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"renee taylor" Discussed on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

01:45 min | Last week

"renee taylor" Discussed on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

"It is when I need to just when I need to be in the devotion to the I am to that which I say made trees and bees and Honey and fleas and also decided that there should be a Sonya Renee Taylor. That's. What I just need to be an overwhelming reference to that but that's the song listen to God. So turning around for me the Sean Mitchell, you're overcome song. Yes, let just chill. By. Your eighth grade crush song. I. Loved that. I still haven't found what I'm looking for by U2. which use your stodgy song in mind two we can. We can listen to that on cassette on our drive. Yes. Yes and then I forgot about the song entice auto playlists and it just crushed me love you to the letter by Anita Baker a Ha. It's First of all the compositions album is by far my favorite nie-nieto Baker album and that song is just. It's so good. It's so so like water flows down from a hill and yellow grows on daffodils I'M GONNA learn to love you better baby to the letter Oh. So good. So good I'm like, yeah exactly to the letter. Yeah. Let me like that and let me love. Ourselves. Like that. Yes. Yes. Love ourselves like that. Thank you so much for joining us on unlocking us. Oh my gosh. It has been an absolute delight like one of the highlights of my existence for Abram is to get to have this conversation with you. I.

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"renee taylor" Discussed on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

03:05 min | Last week

"renee taylor" Discussed on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

"On the face of that I thought to myself. Make peace with different bodies while I I. Think I have that. But Lemme tell you where I struggled. And, I'm prepared for this to be a hard learning for me. So you just bring it and bring it. Okay. So there have been a couple times in on public media wants a couple years ago when everyone in their office decided that we were GonNa do a healthy healthy January and all twenty seven of us we're going to cook and bring meals for each other and we were gonNA do like a it was really community building and find it was a tupperware but like we were going to do this thing. At I was cooking something from a whole thirty cookbook and someone said. Oh. My God. You're doing whole thirty. You're terrible person for doing that and and you shouldn't be doing the whole thirty and then the other day I talked about how for years and years I've been Kito that's just what I feel good and then people are like you're a terrible person like. I push up against sometimes. I know how I feel good I know that if I walk five days a week, I know that if I eat certain foods I, feel like crap I know that if I, carb load I, get out of bed in the morning get headaches like but it seems like I struggle sometimes when people say to me when you are making choices for yourself that you have checked, that are not part of body conformity. You're hurting other people. Yeah. I don't know what to do with that I mean is it just that I'm blind to the fact that? I bought into something or is it that we? I don't know what to do? Yeah if. It is complex and I think that it is it's one that I have. Grappled with another people have shared this question with me in different forms over the years and I think that. It is it's a both aunt and it's a very. Nuanced. What I think is true. Is that we absolutely? It is important for us to know that which is true for our bodies that which feels. True to US right. And that there will be times when what feels true us? Potentially, reaffirms a system that is harmful in the larger world to other people's bodies I. think that's true. And that there is a delicate navigation between those two things. One of the things that I i. don't even know if I said in the book but I say it all the time is almost less about what we do and almost always about why we do it and if we can be in the why. Then the what becomes a lot more easy to navigate The. You know the whole thirty, the Kito, these sorts of things I would say that anybody starting the conversation with a terrible person is definitely not. He's not going to be conversation from a position that is a radical self love condition. Because of radical self love physician says like even it's not about your whole thirty. It's not about your Kito, it's about the why and I think that this is the part where. The the how..

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"renee taylor" Discussed on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

05:48 min | Last week

"renee taylor" Discussed on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

"Think that we're going to magically change a structure that was born to do a very specific thing. And so the system when we're talking about what's the connection between radical self love and social justice is that that system was created from disconnection of radical self love. It was I need external orientations to assign my value in. Then once I have achieved that value externally, then I will move heaven and earth and all you other people in order to continue to control that because who am I. Who Are we without it? It's like I'm how have goosebumps because I'm thinking about Isabelle since book cast and I'm thinking about how people went to court and filed like suits wanting to be identified on paper as white like Asian Americans or So, that they could find their place in the latter. Yeah, if. It is behold policing of Whiteness and America has about trying to attain. Some closer proximity on the ladder. It is the structure of polarization within communities of color is about how do I get higher up on this ladder? The function of able ISM is about how do I get higher on this ladder all of ours systems of `ISMs of oppression based on the body. Are Attempts to navigate the ladder of social hierarchy based on our bodies and those systems that live within that that ladder are the system that we're talking about fighting when we're talking about social justice yeah I think the power of your premise and what you write about is powerful because it's the one thing we all have everybody you can't do this ride. I mean. Let's. Say the word every body but like it's every body. Body every the and so If, we recognize it. If we recognize that we all have a body, it really is the opportunity to make it the great equalizer it is the opportunity to save, but we all are interfacing. We all have to interface with gifts thing in order to be in this material around doing whatever it is we're doing. So if it possible to have a wrong version of this. To do that. Like to to live, is it possible to have a wrong version of a body? To do the human experience to answer, yes, they answer would be like we've set it up to believe yes. But how could it be true? That can't be true it can't be true because if there were those body than other bodies wouldn't exist if we believe Marianne Williamson's premise about natural intelligence then human bodily diversity is a form of natural intelligence. It means that all bodies are supposed to be different because that is the version. That is specific for your particular journey, and what's interesting is we believe that in so many other areas of the natural world and we don't believe it in the human world and that's the thing I find fascinating. We we believe in about trees we believe it about dogs and cows and grasses the variety and. And Nuance of all of those things we expect there to be you know millions of different kinds of trees. There are all kinds of different manifestations I when I moved to New Zealand I saw a chart of cows now in my brain is just a cat. They're.

