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"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

The Super Human Life

05:08 min | 5 months ago

"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

"So and then if we're trying to put out all that trying to make all that better real quick so it makes us uncomfortable. We're just killing everything that that lets her be turned on and connected to us. So that's that's what the next books about love that love that. We'll we'll have to have you back on to to promote that. And i'm gonna send you if you don't mind i'm gonna send you last week's episode with dave because we did a i wanna hear that yes seventy five minute conversation all on fasting so yeah fascinating turns on what's known as cellular atop aji that's the killing off of the old cells and the creation of new cells We go deep on some of the spiritual side. How how fast is really a bio- hack. That's going to increase your energy and willpower. I think might be some stuff in there that you could actually pass along cure men that are struggling with making proper decisions in life because willpower simply have enough energy to make the necessary to the proper decision when faced with a difficult decision so this has been absolutely amazing. Let's you. We pledge our website. Where else can guys if they want to hear more about robert. We're hanging out these days or any of the social or anything like that. You know i. i'm on. I'm on social media but my assistant does all of that because i i don't love social media i that's a whole nother subject not a fan For it to me is a lot like porn. It just gives you the i b. Yeah it's you're you're looking everybody's highlight reel and doing compare saying you have no idea what's going on. I probably wouldn't have it if it didn't if it wasn't the number one driver you know revenue you know. We have to advertise me. I say that that's why only justification is for. I have no friends on my personal not. I'm not making that up. No friends but dr glover dot com is the best place to find me if they if they google robert glover if they google no more mister nice guy. I got all the top spots on both pages. So i'm easy enough to fight so guy guy appreciate you pointing people in my direction. Yeah no one percent. We're gonna we're gonna get this book. i mean. i know. I've already sold a few copies for you just with some of the client. Work that we've done here. Something to do everything i can because i think that this is a book that every guy needs to read it should be when they probably read on an annual basis Yeah just because you you know..

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"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

The Super Human Life

05:47 min | 5 months ago

"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

"You have to learn to breathe. You have to learn to be conscious. You show up differently in sacks and i just see the On occasion when i do ejaculate is always a gift to my wife is is is for her pleasure. Do i enjoy coming. Of course i enjoy coming but accent joy. More staying about that eighty percent before you ejaculate. That's the high. That feels good to us and i always tell man. Why do we wanna make that. Go away by jackie late. You're gonna jackie late and about three seconds of pleasure. But that that other pleasure that you could have stretched for our pre pre coming is at feels hell of a lot better than just that little sneezing squirt yeah and then ejaculation a day later. There's a dip and testosterone. I love to love to harnessing the transmuting of that energy. I mean you know talking about books here you know. Napoleon hill was talking about this in thinking rich. Hundred plus years ago. There's an entire chapter dedicated to sex mutation. You know the interview. i think. Five hundred of the world's elite performers in every single one of them you know they didn't say that they didn't go without sex but it was one woman in controlled and they learned how to harness an insurance. That and i think david data talks about it in his book The way the superior man is data talks a lot about it Chia multi gore's multi gaz. Mcmahon does a lot of really good breathing exercise in. I don't know how much or how familiar with like this. No fat kind of community a much younger younger generation they talk about. I'm going to go thirty days. Inexperienced superpowers. It's like no. You're just you're just got all that energy that you've been blowing into towels for the past five years now learn how to create a vision for your life and move towards this in what you'll be able to create. We'll be truly remarkable Yeah the whole idea of transmuting..

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"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

The Super Human Life

05:00 min | 5 months ago

"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

"You know all your face you you you you had. You had a visceral reaction when i said it had. I don't know if you know who. Dave asprey is. He's the founder of bulletproof coffee multiple bestselling author. We just had him on the show last read his books but i do. I do drink. I put his oil in the bulletproof. Oh the bulletproof coffee. Yes so he shared about. He actually spent some time with. I believe it was tibetan monks and they have this actual formula. It's like your age minus a certain number in this gives you how frequent at my age. I'm only supposed to come four times a year four times a year. So you're a little bit more more regular than than thirty days. So so is that is that why are you. Are you seeking a transmutation thing or is this because you know that once a month like it's going to be like the real the real deal now. I know none of the above that here. Here's here's how it started I had workshop down here in. Puerto vallerta and three guys came from holland. Who had done a lot of work in a tantric program in and they came to my workshop. And you know just getting into what's entre. Let's tantric sex. you know. Everybody wants to know what that is. Is it like staying going eight hours having sex. Whatever and As i said it's not coming is often. They said we'll start with that in so So i was with my girlfriend. Who's now my wife. And she's very sexual. She's twenty two years younger than me. She'd love sex. She says. I'll never tell you. Notice sex says you can have sex with me. Even if i'm angry at uk's i'm never angry cock so i've got this woman who likes sex. I was about sixty at that time. Sixty five now. I'm like most men are sex. Drive just does steady knows drive. I do testosterone supplementation..

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"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

The Super Human Life

04:12 min | 5 months ago

"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

"I go sit out in the backyard by the pool in the mornings with my dog and watch the sun come up. Drink my coffee. Do some meditation read. Start to work and people people's robert. You're lucky you know you get delivered this beautiful place and you you got this young wife that wants to have sex all the time and you're making the world different and you you make good money out of you. You're so lucky. And i go. No luck involved. Yeah of course was luck. There of course was but said seemed like the harder i work. The luckier i in the phd. At twenty nine. That took work. I wrote a book. Six six seven years to write. I worked three years to get it published. I'm still doing interviews for twenty years later. Right there's work. There's i still work on me and it has not. I'm not trying to say any kind of braggart way. But i like what what you say you do with. The man is creative vision of what you want. Vision what you want. No you're going in the right direction. And what i discovered mexico twenty something years ago i thought i i wanna live there. Part of the year took me ten years to make that happen. But i worked to change my business to where i could do it all online and i. It took work. But i had a vision and i worked towards it and do this with a support system. Don't try to do it alone. Share your vision with other people buddies. Get them on board. If you want to write a book..

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"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

The Super Human Life

03:51 min | 5 months ago

"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

"I i still watch it. Come up and it gets in the way of you. Just have an open healthy expressive relationship with another human being. You say we either just objectified yami men. How many men. I listened to that. You know 'cause. I teach men about relationships and eleven walls dating how many men say all. Yeah i'm with this check and she's cool but she's not pretty enough for me or you know all unless i date a ten. I just don't want to date at all saying. Listen drive a bentley. I don't wanna drive. And we we men have gotten so obsessed with this thing of physical beauty and physical. You know our our grandfathers go back. A hundred years ago our grandfathers maybe saw two or three beautiful women in their entire lives. I am probably didn't see any of them naked. Now we can see unlimited beautiful women all the time and many of them naked and now all of a sudden we. That's like we're crosswired in this thing. Will you know if i'm going to get married. If i'm going to have a girlfriend i'ma settle if she's got to be hot she's gotta be and again. We're just turning them. We're we're we're basically trying to turn the people you to be with into into porn stars into those objects into objects. Yeah we're only only looking at the at the physical side of of a woman who were not getting to her heart and understanding who. She is a person. We're missing out on a major part of of that connection. You know i've had a lot of sex with a lot of beautiful women. I'm not saying that. In like a braggadocious way. Like because i made a commitment now at the point in my life like i am waiting and i you know i know you probably don't don't think that that's the wisest thing but i've experienced. What all the the flesh half off of experienced that and for me. It left me sad depressed in in an empty. And in..

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"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

The Super Human Life

04:37 min | 5 months ago

"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

"Yeah because it really goes into one of just talking about with the porn. And here's a question that i ask guys or women to back when i work with women but mainly i spend this. I'll sipe close your eyes and think back to your first sexual memory now. It could be anything. Could be you know you discovering your penis. When you were three it could be. You know your four or five and you see the neighbor girl. You're you. I'm showing you mine. You show me yours. It could be your first kiss. Could be a first wet tree. Finding dad's hustler magazine hustler. Yeah dad thought he was doing a good job hiding it under the mattress. Never look under mattresses for stop so So in that would ask guys all right. Just think back to that sexual experience. Was it one that that occurred in the open. You can talk about that. You could go show your parents that you celebrate like. I said that you go get pizza. Oh as a milestone. we're gonna get pizza or was it. Hidden was secretive. was that did you not know what was happening. Did you feel guilty was dark. Did you did you. Have you know nominee go to hell. While i'll get caught. What happens is for. The majority of human beings is at our earliest sexual. All of our already sexual memories. All the way from you know as boys discovering are penis to discovering girls vaginas to have a wet dream to learning. We can jerk off to finding dad's magazine every single. One of them happened in hiding darkness. Shane guilt don't let anybody know. And that's that's one reason. I think that wipe porn is so powerful it it matches that year old pathway neurons that fire together wire together of course so what happens in we call it a cross wiring. Shame and guilt get crosswired right and even if you just go to the the most christian churches. You're gonna get enough of that cross wiring..

