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Posizionamento, differenziazione e focalizzazione per negozi

Radio Negoziante Pro

10:51 min | 11 months ago

Posizionamento, differenziazione e focalizzazione per negozi

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August 15, 2019: 50 years since Woodstock

5 Things

06:08 min | 2 years ago

August 15, 2019: 50 years since Woodstock

"Hiring is challenging but there's one place you can go. We're hiring is simple and smart. That place is ziprecruiter where growing businesses connect to qualified candidates. It's try it for free at ziprecruiter dot com slash five things ziprecruiter the smartest way to hire it's morning. I'm taylor wilson and this is five things you need to know. Thursday the fifteenth of august twenty nineteen to get you started thursday marks fifty fifty years since woodstock music and art bear the three day three days of peace and music quickly became a mud-soaked mess thanks to heavy raines drug use and overflowing toilets and as rolling stone's david brown told the associated press lots of people were expected to attend but even more showed up the original l. estimate that lying in his co. Organizers had was two hundred thousand people would show up which in itself was a lot <hes> and of course by the end of that weekend that number two hundred thousand thousand tripled so it was unjust the scale alone it was sort of seismic legendary musician. David crosby said that it wasn't about the quantity of people but the quality everybody looks at it is looking at the wrong thing. They're looking at their side because it was monumentally huge and they go wow so take which is not where the truth is what happened. Is that all those people that you saw that picture retreating each other decently for a minute. We were hopeful for a minute. We were not facing the vietnam war for minute. We're not facing losing the kennedys for a minute. Dr king's death wasn't hanging over from minute. We were behaving my decent human beings. That's where the significance the festival left a legacy of music peace and human connection later immortalized in an album and feature film and it put the undeniable power of nineteen sixties counterculture on full display. Dan coats is calling. It quits as director of national intelligence. He'll officially leave his post on thursday. After announcing his resignation around around two weeks ago his departure led president trump to initially nominate congressman john ratcliffe withdrew after democrats and some republicans raise questions about whether he exaggerated his work as a federal prosecutor of terrorism cases. Joseph maguire is currently the acting spy chief with peter hoax through the ambassador to the netherlands ends linked with the permanent position next up the dominican resort. Were an american woman says she was beaten unconscious. His temporarily closing on thursday due to low occupancy nc fifty one year old delaware resident tammy lawrence daily says she was attacked at the majestic elegance punta cana in january. Just started starting lemme just wrapped his hands around my neck and start strangling me right before i went unconscious as i was trying to get away i turned and when i looked down <music> wearing a just elegance logo on his shirt she's now suing majestic resorts for three million dollars for justice and accountability on ability in addition to compensation for what she says or life threatening injuries majestic resort says that it has lost thousands of visitors and stories of american tourists dying or being being injured in the dominican republic made headlines earlier this year the majestic elegance points economy plans to reopen on november seventh prosecutors say that los angeles police officer sir william rodriguez is expected to be arraigned on thursday after being charged with two counts of forcible rape the thirty three year old who was a ten year veteran of the l._a._p._d. Is accused of sexually assaulting a female acquaintance at his home last year during the investigation. The department entered his d._n._a. Into the f._b._i.'s combined dna index system and got not a match for a sexual assault that happened in two thousand fifteen and l._a._p._d. Officials said that they currently only know of the two assaults but will follow the evidence as far as it goes if convicted victor rodriguez could face thirty years to life in prison and last up the little league world series begins on thursday with the caribbean region and the australian region facing off in in south williamsport pennsylvania the ten day baseball tournament brings ten to twelve year old all stars from around the world to the pennsylvania town to compete for a chance at the championship game between the best american team and the best team from the rest of the world last year hawaii beat south korea for the crown and among the many great stories at this year's tournament. Keep your eyes peeled for twelve year.

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Cruise News Briefing - April 7, 2021

Cruise Radio News Briefs

02:23 min | 5 months ago

Cruise News Briefing - April 7, 2021

"In an unexpected development the centers for disease control released a statement late tuesday afternoon indicating that a resumption of cruising might be closer than any of us could have predicted and it seems that this was done in response to a move made by carnival cruise. Line the information recently released by the us centers for disease control and prevention. Cdc does not provide the clarity that we need to cruising jude all to precede carnival brand ambassador john healed. They're only hours after the cruise line announced that they would be cancelling their june sailings at indicated that they might be considering sailing out four imports. A move so far resisted the. Cdc released a statement saying that the agency was committed to working with the cruise industry seaport partners to resume cruising following a face and approach outlined in the conditional sailing order while that sounds pretty much like what the cdc has been saying for months. Second part was definitely unexpected. After indicating that they were committed to working with the industry the statement ended by saying i quote this goal aligns with the desire to resume passenger operations in the united states expressed by many major cruise ship operators in travelers hopefully by mid summer with restricted revenue. Sailings for the first time since the shutdown cd seems to be indicating that we might see cruise ship sailing out of us ports by this summer and following royal caribbeans lead norwegian cruise line announced on tuesday morning that they'll begin sailing outside of the us starting in july with three cruise ships taking a phased in approach to redeployment norwegian. Jade will sail the greek isles from athens starting on july twenty fifth norwegian joy. We'll be sailing seven night. Caribbean cruises from monte. Kobe jamaica starting august seventh and norwegian. Jim will operate seven night. Caribbean sailings from punta cana and the dr. Starting on august fifteenth these sailings are open to vaccinated guests and cruise line. Stocks closed up on tuesday and rose even more in after hours. Trading carnival corporation closed at twenty eight point six zero up two percent real caribbean also up two percent to ninety point seven six editor huijin up four point six percent to thirty one point zero two breaking news and up to the minute industry coverage at cruise radio dot net. I'm doug parker with cruise radio news. The preceding was a production of crews radio for more accurate and dependable. Updates subscribe to our youtube channel or visit crews radio dot net.

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#107: Pornography and Boys Part 2 (with guest Stephen Arterburn)

Parenting Great Kids with Dr. Meg Meeker

40:08 min | 1 year ago

#107: Pornography and Boys Part 2 (with guest Stephen Arterburn)

"There's never been a better time to bake a treat that makes everyone happy and Betty Crocker. Is there to help every time you reach into the cupboard to pull out one of her Brownie cake and Cook? Your mixes friends. I will tell you that I've been using Betty Crocker recipes for a hundred years. No not one hundred probably forty. I love all of her recipes and I have made Betty Crocker cakes and cookie mixes for kids when they were growing up and now I make them for my grandkids. And I will tell you every time I do. They love what I make follow Betty Crocker on Instagram pinterest and facebook and go to Betty Crocker Dot com four thousands of recipe ideas. And when you're treats are out of the oven share what you made with a Hashtag call me Betty Crocker book a stay at the all inclusive hard rock hotel and Casino Punta Cana from July second to July sixth and on July third the kids BOP kids will be performing live in concert followed by a meet and greet your stay will be jam packed with daily activities where kids get to. Mingle with their favorite kids. Bop Kids with Non Stop Dance Parties Pool Parties and more for more information visit. Hard ROCK HOTEL PUNTA CANA DOT COM for thirty plus years. I've seen every type of child grow up instead of giving me what I wanted. She gave me what I needed. Which was truth down that emotions win let truth went? Do your very best and you should have a lot of fun while you do better. You get at something the more fun you're GonNa have something you MOMS and dads are wired with everything you need to be a parent to a great kid. Welcome to parenting great kids. This is episode number one hundred seven and I'm your host Dr Meg meeker today. We're continuing a conversation. I had with author and Speaker. Steve Art Auburn. If you missed part one of that interview you can listen to it on apple podcasts or on my website at meeker parenting dot com. It was fabulous. I strongly encourage you to listen to part one of my interview. Steve is the founder and chairman of new life ministries and host of the number one nationally. Syndicated talk new life live. It's heard and watched by three million people each weekday his bestselling author of books such as healing a choice and every man's battle which is going to be the topic of our discussion today. Steve has degrees from Baylor University and the University of North Texas and he and his family live in Carmel. Indiana as always. I'll share my points to ponder so you can start using them right away and remember parents. Don't just download episodes of click subscribe. Because when you do that you will join my parenting revolution and each new episode will automatically show up in your subscribe list. Also we are on I tunes but the PG K. podcast is also available in the play store and on Stitcher. So no matter where you get your podcast subscribe to day so you won't. Miss Single episode so parents thanks for listening. This is episode number one hundred seven. Stay with us. I want you now. Listen in on a conversation I had with Steve Arbor. I know you're really going to enjoy it. Let's turn the corner and and talk about some positives in some things that that parents can do. Because I'm sure you're used to your audiences or parents Being terrified to talking for thirty minutes and thinking. Gosh there's nothing I can do. You know I've been out there beating the drum two parent teenagers for years about the fact that kids shouldn't be sexually active but we're living in a culture that's pushing pushing pushing and I talk about it from a medical disease standpoint Which by the way kids listen to a little bit? But what they really want to know is psychologically why. It's bad for them when they're sixteen to have you know four partners but many times parents feel you know this is. This is a train. That's left the station my kids on the train. It's going faster and faster in. There isn't a whole lot I can do. I hear of a lot of parents. Tell me you know. My son is in his room on his laptop. Sixteen years old for hours on end He's going through those teen years. I know he wants to isolate. It's okay there's nothing I can do and one of the first rules. I Tell Parents Look. Nobody should be in his room with the door. Shut with a laptop period. Because you know and I tell them pornography jumps out at them. It doesn't just they don't have to go looking at just comes soap water a few things that parents of young boys even preadolescent boys can do to help their sons. A avoid falling into this trap be not respond to it when it jumps in their lap and then see sort of safeguard themselves moving forward. Well let me give you the answer that nobody wants to hear okay. So let's say a mom is listening. Ask Your husband to get help for his pornography problem. Because and if you do that you will be. You have a sixty to sixty five percent. Chance of being right on target Syria. That's that's how many men are using pornography sixty to sixty five percent. That's probably even low. So the first thing is he needs to the the man. Why is the woman the only one concern whereas the GAC? Where's the husband or the ex husband and if it's an ex husband that is not involved with this young man's life you've gotta bring men in to your son's life but the first thing is as adults we get the negative out of the way you know we do a workshop? called every man's battle And we hope guys get rid of it then. We do an intimacy in marriage intensive where we teach couples that have been married thirty years how to be intimate maybe for the first time so first of all get rid of the pornography second. Fix your marriage and having a an intimacy that you're gonNA Brichet now. You have a heart for what you want this child to do and so you can go to that. Fourteen year olds sixteen year old. And say you know what we have. We been too lenient here. We've let you have too much freedom here. We're afraid for you. Here's what happened to us or to me. And so here's what we're GONNA do. We're GONNA have some new restrictions secondly if that child is not in a youth group in a church or in a in some kind of Leadership or whatever kind of Club at school. You've gotta bring in the positive influences into this child's life We wrote every young man's battle. It'll teach this kid. Here's here's not only why this is going to be a really harmful to you and hurt you the rest of your life. But here's a way for you to live in a different way of where you know. It's it's wonderful and there's meaning purpose and all the good things you can experience but I would say you start by taking care of your own problem and then Either preparing your son for every amidst battle or every man's battle. Those are the books that are twenty years. They've been giving. Baresi answers are that they've been looking for one of the things that I found. It's difficult is Getting mothers or fathers to broach the subject. Not just with their kids because it's really hard to get parents to talk to their kids about sex sexuality. Even those kids are being talked to about it ad. Nauseam twenty four seven television so forth. So a how do you get him to do that? And then be. How do you get a wife to approach her husband about the fact that she thinks he's in pornography? Because of you're saying it starts with the parents having a healthy view of sex sexual activity. How do you get them to start those conversations? Well first of all I think. Let's go with the the kids. WanNa put a plug. I didn't write these books but I think at age four There is a set of books or at least one book that you really ought to have as a parent. If you have a newborn you gotta get these books and get ready to use them. The books are the the book that we use with our kids. It's called good pictures bad pictures and I don't know if you've ever heard of that but it's it teaches a child to You know there's a picture on anything is showing other than what you would see at the swimming pool in swimsuit is it helps him to say that is not good for me and to tell somebody about it but it's really. I don't do it justice. But oh I wish I had thought of these myself there so great but the book is entitled. Good pictures bad pictures. That's where you begin. And if you're thinking as soon as my child goes to Elementary School. I'm GONNA prepare them. It's too late so you have to start talking about it. Conceptually very early and Then then you ask about. How does the woman doctor husband? There's this great proverb. The Bible says when you wake wrong because trouble but an open review brings lasting peace. So it's important for you to talk about an say honey. I just heard a radio program or I just read an article and I got to ask you. Are you using pornography or how much are you using pornography are? Do you think our marriage would be better if you quit looking at and I like to use this word better than than Brian. Inappropriate images Because there are a lot of things you wouldn't label his pornography but they're inappropriate but they objectify women. Look if you believe in the metoo movement if you believe in women being treated fairly and equally that they are the you know the crown of creation you need to stand up. Stand against your husband being part of an industry that is degraded and personalized of women. And ask him to be the man that he wants to be because I think even in an atheist probably down inside there's this intrinsic little bit of awareness somewhere C. Says. There's something not right about this appeal to that to the manager married. You know you're absolute right as you were talking. I was thinking back about the Super Bowl. And how our culture responded to J Lo's formats and I think and I re wrote a post about it but everybody applauded her as your fifty and look how hot you are in sexy and they had the pull and she brought her little daughter up there and I felt so sick and because women were coming out say this is women empowerment and I thought if you really believe that. How twisted has your thinking become because this is so degrading to women across? I don't I don't mean to divert but it was astonishing to it shouldn't astonished me it's part of the objectification of women in our society and women have bought into yes. And when you take something that probably has more families looking at it at the same time and you put a dancing coal in the middle of a halftime performance and the gyrations in all that was going on when that is supposed to be. The high of entertainment of in a year for family is going to be sitting there. It shows you how sick more society is how to get that way. Could pornography have anything to do with his part? It's a big piece of the puzzle of how we got into a place where we don't want women to be sexually harassed and yet our society in our culture the humanizes and objectified and essentially is part of a major sexual harassment of women. Well end up the you know the. I don't WanNa say irony of the the the metoo movement but how warped and distorted it. All is because the very woman the women who say I don't. I shouldn't be sexually abused. I shouldn't be looked at as extra optic so and so forth are the very ones out there. Sort of saying men Chimera Chimaera Chimaera. Aren't I hot up stay away? How dare you look that way? So it's it's it's really such an oxymoron parents. I hope you're enjoying this conversation. Was Steve Artem Burn? We need to take a quick break. But don't go anywhere. We'll be right back with more of this conversation. Let's jump act to two parents. 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Whatever it is that they've never felt before it's going to draw them back in there so you said one of the most important things that parents can do is look at their own lives and look at the use or influence of pornography in their own lives Second should the MOM or should the dad be the one to approach the sun about pornography? Or does it matter? Well I think You know if you got a dad. That's probably the best But don't just 'cause dad's not living at home. Don't let that being an excuse to do nothing. But it really is a wonderful when a father can be the person that steps up here and engages his son in a great conversation about this. Because here's the here's the good news once you're able to talk to your child about a about pornography there's nothing you can't talk sexy so yeah so. I just have the conversation leads. Have the conversation well and I think it's important because I do a lot of talking to teenagers about sex and to tell you the truth. I think it's pretty fun because Kids WanNa talk about it. They want questions answered and they feel that their parents are adults out. There are quite uncomfortable talking about it except to say use a condom in your fine. I mean you know. They'll get adults to say that but to go beyond it and say you know emotionally. This is what you can hope for and Sexually. This is what you can hope for. In in a great relationship most of them are not being talked to about that way So in your every young man's battle parents can learn about how to help their sons. Avoid getting into this and then if a parent thinks that his son already is looking at pornography first of all if they think he might be. You're saying he is correct. Well I think so. I think we that we can Assume that this is happening and it's going to be a pretty accurate assumption. There are exceptions. But let's assume it unless intervene as if it is and not not just think. Oh not my child right. Yeah it. Most likely it's so let's act responsibly. Based on that we only have a couple of minutes left but I need to keep picking your brain Steve. Because there's so much incited that I wanNA know and we can only tap into a little bit here. Let's say Steve Artem Burns home and you find out that your fifteen year old son is looking at pornography in his room and has been doing it for several months. How do you handle that? What would what how would you? When would you go to your son? And what would you say to him? Well I would Sit Down and I would say to him Solomon I'm aware that this is what has been happening and It's sad because we've had so many conversations about this but I understand how tempting it is And I'd like you to give me your phone. And so I would take his phone and he would not have a phone and I would I would take his IPAD and he would have to ask me when he could use his but the immediate consequence would be thirty days. You do not have a phone and I would take. I would remove is easy access to this. And that's helping him. The second thing that I would do is I would be calling the counter that I know that works really well with young men and I would say we got some work to do here I did. My best is really committed to this but it wasn't enough and so I need some help so I get him some counseling not to shame him but he needs some tools and he needs a third voice. the other thing is. I'd be talking to the youth pastor saying hey you guys need to be doing a little bit more on this. Oh my Church of Oh. It's amazing what they do for young people. I bet they do. Yeah I would be lamenting a comprehensive plan to help him not fall victim to this in the long term which means don't give him free access Help him have some space here. And then I've gotta start giving him some tools and through accounts in through me and go spill start spending more time with him eyeball to eyeball than I thought that I needed to spend. Those are some things I would do. Oh Steve that warms. My heart warms my heart in about different things. I say the exact same things to parents not necessarily about pornography but about social media and girls. Here's what I get when I say okay. You know your daughters and I had a little girl who Tried to commit suicide actually said that social media contributed to it. Because they were talking about it she had some people who are a bullying her on social media so forth and when I talked with her and her mother after. An said the phone needs to go away I would say ninety nine percent of the time this is response. Mom gave to me in a row sponsor I get from others. I can't do that because that will make her more depressed and she will see me as controlling that cruel yes so let's get her In with the therapist immeidiately immediately. And maybe we need to do some testing on her and see how all of this has come about. And let's maybe we need to do some mother daughter or family therapy. But I'm GonNa tell you something if you're sitting around thinking. Oh counseling really sick people verses. I need to use this thing. That jillions of people think is so helpful and I need to do some repair work here. I mean her left arm wasn't working you and say what do we need to do? Is that a doctor. Is it a physical therapist? Is it medication? What are my options now? My daughter's arm work properly when it comes to her soul and her heart and her spirit. And you don't want to do anything because you're afraid you'll you'll get your more depressed. Hey that's a broken heart. Spirit soul and character. Do the repair work the sooner the better. It's just a phone to my daughter doesn't have a phone she's ten. She's the only ten-year-old I know that doesn't have a phone yeah good for you but my my son You know he knows anything that we find it inappropriate and we check regularly. He's going to be the only thirteen year old without a home. Well I will tell you my husband and I have a great marriage. We work together and has a flip phone. There you go. Yeah everyone I praise you for that. I honor you and him. Because you know what he's not flipping over exactly and he just said. I don't want to go near it. If I get a Victoria secret catalogue in the mailbox. It goes into the trash before it even comes into the home. People may say Oh. That's ridiculous no. It's not ridiculous you know. Even at our age why even allow a little bit of sexual temptation to come in and my husband says all about training is and I know you talk about that in every man's battle Yeah it's it's you. You got to look away. Which is what gentlemen did you bounce but may let me just say this In this final few seconds we've got Even if people call me at one eight hundred new life will help them. We'll get them resources You can call. You can go to new life. Dot Com fine about out about the everyman's bound a workshop or a marriage thing. There's so many things you can do a radio show like you align fly. It's on Sirius. Xm It the one PM Gentleman thirty one you can get it at our website new life dot com. Don't do nothing. That's my message. Don't do nothing get some L. I wish we could clone you. Steve but I know you've done a great job of offering national resources because you're absolutely right if their parents listening right now. Who are concerned about this. Either for their sons were their daughters or their husbands. You can help and there is good help. Yeah we have scary news but the great news is it can be turned around if if a parent is sitting there wondering what we talked about. I at which of your books would you recommend parents reading to help their sons or to help. Prevent it and treat it if you if you'll go to If you'll get a copy of preparing your son that's for about ten years old in it you just read half of it and then if you If you have an older child it's a every young man's battle or every young woman's battle and then then the though book every man's battle that's the twentieth anniversary updated version. It's some I. I mean I read that years and years ago it but it's so wonderful that you know it'll probably just get more and more popular. I wish we had more time. Maybe we can do another interview. I would love it because this is so much on my heart. So much on my heart Steve Archer burden you are just one of the most gifted people. God is using you an incredible ways. I thank God for you that you're out there doing it. And I pray that he would bless you decades and decades more so that you continue this wonderful work on behalf of our kids and on behalf of marriages across the across the country. One more time a website places that people can reach you one eight hundred new life and new life. Thank you Steve. If you keep up the great work now onto my points to ponder one. Don't shame your son. Many parents are shocked to find out what their sons are. Seeing pornography on the Internet is no longer about showing beautiful women in suggestive poses. It involves multiple partners bestiality Sado masochism end more. It demeans women and causes boys to adopt a perverted view of sexual activity and sexuality to Pornography Damages. A boy's ability to have genuine intimacy during a sexual encounter because pornography exploits women. It gives boys a graphic image. Of what sex could look like or should look like and it causes a boy's emotions to be hardened it leads to very serious consequences unhealthy relationships in the future. Pornography gives no innocent recreational pastime. Three pornography affects your son's relationship with you because boys feel shame if they're watching porn they hide it and they pull away from you. They have keep a secret. So if you're a mother your son will not only pull away from you but he will start to demean you in his mind. Alright parents. Let's get I want to hear from you I want to interact with you. You can connect with me on facebook twitter and instagram at MEG MEEKER MD. Or if you have a question send it to ask Meg. Meg MEEKER MD DOT COM. That's asked meg at Meg meeker. Md DOT COM. I'm going to use different names of the centers today because of the sensitive nature of our topic. This first question is from Kathy. Dear doctor may have a lovely six year old daughter ever since she was nine months old. She's done a hip swiveling action at first. She did it as a kind of happy dance when lying on her back and now she's gotten older she's realized it feels good when she's on her belly now she's six and she does it anytime she's lying down we talk about it and she says it feels good. I've told her that I understand but I don't want her to do it because I don't want her getting sore and she says I can't quit the feeling. Will she eventually outgrow this? At what point does it move from normal behavior to more of a problem? I'm also concerned that she may have an. Oc DE issue. She said a few other habits such as saying Woohoo or giving a short scream when we say yes to request for something if it goes her way well Kathy. Your daughter's behavior is really not that atypical. Obviously you know she's masturbating. But I think it's developing into an OCD behavior and I see that snotty uncommonly in girls some kids with OCD focus on hand washing or changing their clothes or playing a certain way over and over and over or maybe to have a feared. They're not apologizing enough so they do it over and over and over oh CD can be treated very successfully and as your daughter gets older she may change her obsession of the choice that she uses to obsess over so at this point. I really wouldn't worry about it too much however there are some very helpful things that you can do. I talk to her doctor about it and ask him or her how to treat. Ocd as she gets older. Tell your doctor that you believe it's become a compulsive behavior because I think it has second. Tell your daughter if she wants to do that. She needs to go into her room. Third when she's doing it. Catcher and distracter interrupt the behavior and tell her what to do instead of that behavior fourth empathize with her feeling. When she says she can't quit it and tell her that her feelings are normal which it sounds like. You're doing but tell her when she feels. She wants to do it to try to do something else instead. You want to break. The habit acknowledged that she feels it. Been say honey. Whenever you feel the stealing I want you to do this instead. So find out what she really likes to do. I want you to color. I want you to draw. I want you to go outside and play. I want you to get your legos. I want you to go get your doll. You know what I'm saying. Train her to do something else when she has the feeling and once she does it over and over and over she will change what she fixate Sawn Five. This will go away so. Don't fret about it but it takes time and she will need some help down the road or maybe even now from a counselor who can retrain her focus and she will overcome this if it's truly. Ocd She's going to struggle with OCD for longtime but she can get control of her OCD. I've seen this over and over my second questions from Julie Dear Dr Meaker. I need guidance on an issue my husband and I are having where their eight year old son. Our Son wants to sleep in our bedroom all the time. He hates bedtime and he always has. I've talked with our pediatrician about it. We've made sure we have a good bedtime routine no screen in the evenings and everything else. We need to do to give him. Good sleep hygiene. He's pretty much an only child and he's running the show unfortunately a Ha- when I asked why he doesn't WanNa sleep in his room. I get different answers today. Said he has no idea why he doesn't want to sleep in his room and sometimes he says he's scared and he get get scary thoughts out of his head as a side note when Tyler sleeps in our room. He's only allowed to sleep on the floor. Good for you. But he will wake in the middle of the night and asked me to lay with him and rub his back. I'm wondering if he can still learn how to self soothe or is it too late and my husband and I need time to ourselves. It's exhausting as he gets older. Should I be cuddling with him less? Julie you're a same situation as many parents first of all believe it or not. I see a lot boys who have difficulty sleeping and one of the most common reasons have difficulty sleeping is because they're watching something on television on the Internet on a video game. That really scares them. And they don't WanNa tell anybody at scares them because they wanna be tough And I see this particularly in fifth sixth grade boys so it may be that. You're tyler seeing something that he's really scared about you need to find out what it is The second thing is it's it's not uncommon for eight year old boys to in their parents from so if he really is afraid you can let him sleep in your room but he can only sleep on the floor and overtime. You WanNa move that sleeping bag or the mattress. Farther and farther away from your bed and overtime he'll get tired of sleeping on the floor and he will start asleep in his bed. Second thing you can do is talk with him about changing up his room. Tell him that you want to either paint his room. You WanNa make it a room. That's very soothing for him. Or what does he like? Does he want to soccer balls Painted on the walls or a border was soccer. Balls or whatever. He's interested in. Try Ask him to help you make his room a soothing in a calm place maybe he needs background noise. Maybe he needs different lighting. Maybe he needs a different pillow. You know what I'm getting to ask him to help you Change up the room into a place. He wants to be third when he asked to come in your bed and cuddle say no. You can't cut. You can go on the floor. You can rub his back and you get right back into bed. But if he gets in the habit of cuddling with you in the middle of the night. It's not gonNA stop until you stop it. One thing you can do to offset that is to increase the amount of affection that he gets during the day. Sit down and read with him. Have Him sit right next to you? Have him read a book to you so you can give him plenty of affection during the day but he doesn't need to get the cuddling at night you can and you should expect him to sleep through the night and to over the next week's sleep in his own room because you're absolutely right. Your bedroom is for you and your husband alone and you need to respect that and your son needs to respect that you can help him with his fears. You can give them enough affection but it can be done during the day five. Talk to him about his fears. Ask Him to draw pictures of what he sees in his mind. Draw pictures and use colors of things that he's afraid of and having him in other words works fears out. How help him take them from his head and put him on paper and finally give us some time? I don't mean a year And maybe not even a few months. Give this some weeks to go away. Reassure him that yes he may be afraid but you are just around the corner you and dad are always there to help him with his fears and he has nothing to be afraid of and finally don't let him run the show. You're in charge. If he thinks he's in charge he'll be very afraid but if he knows that you're in charge you set the rules. You and dad are going to give him security and safety then he'll be less afraid but when he runs the show and he makes rules. He'll be scared parents. You Know I love answering your questions. So keep sending them into me. Email me any question to ask Meg. Meg MEEKER MD DOT COM. I want to thank my guest. Steve Art Auburn for joining me on the show today to find out. More about Steve. You can go to Steve. Ardor BURN DOT COM. You can read a slightest blogs or purchase any of his wonderful books. All of this again can be found. Steve Auburn DOT COM. You can also follow Steve. On facebook and twitter. I hope you've enjoyed this and learned as much as I have by. Talking with Steve Heartburn. Let's recap my points to ponder one. Don't shame your son to pornography damages a -bility to have genuine intimacy and three pornography always affects your son's relationship with you so until next time parents always remember rate. Kids are raised not born. Hey this is bobby producer. Magny Cours Parenting Greg. Kids podcast. Thanks for listening. Because for your dedication to raising great kids doctor. Mex- parenting revolution has grown to over three million downloads head on over to facebook and twitter and follow at Meg Meeker MD and check out. What's new at MEG MEEKER DOT COM? And while you're there sign up for the newsletter to stay updated and get information about giveaways don't forget to share the podcast with other parents subscribed so you won't miss anything and leave us a review so we know how to do it.

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Having A Healthy Mindset

Mommy & Me Not PG

29:52 min | 9 months ago

Having A Healthy Mindset

"Hey guys welcome to mommy and me not. Pg you are here again with victoria and leslie and we are going to get right into it. So let's start with what we did. This past weekend burst. We went tough jersey right and originally we were just going to drop off my check but we were able to see the apartment or a different apartment but seem idea that we saw the model which was absolutely gorgeous. Nine foot ceilings. Majorly big kitchen. lots of storage. Which is my favorite Adorable patio nice size room. Beautiful floors or closet nice closet. Kitchen back splash out. Yeah definitely we got to see the pool area. They have gym the gym. Which is super exciting and also the i guess the courtyard and kind of like what. The dog park was so we got to see the whole thing. Which is really nice definitely made me more excited for you. it's exciting. Then we had did over to philly. Yes bowie let's go back to this apartment signing over your check type of thing. Yes the funniest thing how dressed. Oh i was dressed ready to go to take my pictures so basically looked like i was going to formal ball practically so i kind fell a little silly never wearing makeup which more makeup than i normally do still not even that much but sparkly dress very sparkly heels. Yeah totally look like a weird person coming assign. Blame does very overprepared but made sure to address that so she didn't think i was crazy. Yeah so we can head over to philly and do your senior goal. College graduation right photo picks yes which came out. Amazing thank you. I took a nice bath and champagne photo credits to me. Yes i was able to use a camera. everybody remember. She was wasn't going to be able to do it. So i actually was able to hop right back into using an old school camera which is not that old school but i guess it is today and Not as common though we did some fun things we did. A champagne picture was ridiculous. Dad finished the bottle. Yep yep after. I wasted half of it and the security guard also watched me funny. Thankfully oh yeah splattered all over Sp might it was. It was fun. Yeah definitely never came out absolutely gorgeous. So i'm sure they'll be posted all over and everybody'll be able to see them. Yep and Came back home. How you goals going. You are working on this whole eating differently and exercising. It's going. I wanted to treat myself after are picked or not treat myself. I wanted you to treat me on friday after pictures to sushi and that was robbed for me. You have sushi got a role. Yeah that's not considered sushi. I made myself But it's okay But that was the end of my week so that was the way i was going to celebrate my week. One of eating well and working out extra but it was fine. We still had good food But besides that. I think it's going well still. I think i physically see with my eyes. Progress the scales. The same progress as before that i mentioned so i mean it was only like five days ago. So there's not going to be much of a change that quickly. But i think i'm on a good track for my rest of my seven weeks seven weeks today or no seven weeks tomorrow now. Wouldn't it be nice for it to not be a seven-week goal in life changed goal. Yeah but i was actually thinking about this the other day and i feel like for once in my life. I'm doing this because i want to like. It's not because of something happened. And now i feel the need to work out. Because i want to distract myself or something happened so i feel the need to look better so that someone else can see me from a different point of view. Like i'm really doing this for me. Go in that feels. I really good. And i think right there. That's how it becomes a life. Change not knotty temporary chains right and it's also like easy to make these changes when it's the start of the rest of my life pretty much right definitely. Oh yeah. I can see where something i mean. My change started. Because i was my parents. Were giving us my twenty fifth anniversary gift to punta cana dominican republic. And because of that. That's sort of my goal. I'm like oh. Maybe i should get into shape for us 'cause every for myself because we were going away alone together and i wanted to kind of do something like that. So that's how. I started my journey and then it starts to feel good and you start to look good and you're like wow you know you start reading information out there and learning. Oh maybe this will benefit me this way and i could be healthier and all these changes started because of that one thing so i mean you could see that happening and then you know if you can sustain and make it a lifestyle change. That's amazing and i'm i'm three years now. So yeah it's amazing. Do you think or like how do you think that affected your mental state of being. While it's strange the thing. I come to realize most recently about mental state. Is that you working out. And i work out. I have some pretty intense workout certain days. And you're putting your body under high levels of stress when you're working out it has definitely made me deal with the other. Life's life stress regular life stress. So much better. It's just kind of made me not not really good worked up like i'm just able to deal with life stress better because i stress myself and working out. It definitely puts me in a better mood. You know you. Let's all that energy. How and then. Because i just adapted to dealing with stress throughout my workouts able to adapt in life. I'm able to deal with regular daily stress on a different level. Nothing really bothers me. It takes a lot to push me over the edge. I mean. I don't remember the last time i did well every once in a while. You get me there but Yeah it definitely has helped me tremendously. And do you think working out helped you almost get through quarantine because you see all these people dealing with the entire year of twenty twenty differently so that helped or oh yeah definitely. It gave me something different to focus on definitely helped me put me in a better state of mind. I'm seeing so many people struggle all ages Depression seems to be a big one. i see a lot especially with older people. You know when you're hitting like you're fifty sixty seventies watching people to struggle and so sad and if you could kind of put that energy into something else. I think it makes a big difference whether it's emmy and it doesn't have to be exercise. It could be anything some sort of passion if it's reading books or if it's writing or if it's you know cooking or anything But yeah it has helped me tremendously. How about you which part like what about your mental health. How do you feel that quarantine has affected it. I think at the beginning of quarantine so as march. I mean i was. I was really upset to come home because my internship was ending so that was just sad. Because i was working so hard from like the summer before with my other internship and then mike dogs. I kept myself busy so then the fact that it i. It kinda seemed like a joke. This whole pandemic dow's like wait. A minim embassy sent home then it was like that kind of sucked So upset with that. And then i was dealing with like my own personal battles not personal. Ooh yeah whatever was selected upon me But then till they come home and we started working out at five. Am rats right. Yeah what you were doing. So i decided to join that was. It was fun to look back on in a moment. I think we were enjoying it but like it's hilarious. I would just come downstairs half asleep. No contacts and can't see anything in pajamas and socks now in our living room right. There was no home gym at the time it was just we opened up deliver room. We kept the weights upstairs. We we kept our matt's upstairs. It was over assume. And yeah you're on the sidelines. I was taking class. Just went along which was a lot of fun. Yeah and then. I would shower and go back to ben. I was too early. Spent my day. Of course yes. Or was he was four. What time was that. It might have been fifty. Four forty five might have been selected as horrified. No had to be like the five o'clock or vibe thirty class. oh man it was. That was rough but it was fun. So then i think As the summer went on or like as spring into summer then. I started my internship from home. So that definitely helped. Yeah and but still throughout it. I think you had ups and downs like you were ready to turn twenty one time and it was like there was just no like it. Felt like your life was rob from you. You had moments were. I was so proud of you dealing with and then you'd have used as you'd have a complete meltdown remember I was gonna say something. I forget now. Yeah but then some restarted. you had your internship. Yeah and then. I think from there not that life is normal by all means but it just feels it feels like i'm kinda getting used to it at this point which is like all right so i feel like i'm fine so i'm a bit impulsive so when i go or when i go through certain ups and downs my immediate reaction is to shop or do whatever it is and the apartment kinda felt like that but this time it was more planned had a goal and i think those types of things helped me mentally okay so when i like like getting a dog that helped me because it gave me something that i had to focus on and really put my time in heart into My internships those types of things helped me because once again same idea so i feel like by now. I'm fine enough. Yeah and i'm also noticing since we've talked about boys so much on here might as well continue the more or the less ice isocyanate myself with them. The happier am well. That's good and it's like this over it. Yeah it's kind of nice to be happy like on your own and not dependent on whether a boy is going to be the one that's going to bring you up or down And then if you can get to a point in life where the material things don't do it. Don't do it for you. That would be huge. Don't get me wrong. I've been guilty myself. That in the past way past but now like i don't know i guess i throw myself into things that are i want to say just very beneficial to me naturally in the sense of like okay the things that are going to benefit my body and my mind my soul. You know food. Yeah i enjoy food. I love to cook. And that i throw myself into that. That's like my therapy. So yeah they try to find things that aren't going to empty out my pockets. Basically yeah i get that They noticed at first when you start talking to someone. It's exciting like oh it's like a new boy you get to talk to them whatever. It is ends up being disappointment after about a week. So it's like a waste of time so it's just you're creating these highs and lows like by your own choice basically because i very easily could be like no. I don't need to talk to you. But i always feel the need to give people a chance. But she's you do know that relationships are all highs and lows regardless. Well yeah but the highs and lows don't need to happen in week one like that's pathetic. Oh yeah no with twenty five years or twenty twenty twenty eight twenty six. Whatever amount of years married now. We still have highs and lows. And but i'm certainly not dependent on. You became this way. Didn't you yeah being dependent. Oh yeah not being dependent not pay independent and becoming independent deaths. It's a long time you'll get there is your so yeah. I think i've become more independent. It's just the matter of really being more. I'm so picky. So i don't know how this happens being even more picky. I guess of hawaii allowed to talk to me because it just. I don't know like i'm so picky. But at the same time scillies crappy people around me man specifically not girls. Oh gosh friends But yeah it's crazy. Yeah we'll hopefully your world is going to be opened up and you'll meet a lot of different people and then you could be more picky. Yes yeah and for the purpose of keeping this as being like a time capsule for us we do have the first co vaccines coming this week. Not to us but other people in the us so hopefully that will lead us to a more normal life and the next year. So and maybe. I can meet people and i can go out to pars and dinner and have dates and do things that i feel like a normal twenty one year old. Should be doing yeah. Hopefully we'll be there. I hope so. Have a look at even your uncles dating. Yeah and he does like he. You know he's online yell at those people are more much her ready like i went on like tinder. Something now like the people's their bios are just horrific like my ager. It just a joke. I keep saying you need somebody a little older in your life. Yeah you're like an old lead. Yeah you're born in old soul all right so we're one week away from christmas. Officially it's crazy and we had a huge massive storm. Which means i guess. We'll have a white christmas. Because i'm sure it won't melt anytime soon and cleaning. It was horrendous. Well how did it start out or so. Yesterday i dad decided to let charlie in through a different door right correct. Yep so now. Charlie doesn't come in the normal door right because he was traumatized he hasn't really been in snow. That deep or really dealt with that sort of thing so now because he won't Come up the stairs and dad kind of programmed him a different way. Charlie gets very stuck very quickly and to how expects to be brought in either picked up and brought in or through the side garage door which isn't huge issue and then so at five thirty in the morning when there is about probably two feet of snow is that yeah probably we had or charlie was let out. Okay wait mind you. I wanted to sleep so bad. It was like. I want to get a good night's rest. I think i got my eight hours either. Six and a half hours. I hear her talking to charlie. Because batory talks charlie as if he's a human so she's saying charlie but why don't you come in charlie. All you have to do is come up stairs. What's wrong with you charlie. Like he's going to answer her. So there's some weird relationship going on between her. And charlie if he's not human he doesn't speak back but she speaks to him as if he's going to and i'm trying to sleep and this is all i'm hearing and then all of a sudden i'm like that's it i give up. She's not going she's just going on and on. I think she's doing it so that i wake up. Because she's not out there shoveling a pathway for him and so there was no shovel easily accessible. Okay so at five thirty in the morning. i'm waking up. I have a routine so she's now messing with my routine which is usually week up. Have my two shots of espresso. Embed very calmly before. I start my day. That's out the window i'm outside. I'm grabbing a shovel shoveling pathway. So the dog could go out. The dog runs right through the snow with teddy. Didn't really need the pathway and is gone for quite a while and then i'm thinking okay. We're good we're perfectly in good shape. He's going to do business. He's gotten used to the snow. He won't come in so now she's standing there saying but charlie. Why won't you come in charlie. So now i have to go back outside pizza dog who stuck in the middle of into feet of snow. That isn't shoveled. Okay and carry him in. Yes put him down to hang out and Sh i think batori goes to start her day on the treadmill. I have my copy. Coffee together starts our day on the treadmill. She starts her day on the treadmill. I'm like right when she's done. I can do my thing. So i'm like all right. I'll hang out and i'll do like i'll just walk around the house. Listless kinda like warm off. Get a little exercise. We but when you walk around the house you're very into your phone like i walk by you and you want to notice me that's right and it's like my like morning walk because i can't go outside and go for a walk because the treating all though i should but anyway i'm walking around the house doing labs and all of a sudden i feel nice. Good sh as walking and i stepped and she yells. Oh yeah stepped in a pile of charlie poop because he go outside and do his business like he should've because he was worried about poop of come out of him it's up to his by. He poops on flowers yet but like snows different. Yes that must be cold. That was a great start to my warning. It was just not a good morning no sleep victoria blabbering on with me shoveling a pathway for them. Picking him up stepping in poop and then going out there to clean snow again them. Yeah but that's it so and last thing before we go into christmas is it was the last day of my last college internship. Yup so that was cool. So you're done with work you're done with school and you get relax for a moment To breed. yeah you think so not really. I don't think so but we're gonna athlete. it's nice. yeah it'll be taken as vacation you didn't you know you haven't had one though you did for your birthday. Oh well yeah. But like i haven't had more than time during quarantine everyone else but at least this is like this is eight. Yeah really real kishan. No more school ever again this right all right but how are we going to celebrate christmas. Well no last year last year. We did it unconventional right Although i didn't even put up a tree which was weird depressing. It was not. We had fun so what we did was we. We ended up. We have tristan talking in the background apologies. We ended up not putting up a tree having an awesome dinner me. You went dad since we just us and went to the movies And had an amazing breakfast eggs benedict experience of that. Wow ago it was a year ago and also it's crazy like a year ago. We didn't know that kobe would happen. Yeah that's crazy and it's almost like a year. Yeah wow so this year. Can't do the movie thing do anything going out. We do have a tree. A flocked tree beautiful flock tree. That pretoria made me by but no gifts. But that's okay we're gonna have to stock you up with your apartment anyway. So they'll be your gifts. Yes that's exciting. I to say about that but we need to find a new type of way to kind of and celebrate christmas unconventionally again. I won't see food but no one else does. Because we just had that whole seafood fees. When eric was here. Yeah but i can go for it every day. I also can go for sushi. Sins like i said last week we can do that. We can make. Sushi has to be like really good though not basic like i don't know i don't know the seaweed salad or even get seaweed. I don't know that's a really good question. Where do you get it. And how do you make it interesting. We'll probably easy to make it taste pretty basic. You know what's on it like. It's not a flavor there is you know it's not like a lemon no. I'm sure there's soy oil sesame oil. Yeah def sesame seeds. Yeah so we'll have to come up with a new way to celebrate because it's Yeah there's no other people to celebrate with which is fine and then this weekend tryin celebrate graduation kind of i guess gamma grandpa so see if we do that. Yeah i have a nice little dinner see if we can get there with two feet of snow the whole ten feet down the street Oh isn't it nice having a grandparent so close it is yeah Yeah it's fun playing. Go there whenever a lot of people. Don't get that right and for those of you. That don't know. They do not celebrate christmas because of their religion. So it's not like we can say oh we'll celebrate with them and have a small gathering since they're in our circle and we do spend time with them so it'll just be the three of us doing something different maybe we'll include erik on bass time if he's available. Yeah figure something out every dinner even though he's on a different time zone and we can eat altogether. he'll be jealous the good food. Oh yeah all right. But we're not doing like cookies or anything. Either christmas cookies. Who's gonna get them all. Yeah i guess we could do like whatever you were saying. I don't know what they're called. What are they called turbo. Right those good laser cookies. Yeah i just always wanted to do it for the challenge. Promise i wanna to challenge myself making all these things and then it's like who eats them what we did. Make very good pies yesterday. Yes so christina. Dossier talked about her. We've talked about her before her cakes. That's right we did we. So we've talked about before her cakes so this time. We tried her pies. Almost this entire cookbook of hers And we made a cinnamon bun pie. Which was incredible and then we made something called crack pie which is what she originally became famous for and yes crack because it's addicting end like definitely a stomach ache. Oh yeah. I had the tiniest piece and i immediately fell. It was lose a lot bigger butter. Yeah well the the milk powder isn't even that bad because it's like nonfat milk powder. It's the egg yolks all my gun. Two sticks of butter in one no into known to pie. Okay let's not it wasn't it was like a lotta you kind of gross if you think about it but tasted amazing. Oh yeah absolutely. And we ate those trying not to eat those after yesterday. Diet well rounded diet. A lifestyle but disciplined. Yeah but it was. It was a good tree. I don't even think. I could eat it all the time. If i wanted i would die. Oh yeah like yeah. I did not feel well. Thought i was gonna throw up this morning lovely but it was a good treat for sure definitely and that. So we're going to try. Maybe make those cookies. I'd like to do some thing challenging. I don't know. I don't know what's challenging. Anyone have any suggestions something. They want us to make them. We'll send it to you this point. Nothing else to do. I can't even go out to dinner. I know so that's thing but everytime lately we've been going out to dinner and it's disappointing. We could have made this better. It's never yes. It's not good anymore. What else could we do what something to do right now. There's not you can't even play games with three people. Board games like three people. It's so lean. Li used to play games on like that Was xbox connector and stuff louisville. There's three people so no-one getting get a break. You all go back to back. I don't know card games. i can't really play. It's stupid with three people. All we do is workout and sleep and eat and watch movies watch movies. Oh yes the movie. Prom on net flicks. Everyone should watch. That was good. That was super good. It had really good actors. It was a musical and david who likes to watch not super musical in the sense that there's no words no of course right there was just singing But you know. The man loves his like guns in rambo type of movies so for us to get him to watch out for him to say it's really good and for him to cry tried. It was good. It's worth the watch worth the watcher. Everyone definitely have anything. Oh the queen's gambit that was awesome to now is super good. I love that. You watched it twice. And i watched the Probably movie three times. Yeah the queen's gambit was really intense definitely you would not think chest movie would be back good or show series whatever it is. Yeah but you know good and also it was kind of. Yeah it was good because you know how to play to not play chess. Know maybe that's what we should do for christmas. Oh to teach you how to play chess. Yeah we could do that okay. let's do it. Let's see if you got the skill. Yeah are we Eric used to play tennis club in elementary school. Remember pictures from that. Yeah i definitely don't have the patience for it. But i'll try now. You have to make mind work in different ways. Yeah i love to go okay. do you play that. Yeah used to way back. You don't play with someone you can play with yourself trying to do a joint thing. What else could we do for or like. Yeah there's just nothing to do anymore. Running out of tv shows running out of movies. Running can play games running out of places to go because there is nowhere to go right. We're kinda like on shut down again. Sorta kind of boring. It's cold very old. Can't go on walks can't go on. Hikes can't even walk through the woods if he wanted to. So we'll just figure out some good food figure out how we're going to celebrate our christmas together play some games teach you how to play chess and celebrate the three of us make the best of it as we always have been. Yes and then we can maybe reflect a little bit on twenty twenty. Maybe that'll be next week's topic. Reflect on twenty twenty what we expect for twenty twenty one. Maybe some goals more goals. It's more goals. All we do is set goals around here. Maybe we'll have dad come back 'cause he'll be around for christmas. Yeah maybe you could tell. Some stories has a good story to tell. Definitely the life of a trucker. Yes maybe we'll have something new next week to share maybe not anymore lakes getting boring Won't make better. You will find a way. Well thank you for listening to this episode. Although it was short be ready for next week. Thank you bye bye.

