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Gov. Greg Abbott Bars Vaccine Mandates in Texas
"The White House is blasting to GOP governors over their moves to ban coronavirus vaccine mandates on Monday Texas governor Greg Abbott issued an executive order banning any entities from enforcing a vaccine mandate he's urging lawmakers to pass a ban into law like Florida did last month governor Rhonda Santos's government has now issued its first fine to a county for violating the law this is become a political issue White House spokeswoman Jen Psaki agrees putting politics ahead of public health saying both de Santis and Abbott have an obligation to help save their people's lives and their opposition to vaccine mandates does the opposite Sager mag ani
"santos" Discussed on With Friends Like These
"At all. It's almost like you're finally free and you can really just be. You can just be and that to me. Was like taking the shackles off in my brain. And just i was like. Oh my god here i go and you know now as a person as a comedian like centering. My comedy around my you know feeling empowered to to sort of like especially being a tv writer like having clearness be a major part of of my writing and And and not just like you know in my lifestyle and you know in dating and stuff like that like yeah. I've just you know. I'm in a place It took me a long time to get here. But i'm i'm so happy. I can't think of a better way to end the conversation. Although i would. I would love to talk further. I would love to talk further to but sophie. Thank you so much for coming on mission. Thank you for having me. i'm actually. i'm very honored. This has been really cool. And hopefully we can chat against. I loved talking to soapy santos about how she's landed at the beautiful place. She is in her life again. Her book called the one you want to marry and other identities. I've had and a reminder. Monday october eleventh is national coming out day this the thirty fourth year in a row that this day has been celebrated to raise awareness and support for the lgbtq.
"santos" Discussed on Asian, Not Asian
"You're just have a baby picture of you watching watching me since i was born. And what you wanna do. Is you as you get sponsors from other you get like alums from said sorority to write a letter on your behalf and then you send your resume out but just to even rush. This is just to get the word out. Anyone can walk cash. Nyc see anyone can rush. Yeah but you gotta be doing the work the stain you have when you said anyone can rush. Yeah i'm not just anybody okay. Well yeah i was so. I am so competitive so i was like yo competitive sounds like well if i'm gonna rush if i'm going to do this because it also again. On behalf of my mother my mom was a delta gamma which is shit which is a really good sorority at mississippi state but they didn't have delta gamma at alabama so she was like well ma. Best friend's daughter is the chair of a really good sorority. Why don't we just go and meet them and missile weird. It is crazy that is crazy. You just do that for the rest of the show. I love my reality. Talk like this all day actually have another person. Sophie santos sitting next to another person. What do you do. Have you done to go and hang out with both. Y'all see which one of us hits it off. okay. I feel safe. This is debt culture. No okay so so you have these letters of recommendation recommendation. But but this is my in so what we do. Is we go to her friend's house. And i mean it's like a mansion in birmingham and like the ottoman costs. More than you know a car. And this is where this leads us to sleep et cetera. It's terrify and i'm just like sitting there and we bring over my resume enter enter friend and my mom just hit it off and they talked for like forty five minutes. And i'm just like sitting there. And like you know every once in a while. I'm like conversing and then i have to say the most beautiful woman descends down the carpet staircase okay. Yeah she's like in this oversized sweater. She's like looks is kind of like a mere cat like you'll very smart face ferry. Johnny talk her cat. Yeah very tall but just you know small right right. And but oversight sweat shirt and she had her hair in a ponytail but like the ponytails like loosely thrown together so was just so casual cash. This do this. It's like seven. Pm but like she has makeup on. But it's like exactly but it's not rubbed away. It's like she's you brand new day and she's like walking down and she's clutching a cup of coffee and just kind of just like floating right. I remember just being like. Oh my god like who is this person. And this was the rush. This was the rush chair and she comes down and her name was mary. Catherine i forget now. Of course the name of of her mom but Her mom just like hi. This is this is this is sofi. She's russian and in this. Were pass your birkenstock phase at this point. What do you wear what do you. Yeah what are you wearing. I'm wearing a dress wearing heels and makeup. I'm doing the whole damn thing. I'm hoping and i'm nervous. You're telling me the story. And i feel i should but not my shirt more because you me i shower. I should go show because of you. Well yes she's she is. Judging from wherever she right now. I understand and mary catherine is just like walking around like walks around the like you know the big you know how. The southerners have big kitchens. Yeah it's just like. Oh i've seen talk to me She's walking around the island. Never used never used they and they never eat there. They're they're the hell no is. Put your water. Cut down sit. This is actually where mostly where the reality tv crew. That's in there filming. Their lives is hanging out that really. That's what it is. Yeah yeah so so. There's a camera in the corner. American goes and she like like gingerly picks up my resume. Just kind of looks over it. And she's and she's so silent like she did. Give me a looked at my resume sweating. 'cause i'm like well if i'm going to do like this is the omits this really is my only end like yes. I have my life being sent out but like you know this is this is it. She looks at my resume. Five seconds and then she just puts down she goes. He'll be fun. Shit walks back up to her own. See just teleport's up to her room doesn't take stairs just lifts by.
"santos" Discussed on Asian, Not Asian
"Hello tichy on instagram. And let your friends know what's going on with you. But then you go to university of alabama. Okay and you do your in. You're in a sorority. I'm in a sorority. And i'm not i'm just. I'm in like the top sorority on campus. What those what's the name name. Well i renamed it in the book. So for the sake of for the sake of continuity alpha beta okada. Okay so and i was gonna ask you about that because we recently came across this article on the cut about this alabama rush talk talking and watching it and i mean before we even get into that i wanted to just kind of like touch upon the college rush thing because we all kind of had different. I mean so. I went to like a very. I went to a public school in california. It was very very asian. And there were asian sororities and there were there were there. Were the regular. Greek houses as well But they were kinda like their own world first of all because like why people were just in their own world and at where i went to then the frat thing just added another layer there were there. Were like ravers. Yes that's like a whole britt thing. I never talked to any of those people and they were. They like majored in mass communications. And shit like that. I don't know you know what i'm saying. But there were asian sorority fraternities. And i thought about doing one of them. Because i wanted friends. Hey this sounds cool. And i immediately. I didn't even do any activities. Because i caught wind that you have to pay dues. I there's no way. I barely afford this like chalupa that i just had i. I remember i remember. I had You have you know you have like a lunch card. Does like preloaded every plans. Your meal plan. Go there's blah blah. i guess so. I just didn't know how to use money. And i just loved eating as a t. Shitty teenager i used like the semester's worth in like two weeks and was like no. I too many pizzas. Or whatever the fuck it was answer like really broke and i couldn't afford and that was where my quote unquote greek. Experience ended otherwise. It was just going to like weird. Asian greek fraternity parties. Yeah the asian. Greek fraternities at my school. There was like three of them. Three different ones one of them. They were seem like sweethearts. They seem like nice boys. One of them seemed like okay and then one of them seem like. I don't know if you have a criminal element at a california public university. But they seemed like it. You know what i'm saying. They seem like these are bad dudes. Who are shitheads. And so it was an interesting mix you kind of have to navigate that world so that was my thing but yeah food you ever do any of these activities in. I didn't even know what i obviously knew. Fraternities were from movies. But i guess. I just always assumed that they were white or white centric and then when i went to nyu nyu or is in the middle of the authorize. Yeah it doesn't have accused greek light but it does exist. And that's what i learned about. Asian frats for the first time the asian they would give you flyers but rushed for this thing my roommate. Uc chinese-american from georgia comes from a very strong chinese communities. So he's all about that. He's like chinese bro. He loves basketball very nice. Yup now perfect. He's a key though. He now works in private equity following the path of chinese and he was like do wanna come to like rushing mic servant with me and at the time like. I don't have a lot of friends. And i was like. Yeah of course. Man's like go and like it was like the first part of everybody's asian and this is so crazy. I remember like a lot of these kids have money. So they live luxurious buildings unlike union square on the rooftop penthouse for the penalty and they have all kinds of soju. You on the table and they had like no. They're walkie and then like yeah man. I mean like they made them do like if they were interested like they made. You do like push ups and stuff. I remembered like that was the thing and so there's like this party happening on. The corner of the room was like my roommate. Brian and like other guys. Who want to rush like doing fucking push ups like shirtless and like taking shots and doing burghausen. Like throwing up and all this shit. And i really didn't i remember i met one girl who was like also there with her roommate. Who was really. It was like a fr- fraternities already mixed things they were there. I met one girl who was like who kind of looked like me. Like was wearing like an arcade. Fire t. shirt or something and we're just let me doing here but that was sort of the extent of the coa. They were co ed fraternity party to like get people. It wasn't like official russia van. This was like hey rush like come. Check out what we have to check out Let's see here to push ups. You got exactly. It sounds like you were. You're deep into it. And i mean this is fascinating. Get into a dude rushing. I wish it could have been just like fucking doing shots and doing push ups and that feels like social network to me actually feels like literally a boost from the social network and no so the so the way to rush works is you. You're rushing before you even rush so you're like so.
