20 Burst results for "Sista sista"

My Basket of Tools - With Robyn Denny

Goodbye to Alcohol

01:38 min | 4 months ago

My Basket of Tools - With Robyn Denny

"Begun. All conversation by asking robbins introduce herself first of all. I'd like to sam. I'm really excited to be here. Janet because tribe. Soba is something i believe in with my whole being and i think it's extraordinary work that you're doing. I am an artist. A painter and a filmmaker I'm also a mother of two daughters. Who i'm nine and ten i'm a wife sista and most importantly i'm a person trying to come home to myself to come hooked part within me. That's in with all of us. That is actually okay. In some kind of homeo- stasis and then from that point to share whatever small bits of wisdom. I have with the rest of the world. That's it so beautiful. Introduction woman thanking. Let's let's delve into those drinking day following the gory details acid me federal. How old were you when you had. I drink flits go back. Well points knowing that i would speak to you today. I actually mapped out a time line because as you know some of it's quite blurry but i think i started drinking quite seriously In my final school from seventeen to twenty

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"sista " Discussed on Black Girl Nerds

Black Girl Nerds

01:59 min | 5 months ago

"sista " Discussed on Black Girl Nerds

"Premie that she's understood you know i'm dating and so on. I think you know to the question asked second ago like i think knowing more about her background would help But this show is so present is one of these things that there's so much happening in here now that we don't do a ton of prospects you know we don't do a lot of Exposition just. Hey this isn't happening. This is happening right now. And so we storytellers kind of. Do that that legwork for the audience so the audience can just pick up on. Like what would i do. Love is when i see the why like. Why is he upset by this Yeah at least a question right right because yes the exceeds she has. She has a lot of stuff going on and you know she says to him. Anger opened detroit school south and is part of the backstory. A half for her. It's kind of similar to my own. So you know growing up in the south going to school in daily being a smarter is i just believe danny was like that girl who had starship to the really good school and so she was kind of an outsider there as well. You know always kind of dealt in these situations really well but yeah i. It's it's tricky. Yes tricky. And i can't wait like in the trailer. She's picking up her kind of meditation. So i can't wait to see you know she could be evolve into different meditation. You guys don't know if you check out. The i'm just saying i.

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"sista " Discussed on Black Girl Nerds

Black Girl Nerds

04:05 min | 5 months ago

"sista " Discussed on Black Girl Nerds

"That's and so rings dot com that that is so cool. I want you to tell that because it was just so many like different angles and weaves throughout this story and also the management like people like a lot of people. Think like they see you. Guys during the tyler. Perry you know series on bbc and i think they got a massive team. They're brought them the tyler perry and they did this that you know what i mean so i think a so called for people to be able to hear that story and you guys have been calling here. Oh yeah i mean. I even now. I have my. It wasn't just me and my lawyer for a minute to work with one agent. He was crazy. So i don't is after. I got on the show right and now i'm working with someone and now we're trying things out You know but. I mean just like anything in. This industry representations trial and error to light. It's not nothing's guarantee you hope you find the right to some people are great for that great like i said that asia was acting crazy. Like is not. he's not a great he just wasn't great for me. You know vaguely yeah. That's something i want to go to like. Even once you hit a certain level you still have battles. You still have to like you know six. If i remember not to go too far into the panel halle berry with someone how. She had to audition for that movie as we lost in the fire or she was trying to either have to sit down with a producer director. I convince them that she could do that. Part and after she had won the oscar for monster's well. So i mean especially if a black woman kind of don't in my we we steadily proven people but hopefully you're done proving to yourself. Yeah well listen. I hope you done proven after this. Let me tell you something. Danny is the funniest person like i'm like you have to be. I wanna thank you start your story like a stand up gig or used to do comedy or something like that. I'm not you would've started with. Because i cannot believe like. Are you ever looking at the script. And you like ho. You want me to say that. Are you ever shocked about a- like third season you kind of get it every time. no you don't you don't you lose to it. No you don't he he. I just realized i'm tv Each of these characters are a piece of him. Right and danny is just part of himself. That decide i'm going to tell the truth unabashedly. You know what. I mean And that's what. She is the no filter version of the truth. It's like she is what the rest of our thoughts look like but unfortunately she said yeah but it's not like unfortunately unfortunately because it's like you need to hear it because that's what everybody's thinking but she has a severe like i don't care where we notice the bad moments you need to notice like right now like no matter what happens. You need to know the truth right. That's the thing that's so hard because as the actress who plays you know. Danny the part of me in so i'm conflict fighting for her point of view on her perspective and her truth for her to be agreed with to be seen and heard and i need to be stephen and heard as her. You know and it can be so hard times in first-rate. Sometimes because i know how to articulate this but she doesn't get to. It's yeah. I was gonna ask you about that a little bit too. I'm curious. I know you guys got probably got contracts. I know you can't tell much about season. Three but come back any of her background. Like are we going to get any more like her kind of maybe a little more for upbringing. I think she's kinda mention it. Maybe to time a you can kinda tell there something there but do you. Do you ever want to explore that. More with her Vest.

