35 Burst results for "Shan"

"shan" Discussed on Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen

Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen

07:27 min | Last month

"shan" Discussed on Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen

"Sunset. Along with paulina beautiful. And you can see shambhu dram with me on x. Rated dropping all eight episodes. Drop this thursday on. It's gonna be great. I want to go back to our virtual audience. Here's just from florida. With a question. For shannon i everyone shan. What's the one sexual position that you think. All men should retire because it just isn't fun for women anymore. We actually covered this on x. Rated and that is face down on your stomach and hitting it from the back and the woman can't move. She doesn't have a lot of freedom. You can't get to the clip. Because her hands are on her side. That won i think has to go so controlling. It is a very position yes. Let's go to the from los angeles with question for mike. I everyone i on a scale of one to ten. How shocked are you. That jesse is the voice of reason for the group now all right. Thanks virtual audience. Put him up mike. Mathilde g wants to know your reaction to his apology to london tonight. And did you feel guilty at all because he flipped on her since she was defending you. I don't feel guilty at all. That's just raza. I thought that you'd be more inclusive of someone that's part of the lgbtq family and just you know and be more understanding but he doesn't care he doesn't see anything other than red when he's mad doesn't matter who you are what you are Marcus know shan. Do you agree with the common thought that it takes half the time of your relationship to get over. A break-up that is interesting rule of i would go by the grief scale. It's probably a year to a year and a half. So i would do that versus the bat. One jessica emerson shannon. How do i know if poly-amorous is the right choice for me or is it mainly best suited for someone who has trouble committing to one partner. I think if you don't subscribe to the scarcity model of love means that. If i love you i didn't mean i love andy less. I have enough love to give both partners equally. That's when you know that your prime amory amanda l. said shan secure savage acts embassador ever personally given riana sex or relationship advice and i'll take it from her to be on it. Okay some people you just no no more than you daniel as wants to know mike earlier this season. Were you in paulino really that drunk that you didn't even notice tommy calling her jessica notice. Okay shan sylvie jay. Is it true that the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else in the short term in the long term now the best way is therapy Rachel mike do you think destiny is being too much of a pod. Stir with the group by bringing up your drama. And where do the two of you stand today. Let's see what happened last year. She was involved in the drama this year. She's in the drama. She has not much storyline other than that. So yeah it's the proof in the pudding you know. What is the most common thing that people come to you for the most common problem in the bedroom that people come to you with mismatch. Sex drive's for sex drive's and so what do you tell them. If one person has a higher sex drive. I mean in life. You're always gonna have one compatibil- unit relationship if that's the one very workable wine and very relatable don't doug it's the end of the relationship but you do have to have a partnership that's ready to try to find what the middle his interest which is less ex- for some more sex maybe for somebody else asks you shan't some questions about your axe Angel not about your expert about al qaeda's in general the age old question sex with an x. yes or no and less. It's been a year to year and a half absolutely no dating a friend's ex from a serious relationship. Never okay or find with permission as long as you're willing to lose that friend potentially if it's that important to you i think love conquers also. That's the love of your life potential and it's worth it. Yes otherwise now. Is it a red flag. Someone stays super close with all of their exes the word all's very important a friendly person all i don't get to replay. They're just really good at mutual breakup. Some of their xs or one of their exes. That i think is a red flag. Why because that shows they still having attachment to that person. Maybe this person instead just is really good at creating healthy boundary failed relationships with people that used to share something with all across the board. You can't wait to have sex with all your extra right. Yeah right was bad in bed and you're still talking to them when it comes shoe broken engagement ring or give it back if your relationship was financially focused. I think it's okay to keep the ring because that's should be the understanding if it wasn't give it back. Oh that's interesting. how would you react if you're good. Friends remained good friends with your ex. This is something that that mike is dealing with on the show. I'm a big lover of love. So i might be fine Cheated on you. do you have a right to warn. His new girlfriend's. I think you can share your personal experience but you have to keep in mind that it's reciprocal determinism how i am with. You is based on how you are with me. Is it okay to talk about xs on a first date if it comes up naturally or is that a bad idea across the board. You don't want a second date by all means dive in once you break up with someone for good. Do you immediately delete all the nudes they sent. I'm a collector of beautiful things. I keep you guys should delete yours. I think based on your relationship that should be deleted for sure and my partner will be following me. Keeping my ex's knew he would be fine with it. Yeah how do you feel about sending knew what what do you think about the movement of specifically like men sending dick pics to women. What what is your opinion of that unsolicited dick pics. Absolutely no. but if it's requested and you put some time into it can be a lovely thing cool backdrop or what does that mean. Let's make funny. There was one that i saw from a friend and the person wrote their name on the on the dick with like a makeup pencil. That was really cool in creative. This that had like a some glasses on it and like the fake really time. So it's like a costume. Yes with a consenting partner. It can be great. Paulina mike and share. I thanks for listening to the podcast. Everybody hope you enjoyed the show. Remember new episodes. Go live monday through friday at four. Pm eastern time. Make sure you're subscribed to have a great rest of your life..

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"shan" Discussed on Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen

Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen

02:06 min | Last month

"shan" Discussed on Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen

"Let me tell you must be very honest blowouts. They're bad yeah. Yeah but but when we're together it's like oh we can't live without each other. I could spend every day with her. And i still have a great time. Sex's amazing communications amazing. Just sometimes we get on each other's nerves but it's a lot because well us and we're gonna bring jessica out after the break and she's reading. I really scared you. When i said jessica was coming out tonight the by Blame it on. He on the henney said it seems like no one of the shah's actually trust each other. Who do you trust the most of the gang. Mj nima chairman or the three people that trust the most okay mike. Emily wants to know how you would describe the reunion in three words and without spilling anything who surprised you the most super effing nuts. The reunion was insane. I left and i took a nap from eight o'clock that night. When i got home till ten o'clock the next morning when i never sleep i was rain right and i came home and take another nap when i got home. Wow a day. Someone's ugly side came during the reunion. And you're gonna see it. Do you wanna say who like nessa. Shan jaw wants to know your first impression of candy candy coated nights when you were a guest on her show obsessed. She is the best. She is an orbit of lights and joy and sex. And orgasms and fertility amazing. All right it is time for watch. What happens five anybody. Who's been through a break-up usually as that awkward moment where you realize the signs were there from the very beginning that it wasn't going to work out shans about to save us all from wasting our time by telling us what to look out for. She comes down her top five. I.

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"shan" Discussed on Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen

Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen

03:15 min | Last month

"shan" Discussed on Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen

"Hi everyone. Hi andy What did he think about. Raza and mj's emotional conversation ended tonight's episode and do you honestly believe that they'll get back to what they had with their friendship. Obviously libra very emotional. So it kills me that. My two best friends are fighting. Do i work their way back. Yes it's gonna take some time and both of needs to be more forgiving of each other. It'll happen all right. Thanks mike and paulina erique wants to know. What do you think the biggest misconception that your friends have about your relationship please. Melina i don't know and i don't care okay do you watch. Do you watch the show. You don't watch the show. Wow mike what do you think. It is you do watch the show. I was literally watches in like private. And i have aneurisms right right that. There's so many men we can't even get into all of them but none of them are true. Okay shan alexis v. Wants to know why you think our society is still so verse to talking about a woman sexual needs. I think there's a lot of insecurity with that because statistically if you people are satisfying woman sexual needs so it's more comfortable not to bring it up or to act like it's this big confusing thing. So i think if people got more curious and lessen their feelings we could all get a lot more comfortable talking about it. S wants to know. If you're selling contact with jessica. How is that relationship once in a great blue moon. She'll reach out all retail. But we're just we're cordial got it so nima who's backstage revealed that a marathon sex for him was twenty minutes of sex. That was a big topic of conversation. What are your thoughts on that. That's four times the amount than the average sexual encounter. we're talking about intercourse. I'm your penetrative sex so the average sexual intercourse takes five minutes or so. I'll just penetration so twenty four times. That all right kind of nice of you okay you. She's train up intercourse sex. If you add in for play and everything else just that one part. But the i get what you're saying. Yeah it's still. I mean you're getting ten four play the whole thing should take you minimum forty minutes because four played itself should be about twenty two on x. Rated people come on to find out what they're doing wrong in their relationships and who better to tell them than their exes who rate them in categories everything from oral sex to intimacy to kissing and beyond. So we're about to do the same with mike and paulina okay. So we're going to play a little of gay mike and paulina. You're both gonna secretly rate mike on a variety of criteria. Okay on a scale from one to ten on your whiteboards. She's got one Then you're gonna have to reveal your scores at the same time and shannon. I are gonna unpack the key. Here is honesty and what we do. Is we have someone on and we reveal how your axes rated you versus how you rate yourself and it's quite it's.

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"shan" Discussed on Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen

Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen

03:06 min | Last month

"shan" Discussed on Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen

"Rated which is a super positive edgy. New dating show like you've never seen before premiers on peacock this thursday. I wanna get your professional opinion shan some of this stuff. Mike has a history of being unfaithful in some relationships and phrase wants to cheater always cheater has been bandied around about mike. Do you believe in that fraser. Do you think people can change. I think people can change. But you got to change a whole lot more than just your mind. Okay i think people think when it comes to cheating. It's about willpower. I'm going to say i won't do it again. That's about won't power. What are you going to stop doing. What behaviors are you going to change. What friends are you going to cut off. What are you gonna make different about this time. So this doesn't happen again. I think that you have do you or did you not consider sexting not cheating at any point at any point. Didn't okay and what's your feeling about. That book is sexting. Avi says i'm just sexting with someone and what he said was and i like. I did appreciate your honesty about this. You felt like it enhanced. Your you said i don't watch porn but sexting is aerobic to me. I'm not going to go through with it. What's your take on what's answer that question. We gotta ask the most important question. There's a bother you hell. Yeah then yes okay. It's cheating down. Lena what can they steer clear to. What could they do to steer mike away from wanting to seek out sexting or this fantasy this fantasy. Can i give you a pro tip so unlike you direct language really turns me on and my partner doesn't necessarily always give that that's why technology is incredible. Is actually this app. That's called slut bought. And it's an artificial intelligence that you can sex with and slut bought texts you dirtiest slutty stuff yes. I wanted to come up with an app like that. Wow okay the first and foremost why. Don't you guys text each other. Then why is it not enough. This this happened. One time in the middle of cova middle of lockdown. I made a mistake. I shouldn't have done it So whenever you do want to get turned on that way is just getting it from paulina. Okay of course let me ask you this. Shan is it ever wise to vent event to one significant others friends about one's relationship problems. That was something that pauline is not in your head. No no no no. No what do you think i mean. It is important to get outside perspectives. Because when we're in love with somebody we're on ground zero. We can't see what's from above and friends and family are able to predict if relationship is healthy. A lot more than those involved so you do want some feedback but you do have to assess is biased feedback. There you go. And mike's friends feel he can be too controlling in his relationships. Might you disagree.

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"shan" Discussed on WHOREible Decisions

WHOREible Decisions

07:41 min | Last month

"shan" Discussed on WHOREible Decisions

"We're about to make horrible decision. Hey guys welcome to yet another episode of horrible decisions. I'm not going to be a fokker pumps a pit baby. Yes she aka debt bitch. And i'm wheezy. You're getting their feet. The free on youtube we have very special guests very special. This our first couple foursome. Is it now. We don't have some couples if they wanna buck. I mean we wanna fuck a lot of people. I just don't say you never said it to me before well. First of both of y'all come off very innocent. And i really don't like corrupting 'cause i don't wanna feel like i'm corrupting he. Will i like dealing with like two bitches. That spew ho. You don't you okay. That's good you spew sex like like class. yeah like classy. Look like clancy's like. I don't know if you would spit in my mouth if i asked you to type it in her mind she asked me. Two thousand percent may not come natural to me. Those instincts are correct. Okay i am a team player in the bedroom. So i would do as us. I love and you know what y'all probably already got the voice. If you haven't yet we are joined by youtuber. Extraordinaire sexologists expert and everything. Gray shan booted reminds them one which ironically the last time we had. Yuan-shan y'all weren't yet married but you were discussing humaira gauge. I think you're gave no. I think she was engaged. But and we talked about it being our budi partner like it was her book buddy buddha partner so you actually beat the odds and ended up marrying your booty lover. Jared who is here was also a podcast the guys will say mine co host. Okay i just want sorry. I can name. Well yeah go ahead and tell them where they can find you. Enjoy the podcasts anywhere. That you stream your favorite podcasts. And he's not telling you to enjoy that's the name speaking only joy. Do you know. I play your song like hall really. Yeah do you which learning you romantic artist is i swear and then i remember where i played it and this girl is that shands me damn well. I loved the video. Let you're in it do you. Guys are honestly the definition to me of support. You are just the most loving supportive arms wide. Open women that i have ever met before. That just aren't brand arms and legs. Right opening people i've ever met before. I think that. I don't know if you get the credit. You deserve for being such beautiful. I wanna call you like wounds. No because you guys house greatness and like you give back to others such nourishing enriching ways. I just never felt an ounce of hate from you. Ever think it's because we probably feel it from you to one hundred percent my first time meeting shan Was at her house. And i was like having a really weird like moment in time with love and like i just felt like you were very sincere and i think just a lot of people. I've known a lot of interviews with people and they're just like kick you out you know what i mean. There's not like a had to stay but you know when someone can feel that you're hurting a little bit. I think that good people. It's not easy to tell you know what i mean. I think that's why you have seventy bands when we all look the same same thing. No retail you know. I know that's not true because you even said we don't get like people would know that don't get the credit in that way like you definitely give like. Oh i could see why she's a mom not a okay. I mean no. I mean we we talk about sal. Yes she was talking about mother. They mom maternal sweet. Like i'll bet you here are go. I'm thinking she's talking about biracial news. We look alike. We do look alike. Have about sex. We can be competing with each other's throats trying to undermine undercut but it's not that at all that we ate the rat girls. We ought raptor girl. I'm excited to do an icebreaker with you guys. Because jared off mike. I told him that someone was like. Oh my god. I can't wait for you to talk sex with jared. Because he's so delicate and look so easy they said he delicately talks about sex. So i think that we have to get it. Get it a little. Yeah a little rock. I don't know it's the first time i'm hearing that that is not true. Kevin big thing. The way i look is it the way i look or the way it's not going to lie. We said you're forgiving boy. Now okay when it's a good way back ponytail like all you look so nice but that that's a secret power not a secret pound. That's a secret power. Those dangerous ones thank. You didn't fame to date very nice. You are very nice though. I'm very nice very nice. It's hats that fucked it up for me. Made me feel like oh. He's not what i thought he was. So you don't get divide. That are delicate. No it's changed over the years. Okay maybe the more. I've got no shannon. I'm nasty with no cornball delegate when you said like wooden wouldn't do certain things that's why i said crawl i- i'm meeting you was i wanted to move in. I'm not gonna lie. He was coming in setting up the lights and baby. You need anything else and it was just. I felt the love okay but now we don't get into the let's get into we're going to start. I got these questions from A game shutout black own last couple standing but again with us having. Are you familiar with omar and the whole team over. Though i feel like they sent me a pack of cards could be. Oh my god. Y'all may have to do this at home and hopefully you don't like break up for it because the questions are intense but it's to get you guys to communicate as a couple and really see each other love that pick the less messy out okay so this less messy less messing you and your partner and your kid are about to give victims and have no place to go. Your partners ex will give you the money to pay the rent. Only if they can have sex one last time. Money thousand review. So you're partners ex will give you the money to pay the rent. Only if they can have sex one more time more time except the money will take the money you could be on the street if you take the money. Do no baby no baby honest with you. I be completely comfortable. And you having sex with x ray now for no reason just for the joy of it. I think also too. I think jared so good in bed. That i like to lend him out yes. I'm just nick. i'm not calling. I'll be honest with you. So i've literally my friends can't spend the night over anymore at this point everyone who has has fucked me.

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"shan" Discussed on Talking It Out

Talking It Out

04:23 min | Last month

"shan" Discussed on Talking It Out

"Beautiful family today's episode will be mature nature. We have shambhu drain. She's a certified sexologist brandon. I get to discuss with hers from sexual content. So if that is too much for you. We asked that she was subscribe to make sure that you come back next week. But today's subject matter will be adult themed in nature. Welcome back everyone to talking it out with. Mike and brian very excited about today's show. Today's guest is a woman on very excited to talk to. She's a bestselling author and certified sexologist. Who has been working with the public for the past thirteen years to make them more competent and confident in their intimate lives. She strives to create content. That is science based and sexy today. We're talking to shambhu dream. But i you know. How do we gotta get into our heartaches so mike take it away. I'm excited shan. I had i had to look at her linked in and she's so young and she's so accomplished right. Yeah is for thirteen years like you said very knowledgeable experience but she's like no degrassi. Tyson meets ria. Okay like i like that. Analogy super intelligent in her field. But then she you know she got a little fierceness tour. I love it. I love it. She's definitely going to. I think she's going to challenge us. Today doesn't she. She's a all about intimacy. Love sex relationship so i actually interviewed her prior. She's she's going to bring a strong. I'm sure answer we're gonna have to answer possibly for the male gender. I i love it. But i'll say now in when she comes on brian. I do not speak for every single person. The male gender maha take the day came from listening to our audience. So i appreciate your. I d m us. Writing us are leaving comments and liking and subscribing..

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Silk & Sonder CEO Wants to Serve Self-Care to the Digitally Exhausted

Code Story

00:57 sec | 2 months ago

Silk & Sonder CEO Wants to Serve Self-Care to the Digitally Exhausted

"What does the future look like for you. Product and for your team as we continue to be a generation that is digitally bombarded digitally exhausted over stimulated by everything. That's going on around us. I think ensuring that the products that we launched better physical digital or experiential. All tie back into. Does this create cultivate more joy and clarity and connect shan creativity for our users and so that really means thinking about. How do we personalise emotional health journeys from the day that you start at silken saunder evolve with us over time you know. We can't always control what life brings your way. But how does so consider become that. Go to destination. Whether you're proactively handling your self care or you're reacting to a less ideal situation where you need self care in your pocket or in your purse you think of silken solder

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Can Anxiety Cause Random Pains?

