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The One You Feed
"shauna" Discussed on The One You Feed
"It's been such a pleasure to talk with you. Thank you.
The Her Hoop Stats Podcast
"shauna" Discussed on The Her Hoop Stats Podcast
"I was. I felt no pain after that, so it was everyone was happy and I probably could have done any dance move after that game, so. When Illinois wins the Big Ten tournament, I promise to do upload some video of myself and Calvin dancing. Calvin's definitely seen me dance, but I need the social media team from Illinois to make that dance a gift. And we just got to tweet that with something good happens in our lives. Well, I love that I'm not included in that, assuming that you think I can dance, so there's no need for me to be embarrassed. Just embarrassing you too. Right? I think you're right. I think they've seen you a great deal. That was how I took it. Yeah, my degree has been outshine yours. So I can't be in this video. I you have enough street Cred, your beautiful we've had drinks together. I've seen your natural rhythm. I'm not worried. It's confident in you I see you're gonna go. That's why he's my guy. This is why he's that guy. Okay, so big gaming in Indiana coming up. We're gonna get Calvin Wesley in the house, so I will make sure that he goes. It's at home, yes. So what is the number one restaurant? And your go to doesn't have to be nice or anything. What's your go to place right now in champagne? Dana, you stole my question. Oh, I mean, it's going to connect to you. I want to see if you've been there. Yeah. We got to ask her this because 50 50 I've been there because I live in Bloomington normal, by the way. Okay. You know, so just down the road, but now you have no excuse. The ones I go to the most are right by their close to my house. So those are the ones I go to a lot and that's Jupiter's and Billy berus or kind of where I live. So those two spots, we hit a lot and Jupiter's has like arcade downstairs that my son loves. So he gets us to go there a lot because of that. I gotcha. I gotcha. What's your favorite spot here, Kevin? I was gonna say fair and so I think burger fair. Yeah, farron's is good. All those spots downtown are really good. When we first, when we first got here and obviously none of our staff, you know, had a house and we're just not. We ate out every day and I think we literally tried probably every restaurant in champagne. So if you say any place, I'd probably have been there. I love that. Yeah, my brother went to UFI, I did not, but you know in this area. So we would up my family would always visit him and, you know, every time obviously we'd go to a new place. Yeah. So awesome. We talked about eating out every day. I mean, I still do that as an adult living in New York for three years. I got to learn how to cook at some point. But Oh, yeah. Too many so much. Imagine asking money betting Illinois. But I was going to say, the people in the pockets, the more the problem with getting a pescetarian woman to agree on what to eat is just on a nightly basis is already tough as it is. Is your son already a hooper? Yeah, he plays. He plays, so he plays basketball, football, flag football, and baseball. Doing it all. He's into it. I do have a favorite question to ask our coaches who do have kids. Which player would you trust the most to babysit your child? I actually would trust a lot of our guys this year, actually. That would be only a couple I probably won and I'm not going to go to them. I'm not going to make any of them mad, but actually this group is those groups great with them. And shoot, he's 8 years old now, so if you can't, if you can't watch him and true. Keep him entertained. He pretty much entertains himself, so I trust pretty much all of them. I love that politically correct too when she needs to be. You know, in case they watch it back and they're like, wow, coach, you didn't trust me? Exactly. Because now she has it on there. Now you know that social media is going to happen. Now that you had with the dance, now you know whatever your answer is going to show up on social media. Yeah, I learned the hard way with that Gritty, so we will not out you or you're not paying me. I got you. You can tell us when we stop recording, sorry. Yeah. Okay, Sean, this has been absolutely amazing. I'm gonna find a way to come. We should get probably get ice out there. What do you leave ice in three weeks to the other side of the world? Yeah. Okay, that's going to be a little tough. But we're going to make out of champagne. We'll do some, I mean, there's so many players talked about. You've already talked about Kendall cook has been every time I am on the move and I flash up in my ESPN app to make sure that Illinois is still scoring buckets. My name's constantly. How many times have I texted you let makaira cook? Like every game.
Breaking the Glass Slipper: Women in science fiction, fantasy, and horror
"shauna" Discussed on Breaking the Glass Slipper: Women in science fiction, fantasy, and horror
"At breaking the glass slipper, we believe it is important to have conversations about women and issues of intersectional feminism within science fiction fantasy and horror. To continue to do so, we need your help. Please consider supporting us on Patreon. Join the conversation by following us on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram. Hello and welcome to breaking the glass slipper. I'm Lucy Hansen. I'm Charlotte Bond. And I'm Megan Lee. We often talk about a woman in a man's world. But what does this really mean? And is it accurate? What is a man's world? A place where women are excluded from performing certain roles or jobs, or are shackled to others, is it to do perhaps with the balance of power? What power, military, political, spiritual, social, domestic, there are so many forms of power. When we talk about a balance, are we including all of the above or just some, it has become a stereotype that a woman's power resides in the household, but does that translate into other forms of power? Does a woman's power really end at the threshold of the home? Joining us today is Shauna lawless, whose debut novel the children of gods and fighting men examines power, most particularly women's power in many forms. Set in tenth century island amidst the belligerent Vikings and greedy kings, you would be forgiven for thinking this a man's world, but the story is narrated by two women, two mothers whose desire to protect their children and secure their own positions makes them far more formidable, I think, than the men around them. Welcome to breaking the glass slipper, Shauna, would you like to introduce yourself to our listeners? Yes, okay, so my name is Sean alas. I'm from Ireland. And I wrote a story called the children of gods and fighting man, which is a historical fantasy. So we're intertwined Irish mythology. Alongside the historical events of the tenth century, which were quite violent and. Very, very intriguing and controversial, so it was a really interesting period of history to delve into. And I picked two women to be my protagonists and to kind of guide us through the story. Well, I think you can probably guess from my introduction that I really enjoyed your novel. I thought it was really clever. And I particularly liked the way it defied reader's expectation of its setting. Because I wondered whether there's still exists, this automatic assumption that historical novels, especially those set in an era with Vikings, for example, this is very male. Isn't there an expectation that these books will feature male protagonists and in particular male stories?
Nonprofits Are Messy: Lessons in Leadership | Fundraising | Board Development | Communications
"shauna" Discussed on Nonprofits Are Messy: Lessons in Leadership | Fundraising | Board Development | Communications
"Years. That was it. There is no question in my mind that it is very difficult for a development director to fuel up a board to get them into the invitation to business as you call it. If the executive director is not modeling that for them. Absolutely. I think you can be the messiah of fundraising, but if he person who runs the show, the person who speaks at the gala, the person who has probably had an influence in recruiting you to that board, if they do not value fundraising. If they don't model it, I think it's a really uphill battle for a development director to be able to do to work around that. And so hard. And I think that this is true. Maybe you'll agree because Shauna, we don't ask in any job interviews. We just don't ask enough good questions to the people that we're that are going to be our perspective. Supervisors are of perspective bosses our perspective partners. There was a study not long ago that I read that said that 70 percent of a person's job satisfaction is tied directly to the person who manages them. Yep, I say that. 70%. 70%. Oh, you might have told me that number.
Mindful Mama - Parenting with Mindfulness
"shauna" Discussed on Mindful Mama - Parenting with Mindfulness
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Just massage the shampoo into your scalp for 60 seconds, and then follow up with the conditioner. It's super simple, just like that. The grow revitalizing shampoo and conditioner kit is super easy to integrate into my hair routine and the quality is palpable and my hair is looking great. With vegamour, there's no risk when trying because they have a 90 day money back guarantee, but with 91% of customers saying that they saw visibly thicker hair with vegamour in just three months, you won't want to run out. Get the hair you've always wanted with vegamour. Go to vegamour dot com slash mindful. And use the code mindful to save 20% on your first order. That's vegamour dot com slash mindful. V E, G, a, MOU R dot com slash mindful code mindful to save 20% off at vegamour dot com slash mindful. So this is beautiful. And so hopeful. And I love it. And so let's talk about how we do that. And you, your latest book, good morning, I love you. There was a person in your life who made this suggestion, right? To greet yourself in the morning like this. Can you tell us the story about that? Yeah, so this was many years ago. It was actually when I was going through a very difficult divorce and I would wake up every morning with this pit of shame in my stomach. I was, I felt really literally sick from the divorce and terrified it was going to ruin our son's life and my meditation teacher suggested I start practicing more self compassion and she said, I want you to try saying, I love you, Shauna every day. And I was like, no way. It just felt the biggest one's so contrived and inauthentic. And I'm like, I'm sitting here hating myself. I'm not gonna say I love you. She saw my hesitation and she said, how about if you just say good morning, Shauna, right? Just greet yourself with kindness instead of like, you know, slapping yourself down first thing in the morning. And so the next morning I woke up, I put my hand on my heart, which is what she had suggested because it releases oxytocin, which is kind of the soothing love hormone. So I put my hand in my heart, took a breath, and good morning, Shauna. And I was kind of nice, right? Instead of the avalanche of fear and shame and judgment, I just, there was this flash of kindness. So I kept doing it, and I practiced for a couple it was actually a couple of months went by, and it was my birthday. And my son was with his father at a long planned family trip. And so I was alone. And it was probably my first birthday in my whole life I've ever been completely alone. And I remember waking up and I put my hand on my heart to do my good morning practice. And this image of my grandmother came to me. And she had passed a few years before and she was really my person. So this image of nana comes to me and I just felt her love. And before I knew it, I said, good morning, I love you, Shauna. And I felt it. It was as if the dam around my heart burst and this flood of love came pouring in. And you know, I wish I could say every day since then has been this bubble of self love and that's not true. But what is true is that pathway of self kindness of self compassion was established. And it continues to grow every day that I do the practice. You know, some days I do it and it feels awkward and some days I do it and I don't feel anything but some days I do it and I feel this profound sense of love of actually being on my own team. Which is radical, right? Normally we're our own worst enemy instead of actually supporting ourselves, which is what makes sense. And did you see this? I mean, obviously you're going through an incredibly difficult time. You're going through a divorce and all this change. But did you see, I mean, I guess I had a similar practice that I was suggested to me by somebody that was, you know, just may I love and accept myself exactly as I am. And look in the mirror and say, man, I love and accept myself exactly as I am. And I practice that. I said it to myself 5 times every day. And the mirror. And to me, for me, this practice, along with my meditation practice and things like, it became something that transformed the way I was in the world. You know, and allowed me to be in the world in a way where I could, I could just be more relaxed, be clearer with others, step into roles and things that were a little scarier, you know, that I would have held myself back from before. So I'm just wondering if something similar happened for you as far as how did this practice affect you? Yeah, I love that question. And gosh, in so many different ways. And I think the first thing you said that's really important is it does give you a little bit more courage to take risks or to be in difficult situations because you know that you have your own back. There's this sense of support, so I think that definitely it gave me a bit more confidence the other kind of unexpected but really profound change for me was I started to feel more kind of at home in myself. Like I was building a home within myself this safe place from which to explore the world. And I think developing this self love is really what allowed me to meet my current husband that I remember when I met him and it was many, you know, 8, 9 years after my divorce, but it was like this recognition of that safe place of like that sense of, oh, that's what love feels like is the sense of safety, which I think up until that point love had felt a little bit more tumultuous or a little bit and it was probably because that's also how I treated myself. And so for me, one of the most profound shifts was just learning how to love myself somehow allowed me to kind of find true love in partnership and it's kind of unexpected and I've been thinking about it a lot recently because I remember when I got divorced, I went to visit my grandparents. They were so right when I got divorced and I asked my non, I said, how do you do it? 'cause she and my grandpa were married 70 years, like in the most deep, true, passionate love you've ever seen. And she
