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Rihanna is pregnant, debuts bump on stroll with A$AP Rocky
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Who Has the Most Twitter Followers?
"These are the top four twitter accounts by number of hours. Top four twitter accounts number of followers. They'll gosh yes What's the name of that. Ceo of twitter again. I don't know is it dorsey yay l. jack dorsey or something like that. Let's go with him. I jack dorsey all right survey says and wow okay. Well we know. He's not full of himself on twitter. Right i guess not. I don't even keep up with sweater. I mean we've got a twitter account. I never really check it honestly Okay so i'm going to say robert. Daily junior artie j. All right show me ironman and all right. And next i'd say blackwood scarlett johansson because why not because. I'm just throwing blindly here. I like marvel so. You're really into marvel. Aren't you show me scarborough. And oh no. Joey struck out. The first round has i. Don't follow twitter staff. Honestly that's okay. It's not a big deal all right so number four answer with a hundred and two point eight million followers pop sensation. Riana okay. I don't follow her either. Okay i number three answer with a hundred and eight million one zero eight point seven million followers pop sensation. Katy perry let us pop sensations right. That's probably why honest it's three pop. Sensations the number one is a politician. I'll okay all right so number. Two with one hundred thirteen point nine million followers pop sensation. Justin bieber okay. Let me guess the fourth one is bernie sanders now close. The had the correct first initial number one twitter account by most followers with one hundred and twenty nine point nine million followers barack obama. Oh okay
"riana" Discussed on The Lawfare Podcast
"Absolutely and i let me push back on your formulation. It's not that apple or anybody else was saying. This can't be done. It's that we're saying this can't be done safely or this can't be done securely and my aunt has been speaking to the concerns and the doubts about whether this is actually a secure apples asking us to think that is and i pointed out some of the concerns around why this is not something that can be done without a blast radius that affects anybody from closeted queer kids in iowa up through You know human rights and vulnerable populations around the world. So you know it's it's not about like the technology it's kind of applications of the technology. Every technical choice is also a policy choice and so yes. This does make my job harder. Inasmuch as apple has made this decision and in mmediately we have seen a government officials for example in the uk saying great. Now it's facebook's turn now it's will turn everybody else should be doing the same thing in this is despite the fact that these dangers were already well understood and that the risks were well understood and that we have not been quiet about re-releasing those concerns now. That apple has dropped this into the laps not only of their users but if every other company out there and all of those companies users and allies have have been deflected away. The thing that i think apple might be thinking is that this is going to get the government off their backs. Look we gave you what you want now like. This is the thing that you keep hammering on us about. We've done it go away. It's not now it's going to be. They're all going to be wanting one. And it's not as i said going to be limited to see sam so i don't think apple has succeeded in deflecting attention away even though there is also now attention being paid to the facebook symbols signals of the world. It's going to be paid on on apple. Two and the demand is going to be to do do more and more and more. You can't give an inch without a mile being snatched away. Let me ask you. Version of the question i asked. Let me do it by reference to something. That charles right. Who is a security researcher at portland state university and someone that. We've both collaborated with somebody. He wrote about on on twitter recently in the wake of this news. And he's been someone who's been doing research on the how you do get whether you can do scanning of krypton information in a way that still save and privacy Preserving he wrote a thread in which he expressed a lot of his frustration about how in his view the security research community has not been willing over the past several years to think about ways to develop these kind of privacy protective content scanning systems and that the result of kind of blanket refusal to do that has has meant that when inevitably someone caved to the pressure created such a system like apple justed. They did so without the benefit of years and years of research from the community into how to do this well. And that what you get is this system. Which charles has his own security objections to and i'm curious. Do you think that this is a kind of a fair criticism of the security research community and if so will this action by apple because it opens the door to many more such such attempts by apple or other companies or other governments to create scanning of encrypted data. Do you think this will be a wakeup call for the research community to actually start taking this issue more seriously and actually be willing to do a lot more research into this yes i think. charles's criticism is is valid. And yes. I think our hope that there would be some changes in the way that academic cryptography in cybersecurity communities. I look at these problems which is to say that they're sort of questions about what sunset of the going dark or whatever you wanna call it. A problems are technologically possible versus. What subset are actually good ideas for society. And i worried that the cryptographer is tend to complete the two. And like we've been discussing this whole time. You know attack. That apple is talking about is not new and so there could have been discussion over the past decades. I mean the technology of heights editor section goes back to the nineteen eighties. There could have been discussions within the tech community about wear sugar or should not this technology used and there aren't harshly because maybe just structurally the way that computer science research is valued. It's a stunt on novelty of mass or algorithm mick or engineering ideas. It's not really based as much on you know. Here's a policy position paper on how my new tech should use. That's not something that computer science news published. It is something. They're like lawyers and political scientists and economists and whatever published. But it's not something that we do and it's partially at just of you that You know if nobody thinks or looks at how to solve a problem. Technologically may be requests from government will just go away. And i don't like that way of looking at it much prefer the way that for example. Jonathan mayor does which on mentioned earlier that let's understand the fundamental limits of perceptual. Hashing or the way that matt green and doug joke and heels deadlier did in your paper earlier this year where they looked at you know what subsets of going dark problem are actually easier or harder from a technical point of view not from a you know sort of again we should give ourselves the freedom as a computer science group to understand what are the technological limits even as we also when we put our you know human rights civil privacy hats on argue for whether they should or should not be done but we shouldn't use that to sort of leave a complete vacuum into which one day some company decides to drop this product in say. Okay we solve all these problems because then we've abdicated also our role in evaluating it..
"riana" Discussed on The Lawfare Podcast
"Has been saying all along which is that they're really smart they think they're really smart and they think that with enough research they can come up with at least for certain categories of data certain categories of encrypted information ways of providing access that they think is still overall privacy protective and whether or not the government side quote unquote has won the going. Dark debate hasn't apple kind of conceded that they have in this order. Am i am i off base. Well maybe my correct me. If i'm wrong but it's my understanding that this isn't some Masterful brand new breakthrough in technology is long. Been known that you could do client side. Scanning against hashes in the data set in that you could make the number of matches meet a particular chosen threshold like apple did not invent private center section or three griffin. But you know there. There are such obvious reasons why this might be a bad idea in those again going back to the jonathan mayer used. Nix paper You know he described a similar system and he describes reasons why it's a bad idea and here it is with that coming out mere days after. Apple's idea came out. So i agree that they have smart people at apple who were working hard on on implementing this but they didn't invent sliced bread here. These have been some some known systems and known things that you could do for a while here and you know i i do agree with you though that there has been year after year of this nerd harder thing and honestly like silicon valley is kind of brought that upon themselves to some degree. When you're out there trying to make your share price go up as a publicly traded company and sell units as to trade company when you're trying to raise your series a. or b. your seat around funding as a private company that startup up. Of course you have an incentive to say we're the wizard geniuses a look at our wizardry. So then you know your bluff gets called wins like. If you're such wizards come up with a way of solving this problem you know. The the government's line has been able to put a man on the moon and map as response. Another qatari has been. That doesn't mean it's a good idea to put a man on the sun. But you know just just push back on the idea that this is a brand new breakthrough designed but maybe you can tell me whether that is correct or not. I agree the components of this system are all things that have been known before. Probably the newest part is also the least relevant any sort of policy debate which is that optimization piece that i mentioned at the end which spray new thing called detectable hash functions. It really doesn't matter what it is. It's pretty cool to people like me but fortunately it's not the main part that matters here. I think in terms of the sort of broader question of of going dark and does this resolve or change much. I think from technological point no for the reasons re honest stated. And there's there's a big big difference between. Here's a valid like. Here's here's a specific Scientific problem can you search for c. sam on photos uploaded to i cloud. It's a very well defined problem and it's a problem where you know exactly what you're looking for and you knew what you were looking for before you started searching right you have. The knickknack has the set of images. Before you start doing scanning whether server side or client side it's a very scoped and wealth. Well-defined problem versus when there these conversations about the going dark debate i don't even know law enforcement is asking for. They just want the ability to do anything all the time. And they will figure out at some point what they want to be looking for on which devices and the tech has to be able to sort of you know have the clairvoyance to figure out what police might do in the future and to prepare for that possibility that that's not the way technologically that anything works to say nothing about the giant policy. Leap that is. Let me ask the question a different way so i take both of your points that that first apple may not have in fact solved this problem in the sense that this may not be a good idea and even if this turns out to be an okay idea and this is tolerable from a security and privacy perspective. It doesn't mean that apple can solve the other problems. That law enforcement wants to solve because the going dark problem is not actually one technological problem. It's many only sort of related technological problems and what works for one of those problems may not work for another one of those problems but in terms of the kind of the war of ideas around. This doesn't this. Make your life harder right so so the relationship between the civil society that that riyan as part of the academic community that is part of industry. That apple's part of the government that you know the fbi is is part of that has always been a very complicated relationship and in the last ten years or so. Civil society in the academic research community has tended to be allied with big companies like apple in all pushing back against demands from the government to do something about the going dark issue and presumably the fact that the really smart people apple were saying. We can't do this made it easier for arena or a myong to point to that and say no look. They can't do this so please stop asking now. Doesn't it make your life much harder now. That apple has done this thing to say. And there's consensus not just among us. Academics are civil society people but among the actual industry folks that you would need to build you the magic system that this can't be done because apple has just admitted that at least for a non trivial part of the problem it can be done at least according to apple. I mean so. Let me ask you ran you know. Do you think this makes your life that much harder as you go forth and try to continue your your your fight against any attempts to to weaken as you understand it.