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"sista " Discussed on Black Girl Nerds

Black Girl Nerds

02:36 min | 5 months ago

"sista " Discussed on Black Girl Nerds

"Mom's house for that i've kind of went back and forth from la to atlanta. And then the last time i left went to la a really went through the backs really kind of wet prepared me or The danny wasn't it wasn't acting class that prepared me. It was really just gone through enough struggle. That builds confidence if you want to build confidence by the way go through struggles so many of us were this struggle. We resist paying But it's really bear that you see what you're made of once you can survive couch surfing in sleeping in your soul for one night and I love it. Yeah the kia soul the car. Greg car actually missing times Gray he assaulted blackie assault. Here hit cau- the windshield with a lightning strike. A tree branches sautin crack in it. Just you when you go through enough crap you kinda get this confidence that not Dependent on your looks or even your skills and and so. I stalled the posting on average access. People will ask all the time. Visit very practical answer. Given actors access account man like people will like not even be on accurate. That says i want to be on the top here. Show do you okay. Enactors access bro. Get a headshot. Get an actor's actor count. Anyway i saw that and that never happens. I've never had representation. I until recently. And so i was my own manager agent and talent so i was meeting myself every day multiple times a day and i saw you know. Tps studios put this Leading role up in a series regular all like. Oh got to be because this like you right siri regular for a major studio and it was going to be on the owls. I this is not a over. The because if i don't have an agent to see the other stuff like the stuff that who puts up affect you know. Hbo and showtime puts a vira. Have that access. This is what i can see. This could go for you know. And so i got really scrappy with.

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Interview With Mignon From Tyler Perry's Sistas

Black Girl Nerds

01:12 min | 5 months ago

Interview With Mignon From Tyler Perry's Sistas

"Welcome to the bloggers podcast. I'm your host ryan. Today is all about that girl chair all about needing a good group of friends with you though sisters with you because of the season three of sisters are premiering but a time you listened to this episode actual date is june ninth on bt eh. You know you need. That friend is going to always be honest with you no matter what no matter where you at also could do a background check on social media like we know f. Somebody's man some time out here so my guest today knows a little bit about that. Many on is joining me today. Mignon how you doing. How's everything going how you feel. Y'all i'm good answer. I'm doing pretty good. I have to say. I can't complain. That was my dog yawning background. He loves to make noise people. But what kind of guy either. A spoiled rotten bijon white board o though it is oh goodness told him today. He got some white male privilege because he the boy to so my new every joe white privilege so there is Let's see we know we gotta have little doggy. Yawn on the on the podcast. Good it works. It works

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"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

06:10 min | 6 months ago

"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

"The november. Okay now you to remember what. I what yeah i mean. Light life is short lacquer. We have nothing else in the last eighteen. In last thirteen months you know actually noticed well with the pandemic wrong with the pandemic it. Will we know before but we definitely know now that life is extremely short in so you know all the pettiness that happens you know. Call call your family call you three. Yes yeah get over it move on you know half the stuff that people around here mad at is stupid. Anyway you know life. Just short to be china. Navigate it by yourself. Do it by yourself. You know what we are talking about. We're talking about some of the friendship. You know transitions losses that we had gone through earlier in life. Nine lennon you know but that doesn't mean that those people there are some people that you know you're still going to be there for them no matter what was all of us will national news for this doggone texas when a storm began some of those same people you know our our our friendships where they were years about no but still you care about that person. Let me call which chuck lights out water nicole. You need anything so yeah so life is good ya i pray you know making you meet a lot of women that we can tail now. You have to have a friendship like us. But that just don't have just that that that girlfriend or girlfriend in so apres pray for every woman you know just to have in it. It doesn't even have to be that one other person in their life that they can just go through life with and do life with. Its okay absolutely rarely award mission. Listening is good word one. That is struggling with her. That that thing is real. And i'm not gonna say a prayer right now. But i do pray you know for you but seriously you know to to release give it back give it better absolute be walking around look at older because you hold on the stress. You later moved on quick story. Then i'm gonna juggle for real. I was listening to auntie. Oh my auntie is so. She was she was. She was one day she was talking about friendship that you know like seven talking about. She was upset that had moved on and she had been holding on to it for years. this person out of tiffany's where we hang out her out symphonies basically lebanon She was laughing and joking with somebody else. I mean not personnel moved on and cheating still think about what happened between her anti. Oh you know but she moved on until it was it. Took oprah seen that to realize like why am i still holding xactly. Losing their best friend Yeah you gotta let go. You just have to let it go. I in our bodies is so phase that actually how else are right you. I let it go go absolutely well all right. Let's get ready to get out of here and lana. I would love to tell people how they can connect to the sundress and big hats brunch. When you're ready to go on tour again and melissa you any information you'd like to leave for on your business then please. By all means here's opportunity. I can find on all social media platforms. Sundress grunge Sundress in big hat. Raunchy the or on. I g facebook. Our website sundress a big brunch. Dot com or sender's brunch dot com either or email us at info at sundress and began runs dot com. And we don't know what we're going on tour again we will be doing some things On the platform follow following on that is not a song was on on instagram and Based again will be announced all the things that we're doing the social media platforms. Yes and you can finally online anywhere descent. Melissa jane nixon dot com Or melissa jay. Nixon on social media platforms. All over might not see a whole lot that right now because your girl was on a little bit of a break which is good. It's a good thing transitioning as you know we bombed watch whatever's coming next so kobe's and we'll help all the information listed in the show notes of this episode but you can connect what materials because john need them in young way anything before we leave honey nut just that. This was really really good. I really enjoyed everything that you shared. We needed with a glass of wine. Guys we outta your thank you guys so much for tony and don't forget to follow us on all social media platforms. We are shave strong at burry. Where you're gonna leave us a message about this episode. You can do that on our website at shaved shades of strong by the out..

