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No More Mr. Nice Guy | Robert Glover | Write Your Legend Podcast with Apollonia Ponti and Natalie Stavola - burst 01

Write Your Legend

28:10 min | 6 months ago

No More Mr. Nice Guy | Robert Glover | Write Your Legend Podcast with Apollonia Ponti and Natalie Stavola - burst 01

"She will, you know, she's strong needs to be done. And so the thing that I learned is that a woman can't follow her a man doesn't lead that's true on the Dancefloor. It's is true in relationship. Now that leadership is not dead. Do it my way, you know, it's not about that that kind of controlling dominance. It's just showing up with a plan and having a sense of confidence about you that you know where you're going and you invite the woman to come along same on the dance floor is it I'm not going to ask the woman in between each move every step. Do you want to have this done now? Would you like a cross body move? Should I do a pretzel with you? Should I know I'm just going to lead her and if she likes the way I lead she's going to relax into that and follow and be blessed by that. If you don't like the way I lead single find another partner to dance with that's fine that it works. Well, but if I don't lead we're just going to stand there on the Dance Floor, you know kind of looking at each other until one of us gets bored and walks away. So that leadership is crucial and when I found when guys are trying to figure out what to make what to do make a woman happy and pleased or there's no real leadership. It's like I said be like me asking a woman every move. What do you want to next? do you want today off? And you're laughing cuz I've asked women in front of men. I'm teaching I'll say do you like it? Well, what do you like when your man says what do you want to tonight? You want to go out? Where do you want to go for dinner in the women go is needed to make a decision. Right? But I don't like it. I'll tell you but make a decision instead of times. I've had that argument with with some dating like I forgot to tell you, I don't like that. I'm going to change my mind you're going to say let's get Chinese food and I'm gonna say I want Italian but it doesn't matter. I just want you to make a decision cuz make a decision. Yeah, and that is super hard cuz that goes back to the man same. Maybe I'll do something wrong. And one thing I've been preaching to men for quite some time in marriage therapy. And otherwise, is that a woman's reaction to anything that a man does does not determine the rightness or wrongness of the thing man did write the man says, let's go get Chinese. You said I was thinking Italian he didn't do anything wrong cuz you had a different wage. Opinion on that. So this is you know, the work that I do with men is learning as a you know, start living life on your terms live life the way you want them live it and invite a great woman to come tag along with you to come join in your great life. Don't try to figure out how do I fit into her life? How do I make her happy? How do I make her want to be my girlfriend? I want to suck Ur clothes off. Don't worry about that stuff. You live your great life lead give her the chance to follow now. Here's the thing with that what if they're already in a relationship and all of a sudden? They're learning about this. How long does that take? Do all of a sudden they just come home and they're like, maybe like a big daddy 301 is here is here and she's like in leading this whole time. Yeah. So how does how do you do you get that like that leading birth? That is such a good question. When I wrote no more mister. Nice guy. I wrote in there I said when I started working with nice guys, and and because it does shake up a relationship if they're in one thousand. It shakes up everything, you know, the guy starts setting boundaries or starts asking for what he wants or start saying no or start spending more time with his guy friends, you know starts pursuing his his passion is going to shake things up and and I say in the book that I when I first started seeing this I gave relationships about a fifty-fifty chance that they would survive the the guy doing a nice guy recovery and I write in the book then over time. I started giving it more of a 60-40 that it wasn't going to work. And by the time I wrote book, I'd 7030. I'm about at 8020 now home and you know, we're kind of laughing about it. But the truth is yeah if if a couple of gotten together and fallen into a routine that that is some level is comfortable. Serve them even if it's painful and toxic it could be challenging to break that up. So mental asked me a lot of times say well sure. I show my wife or my girlfriend your book. I'm gonna go by all means, why am a copy, you know, let them have a copy and let them start underlining and writing in it and you tell them what it is that you're wanting to work on and what you're learning and how you want to be in this world. And and you know, do this is a team effort and in my experience. I'm a say in general women like my book, you know, when the book up published. I think the Publishers are thoughts going to create this big controversial but it never did. I maybe have gotten three angry emails from women in twenty years so women like the book cuz it's teaching men can be honest and transparent and and you know good men. Not not just pleasing nice guys. So I have found that a lot of women are really supportive of this work log. I got to visit a couple had worked with a number of years ago. I started working with the man over time and then he met the woman they got married. They're they're like 50, so they're both like second marriage for each of them and they came down to Puerto Vallarta where I live and did some work with me a few years ago and I forgot to visit them about three weeks ago and and the woman said to me says Robert finished that other book you're working on around what I call positive emotional tension women tend to like the stuff that I teach and couples therapy. You know, when I would start with the man just like in dance class, you gotta start with the lead, you gotta show them how to leave where the followers got nothing to lead. So I start with the man and I get the big two-by-four out smack him upside the head and say, okay, here's how women are wired. Here's what's important to them. Here's what most men get wrong. And here's what we're going to work on and usually the women have gone to look at their husbands or boyfriend and go this guy gets women. I like him. And so So when I found his women are pretty supportive of this Dynamic and many men had told me. Hey my wife gave me your book my ex-wife gave me your book an ex girlfriend gave me your book off. So women are spreading the word and they want men that they can trust that they can depend on who will set the tone and Lead who they can open up and Trust. Yeah because it's an honest with themselves and how can they be honest in a relationship if I can't depend on you to open up and tell me like what's going on? What you need? How can we be a team song? Yeah. I'm very obviously have apple and I are huge fans of the book. Yeah, and another point you talk about in one of your chapters and the no more mister nice guy book is with with life in general, right? I am a true believer that women look at sex differently than men look at 6 and men look at sex differently and intimacy is emotional for women, right? So we need our emotional needs to be met off. Order to want to have sex either with our partner or in our marriage whatever the case may be and sometimes those marriages can end up dying down and then we look up as sometimes what I've seen as well is that the men is looking at this as my wife isn't having sex with me. So I need to push for sex in order to feed the validation from within me. Right and so the woman was like, oh, I'm just not there mentally emotionally because of XYZ. I'm going through a hard time in life. And so what happens is he pushes more so than the relationship gets disconnected when they really weren't disconnected really in the first place. Yeah, but since the sex was pushed it was more and then I've seen that Spectrum happened in a lot of you know people that we work with and then the other spectrum is I mean to have sex with my wife in order to know that she's happy. So then he have a guy that's cleaning the house doing things for the kid. I mean, there's been doing everything. I I was a guy at one time. I was I look I did the dishes look at all this and log My zip I did ex-wife would walk in. How come you haven't wipe the counters off and I haven't finished yet. Now we have sex. I've been there. I've been there were boarded the response that is completely different and you actually talk about this in your book, you know, there's there's so many Dynamics the whole, you know, since we're kind of, you know, kind of leaning towards longer-term relationship here. There's so many dynamics that go into this great book by Esther perel called mating in captivity says it actually intimacy and hot sex don't play em together now intimacy mean we know each other really well, we've gotten comfortable with each other. We've got a predictability to our life the thing that most relationship experts Point couples torque. We have great communication. We work things out or great team, but she says that actually works against the polarity of having, you know, really great hot sex. And so, you know, it's almost dead. I don't think we have to choose one or the other. She's not saying that but we do need to know that in those long-term relationships kind of the Mormon that just be together starts to feel routine that starts to take a bath the sex now there's a lot of other things that they can go in to this change. Sometimes it's is the man is is a lazy lover or a city lover. You know, he just thinks poking his partner, you know, Thursday is a way to do it. Sometimes he's using his own emotional neediness and approaching her to get sex like doing the the kitchen thing and now have sex when they have sex with me and what I found is that a women don't necessarily reject the desire their partner to have sex. They reject the neediness. That's behind it. Come validate me make feel okay by having sex with me think they pushed that away off like no women don't want that that that's that hose hooked up to them where their Partners going to, you know, fuck them and say, okay. I'm loved I'm good, you know, whatever other pieces job. Go into this as well part of it, you know going back a little bit of clarity we've touched on is that most women and culture nowadays are in their masculine so much. They're doing all the time. They getting ready to go work. They go to work deal with customers, you know co-workers management, then I got to get back home from work. Now there's dishes to be done dinners. And if there's kids most often parenting is masculine doing the kids need to get their homework done. They need to have a bath and you'd have dinner they need to get the bed and then, you know, the man gets in bed that night gives her a little shoulder rub off and she's going. Oh no one more thing I've got to do and that's how it feels right feels like oh, I gotta do one more thing which is again masculine and the deepest thoughts and desires to be done its to be open and blessed and but if if a woman has been so much in her masculine all day. There's most women off. Good at making that switch. Right? So one of the things that I teach men guys sent, you know say guys new in a relationship or beshi long-term relationship part of our masculine leadership is leading our partner back into her feminine laughter that feminine State and you know, that might mean she comes home. And first thing you say sit down you take you sit down take your shoes off rubber feet say five minutes, you're on the clock tell me about your day. You got my undivided attention and she gets to you know, decompress or feed her being rubbed. This isn't There's No Agenda. If you're right. This isn't the get her in mood for later on if you get her slowed down out of being in that masculine, I put a quote in no more mister nice guy by a lesbian feminist. A lot of feminists don't like her cuz she actually likes men and I'm glad to hear you guys say do too but she's the quote I use it says that the typical woman out. Workplace is just going going and if she doesn't get throttled that back when she comes home. She's going to castrate everything in the home and not because the woman needs to they're just like this needs to be let's get that to you know, it's just like that and so masculine Leadership can be just okay, you know, what are your room change your clothes go put on your sweats, you know, I've said a glass of wine out or go take a bath go read a book go, you know something that let her just get out of that fast. Got to do got a good you gotta do and then often as you said optional needs I think women have a deep need to be heard to seen. I think if a woman knows she's heard and seen that we guys think that might mean listening to them complain all night long and I give an exact. I was dating a woman few years ago. I met her at the mall. She sold me shoes how I met her and so we started dating and so early on some of our dates would go to like a Ruth's Chris restaurant off. And go to happy hour and have a hamburger when she got off work in the mall. There was connected each other so she'd come over and she'd been working all day and and selling shoes or apparel and she just starting complaining, you know, the customers the management of this and maybe if she talked to her mother that day she'd be in a she's always had a pissy mood after I learned after she talked to other so, you know, she'd come in and sit down and be completely I've already got the two glasses of wine in front of us and I realized you know right date. So I just I took my phone out. Like I said, put it out set the timer for five minutes and said we're on a date. I know you just got off work of my undivided attention for five minutes. Give it all to me and like about two or three minutes in she was done it was enough and and then like she and I've had other women thank God for creating that container that they could just decompress get it all out. I wasn't going to fix anything. They just had you know, my undivided attention for x amount of time and dead. Then she could relax and then we'd have a good evening. So that's you know, it's just an example of the masks and Leadership one of the things that I teach all men and I've taught all the women in my life is full of open the door for them, you know, a woman taught me that about fifteen sixteen Seventeen years ago. She just said hey, you know, I never know if you can open my door not just I don't care what you do either open it every time or Dome. Well, no, that's all right. I'm going to open it so car doors office or stored or whatever. I've taught all the women in my life. Wait, I will open the door. I'll come open your I'll put you in the office completely out of the car. Now. The woman doesn't need me to open her door, but it's it creates a little bit of polarity. I'm the doing it done two. It's not a big deal, but I found that it's profound and I found at each guy says do it, but do it consistently cuz the first time you forget to come around and open her door the first time you forget to open again. She's going to just sit there Staffing. They're going. Hey, you taught me this, you know, so so they you know, the feminine wants that consistency, but that little thing I found personally is so powerful my mum even waits for me to open her door. First time. I did it. She said if I waited my dad's been dead for eleven years. So if I waited for your dad to open my door, I'd still be waiting I said, okay, but I'm opening your life. You know, my granddaughter is should be fourteen next month. She wakes up on her door, you know, she loves what she loves One Big Papi comes around so she loves when Granddad, and it opens the door for so now those again, you know, women can open their own doors women can you know probably decompress in their own ways, but I found that say gift we men can get the women with no attachment is not to get them. Okay, you talk about your problems. We're gonna have sex now, right, you know, it's not about that and talking about the pushing for sex on you mention. I teach men never ever push a woman for sex now cuz I'm such a nice guy and I'm you know, you know doing my oh look at me. I'm a good guy because with a few horrible women have been poked at their entire lives. And since yeah, there's a reason hashtag me to exist women have been poked and I have found if a man is in his masculine setting the tone and leading being himself creating polarity. He doesn't have to push a woman for sex. I felt that the women are often sexual aggressor with me since I you know, got divorced twenty years ago and started Living, you know, this way with women every woman I've been with is one in more sex than me. I never put a woman for sex ever, but cuz here's the thing. I tell guys whether they're you know, so first time they're trying to get a woman have sex or long-term relationship if the woman for any reason. And has her foot on the break free. Maybe maybe you're on a first or second date and maybe she's didn't shave down there. Or maybe she's on her. Or maybe she's just not ready yet. She knows she's going to have sex with u age she's just not ready yet. So the foot she goes is going to happen but not yet foots on the brake and I told men if you have your foot on the gas and she knows you're pushing person again doesn't matter if it's a second date or you've been married twenty years if she knows you're pushing for sex and her foot's even just a little bit on the break. Guess what she's going to do now, push harder on the brake and all guys. You don't want a woman pushing harder on the sex break. So pushing a woman for sex. Not only thing is violating but it doesn't serve you. Well in the woman doesn't feel loved and it doesn't Make Her Say Yeah penetrate me. Do me fuk to God. I'm ready there like this song. They're like this so I know that's confusing. The men's we want a formula we want. Okay, tell me the three steps, but I found that if the guy games setting the tone needing creating the polarity inviting the woman into that feminine space. She's the one that's already planning about when they're going to have sex. Yeah you guys on your head. Yeah, that you know is absolutely I can agree with this more. I'm so happy. I hear you saying this as well, you know, Natalie built a products all around this master is called bedroom, and she talks so much about this polarity and there's something that was out and we talked about this very openly it's called last minute resistance and it was something that pushed in to pick up Community back home. And we've had a lot of guys get in trouble for this and it's about pushing the woman to have sex if she doesn't want to and a lot of times what I've noticed too and what you're saying is the energy behind them. Is is relationship or not relationship first or second date? It's the woman will be able to intuitive intuitively feel if you're pressing the brakes or if you're putting the gas on. Yeah. Yeah, if you're off the formula exactly. So if you're pushing excuse me, so it's not about having. Oh I need to do this specific formula. It's about just embodying. You're like you really knowing who you are as a young man and really standing up to that and positioning herself in that way and I tell like men this all the time and I remind them, you know, you as a guy can probably walk outside of a neighborhood. That's maybe not so good at 10:00 at night. But as a Woman by yourself and a black shirt if you wanted to doesn't matter, but as a woman we can't do that without feeling like we're going to be in trouble. I tell mid all the time to really understand what you you're saying right now. I tell men ask any woman, you know that she feel safe walking in her own neighborhood at night well and Thursday No, the majority of women are going to say ha don't do it. And you know, I'll even you know here in Puerto Vallarta where I live see a woman walking at night on a dark Street by yourself. I'm thinking woman. What were you thinking back? And you know again, I'm not saying that in any way justify like what the whole rape culture thing, but women have never felt safe walking the planet and I told men if you understand that women by nature or security seeking creatures and trust is everything. I was actually doing an interview one time with a couple of women on a television show more Middle Ages actually known no Ashok. So I went to the radio Studios was talking to them and I made the comment on a commercial break that I said. tell men I said if you fuck with a woman's trust you're going to fuck with her lust and the new ones that thought. Oh, yeah, you need to say that when we come back from break and I said guys say that on the radio and they go so if you mess with the woman's trust you're going to mess with the woman's lust and it was funny. Probably about two or three years. Years later, I walked into a coffee shop in the area that lived and and one of those women who did the interview was sitting talking to somebody else that I knew was actually she was a dating coach as well relationship coach wage and she wakes Robert you remember me? I said, yeah. Yeah, I did a radio interview with you just I've got to tell you when said that thing about, you know messing with a woman's trust you mess with their lust she goes I'm you know, fifty-something years old been married for thirty years. I went home told my husband that she said as a woman, I'd never put that two and together in my own head that trust was so essential to open sex is vulnerable for a woman you're getting poked and prodded and penetrated in every way and to enjoy that you've got to let go. Let go you've got to trust and I mean women can bypass that they get drunk enough. They can pray fantasy. They can get into you know, some old trauma-related. You know, I'm with the Jersey And it's saying yeah, but to truly open up an experienced the depth of bliss of and when I say penetration, I don't just mean the guy jack hammer in the woman, you know with this 24/7 hard on. It's about the man bringing all of his Consciousness and presents open heartedness and groundedness and passion bringing all of that yet. Natalie's over there. Yeah. Well, yeah more important because that's the thing is like we were talking about before is the masculine energy. Is that penetrating energy, but as a woman it's all interconnected with how we're feeling and letting go of that guard but also if a man is in that neediness energy needing to validate needing to do this in your intention isn't honest behind why you're even trying to penetrate us a pick up all of your energy you're literally going inside of us. So if I'm sitting there dating a guy and I sleep with him and he's got past trauma. He doesn't love himself. He's you know insecure and he's just trying to log Need to have sex with him validate himself. Now. What was that energy in me? I gotta deal with that kind of pick up your energy now like carry on about my day. So when when you are talking about just that simple thing of like when a woman comes home and you're like they there's a glass of wine for you go change into something comfortable. You've got me for five minutes. It's that and there's no intention behind Old Testament know about that right? There is sexy to a woman and why we would be the ones to initiate sex later because that is sexy to us that right. There is a we get to trust you will just break down anything those break that down even more for men cuz social appears that thing. So yeah again, we'll go back. Let's let's talk about a guy on let's say they got into a third date with woman, you know, and he hears like, you know open he gets laid that night, you know, so he's doing all the stuff to push it and and you know as women you of course know you know why we take out right off. To see you naked that's the whole reason we take you out and you know that, you know, you're not dumb, you know, you know, of course you're not, you know, we're ready. We were that special lingerie off likely, you know, so so and and now that's the point. I really want to make, you know, when you're ready. It's going to happen and I tell guys, okay listen. A woman knows within the first 30 seconds of meeting a guy if there's a possibility she's going to wear that sexy lingerie, right? I can't know for sure if she's going to she just knows if there's not a possibility and you know, then all the guys from there they use the nice guy seduction or the pick up stuff or trying to buy you enough drinks hoping that'll yeah with some wage their insecurities and their alcohol issues. It does happen. But the woman know so I tell the guy so you really don't have to make this happen as Chris Rock Says just don't say anything really stupid. Don't mess up. Right. So the woman knows if it's going to happen right or not. She no she doesn't know when but and and you know, because of all the cultural slut-shaming off and have to Cana like, well I want to do it right now, but I'm going to give it, you know, 15 more minutes before I get, you know, put on the laundry because you know, have to culturally blah blah a bunch of noise, but it off What is so so I tell guys think about it this way if she already in her mind is entertained the idea. She's going to wear that lingerie with you. You don't have to push. All you have to do is show up be you, you know, bring that good vibe cuz you women are so sensitive to energy. Yeah. Yeah, I'll be playful be affectionate took her hand and lead her oldest a way for me to open your door invite her into your great life or she gets to see this guy's got a fucking great life. I'm not talking about a great apartment a great cook. I mean those could be part of it. But that you've got friends. You've got a life. You're you're a social animal you you take care of yourself. Let her see that part of your life. You keep getting the tone and leading what I found when I was dating again. I never pushed a woman for sex put never pushed him to get naked, but I am very affectionate and I will set the tone and I will be Adventures. And I will call a woman up and say I'm at your house in 30 minutes be ready to go. I will do those kinds of things. And what I found is then the women put their foot on the gas and and off, you know, either dropping the innuendo about sex or say come over to dinner in my house Friday night, you know, then, you know, she's going to have the lingerie ready. So I tell them don't push cuz you don't have to you don't have to now that doesn't mean I don't tell I tell guys but that don't mean to be passive, you know be know, assert yourself be bold and when the dog opens by all means walk through that door now you may have to do something like, you know, the woman's, you know been making little innuendo you may just have to do the Bold thing and my kind of was all right, you know take your clothes off and go get in my bed. Oh, I can't believe you're telling me what to do, you know what to do. So I tell men her to do what she already wants to do. Now that again that's not like oh you're going to read her mind off. You guys you you gals send the signals when it's time when you're ready. You're not that hard like me use our mouths. We we think you know those thoughts your hand might end up on his crotch outside of his jeans. There's some signal for the guy to say it happens. It happens and for the guy to say, but I've had to say women this is as far we can go in a public setting somewhere else. So if you do that, Yeah, that's amazing. I definitely oh man, this is so good. I'm like my mind is like

