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Rep. Sharice Davids: The First LGBTQ Native American in Congress

LGBTQ&A

02:07 min | Last month

Rep. Sharice Davids: The First LGBTQ Native American in Congress

"So in your children's book called assurances big voice in right that when you think about winning your first election one of the things you think about is. How amazing is that you won but also that you even tried to win. Can you talk about that second part. The fact that you even tried to win why that's amazing to you. I feel like i have a life experience. That's not necessarily unique being raised by single parent working. While i was in school there are quite a few of my experiences that i feel safer just not uncommon experiences but they certainly at least growing out probably shaped what i imagined. I would be doing as an adult. Or what scope of opportunities or abilities were. It just didn't ever crossed my mind. That i might one day be running for congress. I mean you mentioned your education. I've a question about that. Actually you went to cornell for law school but before that you attended haskell indian nations university university of kansas johnson county community college and the university of missouri. Kansas city was trying to figure out like what you wanted to do. Was that financial. Like explain all those undergrads. It was a combination of all those things i think. Definitely some of it was financial. Johnson county community colleges one of the best community colleges in the country and says very fortunate to be living in the place. Where john's county community college at haskell indian nations university is in addition to the to the cost. It doesn't cost that much to go there but the experience of going to school with other native folks was very appealing to me and then some of it was that i just didn't know what i wanted to do. I feel like it was a combination of all of those things. I mean many part of your identity makes you stand out in congress. But i also have to assume that not. Many people have community college on their resume in congress. Yeah i think there's more now than there's ever been before. I remember talking to john hayes about it. I'm fairly certain that john hayes who you know before she came to congress was the teacher of the year at one point. I'm pretty sure that she went to community college as well

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Fresh update on "single parent" discussed on The Dan Proft Show

The Dan Proft Show

00:45 min | 18 hrs ago

Fresh update on "single parent" discussed on The Dan Proft Show

"The answer. Why does this guy say Blue? It's probably the same reason that the sun is shining doing all the best of us singing out. Shut it out. Here's a something if everything's the same, everything's away. That is, if everything to save and everything's away that it today. Everything stays say everything stays say My name is Dennis Prager. Now boring. My life is what I think about it yesterday. Same name my entire life. Same CIS gender identification My entire life. Same sexual orientation my entire life. Let Dennis be Dennis, can you think of a more boring life? I just have to come out of that. Okay? We have a lot of interesting calls. We have a lot of interesting subjects. Mhm. Masks on kids now mandating being mandated. I need to make my daily appeal to you Don't interested came to school. There is nothing good about most schools. Do you understand? It is it is a 90 10 damaging experience. Why would you do that? So the answer is you can't afford not to. Because both parents have to work, for example, or you're a single parent and you obviously can't stay home. I understand There are very serious considerations here. However, I want you to adopt the great Hebrew saying I was raised on Hebrew sayings. I need to write these up because they they influenced my life as much as the Bible. And that's a big deal because the Bible is number one. Was the Hebrew saying Very simple. I'll say it and Hebrew because it's just three words. Musial bat, uh, but to us, and you can understand. You heard this same worth twice. What is certain? Is certain. And there's another one. Won't Don't tell it to you in English. Between certain and maybe Certain is preferable. So here is this It is certain That the school will damage your child. Not certain how much But it is certain Either either socially. In this case or physically. Not breathing in fresh air. Or morally. In the case of most schools. So you have to figure out maybe maybe your parents can help. And and you afford home schooling, Which is not. I don't I don't know how expensive it is. But a lot of The middle class and even lower middle class people do it. My friends, my heart breaks for you. As parents. You should be able to send your kid to school. Enough thinking a minute about it. We are not living in that society anymore. These are the bad days wearing for there's a run Come feel the rush again at Busch Gardens. It's time for the excitement of electrifying events like summer nights, June 25th to July 29th stay late for.

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"single parent" Discussed on How To! With Charles Duhigg

How To! With Charles Duhigg

02:45 min | 2 months ago

"single parent" Discussed on How To! With Charles Duhigg

"A great match for me Realizing that she like lori shouldn't just settle for not great match in order to have a kid. That's an important lesson for stacey. But what about the impact of solo parenting on the child. Yeah What would it be like for that child to grow up with without a father At least in the foreseeable future. I talked to a lot of other single parents about their experiences. And the kids that i did talk to were really reassuring. Would they want a second parent almost unanimously. Yes but did they feel this. This empty nester this whole or this. Like i wish that you know my my mother had never done this. Not at all and so that was reassuring to me. I i also knew. Though that my child is going to have one parent as result of my desire. And i really struggled with that. So i think and i think that's one of the things to stacey about being a single parent. Is that every decision you make even if you have a village around you is ultimately yours and on the one hand that might seem like very liberating but on the other hand i think it's very paralyzing because there's so much faster to feel like you don't have somebody else to run that by and i want to say i'm i'm really glad that he made the decision i made. It was literally the best decision of my life but you have to go in eyes wide open. This brings us to our first thing to keep in mind. Acknowledged that solo parenting. It's inevitably going to be harder than dual parenting and not just because of the logistics. But you don't have another person to share responsibility for making decisions. No passing the buck. But if you want children. It shouldn't be a dealbreaker examples of wonderful solo parent families about. Don't worry about what other people think about your decision if you wanna have a biological child that's valid if you want to adopt that's valid. It doesn't matter. This is your life and your family so then the question for you is to really suit with how do i wanna become a parent.

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Singleness: Burden and Gift

Modern Anabaptist: The Conversations that Shape Us

35:47 min | 3 months ago

Singleness: Burden and Gift

"Join us today as we talk about singleness as well as what it means to be single and life in the church join us in having the conversations that shape us greetings tobin. Welcome to another conversation. Come listeners this amount of baptist. Podcast how you doing tobin. I'm doing good. How are you doing doing all right. It's been a tough week for for us. Say you recently lost a loved one in your family anthem. I'm mourning the loss of a friend. So you know different times during cova de wouldn't you say oh for sure. It's definitely a tough time to lose somebody during covid because you don't exactly get to see them funeral plans start looking different and there's a whole bunch of other different support. Networks are starting to look differently than they did before hand right. I was even thinking we talked about death last week. And then it kind of hits you personally so it's very interesting right. It's it's just part of our lives and when we don't think about it don't deal with it sometimes for caught unawares but yeah it's good to have to have that background and even as we are recording this we are almost at where death also plays a central role in the story and to defeat of death. Of course as well so yeah. It's very interesting. Yeah very much so. We had one of our recommendations to talk about singleness this week from a listener. Yeah it's quite the switch from death and there's quite a few ways we can take this conversation right so we'll kind of see how it unfolds. We'll see how the cookie crumbles but we could talk about singleness as an experience of individuals within the western culture right. We're probably talk about in our second half singleness as it relates to biblical values and and and culture and what the bible says there right and then we can also talk about a little bit in the beginning now about how singleness in psychology relate to one another. Yeah that's a good idea. Why don't you start us off with that Even as you're talking about it's interesting to even think about what is singleness right because singleness can be so many different things depending on how you define singleness and not being singled. So what do you think right. So single head is if we were to come up with something like a working definition here i would say. Single single hood is defined by not being in relation with another person. And i think the traditional idea of cygnus is in a romantic setting okay and you had some statistics on singleness in canada. As well which. I found fascinating i did and when i read these statistics. They're not exactly using the same definition. I am right and from what i understand. These are talking about single households so in canada. there there was an article in twenty nine thousand nine that wrote that compared to nineteen eighty six in two thousand sixteen. We had approximately double the amount of people who lived alone and so that means that we have about four million canadians across canada. Who who are single. Who who live alone and now with someone who provides that romantic so seventy percent of the four million have previously been in a relationship which would include widowed divorced or separated by any other means twenty percent of this four million are currently in a relationship with somebody but they just don't live in the same household right and then fifty percent of these individuals also have a child. Roughly speaking two million canadians live in a single parent or guardian household and are pulling triple or quadruple duty in order to support and care for the children or the dependence and simply don't have the same resources that we do with having an extra person there right fascinating. So when i asked you about the definition singleness you talked about not being in a meaningful relationship or romantic attachment to someone but then as you're giving us each statistics you already seeing a little bit of a clash with how you defined versus how perhaps canada or society defines it right because society defines this as just romantic attachment. I was just thinking about singleness before we even we even talk today and How we just assumed that you have to be part of a meaningful. You have to report a meaningful romantic relationship or attachment in order to not be single whether that's married or living with somebody or at least being boyfriend girlfriend whatever we wanna do whatever we want to call it but the experience of singleness goes beyond just that right. I mean The i was reading some articles about this author deborah hirsch. She's a christian author. She's a little bit out there because she talks about sexuality but she talks about homosexuality is not just a sexual expression within a sexual relationships ship between two bodies but that sexuality transcends also into every relationship we have because we we can't just separate parts of our being. We can't just say this part of me sexual in this. Part of me is relational. And this part of me is spiritual we are one hole and so it transcends. I heard a talk by her. And so she talked about what that means for single people and and celebrate people people who choose to be celebrate in that setting. And that doesn't mean that these people don't need community or meaningful relationships of attachment even if they're not romantic attachments over shirt and i like that idea of the embodied whole as you can't we can't segment like like you said sexual the the spiritual whatever that it all comes together as one person right that being said there are individuals out there who would find they can be in a non sexual relationship. That'd be classically to find a single but aren't troubled by that Right so you're looking at the asexual community where relationships with out that sexual component still fulfilling and meaningful right right and the flip side to that is you have people who have this meaningful community. Who who have lots of deep meaningful attachments to other people but are longing for would consider themselves being single and lonely and longing for a deeper expression for deeper romantic and sexual attachment to someone exactly while there are some that. Do not need that romantic or other person attachment to the same level. There's other people that crave and need it and desire so talk to me a little bit about what that means in terms of how how you live life and how you engage life as a single person. Well okay so growing up in canada as this as a single person who is wanting a relationship and can't find it what is what is that. Psychologically like and i would i have. I think i have a few friends who would fit this category and i just from conversations with them it's not a enjoyable experience Even in my own past bake as someone who from eighteen onwards wanted to have like girlfriends and wanted to be in those in in in relationships with other beings who felt that long. I've had a taste of how powerful that loneliness and that drive four relationship can be right and then there's a certain amount of feeling of rejection and isolation loneliness from not having that being fulfilled so as you're talking my question comes up. What's the. I am trying to word this but where maybe i'm using the wrong words but where does longing turned into obsession or or need so so what i mean by that is can you have that long. Can you desire something and still be content. With present circumstances. I mean that comes down to how you define contentment I would say that if contentment means you're all right with the circumstance. Then no because you still desire that relationship okay We talked quite a number of episodes back about the dark night of the soul right about longing for something how You desire of reality of presence to be with in in my circumstance was to be with god and how reality circumvents that there then becomes a conflict between what is felt. And what is known. That being said you've already touched on this with the obsession component right but then there is also that danger of it becoming an obsession of turning that pain right into something negative such as is found in some communities such as the involuntary salvator the in self community online right and then what you find in those communities is that a lot of this pain and turmoil gets turned outwards against other communities where they start blaming other people and other things for their own loneliness and rejection and in doing so their reactions become a negative coping mechanism an unhealthy behavior to try and alleviate the discomfort or rationalize it so then that goes back to my original question so because because my worry is that that we're kind of setting up a binary in the sense that i want to be in a more committed relationship of one sort or another. Let's call it romantic for for better for lack of a better word. So i want to be under romantic relationship. I'm either in the stage of wanting that and the more i wanted to do the closer i get to it being an obsession in my life or i get it and then i'm fine but there is no room to to to live a. Is there no room then to live a life. That says hey i would really desire this but i will also be content. Happy with where i am right now and and live into that to the fullest. And that's that's tricky because we don't have a lot of social narratives that kind of give us that framework to experience singleness in a healthy way. So if i were to break that down a little bit when we watch movies in rome these romantic movies and stuff. It gives us a lot of even you even say it's either healthier unhealthy. That's not me to judge right now but it still gives you those narratives to kind of go and say oh. This is what it's like to be in relationship. This is how i can experience relationship and and dating and being with another person. We don't have movies about what it's like to be alone at least not popularly right right or if they are they're fairly depressing right. There fairly depressing. It's all about not being in that relationship and own. Maybe i'll get into that relationship. There's the whole trope in the late. Two thousands of the manic pixie dream girl where it's all about these writers hollywood writers that use women and relationships to give men character growth in arcs in the movie right so it's all about being relationship pure like it's not about the expression of singleness as healthy in itself. It's about relationship as fixing your problems so that not then create problematic relationships as well. In the sense that i'm finding all my fulfillment than in that relationship once. I do find a relationship where i where i haven't grown as a person or don't have enough emotional intelligence to be content with the person that i am because the person that i was always looking for someone else to to complete me exactly. It creates problems both in relationships expectations for relationships and for people who also want to enter relationships. Right and even individually it creates a learning process or provides an opportunity for a healthy learning environment. Where you start to empathize with your partner where you can put yourself. In their shoes and learn that your flaws also have to be negotiated with their flaws and that there's a balancing act and interpersonal dynamics. Come in and i mean that turns even so now. We're talking about dating but that that that's the same thing with with friendships as well right. If you're i can see a scenario. I've seen lots of scenarios where where you're not content. You're not necessarily content with who you are and so you're you're expecting a lot of out of that friendship relationship for your happiness for your contentment even for your self esteem for the way you Assess your own value that kind of stuff And that can even come out in familiar. Familial relationships as well right where you depend. It's about on another to define who you are and to give you that esteem right and so i mean maybe we're getting off track but that's kind of what singleness conversations are in the sense. Is that the healthiest relationships in our lives are are where we have Some sort of independence isn't it. Yeah yeah independence crates freedom. Authenticity for who you are. In relation to the overall relationship that being said we also live in a society that needs us to be in relationship so to further expand on this point there is there has been studies. I was just scrolling passively I love read it i. I'm on it all day while just pathway scrolling on read it and they were talking about how people live longer when they're in hell in healthy relationships. Oh interesting and lots of articles in the medical community about how people who come in with their partners rent have better treatment results and partly to have somebody to talk to and somebody else to gather information. Yeah whatever the reason is another person there right even just as a tax bonus is is beneficial. So we have. We live in a society that set up for couples and yet the dangerous. become too codependent. And while there's this whole codependence piece talked about but then how as a single person do you live right right so if your approach this as as a single person you see the i live in a society that needs couples that needs you know somebody to stay home and clean the house or look after the kids while somebody else needs to go work. How do i be both people. Yeah or even attach detaches. I think in our society we attach maturity to to relationships as well right so a part of adulting is to be in a meaningful relationship. I always found that whole areas adulting if being an adult but somehow of verb but anyways You know like you are considered writes so you are considered to be a more mature adults in comparison to other people your age if you're in a meaningful relationship and on top of that if you do certain things if you have a certain job if you have a house and if you have kids right over sure i even feel that in school like what. I'm twenty five now. But because i'm married all of a sudden that puts me in a whole nother brand right of society all of a sudden i'm more mature i'm responsible and i'm sure if i had kids out even put me in another bracket above 'cause now i'm looking after little right little little children but as as we're talking i'm just wondering if we wouldn't have a healthier society if we we would learn what it looks like to live healthily in singleness for a time of our lives even just a how we talk about singleness it would be helpful for the individuals who are signal Because we are seeing a rise in people who live alone or who aren't conventionally married or unconventionally being with somebody else and just to harry healthier narratives for them to us and to understand themselves and even understand ourselves with. Kate will greatly benefit us as a community as a as a broad social community as christians and canadian. A do well. Let's transition a bit into the bible here. where So where have if. I'm a single person. And i wanted and i'm and i'm just lonely as all can be. Have you found that. Most people find their strength. I think were most people go in terms of the bible. At least we can talk about how we talk about church. How about single isn't church. And how we treat single people insertion. That's a separate thing from how the bible talks about singleness. I mean jewish culture. Very much thought that you had be married that that's just you know that that's the purpose of your life is to be married if you're mad at your purposes to have a have a wife so that your wife can have children and and your family line keeps going and if you if you were a woman you know your goal was that for your family to find to find the man or family who would take you i mean as a patriarchal society is but there is no. I don't know if there's a real allowance The only time there is conversation is about widows right and how you treat widows and so in that sense. The old testament is much more progressive than the surrounding cultures of its time and makes allowance for widows and treats them well and in that sense even relationships are still political. Yeah in that. It's not about so much being with somebody else. As it is a way to further your lineage as a way to get some gain right and not saying that there isn't a component. Alright love between why. Perhaps there is some counter cultural stories even embedded within the old testament to see the story of of ruth and her mother-in-law. Ruth naomi. i mean ruth's story restoring does end in marriage but it's very much naomi who makes it happen and they owe me you know. She kind of becomes a mother kind of surrogate mother to son that ruth bears. I mean that's how the story ends in the bible. Were supposed to see that image. Even though she's not married so it's a fairly counter cultural story there is rahab the prostitute who becomes part of israel. There's the story of tamar who forces kind of what we would call a constitutional crisis. It's not a constitutional crisis but it's a crisis of the law for for for one for for one of the for one of the men that was supposed to marry her. Her father in law's supposed to marry her according to the law because her husband has passed away but he refuses and so eventually she she forces her way into this. There's the story of astor who who kind of becomes part of this abusive kings. Well she's the she becomes the queen to disabuse of king and rescue the people of israel. I think all of those are somewhat counter cultural in the sense that that they're describing to us non normative relationships within that paradigm but also some of these women become not all of them that i mentioned but some of them are part of the story of jesus right so matthew mentions for women in the genealogy of jesus and even though clearly there had to be men for those four women to have borne children has not the men that are identified. It's the women that are identified. And so it already kind of focuses more on the person under relationship that that they were in jesus himself never married according to the gospels. All of a sudden you have these single people doing things right. i mean we. We don't we don't know of mary. Martha lazarus or married. We never find out. They are just people right. The assumption probably is that they would be. But but even when lazarus dies. we don't hear about his wife morning right. We we hear about his sisters. Mary magdalene she married. We don't know right. I mean you go down the list of all these characters and somehow we don't often find out about their familial relationships and isn't there a passage in there somewhere about how it it in summary. It's like get married if you want to. But you know your your relationship with the lord is i and you gotta serve that primary. I corinthians that where it is. I post writing. Yeah i mean. Paul paul is also single. There's a hint there. in first. Corinthians read the passage wrongly sometimes. But there's a hint there. In first corinthians step maybe at one point paul was married and he considers himself a widower. I've never heard preached in church but there is a hint there because he's talking to the widows and widowers and he's co counseling them to stay single and he says be as i am so he identifies himself with them. He doesn't leader. He talks to to what he calls the virgins which would be the single people who are potentially also engaged to be married which is different than the widows widowers and so there he doesn't say as i am because he's not. He doesn't see himself like that. He sees himself like a widower. So but in that passage. Basically what paul is saying. Yeah Marriage is a good thing and if you want to be married be married and if you don't wanna be married you have a gift to bring to the conversation as well and the way the we paul seasons in that conversation is gift that single people bring is is an attachment to church and into the work of god. I mean this comes out of paul of paul paul's idea anyways is that jesus coming back soon. You know. And so he saying why. Why waste your time getting married. We have so much stuff to do. Let's go get working and proclaiming. Jesus christ but that's the gift that single people that that's the gift that he sees himself bringing to the church as well right. I'm single so i can go and serve god and i can go and proclaim and so So he very much kind of trying to tell people. Stay in whatever situation you are. Don't get divorced if you're married. Stay married and have sex. He literally. I mean literally what he says. Don't don't all of a sudden now because you think that you're that you're christian. Stop having sex. If you're in a marriage you know. There's no you're not holier if you're in a celebrate marriage with somebody then if you're in a sexual relationship with somebody and so That's kind of his frame of mind right and so what. I take that passage. Don't i think what we should take a passage is that there's legitimate calling and gift to singleness within our congregations and we haven't really acknowledged that ever or very rarely and as as you're talking here. This is reminding me of a story that. I read quite quite a quite a few years ago when i was taking a family and marriage class. I believe that was the course. I was in for this. Where was talking about An evangelical preacher who was off doing missionary work off off in the boonies somewhere and then his daughter right was or his family was having trouble and distress and their daughter. I think even commit suicide over his lack of involvement. Yeah this is a story that i read in a book called sweet surrender by dennis hiebert and the question raised is what becomes more important family or missionary work right well. My critique on this was that he shouldn't this this preacher guys should not have even gotten married in the first place if he couldn't have committed to the relationship as a whole right right. And you know. I i mean before we talk. Today i went and reread some of this stuff. And i corinthians seven and you you can go and read yourself there paul saying that. If you're married you are committing to that relationship and you need to give it a significant amount of energy. That is your calling by god within marriage so you you know the the the calling that god puts on you cannot supersede that calling that god has put on you for that marriage. Because you're asked to be in this relationship of mutual self giving love so you have to kind of buy into that but if you don't need to be in a relationship like that then you can give some of that energy to the work at hand or two one way to one way to to translate it. There has to present necessities. Paul says And so that's that's how paul would put would address it. I don't think paul would understand. I don't think. Paul understand our fascination with saying hey To be to be a good human. I need to be part of a relationship. I need to be in a marriage any to have kids. And then i'm going to dedicate all my energy to my work or to my church. You know for pastors or or to this and ev- this relationship that i've committed to is going to take second place to another relationship i've inserted into it and then using jesus own words to kind of To support that is weird. I don't think paul would ever do that exactly. And i think we put this pressure on missionary work that It becomes the one and only calling for a christian to be part of god's works in the world. Yeah and what. Paul is trying to say i think is hey. If you're single now you can do mission or missionary work. You're not attached to the work of your marriage covenant relationship so why not not stay the way you are. He's trying to tell these people in corinthians why not stay the way you are and do missions work. If that's what you feel like god is calling you to see in our mind. We have turned completely around. We often how we are. We have such distrust of single people especially single men that we say. Hey no-no before you can do ministry worker before you can do missionary work and this is very much agenda conversation because it's not the other way around. We don't distress single women we asked him. and then. So that's an noticing this even as we speak right here. I've been hesitant to talk about this call. That paul has and says. Hey you're single and you can work for the church because to me. It sounds abusive. Make single women do often. We send them out to be missionaries. We asked him to serve. You don't have children. you can do this right. We don't do the same thing for single men or very scared of single men and if want men to do any kind of ministry. We want men to be married and have children because that safety as so. That's that's even the gender dwayne which we approach singleness right. And i think you're in a very unique position at thirty to even speak about that because of your work now with Generation rising coming up and with your older work at in out of town or you did that sort of abroad. Work right where you've seen students and individuals who either as a couple or who are dating or who are single going off and doing this work in in in africa or or wherever you sent them thinking of even thinking about who hires churches in terms of pastors right. It's okay for youth pastor. It's okay for a youth pastor to be single sometimes right because they're young Oftentimes if men right they're young. That's alright we prefer a single woman or a married woman to our children's ministry because they're just more approachable to children. Once you're past you get into a more. An associate pastor position or a lead pastor position. We really want that pastor to be married whether they're a woman or a man we really would like them to be in a committed relationship because that to us is the highest ideal. The highest value within the congregation. Right i mean. I don't think i've been to a church where we've had a single lead pastor. I have. I have not attended a church like that anyways. No i'm trying to think. I don't think i've ever had lead pastor as a single person. i've had associate pastors. Who were then in a divorce relationship or in a separate relationship right and that could be a whole nother podcasts. But yeah yeah. And i can't speak to their experiences. No no but within at least within the evangelical world that i've grown up in yet it's marriage seems to be this high ideal and so any time we talk about singleness and we talk about singleness even as a calling or as an opportunity We tend to think in our minds we tend to think about singleness calling opportunity for women not so much for men and we also tend to not put enough support around single people So we're tend to not give them the same community and while we say. Hey we value your singleness and if that's what god calls you to. Do we want to embrace that and you you can. You have something to give to us. We still want to celebrate mother's day and church and get frustrated when we celebrate we. Don't we still want to celebrate. Father stay in church and get frustrated when we don't and I can just. I mean i make a point of saying something to that effect every mothers and fathers day and i can just hear the roles you know i know the is aren't actually rolling but i can just hear that there's that pressure on you with the congress within the congregations like there there goes rafael again. Trying to be all politically correct not politically correct. It's an acknowledgment that our humanity is not just defined by our roles as fathers and mothers in within that attached relationship And committed relationship of of of marriage. I mean are not the only vision for for humanity not even in the bible. You know i mean. Let's talk about men. That aren't that that we wouldn't consider being fully men. I mean there's daniel and his three friends there most likely unix. Because that's what would happen in the bible. Once they were once they were taken as prisoners in palace. We have a whole book stories that we love to tell our kids about daniel right and we talk about the end times. We love to go to daniel and talk about you know that kind of stuff. There's there's a whole church in ethiopia that today still claims and traces their lineage. Back to a conversation with an ethiopian eunuch on-road from jerusalem Who's who has converted and baptized than an the ep ethiopian. Church still says. That's where we come from because he goes back right but somehow we've said that the highest ideal value is marriage is is being committed marriage with two children and suburban suburban right. Right right. I mean even within our culture. We do not have father's day and mother's day and a far saying on mother's day or a single people's they right we just don't either and so i would say for maybe the if we were to sum everything up that there's a really deep call. Or there's a really deep spirituality to being single and that there is special and it's needed and it's not any worse of a calling that being said we also need to adjust start cultural narratives and what we say in how we talk. And how he fee with people that needs to shift so that they can also feel that calling especially this has been another episode of the modern anna baptist. Please join the conversation by emailing us. At conversations that shape us gmail.com or joining us on twitter at modern anna baptist. Either way we'd love to hear from you and grow with you and continue to have fantastic conversations.

