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"puberty" Discussed on The Healthy Moms Podcast
"Certain rays were at its highest. You know ten minutes. From the law and Much to my surprise when I retested them, it didn't really bring it up. And I just found that shocking. That the vitamin D. level so. I will say that I've had to supplement lots. Probably most of my patients with Vitamin D supplementation even though I, theoretically in philosophically would rather. People. Get it from the Sun for some reason I'm not seeing. Sunlight producing. Be Levels of vitamin D that I would like to see in people and. I mean I've seen levels as low as seventeen in my cancer patients. Right or you know that's that's pretty low. Yeah I think this is definitely something. That's epidemic. It's controversial, but I do spend time daily in the sun, not ever to burn, but just to get by in D. and I. think healthy sun exposure is really important. That with my kids as well, but I'm also I will supplement. With vitamin D and also along with vitamin K at times just if they're levels are low, just because they know how important that one is for the immune system for hormones, for so many aspects of that and we're getting really close to the end of our time we might have to do a whole nother episode just on precocious puberty at some point, but I know there's a lot the other aspect of this that's. That's not just specifically health and lab related is. How can we support our kids in this age with body image and emerging from puberty with a healthy body image on the other side, and I'm curious how you navigated that with your own kids, especially since I'm still in this stays and haven't figured it out totally myself yet. ooh, that's such a good soundcheck. Oh, that is so so tricky because we're fighting media. Portrayals of unattainable. For, the girls, unattainable body images, and the girls are starting to think their fat as young as age eight or nine. So honest. Iva Daughter. I have a daughter and the son so I got to do both. I really. Could I I just never focused on? I tried to build body confidence by. You know looking at and praising You know how well the body works like you know. Look at look at you, Ron, you look at look at you go. Oh you WANNA, take karate, you know..
"puberty" Discussed on The Wellness Mama Podcast
"Once they took the physical out the school in the kids, Scott really invested in their devices. Childhood Education has really dropped off a cliff and I don't think that's helping, and by the way you know, exercise is good for. Brain Development, and it's good for so many different things I think. One of the things I've seen as a mother to who sat the kids who? All right now I'm talking girls. Most girls and boys do some sort of sport when they're young like soccer, and what I noticed in the girls who once they hit puberty. They Start and didn't pick up anything else versus the ones who stuck with him or picked up different sport. Girls who stopped are the ones who honestly by the end of high school. They were already kind of pumping up right. And if you look back over my childhood, for example on there just wasn't. Just played from the time they had recess at school, and then they played from the time. They got home till it got dark. There was so much exercise in a day and I believe as human beings. We evolved on a lot of exercise now it. As you alluded to. It wasn't like training for marathons everyday. That's too much, but it was movement, and it was outside in the sunlight because i. am seeing that research on natural sunlight on our skin. And it is very important, not just for Vitamin D, But those those'll full spectrum lighting from the. Sun has health benefits that were just now. Beginning to understand so I a big advocate of kids spending a lot of time outside play, it might it might not even beat a sport, but you can play outside when you're little it could be a sport. I. Don't like sports where they. The head injuries like the heading had soccer. I'm not a big fan of head. Injuries like from football or soccer or things like that, but having said that I like soccer. Because there's a there's running and kicking. That's a good sport. So. I think it should if they're not athletically inclined, I think riding a bicycle or playing outside is highly highly recommended, and by the way, exercise is important for detox as well. It's part of the things that. You're increasing circulation. Hopefully, there's some sweating in. That's how you can dump some of your toxins out, but exercise sunlight are very very important. The Blue Light things where the key to because the kids are stadium their devices late into the night. And then that messes up their sleep and you've gotTa have proper sleep at any stage in your life, you've got to have proper sleep or your body doesn't work. Guess what's one of the things our bodies do. In sleep, they detox. There's no they don't have to metabolize or digest you food. They don't have to like. Send Energy to your limbs to move. Your body is working on detox while you sleep your skin. Your brain is detoxing while you sleep. And so, we have to naturally maximize our body's ability to detox on its own as well as avoid the things that we know are going to make us going along direction, and then thirdly we need to. Buckle down, and just you know. Get the proper guidance to do a really good detoxification several times. I would say in your life. Definitely, yeah, I definitely agree with that, are there any supplements offhand that come to mind? That can help either with voiding precocious puberty or Helpful during puberty and I know I got one question from reader. There's an ended of inositol. I think that's used in certain team multivitamins, and