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Fresh update on "savage" discussed on BBC Newshour
"Friends and associates are remembering former New York City Mayor David Dinkins. He died last night at the age of 93. Jenkins was elected in 1989. He remains the city's only black mayor. He served one term and was known for his low key demeanor. Former New York congressman Charles Rangel's has Dinkins will be missed. I've lost very long in here for then. In America lost a great place for it and die. I just said believe he scored Lincolns also served his Manhattan borough president and in the state Assembly before becoming mayor. As the city works out how to reopen schools after they closed last week. Mayor De Blasio says he plans to start with students with disabilities and young Children. Gotham ists Sydney Pereira has more Schools would reopen to in person learning for the most vulnerable kids and then those in three K and pre K Elementary school would come after that. This signals a shift from the model of either all remote or blended Learning. City Council member Mark Trager chairs the Education Committee. He says the latest proposal is what he's been suggesting for months. I wanted to put forward something that was rooted in both safety and also equity. And, he says facing would help students who rely on in person school for critical services. The Metropolitan Museum of Art is appointing its first chief diversity officer. That's according to The New York Times, Libido McMath Turner Most recently worked at the Brooklyn Museum. She also spent 15 years with the City University of New York. Appointment at the mat comes of five months after an open letter from staff called on its leadership to acknowledge and address systemic racism at the institution. 43 degrees. Now mostly cloudy skies expecting sunshine this afternoon and high of 47 degrees. Welcome back to news hour will have a report for Afghanistan next about the alarming rise in the production of the drug crystal meth first, though, to Sweden, which has been an outline when it comes to imposing lockdowns in the face of covert 19 infections. But as the number of deaths and infections surges, they're the government has been forced to introduce tougher regulations. Let's go to Sweden and speak to our correspondent Maddy Savage up Maddie's Do Outline Forest. First the restrictions. The new restrictions. Is it law or is it just being advised? We've got some tougher laws coming in in Sweden, a country as largely relied on voluntary responsibility, voluntary guidelines since the start of the pandemics, So from today, a ban on meetings of more than eight people has been introduced. That's public events, things like concerts, sports competitions and demonstrations. People will still be able to gather privately without facing The possibility of a fine but the prime minister Stephan Levy, and has really put a lot of pressure on the Swedish public. He's asked them to try on only socialize with people They live with, saying that everyone's actions could make a difference to slow down the spread of the virus on But what are the penalties for? Not adhering? Tol owes rules. For the public events, Thies kind of events where you would need a license. You could face a fine or up to six months in prison. But as I say to go around to somebody's house, there's no restriction on whether you have eight people. Nine people. There is another band on when it comes to serving alcohol after 10 P.m.. That's a N'importe didn't change that also happened last Friday, and there's a rule of eight at tables in bars again to try and stop household mingling mingling outside your own household. And how would you characterize the public mood than in Sweden in response to these tougher measures? I think it's mixed of Swedes a very aware of the fact that they've had more relative freedom than most Europeans during the pandemic on D. I think some were quite disappointed that those freedoms of being curved, I think on. On the other hand, there is trust in Swedish public authorities. I think there was an acceptance that things need to be done to try and slow down the spread of the virus. One of the key aspect to this is immunity. Swedish Public Health agency predicted that things wouldn't be as bad for Sweden has other European countries at this point in the pandemic. Because they thought immunity levels would be higher. There's no evidence to clearly support that at this stage, so I think the public are, I think, in some ways, understanding of the government's approach to toughen its tone and try and find ways to slow down the spread of the virus, and I think more people from what we're seeing are starting to work from home or on avoid public transport, which they've been asked to do since the beginning of the pandemic, but seemed to sort of get a bit lax on in the last couple of months. A Maddie just bring us up to date, then the reason why the authorities air enforcing these new laws, one of the numbers in Sweden Quite simply, we are seeing a thousands of covert 19 cases a day compared to dozens or just a few 100 a couple of months ago, and there are a lot of concerns on what that will mean for the hospital beds as we enter a long winter. Maddy Savage. Our correspondent. Joining us live from Sweden. Lots obviously on Corona virus on our website, BBC dot com Forward slash news Listening to news out from the BBC. I'm Razia Iqbal. A new report warns that Afghanistan is becoming a significant producer off the dangerously addictive on illegal drug, methamphetamine or crystal meth. Afghanistan is, of course, already the source of the majority of the world's heroin. But the research carried out by the European Union's drug monitoring body warns meth production could eventually become an even bigger industry. In recent months, there have been multiple international seizures of vast quantities of the drug suspected to originate from Afghanistan with street values of tens of millions of dollars. Come the kamani reports from Kabul. All right. Under a busy bridge nestled amongst the filthy water and discarded rubbish, a grim community of desperate men addicted to drugs. Some are passed.
Security awareness and culture with Jinan Budge
"We'll just get started and jump right in This is a question that actually came in during your keynote and this is from emmanuel and he's asking One of my teams priorities for the next year and beyond is maturing our organizations security culture. There's been a lot of discussion about how to measure culture and changes to it. What are you seeing. As the strongest indicators of culture change and how to organizations like mine report progress on culture to for example an executive team k at festival emmanuel. Congratulations for getting to a point where you are considering measuring your culture. I think that's the such a significant point to get to in an organization to measure the security culture On our i've just listened to greece's amazing session and honor he had Some perspectives on definitions of culture. of show. bruce you'll be able to share with us Definitions as well as measurements from my perspective. I want to talk about some of the more practical elements of measuring the culture. Some of the trends. That i'm seeing. I'm definitely seeing a lot of trends in cultural assessments on the market at these tools That a currently being deployed to measure culture. There are tools that are being measured That are being used to measure behavior on all really exciting again. I'm thrilled to see us. Move away from that. You know measuring how many people have completed their security awareness. Training call saul how many people liked it like what. What is the actually giving us. Some not wasn't request show. But i think there's been an evolution so really happy to see that we're starting to measure behavior that again if i move onto i just wanna share a personal example And it was from a particular organization and a particular transformation that i went to conduct at that particular organization. And i remember when i first walked through the door. This wasn't just a cultural project. It was the entire cybersecurity program. And i remember going in and no one wants to know about security. No on we would have meetings and out walk into a room and people would literally either law and they'll go ha ha cyber cyber. What is this thing all. you know. they'll stop making gun gestures or you know they just. The whole thing was hilarious as we started building a brand building. The culture socializing with stakeholders. It was so interesting. How much changed. And it got to a point. After one one and a half years where i'd walk into a meeting room and people would have a cyber safety moment and i love that it was such an intangible thing it was certainly something that we'd never intended to measure but to me. It was such a strong indicator of what a cultural jenny that we had all been on on the subject of savage security and some other ways. You know if you do want to get specific about this. I think one way you can see. If you've changed the dial you can have a look at things. Such as how often is your size are being invited to present at board meetings. How often is the security team. Being engaged how engaged is your organization with you about the topic of security for me without getting into definitional topics. I just think some of these less tangible things are so telling of how far you've come in a year's time on our is challenging kozaru that boards and executives are they challenge you and they see other organizations saying how many phishing attempts you've blocked etc etc so you do have to give them whatever it is. That's on their mind and demonstrate that but also just keep on thinking bigger picture an aim high on that one.
Fresh update on "savage" discussed on NICE WORK! A Super Nice Club Podcast
"You can be dave savage arm-wrestling you can. You cannot beat me. I can tell i could tell although it's funny that you bring up arm-wrestling 'cause i have growing up as a kid with the last day with savage being into sports. I just always really strong and could beat everybody and even people that just look huge. But it's like the. It's the wiry guys like. You're pretty good arm wrestler You don't look like you would be but you're you're pretty worthy so you were talking about in the morning how you listen to podcasts. Sometimes as part of your media and you're the guy who really convinced. You kept saying you can do podcasts. Bro you're gonna do podcast. What's up with that was always a rolling my eyes. Because i've just not an audio learner. So podcasts have never really done for me i. There are a lot of people out there who i like do podcasts. But if i start to listen to my just kind of nod off except for dan. Dan comey's is great. How many podcasts do you listen to you do you think. How much do you consume with a podcast. I liked the long form. So i'd be. I love joe rogan. And whenever he interviews someone that i want to know about. I'll listen to it. And then every once in a while listened to a random one and i it's shocking those long as all right. Listen to them. I love choco choco. Well and i. I can over the course of a weekend consumer tacos. Three our podcast. I don't know exactly how much it's not like. I'm listening to one every day. And it's not like i do it in the city. Yeah like i'll listen to jaakko over the course of three or four days. But i mean i. I would say at least three hours. A week of podcasts. Consumption would be my guess okay. Some weeks some weeks to that just has to be a great way to expand your horizons all the time. Especially since he probably. That's probably time that you would have been spent passively watching tv either. Fill your head with not great stuff. I mean that's the thing. I love about the long foreign podcast. You have these individuals that if you like you. Connect the value standpoint. You know you're gonna get just raw human human interaction that's not being filtered and manipulated by the institution and all of the i dunno different interests that they're trying to serve. I just i like that. And do you like the person you trust the person it's good content and you're putting getting smarter. It's better than watching tv or some institutionally driven bs. Yeah well again. This has been a lot of thanks. This is the title this episode. Dave savage the thank you show but thanks for getting me into podcasting congrats dude. I'm honored that..