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No More Mr. Nice Guy | Robert Glover | Write Your Legend Podcast with Apollonia Ponti and Natalie Stavola - burst 01

Write Your Legend

28:10 min | 6 months ago

No More Mr. Nice Guy | Robert Glover | Write Your Legend Podcast with Apollonia Ponti and Natalie Stavola - burst 01

"She will, you know, she's strong needs to be done. And so the thing that I learned is that a woman can't follow her a man doesn't lead that's true on the Dancefloor. It's is true in relationship. Now that leadership is not dead. Do it my way, you know, it's not about that that kind of controlling dominance. It's just showing up with a plan and having a sense of confidence about you that you know where you're going and you invite the woman to come along same on the dance floor is it I'm not going to ask the woman in between each move every step. Do you want to have this done now? Would you like a cross body move? Should I do a pretzel with you? Should I know I'm just going to lead her and if she likes the way I lead she's going to relax into that and follow and be blessed by that. If you don't like the way I lead single find another partner to dance with that's fine that it works. Well, but if I don't lead we're just going to stand there on the Dance Floor, you know kind of looking at each other until one of us gets bored and walks away. So that leadership is crucial and when I found when guys are trying to figure out what to make what to do make a woman happy and pleased or there's no real leadership. It's like I said be like me asking a woman every move. What do you want to next? do you want today off? And you're laughing cuz I've asked women in front of men. I'm teaching I'll say do you like it? Well, what do you like when your man says what do you want to tonight? You want to go out? Where do you want to go for dinner in the women go is needed to make a decision. Right? But I don't like it. I'll tell you but make a decision instead of times. I've had that argument with with some dating like I forgot to tell you, I don't like that. I'm going to change my mind you're going to say let's get Chinese food and I'm gonna say I want Italian but it doesn't matter. I just want you to make a decision cuz make a decision. Yeah, and that is super hard cuz that goes back to the man same. Maybe I'll do something wrong. And one thing I've been preaching to men for quite some time in marriage therapy. And otherwise, is that a woman's reaction to anything that a man does does not determine the rightness or wrongness of the thing man did write the man says, let's go get Chinese. You said I was thinking Italian he didn't do anything wrong cuz you had a different wage. Opinion on that. So this is you know, the work that I do with men is learning as a you know, start living life on your terms live life the way you want them live it and invite a great woman to come tag along with you to come join in your great life. Don't try to figure out how do I fit into her life? How do I make her happy? How do I make her want to be my girlfriend? I want to suck Ur clothes off. Don't worry about that stuff. You live your great life lead give her the chance to follow now. Here's the thing with that what if they're already in a relationship and all of a sudden? They're learning about this. How long does that take? Do all of a sudden they just come home and they're like, maybe like a big daddy 301 is here is here and she's like in leading this whole time. Yeah. So how does how do you do you get that like that leading birth? That is such a good question. When I wrote no more mister. Nice guy. I wrote in there I said when I started working with nice guys, and and because it does shake up a relationship if they're in one thousand. It shakes up everything, you know, the guy starts setting boundaries or starts asking for what he wants or start saying no or start spending more time with his guy friends, you know starts pursuing his his passion is going to shake things up and and I say in the book that I when I first started seeing this I gave relationships about a fifty-fifty chance that they would survive the the guy doing a nice guy recovery and I write in the book then over time. I started giving it more of a 60-40 that it wasn't going to work. And by the time I wrote book, I'd 7030. I'm about at 8020 now home and you know, we're kind of laughing about it. But the truth is yeah if if a couple of gotten together and fallen into a routine that that is some level is comfortable. Serve them even if it's painful and toxic it could be challenging to break that up. So mental asked me a lot of times say well sure. I show my wife or my girlfriend your book. I'm gonna go by all means, why am a copy, you know, let them have a copy and let them start underlining and writing in it and you tell them what it is that you're wanting to work on and what you're learning and how you want to be in this world. And and you know, do this is a team effort and in my experience. I'm a say in general women like my book, you know, when the book up published. I think the Publishers are thoughts going to create this big controversial but it never did. I maybe have gotten three angry emails from women in twenty years so women like the book cuz it's teaching men can be honest and transparent and and you know good men. Not not just pleasing nice guys. So I have found that a lot of women are really supportive of this work log. I got to visit a couple had worked with a number of years ago. I started working with the man over time and then he met the woman they got married. They're they're like 50, so they're both like second marriage for each of them and they came down to Puerto Vallarta where I live and did some work with me a few years ago and I forgot to visit them about three weeks ago and and the woman said to me says Robert finished that other book you're working on around what I call positive emotional tension women tend to like the stuff that I teach and couples therapy. You know, when I would start with the man just like in dance class, you gotta start with the lead, you gotta show them how to leave where the followers got nothing to lead. So I start with the man and I get the big two-by-four out smack him upside the head and say, okay, here's how women are wired. Here's what's important to them. Here's what most men get wrong. And here's what we're going to work on and usually the women have gone to look at their husbands or boyfriend and go this guy gets women. I like him. And so So when I found his women are pretty supportive of this Dynamic and many men had told me. Hey my wife gave me your book my ex-wife gave me your book an ex girlfriend gave me your book off. So women are spreading the word and they want men that they can trust that they can depend on who will set the tone and Lead who they can open up and Trust. Yeah because it's an honest with themselves and how can they be honest in a relationship if I can't depend on you to open up and tell me like what's going on? What you need? How can we be a team song? Yeah. I'm very obviously have apple and I are huge fans of the book. Yeah, and another point you talk about in one of your chapters and the no more mister nice guy book is with with life in general, right? I am a true believer that women look at sex differently than men look at 6 and men look at sex differently and intimacy is emotional for women, right? So we need our emotional needs to be met off. Order to want to have sex either with our partner or in our marriage whatever the case may be and sometimes those marriages can end up dying down and then we look up as sometimes what I've seen as well is that the men is looking at this as my wife isn't having sex with me. So I need to push for sex in order to feed the validation from within me. Right and so the woman was like, oh, I'm just not there mentally emotionally because of XYZ. I'm going through a hard time in life. And so what happens is he pushes more so than the relationship gets disconnected when they really weren't disconnected really in the first place. Yeah, but since the sex was pushed it was more and then I've seen that Spectrum happened in a lot of you know people that we work with and then the other spectrum is I mean to have sex with my wife in order to know that she's happy. So then he have a guy that's cleaning the house doing things for the kid. I mean, there's been doing everything. I I was a guy at one time. I was I look I did the dishes look at all this and log My zip I did ex-wife would walk in. How come you haven't wipe the counters off and I haven't finished yet. Now we have sex. I've been there. I've been there were boarded the response that is completely different and you actually talk about this in your book, you know, there's there's so many Dynamics the whole, you know, since we're kind of, you know, kind of leaning towards longer-term relationship here. There's so many dynamics that go into this great book by Esther perel called mating in captivity says it actually intimacy and hot sex don't play em together now intimacy mean we know each other really well, we've gotten comfortable with each other. We've got a predictability to our life the thing that most relationship experts Point couples torque. We have great communication. We work things out or great team, but she says that actually works against the polarity of having, you know, really great hot sex. And so, you know, it's almost dead. I don't think we have to choose one or the other. She's not saying that but we do need to know that in those long-term relationships kind of the Mormon that just be together starts to feel routine that starts to take a bath the sex now there's a lot of other things that they can go in to this change. Sometimes it's is the man is is a lazy lover or a city lover. You know, he just thinks poking his partner, you know, Thursday is a way to do it. Sometimes he's using his own emotional neediness and approaching her to get sex like doing the the kitchen thing and now have sex when they have sex with me and what I found is that a women don't necessarily reject the desire their partner to have sex. They reject the neediness. That's behind it. Come validate me make feel okay by having sex with me think they pushed that away off like no women don't want that that that's that hose hooked up to them where their Partners going to, you know, fuck them and say, okay. I'm loved I'm good, you know, whatever other pieces job. Go into this as well part of it, you know going back a little bit of clarity we've touched on is that most women and culture nowadays are in their masculine so much. They're doing all the time. They getting ready to go work. They go to work deal with customers, you know co-workers management, then I got to get back home from work. Now there's dishes to be done dinners. And if there's kids most often parenting is masculine doing the kids need to get their homework done. They need to have a bath and you'd have dinner they need to get the bed and then, you know, the man gets in bed that night gives her a little shoulder rub off and she's going. Oh no one more thing I've got to do and that's how it feels right feels like oh, I gotta do one more thing which is again masculine and the deepest thoughts and desires to be done its to be open and blessed and but if if a woman has been so much in her masculine all day. There's most women off. Good at making that switch. Right? So one of the things that I teach men guys sent, you know say guys new in a relationship or beshi long-term relationship part of our masculine leadership is leading our partner back into her feminine laughter that feminine State and you know, that might mean she comes home. And first thing you say sit down you take you sit down take your shoes off rubber feet say five minutes, you're on the clock tell me about your day. You got my undivided attention and she gets to you know, decompress or feed her being rubbed. This isn't There's No Agenda. If you're right. This isn't the get her in mood for later on if you get her slowed down out of being in that masculine, I put a quote in no more mister nice guy by a lesbian feminist. A lot of feminists don't like her cuz she actually likes men and I'm glad to hear you guys say do too but she's the quote I use it says that the typical woman out. Workplace is just going going and if she doesn't get throttled that back when she comes home. She's going to castrate everything in the home and not because the woman needs to they're just like this needs to be let's get that to you know, it's just like that and so masculine Leadership can be just okay, you know, what are your room change your clothes go put on your sweats, you know, I've said a glass of wine out or go take a bath go read a book go, you know something that let her just get out of that fast. Got to do got a good you gotta do and then often as you said optional needs I think women have a deep need to be heard to seen. I think if a woman knows she's heard and seen that we guys think that might mean listening to them complain all night long and I give an exact. I was dating a woman few years ago. I met her at the mall. She sold me shoes how I met her and so we started dating and so early on some of our dates would go to like a Ruth's Chris restaurant off. And go to happy hour and have a hamburger when she got off work in the mall. There was connected each other so she'd come over and she'd been working all day and and selling shoes or apparel and she just starting complaining, you know, the customers the management of this and maybe if she talked to her mother that day she'd be in a she's always had a pissy mood after I learned after she talked to other so, you know, she'd come in and sit down and be completely I've already got the two glasses of wine in front of us and I realized you know right date. So I just I took my phone out. Like I said, put it out set the