles with obsessive compulsive disorder with our love for Star Trek 'cause play if that's not nerdy enough, where you she says than just ask her to show, you the two separate inhaler. She carries with her at all times. If you loved Audrey Suzman Brian in this story, as much as I do check out his hilarious story in our March twenty second episode ocean adventures in which he is, as lightly different of Garrick, Dr Brian contains multitudes, the story, glider is grateful for the support of the Tiffany and co foundation and of science sandbox assignments foundation initiative, dedicated to engaging everyone with the process of science the story. Quieter is led by me, artistic director, Aaron Barker, as well as executive director, Liz Neely, with help from deputy director Nisa Greenberg operation support manager Lindsay Cooper and the rest of our amazing team. The stories featured in today's podcast from shows produced by Pollock's in Tracy Rowland Audrey Kerns, and Joseph Scrimshaw. The podcast is produced by senior podcast. Editors always Saunders with help from Gwynne HOGAN, the theme music is by ghost especial. 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Adoption: Making a Difference in the Life of a Child

Focus On the Family Daily Broadcast

25:02 min | 2 years ago

Adoption: Making a Difference in the Life of a Child

"The holidays are here, which means it's time to bring back some favorite traditions. This is John Fuller and here at focus on the family works. I did to bring back the Christmas stories podcast with Christmas stories season two you'll hear from guests like Eric Metaxas. Kathy lip Fisher and more as they offer creative ways to enjoy your holidays. Visit focus on the family dot com slash Christmas stories for more. Find fun for your kids just a click away. Now it benches on the adventures in odyssey club where your eight to twelve year old can find trusted faith-building entertainment in a safe online club. It features almost every episode ever, plus special monthly club, only episodes and content and a focus on the family clubhouse magazine subscription. Sign up today. Just go to a club dot org slash radio. This is John Fuller in please remember to let us know higher listening to these programmes on a podcast app or website, all of us have been given the capacity to love somebody else or give our heartfully. It really comes down to choice whether to love or to not love it's not a question of capacity sharing. How God begin to really work on his heart to care for needy kids and consider adoption that's Mike berry. And he and his wife Kristen are on today's focus on the family with focus president and author Jim Daly, and I'm John John November is national adoption month. So that is one reason we're coming to the microphones to talk about this today. But also, just the heart of us as believers, and are we willing to take care of the widow and the orphan, I think the Lord over fifty times says to do that. And it's just like us as his children say Lord when I grow up. What do you want me to do with my life? Well for the fifty. Third time take care of the widow and the orphan, and that's one of the reasons why we want to cover this topic again today. And I hope no matter where you're at. Maybe you and your spouse are considering adoption, maybe you've never considered it. Or maybe you're in the thick of it. I think for any one of those three types of people you're gonna enjoy today's broadcast. I mentioned Mike and Kristen berry, they live just outside of Indianapolis, Indiana. And they have a popular blog called confessions of an adoptive parent. And they get about twenty thousand visitors every month to that site, Mike and Kristen welcome to focus on the family. Thank you see here. It is intriguing. What kind of confessions? Pop up on that blog. Oh. Let's start right there. Well, yeah. That's I I would assume you mean by our confession writers, I may writers. Yeah. We are intent is to be very honest and open because we know that that the being an adoptive and foster parent, it's very difficult. Well, let's three lonely at times. And let's start with that. I mean that lonely aspect of it. How many children have you adopted we've adopted eight and we foster twenty two foster twenty two now I love the beginning of your story. I mean, you're a young couple where did you find the heart? Why did you go in this direction? What motivated you what the beginning look like and you had to be what like two weeks married when this this propped up. How did that look like, well, I think we both have a different perspective on this. For me. This came from a legacy that was handed down to me from my grandparents, and what that looked like what legacy did the Hanjin. My grandfather. I grew up in foster care system. And he was never adopted. Neither was his brother and that was a pretty dark situation for him. Did he talk to you about that? Yes. Very minimally when he was alive. But I heard more of the story after he'd passed away. My grandma knew him from the time. He was she was a kindergartner and she described him as the kind of kid that nobody liked just a mean nasty kid. But what she described was a man that was changed. And so he passed on that legacy by raising a different generation and his own children. And then his children went on my father raised myself. My brother my sister, and then adopted my youngest brother, and so that's generations of change you. So modeled, right. So your heart. Did you think that was just normal? You're going to get married someday. You're going to adopt a child or to absolutely. Enter the picture, Mike. How about that? I said that to him, you know, he listened. So when when we get married I'd really like to up children, he could probably take it from there. And I said, no, no, no, no, no. That's not how we're going to do it because well because in my family growing up nobody adopted nobody fostered everybody was born into the family the old fashioned way biologically. And so it wasn't that. I was against adoption. It's just that. I didn't understand it. And plus I had an idea of how I wanted my family to look like, you know, and that's how we get college. We all have these visions or these ideas, and we realize how small those are compared to the story that God is writing. And that's what I really didn't realize. And so really the long story short is that God changed my heart. How long did that take? It took the first conversation when she said, we're going to adopt. And I said, no, no, no, let me tell you how we're going to go that was in November nineteen ninety eight. And our first daughter jaylo was born April two thousand two now what happened in the in? The course of that time. Is that Kristen we had arguments about this. But Kristen received some valuable advice and the advice was you need to stop fighting him on this just start praying for him praying for his heart. And again, it wasn't hard hearted. It was just kind of it was just being a guy put it that way. And you know, God changed my heart. There were people that came into my life at different times who were adoptive father's or foster parents, and they spoke truth, and I didn't even realize they were speaking truth to me. It was just they were sharing their story. And it made me realize. Wow. This is really cool. This is something that that you know, it just with my heart was changing. We'll let me talk to you Kristen about that feeling. I mean, you had these deep desire. Fires some people some wives at that point might get frustrated and actually apply more pressure to their husbands, which probably won't get the out. Come that. They're looking for how did you discern? What to do into like in some ways back off and begin to pray? That takes a lot of maturity, I think that that is directly the Holy Spirit. I'm a fighter. So that's me. I win everything. So, and it was my mom that said, this is not one you want to win that way. So it was her advice to back off was at harm to pay. You know, what it was hard at first. But I realized that she was absolutely right. If we bought a child into our home, I wanted it to be our child take they're not just another battle that I won. And so it was easier as time went on because when he talks about his heart changing, he didn't realize its heart was changing. But. I did I could see. CCM magazine, Steven Curtis Chapman did an article about adopting his first child, and I could see him reading it. And I thought. I'm so excited, but anything, and so that's great restraint. It was but to see the Lord moving in him was better than to see myself winning. So yes, it was difficult. But at the same time, it wasn't because backing off allowed me to seek God, creating our family in a way that you know, in the end, really, I didn't think we would have eight children. So God did more in our family than what I would have expected. You know, the one of the things that I wrestled with in that time that a lot of men will rest with because I've spoken to I've been at conferences and had men asked this question, it's that will cut. I love a child who biologically was not mine, and I responded by saying you can you have to choose to do. So you have to choose to open your heart, and that's with anybody with raising children. Absolutely. And I love that statement. And I'm not sure where I heard it, but an adoptive parent who had biological children as well. But when that. Child that was a dotted was old enough to kind of figure out what was happening and begin to talk to their adoptive mom and dad the handled it so brilliantly saying, listen, we couldn't choose our kids. We chose you. Yeah. That makes you special. That's an interesting way to do that. Because it does build up the I think the confidence of that child because it's in their little heart somewhere in my really part of the family to one of the things we said to our children that you know, daddy, and I love each other. We're not biologically related either. Biologically related. So we all choose commitment to one another. That's fantastic. Let me ask you this with the counseling that you've done. And you've heard that typical question. What's another question or another barrier in your case? I think it's important to let people know you're okay with that. It wasn't that you couldn't have biological children. Choosing to adopt in that's important talk about that decision making because that's powerful. I guess that would be we decided together. But. I would hope so. I would say that we have now faced both. We did decide to adopt our first child, I really think that's the Lord moving. Also, I think that Jay was meant to be our daughter because we just came to the conclusion at the same time. We went to the agency we filled out the paperwork. They told us to hurry because they had a mum waiting for us. And she was born two months later. So I think that the Lord put us in place that exactly the right time because that is our daughter. However as time went on we. We did continue to talk about it. But once you open, your home children just kind of start tumbling through the door. And so we had many many many more before we discussed the possibility of having biological child. Again, we did lose our. We had a miscarriage a couple years ago, and that was pretty devastating that was something that we sort of we'd never thought about having a biological child. And then we did think about it. And then it happened. And then it didn't happen. You know? So we've kind of faced both now, but we sort of did it backwards from other people. And so for us it didn't make it any less devastating. We felt very very sad. But at the same time, we grieve alongside of eight children who loved us very much, and those kids were already in the and so as we grieved over that together as a family, it opened up a lot of that discussion about how much we love them. And how unique they are. And how they were created by God to be exactly the person that they are one of the things that springs to my mind. And of course, we're doing foster respite, gene we've had foster children in our home as well. We have such a passion in this culture. For comfort and safety. And oftentimes, I don't wanna paint a pristine picture of foster situations. Either foster Dopp or just fostering respite like we do. There can be some very wounded children coming into your home in that environment. Talk about that distinction between our hearts looking for comfort and safety protecting our biological kids verses having a heart what I think is the heart of God to reach out to kids in all of that mess and to bring them into an environment where they can you know, they're going to act out. They're going to test to see if you really care about them by doing things that push. You talk about that tension. Well, you know, we for us all of our children are adopted, but we have, you know, one of the things that we experienced along that nine year journey of foster parenting was that we realized that our children who were permanently a part of our family. You know, really faced could face that. Same those same struggles that a biological child. Who was standing there watching their parents go through this? We kinda ran head into that. I think it was right around two thousand eight when we were dealing with a situation with a we had two children are care who were failure to thrive high medical needs. They required a therapeutic home, which we were not and. I think one of the things that we really we were very intentional about was to make sure that we I mean, the sound simple, but it's profound when you really think about it was to be intentional about paying attention to the children who were permanently a part of our family and making sure that we were we set aside time, we guarded time. Because to not do that you can your children can go through trauma, which ours did to watch what we went through his parents. And so that was kind of that moment to steal a line. That's been used a lot that moment for us that man, we need to be really intentional because these children over here are forever. A part of the berry family, you know. So it was about being very intentional guarding that time in we're a very open family. So I mean, gosh, we could go on for hours about some of the situation that we dealt with you know, with children in our care through foster care who pushed us to the limit. Let me ask you though. So you've adopted children people listening. Wow, that's overwhelming. You know, if we could adopt one child or foster one child that would be something that we could do talk about the difference with some of the people that you counsel. I mean that is pretty amazing. You have a heart for this calling perhaps. Yeah. Versus someone who wants to do the right thing as a believer follower of Christ who feels compelled rightfully so because it's right there in scripture. What would you say to them about the amplify -cation of it? Should they adopt one or should they adopt eight or ten say, whatever you do makes a difference. So when I go back to the story of my grandpa, my grandma was also adopted what you do makes there's a ripple to that. There's change that happens. Then that you won't even see my grandfather passed away when I was sixteen years old. He has absolutely no idea or maybe he has now that the stories that he told me when I he was still alive affected. Not only need not only my father. My father son who's also adopted. But now all of my children are adopted. My sister's children are adopted so that has caused a ripple of change it's cost effective for generations. Now. So whatever you do if you have the capacity to open your home for respite to provide something for another family. You are providing a change you're making a change in the future. So well, there's something everybody can do. And if you don't feel called to do this. You can come alongside another family. I think research has shown that an adoptive family needs about five other families to be that support around them that means we can breaks maybe bringing meal sometimes doing laundry forum. Those things really do make a difference in its beautiful way for you to help a family that is called to this one of the things that believe it or not men. There's actually been a lot of scenarios where people have wanted day. There have Dr. Opted multiple children, or they they look at their home. And they think I've got all this space. I've got all these resources. I want to adopt more in fact, last this past winter, we were at refresh conference out in Redmond Washington, which is a fantastic conference for adoptive and foster parents, and we actually I I was on a dad panel where I answered questions from fathers in the audience who were just saying, you know, what about this? What about that? You know and won a couple of questions had to do with, you know. Tell me should we'd be adopting more. And my response is yes. That sounds reckless. But it's like that's kind of the invitation that God has an all of our lives. You know, like, I mean, gut never like walks you along and says, this is exactly how your life's gonna go. Right. He says I want you to trust me and follow me when Jesus called his disciples. He didn't tell him. Hey, by the way, here's what we're going. Here's the home. We're gonna live in. He didn't say any of that. He said come follow me that's safety and comfort. Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. Which you'd ask before and we for us personally. And this would be almost a whole nother broadcast. We made the choice to live small to live extremely below. Our means sell our big, comfortable home live in a home. That was crazy too small, and there's a reason behind that we are hearts removed about a year and a half ago to do that. But we tend to be you will find us telling people jump. Which I know some listeners are out there thinking, there's no way. But listen, I believe the Holy Spirit empowers us in ways that we can't even begin to imagine that God is at work in the background of our lives in ways. We can't even believe or even understand with our finite minds. Yes. If you feel you should be doing this do it. If you look at your home, and I could take eight children ten children may be getting crazy. Okay. By the guy who when I married said, there's no way we're going to God is obviously. Yes, your heart. And when I looked at that little girl, you know, Jalen in the eyes, and she I called me daddy in fall two thousand two. There was never questioned my mind again, could I love a child that wasn't biologically. My though that's beautiful. So yeah, it's I you're gonna find me saying almost recklessly do it. Yeah. Go for it. Well, and so we just did we were leaving a conference and we were there to encourage. Foster parents here in Colorado, actually, and we got on the plane. And I said, I just I'm feeling like we're supposed to be doing something else. He said, no, we're not. I said no, I really feel like we're supposed to be doing something else. But our houses to small under Indiana laws. We have too many children under the age of twelve. We can't be foster parents. We've really don't I don't know how we'd pass a home study. We've got kids jammed in every corner. So what would that look like what is it? We're supposed to be doing. And we talked about it a little more, but our daughter's biological sister lives with their birth mother. And she visits all the time on weekends and stays for a week stays for a month in the summer and just after having that conversation, we my daughter, and I both on the same night woke up and said, I'm thinking about data, and so we stopped and we prayed for her and the next day biological mom called and said could you keep Dacia for the weekend? So we said, yes, of course, we can. So we went together thinking we're having a sleepover. And. It turned out that the next day biological mom had a stroke and had a car accident while she was driving deja would have been in that car. So really, and because she's had a stroke now, she's really working on her recovery. But we have guardianship now of we call her our niece, but she is the biological sister of two of our children. So I think that when God is really tugging at your heart. When you're having that thought of think, I might be supposed to me I'm supposed to do something you probably are. So so way the Holy Spirit works. No. It's so true. Someone said to me if we were if you think about the hundred thousand children in the US that are in foster and have no parents think of the Christian community the ripple effect that you talked about the statement that it makes for pro-life. Oh, yeah. I mean, just that. And then actually changing the heart the direction the the path. Pattern of one hundred thousand children that's powerful. That's right. That would be a powerful movement. And that's what I love. That's typically how the Lord works as we wrap up. Can I ask you if I'm? Listening to this thing. Okay. How do I start to know if God is tapping my heart. What does a call of God in this area? Sound like what would you say to a couple who now are sitting over dinner tonight saying did you hear that focused program? What do you think we should do? Should we do anything? What is it? Call of God in the adoption space sound like I think that's exactly what it sounds like if you walk away from this program and you sit down with your spouse. And you say did you hear that? What do you think? I think that's probably your answer your thinking about it. Got speaking to your heart, and like you said come along side of an adoptive family. It doesn't necessarily mean that you adopt eight or ten or twelve or fifteen children or even one, but we are all called to be a part of this change. So if you're listening to this and God's tugging at your heart in any way, if you have any question about that come along side of another adoptive family. Yeah. I typically the way that I if I've looked over the course of my life the moments where God has called me to do something to join a cause or to go to a different place to serve in ministry. It's always those moments that keep coming back. You know, it's not just a fleeting thought, it's not just a, you know, what wouldn't that be cool. It just keeps coming back. That's how it's worked for us. We actually have some really good friends who live out in the Pacific northwest. Their names are Peter and Krista, and we interviewed them a couple of week ago for our our new. Podcast and that was their story. They felt called they there was this idea to adopt internationally. And I think the story goes that Krista had the thought she brought it to Peter and Peter was like that so weird I've been thinking the same thing, and they kept coming back to it. And you know, it's we see throughout scripture to that. God leaves people restless. No, he's not gonna leave. You. It's not like God taps on your heart and says, hey, do this. And then he's like in good luck. With that. You know, God will continue to to wake you up and continue to leave you in a restless place almost where you can't live with yourself. If you don't do this now that that's not always the case. But for us, I think, Chris I agree with Kristen if you're sitting over dinner tonight, and this is all of a sudden, you can't get this broadcast out of your mind or the idea that there one hundred thousand children in the United States and the Christian community wipe that out. We all want it together in took action than you are supposed to step off that you trust your heavenly father, and he will never ever leave your side. Now, they're going to be moments where you feel lonely in like, oh my gosh. Did I do the right thing? But if you are holding onto your heavenly father, he promises to never let go so step off step off. It's again, we're Mike and Kristen berry adoptive parents of eight fostering, twenty two it's great to have you with this. Great to be here. Good to have the berries with us at focus on the family sharing their mazing story. What hearts they have for adoption? I hope you've been inspired. You'll find more information other resources including Mike's book. Confessions of an adoptive parent. Just click the link in the episode description. For more guidance support for your jury, whatever stage that might be just up by our website on behalf of gym daily and the entire team. Thanks for listening to focus on the family. I'm Joan fuller, inviting you back as we once again help you injure family thrive in Christ.

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Episode 222 - A message to my kids March 2020

Family Health

13:40 min | 11 months ago

Episode 222 - A message to my kids March 2020

"Welcome family teachers a podcast or anyone who wants to experience healthy relationships within their family. This is Doctor Cory Gilbert, and I'm honored to come alongside you to encourage, educate and equip you as he focused on the different relationships Mikus family. Let's get started and focus on today's feature. Is after Corey Gilbert with a healthy marriage inner circle which my free facebook group and the warrior marriage podcast check us out on itunes and spotify anywhere else we listen to podcasts MTA I wanNA talk to you about last night actually last night I took my old two sons I have three kids to Toby Matt Concert in Portland Oregon and so it was a great experience so lots of amazing bands. and one of my favorite parts was he think of who toby Mac is you have someone who's A star who's a kind of erupt will he's a Rockstar when it came after all those bands played which my middle son was quite bored by that time. it came down to that moment of the big stars coming out and instead he's the lights pop on and he's standing on stage by himself and he's like, Hey, guys. been through a rough you months and he starts talking about the death of his twenty one year old son. Back in October and it's very sobering. And then he proceeded to tell a little bit about who he was and is in. The the hurt and the Lawson just the impact on his family and how he continues on and his faith that was the biggest one, and then throughout the whole concert including all the other bands, it was a constant reminder of the most important thing which is faith. Some I'm listening to that and I'm looking at my two sons in their you know their hearts that I worry about. In my daughter's who said was at home with my wife. And thinking about the future. WHAT MESSAGE DO I want to make sure I give to my children for their for their future? And later on. So we Mac saying that Song Twenty one which was about his son. And I just bawled as I thought about not only the loss of one day possibly losing your child. But sometimes for some of parents, we lose our children long before they physically die. because the most important thing for them is to know that ours to I to grab their hearts for God to gather hearts for who they worship, who they want to be not job not career not major in college, not athletics or music talent or any of that stuff smarts. it's who they are in their heart and their soul in their their birthday today integrity although stuff and so when I think about that, I think about how my kids watch my wife and I every single day they learned from every single day. and. They're absorbing a lot of that but not catching all of it. How intentional am I are you at saying, I, love you at reminding them how thankful you are there in your life. Sometimes my kids see actually lifetime's our kids see the negative side my kids see my either being a little too upset about something. Or missing something completely anonymous joining a need that they had. react to others around us and the needs that they have. They watch how he tied or not. They watch how we serve others in and put others I. What do I want my kids to remember to know from their Dad me? And it comes down to I want them to that my son's waking up. Let's see here the door I want them to know that we loved them with every fiber of our being I was thinking last night how how? You. Know buying tickets to the concert and then a food and then a T. shirt, which is not not cheap. How much that cost and on nothing we can do money-wise can tell them. I. Love You. Can help them internally believe that they are loved. Because it's through that that get the bigger picture of that they are loved by God. The most important thing for them to learn that they are loved by God, they are his beloved last night at the concert. It was just one continuous reminder of in the Times of trials who do you turn to? And The Times of stress and anxiety in in where I'm at my wit's end where do you turn to? How can I make sure my kids turn to God turned to even God's people. So the body of Christ an have grace for those that fail the US fill them. because no christianised perfect including mom and dad parents, I want my children. My oldest is fourteen Alex plays who's almost twelve in Marley who's nine to know that they are beloved that they are loved and hope this resonates with you. As I think of again, Toby Mac and the loss that they've had with their sign he's like, yeah, my son was a wild child and he kind of had to choose his own path and that's true for some of you. and I fear that for my own kids. Will they have to choose for themselves experience everything for themselves to then decide whether it's good or bad healthier and healthy. And for Toby Maxine, it led to that one day that. Tipped over too far. For some of us are kids are GonNa experience things like cutting abuse, pornography, other kinds of stuff that actually has severe impact on who they are and their future some. Maybe just a little bit or under the radar for others drastically changed your personality. How can we show them? How can I remind my kids that I love you and so thankful that you're ours And that that's a a burden of mine. All that I do all that I teach in all that I, talk about in everything that I am. is nothing if it means that they miss that message that might my own children missed a message? Did I love them that I'm proud of them and that even when they make mistakes that their beloved that are loved by their mom and I? That is so so important and I hope this message Kinda hits home for you. How can you make sure that they know that? It's a continual forever planning those seats over and over over doesn't it isn't the whole I told you I love you at the wedding. So I'll tell you that changes as some people have said we need to be reminded of that all the time. Are Your children under stress. Absolutely. Are they facing temptation? Absolutely A, how are you teaching them to model to handle that and how you modeling? Too Much I am sometimes are checked out or too busy. Yes. how can we through those times even remind them. I have we went to Tony Mack concert. We've gone to lots of other things. We have tickets to go skiing a couple more times this season, and you think of all these things what was really interesting was my middle son during the time that they're talking about sponsoring child. He's like stuck on I feel guilty I feel guilty and I was like no blaze. Not About. Feeling guilty. It's about doing something. It's being intentional at how are you in a bless other people with the blessings that we have as helping him think through that because over Christmas, we sponsored a child as well at Steven Curtis Chapman concert and made that a big deal because that was the Miley really wanted to do, and it's neat to see Blaise kind of grabbing onto that as well and so again, how you you and I remind her children that they're loved that their beloved by us even when we're disciplining them and they are beloved by God now, What is love being? If we're not careful, it means full acceptance just as you are. That's what God does. He accepts us into the kingdom full acceptance just as we are. But he's never finished with us yet at that point same for us parents, you're accepted into the family, which is makes adoption one of the most beautiful things as well or someone's you charge chose you the apart my family but then the work is the difficult part working that out part of that is living. As an example, but also teaching values, morals, having limits, having boundaries and having disciplined. That's what God does for us. He set up a world that has consequences. Any also, we live in a fallen world that has all these things that are twisted. Where the person that shouldn't have won one where the person that was cheating. You know was blessed and the person that was sneaky. Got The the reward things things aren't fair. Some of us have faced severe trials that are not fair and we need to be careful about fairness we need to be careful about blame. And to be able to surrender just like if you think again it where Toby maxine is that right now they're in Uttar time of surrender of now I live out what I've been speaking on stage of all my life for Toby Mac. Do I believe what I've said on those stages is true. They lured you are faithful. Am I going to be an example to others Or are we going to be like some of these other very well, known name sit of walked away from their faith walked away from their spouses, their families in the pursuit of something, and they will never find it ever ever find it. These are the things we want to instill in our children. Yes I speak about sexuality and gender and mental health all the time those are important. But the most important thing is your children's heart their faith there knowing that your you feel like they are that your beloved. So they are your beloved but even more so that they are his and this is my message to mount children my three kids. That I, hope that they know that they are our beloved Kellyanne is that they are cherished by us and that we value our time with them, we value who they're becoming who they worship and what they kinda put their time to their energy to as they mature and yes, you can go play video games for a while. But in the end, there's no value there. Yes. You can go do a hobby in the end. Careful with that. How are you serving for them? My message to them? How are you serving others? Are you making a difference in this world? Are you making an impact and that's what I want to instill in them with whatever they put their hands to with job or career? But. Also want them to be able to watch how I treat their mom. And that that raises the bar of the kind of men that my son's become. And how I treat their mom and it raises the bar for my daughter's to the kind of husband that that she would never settle a less for and those kind of things the kind of family that you have how busy or chaotic or how peaceful. How times we have to reset and we have to kind of regroup and that's important too, and that's part of the season's even. And so I hope again for you this is a message that remind you that you're his beloved. And that God loves you in a way that none of us can comprehend and we're gonNA spend our life working out and that you are created with the purpose, your created male or female your ginger for a purpose and the own that may you live it out even if it's difficult with all of your idiosyncrasies in struggles internal battles. God's working that out. Can you trust him in band together with people that actually love you and have your back because not all of us have families like I'm describing with mine and I hope this again encourages you to find that community of people and that you'll actually be men and women that love and serve in honor God in the way that you live as I've seen so many like the people they hit the stage that site that tell him about the comment. These guys are great guys and I picked them all by meal by. He goes, but they're also great and great friends backstage and that's what matters most. Yes. That really is who are they back there is way more important than who they are onstage. So bless you your family may you be happy you have an amazing marriage amazing family and built a legacy that you're proud of. Thank you tuning into the family features podcast. It has been honored to serve find out more about Dr Gilbert, and his resources for you and your family's growth and success at healing lives dot com. And if you think, you could use support along the way be sure to book that call at Book Dr Dot Com and one more thing. If you found this helpful, please share this podcast with others so that we can change the world together.

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Bailee Madison

On with Mario Interviews

09:25 min | 3 months ago

Bailee Madison

"Take on with. Mario lopez wwl lopez. Join me now on zoom for new musical. Oh week away. Actress bailey madison. Welcome to the show valey. How are you. i'm good interview here. Thanks for having me all my pleasure. Were we speaking to you from today. I'm currently in. La yeah in my home in la. I just full disclaimer. I've adopted a dog in quarantine and he seems to always know when i have zoom call so if you hear from him his name is busby. He's thrilled to be on the show. Buzz more than welcome to kodiak and hanging out with of dogs busby. You know we're trying to figure that out. He's at he's a phone. My mom was a beagle. Definitely a chihuahua. On the dl. 'cause i feel like you say chihuahua and people think he just barks all the time i got a lot of mixes to. Yeah but he's great. I love of god got it. Well there's always a place in my heart for former child actors being that i was one growing up in. You've been book enroll since you were two weeks old. Talk about a crazy headstart. Can you remember the time when you weren't acting that's really that's a great question I actually can't know that was genuinely i was. I mean i feel very fortunate and very blessed but But yeah most of most of my most of my childhood and my fondest memories most the time where romeo onset but no. I can't recall on it. Are you from la originally. I'm from fort lauderdale. So south florida. Yes so born and raised in florida and then from about like six on. It was eleven out of the air kind of in a hotel room but my mom refused to move to. La it's not happening. So i ended up living at the sheraton universal house for like six months at one point. I was working out here. And i was like the eh louise if the sheridan i used to check people in and i had my own drink at the bar surprise so we had not a good time there. About five. Hundred yards from the sheraton universal. Right here universal studios so. I'm very familiar with that. So off the new musical is out now a week away. what's it all about. Oh it's about a boy who is kind of been in and out of the foster care system played by kevin quinn. Both of his parents passed in a car accident but he survived and he's basically just Out of trouble. And he's given the chance of either going to juvie at this point or attending summer camp and he chooses summer camp and he's kind of thrown into this world where it happens to be a faith based summer camp as well and so he's completely fish out of water and in every single sense and he needs my character avery. My dad runs the camp and And there's definitely seen music comes along with it but it's about kind of realizing that you have a family out there whether by blood or not seeing live under the tunnel and and just a story i think about friendship and not you know judging a book by its cover as well great message. I love the premise there. And it's got a lot of original music. I hear and features a lot of christian standards right different twists. Yeah it does. We're so fortunate. I mean i person i've been very vocal about that part of my heart So i actually grew up listening to a lot of these artists. We have amy grant and for keenan. steven curtis chapman mahmoud w. smith They've handed over some of their classic songs that have just been so timeless in touch so many hearts and in the hopes of you know having that nostalgic feeling for people that know them but then also reimagining introducing these as songs to a new generation. Good for you good for you. We'll congrats on that looking forward to To check that out and also works. A horror. Movie called the pool. What can you tell her. You know that. No one really knows i guess. Let's talk about this accent. Asher honest roberts on a on a film called the strangers. Pray at night how the time my life i do. I love seeing dancing. Throw that. I could finally check it up bucket lists but like cover me and blood and let me scream and cry and i'm like really stoked like i don't think i can say anything about it but but yeah it's the pool and you can guess it. We may be in a pool so and that that's all you that's all. You can tease us with right. Because secret. the end yeah off takes place over the night. You know some dogs or lose trying to think what's out there. Oh it's only one night. Good good good all day chart that i always feel like i'm gonna rob trying to break it down right here all right. You've already worked with some of the big names in the game. Natalie portman jig jilin hall bette midler. What what's something you've learned from them or not so much. To be honest. I feel like i especially as i've gotten older and i've been able to reflect back on you know. Conversations time with with these humans I've realized that. I was like a silent listener the whole time and so i learned so much just by genuinely being in their presence is katie holmes she she did not leave sat without making sure that she leaves said good night to whatever crew member she could cries on dot com in. I've taken with me. You know it takes. A village takes in entire team to make something happen. And so i'm just the respect on that end. I admired so much. But when i rapped parental guidance billy crystal was my grandfather and he gave me a wrap gift and it was a it was a key with like my birth stone on it and he said to me there are so many doors. You've already unlocked. But you have so many more to go fine so and we had this. Discussion is like doors are gonna close. But you'll find the right ones. And i was twelve at the time. Obviously it meant a lot. But i think now growing up in this business as a twenty one year old navigating what this all looks like for me. Try to stick to my heart. Who i am as well that has resonated with me now more than ever about such great advice. Love that story there. You've been in to meghan trainor videos. I love megan will get momma. She is she is she. She's such a sweetheart to do. You have a favorite memory. Where there oh. I just love her. I just got a text from her one day and she said. Do you wanna do a music video of mine and i tend. Is this a joke. Yeah of course megan and then she goes okay. Amazing send you the treatment. You fall in love Like a giant teddy bear. And then you get in a fight but everything will be okay crepe the in new york she could make it through your tax sane knows just like she's i have to say she's just the most loveliest human being And her daryl. Her whole family are just like i mean i feel so grateful to be growing up in a time where meghan trainor her family exists. Gaw yeah no. I agree with you there before. I let you go. I want to put you on the spot. Quick questions quick answers okay bailey. I'm bad at this but yes you have a tv streaming recommendation right now. Yeah netflix streaming or you can check out a week away a show i love. I love that. I love that answer. Because you're right. I need to be specific. Those of platforms. Now you're right netflix's solid. I've heard of them either. Show gosh. i'm boring. I watched like hdtv or they have like the home. Edit they come in they organize your house. Oh i love while the plastic bins and stuff like okay. What's a song you know. All the words do have really any taylor swift zone okay. I'll be honest. It's like you could give me anything. I could probably could go with. A celebrity crush. Growing up was ryan reynolds. He was actually that the lie. Josh hutcherson was my first crash. She was my brother in. Bruce jebediah and i wrote him like a secret admire letter and it was never supposed to get to him and it did get to him and i bawled my eyes out onset. Oh no embarrassing devastating. Yeah who's your he was like. I thought it was sweet. I was like this is terrible. That's great who's your favorite person and follow social media My sister she's Genuinely she's she's grey and mama and has just is very open. I think a light in this world dog or cat person. Sorry to the cats busby was up. Yeah all time favorite actor and actress all time. Do you have your answer. could you answer. I would have to a mount. Rushmore remained like top four like that. I like that okay. So then i would say I'd say i would say natalie portman also. Because i love her and they just think she's brilliant. I'm going to say. I'm gonna say leo 'cause he's also been really nice to and i think he's brilliant with you with you so far yes i can't i mean oh sandra bullock. I love sandra bullock now. I'm just going rom. Now cameron diaz and they're not mirus movie and i'm thrilled wrong with that. I like your style right there. We'll meanwhile we're gonna watch a week away available on your streaming recommendation platform net flicks. I made up that question. Fantastic will bailey. Thank you so much for check in for to meet you in person. When he's you is go and stay safe okay.