About 90,000 sex abuse claims filed in Boy Scouts bankruptcy
"Close to 90,000 sex abuse claims have been filed against the Boy Scouts of America. The number filed head of today's deadline for submitting claims in the organization's bankruptcy case. Far exceeds
Fresh update on "savage" discussed on NICE WORK! A Super Nice Club Podcast
"What do you think was that kind of a good segue like. Yeah go forward. That work for you totally totally works for me. But i'd be mortgage. People are amazing. I mean it is a great industry. Their local providers. They want to do the right thing by families and and they're really evolving to help families build wealth with real estate by making mortgage better mortgage decisions and most of them really do want to do that. And that's what. Sorry guys. I got the i got the phone number wrong. Three one zero four two one zero three nine three all right. Nice dave to that number yes. It's true and to make this clear. I used to work with dave four days after work. Day was my boss mortgage. I don't think everyone loss bro. But i i was. I did the director of marketing and creative four mortgage coach for awhile and this software. Do we still call it software We call it a platform. But you know it's out there and whatever app if you're if you're your loan officer out there and you're not using mortgage coach and this is just a spontaneous commercial. You're crazy because it makes such a world of difference for the home buyer. They're looking at what they're buying and the transparency one hundred percent. The realtor partner is on the same page the whole time. It's there's absolutely no reason not to be using The software and be genuine genuine about this have had so many guests. Now this is number forty. And i've never done a plug for anybody. This is just really good shit and it makes a difference. Because i think that more than just a single homebuyer when we have entire communities. That aren't going underwater with their loans. That aren't overextending themselves financially. Just try to sort of. Keep up with the joneses. These are healthier communities. Stay together longer. These are healthier schools. It's just the whole thing expanse and this is part of the super nice idea which is getting a nicer world and people who are financially solvent are just in an ice replace the. I'm glad you you said that. I do appreciate the plug. It and also a rep versus own analysis. I mean there's so many people that are misinformed about homeownership. They think they need more for down payments and they really need. They don't think they're credits could enough. But it is and then you have a lot of folks that are like. I don't know if i'm gonna wanna live there in two years three years and so i would just i would just push everybody find cool local super nice club mortgage professional and do reverse zone analysis and and even in today's covid market. You know there's a lot of people that want to move in other. They've they've been in their house and they want a bigger. You said kitchen it. Also they cook more They might want more room. I think people are just misinformed so do reach out to your local pro. If they're not using mortgage coach they might not be super nice worthy but if they if they are they're they're super nice worthy and have them do it analysis for you. It will really help you build wealth with real estate faster. So what's going on. What's going on in the mortgage world. I mean. I know you can't really make hard predictions big changes in twenty twenty one..
Armenians torch their homes on land ceded to Azerbaijan
"Forced to leave their homes set them on fire rather than simply hand them over. This ceasefire agreement allows our savage Indians to hold onto any areas captured in the last six weeks of conflicts. Armenia will also withdraw from nearby areas in the coming weeks to the UK,
Fresh update on "savage" discussed on AM Tampa Bay
"Another grim milestone. 18,000 coronavirus deaths. In all, the state reported more than 6300 new cases. Yesterday, host of mayors and state lawmakers been calling on governor to savage to put a mask mandate into place and restore local government's authority to enforce it. Democrat Carlos Guillermo Smith represents the Orlando area. Now local leaders feel handcuffed because Governor Dis scientists signed an executive order saying that they were not allowed to enforce their own mask mandate. Governor just Santis needs to lead or he needs to get out of the way. So far, the governor has refused to consider a statewide mandate. Polk County Sheriff's office looking for two suspects after a drug deal went bad and ended with one person shot to death as he sat in a car outside a 7 11 and point see, Anna Sheriff Grady Judd says it appears the suspects drove away in a dark blue Chevy Malibu. You.
Latest On A Military Conflict In Ethiopia
"Prime minister, Maybe Achmed won the Nobel Peace Prize. And yet less than a week ago, he launched military operations in the country's northern region. Now that conflict is threatening to turn into an all out civil war. NPR's later Peralta walks us through what's happening and later to begin. Give us a sense of why the prime minister had won the Nobel Prize. He changed everything in Ethiopia. I mean at home, he ushered in a raft of democratic reforms, and then he also made peace with Ethiopia's mortal enemy, Eritrea. During his Nobel lecture, he talked about how he fought in that war, and he called it the epitome of hell. Let's listen to a bit of that speech of Sin Brothers slaughtering brothers on the battlefield. I have seen all their men, woman and Children trembling in terror under the really short ofthe bullets and alterations. You are makes for betterment, heartless and savage mint, he says. War makes for Bitterman heartless and savage men and when I became to power, people on the streets of Ethiopia told me that he was sent by God and now He has started this new conflict in the same part of the country where this war between Ethiopia and Eritrea happened and his air forces now bombing targets in his own country. What's the cause of the conflict? And at this point, how bad is the fighting? So it's complicated because, but it's essentially a power struggle. Document came to power in 2018 after huge popular uprising, and one of the things that he did was dismantled Ethiopia's ruling party, which had run the country with violence and brutality for almost 30 years, the guys who ran the show, where the TP left the Ti Guy People's Liberation Front. And they were sidelined. Since then, Abby has accused them of destabilizing the country by stoking ethnic tensions. Abby's allies have accused them of assassinations, including one attempt against Abby himself in last week. The government says that the TPLF sent forces to attack a federal military base, and that's when Abby ordered his army into the ticket region. Now how bad the fighting is, has been hard to report because the government has shut down phone lines and the Internet is often the region. I'm still waiting for a visa. Reuters, which does have reporters on the ground eyes reporting, hundreds are dead on each side. Sudan State media has also said that many refugees have started fleeing to their country. So it's serious. What are the TV I fighter saying at this point, it's It's a lot of bravado. They're calling the government dictatorial and treasonous. And those are the same words that the government is using against them. And they say that they're open to talk. But at the same time, you know, they also say that if they're hit hard, they plan on hitting back Justus hard. Either. We talked about the threat of civil war. How higher the stakes here they're huge. Some analysts say that this could be like Yugoslavia where Ethiopia breaks up in Ethiopia, by the way, is The second largest country in Africa by population, and the conflict also has the potential to draw in Eritrea and even Sudan, and if it's protracted, it can really destabilize the region that is already super vulnerable. And we can't really think of thiss as just a regional government against a powerful federal government. I mean, this is really one well armed, well trained military against another well armed, well trained military in a really fragile A place in Africa. That's NPR's ater. Peralta speaking to us from Nairobi. Thank you. Thank you. A
Pennsylvania ballot counting is delayed
"In Pennsylvania, they've announced that Allegheny County is not going to begin counting about 30,000 ballots. Until tomorrow. These systems are just broken. They're just broken. I mean that the possibility of undermining public confidence is so unbelievably high when you delay the count's this way when you're not counting through the night when you are delaying the counts. And obviously it's because of this patchwork of laws that have been created. That's not just on Democrats and Republicans. It was on Republicans in Wisconsin. It's on Republicans to a certain extent in Arizona. A lot of the message that air created here bipartisan message and they require natural cleanup. There's a reason that Florida runs this thing. Really tightly runs. This runs really clean shit when it comes to the voting count. According Crisp Otter. The reason why Allegheny County, which includes Areas that are very democratic and could make up the difference for the four for Joe Biden against Donald Trump in Pennsylvania. Right now, Trump holds a very slim lead in Pennsylvania. The reason that Allegheny County apparently is being delayed is because the ballots in question, according Chris Potter, who's reporter for W say, require special attention. The vast majority of the 29,000 involved situation where a vendor sent the wrong balance voters and then had to reissue new balance with the correct races. Challenges there. Now voters who have to balance one with the wrong race is you have to give those balances special security to make sure that a people don't vote twice and B. If they just send in the old one. They don't vote in races. They are eligible for us. You can't just scan them along with the rest. Other ballots in the pot include those that don't scan for another reason. When a team won't process the amount of the check. You want deposits. You have to bring it into the bank office when ballots required special scrutiny. The county records at the vote through return board whose members are sworn in and for that purpose. The board reviews the results tell it up by election workers after polls closed but also addressed his provisional ballots. Military ballots, etcetera. Board members are said to be sworn in Tomorrow, the Friday after Election Day. Is nothing in the fairy is here. The county's GOP chair is comfortable with the process. This is also not people just taking a day off. The other factors. The county has to wait until Friday for mail in ballots to come in there were postmarked by Election Day. That whole situation was adjudicated by the courts as faras the complaints that that Republicans have about ballots coming in after Election Day, they're not postmarked. Those ballots are in fact being sequestered there being kept separate from the other ballots until if the Supreme Court has to rule on that the Supreme Court will rule on that. As well. There are a lot of rumors out there right now regarding the possibility of voter irregularities and voter fraud. This is exacerbated by the fact that the Trump team is filing some fairly while predicated lawsuits. Apparently there's one lawsuit in Pennsylvania that they just had granted. It was an injunction forcing The trump ballot watchers to be allowed into The balloting areas. So this is it's all a mess. I mean, I think the short story here is is all a mess.
Stocks rally on Election Day, with the Dow jumping more than 500 points
"Stocks have their second biggest election day rally ever. The Dow closed up 555 points to 2% gain the SNP, added 1.8%, the NASDAQ 1.9 Investors feeling there will be a decisive winner soon. But what they fear is a contested election, which drags on and injects uncertainty into the market. The stock market was actually closed on election day through 1980.
Countdown: US presidential campaigns reach their final hours
"Final hours of campaigning. I'm Lisa Sarah Fox News. Both former Vice President Biden and President Trump with last minute pitch is today. Biden spend much of today in Pennsylvania. His final stop was Pittsburgh or a laughingstock around the world right now. The only thing that could tear America part As America itself. And that's exactly what Donald Trump is doing beginning this campaign. He knows you only wake you with his divide America Penis against one another president with five stops in three states this evening in Traverse City, Michigan. My don't always play by the rules of Washington and the Washington establishment is because I was elected to fight for you and I fight harder and harder and harder. Better than anyone's ever forthe president Last stops tonight are in Wisconsin, opposed on social
Trump: The US will land the first woman on the moon and an astronaut on Mars
"First nation to land an astronaut on Mars may be we'll make that a woman. Maybe we should make that a woman too. What do you think, Michael? He said, Make it. Nancy Pelosi. That's Who said that this pretty gotta have stand up. Place looking guy. Pretty good. I didn't say that. Just repeating it. Get up there. Say they say he incites trouble. He loves trouble, dawg. Thank you very much. I was very good. Are you a comedian professional here?
