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"robin dearden" Discussed on Double Date with Marlo Thomas & Phil Donahue
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"robin dearden" Discussed on Double Date with Marlo Thomas & Phil Donahue
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While i'll bet i think i really would have resented having two kids when he would be gone like six months or go off into a movie or right and and how did you get through that well as a progressive enlightened male i said well i think it's fair that you should have two votes and i'll have one vote so because of the tautological tissue out for so i said i said well maybe when taylor is one years old i'll bring it up when she's two years old are bringing up and after that i won't bring it up but we know okay but we did go to therapy for that and i learned something really interesting about you at at that is i had yes. We're getting deep into him wanting more children. So much and me being fine with not the therapist as brian. Why do you think this is so important in you. Had this epiphany of 'cause. I only think of a family as my siblings because his parents were so fractured that us only having one was not a family. I really relied on my brother. Who's two years older than me. During the fracture of the family he was like it was running defense and blocking for me and figuring things out together and we're very very close for a long long time. I thought boy. I really needed my brother. Are little sister needed us to at times to take care of her to babysit when mom was drinking too much. Or whatever you know. So that's what i kept thinking. It's not for me. It's for taylor. I thought it's better for to simply. I don't disagree with you. I think that that's what do you think it's not too late. Baby sure big deal. That's that's amazing. Having a change your marriage a lot by having a baby by oh yeah well. Because i did have a one is forty because i did have major complications. It took me a year to even feel quasi-normal again just wrecked me. It just totally wrecked me. And that was part of a to i. Just don't wanna go through that again. It was just deprived. You of the joy of motherhood didn't for a while. I mean not from to nothing on from two years old on that first year it was really really hard was really hard but brian is home. Then he wasn't gonna wasn't going through. Oh yeah and it's like we'll just do this. We'll just get through this. That's who he is that in everything he's like that there was another point. His grandmother was in dementia in a home and she had to go to the bathroom and he said i'll help you. And she said owner and okay. She wasn't really sure who he was and she said. Oh no no. I'd be too 'cause oh grandma don't you know i'm a doctor. Now she went. Okay so good. And how was it about about robin. That made you think part of it was just the the the person that she is that she still has a joyous appreciation for simple things for just life a good positive outlook. She wasn't cynical or sarcastic yet. She was funny. She was beautiful. Still is and the character of a person is what you should hit your wagons to. What are the choices you make when times are tough. Is there an example. Well it's interesting because one of our first fights was when she had this boyfriend and we were now getting together and she hadn't officially told the boyfriend that didn't live in los angeles that this was not going to go any further. And i thought you know this. I'm sensing something sensing something here. I tell them. I lost my voice. I physically lost my voice. Tone is such a psychological while it was like i got laryngitis so to speak i guess so. Did you believe it well. I was having a difficult time and rightfully rightfully. So yes. thank you for. I was in the right on here completely but they were asking. What is it about me that you love so thanking big mistake. Just doing better. You're probably right. What would you pass on to a young couple. Who's about to be married that you've learned being able to laugh. It's really important to me. And then the other thing is just say. Sometimes i'm your best friend. I've got your back. Don't forget that And i think if you can both remember that what about you. Mr. you have to know that you fall in love before you attempt this now. it's sounds overly simplistic because well of course we'll but really being love and take the time to really desire that person to miss that person sometimes separation is not necessarily a bad thing and to find out how you truly feel at your core if.
"robin dearden" Discussed on Double Date with Marlo Thomas & Phil Donahue
"Interpreters the thing is mental. Health has always been viewed as weakness. Yeah sure that if you need therapy of your character is in quite if you need therapy it must. You must be crazy. I tell people all the time when there's really when you go to therapy and say yeah i said let me let me ask you you drive a car. If you're the red light on your car said engine trouble would you stop. Open up the hood and start dickering. Of course not. i don't know where to begin. What makes you think that you can fix your marriage if that warning light is on and that's all it is right. Just the caution like hey this and so we actually use the phrase we need a tune-up that's great. That's just go get it to them. Most people go through life completely unconscious and they don't understand why they run into a bus and then and you run into a bus in your marriage. You went into a bus raising children. You have a daughter and and did you. Were you good co-parenting. Would you argue about that or did you have to find a pattern for that. We didn't know we've never we haven't really had How do you find that style. You know to. You know it's making it sound like we haven't had any not down drag out fights and believe me we have. That's you do. We've been married thirty years. Well of course. Brian wanted more children. And i didn't..
