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"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

06:54 min | 8 months ago

"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

"Excited and we were just. We knew we were going to be parents at some point. We didn't care if it was two years down the line We were going to just you know in just embrace it in the excited waiting for it so when we told them we were thinking that they would be just as excited as us and the first thing. My mother-in-law said was oh so does this mean there's no chance you'll have any of your own looking back. I don't think she realized how hurtful that comment was. Although that night I think I cried for three hours I think she was just searching herself for a way to express you know. They weren't used to adoption They you know the other kids. My husband was the youngest of four in his family and there were grandchildren. So I think they wanted to round it off with us But it will say She was practically knocking everyone down at the airport when we arrived with the baby so she was very excited with it all happened but she just you know like I said before people I think just they don't mean to intend to be hurtful when they make comments like that. Yeah that sounds like it would have been a really hurtful comments. Even though she didn't mean to be hurtful and she was really excited for you as so you've already shared such helpful things including tips on how to cope and how to seek advice and support so just around everything out. Is there any other advice that you give men and women who are dealing with infertility or pregnancy loss? Is there anything that you wish you had known? When you're going through it all looking back on it My husband was my biggest support system and I didn't lean on him as well as I wish I had. Because it was just a different it was my body and I was kind of. I think it's different. I'm the woman in for many factors but he was such a big cheerleader and unfortunately he was the one that would get the rat my wrath. When I was upset he was the one I would take it out on but I think they say you do that to the ones that you're closest with so. I wish I hadn't done that often. But my biggest piece of advice is to try as hard as it might be at that time to live in the moment And I know it's a cyclical thing you go from cycle to cycle but just enjoy the time you have now as a couple because you're going to become apparent in the right pregnancy or if you do decide to adopt or go through through foster children or anything like that your life is going to change at ours changed in like one week. I mean most people have nine months. We had one week to get our act together. Even though we have been waiting for over five years one week is not a lot of time to get prepared to become parents so I I look back and there were many moments that I feel that I let go in that I wasted so. That's one of my biggest pieces of advice is to live in the moment. And you're really finally. You really need to tune into your feelings and you know when I first realized getting pregnant was not going to be easy for me. I just tried to ignore it because I felt like okay. It's GonNa go away. I'M GONNA figure this out but I really was burying something under the carpet. Because I was in so much pain but if I had to do it over again or if I could give advice to people that are going through this now It's great if you can to just be and just feel feel that it's okay to be her it is painful and you aren't gonNa cry and It's not a lot of times infertility. It's a journey. I mean ours was probably longer than most. But if you're in it for a few months or a year or so It's okay to to feel you know I had those feelings of jealousy towards a mother people or you know why not me so I think it's healthier to address that and look for ways to south soothe so they can stay positive so for me as I said it was those visual ization exercises that I learned through therapy and I still do those today. Let me tell you especially with eight kids in with the insanity of our life now I check out go into my own mind and it's a wonderful place for respite. That was when I started doing. Little power walks like. I would get up early in the morning at like five thirty and I would just take a brisk walk. I counted on those almost every day to just clear my mind and it just made me feel hopeful. It just kept me energized and it was just healthy for both my mind and my body so you know so do take care of yourself is is another piece of advice immune when you do finally become apparent to be taking care of everybody else so get yourself in the habit now of self care and taking good care of yourself. That is such a fantastic advice. I couldn't agree more. It sounds like it could be a marathon it could be not a sprint. So it's really important to take care of yourself to listen to your body. Listen to your emotions and really roll with it and now work on Just being and letting your emotions be the such beautifully put advice. Thank you so much for not only offering such good advice but also for being willing to be Wallner to share about your experience. I know that there are many people out there who will appreciate this because it is something. That doesn't really get talked about that much. So I and all my listeners are super appreciative of your time. Cheryl thank you so much. Oh it was my pleasure. I enjoy helping people with this topic. It is a sensitive topic but now there is so much more information and support and Sometimes just hearing a story like my story will offer hope to somebody and I hope I was able to do that today. So thanks for having me on absolute Louis. Thank you for being with us. I am so grateful to Cheryl Butler for opening up and sharing her own experiences and for offering such insightful and helpful advice. Let me know if you'd like to learn more about this topic or topics surrounding it. We'd really like to share and make this a non stigmatize topic in the public discourse. So let me know what you like to hear. You can reach me on facebook and on twitter. I'm at Cutie. T- SAVVY PSYCH OR AT JADE. Woo Pitched E. If you'd like psychology. Tips delivers stricter inbox. Subscribe to the savvy psychologist newsletter. You can also subscribe to this podcast on Apple spotify or wherever you listen savvy. Psychologists is audio engineer by Steve Ricky Burg and edited by Karen Hertzberg as always savvy psychologist is strictly for informational purposes and does not substitute for mental health. Care from a licensed professional. Thank you so much for joining me. I'll see you again next week for happier healthier mind..