"santos" Discussed on Asian, Not Asian
"Their material is very to what we were talking about with being present it stuff that i seek could see really working on the road. It's asian stuff but it's like high energy you know it's like very simple premises but then like really like big payoffs as far as like bring really loud and that sort of stuff. Worse is like new york. New york is all about like. They're little tiny intricate. Bits of some really clever thing about all looking look at my bitcoin wallet. Yeah that's a good bit so it was. It was such an eye opening experience. And it just made me rethink. Wow i think i know about this universe. I don't there's a multi-diverse house. Other scenes austin asians. There's alt-right asians puckett. There's probably like there's a bunch of people in canada. There's a. There's all the asian asians that's a whole other thing and we're just one. That's racing speaking multi versus Speaking of multi versus our guest. Today i mean shit. I guess we both. We all lived in europe for a long time and have been active there. We've never actually met in person. Because perhaps she does. T's not from earth six hundred six. He's from one. How many dimensions from. We've never actually jersey now. And she is a comedian writer actor and she's got this new book out called the one you want to marry parentheses and other identities. I've had a memoir so excited to talk to her to what kind of asian. She's been this week. you've been up for the holidays. Sofi santo silla thank you. Thank you for the parentheses. No one's they say that the name of the book they never actually include the presley's which is the most important part you gotta open and close it operations. Yeah now i i love that. We're on this marvel theme because i actually recently Was watching in game. And i was recently watching. I'm just going through marble. Tear recently disney plus can't recommend it more And i'm not sponsored by them by the way but you know they want us great and i will say yes to the multi-diverse but we just wanna make sure we're not in the mysterious multi-diverse will which is an actual. That's just an illusion. That's an illusion so for while you were talking. I was like what if this is an illusion for you. Don't fuck with me dude. That's my mind when i was like what have all. These people are just projections rice. It's it's an it's actually not real. It's not real. It's actually jake dillon hall and you know it's it's totally different. You know we want to start off here. We've been touching a lot of things but we wanted to start off. What kind of asian were you this week. Sophie asian little. We've done so such a little careful how you answer because if you answer the wrong way the show automatically ends okay the universe if you answer wrong universe collapses just disappears. I dunno. i know i forget. We're gonna i know dr strange's in the corner and he's already doing this thing. Whatever i say. Everything goes away. Everything i've ever known which is literally just a premise to third spiderman. Okay so i am asian off which actually kind of brings me to your story. Young which is like i do feel a lot of people. Don't owe him asian And that's the thing. I'm philippino I'm spanish filipino So that's a mind. Fuck within itself but most people especially when they're billing me in they're really trying to like throw out that there's they have like a you don't talking about. Oh yeah we want to make sure that we know that we have people that are the credit offer all that. Yeah yeah absolutely saying the always yet. They're saints 'cause they do care and to and it is for us not for them And everyone always bills me as latin necks. It's actually really is originally kinda of like let it roll off my shoulder. 'cause i was like well i'm spanish and there. Is this huge debate. Whether right spanish people can be included in latin next That's a whole history train. You don't need to go down. But i then started being a little like i did. It started to her. No people aren't recognizing that. I'm asian. And i had to like remind people And remind people like that know me. I'm like hey. Can you stop saying i'm latino or latina or whatever and and recognize that. I'm filipino like color. Because i'm filipino. Not because I'm i'm latin. Actually latin people get really pissed off because spaniards are cassandra white. I'm also going to piss off people all right just trying to be who you are. I mean this is what i was saying about the multi verse okay. There's like other kind. You know when you usually think asian american. There's like this main. Like kind of branch i guess. And a lotta times in america. It's like east asians right asians. Who came here in the sixties or seventies and their parents did this and whatever and now we're upper mobile. I whatever the fuck it is. But then there's like this whole other thing you know other these other branches. You know sophie. you're one of them you know and we and and here we are but i imagine filipino. People get that a lot because allow the last name spanish. You know because. I feel like a lot of filipino. Especially if they're like half filipino. Or something like nobody ever thinks that asian. I've never actually had. I think it's great that you brought that up to your friends. Because i think it's difficult to go up to anybody and be like. Hey you better recognize that. I'm asian like that's such a hard thing that's a crazy thing to bring up to somebody you know so i did. I stood on a chair at a party music. Everyone here look at me. Listen to me. This is who i am back back to the katy perry. There's always kind of like a not hockey joke..
Florida sues Biden administration over immigration policy
"Florida is suing the bein administration over border policies Florida governor Ron de Santis has been criticizing president binds administration claiming his immigration policies are illegal and has filed a lawsuit claiming the federal policy will cost the state millions of dollars and cause harm to Floridians allowing illegal aliens apprehended at the border simply just be released into American communities he signed an executive order barring state agencies from assisting with the relocation of undocumented immigrants in ordering them to gather information on their identities the order also authorize state law enforcement agencies to detain vehicles reasonably believed to be transporting undocumented immigrants to Florida from the southwest border Florida state representative Anna asking money says to Santos is using the immigration issue to score political points I'm Jennifer king
"santos" Discussed on Ologies
"You're gonna start noticing. I love that you. You're constantly filling evidence folders for like things are shitty things are like what. What are you putting in your evidence folder. Pretty much An and it's not just like you know what you're picking it's like you're you're training your brain to look for that stuff in my podcast. I interview this. Fantastic guests rosca. Who's a- poet an sas to. Is this a book called the book of delights and he decided that for every day for a year after his birthday he would write an essay about something that delighted him and he talks about how at first he was like really worried. Like mega. really gonna find things that really delight me and he said that you know even just a weekend like he'd kind of tuned his mind to find. These things has a walking down the street. Like oh that dude. St shirt is delightful. I like oh that cow on the street is delightful like he just his because he just kind of shifted his perception and tuned his mind more towards the good things and the bad things are brain's evolutionary are naturally tuned towards the bad things. Make sense you want to see the tiger. That's gonna jump out at you but we can control that tuning and just by like taking some explicit work to pay attention to the things. We're grateful for to the things that delight us to the good stuff out there. So yes ross. Gay the book of delights and again. Checkout neil has reaches work at his awesome allergy episode. Another fun project started private twitter just for yourself and chronicle delights of your own. Were a private instagram account. Or something also. I should note that in recording this episode. The internet dropped out a few times. So i had to email dr santos a new link during it and she has an auto reply message explaining that she may not right back in. It explains that she gets more than one hundred emails a day and it reads in part quote keeping up with that many questions. Slash requests meant that. I was hurting my own time. Affluence and having less time for the important projects i really should be prioritizing and so i am currently trying my own personal well-being experiment. I'm gonna try to practice what i preach and reduce the amount of time i usually spend on male. Thanks for your understanding. As i try not to overcommit and protect myself from burning out. I love her. Totally solid major props for walking her talk. She is the best and in respecting her time. We wrapped up last listener question. I saved it because it was juicy. Oh it's so juicy bailey. Rickets wants to know. How do we find a balance between being happy and living in the moment while acknowledging all the hurt and suffering going on in the world essentially guilt over being happy. When you know that there's a lot of bad shit out there how do we do it. Yeah yeah tough. I mean this is like a really real one right because there's a lot of bad stuff. The air right now know. Structural racism mobile global. You know like the list goes on. So i mean i think one thing that helps me is recognizing that if if i want to be the kind of person who's ally for all that stuff all the yucky stuff in the world who wants to have the resilience to fix it. I'm not going to be able to do that if i'm incredibly anxious and overwhelmed and burnt out. I'm going to be able to do that best. If i'm really unhappy state if i'm really kind of feeling good like if i kind of have put my own oxygen masks on first right and in fact there's evidence that so many of the things we were talking about that are parts of a happy life help for doing hard. Things might my favorite one. Is that people who are grateful are better at what's called self regulation. They're better at doing the hard thing today to help their future. Self whether that's saving for retirement or eating healthier or you know putting work into hard scary problems like that just require a lot of hard scary work and so for me. It's made me feel like if. I want the world to be a better place. I can't afford to be down in the dumps freaking out about it. I really need to put energy into doing these practices for myself so that i'll be you know. Hopefully one of the people that has the bandwidth to help with some of this stuff so far from feeling guilty. I feel like we might want to feel guilty for the opposite thing right. You know do what we can to kind of fix things. It really does require not just working on these structures but working on our emotions so that we have the bandwidth to fix those structures. That might be messed up that just i'm sure gave so many people permission to pursue happiness. Who feel guilty about it. And i'm by so many people. I mean me specifically but no that's really helpful Last two questions asked before we go worst thing about your job. Worst thing about being a new model dala just and the thing i there's lots and lots of good things but you know if i have to shift towards negativity i would say the the hardest thing is that you know. They're the one of the things. I really try to fit. Engine is is this phenomenon of time. Affluence this objective sense. That i have a lot of free time and being a happiness grew especially in an age where. There's a lot of bad stuff going on in the global pinto make. It keeps me pretty busy because a lot of people want advice. A lot of people want help. And that means. I have to put a lot of work into protect my So the hardest thing is protecting my time In the midst of everything else going on. I can totally understand that. I just got your auto apply. That was like yo. I get like a hundred miles a day. Thank you so much. I gotta stick to my principal review. And that's hard right. Because i get into my imacs. I'm like oh that listener. Has this really cool thing to say here. That student has this really cool question. But i also know that if i answer all those that means. I'm not spending time with the people i care about. And i'm not just having time to meditation exercise so it's hard prioritizing the right stuff but time affluence is definitely something i need to work on. Prioritizing never heard those words before beloved on best thing about your.
"santos" Discussed on Ologies
"Happy to ask your questions for dr santos okay arielle. Reagan wants to know. Do animals experience happiness. Are they happier than people. Yeah it's really hard to ask animals about their happiness. Because you know. I can do the self report measure with you. It's harder to do that with a banana slug or bonobos or something physiologically we know they go through a lot of the same states as humans but hard to know for sure if those physiological states correlate with this subjective state. I only know that you had the subjective seat because you tell me and so even though everything we can objectively look at like suggests that it you know we were feeling the same thing Subjectively it's really hard to know for sure So one thing. Some scientists try to observe is play behavior like hopping around running chewing on stuff. Tiny poodle angel. She rubs her bud against off like a tire or my shoe. That's her version of typing. Hashtag blast or graziano wants to know. Can anxious people be happy. I think anxious people can definitely be happy. I think there are a lot of strategies we can use to regulate allow our anxiety. I think part of the problem with anxiety is that we try to run away from it that we like you try to avoid at all costs but that's yet another emotion that i think we can kind of sit with like feeling really anxious right now. It's of ten. You can sort of surf that anxiety urge and get to the other side. Then do some work to sort of nurture yourself so i think you can be anxious and happy just like you can be sad and happy and you can be angry and happy. You know to have a truly happy. Life requires experiencing all those emotions but finding ways to kind of navigate them so they don't take over Oh that's really well fed aden paco and meghji wanna know. Is it flimflam. That smiling actually makes you happier or is that a true fact megs laughing and a lot of other folks looking at you patrons say see demos wanna one alexis wallich and ashley herbal water. No can you fake it till you make it. There's a lot of feedback that we get from other people's emotions From our own feedback from our own actions. You know so pretending you're happy acting like you're happy can often put you in a happy state in part because it puts the people around you and a happy state and we know that there's A lot of evidence for what's called emotional contagion right just like if i'm around happy people i'm just gonna catch the emotions of that happy person and the reverse right if i'm around those negative. Nellie is like that's going to. I'm going to catch that too. And so there is a kind of fake it till you make associated with the people who have the emotions that you want to experience. It's a powerful way to kinda use your situation your social environment to build in wellbeing. Is there anything you can do for a friend who is feeling really unhappy to help them out as well. Yeah i think you know the the way to do it. I think really is to try to bring some of these practices in naturally right. I mean first of all give that friends social connection right just the very act of you talking to them being around them. Spending time with them is going to improve their well being. I think you can also bring your attitudes of that. Are positive right. You know if you're expressing things that you're grateful for you know if you're savoring things and feeling a little bit present you know that that kind of thing is naturally going to rub off on them because of emotional contagion because of behavioral contagion. But the biggest thing you can do is i think. Check in check in and allow yourself to be present and be there for someone who needs you really powerful way to use your happiness to positively affect others so if he were think why would i check up on someone. I don't know how to fix things. Don't worry just be alive. And in their orbit and listen or tell them about how lizards have to dick's. That's what i do. Patrick javarani says first question. Asker wants to know happiness and the microbiome connection. What can we do to improve. Microbiome is their connection. What's the deal. Yeah great great question and it's something that we don't have that much good data on yet You know everything. We know suggests that microbiome affects all kinds of stuff. It would be surprising. I think in some ways if it didn't affect our wellbeing in our happiness. But you know this is just a new area work where we're learning new things all the time and we don't really have a great verdict yet but if you wanna through research money onto something that i think we'll be really telling in the next ten years of happiness science. I think microbiome might be a spot that nice. You can just get in on poop on the ground floor. Yes thing the top samples from very happy people. I'm i'm in. I think you literally can buy poop like on the black market for your own at home. Like fecal transplants. Ps of course. I looked this up and getting an enema. With someone else's poop it's called fecal microbiology transplantation and in the microbiology gut by episode from november twenty. Eighteen we go into detail about how our microbiomes are suffering from processed foods and artificial ingredients and overuse of antibiotics for things like viral infections. That don't need antibiotics. So given that up to ninety percent of our serotonin is synthesized in our simmering. Pu filled guts. Diy fm ts to yourself. Fecal microbiology transplantations. As they're called they're getting more and more common as doctors are still reluctant to shove up our butts even when we asked nicely so according to an american journal of gastroenterology article called understanding the scope of do it yourself fecal transplant eighty two percent of folks who tried it felt better afterwards and ninety two percent of those new their stool donor. Who i don't know. I guess you find by asking your friends who seems chill and has good poops so you can ask dr screen donor sample and see if they'll do it. Otherwise there's plenty of instructions on the internet apparently you buy a blender goodwill or something and then you may be it later. None of this beeswax. Ask your doctors. Don't sue me or make me a smoothie later. I'm good ruhollah. Wants to know first. Time question asker. Is there any truth through the notion that people who are generally happy to live longer. And i want to say my..