France on high alert after suspected terror attack leaves three dead
"French officials are on high alert after a man was arrested after a deadly knife attack inside the church today. In these French police say three people were killed. There are reports one of them was beheaded. The pope calls the killings. Savage. They're being tensions in France recently over cartoons of the Prophet Mohammed
United Airlines to begin trial of free passenger Covid tests on London flights
"United. Airlines will soon become the first of this country's carriers to test passengers for covid nineteen on transatlantic flights. NPR's David. SCHAPER report Supreme Flight Rapid Response Testing will be done on a trial basis on some flights from Newark to London. The fifteen minute molecular corona virus tests will be given to all passengers on three to London flights a week for free but it won't exempt them from the UK's requirement that all incoming travellers quarantine for fourteen days upon arrival. If the pilot program is successful though united hopes to convince governments to lift such quarantine orders for travelers who test negative NPR, savage
Knife-Wielding Man Kills 3 in French City of Nice
"After a teacher was beheaded in France, another deadly attack. Fox's Simon Owen has this live. Lisa. French president Emmanuel Macron has just visited the scene of this morning's attack. A church in the city of Nice, he calls it is the most terror attack. And says he's deploying thousands more soldiers to God sites like places of worship and schools. French police say Three people have been killed. There are reports one of them was beheaded. The pope calls the killings Savage. They've bean tensions in France recently over cartoons of the Prophet Mohammed Lisa thanks sum and also a backlash in Muslim countries, including diplomatic rebukes over the French president's defense of the slain teacher. You showed a cartoon is part of a free speech lesson. Perky, though, is condemning today's attack, saying it stands with the people of France against terror and violence. What was
Miami Sees Record Republican Early Voter Turnout With 1 Week Of Early Voting Left
"Early in person voting period historically benefits Democrats as the party usually sees more of its registered voters turn out than do Republicans. The GOP often sees more of theirs on election day. But with a week of early voting already completed, it's the Republicans who are ahead this time by about a quarter million votes. Democrats still lead in returned mail in ballots. These numbers posted by the Florida Division of Elections on Ly indicate that registered voters have cast ballots, not how they vote. Or which candidates are leading in
Jared Kushner friend, Giuliani associate Ken Kurson charged with cyber stalking
"Of President Trump's son in law, known associate of the president's personal lawyer had been arrested on stalking and harassment charges. Ken Curson, whom Jared Kushner, appointed editor of the Observer, was going through a divorce in 2015. When federal prosecutors in Brooklyn said he began stalking someone he blamed for the dissolution of his marriage. There were three victims, and all that the FBI said became targets of Kirsten's pattern of retaliatory harassment. The FBI only learned about it because Curson underwent a background check when he was considered for a position in the Trump administration. His attorney called him an honorable man who will get past the criminal charges. Aaron
Ballot drop box fire prompts investigation for suspected arson in Los Angeles County
"Sin is suspected in a fire that damaged ballots at a drop box location in southern California. The county Fire Department put the fire out Sunday after witnesses saw smoke coming from the ballot drop box in Baldwin Park, which is an eastern L. A county. This particular drop off location was installed outside the Baldwin Park library. Dozens of ballots were damaged. The supervisor for this area held us. Alise is urging people who may have used the Dropbox to call the registrar recorder and verify their ballots were received. If not, they'll get to cast a new ballot. The registrar recorder, Dean Logan said they will pursue prosecution of whomever did this ballot Dropbox locations were first installed three years ago and buy this election. The goal was to have 400 boxes set up around the county.
Dallas Dog Owners Get High Rankings
"Dog owners get high marks The top dog owner. Personality Traits in Dallas. Report from rover dot com says Dallas owners of the third most active in the country and ranked fourth and most indulgent and most sociable 47% are likely to do yoga alongside their pump, and they ranked second in using high tech devices like a dog activity tracker. 5000 dog owners in 10. Different cities were looked at to put the data together. The link to the full report can be found at calif. Dot com. Mickey Briggs, Calif. News News
Roberta McCain, mother of late Senator John McCain, dies at 108
"Who served as one of her sons. Hardest working campaigners has died in a tweet. Cindy McCain announcing the death of her mother in law, Roberta McCain, Cindy McCain, writing. She could not have asked for a better role model or a better friend, Roberta McCain was married to the late Admiral John McCain senior and she was a mother of Senator John McCain, junior She was born in 1912. She was 108 years old. During the service for Senator McCain in 2018. She sat in a wheelchair next to her son's flag draped casket. Alex Stone ABC News Depending on
‘We’re Opening The Bars’ At 50% Capacity Tarrant County Judge Glenn Whitley Says, Dallas Bars Remain Closed
"Press conference is scheduled for 3 30 to discuss what Tarrant County is doing regarding opening bars from Corona virus restrictions. Tarrant County Judge Glenn Whitley says he's currently speaking with Fort Worth City leaders last week, Governor Greg Abbott gave county judges thie ability to open bars to 50% capacity call in and didn't county bars will open Wednesday. Dallas County bars will not
Rihanna apologizes to Muslims for song in fashion show
"Way. Rianna is apologizing after Muslim fans pointed out that a song played during the singer Savage, expensive lingerie fashion show contains a sacred text. The 2017 remix of the song Doom from English producer Cuckoo Chloe played in the background as models strutting on the runway. The song includes a deep narration. Rianna think the Muslim community for pointing out a huge oversight that was unintentionally offensive in her fashion show. The news that legendary
"savage" Discussed on Savage Lovecast
"Dan I'm thirty something cysts, bisexual male, calling from the Midwest and I wanted to share my quarantine sex story with you. My boyfriend and I've been dating for about a year and we don't live together. We have been exclusively seeing each other during quarantine. I showed up at his apartment the other night, and walked into complete silence, and no-one to be seen I looked towards the bedroom door and saw mix shift cardboard wall, taped up to the side with a hole, cut out in the middle. And a cloth over that so I-. sauntered over and finger reached out from the whole in directed me to drop my pants, I removed my pants and proceeded to receive unbelievable glory hole blowjob from my boyfriend. We attempted to have sex through the glory hole, but the cardboard wasn't quite strong enough. But it was one of the best flow jobs I've ever received, and we have made use of that makeshift cardboard glory hole wall a couple of times since. But thought that it was a really fun way to mix things up after having a lot of sex during quarantine in finding a new way to keep it interesting. Thank you for calling in insuring your quarantine and sex success story, just two things sauntered sauntering. That's the word where people should use I love that word, and you say you tried to have sex to that glory hole, but couldn't, but you got the most amazing blow job so indeed. You did have sex that Gloria Hole. You just didn't have anal intercourse through that. Gloria sorry to be pedantic about this, but it's one of my little pet. Pet peeves when people suggest that oral sex eight sex, even though sex is oral sexes last name. If you'd like to call in and share your quarantine or sex success story, please do and we might share it at the top of next week's podcast hey. Dan Savage a mini relationship with the guy that I've been in for about a year. She lives with his best friend who has been around for about eight years or so and. The last couple of months I've just noticed. Their relationship is a little bit too intimate. In my opinion there's a lot of ascribing. There's a lot of awkward hugging. There's also a couple of times where. His roommate would insinuate some things towards me when he was drinking as far as. Being with the guy or things that he thought about doing with a guy and it just made me feel very uncomfortable. So I have confronted my partner about this multiple times it always leads to an argument, so we have resorted to some sort of counseling because of that. But I just feel like it's hard to me to trust my partner. When just roommate is going these sexual provocative things towards me and my partner. So I feel like counseling is GonNa. Be Good for us, but I don't know what to do. About Fed grooming. I'm at a point to where I wanted to just say. Fuck it all and break up with them because of this because this is the only reason that's. Bringing controversy into this relationship, so I'm kind of wondering what do I do do I do. Should I confront this? Guys tell him keep his fucking hand, so and so and your words with him, being a friend of his for eight years, and we've been dating for about a year kind of feel like. You know that friendship is held at a higher stature than what we have, so I don't want it to be much of a controversy, but at the same time. I. Don't know what the Hell Do. Your boyfriends has known and been friends with and live with this guy for. Eight years, and the guy is gay. You don't say he's straight, but you say he's never been with a man, but he's touchy feely grabby insinuating in ways with you that make you uncomfortable and in ways with your boyfriend that make you. Feel very uncomfortable. Obviously, there's something there's something to this relationship sounds like. They have an intimate friendship and a romantic friendship, and that is indeed. Sometimes the thing and maybe your boyfriend relied on this guy for a great deal of emotional intimacy when he was single when he didn't have someone in his life that could give them the whole package, the sex and the intimacy and the romance. A quick digression about emotional intimacy. It can definitely be a problem when your romantic and intimate partner has a romantic ish, friendship and intimate connection with someone else that rivals or supplants yours, but often people make a problem out of a romantic or intimate relationship or a romantic friendship or intimate connection with someone else their partners, romantic or intimate connection with someone else because we have these unrealistic expectations about relationships and one of those unrealistic expectations that I should be all things to my boyfriend or my husband that I should provide him with all intimacy, friendship should be as best friend and his lover, and he shouldn't need to turn to anyone else or any sort of emotional support. That puts a lot of strain on a relationship to have to be all things to someone else and also realistically we can't be all things to else in our partner. Sometimes need the emotional support, the the friendly, which some people can misinterpreted romantic attentions of other people in their lives of other. Friends, they need those connections. But we have this culture that tells us that you know are romantic, partner or spouse. We should be all things to that person, and that person should be all things to us, and we perceive that they're getting anything from anybody else that they ought to be getting from us that that's a problem I would warn you to be on your guard against that. What you described sounds out of control out of hand. Kind. Not what I'm talking about but I've seen people exaggerate what it is that they're witnessing and claim that their boyfriend is. Neglecting them or having an emotional affair with someone else when all their boyfriend is guilty of is having a fucking friend, who doesn't happen to be you and you want your boyfriend to have friends who aren't you and it's fine for your boyfriend to have some friends that maybe you don't get along with and that he hangs out with when you're not around and vice versa, you should also have those relationships and those kinds of friendships and get that kind of emotional support. Elsewhere Kinda face a choice here between demanding your boyfriend eject his roommate from his life from his affections. Establish some healthy boundaries or demand that your boyfriend or get your boyfriend gradually to ease this guy out of his life, and you do that by sticking it out by putting up with it. I mean establishing boundaries. We don't want him touching you. Saying creepy shipped to you, you should say that, and he should stop and if he doesn't stop and your boyfriend claims to love you. You and he sides with the roommate. Will that boyfriend has love you in the? It'll have to go, but you can ask him to stop and then stick around, and if he stops great, and you can't police their behavior when they're alone together without you of course, but if he's able to be respectful of you, your personal space your feelings and knock off the grabby insinuation. Round all right then stick around and. Eventually. You'll become more and more important to your boyfriend. Hopefully more intimacy will grow. Romance will grow, and maybe then at some point you'll move in with your boyfriend and move out. Of the apartment that he shares with is maybe closeted, touchy feely, grabby roommate. And you will have supplanted the remained, and he won't diminish in importance, and you will see him getting smaller and smaller in the interpersonal relationship view mirror. But that requires you to have patience and to put up with this guy's presence. If not his ship, don't put up with Shit, but you might have to put up with his presence and the only way to figure out whether that'll be worth. It is to ask yourself if this guy that you're dating is worth back on a long.