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"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

The Super Human Life

04:09 min | 5 months ago

"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

"That's the problem so starting problem so the as you say the key is how do you not start it again. It's easy to stop. But how do you not started. So here's here's i think two things. This is my opinion two things that play into it. One is that as a species. Species evolved over a period of million and a half two million years where saxon was available. The every creature men and women will. We were tribal communal. Every man had access to every woman every woman had access to every man so that that that instilled sexual variety there was just constant sexual variety. And that that's a part of human nature part of mother nature. Mother nature wants lots of penises in. Lhasa is the best way to populate You know the planet. Most animals do it that way right. They put their penises and different vaginas. You know bees and birds go to lots of different flowers to cross. Pollinate is a good way to do. It is wired into our dna now around ten thousand years ago humans. Some of our ancestors quit hunting and gathering and wandering being communal started settling down in owning stuff owning a plot of land a tree a cow a goat. Their wives their kids. And that's that's the patriarchy that developed out of the patriarchy came religion that helped basically manage people's property rights and most of the religions it came out really put a squash down sexuality prior to that most religions tribal religions tend to celebrate sexualities path to god it was only more than the jewish islam christian religions that put the lid on sex it sin god says don't have but we're wired to have sex. We are wired to but our pena's in lhasa but china's vaginas are wired. Have lots of penises in them. We created this thing of man. One man one woman for life that that religion and culture tried to try to try to make happen is never worked is never worked very well and humans of craved variety in in in all areas so even though for example my wife and i have a commitment to a monogamous relationship we are sexually monogamous. It's a challenge because it's not wired into us to be sexually monogamous. But we choose to do it consciously and so therefore it's very powerful growth machine forest now we also do things we have sex play that that brings in you know mental variety in into our sex life because variety is human nature. So what's happened. Is the two things that i think that few things that drive porn bezel one of them is just as desire for for variety. Now the other piece is we used to have access to every every male had sexual access then for the last few thousand years societies worked hard to cut off men's access to vaginas and even like making prostitution a crime. You know if between two adults wire why is it criminal to have sex. But we've worked really hard to limit the access. Only the most powerful men got the access to a lot of agendas so we we've limited access with limited variety and we piled shame on top of people we've made them feel like they're bad people for having sex or wanting to have sex and so whether we stolen them threaten them going to hell put a scarlet letter on and put them in the stock slut shamed them our culture is it tries to manage sack. People sexual behavior shane. Okay take this combination and then add technology to it all right. We've got the built desire for variety In the past we had access continually. Now we don't so but we still crave the access to create the variety. We have tons of sexual shame. And so we're most men are hiding their sexual selves. That feels normal the hide..

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"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

The Super Human Life

03:32 min | 5 months ago

"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

"So you're going to see that and then if you're still you're back here then yet there's there's going to be a deep deep unconscious level. And sometimes i said consciously let me bring that person back down. Is there a nice girl syndrome. Like is this. Is this specific to two men or is this a problem. That women struggle with two. I women had this issue long before we men lash fact most of us nice guys were trained by nice girls girls and you know when i wrote nowhere mister nice guy. There were already books out there for women who love too much you know. They're they're already lot of books on codependency about women and When i wrote the book you know nothing was out there for men. it's golic. Only women have this issue of being too nice approval seeking but when you start seeing it in me and other men is like oh men like this and i intentionally did not use the word codependency in the book. Because i didn't want people they just have a preconceived idea what was talking about. I want to talk about something and tried to write it. From a unique perspective of mit. Now i was influenced by independent work. John bradshaw he and the shame. That binds us. Pm melody melody. Beattie people that did work around codependency but nobody'd ever directed at men. And i and i believed in still do that. Men have some very unique manifestations of those nice guy dynamics and and especially as environment you know where you hear so much about toxic masculinity and women's saying they want a nice guy you know. There's all these messages about being a nice guy but the truth is being a nice guy is not a very productive way to try to go live your life so yeah there are nice girls. They they've been around long before nice guys existed so we we touched some porn y- briefly gloss over it. I wanna i wanna get your take on on something because this is something. I'm really trying to still kinda my own opinion on saudi. I mean if a man is struggling with a porn call a compulsion called in addiction. Just e can't get off it like he's maybe not every day. Maybe it's three times four times a week. Whatever the case like we know that he's going to have all these nice guys. Syndromes does is a nice guy the precursor to a porn addiction. And this is an opinion question. I guess is it. Nice guy is not happy in his life so he seeks out to escape reality to find pornography or is it a young man gets hooked on pornography. He's dealing with all the anxiety that that comes with that because you don't want people to find out what you're really going on. So then he becomes a nice guy. Just take on a little bit different okay. But but i think it may answer the question i think. Dynamic with porn is is a multifaceted issue. It was a simple issue. There'd be a simple answer. There's there's a simple answer to it you know you you. You'd have a one hour session with people and they'd quit. You know one of the things they say about. I liked what you said that you. How do you stop you. Stop in one day in the in the addiction community. That addictions are not a stopping problem. There are starting problem. Everybody has stopped their addictions many times. Every guy that you've ever talked to around porn has tried to stop it before but there was started again..

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"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

The Super Human Life

04:11 min | 5 months ago

"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

"It is maintaining the possibility of availability that they're going to want to have sex with us at some point so we we tend to always monitor certain things about ourselves that. I don't wanna do this thing or not do this thing that then she won't wanna have sex later on with man. We don't have that agenda early in general you know we're not gonna have that agenda especially with with our buddies or let's say france we're not thinking. Oh if i tell him this. You'll think i'm a total scumbag. Never wanna have sex with me again. Now we don't break down in her head that way but that's true with the man we can tell them anything because we're not worried about the outcome and but for a lot of us we still still a big process to learn to trust men enough to be in to open up and let them know everything about it. Just like i said going to to that At twelve step program was so successful filling now another reason of of not sharing this with your wife or your partner is it your wife or partner may love you dearly and want you to grow and want you to challenge yourself but the fact that you're growing and challenging yourself is going to frighten her Because she's is the unknown. And i see this in marriage therapy all the time. It's actually a powerful part of marriage. Therapy one person starts challenge is it was like a teeter totter. One person starts challenging and growing and the other person goes. Oh my goodness they're growing they might leave me And if this person has a desire to stay with that. That's why. I got into therapy. My wife said she's gonna leave me if i did grow. I did now when this person starts growing. It upsets the balance. That they're comfortable with right. So this person's growing is unknown. Where it's gonna go. This person says they might leave me. This person now has two choices. One is trying to bring them back down or they gotta start growing themselves and then they grow and then this person goes..

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"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

The Super Human Life

04:33 min | 5 months ago

"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

"I knew that the behaviors. That were fundamentally intolerable. Toomey weren't going to change i. I knew that. But i just also take a little time. We still had kids in school and stuff like that but So when we when we split. I actually had to go to twelve step groups again and make her my my inner circle my drug. I had this this trauma bonded relationship with her. That i'd worked so hard to try to make it good to try to you know and when you do anything like that over and over again it creates this trauma bond and so i'd go to twelve step so i i would have nothing to do with her. I couldn't couldn't call her up. How you doing chat chat and so it probably took three or four five years of that. I drink a couple of her kids. I stayed connected to her kids. I mean they were saying oh you know they like when i left their mother they kinda disconnected firmer as well for the same reasons actually and but you know they they stayed connected to me now that that softened after a while like a dog we had passed away. She sent me a message a few years after that. And then probably about five years ago before i married my wife loop. She contacted me. Said i'm going to be down in puerto vallarta. Would you like to just get together and have coffee okay. We haven't had much communication. Until i told my then girlfriend lupita said oh you should be with her. She she wants to say she's sorry or she wants to have sex with you and i said oh you go meet with their said. Yeah so i did actually was. It was a very pleasant conversation in own. She basically said you know a long time. I thought everything was so terrible between us. But you know hindsight there are a lot of positives about it and we parented weld together. And and yeah..

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"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

The Super Human Life

05:52 min | 5 months ago

"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

"We not surround ourselves with people who want to give to us. We don't let them know what we want and if they do try to give us. We don't let them because it makes us to uncomfortable. No no i don't anything. Oh no. I don't need help i do it myself. Is that a fear of being indebted to somebody. Like if i set this from you. Then i'm going to have to go outside of what i feel comfortable because you're gonna ask me for this like later on down the road has that is. That's one. I think there might be two or three reasons. Why when you. When i work with is about making their needs to priority. I mean they get a deer and the headline that makes me a bad man. So there's a few that. I'll be selfish. People will think solely about me. So that i don't wanna be that man part of it is yeah. I'll be emotionally indebted to you but the funny thing is we're emotionally getting everybody else to us by giving all the time. I think there's just this piece. That if i let you give to me i'm going to feel vulnerable. I'm gonna feel out of control and there's a lot of a lot of pieces of get woven into that from the nice guy but yeah we're not very good receivers and i. I've had plenty of people. Tell me that robert your hard to give to. And i've had to work on that really of letting people give to me into. Thanks for me. Is that control piece is that is that a is that a symptom of of of nice guy syndrome to like feeling like i need to have control of of every area of of my life. Yeah you know. I personally don't like to think of myself as a controlling person but pretty much. Everybody knows me well. Regularly makes jokes about me being controlling so always. It's always a joke so it can't be true that third covert contract is. If i do everything right. I'll have a smooth problem. Free.