"robin dearden" Discussed on Double Date with Marlo Thomas & Phil Donahue
"This foot. Martha's came old and i couldn't reach. Is this a horror movie improv. It was it was. It was very very work out too. Good thing she said yes. How embarrassed out of that. A lot of sincerity in that. You know you're not just another girl that's worked. So what what. We'll let me put it this. How do you fight. Everybody has their way that they fight and how they make up from a fight. Because i'm italian and lebanese right. And he's irish. We have a very different way of fighting We've had to learn over nears actually to fight so without you know something going to say. I have a feeling that someday we just nothing left. Put an eyelash some white hair. They were. So how would you say. Style i would. I say that. I'm the moodier of the two of us. He's crankier than i am. I am not issues. Steadier comportment and personality than i am funds. I pout yeah is she is learning to not take things too seriously and to let things go. I have learned to identify when the train is going on the wrong track early so that it's not so far down the road that you go. Ooh i've made a mistake. And i'm sorry and now we need to back up a trains to get on the right now. I need to learn to go. That's the switch. Start start making adjustments now as opposed to holding onto that and letting it go too far down the road. That's a great visual to think about a. There's a switch that you can stop this now. That's a big deal. Yeah you know. Alan alda said in the middle of a fight. He has to say to himself. But she's the one i love. I have to back off this. Know i actually. I actually love her. I need to do this. Billy graham ones. Have you ever considered divorce never murder. Have you guys ever thrown a divorce word around. Never because then you're you're you're holding ready and if you're thinking that then there's a problem right but or to use it. Go help as a couple. We we firmly believe in getting help as a cop. Oh yeah absolutely earlier little late really before you married because you thought what because we were both in our thirties. Because i recognize that. I had gotten myself into situations where i'm in a relationship and i don't wanna be again and again and again and i'm thinking wait a minute what. Why is this pattern happening to me. Slow down and pull it back but if you do find someone who you really know as i did with robin okay. Now i don't wanna mess this up so i'm impressed with your insight that time of your life. Where did that come from when we went into therapy was before. You're married because brian used to say to me. I love you. I know i wanna marry you. I just don't know when us thirty four so there was a part of me that was going. But you're assuming. I'll still be here right and that made me mad because it was like i thought it was always. I got it right. So right what else. Should i say no. You're lucky that she cared announced this amazing that the timing of any couple can work out. I now i was on phil show promoting something and he said to me on his show. How how does a go like you not get married. I was like thirty six or so at the time. And i said i'm getting married. Have no intention of getting married. And he's really on the right so we started dating great. She has no intention perfect. So i don't know about seven eight months and he asked me to marry him. I said you crazy. Just i'm not ever getting married. So that he never brought it up again and like three years of and i said i kinda like to get married. You know it was like he was smart enough to like okay. Fine just wanna get married. 'cause you weren't saying i don't want to have a relationship with you know. I was crazy about him. I was what you call candy broken. And i used to say about our boyfriends. I'm crazy about him. But we never that. I would love with everybody. I didn't admit the love part until we actually broke up for three months because it was so hard i was in. La was in chicago with his show and it was so much trouble to get together. It was exciting as hell would interviewed. Make out in the airport but it was. It was terrible in many ways. It said you know what this is just too much and so we did. We broke up and in those three months of being part. I thought there's nobody. Yeah but him and he called me in the middle of the night and he said. I never thought anybody could be this irreplaceable. Now we both cried on the phone. You allowed yourselves to slow down right separate right and really experienced the loss what you had to lose if you weren't to write early on because we both wanted it to work. I came up with an idea that would take the decision making out and that is if either one of us said i want us to go in to see the therapist there is no discussion to it and we agreed upon that early on so whenever anyone says it's really important to me. Okay you back off. it's like let's set it up. What are you and she is almost always the one to say. I think we need to go in. And it surprises me really. Yes it's important to me and just the idea of being in that environment and offering up a thought a notion of feeling that comes to you and sharing it right and having somebody. Who's who's not in impartial. Basically and looking at both sides. And how i receive information how. He receives information interpreter..