"santos" Discussed on Ologies
"Daily activities or anxiety. So powerful that you're experiencing panic attacks. That's a sign that you might need professional help. All the heck's i mentioned are good. You know once you get out of that acute state the heart attack person as soon as you get out of experiencing cardiac arrest. The next step is going to be back to so some of those preventative measures. Once you get out of the hospital. And i think the same thing is true for clinical parts of these diseases. You might also want to go back to experiencing gratitude and meditating in these things but it is important to get acute care if the mental health situation. You're in is acute okay. That's great to know for people. You may know when you hit this level because your friends will say. I think you should see a doctor dude. Which is what happened to me. When i was going through the hardest parts of my life and also had a couple medical conditions that turned my brain into bees. The doctor was like well. Shucks you need more than a car. Wash let's check under the hood their buddy but yes. What is the technique for sloughing off persistent crusty muddy feelings. When it comes to things like gratitude and meditation how much effective like. How much can we get away with. If we're feeling real down in the dumps but we're low on motivation. How much gratitude is enough. How much meditation. How much exercise. It's yeah i mean. I think you know one of the nice things about this being all of this being evidence based is that the allows you to kind of do your own experimentation right. The answer of how much meditation you particular podcast listener need might depend on kinds of things right and so the key is to sort of try it out one thing we know though is that sometimes it takes less than you really expect. Take something like gratitude. There's evidence that just scribbling down three things that you're grateful for every day that can be enough to significantly boost your wellbeing in as little as two weeks like doesn't take that much time there's evidence for example from heavy cobras at yale that even as little as ten minutes of meditation a day can really start to improve your well being in some mental health symptoms right for more on this. Feel free to peruse paper such as brief. Mindfulness meditation improves attention in novices. And let it be. Mindful acceptance down regulates pain and negative emotion both published by dr headache over so scientists in lab coats have dedicated the research and their grant money budgets to proving that yes. Meditation does help. it's free. It takes less time than making a sandwich we can do this. Let's do this and so it doesn't take long what it takes us some consistency and so my instinct is like because sometimes we hear these tips like all right. I'm going to drop everything and do you know like seventy hours of meditation i. It's not enough. Just start really small. Allow yourself to do these baby steps and tested out. How are you feeling. Are you feeling better is it. Making is making things better. Is it making things worse and so allowing ourselves self compassion to engage in these baby steps. I think is really important. I think that's so true. Whenever i get out of the habit of running which is now i'll go do a lap at the reservoir but i'll have to just tell myself the first couple of times i'd do it the first month long as i. Just get round reservoir even crawling. It's fine you know like expect to yourself to get back into running at a certain pace or doing things whole hog can be so intimidating. You just want to give up right away. Yeah and i think you know. We're not good at understanding the amount of self compassion. We need to motivate ourselves. I think again. This is the spot where i think our minds get it wrong. We think the right way to motivate ourselves is to become these horrid drill instructors and link yell at ourselves in our head in a way that we'd never speak to a friend or a child or someone we cared about hopefully right but that kinda just doesn't work. That convinces us that. It's not good to try. We end up setting standards lower. We ended up procrastinating. More self compassionate turns out can actually allow you to engage in new habits better and more effectively and with less procrastination. That's not our theory. We go for the drill sergeant approach. Yeah we'd be better off kind of mindfully paying attention to what's going on and recognizing that we're just human in giving ourselves a little bit more of a benefit of a doubt. I never want to obey dick. Who's yelling at me. So why do i do that to myself. And we're like you know. The dinkiest of dick's is often in our head right. You know. it's like wait. I would never say that. That thing i just said to myself in my head i would never say that to another human. Why am i talking to myself that way. Yeah i would. I would want to slap my own self. I thing to you know like yeah. I'm the the hardest unresolved more than i would ever tolerate somebody else which is so funny that we do that but You mentioned the term positive psychology before. And i'm so curious about that. Because i feel like i can't tell if it's flimflam or not that positive. Psychology is totally like a legit practice or is it something along the lines of like toxic positively at all costs where what is positive psychology. What's what do scientists think of it. Yeah i mean the the term positive psychology begin when you scientists marley seligman who invented the fielder saw is the founder of the field. Really had this intuition that so much of psychology is about you know what he called kind of below be slide right like i'm trying to cure depression. I'm trying to cure anxiety or something like that. But he realized that we didn't have as he called it a good science kind of going above baseline there's baseline and then there's feeling like you're flourishing. You know then. There's getting social connection. Life feeling really president experiencing joy and so he really christened this name of this field positive psychology in order to focus on those things but i think positive psychology gets the wrong route. I think there's this idea that like we have to only be positive. But you know if you look at what the research is really showing. There's a lot of evidence that are real true. Happy life successful life. A healthy life involves experiencing.
"santos" Discussed on Ologies
"Or like exercise. It can be a few weeks before these habits really take root and you start to feel better so don't give up give it a few weeks especially since it's free. Are you feeling lazy android. Don't worry a lot of us. Feel that way when we start doing something that will keep us alive and happy. So i asked dr santos for us. Why am i like this. Why do you think from some sort of evolutionary standpoint. When we're bummed out it's harder to do the things that would make bummed out. Yeah super frustrating like the mind is designed in like a really stupid way. We know this you know from other evolutionary studies but definitely when it comes when it comes to happiness. That's the case in one of my upcoming episodes of the happiness lab I talk about this really stupid design feature of the brain where there's just a different like a whole different brain system that codes for what we like. You know so the things we really enjoy versus the things that we want the things that were motivated to go after that we crave the simplest example. Is like you know sometimes when i'm having a bad day at work. I dislike crave like plopping down and watching netflix. Or like eating a cupcake or having like a huge glass of wine. But like if you actually look at how much i would like that the net flicks is gonna make me pathetic and the cupcakes going to give me the jitters in the wine. I'm not gonna sleep very well. Like ultimately the liking has this disconnect from the wanting and you get it in the reverse direction to like. I don't after a long day at work crave a really hard peleton ride. We're like you know like a really hard yoga class or like taking a long walk with a friend. I don't. I don't have the same motivation i have for that. I do like the cupcake or the warring relaxing thing hit of social media. But even though. I don't have the wanting if i actually engage in that practice. Feel so much better and so this is a dumb way to design a brain wanting would kind of go with liking. But it just doesn't and that means we spend a lot of time craving and easily going after things we won't really like and it means we don't have mechanisms except very kind of rational. You know push ourselves how these kind of low grade craving mechanisms to go after things that really will benefit our happiness but but we don't realize we want them. How do we hijack that like. How do we trick ourselves into doing the thing that we don't think we like doing is good for us. Yeah well there's there's two ways to do it you know one. Is this very rational. Force yourself way which which. I harness a lot which is like even though. I don't really feel like calling anyone right now. I know the science and talked to someone. I'll feel better right kind of the force yourself approach right but the force yourself approach works best if it's paired with the second practice which is forcing yourself to notice what you like because the wanting system can update. It just doesn't do it naturally but after a really hard yoga class or after calling that friend when you didn't feel like it take time to notice like does this feel good and you're like yeah this actually sexually fall's nice. I had this creek ovid. When i was going to a yoga studio this wonderful yoga instructor at right at the end of a hard class would have you take this moment like okay. Now take a moment to notice. Notice how you feel after this class like notice. How this is you feel after july dam. That was great. Like i want more in this feeling. You know so when you pick the salad and stop pretending that diet coke is water and you go for the slowest sweatiest shuffle around the block. But you do it. Take a minute an absolutely relish. How wonderful and brave and heroic efforts were and how you feel. We deserve this but we tend not to be present. Tend not to mindfully notice and that's true for the stuff. You really crave but you might not like after you like your open the fridge four times and grab that thing to eat that you didn't really feel like take a moment to be like. Am i satisfied now. Not really want to grab something else and once. You notice that you're wanting system can be like okay. Kinda duly noted. Let's take note of that for next time. So kind of forcing yourself to ignore you're wanting system and just act through this very rational path but then also mindfully noticing what you really like. Those things can start update. You're craving system at least a little bit but the systems are always going to be disconnected. Unfortunately it's just our minds are not really designed that well for wanting all the things that we like. What about like our self image. How much does that play into our happiness. And how much does monitoring our likes and our social media and you know looking at pictures of our face distorted camera lens. How much is that affecting our happiness and how we see our lives. Yeah well one one another dumb feature of the way our minds work when it comes to happiness is the fact that we don't necessarily think of the good things in our life in objective terms. We think of them in relative terms and that means that seeing ourselves on social media seeing what's going on with other people on social media that can really affect our happiness in some ways but take your body image for example right you know you might objectively think you have sir in you know body. That's good or not so good or whatever but we don't necessarily think in terms of our objective sense we think relative and so as soon as you go on instagram and you look at you know the bikini pictures of someone else or take your objective sense of how good your vacation was or how rich you are. How nice your houses. Then you know you watch the celebrity. You know talk feeds in. You're like like my house. Isn't that good or my vacation sucked and things like that. We're really susceptible to social comparison when it comes to evaluating anything in our life. Our abilities are are amount of money are salary a house. Whatever and that means that we can easily start feeling bad even when we're in objectively a good situation. My favorite extreme example of this was a study that looked at the emotions of different olympic medalists. So probably gold medalists probably feeling pretty happy like they just wanna gold medal. Yeah but what about silver-medallists maybe slightly less happy but what researchers find. Is that if you look at the emotional expressions this silver medallist show on the.