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"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

05:35 min | 6 months ago

"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

"Everybody at bombs built like that. Our bodies are not built to continue to just add at at night. Release any of that. You know people are angry. People are hurt and upset but if but if we have to move past anger we have to move to action. We have to move to being healthy and hold so we can impact whatever i circle is or whatever our world is. That's the impact that you can't change the entire world. But guess what i can change. My neighbor can change. You know because they're reaching out to me. And say what can i do. And we'll tell me how i am because i call them out. They expect that from me when they see this respectively. Something else they like. Not a you know. Is that cool. That's cool his wife's not cool. So that's what i can do so boundary limits in all of those things. I'm just helping you to be healthy so you know so so not to say. We weren't phase fire. People take take all of that. They're not woke all this kind of no. It's not that is actually the opposite. You know and you know we spent the better part of our year just doing will work to affect change. You know on the types of things that we did in twenty twenty twenty so if anything i buried myself in probably the most meaningful purposeful work that i've ever been a part of sedate you not to to create a different. Yeah not just talk about it we to be about we. We've done that life yet. On so good. Thank you all so much for coming on to Share y'all's wrench. This is amazing but before we do have rapid fire questions you live like brain gets never want who the dominant wondering appreciate. Don't you answer that..

"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

07:09 min | 6 months ago

"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

"Anti blackness being constantly thrown up in your face more than it ever has been in the past. So how did how challenging was it for you. All to maintain that deep connection number one through the pandemic where y'all were able to come together and beat together like physically be together. How challenging was it for you to continue to growing your friendship during the pandemic and did you find that you needed each other more during the pandemic and the whole racism. Anti black win situation. What's funny yeah. This is like nothing really saying. Is concerned you know like yeah. My momma is what seventy two seventy three so and she lives with me and yet nobody was coming to worth around. No one was traveling in the beginning also. Probably for about five months march march april. May june live like three months That we went without hanging out seeing each other during the pandemic. everybody was on lockdown. Whatever also working on special projects that we had to end up traveling. I think in july during the pandemic in hannah pick back up where we left off. But yeah i think we got every day. That's you talk offices restaurants one to our by lifestyle we're entrepreneurs we worked together. She works with me. I work with are so we're talking and even when we were working on the project we were working on it was so much you know. So we're talking all day anyway so working together. We're working together on an i'm so so we didn't. We didn't miss a beat. We didn't miss a beat. You know when in a in a month that we didn't see each other it was like we saw each other because this when she can only call on video. I'm looking at the face all day. what's so you know. So yes and we laughed at the beginning. You said it was having lafrance because in a we had that conversation In the beginning of the year with some other friends they were like you know things just changed and you know so much change outside things that we that people may have needed. We had because we had that coast connection. It just became closer and because we talk all the time. We just continue talking all the time so we didn't And the fact that we couldn't go out is not a wasn't horrible for us because for the most part we that my house our house my mom miles driving you know so. We're always we're not necessarily out and about where we're not in the office somewhere. We don't have to go anywhere when the house working most of the day or at a You know maybe we might go to konare albion office for the day so it wasn't that we were going into office. We will missing co workers or we want to go out to restaurants all the time. We mentioned that we weren't really missing too much in terms of dealing with e. racism. All of that. That happen happens every day but specifically when it blew up last year last summer. Yes so are they hit us but there's two things that really work to our advantage. One is our mo our mode of operation so while things are so heavy in the world in a in an impact. Us for sure. That as i mentioned earlier like if it's hard for me to stay in that in that that that low place in day out and my processing things yes amac good about things. Yes are you know trying to figure out what's my part. What's my role. We have conversations about different like that. All the time. I knew the conflicts of how they would do more than just pray about it Second thing i would say when our in our relationship with god is is real real. There's a. There's a town of christians in the world who believe but yet they allow the weight of the world to also be their burden as well. You know they wear it that you see they like it's like okay but at what point do you really really walk back. They really trusting you really. You know Am i part of the solution. I think a lot of that helps with us with with our spirits amid self care. So lana had a role she still has ruled. She does not watch the news until six pm. The reason why most of us sitting around depressed because we watch the news from sunup to sundown and that stuff will either way the actual spirit. Yeah so she had has. A rule still has a role six pm. That's when i take in you know what's happening in the world and she at the time when she does like maybe like sixty eight is back to our two in the south camp boundaries. You know really helps us. That thing will literally have you on the front lines politics people. We got lots of stuff. If we're not careful for not care what would yet. I know that that's true. Like trying to take it mike My husband is a news junkie. so he's all day. He's listening to the news and on nine his watching news pundits and social media responding in thinking and stuff so he you know he was like he had a hard time. Lash abbott. Because and i was like you mike now. His spirit is faxed. Because you've taken all of that and you don't have time to feed your steering so now everybody you're angry at everything. Everybody at bombs built like that. Our bodies are not built to continue to just add at at night. Release any of that. You know people are angry. People are hurt and upset but if but if we have to move past anger we have to move to action. We have to move to being healthy and hold so we can impact whatever i circle is or whatever our world is. That's the impact that you can't change the entire world. But guess what i can change. My neighbor can change. You know because they're reaching out to me. And say what can i do. And we'll tell me how i am because i call them out. They expect that from me when they see this respectively. Something else they might. Not a you know. is that cooler. That's cool his wife's not cool. So that's what i can do so boundary limits in all of those things. I'm just helping you to be healthy so you know so so not to say. 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"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

04:24 min | 6 months ago

"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

"Our by lifestyle we're entrepreneurs we worked together. She works with me. I work with are so we're talking and even when we were working on the project we were working on it was so much you know. So we're talking all day anyway so working together. We're working together. And i'm so so we didn't. We didn't miss a beat. We didn't listen. Beat you know when in a in a month that we didn't see each other it was like we saw each other because this when she can only call on video. I'm looking at the face all day. what's so you know. So yes and we laughed at the beginning. You said it was having lafrance because in a we had that conversation In the beginning of the year with some other friends they were like you know things just changed and you know so much change outside things that we that people may have needed. We had because we had that coast connection. It just became closer and because we talk all the time. We just continue talking all the time so we didn't And the fact that we couldn't go out is not a wasn't horrible for us because for the most part we that my house her house my mom miles driving you know so. We're always we're not necessarily out and about where we're not in the office somewhere. We don't have to go anywhere when the house working most of the day or at a You know maybe we might go to konare albion office for the day so it wasn't that we were going into office..