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Guy Fieri Helps Raise $25 Million for Restaurant Workers in Need

Radio From Hell

00:51 sec | 3 months ago

Guy Fieri Helps Raise $25 Million for Restaurant Workers in Need

"Now he is Restaurant Employees Relief fund. Fund has raised almost $25 million to help out restaurant workers who may be struggling because of Corona virus. More than 43,000 workers were approved for $500 grants to the relief fund. Many saying that they would use the grants for living expenses. Vieri told CBS You know so many people work in the restaurant industry and multiple jobs. Second job. Single moms, single parents, students, retirees and the restaurant industry is Massively important to our communities when I saw this coming, I said We've got to do something to get some money to these folks. And so he's been doing all kinds of fundraisers and putting in some of his own money to Make sure that we can all get back to flavor town. You know,

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"single parent" Discussed on Focus On the Family Daily Broadcast

Focus On the Family Daily Broadcast

04:30 min | 4 months ago

"single parent" Discussed on Focus On the Family Daily Broadcast

"Gene nigh You know we balance each other. I i think we complete each other. Which is what the scripture says. And one of us tends to be a little more lenient. The other one a little more strict and together. I think we get to a good place design which is design and then he you know in the in the single payer situation. You don't have that person that partner that can be the the opposite. And how do you manage that. If you're the lenient type of parent or if you're the too strict parents right and neither one will work at the single parent family. I tell people. And i don't know why we don't think of this more in our world today but replicate jesus in every discipline situation replicate. Jesus you know. Jesus didn't scream at his disciples. He didn't pow when they didn't do something he wanted him to do. He was empathetic so many times single parents. They don't have empathy for their child. They're so frustrated on what they're going through. They forget the empathy for the child. So jesus was empathetic loving tender. He was kind. He touched people and he pulled a little child on his lap. One time you know. My son was fifth grade. When it real when i don oh my gosh. I haven't hugged that kid. And i don't even remember when because he was a growing boy and i was so busy all the time i take my daughter and i start hugging my son because he needed those eggs from me and my daughter needed those touches so if you just start touching their elbow and then their shoulder that replicate genesis in your single-parent life. You can't fail if you replicate. Jesus you mentioned the step back. Parenting approach that sounds. I like that. That's kind of like get the big picture and better understand. Things are at but what is. Step back panic. Well and i do workshops on setback parenting. And that means you stop you literally take a physical step back is that slows. Your mind down. That helps you to think through the situation. It's so easy to start yelling. You did what your teachers and what you need to step back and think about it. My children learned really fast when they asked me a question when they told me something had happened that i was going to step back and think about it a little while and so step back. Parenting is important one. I was doing this at a conference on. One guy goes really because what my son did. Last night i'd be stepping back to the next block. I was like well. That's what we don't want you stepping forward but we're joining our conversation today with linda. Ranson jacobs and she's got this great book the single parent and we do recommend you pick up a copy for additional help and encouragement as she's offered thus far in our conversation today on focus on the family and the link is in the episode notes or call eight.

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"single parent" Discussed on Focus On the Family Daily Broadcast

Focus On the Family Daily Broadcast

04:13 min | 4 months ago

"single parent" Discussed on Focus On the Family Daily Broadcast

"I got on my knees. And i said oh god donald julie get pregnant and she's fifteen and don't let brian get into drugs. Who are prayers. They're not bad. But if i had stayed on that line of praying in fear my children would have failed. And so i had to really start studying god's word and finding out how how to raise these sean. I want my children to be successful. I didn't want them to be a statistic. And i knew for my child care. I knew all the statistics. I want that for my kids. I love your emphasis on humor. That was something my mom had. And i could see it in. You just said ability to get through. Tough days i mean where else are you gonna go. You're either going to go into despair or you're gonna laugh and say okay. You had a particular issue with a baseball bat which i also loved. What was the story with the bat. And how did you laugh about a baseball bat. My kids love telling this story..

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"single parent" Discussed on Focus On the Family Daily Broadcast

Focus On the Family Daily Broadcast

02:08 min | 4 months ago

"single parent" Discussed on Focus On the Family Daily Broadcast

"You can talk to god and you can hear him back. He speaks through. He speaks to the bible his sixth through pastures. And he speaks to you. And your heart and you just talk to god and so going down the years ten years later. He's a senior in high school. And i said brian you know i'm kinda worried about you. Running around with I forget the name. We called him the book he had. We changed all the names. Sit with your special friend. And he said mom. Ten years ago. When i was in second grade you said talked to god. And he wouldn't answer me and i went to bed that night and i said god i need a friend. I need a male friend. I went to school the next day and my friends showed up in class that day. And i have been friends with him for ten years and i will not desert him in his time in need. Wow i had to be a proud mom when that happened so proud and let me let me Hit that topic you touched on it a moment ago. But all the statistics that can be heavy for that single parent mom or that single parent dad where the children in a single parent household have more difficulty succeeding You know they don't graduate high school at the same rate as a two parent family. They don't go to college at the same rate as a two parent family etc. But those are predictive things. I come from a single parent household. My mom who wonderful. Even though i only had her till i was nine years old and then i even lived with. My dad is a single parent dad. A couple years later after foster care and some other stops but In that context though statistics again predictive but not necessarily accurate. That's not going to happen to everybody. It just makes your difficulties A little greater and those speed bumps a little bigger but it's not impossible especially for god. He is the father to the father..

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"single parent" Discussed on Focus On the Family Daily Broadcast

Focus On the Family Daily Broadcast

04:35 min | 4 months ago

"single parent" Discussed on Focus On the Family Daily Broadcast

"Host is focused president and author. Jim daly and i'm john fuller. John is christians. We know that god is always with us but the enemy loves to try to convince us that we are completely alone and that is his goal especially think that's one of satan's biggest tactics against single parents. He knows that if he can convince the single data single mom that no one sees them or cares about them then he can keep that single parent discouraged and depressed pretty constantly If that describes how you're feeling today. I wanna remind you of what god says in isaiah forty one ten fear not for i am with you. Do not be dismayed for. I am your god..

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"single parent" Discussed on Thinking Like A Genius Podcast

Thinking Like A Genius Podcast

05:40 min | 5 months ago

"single parent" Discussed on Thinking Like A Genius Podcast

"It doesn't tie. Your personal drive is a dozen a framework of references in decisions and potentially even your personality and your long term goals. It might be something Scholten go but it's not going to be a long term benefit volvo for anybody That's why don't come motivation. And somebody said to me. I was doing toke lost. Jia somebody said oh you motivational speaker. And i said far from it and then i said well i i like to speak consulting so now helping people in a tap into that potential on. What's stopping them from reaching that. And the what. I preferred to years his inspiration. Because as you just alluded to that the having someone motivate you. I don't want someone to motivate me to get mine my ass out of bed in the moment. I want to have a reason to get out of bed. That's gonna dream that is you. That's gonna come from here. What's he what what. What is your desire. Go off to something what you want rather than somebody else wants you to be motivated in a what funds that and and you wonder why there's so much apathy around the because people trained by fearing organizations i see all the time just look linked in about the language that people use and this sort of stuff with his companies and organizations from leadership down. It's that the doing things to motivate people rather than inspire people. The people that inspire people with inside doesn't matter how smaller team network organization is if people live in spite. You're gonna get better results in. It's as simple as that. And if pe- in spot why spend your life in a in a place that you don't feel the values you you're exchanging your life what time and money it doesn't make any sense and so find out. What is the room driver inside you. Why you get. If he's got to make money to pay you're a single parent and you wanna make money to supply a kid..

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Explaining the Income Cap for Stimulus Checks in New COVID-19 Relief Bill

WABE 90.1 FM Programming

02:51 min | 5 months ago

Explaining the Income Cap for Stimulus Checks in New COVID-19 Relief Bill

"Because of this pandemic, we got this message from Ma on Facebook, who says, I read that by changing the eligibility requirement and the cut offs for stimulus checks. 17 million families will lose access to these payments. Is this true? If so, how did Democrats justify it? When many campaigned on vote for us and you get $2000? Take Leah explain a little bit more about about the cut offs here and who loses access to these payments as a result. Yeah, it is true, But there's a lot of Democrats who didn't who didn't want that income cap to be reduced, But this was one of the compromises. It had to be made to get some of these moderate Democrats on board to ensure passage of this bill, especially in the Senate. So how it was originally proposed, is if you made $199,000 well, let me just start back with the first bill where the first direct stimulus checks If you made $199,000 or less. If you were a couple, you would receive a few $100 in a direct stimulus check because it would start to phase down after $150,000 for a couple Um, in the House version of this latest bill that passed they faced the phase out was actually more quick done more quickly than it was in the first covert bill. So if you made $200,000 you would get $0.199,000 $0. Now with the senator's did is they phase that out? Much quicker, Andy, if you make $160,000 for a couple $80,000 as an individual $112,000 if you are a head of household That is when the cap cuts off. So these higher income people will not receive a stimulus check if you did last time. So if you make $161,000 as a couple Excuse me, 100. Yes, $161,000 is a couple You will not get your stimulus check, even though last time you did get a stimulus check, And that was just the compromise that had to be made to make sure that all 50 Senate Democrats were on board and would pass this legislation. I want to circle back to something. We got this tweet from Jennifer, who says, been discussing the stimulus payments? No one ever mentions that could offer those filing head of household. This Fallon is what a lot of single parents use, including myself, LeeAnn to say one more time. What that cut off is for people filing head of household. That cut off his 112,000. And I believe $500 s O that is head of household. So remember these stimulus checks also include dependence is well, it's $1400. Not only for the parents or how to head of household or the single adult but also for chill dependence, Children as well. But it is $112,000 for head of

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Biden, Senate Democrats agree to limit eligibility for $1,400 checks

Press Play with Madeleine Brand

00:56 sec | 5 months ago

Biden, Senate Democrats agree to limit eligibility for $1,400 checks

"Senate Democrats have reached an agreement with the White House to tighten eligibility requirements to receive the next round of stimulus checks. NPR's Kelsey Snow reports, moderate Democrats demanded that the payments be more closely targeted on the basis of income. Senate Democrats plan to maintain a maximum payment of $1400 per eligible person. The new agreement would allow people earning up to $75,000 and couples earning up to $150,000 per year to receive the full benefit. Payments would be reduced for people earning more and would be eliminated entirely for individuals are in over $80,000 and couples earning over $160,000. Those top income limits are much lower than they were under the House passed plan. Critics, including some House Democrats, who represent cities with a high cost of living, say the new limits penalize their constituents, particularly single parents, who have to earn more to support families. Healthy smell. NPR NEWS

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Fewer Americans might get a $1,400 stimulus check

The Takeaway

00:54 sec | 5 months ago

Fewer Americans might get a $1,400 stimulus check

"Senate Democrats have reached an agreement with the White House to tighten eligibility requirements to receive the next round of stimulus checks. NPR's Kelsey Snow reports, moderate Democrats demanded that the payments be more closely targeted on the basis of income. Senate Democrats plan to maintain a maximum payment of $1400 per eligible person. The new agreement would allow people earning up to $75,000 and couples earning up to $150,000 per year to receive the full benefit. Payments would be reduced for people earning more and would be eliminated entirely. For individuals earning over $80,000 and couples earning over $160,000. Those top income limits are much lower than they were under the House passed plan. Critics, including some House Democrats, who represent cities with a high cost of living, say the new limits penalize their constituents, particularly single parents, who have to earn more to support

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S6 E5 - How do I maximize my VA disability benefits? - burst 1