"riana" Discussed on The Lawfare Podcast
"Why do all of this complicates on device scanning and psi stuff. But you know you could say what if we only like left. End encryption off for shared photo albums and then kept the rest of it end to end. Encrypted and apple has refused to comment on future plans. Like i got asked him point blank. Like are you going to end i cloud. Is that why you're doing this. And they said we don't talk about future product choices but lay thinking is if they had gone around and talked to some of the voices from across the spectrum. Especially folks like alex. You're interested in pragmatic solution. Who understand intimately the stakes on both sides of this issue with regard to the child safety portion and with regard to the privacy and security portion and see where people are coming from on both. Then you know. I like to think that maybe this is not the outcome that we would have reached that it might have been something that looks a little more modest you know as lawyers we talk about. What is the most narrowly tailored solution for a particular issue. And i think there is concerned that this is not. The most narrowly tailored way of going about accomplishing the goals. That they trying to. I recognize that they could have done something much broader that this is their version of narrow tailoring. But you know. I'm going to bring in the other side of this but my position is kind of similar here is. Could you not have just done this for us. Shared photo albums for the system scanning side. And then why aren't you building in a better abuse reporting tool into. I message the message side. They're still not doing that. They have this parental notification thing that they're doing but they're not you know they're still stopping up their ears against wind to actually get reports to apple about what is going on at night. Message just to add on top of Excellent points about apple. Knock meaningfully talking with folks. I don't know that they've ever actually meaningfully listened to folks either which is an even easier bar right like riana end and her colleagues at the stanford. Internet observatory have run all sorts of great workshops on all aspects of balancing privacy and security interests in the digital world and to my knowledge. And tell me if i'm wrong. I don't believe they've ever been apple. Representatives even the room listening to other folks there. That's right and you know. This is something that that alex has griped about. We've had so many folks from all different parts of society in the first one these workshops that we did which was about child safety in an end to end decrypted world. We had people from nick from thorne. Which is a prominent child safety tooling organization. We had the fbi. We had people from these saliou. We had electronic frontier foundation. We had all of these different people that i think it might otherwise you pretty difficult to get to come into a room and talk civilly to each other and listen to each other and apple. Wasn't there now. it's fine that they didn't come to my little party or any of the other little parties that we threw in person and then virtually in the intervening time since then. But at least you know to. I think it was incumbent upon them to try and talk to people individually even if they didn't want to come and be in the same room as us and so yeah that also greats. A little bit is that there has been great work. That is extremely pertinent to this. That has been coming out all along both on the social and the policy side but also on the technical side you know. Jonathan mayer has paper out at us knicks this week that is extremely relevant extremely similar to what apple's proposing And that's ban the works for a while. He put out an earlier version of that around the time as we start holding these workshops in late twenty nineteen and unimportant component of that paper. That's at used nix. This week is saying. Here's a design that you could implement here. Are the really serious reasons why you should consider not doing this. Because of the civil liberties in human rights impact and because of the potential for government abuse which is something. I'm sure we'll get into shortly. Rian i just want to emphasize. I would always come to a party that you through. If you invited me so just keep that in mind for the future. I would never call an apple on you know what they say. There ain't no party like a west coast party because coast party. Don't stop. that is what they say. This next song will make you love your auto and home coverage as much as you love the eighties to iran's save hall visit aaa dot com slash insurance and save up to twenty percent so we will definitely talk about the worries about government of but before we do that. I'm going to turn back to my aunt. And i want to get a central view of what the response has been from the technical community. So rihanna gave us a sense of what at least certain parts of digital civil society. Think about this. And i'm curious. What do the technologists that cryptographer tigers. The security researchers. What do they think about this issue and in particular. I was hoping you could talk about this issue of client side scanning so the you know one thing that i've i've been reading about that. A lot of the controversy around this new system is that i. It doesn't operate on apple servers. It actually operates on the iphone device itself and that this is whether it's new it is at least controversial. So so why is that. And what else do the. The tech people a massive were think about this new system. Sure response from the tech community includes everything that was said. I mean people who go into cybersecurity or cryptography as a career. I usually have very strong views about digital privacy so everything that said picking on the specifics of the tech aunts. Also there's been a variety of people taking a look at the white paper from just a cryptographic perspective to just verify that you know it does what it says it does. And it's not clear. The what apple has dining is something relatively similar to a conference. Peer review in that they have a white paper designed by a bunch of authors at apple as well as dan at stanford but they've also gone out and gotten some external cryptographer is to review it Which is very nice but that having been said. I think i would be petrified if any paper that i wrote at a conference immediately. I got a call from a company. The next day saying we built this into our systems like the standard of peer review is very different than the standard of this is going to be running live on billion people's phones and if we mess up there catastrophic consequences to due to privacy so just as honest that it would have been nice to have everyone from the from the civil liberties communities involved earlier this design process it would have been nicer to have a broader discussion in the crypt of needy. But beyond that The bigger concerns for the tech community. I think centre around this black box hash function. And the fact that it's interspersed into this complicated cryptographic system in the implications of failure of this perceptual hash. Function on the rest of the system are are not at all understood and very difficult to understand even even if handled code it would take a long time and also like you said in your question sort of this shifting of the overton window this this idea that there used to be this idea that you know. Let's run on your local machine local phone. Your local laptop is sort of code that you approve of and what servers do is not entirely whatever they want like are reasons to have boats actual regulations and social pressures in push back to constrain. What companies do with our data and with our during permission but But to say that like at least at a minimum. What's on your device. You have full control of now where well past the point technologically. You could like literally write your own operating system from scratch and actually do anything to interface with anyone else in the world but at least the idea that you know you have this. Say over how your system is used. How your know the. The physical possession of the phone corresponds to logical control over. What's going on in the phone is sort of. That's that's that's been broken here and that's very concerning because it's not at all clear. What the implications of breaking that in this one arena will have as downstream effects in many other problem domains. Es let me let me follow up on that. I guess i'm i understand. Conceptually the the difference between what happens on your physical hardware versus what happens on hardware that other people own right in the cloud or somewhere else. But i guess. I'm having trouble seeing why an ordinary or even a relatively technologically advanced user should care about that distinction as.
Why Do People Become Narcissists With Mental Health Counselor Riana Milne
"Milne. Welcome to the show. Hi gave thanks for having me. I really appreciate being here today. We're gonna talk about narcissism now narcissism is defined as a person who is selfish has a sense of entitlement lacks empathy and has a constant need for admiration in general society. Doesn't think very highly of narcissists yet. They are often found in very prominent places like management and governments before we delve into all of that ms milne. Why do some people become a nurses. Oh gosh there's so many different reasons but yeah. It is a hot topic While the research so ninety percent of us have unhealed unconscious childhood trauma events and some people do develop some more extreme personalities from their childhood events. So it really depends on the lack of severity that they had as a child. The number of traumas that occurred to them is they were repeated over a long period of time signs that can show up early in life when their children teens or like oppositional defiant disorder juvenile delinquency bullying or vying for power over other kids or animals and need for control temper. Anger i had found with my years of work in various settings with children as young as five because adult into their a. He's the same. Top childhood events kept coming up over and over again bullying or personal trauma. Or there's rejection from family. You know there just these types of things that kids and teens experience that as an adult. They're not healed. That can come out. In nurses cystic ways so at all does begin back in childhood and the family environment and how people were treated when they were younger.
A$AP Rocky Calls Rihanna "The One"
"Asset rocky is finally confirming his relationship with riana. he tells g q verse. That being with riana is quote so much better when you got the one. She amounts to probably like a million of other ones now when acid. He's ready to be a father he said. If that's my destiny absolutely. I think i've been an incredible remarkable overall amazing dad and we have some breaking news for you. An amber alert just went out for robin thicke. That thirty three year old apparently ran away from home as article on went to print. What wait is scary. it is true. She is packing her bags. Like she is in lifetime movie and she is leaving. Okay key might change her name states. All it's a new identity for robin by the way we have been waiting for this album for like nine years. Here's another nine years. He just messed it up for us. What do you think the scare her away or do you think she liked loves this. Remember how she was when drake kind of can profess his love. I feel like it. It backfired so i'm nervous for him. Oh i don't know if that's like it seems like she. She plays it cool and she's gonna love this. She actually told vogue magazine in print that it was one of the most uncomfortable moments of her life when drake is professing his love at the vm. As for her to the entire world. So i think it has to happen with the right person. I'm not sure that drake was the one for her. And i think that we've all been in relationships when someone has maybe been a little too clingy verbal about their love for us. But i think if she feels the way that feels about her then. There's nothing better than having the won. Also confirmed that to the whole world
Former Boston Red Sox star Ortiz on Pedroia: 'It wasn't about size, it was about balls'
"I simply want to point out to you. Sort of a time in sports history. Okay i'm gonna give you the quote from that time because when you think about the people involved in the quote i'm going to read to you. This seems like a lifetime ago. In terms of how baseball mattered in this country now the quote is only from david ortiz about pedroia but this seems like a different time in america. When you think about what the red sox have become and how different baseball is than it was then and baseball. Doesn't even have a david t somebody with the star power in connection to a city in big moments baseball. Where's that for baseball right now. In terms of you know the america falling in love with a baseball story because it's in the post season maybe kershaw. La maybe so. Yeah so david. Ortiz comes from boston strong. You know bleep. with our city. He was a sort of feels like an icon from a different time and he played with pedroia and here is what he says about pedroia and this is the quote this is basically exactly how david ortiz would say but it feels it feels so from a different time to me stugotz that it feels like the black and white days when people would go to baseball games suits and old timey hats and it wasn't that long ago it was just a few years ago but here's david ortiz. About pedroia quote. He showed he showed the whole planet. It wasn't about height. It was about ball's if i had to pick one player to pay to watch it was dustin pedroia. It's just bobby bobby. You're laying on syrupy thick with your lovable. Hispanic and the gap toothed smile. You've just given the pr machine what it wants. Put draw a more popular in boss. I've read some reports that he was more popular more better q. Rating than riana not surprising droids in the american saint in boston
"riana" Discussed on WhyWeWork BrianVee
"Welcome to why we work with your host. Brian veep as he speaks to people. Like you from all over the world as we together dive deeper into our motivations struggles joys seemingly missteps hopes warnings and advice. Which would be an encouragement to us all to get up. Get going and keep on. Working working stopped working his good. Now here's your host to why we work try and beat. I'm brian be and this is why we worked today. The great pleasure of speaking with riyan mill riana is a life love and trauma recovery coach. She is also an author of.
"riana" Discussed on Wild Business Growth Podcast
"Talking about mill. Say like you mean seventy eight percent. And i knew exactly. Wow that's alley. And i'll be like seventy percent one in that one. I have never heard anybody doing that. That's so cool. And then you have been a lecturer or guest lecture at couple awesome universities. What tipper advice do you have for somebody who does get the opportunity to be a lecture at whether it's they're all mater or a different university but just to go back into the classroom and the teacher side of things. Yeah there's there's a couple of cool subsidized by newsletters in. I'm continually working on this. But the best part of Think most important part of being lecturers being a good storyteller. I and we always can develop those skills in south. Think about your story as much possible. That's what kids want to hear. We don't emphasize enough. Like real life. Things so i think students have been most excited when i like to sit down and tell them the real deal in not just like a sort of a class. Abyss that boris. The heck out of them around the ins and outs in the road. Lex something that inspires you to get more than a seventy eight percent on your next test. Nattily airman here the who go. Well ron thank you so much really appreciate your time and your stories and percentages and all sorts of sweet things. But thank you so much for coming on. Where's the best place for people to connect with you and To learn more about journey foods. Yeah this has been super fun. I love your questions today. Max happy. I can join all my handles at riana. Land at our ally in in In at journey foods. I l Foods you can connect with us link. Thin twitter instagram for me. In the company you can also journey food. I o dot com to sign up for our newsletter. We like to send out two versions for like industry folks in general followers to learn about our news in other cool things that won't bore you So hopefully get some sign ups here. Thanks so much again. max enjoyed it. Yeah of course. Well thank you so much lasting here. Final thoughts stages years. It could be a quote a line. Whatever you want senate off here twenty. Twenty twenty-nine is going to be better. We're gonna get to some concerts. Stay kind now all right all right all right. Thank you for coming on the podcast sharing your story sharing your tips your lessons and thank you while listeners. For tuning into another episode. If you want to hear more wild stories like this one make sure to subscribe to the wild business growth. Podcast on your favorite app and telephone about the podcast. You can also find us on good pots and for any help with podcast production you can learn more at max podcasting dot com until next time. Let your business run wild goes..