Anxiety Slayer

02:06 min | 4 months ago

Can Anxiety Cause Random Pains?

"Something a nanga. I get asked about frequently is if anxiety can cause random pains sharp pains or shooting pains and what we know is that anxiety can cause a variety of random pain which occurs for no apparent reason which includes muscle pain spasms and even chest pains but before we dig into this topic. We are absolutely duty-bound to say that we are not doctors. We are not qualified to discuss medical advice. If you have any doubt about any pain lease seek care from your doctor. What we're going to be sharing with you today as supportive but in no way a substitute for medical care. Welcome back in nanga shan. How is it that we've been this many years in doing zeisler and we haven't talked about anxiety causing random pains what we have. Oh have we. Yeah but it was a while ago. Okay a few years ago now. Hurry because i was thinking. Wow this is so relevant. And i don't remember speaking about it cool. Let's dig in. It's a very challenging thing when we have pain with anxiety because the two can absolutely go. Together and symptoms can vary widely from one person to another so sometimes we seek reassurance all we hear members of our private facebook group seeking reassurance for particular experience that the having with a symptom and then others will chime in with support also with offer. It's like this unfamiliar like that because it can be so varied when we have pain with anxiety. Some people experience sharp random pains moving pain in the body others experience assistant chest pains for example muscle twitching muscle cramping. None of them are pleasant but of course if we have something in the region of the chest and it's persistent that can feed right back into increased anxiety is we fear the worst case scenario

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How I Built Resilience: Shan-Lyn Ma of Zola

How I Built This

05:47 min | 6 months ago

How I Built Resilience: Shan-Lyn Ma of Zola

"Everyone and welcome to how. I built this resilience edition from npr. I'm guy is each week. On thursdays we invite entrepreneurs and other business leaders to come onto the show. Live to talk about how they've been building resilience into their businesses this year. And today my conversationalist jianlin mop. Ceo and co founder of zola. Zola is a one stop shop for couples. Planning a wedding from creating a wedding website. Finding local vendors making registry even creating a photo album of the big day with the wedding industry completely hammered by the pandemic last year solely focused on releasing new products and features for couples like a homegoods marketplace and even hosting virtual weddings on its platform. We aimed couples from that first aid. Get engaged through their entire wedding planning journey into their festivals of newlywed life with the tools and technology that we build to help them plan dream and bring to life bear fantasy wedding so basically you go on the website and you can do everything like from finding the person to do your flowers to a you to the caterer to the registry to the invitations. Everything yes wedding website. you'll save the dates and then you'll album of you're beautiful photos with photographer that you found on seoul ios chicken out the website earlier today. It's super cool. How did it. How did it start had it. I know it's you start in twenty thirteen And i think at the time you were working at guilt which is a the gilt groupe g. I l t nut gui. Tell me how how this idea came about well. I always dreamed about starting my own company. One day but i had never felt ready until really working for many years in product management which is really working alongside designers and engineers to build digital websites and mobile apps and so had gone that experience and in twenty thirteen That just happened to be all. My friends got married at exactly the same time. Everyone has that year where you're going to a wedding. Every weekend spending a lot of money. I was buying gifts from my friends. Women registries and found that the experience that i was going through their registered was just one of the worst shopping experiences i had ever seen. I was talking to nobu. Who is my co-founder zola. About how painful was and he's married and he was complaining about it from the couple's perspective. It's just terrible and we looked at each other and we said you know we've been working together to build great products when it we attacked this assets. We think we can do a much better job. And and that was how zola was born. I'm wondering you know. I mean this is twenty thirteen so this is still you know. The the ancient early days of of of web two point zero which is unbelievable Did you have initially when you went to people. I know a little bit your backstory. You grew up in australia. And then you came to the us business school and you had a bunch of Jobs in sort of adjacent kind of industries right. You worked at guilt and another an and also worked at another who. You're actually growing up in australia. It's a very remote country in that is literally on the the side of the world. And i had always can read about what what is happening in the world. And what is happening in the tech revolution that we all living through right now and i felt very removed from the action. So i moved to the us to really be a part of this Tech revolution underway and my dream was always to be like an entrepreneur. Like jerry yang. Who found yata. I had a picture of him on my wall. And because i'd never known really anyone else who worked in tech apart from the people that i read about in magazines you may dream actually came true in that i moved to the us. After business school. I was able to get a job at yahoo. Which jerry founded. And i think one of the best days there was when i walked past him in the hallway. Wow that as a result of working that. I got to learn from great product leaders. Who with some of the best in silicon valley. Who really told me. How do you think about creating a product that customers love and that they want to share with all their friends when you came up with the idea for for what is now zola and you started to talk to people about it. I have to imagine that some people said oh this industry saturated they're already. There's you know the not. There's a bunch of other sites that you know. There's a bunch of other people doing this. You don't want get into that business. That is exactly. I think there was a lot of from many places and for many investors. Who said like what you said. It's not possible to build a big business in weddings. Because there hasn't been one yet all. Do people really spend that much on weddings. All it's it's highly fragmented as an industry so then must be a reason for that and that sounded crazy to me. Because i knew how much my friends were spending tons of time and money i think weddings is one of the only times in your life where you spend on average in this country thirty thousand dollars on one day because we want to create a special memory inexperienced for yourself and your friends and so i knew it was a lot of business opportunity. It was an undeserved need. That was a passionate customer base and just because investors didn't feel personally connected to the pain point did it mean it to thin exist

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Marijuana Is Legal in New Jersey, but Sales Are Months Away

Bloomberg Daybreak

00:29 sec | 7 months ago

Marijuana Is Legal in New Jersey, but Sales Are Months Away

"Recreational marijuana is legal now in New Jersey, but it will be months before sales can begin. Governor Phil Murphy has signed bills to create licensing and distribution of marijuana process may have had its fits and starts, but it is ending in the right place. And I firmly believe this process has ended in laws that will serve as a national model. Legislation will also de criminalize as Shi Shan pot possession and creative pathway to vacate some current sentences and allow some criminal records to

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RADCast Outdoors Episode #37: Al Lindner Discusses Faith, Family and Fishing - burst 01

RADCast Outdoors

1:05:47 hr | 8 months ago

RADCast Outdoors Episode #37: Al Lindner Discusses Faith, Family and Fishing - burst 01