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Consecrated Conscience

Life On Main

40:41 min | 10 months ago

Consecrated Conscience

"Hello and welcome to lifetime may daily podcast of life on me in charlestown new hampshire where we discussed living life on the main purpose as designed by god. I am pastor. Tim golden these podcasts. You focused going relationship. With god maturing in the through this word stewart relationships with one another as well as learning to make disciples as we share the gospel of jesus christ each day highlights what of these facets of spiritual character growth stewardship so be sure to comeback each day or a strong and healthy walk with lord dow. Let's see what the holy spirit wants to show us today. Turn with me in your bibles first. Clinton's chapter eight be leading out of the english standard this morning as you continue talking about how to live a credible christian life. One that truly exemplifies christ and start reading a. I want to go to go all the way through verse thirteen and it says now concerning food offered to idols. Now you think let's stop right there for a second. Might think okay. What's this got to do with us but bear with us. That has a lot to do with us. So we're going to. Hey just hang tight with pasha to talk about. But we're going to look at what's underneath that so concerning food offered idols. We know that all of us possess knowledge. This knowledge puffs up love builds up. If anyone imagines that he knows something he does not yet know is he ought to know but if anyone loves god he is known by god. Therefore s to the eating of food offered idols. We know that idol has no real existence and that there is no god but one for although there may be so-called god's in heaven on earth as indeed there are many gods and many lords yet for us. There is one god the father from whom are all things in for whom and for whom we exist and one lord jesus christ through whom are all things and through whom we exist however not apas assist knowledge but some former association with idols. Eat food as really offered to an idol and their conscience being wheat is defiled. Food will not commend us to god. We are no worse off if we do not eat. No better off. If we do but take care that this right of yours does not somehow become a stumbling block to the week for anyone sees you who have knowledge. Eating in a temple will not be encouraged if his conscience is we need to eat. Food offered idols. And so by your knowledge this week person has destroyed. The brother for whom christ died thus sitting against your brothers and wounded their conscience when it is weak. You sin against christ. Therefore if food makes my brother stumble. i will never eat me less. I made my brother stumble. Let's pray god as we take a look at this passage we ask that you speak to our hearts the message you have for us largest we consider this concept of conscience and what it means to have a conscience that is holy and so lord. Would you have your way in our time in. Jesus name amen so to understand the scripture one of the first things we really have to do is grass a little bit of what was going on at the time when this because said how many of us are going around. Eating food sacrificed titles. I mean i don't know where you would even do that in today's world in our culture and but in that culture it was a real issue to see in those days the on the pagan religion sacrifice to their gods similar to what the juice did and after the religious ceremony was over. These pagan worshipers would sell the make toco food establishments and they would then sell it to customers another aspect in speaking generally about their these pagan religions the more of the food that was eaten of the sacrifice. It was actually believed that. The more of that. God you received into yourself and they take up some residents within you and so that knowledge of pagan religions caused a week conscience to have some issues and they had to overcome these ideas even within the christian church because that was carrying in with this concept of and the more i e the more of the More doubt i might receive. We see two big things really going on in this passage. I we have christians that think that they have all knowledge of freedom that they need in kreis and the second new christians or christians. That don't understand freedom that christ gifts and weaken their knowledge through them simply because of some of the past experiences that they've had or the culture in which they were in has influenced in perverted who they believe. God really is and we are actually seeing a little bit more of that in our culture today. We're not where we are seeing people kind of molding god in their own image. They might use the concept of christianity or even the concept of christ. But they're taking this and trying to make fit with culture and that is a real big problem just as it is a big problem that christian who thinks he has all knowledge of freedom. That is in christ. Run into some of those people there. The left says the lord people. Okay maxine. there's that times that we know of the holy spirit speaks to us but these are the people that want to simply keep you arguing with them by saying god told me and sometimes maybe god told them maybe. It was their pizza. They ate the night before. That's talking to them. You know but the thing is is they will preface it with. God told me because then if you try to rebuttal there'd be like what you don't believe god and really they use apposite defense mechanism and so that can be also obviously a huge problem. Especially when we're talking about our conscience talking uses the word knowledge quite a bit in this passage. The word knowledge in this text has the meaning of something deeper than just simply having a bunch of data in your memory banks. It's a deeper more perfectly in large knowledge of what god is in. What christianity is all about these telling us that we need to grasp. hold up in verse. Two where you read the word. No it means to perceive with i any of the senses could be it could be hearing could be tastes could be smelled whatever. But it's knowing that experience so let's look at how the sensors can actually influence our conscience through our knowledge of understanding because he was saying that it will do that. The sentence do affect our conscience in ways that we don't normally think but as we get into this concept of talking about our conscience. Can i think that really conscious comes in two forms. I we have our conscience. That's internal or self-knowledge this general sense of right or wrong. That many people seem to have even if they don't follow. Christ you know you go into any culture and sort of murders wrong you know. They may not even read the scriptures but they understand that there is value to life and so these are some things that may not necessarily been top. There just seemed to be carrying through. But it's not always the case. As how many remember jim elliot you know. Back in the nineteen fifties sixties in that timeframe missionary to very savage tribe. Very violent tribe actually. They ended up being killed as missionaries Because those that that understanding of right and wrong that existed for them they'll praise god the lives of those missionaries still felt a heart and compassion for those people and went back and they have since the chief has come to know the lord and as well as number of the tribes people. They're great movie. That actually helps unfold. That's called end of the spirit was released that probably about ten fifteen or no longer. Go mashed up twenty fifty to twenty years ago now while i'm getting old don't you shake your head. Yes at me. Andy but you are right but the great film that really helps to depict that steven curtis chapman also has done a concert. Video also has some of these tribes people that are actually on tour with him. And it's just one of you that got that house. There's little interview thing that goes on at the end of that was pretty cool but all that aside we have this understand. The conscience is up. There's some level of it seems to be intrinsic but the vast majority of our conscience is actually learned base announced that we have either been taught or that we have experienced for instance. A person put it this way. How many of you would like to go home and have a plate of magazines for dinner tonight. You know that's not high-priority less how but there are some cultures would have is okay. They do that. Maybe you're not going to person that likes s cargo or snails l. In fact you say that most people and they're like that's discussing but let me tell you. I tried them once they're delicious Okay especially when you saw them in a lot of butter but maybe you might wanna play your ears for this one kelly. Because in france they eat course mean lake big juicy beef okay but here we would say oh. That's so wrong. How could you ever do that right. Our conscious in the sense would not let us do that but in some cultures. It's a okay. Does that mean we're right. they're wrong no it's our conscience has been affected by some of our learning. What we've been told is simply right or wrong. How many of you remember wasn't it does seem like that. Long ago i remember being brought up in the church of the seventies eighties and the concept of being cremated was frowned on by the church. And it was like you should only be buried in bodily form in the casket and that somehow or another. It is wrong to any other way. But yet it wasn't always the case there's lots of times where cremation was okay and it seemed like as we've gone out and we realized that really you put the body in the ground eventually just becomes that anyway. We're just hanging speeding. The process up a little bit and so we understand that also. It's just the body. It's just shell right. Our spirit has actually gone on craig's side. That you know to the thief today. you're going to be with me. In paradise know when we die we do not stay in that body and so that has changed. We've become more knowledgeable the scriptures things that we said that were wrong which really didn't have any scriptural basis. We have thereby adjusted now. We've also got to be careful because what we're seeing in our culture today. Is that to the extreme where we are beginning to say that things that are written because we are now evolving and we now know all about for instance dealing with sexual preferences and things like that we now know certain things about hormones and things like that so now all these things should be okay. But you know there's something like that. The scriptures pretty clear on that marriages for man and for a woman. And we do hold of that very strongly because scripture hopes to that strongly. Don't shoot the messenger. Okay we're just holding up the word and so we see that we need to sometimes ask ourselves what is truly biblical. And what isn't when it comes to things if we consider either right ron or preferred based on our conscience conscience may times learn from our past. It's a file of our life and senses. We have belt or learned over time. These are turned into emotions that can influence our present in our future through our behaviors. Our conscience is the holy spirit at some mace. Think though the holy spirit can speak to your conscience candy now but do not think that just because you a christian that somehow the holy spirit replaces your conscience to think that puts us in a dangerous place. The holy spirit speaks from god from our culture and our conscience has been put by our culture now influence the way that we think actually culture act what we have maybe learned at times. The pasta paul brings into the conversation in verse. Three by saying it's when we know. God that god will teach the deeper things of knowledge from his point of view through the holy spirit so those mind at change silhouettes on our conscience can most times hard to decipher. The god means that he is trying to teach us. So we've got to be willing to bring emotion. Gotta bring our thinking into submission to him. All of our emotions mix without perceptions of what's happened us can cause us to have some faulty understandings and what we have been taught directly or indirectly can interfere with our godliness. And how we ought to think if we're to think like christ there was to kind of drive this point home there was an aviator who was in the navy. I just wave back from a mission over afghanistan. He had gotten vertigo. His senses got very confused. The biggest was his sense of flight which can be deadly. When you're trying to land on an aircraft carrier in the middle of the ocean. He thought his plane was actually flying right side up but when he looked at his instrument panel actually flying upside down everything he did was backward to the instruments but yet in his mind they were correct and so in that moment he had a big choice to make. Do i trust my perceptions. What do i simply depend on the instruments that are in front of me now. Praise god he chose rightly to follow the instruments that were in front of him and simply began to adjust and was able to land safely. Say we've run into the same thing because we deal this thing called a sinful nature and what that tends to do is tends to make us fly upside down. When we think we're flying right side up it can make us think that we're doing the right things. But in essence we are doing wrong things and the only way to really get on track is the follow the instrument panel in front of you which is which is your bible right. It's time in prayer to the almighty god so we need to be willing to all of these understandings understanding that they may be actually faulty. Bring them into lying. With the word of god and when there's a contradiction between what we think and what the word says we trust what the word says we trust our navigation panel conscience is guided by our convictions and therefore because of that. And it'll be guided by convictions. No matter if they're wrong or indifferent your transients will be guided by convictions. So therefore our convictions have got to be consecrated. We've got to make them holy. So there's three types of convictions. Really that we see in this the play in many of these top on this passage i is right convention tabora convictions conviction. That is viable base. Putting the first things first to make sure that we are living the way. God wants us to live. Character would become defined as the will to do what is right as god defines it not as we defined by the way that god says shop not by what feels comfortable in the moment by what god said that i what is less costly or the easy way out we want it to be god honoring in god loving in our actions so we need to have break convictions however it is possible and many times believers. We can walk around with ron convictions. There's a great example of this inscription their name for in an aiops inspire. You remember those guys. Those are people that ended up going into a church service and they were going to give the greatest offering ever and they did. And the result. God struck him dead level testament. No actually that's new testament that is new testament what was wrong. Is it bad to offering to christ. No absolutely not. The problem was their heart. They were doing it to be seen by men they wanted. Get the glory for themselves not to give glory to god see their convictions. Were all wrong. There are guided by selfish conscience rather than a decision to want to do. What was pleasing. It's possible to have we convictions. You have good convictions. Or what seemed good but they are very we'd because they're not grounded biblically or because we let other things interfere. Judas would be one good example of that one who had some very weak convictions. He he was doing something good. And that's intended turning over christ to be crucified. Then you've got pilot remember him. Here's a guy who said. I find no wrong in this man and tried to do everything to convince people that jesus should be set free. But what was the result. They cried crucify him and out of fear of what the people might do to him. He chose to turn them over wash he today. We'll have this man's blood is not at my hands on you but those are convictions. Did not take a stand. He had the power that moment to say. No not gonna happen but he chose to give in what we want to have. Is one have the right convictions. Those are bible base but right conviction first of all need to be that. They need to be personal convictions. It is not enough for us. Just to say i'm going to do x y z. Because the bible says now should that be a good enough reason loud one sense. Yes but you see. The problem is too many times people gonna take cushion. Should live like this. So therefore that's well they're they're living at for more of a corporate level than a personal level. What's the difference. See the personal level. Says this. Because i have a god that loves me. Indicate everything that he had for me. My personal desire is. I wanted to do whatever i can to exemplify my love back to him. See that because i'm doing because the bible says so or simply because this is what a good christian should do. It's doing it. Because of the relationship i have jesus christ and i want to reflect that love in every possible way that i can to the point. That this holiness forevermore like. We're talking about this morning. That holiness is permeating through our lives. Do you understand that. The kind of conviction of paul had. Why else would you ever go and plant churches when you have to suffer shipwreck and bees and persecution and everything else. He had to go through hunger and imprisonment. Why go through it after all. i'm already saved. I already got jesus in my life. He's already kind of cleanse me from everything. Let me just go just kind of hunker down and not have to live kind of life. That's going to require that stuff of me because paul's conviction wasn't about just doing what was right. It was living his life in a way that would please god on all levels and when god called him he's like yes. Lord i will do. And i will go everywhere that you direct me. In fact even five times. He wanted to go places that set the holy spirit wouldn't let him well. Why is that. Does that mean that he was trying to walk down the road knob suddenly hit a brick wall. No what it dealt with the fact that holy spirit spoke and said that's not where i want you to go and his desire was for the things of god so much like okay if you don't want me to go there. I'm not doing there as much as i want to. I've got other churches in these areas. The last place. I want to go to macedonia. There's too many other things i need to go do. But yet if that's what you want. That's what i'll because of the love that he had for god and it was that kind of love that allowed him to go all the way to the to the point where he lost his head for the sake of the gospel and was executed. Our salvation is personal and our service has got to be personal and our convictions have got to be personal. Based in rooted in that relationship with christ. The bible is filled with men and women who left evidence of their convictions. It's give you some examples. Thing about joseph joseph a man who preferred purity over popularity. Here's a man who had everything is also there serving in pot. Afars house ponders wife had a for him. And you know what have been really easy for him just to give in right that but you know his whole his. His relationship with god was more important. He's like. I cannot sin against god in this manner and so therefore i won't and he ended up literally having to flee from her as she basically the coat of is at and as a result dot honored him in that moment right wrong he finds himself in prison as a result of his purity. Now obviously god had his thing. We know that as we finished reading the story he was raised to be the second half the second most authority in all of egypt so guys did green restoration. God did work things together. According for the good according to those who were called according to his purpose but joseph was willing to suffer whatever was going to come just to stay pure before. God you got daniel who wooded defile himself with the king's music or the king's straight you have shadrach meshach abednego who were willing to doubt. Even when everybody else did vow before that statue of navigate nazar and they're the only three were willing to take a stand and of course god was right. Donata them immediately right wrong. They have found themselves being thrown into a furnace. But to god show up into god work to their good absolutely the flame them and they came out without clothes even be cinched or even the smell of smoke on their clothes. How many have ever had a campfire in the backyard. Okay how far away from that fire. I come in smelling like it. But yet god worked a miracle. Seek god will honor those who will choose godly convictions. Ungodly pursues over personal gain. Even people like simon. Peter sounded up going when he said we ought to obey god rather than men and the apostle paul even in this passage saying i will used to do anything that will hinder a brother. Even if it means. I can't have t-ball ever again right. That's kind of my translation. But that's that i that's what he's saying. Even if it means. I have to go without eating meat. I would do that for the sake of a brother. See it's about convictions. Just worth fighting for their worth sacrificing for convictions. Also have got to be practical she. Convictions really are of absolutely no value. If all the ended up becoming a set of ideologies lot of people will have convictions and be very passionate about something and can talk very passionately about it. but yet they're almost like those little chihuahuas right. They're all barkan. Nobody can bark up a storm. They can make all kinds of noise and they can sound good. But let me ask you. where's your. Are you practical convictions. Convictions actually affect your behaviors. Convictions actually affect your attitudes. Will they actually affect the way that you treat other individuals because they are not practical if we are not willing to practice our convictions. They really are not convictions. And all other ours. Just good ideas. The bible will give you convictions. That will make you different from the rest of creation and you will stand out like a sore thumb or maybe you'll stand out like a really really good thumb while the weight but to some people. You are sore thumb when you live out godly convictions. Especially in our world is we get further and further away from biblical mandates. Our country was built on and as we get further getting to the point where pushing god more into the corner christians. True christians are standing out more and more and more. And if you notice that the world is getting more and more and more irritated by it you know. This isn't a political thing. I think that just you what went on with you. Know amy's through hearings a good example of a worldly attitude that exists towards those of faith. And you know people could get worse so the thing is if all we're doing the cushion the church thing on this morning if i were doing just the gathering together because it's what we usually do on sunday and it's not true heartfelt conviction that is affecting our touch that's being dictated by the our behaviors. Then what will do when we find ourselves. Standing before the panels and being questioned and being pushed will give in. If we don't make how convictions practical we gotta start living like the bible true right. Christians need practical bible based convictions. Don't stop just because the door slammed in our faces or just because our feelings get a little bit hurt or because we get taken advantage of. If you've been there convictions also need to be pleasing convictions. What do i mean by that. Well i'm not meaning that we need to be about pleasing men or that. We need about policing ourselves to our convictions. Please die guy. Keeps being me back to his. You know got. I want to do things that just put a smile on your face. You know i'm not looking for pats on the back and not looking for huge later or lodge crowns. I just wanted to see a smile. On god's faced by that i mean. Do you remember when you were growing up and all you wanted to do was make your parents proud of you. When you desire wasn't to necessarily. I mean wind up the gifts and you were happy just to see them smile. Just say i'm proud of you. Were way to go. Are we about pleasing god to the convictions that motivate us. Drive us to that point. I was talking with herald earlier this week. And we discussing. Member enact abraham's like great great. Great i don't know how many great so we're anymore. But there's a lot of greats grandsons of adam but can i tell you this adam and this great great great great grandson of his. Actually we're living at the same time. In fact adam died in only one general those only one generation between the flood. Okay then nick was prior to all that but you ever stop to think inequality scripture as a man who did not die. It says that he walked with god and god took him. God just took him only one other person that happens to scripture and that is taken up into cherry to fire only two people now my thought side thus find out the lord my thoughts are these might be the two witnesses that we see in the book of revelation that coming in getting coosa by getting killed in coming back to. This was the scripture everyman's destined to die once while there's two guys haven't digested so that's just my thoughts. I'm not saying that scriptural but food for thought. But here's the thing inuk sought to please. God i can't help wondering and talk about this. And he had said the same thing there. Something either may have had conversations with adam maybe hudson conversation about. Hey dad great great. Great great granddad. How was it getting to walk with god face to face what. Tell me what it was like the the garden. Oh there's nothing compared to let me tell you a little bit about you know and thinking about the kind of conversations that have happened that maybe somehow and we don't see this as scripture by can't help but wonder if somehow maybe those conversations took place and it created a hunger an inner conviction enacted. I wanna please god so much i can have that kind of experience and know god granted it to him. See our convictions when we allowed to do that. Become powerful convictions. If convictions are going to carry any supernatural divine power that is so going to influence up the behaviors of the things that we do for in a way. That's gonna touch people in a profound manner only going to happen. Just those convictions. Are christ-centered though. Make a strong christians. They'll save homes. They'll save families. There's some there's still contending for that in our families but stay true. Stay the course. Keep living christ in front of your family and god will honor it quite senate. Convictions will turn us from sin. And they'll turn us from compromise by the greatest show in degrade greatest power the have. How many of you know you can't for yourself for your own sin but yet somehow when we begin to live our lives. According to god's principles his salvation. I plans from sin. But then he gives us the power to walk out that salvation day after day after day without conviction we will never ever bring honor to gap. Because without dudley conviction the conviction that will govern our lives will be for selfish gain and those things will never bring her to him. You understand the your salvation. Even though it was a free gift of god salvation could not be had by you until you recognize the strong convictions. About sin and only when you realize that strong conviction were you able to be set free as you repented convictions about how we live our lives about the way that we serve. The lord must be personal. They can't be dictated from a pulpit. There can only be dictated by your personal relationship. You have with god and through time in the word and your timing prayer and as you allow god to begin to speak those things in your like no very practical way. We're also it's like okay. God this is great stuff but now show me how you want it to change today. Show me how you want me live this out today. All we do is just have our devotion that we read the scriptures that we get inspired. But we don't let it actually transform. It's only done half. The work conviction is what will help bring that transforming work and israel. We allow those convictions take place. Our conscience will then become changed. And we'll begin to live a conscience that will be pleasing to god and all of a sudden thinks that he loves. We love things that he hates. We begin to hate and despise things that once brought us. Glory off sudden. Now it's like they leave a bad taste nine. We truly long endure for the things that god loves in fort which is perhaps people in the world to begin say. Wow you've really changed north. Say that nabet with almost negative connotation but no there's no greater compliment you can be given than while you have changed and i guess that's my question today. Have you changed. Are you different today than you were a year ago. Are you mocking a life. That just looks a little bit more like him than it did even six months ago. I'm not saying that you get all do this to you the minute you say i'm better. That was the only come up. Say yeah but remember two months ago your way down here you know god does look at the way down. There's but he lives has where were you then and have you consistently been growing me. Did you always to things. When you're growing up in your family love ever change now did you hopefully love. Moore's years went on did you show. Moore's years went on. Yeah did you mess up along the way but it didn't take away from the heart that was still there same way. Jesus so live godly convictions. Let him begin to soften your conscience brand new ways in my god. Thank you the today. We can stand before you whole incomplete but yet lord. We know that we are still broke alert. We are whole incomplete to the extent that we can be whole and complete right now guide. You could reveal some things tomorrow. You can give us some things next week next month next year. There are always bringing us into more homeless with you. God we ask that you would help us to have a conscience that is so soft and so pliable that loyd you can mold us that you can shave person to the people you desire to become. Helpless governor come rigid. Help us to never become at that place where we are not able to bag or we think that we have finally achieved help us always even though we know you satisfied our soul help us always hungry for more always love for more of your just more of your holiness. Have your perfect way in our lives in. God be honor impreza today in. Jesus say thank you for tuning into today's broadcast. We pray that it was beneficial for you. Be sure to tune in tomorrow for another way of life on me. You can learn more about our church by to stick our website at vitamin dot. Org you can also find us on facebook at facebook dot com slash like we can learn about upcoming events to find links to videos for these broadcasts being service. You can also view our sermons on our youtube channel at bit dot l. y. slash. Like todd main with each of those words capital. Thanks for listening to light main make.