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House Rules For Easier Mornings: Episode 328

The Mom Hour

49:36 min | 2 weeks ago

House Rules For Easier Mornings: Episode 328

"Hi i'm sarah. And i'm megan. We're two moms with eight kids between us from little too grown we're in different areas of the country and in different stages of life. But we both know that motherhood real moms share tips and encouragement and remind you that. It's really all going to be okay. We're not experts where parents who've been there. We're not perfect for real. Welcome to the mom. Our everyone and welcome to episode three twenty eight of the mom. Our i am. Sarah powers here with meghan francis. Hey meghan sarah so. It's the last tuesday of the month. It's the very end of august. And that means something around here these days because we have a series that were calling house rules for fill in the blink and they haven't been landing on the last tuesday of the month. So you know how much i like regular cadence around something. Do you wanna know something funny. I had you know what we were doing them. No i just thought it was totally random. I had no idea that we were doing them. The last i didn't know that it's okay. You do every day even in your business and your life is no more or less meaningful for that knowledge but it is kind of nice that it's it's worked out that way and then now we're renting with it so the house rules episodes have landed on the last tuesday of the month. Is that now a house rule. Data's our house rules the mom our house rule until arbitrarily. They have to take their unless we decide that we want them to land somewhere else because we get to decide where the moms where the bombs of this operation right or we decided. Yeah exactly or we decide. We're done with this series. Which is you know sometimes happens. When you've had a podcast for six and a half years you know you start these little series and the new like they ebb and flow. But these have been really fun. And if you're new around here if this is your first house rules episode this is really a crowd sourced community generated experience. And we love that because you all are the ones with a bunch of little kids right now and our kids are getting older and there's so much wisdom in our community and so many smart moms out there making life easier on themselves and a house rule is basically a shortcut or a shorthand or maybe a hacker or maybe a mantra. But it's something that kind of solves a problem or makes an otherwise stressful thing. A little less stressful and the beauty is that house. Rules are very it to your family. They can very arbitrary and they're often solving a problem that you have in your house. Maybe someone else has in their house but not everybody. This is a buffet. You take what works for you and you leave the rest. 'em meghan your job and my job are just to highlight the you know the brilliance of our community. Which i love. Yeah this feels like really light lifting for us. Because you're so smart. And so. I just want to encourage if anyone out. There has listened to a few of these that hasn't been involved in them yet. Jump in with your thoughts and ideas because we love sharing them like there's even if we still had little kids and we were both in that face. There's still things we would not know that we because ruth smart you come up with really great ideas and they're not always going to be the same ideas we'd have in some of these rules are not things i would ever have put into play in my own home. But that doesn't mean they can't appreciate how wise and clever and just like how they solve a problem. Maybe that mom had exactly. It's the ingenuity and the resourcefulness. So ingenuity fun to celebrate and of course today the topic is mornings and specifically making mornings easier because they are sometimes not so easy and megan. I we don't even. We can't even add personal color about mornings because your kids are not in school. Yet as as we record this And mine literally had their second morning of school today. So i in terms of the twenty twenty one fall like i don't know what our mornings look like it so i do. I do have a memory. I wrote an essay or a column or something. I remember when. I had a newspaper column when my kids were little i do. I actually didn't know you. Then but i didn't know right. Yeah i didn't even have clara yet. But i remember writing about my kids trying to get. That was when i had four little boys. Two of whom were school aged trying to get them out the door in the morning. And i called isaac ever forget i said he was like a turtle on psychedelics. That's all you need to think about it. Like just i had a very clear memory of him standing at a wall like with his face three inches from the wall staring at the wall. While i'm reading around like a maniac trying to get everyone out the door so i haven't been there for a while but i do remember what that's like. Yeah yeah okay well. We have lots of genius house rules to unveil to you to shine the light on. So we're gonna take a break and we will dive in when we get back. Okay friends the kids are back in school. And i'm back to walking outdoors for exercise. But it's still really warm here so i am loving my adore active sneakers from our sponsor vanek. I wear them without socks and they're really breathable and super cute. Of course so you could say. I have an extra extra spring in my step these days. Okay i also got the door sneakers. And i'm basically living in them. These days but here in michigan. I've gotta keep one eye on the forecast because fall is right around the corner with boots and booties sneakers. Slides and heels. 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We're going to dive in and as is very common with advice about making mornings better. It doesn't start the morning of it starts the night before this is not groundbreaking. Should not be ground breaking news to anyone. We've all heard this advice And actually like a third of the rules that were submitted and this time they came in via instagram. Were about prepping the night before to make a smoother morning tomorrow. So that's all you take away from this turns out there's a reason that is often given advice because it is it's good. Let me just quickly leaning on last week's episode about energy patterns Just to quickly say that. I feel like you're miles. May vary on the how effective your prep the night before would be. You might actually want to the afternoon before Because i'm just thinking about people who like you've said you're pretty useless after seven o'clock or something sarah so you probably wouldn't wanna put yourself in a position of doing a lot of decision making in the evening right. Yeah yeah yeah but you might also find that you are like me and you have more energy in the evening and this is like an amazing way for you to get in front of the morning when you have less right and i would add to that to the whole doing things the night before relies on your ability to enforce that i in my house i can see a slippery slope where i say that lunches need to be packed the night before i can say that the backpack in folders need to be lined up the night before. But if i don't enforce that. And i'm a pretty good boundary enforcer with my kids but if i don't it's kinda on me when in the morning we're scrambling around and that i would say that's true of most house rules like you gotta pick the ones you can stick to because otherwise it's very confusing for your kids to have all these house rules that nobody is actually following and i think time is that more true than in the morning so if it doesn't feel like it's serving you to line everything up the night before. There's no need to do it but if but if you do it do it i guess. There's there's my and wisdom so okay so on that note. I want to choose my very favorite out of this list. And that is ashley who sounds like a real hard. But on this. But i love it. Says i refuse all caps to sign any permission slips reading logs or whatever else needs apparent signature in the morning. It may sound harsh. What my kids know to ask the night or day before mornings or too chaotic to be hunting around for a pen that may or may not work and also just disrupting your flow. That's my addition. Like just you've got a million other things. Maybe you've got a baby who's like you're you're trying to get dressed in the lesson need to worry about it. Is that so. I just want to share that. I had to kind of my own version of that that i didn't actually intend to set as a house. Robot accidentally became one when my kids got older and that was that if they wanted me to sign something in the morning they had to bring it to me with the pen and a booker folder. Oh that's so while. I was still in bed like they had to do it. Were i even got out of bed. So we're talking like we're like older kids in middle schoolers and they had to turn my light on for me so like they had to come in first thing and they had to present me with all of the supplies to make it happen. That would never work with a second grader. but it would work with a seventh grader. So ashley i'm so on board with what you're saying here like you just can't be responsible for that first thing in the morning there's too much else going on but i would also say that if they're like kids who were maybe getting up a little earlier than you anyway because they have a really early bus or whatever you can create like it can be required to come to you. Yes with the with the implements. It reminds me of like when you watch the west wing or anything about president and they have to come. They have come to the president because he's sleeping the night but they bring like the the adviser and like the expert and the thing that he's got a sign in the phone and they just they bring it all to him so you're like the reigning monarch and like like royalty shows like they come literally come to your bed in the middle of the night and you just like sit up with your nightcap on and assume the position get at your little writing desk like your little app desk and you you get your quill. And so that's kind of how i always saw myself minus the nightcap in the quill well i also actually think pets so genius and i also love anytime. A mom can declare a personal policy so like her policy is i'm sorry children. I don't sign things in the morning. You're not punishing the children and you're setting a that really only about you and if you stick to that they will learn that they have to do it the day before. They have to bring the pen on a similar note. Sarah had a very simple rule that i feel like i could have. I could've used this one and it has to do with choosing things like choosing what you want for breakfast. What you want for lunch choosing what shoes you wanna wear if you wanna choice in whatever those items are it has to be chosen the night before if you don't choose the night before and it's the morning it's fine no big deal but guess what. It's mom's choice so children get to choose if they choose the day before. Mom gets to choose if it's in the morning that is so simple to me and what i love. It's not really punitive. There's no children who are going to be harmed in the in the enforcing of this rule. It's very very simple. If it's important to you that you have this sandwich. cut this way. Put in this bento box. Then let's do that the night before. Otherwise it must not be that important to you and i will do it for you. I will choose in the morning and it's also such just. It's so obvious. In terms of time management. We don't have time for those choices in the morning. So i love that. Well error. And i'd like you said a boundary and i think that it it really reminds me of something that will serve them very well in work and in other things in the future which is the old adage that your lack of planning is not my emergency so how many emergencies do moms like fires. Do moms running around run around putting out. That aren't are fires that someone else created those fires because they didn't plan. Was it really that important to them. So we're making something that's not really important to them super important to us by prioritizing it when really if it's important to them to choose or to have you sign something or whatever else it is right then they can also be part of the solution so i don't think it'll take too many times of holding that boundary for the kids to learn. Either they care or they don't and that's their choice. They don't have to care but if they do. You can't care more for them than they care for themselves. It's so beautiful division of responsibility. And i'm so on board for it So some of the the prep ahead rules were even about the weekend. And so i can see this being really helpful for big and busy and Potentially like two parent working outside the home families. So cassie said that breakfast lunches and outfits are actually chosen for the week on sunday and then she said the fewer decisions that are made in the morning the better so it's the same idea but it doesn't have to be just the night before if you feel like you're just like we could prep food for the whole week on a sunday you can. You can Do your future self favor and teach kids to do that. Prep on the weekend and then just fewer choices in the morning. So i love that. Yeah okay so moving onto rules that were more about getting dressed and getting hair done and teeth brush so we got a ton of good ones All in this vein about getting physically ready in the morning and we talked about lane close out the night before and a lot of people talked about getting getting dressed or even getting your shoes on getting all the way ready before referee or before like the next thing so megan. Why don't you take it away with a couple of your favorites. Yeah so. I just want to point out. When i'm reading these tips. The first thing that comes to mind as wow there is so much activity happening in a normal in your typical family getting ready for whatever. They're doing that day daycare school work like there are multiple trips to be made two bathrooms. There may be two floors involved like upstairs. Bedrooms bathrooms downstairs. There's lots of different clothing. Items that have to be dealt with and then you've got kids with like different personalities and abilities to manage their own time so i just want to acknowledge like reading. These tips really bringing it home. Like what a circus it truly is. It's a lot right. So laura says in her family. The kids have to come down to breakfast with socks on. I love that. But i'll tell you why in a second and teeth brushed and they're sent right back up if it isn't done so sarah how many times in your household have kids shown up. You know maybe maybe dressed from the waist up. Everything looks great. Maybe even their closed right and they're eating and everything seems good can see the backpacks packed. You think you've got time and then you're k. Time to go and then you look down at their feet and there's no socks on and then magically no socks can be found right so like socks are like the lynch pin to the whole deal. There's no socks. The whole operation pauses if screeches to a halt so i love that because the sox really without socccer is no. There's really no progress. So i loved it. Honestly laura had a enacted that when my kids were smaller. They probably would have left with mismatched socks much often but we are not going to talk about that right now or bad breath. Whatever they were doing. I don't know so then. She says after breakfast they can just head right out the door also and this is a tip coming right from our own hearts. They wear their tomorrow clothes to bed the night before nope. Pj's jason our house. And that is something. I didn't always do that with school. Aged kids who were wearing jeans and things to school but in the summer that was always like a big thing even if the kids were going to camp. They slept in the clothes air. We're gonna wear the next day and as she says it eliminates so much foot-dragging so many opportunities for distraction and dispute in the mornings. Now i will say. Sometimes i would have my kids go to bed in their underwear and shirts that they were gonna wear the next day and they just put their genes or khakis on in the morning so depending how. Your kids actually dress for school. Possibly them to bed in their school closed wouldn't work. But i have no problem with clean kids in clean clothes getting into a clean bed and rolling out clean the next day and just down. All they gotta do is find their socks just fine. The socks people just put on the socks. My gosh of it Okay i have to discuss this one. Carol this is another. this is another one. That is such a good boundary for mom so for her nine year old. She says i will do your hair if you come to me with the brushes and the elastic so there we go with the implements before eight. Am otherwise you have to do it yourself. So again you find. Do you find the the parameters are like the way that it works for you and you are happy to help and if it's after eight. Am or you. Don't come with the implements. Then you can do it yourself. So i loved that one. It's kind of like yeah. It's kind of lake. Come with ear fountain pen. Yes i ask ten in the intern. Decide gradually by candle late. My oil lamp. I will say that hair. We had a lot of house rules about hair. And it's probably we start a thread in the facebook group or something my girls or my long haired children who happened to be girls. I should say because one keeps her hair quite short they. They're low maintenance with hair. Like we just didn't do a lot of hairstyles. They don't care about me helping with hair. And what's funny. Is i love to do here. I love only tales and some french braids and some half up and it's just never been a big part of our morning routine because they've either wanted to wear it down. Keep it short. And so i will. Yeah i mean it's hair is not a thing for us in. It's weird 'cause they have three children with hair. Well i i also have children with hair and i would say that i really thought my daughter would want me to do a lot more with her hair and she really has resisted me doing with her. I kind of had an almost like the opposite of what carols suggesting and like i had to be more proactive about. Not letting her do her own hair. so again it's like your your family is is your family and maybe going to be a little different like that's why all these rules are so adaptable whatever's going on for you absolutely and just a common theme from that whole like the whole getting yourself physically ready. I would say the vast majority of house rules. We got said something. Like you can have breakfast after you are fully ready for the day and i will say we did that in our house as well Because eating is important in fact we did an entire episode about breakfast recently that we can link to But it is very hard to rush the getting ready in the finding of the socks after breakfast and and vice versa. You can always like take half a bagel in the car on the bus or something. So i think that's a that's a general consensus among our community so well. Let's talk a little bit about morning screen time because this was another hot topic that we got a lot of house rules and tips about and a lot of different variations but definitely limits or delaying the screens until certain things were done. So i don't know. Do you wanna shout out a couple meghan or give some general commentary. Well i think that kind of what. I'm reading a lot of like no screen time until like no phones until you get dressed to your bathroom stuff and eat on that comes from. I believe bohana. I hope i'm pronouncing that correctly. Or leah says no screen time until after breakfast that way. She can drink coffee in peace. I love that. I wanna flip that around really quick to say in my household. I remember and you know because my kids are older screen. Time looked different when they were little. It was more like putting the television. On for cartoons. Or whatever. I actually found that to be better leading up to breakfast and then turning it off so my rule was always no screen time after breakfast because After breakfast was when we had to get serious getting out the door. And i would find that if if i allowed them to drift toward the screen after breakfast then it was just a complete like downhill like it would just dissolve the morning. I just kind of fall apart. But sometimes i would sort of us. Screen time is a gentle entry into the day keeping in mind. None of my kids were super eager beavers to be up in the morning and i liked to be able to have them sitting up awake with their eyes open. Maybe holding a bank year. Like i dunno snuggling a teddy on the on the sofa but meat and not have to be like on my a. Game right away. So i feel like you can flip it one way or the other. I totally think i was going to ask you. Because you're you're pretty relaxed about Screen rules and that's what you've shared on the podcast. How has this played out with teenagers with phones. Do you have any teenagers. Who are like walking around in the morning like you said a turtle on psychedelics. Only the the iphone version of that. Like have you ever had to be like dude. You're gonna miss your bus if you don't like or have you ever had video game morning video games be a problem or is it just sort of case by case so no. Interestingly that has not been an issue in my house. And i think it's because Well i think it's partly because my kids are very efficient with their morning time. They're not early risers there. Early enough risers. They're just they're like very functionally. They get exactly as early as they need to and no earlier so they know when they get up. There's no time to waste and there's no time to be lost so i have never seen any of them. Try to play a game or sing in the morning before school. It's more like how much time can i give myself to walk into my house with. My harris clean is it needs to be depending on the age of the you know that may vary or whatever right they. They kind of just budget their time very efficiently in the morning. It'd be more likely at night. That i'd have to shut it down so i could totally see it being a problem. It's just in my house the way that we are it has not been no. I love that okay. Well we just have to talk about this next section in that. This is a way to use technology to your advantage in the morning so like so. Many people were saying no screens till after breakfast or we don't do screens at all monday. Through friday in the morning. And then there were some very smart ways to use things like alexa or google or alarms or timers to move things along. And i'm laughing because i was this person. We have sonos in our house and sonos. You can have regular songs that come on or a playlist. That comes on at a certain time of day and totally. Did this when my kids were like. I'm going to say one in preschool or into an elementary school or maybe even earlier than that and it worked for a time and this was melle mel. Who had the idea to have alexa play a certain song that means it's time for breakfast and then another song means it's time to get shoes on and i mean you can set all this up and i love it. It's so awesome that we can use technology to do this. But i have a funny story that after a while. Whatever song that came on that meant it was like that. You'd like five minutes left and then we had to get in. The car wasn't even like super urgent. And it just read my sweet one who has trouble with like transitions and doesn't like things to end ended up being like a basically panic attack every morning and i was like okay. We're done with blake. The the morning playlist musical cues to move us along. But i think the technology is so smart and i am so glad people are using these smart speakers in the smart way. Well can i date myself here. yeah. I'm just going to talk about college really quick. Several decades ago for me Janna was my roommate. My sister jonah and We had at the time was high technology. We had a cassette alarm clock. Nice wow and i know so. You got to choose the song we're gonna wake up to you and we had it set to play pop up the jams. Pump it up while the streets and i don't know if you know this song it was i don't know probably from nineteen ninety two or three and so now when i hear that song which i don't hear it that often but it's got a varied like recognizable hook like. It's just really recognizable. If i hear that like at the grocery store i have an immediate flashback to waking up earlier than i wanted to for college classes and like that panicky feeling of like I gotta get moving. It's both a great feeling and also it's like an association. I will literally never shake. It's been twenty five years so gosh that is so funny. Well i'm actually a big fan of this. And i bet there are lots of families using this by doing it five or six or seven years ago and the technologies even gotten so much better so i think could be really fun to choose the playlists and choose the songs and use music and technology to move. Move your life along in the morning. So there's like there's nothing you can't do now with that analogy and you can really. You could automate your life to a degree that you could have it like the music you wanna hear for every phase of your day. I think that's awesome. I wish i had that. I wish i hadn't been hump up jams. I probably would have chosen something very very different. I'm just cassette. We had nights time that we're in a hotel room together. I'm going to set our own alarm. Watch me i'll probably sit up out of a dead sleep straight up like what biology again. I'm not ready for the final. Gosh all right. Well let's take a break and when we come back we've got some more house rules that help with the breakfast routine so be right back sarah. It's that time of year again back to school back to routine back to whatever good for you habits that we might have let slide during the summer i am so here for this meghan and our sponsor ritual makes taking care of yourself so easy. Rituals multivitamins are clean vegan friendly and formulated with high quality nutrients in bioavailable forms. Your body can actually use. I love that with ritual. I don't have to worry about sugars. gmo's major allergens synthetic fillers or artificial colorants just nine key nutrients that are really easy to take. Yeah ritual. vitamins are taken in just two small capsules a day that go down really easily. And there's a mint tab and each bottle to combat that vichy aftertaste. You may have experienced with other multivitamins. Plus i love. How pretty they look on my bedside table ritual vitamins. 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Have our breakfast advice but didn't have really like the groundbreaking there. Well you know but it's more than just like the nutrition and what to serve. You also got like you got to get everybody out the door in the morning. So i have a funny house rule for my own house that developed since we've moved into this house in the last year We have this chair. I don't know if you remember when when you visited but it was a hand me down recliner that was given to us. It was on its way to goodwill from a family friend and we had so little furniture that we took it and it's gone from it was actually in good shape. Then it's now it's so you know how you have a piece of furniture in your house that just grosses you out. There's nothing wrong with the chair. It's just the kids. Like they lay all over it and they put on it and it is really smells like dirty children so anyway. That's the chair. The gross chair will live there. Until i have something else to put their but for now it's just like it's just there and they come out they wander out in the morning especially read allegra the older too and they'll climb into this recliner and the climate all the way back and they're just like they're in that still not totally awake phase and they'll be like i'm hungry and i made i. I have a new rule. I was like. I'd happy to feed you breakfast. Talked in that episode. A couple of weeks ago that i. I'm a pretty good short order. Cook in the morning. I don't mind helping popping toast in scrambling eggs like it's not that at all. I'm happy to serve breakfast. But the arbitrary rule in our house is that you can only request breakfast when sitting upright at the kitchen counter and you have to specifically ask for a certain type of food so you cannot and the ugly chairs only like four feet from the kitchen counter. It's right there but it's the way they it was like so rude to me. I mean they didn't mean to be rude but it felt so like just rude to lay back and be like i want breakfast. I'm hungry and so. And so. I will say i will say now. They'll still do it. And i'll say i'm sorry i don't take breakfast orders from the ugly chair. You need to be sitting upright account owner. I don't i cannot hear breakfast. Requests when given from the ugly chair. Make when you make those like i dunno demands or requests or whatever like i'm just thinking of the ones about remake quill and my lap desk or like you i will not take demands from the ugly chair. I just wonder like what kinds of messed up. Richer or like movies. This our characters could wind up being in the future because it makes the sound capricious. Yes like petting tiny dog. And saying. i'm sorry. But will at the same time then lounging in a chair like lifting their feet so you can vacuum under them going mums z. Z. dear you know. It's the same like nobody wants to feel taken advantage of. Nobody wants to feel unappreciated. So yeah i'd love boundaries. I just kind of makes me laugh. thinking though. And so they'll they'll slink over and they'll sit in the counter chair and then the the the second part of the rule is you have to ask me for like mom. Could you make me a couple pieces of toaster mom. Like what cereal do we have. It's the general i'm hungry. Please solve my problem. That doesn't feel so good to me. And then the fact that it was from the recliner with their feet up was like nope we are. We are setting boundaries. So that's arbitrary rule in sarah's house you may not make breakfast requests from the ugly chair and it has to be specific but we did get some other breakfast house rules from listeners. Okay i want to share one of those. But i just want to tell you that like just the that almost triggered something in me you saying like the i'm hungry but not having a specific requests as kids get older. I think that gets worse and worse. Lake so that is something that my kids have not gotten better time. In fact i think it gets worse until they're like old enough teenagers that they just take the bull by the horns and do it themselves and so this in solidarity like there's nothing worse than a twelve year old. Who like you sit there and you give them seventeen options and they don't really want any of them it's so maddening and some very decisive little kids will not be able to decide yes. Let's like the expect that you are in their head and you know what they want and like. Please solve this problem of indecision for me. Why cannot yes well along those lines. One of my favorite from our community. One of the favourite tips came in was ariel. Who said there is only two options. There are only two options for cereal at a time. I love that. Because i used to be very much a serial purchaser. I'm not so much anymore. But i used to have. I used to be someone who would buy multiple kinds of cereal just to make sure all cereal potential serial needs were covered and then the kids would sit there again like like the turtle on psychedelic staring at the array of cereals being lagoon new. So if you just give them two options it's either What would those peanut butter bumpers or checks. Rice checks whatever. It's only honey. Bunches of or a special k. It's all one or the other they only have to. It's amazing how quickly they can decide. I love that too. Speaking of cereal amber said in their house they do cinnamon toast crunch fridays and try to eat healthier breakfast the rest of the week. I forget what what other episode but this is very much a page out of my book which is treats and asking for treaty. Cereal as my kids would call it treaty. Cereal it's like a trigger for me to always be negotiating asking for it. So i'm just a big fan of something that feels celebratory because they cinnamon toast crunch friday and you made it. Also you don't have to have the conversation. Monday through thursday. So i love that and then we had. We had a lot of continued either decide the night before decide the weekend before prep the night before so it's grab in go so just a continuation for breakfast on that like. Do yourself a favor and figure it out before seven. Am general theme. So so sarah would treaty. Cereal be something one would eat in bed while signing treaties yes quilt pen. Really into this idea of doing a lot of business in bed. Mississippi human brings me anything. That's what that's the missing piece. I needs to be lying in bed with my lap by oak lap. Desk at the ready. And then my my servants the brain me my treaty. Cereal and my assistance need to bring me treaties. Okay then the an oil them. I mean we'll not to get too personal here but you have been sharing more about your special man friends. So i presume that on some warnings. There's actually another adult who can bring you. I don't know hot tea or assistance to into his own. He's very regimented in the mornings bomber. They'll make my tea. But i think that in that having him service me would feel like like indulging my laziness way too much. Maybe i can. Maybe i could get. Maybe we could get him there. I don't know he's like up. Adam like out the door like up by six forty five kind of person so i would almost feel bad doing that. Okay well that's it's you're compatible in many other ways so we'll we'll just let that i just need. I need an assistant. i just need a chambermaid. Yesterday deal shaeber made nobody. You see to travel back in time. A few hundred years later paid right isn't that'd be my the person who dresses me and stuff. Yes you're on your anna your or your yes. I've lost all of my gossips. And things like that as well okay. We're getting way off track here but you see what we're going for here right. Yes it turns out we can be really productive. If if given if handed our permission slips on a platter okay. Well let's finish this up by talking about physically getting out the door and we did get a lot of great house rules about how to like. You know that final push rages like you described socks and the it seems like everything's going well and then magically there are tears and meltdowns and things that need to happen so i have to shout out our friend kelsey from the girl. Next door podcast. Kelsey wharton. who who. There's the way she wrote. This was so funny but you cannot start a project ask for something to eat. Asked me about something controversial it. Can we play minecraft today. Can we have ice cream tonight. After we start putting shoes on to walk out the door she said why did they wait until the very last minute to ask about these things so now they know that any requests are non starters at that time so once the shoes are on. We're not talking about anything except getting out the door. And i can relate to that one. I can relate to that and i so wish that as a younger mom i had actually made that a rule and not just a reaction so it's like a totally separate conversation have at some point sarah but one of the things that i'm learning from all your mom's while doing these episodes is how powerful a rule can be in giving you control and not make it feel like you're constantly reacting to the same triggers over and over and so that would always be a big one from you know. I'm not answering those questions. And i think it would. It would often come down to me saying things like are you serious. Are you seriously bringing us up right now. Or don't you see that. We're on our way out the door like me kind of expecting kids to put themselves in. My shoes can't do that their children they're not inoperable they're not capable of doing that. But then i was like reacting to them on their level as though they were as though they were capable of reading my mind or i was capable of reading there is really the rule would have fixed it so saying like no there will be no projects. No there will be no asking something controversial. You're not changing any rules. We're not gonna like come up with a new plan for anything. We're not doing anything. Besides what we have to do right right. But i never made it a rule i wish i had. Yes yeah i. I totally agree. How about katie. Who says she has to do. These are two separate rules and they're both great. One is more of that. They repeat the mantra shoes mask. Water bottle shoes mask water. A thousand she says when the lights get turned off. It's time for a potty and getting out the door so again those those small visual triggers that. Like if you do things this is a very pre school age thing because in preschool classrooms. They're just very ritualistic and kindergarten classroom. So if you can build those soft routine markers into your morning. I think it's really helpful for but the best part is she said also. We don't ask me questions when she's backing out of the driveway. Okay so honestly. That is another one on my list of things that i wish. I had made a rule. But i think it was more of a reaction like i be like stopped talking to me and backing out. I can't i can only concentrate. It's kind of like the rule that my kids learn pretty fast that they could never have an interior light on the car after dark. Oh like if we were driving down the highway and they wanted to have a light unto read. I would always say no because i can't releasing the highway and i got that from my parents. They would always say that from my parents. You can't see. The old person is and i was like even when i was thirty i was already seeing how hard it is to distinguish between what's happening inside your car and outside of your car if the lights on so they just knew not to ask and if i had said like haiti we don't ask mommy questions when she's backing out of the driveway. I think it just would have been filed away in that same category instead i. It was always being irritable like guys. I'm really trying to look. I can't if you're talking to me. I can't see i'm gonna run someone over and it was an irritation an agitation on my part and a reaction that i maybe could've saved could have spared myself. Yeah so this backing out of the driveway. Thing is making me realize that we have a lot of listeners. Doing the school bus thing. And i have never. My kids have never taken a school bus to school. We've always had driving or carpooling but they're going in a car with somebody but you did a lot of walking to school and buses. So where do you have any memories from the way back time machine meghan about getting kids out the door when it was because i would imagine like bus stop time. It doesn't wait for like weights. Lonzo docs maria's thing. Here's the thing about bus times. Which here's what. I love about my taking the bus and why. I'm actually kind of hoping to get clara Back on the bus. This year is because kids learn pretty quick when a driver is not gonna wait for them and they will rise to the occasion if they know. There's no now that's not to say they've never missed the bus. Of course they all have missed the bus. A a timer too but the consequences are much harder on them and much more noticeable than if it's like everyday mums nagging because there one or two minutes late but still they end up getting to school without much disruption to their routine if they miss the bus. That's a big deal. And so i have actually found bus riding to solve problems. Sometimes when i say that my most to make kids are pretty good again themselves out the door in the morning. Those are the ones who got used to drive the bus. The bus doesn't wait and so they figure it out because who wants to be the kid who's coming into school. And i would even say like if you missed the bus. Now you're at the back of the line. I'm not gonna over extend myself to get to school on time at the expense of other people's schedules or something. I have to get done or someone. You know the walker or the one who. I have to drive because they live too close for the bus. Or whatever you get literally d- you're a merited like you're down the line. You might end up at school. Twenty minutes late and kids don't want that they don't really mind being one or two minutes late. i've noticed. Yeah nobody wants to be consistently twenty minutes late so i find the bus to be. Actually a great motivator. It's kind of like that external rule that you don't even have to make. Yes you're not the bad guy. It's just the bus the time bustles. Yeah and there's less gray area about what it means to leave the house like in my in my family we have this acronym a. s. which means rear end in the seat But a different word. And it's like that's the time that you're but needs to be in the seat of the car backing out. We use it not just for school but we use it for like everything that we're leaving for because the time we leave put it using giant air quotes is like well at the time. You're putting your shoes on and using the bathroom. Is that the time where you're looking for your permission slip that maybe mom didn't sign because you brought it to her too late but like you have to be really clear so a bus. A bus time is very very clear. You know what's happening if the bus time is seven forty seven like you know what's happening at that time and i think it can be a lot harder to like agree on a definition of what time we leave the house when it's you and your minivan and your kids and you know it's seven fifty ish and then all of a sudden everyone's yelling so yeah i like a lot of. I truly believe that people who are chronically late. It's you know. People get a bad rap for being disrespectful or crafts knitting. And i actually think what it is is an for me at least when i've been chronically late periods of my life. It's over optimism. About how much i can fit into minutes Or or like me having an incomplete idea of what it takes to get the job done so like i think because i can you know. Be dressed and ready to go at seven fifty. That means i'm in the car going seven fifty and forget that it takes another minute and a half to get in the car. Start the car back out of my driveway. You know maybe run back in for me perso- for whatever like whatever the thing is there's just not giving yourself enough margin which really has nothing to do with it. It's just like it's poor planning but it's more poor planning on like a like a minute by minute. Detail level and not much like the big picture level slept. It's j. yeah exactly. It's like losing track so that actually stepped me up perfectly for the last rule. I'm gonna share from ashland and this mom after my own heart. Because she said and i had the exact same memory of my kids at this exact age she says my kids are three and five and this is exactly when i figured that. That's exactly the age. I figured this out. She said i've actually found the less time in the last time i have in the morning for daycare and school. The better when. I'm to ahead of schedule. They start playing. And don't leave. When it's time. And i would suggest or i would say that i would also start getting overconfident And start wasting time or like lee being a little leisurely about things. If i was too far ahead of the april so she says i get myself breakfast and lunch is fully prepared before waking them up straight to dressing eating teeth than out the door leaving. No time for procrastinating. I think this also depends on what time your kids naturally get up and how motivated they are in the morning but i think it's important to in mind that at certain ages your kids are not an asset in the morning. I mean they're a drain. They're drawing from your energy and productivity and ability to get things done. So i always felt like the less time they were part of the picture. The better yes like the less. They had to do with anything in the morning. You know the faster. It all came together right. Sometimes they'd be like kind of sitting in the back of the car looking a little days. Like how do they get here here but that meant. I could get everything the done that i needed to get done and not worry about the procrastination so i really feel like sometimes. There's this idea if you just get up super early. It's gonna like work out better because then they'll have plenty of time. And i would argue that sometimes. You don't want them to have more time because then they're like draining your time. Yes i totally agree. And i had very early risers and often are one of our biggest pain. Points was the kids having too much time and then having to figure out like okay. Well before you can play. You've got to do this or like now. You're overdoing legos. But did you brush your teeth. And it's like it's having having white space between those must. Do's is not always an asset. You said so. Yeah agree agree. But from the other end where i've never really had that ability to let my kids sleep because they're always up so those good one okay. Well we got a lot of great ideas. I love this. I'm excited because on friday this week. It's our voices interview episode for september. And we're going to be talking with two of our new contributors on the block side. But they're gonna be popping over to the podcast. Ashley is a mom of two and one of her. Kids has pretty significant special needs. That require her help in the morning. she's also a fulltime kindergarten teacher. So two little kids with special needs and heading into face a classroom. Full of kinder's we're going to be talking to her about their morning routine in their family as well as lisa. Who is a single mom. Fulltime working single mom with four kids so the i think the idea here is just to get a peak in the life of other people's morning so we're gonna keep going. Keep talking about this idea of the morning hustle. Maybe we'll get some more house rules from ashley and lisa and certainly kind of get a peek at what it's like with you know a different families that look different ways in the morning i love it. I am looking forward to that and listening to that and again. Just thanks to our community for having these amazing ideas you all are so clever and resourceful and so much on genuity ingenuity. Is this one of those words. I don't know how to i ingenuity an ingenue would be like the gorilla. Peter show who's like young So anyway that's a conversation for another day. My inability to decide if i wanna use like the michigan accent or some made up classy accent that But either way we will talk to you all soon. We'll talk to you soon.