Mindful Mama - Parenting with Mindfulness
"shauna" Discussed on Mindful Mama - Parenting with Mindfulness
"You're listening to the mindful mama podcast episode number 371. Today is a self compassion masterclass with doctor Shauna Shapiro. Welcome to the mindful mama podcast here. It's about becoming a less irritable, more joyful parent at mindful mama we know that you can not give what you do not have and when you have calm and peace within then you can give it to your children. I'm your host, hunter Clark fields. I help smart thoughtful parents stay calm so they can have strong connected relationships with their children. I've been practicing mindfulness for over 20 years on the creator of mindful parenting and on the author of the bestselling book raising good humans a mindful guide to breaking the cycle of reactive parenting and raising kind confident kids. Welcome, dear listener, so glad to connect with you again. Hey, if you haven't done so, please do me a favor, please hit that subscribe button. Don't ever miss an episode. And if you enjoy the mindful mama podcast, please go over to the Apple podcast and leave us a rating and review. It just helps that the podcast grow more. It takes ten seconds, I promise, and I just greatly appreciate it from the bottom of my heart. And just a moment, I'm going to be sitting down with doctor Shauna Shapiro, a bestselling author, clinical psychologist and internationally recognized expert in mindfulness and self compassion. She's a professor at Santa Clara university and has published over a 150 papers and three critically acclaimed books translated into 16 languages. Shona is a fellow of the mind and life institute, cofounded by the Dalai Lama. Her TEDx talk, the power of mindfulness has been viewed over 2.5 million times. So we are going to talk about self compassion because my friend, the research is in, shaming, and judging ourselves, do not help us become better parents. What do we need instead? So Shauna comes back on the mindful mama podcast. She is a previous guest to talk about her self compassion and her new guided good morning. I love you journal. So join me at the table as I talk to doctor Shauna Shapiro. All right, so Shaun, you're like a PhD or a psychologist, you're bestselling author. You've got a lot going for you, but even you have struggled with feelings of doubt and unworthiness. Am I right? Is this where this outcomes from? Yeah, no, it's something I've struggled with a long time and what was, I think, a breakthrough moment for me was realizing that I wasn't alone in that. That it's this sense of kind of self doubt or self judgment is somewhat universal. And what was interesting is when I became a clinical psychologist, I started working with lots of different patients and clients and people from very different walks of life. You know, I worked at the veterans hospital. I worked with women with breast cancer. I worked with stressed out college students and stressed out parents and high level executives. And everyone was talking about the same thing, right? This tremendous kind of self doubt. And so I started studying self doubt and really shame is what I was interested. Does it help? Does it help you become a better mother? Does it help you lose weight? Does it help you exercise more and what is so fascinating is that no, it doesn't. You know, that when we shame and judge ourselves, it actually shuts down the learning centers of the brain. So it keeps us stuck in repeating the same unhealthy habits or behaviors or patterns. And that self compassion is this very surprising kind of antidote. Or alternative, that when we treat ourselves with kindness, it actually both soothes our kind of stressful, painful moment. And turns on the learning and motivation centers of the brain that kind of gives us the resources we need to change. And so it's almost like the opposite of what you would think. Instead of pushing yourself and trying harder, you actually need to take care of yourself and treat yourself like you treated dear friend. Yes, yes. And if it's funny how it's like so difficult in our culture, I think that it's really, and I'm really curious about what it's like in other cultures too, because at least in the United States, right? It's sort of founded in this judeo Christian kind of like judgment, culture, right? It was a tool guilt and shame. But do you know if it's the same? I mean, a universally for all humans. It's been interesting and there have been cross cultural studies and there is this sense of kind of shame and guilt. It looks different in different cultures, especially kind of individual cultures versus collectivist cultures, but the sense of shame and guilt and not enoughness seems to be universal. And I want to be really clear that remorse, you know, kind of healthy shame, you know, not toxic shame. I think is important. It's important for us to recognize when we've made mistakes to feel the pain of it, that motivates us to change. But what happens is we tend to get stuck in the pain. And then it kind of takes all our energy away from healing or changing and sucks it into the shame. And I'll give you an example that happened recently is my son is at boarding school right now, which for me is really hard because I miss him a ton. And he was home visiting and I was so excited and I wanted everything to be perfect and I was trying to do everything right. And something happened. I don't remember in the kitchen when I was cooking and that's always a stressful place for me. And I kind of snapped at him, or I did something wrong. And he was like, whatever, and he walked into his room. And I remember sitting there and just feeling like, oh my God, this is like my one chance to reconnect with my son, and I've missed him so much, and I feel like waited for this moment and God, I'm a terrible mom, and I was just like all the shame and all this stuff judgment. And then, you know, luckily I've been studying this stuff for like 25 years. So I was like, wait a minute. This isn't helping him or me, right? Just keeping me stuck here. I'd rather use my energy to reconnect with him. But before I could do that, I had to take a moment and be like, oh, sweetheart, you feel really sad and disappointed. This wasn't how you wanted your first dinner to go. And that moment of compassion kind of woke me up and allowed me then to go into his room and breathe a little more slowly and deeply and connect in the way that I had wanted to. Yeah, I mean, to me, it makes so much sense. If you were going to be harsh and mean to ourselves, when we're not going to be able to pick ourselves up and move on and try new things and learn new things more easily, because we're going to be afraid of that inner voice, right? But if we are kind to ourselves, then it's like, okay, you know, we're for soothing ourselves, then we're able to just pick up and start again. And that's I mean, it's like a series of beginning anew. Again, and again, and again, I mean, that's what life is. That's what mindfulness is. I mean, that's what that's how we grow and learn is just we start again and we start again and start again. It gives us that ability to do that. Yeah, I love that you just said that about beginning again because for me, that's like one of the greatest gifts of mindfulness and self compassion is this capacity to begin again to recognize that this is a new moment that we can start afresh. And I think for a lot of people, they feel stuck. They feel like it's too late or I've made too many mistakes or I can't change. And I think for me, one of the most hopeful messages is neuroplasticity. This discovery, really, that our brain is always changing, that it's never too late, that you're never stuck, no matter how old you are, no matter what mistakes you've made, all of us have the capacity to literally re architect the very structure
"shauna" Discussed on Untangle
"Instead of the avalanche of fear and anxiety, there's this flash of kindness. And I kept practicing and about a month or two went by and it was my birthday. And I very clearly remember it because I was alone. My son was with his father and they're at this long planned family reunion that I didn't go to. And so I woke up and put my hand on my heart to do my good morning, Sean and practice. And all of a sudden this image of my grandmother, my nana came to me. And she had passed recently and I loved her so dearly and I just felt her love and before I knew it, I said, good morning, I love you, Shauna. Happy birthday. And it was as if the dam around my heart burst and this love came pouring in. This love from my grandmother from my mother, my own self love. And I wish I could tell you every day since then, has been this bubble of self love, and that's not true. But the pathway was established. And it's continued to grow every day. And I have practiced every day since that moment. Every morning putting my hand on my heart and saying, good morning, I love you. And some days what feels awkward and some days I feel nothing at all. But some days I feel this tremendous self love and for me it's really changed my life and that's why I titled my book good morning I love you. I gave a TED Talk with good morning. I love you in it and have really tried to share this practice with as many people as possible. Yeah. I think that's so great. And you talk about that idea of putting your hand on your heart when you wake up and it just bursting the dam around you and just letting you with these feel good emotions. What are some of the practices that you're most excited about in addition to that one? Which ones have had the biggest impact on you? There's so many. But let's see, what I'll say is there's a couple really from simple, powerful practices that I do every day. One of the practices is also a morning practice. Where I will ask and the reason I started doing this is I started researching what's called the negativity bias. And the negatively biases the tendency of the human brain to scan our environment for what is dangerous, what is negative? What is bad? And evolutionarily, this made sense. This was how we survived. We scanned our environment for danger and that protected us. But in our modern world, it's gotten a little askew. And it's important to counterbalance this negativity, so what I discovered is by waking up in the morning and orienting your mind towards our surprising and beautiful thing will happen, what it does is it actually impacts the reticular activating system, which is the brain's filter. It's called the RAS. And
"shauna" Discussed on Untangle
