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"rushworth kidder" Discussed on THE BRENDON SHOW
"People in productivity, always ask the first question, they say, well, Brandon. How do I evaluate? Things. Because I'm a productive person. But you know what happens to me is I keep getting distracted or I keep I don't know which one to do I've got two good options. I'm not sure which one to do. So I if you have that dilemma a lot in your life. To good options than simple recommendation I have for you. There's a theorist writer and a trainer named Rushworth Kidder Kidder K. I. D. E. R. Kidder. Who wrote a book called? How good people make tough decisions? And he taught that. There's really only four difficult decisions because almost all the time look if if there's a good decision, bad decision. That's easy. If you know we all know good and bad decisions. That's easy wants to make the difficult decisions are when there's good. Versus good. And you got to choose between two good options which ones do choose teaches value framework for about how to decide that by teaching you. You've got to consider there's choices that are individual versus community. This about you that you want to do versus maybe your family or your team, he talks about justice versus mercy short term versus long term. Talks about value and lots of other different frameworks, read the book, but it really inspired me to go. I got to come up with my own frame. How am I going to decide? Between two good options. and. I want you to develop your own as well. I'll share with you. My shorthand. I, got to frameworks that helped me every single time. They're like back, Napkins things that can do that really helped me decide between two different things because I get offers all the times you can imagine them like. It's can be overwhelming, and so here's how I do. The first ones might sort of simple and famous equation. It looks like this. This is my magical sword hand. That helps me so much the terms of any deal, the terms of any deal. has to be less than. Roi A plus. V plus. L PLUS PD. Okay, next up. The second of your here, it's a super simple one. Okay. I got option a option B.. I'm going to run them both through this equation and whichever one wins is the one I'm most likely to choose if I, if they're really close, I'll run them through the second framework I'm GonNa show you. So the first one is easy. Time. Energy. Resources. Money. This means the terms of any deal have to be lessened. So in other words what I put into something. I'm put into something has to be less than what I think. I'm going to get out how many follow their utilitarian right? Very utilitarian value here if I'm going to put a bunch of stuff in I better get more out. Okay. And what I found is if I have a deal and I'm going to put a bunch of time into it or energy or resources or money. I better, get more out of it. But what my magical thing was was the s this is the one. No one ever thinks about and everyone's screws up and they make decisions. A lot of utilitarian minded people very logical. Very, logical strategic people make decisions based on time energy resources money, and they forgot the s in the equation, and you have to think about every bad decision. You ever chose versus something else. He said I wish I wouldn't have done that you just did not consider this thing called. Sanity. How much time? Energy Resources Money Insanity. Am I going to have to put into this thing? And I really got to think about that because how many you've ever did a deal with something where it literally you had to work with someone who drove you insane. Like I've turned down major television shows because of the producer teams and I was like, no great money, great output. But the input of my own sanity, it would've driven me crazy entrepreneurs make this mistake especially all the time. You don't think about how much craziness. Into something you just get attracted to the time energy resources money. You're not thinking about the lifestyle or the community or other things that could really shape how saying it is. Right? That's one thing I'm proud about with what we do. We make this very sane, calming, comforting community. We step by step it scary because I think a lot of other people. It's just easy to get attractive things that drive you insane and I think it's important for you all to care about you're saying, so you can bring the. Yes. Okay. So whatever time energy and resources money and Sandy, I, put it in something has to be. This is less than sign. I learned that math once. has to be less than what I get out of it in terms of Roi that means return on investment. So this is a straight one to one whatever I put into it I better, get that out investment. I. Better. Get that out. Better, save some time bill, my energy bill, my resources or money. Or I don't want to do it. That's straight up return on investment, and then F V is where most people fail to have strategy F.. E. Stands for future. Value. Never do anything just for our wide. This is where they wreck kids in business. School. They rackham because we're still teaching straight up balance sheet mentality in the world. That's why our relationships are wrecked because we're trying to have a balance sheet scorecard with our spouse. We're trying to equate things out with our spouses, how's that working for you? and. So we start ruining our relationships because we are trying to get that balance sheet. Just even in real life, we want future value built into deals, I, want you. You're going to do something I. Want to look out and say, well, that's going to benefit me in one year two, year, three, year, four, year five, like I can see how that moving that piece right now, that's going to be a building block that's going to serve me later on, and if you can't see that whatever deal you're doing as.
