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"stanley greenspan" Discussed on Parenting Roundabout
"He traveled a lot right? Well he worked down. And he he didn't he just he worked he didn't do much travel, but he was just kind of like on the sidelines. It was like watching a train wreck my mother and I were in the room shelter. That was maybe a father in a strategy. Yeah, I'm time cuz my dad was sort of that way too. It's like, oh I was my mom's project and whenever we pretty much stayed out of it unless I disrespected my mom and then yeah, he was involved. Yeah brief moment. We'll be back at my place and then he went back to sea levels. Yeah, and I mean, you know my yeah, I mean my dad was I mean he could easily get advice from him and such but no with my mom and I was it was fireworks constant fireworks. So so yep. Feel like as a teenager as I'm sure other people out there feel like I was misunderstood and you know, I mean every was the Seventeenth two, so there are some just like overall Society type things that affected my parenting job as parent is so yes, let's leave our kids alone when they're ten and you know have them look after their five-year-old brother and just like. That was generally, you know acceptable. But so anyway, so now when I try and cuz my daughter's sixteen and off and as I parent her I'm quite mindful of my experiences and sometimes I think I'm probably too mindful because I probably give her too much leeway, and I'm not sure. If that's a good thing so time will tell so probably do a podcast and twenty years and tell the world but I am okay so hands off. She was always the podcast the damn book that took forever home such pressure. Yeah. So so I guess branching off from that. Are there any parenting books that you would advise people to read these days like is there anything reputable out there that you would Advise if somebody's looking for a parenting book like a general philosophy of parenting type book. Yeah. I just I think parenting the ones I went for were specifically special needs a gated. They weren't sort of like an overall theory of parenting you did like that book by Howard last night, you know, I love transforming the difficult child. If you have a kid with behavior issues and you want to be able to recast those in a positive way rather than a negative way and react to them in a way of that involves positive energy rather than negative energy. That is an awesome book also in general with special needs by how can I not know Stanley Greenspan? Yes Stanley Greenspan. Thank you. That's an excellent book. And that was my Bible for quite a while when I was thrust into parenting to non baby kids with special needs. Yeah, I read that whole humongous thing and sort of lived by it. So probably anything that he writes I would recommend cuz that book was awesome. Yeah, probably your cat Catherine. Do you have anything that's that's right a lot of articles about parenting and yeah, so just read what I've written. It's all pretty much that's funny.
"stanley greenspan" Discussed on KGO 810
"Gonna publish the recipe everybody, got run to your computer get this recipe I'll take your make it Grand. Total was. Twenty minutes in the oven and have. To go to get it all over everything on Amazon. Now I just don't even I just don't, I seriously, everything's on Amazon shopping. Cart. Vice stuff in the four pound bags forget it. That's the only. Way to do it and. Then and then it's not five. Dollars a brownie. Now it's three dollars Brown Anyway I'll have that up later today on my. Blog I'm Instagram. At he's going to have those bait over the. Weekend, oh. Cool Okay So what do you think of things like family leave when a when a child is born Dr? Drew I think we have got to do something aggressive in that, space. Though I don't know where's the data show? You what is your experience is clear that if you wanna point at one, thing even things like the obesity, epidemic the lack of time spent with very young children is a major. Problem But by the primary gene contributors father and mother, that that we we're not sure, exactly the ultra Carter's name Greenspan wrote a book called the one Allen Call the one solution that is essentially that one third of each parents time. Needs to be spent every day I you know with the kid, and so the two thirds of the day. Is is represented by the two gene contributors Yes, I hear and. Then maybe one third can be done by something else. But but that that was his there's an old book it was. Probably fifteen years ago or so and I thought maybe we don't say fifteen years but we we don't know we don't really know what, the amount, of time is. All we know is that it's a lot and we're not spending we're not doing it Then on the flip side yes we're not, women? Tend to naturally have a deeper motivation. To do it to spend. It and they were. Not protecting women's place in. The, workplace, so they, could do it and then return and that kills me kills me and I'm with you and so we are as far as western nations go hide that, way way behind I, have a sister who lives in Amsterdam who used to live in San Francisco right her kids were. Born in the Netherlands my kids seem age kids we have two kids my kids. Are born here. Now thankfully you. Know, my wife. And I are fortunate enough that we've been able to make, some choices right about our lives, that so we've been. Able to spend the time but in the. Netherlands the government pays for a nurse as part, of her, taxes that she. Sees the value of Grazer a nurse comes and helps. Take care of the kids for the first twelve weeks that is. Crazy I'll do house Chores around the house so the mom can, bond, with the. Child Microsoft so because our government is not doing much about this we have, things like Microsoft announced yesterday that it will only sign contracts with service providers who give their employees. Twelve weeks of paid family leave so they're using the. Power of their market position to say you want to do business with. Microsoft you're. Going to have to give your employees we're gonna require this as a part of, our? Contract you want to provide services you. Wanna make millions of dollars. A Microsoft guess what. You have to provide twelve. Weeks, paid, family leave, but nothing makes me happier than the private sector solving the problems that we should be solving the society so that that up for and by the way, I did find the, Greenspan referenced the book is called the fourth third solution okay so somehow we have to find out. Where the elven with the math is here exactly four third solution or third solution. Was his book. And I remember Was pointing was, may Stanley Greenspan the point he, was making it just reiterated more time both people. Time with kids yeah FaceTime and by the way that, doesn't mean that your phone is up by your face no it is it is literally and people need to get this message loud and clear. The brain development of the child is dependent on satellite nervous, systems what does that mean the brain, development of the child is dependent on other. Central nervous systems particularly those that are genetically fitted at. Highly attuned meeting mom and. Dad so I wanna I wanna I want. To delve into some that you keep saying that genetically so, a child is adopted right so let's say I've child was abandoned and orphaned in Africa I they can do fine but they have a higher risk of all kinds of things and one. Of the theories trauma or one of the. Theories. Is that we don't really know this for sure one of the theories is that there's. A fitness between child and mom that you can, never there's alw- Sort of an absence of that fitness even when you're trying to meet with somebody? Else, and you. Can almost meet up but not quite made and net may create some. Of that liability that's interesting because so there's some substitute but again. The development of the? Child is dependent on these other satellite nervous systems and the and the, two the two gigantic areas of development our attention so your attention to. The child focuses the child's attention so they're prefrontal cortex can develop an intentional way so that's attention -ality kids have ADHD, and? Things like that guess what their trauma and maybe not of, time with the attention focus, I focused number one face to face focus and the second. Domain is the landscape of emotional regulation the ability to have motions wash over his feelings wash over his bodily. Base experiences and that regulate them and if you don't have literally thousands of hours logged with. Other central Nervous systems you don't develop that and you look for other solutions. That later drugs and alcohol then you become. My patient oh okay that's huge so I'm glad to. See Microsoft step of I know companies like Google and Facebook and others have those types of paid parental. Leave family leave policy and you could you could say all you want The business. Business, but. We're raising. Kids at our where our priorities and by, the way one of the other places you can find regulation is food so. We'll be cities people are, thinking is part of this my, new brownie recipe I. Cannot wait to build Building ethan's a brownie All right so you're gonna hang out with me for another minute because there is a huge topic that I want to discuss with you the state of California or at least the assembly so far has just signed a Bill that addresses something you and I keep talking about. And its conservatives ship so Dr Drew's with great four one five. Eight hundred eighty eight ten Cagy. Oh eight ten and streaming online at k. g. o. radio dot com.