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"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

03:12 min | 1 year ago

"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

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"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

04:56 min | 1 year ago

"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

"Of unofficial depression is lingering trauma. So meta analysis of fifty seven different studies. Totally nearly seven thousand participants with PTSD found that more than half also had depression and interestingly there was a hierarchy among traumas survivors of military, trauma and other person to person assaults like rape or sexual abuse or more likely to have depression than those who had survived non interpersonal traumas like natural disasters. And this makes sense person to person traumas in particular change, your beliefs about the world like I can't trust anyone people can turn on you at any moment. If I show any vulnerability people will export my weakness and those are profoundly depressing. In addition, it's possible that trauma and depression are a two way street. Let's take the trauma. Of bullying, of course, getting bullied can link directly to depression. But it's also probable that kids who already grapple with depression kids, already feel helpless and self critical are easier targets the bullies of the world. Type number four is loss. The death of a loved one a romantic break-up. Although the circumstances are very different. They both represent a loss. And there's no right way. And no deadline to heal from a loss. But sometimes the natural healing process. Get stuck and the result can be depression. And while quote, unquote, depression is technically one of the five stages of grief clinical depression that stretches on and on isn't a stage. It's a problem now. A fascinating study in the American journal of psychiatry looked almost five thousand people with depression to see if whatever prompted their depression was associated with particular symptoms. An interesting profile emerged for depression caused by a break-up or death, the receptiveness for sure and not being able to find pleasure in anything those make sense. But interestingly eating and sleeping also fell by the wayside now in some kinds of depression. People will stuff their feelings with. Food or sleep as a way to escape but with loss and grief, both sleep an appetite evaporated. It's as if the body goes on strike and finally type number five is failures and setbacks so losing a job failing out of school or otherwise failing in spectacular or public fashion. Sometime sparks depression. This particular kind of depression goes along with bone crushing fatigue sleeping too, much and pervasive pessimism. None of which is particularly conducive to job hunting or making up those incomplete classes, it's as if the phrase, I just can't were syndrome. A couple additional symptoms of failure related depression, or guilt and rumination and following a failure. It makes sense that individuals ruminate on what went wrong and what they could have done differently. Spending those thoughts around and around like a car's wheels spinning on ice all of which leads to the emotion of guilt. Now, there are exceptions to all of these types just as panel egg salad and tuna swaths are all legit salads. Exceptions to all five of these types are all legit, depression because depression, isn't exactly known for being neat and easily categorized. But it is shreve -able. There's no need for you. Or anyone you love to suffer and while treatment can sometimes feel like more of an art than a science. The earlier you begin the more effective. It is even if you've been depressed for decades, there is hope and then you can start enjoying the Brosio of life again. Savvy psychologist is audio engineered by Steve Ricky Burg and edited by Karen Hertzberg as always savvy psychologist is strictly for informational purposes and doesn't substitute for mental healthcare, Melissa professional and this news this coming Tuesday may fourteenth marks the release of the paperback of my book, baby. How to be yourself quiet, your inner critic and rise above social anxiety. And if I do say, so myself, it is a helpful gift for the new graduate in your life. A lot of readers have mentioned to me. I wish I had this when I was just starting out after college or when I moved to New York or Chicago or a Singapore. And didn't know anyone except my co workers. I wish I had known what's in this book. So check it out for yourself or handed off to your favorite young or young at heart adult. I hope it's helpful and validating and allows you to be your true self. So thank you so much. Listening and continuing to support the podcast and the book I will see you next week for a happier healthier. Mom.

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"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