"On this episode of red cast outdoors we sit down with legendary fishermen of famer and co founder of in fisherman lindy equipment co owner of lender media. Al lindor course. Everybody knows al from his days on in fisherman and has seen him on a number of different tv shows including the angling edge and on this episode of rod cast outdoors. We sit down. We visit with him about a number of different topics including fishing family. Fame his faith and of course. What are his favorite things to fish for to this day. We hope you'll sit down. Relax and enjoy this episode of raw cast outdoors. Sean rad cast is on hunting fishing and everything in between this is red cast outdoor from the borders ten cast studio here david merrill and patrick edwards again outlets gay debut on the program. I do wanna a quick shout out the ending curdle cousin for helping. Set this up with al this kind of a big deal. thanks dante. yeah so really. Appreciate danny and I'll just want to welcome you to the shell. Thanks for taking time out of your busy schedule to hang out with this on a podcast for a little bit and looking forward to nothing makes me happier than a cold in minnesota. If i can't be out fishing. I should be talking about the. It'd be well below zero tonight. So that's probably one of the big motivations for patrick and i to start this podcast. We both have young families. And we're both avidly into the outdoors whether it's fishing hunting or of both. So that's our goal is to You know recruit new new anglers and new hunters to the to the outdoors around. The timing is really appropriate for unit. We've got a whole new. Recruitment a coming in because the cold or sport is never seen before experience in the outdoors and they need our need some guidance. in cases do you know respect the resource in S an important part of what's happening now with these whole. Nobody's covering it. Yeah it's it's been fun to watch you over the years. 'cause you you've really helped kind of teach everybody about that and i know as a kid. I always look forward to outdoor life coming in the mail and also in fisherman magazine because that was that was kind of the thing was you know i wanted to learn more about fishing and growing up in cheyenne wyoming. It was like a dead zone fishing. I mean there's there's really not much closer unless you're going to drive like two hours to glendow three and a half hours to seminal five hours to voice in like you just forget about it. There's just nothing there so you're talking about teaching people. I was reading that as much as could. Because i knew when i went. I had to really capitalize on those trips and sell ob. You've done amazing job about that. And i just wanted to know if you could just share some tips with us you know. What's what's in key strategies of getting kids and just other anglers out on the water. What are some good strategies and tips number one number one. Make sure you take him when you can get a bit people. I i mean i can't old is powered pork edges especially with the younger ones. That have a short attention. Spans inter is critical. That baba's going down or something pulling on the end of that line and Are that's one in even with a new adults and we have a lot of those coming into the sport now that have never fished before and yes. They have patients where the young people don't however their patients will wane after one or two trips without getting up by. It's the biggest hinderance that i've seen to our sport and your people neck key is getting a bit a bike. Too late that fire they gotta catch something and You don't wanna take him out in this herbal weather conditions yet the weather good into everything your power to make sure that they get back in there and the reason people fish in continue to fish is they had a good experience and a good experience is something pulling on the end that the wire gets really the reason you're out there. That's what motivates people is the miracle of of this. It is amazing to me. My entire life in this business to see would fish can do this change. Somebody's like yeah. Yeah you know a kid sitting under edging blue gills and all of a sudden nowhere. A two pound bass runs out reminders. That back and grabs your bank. You never had. You're catching a six inch blue gills and having a ball in this best is your hook break where your life forever somebody had never muskie fish. You know they heard something about it. They're they're going out with somebody that knows something about all of a sudden next to the boat. This monster opens his mouth bites on. It's an image yet burns into your into your spirit that change. It never goes away. That's what likes to fire in this sport. And here's why it's so important. That that their two n into good weather to do it in your. That's the key is to get get a matching get a matching get them and then if they're really young after three hours to think to run into live whether you get a few fish rockets there fascinated with fish bouncing around in a live That's the key really. Is the key to keep them motivated. Keep them fishing kit. In a short period of time you know and again with the adult young person after after you know you get them out for two trips. Third time Yeah you're going to say you want to go fishing or meet today too bad experiences them. They're gonna go bad back in play video games. Interests will beer so al. I was fortunate enough to grow up near salt water and my dad in the pacific northwest. We did a lot of salmon and halibut and deep sea and i got introduced very young to fishing. We actually just had a podcast with my dad on talking about starting that fire that you're talking about i'm curious who was the fishing mentor in your life. The person that got you hooked on fishing. Actually my my brother and years my senior and He he took me every weapon time. I was a little kid. Yeah you know. He's seen a bring cash and he shared that he said there was something about it from the time you were little. You're obsessed with fish and fishing and he nurtured that he actually nurtured that dad dad in him being older than i am a yeah you know. He kind of took me under his wing and I had some really good experiences in those years. One of them that that really fed my passion for fishing was my mother and this is kind of strange but a share. That story with you. My brother obviously loved to fish. Yeah yeah you know so. He took me everywhere. Everywhere we go. We fished all pans and lakes and creeks and rivers and between chicago and milwaukee. And there's many of them and we're at every moment we could go go go. He'd be a good way he he took me took me took me My mother really liked to fish and She's seen you know people would ask me at a young age. What do you go to a christmas. Gathering family or friends like this and say l. conference. Yeah what are you do when you grow up bowl recovered. I'm living fishing going to a look at you. Oh okay yeah you don't blow it off my mercury. She she under the guy a brother with it she she at christmas time or birthdays or special event every time all my christmas presents and gifts were the latest greatest fishing tackle in the industry whether it was a ride or real allure magazines books. Anything that that that she fed bed it and never said that's a dumb guy you can make a living in the fishing industry. Yeah you know especially at that time you know that many years ago yeah you know and the only thing you again you know. You had tackle manufacturers at outdoor writers that At that time. What are the inspiring outdoor writers to me as a kid was jason lucas. He wrote for sports afield at that time. And he he wrote a book called lucas on bass and becky. I read it a dozen tanks. That and marked every page variances burned it into i mike and that. So yeah you know. It's experiences like that Then television every member. I n nears our tv tv fishing business. The first one His name was geared about gaddis. The flying fisherman he was the first one hit syndicated television fish and chips and he'd tried different locations all over the country and sheriff is fishing. Experience get out get it and then and then that led diverge award. That was the true Championship fishing and he was the one. Got my fire to get into the fishing industry in do a television show in the business ahead He was here in my hometown. In brainerd minnesota yet We're starting lindy deco company and His producer His name was j jadwin. He gave us a call at the office. What day and he says i am not. I would perjure war championship patient. We've been in the area for three days or even how we went into a well. I want you ask buster and can you help they understand you know the lakes. You're really good bishop. And everybody says go while alkyl corral. You aren't one so says you do show absolutely. We went out and we got a phenomenal show. Shot for hours to get everything done. He's all happy he took off and went back through missouri. And we finished. My brother looks at me at night. We're talking he's internet. Does your television show and talk about the lures that he manufactures. So you know we could do that. We got into. Why don't we start at television fishing. Show and helpless guess what little fire in pakistan. Tv channels that was would but a camera. That's what camera in my brother. Learned how to use it. And how to splice taped together at your rewind these stories and how you get into the game and enter the fishing industry and enter the sport different aspects that are available. All you get these different stories from everybody that that has been there enough to make a living business. But i'll go back to what i say just a little bit. Herb just amazes me. What a fish. A fish do to change. Somebody's stunning to me. How it happens all the time when experience would have been in. Just bam young know. You're right this change. Yeah i agree. It's it's an amazing experience. I i remember catching fish when i was little and how it lit my fire and again i. I promise that i would do this on the podcast. And i hope it's not lost because i you hear this stuff a lot but my friend. Seth ewing who lives in northern idaho and myself we we grew up. Just eating up your your shows and Magazine and and it really did benefit both of us. He's he's an incredible fly fisherman and he he learned a lot from your fly-fishing video that she goes put out with dollberg and You know and i. I love the small mouth and the walleye in those kinds of species and so it's just one of those things where i i hope it's not lost on you when you hear say you know. Thank you so much for doing all of that because it really did inspire a lot of people across the united states in the world To go out and fish to take other people fishing which i think is really cool one of the things that i always enjoyed and my dad and i always enjoyed watching. Fish was just the joy on your face. You were always you know chuckling and laughing and having a great time and we were just living vicariously through you as the wind. Blew about seventy miles an hour through cheyenne. But i mean it's it's just it. It really did make a big difference. And i do want to. I want to ask about this because this is really important to david. Ni- we we both have little kids and we take them out fishing hunting different activities. And you know you have kids of your own. And and i know. He's very influential and big into the fishing businesses. Well but can you talk a little bit about what that was like raising your kids to be fishermen but also you know kind of raising them during that time that you know you're just so busy and you got all these things on with the with the fishing world and the fame that you had going on. How did you manage all those things and still make it a great experience for your kids. They grew up in the business. they did. There's not all all seven right here except in children. I've got two boys all of the kids. even girls. Three of his kids are girls. They all served in the business wing. Some of your friends. At the time we started lindy dako copier reports sinkers learning advertised snow. Rapper mind cars. Were exposed to the business is a family run. I mean all their life you know and they grew up in many different fields yet. You know it other things. But-but-but number stayed in the business in our in the business today like jim. dna billing and mesa troy. Yeah you know and and my daughter niece who worked as a pr rest. For many many years fishermen still welts me A right right material and press releases and things like that you with the gifted in that area but they grew up in the business thing. Yeah and and that way you were able to spend time together so they understood it. They understand the crab and the things that this life style. If you went to make a living a good comfortable living in deficient indiscreet. I don't hurt my myself and i know many people that you and i do not that then ended the business row ripley. Welcome rarities Actor to it these days. It's a lifestyle business that you want to get into anything cup. Lack of time it is. It isn't in ninth the fact you you know you eat sleep twenty four hours or so you go to bed at night thinking in still today at the. That's been in this my life. There is not one and go. That goes by that. I don't read something about fishing. Watch something about fishing. Talk to somebody about dishing. It happens all the time. Not a day goes by where some aspect of it is in touch in my life. A part of my life in My closest friends are pretty much involved in fishing industry. Right closest friends. Are that sparks your question for me. L. and that's you know i'm kinda way way beginning of this journey. I've got a small family run company but it's in the hunting outdoor space. And you know. My boys are being raised growing up when we work right. We have stuff to do. There's it's a small family run business. it's not you know. Dad goes to work at nine. And we're we're done at five and let's go do x and y but my question is long term for me. My dad took me fishing law. And now i go hunting and now. My boys are in a hunting company being raised. How did you see kind of the transition of with raising these kids. In the company in fending fishing industry they stayed on and continued to fish and still thrive as that was our was that a positive experience for them. Oh yes yeah. Yeah for a number of now. There's some of them that was not. I'll use my to poison example. My oldest son george in here in heat you shared with the. I'll give you my first experience with it. needs he. He was raised in the business. He worked in. It works wade through until they went off to college in it but he was interested in fishing gets his passion in his case. Was things that move fast snowmobiles motorbikes four wheelers dirt bikes. This is what he loved to do. Sounds like we'd get along pretty. Well do troy and the other hand off from the time. He was a little tiny kid. You could see the seat of he would be back in front of our h- house here a day and night catching frogs and just running up and down the bank catching he'd loved it from the time he was four or five years old internet. Never change he absolutely left. And i just think again. God created all slightly different with different interests and is a good thing. You had one boy in the garage tinker on motors and going faster and you had another guy you couldn't keep at the house. He was taking his fishing pole and he was to the water at four and five. Yeah in in in you and your the answer. Paracha half have respect know. I respect that. They have to be their own person in in in seek out for thinks the all that you know that those different interest levels impacted their right as they were growing up in reading some cases to to what they're doing today you know again my son toys into it in a lot of different areas of my oldest son and interestingly he he he liked even as a kid. You're living on the edge. He here you love the excitement of the snowmobile races today. He he'd get so pumped on yet in today. He's he's the paramedic he's a wilderness paramedic in he's fighting fires -fornia loves the game. You're whites. He likes ribbon on the edge to me. I like living on the salary to belated contentment. That's what i really like. And you know. I follow troy on social media and that that guy is always out doing something. And he's. he's an incredible fisherman. I mean it's it's yet it just anything anywhere any way any loves digging around in offbeat places for a coupla. He's got he's got pack whereas in no matter where he goes scurrying rats. He sees the body of water anywhere. Anything they could hold the fish he just drives up insider road. And rodney goes spacious anywhere anywhere crapping around the country with him because spent he's spent some time out west and i know he's fish some areas where i've been and it's just kinda cool to see that and i do want to ask you a question about that. Everybody has some of those favorite moments. What it was like a favorite moment for you fishing with your kids that you can recall the years ago with troy. I'll give you a. I'll give you my my oldest son that never got turned onto it and here's winter. Mistakes that make made with the there was a series the best tournament series. Starting in minnesota zillion years ago it was called the northstar bash turned into and when he was about four years old. I took an pre fishing. Mary and i got a cabin on the lake. And i took him pre fishing for that tournament with me and he had snoopy rag. You had snoopy rag. And they had to wait spinner baits. Then you know it was cool. We're up in the morning out. Who day thinking around. He's dragging this spinner baits through the water. And you know. I'm trying to catch some fish. Internet little said something. It's something from we'll get more moves out to have been great you you you hold in iraq ruled colin. He looks at me. it looks at the rad. He throws looked at me again. I got the message. You burn me out so bad. And so i think there's a balance there were so you know. My dad took me steelhead fishing. And i've i've got quite a few steelhead to my name. And if anybody out there knows steelhead there they can be finicky and tricky fish to catch i. I mean the passion for catching them is kinda gone. I've i've i've been out steelhead fishing and i've seen this in the hunting industry where you know you get some guys. That are pretty. Some prowess in are pretty successful. They take their sixteen seventeen year. Old son out. He shoots a world calibre elk and ten years later. He's he's not in elk cutting he's into fishing or snowmobiling or something else does. Ruggles images of the other side of that story would try. What are the experiences a for a number of years we as a family. A number of where we fished in tournaments in canada Rainy lake in minnesota canadian border. Another one at nor tap happened awake to work and we fish team tournaments up there and over the years that we hit fished at is a group together ranch fish with one of his sons. Jimmy and billy clubs voice fish fish together with danny. We're troy and We look forward to these these tournaments every year of up there and we won a number of them in your jimmy and in billy one. Two of back in those weeks the week caprice fishing leading into that terminated. That was the week muster sunday for fifteen years. Yeah you know it was the highlights of of our trip together with all of us as a family together and each one bus us. Everyone about when i talk to the boys inclusive of troy. Now he says that was some of the most enjoyable experiences we ever had and all of us at weren't time and other did really good way. And i did a couple of seconds and thirds internet but did win one with him in california and in went ahead and opportunity. You get fish with you. Those times that we're in those events burn memories that they talk about still in. Those chips are really important with father and a son. I know with my dad. We had an annual trip that we would take to flaming gorge and that always meant the world to me because we'd spend five or six days out on the gorge just fishing and not worrying about all the other stuff you know. The work stresses of life. And you know i had told you in an email about a trip to voice in just those kind of trips. Just make a huge difference in a young english life and death makes it something that makes them wanna come back later ended it burns into your sweet. You get so excited and then you think about it so often you think you keep revisiting that your mind. Our great great great experience. Yep absolutely and i wanted to touch on something else because we do try to help you know young new people into get into fishing and whatnot. And what are some tips that you give people when they're going to a brand new fishery and they've never been there before. What do you tell him to look for. And what are some tips that you give them. You know it's gotten a lot easier these days because of social media into local bites really. I mean you're you're you're deficient research on lake levels in what the bites been like recently. Water clarity stabilized. Image is endless. In comparison to what we had sixty years ago running through the changes that i've seen are gathering in the business of what the liberal. But you could do so much preliminary work you know. Get getting on your computer Checking out google earth. Going to local site Hunting down to let local reports. That give you an idea of what the bite is like what they're biting that. Yeah you know. Even to death preferences that stuff today is is in most cases. These areas have a very dependable week. Al outlet and that retail outlet Is a great source of information. They don't hide stuff from people they want you to have a good experience and they have fishing reports. That are done weekly. yeah you know. There's things that are posted a soon as their retail operation. So they give you the most up to date information you can possibly get and the is saves you so much time by doing a little bit of homework. So i'll you've got fish a lot of places in your lifetime. What was one of your favorite destinations. One place you wanna go go back in two at this point so far i probably one of the greatest place that i would go go bad bad and it was a family of them. Refer went to australia and We fishburne windy and we floated the rivers my wife stay. She didn't go coin with us into the jungle. And we did it three days when but ahead my two boys and We floated the river. spur morning. And we can't detonate banks and stuff and it was going through the you'd see what originally state you with. All these people would come to the river and you see these salt water again. Getting you know we're we're presented teasing experience. We we fish adequate the very typical coins When with the river for and wendy was that the guy that we're with you at a massive john bolt in. And i think if i remember would the sixty four or more on knew we weren't we took Took off at a tipping point when we went out. I don't know how many miles thirty miles or so it was in between darren new canning two oceans. Boil them your. I've never seen so many fish in my life and we got stuck his thing. We had backup quit. I don't even know we've -able experience that in there then we fish. Gt's the great barrier reef. Yeah you know a couple of days we did that tap water fishing critique keys but that was the the most probably the most memorable trip send in the boys rules enough to to remember that and enjoy and i've never been back again but never been back after us really get to do that. Sounds like a lot of fun to me It was exciting. It was really exciting. Every day was true adventure. Oh man that's one awesome thing about fishing is you know whether you're going out your back porch to your little pond or no for for me it was. We went to alaska couple times in my teenage years. Dad took us up to prince of wales island. And those you can either go on a short little ten minute trip around around the corner and fish a canal right by your house or you can go. Halfway across the globe know go to australia does. The opportunities are endless and every one of them is special in. Its own way you know in every fish. Especially it's it's all the way to work with some incredibly you state. Anglers jimmy jeremy hardcore muskie. They looked. I mean this is their fish of yeah this twelve months a year. They're they're on sites. They're always thought worst. What's what's next year. Where their plan. And what is your shoots in that. But every one of us might might bishop choices of small outbreaks. And then i'll go to a wall in allege mouth after that and i enjoy muskie fishing but not like these guys do either yet. It's their deal. And we got guys crappie fish at that looked crappie fishing nets. i'm kinda more kind of favor with troy. I like a little of everything in every case everybody in office sometimes throughout the year goes and jerks and goes a car. What would we are. We'll get a car. Pike in warning to every two to get to tax at least yet you know something different something out of the ordinary it go get some carbon in you know it. It pulled the fun to catch challenging at times. There's a lot of different ways to get him the. It's something i would not want to do every day. Like the mix it up. I like to catch your letter. What types of things. I can't do when thing. I liked the variety but i mean They're so fascinating fish. And i still in our country today in the states. Stay they you know in your up in different places the world there yet. They're big deal especially european nations. You so that's the money. It's like our best here in drives the market. And then he many cases sh- something silly in some off beatles little place in the and trial go round when i visited him. He'll take me shore fishing spots underfunded we mainly corporation jumping. You see him in the afternoon. We'll go think around for two hours or hours a year some place. He'd learned that when he was in arizona for years he went to college. There learned all the inner city rex. He didn't have the both twitter. Invent until i took down with a boat. All during breaks and classes he found every single nook and cranny at fish in and around the entire phoenix area. And believe me. There was a lot of those a lot of little pans and stuff and in and it was you. Carpeting had more more at your standard run carpet. It hit they all had best large mouth bass in your blue gill winner catfish so we just think around shore fishing nets or his wealth of bank fishing for years. He went to school there. All he did was bank fish off it back and it was just fun. I would love to do with you. Know i got the greatest in late. Greatest poison the war world my london. 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Whoever i remember watching you on the wall i video and a bass video just catching tons and tons of fish on those jigs. I had a feeling it might be jagd merick rigor and well like smaller. My mouth says big big pig. Pike some version of chicken for must be done gun with tubes. Big rubber bates. It's it's a jig gonna jk. There's a better way for all kinds of fish all the time anywhere. Get a one sti- family of bates natural leaders acted under the heading up a chick but she was a piece of red or some kind would addressing the guy if might wait if may wait. Four ounces for watering might be a one sixty four for crappie a purple mylar. Jig will work pretty good for steelhead. But i i'm preferential to to top water. Dry fly stuff. I like to see that fish commit. Come out of the water. That's just i. I did enough. You know wet. Fly fishing. That i patrick knows. We've gone on some high mountain lakes. And i just. I really liked to fool that fish to come up all the way out of the water. He's any kind of fishing for musky. Your small mop mop secure rare occasions. Pike tap water breaks. Those are fun if you wanna be consistent year round. Yeah you gotta you gotta get beneath the surface of the water. Yeah my biggest hike. Was i had a fifty three inch. Pike and this thing was was monstrous and it was lake. Naturally larry larry dahlberg and he was filming. But we're reading and got in fake cockney kakatua water are you talk about a memorable experience with that and You know where he's been everywhere to do everything. Yeah yeah you know. He's still thought at their daddy issues. Deck it was unbelievable scene and fifty three inch this. We figured it was mid thirty pounds. You know thirty five thirty eight pounds something again. Maybe it was. It was jackie gigantic for bike. That was half water. Fish birds played beat of ball. That would be. That would be a lot of fun. I now i'm like. Wow that sounds like a blast. But i wanted to change gears just a little bit One of the things that have admired you for years is that you're not afraid to talk about your faith and i think that that's very important thing and you know i want to see if he can share just a little bit about your spiritual journey and how god is played a big role in your life after the two most important parts of my life. The next year shared all all the time. It's fishing in my unity. Go hand in hand every day. Day is just part of my life. I integrated what we do with the television shows. You know the the impact that it it a try to kind of quickly for you until the time. I was thirty five years old. You know i was a person. It was not an atheist store. Nick knight that nasdaq. I probably would have favored more upper eighty s. And i don't believe anybody that spends any amount of time in the outdoors anywhere can be an atheist. I think that's an impossibility. But i had no really. I was obsessed. And i guess that's the only word i could use obsessed with fisher twenty four seven. That was all that and you know. It gets all in our businesses. Were building at that point in time and At thirty five started giving turkey in my heart to Right to spirit a guy who was just tugging in my heart. I met people that that Turned her life over to the lord. Lord that were hard party hard-drinking people that i knew a hard partier. You know when they were like a different person you night and day and he started to talk to me about about jesus guy stuff i never heard of before the enemy sound comes with a lot of people you gotta understand nothing really new number and then i started the search knowing there's life got you got your busse heart who's much of his life in in one day turned us away lord has given us percents and i says well i i can't do it myself i need help i need your direction. I'm just saying guidance. Any made a confession of faith. Like they're nice and his life and then for about two years you know i wandered around back. Studied the word guide. The bible began challenged thing to me to get through a through know little things like could this really be real. You know like so many people. It's this bible. Could this stuff really. But this this thing is is there a guide the foundation guiding coke. Jesus was the foundation. Is this thing that he really is is. He says he is to be comfortable recently. Said he did from beginning to end. Yeah you know. And i started looking at this stuff. You know one day it got out of my head arc. It was never less years. All i can say is if you truly search is real. He's there you care some words to be. It's a real experience. You know the the point he's got to get out of your head in it. You have become a part of my everyday life. I'm not ashamed for the dash. That's it openly. That's who lamb. And i can only share the experience that i hear. And how would i life. My family My outlook on business. Now look on life right back by relationship with my wife and the older. I get a clearer easier. It is for me out to be more appreciative of of my lord grayson so al. I've got a question. It's a immuno high positive this way in a as starting my own business in the outdoor industry and then walking in faith in how how has that affected you know business decisions and just in a living in the limelight and and outwardly expressing. Your faith is there. You know ever moments of doubt. I mean 'cause i in today's society and day and age is definitely not something that's widely accepted. Are you saying in here by some subject back. But what would you buy. S- i mean as far as just running a business and then walking in faith. I if you look at the marketing partners that i have every single one of a from boat motor rag reels lures lying a wreck. Chronics are the top right at the top of their field in their individual categories. Everyone of and we've been with them for many many many years. Some of them almost my entire career. And i've said in corporate boardrooms all over the country. Go going all over television space over television network and contract saying that we re mega conglomerate and never have. I had one of say anything about my confession of faith and that show it all. Most of them have said they appreciated it and go forward and one of the reasons for that is an and some of them are not people but they businesspeople and the bottom line. Is i self stuff for. That's what i still stuff on. I do my job or am i would absolutely. That's why they don't you know so it's it's a only one. Major major challenge would network. It was who was with a network and and jerry jones johnson. They want forgot about guy that that was the words that they came back came back and they said that it's interesting the way they did notification we played on this network for a number of years and this particular year correct when just the way it always hits in five weeks into the show and it was a wednesday afternoon when it got where got i got contacted by the president of networking. And he said it's gonna pull the show because you're religious stance on it. We don't believe it's we. We went network anymore. This was on a wednesday. We get i managed. They did this going to pull it if we did we. Did we read it. Every i reiterate that we think energy i get contract signed with a bunch of sponsors and i had to deliver the numbers in so we get at that show and euronet weekend in the entire re edited version. And we continue our attorneys. Said you know you've been with. They want to take the court. You can't beat it you got. You ran for five weeks already. You did this for years. They never get it. They can't do for this thing and and they talked iran in in my wife. Laura his wife's no we'll go to thorough. They don't want you. i don't i don't want to be there. they want. They want us to be pulled what they want. They wanted to be this what we did back to show to them. We make the changes in our last of the contract for the television season. We sent them with bill. They said the bill hearing on pitching to us and we sent them the bill. Bill them back or the editing changes. We have to make sent it back. I never heard from them. That i didn't pay for the network in europe. Charge them back for all of the pain and misery went back bent. So it's no legal. Nobody called us back. Matt a single thing the legal. Nobody their legal. Nobody never heard from him since well. I'm really glad that you guys you know you. Un ron have have always been good about you. Know talking to people about your faith and it's been a centerpiece of the show and one of the parts of the show. The actually look forward to a bunch is the very end when you go through whatever god lays on your heart and i really just want to say. Thank you for doing that because we need to be able to talk about these things and i. It seems like culture is trying to move in a direction where they don't want you to talk about stuff that might offend somebody. But it's like you know these are things that we should all be talking about. You know if that's part of your life that's an integral piece. You should be able to talk about it. And there's one one thought i have on that. Patrick is to speak to have speech to have thought. You risk being offensive. Right to someone. And i mean if we're just gonna walk around muzzled and mass and never have a conversation about anything i mean. I'm into big game hunting that that can be offensive. Catching fish can be offensive. So we have to push back. We have to go. They'll run over here if you don't get you know and i'm a big thing an immediate business all my life. I'm a big believer a freedom of expression freedom of speech. Even if i don't with it so am i even. If i don't agree with it you still have a right to share. I understand and i respect it. And i think that's something that people need to remember. Is that just because somebody says something. You don't like doesn't mean you have to agree with them. You can just choose not to listen to that person anymore. I mean there's there's stuff that's put out all all the time that i don't listen to and i don't want to be associated with because i don't agree with what their stance is and you know there's plenty of stuff that i do love to watch and listen to that. I do agree with people that disagree whether you should catch fish on spawning beds are not right in an argument about that or you can easily selena when you can easily get there. But but again. I i like i said i. I respect our our freedom speeches. An expression is an important thing. I've been in the media business my life all my life and in people have a right this year that i have i a right. The like to tune into a cheddar offer. Do whatever i want with it not read it. I can exercise my own decisions. I'm not gonna go in there in equality sponsors sponsor them. Because you're doing this dead. I never do. And i think that's something that needs to be heard and i'm glad that somebody i'm sure a few people here it on this podcast but what you said is very true. We don't need you know this. Cancel culture of of things that you know. Ripples need to be able to share and people need to be adults about it and mature enough to handle it and choose what they want to listen to what they don't. I mean that's it's it's really part of the backbone of what what our country was supposed to be about and Were anyway i do to change gears. Just a little A guy that's been really influential in my life on fishing is pat o'grady. I met pat. Oh man that's probably been twelve thirteen years ago. And he was getting his company started. And i jumped in and helped him out with. Pk lures and here. He had told stories about you coming out to wyoming and doing some fishing. I remember reading. In the law. ally wisdom books About seminole and a few things. So i just wondered if you could share a little bit about coming out to wyoming. Western space are so different than northern or ride scary. Yo it's a whole different world and you mentioned to you mentioned alluded earlier when they get used to is. Never any wind ever ending win in. I mean if you go if you're going to fish you better better get used to win. Better not bothering you. The rick the vote right the handle nbc and being a safe piece the piece of equipment. They handle wind in it. I don't know if you guys ever go through three straight days in a row word you calm day never. I don't think lever happen. I go to archery shoots. And i have people say well. I'm not shooting in the wind and they start playing. Oh the winds blow. And i said well you come to wyoming. If you don't shoot or hunt in the wind just don't go hunting joke. Defeat w. t where we go to the code is as an example. You look at the weather report the night before they they say the win the window. We from fifteen to twenty five. It means it's going to be forty plus asu. It'd be forty dollars. Plus that's what you're going to get the truth. Well you talk about seminar. That is one of the windiest places. I think in the lower forty eight. I mean the the wind speeds on that reservoir are ridiculous. But i'll tell you the fishing is phenomenal. How many winter they put around it. Yeah they put a lot of wind turbines that sucker for good reasons but those western reservoirs growth big fish. Hey we're trying to keep that a secret. Al off carp fish is amazing and even some very. I'm a small mountain. i love smart fishing. The small mouth world small mouth. Fishing is as popular as it's become the tournament organizations. That have the come up north and since two small fishing and a great lakes and now they're coming everywhere yet yet you know you get to experience it in tournaments Love it the small mouth. Fishery that exists. West of the mississippi river is still some of the most unexplored smart fishing in north america systems. I can't you're innocent. At west of the river or to western states many of those reservoirs got phenomenal phenomenal. Nominal bishop i. I liked to tell the story. I've told a couple of times there's a. there's a river in oregon. I won't give the name but an all out to you. We drift boat floated at one day. And i hooked sixty small mouth in a day and i got tired of jagan forum. So i put on a mouse pattern. I tied and i caught. You know half a dozen small. He's on a mouse pattern. Just throw it right against the bank and start stripping out and they'd at that river this drift boat only so motorboats in that that can be a lot of fun i mean those are their sparkling out there and some of the some of the bigger systems pick the missouri river as an example for four. You've got set at saf. You've gotta wacky a. These are massive bodies of water massive massive systems and their in in in in there. I mean the small muppet. Nobody hears coast that they won't see an angler in your role year for small. Nobody'll be their four. Pack four pack is one of the most remote fisheries. I've ever been to. And i'll tell you what they're there have got to be miles and miles of shoreline that never get fished and i mean there's massive massive in their own up in way up at that even at the dry air dry air too short that is about what forty i think. That's forty miles long. And then you've got that main arms like one hundred and sixty miles long. There's very few accesses. Oh yeah you know you're right. I remember we had a pw heat from the tournament. They're in what we we got the attention that anisimov parsons weighed in. It was kabaya. They rent way when came to brought the smart in with his bad fish. So we could wait and it was like a six three or six or this. Was that smaller. That miniature scale in your macro swarm are up in san francisco. I couldn't pull about about have to lead. Somebody's somebody structures. Just drive in his crazy ton of them in there. That's an incredible says. I said there there miles up. It is the most untouched massive untouched mama. Fishing attack. the guy goes through not to mention some of the. There's one night and forget. That warned that they bleed. I think they believe their next record. Birsh sure commander there. I can't remember to saturday with no gather some wells. Old anti yeah. There's some fantastic fisheries out here. And i know just in wyoming alone. I mean you've got a number of really good reservoirs for walleye and you know a couple for small mouth that are really significant and a whole bunch that are good for trout of various species. And of course he got flaming gorge with those humongous lake trout. And that's and that's an incredible fishery to we touched on earlier smarter and they've they've kinda taken a dive the they they think that the Burbot that made their way there. Somehow somebody moved burbot down there into that drainage from apparently around this area and They just haven't they haven't done as well they they were doing really well in the early two thousands. I used to go down there with my dad and we'd catch some up to four four and a half pounds and now it's pretty hard to find them. They're still there. They're just not in the quantity that they used to be environmentally. Then yep There's something to be said for that. You know when i grew up steelhead fishing. You'd spend a lot of hours and when you finally hook into one of those thirty forty inch fish. I mean they they take you for a ride for a while but you can fish for two three four days before you even catch one hook one hook up you go small fishing and have those fisher so dang aggressive are fun. It's fun so that's one of the beauty of them. Yeah there's a there's a little reservoir here in wyoming that kicks out you around five pound fish. Pretty regularly And i i went there with a buddy of mine one time and we are fishing. Top water thing between josh. And i we we both got probably fish apiece just fishing little poppers on the surface in it was just a lot of fun and then that thing that you talked about al that happens in wyoming happened in the wind blowing really really hard to get off their old of the gun the boat for your life. Get your your jacket on. Got what. I'll tell you that much we got wet but so what's what's next. What's in the future. What's what's you know. What do you plan on. what's coming up. What are we. Should we be watching for and getting a little long into or the age also slowing down. A little bit i mean jimmy wego muskie fishing me for four hours. I ain't gonna go in our barrett fats or two pound rubber. Big thing can happen. You're only as old as you act. Al see you know strongest kid. My body doesn't want my five. You don't want to receive that. There are things that are wearing down a little think. That's wisdom speaking to abandon. No too so. I i have to pick pick and choose a little bit a little bit more but i still loved the game. I mean know as long as i can contribute that this sport in a positive way. I'm gonna do it. i'm not gonna. i'm not going to quit. I'm not gonna retire up. Going to crack back. And i mean by cutting that i wanna do more fun fishing on the shows. Jimmy jeremy that the staff and other people we work with. I'd like to see troy get a little more involved with this stuff. These guys you pick up the ball and run every night for long enough to fund fish a little bit more by that go do some things and places a lot of bodies of water that i'd like to play around a little bit now for two hundred and a lot of people don't understand that you know when you're going fishing for the weekend without a camera crew that that can be quite pleasurable when you're going filming for an episode that can be you know when you gotta redo takes a redo when you just wanna go explore to make it happen you gotta make. It's working people don't they. They sit in their living rooms and watch that and go. Oh well they were just they. Turn the camera on and went and had a fun time. There's a lot of hours behind the scenes when the cameras work was in. And then there's a year no it's addressing a lot of times a lacking half and on hot fight fetched but then when you dress the show after that. That's when you get the underwater cameras stuff out to fit. That fit the scene where the fisher coming in in to get the right drum shots environment. Those those all add to the editing and make it a little more exciting the music tracks that that go with it. you know. Music is so subtle in you know a lot of shows don't use music because you have to pay Their cost us thirty thousand dollars a year to use a music so yeah bachelor of music track because their royalties and alma my companies right in this is our very first go. My dad and i went she putting this last fall. We hired a cameraman and we took him. And i'm learning very quickly of the shortcomings of we didn't get you know. Be roll. Shot here and this extra shot here and you know getting that underwater shot or that overhead shot that you need in. It's you know it's really hard now to recreate and get those extra shots that we need to produce the film that i wanna purdue so make a real exciting piece you back. That'd be rollers goals man just putting the actual the actual easiest park. It is actually catching deficient getting their artist on films that easy. Then you've everything else is putting it together. It's all better than that anything. Sweetening the more things you have to compliment. Show the better. It becomes the up on where we're struggling. We're stretching it as as as as we can stay but it's fun man fun. It is a lifestyle worth living. Believe me i if you if you could do it. And you find a way to get your niche in their buck doing it your sizzle lifestyle business for a lot of people if you if money is your motivation and you want to get rich. Don't come fishing industry and here's a lifestyle some of us. I mean you could make a good comfortable but if money is silicon valley and they live in that world out there if you want to be able to go out and enjoy the great outdoors and have a comfortable lifestyle. Fishing industry in hunting industry. Got a better choice. you will never regret. it couldn't couldn't goodness it better myself. I have one more question and this is a really important question. Now because on this podcast we talk a lot about recipes and we talk about food. I'm sure you eat fish i. I'm positive that because it's so darn good but is your favorite fish species to eat. And how do you like it. Prepared real simple for me. I had a free nights ago again. It's just brought up perch beer batter perch sounds pretty good to me. A can of bean beam beam some some cream corn on the sidewalk outside with it. And it's like eating better than a lobster themselves as it gets it. Sounds like there's always it's yeah it sounds like you've into edwards family dinner because that's what we do in my house the fried walleye perch and crappie and some some spicy bangs man purchased it. It they are is still. You can celebrate thinking about my wife. Exciting as getting just guys came back from a leech lake and they were a good perch. Blatancy wentz arch for your prize. Bring them over man. Yeah well that's awesome. And again i just want to say thank you again for coming on the show. We're really grateful for you. You know not just the impact on our lives and whatnot. But just i know how busy you are. And i am grateful for you taking the time to spend with us today. I really really enjoyed the opportunity guys. Like i said If they can't be fishing the next thing to do is talk about fishing. What ten below tonight. I'm enjoying. I enjoyed our time here. Today and You know another rapper. During some that you might want to get. You might get some time. You're looking for another guess. she can. She did older jim. Your jeremy better outstanding and they noted you're ready to get the truck getting some real offbeat stuff. Those guys i jimmy and his muskie fishing jeremy those guys. I'm i'm really jealous. Because out. here you know we just don't have access to purebred muskie's it's just we don't have them so i watch those guys and i watch those shows. I just sit there. And i salivate and i cry a little bit because i really wish i could be there but man. It's your fun. Watch those guys catch them. Windfall muskie by turns out. I'm telling you they get like you know that it's happening. After two pearl they get in their fall formless derise turn glassy. You can't even talk to him out space. I can appreciate that. Patrick knows win. When fall. season rolls around. David gone. david all gone but al will. I'll tell you it or if if you make it out this way we'll put you on some fish instead of just talking about some fish arabic bro. I like it man. i'm in well. God bless you and You know be safe on your travels this year and i look forward to watch and more of the winter media so i appreciate it very pretty opportunities guys everybody habitation. Thanks a lot. So i think we should keep rolling for a minute. We'll wrap this show up and do you have to tell a story about al. I'm really glad he came on the show. In my first and only time that i've al was i cast in twenty eleven and i was working on my laptop and i was up in the las vegas convention center and i was sitting on the side. Which is a huge building enormous. I'm sitting out and kind of of the way trying to find a quiet place. I get wifi and do some work for pat gradient. Pk lure so. I'm working on it. And i see this guy. Come out the come off the stairs. I see that it's outlander. And i'm like oh man that's that's all inter i wanna go say. Hi and say thank you. And so i get up and start to head that way and i kid you not. It was like a stampede. The ground shook. You know the sky got dark. There's all these people just came from every direction and kind of cut me off and you know it was like okay. you know. These guys are more important than me. These our sponsors. You know these are guys that have a vested interest in talking to al. And so i'm like i'll just wait here for a minute. I'm sure clear out. It didn't clear out. The mass massive people just got bigger and bigger and bigger and then that mass move down to where all the booths were. And i was like well. There goes my chance. Shake his hand and say thanks But w quicker next time patrick. Yes but now. He's got to spend an hour talking with him and he's he's a wonderful guy and he's made an impact on my life that you i can only just tell you guys that it meant a lot to me today to be able to talk to him when i was younger. My mom passed away. When i was fourteen and after my mom passed away one of my things that it was kind of an outlet for me was fishing just to get away clear my head get away from life and my dad. I remember one saturday. He took me down to cabela's in sidney nebraska which is about a hundred miles from cheyenne. So he went to sydney. Bought some fishing gear but we also went and we found that they had a rack of in fishman. Vhs tapes and books and so we picked up those things and brought it home. And i mean. I was in those things. Like you wouldn't believe you know on those rough winners of shan that i keep talking about you know with the wind. Cystic crappie fishing. That was there. And i don't mean the fish you know we we would watch those videos. And we'd get amped up for that next trip to the gorge to catch small mouth or that trip that we had that next year where. We just clobbered the ele- perch walleye at poison. So you know those kind of things really mean a lot to me and just al and just the way is just how he has so much. Fun has so much joy around fishing. It's just so inspiring to me and so having him on was a big deal. You know for me today so it was great but i learned that and positively right. Vate faith and fishing is what he said. But you if if you're not having fun in this industry and he really did hit the nail on the head. Yes it's it's nice to be able to get to a point. You could make a living at it. But if you wanna make money go to silicone valley go go go create the next app or whatever the next thing is you make money and live that lifestyle but you know he touched on it. He's been in the industry for longer than about anybody and he still working i. It's it's crazy. He's seventy six years old and he's still going and just definitely an inspiration to a lotta people and one of the things. I wanted to pass along as if any of you wanna try to win a trip to go fishing with al. You can actually put in for that right now if you go to. England edged dot com. Which is there lindor media fishing page. So it's angling edge dot com. You can actually enter to win a trip to go with al which i highly recommend you at least in the show notes yet. So i'll have that there and then of course go check out their website. I mean they have so much information on so many different species of fish. It's kind of mind blowing because there's just tons of it and you can order. Dvd's and a number of other things but definitely support them. They're great family. Great group of people definitely take a kid or a new person with you fishing. Pick a go. Pick mali's yeah. It'll catch some mvm. Some of these dvd's are shown. Their youtube channel for over magazine cited in fact last night before doing this stuff. I showed the kids i said. Do you wanna see who are going to have on the podcast and the kids were like. Yeah i do. And so. I pulled up youtube and just played one of their one of their walleye videos. And they're like oh man that's really cool dad and they were all excited so definitely get people inspired. Get him out there. That's the whole goal. Patrick exactly so again. Thanks everybody for listening to this podcast. It doesn't happen without support of our listeners. And david and i definitely appreciate it. We do sorry you have to listen to me some days Or for that matter so as not all there but definitely go to our website. We have shown notes. We have a lot of different episodes on tons of topics. Bears elk in wall. Is you name it. We've got a little bit of everything. And then of course you can check us out on the social media. You want to support us. Computer read cast hat. Give a half ship it to you. They're pretty cool. A pretty sharp and of course. Go out and subscribe you. Know if you're on apple podcasts or spotify or any of those places that you gave your podcast subscribe to the podcast like podcast. Pleased definitely leave us a review. Tell your friends your friends. Yeah so anyway just wanted to say thank you again again. Check us out at red. Cast outdoors dot com.

