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"sonia loop amir ski" Discussed on Hidden Brain

Hidden Brain

06:43 min | 4 months ago

"sonia loop amir ski" Discussed on Hidden Brain

"Us happy. Maybe it's a dream vacation or getting a great job on meeting a soulmate. But all too often when we get what we want. Reality turns out to be very different than we expected at. The university of california riverside psychologists sonia loop amir ski explores the mismatch between what we expect will make us happy and what actually makes us happy. We began by talking about a moment when she felt this mismatch in her own life. She was in her thirties about leszek surgery to improve her ice up until then i had really poor vision. I was almost blind. I hated my glasses. And i hated my contact lenses and so i have the surgery. It takes like thirty seconds and then you go from being almost blind to twenty twenty vision. That's really miraculous right. And it was amazing. And i could see my toes in the shower. When i woke up in the morning i could see the alarm clock without searching for my glasses and when of walking the streets you know i could read the street signs. That was amazing to me but it took me about two weeks to get completely used to minute. Twenty twenty vision and then i started taking for granted and it became the new normal for me. I've worn glasses for for many years myself. Sonia and as you're talking about the wonders of of jury. I imagine the moment when i can take off my glasses and be able to see perfectly and of course. That's what i focus on when i think about getting surgery like you did. I'm not thinking of what happens. Two weeks after that exactly and whenever we think about sort of changes in our lives positive and negative. We often think about that moment. It's that moment that i call the news when you when you learned that. Oh my vision is perfect in a or you get that new job. You win the lottery but we don't sort of think about what happens you say and then two weeks to months two after that. I'm wondering if the problem is especially acute when it comes to questions involving pain or disability so for example in your case you spent many not being able to see clearly you had the sudden moment of transformation and two weeks later you got used to. It is part of the reason this happens. Do you think that we actually have a relatively poor memory for pain or disabilities or shortcomings. Once they're in the rear view mirror really vanished from our attention. He has a really great point. I hadn't really thought of it that way. It's you order. This evolutionary adaptive right for us to sort of forget The pain or the misery that we experienced before and we move on Another example to us as i have pretty bad allergies. And you know that feeling you. Have you know the runny nose and your eyes are itchy and your throat itchy. But then sometimes they just disappear. And then i feel great i feel neutral and i completely forget what it's like to have that allergy feeling again and until it comes back. Sonia has noticed the fleeting nature of joy in her professional. Life is starting college. I had this dream about becoming a professor. I remember taking the shakespeare class and and watching the professor. And i wanted to be her wanted to stand on the stage that was like freshman year. I think it was really really hard. Especially grad school. Lots of ups and downs. And you know when. I finally got my dream job again. You get the news. Oh i have. I have this job where i have my phd. Now people can call me. Dr yeah that was very exciting for a couple days but will and i still remember the day at ten. You're my husband. Came home from work. And and i was sitting in my bed where i work in front of my laptop. And he's like what are you doing. And i'm like well. I'm working the you got tenure today like well because yeah i know that's what i'm doing but it's funny my phd advisor. Lee ross. Who was a giant figure in mayfield psychology but in my life and career as well of course but he had the same used to say it all the time. He said the only two things in life they're all they're cracked up to be in that sex and tenure and he was wrong and the research shows that people get used to tenure. I actually added a third items list. Just paris you think it's going to be great and go and it's really just as great as you think it is but anyway it's another example that you know it's one of those domains where you know You know once you get to. You know you think it's gonna be great and it is great but then you start focusing on the next thing you know you start focusing on like the stress so now i have to teach and i have to apply for grants and do the thing that having the job requires you see the same thing of course on different scales in different people's lives Megan markle experience some of this when she joined the british royal family. As almost everyone knows. Of course she's an american actor who married prince harry one of the heirs to the british throne now. That sounds like it's right out of a fairytale. But here's how she described what life was actually like as a princess in this clips on yesterday uses the inside term for the royal family. She calls it the firm. I remember so often people within the firm would say will. You can't do this because it will look like that. You can't even can. I go have lunch with my friends. No no no. You're oversaturated your everywhere. And i said i've left the house twice in four months i'm everywhere but i am nowhere and from that standpoint. I continued to say to people. I know. there's an obsession with how things look but has anyone talked about how it feels because right now i could not feel lonelier. Can you talk a moment. Sony about the mismatch. She's describing how something looks especially from the outside and how it feels on the inside. Yeah it's a beautiful quote you know because again when we think about like what. Would you like to be a princess. Whatever this we want to be. We of focused on like the most salient change between my life today and the life of princess. But we don't really think about like what daily life as megan markle said what daily life would actually feel like you know and some of the hassle some the monotony some the loneliness. We just sort of think again about the news. It's similar to list of having money or not like if someone said to me. Oh you're gonna get a million dollars you know but but what does it mean once you have it you know. What is your life going to be. But then after i get that million dollars or after i learned i'm a princess then i have to go to the dentist or then i have to. You know deal with my kids tantrum right so daily life and dan gilbert is talks about this beautifully of daily life is mostly about all these sort of mundane things about that kind of life. Change that you think.