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"renee taylor" Discussed on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

03:01 min | Last week

"renee taylor" Discussed on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

"Morning walks and oat milk in any beverage all at Dunkin that means ICE OAT milk law as hot oatmeal clock as vote. Milkin chai-lan as Pumpkin iced coffee even oat milk in Dunkin Signature pumpkin spice Latte. That's a big deal plus you can use the Dunkin. App Free Contactless Order and you can pay and pick up the drive through. That's even better. The flavors of fall are at Dunkin. Okay so. So, far I. Am I'm I'm with you. I am the body my body is not an apology. My Body is my ally and with you I. Stay away from performance allied ship, which you see performance of allies ship with our bodies all the time over social right? There is an entire I mean I think that's actually much of what body positivity is. Right now is performed ally ship with our bodies I'm not in for it. Okay. So I agree that I do think and I even I'm not actually a fan in my research of self esteem and those things because they're fleeting their shaky and they're they're kind of cognitive inventories. They're not real deep stuff. I'm with you so far. Yeah I'm going to embrace radical self love scares the crap out of you but I'm GonNa do it man you posit something in this book that is very provocative that I have not seen any other place I'm voracious reader around shame. You. Tie. Body the. Radical love. To Social Justice and body. Shame. To the injustice and violence and white supremacy and oppression. So I, need you to a heck I'm gonNA invite You I. Don't need you actually actually I'm going to I'm going to go back to I. Need You I will I need you? To help me. Yeah definitely. Okay. So I'M GONNA, go back to our ladder. Okay. 'cause that's I. think that's really what helps us right is if we have all been situated on a ladder of hierarchy. Right that somebody's are better than other bodies. Right. Yeah. That's the premise in the world there. Somebody's that are better than other basket question here. Is. Does the somebody's or better than other bodies extend all the way to the dehumanisation of black bodies by the police is that when you say somebody's you're not talking about thin and tall you're talking about that's exactly that's the problem is that we have these very sort of limited understandings of the body. And because we have such a limited understanding of the body, it makes difficult to see all the places where our relationships with bodies are impacting the systemic violences that we're looking at in the world the part in a world where there's a default body I talk about this in the book, there is a body that we say.

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"renee taylor" Discussed on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

04:35 min | Last week

"renee taylor" Discussed on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

"To give me a thing that I was born with. So what do I need the latter for? What do we need the latter for? If we all understood that we already came here with everything we need in order to be all it is that we are destined to be. Let me ask you a question I. Want to stay with your metaphor yeah. I build a lot of ladders I'm a ladder builder. especially. Yet. My academic training really is like ladder building one. Okay. So that ladder that's leaning against the system right that I'm not going to climb up I've got everything here. What happens to the system when the latter goes away the ladder isn't leaning against the system. The latter is the system. Holy Shit. Hold on. Let me tell myself together here. Ladder isn't leaning against the system. The latter is the system. It is all the things that we have built to figure out how to attain the top rung. It's all the systems, all of them, and it's all of our place on their inside of them. That is what the latter is. and. So once we undo it, we don't have the system the system falls it literally one of the most powerful things right now today as we are recording this, the NBA said we're not playing. We are not playing because we are not going to continue to play basketball while black people are being murdered If every single NBA player decided, we are not playing basketball as long as people are being murdered the entire system that is the NBA would collapse. Immediately. Immediately, it would fall. They would not have the infrastructure to figure out how to hire new players fast enough not in Kovin right. There would be nothing but the collapse of that structure as we understand it simply by the choice not to participate in it anymore. That material example is an opportunity. and. It doesn't again I I am talking about it. It is not simple. It's not easy I think it is simple. It is simple. Simple it's actually sleeper simple and that's the complexity of it. It's super simple. Not playing. Okay. What happens when we say we're not playing the entire system falls. That's what happened. I. Read to statistic. This takes me back to something that was like. So I thought about this for I don't know since nine eleven. So I started my research like six months before nine eleven..

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"renee taylor" Discussed on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

05:58 min | Last week

"renee taylor" Discussed on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

"I love which is you've done all the things that I tell people they're going to do when they read the Louise Yeah so hard. So then I get to this idea and it's interesting of. Natural Intelligence. So I'm like okay. So you so you. So you've got me Kinda split open and then I I'm ready. I'm going to build myself confidence and I'm GonNa build myself. Acceptance. Cheeses, you're like, no no. And you start with this story where you hear a quote from Marianne. Williamson. An acorn does not have to say I intend to become an tree natural intelligence. Intense that every living thing become the highest form of itself and designs US accordingly. So what you're positing in this book I WanNa make sure I get this right So scary to me. Is that I don't have to strive for things and achieve more things and accumulate more things. I've got to get rid of this stuff is getting in my way of tapping into. My natural purpose in greatness is that what you're telling us at exactly what I'm telling you and and I'm telling you that that will emerge that once he removed the obstructions that have us believe we have to try to become. We will just become. Exactly what it is that we are supposed to be and that those obstructions are not just like our obstructions that they are a world of obstruction have been created that are in between us and our inherent divinity inbetween. And our inmate enough newness and that the work of radical self love is to keep moving the things that are in the way outside of me and to keep working in concert with other human beings to move the things that are in the way in the world and that when we do those two things simultaneously when we do them together. I believe and I'm. Not Ever live to see it but I deeply believe that we make a different world..