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"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

The Super Human Life

05:47 min | 5 months ago

"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

"Continue to consultation with men. So that's my life. Working with men is just. I mean it's my greatest joy so now that the book came about. And that's why we're talking today your loved bit. I mean there's there's so much we're going pack there. And i mean i think trolleybus i mean you know the the work that i'm doing. It's it's going back three years. Like would i ever thought that i'd i'd have a podcast directed towards helping men break out porn and i got a coaching company. And we're having tremendous tremendous success with it. But i would never got to that point. Had i not gone through the struggle in the journey and overcoming all the things all my own. Here's your you know your life now is a result of your own transformation and then you took that to then serve in and help other men absolutely loved that i think that's i think that's why why we're here. So how did you know you being a nice guy. I'm assuming you're not doing any of the marriage counseling anymore. You kind of transitioned more into just the men's work these days. It pretty much is all working with men. Both in the workshops and seminars and the consultation all with men. I i did marriage and family therapy. Probably for twenty five years and it was good. It really gave me a good understanding of a our relationships work but also what what frustrates women..

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"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

The Super Human Life

01:34 min | 5 months ago

"robert glover" Discussed on The Super Human Life

"Now the nice guy is i define it is is a man who internalized at a very early age usually in childhood or infancy even an emotional belief system that we're not okay just as we are and therefore we have to become what we think that people want us to be and or hide anything about us that we think people might react negatively so that that that that manifest approval seeking and external validation trying to be good and hiding faults..

Dylan papers, including unpublished lyrics, sell in Boston for $495K

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00:44 sec | 9 months ago

Dylan papers, including unpublished lyrics, sell in Boston for $495K

"A collection of bob dylan songs and other writings have sold at auction and american music. Legend once told a friend in nineteen seventy one that quote. A lot of people are under the impression that jews or just money lenders and merchants end of quote. And that is what prompted robert zimmerman to change his name to bob dylan musings like that. Along with a treasure trove of dylan documents including unpublished song lyrics sold at auction. This past thursday for nearly half a million dollars. Boston-based are auctions handle the sale and says the collection once belonged to the late american blues. Artists robert glover a close friend. And confidante of mr dylan. Most of the key pieces of the collection went to an unidentified bidder in addition to being a member of the rock and roll hall of fame. Bob dylan was awarded the nobel prize for literature in two thousand sixteen

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"robert glover" Discussed on Write Your Legend

Write Your Legend

01:52 min | 10 months ago

"robert glover" Discussed on Write Your Legend

"I know treated that way approach dating not like oh I gotta get so many like me or I'm I feel like such a loser because I haven't had sex in three years or never. I got to get laid know treat it. Like I'm going to just go out and find Adventure. I'm going to challenge myself. I'm gonna get out of my comfort zone. I'm going to grow and treat it that way and you'll have a lot of stories to tell in a lot of Adventures and that's where all my birth. He's come from is just getting out and having an adventure not trying to make anything happen amazing love that. Yes, doctor glamorous. Thank you so much. I feel like have so much energy and I can conquer the world now boom listening and women. Hope maybe do you feel the same way? Thank you for the invitation has been fun. Yeah guys if you want to know more about dr. Robert Glover or if you have I'm sure some of you have already downloaded his book that we speak highly about on all of our YouTube video on our coaching sessions. You can find it anywhere on Amazon. You can just Google no more mister nice guy and you can find the book and purchase one. It is no joke. Also, there's another book called dating essential phone number men that doctor never actually written as well. You can find more about him as doctor Dr. Glover g l o v e r. I'll also put it below in the description box as well. If you guys want to go ahead and check them out. Thank you Doctor Glover again. We're definitely how to con. I'll be back. All right. Wonderful. Thank you so much guys, and as always you remember are left. If you enjoy this podcast. Be sure to subscribe rate and review this podcast and share it with your friends. Congratulations to writing your Legend and thanks so much for listening to me and I'll talk to you soon in the next episode..

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"robert glover" Discussed on Write Your Legend

Write Your Legend

05:31 min | 10 months ago

"robert glover" Discussed on Write Your Legend

"That energy in me? I gotta deal with that kind of pick up your energy now like carry on about my day. So when when you are talking about just that simple thing of like when a woman comes home and you're like they there's a glass of wine for you go change into something comfortable. You've got me for five minutes. It's that and there's no intention behind Old Testament know about that right? There is sexy to a woman and why we would be the ones to initiate sex later because that is sexy to us that right. There is a we get to trust you will just break down anything those break that down even more for men cuz social appears that thing. So yeah again, we'll go back. Let's let's talk about a guy on let's say they got into a third date with a woman, you know, and he hears like, you know open he gets laid that night, you know, so he's doing all the stuff to push it and and you know as women you of course know you know why we take you out right off. To see you naked that's the whole reason we take you out and you know that, you know, you're not dumb, you know, you know, of course you're not, you know, we're ready. We were that special lingerie off likely, you know, so so and and now that's the point. I really want to make, you know, when you're ready. It's going to happen and and I tell guys, okay listen. A woman knows within the first 30 seconds of meeting a guy if there's a possibility she's going to wear that sexy lingerie, right? I can't know for sure if she's going to she just knows if there's not a possibility and you know, then all the guys from there they use the nice guy seduction or the pick up stuff or trying to buy you enough drinks hoping that'll yeah with some wage their insecurities and their alcohol issues. It does happen. But the the woman know so I tell the guy so you really don't have to make this happen as Chris Rock Says just don't say anything really stupid. Don't mess up. Right. So the woman knows if it's going to happen right or not. She no she doesn't know when but and and and you know, because of all the cultural slut-shaming off and have to Cana like, well I want to do it right now, but I'm going to give it, you know, 15 more minutes before I get, you know, put on the laundry because you know, you have to culturally blah blah blah a bunch of noise, but it off What is so so I tell guys think about it this way if she already in her mind is entertained the idea. She's going to wear that lingerie with you. You don't have to push. All you have to do is show up be you, you know, bring that good vibe cuz you women are so sensitive to energy. Yeah. Yeah, I'll be playful be affectionate took her hand and lead her oldest a way for me to open your door invite her into your great life or she gets to see this guy's got a fucking great life. I'm not talking about a great apartment a great cook. I mean those could be part of it. But that you've got friends. You've got a life. You're you're a social animal you you take care of yourself. Let her see that part of your life. You keep getting the tone and leading what I found when I was dating again. I never pushed a woman for sex put never pushed him to get naked, but I am very affectionate and I will set the tone and I will be Adventures. And I will call a woman up and say I'm at your house in 30 minutes be ready to go. I will do those kinds of things..

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No More Mr. Nice Guy | Robert Glover | Write Your Legend Podcast with Apollonia Ponti and Natalie Stavola - burst 01

Write Your Legend

28:10 min | 10 months ago

No More Mr. Nice Guy | Robert Glover | Write Your Legend Podcast with Apollonia Ponti and Natalie Stavola - burst 01