"It takes actively engaging it. You can't just passively learn. And the way that you engage neuroplasticity is first, you have to set an intention. It has to be important to you. You can't just rest back on your laurels. You have to say, I want to change this. I want to learn this new language, or I want to learn this instrument. And so it has to be something meaningful important. So that's the first step of neuroplasticity. That's also the first step of mindfulness. The second step of neuroplasticity is you have to be actively engaged. You have to be focused. You have to be paying attention. You can not be just spacing out. It doesn't happen. And again, that's the second element of mindfulness is paying attention. It trains you on how to do this. And third, neuroplasticity involves embracing errors and motivating yourself through positive self talk through encouragement that that's one of the best ways to engage neuroplasticity is through recognizing that learning is a practice, it doesn't happen overnight. We make mistakes in fact, the optimal learning rate is where you're making mistakes at about 15% of the time. And mindfulness teaches you how to bring this kindness and compassion to yourself. And so what I found is that mindfulness actually is this superpower to actively engage neuroplasticity and I believe that's one of the ways it's most transformational is that mindfulness teaches you how to learn. And whatever you're bringing that superpower to, it's going to support you. It's so interesting because I remember either in an interview or somewhere in the book, you were talking about how there were some books that inspired you. But the practices are the things that really made the difference. And I think this is what happens as we get older maybe past that 25 mark where you're forced to do continual learning and practicing of different things. I think you start reading about things. If you feel depressed, you buy a book about depression, if you feel like you want more joy in your life, you buy a book about joy. And you're reading, but you're not necessarily unless you decide to, as you would say, actively engage, you're not practicing. And is this what made all the difference for you? And is this what you're describing as the science of neuroplasticity, really? Exactly. And for me, as I said earlier, there's this phrase what you practice grows stronger. And it's the simplest clearest understanding of neuroplasticity. It's like you can read a menu, but it's not the same as eating the food. You can read about something but until you actually engage your own neural pathways, they're not going to change and no one can do it for you. No one can exercise for you. No one can meditate for you, no one can eat for you, no one can learn for you. And my book, good morning, I love you. It was much more popular than we expected. I received hundreds and hundreds of emails and beautiful notes. And yet so many people said, well, now what, what do I do? How do I keep going? This whole book, and there are many, many practices in the book, but the focus of the book is really on the science and story. And they said, I want support to keep going. And so that's why I created my new good morning. I love you journal. Which is a three month journey that takes people on daily practices to really support them in making these changes to rewire their mind for greater happiness for greater peace for better sleep. The only way to truly change is through practice. Yeah. And you have said before that, when you first learned loving kindness meditation, for example, you were a little bit resistant. I think you said it was too gooey. And here you've named your book, good morning. I love you. And so how did you get past that feeling of this really works? Pointing the lens inward with kindness like that. Well, I'm so glad you're asking this because I think a lot of times people hear the title or they hear me speaking about it and they kind of roll their eyes like, oh, she's talking about self compassion and loving kindness. And that's how I was at first too. And so I really understand. And the reason I named my book good morning, I love you, even though my publisher and everyone else said, don't do it. Because you're a scientist and everyone's going to think it's just all new AG and gooey and but the reason I did is because that single practice changed my life. And I learned it many years ago I was going through a pretty difficult divorce, our son was three years old and just a very terrible time to be getting divorced and yeah, but a young child and I remember waking up every morning with this hit of shame and fear and anxiety, how could I not have made this work and here I am a psychologist and a meditator and just feeling this tremendous sense of shame and my meditation teachers suggested I start a practice of love and kindness of compassion. And she said, I want you to start saying, I love you, Shauna every day. And I was like, no way. It just felt so inauthentic and so could try. And it really wasn't how I was feeling. And she said, fine, how about just saying good morning, Shauna, when you wake up, put your hand on your heart, it releases oxytocin, the hormone of love and safety. So it's good for you. And just say good morning. And so the next morning I resolutely put my hand on my heart, I took a breath, and I said, good morning, Shauna.
The One You Feed
"shauna" Discussed on The One You Feed
"The know is no not this meeting, no not this trip, no not this speaking event, but the yes is to life around the table to forgiveness to second chances to watching the sunset to being with my kids to holding hands with my husband. I needed a reminder that saying all the nose was in service of a much bigger, more beautiful yes. And then, you know, through this whole journey of the last couple of years, there were moments when I thought I'm amazed that anyone can even recognize me on the street because I feel so unfamiliar to myself. I look in the mirror and I almost don't recognize this face in front of me. And writing that last essay was sort of a way of saying like, 1 million things have changed, but a handful of things haven't. Fundamentally, I'm still a person who says yes to the best biggest, most beautiful things, and this is a handful of things that I'm going to keep saying yes to over and over and over again. Well, I think that is a beautiful place to end. So Shauna, thank you so much for coming on the show. It's been such a pleasure to talk to you. I really enjoyed the book. We'll have links in the show notes to your website to where people can find the book and all of that. So thank you so much. Thank you for having me. This has been really a pleasure. If what you just heard was helpful to you, please consider making a monthly donation to support the one you feed podcast. When you join our membership community with this monthly pledge, you get lots of exclusive members only benefits. It's our way of saying thank you for your support. Now we are so grateful for the members of our community. We wouldn't be able to do what we do without their support. And we don't take a single dollar for granted.
The One You Feed
"shauna" Discussed on The One You Feed
"You happy. Thanks for joining us. Our guest on this episode is Sean and Nick west, The New York Times bestselling author of many books, such as present over perfect, bread and wine, cold tangerines, and others.
The Times: Daily news from the L.A. Times
"shauna" Discussed on The Times: Daily news from the L.A. Times
"What they're looking for. Yeah, I mean, I know you've talked about how you developed an eating disorder and I'm just sort of curious what was the journey like to stop trying to be someone else. What was the turning point for you? Well, I had an eating disorder from the age of 12, like honestly, when my body started changing and then it just got progressively worse and then working in this industry and being literally judged against women who were completely different body types to me were just got worse and were really, really ramped up for a few years. And I met somebody on a movie and moved in with them as was my way in my early 20s. It's like we live together now. So I had this boyfriend and he found out that I hadn't eating disorder because it's hard to hide. And he was just heartbroken and he was just like, I don't want this for you. And he was trying to, you know, he's trying to say you're beautiful, you're pure foods that you don't hear that stuff when that's not how you feel right about yourself. So he started to do weird stuff where like he would cook for me and not let me watch him cook so I couldn't control it. And it was really upsetting. But then I would eat it. And then he would be like, just don't go to the bathroom because I wasn't like a binge eater, but I would eat something and then I would get rid of it. And I remember one day he started crying and he just said it so violent. So violent what you're doing to yourself and I thought, God, that sounds so awful is violent. And I do want to be free from it. And there was a couple of years after that, even after we broke up, I was still working on it, but that was a turning point for me and letting go of some of the crazy control that I had. Where I was able to go to a restaurant and like get pasta, you know? And even the night I exercised it obsessively so that my body still like moke the way I thought it was supposed to look and I was very, very, very careful and I think just over the years I got tired and also when I had my daughter I just was like any of the stuff that's lingering. I just don't I don't want to I don't want her to see somebody talking about their body in a way that's negative. I don't want her to see her mother refusing things and being like, oh actually I can't like I want her to see me eating things that are healthy. I wanted to see me on the peloton on the treadmill running around to going to exercise classes, but also I wanted to see me have a piece of cake or whatever, you know? And so far touch wood is on the three. She's never had any comment about her own body other than it's strong. And she's growing. She tells me all the time how beautiful I am and how soft I am. And my body's just kind of settled and do a place that is healthy and you know years and years of having an eating disorder kind of misses with your metabolism, unfortunately, but I'm just I'm giving my body some grace and just being like, all right, it's okay to have a person who looks like a lot of women look, you know, I think it's healthy for women. And the one thing is I don't want to be on screen judging my own body. I want to be on screen as a free person who's just living her life in the body that she has because that's the reality that's what we do. Don't go around my life just being like, oh gosh, if only I could fit into sample sizes. I just, yeah. It's a very long answer, sorry. It's a big topic, I guess. No, it is because obviously the pressure remains like it still is prevalent as ever. You shared the experience you had on yellow jackets with a crew member body shaming you. Do you feel like you're better equipped to navigate the pressures now? I think that I am because I've had such a wonderful response from women who feel very sane and who are like, oh my gosh, is someone who looks like me who's not talking about it? There's no scenes of Shauna being like actually I'm on a diet right now, you know, she's just like having sex with two different people. And like, you know, and I think that's been very powerful. So I feel empowered by that. At the time when that happened on the set, it was just one person. Who kind of took it upon themselves and I think once upon a time I would have really shrunk into myself and gotten really, really upset and tried to stab myself and tried to do what I could. And I asked the producers, I said, is this coming from you guys? Is where is this coming from? Because somebody said this to me and I just, if it's coming from you, I would rather it came directly from you and they were just mortified like we love you where not only are you fine we're excited that that's what you look like. Like there's no part of us that's wanting you to be anything different. So please don't entertain that. So that was a relief. Well, to build on the things that women go through. I mean, this show is about girls and women and trauma and survival. And it arrives at such a time and I'm wondering how you view its purpose against the current cultural backdrop. I mean, I feel so hopeless at this point in time. And I wish I didn't. I wish I felt more empowered, but it just feels like there are people in positions of power who are just choosing to do whatever they want. It never mind what the majority of this country believes or wants for themselves. So I just feel like the institutions have to change, you know, there's such bigger picture issues, but I do think it's great in a moment where women are having their rights taken away to have a show on television that is full of ferocious rageful living real women who are just feeling things and acting out and doing things and surviving and going through traumas and I think that's a very powerful thing to be able to watch, I think it's cathartic.
"shauna" Discussed on Typology
"When he writes about seeing a perfect ponytail on a little girl swinging back and forth as she walks across the cobblestone streets, well now I'm walking across the cobblestone street like what is there for me to see or feel or whatever. So it's a total favorite and I've heard from people who read audiobooks that the audio version is just incredible. Okay, title again. Love that. The book of delights. Got it, writing it down. Yeah. It is, I love it so much. And I'm now, we've given two titles to our listeners, right? And hopefully they'll go out and get those, but most importantly, we want people to go out and get, I guess I haven't learned that yet, discovering new ways of living when the old ways stop working. Shauna, I don't know when I'm next going to be in Manhattan, but I'm going to be one of those people who calls you and says, I'm only here for a day. Can we get together? You know what I'm going to say. I wouldn't say yes, of course. All right. We love that. It's coming. People listen to me. You can go to Sean's website, Sean and Nick was SHA, you and. Dot com and cross her socials. It's at S nist. Shauna, we love you. Thank you so much. Always great to be with you. Thank you so much. And typology Friends remember these words may you have love, may you have joy, may you have peace? May you have healing and may you have rest until next time.