Fat Mascaras Annual Naughty & Nice List
"All right. We're going to kick it off with a little naughty. Okay who's been naughty this year jess so my on the top of mind audie list are all the agents. The hollywood agents were telling their celebrity clients. Right now you know what i see for you. Doll and twenty twenty to your face on a cosmetics line. You need a skin care line. Almost saying the world needs it. But i think we're good for now. It really has been a year of celebrity line. Launches hasn't it yes. I've got a list of someone's that i don't know if they've all launched this year but here are some names you've talked about in the podcast this year ready ready lady gaga letting gaga. I mean we just talked about her last week as you know her. She trademark for skincare. Line that she has. I know house of gaga makeup line. Jennifer lopez is launching her line at the beginning of twenty twenty one riana fendi fifty skin Just launched for rail launches getting caroline alicia keys launched a last so clare which is like a whole skin-care but it's even bigger than skin care. It's a whole beauty nettle health. Line carmen electra. Into that one. We didn't even talk about her yet. To raji p. Henson has a haircare line. Selena gomez has a makeup line and yet. Does you doing skin to. It's not yet operative word serena williams is into hair care right or no no cisco son care. Spf member eleven. Yeah eleven right lauren. Conrad we had on the show. She is doing makeup end. Skin-care kristen bell she come out with a line or best friend. Kristen who we will fight to the death if you say anything bad about her so i don't have any problem with any of these individuals by any means. Were really well done. I liked a lot of products from a lot of those lines. Yes so we're not you know. I don't wanna hear like wait a second. You guys had these people on the show you promote them. What are you saying. You're talking to both sides your mouth. That's not it it's just. There's a saturation of celebrity. Like beauty. lions right now. I'm not sure how many more we need at like. I'm not sure how. But we definitely don't me. I don't know how many more the world needs. And i'm not really sure what. Us ps unique selling points. There are if we have too many more celebrity cardi right now through zeta-jones with her mar inducing video. Yes with her eyeliner. Like i just. I'm just not really sure how much more we can add to the conversation right now before it becomes like a parody. Do you remember all the fragrance lines came out like the end of the two thousands. It was like every celebrity became drink. Eventually yeah yeah i just. i'm nervous. Were getting to that point. Yeah i i. I agree with you and i think in general i found my job as somebody. Who's a beauty journalist. Who wants to try things and bring you the best. I found it really hard this year. There was just too damn much. Yeah so naughty naughty to the faceless agency i like it or blaming agents. It's true because those people get money out of it to all right Minority was my naughty mask. Ni twenty twenty two biggest off twenty twenty mask asked matthey okay so you guys know what that is that we didn't it didn't even this existed. We have the name. we had hormonal acne. Which often shows up on the lower half of the face. This is different. I got pimples this year in my mustache area. that's not hormone acne. That's mask me. Get this the american academy of dermatology published research papers. An eighty three percent of healthcare workers in china suffered skin problems on their face this year. Because everybody's walking around in a pp's which great a warm moist environments will logged pours. Acne and i'm just going to add onto acne naughty enough. it's not just acne. I was doing some more research on this and basically what the mass does. It just creates an inclusive environment the same way like your pimple patch does when you're healing pit bull that's good in some cases but not when you're using active ingredients so hey guys out there if you don't have mask knee. Heavy notions really read or the sides. Of your mouth cracking. Maybe he's a retinoid. It's more effective under that hot moist -clusive environment so like you gotta you gotta like pare back on all the active stuff.
Emily in Paris Is Apparently Supposed to Rhyme, and Twitter Was Not Ready
"Emily in pairs so of course the summer. Everybody's been watching and tweeting about it. But according to netflix's we are all saying. The show's name wrong okay. Netflix exposed this tweet yesterday. Writing friendly reminder that inland pairs is supposed to be pronounced with a french accent. So emily and paris rhymes. So it's actually emily and there's no first of all. Don't take my money. Am i streams and then coming. Correct me when i was like. Oh my god. It's actually tiger but you go into the bank every week and saying chrissy teigen checks for years riano was okay when the grammy's announced riana now you wanna give us. You really fell in a white man. I met what's next. i like. He was like. What can i come up with. That could let out a little frenchaccent on. I agree i agree. It's ridiculous it's like an also it's like friendly reminder as the personnel there was no reminder. You didn't tell us in the first place were you know he. S yeah. there's a lot of time to correct everybody and quite frankly just be happy. People are watching. You know what. I mean coming back more on an steam like mean everybody changing. They stuff right now. You know like leaving the way it is now. That's what we call. It was recently just renewed for a second season. So do you think with this new season. That's why they're trying to get in front of it with the hopes that people will say it the right way now now. This is really reach and i hear it. Yeah i go to paris. I enjoy paris. Yeah yeah pretentious. Petty ridiculous a little ridiculous like no one really says that no. I just don't feel right right. Well we're gonna keep it the same. And i think everybody at home too but you know thanks for letting us know. Netflix
Kentucky grand jury decides against homicide charges for police in Breonna Taylor's death
"Good afternoon. Thank you for joining us today. I know that many. In Louisville and across the Commonwealth. In country have been anxiously awaiting the completion of our investigation. into the death of Miss Riana. Taylor? Six months at the Briana Taylor was shot and killed by police in her Louisville apartment. Kentucky grand jury decided that none of the officers involved would be held responsible for death. On Wednesday Attorney General Daniel Cameron announced the grand jury decision to charge one former officer Brent Hankinson with first degree wants an endangerment. He's accused of firing into nearby apartments and endangering tillers neighbors. But Attorney General. Cameron. said the other two officers involved Johnson mattingly and miles cosgrove would not face any charges. According to Kentucky Law. Use of force by mattingly and Cosgrove, was justified to protect themselves. This justification bars us from pursuing criminal charges. And Miss Brianna Taylor's death. Twenty six year old Briana Taylor was killed on March Thirteenth when officers from the Louisville Police Department burst into apartment with a battering ram during a botched drug raid. Policy announce themselves but according to her boyfriend they didn't So he fired a shot hitting officer in the leg. Then, officers returned fire and struck Taylor Multiple Times. Till his family had been hoping for a minimum charge of manslaughter. But Attorney General Cameron was a Republican and the states first black attorney general said, the outcome was appropriate. The decision before my office as the Special Prosecutor in this case was not to decide the loss of miss. Taylor's life was a tragedy. The answer to that question is unequivocally. Yes. In response, the city of Louisville rose up. Louisville Mayor Greg Fischer had been bracing for this moment. When Tuesday a state of emergency was declared to prepare for potential unrest? Police barricades and the judge ordered federal courthouse closed this week in anticipation of a decision. On Wednesday, the mirror announced a nine pm curfew still protests spread through downtown Louisville, last night. In some moments, the scene turn violent to police. Officers were shot about one hundred people were arrested and protests spread throughout the country to to places like Denver, Portland, in Buffalo.
Rihanna says she still loves Chris Brown, have 'a very close friendship'
"Today Daily Property Yana reveals she still loves Chris. Brown. Well, at least she did back in two thousand twelve oprah just reposted an interview to her super soul conversations podcast Arianna Open Dabbagh. Chris and whether she could forgive him, here's what she said. We've been working on our friendship began. Now we're very, very close friends. With built a trust again unless it like we love each other and probably always will an. Anything that we're going to try to team not something you can shut off if you've ever been in love You're seeing each other again. He's in a relationship of his own. I'm single. Do you think Chris Brown is a true love for you? Absolutely. I think he was the love of my life. He was the first love. And I see that he loved me the same way. A lot of people thought that it was unforgivable. Have you forgiven him? I have forgiven him. Wow. So this was a very serious and shocking interview. Do you think Riana still feels this way again, hundred mine the audience this isn't old interview that just got reposted. Here's the thing. And I said this in two, thousand twelve and I'm GonNa say it again in twenty twenty. For Riana I, feel like she never really got the closure she deserved in this situation. And anytime, there is three hundred and fifty million people influencing your decision you are going to go with what you think people want to see. So I truly believe had those photos not come out had we all known it? She probably would have went back into that relationship and then realized that it wasn't for her and then left but she never got that chance because everybody was in the business again I would not have told her to go back but I know some people do. And I know that's why a lot of relationships lingers because people never get that closure people feel like they never ever got that chance to say, Hey, I'm done I've grown out of this and I can't be a part of this. It's almost like she feels forced out of the relationship based on other people's opinions and everybody weighing in you know word on the street and this is super inside information. This I'm not even sure if this is correct, but there has been talks for years that this is obvious and it might have even been printed. So I don't know if I'm like dropping a bomb, but they've gotten into several altercations, physical altercations in the past where they were both. Physical towards each other right exact. Anyway. So there was a lot of speculation about that behind the scenes, kind of more under the radar for years that had been going on between them. Unfortunately, this incident did catch wind of the media and the public, and there were the photos that were leaked, which were absolutely horrific should have never happened so I do feel like you know that altercation happened when she was very much in love with somebody things got very out of hand and they were not okay H. and never get to that point. But then the entire world jumped in and was like you cannot love this man you need to leave. It was like, Whoa Whoa WHOA WHOA WHOA so it's kind of like one. J. Lo had to leave diddy when that whole court case was going on you know what I mean. It was just not good for her image she had to separate herself. So I feel like this does not surprise me at all that her feelings still linger. Of course, it was her first love they were like you feel that magnetic chemistry between them and then do you remember she did this interview and then she pop back up I was doing daily pop has more in the beginning and they had the the photo of them are in front of the car. You know what I'm talking about I was trying to forget that right now. I was trying to prevent it. They kindled for periods of time. Don't forget the birthday cake remix to when she came out with the song everybody say yes and then the remix came and it was him on the remix and she didn't want anybody. So it was like Oh. Maybe they're getting back together. Yeah Ain't nobody's business you remember that song. I know I it's such a complicated relationship with the pan. The band ain't got pulled off before she was ready to process it as remember in this interview, she goes on to talk about how it was. Really. took her long time to really realize where where she falls in like what love is supposed to look like because of her relationship with her father and she openly talked about how her father was used to her mother and so those when you grow up in that kind of situation, it's deeper than just. It's it's learning what love's supposed to look like learning love is and she was very young when this happened and as you guys said, it just took time to process all that I. Don't think that Riana still wants to be with Chris Brown in any way that ship has sailed I just think then there's like this love of while we never got to end it how we wanted to I never got that closure. It took me years to process how I even felt in that moment. I decided. No I feel like she wants to go back I feel like she wants to do it again but she knows that people are going to talk so much smack about her. If she goes back down people get week we're that bag I can't believe she did it I'm telling you. About. Why Since then I don't think. So yeah, why do you think the real quick Oprah's been reposting some of our old interviews, but she did not put a disclaimer like this is old this is from two thousand twelve. Do you think is kind of annoyed that this came out again? I don't think so I think when you go on Oprah, it's never easy conversation I. mean you had cookie Johnson talking about her husband's HIV status. You've had Whitney talked about her drug addictions Whitney Mother's talking about Sexuality Oprah is the place where you're going to go and have that hard conversation and once you say it, it's GonNa live on forever. So no, it's old t for sure but it's Oprah's status bill she pave.