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Let's be clear on that so help me. Welcome in. He's the member of the band. Incandescent if you're wondering about them definitely do a little google research will of course Lincoln on our show notes. But it's a band you definitely want to check out. They have toured internationally there also from right here in the Pacific northwest. And I'm going to get into the guests in him. Introduces bandmates to you but we just have our guest today. He's of course the vocalist and guitarist. They've been on great tours that you've probably heard about creation impassable spirit festival northwest spirit fest. Texas dove fast. We'll get to that in a second son fast high-voltage worship fast away by the way festinger going on in these bands they've toured with great names. And you've probably heard of this guy. Toby Mac maybe show of hands. My Hands Up Thurday appear further from the News Boys Callous Ryan Stevenson Colton Dixon and so many more. Help me welcome my guests. Andrew Andrew how are you man undoing. So good how're you doing my friend. So Andrew Tell me Your bandmates because I didn't WANNA put your names and I'm really bad with names some time so I skipped over those but but who are the bandmates that make incandescent yes including myself. There was four of the guys at Ryan Armstrong the terrorist in music director. Victor Calling Johnson. Who was rhythm guitar and kind of Auxiliary Player Shane Collins Bass Guitar and then Zach right was sergeants while I was awesome? And it's almost like you've done that if you times right onstage. Probably the interests were a little different on six. But uh we didn't have those two to play but we are going to play a little sample of some of your stuff at the end of the show so stay tuned for that. But you and I met in this weird sort of way. You're you're at the DUB fast down here in Medford because you're not in Medford. You're actually in Idaho area right. Yeah currently live and work in the music in North Idaho Spokane Area Nice. We love that. And so you and I met in this festival. So we're kind of talking we're interacting. And then you say that your Home Ministry is real life ministries right at that at least at that time yet and it's still stands true today member realize that's awesome and so what's weird about. It is our community pastor where I go to. Church is from real life and so that's kind of how we had that like small world. Small Valley Connection Really. Yeah yeah yeah it was really cool to see. It's it's Bob Duly right. That is correct. Yeah absolutely awesome. He's a great guy. He is a great guy so there we are so So Andrew if we get this most important question out of the way and that's this. What Sei shoes do you wear? Depends on the kind of shoe if it's kind the casual shooter like a nine and a half If it's more of an athletic shoe attend somewhere in there and is there a certain brand or style. Wow that you love more than another you know yes If I'm going for kind of the cool band guy look it's always gonna be vans the answer If I'm doing anything else It's usually Adidas like walking or running shoes. I like the vans. Look that's that's that's a good luck. So we'll we'll imagine you're wearing your vans today right I am. That's good so we don't even have to match. That's that's great so so Andrew. I'm curious about this like when did you first thought to yourself or maybe had this epiphany come to you. I WanNA being banned right. I mean I know as a kid. I've looked up to people on stage and people with guitars and been in the youth circle. You know obviously and seeing people bands and I'm thinking when did they get their start. Yeah that actually takes me back Quite a long ways the first first memory that I have of that I'm not exactly sure what year it was a young guy maybe twelve or thirteen and We had a Franklin Graham Crusade that came up to spokane and they were here for three or four days and they had great Christian acts x played an Franklin would get up and and deliver the Gospel and I remember. We went to that every single night that they were here. I got introduced so many bands and one band in particular stood out to me that was third day and I was just like. Oh my Gosh I love with those guys are dealing. How do I do that and then follow that up? I was a young musician at the time. I was learning guitar and trying trying to figure all that out and my favorite Christian artists at the time was a guy named Stephen Chapman and so not long after the the Franklin Graham Crusades it's I got surprised with tickets to one of his concerts and went there and had the exact same experience and we will like. I'm all in for this. How do I do that? And so I think that's what started my journey of trying to figure out what it would look like to to start a band become a musician and and I think those two two two slices of history were kind of the the launch pad for for what I'm doing today. Well I've never been Steven Curtis Chapman having personally but he is a phenomenal guitar player. I mean just phenomenal and so I think you're obviously following in some good footsteps there and and Mac Powell actually. Yeah I think at one of those deb fast and you guys might have been. There may not have been but I actually ran into him in the dark dark set where they were doing kind of more of an acoustic thing. And I literally Got Push Bhai Mac Powell's so I'm not mad at him. I've forgiven him. You know but but he did kind of pushed me out of the way I might have been in the way. So that's my story but I love that uh-huh funny I have a MAC towel story too so we the first time that we've ever played with day It was an outdoor festival. And of course you you know we kind of opened the show and then there. They closed it by the time it was done it. Was You know ten. Thirty eleven at night and We're packing up getting trade to head out and all of a sudden. It's like black hooded. Figure just appears out of nowhere coming over to our merch and comes over. And he's he's like. Hey My name's mack. I just wanted to say you guys did. An excellent job preceded a shake my hand and wishes well and then just as like nick quickly and silently that he entered the frame he just kind of disappeared and I was all under the cover of darkness. So kind of funny. How those lineup? Funny I now want to go back out and ask him about his hooded alter ego. That's that's a funny story like that. So yeah so Andrew. How is your vision? Maybe been changed in life. Now that you're you know you've been in this band and how's life been changed for you. Oh Gosh Man. Life has been turned upside down on being the last couple of years You know when we when when we started you know definitely like headstrong kind of boisterous young man who was really excited and naive to the of of the world especially the entertainment world much less the Christian entertainment world so kind of went into it with a lot of ambitions and you know thought I knew everything at the time mint and in the year sense. You know you kind of go through a lot of humbling experiences realize oh you don't actually have it figured out and the more that you progress through its Year identity starts change from like this ban guy in. Everybody should appreciate me too. Well there's so many other people who are way better at what we do than I do and I'm just humbled to be in there You know kind of in their I fear and I think the biggest thing for me that's changed is rather than you know being headstrong and boisterous young and and kind of a little bit of a know would all I'll admit it. You know back then. It was definitely that way See You more of a a sponge. You know just kind of soaking up everything. That's around whether it was off working with other songwriters producers tech people tech is a huge part of my world in life and just becoming living lake Just someone who gleaned information and tries to become more of a well rounded person. I think that's one thing that's changed. The other thing is within my own identity Not being defined by what I did but actually being defined by who God says that I am that's been a big transition in my life and of course you know you have to live through the experiences that Kinda take you on. That journey from Point A.. Point B but I think you know just offhand. I think those would be the two things that kind of stand out to me over the the journey of the last ten or eleven years you mentioned you mentioned being humble right. I don't know about you. My hand is not up when I hear. Let's let's figure out how to be humble can you you think of a moment where you're like man that that really maybe humbled you personally. Do you have that moment. Gosh yeah you know there was. There was a traveling festival that we were part of It actually had a different name in every city eighty but we were contract to play it but also one of the ways that we ended up on gigs is we also the provided Some audio support for opening bands. Or you know some of the middle bands and we got hired for this thing and When out to the first date somewhere in I think it was southern? Idaho Boise Year Salt Lake City. Something like that and Got Their thinking that we had our game plan in place and you know. We've we've got our act together and then when she know it Everything everything just falls apart You know there's not time to do the things that we were anticipating to do the other talent that we're working with weren't necessarily impressed with what we were doing It kind of just turned into amateur hour for us in that. Of course were we kind of the the bigger regional band. Who's opening for the big guys and you know they're seeing us kind of fallen faces and I think you know? We went into that not necessarily with the arrogance or or pride but definitely thinking that we have the tools to To to pull it it off and then when everything started falling apart you can realize oh. Gosh there's so much more to this that we didn't factor in or we didn't think about Sweden about that. We didn't think about you know how this one circumstance could affect another so. It was just really humbling. Experience to top it all off. You know the the guys that we admire. I think mercy meeting in Matthew West. Were kind of the big acts on this run. You guys are also watching us in near the crew guys like you know who who. Who are these guys in? So that that's that's one that kind of jumps out at me right now I'm sure there's a lot of others if I took a step back in started thinking about it but I just remember feeling so oh defeated in that moment in not feeling worthy of the position that we'd been entrusted with the cool thing. Is You know God ended up working out over the course of the time that we were doing that that run a shows But I just remember the first couple of days were just I absolutely humiliating but you know over the course of everything that that I've done and we've done as a band I think I think there's been a mantra that we've created you know it's you always have to do something wrong at least one time In order to learn from it make sure you don't do the same mistake again and then also kind of the classic one. It's always better to try and fail to not have tried at all so even even though there's a lot of humbling experiences that you know Kinda come along with doing what we did There's a lot of growth that came out of it and you now at the end of the day it made us better musicians made us better people Better guys and so. We're we're better for it but we had to kind of fight through a couple of those little seasons you know in order to get to where we're at today. That's incredible and I first off. Thanks for being vulnerable. In that regard I mean that I mean I don't WanNa say that was awesome. That that the happened but just awesome that you're able to share that and be that vulnerable about a a really re received that and respect that for sure her by the way. I'm just curious on this one. Do you know the largest concert ever to be held a number of people. I don't Google so yeah. I was just curious if you knew this. This is according to Google back in one thousand nine hundred four. Maybe you've heard of this Guy Rod Stuart. I'm kidding. Of course I'm Rod Stewart. So he they have a record number of three point five million people they have as the record for the largest rock concert in history so google that like I said three point five million people so let that sink in for a second as a musician. Okay so imagine this right A. You're on stage. Three point five million people which is crazy to think about and everybody's screaming your name and singing your songs. What would that feel like? Oh my gosh I think that would just be one of the most overwhelming experiences of my entire life. Like if I if I was in that position I I don't know if I'd be able to get any words out. I would just be so overcome by the massive -ness of the spectacle of something like that It also probably be really emotional. You know Just to think of while like really the end of the day I'm just a normal guy Who happens to make music and there's something in the music that other people connect with in that thread is what has brought everybody together for this is so that itself would also be overwhelming? Wow something that I have to say resonates with so many people and they want to be here for this It would just yeah. I think I would would just be overwhelmed on a few different levels. I mean because I'm I'm thinking about you know the the Franklin Graham event that you're talking about I mean that that draws a crowd right right. Yeah obviously draws a crowd but I'm just thinking man to have that opportunity to stand in front of perform in front of you know three point five million the people I mean. That's just mind boggling to me and I'm thinking to myself you walk off that stage I mean where's your identity. Where's your where's sure vision in that I mean? Do you think any of that would be put to the test. Oh Yeah I'm sure you know I. I definitely think that ego would have have a huge Parts of play in you know my opinion of myself or my opinion of of what we're doing In I I I can't imagine being in a position like that kind of having a little bit of an identity crisis because you almost become this caricature of who you. Are you know what I mean. There's I don't know Rod Stewart but you know I've had the privilege to be around a lot of influential people Both inside of Christian music outside and at the end of the day A lot of the people that have great success are really down to Earth. And I think there's attention that they that they fight in Miami. I never got huge. Earth was never a huge fan but we still kind of had a little bit of that tension where we had success and you know that was kind of some of the struggle. I was talking about earlier about you. Know Ah being defined by what we did as opposed to you know who we actually are like Andrew. You know a son a brother or cousin a follower of Christ like those are the things that actually we should find our identity in but we oftentimes get so tied up in in the thing the wet it and and in some ways it can be a good thing but in other ways it can be a bad thing. I honestly like I couldn't even begin to fathom what that would look like in not that kind of environment It would just be. Yeah it would be insane. It'd be crazy to to to be in that guy. She was for sure. I like liked to plug their especially in that guy. That was nice. I like that in. But that's okay nobody does it. It just works out which we love but but my whole thing is is right this identity and I'm not expecting you to like name dropper or anything like that or divulge you know tour tour secrets or tour conversations that you've had but I mean let's face it you've toured with some big names in Christian music. I'm curious if you ever encountered others maybe. He's struggling with their identity or who they are in. I love how you said you know. That's not my identity as a brother that as my excuse me that is my identity. It's it's not that. Do you think there are other Christian artists that have struggled with that on my work. Yes absolutely yeah. One hundred percent percent. How so well again? Not named job in. I mean I'm not expecting you to be like well so and so sad to me and you know by any means not going there but yeah and so there's there's one artist Who I will not name that? I've spent time with over the years who just really struggled with Really their place in the world and feeling this Dr That the Holy Spirit put on their heart to do this thing. And you know really had a sense of promise from the Lord that you know. This was the path that it's got had for their life and every time you know something good would become of their career or something that might move the ball down Field so to speak something else equally as not awesome would also happen. And so. There's kind of this back-and-forth doc. In Fourth of you know take two steps forward. One step back two steps forward one step back and this person had a lot of people you know in in the music industry saying hey like you've got great songs you've got this and you've got that But so you'll you'll never make it because you don't have the look or maybe you're too old and so this person living in that tension of sand will like I. I have this this calling this path that I really truly believe that God has put me on and there's some good things going for me. There's some things working for me but then I have you know kind of the gatekeepers of industries saying well. No that's not going to actually be the case. Maybe should focus on on doing this or doing that. And so even to this day I know this person struggles with that. And you know it's when that's your life and and you also have to support your family And do whatever it takes to to take care of them because they're your number one priority you can almost have some and some sort of an identity complex because you're having success but you're not having success you have this leading from from God in and you're starting to see you things move in that sense but then you have the world and the people who control the world at your sand. Well that's not actually the thing so you know where where is your identity. Where does it lie? What's what's the anchor and just living in the tension of that in not swinging too far one way or the other I know is a is an ongoing struggle? Oh for this person and You know my heart really goes out to down in. I think about them and impre from often in that because I to see what God's doing but I worry about all the other details in just their personality in their makeup in Howard Howard How are they gonNA fight through this But ultimately for me kind of being on the sidelines being a cheerleader. I know that you know God definitely has a trajectory and guide Leeds indoors that God opens noman can shut so really just trying to encourage this person to recenter your life on God and walk in the way that he's he's leading and don't be influence one way or the other by I would say that would be one example without giving too much away. Yeah like I said I'm not. I'm not looking Frieda namedrop or break confidence or anything like that. I just know that you know I would imagine that somebody when they when they get to that stage of of their career. You know that at Pinnacle that there probably is some identity lack of a better worrying identity crisis that perhaps goes John. So I'm curious about this to Andrew how. How are you pursuing this vision of being in a band how is that? Hey let me restate that. How in pursuing your vision in your band? How that shaped your identity? Well I think that over the course of time God has really. I used the vehicle of my band in the projects that I'm involved with to actually bring the full circle back to how he wants the new to identify myself and I kind of talked about it a little bit earlier where you know early on in in early onset of some success Really finding myself thinking. I'm Andrew the singer Guitar Player. You're in the front man of this band and everybody who knows me knows me as that you know. There's there's a lot more people who know me and I know and and this is what they know me by you can buy into that. Lie that you. Are you know all that in a bag of chips because your identity and your makeup becomes What you're doing think and I think as as guys I think that we all struggle with that Whether were performing positions or Ino we we've got a great career and we're kind of defined by what it is that we do and we can lose sight of who got actually says that we are because we become so wrapped up in that thing in that what that at some point it can become a stumbling block in that. That moment definitely happened for me and it was in those in that time that God says okay this is you know where you're at but I I wanNA actually show you who you are in. That is your my son. You're better of Jesus and you're her again a son a husband a brother a father now and I want you to be grounded in these things because I say that you've been made new you in made clean in ICU. As a child adopted child and everything else is secondary to that And so it's for me. It's been just a long kind of growing up process of Discovering who I actually am and not is finally living in the freedom of who who the Lord says Iran is a you know a forgiven follower of Christ and then everything else comes after that it does that. Answer your question no I think it does one hundred percent and I loved you gifts plotting in the background. I love it. And it's it's not often geared engages sometimes but but he did engage on that one so so is that really how you define yourself in is is is based on who you are in Christ I rather than who you are on stage so to speak. Yeah absolutely indefinitely. Throughout the last season I'd say the last year era of my life That's more true than ever End It's in fact it's so fresh and new for need that it's a constant reminder every single day that I'm not defined by what I do I'm defined by him just there's been some some struggle And there's been awesome attention in in change Within the things that I'm doing in the people don't involve over the last twelve months and A lot of Just questions you know teachings and then got out of that and there's no closure in you kind of can get caught in this world Orlando fl Who Am I what am I where am I and God is really used that? In addition to my experience with the incandescent to bring me to at this point of of being centered and finding my my peace and my foundation in him in restructuring the life life with that. And it's really interesting because my wife and I have kind of had these conversations recently and She's just been amazing to you Bounce these ideas and concepts off of because I don't think anybody is quite as honest with you as your spouse can be. Sometimes it can hurt you know But it's always generally said with love when it's coming for her and she's she's helped me kind of walk through some of these things and helped me realize who I am in in. That's the crux of you know. kind of what I said. I love that you're giving your wife credit credit right. Isn't that awesome that you have a helmet now because back when I met you I mean maybe she was on the radar. Maybe she wasn't but I'm so happy to hear that you have that helped me to come alongside you to kind of round out those those edges in a Holy Spirit type moment. I'm sure because you know. Sometimes I confuse the spirit my wife. They're very similar. Yes ask the Holy Spirit of is that you honey. You're honey was at the. Yeah so that's that's awesome that you can that you have that now. So that's that's certainly search a great blessing so Andrew. I know the ban you know. Obviously it takes money to to run the band. Equipment travel expenses things of that nature nature. But what did it really cost abandoned. And maybe you personally being out on the road I know. Money is obviously a factor into that. So we'll we'll eliminate that from the equation but what did it cost you guys relationships In not like the boyfriend girlfriend break-up kind of thing the just The relationship in the community that you have with people. We were so busy in so preoccupied. Moving the ball down on the field with our band that Things really just Kinda suffered at home you know for most of the lifetime of our bands our Guitarist Ryan he was a dad in a father in so as well as Calling in now I think about it instill in this pursuit of trying to to make or to get to the next level it just took time away from our our families and it took time away from our church communities and I think that's the biggest sacrifice you know money the logistics expenses and all that stuff aside Relationship and community with our loved ones in just our folks back at home was was the biggest cost and everything And I just remember having moments of of being on the road or being at a rehearsal and looking at facebook book on my phone and seeing so and so got married and I wasn't able to be at their wedding or so and so just had a kid and you know not there to welcome you know that new kid into the world world and just feeling like life is just passing us. By as we're doing this thing and I think that would be the number one thing that was a a cost or expense. Because of what we were doing. Do you ever regret any of it. Some of it. Yeah there's moments there's definitely moments where I wish. My priorities had been different for sure. The bad part is of course we can never go back words. We can only go forwards right. Yeah Yep that is true But you know what God is. Good you know There's there wasn't any like that blood or anything that necessarily came out of it Feeling like time almost is is standing still for us in what we're doing it but life is moving on for other people you know. Now I can't speak for the other guys in my band. Speak for you right now. I know but you know now being a father I can only imagine like in a way. Just have a brand new baby in. I have to be gone for a week or two weeks and you know just seeing my daughter now how how. She is changed from one week to the next as she's as she's growing and feeling like you're missing out on those moments Would just is be would be really tough and so I think that would be the biggest the biggest thing aside from trying to make it work from a financial standpoint But the amazing thing is you know we've been off the road for a little bit now and God is just kind of brought things back full circle and the relationships in the community that was there. You know his kind of started to come back together. And it's it's been really good but being in it. Those were those were someone moments that were the hardest for sure. Wow I mean that was. That was some heavy stuff by the way. So thank you again for your vulnerability on that so so go. We'll change the channel to a little lighter. Subject hopefully musical influences. I'm curious about this and I know for fest. You guys did A. I'm I'm trying to think of who it is now on. It's escaping me. I won't back down. Who Sings Gary? Help me out on Teddy Tom. Petty thank you. Couldn't think of it. I'm like my drawn a blank on Tom. Petty I know you guys. Maybe that's an influence. But what are some other musical influences. Yeah so I think over over the the lifetime of what we were dealing Different influences kind of poke their head in our music at different points so when we started the band was originally Just a worship project in so At that time it would be like Jesus culture at that time You Know Hill Song Long and Lincoln Brewster those were definitely Kinda heavy influences in what we were doing you know as we grew and maybe even discovered cooler music Other guys came into play. Obviously like Thurday Steven Curtis Chapman need to breathe was a huge influence And then as As our band got older we started becoming a little bit more rocky role. So you know Zeppelin and Tom Petty and In a bad company things like that started started really kind of having an influence on the music itself not necessarily the lyrical content but definitely music and Yeah it really kind of a EH presence. I think if you if you ask every single person in the band one common thread of influence was It would definitely be switched foot. Need to breathe and Tom Petty. Those would kind of be the the three main influences in in our in our sound. So did you ever tour which I didn't now if that was on the list or not. I can't remember if you did or didn't know it was always on bucket list We always always always wanted to to at least play one show with those guys And actually we did but we never met them. It was a big festival up in Canada and we were early in the day and then they were actually closing out the night We never got to meet them or or anything with him but that would have been a buck less thing for sure to multiple shows with Scott. Yes yes so another story they come down with switch foot switch vote comes down here in the craze with them and somebody else was was opening for them. I can't remember who it was. But but so jon foreman walks right past me before it. You know you you do the walk up the ramp to the to the pavilion and and I'm like Oh my gosh. That's Jon Foreman. If I could just five minutes with Jon Foreman what would I give. Because he's so ECLECTIC. Maybe that's soundary word but he's just so in his head sometimes with his lyrics and I don't know I just was curious if you ever toured with those guys because I was curious how he is off the stage. But you can't really answer that because you know toward rhythm so we'll skip. That question would care. It's laughing so one of the lessons that you learned in touring and and I know you've had. Obviously we talked about some major influences in in in who you've toured with but what is what is one lesson you learned while touring always pack more more underwear than you think. You'll need that's fantastic. That might be a quarter of the day right now. That's been Garrett's dying thank. You can't hear him. I turn the microphone around. He literally dying. Okay so next question. Can you elaborate on that. Maybe well yeah So I don't know what people think about when they think. Of what the touring life of a musician looks like like but it's definitely not as glamorous as you might think it is especially when you're kind of a sea level or be level band who's slugging it out in a van and trailer because oftentimes you get into a venue. You don't get addressing room or if you do for an outside night show You're dressing room is pop up canopy. And it's you know a hundred plus degrees and you know it's just extreme extreme stream conditions So you don't necessarily get to shower every day. You don't necessarily get to sleep in a bed every day in so it's the grind and so realizing that there's some things that you need to put in place for self care Was it was a big big. I up in her as we started making longer runs Yeah I I think I forgot the other part of your question. I I just just asked to elaborate on that maybe pack more underwear. It was just kind of funny. That's all then. was there a story behind you. Did you get out on the road and not have Ivanov or maybe I did. I don't know I don't I don't even want to go there diverse. In and now I mean I don't know yeah you know you can only flip those inside out so many times before everybody starts noticing that there's something not quite right. That's funny that's good stuff. Do you have a favorite artists that you that you love to tour with more than another. Yeah I think for me my favorite artists that I've ever toured with and done a lot of time with is toby Mac I'm in I've I've been privileged to to kind of tour with him in a couple of different capacities obviously doing shows within with my band. But then I'm also as as road crew and just being around him and his group In fact earlier this year I think I did. Forty spots forty five or fifty shows with him on the hits deep tour. You're in his entire crew from band to tour management to catering like everybody is just so amazing There's just nothing like it in. And he's the real deal he's just he's just a stellar guy. So my toby Mac Story. I feel like it's appropriate the share this I was doing fast again and he was late to the venue and apparently he was golfing over ambandoned and so there was a chance that he was not even going to be able to do meet and greet and people were kind of getting a little grouchy about that because he was late. And so I- somehow finagled my way into to getting to meet him through the promoter of the show that of vast and all that and so I got to meet him and I was like this six or seven person in Medford to meet him that night and I didn't have anything to sign. I didn't have a picture. Didn't have anything to give them to sign. And I remember being very star struck to say the least I could not talk and I know he's just a dude. I know that deep down in my heart at least my mind as my heart doesn't necessarily know that and I I actually said had stumbled over my words I said I think I'm going to call them Mr mckeon at first and then I changed to tell me. And then Toby Mac and you know I'm like stumbling again over my words words and I said can I just share really briefly with you. You're free at last. Album changed my life and put me on a trajectory to become a youth pastor. And it's because of your music that I believe I followed God so closely and he goes man that's awesome. Do you mind if I share that with my wife. Amanda Tonight when I talked to her and I was like yes. Of course I mean no I mean yes you of course you can. I'm thinking like what do I say next. And he's like. Do you have anything for me to sign and I was like like wool. Could you sign my shoes. Will Tracy McGrady. WHO's a basketball player? Also goes by the moniker. T MAC Tracy McGrady MAC anyway. These Adidas yes that I was wearing. That's why I love that. You were talking about so I had t max shoes on. And so he signed the top vocal part of the shoe and it has his signature. I've never worn them since since he signed them. They actually sit in my studio at home. Garrett is dying laughing right now so then later that night. I'm doing security the back side of the stadium as he's getting ready to go on now because now it's time for him to go on as he's walking on stage. It's pitch black dark and I tell you one last question before you go on and people are mad because unlike holding him up because you know toby. He's so gracious and generous. As as you probably more than I do. But then he's kind of stops and he goes. Yeah what's what's your question. I said I got I know this duke or North Carolina and he goes honestly both are very good. I'd like both programs. I really can't decide. I'm like no no no. I need to know though I need. No and he goes. I can't choose but I gotta go but as next the next time you talk to him. I knew a little busy right now. He's got a lot of stuff going going on. But maybe you could just ask him or somehow cinema message and just so I can sleep better at night knowing which school he would prefer to. So I'll if you could happen for me that'd be great so that's my toby Mac story. It's terrible story. Garrett is like why is this relevant but it's very relevant so yeah so I'm curious Favorite band memory man. It doesn't necessarily have to be on the road or just in general favorite band memory. Gosh they are so many. When you're with a group of guys for the time that we've been together a lot of stuff happens happens a lot of weird stuff you know what? I'm just GONNA share it. You know we're going to go. We're going to do it. Let's do so. We were probably five or six years into the band and really starting to gain some traction regionally up in the North West and and there is or was A Big Christian music festival appear called creation northwest and we had tried it for years and years and years to to be a part of that and Eventually you know the the gatekeepers opened the door in invited guided us to to come in But what you need to know. Is that creations kind of been a little bit of a transient festival. You should be the at the the gorge amphitheatre in Washington State For a lot of years and then they had to move to the Seattle area but All the way up to the the time that they kind of shut things down it ended up in in the TRI cities of Washington. I end for those of you. Who may not be familiar with the area? The Tri cities are basically like high desert. Farm country It gets sweltering hot out there There's no reprieve from the Sun. It's just shake and bake out there and so we're five or six years into the into this and You know we're driving in like Nineteen Ninety Five Dodge Conversion van and we get to the festival we play and everything's great But as is we're starting to make our way back home we get about forty minutes Outside of The Tri cities where this is at and The air conditioner and the fan breaks in our on and at that point. It's like the hottest day of the year. It's like one hundred five hundred. I just six degrees outside. Son is just baking down on us and everything goes out and we pull over the side of the road and we try to do some. You know a fixing see what we can do to try and provide some relief ourselves. And nothing's working and the next thing I know members of the band start removing articles of clothing. And you know a a shirt comes off here soup shoes go off. There's somebody takes some pants off and before I know it everybody but the guy driving the thing is all the way down to their Boxers and we're just Killing but not really in this van as we're going seventy miles down the freeway just kind of feeling like we're in an easy bake oven and Just the conversation and the just the vibe that was going on even though it kind of sucked being in that predicament. It was just funny being around the group of guys at that moment experiencing witnessing that It just kind of stands out as a as a memory that I'll I'll hold onto for forever Might have been one of those. You had to be there moments but It's it was. It was funny funny and endearing all at the same time. That's funny but you know. That's what builds a ban right that builds the camaraderie that builds the memory that builds the the moment right. Oh Yeah Oh yeah for sure and Gosh. There's just so much against the happens on the road You get five guys creative And you know who might be bored in certain situations and stuff just happens. It's hilarious. You know it's just so funny. I'm badging never-ending summer camp. That's what I'm imagining interesting. Yeah I am I. Am I kinda on with that. Maybe you are Yup like there's one faction that pranks the other in exactly absolutely all right. Just just checking man. That's that's that's fun. I should have been in a band care. We should start a band. Garrett Says No. We can't start a ban. I'm sorry all right so we're going back to what we talked about earlier. The three point five million right so imagine you're standing in the bank can be with you where it can be useful. Oh whichever you prefer but three point five million people standing there ready to hear you sing. What Song do you sing? Wow that's quite a question. I thought it was ingenious. Really Yeah Man. You know what if you'd asked me this two years or three years ago my answer might have been different I guess it kind of depends on the capacity that they're like they're as as a Christian artist or might there. I'm GonNa let you interpret that however you want okay so I I love the idea of being a Christian artist. And it's you know for me from the get-go Music it has always been the vehicle to ushered the Gospel Ford and push the message of Jesus Ford so honestly As I'm thinking about about this I would sing a song. That's not even my own. I would probably sing in Christ alone. Because it's the entire picture of the Gospel in four minutes in everybody can resonate with that and if there was a legacy that I would wanNA leave from the stage it would be that So yeah that would be my answer. I love that I love that a lot actually because I was wondering about that like as an artist in I know you kind of touched on that just a second but but what legacy do you want to leave. What legacy do you hope? The incandescent has left aft- man at the end of the day. I I really hope the legacy that we leave behind us is one where people are Inspired and and An infield with hope that there's there's something more out there than just the the craziness the world that we live in. And I would want the Gospel to be paramount That would be the legacy I you know. I don't really care if people remember reminding or the other guys names or even the band name for that matter but if they're like oh what. was that one band that saying that one song that might have. I changed my heart towards guide on that would be the legacy I would wanNA leave is that we left impacting the world for Jesus whether there was thousands of people are people one person Truly honestly that's what I would. That's what I would want. I like that answer Sir Andrew. I like it a lot so last question. Then we're GONNA play a game and here's the last question. What is the ban up to? Now I know you guys. Have you know you. You mentioned your new baby baby your marriage you got a lot of stuff going on personally but but kind of give us a rundown of where you guys are in and maybe where you're GONNA go next. Sure yeah actually actually. It's an. It's an exciting time to to be in our circle Unofficially the band is kind of on hiatus as we figure out What we're doing in life you know everybody? All the guys dads and husbands So Making family. The number one priority is the priority So trying to figure out what music looks like in Balance With family life and kind of living healthy tension so technically. We're not not not doing anything right now. But you know you can't stop five creatives from being creative so there is there is music. That's being written There is a record. We started recording recording in Nashville. That still in process and we do have the the desire to see that come to completion by the time on that we don't quite know yet. so yeah really just trying to figure out what that looks like And then a few of US actually have Solar projects and solo endeavors that were working on Not Trying to make a run at it on our own but just for the love of music and having that creative expression we're working on that In fact I actually have An idea that I'm working on and trying to to to put roots to right now for another band collective kind of thing that I would really really love to see I come to fruition but all the the idea and the concept and some of the things are there but I'm all of the details. Aren't quite worked out yet but I would love to tease at least from from the personally that something is in the works kind of kind of Solo in in conjunction with some similar folks. So that's awesome tease away. We we love teases we love to tease is people to care of course really loves tease me. But that's another story so so anyway we're going to play this game we Thanks for sharing that by the way and if people want to get in touch with you will we'll We'll link some of the band's stuff there too and then we'll get some information from you to put in the show notes of. You're okay with that. Absolutely Lincoln. Great Awesome so we play this game. I think he said you. Listen to a couple of shows which really excited by So we played this game called senseless. So you're not here so I'm going to have to roll for you in so here here. We go ooh my favorite question. Yes you got number six which is You get to have dinner with one person. Dead or alive. Who would it be? Oh man and they're buying so or whoever is buying so restaurant you can even pick the restaurant. Okay let's stink here. That's a hard question. Let's we don't ask excuses questions Andrew. No no I'm stumped. One person dead relies they're paying congress. Where like sitting in silence like yeah? Oh man no I think you're going to have to edit all this silence out man this is just. This is a tough one. That's okay we have a good editor. I think MMA you know what I'm just going to say. I think that I'm going with my so I think it would be amazing to share chick-fil-a with petty and see what that guy is all about. Not not the fanciest meal but I think it'd be cool to have some some greasy. You know the Lord's chicken with Tom Petty. I think that'd be awesome. What's your number one question? Ask Him how do you come up with so much material. Where's where's your inspiration? Because that guy's has got a catalog so much stuff. Yeah I mean. Everybody thinks a freefalling last dance with Mary Jane. That's what I'm thinking of even of course I won't back down now that I can. Now I remember Tom Petty. I can quote all these songs. Look at me go. Thank you for helping with those those but but I think that's interesting to write two to one lyricist to another one songwriter to another to have that one on one interaction action to really see kind of where he's getting his inspiration and maybe borrow a little bit of that. Yeah yeah totally. I mean I think about that all the time because I I cannot sing to save my life and I'm so glad my life does not depend on my ability to sing because it would be gone but I do think of artists that you've toured with the Mac Powell's the world the Toby Max. Even you guys you know even Matthew West. I've heard rumors in concert. He literally stops his concert. We'll have people shout Out things objects or whatever things and he writes a song right there on the stage with what shout out and it's awesome. It's not like this cokie song. I mean maybe sometimes it's Hokey. But he does that and I'm just like that is incredibly God given talent people have that ability and to me. That's it's still mind boggling to me on that so yeah for sure. Yeah yeah totally that. Would that would definitely be the crux of ages. Like where's where's your source of inspiration. How do you how do you pull cool? All these ideas and concepts together you know come up with such a vast deep discography of awesome awesome some music that inspired in entire generation. You know like Tom Tom. Petty's music is going to sound like a huge fan boy. But you know I it it you know it really just kind of spent generations you know like you hear songs that were recorded in seventies sixties eighties and still still stand up today in it. I think he kind of all come all boils down to the fact that like good music isn't necessarily the courts or the production of it. It always comes back down onto the lyric. And that's what connects with people. And so I love those those timeless songs and of course there's dozens of other artists that are are the same way but that would that would be the question like how like where. How do you continue to go forward in? Move this thing down the field so that would it. I like it. I like it a lot. So Andrew Final thought what What would you like to leave us with? I would like to leave you guys by saying you know this this whole conversation. I think his kind of had a central point in that is the identity in. And you know. I'm sure there's people who you know ascribed to Jesus teaching call themselves Christians that listen to the show in probably others. Don't think ah I would want to leave with is just knowing that if there's one relationship that you can have in your life that will transform you in ways that you don't even know it would be relationship with him and if you are struggling with your identity or if you're struggling with in An addiction or obsession or you're just in a Rut Ra- bad place or cultures. Got You down having a relationship with Jesus Christ in letting him speak the truth of who you are because of what he did for you in your life would be the most transformational thing that could ever happen to you So that's what I would want people to walk away with From hearing this goodness said it better myself. So that's that's really awesome that you were able to come on and share the Andrew. Thank you so much. We'll we'll end with that and Andrew from the incandescent and vocalists guitarists Tom Petty Fan so cool to hear. So we just want to leave you with that and remember when you walk in other people's shoes you really do get a different perspective on life. Stay tuned for next week. We get into someone else's shoes. Thank you again. The undiscovered ED regulars youth who rebel song. This thank you so much for joining us on other people's shoes. Of course you know I'm your host Neal Matthews only I want to thank my guest Andrew. I really love his perspective on being a musical artist and what that has done his vision how that shaped his identity and obviously sleep along the way there was a great cost to him. Andrew gave so much perspective today I I it was just hard to settle on one particular thing but but really the whole episode so for me was just awesome to be part of that and to share that with you stay tuned. Next week we have a special guest for you. And here's a sneak preview of that. I'm going to go back to my word. Twenty twenty being intentional okay. 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Classic Crusade: Hope for Hurting Hearts

Greg Laurie Podcast

26:02 min | 1 year ago

Classic Crusade: Hope for Hurting Hearts

"Hey Everybody Greg Laurie here you're listening to the Greg Laurie podcast and my objective is to deliver hopefully compelling practical insights and faith culture and current events from a biblical perspective to find out more about our ministry. Just go to our website harvest dot org. So thanks for joining me for this podcast. Let me read to you. Now the words of Jesus Christ for you that have come here tonight. With broken hearts would trouble hearts. With hurting hearts I have hoped for you. Here's what the Lord says in John Chapter Fourteen let not your heartbeat trouble you believe in God. Believe also in me in my father's house are many mentioned if we're not so I would have told you I go to prepare a place for you and if I go and prepare a place for you I will come again and receive to myself that where I am you may be also and where I go you know and the way you know. Thomas said Lord we don't know where you're going. How can we know the way Jesus said I am the way the truth and the life no man comes up the father except through me. Rate words. Many. Of You are listening now with a trouble heart or it's broken. Life is not gone the way that you hoped it would you had a nice plan and then something went wrong you thought your life would be happy tidy and safe. But like unwanted visitor tragedy came knocking. Pain took up residence in your house won't go away. Steven Curtis Chapman in his record beauty will rise has a song called where are you? God it in that Song Stephen Asks these very honest questions where are you God because you are churning out to be so much different than I imagined and where are you God because I am finding life to be much harder than I plan you know that I believe in you but I still have these questions. There's nothing wrong with having questions. There's nothing wrong with asking why in his book the Lion Witch and the Wardrobe CS. Lewis. Writes about a conversation between Little Lucy and Mrs Beaver Lucy very nervous about meeting the Great Azlan the lion. Lucia of Mrs Beaver is he say I would feel rather nervous about meeting alliant. Mrs Beaver says in response that you will jerry and make no mistake if there's anyone who can appear before. Azlan without their knees knocking there either braver than most are just silly. Lucy then says, then he isn't Saint Mrs. Beaver said say don't you hear what Mrs Bieber tells you? WHO SAID ANYTHING ABOUT BEING SAVED? Of course he hasn't saved, but he's good. He's the King I tell you. And God is good. Life is not always what we call safe. There are things that don't make sense. But when life is bad God us still good. Jesus says, let not your heart be troubled. That's an interesting phrase trouble. It means let not your heart shudder. have. You ever had that. She'll go down your spine. You heard that news you saw that scene that thing happened. Jesus says, don't let that happen to you if you're one of my followers and then he gives us three reasons why we don't have to have heart trouble three things to remember when you are afraid number one believe that God's Word is true again, reason number one do not have trouble heart believe that God's Word is true because Jesus says there John Chapter Fourteen. If you believe in God, believe also in me, one of the things that you will struggle with when. Tragedy hits without. The, you'll wonder if God has forgotten about you or if God maybe isn't paying attention to you, here's not at says believe in me in the original Greek had carries the idea of firmness and resolve and the conviction of command yet from the context he sharing these words in a gentle way he had seen in effect dear one you must believe in, take me at my word and then the original tents of the statement it means to keep doing it. So here's what Jesus the same. You must believe my word and you must keep on believing that again and again and again. Not just believe once. Keep, believing, and fill your mind and heart with the word of God. Sometimes, it's hard to get to sleep at night when you're filled with things. Zayed your fear or worry. And it has ended I. To myself I know that may sound really odd. They don't have a pulpit at home that treats from but I do preach to myself because sometimes I'll have moments of doubt questions. And I've seen how greg you listen to me. The Bible says and I'll quote scriptures out loud to myself. Remind myself of what the word of God says. That's why you need to know the Bible and memorize the Bible and quote the Bible to others and yourself. Because his word. Is, true you choose to believe it again and again. I got one guy the Bible said Lord I believe but help by unbelievable. Here's the truth that you need to know if you have a loved one who has died there in heaven. And you can take that for what is God has said it. It's true because we're told him I, Don five thirteen. If you believe in the name of the son, I've got you know that you have eternal life. You know we we talked about Jesus weeping at the tomb of Lazarus and we think the reason that Jesus wept was because he was sharing in the sorrow of all of the people there were missing Lazarus and I think that is true. But there may have been another reason that Jesus wept because he knew in just a few moments he was going to say Lazarus come forth and that poor guy who's GonNa have to leave the glory of Heaven and come back to this stinky earth. So Jesus what or do. Can you imagine being Lazarus and arriving in heaven and having God see I have some good news and some bad news. What's the good news? Well, you're coming back again what's the bad news you're getting called back to Earth? Oh. Trust me when I tell you that no one in heaven would ever want to come back to Earth again. But. We still miss them and we wish they could. But one day because we put our faith in price, we will be reunited with them again. So number one if your hardest shuttering take God of this word number to remember you put your faith in Jesus Christ are also going to heaven you have God's Word on it. Nothing is more important than that. But you know heaven. We think about heaven it seems so unreal to us. You know we're GonNa what sit around and clouds and drama heart. Sounds Boring. I'd rather be in hell partying with my friend. Well you may end up in hell. But you won't be partying with anyone. You can be sure of that heaven is not boring. Science fiction writer. Isaac Asimov wrote quote I don't believe in an afterlife so I, don't have to spend my whole life varying hill or fearing heaven even more but whatever the tortures of Hell I, think the boredom of heaven would be even worse and quote what a lane statements. He doesn't know anything about Heaven Listen Heaven is a place we think of it as this a surreal listrik unreal state of mind. No Heaven is a place. Jesus said I have gone to prepare up place for you. We're on a place called her one day. We'll be in a place called him that as far better than we will be as good as earth no one will be better earth as a Pale Imitation of heaven not other way around heaven is the real deal and the hope of every follower of Jesus, Christ, it is a place. Heaven is paradise. Jesus said to that the hanging next to him on the cross. Truly truly a CD today you will be with me in paradise. The Apostle Paul di came back to life again and describing what it was like to God's presence. He said I really can't put into words for you, but I'll tell you this much. It was paradise. Called a city the Bible says that the builder and Maker of Heaven. Is. God. The Bible tells us we have an enduring city, a city that has to come listen cities have buildings they have culture. The aren't they have music the of goods and services and events. It's. Weird sitting around in a cloud kind of thing no, we're in the city of Heaven. Will recognize one another in heaven. Sometimes people say, well, we we know one another in heaven. Why do you think you would know less in heaven? Then you don't on earth you're going to be smarter up there not more stupid. All your questions will be answered that. All of your problems will be resolved then. All disabilities will disappear then all pain will be gone then. In this paradise in this city in this place called heaven. A while back I was speaking in north, Carolina at the billy. Graham Training Center at the cove and. We got news that Billy Graham wanted us to come and have lunch with him and that of course a great honor. and. So we made our way up that road to his cabin there. North Carolina. And we took our seat at the table and billy came in and billy's in his nineties now. And he doesn't move as quickly as it used to move, and he can't see as well as he used to be able to see and can't hear as well as used to be able to hear. But when he comes in a room he is. The man. Billy Graham. And he sat down and we had a great lunch of Barbecue and All the fixings, corn, and corn bread, and so forth. And we were talking a little bit and billy wasn't quite hearing everything I, was saying so we were conversing salmon and his daughter was also said, well, Greg, what are you speaking on tonight I? Said Gee GM speaking on the topic of heaven she said, well, what are you going to say he did like a little four minute overview of my message I talked about what the Bible says about Heaven Billy listen carefully those blue eyes staring at me deeply taking in every word and after was done speaking, he repeated all the points that I made. Any said when I get to heaven I don't know who I'm going to see first ruth has or Jesus I don't know billing. But it's going to be wonderful and we talked a little bit more and then as I was leaving the looked at me and said, Greg I'll see you in heaven. You see that's the hope the Christian has we will be reunited with loved ones again wanted have gone before us we're going to heaven. But. Not all of us are going to happen. In fact, I would even take it a step further and say most of us. Will Not go to heaven and when I say US I don't mean us here now but I mean most of us in this world, why do I say that because Jesus has brought his away that leads to destruction and many there are that go that way but narrow is the way that leads to light in few there are that find it? Heaven is not the default destination of every person who dies only the person listen now, who has put their faith in Christ as savior and Lord has assurance they will go to heaven. And I hope you've done that and if you haven't I'll tell you how in just a couple of moments. So Take God of this word we're going to heaven and the third reason we don't have to have troubled hearts tonight is Jesus Christ is coming back again it could be sooner than we realize. Jesus I will come again and receive you to myself. The Bible says it will happen in a moment in the twinkling of an eye with a voice of the Archangel and the trumpet of God that Dead in Christ arise. I. Those which are alive and remaining will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air, and we will always be with the Lord So. Comfort. One another with these words, why would those words be comforting because Paul when he gave that Stephen was talking to people who thought they would never see their loved ones again, who had died Paul says check this out. You're going to be reunited with them. Again, you're going to have a family reunion in the air and you'll be in heaven together. Mothers and fathers will be reunited with sons and daughters, sons, and daughters with mothers and fathers. Wives reunited with husbands and husbands, wives, brothers, brothers, sisters with sisters Avi Reunited with my son Steven Curtis. Reunited with his daughter Bart will be reunited with his Daddy. We will all see our loved ones. Again, this is the promise of God to. Death is not only the great death is the great separator but Jesus Christ as the great reconciler. Yes said they is coming. Are you ready? Or maybe you've come here tonight. Your life has messed up and you're despondent. Here. So despondent, you even thought of taking your life in. One of the reasons Jevon done it is because You're afraid. You'd go to hell. Or you're afraid of the effect, it would have on others listen. There's hope even for you. We did a crusade in Albuquerque New Mexico some years ago in an amazing story took place that I just heard recently from a man I met in Chicago where we're going to be doing crusade in the month of September. His name was Earl Earl was Istanbul. He was raised in a Muslim home raised in Islam. And Earl sort of away from his Islamic. Roots. Divorced his wife moved to the United States. And then ultimately. moved. To Albuquerque, New Mexico, was living with some girl. Got Into Drugs and drinking spent all of his money on drugs and one day earl. He was going to kill himself. He decided he was going to overdose on drugs. So he calls a drug dealer finds out with you can buy for eight hundred bucks as much money as he had left in his bank account and he was on his way to a drug dealer house to get enough to take his own life as he was driving along he turns on the radio looking for some really dark music is sort of a backdrop for what he was about to do. So old earl comes across a Christian radio station he likes assigned to one of the songs. And then the Deejay says, oh, by the way that band is going to be playing tonight at the pit at the harvest crusade, we were having our crusade in their auditorium there that ironically is called the pit. And at that moment, Earl looks on his window and he's driving right by the pit. So he turns in. Gets out of his car he walks in the music is playing he likes it. I. Got Him started speaking in Earl told me Greg while you were speaking I was just saying to myself. Well, you hurry up and tell me how to get right with God, tell me how I can go to and finally. I ended my message and get that invitation the went down and gave his life to the Lord. And that was some eight years ago and he's Walking with the Lord known as life has been changed and Godkin change you no matter what your background is better what you've done. But how Jesus gave us the answer right here in John Fourteen. He gives us hope he tells us that we're going to heaven. God's Word is true. He's coming back again, and then he says, and where I go, you know and the way you know and Thomas said Lord. We don't know where you're going and we don't know the way, I? Love Thomas. He's always criticise old doubting Thomas no one ever gives him credit for anything. Here's one time and Thomas just stating the obvious. Dimmer when you're back in school and the teacher would do some complex. Problem up on the board maybe in your math class, and then they would turn to the class and say, does everyone understand and no one had a clue as to what had just happened up there. But no one wanted to be the one person to say, don't get it. Thomas wasn't afraid to speak up. So where I go, you know Jesus and the way you know Thomas is like I have a question. Yes Thomas. We don't know where you're going and we don't know the way. Hey Jesus doesn't correct him. He says I am the way the truth and the life and no man comes to the father but by me good question. Thomas. Here's the answer I am the way. I am the truth. I'm the line. There is no other way to come into a relationship with the God that we have sinned against apart from fate in Jesus Christ why? Because Jesus Christ was more than a good man, he was the God man fully God and fully man and uniquely qualified to bridge the gap between the Holy God of Heaven that we have all send against. Jesus. Voluntarily went to cross and died there in our place. He came to pay a debt he did oh, because we owed a debt, we could not pay. So now maybe you're like girl and you're saying preacher, we just cut to the chase. Tell us what to do. Okay. I'm going to do that. If you WANNA know that you'll go to heaven when you die. Here's what you need to do. You need to admit your center the Bible says all of us have sin in fallen short of God's glory. Every one of us have broken his commandment but yet the Bible tells us while we were yet sinners Christ died for us. So we have to I realized whereas center stop making excuses stopped laying shifting, accept responsibility for the wrongs that you've done. And then realize that Jesus Christ came and died on the cross and you're playing steam voluntarily went. To that place. To die for the sin of the world he hung there. He loves you. And that's why he did it. It was not nails it held Jesus to the Cross it was love for you and for me number three, you must turned from your sin. The Bible says repent from your sin. Scripture tells us that God has commanded people everywhere to repent. What does it mean to repent immediate change your direction in life you've been going away from God like old earl was now go towards God, stop living in the sinful lifestyle turn toward Christ and fame. That's what it means to repent. Be Sorry for your sin but be sorry enough to turn from it, and then you must receive Jesus Christ in your life. Being a Christian is not merely believing creed. It's not simply going to church or carrying a Bible being Christian. Is I mean Jesus Christ? The Living Son of God come and take residents in your heart as your savior and Lord and you're. Right, now. Right now, Jesus who died and rose again from the dead is knocking at the door of your heart and he's saying listen if you will hear my voice and the door I will come in. Would you like Christ to come into your life he will. You must receive him into your life. You must say Lord I'm sorry for my send. The Bible sister as many as received him he gave them the power become sons of God. It's just like gift if I were to offer you a gift tonight like this Bible here and say here I got this for you merry Christmas or happy birthday or whatever the occasion you up to say well, great. Thanks so much received the gift. It doesn't do any good if you just look at it and admire it. Take the gift I'm offering you. God is offering you the gift of eternal life tonight reach out and take it and make it your own. It's here for you. You must receive crimes. And I'M GONNA ask you to do that publicly. We have had thousands of people this weekend come down on this field and make up public stand for Jesus Christ and I'm going to ask you to do the same thing tonight. Why? Though? Because Jesus said if you will acknowledge me before people, I will acknowledge you before my father in the angels in Heaven The ads. If you deny me before people, I will deniable for the father and his angels. By coming down in this field and standing behind the stage, you will be saying publicly tonight I wanNA know God I want my sin forgiven I wanna to go to heaven when I die I, want to say, yes to Jesus Christ that's why I'm going to ask you to come up with plan. One last thing. One last thing. You need to do this now. Don't say well, I'll do it next year. or I'll do it next Sunday or in a month no no the Bible says now is the time today is a day of salvation. The Bible says seek the Lord. While he may be found call upon him while he is near. That the wicked forsake, his way and the unrighteous menace thoughts and let him return to our God will abundantly pardon listen seek the Lord Walis near He's here you may never have another opportunity like this one tonight to get right with God you may never ever another opportunity like the one tonight to come back to Christ and I'm going to ask you to do that in a moment we're going to pray I'm going to ask you to make a decision. By the way, this'll be an either or decision you'll make tonight you're either going to say, yes to Jesus or you are going to say not to you say, well, Greg I'm just undecided I'm neutral. No, this is yes or no. Jesus, said you're for me or against me? so you decide. As we pray and I pray. You will make the right decision. To follow Jesus Christ, let's pray father speak to every person listening help them to see the words that we have shared. Tonight are true there. Gospel Truth. And help those Lord that do not yet know you to come to you tonight and receive your forgiveness. We pray in. Jesus name Amen Amen. Everybody Greg Laurie here thanks for listening to our PODCAST and to learn more about harvest ministries. Please subscribing consider supporting this show. Just go to harvest dot org, and by the way if you want to find out how to come into a personal relationship with God go to know God dot Org that's Keno w Gio d dot Org.