timer for five minutes and said we're on a date. I know you just got off work of my undivided attention for five minutes. Give it all to me and like about two or three minutes in she was done it was enough and and then like she and I've had other women thank God for creating that container that they could just decompress get it all out. I wasn't going to fix anything. They just had you know, my undivided attention for x amount of time and dead. Then she could relax and then we'd have a good evening. So that's you know, it's just an example of the masks and Leadership one of the things that I teach all men and I've taught all the women in my life is full of open the door for them, you know, a woman taught me that about fifteen sixteen Seventeen years ago. She just said hey, you know, I never know if you can open my door not just I don't care what you do either open it every time or Dome. Well, no, that's all right. I'm going to open it so car doors office or stored or whatever. I've taught all the women in my life. Wait, I will open the door. I'll come open your I'll put you in the office completely out of the car. Now. The woman doesn't need me to open her door, but it's it creates a little bit of polarity. I'm the doing it done two. It's not a big deal, but I found that it's profound and I found at each guy says do it, but do it consistently cuz the first time you forget to come around and open her door the first time you forget to open again. She's going to just sit there Staffing. They're going. Hey, you taught me this, you know, so so they you know, the feminine wants that consistency, but that little thing I found personally is so powerful my mum even waits for me to open her door. First time. I did it. She said if I waited my dad's been dead for eleven years. So if I waited for your dad to open my door, I'd still be waiting I said, okay, but I'm opening your life. You know, my granddaughter is should be fourteen next month. She wakes up on her door, you know, she loves what she loves One Big Papi comes around so she loves when Granddad, and it opens the door for so now those again, you know, women can open their own doors women can you know probably decompress in their own ways, but I found that say gift we men can get the women with no attachment is not to get them. Okay, you talk about your problems. We're gonna have sex now, right, you know, it's not about that and talking about the pushing for sex on you mention. I teach men never ever push a woman for sex now cuz I'm such a nice guy and I'm you know, you know doing my oh look at me. I'm a good guy because with a few horrible women have been poked at their entire lives. And since yeah, there's a reason hashtag me to exist women have been poked and I have found if a man is in his masculine setting the tone and leading being himself creating polarity. He doesn't have to push a woman for sex. I felt that the women are often sexual aggressor with me since I you know, got divorced twenty years ago and started Living, you know, this way with women every woman I've been with is one in more sex than me. I never put a woman for sex ever, but cuz here's the thing. I tell guys whether they're you know, so first time they're trying to get a woman have sex or long-term relationship if the woman for any reason. And has her foot on the break free. Maybe maybe you're on a first or second date and maybe she's didn't shave down there. Or maybe she's on her. Or maybe she's just not ready yet. She knows she's going to have sex with u age she's just not ready yet. So the foot she goes is going to happen but not yet foots on the brake and I told men if you have your foot on the gas and she knows you're pushing person again doesn't matter if it's a second date or you've been married twenty years if she knows you're pushing for sex and her foot's even just a little bit on the break. Guess what she's going to do now, push harder on the brake and all guys. You don't want a woman pushing harder on the sex break. So pushing a woman for sex. Not only thing is violating but it doesn't serve you. Well in the woman doesn't feel loved and it doesn't Make Her Say Yeah penetrate me. Do me fuk to God. I'm ready there like this song. They're like this so I know that's confusing. The men's we want a formula we want. Okay, tell me the three steps, but I found that if the guy games setting the tone needing creating the polarity inviting the woman into that feminine space. She's the one that's already planning about when they're going to have sex. Yeah you guys on your head. Yeah, that you know is absolutely I can agree with this more. I'm so happy. I hear you saying this as well, you know, Natalie built a products all around this master is called bedroom, and she talks so much about this polarity and there's something that was out and we talked about this very openly it's called last minute resistance and it was something that pushed in to pick up Community back home. And we've had a lot of guys get in trouble for this and it's about pushing the woman to have sex if she doesn't want to and a lot of times what I've noticed too and what you're saying is the energy behind them. Is is relationship or not relationship first or second date? It's the woman will be able to intuitive intuitively feel if you're pressing the brakes or if you're putting the gas on. Yeah. Yeah, if you're off the formula exactly. So if you're pushing excuse me, so it's not about having. Oh I need to do this specific formula. It's about just embodying. You're like you really knowing who you are as a young man and really standing up to that and positioning herself in that way and I tell like men this all the time and I remind them, you know, you as a guy can probably walk outside of a neighborhood. That's maybe not so good at 10:00 at night. But as a Woman by yourself and a black shirt if you wanted to doesn't matter, but as a woman we can't do that without feeling like we're going to be in trouble. I tell mid all the time to really understand what you you're saying right now. I tell men ask any woman, you know that she feel safe walking in her own neighborhood at night well and Thursday No, the majority of women are going to say ha don't do it. And you know, I'll even you know here in Puerto Vallarta where I live see a woman walking at night on a dark Street by yourself. I'm thinking woman. What were you thinking back? And you know again, I'm not saying that in any way justify like what the whole rape culture thing, but women have never felt safe walking the planet and I told men if you understand that women by nature or security seeking creatures and trust is everything. I was actually doing an interview one time with a couple of women on a television show more Middle Ages actually known no Ashok. So I went to the radio Studios was talking to them and I made the comment on a commercial break that I said. tell men I said if you fuck with a woman's trust you're going to fuck with her lust and the new ones that thought. Oh, yeah, you need to say that when we come back from break and I said guys say that on the radio and they go so if you mess with the woman's trust you're going to mess with the woman's lust and it was funny. Probably about two or three years. Years later, I walked into a coffee shop in the area that lived and and one of those women who did the interview was sitting talking to somebody else that I knew was actually she was a dating coach as well relationship coach wage and she wakes Robert you remember me? I said, yeah. Yeah, I did a radio interview with you just I've got to tell you when said that thing about, you know messing with a woman's trust you mess with their lust she goes I'm you know, fifty-something years old been married for thirty years. I went home told my husband that she said as a woman, I'd never put that two and together in my own head that trust was so essential to open sex is vulnerable for a woman you're getting poked and prodded and penetrated in every way and to enjoy that you've got to let go. Let go you've got to trust and I mean women can bypass that they get drunk enough. They can pray fantasy. They can get into you know, some old trauma-related. You know, I'm with the Jersey And it's saying yeah, but to truly open up an experienced the depth of bliss of and when I say penetration, I don't just mean the guy jack hammer in the woman, you know with this 24/7 hard on. It's about the man bringing all of his Consciousness and presents open heartedness and groundedness and passion bringing all of that yet. Natalie's over there. Yeah. Well, yeah more important because that's the thing is like we were talking about before is the masculine energy. Is that penetrating energy, but as a woman it's all interconnected with how we're feeling and letting go of that guard but also if a man is in that neediness energy needing to validate needing to do this in your intention isn't honest behind why you're even trying to penetrate us a pick up all of your energy you're literally going inside of us. So if I'm sitting there dating a guy and I sleep with him and he's got past trauma. He doesn't love himself. He's you know insecure and he's just trying to log Need to have sex with him validate himself. Now. What was that energy in me? I gotta deal with that kind of pick up your energy now like carry on about my day. So when when you are talking about just that simple thing of like when a woman comes home and you're like they there's a glass of wine for you go change into something comfortable. You've got me for five minutes. It's that and there's no intention behind Old Testament know about that right? There is sexy to a woman and why we would be the ones to initiate sex later because that is sexy to us that right. There is a we get to trust you will just break down anything those break that down even more for men cuz social appears that thing. So yeah again, we'll go back. Let's let's talk about a guy on let's say they got into a third date with woman, you know, and he hears like, you know open he gets laid that night, you know, so he's doing all the stuff to push it and and you know as women you of course know you know why we take out right off. To see you naked that's the whole reason we take you out and you know that, you know, you're not dumb, you know, you know, of course you're not, you know, we're ready. We were that special lingerie off likely, you know, so so and and now that's the point. I really want to make, you know, when you're ready. It's going to happen and I tell guys, okay listen. A woman knows within the first 30 seconds of meeting a guy if there's a possibility she's going to wear that sexy lingerie, right? I can't know for sure if she's going to she just knows if there's not a possibility and you know, then all the guys from there they use the nice guy seduction or the pick up stuff or trying to buy you enough drinks hoping that'll yeah with some wage their insecurities and their alcohol issues. It does happen. But the woman know so I tell the guy so you really don't have to make this happen as Chris Rock Says just don't say anything really stupid. Don't mess up. Right. So the woman knows if it's going to happen right or not. She no she doesn't know when but and and you know, because of all the cultural slut-shaming off and have to Cana like, well I want to do it right now, but I'm going to give it, you know, 15 more minutes before I get, you know, put on the laundry because you know, have to culturally blah blah a bunch of noise, but it off What is so so I tell guys think about it this way if she already in her mind is entertained the idea. She's going to wear that lingerie with you. You don't have to push. All you have to do is show up be you, you know, bring that good vibe cuz you women are so sensitive to energy. Yeah. Yeah, I'll be playful be affectionate took her hand and lead her oldest a way for me to open your door invite her into your great life or she gets to see this guy's got a fucking great life. I'm not talking about a great apartment a great cook. I mean those could be part of it. But that you've got friends. You've got a life. You're you're a social animal you you take care of yourself. Let her see that part of your life. You keep getting the tone and leading what I found when I was dating again. I never pushed a woman for sex put never pushed him to get naked, but I am very affectionate and I will set the tone and I will be Adventures. And I will call a woman up and say I'm at your house in 30 minutes be ready to go. I will do those kinds of things. And what I found is then the women put their foot on the gas and and off, you know, either dropping the innuendo about sex or say come over to dinner in my house Friday night, you know, then, you know, she's going to have the lingerie ready. So I tell them don't push cuz you don't have to you don't have to now that doesn't mean I don't tell I tell guys but that don't mean to be passive, you know be know, assert yourself be bold and when the dog opens by all means walk through that door now you may have to do something like, you know, the woman's, you know been making little innuendo you may just have to do the Bold thing and my kind of was all right, you know take your clothes off and go get in my bed. Oh, I can't believe you're telling me what to do, you know what to do. So I tell men her to do what she already wants to do. Now that again that's not like oh you're going to read her mind off. You guys you you gals send the signals when it's time when you're ready. You're not that hard like me use our mouths. We we think you know those thoughts your hand might end up on his crotch outside of his jeans. There's some signal for the guy to say it happens. It happens and for the guy to say, but I've had to say women this is as far we can go in a public setting somewhere else. So if you do that, Yeah, that's amazing. I definitely oh man, this is so good. I'm like my mind is like