"robin dearden" Discussed on Double Date with Marlo Thomas & Phil Donahue
"Dates to find out what makes a marriage last. What a crazy afternoon in new york. The day we met bryan cranston and robin dearden. Oh god i remember. Brian was starring in the hit. Broadway production of network and the kurt was going up in just a few hours. So we had a very narrow window of time to visit with them at their apartment or men are cabdriver. Took us to the wrong address and it was rush hour. We were almost a full hour late. It was just the worst no time to kind of warm up to each other wonderfully into the wrong that yes and no idiot lately from discombobulated never late especially. You were rattled but brian was so relaxed. Nifty as curtain. Yeah that's ahead. Once we got our act together we dove in by talking about their parents marriages. All seven of my parents marriages were wonderful. My my mom was married four times. My dad was married three times. They had numerous boyfriends and girlfriends. And yeah so in many ways. My parents taught me what not to do. This kind of lazy attitude into marriage didn't work wherever you from from. La born and raised out there. And so you kind of against marriage no. I was married once before. When i was twenty three and then i got married again when i was thirty five. I think i was thirty. Five thirty three so ten years after my trial so it didn't scare you off marriage in fact that there were all those marriages no no. Because the woman that i married wasn't a bad person. She was a lovely person. It just it just was the wrong time. And i wasn't in love with her. And i i think i took a very casual look at it. It wasn't fair to her. Wasn't fair to me. Fortunately we didn't have any children and she went her separate way and remarried and has a life and the life she wanted. Let you and what about your family. I came from the complete opposite of his. I had leave it to beaver. I was raised in whittier. Little tiny town nixon's hometown. I'm a native californian too. I never wanted to get married. It wasn't a high on my list and my parents never instilled in me. The need to be married. We grew up in mostly are formative years in the seventies and the the sexual revolution in the sixties busted open and the seventies sort of celebrated that kind of looseness and you got waylaid and off track. I think a lot by fun. Yeah by fun and by freedom and convincing yourself that you may be in love with someone when you're really not and you may not have that much in common with them and now you're in so deep you like. Oh how do i extract myself. I got married very and then afterward. I realized oh i've made a mistake and i realized then find do this again. I really have to know what i'm doing and be in love so then you met on a set right. We met on a on a really terrible television show called air wolf which starred a helicopter and and i was a bad guy of the week on this episode. She was the victim of the week. I kidnapped her and held her for ransom and other women say how sexy you had a gun on her threatened to kill her or dater. We met on air wolf. We didn't start dating that. It was a year later that we ran into each other in improv comedy class and and got to know each other and got to be friends. But i think we were. We were lucky we were guided to this the year. The at the time that we met we had a girlfriend to. She had a boyfriend so we were able to just not have the tension. I should make a move and ask her out and were able to just a fun and flirt. And and that's nice and we just kind of slowed into it as opposed to over extending yourself physically making that commitment and then having to backtrack to figure out who this person is who you just have relations with. That is so new. Are we fool ourselves. And we'd go. Oh my god. I'm doing this again. And then i went to oxford for a summer and he came over and he stopped at oxford and and i went. Oh it's you. And i've never felt that way my life. If you mean. I can't explain it except that it was just this reaction to oh i do. I do wanna get married and i wanna marry you. That's so you knew that. I knew pretty fast and i had never felt that way before. And you were you thinking that she could be the one. Yeah i was. I was very keen on this. We had the most romantic date in at stratford-upon-avon rented a punt. And we were. We had sandwiches beautiful day. Wine found a little shady place under a tree in the water. We kissed like bandits. How lovely how great. Your proposal received a lot of that. Is that best in london that he owned a cabin with a friend of his to actors. They bought a cabin up in big bear. It was hilarious because the bafta was a standard sized bathtub in a crappy cabin in the mountains so there wasn't any room for me to face him facing the spout back was against his chest. Yes so i kept thinking. I designed it this way because i thought that if i was to face her and trying to get these leads out i would cry. I would crack. I'd i really did so. I thought man. Am i going to do this. How am i gonna do i. Champagne little music going. And i'm going. What the hell. And every time. I start to talk that she starts to turn around to look and i pushed her face back toward the front so that i could let me just get this out. Was that a surprise. At that moment. It wasn't surprised because it was like. I know where this is going. Kind of now. The other thing was the ring. Yeah we're nude as one is right. Where would i put the ring. So i think you'll see it. There's if i put no down the drain. And i i don't i put it on my baby toe. I put it all the way on my and submerged the foot at segue so.