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"renee taylor" Discussed on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

05:27 min | Last week

"renee taylor" Discussed on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

"Yeah Yeah tell me more. Yeah When she said it. It was this moment where I often have these spirit often but often enough where. My response is not a conscious response. It is not a like. Oh I. I'm reflecting what you shared with me and I'm sharing back with you. It is some thing. Outside of me, that needs to say that's how it occurs to me and so when she said that. What came out of my face just was your body is not an apology. And I'd never said those words I never said them in that sentence never been thought I'd ever had before that moment, but there was something that needed. US Not just Natasha needed me to know that. There are ways that I had been giving myself away. As a sorry for being in this body for being this person and I could see my own being in Natasha's moments there, and there was something that wanted both of us to interrupt that trajectory. There was something that wanted to to halt that experience. And it broke my heart and it's one of those things where anytime I tell the story, there's an audible gas. In the room. There every time. There's never a time I've ever told that story in people do not go. Because there's something so Painful about thinking about. This person not feeling entitled to their own safety to their own sovereignty to they're entitled to their own pleasure in the way that they determine his best friend. And I. Think it's not just old that person I see this moment as that person, there's something in it I deeply believe that when we hear it we go. I I've done it. I've done Matt I've done. Oh, I see I. See myself in Tasha and that's what happened in that moment in that hotel room was I saw myself in the Tasha in there was something that wanted to halt that experienced from continuing to replicate itself and I really think that that's how this entire movement this work has spread is because that thing wants to be halted something new wants to get created. God it was. This. Painful Anita, it's really painful me I. I wish I would've known that at eighteen and twenty and I wish I would have known that. Yes like the Times I said, yes when I met no but also the times I said, no when I met. Ya, it's you know June I mean like literally. Yeah. The time we just the times when we don't honor us that's really all it is is like, Oh, here the ways in which I didn't hear the ways in which I've betrayed my own truth. and. And you know like in the in the intersection of your work is all of the shame that comes betraying our own truth. Right. and so if there's a.

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"renee taylor" Discussed on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

04:10 min | Last week

"renee taylor" Discussed on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

"Us? People are like oh be glad to help. You're right. I'll be glad to help. If we correct people they get really self righteous. Yeah Y but if we say, we need your help because this is important. People are like right on it's important. So I just WANNA say. Thank you for sharing those words. I'm so glad that brought us together in this weird way. Thank you for being a researcher was like you know what we're GONNA do we're. GonNa Research now. I'm just like we're going to look into like how people are helping with this or not I. Love It. Amazing. So I'M GONNA start with this book normally when I I can always conscious like we don't have that much time get to the me but I gotTa Start Against Start talking about this book again, the body is not an apology the power of radical self love I don't like anything about this cover. It's you unapologetic with your body in this beautiful shot I don't like that I don't like you telling me not to apologize for my body I spent my whole life doing that and I don't like the term radical self love so Like three strikes and I gotta read the ship. I love it. Hard. Then I'm like I can do it. I can do it than that I actually read the prologue and how to walk away from the book for over a week. and you sent me this cryptic terrible message on instagram on your member. Bad I said I believe there's something in it for your journey. That's what I said. I was mean that was just mean-spirited. I want you to know that it was abundant radical. Love that made me send that message. That has any works I've read the book twice and I know what you mean when you say radical your. Back Okay I want to take you to a hotel room. So you're in Knoxville is that right? That's right I'm not. So you're in a hotel room your with your team y'all are preparing for a poetry slam. Yes. And you say we were Black White Southeast Asian, we were able bodied into sables. We were gay straight Bi Queer what we brought to Knoxville that year were the stories of living in our bodies and all of their complex tapestries. So you wind up in a conversation with your team mate. Natasha. And early thirtysomething living with cerebral palsy and fearful that she might be pregnant. Tasha tells you how her potential pregnancy was most assuredly by a guy who is just a fling. And all of her life was up in the air for her for Natasha she was abundantly clear that she had no desire to have a baby and not by this person. and. So somewhere in your career, many of the innovations you were a sexual health and Public Health Service provider. So this background you right you. This is what you write this background mamie notorious for asking people about their safer sex practices, handing out condoms and offering sexual health harm reduction strategies. instinctually I asked. Tasha. Why she had chosen not to use a condom with this casual sexual partner with whom she had no interest in procreating. Neither National I knew that my honest question in her honest answer would be the catalyst for a movement. Natasha told me her truth. My disability make sex hard already with positioning and stuff. I just didn't feel like it was okay to make a big deal about using condoms. On to say when we hear someone's truth in, it strikes some deep part of our humanity, our own hidden shames. It can be easy to recoil into silence. We struggle to hold the truths of others because we have. So rarely had the experience of having our own truths held. This really. This. I didn't feel like it was okay to make a big using condoms because my disability already makes sex. Hard, yeah. This..