05:20 min | 1 year ago

"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

"Employer that doesn't offer a program or policy to address mental health. So now is the perfect time to evaluate your employee benefits. If your workplace doesn't have a mental health program talk to your HR manager about making mental health a priority. It's good for the company. It's good for employees. And it's the right thing to do. Now Unum recently released a report about mental health in the workplace covers everything from the employee experience. How managers are supporting workers and how to combat mental health stigma? It's a great way to start the conversation with HR. So to download the report visit Unum, which is U N UM dot com slash mental health. That's u n UM dot com slash mental health. And now back to the show. So factor. Number three, that drives eating disorders is perfectionist. Driving many people with eating disorders are high achievers, they're hardworking, hold high standards and are diligent and thorough. But aiming high can cross the line into relentless pushing and harsh self criticism when unreachable standards inevitably aren't met. Now. Other individuals with eating disorders can't point to a history of chief -ment, but purging exercising or weight loss can be an area in which they excel hitting their exact caloric budget purging every bite or powering through on the elliptical until the readout says exactly two thousand calories is a way to be excellent at something. Now, the newest way to be perfectionist around eating is Ortho Xia a little known, but burgeoning eating disorder, which is essentially clean eating on steroids. So foods that aren't pure clean or healthy enough. In other words, perfect get cut out or rigidly. Trolled all in all common refrain among those with eating disorders is feeling. Not good enough. Not capable competent, not worthy, not lovable. And what's more many perfectionist believe they can remedy these perceived fatal flaws only if particular goals are met and this is called conditional goal setting. And in the case of eating disorders, it may make happiness or mere adequacy contingent upon wait caloric intake, or that allusive feeling that they had a quote good day or don't quote feel fat. So despite the name perfectionism isn't about being perfect. It's about never being good enough. So striving through anorexia bulimia binge eating orthodontia or a combination thereof. Creates a much needed sense of compensation. And finally factor. Number four is feeling better in the short term. So a study in the journal psychological medicine looked at thousands of people with eating disorders and found that twenty seven percent of them also had a history of self injury and among individuals with bulimia thirty three percent had a history of self injury. Why is there such overlap one hypothesis is that both eating disorder behaviors and self injury act as a form of emotion regulation. So for example, have you ever had a big ugly cry and then felt calmer or vomited when you were ill and then felt sweet relief. It's the same principle. A big physical release weather from crying, cutting vomiting binging to the point of pain or exercise into the point of exhaustion can usher in feeling of calm or even short term euphoria. In addition with anorexia, many individuals with the disorder report, a feeling of clarity. And increased energy when they're starving and hypothesized that that feeling has addictive qualities. So for example, a study in the journal found that anorexia and ecstasy use activate some of the same brain receptors except in the case of anorexia, the drug is deprivation itself. So in the short term eating disorder behaviors quote work to regulate emotion vomiting, binging and fasting are each in their own way forms of coping they instill a sense of control achievement compensation or distraction from core. Fears of worthlessness helplessness or defectiveness the rub they're not sustainable or healthy forms of coping for the long term. So ultimately the goal is to trade unhealthy methods of coping for healthier ones. Like practicing self compassion, challenging the harsh voice in our head or labeling self criticism. As mere thoughts rather than gospel truth, but until we all get to that point, building empathy and understanding of what drives eating disorders is a great place to start. Savvy psychologist is audio engineered by Steve Ricky Burg and edited by beyond San Torah as always savvy psychologist is strictly for informational purposes and dozen substitute for mental health care maligns professional. If you read my book, how to be yourself, quiet, your inner critic and rise above social anxiety. Please consider leaving a brief review on Amazon, it is super helpful. And it helps others find the book. So thank you so much for listening. And as always I'll see you next week for a happier healthier.

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"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

05:22 min | 1 year ago

"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

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"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

02:38 min | 1 year ago

"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

"Stuff. No. I mean, I've I spent a lot of time trying to figure out what we actually know about how to become more creative. And I think that really the only valid advice that I could give is if you wanna have more creative ideas, you actually should develop more, bad ideas. Okay. Walk me through that. There's a bunch of research some of my favorite studies of classical composers and inventors, but you can also see it was scientists. Cookie people in their own way. Yes. Yeah. Exactly. Their own form of creativity. One of the best predictors of lifetime, creative achievement is just the total volume of work that you produce. And what happens is you see that with Mozart Beethoven and Bach. They actually had often three to four times as many total compositions over their careers as their peers, and that meant that they had more bad ideas, but they also stumbled onto more good ideas. I think the mistake that too many of us make is either fall in love with our first and refined that to perfection or we give up after the first few ideas because we think we've run out of steam, and the reality is often, your first ideas or the most conventional because the reason you thought of them, I is they were pretty obvious. And sometimes you have to rule that out in order to get to the more original. Okay. That makes sense. Very good. This has been really fantastic. I learned a lot. It's a delight to talk to you. So thank you so much. It was a pleasure. Thank you for having me. Adam grant is an organizational psychologist, the author of three New York Times bestsellers and the host of the podcast work life. The show takes you inside some of the world's most unusual. Workplaces to discover the keys to better work. You'll never see your job the same way again season two launched a couple of weeks ago. So check it out. Subscribe. And I dare you not to binge. Listen to catch up on all the great episodes. Savvy psychologist is audio engineered by Steve Ricky Burg and edited by the Torah as always savvy psychologist is strictly for informational purposes and doesn't substitute for mental health care from a licensed professional for all things social anxiety. Check out my book. How to be yourself quiet, your inner critic and rise above social anxiety. And if you've already read it, please consider leaving a review on Amazon because it really does help others. Find the book regardless thank you so much for listening. Then I look forward to seeing you next week for a happier, healthier mind.

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"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

02:20 min | 1 year ago

"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

"Make something more meaningful out of trauma. A study in the journal psycho, oncology examined two hundred fifty three women with breast cancer and found counter-intuitively that those who experienced more cancer related stress anxiety at diagnosis or more likely to have grown from the experience. Six months later. Why? Well, trauma sets in motion forced introspection more than mere annoyances or irritations people work hard to make sense of it to figure out what it all means. And to reevaluate what's important to them often trauma sharpens their sense of purpose reminds them to focus on their family or community or sets them on a mission to give back appreciate life and realize their own strength and resilience. So to wrap things up think and talk about Troy. At your own pace. Studies on the technique of debriefing, which is assisting people in processing their emotions just a few days after a potentially traumatic experience has actually been shown to be at best neutral and at worst may even lead to a greater chance of PTSD. So just like any long journey proceed at your own pace. And don't try to go it alone. It may feel like there are million reasons to stand still and keep silent. But there are millions more to speak the unspeakable and move forward. Can't me give me a million. Manley's. Thank you for making sevi- psychologist part of your life. Remember to give us a call at the savvy psychologist voicemail line at eight five seven five two nine five six five. Oh, you can request episode topic leave a comment or just tell us why you love the show. So give us a call. And if you'd like you could hear your voice on a future episode that's eight five seven five two nine five six five zero sevi- psychologist is audio engineered by Steve Ricky Burg and edited by bianca's Antara as always sevi- psychologist is strictly for informational purposes and doesn't substitute for mental health care from a licensed professional for all things social anxiety as well. As more of my work checkout, Ellen Hendrickson dot com. Thank you so much for listening. I'll see you next week for a happier, healthier mind..