Simone Biles Makes 'Vogue' Cover Debut
"Move on. Let's talk next. About Simone biles on the cover of Vogue. this is the August issue I believe crowd, yes, correct, and it was timed up for the Olympics which did not happen as you probably are not going to happen as you're likely aware. Yes, I wanted to talk to you about this just for a couple reasons. I was like pretty moved by the story and I just WanNa say so that their profile was written by Abby Aguirre. Who I believe is the same writer who the world, and also we gave a bit of a hard time to you. Because Riana surprised her with her interview a few months back, and we weren't super prepared for. She wasn't super prepared for it, and there was a little pushback there I she was prepared for this and I. This is A. I found like a moving piece. And some of it is the timing there. The reporting begins in March, and it is before lockdown has started for covid nineteen, and before the Olympics have been canceled, and so she's watching Simone biles. Who is the greatest gymnast of all time like? Asked process the this like major personal setback that Olympics what she's been training for. You know Simone biles twenty three years old, and which is on the older side for gymnasts, which is mad Jim. That brass unforgiving. An unforgiving sport in a lot of ways and so having the Olympics post be postponed a year. In addition to you know the training schedule because it her level. There's a level of optimization that we can't even begin to understand but. That has serious consequences for her and her ability to compete, so she's wrestling with all of that. And on top of that if I If you've been following gymnastics at all, then you are aware of just the absolutely horrific crimes committed by Larry Nassar, the former USA gymnastics doctor, who is now serving up to one hundred seventy five years for the sexual abuse, gymnasts and Simone. BYLES has spoken out about being survivor of his abuse and continues to be just a incredibly outspoken. Advocate she isn't an advocate, but she is really trying to hold USA gymnastics accountable, because it is obviously like a much larger problem in organization, and she is doing that while at the same time trying to be the world's top gymnasts. Yeah, it's like so unfair that she has to hold them accountable while also being the best like, can't she just be the best i? It's like it's like yeah, and there is and the. The piece does a great job of putting about all in context, but there is one line which is Simone. Biles is explaining her reaction to the postponement of the Olympics, and she talks about it for all of the athletic and physical and reasons that I just described, but she also goes another year of dealing with USA gymnastics I don't know if I can do it, and because of everything that she's been through and I. was really moved by that and by the whole story, and I mean she's obviously just inspirational and tremendous success. So I. Recommend reading it I think it is exciting that she is on the cover of vogue, because vogue as we know has historically I'm not been representative especially of. A black people and it's pages, and certainly behind the pages as well and so it's great to see on the cover. There has been kind of a side conversation about the photographs. Were taken by any bits and quite frankly are just not great. They are not the standard that they should be for someone on the cover of Ogan ally. The problem is because it does not appear that they are. Let for a black woman they. Don't have the technology and this is a continuing. This has been a long problem in TV and movies, which is just that? Many of the photographers and camera, people and lighting technicians just have not learned how to light for people of Color. And? It's a long term problem, but I think. You know if you're gonNA put smiles on. The cover faded out. Learn like earn it doesn't it doesn't matter just learn how to do figure something out and. You know there's there's another question of. Should any of yeah as I say like? The photographer look I understand she's famous, and like maybe in some ways that gives the story some attention that maybe it wouldn't get but like how about putting some literally putting Simone biles in the best possible. Yes, exactly exactly and if you're going to have an elite, do it then. Make sure. She learned how to do it.
How to Go Braless
"But, then she found boob love in a hopeless place by the mid two thousand ten's. Riana was already becoming iconic for her bra fashion statements, so when photos of her nip slips started, popping up on shares tumbler feed. She titillated so I was like this is so cool that this. Singer, she's so punk that she's not wearing a bra. That is so pumped to me I'm going to do the same. And I was going to performing arts school at the time the Brit School. So that was a school where individualism was definitely appreciated and encouraged, so I didn't have that fear of what if I get laughed at because it was a performing arts school, so you'd expect to find all kinds of characters in an environment like that, and even though I mean I never came across anybody who will come to me and be like why not wearing a Bra? But it was something where I definitely used that time to build my confidence, because walking into a canteen, full of boys and girls who have their own opinions of viewing opinions of everyone else. It really will make you forcefully build character. If you choose to do something that's quite nonconformist like not wearing a bra. Yeah? I mean I can. Especially the the first few times you did that. Were you nervous at all? Like? How are you feeling? Are you just like visit me? And deal with it. I didn't think much of it. Because I saw I saw the almost like it was like an old to the ninety s like Jimbo. Those old pictures of Jennifer Aniston in the nineteen when she was filming the first few runs, a friends, and she's not wearing raw, and it's like those of images. What what I was looking at I, kind of curated my social feed in such a way. That I was seeing images of women who went wearing a Bra. If they're outfit so for me. It was like I'm not the first ever person to do this, so it's not like I'm doing something that's. So shock horror. The feeling of choosing to not abroad was fun because it felt like a fashion statement for me, and also it was like it almost made me feel like a little bit made me feel Elizabeth more sexy equivalent. Of wearing a push up bra? Ironically, it's like not wearing a bra and having your Nipples of showing for your outfit Lou bit. In a way for me, critics the same. Impact might be to create if I were to put on a push up Bra cleavage. It's still the same concept of the something on my chest. I know you WANNA. Look at.
Rihanna and Twitter CEO Jack Dorsey donate $15m toward mental health services via her nonprofit
"Riana is continuing to reach out to those in need through her foundation the Clara Lionel foundation announced a fifteen million dollar donation in collaboration with Twitter CEO Jack Dorsey to several organizations dedicated to mental health services food security and income loss to people in Newark and Chicago the donation is part of Dorsey's hash tag start small initiative
Louisville passes ban on no-knock warrants called "Breonna's Law"
"Now in a response to the death Riana Taylor who was shot and killed in a botched no knock warrants in March where police had the wrong address the Louisville metro council unanimously approving a ban on no knock warrants the mayor Greg Fischer signed into law Friday are the rallying cry this movement has been say her name it is with profound sense of hope that I not sign this legislation which writes Brianna Taylor's name into the law into the history of this city and this country forever be honest law bans no knock warrants in the city of Louisville and also through Jefford throughout Jefferson
"riana" Discussed on Hellbound with Halos
"Kitchen see you hold hands and kiss and hug in front of them teach him that affection is good. You know not a bad thing or something. Be Ashamed of for my singles out there. It's important that you be what you want to attract so I know a lot of the women there will I wanNA financially successful guy and yes they will cause cave women brain. It's in born in us. We want to feel secure. We can't help it just like caveman brain. He is born to procreate the race. He is going to go for attraction. I what is he attracted to I in a woman. We can't help it. It's what our old brain's once so but I say to the woman like you've got to be financially successful yourself. Don't come to a man with that. You Know Bank banks calling you. Nobody wants to pick up your baggage in your problem. So be what you want to attract and when you are a successful single than it so much easier you get to choose who you want even the woman or the man get to choose yes. This is a good fit for me. Were both evolve. Were both conscious people. we both have our life together right now. That's when you should be out there dating when your life is together and you're really ready for a partner in too. Many people are out there. Broken wounded not ready for a partner and then this is when all these crazy relationships off of that question to you is obviously Random sex is happening more now than ever. I mean I remember when outsor- right yeah I mean how damaging is that horribly damaging another documentary free to watch if your parents GonNa like freak you out called spring break and you know. They did a brilliant job of interviewing the kids a they follow these five guys around and there was one called the Alpha male right. Who's usually the most handsome and most outgoing gets the girls and brings them into the the group. Okay Okay and they were interviewing him and it's like okay. We'LL WHO is at lady? You just had sex. I don't know her name where she from me. I don't know we don't talk. It's like yeah. Let's they asked one girl will what about making love she was. I don't know what that means. I have no idea. We just have sex. But it's just like something to do everything that I've ever learned about a woman's brain isn't wired that way. So what is Goin- a- It could be? It could be many things but one of them you know. They're craving love so much they just want They think if they give bit a man sacks they'll get loved back and it's the furthest thing from the truth it really just buries them in their low self esteem all the more I It could be keep up with the group right all the girls in our little core group doing they interview the Group of four girls. They all brought thirty confidence piece in the game was. Let's see who uses the most? They win one week of spring right. Good good yeah like I said you see this. You're GonNa say Oh my God I said thank God. My girls are in their thirties. Now with I have a ten in an eight year old and this is what I gotta look forward to although I did go to MTV spring break so I can't talk to. I've been there but look at. I was a kid but I am older now. And I'm more mature so it's way these conversations now but it's just getting worse and worse. I guess you know I mean you know you've got have open communication all the way along with your kids. You don't wait right right because these little little kids are on snapchat predators online. You'll have to monitor your kids. Their machines the time that they're on the machines. Just don't let them have it all the time all weekend. Now now you know monitor what they're doing have really good conversations with my girls. I used to do adventure day every weekend. Whichever day we were in the European the time so whichever day was a better weather day get in the car we usually head Outta town. Toronto Cleveland Buffalo Pittsburgh to go doing adventure the hall of Fame Rock and Roll Hall of fame. There we goes. Pittsburgh shot whenever it was to get them out of town get them used to speaking to strangers being confident. You know dress nice. We're going here. You know so that. They knew they're going out. It's time to dress nice. It's time issue room clean you know. Mom's got to go to work for few hours. Come home if you're ready to go. I've got a great surprise for you. Come home the room. Let's go you know so Rewards Gosh I so I could talk to You. Guys about parenting. But that's a whole nother topic. Step aside next episode so the last thing about couples that are successful. I wanted say this is in the stats. If you are faith-based together spiritual high integrity practicing in some way somehow is really important to helping to keep capital happy and a longer lasting relationship. Is that because it gives you kind of an outline of a set of a kind of a guideline to follow moral moral values. Yeah and it's good for your kids to be part of that you know even if they don't choose that when they grow up at least you gave that to them. They're saying organized religion. They're saying spiritual right a philosophy right every kind of literature. You read no matter what. It is spiritually faith-based. It's just be nice to people your wife. Don't talk back to your parents. Yeah it's all going to work out yes right. Yeah so kids should be raised knowing that there are rules standards and morals of society And if you don't talk to them about him that they're not gonNA home. Maybe have one co teacher that you connect to. That's teaching you these things or a counselor like me. That are teaching these things. But it's you know it does belong at home and that's just it. It gets hard for that kid to see like the home. Life is terrible. It's hard for them to latch onto that outsider. Hopefully it's a good moral compass person and not a terrible person. That's going to do terrible things. Exactly set them up for failure and sadly a lot of the young girls they go after a boyfriend to feel love. And that's that's where they start getting into trouble boys know where to go from nine now And the other thing is too. You know it's just so important that if you see any signs in your children are teens of distress you know cutting piercings Running running away hooking up with a bad crowd of kids like get them help right away and get them someone that they can relate to. I work with a lot of kids. Sixteen in up and we call it life transition. Coaching because a lot of them are scared to death to leave home to go to college. I think they're going to fail. They don't know what they WANNA do or they have the boyfriend at home and they don't want to leave that Or Twenty Twenty four twenty five out of college. All the money was spent on their education. The can't find a job and they're depressed at home on their couch. You know those are the kids that I work with to in Life Transition coaching. So it's important that they have an outside factor to talk to to motivate to inspire to help them find the job that they want and I have some beautiful success. Stories was going to say that a lot of that makes sense because giving the child or the teenager Somebody else in a similar situation or something like that that they can relate to. I think would probably be and I'm no expert So correct me if I'm wrong. Probably the best way to handle it right because now yeah instead of sitting down like if Kevin was a mental health counselor and here comes a sixteen year old Now somebody like you. You have the experience but for me. I can't give them what they need. So basically I'm just kind of like a false topping on the whole problem whereas talking to somebody that they can relate to that age probably would be more successful than anything. Well this you know when I worked in the schools at the time. My daughter is a pop singer. She was on the top charts with a hip hop artist. Actually that all the kids in my school new and I had pictures with me and him and her and my office and I thought Miss Rana was cool you now because that was in I had a model and talent agency source in the Fashion Business. I was representing my own daughter. Who Sings on three multi-platinum CDs at the time? Oh so then I had the talent club. Sal and rules where you get a detention or suspension. Your added talent club and everyone wanted to performance at. I'll get you guys in the newspaper and on TV and I did you know because I knew how to work that whole thing. So that really grew the self esteem. The bullying completely stopped at another program called. Stand up for friendship that was televised because it was so successful that went into my little school. It's like a war zone and you know within three four months like everybody's on their best behavior. 'cause I'm doing talent club so it was really cool to do it and to see that you can change behavior so easily. I mean had meditation in my office. It was called this Rana's relaxation room. I said to my principal. Did you have any questions just one? Can they call me misery on instead of Ms Mel because I want them to feel that they can come and talk to me? I don't want to be the scary counselor right. Yes you can do that right so talking with you whether if you're an individual you're in a relationship or you have your parent. Sounds like you just need some sort of structure like an organized structure. You need motivation to want to succeed. You need to feel amazing about your life You need to see the goals that you wanna set for yourself. 'cause structure could be like a military family that has structure kids. Hate that truck from some sort of a blueprint. I guess is a better word of saying it's routine. Yes good for families of the kids know what to expect like Saturday nights paren- state night. You know so wounded teen or that Adventure Day. You know whatever Our lart an allowance chart for teens and children too so they did certain things. They would get their allowance that week. You just don't handle kid. Twenty bucks they earn it right. There's certain way to earn it. That all that about parenting is in my book. Live beyond your dreams from fear and doubt the personal power purposes success and it's about the mindset for success and you can create that in your kids early on and when you do it's amazing to watch it and I did not need for my kids to be science experiments but all the techniques idid from birth on and my daughter. Alexi in La. She exempted eleventh grade straight. A student is now on Forbes and INC MAGAZINE. Top eleven women entrepreneurs making a difference in the world so when. I talk about these things. They were right. Trust me they work. My other daughters keeps creating her businesses. She loves she was a supervisor for jet blue. And you know so you can raise successful confident kids that were both out of the house. My daughter's by nineteen didn't ask me for financially good and there's a way to do this and that is the lift book. That's what I said. Parenting is important topic for me like I said I would love because I guarantee you. We've been talking for almost an hour now. We could probably go a whole nother our if we really to no no. That's just as talkative as you. We could just But you've got a bunch of stuff and you've mentioned a few of few of them are ready. Where can they go and find you? Where are the books in all that? Well my books are sold. Barnes and noble stores in the US. Of course there on Amazon but you can get free book chapter downloads at my website. Regatta MILNE DOT COM. It's my NEEMRANA MELLON DOT com..