"shauna" Discussed on Typology
"Book, I guess I haven't learned that yet, discovering new ways of living when the old ways stop working, practices, you mentioned the word practices before, you know, you're in a hard season and the old ways of stopped working. Give me some practices, would you? Because I could put them in my little quiver. Well, obviously we've talked about walking. We've talked about connection. I think for many people, certainly for me, the impulse when I'm in great pain is to isolate. And I have learned to connect as a discipline as a practice. To send a text that I don't want to send that says, I can really do some connection right now. Can we get some time in the next couple days? Therapy has been a huge part of that for me. Spiritual direction. It's been another practice that's been very valuable to me. Some of these sound really silly, but one of the things that my therapist encouraged me to do at a certain point was to he said, I want you to have a creative outlet that's not words. You're coming up with a lot of words. You've got a lot to say. A lot of it comes out in words, I get it. But I want you to do something that has no words associated with it. And so I started painting watercolors, and they are terrible. They're truly awful. Like my kids even know they're awful. But it's been important for me to just do things that are creative, but not productive or useful. The point of it is the making of it, not the beautiful thing that comes later. So that has been an important one. And then writing was more of a spiritual practice this time around. I wrote almost 200,000 words in the books not nearly that long. I just had to write and write and write my way through it. And then another one was showing up at church on Sunday mornings. I understand why lots of people don't do that anymore. And also, there were a lot of times, and I had to kind of push myself to do it. And I never regretted it. I always found that time with our community praying and saying the creeds together and receiving the eucharist to be kind of a grounding and restorative practice, even when it was the last place I wanted to be. Yeah, there's something powerful. I remember going to church once in a very in a very bad place. And I turned to this friend of mine. We were reciting the nicene creed. And I turned to him and I go, I don't think I believe a word of this. Right? And he looked back at me and he said, don't worry. I'll say it for you. I love that. Wow. See, I'm going to my four happy place right now. Tears are coming up. But there was something so beautiful about it that he said, look, you can rent my faith today. And I'll carry you. And then next week, maybe you'll believe it again. You know, it's there's something so restorative and beautiful about that kind of community. Absolutely, yeah. And I can think of so many times when I couldn't sing, but I loved hearing people sing, or, you know, I think there is a really, and I also sometimes feel what your friend felt like. I'm going to show up this week and say the creeds for all the people who can't this week. I want to be the one who can. Because for a long time, I was the one who couldn't or whatever. I think that's a really beautiful way that we build those kind of spiritual communities together. All right, Shauna, what a lovely conversation.
"shauna" Discussed on Typology
"I had thought about geography. And my own personal growth as a person and said to myself, I am in the wrong place. The things I see, the things I smell, the things I do, I'm in the wrong place as a four. I'm surrounded by investment bankers. I'm just not in the right place. And when I did find the right place, I blossomed. I flowered. And it sounds like you have found your right place. You know, I think that's true. And I think it's especially true for Erin. I think he would say that where we had been living and we was at the same time that he grew up in, was not the right fit for him. And when we moved here, like we were here, like maybe three days, and he said, Shauna, I'm gonna die in this city. And I was like, are you sick? He was like, no, this is my spiritual home. And I'm going to live here as absolutely long as possible. He just felt that click of resonance. And actually, when I speak with when I talk with my friends here, tell me if this resounds with you. I think the people who have the hardest time in New York are threes. Because I think that desire to achieve and chase and network and appear and have more and position feels almost insatiable. I think it can be a very, there's never enough. You never can get far enough or climb high enough. And then that can feel very kind of stressful and depleting over time. Yeah, I mean it depends on the neighborhood, right? Yeah. But I think on the whole, I experienced Manhattan as a very 8 town. I mean, it's a very aggressive town. People, you know, you could walk you're mentioning earlier. You could walk down any street, especially in midtown, with a spear in your chest, and no one would stop to help you.
"shauna" Discussed on Typology
"Looking for answers. They're looking for healthy space. And so many of us, we learned how to deny our emotions. We learned how to stuff our emotions and emotions, it's like a beach ball, right? If you try to deny or stuff your emotions and you push that beach ball underwater, it's gonna pop out and it's usually gonna pop out sideways. And so learning how to just name those emotions and not deny those emotions. Doing good, intelligence around your body. The body never lies. There's so many incredible books on body intelligence that I read when I was researching this book, but so many of us have been unkind to our bodies. We've just kind of believed that they were going to always do what we needed them to do. And we haven't nurtured them or cared for them or even thanked them. I have a letter in the book. I wrote a thank you note to my body. You know, I grew up in my mom made me write thank you notes for all my gifts. And I realized I had never thanked this vessel for all that it had done for me. All the ways that it is so supportive. All the ways that it is trustworthy, right? It is this incredible vessel that in the Christian faith tradition we believe the Holy Spirit comes and lives in. And yet I'm not writing thank you notes to my body. Yeah. So yeah, having that intelligence. And then I would say the practice of gratitude is a really significant practice for being in the present moment. And the practice of pausing and belonging with one another. And really taking in one another's presence. And seeing each other. The human heart has basically the desire to be seen and to be heard. That's what everybody wants. Do you see me? Do you hear me? And when we practice belonging with one another, my friend Shauna, who wrote the forward to this book, she's been a great teacher to me of this. She especially does this with practices around the table and through hospitality. And the gift of being seen, being heard, being welcomed to somebody's table, right? It's such a beautiful experience. So yeah, those are really the practices of presence. Yeah. Paying attention to our thoughts. Our body, our emotions, gratitude, and belonging. You know, it's interesting, as you were speaking, I was thinking about the triads. And what we tend to do is over privilege one of our three brains. We have three brains, right? We have the head. That's an obvious brain. But our heart has its own intelligence. Right? So there's another brain, right? Tells us things all the time. And then, you know, the obviously the body, the gut, has its own intelligence. It tells us stuff all the time. We tend to think we have one brain. We have three brains. If we want to live this whole people, we have to bring all three into balance. And so part of the journey then for 8 9s and ones is to elevate or to give a privilege equal privilege to the heart, but I just say 8 times one's yeah. To the heart and to the head, right?
"shauna" Discussed on High Tea
"Right, let's all really all I had to talk about on this topic. Just take going into our last conversation about mental health. You just have to take care of yourself. And it is a multi layer thing. It's a time consuming thing. It is a life fucking journey in this fucking world. Just like we're doing now as long as you can verbalize and write down or just mentally take a note of what you need to change. That's like the first step in knowing that you're on the right track. And I'm so tired of hearing as you're speaking about changing yourself. I'm so tired of people always saying take me as I am or watch me as I go. Because I don't feel like there's anything wrong with changing. There's nothing wrong with changing, changing is a level up for yourself and or the people around you. Because if you don't change, you're just going to live your life alone loneliness. If you're not going to change certain qualities about yourself, how do you expect to grow? That's the whole point of growth is a change. Evolving. And if you're not learning, then you're not growing, and you're also not changing. That may sound really repetitive, but that's literally like that's the truth. The people who do that something that I had to learn. Yeah, Shauna says you'll be lonely. Yeah, 'cause I was one of those take me as I am or watch me as I go people. And I realize how detrimental that is. To have a future life or just having something outside of what I already have. Because there will be people who will be like, all right, then I watch you as you leave goodbye. And you limit opportunities with that mindset as well. So you do. Well, I mean, don't get me wrong. There are situations where that does apply. Oh yeah, 100%. So don't take that as saying that tell everyone to go fuck off. Some people deserve being told fuck off. And some people are trying to help you grow as a person. Oh, yeah. That's what we mean. Just so it's very fucking clear out here. All we're saying is was all we're saying is that there comes missed opportunities with that mindset. That's all we're saying. You can't be.
Long Story Short with Megan and Wendy: The Podcast
"shauna" Discussed on Long Story Short with Megan and Wendy: The Podcast
"And it's a bummer. Well i was. I was like super freaked out because day. Five when i had it I had a hair appointment. And i went to the salon. I knew i didn't have covert. Because i hadn't been exposed but i went to the salon and at my salon. They have those really good like What's that brand bowl spa. what is it called. Oh vol you spa. that's it. They have those candles there. And i always love the smell them so i'm smelling the new ones and i. I could not smell anything. My face was like buried deep into these little. Like and i thought oh my god i have covert. I can't smell anything. i can't taste anything. I had minor meltdown. And i went and got a cova test that day. Insurance out negative. So i don't know what this cold weather but it really kick my ass mine too. And i had like one day where i was basically delirious on the couch i was. It was bizarre. So that's where we were. We were not in a place to be recording podcast. I completely lost a couple of days was could not have sat here talking for forty five minutes now. I have some exciting news to tell everybody waits document this well if you follow our instagram you side already. But i got my eyebrows. Microbe-related that means tattooed. Yes my friend shauna. I sent her a text. I was like. I got my. I got my eyebrows microbe laden. She's like only god. You're a savage your first tattoo and you get it on your face.
How Nurses are Transforming the Future of Health with Bonnie Clipper and Shawna Butler
"Both of you have just an extraordinary amount of experience. a ton of credibility. You've done so much in your careers you know. I'm just excited for what we're gonna cover today before. We dive into the specifics around what you're doing your current roles. Tell us a little bit more about what inspires your work and your journey in healthcare. Do you wanna go first. Sure i'd be happy to. So i have been a nurse for quite a long time. It's interesting to me because certainly nursing his evolved as has healthcare and for me. I wanted to make sure that. I had an avenue to provide my input. And i'll give you an example way back early on. When i was a bedside nurse actually was working in an organization and As was kind of typical for the time we had bins on the counter that had medications in them. Nowadays we would never think of that. We would put them in a locked storage device or we had bins next to each other. There was kind of normal saline and heparin and potassium and other things. That just happen to be in these bins on the counter. A remember looking at them and actually seeing that assailing flush was right next to the end of tasks him and they both were the same size and they had the same color plastic tops and at the time even be in kind of a pop of a nurse that struck me as being a really bad thing right. An accident or disaster wage right. I know shauna and the crazy thing is that when i talked to the manager about it they said okay. Great thanks for finding this. We're gonna put it on next month safety committee meeting and it just made me scratch my head thinking why can a nurse at the bedside not effect change fast enough that can prevent something really bad from happening. So that's kind of what gave me a little bit of a push to really find how i could get. My voice heard and intervene. Make things better.