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Is Anxiety the Same for Everyone?

Anxiety Slayer

05:12 min | 8 months ago

Is Anxiety the Same for Everyone?

"Good so good to be with you again this week. Hey shan today's episode is in response to following question from our private facebook group. Do you think there's a general way to clear anxiety. That's applicable for everyone or do you think everyone is different. And there's different ways that were for other people. Great question really good question. Yeah there are a variety of practices that can come anxiety for everyone as we show on the podcast but the experience of anxiety isn't the same for everyone so learning about how i mind. Body tight walks gives us individual insights to our unique triggers. An challenges differ responses to anxiety. How the mind tons over with anxiety and abroad a variety of ways. We can support ourselves. With lifestyle adjustments attrition an emotional support and there are lot of insights from ir veda on anxiety and the different mind and body types which we talk about quite often that are so incredibly helpful. Anxiety is almost epidemic in the modern higher-tech world and those. It's a long standing problem. It's increasing globally during the coronavirus pandemic it's also increasing globally for our young ones who have been raised with screens. And so we just really have to be vigilant here. Let's dig into ir vega well. Everybody teaches that we will have a unique body and mind makeup adoc so different mind types response to stress and anxiety in different ways but as we've discussed before to teach his anxieties seen largely as a voter disorder butter disturbance in arabic medicine. So vata is that air and ether body type really light airy if they're all which makes very creative mind very adaptable. Mind a very funny mind. Some really wonderful qualities come with it but it's also mind that's easily disturbed blown around on grounded. And when there's lack of those earth and fire under on water elements in the body and in the mind we feel untethered and the mind can suffer greatly when his in that state and the challenge we have is whatever our body or mind type might be that we have from the beginning of our life. Anyone can become law to disturbed and technology. Scrolling will the electromagnetic frequencies. We have around us this expectation to be on all the time available all the time. All these things are lot disturbing. Long commutes travel people that travel internationally change in their body. Quote these kinds of things all affect that water energy increase it and increases on groundedness increases stress an increases the likelihood that we're going to suffer with anxiety and also as we age we take on more of the bata disorders. Or more of a. I guess it wouldn't be only disorders but do you find that true as well. Yeah i rated teaches that we have different stages of life and water increases as we passed the age of fifty voter increases in the body Sometimes it's totally kits a mock off the more grounded of the other motor elmo which you can see in you know. Abundant hair shiny is smooth. Skin will that energy and stamina. That's there but sometimes it's also with children that there is a lot of voter because they're not settled in themselves yet and they can be changeable in temperament and movement and task around so but to can also be there when we're young but in terms of life stages is generally told the childhood is offer stage. The earth and water stage middle years are hitter the is of achieving and career. I'm during those years and then asked fifty is moldova stage of life so we do need greater protection from the energy increasing in that stage of life but also well-managed voter. This is something that we have to really understand is. There's no good or bad here. Yeah it's not that will mind type is bad at one. Stage of life is bad. It's about appreciating what's good and beneficial to us in those life stages and how we can support plus side of those doshi time so voter is wise. It's witty lots is detached quite a sage stage of life those audio years when butter is properly managed. That can be very wise and introspective time of life

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Be Mighty with Jill A. Stoddard PhD