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"renee taylor" Discussed on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

02:10 min | Last week

"renee taylor" Discussed on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

"Was like. That's awesome and amazing and. And it was this beautiful. Tension between my own ego. And and the reality of the world and like you know what happens to black women's voices. You know in the movement of history. And the like what is important? What's most important in this moment and those were the things that I felt like we're all sort of at play in that situation and I and I believe me saying I trust that it will work out. The way it's supposed to work out is the reason why I get to be here in this conversation with. And so that's magic. Your heart is so much bigger than I have a grinch two sizes too small 'cause I'm like when I see like you know I, see a quota my. If it's attributed to like a white guy I'm like dude, you did not say that I like excuse me I said that like I don't even think what serves the world the Bass I might know her sit down. Sit Down and give me my words back. No because attribution really matters. It does and I think that's the the dance is attribution absolutely matters and whose responsibility is to correct the record because if I spent my life. Right around the tasting, right chasing all the mist attributed things that'd be that's what I'd spend my life doing. That's why I loved in this moment that you shared and you're like restricted at ten thousand pounds is. Oh. No, what what we want is for the place where the power and the resource and the privilege lies to also take on the responsibility of making sure that which should be made. Right is made right and I realize like you and your team have done it and that's been beautiful to watch. It's been incredible to because what we do is we tweet it back with this with the right same quote card but with your attribution, and then we have tracked what has been in the AB testing on what's more effective and if we say This, these words belong Tucson Sonya Renee. Taylor, can you help.

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"renee taylor" Discussed on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

05:36 min | Last week

"renee taylor" Discussed on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

"Hi Everyone I'm Brian Brown, and this is unlocking us. Today we're talking to Sonja Renee Taylor. She is an artist activist and founder of the body is not an apology I think just the title the body is not an apology is enough to take your breath away but if you need more stay tuned because. She's coming with a big ask key. To unlock some really hard stuff for me I think for all of us so. Stay tuned for my conversation with Sonya Renee Taylor I think it will make a difference. All.

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"renee taylor" Discussed on Small Doses

Small Doses

02:21 min | 3 weeks ago

"renee taylor" Discussed on Small Doses

"The. Rest. We we are that work to do I continue to do my work I. It is a fucking bitch. The worst, the work, the work, the work. We got to come up with another name for it because it's like. It says, it's it's an it's attached to so many things including the so many people and. Jeremy in journey but I, thank you for I. Thank you for taking time. I know you're doing a lot of right now we all we all are you know in our in our best when a Lotta Shit right now and Apologies as they exist with our our interpersonal relationships. But also as you said, as we're not gonNA, get the apology we want from White folks that I think a lot of folks are are wanting even from Joe Biden it's just not you know and so it's it's GotTa. Be giving us yet. We gotta give it to ourselves. You gotta give it to ourselves. So thank you for being such a vessel. I'm ending Fountain of of knowledge and of healing and I appreciate you and I feel you from from over here and and I thank you for. For teaching all of us on this call though also. Just out kindness and compassion. Can exist in the same space. As Honesty and truth Yanni that's and for me, that's the hard journey for me. Because I. had. Is the given to me one tone for? License. License. Savvy. Knife. Much softer, it can be so much. It can be I'm thinking tomorrow right now it can be the as the swords or it can be the or it can be the Asia Cup. Either way it goes off it's an offering decide which one you wanNA give. Well, thank you for giving us all make sure to follow Sonya Renee Taylor Books where they get him books any place people sell books is preferable your local independent black-owned. All. Around the body is not an apology, the power of radical self. Thank you so much says, thanks love. Appreciate you. PODCAST. Network.

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"renee taylor" Discussed on Small Doses