"She will, you know, she's strong needs to be done. And so the thing that I learned is that a woman can't follow her a man doesn't lead that's true on the Dancefloor. It's is true in relationship. Now that leadership is not dead. Do it my way, you know, it's not about that that kind of controlling dominance. It's just showing up with a plan and having a sense of confidence about you that you know where you're going and you invite the woman to come along same on the dance floor is it I'm not going to ask the woman in between each move every step. Do you want to have this done now? Would you like a cross body move? Should I do a pretzel with you? Should I know I'm just going to lead her and if she likes the way I lead she's going to relax into that and follow and be blessed by that. If you don't like the way I lead single find another partner to dance with that's fine that it works. Well, but if I don't lead we're just going to stand there on the Dance Floor, you know kind of looking at each other until one of us gets bored and walks away. So that leadership is crucial and when I found when guys are trying to figure out what to make what to do make a woman happy and pleased or there's no real leadership. It's like I said be like me asking a woman every move. What do you want to next? do you want today off? And you're laughing cuz I've asked women in front of men. I'm teaching I'll say do you like it? Well, what do you like when your man says what do you want to tonight? You want to go out? Where do you want to go for dinner in the women go is needed to make a decision. Right? But I don't like it. I'll tell you but make a decision instead of times. I've had that argument with with some dating like I forgot to tell you, I don't like that. I'm going to change my mind you're going to say let's get Chinese food and I'm gonna say I want Italian but it doesn't matter. I just want you to make a decision cuz make a decision. Yeah, and that is super hard cuz that goes back to the man same. Maybe I'll do something wrong. And one thing I've been preaching to men for quite some time in marriage therapy. And otherwise, is that a woman's reaction to anything that a man does does not determine the rightness or wrongness of the thing man did write the man says, let's go get Chinese. You said I was thinking Italian he didn't do anything wrong cuz you had a different wage. Opinion on that. So this is you know, the work that I do with men is learning as a you know, start living life on your terms live life the way you want them live it and invite a great woman to come tag along with you to come join in your great life. Don't try to figure out how do I fit into her life? How do I make her happy? How do I make her want to be my girlfriend? I want to suck Ur clothes off. Don't worry about that stuff. You live your great life lead give her the chance to follow now. Here's the thing with that what if they're already in a relationship and all of a sudden? They're learning about this. How long does that take? Do all of a sudden they just come home and they're like, maybe like a big daddy 301 is here is here and she's like in leading this whole time. Yeah. So how does how do you do you get that like that leading birth? That is such a good question. When I wrote no more mister. Nice guy. I wrote in there I said when I started working with nice guys, and and because it does shake up a relationship if they're in one thousand. It shakes up everything, you know, the guy starts setting boundaries or starts asking for what he wants or start saying no or start spending more time with his guy friends, you know starts pursuing his his passion is going to shake things up and and I say in the book that I when I first started seeing this I gave relationships about a fifty-fifty chance that they would survive the the guy doing a nice guy recovery and I write in the book then over time. I started giving it more of a 60-40 that it wasn't going to work. And by the time I wrote book, I'd 7030. I'm about at 8020 now home and you know, we're kind of laughing about it. But the truth is yeah if if a couple of gotten together and fallen into a routine that that is some level is comfortable. Serve them even if it's painful and toxic it could be challenging to break that up. So mental asked me a lot of times say well sure. I show my wife or my girlfriend your book. I'm gonna go by all means, why am a copy, you know, let them have a copy and let them start underlining and writing in it and you tell them what it is that you're wanting to work on and what you're learning and how you want to be in this world. And and you know, do this is a team effort and in my experience. I'm a say in general women like my book, you know, when the book up published. I think the Publishers are thoughts going to create this big controversial but it never did. I maybe have gotten three angry emails from women in twenty years so women like the book cuz it's teaching men can be honest and transparent and and you know good men. Not not just pleasing nice guys. So I have found that a lot of women are really supportive of this work log. I got to visit a couple had worked with a number of years ago. I started working with the man over time and then he met the woman they got married. They're they're like 50, so they're both like second marriage for each of them and they came down to Puerto Vallarta where I live and did some work with me a few years ago and I forgot to visit them about three weeks ago and and the woman said to me says Robert finished that other book you're working on around what I call positive emotional tension women tend to like the stuff that I teach and couples therapy. You know, when I would start with the man just like in dance class, you gotta start with the lead, you gotta show them how to leave where the followers got nothing to lead. So I start with the man and I get the big two-by-four out smack him upside the head and say, okay, here's how women are wired. Here's what's important to them. Here's what most men get wrong. And here's what we're going to work on and usually the women have gone to look at their husbands or boyfriend and go this guy gets women. I like him. And so So when I found his women are pretty supportive of this Dynamic and many men had told me. Hey my wife gave me your book my ex-wife gave me your book an ex girlfriend gave me your book off. So women are spreading the word and they want men that they can trust that they can depend on who will set the tone and Lead who they can open up and Trust. Yeah because it's an honest with themselves and how can they be honest in a relationship if I can't depend on you to open up and tell me like what's going on? What you need? How can we be a team song? Yeah. I'm very obviously have apple and I are huge fans of the book. Yeah, and another point you talk about in one of your chapters and the no more mister nice guy book is with with life in general, right? I am a true believer that women look at sex differently than men look at 6 and men look at sex differently and intimacy is emotional for women, right? So we need our emotional needs to be met off. Order to want to have sex either with our partner or in our marriage whatever the case may be and sometimes those marriages can end up dying down and then we look up as sometimes what I've seen as well is that the men is looking at this as my wife isn't having sex with me. So I need to push for sex in order to feed the validation from within me. Right and so the woman was like, oh, I'm just not there mentally emotionally because of XYZ. I'm going through a hard time in life. And so what happens is he pushes more so than the relationship gets disconnected when they really weren't disconnected really in the first place. Yeah, but since the sex was pushed it was more and then I've seen that Spectrum happened in a lot of you know people that we work with and then the other spectrum is I mean to have sex with my wife in order to know that she's happy. So then he have a guy that's cleaning the house doing things for the kid. I mean, there's been doing everything. I I was a guy at one time. I was I look I did the dishes look at all this and log My zip I did ex-wife would walk in. How come you haven't wipe the counters off and I haven't finished yet. Now we have sex. I've been there. I've been there were boarded the response that is completely different and you actually talk about this in your book, you know, there's there's so many Dynamics the whole, you know, since we're kind of, you know, kind of leaning towards longer-term relationship here. There's so many dynamics that go into this great book by Esther perel called mating in captivity says it actually intimacy and hot sex don't play em together now intimacy mean we know each other really well, we've gotten comfortable with each other. We've got a predictability to our life the thing that most relationship experts Point couples torque. We have great communication. We work things out or great team, but she says that actually works against the polarity of having, you know, really great hot sex. And so, you know, it's almost dead. I don't think we have to choose one or the other. She's not saying that but we do need to know that in those long-term relationships kind of the Mormon that just be together starts to feel routine that starts to take a bath the sex now there's a lot of other things that they can go in to this change. Sometimes it's is the man is is a lazy lover or a city lover. You know, he just thinks poking his partner, you know, Thursday is a way to do it. Sometimes he's using his own emotional neediness and approaching her to get sex like doing the the kitchen thing and now have sex when they have sex with me and what I found is that a women don't necessarily reject the desire their partner to have sex. They reject the neediness. That's behind it. Come validate me make feel okay by having sex with me think they pushed that away off like no women don't want that that that's that hose hooked up to them where their Partners going to, you know, fuck them and say, okay. I'm loved I'm good, you know, whatever other pieces job. Go into this as well part of it, you know going back a little bit of clarity we've touched on is that most women and culture nowadays are in their masculine so much. They're doing all the time. They getting ready to go work. They go to work deal with customers, you know co-workers management, then I got to get back home from work. Now there's dishes to be done dinners. And if there's kids most often parenting is masculine doing the kids need to get their homework done. They need to have a bath and you'd have dinner they need to get the bed and then, you know, the man gets in bed that night gives her a little shoulder rub off and she's going. Oh no one more thing I've got to do and that's how it feels right feels like oh, I gotta do one more thing which is again masculine and the deepest thoughts and desires to be done its to be open and blessed and but if if a woman has been so much in her masculine all day. There's most women off. Good at making that switch. Right? So one of the things that I teach men guys sent, you know say guys new in a relationship or beshi long-term relationship part of our masculine leadership is leading our partner back into her feminine laughter that feminine State and you know, that might mean she comes home. And first thing you say sit down you take you sit down take your shoes off rubber feet say five minutes, you're on the clock tell me about your day. You got my undivided attention and she gets to you know, decompress or feed her being rubbed. This isn't There's No Agenda. If you're right. This isn't the get her in mood for later on if you get her slowed down out of being in that masculine, I put a quote in no more mister nice guy by a lesbian feminist. A lot of feminists don't like her cuz she actually likes men and I'm glad to hear you guys say do too but she's the quote I use it says that the typical woman out. Workplace is just going going and if she doesn't get throttled that back when she comes home. She's going to castrate everything in the home and not because the woman needs to they're just like this needs to be let's get that to you know, it's just like that and so masculine Leadership can be just okay, you know, what are your room change your clothes go put on your sweats, you know, I've said a glass of wine out or go take a bath go read a book go, you know something that let her just get out of that fast. Got to do got a good you gotta do and then often as you said optional needs I think women have a deep need to be heard to seen. I think if a woman knows she's heard and seen that we guys think that might mean listening to them complain all night long and I give an exact. I was dating a woman few years ago. I met her at the mall. She sold me shoes how I met her and so we started dating and so early on some of our dates would go to like a Ruth's Chris restaurant off. And go to happy hour and have a hamburger when she got off work in the mall. There was connected each other so she'd come over and she'd been working all day and and selling shoes or apparel and she just starting complaining, you know, the customers the management of this and maybe if she talked to her mother that day she'd be in a she's always had a pissy mood after I learned after she talked to other so, you know, she'd come in and sit down and be completely I've already got the two glasses of wine in front of us and I realized you know right date. So I just I took my phone out. Like I said, put it out set the timer for five minutes and said we're on a date. I know you just got off work of my undivided attention for five minutes. Give it all to me and like about two or three