Courage to Fight Again

34:04 min | 5 months ago

S6 E5 - How do I maximize my VA disability benefits? - burst 1

"Hey just a quick before we get things kicked off here. I do want to let you know that. There is some strong language throughout this episode so listener discretion is advised. If there's five step process but there's indefinite general over overarching rules that she must consider but it is very procedural. It's they're not looking at compeer in the wall and analyzing while i'm analyzing the case law even the references to it. They're not opening pay. Everyone welcome to season six episode. Five of we served now. What it on this podcast. I do my very best to answer the questions. That veterans and their families are all ready asking my name is aaron perkins on the host of this show and the founder of courage to fight again an hour parent organization. I'm also the author of resolve. Which is a step by. Step guide for q the veteran to help you rediscover purpose meaning and passion and your post military life. Today's topic when the show is via a disability. What you need to do to submit it and not just what to do with. How do it bright outta appeal it. Should you appeal that well. That work all those things and more in today's show. I had a chance to sit down with a couple of really great guys who have done their homework on this. They do this kind of thing. Every single day. Greg colton and will simmons and we set down and chat or mojos that hour and a half i had to cut out unfortunately a lot of that conversation but the week to that full interview can click on the link in the show notes. And that'll take you to a form review request access to that whole uncut interview. And you could watch that in its entirety video interviewed. Please please take advantage of that. But for now i'm going to get out of the way. Make this intro as short and sweet as possible and let you hear the part of the show. The part of our conversation that i was able to stick into this episode here fleas. Enjoy my conversation with greg. Colton and wilson's check it out. Well i am here today with two honestly powerhouses in this field talking about increasing eight disability benefits. I'm here with gregg golden easy. Us navy veteran. This guy has twenty five twenty five years of sea level experience in financial technology compliance security investigation. All these things he's worked with numerous law firms used his own experience with the va to build something really cool. And i know he's gonna wanna talk about that more on this show but it's very good to have you on the show today greg. I'm also here with will simmons. He's a us army veteran former va founder. And managing attorney at simmons law. And i gotta tell you. I could not have asked for a more knowledgeable. Duo to answer veterans questions about va a disability benefits. So i want to just say to both you guys. Welcome to we serve now. What oh thank you very much Very happy to be here with you. you know my own experience of five years in the navy and thinking i came out and was was everything was great. You know always young. And i was happy in that aitken painted matter a whole lot. You know then. I got my late forties and early fifties and realized yeah does kind of hurt a little. Bit so yeah. I'm happy to be here with you and Look forward to the conversation. Will everybody will simmons Absolutely happy to talk to you today. About incentive Something near and dear to my heart. china passion play for me Having gone from ten percent disabled the a lump sum of less than eight hundred bucks and a holy shit. Now what am i gonna digress. My life to one hundred percent permanent total my law degree and my mba so There are programs out there to better your life and puts you in a position to dramatically. Change your life for the better and happy to talk about that too. That awesome awesome. Well let's start our conversation today guys with the transition out of the military. Maybe greg we can start with you. Tell me a bit more about your own transition story what you did right what you wish. You would have known things like that sure. Well you know when. I got out of those one clive in the military. I went through paramedic school in my last year in the military. So i was busy guy for you know. Fourteen sixteen months in the last days in the military. I was also going to civilian paramedic school. So i didn't sleep in as i got out. I worked as a paramedic and did fine. And then i realized that really didn't make a whole heck of a lot of money for all of the responsibilities that i had and that i wanted to do more but i wasn't quite sure how to do. And if i if. I known then what i know now. I would have in fact on to law school however i was a single parent of a two year old and a five year old and i did that for more than fifteen years and i can assure you that. There's nothing fun about going full time college and also trying to get You know to be a good parent and to provide the income necessary and i had that entrepreneurial spirit and i wanted to grow in in and have a big business that that was bringing the wealth i wanted and building it from my retirement and it just There wasn't a lot of of a maps out there. Do this do this do this do this. And through twenty five years of experience. I figured it out and and we've done well and i'm in. I'm thrilled with my past. The navy taught me so much about responsibility and accountability and and those are certainly tenants to be an entrepreneur. No question about it but there was no road map. There was no getting out of the military. Didn't here's your step plans being successful on your own It was it was really hard. So i'm glad to be your health. Talk about that in the journey Will tell us about you and your journey. It was definitely a different Yeah absolutely so i was. How do i even begin this When i joined the military. I joined in forty days. Forty five days before nine. Eleven and I was an architecture student at the time. Indiana national guard kind of do a my weekend. Warriors thing and In after nine. Eleven i i just couldn't physically sit there and design buildings that we're gonna be used to blow people and caused devastation. I wanted to change that. And so i went active duty and went to school and in sadly my entire time in the military was was spent in school one school to the next and in one of those schools. I got banged up. Injured prior to going getting acceptance to west point from enlisted to the academy so i went to west point for two years while i was there. Got my injury that i sustained during active duty. The kid exacerbated to the point that i could no longer sir and unceremoniously. I went home with a ten percent disability. Seven seven hundred eighty bucks or something like that. Night came from west point to sit on my parents. Couch i legitimately want to move. I didn't even know your podcast existed until last week but eyesight. Now what what the heck am i gonna do the rest of my life. I had zero idea. I went from the premier leadership institute in the world to not knowing. I didn't know what the heck did so I decided that applied at schools Just just keep the ball moving and Quickly went to indiana university. Got into the business. School in really just fell in love with entrepreneurship and i let that passion takeover You know my healing process from you. Know both physical and emotional fiercely all of it. I needed to mend myself after coming out of the military. And it's a hell of a won't talk to make that work but Anyway yeah i mean. The transition was man. I don i even describe the transition with it was so unbelievably difficult. It shouldn't need to in needed to be a conversation with a counselor commonality military that said you know. What do you want. do the rest of your life. This is the direction you go and go. Do it can i. It was a lot of soul searching to find. It ought to be honest. But now i've been imagined doing anything else. Couldn't imagine sitting my day any other way when i do and holy shit i get paid for it. I mean oh my god. That's the best. The best thing in the world i completely agree with you will on on that. Come out and you're just in this hot this this song in this hayes in your you have so little direction and even if you had a career counselor to try to talk to you. I don't know if it's just you don't know what you're doing in life because you're so mean you don't stand different concepts yet but man you're just lost wandering out there in and Yeah i grabbed me by accident eck and smack me up a little bit. I do right by sagar i absolutely. I think if there's one thing that i absolutely did right was i I jumped head head on into school and education and building might tool set. Because i wasn't relying solely on the things that i learned in the military to to be jumping off point. I realized i had a heck of a lot of catching up to do. And and that's where the education started for me And obviously i didn't quit. And in fact i found a way to make sure that i didn't have to pay for which was really you know that was. The true transition story was okay. Hang on a second Your bettering yourself. And you're getting somebody else. Pay the bill. This this is something should write a book about Because a lot of that cedeno that hidden. I mean that was one of my biggest struggles was coming out and being twenty five seven a two year old and a five year old that i was literally racing by myself and i was taking eighteen credit hours Getting my degree in biochemistry with minor in english lit. And i you know eighteen credit hours trying to take care to five hundred worked at the same time you know you can get loans and all the rest of it but if you don't have a good nation in what's possible. I had no idea. I was eligible for vote. Rehab you know. When i went i had gi bill and believe it or not. The college never applied the gi bill. I paid for everything out of my own. And even though i was eligible for the gi. Bill is all the time it's really sad is what it comes down to that. We have the capability had had. I recognized what was was there army. And i recognize these benefits. Were there than i could have slowed down and cast in my kids. Now's a roof over their head and not had trying to kill myself to get through it in a short period of time And it would have changed the trajectory of my life. I you know. I watched medical school. Go out the door. Because i couldn't do an internship and be a single parent and i couldn't do medical school and be a single parent. Too young kids had. I had those benefits and recognized that they were available to me. I could have done more. I could've figure things out that's not bad. I mean i. I love where i'm at today but it could have been so much easier. Had i known about all the benefits that are out there. Not just disability. But is as you're talking about. Well the both rehab and the gi bill and things don't get taken advantage of profitable now. I was just gonna say we. We actually just talked about that. I think it was in the last episode about gi bill and how you can leverage it with the Volk rehab well. Vr program now but Leverage that you know those two you know really great benefits to you get further education. Everything i know when i got out You know. I'm sitting in the end of the transition not unit but are transitioning out processing briefings. Right and they're telling us about the va. I knew zero about the. Va except that veterans. Go to the. Va that's really all. I knew about it and they and they told us like. Hey go to the hospital like on post go hospital get your medical records and take him upstairs. Because i had a v. Va office fort hood. They had a. Va office up. Like start for a said okay. Cool and so. I took them and they said okay. Cool we got your medical records like okay to me. It was just another task. I had. I literally had no idea that i was submitting my va. Disability claim audios. Like somebody told me to give you these. I guess this is how i get officially into the va and become a veteran so to speak at someone like your most crucial claim and there you are getting pushed by the system through their said that you're not on purpose fan. That was done on purpose for years and years. And call me a conspiracy theorist or whatever but the truth of the matter is this is mon mon Insurance company pan out benefits and they've got an minimize this as much as far as sharing and you know the the the the hard part was to that by the time i did my first what do you call that first. Compensation exam with the with the doctor or the nurse practitioner. Whatever she was I'm still in tough guy mode. I'm still like yeah. Her s- i'm good. I can you know. I'm sure i can just suck it up for a little while. I didn't realize it's supposed to go there and just be blatantly. Honest like holy crap. This hurts this hurts. This hurts and i can't do this anymore. And i just went. I was like no. This is fine. Do you have anything no. i'm fine. no i'm good. I had no. I d like there was no. There's no plan there's no. There's no one at that point in the transition to to really tell me. Hey this is what you should be doing. This is the level of scrutiny. That they're going to look at your. Va claim with and this is the level of of intensity you need to put to it when you submit it so we can talk about that a little bit like what. What was your guys. Experience with The va disability claims program. I i know with mine drag. Mom i was cormon and i and i was I was one of the supervisors of the ambulance service in and they will. Hospital orlando in the training center training center there and when i sat down out processing with personnel. I still to this day. Remember sitting down at that gray metal desk. And here's somebody that's not much older than me on the other side of the desk in. They're typing out my dvd fourteen. And they're asking me different questions on a checklist and you know how many problems not have any problems you know. Got both of my legs. I got both my arms You know i can hear you talking fine which goes exactly to the point. You're making aaron. And i don't think it was bravado on my side is much as not understanding to transition process and the purpose of the questions being asked as they apply to me in my future not to mention. Let's let's young. Were coming from the military where it's shut the hell up in suck it up. Well it's not only that pervasiveness in the military will absolutely but there's a pervasiveness in the medical side on top of that of we don't go to call unless we are on death's doorstep i had owns and you know i'm i'm urinating blood. I went to the er. I was terrified. I didn't know anything about kidney. Stones about point. I tell you when you look down. Ten o'clock at night and the toilet bowl is you're ready to go to bed. You see bright red blood. You're going to the er right now when they didn't ask me about that as i al processed. I didn't recognize that. The jimmy stones that my kidneys continued to put out than started in the military. Were something that should have been taking care of for in evaluating before on the disability side. And so you know as as a cormon. My knees hurt my back. Hurt dr a are you know my gird. hey dot. Can you write me. Something for this. Ensures tagamet for this there was never any documentation. It was me and my buddy. The doctor who wrote something if i wanted it or b who went to the cabinet and opened up and took out the a hundred older motrin. It took it myself just like i told my fellow shipmates to do or the. You know the marine corps guys that i worked with to do so i mean there was a pervasiveness medicine on top of. What will we say about. The pervasiveness of we have a missions. Do the military. Our mission is to get the dadgum job done. Every single time is not to be standing in sakala. Whine about how this hurts. Don't it well. i'm sorry. I didn't mean now. You know. i think it's for me. I was you know i dealt with something that i deal with. Almost every with almost every veteran client that deal with. It's it's it's a pervasive problem. That every better needs to know you're going to be under compensated for some of your disabilities and you're gonna be overcompensated for some disabilities and when you're coming out of service and you get med boarded for something you know for me. I was hellbent on getting my chest fix chest and backs back rated properly in even though chefs in particular the maximum benefit. I could ever get no matter how hard i tried and no matter what i did was ten percent no matter what so yourself the net absolutely ruined my military career. That is only gonna ever pay me ten percent. I'm sitting. you're banging my head against the wall for at least five years fighting that fight when there was literally nothing i could do. I had to learn the system the right way you gotta do end arounds and connect everything possible to this in order to make sure that your stated appropriately for the actual shit that you're dealing against off that took years to figure out when you don't have somebody holding your hand through the through the that's really true. I mean in my case. I knew the was there that can provides healthcare benefits. But i had a job. I had healthcare benefits. I didn't mean to be a and i correctly and incorrectly depending on how you look at it. I wanted that benefit to be more available my fellow brethren who actually needed it and couldn't make it private healthcare good private healthcare because the. Va does a as much as they get. Beaten up in the news over. they do. Try very hard. You've healthcare Chewed the veterans other. They can't do better but it's not because they're trying to do that. And so i wanted that that benefit of healthcare to be availed more available. My brother and i never looked into. It wasn't until we want to buy a house and property. You're in texas the realtor said. So what's your your disability rating. And which i giggled including talking about and she goes well with your own. You won't have a fun in fee in taxes. You will either of your property taxes reduced or abated completely if you have disability and i said i don't have any disability. I have both my legs and lower. Did she said idiot. I've known you long time. And i know your kidney stone started in service. I know you're back. Problems started from when you were. Emc girl medic in the military in the military. How can you not have this ability rating. And i wasn't out looking for the money. I was making okay money so i never went searching for those benefits and you know that makes that much more difficult woken. Tell you when you're now twenty. Five years ho service. And the g jared processes are really starting to kick in that began in the military to then through this this connection. It would be much easier on him and i if we get the veteran. Who's diagnosed in service with my backers a bit. You know. I have a strain. I have whatever that turns into severe Disabling degenerative disk disease or herniation in those sorts of things. It'd be so much easier if those that are ins new on the way out. I need a copy of my medical records. I need diagnosis in the military. I need imaging. Studies are is cat. Scans whatever to show this. Something started in the military. Because we can tie that together much more easily absolutely and i think with the be. Dd program the benefits Direct delivery program that the provides This new system. I'm helping quite a bit of Servicemembers transition out of the military the contact meteorology and they want help going through their initial claim. You know it's something that You know you can't charge for it's a you know it's a. It's a pro bono thing but the end of the day were taken bets. Soldiers vets who are transitioning out on their first you know their initial claim walking out of the room with a ninety percent. Walk on service. Now we're sitting here fighting on. You know that most important ten percent on the backside to get you to the hundred percent but we're a heck of a lot closer than that thirty percent of the twenty percent that you're getting when you're walking out of there like a hero like you and i are all of us did back at our generation you know there's various services connection is an art. It is not a science. It is an art all day long you. There are ways to stack disabilities on top of each other to maximize your coins. And if you do not know what you are doing you are doing it wrong here. What it takes strength or something. We said to will as a process that that is like everything else that all veterans doing the military. There's a procedure. Here's your procedure. One five and the average veteran doesn't understand it is a legal process. There are statutes. The congress is there are regulations that implement those statues that the va is put out is a legal process and it involves medicine so it's a combination of the legal side in the medical side and the average joe out there doesn't understand the law at that level and doesn't understand medicine at that level to connect all of this stuff together both legally and medically right and so let's dive into the details a little bit of that initial. Va disparity claim you know. Will you talk about it. Being an art and greg you talked about it being a legal proceeding. Is there even a three step. Five step nine step seventeen step process. That veterans can look at and say. Okay here's what i need to do. And here's how. I need to submit that claim. I don't know if there's a five step process but there's definite general over overarching rules that you must consider and And i think most important if i could say This is your kids Number one takeaway take notes Holy shit do. Not shotgun approach your. Va clays do not claim. Every single fingernail do not claim every single to- fungus. It's not gonna get you paid number one and number two. It's going to paint you in a corner so bad no attorney can get you out of just because you have dirty your file. You're talking about non attorneys who are adjudicating legal cases. These people do not practice law. They are practicing what they feel in. Our job is to show what disability looks like as plainly as possible so that we can either capitalize on that person's Motive to assist the veteran or To somehow paint over bad in a file because you absolutely are are leaving a trail of tears when you are claiming a shotgun approach to your to your veterans claims Number step is only claimed things that you are legally entitled to claim so it's going to require a little bit of research on your part to know what you're entitled to but that's that's my claim to everybody number one only clean things that you're entitled Because once you start claiming things that you're not entitled to the most important thing that you can not lose that you just gave away is your a benefit of the doubt that fifty percent and when it's as least as likely as not it's you're full of shit and you're claiming everything under the sun You just lost your fifty percent when it comes to the thing that's going to get you hundred percent. Yeah i think all take off on that in a little bit of of education. The vast majority of raiders as will can tell you are veterans. They want to help their fellow veterans. That's why they get that job. However the vast majority are not attorneys and just like we were talking about procedures few minutes ago. That's what they do. They have a manual called the young twenty one one and it is a procedure manual. They claim they step through the procedures. Won- jews hyperlink year like there for five six hyperlink there is. I wish it was. It's not to say there isn't some feeling in it. I mean there there is they are the trier of fact they get to be the arbitrator in adjudicate the claim but they do get that interpretation on their side in trying to decide. What's right and what's wrong is disconnected is not but it is very procedural. It's they're not looking at line compeer in the law analyzing walleye analyzing the case law even the references to it. They're not opening. No they are now providing a claim. You know it's transitioning to the other point. He made a providing claims that are not shotgun that you're entitled to. What does that mean rethinks. You have a current diagnosis. You have continuity of your condition meaning you. didn't you know. Get a bruise in boot camp. In your thirty years later. Trying to to say i have a problem. You have to be able to document the progression so he is a little bit different than degenerative disk disease that you may have had back pain and service but it didn't really degenerate until a certain point but then it kept getting worse and worse document how it kept getting worse and worse documented in a law whether it's a blood pressure log a headache log of that in law document the continuity of that condition and the third component of that is the next service. How did that. How did service relate to your claim. It didn't have to 'cause it. You could had a car accident while you were stationed florida. That caused an injury service. Puts you in florida. Therefore that disability the you weren't combat got shot and you got that disability but it's still considered service connected because the military had you stationed there so it's not causation. Its relation to. But if you don't have continuity veterans lose every time is you know. Oh i had this. Bigger hangnail. And i had this. This shotgun approach. Yes but that's not a chronic condition. It's a one time edition. Thank you so much will and greg and has been so great heavy on the show. This has been absolutely amazing. we will share some next steps with our audience in the show notes as we don't have time to cover today but this has been so so great guys. I cannot wait to publish this here in just a few days once we get through the very long process. Now because we've been on here for almost an hour and a half. Oh man what get through this very low process of you know post producing this but This has been really great. I know i've learned a lot. No doubt our listeners have learned a lot. Thank you guys so much for coming on the show really really enjoyed having you absolutely are i would not try and in a motor selves doll. But there's more information both in blogs articles that are on our websites on the im l. a. r. dot com their blogs articles about all his unstuffy also webinars that the media von normal basis. That has a lot of money on and join this martin. I'm ask questions where you're to help end. Try and elton's many veterans hand and your minds and you'll get them guys. Make yourselves better absolutely. I wish i wish. I got a website to promote them in the middle of fixing it right now so Sadly i've got a lotta latin or the we're working on that Were growing like crazy. This last year and a half. It's been unbelievable in worth To do a little self promotion where we're entirely. We're all veteran. were were all disabled vets. For all young where he's All worked on the inside. Su know how all the systems work so there we'd and accurately communicate with the that's how we run a different off practice than everybody else who's We what these guys who they're fighting against and there's a alive easier way that i hope you've enjoyed this segment of the interview. Now to listen to the full interview click on the lincoln the show notes fill out that form and we will email that link directly to you again until next time. Thanks for listening. We served now. What is a production of courage to fight again.