if that's safer, recommended or not, I know my default with my kids right now is to focus on just gut health, so I give them high-quality probiotics and prebiotics, and then also just supporting again from a neutral perspective with as much whole foods as possible, making sure they're getting enough protein, which supports proper hormones, but any other suggestions you would make you know it's really difficult to make a broad spectrum. Recommendation for supplements. Because, when I. When I see children in my practice, it's like they're coming to me for and so everything I do is very specific to that one person, and so to come up with something, broad spectrum and say everybody should take this I really I. Think probiotic is a good idea. Katie I think gut health is super important, but beyond that I'm a little bit especially with the kids really liked to push the good food. Nutritious food like you are I. Really liked to push that in not our remember using like a slight powdered grease now with my kids. And powdered fruit. I I did use something like that. By without knowing what I mean. The kids today are really having a lot of health challenges in so a lot of. Could, benefit from supplements, but to just say every kid every preteen t need certain supplements. I don't think I would be comfortable with that except for probiotics I think. You could make a strong case for that and John You know as long as it was a really good one. Absolutely and I will also say one that I do with my kids. I were at home test for Vitamin D, even if you're not can take the kids in for a full workup, which actually recommend that as well, but I do test all my kids for Vitamin D. D and then make sure they're either getting the sun or getting vitamin D because we know vitamin D is actually pre hormone, not just a vitamin, and that one seems extremely essential for proper hormone regulation. I'm guessing you probably see that in your patients as well low vitamin D levels correlating with hormone issues. Well what I see I've practiced in Arizona in southern California from my whole twenty or practice. And I just was so shocked to see how low everybody's vitamin D was. I just I mean. We're in sunny areas. I just can't understand it except that nobody's outside, but yes. Yes, I have seen that. And there are other issues were low vitamin D, having to do with a immune status and immune help. Said are also very important. I'm curious with your while you probably don't want to say, but the vitamin D issue is is such a conundrum, because I will tell you this in Arizona I used to have my patients committee to ten minutes of Sun on as much skin as they could bear around noon, which is certain time of the day when? Certain rays were at its highest. Ten minutes. From the law and Much to my surprise when I retested them, it didn't really bring it up. and. I just found that shocking. That the vitamin D. level so. I will say that I've had to supplement lots. Probably most of my patients with Vitamin D supplementation even though I theoretically in full sophocles, they would rather. People get it from the sun for some reason. I'm not seeing. Sunlight producing..
"puberty" Discussed on The Healthy Moms Podcast
"Puberty in girls, and the feminization of boys via chemicals in the environment that act like estrogens. And so pesticides are one of the vehicles that do this, but also phthalates are feminizing on the boys. and. The studies are showing that the male infants are having changed male Genitalia. In the way it's changed showing. A feminization of of that male babies which you know in our audience of mothers who already have children that may not be. Relevant right this minute, but I'll tell you where it's relevant. Mothers have you noticed that they are now marketing to our teenage boys? They're marketing these products. These body scented products. In the market, any is very very strongly suggesting for example that. You know if the boys use these products, they can get not only one girls at two girls, I mean. I have this in my slides for my doctors as really wild and these products if you look at them carefully. They not only contain phthalates there so strongly center they have lots of phthalates in them and elites are decreasing testosterone. So you may not that problem may not lead to a precocious puberty in a boy by the lack.
"puberty" Discussed on The Healthy Moms Podcast
"Breast, Development and breast, butting Genitalia. It's really the age at which this is occurring in the boys and girls and the problem is that. The age at which this is happening has been declining pretty much globally. And so people want to know why, because there are implications for early puberty and the other thing about precocious puberty. Is that the mainstream? Conventional medical doctors are just simply changing. What's normal to what they're seeing in the practice and so? Now, they're saying that precocious puberty is the appearance of any sign of Secondary Sex. Characteristics in boys are younger than age nine, and in girls, younger than age, seven and a half or eight. Normal puberty, a girl is what they're saying now is anywhere from eight to thirteen years of age when really twelve to thirteen four girl is for about the last fifty to seventy five years has been more of the norm, not eight to thirteen years of age. Wow, and from what I've read that change in age and the percentage of people who are going through. Through, puberty earlier, that's rising relatively drastically. You said compared to previous generations. What do you think are some of the factors in pretty rapid change? The one that I'm not gonNA. Talk about too much because I want to really get into the chemical contributors like endocrine-disruptors,.