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Mike Won't Take the Free Vacation

Mojo In The Morning

14:42 min | 6 months ago

Mike Won't Take the Free Vacation

"Is hoping that shannon ellen was going to get this This text around but there doesn't look like that they wanna talk. They keep bumping our call but as rita thin. 'cause this is pretty wild to the last hour. We did a great topic. I thought it was an awesome topic. Shannon we were talking about you didn't realize until they took their clothes off eight one zero tax inside didn't realize until he took his shirt off that he tattooed my name on his back. We had only been dating two weeks. Yes exactly i'm sorry. I wasn't prepared for that when we get there. You go right there you you crazy crazy thing to be more crazy bit. Actually he's now. It might be love. That is love. You don't even you don't even like say. hey. I really like you so much. I think i'm gonna put your name on my back. I tell friends were when i'm going to eat something. You know what i mean. Yeah it sounds like a person who makes really thought out rational decisions. Yeah really thinking it through. Exactly all right it's mojo in the morning show. Let's begin the second half of the show so this person must be so bad that mike says he won't even go on a free vacation with them free trip with them look. I'm very lucky to have friends at all. I know that. I know that. I'm a bit much at times. I know. I know that i fully understand that. So the friends that i do have Ungrateful four And there's a lot them that like we'll just pop out of the woodwork. That i haven't talked to in a long time. Like i got a buddy name. Because he remind him and his wife both remind me that they never listen we nevertheless and so i'll talk about. I don't care tyler. Amanda and they live up north and they asked me to go on a trip to to colorado. Why our whole family to go on a trip to colorado gonna drive. I know they're going to their car. They'll pay for the hotel. They'll or the airbnb they'll pay for. All we gotta pay for gas in and like the stuff we're going to do there and this doesn't sound that bad. I don't know but they're the worst human beings in the entire and they're obviously not listeners. No no no no. They told me they tell me every time. Oh we don't listen right. Oh we don't we don't listen and that but that's not why you don't like them. I'm guessing there's other reasons. E oh no i don't know i don't care about that yeah That's what i'm just. Why i'm okay with saying their name and stuff No they are the most say says. I'm judging them. On the the most judgmental human beings in the entire world in the entire world. And then what they'll do is they'll talk about people behind their back and then literally goldline be super. Nice to them like ridiculous. If you just don't like somebody you just don't like somebody and you just leave it at that They they use their kids and do this weird competitive thing with my kids so like when our kids hang out like it wasn't like this when we first i worked with him in a factor here in grand rapids. That's how i know him. And then he moved up north and it was never liked us when we first out but now he's like competitive with his kids and and it's like over the top like Like if my kid like when our kids play with it what would they play in the other day Oh it was guess who we're paying guests who came. It's a phenomenal game. And it turned into like this ridiculous battle between the two of them. And i'm like okay. This is weird. I don't wanna do this anymore. Like this is not fun. And i can't imagine literally spending an entire. I don't know how long it takes to drive to colorado but entire road trip to colorado. You can already tell. It's not going to be a fun vacation. it's stressful. No no no no in their one. Uppers i just i can. I have their phone number. Because i'd like to go for it. Yeah yeah it is interesting mike. I've learned over the years that sometimes the people that you most expect would be the greatest to go on trips with ten to sometimes not be the greatest go on trips with like if you do like family vacations and stuff and it's usually like you know your kids are friends and stuff and then the people that you least expect. You're like oh. Wow these guys are great like we went. We went to punta cana on on a school trip unusual for gonna use this example in there. Were some people there that i was like. I said chelsea. I go. I would not even go to dinner with them in rochester hills. But yet i'd go on a vacation with them because they were the greatest vacation with and then there are some people that i saw there that i thought. Oh they're really cool people like him. I'd love to go on vacation with them. And they were like the people that had twenty eight thousand bags and you know they once that that you know took forever to get ready at night and stuff like that how do you how do you know then like because that's another thing i've never gone on a family vacation island era. Think oh okay. But i don't know but no i know i think mike he's got a it right. You guys think that or no see to me. How often do you hang out with. These people not very not very often because they live up north. So this is like a yeah. Yeah you're you're already feeling like anxious about it and like in your gut that you don't want to do it. It's not worth your like your use your vacation days and not have a good time. Yup yeah you know. Yeah yeah. I mean and you can't once you go on one of these trips like you can't just separate from them right like you have to spend some time fake being sick in tonight. I'm with you. I would feel obligated if they're paying for everything to do everything they wanna do. Then you're you're in kind of this weird space of wanting to go off and do your own thing. I wouldn't airbnb with another another family. That i didn't know very well like i would stay in. I would go but staying up my own hotel room. Remember like that. So i have my own privacy or is the brits say privacy diabetics and privacy and one shot. I'm trying i'm trying to expect. I'm trying to expand my vocabulary. But but no mike i like. That's the thing that you gotta do but if you want a cheap vacation and you're also thinking to yourself you know he's got to suck it up. I don't know but turn more stressed that's true. You need a vacation for the from vacation. What's up calvin. Hey good morning. Hey what's happened with you I have three friends are all married. And they all wanted me to go on vacation with them and he went to california and all the wives like setup itineraries like play by play every single day. Like every hour for us to do stuff and i got sick of it. I like the second day and without telling them. I just flew to miami. You laugh left vacation vacation. I can't do it. But i went to miami and and and through my booty around over south beach you know you know what's interesting. Is that going away with friends like that like you you you you see the you see you see the worst people in the best of people you know. I mean i felt like. I felt like there chaperoning like a middle school field trips. Yeah dot telling you what to do at all times. What did they do when you laughed. Like what happened after that they were they gotta bet but i was like you guys are kind of taking the fun out of the whole vacation because you shouldn't have to plan everything play by play when you just relax you have a good time you're nailing it on the head. I mean this. This is when my sister and my whole family wanted vacation together and it just wasn't enjoyable because it was like every planned everything to be together and time to the minute and you just couldn't relax and you couldn't make chance your plans or just do something with your own family for five minutes. It was a it was no no way no. Do you know that we've had it. Mike where we've gone away with other families and then the kids start fighting with each other. Our and the adults are getting along and having fun but the kids aren't getting along and then the kids don't wanna to do things with each other in because kids will team up on each other. There's multiple families And then it just causes for a pain in the ass because you're trying to get everybody like each other and it's like we're all on vacation or you look over at the kids table like if you're at a restaurant and everybody's on their phones not even talking to each other because they all are so pissed at each other but have you ever had to leave because the kids didn't get along. Oh yeah not leave vacation but leave like a dinner or something like that and just say oh you know what. I'm not feeling like yet the fake that stuff right. 'cause like when said that their kids are they're making their kids competitive like really really competitive. I want to be competitive but like all the time. Yeah ed a fun like hey. This is playing guests who come on. Let's with jill out a little bit. It's not that big of a deal And she just keep pushing it and pushing it like. It's fun it times but it's just it's too much and you're right. It's not a vacation then. Lisa wants to say something to what's up. Lisa how are you good. I i went on a similar vacation With a couple of friends of ours and same thing. They're like oh we'll pay for it just pay for. That's what they will totally hold it over your head They will back cab. You just like oh yeah mike. When application they didn't pay for anything. I can just see it as a as a no-go didn't even think of that holding over my head the whole time i. He's never done that but he's not that's the thing is i've never gone on a family vacation with other families. I got done it with my family. Other family friends and their family and stuff. I've never done that before. So i've i've never experienced any of it. We we did that. Spike thing where we took the family away and did like what's by. And i realized how much i hated my family when we did. We did that north trip. You guys it was it was people were fighting with each other and it's too much family for too long. You need to their enjoy. Them in smaller doses. It was just awful. It was so much drama and it would have been so much better if you know we decided to to you know. Just visit each other's homes because then at least you're gonna leave and go back go home afterwards but we all decided to stay in one particular home together. I think it's proximity. I think i really do think the hotel thing is is the best idea is the if you go in with these guys. Let them have their airbnb guys. Stay in a nice hotel close. Yeah you don't think that's gonna come on now you say to them. Say listen i I a lot. Yeah say my wife. Allie takes really john norma's duties and she's very and she's she's very self conscious about the whole trip back as your tummy. Okay what are you talking that. Tell you guys. So we went for cooperstown. We did the trip to cooperstown and we stayed with other people and i had the worst diarrhea the entire time we were there and chelsea kept saying chelsea gibson. It smells out other rome like it. Smell like she because we had our own room and we had. We had a bathroom in our room and she said you could smell duty all over the drought self conscious. I was with other moms there. You know what. I mean like the all smell it can. You don't even have the warning to like quick at your car and go down to the local starbucks or something to do or cooperstown. We're yeah we're wherever that is new york and there is nothing around like for for miles from where the house was that we were staying ex. We stayed kind of a little off the beaten pat. But you're right though. It's like if i had to go poop outside. It's near impossible. Kathleen what's up. Kathleen hi mojo. I always get nervous. Thirteen calling you guys night. Kathleen comfortable after duty. Yeah yeah. I do you guys every morning on my way to work. Thank you for listening. What's going on anyway. While we we were best friends. Well we still are. Thank god My husband and his best friend got in a fight on our last day on vacation. Twenty years we've been friends with these people but then you go on vacation and things happen you just. You don't like you said you don't realize how people are little like quirks and everything until you go on vacation right. Yeah so We were fine the whole trip. In fact our friends are their sons are really good friends with our daughter so they were all getting along. But it's my husband and in front and gotten a huge ball outside at universal studios on our last day memory of the vacation is this big. Didn't talk all the way home when the you know we did. The plane ride home. No talking i got them to make up like four months later but we will never vacation again with know our friends and you just it was like little fights about where you wanted to go out to eat or this or that. I mean it was just stupid stuff and look it's crazy. I wanna start a outward group in a whole campaign against group vacations with family and friends because your pa- smaller groups are nicer. Strangers are nice. But when you're getting together with people you already know too. Well the house there you're going to get in fights. Hold on a second. Poor sara sara. What's up while family trip planned for gatlinburg the same thing in a april With my family. But i'm like excited about it because it's in the mountains so you can go anywhere like a lot of whiskey down there to start a fight. Now it'd be fine. You'll sarah that is funny. So you're sitting there listening to all of this and the the negatives of this and you're thinking oh my god maybe i should rethink. Did you buy the insurance. Here's where it all starts. It all starts with this sara. Where do you guys want to eat. Have a great time by to care.

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La Merc y otras historias  Barceloneando 67

Podcast RadioViajera

29:32 min | 1 year ago

La Merc y otras historias Barceloneando 67

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235 | Cmo eliminar el spam en WordPress para siempre

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19:55 min | 1 year ago

235 | Cmo eliminar el spam en WordPress para siempre

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St. Barth, Turks & Caicos, Dominican Republic: Bucket List: Heidi Larusso : 244 (Replay)

Mom Inspired Show with Amber Sandberg

43:59 min | 3 months ago

St. Barth, Turks & Caicos, Dominican Republic: Bucket List: Heidi Larusso : 244 (Replay)

"You're listening to the mom inspired show episode two hundred and forty four with heidi larusso. Welcome to the moms buried show. I'm your host amber sandberg and this shows created inspire encourage and add a little extra frontier day he guys. I'm super excited for this replay with heidi the rousseau. I did this interview last year. Because i wanted to find. Now where can people go during. Cova people didn't quite know where they could go. And so i wanted heidi to come on to share with us some great options and now that the world is opening up. These options are still amazing. To go to and i know people are trying to figure out. Where do i go. I have no idea and let me tell you if you haven't used a travel advisor before this is the time to start doing it. You guys the countries all have different roles so make your life easier and get a travel advisor to help you so if you need my help and you want to figure out where you wanna go next. You can email me at amber sandberg s. a. n. d. b. e. r. g. at h k luxury travel. Or if you follow me on instagram at mom inspired living demi semi questions will get you going on your next trip and if you have any questions about certain locations. I would be more than happy to help you so again. This is the time to reach out to the travel advisers and have them help you as the world opens back up again but today what we're gonna be talking about our three locations so we're talking about dominican republic but are going to be talking about not a typical all inclusive. It is a luxury property. And then we're talking about turks and caicos. Okay so the same properties that i talked about in my episode on turksancacoes says we'll give you highlight if you're looking into turks and caicos which i all i would. I recommend to all of you guys. You need to go to keiko's it needs to be on your bucket list. You will never see more beautiful turquoise water than there then go and listen to that it's to episodes prior to this and i just went there in may so i can help you with all your questions that you may have and then the last location that we're gonna talk about on. This episode is saint bars. So if you're looking for a smaller property that's more your jam than you really want to hear what heidi has the same what property she mentions so i hope you guys are getting excited about the world opening back up again and traveling again. This is a very exciting time. It just makes me happy to see everyone traveling again. So reach out to me if you need how. Here's the thing it's free to use me. I get paid by the vendor or the wholesalers. So really is a win win. So i hope you guys really get inspired by some of these locations and properties that we talk about today and again feel free to reach out to me to ask any questions he heidi thank you so much for coming on the show today Thanks for having me amber. Nice to hear your voice again. yes i know. it's so good to talk to you So i start off every show with an icebreaker on travel since i am a travel agent I do love asking all my guess. What their favorite vacation spot is why. And this can be with or without kids. Okay i would have to say. Paris peres has a special place in my heart predominantly. It's the city of lights. It's romantic it's got fantastic shopping. But mostly i love. I love getting lost in paris. I love not having any predominant plan in place and just hitting the streets and walking Either on cobblestone or seeing some amazing sites To museums having lunch at a cafe with a glass of rosa. Those are my favorite things to do. And i can go back to paris every single time and feel a new happiness for being there. Great place i love. Been there so just you describing. It sounds amazing. Where some places that you would recommend staying in paris will actually i. I actually work with two properties in paris antastic properties and they're both pretty different so The hotel area. The folkets is right in the eighth at arrondissement Right on the sean studies. A you're literally on the george. Thank and the shaun sleazy. Your views are of the from the property. Beautiful beautiful hotel amazing accommodations really super spacious rooms But if you're looking for a different experience. I work with teak property in the first adirondacks men which is right by the move it's called the rook and it's a small boutique. Property thirty eight accommodations really really cool vibe. Very casual five star elegance. Love that property super special gem. Yeah that sounds amazing. I mean i. I hope that europe opens sooner than later. I are dying to get back to europe or to go to europe so that just sounds so good so i am too so i. You know the last time that we were together. Yeah i was. I was getting ready to leave for a trip to italy ireland. Yeah and you didn't get to go. It was so bad. I know but i will. Yes you know and we were. It was the so it was man. Was it the end of february. Is that yeah so that was before we really knew how this was all going to look. We still had faith that things are going to happen in in march. Because you're so hoping that you would go so yeah Hopefully you get to go to italy sooner than then later. And i'm going to have you share with the listeners. Your name where you live in. How many kids and their ages and then we're going to jump into how you got to where you are today okay. So my name's heidi larusso. I live in kennel on new jersey. Which is an area in northern new jersey. I have two boys. They're twins they are going to be sixteen years old next month so i can't believe i already have sixteen year old ways. Yeah twins. I knew i knew you had to didn't realize twins. Wow and now. they're both going to be sixteen yup. Yup they're getting big fast so times are a little different here. I mean things change when they become teenagers. Horace in driving. Yeah exactly that's common. Ooh yeah okay so jump into a little bit of your background and catch us up to where you are today and what you do for a living. Sure so. I guess way back in one thousand nine hundred ninety seven. I started selling ads for a magazine. Called travel agent magazine and i had never been in the travel industry before it always green and i was fresh out of college But it was an awesome please for me to begin my because being in sales it with a weekly publication. So i was constantly closing issues and i was able to work with all different. Facets facets of the industry so i was calling on hotels. I was calling on airlines. I was calling on amtrak. I was calling on tour operators from all different types of countries and it really gave me a good ground and a good basis for this industry and learn so so much not only about the industry but also about sales and how to work with people so it was. It was a great experience and then i moved on to selling for consumer magazines but also stayed in the travel segment. Because it's kind of a unique niche in the sales arena. And when when magazines would hear that. I was familiar with those contacts. They would want me to take over that facet of the business. So i was still calling on travel and then in two thousand and four. I had my twin boys. And at that point i decided i was at a place in my career where it was time to take a break. I wanted to stay home with the boys. I wanted to be there. I wanted to take them to their music classes and gymboree and just experience my boys because that time flies so quickly so i did that and i stayed home for about eight years but then you know how their schedules get really busy and school becomes busier for them. I started to kind of feel like you know what it's time for me to have something for me again. I need my brain to work. And i needed to have an activity for myself. Yes and so. I started feeling like i needed to go back to work. But i didn't know how because it was like my kids are eight years old. I can't just leave still want to be around. Yep So i was i was like how am i going to do this. And it was funny. How things just happen for a reason. I was at the gym one day. And i started talking to this woman who was in the travel industry and i was like wow so used to be in the travel industry and we started talking and she happened to know one of the people that i used to work for So at that time she said to me. No there's a maternity leave position opening up at my company and it's only temporary. It's for three months and it's going to be part time. Would you be interested in it. And i was like you know what kind of is an ideal situation for me to dip my toe back into the work world to see if i can swing this than how it works for my kids and my family so i took it but you know what i never left. That's so cool. So yeah. I'm really fortunate to have stepped into a representation business and since then i have moved over to lush experiences where i rap independently owned five star hotels I work with hotels in europe. I work with hotels in the caribbean. I have two hotels in singapore. And then there's amazing. Dmc's that i work with that can help with on the ground experience as well. So i've been really fortunate to have worked with some amazing professionals in this industry and experience some of the Most amazing destinations. That they're all on based then so heidi how about you share with the listeners. What a dmc stands for a ground operator. So if you travel to a destination. Such as italy or france there are things that you're gonna wanna experience on the ground so they can take you on tours. These are usually guided tours. They can also arrange for transportation for you so if you wanted to arrange for a pickup at an airport or a vip greeting at an airport whisk you through the airport in a very quick and easy manner. They can arrange for this. So they're wonderful to have and having a good one can make or break your experience so i work with some amazing ones that would put together some incredible for your clients. Yeah that is. I mean that is such a big deal when you're traveling international and you kind of have no idea what to do so this is why i always say it's great to work with travel agent Because then you know travel agents have relationships with people like you and then you also help with setting up all other stuff because people feel like okay. I can just do everything online. And whatever and they can. But i sometimes don't think they even realize what they're missing out on because they just they don't even know so You're educating the listeners. On what is out there for everyone Before we move on. I just wanna make sure you set everything you wanted to say about how you got to where you are today. Yes pretty much. That's how i ended up here and you know when things started back in march with the pandemic travel in general came to a screeching halt. And you know it. It came that way for a reason. I mean we. We need to do it we need to do. We need to stay healthy. We need to get a handle on this Health health crisis in our country. And that way we can be able to move forward But you know in recent weeks. I'm starting to see bookings again Which is making me feel really hopeful on. And where i'm seeing these bookings are mostly in the caribbean arena for now So reason being is because these are the hotels that are opening. These are the hotels that are welcoming guests right now. So if you're looking for a getaway to take your family because you need a break because you want to have some sun and enjoy some relaxation time with the kids or without the kids I have some awesome available to in my collection. Yeah well and that's why. I wanted you to come on the show because i think people are just going. Stir crazy with not being able to travel like they're used to in some people may not even be aware where they can even go to from the us. And so i wanted to share with us ideas on where they can go now in the fall even starting to look at the holidays as well as next winter so If you would love to kind of go over what areas that you're referring to and then i'll show them suggest the resorts that you highly recommend. That would be great awesome. So one of the first properties wanna talk to you about is eden roc cup kana and this is a property in the dominican republic. It's not your typical dominican republic hotel. It's not your all inclusive party place. It is a relationship tog- property so it's actually the only relationship properly in the dominican republic and it's situated in the privately gated community of kept kana. So you would fly into the punta cana airport which is easy. We know that flights are very common into prince connor. And then they would send a car for you. You are about fifteen minutes from cup kana. So it's an easy ride. You will be the only one in your car. And during this time period they are making sure. The cars are completely sanitized and cleaned in between us. So it's a quick short ride to cup khanna. You cannot get on cup. Connor unless you're staying on cup connor. The once you do enter cap khanna. There's no reason for you to leave. There's tons and cap kana so there is for example. Their escape park skate. Park is like an adventure parks if you wanted to zip line if you wanted to do Outdoor adventure walks. That can be arranged for you there. Superfund there's also marina so if you wanted to dine somewhere difference Do some water activities in the marina. You can make those arrangements as an equestrian center. There are bike tours that you can go on. There are walking towards the you can go on. There's everything at your fingertips right on cap kana so awesome location Our our hotel is situated directly on the beach. They spent a half a million dollars to put a barrier in those waters. So there's absolutely no seaweed. It's beautiful beautiful ocean that kisses our beaches and the hotel eden. Rock in itself is situated on a golf course. It's one of the best. Golf courses in the caribbean. So if your husband is a golfer definitely consider this property. It also has a new completely refurbished thirty thousand square foot spa and it's really wellness focused so they have yoga classes. They have lots classes. They have all different types of treatments and now with cove ed. They're doing special services. So if you wanted to say have someone come to your room and you can have treatment done in your room or if you wanted a massage on the beach. You can certainly make arrangements to do that right now. The property on a regular day at ninety five percent occupancy does not feel that's just the nature of the way this property is laid out so in my personal opinion it is ideal post covid getaway. Yeah because it's so spread out. It's so open. The rooms are enormous. Our junior suites start at eight hundred twenty four square feet. Wow really really spacious. Yeah there's two types of accommodation okay. So more your people that love the ocean front views. We have beachfront accommodations. We also have poolside accommodations. The hotel in itself is all sweet. So all of these are our suite accommodations. I happen to love the poolside accommodations. And i'm going to tell you why when you get to resort. Everyone gets a golf cart. So it's your means of transportation the entire time or duration of your stay right and it's super fun. I actually love it because you get your own little garage you plug your week. It is. it's fun for the kids. So my favorite accommodation are the accommodations. Because they all come with your own private pool and your own backyard. That's completely closed off and yeah private okay and if you didn't want to leave your room and say what her breakfast in the morning and just enjoy the pool at your sweet. That is certainly an option for you. That's glorious and it's like really relaxing oasis for yourself on the pools. Are i mean the the pools. Come with your sweet but the rooms are really spacious. So the walking common area is large. Your bathrooms are enormous as a huge walk-in closet. You can literally do a cartwheel in your bathroom if you wanted to. That's how spacious it is. There's an indoor shower and an outdoor shower. I can't say enough about the bathrooms. They're stunning it. Sounds calming it is done So if you wanted a regular junior suite there's also one and two and three bedroom suites available also poolside. We have a four bedroom villa. Nfl three bedroom villa now beach front. We have regular sweets available and then we also have one and two bedroom. These are ocean views. So you literally have a little patio that you can walk out to and sit and look at the ocean stunning but we also have these bungalows. So if you're looking to get away as a couple. These are super super romantic. There's four of them and they have their own private pools as well but literally kissing the ocean. And you can sit outside on your tommy. Bahama wraparound porch and here the ocean waves crashing against the rocks below. You really really cool experience. It sounds awesome. So that's as far as the rooms go when it comes to kids. The kids club is like no other. I can't even tell you it's adorable the way they've set up this kid's club. So there's these little bungalows babysitters are available for you to get so. It's basically open for kids. Twelve years or younger tons of activities. They have a little beauty salon in there. They have little canoes that you can you. Can that the kids can because there's water that's around so the kids can ride the canoes around the bungalows and they of course have people watching them do that but great activities for kids to keep them busy so that you can relax and enjoy your time at the pool a time at the beach or getting your massage and enjoying the spa. An amazing golf course. So i can't say enough if you guys have golfers this golf courses pretty spectacular. And of course. It's right on the ocean so you can look out to the ocean as your golfing from dining perspective. It's relais chateau hotel so again. The dining options are fantastic. All have outdoor spaces to. I was sent a few videos. So they are really spreading the tables out so that there's lots of space in between them right now which is great There's a fine dining option called mediterraneo. There's lot palapa which happens to be my favorite. What do you what do you like. They're so people can have an idea. Envision what what they can get at that restaurant la papa. Yeah my favorites this special role. You have to have it in the most delicious sushi roll i've ever had. Oh gosh i stand about this fantasies about the special role and then blew. Grill is where you can have breakfast in the morning lunch in the afternoon. All outdoor seating available at night. It's also a steak house. Okays mazing dining options for festive. They have a seven-night minimum. So if you're looking to maybe something for the holidays. Think about doing that soon. 'cause festive cells and it's going to be popular this year. I feel that people when they're thinking about traveling they're thinking about maybe going away for the holidays this year so i think you should plan your travel. Because they're being so flexible and cancellations. It's worth to book it because you can always change your mind if situations arise that. You're not travel so That's when they can reach out to to check on availability. yeah now explain a little bit about that. Is that on thanksgiving. Or is that christmas specifically in years and all that festive considers. It's it's christmas. And new year's christmas range begins usually december nineteenth and it goes through january. Third that's different men if people were looking into a multi generational trip What what would you recommend it. Would you recommend the three to four bedroom suites. I would recommend davila okay. Those villas are amazing and they have beautiful outdoor areas. So you don't even really need to leave villa unless you want it to go to the beach. It's stunning and the really high vaulted ceilings. Beautiful bedroom accommodations. A kitchen and everything in there that you could possibly need lovely lovely villas and how many people are how many rooms in the villas. I should ask you have a three bedroom villa here and we have a four bedroom villa. Gotcha okay yeah. That sounds perfect. And then i think did you say if if there is a minimum night required during christmas new years. Yes it's seven nights so if you book within that date range you have to book a seven night. Stay dot should have All right that sounds amazing. Okay so i think you're next. One is turkson. Keiko so why don't you take us there. Yeah oh i'd love to take you to turks and caicos. It's some of the bluest most amazing waters. I know that you were scheduled to go there soon. And we're going to get you there that don't worry because i want you to explain like i said some blue waters i've ever seen in my life. The most crystal blue and awesome beaches. So i know that if you have been to turks and caicos. You're very familiar. That grace bay beach it's one of the famous beaches up turksancacoes My hotel the palms is on grace bay beach so the shore club is about two and a half miles away on long babych two very different situations and experiences and depending on the dynamic of your family maybe one might be better than the other so i kind of take you through both of them and give you my take on both of these properties so again very close proximity to the airport. A car will come be sent view. It's a taxi that will be sent for you at the airport. However if you wanted private accommodations to be made for you. You can certainly make arrangements for private transfer from the airport to the property. Fifteen minute drive. Gets you right on property. So the palms vibe. It's the older of the two hotels but this hotels maintained an updated on a regular basis. So it's super fresh. I happen to love the decor here. It's plantation style design So it's kind of got a more traditional flair to its decor but they've used all lovely bright light colors so pinks and Oatmeal colors And whites obviously and there's lots of windows for you to experience and see the beautiful blue water. That's in front of you so long of gardens here at this property which is another feature that i absolutely adore. 'cause i love flowers really pretty greens and beautiful colors. That are darned with trellis vines. Going all over the place. Lovely but This property to like the others. It's all suite accommodations or seventy two suites. That make up this hotel on a full situation. It still feels like it's not fall. You're never really feeling crowded. So there's lots of open space here as well your junior suite. Which is your opening room. Category again. very spacious six hundred and forty square feet. Your junior sweet overlooks the beautiful gardens. That's your view but there's also one two and three bedroom options available that you can either have an ocean or partial ocean view option. There's amazing penthouse's available that start at thirty five hundred square feet. Now we're talking full ocean view or ocean front so you can have. Yeah so amazing. Options with those as well very spacious really really beautiful amazing views than wraparound porches etc. from a dining perspective. You can dine outside at all of the restaurants for the most part however if you wanted to do in room dining of course that's an option for you at this time as well my favorite seventy two degrees west. That's one of the restaurants that are and you can watch the sunset right over the ocean. I love it. That's it's beautiful. Dining there is also parallel. Twenty-three which is like a caribbean fusion restaurant. Great barr with an outdoor seating area. We can have a glass of champagne or a nice cocktail at the end of the evening. So there's this great kidney shaped pool the pool is really beautiful it. It's right over the ocean so your view is of the water to really spread out. Open area pool lots of space in the pool area. The spa at the palms magnificence twenty five thousand square foot spa seventeen different treatment rooms. You can make of course arrangements to have private treatments if that's something you desire as well if you want to do. Non motorized water sports. That's also available. I'm a big paddle border. So that's something. I always enjoy doing when i stay at these hotels tons to do in the ways of activities for children tail. So if you wanted to maybe set up your kid with a counselor. Obviously they're going to limit the amount of children that are with those counselors during cove. Yeah so it'll be like three kids that are allowed to partake in activity with them. But they'll set stuff up like as far as being games. Art projects exercises to keep your kids happy. It's open to kids from four to twelve years old To work with those counselors. If that's what you desire. That's really cool. Do you describe the beach there. Because i know you've mentioned before that they are different Between the palms in the short clubs so describe what the palms is like. So i've always said to myself that. If i went there with my boys i would definitely stay at the pumps. Because it's the grace bay. Beach is a much wider longer beach and it also has water. That's deeper and it. It's wavier like so it's active right and my boys being that they're going to be sixteen years old. he needs some activity. So that's definitely why. I would choose that one for for my situation. Now yeah you over to the shore club. Yeah totally different experience now. It's two and a half miles away on long beach. And when i sat on that beach for the first time i was like wow if i had little little little right. This is exactly where i would go because it's a much shorter beach and the water is super super shallow and calm. So there's not a wave to be had mao can walk out three hundred feet and still be up to your waist style. So if i had a little one in the water i am still close by so if i needed to get up and grabbed them really fast. I'm like seconds away from them. I can grab them. And i can actually sit there and relax and not worry about them being whisked away. It's it's really nice. But if if i was a couple i would probably want to stay at the shore club two. It's a nice retreat to have just as a couple and to be able to escape. It's beautiful. I love the shore club. The decor in itself really makes the place. It's it's the newer of the property. So it's like three year old property. The ceilings are floor to seal the. I'm sorry the windows are So your views of that. Amazing ocean are stunning and its mediterranean and kind of in style but done in grays and blues and oatmeal 's in white. So it's really fresh and crisp. I really think they've nailed beach elegance with their decor gorgeous. I mean yeah to die for so again. It's all suites accommodations. It starts in your junior sweep in this case. Your junior feet would overlook the the family pool area which is like the main pool really super coal swings down by that pool. They have an outdoor eating area down by the pool. So it's a nice view from the from the opening category but then you can also get again. The one to three bedroom options with either a partial or an ocean view. Another awesome feature of this property specifically. Is that offers villas. So you can either. They have six bedroom villas that you can either get a four or a five bedroom to and these villas are super spacious. I'm talking eight hundred square feet while. Yeah yeah and they have their own private pools so you can literally have your own pool. Spend the morning there or go to the main pool a lot of the time. That's what happens. Is people spend the morning at their villa and then in the afternoon. Go and enjoy the pool In the main areas there's a few different pools in the main areas to enjoy. There's like an adults only pool. There's a family pool and there's the main pool so lots of good. They're friel from dining perspective. They have sue ran. So sue ran is lake amazing amazing asian fusion. Love it again. Good sushi there but also some nice cooked dishes as well than they have. Colonnade which is right by the pool and the row bar on the rope bars superbowl. 'cause it's like ropes on top of the bar that's like kinda the decor in the centerpiece. Yeah they caught and then of course. They have a courtyard bar to enjoy. Okay yeah sounds amazing. It is trying to not cry. you're We also have a different spot arrangement here. The spas arranged in a very individual basis. So it's of perfect for covert situation. Because you're the only one in your little bungalow where you're receiving your treatment called the dunes spa so you get taken out into your own private little bungalow there in front of the water and you get to experience Your treatment in that little bungalow very nice. There's tennis of course there's two tennis courts there is Also non motorized water sports available to you so really awesome awesome experience from a from a festive perspective. If you're considering this as a getaway during the holidays. It's a seven-night minimum. I will tell you. There's only three villas left right now. Need so your date. Range is december nineteen through january third. I recommend if you're thinking about this for fast to book now because you have until i believe. It's the middle of october to cancel. They're giving. They gave an extension this year. Obviously everything going on to extend it to october. So you have some time. That is nice. Yeah yeah yeah. I love that i mean yeah i mean. I'm just bummed. That cova keeps jacking up. My plans to turks and caicos so when you're describing i'm like yes. I will go there one day really quick. Let's just sum this up really quick so if people were trying to figure out the palms and the shore club is there certain groups that you would say mike kind of lean towards the palms and sun and the others mclean destroy club so we know that the shore club. The beach is really amazing for little's And then The palms has a little bit more. Active water is that kind of like the may. And i mean obviously if they looked at the aesthetic and which one they prefer. Is there anything else that stands out to you that you want to talk about or did we hit it all. No i really think we hit it all. I mean it's really a matter of your taste your style preferences and what kind of beats you're looking for okay. There are also people that have done to like three nights there. Three nights at the palms three nights at the shore because they wanted experienced boats beaches. That's an option for you if that's something you want to. I'm not. I'm not that person that wants to move once you sit down at lake. Yeah yeah i hear you. i'm. I'm definitely that girl but there are some people who have little to eat it up a little bit. Yeah and they're trying to see more area. So i get that. Yeah and obviously i can help everybody out with that kind of stuff to okay. So we're going to move on to our third and that is saint bart's so take us there okay. So the barrier group which is the actually the hotel in paris that i was talking about earlier. I have four hotels in the barrier collection. It's a collection of hotels in france. And they've now. Moved into the caribbean with saint bart's and they took over. Look harker stuff. It always was a hotel But they took it over and totally redid the whole property So it's exciting because it's brand now We were all set up to open in march but yeah timing was not good for us so We've held off now. We've moved our opening date to october fifteenth. Which were excited about. Because we're gonna be unveiling this amazing new property. That's really stunning and very special in its experience. It's a small property. So it's it's situated in perched writing gustavia and gustavia is a very central convenient downtown location in saint bartholomew in st bart's the views or magnificent can't even tell you could see all the boats in the water in front of the comedy. It's you lease stunning and it's twenty-three accommodations at the property and so it's really made up of It's seventeen it's seventeen bungalows to junior suites a three bedroom loft and a five bedroom villa and each of these rooms will have their own private pool. So you have your own little pool attached to your Your room to experience on your own. But what's gray as because look never used to have access to a beach. We now have access to beach because we have a relationship which alona which is the restaurant in saint martin. We now have access to shell beach so cool your stay. You get your son beds at shell beach and it's really close so it's it's a far walk about a ten minute walk from the property over to the beach that you can enjoy so that's exciting to From a restaurant perspective. Of course you can sign it. Chaloner which is amazing with beautiful outdoor dining areas There's also folkets restaurant which is fantastic. But if you wanted to arrange for in rooms lining of course during this time you certainly can Arranged for that Festive dates for this property are december twentieth through january fifth. I think right. Now they're requiring one hundred percent deposit but you would have sixty days prior to your stay to cancel so as long as you cancelled within sixty days before your stay. You can get that full refund. Okay that's cool. I was going to ask you. What is saint bart's known for your the silly people go there. What would they be doing. Like what are they activities that they probably would be looking into from a kid's perspective. We we have a lot of activities so see sports. If you're into sailing if you're into taking surf last sends those can be arranged. If your child likes are you can do some ceramics classes. Tennis of course is always an option. But if you needed to say a rate make arrangements for babysitters so that you can enjoy the beach or go out to dinner for the evening. There will be babysitters onsite at this property that you can select so. I think there's like a team that they have hired and you can go and say i would like you to watch my children for the evening me personally which is nice yea amazing. The spa is also an incredible experience at this hotel. Spa diana's the signature spot to all barrier properties and really awesome treatments really great experiences. That you can make arrangements for you can have them also done in your room if you wanted to so That's another awesome feature. Yeah i've never been to st bart's. And so i mean it sounds awesome and Yeah just agree choices to especially as we start thinking i even. If people don't travel during the holidays they're really gonna start thinking about winter right. We're going to be tired of just being hunkered down. And then you know the cold's gonna come and they're going to be like wait. We never even traveled yet and then spring break. We'll come and stuff like that. So i think these are perfect options for people to really start thinking about Heidi were at the end of the show. But i did want to ask you. Is there anything else that you want to add That people might be thinking about in regards traveling right. Now yeah I guess. I just wanted to wrap it up by saying like this whole experience of this pandemic has us all sort of feeling the same way like i was saying i was. I was planning to go to italy in march and my to cancelled so that disappointment lays with me as it does with so many people like we all were like a bunch of children's sitting in the house during a rainstorm blake with our faces up against the window waiting for it all to stop so that we can get out and experience all those awesome puddles that are out there and there are so many puddles to experience and so many things that make travel such a special experience and i guess that in a my inability to travel these last few months and i was telling you it's like five now believe it's so out of my nature to not travel that it's it's built this whole really gratefulness. Even more so than ever of what it has gifted me in my life like travel is a gift and what you get from. It is really seeing the world through other people's is going to another country experiencing their culture and how they live makes you see things totally differently and appreciate people in general and i think at a place in the world that we are right now. Having an open mind and learning to appreciate people's differences is Something that we should all stay connected with. And i think that's something that travel gives us so i'm in the last few months i've been vibing anthony bourdain and i've always admired his sense of he goes to different countries in all sorts of areas of the world and sits down with people in dines with them and over a meal you can share and learn so much from somebody And i love his take on travel. I love his time. Staying open minded and Learning through others experiences. So there's two quotes i want to leave you with about travel and one is this. These are two quotes from anthony. Bourdain if i'm an advocate of anything it is to move as far as you can as much as you can across the ocean or simply across the river the extent to which we can walk in someone else's shoes or at least eat their food. It's a plus for everybody. Open your mind get off the couch move of that town and it seems the more places that see and experience. the bigger. I realized the world to be the more. I become aware of the more i realized how relatively little i know of it. How many places. I still have to go and how much more there still is to learn. Pretty cool stuff. Yeah love it. Yeah i wanna go somewhere right now. I'm just gonna be envisioning the children looking out the window looking at the puddles. That right Yeah i mean it's it's a gift honest and it's a gift. We not only give ourselves right. It's a gift give. Our children and children can learn so much from traveling. So it's it's important. Keep our minds open. Keep our hearts open. I agree well. He thank you so much for coming on the show today. It's been so good just hearing about different options and just i don't know talking about travel again. I've missed so much. So thank you for coming on and sharing this information with us. Thank you for having man's always nice to talk to you. I know. I know you're super excited to get back to your life and i know you have five hundred things to do but before you turn off this episode. I know you're probably tired of hearing other podcasters asking for reviews. But you guys here is the deal. If you like pakistan you want them to continue to deliver free episodes every week. We need your support. So if you subscribe just say apple podcast or overcast or pocket cast wherever you listen. It makes it possible for me to continue to provide free helpful content and bring you amazing guests and if you take it one step further and get the show a rating and review with honest feedback. That way i can improve and better. 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VIAGEM AO CENTRO DA TERRA (por Marcell Sanuto) - #CORTES

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13:44 min | 1 year ago

VIAGEM AO CENTRO DA TERRA (por Marcell Sanuto) - #CORTES

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Hard Factor 6/18: Dominican Republic of Death and Boeing's "Really Sorry"

Hard Factor

24:12 min | 2 years ago

Hard Factor 6/18: Dominican Republic of Death and Boeing's "Really Sorry"