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S6 E5 - How do I maximize my VA disability benefits? - burst 1

"Hey just a quick before we get things kicked off here. I do want to let you know that. There is some strong language throughout this episode so listener discretion is advised. If there's five step process but there's indefinite general over overarching rules that she must consider but it is very procedural. It's they're not looking at compeer in the wall and analyzing while i'm analyzing the case law even the references to it. They're not opening pay. Everyone welcome to season six episode. Five of we served now. What it on this podcast. I do my very best to answer the questions. That veterans and their families are all ready asking my name is aaron perkins on the host of this show and the founder of courage to fight again an hour parent organization. I'm also the author of resolve. Which is a step by. Step guide for q the veteran to help you rediscover purpose meaning and passion and your post military life. Today's topic when the show is via a disability. What you need to do to submit it and not just what to do with. How do it bright outta appeal it. Should you appeal that well. That work all those things and more in today's show. I had a chance to sit down with a couple of really great guys who have done their homework on this. They do this kind of thing. Every single day. Greg colton and will simmons and we set down and chat or mojos that hour and a half i had to cut out unfortunately a lot of that conversation but the week to that full interview can click on the link in the show notes. And that'll take you to a form review request access to that whole uncut interview. And you could watch that in its entirety video interviewed. Please please take advantage of that. But for now i'm going to get out of the way. Make this intro as short and sweet as possible and let you hear the part of the show. The part of our conversation that i was able to stick into this episode here fleas. Enjoy my conversation with greg. Colton and wilson's check it out. Well i am here today with two honestly powerhouses in this field talking about increasing eight disability benefits. I'm here with gregg golden easy. Us navy veteran. This guy has twenty five twenty five years of sea level experience in financial technology compliance security investigation. All these things he's worked with numerous law firms used his own experience with the va to build something really cool. And i know he's gonna wanna talk about that more on this show but it's very good to have you on the show today greg. I'm also here with will simmons. He's a us army veteran former va founder. And managing attorney at simmons law. And i gotta tell you. I could not have asked for a more knowledgeable. Duo to answer veterans questions about va a disability benefits. So i want to just say to both you guys. Welcome to we serve now. What oh thank you very much Very happy to be here with you. you know my own experience of five years in the navy and thinking i came out and was was everything was great. You know always young. And i was happy in that aitken painted matter a whole lot. You know then. I got my late forties and early fifties and realized yeah does kind of hurt a little. Bit so yeah. I'm happy to be here with you and Look forward to the conversation. Will everybody will simmons Absolutely happy to talk to you today. About incentive Something near and dear to my heart. china passion play for me Having gone from ten percent disabled the a lump sum of less than eight hundred bucks and a holy shit. Now what am i gonna digress. My life to one hundred percent permanent total my law degree and my mba so There are programs out there to better your life and puts you in a position to dramatically. Change your life for the better and happy to talk about that too. That awesome awesome. Well let's start our conversation today guys with the transition out of the military. Maybe greg we can start with you. Tell me a bit more about your own transition story what you did right what you wish. You would have known things like that sure. Well you know when. I got out of those one clive in the military. I went through paramedic school in my last year in the military. So i was busy guy for you know. Fourteen sixteen months in the last days in the military. I was also going to civilian paramedic school. So i didn't sleep in as i got out. I worked as a paramedic and did fine. And then i realized that really didn't make a whole heck of a lot of money for all of the responsibilities that i had and that i wanted to do more but i wasn't quite sure how to do. And if i if. I known then what i know now. I would have in fact on to law school however i was a single parent of a two year old and a five year old and i did that for more than fifteen years and i can assure you that. There's nothing fun about going full time college and also trying to get You know to be a good parent and to provide the income necessary and i had that entrepreneurial spirit and i wanted to grow in in and have a big business that that was bringing the wealth i wanted and building it from my retirement and it just There wasn't a lot of of a maps out there. Do this do this do this do this. And through twenty five years of experience. I figured it out and and we've done well and i'm in. I'm thrilled with my past. The navy taught me so much about responsibility and accountability and and those are certainly tenants to be an entrepreneur. No question about it but there was no road map. There was no getting out of the military. Didn't here's your step plans being successful on your own It was it was really hard. So i'm glad to be your health. Talk about that in the journey Will tell us about you and your journey. It was definitely a different Yeah absolutely so i was. How do i even begin this When i joined the military. I joined in forty days. Forty five days before nine. Eleven and I was an architecture student at the time. Indiana national guard kind of do a my weekend. Warriors thing and In after nine. Eleven i i just couldn't physically sit there and design buildings that we're gonna be used to blow people and caused devastation. I wanted to change that. And so i went active duty and went to school and in sadly my entire time in the military was was spent in school one school to the next and in one of those schools. I got banged up. Injured prior to going getting acceptance to west point from enlisted to the academy so i went to west point for two years while i was there. Got my injury that i sustained during active duty. The kid exacerbated to the point that i could no longer sir and unceremoniously. I went home with a ten percent disability. Seven seven hundred eighty bucks or something like that. Night came from west point to sit on my parents. Couch i legitimately want to move. I didn't even know your podcast existed until last week but eyesight. Now what what the heck am i gonna do the rest of my life. I had zero idea. I went from the premier leadership institute in the world to not knowing. I didn't know what the heck did so I decided that applied at schools Just just keep the ball moving and Quickly went to indiana university. Got into the business. School in really just fell in love with entrepreneurship and i let that passion takeover You know my healing process from you. Know both physical and emotional fiercely all of it. I needed to mend myself after coming out of the military. And it's a hell of a won't talk to make that work but Anyway yeah i mean. The transition was man. I don i even describe the transition with it was so unbelievably difficult. It shouldn't need to in needed to be a conversation with a counselor commonality military that said you know. What do you want. do the rest of your life. This is the direction you go and go. Do it can i. It was a lot of soul searching to find. It ought to be honest. But now i've been imagined doing anything else. Couldn't imagine sitting my day any other way when i do and holy shit i get paid for it. I mean oh my god. That's the best. The best thing in the world i completely agree with you will on on that. Come out and you're just in this hot this this song in this hayes in your you have so little direction and even if you had a career counselor to try to talk to you. I don't know if it's just you don't know what you're doing in life because you're so mean you don't stand different concepts yet but man you're just lost wandering out there in and Yeah i grabbed me by accident eck and smack me up a little bit. I do right by sagar i absolutely. I think if there's one thing that i absolutely did right was i I jumped head head on into school and education and building might tool set. Because i wasn't relying solely on the things that i learned in the military to to be jumping off point. I realized i had a heck of a lot of catching up to do. And and that's where the education started for me And obviously i didn't quit. And in fact i found a way to make sure that i didn't have to pay for which was really you know that was. The true transition story was okay. Hang on a second Your bettering yourself. And you're getting somebody else. Pay the bill. This this is something should write a book about Because a lot of that cedeno that hidden. I mean that was one of my biggest struggles was coming out and being twenty five seven a two year old and a five year old that i was literally racing by myself and i was taking eighteen credit hours Getting my degree in biochemistry with minor in english lit. And i you know eighteen credit hours trying to take care to five hundred worked at the same time you know you can get loans and all the rest of it but if you don't have a good nation in what's possible. I had no idea. I was eligible for vote. Rehab you know. When i went i had gi bill and believe it or not. The college never applied the gi bill. I paid for everything out of my own. And even though i was eligible for the gi. Bill is all the time it's really sad is what it comes down to that. We have the capability had had. I recognized what was was there army. And i recognize these benefits. Were there than i could have slowed down and cast in my kids. Now's a roof over their head and not had trying to kill myself to get through it in a short period of time And it would have changed the trajectory of my life. I you know. I watched medical school. Go out the door. Because i couldn't do an internship and be a single parent and i couldn't do medical school and be a single parent. Too young kids had. I had those benefits and recognized that they were available to me. I could have done more. I could've figure things out that's not bad. I mean i. I love where i'm at today but it could have been so much easier. Had i known about all the benefits that are out there. Not just disability. But is as you're talking about. Well the both rehab and the gi bill and things don't get taken advantage of profitable now. I was just gonna say we. We actually just talked about that. I think it was in the last episode about gi bill and how you can leverage it with the Volk rehab well. Vr program now but Leverage that you know those two you know really great benefits to you get further education. Everything i know when i got out You know. I'm sitting in the end of the transition not unit but are transitioning out processing briefings. Right and they're telling us about the va. I knew zero about the. Va except that veterans. Go to the. Va that's really all. I knew about it and they and they told us like. Hey go to the hospital like on post go hospital get your medical records and take him upstairs. Because i had a v. Va office fort hood. They had a. Va office up. Like start for a said okay. Cool and so. I took them and they said okay. Cool we got your medical records like okay to me. It was just another task. I had. I literally had no idea that i was submitting my va. Disability claim audios. Like somebody told me to give you these. I guess this is how i get officially into the va and become a veteran so to speak at someone like your most crucial claim and there you are getting pushed by the system through their said that you're not on purpose fan. That was done on purpose for years and years. And call me a conspiracy theorist or whatever but the truth of the matter is this is mon mon Insurance company pan out benefits and they've got an minimize this as much as far as sharing and you know the the the the hard part was to that by the time i did my first what do you call that first. Compensation exam with the with the doctor or the nurse practitioner. Whatever she was I'm still in tough guy mode. I'm still like yeah. Her s- i'm good. I can you know. I'm sure i can just suck it up for a little while. I didn't realize it's supposed to go there and just be blatantly. Honest like holy crap. This hurts this hurts. This hurts and i can't do this anymore. And i just went. I was like no. This is fine. Do you have anything no. i'm fine. no i'm good. I had no. I d like there was no. There's no plan there's no. There's no one at that point in the transition to to really tell me. Hey this is what you should be doing. This is the level of scrutiny. That they're going to look at your. Va claim with and this is the level of of intensity you need to put to it when you submit it so we can talk about that a little bit like what. What was your guys. Experience with The va disability claims program. I i know with mine drag. Mom i was cormon and i and i was I was one of the supervisors of the ambulance service in and they will. Hospital orlando in the training center training center there and when i sat down out processing with personnel. I still to this day. Remember sitting down at that gray metal desk. And here's somebody that's not much older than me on the other side of the desk in. They're typing out my dvd fourteen. And they're asking me different questions on a checklist and you know how many problems not have any problems you know. Got both of my legs. I got both my arms You know i can hear you talking fine which goes exactly to the point. You're making aaron. And i don't think it was bravado on my side is much as not understanding to transition process and the purpose of the questions being asked as they apply to me in my future not to mention. Let's let's young. Were coming from the military where it's shut the hell up in suck it up. Well it's not only that pervasiveness in the military will absolutely but there's a pervasiveness in the medical side on top of that of we don't go to call unless we are on death's doorstep i had owns and you know i'm i'm urinating blood. I went to the er. I was terrified. I didn't know anything about kidney. Stones about point. I tell you when you look down. Ten o'clock at night and the toilet bowl is you're ready to go to bed. You see bright red blood. You're going to the er right now when they didn't ask me about that as i al processed. I didn't recognize that. The jimmy stones that my kidneys continued to put out than started in the military. Were something that should have been taking care of for in evaluating before on the disability side. And so you know as as a cormon. My knees hurt my back. Hurt dr a are you know my gird. hey dot. Can you write me. Something for this. Ensures tagamet for this there was never any documentation. It was me and my buddy. The doctor who wrote something if i wanted it or b who went to the cabinet and opened up and took out the a hundred older motrin. It took it myself just like i told my fellow shipmates to do or the. You know the marine corps guys that i worked with to do so i mean there was a pervasiveness medicine on top of. What will we say about. The pervasiveness of we have a missions. Do the military. Our mission is to get the dadgum job done. Every single time is not to be standing in sakala. Whine about how this hurts. Don't it well. i'm sorry. I didn't mean now. You know. i think it's for me. I was you know i dealt with something that i deal with. Almost every with almost every veteran client that deal with. It's it's it's a pervasive problem. That every better needs to know you're going to be under compensated for some of your disabilities and you're gonna be overcompensated for some disabilities and when you're coming out of service and you get med boarded for something you know for me. I was hellbent on getting my chest fix chest and backs back rated properly in even though chefs in particular the maximum benefit. I could ever get no matter how hard i tried and no matter what i did was ten percent no matter what so yourself the net absolutely ruined my military career. That is only gonna ever pay me ten percent. I'm sitting. you're banging my head against the wall for at least five years fighting that fight when there was literally nothing i could do. I had to learn the system the right way you gotta do end arounds and connect everything possible to this in order to make sure that your stated appropriately for the actual shit that you're dealing against off that took years to figure out when you don't have somebody holding your hand through the through the that's really true. I mean in my case. I knew the was there that can provides healthcare benefits. But i had a job. I had healthcare benefits. I didn't mean to be a and i correctly and incorrectly depending on how you look at it. I wanted that benefit to be more available my fellow brethren who actually needed it and couldn't make it private healthcare good private healthcare because the. Va does a as much as they get. Beaten up in the news over. they do. Try very hard. You've healthcare Chewed the veterans other. They can't do better but it's not because they're trying to do that. And so i wanted that that benefit of healthcare to be availed more available. My brother and i never looked into. It wasn't until we want to buy a house and property. You're in texas the realtor said. So what's your your disability rating. And which i giggled including talking about and she goes well with your own. You won't have a fun in fee in taxes. You will either of your property taxes reduced or abated completely if you have disability and i said i don't have any disability. I have both my legs and lower. Did she said idiot. I've known you long time. And i know your kidney stone started in service. I know you're back. Problems started from when you were. Emc girl medic in the military in the military. How can you not have this ability rating. And i wasn't out looking for the money. I was making okay money so i never went searching for those benefits and you know that makes that much more difficult woken. Tell you when you're now twenty. Five years ho service. And the g jared processes are really starting to kick in that began in the military to then through this this connection. It would be much easier on him and i if we get the veteran. Who's diagnosed in service with my backers a bit. You know. I have a strain. I have whatever that turns into severe Disabling degenerative disk disease or herniation in those sorts of things. It'd be so much easier if those that are ins new on the way out. I need a copy of my medical records. I need diagnosis in the military. I need imaging. Studies are is cat. Scans whatever to show this. Something started in the military. Because we can tie that together much more easily absolutely and i think with the be. Dd program the benefits Direct delivery program that the provides This new system. I'm helping quite a bit of Servicemembers transition out of the military the contact meteorology and they want help going through their initial claim. You know it's something that You know you can't charge for it's a you know it's a. It's a pro bono thing but the end of the day were taken bets. Soldiers vets who are transitioning out on their first you know their initial claim walking out of the room with a ninety percent. Walk on service. Now we're sitting here fighting on. You know that most important ten percent on the backside to get you to the hundred percent but we're a heck of a lot closer than that thirty percent of the twenty percent that you're getting when you're walking out of there like a hero like you and i are all of us did back at our generation you know there's various services connection is an art. It is not a science. It is an art all day long you. There are ways to stack disabilities on top of each other to maximize your coins. And if you do not know what you are doing you are doing it wrong here. What it takes strength or something. We said to will as a process that that is like everything else that all veterans doing the military. There's a procedure. Here's your procedure. One five and the average veteran doesn't understand it is a legal process. There are statutes. The congress is there are regulations that implement those statues that the va is put out is a legal process and it involves medicine so it's a combination of the legal side in the medical side and the average joe out there doesn't understand the law at that level and doesn't understand medicine at that level to connect all of this stuff together both legally and medically right and so let's dive into the details a little bit of that initial. Va disparity claim you know. Will you talk about it. Being an art and greg you talked about it being a legal proceeding. Is there even a three step. Five step nine step seventeen step process. That veterans can look at and say. Okay here's what i need to do. And here's how. I need to submit that claim. I don't know if there's a five step process but there's definite general over overarching rules that you must consider and And i think most important if i could say This is your kids Number one takeaway take notes Holy shit do. Not shotgun approach your. Va clays do not claim. Every single fingernail do not claim every single to- fungus. It's not gonna get you paid number one and number two. It's going to paint you in a corner so bad no attorney can get you out of just because you have dirty your file. You're talking about non attorneys who are adjudicating legal cases. These people do not practice law. They are practicing what they feel in. Our job is to show what disability looks like as plainly as possible so that we can either capitalize on that person's Motive to assist the veteran or To somehow paint over bad in a file because you absolutely are are leaving a trail of tears when you are claiming a shotgun approach to your to your veterans claims Number step is only claimed things that you are legally entitled to claim so it's going to require a little bit of research on your part to know what you're entitled to but that's that's my claim to everybody number one only clean things that you're entitled Because once you start claiming things that you're not entitled to the most important thing that you can not lose that you just gave away is your a benefit of the doubt that fifty percent and when it's as least as likely as not it's you're full of shit and you're claiming everything under the sun You just lost your fifty percent when it comes to the thing that's going to get you hundred percent. Yeah i think all take off on that in a little bit of of education. The vast majority of raiders as will can tell you are veterans. They want to help their fellow veterans. That's why they get that job. However the vast majority are not attorneys and just like we were talking about procedures few minutes ago. That's what they do. They have a manual called the young twenty one one and it is a procedure manual. They claim they step through the procedures. Won- jews hyperlink year like there for five six hyperlink there is. I wish it was. It's not to say there isn't some feeling in it. I mean there there is they are the trier of fact they get to be the arbitrator in adjudicate the claim but they do get that interpretation on their side in trying to decide. What's right and what's wrong is disconnected is not but it is very procedural. It's they're not looking at line compeer in the law analyzing walleye analyzing the case law even the references to it. They're not opening. No they are now providing a claim. You know it's transitioning to the other point. He made a providing claims that are not shotgun that you're entitled to. What does that mean rethinks. You have a current diagnosis. You have continuity of your condition meaning you. didn't you know. Get a bruise in boot camp. In your thirty years later. Trying to to say i have a problem. You have to be able to document the progression so he is a little bit different than degenerative disk disease that you may have had back pain and service but it didn't really degenerate until a certain point but then it kept getting worse and worse document how it kept getting worse and worse documented in a law whether it's a blood pressure log a headache log of that in law document the continuity of that condition and the third component of that is the next service. How did that. How did service relate to your claim. It didn't have to 'cause it. You could had a car accident while you were stationed florida. That caused an injury service. Puts you in florida. Therefore that disability the you weren't combat got shot and you got that disability but it's still considered service connected because the military had you stationed there so it's not causation. Its relation to. But if you don't have continuity veterans lose every time is you know. Oh i had this. Bigger hangnail. And i had this. This shotgun approach. Yes but that's not a chronic condition. It's a one time edition. Thank you so much will and greg and has been so great heavy on the show. This has been absolutely amazing. we will share some next steps with our audience in the show notes as we don't have time to cover today but this has been so so great guys. I cannot wait to publish this here in just a few days once we get through the very long process. Now because we've been on here for almost an hour and a half. Oh man what get through this very low process of you know post producing this but This has been really great. I know i've learned a lot. No doubt our listeners have learned a lot. Thank you guys so much for coming on the show really really enjoyed having you absolutely are i would not try and in a motor selves doll. But there's more information both in blogs articles that are on our websites on the im l. a. r. dot com their blogs articles about all his unstuffy also webinars that the media von normal basis. That has a lot of money on and join this martin. I'm ask questions where you're to help end. Try and elton's many veterans hand and your minds and you'll get them guys. Make yourselves better absolutely. I wish i wish. I got a website to promote them in the middle of fixing it right now so Sadly i've got a lotta latin or the we're working on that Were growing like crazy. This last year and a half. It's been unbelievable in worth To do a little self promotion where we're entirely. We're all veteran. were were all disabled vets. For all young where he's All worked on the inside. Su know how all the systems work so there we'd and accurately communicate with the that's how we run a different off practice than everybody else who's We what these guys who they're fighting against and there's a alive easier way that i hope you've enjoyed this segment of the interview. Now to listen to the full interview click on the lincoln the show notes fill out that form and we will email that link directly to you again until next time. Thanks for listening. We served now. What is a production of courage to fight again.