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"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

07:43 min | 6 months ago

"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

"So you meet people that you have this impacted. We're not that girl shannon. We worked together twenty years ago Added remember that when she still remember so people will see me out in out and people like. Oh my god da da. Wow okay so whether or not you stay. Friends with those people are not you do the right thing. We're not somebody else do the right thing. Yeah yeah along those same lines you friendships in for for various reasons like donna was saying like some people in your life for four season reason and whatever else goes with that though i wanna know in y'all's friendship aren't any deal breakers like. Is there anything that the other person could do. No will make you the make you say i'm done like i wanna be your friend or more even know actress. Melissa my husband. We systemwide now brand aspect. How free agrees okay. Because women don't women each other women. I don't care who it is with the husband. So yeah y'all yahoo y'all. I've heard that i've even had older. Women told me that. I might listen if i trust you with my husband. I can't trust you in my life. Absolute absolutely that's i mean that you not a good person right. You're not going to be in my home. You're not going to be my space because about trust you with my husband. Yeah right right what about you. Listen out about it. I mean i can't i can't tell your friends as well. That's interesting question. I'd like to hear you and matlet matlin. Natty is a good question. i don't have an answer either. I don't i don't have an answer would be You know if it was just general but unlike a best friend like what is it. That would be a deal breaker for four people at. What's the deal breaker in analysts. Say for for me not that. I think it will ever do anything like this but for me. If you come from my children we done right for real. Life is over that dasa complete deal deal breaker for me. And when i say compromise children. I don't necessarily mean you know telling me you know. Perhaps he should have handled that differently. Or you know whatever. But i'm talking literally com for my children like if you abuse them mistreat down and i'm done. That's the one percent deal for me absolutely agreed. I'm thinking about wide thinking about no. Oh no i was gonna say a big such situations that i've experienced. I'm like okay. Those things are deal breakers like like what surely said someone mistreating my my children and not necessarily like oh. They're being violent with him. I mean that's obvious but like just not being kind. Just not just not being kind to them. That's definitely a deal breaker for me. And anything where. It's funny because the situations that i'm thinking specifically these have all been friendships that i've had with white women so it's like there's a different. There's like a layer of something there that's like. Oh okay this this is a. This is definitely not cool. This is this is a giant red flag And it just kind of pops up out of nowhere because you know people have implicit biases and then with time. Those things start to come out. I guess the more comfortable someone feels about you and they think they say things you get away with things or whatever So something like in in that kind of context. Yes that would definitely be a deal breaker with friendships. That i've had with with black women. I don't. I think someone just being really disrespectful to me like i can think of one friend that i've had in the past that the situation that happened and she immediately jumped to the wrong conclusion about me thinking i had done something to hurt her. And she didn't give me the benefit of the doubt and she immediately like yelled at me over email or whatever Encouraged me out and stuff on like wait a minute. And so then when everything got resolved and she realized no i. I hadn't actually done the thing that she thought i did to her. Yeah it was very awkward and we. It was like okay. I i'm very. I'm a very forgiving person. But at the same time. Although i forgave her i was like okay. I also know that. I'm going to have to keep you at arm's arms because it was way too easy to jump to about me when i've never done any anything to hurt you so something like that. That would be a deal breaker. Yeah i actually ended up friendship because the the lady was constantly questioning mike friendship. I ended a friendship. Because of that. Because whenever i didn't do what she wanted me to do our show up where she wanted me to show up when she wanted me to show up. Then it's like. Oh i thought you were my friend. Oh you mark. We would have done that. And so i've been a relation. Hewlett of. Yeah yeah. Because i'm not gonna i'm not gonna be in a relationship like this. I'd entered a relationship because of that. Yeah that's definitely a deal breaker anything where someone is like. They're they're imos just to be manipulative like that. That's not that's not safe and it's not fun so no i'm trying thankfully i've never had I mean i've definitely had friendships. That have ended but like i said earlier. It's been more so stuff that they were going through how to deal with. You know whatever whatever but not necessarily anything that happened to me. You know why i had to make a decision to end a friendship but the one thing were that as i was thinking about it. Shirley nets come to mind if i had the It would be in. This is just in general cross. Went on say with lana Disrespect you know. I'm semi you know for me because i'm real big on honor. Lana no. i'm real big on words. Any kind of win right especially more than you might want. Time might like okay. Don't do that number right. People people that know me we've been in a situation in divorce. Get loud or they they let literally start seeing my act which you know what did happen But yes i think. 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"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