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Episode 17: Interview with James Damey, Planning for Christmas Worship, ReNEW Conference in Wyoming

The Heart of Worship Podcast with Dwayne Moore

29:42 min | 1 year ago

Episode 17: Interview with James Damey, Planning for Christmas Worship, ReNEW Conference in Wyoming

"Hello everybody welcome to the next level worship podcast this week. We've had some extraordinary Gaston. Recently. We had Dr Desmond Henry here last week and Desmond of course. Is the president of the global network. revanchist loose flowers Asian. Week before they had Dr Sam Green. Who is? The chair of the Worship Department at Tribeca University will today. We are also extremely excited James. Dany here with Shine Hills Church in Cheyenne. Wyoming and this guy is what am I. It's just one of. Those guys I like. The claim is a friend I. Don't know James Whether you. Would know around if you claim us as a friend or not, but we always claim you brother. We are cited that that you're a part of this today and welcome hello. Thank you glad to be here in. Yes, I, claim you guys is my friends all the time, so. You have your heart. Is that what it is Compassionate Gracious? It's the other way I. Think you have the competitor works both ways it always does You just got out of a Christmas meaning. You know it's July right you do. I do in those Christmas. Carols are even better July. So you tell you told me earlier before you turn the recording on that you were listening to Christmas music had Christmas outfits on. What was the purpose of this meeting? I'm just curious about your own shoe or so we we do a three room idea that we got in planning that. The first room is all about any idea that apostle you could possibly have. What would you want Christmas to be about? And then we hone that into the main focus from our pastors are and that's room to where we figure out what is going to be the most. Applicable for the temperature of our culture, our country and then we take the one that hits best in room. Three is just about how we make this shine how we make it be sticky as the word we use. and so they so it continues to hone down. Wow, correct, so we got a little bit past room, three and We almost connected it to the next Easter already because we like them to book end each other. So it was pretty exciting, we got pretty far. You gotTA Yes, in. That's in one day in just a few hours. It's about five hours. Yeah, but we also have a Christmas dinner in between so. Eat. Better when you get to eat well, you probably probably a little bit mentally winded from all of that, so we won't be here long UK. That's my commitment to you. but man It's good to hear that that that people think that far in advance I mean you would think that everybody does, but I don't I don't think we all do I. Think some of us are sitting there going. Yes, but it's July. I can't think like Christmas at right now. But you are in in so so when you think that far in advance. And? I'm hitting you cold here. Man, we'll get into the real topic here in a moment that are actually prepared you for this one. I had no preparation for you at all. Sydney cold here. It's on your mind, so maybe won't be too hard of a question. What? What are you think autopsy hit? A couple of benefits are literally for starting a church starting in July planning for Christmas I mean. Why wouldn't you wait till September or something when it starts to cool down a little bit and why now? Absolutely so the biggest benefit I think is just it allows us to be more creative any idea we have time to really bring into focus and make happen in an excellent way, so that's pretty much. Time is is is the player there? What we do now is we take our own little areas I work on the music. Slash dance slash tech. Lighting in such and then our other, the programming team works on set design, and then the other ones were on graphics in communication, and so, but we were all focused in the same point, so we're able to kind of string out into what what our talents and skills are, but we have a lot of time to create and make mistakes because we're gonNA. Make a lot of mistakes. We just give time for it. You mentioned the word pastors. I think I heard that word earlier so at the beginning of the onset in July. Your pastures are involved. About this sounds like right, and so they help you with the initial planning and brainstorming. Is that right? Yeah, so instead of US starting just if you can imagine a an arrow. Hitting a target instead of just shooting, hoping we hit inside, the big circle were already focused on the smallest circle, and then that way. We just hit in the same area, a little bit better. Of So so good, wow! Well thank you thanks for taking time to share a little bit, and it is some highlights on that today would I ask you to do actually gave me some forewarning about. Is something. We're going to be with you to August. For the date, is it August the age this? Air Yet the conferences, eight and ninth and then. Worshiped night is on the tent. That's right. That's right so well. Actually, it's a three day event. At Your Church your churches. Christ church with the one unit. You're fortunate enough to get to work and be a part of in Cheyenne. Wyoming China Hills Oh what? What what's the? What are you hoping to you know? This is a big question because you never know what God show up and do but. What are you hoping? And what are you praying for for this weekend? Absolutely, my main prayer is for the church to come together as the body of Christ the full body of Christ community. Their. Churches that are sister churches of ours even over in Laramie. Forty five minutes away, but. They. Especially, this year with money, being so so low end sporadic. It's hard to be able to take your team to a different state or even get airlines, obviously without air travel has been to to just get a little bit oven, a little education, a little bit of a break in just experience worship as a team and so I'm really. Really excited about all the opportunities for people to come in just experience worship when they're the workers, they're the ones serving the church on the from the platform each weekend, and just be able to be filled up. That's a big thing and to offer that in our in our site like you said we're just one sight in God's Big Church. And I love to be able to serve them that way. The other thing is that education piece I love being able to grow together as a as a full community, so we do in our. Our community what we call the round table worship later roundtable eight churches that are part of it and before this covert nineteen. We met every month. and we haven't since the shutdown started taking place, but I think this is going to be a big step to getting everybody back and just communicating printing together. I love that. Wow, that's powerful well. We are excited to be there. We'll have a three of our team there, we. Were not able to bring more to be honest because of the Kobe situation. Just a couple bigness couldn't come. Thanks trying to? Trying to crank up their own churches in their own. Schools so, but we have three and those three or fired up and ready so yet what? So so Friday. I know you. Talked about it in in each place, we go this this fall. Fall in the United States for us on a an international watchers listeners. Don't think of that as fault, but for us. It fall season. All in September October remembered. We've got some other events like yours in other parts of the country. So I get a little confused on which is which show or police remind Friday night. Does that include? Everybody is more your team because I know the Saturday is like everybody. Come right. That's open anyway. Right my desire would be for Friday night to be just everybody come, l.. A. End just kind of break out of the normal, so we'll do Friday and Saturday I love that often say what do you got what? Not Not, not to say anything against anyone else other slip slip slip not that you don't have a good opportunity, but but the fact that you James. To the whole weekend being open anybody is a powerful thing. Is because often? Enroll for again for really good reasons they they disallow this group in for one of the sessions, and not open the doors, but I hear you say no open doors for the full week. I think it. We've been told we can't do this and can't go there in camp where this? Or, have dance anymore, we. Just want people to be in a place where they feel safe than they can just be free to worship God in well speaking to me and say on a realized Wyoming. It's not the issue it is in Alabama. But you know whatever the measures are the time I guess we can. Say that we're going to try to to make it as safe as one Kanye. Environment right so absolutely so I've been working with some some of the gentlemen that run the civic centers in the city, and working with Steven Curtis Chapman's production. He's coming the following week to our church for two nights, and we're really were really conscious of allowing it to be a safe event That's that's kind of the word. We WanNA. We WanNA focus on is making this a safe event for anybody attending? So, when it comes to disinfecting in cleaning in. All of that being appropriate hosts. That's that's what we want to focus on. Great man, that's a really really good to hear. So referring back now to the to the Friday Saturday. And outspoken about and I think this was planning to do. is to to have some main sessions and that's where where you guys I. Think you've got different people be leading some some some musical praise moments. May May turn into. Big Moment. That'd be awesome, wouldn't it? I A love to have a plan. And I'm a big planner and I have a schedule Planning Center. You know everybody's got to be in the right time, but when God is falls in like now. It gets. I. Don't like it at the moment at all. I'm usually communal I worked so hard on a schedule, but when God is falls, and it gets out of our hands into his, he can be really sweet so right mail. The plan is there will be some some times of musical worship, but then and then the nowadays do some teaching That'll that'll happen sessions, but it also. We've got some breakout sessions right? We are. Doing some of those new you know about that part that I do, but I know that we're setting aside at least one hour. I think just breakouts right. Absolutely Yep Yep and I love being able to span those breakout sessions to whatever. The the specific. Churches in the community could find valuable. So. And one a couple of ideas you gave was a pastoral worship leader relationship. Phenomenal I know that. There's a lot from even just basic technology. How can you make technology work for you? So you can focus on the right things as as a leader That's that's one. That's good we we have a kind of a unique leadership. set up here and in so that's one that I'm going to be. Presenting is how to how to equip volunteer leadership. And also. That's what I feel like strength of shine hills, and and that's not me. To my own horn, but it's just the people that give so much and are so generous with their time and skills that I'm just blown away by those those types of ideas are what we're looking. Also we have one of agoss Cummings actually been a pastor for several years and. All. He understands a lot about how to. Work with music people, and but both ways, so he'll I think. Maybe that's what you're referring to. He'll be sharing about that. Show. How does one sign up for this event? What are they Julia if they want to be part of it, and and you know if somebody's listening from a different state and I don't know who's listening to this are watching us. Who is it open to someone from another state? How does that work absolutely absolutely in the end? The biggest thing is we just WANNA. Keep the price as affordable as possible like I said so. At the moment we're just planning on charging thirty dollars per head, and mostly. That's just for snacks. for overhead. To bring everybody in and make sure that we're well set up with volunteers for all the areas. For running all of the equipment all of that because of that big a Friday Saturday for that. That's a good price, absolutely, and of course we're. We're promoting the worship night for anybody in the community to come for free so we're just going to be promoted that there's two ways. To different things you can sign up for but one way. It's on shine. Hills Dot Org on our events page SOC i-in hills dot. Org and Yeah it's. It's open for anybody that wants to come. Also well, thank you. For that that's powerful. We'll put a link on a fleet. We may already have it on never. We'll put a link on our way on our side as well about that. Now I know that that you and I have known each other for some time. You April your wife. To our. Conference that we hold each year in Pigeon Forge Tennessee. You guys came maybe three years or two and a half years ago. I won there I believe. Yeah, so yeah, Doesn't eighteen. Maybe are. So we've known each other harshly that long, but you'd actually connected with somehow before that in all of that Kinda deal is leading us up to what we're doing in this weekend with you, you WanNa take a moment or two. Tell us what you know why. You think that our team and this event can help your team because there's a lot of great things that you could. pull in out there, but we're grateful that that you've reached out to us. I think part of that's just a friendship and trust, but maybe there's some other things that that that a reasons why you go i. feel like this could be a powerful weekend for for for for people that come want why. Why do you feel that way? Absolutely. I I'd say the the initial. Experience I had with with you and your organization was through the book pureplays devotional. Twenty twelve was the first time. I was looking for something to equip to encourage. And just to educate my team and and something we can do together. Because there's not much you could do together and so in this we. We purchase I. Think About fifteen books. And started doing a weekly devotional on a Friday night and I we. From, that time on everything came back to pure praise. You know, remember when it said this in the book and remember when and our team grew so much together and then also theologically. And definitely in purpose envision together, and so that was the initial initial experience in than I was at a conference in Florida that I took my team to every year, and I was standing in line waiting to see mark. Hall and in front of me was Dwayne more and I remembered everybody looking at mark. Hall and I was like. Are you doing more? Tonight my team through your book and you were so embarrassed. You're like. Oh, my goodness! I can't believe somebody's. I'd forgotten about that, but now. And I remember us just meeting out in the lobby a little while after that after we all mark met. Mark Hall and I remember just just talking you about the benefit of that, and that was when I think. We really met and kicked off a friendship. And following what you've done. With with your website with your ministry has been incredible I just took on my team again as some of the new members through pure praised emotionally you so nice to be there at our final one. but but what what? It really spoke to me about? How is that? There's there's a gap I think there's a there's a great support and encouragement for pastors. That's there if they wanNA take it, but for worship leaders. There's there's not lot not all. and You you're filling a gap that I don't think a lot of people know, is there? And that's huge for me in so I I back. You guys so so much one hundred percent and I want to support you. However I can and. It's it's really amazing to to feel that support as a worship leader. His we don't have the glamour. We don't have the GLITZ. and music is probably about ten percent of what we actually get to do. Right only ten percent exactly exactly, and so it's it's. It's a huge help in and I appreciate everyone that's here. Thank you Yeah, the community. The Community Relational Specht is vitally important on in our ministry because it's important to us as individuals. and. And I. Hope that those who come to this weekend. At your your church. Keep saying your church, but. Your church hope they sense. That that we that that's important to us and I hope that they make connections with other people and get encouraged. No Man is an island. No person is an island. We need each other on. I just got a message today from actually one of our team members that will be with us and in. China hills. And she said, but will tobacco her Satan was. She she was putting some prayer request out that she'd been receiving. We get indication from different people in our community. Often so we'll, we'll share it among our team is quite quite traditional. And she was sharing question and I. It's it's heartbreaking from Botswana and from Kenya and other places. We're getting messages. Ethiopian just saying. We're disconnected. I mean are people aren't able to work and we got one lady of Pashas wife in Zambia that said. Our men are suffering from depression because I can't work. And you're you're reading these. And they can't get together and. Apia. Yesterday finally opened up the Internet. A shut it down clearly the whole country. For two weeks. Two weeks they could not reach out to anybody and so when we had our meeting last week which we do often with our leaders and around the world. We didn't know what they are. We couldn't connect with them, so we felt isolated. They certainly the last late from. And from anybody else in world well herald that any you go. Just boy, what do we do we praying and then so does who will be with us. It'll be dawn John and myself. That'll be there with you. Guys, but dawn cinema message out. She said you know this. If nothing else, we learned from all experience with then looking back on and covert nineteen is. We ought to be reminded. How important is to gather together and worshiped together because we need each other when that true. Asking you put me in the interim by myself and was me. I'M GONNA struggle with depression and I'm not an oppressive Ghana guy, but I mean I bear relational and I feel like. Best the way it is. Even for introverted so to speak, Bush, still needing Herge, the friendship and a real relationships that people that care for us so I hope that you sense that when he come, you may or may not get a lot of information from you know from this guy. I may teach you. What not to do as much as what to do, but I promise you hang around with guys like James and people. They're going to be there. It's going to be a great week. Brain. assured a story with you James Alcock close with this idea. To respond back to. It didn't seem to scare you off, so maybe it's Maybe it's okay, but we were talking about planning the night of worship. And I said you know they generally go about an hour hour and fifteen minutes. Well, that's what's on paper. are well nowadays is what's on the computers with the screen? Or whatever. And I was in. This has happened numerous times. I mean I can tell you right now. Top hit four times I'm thinking about, but only give one. Thousand Ohio. probably ten years ago. Maybe you're now and it doesn't Ohio. And we have planned this whole weekend. Just like we're going to be with you. Relive the whole weekend and I'm thinking by the time we get to Sunday afternoon, we'll be I. don't know if they're gonNA. Come back after hearing me all weekend. I'M GONNA. Blame them if they don't mix. But they all came back because their gracious, and they showed up in the same room together and in. We had a night of worship. We didn't call it that that's what it was Craig's night whatever? So we'll have the choir everybody's singing and it was cool. You know and it was great, but we were tired. It was a long weekend, so I thought WanNa done our out of here. Man. Oh, I was wrong. Oh, by Abbey, you know so now I've got it says are you done? Now can work. That's felt like okay 'cause I'm like I'm done inside this little boys going Oh. No, you're not. So, what are we going to do and I opened up the physical alternate. I know that the hardest offer, but we opened up a physical place. People could kneel and pray together. And y'all. I'm not kidding. I bet it was forty minutes forty five minutes later. It's still happening in alters crying and. Not Jumping Pews. It's not like that broken. The funny part is. Wasn't funny at the moment. Very powerful actually was looking back on it amazing that 'cause I look over to the corner and I see the pastor pastor. David was his name great got. Older Gentlemen, Wonderful Guy and he was. He was just crashed into corner like this. And he was sitting on the floor. This. Men, I'm thinking. Somebody's gotTA close this service. And so I'm thinking. I'm not doing it and I look over him and. Say you need close this are. Are you go close and service? I didn't tell him he needs to I. I was I. asked him. Are you in coldness and he said? So we're like. So. You know you never know what God may do now you tell you nursery workers they will. They won't show up that night. She will scare them away, so tell them we're going to try our best to keep it in our our fifteen, but man. You've got this something. Who's going to be a complaining about that? That's right. That's right, yeah! And Saas I after you told me that. Dwayne, the other day I I, was talking to our office about. The night and she said. Do you WanNa? Put an end time on it. And I'm thinking. No, we don't. We want to be open. We WanNa be available and. You know our our preparation in our plans are just to. Allow Space and room for God's takeover I'm an we want to be prepared? And that's all we're doing. Because the majority of the time it stays within the parameters. Because we pray in advance, we all plan. You know we've already. You know already been talking about details about that night. I just love it when when he didn't disclose everything to us in advance. Can Tell you in advance. Yeah, but why be good. Then, you've got to trust him. I mean it's hard, but it's awesome. And so that that's all I would say this I just want to say anyone listening You know you follow. Your passion in this case, we probably should have James. And the people are inviting us in, but within the parameters set. You always work with those. And just pray that God. Gets out of our hands and that's what I'm. A speaking of in I think I think we've had enough. You need to go get some rest in in combat. That breakdown of yours that you've been thinking a lot today, so we'll let you take a break from it, but Would you pray for us? Would you pray over the event? Pray for the groups coming but I. Know you've already been doing. A patio awful. So father, we come before you and we thank you that you've created. This beautiful thing called the church that it was your plan. It was your idea from the very beginning. We get to be a part of encouraging one another. We get to be a part of just lifting up your name together and got I know. This has been a year unlike any other year. There are stresses. There are challenges there expectations that we've never had to carry that. We've never had to face and and God. You are the source of all strength. You are the source of all hope, and you help us to persevere so God for each and every worship pastor, every leader, every team member even every congregation member that may be coming to this conference. We just we just pray that you would prepare their heart even now for whatever they're needing. We know you can provide whatever their Their hurt is whatever their struggle is. You've already had the answer ready for them. So that I pray this would be a time. Of US being honest and real with you, this would be I am where we can. We can come with hands wide open, not holding on, but letting go in surrendering to you and got. I think you for the team. That's coming out. We just prayed for your protection around them. even leading up to this this evening. leading up to. That moment in your presence, just just prepare us. Help us to be ready to be ready to hear a slow to speak and. In quick to respond to your leading and got we just ask that you show up in a powerful way that your presence would be. Would be. Felton, in in our in our midst and. Gaba even in the days of old just like in the Tabernacle when you showed up, the smoke filled the place Scott. We just pray that you would fill this place in the same way and got I just pray for when people leave after this conference after this worshiped night that we're planning God that. They wouldn't say why what great music they wouldn't say. Wow agreed teaching that they would say. Wow I was in your in your presence Scott. Our desire and so God help us to as we plan. Prepare to keep it all. Flexible in in in your ideas in your will and your plan and we just thank you that we might not know what you're GonNa do, but we know you're going to do it, and that's what we hold onto type. Thank you for your love. We thank you for Just the power you give us over the darkness that is permeating our land and our communities, and even the whole earth right now and so father we stand in the gap for these brothers and sisters. And we. Prayed that. That you would begin to meet the needs even now. That they have. Thank you that that we could always come to you. And that you never turn away, she's. Hey, man, thanks James, so much man, thanks giving us some time today, and we look forward to doing less than a month from east coming up in one. And a half weeks ago it's not bark. Thank you. Dear

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Episode 41: HOME; Whats Hiding Under the Bed?

Gather Moms

34:15 min | 2 months ago

Episode 41: HOME; Whats Hiding Under the Bed?

"K. moms welcome to the gather moms podcast. My name is kate. And i'm rebecca. We've created this space just for you because we're both moms and we get you. Yes we believe there. Truly ainhoa hood like motherhood. We need to be ns together. We also believe. We can't mom well without jesus. You're going to hear us. Talk about him to follow us on facebook and instagram. At gather moms and make sure to subscribe you. Don't miss a single episode. Alright mama's let's jump in. Hey mama's guess what the down to the final two episodes of season three believe it. I have loved it. I have loved told. I can't believe i feel like it's by and we could camp out on this per forever. But i also love transition into topics so we say hey. We love our home less. Move onto something else. Yeah i think that we have had such a fun time talking about all things home. And i think it's really spurred some discussion. I have no idea where we talk about some of the things we talked about when he started the season. Yeah so i think. God really did a work and brought some things to light that needed to be discussed. But i'm like you. I'm pretty excited about a transition. Yes i know we get so excited when we start talking about new things and we can't wait to tell you all the things coming up this summer so let's give a little sneak peek so our last two episodes guys. We're gonna finish in the home in the bedrooms of our tween and teens. Yes you might remember that earlier in our season. We talked about children's bedroom. Yes but we're gonna take a little step up and move to our tween teen bedrooms and the really cool thing about this is. It is actually transitioning us into our summer study. So this summer. Kate i are going to be doing a study about the transitions that are tweens and teens go through as they grow. And we're gonna be offering this here locally in the dallas area but also on our podcast in we're gonna tell you more information about that at the end of the episode so stay tuned but the idea is that all of our kids are in this transition right. They're moving from alway stage to another right babies. It's from like laying to rolling right and from milk to rice. Cereal right and from walking to ono to know tot Standing walking yeah pulling up pulling up to walking to standing to walking to running two oh and then to the the scary word no yes and you're like oh my beautiful angel baby and mind you learn that war egli word mine and then move into school and they start learning new things and they start getting involved in activities and then they hit that preteen stage that we call twain and all the hormones are raging and all the things are happening and then they move into the teen stage. And so what. I'm going to talk about today. Is teen rooms. And i thought it was kind of fun to think about as our teenagers of develop and i'm just gonna use my kid as an example because that's my experience especially with his room like his toys are gone. Yeah and so. We've been transitioning him into a different kind of more grownup room. And we found a couple stuffed animals and it was like. I didn't wanna let them go. Yeah right yeah. I have this attachment to them that i can't let him not have them anymore. He's like mom. I don't need those anymore. Is jaguar oh we have to keep jack. Whoa yeah ok. Here's what's funny is. Sometimes my son does listen to podcasts. So that the other thing that i think they transition in is their clothing. Yeah so it's so funny for me. When i see boys like children. Elementary school boys. They wear these bright psychedelic near color. Right. everything is like matching shorts and shirt and when my son got into high school he made the soccer team and they have like closed. They sell which side note mama's. It's about them making money. Okay i just want you to buy all the things but of course you buy all the excited. And that's all he wears now. Okay black white orange. Yeah that's it that's all we got so any we. We try to break out into a blue. Nope no. that's all. We got there square in these same old colors over and over but it's not just their clothes in their room. It's also their minds. Their worries their struggles Things that i think as parents. We can't fix as easily you know. It's a bigger issue than just. I can't find this help me or i forgot to turn my homework in. You know some of those things when they're early on and children's stage elementary. We can fix those pretty easy. Yeah but it gets a lot harder as they get older. I do think that the team room is a little scary Yeah there are things in there that Get dropped under the bed. Found six months with organisms growing us. Gusting very gross. I will say side note. We did upgrade my son to a full bed from twin which my husband. It's so funny. The things that dads and moms think differently about my husband felt like a bad parent because my son my teenage son was sleeping in a twin bed and so we moved into the full bed. It was like he was like. Oh i'm such a good dad as my son a better bed. I don't know why like the staying than he. He just feels so much better about our child sleeping on a mattress. That is so interesting. So i slept in a twin and twin bed all the way through high school did you. Yeah i didn't have a full. I had a day bed. And so i had a twin bed all the way through and i never thought a single thing of it. Do you think the difference between girls and guys maybe bigger. We'll and jake's kid a big guy so he probably needs a bigger bed. But yeah i mean just maybe it is boys and girls but i never thought a single thing about it. Well it has made the biggest difference in our home because apparently our children are sleeping on better mattress. That are more supportive for their bodies. It's fun but when we moved his bed. Of course when you pull the bed out have no idea what's been hiding under there and one of the most satisfying thanks for me as a mom is when i vacuum all those little bits up and you can hear them and asking cleaner. Yes and it's like this sense of accomplishment. But i have cleaned the floor. It's so good about it. Yeah do you feel good about vacuuming. Oh i love vacuuming and especially when you do pull something back like that and you go. Okay now. i'm getting you know. I don't know there's like this like this real calm in my soul when i know like couches clean even and under the beds or cleared it. Just real good for k. Lessen the way you cleaner the couch is that little Robo vacuum that thing goes everywhere. Yeah it makes a huge difference. It can go under his bed now. Yes yes or. He had drawers under his bed so couldn't go under it. This is a big step yet. The only problem with that is because that happens in my son's room but the robo back and we'll get stuck on a sauk you know ortiz it bag ask okay because under their bed yes and so they get sick and then here you are crawling under. They're trying to find that thing. Yeah where'd he go. We're back near like tag gum running and here. It is stuck on his stinky salk. Okay but i'm pretty excited about getting under the bed because that's a good thing. Yeah so we moved them to a bigger bed. We've moved some things around. I wanna hit onto things. Today's we talk about the teenage room. One practical. Let's talk about how to make our kids. Rooms work for them okay. I think it's important as our kids grow to have a space that they can handle. Yeah and that makes their lives easier. Yes because i do think we talked about this with our children's bedrooms that sometimes we too many things in their room for them to actually keep clean. So we're asking them to do something that's not even humanly possible agree. I think that with teenagers to the way that you can decrease the battles you have with them is to make sure that you're not giving them more than they can handle at that time. Yes and then the second thing. I want to talk about some parenting transitions that i think as our kids grow really make a difference in how we parent them so first. Let's talk about some practical stuff. And let's consider their stuff in their room. Let's talk about their bed. You said you slept in a twin bed your whole life and matter. Yeah but my son is moved up to a full bet and it's really like he won the lottery. I'm he thinks he's in like king-size. Nobody knows what the king size is. Till you get to be an adult. I'm sorry that comes with age and experience. That's right and finances. You gotta buy the thing yourself. It's are mean in my house. My kids rooms are not that big so sticking a king size bed there. I don't even takes homeroom you even work. Yeah but the thing that i that we also did as we transition his betting to kind of a more grownup betting and i do again think i have to give depending on your child. Something they can handle. Yeah okay so don't give them a thousand throw pillows and fourteen comforter vais as all the blankets if you want that kid to make that bet everyday day. that's right. they're not gonna do it now. they're not it has to be very simple. So he has a quilt. Okay does it well. That's great pull that thing up and pull it down. Yeah and we talked about this on our last episode or maybe it was two episodes ago about sheets. I'm teaching our children to sleep under sheets. Yeah yeah and we still he just. We don't like the kids and they go through transitions. Were they like different things you know. They like they like to use their actual bedding or are they like to use their soft blanket. So listen shout out to whoever came up with those is it. Fleece is that what they are those those blanket. Everybody adores yeah. Whatever that is it's like a yeah. I guess police i think every case has one. Yeah yes it's their thing. Yeah okay second thing is their desk. So i think it's important for a teenager to have a desk in their room yes One thing that he does is he has so much more homework. He needs space where he can feel like he can spread out and have all his staff so we did get him a desk and this is what i want to encourage you to do because i think this is. This is an area where i get frustrated. I get so frustrated when he's working on things and he's constantly coming outgoing mom and need some scissors. Mom do you have a sharpie. Mom where the rulers mom i need some paper and i think you're just you're like you're bugged right. Sure they keep messing with you so stock your kids desk. Yeah give them all those things that even us as adults like to have when we're doing our work right and make it their own. No not something that like. You're gonna come borrow from them without asking but say. Hey here's your very sharpy. Here's your very own scissors right. So that they feel like when they sit down to do projects and work. They have all the things they need for it. That's great and i love the death so you know. Our son just turned thirteen m a few months ago so we redid his room. That was his birthday present to kind of have this teen room and it was for him. Having a in his room was like the thing he wanted a desk it was very meaningful to him. You know when he envisioned his new room he had a desk in there and so he loves having that desk and You know. I don't know if you're gonna hit on this but one thing is. He has a monitor in there so that he can do his schoolwork at room but then at night because he connects his laptop to that so at night he turns in his laptop his phone and things like that. Because that's a rule in our home. We don't keep checking our room during the night. Yes yes and that's something that i think is super important. But that's a whole. It's a whole other full other episode. Yeah so moms we are gonna cover that in our summer study so we want you to join us for that summer study. Because that's we're going to cover all things tech. Because i do think there is so much that goes into them having computers and phones and even just an airpods and thanks that they listen to music with all of that can become a distraction. Exactly so that such a good word. The other thing i think is great for them to have and this is where i really see. That transition from tween to teen is how. They display their memories. Yeah 'cause i think we are so big on the trophies and the certificate to know every time they're finishing a great they're getting a certificate for something. Yeah well guess what in highschool that changes and there's not as many awards that come with it because it's more competitive and so one of the things i wanted him to have was a place where he could really showcase the things he's proud of. Yeah because i think it's really important for our teenagers to feel like they've accomplished things so in my son's remains a bulletin board. No it is not the prettiest thing no. It's not my cup of tea that anywhere else in my house but for him. It's just a great way for him to get to hang up some memories. That are important to him. Yeah and also to have some memories from the growing up days. I think it's important for them to be able to look back and remember. Okay really was good at that at one time. It's just more competitive. Now that i'm older. Yeah you know in that something. That's so interesting. Because with lydia my middle child this that's something that she has naturally gravitated toward like. She's only ten but i think even just in the last few years she'll say hey. Can i get some pictures to hang on my walls you know and she wants. She initiated that having these things hanging on her walls that is not something that caleb has ever initiated. And so you know. That is something interesting i think about as a mom of boy of putting those things up on his wall so he remembers who he is where he's been there's there's something so comforting about history and you know that identity that you find in those things. Oh and that such a big deal at this stage when they're trying to figure out who they are and they really are feeling pressure from all these different groups and people because they're trying to fit in there making new friends in Environments that are more challenging. And you do kinda start to doubt while. I was good at that in sixth grade. But in my still good at that yeah i was first in my class and that in middle school but in my still in my class sure like really i have seen just this huge jump in the idea of six success and achievement and being one of the top. Wow and if that's not the way that god gifted to helping him figure out okay. That's okay we're gonna find other areas that you're good at. Yeah so that's really a big deal. Wow that's so interesting. Well yeah and then architecture go to big high schools like You know. I went to a big high school like that. And that was something. That i had to navigate being you know. Where is my place here because mad with there. Being so many kids there are just a few that are gonna get the varsity position. Sackler is just a few that are going to be on student government. There are just a few. You know what i mean. Yes they're going to be. I share and so how do i find my place and just really love totally a song being in that place. Sign my place in word world. Isn't it like steven curtis chabahar. So yes and listen okay rabbit trail. Have you guys seen that movie on netflix away. No a week away. no. I've heard about the christian camping. Oh my gosh. We watched it last night as a family. It's all steven curtis chapman. Amy grant michael. W smith greg and i or belting it from the couch. The kids are like what is happening right now. The greatest movie okay. This it's clean. It's funny it's just as enjoyable for the kid is the adult okay. Well the week away. Go watch okay. Good we're the meanings. But that's funny. Because i totally singing in that place in but it is. It is her navigating that kind of having those markers of you know. This is where you've been. This is who you are and we'll just keep adding to this collage yes thanks guys making. Ut's okay last encouragement for me to ut moms is a school prep zone okay okay. So here's we had a little incident in my house this warning so there are some moments in your teenager's life that become very dramatic very quick and as a parent. We're not always ready for them. One of them is right before they leave for school. Yeah and there's this moment of panic. Do i have everything i need. Yeah and one of the things that we're trying to do is teach your kids responsibility so we may not have done. The whole skit are back together the night before right. You'd have everything you need. And so this morning we had a little panic moment where we didn't have everything we needed. Dad was in the car had a meeting needed to get out real quick and it it comes to a head and is a mom and frustrated a has. My child has not prepared south. Yeah and my child is frustrated because to them. It's the biggest deal. I if they don't have this thing for the whole day yeah it could ruin their whole day right and what happens. Is you have a tiff. And you send them out the door and it hasn't been resolved yes and so just before we started this episode. My son texted me and he was like mom. I'm sorry oh how this morning winds. Thank you and i love you. Yes and i was able to text back and say i'm so proud of you. It's okay don't worry about it let it go today. Yeah but that's what happens with our teenagers. there are moments that are so important to them that we just don't get sure because to us. I can let that go. i can go. you know what i'll get. Its marlins fine but to them. It's a really big deal. And so one of the things we can do is help them have that school prep zone. Okay yeah you're encouraging to put everything they need for the next day in this one place yes so in the morning when you're in the rush her not searching the house or the room or the closet all in one place love it and Really practical way for you to help your teenager phil prepared for the day and not have those those argument moments right before they walk out the door. I love that so that so funny that you say that because i think kayla has done that all on his own he has this like Saucer chair in his room. And so that's where he puts his backpack his mask his. Id the id. How many times. If i driven the id high school this year. Yes as oh. It's all right there. Yes and so that when he gets dressed in the morning he could describes backpack. All those things are right there and so no. That's fantastic cash. I'm just so thankful i. I don't think all my kids will be that way. Caleb happens to be very organized and on top of things it so it'll be a good thing for me to remember for. Maybe the girls as they come along and they start having those morning free guests that we have it all in one place. Well and i do think sometimes as a parent. I get easily frustrated when they forget stuff. Because i'm like oh my gosh. How did not remember that right. You'll i forget all the time all the time so much racer myself yet. And so little grace whereby children yes. Gosh also i can't tell you the number of times i have gotten a car driven down the road and had to turn back and the thing is i can't turn back i can right. They're stuck at the school right so we do need to have grace for those. They're learning they're growing and that leads me into the second thing. I want to talk about today. And this transition in responsibility okay. This transition in our parenting where we have these children that are becoming adults before our eyes and they really have hit a new stage of life where there's a lot more on them. Yes they're responsible for a lot more things and as parents were trying to give them more responsibility because we know the finish line is coming out on their own soon and have to do it for themselves. The stakes are higher yes so so often as children and tweens. We can fix what's broken. Yeah we can call the teacher. We can go take it to the school. If it's forgotten we can sit down with them and walked through the steps of how to make it better but what happens is when they become older is that falls on their shoulders. And you're gonna start to hear as they get into high school that the teachers don't wanna talk to you anymore. Dope they wanna talk to the kid. Yeah and if they forget to turn it in or they don't do the assignment correctly. There's no redo. yeah you know. It's more of a collegiate atmosphere. Where look you should have known. Are you should have read the syllabus or you should have thought through this and so. The stakes are higher for our kids. The stakes are higher for their friendships for their relationships. Because it's not just an easy fix if you hurt my feelings but it could mean a week in a relationship right or break in a friend group or right that could that could change a lot of things and it feels a lot heavier. Yeah relationships with guys and girls a hurricane hearts Things where it's even an all. Just this is just kind of funny but as parents you become friends with your parent with your kids friends relationships sure of course i know yes that it's awkward and you guys kind of may experience a break up to s. Yeah so there's so much more that happens. The stakes are so much higher and so i want to encourage you to remember to be that safety net. Yeah yes. I can't fix it. But i can still catch my kid. I can still catch my remind them that they are okay that this is not the end of the world that we're going to get through this that god's grace covers it. I still want to be that safety net for my kid. But i do want to help them. Walk with confidence into this next stage of life. Yes fantastic so. Speaking of our kids are our teens room. One of the things that i've been trying to figure out what to put over his bed. Yeah i don't know why that's such a deal like what goes over your bed. It is i think it is a big deal because it feels like it sets the stage a little bit for what you're about what this room is about when we did calebs. I mean i had him sit in here with me and pick the art. Yes because i wanted him to feel like he had a say in it. I just think it's so funny. How as a mom. Sometimes i'm trying to do stuff for them that they're like mama don't care yeah no he eat. It was interesting because kind of got down to a couple of things he was like. I really like this. But then he said you have really good taste. Whatever you pick will be fine. Yes i've heard my kids say that to feel the pressure to get it right. Yeah yes and this is not the end of the world. We can always change that baby out okay. We could always change it but that is so interesting because that was something. I thought over a lot. Yeah so i really want because Thinking through my son's personality thinking through what i believe about him that god has for him. I want to cast vision for his life. And so i have not talked to him about this so we have not hung anything over the bed but i found this word in scripture that i absolutely love okay. The greek word for disciple yes. It's method tastes okay. And it means a learner. A disciple pupil and i love the idea that he is a disciple. Yes that he is forming his own path based on what he believes and then it's creating his lifestyle for him and what this word matthias means. It's the mental effort needed to think through something properly a learner disciple of follower of christ. Who learned the doctrines of scripture and the lifestyle they require someone with proper instruction from the bible and the necessary follow through. Wow isn't that deep very good. Gosh don't want that to be true of all of our children. Yes and you know when you think in the bible about jesus's disciples. They were probably teenage boys. Yeah teenage young twenties. These guys that were trying to figure out what their life was gonna be all about. When i think about my teenage son i think about. I want him to be a disciple. A learner i want him to always be growing and finding new things about who he is. And who cuts made to that become part of his lifestyle because one of the things that we need to remember as our children grow and become this teenage young adult stage is that they are no longer just doing what we tell them. Yeah it's becoming whether or not they believe it to the ownership part right and it's all about a relationship. I think you know when our kids are little. It's really easy for us to tell him. Do this do that when they ask why. You know the the common mom phrase. I don't have to tell you why. Because i said so but there comes a day when you really want your teenagers to understand the why because when they go off to college and i'm not with them every second of the day and i can't be there to say no don't do that. They have to know what that right answer is based on who they are what they believe yes and so without them having this understanding this learning this desire to know the why behind the do then they might just end up following the law and one day deciding. It's not worth it will says. And don't we know that that is what happens over and over. I mean we've watched it as we served in youth ministry. I think that's what propelled us so much to do. Some of the things that we did is because we wanted students who launched out of our ministries to go into college and what they believe because when they get to a new place in it's tested and other people are not what they believe believing what they believe what is going to hold them to what is going to be what keeps it firm and their own hearts they have to have ownership over those things and believe it for themselves not just because it's what their parents taught them and i think it's so interesting that we put that into our children because we want them to be those kind of people so that when they go to college and then when they join a church you know one of the things that my husband would hear all the time when when people wanted to hear when when people want to join our church is they would say he would say well. How did you come to know jesus and they would say well. My parents always believed and we want our children to have a relationship with god. that is their own. That is personal. That where they meet with god on their own where. They are tethered to him on their own. Not just by our connection with the father so true. And i think it's something that any mom out there would say. Yes that's what. I want for my kid but so often we get consumed with all the other stuff sure. Did you turn in your homework. Do your chores. Don't disrespect me. And so we sometimes leave those big things to the end and then we ran out of time. Yeah and we're sending them off into the world and we're thinking. Oh i didn't do that. We didn't talk about that and so not only would that be a reminder for him that it's he's a disciple but it's a reminder for me to yes. I have a disciple in my home. Yeah and he's not a robot. Yeah and he's not just mine. He's god yeah i want him to see god his father as the one that's leading him also not just because mom and dad said yes so. There's two things that i think we can do in our parenting. And i'm gonna give you two words. Spur instead of sere as kind of an interesting spur instead of spear seer seer seer. Okay so tell me what that. Okay so what do you think of anything of a spur. I think of like cowboy boots cowboy boots. Yeah so a spur is the device that goes over the heel of a boot. Yeah it's got a little spike on it right. And a cowboy uses it when they're riding a horse and they kicked their heels against the back behind the horrors and it makes him go forward right. It spurs him forward. Yeah hence the name spur. Do you know what a seer is. No spill it. What do you what you're say. Nazeer like magical magician. Sear c. e. r. s. e. a. r. o. like two sear. Something like a steak on the grill brand a brand also a cowboy turn okay. They would see her into the cattle. The brand of the ranch. Okay right or they knew who's animal was who exactly so the interesting thing about searing is that it creates injury. Okay painful sure. It's a brand. Yeah but when a cowboy spurs a horse it's not entering the horse. It's just giving them. That little nudge going and move forward. And here's what happens and this is personal for me as that. So often i err on the side of searing my children okay and when they disobey or they don't meet my expectations high m injuring them with my words. Okay and i'm coming down so hard on them. And i'm leaving imprints in them of things that i didn't mean to say or didn't intend to create in that moment kind of like when you have a little tiff before someone goes to school and you say something that you're like i probably shouldn't have said that instead of when they do something wrong or they disappoint me. I want to spur them on. Okay i want to say you know what we're going to get back up and keep going because part of my role as a mom is to help you pick up and move forward. Yeah and as a teenager. We have to remember that what we're doing is we're creating a relationship with an arch with our children that they will want to come back to one day When my kids are twenty one twenty five thirty to forty one. I want them to come home. Yes i them to come back to me. Because they see me as someone that spurred them on in life and did not sear into them a bran of something that in that one moment i thought they were. Well i want them to be encouraged by my relationship with them and the feel like my biggest cheerleader was my mom. Yeah and my biggest supporter was my dad. And my biggest safety net was my family and part of the way that we do. That is the way that we handle them in those moments when it doesn't go the way it's supposed to yes and listen. I'm the biggest at fault here. I'm the one that god has done. The greatest work in from where. I started in parenting to where i am today still make mistakes. Where in a moment. I get so angry and frustrated. That i err on the side of searing shirts. Say something that i shouldn't. And then i leave them with a thought that will stay with him for hours. Yeah versus me going. You know what. We can't fix this right now but guess what i don't care i love you and we're going to deal with it later. Yeah and send them out the door for a day of school where they can feel like. I can tackle anything that comes at me today because my mom is behind me especially for those kids who are already beating themselves up enough. Yes you know that. We are sensitive to our children that you know probably in that moment jake already hard on himself yes is already having a hard enough time with himself and so we don't need pylon that that we would just say exactly what you just said. Hey we're gonna figure this out you know beyond the team. I think that's a that's a term that we talk with our children about is. Hey we are on your team. Yes we want you to win and so we are going to do whatever it takes to cheer you on to give you resources to help you to coach you so that you win. Because we are on team kayla or team lydia or team carolina right exactly and so we are just. We're going to rally and get around you so that you win so the scripture that i found is from hebrews he was twelve eleven it says for the moment all disciplined seems painful rather than pleasant but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by And in the message version. It says this at the time disciplined isn't much fun. It always feels like it's going against the grain later. Of course it pays off big time for it's the well trained who find themselves mature and their relationship with god. Yeah and really. I think that's what we're trying to help. Our teenagers do is mature if mature in life mature in their faith mature in their relationships and they need us to guide them and not to constantly say that they're not doing a good enough job or to find areas that they're messing up but to to use that as an opportunity to grow them and to mature them because i believe that scripture that says train up a child in the way he should go and he will not depart from it and it doesn't mean they're going to be perfect but i do believe if i'm planting those seeds in his heart in his life as a disciple of christ that he will grow into the man that god desires him to be. Yeah and for the momma. Who's listening you know. That feels like oh. I keep getting this wrong girl. You are not alone and there is grace for you. There's grace for us and we can ask. You know our heavenly father to parent through us to help us in those moments when we need to be the spur and how we cheer on and when there are those moments of correction and how far we go and how tough we are where we hold back and let the spirit lead in our parenting so we want to encourage you that we are going to do a summer. Study all about these transitions the tween and teen transition. We're going to offer it locally here in the dallas area at lake point church as a wednesday night study so if you're in the area oh my goodness we would love free to come. We're gonna put in the show notes. How you register for that but also if you part of our patriots program. You're going to get access to all those studies as a bonus episode on the podcast. That's right so we would love for you to join our patriots. You can support us however much. You can't each month but we want you to know that is going such a long way in helping moms find know about the podcast and grow as moms in the relationship with god so by joining the patriots. You're going to get access to all those summer. Study lessons all about the tween teen transition. That's right so you can go. Patriots dot com slash. Gather moms to subscribe and at the ten dollars or twenty dollar level you will get that exclusive content emailed to you as we put it out each week and you'll get the audio lesson and the written lesson so that you can follow along with us if you can't make it in person and you can find all that her shown it will have all the links for that. Thank you so much for joining us today. Thanks for hanging out with us in the scary sometimes dirty teenage room but a place that i believe has so much potential as we really do. See our kids growing into these amazing adults. Say it all the way say nate. So on the way we've got gotta get ready to launch and that's what that room was four. That's right all right. Moms we love you and we will see you next time.