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How a Chicago Artist is Working to Help Musicians in Need

Chicago Tonight

04:04 min | 5 months ago

How a Chicago Artist is Working to Help Musicians in Need

"Chicago artist is working to make sure no musician is left behind with a community organization dedicated to black musicians in chicago arts correspondent angel edo shares how that mission has quickly expanded to serve anyone in need. It was god sent to me to be able to do something for some musicians. Can't play they can't say they can't appear in clubs. They know how their fields because of the that being able to sing for two years. I was homeless eight out of garbage cans and i just decided that because life music has been my life. I know how these musicians feeling something. It was on her birthday last october. One chicago artists the maxwell decided to create black musicians matters with help from community partners like guardian interest security company. The group delivers food on a weekly basis. They won't reach out because we have so much fried. So what i do is i just go and call and them. Do you need something. I need musicians chicago musicians to know. Please get in touch with us. We will come to you if you can't get out. We covered the west side. We went to melrose park. We went to ole part all year. We go to the hundreds with donations from go. Fund me the group is also able to provide monetary support for artists. Like bass guitar player. Joe pratt who was the band director at the east odyssey lounge before the pandemic hit a big box food i was given money and then came in handy at the time. I really really needed it. Because bills need to be paid musicians. Charles crane and burns have also support fema silvio in a. It was right on time. Take my word on it. And i love apples. They gave me a fresh apples. Yes is what's going on. It's been tremendously mason. Beef stew of the night and the organization primarily serves black artists but they worked to help anyone in need whether they be homeless older adults or even single parents. We had one girl was the name. Britney britney that's that's she had four kids and was homeless while chicago musician. Ronnie baker brooks has not received a he seen its impact. Firsthand is inspirational. And if you get so disgusted how can you be creative or is so negative all the time. That's all you're gonna talk about. That's all you're going to sing about so it's very important that we support each other inspire but it doesn't stop there. I didn't form this organization just for food. And just for money iphone his organization because i have a dream i have the vision. I want to put up a building in brownsville. That will house musicians if they get on bad. Look this is my dream there for chicago tonight. I'm angel ito and food. Pickup is now available every friday from ten. Am to one pm at the east odyssey lounge for anyone who needs it. There's more information on our

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BLM launches Survival Fund amid federal COVID-19 relief wait

AP News Radio

00:40 sec | 5 months ago

BLM launches Survival Fund amid federal COVID-19 relief wait

"The black lives matter global network foundation is offering help to people struggling financially the foundation says it plans to award up to three thousand micro grants of one thousand dollars each two people who it believes you need it the most the fund was launched earlier this month to help those having a hard time making ends meet during the corona virus pandemic so far at least three hundred grants have been approved fund officials say the first recipients have included the families of people killed by police or those who died while incarcerated those who identify as transgender single parents and individuals previously incarcerated I'm Mike help in

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interview With Mo O'Connell And Mary Tynan

The Plastic Podcasts

05:16 min | 6 months ago

interview With Mo O'Connell And Mary Tynan

"I'm doug danny and you're listening to the plastic podcasts tales of the irish diaspora way going in reverse order here today. The plastic podcasts. Not so much plastic as elastic with two women artists who returned to and from britain. Maureen o'connell or mo is an award-winning writer actor and director based in dublin. At her film spa weekend is currently garnering laurels at festivals around the globe. Meanwhile actor writer director. Mary tynan speaks to us from galway. She has founded notes from xanadu which she describes as probably the world's first online art center and hosts everything from music to talks to theater and stitch and bitch sessions. I'm in the middle of the curiously named storm kristoff when we talk so my first question is a wild and windswept how you doing doing great state all right I suppose for the benefit of both business. If you'd like to say hello with your names. And that way they can tell who's speaking turn or names maritime. And i'm doug just in case there was any confusion so but if we can go back to The the the first thing would be that you both left ireland in order to go to england and specifically london So if i can ask her festival. Mary you You you were born in england but raised in galway essentially. Yes s one in west london very west london he from apple and let while in essex's while and then moved to in front of us john and i basically went back on al twenties and spent most of my adult life. That north london westbound east london every avalanche from southeast asia whenever south river. What about you and wake up in in the for vici- back to dublin and went to radha in two thousand nine and and then detroit there. Federated is in twelve in the state of years in london turn years maybe and they came back to ireland in two thousand fifteen the end of twenty fifteen and then start doing research for a nine hundred sixty short film. I want to make twenty sixteen seventeen Rebellion so and then so you can across to be paul colson. Rawda first of all. Yes a mary. What brought you across the back across london. This dispose opportunities really I i came over at a time when i was just before the boom started. Not there wasn't really any any work here and I just i left london anyway. I'd always kind of wanted to live. Erin i'm in times of doing things like acting and stuff like that. I'm just i just general Opportunity i just like. I did really really love land. Always i just felt like it was as those targeted program is and at its best. A cities like a gigantic playground. And bam. what. I like about london. It was just you could wacko sorts of places. You could visit those places. You could gross the british museum. You could go sit by the river. Everything you could think of was that and Yeah i just thought it was. It was a better place on. Especially since i've mostly been single also. It's at a place for single parents live. But did you still have one foot in galway Well i had family goalie. Yeah i had like. I'm at my parents sam wealth. My mom died while ago but nutria times walked without minister and now that children is also i did have thought but miam- neither of my parents originally from goal i so i can go away the such. I wouldn't have had my cousins or anything like that. Yeah mobile humor. And this is the first three years three. Get note that well. Because i had so intense and we were told me off to work and stuff because it was intense. You'd be too tired. i kind of had to work. I worked in irish for in second year at help pay bills and things like this was a nice relief from radha as in is right Being this crazy irish far people killing each other like all the time. Just an honest is very funny. Irish pub and then go back and throughout the next scrapes that exploit rates contrast and but i. I don't want an acting that. Mary saying but i do think that difficult being an actor because you take a job that is at lopate so that you can remain free to audition if you get

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Caring for someone with a mental health condition

Steve Trevelise

07:42 min | 6 months ago

Caring for someone with a mental health condition

"Number of resource is are available for you or for those who need care. It is incredibly stressful. Dealing with a loved one spouse sibling apparent. A child who is dealing with A mental health issue. And while you deal with those issues Please don't forget to to preserve preserve your your own own mental mental health health and and for for our our clinicians, clinicians, and and and and you you know, know, I I before before we we talk talk a a little little bit bit about about self self care care I I want want to to talk talk about, about, you know the danger of caring for somebody who has Mental illness or is in a mental health crisis because that can impact your own mental health. And that also has to be preserved. Doctor stroll, do you You want to talk about that a little bit? Absolutely. We have the metaphor. We used that when we're on a plane, and if the air mass come down, they say, Put the air mask on yourself. If you're a parent, put it on yourself first, before you take care and put the air you know the mask on the Children who family members around you. And so it's ah, a good metaphor to use that the mass we're using now included But it it's just take care of yourself. It's very important that you're doing that self care and you are allowing yourself not to feel guilty or feel bad about that that we do have to create and carve time for ourselves. You're coping to care for the loved ones around us, especially if our loved ones are going through a mental health crisis right now that we want to advocate them for them. We want to support them. But you also have to make sure that we're helping her. Ourselves. Dr Jones. You know, that kind of goes back to what you were saying in our opening comments you know about the impact of the stress is not just on our loved ones, but but on us, too, is we're trying to care for them. You know, there are several coping strategies that we can use the five senses for if we're parents or care givers, working with someone or loving someone really Was coping with a mental illness. We can look at old pictures. We can read books. We can squeeze a stress ball. You can pet your animal a nan Immel or companion and stretch your muscles and one thing about stretching muscles. It's really very important to get good sleep. 7 to 9 hours a night is a really wonderful Sideline, and if we exercise for 10 to 20 minutes with stretching or yoga before we go to sleep, chances are we'll be able to sleep in a more sound way. We can smell fresh flowers. Oils, Campbell's perfume. We can listen to music. We can meditate. We can listen to nature sounds, we can find those on YouTube with no problem. And when we're looking at Movies or TV. You want to stay away from news that can be compounding when we talk about stress and maybe even a focus on some of the things that make us laugh. Because laughter can be healing actually, and with regard to tasting, we can eat. Minced or horrible teeth. All of these things may seem rather simple. But they're very practical ways to bring joy into our lives. And that's a good way of keeping balance when they're trying to care for someone who's in crisis, and Dr Tobias, you know for a parent, you know that that has a child that is is struggling. And certainly we've seen that happen with the With the remote learning, Um that's a pain like no other for a child for a parent to see a child suffer. Absolutely, because you know you're emotionally connected to your child. So you're going to empathize with them one of the things I would have to say that parents, you know we've talked about you know you take the health care. I agree completely. Seekers. When you're empathizing with someone, you're feeling their feelings, and so if you're kind of like taking on their emotions on top of your own difficulties. That's really going to put you over the edge, and you're not gonna be in a position to help anybody. Um, one of the things In addition to those other wonderful suggestions is for people, not toe neglects social connections, You know, Ironically, that's something that was difficult. That's what's causing our stresses that we're socially isolated from others because human beings are social animals were meant to be with other people. And so if you're handling We're trying to handle. You know a stress within your family. You can't do that alone. I really have a lot of empathy for single parents, um, and who are dealing with kids with mental health issues. And they need to reach out. You know you you you know, the expression takes a village to raise a child. Well, unfortunately, that's true. It does take a village to raise a child. You know, a family can't do this by themselves. So, you know, reach out Tonto. Their family members toe unison, the support groups that have been mentioned. Um But I really hope that no parent feels like the burden of caring for the child is on their shoulders alone because nobody can do this alone in parents need to reach out. For the support from others. Well, and as we saw talked about in the in the very beginning is you do not need to suffer alone it and you know, as As a parent who has dealt with some of these issues you know, with with a member of my family, you think when you're in the middle of it, that it's you're the only one that this has ever happened to that nobody could possibly relate, And there's a shame that there that's involved and there's you know there. But that is so not true. This is more common than I think people even believe. Right, And that's a great where where NAMI comes in the national alignments of mental in this like you mentioned, we have support groups for families, and what we like to say, my colleague says, is that self care is giving the best of you not what's left of you. And when we have our family support groups and you go into a room where you've actually see people come in and their tents and they're scared and like you, said, Eric, They think they're the only one there. The first person who has a loved one. Who's experiencing immense illness and you sit in a room or in this case, you sit online and you see the boxes on your screen and you hear people who know what you're talking about. Who felt what you felt. Who's seen what you've seen. You actually see people, their shoulders come down. They start to breathe and going to support groups and NAMI has three family support groups online a week. And three support groups for individuals who live with mental illness every single week. You know, you have to reach out and like you said, Eric, you're not alone. We say nominee Jersey that you are not alone. And at this time, it's particularly you may be socially distant. But that does not mean that you'd have to be emotionally distant or isolated. We have new ways of connecting and some of the amazing things. And opportunities we have through online is we have support groups now where someone from Bergen can be giving advice to someone from Cumberland. And that wouldn't have happened before this, So I really encourage people to understand that you were absolutely not alone. Especially now. You know, you might not be able to You know there's huggers and us here, miss Hugging, but you can reach out and a lot of different ways, including online and really looked for those support groups because there are people who know what you're going through and are ready to help you.

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Parenting in a Changing World!

The Parenting Burrito

07:28 min | 6 months ago

Parenting in a Changing World!

"Topic is a changing world and how to parent felt like with things going more virtual. It makes it a little bit harder to manage your sanity for one and to manage aligning because you never really realized that you needed that or your kids really needed that Until you're stuck at home and it's crazy to think that school has been out for almost an entire year. Which would mark an entire year for my kids school They have not gone back to in person learning whatsoever It's just hard. It's hard and i'm grateful that i'm able to work from home so that i can be home with. Cades did try the virtual learning higher percent on my own once. I was a full time at home worker. And you know everything was going good. And then my daughter Starting not paying attention and messing with her brothers. And then i'd get texts from her brother's teachers saying that she was messing with them during class. And then My oldest son would add constantly. Get messages for him. We were literally in the principles on the phone with the principal like every other week because he has off task and he wasn't turning Assignment and i get it. it's hard. it's a huge adjustment It's just hard. Because i'm a single parent in. I'm supposed to work time in order to provide for mayfield And the teachers want me essentially sit there with three different kids at three different times and it's just unrealistic and i know i'm not bashing teachers whatsoever because i think teachers are doing an amazing job with what they are given and i think they should keep up the good work and you know this is not how they invision teaching but i think they're doing great for what they can't be doing But back to the topic. So i had my eldest Started looking up inappropriate. Things lake Sex positions which you would think being a school it would be blocked any sex related topics But in fact it wasn't and my son's spent about ten minutes on a sex position website and yeah tell me why i had to have a sex talk with my son at eight years old and aren't care who you are way too young to be having that sex talk with your kids Full blown sex talk anyways. I think like saying the proper body parts and things like that Definitely help ease into it. But you really don't expect to have the full blown talk at especially at a young age After that incident. I just had a home school and decided that youtube was banned from my house But so after homeschooling. I realized like if i'm this stressed-out with how different the world is an. I barely know how to cope with it or barely know how to navigate through it I can't imagine how many kids are feeling. I can't imagine how they view the corona virus or this this current situation that they're in because i feel like is becoming crazier and crazier in a no and this can turn political really quickly And and that's not main tension because now garlands of your political party the world is getting out of hands. It's getting out of hand with this virus and being stuck at home and mike school. Public schools are so important just solely for the fact of being able to socialize for your kids to be able to learn social skills for kids to be able to make friends outside of their siblings outside of their family outside of their cousins. They need to have their own life so that they're able to be their own human beings anything when we're all stuck in one place you definitely start picking up characteristics of stronger personalities. Your family which most the time is me And then second would probably be my daughter. But i don't have the best habits and for my kids to be around me. Twenty four seven seven days a week. It's tough because they pick up all the good habits that have and also all the terrible ones and it's more so now that we're corentin together or have virtual school or working from home and things like that because kids really do pick up every little thing we do that. We say how we act how we do something. It's it's it's really crazy. You really start to see yourself especially being only parent You really start to see yourself with in your child with a mixture of their personality and sometimes that is not a good combo But without being said. I decided that i was going to sign up for Like a sport or something along those lines. You know to to help them be social and help them. Korean learn who they are. Because it's really hard to really be yourself because if you think about it we all have personalities or personas that we put on for different aspects of life like we all have a career persona that we put on and we all have a mom or pear persona. We have a daughter saw her. We just have different designers that we take on. And you know it's really hard to sometimes be yourself. Because i can't be one hundred percent myself when i'm around my kids because sometimes i'm not appropriate in you know and it's hard to play mom twenty four seven.

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Mijon Zulu is Building a Community - burst 4

Apocalypse...Now?

00:54 sec | 6 months ago

Mijon Zulu is Building a Community - burst 4

"You're such a big fan of drag race and you're really passionate about how it has changed the community do you feel like the. Lgbtq community is On the other side of an apocalypse in the midst of an apocalypse trying to go from a one phase of their history into another phase of history. I think that the in in in some ways the the lgbtq community is always in the middle of an apocalypse always trying to take us down and sometimes their agendas are more subtle than what they sometimes. They're the agendas are kind of a sneak attack. And i and i do. I do think that we kind of are getting into a place. Thankfully where you know at least in america Depending on where you live. We are kind of at the other side of an

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Mijon Zulu is Building a Community - burst 4

Apocalypse...Now?

00:54 sec | 6 months ago

Mijon Zulu is Building a Community - burst 4

"You're such a big fan of drag race and you're really passionate about how it has changed the community do you feel like the. Lgbtq community is On the other side of an apocalypse in the midst of an apocalypse trying to go from a one phase of their history into another phase of history. I think that the in in in some ways the the lgbtq community is always in the middle of an apocalypse always trying to take us down and sometimes their agendas are more subtle than what they sometimes. They're the agendas are kind of a sneak attack. And i and i do. I do think that we kind of are getting into a place. Thankfully where you know at least in america Depending on where you live. We are kind of at the other side of an

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Life insurance advice with Clark Howard

Clark Howard Show

02:47 min | 7 months ago

Life insurance advice with Clark Howard

"Right. Clark yolanda in north carolina says. I'm a forty one year old single parent. I'm looking at life insurance. But i'm not sure how to determine what i need. I've a two year old son have policy through my employer currently in a small policy that should cover funeral. Expenses checked a few companies. But i'm just not sure where to start on this. Okay wonderful the you're looking out for your kids and what i recommend as just a back of the envelope. Simple way to come up with an amount is that you buy a policy that covers ten times. Your annual income that will provide a decent pool of funds to provide for your children in the event of your untimely devise. so that may sound cost prohibitive. But it's not if you buy the right kind of life. Insurance which is known as a level term insurance level term is where you buy for a set amount a set amount of life insurance or face amount of you know how many hundreds of thousands of dollars or whatever it would be for a period of time. You're worried about protecting your children. Ten fifteen twenty thirty years. Whatever that period is on clark dot com. You'll see my guide to buying level term insurance and there are many quotation sites. You can go to to get quotes for many different insurance companies. Whether things. I want to focus your attention on. Is that particularly if you go out. More than fifteen years on level term. I want you to buy a policy from a company rated a double plus by a m best on any of the shopping services that i would direct you to they will show you the a. m. best rating. Which tells you how healthy the insurer is itself. So the eight double plus means they have the highest level of ability to pay claims in the future. Because you wouldn't wanna pay for life insurance policy that later isn't going to pay out for you. Level term insurance has no goofy Savings accounts are investment accounts. It only pays a death benefit to your survivors period. That's all it does in the case of buying policy where you're a single parent and you have minor children. That policy usually will be done in a trust kind of arrangement. Don't be intimidated by that. The online sellers are very familiar with this. And you will be able to have someone you trust. Named is the trustee of that in the event that you pass away while your children are still minors

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Parenting Without Help!

The Parenting Burrito

04:23 min | 7 months ago

Parenting Without Help!

"Today's topic is parenting. Without help i am a very independent person. I take i take. I'm just very independent. I'm very. I don't rely on people i don't ask for help. Don't do any of that type of stuff Which it's me really is not helpful and it gets me nowhere because not only is it taking away from my ability to properly parent or maybe properly is not the right word but two parent where it doesn't affect my world or my mood or my children. I guess what i'm trying to say is it's okay to ask for help Especially if you're single parent It's necessary to ask for help. And it has nothing to do with pride. It has nothing to do with you. Not being capable to be a good parent it's mostly for your sanity and part of your self care because when you're a single parents or parent who is a stay at home parent. You always put yourself last. So that means that you never have time for any of things that you like to do or things that excite you So it's important to ask for help so that you can have that time until you can learn to become who you were will maybe not become who you were before kids but learn who you are as a human being learn that you're more than just the title of being a mother. Learn the best way to put. It is kind of like Those german stackable dolls. You know so like the bigger portion is a mom. And then you open it up. And what's your other identity. Maybe sister or a wife or daughter. I dunno and you keep going down until you get to the little tiny doll and that little tiny doll is your true self and not is who you are as a human being. It's your soul centrally. It's and we tend to hide that tend to keep that person locked up in the in the basement and throw away the key. Because were this or that. It's not allowed. And no that's all bullshit where allowed to still be our own human beings outside of being a mom we're allowed to relearn things that we love and the and one hundred percent. They're not going to be the same things that you loved before having kids. Because you have a new view of the world you have a new perspective on life. And i think it's really important that we all find who we are again Because it actually benefits your parenting. Because you're less stressed somehow a because you're not lost. You feel like you have a purpose so not saying how and neglect your kids or drop them off at the person who can babysit them every weekend. I'm not saying any of that but if someone offers for even an hour an hour for you to go run errands then pick it. It's okay.