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"steve ricky burg" Discussed on Money Girl

Money Girl

01:33 min | 1 year ago

"steve ricky burg" Discussed on Money Girl

"So you can definitely bundle that auto and that renters policy together in most cases and get a discount number six maintain good credit and number seven shop your policy regularly. I hope you'll be able to use one. Or maybe a couple of these tips to save money on auto insurance this year. Thanks so much for being with me if you would like to get a weekly update for me or kind of weekly update for me. Visit Laura de Adams dot com or text me. You can send a message to get on my Email list. Text the phrase get updates to the number three three four four. I send out a short Email that's filled with tips, tools and resources that I think you might enjoy. And if you're not an Email, no problem, another great way to stay in touch is to follow me on Instagram at Laura de atoms. Or you can even join my private Facebook group called dominate your dollars. You can just search for dominate your dollars on Facebook. Or text me. Text the word dollars steel L L A R S to that. Same number three three four four four money. Girl is produced by the audio wizard. Steve Ricky Burg with editorial support from the lovely beyond a center. If you've been enjoying the podcast, please rate and review it on apple podcasts. You might also like the backlist episodes and show notes available at quick and dirty tips dot com that's all for now. Talk to you next week until then here's to living a richer life..

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"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

02:04 min | 1 year ago

"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

"Find the one commit in general people prefer to make reversible decisions like buying sweater that can be returned or germane to our topic getting married with the option to divorce rather than a more permanent decision. This makes sense. But a study in the prestigious journal of personality and social psychology found that people are often happier without the burden of choice. Why? Well, it turns out people adapt to events more quickly when they cannot undo them. And this may be why so many arranged marriages workout just fine. Heck and even worked for more than one of the reality TV couples unmarried at first sight, so don't pull up to your partners house with a U haul and thought in the back of your mind that you can keep your options. Open instead jump in with both feet and commit counter-intuitively. You'll likely be happier. If there's no easy way out. All in all while it would be nice to weigh all the options exhaustively, we just can't sort through everyone on the planet, but with input from your head, your heart, your values and a dash of particular mathematical algorithm, you won't have to sort through seven billion people in order to find the one. Thank you for making savvy psychologist, a part of your life. Remember to give us a call at the savvy psychologist voicemail line at eight five seven five two nine five six five. Oh, you can request an episode topic. Leave a comment or just tell us why you love the show. So give us a call. If you like you could hear your voice on a future episode. That's eight five seven five two nine five six five. Savvy psychologist is audio engineered by Steve Ricky Burg and edited by beyond San Torah as always sevi- psychologist is strictly for informational purposes and doesn't substitute for mental health care from a licensed professional. Thank you so much for listening, and I'll see you next week, a, happier, healthier mind.

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"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

04:03 min | 1 year ago

"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

"So try the original true body bra from true and co today with free and easy returns. Save fifteen percent. When you go to true and co dot com slash savvy and enter the code savvy. That's T R U E A N D. CO dot com slash savvy and the code savvy. We all need someone to talk to and for that. There's talk space talk space online therapy makes taking care of your mental health more affordable and convenient than ever before with three thousand licensed, therapists, who are trained to listen and help you with the challenges of life. All you need is an internet connection or the talks based mobile app because no matter what you're going through. You are not alone. So join more than one million users who feel happier with talks base. I like that talks base makes therapy. More accessible, there's no waiting room. No travel. No asking your boss for time off every week. No fighting with your insurance company, and no back and forth, scheduling just fine a quiet room and start a chat with talks base. So to match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy. Go talks base dot com slash savvy and use the code savvy to get forty five dollars off your first month. That's talks base dot com slash savvy and the code savvy. Tip. Number two is savor the moment. So another practice to push back against Antonio is called savoring and to save her hold a metaphorical magnifying glass up to your hot chocolate, you're hike or your riffs and Donia tells you to discount these small pleasures write them off as a fluke or to say, well, I didn't feel better. So that was a waste of time. Instead notice with as many of your five senses as possible. What you just did even if you have to peer really closely to find any enjoyment, lean in to the taste of the tacos, the beat of your favorite song or the warm and fuzzy energy of your dog in addition to paying attention with your senses zoom in on any sense of pride, joy or accomplishment. You may feel it will likely be small, and fleeting, but pay close attention and wallow around in it to make it last. Plus don't. Stop with savoring the moment. In addition, you can bring to mind recent pleasures, so each evening, take the time to note three things you enjoyed that day and actually write them down in a journal or even just in the note section of your phone that way, you'll create a growing list of things those drops that make up that ocean that emphasize and reinforce pleasure, mastery and joy so to sum it all up do, but you used to love on a daily basis at minimum before you feel like it pay close attention to the experience with your five senses and revel in it, even if it doesn't seem like much and eventually you'll find yourself stepping out the door and back into a world of technicolor. Thank you for making savvy psychologist, a part of your life. Big. Thanks to all of you who have already called the savvy psychologist voicemail line at eight five seven five two nine five six five. Oh, when you call you can request an episode topic leave a comment or just tell us why you love the show. So give us a call. You could hear your voice on a future episode or stay totally anonymous it is up to you. That is eight five seven five two nine five six five. Savvy psychologist is audio engineered by Steve Ricky Burg and edited by beyond San Torah as always savvy psychologist is strictly for informational purposes and doesn't substitute for mental healthcare from a licensed professional. Thank you so much for listening, and I look forward to seeing you next week for a happier healthier.