04:16 min | 6 months ago

"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

"I can't trust you in my life absolutely absolutely. That's i mean that you not a good person right. You're not going to be in my home. You're not going to be my space because about trust you with my husband. Yeah right right what about you. Listen out about it. I mean i can't i can't tell your friends as well. That's interesting question. I'd like to hear you and matlet matlin. Natty is a good question. i don't have an answer either. I don't i don't have an answer would be You know if it was just general friend but unlike a best friend like what is it. That would be a bill breaker for four people at. What's the dealbreaker in analysts. Say for for me not that. I think it will ever do anything like this but for me. If you come from my children we done ripe for real like is over that dasa complete deal dealbreaker for me and when i say compromised children. I don't necessarily mean you know telling me you know. Perhaps he should have handled that differently. Or you know whatever. But i'm talking literally calm from children like if you abuse them mistreat down. Amer like i'm done. That's the one percent deal for me absolutely agreed. I'm thinking about wide thinking about. No oh no. I was gonna say a big such -tuation that i've experienced. I'm like okay. Those things dealbreakers like like what surely said someone mistreating my my children and not necessarily like. Oh they're being violent with them. I mean that's obvious but like just not being kind. Just not just not being kind to them. That's definitely dealbreaker for me. And anything where. It's funny because the situations that i'm thinking specifically bees have all been friendships that i've had with white women so it's like there's a different. There's like a layer of something there that's like. Oh okay this this is a this is definitely not cool this is..

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"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

05:08 min | 6 months ago

"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

"Talking to my sister a couple of weeks ago and she was talking about how she doesn't have any black female friends like she lives in chicago in in in an area where on there are predominantly hispanics and blacks. And she's saying she was there. I said well. Why don't you have any black female friends. That she was and she said what they don't like me. And so i guess my question is he's like black women don't like me so i guess my question is the whole in order to have you gotta show yourself spring like what are your thoughts on that. Why let me piggyback on netflix. Talk about black room and not liking you. Like when i typically would start a job Usually black women don't gravitate towards me initially in in job setting in a corporate setting usually. It's the white girls. They love me. Sisters don't know how to take me some time. They you know which is so weird round away whatever but you know what it is from typically do not usually like a mike my last the job before my last job like the Back in nineteen ninety eight. I think it was like i was there for probably a month before the sisters decided that i was the coolest thing since slice bread but white ladies that i bet the first thing that we we are lifelong friends they came to my wedding. They wear in each other's weddings. And you know all the things were in each other's live in fact we had. We went up eating dinner once a month for years for years at least a month. Just to stay connected. Now dan that i try to do that with my black sisters friends once they got around coup but then it was you know having somebody get a incumbent into buddy you know so this is to say that but yes i think i do think that in order to be a friend you have to have a friend you have to show yourself as friendly and you have to..

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"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

07:40 min | 6 months ago

"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

"Not have to be that hard right in. Yeah i'm definitely open to. I mean like i said shirley. I've had pretty extensive discussions about this but i'm very much open to just having a a wider circle. I don't need fifty friends. I mean that's a guess but having a tight circle of people that i know like you said lana bet like i know if anything happens i have someone i can call and they know that they can call me and i'm like i'm the i'm someone that you can reach out to someone that you can call like I'm not going to turn you away. And i'm not gonna be upset that i'm not gonna feel bothered but i'm also an only child and i'm used to being you know alone most of the time i think that's just like okay. Well i this is like a thing. This is a practice that i've had to engage in my whole life just learning how to extend myself to someone else and let the chips fall where they may and sometimes things work out. Sometimes it doesn't or sometimes things work out and then you know we just drift apart. Someone moves away or things like that. And then i have to remember okay. It's time to try to extend myself again in a time like that in time like this little bit more difficult because not going out to the bookstore to the coffee shop and all that kind of stuff so you go to the bookstore up. I love going to. But i have not gone. I haven't gone very much. I think i've gone once and it was around christmas time and i've got to fight against the my anxiety was set up. It was like a So i go in the drive through. And mike is my coffee shop now until until further notice. So it's like. Oh i've got to. That's why i'm like. Oh these these online connections. That i have these are the things that we can maintain and these are the things where it's like okay every two weeks. I've got these two friends that i'm gonna talk to you for two and a half hours and And i'm talking shirley every week in so that that feels good. That feels like oh. I have some people that i can that i can reach out to if i need to but surely also knows that i still have a hard time reaching out even when i do need someone. Oh yeah because it's not second nature so you know like i said it's something that i have to like buy practice. I have to like about practicing. One of those people is like. Oh they don't want to hear from me. Because i sub she does that and and i'll and i'll have to tell her that it's okay even if i'm going through my own stuff. Sometimes i feel like in a friendship. You need to be something for somebody even when you're going when you're going through something step because for me it kind of as me out of what. I'm going through in that moment to to hoe space and support somebody else than what they're going through and that's what i try to nanny because she's like. Oh but this just happening. That just happened and i really don't want to being wanting was sometimes. I need that. I need somebody to pull me out of best base than i mean and i think that's important in friendship. I think that that the thing i want to say is communication like we have to communicate those names that people like. Don't just assume that. Because i'm going through something that i can't be there for you. Communication is always going to be extremely important in friendships and it was something else. Natty say at one. Oh yes kalana you had said. I think you think something to the fact that Gosh just lost my thoughts. Any who what what i was going to say. Then head this whole thing where people say in order to have refrained you gotta show yourself friendly now. That's where i was going. Because i remember talking to my sister a couple of weeks ago and she was talking about how she doesn't have any black female friends like she lives in chicago in in in an area where on there are predominantly hispanics and blacks. And she's saying she was there. I said well. Why don't you have any black female friends. That she was and she said what they don't like me. And so i guess my question is he's like black women don't like me so i guess my question is the whole in order to have you gotta show yourself spring like what are your thoughts on that. Why let me piggyback on that for a minute. Talk about black room and not liking you. Like when i typically would start a job Usually black women don't gravitate towards me initially in in job setting in a corporate setting usually. It's the white girls. They love me. Sisters don't know how to take me some time. They you know which is so weird round away whatever but you know what it is from typically do not usually like a mike my last the job before my last job like the Back in nineteen ninety eight. I think it was like i was there for probably a month before the sisters decided that i was the coolest thing since sliced bread but white ladies that i bet the first thing that we we are lifelong friends. They came to my wedding. They wear in each other's weddings. And you know all the things were in each other's live in fact we had. We went out to dinner once a month for years for years at least a month. Just to stay connected. Now dan that i try to do that with my black sisters friends was they got around guy coup but then it was you know having somebody get a mandate and come into moss by you know so this is to say that but yes i think i do think that in order to be a friend you have to have a friend you have to show yourself as friendly and you have to. You have to be afraid to get a friend as well. I think about girlfriend of mine back. When i was much younger she wasn't very friendly. She news was because she doesn't have tolerance for people. You know how we became friends. I'm not even sure. We wound up. Actually even be roommates are pro while she wasn't very friendly so but but she was. You know i didn't go to church. Nobody calls me was like. But do you call anybody. When you don't see the machar question so i i would call on the carpet for and she's like you right about that. I'm like you can't you know she doesn't dob. Nobody sent me a birthday card. How many birthday cards do you said you're not do those things. Do you extend yourself to anyone to you. But did you extend your so. You have to show yourself. It's running at when people who they are believable if basically they not good france or they're out to us you or they're not really invested in you. It's more about them than you. Then you will make a decision. My bra i'm out. I now back know at the end of the day when i say no. I'm a good friend. And no good friends and i know when i'm good friend win. You know. people are like people stuff. I'm done for people years ago. Hassles i don't even remember grad you. The best babysat was like i did ask you baby. I was.