"riana" Discussed on Hellbound with Halos
"Okay now you need to lose weight. What are you wearing that for? You look fat right something like that. If you're hearing those messages you don't feel good enough so when you're older you may be prone to jealousy even if your partner says all the time you now. I love you. I don't know what I can do to prove to you. There's consciously nothing wrong the partners doing but you that. Who's feeling jealous or needing to control? You're not feeling where they are not feeling good enough where I can get in the way of the relationship People pleasing is a big one for women that might have been a little girl growing up. Let's say with an alcoholic mom and she be yelling and screaming in the morning. Christie's hung over and so this older sister would get up and get everyone else up. Dressed Fed lunches made get him to the bus stop and she might here. Thanks Hon. so that was a love she would have gotten. She would be overdoing in pleasing to make sure her siblings were okay. She was okay not yelled at and mom was okay so this pattern which is becomes normalized and then this is why I might have a couple of come in in the wife's there my husband and my children don't do anything for me. I show them love all the time I do everything for them. They do nothing for me. And she's burn out angry and resentful plus exhausted. So that's someone caught up in this people pleasing mode but it was so normalized if she thinks that's just what people do right you know? She's just she's programmed to do that so she does all that and then it's almost like her. You know like Selena Baid Metro before like you fill a cup with water and it can only hold so much water in to the top it overflows. It's like it may be. That person gets to a point where they just explode and they're like well wait a minute. Why isn't nobody doing anything for me? Meanwhile that's right. Everything they do is second nature to them. Yes yes as. Here's why I had a couple in my office in Delray Beach and the man said she just yells at me all the time and the wife was a woman from South Philly. Now I grew up in Philadelphia. A Lotta Italian South Philly frat right that were when they talk. They're very excited. They they tend to raise voices and they yell and they curse at each other. And that's just normal conversation philly command. You have the known then you know the wife turns him and says what do you mean? I'm yelling at you. Don't ever yell at you and I said you don't hear it to you. Hear what had you know? And and the guys like a nice peaceful mid western guy you know where everything is peaceful when I grow up so that was so normalized for her realize rated right so there's so many examples and this is why I say it's unconscious childhood trauma and then how it shows up in your life Love addiction codependency is usually from someone that has abandonment issues. So a toxic relationship normally people will breakup. The average is seven times. The statistics will break up. Go back break up. And Go back and consciously the. I know he's no good for me. He's mean he's abusive. I know but then they break up and then they miss them right and there's such a drive inside to have love for them to care and love for them. That might be the girl with the abusive father. Never gave her enough love. Okay so she'll keep going back to get it because she craves it. So bad unconsciously crazy. Number seven yeah. It's seven to half imposter syndrome. Comes from childhood trauma that someone that might be? The Star athletes The actress or actor in the end up sabotaging themselves because they don't feel they deserve all the recognition the fame. They love it but then thinking I don't deserve this. Why do they love it? They really knew the real me they went like me. You know so. They may start drinking doing drugs to solve the for them. The impostor syndrome to settle that down a little bit impulsive bad to could that be like And I don't mean to interrupt you but this is on the top of my head so I was like I gotta get Justin Bieber. Like kind of what happened to him. I don't want to name names right and be accusatory but let's A A really good example of childhood trauma because I didn't do the work on just life but tiger woods I did. His biography was out there and was fascinating and a lot of people don't know he was horribly bullied as a young boy. Okay tied to a tree in painted in Rachel yet with a teacher watching and not stopping the situation is aware as his father was a constant cheater. It is father was his best friend and what happened with his father died. He went into cheating situation. Hey did in. Outlets so correlated. Yeah in now and he didn't want to but it was in is just it's it's so correlated with things like this another story. I loved the story of Quincy Jones. Brilliant filmmaker producer. I loved his Stories they I'm a big documentary person. Love that logically story there. Yeah and you got to see his because all his success and he grew up in Chicago his parents both drug addicts lost their home there on the streets. He had to live with grandma who had no money said if she called a rat. We ate dinner that night so it was severe poverty And then he went to work fourteen to help support the family by playing an instrument and worked so hard. This is where the WORKAHO system comes in to not be poor right and so it goes through his whole story and how we helped other youth from Poor situations come up in the music industry and film industry wonderful. Ma'am AND AT THE END. They said you're you got all these accolades. All these awards is or anything that you didn't do well. It goes yeah. I didn't do well in relationships. I failed in relationships on there. There you go. That's a prime example of unhealed childhood trauma right. Yeah yeah you know like you? We have a lot of and being a parent myself is as you are. There's a lot of times that you sit back and you're like did I handle that right. You just don't know you know and while we're not perfect human. We're we can't be perfect right now and this is why you can't look back in your childhood with blame because it is fact that childhood trauma goes through at least three generations of you had trauma. So did your parents so did your grandparent. Okay so your parents did the best. They can from what they came from right. And this is where forgiveness in that whole spiritual concept of healing comes in. You have to forgive your past and get beyond it trump techniques that I do as a clinical trauma professional to heal that and what we call the emotional triggers. So they don't trigger you anymore. And you use conscious awareness versus living unconsciously which ninety five percent of people to write live unconsciously. They're just on Rodeo pilot versus consciously making the decisions of what they say do how they talk what they write with a text. You know it's like people are just going by sheer emotion and this is why our world is crazy. This but the good thing is is able to be healed. Once you know you know what your past traumas are And if you're an apartment relationship with theirs is and when a couple comes to. May I work with partner a partner be to do? The diagnosis of their childhood. Traumas their severity levels. How they've shown up in the couple of relationship. And then we have a whole new way of communicating around when somebody is triggered is most often the other partner take things personally. Oh Yeah I could see. Here's an example. Yeah I mean you have bad. Let's say a man has a bad day at work? His boss At him he goes. You know good. You don't get it together. You're out and what was the message as he heard from his father. You're no good. You'll never meant anything so this guy Comes home anger triggered pissed off hating his work? Aiding his life gets pissed off at the wife in the kids because he's not able to process that and doesn't realize it's really deep trigger from his best right and now. The wife is saying what I do wrong. She's upset walking on eggshells wisely. Treating me like this. What did I do wrong? And then it just spirals no so instead with a couple. That's had treatment with me or coaching. They they learn to communicate man would walk in. The door gives hunt. Can you sit down a minute? Listen I had a really bad day. I just need some time to myself. I think I'M GONNA take a hot shower. Walk around the block because my boss said some really mean things demand. I don't WanNa get mad at you. I want you to know fall off tonight. Nothing that you did. I love you. Thank God for you in this family. It's my happiness and I just need to breathe and get beyond what went on today. Yeah it's amazing that you say that I've tried to implement that into my own life with being more. Just it's it's as simple as that. It really is just coming in and saying look I had a Shitty day I I just. I need a needs some alone time. I just need some away and I'll tell you what it makes. It helps not only them. But you because I find when I didn't do that. They're communicating their anger yet but that anger inside of myself would last a lot longer than the two or three hours. It takes to blow off steam because they're actually helping by staying out of my way for a little while right and what's help it hurt it to. Kevin is the feeling of shame like the boss. Shout at me. I feel ashamed. Doesn't want to tell us wife what happened right now. He's like keeping it bottled in to himself. Afraid TO SHARE FREIGHT. He'll look less than in his wife's is true. So that's part of the issue of why that escalation is still inside you in that could be passive aggressive behavior. Then you don't say anything. Don't say anything in three days later you blow up because you haven't processed it yeah properly. Yeah that makes a ton of sense so we we've hidden on all the things that can cause bad things. What does a great evolved relationship look like okay and by the way there's about twenty four combinations that I've identified from trauma versus behaviors. So there's a lot more than what I just mentioned. So people are aware. Oh I can I just the I think even so much. The circus skimming the surface here. People it's so true in your show notes like if people when people WANNA learn more they can go right down to the show notes it can scroll down in the Pike cast and see all your links. Ob there so don't hesitate to To go downing and look at links in my book I have a number one. Selling Book on Amazon is could love beyond your dreams break. Free of toxic relationship stabbed the love you deserve. It's four hundred pages and this was the beginning of my research so discovered so much more sin set but it's a good place to start and section four. 'cause I wanted to now. What is emotionally healthy evolved conscious relationship. Look like right and evolved to means being your highest in your best south. So there's a big section air in that book you can read all the tips there. But I'll mentioned a few for the couples that come to see me. I I have a quote. It may against the world in other words. A couple has to put each other. I am many the couples. Make a problem of putting the children I and when the kids are put first they stop dating. Stop dressing for each other. They get lazy. They're not out romancing each other and it's funny. I had another couple in my office in the man's will keep dating her for. I married her and I said well. He's still on Sax. Well there you go you better keep taking your wife out and telling her she looks beautiful and taking your the Nice places and dressing showering and smelling nice for her. Because here's the real facts you now. The man's sexual center of the brain is nine times. That of a woman and woman to feel sensual needs her five senses turned on so guys. It's not eleven o'clock after the news is done or after the football game and she's exhausted bad timing right. You don't WanNa hear no. Let's be a little bit more intelligent about this right so the date night is Saturday night or Wednesday night hopefully twice a week. Now you tell you ingrained that into your family's routine so the kids are like. Oh now I can't go Saturday. It's my parents night. I could go Friday of course if promise Saturday night Hop You switch night? But it's never taken out of the schedule for the kids Has to be in the schedule. It's important Then with the cup. You have this equilateral triangle. Which is you may us so your side includes your work time away your exercise a little bit of time with your friends your hobby and she should have hers but the aside has to be equally planned for an equally important to the both of you and that always gets shortsighted in most relationships. Have to plan your days. Plan your nights plan your vacations if your family do at least one couple vacation a year do one family vacation a year but kids should grow up knowing that these are normal and healthy patterns your.