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"If you've never listened to. The savage love cast, give it a try. Dam is brilliant and funny, and gives excellent, loves sex, relationship, advice and his political ranch at the top of every show, our Cathartic and quotable. Thank you very much Shannon. For All those compliments I am accepting now with no grace, because I am to Catholic to accept a compliment, and after it went out loud in my own show on my God. I'm allied on A. A dark room after this is all over laird, see tweets, the opening fake Dan savage. Last week's love cast has me feeling really depressed. When did people forget what empathy is prioritizing? They're preceived right to not wear a face mask over lives that are being lost and ruined as a result. My apologies to you learn about the opening of this week. Show depressed you to and finally solitary Duke Gear tweets. Thanks for the shout out to Rwanda at the top of the show last week. Dan As an American living in Rwanda. I am shocked daily by the difference between the robust covid nineteen response here as compared to the USA. I am worried sick about my parents back home. Hey everybody remember when Donald trump that racist piece of shit called countries with majority, black populations shit holes in addition to the African nation of Rwanda the Africans of Uganda Kenya Ethiopia even were torn as they say, Somalia all doing a better job containing the virus and stopping its spread than we are and New Zealand this week, not an African country, Americans it instant geography, new, Zealand declared itself Corona virus free and lifted all. Lanes none of those countries are should holes. They also have the advantage of not being run by shitheads. If you want me to read your tweet on an upcoming episode of savage webcast, be sure to include the Hashtag savage webcast, and now your response calls. Hey, Dan. I just wanted to call and give a response to episode seven fifteen on women disclosing abortions to their male partners. I think if it's safe for you to do. It's a really good idea. We're in our thirties now, but back in his late teens early twenties. My boyfriend actually had two different women he was with. Who got pregnant and had abortions and. They made him aware of it and it totally changed his. Sex Practices moving forward for example. We've been together. Almost a decade and we still. Use Condoms and the pill because he just. Doesn't want to take a chance on having. A baby he's not ready for, and he knows he's really lucky about his previous situation. Hey. Dan, just this listening to this cat today at heard the vice about HP. maxine really wanted to stress everybody how important that is! My doctors told me even updates fifty. We should get it I'm one of those men who who was too old to get it. When they with the original recommendation, my parents never even thought about it and yet I ended up with tonsil cancer at age forty seven high survival rate beaten. But I lost over a year. My life as a result, my career stalled my. There's just so many things that you don't think about that. An impact of taking the time out to be cancer. Even if it's a what some would consider minor cancer, so I can't encourage everybody enough. Go to your doctor. Don't wait for somebody to tell you take your sons to get that vaccine. Don't wait for the doctor to ask you be proactive with this level. Hi, Dan, I'm calling! Calling about the woman in episode, Seven Fifteen, who was worried about the day is contributing to ut is first off. I feel her pain. I had a uti off on for like a year. And now I'm super paranoid and careful to avoid them, but I'm also extremely happy today owner. We've got one maybe four years ago and had zero wishes UTI's. It's been wonderful and as a bonus. You don't get stressed when toilet paper is impossible to find you a pandemic. By one and enjoy. And we're going to leave it there. Two six, three, two two. Oh, six floors, the number here at the savage love cast..
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"Hi Dan I'm a gendered straight male. Just yesterday like girlfriend and I broke up her choosing. WE! We were together almost two years. She identified as Queer with a strong preference for females. But obviously she had an attraction to me whenever we have sex. Her relation came rhetorically never vaginal only so when we had had. Of course, it was basically for me. And we've understood that and I was fine with it when quarantine happened. Back, in March. We we've never lived together. So we were forced to be a part for quite a long time. about six weeks into quarantining. We just missed each other so much we. Broke were almost and. When that up at her house and we spent the weekend together and. Then and When the? Intercourse started, she suddenly started crying. And, of course I stopped and basically came down to. She just wasn't enjoying it and that was about a month ago. And yesterday. She decided she wanted to end it with me. The reason I'm calling I'm wondering. I offered to go without in school while. To, we can both come to understanding. But she said she just doesn't look. Sex to be that anymore for her, is she? Making a mistake because otherwise relationship was great. Truly was. She told me so. She said on the best relationship she's ever had. Hey. It's Dan savage returning your call. I didn't tell you. I'm very good. How are you heartbroken? But I'm alright overall. Okay so, there's been a development severe. I I sent her an email. You know you know respecting her. Feelings and everything, but Kinda offering you know my thoughts and. She we talked some more after and she said. She thanked me for everything very cordial. Polite, respectful of what she's just like you know. I think about us a while talking to. Friends and respected people and I just I believe I am a lesbian. we. I always considered myself. State ally so. It'd be very hypocritical me to try to. Convince her otherwise at that point. Right, right, you're not. You're allowed to be hurt. You have a you're entitled to your feelings about this. You made an emotional investment in this relationship at a time when she believed herself to be clear and leaning toward ladies, but also into dudes. And she was still working through that and you respect that. But you still were hurt. In this process! Of determining you know who ultimately she isn't who ultimately she wants to be with and I, think that that can be true that she's a lesbian and you can also have been the best relationship she's ever been. Even though it wasn't the right relationship and you know people sometimes say you know this was the best relationship I've ever been in, or they say that about a relationship when they've just been dumped by someone else and it. You know people want to say well obviously wasn't the best relationship they've ever been under. They wouldn't ended it well. Sometimes, people end the best relationship they've ever been in. Because you know they've determined. It's not the right relationship for them going forward. Even if it is up to that time, the best relationship they've ever been in so I think those feelings can be. Legitimate. If she is lesbian identified if that's. If. That's the answer that she's come to. There's not a lot of wiggle room for you here. You can't offer her relationship or you don't have penetrative sex. It sounds like when you called. You know you guys had intercourse. And she began to cry, and you attributed her tears her up to the intercourse itself, and maybe she was crying for you. Know the pain. She knew that she was going to have to inflict on you that having sex with you as much as she loves you. was just. To her that it was impossible to stay in this relationship. In all our sympathies go to the people who've just been dumped, that is the worst heartbreak that is declared heartbreak. But often to to dump someone that you like or love and you've shared important memories and times with that can be painful, too for the person doing the dumping. Because of what they're gonNA lose the connection and the affection and the history and the intimacy, but also the painful awareness that here's this person who loves me and that I love and I'm going to. Put them through the worst. Thing. Maybe the worst thing they've ever been through by ending this relationship, which I need to do not just for myself, but also for them because you wouldn't want to be with her. For forty years going forward if the relations is wrong or made her miserable, you love her, you want. Her to be happy, and if she can be happy with, you wanted to be happy with someone. Here here She stated she wants to be friends. And I said I want to eventually get there, but you know. I said I need some time to mourn and and you know distance. And she. She's more than happy to give me the time I need. Any advice on on getting there because right now. If I sorry I just be I. Just want to hug her and kiss her and. Don't see her. That would be my impulse to to to wait and wait a a good long while. least six months to a year before you had a tentative. Coffee you know a report. You get together at a time in a moment where there's clear brackets. It's not an open ended evening of dinner and drinking and hanging out. It's like a quick coffee in the middle of a work day. So you guys conceive. Being together is painful for you or painful for her, and it's always probably going to be at least in the short. Run a little more painful for you as the dump parody. On, but you need to put that. Offer a year and. If you, listen to the show. You've heard me talk. You know the advice. I give people when they've been dumped except for. Go to the gym. which right now we're not supposed to do. Right, it's all the same you know binge watch movies eat some ice cream. Identify the three or four friends. Who will let you just pour your heart out to them, but tell them in advance only to give you a month to do that to really wallow, you want them to pull you up by the lapels and tell you to change the subject or shut up or ask somebody else how they're doing or talk about something else, but but you need to have a couple of people in your life who understand that like for the next four weeks I am going to be a broken record and an annoying broken record, and you're going to indulge me. And that's slightly transactional because the understanding and I think it should be explicit is when this happens to you and it happened as. US, I will do this for you to. I will be the person you can call two in the morning and wake up..