Eric Harley and Gary McNamara
Suspect Linked to Burleson Officer Shooting, Caught Near Oklahoma
"Burlison police a suspect Jerry Don elders, is in police custody after having been found in Gainesville, Texas. Burlison chief Billy Cornell, says elders Shauna to Burleson officer during a traffic stop yesterday morning and his link to the shooting death of a woman who he stole a car from the officer was transported by another officer to John Peter Smith Hospital where he has alert and in stable condition. We do not believe he has life threatening injuries, but we're still investigating all the shots and how many Texas. DPS issued a blue alert on Wednesday and elders was arrested shortly thereafter
The Great Outdoors
11 soldiers sick after drinking antifreeze chemical, Army says
"It turns out to be anti freeze that 2nd 11 Fort Bliss soldiers in Texas. The Army says the soldiers thought they were drinking alcohol, but instead we're drinking antifreeze. The ingestion of substances along the lines of ethylene glycol can generate immediate damage to the kidneys. Deputy Commander of Medical Services Shauna Scully says the soldiers were treated at the Army Hospital. Five are still hospitalized. Two in critical condition the incident happened is the group is sending a 10 Day training exercise.
11 soldiers sick after drinking antifreeze chemical, Army says
"Launching a criminal investigation after 11 Fort Bliss soldiers were hospitalized with antifreeze poisoning. Katie GPS Angelika Jager reports from El Paso. The 11 soldiers required medical attention after drinking what they thought was an alcoholic beverage. It contained anti freeze. The soldiers were sick and Thursday at the end of a training exercise. To remain in intensive care. Colonel Shauna Scully is deputy commander of medical services that William Beaumont Army Medical Center. Thankfully, all 11 soldiers who were admitted to our facility. Two in critical condition and the rest in guarded condition have shown signs of significant improvement. Overnight. Antifreeze causes kidney damage and in high doses can lead to death. The Army has launched a criminal investigation into the poisonings. I'm
BAME and Access to Mental Health Services
"Hi everyone and i'm delighted to entities episode three f series of Podcasts discussing access to services from young females from an asian heritage and today we are joined once again by my colleague. Helen and we also have rush knee with us today. I liza hello on shawna. So for those of you. That have listened to our previous cheap. Put 'cause we've discussed on. Lots of different aspects of how savage says at kansas is support young people from an asian backgrounds. And today what we're going to look at is whether or not you guys. I know that this Understanding and knowledge among staff cam stalls. In exactly how we can support our young people. Helen that this is a subject that you gave. You'll really passionate about that is in operating so of enjoyed during the costs. Kind of getting an understanding. I'm more awareness of wrong credible. Young people of what that might fail. Obey like am i guess. Kind of following on from that Loss podcast kind of what to look at things and improvements recommendations. You know that we can take forward as a service as well as the young ppo. I'm professionals that might be listening to the podcast. Thank you so. I suppose my question than israeli d'ici fail say all four of us can about the fact that you're no longer using cam. Savage says bought when you were being supported by and the staff at cams or actually this could be open to to what the professionals that have supported you in your johnny attacks a gp all people within your school. Do you think that they had enough of an understanding about how your needs might potentially be different from from other people's Apostle Bitings were any different in. The sense needs in times of culturally like really normal about set. You know appreciate the not making a big deal out of things just because the Looking at whether or not deny like religious whether or not a so if they have different difficulties that was good. I'm shoulder lost. I don't remember they didn't make a big deal about it. Just because of what. I look like riches. We'll stay that treating you differently. Which is a nice thing knoxville. Thanks shauna the. I wonder if anyone else has any comments to add. Should you know it. Might be the ashley Made to Not treat you any differently but it might be you know should we. Should we do you not think we should be asking questions about cultural belief. Liza am definitely like relate to sean point to some extent about Maybe needs not being so different. I've mentioned before how identify more westernized nigeria saw. I'm granted very white area and all that kind of stuff. But then i'm go to say. I think i appreciated the effort. That was made by safeguarding. A kind of team. I say cutting officer at school and also my therapist is well. An effort made to try and educate themselves surprise In like i think. I mentioned previous. 'cause my therapist actually ost Their religion is a big thing for me about coach
Between The Lines
How to move forward with China
"To fourteen point list of grievances via the australian media. Second wine joined beef. Bali timber lobster call among our exports that the chinese communist party has imposed tariffs on. And then that tweet. This is the tweet of the posting of a digitally altered of an australian soldier about to slit the throat of an afghan child. The chinese embassy issuing a bellicose statement the rage in roar of some ustralian politicians and media was misreading and reaction. It said to deflect public attention from the horrible atrocities by sickness soldiers and to blame china for the worsening of bilateral ties. So what's going on. He and asha camera respond. Jeff rabi is a former australian ambassador to the people's republic of china and he's author of china's grand strategy and australia's feature in the new global order. That's just been published and it's available in all good bookstores jeff. Welcome back to the show so some great to be back now. I your thoughts about beijing's response to australia in recent weeks so we have that list of the foreign complaints the wind terrace and of course that tweet while a say i up disappointing to see the slights that have been made After the two quite constructive comments at the triumph prime minister a last week quite clearly. The prime minister was Diplomatically signaling That there was a strong wish to start a process of getting back to some sort of more normal relationship between the two countries the product make though it sounds dramatic when you run those three things together the way you have done that certainly not the same thing. And i'm not sure that they're all necessarily coordinated. I mean the fourteen points clearly seems to be freelancing by the embassy on matters that well known and in the public record in any case at a very odd way of putting something out if you leak it to a channel nine television crew that seems to be pretty casual behavior by the embassy then the tariff spo there has been a processing trained for months on the wind tariffs and i do understand that that was the normal process and the strain companies were busily making written submissions as part of that process. And then the tweet The present time it sounds like it's been contrived by the chinese foreign ministry as individual action. it was a tweet that was particularly widely on social media by a now nationalist artist and twitter and the foreign ministry spokesperson on his private twitter account. Pinder to name and so it's philippine. Middle level action doesn't really look to millions of any of these really coordinated broad cross section of the australian people just looking at the y. People who've responded this week is there is outrage and surely win china. does things like. This doesn't make it harder for people like you because you've been an eminent company on this issue for several years now. Hugh watt a bobcar. Pass gas on this program. Of course the former prime minister paul keating. Doesn't it make it hot. A all of you to make the case that al leaders should try to rebuild trust with such a regime yet. I can understand the public outrage especially the media is going into overdrive steer and just as you have said running all these things together as a coordinated action from the state It does make it harder to get sensible constructive discussion going a story about how we deal with these things. I like to find myself in such august company as you outlined. And you might add gareth evans. Many others that to the group as well but it certainly history doesn't help and it's difficult context in which to conduct foreign policy. What we're seeing is what is like to live in the situation with china relationships In a very poor state now. Other people in camera that i see welcome this their peopling camera who have the view that bad relations with china are inevitable. This is the new normal. We should get used to it and lupus it while the questioning myself. And the august company you've being linking me with. Is this the best interest of australia. And it also basic question. Your what has australia down to bring on china's in this way why you think china is picking on again. Picking on is quite pejorative. They're not doing this to other states. Our other key point. And i would phrase that differently tom i would say how is it that astray amongst like minded friends and allies other liberal democracies in the world in the region why's at the trial has become an outlaw and i think that really needs to be part of the public discussion. Isn't the reason. The australia is so over exposed to chinese pressure in beijing. Nosy so the chinese leaders going to inflict pain on australia whenever they can't australia. And not the other like minded way boy more. In other countries we ought to forty percent of our exports to china. No other country has that kind of exposure. I prefer countries in the region. China is by far the largest trading power. I mean that exposure would be the same for korea south korea which is liberal democracy in the region. it would be near that level. For nearly all the countries in the east asian region china is the dominant economic patna of all of the countries in the region and that is just a fact at its reflects. The extent to which china has grown as the dominant economic power in east asia. Alexander downer. The former. Foreign minister says that now's the time to reduce our exposure to china. But what everyone is saying. There's nothing new novel in that. And obviously when people start to realize that we are going to have for a long time a difficult and challenging relationship with china's manage. That's a fairly obvious. Point to make interesting from In addition to being former minister former director of the board of while clay. And very active Proponent in boosting. Australia china trade relations phrase time as soon as minister and i work very closely with him in that and i think we achieved a lot. So why wouldn't you wanna diversify every sensible business. Every sensible company diversifies the port made over and over again on this aspect is that it's going to be very hard. Because of the absolute scale and growth and prosperity of china. You are a foreign policy realist. All gripe house ruthless and that includes chana hardball at every turn and the stronger. China gets the more likely to throw its wide around now to the extent. These realist analysis is correct. How on earth do we solve. this problem. absolutely correct agree with all those points. Another point that needs to be made. And you don't make it much tom. And your pride yourself as being a realist and that is the relationship is asymmetrical that is effect. We need china. More than china needs us. This is not a comfortable place for us to be but it's a place we are. It's a place where we're stack and will remain and so We need to work out how to manage that relationship and we haven't done a particularly good job of a judging by the state rewritten today. So although you express yourself in a different way you essentially gray with the foreign policy realists professor join me shauna regular guest on this program and he argues that his china's power increases its definition of its national interests will grow and then beijing will seek a survey influence in areas on which its future security and prosperity dependent in response. The us will go to great lengths to stop china's rises. It essentially. your argument is well up a poet. I'm a great Admire of joint mish as well. I differ with him on a couple of points but his analysis and arguments have been hugely influential in helping me shape my thinking about these But i put on sphere of influence is. I think that's already happened. I think china is the dominant paranagua this at length in my book in eurasia from the east china sea to also china is the dominant parent. That's happened largely because sanctions against russia poor economic performance by russia Pushback from from europe against russia has meant that brushes had to cede to china's ascendancy in eurasia and so very part of the world. And i think we now live in a world of michigan talks about a world of two great powers with boundary orders and in the question then becomes is some equilibrium at stable between the two. And i believe there is.