A Look at Big Mouth
"Here to talk about big mouth. We're here to talk about big mouth. So, we're here to talk about some specific one specific episode, and then there's a couple of things leading into it season three episode eight, where they introduced a character named Ali who is voiced by one of my favorite Comedians of all time Allie Wong And it gets really. But before we get into that, let me ask you. Lillian how'd you watched big mouth or you? A fan of big mouth? Is this a thing that you were just like all right? I'm psyched for this season. I I? Have I I really like like I almost didn't watch it. When it first came out, just because the Internet was so down on it and like just sort of treating it as like Oh. This is just gross gross out humor and stuff like that, but I inevitably did watch it and I really like it. It's like one of my favorite shows on Netflix lakes. So every time a new seasons come out I've always made sure to binge it, and yes, it does have a lot of gross out humor, but it's like it's not like you know Ren and stimpy, whereas just like Oh here's butts for its own sake or something like that. It's like in the service of something you know. Yeah League in this. Oh sorry. Continue almost all of my favorite comedians ever are in big mouth like eleven. Kroll I like John I didn't know that I. Like John Mullany until I saw this. I I especially love Jason Zukas, I love Jason Manzar can. And like the, there's like this weird movement on the Internet to just be like big is one of the worst things of all time, because and tying it back to ren and stimpy. The like lots of Internet disciples of John Kay. Who believe like you know animation beats should be strictly. You know by artists and story, board ESTS, and with no sort of. Slip I mean this is turning into an animation podcast now, but like with no sort of inkling of like scriptwriting or stuff like that and like big Ma, and if you look at big mouth like the artistic style is pretty ugly. Yeah but but I feel like that's on purpose to. Well, and I think that there's there's like every medium. There is a place for a lot of different things whether it's like the writing is so good that it makes up for the animation, which then they can hire great animators to make it better in the lions. I feel like Archer was like that at the beginning like the animation was Janke, but the writing was so good that held up. And now the animation is a lot better. If you see the newer episodes, yeah, like wow, yeah! I guess like with with big mouth me I didn't like it when I I watched it. At all I was put off by, and it's not necessarily the gross out. It was like the gross out for the reason of gross out was sort of like my like I'm good and I gave it another shot, and I'm happy, because I really did enjoy that for season once I finished I finished it. Yeah. I mean for as much as I. Liked it, I will you know cop to? It's not an easy show to get into yeah. But I think I think they do. Do a very not realistic by any means but like. A realistic humor of like sophomoric childish, but at the same time. Of elements that are very sophisticated and very adult, and very like you know what, yeah, we don't talk about ciswomen who go through puberty, really in a comedic sense right and so getting a lot of these voices is actually really good, and like the humor is very funny. Once you're able to sort of look past the fact that it's like Oh they're showing Dick's all the time. And it's like. I mean yeah, I mean it's funny. You mentioned that one of my favorite jokes in the series like I forget what the ultimate context of it, but it's very Meta joke where Andrew just basically mentions. or or maybe it was like the hormone monster basically mentioned like. Sort of animated adult animation and Andrew Responds like, but that's Ju-, but that's basically just animated child pornography, isn't it? And the Hormone Masha goes. Oh I hope not that would get people in a lot of trouble, and he just looks at the camera like right.
What's Your Miracle?
"Today's episode is a Doozy Greg and I cried to quite a bit, and some of that had to be edited out for time. We chatted for for a while, but this is one of my favorite episodes because we talk about neural. A miracle is defined as a surprising and welcome event that is not explicable by natural scientific laws and is therefore considered to be a work of divine agency. A highly improbable or extraordinary event, development or accomplishment that brings very welcome consequences. Greg story is full of miracles, but that's not unique. You know I think. The miracles of recovery are widely talked about in our community. Don't stop before the miracle happens is a typical a ISM. Hey, that's because it's true. There are miracles in your sober future. To happen when you least expect them, and they're rarely, if ever explainable. Greg spent the last of his drinking and drug use career as across country drug dealer. In his twenty five years of Sobriety Yeah Twenty five years. He's accomplished some crazy successful feats, but most recently he has founded an runs startup recovery in southern California. He's attack speaker and he has a beautiful healthy family. That's a freaking miracle. Friends being able to turn your life from that into this is miraculous, and it's possible for you to even if a miracle just means making it one day without drinking. So go grab some Kleenex Hunker Down Let's talk to Greg Champion. Hi Greg. How are you I'm doing well. Trish good afternoon. Happy Happy Hour to you! Happy Happy Hour! Thanks so much for Burson, down with me for a little recovery. Happy Tonight and for sharing your story I'm thrilled to get to know in. Learn about the past twenty five years real quick. If you just want to give us a a brief introduction, and I'll ask you the same thing I asked everybody else. What is your name? Your sobriety date, and would you have described