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"It's fine. Hey Dan I have a friend who is spending their quarantine in Singapore, and he just sent a picture from some store. Conner looks like a Walmart or something because it had all these different aisles, but he sent a picture of an aisle that was all sex toys, and he said ninety percent of the aisle was masturbation sleeves, and there was a very tiny section. Section to female sex toys and he was like that's weird. Because I sort of thought, toys were most often for women, and that made me think that that is also sort of my impression of sex toys, even though men are the majority of the market for most sex related things like porn, so I was wondering who buys more, Sex, toys, men or women. That's a really interesting question, and I do not know the answer to. It has an anecdotal data re time I walked into A. Woman owned feminist progressive sex toy shop. Most of the toys seem to be for women, vibrators dildos strap on of course strap ons can be used by men. Course vibrators can be used by men and Dildo certainly can be used by men. There's plenty of evidence for that Oliver the Internet, but it does seem that most sex toys are made for women. And again it depends on how you define sex toy. If you WanNa talk about all the things that can come under. That header, yes, and people think Arolla duct tape is a sex toy, who by most the rolls of duct tape out there when they're being used as sex toys, men or women who knows I? Don't think anyone's done the research. The sex toy shops I've been in as opposed to the one your friend visited in Singapore most of the things on the shelves seemed to be four women, although available to and can be used also by men. There needs to be some research in this area. Maybe there's somebody out there right now. Listening who's done that research or is aware of it, and they'd like to send it along to us here at the savage love. We appreciate it. All right before we get your response calls. I'm going to read some of your tweets. The notorious KGB tweets, hey, at fake Dan savage. The Governor of Michigan is Gretchen Whitmer not. Whitman, as he repeatedly called her on the savage love cast this week. Thank you KGB. Thank you pet store. Stu thanks to everyone who wrote tweeted and call to let me know that I screwed up governor Whitman's. Whitman's name I looked at my notes I had whitmer written down, but Whitman came out of my mouth. Don't know how that happened. Apparently, I was thinking cheap dime store chocolate when I should have been thinking kick ass midwestern, governor, my apologies Thomas Bird tweets. Hey, savage love cast my friends, and I were wondering if there is a name for Eiffel, towering someone under the Eiffel Tower could. Could you please put this on your show? For listeners to respond to please I can't imagine. Nancy's going to play response about this, but I just wanted to say I, prefer the term spit roast too Eiffel, tower, but if you're eiffel towering someone under the actual Eiffel Tower, that's just public sex am pretty sure it's a crime. Even in Paris Lucas Snyder tweets. The savage love cast vibe. vibe lately is very dad..
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"Slash savage and all four is offering twenty percent off all orders for our listeners at all foreign dot com slash savage. Hey Dan I'm a twenty four year old and the North West. I was talking to him. Long-term family friends and his brother over voice chat and it was going his brother. Yeah does she know and I was like do I know what and he kind of chuckled and he was like center the week Senate tour and he sent me a link. It was of my uncles long-term girlfriends and applying video and spring up this conversation like I bet he doesn't know I'm just waiting for a time debris Yup I don't know how I told your mom speculating in this family. Emily knows and my question is. Should anyone be bringing that up? That's worse is the work and I'm sure he knows I just don't think he knows we know. And is there a appropriate way or time to even bring that up to somebody? Should I tell my family friends? Who Cram it down. And pretend they didn't see anything on the one hand. Sex Work is work like you say and work shouldn't come with some terrible stigma attached to it. Sex Work is work. It's job some people. Do some people enjoy it. Some people don't enjoy. It wants to do something else hopefully can move out of it quickly but sex work is work and people who do sex work shouldn't be discriminated against shamed stigmatized if we lived in a world where people who did sex weren't shamed or stigmatized or discriminated against or disowned by their families. There would be no issue here. You could say to your uncle. Oh I saw your girlfriend's work like I saw your girlfriend waiting tables at that place I like or I saw your girlfriend being an architect and building a building. It wouldn't matter but because there is this stigma and shame it matters and so I kind of want to get into a time machine and punch in the face. The first person in your family who found the video and started circulating into other family members to determine what needed to be done. Nothing needed to be done. The person who saw the video I needed to shut the fuck up and click on some other porn video that they'd rather watch in place of the porn video featuring a relative but now that the whole fucking family knows now that every friends no. Yeah your uncle probably needs to know needs to know all your all know needs to know all our fucking assholes with no respect. Who Don't know into close a browser tab. So yeah maybe he needs to know or maybe you should do what you had the impulse to which is tell all of your relatives to fuck the fuck off and cram it down and pretend not to know this thing that they really didn't need to know in the first place and that it might be an emotional burden for your uncle to know you know we're be told that you know the odds that his girlfriend if she has a ton of videos up online this is what she does for work is hiding that from him and has been hiding that from him for the entirety of their long-term relationship are very slim so going to him and say. Oh my God you're going through March isn't going to be telling him anything that he doesn't know it's just going to embarrass him potentially and humiliate him and might piss him the fuck off. I'm really torn because on the one hand. You should just closed that fucking Browser Tab. The very first one of you who founded on the other hand. It's nothing that she should be ashamed of. And if all y'all know maybe he has a right to know all all now so it can be addressed and maybe he's stressed out all these years about the day that you all find out and the problems it might create and if you've all found out and it didn't create really any problem except the burden of knowing and you WANNA shift that burden of knowing onto his shoulders. Maybe better told them but the ideal solution here is unworkable. One is the Dan savage jumps in a time machine and finds the person who found that first video and slammed their laptop shut and breaks all their fingers. People there is no reason to hoard toilet paper. There is enough. You Look Ridiculous Hoarding Toilet Paper and you know what toilet papers a terrible way to keep your but clean anyway. You should switch to the touchy bid. Day It's the modern day that cleans your focus way better than any toilet. Paper ever could using precise stream of clean water. The Toshiba Day. Cleanses your.
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"You can wind up with bacterial badge. Enosis you don't want bacterial Badgen noces but even if you could even if it was safe to stomach candy bar up your twelve. Why would you want to you know one of the first unquote sexually adventures can keep things I did? As a very young person was used whip cream because I'd heard that was a thing that sometimes adult stead when they were getting wild and ten minutes later the whip cream basically melts on your body and it smells like a baby barf on you. There's nothing sexy about it. We have so many opportunities as Americans to eat Carmelo and to eat chocolate sauce to eat with cream. We don't need to incorporate the ingestion of those food products into saks. Hopefully your girlfriend's vagina tastes good enough without the Carmelo. Pouring out of it all adds side. If you really must. There is a way to do this safely in that is to put a female condom in your girlfriend's Vagina and fill the female condom with Carmelo. And then she can caygill it out all over your face. But I don't see what sexy about that. My advice is always to have sex then. Desert don't combine desert with sex. Hi Dan I'm a mid twenties female and have been with my partner for seven years from early on. I knew his masturbation Kinky. I won't go too much into detail. But he wears female clothing and imagines himself as a woman fucking another woman but our sex life is great. He's dominant and masculine. Just how I like it the feminine side. He has doesn't turn me on but I'm respectful and open minded of it. I've tried to have him come out of the closet as queer but he shuts that down probably because of the shame I've even encouraged him to seek a woman who's turned on by crossdressing. But he doesn't want that either so now we're at a standstill and barely talk about it. What's your perspective Dan? Your boyfriend is entitled to his zone of Erotic Autonomy entitled to some Privacy. He has a fantasy that he likes to explore. Solo during masturbation. And you need to back the fuck off and stop telling him. He needs to identify as queer. And if this isn't something that he wants to explore our L. in real life if this is something that he wants to keep as a fantasy and masturbate about you have to respect bat. There may come a time when he does want to identify as queer or experiment with his gender expression publicly or maybe actually connect with someone who wants to play with him. You know while he's cross dressed in you probably assume I'm presuming you. Don't WanNa play with him when he's cross you don't want to explore this with him but even courage to him perhaps to explore with others so he knows that he has a loving partner who would be willing to go there with him if he ever wants to go there but you can't rush him anymore or push him or bully him anymore. He doesn't owe you a queer identity. He doesn't owe himself identifying as queer necessarily and if this isn't something he wants to do with another person or it would ruin it to do it with another person for him because in his fantasies. It's perfect and in reality. It's not it's GonNa fall short. He doesn't have to do it for you if want to do it for him. Great and he knows that it that day ever comes when he wants to do it. It's okay with his girlfriend now. You need to shut up about it now. You need to back off now. You need to let it go and stop policing your boyfriend's gender identity gender expression. His master batory fantasies his desire to be with somebody else if indeed he has any desire to be with anybody else and right now it doesn't sound like he does so back. Enjoy the sexual connection that you to have together and stop making a problem out of what is not a problem. Everybody Master Bates assume you masturbate to at times. Lots of people have fantasies that they explore when they masturbate some things that they like to think about and they have zero interest in exploring it during partnered sucks. And you just have to accept that as your boyfriend's truth it may change. There may come a time where that's on history with anymore. He does explore it with somebody else. Maybe explore with you and when that time comes when he brings it up then you can go there right now right now you just need to back way the fuck up and back the fuck off. Hey Dan Nancy. At Tech Savvy recused. This is more of a comment than a question. And it's not quite a sexy cove love story but I just got a text message from one of my APP. Wbz's and I live alone. So I haven't seen him in a few months now and it's breaking my heart a little bit or maybe breaking my take a little bit but that's fine And hearing from him totally made my day and just made me feel a lot better. So if you have enough. Wvu Out there who you know lived alone. We talk to them. Say Hi tell them. You're thinking about them. I know we played a similar call a few weeks ago but I wanted to play your call as well because I endorse this practice. There are a lot of people out there with F. WBZ's are a lot of people out there and open relationships who have secondary partners or occasional partners who are alone and live alone and don't have the benefit of sheltering in place with somebody that they feel close to aren't having any sex but also aren't feeling seen or remembered or thought of and it really can help someone at a moment where we're all struggling just to reach out just to let them know that you're thinking of them an F. Wb for me always. The most important ladder is F. It's friends with benefits. Sometimes people worry that it's just an F. WBZ's to fuck buddy relationship. And if I show any concern for this person's feelings by reach out to them they misinterpret that as an interest in something more or a commitment or committed romantic relationship known. No don't don't fall into that narcissistic self regard. You think that if you show the slightest human decency and concern for his ex partner back to suddenly think that you propose marriage to them. Don't don't don't do that. Err on the side showing some affection and concern of being your F- WBZ's F- their friend reach out to them obviously per this caller and thank you for calling caller. It can make a difference. It can really make somebody's. Day All right before it gets your response calls. Let's read some of your tweets. Alec Adam tweeted. It's Day something of quarantine and I'm so glad I made it out of the grocery store before at fake. Dan Savage explained exactly how to Finger. A man on this week's savage love cast now that I'm home. I'm going to run a bath and play that again. Hope you enjoyed our bath. Time Adam Athlete and their tweets had faked and savage. I get your concept of stay sane and stay married and I cosigned under some circumstances but financial dependence. I E I don't WanNa give up my meal. Ticket is shitty. Excuse for cheating on a spouse all right that is sometimes too circumstance but when financial dependence is cited. It's not always the person doing the cheating the dependent one often. Maybe just as often it is the cheater somewhat cheating with 'cause who doesn't want to leave and impoverish the person they're cheating on infidelity. It's always more complicated than people. Want to pretend. As and finally Amy Falcon Wrath tweets. Oh man can I please request that the phrase eat the shit out of your pussy not be repeated on the savage webcast? Okay Yep you got a point there. We will avoid that phrase in future. All right about me to read your tweet. On an upcoming episode of the savage love cast please be sure to use the Hashtag savage love cast and now your response calls. Hey Dan this is their response. Call to the man who's asking if it is ethical to get into a relationship with a woman hoping that she changes her stance on no sex before marriage. I think your advice about figuring out exactly what that means is great because it could mean no kissing but it could also mean everything but pi be on the other hand. I'm a little concerned with the rest of your advice. Because you told him her getting into a relationship with him could mean that she's okay with the fact that he does want to have sex but it seems like of the two of them. She's actually the one who talked to him about what she wants him. What she expects. And it's actually in his court to decide whether he's okay with that so I feel like him going back to her and saying I know you already told me what your price of admission is. But here's my price of mission. Now you decide yes or no. It seems like that was already done by her. And now he's the one who just needs to say okay. I can deal with that or okay. I can't and if he just gets into a relationship if I were her I would assume that he okay with what she already told him about. Not having sex just responding to somebody. Who'S A sub founding GAC? Who can't necessarily say that saying for what about humming? Try this the next time that you or put it out to. Your listeners. May Be bound and gagged. Try Humming. Modulating your tone. Happy Birthday to you as a safe. Word Works Wonders. Hi Dan I have the perfect word. I think it's the perfect word for female jockey. Let that you've been looking forks women aid.