Russia's "Sausage King" killed with crossbow in his home sauna
"Well, you know the oligarchs. We have them. They have them. The Russian oligarchs really are in control of so much, so it's particularly extraordinary. When something untoward happens to one of them. This Russian oligarch was killed in a sauna. With a crossbow. Yeah, that makes it bazaar. He was murdered with a crossbow while sitting in an outdoor sauna. Vladimir Morrow, Goethe. Owns some of Russia's largest meat processing plants. It was nicknamed the Sausage King. BBC reporting that Marv Maroon Golf and his partner We're in the outdoor Shauna when they were attacked by masked assailants. It happened in a country of state that he has about 25 miles outside of Moscow. Russian authorities said the intruders tied him and the woman up his partner. They demanded cash before killing. The woman managed to escape and alerted the cops. But he is dead. Police found the crossbow at the scene. The getaway car was found in a nearby village. There are no arrest in this case and one oligarch, the sausage king. Bites the dust.
Raising Good Humans
Dr. Shauna Shapiro on using mindfulness to help grow our emotional resources and our childrens self regulation.
"So I'm open. I'm ready. Can a couple of minutes a day? Do Anything. Absolutely, in fact, change happens in a moment right? We also have an A. Or insight, and it also happens over time and so there's this kind of interesting paradox or juxtaposition that you don't want to limit what change can happen 'cause I've seen huge change happened a moment and you also don't want to underestimate the power of subtle changes over time, and that's why my theme is. What you practice grows stronger than really the only thing you have control over is setting your intention setting your compass direction you WanNa head over and over as best you care not perfectly everyday practice mattis taking a deep breath today and again tomorrow practice counting to three before you snap at your child practice putting your hand on your heart and often yourself kindness once today. And love those because it's so. Manageable and rate. Now, if we can take those small moments, it's incredible if you just yeah find those moments of breath. How different your interaction can be with your family. Absolutely, and also the body would I've noticed recently 'cause as I said, we have four kids and a dog in their lives chaos going on. Is really softening body because what I noticed that sometimes in the kitchen and unlike braced for war A. Tie My shoulders here in like my buds pledged district to soften rate in just just leading the body settled and I feel my feet night truly wiggle my toes because that unlike there we go and so I think it's really about remembering and so had we remember is we practice in eventually it becomes a habit I remember growing up whenever my daddy get angry and we all know he really you could feel it he would close his eyes. And he would take a deep breath with his handling this. And I was normal I thought that's what you did. That's appearance do when they get angry and it would always calm him down not that he would be super happy afterwards yet that was his automatic habit when instead of the Elliott you that's what he would do and what I realized from that is it wasn't that my dad didn't get angry wasn't that he was perfect he got angry. But that was his goal to practice, and so if we can start to implement these practices in our life, it's like when I get angry, I put my hands behind Madonna. Hop on one foot I don't really care what it is interrupt your pattern and interrupt superhighways of habit so that we can start to carve out new pathways and what you just described with your father sounds like it was constructive. He wasn't not getting angry because sometimes you do need to get angry to meet whatever your emotional goal is is self-regulation is just it's intentional and so that breath made his anger tension on I imagine sometimes when he took the breath, he was like actually. I'm that that anger not where I wanna go I don't know better know his experience but having that moment to I would love for you to talk a little bit about making those emotions constructive instead of just pretending they're not they're exactly. So what this does is it allows us to have the full spectrum of motion. It's not saying push. Those are bad never have does it saying being human? You're going to have the full spectrum, but you need to know how to wisely. Relate to regulate your emotions and so when anger comes up, what mindfulness does is puts you back choice it doesn't say that you're not gonNA still be angry, but you're backing choice. So you can use the anger wisely instead of reactively and causing more harm and I think that's really the key to to mindful -regulation of motion is we welcome all of our emotions we see them clearly, and then we respond
Ellen Pompeo Hints at Grey's Anatomy End, Khloe Defends Kim's 40th B-Day Trip Amid Backlash
"It's time for some daily. Pop Morgan. Is out today suggested I joined once again by actress kitchen night polio. Thank you for joining us from Georgia. Loving for having me. Thank you. says. They do even. Just in case. Well, thank you very awesome. I want some. Okay. One of your favorite TV shows may be ending grey's anatomy has been on for fifteen years and Ellen pompeo just made a very shocking confession about what is next she tells variety. We don't know when the show is really ending it, but the truth is this year could be at this is also the last year of Ellen's contract. Okay. So Justin. Do you think they should end the show now while they're on top because people are still loving the show. Grey's anatomy is Kinda Sorta like young and the restless in the sense that like it can go forever and could miss a whole year. I'm back watched two episodes and then be caught up again you know what I mean. Yeah and the answer minds right and almost reminds me of the time. Do you remember when the hills was I going off Air Lauren Conrad was going to walk out the church and it was going to finish and she thought the curtains were going. To close and all of a sudden kristen cavalieri walks in and they revamp did I think Ellen pump? POMPEO is gray but the show can survive without her but can't survive without Shonda see. So Shonda, of course, just send them big NETFLIX's deal and it's to my understanding from what I was reading that she is literally parting ways with ABC completely, which may mean she's not GonNa have our hands on this show as much as she has in the past maybe not at all. And without shining once you've created show. Yeah. But once you've created a show, it's your show and I mean who's changed things happen we don't know how her contract is structured it could just be humming net flicks. One hundred percent but do I mean I think ABC has Shonda rhimes was so early in her career I don't think any see would have given Shonda. rhimes so much ownership over that show where she could move it to ABC but I think that Shonda rhimes, this voice, her blood, her sweat is so in this show that yes if shot arrives went to Netflix she will still get her coins from this show and she will let Iran. We'll be run by somebody else. That's does her voice. Okay. So listen I know somebody who used to write for how to get away with murder and he told me that his job was literally pointless because he says we were instructed to come in with ideas and we always did we came in and we said here's this. Here's that here's this but it always went with whatever Shauna had envisioned. Thank you for your ideas. Those are good and all but. We're going to do this. Appreciates the help but what did you say? No I said well, clearly, she has something you know I know it can be frustrating for someone to shoot down your ideas but the longevity of her career and all the shows that she is there's a reason why they've been successful and I know the Debbie Allen has been doing a lot with race mad at me. You know. You never know she still no matter she goes to net she still you know that's still her show. They can't take that away even if she starts creating another network. One hundred percent you know what? I am all about being petty and I heard about the drama shameless ABC for not giving Shonda that extra fast pass at Disneyland Shame on you. But if I'm Shonda RHIMES, I don't give y'all keep the show going on still get the cash I'm not gonNA. You know bitch and fuss about it. I have two kids got college should be four and I love living fancy like Oprah. We'll see what happens but I know there's some diehard grey's anatomy fans that are just not ready to say goodbye yet. So we will have to wait and see okay Khloe Kardashian has a message for the people who are hitting on Kim's birthday trip. She told Ellen Degeneres. She knows this year has been very frustrating for everyone but there Was a good thing. I did hear that people were upset that we all went out of town but also its her fortieth, and this is something that she really wanted to do for us. It was such a nice thing and being there with all the precautions and everything that we took and being there and how grateful everybody was for the tourism aspect of it and how. So many people said that we were their first party or guests that they've had in months and what it's done like for them to be able to pay their bills or to do. So for their family I mean just hearing those. Yeah. Messages when we were there, it was really a we felt really good and we felt so safe. So safe Wow. You know I knew the minute that first photo went. Oh, here we go. It's GonNa be a firestorm and For me I went to Cynthia Bailey's wedding in Atlanta and a lot of people were giving flack about that I thought about it for ten seconds and when it's a milestone, a wedding or fortieth birthday or something. Of that magnitude, it's hard. Skip it. It's hard to say or I'll just wait until next year. So I completely understand why there was so much backlash but I also understand why you wanted to continue in go on with it because you know sometimes. Life Yeah Kisha. And and the truth is that you know they did everything I think unfortunately, the Kardashian. Sometimes are just a position where you're kind of damned if you do damned if you don't. I'm not mad at him. I'm like, go ahead live your best life you share money you should be able to spend it how you WANNA spend it and they did everything they could to keep people safe in terms of quarantine in terms of getting Kobe task I mean, what more can you ask for it? Some people are upset because they don't have the option to do it, but you know sometimes you you can't just live perilously through the and plan your trip that newest you.
Jason and Alexis
Insiders scoff at Meghan and Harry's reported $150M Netflix deal
"We've been talking the last couple of days about Meghan Markle and hair, ese. Deal with Netflix. Okay. And there are some reports that have been saying that Prince Harry in Meghan Markle that their production deal signed this week with Netflix could be worth as much as $150 million. And Hollywood insiders are saying Absolutely not. There's no way it could be that much because they're producers, not content creators. So what The comparison is is to some of these deals like Shonda Rhimes, For example, you know who's created Grey's Anatomy on everything. She has a reported $150 million deal with Netflix and then the creator of Black ish Kenya. Barris. Also, that deal reported to be worth $100 million. But there's a top Hollywood agent who says that he'd be shocked if Meghan and Harry's deal was worth more than two million a year because they aren't creating these shows, you know, like Shonda And Kenya are creating the concepts writing. I mean, Shauna writes everything. Yeah, Yeah. Big difference. Mona Content she produces is extraordinary. Unbelievable. I mean, she writes she has a team to about 20. But yeah, I mean her her vision. Her concepts exacts important. You're showrunner and your head writer. They set the tone of everything right. So Harry and Megan, they're going to just kind of source it out and and they're going to hear a name on it. Yeah, and they're going to be producer so they'll put their name on it. But there will be other producers as well.
BBC World Service
Survivor: Livestock ship with over 42 crew sank off Japan's coast
"Carrying more than 40 crew and nearly 6000 cattle has gone missing off the coast of Japan as a powerful storm. Typhoon, My psych lashes the region, his Shauna Khalil. The Gulf Life stock freighter was on its way from New Zealand to China. The ship sent out a distress signal overnight and Japan's coast Guard in Maritime Self Defense Force began searching the waters. A Filipino crew member wearing a life vest was found drifting. The Coast Guard said his condition was not life threatening. Strong winds and torrential rain from typhoon My sack are hampering efforts to locate the ship and rescue the rest of the crew.