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"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

04:23 min | 2 years ago

"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

"Trial, blankets dot com slash savvy. So now tip number four take a micro break a break doesn't have to be elaborate or lengthy, especially if you're trying not to break momentum and under a minute, micro break might be just what you need and the bonus they can actually be effective. Researchers from the university of Melbourne asked participants to complete a tedious task that required close attention, specifically pressing a computer key when any numerical digit except three appeared on their computer screen in the middle of the task half. The participants were shown a picture of a building with a bare concrete roof for just forty seconds while the other half or shown a picture of flowering green roof for forty seconds. Now, those who saw the green roof made significantly fewer mistakes on their subsequent task providing shout for both micro breaks and for green city, Bruce. So even under a minute of staring out the window. It turns out can be good for your productivy. Vity? Tip number five trade the mid afternoon slump for a morning break. Now, most of us had for Starbucks or catch up on Colbert monologues during the three PM mid afternoon slump. But a study out of the journal of applied psychology found that a break in the morning was more productive. Why? Well, essentially by three PM, it's too late. You're already drained and are good only for brainless administrative tasks or cleaning out your Email inbox. But in the morning, you can still regain your nine AM levels of focus after a rejuvenating break. Many of us focus better in the morning. So extend your peak productivity by taking a break around ten or eleven. Tip number six. Don't break flow as great as breaks. Are you don't need to follow your pummeled awro timer? Slavishly? If your work seems to be doing itself, your ideas or flow in as fast as your adrenaline or if you're so absorbed you've lost track of time rock on don't take a break. Just because you think you should because the dirty secret about breaks is that it can be hard to get your Mojo back. So if you're happily chugging along there's no need to step on the breaks tip number seven. But when it's time to rest rest like you mean, it after your work is over rest like you mean, it if your workweek keeps you tethered to Email dare to leave it behind on the weekend, or at least until Sunday night, use evenings and weekends to put away your to do list do activities that take you out and away from work completely and see your friends and family. So here's another way to think about it be inspired by your cat or dog when they. Rest they rest full on. They don't check Twitter or think about Monday morning. They find a sunny spot and rest, like it's the only thing on the agenda because it is to wrap it all up rather than stressing over what kind of break to take or what interval to follow the twenty five minutes on five minutes off of the Pomodoro method. The fifty two on seventeen off the desk time method. Do what works for your style and circumstances. So in short go ahead and the kit Kat jingle to yourself as you take a walk around the block gush about the great British bake off with Allen from accounting. Stay productive by making a grocery list. Or of course, listen to play no matter what you do. You'll be glad you took a break. Thank you for making savvy psychologist part of your life. We are trying something new here at the show. And now you can call the savvy psychologist voicemail line at eight five seven five two nine five six five zero. You can request an episode topic leave a comment or just tell us why you love the show. So give us a call. I'd love to hear from you. And you could hear your voice on a future episode. That's eight five seven five two nine five six five zero sevi- psychologist is audio engineered by Steve Ricky Burg and a big welcome back to editor extraordinaire be out of San Torah as always sevi- psychologist is strictly for informational purposes and doesn't substitute for mental health care from licensed professional. Thank you so much for listening, and I will see you next week for a happier, healthier mind.

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"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