"single parent" Discussed on Mommies Tell All

Mommies Tell All

07:06 min | 7 months ago

"single parent" Discussed on Mommies Tell All

"Kinda thought you guys might get a divorce like a year and a half ago. We've talked about this and then it was like okay. Everything's on the table. How do you guys feel. What do you want it to look like you know and with my ex wife. I literally said you know. What is it that you want. What is what will make you happy. What does it look like going forward for you because at the end of the day. That's what i wanted. Is i want a healthy. Happy family can't claim that we do it. Perfect and i can't claim that it all worked out perfect but i think the one thing my kids will always be able to say is they knew exactly what was going on. They always had an open dialogue. And it means. I have to have a lot of conversations that i'm not looking forward to. You know when you're eighteen year old wants to come talk to you about boys you know like like you know. There's nothing that makes it. Dad more terrified than an eighteen year old young woman because in that moment she's not just my daughter she's a woman going out in the world and i'm going for. I can't believe i'm having this conversation. But okay and she's like you know at time. She looks at michigan. I can't believe we're talking about this. I go me either. It's uncomfortable for me as it is for you but we have to be honest and i'm here and as a single dead in that scenario it's important for me to be open even if afterwards i have to go in my room at run around like a little kid for a few minutes and be like oh i can't i can't handle it but like in that moment i have to handle it. I don't i don't get a choice and then also making sure that there are good strong women in her life that she can go talk to because not everything that you wanna tell your dead. Yeah and there's not. I mean you're not a woman so you don't have the answers to everything would definitely direct. Yes sir somewhere. I can call up. Okay good because i may add you to the list because for me. I'm very aware that i've never been wound. I don't fully understand everything and there are things that while. I may want to understand or be supportive in sometimes. I'm not best suited to be the answer for that question. Which is actually just still amazing. That you're aware of that. Because i feel like lots of people could think the opposite. They could think well. I i could fake it or i had the answers or whatever and to know like i don't have all the answers. Yeah well i think as someone who has been an eighteen year old girl or young woman. Oh dear at that time in my life like i didn't have that relationship with my my parents both my mother and my father and at age. There's a lot of confusion you're trying to figure out who you are and you have a lot of life choices that you're making on your own and even if you didn't if you don't have the answers just being there is like is huge. It's just huge. Yeah that's the one thing. My kids will never be able to claim is. I'm always all in. And i tell them all the time and they've gotten older i've I use this analogy mike. Look your driving your car. But i'm in the passenger seat and there are certain streets. I know her dead in so we can skip wasting time. You can still drive down if you want. But if i can save you making a wrong turn it lists you get the benefit of my knowledge and when you struggle in when you fail. It's okay let's learn from it. And i'm here and again. I know i'm not doing it all right and i'm not always patient as i wanna be. I mess up. And i think that's the other part as apparent is saying. Hey i think. I was too hard today. Or hey i. I don't know if i did this right. Let's talk about it. Yeah that's also huge to admit you're wrong to your children. I mean the other day. I know she's only three years old but i was like bella. I'm really sorry i was. I wasn't very nice today. Wasn't very patient and she was like it's okay mommy somedays and some days. You're unhappy some days. you're happy i'm like you're right. Thank you right but then you're also melts because then you're like oh i feel terrible like my kid just told me it's okay and i would just like. Oh she's so wise. And i coach other people's kids i've for twenty years. I've been a coach. And i work with all these kids and a lot of times. I'm the guy that people come to say. Hey i'm having this problem or you know. There were people who had to stay with us for extended periods of time because their families fell apart and for me to be able to support structure. You know even if it's for a day to be somebody that they can trust you know life's tough as it is. I was lucky because a lot of the people. I work with on the crew. Good bad or indifferent. Whoever they were they gave me a lot of their best and i benefited from their knowledge. I feel like you're an old soul. At this point. I might be ancient like you're very self aware and i feel like i don't know i dislike. You have just a very like good knowledge of yourself that you're in you understand these things that you're able to share them with others. I don't know yet. I try really hard to be open being loving being kind. And i think that's not something you hear. A lot of men say. Listen i can be lynn and strong and all of the things. I need to be but if i really wanna be strong and powerful and supportive and loving family. I need to know how to nurture and do those things too. And i think that's one of the places we kinda mess it up for. Sure no having coached a lot of young young men. I was a high school coach for the better part of ten years. Mandate they need you to have the moment where you can let the guard down as much as they need you to push his tough. Yeah as a as a mom of two young boys. I so appreciate that you're able to show that side of you because it is so important i want. My boys grew up knowing that they can't like you said you can be strong and you can have this masculine side but you can feel your whole range of emotions. It's okay y- i. It's funny. Because i used to work construction for a long time and you know in that field. There were times when people got hurt and they would be like man he just takes care of people and i'm okay with being known that way and you know it's just different sides of your personality and how vulnerable you can be. It depends on who you're with and that's the beauty of good relationships. Be your most authentic. You should be authentic at home because your kids should know who you are. Yeah i love that. That's very good. That's twenty twenty. One right. There be authentic. Well thank you so so much michael for coming on being so open talking to us. Scott i mean everything. We so appreciate you. Also congratulations on the connor success. You deserve it. Thank you and then. I was going to ask you. Can you tell everyone what your social media handle is So they can Come in and check out mental health. Monday and your thursdays yeah The easiest.

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"single parent" Discussed on Mommies Tell All

Mommies Tell All

06:09 min | 7 months ago

"single parent" Discussed on Mommies Tell All

"Let's gather here today and let's talk about. How are you feeling. I think it's just really powerful. So thank you for doing nat Is really been my honor. People have come on and shared the most incredible stories. I have to domestic violence survivors. That i talk to weekly that talking to frequently who came on in kind of shared their stories Unintended i just kind of opened up. I had A young trans woman. Who's a creative person. Come on and asked me a bunch of questions about representation and things like that and and kind of opening up that field of information and perspective. And then you know you know. There's a number of moms who their families have kind of pardoned. The wording is in their minds fell apart in the last two to three years and now they're kind of reshaping that rebuilding that and it's nice for them to hear from somebody that sounds like you're being a great mom or it. Sounds like you guys have the right outlook or some people in the community have found support for them or ways for them to really you know build new portions of their life and learn new skills and i think that's the beauty of what social media can be if we use it right. We have this advantage of. We can connect with people all over the and learn so much from people. If we're willing to listen and be a little vulnerable gazzetta laude. True being vulnerable is definitely so hard but that's like where all the beauty comes out and all the light comes out which i feel like if people just let themselves be vulnerable ever they would just grow so but it is it is so hard is hard and and it takes a lot and this is something we've talked about in one of them. Is you know it's hard to act loving or feel lovable. Win the world or your life has taught you that you're unlovable and some of these deep conversations. Come out of these messages that they send me and it's like i think it's easier for us to celebrate somebody else's success a lot of times. I think were so busy fighting our battles. We often don't give ourselves enough credit. I think we're too close to the source. So i try to be very honest about. I try to be positive. I tried to highlight the things that i think are good in the world. But i'm very honest. About the fact that i struggled at times or that life is not easy and that there's things to overcome and kind of optimised as a whole but you know i feel it's important to be honest yeah So you lost. You lost your adopted son to an overdose. How did how did that. Shake your family. And how did you guide your children kind of through that grief If you don't mind me asking just for anyone who's out there. Listening who may be trying to navigate. Something similar will the first part is. I don't think he ever totally navigate through it. I think we're still navigating through with every day there are subtle things. That hit you You know. I my my oldest daughter. It was her brother and she made these dog tags that we kinda wear as a remembrance in something that reminds us for me. it's about valuing him and making sure people realize you know have these conversations with your kids have these conversations with your families because it wasn't like it was a big prolonged thing. It was a combination of trying to wrong things from the wrong person and it was so sudden and it was really shocking. And i hadn't come into his life as long as you know as i wish i had. I didn't get to do all the things i wanted to do with him. And i think is really important that people. I'm a huge believer in the value of time and time is the most valuable thing we have and not wasting it and so i think for people. If you don't have something like this that you're going through value the time 'cause you don't know what can happen and then for people who are going through it except grieving is a process and that you're not gonna always do it right and for my kids. What i try to model is loving and missing and having that pain but continuing to do positive work and to have it. Motivate you for something positive. My oldest daughter is a filmmaker and wants to shed light on my my son who passed away was in the foster care system had been and was just about to age out. And there's a lot of gaps in that system and so it's one of her missions and so my job is to help empower her and for us to make projects and opportunities where we can acknowledge him in celebrate him and really uphold his honour because for us he's always a part of us and then dealing with that pain in that way is trying to fuel something positive from it. I think that's beautiful. I feel like that's such a great lesson to teach but just to speak about because a of the times the hard things that we go through we can honor or celebrate. Whatever that thing may have been by taking on a passion and letting them live through that so i think that's i think it's really beautiful. It was hard you know. It's not the kind of thing that i normally would've talked about. I've been pretty. Yeah for most of my corrales pretty quiet pretty private about my private life. Especially when i had kids i even stepped away from the business a little because i wanted. My kids have a very normal early childhood. I didn't realize how hard it would be to rebuild at this point. You know one of the things. If i could help one family have the conversation. If if this pain can motivate one person or i you know. I've talked to a couple of people who have.

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"single parent" Discussed on Mommies Tell All

Mommies Tell All

06:23 min | 7 months ago

"single parent" Discussed on Mommies Tell All

"We were just talking about something that i feel like definitely well. We can bond on so this is obviously a mom podcast. But i think oftentimes single fathers get overlooked. We also talk a lot about family and like parents that are together. I am currently my husband filed for divorce so i am now a single mother. I'm wondering like how do you do it. And how do you see the positive and you have beautiful children. And how how do you always see the silver lining. Well let me start by saying. I'm very sorry. Thank you. it's a it's a real transition and they're all different so no one can tell you how to feel and nobody can tell you at what pace to go through any of it so work through at your pace. The one advantage i had is my kids. Were older which i think helped a little bit from the standpoint of my kids were old enough that we just basically had a family meeting. My ex wife was very clear about what she wanted. And i was very clear about. I only asked for one thing Which was my daughter and So and my son was an adult so it was a non-issue you navigated all individually. Hopefully everybody is as cordial as possible. You know our case we literally just went to the courthouse together as a family filed the paperwork together. Everybody everybody agreed on everything yeah. They said they'd never seen it before people. There's a lot of people who lost their really. And ironically we went out to dinner as a family afterwards and we went out to breakfast the next day but it depends on what your reason is behind it where everybody stands and i would tell you. It doesn't always stay that easy. You know she's remarried and has three step kids and has moved out of state. So i have been a single dad raising a teenage daughter who just turned eighteen. So and i'm smart enough to know not to claim that i am doing it all right because my kids will tell me that i'm blowing it pretty often so i have a twenty one year old an eighteen year old and then i had. I have two kids. That i essentially adopted one is twenty three and one would have been nineteen who passed away earlier this year. Sorry so sorry yeah It was a real shock. What i will tell you is navigating divorce. The first part is just love on your kids. You know your kids are going to go through this transition period. It doesn't really matter what age it's a tough transition and every kid will deal with it a little different. You just gotta love on them and listen to them and just be a great mom. Which i'm sure you're already doing is your that was your first concern in the first thing you asked me so your heart is in the right place and then i think you have an advantage because you guys do a show where you guys talk about all of these things so you already have. Somebody built in a support structure to talk some of it out with that. It's very true. One of the benefits. I think to having a platform even though you don't really realize that you have like a lot of people out there that are kind of like your friends that you don't really know can in all those people are. Yeah they're sending you messages saying. I'm going through the same thing. Thank you for speaking your truth. I noticed on your instagram. you do like a is. It called mental health. Monday or your mental health monday and then we do stay yeah. It's so amazing. Explain like what was the motivation behind. Doing all like having your platform be a lot about mental health yet. You know it's funny. Eat worked out. That way. More than i i said out. I think what you just said is really accurate is. I've always tried to use my social media to be communicative in social with people. And i think you find a lot of good people. On the way you'll you'll find a few a few trolls along the way but for the most you'll yeah sure i'll rephrase that they find you and then you find the good people. Oh yeah that's true and and so it started with doing some lives and doing some communication. Because i was getting a lot of messages especially after the passing of my son and there were a lot of people who over the course of the last year have talked about divorce or people that i knew who had come and been any audience at filmings of the connors who had had interaction with me. And then we're sending me messages. And i you know i try to be open and i try to be listening person and i always warn everybody that i'm not qualified to give him advice. I don't even play a doctor on tv. And so you know what it came from was really listening to people and with the pandemic and that's going on but also just life. I think mental health is a huge issue and people in my life Really have always talked about mental health. So you know. It's the advantage of that then. The process of grieving. So that's kind of what gave rise to mental health monday thursday. I was kinda doing a secondary one. The community of people was asking me and saying. Hey you know so long. Time between monday monday so thursday kind kind of became a more open forum where it doesn't have a set guideline like today will probably talk a lot about the stuff that's gone on you know in the nation's capital in the in the last couple of days in my gosh it's a sounding board and and what i found is exactly what you said is if you use your platform right. There's a beautiful community of people who are largely like minded and have good intentions and you have to weed through some of them masked that comes with it. But they're amazingly beautiful. And i think we're all teaching each other and i think that's the best thing you can do. Yeah i think. That's really cool of you because i commend you because as somebody who a lot of people probably look up to and they see you on tv and you're kind of the you know you have. The celebrity status is that you're kind of taking down the veil of this public image and you're showing people the real parts of you and it's showing people that they're not alone and unfortunately like you said in this. Pandemic depression is higher. Anxiety is higher. Suicide is higher and so for somebody like you to just be like..

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"single parent" Discussed on Mommies Tell All

Mommies Tell All

05:28 min | 7 months ago

"single parent" Discussed on Mommies Tell All

"Something that we've never done before. We're talking to a single father who may also be known from the show. The connors on abc formerly known as roseanne michael fishman. I'm so excited to hear about the new season the show and how it handles being a single father because most of you know that i am now officially going to be a single mother. Because evan and i are getting a divorce so sorry twenty twenty was bad and other ways as well but twenty twenty one is a new year and i am just. I'm just gonna try to look on the bright side of things from now on. That's where i'm at twenty twenty one. Yeah i think that's a great head space to be in. You know we're all here for you carly like you have. Obviously you have my my support. You have our listeners support. I've seen so many positive comments towards you on our facebook and we have your back girl and we totally respect your privacy and what you wanna share when you wanna share in everything like that. But we're here to support you through everything thank you. Yeah i mean. I really can't like share anything hours. Tom like a really delicate situation. You know i I've set a little bit like on my youtube but you know honestly it's just hard like there's lots of people involved. There's lots of family involved. You know it's just a tough transition and it's like i've stopped being really sad which i think is good but what makes me really sad. It's just like how much bella like. Mrs having her data around not makes me really sad so the only time i go into the sad place anymore really kind of ben and she's you know it's a tough transition for has she just. She has a lot of feelings because she's a toddler but also she just you know if i say lately like bella. Why are you still upset. Like i'm used to hearing you know. Mommy i'm hungry or whatever and lately it's been like i just really miss daddy and so that's like it's just really hard because you know you sit there and you're like i understand. I'm so sorry you feel that way you know like but there's not really anything you can do. He takes the kids now overnight every other weekend friday night and saturday night in any sees them the other week on wednesday night for dinner so so she's obviously like seeing him and everything just like she she's used to bore so that's hard and you know it's just there's just like a lot of transitions and i mean a lot of For me too. So can't really say anything about the specifics. Although other than like we're just getting through it and each day is kind of a new day and honestly like i do feel thankful that it's a new year because i feel like it kind of kind of inspires hope and newness and sort of like i. Gosh it's like a new goals right. Okay well i kind of have to like leave last year behind. This happened at the end of last year. And i do want. I'm gonna keep living so my life is to look very different and you guys are gonna here like a lot of how that's going to be different. Obviously through this podcast. Yeah trying to be positive. I actually right before we started this podcast today. I had a zoom with my new co writers for some music and a new producer. And gimme writing music again and doing things for myself again. I haven't done a really long time. I got a sitter. That comes twice a week. So i'm going to be focusing on myself making myself happy and doing things i've missed and yeah that's really kind of where i'm at. No that's amazing. I think that's really good especially the music. Because i feel like that could probably be really healing for you because i believe music is dealing so i mean. Obviously you're going to rely. And it is like i feel like divorce has a little bit of a grieving process. You know it's kind of it is a new beginning and so it. Grief is not linear so. I'm sure you'll be going through the ups and downs still but I love the are daily. Yeah and that's totally normal. That's completely normal. Anyone would feel that way and no matter how their relationship wise. I think it's great that you're you're able to see a little bit of the silver lining. I guess is what i want to say. Yeah and i'm excited that it's a new year and that i can kind of like just try. Just release that. Yeah as much as i can. That's beautiful actually so yeah. I'm excited about this new year because i feel like i'm finally doing things for myself again. You know kind of getting back in that entertainment industry. I was like in before you know before. Motherhood i guess i guess i had that lullaby album but that's not i mean it counts but like kind of doesn't count counts well to give yourself credit but it counts. Listen but i'm excited today. Because speaking of the entertainment industry we have michael fishman on. Who is on the connors on abc. Which is a fantastic show. And he's a single dad. And honestly like i could use the adviser right now while i'm trying to figure out a do this whole single parent thing so.

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Turning the Page with Peloton Instructor Jess Sims

Hurdle

05:29 min | 7 months ago

Turning the Page with Peloton Instructor Jess Sims

"Today. I am sitting down with jess sims. She is a peleton instructor and extraordinary. Human just how you doing always better when it gets talk to you emily. Oh gosh i watched. Just this makes my day. I've been looking forward to this conversation all day here on here at all. I am catching up with some of my all time. Favorite guests from the last couple of years away to round out the year and so naturally one of the most listened to episodes of hurdle in two thousand twenty a yes. Stop it star jazz. You're making me blush things that you can't see on a podcast so i'm bringing just sims into the mix adjust how are loaded question to start off. How are you doing. i love me. Loaded question on a right now. Do well thank you for asking. It is my day off and not by getting to be adults things that i like to push aside on my busy workdays in just enjoy. It's snowing actually for the first time in new york city today. See technically speaking. It's been snowing for a few hours. So i will take the like sundance with like for the first time with a grain of salt. I've definitely seen snow this year. But this is like a new. No yes i mean. Nobody teaching and inspiring all. You're socio. I mean okay fine but yes fair. I looked out the window. And all i see is white. So it's a. It's officially a good snow day. I'm into it. I'm into it so i mean we're talking about snow now but we've been talking about for. The last year is the fact that this year is unlike any other. So give the hurdlers. Catch me up a little bit. Talk to me about how your twenty twenty has been. Oh man Twenty twenty what a year it has been it blows my mind that it's december. Let me start off by saying that. I feel like the last before before. Twenty twenty bt. I'm gonna. I'm gonna coin that officially here the last like memory i have before. Pre pre pandemic was black history. Month that peleton and so it's wild because we're revving up for black history month. Twenty twenty one and so am i wait a minute. I just feel like i. It's a time travel but it's been a year full of a lot of stuff a lot of alone time a lot of reflection a lot of community a lot of realization that i'm really excited to dive into with you today and i wouldn't have traded and of course this year has been brutal for so many reasons for so many people but i wouldn't trade this year because it's done so much for me personally. It's also gotta be really interesting. I mean especially with what you do. So many people around the country around the world are looking toward peleton this year for inspiration and motivation and like sanity and you are the person that is providing that sanity to so many people so i would imagine that although what a beautiful opportunity to connect with these people like pressures on me. That's how i would see it from my point of view like i would imagine that for you. Maybe more than ever being really honest about what you need and where you're at is so important to show up for your community totally and i think that that's one of the things that i pride myself on. Always being very real so I was just talking a couple of weeks ago. you might have heard it in class By the way. Thank you for taking classes. That i love the phrase. Amplify the positive. Because it's not you don't wanna be overly optimistic to the point where you're annoying. It's the point where you're like okay. But you're you're undermining the pain and the suffering that so many people are going through but you can always find the positive and by using the word amplify it's acknowledging that life is not all roses but there are some beautiful things much. Choose to put those up higher. Focus on motives and for me personally. It's the secret as saying this whole thing. Secret thing that i was thinking in my head was yes. Wow i am doing so much for other people you know. We're almost four million members of our world wide with at the time and i don't take role lightly whatsoever and but the secret is that y'all have done more for me than you could ever imagine because there was a point in time where i was not working out unless i was teaching. I couldn't get myself to be motivated enough to get up and teaching. Because i didn't want to do it for myself. I was like oh it's easy to just you know. Hang in today's easy today to just you know. Forget about those goals. And forget about the things i said i wanted to do. But because it's my job. Because i need to show up i find my strength in the stories of our members. And so when you get a dm or a comment or your tagged in a post though someone saying jess the i'm your the only bright spot. Peleton is the only bright spot in my twenty twenty. I'm a essential worker My mom is sick. am a single parent. I have three kids under three like. There's the story's never cease to amaze me and on my toughest arcus day I'm like these people need me in able to transcend myself and realize that it's bigger than me and i'm able to get up there and perform and i it it it helps me. I hope just as much as it helps others.