"We'll take our first steps through the crumbling remains of Letchworth after this. The architecture of Letchworth village was meant to evoke Thomas Jefferson's Monticello. Built in nineteen eleven and feels New York, but two, thousand, three, hundred, sixty, two, acre Hudson Valley estate was a state institution for the segregation of the epileptic and feeble minded. A small stream known as Misiones Creek Bisects the property dividing it between homes for boys and girls ranging from children to teenagers. Letchworth. Village was presented as the Paragon of care and research in its time. It was entirely self-sufficient. Thanks to the large farm on the property. The young patients tend to the fields and animals on worked as serpents in their caregivers homes. Others were given vocational training in carpentry welding and shoe repair. It was its own ecosystem which also meant that secrets were easier to keep. The attendants were screaming again. So Shana pulled threadbare pillow head trying to drown them out. They did this every night drank themselves silly, and then yelled for hours. If. She was lucky. One of the superiors would come and break things up. She was rarely lucky. She peaked your head out from under the pillow to see if emily was doing. Okay. But the new girls bed was empty. No one was supposed to be out of bed. Bad things happen to the children who left their rooms at night. Shoshana didn't move. She prayed watching be entity pillow until her eyelids grew heavy waiting for emily to return. But by the time, her eyes closed the sheet still lay vacant in the dark. As always the children were roused before for chores. Shoshana was somehow relieved define emily's large is inches from her own she woke. Emily was holding a small cloth doll your hands Je Shana asked if it was from home, shook her head slowly. She said she had found it just sean a told you to put it back. Emily said our jaw firmly. To shot at tried to remind herself that emily didn't know yet. She didn't know everyone would try to take it from her how rare it was to have something to hold onto. Maybe, Shauna was being overly cautious. The doll wasn't much to look at anyways it was smeared with. Blood. One of its is had been torn off the clock had faded to a urine yellow maybe summit at thrown it away. Emily dragged the Dow behind her as she worked with Shoshana in the doctor's house, his family had everything. They weren't allowed to have soft sheets fluffy beds nice. Clothes. When she entered the building in the morning, she couldn't help feeling like emily's new doll broke in and out of place. At bed check to Shana watched as emily carefully hid the dollar under her bed. She made been new but even she knew the attendance stole everything. Shoshana. Rubbed at the fading bruises on her arms. Bruises, the same attendance had given her. It was inevitable that emily would get treated the same at some point. But just sean would protector as long as she could. China won't once again to Emily's big brown is the little girl was terribly dirty aside from the pristinely new dress she was wearing emily insisted that she had found it but just Shana narrowed her is she needed to know the truth she couldn't protect her if she didn't know who emily was stealing from. Emily hesitated. Shoshana. Pulled the dress off her and stood up using the extra three inches. She had over emily for extra intimidation. Emily signed and took Shawna's hand. She wouldn't tell Shauna. Could show her. The two girls snuck out of the dormitory avoiding the night attendance emily letter toward the woods for a small hand into Shawna's large one. The off-duty workers were so much louder out in the open where there are no walls to drown out the sounds. She could hear their argument in full now followed by the sound of a fist hitting skin. She knew that sound well and she hated it.
Live Happy Now
Regulating Emotions With Dr. Shauna Shapiro
"Welcome to episode two hundred, Sixty, nine of live, happy now. This is Paula Phelps and I'd like to thank you for joining us again this week. If you've ever had a sudden feeling of distress that triggers your fight or flight response. Then you know what it's like to have your emotions hijacked. And, if that's something you've experienced recently, you're not alone this week. Clinical psychologist and mindfulness expert. Dr Shauna Shapiro Returns to talk about how current times might be affecting your emotions, and what practices you can use both individually and as a family to regulate them. Sean thank you for coming back to talk to us on live. Happy now I'll. I'm delighted to be back. Thanks caller, will you and I talk back in? February and things were so much different. There is no way we knew what was ahead of us, and we talked about your fantastic book. Good Morning, I. Love You and the reason I wanted to invite you back today and talk to. To you is because you give so many great practices for mindfulness, and for managing things during difficult times and one thing that I kept going back to during this time. Is your practice on emotion regulation? So thank you for coming on because that's really something. I WanNa talk to you about today. I agree I. Think all of us can feel the impact of these times in our nervous systems. Systems on our notions in our words, and it's really important to have tools and practices to help regulate them and your practice on emotion. Regulation really explains how it starts, so I guess to begin with. Can you explain to us? What an image Ella hijack is so an a middle hijack is when kind of our fear centers is based in the overwhelms. Our prefrontal CORTEX are higher order. Order reasoning and so our ability to make wise choices as much hindered, and so that's mindfulness. Practices are so helpful is that the word mindfulness means to see clearly, and we wanna see clearly so we can respond effectively when something stressful happening or overwhelming are were afraid. It's really hard to see clearly, and then we make poor choices, and so the first step to kind of either preventing or Rebounding mcdermot hijack is simply to name what you're feeling to simply say. I'm scared or I'm feeling stressed right now or I'm overwhelmed and research from Ucla showed that when you just name your emotion, it kind of puts a prefrontal cortex back in charge you, it kind of puts the seat seatbelt on the little teenager in the background, and it starts to calm down the body so simply naming it helps tain your. Your emotion, so that's the first step that I usually recommend to people I thought that was really interesting that just giving a name to something can have such a profound effect you. They know why that is well I. Think part of it is bad when you name it that means there's a part of you. That is witnessing it. There's a part of you. That is no longer consumed by or meshed with it. So. There's the awareness that knows your sad isn't sad, right? It's just aware the awareness that knows you're angry angry. It's just aware and so there's a laser to get a little distance from your motions, and you're able to witness them with greater perspective in greater clarity, and when you say talk about giving a name to it. Is that something you just do mentally? Is it something you write down? How do you go about defining what you're feeling? So you feel emotion. What's interesting is most people don't even really notice it until it gets pretty significant and so what I work with people on doing. To, notice the Sadler emotions, and then just gently naming them. Silently Stein out. Loud is also fine especially if you're with people. To let them know. We state our children. Use your words, and it's helpful with US too so to simply just notice I'm scared right now and in my own life it's amazing how often we just kind of pushed through emotions and don't pause to feel them, and so by naming it we create space for the emotion, and we also bring that higher order reasoning. Meta awareness back on board. And sometimes one of the things that I hear a lot right now as people don't even know what they're feeling because I was talking to someone I was actually talking about your book with someone because she was saying she's like I. Don't know what's wrong with me I. Don't know if I'm mad I. Don't know if I'm scared. I JUST WANNA cry. That's beautiful that she's even aware of that. Because you know often, people don't even feel what they're feeling, and so I, think the first step is to feel it then say maybe I am confused or I just feel sad or I don't even know. Know what I'm feeling! It's so complex, but I think the process of mindfulness is about bringing our attention and our presence, and our kindness to whatever feeling even are not sure what it is, and that's an act that takes practice. It takes a lot of practice, and that's really what I tell people I was really attention of my book is that you're not supposed to be perfect all this? These are practices that you learn and the good news is science shows. It's never too late. It's never late to literally re architect your brain and cultivate these resources so that we can meet the current challenges.
Hacking Your Leadership
"Hey everyone and welcome to another paid for Friday episode where we highlight people that we feel are doing a great job of Polish leadership content resonates with us. We will include links to their work and tag them on our post to make sure that they know we appreciate them. This is our way to say thanks to other leaders and individuals that are having a positive impact on helping others become better leaders through sharing your thoughts opinions and ideas online for all to see and hear Chris. I have always wanted to use our platform to advocate for other people passionate about leadership and our listeners much content as possible to help sharpen their own skills through different perspectives and approaches. If you like US check out any one specific please tag him in the comments or send us a message with links to their content on this episode. I WANNA recognize Sean. Newsom SEAN is a season retail manager is open to new opportunities with this pandemic. We've seen a lot of people impacted especially in retail now. I could go on for hours about people who lead retail stores in their connection to their people and their loyalty to their companies and their ability to manage. Pnl's present on performance calls deal with HR issues and exceed customer expectations. But that would just be the tip of the iceberg on what most retailers are capable of the reason I wanted to highlight. Shauna is because of how she is handling her current situation. I saw one of her most recent posts and even with the uncertainty of her organization and her job. She was recognizing her team for the hard work they were doing. It was genuine because after checking out her content came across opposed that she shared a wild bag and it read and I quote when I started my new role store manager of a new store at a new company. I not only had to learn an entire new process and new procedures but new employees as well like every new store manager. I began assessing my employees from the beginning. I listen to feedback from the former store manager as well as conducting daily observations one of the quote unquote week performers. I quickly assessed was simply in the wrong role. I moved this young lady to a new role within the store. And she is now flourishing beyond words. The moral of the story is treat your employees like they matter and like their work matters and give them a job that speaks to them and you will be amazed the outcome.
Native America Calling
Federal judge invalidates key permit for Keystone XL pipeline. Tribes push back on ANCs included in tribal COVID-19 funds.