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"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

04:11 min | 6 months ago

"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

"The jealous doesn't have to be that hard. Yeah right in. yeah. I'm definitely open to. I mean like i said shirley and i've had pretty extensive discussions about this but i'm very much open to just having a a wider circle. I don't eat fifty friends. I mean that's a guess but having a tight circle of people that i know like you said lana bet like i know if anything happens i have someone i can call and they know that they can call me and i'm like i'm the i'm i'm someone that you can reach out to someone that you can call like and i'm not going to turn you away and i'm not gonna be upset that i'm not gonna feel bothered but i'm also an only child and i'm used to being you know alone. Most of the time. I think that's just like okay. Well i this is like a thing. This is a practice that i've had to engage in my whole life just learning how to extend myself to someone else and let the chips fall where they may and sometimes things work out. Sometimes it doesn't or sometimes things work out and then you know we just drift apart. Someone moves away or things like that. And then i have to remember okay. It's time to try to extend myself again in a time like that in time like this is a little bit more difficult because not going out to the bookstore to the coffee shop and all that kind of stuff so you go to the bookstore up. I love going to. But i have not gone. I haven't gone very much. I think i've gone once and it was around christmas time and i've got to fight against the my anxiety was set up. It was like a so. I go in the drive through and mike is my coffee shop now until until further notice. So it's like. Oh i've got to. That's why i'm like..

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"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

07:49 min | 6 months ago

"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

"Not part of anymore that kind of thing. So yeah that's that's where i'm at it's it's It's kind of a a a tender subject for me. I'm gonna point two things that you said that nearly one with that intention i think in friendships and relationships as a whole that we have to be intentional in data capacity because a lot of times we forget to remember. An one person is doing all of the friendships. The while the other person is made bag. And i think a lotta times. That's why a lot of friendships dissolve because one person is doing all the giving while the other person is just chilling and being we wander happened in friendship and then the second thing i wanted. I wanted to talk about john lizard. Is that when you are when you find yourself in this space where you have been betrayed by friendship. And you don't necessarily natty says she you know she slowly building her circle. Up will advise our suggestions. Would you give to someone who doesn't know how to pick them out of that. Space of mistrust and betrayal question shirley Madeline matty absolutely you know relate at had you know throughout my life. We all go through our relationships evans. Slow in there have been some ones. There have been cashed like this. About how people you know who have been riding on my hair. My mates lists you know were they. Were that close to have that type of relationship and you know things just things have happened in so but happened in the way that i didn't necessarily understand you'd be like you know like me like am i you know but then for me i had to. God had to show me some things in reference to there's a couple of relationships and i'm thinking about specifically you know where he was inside. You know they were sometimes people when they're going through their own stuff. I know for me personally. Because you know who who lana hawaiian. Who we are is what you get and my life is buried limited time that my light is not right in doesn't shine in. I'm not full of joy and you know even on the holidays. Like i am who i am and so what i realized is that sometimes people are going through stuff you know. They can't necessarily you know they wanna they wanna wallow in be in you know their depression their their whatever you know their mental health issues. Whatever you know for extended amounts of time so they decided to pull back started. Pull back in. So i had to learn how to deal with that because there was definitely a loss you know i mean i'm talking about you know going through life and death situations you know these people that you would think that that would never ever happen. You know who in as far as how how to deal with it. I'm like it is not to be funny but it in a in its of revelation over time But surely would you have experience with. Lana in your life like that's who we are like. We are people allied to. That's who that's who we are as a motive operation. i am the rider. Fring you know is some going on we will. We will where one of her friends turned. Fifty years ago i love. I love her days garner. I don't even got know you literally like at the last minute. Wanted to celebrate with her so we got in the car drove overnight to orlando last minute decision. Just because i mean she you know we're cooling all but is more nonense friend. You know whatever so anyway i To say how. How do i deal with there. I have to realize you know the value that i add to people in someone chooses to walk away. You know if that's now that's their mind you know they'll they will be. There moved on move on. You know and the one thing that i know about god and ours laugh when i say this might Talking about him. But i can't have accommodated without bringing him up. You know in terms of the one thing i know about god is he always has had my life full with the people who need to be in it for that season. At that time you know so for anyone that's dealing in a lot of people you know now who shared the same experiences you that are literally from just things that have happened because like i happen in for anyone. That's listening that has gone through that. Listen i get it. I have been there. It hurts like ham. I should answer. Sometimes you know because typically there's no your out sat down how heart the heart about what wasn't working worry but at the same time life goes on you have to realize who you are. What you add in in vitro shouldn't be truthful many times if not even about us. Yeah right but we make it so much about us in so we have to realize. Listen this this big this deep insult you gotta let you got to be willing to let them go and let god deal with them in the way that he needs to do with them. Bail and us to be able to move on. But i have always been ab never that. None of those situations have closed the off to start new flourishing relationships. You know new murphy friendships or even pouring into the ones that already have. It doesn't necessarily do that. So this encourage people this you know stay open remain open like not everyone you. You always have to go through that. Can we dismissed and we don't open ourselves. We don't expand circles. You'll never know who you can meet. If i never extended myself to melissa or or was open to meeting someone new than i wouldn't have you know my best friend. I would never that so just remain open. You know it is hard to go into and we know it We are got a spirit. Whatever you wanna call it tells us who we invested. Who invested in who not to like some people like listen. I'm in life for a life for a season you know and and that's okay and that's okay. You know as long as you know as long as you're not being abused or being taken advantage of you know as you are there to put something to posit something in this person's or showed them how to be afraid. Because i had a friend. I had this person that i was not She wasn't we weren't we weren't connected on meshing. We weren't supposed to be friends. But i realized she didn't have any friends. And this adult. She was enough fifties. And i was like aloe to show her how to be a friend. So i you know when she would do stuff. I'm like listen. I love you and i understand that. You don't have girlfriends but i'm going to tell you some of the reasons why and i add so i wanna content for us to continue to be friends and you know if you're okay with that then i'll tell you when you do something that's not cool. You know like shootout was like. Oh women hate neil jealous.