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"Love. Cast you use the term atlas chaps in all caps are by definition atlas otherwise. They'd just be leather pants. It's like saying ruthless convertible just say leather chops chops sincerely a leather Smith but ashes chaps is just so much more fun to say than chops or leather chaps and usually when someone in qualifies chaps with Atlas they mean are a certain kind of super tight sexy shops that are four sacks and the kind of baboon ish presentation seven of the asked and asked chaps when you say that does not call to mind those sort of cowboy leather duster chops. It calls to mind a very specific kind of black leather popular happy with gay men chaps. You know what I mean when I say shop and I'm GonNa continue to say asked Louis Chops just going to have to allow me. The Vicki may tweets. I got the wind. I didn't know I needed while listening to the savage love cast when the caller asked what do I do I set out loud run for the hills that had faked Dan savage said had you run. Is there anything more satisfying than this. I doubt it and finally Samuel K tweets attention savage love casts listeners. You may be listening for fun on but please try to remember Dan's advice. It was only after I pulled out of a random hook up and was staring at the shredded condom on my deck that I remembered Dan saying wants that coconut oil L. and Latex don't mix Samuel K has zero followers on twitter so this may be the biggest signal boost. I've ever given anyone all all right if you want me to. Read your tweet an upcoming up. So the savage love gas be sure to include the Hashtag savage love cast and now your response calls at this call. It was in response to episode six eight nine with the woman who has the fetish for getting pregnant even though she doesn't want to. I think Dan totally nailed his advice. I've been in a similar situation. Actually where I was with a girl I known that long hooking up and she told me up front that she likes to say certain things during sex and she didn't mean it and then you know hadn't experienced before orbit as you get into it. She started telling me how she loved me and she wanted me to come inside of her anchor pregnant and it was so fucking hot especially though because she had been upfront about how like what what we say during sex in the morning after because otherwise we're GonNa Kinda strange giving we just met because she put up front. It was fucking amazing so hopefully The callers boyfriend feels the same the more hi Dan. I'm calling about the caller who extremely bigoted sister was asking him to be the man of honor at her wedding first of all. Thanks for the broken toasters advice I thought that was wonderful. I also thought maybe a piece of advice for that caller well he stays home and it doesn't attend. The wedding of this. Terrible bigot is to seek someone professional to talk to. What it sounds like he's experiencing is a a grief for a sister? Who isn't there anymore? You know there's ally this wonderful person that he knew before you know doesn't exist vest and there's a kind of grief that goes along with that and unfortunately because of her choices to become a terrible bigot. That means that he has lost someone. Important is life and those feelings. I really valid for him to work through. Good luck to him. And I really hope you took advice. And don't go to that terrible terrible double wedding. This is for the caller with racist bigoted sister. I think you should send them a letter saying for your wedding gift I have donated X.. Dollars to the.
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"There was funded ended and it was well allusive. I guess you can say it didn't really have an answer. we'll mail it whatnot Something to that effect like at these offensive. My husband in from college if you know about one-season and they're part of a larger circle of friends that also contains of my husband's best friend so both of these people earned of living. My husband as long suspected might be having issues with money though day themselves haven't been forthright about it. They also don't seem to be like like anti gay marriage like they came to the wedding. Honestly none of that has any glaring on my question. I guess I just mentioned it to only to try and make him sit and make sense of it all but then what do we do a lack of. Thank you card seems cold and maybe isn't the message. We want to send a rough time also on the other other hand. We also don't want to call attention to the fact that we didn't get anything you know. Run the risk of making them feel bad that way They at least came for the experience variance of went to the length of being there. Who thank him for that? Not Send One Being Nice what are we did you say. You don't WanNa be awful or you want to be nice. Well you've already failed. You've already contacted this couple to ask them. If maybe there was a gift and they said something ambiguous to you in in response you also then say that you have heard or might have some reason to think that they're having financial difficulties right now and they haven't been forthright. What are they supposed to do? Fill out a financial disclosure form before they come to your wedding and let you know before they eat the chicken or the salmon or the prime rib or whatever was you served that there would be no gift that their presence presence was the only president that they could afford to give you at your wedding dude dudes both of you back the fuck off. Stop Keeping Track of WHO. who did or didn't give you a gift at your wedding? If you are aware of the gifts that came in mentioned the gifts in the thank you notes to the people who came through with gift left if this is the only couple at your wedding the only attendees who didn't come through with a gift let it go. Maybe it got lost I. Maybe it fell behind the wall. Maybe somebody made. Maybe they brought you even though you have a kind of tenuous connection with them and they don't sound like terribly close friends. Maybe they brought you the most awesome present of maybe they got you a BMW. And one of the cater. Waiters stole it. Even if that's the case calling someone who's at your leading to say. Hey We noticed. He didn't give a gift is so crude intact list. That you just have to err on the side of not getting the BMW or the car thief Steve Who stole the BMW from your wedding gets away with it. Send them a thank you note still that says it was wonderful to have you there on our day period. Read the end and you already called them and they didn't come through with an answer which means they didn't get you anything and now things are just so awkward because you called and now you've called me and a kicking the shit out of you are my podcast because this is just not okay and not what your wedding was about was it wasn't about how big a pile loot you guys could scrounge up and guests at your wedding. Really you know a gift is nice. Gift is awful. I think a gift is expected but it's not not mandatory. Sometimes we have to be understanding that people may be in circumstances financially particularly now in this economy Johny where incomes have been flat for forty fucking years and people are struggling and rent is too damn high that there may be some some people your wedding who are barely keeping it together and wanted to be. There wanted to love and support. You wanted to see their friends but just couldn't cough up a a blender or a BMW and the gracious fucking thing to do in that circumstance is to keep your mouth shut not call them up and harass them for a blender or BMW or anything else you owe them a thank you note and the thank you notice kind of a secret apology that you're going to make them send them. Thank you note. Be Gracious Hi Dan. I'm a twenty eight year enrolled heterosexual male on the west coast. My partner and I have been in a monogamous relationship for five years living together for over two and a half years partners in the wildlife forestry field and works the field technician. It's hard to find work in that field so who you know for references really matters before she got her current job. She worked for a private contractor. This was a little over three years ago. He's an older man in his fifties. They would regularly work in areas that require them to spend multiple multiple nights out in the field together usually camping at once in a while in a hotel but never in a shared room. His Home Office as I just said is also located in his home after about two months of working together. He told her while they're working in his home that he had developed romantic feelings for her. She told me about at this and they greatly upset me. She was adamant that she was not in any danger and that she could handle the situation. I trusted her. A may finish. The field is out without any incident. She has remained friends with a man because he says he is quote an awesome friend and very valuable work contact over the last year they regularly go out and get drinks together alone to discuss work related things. I partner knows how I feel about this and invites me along but I have always declined declined this. I feel that the situation would just be uncomfortable and that I would feel more like a third wheel on a date. Released recently. Took a much-needed weekend vacation. Asian I partner left her phone open on the bed while showering and I saw two texts. Come in from this man. I have never looked at any of my partners phones and considered the violation of privacy. Something fell off in that situation though. I justified the snooping to myself that the phone was unlocked. And it wasn't really snooping by was still wrong thing to do. I know that in the tax chain she had told him that she was dreaming about him and was also sending him pictures. Nothing dirty of her on the trip just fun photos of her looking out over the ocean that kind of thing. I hate that I looked at her phone but I feel emotionally betrayed her because she knows how I feel about this guy and I don't really know how to handle the situation. My question is did she crossed the line. And you break. My trust is telling your former boss that admitted having romantic feelings for you that you were dreaming about him emotionally cheating or my being distrustful asshole and I should just not up and finally meet this guy to see how they interact the next time. Your girlfriend invites you out to drinks with this colleague of hers. Her Fox sake go go have a drink. Go sit with them together. You're likely to discover you're willingly to realize as you sit and have a drink with them that the reality of their relationship whatever it is is not nearly as scary as what. Use It at home imagining judging it to be when she's out having a drink with this guy so take a deep breath. Go have a drink with your girlfriend and her colleague or former I'm or boss and see for yourself with that relationship is really like it is possible that they have a kind of romantic friendship. It is possible but he is still attracted to her. It's likely that he is still attracted to her. And I worry actually by whether he can keep that in check because he's already demonstrated an inability to self-regulate around a workplace crush that he confessed his crush at the beginning of a kind of extended time when they were gonna be thrown together and he was in a position of power over her. That's fucked up. That was not the time for him to confess that crash. That really put your girlfriend on the spot and he should've known that it was possible old in her position. She may have felt pressured or coerced. She didn't feel pressure to coerce. She told him she didn't reciprocate those feelings. And they managed to salvage their working relationship. And this kind of romantic friendship. That makes you uncomfortable. Obviously there is a connection connection. There you went through all of their tax messages. If she were fucking him you would know. She sent him photos. But no nude self Ralphie's no inappropriate photos just photos and text messages that portrayed an emotional