"robin dearden" Discussed on Good Life Project
"So that's very loving and very caring. He wants me to have what i want and i want him to have what he wants. And that's what you do as a parent but spouses don't often do that for each other. I mean a mom and dad will do anything to give their children everything. They want to get what they want. The best education is this a car when they all the stuff that you possibly can do for your children but we don't sometimes apply that to our spouse and if we did a little more of that for our spouse even. I know from women that. I've met even to the point where the husband realizes that the wife really wants to go back to school and they need to find money in the budget for the wife to go back to school and often when the money is allotted. It's for the children to go to school. And this and that but sometimes the wife wants to go back to school and to find a way to make that possible for her is a very big act of love and accommodation. And i've known a lot of women who have been in that position and marriage counseling. Yes that's a real act of love you know when one partner feels a little bit threatened about whatever reason and suggests marriage counseling that that really says i love you and i'd like this to last. That was a that. Revelation happened draft bryan cranston and his wife. Robin dearden and and neil patrick. Harris and david burqa several couples Do marriage counselling and it says. It's it's really helped them. Bryan cranston caused a tune-up. We need a tune-up with the marriage counselor. Yeah i mean what's interesting is also marlow what you just described as wanting for your partner. What so often apparent is seen as wanting for their children and being there to help figure out how both people can be fully expressed can be confident can be alive and be themselves in the relationship. I think that's so powerful. What's interesting to me is that is the reimagining of marriage from what you saw the model to be growing up. This was sort of redefining it as no. This is the way that i can understand being in this type of relationship but reimagining as something that is more more equal more more generous rule near room ear. The definition that i grew up with was it was a very tight place. And it didn't have any you know windows open. When we were married and still commuting. I had an aunt who said to me. That's not a marriage. And i thought to myself this is why never married. Because there's such a tight definition of marriages. In other words marriage people live in the same city. If you're living in two different cities and you commuting back and forth in her mind that was not a marriage and that was helpful to me to realize. That's what we did. We define marriage for ourselves. And that's what everybody has to do. When i was a student.
"robin dearden" Discussed on WGN Radio
"When Marleau was aghast on Donahue we consider them one of our favorite Chicago couples and they're both with us from New York to talk about their book what makes a marriage last forty celebrated couples share with us the secrets to a happy life good morning fill in Marlow are you guys doing well what good afternoon good morning that music is a very nostalgic prevails that remember that so well when I first met yeah that that will never forget that theme song I bet you play that done your anniversary week or so ago I guess that's our song any there there are some very retailing revealing intimate and sometimes embarrassing things people told you going through this book what what was your secret to get them to open up how difficult was it did it take hours a conversation before you loosen these friends up well first of all I was shocked at how courteous and welcoming there were and we went in with the idea that maybe we have a you know twenty minutes and some of them lasted but reality I mean it's amazing but one of the talk about their marriage as we talked yeah and if if we mention our marriage that you sent them in the orbit it was quite the big surprise for us well you know it was kind of a little bit of a live reporters we really it was really more like a double date now we sat down and the topic was just marriage of you go out with another couple you don't talk about your marriages right and then pack which allows another couple and they never come up but since this was about marriage we spent two or three hours with each couple just talking about that topic and so of course we talk about our marriage well the first one out my husband said to me I'm not talking about our marriage and I think that's why we don't have to but of course we did and that's what made at shows that that's what really made the commendation roll because once he started talking there with those are talking as as a double date it was really a way more fun than we had expected was there a common fear that a common theme among the happiest couples you talk to our common problem or obstacle well you know first of all the couples that we chose whose marriages have lasted where people who are very serious about the marriage right if they wanted this marriage both of them they wanted to survive they were very committed to and many of them I went to couples counseling which is as you know a difficult thing to do that very souls and final you know the sort of interpreter Bryan Cranston and his wife were robin Dearden go to a couples therapist every now and then and he said it's not really as a referee but as an interpreter seventy two sales that's what she meant by that or this is why he does that which is away of have taking the rough edges off of off of the tension I think it feels right what what they had in common was a really serious desire to keep the marriage together as the cure is said to excess the six safely she said you can't go in America the plan B. you got to go in all in and I've been looking for an escape route and