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"sonia loop amir ski" Discussed on Hidden Brain

Hidden Brain

01:54 min | 4 months ago

"sonia loop amir ski" Discussed on Hidden Brain

"All know what it's like to want something that will make us happy. Maybe it's a dream vacation or getting a great job on meeting a soulmate. But all too often when we get what we want. Reality turns out to be very different than we expected at. The university of california riverside psychologists sonia loop amir ski explores the mismatch between what we expect will make us happy and what actually makes us happy. We began by talking about a moment when she felt this mismatch in her own life. She was in her thirties about leszek surgery to improve her ice up until then i had really poor vision. I was almost blind. I hated my glasses. And i hated my contact lenses and so i have the surgery. It takes like thirty seconds and then you go from being almost blind to twenty twenty vision. That's really miraculous right. And it was amazing. And i could see my toes in the shower. When i woke up in the morning i could see the alarm clock without searching for my glasses and when of walking the streets you know i could read the street signs. That was amazing to me but it took me about two weeks to get completely used to minute. Twenty twenty vision and then i started taking for granted and it became the new normal for me. I've worn glasses for for many years myself. Sonia and as you're talking about the wonders of of jury. I imagine the moment when i can take off my glasses and be able to see perfectly and of course. That's what i focus on when i think about getting surgery like you did. I'm not thinking of what happens. Two weeks after that exactly and whenever we think about sort of changes in our lives positive and negative. We often think about that moment. It's that moment that i call the news when you when you learned that. Oh my vision is perfect in a or you get that new job. You win the lottery but we don't sort of think about what happens you say and then two weeks to months two after

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There’s a Mismatch Between the Expectation and Reality of Happiness

Hidden Brain

01:55 min | 4 months ago

There’s a Mismatch Between the Expectation and Reality of Happiness

"All know what it's like to want something that will make us happy. Maybe it's a dream vacation or getting a great job on meeting a soulmate. But all too often when we get what we want. Reality turns out to be very different than we expected at. The university of california riverside psychologists sonia loop amir ski explores the mismatch between what we expect will make us happy and what actually makes us happy. We began by talking about a moment when she felt this mismatch in her own life. She was in her thirties about leszek surgery to improve her ice up until then i had really poor vision. I was almost blind. I hated my glasses. And i hated my contact lenses and so i have the surgery. It takes like thirty seconds and then you go from being almost blind to twenty twenty vision. That's really miraculous right. And it was amazing. And i could see my toes in the shower. When i woke up in the morning i could see the alarm clock without searching for my glasses and when of walking the streets you know i could read the street signs. That was amazing to me but it took me about two weeks to get completely used to minute. Twenty twenty vision and then i started taking for granted and it became the new normal for me. I've worn glasses for for many years myself. Sonia and as you're talking about the wonders of of jury. I imagine the moment when i can take off my glasses and be able to see perfectly and of course. That's what i focus on when i think about getting surgery like you did. I'm not thinking of what happens. Two weeks after that exactly and whenever we think about sort of changes in our lives positive and negative. We often think about that moment. It's that moment that i call the news when you when you learned that. Oh my vision is perfect in a or you get that new job. You win the lottery but we don't sort of think about what happens you say and then two weeks to months two after

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