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"The trump administration says it will hold accountable any company that should never see the small business payroll protection loan the Los Angeles Lakers shake shack Ruth Chris among those companies returning the payroll protection loans meant for smaller companies treasury secretary Steve Mnuchin saying hill police those that don't that any alone over two million dollars will have a full review for forgiveness before they're repaid secretary Mnuchin saying he'll add more auditors to hold companies that should not have received loans

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Lawmakers Pass Pandemic Stimulus Bill and Debate Another

"A four hundred eighty four billion dollar stimulus. Bill is now on the way to the president with a signature expected today. The bill includes more money for small business relief and aid for hospitals and Testing House Speaker. Nancy Pelosi today was historic day for us to once again path are now fourth bipartisan legislation to address Corona virus crisis. We're very pleased with the vote. Three eighty eight to five the owner of Ruth's Chris. Steak houses says it is refunding twenty million dollars in money from a previous pandemic stimulus package. The Treasury Department has asked publicly traded companies to return funding from the program following criticism from small independent businesses. That they missed out on the last round of aid. The new money isn't even out the door and lawmakers are already debating what's needed next among Democrats Republicans and the trump administration. There are sharp differences. Over what should be in the package and whether another package is even needed are Jalen spoke to journal Congressional reporter Natalie Andrews. Democrats wanted to get more money for states and local municipalities that have been affected by the pandemic into the bill that passed on Thursday. They were unsuccessful in negotiating that. And we'll definitely be pushing for it in this in any sort of future legislation. That is a sticking point Mitch McConnell the Senate Majority Leader has said that he would support changes in federal law to allow states to file for bankruptcy instead of necessarily giving more money adding more money to the deficit. The governors have loudly disagreed with that Maryland. Governor Larry Hogan who is a Republican and New York Governor Andrew Cuomo a Democrat have said that they believe that there needs to be five hundred billion dollars to cover. The costs for states states are really facing just enormous cost. They're responding to the pandemic while also looking at unemployment in their states and so they're losing the tax revenue that they usually depend on to provide for services such as first responders Many states have pension systems that they need to fund. Those are all suffering right now with the next potential stimulus. Bill include more payments to tax payers. Nancy Pelosi win. I spoke to her on Wednesday said that she does see a need for more direct payments to individuals some other lawmakers have also called for that as well and there's also some perhaps more creative proposals out there than just a straight check. Some people are calling for some sort of paycheck guarantee in order to allow people to continue receiving the money that they have been making so I would imagine that if the next bill heats up and if economy is still in the same place that will definitely be part of this conversation and you know a fourth phase of stimulus would create an interesting scenario where the White House is at odds with Senate Republicans true. The White House has put out a list of things they're looking for. The president sent a tweet a few days ago. That had a whole list of things including infrastructure We interviewed House Speaker. Nancy Pelosi on Wednesday. She said she thought infrastructure was for down the road that right now. The legislation needed to focus on mitigation. But she did say that. There are certain things infrastructure wise that the pendulum is highlighting such as the need to expand broadband access in rural areas with so many people working from home and kids trying to do school at home. It really shows that there are limitations to access and broadband. She also talked about the need for clean water so there could be some consensus between the president and Speaker Pelosi and not necessarily Senate Republicans who are not wanting to spend more money that was Natalie Andrews speaking with chair Waylon new reporting