yourself as a high or low functioning drinker? Our well first of all. I just want to thank you for the opportunity. My name is Greg Champion on my sobriety Dayton's eleven seven, nineteen, ninety-four. I can tell you that I was facing five years in prison so. This was a nice kid from a nice city with private school college degree, and my disease took me on the brink of facing five years in prison, so I would consider myself. A low bottom got an. We'll get into that here in just a minute real quick. If you would just tell us just about you right now, you know where you live. How old you are! What you do for a living married kids hobbies anything like that name's Greg Champion of fifty one years old. I live in Pacific Palisades California which is just a suburb of Los Angeles. I work in a recovery business and I. Have a wife named Jennifer. A nine year, old daughter, a lease, and a seven year, old daughter name Annabel and some of my hobbies. It's funny I do some of the same hobbies as a kid I body sir. I skateboard and I'm obsessed with mint chocolate chip milkshakes from Baskin Rob's. I love that milkshakes her a hobby. My minor oreos right now so. Comfortable, well, let's get into your story and here in ten minutes or less. Tell us how long you drank cal long it was a problem and why you decided to stop you know. My story begins at four and a half years old. My father was killed in a drunk on your car crash. and I felt different. A mealy filled different because I was gonNA have a dad I. everybody else had two cars in a garage two incomes their DADS were there soccer coaches at our liberty coaches. And so from four and a half to two nine years old when my mom remarried I definitely feel different. And my alcoholism showed up before you even took a drink. A Trish, I I I, I did three things very very well. I got great grades I was a superb athlete. And I was also bowling and I use violence as my first way to medicate my. My mom remarried when I was nine. She married an old World War Two. Vet, a guy who was there on d day, the great thing about this man was that he taught me at a Thai Thai. Shave my face, open doors or women. Really old school ways I think lost in a generation or two, and I'm grateful to them and most mostly unbreathable that he was seventeen years a sobriety. And is exactly what my mother needed and in many ways exactly what I needed, misstep misstep. but what happened was for me was puberty. Right around twelve or thirteen right his cougars kicking and I was entering my freshman year of high school. I found a solution alcohol, marijuana and cocaine I also wanted to show off in front of the girls, and so between the peer pressure of school, looking at pretty girls, and the availability of drugs and alcohol I was well on my way to find my new solution to my inner pane. Did that for a few years might pattern. High School was that I would drink on Friday. Nights drove on Saturday mornings I would again drink on Saturday nights throat on Sunday mornings in the insanity of that going on for four years straight still not hitting square in the is. when all my friends were. Being talked to about school counselor colleges to go the Trish. They were going to cal and Stanford and Michigan Texas Nice Schools in my career counselors, talking about trade schools eventually ended up at a trade school. Arizona State University. and as many no, let's Party School and my alcoholism. Just blew up from there I began doing ecstasy lots of cocaine. In I got out into the real world. And light, actually the day I graduated I got my first you is. Six months later I got arrested for assault. In a bar. A few months later. I got arrested twice in twenty four hours in Mardi Gras. And here's the sicknesses disease stretches I was. There Bourbon Street my first night and went up to speak Irish combination. This is new rules what? What can I do and he says don't piston the streets and don't fight and streets. and. So Trish I'm GonNa have you guess what two things I got arrested for? Did you see while you were fighting with somebody or I'm not that multitalented. So the happened I and less than eighteen hours later, I was led out got back on the streets. got drunk and high again it could not find a bathroom, so I decided in the streets and got caught one more time and so. I have a nice arrest record there in the lovely speakeasy of Louisiana got to be the most eventful twenty four hours I've ever heard of by the way, but I don't WanNa. Take, I. Don't want to interrupt too much. Go ahead, but no, it's crazy. I was real resentful for a lot of years that hey you guys took away my Mardi Gras. You guys, you guys room. I buzz. You know for years. Even sober years in a one old-timer pulls me aside goes. Let me tell you how. How God works God put you in those paddy wagons to save your ass. Because what would happen if he would've stayed out there, you would have been stabbed. Shot would hooked up with some girl and probably got S. t you don't know what would happen, but both those times. He puts you in a paddy wagon because he did for you. What you do yourself and it hit me right between the eyes young. He was right. He's absolutely right. Then I went back to the San. Diego Start Working and I had some resentments. I was promised to a high paying job at a college. I. Was only making nineteen thousand dollars a year and I was working overnight, said the TV station. I don't know about you, Trish when I would get out of work at three o'clock am. There's certain people that are out at three am right. And those lower companions I found these he's lower companions were were girls. You can't bring home to mom and some drug dealers. and. They asked me if If I had any friends on the east coast I, did and we began shipping large amounts of marijuana out to the east coast. and I was part of that process. Eventually I got arrested. In an airport with fifty pounds of pot.