"Wooded you Joe man. Randy savage this factor in the risk. No one that does better like now. Yeah, nobody does it better repeat myself. Go ahead, told me something right now. Not a rate. Bardai. Welcome other upset a heart factor. It is Tuesday, June eighteenth. And we are live from a smoky garage, where has the time gone. Austin, Texas, you wouldn't have any other way today? West is going to be talking about some issues going down in the DRP. Yeah. Some continued issues in the Dominican Republic, and Mark. And I gotta take you through a quick lightning round of the hottest headlines of today. I wouldn't call it quick, when it's going to be good. Take it away. Wes, all it's some more news from the shit show that is the Dominican Republic, as an eighth American tourist has died while on vacation, there, Fifty-three-year-old Layla Cox died at the excellence resort in Punta Cana, which is supposed to be a luxury five star resort. Not sure. Only stars. They're gonna lose after this five out of twenty. How many stars you lose after death? I don't know. They got bots work in twenty four seven down there, though, just just pumping those writings up. I can guarantee you that. So that makes eight dead American tourists in one shot up big. Poppy in the last year. And I'm officially retracting my statement that this that is safe to go to the Dominican Republic, the way, I see you have a fifty fifty chance of being murdered there. That's the way you see it. Yes. Yeah. Well, we don't know. These are murders necessarily, I'd still go, there, probably murders because people are just trying to. Playing pool volleyball and get into Keila porta my mouth while almost dying on the pool who's pouring to kill in your mouth, the hot pool away can pool eighty that's like, oh nice. Nice miss on that hit. You gotta drink a shot. Knowing whistle. Yeah. Yeah. Don't care. I don't I don't non-refundable room package plan tickets to slow advice, I wouldn't go. And if you're partners suggesting that Dominican Republic is where they wanna go on vacation, this point, it's probably because they want you dead and see it as a great opportunity to murder, you and blame it on a resort chain. They just magically get pregnant, let's go, but I can't drink drink for me, I think to get over this cheating scandal, which should go the Dominican could you imagine the wheel of fortune, giving a Dominican trip at this point? Now. It's like the show and you're not cutting the black no, no, also apparently in April a slew of Jimmy Buffett fans from Oklahoma or parrot heads, as they call themselves went to Dominican eat. If you choose burgers in paradise, but instead, fifty four one hundred and fourteen super fans got deathly ill and nearly wasted away and died at the hotel, repass Macau input cana-. So luckily nobody did die. But that is a high number. That's a shame. You're always root for the never annoying parrot heads. Yeah. It's not five o'clock. Somewhere. If you're dead. Right. True. Right. Definitely not seriously. Find a more annoying group of people than Paris. Will. I know they're the aunts and uncles that, like people like you really wanna see aunt. She got tickets to Jimmy Buffett. Check out her sunburn, so panicking and trying to justify the fact they have a serial killer or a new deadly virus on their hands. Tourism Minister Francisco, Javier Garcia, had this snarky comment to sake. Well, in the last in the last five years, over thirty million dollars visited the Dominican Republic, but is the first time the international media reports such an alarming situation. These are is alita incidents. And the Dominican Republic is are safe destination. Yeah. Okay. Those good west. Okay. Like, do you think we call it the town magnificent perfect? Oh hotel. It is. Nice day. Rui is very nice. Nice. Yeah. So basically we're getting fucked by the media, people die at happens millions of people visit our country every year some are bound to die. Well Francisco, not sure if this is the first time to torture, dropping like flies in your country, or if these are, in fact, isolated plan murders, but shame on the international media. If this is the case, and this is the first time they are reporting on it because. That's invaluable information and people should take it into consideration when they're trying to cheap out on their honeymoon. I Mexico now, Dominican Republic, what's next gonna take Costa, Rica, and believe away from us. What is the median FBI getting like free Dominican trips out of the eighth tourists that, just pulmonary edema or it was heart attack? They're saying, okay, it was a liquor attack. Yeah. Well they were drinking from any bar. I don't know. We die. We're waiting no patch. She was not a Fifty-three-year-old. Mimicking Republic was not drinking from any rights. You Laycock's staying away from that many bar and Layla was just taking it easy. Jimmy Buffett with. So is anything being done about it? Well, the Dominican Republic has asked for the FBI's help in conducting toxicology reports which can take up to thirty days to get results. No travel warning has been issued by our government or the Dominican government, obviously, and most experts are saying that these are likely isolated incidents. And the Michigan is still very safe travel destination. So according to the department of state stats from two thousand twelve to December of eighteen one hundred twenty eight Americans died and Dominican from non natural causes. So those are murdered drowning car accidents, etc. Jump to murder conclusion. Well, that I'm saying that not like not like a heart attack, or like, you know, robberies gone wrong cancer. Yeah. So I died of cancer in the Dominican Republic's unfortunate time, answer finally got me and it was many hoping to die elsewhere. Yeah. Attacked by clown fish. So it does seem that. The media is reporting on these incidents with vigor. The numbers are basically average. If you look at them, you know, so it's just. Maybe just be pedaling already to set it was dangerous. I'm saying I'm trying to play with the stats are what are you saying? Not sure about you. But I only go if it was free at this point, I would literally be taking sips of drinks wondering if that was the last one. I'm just too paranoid. I would have. Absolutely no fun. I would absolutely go. Yeah. I wouldn't go for no way. There's so many worse ways to go than on your balcony in the Dominican drink in from the mini bar looking at the ocean. It's true. But you could just go to another island clutching your demand. I got two jobs. How about the book attributed to the minute can one way? Take yourself out. Yeah. Gimme gimme the shadiest minibar. You got I'm going to the place with the most adjectives. They have before the hotel Perfecto for the improbable Perfecto magnificently in perfect. I'm going. Of so the internet Sabrina cater says who are these fools that are continuing to guzzle down minibar drinks with all that's been going on in the news, me, and everyone that's going fucking tours. Every now people that go to the resorts like to get the free ship 'cause it on the minibar at any at any hotel amount of vacation looking for to the strip for year Sabrina, too. That's sabrina. I drink ten dollar minibar things. Let alone free. All bets are off. When I when I see him anywhere I drank a ditch last week. It's true. Yeah. So that and then, so Michelle Lauren who's got it all figured out, says this looks like the work of a serial killer, who is somehow connected to the resorts and has access to the minibar context. Hopefully, the FBI profiler working on the case. Can you imagine just it's like? Kind of like the guy that like works on the what do they have the machines vending machines? There you go. Now the got to eventually just like a vending machine, though, for different hotels, the many Bush's I have brought to the mini barred check their many of our vendors a warehouse guys, my theory, the got the creepy, Gotha. The smile and then to respond to that, Dan, Bradley says, I heard on the news, they think it's bootleg alcohol. That is killing some of these people you go into your mini bar for a drink. You expect legal alcohol, not bootleg alcohol. Well, that's exactly what you do expect Diane, you're exactly what I heard too. And I'm with Diane, I do think it's that over a serial killer. I think it's the Dominican hotels, buying cheap, liquor and slapping like Jose Cuervo leading. Yeah. Hundred percent I think it's like just like homemade liquor gone wrong, kind of like bad, cocaine or bad anything. And I think that Americans drink, but where's the switch come in where, you know, your liquor is killing people when do you become a serial killer with that information? No, no. I think that the Dominican needs to cycle out there bottles. I think the saying to I don't think it's a serial killer. I think it's, it's like the Dominican hotels, buying cheap liquor. Right. But they know they know the kiln knockoff liquor. Well, then you combine the two I guess. Yeah. So that's that. Let's, let's take to a lighting around real quick. Sure as hard factors brought to you by Dollar Shave Club. He anyone with an asshole. I'm talking to you. Even with some shmegegge. I'm talking to you. You need to go to dollarshaveclub dot com right now you're at risk of being disgusting. One incident with the stinky Astle? You've got a new nickname, one incident with some dick crud or schwa-. 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Lightning bolt. Are the story comes from the always trustworthy? All Africa dot com. So, you know, it's good Rene batch in American woman who are the nonprofit in eastern Uganda called serving his children. Whoa. Is that like a twilight zone? You kill your children and serve them as food non pretty hurts Christian organization pedal, reference servic, serving children. She's hot water after some children. She gave medical attention to died. The main reason botches in trouble is despite her ever present white lab coat and stethoscope. She has absolutely no medical training whatsoever. She allegedly took children with mounting Tricia from local hospitals to quote screens, the psycho at her organization, where they promptly died, believe it or not this story has caught the attention of an African watchdog group called no white saviors, whose mission is evident in their name. Damn checkout news. No savings dot com underneath handle. It's never said no white people as a fun story. They planted on. Monday, Boeing's, head of commercial aircraft Kevin McAllister apologize for the deaths of three hundred and forty six people who died, and Boeing plane crashes. Recently, remember those crashes, there's one in the opioid in Indonesia, on the Boeing seven thirty-seven Max's, remember those do max was short from axiom death. Apparently. While speaking at the Paris, airshow, mcalister said, we're very sorry for the loss of lives, as result of the tragic accidents, are priority is doing everything to get this plane safely returned service. It is a pivotal moment for all of us, specifically me, not so much for the people that are specifically me as I'll be fired soon. If we don't get this fucking plane back out there and service, the last sentence, what he was thinking. He also apologized for not waking up on time and missing his family's vacation, who the fuck hires Kevin McAllister that is going to be the spokesperson for your company, are you out of your fucking mind? Boeing what the Daniela Russo turned on the job because he was training for a big tournament only needs serious auditing. They're messing up big time over there, talking about Karadic. Yeah. Tennessee, mother returned home last week to find a scraggly, look and longhaired, bro. Standing atop her stairs. Yeah. She yelled at the man to get out of her house, but instead of AK in the premises the man made a beeline for daughters. Dot where he hid himself up in the crawlspace above her bedroom. If using the out turns out, this creeper was remanded involved with her teenage daughter has been living in the crawlspace descending into her bedroom. Every evening after the bedroom door was just ran to his little room in that it'd be okay. Yeah, he hit his his head in the sand like an ostrich is hot hot room. You can't see me breathing. Heavy up in the attic. Officers were called and had to crawl into the cross bays after him to pull him out. He was charged with aggravated criminal trespassing. And he was warned never come back. Young law is a hard thing to quit boys because a week later, Matthew c Castro was spotted lurking around the house, again, by neighbor, the recalled and after an extensive search of the home. Guess they found him up in the attic, back at his crawlspace officers had to use a tasers to get him out this time, how long was the up there, the mom, like, did you eat two bowls of cereal, Sarah? He's like, hey. Hey, I'm gonna I'm gonna go on your mom's, I'm gonna fall down and see if you can hear me, I'm gonna fart. Listen, golden mushroom. I'm gonna watch. I'm gonna watch TV. I'm a phone. She's terrible that's fucked up. You think you had like a fantasy he was like, man. I mean I. He had no job, clearly, his job was, was coming down in the evening before into the daughters better music before you go to bed Tucker sheets, and look sure up in the air and say, boy, I hope no one's in the attic. I'm actually, so. All right. 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#101: Fathers In The Field (with guest John Smithbaker)

Parenting Great Kids with Dr. Meg Meeker

43:24 min | 1 year ago

#101: Fathers In The Field (with guest John Smithbaker)

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She gave me what I needed. Which was truth down motions win? Let Truth when you're very bad and you have a lot of fun while you're doing the better you get at something the more fun you're going to have if you moms and dads are wired with everything you need to be a parent to a great kid. Welcome to parenting great kids. This is episode number one. Oh One I'm your host Dr. Meg meeker our guest. Today is an extraordinary man and his name is John. Smith Baker he founder of fathers in the field. But before we get into our discussion. I'd like to tell you a little bit about John and his story. John Delta distinguished career as a C. E. O. OF BRUNTON GROUP A leading manufacturer of outdoor adventure products during his fifteen year. Tenure John Adeptly led the expansion of the Wyoming based company received accolades for bringing jobs back to Wyoming from overseas and garnered awards for his leadership and innovative product development although he had the reins of an international conglomerate he couldn't get a grip on his insatiable longing to reconcile pain rejection and lack of approval from a father that deserted his family. John Struggle to make sense of his father choosing to leave the family when his mother was pregnant with him and leave his sister when she was three years old the consequences of his father giving up his role as a pastor provider and protector of his family re Tavak in John's boyhood and manhood outwardly. His success was envious but inwardly his struggles. Weren't he desperately wanted to lead the bitterness and anger behind and to learn how to forgive his dad? It took until his fortieth year in two thousand five. John Launched Fathers in the field to share God's love and men's love to hurting boys dealing with the same abandonment issues. He dealt with as a child. His goal is to help prevent the devastating cycle of father abandoned before boys become men by sharing their heavenly father's staying power forgiveness and faithfulness in the fall of two thousand twelve. John resigned from Brunton outdoor to focus full time on father's in the fields outreach to some of the thirteen million fatherless boys in the United States John's desire is to be a catalyst by defending the cause of the fatherless friends. You know that I personally believe the number one problem. In our country that is causing harm dissension and potential destruction is fatherless-ness. We always worry about decisions and presidents and Senators and governors and House of Representatives making policies to help kids but the truth matter is one dad in one family or one man or one adult male mentor in a family will change our country as always. I'll share my points to ponder for you to start using right away and remember. Don't just download episodes Click Subscri- because when you do that you're joining my parenting revolution. Also not only are we on I two but the PK. Podcast is also available in the Google. Play store institure so parents. Thanks for listening. This is episode number one hundred and one stay with US friends. I want you now. Tom Listening on the conversation I had with John Smith Baker. I know you're GONNA love it. Well John Thanks so much for joining me on my podcast shirts. Such an honor and honestly. I'm a big Fan of yours so thank you. We'll thank you. I love the work you do you were you had a distinguished career as CEO of Brunton Group which manufactures outdoor products at outward venture products. But you had a huge career change and you began a program. Ministry called fathers in the field. Can you tell us what was going on inside of you? That prompted you to make such a dramatic change Sure it The very short story is I wasn't saved in the Lord saved me when I was forty years old and was on a dark road going to meet the one person to step up my life. My uncle and I got on my truck got in my hands and knees and Beg for God's forgiveness and I saw all my horrible sins flashed before me and I thought it was done Repenting knowing the proper words now repenting and but I heard the heavenly father speak to me and say John. Now you need to forgive your earthly father for leaving you. And that's the one sin I know the unforgiveness in now and that's the one sin did not want to let go of and realizing that these boys face the same thing we tell ourselves every single day that were never ever going to forgive her father for leaving but knowing how much I'd been forgiven I said I would and I I. I forgave my dad. And that's when I felt the Holy Spirit enemy and cleanse me and you know was born again no one all the proper terminology now but then I knew I was a new creation and that really set on the path of of my Christian walk and shortly thereafter. I just knew I felt the prompting of of the Lord to give this world a secular world and start a ministry to help those. I could the fatherless for him and a couple of years later I started writing the curriculum dealing with the father wound putting the structure together and and then finally Doing both my secular job and ministry job. I couldn't do it both anymore. And I jumped in a leap of faith and did ministry fulltime and it's been about six seven years now. It's just been awesome. Wow let's back up a little bit and tell me what it was like for you growing up without a father in the home. I assume your mother was there and did you have siblings. I did I had an older sister and I had a step or other I. My mom was married a couple of times but I remember having a stepfather and stepbrother. For part of that. But you know it's really just the best way. Agnes scribe it is. I knew that something was wrong. And that it didn't have the person in my life. My father to help me navigate. What what it means and how to do it from a boy to eighteen to a man and I had to struggle to figure out all those things on my own and it it's mixed with bitterness and anger because you feel like you're behind the curve and the cards were stacked against you every day because there's nobody there to help you navigate what's going on. Mike Precious dear mom was working two jobs to keep us afloat and so we were just kind of there to fend for ourselves and it was just you know make strong it breaks you or makes your strong but but it also just damages your soul because you end up just just having this much bitterness and anger towards the broken us. How old were you when your father left or did you ever know your dad. I did know my father left when my mom became pregnant with me Come to find out. They were having some difficulty. My sister rose's routes three. And you come to find out that you know. He didn't want may wanted my mom to kill me through abortion. So you hear all these things and then you have then you arrays and the and then seeing the struggle and having an older sister and watching watching her pain manifest right in front of your eyes of doing drugs running away and and all those things so I ended up being perfect kid and she was a troublemaker. Because I just hit my I just hit my hurt now but The Lord obviously had me deal with it later on in life you know we hear about the father wound and obviously it's. It's not something that I can understand. I'M A I had a dad growing up and aside from not knowing how to navigate certain things as a young boy to a teenager as far as a male is concerned. I'm hearing that your mother couldn't fill needs that you had from father. Can you describe how deep that father wound is and and what lives in that space? Yeah I share this a lot in the ministry because we as adults have to understand that each one of these follows boys blame themself for their father leaving as whack. Does that sounds. That's what they all do. I'm not good looking enough. I might not special enough. I don't have enough talent. Whatever it is. They blame themselves. So you're already angry. But then you have a mother that understands. You're hurting if she's aware and and they try overly mother you they and so two things happened in my opinion at least it happened to me is one I. I didn't want her help. I didn't WanNa be good a good boy. I wanted to be a brave strong courageous boy but she does. She didn't talk that language so when she would try and continue to help me. All I heard was. I wasn't good enough and I didn't know how to do it to be a man because at some point in time you realize that I I WANNA learn to be a man and then the other part that takes over. Is you become in a weird way. A surrogate father boyfriend over-dependent male in the house. That you kind of try and fill that role for her needs and you become overly bond with your mother. And that's another wounded eventually has to be dealt with. Yeah so that has to break as well you know as a mother of a son a grown son and and you know my husband is in. The home was in the home at the time and we have three daughters. And I'll tell ya I I printed my daughter's very differently in the my son. I push my daughters to excel but with my son I felt. I kind of coddled him and I'll never forget it. Eighteen looked at me and said mom quit talking to me. Like there's something wrong with me. And and what he meant. Was You always feel that you have to fix something? But you don't because I'm a man I'm not a boy and boy that was so startling to me and I think I think mothers do that with the best intentions to take care of their boys but they never let the boy become a man. Did you ever meet your father? I did divorced. Obviously my my mom and started another family and Eventually got divorced there so i. I didn't really have much interaction with them. There was all these fights over support and my mom had to put him in jail because he wasn't paying but it wasn't until I in high school where I started excelling in sports and he would stop by and watch a football or basketball game now and then and yeah so that that was really the interaction and and you know looking back. I'm glad I had glimpses of that but it all it did was really picked the scab every time right and so the other thing. We try and really stress with parents. Be honest with these fatherless. Kids you know instead of just trying to sweep everything under the carpet. If somebody would've told me that what I'm feeling that anger festering inside my soul was normal to the broken versus. It shouldn't matter big boys don't cry and I don't need a Dad. It was all a lie so so again as well as intention as some of adults are. I think these boys would rather have the truth. Why did my dad leave? Because if you don't answer that question the boy believes it was because of him. Kids are so ego centric. I mean they can't they can't believe that you know that they can't control things and that their father left because of something they did. And I think you're absolutely right. One of my pet peeves is the phrase Kids will be okay kitchen strong. They're not okay. I mean who? How do you know they're okay? Oh parents have been through divorce but the kids seem to be doing fine. They'll be okay and that is so far from the truth and we really as you said. Ignore kids feeling so back me up again to the place when you were When you came to faith And then you got out of the car and realize you need to forgive your debt. What was happening in the years prior to that I was. I assume you were grown man. You had a family yes. I was nearly forty years old. My my business life. I was excelling making more money. Ever Fahd make and having more acclaim and you know all those things that you dream about growing up and I was married and had one one child at the time and and my mom tried to raise me in a Christian home as best she could and I remember the first time I heard the name Jesus when we my sister and I were cuddled when revere young next the only little heater in the house and she was crying out to Jesus because she had no food and we were going and but so she really tried to introduce. Jesus I thank you for this day. It's the one thing she did that means everything to me now and so i. I'm so grateful for she did that. But Yeah I so I I always knew there was a god. I just didn't obviously have a personal relationship with them and I don't know why the Lord decide to convict me that night. I have no idea like Paul. Maybe he said there's my and he just yeah. It really sounds like it did it. The only thing I think about is on a business trip. You take clients out to try and cultivate them and we were along the Snake River with a bunch of different clients. You'll always be unsaved. We say don't talk about politics or religion and all those things and one of our customers started around the fire along. This beautiful trout stream started asking people if they believe in God and eventually got to me and he says you don't believe in God do I said I do believe in God and that's the only thing I can say well in my type. A personality I reframe that and thank God said well. That's the case. Let's get busy. So that's the only thing I can think about that. You Know I was on the pinnacle but the Lord had different plans and in my soul. I knew I still wasn't happy that no matter. What the next accomplishment was that that whole could not be filled and that something else had to happen and then you know after the Lord reached down and pulled me from the pit of Hell. I realized that that anger and bitterness would not go away and less. I forgave my earthly father for abandoning me and my family so John. You feel that your drive to earn your father's approval was worked out through your perfectionism in work. And you feel that there is sort of this hole in your soul and you feel that a lot of the boys who you work within your ministry. Do you think that they had that deep sense that you had of loneliness at? There's something in there that is missing. Absolutely they all do. I mean I can see it in rise that void of of feeling. They're worth because their hero. Their father has abandoned them. And what's compounding is at the same time our culture even well meaning parents and family members they tell these boys that you don't need a Dad. Big Boys don't cry. You'll get over it. So they suppress this deepest of hurt and pain and it festers and so many other ways and they don't know how to solve it and all these all these acting out by these follows. Boy is a cry for help because they know they're broken and hurting and they need help and so I I honestly. I know that they're hurting at a deep level. It's it's you know. If their heart wound could be shown of the blood dripping out of their shirt we would. We would take noticed and it. You know it's obviously an epidemic and sadly in our culture and and at the same time you know they're telling these boys that You know you don't need a dad so they're saying well if that's the case. Why do I feel so bad? And they act out and then unfortunately a lot of them then get medicated to sit still to not act like boys and it's a vicious cycle and it's really tearing at the fabric of our culture it is and I see that all the time in my practice and you're right. The sort of modern mantra is all they really need is love. And as long as you give him love. And a warm home and people to be affectionate. They'll be fine and in fact they aren't. Let's turn and talk about the work that you're doing. What is the vision? What are the goals of fathers in the field? Well the first thing you know. I'm so thankful that I was saved. I had a bunch of wonderful godly men and a want. Godly Church that to cement my understanding of God's Word and the first thing that we love to share with people that were not a para church ministry. We do not go around the church. We go through the Church because the church Christ died for the church. And it's his bride and so our ministry goes through the Church. So we get the privilege of coming alongside pastors and the men the men in those churches and coaching and training them. How TO MENTOR THE FATHERLESS? And we we provide and equip them so once we get them establish we can go to the next church and the next church and so that's how we can reach more boys so we were in about thirty six different states right now and steadily growing and You know hundreds upon hundreds of churches and God has been faithful that way but I believe is because we've been faithful to his word and the hardest challenge we have is getting through the bureaucracy of some churches. But it's well worth it when we get established so the primary center the heart of our ministry is to intentionally deal with that deep festering sold in these boys. Everything we do is for that reason parents. I hope you're enjoying my conversation with John Smith Baker. We need to take a quick break. But don't go anywhere may be right back with more. My Conversation Kim Counseling Dot Com connects your thirteen to nineteen year old. Licensed Professional Counselor Right. Were they spend most of their time on their smartphone. 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It's backed by one hundred percent happiness guarantee. So if you don't like it for any reason go under money. No questions asked. That's magic dot com slash make code meg for free shipping. So you find Ben in different churches and then you assign your train them then. Do you assign a boy to that man. No what what we do is we we. We allow a divine appointment and so once we train the church. The church calls the man once. The men are vetted and approved by the leadership of that church. Then the first man up is the first boy paired with and we and we do this intentionally and we don't these boys because I was one of them view the world very differently. I learned to be very good manipulator of situations because everyone felt sorry for me and I always been able to use that to my advantage of manipulate things so people always wanted to give me my way. Because they felt sorry for me and they. They wanted to in their way. Help me so we we understand that going into so when a Boyce's wide I'd like to fish or I like to hunt with it doesn't matter that the mentor. Father Likes whatever that passionate that mentor father. That's that's the divine relationship because these boys we we don't quote give them the power in the relationship and so this man says well. I like to fix automobile. So that's how we're going to develop our relationship over this hobby and Hobby. The boy may not even know about cars. But that's what the mentor father gets a share and in a way he gets to be the hero because he has all the information and know how in this boy's life and all that is to be said not to not to do other than create a scenario where that mentor father and develop a committed trusting relationship in this boy's life instead of saying hey. I don't really know what I'm doing. So let's learn together and from boys perspective I. It's hard to develop respect and trust right away when when that boy doesn't look at the metro father is kind of a hero and and he has to see the man is a leader. Yes because as you said he just wants an opportunity to be the little boy he wants to follow. He wants to be able to look up at this. This man are there any boys lives or situations who have come into fathers in the field where you've seen a remarkable transformation and would you mind sharing that boys story with us. Yes God has been so great we get to see so many transformations and I believe that this is. This is because we're being faithful over one hundred ten times in the Bible. God says very clearly that we are to defend the cause of the fatherless. And as I I personally. Because they're the most vulnerable along with two widows and knowing that these boys are ministries focus on the future passer providers protectors. God knows that they have a divine role in the future and we need to reach. This could be the next Billy Graham. It could be it could be. Who knows and so are the Charles spurgeon of the world but we have we have the privilege of seeing transform lives and many come to my mind in fact the first one that God gave us. His name was mason a deer but deer follows. Boy and I I remember the story where we were just getting started and God confirmed so many things to us but he he wrote in our curriculum because we have a three year curriculum. Broken down one year terms. And it's intentionally dealing with the father ruin so step-by-step it goes through the first ones based on The Lord's prayer our father in heaven. If you think about it from a folles boy to call God father is a big stumbling block and the second is the Ten Commandments. Not Not only just thou shall nots but the all the blessings that God tells us tank mammoth if you think about on your father. Mother and Thou Shalt an adultery and all those things that are wrapped into the Ten Commandments. That they've experienced them all and then the third one is called the forgiveness letter where we go through the components of forgiveness letter and the biggest stumbling block that we've found and it was the same with me when I wrote my forgiveness letter is what do I call my net. How do I open the letter? Say Dear Dad which is a very intimate La name which most don't like to use deer. Sob dear jerk dear abandoner so we talk about those things. And we don't let that get in become a stumbling block and writing the letter. We don't make them write the letter we say. Whenever you're super naturally you learned. Forgive your dad you'll want to write it and put it in writing to make it official and So that's that's the beginning part of it but Mason. When we did this. The first year curriculum he wrote back. I will never ever forgive my dad and it's it confirmed exactly what we were saying to ourselves. And then the commitment of the man makes is bringing the church for Sunday's to a service project go into the journey guide curriculum dealing with the father wound but make a long story. Short Mason came into Sunday school class. One day where I was sunny schoolteacher and he says you won't believe what happens and I said what's up buddy. And he says I forgave my dad for leaving and and and I just hugged them and we rejoice and I said well what do you. What do you want to do now? And he said I want to share with my dad that I forgave him and go to prison and tell him that. Oh my how old was mason at this point. He was ten years old Tan. And he's never really seen his dad he just knows his dad's in prison and so I said well I wasn't as mentor. Father Pastor Scott was his mentor. Father so that was all arranged and on member pastor. Scott asking him well. What do you think he should bring? So I'm going to bring my Bible and I'm GonNa share them the letter. I wrote him forgiveness letter so he went there any and he got to see his dad in prison he shared shared with that. He forgave him shared. Jesus with him as you know as a ten year old boy could gave Him Bible and his dad made another promise to him. So Hey I'm supposed to get out and six to eight months I'm going to come and see And we're going to start a new so obviously may may was on cloud nine and very happy and six and eight months came later. His Dad got up prison and just never looked up mason so mason had learned to understand that deal with that but in the end he says I am sad and hurt but I have forgiven him. and You know it's just stories like that we. We've had so many other boys that want to commit suicide and they get locked up into three year or three day you know detention because of that threat and and they only want to see their mentor. Father they don't Wanna see their mom or anybody and and we've had boys after that the you know give their life to Christ and be redeemed and become police officers and firemen's and we get you know get the witnessed or baptism and but that's how Satan controls the next generation of pasture providers and protectors is through that abandoned wound and it controls every action they take until they until they through the work of the Holy Spirit. Learn to forgive earthly father. Yeah have you had an opportunity to see the masons when they're ten and then Mason one? He's twenty or boys like that. How much of a follow-through do you get these boys out a lot? I mean when they lash the three years in the ministry and a Lotta Times. Moms very transient. So they don't necessarily last all three years but they last all three years. We see significant transformation. And everything from you know receiving crisis or savior to to graduating high school. But since we're just finishing our tenth year you know Mason is now twenty. Four years old so You know we we know when his birthday is and and he's he's a productive citizen you know not jail like most autistic you know we have others that are like I said really having productive lives so we were just now the front end getting see the adulthood of a lot of those men. Teas that we've had and it's very encouraging you know. I applaud what you're doing so much because I think from a child Stamp Frankfurter boy standpoint for me looking on the outside. It would seem to me that the real success of the ministry comes from the fact that men step up and say to a young boy. You can trust me. I will care for you and I'm not going anywhere and I think that those are really difficult for these young boys who've never trusted anybody who've never felt loved by a man and who've never said I'm not gonNa go anywhere and so I would imagine it would be hard for them to begin a relationship with a man like that But but and I and I also think that the fact that you work whether you have men who work with these boys over time. It's not just a six months here I'm gonNA come into class and I'm GonNa Tutor you and I'll see you once or twice a month and then I'm done after six months. This is a real commitment. That men are making to these young boys. Yes that that's really the heart of it. You're so smart because you get it. It's a three or commit in Brooklyn to one year times and we do that one year at a time. We do that. So a follows boy gets a C- man lived through his commitment three times and that is part of the intentional healing process. We part of our coaching. We tell these men. Your job is not the fix this boy. Your job your commitment is to live up to your commitment and we tell we tell these and we coaches boys. I I say it all the time. The follows boy doesn't believe and he won't even hear anything you tell them for the first year. I believe it. Yeah because they they think you're lying to them so it doesn't matter what you say it matters what you do and when you say when and part of this has not been not having a mentoring relationship based on the convenience of the man but having a mentoring relationship based on prediced griped commitments that the folles boy guests to see this man live up to. I can't tell you how many follows boys like myself when I heard my dad said he's GonNa come pick me up this weekend and I'm looking out the window. Dying for him to come pick me up and he doesn't show and it just it just suppresses and deepens and and stretches that wound beyond belief but when a man a mentor then mentor. Father says I am going to pick you up for Sunday school church. I'll be there at eight o'clock this Sunday and he shows up that boys heart leaps for joy. That man doesn't have to say one thing now one thing. And that's what we have to keep your mouth shut and listen and just live here commitments. That boy will then learn that he can trust you. And that what you have to say is valuable. We share all the time that in my opinion this is anecdotal. But I see it all the time in my life and other that the average follows boy gets a bandit seven times because what we don't think is abandoned midnight. I try to share this with single moms so the father leaves and then you have a boyfriend. When they're young yes and then all of a sudden they start calling him daddy and then that relationship ends and then you get remarried and you have a Stepdad. That he calls dad as you know Second marriages with children have a high divorce. Rate almost seventy five percent so then he gets abandoned again so that it just hurt and wound is part of the really important coaching. We give churches and men to fully understand this father wound and how to address it. It's they know how to hunt and fish woodwork so they can be the hero there but understanding the world that this fatherless boy sees through his glasses is so important to helping them we. We try to address these boys through the Dole is and if we can look through the world through a broken hurting desperate follows. Boys is then it makes sense so often I hear parents say Things you know like. Oh my kids will be fine. They're fine kids are resilient and I say you know. They really aren't they. They need help there are there. They are broken. But they're not gonNA tell you that they're not going to say you know mom. I Really Miss Dad. I wish you know dad would show up. I wish dad would fill that void in my life. Because they can't articulate that so john this is just a remarkable remarkable ministry How will people? How can people particularly single mothers get connected with Fathers in the field. Or how can they find out more about what you do? Yes they can certainly go to fathers in the field DOT COM. And there's a there's a contact us and let us know and you know we've realized through our ministry that single mom demographic is the largest unchurched people group in America and the reason that is if the mom wanted to go to church there typically working that the service jobs that are on the weekend or Sunday's there one day off and they have to get caught up on things so part of what we do is when we go into a church. Get them to make a commitment. We help them reach out into the the single mom network so we teach the church to be proactive. And and so. That's the big thing so once. The single mom network in that community gets gets Tapped into and a few false boy. Start being mentored the church then. We'll have all kinds of people single MOMS knocking at the doors because they want their son to be help. So you you know. We don't realize how many fathers are among us and and that's things we educate churches on. But I I I I really encourage single moms to seek us out because if they attend a church or they don't attend a church it doesn't matter we will fight with everything we have in us to get a local church enrolled so they're folles boy can have a godly mentor and and And it can take longer than we'd like sometimes if they don't belong to a church and it's long distance and we don't have a missionary there yet but we will get everything we have to get that done. Well IN TEN YEARS TO BE IN THIRTY SIX STATES. Is that what you say? That's remarkable. I mean that is absolutely remarkable. John I can't thank you enough for the work that you do for coming and being on the podcast and I just really hope that you pierce some hearts of some parents fathers who are not in contact with their sons or single moms who feel like. They just can't help their boys or they're exhausted that this is a wonderful wonderful resource fathers in the field. So thank you for selling your house packing up and starting fathers in the field and thank your wife force as well thank you. It's been a wonderful journey. I've never experienced such joy being in the will of God knowing that this is why he made me. This is why he took me through that tough time in my life so I could see follows. Boys is rekindled spirited gone insane. I do have work. You have purpose and I was not a mistake. Thank you John. Now on my points to ponder one find a boy who has no father. You know often when we meet single mothers we ask how we can help and while this is wonderful and very important we tend to overlook the needs of children particularly her sons so we must be diligent in helping single moms than go beyond them and look at what their kids need. Kids can look like they're doing well but many of those kids can put on a good face just like their parents to don't assume boys are okay and that they adapt. Well we hear the phrase kids are resilient to kids will do fine. We do this because we don't want to face our kids very real fears and hurts. Kids could appear to be doing well on the outside but underneath. They hurt terribly many times. The hurt doesn't surface until they're older boys in particular can put on a good front but every boy greaves not having a dad. We know this through many studies so if you know a boy with no father please reach out to him take him fishing. Take him hiking. Take him to a movie along with your own kids or alone. Don't just do this once. Commit to that boy to stay in touch with him for the long haul. Most boys don't trust men because their fathers left so make sure that this young boy learns to trust you and it's GonNa take time three. Don't be afraid you're not enough. Many men WANNA help boys but feel like they're gonNA make mistakes. What if they say the wrong thing or the boy gets mad and won't cooperate? The truth is just having a man's interest is all the boy wants. He doesn't want you to be an expert at anything. Always come up with fun things to do what he wants and needs is your attention and your that's it so even if you don't have much to say it. I you feel awkward interacting with him do it anyway. It will get easier the more time you spend together. I want to thank my guest. John Smith Baker to find out more about fathers in the field go to fathers in the field dot com. You have to look up friends. They're doing amazing work. Let's recap my points. 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#105: Midnight Mom Devotional (with guests Becky Thompson and Susan Pitts)

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#105: Midnight Mom Devotional (with guests Becky Thompson and Susan Pitts)

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Oh five and I'm your host Dr. Meg meeker on this podcast. My Co host Lisbeth. Keane stepped in for me at the Mike for this interview. Our guest today are author and popular. Mommy Blogger becky thompson and her mom Susan pits together. They wrote a new devotional called midnight. Mom Devotional three hundred and sixty five prayers to put your Mama Heart to rest. The interview is conducted in February this year at the NRP. Radio Conference in Nashville Tennessee. As always I'll share my points to ponder so you can start using them right away and remember. Parents don't download the episodes. Click subscribe because then you are joining my parenting revolution in every new episode will automatically show up your subscribed list remember. Not only are we on I tunes but the PG K. podcast is also available. Google play store and on Stitcher so no matter where you get your podcast. Subscribe to day so that you won't miss a single episode so parents thanks for listening. This is episode number one. Oh five stay with us. I want you to listen in on a conversation that my co host. Blues Beth Keane had the Becky Thomson and her mother Susan Pits. I know you're GonNa win joy this one. Hello everyone. I'M ELIZABETH KEEN HOSTING TODAY FOR DR MEG. Meeker on the parenting. Great Kids podcast. I'm so excited you've joined us today because we're going to hear from two moms. Who are doing. God's work in ministering to other MOMS Becky Thompson and her lovely mother. Susan pits are here with me today to talk about their new devotional midnight. Mom Ladies Thank you so much for joining us today so much for having. Us excited to be here. We're excited to have you now. We were talking a little bit before we started recording here and midnight. Mom The devotional that you guys have just come out with. It didn't come out of thin air. You guys started this somewhere else. Why don't you tell me so? This is actually the fifth book that I've released the first one that I've released with my mom and So I had a facebook page Firma as an author. You know just a place where people can connect with you now more about you but in that season of life when I was writing and the first four bucks I noticed that I was up a lot at night. I was really tired. Had A brand new baby. And I was underwriting deadlines and you know. The reasons that I was awake might be different than the average mom but he nevertheless wake and so I would get online and I would do this. Quick Little Post said hey is anyone else awake is is anybody else up in the middle of the night if so where what time is it and what are you going through. Right I found was in the middle of the night. The things that moms are going through are not usually easy things you know things like. I've got a sick kid. I have a little one with a fever and so as that check in grew the midnight mom check in and grew. I thought this really needs its own place to live and be and let's create the midnight. Mom Devotional page on facebook so I would write a little devotion something for MOMS. Who are up in the middle of the night to read as they were up in the middle of the night. Just something to think about. And then say hey. What can we pray for you about tonight? The thing is they really weren't there for what they could read. They were really there for the community and the prayer which is how the midnight mom devotional community really grew into what it is today at that time because I was writing and doing so much work I actually asked my mom. This is the secret. We're kind of sharing a little bit. Oh it's going worldwide. Now the secret is that I asked my mom to ghosts right for me on that page so my was the heart and voice behind midnight. Mom Devotional for about a year and a half contacting all the women Messaging all of the people that would right in and answering all the replies and doing a lot of the writing and the prey. Wow so being the lighthouse in the middle of the night was and so it was really neat because one night. I'll I'll let you tell this story love it. You sat down and you'd like to describe your prayer room so I'll let you describe it to hear about this so I live in a little straight and a little town in Oklahoma and I have a little house and in the front of my house. I have a a little room that I call my around. I like to describe it so people can see it. I like to say that there's beautiful artwork on the walls from famous artists and my grandchildren and there's books and Bible stacked all around my chair and books. I love and books. I plan to love some day when I can get a chance to read. I understand that stage. Spend quite a bit time in prayer. Because that's what I love to do. So one day I was in that room and I was praying and Becky had moved out to Los Angeles and the midnight mom page had just hit twenty thousand and we were so excited jumping up and down and I said Becky I was praying and I felt like the Lord. Show me this beautiful picture of a number. Just going from twenty thousand to two hundred thousand. I said sister God is getting ready. Something amazing and I don't know what it is And then almost just one week later. Some simple beautiful prayer about mamas who are cutting the crusts off their sandwiches for their babies and all the little things changing diabetes and the endless logic it just went completely viral and it we started getting just it just went so fast we started getting twenty thirty thousand new followers just within the month until now we have how many now eight hundred ninety five thousand and and the nightly prayers that we were so excited when they reached a thousand moms and night are now being shared by fifteen to thirty thousand women every single nice. You clearly hit on something that MOMS were leading. That's right and so what we try to do. Is We? Try to find the hidden places in motherhood and the women that are going through certain things that feel unspoken about or unaddressed and then we we pray for them just as simple tonight. We actually pray for the mom who feels overwhelmed by all of the things on her to do list. Who doesn't know how she's going to get through it all but she knows that you're her strength and she trusts that you are going to help her face everything that she has ahead and just simple things like that but moms were saying this is for me but it's also it's also for these other women so I think that's the neat thing about social media when done right is that it can connect us to a world and people that we couldn't connect with otherwise absolutely I mean in our everyday life and our wildest dreams we probably couldn't meet eight hundred and nine hundred five thousand people and have a positive impact on their world and so it's a real gift to have these tools like you said when done right and it's clearly touching touching. The hearts of hundreds of thousands of women speeches amazing. So how? How does your hemming? So it's a mother and daughter duo. Yes how is your multi generational? I GUESS. Knowledge and relationship. Go into this. So it's Nita's that we're in. We're in different seasons. We're not book ends. But we're definitely looking at different pictures of. I guess it's not really different pictures. We're looking at the same picture from different angles. And so I'm looking at it. You know forward going. I see what's up ahead and mom's looking at it backward going. I know what walked through. And so we're praying for the same mom. We're praying about the same things but mom's address my mom is addressing other moms. That are going through things in her season. And I'm getting to speak into mom's going through things in my season but we each carry hope for each other and we each carry hope for the generations that we get to speak into. Now I like to. I like to mention that the way we worked together. It's pretty. It's pretty relaxed. I mean I was. GonNa I was GONNA ask because I know not. Every mother daughter relationship is smooth smooth sailing so yours. Yeah tell us. We're really blessed. And that our communication and the way we relate to one another is really easy. Would you agree? We laugh a lot. We laugh and we just sometimes will do these really fun little videos for our midnight. Mom Like we did yesterday. The school pickup line and we could hardly stop laughing. What was so funny. 'cause camera was crooked and our faces and we couldn't see comments and we because because we're laughing and just enjoying each other's company while whatever's happening is happening translate somehow into the picture of prayer is that it doesn't have to always be so hard when you pray your prayer can be a PSI. It can be a song a Barath while you're standing by your kitchen sink or can even be a cheer when you're at your son's football game or baseball game and we love you're yelling. You're praising God and you're praying at the same time. Yay Keep my son safe out there. Jesus Watch over my daughter. While she's doing her gymnastics. Ooh That's a high balance beam. I mean all these little things. It's free to our life is beyond was a prayer and so we have that little relationship where we enjoy each other all the time and laugh all the time zones. Wonderful gets a call. My mom I have that we have that relationship. I have the privilege of being able to still call my mom and they know that there are a lot of women out there who don't have a mom that they can call and say. This is what I'm feeling and my okay. You can't tell you how often I tell my mom something. And then she just says you're okay and I'm like that's really all I needed to hear and so I feel like we get to be that for other MOMS. We get to say. Here's what you're going through and you're GONNA be okay but we use it in the language of prayer and so we were just talking about this on the way over here today and the idea. That prayer is its own language. That you know. I'm having a conversation with somebody but I'm actually inviting the somebody else to listen to a conversation that I'm having so let me paint. This picture is that okay. Yeah go right ahead so I pray tonight for the mom who is tired Laura. She's had the really long day and it's almost like I feel like moms will understand this when you pray for your kids and you're teaching them the idea of prayer and so I'm praying for my daughter and she's listening to what prayer sounds like. She's listening to her Mama. Say what she needs. She's listening to all of this. But at night as we pray for these MOMS as we for the one tired mom were inviting them to listen and then join in on that conversation so we start this conversation with the father. And then we say join US come alongside US and have this conversation with us and we create this amazing sense of community. That's it I mean it is every it goes so fast and so far we will see it shared up to two thousand times in under a minute sometimes and we will see people in it. Just go like that until almost midnight midnight hours and I will stay and pray over comments and needs that are expressed. Because that's my job. That's what I do nothing job. It's my passion. It's what I want to do. So we will still pray. It becomes a virtual community just like a giant place where we all gather in in in close proximity and yet spread out all over the world and I love the cover of our because it's the beautiful little houses with a beautiful little lives on in the windows at night. And when you think you're alone in that room the midnight mom devotional prayer comes up and now you realize that there are almost two million women who are exactly the same exactly as you say and how comforting to have that knowledge not feel like he said you don't feel so alone and it's so so incredible parents. 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You're praying for other moms so in Becky was I was pregnant with Becky and My husband went out of town for a job interview and my family was back east. I was in Oklahoma so I went to the hospital and I was pretty much alone of course with the hospital staff having having baby by myself everything went well. I've felt alone in that feeling of being alone kind of stayed with me when I took her home. You know you're up at night and you're in the rocker with a cool thing. Was My back door. My back door patio door. I could see the hospital and on top of this hospital. There's a white cross and I was standing at the back door of the hospital. Rocking my sweet. Little baby and praying for those mamas who might have been just as cared and we lived in that. House for about twelve thirteen years when I did that. Nightly would stand at the door and pray for Mama's looking at that hospital and it just became something that was a part of me. Yeah I used to keep. I always kept a prayer journal. And win a becky started her. She got her first book. Contract Abbas called hope unfolding us a book for Mom's I always row everything by these journals and I said I wonder what I prayed for her when she was I was pregnant and I took a picture of that when I found out I was having her and I sent it to her and the picture set the little pictures that okay to picture of your journal explaining so you went back through your journals. Share your little say how it felt on my end because this oh Christ just tearing up so Mama. Back through her journal. After I started writing the books just wondering what she had prayed for me when I was a baby so she prayed holding me but before she even prayed holding me she prayed over me in her tummy and she wrote out those prayers in the Journal and the Journal. She found where she had written before she even knew if I was going to be a boy or a girl or if she had more than one baby she didn't know anything she just prayed for the baby in her tummy that the little one she carried would be an encouragement especially two MOMS in the midnight in in in hard places and hard seasons of huddle and who and there was no there was no way of knowing it in this particular direction all these years later and for us you know this is such an encouraging thought because we realize that first of all as Moms we know our prayers are powerful but to get to see that lived out between us all we want to do is encourage moms to pray and and the neat thing about the phrase we posted night and the prayers included in the devotional because the devotion is really just an extension of what happens online. You know it's three hundred and sixty five unique prayers for moms in different seasons and circumstances of life but the one thing that we really really want to do is make sure that women know that they're not alone we WANNA make sure that women see that That the prayers that we're praying for them the very specific prayers that were helping them give voice to themselves. Help them understand that their needs are important to you. Know we've got MOMS. And they're praying for their kids and praying for their husbands or women that are praying for all their needs but rarely do they. Stop say tonight. I'm praying for myself. We humphry for myself. And so we get to say tonight. We pray for you and the NEAT thing about the book and because there's so many different types of moms in different seasons of moths in the book mentioned. Is that you know she might read that book and go well. This prayer isn't for me. But that's why index at the back. Don't you unlikely her specific situations and types of MOMS or grandmothers? Who are looking after their grandchildren unexpectedly. And you've got something specific for each for whatever season. Whatever mom whatever that mom looks like going through which is incredible. We were excited to offer that resource. That makes sure that we included INEX- that was that was mom's idea. Actually she said I want to make sure we can do this but also you know at night. She might read the premium go. This isn't for me but there's a line where says tonight? I'm praying this four. And she can write. Jessica you know a friend my neighbor the MOM at the pickup. Like you know whoever it is she can write it on there but the cool thing is that mom that Jessica. That friend pickup. Line that whoever she is might not even realize that there are a million MOMS praying for her and she didn't even know in idea. It's an amazing idea amazing idea. I imagine it's changed both of your lives as well since this is started to. You WanNa talk about that Susan. I just think it's very interesting. I never thought you know having been a person of prayer basically my whole life which is something. I enjoy just love but I never thought when I turned in my sixties and I would write a book I never thought in my sixty s I would have been kind of reach too young women. I mean these are. These are young women alone of our audience. We have older and majority of our women are younger than thirty five of the younger Mama's sometimes and then I thought that would happen and I have people my own age. Tell me that just doing this gives them hope and I suppress I'm like I would that give you hope? And they always tell me because we're not finished because we have something to say and so to the older MOMS to the grandmoms the man is the Mimi's the Gee gees the lollies. He'll those Mama's the Nana's all of you I would say pray for your children and your grandchildren and keep going. You don't know what God has in store for them and the riches that he has for them to enrich their lives and your prayers. Last you create. You're creating a per legacy of so called legacy on this book. Create its own prayer legacy as they write the names of their friends and family and siblings and sisters and aunts as they write in the book they will have this and some day. I believe we'll be hearing stories of Mamas who will pull up the book and say on June Eighteenth. I prayed for this person and change their life. It just changed a lot and taking pictures of that team member when we prayed for that together. So it's just it's just meant that's how has changed. My life is that it's opened my heart and my my life experience in a place. I never imagined no place. That's been such an incredible blessing. I it's it's I say it's funny but it's it's amazing because I've been talking with my grandmother who's always been intercessor. That has hurt. That has been her role and she's been in an an evangelist most of her life to very passionate one. Maybe a little embarrassing for us when we were growing up but she told me the other day because she was listening she went. She went to her church and her pastor said you know I can do all of those out there. Who are you know in their later years of life and feel like they don't have anything to give if you have breath? God is not finished with you. It's right and how amazing to be in a position and to be doing something that you already loved and that got new. Who's like you already love praying for people I want to encourage you and give you more room for growth to bless women who you may never meet and how wonderful to know that the words we speak that he hears will bear fruit fruit for like you said for years to come Thais? It's an incredible incredible legacy so ladies. Thank you both so much for joining me today and for sharing about this now. Can you tell us where we can find out more information about you becky because you have many books that you've written as well and Where we can buy midnight mom devotional and where we can follow along with what you both are doing. Great well we would love to connect with all those. You're listening and want to join us in prayer on facebook at midnight. Mom Devotional on facebook. Just type it into your search bar and our community will pop up. And then if you're interested in this resource It's available online on Amazon and Barnes and noble and a lot of other retail sites but then also in store in target and Walmart and actually in Sam's club raising everywhere so great so Yeah so you can just connect with us there. Becky THOMSON DOT COM. That's where you can find my additional resources although most thank you both so much for coming thank you for sharing your heart behind this devotional. I know that it's going to continue to touch. Millions of MOMS and women's lives for many many years to come. Thank you so much for having a thank you so much. Thank you now. Onto my points to ponder one. Mom's remember you're not alone you know it's easy to feel like you're going through a situation that is specific to you and nobody understands but the truth matter is there's always somebody out there who's gone through a very similar situation. Life is hard. We work hard for our kids. Sometimes as we get older we take care of our parents and many times. It feels that our lives are overwhelming. Maybe we went through a hard time of death or an economic issue and when we go through hardship. We often feel that were alone but remember. You're never alone. There are thousands of MOMS out there who've been where you are and they've come through it community is there so don't believe it when you feel that you're alone reach out and find a community at least you can go to. Becky Thompsons facebook page and find community there to your prayers last for those of us with faith in Christ. We know that the words we speak to God heard the hopes dreams and fears of our hearts. Don't go wasted. So pray over yourself your spouse your friends and your kids and their kids God never waste any of our prayers and I believe that he has a special heart for the prayers of mothers so write down your prayers and wait to see how God will answer them over the years remember there may not be answered in the time you want but God always hears God always answers parents social you know I love hearing from you interacting with you at honestly and truly. I answer as many questions as I possibly. Can you can always connect with me on facebook twitter and instagram at MEG MEEKER MD. Or if you have a question send it to ask. Neg AT MEG meeker. Md DOT COM parents. I've been getting a lot of questions about the Cova virus pandemic so I'm going to answer a few of them. Many of you had that you wrote in about I. There's a lot of different information out there right now. About how? Covert nineteen spread. Can you tell us the truth? Yes Kovic nineteen is spread through hand to face contact. Many of us think that if someone sneezes on us or coughs on us that that's the way that Cova is primarily spread. That's not true. Yes if you really close to somebody and day cough on you they may infect you by far and away the most common way people get infected is by touching someone who's infected or touching something that's infected and then touching their face so the most important thing that you can do to prevent cove in nineteen. Wash your hands sanitize your hands went ever you touch anything and train yourself not to touch your face and my second question about the corona virus had to do with parent guilt. One reader said. I'm working from home and wanting to pay attention to my kids. I don't know how to balance that without feeling like a terrible parent. What should I do well first of all? Let's get this idea of being terrible parents out of your head now. How can I say that you're not a terrible parent? Well first of all you're here you're listening to a podcast on parenting. You're paying attention to your kids. You're trying to make it work and you know what that counts for so much. It's really hard working from home when you have kids. I work from home and I don't have kids and it's hard because you're distracted all the time. This is what I would recommend that you do a couple of things first of all schedule work time and schedule. Non Work Time. Really take control of your schedule. Otherwise you'll be doing twenty minutes here twenty minutes there and during that time. I don't know how old your kids are but I would tell the kids during the time. That MOM is working or data's working from nine to noon here. The things that you need to be doing you need to be reading. You need to be working on your math. You need to be coloring. You need to be doing some puzzles. Whatever you can go online and you can find some great math games and reading games for kids that will entertain your kids in a really education away that can give them some time to work and be quiet away from you. If you're working at home with your spouse Tag Team if you can you know one of you work in the morning? One of you work in the afternoon. The other thing is if you're working eight hour days I really would ask your employer if you can cut back your work hours. A Little Bet Maybe that's not a possibility. 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The Election Glitch That Sparked A Dominican Uprising