minutes in she was done it was enough and and then like she and I've had other women thank God for creating that container that they could just decompress get it all out. I wasn't going to fix anything. They just had you know, my undivided attention for x amount of time and dead. Then she could relax and then we'd have a good evening. So that's you know, it's just an example of the masks and Leadership one of the things that I teach all men and I've taught all the women in my life is full of open the door for them, you know, a woman taught me that about fifteen sixteen Seventeen years ago. She just said hey, you know, I never know if you can open my door not just I don't care what you do either open it every time or Dome. Well, no, that's all right. I'm going to open it so car doors office or stored or whatever. I've taught all the women in my life. Wait, I will open the door. I'll come open your I'll put you in the office completely out of the car. Now. The woman doesn't need me to open her door, but it's it creates a little bit of polarity. I'm the doing it done two. It's not a big deal, but I found that it's profound and I found at each guy says do it, but do it consistently cuz the first time you forget to come around and open her door the first time you forget to open again. She's going to just sit there Staffing. They're going. Hey, you taught me this, you know, so so they you know, the feminine wants that consistency, but that little thing I found personally is so powerful my mum even waits for me to open her door. First time. I did it. She said if I waited my dad's been dead for eleven years. So if I waited for your dad to open my door, I'd still be waiting I said, okay, but I'm opening your life. You know, my granddaughter is should be fourteen next month. She wakes up on her door, you know, she loves what she loves One Big Papi comes around so she loves when Granddad, and it opens the door for so now those again, you know, women can open their own doors women can you know probably decompress in their own ways, but I found that say gift we men can get the women with no attachment is not to get them. Okay, you talk about your problems. We're gonna have sex now, right, you know, it's not about that and talking about the pushing for sex on you mention. I teach men never ever push a woman for sex now cuz I'm such a nice guy and I'm you know, you know doing my oh look at me. I'm a good guy because with a few horrible women have been poked at their entire lives. And since yeah, there's a reason hashtag me to exist women have been poked and I have found if a man is in his masculine setting the tone and leading being himself creating polarity. He doesn't have to push a woman for sex. I felt that the women are often sexual aggressor with me since I you know, got divorced twenty years ago and started Living, you know, this way with women every woman I've been with is one in more sex than me. I never put a woman for sex ever, but cuz here's the thing. I tell guys whether they're you know, so first time they're trying to get a woman have sex or long-term relationship if the woman for any reason. And has her foot on the break free. Maybe maybe you're on a first or second date and maybe she's didn't shave down there. Or maybe she's on her. Or maybe she's just not ready yet. She knows she's going to have sex with u age she's just not ready yet. So the foot she goes is going to happen but not yet foots on the brake and I told men if you have your foot on the gas and she knows you're pushing person again doesn't matter if it's a second date or you've been married twenty years if she knows you're pushing for sex and her foot's even just a little bit on the break. Guess what she's going to do now, push harder on the brake and all guys. You don't want a woman pushing harder on the sex break. So pushing a woman for sex. Not only thing is violating but it doesn't serve you. Well in the woman doesn't feel loved and it doesn't Make Her Say Yeah penetrate me. Do me fuk to God. I'm ready there like this song. They're like this so I know that's confusing. The men's we want a formula we want. Okay, tell me the three steps, but I found that if the guy games setting the tone needing creating the polarity inviting the woman into that feminine space. She's the one that's already planning about when they're going to have sex. Yeah you guys on your head. Yeah, that you know is absolutely I can agree with this more. I'm so happy. I hear you saying this as well, you know, Natalie built a products all around this master is called bedroom, and she talks so much about this polarity and there's something that was out and we talked about this very openly it's called last minute resistance and it was something that pushed in to pick up Community back home. And we've had a lot of guys get in trouble for this and it's about pushing the woman to have sex if she doesn't want to and a lot of times what I've noticed too and what you're saying is the energy behind them. Is is relationship or not relationship first or second date? It's the woman will be able to intuitive intuitively feel if you're pressing the brakes or if you're putting the gas on. Yeah. Yeah, if you're off the formula exactly. So if you're pushing excuse me, so it's not about having. Oh I need to do this specific formula. It's about just embodying. You're like you really knowing who you are as a young man and really standing up to that and positioning herself in that way and I tell like men this all the time and I remind them, you know, you as a guy can probably walk outside of a neighborhood. That's maybe not so good at 10:00 at night. But as a Woman by yourself and a black shirt if you wanted to doesn't matter, but as a woman we can't do that without feeling like we're going to be in trouble. I tell mid all the time to really understand what you you're saying right now. I tell men ask any woman, you know that she feel safe walking in her own neighborhood at night well and Thursday No, the majority of women are going to say ha don't do it. And you know, I'll even you know here in Puerto Vallarta where I live see a woman walking at night on a dark Street by yourself. I'm thinking woman. What were you thinking back? And you know again, I'm not saying that in any way justify like what the whole rape culture thing, but women have never felt safe walking the planet and I told men if you understand that women by nature or security seeking creatures and trust is everything. I was actually doing an interview one time with a couple of women on a television show more Middle Ages actually known no Ashok. So I went to the radio Studios was talking to them and I made the comment on a commercial break that I said. tell men I said if you fuck with a woman's trust you're going to fuck with her lust and the new ones that thought. Oh, yeah, you need to say that when we come back from break and I said guys say that on the radio and they go so if you mess with the woman's trust you're going to mess with the woman's lust and it was funny. Probably about two or three years. Years later, I walked into a coffee shop in the area that lived and and one of those women who did the interview was sitting talking to somebody else that I knew was actually she was a dating coach as well relationship coach wage and she wakes Robert you remember me? I said, yeah. Yeah, I did a radio interview with you just I've got to tell you when said that thing about, you know messing with a woman's trust you mess with their lust she goes I'm you know, fifty-something years old been married for thirty years. I went home told my husband that she said as a woman, I'd never put that two and together in my own head that trust was so essential to open sex is vulnerable for a woman you're getting poked and prodded and penetrated in every way and to enjoy that you've got to let go. Let go you've got to trust and I mean women can bypass that they get drunk enough. They can pray fantasy. They can get into you know, some old trauma-related. You know, I'm with the Jersey And it's saying yeah, but to truly open up an experienced the depth of bliss of and when I say penetration, I don't just mean the guy jack hammer in the woman, you know with this 24/7 hard on. It's about the man bringing all of his Consciousness and presents open heartedness and groundedness and passion bringing all of that yet. Natalie's over there. Yeah. Well, yeah more important because that's the thing is like we were talking about before is the masculine energy. Is that penetrating energy, but as a woman it's all interconnected with how we're feeling and letting go of that guard but also if a man is in that neediness energy needing to validate needing to do this in your intention isn't honest behind why you're even trying to penetrate us a pick up all of your energy you're literally going inside of us. So if I'm sitting there dating a guy and I sleep with him and he's got past trauma. He doesn't love himself. He's you know insecure and he's just trying to log Need to have sex with him validate himself. Now. What was that energy in me? I gotta deal with that kind of pick up your energy now like carry on about my day. So when when you are talking about just that simple thing of like when a woman comes home and you're like they there's a glass of wine for you go change into something comfortable. You've got me for five minutes. It's that and there's no intention behind Old Testament know about that right? There is sexy to a woman and why we would be the ones to initiate sex later because that is sexy to us that right. There is a we get to trust you will just break down anything those break that down even more for men cuz social appears that thing. So yeah again, we'll go back. Let's let's talk about a guy on let's say they got into a third date with woman, you know, and he hears like, you know open he gets laid that night, you know, so he's doing all the stuff to push it and and you know as women you of course know you know why we take out right off. To see you naked that's the whole reason we take you out and you know that, you know, you're not dumb, you know, you know, of course you're not, you know, we're ready. We were that special lingerie off likely, you know, so so and and now that's the point. I really want to make, you know, when you're ready. It's going to happen and I tell guys, okay listen. A woman knows within the first 30 seconds of meeting a guy if there's a possibility she's going to wear that sexy lingerie, right? I can't know for sure if she's going to she just knows if there's not a possibility and you know, then all the guys from there they use the nice guy seduction or the pick up stuff or trying to buy you enough drinks hoping that'll yeah with some wage their insecurities and their alcohol issues. It does happen. But the woman know so I tell the guy so you really don't have to make this happen as Chris Rock Says just don't say anything really stupid. Don't mess up. Right. So the woman knows if it's going to happen right or not. She no she doesn't know when but and and you know, because of all the cultural slut-shaming off and have to Cana like, well I want to do it right now, but I'm going to give it, you know, 15 more minutes before I get, you know, put on the laundry because you know, have to culturally blah blah a bunch of noise, but it off What is so so I tell guys think about it this way if she already in her mind is entertained the idea. She's going to wear that lingerie with you. You don't have to push. All you have to do is show up be you, you know, bring that good vibe cuz you women are so sensitive to energy. Yeah. Yeah, I'll be playful be affectionate took her hand and lead her oldest a way for me to open your door invite her into your great life or she gets to see this guy's got a fucking great life. I'm not talking about a great apartment a great cook. I mean those could be part of it. But that you've got friends. You've got a life. You're you're a social animal you you take care of yourself. Let her see that part of your life. You keep getting the tone and leading what I found when I was dating again. I never pushed a woman for sex put never pushed him to get naked, but I am very affectionate and I will set the tone and I will be Adventures. And I will call a woman up and say I'm at your house in 30 minutes be ready to go. I will do those kinds of things. And what I found is then the women put their foot on the gas and and off, you know, either dropping the innuendo about sex or say come over to dinner in my house Friday night, you know, then, you know, she's going to have the lingerie ready. So I tell them don't push cuz you don't have to you don't have to now that doesn't mean I don't tell I tell guys but that don't mean to be passive, you know be know, assert yourself be bold and when the dog opens by all means walk through that door now you may have to do something like, you know, the woman's, you know been making little innuendo you may just have to do the Bold thing and my kind of was all right, you know take your clothes off and go get in my bed. Oh, I can't believe you're telling me what to do, you know what to do. So I tell men her to do what she already wants to do. Now that again that's not like oh you're going to read her mind off. You guys you you gals send the signals when it's time when you're ready. You're not that hard like me use our mouths. We we think you know those thoughts your hand might end up on his crotch outside of his jeans. There's some signal for the guy to say it happens. It happens and for the guy to say, but I've had to say women this is as far we can go in a public setting somewhere else. So if you do that, Yeah, that's amazing. I definitely oh man, this is so good. I'm like my mind is like