Small Doses

06:43 min | 3 weeks ago

"renee taylor" Discussed on Small Doses

"As an effort to make amends. Recognizing the you don't own me Shit, and that is the key piece that an apology doesn't assume that you're owed anything. It is literally just an extension of immense if someone decides to offer you something back. Beautiful that's a bonus autism. Feel great about you. Could they don't share. Nothing. You are nothing. And I think that's the thing is oftentimes particularly as relates to whiteness is that white people want to be absolved of the guilt of the? You know hundreds of years. Of Violence that they have over black folks lives and they want black people to give it to them. They want black people to make them feel better about all the shit that they deer. And the truth of the matter is I can't do that for you even if I told you I, forgive you. You spiritual debt you know is between you and your God I can't absolve you that you. That's the spiritual journey between you y'all ancestors y'all creator whatever it is you believe in. Can't give that to you. Black people can't not only can't give it to you. Don't owe it to you owe you nothing. Nothing. Nothing. How does this play out? In our interpersonal relationships. Yes. Yeah. You know like, and if you could before you even go into that like I would love for you to speak on atonement because I feel like atonement apology squared. It's like you know it's it's like the the Beta test like it's really and I think a lot of people may have not even heard that word aside from the nightly movie but. But I would just let them and the reason why I think it's also important to just. Look at these different levels is one in regards to what we're talking about with white folks because we are in this place of like an eruption of consciousness and there are a lot of people who are having to face in real time like Oh shit. I am a result of Shit that happened in real time even if that another time, right so there's that but then in the cold of it, all a lot of us like we talked about earlier are having to really like face our own behaviors, anti apologize atone and like. Where like? I had an ex who we reconnected jerry the first three months of corn team And both of us were very toxic to each other I will say I feel like he was more to me but it doesn't matter because it's still I am responsible for my own. Actions and I definitely. Put my in the fire. Carry. When we got back into this new space though I was a new space. And so my. Interaction with us and our past was very different than been before and one of the first things I did was. Take Accountability got a lot of AIDS apology atonement accountability solution and the end here. I thought. But I just saw you I felt like. The freedom for us to move forward was gonna live in the accountability. Of how we got here and I was like you know. I just want to. Apologize and a tone for. Everything that I brought into the space. That didn't allow for it to be a safe space and you brought shit our brought shit. But I can only control me. And I was like you know and I know. that. There were traumas that were unresolved. Players, in my response to you that I would not do now like I just wouldn't do them now because of what I've worked through right and. He was unable to do that on his side, right? And so inevitably, we spiraled back into the darkness. I brought that up because even when we spiral back in the darkness, it was one of the first times where I had. For like truly forgiven myself. and so once we spiraled back, the darkness didn't pull me back. Exactly exactly exactly. That's the that's the key pieces that when you are actually able to see your side of the street when you're able to be on this is what belongs to me that his mind to Tim to. And you have some practice intending to your side of the street you actually have been tending to Yo side. because. That's what you need practice in it. It's more than just see it on US mine. It's like, all right. How do I deal with what's mine and once you practiced dealing with? What's yours? When other people's stuff comes on the side, your side of the street you recognize it as not yours and you are able to be like Oh. We can't actually intermingle streets because I'm over here with the practice of keeping mind together and I see your stuff spilling over here and I can't manage your Zan mind. So right I'm going to have to go over here and there's A. That Comes with knowing like doing the work of being able to to own your stuff, and that's really what I understand is atonement. Atonement is I. am able to see you wear. My fault is regardless of how much your fault might be in the mix I am able to see where my fault is and take one hundred percent responsibility for my fault of this into not in atonement is also a not about waiting for the other person to do the same. It's completely your it's it's. It's for I don't WanNa say it's four, but it's like..

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"renee taylor" Discussed on Small Doses