Daos, NFTS and Crypto Derivatives Win Attention as Billionaire Paulson Calls Crypto Worthless
"What are the interesting things about. Hedge funds and venture investors. Is that often times. One really big contrarian bet that pays off can solidify investors reputation for a very very long time. John paulson had one of those bets. Betting against the housing market in advance of the great financial crisis. That position ended up netting him and his investors something like twenty billion dollars which is very clearly a career defining bet however it hasn't been quite as good since then at peak in twenty eleven pulse and managed thirty eight billion that was down to nine billion by twenty nineteen when he shut down his hedge fund and started managing his own money an estimated three point five billion instead this is not the scoff at three point five billion dollar fortune but simply to point out the paulsen is proven himself to be pretty firmly in the camp of one really good call which perhaps takes the sting out of his recent comments on bloomberg wealth with david. Rubenstein about crypto. The setup to that combo is one. Many bitcoin is in particular will resonate with basically he says that an expanded money supply is going to drive inflation. His bet however big time is gold. He's backed it for years. And this apparently is finally. It's moment crypto. On the other hand he says will eventually prove to be worthless. I wouldn't recommend anyone. Invest in crypto currencies. Santiago santos said on twitter. It's hard to know. How much is luck versus skill and investing unless you can win and lose on purpose to this day. I doubt my ability. Here's paulson who got a tip from a deutsche bank trader too short housing poor track record since won't be as lucky. This time with crypto masari's ryan sell. Kiss was a bit snark here. John paulson must be bitter. That about thirty crypto investors and entrepreneurs have now leapfrogged him in net worth betting on gold versus digital gold financial internet and the user owned economy at this point is record shadowing boomer energy. What a savage and true phrase record shattering boomer energy
Judge Rules Florida School Districts May Impose Mask Mandates
"For Florida Governor Rhonda Santa's A judge rules that the states school districts may impose mask mandates. Leon County Circuit Judge John Cooper agrees with a group of parents who claim in a lawsuit that the Santos's ban is unconstitutional and cannot be enforced. The governor's order gay parents the sole right to decide if their child wears a mask at school, at least 10, Florida school boards had already voted to defy the Santas. And imposed mass requirements with no parental opt out. D C is
"santos" Discussed on The Horse Racing Radio Network Podcast
"Jose jose san jose san turning the creek this runaway. This is in the room with sean clancy. I'm sean clancy. And i'm in the room with hall of fame. Jackie jose santos. We're here at saratoga. Taking back to the first time you came to saratoga. Well thank you. I came move again in nineteen eighty five. We remember was right and of course the first time nazarova year was right. Now for Nick zito there was supposed to be at my have race in the grass and rain that day. Like you you should have rain. Nobody today and The murderous to to the main track. And luckily i went to the and win the race and after that i fell in love right guy front saratoga easy game right. Just come to saratoga. Put him on the lead and win. yeah look at the time and then when the reality hits You know it's it's not easy. It's not easy. The competition of year is real real tough because The best courses come in over a year. The the best jackie they are they are over here in detroit in it as well. You know so. It's real tough competition. I guess for since. I'm being he had a nineteen eighty five to now always been tough. What was it like back when you're angel cordero. We had him on the show last week and he was champion. Jackie here going for those titles. You're the first one to to kind of dethrone the champ. What was that like for you. Well there was a lot of flat and you know. I have a real day in a tie which france and our area And it was that because the we have a real good colony. Jackie dan. i can mention and Georgiev of alaska casino. Glad he may rishon mccleary ravi davies. I can say out of the guy. There was in the jacket will maybe eighteen. Then right now is the call of fame and it was fine. You know when Annual and i was fighting for the title and He went went race. I went to raise his vice versa and it was a lot of speculation for the public. You know there was not betting. Of course there was better than that training. I mean. sorry a jockey. Dan Either debate thing jalen santa's As sacked us in people was making money and then it was bit excited because the it was a lot of expectation day who is going to win the title locally in and the anna i win by four rates up and it was a friendly competition with angel. Or what was it like. You guys obviously arch bribes. But what was that like. A actually was not a friendly competition because angel ever did anything real friendly and yuli he you know how he was an key hito like to lose and he wind the title for eleven tiny. He went to of course he went to win them again He was grossing in front of me and he. He played with my in the jackets run. He always come out. You know with sun Rooster went day. He come out to the jackie rule like doing some kind of bull. Do it was funny. And then and the end say look. I have a ponytail. If you be mimicking cut my ponytail and say what am i going to give you in return for you me say now. You don't have to give him that. Say i just just don't want you to me and say well it's too bad because have a good business then and say i'm going to be said you're not going to be fighting back and forth and and we came in the middle of the metoo. We have islam kin. And i think in fourteen victim rates that we we weren't we weren't only one race so then we took off again and we was probably and you win three or four rights than the day. So that i you know so it was finding the end and your when ed you know. He's he the last day. I went to rice. He no he got beat. Think he came to. Jackie run on the last day and then the last race with a c. seven. Let me cut his his ponytail dow though. Is i think that that was like a trophy to me to be ability to cat thing. You could there ponytail. It was a lot of fun. Where's the ponytail. You got it on a mantle somewhere different scenario apps and i had the pictures you know when you look back in and it was a lot of fun come from chile was was your goal to get to the top. I mean how. How quickly did you think. Well i can. I can make it to the top in america. Well when i came i i came to aaliyah You know a lot of the good trainer schools so used to go to. It was stopped in the beginning of it goes the language barrier and but There was a lot of spanish people as well over there so it was a little difficult. Took me by five months to win my first race and And then when they start winning Na months is start breaking record broken you could their record in and after impart this. I went in fifty eight six to one races. So i was winning left and right so And when eighty five came. I went to ride a horse in akwa duke and my alien frank outta with their doubts. When i'm meeting he he asked me if and i went to come to new york. I opened my eyes. And say i need to go do some finish on the stop and go part. Ibm in two weeks. Since then be here in new york and it was fine because a i start writing for richard neutra senior From our eighteen and a lot of the good trainer that winning races right away and it was fun because the annual george bellas k. There was always Together there the there was compadres the ball to them. You know so When i start winning races that they have in one of the to the in front and the other one being behind watching me and they have in the like As signals if in are coming from inside they was gone. If you're not coming from outside there was gone cockeyed. So they used to look for me. You know so one they. There was the to in front of me. And i came right neck today and then i push in. Today's i stop that catch. Yeah so you know it was..
President Biden, Florida And White House discussed on AP News Radio
"Florida's governor is sharply criticizing president Biden's approach the corona virus after the president called out state leaders who do not back mask made dates and other measures here at the White House this week the president urged Iran to set this and all other governors to help fight the pandemic but you're going to help at least get out of the way Santos's response if you are trying to lock people down I am standing in your way accusing the president of trying to strip the parental rights by forcing kids to wear masks in schools the Santa says ordered school districts not to mandate masks
As Florida COVID Cases Surge, DeSantis Takes the Spotlight
"The left is ecstatic. It seems that florida is struggling now with a new hospitalizations a lot. More cova cases They say there's fantasies os's stumble. I saw a great tweet last night. From somebody who pointed out responding to the news that the santa monica california icy. You is overwhelmed right now. And somebody tweeted that doggone rhonda santa's thanks governor to santos because he must have done that right. It must be ron to santa's fault that they're struggling in california in kentucky in ohio. Lot of states lot of communities hospitalizations are increasing. No way around that
Why 'How to Be Happier' With Professor Laurie Santos Is the Most Popular Course at Yale
"Guest is yale professor of psychology. Laurie santos. Laurie taught psychology. And the good life. I in spring two thousand eighteen in response to concerning levels student depression anxiety and stress on campus. It became the most popular class in. Yale's history next core. Sarah offered the course online calling at the science of wellbeing and to date over. Four hundred thousand people have taken the course laurie. Santa's has definitely hit a nerve. The good news is that we have a lot more control over our happiness levels than we might think. Laurie talks about the fact that happiness is like a leaky tire and happy. People know how to fill up the tire when it starts to deflate. It's not fixed. She says and there are many simple behaviors and practices. We can do to impact it. She talks about how we can put the science to work in our lives. Now here's laurie. Laurie santos it is so great to have you on untangled today. I'm so excited about this topic. Thanks for having me. Let's start with this question of and know you get asked this all the time. But why is this course. The most popular course at yale like what's happening in our world that this kind of course becomes the most popular course. Yeah i mean. I think it's just that students are voting with their feet. You know i mean what we see on college. Campuses cruzi outfit not specific yell. Lots of college campuses is that students are facing this mental health crisis over forty percent of college students naturally report being to punch in most of the time over sixty percents that you're over one really and over twelve percent stated they have seriously considered suicide in the last year right with more than ten percent right so i'd a want an answer to what they should be doing. Better in sam iodate society everything. Which hot isn't giving them great ideas about what they can do. Better as. I think they saw this. This idea of scientific which leads to they can't really went for it or numbers that we totally didn't expect was surreal on campus. To have over a thousand students. Shopping the class in trying to figure out where eventually we have to teach the course in concert hall so it was a little overwhelming. But i think they really want solutions. They don't like is culture films overwhelmed.
Condo Collapse Death Toll Rises to 78
"And rescuers in Surfside, Florida are watching the number of people unaccounted for falling and the death toll rising. Now. 78 people confirmed dead after 14 more bodies were pulled from the rubble. The Champlain Tower South Building. Miami Dade Mayor Daniel Levine Cava says authorities have yet to locate 62 people who've been unaccounted for. Since part of the condo building collapse more than two weeks ago. This recovery is moving forward. With great urgency as we work 24 hours a day on the pile to recover victims and bring closure to all of the families still waiting. This week. Florida Governor Rhonda Santos said the 40 year old building had problems from the start. Authorities have launched a grand jury investigation into the collapse.