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"ruth chris" Discussed on Newsradio 600 KOGO

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"Now downtown is fifty eight degrees koco news time is five forty one the numbers are stunning there are more than eight million restaurant employees who are currently out of work the food industry has been hit hard by the corona virus pandemic joining us on the company's lifeline executive vice president of the national restaurant association John Kennedy good morning Sean Hey good morning thanks for having me absolutely so break this down for us how bad is this the restaurant industry has suffered more than any other industry in the nation we've had more significant sales and job losses since code nineteen began it's separate you you said the number at the top eight million jobs lost in the state of California right now seventy percent of the state's restaurant employees are home today for a load or out of work that is that is a lot of people who are not able to pay their rent they're not able to pay their bills you know are are most of these restaurants going to be able to re open or we gonna see quite a few closures it's a big question for us we are looking right now about in California about half restaurants have closed altogether a growing number of them are signaling to us they don't know that they be able to reopen the ones that are open generally you're just able to do off premise traffic delivery Kerry out things like that that is a good way to make a little bit of money it's not something that's sustainable for the long term restaurants generally have about fifteen days of cash on hand we're at the one month mark a lot of restaurants make tough decisions when the April right most you may it's just a few days away so is it any different from the mom and pop restaurants than using say like a a Ruth's Chris restaurant Applebee's or or something like that if you look at those larger chains Ruth's Chris just announced their closing about twenty percent of their restaurants so if you have it doesn't hurt if you're a a line cook or a server it really doesn't matter what logo's on your uniform you're worried about whether you're going to have a job that you can come back to when the industry comes back online this is a tidal wave it doesn't matter how big your boat is in the water it's turning folks over so well and I you know at this point what we see what we see differences when these restaurants open as well that's a great question we are working with state governors and helped officials on what the rules of the road will be one were allowed to reopen definitely you're going to see more things like social distancing fewer tables in a restaurant whether or not our servers are going to have to wear masks and gloves is still something it's up for discussion some folks are even talking about whether or not customers are going to have to have their temperature taken before they're allowed in none of this matters though if the customer doesn't feel state if they don't feel like they can can can safely go out into society again they're not gonna be showing up at restaurants we're going to have a much longer recovery time than most other industries all right Shawn Kennedy executive VP of the national restaurant association Sean thank you for your time this morning thanks so much all right good years time five forty five it came from bats the World Health Organization says all the available evidence indicates corona virus originated in animals in China late last year and was not manipulated or produced in a lab in a news briefing in Geneva spokeswoman said there remains some outstanding questions over how precisely the corona virus jumped the species barrier to humans but you said an intermediate animal host was the most likely explanation and most likely it was bats first now yesterday we talked to an actual epidemiologist and somebody who has worked on vaccines and he said the evidence actually shows that went from bats to pangolins which are like little anteater right slash the armadillo right animals from bats to pangolins to humans well a new study shows a malaria drug praised by the president as a possible treatment has shown no benefit and brought more death to patients years colonel Scott many times the president has touted the promise of hydroxy caloric win against coronavirus however a study shows the use of the drug nationally in veterans hospitals made no progress in fact it proved more we full according to the study paid for by the university of Virginia and the national institutes of health of three hundred sixty eight patients in the trial twenty eight percent given the malaria drug died as opposed to eleven percent who worked there were also indications the drug may have damage to other organs scientists have yet to review the data more thorough testing is being done to assess the effectiveness so for months after a San Francisco woman hired a plane to fly a search banner for her stolen dog they're reunited Jackson the mini Australian shepherd many Australian shepherd they come in small we found three hundred seventy miles away in palm Dale animal shelter the owner was unable to drive down to pick the dog up so San Francisco detective assigned to the case brought Jackson to her and they were reunited yesterday and it feels so good and it feels so good companies at five forty six is working from home affecting your mental health we'll talk about it live it's excellent stories trending anyone who goes out in public in.

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03:53 min | 1 year ago

Small Business Rescue Earned Banks $10 Billion In Fees

"Right now small businesses are desperate for loans. Congress allocated three hundred and forty nine billion dollars for small businesses. That money was gone in less than two weeks but not all of it went to small businesses around. Ten billion dollars went to banks to cover processing fees. Npr's Laura Sullivan has been looking into financial records. Good Morning Laura. Good morning at ten billion dollars is a lot of money. What are banks doing to to earn that money? So banks like J. P. Morgan Chase Bank of America. Pnc and dozens of others are processing the loans. They're essentially the middlemen. They take the applications from their small business clients and they funnel those requests up to the Small Business Administration which approves the loan and what's important to note here. Is that the money the banks are getting for? Their clients isn't their money. I mean this isn't bank money. This is taxpayer money. Taxpayers are funding loans for small businesses to cover things like payroll rent and utilities during the crisis. Okay something for taxpayers to think about. Let me ask you. What's the incentives for the banks to process all these small business loans so fees? We took a deep dive into the public financial records of companies and banks and we found the banks are making billions of dollars in fees. According to the programs rules banks can take anywhere from one to five percent of the entire loan and keep it as a fee depending on how much the loan is worth so any loan up to three hundred fifty thousand dollars. The banks get five percent of that money alone between two million ten million dollars. The banks get one percent of that money so for example the parent company of. Ruth's Chris Steak House. Got A ten million dollar loan from the program J. P. Morgan Chase which according to financial records process that loan thought one hundred thousand dollar fee for this one time transaction and remember these loans. Carry no risk for J. P. Morgan or the other banks. It's taxpayer. Money guaranteed by the small business administration and the loans require less work. The government is required unless vetting compared to WANNA bank lending its own money now banks do normally get fees for processing. Sba loans but not in this volume with these dollar amounts were over a two week period. And you've been looking into it in the dollar amount that you've found as I said is a ten billion dollars have gone to bank so far. Yes bring you break down. The value of the loans and use the formula government established is adds up to more than ten billion dollars in fees that went to the banks just in the past two weeks. So what are the banks saying banks saying? Well look. We're doing our job. We're supposed to get paid. So we reached out to some of the biggest banks involved in the program including PNC JP P. Morgan Bank of America. Some said they have to pay for thousands of employees that are working twelve eighteen hour days to get the loans push through and are now preparing or hoping for Congress to authorize another round. They said while betting might not be as thorough as it would be a regular bank loan. There is still significant document take like document. Collection Review Wells. Fargo says it's going to donate its money to charity but it was required to do that. As part of a government agreement falling problems bank had in two thousand eighteen. None of the other banks have said they intend to follow suit. So there's a really interesting question here. Which is that you know. Thousands of small businesses said. They were shut out. They couldn't get loans. Is there a reason to think that they didn't get loans? Because the banks knew they could make more in fees if they just worked with clients with really really large loans there are currently five class action lawsuits in California and New York alleging. Just that and the data does suggest more large loans were process before smaller loans but bank say that is simply not true. J. P. Morgan for one says they had different offices handling different loan sizes and there were simply fewer large loans so they were able to get through more them.

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Business owner applied 4 times for Paycheck loan — nothing

The Takeaway

00:44 sec | 1 year ago

Business owner applied 4 times for Paycheck loan — nothing

"Small business owners remain some of the hardest hit by covert nineteen help the federal government with three hundred forty nine billion dollars behind paycheck protection program back in March as part of its corona virus relief package run by the small business administration the program was designed to provide forgivable loans to small businesses to stay afloat during the pandemic but on Thursday yes BA announced that the money ran out and that the program would no longer be taking applications a lot of small businesses around the country were shut out frankly we don't even know how many meanwhile many big chain restaurants were able to secure loans like potbelly sandwich shop Ruth's Chris steak

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Angry small businesses: Shake Shack gets money but we don't?

Jim Bohannon

00:33 sec | 1 year ago

Angry small businesses: Shake Shack gets money but we don't?

"Ruth's Chris steak house harbored in the burger chain shake shack just a few of the big entities the cut payroll protection program money using a loophole while many small business owners left with nothing in the program ran out of cash shake shack is now returning it's ten million dollar government handout the very people who see the needed aren't getting it as soon as we get understand that we have other access to capital we had the opportunity to take care of our company for the long term we are returning our ten million Czech Czech CEO Randy Garutti on

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Under Fire, Shake Shack Returns $10 Million in Small Business Funds

Business Wars Daily

03:45 min | 1 year ago

Under Fire, Shake Shack Returns $10 Million in Small Business Funds

"Big news yesterday. Burger chains shake shack is returning. It's ten million dollars. Pp loan that people of course is short for the payment protection program. That's part of the Federal Government's cares act. It was touted as a bailout for small business. The low interest loans forgivable if at least three quarters of the money is used to keep workers on payroll but a number of large publicly traded companies including certain shake shack managed to get multimillion dollar loans before the program ran out of funds last Thursday that angered millions of owners of considerably smaller businesses. Who were locked out of the program? Here's what happened. The PPI was intended for businesses with fewer than five hundred employees. The Small Business Administration's definition of small business but it included a clause that allowed companies with multiple locations to apply as long as there were fewer than five hundred workers at each location shake. Shack is public company. Employing eight thousand people across close to two hundred stores in the US. It's valued at one point. Seven billion dollars according to Forbes but fewer than forty five people make burgers and fries at any single shake shack store that's far below the PP's single location cab. When the program was announced the company had already furloughed or laid off about one thousand workers so shake shack applied for the P and it turns out. They weren't the only multimillion dollar company to do so other applicants included. Ruth's Chris Steak House. Three hundred million dollar cruise line and four hundred million dollar data storage company and that's created a big problem for small businesses. According to Bloomberg two percent of the firms approved for loans got thirty percent of the total funds Solo preneurs and small businesses faced with the prospect of going out of business permanently. Were furious to learn that more than a dozen public companies with revenues greater than one hundred million dollars had received portions of the funds leaving little for them according to Bloomberg four inches. Ruth's Chris employs almost six thousand people. It's sales topped half a billion dollars. Last year. It received twenty million dollars in P. Money. Four hundred million dollar pot belly corporation chain of sandwich shops also employs six thousand people. It received million dollars in the low interest funds. Bloomberg's Ed but shake shack has since apologized for applying for the loan in an open letter. Sunday. Owner Danny Meyer and CEO Randy. Rudy said the. Pp's initial guidance was confusing. They wrote quoting here. The best chance of keeping our teams working off the unemployment line and hiring back are furloughed laid off employees would be to apply now in hoped things would be clarified in time close quote. They were losing more than a million dollars a week. At that time last week the company was able to sell equity on the public market and raise one hundred fifty million dollars as a result Meyer. Garate decided to return their peop- funds quoting again so that those restaurants who need it most can get it now. They said in a statement. They acknowledged their good fortune and having access to other funds and said until every restaurant that needs it has had the same opportunity to receive assistance. We're returning hours. Well responses ran the gamut from laudatory to highly critical some observers praised owner Danny Meyer is noble and pledged to be lifelong customers others were livid saying restaurant. Chains should never have applied in the first place. It'll take time to see whether public opinion will tilt toward shake shack or against it. However the company's actions received a hearty congratulations in one place by Monday. Evening it stock was up seven percent. In contrast. Ruth's Chris fell seven percent. Potbellies was also down by yesterday afternoon. No other major restaurant chains or public companies had stepped forward to follow shake shacks lead