Anxiety Slayer

06:24 min | 8 months ago

Be Mighty with Jill A. Stoddard PhD

"Dr jill stoddart's be mighty leads you on a bold quest to gain a deeper understanding of your anxiety by exploring your own or story how your early experiences led to thoughts and behaviors then may have offered comfort and protection at one time but are now keeping you from living your best life. After reading this fabulous. You'll learn to respond to present-day triggers in a new way making choices from a more conscious values driven. Place jill a stoddard. Phd is founder and director of the center for stress. Anxiety management a multi site outpatient clinic in san diego california. She specializes in acceptance and commitment therapy and cognitive behavioral therapy for anxiety and related issues. She lives in san diego with her husband to kids and two french bulldogs. Welcome to anxiety slayer jill i shan. Thank you so much for having me so happy to be here. It's a pleasure. And congratulations on the success of your latest book. Be mighty what a fabulous book. And i know that you reached out to us quite some time ago to to get on and i'm and i'm glad you're here. It took us a little while but were here in. Your book is still out there and doing so well. So many great reviews. Yes and actually. It's great timing because the book just past her first birthday. Yeah be a celebration of about a year ago. I had the pleasure of speaking with dr steven hayes and he told me that that time that he pioneered act to help people with mental health issues feel fully think freely and live lives that reflect the qualities they choose and i'd like to begin our conversation with you sharing with us. How act can support women who often struggle with anxiety. Health things -iety in anxiety attacks. Yeah well act is a little different from some of the traditional ways. We go about attacking anxiety in that. The main goal of act is about developing psychological flexibility. And so this is really tuning in to the life you want and the person you want to be and showing up in doing what matters no matter what so. We often get caught in a trap where we do this waiting until thing you know like oh you know maybe i have a huge dream so i'll give you a personal example. I had a really big dream of doing a fedex. Talk one day and an opportunity arose to be able to do that. And i was terrified. I mean can feel my anxiety rising right now just talking about what we often do is say well i just i just need a little more expertise and i just need a little more practice and once i get my anxiety under control and i feel more confident and less insecure. Then i'll go ahead and do this. And what act is all about is becoming an observer of all those thoughts and feelings that we often get really hooked by and sort of we allow those thoughts and feelings to dictate our choices rather than letting what's important to us lead the way. The thing about doing what matters is it's going to come with anxiety because if it didn't matter you wouldn't care. Oh so well said. I used to do a lot of speaking an moved away from it moved into other areas of interest. But oh my goodness the number i would do on myself before speaking and i was very good very well prepared new speaking about once you got me on stage there is no turning me off. You couldn't shut me up right. But what i put myself through before it was something else and over time over practice and everything that lightened up but there was still that My my speaking coach would say try and take that anxiety and turn it into excitement and some days. I could do that and other days. It was just a matter of forcing myself really to just do it right. And and i think you know the all gets a little bit confusing for human beings because sometimes when we feel panicky when we feel fear it's because we're endanger our body is saying you need to fight or flee if you're going to be safe but sometimes were having those feelings and it's you know it's a false alarm. It's a perception of danger when it's not really dangerous or what it is it's a quote unquote social danger that you know when you're public speaking you care that people think your competence and interesting that you have something of value to deliver and you think evolutionary early early humans weedon have fangs or clause or we didn't run fast. We had each other where social beings early humans who hunted and gathered and travelled together had a survival advantage so to constantly be checking your status in the group to make sure you know. Am i doing my part. Am i valued or am. I gonna get kicked out because if i get kicked out i'm dead and so we've really evolved to be creatures who compare ourselves to others and of course. Social media has made that far greater than it was ever intended to be. But it's this very normal natural thing we do to care what others think so that we don't risk getting booted from our tribe and so sometimes when fear and anxiety and panic and all that arise. It's not a sign that we need to go run and hide run to safety run to the comforts on. It's a sign that we really care about this thing that we're doing and when you're laying in bed at night and you can't sleep and the wheels are spinning in its to mayhem. You're not worrying about whether netflix's is going to go out of business. That's not what keeps you up at night. What are wheelspin over. As our family our loved ones our jobs the things that really matter the most to us and so part of act is really recognizing that our pain. Barring society is not the enemy. It's everything were doing to move away from it

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Shootout at Virginia Walmart injures three, including deputy

WTOP 24 Hour News

00:51 sec | 9 months ago

Shootout at Virginia Walmart injures three, including deputy

"In Sterling ended with four people being shot, including a man who opened fire on store security and allowed in county sheriff's deputy This all happened yesterday afternoon. Security guards inside the store say they noticed a man stealing items and when allowed in county sheriff's deputy tried to take him into custody. It's alleged the suspect pulled out a gun and started shooting. Another deputy, then shot back. But even though he was hit, the suspect apparently stole a pickup truck. It was able to escape. Fairfax County Police found that suspect driving south on route 28 Shan Tilly just before the truck crashed. Everyone involved. The shootings were hospitalized with serious injuries, but they are all expected to be okay as well. So far, Loudon County sheriffs have not released the name of the suspect or the charges that he'll be facing. Greenbelt police

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"shan" Discussed on KNBR The Sports Leader

KNBR The Sports Leader

01:38 min | 11 months ago

"shan" Discussed on KNBR The Sports Leader

"Black Sabbath album, seventh grade, and the first Sabbath on my ball was paranoid. That was the one that had, like the hits that I knew it had war, pigs and Iron man and I'm like, Okay, cool. And then I started going little deeper, and I gotta tell you something about a greatest hits. Copulation called re sold our souls for rocket role and the song Shan and going Back to your question. No, I'm not kidding. You actually scared me as like a 13 14 year old kid. Probably like you watching that movie listening at home alone House You know, I'm getting creeped out right now is strong. The song is Black Sabbath Sabbath. I got eyes in this. And if you don't know the song, The song is about a man sleeping in bed who suddenly wakes up to find the devil standing in his bedroom off him that he's taking him downtown. And then he's just like, you know, what is this? That stands before me figure in black with a warrant, and then he drops up. No, no, please, God, help me do the terror, the terror. What isthe stands. We covered that one show at our Halloween show back at the chapel once. Oh, my God. Great called Polly..

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The Khun Sa Files

Kingpins

05:29 min | 1 year ago

The Khun Sa Files

"At the end of January nineteen, eighty to the forty eight year old coon saw lost almost everything. In a matter of days, the empire he'd spent years building had fallen since his escape from house arrest in nineteen, seventy, six Kuhn saw had risen to become one of the most powerful and infamous drug lords in the world from his base in northern Thailand. He trafficked opium out of Burma refined it into heroin and sold it to organized crime outfits across. Southeast. Asia approximately seventy five percent of the world's heroin was coming out of the region. Much of it. Thanks to Kuhn saw, and he was able to do it all with the help of the Thai government and Sean State Freedom Fighters. But in the early nineteen eighties, his luck ran out at the behest of the United States his type benefactors turned on him. And on January Twenty First Nineteen eighty-two the time military descended upon his headquarters in the town of Bond Hint Tech faced with complete annihilation. GHUNSA had no choice but to flee back to Burma taking the remains of his private army with him. They left behind fifteen tons of weaponry and millions of dollars worth of heroin processing equipment as bad as these hits were coon son knew that far more damaging was the loss of the Thai government's support without their protection coon saw was significantly weaker and everyone knew it January twenty first proved that his militia was no match for a real military. Embarrassed and betrayed ghunsa swore he wouldn't let himself be beaten. So easily he was still the self proclaimed King of the Golden Triangle and a world renowned freedom fighter. He would just have to figure out how to rebuild his operation in Burma. The problem with going back to Burma was that he was essentially a fugitive there. But looking at the political landscape, he decided to take a gamble. The Burmese military dictatorship was embroiled in ongoing battles with the Communist Party of Burma and a number of regional separatist groups. Despite his relatively high profile. Kuhn, saw wouldn't be the government's first priority a more difficult problem for him would be rebuilding his army. The only way he was going to hold onto his share of the drug market much less survive in war-torn northeast, Burma was through military strength. Kuhn. Saw and his Sean United Army started going after smaller drug organizations on the Burmese side of the border with each victory. The losing soldiers defected to Kuhn saw as they swept through the region, they secure key trafficking routes and territory for new heroin refineries. Seeing, just how quickly and forcefully Kuhn saw was able to rebuild the Taya Thirties realized they'd have to make amends with him. They appreciated that he was keeping the Burmese side of the border under control by taking over all the warring groups and their financial stakes in the heroine industry also meant they wanted to get back on the drug lords good side. They just needed to convince coon saw that it would be more lucrative for him to forgive and forget their trail luckily for the Thai officials coon Saws Pragmatism won out over his anger. In return for his forgiveness though he required that the Thai government's recognize him as the sole figurehead of the Sean State Independence Movement? This would legitimize his role as a freedom fighter on the international stage. However, in the years, he'd been in Thailand other Sean separatist groups with stronger ideological roots had expanded their bases in Burma. In particular the Sean State Army with whom Koon saw had an on again off again, relationship had become a military and political force to be reckoned with. If Kuhn saw wanted to even be the nominal leader of the rebel movement he was going to have to eliminate them. February nineteen eighty-three Kuhn saw shan united. Army. Swept into the homeowner valley whether Sean States Army kept its main base. It's close proximity to Thailand provided an easy escape route in case of attack from the Burmese government. But for Kuhn, saw, the valley was also prime real estate for opium trafficking coon says, troops faced little resistance the Shan State Army immediately realized they were outmatched and retreated Kuhn saw walked right in and took control of the home. Valley. In the village of Ho Mong he established his new headquarters declaring it the new capital of the future, a Free Sean State, but he wasn't finished coon sauce and a handful of his most trusted men into northern Thailand and assassinated several sean independence leaders. By the summer of Nineteen eighty-three, he had made himself one of the only viable leaders of the Sean 'cause and reclaimed his place atop the opium trade.

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2 people headed to prison for running a fake oil and gas company, Houston

Ground Zero with Clyde Lewis

00:22 sec | 1 year ago

2 people headed to prison for running a fake oil and gas company, Houston

"Who admitted to running a fake oil and gas business or heading to prison for atleast two decades. Harris County prosecutors announcing the sentences today for her Amelia Flores and David Shan, saying they defrauded 37 clients through Wolf Pack oil and company. Prosecutors also say the pair collected a million dollars total through selling fake oil and gas investments. Both were out on parole at the time for theft.

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Are You Letting Past Mistakes Control Your Future?

Chris Hogan's Retire Inspired

05:18 min | 1 year ago

Are You Letting Past Mistakes Control Your Future?

"While I'm glad to be back with you. We have got a fantastic show lined up I am biased of course, but we've got some questions lined up callers that are ready to ask what's on their mind, and at the same time we're going to bring. Bring, you information to help you jump start and get moving forward. That's the goal. No one wants to be stuck. No one wants to standstill. We know that progress is down the road, and so that's where we have to get. GOIN'. And sometimes we can get stuck. Sometimes, we can have our wheel spinning, and now this is the time for us to get traction and to be able to move forward, and so I appreciate all of you for tuning in and also for. For sitting in questions and calling in without, you don't have a show, but I want you to know as I. Start this show. Understand that progress is available. Now it's not always comfortable and it's not always easy, but it is available, and so what we have to do is to make daily decisions to move forward and whether we've got a push pull or drag, I can remember car ads back in the day that said that they were take your trade in, you should put you. You could push polar drag anything in and they would give you a trade I wanted to test that I really did I wanted to find something and literally just come dragging down the road a just a a Pinto like rusted out right and just pull it up there and see what happens. But you know what sometimes what we have to do is pull ourselves and often times in order to get traction, you gotta hook onto something a little more stable and stronger than you. Now that might be in your faith for you to kind of latch on and go you know what I need some encouragement and I need some motivation or it might be latching onto a friend or mentor somebody that can help pull you forward a little bit. 'cause. We all need the encouragement. We all need the nudge and we all won't progress. VIP's I'm excited that you're here and here's the deal. We ask you. If you run across articles to send US something in. You know I love to start to show off that way, and if you bump something that the US as the Ip we need to know I want. Want to email me ask at Chris Hogan three, sixty dot com, or if you happen to bump into something that might get my hair standing up. Well, guess what Shan, out of Indiana did just that Sean. I. Appreciate you because if I wouldn't wide awake, I am now you bumped into some stupid and you called it out and you send it to me and I'm grateful for you. I, really am This is something that is on my brain. It is something that I bumped into as a financial coach. It is something that is holding a lot of people back and also standing in way of them chasing down dreams. The title of this article is how to find a private student loan cosigner. Oh. VIP's you already know where this is about to go. Don't you? Yep. Because the word cosigner stands for handcuffs. That's what that means is from Fox business and again I. WanNa. Thank Sean from Indiana, one of your peace were sending in this article This article is all about how to find a private student loan cosigner. So in other words, let me put this through the Hogan translator. How you can convince somebody to take on massive debt along with you for the debt joyride. Guy Yeah because you didn't qualify for it on your own. So you had to get somebody did and so y'all y'all sign up for it. This is a terrible idea. unlike federal loans private. Student loans. Require credit check. And because many young people don't have credit establish and I wish I. could keep them protected in that way, but I can't. They end up needing someone with a strong credit score to be able to cosign along with him. In fact, this article notes that ninety two percent. Ninety two percent which put that through the Hogan translator all. Of private loans are co-signed. Almost, all of them. Having a cosigner can help borrows qualify for a better interest rate supposedly most cosigners unfortunately, our parents. What can also be grandparents. Or. Aunts. Uncles. Or sibling or even close friend I've seen that happen before. So this article gives all kinds of tips on how to do these three crazy things, how to find the right person Cochon alone, how to boost your credit score. And then how find a lender that doesn't do a credit check now that one is is a positive. but the credit check. Right. But again, we're not doing the cosigner thing matter. Of fact, I. Don't want you going down the route of debt at all, but we're not gonNA talk about these tips because we're not gonNA, make time for stupid. Let me be clear when you take when you cosign alone, you are taking full responsibility for that loan. Let me say that again when you cosign, you're taking full responsibility. Now, it sounds weird because co sign means we're doing this together. We're both coming into this venture, right, but it's not a venture. It's a terrible

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The Beauty Of Nothing

Secular Buddhism

05:35 min | 1 year ago

The Beauty Of Nothing

"In the last podcast episode I shared a Cohen. That's goes like this own Mahn said, I do not ask you about fifteen days ago. But what about fifteen days hence come say a word about this since none of the monks answered he answered for them every day is a good day. The everyday is a good day co on is a Cohen that I've enjoyed. In fact I have it written in Japanese on a poster board on my wall every day is a good day and this has been A. a way of thinking concept. If we want to call it that that I like to keep the forefront of my mind when I'm experiencing what I would consider to be a good day. Maybe a bad day for someone else or would consider to be a bad day for me. Certainly a good day for someone else and the idea that every day is a good day because it's always based on perspective and place some time has been helpful for me to I think have a more skillful view of what good means and and the idea of what a day is. So I wanted to share some of the thoughts that came from the Patriot community do Shan says I can't escape thinking that hope is at the center of this Cohen as well as the irrelevance of the past and the future. However, I don't commonly see hope as a big part of Buddhism in general hope seems judgmental and perhaps leads to dissatisfaction about the way things are. I want to share a couple thoughts about this in in terms of the notion of hope in in Buddhism I like to remind people that the Buddhist view is always pertaining to the present moment. So when we approach concepts like hope like hopelessness specifically. It's always pertaining to the present moment. So the idea isn't that I shouldn't have hope for things in the future. The idea is that if I can experience homelessness in the present moment, what I'm experiencing is a moment of not needing things to be any different than how they are, which if you think about it that when we talk about the the definition of suffering the moment, we want things to be other than how they are. We experienced suffering now there's nothing wrong with hat. It's okay to experience suffering. It's unavoidable impact. We're going to experience this feeling times the moment we want things to be other than how they are. So what we can do in the present moment if I realized that for this one single moment, I don't need anything to be other than how it is. I'm experiencing seen hopelessness but I know hopelessness has a bad rap a bad connotation in our way of thinking in our society and it's a little strange to tell someone that the you're aspiring for hopelessness but remember it's not in the future you see this even in Buddhist. Thought like the in the Meta prayer where you say may you be happy? May you be free? May You? May you be free from suffering? May you be a piece that expression is a implies? A wish that I have for you in the future. But as far as a practice goes what I'm doing when I'm trying to experience hopelessness it's right now in this present moment, it's it's the radical acceptance of how things are all elaborate on that just a little bit more but I I wanNA share a roberts thoughts. He says, thanks for the episode. The Cohen makes me think of two things one, there's no such thing as A. Bad Day, because even if you're having a bad day billions of others might be having a good one and two time is a concept. It's existence relies on humans believing in it there are no good or bad days because beyond our perception, there are no days. Now I liked it he brings awareness to this idea of time if I say every day is a day Yeah. The the. The idea of a day is something that is a concept right? We we distinguish what a day is based on the rotation of the Sun. We've decided that's it, but you know, where do you draw that line? What if it was twenty five hours in the day and on the twenty fifth hour? There's this great thing that happened How do you define what makes it a day? Good. And what makes a day bad is at ten good things and too bad things as it twelve good bad things and one good thing you know what would make it good or bad and then you have to break down from there will then is it what? What is it by our What what would make every hour is a good hour or every minute is a good minute. Every second is a good second right where do we draw that line because again, the emphasis from the Buddhist perspective is always pertaining to the present moment and any moment can be a good moment if I just bring awareness to it and mindfulness to the moment because if you'll recall the the very definition of mindfulness as the non-judgmental observation of the present moment. So I'm observing the. Present. Moment with non judgment, it's not good or bad. It's just the moment that is and in doing. So yea, could say every moment is a good moment but that's the Co on right because who says, what's good? Who say what's good and what's bad

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UN agency warns of fentanyl production threat in SE Asia

AP News Radio

00:30 sec | 1 year ago

UN agency warns of fentanyl production threat in SE Asia

"Thank you an office on drugs and crime system discovery during a series of raids in Myanmar's Shan State suggests a market potential exists in the region I was concerned to Southeast Asia is poised to become a significant source of synthetic drugs worldwide the agency says what has been on the earth is truly off the charts he believes in network production facilities like those found would not be possible without the involvement and financial backing of serious transnational organized criminal groups I'm Charles the last month

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UN agency warns of fentanyl production threat in SE Asia

AP News Radio

00:44 sec | 1 year ago

UN agency warns of fentanyl production threat in SE Asia

"Not critics police in Myanmar the seized a large amount of liquid fentanyl providing the first evidence that the synthetic opioid is being produced in quantity in southeast Asia's Golden Triangle region are you in office on drugs and crime system discovery during a series of raids in Myanmar's Shan State suggests a market potential exists in the region I was concerned Southeast Asia is poised to become a significant source of synthetic drugs worldwide the agency says what has been on the earth is truly off the charts he believes in network production facilities like those found would not be possible without the involvement and financial backing of serious transnational organized criminal groups I'm Charles the last month

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"shan" Discussed on The Viall Files