Giants’ Gregory Santos Suspended 80 Games for Performance-Enhancing Drug Use
"San Francisco Giants pitcher Gregory Santo suspended for 80 games without pay under Major League baseball's drug program following a positive test for stanozolol. Mosul All is a synthetic steroid derived from testosterone that has anabolic and androgenic properties. 21 year old Santos will lose about half of his salary. It pays for plays for both the Giants and the Triple A river Cats.
The Fight For Abortion Rights In The Dominican Republic
"The dominican republic has one of the harshest anti-abortion laws in the americas. Abortion isn't allowed. Under any circumstances only five other countries in the continent have such harsh restrictions on ending a pregnancy legally. That's haiti on dudas. Nicaragua jamaica and el salvador today. I'm joined by amanda. She's a dominican journalist and our former digital media at her here at let the usa. She's gonna tell us more about what's happening in her home country where she's based right now and what's going on in the fight for women's reproductive rights on the island. Hey amanda welcome to let him. Usa alumnia thank you for having me today. So amanda you've been following the protests that have been happening in the dominican republic since march and that's when women's rights activist set up an encampment in the capital in santo. Domingo more recently there was a national march where a lot of people in the protests. Were chanting something pretty particular. They were saying less. Today's cows silas which can basically be translated into the three grounds or the three circumstances. So that's a less three scou- sally's i mean it's like it's it doesn't roll right off of your tongue. I'm trying to think of ever used the word. Gauss silas anywhere in my life in spanish. And i'm like. I don't think i've ever used that word. So kisses to the last three days. Cow sally's yes. So the silence. Which was a word that i've personally gotten very used to saying because i've been in the middle of these protests They're basically three circumstances under which women would be allowed to have an abortion and these are considered sort of the basic circumstances right. So it's when there has been a case of rape or incest when the fetus non non-viable and when the health of the woman is at risk
Governor Ron DeSantis Conserves Conservatism
"I like that. I like your style. I like your style. Jim. We gotta book at at Les lightsaber in the front and back. Of Iran Kenobi. Run the Skywalker. Round to detail. Now there's a little debate I had with the not really a debate, but I was charged with the W F T. L Radio Great radio host this morning on the morning show when a live interview There's a debate would rob about Rhonda Sanderson, Florida Like what if we lose Ron and he runs for president? I don't know. Listen, I don't know. I like obviously, President Trump would probably clear the field in 2024. But they said, Well, do we lose him? And I said, Listen, I wouldn't look at it that way. I mean, think about it is wrong to Santa's more valuable to the citizens of Florida Specifically, if Rhonda Santos is the Florida governor or the president, United States I don't know. I honestly can't tell you that and I can tell you this. The bench in Florida a strong We got an up and coming representative on the West Coast Whole Collier County area over there. Byron Donald's You may have seen my Fox news whose spectacular But as long as Rhonda Santa's keeps conserving conservatism and doing things that conserve conservatism He will highlight him and others on this show with Rhonda Santas. Strikes again.
Ron Desantis On Crazy People
"So he was wrong to Santos at a press conference, pointing out the fact that the media for years of excuse me months, not years, precision matters said all that, Rhonda said this a conservative in Florida. What a terrible job handed the handle in the Corona virus. They call them Death. Santa's Florida What a mess Now that Florida's emerged from the Corona virus is one of the best performers not the worst, like Andrew Cuomo when the Liberals in New Jersey I understand this has had kind of enough of that crap. So he was him an oppressor the other day when they ask him about who the real crazy people are. Check this out. Normally, it's not all of our different normally open then. So so this is one of the first ones. I think they sent, like one of the corporate media outlets sent some reporter down. They were trying to make fun of Baker. Like all these yokels or having kids going school. How? How crazy are these people, right? Crazy people are the ones that are vaccinated. Still wearing six mass in New York City, I mean, to be honest with you.
Dr. Laurie Santos on Teaching the Most Popular Course Ever at Yale University
"I am dying to know. Where did your journey to study. Happiness and well-being begin. What is the story behind this story. Yeah yeah so i mean. I've been a an academic psychologist forever. Basically i've studied psychology for a really long time but my interest in the science of happiness started when i took on a new role at yale. I became a ahead of college on campus so yells. One of these funny weirdo. School is like hogwarts and harry potter where there's colleges within a college. So i'm i'm head of silliman college which means i live in the dorm with students right. I eat with them in the dining hall on. Hang out with them in the student. Coffee shop in in this new role. I really didn't like what i was seeing. I was seeing the college student mental health crisis up close and personal with like so many of my students reporting that they were. Just you know depressed. Feeling anxious overwhelmed students who are experiencing suicidality. It just wasn't what i thought. College life should be like right and so the journey. The science of happiness was really. I wanted to do something to help my students. I really wanted to give them strategies that were evidence base that they could use to feel better than because. I'm a nerdy professor. The best way to do that. Was you know to to teach in new class on it. So i developed this whole new class called psychology in the good life. It was like a new class. You know at this university. And so i thought like thirty or forty students would show up in so you can imagine my surprise when it became like the biggest class ever in yale's history over thousand students according to the entire campus showed up in. Wow oh yeah. I was a little surreal. But it you know. It really taught me that you know. Students are voting with their feet. They don't like the sensor feeling stressed and anxious and they wanted some strategies to do better.
DeSantis Vows to Close Piney Point for Good After Breach
"O De Santis wants to shut down the piney point Wastewater site, no matter the cost. Speaking at the side and Manatee County, where a leak forced evacuations, the governor says he's moving money around the state Department of Environmental Protection. We want this to be the last chapter of the piney Point story. The $15 million will go toward a mitigation plan for when the state takes over the side to treat water to remove nutrients and monitor discharges to Santos is directed DP to take all legal steps to hold the property owner
Man charged with hate crime for allegedly beating transgender woman with skateboard in Costa Mesa, Los Angeles
"Costa Mesa Man is facing charges of attacking a transgender woman with this skateboard, prosecutors say 23 year old Johnny Santos Marino hurled a homophobic slur the victim Thursday before he repeatedly hit her with the skateboard. Passing motorist reportedly witnessed the attack and called Costa Mesa police. Marino is also accused of threatening the driver who notified officers. He was arrested on felony counts of assault with a deadly weapon, threatening a witness in a hate crime enhancement. Reynaud faces up to eight years in prison. If convicted on all counts. He's due to appear in the folded in courtroom on March 26th
Sonos announces it's new Roam speaker
"Let sarah santos events ish. They announced a portable bluetooth speaker. Called the rome hundred sixty dollars. It's pretty cool. Yeah it's a uey boom with sonos logo. Very chris wallace because he likes scooped. The whole thing so like the element of surprise is like compared to the boom. It's got sun tech in it. You can also just like seamlessly move audio if your bluetooth thing it to that speaker you can move it to the rest of your center speakers which is cool. Yeah it seems like is about to dramatically expand this product line. Yeah you know it's funny. This is the first really portable sonos product like they had the move was at twenty thousand or something like that. But that was portable from like your kitchen to your porch. Nobody really is bringing that thing around. 'cause it weighs eleven pounds but this is boom sized thing so we're very familiar with that foreign factor. You throw it in a bag take into the park. You take it to the beach. Take it to a friend's house for whenever we can do that again. And like it's bluetooth speaker and then when you're home it's a wifi speaker in integrates with your wifi so system which is really bad so i think it's pretty cool. I think a lot of sonos customers have been wanting this for a long time. I don't know how many people outside of the sonos world will be interested in it but yeah that's a big question is is this going to be an entree into the living dishonest life or not. I love that. They may basically through every feature that i would ask for right. I'm like oh. What do i want to have bluetooth speaker with everything. Okay i google assistant. I want lexa. I want wi fi to connect to sonos. I want bluetooth. I want wireless charging office standard. She pat i wanted to charge a usb. And i don't want to be too big and i wanted to. You know have good sound like they just checked down the list. Like if i had to complain about the spec i would say that the the handoff feature uses like super super high frequency tones that nobody can hear instead of just using an ultra wide band. Or something like okay. Who cares that's really what's tv but a different kind of frequency. Anyway i mean really for for yeah. That's true so i like this thing. Is it worth seventy like. It will be for me. I think because i will. I have it integrated into my sonos system. I will say this in a question that only virtual would ask. We confirm that you cannot use surrounds versa. That's garbage. i take it all back. The only people who asked people care. But i personally loved the idea of putting my surrounds away. Bring you a so funny battery operated through. I don't think anybody else cares about that. It's true they've packed every feature into it. It's very competitive. I think that the idea that like most most days you don't get any value your bluetooth speaker right like it's just like at home. He put it in a closet. You take it out when you want to travel or like your house because it's part of senators. You might get a lot of value out of it. Might like keep it in your bedroom and use it there most days and then we want to leave up and go especially if you buy the charging dock but like patrick spencer. Good friend of our show give in to the yank protocol. He's like we're expanding. We're going to put this thing in stores. You might not expect like particularly outdoor stores looking towards that camping stores. They're moving to expand the product line out of its normal
Florida's vaccine age requirement will lower to 60+ beginning next week
"Another age group will qualify for the covert 19 vaccine in Florida beginning next Monday to Toronto. Santos announcing he's opening the Shots to Floridians ages. 60 to 64 anticipate hitting a three million senior mark sometime this week. Whether it'll be reported this week or not. We think the actual three million jab of a senior will happen this week, and we're one of the top states you look at. I think we have. By far the highest percentage of all our vaccines have been given to senior. The state has been offering the shots. Two people 65 older since they became available in December. Along with first responders. Last week, Florida began offering the shots to law enforcement, firefighters, 50 and older. As well as all teachers and school
Interim Houston ISD Supt. announces she’s leaving
"Here's what we're working on for. All things considered we're getting reaction this afternoon after. H isd's interim superintendent announces. She's leaving daniel. Santos is with the houston federation of teachers. Even though it was. I was somewhat expecting it. I'm kind of sorry to see her leave. Because at least with the houston federation of teachers. She did collaborate with us on issues. That were important. Most recent with health and safety issues grenade olathe will now become the new superintendent of schools in springfield missouri. She'll officially take the job. this summer. Her departure comes a few months after h board decided not to make our the permanent superintendent and instead launched a national search.