03:55 min | 2 years ago

"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

"Beforehand with someone you trust, a friend, your partner or your therapist. There are infinite variations, but here are four basic ways to make it happen. So version number one is testing the waters so on one end of the spectrum disclosure can be partial and very subtle. He can slip it in as part of a conversation to test the waters. So for instance, rather than saying I have social anxiety. You could simply say I. Always feel so awkward meeting new people or I go blank when I'm the center of attention drop, some bread crumbs of disclosure to get more info on the other person's responsiveness and understanding and from there, you can decide to move forward or hit pause. Version number two is a natural segue. All right. So moving up the continuum, you might work a deeper disclosure into natural conversation. Bring up your OCD after watching Howie Mandel on America's got talent or talk about your bipolar disorder after Demi Levato discusses her diagnosis on a talk show. You don't have to set it up as a dramatic reveal complete with a law and order dunk done. Instead, it can simply come up in conversation. When it's natural version number three is frame it as doctor's orders. So another consideration is to frame it as you would a physical health problem. So think about how you would disclose a new hypertension or diabetes diagnosis and use that as a template. So for instance, you may say by way of introduction. I got some news for my doctor that I wanna share with you. Or simply update you on my health and finally version number four is a serious sitdown of. Of course, you can always go whole hog, especially if the person you want to tell isn't the greatest listener or has a history of laughing things off frame the discussion beforehand, tell them you want to talk about something important and challenging and that you trust them and want their support. So no matter how you decide to disclose hopefully, people who get it a want to know how they can help. So consider giving them something concrete to do ask for whatever you need. Whether it's encouragement not to drink some slack. If you're you're able as you trial new medications extra encouragement to get out of the house and see friends or just a hug once in awhile. Finally, there's no need to sugarcoat things. But give them something positive to walk away with say that you're a fighter or that. You're taking steps in the right direction and that sharing with them is one or that, you're grateful for their friendship and support disclosure doesn't always go as expected sometimes. That means disappointment. But sometimes it means being surprised with an outpouring of support. And who knows sometimes you may even get a disclosure in return. Thank you for making savvy psychologist, a part of your life. We are trying something new here at the show. So now, you can call the savvy psychologist voicemail line at eight five seven five two nine five six five. Oh, you can request episode topic leave a comment or just tell us why you love the show. So give us a call. I would love to hear from you. And we might even use your message in a future episode. That's eight five seven five two nine five six five O savvy psychologist is audio engineered by Steve Ricky Burg and this week we say, a heartfelt goodbye to trustee editor extraordinaire, Joe must go rhino and wish him nothing. But the best in his new adventures as always savvy psychologist is strictly for informational purposes. And doesn't substitute for mental health care from a licensed professional. Thank you so much for listening. I will see you next week for a happier, healthier mind.

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"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

03:43 min | 2 years ago

"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

"Anxiety can be linked to problems with alcohol. So in an interesting twist people who are shy or socially anxious, generally consume less alcohol than people who are more outgoing but have higher levels of hazardous drinking and related negative consequences like missing work getting injured or having unwanted sexual experiences. Why well, it makes sense when you think about it people who were shy may enjoy social events less and therefore avoid the more. Therefore, they may have less practice pacing themselves or knowing their limits when they self medicate at a party wedding in reception or night out and to clinch the matter. Let's check the stats. It turns out that folks with social anxiety disorder have a fourfold risk of developing diagnose -able problem with alcohol. And finally fact number five the best strategy is prevention now for the shy among us, don't chug your Chardonnay because you think you're sober self is inadequate or incapable. Instead, try some other methods to cope so facing a social event sober may sound like a radical idea. But let's revisit the hangs -iety study of all the groups the shy group that was asked to stay sober entered the party with the highest anxiety. They knew they had to face down in evening of socializing without the benefit of liquid courage. But then something interesting happened, there declined over the course of the evening, perhaps because the horror stories they're anxious brains were predicting people with think they're stupid. No one wants you. Here. Didn't come to pass. They got through the evening, just fine. And best of all didn't pay the price in the morning. So if you are up for the challenge of a party without awesome juice here. Are some tools to replace the desperate grip on your high ball glass? So I in a counter intuitive method try hosting your own event, and this gives you two wins. So first, you control, the guest list and can be in a room full of people, you know, and like and second hosting gives you a role to play which adds structure and certainty thereby shrinking anxiety. So to another tactic is to forego events, you truly hate and instead focus on connecting in a setting where you feel less compelled to drink whether that's a smaller get together or a setting not associated with booze like a performance rather than a pub crawl third is enter events focused on people other than yourself wonder about them be curious ask questions, keeping your attention on the people around you rather than your own perceived foibles and shortcomings magically lowers your anxiety. And finally. So in with an agenda decide you'll initiate conversations with three people. You don't know. And then give yourself permission to go home and put on sweatpants all in all raise glass because you want to not because you feel you have to your body. Not to mention Mike Tyson's tiger will thank you in the morning. Thank you for making savvy psychologist, a part of your life. Savvy psychologist is audio engineered by Steve Ricky Burg and edited by Joe Galeano for the holiday week next week. We will have an oldie, but goodie from the archives, and then I'll be back for another year of a happier healthier mind as always sevi- psychologist is strictly for informational purposes and doesn't substitute for mental health care from a licensed professional. Thank you. For listening. Have a great week and happy new year to you all.

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"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