"rushworth kidder" Discussed on Veteran On the Move
"So sage next topic would like to cover is the importance of integrity in a leader. Yeah I I guess This really hit me again going back to my days as a as a Midshipman one more instructors was a marine and always a Korean War veteran might have been World War Two veteran as well but in any event as one of those times when when the instructor can kind of get off subject to talk about what we were there for which was to go out as a second lieutenants are insincere and lead sailors marines and his words were still with me and he said some of those who choose to come in the Marine Corps may find yourself in a situation where you're giving orders that will cause the men that you're leading to die and it isn't asking too much of you that they perceive you to be a man of integrity and just hit me and I thought you know that's yeah they make and then later in combat. I thought John I'm on orders from from other people. Do I consider them to be men of integrity and is just? It can't be a thing of well. I don't think your personal tech you're not going to carry out your order but it certainly makes it eat that easier to say. I'm willing to put my life on the line because I believe that. This leader is a person of integrity and so that always stayed with me so in a talk given on leadership about Would lead should be. I say that they should be leaders of morality as well as integrity and the question comes up. What was the difference between Morality and integrity? And then I asked the question. What do you think get different answers? And I said well let me share with you. A book called Rushworth kidder. Called how good people make tough decisions and his position is that morality is a choice between right and wrong. Good and bad Con Easy to distinguish sometimes difficult to carry out. The you know the right thing but it's you know black white you know find you know. There's a line between the two. The challenges that ethics is a choice between right and right and all you get puzzled. Looks right and right. How can you have a choice between right? And he said well think about this Kidder said that It's life. We have a kind of a constant ethical dilemma in four different areas and those areas are justice versus mercy honesty versus loyalty short-term benefit versus long-term benefit the good of the individual versus the good of the group on each one of those were comparing or having to choose between not right and wrong but right and right and that's what makes it so difficult. It's the ethical dilemma. Because whatever right that you choose the back of your mind is the fact that you rejected another right. So did you choose the the correct writer and I assure fans on you know honesty versus loyalty. You know how many of us have ever been in that situation class classmate loyalty you know you. Don't rat on a friend and all those things but but ours were supposed to also be pupil. Honesty of honor Justice versus mercy. How many of your parents nominee have run up against that of of ensuring that your child goes up to be a person of integrity But understands that there's got to be justice but to do so without breaking the spirit or will that child says got to be the mercy part of that as well and then the long term versus short term. You know we understand that. And then of course the good of the vendor vigil versus the good of the Group. All of these are rights. They all begin our start with the you know the good of the benefit of So that's that's the challenge. How do you get that? You know that's not. Don't you through training? That's done through education. That's done through the way we were raised. You know what's Okay and what's not. Okay it's reinforced by the culture. In which relocated Marine Corps culture has motto Semper Fidelis. Semper always not when I get around to it or one is when is okay or when you know. It's it's convenient it's always. It's the basis for any relationship of of permanence and then fidelity faithful honest loyal. All of those things that are necessary that We want I said the dollar is a term. We don't use much these days but during the past it was a fairly common term. In fact we used to name our dogs. Fido rid of fidelity fight on the that the loving caring that the companion that that faithful Loyal the being that we have with US final and then remind people that know cat has ever been named. Fido which is kind of apology to cat. Lovers cut up. But that's the the idea that you have these challenges and to be a person integrity means that you you make the right call and the desk developed through education through the things that we read the culture in which the people that we stronger sauce with. Are you surrounded by people that that you see also people of Integrity? That that you're comfortable with that you know are going to make the right call on it you. You would not feel ashamed to say. Gee I made this call because You know I just thought that was not not that big a deal. I mean all. These things are necessary in the development of leaders and But especially that role of integrity. Who wants to follow a person without integrity? You know what are the value of his or her decisions that are going to cause us to put our lives on the line and so the leader just has to have integrity and in my mind absolutely. It's a good stopping. We're GONNA take a quick break Quebec. If you've got business travel coming up vacation time or going on leave. Now's the time to make your reservations for Spring and summer travel with American forces. Travel serving you in helping your military family. American forces travel is an exclusive website and a deity partnership with priceline powered by priceline and built for veterans and active duty. American forces. Travel can save you money on flights. Cars and hotels support your branch of military at the same time. 