The Viall Files

06:00 min | 1 year ago

"shan" Discussed on The Viall Files

"Party still autumn. I'm not saying you don't but I'm saying what what's behind that decision. You know what it was. It was mainly about wanting to feel like I could make a choice for myself and I didn't drink for a long time. I drank in high school and I drank. I didn't like myself I drank could just like change my personality or ultra my experience or be more relaxed when I knew I wasn't relaxed. Sometimes even doing that. Put you unsafe search situations because you like dulger own instincts. So when I got tomato twenties of the I don't WanNa do this anymore. When I turned thirty I started drinking a bit and I found. I just couldn't concentrate the people talking to me. I just couldn't leaning close enough to like catch what they were saying. I don't need this just isn't enhanced my experience but as the taste but question number two has shan ever had sex in public and I'm going to clarify by like I'm not talking about like sex on a balcony at a resort where no one can see you. I mean like you knew someone was watching. I'm GONNA say yes a hundred percent. Yes a Hannukah present. She kind of percent guys are both Ding Ding Ding on that one. Yeah addition is honestly like it would be a fantasy of mine to be watched by tons of people want to say these same total having a I love it. Like oftentimes fantasize my ex's being in the room having sex and they're watching me owned by my man and they can't engage in the thing and it's the hottest thing to me same same totally. I'm on board. I've never done it but definitely a fantasy Has shown ever been injured during sex. What are we define injury? We're not talking like scratching on the back or like a burn from Kano Axe Mike talking about like a pulled muscle or had you injured someone else because if you guys have are easily jumping required some sort of medical attention sure. Yeah yes both ways. I've heard somebody else and I've all my gosh. I tried to do the splits vibe that I was someone that I this goes back to our earlier thing. You gotta be true who you are in the moment. You know what I mean. If you didn't practices splits before during sex is not the time so I ended up like really hurting my leg in having to be on crutches for a bit like Does Shan no the brand of underwear she is wearing Sure yeah attention to detail Say yes she does kids busy time. I'M GONNA go ahead and say oh no I do. These are amazing guys. I feel so loved unknown. Right now Do you have kids no. I don't have you don't have kids. I Dunno I thought that. Given off that mother Levi like future has shan posted on social media in the last hour while she's been on this show for the past hour so we'll have has shand posted this morning No Answer Yeah. I like Rick daily ritual. She does something in the morning. You know a story. You're probably right I. You're probably right. I'm still say now. Let's see Into now yeah not a multitasker and so I was five minutes late for this call so that should be indicative if I was posted on social media. Be a bad person. This is what I'm feeling this morning. All right well Looks like we got the show better. Thanks for playing. Shat hundred percent on that we are. I'm pretty good at this game. Shan I like I like I spent an hour listening to their answers and I'm just like I feel like I haven't figured out but I had such a great time chatting with you Before we let you go let people know where they can find you and all your platforms shows that you're doing or they can read your stuff etc etc. Yes so I'm booty online and Budi is spelt with a D. It is a play on my last name. anatomy so S. H. A. N. B. O. D. Y. Awesome. Well again I appreciated. You'll have to definitely come back for our ask nick episodes. It's been a ton of fun and It's always great to hear people in your profession especially for Woman's point of view. You know talking about sacs making a sex positive whether you agree or disagree just kind of opening up. The conversations for tentative points of view is and just not not having you shame yourself or question any you know any thoughts and desires. You have You know are probably fine as long as you are able to address them so I I love that I love what you're all about. I think it's it's it's awesome congrats on all success and excited to see all the things that you are going to be doing. Thank you. That was a beautiful goodbye. Thank you so much nick. Thanks rate Shell. You're welcome nice to meet you. All right we'll take care and ED. Thanks everyone obviously for listening as always make sure to send in your questions that ask Nick Academy Dot Com cast with the K. And we always appreciate listening. Don't forget to send in your reviews. We haven't plugged that in a while. We need to get some reviews up people. We you know only five stars. We don't we don't want your twos threes and we're not really interested in critical feedback. We just want. We want pats on the back really.

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"shan" Discussed on The Viall Files

The Viall Files

04:23 min | 1 year ago

"shan" Discussed on The Viall Files

"Try those little staff when that works. Well you get really turned on. Keep growing and going. That's Christian grade and end up with a Red Room Day. One it to build his way up to that. What are your thoughts on kind of these non traditional things? Dsm Porn choking slapping whatever all these things and the concept of it being kind of a slippery slope of like jumping the shark in bed so to speak like constantly need to find new exciting things. Like do you believe in that do you. Do you think it's negative? Like what are your thoughts in that General thought? I don't think I mean I went to school for sexology and so there was a certain time when in our studies that I felt this constant pressure to be like trying everything knowing everything and then like midway through. I'm like I'm just good with a Nila in missionary like I'm GonNa be honest with myself like I don't have a desire to do. These things and life is long. I can view them and appreciate them and see why somebody would like it but life is long sex's long in the brain doesn't actually need a lot to feel like a brand new experience. You don't have to into you know. Bring in a seventy foot dildo to give that extra a dopamine spike. You could just change the lighting your bedroom to blue for the night and that would make it feel fresh in different. So it's not a slippery slope. You probably will try something once when a dude a few more times maybe put it back in the bed in that box for six more months bring it back out and if it is a slippery slope is probably indicating that your partner has a fetish in this area and they really do enjoy it and now they're starting to discover a part of their sexuality that brings them pleasure and that's great you're part of discovery and as long as you like it and you're comfortable in your also finding enjoyment in it slip on like at sounds pretty bomb to me. I'm all for it Well I really appreciate you sharing this stuff. I feel like we could talk for four hours more and If you are willing we'd love to have you back for one of our ask nick episodes and and you know actually Knicks Arson Navy even person when this ends but before we go we always like to play. Do you know me a fun game. Trying to get the nor- guests a little bit more. Thrill simple how you play. I'm GonNa ask you a question and don't say it right away. Rochelle and I guess the answer and we'll see who knows you better There's six questions here. Shells collected some of the more sexual ones but fitting me and Michelle should play for you. I don't know I feel like I. I know pretty well. I don't pretty well. You definitely would win. We need to find but you didn't know that he didn't know about. Dsm that's true. I don't know I don't know I don't know she she well. I don't know I know you. Wow I think I think you probably know me a lot. And then there's probably some inaccuracies or perceptions partly because I I don't share some things but anyways but that could be fun. Maybe maybe another time but right now Shan all right Do you know me with Shan Dram has shan ever thrown up in a cab not sexual channel eighty no I think she Shan strikes me as someone who likes control She's able to give up control. But it's almost one of those things where she's in control of her releasing her control and therefore yes she hasn't she wouldn't let herself go that far but doesn't mean she doesn't party she hasn't thrown open a cab. I think she's grown up in a cab. I see it. I can see it in college. Yeah Yeah Oh yeah. I'm a teetotaler so I've never thrown up in a cab and I'm actually not that much of a thrower upper. Sometimes I wish I was because throwing up is such sweet release so when you're not feeling well it would be a wonderful thing to do but I don't really have that reflects and I don't drink so you don't drink. I don't how you never have drank. She's in control. O-.

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"shan" Discussed on The Viall Files

The Viall Files

07:32 min | 1 year ago

"shan" Discussed on The Viall Files

"If you're not getting the results that you want. It's time to start getting really intentional about it. And the book is a five phase process to help people do that interesting. I mean I actually quite liked the title and like you said specific to women. Because like you know this. Podcast is heavy relationship based Our audiences primarily women right. And what we've talked about a lot on this show especially with our ethnic episodes is the amount of women out there who take a passive approach dating life. They're constantly they spend most of their energy worried about if he likes me. What should I do to make him happy ETC CETERA? Well why doesn't he call me and it's just like well you know what do you want? What are what are your standards? You know what like you spend so much time and fixating on? What what he wants. You haven't spent any energy on what you want. And so I. I like I like that. It's out your books. It's definitely makes sense that it's a bestseller and there's definitely a market out there for for women to like feel more empowered about like having their own expectations. I like that one question. You mentioned you're talking about that. Is I would love you to clarify when you said people telling you just be yourself and how might that might be bad advice. Well what do you mean? What do you mean by that if you're not achieving results at anything right whether that be? I come to you because if I'm buying a book about dating that insinuates that my dating life isn't going well and that's okay. This is a big part of people's lives even for me. I'm constantly buying relationship books because there's new things that I want to learn so I'm admitting that there's something that I'm lacking dust and picking this up to pick up new traits but a lot of people don't by relationship books. Don't buy dating books. Don't invest in this staff. Don't invest in therapy because we live in this world that tells you that the right person will just find you. It's just supposed to happen one day. You'll just wake up and you'll know like all these really passive Armitage's to what love is supposed to be like kind of cupid sentiment but if you're not getting the results that you want in cooking and you came to me you're like I keep burning the rice like what should I do. I wouldn't say like just keep doing what you're doing work out eventually. I do have some share wrong like something wrong in your process. If you're consistently getting burt rice we have to trouble shoot and troubleshooting starts with you and that's the good news because I think a lot of people. When I first started researching from the book I put out a tweet. I just said dating is fill in the blank and the amount of negative responses. I got back right because it's so easy to be like dating trash. Dating is a waste of time. Dating is manipulative. Dating is a bunch of people just trying to have sex. Dating is nothing. But a game that you're gonNA lose that and then you're like well. How are you as a dater? That's the question you're actually never answering in all of this. And that is the question that the book really challenged and so one of the chapters of the book is called. Don't just be yourself and I. I think that that's really positive advice. I think that being told to just be yourself like why if I'm alive. I want to strive I want to improve. I WANT TO DO BETTER. I never want to just be. I'M GONNA become so. That's what that truly rooted in and I just. I hate that advice so much people say that I yeah I liked that you articulated that because I think sometimes people can be confused by that. Because I'm I totally agree in terms of self-improvement like I'm still doing things in my life to just get better ask questions admit fault in a sense of like. I'm not good at that. I want to get better and You're right too. Many people get too comfortable with who they are and just Not only do they ask other people including their partners to accept it but they ask themselves do accepted like well. This is this is this. Is this who I? I'm just I'm just going to be this person. And but that being said you know when you if you are self improving Would you agree that like do the work to to make yourself the best version that you wanna be but if you want your in that relationship or you're on that date do you? Would you agree that still important to like not compromise? The things that you you you want out of that relationship or that conversation as opposed to like on that date acting differently than you normally would. That's Kinda feels out of body just to please the person across the table from you and the operative word there is acting most. Y'All ain't good actors. There's a reason why one person year winds actor of the year you know for movie. You're just there's not a lot of you out there who are incredible actors. It was in the book gaming desire worked with six women and so it's a calf story half self help and would say things like you know. I'm really quiet just because on the inside I'm secretly really nervous and afraid people are going to judge me but I never known. People don't usually know that as is written all over your face. You're not a good actor so please don't ever try to pretend. Please don't ever try to force yourself to be something that you're not you can't go into a basketball game and pretend to be a dunker you can't can't And if you're not putting the work beforehand and you get to the game you gotta just be who you are in that moment so I do agree with that. Like your authentic expression has to come through. And if it doesn't just not gonNA play off very well and if you are an incredible activists probably pretty scary person to date if there. That's almost the game type person right. They've learned all the lines. Learned that things to say but it's not actually Authentic expression of who they are so my point is to your point you WanNa put the work in and be constantly working on yourself in always analyzing always striving to be better so that when you do engage with somebody being yourself is effortless. It's a natural extension of exactly who you WanNa be and it brings the best out of other people as well to magic spoon. New Friend of show. I'll tell you what I have been eating an excessive amount of cereal lately me too. It's like easy. It's a great snack island cereal as a snack to his personal preference and Magic's Moon as a new serial that I've jumped on board because it's grain free cereal and quite honestly sometimes i. I like to indulge in migraine cereals but like that can take its toll and grains day taste just like the It's great they. Have the frosted brand is one of my favorites frost. I'm meeting the Fruity the fruity flavor and so good zero grams of sugar. Three grams net carbs eleven grams of protein because protein in it. That's incredible my doctor. Told me to get on a grain free diet for awhile to help with inflammation and so that's how I discovered magic spoon so That's a it's allow me to become more grain free and still keep my love for Sierra leading Live and well They have four flavors. Cocoa Fruity frosted and blueberry up. My favorite is the frosted. Yeah like you said. It tastes amazing. It's fantastic. I can't recommend it enough if you're looking to have a wonderful new snack but also keep it healthy..

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"shan" Discussed on The Viall Files

The Viall Files

10:15 min | 1 year ago

"shan" Discussed on The Viall Files

"What's going on everybody? Welcome to another episode of the vow files. I'm your host. Nick joined by Rachelle. How're you doing? Rochelle not that great. Oh beyond this why. What's going on now? I'm just like in. It's getting hard. It's getting Kinda hard. I know I would agree. I thought it was thriving for a while. You were like I'm alone. I'm fine to be honest. It's not much different than norm. I'm not having commute. But yeah there have been periods where he's just like yeah feeling kinda lonely This is like I'm a creature of Habit. And now it's like magnified because you just get in this like very kind of isolated routine and it's just like. I've had tacos four times this week and the when I wasn't eating Tacos I ate pizza. Like it's just yeah and you know like it's you're running out of things to watch but yeah it's it can get draining And I think I think that's okay and I think sometimes it's good to put out there. Everything else is good balance you know. It's good knowing knowledge the good time but not to be afraid to just be. I got got to me. It's hard like in in La. It's just there's so many people around I don't feel like I can like go outside and I'm like oh you're not going. You gotta get out. I'm going on walks but I can't really go anywhere else because there's just people everywhere in the enormous him in Venice and like there's definitely people on the boardwalk but not enough for you can't be six feet apart and I take like I work outside and then I take at least two walks for like thirty forty five minutes to actually my tans incredible. I'm just like really tan is fantastic. But like yeah. That only does so much and you know I'm still faced timing friends and talking to people but it's it's it's gotten really fucking redundant and that I think that's part of the thing that's getting to people. It's just the adjustment is there's just not enough variety right in our in our lives but other than that. I'm still thankful we have the show and and a things I guess at least for a lot of people could be worse so do WanNa give thanks to the things we have. Obviously for the people out there on the front lines as always. We appreciate them doing what they're doing. Essential workers whether you're working in healthcare or you're the mailman or you are stocking the shelves at the grocery stores or delivering You know grub orders or Amazon orders. those are all very important Tasks out there and we appreciate you so so. Thanks for doing that. We have an incredible guess today. I think something that is very relatable. Shambhu Ram is our guest. Who is a bunch of things but a sexology expert? A dating relationship expert a dating coach. She's been on a ton of show. She's on the new Netflix show too hot to handle. She has her new a new dating show on Qube and she's been she's she's everywhere in the dating world harassed. She has on Youtube Channel and various sects. Positive person sex coach talking about alternative kind of ways of thinking We talk to her about a ton of different things. We probably talked a lot more. No Times are different in terms of we have a new norm and when it comes to meeting people talking people connecting with people but our desire to connect with people hasn't changed and it's great to hear Shans Perspective on this and and relationships and it was just a lot of fun for me to talk with her about the stuff and I think you guys will find it very interesting in relatable and exciting and hopefully Fascinating but really enjoyed the conversation with with Shan and I think you will too so Anything else to add Michelle. Well let's get this sham but before we do. Don't forget to send in your questions that ask Nick. Dot Com cast with a K. For OUR ASK. Nick episodes and as always. Please send in your reviews. I tune reviews. We appreciate those We certainly love those five stars and it means a lot to us to get that feedback so if we have nothing else Shan Shan. Thanks for joining US Today. Appreciate your thank you so much. I'm so overjoyed to see a human face. A lovely human face at that and really excited talk to you nick. Yeah that'd be where what what's your quarantine situation so it's fun to get updates from from everyone. Are you totally alone are you? Are you with someone or a group of people? How's it going so I have a quarantaine which is like a. You know it's a bay that you're quarantining with so me and my husband are just. It's just the two of us. Okay all the time together. It's been all right. I haven't been mad at it Definitely definitely miss the outside world miss human contact for shore and miss other people but we take some breaks from each other. We're not like on top of each other constantly so I think it's worked out. Okay what's your situation. I'm utterly alone as actually. It's actually. I've been trying to figure out like if you could rank quarantine situations like what's what's the best one. I would almost argue that Dating but just having met them and you don't live with them number one right you have you. Have you have somewhere near excited about you? Know you miss them. You want your face timing. And you're you're talking to him and you know what maybe maybe you happen to be quarantined with them. You don't live with them but the situation like allowed you to like fuck it. Let's let's stay in the same room but you have this excitement. And if that's the case then you you're having a ton of socks in the in the honeymoon phase it's Great. I say number two potentially being single. Because it's like you're married so you're living with your husband. I feel like married or in a relationship. No kids number three and then like on the bottom. That LIST MARRIED WITH KIDS. Like is the what seems to be the toughest situation for people. Because it's just like this is probably really hard on kids to kids. Don't understand what's going on. They're restless like you can only watch frozen to so many I don't know what. What are your thoughts on? That sounds like it's been pretty good with you and your husband yeah. My ranking system is different I think what would have made my quarantine better is if I mom and dad were here because you need somebody to bake you need somebody who's like making the sheets all the time in. Who's in the kitchen creating your favorites? Whose board WHO WANTS TO TRY NEW RECIPES. So I've watched my parents like just make these incredible dishes and my husband's not doing that. Neither am I I you know. Here's the thing nick. When I first started dating my husband I cooked a lot but I was also making fifteen thousand dollars a year So as time change you get busier. You lose some elements you lose some things gain some you lose some and so I think this Corinthian has forced me to start cooking a bit more but like I completely dropped off my arsenal of like wifely skill sets. So now I definitely am. I Miss My mom and dad and I wish they were here. Baking fresh bread and brownies. So the number one number two would probably be your situation the one that you had described about just meeting somebody it being citing or meeting somebody through the quarantine like feeling like you met your soul mate but you can't see each other and it's your own little blockbuster movie now happening like the world's keeping apart but your heart's want to be together and you're having cybersex constantly and can't wait for that sweet day that sounds. Kinda cool and then number number three would honestly being single be fine. It'd be fine. Yeah I mean I'll tell you what's going in the background. You look very chillier plant. Looks happy you're in good spirits. I'll tell you what my my sexting game been strongly. I I gotta say. Definitely I'm noticing. People are getting out there. So that's a win out. There's actually a tool. I want to suggest for sex thing. It's called slut and it's an AI robot that you can practice sexting with what and he responds back to you. If you don't know how to sex or what might say. The only thing I'll say about slept BOT is slept. Bought is a bugaboo. Like you're not if I'm not texting slept out for a while it will chime in and I'm like if I didn't have you saved. Walk me through this so if I get on what is it. Slept box slot slept bought. Yeah but he's luck state well. We couldn't hope noticing how great your face looks say. Parker's war reporters a love worry Parker before quarantine I They have a cute little store on on Abbot. Kinney in Los Angeles and I and I got my war. Worry partners I have perfect is WANNA throw it out there but I do wear them to block the blue light because I am on my phone and computer more than light to admit but They also have super stylish frames of really trendy a bunch of different options. I always feel cool and sophisticated when I wear my worby. Parker's also like worby. Parker does sound school. I don't know yeah I got these. I Ben in their stores but these I got through the home trial and I did online. You just pick different glasses and they have so much information about them you try. You can show your friends get people's opinions and then order them they start at ninety five dollars there. So Ford -able yeah. I mean as far as frames go. I your co agree. Like they're like a high end frame at a very kind of mid range price which I've I've gone to other stores and frames hit incredibly expensive And they have context too. Yeah so worry. Parker is like you feel like you're getting this..