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"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

07:54 min | 6 months ago

"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

"Think we both understand that. You know we can't handle people just like when it's convenient sometimes it's inconvenient to be you know. Sometimes you got something you've gotta do but you're need to do something you know. Of course everything has boundaries and and you have boundaries in in all your relationships but you know understanding. The importance of friendship is one of the things that i think when i think about relationships period that that's what's most important to me. My friends are important to me. So i'm gonna call you. i'm gonna send you email or something. You know some friends. I only to talk to you all the time. We don't talk but just send me a tax or i want to know that you're okay. I wanna know how you faring a life. I do not want to wake up one day and realized that you've been broken hurting and you thought i was too busy or i didn't reach out to you so i didn't know what was going on in your life so i think that's. That's one of the things when i think about friendship. I think about loyalty. I think about commitment i think about you know. Just just checking in. It's too important and we have the conversation with our nieces all the time about this because what we understand is the next generation and even some of our generation especially with doing all the events that we do we made so many women that that gravitate towards us even when we're not doing events which is due out doing life. They asked us about the assistance. I'm always been friends. And i'll those things Because we mesh so well now we fight. Of course everybody does but because we understand that relationship in that connection. It's i think comes across to people. I lost my train of thought about you. Know say oh yeah like people we meet so many people is like they don't trust women or women can't be friends surely you started with that you know. Women are caddy all of that. Well i mean that that hasn't been my testimony and that's not really my land. Yeah like when. I walk into a room. You know i don't i don't necessarily view that group of women as competition and i don't necessarily feel like they have anything that they're they're they're there to do something against me or to me now. I had some experiences that have kind of taken me off guard right. Why should stop talking to me or why. Why so. we're both. She's the one that has that perspective when you know should be like. I'm not saying that you know how issues people but she's able to discern motive is in why they did what they did or said what they said or how they opted. You know all of that. Neom decide why. Why are you gonna have like that though. Yeah you mentioned boundaries in friendship in a relationship that have there have to be boundaries in place a would would do those boundaries. Look like for you melissa. A republican listen to that an say that gentleman but honestly is true and you evacuate. Be the same with everyone right now. Works for us because of our lifestyle because of how we sound like. We're both entrepreneurs we both You know have even though i'm buried and she's single. My husband understood from very first date. I might i love you. You will always come from my girls here before you gossip is should happen to. You may still be here. So i understand that melissa has access to me at all. She had something happen. She needs me to come margaret. Like okay when you go on. Even even it'd be like well. You ain't talk. Listen i'm like listen. Can i get breaking whole easter holiday easter menu. Exactly where we haven't served as senate bring so we don't have but i guess it just depends on the level of friendship. Everyone will have that level of friendship so yeah boundaries are important. I do have friends that they can't call me all hours a day or night and not because anina mean or whatever is because i'm thinking about one particular relationship where we were aces and she allowed her spouse to come in and say that ya'll to close your cap be that close so now she just can't have access to me like all of those like melissa so not very many people can have access. Naturally you call me you. Tell me the need to come. I'm coming again. Yeah i'm like i'm coming directly. Honestly nettie these two ladies right here have seen me through some of the most difficult times in my life and i literally all i have to do is pick up the phone or send a message and they got me. I don't care what he they got me so they have not only the friends to each other. They are good friends to me. So and i am so appreciative of different friendships. They bad they'd have a girl back because sometimes a girl can pick yourself up about the flow and they're not even in the same city anything state that i am but somehow the love that they have for me gets me about the floor so i i am just so eternally grateful day. You guys are part of my life but we talk about me. You want to add anything. 'cause i wanna make sure you including this conversation deer. I think my experience has been a little bit different than shirley. And i have talked about this. We talked about this last year. I'm an only child. And i've only just recently come to the realization that made me i just for whatever. Reason am just a lot for some people. I don't know you know the the phrase. I'm not everybody comes to mind and it's not like oh i'm not someone that like is abrasive or anything like that actually hearing a lot of talk about her experience around people. I have those similar experiences. A lot of times in social settings like usually when i'm around most like people of color especially people are johnny and and i'm i get along with people easily. I talked to people easily and there have been many times where some stranger will approach me out of nowhere and next thing you know. We've talked for an hour. And i really love that but at the same time. It's been very difficult for me to deal like i have had a lot of true friendships in my life. It seemed like every time. I thought i had true real solid friendship. It just kind of withers away. People just lock at. I don't cold bins against people aren't being but sometimes i'm like. Wow they just stop talking to me. I don't know what happened. You know that kind of thing. So the last year or so. I've been working to maintain some very intentional connections with some friends. Like bet. none of them live close to me. They all live in different places. Doing this with surely was very easy. Because oh i recording anyway so i know i'm going to talk to her every week anyway but just two or three other people. I've i've made it a point to intentionally connect with and we talk every two weeks and that's made me feel a lot better and it makes feel like instead of. Oh i don't have really have a sisterhood or i don't have a circle maybe i am making my own cornell a very small circle if it's more like an angle right. It's not that many people. I'd like to add more but i just you you take things as they come and there's a lot. I think there's a lot of healing that i'm still doing around loss and around feeling like you're part of something and then realizing you're.