"riana" Discussed on Hellbound with Halos
"Yeah that's big has added really pulling family dynamics apart. Everyone's is the lading and not chatting with their kids and giving kids the time they really need for learning and social interaction social confidence. This is becoming a big one. So that's the first one second is verbal trauma so Kaiser says if you witnessed your parents yelling back and forth to each other. Yes that's true but also they were yelling at you now with all the kids I work for. They were totally sad and upset. If they never heard I love you you know God. These verbal praise is like I'm proud of you or good job. Knew you could do it if you don't have a parent in your corner or coach or a teacher. You're always struggling thinking you're not good enough so many kids. Unfortunately here verbal put downs. You should have been born. You're up to no good. I'm not wasting my money on you for college. Things like this can really hurt at so not so much like. Hey Buddy you gotta be. I think you can get a next time. But the the more traumatic words like you just mentioned. Well you gotta be but I know you can do better let's see us next purported encouraging right. I just WanNa make a delineation there that yeah huge difference of maybe giving your kid a little nudge and being like she'll ever been born not being condescending to the absolutely yes that's right okay. The next one would be emotional abuse or neglect and the next one is physical abuse. Any kind of beatings. Hitting Physical Abuse Sexual Abuse Rape or molestation others could have happened inside or outside of the home either way through traumatic. The next one is abandoned again. This one was not mentioned at all so a Bantam in I named two types fault and no fault abandonment in no thought abandon. It would be like if a parent died early. If apparent goes off to war kid is always worried is my mom or dad coming home and the third one is If your parents traveled a lot and that was way they supported their family and that one applied to me. Because I'm like yeah I remember asking all the time. When's daddy coming home? My mom didn't know we had five kids. She was pissed she didn't a husband. What's I stay on that? He couldn't tell us because later in life we found out he was FBI and they can't tell the family where they are racial falls under no fault. Yes because that's how we supported the family. There was feelings like is he. Okay is he coming home that certain cities? Yeah right okay so fault. Abandonment is if a parents never involved in the child's life if they were involved in there's a divorce or separation in the rarely involved anymore or even there's an emotional abandonment his apparent even in the house or there's a separation and the child goes to the House but let's say dad's checked out all weekend watching football on the kids in the room on their computer. There's no connection there and that's a fault. Apparent could have quality time with this child if he chooses to now. Can I stop you there because this this pertains to me in particular? I have a stepdaughter. She's eight years old. She rarely sees her real dad. So I've stepped into the dad role more often. Obviously all the time does that. Fill that void that you're talking about is worth it helps It's good that she will have a man figure Stepdad that she will feel close to in respect. That's really important but there's still that longing this from the biological dad where she'll feel what's the matter with me doesn't he wanna see me but I mean your relationship with her will be invaluable crash. She starts to be a young woman in start looking for a boyfriend because the traits you know will be. What was that father figure in her life and so many women are suffering because they had a poor father daughter relationship. Okay now yep so. It's great that you're in her life now so he can. She can see example of what a good man is. Gotcha okay sorry to interrupt you. I just was like in question. It was like right in my wheelhouse and I'm like I've done anything. Yeah that's perfect okay. So the next one is if the child was adopted. Part of foster care or You all had to. The kids had to go live at another home because mom or dad can take care of them. Even if it's grandma's answer uncles that our family friends you're still displaced and knowing. Something's wrong number. Seven is the most common which is personal trauma so these are the kids that were bullied. The might have been overweight. Child Skinny Gawky child who has called a nerd Maybe you had asthma and how to use the little inhale machine at school when you felt different you were labeled Adhd and you had to be pulled out to go to special Classes or counselors to work with so anywhere. Refill differ not good enough or not part of the cool kids. Cool team Even difficult Teachers or coaches. That can be condescending. Were they pick on you all the time? So there's so many things that happen around the school environment. That of course I was right there helping the kids and like I said at every grade level Helping kids do not feeling good enough. Not Feeling Worthy okay. The one is sibling trauma where your sibling could bully you. They or they might have been born with a medical condition. Commanding more of MOMS and dads time or they were perceived by you to be the golden child the favored one to maybe they were the star athlete or handsome or more beautiful or whatever the situation was I got more moms and dads attention now. Number nine has two parts. I had to bring one from the later list down because it could not be number. Eleven at that one is yes that one is community. Trauma and community trump has really escalated. I did not see this a lot when I was a young girl. But this is unfortunately. Our school shooting are mass community shootings our communities being wiped out by Mother Nature floods fires hurricanes tornadoes. Like huge all these homes being ruined in a second and this is devastating for adults. Can you imagine little children going through this type of trauma then the other part of nine? Yeah now is Family trauma so kaiser named like I did If you had a parent incarcerate incarcerated that was similar on our list funny. In one of the schools I worked in this was all the bullies nine out of ten of them. They were caught the friendship group to a night. Edits out of them had apparent in jail. Really rated yeah. So of course sat anger in that trauma. They came picked on other kids. Yeah Right. They were ashamed about their family environment. But that came up with one. Like don't worry I got my dad ends. Y'All two all my uncles in their bomb. Grandfather's been in there for twenty five. Sure they correlate with they have similarities in and lifestyle so that they tend to group together in just like the point. You just made as well that people that tend to feel inferior are more likely the ones that are gonNA talk out and speak out in condescend other people right because it makes them feel better inside about ourselves yes and no they try to be the tough guy for that maybe to be. You know noticed and recognized even if they're the bad kid but also because they are in such pain Notre. They're hurting and they can't show their anger at home. Because usually these kids are being beaten thrown against the wall. I work with some really tough populations up. North Jersey in hackensack had kids when the crypts and the bloods I was down in violent New Jersey in like I said with all these kids incarcerated kids whose parents don't speak English in now a lot of Physical abuse within the homes. So they don't have any place to put their anger and they take it out on a kid in school And that's what's happening so that's a lot of trauma around there but also Family Trauma in involves if you grew up in a dangerous neighborhood and you felt afraid if you heard a lot of lack messages that happened a lot with the baby boomers because our parents were kids and young adults in the Great Depression so there is always talk we would. We don't have money for food. There's nobody for heat. I used to hear if your father doesn't go have. I'M GONNA eat this. You know and the house was freezing. I'm going to bed with layers of don't touch the thermostat. I tell my God. So the messages of lack What else a the military families that have to move every two four years or kids are being pulled out of school all the time rights? That's difficult for that child being the new kid right okay. In trauma number ten is mental health issues. A MOM or dad to most difficult to navigate is bipolar and borderline borderline is fast trigger anger. Severe Moody Nece. When they're good they're great when they're bad they're horrid and you never know what you're going to get that's borderline and then bipolar manic depressive. So manic phase can come out as a gambling spray. Spending in eating binge. Depression can come out as Anger checking out emotionally or extreme fatigue. So those are the top ten that name. Okay so I can. I can probably put myself in manic because I got home from the Gym Today. And eight all the cupcakes. I'll look so freaking good. No but it all seriousness. So you know I know you had made mentioned earlier about how all of that in childhood trauma can Relate into love relationships. What type of examples are we looking for in the patty that well before we go on with that so I was keeping track of the ten and of the ten? I have four okay and I have four but it's also associated because my parents were divorced so some of those traumas my my list almost doubled because of the divorce and I was gonNA mention. That seems like divorce. Is You could double the number under emotional. Yeah so there's like four or five so seems like what the separation of that like. You're depending on because now instead of having two parents you almost have four. So now you're carrying on twice as much of the issues depending on how those parents are correct right now while you're in two households and then how long if they don't get along then there's more trauma after the divorce in for a while you're very well. Yeah they are still high. Main kids can do very well in one parental household as long as it's peaceful loving supportive versus a being with parents that are fighting and screaming all the time. That is more dangerous than one parent. Also yeah so. Let's talk about love. Yes okay so if you had controlling or lying in your partner that usually comes from trauma number seven not feeling good enough. The personal trauma and trauma number two hearing the negative verbal messages..