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Gov't relief loans to restaurant chains draw complaints

AP News Radio

00:40 sec | 1 year ago

Gov't relief loans to restaurant chains draw complaints

"Business groups are crying foul after it was announced that some big restaurant chains have obtained loans under relief program meant to help businesses stay afloat during the coronavirus crisis the three hundred and fifty billion dollar program ran out of money on Friday Ruth's Chris steak house and pot bellies said they'd obtain the maximum ten million dollar loan under the paycheck protection program New York based burger chain shake shack which employs nearly eight thousand workers across a hundred and eighty nine outlets says it's secured alternative funding and will return its loan to get smaller restaurants a chance to get government money the trump administration and Congress are working on an agreement for an aid package that could include up to three hundred billion dollars to boost the loan program I'm Jennifer king

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Gov't relief loans to restaurant chains draw complaints

AP News Radio

00:30 sec | 1 year ago

Gov't relief loans to restaurant chains draw complaints

"The three hundred and fifty billion dollar program ran out of money on Friday Ruth's Chris steak house and pot bellies said they'd obtain the maximum ten million dollar loan under the paycheck protection program New York based burger chain shake shack which employs nearly eight thousand workers across a hundred and eighty nine outlets says it's secured alternative funding and will return its loan to get smaller restaurants a chance to get government money the trump administration and Congress are working on an agreement for an aid package that could include up to three hundred billion dollars to boost the loan program I'm Jennifer king

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Small business loan funds are tapped out

Slate Money

09:53 min | 1 year ago

Small business loan funds are tapped out

"Marriage. It's complicated to be amazing. The the upshot is it is complicated and some unknown percentage of Americans wound up getting stimulus checks this week at the same time as some unknown percentage of small business owners wound up getting the PC checks this week. Paycheck protection plan Not all of them have gone out yet. But I'm I'm assuming that within the week nearly all of that initial three hundred and forty nine billion will go out to small business owners. It is clearly not enough and while the people who didn't get stimulus checks on mostly super annoyed about I've seen some people saying like I got some weird windfall income in twenty. At and then. That means I'm not eligible but I should be eligible any any money like there are definitely people who should be getting stimulus checks in on the real anger. I'm seeing is from small business owners who just didn't have the right banking relationships and didn't manage to get their PCP applications in and they are just furious that money has run out and they aware they can end up with nothing. Fox is that thirteen point seven percent of the P P P loans went to the construction industry versus nine point one percent of the P P P loans which one small business owner told. My colleague stands for WHO Poop Poop then to the restaurant industry? Now the construction industry so far in March Last twenty nine thousand jobs and the restaurant industry march las four hundred seventeen thousand jobs yet. The construction industry was the F. top industry beneficiary ficiary of the PP loans. Which kind of I think is a very telling way of talking about how the program was poorly structured and like Felix was saying benefited those who had the good relationships with their banks over those who probably needed the money even more. But just don't have that kind of relationship aren't as savvy about applying through the money like there are some law firms that were out there. Like drumming up interest in getting these loans and Like a franchise restaurants like. Ruth's Chris. Steak House got Twenty million dollars. Pp loans also. It's just I think was a poorly show was definitely this weird carve out so to to be eligible for the people you need to be a small businesses with fewer than five hundred employees asterisk. And then this Astra's all you can be a restaurant with any number of employees so we screw steakhouse as five thousand employees and they managed to muscle up to different subsidiaries which they decided eligible for Ppo so they got twice the maximum and people are looking at them going look. You're a publicly traded company. This money was not designed for you and that twenty million dollars could have gone to a genuine small business which really needed the cash right now. But I think that there's a little bit of a false scarcity issue is not real scarcity issue. No it's a real scarcity that's been created but doesn't need to be. I don't think the issue here is companies getting too much money. I think the issue here is that it was too small to begin with. It shouldn't have been designed in such a way to go through the banking system. It should have. I think a lot of just been very similar to how we did the personal payments. I realize it's going to be harder if it was simply done. From the IRS sending out based on like corporate taxes but at the end of the day we need firms to get money. We can allocate so much more money to this than we already are so I think arguing between firms is less the issue the issue that we just need more money to go out and I think if they haven't at three hundred forty nine billion a lot of the anger an avatar would not be that like they're talking about another two hundred and fifty which I suspect also won't be enough but I also suspect that if they add another three hundred fifty or so then it probably will be enough so I don't understand why they're trying to sort of minimize the amount of money that they're spending on this when it's obvious that it's the outcome right now is deeply unfair and you need to allow the small businesses who didn't have the right kind of banking relationships to be able to compete on an equal playing field with the ones who did. And so why a eking out these trenches why they think well we'll give you three fifty and then if that turns out to be not enough we'll give you another two fifty and if that turns out to be not enough maybe we'll give you a little bit more just allocate like a trillion dollars or something and then any money left over you can back and use for something else. I mean it seems like there's a real prejudice against there's no other way to look at it and say oh the the federal government sees small businesses completely differently than the large businesses. That are able to tap into this all this this river of bed money and be okay and then making these small businesses kind of lake. Go begging for money. The there is a big family. Which is the big river of fed money for big businesses which is a big river of money and is actually working pretty well is loans all of it needs to be paid back every penny. The small businesses are not lunged at basically grunts dressed up as loans. And for that reason. You need to. You need to raise the money from Congress. You can just magic the money out of thin from the FAD and so congress is going to be sitting there going. Who Second Nettie is going. Oh this is you know fiscal blah blah blah. And so it becomes harder. One of the things I wrote about in my news out of this week was the way that the Federal Reserve and the Treasury been working together to really maximize the amount of money that is going into the economy but the P. Program is somewhere that really the Federal Reserve. Come help much. They they have said they're going to start buying up these. Pp Lennon's banks like Wells Fargo. Who really need to get mafia balance-sheets but that super marginal really you need Congress to allocate capital in Congress is about as functional as you'd expect it to be right now. Yeah so now. We're what's emerging is really this like to tear response to this crisis where small businesses and individuals are kind of left twiddling their thumbs. Not they're not getting the money they need right away. Small businesses are GONNA go under and businesses. Thanks to the Fed even notes loans are GonNa probably be okay are going to swoop in and take over there. They're going to be the ones popping up in where the small businesses kind of failed and at the end of the day. If we ever get out of this we're just GONNA see more inequality in the US. I mean the one thing I will say though is that like this has been there is so much more aid and so much more aid more quickly this time around than we've ever seen before in it is far from perfect. And I think we're all in agreement that this should have been structured differently in should've been structured better but I like I guess I would say that. Yes you know. It is probably likely that a lot of small businesses are going to fail and that is horrible. That shouldn't be happening. And that is going to be a fault of poor response a response but like I the one thing I will say. Is You know we are just really starting to see this money coming out now so we still don't totally know what the effect is going to be one thing. The one thing that we do know is the. I've been hearing from small business on this. Who Literally said I needed that? Pp money in the first trunch. If I didn't infest ranch I have to shut down. This is the big businesses in the S. and P. Five hundred. The biggest businesses in America is basically what the S. and P. Five hundred bouncing back up thanks to all of the liquidity that the Fed is providing. I think emily is absolutely right. That it is. This is one of those periods where inequality between businesses has been massively exacerbated in the big your balance sheet the more access to capital markets and generally the Ludger. You are the better off. You are with very few exceptions and there's no question that's going to be bad for everyone right. You have more of these big businesses taking over. It means more monopolies cornering different industries. It means lower pay for people at Wieden pay disparity. I mean it's really although if you look at men here like that the companies the I mean I look. I don't disagree with you in the sense that like. I don't think it's a good thing. If we have a bunch of small businesses going under I don't think it's a good thing if we have like greater monopoly power. I completely agree with you on that. Although the one thing I will say. Is that working for a larger company. You tend to be paid better that so the idea that if you tend to be the worst if it working for smaller companies and you have a large companies. This is one of the long term trends which is absolutely clear. Is that the total employment in the S&P. Five hundred has been trending downwards for decades. And you have you know. Large company says suddenly the trillion dollar companies out. There like Microsoft have a lot of employees. But they don't have nearly as many employees as like you know. Hundred Billion dollar companies did twenty years ago. And so. Yeah if you're lucky enough to work for Microsoft that's great but that's not the source of employment. Small Business is the real place where you tens of millions of Americans need to find employment and if small business fails on mass that's going to just completely decimate the employment situation in

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"ruth chris" Discussed on TalkRadio 630 KHOW