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Classic Message: Gods Cure for Heart Trouble

Greg Laurie Podcast

42:36 min | 1 year ago

Classic Message: Gods Cure for Heart Trouble

"Convinced messages are brought to you by harvest partners to receive free email, daily devotions or to become a harvest partner. Please visit US online at Harvest Dot Org Below again. Let's all pray together. Now heavenly father. On this beautiful, warm nine. Dodger Stadium. In Los Angeles. Has The sun is setting. I pray for every person listening to this message and watching it. I. Know that literally eternity is at stake in the lives of thousands tonight. But it's not just about a multitude. It's about a person. And you love each and every one of us and I pray, and you will speak to each heart for those that have come here tonight. Afraid stressed out agitated lonely. Even suicidal, Lord, would you give them hope? Would you help them to turn to you? We commit this time to you now. In Jesus, name, we pray Amen Amen. Our high. The title of My Message Is God's cure for heart trouble. Let me start with a question. How many of you have ever been stressed out to the mats, you know one of those days where everything went wrong. And then when you thought it couldn't get any worse, it got worse. Let me restate the question. How many of you have kids? And better yet. How many of you have teenagers? Well you know what I'm talking about, you know we live in the information age. We can get information on demand wherever we go. We all our cellphones with us now I read recently that forty two percent of Americans said they can't live without their cell phones. Two thirds of American sleep their cellphones next to their bed. It seems like everyone has them now. Five point three billion people have smartphone, so we can get information on demand. I remember. When the first mobile phone came out, it was in a car. So if you're in your car, you could talk on the phone, but then they came up with a verse mobile, what it was made by Motorola has about the signs of a World War. Two, walkie talkie. It's about this big. had a battery life of like nine minutes. And I remember a friend of mine. Verlesconi pulled this bad boy out of his briefcase. He put it out. Who What is that? It's same mobile phone. That's so cool. Hardly anyone had back and now everyone has them. They give him the baby's head Burns. Your mobile phone right here. Push a fixture for mommy this one. When you need your diaper change, you know. They even have cell phones for dogs. I'm not making this up i. read an article in the paper. The other day that says it's shaped like a bone hangs around the dog's net, so you can talk to your dog, so your dog runs off. You can call them or dog probably traumatizes them just. All of a sudden stay. Sit Okay. Come home all right I'm coming home a good. Dog, by the way by the way they don't make cell for chats, chance wouldn't even respond. He call your cat. Is. If I'm going to answer that. Choking on a furball, get through that a lot, but everybody's connected. Here's what them me with our little computers that we call smartphone, so we can get that information wherever we are. That just causes us to be more stress out. We live in threatful cultural depression. Nervous breakdowns, even cancer, according to experts can be stress related. It's been estimated that up to ninety percent of doctor visits in the USA are triggered by stress related illness according. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. That's why so many people are taking prescription drugs. Now there's forty six million prescriptions for Xanax anti anti anxiety drug never given out in twenty ten. While the way, women are two times as likely to feel anxious and frightened, as men are, and young people are more likely to feel afraid than older people. So if you're a young girl, you might be super stressed I don't know. In the United Kingdom. They've actually installed cameras just about everywhere to make people feel safer, but then a lot of Brits are nervous about the cameras, and it makes them more paranoid sort of worked against them. So what do you do heard a story about a man that was very ill, and so yes, his wife to go down and see the doctor with them, so the doctor met with a man for a while, rand and tests on him told him to leave, and they called the wife in the doctor, said Ma'am I wanNA talk to about your husband. Your husband is very ill. Ill and could die soon. He has a disease that is triggered by stress, so here's what you need to do. You need to create a stress free environment for him, and by that I mean. Don't give him any jobs to do. No chores smother him with the faction. Tell them how much you love him. Make him his favorite meal for breakfast. A gourmet lunch, something wonderful predinner create this wonderful stress, free life for six months to a year and he'll make a full recovery. The woman said thank you. Dr She left his office gone in the car. She was driving her husband home. The? Husband said what did the doctor say? She looked at him and said you'RE GONNA die. Seriously though we live in a scary world today. You Open up the newspaper. Check out the news on your smartphone or your IPAD or whatever? You read about North Korea. And Iran getting nuclear weapon, not just read an article the other day that said they're now working together. Helping out one another. The threat of terrorism is still very real in our culture today. Then we have random acts of violence. Men Walks into a theatre in Colorado and. Start Shooting and killing people another walks into a Sikh temple, and never another Watson do a church then there's the threat of violence in our own neighborhood. It's a scary world. Then there's the uncertain economy added to all of that, and that can cause to be filled with fear and anxiety. A recent issue of Time magazine cover story on the topic of fear talked about what people are afraid of today in. It pointed out that fifteen million people in the United States have some kind of fear or phobia against some of them I understand the fear of flying or the fear of heights or the fear of small spaces, but then some phobias never heard of before and I'm not making any of these up. There was a blue to phobia. That's the fear of Bady I hope you're not sitting next to one of those people. After this hot evening we've had together. There's dental phobia fear of dentists. Here's one that strange cycle phobia, the pair of bicycle they even get weirder electra phobia, the fear of chicken. You, break out in a cold sweat when you go by Popeye's fried chicken. or Colonel, Sanders or Chick-fil-a, and then there is also a let's phobia, the fear of Kenyans and then here's when it makes no sense to me Lou phobia. It's a pair of honors. Honors seriously. And then there's a cleese's apob which is the fear of shirts. Had A phobia the fear of hell? Phobia the fear of Heaven One of my favorites is Polenta, phobia, the bureau, Baldness or bald people. I hope you don't have that fear because I'm your worst nightmare. Now Life is filled. Trouble things to be afraid of now. You might say you know what Greg. Feeling really good enjoying the music, and then you come up and you got me all stressed out. You're freaking me out. Sorry about that now, but I'm trying to just deal with reality for a few moments. Because there are a lot of troubled people and I. WanNa share with you. What Jesus said that is a cure for your heart trouble if you will. Read an article yesterday about Simon Cow. Of course he has his new show. The X factor. He used to be a part of American. Idol Simon is worth millions of dollars, but according to this article, he recently got a breakdown. He was bedridden for a week cutting themselves off from everyone in the article that says he confided to a friend quote. Tablets or pills I'm cutting out the lot including cigarettes. I've got to work on my demons. Amount of it. I have to stop reading texts at three o'clock in the morning and make calls later later. He concludes I desperately. Need Peace Yes Simon you do we all do? We Need God, and here's what she says to people who are stressed out here if people says to people who want peace. John Fourteen th brought her Bible. Follow along with me Jesus says let not your heart be troubled. You believe in God believe also in me now. My father's house are many men sense of overnight, so would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you, and I will come again and receive you under myself that where I am, you may be also and where I go, you know. In the way you know. Thomas said to him Lord. We don't know where you're going. How can we know the way Jesus said? It's right here in the front of the platform. Read it with the Jesus. Said I am the way the truth and the light and no man comes to the father, but by me. That's the ends. So what does the backdrop of this? The backdrop of this statement is Jesus just dropped a bombshell on his boys. He had just revealed to his disciples that he was going to be arrested. Beaten and crucified for them. It was a worst case scenario. All they heard was he was going to leave them. Now they did not understand that he was going to the cross to die for their sins, and ours and ninety would rise again from the dead. All they heard. What's he was going to leave them so Jesus. Let, not your heartbeat trouble. The word trouble could be translated, agitated, disturbed or thrown into confusion. Another translation puts it this way. Don't let your heart shudder. were to to the original Greek translate out to don't panic gets organic on. Kidding doesn't mean that. I made that. Nobody's saying guys lose paraphrase modern vernacular don't freak out. Toro. Why. Why should I not freak out? Why should I not be afraid? Jesus gets three answers number one. Take Goddess were. If you want to get rid of your heart trouble in your stress and your you take. Goddess Word Jesus says in Verse One believe in me and the Greek this as a command, he says believe in me. I have a question for you. Do you believe in God? Not simply believing, there is a God. Most Americans do. But you know God in a personal way actor George. Clooney stated quote I. Don't believe in Heaven and Hell I don't know if I believe in God all I know. Is that as an individual I won't allow this life the only thing I know to be wasted and quote. Robert Deniro said quote, if heaven. God has a lot of explaining to do. Really I can see Robert. Deniro standing before God. The Lord looks at Deniro. And what are you looking at me? You looking at me. I'm kidding. I think Robert Deniro. We'll have a lot of explaining to do not God. Actor. Kevin Costner te a bit more helpful than hopeful on the topic he said in an interview. I've always wanted to believe that. There's something more to life than what we have here on earth. He was in S. do you believe in heaven? Costner replied I. Desperately want to I mean I want to believe that a part of me will continue on after this life at there's more to me than this life, and it's not just what on. Earth yes says Costner. I want to believe Jesus says to him, and to everyone else believed in me. Here's the goddess Saint. Listen I'm in control I. Know what I'm doing here. Good News. The word oops is not in God's will, Cabbie. But Freak you out if God said UK's what? You dropped a planet. What's? No God is in control. Yes, Jesus was saying I am going to go and Diana Ross, but you'll see it's all gonna turn out better than well. It's GonNa. Turn out on the salvation, thousands and thousands and millions and millions of people. And we have tragedy in life. We've talked about that a little bit with Nick, voyage and Steven Curtis Chapman told you a little bit of his story. And you know when crisis people will come with their words of comfort that aren't so comforting. They'll say things like. Hey, it's all good man. No it isn't. How about this one you know when life gives you, Lemons make lemonade. What idiot came up with that. I love this one. When the going gets tough, the tough get going while now. That's inspiring. How about this one? What doesn't kill? You only makes you stronger. Lame. I have a better one. It's from the Bible. All things work together for good to those love God another call according to his purpose. Now, that's comfort. You know what that means. I mean even when tragedy strikes. God can bring good despite the bad doesn't mean that good becomes bad. Because bad is bad. In crisis is crisis and tragedy is tragedy, but despite that has Steven Curtis Tom in which just thinking God can bring beauty out of asset, but notice it says all things work together to those who love God. You've got to love God I. Do you love God. Let me tell you this. God loves you. God loves everyone of you. and He loves you and no matter what you've done. And he tells you how to live. In the user's manual of life, the Bible the very word says it all the B. B. l. e. basic instructions before leaving earth. This is the user's manual. You've been looking for in line, use it. Here's what Jesus is saying. Listen believe in God. Trust that I know I'm doing. Take gone at his word. I have found the word of God sustaining meet the hardest time of my life. But I hope it Steven Curtis Chapman a hope. Nick Voyage has a and if you're a Christian, you of a hope, see the hope for Stephen. I as that we will be reunited with our children one day in heaven, and in the newer we'll see them again. They're not just a part of our past or also a part of our future. Nagoya to hope that one day God will give him a new body and he'll run and he'll lift. US ended praise to God. It's a hope for the believer, the hope and the afterlife. and. Yes, there is an afterlife. Really in many ways, this is the before life this sort of the. Small section, the big part is later when you go to the movies, and you watch the trailer by the way usually, the trailers are better than the films. Themselves ever noticed that. Well, life is like a trailer. It's a preview, but the main event is the afterlife eternity, and you decide here tonight right now where you will spend eternity. I'll tell you what your options are. Heaven or Hell you say outbreak. I thought you were okay until you said Hell sorry! But it's the truth just as surely as there is a God in heaven. Who loves you? There is a hell, but listen to this God. Make help for people and the last thing God. WHO LOVES YOU WANTS TO HAPPEN TO. You is for you to end up in this place. Called Hell Jesus, said Hell was created for the devil and his angels. I was on a talk. Show this last Friday, good day, la. And the question was asked goal. How could a god of love make a place called Helen I didn't get a lot of time to answer it, but. What I started to say was look you know we all believe there should be a hell for some people, just not us when we think of people who have committed atrocities like an Adolf Hitler. We say yeah, there's a hell. There's a final court of Arbitration, but we get real uncomfortable when it gets personal, but there is a hell. There is a final judge. But God has done everything he candy. Keep you want to tell because Jesus went and died on the cross in your place, and absorb God's wrath paid the price for your sin, and if you'll turn, that's in and trust in Jesus. You can go to heaven when you die, and you can know it for sure. That brings me to point number two. Why should I not have trouble? Heart number one I, said, take God, and his word believe God number two. If you're a Christian, you're going to heaven. Jesus said in my father's House are many mansions and I. Go to prepare a place for you. Listen to me, heaven is as real of a place as Los Angeles, or New York or Chicago, but a whole lot better. I know you guys have great beaches hearing great restaurants here in culture here, but you know what there's problems. Air Like there is in any other city. Heaven will be the greatest things we love about cities, but without the bad parts, and we can enjoy for all eternity. Heaven is not some state of mind. It's an actual place that we will go to. If we trust in Christ in the Bible says in heaven. We'll do a lot of worshiping. We've done some of that tonight. Some people I don't know it's Kinda freaking me out at something. Kevin is like a really long search service I'm afraid I might get bored their. Trust me, you won't. Science fiction writer Isaac Asimov grow quote I don't believe in an afterlife so I don't have to spend my whole life fearing hell or heaven even more whatever the tortures Appel, I think the boredom of heaven would even be worse than come on. He doesn't know what he's talking about. Heaven is going to be placed activity a place of reuniting with loved ones that have gone on before. See us. Lewis said heaven is not a state of mind. Kevin is reality itself? The Bible describes seven as a country. As a city as paradise. CS. Lewis wrote years ago. Quote, all the things that ever deeply possessed your soul have been but hints of Heaven. Tantalizing glimpses promises never quite fulfilled. Echoes had died away. Disobey caught your ear if I find myself a desire, which no experience in this world can satisfy the most probable explanation is I was made for another World Lewis Concludes. Earthly pleasures were never meant to satisfy, but to arouse suggest the real thing and. That's why nothing that this offers will satisfy you know sexual experience no drug. Noted Gre- hanging on your wall, no amount of money. No car, no man, no woman. You're really deep down inside longing for heaven. We have like this big hole in our hearts that we try to fill with things. You've all heard of Charlie Sheen. We all know about his tiger blood. And hookers and drug use an interviewer recently asked him so that empty spot inside. You're trying to fill. Curious question. For an interviewer from Rolling Stone magazine. Sheen responded I'm not sure. What, that is the interviewer persist? Have you ever really looked into? It seem responded while I gets. It's just appetites hepatic. It feels filled at times right, but they have all these rules and I don't get that. Chance you fill it with things that are all about confessionals than pilgrimages and veganism. The interviewer asked him a repeal like you're searching for something. And Charlie Sheen finds. Yeah, sure don't know for what, though, but I do feel like I'm going to meet some wizard guide someday who will lay out for me and quote? He doesn't need a wizard guide. You need to open up the user's manual the Bible and listen to the words of Jesus. He's telling you what you're looking for. Here, for all of us tonight. And when you know, there's a heaven. That helps you deal with the pain of life. Realizing that no matter what hardship you may be going through. It's nothing compared with this great hope. The Bible says our present troubles are quite small. They won't last very long yet. They produce for us in immeasurably great glory. That will last forever till we don't look at the troubles we can see now rather. We look forward to what we have not yet seen the troubles. Lee See will soon be over, but the joys to come will last forever. So, why should I not having trouble? Heart number one believe God. His word is true number two. If you're a Christian, you're going to have it. Here's the third reason you don't have to have a trouble heart. Jesus, Christ is coming back again. And I believe it can be very soon. Jesus is I will come again. You know I. Check the weather coming down here to la. I wondered if it would be super hot wondered if it would rate I see a few clouds in the sky right now now let's say a really cloudy and dark. Would you think that I was? A man of great insight. If I looked up and said you know I think it's going to rain. I figured out that I know as much as those weatherman on television. With all their charts and everything else I just looked out the window world cloudy. It might rain better taking umbrella by the way bald men always know when it's raining I. It's true. I was walking with my wife Awhile back in. She has a lot of hair very thick i. take what she can't stop on a branch one day, and it would be like a revival on my head. We're walking along I, said Cathy and starting ring. She said no it, isn't it? She Says No. It reedited Cathy Ball. Always know when it's raining I. You know it's raining for probably ten minutes I know now. Sure enough. She felt the rain. Yeah! How is it that we can do that? Because we see the signs in the Scott Well, all around us today are signs of the time. Things that the Bible said would be happening in the last days on the front pages of our newspapers on the television programs on the news websites out there. Reminder. Christ is returning sued Jesus said. I will come again. Hen Receive You unto myself now I want you to notice. He doesn't say I'll take you, he says. He won't take you against your will. Jesus is not going to say. Get up to heaven right now young man. Hey. If you don't WanNa, go to heaven you don't have to. He's coming to receive you. He's coming for those that are looking for him. That are waiting for him. The Bible says he will come again for those who are eagerly waiting. Forget and Jesus said when this happens, it'll happen in a moment in the twinkling of an eye. The Bible says the Lord himself does. This will descend from heaven with a shout will be caught up together in the air. With others. To meet the Lord in the air. With That means that when you loved one who has died as a Christian? They're in heaven now. But that means when Jesus comes back for us, we will be reunited with them. Heavens going to be a big family reunion. Now. Here's the thing. A lot of us have weird family strike. We don't always look forward to weird family reunions. We all have that strange uncle. That bizarre cousin. The bad news is. Is You ever stop thought that you made me that weird uncle or cousin and your family? So when you get together with family, there's always some strange people. Well. We get together with our family and heaven on the newer. All the weirdness will be. It'll be glorious family reunion, and we will sing together and will reminisce together and will eat together. Yes, we're going to eat and the next life. Isn't that good news dinners? Rolling around here, isn't it? Going to happen quickly. Jesus said it'll happen in a moment. To will be an appeal will be taken. The other left to will be laying in bed. One will be taken and the other lap. A number of years ago I was laying in bed with my wife. It's Okay Mary. And it was very late lights route. I said or actually, my wife said to me. Greg isn't wonderful that we can just go to sleep one night and wake up in heaven I mean we would just be right there in the presence of the Lord. Jesus talking about this and I'm a little bit of a prankster. As she was talking slipped out of the bed and down on the floor, so she's continuing to talk Greg. We'll just. Wouldn't it be great if we just woke up in heaven great great? Don't try this at home. I am a professional. Idiot. But it will happen like that and it won't be a joke. People will be caught up to meet the Lord in the what Jesus came back tonight. Would you be ready? Listen to this. You have a choice before you. You can get right where you can get laugh. I'm not talking about politics. I'm talking about getting right with God and if you're not right with God, you'll be left behind when Christ comes back again and he's coming soon. All right. Well what do I need to do? Jesus says where you go. You know where you go where I go rather the way you know. I Love Thomas. Because we read here in jump. Fourteen after Jesus, said where I go. You know on the way you know Thomas said. We. Don't know the way and we don't know where you're going. I Love Thomas because he was so on Thomas, was the of guy that thought for himself. Sometimes, he's doubting Thomas. I think of a more skeptical Thomas. He was skeptical he didn't let others do is thinking for him. He thought for himself. Listen if you come here tonight as a skeptic, I welcome you. I was a skeptic for many years. Thought this won't work for me. I'm not the religious type trice can never change a person like me, but Jesus is an expert turning skeptics into believers. In fact, it's been said. That skepticism is the first step to believe. So here it was. Jesus, who had died, and he appeared to the disciples in the upper room but Thomas wasn't there. So then they said Hey Thomas just shut up last night. Who? Jesus Oh. Yeah, right? Believe that when I can put my in the wounded aside and touch the wounds in his hand. Next thing they got together Thomas was there. Guess, who showed up for dinner Jesus? Eight, Thomas Haram go for it, Thomas. I'm good. I'm good. And he said my Lord and my God here's my point Thomas Thought Gore himself. So. Jesus is where I go. You know the way you know and Thomas I. Don't know where you're going. I can let see Thomas like raising his hand. Jesus makes this statement. All the other disciples are. That is so deep. That is so good. Thomas's like on this Jesus. Says Yes Thomas. We have no idea what you're talking about. Where are you going? Aren't you glad aspect question? Because, this instead said. I am the way the truth and the life. No Man comes to the father but by me. Now this statement is one of the most controversial areas of the Christian faith. People do not like to hear. The Jesus is the only way to God. It's not believed by most Americans. A Barna poll reveals that half of all Americans believe have a person is generally good or dozen of good things for other during their life. They will earn a place in heaven. But is that what the Bible teaches? No, it is. And by the way, what is your definition of good I, noticed that it very some person to person you see what one person says as good a mother. Another may say if it here's something I bet you don't even live up to your own standards of what is good. I'm not saying there are not good people. There's tons of good people. I'm not saying that they're are not good. People who are not Christians. I'm just saying this. They're not good enough. Because the only way that you can be good, enough is the be perfect, and that disqualifies all of. But. Here's the good news that Jesus comes in. We are not good as we think granted. Some are worse than other. Or we're all sinners according to scripture in one sentence enough to keep you out of heaven, you could take all the other religions of the world, and some of them up in one word do. Do this, and maybe you'll to heaven. Do this and you'll reach Nirvana. Or a state of mind, but in contrast to the religions of the world that's say do Jesus. Christ says done I paid for it hath across. It is finished. You can be forgiven. Yeah but. How can you say Jesus is the only way wait a second I didn't say Jesus said it. Jesus is the only man who ever lived who was qualified to bridge the gap between humanity and God. Because? Jesus wasn't just a good man. Jesus was the God now. Guarded human form walking among. It's so when he voluntarily went to the Cross for our sin with one hand he took hold of a holy, God with another handy, took of sinful humanity it spikes were driven through those hands, and he took our sin and rose again from the dead. That's why crisis the only one who can bridge that gap. The Bible says there are salvation and no other. There's no other name under heaven given among men by which we can be saved. I read an interview. Where Beatle Paul McCartney talked about his views on God. Here's what Paul said and I quote I believe in the spirit. That's the best I can put it. I think there's something greater than us and I love it. I'm grateful to it, but just like everyone else on the planet. I came down. I'm happy, not pinning it down. Says Paul So. I picked bits out of all the religions I like many things that Buddhists say I like a lot of things that Jesus said Mohammad set. And then Paul Concludes. Be Cool and you'll be all right. That's rock and roll heaven. Rock and Roll Heaven Rock and roll religion, but it's not true. Be Cool and take what you want from every belief system out there. No, I think it's time for Paul to let it be. Let's go to the expert. Jesus Christ. He said I. Am the way the tooth in the light. No men comes to the father, but by me, but I don't like that. That's so narrow. Minded someone say I believe as long as the person is sincere in their believes they can follow any they want, and it will get them to have come. Do, you really believe that. What would you think if you've got a plane down at Elliott's? You're, GONNA fly a Hawaii. So. You're taxiing down the runway. You've got your seatbelt on. You've got your electric device turned off and you're in. Your seat is in the upright position right. And, then you hear the voice of the captain. Come over the intercom. A Good Morning Ladies and gentlemen welcome to flight to forty two with direct service to Honolulu Hawaii. Our cruising altitude will be thirty. Two thousand feet will be showing a movie, so you're thinking that sounds good. And then the pilots has by the way folks. I'm not so sure about this whole fuel thing you'd see I've seen the gauges indicating. We don't have enough fuel to reach Hawaii but I think we'll make it and don't worry because I feel really good about this. I'm not going to use any of our navigation equipment or even a map because I think that's too narrow, minded you folks. I believe that all roads lead to Hawaii. And by the way I'm very sincere about this. You don't say Kimmy up this played. There's a cycle in the cockpit. We laugh at something like that. But yet the most important journey will ever take the one or two eternity, and you're gonNA gamble with this. Jesus had narrow is the way that leads to life in few there are that find you see speaking of flying? I can just go down to lax and board any plane I want. I have to go through the security and I have to have the proper ID to board. The plane listen God has given you the ticket for heaven. It was bought for you at the Cross of connery, but you've got to get the ticket. You've got to believe in Jesus and I'm going to give you an opportunity to do that right now. You. Say how a couple of things you need to admit. Number One. You need to admit the truth. Center. That's hard for some. They choke on that word. Center, not me. Oh, yeah you. The Bible says all sin and fallen short of the glory of God. Every one of us have sin. And by the way the word sin meets across the line. You step over that line. The Bible Talks About Trespass in sin. You've seen the sign in the part, no trespassing. So when you step over that line, you've committed trespass. We've all step over the line. We've all broken the commandments we've stolen. We told a lie. We've taken the Lord's name in vain. The list goes on how you say okay. Okay. I'm breaking a few of the but I'm not as bad as some people true. Let's gone does not great on the curb. One sin is enough to keep you out of Heaven the Bible says he view been a one point of law. You're guilty of all of it, so let's just come clean. It admitted you I us. We are all centers, but then number to. Recognize that Jesus Christ died on the Cross for your sin. Jesus said Greater. Love has no men in this that he laid on his life for his friends and. Two thousand years ago Jesus went to that cross and dined. He wasn't taking against his will. He willingly went. He died there for us. Why because he loves US number three. You must repent of your sin. The Bible says God is commended people everywhere to repent. Here's a problem. There's people running around who think they are Christians who have never repented? They say why love God, but then they're out and crazy stuff breaking his commandments left and right. Nope, you love Jesus. Said you'll do God sense if you love God. You'll keep us commandments, so you have to repent of your sin, which means turned from your sin, change your direction in life, and then you must receive Christ into your life. The Bible says for as many as received. Timmy gave them the power to become sons of God. Jesus says behold ice ten at the door knock. If you'll hear my voice and open the door, I will come in. Only, you can open that door of your heart so to speak. Jesus won't kick it down. He won't force his way in your life. You must receive him a savior and Lord just like a gift. Let's say that I said look I have a gift for you. I bought this here. Take it. You have to receive the gift. Now when you give a gift to a girl of its rap nicely. First of all, she'll read the car. You ever noticed that girls actually read the cards. She'll open it up. Oh, this is so sweet! Thank you. And, then she'll carefully do the ribbon, and you'll say something like I'm going to save this for later. And then she'll enjoy the gift. You give a gift to a man. That's rap. He'll open the card. That's only to see if there's money in it. He's not going to read it. The wrapping paper Amir obstacle to a man. He just wants what's in the box I. don't care how you open the gift as a woman or a man you've got to take. God says I have a gift for you. It's forgiveness of your sins. I have a gift for you. It is a certainty that you will go to heaven when you die. I have a gift for you. It is a knowledge when Christ comes back, you'll be ready to meet Kim. You're going to accept this GIF. Are you going to reject this Gif? It's a choice that we all have. By the way. This is an either or proposition. L-. To not say yes to. Jesus is to by default. Say No. Jesus said you're either for me or against me. Were you at. And then you must do it publicly. That's why in a moment I'm going to ask you to do what's. Thirty. Six hundred people did last night here at Dodger Stadium. I'm going to ask in a moment that you want Christ to come into your life, and you want him to forgive you a beer thin that you would get out of your seat and step into the aisle and come down behind this platform and make your Public Stanford Cross. Why do you need to do it publicly? Because Jesus says if you will confess me before people. I will confess you before my father in the angels in heaven, but then he added if you deny meeting for people, deny you before the father and his angels. Means, they use animal care. Who Sees I know? This is true, and I'm ready to make a stand. That's why I'M GONNA call you publicly and lastly. You GotTa do it now. Do it now. Don't say well, you know. Come back next year when you return to dodger stadium. All do it next week I'll go to church on Sunday and do it I'll do tomorrow morning. Know the Bible says now is the time today is a day of salvation. Listen friend. Tonight is your night to get right with God. Don't Miss Your appointment! This is your. This is your Beaumont. This is your opportunity. So we're. GonNa pray. Then I'm going to give you this opportunity to respond to an invitation. That I'm GonNa give for you to come to Christ. Let's all vary heads, father, thank you for loving us so much that you sent your son. Lord, Jesus, thank you for coming to this earth and living a perfect life, and then Diana perfect death for us, and then rising again. Now Lord we pray for those listening and watching those here who do not yet know you. Lord helped them to see their need for you. Help them to come to you and receive your forgiveness tonight. We ask it in Jesus name. Amen.