Latino USA

30:42 min | 1 year ago

The Election Glitch That Sparked A Dominican Uprising

"I want to a protest in Washington Heights that initially I thought was going to have very few people but instead there were thousands of people. They're just with signs out with music horns blaring and it's unlike anything I've ever seen before you know to me. Being there in the street almost felt like I was in the Dominican Day parade except that people were not celebrating being Dominican. Instead they were they were defending democracy from NPR and through media. It's USA. Embodying Hosa today. How an election glitch in the Dominican Republic led to massive protests. Traditionally February is Carnival season in the Dominican Republic. It's a time when people wear colorful masks like the Oklaho- or a robot costume and they take to the streets to celebrate across the nation but this year Dominicans have been taking to the streets for a different reason on Sunday February sixteen people in the Dr headed to the voting booth as the nation held municipal elections but three to four hours. After voting began the Central Electoral Board abruptly cancelled the election citing issues with the voting machines. Doesn't relict or Al. This CD. The way they see the SAUCEPAN dealers. Lx Yoenis on email Hannibal the Dr spent millions of dollars on these new electronic voting machines and started using them in a presidential primary race that began in October. But on the day of the municipal election just a few weeks ago people began reporting that some candidates names were missing from the ballots. This was the last straw in a series of frustrations that Dominicans have been having with their electoral process and since mid-february they've been protesting non-stop demonstrations have extended to cities where there are large communities of Dominicans in the United States. Like Miami and New York and other places around the globe like Barcelona and Paris our digital media editor among that has been covering this story and today she breaks down why this election glitch has caused such an uproar and how it's connected to a history of entrenched political power in the Dominican Republic. So Monday you are our resident expert on all things from the Dominican Republic. And you've been out at some protests that are happening right here in New York City over the past couple of weeks so tell us about those protests. What have they been liking? What are they about solve? Those problems have been in solidarity with other protests taking place in Dominican Republic. Can you tell me your first? And last name and why you decided to come out was rowdy. Cassandra's and I'm just showing support for my country. Even though having been there in fifteen eighteen years is enough like they. All they're doing is stealing mistreating everybody. Is it enough is enough? That's it why he decided to come. I wanted to show him from from his young age. He has to show support for his people even though he was born here. These Dominican at heart so I want him to. Cg was asking me value. Is Everyone here and told them there. Showing support for their country. One thing that was super interesting about the protests was that there were people there of all ages you know so normally when I go to these protests in the past is sort of the same message from older Dominicans who are very very involved in local politics but when I was talking to people in Washington Heights they were young- younger than me. I'm twenty nine years old and I spoke to one. Young Woman. Annabel Morales. Who told me that? She was worried about her mom because her mom was about to move back to the Dominican Republic. A state and I thought this was super interesting. You know because normally the parents worry about the kids but here you had a kid worrying about her mom and that's the situation with many people you know. We have grandparents in the Michigan public or some of our parents are in Dominican Republic. Some of our parents want to return. So let's take it to the Dr. You've been talking to people on the ground in the Dr. So what do they say about the protests there so I spoke to one person? Who sent me etc. Here's a Dominican filmmaker. And he's been on the front lines of the protests was at my apartment changing to go to the place where I vote so I was just getting ready for it and then I saw tweet a read about and I'm like wow what is happening so it was actually a chalk. So on that Sunday February sixteen people were just outvoting. Dominican Republic takes their election day. Very seriously it's held on a Sunday for that reason because Sunday when you're supposed to stay home so it's almost like the entire country mobilizes to go vote and this particular election was very very important. These are the municipal elections which sort of set the tone for the upcoming presidential elections in. May and now the board is saying that they're rescheduling the elections for March fifteenth bringing back to back out. You Know He. He said that initially there weren't out of people. In the protests. Monday there were about one hundred people. I don't know maybe a hundred people and initially was governor told me that they were people online saying that it was only the who were outside protesting and the bogies basically entitled wealthy rich people from Middle High Class and there was this kind of controversy to who is the people who is going to the protests in how many people are going. So all of this class difference and stereotypes. We're being fomented by people on the outside from the part of the government to just kind of like create more division and confusion as to who was out there yes so not quite the government but there was one particular candidate from the party in power. Who was tweeting this? It was a way of stopping people from joining especially because no one wants to be labeled a poppy and people immediately called him out. That didn't stop. The protest from growing Tuesday was the crucial day and he said that there was one moment when to him everything changed. It was a moment that brought more people out into the street. So I want to show you a video. Somebody is like throwing like. Is it a smoke bomb aura? It's a tear gas bomb. Okay that was thrown at the protesters about two to three tear. Gas bombs where thrown at them and it seemed to come from authorities. We still don't have answers of who if it was the please if it was the military who threw tear gases so if you look at the video it looks like it's coming from directly inside the home doesn't throw so you hear them you know they're they're clearly like in a state of shock because there's smoke there's tear gas around them but then they didn't disperse they started chanting ran and then we came back again and then another jury gas but we didn't leave. We stayed and we just started reporting on social media. And I think it helped 'cause then. Tv came more. People came that Tuesday night and that was the thing that ignited everything because after that it was not a hundred or two hundred people it was thousands of people in the plaza window. He says that the tear-gas bomb he called. Fix the Bombay. Where it actually brought more people out and you know maybe I found that super interesting because if I was in the mid republic and that happened in a protest my mom would be like no. You're staying home. You're not like even though I'm an adult. It would terrify me but instead what happened was that it created this sort of like spirit of solidarity. May people want to come out because they saw this as a direct attack on the right that people have to protest peacefully the biggest one so far was on February twenty seven which is normally independence day. And I'm sure you know this February. Twenty seven is like an international holiday for celebrating the Independence of the Dominican Republic. It's a celebration. It's a party but instead instead there was a giant rally that brought thousands thousands thousands of people out. I'm GONNA show you a photo of that right now. So you can see. That's like tens of thousands of people there. Yeah so what was your understanding of. What the bigger issues are that. These protesters are concerned with people are angry at these ongoing claims of corruption. And they're also upset about the ruling party the Bella they're the party has been in power for over eighteen years. The only party that I have ever known is the billionaire. So the Livy or P. L. D. is the Dominican Liberation Party or but diesel daily Bastion Domini Ghana. So tell us more about the party. So interestingly enough media and I think that this isn't the name of the Party Ran Dominican Liberation Party. It was started. By whom Bush one Bush was a politician who was elected by the people to be the president in nineteen sixty three after dictatorship through Hiya was assassinated and because of fear of communism at the time the US helped stage a coup against him and he was never able to be president but he did start this party in the seventies right so this is a party that began as sort of like a leftist party. Meant to be for the people instead. It has evolved into the center right political organization that has a hold on political landscape of the country. Right now the president is the Needle Medina and I actually sat down with a professor at Lehman College societal sequels. She teaches Latin American and Caribbean studies. And she broke it down for me. They control everything under the one calling off the election process something unprecedented in in the Dominican Republic and elsewhere. What happened there is there is no transparency so does the? Piel de control the elections if they've got so much power or is the electoral system an independent system. Like who in fact shutdown the municipal elections so technically? The Bella does not control the Central Electoral Board but the general understanding in the country and the public is that they do because they control all of the executive branches of the government and the only way to get ahead in the country. Politically is to join or at one point was to join the belly there. So I'm they won. The elections were cancelled. The central electoral born put out a statement saying that they did it. Because of the voting glitches later. There was a video that was leaked that showed that the Central Electoral Board consulted President Daniel Medina about whether or not they should cancel the elections. So of course. This is why protesters are in the street demanding. The main demand is transparency. Because they feel like there's bias in the electoral process because the bill is all up in there. I mean that's really the the the way the best way to say it and super interesting because there were rumors that there were issues with the machines and that the electoral board was going to troubleshoot them and some opposition party leaders began expressing concern that their names weren't coming up in the ballots so then when the elections were cancelled people believe that there was a fraud attempt. It seems like it made people very uncomfortable that the ruling party which is supposed to be completely removed from the electoral commission. Suddenly we know that they both the electoral commission as well as the president. Make a decision to stop voting. It basically means that the so-called democracy is in question. Yeah and it doesn't look when suddenly only the opposition candidates disappear from the ballot on the faulty voting machines not the politic candidates and. I mean you know the best way for me to kind of explain it explain how politics works in the Dominican Republic and how embedded ability is and every day. Anything that happens there is. I live in New York right to do an event with the New York Public Library. I'm only dealing with the New York Public Library. And maybe some sort of you know New York City bureaucracy. I don't have to go to the Democratic Party right. Even though the mayors Democrat I just deal with the near Public Library in Dominican Republic. If you want to have an event with any sort of public institution you have to shake hands with a billionaire you might be asked to do a photo op at the event with ability. They really are in almost every aspect of different institutions around the country coming up on Latino. Usa How a corruption case that rocked. Latin America is tied to the protests. Taking place in the Dominican Republic. Stay with US NOT DEVICE. This message comes from. Npr sponsor. Better help the online counselling service dedicated to connecting you with a licensed counselor to help you. Overcome whatever stands in the way of your happiness. Fill out a questionnaire and get mashed with a professional tailored to your needs. And if you aren't satisfied with your counselor you can request a new one at any time. Free of charge visit better. Help DOT COM slash Latino to get ten percent off your first month. Get the help you deserve with better help on a secret. Military recording a sound so haunting one scientist believed it could change. The world. Mind was racing as I listen to this and I thought this this is the way join. Npr's visit Delia for the first episode of our new season. Hey we're back. And today we're talking about the cancellation of elections in the Dominican Republic and the mass protests that quickly followed. I'm here in the studio with our digital media editor among Bell Contra and we're going to get back to the conversation now so why is it exactly so concerning to people that the Piel de controls so much it's concerning because there have been widespread corruption allegations directed at the P. L. D. and one of the biggest cases that went down in two thousand sixteen was the other British candle giant hydro-electric plant in Punta Cana Dominican Republic's largest ever public works project being built by none other than audible? Wrecked Brazil's engineering giant. That's confessed paying ninety two million dollars in bribes which erupted across in America. All there is this giant Brazilian conglomerate that bribes elected officials and politicians across the region in order to gain access to local contracts and in Dominican Republic. The belly there was implicated in the corruption scandal. There with a power plant that was being constructed in the southern part of Dominican Republic. And what is Super Interesting Area? And kind of wild to me honestly. Is that in almost? Every other country in Latin America there have been repercussions but not in Dominican Republic. The other bridge has been the war. Y scandal this professor Milagrosa court again. Many precedents in America were put in jail. The only place where the other bridge people you know like all these people that were Bri dot Bu. The older bridge were stealing power and Free Islamic Republic Dash Cam so no one ended up in prison. No one ended up. Even though the charges of corruption and bribery were massive yeah and People Organiz back then in protests that were historic to protest this giant corruption scandal. And they see this as a moment as a moment of corruption being in your face and not being able to do anything about it and the thing about these giant corruption cases is that people see them as taking money directly from the People. They have taken the money of the students in rural areas. They have taken the morning of all. These women giving birth to cheating in public hospital. So they're taking the money from us so when I spoke to me Lagos. She told me the story about her mom. They're taking the money from my more than my mother is ninety four and every six months you have to go to the capital to prove that. She's alive so as her. She can be taking the car because Jason in different positions but many people coming from someone that one would be willing. Wheelchairs is very far from the capital of Dominican Republic. And probably near a very near to the to the border with Haiti. So does abusive. So people have this feeling that they're being stolen from themselves. The money is being taken from them and they do pay taxes and when I was in the protest in Washington Heights. One of the chance actually was muscle. Truckee on though. So we're here sending dollars and sending thousands and remittances and they're out there stealing meaning. The politicians. There has been an accusation a formal accusation that the Piel de has been buying votes. So what exactly does this look like? So even though Danilo has denied all allegations and then you lose the president. Yeah of the Piel de end of the country. Yeah so even. Though President Anita Medina has denied all allegations there have been indicators and reports of vote-buying that they go into these working class neighborhoods and they offer people quote. Unquote Kamien dope peso or become oil. Which is Fried Chicken? Canto pencils so one of the messages during the protests is actually that the people will no longer accept beak up oil for their votes is kind of like funny. You know like a funny message of the elections but it also to me it also does speak to how disenfranchise and marginalize. Some people in the vinegar public are that you're put in a position where you would give away your ability to vote instead of demanding something bigger you know instead of being able to demand a job instead of being able to demand better opportunities for yourself so to me. I almost think of as an absent father who shows up every Christmas to giveaway gift baskets. Because they do that and every four years. We'll take a photo with you. And despite all this the bill is losing support their trailing behind in the polls for the first time in a very long time and they feel threatened by the opposition so tell us a little bit about the opposition so who are the politicians who are threatening or perceived to be threatening to the P. L. D. I mean the opposition is also kind of shady Matia so lisa another who is sort of the main opposition leader. Recently there was an article in the Washington Post. That came out. That said that Rudy. Giuliani was talking about Donald. Trump's attorney flew to the Dominican Republic to be there as a consultant because he was hired by Veena so then other opposition leaders are saying. Well look at this guy. China got the US to support him in order to become president. You know he's He. This is what he's doing he's trying to get the. Us backing in order to to take the auto power so people don't really see that much difference between him and the belief that either all right so the opposition is imperfect. There's a lot of anger pent up anger. People are taking it to the streets. But where do things go from here? You know maybe have been thinking about this question a lot and I have been asking everyone who has spoken to this question. And what I've gathered is that institutional change is not going to happen from one day to the next you know also a change in the government might not come out of these protests but what is coming out of this protests is an incredible spirit of solidarity and it is a change in the way that people view their elected officials so before people felt abandoned and this term in Spanish mortar seek Nacion resignation. Yeah that people had when it came to politics you know it was like there's nothing that we can do to change what is happening so for example with ability. If you can change them you might as well join them. So now with these protests that are happening in the streets people are starting to see the government as different and they're starting to view the government as accountable to them like. Hey I am voting for you. So what are you going to offer me for your votes? That is my community and be your own. I think one thing that people don't realize that even though the Dominican Republic. It's a small half of the island that it shares with Haiti but there are dominicans in so many other parts of the world in fact leaving because of the political or economic crisis. People have been leaving for decades so there is a large group of Dominicans. That are in places like Miami. Dallas Barcelona Peres Rome so in these protests is this just solidarity or do you feel like the diaspora of feel like they're very much invested in potentially helping to make change happen on the island. It's a little bit of both four Dominican Diaspora. There are things that happen here in relation to being dual citizens in relation to being Americans wanting to travel to the public that the people want to see change. But there's also this sort of resounding message that I left the country and I didn't necessarily want to but I did it because of the conditions that I was living in so we're talking about issues with poverty. We're talking about issues with education. We're talking about femicide. Dominican Republic has one of the highest femicide rate in Latin America. And we're talking about a country. That has a steady growth of five percent economic growth every year and get into Gaza eighteen the UN released a report saying that it was growing inequality people see the economic growth happening in the country. They see you know a new hotel opening up in a beach. They see these foreign investors coming in and you know all of these booming businesses happing around them and they're wondering well what about me so this is really personal for you. Have my makeup done. It's cute yeah it is a you know why. I mean you you were born here. You were raised in the Dr. But you're you know you're very much a New Yorker and east coaster and yet you're brought to tears because of the protests that are happening on the island where you were raised. Yeah and as because you know I always wonder how would my life be had? I stayed and if I had had you know better opportunities. It's cold near city right and it's nice and warm and beautiful Dominican Republic. Have High School friends there. I have family there. I didn't use to feel like an outsider. They're and sometimes I do because I've been living here for so long so it hurts. It hurts them when I see everything that is happening reminds me of why. I I take so much time to learn about the politics and is because it's a way of staying connected you know seeing these protests for me something that has also been a lot of fun right. We don't have to end it on a channel We candle and I wasn't that something that has also been a lot of fun for me has been seeing the creativity of the protests and seeing how people are using the things that we all love about. Dominicans you know we have created rhythms and sounds and music that are heard all over the world and seeing people take all of that creativity to fight for a better future that has been really cool and it has been a lot of fun and I wanNA show you video. Only those are like the cheap little horns or trumpets that people use like a new year's so yeah but then what I really like is also. Did you catch what he said in the beginning here? So basically this guy. He's looking in the camera and he tells the camera you could be here. But you're roughly translated taking money from the government and then he pans the camera to everybody. That's around him. Just having a blast and it makes me see that the feeling of powerlessness that the people had it's starting to fade away among the. Thank you so much for telling us about this story and for letting US know how much it means to you. We really appreciate it. Thank you thank you so much for sitting down with me. Got The right. Is Our digital media editor here at home. This episode was produced by Mandel and Alyssa's Garcia and edited by Soviet police. Car the Latino. You're se team includes Neil musseuw's Lewis Threes Antonio City Heathrow GENOCEA Mogayon Leandra candidate Salazar with help from Joanna Luna special. Thanks to Frank Milan. Our engineers are Stephanie. Lebow and Julia Caruso additional engineering. This week by shop our production manager is not that appeal. What's our interns are cleaness and we check. Our theme. Music was composed by xenia windows. 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#108: Taking Your Life Back (with guest Rebekah Gregory)

Parenting Great Kids with Dr. Meg Meeker

46:36 min | 1 year ago

#108: Taking Your Life Back (with guest Rebekah Gregory)

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Bop Kids with nonstop dance parties pool parties and more for more Information Visit Hard Rock Hotel. Putu DOT COM for thirty plus years. I've seen every type of child throw walk instead of giving me what I wanted. She gave me what I needed which was truth. Don't let emotions win. Let Truth when do your very best and you have a lot of fun. You do it the better you get at something more fun. You're going to have it. Something you MOMS. And dads are wired with everything you need to be a parent to a great kid. Welcome to parenting great kids. This is episode number one. Oh eight and I'm your host. Dr Mike Meeker today. My guest is Rebecca. Gregory Rebecca is a well known motivational speaker and founder of Rebecca's Angels Foundation. She's a survivor of the Boston. Marathon bombing in twenty thirteen. Rebecca had to have her left leg amputated because of the damage caused by the blast her memoir titled Taking My Life. Back was released in twenty seventeen the same year. Rebecca started her own nonprofit Rebecca's Angel Foundation which assists families especially children living with mental illness or healing from a previous trauma. Rebecca and her husband Chris Reside in Florida with her two children know what and Riley as always. I'll share my points to ponder for you to start using right away and remember. Please don't just download the episodes. Click on the subscribe button. Because then you'll be joining my parenting revolution and every new episode will automatically show up in your subscribed list also not only are we on I tunes but the PG K. Podcast is also available in the Google. Play store and on Stitcher so no matter where you get your podcast subscribe today and don't miss a single episode so parents thanks for listening. This is episode number one. Oh eight stay with us. I want you now to listen in on a conversation that I had with Rebecca Gregory. I know you really going to enjoy it. Rebecca thank you so much for coming on my podcast. It really is an honor to speak with you. And I'm really excited for our audience to hear you are. The honor is fine. Thank you so much for having me. Well thank you. You have an unusual story a very painful story And back in April fifteenth twenty thirteen. You were watching the Boston marathon with your son. Can you take us back to that day and tell us what happened? Yes so it was really an amazing weekend when I look back on it because my son I had travelled up from Houston Texas where we were living at the time to watch a friend of ours that had qualified to run in the Boston marathon in our first time ever in the city of Boston it also happened to be rightfully sixth birthday weekend. And so I remember catching a red sox. Game and touring the city and we were all packed up and ready to go back home as soon as the marathon concluded on that Monday and we had started out at the Seventeen Mile Marker tracking our runner on an APP on our phones and my son was holding up a sign and cheering and standing on the fence and waving it. All the runners and one person in our group of about nine told us to make our way to the finish line so that we could see our runner cross and we thought it was a great idea and we all went down there. Ready to see her cross and That's when everything kind of went crazy. Do you remember the bomb going off? Were were you just in shock. I remember everything which is one of the hardest parts of that day so we had gotten to the finish line and we were in a great spot or right in the middle of the action and I remember telling my son because he was getting really bored and I often make the jokes that when you watch a marathon you end up running the same marathon and so we had been trying to keep up or runner all day. Long and Noah just grew very bored a he was tagging clothes and asking when we were going to leave and so I told him to sit down on my feet and play in the rocks like he was a scientist and of course there were no rocks because we were on asphalt but to a five year old. That was a cool thing to do. So Noah had taken his place on my feet with this. Backup against my sins. And that's where he was when a bomb in a backpack off three feet behind so when the bomb went off. Are you okay talking about what it felt like? And what happened next sure? So what happened. Next is is a very vivid memory for me and that's one of the hardest parts of this whole thing. I remember being kind of thrown in not being able to lift anything except my head and when I did of panned around to see people's body parts on the ground and they weren't even attached to them anymore. There were nails in ball bearings N. And everything that these brothers could into these pressure cooker bombs. My leg was on fire. I was in a pool of my own blood. I mean it was just this worst saying and not only did I remember saying that in every moment but my five year old son did but the the amazing part of this was that I laid back and I said a prayer said God if this is it for me take me and this is all in my head because I'm really thinking like I'm I'm taking my last breath. I'M GONNA die right here on this pavement and as as soon as I said that prayer it was within just seconds almost I looked over and I could see my son my little boy right there in the arms of police officer and I could tell that his leg had been hurt but nowhere to the extent that I was and so it was my confirmation almost that he was okay but I didn't know I really thought that I was going to die. And you knew that a bomb had gone off because you heard you saw the nails. You saw the bb so you you knew what it was. I knew that it was something bad. An Evil I didn't know it was a bomb at that time. And right eardrums had been blown out and all I knew was from the looks of of people's faces and just a scene in front of me. I knew something really bad had happened. I just couldn't place what it was at the time. How long was it before an ambulance came and took you to a hospital? It was very soon after in. It's really amazing. Because in these different scenes you can really see the miracles in them. Too and I remember you know being placed onto a gurney. The gentleman that tied the tourniquet around my leg probably saved my life and all the people that were injured. Were able to get to a hospital that day because the ambulances could get us there or you know whatever mode of transportation and all of the major hospitals were within a certain mile radius so everyone got to one of the best trauma hospitals in the area and it was just really amazing because when I look back on that now yes you see this horrific scene but you also see the first responders and the innocent civilians and everyone that rushed in to save us not knowing if a third or fourth or fifth bomb was getting ready to go off. They just knew that they needed to help. Isn't it remarkable? How people come in to help almost unconsciously they just run towards you now with the person who stop the bleeding or tied off your leg a civilian or was it a Amta. I believe it was an emt but I also know that there were civilians around helping to so eight. It's just it was really a beautiful thing to see because it we truly saw the human spirit alive and well that day because yes. You're absolutely right. I mean a lot of people will run towards danger in hopes of helping someone else and it was just truly remarkable. Yeah what happened to your son. Did he come with you so we actually got separated in taken to two different hospitals which that's another blessing in all of this because I got placed into a medically induced coma right away? They took me into emergency surgery and then put me into a coma so by the time that I was waking up my little boy was coming to visit me and had I known that he had been taken to a completely separate hospital and all of that. I feel like I would have just gone crazy in. It would have been too much for me to handle but I also felt like this was God's way of allowing me to rest until my little boy could come and see me. And so noah had a cut to his bone on his right leg that they were able to stitch up. He had a piece of shrapnel graze the back of his head so he had a small little bald spot. But Noah's now twelve years old in the seventh grade. And because he was sitting down on my feet I took everything in the back of the legs the torso in the left hand. And that's what shielded my little boy and ultimately saved his life. While does he remember the event he does. He did a for a long time. Recall very vivid details so he would ask me about certain people there and what they were wearing and all of these different things that guerrillas scary because I knew what I had seen and it was just so heart wrenching to know that my son was experiencing those same dramatic details in his own mind. But now noah is it's been almost seven years and we got no into specialized trauma treatment very early on and that was really are saving grace with this because since Noah was little no he's been able to have that therapy and have that time and so the the more he's grown the less he does recall and remember and now it's more of a story to him rather than something that he is emotionally attached to. Well you both had. Ptsd and first of all. It's really encouraging for me. And I'm sure all the parents out there to know that kids can heal from it but that you need to get the right resources in place right away how did you deal with your P. T. estee so I didn't realize how badly I had been affected emotionally intil fifty six days into this whole experience when I finally got to come home from the hospital. I couldn't go to my own house. I had moved back in with my parents and on the car ride home from the hospital. I just remember thinking that every single person was out to get us. I thought people were going to run into us. I didn't want my mom to pull over for any reason even to stop and get gas or anything because I just wanted to get to the house because I thought that my entire life and hers was in danger and when I got home my little boy ran out. I was in a wheelchair. My Dad was willing me in and he ran out so mean he whispered in my ear he said don't worry mom we're never leaving this house again. And it was so heartbreaking as a mom to hear that for my five year old son and to know that his innocence was completely stripped away from him and it became this trying to figure out help for him but then also I had to figure out what I what was going on with me because at night. I'm laying in bed questioning God for even sparing my life in the first place. You know I just. It was so unrecognizable because we lost any sense of normalcy that we had ever had on Boylston Street. A in doctors are putting together piece by piece. I'm having surgeries every other day. And they're questioning whether or not they can save my left leg. My right leg was in question. My left hand so life is. I knew it. Life is no my son knew it was completely gone in. We had to figure on. Yes yes in. A moment are you. I mean it's a silly question because I think you're never fully over. Ptsd but how. How are you doing now so I feel? I'm in a really good place right now. And I know that it's because I've been relentless in trying to find the right therapy in the right treatment for Noah and for myself and what that did for me was it allowed me to see how many children and families were suffering with their own traumatic experiences. And not getting the help that was afforded to know because I feel like with such a big event. Everyone is reaching out to help and they wanted to do whatever they can. And so now. We were very fortunate in the beginning to have a lot of different therapies. You know that we could try out and in different things that we could do. But I know that that's not regular life. That's not really how it is. And so there's all of these different things that people are experiencing in nine times out of ten if you're trying to pay your bills and you don't have that extra money to award therapy or something like that. It just kind of gets pushed by the wayside and so we've become huge mental health advocates. And I really feel like it's God giving us a purpose in all of this far greater than we could ever have imagined. I bet when you move back home with your parents had you had a healthy good relationship with them when you were growing up before the accident so my mom and I have always been extremely close when I was little. My biological father was an evangelist and he traveled all around the world preaching and they said he was just going to be huge and he was getting very very big in his career but he would come home from those trips and he would be my mother and I and so very skewed vision of what it what Christianity in. What God's Love was because here? I saw this unbelievable faith in my mom but my father was someone that I looked at as this monster almost because he also pastored at a local church and so my my younger sisters and I would sit in the Front Pew with our managing recipes and our bows and in clapping for this wonderful man at the pool pay and then as soon as those church doors closed it was a different story So you had to use saw two fathers I did you saw you saw the father that was putting on airs of being this really Holy Godly Man. And then you saw the monster side. Did that make you feel crazy? It did I will especially because my dad was very good at being a manipulator and just it made me question what was wrong with me and why could I not make him love me in the way that he was supposed to in so became about the guilt that I felt for not being good Enough Affleck? Good enough daughter for him. There must be something wrong because there's no way it could be him and I carried that on throughout my life and I look back on relationships that I've had and just various things and I know that that's what what it stemmed from and so when I was in this all kind of makes sense in in going forward with our PTSD and trauma. Because when I sat down at a therapy office with a therapist for the bombing then what? She told me she said. Wait a minute. It's like we have to go back to your childhood and work from there before we can even get to the bombing and I like. Oh Wow so my. Ptsd was back when I was a child. And what the bombing did was kind of just put the icing on that cake and and make me live it right now. Often one trauma or major life change will trigger pass trauma so really as you went through that it probably felt like you were traumatized twice when you move back into the House with your mother. Your Dad that must have been hard for you emotionally well so my biological father. I no longer have any contact with hanae talked. I think for the last time when I was eleven or twelve and my mom ended up getting remarried and so my stepfather adopted us. And so when I call someone. My Dad actually calm right that my dad my stepfather. Who adopted US my dad? Because that's who was my graduation who has been through all of this with me in all of life's major trials and obstacles. Are you close with him? I am I. I think that it took me a little bit to really trust him because of everything that we had been through and it was hard to allow another man to love my mom because she had just been there so much both physically and emotionally and I was really scared for her. I think my sisters were really scared for her to. I have to Monschau three younger sisters but my sister Hannah the Middle Child. She ended up being very very argumentative with my dad when he first came in the picture and I remember she would sit on the stairs at the House and not let them go on date she would refuse to get in the car and like all of these things looking back on it. That was me to just not in that way. Personality is little different from her. So I didn't express my concerns in the same way that she did. I think that's fairly common. Everybody handles an abusive parent very differently. You know some strikeout and argue some kids swallow everything and just sort of. Go Away if you will so. I think that's fairly common. So you are not in contact with your dad right now. Correct now I'm not when you went home to live with your Stepdad. And your mother. How long did you live with them? I lived with them for almost a year before I could fully function in the role of of mom and caretaker and just me in general and that was really hard because I had been very independent almost too much. I was a little stubborn and so to have to lay in bed. I couldn't walk. Couldn't even wash my hair on my own. I was so we got sent home from the hospital. I weighed seventy nine pounds. And I'm almost I've not in so I really someone that was as a patient that was sent home to die. It's what I felt like. I had I'd never been that low before in my life. And you had your son there and you couldn't take care of him. That must have been excruciating for mother. It was. It was something that it's just it? It's heart wrenching. Even now to think about because I couldn't do anything for him. But Noah was so sweet and kind because he would come in my room and I would just be laying on the bed and he would bring a book or he would bring a puzzle or he would just tell me a story and he just laid there with me at five years old. He understood that I couldn't do anything other than lay in the bed to him and that was enough for him at that time parents. I hope you're enjoying this conversation. With Rebecca Gregory. We need to take a quick break. Don't go anywhere. We'll be right back with more of this conversation. Betty Crocker Aka. America's first lady of food has helped generations of cooks and bakers and now when the urge to bake hits she's only as far away as your pantry these days. We've got a little more time to do fun. Things in the kitchen and a little more need for something sweet. Betty is here to help friends. I've been using Betty Crocker Cookbook and recipes for years. 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I try to tell her that all the time because what she went through when I was younger is something that I always want to remember and in just tell her that. She's so brave and so courageous because they're so many times where someone's in terrible danger situation and doesn't get out and I fully believe that if she hadn't gotten out when she did she would have gotten really hurt or one of us and my mom just wouldn't let that happen but it was nice to know that Noah had people around him that we're going to take care of him no matter what our support system was just amazing and even down to my little sister who my mom got pregnant with when I was fifteen and so L. A. And I are very close. I mean she would wash my hair for me and she would play with Noah and they really grew up together. And so it's just you really find out the love. The unconditional love that. Your family has for you when you can do nothing. I was twenty six years old and couldn't get out of the bed. It was it was a lot. And isn't it it's so biblical. But it's so painful that when you go through the hardships like that in your life you learn great and deep life-changing questions that you've had that the lessons sorry you know you learn the life-changing lessons and wouldn't it be easy if we could turn those same lessons when we're happy. I want to back up a little bit You course you've written about all of this in a wonderful book taking my life back. My story of faith determination and surviving the Boston Marathon bombing and I think it's a book that everyone should read because it talks about so many different levels of hurt and pain but there was a time Two years after the bombing that you actually face your accuser in court. What was that like so that was one of the hardest chapters. I think of my life this far in it was interesting because that happened. Right when I got my imputation done on my left leg so they had tried to save my leg for eighteen months and I was on thirty seven different medications just to make it through the day I was in a bed or in a wheelchair and my life was just a blur at that time because it was like I was just spinning in circles. Nothing was getting better. I was still going through all of these operations and I was just like something's gotTa give and so finally. I had the talk with my doctor and he had tears running on his face. Because I said we've got a cut off what what's holding me back because all this leg is due holding me back from living my life and my leg hadn't been my leg in a very long time and I had always been okay with the the difficult decision of amputation but my doctors had wanted to try and try and try to save it and I respected that decision but he and I both knew that it was time and so I had that surgery and then in Rehab when I finally got to the rehabilitation clinic and I was getting over the fact that I just had my left leg amputated below the knee the US attorney and the F. B. I. Agent came into my Rehab Room and said by the way we need you to testify in the trial of calmer so going back in general was going to be the hardest thing but having to do it in having to find out about it right after. I had made such a crucial decision. A life altering decision was just. I'm like this is a movie. Like how how it my ring but the part about it in the I think that it it was almost like I needed it to move on in my life and close that factor because I went in testified in the trial at first. I DIDN'T WANNA do it. I I just I almost refused and then the more I prayed about it the more I thought about it felt God was saying you know you're a vital piece to this puzzle and if I could say anything in terms of to the jury or the judge about what had happened and help them to make such a hard decision than I felt like. It was the responsibility of me and and the others affected by to do and it was. It was difficult. I mean to be that close to the biggest enemy of your life is just something that you just don't even think about having to ever do when you first came in and saw him. Well you hadn't seen him at the bombing correct right okay. So when you first saw him did that. Cause you to go back and relive some of that or did you feel distant enough from him that it didn't pull you back in time. So the first time I saw him was the first time I became angry at the situation because when I saw him. I saw him in a courtroom of people a lot. Victims Families Other survivors people that had gone through the worst parts of their lives at the hand of this man and his brother and here. He is leaning back in his chair cracking jokes with his attorney fiddling with his pencil at one point he didn't even acknowledged the jury he didn't stand up for them and they physically had to make him stand up in. So here's a guy who has absolutely no remorse for what he's done and in fact he's almost just gawking at us and it was hard. That was something that was so difficult to comprehend because it was almost like he didn't do enough damage. They wanted to do more and he was row. Wanted to kill you yes. He was proud of what he tried to destroy. And that just is salt in the wound. You know if he would have come to an end said you know. Please forgive me. I'm sorry but but it didn't so I have to ask you. Were were running at a time. We need to close pretty soon but a lot of women and maybe myself included. I'm I'm sitting here thinking about how I would have responded. You witnessed abuse at the hands of your father. Who who knows? What kind of faith head? And if that happened from a preacher's mouth who represented God? That would be hard enough but then you were traumatized by another man. How is it that you can love God the father because I think there are a lot of women who would have said no? Thanks no thanks you know. I don't believe in God when I hear the word father. I'm not interested. So how did that experience keeps you from feeling like that and actually build your face so the one thing that I always go back to is that humans will always fail us but God never will and there have been so many points throughout my journey that I have been at my very lowest and I have still seen God's mercy and his love and grace and I feel like my entire life has prepared me for what I'm doing now know in those in the midst of going through. Ptsd and recognizing my own trauma in seeing that. It went back to my childhood wet. That showed me was a need for the funding for other children and families to go through the therapy that ultimately saved my life and saved my son's life that we've received healing from and so we started a foundation. Rebecca's angels to do just that and I feel like there's so many times in our lives where we just see the problems but when we look at it in the right perspective in an through the right is we can also see the blessings and in the Bible. It says we will have trials we will have tribulations but all of this is temporary. I became disabled at twenty six years old but I know one day I am going to be whole again. And that's what I cling to my faith in a bigger plan and God's love for all of us and so I can go through the best we can all go through this because what our promises for when we get to heaven. That's enough that's enough to keep going for me that this is this is a blip on our on our time line on our lifetime line. It's hard to remember that Rebecca. I'm sure that our listeners are going to want to connect with you learn more about you. Read your book taking my life back. You have a podcast. Can you close us out by telling how people can find you? And what is the work that you're doing now? So people can find me through my website at Rebecca M Gregory Dot Com. I have a podcast that I just started called the Rebecca Gregory. Show finding joy on my last leg and our foundation is Rebecca's Angels Foundation. Rebecca'S ANGELS DOT. Org and we provide mental health treatment to children and families that have experienced trauma and I would just ask our listeners. Please please please donate to that. Because trauma in kids lives that we hear about. This is the tip of the iceberg and I see so much trauma in kids. Maybe they didn't watch their mothers lake at blown off but traumas trauma in a child's in a child's eyes. I WANNA tell everybody. Your name is R. E. B. E. K. M. Gregory not R. E. B. E. CCA so rebecca with a K. Rebecca. This has just been one of my most favorite podcasts. You're a remarkable woman You have a lot of remarkable things to teach every one of us and I just thank you so much for being the person that you are. Thank you for being who you are to Dr Magyar someone that I have looked up for a while it just. It's really amazing to me on here with you. So thank you so much. Points to ponder one unresolved pain. We'll resurface when present trauma occurs. You know many of us seem to react when we experience a certain type of pain or trauma. This is because new trauma can trigger old pain. That feels very similar particularly if that old pain isn't resolved and that's why it's terribly important to seek help and counseling when trauma or where. You seem to overreact or react differently than you do when a traumatic experiences occur to. Ptsd is a serious issue and needs to be dealt with many adults who suffered from. It are hesitant to get help. Because they feel they should be able to handle it. Other people handle past traumas and they should be able to to. They feel that if they get help then they're ungrateful that they survived the trauma. This happens frequently when A girl or boy is with friends and many of the friends die in a car accident. And she or he didn't Sometimes they can feel very guilty about surviving and this isn't true. They shouldn't feel this way and someone needs to help them work through it remember. Ptsd can manifest itself in many different ways and people particularly kids as I always say. Often emotional or mental illness in kids comes out sideways. Three if your child has been traumatized get him help when children's struggle emotionally. They don't act like adults. Do we may become depressed. Withdrawn WanNa sleep a lot or just fly off the handle at certain things. Kids don't always respond that way when they've been traumatized or pressed kids will often get irritable. They'll start yelling at somebody. They may stop doing. Their schoolwork may start flunking their schoolwork. They may change the groups of friends that they have. They may dress differently. So it's really important if you see traumatic different changes in your child to suspect that something is going on underneath and they need help there. Many times a child is traumatized. Don't WanNa tell their parents if they're bullied. It's if there's been sexual assault kits feel ashamed. And they don't even want to tell their so watch their behavior and do a little digging to see what's beneath it. If you see things in your child that you just are confused about your child won't put counselor reach out for help. Try Rebecca's angels in contact them over the phone. Alright parents. Let's get social. I want to hear from you and interact with you. You can connect with me on facebook twitter and instagram at MEG MEEKER MD. Or if you have a question Senate ask Meg at Meg Meeker. Md DOT COM. Today I have a question from Simona. Your doctor MEEKER APP. Two kids three and a half year old boy in a seven month old girl. It's a lot of tension between my husband and I on how to raise our kids. I tend to be strict. I like to follow a schedule and beyond time. I grew up without a television so I liked to limit my sunscreen time. My husband believes that I wanNA raise robots and then forced the kids to do what I want. We fight a lot because I believe it's good for the kids to have a routine to follow but I want peace in my house. Please give me advice on how to compromise on this well Simona. Your situation is very common. Most parents parent very differently. Usually one is stricter than the other. And it's really important that the two of you get on the same page with one another because you don't want your kids eventually to side with one of you or the other kids will often listen to one parent and not the other. Also kids will learn to pit one parent against the other and get in between your marriage and that's a very bad situation so you know how important it is also negotiate with your husband. Tell him that you may well be too strict. Even though you feel your aren't tell him that and you don't WanNa raise robots you WANNA raise your kids to be who they are. Tell them that there are times when he parents better than you do. And times when you will probably parent better than he does. Then tell him that you wanna come to the middle with him. That she'll honor his top two or three rules regarding discipline and you'd like him to do the same for you so let him tell you what he wants and his parenting. I if you go in there and just say stop. I don't like what you're doing I disagree with you. You'RE GONNA wreck. The kids sewn and so forth. Hell never listen. Tell them there are times when he parents better than you and times when you better than him. Then tell him that you want to come to the middle and you will honor his top two to three rules. And you'd like him to do the same with you. For instance and get very specific here television time. You don't like television but you know that he thinks it's okay so compromise on the amount of time you think it's okay for your kids to watch. Tv may be an hour per day. So you need to give a little bit and he needs to give a little bit but if you ask him to tell you what he wants I it. He's much more likely to comply with you. Tell him you'll work harder on giving the kids leeway in certain situations if he agrees to discipline them for agreed upon behaviors again be very specific about the types of situations. A bedtime television eating certain behaviors. So you really need to talk them through in detail and let him know that you're going to Come to middle and agree. Most men do very well was negotiation if they steal respected and my guess is that your husband doesn't feel respected now because you're constantly criticizing him for what he does and not doing things your way parents you know. I love answering your questions. So keep sending them in to me. You can email me any question to ask Mega. Meg MEEKER MD DOT com again. Ask Meg Meg Meeker. Md DOT COM. I WanNa thank my guest. Rebecca Gregory for joining me on the show today to find out more about Rebecca go to Rebecca M Gregory. That's R. E. B. K. A. H. Gregory Dot Com. There you can find out how the Book Rebecca for a speaking engagement once again. Rebecca M GREGORY DOT COM. You can find her on facebook and instagram. So let's recap my points to ponder one unresolved pain will resurface when present trauma occurs to. Ptsd is a serious issue and needs to be dealt with and three if your child has been traumatized in any way getting help so until next time parents always remembered that great kids are raised. Not Born Hey. This is bobby producer of Magny. Cours Parenting Greg Kids podcast. Thanks for listening and because of your dedication to raising great kids doctor Max. Parenting Revolution has grown to over three million downloads pedal over to facebook and twitter and follow at Meg. Meeker MD and check out what's new at matchmaker. Dot Com and while you're there sign up for the newsletter to stay updated and get information about giveaways don't forget to share the podcast with other parents. 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My Commencement Speech to Advertising Students