"The National Native News. I'm Antonio Gonzalez a federal judge. Wednesday invalidated a key hermit for the keystone xl pipeline. Judge Brian Morris says a permit issued by the US Army Corps of engineers bypassed necessary environmental reviews the order says TC energy formerly trans. Canada cannot build across waterways along the pipeline route until the core does more work on the permit Victoria wicks. Has This report. Doug Hayes is an attorney for the Sierra Club one of six environmental agencies that sued the Corps of Engineers Hayes says the core used a streamlined approval. Process called nationwide permit number. Twelve that precludes public review and circumvents transparent approval processes good pipeline would cross approximately six hundred eighty eight. Different waterways rivers streams and wetlands across Montana South Dakota and Nebraska and the Army Corps of Engineers is the agency that approves those crossings in the Order. The Federal Court notes that the expediter permit is used. When a project will result in minimal damage to aquatic environments Judge Morris also notes that the core failed to consult with us fish and wildlife or national marine fisheries before determining the pipeline. Construction would have no effect on endangered species or critical habitat. Hey says the car has to do further environmental review and consultation under the endangered species. Act before it can reissue the permit. Qc energy cannot build through any of the waterways along the pipeline route until it revamped its process into related cases tribes and environmentalists have challenged permits for the one point. Two Miles of pipeline. That crosses the border between Montana and Alberta. Tc Energy has started preconstruction on that segment for National Native News. I'm Victoria wicks in rapid city. South Dakota Judge. Morris is hearing arguments in those two related challenges to the keystone. Xl Pipeline. Thursday. He'll issue an order in those cases at a later date. Many tribal leaders are calling for Alaska native corporations or an sees to be excluded from funding. Set aside for tribes in the Cares Act Wyoming Public Radio Savannah Mar reports. Gerald Grey is chairman of the little shell tribe of Chippewa in the Rocky Mountain Tribal Leadership Council he says Anne Siese Corporation status should preclude them from accessing the eight billion dollar tribal stabilization fund. The last good native corporations should not be getting any of the funding because they're not tribes and We just basically don't feel that you know a good idea to be doing that this week. The Rocky Mountain Tribal Leadership Council urged the US Treasury Department to exclude an sees from the emergency funding. The Great Plains Tribal Chairman Association when a step farther calling for the removal of Tara Sweeney. As Assistant Secretary of Indian affairs. They say since she wants worked for an there's a conflict of interest at play but Shauna President of the KONIAK regional corporation says Sweeney simply following the law simply put Alaskan native corporations are eligible for funding under the cares act because we're included in the law and we're going to use the funding from the cares act to help our communities prepare and respond to the nineteen tribes in an CS. Have until Friday to apply for their slice of Betrayal Stabilization Fund. It's not yet clear how the money will be divided up for national native news. I'm Savannah Mar Oglala Sioux Tribal. Police have verbally warned or issued citations to more than one hundred and fifty people on the Pine Ridge Reservation in South Dakota for violating curfew or shelter in place orders the tribes currently on a fourteen day lockdown due to a public health response to Cova nineteen. I'm Antonio
The Guilty Feminist
"I'm a Feminist But...' with Robby Hoffman
"I'm a feminist but on my way to Seattle came from San Francisco on this lovely American Canadian tour. I sat next to a woman on the plane with such impressive breasts. My instinct which curbed was to say Nice Rack Lady. Nice Rack didn't say that but just popped into my head. I just thought that was a lovely pair of breasts. You and I very different politically speaking. I tried to explain my brother's Shmole. White cat calling bad shmole should construction. Worker in Calgary Canada Nice Guy in the world group of five girls. He showed me around his house houses. You see that they all look the same off the highway. They'll look like a construction off. The you're like who would live there my brother and he's could you believe we got the House so. I'm like yeah. He showed me around. Gives me a tour of the house? He's like I got to make the bathroom however I want. And he's like a bench there because Marianna. She shaves her legs. She should take a seat. Be Safe nicest guy in the world. Try to explain to my cat. Calling is not good anymore. He's like you're telling me you could see a pretty girl and not makes him sick sacrilegious. You're going to see a pretty on. You're not going to tell her plus over there at works. He's how do you think a lot? I was Mariana. So this reminds me of if you said. Nice rack to her. I don't know maybe it's because you're a woman should by the way is not cat-calling anymore. But because he's married so it is what it is out of respect for his wife. Yes loyal his name. Shmole Shmole schmolly numbered. I am a feminist but I like the joker so so I liked it. I didn't know anybody hated it then. I went online while I I didn't see it to have a lot of knock feminists content. I didn't even look at it. Sou- with regards to feminism or not. I felt bad for him physically. He looked ailing and There was some medical concerns. I had first and foremost as a HYPOCHONDRIAC. I was very concerned about his diet. I'm the smoking and popcorn lung. That maybe he was facing a lot of concerns. Feminism the did not come up for me on the list I mean. There's a lot of content. We're asked to empathize with sociopathic white men. Dot onscreen. I feel too many stories about a man who can't stop killing. I'm not saying there is no cycle of abuse and it's never passed but we don't talk about. It's not just a simple and every single time I watch something about a psychopathic man. Which is all the time. Because that's nine tenths of the content available to me on any streaming service slash cinema. It's always feel sorry for this. Man was deliberately being violent towards women but then he beats himself often then he thinks back to when he was a child and he was beaten. And you're like that's just not. That's not good enough. Thank you and we need to stop telling better stories because it's excusing a lot of things. And in my opinion if we had not been asked so thoroughly and constantly by Hollywood and television for generations to empathize with Whiteman. Doing everything and feeling everything and so rarely asked empathize with anyone else. Donald trump could not have been elected. Electable we feel we all feel for white men because we've been trained and trained trained trained and trained in a movie and I'll just okay. Sorry this that one got on. That really took a turn at the joke. I didn't see that being so controversial but it turned out to be very interested in either. I don't read nothing about movies. I was like oh I have a night off ghost movie. Come out ready to talk about it. My girls like what am I. O O Walking Teaneck. I thought no. Okay we'll talk about it anymore. I haven't seen it because I think it's GonNa be on it for me but I am interested because that's about a stand up comedian. Great Place Great Whistle Story writer also. I'm a feminist. When I came into the amazing NEP changed. I saw his indoor art. That was sort of stained glass windows and I was so blown away and I was going to take pictures of these virago backstage and I did. I was like this is beautiful and then I looked at what I've taken pictures of. I'd taken pictures of men astride horses. Thank Neptune the mythical figure clothed men astride horses looking powerful and women with long around on rocks and Avas like Neptune Theatre. These patriarchal pictures. So I said I cannot perform here unless they covered with velvet drapes. Well they could give me the photos and put new photos isn't it? The women are topless and they're giving away the art. I'll just cut the dude out. And I got not suggested that they be given a wears enjoying the art. And I'm not I'm not saying I'm Ben no way shaming the naked women of the Neptune theatre and I'm highlighting them if anything. I think if anything I think we should all get tops off join them free the nipple and say we stand with you. Women Ancient Greece in Rome. We stunned with you topless defiance because sometimes nice rack. Yeah
How Will PlayStation's Major Exec Departure Affect PS5?
"The first thing I wanted to mention this week the biggest piece of playstation news Sean Laden the Sony Worldwide Studios head is departing partying playstation revealed via tweet on the playstation official account no playstation blog post no personal note from Sean at the time this happened on September thirtieth. The playstation twitter account tweeted it is with great emotion that we announced that worldwide studios Chairman Shawn Layden will be departing cy. His visionary leadership will be greatly missed. We wish him success in future endeavors and are deeply grateful for his years of service. Thanks for Everything Sean and that is it. There's been no other word from Shauna the company in terms terms of who may be a replacement what this means for Sony as a whole right now but to give a little bit of context to Shaun's place. It's only one dimension he joined Suny as part of its corporate communications department in Nineteen Eighty seven he later became president of Sony Computer Entertainment Japan in October two thousand seven before becoming a founding member and vice president of Sony Network Entertainment International in two thousand ten then in two thousand fourteen he succeeded Jack Trenton as president and CEO of Sony Computer Entertainment America Sony used to be more divided like that but in two thousand eighteen they reward and that
The Lead with Jake Tapper
Hurricane relief efforts begin for decimated Abaco Islands
"In our boats tossed like confetti. The images belie the obvious question. How could anyone anyone survive this pulse and your the growth we arrive by helicopter in mana war and avocado with billy aubrey embracing his wife shana sean after days of not knowing if she was dead or alive shawna hunkered down with friends in their seaside home until the roof we off and they all scramble to find find anything so nancy. This is what kept you guys alive. This little this little rock this came in hover dow in shauna was on the ground and we were just trying to what did it sound like in here. At the time it was up. There was a lot of crashing eh crashing and whirling stuff coming on this wall. So many in the apple islands lived through hours that resembled unmoved a horror movie exposed to wins that top two hundred fifteen miles an hour like tornadoes touching down every minute describe describe. It wish nobody words can describe it. They could never eric cantor is categorized. Never my grandfather was like a bomb went off residents here. Tell me their little island in paradise is unrecognizable even to them. They're resourceful and self reliant they say but they could have never imagined a storm as powerful as doreen and there's no better way to describe to you. The force of hurricane doreen to be right here where people rode out the storm in their living rooms and their dining rooms. I mean look in this. The roof blew off the house here. The entire kitchen king down there refrigerator ended up here on the ground there living room and dining furniture is strewn all over people described these things being tossed around the island like projectiles they all coward hovered in their bathrooms and closets anything they could find to take shelter. There are now the beginnings of recovery but only the basics medical attention private helicopters to take out those who are sick the elderly young families. I'm sure it'll never be the same again i i but i mean the people are strong and we're going to try to do our best through a bill the best way we can but we know <hes> it'll never be the same. This was a storm of biblical proportions abba conan's tell me and yes they worry it will take a miracle to recover from it. Jake think about everything that we just heard everything we saw so you can repeat that thousands of times over spoke to a man from another island in arbuckle told me that there was a storm surge he had gone under his son reached out to hold them up. He really wanted to let go. He couldn't take anymore but he said no. I'm not gonna let my son see me die this way and he got himself out of there so jake so tough paula you were not supposed to spend the night on the avocado islands so what happened so so we're at the staging area here in nassau and their flights everywhere they just couldn't get us back with the way the air conditions the airline traffic the helicopter traffic. Obviously there was a problem. It's so difficult. Jake on the island was on. I mean they cleared the baseball field so that we could bland so that we could get ourselves billion and get to that kind of reunion and get some supplies as in so we had to stay there. These people men were they'd been through so much and yet they didn't blink an eye. We said we'll sleep on the beach will sleep on the grass. We don't care no. They took choson and a special. Thank you to marcia and angel cruz. I know they have relatives in florida. Thank you so much and what we saw. There is what people are grappling playing with right now of course jake. They're thankful thankful for being alive <hes> but when you see the way they are living i mean they took all the food out of the refrigerator. The cruises cooked it. That's all they really have. They have some more provisions in the grocery store but they're wondering what comes next their kids are supposed to start school and it's things like that that this island's beginning to grapple with and jake. There's more more on this island. Things were fairly under control. People are starting to worry about things like disease. They hear the death reports say that will inevitably go up and they are starting to worry about encore un recovered bodies things that call so much to worry them at this place and as they told us on the island they worry that they won't be able to return at least not not in a fashion that they were there now living there fulltime all newton in nassau the bahamas. Thank you so much for that powerful report we appreciate it.