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"This is an area code. Podcast two of you just would talk seriously. They just gotta talk to come up. And you don't even know. I would say if i wanted to not exactly what the kids these days are calling. Cool thank man. just do you follow. Maybe that would be true at. Its goes martin. Only done comes out pretty. Had the only thing about him more to you. Hope the true will it. Is you know people wonder if good had something. Good i girl and she don't even see me lay out of mile stop talking. Hi i'm richard clarke and i'm bethany perkins. We love pop culture and we loved the any graham. We are obsessed. That's why we're hosting a podcast where we can get it all out of our system. This is no chill any graham. Watch party a safe space for any graham and pop culture fanatics and a pretty great idea for a podcast. Hey everybody you're listening to no chill any grab i ever richard clarke. I'm marveling danielle space. Hey everybody because was a good face today holding my breath because you waited so long today as usual we have our co host bethany park ends. Hey bethany and we have two very special guests today from the fantastic area code network podcast prophetic imagination station. Doing christendom crispin crispin. I really screwed their named already. Mayfield and danielle. In quotes de l. Mayfield should have gone with de l. Nice fan you've already ruined it. Everything's daniel mayfield. They host yeah has prophetic imagination station. Which is a podcast. How'd you describe your podcast. We look at eighties and nineties. Evangelical media and look for themes of dominant theology. It that's exactly what i was gonna to. Yeah so it's a fantastic podcast and right now. They've got a season out about Hardcore music christian hardcore music called shame core records that crispin is putting plugging pouring is fine. You're you're in good company. I was reading harry potter to her son earlier. And i said words in wizard awesome. He's pouring blood sweat and tears into that thing and it's been very very good so check it out okay. So we wanted to have you with along today. We're talking about something that is very appropriate to have to having you on as guests because it is not odd. Take it bethany bethany. Explain why we decided to have them all. We had danielle and crispin on today because there is a movie that just came out on net. Flix called the way musical and it's a christian movie and it's about christian summer camp which we've all been to. I'm wearing a shirt from my camp in two thousand nine It says jesus on it and it just couldn't be more perfect movie to talk about with you guys. Oh yeah so. And i think actually that this is happening because you you guys reached out to us and said we would like to talk about this movie and wanted a venue to do it and and we were like have we got the venue for you. It's it's Not so. This movie is weird. Y'all it's a weird movie. I we we usually. So how do we start this stupid. So we decided to describe the thing or last because nine is the number of any group. I'm i'm like. I'm a huge fan of your show. Take it from here if you want to know how it goes and now you're seeing the sausage. Get how the sausage gets made. It's mainly me just trying to figure out what happens next and me laughing at ganic. Yeah i have my image christmas ready and he stole like the good one for me. So this is a grain so crap vince stealing his nine words or less description of a week away. We actually like watched it with some people from our podcast community last night and we had the best and It was amazing so christmas. Are you going to go first. Yeah so actually. It was one of our listeners. That said this but it's five words high school musical with w. j. d. bracelets high school to ups. That is nice. No w nine. Let's go there. We go. I feel like when i see. Ww j. d. c. One block of is high school musical camp rock. I've seen cameron jonas brothers. I mean it was clearly like literally when he was getting handcuffed by the cops and we have to talk about that scene when he was giving him the cops odd. They like cut to some other thing and i was like. We're breaking bridges. Seem to really fit. Yeah i feel like we didn't do enough. Prep we have not. Have you seen camp right now. But i've seen the tick talks about it. Oh yeah i'm basically up to speed camp rock. Yeah it's a summertime so that's why and that's a nice thing that it's it's basically somewhere. In the disney channel nine words would be the disney channel takes on christian summer camp. That's because lots of you know disney channel style elements in there. We have like a poor. Man's zach ephron secca. We have the black best friend. I mean like all the all the things like if vanessa hudgens could sing right basically. She can sing sing. She can sing. Act you're right. Yeah i guess she can. And even though i said that it's also sorry can't play triplets in the christmas movie. Very well yeah. Mangas can does not have a good british accent. I'll tell you that strengthening do you have a description. Yes i do. Well i i have a three word description which is christian camp rock but i kind of said that so nine yard description is to link queant. Youth goes to church. Camp falls in love all with god or a girl. We don't girl girl. Asia girl some some a walk to remember elements fair. It's made most of the fact. That like i think they're seeing my place in this world and it becomes really unclear whether they're singing it to each other or god in a very intensive so dirty john could have. I don't want to get into that but anyway indefinitely. Definitely a walk to remember eleanor fair. I watched that movie like quarterly minds. Out like every season i would just really upset because the track listing says awesome god slash. God only knows and i was expecting a beach boys original and mashup which would have been. I think amazing forking country. We did richard do his nine words. I don't have one guy. I was hoping we could just passed it. Can we talk for a second about like our own personal christian summer camp experiences discuss elements of this movie. That were so realistic to my church. Camp experience like the extreme sporting that they did like this. I would to this camp and by the way danielle and crispin. Did you guys grow up here because we might have been to some of the same. No i did not. But my dad is a pastor to church. That goes it a summer camp all the time here so okay so your dad. Is that that braveheart guy yes. He's packer. basic time thing that the same guy who played packer is this dude. It's not pretty sure. Todd packer just evolved into that. Yes that's a really good sign. But anyway i went to a camp. It was like my favorite camp. It was just like extreme water sports all week and it was out in a desert intense but then there was like the teaching you know every night and yes so parts of it felt like it was really making me nostalgic for my own like experiences. Was that like The the camp that started out as a colt and then later became a christian camp. I don't know it's called. Etv it's called experience the alka then now. Just just check the. He's telling you country camp that got turned into a young life. No oh that's a young life camp in the desert so that was what made me think about that. Were you in school. Uniforms and like yeah. It was weird. Mayfield's uric think that i mean you talking about are any grim numbers. I'm anagram one. Who thank you. I'm not gonna run your podcast for you. But i will makers when shares eddie graham number minute so as integral one. I was really transported back to already said. My dad was a pastor so when we went to church camp. My dad was in some sort of role either one of the main passers there he do some of the evening chapels us like a big evening chapel guy like we always did. Those was outside. This is in northern california. And i was on the worship team and i was basically just like snitch. All the kids who are making out and data be like dad. Listen to me yet. And usually it revolved around my older sister. And so that was like my camp experience. And you know i'm kind of ambivalent about it. I don't have like super fond memories but they were horrible. It was just like a week of being gross. Never shower Yep it's niche in curse. Ben what number are you. And how did that affect your camp experience nine and so i just hit in the in the began october. Yes right now. I just really exhausted from people all the time. And it's funny. Because i didn't have for whatever reason like i didn't. This wasn't my church camp experience. For some reason our church would be like we're going to rent half a campground and take a bunch of kids in tents to a campground so this whole thing actually was like very like like i know mike rich kids go to kenya. Xactly definitely seemed like to be able to go to camp for like a whole week like a week away like we were like we were a weekend away because we were just go for a weekend. Retreat yes get it right. But don't worry. I mean you can still get to that campfire moment conversion point at the and even if you're just away yeah even if even if you're just there for like three nights like you know i feel like in a lot of ways. It was more effective to do the weekend. 'cause you still get to the same place. Had that mountain top experience shorter climb. Yeah exactly i actually i mean. Speaking of that does remind me of. We would go hiking on this mountain. And i was terrified of heights. So as a middle schooler. I mostly just remember clinging to the side of a mountain and crying. Here's i like it'll be okay chris. It's okay like come back for you. So they're like hey by the way like while you're thinking about your mortality like just have a talk with jesus to make sure i lot as a as a camper something really quick okay. So i didn't know this going into this movie but the something called a blob features really prominently as a plot point. Anna way to shoehorn. Steven curtis chapman song into the film yet. Here we go here. We go the blob is like a marker of economic social political location. Because i did not grow up with the blob. I've never been totally. I mean we did. Our one timer did a thing where like all the families went to this place and all that we had was like a big. Pvc sort of tube. That would go down like indoor pine that it was like a slide but like a like a you know like a big like sewage tube sort of thing and then you just put a hose at the top and the new slide down into the pond. That was more along the lines of my camp experience. I i don't know. I don't know what that means about my class structure but The where where. I sat in the class structure. But i definitely like had a very underwhelming camp experience and largely got bullied through the whole thing like i went when i was so. Here's the deal guys in alabama. Everyone's christian everyone goes to church and everyone's kids are forced to go to church camp and that means that you get these same dynamics as high school and people are not nice people do not care about like the real like being cool and a christian and stuff and so at least for the early years now later in life i became a christian when i was sixteen like i really became a christian became convinced that all of those people suck and we're going to hell and then and then i went to a church and a youth group. That was very legalistic right and very like you can't get in here unless you choose to break up with girlfriend that kind of thing. It was like a very different kind of unhealthy culture and so we didn't have christian camp in the same way in that youth group. So i basically got a very dark camp experience so i i did not have that sort of like nostalgia was in. I was watching a like camp slash like being martyred in another country experiencing the younger camp experience. The older one you said it was daro. Oh no. I'm saying the younger catholics really. The only experience is we have student life trips. We would go to student life. Which i think was camp like. I don't remember it was a conference was like a conference. Basically so what we would go to In the older days and that was where you go in just like become convinced. I remember that the speaker told everyone told a story about like two kids kissing each other in a celebratory way and our youth group literally like cornered him and forced him to apologize to everyone. Gosh for celebrating kissing. Wow among honestly jams really intense. It was a really intense youth group. You guys wouldn't believe okay. Great representation of ood religious in this movie too many. Yeah yeah so. Many spaghetti straps no. They didn't know what i mean. Yeah what pieces should swim. Shorts for the lays culture summed up in a sentence is in board shorts. Like that's my shows that not a single boy took a shirt off. I did i did. Yeah that kind of very modest and in my youth boys could definitely run around without a shirt on for some reason. This new you know. That's not acceptable. Less type the the people in this thing. And i think we can get to some specific things. I wanna talk about as we do this starting with will who is introduced in the movie at doing something that would get a black person shot ab-absolutely apparently he just does it for a living like every day. He's doing really dumb shit and apparently instead of going to juvie for such a crime you can just go to camp. do you think. this was an alabama. Gosh what. I mean richard. I'm just trying to figure out where to do. White kids who steal cop. Cars have to go to christian instead of certainly not in oregon oregon thing really in these movies and disney movies. Maybe i could see it happening. But i was really really frustrated at the start of this movie. It is like it's not realistic at all. And it's it's a troll of anyone who like posts black lives matter. It is a troll of anyone who is remotely aware of these issues. And it's just like this kid to be like surprise that he's in trouble and all of this stuff. But i'll admit i was taken aback by the black family coming in to save him. I was a little bit like that moment at sherri shepherd when she shows and she's singing about the grace of god and all the talking that pulled me back in for sure. I didn't like what that george character become. we can be became. We can get to that but like to start. I found that whole introduction. Really interesting anyway will. It was bad. Yes and probably yeah. How do we feel about what is let's type them. What does anyone have a big guess. I think i do. But i'll i'll see what you got. So he's the poor people zach ephron he's the lead of the movie You go i. I believe he's a seven. I think i think he's a six wing thing- keys three three. I thought about three. The thing that i think is most telling is. He says that he's always looking for an escape plan. And i i think that's is that trauma or is that any ground like as like in turn like he is trying to stay safe within himself. He only rely on himself and so he's always planning even though he seems risky like a very much a self preservation. Because there's that idea of lake sixes that are that will really like give in to authority to stay safe. But then they're like the rebellious taxes. Yes right thank you phobic. Six right because you can tell. It's yeah he's definitely like trying to stay alive and we should be clear for the listeners. Will's parents died. And he's like in foster care right which by the way we pointed out the fact that like he seems like we just see a picture risk parents but seems like white middle class family. You would assume that there would be someone else in his life that he wouldn't just go straight into the system young about such and such specific like unearned a shortcut into you have to feel bad for this guy when really like there's no world in which this is happening. Yeah unless he comes from a very poor if he comes in very poor yeah exactly but yeah but if he does. He's not going to be shocked that he's in trouble when he's exact. All in a cop car like any other stuff makes sense. Yeah well. I said three because he was just so good at morphing to become what he thought people wanted him to be. Or i don't know if he was good at it necessarily but that's definitely what he was explicitly doing. Like i'm just gonna walk the walk. Talk the talk and get through this week. And he's competitive that plays in with with three goes for the microphone and sings the human allies. He also said the phrase the sentence. I read this town. If this is the mo the worst line. I've ever heard him any movie. If i'm gonna fit in here i have to be something i'm not. Yeah yeah but that's like a three line. I feel like also. Apparently zack morris. Because he sold his high school on craigslist morris move If only he had an ounce of the charm. That zack morris possesses. No no i i do. Think one thing you said. Danielle and i don't know if it was before or after we started recording. But this movie's characters are not the most developed or well thought out in the world. And so i. I see a little of all of those numbers really hard time. And i'm just going to have a hard time going forward because they're so badly. Drawn very motivates. Them is in thin veneer of christian nationalism. That's all there. I've very very cynical. Take on this film lady. We'll get to when we can talk about like the right right the movie well. Yeah 'cause i want to talk about the paintball scene it's just there's a few ways visas hate ball scene. Yeah go ahead. Should we well because it involves will and it involves the girl which i feel terrible. I don't remember her name avery. I mean she's a pretty blank slate. Honestly what do you think. That's what's so frustrating. Like i wish they gave me something about avery. Who is sarah palin of the movie about april so at first i was like even before i turned the movie on i was like. Is there any way that this girl. Who's the main character is not a too but i did. I landed on one for her literally. I'm basing it all off of this one thing that she says where he will says you're so perfect. And she got mad she was like i hate the word. Perfect flop of blah blah blah. I can't remember exactly what she said. she was like. She really realistic. She got trevor. Good expects her affect. Everyone expects her to be perfect. Maybe she has some inner critic. That's always telling her that she doesn't measure up and so i was like kay. Maybe she's the one she said. I'm trying to be what everybody expects me to be and it is exhausting. That was the yeah. I was feeling too. There was something about her mannerisms and the way that she interacted with people. Just just her general vibe that gave me to vibes But like she would be very kind and happy and nice until until like she was not and then she would get frustrated like her. She was competitive. Yeah yeah competitive. So i could go to something that. They really emphasized because there were not many other things to emphasize about their personalities. Let's talk about the paintball scene. And that they were both in where they have their. Mr and mrs smith moment which which is funny that avery mentioned mr mrs smith because i was like. That's the lease like christian camp approved movie. I'm like i've never seen it. Because i'm still such a christian camp kid. You know what i mean like. That's the movie that broke up on marriage guys so i thought that was when he snap but really like throughout the film there so much imagery and metaphors around warfare notice about braveheart. The names are set up like it's like all sorts of literally floor score banks missing. Yeah war games and then to go into this like sort of stylized in everybody we were watching it with like having so much fun with the scene. It's so much fun to watch it. I'm like i'm sorry. Post january six and the insurrection on the capital or the christian flag literally starving the capital with real rifles like. I don't think it's fun and yet it's very realistic. I mean it's very realistic. The way that being a christian is just married with like playing with these guns. I mean they were wearing all black. They were wearing tactical gear. They were doing all that stuff. And i'm just like. I'm sorry like they're just creating little christian-nationalist and that's what we do in. Us and it just really bummed me out. Sorry take it. They're like this. I did notice that too. I was like well. They're really leaning on the whole war thing like to be christian is to be at war have fun and let yourself loose in like there's a lotta enter like there is a lot of energy in that scene and it's just like oh gross. You no. there's something there that makes a lot of sense The thought that george. Though i mean is like i mean okay. What do we do with george. This is a this is a character who had to be black right like they had to make him black for this movie in order to get away with this whole movie in a way. He's doing a lot of work in this movie in terms of in terms of being A scapegoat is i don't know if that's the right term but like a token is probably totally on him. Yeah ham humanizing will him being the comic relief him being a black nerd. Yeah it's it's a lot totally. Yes whatever but what do. We think he thought to interesting. I thought for fun. I thought nine. So the nine to two thousand nine and the thought is not much and i love. Christmas nine is so much. I feel like bethany is right on. You saw a lot of chris band george. Yes just like such a lovable peacemaking nerd who had some anxiety off matt bible college which is basically just extended christian camp and like the really cool guys like really liked crispin to be their best bud like do adventures has true. I was best friends with the bad boy and the bad boy and also i literally. I finally like the courage to like tell you're like i like you. And she's like i now. No but i like you like you. And she's like i now. I've just been waiting for you to tell me at the library and worked until eleven o'clock at night and we just never leave. My can't obviously sees a feeling convinced about the nine thing. Because i'd wrote down some things that sort of go along with four in my mind but now i'm reading them through that lens. And it's like whoa. This is like too perfect. So i had i said i didn't want to invalidate me that line when he's like trying to talk to the girl that's just like hilariously nine way of protesting. Ah he wrote her a letter every single day but he didn't actually send them fours would do that because like they're too lazy to get around to taking them to. The post office did that because they're terrified and then the baby did things like that as a teenager packard right. Oh my god and then the baby baby the baby imagination moment where he imagines asking presley out and i just thought that is pure for rumination but the idea that it's also just a nine wishing they could do this thing but actually not. Doing the thing makes a lot of. It's the best way to do. Things is in your head. It takes so much energy on a journey to realize that his presence matters and people like him they want him there and that he brings a lot to the table but he just really is. He's insecurities doubting himself. And so there's something really interesting about the typing of these characters. So far which is that they do play into the ideal evangelical stereotypes pretty well of the white man being a perfect guy the woman being a helper number two type and then the black guy just being a wallflower. Essentially yes is interesting. So we'll we'll see if that continues to happen as pressing. Yeah it's making me a little sad about this movie again. I had fun watching this movie. Like gosh i loved this movie. I talked about the songs yet. Because i'm like. I was in the subject for camp watching this. I was just like they ripped songs from the mid nineties christian kearns bonds. I'm the mom in this area now. Yeah beyond beyond. I who else is going to know that but me. This movie completely convinced that it was for us not for. There's no way for current they won't know any of those solids from the moms. Yeah we watched it with podcasts community and someone was like wait what's going on and we were like. Oh can you imagine not knowing these songs now. But the here's the counter take is like maybe it feels like high school musical like those are all original songs. Maybe it just feels like a bunch of really amazing original song soon but knowing the songs that was the best. I'm sorry. I was the lung me to though. Literally the amy grant song i screamed. I was happy you could like no ray that like what was about to play based on who you saw. Yeah you guys saw. Amy grant right. Oh i didn't know and credits. But i didn't realize baby to presley. She said here you go. Maybe i saw steven curtis chapman for sure. I saw someone else. I think i did. Wrecking recognize amy grant. But who knows teasing it up really was like enemy like he was in a music video. This was an extended music video. His chapman i love it. I love it. I will watch that sean. Less type. sean. I gotta say shot a villain. He's the villain. I here's my thing opinion about dude. I love shy feeling show. Love shrill mean crispin. Have an alternate reality. Sean that we need to talk about in go for it. Well christmas when he brought it up. Yeah i mean. I think this is basically shun the origin story. Oh my you know sean. For is this guy out of bethal. That's been leading these worship protests around in the us. He's a log blonde curly. Hair yeah okay. Yeah so yeah. So this is name is also sean and so like what if this is t shirts and sells them. Yes what if this is sean. For pits posse. He's like you know. I'm i'm the apostle right. That's hassles like what is more charismatic than like having your own apostles. So there's that there's that interpretation of sean. I will say i identify a lot with sean. He is really into letting everybody know how into creation carey is and what a good person he is and again. I already said i am. The candyman are wall and the camps. Shawn's the camps niche. We don't know exactly fight. And then at the end he can. I i just i think he. He's a complicated dude like they never throw him foley under the bus. He seems like he cares about. What's right and he. He has a huge ego. He's got to get that under control but frankly he's owning it more than the rest of them. They all have huge egos. He's the only one being honest about it. But i mean that's the thing about church camp is it's like in highschool rate it's like the q. Bad guys that are like you know. Get all the attention. Yeah and then you're church. I'm just saying from personal experience. Church camp where being church means something in so i totally. Get that from sean. Good point well says the three then. I think he's a one thing you think one. Yeah but just. it's. It's it's like i don't know what his motivation was to go. Snoop around the camp records. i guess. Reveal everything I think he just wanted to win. Like he just was really obsessed with winning all the challenges and things and it's really pissed when they alive. I eight or you know. Eighty one in there Just because he's really. I mean he's he's very conflict friendly or you know like he's just getting his face from you know like you and you always know where you stood with sean. Yeah so you know maybe like one with an eight wing or with one possible. You're right that's what they do. He will never violence by three with aluminium. Okay so that we forget we exist. That's literally what didn't my mind as in nine energies ones and eight. This and that is really similar. Energy right yep totally. I would not have good energy with john which probably means. He's a neat. Because me nate's struggle. I i would have yeah. I would have bullied him so low key like no one would've even detected that it was bullying tag to that's a to power may yes talking about presley. Mac not a nine. My girl presley should have been given more to do. Yeah you know she. She's very boring character and should've been the manic pixie dream girl but she wasn't. I know glasses on the whole time except when she went swimming she took them off on those that i was expecting Real high school musical moment. there were tangible. That's where the sequel it'll be. I will say. I feel like presley. Was there just so that she could have one conversation with avery about hair. And therefore make the movie past the bechtel test because i was paying attention and that was the only conversation to named female characters. Had that wasn't about a minute wasn't about ways wasn't a very great kung. She just save. Your hair. looks flat an frizzy. That's what made the movie i know from time. Y'all look frizzy. I had her as a five because she was like. Nurjahan has gotten my own to. I don't know characteristics her with a tie. Her shoe size is seven and a half. They told us that because they told us creepy weird boys stalker facts about her anything in her life as guys. If you don't know. I'm not gonna i'm not gonna taper. Let's do life advice. Lindsay and like Who who needs should we give advice to. Sean definitely i feel like he's the dude needs a little. John needs to find his worth in. Jesus christ and not in his pierce his inaugural balls or walls or in his accomplishments. Enough you are just loves you. I have a question. Did they mention jesus in this movie did i don't i don't think so. Did i remember but it was like a funny throwaway line. That share schepers. Like jesus loves you like when they're gonna have to john's this is even in this. I was like where are they. Give us like a good teaching. You know the preaching and they listening while the thing was that by far the most explicit religious language was at the very beginning with sherry song or song was she sings specifically about the grace of god And that was really specific and then it was gone. I was looking for it. I there was like a ct article out or something that was like it's not. It's not about anything like they. Don't say what they believe. And i was like right in the beginning. I was like well there it is. I mean. That's pretty impressive for a netflix movie. But that was it. Yeah because like re plugged in had some issues with this film that it was not christian enough and it was fascinating when we got to the sort of campfire scene. it was all very mushy was very Is very suckers seeker friendly. Is that what they call it. Yeah you know very megachurches you know. So it's more like the fan of you right. The thing you hear on stage not not the like not the the call for rededication. Sort of like shame. Yeah sort of thing that you actually hear it never clear will actually becomes a christian or believes guy or if he really does i mean. Yeah that look. It's can be complicated. Those those moves from not christian the christian can be can be machine right air. I sure will. There is prayer prayer. We have we have like five minutes. So let's give some quick life advice to someone who's it gotta be. Oh my gosh. That's a hard one. Okay presley get out of there. Get not date george he. Oh my gosh was a weird boundary. They said they were gonna marry each other literally was like major committing to marry each other. But you know. I know exactly what i did. It's true they went right there and jennifer and our both like recoiling her and then going. I mean it checks out like that's how that's how you kiss dating you buy your way too fast guys To tell avery that she does not have to Fill the role that her mom probably laughed. Like i'm guessing. Um the though gendered expectation than the evangelical church double the for her. So i would want to say that. Yeah just to figure out like who you know something about like who do you. Who do you wanna be. It's funny emma therapist and this is not at all how i work but in this movie. I just wanted to tell people to be like stop doing that. Stop doing that. Yeah yeah. I mean doesn't have to be the savior you know. She doesn't have to save. Will i mean that's the obvious. Yes that's not a good dynamic. yeah Yep all right. Yeah that's right this thing out of non stars. i think my my went down a few pegs. After this conversation. I had a goal a mayfield effect. We didn't even talk about cultural appropriation of that tribunal seen face the freaking movie. That was a little cringe. I'm gonna give it a two. Oh that seems high can giving it a two. Because the songs i grew up as a homeschool they'll christian passers kid got it Let's before christmas goes. I think we should go so that we can end on crispin and it's not like we're just straight up disagreeing with so there's nixon yeah. I'm gonna go seven on this. I feel we'll watch this movie again. I like this movie. I think it has fundamental deep problems. I enjoy watching this movie. That's where i'm at okay. I'm gonna give it a five. Because i enjoyed it and i did text my best friend who i know from charleston. We went to a million church camps together. And i was like you have to watch this movie. It's ridiculous i enjoyed it. And i'll probably force other people to watch it so. Wow yeah all right. Chris what about you i would give it to as well. I would give the music within it in eight. Because i hate the song big house and everything else i just love. He was just nine you guys. He was like living in his best life. He's been blasting the soundtrack to say on november. Today and i was like. Don't judge me. she was like for. I was like. I am listening to the soundtrack right now. Here's what you do. Is you take that soundtrack. You put it in a playlist. You delete my place in this world replace it with the original and the near set it will say the thought of rich mullins watching this film. Oh i like during the tribunal part. I'm sorry richard. I'm sorry. Yeah i know i know this one will be pissed off about this. Maybe oh yeah for sure. But yeah i was gonna say something about the place in this world music video but we don't need to go there. I'm glad i watched it. I'm glad my culture was represented in a weird way. It just it just maybe wanna be like everybody needs to go read jesus and john wayne and then watch this movie and then let's move forward place and keep the ahead and keep the f- keep the heat. This amtrak thanks. Y'all know chill. Any graham is an area code production. It is hosted by richard clarke and bethany perkins look richards. A four he needs affirmation and bethany is to. She needs your love. 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I Make $800,000 a Year...When Can I Self-Insure? (Hour 2)

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I Make $800,000 a Year...When Can I Self-Insure? (Hour 2)