The GaryVee Audio Experience

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My Commencement Speech to Advertising Students

"This is gary v audio experience. Thank you so much for joining us today in giving our graduates some helpful advice going into their careers so with that. I would love to give you the stage. Thank you So i wanna go into as much. Qna as possible in the short period of time. But i'll give a couple of words and then and then we'll go into that so up for small congratulations to everybody. I'm sure this is an important big moment. You know. I'm i'm extremely close to my family. So seeing some of these family videos to ask me pretty fired up. It's obviously a big day. And i just wanna control all of you for achieving this goal that i'm sure for many byu was on your mind for a long time at its challenges twists and turns all those journeys as somebody. Who's a historically terrible student. I always have tremendous admiration to anybody. They can get to this point. So i want to congratulate you on that. I think the other thing that i really wanna talk about is the timing of this and what you know what it means in the scheme of the world we now live in you find yourself going into this next chapter in a time where the innovation and the opportunity to be creative is greater than ever but the industry of advertising is at a crossroads. Where a lot of things of the past are being held on at a store at an emotional level and even as those words started flowing out of my mouth. I can see by the body language that many of you know. We are in massive transition in communication and creativity. You know i'm sure many view and everyday my halls everywhere in the industry like there's a very interesting game of not recognizing the internet. And i'm not kidding about that. I am fascinated. But why but but but and why. And how and by most of all of what is accepted or believed to be true for example wanted t. The amount that is put out is not debatable. If you make thirteen commercials or nine billboards or seven thousand pinter's posts. That is not a debate. We will all have to agree that yes willie diaz put out six tweets. They were six. There it is what is incredibly. Debatable is quality and what has been the shocking thing for me to get into this universe over the last thirteen years. Is that a human being. Subjective opinion is wit wielded constantly inside agencies at the client level and many other variables and it is treated in this wacky world of advertising as truth which is the single most laughable thing of all time euch. I don't care if simmons goes on to win seventy seven cam lions when sh- when she's bored with me in twenty one years and she says this is right. I'm going to look at a base and say you mean you think it's right and i think this is a very important subject matter. That's why i was so excited to speak about this. I ask all of you. Because i want you to be happy. One of the things that has really hurt me looking at the creative industry. Both in hollywood madison avenue everywhere is there's actually a lot of unhappiness in the industry because of the way that people play the politics around their opinions. And i come here and speak to you today with the hope that this could be the class. This could be the group that really tries to take on the baton even as you entered the game or continuing the game to really have a conversation around opinions. These are subjective opinions and to me that is the most important elephant in the room that once we get into a healthy place as a community of how we get to a great work until we get to that place we will always have the shortcomings of being one of the least creative places on earth. I live in a lot of places not just. I'm going to make this very clear to everybody. The least creative place that i spend time is add land and we like to blame clients and that is an escape that is a falsity what is blame is the insecurities and egos of senior executives in creative shops period. End of story. And i am on a one man mission to talk about this in a healthy way. Does this mean that creative directors aren't talented. There's many great ones. There's many talented ones. But let there be no confusion. I actually have compassion and you work so hard for twelve years to finally get your chance to do what you want. I literally believe that every television commercial every one of them is something. I call vanilla frankenstein. Let me explain vanilla frankenstein. I come here today to warn you of vanilla frankenstein. Frankenstein is the following from a client brief to a strategist thinking to her handing it off to a creative team to their ideas handed off to a production company that hires a director and then finally has to be posted improved by client tested in bullshit testing and then shown on television. That is frankenstein that is not pomace idea any more than a little piece. And because of the way television works it has to be vanilla because they're trying to make that one thirty second video speak to everybody and look at the beautiful differences and faces genders ages and definitely ideas interest and all that injustice room let alone that tremendous amount of the people on the other side of commercial. There's nothing scarier to me in the world than vanilla frankenstein and it is ninety nine percent of what this industry puts on a pedestal. And it's sad and must change. And i hope that this class become some of the voices that help that to happen. Because that's the truth because you know what else is the truth as i see family members shake their heads. Nobody's watching these goddamn commercials. The hell are we talking about who watches commercials and so we are changing and this is good. This is not me. I'm not trying to this. This is good. It's not bad i'm not. I'm not making fun of the. I love the creative industry. I just want us to be self deprecating self aware. An honest to what's happening you know. Meanwhile super bowls the most important stage in the world. Everybody's watching that. Nothing is more important to me. I think every day about next year super bowl for my clients now but this is about attention and where it's consumed and once you get the bat place. Something else happens. Advertising was easy for a long time it was. Tv print radio outdoor. Like you understood the rules for a half a century. It's hard now being creative and getting people to pay attention means you have to understand the context of your distribution. That has always been true from drawing in a cave to being on tv today. Understanding the context of what works on tiktok versus pinterest versus instagram versus a pre roll youtube a television spot and ott spot a spotify self-serve record. Add like it's all. Nf keys in the building. I mean do you understand what's going on. This is fun for you. This should be fun for you. I have compassion for it to be scary and not fun to the incumbents and they will try to make you not think this is fun. It's not their fault. They're wonderful human beings that are worried about their families and their wellbeing. And that's what manifesting. They're insecure curious. Concerned worried all the things. All of us human should be. That's what's interesting in the halls of land. It's a big change. It's big change not little change as a big change and so what you're seeing people hunkering down on trying to do one of two things. I'm hunkering down for the passion. Conviction that i'm coming across in this talk on the other side. You have people who know they want to be in business for another twelve years. Who only know how to do it. One way who are hunkering down to keep the old way stuck until they can retire and go to miami and so the reality is my friends. Come in eyes. Wide open come into this. Industry is wide open. Continue your journey in. This industry is wide open. There's so much opportunity. It actually is about to get creative but you need to be a voice and let me explain what i mean by that. There's never been an era like this. There's some of the grey hairs. We all know that. Twenty three year olds and twenty five year olds and twenty seven year olds. Didn't have a voice at the table when we were your age today you do you take that for granted i love your audacity and ambitions and conviction it comes with some delusion but we all we all still have delusion. Don't be her palm. But i'm telling you right now. Listen take advantage you voice. There's a way to listen. I own my own business. There is no board. I fully control it. I can be a tough guy on lincoln and all these clapper's you gonna have a job. Somebody's your boss boss at the boston the boston the boss. So you're gonna have to deliver this conviction in a far more politically correct way. But it doesn't mean that you should be quiet. The number one thing i can tell you and then i will go into. Qna if george if you believe you're in the room and they're saying something about something you understand whether that's tiktok right whether that's linked in whether or not whatever that is do not die on someone else's sword. Every day i walk and in meetings and i see people biting their tongue. 'cause they don't agree a lot of times. They don't agree with me because they came from other agencies. And i make it safe for them to have dialogue. I'm a weird kind of character in the game. You're going to be in a lot of rooms where it's going to feel a lot less safe to do that. That is where you're going to have to have courage. And that's what i'm coming with year to say what you believe in a respectful manner. Let me tell you why in this change. A lot of things are going to happen. Many of you are going to find yourself in a place where you're not going to want to say something because you don't want to come off as disruptive or things that nature but it is in those words where if you end up being historically correct you will have your opportunities in the future. It's very important now. Another very important part of that. When you share your thoughts remember that this is business. And here's what i mean by that. I've watched incredible amounts of people come into my company and have incredible passion because we make it safe and they spent all their favorite words. And they forget that they're coming from a place of just worrying about the creativity of it. Not about the practicality of it people come with all sorts of ideas ideas are cute. But when you're doing it for business stakes you need the context of that reality. You might like it but the person that's receiving that may not like it and then they're not going to buy that donut understand so self awareness but conviction about things you know to be true in a time where it's never been more thoughtful and opportunistic to share that very humble to be with you today. I'll open enough for now. Thank you for having me. Thank you gary awesome. I love that speech. So that i'm gonna open the human ahah. Why don't we start with. Please allow. I'm sure you have a question. Go ahead yes. I have i thank you. Thank you thank you so much. You're welcome. thank you so much really grateful to have you here so my first question is are you hiring yes nice guy but i'm from my own agenda to get your apps in. We're busy love that love that okay but by is i've seen how you back into doesn't intend you had an interview and you predicted the technology. The apps you talked about snapshot About a little bit about twitter in you even predicted the nfc's You mentioned it. We're we right. Now we're thinking about these are how can we get the. So i don't wanna know how no nevermind. I wanna know how you did it. Not the predictions of the future. But how could you pinpoint the tendencies the culture and everything and you predicted this. you know. it's funny when you have my personality traits. People oftentimes think you're always talking your big mouth. You're all this. And that i spend ninety eight percent of my time listening. That's how every second you don't see me doing this. I'm listening. i'm watching. I've incredible you also have to be self aware of what you were gifted with. I believe in doubling down on your natural strength. I was gifted with intuition curiosity and humility. And sometimes those aren't obvious with gary on a piece of content but they are absolutely my superpowers. And i rarely think i'm right. I just think. I'm observing. And i really think about that stuff and i watch and i listen and i understand how humans are wired and i keep refining that listening and refining. I have humility when i'm wrong. I liked when. I'm wrong to be honest with you. It keeps you tack. And i go and i go and i moved i moved. I moved and i and you know i'm experienced. Don't forget i'm a little bit unique. I have really been entrepreneur and a listener and a seller and a marketer. Since i was six the reason i made that joke about school. I was a businessman in junior high. Let alone high school like i spend my weekends. Baseball card shows that. I would watch people how they would come to my table. Why would they buy that. I would talk to people at seven eight nine. I'm ringing doorbells trying to sell them my services to shovel their driveway after a snowstorm. Wash their car. When i was seven years old. I was sitting on the corner of new jersey streets watching cars drive by and looking at the driver's face to figure out where to put my lemonade. Stand sign. this has been my game my whole life. I've been chasing attention and understanding what people do my whole life so at forty five. I'm refined i'm a that. This is not something i went to school with. This is who i am. And so i stand out because i don't talk about things i don't know which absolutely destroys people so what that does is it. Lets you know. I love showing all these videos. You see right and the reason that people that razz me compete with me. Don't have a lot of video to say. Fuck gary all these wrong things is i. Don't say a lot of things wrong and here's why priscilla mostly talk about isn't predicting let me give you an insight to why was so right about nfc's ready. I mean i've. I've never shared this. But i'm giving it to you like your hair and i'm in the mood. I can reason. I predicted that. Fte's right. because obviously i need. No blockchain was coming was because a farm bill right. I understood that our lives were becoming more and more digital. And i started watching people do things for sheep and spending money and i understood that the same reason somebody wants to wear a gucci bag to flex or ride a bmw humans to communicate through their purchases. That's why the fashion industry exists. Otherwise we'd all were the same thing jessica's wearing those glasses. 'cause she's trying to communicate right. You know like this is what we do. We communicate right eric. Piece got his look. We communicate and so as we become more digital the things we own in digital form. Take over for a pair of jordache jeans in one thousand. Nine hundred. Three take over for fresh nike collab- off whites today they take over and it's coming and it's going to be real and i'm going to be right while everybody thinks i'm wrong because they're looking at things literally and i'm thinking about things from a macro human standpoint the question to answer eric. You're next a well Version will be actually You said that you love being run. Yes migration goes around. Dad bart About how you deal with your mistake. How learn from you the Ding have to stay. How do you handle that easily by a very interesting. Answer this question eric. The reason i'd feel so well with being wrong which happens. All the time is. Because i don't get high when i'm right. Do you want to know the easiest way to deal with booing or with negative comments. Don't listen to the cheering and positive comments. I think the reason it's good for me. Erica's because i stay in my very small cocoon within my own head right in the middle i listen. I'm living a life right now. Where i have a lot of accolades and when i tell you you can't imagine how much i don't if i disappear off the face the tomorrow i'll get twelve hours of some love on social media and everybody here will move on with their lives when you have the humility to know you mean nothing but the ambition to me everything. She gets real interesting. Thank you think interesting. Surely you're up next. Thank you for everything we like. It was very inspiring. I really fascinated with everything. Slow get my question. Goes on the line. Have you ever being afraid of the path that you were walking. And they made me. You felt like maybe this is not my path. And maybe i should do something and like how you bought that and how they encourage yourself to go go on and do like how do you know when the game. This question to my. You're not telling you the right thing. Not only not complicating it. You're you're you're exposing feelings. And i can tell you right now. You have to do the thing that you actually feel. Whatever the practical part of you like so. I believe and i hope i get to see it but i think it's going to take some time. I believe that intuition is uncomfortably misunderstood in society and i hope like alcoholism and mental health that i'll be on earth when we get to talking about intuition in a far more thoughtful way than we talk about it now so i live in a way where my intuition trump's every thought i have every logical thing that you can tell me if my chemicals are telling me something else. There's not even a debate if my chemicals tell me. I have live underwater like a fish right now in a submarine. I would literally walk out of this room right now and do that. I think you have to start trusting your intuition. And if you're asking that question you already know the answer. You're just dealing with the fear of the ramifications and the way i talk about fear ramifications is the following. You have to be humble an empathetic. Let me explain a lot of times. People don't want to do something else because if financially hurts them and they're they don't have the humility to live by taking one step backwards a lesser home unless car lesser vacation right. So that's the humility. That's needed to make the jump and then empathy the reason most people don't make jumps. Is they value other people's opinions more than their own happiness instead of being mad at yourself or even them. I try to get people to understand. Be empathetic to your mom and dad. They love you. That means they're scared by nature. Love means fear. So if you're going to be a standup comedian. After you decided to spend all this money on education they're gonna be scared but don't be mad at them and definitely. Don't be scared for yourself. You just know you need to go do it. You have to be empathetic that. Of course they're going to be scared or pissed if they paid for your education. But it's your life. And i can promise you one thing. When i was a child. I spent a lot of time with seventy and eighty year old people. I'm not kidding the weirdest thing and finally in my mid forties. I'm starting to understand it. Whether i was born in old soul whether wisdom came naturally to me or who or because i did this and feel comfortable with grandparents. Did i become a little bit more wise and have did it rub off on me. I can promise you something. Surely there's nothing scarier in the world outside of the health and wellbeing of yourself and your loved ones which is number one two three four five six seven eight nine. Ten number eleven is regret. There's nothing scarier than regret. You want to see real pain outside of death and illness. Go talk to somebody who's sixty seven. Seventy four eighty to ninety one talk about life. They will always talk with pain in their eyes about the things they didn't do.