Small Doses

08:49 min | 3 weeks ago

"renee taylor" Discussed on Small Doses

"Gentlemen and those who do not subscribe to those Mary's welcome to another episode of small doses now listen. I don't want to do a side effects of apologies for a long time largely bar because I feel like there's a lot of folks that a mother motherfucking positive. But You know to that end covert happened and in my you know relaxed. Not will not I wasn't relaxed but again, my `isolation due to Kobina Quarantine. I started realizing the apologies that I, owe to other people into myself. Rule and therapy and nature will do that to you it'll. Therapy nature and solitude. And then i. recently saw a video by our guest. Miss. Sonya. Renee Taylor author and founder of the body is not an apology and in this video she broke down. The specifics between apology entertainment and it was in relation. To was it a woman in your DM's or was accused now? So this is all happening on Dr. Jaba. That's right. It was. There was a woman in the album play after you know because there was this past the mic. Moment that happened that for the record I was like you know what? Best of intentions but Gone. Well. Yeah Yan. And so what happened in the past the Mike was that there was instagram pages that were shared between white women that have big platforms and says it platforms and Jaba shared with somebody and in doing that though you get new following. Their followers, and so I'll let you finish the rest. How did it go? Yeah. So first of all, thanks for having me asked me to have you like. In the was. So. So I stumbled upon this online. I'm watching Yup probably has a judgment free zone, which is for Friday, night offering of ratchet tree and revelry and all things in between and I get my whole life I go every I look forward. Now going going to go just watch some ridiculous ship on Yob as page and so. After you pass the MIC. She starts to get influx of white followers in that's not historically been Yavuz audience 'cause that's not cool. Job is content appeals to or is four and. Go get a yes do it. It'll be good. Conversation So Yup, had a post on her judgment free zone that was like some guys fought fighting in the back seat of a car and person sitting in the front seat like. And it was like. Twenty twenty. Was the back seat me right. Trying to ride it out. So weit woman or YOB is. Page is like so now where You know now we're promoting violence and then reports reported so. I missed that part reports Jaba 's post in Yaba post kids taken down. In that to me is the piece that I think is important. To highlight. Right which is it's not just white. People have wack opinions like whatever. Like it's what people have opinions about your life that they have the power to institute their desire over. That's the issue and so. This random white woman reports this black woman's page the black woman's content gets taken down and we was to say Jaba is enraged in you know like in her full Sagittarius fire now like this. So. Apparent, so Jaba does a series of posts about how pissed off she is and I suppose that this White Woman Now is like, Oh, I need to apologize and it goes to apologize. Or? Says that it's her on one of the threads like it was me I'm not. This is this. This is stupid. This move I've seen in a long time. I was like, what why would you tell on your all you to get the most you signed up for it I you bought the ticket to the circus I guess you got to be the clown. She says I did it I'm so sorry that it ended up. I need to apologize to Jaba in like I don't want don't talk to me like. Don't talk to me. So the you know this is soon, this woman reaches out in like I really want to apologize. And job is community is like. Leave it alone like she don't want to talk to you leave it alone. So then this woman rights entire apology. Emails like e mails it to Yaba C. C.'s glennon doyle CC's abby. WOMBAT CC's to Ron Burke. It's Being the one people really have no one who they think they'd be knowing into rain really don't. Wrongs she's NAT here for not here for the plug clock is. So this some this is how that all plays out needless to say the poor white when get whatever poor woman is just me tossing and language because I'm trying to has some sympathy for her foolishness, but she gets dragged as is appropriate now. In can't understand you know why why she's being dragged yeah and then of course, there are other people who are all you know I think it's important to remember that we're all. Conditioned to protect whiteness and so even black people are like well, maybe you're just being too harsh on her. You know perhaps she was she was just trying to apologize she just wants say sorry and so that's when I. Watched the unfolding and I do I do A. I don't I don't think the word is series I. Turn on my video on a regular basis and I say what's up y'all and then I started talking about whatever it is in my head that day in that day, it was unfolding this because what I saw a moving. was that this woman didn't actually feel she didn't actually genuinely want to atone for what she did. She didn't want to apologize she wanted absolution and there is a distinction between an apology and atonement event and absolution and and I wanted to talk about what I think that distinction is because particularly. In the context of Whiteness and white supremacists delusion. I. Seen White People's guilt. White guilt is actually vying for absolution rather than an authentic apology. What is the difference and I think that you know I knew you summed up in your video but for those who who didn't watch the video, I would love to expound on that because I think a lot of us. Don't know the difference and we're wanting something specifically from someone or from or someone someone's wanting something from us that we don't actually have the correct language for exactly. Exactly. So absolution absolution is a religious term or at least that's how I've come in contact with it. It is the ability for God to remove you of your sins is to be cleansed of your sense and so win some of once absolution. What they want is for you for you person who was harmed to make them. Okay again. I feel bad. I feel bad. Maybe not even that I harmed. You feel bad. I feel bad and I don't WanNa feel bad anymore and if you tell me, it's okay. What you did is okay I forgive you. You're you're good person than I can go back to feeling good about myself. So it's not actually at all about the person who was Har, it's about you. It's about you what you want from them. As opposed to an apology is about the person that was harmed it is I recognize that I did something to you that created pain sadness. Violence whatever it created in your life that was not good and I legitimately feel sorry for having done that and I would like to extend my apology as..

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"renee taylor" Discussed on Food Psych

Food Psych

01:50 min | 4 months ago

"renee taylor" Discussed on Food Psych

"Is sort of ask? Why am I doing nets? And it was like a WanNa. Save money I want to prove I can do something I don't know. I can do like. Go live in the woods. WanNa lose pounds. Johnson definitely part of my views inning going to live in the woods. Ma. And opposite another place where that sort of all or nothing way of being in relationship with my body weight and booed was really normalized because when we were at work, which is like five days a week twenty four hours a day living on campsite. Exceptionally, active life and there was very. You know specific amount of calories. They gave the kids every day. And that's what you made. And and then on the weekends. When you had your time off, it would be like just over the top decadence and ridiculous a drinking. So there was this berry sort of swing back and forth that again just got very normalized. Yeah, it sounds almost like it mimics the restrict bench cycle of dieting, or the yeah, the sort of like the Cheat Day concept that's now so popular in diets exactly and that was our weekends are weekends. Jeep Begins Ray. Yeah so did that sort of cycle than continue or did that drive you further into the obsession with dieting, restricting kind of locking down in certainly made me so I ended up losing. Pounds, or something like that, and over the course of the year. That worked there. And I remember it being so aware of the difference again in attention. With towns on without. Out. But I've never been I'm not a particularly.

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"renee taylor" Discussed on Food Psych