TalkRadio 630 KHOW

08:53 min | 1 year ago

"ruth chris" Discussed on TalkRadio 630 KHOW

"Let's go to the phones and let's talk to Ruth Chris I want to support business this is DTC Ruth's Chris steak house one of the most beautiful designers from ever seen not to mention the food Andrew I often wondered what are the high end and and when I say hi and I don't want to discourage people it's not like it's prohibitive or anything but it's a beautiful place to eat what are you guys doing well done right now we are we are we are trying to do the best we can for for our community and we are staying open as far as we're doing curbside deliveries so guests can call and and and and placed a to go order we've got a slightly condensed menu that makes it easy and and groceries and discounts and I just wanted to clear that lower offering discounts we're not offering discounts because we're trying to drum up business or offering discounts because you want to do the right thing we want to make sure that we're offering like you said the higher end demographics that an opportunity to still have some options for food during these times and the second part of of staying and doing that the end discounting is that the more that we can actually that we can serve the community where we can make money the money that we make we're gonna be able to keep our staff on our hourly scores one of my first long as possible and it's possible forever we need to keep people working I mean your wait staff must be suffering really they have to be made and they absolutely are they they are and you know they're there we have to take your two things I want to take ever family then we take care of our work family members yeah if you are working on so we have not you know really all over the city all over the city of we had to pick people hardest hit let's talk about that wait wait staff for service people the service industry all my goodness all over they they live on tips they live on service so even with curbside in this is not your fault of course even with curbs curbside delivery you're not getting the people to serve tables to make their tips and this has to be devastating for them they're still going to have read do what all of that and I think those are the people hard to sit as one guy called in if you're going to do a stimulus maybe we should target the industry's hardest hit but in any case curbside how did they find out about your current menu the best way to do is probably just as to call us directly at okay and and our our line land line here and then we'll we'll navigate from there and get them to where they need to speak today and and make it as easy as possible and is curbside you've been to a restaurant appliances all my god I love it your whole body in the front so they don't even have to come into the restaurant there's plenty of room for stuff with soft seating outside of the restaurant still away from the the the the weather and you know and that you know you can get at that same right Wally we we get fresh orders gave me the order every single day so it's we're not trying to get rid of old food by any means it's it's fresh every single day Ruth's Chris steak house at DTC what's the phone number it's three oh three eight five four nine three oh four and that's three oh three eight five four nine three oh four thank you very much we appreciate it three oh three seven one three talk Wayne what's going on with you Wayne they will not be real quick this is kind of convoluted I'm a retired police officer and we have a farm training business on your referral list yes you do all are all our instructors are law enforcement swat guys that type of thing M. do mostly safety trainings and conceal carry class in that type of thing so we try to increase our business by not only root for for all of us but also by money in a website so we had a gal Basil our website and she hosted on squarespace and he picked stripe as the credit card processor's so they could go on our website paper classes and clean right here for extra food that type of thing I don't sell guns a couple months after that I got a letter from stripe saying they're canceling my account while we're on this business and farmers you know all we do is safety training well the problem is where space the whole old poses my website only allows stripe and PayPal to do credit card processing now Suzanne gave me one eight oh wait a minute why is that they only allow a certain number of credit card processors yeah stripe and PayPal the only things were basically allow that's what the website builder she's telling me he's talking about integration time into is a point of sale but there is that he can still use another processor right use anybody in the world but he's got to manually enter payments it's not all automatic so he can't use it on his website for people visiting you know or tiny they can't the big dance gonna end up into them well what I'm saying is he couldn't take credit cards in a different way but it's not going to integrate into what he's doing right one okay we were so and will will none of them take it none of the approved processors take it or what what's the what's the idea well there gave me a referral from the credit card processor he said he couldn't do it and it looks great it's a great deal with them even better than strive but it's well I mean what more you do it why would he swears that he's he he's confusing all of us he what he's what he's saying is they won't be able to log onto his website and actually pay online he would have to receive it and do it a long antiquated way so here's what I'm asking again are there any people that process that they will allow that except firearms or or things to do with firearms is it well he is I can do it is by dumping squarespace and going to a different host company that will allow farms but the problem is she's telling me that she has to rebuild the whole website that's going to cost me over three grand again when I just pray that they have a website built well I don't know why that would be so I mean me too I don't your database and putting it somewhere else shouldn't cost three grand but I yeah that that doesn't make sense to us is it can't you just can't you just do everything through somebody else well I think we've got a couple of companies on on your referral if I'm not sure which one has expertise in posting a website or the the process being that type of stuff but are more willing to give a call see if they could help me out I did a lot there might be some recourse on squarespace or stripe you know I feel it's discrimination you know well it is of course it is there to add there are a lot of people that won't do marijuana business that's that's discrimination and they're allowed to discriminate a lot of people don't understand that discrimination is not against the law it's only against the law under very specific guidelines it is this idea that people can't discriminate it is mind boggling they can say we want nothing to do with your car business Sir we want nothing to do with your pop business or we want nothing to do with fire or they're allowed to do it that's thank god they are yeah I mean I don't I don't date yeah the biggest anything not legal I just think it's bad business do you think do you think it's unreasonable the whole the website builder accountable for any of this I mean the worst well hold on hold on if she picked this I knew you were in this business and that none of those processors would work with you I mean yeah I think so but what cost is it to you to have a new website yeah the way I understand it I have good to move Bob square space the somebody that will hold our critical also Sir here here's what I sell if you talk to mark we can get you a website through Mikey we could get you a website built for next to nothing you use our credit card processing and you know what you'll save so much money it'll make up for it you go I'm serious so we have a credit card processing company that will say and it's free integration free equipment free everything that I think that's what you should do I've been in a long term contract no long term contracts that you listen anybody listening right now if you need to cut costs.

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"ruth chris" Discussed on KHVH 830AM

KHVH 830AM

03:03 min | 3 years ago

"ruth chris" Discussed on KHVH 830AM

"There you have it i just gotta think from ruth's chris ooh that coming up they are going to have a remarkable dinner together oh are they wind in her in the studio and that's definitely going to happen because a goodfellas we'll be throwing that out there making sure we got that jim before we go on a cruise okay right okay i just want to anyhow ruth's chris it is a case wind dinner came as wine dinner boys thursday line us up june twenty first and you're not gonna believe this per person it's only a hundred and twenty five bucks for came as wine dinner the ruth's chris steak and wine and the wine here i'll give you the menu here you're going to start with first course is crispy lemon sole haraam allowed paired with there's that emmolo sumio fish okay thank you hey second is crab soup with tarragon crane on here the steak economist soleil reserve chardonnay or they make that chardonnay i didn't know that i love so they actually the goto chard third course is the pork belly cold feet haired with emotional merlo mela at wendy's anees ing that is the best deal on the wine out there yeah it's very inexpensive say three of the value the value per career and himalayan labels wonderful emmer low hammerlock never had an m m o l o bothering little deaf and tassled yes fifth course cut it out more a shock shortlived herm ruwais nerd with a beautiful red sanders mullebeck ala moana i mean hey mikey anyone ruth chris thank you where is it what did you say i'll have that for you know that menu with the chemist my gosh are easy oh man oh it was a silver silver oak so the air there's a cage free h special daniel this.

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"ruth chris" Discussed on Doughboys

Doughboys

01:37 min | 3 years ago

"ruth chris" Discussed on Doughboys

"Yeah it less i really like are now it's because the problem is that a lot of where you're going to eat is your pre association with what you what you want out of it yeah so if it's betrayed you it's hard to get past it i had a had an incident where i had spent bad spinach artichoke dip and some portabella mushroom portabella mushroom sandwich and it made me throw up and i just remember the feeling of spinach artichoke dip plus portabella mushrooms i remember the hit that puke flavor of compute coming back up and so i haven't aversion against like whatever reason that that specific dish that that kind of combo the spinach artichoke dip in and of itself i'm a little skittish oh but if there's portabella mesh rush rooms every anywhere nearby kind of have an aversion of that and then that particular restaurant stay away with stay away from for awhile and we also got ready nellie and i both got food poisoning after eating it a really good sushi place that we really liked and we never went we went there all the time we just never went back almost feels like that's a more justifiable thing sushi their entire things should be safety right okay even one laps is like no right we should go back but i also was a thing of just like oh it's such a bummer that this thing that we enjoyed a regular sort of haunt for us and they were just sort of like it wasn't that we were like we don't like this place where we don't wanna go back any more it was that we like we just didn't like we're trying to punish the business we like we're not gonna have fun going there because we have this aversion the you know it's funny because.

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"ruth chris" Discussed on Doughboys

Doughboys

01:51 min | 3 years ago

"ruth chris" Discussed on Doughboys

"What jean a big white chocolate fan interesting but i that the simpsons of the simpsons all right the chocolate molten lava can't get into business with that guy the chocolate lava cake that's like one of my favorite i love that dessert i i love that show chocolate cake like that is like one of my favorite things and if it's like well done which they they kinda just nailed it they nailed that version of that thing there could made maybe more fudging or maybe a little bit like like a little temperature could have been a little bit warmer but i i liked it i thought it was can i is that a problem across the boards with the meal sort of a question of he temperature and you know maybe i don't know like i kind of felt like is the was the cream spinach and the mashed potatoes like were they not hot enough and then was the sweet potato too hot was the thing there's some temp it was maybe all over the board in the temp the temperature there is a lot of guy at that restaurant i think probably goran with washing that stuff koran from zelda it's kalisa in the back seems to me out what what what were the options on that white for the other sauces cognac nutty fringe aleco raspberry chambord or coffee tia maria okay i don't think we got any of those just walk away chocolate sauce well let's get to our final thoughts on ruth's chris so andy here's all this work leach go around each sort of give our closing argument if you will summation of feelings about this particular chain and then close it off with a fork grading on the order of zero to five forks your guest we'll begin with you.

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"ruth chris" Discussed on Doughboys

Doughboys

01:30 min | 3 years ago

"ruth chris" Discussed on Doughboys

"I actually really appreciate that particularly when i when i then added an ice cream order to to the to the mass but that was a great that was a great add on you got three scoops of i think haagendazs bonilla mode like as was trained they didn't just or include it but they also had a weird i think it was on the chocolate thing yeah it would they had a thing that looked like it was a bowl of whip cream on the side but then beneath it was kind of a coffee pudding that was one of the two chocolates chocolate mousse do that makes understand and that wasn't as that was just fine but i thought the chocolate cake was an i'm such a sucker because i was so stuffed but that chocolate molten lava cake or whatever i loved that was very with mixing that ice cream in there that was a clear winner those were those were good this is pretty basic the white chocolate bread pudding didn't do much for i thought that was pretty good too but but i but i get your saying yeah i think especially when you start when you add the ice cream to it then it like and chocolate cake that took it up but not for me but i'm obsessed with white chocolate and we'll always immediately order this like a sucker white chocolate van it's a lot of split votes on white chocolate yeah people have very strong opinions polarized had a former boss who's really into chocolate i won't say who but tina fey not a white chocolate appreciator conversation with once and i was like i've made a grand missed.

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"ruth chris" Discussed on Doughboys

Doughboys

01:47 min | 3 years ago

"ruth chris" Discussed on Doughboys

"Tesla though he did ask i misinterpreted the question he was asking okay and do you want to keep the bone and i thought it was just to the table you want to have the bone there and i said oh definitely and then he put the bone on my plate and i felt like i dropped you guys that experience i know that was great you you you get that bone knock that bone into a glass spilt something for sure sure i was gonna say what's your steak number hashtag what's your steak number because i think we'll hear some interesting in cut what's it going for the cut hashtag what's your state cut so obvious that bone was comically big it wasn't do we take a picture with the bone trip if we took a picture of us like holding the bone silly you took a picture of abraham snapping dick pic table gift seeing lights going off from under the table thunderstorm under there we finished it off with a little dessert we had the white chocolate bread pudding which is do we get a choice of of of sauces because of the on the menu online at said we're gonna soy sauce that wouldn't it would've gone better with us and we just folksongs really punishing me through the whole wait a minute because it we it was a white chocolate sauce we just yeah we just got one sauce but i think on the at maybe at various different locations but on the la menu online it says therefore different sauces you can get and then the chocolate duo which was chocolate cake with chocolate mousse and then they had some berries on top chocolate molten.