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#185: Zombie Blackjack

Gambling Podcast: You Can Bet on That

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#185: Zombie Blackjack

"July fourth twenty nineteen from l go home california this is episode one hundred eighty five we shop you can bet on that hi everybody welcome to you bet on that podcast for the recreational my name is mark of all in sitting across from me is doctor my fellow longtime listeners of the show will know that for whatever reason mike your exposed to a lot of public nudity yes endless stephen wanna know if you've seen any nudity lately no you're you're kind of in a slump i'm in islam yeah well i'd like i was telling you earlier they had a report on cbs news saying that casino nudity was down in two thousand nineteen oh really so it's a trend it's a trend is trending down okay all right what do you think is the cost that i don't know i i personally i think i'm not paying enough attention okay so maybe that's it it's new disease there i'm just not paying enough attention okay so i i'm a little confused and why this report back on david it's down did they just ask you probably just mind this is jason from cbs news nudity in the casinos it's down what i'm gonna pay more attention and i'm gonna create nudity if i don't if they don't come naturally all created okay an then maybe we can skype from prison will be on the show this show on the last episode we had a question about upstate new york casinos in since you and i have never been been to any upstate new york if we as listeners the hey you know give us some advice on good casinos for people who are living in upstate new york and we actually got several responses we got a couple of calls one from professor slots john over professor slots one from joe we got eight tweet from instant class on twitter and we also got an email from chris and i thought what i do is just kind of consolidate everybody from yeah because there were some overlap and so let let's just go through some of the casinos here if you're if you're curious about upstate new york all right all right so first of all start with the seneca niagara resort and casino in niagara falls on usa side it's a very large resort that has everything you would find in the vegas casino plenty of slots in video poker to ten dollar craps table five times odds nobleman spats however who a five dollar game in the morning if you ask professional dealers a small poker room anna great steak house okay so those are some of the comments again first seneca niagara resort casino you'd think that niagara falls that'd be the most right yeah right get a lot of tourists there insure next up is seneca allegheny resort and casino it's away in the mountains next to the pennsylvania border five dollar craps game five times odds no bonus spats analog regulars there makes sense to ride it 'cause it's a ways away from things so it's gonna be locals yep next up is seneca buffalo creek casino in buffalo obviously it's right near key bank center where the buffalo sabres hockey team plays a no hotel her poker room but there's talk of adding both so we didn't get too much information there but if you're going to sabres game yeah that'd be a good thing you know go to a hockey game and go to the casino afterwards i bet there crowded nexus falls view casino resort in niagara falls actually on the canadian side ontario five or ten dollar craps games depending on when you go and they do have these all small tall right probably pretty good sized casino i would think so right again niagara falls next up is resorts world catskills has table games including ten times odds on crap nice next up is del lago resort and casino in waterloo new york opened in february twenty seventeen at has nineteen hundred fifty nine slots eighty four table games and fourteen poker tables and finally turning stone resort and casino in verona new york has a pretty good reputation in a highly regarded poker room the floor is quite large in has everything you would want so again this is not a comprehensive list but just some information we got from some of our listeners if you're in upstate new york area seems like you've got a lot of choices and seems like a lot of choices just two things missing what's that's her number one there is no mention of keno at any of these casino you know there wasn't but when i was looking online i didn't write it down i think there was at least one that had keno okay okay so maybe maybe there's some end and i'm sure there's video keno but yeah well yeah i you're i expect rely on my life keno that would be no yeah with balls that video keno that's millennials stuff you know you're gonna get guys like you know i just don't know that i've seen them millennials playing video gino mark you gotta look okay i'll look next time you nudity forever when we go to what millennial do we know that we could go to the would really know about that probably adam at around our trail fan but he'd know i am sure he think he plays a lot of video keno let's just say say does he like let's say he plays it after his wife goes to sleep and he's in bed on his practice is i found it lay money you got it out all night are so close comes up so you said two things that was yelling others may was nudity is no reports of any anything about that yeah yeah that's sad sad state of millennial thing to they're not interested nudity is that true too old guys stewart more interesting nudity that's right well for those who were still listening got kind of a funny story from this last time up at a harris so one that joke that i do quite a bit at the table is especially the camaro mike has so many bedford he makes a lot of people make a lot of prop bet right it is at southern cal resort casino there are a lot of prop better i'm not dealing you're not like most everybody right so it takes quite a long time so so once all the besser set up i like to turn to the stick person in say a no nothing for me yeah wendy on sticky other night and i said wendy nothing for me and she flipped me off a double fisted slip up it's like i couldn't believe it here's what really happened really out for him mike said hey wendy next time mark says that flip him all right iso wendy's super nice like i can't do that you know you get in trouble blah blah blah and what happened was it was i said wendy nothing for me and she was actually handing the stick over to somebody else you moving the you know behind the table and so she flipped me off but she didn't want this guy is he knows very subtly down by the way around a it'll tell you she's a good sport i love that i left all night great of a dealer just like i just gave you i i remember doing it up at lake tahoe nobody but he knew me so much i just turned the dealer next me yeah brad nothing for me thank you a well a that reminds me and other funny thing is we got an email from a listener who said that he is using the term jack white yeah right and the dealers caught onto it and the dealer who is on another table over him hey jack white were hitting a lot of hard eights over love that i left all week about bad minutes great restarting the trend yeah our influencers did dealers and people out flipping them off that that were able to start doing that just say jack white you're done with your product yeah all right mike well this will make you happy we're gonna talk about zombie blackjack there's nothing that would make me out on our show notes i will put things that maybe we're not talking about on the current episode but it will be coming up on a future episode 'cause i just copy show notes it's like yeah no i don't forget in zombie blackjack has been on the show notes for some time that the mind every week i'd like when do we gotta talk about zombie blank really wants no about zombie plaques egg okay so it's a variation of blackjack let's talk about a little but the way this works is if the dealer has eight seven eight nine ten face card or ace up in the player busts the players bet is put aside income come back to life like a zombie if the dealer ends up busting now the cats as usual a lot of these variations is when the dealer busts with exactly twenty two all player hands that having already busted push right right anyone he's still got a life hand it's just a it's just a ploy no matter what they have right have too many it's a push right and if you're if you have busted in you're waiting to see if you'll come back to life that's a loss so let me so here here's another way to put it so if the dealer has a seven eight nine ten face card or ace up end the player busts including after doubling splitting whatever then the players that shelby boxed that's how it's reference it goes into this special bach and maybe and come back to life and these boxed bets will win if the dealer busts with twentythree or more points i gotcha right so again if the dealer bus what twenty two all hands but having busted push but these box one one of those louis right now keep in mind this only happens when the dealer has a seven eight nine ten face card or ace up it won't apply if the dealer has a two three four five or six up but you know as a player you're probably not busting very often in those cases when the dealer has a two three four five six showing right there might be some exceptions allocated for the player 'cause if the dealer at a two up they're more likely to get twenty to write a year and a half twelve and ten twenty two while i dunno that's good why is that good for the player well because they they don't automatically push then you gotta do is yeah a twenty two is a push in any in any case i thought just if a dealer had no no no no any any only two so yeah bad for the play yes i'm actually glad you brought that up yeah no i just think it just apply to when they had a seminar who know any twenty two is when that's how they yeah otherwise that's a big head probably be a beautiful game yeah right and that's that's what i'm thinking i listen i think it will great if the dealer has it up i'm probably just gonna stay right but again as a player you're typically only gonna bust when the dealer has a seven eight nine ten face carter ace up so there are some exceptions like a twelve against the two you know they can happen but anyway that house that's where the game is just over one percent depending on rules like what blackjack pays is three to six to five how many decks things like that so it's not about how said that seems like be kind of fun to play i kind of fun like is anytime you you know you're gonna bust fairly often right the problem is if the dealer shown a seven higher well they're probably not gonna bust but you know they will every once in a while horse every once in a while yeah and then you come back to life i like that yeah that's what his army by so you come back to life you automatically win so yeah that's okay yeah i like so new see that's what i wanna know somebody blackjack how's that work zombie blackjack and of course there's a different basic strategy i'll post a link to the wizard of oz site as usual and you can look that up and all these other information about it i guess the real discouraged anything on the game is that if you do come back to life the dealer gets inaction jackson structure head off yeah well i mean but you zombie blackjack so just because you're heads chopped off doesn't mean you can't come back to life you have to actually get something through you're brain oh it's the brain the brain if you just cut the head off you're still alive the body could still be walking looking around well i don't know about the body but the head could still be active and eat stuff but it's just can't go anywhere right so you don't do that explains a lot of the people i've seen in vegas yeah there you go yeah well i'm just walking around headless body and the head just still at the table lot about how the law yeah yeah there you go any other comments rob zombie blodget now i really got study zombies more you should be getting that is pretty consistent zombie the only way the kill it is a shot to the head it's a shower or or you know anything a knife to the brain you know something like that so if i cut it zombies head off and then shop their body up in the little pieces and then chapter hit up but don't touch the brain they're still alive well i don't know how could you chop the head up without chopping up the brain oh just very carefully i've got i've got tons of scalpels in office i could do it let's try this after the show yeah okay see 'cause i don't i really don't know the answer david hey thanks everyone is been clean for amazon link remember whenever you're gonna buy something through amazon please go to our page first you could bet on that dot com and click through amazon link towards the top of the page all right let's move on door voicemail hotline segment remember call her hotline at nine five one two nine two four three seven seven that's nine five one to wager maybe will play your clip on the show first up is little joe hi mark and doctor my little joe from pokomo calling to see if the truth here had any opinions about dini eldorado caesar's merger that got announcing another day i've been talking to some dealer friends and most people don't know what to think they just know that many of the properties around here are unionized wildly eldorado ones are not really sure how that's gonna impact or the gamblers case about you thought frank yeah i don't know about you might but i've had a lot of people ask me you know what we think of a were kind of in a wait and see mode ray well we've had two things so i think we both agree on that'll happen then they'll probably sell some properties yes right there's definitely talk about the rio aaron may be planning hollywood in vegas right in atlantic city maybe tropicana right or who knows maybe one of the caesar's properties now and then the other thing i think that's most impactful as far as employees go is gonna be the fact that some of the higher ups are gonna be gone probably hammer is a merger like that you know the face employees the people working in the casino fine yeah it's the higher up people they're gonna change management and they're just get 'cause every once every owner wants to put their own people in that could be in for people who were high up in caesar's right now eldorado is really taking over that scary for them 'cause somebody eldorado people are gonna take their job you know obviously as far as other labor gosto and union everything i mean so i i'm not even gonna offer an opinion 'cause i have no idea i don't know enough about hypocr anything typically it wouldn't change too much although if they restructure and they sell properties and stuff then people lose jobs well if you and i have said that really the only thing were concerned about at this point is will they deem value reward credits or cesary war lemonade i'm completely right just you know we're thinking that if that does happen it probably wouldn't be killed towards the end of the year maybe the beginning of next year so throw it all we heard the maybe sometime next year maybe even middle of action well let me read you something that actually went out all caesars entertainment employees all right this came out the david the acquisition was announced today is the first day in the approval process and the transaction is expected the closed in the first half of twenty twenty until the transaction closes caesar's and eldorado will continue to operate as separate companies and it will be business as usual in our day to day activities and again that went out to employees so right yeah i'm thinking we don't need the word while we may not need a worry at all but if we need to start thinking about maybe spending all a reward credits or something like that it wouldn't be till the end of this year maybe even the beginning of next year that that's argus by the way i think that's the only thing that as a player and a patron of you know caesar's properties that we need to wear and if you're worried about maybe getting fewer com sir you know things like that well if that's gonna happen it's gonna happen there's not much you can do about it right there i've seen you do have is how much there is absolutely nothing you can do about that so will see and you know maybe next year everyone's loyalties change will will do like maybe everyone's a you know going damn lifeguard could be i can't imagine but yeah you go yeah all right next up is todd todd calls from madison wisconsin oh i'm a first time listener my manager actually recommended you're podcast because he told me about the show you guys did on top of crap an i'm a frequent vegas go where i go minimum alleys order five times a year to sexually play play their bubble crafts i one thousands of dollars consistently every time i go in i normally play on the stroke of multiple you know and i notice you guys said something it shows that they will catch you out at twelve hundred dollars seed also pay taxes that has never happened to me for multiple years and i'll just kinda wondering which you know that happening and kind of why 'cause i've had show tickets in the two three four grand range multiple times why on roles winning more than twelve fifteen hundred dollars 'cause i prefer to play the bubble kratz because you win more you get your change that is owed end is to me i think it's a little stress free yeah plan i'm listening to you show a lot more and i will truly right and then playing this bubble crashed the older machines are we better big no break i've known a lot of people that are time craps on those machines and they've won thousands of dollars consistently so yeah you got a great show all find out again chairs us as far as this twelve hundred dollar amount goes again when it comes to slot machines video poker any pay out on a single poll on the machine or a single hand video poker that's twelve hundred dollars or more they have to fill out a w two genes for you now with these bubble craps machines i don't know the ones here at harris southern california i know will start spinning out yes ticket when you get close posted that twelve hundred dollar amount as yeah i'm not gonna claimed and know what the law is but i would guess if a single role of the dice not like one shooter but a single roll the dice ended up in you winning twelve hundred dollars or more i dunno multiple best what a happy one bet i don't know it might be subject to a w two gee maybe these machines can be set up differently all i can say is that at least here they do start spinning out tickets early so i can't say you know why that might be a one place and other limits are so low how would you win twelve hundred dollars on a guy that is true to you know the limits are low so again that's something now todd glad you found the show i'm so glad you're a new listener i hope this doesn't turn you off to the show but here a couple of things number one none of these machines were rigged old or new they're not rigged machines the casino doesn't need for them to be rid they already have an advantage and nobody is going to win thousands of dollars consistently on these machines todd i'm not saying you have not won a lot of money in fact mike i was showing you how i'm doing this year i'm up for craps this year yeah with his much as we play real craps i'm ahead yeah you're ahead substantially ahead i'm not that far down so 'cause i've had some big wave lately you can win but even with these machines they're still negative e v game so but i'm glad that you're doing well i'm glad the people who have you've shown machine to have done well and hope you liked the bottom line the math can't lie even on the machine yeah those dice they're just gonna roll and statistically you know and they are random rules are they completely random random enough that you're gonna get that bell curve on what comes out but somebody things he said about baba craps yeah it's nice around to the penny you know so you're gonna get paid off correctly in you know things like that and well and and a lot of people find a stress free now see that depends their personality for me it's more stress yeah yeah it'd be the countdown could be yeah i mean yeah i second they make too many vets but but like are friendly on she loves to play it because she only that's like two numbers mhm dispense the same number three dollars yeah yeah she likes the fact that she came back to three dollars on each one and she told me last night she had a session where she put forty dollars of free planning cashed out for three hundred dollars now see that's great you know and she just makes little tiny mess but you know like feis were coming up or whatever and for her she loves that these machines can be set up in so many different different ways mike remember we were at blasio in the bubble craps they're actually said you could not use free play on it right hand you would not earn any m life points right playing it at all at all right that oh he's just like you know all right next calls from jacob z audio is a little rough so just a warning upfront hallmark in after mike this is jacob from new york giving you a bit of a trip reports from las vegas we actually met after my at harris about a year ago i'm one of the guys whose body work that had why you so we got the doctor micro while not let us know they're calling from brooklyn annual trip to vegas a couple of weeks ago the best though we have ever had three day trip hausky kind of law everywhere we went with turned out to be an actually one of the least you know i'm hoping just have some fun and conserve are money for that big saturday night they've turned around quickly each property over a thousand dollars offer guys are eight a little bit more important dealer that would be part of this at a couple of different casinos i know you've been talking about that lately so just start with a positive ones we had great experiences a heroin and information so i wanna give a shout out to defend you should do is just the best deal that we have ever had and it helps that we killed it at the table and then also went to the tone off the strip an amazing time there too so the craft brewers really great if you have at least what we typically visit but we just love that some of the negative dealers member raj was awful it looked tasteful in ocular even be there so you know we did cry because it had been ends just want us to a few holes but they were just the worst andy do much better at treasure island jackie wilson every time the shooter role he would stay to the stick man they got it out coming out of course you're talking about the dice but it may espionage you've talked about the players we lost their pretty quickly end you know the rest of the trip was nathan average elsewhere but we had a great time to do that record of course you know we keep it up sex definitely good crews at harris weaken us it's always good definitely bad crews it a mirage dr definitely had some really man cruiser venetian palms we just haven't played there recently to say why buy homes once my whole you might yeah i think mike you're right i think you only time i had been the palms would leave that one time i remember one time i so long ago it's like well they have tv's on the crowd i spent the first scene where we were like excited now t i we've had great experiences tr we had a whole recently with good experience but just in this case jacob just not good so you know that's certainly not unusual to just how bad crew in a good crude the same property maybe just different times of day defensive center yeah all right let's hear from tree guy trey from chattanooga tennessee on your podcast listening probably the last two much drama catch up pick and choose what i've seen coming up on topics haven't heard many people from chattanooga sports we don't have any gambling here but we do make it over to north carolina we have to harris property cherokee belly river an heiress charity i guess my question is time is lifting juniors ranch cops topic right now i guess it's he's touched on it prior how asper com that go beyond just made it free dinner something like that i'll be traveling out to vegas august first connected on first time on the west coast have been over here east coast carolina's indiana see a much better myself so part of a high roller but my question is how i feel about asking for compo on my wife forget on state and local casinos we're not their hair's but i shouldn't independent company here folks international federally licensed gave me knows syndicated they're not gonna ask these costs which i find her pretty high any advice on how gotta ask for something like that and then also put my travels with me it's not much of a gambler in the spa and then once again the lowest told me i could ask for the concept who asked when i'm there that's how asking anyway guys were not talking about if you're a big enough player entry it sounds like you are a lot of casinos will compensate you for airfare now if it's a place you haven't been before they might not do it until the end of your trip once they've they wanna see what you mean by your play and that's i guarantee that's what they'll tell you but they'll say go ahead and play time here when you're leave and we'll see what we can do for you but i would say call ahead of time call the property where you're gonna be going an app just asked to speak to a casino host telling your situation if maybe you're rated at other casinos telling the level talent what you typically play how long you played amounts like that an ask him about it you know what about airfares in again like you said mike they'll probably come back with yes you will see what you're players like at the end of the trip and you know bringing a receipt freer effort adam where they give you like well you know if you telling you play and they say well if you do that if you're playing for that long time and you're playing that amount of money and you're buying is this and blah blah blah yeah you'll probably get a comp but we can't do anything until then that could he has been you get sick or you do something else you don't spend a lotta time they're you know they're not gonna do much for you but they will come up all that yeah in certainly a spot if you're white goes the spy traveling problem yeah and when you get there all you have to do is go to the vip check in and you wanna talk talked to host you know they'll they'll be what i would recommend again calling ahead of time and then when you check out make sure you're dealing with a host to not just somebody you know at the checkout right yeah yeah right and another thing to you gotta be careful if you're leaving it weird times 'cause i've had that where i've left real early there's no host on or real late and you know there's one host and they're doing other that's good point so if you are gonna be leaving at a weird time make sure you get that worked out but right by the or hey yeah exactly and is if you wait till the last minute 'cause i've had it where they say oh you know we just don't have a host from you know three m tests again you don't wanna have to be calling from home you know later trying things right yeah exactly all right we're gonna hear from trade a little bit later to next up is riley hey mark in doctor mike this is riley from tulsa 'em first wanna say i love you guys show i've been a longtime listener firsttime caller like many people i'm only twenty years old so i don't have many options whole suffer playing craps i have to drive an hour and a half to play crafted downstream but i have a recent trip report at osage casino playing blackjack and i want you guys hear about so a host playing free that blackjacks basically the house pays for you to double down in split in the catch is that i had twenty two the push so this is the most interesting thing that's ever happened to me so i i have a twenty five dollars down on my bed and i get up to nine against the carter five first nine i get a tan get a nineteen stay on that the second nine i'm up another nine split those to the first nine of that set get a two and two and eleven which i double her free into twentyone 'em the second nine about i get built a fourth nine that first nine of the next that i get at eleven in double into an eighteen and then the second nine in that said i get a ten inch get a nineteen so i they stand to win quite a bit of money in the deal is up cardinals five so i'm pretty confident here a rt of hundred bucks and it's gonna see what's gonna happen and then leave a booking a nice win so the dealer says flipping over their cards andy the dealer on top of the five ten fifteen and then a seven get the twenty two on top of that the twenty two was suited which pays eighty to one some people hanadova between ten and twenty dollars on the side that her the push twenty two so they got paid a lot of money for that seated twenty two and i ended up pushing all of those debts and ended up going home a small winter but i wanna share that story with you guys pretty crazy craziest thing that's ever happened to me when did you guys the year about that very charming yeah love the show and a hope they give you some more exciting trip reports very soon keep up the good work guys yeah bad beat there you go you know that's the twenty two that they have in these games at least you didn't lose anything right now you just said it would have been worse if they hit the twentyone if i were you have the right if i were following it correctly it look he had a twenty five dollar bet the star with and with all those splits and double down again which the casino pays for 'cause this is free but blackjack i think that total a hundred and twenty five dollars a so those were all free so he if the dealer buster would say twentythree he would have one hundred and fifty dollars just on a twenty five dollar bet right yeah what you're biggest a crazy split story involves dates i'm sure probably anytime you split eights and then he ended up splitting yeah i've had five eight five split is that how many five you the thing is you're supposed to split aids yeah but it's a defensive it's a defensive move good yes that's the best way to play because a pair of eight still bad you split so you will lose less money in the long run hope again in eighteen ninety and the deal is still a losing hand yeah right field but i've had it where i split five times in a in a little bit lost a mom yeah yeah yeah all right next call hi guys that's from virginia i just wanna touch base with you i just got back home to virginia from las vegas for the first time man out for the world series of poker and had a complete blast i stayed at harris so i had a little bit chance the play crafts there it was okay wasn't great didn't win any nine but i had a blast and devils pretty much all matter to me i spent a lot more time at the radio playing poker then i did anything else i ran well i mean cashed in one tournament wind circles satellites stick it into larger tournament and goodwill felt like i could hang with everybody out there at the time now they're back com i'm gonna have a chance to sit down greensboro insane exactly how well i do but as of this moment i'm doing pretty good at least i feel i have anyway just one touched base and he died and let you know our dallas at now i'll call that good sounds like a workout well hopefully when you go through aldy accounting you'll find out that you were winter and it sounds like he had a good experience that that was a big horn yeah 'cause they'll give him there next year i know but when when you feel confident the poker table it's great yeah you know right it could be falsely you're just you know running hot with the cards you know yeah just running good feeling good is important in your play definitely when it comes to poker yeah when it comes to poker 'cause you know if you're not it's a miserable experience and you probably won't win knowing you you're going tilt yeah right yeah yeah all right next up is ryan hey guys ryan from las vegas i've been called in a while just wanna call in and give you a story on what happened any other day all playing out a red rock casino playing crosshairs other day and it was just me and my buddy were playing and i'm standing right next to the deck and then my buddies about with the hook is really only two on the table and the our lady walked right up and she tell the boss denise tell these jerks just go over so i can play in the pit boss kind of looks like now the whole tables open and she's like oh my god but that's my lucky spot whatever so she stands on right in the middle between us we make room for so she puts her money down and then it would my role in my first of all all the two so we lost her past that i guess the dice again and i roll through again we surpassed one that goes the let anybody shooters table and start saying things like that just like let anybody shoot or these young guys have no idea what they're doing kind of giving us some attitude so she pulls her money off in stays in that spot and i could in a role and i i think i made one point it wasn't a good role at all but it wasn't terrible so they finally passed its i served and she says oh time to get the dice someone knows what they're doing and just kind of look at it like what is she talking about so i add about five hundred dollars in my rock and i took all five hundred not laid it on the dome past just she's being so ruth me and she looks at me and she goes you better take that money out there and i like a no wherever i want and she looks at the dealer and says he needs to take that money off the map you could bet wherever you want she goes fine if you're funeral rolls her come out roles and eight and then first first row right after that she sevens now get paid she goes you pay me half back i just need to all that money and i said no way i just thought it was pretty annoying she thinks that the younger you are maybe you don't wanna roll the dice i mean there's no skill involved i don't i know you guys do some stuff like this maybe not so that extent but anyways guys figured easy and some people just wanna see the world burn yeah that would albert said about the joker income yeah there's someone else's said you know what it is though what ryan doesn't understand is that woman she needs that spot between sets her lucky spot and you know what she's never rolled two craps on the come out in row oh okay yeah that's never she's seven doubt but she's never ruled she grabbed her oh no no no you know what she is she's a jack jack white she's a jack white yeah then you should have just looked at it ryan said excuse me miss jack white but i'm gonna roll the way i wanna roll you're a jack white you how could she be did he called her jack there's nothing wrong with that is true i should say oh that's it in terms of endearment i call my grandmother i'm trying trying to break it up jack white what adnan knowing person i gave him credit 'cause i could not take white people like why why am i even asking that question but you have a fear i do have a serious that any any but i'm gonna be at the somebody asked me what i serious yeah vox got a theory i seem really cheerful asked me all right let's mix we got an international reports from nick hey mark in doctor my this is from virginia oklahoma bitter or from the barcelona vero beach in the counter dominican now there are about a week and they have a small casino inside that blackjack roulette and from poker bearing a table games laws slot machines i play a fair amount of black guy falls down and they have really good rules three to pay out on blackjacks banks you can a way anytime he doubled down after a split the one thing i didn't like that they have there is that when the deal had the ace up they don't show you whether or not they got a blackjack gopher me what happens one night i'm a little roller softly five dollars hips and i built my stack after about thirty dollars a pair of aces against the bill race outside the go ahead and what science put another thirty dollars out there and then after my split waiter out there she decided to flip it over and nationally that they were the black guy so i want more money that without but i made more money on the better rules overall is really good wings it'd be very knowledgeable quick in that wound up about a hundred dollars of the week and i played about ourselves every day now i love the show and then what you're doing good thanks nick so it sounds like it's similar to the european blackjack rules that we were talking about on the last episode right except the dealers actually do get a down card they just don't check you don't check it when i tell all these actions we've seen that before though why haven't we seen where they don't check well yeah but we've never seen it where then they take all the bats right listening look folks i'm sitting across right okay and he's got all are sports bets out in his red pants and he's got his phone now okay no the problem was yeah they don't check but they wait for everybody's accident and you lose 'cause they have blackjack you lose you're splitting money you're double double down money i got that okay i got down but we've seen where where they deal and don't share and they don't check i haven't seen in a long time because they've got those raiders yeah right could have the reader spending any olden days we saw that a lot of if but yeah it wasn't where they took you're they would have junior split back and you're double down yes so how right you can yes but that's the way it used to be back when we were in their twenties i it someplace yeah in some places not all but some you know all right next up is alex hey mark and back tonight georgia's medicare trade support all is in tampa this past weekend series seminole hard rock and i play blackjack and since you're saying cranks but they didn't have crash i wanna know if i'm addicted the crash a reason i ask is this old play blackjack game chatwin seven out of ten times place and then i got into crowds canals seen the kind of intent on planes both brass spin pretty much all my plane crash and i'll say they're gonna lose a lot more than i went whenever i played perhaps however i still have the pitch to play craps even though i lose you know i don't know maybe it's just because he wants them blackjack blackjack just kind of automatic you know based strategy but it's just weird that you know by sacraments in our own money tons of his own age in place parents had double bass player a machine guns at all so like in my a song all all all of our show alex you're the most normal person in the world he's addicted grabs me is not he is he's not he's going into a casino where he's probably gonna win if he plays blackjack but instead he goes to craps where he's probably gonna lose 'cause he likes to have fun and he's enjoying his life that's the definition of an attic tonight more ways than normal normal person there's nothing wrong with this man he's a hundred percent correct why go be tormented by blackjack when he could have fun playing craps now he's addicted if he goes and plays craftsman loses his rent money okay well i that is his office i wouldn't say that's addicted addicted i say he's got a gambling problem okay now semantics because i think we're addicted all right i'm saying we're not saying alex saying we are addicted the crap i think alex just isn't a jack white okay that's what then on that we agree makes go hey mark and doctor my condition joe from dallas one of the give you all right quick trip reports from my dodgeville party in vegas this past weekend overall came out pretty big loser which is disappointing sports betting in blackjack really hammer meany especially honduras secure a soccer game thirty five shots the five somehow did not score a goal for the team at thirty five shots but how they a fun little time crom wells is playing some i gal fifteen dollars a hand everytime i would get about eight single chips the white ones however the boston like taken down for de dealers on the craps table rob heart six anniversary a little bit confused by what they will take it over there each time and then eventually i don't even get the pit boss anymore and i was literally throwing shifts over to the craps table for dealer hearts six it and every once in a while my she run over but down for chips were too hard six today and sure enough we have one there's a lot of fun getting the play with the dealers on i was playing a different game they definitely appreciate it at the next night when i was playing craps them and they're like hey you reshaped appreciate the fats in that was definitely one of the coolest experiences and i have all my trip then appreciative of the pit boss and the staff there for letting me do something that may not be allowed other places throwing ships across the casino but overall great strip hope it goes better that create the outlook for the next one guy that's a doctor mike move if i've ever heard of wind gradually see another scene were in a row i saw you smile i know love story now you're gonna wanna do that just it all there for crafting harris to be throwing a firm one table to another yeah i threw chips in the trash and we know that it allowed to say anything pearl out hitting roll out of bed after that any other that's fantastic job i'm gonna get exercise see i'm gonna run among the four tables making best just from down real quick and i'm gonna be under two twinning before no time wonder why let's hear from trading again guys trade jimmy from chattanooga tennessee as my way home i was listening to one of the prior podcasts and people were talking about hey casino that was new with new dealers and they were overpaying and it just kind of take my interest and i haven't come tell the story out harris charity about four years ago i would defer about five night tonight become pretty good friends with one of the dealers choose unreal laugh and we were winding down at night and they were not going to well but i think about my last thirty bucks so i put it on the second johnson and apparently i put close enough to the line in the ciro or dozy row came up on the wheel she grabbed my stack and shifts and immediately split over the line between the second and third does them which of course you know courtesy line in looked at me and said that's where you meant to put that men right i mean not knowing exactly what to do in that moment right after all the drinks are probably had and i said yeah absolutely so so i think my wife's thirty bucks got turned in like five hundred and ten dollars or something like that i don't know that was certainly ill advised but i that moment i guess i was in a bit of shock and just kind of wet weather in regardless i think the next time i regret the casino for two or three nights i did not see her which may very well be explained by that move but i just wanna tell you guys that look for democracy in vegas in august and a look for the next yeah sounds like she did you favor yet a and i you know i guess it's the kind of thing where yeah you need to be careful visit the casino doesn't think that you two are in who is unlike the cheating going on let's kind of explain what happened there for people people who may not be familiar with v roulette lay out so onny outside their three different betsy you could make first twelve second twelve thirty twelve it's just you know the yeah the numbers lit up when third when you're an if you put you're chips right on the line between the second twelve in the third twelve that's called the courtesy line that's actually a bet on zero in double zero yeah i mean it's just easier if you say you're on that end of the table is just too far go to zero zero you can put it right there so what trade was saying was when he made his bat on the second twelve it was really close to the outline of look like in so the dealer kind of moved it over there for him so which is probably what he did intend tend to do an she probably he he said in the call but that's not what incentive do i heard but i mean it seems like that what he would be intending to do right know why has he did respective from her perspective no i don't think no no i think so i think what i'm saying he thinks she just i think she's cheating foreign oh yeah and that's why needs be careful i don't think there's a dealer mistake i think she did this intentionally 'cause they had a good reporter going and maybe they after whatever you know i mean it's just you know what i was thinking my take was like oh she's thinking you know oh he doesn't know and he meant to put it may be that bad all night long or at least a few times and then he had been i don't know yeah well you didn't say that no you know okay well either way it worked out it did work out trey you're not in jail maybe she is yeah maybe icier but anyway i don't think she is probably not as bad tonight thinking she's i think she's i think she's got another job or maybe went to different shift yeah or or she's just got vacation yeah she's fine and she's fine yeah all right next call hey mike in mark this is chris gone from philly wanna to call and the get jerry rice on some things so i work really close to the sugarhouse casino and silly a we got four casinos out here right around the city at parx casino sugarhouse casino valley forge casino andy harris chester casino all those four i go sugarhouse the most because it's basically walking distance my work so i could go there pretty frequently i usually buying around two hundred dollars an play for anywhere from half an hour to an hour at a time sometimes up to three times a week so i've been trying to figure out what to do with my play because it's really impossible to get free slot play round table play sugarhouse fan and there's not really a lot of benefits that i get from it i can't seem to crack into another level a nother cheer of player card now the play that i'm talking about here i know that much but i know that you're really familiar west total reward system so i wanted to check and see if that kind of right two hundred dollar by an hour why a week would generate any kind of real solid benefits if i decided to go out to harris gesture stead of sugarhouse so that's the real thing that i'm looking for here while i'm on the call just figured i would give you a summary of the philadelphia could seino's seino's at how they break down in case anybody ever decides the belly so silly casinos we've got four got the parx casino sugarhouse valley forge an harris chester a fenced in my opinion furlough rollers is probably valley for they only have ten dollar minimum but they do not have any don't expect next after that for lower others will be harrah's although i don't go out there very frequently i hear that they do have some ten dollar minimum tables a on the weekends next up sugarhouse they are pretty expensive for craps i go there on monday morning and they have fifteen dollar table on monday morning is that tells you anything after that is parts there are the biggest casino but unfortunately they have really high table minimum on the weekends is basically impossible the final table under twenty five dollars so yeah it's tougher somebody who doesn't have a big bankroll so thank you and i enjoy the show going yeah chris if you're playing two hundred dollars and only playing for an hour maybe even a half hour i just don't think you're eighty ti is going to get you many comps even at hair is a especially to if you're not able to go out to a hair is as often as you are able to go sugarhouse which is right by you're work so in the end if if you're not able to go out there is much i don't think you're tier level is going to increase either so you only reason i'd say go harris is because it's a caesar wards and you can use if you go to vegas sort of lennox city but based on what you're saying you're a level of play i think maybe just stick with sugarhouse and but you're probably not gonna get much in the way of commes no matter what you do it right now if you took one day in you played for eight hours right in a lot of jeff that might help you're eighty team maybe you'll get something but these court trips and i don't think so yeah it's a quick trips it hurts you know when he said this is chris from philly he sounded to me like you said chilly and i was thinking no it's chick fillet and then she lay and then i realized she said philly and i'm laughing to myself and i'm gonna say chris it's few layers you're never gonna forget that it was fantastic my pronunciation was really really all right next up high mark conductor mike this is josh from seattle i'm a first time caller in listening thank you for about three months or so now and i'm listening to the recent episodes not working my way up from number one i wanna give you a quick couple of stories from her recent trip to vegas vegas about five six times a year in almost exclusively play craps i love you crap stories and i thought i'd share a couple of my from my last trip in the first one was i was at planet hollywood out throwing the dice andrew dice hit back wall popped up in year hit the player chip brax in slid down a little ramp that's by the house chips and fell into the glamour hole and the dealers said that in three years of dealing they'd never seen a guy like old and one going lambert chip poll and i wondered if you've never seen anything heard anything like that the second story was a at blasio in the middle of a rolling the dice out and the player next to him through the day some seven doubt the thing was no but he caught it in guys playing five hundred thousand dollar chips you know so there was a fair bit of money on the table and you're not the and then the player next said wait a minute i think wrong players through the dice and so they stopped and called the pit boss over and kind of explain what happened and they i don't know if they called security you're not verified that the wrong person at throwing the dice in the middle of the rule and then back everything up but but are best backup and the guy made one point one number rather before seventy now though gotten extra fifty dollars i think he was on a foreign ten so i had never seen i've seen the wrong players throw the dice roll before but never just mid roll in the shooter didn't even notice nobody caught it anyway thanks for listening and have a great podcast an oped called back with some more trip future thanks very much thanks josh i don't think we've ever seen the wrong a shooter died so i think it needs to continue listening to the podcast yeah a little while back i did it i pushed the dice in front of you right and i kind of really picks him up on the shooter in through am and this was back when they flipped over the card after he rolled the dice so it was no big deal it just said no role in right you know what it would have been but yeah we've seen that before and one that i remember sticking out years ago and this is really back in the early days we're for queens an as the dice or any air the shooter's on you're the one who says wait that's the wrong shooter right and it was a seven out and i remember the dealer in front of us who seemed like this really great guy been talking to us really quickly started picking up all the chips right now the dice you know whatever's on the dice and we we all complained enough the pit boss came over and said okay no role right which was a great decision on their party was retracting to end the the role went on longer to wasn't like in this case just said the coaches out there and whatever but no are liberal went through a lot longer so yeah we've seen it before it happens relatively frequently on you know yeah especially when there's alcohol in any right the die in the ladder home that's usually where a lot of casinos place it when it goes off the table so that's in let's say the government doesn't want the same dying and you die the dealer look at it check it out or the box man whoever and they put it in that lamb until that's a new come out yeah right right just so 'cause if they set it on the rail at my followers yeah yeah so i've seen him in lima hall i've never never throw it in the lamb her home we've never seen that i think the most interesting thing we saw was once one the dice landed right on the edge of the boat yeah on the boat right where they hold the dice in i don't know the i could have balanced it there no let alone it's flying through the air and then lands there yeah you'd have to like work to get it in there that's you know thing all right next up is nathan hey marking doctor my this is nathan from indianapolis called and one other time longtime listener big band just got back from las vegas so figuring that trip reports who's out there for four seven nights three nights at the de downtown four nights mango played in any blackjack tournament at harrah's virtue of the day is a free program i told her awards never done that before did a little bit of research beforehand hand her little strategy it was a great time ended up finishing the money got seven hundred and fifty dollars or seven hundred and fifty casino freeway winter got fifteen thousand so didn't quite finish up there but it was great time well organized everyone's super friendly and helpful so i would highly recommend anybody doing that against invite you know we did see a seinfeld out caesar's one night is good show 'em i don't think i'll be going back the caesar's gamble the odds they're ridiculous everything's fixed defies the blackjack table even a twenty five dollar minimum is still six defy you have together fifty to get three to two in the fifty dollar minimum is still expect shoe but overall a great trip and a yeah hopefully make it out october for the summit the need everybody likes guys have a good one yeah hopefully will meet you there nathan i don't blame him when it comes to caesar's because their rules really are pretty bad i'd say about you and i don't have a problem 'cause we usually just play craps they're and they're cry rules are fine but yeah gosh the table games in their slots in their video poker yeah it's pretty bad slots are not great you know we've had we've had a hard time finding diesel slot there yeah all right next call hey marking doctor mike this is nick walters from vermont again just wanna talk briefly about my hip to mohican sun 'em i did lose two hundred dollars so that's in the last few trips and dumped four hundred but i did get my first three brad from mohican sun or bread twenty dollars 'em i did take it to me you know a black people under twenty i know in previous podcasts you guys discuss the free betting how maybe taking into blackjack table was not the best idea just because you end up putting more on the table if they're coming off the street to double down on actually did happen to me owned with a double down but the casino would not let me split because the fine print if you're the back said it wouldn't work on double down split or anything else like that in black or any other game type where you had more money and it was curious as to why you know might not allow that no just curious if this is common practice but other casinos are shifts common practice for this particular listen to the podcast plan on going you know some point with some friends hopefully i'm able to wear you down from four hundred dollar loss gets housing dollars that i'm hoping to write to us like we never heard of that are experiences been if you're using free play and you need a split well you know if you're free plays ten dollars well okay you could split you just gotta take out ten you're own money right so now we've never i'd have to look at the fine print i don't know of any other casinos to do that yeah no no well do you think maybe that was a un air on the dealers part well again nick said he looked at the back and it actually said i can't do it on uncertain bed so no that's on you ever heard of them thing about free plays seems like every casino even among the same ownership has different roles on their when it comes to table games i agree usually but slot free play it's like dra yati by pretty consistent but table play it's like they're so inconsistent it's gotta be in even money or you look at harris southern cal on the craps table you can bet in the field where you could get played double unto and triple and twelve you making plays pets you could make place that but you can't make any of the properties here make any progress but you can make a fire back which are bad and it's just so we who thought of that like it's just like somebody flipping a coin oh yeah heads now this one we don't go out tells yeah they're gonna allow this i mean it's weird it is strange nick had another call to i'm not gonna play it but he was talking about that march madness survivor pool members yeah we had mentioned we're wondering how it works it works like a regular survivor pool you know you pick these teams he could only pick one string the whole tournament he in his call he was talking about what strategy you need to use basically every day in the tournament you wanna pick a team that you're confident will win that day but they won't go much farther if any farther so you can save you know the big teenage tougher vn right so it's like okay i think this team is gonna win in the first round but i think they're gonna lose i i won't have using in the second round 'cause they'll look right you have to save all of those big teams do in right kentucky and everybody you know you hear the making the first round i think it's just one i think every day every it might be everyday or might be every round i'm not sure just make a but that's the point it works exactly like we thought but the strategy is different in that you need to save the big teams worthy end because if you get to the point in the final four and you used all those teams already well you can't go any further right so you're not gonna win unless everybody else in the same i'll tell you what the problem with that would be the logistics because let's say it was just round not every day and then round so on thursday friday in the first round you know before it starts they could make their picks wednesday night into thursday but then friday night before yesterday morning everyone went after me i i wouldn't wanna try to organize it yeah that'd be a problem you would need everybody would have to make their picks correctly on time and you know it was four guys maybe you could do you know if you've got like twenty guys i mean come on in somebody's gonna say oh i you know what i meant to call it ain't got busy you know let's do it next year just be you and me okay i'll be right and i call you're targeting you just get a busy signal why i've been doing this felt like i was waiting for your call you never got through to me i win you're out you're twenty dollars all right last call hey guys even from l a's here just calling in a couple of quick trip reports a last weekend i happened to be in leme approved front event in thankfully and unbeknownst to me when i booked there were they casino on the ground for my hotel the majestic casino in lima so obviously i had a check it out and i had a great experience i went in and got the local currency the phillies in sat down at a table to play some black jacket was three to i was doing really well so i started getting a little bigger you know like thirty soy which is only about ten bucks but it was big firm people at the table start draw a lot of attention from some pit boston so i quickly back down to fifteen so i so they're more fifty experience but my hands were going really well so at one point a couple of the locals ended up playing on top of my hand where i won seven games in a row so had to locals playing on my hand there he's playing about ten so everybody was cheering for me it was a really great time even though my spanish is pretty pour their english wasn't great so but you know the love of gambling went down a couple of nights later decided place in craps 'cause i didn't actually see the table the first night and and these tables were a minimum one phillies so about thirty sense i was playing basically twentyfive so it's on the past line it was going really well so i decided to start betting some hard ways the dealers and and they started hitting just one after another thing you know like five so it's on the hardware but they just kept hitting the dealers were so excited so appreciative of it all and also a really great time they had tables in dollars an so last like continue to play on the table because i don't wanna go hang with a bunch of americans sounds really great and then last weekend i was in vegas and i start planning all tall small for the first time in someone hit it was great on it for ten bucks paid one fifty to one 'cause we had him gm so it's a really great payouts nothing else really exciting happened but first time hitting that sounds really fun hopefully i have a trip report coming up from this weekend as some have had a river schenectady in upstate new york and i'll talk to you soon thanks a river schenectady all right so there's another one we didn't mention i'd like to play on the solely stable right in dollars yeah me too i always well good and takes her another international report yeah no one's good luck on me all small team of peru punta cana yeah and he survive home using american who came home came over and like yeah he'll put like i thought which was a resort where all of whom i know hey maybe didn't drink maybe didn't go to the mini bar mini bar right well enjoy watching v women's world cup final this sunday usa say is gonna be playing the netherlands we already bad prior to that right we'd better for hannity at three two one oh five thousand to one sorry a five thousand dollars then we've at three two one five thousands of life that makes more sense that happy fourth of july to all are american listeners to the coming out on the board jay everybody 'cause it's like we wanna wish the european listeners happy fourth of july to meet his much to them but i hope they have a happy day all right well i hope they do have a fourth of july yeah they do it all right i'm not sure that the english or still all that thrilled about it i think they've got no they just haven't gotten craps in their casinos yeah that's a problem all right well that's gonna do it for this episode we wanna thank some people first and pay pal donations first of all weber karma donation for my bachelor party june twentieth through the twenty third in vegas so that's already over hopefully that went well yeah they married by congratulations you guys also from podcast superstar john be he says going to try this karma donation thing headed the vegas june twenty eight through july first and it's been a rough couple of pass trip sue thanks for all you do so hopefully good luck that hopefully did were also from julia in gratitude for the craps tutorial last month a karma donation for my next trip am life offered my little low rolling self a comp excalibur liber couldn't turn that down i love there you go uber yeah that's a great place you also from will thanks for letting me join you for card craps i'll never forget mark keeping track of the rules with his cards and saying good or bad on each role i even started keeping track myself when i played at other casinos in california now i can tell all my friends i played crafts with david doctor david will pay cade david so a couple of things i think i talked about all night okay we're all gonna just mostly listeners david yeah so come on role day by day calling everybody else david and we had a good time with will in the cards that he's talking about so yeah i made up these little laminated card the get a lot of attention then he'd shooter it shows the dice combination that will result in eight seven again the dice translate the cards so i have they showed the three fifteen cards fifth fifth impossibilities so every time there's a new shooter and shuffle the cards i have this so i can look real quickly and just say good if it's not a seven and bad if it is yeah and so people we after here good good bad good doesn't always mean it's good good could be a three could be me that's not us dry and you have to explain that a lot she'll say good and they'll lewis's three nobody was nobody wasn't assess all right so listeners is that crystal clear i might be maybe you have to see after coming california play with marty and finally donation from ericsson nader's in robert from utah karma donation for upcoming trip to downtown vegas in july 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Postflop Poker Podcast - Episode 121 - Poker and Politics

Postflop Poker Podcast

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Postflop Poker Podcast - Episode 121 - Poker and Politics