"Live from the headquarters of Ramsey solutions broadcasting from the dollar car rental studios. It's the Dave Ramsey Z.. Show where debt is dumb cash is king and the paid off home mortgage has taken the place of the BMW as the status symbol of the choice. I'm Dave Ramsey your host. Thank you for joining us. Open phones at triple eight eight to five five to five. That's triple eight eight two two five five two two five. Starting this hour off is going to be Daphne in Virginia. Hi Daphne how are you. Hi Mr Ramsey. Thanks thanks for taking our call and feel free to traipse throughout our entire house with your muddy shoes thanks. Hopefully I don't need to L. can I help you need to Well I am disabled. My husband is the only one that works in the house and for thirty four floor for thirty one years. We've been struggling and He got a much better paying job on There's no way we can't make it now but we are still title being overdrawn before every pay period and I I'm just at my within because I've made a budget crunch numbers and I'm not only only a saver. I'm a Tightwad. So what does he make. He makes two thousand six hundred and eighty dollars a month now that's after taxes and deductions. What do you have coming in on disability? I don't have anything because I'm not eligible sociable anymore. Based on his income. Okay and Y'all go ahead. I'm sorry no Medicaid is well what is is the nature of your disability. I'm legally blind and I had multiple sclerosis but I'm willing to work. I mean I would get my teeth to work. I I want to help out But we're out in the middle of nowhere. I'm thinking if we'd moved to Tennessee where my son is I could. I could clean houses and make one hundred dollars a day for five days. That's five hundred extra dollars a week and he could get get a job. He's a communications officer. And how how old are you. I'm fifty one and he's fifty five. That's what keeps you from doing that. Where you are and we're out in the middle of nowhere The Department for the blind and vision impaired says that I'm too far out to have a job If I was closer into town that maybe just maybe you know I could get a job online. Trent medical medical transcription or things of that nature. I used to be a custodian until the MS himmy well. Ms Is obviously very debilitating or can be so. I'm not sure how you'RE GONNA clean houses if you can't stopper and I'm very stubborn and and I can do it. I just I just need the opportunity to do it so I need old riots that you have now total more than twenty six hundred ninety dollars a month yes. I did a budget and after the budget we have thirteen dollars a month To nothing so what is what are the big items of the budget how much you should rent. We don't pay rent our houses in clear because on foreclosure okay. That's wonderful. What is it worth our house else is is right now is to twenty five okay? Excellent okay that's wonderful are what are what are your. What are your big items in your budget? Then the big items is his car is three sixty four a month which he owes seventeen thousand one and his student. You didn't loan which he wanted to go to school and I didn't have the hearts telling me he was too old I'm Payton he'd send to fall and I'm paying one thirty one a month. It's ninety ninety. Five thousand the two big things. Okay well ninety five hundred ninety five and three sixty do not take all of twenty six hundred hundred gotta Buy Food and you have to buy lights and water. We're going okay. I'll read it down to you. Real quick three sixty four car three hundred electric auto insurance ninety two home insurance 174 phone and Internet one might team cellphone ninety dollars for to my husband's son taxes. Seventy five a month gas two hundred a month toll seventy a month grocery six hundred a month credit the cards one twenty a month my life insurance forty a month one thirty one student loan and garbage is thirty five. Oh in our medical bills or one. Oh seven seven point zero zero and that's every month. Okay unless your income comes up he would need to sell this car because the car doesn't fit we are absolutely talking about that right now and we are selling everything. It's not bolted down already. We've already put it on facebook marketplace Craig's list in Another site that he not complete the school when he no he Bless his heart. My husband Has the vision and he doesn't have the endurance I'd have no vision but I have endurance. We enable each other Okay well the move into an area yeah where you can do some things to get your incomes up would obviously help you Getting rid of the car would obviously help you. You've done a great job laying out the budget so Nothing heard on their sounded abusive or completely out of line. There wasn't anything there to pick on other than By far your biggest bills at three sixty dollar car payment on a seventeen thousand car for guy that makes thirty thousand dollars a year and that doesn't that just doesn't fit. This car is does not fit in this income income structure. Now if he's doing something to get his income up And you know that kind of stuff. Then that's great We can talk about different things then but he needs to double his income if you're talking about keeping his car otherwise it needs to go so those are some things you can do. But you're you're you're doing pretty well on a very low income is what it amounts to and You just made a couple of mistakes with the credit cards and student loans and the car and it's GonNa take a while to dig through those but if you can get rid of those credit cards in this car payment go a long way towards straightening this around and then from there Let's talk about what we can due to get incomes up in the household with career changes and reasonable ideas. You got some challenges. No doubt about it Keto if I can help you you call me anytime. That's what we're here here for open phones. Triple eight eight two five five two two five you guys jump in. We'll talk about your life and your money. It is a free call own show. There's two sides to this equation. It's a fairly simple equation on your budget the income side and the Ongo side. Most people that call this show. It's an outgo problem. But sometimes like Daphne. It's an income problem and she's got some legitimate things limiting our ability to create income. It's not a lack of she not lazy. It's not a lack of being willing to work. Its lack of finding something that fits in the uh-huh disabilities and the challenges that she's got so It's a process but all of us can look and say Gosh. Gosh ten years from now doing where I made twice as much money. What am I gotTa do what has to be true? That's not true today. Do I need to take a class. Do I need to get a degree. Do I need to be in an apprentice program. Do I need to read every book I can get my hands on the subject and what is it you WanNa do with your life. What can you do to create income in the process? Sometimes that's a bigger part of the equation. This is the Dave Ramsey show and dental insurance is great if somebody else is paying for it but if if you're footing the bill one. Dental dot com is a much better way for my listeners. One dental dot com is a discount membership that gets you unlimited. It'd lower rates at the dentist not just for cleanings but even dentures implants root canals braces. And more. Whether you're getting a plan for yourself your family or your the business one. DENTAL DOT COM is the way to go visit one dental dot com today and learn how you can see the dentist on a budget. That's one dental dental dot com And our our question today comes from blinds dot com. Find out for yourself why they are the number one online retailer of custom window coverings get free samples. They're air free shipping and with the new promos. They run every month. You'll save even more use the Promo Code Ramsey. That's blinds dot com. Today's questions questions from Dana in Michigan Dave working baby step two. My debt. Snowball should be done by twenty twenty one making sixty thousand with thirty one thousand in debt. My Dog has recently completed chemotherapy for lymphoma and is in remission the type of cancer he has it will oh comeback and he will need chemotherapy again to help him fight through. This round of Chemo is cost. Roughly Ten K.. From start to finish my question is in regards to chemotherapy. Be In the future. We are unsure. How long has remained remission? Will last how should I plan for future. Chemotherapy cost considering lymphoma is not curable. We'll come back back and I have quite a bit of debt left on should I create a sinking fund for chemotherapy or plan to cash flow. His lymphoma it comes back. Why did you guys give me this question? You know. No I'm going to get so much hate mail Baby Girl I love my dog. I cry when I bury them. I've had a dog in my life as long as I can remember and and sometimes more than one the chances I'm a multi millionaire and the chances of me spending twenty or thirty thousand dollars to keep a dog alive live with chemotherapy while it suffering for my selfish need to keep the dog alive or zero. That's not fair to the dog. It's financially responsible. It's not human. It's a dog so human we spend the money and you figure it out. There is a differentiation between our pets and our family members even though they feel like family members and we loved them deeply and we cry. But but you're not going to like my answer. I would not do another round of chemotherapy for ten thousand dollars. I would on send him to heaven and we know that all all dogs go to heaven. We're not sure about cats but all dogs go to heaven. Oh Hi you you guys you get so mad at me. He doesn't understand what kind of a man we'd dish. Listen it's a dog my Shitsu. It's who gets emol apple hungering and coffee five. Am every morning and licks me in the face. And I talked to it. Baby talk as if it can understand anything I'm saying because it's dumber than Iraq greely but it's sweet loving dog and I love that little dog and how will cry. When that little dog is gone? I will cry like like a thirteen year old girl. I will cry but I will not spend ten thousand dollars to keep Rufus alive. He's a dog now. All you folks that are think I'm out of line. You just send me the hate mail and I'll burn it for kindling like I do the rest of you idiots when you do that kind of stuff so you just you have to. Have you know if you told me this was your child field. I would just say stop everything and Pile up money for your child. But it's not it's not so and you cannot accuse me of not being an animal lover. You cannot accuse me of not understanding the love that people have for their dogs. Because I am and I do. That's not the point. When is it's a dog walk and just not doing that Plus the dogs last night. The dog is suffering mean. You ever seen a person. Go through Chemo. It's Hell it's hell and it's awful but we're trying to keep a human being alive there and and that is a different situation. It really is different. I know some people have gotten confused about that in this culture but I'm an old guy and I come. I'm from back in the old days when we had common sense about stuff open phones at triple eight eight to five five to five. David is with us in Georgia. Hi David how are you. Hey how you doing today better than I deserve. What's up got a question Gloria? I found myself facing tax debt contact with a sex firmly with the IRS. I'm of the half half and offering compromise Pleased with what I think would be the results. Then no guarantees obviously What is your take on these These funds to go say with the IRS their success rate and they were looking at a fairly large figure. t- mm service out but it's a fairly large number and get it done that'd be nice plays but Certainly in into what's the average Ah Compensation for like this to do that. I would only use a tax attorney to do that. I would not use a firm firm that specializes in it. I would get an attorney. That has a specialization in tax practice that does Os's I think if you'll do some investigation into O.. Oh acid separate from the information this firm is giving you. You're GONNA find that. They almost never go through. We have had customers clients. That were counseling counseling on finances that are in deep deep doodoo on all kinds of things were negotiate with all the different creditors with them for them and we worked with the the irs hundreds and hundreds of times the rules on OAC offering compromise in order for the government to forgive in federal income income tax. That you know you basically have to prove pauper status that you have no assets and no earning ability. Because they're gonNA take your future earning ability or they're gonNA take all your assets before they talk about discounting your tax bill one dollar and so consequently very few people. You're in that situation that they have absolutely no assets and ordering ability There's a few times I've seen them do it but I would say you have less then I five percent chance of getting this tax bill reduced and if you have a substantial income or if you have assets if you have equity in your home forget it forget it they're not not doing it. you're being led down primrose path. They're getting ready to take your money by. There's this firm promising you something. They cannot deliver And for sure don't don't lie to the IRS. That would be called fraud and that's go to jail. Do not pass go stuff right there. So you tell the truth and if you of assets or you have earning abilities they're just not gonNa do it The statute is very clear on that. So do a little bit of research yourself. Talk to Assad tax to to an attorney that has specialization in tax work. And see if they don't confirm what I just told you And no no I would not give ten thousand dollars to affirm to try to get my one thousand dollar tax bill reduced to fifty thousand when you make one hundred thousand dollars a year. It's simply a waste of money. They're not GONNA do it. I don't know if those are your numbers just made those numbers up. But that's I wouldn't do it. Williams is with us in New Jersey. Hi William how are you. Hi Dave Ah pleasure to speak to you. What's up I would first time caller and Recently started listen to you. So I'm calling you because I I. I have a mess with my dad and I'm trying to figure out the best approach Specifically I'd like to get out of my niece I because it was a very bad and expensive choice and I have about thirty seven K that I could get in the next three to four months. So I'm wondering how can I leverage this to come out of the lease and just get my debt in order right now who is the WHO is the fleece with It is with Kia via okay so you call Kia and you ask them for the early buyout if you're going to buy the car and own it. That's like an early payoff on on alone. And you compare that number two what the car would sell for so if the early buyout is thirty thousand the car will sell for twenty five thousand. Then you need five thousand dollars to put with the purchasers in purchasers money to get your car paid off your upside down on the car you've got to cover the difference and that gets you out of the lease you sell the car. Cover the difference in that money. Got Coming in. Allow you to do that. And then buy you inexpensive inexpensive replacement car until you get your other mess. Cleaned up. Ole Without a plan is more like a pipedream. It won't happen. Your timeshares goal look is to keep you in that contract and they have a plan on how to do it. You need and even more aggressive plan to get out of it and the company with that plan. Hannah's timeshare exit team. It's a tested plan. That has exited over nineteen thousand people from their timeshares it starts with a free consultation tation. And if they can't get you out they'll give you your money back. Call eight four four nine nine nine exit or timeshare exit team dot com and start your your plan today. Yeah thanks for being with US America. Glad you're here. Open phones. Triple eight eight to five five to five. Michael is with US Kansas. Hey Michael welcome to the Dave Ramsey. Show Hey Dave. How're you doing today better than I deserve? What's up I had a question. So so I've been working the plan I don't know for a couple of months was able to one thousand nine hundred student loans realized I gotTA trump. That is is a little bit absurd so working on getting rid of that but then the other issue I'm having with his Off So me and my wife bought our house Before we were married so if you put it in her name and then we ended up getting married and then we gotta he lock. And then we've taken the money and then up have upgraded the house and I'm wondering if it's time to Go ahead and refinance and then put the he locked in the mortgage loan with both of us but mortgage. Now what is the balance on the heat. Lock thirty five and what's your household income after taxes I think we're right around eighty five okay and What is the interest rate on your first mortgage It's around four point. I think it's four point a six. Okay right and and the balance on your first mortgages one hundred four right now okay all right right. Generally what we tell folks is to put the second mortgages in baby. Step two in your debt snowball if they are less than half your annual income in this is your head Dari. The reason why I was asking is because my wife also has A student loan. That's over fifty thousand dollars so it would. I was thinking it would speed it up if we were to refinance fifteen year. But that's why I was asking. Yeah it would And it's an okay you so you have fifty thousand dollars student loan debt and one of the deaths do you have other than this I have I have the truck which is eighteen thousand which I'm clean Friday to start when bakers up selling it and I should break even or make fifteen hundred uh-huh and then We've got credit card. Debt was around twenty K.. You and then I've got my car. which has got three thousand? But I'm getting ready to write a check to pay it off and we have heard or which is fifteen thousand. Yeah okay you got a lot of debt. Yeah you're telling me about how much how much do you have in savings or investments investments. That are not in retirement Right now I've got between us both. We've got around forty five hundred savings not including two thousand dollars and Album knowledge you'RE GONNA use to pay that little car loan off okay. Yeah but I'm GonNa wait till the truck just in case if you know I'm riddick quick yourself if I become upside down I have enough to cover. That then puts the rest of the car agreed. That's a good move. Okay yea if you WANNA throw that he locked into a refi that's fine because the first mortgage interest rate is high enough. I think you can probably get You'd probably save about one percent or maybe a little more. You'd probably get a three and a half three and a quarter fifteen year fixed with Churchill mortgage right now and That that would pay off the mortgage enroll the second into it. If you've got the equity in the house to do that and put it all on a fifteen year fixed. I'm probably going to do that just because you're so freaking overwhelmed with other debt Yeah it's it's frustrating. I mean granted I may be able to work. So that's a plus yeah and And we've got worked out to where my wife gets to stay home during the week and see makes enough money on the weekends to make up for it so we have to pay for childcare. So I mean I mean we're doing okay. We're just in and out of control but luckily we put the log into the home so the home we could sell it today for like one seventy if we wanted to. Yeah Yeah I'm going to go in and refinance that get rid rid of that and the point being you've learned your lesson you're never going back and you clean up the clean up to fifteen thousand dollar car at the credit cards the student loan debt. And that's going to be enough work to do for sure and baby step two yom with you. Let's do this get in touch with Churchill mortgage. They can help you do that for sure. Our mark it is with us in Washington. Hi Mark how are you dave. Thanks for taking my call. Sure what's up. I'm looking for some advice. Awesome went to cut loose my term life insurance policy Divorced five years ago remarried Nagas. That got some kids a little ways as out from graduating high school into half years away one four and a half years away and Try to figure out how all that fits in the thing so just looking for some device. Well so your dependence are Teenage children and your and your new wife and how much much do you have in investments God almost nine hundred and one K and mutual funds. And I've I've got half my house. beat off okay. And what's your house worth nine hundred okay. So you four fifty still and what's your household income eight hundred okay. Eight hundred thousand. That's eight hundred thousand one hundred seventy seven in child support and spousal Annually what do you do for a living Executive wow good for all over. Do you moved up. You have gone. Well okay well I mean with the kind of money you make The point is a uh who's GonNa take care of. Your happening is nine hundred K.. Enough to take care of your spouse this mortgage and your kids. No No. It's not so you're not self insured. You know the bottom line is I mean if it creates a hundred thousand dollar a year income and they're used to receiving one hundred and seventy seven on over there now you wouldn't be necessarily that concerned about your former spouses support but you would be about your kids. Correct yeah and I'm probably the smaller portion of that one. Seventy seven is child support because usually child support's not that high so But what would you want to have as a stream of of income to your kids and as a stream of income to your Spouse your current spouse correct how much Man The kids all inter ninety thousand right now. NOPE NO Got One hundred sixty which I didn't include my net worth one hundred fifty seven college so you know I guess if I look at it combined between the two kids edge that is seven years. I've gotTA cover them all in so I'm talking about. I'm talking about annual cash flow. How much do they need today today? Right now it's ninety. Eight thousand broke a year. Call it a hundred. And how much annual cash flow would your spout current spouse. Need if you died today Got The house payment. That's thirty five hundred but I am planning on having that House paid off in September twenty twenty three but you ought sooner now with the income you got the nice one hundred. He's probably one fifty. I mean I'm wearing and all right so let's just let's call it. Call a quarter million dollars a year. Right there's porch both of them and you need to get that house paid off quicker than that you make eight hundred but let's get the you know for today you need. You need a quarter million dollars coming to them so you just simply multiply that by ten or twelve so you need two and a half three million dollars to to create invested a an income thrown off a couple of hundred thousand right and you've got a million of it so you need to make insurance today now when you get to a net when you get to a point that three million dollars is there then you would not need need life insurance or when the kids are grown. Which might happen before you get to that point Because they're older I mean when they're when they're off the payroll also to speak and they're on their own. If you die you're not going to be. You're leaving an income to a twenty five year old. You know no way okay and so. We're going to get them you and you've got college college. Set aside for them. You said so if you've got college covered so when they graduate from high school you probably have just about exhausted your need to take care of them monthly right action. That's you know that's kind of stop the bottom line. Is You have enough assets. That's to supply the needs. And you don't right now even though these numbers are ridiculously large regulations the Dave Ramsey show and last March right here on the Dave Ramsey show. We announced the first ever live like no one else cruise for you. Guys that are baby steps four and beyond and you guys were so pumped about this. It's sold out in twenty seven days of the cabins. Were all reserve. This is an epic cruise brand new ship with Holland. America Doc. Absolutely incredible all Ramsey personalities will be with US World Class Friends of ours. Like Jeff Foxworthy. Steven Curtis Chapman. Monique Johans on a world class chef. You've seen her on Food Channel for sure. She's got a bunch of incredible restaurants here in Nashville and for seven. Incredible days at sea. And we're GONNA teach entertain and have some amazing experiences together. So here's what happens on a cruise. These guys put up a deposit and they get one hundred percent of their deposit back if they cancel the reservation by October. Well things have come up and people's lives. They got deployed different. Things have happened. Somebody in the family was ill. Whatever and we've had people drop out so there are a few cabins away? We are two months so from departure it is March twentieth. And I'm excited to tell you that a few cabins opened up and you can go. It's you join us in March Maybe you were working on your last few debts. Maybe you're finishing up your emergency fund last year when we launched this. And you're like well I'll have to catch the next one the only the money right now and I'm not really a baby step four but now your baby step four. Well if you're four beyond and of course you can pay cash for it. Meaning we don't want you to go into debt got to do this. We're not inconsistent in what we teach. And what we do so. Today's the Lucky Day. You can actually get on this cruise with me Chris. Chris Hogan Rachel Cruze. Ken Coleman Anthony. O'Neill every one of the ramp Christy Wright every one of the Ramsey personalities are going to be on there and so Pretty cool stuff including well not including because they're not Ramsey personalities but we're also GONNA have Jeff Foxworthy with us. My friend Steven Curtis Chapman. And as I said Monique Sean. So you do not want to miss this. There's a couple of cabins of opened up go to Ramsey cruise dot com. Right this second and you can claim one of these last remaining cabins. It is a sure to be a debt free celebration. The entire ship is US Josh. The entire ship. And so it's gonna be George Camel's going weather looking out here seeing George sitting here. Of course he's going to be there and so the whole gang will be are there and you're going to get we're GONNA have all kinds of events and sessions and classes and you're going to be able to go to Turks and Keiko's WE'RE GOING TO BE IN IN SAN JUAN We're going to be in Saint Thomas. We're going to be on the Private Island Bahamas. It's an incredible crews and really Nice brand a new ship one year old just came out this time last year so again go to Ramsey cruise dot com right now. There's a handful and full of cabins. We want this thing to be completely. I mean I don't mean just sold out where we took your money. I mean we want full. We want someone in every rent. We want to have you there all right. Let's go to Sara in Texas. Hi Sarah Welcome to the Dave Ramsey. Show Hi Dave I see you and Larry Birkhead my husband and I are in baby. Step seven heavens good for you well done. Yeah Way we are enjoying it here. So I retired tired early from Law Corporate career to pursue my dream to open a retreat house for quilting and crafting groups out in the country where we live on our family ranch. And we're going to build a three bedroom house on the property for the retreat later this year and I'm estimating it'll take about four hundred thousand dollars to to build it and I'd like to do this debt free and take it out of my retirement funds and I'm a I'm a glass half full Gal but my husband is a glass cats empty guy and he's concerned about taking that much out of our retirement firemen signs and he. He respects your opinion so here we are so how well in two months. I'll be fifty nine and a half just like you okay. All right and he's a little younger so you can't take any of his out but you can take some of yours out. What what is your total nest? Egg One point four million. Okay all right you know I I would put this in the category of say. Do I buy a ski house or a Beach House or a Lake House Because it's not really going to generate any income. So do you spend. What do we got here? Twenty twenty five thirty percent of your net worth on a piece of real estate that is a toy because not generating income are not going to generate substantial income awesome. Well I've done some homework and a pro forma income statement in a class. I took on entrepreneurship and even if I was at fifty percent capacity which is pretty standard for that market My net profit would be sixty thousand two year and we only live on seventy thousand a year or you got. You're not gonna live in the property. Then no we live on another house on that same. Pretty already Well this is a higher risk type of real estate. I mean this is a weekly rental out. Whatever retreat center situation and so it's not a and from what oh you described it's out in the country quote unquote in a rural setting right? Yeah we're about fifteen minutes away from some larger towns where there are a lot of quilters and crafters and people. I I don't know what the I don't. I don't know what the market is for something like you're doing. I mean you you probably know more about it than I do But I kind of think I would do this planning to make very little money on it and if I was okay with that I would go forward but if you have to make sixty thousand dollars for this to be okay and then you don't make it. You're not not going to be okay with it. That's probably that's probably a no go now. Can you take four hundred thousand dollars if you have one point. Four million and set it in the middle of Florence certifier and still survive absolutely. You'll be fine and you're not doing that so you're actually going to increase the value of your property because you're building a fixed asset asset on it And hopefully you'll create some monthly income to justify this And so yeah. I'm probably going to go ahead and do it but it's it's a pretty substantial portion You know if you told me it was half of your net worth. I tell you not to do it. Yeah well and in the future my husband will get A military reserve income retirement income of about a thousand a month and then and it's social security is still around We get net to. Yeah you got some other stuff coming. I understand but I mean we're I'm I'm just looking at your one point four and you're using four hundred and the return that Y- and I'm not as sure about the return you're going to get on that as you are so no I'm just pretending for a second here you're GONNA get no return on it. You can do it. You can do it it's It's a little scary so scary but it doesn't it doesn't put you completely at it risk. It's not over in the dumb column. It's not over there where you would say. Just don't do this because you're GONNA get yourself in trouble not like that I think you can do it and It's obviously something you've thought through and you've dreamed about and is going to bring you joy and if you can stay there with it and he can stay there with it then Emotionally then I would go ahead I would not go ahead if you guys cannot come into agreement about this thing Ah or I would not go ahead. If the only way you're gonNA feel good about he's GonNa feel good about it is if you make sixty seventy thousand dollars a year on this thing because you might not. That's all I'm saying again. I don't them how to analyze the market. The way you have. It's hard for me to visualize that. There's that many people are going to rent a retreat house to do quilting. But I don't do quilting I'm not in that world so I can't tell you how that works. Its way outside of my. I'm not your Focus Group Group obviously for sure. But maybe that'll help you. Maybe that'll help. 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4.2.21 Culture Friday, A Week Away, and Ask the Editor

The World and Everything In It

34:19 min | 4 months ago

4.2.21 Culture Friday, A Week Away, and Ask the Editor

"The world and everything in is brought to you by listeners. Like me. I'm hannah mobley age. Eleven and i live in plymouth minnesota home school day with my brother ben. Worldwatch news in the big bash. My mom teaches us at home. And my dad's at the free loosen bible college seminary. I hope you enjoy today's program. Great job hannah. Good morning a major class action lawsuit targets hundreds of christian schools across the country but one of its goals is to shape the debate over the equality at is and we'll talk with john stonestreet about that on culture friday plus new christian film perfect for watching with kids especially if they enjoy summer camp and singing. Hey by the way What's with the name allegiance. Yep no no. It's a week away. You know like you guys are all take a week away from reliance to hang out with us. It's friday april second. This is the world and everything in it from listener supported world radio. I'm gonna brown. And i'm nick. Eicher up next jill. Nelson has today's news. President joe biden held his first official cabinet meeting on thursday. His two point three trillion dollar infrastructure plan dominated the agenda. The president tapped five cabinet secretaries to champion the proposal. Working with my team here in the white house these cabinet members will represent me dealing with congress engage the public and selling the plan and help work out the details as we Refine it and move forward. The outreach team includes the secretaries of transportation energy labor commerce and housing and urban development house speaker. Nancy pelosi the president's legislative push president biden is undertaking. Something in the tradition of thinking. Big thing transformational and creating jobs for america but republicans aren't buying it senator. John kennedy of louisiana said it was a stretch to call the package and infrastructure bill. Fisher's lot an infrastructure bill. As best. I can tell. Just being charitable about fifteen percent of this bill is addressed to infrastructure. The rest is climate subsidies and social welfare spending. Pelosi said she hopes to hold a vote on the measure by july president. Biden says he wants to win bipartisan support. For at least some of the bill but if not congressional democrats could use the budget. Reconciliation process to push it through without any republican votes police in southern california. Say a man who shot and killed four people at an office. Complex south of los angeles on wednesday knew his victims orange. Police lieutenant jennifer amit told reporters thursday this was not a random act of violence that preliminary motive is believed to be related to and personal relationship which existed between the suspect and all of the victims. The youngest victim was a nine year old boy. The gunman also shot and killed a man and two women. A third woman survived but was injured. The gunmen evidently planned the attack ahead of time including ways to slow first responders. Who would eventually arrive at the scene. That appears the suspect. Use a bicycle type. Cable walk to secure the gates from the inside on both north and the south sides of the courtyard to officers engaged the suspect from outside of the gates and an officer involved shooting occurred. Police identified the gunman as forty four year. Old amina dab gonzalez. He survived but remains hospitalized. After arresting him police recovered an automatic handgun and a backpack loaded with pepper spray handcuffs and ammunition. The company blamed for ruining fifteen million doses of the johnson and johnson. Covid nineteen vaccine has a history of quality control problems. The food and drug administration has repeatedly cited emergent bio solutions for problems with employee training cracked vials and mold and other contamination around one of its facilities. Johnson and johnson announced wednesday. That batch of the vaccine made by emergent at a factory in baltimore had to be discarded it said the finished product did not meet quality standards. Dr anthony fauci the nation's top infectious disease expert told. Cbs this morning. The system for catching problems worked. Well you know human error is do happen. And you have checks and balances and you see that. And that's the reason why the good news is that it did get picked up and as i mentioned. That's the reason. Nothing of from that plant has gone into anyone that we've administered to johnson and johnson partnered with emergent to manufacture. Its vaccine before that the baltimore facility was contract testing laboratory that did not manufacture products for distribution in a statement johnson johnson downplayed any potential disruption and said it still planned to deliver one hundred million doses of the vaccine by the end of june and possibly as soon as the end of may hall of fame college basketball coach roy williams announced his retirement on thursday during his thirty three year career williams. One more than nine hundred games and three national championships. He won those titles with the north carolina tar heels in two thousand five two thousand nine and twenty seventeen before coming to north carolina. Williams had a long and successful run at kansas. At the end of his team's season williams reflected on what he called a difficult year a horde year to push and pull pushing pull every other day to try to get something done and But can be luckier than roy. Waves is coaching basketball. During a news conference. Thursday williams said after two difficult seasons in a row he no longer felt he was the right man for the job. The tar heels lost to wisconsin in the first round of this year's nc double a. tournament. It was william's only first round loss in thirty tournaments. I'm jill nelson straight ahead. Lgbt students sue christian colleges plus marvin laskey answers a question about the talmud. This is the world and everything in it. It's friday april second twenty twenty one. Glad to have you along for today's edition of the world and everything in it. Good morning. i'm myrna brown. And i'm nick eicher a seemingly significant federal class action lawsuit this week a group known as the religious exemption accountability project on monday filed suit targeting hundreds of christian colleges and universities that have policies. The group says are anti lgbtq. The goal of the suit is to force the schools to give up essentially their statements of faith and codes of conduct or else lose federal money but another goal is to highlight a debate. The equality act. Should it come before the senate. This is a measure that would add. Lgbtq priorities into federal civil rights. Laws one debate. That may come. Up is over whether to exempt christian colleges and universities from these laws much as they are now exempted in federal law on grounds of religious freedom. The washington post quoted the head of the group that filed the lawsuit. He said it was the prospect of religious carve outs from the equality act. And i'll quote him here. He says many mainstream. Lgbtq groups are not committed to fighting. We want to say don't negotiate us away. Don't bargain away. These students who are really being damaged with taxpayer money. I'm worried that they will be cut out of equality act protection. Well it's culture. Friday and john stonestreet joins us now. He's president of the colson center and host of the breakpoint. Podcast john. good morning. good morning. Well this is quite a lawsuit. See a number of sympathetic faces here. I think that's the point as we heard from that. Washington post quotation to put human faces and names on the coming debate over the equality act. Not just whether it should pass or not pass but whether there ought to be any kind of compromise scheme that's been floated such as The so-called fairness for all so it seems to be a smart strategy on the part of the gay group to present these students who say they felt badly treated at this or that christian school but the practical effect is basically it seems to force christian institutions to choose between holding two basic biblical doctrine or receiving federal funds in any form but Is it an exaggeration in your mind. John to say that this could be the The biggest threat to christian institutions to come down the pike. No i think this is actually exposing something else. I mean this is really not in a sense and to the equality act. It's a reaction to the potential compromise solutions to the quality act like fairness for all the equality act puts any claims of discrimination based on sexual orientation gender identity over any religious freedom restoration act right so in other words you can't be protected by riffraff now. Of course the religious exemption of institutions is a little bit more deeply ingrained in a little bit stronger than just refer loss But that was the idea of those who advanced. Compromise solutions like the fairness for all legislation. I think this just demonstrates that that sort of compromise is strategic mistake First of all to say that we've reached a compromise with groups. This group in and of itself is exposing well which groups are willing to compromise with. You says who. This isn't a random group of college students that got together online. You had students featured in this article from bob jones and baylor. They don't hang out with each other. I mean that's just not you know the you know they're not going to run into each other at the ncaa tournament right. This is not what's happening here. This was a fabricated group of students that was specifically targeted to say religious. Exemptions aren't going to go forward now as i've said before the religious exemption of institutions protects us but not the rest of us it protects. You know maybe christian colleges and churches if you can negotiate those but it fails to recognize the religious freedom that people in our part of religious institutions also have and also There's still a lot of work to be done in the courts and it's gonna be interesting. What kind of protections we're going to have. I kind of feel like that. Meam of michael jackson sitting there at the theater eating popcorn during the thriller video. Like there's a whole lot movie left to be had. We're going to see some more john. Everybody is talking about these. Satan shoes sneakers that are said to contain a drop of human blood in the sole this product. that's being promoted by this rapper. I'm not gonna say his name but he has a mass of very young audience and he's also released a video of himself giving satan a lap dance in hell. It's incredibly disturbing for sure. Probably by design. But is it culturally significant. And if so what's culturally significant about it you know. This is an interesting topic lead. You brought it up for a number of reasons number one is i think satan is much more clever than jumping out and going boo. So these kind of shock. Things are shocking. And we shouldn't indulge in them and we should definitely keep kids who are tend to be attractive and just being shocking for the sake of being shocking away from it but we think that that's the primary way satan is working in our world. Satan has been working far more effectively at shedding innocent unborn human blood than putting drops of blood and a particular sole of a shoe. I'm not saying that makes it okay. It's still ridiculous and absurd and awful. The point is is that culture. Has this dual role. Not everything that gets set or done in. Culture is embraced as normal right. You know when professional athletes do somethings. It's very very popular in culture when they do other things it gets soundly rejected as being you know racist or drug abuse or mistreatment of women. That's the role that culture has and so it's interesting how widely the condemnation has been of these shoes. Right you can kind of think back at marilyn manson who was accepted by a very small subgroup and culture but pretty much widely and soundly rejected. This is what you have to look at it and culture. Sometimes culture serves the role of embracing new things. A lot of times it will reject new things And then it'll make a big noise but it really won't go forward. Which is one of the reasons. I think scripture tells us to be wise as serpents because not everything. That's noisy is important. We'll see if this one is yet you know speaking of satanic john. We've had a spate of stomach turning acts of violence lately from To mass murders last month one case said to be based on a young man sexual disorders and other one said to be based on a young man's paranoia and explosive rage Carjacking captured on video. You hear more than you see thank goodness but the owner of the car tried to save his car and ended up losing his life and a young girl is seen after the car crash. More concerned about retrieving her cell phone. Then about the man She's likely responsible for dragging to his death then case out of new york another attack captured on security video and for absolutely no other reason. Apparently than at the woman was an older asian woman. She was walking to church. The assailant approaches her kicks her to the ground. Then she's down on the sidewalk. He kicks her two more times and allegedly says. You know you don't belong here. And then we see from the security tape we see a security guy in this building shuts the door no care for the woman lying on the sidewalk obviously in need of medical attention thirty one according to nypd thirty one hate crime incidents against asians This year versus eleven At the same time last year this is not satanic shock entertainment. This is a real life on the streets. No it is satanic. And we'll see you know win. The numbers come in is whether we're seeing an overall rise in violent crime or acts of violence and whether it's everywhere and you know what's the relationship between that and you know the police and all that sort of stuff. But i do think we're seeing an uptick in two things and we know one thing is statistically verifiable and that's the death from despair the other category i call acts of desperation. Just when people feel like they've got nothing left to do except act out in some sort of way either self harming or others harming and i put into that category certainly acts of mass violence irrational blaming of people for example asian-americans for for covid nineteen. But we've got to look at it in that thirty thousand foot view. This reminds me of just a few months ago when bill marr on his show was talking about the capital riots with an african american conservative on the program and it got a lot of attention because african american conservative said look twenty. Twenty was the year of writing. The writing didn't start in january of twenty twenty one. We have a whole trend of writing that has taken place over the last twelve months if we look at this as an isolated event as opposed to asking what has gone wrong in our culture that is created so much unrest. We're gonna miss the story. And i think what we're seeing is our narratives right now on. These acts of violence are failing us. They're proving themselves too small to handle all the facts. John stonestreet is president of the colson. Center and host of the breakpoint podcast. John appreciate you thank you. Both additional support comes from wilberforce weekend. A world class of ed from the colson center. That explores your god-given calling and his restorative work in the world may twenty-first through twenty-third more wilberforce. Weekend dot org. From pensacola christian college empowering christian leaders to influence the world more at go dot p. c. i. dot edu slash world and from the podcast. Too busy to flush. One couples slightly irreverent things on faith food family and marriage too busy to flush dot com Andrea lessons works at a goodwill thrift store in norman oklahoma just from working here for about a month and a half. I've noticed that there are a lot of weird things that have been donated and she told. Kfor new she recently found a really weird thing among the donations to sweaters wrapped together around what she thought were books. But that wasn't exactly what she found. Stacks of just envelopes and it just contained one hundred dollar bills. My first thought was it's fake but on second thought they weren't fake. Know hundred dollar bills. Were very real and there were four hundred and twenty of them to be precise so quick. Math here forty two thousand dollars in cash now. Being a human lessing said sure. It was a temptation not to say anything but she did the right thing. She brought it to the attention of a manager. They were able to track down the person who unwittingly donated the cash so the rightful owners of all of that money decided that they should reward lessons for her honesty. Goodwill's vice president of donated goods. Frank holland presented that reward. They asked us. If we we give you one thousand dollars. They came out of that money and give that back to. You sounds like she really needed. That fell an emotional andrea. Lessing saying that she had planned to spend much of that money on birthday presence for her six year old a story of goodwill in more ways than wanting it's the world and everything. Today is friday april second. Thank you for turning to world radio to help start your day. good morning. I'm nick eicher and myrna brown coming next on the world and everything in it a new christian movie sure to get the whole family singing. I couldn't resist. Here's a reviewer. Megan basham and it'll be easy for cooler than thou types to sneer. At a week away a new jukebox musical that puts us spiritual spin on the classic summer camp movie but that will only be because they forgotton the freedom. The middle school years offer to fully embrace innocent entertainment. Today's your lucky day. Good news this is. The story starts with troubled teenager. Will hawkins kevin quinn from bunked. You are going to summer camp mark. I'm not really temp material. He's an orphan in need of community and comfort interest foster family willing to take him in and send him off for a week of fun on the lake with their own teenage son. George george h the pg film debuted march twenty seventh on netflix. And it clearly owes something of its existence to disney's high school musical franchise but this is one time. The faith-based facsimile out does the secular original bond movie as a guitar playing delinquent and his good girl love interest quinn and bailee madison from bridge to tear busia offer moderately better singing and much better acting then. Zach ephron and vanessa. Hudgens did in their mouth house. Heyday and even adults will chuckle at david. Kettner best known for anchorman and the office and thirty rock sherri shepherd in their roles as camp directors. The his Well hawkins file social service but everything in there this is. This really tried to sell his high school on craigslist. that boy got three offers. Okay so is this going to be worried about. I seem to remember certain bad boy back in the day. We'll be fine by george. One of the most important elements in any musical is the songs and in that category. It's hard to argue that a week away doesn't have it all over the disney nickelodeon competition hits from steven curtis chapman for king and country. Amy grant and michael w smith coexist alongside new tunes from fixer uppers favourite house band. Johnny swim. I personally would have loved to see a couple of head banging numbers in the style of petra but still i dare believers who came of age in the eighties and nineties to resist singing along fact if there's any gripe to be had with a week away it's that the production feels a little too brief just when we start to get a handle on the central conflict of the story whether our main character will let the christian teens get to know the real him. The problem is resolved with a kiss and a kick in talent show performance. Shame because with a little more time and development. The movie could've offered its target tween and young teen audience. Something a little deeper for. I know the plans that i have in store for. You declares the lord still when one character references jeremiah. Twenty nine eleven. She does so not from a place of prosperity but of loss and suffering plans to give you hope and a future. It's an opportunity to remind kids that sometimes trusting god's plans means trusting the pain he allows our lives for our good. I just want to say that. I'm glad you're here will. that's it. i called you out here. Glad you're here. well thanks. Hey by the way. What's with the name a you know. It's a week away. You know like you guys are all taking a week away from your lives to hang out with us that makes more sense and bonus every once in a while somebody finds out that they're just a week away from an experience that changed everything for them. That's my favorite part. You can probably guess how will story plays out from here but light is. It may be a week. Away is still a sweet confection. And it's the perfect new film for families looking for something fun to watch this weekend. It will provide a wide open door to lend their own voices two great worship songs on easter sunday. I'm megan basham. Today is friday april second. Good morning this is the world and everything in it from listener supported world radio. I'm ernie brown and nick eicher. Well it's time now for ask the editor in this month world editor in chief. Marvin alaska answers a question about judaism. We're approaching the end of passover which began on march twenty seventh and ends on april fourth since a lot of world members. No i'm jewish christian. Some of asked me. what's the town. Would i hear jewish people studying a lot. That's true many orthodox jews spend more time studying the talmud than the bible orthodox jews believe god gave jews a written law the hebrew scriptures but also an oral law passed down from moses through the generations and written down in the talmud. It's a huge and fascinating repository of analysis and storytelling recorded between two hundred and five hundred. Ad the talmud include some parallels to new testament teaching quote when a man is dangerously. Ill you may break one sabbath on his behalf that he may be preserved to keep many sabbath other parts offer. Good advice quote. I would rather be called a fool all my days than sin. One hour before god. Here's another good one to remember repent one day before your death. Since we don't know what day that is a means repent everyday the talmud includes attempts to harmonize bible passages. That seem contradictory. Deuteronomy twenty three prohibits marrying moa bites but in the book of ruth. Boaz mary's ruth even though she's from oab christians understand why is showing that he will extend his covenant to non jews. The talmudic rabbis did not acknowledge that so wants to the deuteronomy passage was just to keep out more by men male. Israelites could marry more. Bite women the town. That has a lot of fiala g the juice take seriously but there's also humor that will feel familiar. Who is watch seinfeld. Here's a tom statement about. Bigamy problems a man had a young wife who plucked out all his grey hairs so he might look young and old wife who plucked out all his black hairs so he might look old or how about this three creatures roosters and sorcerers make trouble some say strange women to also some world members complained that we have no. Here's anymore so i recommend this time. Motogp passage rabah anina could put on and off his shoes while standing on one leg only though he was eighty years of age. High aspire to that i'm marvel asking today is good friday. Many christians are around. The world gathered to hear and reflect upon the passion of christ his last supper prayerful preparation garden arrest trial by night crucifixion and burial in a burrowed tomb many good friday services in with draping the altar in black or laurine. The light says people leave in silence soberly awaiting resurrection sunday. We've decided to end today's program in a similar way last year most churches across the globe had to cancel their usual good friday and easter services. So one musical group and cottam india recorded a virtual choir rendition of a well loved him. Here are eighty members of the continuum mixed voices with isaac watts eighteenth century him when i survey the wondrous cross on own. Aw a only. Aw a a aw takes a team to put this program together and ensure that it's delivered to you each morning faithfully so thanks are. In order to our faithful team. Megan basham anna. Hansen brown janey. Be cheney can't covington kristen flabby katie. Golden kim henderson. Jill nelson owns ao. He kerry mary reicher. Jenny lynch men. Sarah weinsberg cal. Thomas and whitney williams johnny franklin and carl pete's our audio engineers lee jones is making editor. Paul butler is executive producer. And martineau laskey is editor in chief. And thanks to you because of your support. You're helping make it possible to bring christian journalism till the marketplace of ideas for god so loved the world that he gave his only some that ever believes in him should not perish but have eternal. Life have a wonderful easter weekend of worship with your brothers and sisters.