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01:46 min | 3 years ago

"ruth chris" Discussed on Doughboys

"Club that was too high there was still too hot that's that is the thing here i like that the plates are all hot and stuff with you you might be careful because you can burn your can yeah well that presentation of the sizzling butter to me is is mystical love that yeah yeah well let's get into food a little bit so our apps we had the barbecue shrimp which was shrimp in in reduced white wine butter garlic and spice and we have the veal also buco ravioli which was suffering if he's boss was sauteed baby spinach and a white wine democ lays i like both these apps they're both modest portions like they're there you know for sharing honestly for three guys sharing food i think there were five shrimp there were five shrimp total there might have been six raviol there were five ravioli there were four revie four okay oh no there must have been five because you had to to you guys then you guys had yeah one and a half yet and i had one trip just be fair knows real gentlemen about when at eating because i actually listened to a little bit the morton's podcast and you would have preferred the jumbo or the regular shrimp cocktail right and you sort of let let it let it be sort of moved to the barbecue shrimp all defer to the table because i think you know it's it's i think we should all get something we enjoy if we were if if i was ordering something different but also it's like an opportunity to try something new and i thought the barbecue shrimp was good i thought the ravioli was also good grevy early maybe not what i would want in terms of an appetizer just because it's pretty heavy it's a strange it is strange appetizer and and i don't i don't normally eat feel it was it was good the india point out the sauces were very similar on wor.

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01:31 min | 3 years ago

"ruth chris" Discussed on Doughboys

"So they had there are two sauce options and i forget which the default is but i have the domino's pizza tracker open now and i think the default is the robust inspired tomato sauce but if you want something closer to the original sauce if you swap it out for the hardy marinara i believe that will get you closer to the original domino's pizza that's the one the one slight hack as far as crust goes i'm not quite sure i mean some people said the brooklyn style a i just closed the menu and put up my show nuts again but i think the the brooklyn style crust we've had some success with all the way i'm not sure how cleared how close to the original domino's recipe that was yeah yeah that was one of maybe that maybe that is maybe that is the closest i can't the the issue i have is i don't remember when i was seven years old i don't remember that i remember liking it yeah you need a time machine really 'cause you dealing it's going to be the that's the first step right we'll get a time machine but yeah they use their time machine well but it's going to like like adult wag around seven year old me from italy which one which pizza do go back in time tip off whitey tone that gets cotton santa monica boy help them out i appreciate that but that's a lie i'll never.

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01:49 min | 3 years ago

"ruth chris" Discussed on Doughboys

"Okay no matter what the time spent yeah it's a long way for me it's gonna be a lot of word already checked but the way when my met meyer on the on the star trek podcast he casually said oh i'm going to be a doboy so i'm like what are you gonna be a doboy i was already talking to them about being on dope boys what happened to my invite and he said did you talk to nick and i was like no to be fair i got you on here i do my own i could do some stuff on my mitch booking and i appreciate it you know what that fire lit under you you got you got the job done fucking and this this episode also fucking real fire under you up nice wait what were you say i was gonna say this that just a cork of scheduling this your episode actually be out before myers episodes requirement myra don't even listen to my episode that hurts you guys but i don't care hey i'm i'm cool that a wider book all right so you guys mentioned the the that that the the changing overtime i'm not specifically sure about pizza hut because pizza didn't have the domino's thing we're domino's completely like made a big marketing changing my way we make our pizza kind of almost with apologies in some way was they were like it was very it was weird but apparently very successful but coca cola which made a big push and then everybody turned on them interesting distinction yet i think that the issue is that that people didn't have like a fierce loyalty dad domino's as it existed for us.

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02:03 min | 3 years ago

"ruth chris" Discussed on Doughboys

"Yeah have it but i grew up with ray's pizza and the the classic great pizzas so and i maintain deforest pizza in south brooklyn if you guys haven't been is i maintain the greatest pizza in the world and i've been to naples and had pizza there believe it's the greatest in the world right and it's being made by i don't remember his name but he's he's been making each pizza himself for sixty years and is is there so get there fast guys longline right it's a pain in the ass it's very far but it's to me one hundred percent worth anyway so yeah coming from new york i think it definitely was different and i can only assume it was kind of a prison mentality of like there's pizza here i don't care what the pizzas built in my head a taste for it and i think with pizza hut also i wonder do you guys know if they the formula certain point because i remember back then there was a crispiness like an oil filled crispy crust that was unlike anything else i'd had an i feel like i've had it recently and it's not quite the same so i don't know if they made it healthier this crazy thing that we talk about on this podcast of like which it it's it's such a weird thing because they were still chains when we had them when we were kids or whatever but nick and i always point out the difference like between having domino's in ninth say nineteen eighty nine or something as opposed to now where there was a huge i mean there was maybe it's maybe it's also the the food was bland or back then or whatever and may maybe if we had it now oh this was still not good but if it felt less like hallett's different than yes like also that could be a factor in it but it felt less processed felt more kind of pizza like and i like domino's pizza but now also aren't there like a million different.

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"ruth chris" Discussed on Doughboys

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02:01 min | 3 years ago

"ruth chris" Discussed on Doughboys

"We weren't family that would really soon my parents will never hear this i we weren't a family that would really spend a lot to go to fancy places or so there were certain that we would we would sort of go to mid level restaurants probably like beefsteak charlie's and not as often go to franchise restaurants yeah i mean that that was that sounds similar in terms of just just a and i'll say this about my dad my dad is very cheap and so when we would always when we went out to eat which was rare it was never like we never went to like a fancy schmancy place it was always like you know honestly like it might be like a chili's like tear thing that might be like a place to go out to get dinner sort of pretending to be yeah a real restaurant but it's really not yeah exactly you're a wise guy you said it was like that was way back that's untrue my father was a college professor so disgusting you kill somebody to look at my dad is pretty good vs that sounds like my dad did because i was gonna say he was a wise guy he wasn't wise guy hd and chemistry and i was going to say how to add something of a peripheral connection to the underworld because as a chemistry professor he knew guys who ended up cooking meth for profit wow and one of them i think one guy died in a boat explosion and another guy was arrested and like actually my dad's first boss at i think maybe the maybe fresno state university was arrested as for like running a meth lab and like went to prison and my dad later in a weird situation befriending the lawyer who prosecuted him.

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01:51 min | 3 years ago

"ruth chris" Discussed on Doughboys

"The the the the pacific is cold and you just kind of like run right into not there's very beautiful coastal areas and in california and stuff i just i prefer the atlantic ocean but just a narrow the field you are you are you saying you you would say that that say the east coast boston new york area narrow it is better than the los angeles yeah i mean because of the warmth specifically i like how east coast is warmer than to go on to me all ocean water is equally freezing yeah baby but is there another opinion on the shows that i dislike sharks in wish they would be wiped out which i don't really wish sharks to be wiped out but you know there'd be no shark but yeah be would be nice be rounded up good still eat fish they didn't have any teeth how hard is that they still catch them in similar ways i don't know anyways the i can't believe i used to swim freely in the in the in the league ocean where you you grew up in new york yes and we my parents had house on fire island to okay let's because he because let's talk about growing up on manhattan's specifically because it's what is that what i know of manhattan enable only ban as a as an adult is that it's kind of like obviously as a unique sort of food scene but like our chain restaurants like are the fast food chains or were they when you were growing up as present like could you find just like a wendy's or a pizza hut where we're we're a lot of these places not present in in that part of new york.

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01:48 min | 3 years ago

"ruth chris" Discussed on Doughboys

"Well not everything no everything the mexican food i didn't mean who make globally just the ocean got the ocean they tried to recreate that mitch opinion i do have the you do think that the atlantic ocean is better than the pacific ocean the atlantic ocean is better than the pacific ocean but i think some man transport at the landing ocean over in named the pacific ocean no literally that god atlantic ocean pacifico because here's the things pacific ocean first of all why been waiting around in that shit so second of all it's coal it's too cold you think it would be like the the pacific ocean honestly because of the what's what's it called i was gonna say jet streams which is incorrect the the way that the water flows it comes down from the north the what what is what does that the what is what am i looking for here why you're i don't know what you're what term your whatever the the water might be jetstream the flows down from the northern atlanta stream the atlanta stream and then and then in and the atlantic ocean it comes up from the south so the water is warm like enough fascinating so i so i always thought that like in the ocean currents and also you know i think at stream is wind apparent yeah jetstream as we went so i think i think for real that the the temperatures are actually pretty close but then on the east coast when it's the summertime it's very hot and humid and you go in the water it's great and here you don't you don't have as much as that humidity it just feels colder it's a big sky.

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01:31 min | 3 years ago

"ruth chris" Discussed on Doughboys

"Intimate which is unusual for for la places and tight squeeze in there and that kind of almost familial kind of feeling and a little bit grimy and like the post kind of torn up and everything but but yeah i think it's a really good affective vibe and i think the i guess we're gonna probably most likely going to get into talking about stakes but it the food some of it is really great some of it is is is accurate to a lot of italian places from old school new york because it's like they'll give you a side of spaghetti and marinara right and you'll be like ooh this is exciting and it's like no this spaghetti is just sort of the most basics yeah this is great spaghetti with a really solid stake it's aspe getty with the celled steak yeah and it feels like spaghetti that was like put in a stranger like mere moments and then feels very wet writing in in canada like it's fine i feel like it is a good version of that but then also i feel like you can get better places like that on on the east coast in new york obviously in everywhere in boston i'm not yeah under saying like there are better places in there are places that are more authentic than that oh yeah yeah it's an imitation everything in this ten is yeah and imitation by people who are from the east coast.

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01:33 min | 3 years ago

"ruth chris" Discussed on Doughboys

"Ding when he was here he zome so it's so in hiding he was he was on the hate in turnover on anybody that wasn't he wasn't protected by the state no he was he was on the fbi the ten most one of the way you gotta wait gotta wait for like people thought he was gone gone and he was at been dealt with in a movie that's a fascinating whitey bolger hiding out in los angeles fascinating they did and i've talked about my history with this neck right yes yes okay well recap i i grew up with someone whose father was associated with that in some way but i don't want to bring up specific names right you don't wanna get wacked of your own mom it's called spank literal but but yeah yeah i mean obviously that was big news back in the department is kind of like a little take on their elements in the department isn't as whitey bolger basically and then and then there is actually the the black mass movie which wasn't great was the real thing was like less interesting yeah yeah reason things are fictionalized that's like that whole thing because they they had the moby dick was fictionalized and then they had they made a there was that movie that fuck what was that recent boat movie that was like the real story dick and then it was just like well this is interesting it was called hey there's a white whale.

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01:55 min | 3 years ago

"ruth chris" Discussed on Doughboys

"The welcome to doboy the podcast about chain restaurants i'm nick wider alongside my co host the golden state buffet killer msci two spoons mike mitchell the golden state buffet hillary idea like the golden state killer except what you slay is buffets golden state gill kat kat yeah recently recently as of this the episode will come out about two weeks after that news thomas scott said that insult in if you have an insult you like museum the show rose spoon manage email dot com scott great scott bad scott wider kristen at the end of this you've got an oscar winners name backwards lou wait at a who wouldn't it kristin scott thomas what the hell the english patient what would puzzle games are going up and your head you said great scott thomas mine was just a great scott reference to the back to the future okay would you you understand that i thought we were playing with the name guns they kat yet somehow you're still in front of me come on he's an old man most of those murders happened before i was born michelle mcnamara wrote a book about him yeah and apparently had something that that had led that plus dna evidence collected on apps as partly how they tracked him down this is all context that you probably got from some news article you don't hopefully you're not learning this news from us this is we're not adding anything right now do you know let them go oh boy.

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