Biebers vs. TicToc Doc
"BIEBER's are threatening to take legal action against Dr Daniel Barrett. This tiktok video suggesting Haley has had some cosmetic enhancements. Take a look. I think it's physically impossible without getting a little bit of help from someone like myself to go from this picture to that picture and I'll tell you why take up the position of the knows the Dourson how refined it is in two thousand sixteen and how much smaller the tip is from two thousand eleven to two thousand sixteen that doesn't happen from puberty or roaming mortgage before you say anything. We reach out to our legal team to just figure out what we could say. As long as we express it as an opinion and not affect. We're allowed to say my opinion is that I need to get my nose done. That's really the only opinion I have on that matter. I mean whether Haley did or did not do anything to her nose. Quite frankly is her own business and if she did good for her because she looks unbelievable and she if she didn't. I'm also fine with that as well. I don't care if she's gotten the surgery or not but I just don't understand why they would sue him first of all. Let's talk you know what I mean like it's a tick top at people say stuff on social media all the time I feel like their time could be better served doing something else. It's almost a compliment. Like even if people ask me all the time if I got my nose done I take a compliment. I don't think I have or not me to ideal at all. The time won't second. It's just natural. I can't help. That looks like this does present an interesting like morality dilemma for young people. You know had it or not. It is her business but is there world which you should if you are an influence your looks are a big part of what your audience loves about you. Should you have to be honest about stuff like that? I don't know I mean it's not gonNA happen like it's not going to happen at people are completely dishonest with how they look Especially when it's on social media is a part of once you have people nitpicking. How beautiful you are. Yeah is I feel like it's par for the course of people expect you to be perfect and if you don't the other thing. She denies it. You know she can do whatever she wants. She looks beautiful. As far as I'm not sure looks good. I mean you know you look good girl. Whatever way you got they get there now. That all that matters you are dare. He committed
"In the spring of twenty fourteen. I was twenty three years old. I had just moved to San Francisco for my first real job. Things were good and then all of a sudden I stopped eating. I became obsessed with counting calories. I didn't let myself eat more than five or six hundred a day. A banana for breakfast. A Salad for lunch steamed Broccoli for dinner. If I had a meal that fell unhealthy I would make myself throw up afterwards. I wasn't sure why I wasn't letting myself eat. It wasn't that I wanted to look different. It was more like I my body to feel different. I wanted parts of my body to disappear when I pulled on my jeans. Did it quickly trying to avoid touching the curve of my helped in a shower? When I ran the wash cloth over my body I tried to turn my brain off when I cleaned my chest. But this compulsion to count calories didn't line up with the identity built for myself most weekends. My friends and I went for bike rides outside the city. It felt Rad to ride as part of an all women crew. My friend had a jersey that said blue skies big thighs one day. We went out for a long hilly ride. We stopped halfway for a snack. My friends got sandwiches and SMOOTHIES and ordered a small Kale Salad before my friends could say anything. I lied and told them that he'd had a really big breakfast. It was worried about my friends. Finding out that I wasn't eating. I was worried that they would tell me. I knew better I did know better. I minored in Gender Studies. I was in the giant of monologues. Four Times I didn't even date men a new. That diet culture was bullshit. A knew that my worth wasn't determined by weight. I felt too feminist and queer to have an eating disorder. The final climb back up to the Golden Gate. Bridge is a windy steep three Mile Hill. I've fallen way behind my friends. I'm starting to really slow down. The Hill is getting steeper. I feel lightheaded and nauseous. I tilt over to the side and because my shoes are clipped in I follow over. If pull my bike to the side of the road I sit down and I cry. I feel so stupid. Just like this is ridiculous. Why am I doing this? I Walk my bike up the rest of the hill later that year. I was in a bike accident. I don't remember the fall or the ambulance. The first thing I remember is waking up in the hospital. The doctor told me they assumed it was a hit and run. He told me someone had found me unconscious on the side of the road and call nine one one but the first thing I thought was. What did I eat for breakfast? Had I passed out on my ride Later that day I went home to recover and at the end of the week I took a short walk down to the lake. I sat still on the grass and Doug my fingers into the earth I could have died. I still had a nagging fear that the accident was my fault. And even if it wasn't my body was in bad shape I haven't gotten my period in months. I had acid reflux from all the PUKING. I felt fragile. I decided I needed to get help. I mean an appointment with a therapist who specializes in eating disorders. But my sessions with her always felt flat. She was sort of vaguely. Talked to me about beauty standards. She asked me what kind of shows I watched. And what magazines they read at the end of one session. After a long stretch of silence. She cleared her throat. She told me I want you to consider that the problem is not your body. The problem is how you've been taught to see your body. I stayed silent until it was time to go home. I thought about what she said. On my way home I felt