03:43 min | 2 years ago

"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

"Anxiety can be linked to problems with alcohol. So in an interesting twist people who are shy or socially anxious, generally consume less alcohol than people who are more outgoing but have higher levels of hazardous drinking and related negative consequences like missing work getting injured or having unwanted sexual experiences. Why well, it makes sense when you think about it people who were shy may enjoy social events less and therefore avoid the more. Therefore, they may have less practice pacing themselves or knowing their limits when they self medicate at a party wedding in reception or night out and to clinch the matter. Let's check the stats. It turns out that folks with social anxiety disorder have a fourfold risk of developing diagnose -able problem with alcohol. And finally fact number five the best strategy is prevention now for the shy among us, don't chug your Chardonnay because you think you're sober self is inadequate or incapable. Instead, try some other methods to cope so facing a social event sober may sound like a radical idea. But let's revisit the hangs -iety study of all the groups the shy group that was asked to stay sober entered the party with the highest anxiety. They knew they had to face down in evening of socializing without the benefit of liquid courage. But then something interesting happened, there declined over the course of the evening, perhaps because the horror stories they're anxious brains were predicting people with think they're stupid. No one wants you. Here. Didn't come to pass. They got through the evening, just fine. And best of all didn't pay the price in the morning. So if you are up for the challenge of a party without awesome juice here. Are some tools to replace the desperate grip on your high ball glass? So I in a counter intuitive method try hosting your own event, and this gives you two wins. So first, you control, the guest list and can be in a room full of people, you know, and like and second hosting gives you a role to play which adds structure and certainty thereby shrinking anxiety. So to another tactic is to forego events, you truly hate and instead focus on connecting in a setting where you feel less compelled to drink whether that's a smaller get together or a setting not associated with booze like a performance rather than a pub crawl third is enter events focused on people other than yourself wonder about them be curious ask questions, keeping your attention on the people around you rather than your own perceived foibles and shortcomings magically lowers your anxiety. And finally. So in with an agenda decide you'll initiate conversations with three people. You don't know. And then give yourself permission to go home and put on sweatpants all in all raise glass because you want to not because you feel you have to your body. Not to mention Mike Tyson's tiger will thank you in the morning. Thank you for making savvy psychologist, a part of your life. Savvy psychologist is audio engineered by Steve Ricky Burg and edited by Joe Galeano for the holiday week next week. We will have an oldie, but goodie from the archives, and then I'll be back for another year of a happier healthier mind as always sevi- psychologist is strictly for informational purposes and doesn't substitute for mental health care from a licensed professional. Thank you. For listening. Have a great week and happy new year to you all.

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"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

02:52 min | 2 years ago

"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

"Changes like a new relationship or move. And finally conclusion number four cosmetic surgery may not make me happier. But it will take away one of my problems. Okay. This follows the Jay Z ninety nine problems philosophy after the surgery, you'll still have problems but hating your Muffin top won't be one. Now, the stereotype of people who get pas medic surgery is that of shallow insecure types who are obsessed with their looks their thought to be off the charts on something called body image investment, which is defining yourself and your self worth by your physical appearance. And how far you'll go to uphold it interestingly in an exploratory analysis in the same clinical, psychological, science study body image investment, decreased in those that had surgery indicating that once they're protruding ears or sagging neck was a non issue. They became less preoccupied with or invested in their looks. And when you think about it, this makes sense once. A need is met. It's not a need anymore. It's the same reason why people who are naturally slim don't often think about their weight or men with a full head of hair don't think about their hairline. And if you don't spend time thinking about it or comparing yourself to others, you might conclude mistakenly or not that it's not important to you. So to wrap this all up will cause medic surgery. Make you happier. The answer is maybe most people are satisfied with the outcome of their surgery, but satisfaction with the procedure and overall happiness are completely different things. Cosmetic surgery will likely make you more satisfied with your tummy or your eyelids. But may or may not extend beyond that to whatever else. You don't like about your life, all in all don't rely on cosmetic surgery to make your life better improve your relationships or make you happy after all even Joan rivers eventually had enough of plastic, sir. Surgery stadium. No more talks for me, Betty, white bowels move more than my face. Thank you so much for making savvy psychologist apart of your life. Did you know more books are purchased in December and in any other buff? So if you haven't already please consider picking up my book, how to be yourself quiet, your inner critic and rise above social anxiety, either for yourself or someone you love savvy psychologist is audio engineered by Steve Ricky Burg and edited by Joe musk Elino, and as always savvy psychologist is strictly for informational purposes in doesn't substitute for mental health care from a licensed professional. Thank you so much for listening have a lovely week. And I'll see you here next Friday for a happier, healthier mind.

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"steve ricky burg" Discussed on Money Girl