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No More Mr. Nice Guy | Robert Glover | Write Your Legend Podcast with Apollonia Ponti and Natalie Stavola - burst 01

Write Your Legend

28:10 min | 10 months ago

No More Mr. Nice Guy | Robert Glover | Write Your Legend Podcast with Apollonia Ponti and Natalie Stavola - burst 01

"She will, you know, she's strong needs to be done. And so the thing that I learned is that a woman can't follow her a man doesn't lead that's true on the Dancefloor. It's is true in relationship. Now that leadership is not dead. Do it my way, you know, it's not about that that kind of controlling dominance. It's just showing up with a plan and having a sense of confidence about you that you know where you're going and you invite the woman to come along same on the dance floor is it I'm not going to ask the woman in between each move every step. Do you want to have this done now? Would you like a cross body move? Should I do a pretzel with you? Should I know I'm just going to lead her and if she likes the way I lead she's going to relax into that and follow and be blessed by that. If you don't like the way I lead single find another partner to dance with that's fine that it works. Well, but if I don't lead we're just going to stand there on the Dance Floor, you know kind of looking at each other until one of us gets bored and walks away. So that leadership is crucial and when I found when guys are trying to figure out what to make what to do make a woman happy and pleased or there's no real leadership. It's like I said be like me asking a woman every move. What do you want to next? do you want today off? And you're laughing cuz I've asked women in front of men. I'm teaching I'll say do you like it? Well, what do you like when your man says what do you want to tonight? You want to go out? Where do you want to go for dinner in the women go is needed to make a decision. Right? But I don't like it. I'll tell you but make a decision instead of times. I've had that argument with with some dating like I forgot to tell you, I don't like that. I'm going to change my mind you're going to say let's get Chinese food and I'm gonna say I want Italian but it doesn't matter. I just want you to make a decision cuz make a decision. Yeah, and that is super hard cuz that goes back to the man same. Maybe I'll do something wrong. And one thing I've been preaching to men for quite some time in marriage therapy. And otherwise, is that a woman's reaction to anything that a man does does not determine the rightness or wrongness of the thing man did write the man says, let's go get Chinese. You said I was thinking Italian he didn't do anything wrong cuz you had a different wage. Opinion on that. So this is you know, the work that I do with men is learning as a you know, start living life on your terms live life the way you want them live it and invite a great woman to come tag along with you to come join in your great life. Don't try to figure out how do I fit into her life? How do I make her happy? How do I make her want to be my girlfriend? I want to suck Ur clothes off. Don't worry about that stuff. You live your great life lead give her the chance to follow now. Here's the thing with that what if they're already in a relationship and all of a sudden? They're learning about this. How long does that take? Do all of a sudden they just come home and they're like, maybe like a big daddy 301 is here is here and she's like in leading this whole time. Yeah. So how does how do you do you get that like that leading birth? That is such a good question. When I wrote no more mister. Nice guy. I wrote in there I said when I started working with nice guys, and and because it does shake up a relationship if they're in one thousand. It shakes up everything, you know, the guy starts setting boundaries or starts asking for what he wants or start saying no or start spending more time with his guy friends, you know starts pursuing his his passion is going to shake things up and and I say in the book that I when I first started seeing this I gave relationships about a fifty-fifty chance that they would survive the the guy doing a nice guy recovery and I write in the book then over time. I started giving it more of a 60-40 that it wasn't going to work. And by the time I wrote book, I'd 7030. I'm about at 8020 now home and you know, we're kind of laughing about it. But the truth is yeah if if a couple of gotten together and fallen into a routine that that is some level is comfortable. Serve them even if it's painful and toxic it could be challenging to break that up. So mental asked me a lot of times say well sure. I show my wife or my girlfriend your book. I'm gonna go by all means, why am a copy, you know, let them have a copy and let them start underlining and writing in it and you tell them what it is that you're wanting to work on and what you're learning and how you want to be in this world. And and you know, do this is a team effort and in my experience. I'm a say in general women like my book, you know, when the book up published. I think the Publishers are thoughts going to create this big controversial but it never did. I maybe have gotten three angry emails from women in twenty years so women like the book cuz it's teaching men can be honest and transparent and and you know good men. Not not just pleasing nice guys. So I have found that a lot of women are really supportive of this work log. I got to visit a couple had worked with a number of years ago. I started working with the man over time and then he met the woman they got married. They're they're like 50, so they're both like second marriage for each of them and they came down to Puerto Vallarta where I live and did some work with me a few years ago and I forgot to visit them about three weeks ago and and the woman said to me says Robert finished that other book you're working on around what I call positive emotional tension women tend to like the stuff that I teach and couples therapy. You know, when I would start with the man just like in dance class, you gotta start with the lead, you gotta show them how to leave where the followers got nothing to lead. So I start with the man and I get the big two-by-four out smack him upside the head and say, okay, here's how women are wired. Here's what's important to them. Here's what most men get wrong. And here's what we're going to work on and usually the women have gone to look at their husbands or boyfriend and go this guy gets women. I like him. And so So when I found his women are pretty supportive of this Dynamic and many men had told me. Hey my wife gave me your book my ex-wife gave me your book an ex girlfriend gave me your book off. So women are spreading the word and they want men that they can trust that they can depend on who will set the tone and Lead who they can open up and Trust. Yeah because it's an honest with themselves and how can they be honest in a relationship if I can't depend on you to open up and tell me like what's going on? What you need? How can we be a team song? Yeah. I'm very obviously have apple and I are huge fans of the book. Yeah, and another point you talk about in one of your chapters and the no more mister nice guy book is with with life in general, right? I am a true believer that women look at sex differently than men look at 6 and men look at sex differently and intimacy is emotional for women, right? So we need our emotional needs to be met off. Order to want to have sex either with our partner or in our marriage whatever the case may be and sometimes those marriages can end up dying down and then we look up as sometimes what I've seen as well is that the men is looking at this as my wife isn't having sex with me. So I need to push for sex in order to feed the validation from within me. Right and so the woman was like, oh, I'm just not there mentally emotionally because of XYZ. I'm going through a hard time in life. And so what happens is he pushes more so than the relationship gets disconnected when they really weren't disconnected really in the first place. Yeah, but since the sex was pushed it was more and then I've seen that Spectrum happened in a lot of you know people that we work with and then the other spectrum is I mean to have sex with my wife in order to know that she's happy. So then he have a guy that's cleaning the house doing things for the kid. I mean, there's been doing everything. I I was a guy at one time. I was I look I did the dishes look at all this and log My zip I did ex-wife would walk in. How come you haven't wipe the counters off and I haven't finished yet. Now we have sex. I've been there. I've been there were boarded the response that is completely different and you actually talk about this in your book, you know, there's there's so many Dynamics the whole, you know, since we're kind of, you know, kind of leaning towards longer-term relationship here. There's so many dynamics that go into this great book by Esther perel called mating in captivity says it actually intimacy and hot sex don't play em together now intimacy mean we know each other really well, we've gotten comfortable with each other. We've got a predictability to our life the thing that most relationship experts Point couples torque. We have great communication. We work things out or great team, but she says that actually works against the polarity of having, you know, really great hot sex. And so, you know, it's almost dead. I don't think we have to choose one or the other. She's not saying that but we do need to know that in those long-term relationships kind of the Mormon that just be together starts to feel routine that starts to take a bath the sex now there's a lot of other things that they can go in to this change. Sometimes it's is the man is is a lazy lover or a city lover. You know, he just thinks poking his partner, you know, Thursday is a way to do it. Sometimes he's using his own emotional neediness and approaching her to get sex like doing the the kitchen thing and now have sex when they have sex with me and what I found is that a women don't necessarily reject the desire their partner to have sex. They reject the neediness. That's behind it. Come validate me make feel okay by having sex with me think they pushed that away off like no women don't want that that that's that hose hooked up to them where their Partners going to, you know, fuck them and say, okay. I'm loved I'm good, you know, whatever other pieces job. Go into this as well part of it, you know going back a little bit of clarity we've touched on is that most women and culture nowadays are in their masculine so much. They're doing all the time. They getting ready to go work. They go to work deal with customers, you know co-workers management, then I got to get back home from work. Now there's dishes to be done dinners. And if there's kids most often parenting is masculine doing the kids need to get their homework done. They need to have a bath and you'd have dinner they need to get the bed and then, you know, the man gets in bed that night gives her a little shoulder rub off and she's going. Oh no one more thing I've got to do and that's how it feels right feels like oh, I gotta do one more thing which is again masculine and the deepest thoughts and desires to be done its to be open and blessed and but if if a woman has been so much in her masculine all day. There's most women off. Good at making that switch. Right? So one of the things that I teach men guys sent, you know say guys new in a relationship or beshi long-term relationship part of our masculine leadership is leading our partner back into her feminine laughter that feminine State and you know, that might mean she comes home. And first thing you say sit down you take you sit down take your shoes off rubber feet say five minutes, you're on the clock tell me about your day. You got my undivided attention and she gets to you know, decompress or feed her being rubbed. This isn't There's No Agenda. If you're right. This isn't the get her in mood for later on if you get her slowed down out of being in that masculine, I put a quote in no more mister nice guy by a lesbian feminist. A lot of feminists don't like her cuz she actually likes men and I'm glad to hear you guys say do too but she's the quote I use it says that the typical woman out. Workplace is just going going and if she doesn't get throttled that back when she comes home. She's going to castrate everything in the home and not because the woman needs to they're just like this needs to be let's get that to you know, it's just like that and so masculine Leadership can be just okay, you know, what are your room change your clothes go put on your sweats, you know, I've said a glass of wine out or go take a bath go read a book go, you know something that let her just get out of that fast. Got to do got a good you gotta do and then often as you said optional needs I think women have a deep need to be heard to seen. I think if a woman knows she's heard and seen that we guys think that might mean listening to them complain all night long and I give an exact. I was dating a woman few years ago. I met her at the mall. She sold me shoes how I met her and so we started dating and so early on some of our dates would go to like a Ruth's Chris restaurant off. And go to happy hour and have a hamburger when she got off work in the mall. There was connected each other so she'd come over and she'd been working all day and and selling shoes or apparel and she just starting complaining, you know, the customers the management of this and maybe if she talked to her mother that day she'd be in a she's always had a pissy mood after I learned after she talked to other so, you know, she'd come in and sit down and be completely I've already got the two glasses of wine in front of us and I realized you know right date. So I just I took my phone out. Like I said, put it out set the