like there was something more complicated going on. It didn't think I wanted that. Idealized female body. But I couldn't articulate. The kind of body did want during the time I was in therapy did gradually start eating more but I think it has less to do with therapy and more to do with the guilt I still felt about the bike accident and the damage. It was doing to myself eight kind of as if it was a chore but the Underlying Discomfort. I felt in my body was only getting worse. Felt it when I got dressed. All my clothes felt wrong. It wasn't so much the close. It was my body in the clothes when I put on a button down a hated. The way attended over my chest. I bought a pack of Hanes white t shirts but those never fit quite right either figuring out. My sexuality had been not easy but more straightforward. When I came out as Queer in college it felt obvious I had a friend and then all of a sudden we were holding hands and falling asleep in each other's dorm room beds and finally kissing but my experience of gender wasn't tied to other people in the same way I was trying to figure it out on my own until I met up with my friend. Jamie for a drink. We hadn't seen each other in over a year and in that time they started to transition. Jamie were mostly plain white. T shirts like I did. But now there's fit them flat against their chests so that they didn't have to tug at it all the time sitting next to them. I felt like the awkward younger sibling. Trying to mirror them leaned over the bar elbows wide just like needed. I became aware of my voice and tried to lower it and oxidative to match theirs. Jimmy told me about their transition their voice cracked and they joked about how starting testosterone was making them go through puberty all over again. At all my pimples. They said I laughed. I didn't pimples but I did want the other thing. They had the ease they seem to carry themself with. Jamie was somewhere else in this gender universe and I realized maybe so was I. I walked on Jess and after feel a little bit confident when I walked in. My house means we're all in the living room. I stood in the middle and asked. Can you start using the then pronouns for me only in the House I want to see how it sounds and try it out? Everyone was like sure my housemate gave me a high five. Went down the hallway room and laid on my bed feeling my heart pound. I turn the new Pronoun over and over in my head. We'll be right back a few months after I started going by then pronouns. I decided to buy a binder. Putting it on was not easy. It's kind of like a sports bra and a straightjacket combined but when I looked in the mirror for the first time my chest was flat I turned to one side flat and then the other flat. I straightened my posture still flat. At this point I was the heaviest I'd been in a year. I loved how strong I felt my long bike rides but I still wish that the parts of my body that felt soft and out of place could disappear now with the binder on a realized that this was the thing I'd been going for. This was the body I couldn't picture back in the therapist's office
Asifa Lahore: Coming Out Stories
"Didn't always believed I was female. I When I hit puberty I kinda realize I was attracted to boys and I guess the time because like trans visibility was so low. I mean I go there. I'm chatting about like the late ninety. S I didn't see any trans people around me born and bred London. So I do not see Trans people around me so gay. People just assumed that I was gay. And did you articulate it to anybody? Then those people that you were gay. Did you ever commit your family's Life Gordon? I obviously like I'm from British Muslim background My parents are from Pakistan. And I'm proud of those identities but when I was growing up I felt really conflicted and I felt like I couldn't be myself and coming out was good. It was never on the table. It was one thing that I don't think I would have. I feel the time I'd never have the courage to tell my parents about me. Being who I am boy what. What did you feel the reaction would be? I think at the time I just assumed that they wouldn't understand. They wouldn't understand because Number one in like my mother languages of Job Like there's no word for gay Although I knew of at the time you obviously know that you know the word gay exists the word lesbian bisexual but in my own languages I have no idea how to say it and the other thing I thought obviously was religion would play a part of growing up inherently knew that it was wrong to be gay but I didn't know why but I just knew it was wrong. Say I just kind of didn't tell anyone so were you actively going to the mosque researching involved in pro. Yes I mean throughout my life. I've I wouldn't class myself. As someone who's like staunch by the book Muslim many people would consider me very bad in the sense that you know. I don't pray five times a day. I'm lucky if I make the the mosque. Once a week fostering down I give to charity. I believe in Gods but many people would consider me quite a liberal Muslim. Shall we say so as a child who busy going to the most can not having this conversation presumably some point you came around and you know what I've got the strength and this is the right time to hardshell. Ticky light it until more star gay. Yeah and I'll tell you exactly when it was so I sort of came out in two stages as gay one was when my younger sister found my diary I was sixteen. She was ten and she came to me and she said look. I know I've been reading a diary and I was like she had found out. I tell me about sister really sneak into my room but yes. She basically kind of confirmed somebody known minds. I live shows. I look. I'm cool with it. Just turns out MOM and dad because they're not going to understand that and because a lot of trouble so Kensington myself and it was only when I was like twenty two twenty three and I was at university. And that's when