"santos" Discussed on 103.5 KISS FM
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"santos" Discussed on 10% Happier with Dan Harris
"All right. Let's get to today's episode. Twenty twenty as we all know sucked extremely hard already but we may now be entering into even more difficult months ahead as winter sets in and the case loads appear to be rising so we asked professor. Laurie santos to come on the show. She is overflowing with science based strategies for navigating this difficult time this is the second episode and our two part series that we are semi facetiously calling. Winter is coming. If you missed last week's episode zindel segal a pioneer in mindful treatment for depression and anxiety. Go back and check that. One out laurie. Meanwhile as a tenured professor at yale where she teaches a blockbuster course unhappiness. she's also now. The host of a really popular podcast. A really great podcast called the happiness lab and in this conversation we talk about how to handle the holidays in a pandemic how to have hard conversations with your family combating pandemic fatigue in your own mind. The need to double down on self care these days. Why the things we think will make us happy. Probably won't and the cultivation of jomo the opposite of fomo and time effluence. Here we go. Laurie santos laurie santos. Thanks for coming on. thanks for having me. It's a pleasure. So let me just start with your course which there been a bunch of articles about your course in the new york times in new york magazine and so i've been following your work for a long time. But can you just describe how you became interested in teaching this students. And why you think it took off in such an incredible way. Yeah so it. All started when i took on a new role so i've been teaching for over a decade. Now which makes me feel very old but in just the last couple of years. I took on this new position. I became a head of college on campus. And so y'all's one of these weird places like hogwarts where they're like colleges within a college like connect griffin doris leather in sort of thing <hes>. And so i'm head of silliman college no relation to slither and even though people get that confused but what that means that. I live with students on campus. Like my house is literally in the middle of their quad. I e with them in the dining hall. I kind of hang out with them in the courtyard as i was seeing student. Life up. Close and personal and honestly. I didn't like what i was seeing. I was kinda shocked at the level of mental health. Dysfunction that my students were dealing with it was something. I was kind of blind to while i was like up at the front of the classroom. Which sort of embarrassing. Now in retrospect. But i kind of just didn't see it but you know so many students reporting. They're depressed and anxious and this caused me to like look. Is there something weird about yale or something. We're doing wrong but conceptually to something. We're seeing nationally like right now. The national statistics are really scary over forty percent of college students today. Report being too depressed to function. I shouldn't say today. this is more two thousand. Nineteen sorta of pre kovic time right so in two thousand nineteen over forty percent of college. Students were too depressed to function over sixty percent report. They felt overwhelmingly anxious most days and more than one in ten said. They'd seriously considered suicide in the last year. And so these are national statistics but this bore out what. I was seeing on campus. It just felt like you know honestly. We weren't meeting our educational mission at yale right. We're bringing these students here but you know for students in my lecture and forty percent of the kids out there. Too depressed function most days like they're not learning computer science or chaucer trying to teach them at yale right there just kinda missing it and so i thought it was sort of part of my educational mission to sort of fix this and as a psychologist i thought you know. There's lots of work on the kinds of practices. You can engage with to improve your mental health. It doesn't have to be this way. And so i thought i know i'll develop this whole new class about living a good life and all these evidence based practices students could use. I no idea. I thought it was going to be thirty or so students. Because that's what's typical for a new class. And i remember yale. Students don't register ahead of time so it's like once the classes offered you kind of watch. This little graph of how many students are interested in your course and the i noticed something weird was happening. Was that the graph in most classes went from zero to one hundred students but mine had an order of magnitude difference. It went from zero to one thousand students and then it went over. That and i was like this is strange and that was because over. A quarter of the students at yale wanted to take the class the first time it was offered over a thousand students and so that created lots of logistical hurdles. Like finding a concert hall. That was big enough to fit everyone. You know joked about putting it in the football stadium but that would be a little cold. And yeah i mean when it showed me. Was that students you know. They don't like this culture of feeling stressed anxious. They're really like searching for solutions. And i was sort of proud of them because they were really looking for evidence based solutions. Like they didn't want platitudes or just kind of self help but they wanted to know what did the science say about how you could live healthier.
"santos" Discussed on Ask Me Another
"And as roma's joining us right. Now we have jordan. Clever and jedi hegel o. How are you guys doing doing. Great as well as you can be right now. Who are who. Who are you quarantining with jenny. I'm quarantining with my partner. Liz and my son who is six. My list has a very grown up lady job so she goes into one room all day and does zoom calls where she says things like she says. Business phrases like <hes>. Well we'll have to see if the juice is worth the squeeze. And that's not what i'm solving for. And wow what was happening. She i mean she says things that i've just never a side of her. I've never seen before having that thing. We were like who. Who are you is that. It's like really impressive though. Because it's like very like she's a very confident and she uses business lady terms and she uses them so like casually. Yes so it's kind of neat to see your partner do what they do because you hear about it. But it's kind of neat to watch your partner. Excel at what they do. Yeah jordan who are you. Who are you living with right now. I am with my wife right now. I like the journey is like it's nice to see your partner. Dana day out and see what they excel at and that is not the experience. My wife and i are having we are. We are watching each other disintegrated happening. It feels like talked to friends of mine. Who have been married like last week was the week like a lot of initial explosions. Took place of like yelling at people for like. You're closing the door too loudly. My wife thinks my voice is just too loud and not like an incident of being loud once but just generally j just too loud and we had. I don't think you fully mean that. But i think you also do because you've been in a room with me for the last month and a half but we're better cooking. I think that's the one thing we now know how to cook. You guys want to play a game. Yes i'm very excited about this game. Okay so first of all you are going to be competing in this game. So we're gonna go back and forth <hes>. This is audio quiz. About famous movie quotes. We're gonna play the dialogue. That comes right before a very famous movie quote and you just have to jump in <hes>. With the quote okay right okay. And if you don't know it just makes something up and it's possible you will still get credit all right jenny. This one's for you okay. I don't know if that's fair. I don't know is fair. I feel before we started this game. I felt like. I'd seen some movies but maybe ever seen one. No you've definitely seen this but maybe it was a long time ago. That's a classic chicago blues lick like they really laid out. I'm walking to walk you down a path here a little bit. Danny glover okay. Is this a lethal weapon situation. Oh yes this is like this characters. Well known line that he he says right after meeting milk. The yes pre problematic okay. So this is the thing he's gonna say to mel gibson. Yes gladys okay okay. Let's hear you got to get this. come on. are you the guy from braveheart. That is i mean pretty much pretty much. That
"santos" Discussed on WBZ NewsRadio 1030
"Officers Santos was a mutual friend who offered to drive her home from a birthday party at the venue club she got in that car but then hopped out and said she was going to call a ride share the alleged victim says Santos grabbed her and pushed her back against a brick wall before she called for help go to the gold says a not guilty plea was Saturday on Santos his behalf the suspect in a shooting at an Arkansas Walmart is dead this happen in forest city it's west of the Tennessee border mayor said of Williams as two police officers were injured we did have a shooting of that that took place here and Walmart across live about ten twenty four AM this morning officers engaged to suspect the suspect is the seas there is no word right now the officer's condition witnesses say they heard at least eight shots Attorney General William Barr says he is outraged after two police officers were shot over the weekend in New York City I have the full support of this administration and this department of cast yes police say one person is responsible one officer was shot in a patrol van Saturday structure that chain in the back twelve hours later police say that same person sprayed a precinct headquarters with gunfire hitting a lieutenant in the arm he then put the gun on the floor and surrendered the injured officers are now out of the hospital two more New York City firefighters die from nine eleven related sicknesses correspondent Scott Pringle has the update officials are saying sixty three year old Richard Jones in the seventy four year old Paul DO junior spent time in the toxic rubble at ground zero after the nine eleven attacks and both passed away from nine eleven related illnesses on Friday they had spent decades with the FDNY retiring in two thousand and two now more than two hundred firefighters have died from nine eleven related illnesses reports say that number could one day it's close three hundred and forty who says complaining on social media doesn't do anything rash at the TD garden decide to make some changes after they heard some colorful input from some fans of the Bruins and Celtics Newbold seats installed last year at Boston garden or soon to be history after one season on causeway street and poor reviews from keyboard cowboys and cowgirls CMOS Richmond concentrate on like social media you know people like to complain what can I say so what's the buzz legroom no place to put concessions without kicking over that I suppose of one person wanted to get up it's it's really difficult everyone in the room has to kind of get out like an airplane seat a hassle for sure but where pray tell is it written that fans need to be comfortable as they watch a game or show you go certainly grants and ephemera Parkinson and wouldn't see that does not have leg room at all I can imagine it's much worse than that he says the new seeds are just fine however certainly heard the complaints when it seems like the garden listened at north station Chris fama WBZ Boston's news radio update now on the varsity blues scandal the fake resume that Lori Loughlin's daughter submitted to the university of southern California can now be seen by anyone TMZ obtained the document from federal prosecutors it says that a livia generally won several gold silver and bronze medals in high school for rolling turns out she's never competed in that sport for eight it is time to get a check on Wall Street and through all day as a Bloomberg closing bell is wrong and we have ourselves a winner indeed anticipation ahead of big earnings reports and hope for the global economy as several big companies get back to work in China following coronavirus closings lend a hand to Wall Street today the Dow ends up one hundred seventy four points nasdaq of one hundred eight that's a new record high as to be five hundred up twenty four also to a record high Sony is joining a growing list of tech firms canceling plans to travel to the mobile World Congress a big tech show in Barcelona because of coronavirus concern Amazon LG Erickson nvidia also not going with the show or one hundred thousand people including as many as six thousand from China are expected Andro day Bloomberg.