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"Reach For The Sky!"

The Radio Adventures of Dr. Floyd

05:33 min | 1 year ago

"Reach For The Sky!"

"Remember in our last episode. That was rich Dr Steven. It's just in time and space jump to Elgin Illinois in the year. Eighteen ninety six to no good near two wells had hoodwinked legendary sharpshooter. Annie Oakley into letting them Polish her world famous pistol which they plan to steal and sell on Ebay in the future. Now you too sure. You've handled firearms at four hour. Yes sure plenty of you can Polish. This pistol as good as me. Anything you can do I can do better can yes I can. I like your spoke kid. All right here you go. Shyness up while ahead out from my second show they make you do two shows a day. You know what they say. There's no business like show business. I see do you have to get tired going out this shooting twice a day now? I'm just doing what comes naturally. I guess why you sign that pistol up. I'll use my rifle for this show right here shining than you've ever seen it when you get back. This sounds good now. When she gets back she wants to see the pistol. I'll show it to her. All shined up. Of course. That's when you will distract her and I'll slip the gun into my pocket that's for you to figure out. I'm the evil mastermind. I can't possibly be expected to come up with everything. Dr Steven carry out their villainous plots. Let's turn our attention to our hero. Dr Floyd and his young protege Dr Graham Touch Floyd Buffalo Bill Cody Wild. West Show told us that we had to ride horses in tonight's performance. There's nothing we can do Dr Grant. We're going to have to ride horses in tonight's performance. But what about Dr Steve? Keep your eyes peeled for him. He's around here. Somewhere COMES BUFFALO BILL O. Hello Mr Cody Sir. No just what was it you want us to do. In the show You do or going to portray the robbers in the dead woods. Stagecoach robbery part of the show after an Oakland. Desert trick shots. We'll send the stage coats in for a lap or two around the ring. Then when I give the signal Youtube Herat off duns drawn and stop the stage coach in its tracks. Then you'll rob the folks on board holly. We are really going to be robbing them are we. Don't be a darn fool of car SNEHA. They're actors just lack you right. Sorry Oh you're a scout for the. Us Army Mr Cody. Sixty eight to eighteen seventy two was congressional medal of honor to wounded in action. Only words and even then it was only a scout. Boone wow I would love to be a scout. We'll kid I think you're a bit too young to be scout too young. Who's ever heard of a boy scout house? Lack any is just about finished with her. Sit You guys go sad. Look let's go get on our horses. Grant Mount their horses just as anti finishes remarkable display of marksmanship as she walks out of the arena. Dr Steven Richard are waiting for another excellent display. Miss Oakley thank you now. Where's my pistol I want to Gander at the job? You did Polish. Oh It's right here. See Ma Shan job. You boys really do Arganda. What does he say he's asking if we could go for a ride on that stage coach over there? You can hurry up though it's about two and out into the arena ugly Astros Dr Steven Featuring on board the stage coach just as it heads out into the main arena. It's an distraction Cajun. She completely forgot to take the pistol from me. And now when this little ride is back with VIP out of the stagecoach and back to the diamond spaceship data. Stephen featured are just moments away from succeeding. What they're planning to steal any pistol. Meanwhile Dr Floyd in Dutch grandmaster straight their horses at the entrance to the arena. All right. Let's get this show on the road. Puna your Bandanas in get out there. This is actually kind of fun. Dr Floyd who would like it Dr Grant Grant race out into the arena. Guns blazing links. Course the reason why. The site of stagecoach taking pullover to the occupants who are none other than Dr Steven Feature. Well well well look what we have here of Pesky no good vermin. It sucks shaped assisting. Please gentlemen don't hurt us. We just little and he's often. We would just going for a ride here. Nothing more. Well I reckon you won't get hurt as long as you hand over your money Pronto. Money hand over your go. All right Here take my money and he is my checkbook and credit cards. Take anything you'd like. Just don't take legendary shop shooter. Any Oakley's newly Polish pistol. I have hidden in my jacket pocket. Legendary sharpshooter Annie Oakley's newly Polish pistol in your jacket pocket. Do you know I don't who said that handed over partner or you'll be pushing up daisies. Okay all right here you go take it just. Please don't hurt US Malaysian. I want you to get out of this coach and get out of town. We ever see the Lexi you round these here parts again. We're GONNA lead now Stephen Pitcher High Taylor out of the stagecoach and the arena. The Light of the twelve thousand people in ten minutes. You the best vantage we've ever. Hey Josh thanks Mr Cody. Yeah you really something out there. I just realized those orphans got away with my newly Polish pistol or they doing Michaud. We got it right here. Any get your thank you. I show do appreciate it. You too have yourselves a permanent job if you lack. Thank you Mr Cody. But we wouldn't be happy just doing the same job day after day. There's people out there who need our help out. Your great right came a Sabi with that. Our Heroes Walk off into the sunset heading back to their time and spatial. Were those brave men bill. Sure in with little filler. Sure had a tiny hands race off into the time and space stream hurtling towards more adventure. Where Dr Floyd granted chicks wind up next ever put an end to counter. Steve's wrongful ways and will there ever been who doesn't come on Dr Floyd Small Head Greece? I get no respect at all

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Brother helping brother to cure Rare Disease

Sounds of Science

09:24 min | 1 year ago

Brother helping brother to cure Rare Disease

"Welcome rich and Karen. Thanks for having us go to be here. Thank you for coming. I know it's a bit chilly today. So I'm glad that you braved the elements to come on out here anytime anytime. So can you tell us a bit about yourselves? And your personal stake in cure diseases mission. Rich let's start with you. Jor Happy to So as you mentioned I'm the President and founder of cure disease. I started the organization bit over two years ago because I have a younger brother. Terry who has a disease called Duchenne muscular dystrophy as you alluded to Terry's form of do Shan is quite rare. His specific mutation type is very rare and the difficulty. With that is he's not amenable to Clinical trials for the most part because of both his age as well as ambulatory status. These group of rare disease patients aren't left behind. So you grew up with Terry. Obviously was this sort of something that you would always in the back of your mind starting on organization like this or did that idea come to you later. It's a long answer. I was trying to give you the short version of it so Yeah I grew up at Terry. Terry's four years younger than I am. we both grew up in upstate. New York we're big fans of star wars and playing catch outside when he still could Years ago in the back of your mind whether you're me or somebody else. That's impacted by rare disease. You have the idea that you want to do something. Oftentimes you don't know what I struggled with the idea of. I don't know what to do for a long time till I had the opportunity to go to Harvard Business School and partake in the volcanic fellowship at Harvard. Business School and through that I was able to me really really incredible people who were doing really incredible things to advance science and advanced therapeutics that we're lifesaving and lifesaving and one of those individuals. Dr Tim Mu at Boston Children's hospital and that's really where the story begins. Cool so care and let's move on to you. How did you get involved with care rare disease? What's Your Story Shar Well my name is Karen Morales. I'm forty two years old and when I was twenty and a sophomore in college. I was diagnosed with extremely rare form of muscular dystrophy. Though at that time was called my Oshii myopathy so over the course of the last twenty years. I've spent a lot of my time and mental resources on ways in which to keep my health in a positive trajectory ways in which to avoid the most negative of diagnostic outcomes. That I was told about when I was twenty so as part of that I always stayed very open to what was happening in medical research and through the powers of facebook finally enough. I came across a video that riches organization did last spring so spring of twenty nine thousand nine hundred and in that video I heard about the power of crisper something that I had been monitoring. I just hadn't seen anybody doing it for muscular dystrophy given my background in advertising and marketing and now I own my own agency I reached out immediately and told rich. I wanted to talk to him that and turned into coffee and a phone call. And we've been working together ever since. Could you tell us a little bit more about muscular dystrophy? Karen we start with you. Know it probably has different developmental trajectories but can get like a baseline of what the disease looks like. Sure so. There are many types of muscular dystrophy. He's like large Disease categories for most of us. We are missing or our bodies stops producing effectively a certain type of protein. They're different types of protein in different disease states. In my case it's despair Lin In Dijon its destruction and the impact of what that protein does varies by disease type so in my case the digital muscles so the ones away from the center core of my body my calves and my arms weaken over time it for my particular type. It's not a life ending diagnosis. It's potentially a life altering diagnosis right. So there is a large level of variability between the different types. And how they actually present. But the common thread across all muscular dystrophy is is until now they've been untreatable. And the majority of folks facing these really rare diseases have to take a lot of their medical care into their own hands. And I think that is a shared history that both Terry and I and the other patients in this group all have. It's with a lot of personal trial and error and working to advocate for yourself that you're able to receive the care that you need because it is still in many cases an issue that doctors and hospitals and emergency rooms don't see that often So it can be easily mis read misinterpreted and sometimes cared for in ways that are actually have adverse reactions for the patients. Themselves has terry had a similar experience to Karen in terms of his disease. Strict trajectory Terry has had a similar experiences. Karen had in with regard to his disease. In fact he had a recent fall just over the holiday where he collapsed and broke both of his femurs and the difficult challenge was living in an upstate and rural part of New York that there wasn't an immediate care center nearby that could deal with not only two broken femurs but underlying condition of do Shannon and so a lot of work is put into connecting. Terry's neurologist whose doctor Brenda Wong at the University of Massachusetts in a collaborator of ours with the care team at that hospital in upstate. New York to ensure that the proper things were done that propofol was used for instance for anesthesia in instead of a gaseous form of anesthesia. And so it's little things like this that have very big ramifications that we need to be very cautious of across the spectrum of rare diseases. Not just the muscular dystrophy but more broadly taking into consideration the patient's perspective in the patient's point of view in conjunction with the with the care team Rather than I think the traditional dynamic of the doctor being sort of the superior and the patient being the one who who accepts the information advocacy in the hospital setting is of utmost importance because it really does mean the difference between life and death as we found with my brother? What was the incentive for setting up care rare disease? I mean there are many routes. You could have taken to help Terry. So what made you decide to pursue this one? That's A. That's a good question so as I mentioned earlier during my time in business school I had the chance to meet Dr Tim you so I got to know Tim through through a mutual friend of ours and understood what he was doing the process that he was developing to characterize the patient to develop therapeutic construct specific to the patient mutation and then the rapidly test those and then get into dosing the patient all within a year and accomplish the and so meeting him. Obviously the question of mine came to mind is how do we take this applications for Batten's disease? And how do we apply it to a neuro muscular disease? Such as Duchenne Orlin girdle or any of the other number for diseases. That need help and so it was through that process. That was the spark for cure disease. As sort of as a as a patient caregiver sort of you look for those opportunities of hope where you can drive towards something. Quick rather than the traditional ten years and two billion dollars development cycle which forces. Today's patients to likely not be able to see tomorrow's treatments simply because they take too long. Karen what was it about riches organization or rich himself that convince you to sign on and help them out as being on their board of directors. It's the jokes. It definitely was a combination. Having lived through a rare disease for twenty years myself. I have followed the medical research and I've been involved in any trials that were available having also spent the majority of my life working with fortune. Five hundred companies globally introducing new products and working in a combination of Silicon Valley and traditional. Cpg Brands I was noticing that across medical research. It felt like the systems were antiquated. I knew my gene defect in the early two thousands and at that time I was told that there would probably be a five to seven year. Lag Be four therapeutics for available as a patient. I saw riches approach as something that had faster outcomes than what I was used to seeing Across the market. When I met him and I realized that he had put together. Such an incredible team of world renowned leaders across different medical institutions. I immediately was in and I've been a huge supporter ever since I think what this organization is able to do. As a nonprofit drug company will truly revolutionize the way that patients can have hope when they're dealing with these catastrophic

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Anxiety Relapse: What to do when anxiety comes back

Anxiety Slayer

06:06 min | 1 year ago

Anxiety Relapse: What to do when anxiety comes back

"Today we're talking about what you can do when you have an anxiety relapse. Hey Shan before we jump into the episode I was just thinking. It's exactly two months to the day that I will upbeat in England in very close to seeing you in person for the first time and I'm very excited about that. Oh well I didn't realize it was coming up that quick. Wow two months to the day. I'm excited to all right back in back in to the episode this week. We're discussing. What causes setbacks? Sir Relapses on the road to recovery from anxiety. We've been hearing from a lot of you. abouts at backs and relapses so we thought we should dig in and talk about that a bit today so that you have an idea of how to support yourself when anxiety flares up unexpectedly. Yeah I think First thing to be aware of his to pause and take a breath and and have a look at how you life spin for the last two or three weeks maybe even a month when we can see cause and effect act and anxiety doesn't seem so mysterious. Often they feel that they came out of nowhere and that can be really disturbing so have a look and consider after a few things that can cause anxiety to flare up. Setbacks can come from surprising places they can come from nonprescription medications. Sion's I know of people that have had full blown anxiety attacks from cough medicine for example Caffeine maybe caffeine intake crept up alcohol. Aw Recreational Drugs Change Travel. Illness accumulated stress that trip stress that just builds up and takes us over the the edge. Our environment changes in Diet. Changes in the weather and hormonal changes can all be triggers Franks. It so really helpful to just sit down with a pen and a piece of paper. Just look back and see if you can spot some cause-effect and have a look at what you need to do to get back in step with looking after yourself. It's incredibly important to know yourself to know what's going on and to be really present with what's happening in your life because just that presence in just a little bit of time to check in with yourself and say oh no what. Here's some things that were different era. Some things that explain this this and that I can do differently. I can look at differently or handle in a different way than I did this last time and it feels so much more in control. Yeah definitely it makes for a different experience. The worst thing with anxiety is to fill that it's erratic he's just going to flare up and we don't don't know why and then we can easily fill at the mercy of anxiety and then we'll get worried about life. I haven't attack when I'm away from home and these are all things that we can help ourselves with you. Can you learn how to stop an anxiety attack on your way from once you know how to do that. Then you've got the upper hand over anxiety and when those will if thoughts come your responses responses when I know what to write so there's always the opportunity to train yourself actively become anxiety sled train yourself. Try the tools and techniques Knicks. Were sharing or others that you may have found. Whatever appeals to something you could try take action and try and see it as a challenge rather than an emotional Sonam that you're the mostly off? Let's talk about what helps when we find ourselves in relapse I can tell you that my experience the thing that helps me the most is to get grounded as quickly as possible and so that means being at the shores of of Lake Michigan as you know a Nanga that's my that's my place Or being a in the forest in the woods anything that gets me out in grounded in nature helps a great deal and we just mentioned getting to know yourself and and being mindful of what's been happening. I'm being really honest. That of course helps as well but being really gentle with yourself helps and understanding that this too shall pass as we we say so often. Yeah what else I think taking solace from authors of conquered during slighty knowing the others of go through this and I can cantu. What did they do? Look at what they've done and anxiety will tell you nothing works anxiety will tell you this has come back and you're stuck with it which she's frightening but anxieties Eliah so to rice. The challenge and look thoroughly at what other people have done that have got them throngs. It's it breathing and typing walking Yoga Tai Chi taking up crafts really mindfully. All of these things really help. They sound simple but the the not an effective they work their proven to work so have a look have a look at what's helping others have a looker. Maybe there's something that you think. Oh Yeah I've heard about that and I've I've been meaning to try this tapping thing what I give it a go at a lovely message in the group yesterday from a lady that tha damned if d tapping my breathing and it really makes me smile when I read messages like that. You know this proactive gentle approach and then we get messages all the time. Mm from people signed this tapping thing walks tell ping right so rise to the challenge. Be Mindful of your caffeine. Make sure you're eating regular meals that helps. It's make sure your blood sugars steady. Make sure you're hydrated. You decided to try adding some flowers rescue remedy to your drinks for me me. That's the first thing is my hand goes for the rescue remedy and then Breathing tapping a walking all of which can be done at the same time. Yeah

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'Life is Strange 2' Spoilercast

What's Good Games

03:46 min | 1 year ago

'Life is Strange 2' Spoilercast

"Just as refresher if you guys have been played in a while life is strange to is a story. About a journey of two brothers they are Sean and Daniel Diaz that starts in in Seattle Washington and ends up in hell. I guess it ends up where it ends up question. Well it's intended to us sort of solution that areas where Mexico where they're trying to get you are six feet under or in prison. It's great. Yeah there's a lot of options this time rounded to decide like how your body is going to go because the first one really had like two endings. So that was it. Yeah it was very. Yeah are you going to flip over this that way like clearly. I feel like it should be one way but apparently not well how you flip that lover actually dictates what what happens in some things in episode five which will get you. So let's start showy yes with episode one rose the episode who know that works too so we start out in Seattle. We get to meet Sean Daniel in their home with their father Esteban and Dan this kind of sets the stage for the relationship with shot and Daniel. That's going to follow. There was an altercation with a neighbor boy outside where there was a little incidents of bullying big brother Shan comes to Daniels rescue. But then that's where we're kind of goes sideways. So very their father comes is out to kind of get involved. And then there's a bunch of yelling and it looks like this boy has been hurt and then you know long story boring. Boring Daniels powers emerge after his father gets shot by police officer. And that's when the story really kind of kick off so when you guys I kind of set at the relationship between Sean and Danielle did you guys set out to be a good big brother or were you like. Hey you know what do what you want. Yeah I don't care. I think I played it how I imagined I would be who teaches galway. I don't want to be bothered with I. I feel like any teenager regardless of male or female. That's not a time when you really want to bond with anyone who's a different age unless they're a little A little older and not a lot older like you as a teenager tend to be like the no I stick with this this small demographic and maybe a few years up but like down absolutely not so. That's how I kind of felt he would naturally be. Maybe I just haven't been around a lot of teenagers. But that's that's how I felt it would go and so I played it that way regardless. I knew obviously like something bad was going to happen but this felt true to me. That's sweet it's not really pretty not no so you actually got into character. So it's one of the things I really liked about. Playing the first life is strange was I felt like as a was was an old adult. I got to guide Max and make decisions that I think would be more beneficial decisions. Maybe someone already gone through high school been there done that would experience rather than someone someone who is caught up in this social Shenanigan of high school bullshit so I was like you were going to be a good brother Sean. You were going to be patient. You're going to to be firm and you're going to let them be a little kid. So that's how I played it I Daniel did you know he was kind of annoying but he was a good annoying. He was like an appropriate level of annoying. It wasn't like over the top. He was realistically annoying. But I found that even that was too much for me not understand if that were me in real life. I don't know if I could have done it but I'm just sitting back on my nice cozy couch controller in my hand so I had a little bit more scarce. Yeah makes sense.