well when you when you say that challenges that there wasn't one challenge but they all had challenges yeah that was a that really that was the the pop up part of this experience and it really was an experience for me and anyway we have a lot of us because they had alcoholism like Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka it was drug abuse like Jamie Lee Curtis of and Kevin lost all their money to have already made up thirty years of savings Jesse Jackson I wandered away from the marriage and had a child out of his marriage so they had to deal with it is infidelity so there's absolutely nothing that there are a couple of hadn't gone through six children six sizes like Michael J. fox a lifelong a diagnosis of Parkinson's everything you can imagine I would would be at an obstacle in the marriage a challenge faced it and then they face it together I mean it just went right through the fire and it was and did not look for the exit sign I read the fill that one of the obstacles you overcame your marriage tomorrow and I want to get to what you your secret to a happy married life is but still then you had to overcome being a little jealous do I have that right Phil yeah yes that's right well you haven't lived until your wife makes a movie with crystal stopper at the height of his popularity that had a love scene that lasted about two and a half years I you know I got through it somehow but it also reminded me how draining jealousy can be ever held liberating it was for me to be with Marlo cell to get past it and to be able to deal with it without you know all the things that go on in your head who is it who is making a movie and bus in Boston yak log Consuela thing Kelly replied he he was making a movie in Boston and it was before cell phones they could reach you all day they got a bad feeling any race to London on the plane without telling your and ran into the apartment given that he ran right past you he was sure that there was somebody in the apartment you know and she said what are you going to stop doing that so jealousy in okay can be very but both people it's hard on the prisoners gelatin as part of the president of the object in that jealousy could hit up is really nothing you've done it's something that they have inside of themselves their own feelings and so I actually first are going out to get it close said to me you know I've never dated an actress before hello I know we know when you're not acting and I think that that was something that he had to deal with which I you know I grew up in Hollywood everybody was an actor so I never really thought about that but I realize that that's something he's going to have to deal with and I think jealousy was one of the ways but but you know the the gelatin twenty years now it's been a long time great yeah it was very difficult for a lot M. Marlow you your show that girl pave the way for shows years later about successful single career women like Mary Tyler Moore and at the time you and Lucille Ball were the only women to produce their own series so you've obviously always been a strong opinionated smart listen and you live with the guy who's got those same qualities isn't that a recipe for tremendous arguments and big time fireworks I want to know about the last good fight you two had well we do a lot of violence especially in the first couple years those we didn't live together yeah I was working in LA and he was working in Chicago and was raising his four boys so we were traveling great deals all narrated was very very difficult and I think the biggest fight we ever had which broke us up before we got married with over the over traveling in the time that you know we just I wanted to be in LA when I wandered in there he wanted me in Chicago and he wanted me there and we just we just couldn't make it work and so we we did have a big blow up and we broke out for three months and I always say to people who are nervous about whether or not this is the guy this is a woman I always say you know what separates rollout and before you get married give yourself some time away because that was really what changed it for us so we took that three months apart from each other really feeling that we were never going to see each other again I went started dating other people and so details about we really miss each other a lot and and so we you know got back together and decided to put our crazy lives together but I think that's the biggest fight we ever had and it was a rough one Liz you know everybody has little fights all day long you know you said you did they as I said I do that you said you said you said that I'm a little bit and then they'll let you know whatever the heck it is but but James Carville gave us a great recipe for that Carville had the best advice when you find yourself going around around nine AM and Mickey Mouse issue Turner later if you say it's a cliche but it will it work and that and it worked for him kicked back can down the road every marriage has up I love can along the way you know it is a kid it really helps I mean we we had just gotten off the road from our blood and Phil and I were going around and around one of those stupid argument and he said to me why don't we just kick this can down the road and the minute he said it it was so liberating effect this is such a stupid argument and we will have them they do everybody that all the time and it is a waste of time and energy but it's just a kick the can down the road really it lets you off the hook you know yeah and makes it feel good to hear about everybody else's problems that we're not the only ones everybody has some sort of struggle but I think in this age of therapy it's good to know that sometimes good advice is don't deal with it kick the can down the road Phil Donahue and Marlo Thomas the book is what makes a marriage last more to come here momentarily let's get an update on a few things like.