Food Psych

05:26 min | 4 months ago

"renee taylor" Discussed on Food Psych

"Hebert welcome to food sake I. AM Christy Harrison and I'm recording this on June second of twenty twenty, when there is a revolution happening for racial justice, and I'm so here for it because I believe that black lives matter and I support justice for George Floyd and Brianna Taylor and RB. And Tony mcdade and all the other black people who've had their lives taken from them over the years through the racist actions of police and vigilantes, and this racist murder has to stop so honor of the movement to defend black lives, and also in recognition of the fact that the Anti Diet Movement must also be an anti-racist movement because. Is Built on a foundation of racism as you heard in the episode with Sabrina strings that I reposted last week. This week. I wanted to re post another. With a brilliant black thinker and writer who speaks to some of the racial justice issues that are connected to this anti at work. This interviews from three years ago in July of twenty seven team, and it's with amazing writer and body Liberation Activists Sonya, Renee Taylor. Sonia has been instrumental in helping make the eating disorders and body positivity space, more aware of racism at its intersections with Diet Culture and eating disorders for a long time. She's been doing this work for many years I. I heard of her and. And saw her in two thousand fifteen when she was presenting at eating. Disorders Conference and so I want to honor her contribution to this work and to this field and make sure that you all go check out her work. Her website is Sonya. Renee Taylor Dot. com and she has a great book called. The body is not an apology that I. highly recommend reading as well. So in this interview that we did three years ago, we discussed why we need more radical body love in the world how to deal with weight gain and weight stigma while learning intuitive eating, what means stream body positivity get so wrong why understanding oppression and racism and intersecting identities is key to creating a world that's truly body positive and truly liberated how to navigate diet culture as a body acceptance activists how to begin to untangle internalized oppression, and so much more. It's a great conversation. I cannot wait to share it with you in just. Just a moment I'm not going to be answering listener question this week because I want to use this time to share some resources for folks who like me are still learning about anti-racism and working to do better, and that's not everyone listening. There are some folks here who are already so far into the anti-racist work and don't need these resources and are leading the way and I wanna thank you for doing that work. Especially, my black listeners and other listeners of color who've been on the front lines of this antiracism work for so long. So, thank you for your work. And to all my black listeners I wanNA send you empathy and compassion and support for what you're going through in this difficult time and descend solidarity, and to say that black lives matter and I'm with you in whatever way I can be. And for those of you, listening who have the unearned social privilege that comes with being white or white passing in this racist culture I wanNA. Call on you to start and or continue engaging in a practice of anti-racism in whatever way you can, because we truly cannot work for body liberation if we're not working for antiracism and I think on a Taylor does such a great job of explaining that her notion of radical body positivity that you'll hear about in a moment I am by. No means an expert on anti-racism as As I'm sure you can imagine right. I'm someone with white privilege. For the last several years I have been making a conscious effort to learn about anti-racism and to unlearn the racist culture that we're all born into, but you know I realized recently with this latest uprising that my anti-racist efforts had become a little passive had become not as active as I would like them to be and I'll talk more about that in the interview airing next week with Mony Melton because I, think she has some really important perspectives on that. Also I'm a white person with a lifetime of being steeped in this racist culture as so many of us are so I'll probably always be on learning, but I'm committed to making the effort and to listening to and learning from people who know way more about this stuff than I do. So from a perspective of someone who's very much still learning, I wanted to share a few resources that I've found helpful in my anti-racism education. I'm giving some sort of more general racism resources. Because as I'm recording this I don't know where the revolution will be. By the time you hear this episode I don't know what's going to be needed on the grounds. I wanted to just give you a few places to start people. People to follow to learn more get more information on social media and all that stuff so i. a couple of books that I love so you WanNa talk about race bypassed food site gassed Joma Aluko. It's a wonderful starting point a wonderful jumping off point if you are new to antiracism work and she even says like that's what she recommends it for. She wants to be a first step for people, not an end point. <hes> an anti-racist by Abram ex. Candy is also a wonderful book and he also says like. Stop reading. My Book. Take that as a starting point and go from there and take use it to take action. Just think that the reading reading of the book is the only

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How to Cultivate Radical Body Love with Sonya Renee Taylor

Food Psych

05:26 min | 4 months ago

How to Cultivate Radical Body Love with Sonya Renee Taylor

"Hebert welcome to food sake I. AM Christy Harrison and I'm recording this on June second of twenty twenty, when there is a revolution happening for racial justice, and I'm so here for it because I believe that black lives matter and I support justice for George Floyd and Brianna Taylor and RB. And Tony mcdade and all the other black people who've had their lives taken from them over the years through the racist actions of police and vigilantes, and this racist murder has to stop so honor of the movement to defend black lives, and also in recognition of the fact that the Anti Diet Movement must also be an anti-racist movement because. Is Built on a foundation of racism as you heard in the episode with Sabrina strings that I reposted last week. This week. I wanted to re post another. With a brilliant black thinker and writer who speaks to some of the racial justice issues that are connected to this anti at work. This interviews from three years ago in July of twenty seven team, and it's with amazing writer and body Liberation Activists Sonya, Renee Taylor. Sonia has been instrumental in helping make the eating disorders and body positivity space, more aware of racism at its intersections with Diet Culture and eating disorders for a long time. She's been doing this work for many years I. I heard of her and. And saw her in two thousand fifteen when she was presenting at eating. Disorders Conference and so I want to honor her contribution to this work and to this field and make sure that you all go check out her work. Her website is Sonya. Renee Taylor Dot. com and she has a great book called. The body is not an apology that I. highly recommend reading as well. So in this interview that we did three years ago, we discussed why we need more radical body love in the world how to deal with weight gain and weight stigma while learning intuitive eating, what means stream body positivity get so wrong why understanding oppression and racism and intersecting identities is key to creating a world that's truly body positive and truly liberated how to navigate diet culture as a body acceptance activists how to begin to untangle internalized oppression, and so much more. It's a great conversation. I cannot wait to share it with you in just. Just a moment I'm not going to be answering listener question this week because I want to use this time to share some resources for folks who like me are still learning about anti-racism and working to do better, and that's not everyone listening. There are some folks here who are already so far into the anti-racist work and don't need these resources and are leading the way and I wanna thank you for doing that work. Especially, my black listeners and other listeners of color who've been on the front lines of this antiracism work for so long. So, thank you for your work. And to all my black listeners I wanNA send you empathy and compassion and support for what you're going through in this difficult time and descend solidarity, and to say that black lives matter and I'm with you in whatever way I can be. And for those of you, listening who have the unearned social privilege that comes with being white or white passing in this racist culture I wanNA. Call on you to start and or continue engaging in a practice of anti-racism in whatever way you can, because we truly cannot work for body liberation if we're not working for antiracism and I think on a Taylor does such a great job of explaining that her notion of radical body positivity that you'll hear about in a moment I am by. No means an expert on anti-racism as As I'm sure you can imagine right. I'm someone with white privilege. For the last several years I have been making a conscious effort to learn about anti-racism and to unlearn the racist culture that we're all born into, but you know I realized recently with this latest uprising that my anti-racist efforts had become a little passive had become not as active as I would like them to be and I'll talk more about that in the interview airing next week with Mony Melton because I, think she has some really important perspectives on that. Also I'm a white person with a lifetime of being steeped in this racist culture as so many of us are so I'll probably always be on learning, but I'm committed to making the effort and to listening to and learning from people who know way more about this stuff than I do. So from a perspective of someone who's very much still learning, I wanted to share a few resources that I've found helpful in my anti-racism education. I'm giving some sort of more general racism resources. Because as I'm recording this I don't know where the revolution will be. By the time you hear this episode I don't know what's going to be needed on the grounds. I wanted to just give you a few places to start people. People to follow to learn more get more information on social media and all that stuff so i. a couple of books that I love so you WanNa talk about race bypassed food site gassed Joma Aluko. It's a wonderful starting point a wonderful jumping off point if you are new to antiracism work and she even says like that's what she recommends it for. She wants to be a first step for people, not an end point. an anti-racist by Abram ex. Candy is also a wonderful book and he also says like. Stop reading. My Book. Take that as a starting point and go from there and take use it to take action. Just think that the reading reading of the book is the only