"riana" Discussed on Hellbound with Halos
"Like the singer. Very Ana the singer it see no matter how many times I try to get this right. I can't in most people butcher. The last name not diverse name. See Now the last name Milne I can get like a right off the bat I issues I knew it right off. The Bat owns out. But I'll probably just stop and not call you by your first name because like I told you before the recording. I'm so used to calling Riana. Because that's what that's how. She pronounce her name in the Combat Barbie. But anyways how are things with you? I'm great are you crazy? So busy it's crazy Opening a new division of my business so excited about it But it's got a lot of my hands them going away this weekend for podcast and next weekend. I'm going to La for a week. I just had grandbaby twins born little boy in a little girl. Yeah so I'm going out to see them and help my daughter a little bit With her recovery. And everyone's doing great. Thank God and they have a little boy to so they've really got their hands full. Oh Wow I guess so. Does my grandchildren four and five nice. Yeah that's those are great ages when my daughters were those ages because it was like they were so innocent in they just said the funniest things they were just honest about everything. Yeah you'll be in line at the grocery store or something and be like. Hey Dad why is that man like have his pants down around his ankles or so you know what I mean? They're just an out loud. And you're like oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. My kids are awesome. Will you are a busy woman? And we had spoken briefly about How you really delve into the world of childhood trauma and a few months ago now. We had a man by the name of Kenny Weysan and he did the same however it looks like yours Kind of looks into it a little bit more on the adult side. Things in life in love relationships is that correct life Levin is yes okay all right and you know just to start us off your what on what levels are we talking. And where do you? How do you even start to find out if this is something that has affected you? I took the traditional route and went to my master's program and apply clinical counseling psychology. Okay got a triple. Masters graduated Summa cum laude and decided to open up my own practice in New Jersey southern New Jersey area but at the same time as building my practice I went to work in other capacities so I entered the school system and worked as a crisis counselor and that was ended up being grades kindergarten through college in my past twenty years. I've worked at every grade level so I was working with the students who had trauma or were bullied or the bullies Something had happened crises in their families. It was all traumatic situations second. I went to work for a hospital system. Could Atlanta care and I had children. They're five to nineteen who I was helping through crises so whether they were runaways or Cutting self-mutilation eating disorders suicidal tendencies. Just acting out oppositional defiance. Those kids and I worked at a Rehab Center for Teens. Adolescence as well as women from the prison system so every second or third job had even if I had my main job was working at my own private practice was with people with trauma and when I got married the first time I had a traumatic marriage and got out of that fairly early on This was somebody that took advantage. Unfortunately my mother took a large sum of money hundred and ninety thousand in back then that was probably worth about five hundred thousand and I said. Don't do it if something goes wrong with this loan. I don't WanNa be responsible and something went horribly wrong. They never paid her back. He and his father so it took me eighteen years to pay my mom back because that's the right thing to do right That would not have happened to her. If that person was not in my life So long story short I go through my life. I'm enjoying my career and during my two daughters. They're amazing and later in life. I get married again to someone else. Who is a sociopath? Associate Path is someone that uses some of pleasure or profit with no remorse. You'll never hear the words. I'm sorry okay and you know so I'm thinking and is everything seemed idyllic on the surface so this is what I call a doctor. Jekyll and Mr Hyde personality type so to society. Everyone loved him. His gregarious outgoing funds social it was a school principal. The students loved them. The parents and we were introduced by the school superintendent. Great Story Right travel the world. We both loved. Dancing was very handsome and charming than all of a sudden. Our world's collapsed We were on vacation. I go into my school as the counselor. He's into his girl within our way and the morning the first day back. I get a knock on the door and Tim. I'm like why are you not at your school? While long story short. He wasn't allowed into his office so there were things found into his computer. That did not allow him back into his skull and at that moment my world exploded. Oh now because of his actions that he was not thinking through you know impulsivity right Was fired from the job. It was a big community scandal and it hurt me not only in my business personally and our families were only five months into our marriage so it was horrendous and the first thing is that is like he has. He's a whole different person. I gotta get out of this first thing. I thought is. I got to stand up for myself and go for the moment so I did. I served as my own attorney and put the case together and the Family Court Judge Says Miss Melanin. Thirty two years of being a family court judge only granted one annulments slams. The gavel knees says in yours is the second. Oh yeah so. My case was solid and I was able to get a private courtroom because I was already horribly embarrassed with his actions and very well known in the community. Very highly respected. I'm also reverend So I mean can you match rattling who all of the rice though it set me back in a Lotta ways financially career wise emotionally and being a therapist and went to seven on my therapy friends? It's like what does he have. What made him do that? And they're all like we have no idea we at I'm and the last thing he said to me he goes. I don't know why sabotage everything that I love. I don't know what's wrong with me. I said I don't either but I'm going figure it out now. This is what my research beyond November and this is when I started uncovering childhood trauma now. He knew he was. Acoa which is adult child of alcoholic. Father was a bad alcoholic and physically and verbally emotionally abusive. So I kind of tied what was happening with husband. One husband to all the cases I saw up to this point and I said this is something deeper than a self help book can help me with and nobody else could help me. So it was up to get the answers. And that's when I discovered and created my childhood trauma checklists and I said there's these top ten traumas in much of the research said most people ninety percent of people have at least nine to ten I'm sorry one. Two three of the top. Ten Childhood Traumas. Okay and he had nine out of ten and then I look at severity levels from one to ten with severe being nine ten or eight nine ten and he was all in the higher scale. So just to compare with the scales are like a psychopath is a sociopath who kills right. Okay so ten is a psychopath. Nine ten is a sociopath right under that is narcissists okay but his sociopathic psychopath are always narcissists are always worried about themselves got traded not always as a narcissist social anthem psychopath racy okay so that started the beginning of the understanding of what I had gone through and that's what I called Love Trauma because I definitely had symptoms of. Ptsd you know. I know those symptoms of course love trauma is not in the DSM four for psychotherapists and are five or six in should've been But it's not because the same symptoms are the same when you're facing that kind of shock and that's really how the my story began and I decided to take my pain and make it my passion and my purpose while I think in like you said you made a very good point at the end there. That trauma goes beyond. Ptsd goes well beyond veterans First responders I mean it's situations like you were in that caused you to have trauma and I think society as a whole needs to understand that it's possible to get you don't need to go overseas and get almost bombed in order to have. Ptsd the third and fourth grader. Who's constantly bullied right there? You go symptoms in our worried for his life. You know the teenage. That's being bullied by kids in a tough city. You know that for his life. So that's yeah so. Ptsd happens on many levels under many situations. So is your scale. Did you create the scale yourself for trauma checklist? Yes okay. I know of the. A study verse. Childhood Events Open when I saw that it was years later and it surprise me because my top ten they were missing. Like five or six of them okay. They didn't have bullying on there. They didn't have kids of foster care or adoption. They did not even have abandonment on there. Okay so when I go through my top ten list I'll pay the difference between mine and Kaiser's because but later on the CDC has up upgraded their list and added some of the things. I've had on my list for several years and my you think they got that from you. I have no idea you know. I mean a lot of people are now talking about this topic. I just know I created my list from the population I worked with over twenty years. He now so It came from real experience mostly working with children but also adults right so working with these children. These individuals let's is like a fifty fifty between male and females or is it predominantly. There is no prejudice here and now being a global coach I work with people sixteen to seventy six men and women straight nail. Gb Miss Childhood Trauma again impacts at least ninety percent of us. There's kind of a joke in the industry the other ten percents sociopath in lying about it they have no traumas in our life so there it is so most of us so I could clearly see his and most of us will say well. My child who was pretty normal have anything I was just on the interview yesterday. That's with the host was saying and he goes but then I had a younger brother that died early in. My mom was really depressed. Most of our child that I'm their trauma number eight sibling. Trauma right there in impacted your relate her relationship with your children and understandably so we're not saying because we endured trauma it's our parents fault so we're not looking to blame or shame ourselves because we might have encountered this is. We're trying to look at it as facts. Did it happen or did it? Not and how is it showing up now in your adult life so talking to you doesn't sound like it has to be a sexual assault physical assault a psychological assault? It could just be a simple trauma of life you know living through life and like I said I'll be as to go through those what they please. Okay there's actually more than ten but I also talk about ten because that's all I have time for on. Shell okay so for the listeners. Again this is not blame. Shame in you might win a write these down because most people say I didn't have any of these so but wait till you hear them and you'll think that you did have a couple so when you were young and innocent. You are really a product of your environment. There's nothing you can really do about it being a child. So you're really young and innocent. These things happen to you or around you so the first one is addiction. Did your parents have any of these addictions now? I'm also licensed certified drug and alcohol addictions counselor to.
"riana" Discussed on Hellbound with Halos
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We Are The Chosen Ones (w/ Patty Rodriguez)
"Patty you you know we were just start talking about. Leeann how we love her and I know you love her to You you do like so many things like you are one of these lake. Just like that as women. Like look and follow on g and I'm just like Patty doesn't stop light from not only normally not even from being like a mom which is already like a twenty four seven job. Like I'm like he is hustling and you know like do you want to maybe tell the audience like a bunch of you do on my goodness? Okay I started and I still am part of the Ryan Secrets. Radio show. I've been with him for a this year. Any Oh my gosh today today. Today's making bring it out with them. What you're celebrating Kingston Yeta speaking says. Yes Patty we would've brought some Ryan's roses for you right. This moment I i. I don't know why I'm thinking in my head. It was January. But it's April yes so team two thousand and five uh-huh. I started working with him as an intern And I never left and then long that Through those fifteen years I became a music writer for a magazine became a mom and then after I became a mom I was like you know my kid needs to grow up loving who. He is being proud of who he is. Because I remember acid child I carried the shame of being a Latina in my own country ended in one of my children to grow up feeling or carrying that heavy load because it's heavy in books To me books mean so much they are the that was a vehicle for me to learn English And I've always just loved books especially children's books and I was looking for children's books for my now nine year old that celebrated who we are and what we do in our contributions and I couldn't find any so Just to make this shorter I decided to start my own company with a friend of mine and we call it a little league does and we now have our own publishing company and then somewhere in between I started a jewelry line that was like being rocked. Riana Demi Levato Katy Perry you ideal and Just incredible women in and then what else. Oh and then somewhere in between A friend of mine in me Have been writing just writing down in trying to create something that can live forever And just recently we've Kind of connected with a production company that saw this and believes in us and I think that's just the beginning of the beginning. What's next for you to call a month and then it had a second child. Now come more within those fifteen years. Yeah Yeah Oh. Wow You I consider yard real like a listens to bugging Cuba. Books are so cue thank you you have one of Lena. Which was the one that I ever like had saw like in person. I saw like a little local bookshop in by the way that book is d. I mean children's picture book on her life really. Wow that's crazy. That just says a lot about the publishing industry you know. Yeah Yeah I was that one published that was on my gosh. What twenty two thousand eighteen have you have you ever? Do you watch the show or have you watched the show younger? No it's about it's IT'S A. It's Hillary Duff and the Gospel turning Mexico her name. Yes thank you. Yes sees me a Tony Award winner? I know I know. I'm sorry but I know but it's about it's about seeing it's about publishing and writing and stuff in it. It's so interesting because you just said that. And you know it's mostly white women in charge in this or white. I mean Yeah. I think Hollywood is bad yeah The publishing industry is a trillion times worse. Yeah it's so white straight it's like it's honestly it's it's just food with American dirt a novel that isn't you know. Oh Yeah But Yeah so. I think that's really that's like that's so cool that you you did like you've made these landmarks and like you are showing not only You know our people are able to read these. Obviously unlike you know Lakers Read read these books like to our children. I buy one for my knees for her birthday or whatever that is but I think it's cool because like we just Like I have friends babysit and sometimes like I cover for them and Babysat for one of my friends. And I remember telling the family I was like I was really happy because they had free to Kalo. They had like you know a Selena. They held all types of like different colored like females that in books me through the and they had lake so many different hourn even. Just let the Asians Bunch and then I was like this was like a mixed race couple but still like I. I love it when I walk into something. Yes you have books of other people than just like little cartoon just like white people think you educate you really important especially because you know. Those books are for children and If you know. We're talking about changing the narrative and in any in any creative industry that you know that we there were part of on in and I always say this the the one that we should really invest in. Because it's the first form of media that our children you know are are connected to our books. Yeah and if we really want to change the the overall landscape of the way Hollywood looks We honest need to start with books and It's very challenging to Get people on board with that because they you know a lot of people don't see books are so powerful yet we don't we don't consciously see it
Climate change in the era of coronavirus