connection that made you feel worse and made you feel jealous us because that Emotional attention you feel perhaps rightly is yours and should be yours alone. She's directing some of that at him. In addition to going out for a drink with her and him the next time they hang out and invite you to accompany them or she invites you to accompany them. You need to ask her what she's doing here. Obviously this guy had feelings for her issue giving him just enough sort of thinking of you and here's a picture of me looking wistfully out over the ocean at the beach photos to keep that romantic attraction on his side alive for her own purposes. is she being the exploitation creative one now is she. The one who's now behaving slightly inappropriately or is she giving him what he demands. Is He As a price for his mentorship or his guidance or as reference letters tips for jobs in the field that they're both in is he demanding this kind of attention action from her. Does she feel pressured to to come through with this kind of attention. You know if I didn't have a boyfriend. The implication is maybe something would still be possible. hopefully. She's not incentivizing him to have killed. Anyway she has some explaining to do. I think you have a right to be insecure. I think you have have a right to ask her questions and ask for some reassurance. Don't think you have a right to be as angry as you sound. It is possible people that he had a crush on her. It is possible that she intellectually professionally has a little bit of a crush on him and values this relationship. And and there is intimacy there and a friendship there that has supplanted whatever was there at least on his side at the start. She can reassure you about that. If it's true and you can confirm I think for yourself with your own eyes at that's the case. If you just show the fuck up the next time you're invited to go have a drink and if you go don't have that drink and you get the sense that you're being played. Well then you may have to trust your gut also have to police your girlfriend for invading your privacy all right before we get to your response calls. Let's read some of your tweets definitely Lexi tweets. Oh my goodness listening to Hashtag. Savage love cast from the very first episode and and it's brutal of loved fake. Dan Savage for lungs. I remember but oh my how far we have come. I'm super thankful for having the Magnum addition so I can go all the way back to day one well. You're a braver listener than I lexi. Because there are a lot of things I'll listen to a lot of things do but I will not listen to the very first episodes of the the savage love cast but magnum subscribers are welcome to way back then thirteen years ago we were still working out the kinks working out the bugs creating the show as we went. We're proud out of the show. Now we're proud of the shows then but yeah the seams were showing way back then. Thanks for being a listener lexi. Thanks for being a magnum subscriber. phoebe malts Bovi tweets obsessed with thirty-one-year-old savage love casts caller wondering if it's bad feminism to date her former as an a decade ago professor. How did we get from things can be consenting adults but still ugh.
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"Learn from my mistakes and swear off the student at all right before we get your response calls. Let's read some of your tweets. Alex the great tweets a tip for surviving family Christmas. Listen to the savage love casting your air pods while the family watches fantasia on television. Excellent pairing especially Ashley Dennis. Talking about water sports terminal fatigue tweets at fake. Dan Savage insists that at some point in a relationship people start farting in front of each other. I can't be the only one for whom that's never been the case and is happy to keep it that way Hashtag savage Lub cast and finally a slut called Nada tweets dear at fake. Dan Savage have you. You ever heard of a reverse sugar daddy. I E an older man who gets paid for companionship by a younger woman. The world being wide and wild. I'm sure it happens is but I've never seen it. Hashtag savage cast. I'm not so sure it happens and I've never seen it but if somebody out there knows someone or is someone who's ever been in a reverse sugar daddy sorry arrangement. Please give us a buzz. We'd love to hear from you. Alright if you want me to possibly read your tweet ended. Upcoming episode of the savage love cast be sure to use the Hashtag savage loves cost and now your response calls high okay. I'm calling in response to the guy who called about his. I'm sorry the person he's dating you and her insecurities about women they see on TV or models and actresses or whatever I had such a visceral reaction to this call and I just I feel like his his idea that he needs to talk to her about how. It's such a turnoff for him to be so insecure and Blah Blah Blah. He has no idea what what it's like to be a woman in our society and our world and they'd instead of having these conversations with her about how she should change her behavior because it's turning him off maybe he could have a conversation with her about the source of these issues. Where does it come from? Why does she feel this way? It just doesn't feel very supportive or understanding. And it feels very self-centered forgot you got to be his reaction and also for him to claim that it's very high school for her to need the title voice girlfriend. It seems completely immature for him to deny her. That title high. I actually have a comment about episode six eighty six and the guy who bummed. `Bout that his girlfriend of four years or have sex anymore. I'm wondering if anyone's considered the possibility not good at it not satisfying versus in on it. Or maybe the way he talked she turned them. They sit on it. I guess it's on her to speak up to but he's just assuming his needs aren't getting that maybe he's not reading her isn't she. Just doesn't want to do it with seven more. Hey Dan in the tech Soviet rescues on this comet for the color in episode six thirty six and the fiancee who was playing tug of war with a stepchild and I just wanted to say they child of divorce and a mother of my own child and the stepmother four girls I think ended bicyclist on. I know this is your wedding but everything in your call was totally early about you and not about this child and just a wake-up reminder that adults needs sometimes you're an adult and this is a child you're talking about not a trophy. We need something to fight over and someone who you want presumably in your life for a long time so you need to make it about them and it's a really hard thing it's a step parent rent but it happens all the time so if you can't do it now he might WanNa reconsider being in this role because holidays and birthdays and graduations and all sorts parts of celebrations in your life. That you think are about you need to have that child cut I so I don't know I guess my advice is if you can't take a moment and and step back and realize what's best for the kid in the situation which is not to be pushed and pulled all over the place it's to be considered and perhaps this child eld isn't comfortable spending a week with your new soon to be husband and you and the mother and the grandmother actually made a thoughtful decision on on behalf of the child advocating for a child who can't do it for themselves to limit buy time and build their relationship slowly so I get out of your own way and think about the kid I I get it. It's your wedding but you're marrying into a family where there's a child and You gotta put that Kid. I and we're going to leave it there to six three. Oh Two oh six four is the number here at the savage. Love cast report a question or comment for a future show..
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"In deference into your delicate sensibilities that may help you get there get to that point in the long term relationship that point where I assume you're already with the wife where you can fart in front of each other and unjust blotted out. Ignore it shrug it off. It is weird to be around. Somebody that you've just met and they're burping and farting a lot. That's very weird. But what's not weird as being around someone who burps parts around you because I assume that your wife burps and farts around you. What's weird is that they're burping and farting around you so soon? After you're meeting you so get there will yourself to get there while asking in return as you will yourself to get their little consideration when and where possible in your delicate sensibilities all right before we get your response calls. Let's read your tweets. Butterfly time tweeds fake and savage. I listened to episode six eight five. And my I take on these sacred birthday girls that you probably want the caller in pictures of the event if it's not going to work out because he's going to South America for a year doesn't doesn't automatically mean she has another guy invited to the party Aztec savage webcast yet doesn't automatically mean that that was my hunch. I think I rolled that out as my hunch but I stand by that that Hunch Rachel Cunliffe tweets about the same caller. Hey Fake Dan savage that guy on the savage love cast. He's going travelling clearly. didn't tell the girl how long he'd be gone. She doesn't on a guy at her birthday. Who misled her? And then had the audacity to faint hurt and surprise wish you told him to grow up and stop being so entitled being vague she goes on another tweet being vague with details to get what you want sacks and.
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"Excuse me don't women even wives have to sleep also she suggests that wives I should make an effort to look good for their husbands but nothing about husbands making an effort to look good for their wives but still jill talks about how important regular Sachs's to her her she means regular as in on the regular not regular as in vanilla or don't slap my ass and call me a whore regular. She suggests three times a week for young newlyweds which seems doable particularly. If a couple takes Jill's advice about mixing it up which is a little like my advice about mixing it up. Here's Jill and when you you may not be able to actually have intercourse period of time for health issues find other ways to have fun and be intimate all right pretty good. I think you should a mix it up and find other ways to be intimate without a health crisis. It prevents you from having intercourse but but I'll put pretty good she also says be open with your spouse about your desires tires and change things up to keep it exciting and then sites to Bible verses to support that one flynn chapter two versus three to four in one Corinthians chapter seven verse. I five looked them up. I don't see the link Philippians chapter two verse three to four do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit rather in humility value others above yourselves and one Corinthians seven five defraud you not of one another except to be with consent for a time that Ye may give yourselves fasting and prayer and come together again that Satan unkempt you not all right. Don't see the link but hey if a real reach of a Bible Verse Interpretation Makes You feel better about pegging the husband go for it now. Don't mistake me easily. Ninety percent of the rest of Jill's blog post like ninety percent of the Russell Stanley is terrible includes things like saving yourself for marriage and the sexes sex is only for married men and women and even then only when they're having sex with each other but there was more decent dish sex advice in Jill's controversial blog posts than I expected expected to find tons agree from readers and I just wanted to say hey jill. I feel you game recognize. Game haters going to hate part of the sex advice is racket. Welcome are coming up on today's show on the micro free edition of the savage love cast tons of your cues a lots of my as and on the Magnum addition on the savage club casting asked you can subscribe to at Savage Lub Dot com the magnum.