"santos" Discussed on Hustleshare
"And we're back on record. Paul Santos Meeker only God that was intense and already know that this is going to be one one of our best episodes traction so far because whole startup community Mel for real the whole startup community should hear about this because because this is the big boys game and it doesn't a lot of US talk about ourselves in the same level but in order for you to be able learn you need to punch awake last higher in and Cedar Perspective Dose of People. Who've come before you in that's why we? This is a special episode import we were highlighting the startups here and hopefully better investments and whatnot. But let's let's continue continue. Okay so Paul. What was it like now? Doing your wasn't even business. Was it a VERTEX or India. I India in the okay so you were an agency yeah okay. So typically agencies are designed shops to grow up to become big advertising agency For some reason I started to get interested in where where marketing and technology within thirsting. And it didn't look like an AD agency so it didn't look like in the end this. This was Asian financial crisis. Laugh okay so good quite good Would have been very difficult already. So so we we started basic design going up right so some some life lessons there right so the first time. I became an entrepreneur on. Just something like cashflow. Yeah you something. You take for granted because you'll have to sink about right you you get your salary not every month once you approve. Your budget gets approved. You just I mean you don't really see the bank accounts you don't. I'm sorry about that. You just business right and in the real world obviously doesn't work payroll is the biggest bitch. Yeah so one of those things would be a my colleague. Dennis with with the These how much we have in the bank account and how much we need to make payroll and said okay so I have to go out and hustle find somebody itself do exactly and fortunately we never missed barrel. We we were somehow and so so as we were doing it this whole question of so. What did we d whether we be when we grow up with something I was always thinking about okay and again? The initial assumption is maybe we become sort of agency. Yeah I'd agency hybrid and then I started to see you decide of technology. How can use it and the Internet Internet was was just starting so it wasn't really right away but And so that sort of the direction we headed in we brought in so so so the first thing is you know just practical things around the business again like you said Gosh lows and audits and the second is the real real world is very different from being Zinedine Z.. You're forced do your bosses. They called them by the first name. And I remember the first time I I did it even as a summer intern. It was difficult for me to call very senior people by their first name. Say Sir yes sir or Mr this this right yes but they forced you to do that because they wanted you. I mean I guess it's a culture thing thing right again to help promote this whole meritocracy of ideas through right not have a hierarchy. Yes it's there but they do things like this to to enable it correct but in the real world people like being called Sir. Yeah and you know. I guess the the training didn't help again because your various spectrum you could say maybe could come across this overconfident. Oh Wow now because you're incident and Andy. I thought it was probably the best place to learn this stuff and if I had clients in my mind I know at least as much as you about marketing right Because I think the brand is handled still deceive guard was was credible enough and so let's say in always go down so well got it and and so I realized about myself that maybe maybe I shouldn't be playing this role and so- classmate of mine was associate managing director. WBZ and we got the talking in you know she. She came on and she became the Managing Director Director Together. And so you had a buffer. Now I I myself up sort of the board chairman call. It and I would just come in when needed grounded G or certain bitches but managing the clients and isn't that was not same. Exactly my skill sets. That's kind of what they do now in Chat Bot beach before hours in the frontline the war but I realized I'll be more effective if someone was there as a new face and then someone I'll just like be thanos come in and like up here. You're you know you're you're there to support well. It's also their skills. Get these very good clients trust servicing and this and that allowed got part. That's the one of the most important thing you know because if if so it's it's different it's not just a one time thing we're closed down. Oh this is a relationship bourcher and so the the next thing I learned around this is around business models. So it's it's it's fun because you're creating but in some sense it's also thankless job because it never stops correct because you know it's competition so when you're working in the client to develop their marketing. They have competitors will will have their own lives right and so you have to keep getting better and better and there are certain aspects of the business model because it's a time based business horse right so you know there would be elements like peaks and valleys. There would be adamant like you know every marketing at the early sexually co-created with the client. If it's good the client looks good. If it's bad agency looks sort of like a coach. The team plays good. The layers look good. If the team please bad it's gorgeous mall but then you think about the Business Mondo then in and if you have a good client relationship and they move And then somebody new has a good land rash relationship with another agency your jobs in trouble too so it was like this is tiring and so either we we find a way to scale right or resell. It was sort of the conclusion like it. And what did YOU DO I. I'm looking at your way maker dot the profile and the one thing that I'm very curious to ask is you've sold you've founded six companies you sold three of them peop- the percent shooting a field goal but how this is like Philippine passes. Let's be real like okay. I understand but I I do say I I say that just to make sure that you know we're not trying to say that we're we're we're megastars or anything like that but again the experience of going through it. The difference is very helpful for sort of helps me. I guess make decisions of course so with India. You've got the Senate. How do you decide died at all right? I'm pretty sure you're twenties and this happened. Yeah how's that process. Because I went through this as a thirty year old chat. Bot Beach came from a loss Sold it twelve months after I put it. Oh yeah so. I started twenty-five an entrepreneur. The twenty six now. I was early thirties. Already when I saw me right No bankers then so bootstrap. Wow now we we. We had some investors. I know investment bankers to like how many acquisitions were done as the United States. Yeah you're you're just basically learning as you do correct No so so studied the agency models studying and got to talk to a few God. There's there's a formula remember typically five times Ebitda plus net asset value. Wow are there I remember. We'll put that initial five. I Times Ebitda less net asset value. Right so we will put in the show notes but it doesn't matter in the tech world because you have no and and most of them are not even profitable you probably are asset light correct so anyway so that was the formula. I remember at that time right. And so you argue around that and and they'll typically fifty one percent and then over time you you already and I guess from among the groups we met we were able to strike a deal with with then sued the Vegas Network in Japan yet but yeah yeah and let's just say we. I think.
"santos" Discussed on That's What She Said with Sarah Spain
"Available for free on the online course site core surro- and over four hundred and ten thousand people have been ruled already. I mean this thing his taking the world by storm. It's causing go on television shows and you're starting your own podcast which we're GONNA get to and it's it's not that surprising when you think about it if if you teach a class psychology and the good life or the science of wellbeing were you know basically how to be happy. People are going to be drawn to that but I still imagine that. There's a part of view. The couldn't have possibly envisioned that it would blow up like this. No it's still completely surreal. Honestly I mean from just on campus. It felt really surreal. All right you know I designed the class thinking you know probably like fifty students would take it and that would feel like a lot of students on campus when over a thousand students enrolled and I had to teach that class laugh in a concert hall that so you know completely real and Humboldt and I was like wow this is totally crazy but more crazy was when I started getting a lot of outside type press for the class a couple of weeks into the class. There was a New York Times article about the class in in the kind of like exactly what you said which is like you know no one ahead. Y'All students like many college students face this mental health crisis but I think the article is more about you know. I'm one in you. Yell students can have mental health crisis but then they're also kind of really lucky. You know they're young. They're like nineteen like they got into Yale. Most of them are pretty harrowing. You like what about the rest of us like. If eighty two class on happiness you know what what about the poor you know fifty something you know all the rest of us and so how is kind of what launched the next wave of kind of when it became really surreal which is that we had the national national news media and international articles about this class it kind of became the thing that lots of folks were fascinated by like why all these young yell kids needed to class on happiest. Yes kind of figure out how to live a good life and the fascinating thing is of course how you can you can kind of say the same about other parts of life. I had a former lawyer turned yoga studio owner who does presentations for law firms and other big companies on mental health and gratitude and presence in whatever and he felt the same way about his fellow lawyers. Why is there this dearth of of happy successful lawyers. There's some of the most well to do professionals and yet there was this suicide crisis amongst them and you can apply that to so many places right and so much of that of course which you talk about in your class is that we don't still still really understand what makes us happy. We have a lot of misconceptions about what will bring us happiness how to find it and how to keep it and and also your dilemma which is of course you can tell people how to get there and they still won't do the things that will make them happier. you have a new podcast called the happiness lab so I'm not going to give away the entirety of your course or all those things but I do want to get into the things that will maybe push some of those people who are reticent to get involved into better understanding. You know what you're teaching in this class and and how it's not just okay well if you smile more your brain will make you like really small for real right like it's it's. It's pretty in depth in terms of I'm having to rewire ourselves. Yes yeah I think that's right. I mean I think you know the sometimes people see here that there is a class on the size of happiness and they think it's going to be like all who or like like you know positively and like your smile all the time I get letters from people who take the class sometimes and they're you know they come around with the weather usually starts with you know I started this thinking that was gonna be like hippy dippy crap and I you know it's California stuff and in practice like what the science well-being is about is it's like really a rich empirical. TIRICO science and the way it works is to say okay. Let's there's some very at some people out. There are just happier more satisfied with their life than other people. What are they doing right you know what are they doing right. And what can we copy. If you're not feeling satisfied. What can you do to kind of feel a little bit more satisfied and when you look at the science but they can say you get which is kind of striking is that we don't have a great gauge on what we can do to be happy. You know we were just talking about the work with the monkeys jesting that we're really good at getting out of her own head. We can make all these predictions about what life will be like. You know if we do take certain kinds of actions. You know the road not taken like we can make lots of predictions about what are what is going to be like depending on how things go the problem is that a lot of those predictions are off like we have these motivations to seek out certain things and we often. I think that those things will make us happy but in practice they don't work in the way we think and so that's why I think the science is so important. I've Kinda gotten. You know almost evangelical about trying trying to get the science out there to as many audiences as possible from the online class to the podcast. It's the we need some help here. You know our our central motivations the the things that we have that it's telling us how to make decisions. They're not leading us in the right direction. We're kinda going wrong and science can really help us decide like OK. Actually those things don't work in the way you think and you might need to be seeking out other stuff that you didn't realize from your own kind of decision material brain's not telling you the right thing to do and that's why so many of the feeling. We're working really hard. You know we're putting time into our own well-being but it's not the only well we feel like something still missing yeah. It's fascinating that you use the word hippy dippy because I always say that what I'm talking about this kind of stuff because that used to be what it seemed like to me as someone who was a very grazed by lawyers. Everything must be proven questioned everything type. A overachiever like Oh that sounds very flower child Donald but as soon as I learned about the concept of Neuro plasticity insurnace science behind it I completely changed my tune and now I'm like all in on it and now I want everyone around me to be all in all of them to learn all the things and so we're going to get to that part the frustration that you feel when you have people around you and you're like do this thing. I swear it will make it better and they still refuse up but I wanted to you know that actual science that you talk about because it does I think for a lot of people who are reticent to really jump in they need that like like push of like no this is proven and we can show you how and why let's start with the GI Joe Fouls. He can you kind of explain that and how that influences what you were saying about sometimes your brain. He doesn't even know what you need to do. Yeah I think the G. I. Joe Foss. He's one of my favorite cognitive bias us in some ways. It's scary cognitive bias I don't know if you're listening all my age or about that children of the eighties basically but if you remember Gi Joe it was just Kinda g army cartoon no-one Really Remembers. Gi Joe But but many many folks who've enjoyed the cartoon remember how ended which is at ended with this public service announcement or gi. Joe Explains like don't talk to strangers raising you cross the street you you know big things in the US but ended with the child thinking. Gi Joe Thank you Joe. Now I know and then Joe would say this for you and knowing is half the battle and then it would not do you know if you remember the but but this is what we think we think you know knowing is half the battle once. I know like what I should do. I'm just going to do it. You know I can know well how many reps I need to do on day and like that's good. I'll just get really buff like there. I can know how much sugar I should have in my dire much sleep. I should have and I can just do it right but the sad thing is like that's not the case. You can know exactly what you're supposed to do. The TAT doesn't immediately mean you translate it into what you're supposed to be. Actually doing you know like I know. It's really good for me to get up and do a half hour of cardio every morning but you know if I hit the snooze button every day just knowing that is not going to be enough. You have to actually do the stuff and so that's been the kind of this. Gi Joe Fallacy so that's the judge Ovallis you think that knowing is half the battle but it's Kinda not and so we really teach students to not fall prey to the GI Joe fallacies kind of one of the principles of the course and even the podcast which is I'm GonNa teach you all this stuff. That science says you know. It's not well. It's going to be real. Scientific results else you're. GonNa see graphs and all this stuff but then it's up to you to translate that into your own here because if you're just here the study like that sounds good you know brain plasticity. I'd love up to change my brain but you don't do anything like nothing's really GonNa Change and so much of it to stems from these very strongly held ideas about happiness happiness that turned to be misconceptions ideas that we've been taught or have for whatever reason ingrained in ourselves that this will make me happier if I do X. Y. Or if I achieve achieve or can you talk about how the studies and science actually tells us that some of our most widely held beliefs about what makes you happy are wrong. Yeah I mean it's really jarring and this is the spot where you know I keep this stuff and my students will fight me about it right because it's like our intuition strong you know so so one of the one of the best ones is is money right. You know if I could just get more money. I'd be happy or so many of those like plays a lottery in thank you know like the day. I went powerball. You know it's going to be awesome day right but does that really happen. Well you can look to people who have lots of money and ask if they're really happy and what you find is that you know it's it's you're really poor and I give you an infusion of some more or money. You know if you're earning like ten thousand dollars the US right now and I double your salary. That's GonNa feel good. It's GonNa increase your positive mood and it's going to decrease your stress levels but but if you're earning enough money that you kind of have a roof over your head and food on the table researchers kind of define this at around seventy five k. and the US right now. We're just you know pretty so you know decent middle class wage if you're earning that much and I all your salary triple it. You don't get any corresponding increase in your wellbeing which which is definitely not what we think you know. Some of your listeners might be earning around that level and they you know if I could quadruple my salary like things would be better but the data when you really look at people who make those different salaries suggest that that's just not the case you can also see this when you look at it kind of wellbeing levels of people who are lottery winners. You know you're kind of we're getting more anecdotal here here. But what you find is that don't folks just aren't happy. we were able to interview on my podcast. I interviewed this psychotherapist name Klay Cockerel he's the psychotherapist to the insanely rich rich so he has clients who earn more than fifty million dollars..