"Kevin as we sheltered home scientists are finding the behavioral changes like telecommuting can significantly reduce emissions but how much good can these changes ultimately make if we're not making them together Naomi arrest kiss is a professor of the history of science at Harvard her books like why trust science explore climate change denial she says climate change in covered nineteen are examples of problems that can't be solved at the local level air pollution doesn't respect state boundaries you put the motion throughout this year it moves because of virus is comparable to this thing didn't stay in China and then we got to America didn't stay in Washington state the rest this is the principle of limited government or leaving it to the states breaks down in the face of these issues and now is the time to remind people the government's role is to solve problems that individuals or states can't solve alone it took federal action she says to abolish slavery and leadership on the federal level to bring us out of the Great Depression it's true government is not the solution to all our problems but it clearly is the solution to many of our biggest problems like public health environmental health which will be most effectively solves all the states can work together rescue since the pandemic proves that Americans are willing to make sacrifices for the greater good and that bodes well for fighting climate change and now my colleague Molly Peterson takes a look at another way that climate change and covert nineteen are connected thanks Peter Riana gun right directs climate policy at the Roosevelt institute is a think tank she says the pandemic has made existing and equities worse if you are low income black and Latino you are far more likely to live near toxic fumes to be exposed to higher levels of toxic pollution which in turn creates a ton of background conditions you're talking about cancers heart disease respiratory issues all of which are linked to higher likelihood having serious complications from corona virus for Andres Soto an organizer with communities for a better environment that vulnerability is always apparent bay area skies are bluer with more people off the road but in Richmond we also see the refinery is still operating apparently a full capacity and there's been absolutely no indication that chevron is going to be cutting back on its pollution while everybody else has to shelter in place he also points out the corona virus has made it harder to pay the rent because of the lack of an efficient social safety net we now find ourselves having to address people's personal needs as our lives have become destabilised by the goal with nineteen and then set us as the pandemic offers a glimpse of what it would look like if the whole planet works together for big solutions here's my friend Danielle vet and she talked to someone with a view about doing that for climate change thanks Molly okay let's get something out of the way while carbon emissions and pollution have plummeted during this pandemic shut down this is not a gift for the earth or any sort of meaningful Denton are carbon output because we got there the wrong way and this can't last we can't have everybody staying in their homes we can't have people thrown out of work we can't have people unable to feed their families Katharine Hayhoe a climate scientist at Texas Tech University says we can however use this as an opportunity to learn this shows is that we do have the power to act and we can't affect incredible change when we do act in the corona virus we recognized a common problem that threatens ourselves our loved ones our communities we want people to be able to live in safety and that's exactly what climate change threatens to we don't know yet Hey ho says if this crisis will spur stronger clean energy and climate policies or make us retreat will this be an opportunity for a Marshall Plan after World War two or the new D. hello or will people use it as an opportunity to return to the past even more strongly rolling back environmental protections as we're seeing today to shore up feeling industries like the coal industry the question is what will we
What the Coronavirus Means for Climate Change
"As we sheltered home scientists are finding that behavioral changes like telecommuting can significantly reduce emissions but how much good can these changes ultimately make if we're not making them together Naomi arrest kiss is a professor of the history of science at Harvard her books like why trust science explore climate change denial she says climate change in covered nineteen are examples of problems that can't be solved at the local level air pollution doesn't respect state boundaries put pollution throughout this year it moves because of virus is comparable to this thing didn't stay in China and then we got to America didn't stand Washington state the rest this is the principle of limited government or leading into the state's breaks down in the face of these issues and now is the time to remind people the government's role is to solve problems that individuals for states can't solve alone it took federal action she says to abolish slavery and leadership on the federal level to bring us out of the Great Depression it's true government is not the solution to all our problems but it clearly is the solution to many of our biggest problems like public health environmental health which will be most effectively solves if all the states can work together rescue since the pandemic proves that Americans are willing to make sacrifices for the greater good and that bodes well for fighting climate change and now my colleague Molly Peterson takes a look at another way that climate change in covert nineteen are connected thanks Peter Riana gun right directs climate policy at the Roosevelt institute is a think tank she says the pandemic has made existing and equities worse if you are low income black and Latino you are far more likely to live near toxic fumes to be exposed to higher levels of toxic pollution which in turn creates a ton of background conditions you're talking about cancers heart disease respiratory issues all of which are linked to higher likelihood of having serious complications from corona virus for Andres Soto an organizer with communities for a better environment that vulnerability is always apparent bay area skies are bluer with more people off the road but in Richmond we also see the refinery is still operating apparently a full capacity and there's been absolutely no indication that chevron is going to be cutting back on its pollution while everybody else has to shelter in place he also points out the corona virus has made it harder to pay the rent because of the lack of an efficient social safety net we now find ourselves having dressed people's personal needs as our lives have become destabilized by recorded nineteen MM set us as the pandemic offers a glimpse of what it would look like if the whole planet works together for big solutions here's my friend Danielle van she talked to someone with a view about doing that for climate change thanks Molly okay let's get something out of the way while carbon emissions and pollution have plummeted during this pandemic shut down this is not a gift for the earth or any sort of meaningful Denton are carbon output because we got there the wrong way and this can't last we can't have everybody staying in their homes we can't have people thrown out of work we can't have people unable to feed their families Katharine Hayhoe a climate scientist at Texas Tech University says we can however use this as an opportunity to learn this shows is that we do have have the power to act and we can't affect incredible change when we do act in the corona virus we recognized a common problem that threatens ourselves our loved ones our communities we want people to be able to live in safety and that's exactly what climate change threatens to we don't know yet Hey ho says if this crisis will spur stronger clean energy and climate policies or make us retreat will this be an opportunity for a Marshall Plan after World War two or the new deal or will people use it as an opportunity to return to the past even more strongly rolling back environmental protections as we're seeing today to shore up feeling industries like the coal industry the question is what will we do that part of history is yet to be written we all will be writing it
Valorant makes you watch before you play
"So you guys may have heard. There's a game that's out right now. In closed Beta from riot games called Valerie and Riana and I decided to jump into some matches with our friend loose agenda and see how it goes so re you and I got to stream. This did we did. And how do you? How do you feel about about how it went? The game is good. I am not like a Haiku or something like five before we get into the game play for people who aren't familiar valor. It is a tactical five five first person shooter. As I mentioned. Ride Games publishes it and write games gave us access to the closed. Beta both rhianna myself and so we were playing in right now. The only way to get access is to watch people stream the game on twitch. They recently just opened up. Who can stream and get drops because before was a select group of streamers where you would have to watch and get twits drops in and you could get access to the. Beta of course shift to sign up at the website. I give everything registered with your riot account and then you would watch all these dreamers and cross your fingers that you would get access and so now. They've opened it up so a lot. More people can get into the closed Beta now. They don't have any details on when it's going out of closed Beta Hopefully this year I think is the assumption. They don't have details of one going into full publish. I would imagine either later this year but more likely sometime next year would be my thought and they haven't really talked about currently because it's only right now so I think what Rana kind of buried the lead at was that it's mouse and keyboard only neither sheer. I remembered until we agreed to play this game together and they were like Oh. We don't play with masochist. Yeah it's a very different experience from what Aaron are used to controllers and. We talked about this a little bit on Monday. But the skills I wish. They were transferable. Sometimes they're not and when I get cornered or when. I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do from abilities. My left hand freaks the fuck out and I can't do what my brain is telling it to do or or what I see on. The screen doesn't match what? I think my hand is doing. And Yeah it's There's a disconnect for me personally but the actual game itself is Super Super Fun and actually really fun to watch so the the whole tactic of doing the twitter stream drops for access is pretty great. I think it's working out really well.
"riana" Discussed on Z104
"Com station seven minutes ago model jeep trying to fix me in the sixteenth the please eleven some I never the also looking this is James please mystery business we it's actually shared with us this week or what method was last week that Riana said she's right to be a mom yeah and she wants anyone to you have to be a part of the ground yeah lady Gaga.
"riana" Discussed on Power 106 FM
"Somebody Spartan kick a girl too close to my TJ Holmes hello Hey I love a woman I like to defend me that's why I love Riana and figured out he was like anybody I would don't know my life does Mason jar and it's right tell me something I don't know my life we do have new party next door featuring Riana and this is the only one who favors on DJ Carisma got the joy of what we all jockeys dry right now one six exclusive new music good luck she is my new favorite I believe it I think it's to me all five would you if the card is your you I was you tell me that you can is just he G..
"riana" Discussed on Z104
"We had this weekend we act it was nice as they could sometimes I'll put a picture of me which is fighting something like this Sunday yes so nice all the people that say get well soon if you get a voucher or I've been there to hang in there you know alone especially other parents to know that the parents are just as upset kids like I feel so terrible but anyways it was really nice to think everybody said that she's already on antibiotics and doing just fine and you know right around breaking things in the house in no time so all right both cable get to that in a second also twenty minutes from now today's easy on the Z. so I think the friends reunion is really happening now I think okay yes we've heard this before where is the pain anyways that's right yes okay so we'll talk about that Riana speech today in an end of lease to be image which is pretty good we'll play some of that and I hope you can join me US sorry how you doing this after your Z. for a very serious question that has to do with sex and your phone and it's not would you answer your phone if you were you know the middle that or it's not it act I saw this question and I was shocked at what my own answer to it was and how easy it was to answer this question but it has to do with sex and your phone all right I'm gonna talk about it after young Z. but first it's Monday you're probably a crappy mood so let's give you a phone scam to cheer you up a lot of you were off on Fridays you need to hear this this is the lady who we operate called because she's getting a new roof on our house and she told her husband that she thinks the roofers look at her when she walks in and out of the house kindly leering at her a little bit so we made the whole situation a lot worse.
"riana" Discussed on Power 106 FM
"You know we are way out of jail but we can't we don't we about about a close but we don't really know the names we buy what made it so he about one and a white male I got a couple I got a problem with all right we don't first strung out on compliments in every night because we drink made a late allow enable exaggerated right now I gotta say it as just something yeah yeah yeah yeah everything my as father dies his name is out of so my children they came in you know it it is it is it I yeah hi if you was the worst advice you've ever received you should stick with the group forty nineteen best of the firing squad anymore is by one of their bodies business the current business like stuff they come back in a day I think you really want to know get to know the artist in the firing squad I want to know who's your childhood celebrity crush have you read to your child a celebrity crush this is a tie between lay Riana and then day take on both.
"riana" Discussed on Z104
"Real name is Robyn Fenty Riana is her middle name she's from Barbados and was discovered when she was sixteen by an American record producer named Evan Rogers sorry when he was on vacation there she was esquire magazine's sexiest woman alive in two thousand eleven Brianna pass Justin Bieber on June eighteenth twenty thirteen as the most viewed artist on you too and as it also turns out mostly everybody says her name wrong it's actually pronounced Rhianna when asked during an interview on the Ellen DeGeneres show what her go to karaoke song is Riana revealed Bon Jovi's Livin on a prayer on the number one hit music station Z. one oh four this one is these I mean I use mom the same yeah the I don't know if they know we.
"riana" Discussed on KIIS 102.7
"The weekend so Riana says she isn't releasing any new music until the heart of a separate so while we wait here's an eighty forty action with Calvin I was the cashier.
"riana" Discussed on WIBC 93.1FM
"Riana and Cardi B, exactly. Big petition that the common among others. Yeah. The petition that was started saying we don't want room five to perform you shouldn't perform because capper, Nick. So they're not doing the pre Super Bowl press conference now. Right. And I have a problem with this not because I care one way or the other about maroon five, but you can't be bullied into doing something. I mean now unless maroon five has something up their sleeve where they're gonna come out at a time with the Super Bowl and makes me nervous with Colin Kaepernick stage a kneeling the entire time during their performance. Why did you cancel that? I've gotta take the other end of the spectrum here. This is what you maniacal self righteous virtue, signaling. So social Justice warriors on Twitter get this is what you get even the most liberal media figures in the entertainment industry are afraid to answer your dumb questions from an agenda driven mainstream media. So screw it. Don't do it. They made a five hundred thousand dollars donation to big brothers and big sisters in conjunction with the NFL and the Super Bowl performance. Screw you thinking about how many people would probably be downloading maroon five's music this week with all their appearances. Because whoever does halftime at the Super Bowl. You get that spike in sales. We see it every year last year, Justin Timberlake, who certainly doesn't need a spike in sales. I mean, all of his albums went to number one the week of the Super Bowl because people get curious the average person that doesn't know who they are like our parents or your grandparents they go find out who you are. And maybe they get into it. And it's dumb. I didn't see any outrage for Justin Timberlake. Like performing last year. I don't know what's changed in the year between Justin Timberlake, but I mean this Colin Kaepernick situation going on for years. So is going down last year when he would just Timberlake perform, where's the outrage them? And if you're a maroon five though, it's a week move to cancel this. This is a big deal for you. This is the halftime of the Super Bowl. This is where you can make your money. If you don't want to answer questions about capper, Nick, you don't have to all you have to do is go up to the podium and say, hey, we were invited to perform a lot of fans like our music. I can't speak for who's not here. Yeah. But they're they're afraid to fall into that narrative of the mainstream media. Why would you sit there and subject yourself to that? I kind of get it.