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"Queer friends get yourself some queer friends who aren't projecting their hangups or their insecurities. He's about the legitimacy of same sex relationships onto the male partners of bisexual women who are seeking same sex relationships what you queer friends said was pretty fucked up but again circling back to my cynical advice at the top verifies somehow draw her out about her relationship draw her out about her boyfriend because there are a lot of people online who lie and sadly there are people online who lie about just this sort of thing thing to manipulate others into eating their pussy or soccer decks all right before we get to your response calls. Let's read some tweets said dog tweets. Hey at fake. Dan savage tell the father of the sixteen year old by kid to get his son vaccinated against h._p. It's among the safest and most effective interventions we we have completely agree c._d._c. Recommends the h._p. Vaccine for all kids boys and girls starting at age eleven. If you weren't adequately vaccinated excited the c._d._c. recommends going and getting h._p. Vaccine up until age twenty six game in twenty-six an older should also get the h._p. Be maxine what everyone should just go get the h._p. Backseat regardless of age. That's not the c._d._c.'s recommendation. That is my recommendation z x. beaver tweets. Hey dan the by woman in with the cheating slash. New instagram photos of her boyfriend said he hadn't gone down on her once in the seven months of their relationship. That alone is a d._t._m. F._a. Offense offense completely agree should flagged that myself and finally skeptical who tweets. I was almost done listening to all the back episodes of the savage love cast when they disappeared from apple podcasts what gibbs i feel. I will never be truly complete without them. Oh i'm so sorry you feel.
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"On a future episode savage love caspi sure to use the hashtag savage savage love cast and now your response calls hi this is for the caller on the last episode is boyfriend like blew up over home improvement projects and they've been four years. He's never done that before. <hes> i just wanna kinda reminded me of myself. One time <hes> i was trying to fix our internet and i yelled at my sister and it doesn't make the behavior excusable but i just realized that for some reason that irritates she doesn't mean i turn to a dick. I apologize the course and i just told her i started telling her. Every come always trying to fix something. Technology is please. Don't talk to me. <hes> i'm gonna be rationally angry for the next half hour so i don't know if he's done home improvement projects for them and before but maybe that's just as one thing that he could set off about because like i said normally i'm pretty easy going and i never raised my voice anybody but for some reason like it just pisses is me off and i can't fix something so it could be just as simple as that if he's never shown it before. If you say that that's one thing he gets bad about. Hey dan and i had a problem with that. You mentioned in episode six six seven or you implied that lindsey graham was acting the way that he was because trump or somebody ready had essentially blackmailing information on him <hes>. I don't think lindsey graham is a victim being blackmailed into acting in a way that he doesn't want back back. I think lindsey graham oppose trump briefly when he thought it was politically expedient and is now showing his true colors as a white supremacist west who is victimizing others and it's not the victim of a blackmail scheme in an otherwise decent person who would be doing good if not for the blackmail against them and we're going to leave it there two six three zero two two six four is the number here at the savage love cast. If you'd like to record a question or comment if you to show give us a does two zero six three zero two to follow me on twitter at fake dan savage followed jacqueline novak on twitter at jacqueline novak and get your butts down to the cherry lane theatre to see her show. Get on your knees. The savage love cost is produced every week by nancy and me and the tech savvy at risk then nancy. We'll all be back next week. Loans prominent sub caste <music>..
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"That means can you help me over I'm hosting. I can have you over. But there are some people out there who want to host for sex, but don't wanna host for breakfast. Don't wanna wake up in the morning next to a near stranger. And that to me seems a bit odd. If you're going to be intimate if you're going to swap spit roll around in bed together naked and have sex. I feel like you can make that person in egg in the morning. But that's just me. I'm a nice person. Your just you you've had this experience twice two different guys of invited you over. And then made it clear after the socks that you had to go. And maybe because they were older, maybe they had a high power jobs. Maybe they had to get up early in the morning. They could have said that they could have said that before they invited you over. They could have made that known to you that you couldn't spend the night when they invited you over. Then you could have made an informed choice as they call it about whether you wanted to go fuck that guy under those specific conditions that midnight or one o'clock in the morning. You would be pulling on your clothes and piling yourself into an Uber and heading home, and maybe you would have chosen that you'd be less resentful because you would amount, but that's what you were signing up for. Well, you know about yourself now that irritates you to be sent packing after you get fucked. So say that somebody invites you over you having a first date second date, and he invites you to his which I loved that British ISM. I love that way of putting it he invites you to his you should say to him. Is this an invite for hanging out hooking up a couple of hours or am? I spending the night. And then if he says now just a couple of hours I have to get up early in the morning, my secret second families coming over whatever it might be. And you can make an informed choice, and maybe you won't feel so resentful, and maybe he'll share reasons with you that are comprehendible that are understandable by maybe he has the kind of job where he has to be up and out the door at five o'clock in the morning to get to work. Some people have those jobs. I don't know why he wouldn't mention that to you to put the get the fuck out in context that would make him seem like not an asshole. But then sometimes have trouble communicating to like men, sometimes have trouble emptying dishwashers here at savage love cussed industries. We are really into mattresses for all the obvious reasons. So you should have the very best mattress possible..
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"Savage love cast, WWW dot savage. Love casts dot com. Relationship. There's something I want to say about a billionaire at the top of this week show, but it's probably not the billionaire years thinking about but before we get to the billionaire. I'm thinking about it the billionaires I'm thinking about billionaires whose behavior really should be scandalizing us. I want to say this about Jeff Bezos is bad ass, Dom tob big dick energy move last week for those of you just tuning in some incredibly boring. Text messages that bays us and his girlfriend sent to each other. We're made public if you weeks ago made public by the National Enquirer or the quote paper of record as Donald Trump describes it and these text messages, which were universally described as steamy. We're supposed to shock and Apollo as all because out their children in the room or in the car, you might want to turn the volume down. We were supposed to be shocked because Jeff Bezos liked how his lovers smelled. And he wanted to hold her mom kinky. The release of these steamy text messages prompted basis and his wife who are already separated to announce their divorce. Well, it turns out the national choir doesn't just have Basil's text messages. They've also got pictures that bazo sent his girlfriend including dick picks and picks his girlfriend sent to him swapping..
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"Sinked auto opened hashtag savage love cast hearing, Dan's voice, three kids did not react. But one kid's eyes got really big caught. Mine then looked away. Not sure if I got street cred or teen horror, but other way, thanks, Dan savage. Thank you. Amanda for listening and thank you thirteen or fourteen year old in the car with Amanda for also being a listener. And finally, Seth Kaplan tweets. Hey at fake, Dan savage. Hashtag savage love cast that guy joined the army, and he quotes a tweet from a U S army judge who said to a company commander that asked me if he can order a soldier to shave and otherwise rags mustache because it looks like a Hitler mustache end is prejudicial to good order and discipline the answer is. Yes. So looks like the Hitler moustache, dude. Who was dumped by my caller, who I told the dump a Hitler moustache dude has joined the army apparently in the army has told the Hitler moustache dude that the Hitler moustache has to go it loo- lost the war one the mustache, please people know Hitler mustaches. All right. That was this week's tweets if you want me to read your tweet on a coming up of the savage love Caspi sure to use the hashtag savage lab. And now your response calls. Hey, dan. I was just calling in regards upset six forty about the woman who wouldn't send her man nudes. Over her company phone. You are one hundred percent, correct. I worked at a very small company, but their policy even small as they were was that their phones or their property. So they could take them inserts them and sees them at anytime. And no matter what was on them. No matter what you would done. You could get in trouble for it. Because it was essentially the company's property that women needs to not be sending any sort of or even doing anything questionable on that phone if that individual likes to go that route he needs to buy her his own phone. Hey, Dan, I wanted to call about episodes six hundred forty for the lady who's concerned about her poly-amorous partner, dating younger girls the risk of sounding naive. I wanted to give the younger girl side of the story while it's true. Eighteen to twenty minutes my age, you're all goes fetish. Is that off? If it was reversed age play is real kink and is very hot. And I have a fifty year old partner, and he makes me really happy. So it doesn't have to be some creepy thing. I'm actually good friends with his fifty year old partner as well. And it works, and you know, maybe in three years, they'll find it scary. And when I go away from it, but it's had a really positive impact on my life on my friends are supportive, and I don't know maybe hear him out before you jump to conclusions. Hi, dan. This is a comment for the collared. That is worried about offending the juicy put pussy she's eating. I'm not a lesbian, but I do have a juicy pussy, and I will say I find it kind of romantic when my partners we've a little hand Cal for me on the bedside table. Nice little bit of hospitality. That makes me feel more comfortable, how'd it, but also I've had guys when they're eating me out kind of wipe their mouth on the side of my by or if we're in a particular place, we don't want to thirty laying as how underneath so they can periodically, you know, wipe their face her mouth or beard. So hope that hope I'm not offended at all by it. It makes me feel kind of seen loved and accepted that they still want to go for it. And we're going to leave it there to six three. Oh, two. Oh, six four is the number here at the savage love cast, if you'd like to report a question or comment for a future show. Give us a buzz to six three. Oh, two two six four. My dirty. Little film festival hump is out there on the road headed to a city near you. This week hump is in Palm Springs at the Camelot particular and more info head over to hump film, fest dot com. I am also going out on the road this year to Portland Oregon Vancouver. Seattle Denver San Francisco Chicago Madison Minneapolis, Toronto, Canada Somerville. Massachusetts savage. Love live is coming to you. But a savage love cast dot com and click on events.