"Allegation and welcome to episode eleven squared or one. Twenty-one podcast designed especially for the serious recreational player. I move astro four seven hobby. And i'll be okay host for the next hour or so joining this week from the northern beaches suburb of crime heights. Twelve miles northeast of sydney. Say day. a big thanks again to all of our patriots for your ongoing support. We've got a little bit of a patriot on double special hands coming up in a special guest as well who will introduce the second. I let me introduce allemand. Kewnyan co-host has been an online poker player video producer across multiple polka training sites author of multiple strategy books including the original one that spoon this very podcast post flop. Joining us again from bangkok capital of thailand. It's mr ben how you going been on. Good nice to be gada as always really looking forward to this episode excellent. Yes yes. we've got a very special guest on Come all the way from germany Online of coast file Feels like a long way Where he's an attorney and member of the social democratic party which could come in handy to out same today which is a grun- politics is also recreational And he's one trips to bustle at belgium. Todd one nottingham marbella bahamas. I'm putting together a within the last four years talk about poker and traveled like we had lost last episode. He did have a coaching session within. Not sure if that's even remotely connected swings a big lock. Welcome to the show. i'm in voss nerve alabama. it's great to be here and yes it was connected to it ben. Support is always needed and always helps How lovely thanks. How now we did have a coaching session. And i'm pleased that you've taken things on and progressed and making all these satellite wins. Fantastic nerve you know where your supply wins threat. I not well. I'm still. I'm still waiting on my coaching. Listen thanks ben. I can probably coming with check in the mile right. A fantastic I'm from a variety of websites. I imagine Yes mainly pokerstars in party poker and it's always good if you can concentrate on satellite which has over race because i i think satellites are quite different from other parts of the parts of the game. You can't comparing with cash games in even with normal performance because the field in satellites is the almost always much softer. There are lots of people trying to just win without really working at it and they're just taking a shot and if you try to play really serious Kelly you have a better translated any other tournament. Yeah absolutely true. Have you got darras book. Dr this book. Yes yeah yeah. I mean it it really into satellites and i think that that's the that's the reading material but they require some adjustments in strategy. That's for sure. And i remember working all this out quite a long time before people really understood poker and it was so easy. There's so much reckless behavior going nowadays a lot. More difficult Bites yeah the also think some. Icm software is useful for facades. Light play because the the icm can get quite intense as you get to the the bubble stages For qualification for for the next level. But really that's easy isn't it. It's icm if you're in like you qualify. Ten people qualify. You're the last twenty or thirty then. It's more or less just all all in or nothing all in our phone e yeah but It still requires range adjustments and Went when to be aggressive. Ones be defensive. You need to understand which which hands you can shove which you should fall. But yeah it's It's does it element of simplicity to for sure because it's mainly proof law. Well this is pasta poker. Podcast so You wanna talk about blake imposs- flop and actually inside likes that doesn't happen. That much is true. Yeah it gets pretty skinny on the number blinds toward seeing usually doesn't it You know the way when you're when you're at the end. Yes but it's always that it's always like in a normal games to you have to watch your opponents you watch tendencies. He was scared. Scared to go in scared to call all ins and then adjust accordingly as title. Does you high surveillance ville independent. Good advice that could advise. Is it metal. Murph shipping almonds. Johnny just started on stuff for a while the morale those around there are a great barrier. Isn't that interesting though. So so they your main focus them when y'all playing Online you like to focus some satellite play. Yeah because for this series to recreational player the time is limited and that means the most recreation players have jobs. Like i do and so i. I just got to concentrate on stuff. I cannot do everything i cannot do. Normal tournaments cash because of the different play. So i'm just gonna concentrate end like we did band at allies hands and allies situations and Go through the different options. I think this is a very important part to just try out different options to when you try to prepare. Yeah yeah that's quite good advice because a lot of people do get into. It's just doing the same thing Which might be a good retain that they have but It could be tweaked or optimized and improved upon so trying trying different stuff out in your overall approach to the game is is good advice. Have to repeat it. You try and decide. It's not for you or it's not working. Try something else but yeah definitely trying different things out because we are all different as well. The people in different ways. Some people prefer visual learning. Some people like to read books. Some people like podcast. you know. it's it's all it's all individual so you know what one was. This was the phrase one size. Doesn't fill something no putting his. And i think it's one size fits all but if you want to say one size doesn't fiddle make your and medical how one-size-fits-all that's ridiculous. I mean just looking at you and memo one size does not fill. I'm clearly the exile. Make up these metaphors function. A few over the some my use the term loosely. I think s may ask something. I mean The list don't see that. But i can see you right now and you both look set and healthy Do you really care about eating and making shorts. While just an anomaly. He just he just is healthy but doesn't nothing to deserve it i i. I'm probably i five percent overweight or something. So i'm working on it. I play football Three times a week. And i would be going to the gym. If i wasn't in full lockdown right now but yeah so no. I take reasonable steps I mean i watch football as well. So i live near a gym a couple of tons of live near a gym. So i i know what it looks like Haven't been inside one but thankfully are just must be in the james and all mid-latitudes while you're as young as you fail mindset is a mindset mile who's the most definitely definitely mindset on oaklawn mindsets especially bingo mindset at an opportunity to practice at. We go to win the other day be changed the subject quick. Actually i did actually got a win. The another go in the other day. yes there was a mindset attached to that. I'll tell you start out. Thread demoted to the altro our guest. I'd rather talk to urban sprawl about my wins always satellite Just sounds fantastic art. I do want to ask you something about that. Before we change the subject again Towards a certain target so knowing how many entrance are in the satellite and roughly. What the Chip stack will be when when the bubble bursts. Is that something that you work towards. Dara had this acronym can't think what it was. I think it's us look what. What did he stunned form of. I don't think he meant to have a large one work on it or work on the left. Why have to stay me too so so you work towards a particular target. I think that's very very important in all tournaments. Not just satellites that you have an idea of each stage. There's the blinds go what the average stock size is. And what your sort of targets is the target range feels stocksi said that you can subtly adjust your. Yeah the pace it would show. You're playing and you're playing. Because he s in general on guessing in in general. That's that's very important. And i think what is so what marriage it's interesting. Is that the only then you realize that win in the later stages must more important than the winning hand in the beginning and that helps you help makes you be more patient. Yes yes absolutely. I agree with that yet. patients That's what i used in my win. Just the other day actually where we all right. It was relevant to what we've been talking about the gaping on the stack size is making sure that you're somewhere you're not too close to the bottom. You have a little bit fold equity. That's pretty important as well as camp. I imagine with the satellites when it gets to that point. You probably gotta get a More than what. I'm comfortable with What's important to is tech size of the opponents and what the opponents drink about their status is you can almost always see if they're afraid to to put money chips in and you can adjust accordingly to that and and most of the times people are too shy and they're they're just fearing that they bust out or they don't ridley care because it's just like and dollar-buying or so and they throw in almost every hand and you call with your hands and there you go. Yeah so it sounds like you. Divide your parents into two very clear categories than the t- tight and those who are too loose which i i've been advocating this for three years when people try to read hud statistics or just whether the if that playing live you know just get feel for. Your opponents is to try to categorize them in a very straightforward way because people try and get really complicated with villain analysis. And i think a lot of the time it's impossible to Know what percentage of the time someone's going to check raise the turn or whatever i mean. It's ridiculous but if we could just simplify it too loose to tie aggressive passive you know does it. Most people can't do that accurate late so they should be focused on getting better at doing that on. It will really help them. And there is a third category and this is the category of slayers that are probably good because nowadays there are many pros or have pros there and the simple rule for that is stay away from those hands they play. I'm also it might sound to some people like oh You know you've got some mixed up with people you want but you know. Selection of opponents is is absolutely essential for success You you don't to choose to play against plays bats is on. Yeh you want to choose to play against the west on you if you're in the business of winning and making money It doesn't matter how good a play you are. there's always better plays the play against If you wanna lose money that's what you should do. But that they the concept of picking your parents and if you could say them at the table the couple of really strong players than avoiding them. Where possible is absolutely smart I i wouldn't. I wouldn't go out my way to avoid people but you know if you got marginal situation than fish show. I agree with that. Move to avoid april you and avoid i. I don't know if i'm and avoid avoided. But i think it's a very underrated. statement Amines just putting their 'cause like we say this point about the people at the time Chips from the last thing you want especially adding the caveat out of position playing a player. That's always like join you out of position. You know you just gotta be. Just think a little cole slaw pierre. I'll just call that that saeb. It's just to say that he hasn't got anything. I'll just call the flood Next thing you know you're looking at a turn bit that's healthy stack something it just gets you into spots that in Unless you've really feel strongly cancer I avoid them. But i probably definitely will treat them in a different way That y'all while went out of my way to get in the hands with whereas maybe a the other category plaza you do want to be in a hands with Way you know that they calling too much pre flop and that yet. If i hit top pair any kika they're gonna be coming along for the data sold applies are are to be playing with so there's definitely a villain depend Thing about to get that in again. Well just great advice and the. I don't know what you are mumbling about. Yeah berlin from one side amines genders of wisdom which toxic and on the other side got number of medals awarded. You know quite a discrepancy. The moment anyway. That's another matter. So what we got coming up in the show murph. We've got poker politics. i believe. Yes yes someone. Write a book on everything Apparently it's done. It's doing okay as well. Maybe maybe being afraid votes. I really really where up to. I think it's up to eight By bikram politics Is so than post flow fever so but post flop has been on the market for five six years the past. Probably why well i think. I think that's feeding that Should be your highest selling. At least tonight we'll say tonight because it could be another one coming bella. most. I call it post punch. Why would be a title cheese Fair enough yeah peckham politics authority gonna be joking all things Trump they baden Scotty morrison here with the politics politics. Something i can are not bans. Would you say now. You're not anti-politics i. It's all politics paul. I just don't want to offend Any sort of Most sensitive listeners. With extreme points stra six straight points on the type that made your your political extremism now. That's that's the problem with talking politics. I think is that destroyed white paper. Get these concept. it's ought boring. It's politics politics in proper meaning is all about paper one communicating with paypal. Trying to get things down in trying to come from. Make compromises built compromise together to me. It's it's it's got a bad name and a bad rep. it's carpi triumphed because otherwise things will continue to get done. How long does it take for governments to do things to put a bill through the parliament which takes months and then it gets reviewed and then on i. We've gotta make amendments to this murphy run already. Let's let's take a break and we'll come back in continue and continue to force. Stopped the podcast. Welcome back. we're about to get into chapter the of ben's latest book peregrine everything and net chapters pilgrim politics with us today we've got on voss and he's got an extensive background in the lower and politics so i'd like ask a little bit about the idea of freedom of choice in regulated having regulated markets and unregulated markets. How much should government have to do with that. Does it have to have government control others. Germany we have a regulated market. And this means their only life Games possible when you have a official license which in my state means that there is only one company that has a license and they have only two classes where they can use that licensor. that's an overall license. It's not only restricted to poker but every part of Of games and the result of that is this company does not have a clue about poker. So they don't offer poker which means there is no way officially to play officially to play poker in my area here the next polka places about like hundred fifty miles away so i ended up not playing life and i have to play online. And even that has been ray market and it's just now being allowed. That poker is open for players officially in that round on the certain circumstances them so that leads to situations where people either played very private and maybe even illegal 'em or not at all and of course. I don't think that's good. Of course there should be prevention for people who are not able to manage their finances. And it's a it's a game of luck mostly and therefore you have to do some prevention but there s professional professional help for those people. And i think you should watch out for this kind of help and allow poker to happen life and so that everyone can join and especially those games where you don't have the two investigative very much money. We have not had a lot of games that you can just win light and an phone or something orla small. Tv or so so not over not going overboard with a with a prices and with money that you have to spend and i think there should be a allowed them much much more over the over the world and even in especially in germany. Yet we re at the ridiculous thing happening straightaway that ban the online where you could play tournament fatu dollars for eleven ten or eleven hours but that likely play live at the pablo the club down the road. That has a commissioner slot machines with april's stick hundreds of dollars in and constantly the concept the sense behind. It sounds a little bit similar. There you can you. I think you know. I live in a country at the moment in thailand where you know all forms of gambling strictly forbidden and it's it's one approach by governments to protect citizens against the problems of of gambling but in reality what happens is the become the becomes ways of of gambling behind the policies back. You know whether it's simple card game at a home game or whether it's more on the ground. Dan somewhere organized by the mafia with the police paid off. And all that sort of thing. These underground markets that completely unsafe and unregulated where people become much much more at risk of getting ripped off. Except for so. I don't think personally. I don't think the criminalizing gambling. I it will many other things. In life is the way forward is more about Regulating it sensibly and providing protection for the citizens through regulation on providing a safe environment so yeah the u. k. As i mentioned in the book is one of the places where gone down that road where we have a very regulated market. Plenty of freedom. People have complete choice. It's very tuck sation. Is you know it's a friendly environment for poco place compared with most countries And i'm moving back there on june the twelfth. So you know. I'm i'm hugely in favor of the that type of politics with regard to market regulation. It sounds like we. We need to have some sort of regulation so that people don't get blatantly ripped off And yet there that comes to a matter of who's making these regulations And i guess what you were talking about In state of germany the rose are one thing and then in another state away slightly different. We've a similar thing over here as well with states making a lot of the roles as well how how do we get. Some sort of cohesive movement across to get Back on online actually in the european union we have. We have a rule that those kind of games should be allowed But the country's decide about that completely. Different so i think for at least for europe. It's great to have the european union and to find rule that fits for everyone sadly enough. As if i remember. Ben you're not moving back to the european union. Gosh subtly see made. Big britain could have more influence if they try to bring the european union to really use what they already decided on me to put the system that you have in britain. I couldn't agree with you more. Yeah that's that's another rabbit hole but yeah they. There's a lot of countries in the world with quite federal powers a to the various state. So why would they call them territories in in australia. And so the the main government may may have a certain stumps on say gambling but then all the power then lies with the individual states to make their own decisions on how things a police store or you know how they interpret lows or you know what that while. They're actually going to allow people to do or not. Do they seem to have the main power in a lot of areas of the world so that to me. This just makes it a very complicated business and difficult to know. What's what i feel as though to be something. This decided to a more of a national level. Yeah ideally european union level so that everybody has the same rights and same freedoms. Ben i do not completely agree to what he said because If you take a look at what is allowed right now. At least in germany as i said we have a regulated market and there is there is a license and this license this this licenses oftentimes go to people or companies that have connections to the parties in power and that is just money to print right because it will slot machines which are all over the place in with those slot machines. The constructors have to make only sixty six percent of what they take in. They have to put out so from every dollar or every euro that they take in they they have only to pay out sixty six cent and keep the rest of the other thirty four cent now any visitor in any business that comes in one of those two to one of those companies throws money and gives them at least for every dollar for every euro thirty three thirty four percent. That's license to print money. Yeah absolutely I understand that. But i don't understand exactly how that relates to that Who has the power who decides who has licenses can you. Can you explain how you would see the ideal setup for for country you know should should it be decided by the main government or should it be decided by the the federal government's i think it should be decided by the main by the main govern government because the times that we had several rules in several countries are are over sh- especially a we as a european union. We need to talk with one voice and we need to find one solution that sets everything that gives the people most freedom on the one hand on the other hand make sure that the responsibilities are supported in a way that no one has financial problems by playing poker playing slot machines and so on and giving help to the people and educating them. It's it's a little bit about educating it's a little bit about learning about math A little bit about learning how to deal with your own finances how to deal with your family and stuff and people gotta learn this. The i agree. I mean things like just economic planning for fourteen fifteen sixteen year olds. I think should be more in place than it. Currently is across the world. You know they ought to be sore age or even earlier how to balance books and You know you think about saving money more than people do today. There's a lotta education in germany education. There is no education about money in school. No not at all and i have had apprentice year there. Five fifteen sixteen or seventeen and what they spent money on especially now with phones and stuff. It's incredible and you know you. Gotta you gotta educate people to encourage them to make Make use of their money. What what they have and how they want to spend it on and the result of that if they spend money skull and if they spend money on gambling. It's especially easy that it's going to be. Yeah well we've got we're moving into different so territory now. I closed my chapter the book. By saying i thought poker players With the ability to make good decisions were those good those a good link but swain the decision making of a poker player on What what skills that politicians would need to be successful politician to sort of analyze the market to make choices about how how much she's invested in different areas and how to negotiate. The kind of skills does definitely transferred. And i just feel that some of the people say in charge in politics. They don't seem to have the right skills. My right hundred percent. That's plenty of people that get elected for their own purposes and not for the rog raisins. There's plenty of people that are are not gonna say that that is not a very altruistic people in politics but this fatter many across the world. I'm saying i'm on a blanket basis in every other job that you have if you are a doctor or if you're a lawyer you gotta study that i but you don't need to study being chancellor which you can do that with any job that you have. And what president. Yeah yes yeah so. What does your qualification here. I mean you can get degrees in politics. Of course but i completely accept your point now think nothing could prepare you for being In a president president country also naming. That's of course an amazingly unique position but having a good background in in politics or Having the developing the right skill sets Should scholley bay of what happens. But i just see candidate after candidate lacking the right skill set. So that's why. I suggested that poker players. You should get more political. Get more involved. Because you guys you guys out there you. You've got the right skills you just need to learn about politics and apply it because you're gonna to be better than the guys out there at the moment and they have contact to some people in in politics and what. They claim they need to know what people think they need contact to people and they needs the arguments from the people who are doing what they're talking about and therefore it's very important to just call your local politician and talk with him and tell them what they what you want. They need you young person get and it be surprised at how much politicians listen. If i get three letters about one issue suddenly all of a sudden that issue i take their office their officers busy trying to solve that issue out a three two or three people because no one ever contact semester. Had anything against that. So see where encouraging. Everybody's be more politically active like it. I take on board myself when it gets to the uk. I'm able to communicate with my local politician. I will. I will tell him. What's what ways. Yeah take it. Take a real politician. someone who decides about things on your show. You want commitment. Yeah with our australian experienced trying to stop the banning of online pekka. we had caught ground squirrel going quite a log of submissions coming from impeccably is directed to the right place and it was actually looking like we were gonna get some way. This admissions were excellent. The piglet took the time to compile it quite a bit of time spent on it. What happened was the political party in power decided to make a decision before that does missions had actually even been heard. So that's that's where we have the the thing that is people that are in power at the episode in view of how things to happen. It's very hard to to go against that I'm not saying that you shouldn't try to go against you'll have to be really stick with way shape How much time you put into it as well and and also i think saying the right people aren't getting the message to reach to the right people rather than to people that may already be on your side. But don't have any power to make the to force changes and i guess what we're talking about in democracy. The party that's in power at the moment is basically hitter. You nate to get through to and within that body themselves. There's a structure that is nine point much point open to the person that's down the bottom of the rung. You need to get to someone. That's on the committee that has something to do with what what you want to change Enabling on that committee is the two sides of the politics forming that committee. Usually sorry from getting back to what we to Before the break that's why it takes so long for things to happen in the world Big things especially big things that they just can't agree on who to allow to be right at any given moment. If i remember rightly one of the problems that you guys had was the day. The game of poker was was bundled up together with all of the phones of gambling right online online comics. I mean that's been the case for a lot of countries that they won. One of the main issues is that a game of skill is getting put together with all these other forms of gambling whether it's slot machines relax or whatever that appeal luck and you know is it or is it not fair thing. The poker is in the same category Debate i could see both sides of the argument As a polka play. You know you you feel. As though it's different we're playing against human opponents the skill elements and therefore should be treated differently. All you know. It's still a form of gambling. Still allows percentage of luck involved Should it should. It be treated in the same category discuss. Do we do. We have to have to make this In its own category. Because you've got games that the gambling games where the papal people will. There's a lot of skill to sports. Betting got his one of the great. There's plenty of people that think. There's no skill whatsoever. It's just it's all it's yeah nebraska is because you could do research but but the the the the problem is i mean if you're gambling against bookmakers I think it's slightly different. And if you're gambling against an exchange of of other people's views. I mean how much skill is scale suit. Well bound as a lawyer. You know i relate much to jurisdiction perfectly. Trust the german tax office really almost highest and the highest techs court in germany decided that you have to pay taxes for poker because it's mainly skill when it suits them. Yeah anti that could fit in we. We need to be sure. The government ally mike money from this. And that's when i stopped. German talks office have declared polka mainly scale. Walk more evidence. Do you need really rated. But just little. That was he was a main argument interesting. Yeah i mean on the pocket book. It's okay being the perfect blend of of luck and skill. And i think that's one of the reasons why we love the game that i it does have this way because we we liked randomness. We like chance creates excitement. But there's enough skill to keep extremely interesting if you take either of those away from the game Donna be it would lose. Its kids really really important for poker. Anyway that's us off off topic Do do you think we've have. We exhausted our our political discussion. Quite quite unusual. I think i could could Politics for twenty four hours Benefit just want arrive. You can leave the room. Continue this and go a little bit deepak. Look it's such a huge subject isn't it. it's a right. it's it's not only a huge subject on gonna go nearly as far on site. It's the biggest subject in the world. Politics and i mean that by the true meaning of the word politics as stated before it's about communication between people and if that's not the biggest issue in the world you show me a different discuss or i will. We'll tackle breaks. I bank in rehydrate. And we back with a couple of hands on the becker. Podcast back to the festival cast where into our stretch at segment. And we've got our guest as breeding hand. Andy played on. One of those are settled on trips. To die. toots pouty polka five cake game. That's a good reason. The place satellites right there and then This one features the big honey. Crisp hundred is pretty well-known pretty good player from the states the blinds Six thousand twelve thousand with twelve thousand. anti Honey has one point seven million hour here on one point one million and the average tax about nine hundred thousand so we're way by tested above average. Yeah i'm on my late do you take it from him. Yes oh here. I sit on day to my stack is fine. I sit next to the dealer. I feel great. And i have a more or less we clear to my rights and i see is he. He opens to fifty k. And i say great. I know if i three bed year. I'm pretty on site. And he's gonna vote so i bet hundred thirty and then to my left to my astonishment right behind the dealer chris hunting in the high in the hands. I didn't get that. I was completely surprised. Maybe i wasn't was unintended. I didn't he didn't announce it he probably just put money in. I guess he blamed him and well he. He ended callings and the other guy ended folding. And so i'm in out of position in a hand with a mistake. I made in real big tournament and that was real nervous and i have king and ten hearts so that kind of makes sense to three against the sm small blind razor but it wasn't a small blind razor a small blind cola So so you know he did. Raise way was raised. Because the yes chris as limped the search and then small blind is raised to fifty k. So says is up. Three x four four x rays. Yeah since quite significant iceberg makes sense and and you have three bet so you're now representing the hand that you know range is looking a little bit different isn't it didn't did anyone realize that you didn't realize that. No so you kept quiet. Yeah i i can think of. Life can relate to this. Because i mean i've i've experienced this playing live. I've not played live much when the deal is right next year. You have to spend your head brown to see what the other player sat on. The other side is doing. Sometimes you can easily miss. And lots of what's going on because of your unfavorable sitting position Some tables a better than others. Some shapes of some tables Bats visually for each player but on a standard oval shapes poker table. You can get blindsided a little bit so you know. I said i used to sit on a little bit back. End i play. I mean it's chris nation. It's big cuny is called that for a reason. Yeah though if you're a little bit behind him you you don't see anything. What does what he does. Yeah yeah yeah. All right so simpson. The if you've got king of hearts what sort of range of qods should you have a given the you have three bat you know shaming the you knew that chris was in the hand what what's What do you think he should be playing. A ten percent of your hand so Probably even less out of possession and maybe just top hands and suited. You are in position on the razor. So thought impulse. I think trying to isolate the small blind and get rid of the tradition. Limp isn't such a about strategy with with a few hans. A could be mixing in kingston every now and again in. This'll spot okay. No not ideal but it's not the end of the world. So i think you know okay you you. You're looking back on this thinking of dreadful mistake But it's it's a playable situation at this point so okay. Take us through the flop. Then what flip comes king five to rainbow and no hearts and minds. Thinking was okay. I hit the flop. And i gave the chris as ex. And maybe some broadway cards. So i thought well might as well work out so i decided to. Don't bet about out for one hundred seventy k. k. now about how strictly a dunk back. Because you know you all the three better don't is only when you coul- raise pre flop so you'll making a continuation out of position and that to me. Looks perfectly normal at the bottom of this threat that you sent me says fila made a mistake on every street. But i don't think you made a mistake on the flop by say betting this hand you should probably be betting this close to one hundred percent of the time given that you have top In three bat pau Yeah i think you should probably be betting. This is a sit dry board. i expect to see about eighteen. Ninety percent of my range probably ninety percent of my range and when you actually holds up pad and think there's any hands. I'm gonna check so yeah checking rental mortgage a check. The good i mean you. Could you could argue that. You could see about one hundred percent i think. Normally the optimal the game theory optimal solutions usually include. A few check comes but not many right mirth. What you think about check raising. I mean i was pretty obvious. amateur and if i re present with a check raises super hand i mean you could build a check rice range but it's already a three bat pot there's no needs to. It just doesn't seem any need for a check raise range. I mean if i even if i flip the set. I think i'm just going to see that because the does know what ninety big blind states something that ragent i i think he can just proceed normally And i don't know if there's any need for check check rice range when you when you are the the guy as the aggressor and you said he said dunk bad at the beginning and Not immediately registered with me. Because i'm like well no you're the aggressor if you're the aggressor then you should be much much more likely to have a strong white. Cpi range and to be proceeding with aggression post plump. So i feel that what miss at just n- never do anything other than cpi is quite quite good strategy. You could definitely just blindly see that your entire range The board is pretty favorable. He had to imagine him crawling with five to to have a king. You've already got a king Year i can say why you're probably pretty confident you had the best hand That's three hundred twenty in Pray flop said that. Stacked padre shots Four three to four. He talked pair. Say what else he would leave. he'd frightened. You're pretty confident. You had the best hand Failed when laid out for nearly half potent. So chris got even more nervous. Yes yeah it is. I think when he calls it is a bit a bit nervy because you have to really start thinking what why z calling is. He is he floating in position to see what he'll do next. Is he ready to pounce on weakness Or has he got a genuine reason for still being But you know there's lots of hansie might be stuck with. He could have a pocket and not know where he's at and you know he could king he could have An a sex hand and just wants to wants to see what you you do next Yeah lots lots of possibilities. But the the the blood is rainbow so his his likely hands-off are limited. I think but essentially authoring. It's interesting. They actually cold cold almonds bath. Still with the small blind wacked. The rise was still to act and a he he said coattail pray club yeah Puckett pez make sense style. Food for the preform action. And that's why. I mentioned them here. And i didn't know i didn't particularly like to be calling with too much junk so i just felt quite a lot of pocket para action. Maybe some seats connectors connected type pounds. That's eight feels. He can play prophet. I don't know yeah no not too much junk. You wouldn't have thought would you. So that limits. The king axe hans as well. If you worrying about king king. Jack king queen ace king as kings less likely is it expected to have raised it But yeah king. Same seems a bit of a stretch to call pre flop with king. John king queen. Hansson may be probably more of stretched. But yeah then again. Why would you live call with those hands. It seems a bit weird position is a so. Yeah yeah yeah. Did you get a sense. Where the he felt that he was Neely charge of the title that he had had the certain control. No i did not think that but he was watching me closely and of course that the since he was he felt the necessity to watch me closely. I think he didn't have the best hand at that point. But i feel that. I i would need to put in more money more chats and he could easily play me a claim me out then raise or just call or whatsoever and is there is another broadway card on the deck or in a steven one. I'm going to. What am i gonna do then so i did not really have a plan and this was my problem. If i had a plan i would have felt much better. I was reacting something that you told me that. It's so important that in the beginning of the hand you you try to try to figure out how the hand could work out and have a plan for the situation and having knowledge by back metal on Have a plan system. Because i gave you hang on hang on. I'm just giving episode one twenty one. I heard him say it. He said resigned. Free volition the He might have acknowledged that you may have said it to him at some time. Not i'm tonight. But i mean did shoulder joint metal. Put it to the comedian. Let's see what else what they say. I'll get back to you Siwa showing to the turn. We've got about six hundred and sixty thousand in the Proscribing got quite a bit. The sun is a three night flash. Draw out there still completely rainbow. And so what do you do. Armand king five to three as well for villas king five to three on the bald. Thanks man. so the situation didn't change. I represented the good hand. So i decided to put in two hundred seventy five k. More yeah. I'm not too keen on that logic. I mean i get. The situation hasn't changed too much. You're right but i think that his range has changed quite dramatically because he owns to have folded most of his hands on the flop. And so right now i failed. The you're not getting much value in making a turn that Eua it does look it. Looks quite to bet again. You know you. You've the protecting your hand against a few dr- possible draws but don't think he's got many many of those junkie hounds in his range you know. How many straight drills would he have. It wouldn't be here with ace. X dot nacho thing. If he should be should have folded out most of it so i. I'm not sure that you've got as much value on the turn. Had on the flop. And i think that this bat as a mistake thing you should have slowed down because the hands the worst than does a mainly gonna just fold out and the hands the better a main league to call so not sure whether this works value back out my opinion so the option to the other option is to check weakening effectively. Giving him a danger. You're going to have to make some difficult colts. But if you make him bluff then at least you you've got the option of of trying to. Mit might seem like check behind So you get get to see a showdown without throwing as many chips as perhaps you do. Would you do if you if he if you really raises the which you just call Even more and well if he bats after after we check if he bats than you'd have to make a judgment on it. But i think it's it's better to let him do that than to Look for value in a non value. Situation I think i know so. It's it's a less aggressive way forward. But i i would be thinking. Check possibly check coal possibly check fall depending on your read of of his bats and he's sizing so yeah i'd probably be. I'd probably be like. I'm gonna probably still went to bed. But i would keep it. Smaller says Was raised. Then i can. I can i can bet fouled nearly confidently confidently reluctant if you get raised. I mean it's an easy followed him in you. you don't forget. This is three part your the three better and and why why is he in the. You only have a week talk pair. It's not a good situation. I don't think should be throwing more chips in. I think it should be very afraid that he genuinely house something. i think. there's a really strong possibility. he's limp. Called a three bat pre flop. What why would he do that. He's got to have something and then calling the sea bat man. You've got a pretty weak holding happens hits up i don i. I didn't like it. And i don't like throwing chips in on the ten an retrospective. I absolutely agree and from here on at least from iran. I'm i'm just bleeding bleeding tips and there's no real reason to do that. Not at that stage. It's just the day to. It's the beginning of day to actually and we won't get into the money until day three so there is no really reason to put in any chips Goat any reason against player that i know is better than meat and has positioned me. Excuse me but that was just stupid. I mean have flopped pat. And it's very difficult not to not to proceed. I i think check folding would be quite a brave fold in this situation given how the flop is and i'm not saying i would might check call but the thing is if it goes check. Check either chief you goal because you're going to get to a showdown you're gonna check. Call the river on you. You love achieved a relatively cheap showed on not cheap but relatively cheap showdown whereas if you bet the turn what you're gonna do on the river you know is is very rail. Quit it building the pop when it suits you play smaller part one path. We don't want to play massive pop. That's that's always my advice with To seventy five. And chris cole five the About one point two million as we get to the river and the rivers another so the boats king five to three to pretty much ryan Another two seventy five so site bed yet said yes. The logic to that is. I knew i was beat. And i was trying to extra smart blah blah blah betting. Just a small amount of money yet which sometimes works. Sometimes it cuts out the bluff rate. You know he's very unlikely to raise on the bluff If if he has nothing he might just throw out a bet. You can't call So i think it does achieve something that blocking bat butts. How many week. Coal doesn't really work as a value. that does it. yeah. I agree pocket. Queens i think is still hey a i imagine from his starting hounds if that was in that You know that that's probably the next best hand because yeah so when the next best hand is unlikely to call you on getting any value. There's no no. Hanson is range giving value and so the only reason for the on the river is blocking bat. And i i think overall. I'm not in favor i i i. I've still been favor of checking. I just think it's a lot ships and it does and it. It does kind of work in terms of slowing down somebody who you think might fluffy and if you're really afraid of that then a good reason for making the bat 'cause he's very unlikely to raise you with a bluff but If you check he'll he'll he'll put out five hundred k. And you'll be like oh and you'll fault which yeah you want to avoid. Say then i think you have a video serious out there. Trying to explain the train of thoughts and thinking about the opponent's hands and held it develops to a hand and actually. If i had done that. I would've known that she can only be here with a hand. That's better than my hand. And there is hardly any bluff range that he has at that point. The and i did not keep that in mind because whatever he has he will have something and he will call and therefore bluff is not a good idea at that point yet. Now i mean. I i felt even turn stage. I just think why is he still here. most of his hands god beating may checking. Maybe check folding Maybe check cole. I don't know but it just doesn't look good even at the turn but by the river. Yeah yeah. I think that Even the trick following on on the ten may feel wake at may be hard to do. You got hit. The guy could be buffing but on balance that situation you put on a day to me until day three. Are you going to be getting most of your money from a Out of position with with the the top barrena may sort of kick ass be wanting to get money from somewhere else that but isn't that sort of the The lessons for life to don't mess with a good one with a good once until unless you have a real good hand yep yep and another one may be once you make one mistake. Proceed from there and don't put another mistake on the first mistake. That's good. that's that's the only factor of medal sick never had rape put in such a short time Very very well. Since you introduced hand. I think and called me a hero. No one ever has called me. You're definitely out here on this hand of my heart just dropped off The next bed then the next bet on. What's he got. So if we we bet the river to seventy five equals and you want to tell us. A result shows king queen of. Yeah wait all bit. Northey caller flop for these cape Limping and nine calling kim cream. But i mean i guess it's just about okay. I mean if it was king jack off. i'd have been much more. Scathing but king queen is kind of okay is he's banking on having position Because he and he's probably saying the small blind as being a slightly wake apply iras Insane if if he puts on in that position of from app spiffing not not not a proud. He's thinking i can take king. Quyen imposition put a lot of pressure on. I think he was enjoying it. I don't think he's enjoying it right through to the end now evils and enjoying it. Because the way. I'm in the hand you know. I'm quite easily. Be puck. Aces or puck kings or in a authority unlikely. Obviously but he's probably how he has to call because the that many come by a strong hands that can have. But he's still not enjoying it because he's been played superstrong by a man i mean he's he's represented a big ham throughout. And yeah i i would have thought he. He was definitely having to call but not not one hundred percent show. He's won the hand. I guess that's he just kohl's he doesn't Well i sense raising this. Absolutely not on the table but Yeah the unfortunately the size on the end makes it really easy for him to call if If you gone for huge bluff on the end made a really large amount Maybe bet the pot he probably probably has default. But you know it. He econ Hub turning module homes into bluffs on the river. It's never seems to make sense to welcome to my world bank so just to to wrap that one up. How are my calculations had about two hundred fifty to sixty calif about twenty big blinds Grind for forbid most writer a little bit more just two hours next hand. 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Yeah right will allow you in the in the outer i will allow you to tell you. Winning story I think we need a break out yet. Well we'll hold back that other hand where we're going to To that next week yet. So we'll take a break and we'll come back faster than you can say. I love you to your most loved. Went on Dust and welcome back everyone. Thanks for hanging in there with this into the final stretch of episode one one. And we've got almond fuss with us From germany and ben you must graciously said the indian try could talk about my win Tell them locked tight. You're getting quick before you cut me. Sumer this guy. That's right now. I just have to have this. I had this one hand. We basically he ended up making a deal counting it as a win. Technically second bit to counting on his win Chat king kenny Probably won't be listening. He's ninety one years old Regular down at our club often popping up on the facebook picks in the winners box I find myself up against him. Heads up just one mentioned the end before heads up or handle to before heads up three left. I'm in the big blind butler said place head. Listen one small blind and he folded driving it to make any Guinea limps the small blind. He would only rise kings kings plus parking's plastic gloves plan kings hansie's nickname ken kenny. The flop comes ice king. Coin to speights on the flop. He's never going to shove a flush draw but he shops display For just under half of the chips imply i. I'm just but i'm in in front of cava and i've got king i saw Middle pay if that was nice. Chance kenmare derived king. I i have to fall down costs. Thank you just to get that out. Shows between ten by the way For the bottom and by me. You can't call ace. King queen all spades a fist fights to spray. Sorry i understood all spades. Yeah i've been whether you call us defense on the stocks ratio. You know how much is left behind and was there. 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Karisma Hotels

The Family Vacationer

30:50 min | 7 months ago

Karisma Hotels

"Stemming properties in the world's most desire locations charisma hotels or the focus of today's family vacationer with special guests carina durand episode. Thirty six starts now. Family vacation with robin danny to podcasts. For families on the move high friends. I'm rob danny and this is episode. Thirty seven at the family vacationer. Hey guys please make sure and hit the subscribe button so you can be with us on every episode and hey if you enjoy the show we'd love it if you would leave us a review wherever you get your podcast today. We're going to do things a little differently. This is the second episode in our embracing the cold escaping the cold series but instead of focusing on one destination we're going to take a look at the family friendly resorts by charisma. Hotels charisma has some truly exciting properties for families with brands. Like nickelodeon and margarita ville and sun-splashed destinations like cancun jamaica and the dominican republic in these properties are amazing. All these resorts were going to talk about. Today are family centric and offer amenities that appeal to any age traveler. Swim up sweets character meals kid and adult activities luxurious spas delicious food and more make sure and click on the show notes for today's show. If you want more information or reach out to rob at our jones star stuff travel dot com join us. Today is karina durand. Corinne is regional sales and marketing manager for the southeast united states. Four charisma hotels corinna. Welcome to the show. Thank you thank you very much for inviting me. It's great to have you so first of all we have several resorts to talk about today. Let's talk about which of the beautiful charisma resorts are family friendly. Of course an today. We'll talk about the family. Friendly reeks resources. That we have located in riviera. Maya okay so. I will start with generations. Generations is tower a generational resorts generation on my. But here the idea of generations is to bring the family together so we have the largest suites in all rivera. My aunt we have opted to three bedroom. Suites where you can fade up to twelve people. Six adults and seascapes enact three bedroom eight in these research and you also have this team opponents in the first three floors are amazing for families. Because when you have the kid that has a lot of energy. Let's say that way and make crude leave. The pines are a little bit tired. They can go and just relax in their terrace and watch the kid just swimming around the pool so they already extremely nice for families put as well for groups we sell this resort a lot for groups because it's next to el dorado cast. Sita zero royal met are to adults only properties and the arrows. Staying in any of these have the share privileges to go back and forth so when we do groups sometimes it's very difficult for me to each of the gasp references like the coupled one to travel by themselves and they don't want to be near kids or the families cannot leave their kids behind so it's good to have bishop privileges between these three because for two weddings it helps weddings and all of groups. It helps a lot. They can all meet and have they wedding celebration and they can also enjoy the experience by themselves. Either clients are singing generations. They can also go. Unexperienced the adult sony properties because they have shared religious to go back and forward and try fourteen restaurants a with a three property so options they will. They will always have a macy's options. This is generations. We also have as little beach One is located only fifteen minutes from the airport. So you arrived and fifteen minutes you will be getting your resorts. These sees another multigenerational property and we also divided into adults only section premium section of family friendly section who i would recommend to these resort. I also recommend families that have like younger kids. That want to have like connecting comes here. We have guaranteed connecting sweet so they can have their space but also be near their. Keith's we have multiple activities. we an amazing keeps globe. Huge huge kids love amazing. A and we also have activities to take the kids like outside of the kids love to the beach. A we who sustainability activities for kids and is a house as well all the best restaurant in mexico here. We offer lead cheek. It has won the last three years as the best restaurant in mexico on the best restaurant inside. I'll tell so of your clients. A people want to come and experience a unique experience with foot cheek. It's the best option in all living on my all mexico. We have a new. We had a new opening last year often. Other family friendly property that is marguerite wwl is land reserve alleviate. Cancun these completely new brand for larry wwl and a completely new brand for charisma. We merged with margarita. Bill and we created is land reserve. That is the high-end margarita vail resorts on eight also is the only all inclusive margarita resort. We have all what is charisma. Personalized therapies but with these cool beach by margarita via relaxed. So we definitely have like the options for different type of families for different types of clients to accommodate always to the type of experiences. Because right now what we are looking for four days to travel to create these experiences to create these unique moments with our families so it resort is focused on that on creating unique experiences in jamaica. We have beach resort negril. It is located on the seven mile. Beach is a hidden gem because as it is located on one of the most beautiful beaches in the world we also have the separation between they may premium section adults only on family friendly so if you also how groups we can accommodate everyone. According their preferences they restored is just there in front of the ocean so every single room is like just in front. You go and you see the ocean like really really close to all the restaurants bars to the pool options. I think these option in jamaica we collect a heathen gem because this is something that you're will not may soon go to jamaica is worth to best beach in the one of the best beaches in the world that is a seven mile beach with were remaining experience that i think we will talk more deeply about this experience. We also focus a lot on jamaica coulter so he laid back by very relaxing. Don't worry be have beatable resort. So it's also great. Agra twenty you go to jamaica and in dominican republic we have one of these research makes me smile every time i talk about it nickelodeon authors and resorts jeff. This are unique nickelodeon experience but is very hard to make people understand until they go. Because this is not a rheumatologist nickelodeon the first when you hear nikola resorts you will think. Oh a lot of keeps shouting or a lot of or spongebob. In my phase holiday things resort. This is not like that. it's it's very is very fun. Because it's not like this they're resort is very lux- luxury with the mini con republic architecture amazing restaurants. They have an area that is my favorite that his golden were meant village that is like a lhasa with the mini con architecture and we have different type of restaurants and the reassurance themed restaurant i would suggest to go to do as well search for the tip ten top things to do any quota Because he will be about these restaurants. One of them is the spacewalker then. Everything is decorated as fleet west bay sheep. Even the waiters are dressed us astronaut so the presentation of the food is really really cool and we have another borger speech a very kind of border but they also have the ability. That is the much chat. Worker is one kilogram. Bulwer it west. Three face i took assume francine was impressive and how we manage to keep the concept separated. It's because he nickelodeon we have any colonial place that is just five minutes walking from the restored in the restaurants or taking the gulf guard. Just one minute but that's separation allows us to have like the kids or the people that love nickelodeon in the nickelodeon place laying the water. Fire with a splash pat. We have the green slime over there. We have the kids club. We have the character centrale so we have like a schedule and you can see at what time your favorite characters will be presenting their so you can go and you can take pictures with your favorite characters. So it's it's really cool to have these operation because you can have the adults. The parents having fun and relaxing at the resort and the kids in the kids club owning the waterpark. Playing iran than getting the nickelodeon experience when i won there. I did vote experiences. The monica loyal fan. I misspoke five. So i have like a hundred with bunch both and the less and less of the days. I only stayed as adults so really really cool. Property and eat has has an in the same property as since at thirty. That's why also the property is then cologne inside. Has those a small orange details. That will make you feel like you're in a neat but he's not aggressive because you are with sensory and since the story has the adults only a the premium and family friendly since authority also offers teenagers area to all kinds of sports. They have tennis courts. Football courts courts. A iro throw the arrow they another place to watch the game so it has a lot of offers for all ages. So those are the properties family friends. Outside of my i love. I love that you have the separation there. 'cause multigenerational travel. We've talked about it on the show several times but it's it's increasingly popular and it is good when you're bringing the extended family. Let's say you have an aunt and uncle that don't have kids. Don't want to be around kids. They can still be with the family for certain activities but then they can separate and go their own way. I love that yes they they say that you never liked to hear shouts. They are yours. There is like something. That's probably true. That is true. Yes so what sort of family centric amenities can guess. Expect at each one of these properties. These is fantastic about charisma because when you have toddlers of things that you need to carry if you want to trouble. Nyc day warmers bottles. Thrown allies irs. Baby challenge robes. Am they craved this trailer. All that things congressman willing -cluded for for client so when they book through a travel agency through you they can just ask what they need and we will make sure they have it ready for them when they arrive these way. They don't have to wait until the baby grow because it can be like a nightmare for parents to have to think about carrying all of these being extra luggage being worried and overwhelm so they only need to bring the baby and they will have everything already there waiting for you. The money tours. Everything they would need an mother will appreciate that. He's over there. Well let's got to be a big relief to know that you can just travel a lot more easily because that is a big deal to some moms. I carry sony things with them so they can just easily travel air in there. they're taking care of. That is very very important. Point to tell clients that they don't have to worry about. So i had this discussion with the client a couple of days ago. They were talking about cancun making their family but they were talking about the reputation of cancun as an adult party. Place to vacation. But there's plenty of room for families there as well correct correct. The thing about cancun is at cancun. Area has been known for because there is a party center with a lot of pirate party. Wouldn't in these area. Nottingham going sculpture the vietnam era. That is in the same airport that you would. You go to revere my instead of cancun. And there you have bigger resorts multi generational resorts finally friendly a resort. I mean it's not like the party style at the any of the shows it's completely different more family friendly but you like we were talking about that aunt and uncle that you know maybe want some time away from the family they can. They can if they want they can cruise down to cancun. Have all the fun they want so it works out for everybody. Yeah we cater different markets here in this area you know wanting wanted to talk about was the term all inclusive as a popular term. But honestly it's become a little bit confusing for travelers as we've started to see unexpected costs that have started to pop up and so we really want to ask what is charisma. Resorts mean by all inclusive. Just so our listeners will know what to expect for. Ross am as i mentioned in the beginning important thing are they experiences so instead of being a normal all inclusive as you will see hundreds of options. We decided to be different. We decided to be unique so we created a concept that is called all were met inclusive. What does this mean. The first point is that we were met cuisine so we have highest standards in the quality of our food. We have a search of creating unique designs in each restaurants a we have also were able to cater special needs so if we have clients with allergies food restrictions glue that you looked on options an options. We will make sure we have something special for them because we also have clients that. We've you have any kind of allergy is very hard to travel to another country see a large buffet and not knowing what to it so they can even may meet this. They our guest chef and we will make sure we have something special needs any restaurant. We also always offer an option on a cart a which is really nice because for breakfast lunch and dinner you can go and see then how your option a cart. The second point is that our dreams. We manage premium brands and drinks alcohol. We all still have seen natural cocktail bars that are different in each resorts. Because right now we also have clients are looking for that cocktail experience that they don't want to just that cheap bikila we a with dollar we have clients are really looking for the cocktail experience. Something to enjoy something to even to take a picture up to a blow to instagram. Yeah and is it true looking for that unique thing to take the picture to lord to see. Hey cheers but maybe wait on like the with like a nice cocktail we also match personalized surveys. Pool butler speech bottlers romans maturity that are certified concered for romantic occasion. So we really take care of these personalized service but it's not only to the clients but because we also take care of our staff charisma is that they treat their staff as part of a family so they really give support they. How in a special learning center to teach english to help them to even wash your clothes for the girls to two lawn to do their things like those special things that will make your staff feel special therefore they will make your clients feel special on create these authentic servi southend d.c a happiness to receive your clients you. You can see how happy people here is to help clients again. Awesome like you come here and you want to cry just to see how happy they are to see. See you you feel it really. Does that does make a difference. Absolutely a there is a thing that i always that. I think that it doesn't matter if you have a beautiful beach and an amazing food but if people doesn't treat you right you will not come back through. But i'm they'll and the other way people make you feel welcome. If people make you feel important. Their wrists will not matter you will you will go back to that restaurant where they made you feel special so for us is important how that combination. We have the perfect place with amazing beaches. Amazing ford and then you have the amazing service. You will have repetitive giants. That surgery well. I know you're probably tired of talking about this. I know as a travel agent. I'm certainly tired of it as well. But unfortunately the virus doesn't seem to be tired of us yet he talked about the added. Just won't go away but Hopefully with the vaccine and You know everything. On the horizon. There is hope on the horizon but it is something that we didn't talk about because travelers right now. Need to feel safe. So what are the added. Protocols that charisma has been placed to keep the guests safe while they're visiting a very sad international certification that is called krystal these a certification that certifies that the resorts are cleaning the property according to the highest international levels of cleanness i'm measuring vase because charisma had the certification for like ten years. Now this is something important that i like to mention as well because we have been taking care of the cleaning and hygiene afoul research from longtime now. We are new. With his brothers you will see other resorts are just taking the certifications but we are ready are masters on it with all these situations going on. We need to up to what is happening. So we implemented more than a hundred new particles from what was already existing so we will will already have these allegations. We already have all these cleanliness on we implemented more than hundred more so we were deep leaning adult time in the resorts. We use thermocamera camera. Technology system would travel sanitation system or lower. Stobbe is having the hell check every single morning. You also have a they. Jill dispensers in all the public areas safe distance. Martine all their resort. Our rooms will be sealed. Clean for use. These means that no one else has been inside the room since it was completely sanitized before your arrival even the rooms have an air purfication system inside the rooms and other thing that you will see about. Our properties is that we don't have massive properties instead of having at small amount of beach antonsson hundreds of hundreds of rooms. We always have killed. Their detector of charisma is always through the beach. So it's not like backwards rich. You're always close to either pools to the ocean and this gives us multiple times of social distance. We have a huge amount of beach. We have multiple options of false options of restaurants. So this is a way. Charisma was bill. Since the beginning and now a selling point now as a selling point to not be a massive wall tel now is a selling point to have all these roses and all these areas of opportunity for clients. And that's that's a big deal a lot of the the beaches that we start to love become overrun with people. So it's that's a good thing to know beforehand. Can you tell us about some deals that you all make currently have gone onto our listeners can take advantage of right. We have a promotions booking through your travel agent. He will be able to let you know more about this. But we have up to seventy percent in savings right now as promotions will finally the the recently the cdc's put into place a mandate requiring us travelers visiting other countries to have cova tests before returning. How are you guys addressing that we are providing complimentary for guests they antigen tests a effect lion falls to the positive who are also providing a quarantine. The fourteen base of they resort. We doctor with a medical check with food. So people can can be sure that we are making everything for them to to feel safe on their health. Ace our top priority. That is a fantastic commitment to your guest. that's awesome. Yeah yes a i know. There's a lot of uncertainty right now but if you go to a place that is making everything for you to be safe. That's the place that you need to choose the place that you need to go an. It's necessary to go on vacations and more. Now with all the strays being locked out at your house really watching the beach just hearing the waves. Come get your stress out. You can make you troubling peace of mind. That's that's a special kind of medicine right there. Yes yes. It is a special animated medicine. You forget about everything when you are there you can forget about everything just watching the ocean. It's a good therapy. I'm ready to go right now. After we hung up. I will cross the street. They're going to each also for more information on these beautiful resorts you can go to charisma. Hotels dot com or consult your travel agent which you can do both. I would love that korea. Thank you so much for your time. We appreciate you coming on the show. Thank you very much. Thank you for inviting me and thank you for at these opportunities. We are ready to have your clients with us and we will take care of everything and we'll take care of them are a lot of great information in that interview. I gotta tell you rob i. I did some research before the interview on these resorts that she was talking about stating my favorite. Probably that i saw was the margarita bill but all of these resorts were pretty amazing. I i was able to look at a lotta pictures. Amazing pools mazing beachfront property. I love the bluewater. If if i can ever find bluewater happy but anyway did you. Did you see a favorite of yours. And what she talked about. Yeah i mean. I love i love the margarito properties. I think they're doing a wonderful job with coming up with unique experiences in like karena said this one is the only all inclusive margarita. Ville concept the generations to me. I you know. I'm just thinking of my own family. Were on vacation. We're at the beach. We had to go up to the room but the kids can still just open the screen door but opened the door. The patio door. In japan the pool i love how these resorts A lot of them are separated so that there are places that you know adults only can. Can you know like we were talking about if you're if you're taking the extended family And you have so many different types of interests. If you've got a couple that don't have kids. They probably don't wanna hear kids screaming at the pool and that kind of thing not that that you know that may not take place whatever. But they definitely don't want to hear that by and large so they've got a chance to kind of go off by themselves for a while kind of regroup for the next day with the family. So i really i really dig that. Yeah that's a that's a great aspect to it and we all know what it's like to well you and i both anyway know what to raise kit. It's and sometimes you just want to lay down and not move but your kids still have about ten times much energy to do left in them to still get rid of so. That's a good thing you can just sit there and watch your one thing. I just do want to mention in any show that we do anyplace we talk about. Always do a little research. An reviews places like trip advisor. They're great but you do have to understand that no matter what it is. There will be a negative review. It doesn't matter how great it is. Sure a so you have to kind of take some of that with a grain of salt but look at the overall ratings but one of the things you get from places like trip advisor more than the ratings of how someone felt is you get inside information somebody might have. They might have gotten an interesting room to had a certain view that maybe you wouldn't think about when you went to the website and we're getting ready to book the row so good idea to check out those reviews well and another thing to consider. I love trip advisor. Another thing to consider is that when you see star ratings for hotels five star four star. There's no universal standard for that rating system can has a different take on. What a four star. A five star restaurant is left. Trifid i mean not restaurant hotel. So that's why. I love tripadvisor because you can go to that and you can see what other people who've actually stayed there feel about the hotel feel about their room. Do you do have to take a little bit with a grain of salt because you know people who were unhappy are more likely to put a review at fluently. You know i. I try have tried. I have tried as i travel. If i have a good experience to post that just being mindful of that because the people who do do it right. They deserve to be recognized so But yeah tripadvisor is a good resource and in fact you know especially when when. I'm quoting rates for for cancun or dominican republic. I'll actually send with the hotel that i'm suggesting. I'll actually send the trip advisers linked to the trip advisor site so then they can look at what other people are saying. Absolutely that's definitely something to consider when you're looking you know when you're going anywhere really. Yeah that would encourage people to talk about this before but do what do what you just said. My wife and i love to recognize good service. Good what get food. Whatever the case may be take the time to really sit down and give somebody a a just give them an uplifting comment and and just help them out by just being positive for them especially if you receive really good service is good to take time to do that yet. I mean i'm not gonna say now more than ever but especially now these people are are having to work under conditions that sometimes change daily So you know they're they are working their rear ends off to to make people feel at home. They want people. Travelling corinne was saying her staff the staff at the corinna The charisma hotels. they're so welcoming. They appreciate people travelling. So yeah be mindful of that and if you get great service you know get. Somebody's name not only put it on trip advisor but you know contact the the resort and let them know hey. This person gave me great service. I think it's it's really valuable right now to recognize these people as they're working in in you know some crazy conditions at times. I'm glad he didn't use the word. Unprecedented it is unprecedented now. I i'm not gonna that. I almost said now more than ever. He's uncertain. No they are certain. Time so charted uncertain. We're going to get all this and we're going to get back into traveling and it's going to be great where is going to be a positive year. I've just believed that rob. I'm going to hold to it. I i believe at two. Oh and before before we get done. You're the nickelodeon resort. I'll you can get signed at the resort. i dig that. I want to go just to get slammed. is that wrong. Oh my gosh. i didn't. I didn't see that on the website you can get. Yes that's amazing you can get yes makes me want to go. I don't know. I'm just that dad i get i get it man. You gotta you gotta get older but growing up is definitely optional. Spongebob fan. I related to carina. But i really really appreciate patrick star. I i can't tell you. How many references come up from patrick star. So i believe that. I would enjoy that resort just as much as kids. Yeah well i mean. She said she went as an adult. So you know. Maybe you know. Dan who cares we will go get our picture with spongebob. Take pictures of interesting food and drinks and the great man. Rob that wraps up and other show. Don't forget to contact. Rob the plan your next vacation. Drop them a line at our jones star travel dot com till next time. Thank you for listening to the family. Vacationer it makes sure and subscribe to hear more of robin danny.

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