"santos" Discussed on That's What She Said with Sarah Spain
"My name is Laurie. Tinto's and my dilemma is how you get people people to do not really want to do like even know what we need to do to be happy. We don't want to do that. So how can we force people to behave better. I mean I feel like you're the expert thread on this right. You literally teach the class on this but seriously I can imagine you've got when you've got a third of the students at Yale in your classes probably going to be some that aren't listening or aren't buying lying in or you've got people in your work or personal life that don't care about all the research you've done all the ways that you can prove that our lives actually get better when we're meditating and connecting with people and exercising and being grateful and all that goodness so even though I know you're the expert. I know you're not immune to having people around you that you'd like to help and I feel the same way ever. Since I got into into learning more about neural plasticity in the ways we can actually change our brain and personality and moods. I've been wanting to share it people. Which is why I have people like you on the podcast to get as many people as as possible to sort of buy in on it and join me in this new super happy place that I founded understand all the science that backs it up so if they're not naturally predisposed to believe it they'll they'll by in and I bet you research would tell you the same thing as the author of the book better than before which I've been reading which is about sort of changing your habits and she writes that people respond better to watching someone else live great life to have an practice good habits than than being told about it why they should do it and that they respond better to you kind of talking about about how great it is and then letting them be versus nagging or demanding that they changed so it can be tough. I've got friends and family that I want to shake because they aren't doing the things that they could to make themselves happier more satisfied edified but I know that they respond better to saying join me at Yoga or check out this great book than to say tell them what they're doing wrong repeatedly and I think that's all we can do but I'm sure you already know that like. I said you teach the class on this girl. The Commission's spoken my guest this week is Laurie Santos professor of psychology at Yale University Director of Yells Comparative Cognition Laboratory and Canine Cognition Center and the head of Silliman College at Yale in January of two thousand eighteen started teaching a class called psychology and the good life and it's breaking attendance records at the university. She's won countless awards as a student and teacher and in two thousand eighteen she received a genius award from the Liberty Science Center in New Jersey. She's also also hosted the new podcast the happiness lab which launches today September Seventeenth we talk about her groundbreaking course about finding and maintaining happiness and how our brains trick us why the Gi Joe Fallacy leads us astray and how to rewire ourselves to lead happier lives plus her work with dogs and monkeys to better understand human brains and stuff like do dogs really feel guilt. Take are they more rational than humans and learn new things plus. Our dog breeds all that different or is it just their training and their experiences. I think you guys are GonNa love this. I really love talking to her. That's what she said. I am super pumped for this and yes I know I'm going to get all the comments that I say that every single podcast but this time I really mean it even more of the other ones because even just doing the research for this has been so fascinating and all of you who are regular listeners to the podcast are absolutely going immediately understand all the ways the the things that I always talk about are going to come to a head and sort of become one in this conversation with Santos before we get to all the amazing stuff you're working on now. I quickly the and I want to do it more quickly than I usually do because I want to get to all that good stuff want to go back and start from the beginning when you were going up in new Bedford Massachusetts. Your Dad was a programmer. Your mom was a guidance counselor when you were growing up. What did you think you wanted to do when you were an adult. I think like you know there. Just weren't that many people who had all kinds of crazy careers when I was growing up so if you went to college you're either going to be a doctor or a lawyer and I knew I didn't want to be medical. Doctor that just blood is icky and that stuff so I think I wanted to be a lawyer but I have zero concept. What lawyer is actually did your data's Cape Verdi in which I believe is like an African American Portuguese descent. That's right yes. I'm Kinda Biracial kind of a mix of lots of different ethnicities. Yeah did that affect you growing up. Were you in an area that was it's pretty diverse. Yeah I think there's lots of Cape Verdeans in new Bedford lots of Puerto Rican Portuguese individual like other kinds of like lucky. Latin X folks folks and I think that was awesome. It kind of felt like you know you're growing up with like these rich communities of people from different backgrounds but kind of just this idea that you know everyone was kind of a mixed six and diverse is when he growing up in new Bedford Being Cape Verde and isn't all that strange because there are lots of keep brigands there but I learned the hard way that everywhere else in the world like they're not that many Koreans Iranians around you. Kinda have to explain it to like what ethnicity is. Most people myself included before reading. This did not even know where it was like. Yeah people are like you you Cambodian like what are they know and so if the set of islands off the coast Africa and they there's lots of folks around the northeast because folks came over on whaling ships and kind of jobs that way so go to New England seaports you tend to meet a lot of Brady and so a lot of your work is predicated predicated on observing people understanding people and even now animals when you were growing up. was that a natural thing for you or something that came about later in life yeah. I think I was always sort of a natural psychologist. I was like you know the kid that would always like try to hang out with the adult table and find out what was going on and you know what people's motivations whereas best I think you know I was always sort of fascinated with mind and how people work and just kind of the puzzle the fact that people you know they don't always act in the way you think they're going to act or you know even kind of trying. I understand my own motivations you know why is it so hard to get yourself to do. The things you really WanNa do or you know like why do we rationalize like they're just going to be so many puzzles that human behavior her and even from as young as I remember. I was sort of fascinated by them so you're in high school. Did you do sorts of activities or sports or anything I was like a full on nerd and just like not very athletic. I played I played baseball like little league for a while and golfed which was mostly just 'cause you know what's fun to Kinda around around in a golf cart so not huge not huge sporty sporty chick sadly so not into like music and theater and stuff. You're really just interested I in in your studies yeah. I did a little bit on the theater side like if I if I was going to be characterized by anything I'd be more like you know theater nerd and not even an acting nerd more like blake back tech folk stage crew stage so you ended up at Harvard University and while you were there you were a research assistant and your travels to an island east of Puerto Rico really influence what you wanted to study before that trip did you have an idea of what kind of psychology would be would be of interest yeah. I think I just Kinda did no. I mean the kind of Allah psychology was sort of interesting but what that trip changed is i. I ended up working with a faculty member. There who does work with with monkeys like basically studying how monkeys thinking what that tells us about human nature and so even when I was just like a sophomore off more I got to head to his field site in Puerto Rico and it Kinda just a lot of things for me when you when you're hanging out with interesting group of monkeys it's like completely habituated to humans and they're just fascinating and you kinda wonder like well. What are they thinking. And how are they different from us so that Kinda just launched a long path of me trying to study this question. About what makes us human mind in unique yeah. There's there's this fascinating studies about monkeys that I think are like the gateway for so many people my favorite class in college as an English major who only took one thing remotely related late into like psychology and stuff was human bonding studying how you studied rhesus monkeys to help determine patterns and raising human infants and stuff so it's really interesting that would be the thing that sort of spurred you to not only continue following psychology but specifically the psychology of animals so at that point you come back from that trip and what do you envision in terms of your career based on your newfound interest in that yeah. I think you know maybe for better for worse. I'm not sure I was thinking my career back then you know this is a ninety s when like the dot com boom was happening and people just were like no one was scared of jobs. We're like Oh. I'll just you know found facebook or something like that right. so. I just Kinda thought the scientists fun you know I was sort of enjoying asking those questions questions and kind of exploring thing I was a little bit blindsided when my senior year came around and I had to pick a career but your next step of doing a PhD in kind of keeping going with what had been working so so far seem to make sense at the time yeah she stuck with school you got your masters and PhD from Harvard in psychology with the focus on cognition brain and behavior sure and was it right after you were done with your Giga Gail Yay kind of happened in like really fortuitous where near Gale was looking for somebody doing this on and I was Kinda in the right place at the right time in some ways. It's really fast like most people in my field you know do what's called the post doc which you Kinda like training. Someone's lab for a while before you become a professor. I was a little bit more on the fasttrack which wound up being amazing just amazing place to kind of do my work but you know it was a bit of a sprint for president right out of Grad School. You know basically teaching college students in my late twenties right as a professor there so there's a little bit fast yeah absolutely so was the Comparative Cognition Laboratory and Canine Cognition those in existence at Yale when you arrived both of those kind of things that I had I started up the starting with the Comparative Cognition Lab. That's the lab where we try to study like how monkeys make sense of the world to get some hints about how humans sick and the idea there is is it. If you really want to understand what makes US special you know why we have sports and podcasts and language and conversations like we're doing now like you actually have to figure out what animal all do and why they don't do the same stuff that we do and so I started a lab where I also was doing research in Puerto Rico where we studied monkeys and then more recently tried to to study this question with some critters..
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