timer for five minutes and said we're on a date. I know you just got off work of my undivided attention for five minutes. Give it all to me and like about two or three minutes in she was done it was enough and and then like she and I've had other women thank God for creating that container that they could just decompress get it all out. I wasn't going to fix anything. They just had you know, my undivided attention for x amount of time and dead. Then she could relax and then we'd have a good evening. So that's you know, it's just an example of the masks and Leadership one of the things that I teach all men and I've taught all the women in my life is full of open the door for them, you know, a woman taught me that about fifteen sixteen Seventeen years ago. She just said hey, you know, I never know if you can open my door not just I don't care what you do either open it every time or Dome. Well, no, that's all right. I'm going to open it so car doors office or stored or whatever. I've taught all the women in my life. Wait, I will open the door. I'll come open your I'll put you in the office completely out of the car. Now. The woman doesn't need me to open her door, but it's it creates a little bit of polarity. I'm the doing it done two. It's not a big deal, but I found that it's profound and I found at each guy says do it, but do it consistently cuz the first time you forget to come around and open her door the first time you forget to open again. She's going to just sit there Staffing. They're going. Hey, you taught me this, you know, so so they you know, the feminine wants that consistency, but that little thing I found personally is so powerful my mum even waits for me to open her door. First time. I did it. She said if I waited my dad's been dead for eleven years. So if I waited for your dad to open my door, I'd still be waiting I said, okay, but I'm opening your life. You know, my granddaughter is should be fourteen next month. She wakes up on her door, you know, she loves what she loves One Big Papi comes around so she loves when Granddad, and it opens the door for so now those again, you know, women can open their own doors women can you know probably decompress in their own ways, but I found that say gift we men can get the women with no attachment is not to get them. Okay, you talk about your problems. We're gonna have sex now, right, you know, it's not about that and talking about the pushing for sex on you mention. I teach men never ever push a woman for sex now cuz I'm such a nice guy and I'm you know, you know doing my oh look at me. I'm a good guy because with a few horrible women have been poked at their entire lives. And since yeah, there's a reason hashtag me to exist women have been poked and I have found if a man is in his masculine setting the tone and leading being himself creating polarity. He doesn't have to push a woman for sex. I felt that the women are often sexual aggressor with me since I you know, got divorced twenty years ago and started Living, you know, this way with women every woman I've been with is one in more sex than me. I never put a woman for sex ever, but cuz here's the thing. I tell guys whether they're you know, so first time they're trying to get a woman have sex or long-term relationship if the woman for any reason. And has her foot on the break free. Maybe maybe you're on a first or second date and maybe she's didn't shave down there. Or maybe she's on her. Or maybe she's just not ready yet. She knows she's going to have sex with u age she's just not ready yet. So the foot she goes is going to happen but not yet foots on the brake and I told men if you have your foot on the gas and she knows you're pushing person again doesn't matter if it's a second date or you've been married twenty years if she knows you're pushing for sex and her foot's even just a little bit on the break. Guess what she's going to do now, push harder on the brake and all guys. You don't want a woman pushing harder on the sex break. So pushing a woman for sex. Not only thing is violating but it doesn't serve you. Well in the woman doesn't feel loved and it doesn't Make Her Say Yeah penetrate me. Do me fuk to God. I'm ready there like this song. They're like this so I know that's confusing. The men's we want a formula we want. Okay, tell me the three steps, but I found that if the guy games setting the tone needing creating the polarity inviting the woman into that feminine space. She's the one that's already planning about when they're going to have sex. Yeah you guys on your head. Yeah, that you know is absolutely I can agree with this more. I'm so happy. I hear you saying this as well, you know, Natalie built a products all around this master is called bedroom, and she talks so much about this polarity and there's something that was out and we talked about this very openly it's called last minute resistance and it was something that pushed in to pick up Community back home. And we've had a lot of guys get in trouble for this and it's about pushing the woman to have sex if she doesn't want to and a lot of times what I've noticed too and what you're saying is the energy behind them. Is is relationship or not relationship first or second date? It's the woman will be able to intuitive intuitively feel if you're pressing the brakes or if you're putting the gas on. Yeah. Yeah, if you're off the formula exactly. So if you're pushing excuse me, so it's not about having. Oh I need to do this specific formula. It's about just embodying. You're like you really knowing who you are as a young man and really standing up to that and positioning herself in that way and I tell like men this all the time and I remind them, you know, you as a guy can probably walk outside of a neighborhood. That's maybe not so good at 10:00 at night. But as a Woman by yourself and a black shirt if you wanted to doesn't matter, but as a woman we can't do that without feeling like we're going to be in trouble. I tell mid all the time to really understand what you you're saying right now. I tell men ask any woman, you know that she feel safe walking in her own neighborhood at night well and Thursday No, the majority of women are going to say ha don't do it. And you know, I'll even you know here in Puerto Vallarta where I live see a woman walking at night on a dark Street by yourself. I'm thinking woman. What were you thinking back? And you know again, I'm not saying that in any way justify like what the whole rape culture thing, but women have never felt safe walking the planet and I told men if you understand that women by nature or security seeking creatures and trust is everything. I was actually doing an interview one time with a couple of women on a television show more Middle Ages actually known no Ashok. So I went to the radio Studios was talking to them and I made the comment on a commercial break that I said. tell men I said if you fuck with a woman's trust you're going to fuck with her lust and the new ones that thought. Oh, yeah, you need to say that when we come back from break and I said guys say that on the radio and they go so if you mess with the woman's trust you're going to mess with the woman's lust and it was funny. Probably about two or three years. Years later, I walked into a coffee shop in the area that lived and and one of those women who did the interview was sitting talking to somebody else that I knew was actually she was a dating coach as well relationship coach wage and she wakes Robert you remember me? I said, yeah. Yeah, I did a radio interview with you just I've got to tell you when said that thing about, you know messing with a woman's trust you mess with their lust she goes I'm you know, fifty-something years old been married for thirty years. I went home told my husband that she said as a woman, I'd never put that two and together in my own head that trust was so essential to open sex is vulnerable for a woman you're getting poked and prodded and penetrated in every way and to enjoy that you've got to let go. Let go you've got to trust and I mean women can bypass that they get drunk enough. They can pray fantasy. They can get into you know, some old trauma-related. You know, I'm with the Jersey And it's saying yeah, but to truly open up an experienced the depth of bliss of and when I say penetration, I don't just mean the guy jack hammer in the woman, you know with this 24/7 hard on. It's about the man bringing all of his Consciousness and presents open heartedness and groundedness and passion bringing all of that yet. Natalie's over there. Yeah. Well, yeah more important because that's the thing is like we were talking about before is the masculine energy. Is that penetrating energy, but as a woman it's all interconnected with how we're feeling and letting go of that guard but also if a man is in that neediness energy needing to validate needing to do this in your intention isn't honest behind why you're even trying to penetrate us a pick up all of your energy you're literally going inside of us. So if I'm sitting there dating a guy and I sleep with him and he's got past trauma. He doesn't love himself. He's you know insecure and he's just trying to log Need to have sex with him validate himself. Now. What was that energy in me? I gotta deal with that kind of pick up your energy now like carry on about my day. So when when you are talking about just that simple thing of like when a woman comes home and you're like they there's a glass of wine for you go change into something comfortable. You've got me for five minutes. It's that and there's no intention behind Old Testament know about that right? There is sexy to a woman and why we would be the ones to initiate sex later because that is sexy to us that right. There is a we get to trust you will just break down anything those break that down even more for men cuz social appears that thing. So yeah again, we'll go back. Let's let's talk about a guy on let's say they got into a third date with woman, you know, and he hears like, you know open he gets laid that night, you know, so he's doing all the stuff to push it and and you know as women you of course know you know why we take out right off. To see you naked that's the whole reason we take you out and you know that, you know, you're not dumb, you know, you know, of course you're not, you know, we're ready. We were that special lingerie off likely, you know, so so and and now that's the point. I really want to make, you know, when you're ready. It's going to happen and I tell guys, okay listen. A woman knows within the first 30 seconds of meeting a guy if there's a possibility she's going to wear that sexy lingerie, right? I can't know for sure if she's going to she just knows if there's not a possibility and you know, then all the guys from there they use the nice guy seduction or the pick up stuff or trying to buy you enough drinks hoping that'll yeah with some wage their insecurities and their alcohol issues. It does happen. But the woman know so I tell the guy so you really don't have to make this happen as Chris Rock Says just don't say anything really stupid. Don't mess up. Right. So the woman knows if it's going to happen right or not. She no she doesn't know when but and and you know, because of all the cultural slut-shaming off and have to Cana like, well I want to do it right now, but I'm going to give it, you know, 15 more minutes before I get, you know, put on the laundry because you know, have to culturally blah blah a bunch of noise, but it off What is so so I tell guys think about it this way if she already in her mind is entertained the idea. She's going to wear that lingerie with you. You don't have to push. All you have to do is show up be you, you know, bring that good vibe cuz you women are so sensitive to energy. Yeah. Yeah, I'll be playful be affectionate took her hand and lead her oldest a way for me to open your door invite her into your great life or she gets to see this guy's got a fucking great life. I'm not talking about a great apartment a great cook. I mean those could be part of it. But that you've got friends. You've got a life. You're you're a social animal you you take care of yourself. Let her see that part of your life. You keep getting the tone and leading what I found when I was dating again. I never pushed a woman for sex put never pushed him to get naked, but I am very affectionate and I will set the tone and I will be Adventures. And I will call a woman up and say I'm at your house in 30 minutes be ready to go. I will do those kinds of things. And what I found is then the women put their foot on the gas and and off, you know, either dropping the innuendo about sex or say come over to dinner in my house Friday night, you know, then, you know, she's going to have the lingerie ready. So I tell them don't push cuz you don't have to you don't have to now that doesn't mean I don't tell I tell guys but that don't mean to be passive, you know be know, assert yourself be bold and when the dog opens by all means walk through that door now you may have to do something like, you know, the woman's, you know been making little innuendo you may just have to do the Bold thing and my kind of was all right, you know take your clothes off and go get in my bed. Oh, I can't believe you're telling me what to do, you know what to do. So I tell men her to do what she already wants to do. Now that again that's not like oh you're going to read her mind off. You guys you you gals send the signals when it's time when you're ready. You're not that hard like me use our mouths. We we think you know those thoughts your hand might end up on his crotch outside of his jeans. There's some signal for the guy to say it happens. It happens and for the guy to say, but I've had to say women this is as far we can go in a public setting somewhere else. So if you do that, Yeah, that's amazing. I definitely oh man, this is so good. I'm like my mind is like