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"shan" Discussed on Adult ISH

Adult ISH

02:39 min | 2 years ago

"shan" Discussed on Adult ISH

"Five seconds. It's a battle every time it's game of thrones on the because he's like you can't say anything to him. That's just his form of communication like he must nobody's doing. You can't say anything and you'd be surprised how many people know what's wrong with you and don't say it you know because there are under that guys like Oh. I can't really say anything so you're somebody who doesn't have a stake in. Maybe an emotional state when you don't have to see you the next day or feel awkward and I did it with an x of mine and I got really great feedback and so did a lot of the women in the book so hopefully you don't choose that. Don't go for that X. Who in your mind right now you wish was burning and now that's not the person to talk to. I like that okay so we got one last question for you. Shan let's talk about the C word. Consent rent okay sounds the same to consent. So what are you hearing or or doing about bringing consent into the steamy intimate moments. You've probably heard this is corny. Phrase before consent is sexy and it is right like we have a workshop up in the book that is stripper lead and she talks about that. When she approaches a client she says like hanging out with you daddy like she starts out the conversation with consent sent and like that also creates a culture where now he's asking her consent to do things and even in that environment where you think consent would be most murky. It's like be the change. You wish nice to see in the world. I will say my first kiss my current boyfriend he asked. Can I kiss you. It was the most romantic time of standing in a gas station parking lot I've ever had in my life shuttle John Samuel yesterday. Oh sweet awesome but that some people think that would be so cringing. I remember I spoke OPTUS Group of young women once and they were like oh my gosh like I don't want a guy to stop the mood and ask but I'm like yeah because you're thinking of the hottest dude in your school right now picking you up against the wall digging up Brad Dada right so no I think that hearing that sentence that like them saying that actually made the mood greater because I got butterflies flies even hearing you say that so I would hope everyone here is that consent to sexy and it led to a very healthy relationship so there you go well everybody you you got to subscribe to chance channel follow her an instant twitter all that at Shan Budi not booty with a t but defor fire and emily okay get what you want out of your love life. I'm stealing that bottom tagline. Thank you.

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"shan" Discussed on Adult ISH

Adult ISH

11:52 min | 2 years ago

"shan" Discussed on Adult ISH

"We are here today with. Shan booed Ram the sexologist and intimacy expert birth American. I needed ten years ago Shannon. How are you doing today. Hello Hello Friends. Are you guys doing good. We're doing Lincou so lots of new things happening. Recently recently you got married and you got this book. y'All your book is called the game of desire desire five surprising secrets dating with dominance and getting what you want what you need. Can that actually be in the book. You know those like birthday cards when you open them up. They sing. I would require that soundbite to be as people opened the book. I can see that being a massive game changer for everyone. That's work on that it. Even hell good years from now you know when they can dial. It would just be like more baritone. Utah like low key like Luther Wold which the well aside from you guys being credible singers. Thank you for having me here really excited me both of you. Thanks for being here the first thing but I thought when I heard the game of desire like I mean even just like washing. All of your content like for years is where did Shane get all all this game from Is that actual questions. I really think Gortat phone pro. I mean if you were to come to me and ask me. How do I get good at cooking. How do I get Greater Gulf. How do I get great at math the same system that applies so that applies to intimacy it applies to sex. I think that we live in a culture. That looks at romance is very serendipitous. Almost cosmic like it's just bestowed upon you either there. You are an amazing lover you either you are flirtatious or you aren't when in truth there is a system in place where in that you study you enlist the help of experts so you you practice in low risk environments and then you apply the teachings you have because they become second nature to you and that is what this book is about it saying look you're. You're not left out. You're not chronically single or tragically awkward you're not destined for a life of bad first dates if you notice there's an issue with your intimate connections there is a method to fixing them and that is what the game desires about exactly speaking of where people get their game from you had this one video that talked about bowel like the four different types of you talk about like arrows and storage gop like all that so. I was like fresh out of three year relationship so by the time I got out of this relationship. I haven't talked to anybody or had to like spit any game in like since I was a high school. I was like like what do I say like am I even an interesting as I literally just bit off your whole video allergists every time I would like a new girl I would break down like the four different types of love like that was like where I would hear every conversation and I'd break out exactly how you had it. I just wanted to be interesting. I was like Oh this is so interesting so let me just like break that down and then people would be like Oh. He knows things so I just wanted to. Thank you about for pull me up on game on a psycho thank you that's actually awesome and on top of DESA old video so you've been around for a second so I issued a quiz. Ok well no quiz for for night but Shannon. We got a little quiz for you so your book is all about getting woman in the driver's seat of relationships so here's a listener who's got a question. That's kind hi and about that. My Name is Abbott and I am from Seattle Washington. I am a twenty four years old. I've been single for twenty four years and honestly I don't know why I guess my question is to you. How can I be less stand offish to you guys when they approached me because people told me that I'm kind of intimidating but I never know why I do WanNa be in a relationship. I do WanNa you know start dating being in get into that world but I guess taking the steps to be less stand offish two guys when they approach me Thanks so much for the help. Oh well first of all about shots you did. She say she's twenty four and been single for twenty years. I love that's worded. This is a really simple no one to do. I think that women are not supposed to make the first move but we should also redefined. What the first move is. The easiest thing you can do is walk into a room and smile. I mean literally force yourself to lift your cheeks and just be open in that regard. If you're around a group of friends try to position yourself to the outside of the groups that way you are approachable people in that regard you. WanNa be pelvic pelvic even if someone's across the room if you're interested engaging with somebody standing pelvis where your shoulders are open to them that they are inclined into notice your glances or whatever efforts that you're making a far do that of course the benchmark of all benchmarks to walk up and start a conversation and that conversation sation isn't like Yo Ma can a conversation is something like hey. This place is really really dead right now. Does it get pop later. Do you know who the DJ is so you don't have to start a conversation that puts you in the hot seat because ultimately when you approach someone. I'm approaching someone to see if they're going to like me. I'm approached him to see if I'm a like them so I'm asking asking questions to gauge their personality and how well they interact but I'm being friendly. I'm keeping my body open. I'm keeping my mood light and playful and flirtatious another fun thing his eye-to-eye angling. Ooh So when you look someone directly and he is. That's a sign of respect. If you look away that's a sign of fear or disinterest but if you look someone in the I and then let your gaze drop down to their body and that back there is e look look look. I'm like doing it to the computer monitors right now. There's it it's important to heat yourself up as soon as you said it like. I looked at my at my favorite in a look down and look back up all the way what am Ah doing turning your paper on paper but in addition to channeling your inner masters seducer another one of your tips on how to find love is to avoid just being yourself. I mean you've got a chapter titled. Don't just be yourself where you call. Bs on uh-huh so who should you be in addition to who you already are whoever you consistently decide to be the version of you can get the results that you want and I say this in the book wherein Matt. If someone came to you and said at the back of my class right now in X. topic what should I do. You wouldn't say we'll just be yourself right so I mean that is vice. ACED is not practical to somebody. WHO's not getting the outcome. They're looking for because it's just being themselves was enough. They have the results are looking for so. It's better to say to that person. Try Researching and Reading New Book Sore tried doing your hair in different ways seeing that makes you feel different. There's the attempt we're always on a continuous path of growing evolving improving unless you already have it all. Paul you know if you've figured it all out and got the booth of your dreams and house of your dreams then yes just be yourself because whatever you're doing is working perfectly fine but even that person. I and I think that'd be pretty boring. I I don't look forward the day that I've done it all same well. Now we have a question for you. Shan from Stephanie about something that is key he and various central if you're trying to be Buddha Buddha my question has to do with better communication. you know that most of my friends usually struggle in relationships to communicate and I'm looking for and I also struggle with it so I'm looking in four ways to better communicate with my partner aside from the regular use. Is that a view that was wondering by any chance if you have any suggestion that maybe you using early ship or you advise other couples and how to communicate better with their partner by the way great fan love it yeah so. I think Steph what I would say this. I not I load the advice. The advice communication is key is important but it's also important to explain. What exactly do I say right. Is One thing to tell us to talk but we need a framework of discussion. Which is why things like thirty six questions to find love have been successful because it gives people people a template of what to actually talk about so I would say spend some time learning about in the book. These are detailed like attachment theory love languages apology languages linkages. I really loved your book because I it was Kinda. My chance to revisit myself when I was in my early stages of finding like love and romance you know flipping through like Seventeen magazine. Doing quizzes like your book was that it was like all the good stuff I've heard about like hey take this quiz all into one and you can my I love language right now. First of all I try angling Hell Outta microphone. No I feel it really had me think of like Oh who am I. There's this this part where you're talking about like. What kind of seducer are you and I am. The the one that's like ellen degeneres the rise us. You're like the keg I like to think so. You're the life of the party like you make people feel happy in your presence like you bring people together. You are the life of the Party and and so that's exactly yeah the communication works best when you have language and so it's one thing to tell somebody like I just don't like it when you look at me that way. It just makes me feel bad and I just it makes me feel happy and just I don't know I don't. It's not good versus saying to somebody look my apology. Language is making restitution and so when you say you're sorry but followed up with an action action. I really just don't feel resolved with myself so I need. You take that one extra step. That's the whole premise of love languages right. My pet peeve you guys is so I have has something on my right now called turn on triggers which is on my website which is a quiz and identifies six different ways that people might get into. Sh- mood and people comment. I'm all six of these and you're like how is that helpful to your partner right like that doesn't help. We like to know if I say to you. Where do you WanNa go for dinner and now what food do you like like all foods like well. What do you feel like anything. It's like Oh. It's a frustrating conversation so if we can just start with one that we can build the nuances on top of it so language is about clarity and you can invite your partner to do the same in the book you have chapter called x marks the spot where you're basically suggesting the reach out to your ex is is to improve your game. I mean who who better knows you then the people who you were in like pass relationships with how do you weed out like who you should reach out to and who you shouldn't when it comes to the access if that person didn't want the best for you while you were in the relationship. They're not going to want the best for you when you're out of the relationship so you know the difference between the person that you just weren't compatible with or you know you. Maybe you move. There's a number of different circumstance that can cause for people to fall out. I think when people think of backstay think of the absolute worst person on their past whereas if we really thought about it there are really healthy connections that we had that just didn't in quite jive for some reason and it might be helpful to be like hey was there something about me. That was off putting to you in an intimate setting. Did I talk about myself and I give you a list of questions in the book that I think you should ask your acts. What's important to note. This is not a conversation about closure. It's way more selfish than that right. This conversation is strictly about you. Finding out what you may need to work on and you know what's funny is that we live in a world where we really don't say to people what they do wrong. I was actually saying to my partner is someone that I know very dear to me. Talks over people a lot and I'm like yeah. They just like get an on calls and they will talk over someone for forty.

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"shan" Discussed on Directionally Challenged

Directionally Challenged

03:46 min | 2 years ago

"shan" Discussed on Directionally Challenged

"You guys it's candidate and kayla and we're directionally challenged thought we'd have it all figured out by the time we were in our thirty he did. We thought that why did we think that because we don't have it figured out at all and that's totally okay as okay and thank goodness. We are stopping to ask for directions from. I'm a total bad ass. Today i'm like i think i'm in love with her. I think i am to san boudreau you guys. She is a sought after certified sex educator dating coach relationship extraordinary. Some of you guys might watch on are very popular youtube channel shan booty she she has written for teen vogue cosmopolitan c._b._c. I'm sure you've seen her on the view. M._t._v. steve harvey show c._n._n. Entertainments night the rachel ray you show i mean the list goes on and on and on and on and on we're so excited to sit down with her in today's episode. We really didn't know if this episode was going to happen happen. Yeah we well honestly. I don't think i had even studied erectile dysfunction in my entire show kayla. What did you just say erectile l. dysfunction. We're talking about erectile dysfunction today. Yes we are whether you like it or not. Those cute little cheeks already blushing we are so we've had a few episodes about sex on this series. We've talked with tanya tate's. We've talked to a leashes and claire and now we have the chance to sit down with shan boo trim so even though we've already had episodes talking about sex we still have tons of emails and m._d._m.'s asking us to have more episodes mm-hmm and then the opportunity presented itself but we saw what we would be talking about and it was erectile dysfunction and we thought that this is what how does this apply i to us a bunch of women sitting around talking about erectile dysfunction yeah. It just didn't feel like this is something that we had any room to talk about but then we did more research search and we realize this affects so many more women than we thought and it's a it's a real conversation that needs to be had. I really didn't know how we were going to have this conversation. Listen and till we started researching more about what shannon was talking about. <hes> we looked at her youtube show and she's actually the featured in this new product commercial for a product called giddy. They got dan trae. Ho is the star of it. They got a real housewife in it. They have an olympian in this commercial and it's all for this product that talks about erectile dysfunction and helps erectile dysfunction and then statistically learning how much is effects affects obviously not only the men <hes> but partnerships and couples and how a lot of women take it on and wear it emotionally as a weight on themselves yourselves as if it's their responsibility and so we figured oh my god we have to talk about that when we not talk about it especially because psychologically it affects a lot of women to where they think it's it's their responsibility and who better to talk about than shan boudreau. Hey you guys don't worry. We're not only talking about erectile dysfunction for the entire episode. She also has an incredible credible book. Coming out called the game of desire so she's going to talk about dating in the digital age and working on yourself to be the best version of yourself so when you get out there are are dating you're ready so we have a whole bunch of amazing topics coming up so stay tuned right after the break and and we're back with shan boo jerem <hes>. We're so excited to have you. We're slightly nervous. We're going to try not ought to blush too much our sweat through our shirts. It's already happened. It's already happening. You're pregnant so i'm sure you're just waiting all the time..

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"shan" Discussed on VIBES-LIVE

VIBES-LIVE

03:50 min | 2 years ago

"shan" Discussed on VIBES-LIVE

"I remember big keel offer in Mason, Shan, but I was getting well acquainted with the J. But man Wade made the pack to up go fish in the next day, waking no gifts as to what happened between then and that time a nurse. Save just another day for the tour gang. Everything. Stop. Bag. Enjoyed yourself..

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"shan" Discussed on Converge with Casey Newton

Converge with Casey Newton

02:18 min | 3 years ago

"shan" Discussed on Converge with Casey Newton

"They're not all easy questions shan fox right favorite wedding song to dance to kylie minogue spinning around aussie favorite what what's your goto messaging app telegram what can we do to get more women involved in founding companies have mole female investors luxury finish on netflix ugly delicious open bar at wedding reception or beer widely okay last good book you read e poise will ever find true love and that's the end of the lightning round very good we're going to count up the number of answers we got one two three four five six seven eight nine ten i'm gonna i'm literally gonna have to go back and count because i lost track but we did have our first pass in recorded history so that was the best part of this interview so far no it was great because honestly the answer might be that we should put nothing on the block shame and that might be one of the big lessons the people take away from this spot kills all right now we come to the wildcard round in the wildcard round we reach into the convergence ron five thousand to a revealing game that no one has ever played before and it is new york state of mind and in new york state of mind your goal is to persuade me to build my next startup in new york you'll have up to let's say five minutes to convince me to leave silicon valley behind forever and build a decca corn inside an abandoned warehouse in bushwick or something and afterward i will try to persuade you on moving zola to san francisco and then we'll score each other and after all of a sudden done we will evaluate each other on originality presentation profit potential and whether we personally agree with each other any questions nope all right very good let's put five minutes on the clock you may now persuade me to move to new york to start a decca corn okay if you as someone that is interested in seeing these things on a regular basis beyond say jank jilin hall broadway madison square garden shake shack dulles slice pizza then you'll is the only logical choice okay i have i have to ask right.

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"shan" Discussed on Monocle 24: The Curator

Monocle 24: The Curator

02:04 min | 4 years ago

"shan" Discussed on Monocle 24: The Curator

"Shan zone mm oh mas now some man the stone some men who hours none of his job is trapped in new nav and most of us can malan's stranded the zone saw zone sumer oh.

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