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Happy Hour #399- Alyssa Bethke

The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey

50:36 min | Last month

Happy Hour #399- Alyssa Bethke

"Tape friends and welcome to the happy hour with jamie podcast. I'm your host jamie. And i'm so glad you're here each week on this show. I invite a friend to join me. And we chat about the big things on my the little things in life and everything in between hi friends and welcome to another episode of the happier jamie ivy. My name is jamie. And i'm your host and here. We are smack dab in the middle of june. And i'm excited. I love the summer. I love you at my family. Jews actually busy month for us in. July's kind of chill month. But whatever you're doing. I hope that today you're going to be encouraged by the conversation that i have with elissa. Elissa is not the first becky to have on the show. Her husband jeff was actually on last year episode. Three thirty six and here. We are episode three ninety nine with eliza and how fun that we're almost two four hundred episodes also fund. That elissa in the show tells me that she listened to my podcast years ago when it first first started and here we are having her on the show today which i am so excited about her being on the show today her and her husband deathly live in hawaii in maui and have three kids age seven five and so today we talk a lot about motherhood in parenting young kids and how she is finding satisfaction not just in the things of her life and the people in her life but finding satisfaction in jesus in this particular season that she's in she just released her brand new book satisfied finding hope joy and contentment. Right where you are. The book just came out yesterday. sorry. I hope you've had a chance to check it out and if you haven't after you listen to our show i know you're gonna want get your hands on a copy of that book. Also you guys over on our youtube channel. You can find that by going to youtube dot com and then my name so slash jamie ivy. I talked with us about our dreams and our calling and what that looks like in different seasons of our life and we have that exclusive bonus content over on youtube where you can watch us have a conversation about that again. It's youtube dot com slash jamie ivy. All right friends. Here is my conversation with eliza becky halo. Welcome to the happy hour. Thanks jamie this is a dream. Come true today. Well it's a dream come true for here as well because let me tell you you're other half jeff was on the show in november and now here it is june and here you are so it's like you guys are six months apart and this is just the best thing at the happier to have all the. That's so sweet. Well i was thinking about it today. Even though we've had a podcast for a long time. I think yours is the first podcast. I actually ever listened to like an would look forward to it every week so excited that listen to jamie and everybody interviewed. It was like it was the best. I still remember so many interviews that like from years ago. I love basketball. I love your show. You're so kind. I got in early so we just in may had our seven year birthday for happy hour which i now listen to. I mean so many shows. I can't even keep up and you guys. Everyone has such great shows of it. I hear often. They're like jamie. Spears was the first show. And then i'm like this little gateway podcast drug next thing you know using podcast all the time so i love it. No i know i'm like okay. Introduce us your family. If y'all didn't hear her husband. Jeff was on episode three thirty six. But you introduced us to your family today. Yes so my name is alicia and married to jeff and we live in hawaii. We live in maui. We have three kids. Kinsley cannon and lucy who are seven five and two and we get to just do anything and everything that's creative to share about jesus so we have a youtube podcast. We write books. We have a tv show and be any creative outlet. We can we get to do so and we to do it online so that we live in hawaii. That is so great. I mean you can do something online. Why not be in hawaii. Which is just the thing were. I've never actually been to. Why my husband and i were talking about the other day and we were talking with a couple at dinner and they have a daughter is thinking about moving to why for a little bit. Because you can't and i'm like of course it yes please do. But we've never been. And i just saw that. I think it's hawaiian airlines which lindsey who works with me. This is gonna make her day. They have straight plane tickets from austin to wherever you would fly to hawaii right now yet. I'm erin this is our time we need to go. You guys need to calm. Come stay with us. We can stay in our little. Bnb what is travel like right now with covid in hawaii. I actually haven't traveled since last. March jeff you. Just it's open now but you just have to take a cova test and get a negative one like within twenty two hours before you land. You're not having to quarantine before no you don't have to get there. S okay right but if you have a positive then you have to quarantine so. It's it's a little risky. It is a risky. But here's the deal. I mean we are. Family flew to mexico during covid. And that was the thing like you know what if we end up and i thought there would be worse places to be stuck for two weeks. I know what i okay darn. We shouldn't joke about kobe. Because it's very serious but an people can't just be stuck in another city for weeks on end and live life but you are in hawaii. Lovely okay. I love all the things that you and jeff are doing. And last time he was on. I think he alluded to this new lego thing that him and your daughter doing what i think is amazing but one of the things i love following you guys on instagram is what you guys are building now this bed and breakfast so can you tell us you guys just have the gift of hospitality and that comes through in everything that you do. Can you give us a little bit of the backstory behind this. Sheriff well let me just tell you. We've been married almost nine years now. And i'm finally realizing that jeff will have a new business idea like coming out. I always thought like this is just this one time. And it's like we're always going to be doing this. So during covert i think he had like six new business ideas hatched and form and one of those. It's actually we've been dreaming for years now of having some type of property we never knew if it'd be on the mainland or here and just being able to host people having kind of a retreat for them we know so many people on the mainland that are pastors and work in ministry or leaders and just need a place to rest retrea and like a place of shalom to sabbath so during covid. We're like oh. This place needs to happen in hawaii and so it's kind of crazy. Because hawaii's insanely priced through like this. Just be the lord so we just prayed and prayed and prayed and jeff was zillow every day for like two years and so finally during covid. This place showed up. it actually was a different place. I that we put in like the first date was on the market and things are going crazy right now. There is like five offers all on the same day. So we got. We were like the backup offer that got accepted even though we offered over. And i just like this. And when we weren't accepted i was so devastated but we just kept praying and then that real estate agent who was representing that house like we really bonded with him in so like a month later. He's like hey. This new house hasn't even gone a market yet. I think it's even better than what you guys like. I think it's more suited to what you guys want to do. If you're interested in so we went up the weekend before even when i'm market which usually is unheard of and it was way better exactly for what we wanted to do. We just wanted to have a barn for events and we wanted to have a place to host people and have some property and so we offer in and he accepted which was crazy. We put in the offer. He accepted on sunday on market on monday. Just because they have to show like it's there and it's pending. It went crazy. Everybody wanted to buy it like. Oh it's already spoken for and we even have this guy. Who was the backup offer for this house that we got and he found out like a month into it that he had the other real estate agent. One hundred thousand dollars to make it go sour like all give you one hundred thousand dollars if you just make this offer go bad like a hundred thousand dollars in the real estate agents pocket. Yes in their pocket. And this real estate agent who represented the house so not us follows us in his a believer and she was like. I have to tell you what's going on and we're like. Oh my gosh. So then two weeks before it. Close the backup. Offer came to us directly. And like we'll give you one hundred thousand dollars if you just walk away all that to say we did not walk away like this is crazy but we have this place now that it's not right on the beach it's like a country but there are some property and above the garage is like this huge apartment that remodeling so that we can host people and we built a barn to do events and have retreat. Sat. and so we're pretty stoked on. It sounds amazing but my first two thoughts are a who is throwing away one hundred thousand dollars and be in the real estate market where people are like i'm thinking like slide. You twenty no. We're slide hundred thousand dollars. We told some real estate friends of arthur. Like oh yeah that actually happens. A lot. were shocked by it. Imagine so gutsy that the market here in austin is like that as well and so. It's just crazy. I'm sure there's a bunch of one hundred thousand dollars slide and other places as well so you guys actually are living here as well. This is your home plus hosting place not to separate the yes yes. Oh we'll live there but it'll be. It's nice because like the part that people will pay to stay at is a little removed from our house got to sell. Yeah but we're really looking forward. What do you call that in. Over our heads with remodels right now but hopefully be moved in the next couple of months. It's amazing it's amazing now. Has this been a kind of foundational important thing for you guys and your family over the nine years married this hospitality and hosting people has been something of value of y'alls it really has. It's funny because i don't think we would have gone into marriage saying that that was a pillar of our marriage or our family. But i mean right off the bat which i wouldn't recommend our first year of marriage. We had a girl from norway. Live with us and we both lead. We led a college ministry so we both had bible studies. What have my girls and his guys over. I remember his guys came over. And i made them dinner and i was this new bride hardly knew what i was doing for cooking and i had five football guys. Come over to eat. And i didn't know what to make. I made spaghetti. And i didn't have enough so i pulled out our leftovers from our wedding that had been frozen for like seven months and i really heated it. What was i doing with leftovers in my freezer for seven months. But yeah we've just always hosted. People always have loved and then when we moved to maui. It's funny when you move to hawaii. People start to come out of the woodworks like people. You weren't even that close with all of sudden your best friends because they want wanna come stay with you and so when we first moved we had this house. That was what do you call that. Like a a split level so the bottom level was perfect for hosting and so we had so many people stay with us and we just realized we really love this and we live in a place where people want to come and visit and retreat as a family so yeah and now that we have younger kids. It's really fun to do it with them. Like we have people were for dinner. They'll set the table and they'll write cards to them and they'll pick out. They'll cut greenery for the table. It's really sweet. You know. I know that one of the things that you guys your family and your and your husband are really passionate about. Is this idea of of creating family atmosphere and creating a place for family. And i think that. I've heard one of you guys talk about how we have lost. The art of you know multigeneration families and although sometimes that's not possible with you know people being sick or or help this users living far ways but i do see you guys doing that and other ways and so can you talk a little bit about that passion that you guys have because having three young kids i mean there are a lot of people listening who have kids around your age seven five into and there i thought is like i'm just so dadgum tired like i can't imagine about feeding anyone else because i'm so tired of feeding these people. We had dinner with some friends last night. And they have four kids five and under. And i left and i was like. You're doing a great job because this is hard work but talk about the value of that you guys see with this family multi generational or bringing and other people. What does that value bring to your family. We just see that. God's design is for family like he says one of the biggest ways to share. The gospel that he uses in the bible is marriage and family. And obviously if you're not married or don't have you know your own family that doesn't mean you don't share the gospel but we all live in a family. We all have family in. This is a vehicle. God uses to proclaim the gospel with people and families are all different. And sometimes there's a lot of broken nests but just even if it's not your personal family but like just having older people mentors in your life to that your kids will grow up and like love or you know like we in hawaii. We call we. Don't see mr. Mrs we say auntie and uncle and so for birthday parties we you know the kids invite their friends and then we invite their parents like these are the anti knuckles that cover you that love you that. We hope that you'll have relationships with that. You can go and talk to when you get older will teach you something you know that. Like kinsley our oldest is a very strong personality. She's very much like jeff. She's gonna be a really strong woman. Who i know the gonna use a mighty ways and i want to surround her with women who like love the lord and are strong like that are leading and really smart and wise and she can have them to look up to and so a lot of times we do have that in our families like our parents or grandparents and just being creative with how to integrate them into our family. So jeff's mom lives in washington. We live in hawaii. But on tuesday nights we have a zoom call with her or facetime and just read kids books to them like she reads boxcar children to them. And so it's a really sweet way for them to get to know their grandma and for her to just hang out with them and so being really creative with even if you don't live with them of how to invite them into your life. What a great idea that is. I mean we're all thinking about zoom and face on him you know because twenty twenty. But that i'm sure you've got started that way before cove it and then that can continue even on after having those grandparents read stories to their kids to their grandkids. We've seen that in our own. My as well of involving older people. In and i'll tell you as a mom whose kids are pasture seven five and two and we're in the teenager stage. It even gets better because you're surrounding your kids with people who they think are cool they look up and these people love jesus like crazy and say you're like come be around my kids as much as you want because we need each other in our families and our parenting for sure. Okay so this is super exciting for you. Because this show is airing and yesterday you released a book into the world. So a congratulations because that is no small thing. Your new book is called satisfied finding hope joy and contentment. Right where you are. Which i feel like i could read this book on a weekly basis and get something out of it so. I'm excited about that. But i do before we get into the book because i think i have a suspicion up any story here before we started recording. I said okay. I'm confused like i thought your original release date was in may but now i see it's june fifteen. What's happening am i right. What's going on. And then you're beginning to tell me. And i was like note. The whole world needs to hear this so why to release. What happened yes okay. Well it was may eighteenth. And then i just found out. I'm such a grandma with technology. I don't really know a lot of current news of events and so about a week ago. My publisher called and they're like you know we're going to have to push back your book date because your books are still on the bow. There was this seuss canal crisis. Where boat got stuck in the canal and blocked all the boats for like two weeks and my books are coming from china and they already take a while to print and come and all the books are still on the boat and we don't know when they're going to duck and so we're gonna have to wait. Push it back so it's kind of a funny story and i'm not surprised at all watching that boat to see how they were going to get that boat out and now. I know that your books were being held up because of that boat. That is so great. I i know june fifteenth yesterday. Your books released and really excited so talk to us. Where did this idea come from for you to talk about being satisfied with jesus right where you are. Yeah so about three years ago. I found myself and you could think that my life was perfect. I just i feel like the lord gave me so many of my dreams we lived in hawaii. He gave me a husband three beautiful kids. Not our life was perfect at all. But i just felt like man like i have so many things that i've asked the lord for and dreamed up for so long and i still found myself being dissatisfied. I would now. I would have an exhausting day and just scroll through social media. I would feel insecure about the comparison and wondering. What's my place. What has the lord called me to and just found myself going to every other outlet to fill up this void in my heart. And i felt like the word was saying elissa like why. Don't you come away with me. And i'll remind you of your i love and let me satisfy your heart and so it really was this journey of being present with the lord and having his presence meet me in the day to day and so then when i started to write the book i actually it was one of the hardest years have gone through so far not in our marriage but just in life at business things and relationships and hard conversations and it was so difficult and i felt as i was writing that the lord i kind of wrote it as a journal and it was like me finding my satisfaction the lord as the days seemed really mundane newborn seemed really hard and exhausting and all these hard things were happening and his journey with me. I've just showing me his love and how he heals when we grieve and how he meets us in the really hard and the really ordinary days. And so i turned the book and i was so excited also felt like so naked. Like is anyone going to like visit. I don't know if it's good at all so a month later. My publisher called and she just like you know ola set. This isn't quite what i was hoping it'd be. I think we need to totally rewrite it. And we joke. Because i was like oh. She wasn't satisfied with it. But i was so grateful i mean not at time i wept and i cried for a really long time but once i you know gathered myself. I was so thankful that the lord gave me a second chance to write it. It was almost like okay. The lord lead me through this season of finding my satisfaction in him. And now i get it go back and reflect it and experience it again. Like okay laura. How do you satisfy in these moments. And it was really. I'm just really grateful. I feel like. I learned to do really hard things. I really learned to rely on the spirit that he is my strength that he will give me the words to say and he really met with me as i wrote those words and so. That's my hope. Is that when you get this book and you read it. You will feel like you're in the presence of the lord and you will get to experience. His love satisfying us and satisfying you. I love that so much. And i think it's a timely message. I think that can apply to women and men in so many different seasons. Because i think there is this lie that we sometimes believe that once i can just get past this season then i feel satisfied once i could. Just get past this. I'll be hopeful and joyful and content and the enemy is lying to us. Because really gods like i have that for you right now right now right here and so. Has your parenting such small children. Which i know a lot of my listeners are there is this is when you said the mundane and the ordinary. I mean it feels like groundhog day. Some days like this. We just did this yesterday. We're doing it again. How are some of the ways that you really are finding joy and contentment in the middle of airy everyday normal life of raising three kids. Yeah that is such a good question. And i feel. It's funny because i wrote about it. And then i feel like i'm walking through it right now like and it's not even necessarily that it's mundane right now. It's just really hard like all. My kids are walking through difficult things in their hearts and so it can feel like lord like i just was praying this like i don't want to have the courage to show up again today for my reality and to be for their hearts again into poured into their hearts again and show them mercy and to walk through them in these things that i'm praying for and so i think man so many things come to my mind i think one is. I just have to meet with the lord in the morning. Whether it's five minutes. Or i can go for a walk. Or it's like a sweet half hour praying on my knees to lord and just reminding my heart of truth you know being in his word taking those scripture meditating on it and then praying it over to him and having him meet me in my everyday moment and today you know i was feeling those things and then i looked out in the sun was starting to rise and so i went outside and there was this gorgeous sunset and i was reminded of lamentations. Three like his mercies are new every morning. Great is your faithfulness. His tinder compassion is for me today. And for my kids and as i meet with him he will strengthen me to pour out that tender mercy to my kids and so starting there and i think so many people even if you're not a mom of little kids we all understand what that feels like. That's kind of what covid was like that groundhog's day is like. Wow what do i have to look forward to like. Every day feels the same. We have a polaroid day just to remember the day and it was so sweet to have all these pictures hanging up in our wall and it was like i like that little moment that we ate hot dogs on a picnic blanket in front of our yard. I love that moment that day or when we sat in did bubbles with the kids. Or i took tim minutes out of my day and painted my two year. Old's nails and it was so sweet like just taking those little moments capturing them and remembering they don't have to be really big moments and even in the midst of the day when maybe there's tantrums or something goes crazy or you know all these things like just that ten minutes that day. That was so sweet. And that's what i'm going to focus on. I remember like the other couple of weeks ago. Cannon our five year old found this like frozen dachary mix and our freezer that had literally been in there for probably four years. You guys probably are laughing. You'd think that like i don't want to come to your house than ever seeks frozen for your thoughts. And he was like mom. Can we make this. And so i was like okay. Yeah so i blended it up. I had these leftovers straws with umbrellas in it and we just sat by our front door and drink it for five minutes because they guzzled it but it was such a sweet moment of like that was like the highlight of my week. It took five minutes. It was something out of the ordinary and it was just a memory that we made were. I was fully present. I didn't have my phone or didn't have to think about all the to do's how our house it was just a sweet moment with the kids so i think looking for those like magic moments. That don't have to be amazing. 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That i just read like just have read my whole life as team but i feel like it gives such a good theology philosophy perspective on parenting. And i'm learning so much about my kids. I can't control them. I can't control their choices or their hearts and my deepest desire for them is that they would adore jesus and know him and walk with him and just learning that they're all in process like it's not like we have a conversation one time and it's like did it. Yes i'm a good parent like they learned that it's like oh no thirty minutes later okay. We're having the same conversation. We're going to talk about this again. So i'm learning so much about that but really that book and what i'm learning is that it's not about their behavior and that's hard because that's all that we that's what we see. That's what we want to change or control or what you know when your grocery store and your kids acts out and you're like oh my gosh. I need to change that behavior. But it's going past that and saying no what's in their heart. Why are they acting that way. I want to be about the heart. There and knowing god is for their heart goddess for them to worship him. And to be worshipers of jesus and so. I'm going to be for my child's heart more than their behavior. And i'm not going to try to control. I'm not gonna be embarrassed or all those things that just i get to be vessel of his grace. I get to be a vessel of training them to know jesus and what he says to do battle with them to raise them to know jesus. and what. Yeah what his word says. And so we get to be ambassadors for him and it really difficult. It's the hardest thing i've ever done. But just changing that perspective. A okay this is. This is a long game. It's not just like this one behavior. It's having their hearts. No the kindness of jesus and then live in that. And that's what. And that takes time. And i think starting with us like we were in process. We need god's mercy. We need his forgiveness. We need his grace each day. I lose it with my kids. Sometimes i'm impatient. I'm not as compassionate. But god's grace to me. And so as i dwell in that i'm going to be gracious to my kids and i just want to show them the kindness of the lord and have their hearts worship him like. That's what it's about. How does your ability to be satisfied. Right where you are. How does that change the way you parent. Oh man so like a thousand percent you know and it's not like i've i've arrived. It's not like i'm fully satisfied in the lord and check that off and i'm this amazing parent. It's like every moment and every day. I'm having to go back and remind myself of truth and to remind myself of his love and how he meets with me. I've been thinking so much about isaiah fifty five lately about how you know. Here's god and he's saying like i've said this. Feast before you. I've set the table. And i'm asking you to come and to take part to be satisfied with this rich and good food and we're gonna talk and we're gonna talk about the hard things and i'm gonna meet you here and be present with you and then you can go out enjoy in peace. I love that verse at the very end. Think it's verse twelve or thirteen. And so i think that's what we have to do. As people as women as leaders as moms whatever role you have is to come into the presence of god to come and feast at his table and like to come just as you are. You don't have to like figure it out or get all dressed up and put on your makeup in like a metaphorical sense. Like our burdens. Are what qualify us to come to the table of like it says like those that have no money come and eat and buy and and so we get a common just with him and be present with him whether that looks like the thirty minutes in the morning. Or if it's like we. I've been talking so much about. Was it john wesley's wife who would like put up her apron because she had however many kids and was like i just need to pray right now in the midst of the chaos to just come and be with him and remind ourselves to inc ourselves in his love and his word and then we can be joy filled parents then we can be peaceful parents and i think you know it's just that idea of like we have to. It's out of his love that we love and so we have to fill up with his love in order to give levin when. I'm not doing that when i'm running on empty when i'm trying to just perform and do and like don't abide in the lord. I'm not a good mom like i am not peaceful. I'm most the time really impatient or frustrated or not gracious. Because i'm not giving grace accepting god's grace to me and so yes starting with our hearts with the lord and being present with him and then we can go out and pour that love out to others. It's so true and you know. That's why i think it has to do with everything. Not just parenting like in our marriages and co working spaces and loving and giving people that love really is affected by how much time we're spending with god. Now we're feeling that. I was thinking about that just this morning because in the stage of life that i'm in right now i have the the freedom and the flexibility. The drive to my office in the morning like it's a way for my house. My kids all go to school. And then i spend the first thirty to forty five minutes reading my bible. I'm praying and i'm trying to start journaling. Because i'm not a journalist but everyone says i should be so. I'm doing those things. And i think thinking this morning. I think i have young kids in my brain. 'cause i told you we had dinner last night with some friends. I haven't really done kids. And i started thinking. Wow i remember as a mom too young kids feeling so defeated because i no longer had that thirty uninterrupted time in the morning to really set the tone set the day and i just really want to encourage these young moms that you may not have that but you can still get it somehow. So what does it look like for us. It looked the same every day. Does it change like how our you spending time really really like. Investing the god's word for you and also parenting three kids under the age seven. Choose fully for me. I think it's just because i'm an introver- like realizing i can say that. I'm an introvert and i really need that time in the morning by myself before i can give out to my kids and a granite during the newborn phase. And all of that. I haven't had that time so it looked like my baby sleeping on the bed next to me. Why have my bible or like just opening the jesus storybook bible and reading to my kids and balling or like every time i read. That's mussa or listening to christine nockles per lullaby album. And while i'm rocking my babies and just weeping something like lord thank you that you're in this moment and that you're with me and i think i learned through the newborn phases that it's really like it's all throughout the day. The lord meets with us all throughout the day. Just thirty minutes in the morning or the thirty minutes at night. But it's like and. I'm even learning that now. I do get that time in the morning just because it's really important to me. I really like my coffee. So i'll go to bed early. Wake up early and have that time but also you know. There's i for so many years of my christian walk. it was like i did it. I checked it off. And then i went about my day and i'm like no that's not how it should be either and i in learning and growing and trying to really be aware of god's presence throughout the day so maybe that looks like at lunch when i serve frozen pizza to my kids that's heated up. I pull out that every holy moment book and just read a blessed table blessing or a prayer and recent is my heart or i just ten minutes in the afternoon. I'll make a little coffee and just pull out my journal and copy copy work like take assam and i'll just copy it or lately. I've been doing a versatile stick out with me and my friend elise. the keaton said to memorize scripture. You should draw like draw pictures and so all like do these little. It looks like egyptian hieroglyphics or something like these little symbols for each word. And elvis said ten minutes and it's like that versus in my head the rest of the day and so. Yeah so those are some things that i'm learning. It's like it doesn't have to be the hour or the thirty minutes or maybe. You're not in a season of being able to do a beth more bible study but taking that ten minutes and just copying scripture during school with your kids while they're doing their handwriting or you know those moments it's so good it's such a great reminder that it is not just like did i check off the thirty minutes in the morning but it is throughout the day. I remember you should tell young moms. I'm like open your bible and just leave it on the table. You know you're going to be at the table. Eight hundred four times during the day verse. You know in there you are so encouraging you know i would like to also ask you this about women. There's this you know this we're always talking about like follow your dreams and what's your calling and chase it and that's important to me because i think that women have a calling on their life. That's bigger than marriage. And motherhood i think marriage motherhood are phenomenal. I'm grateful that. I have both of them but have plenty of women in my life. Who are not married or marriage. No children and i don't think they're any less important or valuable to the. And so how do you look at your own. Personal life totally. I love that question jamie in one. That is so important. You know it's funny. Because i feel like i can be so easy for me to put myself or others in box like oh. I'm a stay at home. Mom or there a working mom or you know like their career woman and i'm just realizing like let's just blow that up because that's not like reality and it's really like living in rhythm with the lord and he has different seasons for us different things that he calls us to. And a few years ago i listened to just a little podcast that ginny allen had posted about the myth of balancing it all and she has said this line. I need to go back to it. But basically she's talking about like if you feel like you're needing to do something out of pride. I need to do this to prove this or like. I can like just prideful. Then you probably shouldn't do it and if you are feeling called to something but you have fear is stopping you and you're like oh no. I could never do that then. You most likely should do it. And so i feel like that like really any go back and really remember how she said it but that really transformed me because i feel like a lot of the things i didn't want to do was based out of fear and i realized once the fear came down. It's like i heard the lord's voice and he was like. Hey you need to do this and it was like i'm so fearful lord but i will do anything like just that prayer like i'll do anything whether that is a season of being primarily at home and showing up for my kids each day and homeschooling or cooking whatever that is or it's like he wants me to write a book or to do a podcast series or go travel somewhere and speak. It's like i just will do anything for you word. And i think i just got a bigger picture of the kingdom and it's like we are all part of the kingdom and we all get a serve in different ways in different seasons and when puts something in your heart like he will bring it to completion like we just have to say anything lord and i feel like he just put this burning desire this burning fire in my heart where it was like. This is the one life i get and at wherever i am. Whoever i'm with whatever role. I have i want to give jesus away and so maybe in my day to day that looks like doing laundry and having a heart to heart with my child and dealing with that tantrum for the twentieth time or maybe two in my day that looks like i gotta travel somewhere and speak at something and neither one is more important than the other they all are part of the kingdom and they all have such significance that we get to bike proclaimed jesus and give him away and so thinking of matthew when he says like go and make disciples of all nations for i am with you. Making disciples looks different in different seasons and with all different people and how he's created you but to just be like like i don't know i don't even know how to explain it but i i need christine caine right now like fire like you know like go for it like however you can give jesus away do it and do it with all your heart so good. There's so much freedom in that. Because i can't stop and look at your life and think man i'd really be living for the kingdom if i if i had a like lissa i'd really be live in for the fat lifelock christine. And god's i've given you everything you need. Now go and make disciples and i am with you so much freedom wherever you are in your life right and joy and knowing to like every season is different and i'm realizing if there is a dream you have but right now the answer is not yet then to know like this time isn't wasted. God is building in you. The character that you need for when that time does come. So i think there's hope to and maybe you are in a season of little and you don't have the capacity right now to do certain things you want to do but knowing like this is a really good season two and god is building in your the character that you need for when the time does come and i'm always so grateful whenever the time comes. I'm like who i'm glad i did it. Have this back then. right right. which is why it's so important with the best is that you have in your book about satisfied finding hope joy and contentment. Right where you are. Because that affects everything we do. Every dream we from god every calling me puts on our life every season he puts in front of us that satisfaction with right where we are. It changes the way we approach every theme it got brings to us and so grateful for your words Thanks jamie aw guys vacation season and one of my favorite things about going on vacation is really thinking through what i'm packing and guys. Sometimes i gotta think about myself. I gotta think of what makes me comfortable what i enjoy being an and i always think of third love now. Third love you've heard me talk about it on here for a while because i actually really do love them. They have a limited edition. Summer style right now that are designed with tropical inspired colors vacation. 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And i need to sit down and read the entire thing because i know it's so amazing i know i feel. You can only read it in pieces though. Because it's kind of like okay. And then i reading. This book called gentle and lowly. Have you read it. S right now. Day orland yes. Okay well. I posted about it last week and everyone was like. Oh isn't that the best book of like. How did i not hear about this book until now. It's literally the louis best books i've ever read. My husband read it and said that it was one of the best books that he ever read ever. And i'm like oh my gosh. I've got to get this book and in fact this is behind the scenes of the podcast world. We're talking right now and by the time. This show airs. He's already been on the show. So oh i can't. I laugh but i cannot wait interview him and he's gonna be on the show he will he already was. They are can't wait. Oh man. I highly recommend i feel like you need to read that next to the bible and then things. I'm loving right now so this is going to be well one. I'm loving this growth journal. Have you ever heard of that. who's it from. Who puts it out called shoot. I should have known that it's on. It's on instagram. It's like re routed growth or just typing growth journal. It's like. I don't have it with me right now. Is this beautiful linen journal. That has like you can write however you want. But it's they. Lay it out where you can organize it. There's a table of contents so like 'cause my journals. I love journaling but i'm always all over the place so i never go back so i don't know where i wrote that but this is like you write it. There's a page number. You write in the table conduct so like all my satisfied things i can go to the table like. Oh my satisfied. Talk is on page or my podcast series is dead or my kids. My prayers there on this page. So it's like that whoever thought of that yes. And they have prayer request god's faithfulness memory versus books you read so it's just like a really good keepsake to you know a lot of people again already said. I am not much of a journal alert. But i want to be like i literally want to be. I don't wanna do it. Because i think i should. I think there's power in it. I acknowledged that but a lot of people would be like. I went and i looked all my journals and you know how much easier their life would be at the table of contents and those journals exactly. I literally have like a huge of journals in our attic. And i'm like i always had a table of contents. They'd be like. Oh this summer when i was in love with so and so or you know exactly. You're loving your journal. What else okay. And then i am so loving. Have you seen the movie on net flicks a week away. No is heard of it. No tell me okay. I was wondering if your kids have watched it. It may be too cheesy. It's pretty much like high school musical about christian summer camp and they redid all like steven curtis chapman songs and and they did. It's my favorite. I love it so eileen that you as the listeners can here because i have not seen it personally but my daughter has seen it a million times and the reason i know she's seen it a million times because i heard her watching it the first time i'm in my house and all of a sudden i hear all these like old songs from like twenty years ago and i'm like yes we know about these songs play and it was in the it was like steven curtis chapman in yup. Okay yes oh. My gosh. So i love the album. I love the movie. It's pretty much what. I like pictured my life being like in high school. I thought my life was a musical except that she ends up with the boy and so i just love it like it's just the best that's funny okay. I'm going to have to spend some time with story and watch it with her. Because that's hilarious. Yeah watch it with their especially. Were you in like youth group and christian camps going up season. Chris chapman era so that would have been like like this song. Saddle up your horses. That kind of air song was when aaron. And i were married and so i didn't start falling jesus source twenty wine and so i think i went to one youth camp elissa and i think the whole time seen if i could make with my boyfriend so i was not there for the growth and the lord. I was probably there to see how i sneak out of this place but then when air i got married i remember all those. Even curtis chapman's on. So yes i just. It was just like the perfect era for me. So yeah oh and then. The last thing is ruth. joe simon's new bible beautiful. It's so beautiful. Just carry it around with me all throughout the day so i already had it. Espn journal bible. But this one's just so pretty is everything she does is beautiful and then put it on top of the bible. God's word like can this get any other ruth and raise us here. We are at love it. The best is the best. Well thank you so much for coming on the happy hour and your book. Congratulations satisfied just released yesterday. So you guys. I will put all the league's the but you can get check it out. Thank you for coming on. I'll thanks so much for having me jamie by you guys. I now know that you are all a fan of the whole entire becky family. Now that you've heard jeff her husband on the show and elissa today. Her book satisfied finding hope joy and contentment. Right where you are released yesterday. I encourage you to get your hands on it and maybe even you might find yourself in hawaii with the beth keys staying at their bed and breakfast. I wanna make sure that you heard something. When i asked her about studying her bible with three young kids. I wanna make sure you heard all of the different ways that she meets with. Jesus in the midst of her mundane every day life. Sometimes it's through christina lullaby song. Sometimes it's through reading. Jesus orbit bible to her children. Which side note. If you do not have a copy of that. Please get it no matter how old you are or if you have kids or not or maybe. It is writing down scripture word for word in her journal that is encouragement that i hope anyone. Who's listening whether your parenting little kids or you just in a busy season of life that you can see that god wants to meet with you in those everyday moments all throughout the day. It's not just something we check off thirty minutes in the morning you guys. I love my conversation. If you want to hear more makes you check out. Our bonus content that we have over on youtube where i asked about dreams and callings in different seasons of our lives france. Thanks for listening today. It is enjoy every time we put a show out for. You and i seriously am honored every time you send me a message and say oh my gosh god really showed me something in that episode and i am competent. He's doing that today. Through this show. Today show was edited by the team at pod. Shaper the music was created for the show. By matt. graham sean written abacus sell the whole thing is put together and produced by lindsey sweeney. And i'm your host jamie ivy. Thank you for listening to my conversation with illicit today. How happy hour. The friend get outside. I hope that this is a great week for you. In the middle of june and come back on friday for my conversation with. Liz curtis hague for our encounter series. Thanks friends see friday.

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