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"renee taylor" Discussed on Food Psych

Food Psych

02:43 min | 1 year ago

"renee taylor" Discussed on Food Psych

"So even if you listened to the podcast on your computer, for example, subscribing on I tunes helps us come up higher in the ratings. So that other people can find us through the health podcast top ratings, and where we've been in the top one hundred at least for the last six months or so and we are often in the top fifty. And that's a really great way that people find out about the podcast. They're actually discovering us through these charts. In fact, you may have come yourself from the podcast charts. So help other people find us and keep us high up in the charts and moving even higher because I would love to drown out some of the very diety voices that are represented in the health podcast charts. And I think it's super cool that this health at every size. Message is getting out there, and is really in the mix of the top podcast in the world that talk about health because this is such an alternative paradigm that not enough people really know about. And so I'm really happy to be bringing this message and spreading. Far and wide all around the world via itunes. Alright. So without any further ado, let's go talk to Sonya Renee Taylor. So tell me about your relationship with food growing up. So I come from a mid west family African American family were from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania and food was a very much a part of our culture or way of being in relationship with one another my mother was a phenomenal cook. And certainly not a healthy cook. There is lots of fried. Greasy buttery deliciousness happening in my house. And there wasn't a lot of talk in my family about like, healthy food. There was the lot more conversation about sort of managing size not getting too big like where I come from a family of big women. And so the work was always about not become into big in. So there was a dieting culture in my family, but it was very crash. Diety if his big airy. Oh, now, we're doing the cabbage water diet. And then the next week. We're having a Meatloaf, slathering him crazy. There was there. I wouldn't say that there was a an experience of balance. It was very sort of either. We are eating whatever we eat. However, we eat or dieting he very all or nothing, very all or nothing, very all or nothing. And did you get on the diet train young? Like, did you start dieting with them? Or was it something like, the adults did this dieting thing, and you sort of know when when my grandmother one period, I lived with my grandmother. My mother didn't diet she was pretty small most of my childhood. She didn't gain weight until she got older, but my grandmother was heavier..

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"renee taylor" Discussed on The Morning Breath

The Morning Breath

01:30 min | 3 years ago

"renee taylor" Discussed on The Morning Breath

"Lee explain the actress renee taylor sylvia fine is a good friend of mine charlie shaughnessy maxwell sheffield is a good friend of mine recently i reconnected with nicole tom maggie sheffield and periodically i speak to everyone but i'm very good friends with charlie and rene per shirt over i psyching love than any fucking love so when i was wearing up and i would go to school in the morning i'm trying to go to bed by like 11 12 and from 10 o'clock to eleven o'clock on nick knight they would play to episodes of friends and then like eleven o'clock news time to go to bed because like the nanny came on then one night i was just like i wanna go to bed so i watched it on any and ever since then i went to bed at midnight every day for the rest of my life it is just the best show h so good it's still plenty she's epic gorgeous and gorgeous and stylish and trying to watch it not available on fox not available on amazon not available on hulu not available on demand literally there's nowhere to watch it i don't have to go to like the dvd store let's not right now it's not right justice for us justice for ferdinand justice i should be able to enjoy a couple episodes you know the song she was working at a bladder shop in rushing green's better boyfriend kidger out of one of those crushing see what she did wherever sheet about she was out on her two another us but yet and that's us regain man he.

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