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"robert glover" Discussed on Write Your Legend

"She will, you know, she's strong needs to be done. And so the thing that I learned is that a woman can't follow her a man doesn't lead that's true on the Dancefloor. It's is true in relationship. Now that leadership is not dead. Do it my way, you know, it's not about that that kind of controlling dominance. It's just showing up with a plan and having a sense of confidence about you that you know where you're going and you invite the woman to come along same on the dance floor is it I'm not going to ask the woman in between each move every step. Do you want to have this done now? Would you like a cross body move? Should I do a pretzel with you? Should I know I'm just going to lead her and if she likes the way I lead she's going to relax into that and follow and be blessed by that. If you don't like the way I lead single find another partner to dance with that's fine that it works. Well, but if I don't lead we're just going to stand there on the Dance Floor, you know kind of looking at each other until one of us gets bored and walks away. So that leadership is crucial and when I found when guys are trying to figure out what to make what to do make a woman happy and pleased or there's no real leadership. It's like I said be like me asking a woman every move. What do you want to next? do you want today off? And you're laughing cuz I've asked women in front of men. I'm teaching I'll say do you like it? Well, what do you like when your man says what do you want to tonight? You want to go out? Where do you want to go for dinner in the women go is needed to make a decision. Right? But I don't like it. I'll tell you but make a decision instead of times. I've had that argument with with some dating like I forgot to tell you, I don't like that. I'm going to change my mind you're going to say let's get Chinese food and I'm gonna say I want Italian but it doesn't matter. I just want you to make a decision cuz make a decision. Yeah, and that is super hard cuz that goes back to the man same. Maybe I'll do something wrong. And one thing I've been preaching to men for quite some time in marriage therapy. And otherwise, is that a woman's reaction to anything that a man does does not determine the rightness or wrongness of the thing man did write the man says, let's go get Chinese. You said I was thinking Italian he didn't do anything wrong cuz you had a different wage. Opinion on that. So this is you know, the work that I do with men is learning as a you know, start living life on your terms live life the way you want them live it and invite a great woman to come tag along with you to come join in your great life. Don't try to figure out how do I fit into her life? How do I make her happy? How do I make her want to be my girlfriend? I want to suck Ur clothes off. Don't worry about that stuff. You live your great life lead give her the chance to follow now. Here's the thing with that what if they're already in a relationship and all of a sudden? They're learning about this. How long does that take? Do all of a sudden they just come home and they're like, maybe like a big daddy 301 is here is here and she's like in leading this whole time. Yeah. So how does how do you do you get that like that leading birth? That is such a good question. When I wrote no more mister. Nice guy. I wrote in there I said when I started working with nice guys, and and because it does shake up a relationship if they're in one thousand. It shakes up everything, you know, the guy starts setting boundaries or starts asking for what he wants or

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Write Your Legend

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No More Mr. Nice Guy | Robert Glover | Write Your Legend Podcast with Apollonia Ponti and Natalie Stavola - burst 01

"She will, you know, she's strong needs to be done. And so the thing that I learned is that a woman can't follow her a man doesn't lead that's true on the Dancefloor. It's is true in relationship. Now that leadership is not dead. Do it my way, you know, it's not about that that kind of controlling dominance. It's just showing up with a plan and having a sense of confidence about you that you know where you're going and you invite the woman to come along same on the dance floor is it I'm not going to ask the woman in between each move every step. Do you want to have this done now? Would you like a cross body move? Should I do a pretzel with you? Should I know I'm just going to lead her and if she likes the way I lead she's going to relax into that and follow and be blessed by that. If you don't like the way I lead single find another partner to dance with that's fine that it works. Well, but if I don't lead we're just going to stand there on the Dance Floor, you know kind of looking at each other until one of us gets bored and walks away. So that leadership is crucial and when I found when guys are trying to figure out what to make what to do make a woman happy and pleased or there's no real leadership. It's like I said be like me asking a woman every move. What do you want to next? do you want today off? And you're laughing cuz I've asked women in front of men. I'm teaching I'll say do you like it? Well, what do you like when your man says what do you want to tonight? You want to go out? Where do you want to go for dinner in the women go is needed to make a decision. Right? But I don't like it. I'll tell you but make a decision instead of times. I've had that argument with with some dating like I forgot to tell you, I don't like that. I'm going to change my mind you're going to say let's get Chinese food and I'm gonna say I want Italian but it doesn't matter. I just want you to make a decision cuz make a decision. Yeah, and that is super hard cuz that goes back to the man same. Maybe I'll do something wrong. And one thing I've been preaching to men for quite some time in marriage therapy. And otherwise, is that a woman's reaction to anything that a man does does not determine the rightness or wrongness of the thing man did write the man says, let's go get Chinese. You said I was thinking Italian he didn't do anything wrong cuz you had a different wage. Opinion on that. So this is you know, the work that I do with men is learning as a you know, start living life on your terms live life the way you want them live it and invite a great woman to come tag along with you to come join in your great life. Don't try to figure out how do I fit into her life? How do I make her happy? How do I make her want to be my girlfriend? I want to suck Ur clothes off. Don't worry about that stuff. You live your great life lead give her the chance to follow now. Here's the thing with that what if they're already in a relationship and all of a sudden? They're learning about this. How long does that take? Do all of a sudden they just come home and they're like, maybe like a big daddy 301 is here is here and she's like in leading this whole time. Yeah. So how does how do you do you get that like that leading birth? That is such a good question. When I wrote no more mister. Nice guy. I wrote in there I said when I started working with nice guys, and and because it does shake up a relationship if they're in one thousand. It shakes up everything, you know, the guy starts setting boundaries or starts asking for what he wants or

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02:01 min | 3 years ago

"robert glover" Discussed on WLS-AM 890

"Wwl tv you can talk to dr robert glover eight eight eight six eight eight wwl t now dr let's talk about work in the workplace i have more often than not seeing that the the person who has the most money and the most success at work is the biggest jerk i will give you an example i had a partner wants who pulled these kinds of moves did this kind of stuff all day this is what he would do he would get a call from say a big investor in the company who we were working with and the investor would say i'd like you and walter to come to a meeting tomorrow at ten am they tell my partner this and then at ten twenty the next day i would get a call saying where are you what do you mean you're supposed to be in a meeting that started at ten o'clock where are you we told frank why don't you toll frank and then franklin tell me about the meetings he would sabotage me by doing things that i can't even conceive of doing like in my brain my small brain i could never conceive of not telling a partner about a potential meeting but he would do that stuff on purpose all the time are you happy i am happy with my beautiful three daughters and my much younger elegant wife but i'd really like to take them on a great vacation to a ritz carlton and not have to negotiate points at the embassy suites well you what you're saying is is absolutely correct i i actually have an online class that i've been teaching for about twelve fifteen years called nice guys don't finish last they rot in management and okay now wait wait wait wait hold on one second because i have you for limited time and what you have so valuable you're gonna tell us how to break out of being nice guys and win i.

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