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Dogs are and how grateful that God made them in that that the dog chose to be on on our side of the hugh the split between animals and humans absolutely so what other Do you have some examples of tough decisions that you may you've made in your life in regards to write versus rate? I'll I'll share with you. An example of of one that Things kind of emergency. I was at headquarters. Marine Corps Got A call from General Krulak my dearest friend and he had this situation he said this is a heck of a story. The story goes back to World War. Two and there's an Irish lad from Chicago was in the army when off to to England in preparation for the the big invasion and fall in love with the IRS girl and The Gut Murray conceived a child he went off and fought came back. The marriage Fell apart so they got divorced and he came back to Chicago in one thousand nine hundred sixty six the mother because of the troubles that are taking place in an Ireland context. Father and says listen on this kind of dangerous spotter. Would you mind if we sent our son To live with you at Chicago and the father said sure no problem so the sun shows up kicks around for a while gets bored and decides to join the Marine Corps nineteen sixty six. If you joined the Marine Corps. There was one place that you could be fairly certain you're going to go. And that was Vietnam Right. So he's about to ship out and he says Gee I probably ought to call my mother and told her about this Hide and listen. I I got kind of bored. Here's Soy Joined the Marine Corps. She said you what I didn't send you the United States. You could join the Marine Corps and go into into dangerous situation. You get your little Irish but backyard. Harlan immediately and so he does he. He deserts background so and is now she would assist about nineteen ninety one or so maybe a ninety two and There's a wedding in Chicago. They're going to fight. All the relatives. Include this individual. Who's no ma'am issues up in immigration and a pops up deserter. So they take him away and change to the dude adjudicator whose General Krulak in Quantico. So they bring him in and and is he's bad shaven so generally calls me and says what do you think about this? Is that the Guzman Bad Chevy said a couple of heart attacks. He's not survive prisoners of but my lawyer just saying I got hammered the sky. You've got a standard example for for the rest of the ring card is I'm Kinda Kinda wondering you know. What what do you think about this and joy swear to God? That immediately in my mind was a palm not a poem but a Soliloquy that sister Marilyn my freshman year in high school made us memorize in was from the merchant of Venice and it was with Porsche's saying the quality of mercy is not strained it dropped with as a gentle rain from heaven upon the place.
"rushworth kidder" Discussed on THE BRENDON SHOW
"What a great fun time we would have have you ever made a bad decision your career and you just honest you knew it you knew it so own that listen to that too intuition i'm here to tell you you know more things the new give yourself credit there's wisdom in you listened to that wisdom and you much more often and if you're really struggling to you this tool a book by rushworth kit or k idd e r so we're favorite books of all time it's called how good people make tough decisions how good people make tough decisions by rushworth kidder k idd e r and rush taught more people about ethics than anybody else in history of thought leadership and just incredible book how good people make tough decisions and we'll help you figure out what is right because it's hard right he says that it's it's difficult to choose sometimes between two things that are both right the easy decisions of life are right and wrong the tough decisions of life are right and right and he says you know casino sometimes is right for you to do your own thing individual value and sometimes is right for you to help others social value and sometimes those values conflict right sometimes you want justice on something but you also know you should be merciful sometimes you know you want something in the short term but you know compromises the long term and this is the book about how to navigate all of that so make sure you read that and you listened to your intuition next is there a real need now many you guys are probably gotten a deadline email from me the fast and here's the story abide when someone says to me they need something of that person said i need something on thursday i write them an email back its in highperformance habits the actual email so steal it and use it but it says some i don't remember these accurate but sessoms affected this thank you for letting me know that you would like this on thursday may i ask you a question could you tell me the.