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"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

04:39 min | 6 months ago

"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

"I'm not saying that you know how issues people but she's able to discern their motive is in why they did what they did or said what they said or how they opted. You know all of that. Neom decide why. Why are you gonna have like that though. Yeah you mentioned boundaries in friendship in a relationship that have there have to be boundaries in place a would would do those Look like for you melissa. A republican listen not that boundary and say that gentleman but honestly is true. And you becky be the same with everyone right now. Works for us because of our lifestyle because of how we sound like. We're both entrepreneurs we both You know have even though i'm buried and she's single. My husband understood from our very first date. I might i love you. You will always come from my girls before you gossip is should happen to the you may still be here so i understand that and melissa has access to me at all. She had something happen. She needs me to come margaret. Like okay when you go on. Even even it'd be like well. You ain't talk. Listen i'm like listen. Can i get breaking whole easter holiday easter menu. Exactly where.

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"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

04:54 min | 6 months ago

"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

"Yeah so we we have an official like honda com. How i met this is before the friendship. We were really trying to get some things done and help. Everyone i found that was so funny like serious. Melissa is a serious one. I will say that somebody has to people from thought. Anyway that's how they met and they are friends and they love each other and we love them. I want to start the conversation with the question. Listen lana and you can jump into if you want to when you think about black female friendships was the first thing that constant mind and has that idea change for you over the years. Although i 'cause i think lana and i are very different when it comes to friendships and relationships i am very open. Friendly soft hearted like i. I make friends very easily if i met someone today. Then i might won't be like that. I have always kind of been the one to gravitate more towards people wanna of. She'd like our love him like a cool. What you socialize. Choose you know all of that but at the end of the day you know..

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"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

05:38 min | 6 months ago

"sista " Discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

"Sean now hey welcome back to shades of strong where we ain't never scared to talk about all the things that shape mate and sometimes break the strong black woman. I'm shirl a oddest episode is about to beef by cutting got me. I got nanny bay. Natty lana hunter. And i got the melissa. J was not wasn't happening. How all the things is everybody going Listen we got another great episode. Y'all for the last two episodes. We have been talking about sisterhood. In the first car of the conversation we talked about the embedded wound black sisterhood. And how the super mommy. Kate is costing us the connections and part of the conversation. We talked about how the black mother wound gives birth food assistant. Who won't and so today. I thought why not wrap up this by painting a pitcher of what healthy black emails finish ships look like and who better to do that into a mock faceless who embody was sisterhood and friendship is all about an of course that is similar than ilana. What's up what's the point so excited to have your own. Welcome to sos queen them. But like i said we want to talk about the friendship now. The beauty of black female friendships. Because i don't know if y'all have heard this. But i have a lot of people say that black women are petty are and cattier than any other race of women and that's why we don't have the friendships that you know. We have been whole crab in game in tallahassee. And all that but i am not she and she is not make her way. That's what we want to talk about today in. So lana melissa have been friends for quite some time. You know what before we do that. A lot of melissa. Hey y'all again how much our listeners. A little bit about your sales why you do why you do it..

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Congress Ready To Finish Passing COVID Relief Bill

Steve Sanchez

00:26 sec | 9 months ago

Congress Ready To Finish Passing COVID Relief Bill

"Relief bill, the president Biden tomorrow it will put more vaccines and arms for more kids back safely, and school's rules Committee chairman Democrat Jim McGovern sista sweeping Bill is also an anti poverty plan. Top Budget Committee Republican Jason Smith calls it a bailout. Fox is Jared Halpern on Capitol Hill. A new study in the journal Nature shows the fighter by In Tech and Madonna. Vaccines are less effective against a Corona virus mutation first scene in

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