Money Girl

06:32 min | 2 years ago

"steve ricky burg" Discussed on Money Girl

"Most people don't like thinking about death, and they really don't like thinking about insurance, but having life insurance is a great feeling and with policy genius surprisingly easy to get. You can compare quotes from top and shores to find the best policy for you in just two minutes. I've found that many people overestimate how much life insurance actually costs. So they avoid getting it. But it's probably much more affordable than you think. So take a minute to get a free quote. So you can make an informed decision based on the facts when I love about policy genius. Is that they work hard to make sure that it's as easy to get life insurance as an is to order dinner because protecting your family's shouldn't be stressful. You've got no reason to keep putting it off if. If you've been intimidated or frustrated by insurance in the past give policy genius. A try just go to policy genius dot com. To get your quotes and apply in minutes. You can do the whole thing on your phone right now or maybe after the podcast policy genius the easy way to compare and buy life insurance. Okay. We're on tip number five. Which is don't forget your required minimum distribution or are MD after using a traditional retirement account to grow your money tax free. The IRS eventually requires you to take distributions that are taxed starting the year. You turn seventy and one half the IRS forces you to withdraw at least a minimum amount from your retirement account. And that's known as an art MD. No matter if you need the money or not annual are MD's must be taken by December thirty first. However, the IRS does give those who are taking their first R MD a little longer you get until April one of the year after you reach age, seventy and a half. But your second are MD is still due on December thirty one of that same year, which could mean a really big tax Bill in that year. So it's best to take your first are MD by the end of the calendar year in which you turn seventy and a half also note that missing and our MD is very expensive because you are subject to a fifty percent penalty are ND's apply to owners of a traditional IRA Sep, IRA, simple, IRA and various workplace retirement plans, but they don't require any distributions from a Roth IRA while the original owner is alive. Also, if you have a workplace plan, and you're still employed, you can wait until April one of the year after you retire to start taking our MD's the amount you must withdraw is based on life, expectancy tables and your account balance. There's some good online worksheets at IRS dot gov to help crunch the numbers, and I'll put a link to those in the notes for this show in the money girl section at quick. Enderle tips dot com, and again these required minimum. Distributions only apply. If you have reached the age, seventy and a half number six, make charitable donations. When you make a donation to a qualified charity. You may also be eligible for a tax deduction if you itemize deductions on your tax return and make sure that if you do itemize your total deductions are greater than the standard deduction. The standard deduction is has now been raised if they are not higher than the standard deduction. You wanna stick with the standard deduction to save the most money? A charitable donation is deductible in the year in which it is paid. So just putting a check in the mail to a charity constitutes payment. A contribution made on a credit card is deductible in the year. It is charged to your card even if payment to the card company is made next year. And our last tip number seven review, your emergency documents and account beneficiaries. If the year came with big life changes such as getting married, divorced or having children. Remember to update your beneficiaries and emergency documents such as your will healthcare proxy and power of attorney, many people don't realize that the beneficiaries named on your retirement and insurance accounts. Supersede your will. In other words, the people named has been efficiecies on those accounts will inherit them, even if you're will says something different. So if you have an ex POWs or anybody who you would not want to inherit your retirement account or get life insurance. Proceeds after your death update those accounts pronto all right to review the seven ways to manage money better at year end. Number one, make the most of your medical insurance neighbor to drain your flexible spending account, number three contribute. The maximum to your retirement plan at work number four booster retirement, savings rate. Number five. Don't forget your required. Minimum distribution number six, make charitable donations and seven review, your emergency documents and account beneficiaries. If you have a question or a future show idea. Just visit my contact page at larent- d atoms dot com. I'd love to hear from you. And while you're there, you can get four free chapters of my new book debt, free blueprint. I'm also offering a holiday discount of fifty percent off my best selling online classes, you get lifetime access. So you can learn anytime at your own pace again. Visit Lara de Adams dot com to check those out money. Girl is produced by the audio wizar-. Steve Ricky Burg with editorial support from Joe musk Elino. If you've been enjoying the podcast, please show your support by rating and reviewing the show on itunes. You might also like the backlist episodes and show notes available at quick and dirty tips dot com that's all for now. I'll talk to you next week until then here's to living a richer life.

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"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

03:06 min | 2 years ago

"steve ricky burg" Discussed on The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

"Foisted upon you. It's time to pass it back like LeBron with the basketball. However, don't expect them to read your mind. Don't just let your teen oversleep on a random Thursday when you're feeling especially resentful instead set everyone up for success by communicating what's happening. And why what the expectations are and collaboratively coming up with a plan that you're teen can fully own finally when you relinquish fully relinquish. It's tempting to be a safety net or to manage from the sidelines. But trust that your loved one is capable and creative. Even if he wrecks up a few Tarez before all the kinks are worked out of the system. Balance responsibility experiment. Number to accept all offers practice accepting all that's given to you accept a compliment except tomatoes from your neighbor's garden without worrying that now you have to give her a cucumber and best of all accept offers of help don't think of it as burdening the helper. Instead think of it as a way to share the feeling of competence that makes you feel so good. Then once you're comfortable accepting help you can go for your black belt by asking for help. And you can find a link to the archived how to ask for help episode on the savvy psychologist Facebook page. And finally, balanced responsibility experiment. Number three shift your sense of responsibility from saving others, tow launching others. Okay. Consider the core beliefs that keep your over responsibility. Simmering by keeping all the competent to yourself. It implies you think others are incompetent, or at least less competent than you therefore re frame relinquishing over responsibility as helping others develop their skills, especially when it comes to kids. You wanna be able to launch them into the world ready to fly not keep them tethered to you. Now, all in all there are worse things than being overly responsible. But like all good things taken too far. It can be stressful and get in the way of life, so give others responsibilities back to them while still enjoying the sense of competence from handling your own. And if all else fails, you can always apologize. 's for the weather. Thank you so much for making savvy psychologist part of your life. Did you know more books are purchased in December then in any other month? And if you haven't already please consider picking up my book, how to be yourself quiet, your inner critic and rise above social anxiety, either for yourself or someone you love sevi- psychologist is audio engineered by Steve Ricky Burg and edited by Joe musk Elino, and as always savvy psychologist is strictly for informational purposes and doesn't substitute for mental health care from a licensed professional. Thank you for listening have a wonderful week. I'll see you here next Friday, right, happier, healthier mind.

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