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"single parent" Discussed on No Really, I’m Fine

No Really, I’m Fine

10:09 min | 1 year ago

"single parent" Discussed on No Really, I’m Fine

"I think like everything some people will want to complain and say this and that and the other you've got beat ultimate echo proprietary so if that's chase in her referral organic Library or Gun. Incident written tokens foreign in someone talking to them. Wherever way where you have to do so and if you can and that is Lenin to accept help but also to seek out and take is available and the that you've got you've got to be if no one's GonNa take it for you and that is being made nuts busy with with stuff on and look after yourself. What about enough mental health. Then because I know he's much younger than props a he mentioned before over children who are really stress about the dcis's and things like that. But I much infertile. Human children must be quiet confused and time especially when the consulate friends. So how is how is in Kokomo of all out for interested in OT JEMMA? Let's just being a thing. She's crying for a little bit of a phase just now but I know this little bits of it last time or soda and I know it's been a bit of an issue so to her mum trying to keep his emphasis. He started doing this thing of saying suddenly just saying she's rubbish. Everything and you know. I'm rubbish at droid annoyed. Go this just getting ready down on US AFTER THAT RING. Salonpas for me because that's my whole life story but You know the kids do this done I am. I'm trying to find a way to talk to her about this. That doesn't either upset. Oh It's difficult. Because she's she's she's being quite sensitive to things in terms of like taking things as criticisms as an example right so yeah so she takes the surreal conversations. You have a friend of Maiden Ninja club up on this little lovey. Little Italy definite Scott Tear in half and still made to Ninja Club. Now she's talking about Ninjas and I lied about Ninjas but I was trying to think what to announce token so let my friend when I was a democracy and stuff and remembrance me bits about Croats in trying to get me to and towing so about teenage mutant Ninja Toes Magor tonight in the teddy anyway so I said well Ninjas on Ninjas they're they're all self defense on an attack people they about protecting people Serbian Ninjas like an come up. I'm from the Yoga and there was this. Mindfulness thing. One of the videos. About your your in an injure so I said well that's you know Ninjas out very common on the inside because that's being control and that's how they have great strength and they can jump very high and did that can do that. But it's a very in control a thin line to that that's all kind of thing and it was just not. Ninjas dislike kicking coming out you don't know about you don't even know then becoming you're trying to tell me you're trying to tell me what to do and you. Don KNAPP at escalate. It and I wasn't shouting. No rape from the Tobin in her mind trying to tell her. I was trying to explain a right which we do was. I was just trying to have a conversation I was I was asking however since you told me but tell me what you know about this. I'm GonNa tell you anything. Baba become really upset. You know went off real half. I need some time on my own toe. Java Queen these hackers you know there's all the cliches things come out with the terrible twos or three natures or all these things and I think is different from child to child but like they go through little phases and things. I think for child of separated parents as well. It can be getting mixed messages about certain things you know. You know I I try to like I say I really listen to and trying to have conversations because I think that that's how we certainly tried sipping promote together and kind of still happening with Mumbai. Things will be coming from a slightly different angle partner. Lives lives with them and stuff. So he'll be having an input and things. I might get in. It's a pretty good but it's just have to have to listen to them until it's find find the ways that the common ground and things when the younger sometimes it's you know you can. You can say things that maybe go into the head and processes. Maybe not what you intended. But I don't know my belief is after lease or try try and talk to them and and Rather than so. Avoid it and say oh. It's just that it's just a phase of bill right and I will I I. I'm not sure about that and I am maybe to read up on to an expert about but my my gut instinct is to just try and turn so. Can I just grab hold of and say that? I WANNA find out why she say these things you know is it's really really interesting and it's a fascinating challenge being a parent and I already miss When when she's not here. It's a lot more difficult to do remotely by the women together. You know we we just try mark on things you know and if we do you have a full in our try and echo Afterwards and make sure we end the day on a on a positive note kind of thing and I'd see I to my child needs you bring a child into the wealthy you own with that so finally Jamie what. What advice would you give to someone who is up six vice? Lacing all is home you're knocked down to look after their mental wellbeing doesn't have to be necessarily apparent. But what what's what's Miller. General things like by Already just think this compare a time where everyone can just slow down a bit. Pick up that book that demeaning to finish demeanor to read and write some stuff down to get my mom to write down so memories of. She was struggling initially for ages. Been saying to where we write down stuff you remember about my grandparents from when when she was growing up in I'm done in Halewood and Farina tricky and stuff and memories of her child places that we can come and say so. This is ninety two inches below wherever loads ways of cooking. Do they have gone just just like go of the stuff that you know you think? Oh Gosh you know. I can't believe people when they see how miss I miss the office being around people like Gosh like I'm what's an office for a long time much dreaded thought would be audio cut back to the office this pick up the phone untold to someone? The APP inspired him to for ages. There's loads a ways ways to time but also I think it's important to not feel guilty about do nothing to just I've arrest. Why not have an APP tonight? I'm Nora right NAPA. The why not. Just just put your feet up and we'll Berlin limbo here so embrace the limbaugh. That's the HASHTAG. And what's the what's the first thing you can do? Once lockdown Asia weight thing is. My life hasn't changed a great deal really hasn't and I don't know I 'cause I think Saturday you know show the moment they. They've relaxed some things. So how are they going to do this? And do this Catholic. Because if they say oh the pumps could open. Everyone's GonNa Matt and just like it's the pumps on and it's going to be chaos sudden. There's going to be used outside. Like how's it going to you? Know there's GonNa be any bailiff now like how are they going to do it? So we've OKA- try and be column about it but lights as we see them with the supermarket. People weren't now I'm not saying I would just do why was ready so it hasn't really changed my life. A great deal. I Miss I think one of the few. Yeah we're GonNa have a really nice bogus somewhere. I don't believe you can make really Nice Burger. I'm not so I think that. Yeah Bug debica dip. Yes vote in just too many good go. I think we've covered quite a lot. Jamie funky so much fear time because we have been on the phone for an hour so I do really appreciate..

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"single parent" Discussed on No Really, I’m Fine

No Really, I’m Fine

10:24 min | 1 year ago

"single parent" Discussed on No Really, I’m Fine

"You know given the amount that you were going for you. You really struggled to be away from it. Didn't you and what was that. Like the as lockdown become. Because initially he wasn't with you what she he was with women. No it was just a quick time greedy so the very weak the BARISTA's first big serious announcement that that Friday was in its birthday. So plan was Idaho. Like n people can open. I was driving up on the Friday. I was going to pick her up from school. She was GonNa stay with with me on the Friday night. And then me and my mom partner we can have as together on the set state and I was taken to a whole striking lessons and stuff. Everything comes to everything completely broke up until the last minute I was saying. Well you know I can come up and we can do that and I'll come back. And if I catch corona virus will just be all mine back down here and I'll be right. Don't worry about it Blah Blah and and the things kind of escalate bit because a colleague of my wife's Up there the way thing unthinking down here in Liverpool be far more vulnerable as it was one of the neighbors and someone who works with in its mom and had been in London the week before and him and his Co. And so on this remotely island three hundred people on this. I actually by at the women's mother Coda and she she died and so the first death the I knew about was my my wife until his neighbor right and did not have any contact so they're touch wood in. It's an fine. I'm is you know that sort of gravity on this train. I didn't go up prepa oversee and then it became a thing of when you just try that. Look at it and be sensible. Obviously the the rules still so state. While children composite between two parents homes as long as nobody has has been exposed is l. and taking everything into account in its mum as providing support is working also provided support for her mom and grandmother whose high risk there is other issues and we. We just toted during decided. The best thing eventually was to was to drive in that we could do it responsibly. And I'm unless there was an issue no unless caused by your time basically but that's even buys a fat to resonate. Initially we were thinking about traveling. Each was traveling best part of two hundred miles to me up and in two hundred miles each back and you know we we. We break down with something that needs to get the I all to this other that all of these things have an effect the emergency services out smoothly tonight so in the end re- realized it was for the Best Farina tissues. She's with me initially for the next three weeks because through those first couple of weeks I guess I I was just on on facetime coal and twenty four seven so it would be literally from huff nine in the morning we'd be doing yoga fire. Fire face to get yoga and then we'll be together and then in the afternoon we might read some stories old. She tried to get me to watch the greatest Chinaman via facetime That was hard going for is a great film. But it's hard time It didn't it didn't quite work we've now wants to impress together which is great It was the first time I've seen it and I. I like a musical but yeah various things she would. Just come up with these Macho Games and man. She's assessor the whole ride inside video up. Let's send it. She's got these little toy horses come right about on. 'cause she's doing horse riding lessons shoes what. I'll just do my lessons but on horses so she find out in the corner of the room right now against trump and around just pasta fight they disappear they go best stop for like five minutes a kind of a toss cheese invite. She wakes up in the moment hostess parties and then things about the rest of the world. Then that's how a life ball the rules and for separated parents and children among too familiar of it. Basically the wellbeing of the child is one of the most important things so as long as they're in they're the best situation and they should have access to both parents. Obviously if if one parent or say take on his partner at been shown sentence occurring virus or Phoenix Spurs to someone at it. We have to maybe think about that. Consider that because it was Taken kind of those say this guy who works was Connie had and had not. She had any contact together and they were. They don't work directly together and that initially that was the thing. Where ALL GOTCHA? Silence you might. I mean as long as it's done as responsibly. As possible as things stand it still we find out the author that as a helpline think An advice line on the site currently find out and I said but the thing is particularly where she's coming from boys very Torius hotspot and there have been so of these Barricades checkpoints where pulling light but driving up. Their recount knots trying to escape and an ten sending people back so that she was advised on the find that you might get stopped by the place an incumbent that discretion site in they they might turn you back and send you by. Toibin as it was. That didn't happen but we we kind of. We were quite well prepared in that we took so of ideas and things and we buy my soul came up with besides before we left. We each videos in what we were doing. I'm like leaving my address and has not to the call Pokka. Ken Loach Services for anyone. Who's tries to Glasgow and stopped the train services? It's run by the people I keep if you know that. Serve a beautiful services in the district and I must have. It says very well but that's where we and yeah as it was. We went stopped. Lovely quiet although out there this traffic still people driving like idiots even hardly anyone on the right but Yeah and so spaghetti so in its hey so initially the nights three weeks and we'll just say I thank you know the rules might have changed my change this week by it might be by the time these three weeks come up might not be able to travel more than ten miles of which I have to say. But she's she's down here with me and we're all right for the time being a huge missing him. Oh it does. She understand the situation. It's been great. She she did this brilliant jewelry. A MOMMA'S EXPLAINING. I think she watched the first. Boris to an announcement thing as you did this story in a moment. It's by nothing the school for a Scotia and they've been quite good so she kind of went. Boris says you can do this or if says she contacted the prices. Become this causing I think she did a great droid so she yeah. She got sick she. We hadn't seen have since by the time around Sunday events in each of split towards the end of February. So just Ramon and Mr Birthday and I got this kitten so she was desperate to come in now. She's been great. She's Bright Mitchell. Bill Kyle and I was saying I mean a hundred our advice about these things but I would say if parenting is an exhausting and hard work than you probably not doing it right. But the main thing is just told them and and in that respect and and explain things and they'll they will understand how to stand which might be an abstract way but she's great you know and she's token to a moment on facetime now and things and she's hey forever for long stay and that things are all a bit strange right now because she's Golan and stuff but she's she's pretty good. It's just taking it in Australia. Which again is another strength? The children have a think and how you cope with home. Schooling of you had to do any of that yet Well I've got stuff on the kitchen table I haven't quite gotten out yet properly threat. The thing the thing they noticed things like we start to little projects about host is obviously making those scrapbooking. She's she's been doing a. Lotta writing Facts down 'cause I related flat a couple of Encyclopedia's for birth and stuff so we've been reading them. She loved her in so I mean we will. We will get to the official stuff that school is has sent. An initial certainly. She's only been here a couple of days tonight. I'm not compose a huge amount of kind of rigor and regarded. I think I think we'll get through this stuff..

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"single parent" Discussed on No Really, I’m Fine

No Really, I’m Fine

08:56 min | 1 year ago

"single parent" Discussed on No Really, I’m Fine

"I yeah. I knew anyone thinks that to life is more important that the football is more important than life and death right now need to. This show is a reality. Check the latter figure something out and it seems like it will get some point. Where how can they possibly be running two seasons along side each other? Or what do you know tonight? Isn't it I mean we just waking up in the news on bunch and what's GonNa Happen to seasons and I doubt ropy seasons and host racing. They'll be wondering night that I just have to say what's the atmosphere in light weight lifting. Because you live right next to go to certain imagined stone trust to the hostile of Game Day. I'm just around the corner now. Arts and since aspire to you. I used to add literally surround about that. Very re-cut thing I'm just Just on Rice. Lane now just note right next to the grand jury was Enslave Street. Pays is is just eerily quiet. Isn't it a everywhere isn't it's sort of like? I say I really thought I would miss the just. The routine of cards aspect have an. I'm just I've just been cracking on human. I haven't allowed to live in a big building. I'm really seen much of other people now in its here. We've we've been kicking the ball around the buck and a couple of times. We've seen a couple of neighbors and stuff that is just seems to be kind of quietly trying to almost stuff done. I or maybe that maybe it's just a everyone else in the whole world is in a cure outside the supermarket because it doesn't really neat this much groceries when he for seven and now I I got big charlie full of small one in like 'cause we we haven't done a big shop age is needed shop for like just for Labor. When was staring up because it's much still a public bike in the shop. You do stop thinking Auburn Right. Get this is very strange. I like cooking and stuff so I I kind of managed to be fairly organized and get alleged stuff so it could may compete in the freezer and things and so that's been you know. I'm I'm a little paranoid system to their writing and things I say I've always got stuff the busy Soaking Tinkering Away with a few bits. And bobs like no maki soup kinds of stuff. I I love all this stuff. That's going on online. And like this is how we dealing with it and talking on facetime has got three three. The last two weeks really. I was probably on facetime for or five hours a day. Two or three spouse with While she was up mums and we realized basically make more sense to get down here because were from. I'm pretty much just show a work in ninety five and in my friends at school. And stuff so yeah. I've time can commit to test I if he found it. You found you've been facetime friends lot more than I mean with me. Often face some friends in fault. Why don't we do this more anyway? Yes definitely definitely because I spent two people that never had spoken like video chat and most on the phone is. I'm not great sonal. You know like something and this is maybe another thing for the so. The introverts and avoid does Like like I've always been you know the the advent of emails and text messages and everything was a blessing and a curse for someone like me because greats keep in touch people who know me will always be like our receiving a message. I mean it's it's never just one line you know laissez. But that's great but it was just another way to avoid Ashley talking. I'm I've never been much fun now but people didn't find me and that that has been great and I have a couple of phone calls myself and yeah yeah no I I just think the whole thing we can surely land from this is I mean i. I'm from from the last two years myself in my situation like I say we're I've ended up on. What was that was the thing before universal credit anyway? I'm on universal credit. Now you know I just said to meet so two years ago you know you're you're you're registered homeless. You haven't got job. You feel basically completely unemployable just in a complete mess. How you'RE GONNA survive. I Dunno I just always had this thing just one thing turn it the other survived III Today. Well that's what this is like. An I feel terrible for people who are losing their jobs. So that the self employed situation is you know as suddenly disappeared in front of them. And I'm very lucky and I'm already on universal credit so weirdly. I'm probably yeah one of the lucky ones and but the thing is like I said before are now knows through being so touched by somebody. Like say wasn't a blood relative value is almost extra grandparent. Who's who's just passed away last twenty four hours. It's it's a horrible terrifying thing that going through hit by those of us. Lucky enough to survive will be okay. I and whether that's in spite of all because of how from you know I was in charge. Whatever you can always find a way you know. It doesn't have to be completely ended. The world's and and if in the meantime while things are a bit out of our hands life's lay down a bit and spend time with our kids when I my daughter Whitney which will be maybe less gear in the summer holidays. I think it was time for maybe four weeks and throw and so when she's at school. I come tightrope whatever we are together twenty all males unless you visit a pretty much full attention unless she wants to south you plan on our on quite a bit but we have together and that's intense and it's hard for both of us because sometimes it's six show WanNa hang out this year old and vice versa. You know and I don't WanNA play. My little. Pony may be over a she does want to watch the and and that can be kinda difficult part if parents can allow themselves to spend some time on the kid's level. You can have the greatest times. I am quite good at you know I was thinking. I'm just really lucky by. I'm quite get it and I don't see myself. Let's all amazing level which will be like kids kits animals. They live on instinct and they did the things that need to do in the flow of imagination rights and fun care in the world has the. Yeah Yeah you know all do eventually is pulled points on the shoulders and drag them down so I would never call it. Lower ourselves to physically. You might have to get down in the hands. Meet some play of the claw but there's nothing better than that and I know through practice over the last couple of years the times where I get frustrated and things. I'm sentencing I think my full allowance. She stumps analyzed. Thank you know if you could just give yourself and just to show up. And and being the princess the removing played it was meant to be doing instead of trying to organize Ao China and say. Oh No let's not make a mess so ever trying to be a grown up We just have a great time and then you clear up is fine and I think there is an awful of mindfulness that can be taken from the situation which is healthy for everybody the somebody realizes or admits that you have a fluctuating mental house. Which I believe we will have an and it can just come down so K. K. Whether you whether you admit or not we can already say. Let's suppose it is from this. I think not so you can do a premium past experience in on your background of a see. Anyone would really struggle being away from.