I kind of came out and all hell broke loose. And what's so? Obviously my mom and dad did not understand what it was to be gay I thought maybe there was something you know something wrong with me sexually in the sense that maybe. I don't know I remember. My Dad asking me was. Is there anything wrong with your quin or something or having right but I am discussing so many like personal things with your mom and dad is like cranes sit down conversation in the front room talk in the front room in my bedroom? It was me my mom and my dad. I don't think they wanted anyone else to hear what was going on. But they ended up basically taking me to like the local. Gp IN THEIR WORLD. They thought okay. There is something medically wrong here. Obviously like the doctor who again was from an Asian background in his sixties really stood up for me and he said look You know there's nothing that I can prescribe your son and I understand the struggles and the challenges around like culture and religion. But this is something you're going to have to deal with as family so I was then taken to the mosque and I ended up discussing so many things with my mom including like though a few things on the table one was celibacy which was never going to happen. I mean that boy I mean I was not going to tell my folks and my community that I wasn't a virgin but I wasn't but you actually discussed this with the Emma Lee. Yeah I mean Celibacy was quiet. It was like if you remain Saliba and you know you don't have same sex relationships you'll be fine. You know that was. That was never ever going to happen. The second thing that was really put on the table was marriage to a female. And the idea that if you marry then it will kill you like. Oh you haven't had sex with a woman once you're married and you have sex and you have. Children is Kinda like that side of you. Will you'll forget side of you like it. Won't it won't have happened so you must have felt very isolated insensitive. Nobody understood what you really go. Through a yeah. I felt super isolated. I mean my gay friends did not really understand. They will allow you just reject. Until why don't you just leave family and my Muslim friends obviously did not really know about me. I mean I I was living like double life and under that pressure at the time of sort of coming out. I felt like a really dark depression on. I ended up agreeing to like Marriage to like my first cousin in Pakistan and I was in that engagement for good six months. Did you meet this play around my cousin like when I was young on on frequent trips to Pakistan there was a period of my life like in my early teenage years. I lived him back some for for years. So you know I knew her and We were always good friends but you know when this whole she bang happened. It kind of felt like into really dog depression. I knew it was only when you know I I was put in touch with like lgbt charities in London where I began getting counseling. I'm where I began getting support I began meeting other gay Muslims and other LGBT Asian people. And I kid you not emma up until that point I really believed I was the only Asian Games village really really really I did. And that's a hard place to be really really hard because I kind of like felt like I was like a soldier at the time. Battening everything on my own. And you can't like he contact all these things on your own all these issues and it's only when I kind of felt like okay. I've found my people I've found my tribe. I went back to like my mom and dad and I said look. I'm not going through with this. I'm definitely gay. You know I'm not going to be forced into marriage to my female cousin and although you know my mom and dad will okay fine. There's nothing we can. No one can be forced to do this. It did Craig quite rift in the family because my first cousin is such a close relationship and stop me like going to Pakistan for such a long time because I was kind of a bit of a bit scared ashamed a bit like why did I you know why did I do that. Did she. Accept it did her family except in the end at the time but years later like you know one side come out and once I'd gone once I'd like established a successful career once I was out out to the world and once I went back to Pakistan like a good ten years after the incident they understood. Then
Feminists: Huda Sha'arawi
"Let's talk about who Shar rally. Who was born in eighteen seventy nine in Upper Egypt? She came from an affluent family. Her father was a wealthy Egypt. Noble who spent her childhood in an Egyptian Harem which kept women secluded and veiled the Harem system required women to live in their own private quarters separate an isolated for men. Many women within the HAREM system were denied access to education but who was educated early in life alongside her brothers. She learned Turkish Arabic and literature from private tutors. Who grew older? Her resentment increased. She wrote years later about the bitterness. She felt as a young girl. I became depressed and began to neglect my studies hating being girl because it kept me from the education I saw later being a female became a barrier between me and the freedom for which I earned at the onset of puberty who does no longer allowed to be seen by the sons of her family friends which she described as a painful experience. She noticed great attention that was paid to her brother which resulted in jealousy despite her envy. Who and her brother had a loving relationship and he later stood by her side while she fought against gender injustice at the age of Thirteen. Huda MARRIED HER COUSIN. A man forty years her senior. Who Does father pressure her into marriage insisting that her refusal would bring shame to the family. File Huta reluctantly agreed. Soon after she separated from her husband for seven years during this time Huda prioritized her independence diving back into her studies and venturing into activism. Huda