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"single parent" Discussed on No Really, I’m Fine

No Really, I’m Fine

11:51 min | 1 year ago

"single parent" Discussed on No Really, I’m Fine

"So today I am joined by Jamie. Yates now for a loyalist is you may recognize Jamie. He paid a guest on series one. Nothing was yet series one to share his story. So welcome back Jamie. Are you in today? I am Yes thanks thanks for having me back yet. It's striking I'm I'm doing well So far I'm burying up. Just fine I in some ways. I keep saying this. The last two years have almost been training for some case. You Know Pin I. I have legislation since I've been back so all my stuff and after everything that happened Yeah I really set out to learn how to be able to cope with life and managed mental health and get the best out of myself and look after myself by myself if I may send so and so yeah I mean I say and I'm very well prepared and I will say I feel that kind of jokey kind of state is facebook. Oh Switzerland remember the beginning of this just saying now is the time for like the nerds loners to shine really. We've all been paying for this. All our lives serve as I can keep myself busy. I'm you know sadly only at the moment when I go outside that and remember this odd situation role in. That's when it gets me down. Going outside. Gun Shops Cuna Patio ever. But when I've got stuff to do just that busy and and my situation is developed again in the last few days because my daughter is now down with me. I didn't think I'd see ads for the holidays. So we manage to arrange the halfway point between here and she lives up in Scotland. So I've got my six shows a minute cats and we're with we ought to find his finest the right word for. Everton good good to an initial in a bit. It was it. Speeding should mention the you feel a bit more affected when you go outside. Because I'm quite the same rarely life me. My partner went to Allie this morning. Too Big shop on just just hate I hate. I hate crowded places. Anyway I hate the fact but you have to go in on your own. And it's quite a challenge is in especially to try and stay away from people as well in markets. Yeah I think I in some ways. It's kind of made me realize that I do do that anyway. But now like I've got a real reason to be really annoyed with someone comes to me life. I tried by the Pike Wind. It in the crowds. Either if I'm on for about if I'm driving I do this to try and stay away. Don't know everybody all the time because I love meeting up with the people really love spending time with people in with with the people really care about An an a really a really trust and stuff on the my such pests in the world but out in the general public I do try. And we've I you know I. I'm not literally crossing the road from people though now with this is like you kind of I I was describing herself as for someone who's had a lot of times in my life fit in very very down by my sister in law. You say you so grumpy on not like I think. I'm really optimistic person. I see the best in people but on the flip side of that when you see the worst of people it really are the most me furious. Oh really depressed. And so in the moments like the other day where I went to Audi and I love managed to put off queuing supermarket until until I knew it was coming so I think it was Friday. I did an alley shopping with enough to keep for that long. Somebody was having a go at the poor guy on the door. Because you know he'd set nice honey one person at a time so you had to go in and then wait for his partner and then he just stood in the doorway went in but just stood this whoever was coming next would have to be right near him. And if other when people people being inconsiderate and throughout this past couple of weeks for me it's a brings out such goods in the best people but it brings out such bad in the West people up evidence session. When go by occasional that luke and I haven't been going out that much I say because I just I don't I don't want to expose myself more to other people's behavior and that just gets me down but you got to walk and every five yards as a latex glove on the floor so that is what current viruses all about. Is it right okay? We're all self out isolate will be very careful and we'll use lots of hand. Sanitizer wear latex gloves for them which is checking the roads humans. I think it's moments like that. I find myself in the day. Walking down well unveil thinking. We deserve to die out as a species. It's horrible looking a rubber glove car window. I'd say just press the button. Finish us off done deserve it? So that's where I can go. Yeah Yeah I don't understand who perhaps has had your story and could you give us a brief empowered hard. I really enjoyed listening Ashley. The I thought I wouldn't be able to listen to myself when it did the podcast the first time though I did listen back and I was kinda proud of myself. I can talk for England but You know I did. I thought finding a cringe-worthy in Oakland but I listen to it sounded okay. I think the only thing I felt was on this sound like I'm turning into fathers for justice situation but I basically two years ago just over two years ago. Suddenly my marriage came to an end am Scotland favor the highlands of Scotland and wife and my Melilla who's then and the which is coming up for four and I was told to move out and and I just went into shock. I spent a week in a psychiatric unit. I mean I wasn't I wasn't sectioned but didn't even really particularly so a cell phone me. I was just incitement shocks. Are just kind of us. Found myself in that and came out and we grew up in Opened on the west coast of Scotland. And I I didn't. I didn't have any anyway live. Initially I ended up with a friend kind of put me up but I had to register homeless effectively. Because it didn't have my address properly and I was just contracted Majo- came to an end and I thought the only way for me to survive is to go from here and stop my life again so it came back to Liverpool. Swear was born come from it is always felt like even though grew up in the south east of England. But I've been trying to find a way back. Kfi for years and years and years and finally dad's through this kind of difficult circumstances. An humping to work fulltime time at a at a lot of fat physical and immune issues as a knock-on from the stress and anxiety. And everything just trying to rebuild your life So thirty eight thirty nine moving away from my child that was. That was the real killer for me that I go to a point where you know in in the immediate aftermath of that. Wha- I felt the only way to twin my life and I I didn't make an attempt. I had a very clear plan of stood that stared into the abyss of of what would be. I managed to keep going and it was not can McCain and really and the thought of doing that would Damage damage her. So we've we've we've made a good Govan. She loves coming. Down Saliba Horizons. She's six going on sixty NYLAND WITHIN. Good so yeah. I've been very lucky to me. And she's he's a lovely locality should be very proud going back to the star of ask. The current virus began sort of thing. Let's take it back before. We went into lockdown. Now I know football is a big passion of yours and a sportier as most of my trust most of my family Auto Morad boater today of all days. Yeah now if ever a time where anyone who has this belief that football is more important than life or death needs to have a real think. I'm from half-and-half family. I've just had uses in that Bronco Mites. My Mom's sister so he's not a blood relative very close and his elderly. Mother is just pressed away can intrigue hospital and and the viruses seemingly. What's kind of in the final kind of thing that she should choose in one thousand nine hundred and I had the health issues and everything thought you know? He's very close to now. As soon as you note. You know of someone that you not sorry to Hilla. That seems like a situation for a lot of L Lee's Verdy in hospital and it's very frightening but what. What are your thoughts about when the season finished and things like that? But it's one of those isn't it I think is very people to typically unlivable with with the way you know how Liverpool again on the season and stuff and it's very easy to jump on the thing of all well. Evertonians would want the season over because it will Brunette for Liverpool and and Evertonians could be signed. Lupul wanted to carry on any cost. Because they're going to win. Well I think the scope a bit. Lino to me to be honest with you. Season ticket holder. I'll go into the match It's not the kind that I fell in love with as a little boy in the eighties in other kinds had his heart ripped out a long time ago and to be honest. I haven't missed a thought would miss the routine of the Matchel. More than a have attorney watcher on Saturday anyway. So you know my soul of response to tour of this preppy bit different took some other football fans while I was described miss over a massive nerd. It's more about what's happened in the past. You know and maybe that's another sinks through. I don't know I think it's important right now. I obviously I mean Gosh. If it was ever knew it twenty points clear at the League things. We broke began all sisters. And you know I simply quite Interesti- some simoes or have Italians who were around the League and then to weld. Woes broke a pro. That progress was.

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"single parent" Discussed on I Give Life to Life

I Give Life to Life

10:09 min | 1 year ago

"single parent" Discussed on I Give Life to Life

"In in like I said it took me a while before. I figured it was time to empty my bottle before it just burst on that that those are important for me absolutely and that's something that I can save myself as well and to add to what you were saying. You know although or despite everything that we've gone through You know as as daughters we can turn that around and make us what we use what we went through and use what we learned to make us better to make us a more well rounded parent. Now I'm definitely not saying that. Our parents were not good parents. Of course they learn Love Them. One hundred percent wholeheartedly. Nothing nothing bad to say nothing. Negative to say but you know with every generation of course you want improvement and I can say that as long children who grow up in single parent households as long as we don't allow our latte quote unquote lack of a dual parent house If we don't let that too if we don't let it destroy us if we don't let it stop us if we don't let it To break US DOWN AND TARAS DOWN. We can use that to be better looking you start to be more well rounded especially if we decide to have kids of our own we can then improve or have better communication skills and styles we can you know. Learn to not just speak but also listen to our children because children. They have voices and they're not dumb. You know so just because they are quote unquote the child. It doesn't mean that they shouldn't have a voice as long as they're being respectful. But then that's why and where you ask the parent you teach them respect and how to talk to an adult. You know the proper ways to do it when to do it when not to do it. Also you know it will based off our experience of you know coming up. In a single parent household it will allow us to show love because our parents and their generation a lot of times they did not grow up and then did not display love to us as openly as the generations after them shore or now so we will be able to. You know. We'll get comfortable and make sure that we show love to our children because that's something that we did not get or we in in the way that we know that you see it as being the norm of course they. They showed their love by making sure. We had a roof over our heads clothes on our backs food in our stomachs. But you know there is a little bit more that children need period. You know when it comes to to love and last thing that we will learn and that we can take into our adulthood and US. Being parents is patients. Yes you know just just improving and interest showing displaying patients to our children and all of those things come out of the experiences that we had which were not the best or not the most you know happy times of our lives but if we just stick with it and if we just you know turn it to where we can use it for the positive you know. Use it for something good instead of something bad then. We are now that that next generation. That's more well rounded and hitting you know checking off more those items off of that list so you know and that's going to be another Another one of my my next video actually On my youtube channel. I'm GonNa talk about the benefits of being a single parent among GonNa come from that perspective and with you know the notes that I was taking just based off of everything that just comparing it to what I've gone through just myself as being a single parent. Oh it's it's so much good that comes from it as long as we don't allow it to terrace down we've definitely do have a fine strength from somewhere because it can get hard you know it can get depressing like you said it can get really tough whenever you know you. You just want to do the most basic thing you know. You have your razor where they need to be your very respectful decline your room you clean the house you help out your your grandparents or your aunties or whatever and then you just sometimes want that moment to just be a kid and you can't get that and so that's going to be another topic so the last thing I want to say with this particular While we're still on this topic. Is there anything else? What's one last thing that you would like to share on today's topic if anything You know whether male or email golf lady Gilman Our parents and I love that. You said that they're not perfect. You know they have done their best the best if they could they knew how. I can guarantee you probably have their stories about their parents They can only do so much But we're not always going to see eye to eye I can. I can be one hundred percent thorough with you. You know to this day today. I don't speak my mom you know we don't. We don't communicate in a lot of people will say. Oh my gosh put inside. Life is short. And that's true but you know your your peace of mind at one point in your adult. Could you have to understand is important in will come I? I'm a big believer in Christ. I believe that you know. In the end he will fix. Offing Stat are broken. That needs to be offended But you cannot do not talk to try to hold onto something that you don't understand you know as long as you do your part and you try and you have prayed about it it will fall in place you know. They're not perfect we kiss. We haven't been perfect but for sure you know if it comes to that point where you have tried and you tried and it just doesn't seem like it's getting right Understand that your peace of mind matters. You've you've done nothing wrong Pray about it and in due time it will work out absolutely you. Their pieces priceless. And you know one thing that I say to a lot of my clients. Is You know if you can if you can say that you've given it your best effort to try to reconcile a particular relationship and if you know the other person is not Reciprocating it then you can now go to bed with peace in your heart and peace in your spirit and know that. Hey I at least tried and whenever that person is ready you will be ready to you know hear them out you will be ready to receive them and accept them so you are so right. My goodness man. This was an awesome awesome topic. Awesome conversation I am so happy that you showed interest in that posted. I made you know it definitely piqued your interest and a few other people that also commented later on and you know with that. I want to give you the floor. I WANNA give you some time to just talk about what it is that you have going on again. I know that you are a business owner. You have many great things going so go ahead and Shout Your Business and let people know where they can find you. What websites do you have? What social media platforms? If any that you use and let's just make sure that people can find you. Yeah absolutely I own since play place to daycare and a child care service Kind of a twofer once. Happy the old man. There's a lot of talks about childcare. Being unreliable and parents not being able to find something that works for their schedule so my business offers a daycare in stone mountain. Georgia right off of memorial tribe and also babysitters and Nannies. That come to your home on those of your parents. That are looking for reliable babysitters in childcare. In your home we do that too. You can find more information on my website. That's www dot sins play place dot Com so that scene Y N s play place dot Com From follow us on Instagram and facebook since play place LLC Or if you just looking to connect with me directly. I have personal facebook page. It's Sin Marie C. Y. N. M. A. R. I. Some fantastic you guys. Make sure that you go support my girl. Make sure you go support my says for anyone who was in the Stone Mountain Georgia the Metro Atlanta area. And you need healthcare services or you know someone who can benefit from childcare services. Make sure you hit her up. She is award winning. If I may say so myself But I do want to say thank you so much for joining in. Thank you for taking the time out to Vegas podcast. Yes ma'am so you guys. That's all for this episode. Thank you for listening and thank you for your support. If you would like to be a guest yourself please contact me. 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"single parent" Discussed on Help! I Suck At Dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jared

Help! I Suck At Dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jared

03:57 min | 2 years ago

"single parent" Discussed on Help! I Suck At Dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jared

"And j j Philbin from the new girl franchise, and it starts myself late miester. Taryn kilolam, Jake toy and Brad Garrett. And it's about this group of parents who come together who wouldn't ordinarily hang out with each other? But because their kids are all in the same class. They hang out and help each other through social issues and dating and the whole nine village. No, you're an actress and comedian. I am do stand up as well. I'm a stand up comic. My home club is flappers and burping. Have you been too much for the just for last festival? I have been to Montreal. But I haven't been for that festival yet. So to it. I have a friend. I've bunch of friends who've been in they say, it's amazing. Oh, it's it's my favorite time of the year. Yeah. Yeah. Every big comedian Kevin Hart, Jimmy Kimmel comes out there. Tiffany haddish yellow. Yes started with. Yup. She filmed her special last year or the year before. Yeah, I think Canada's just like a clean New York. That you guys we'll cameras so tell us a little bit more than with single parents. How do you guys stay topical with the events as a single parent because you're not a single parent. I'm not a single parent. But I grew up in a single parent household, and so I have a lot of friends or a single parent. I just have a lot of experience and experiences to pull from. Related to that. You know, I think more more than ever there's a lot more single parents like people aren't doing the whole Mary thing. They're not waiting around. And so, you know, in this coming episode, we talk about you know, how financially how it can be a burden that one person we talk about how do you? How do you be the best parent? You can be for your kid. How do you start dating? You know, having tell your kid that you're going to be dating somebody else, you know, someone about look like, do you have a specialist that comes in or like therapist that helps prep or gives you guys advice on we know how to interact, you know, we pull a lot from our our group, and we got a lot of mass going on Jake, and or a single I think the other three are married, but between us and the writers. We just got stories for day. Like, you said you grew up in a single parent house. Absolutely. You can drop them a lot of experience from there. Like, I hate it on my mom's first guy like you're not coming up in here. You know? It's me mom what we've been doing. So. Yeah, I made it very difficult. And then my dad also got remarried, and that was the whole thing. So you know, there's there's that there's the real life. And I think that's what I love about this show is that it talks about real issues at deals with real issues. It's not, you know, picture perfect. But has heart and it's funny. When like you said to now more than ever, it seems like you see a lot of single parents. Right. So many. So I'm sure it's very relatable for a large part of the population where they can tune in because it's a it's a comedy. So they can tune in and kind of get a laugh out of something that they might be experiencing in the personal. And we have a lot of kids who watch too. I liked it. It's like. I'm a family event. It's like I get my wind. You get your juice box. Do this. No, I feel like it's also for people who are single in the last episode. Your character gets an invitation to her ex is your ex husband or ex boyfriend your husband echoes wedding. And that's like I remember every time I would break up with someone or semi rake up with me and Mike. I would dread the day. I find out that my ex is now getting married or my ex's engage or my ex-husband done. So that was a memorial like totally relate. Yeah. It's a trip like in now with Facebook and everything you see that in your face, and yeah, poppy had to deal with that. In the last episode, I've been dealing with it personally. A lot of Xs out there shut out to them big shot..

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"single parent" Discussed on Help! I Suck At Dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jared

Help! I Suck At Dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jared

03:43 min | 2 years ago

"single parent" Discussed on Help! I Suck At Dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jared

"And then I remember being mind boggled because we're talking about serious things that happened at row ceremonies and cocktail parties, none of it being captured and then like one o'clock in the afternoon, they'd be all right guys. Let's get Mike Dopp. And then they would put us in these chats. Okay. Let's talk about what happened last night. What we already dead. But I guess we'll talk about it again. So it just didn't feel as authentic as it wasn't the first time we were talking about it. So that's what he said too. He's like, yeah. I wouldn't you know, be not forced. But I wouldn't be required to do anything on camera until about noon every single day. And I'm like, that's. Night and day difference about paradise US because it's like you said, you're eight AM your mic, basically, the second year footstep touches the ground after leaving your bed. But yeah, I mean, it sounds like it's fun Fiji. Obviously it would be a blast. Do you know who else went down there? I do are you allowed to say. No, I don't know. My lead to say, I don't know. Let's not even go down that road. Is it somebody that's been on paradise? The American vision. I like that to Americans three Americans including go down there. Did you watch your Australian paradise season when it was airing? No, I did not because it was I was with Ashley at this point. Yeah. So we filmed nouvelle twenty seventeen and then it didn't start airing think until like April or meta something like that of twenty eighteen because it was so different. 'cause with winter games. You guys film December to February everywhere month and half later. And so mine was a little bit weirder. And also, I can really I watched some clips of it and lot of it was on YouTube. But obviously, I was actually at the time. So I didn't really wanna revisit a time. I was in. But you didn't like kiss anyone or anything. I was there for two weeks went through five zero ceremonies did not kiss girl. That's what he not buddy. From. What I understand through Alex's explanation of it. All it seems like the Americans are brought in kind of novelties, right? Like, the Australian viewers don't really care about the American cast members. They care. About obviously, the trillions that they've seen on bachelor bachelorette or the bringing as well. And then the Americans are they're just basically not like to be made fun of. But just essentially as novelty like oh, look at this American. We brought into like. Yeah. Well, they were going to bring an Australian contestants to the ocean on your season as novelties as well as just like outsiders. But then obviously, you're going to start you know, that whole thing went down. Courtney dober- was supposed to come down to bachelor in paradise on my season. Yeah. The hotel the hotel never went down. And then that's the bachelorette bachelor in paradise. Okay. So he never came down this. Because obviously there's that big shut down for like a week and a half. And then that's why that's not why. But then they're like, okay. We're gonna have you come on winter games. No courtney. Yes. Yes. Yeah. It was funny because there's a girl that was almost he's in paradise Kiera who's supposed to go on the American version in hotels him and things the villain or something. She was she's fan tag here, dude. She's awesome. She's just one of those people, you know, like. It's hard to compare and contrast, but like Ashley was kind of like the villain of her season, really like dramatic. Nobody liked her. And then not nobody liked her. And then she went on paradise and everybody fell in love with it. Right. This anything with Kierra where like on her season? She causes drama. She's a little like scandalous. And then, you know, they end up loving her because he's just real and authentic and crazy, and it's fantastic. Don't you to cure on bachelor in paradise Australia because it was there was not that romantic chemistry? I love being around her chemistry. Obviously is very important very important as we all three of no to wealth. But before we move on Hove HOV H to the Lovie. Then is Tom Brady runs out to that song. Just keep just keep talking keep doing your thing..

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