wrote in her memoir. I intend to vocalise my pain and start a revolution for the silent women who faced centuries of oppression in her early adulthood who to begin organizing lectures bringing many women into public places for the first time in nineteen. Oh eight who founded the first Philanthropic Society run by Egyptian women which offered medical services for poor women and children who believed women run service? Projects challenged the view that women needed protection as a wealthy woman who to believe that the rich could solve the problems of the poor through charitable activities in nineteen. Ten Huda opened a school for Young Women. She focused on academics rather than the domestic skills that were typically taught to women at the time during the early twentieth century. The fight for women's rights gained momentum around the world in nineteen nineteen after World War. One many Egyptian women protested against British rule in Egypt and sought to use the national struggle to Harem practices. Who to let the masses in an effort that ultimately became known as the Egyptian Revolution of Nineteen Nineteen in nineteen twenty following the protests who was elected as the first president of the Waft Women's Central Committee a political body founded by Egyptian women three years later in nineteen twenty-three after returning to Egypt from a conference in Europe Huda threw off her veil outside the Cairo train station. She encouraged other women to follow suit and this became one of the first public rejection of the veil in Egypt soon thereafter who founded the Egyptian Feminist Union which sought to reform laws that restricted women for personal freedoms who to remain president of the Egyptian Feminist Union until her death in nineteen forty seven organizing and leading the fight for women's rights. In the new Egypt she died at the age of Sixty Huda reflected on her. Life's mission in her memoir. She said I believe that history repeats itself and for that reason. I am indebted to my namesake Huda Al-Shaarawi Egyptian feminist and the first woman in the Middle East who called for female
"puberty" Discussed on Parenting: Difficult Conversations
"But we sort of don't boys don't WanNa talk and so we don't talk to them. We don't talk to them about what they're physically going through and we don't talk to them about what their emotionally going through. And it's a real disservice to the boys that we don't push through to me like what's going on with you like what are you feeling right now because it's embarrassing and they don't want to give it up and they don't? WanNa talk about it and we just think of them as little masturbation machines and to simplify girls to like. Protect your chastity and to simplify two boys to be like boys will be boys. It's a disservice to both. Groups is to not try to create a dialogue about all of the spectrum of feelings emotions and physical reactions that they're having were not looking deep enough into both of these groups to understand that the the panoply of things happening to them. I'm curious if you guys could describe how your parents Each of you talked about sex with you or didn't my I'll go first. 'cause mine will be much shorter my It was mostly. It was basically Do you have any questions? Nope okay good was kind of the way it was handled in my home What about you nick? My family really my mom dinner sort of like talk through things. We had books around the house. There were these old like seventies eighties. Like books called like what is happening to me Which are Kinda groovy cartoon drawings and like also very clear? Like here's what like a boy? Looks like naked? Here's what a teenager looks like naked. Here's what a man looks like naked so on and so forth and the same for girls so my mom was very much like. Here's what's happening. Puberty secondary sex characteristics. Are Your your eyebrows? Girl in your nipples become engorged. You know you'll grow underarm hair. And I was a very late bloomer so I was constantly looking around at my friends and looking at Andrews Nipples and being like Andrew hitting puberty and I'm so glad I didn't know. Yeah Yeah I played it pretty cool and I so I gave an interview and I talked about that on. My mom was like. I'm so sorry that I had that effect on you that it made you feel not good about yourself and I was like. It's not your fault at all. You were trying to give me information. What what we can control is how that information is absorbed. You know like we can't control that. That made me feel insecure. She was just trying to be like. Here's what's happening. Yeah I mean the flip side to that question I guess is how is this affected Andrew? Your conversations with your own kids and nick. I don't know if you're like the designated weird uncle for these conversations but how. How has this affected Your parenting or your uncle 'cause I think is actually a really important and other adults are really important too. I think I'm for a couple reasons. Much more open with with my kids about sexuality and those types of things my one of the other reasons to just my my wife. She grew up the child of hippies. And so you know I it fits the world you that I've grown into to working on this show. I mean like my daughter when she was six or seven. You know explained to me that her dear deary and her Fox Mitzi these stuffed animals were having sexual intercourse But they're they're using condoms because they don't want to get pregnant yet. Well it sounds like Mitzi endure a responsible caring relationship and they're they're doing the right thing so good for them and she's also. It's really very profoundly. Affected the way that I talked to my kids about sex and I think for me you know. I don't have kids my own and but I I think we spend all day every day talking about all of this stuff Both the physical things happening but also the emotional landscape of it and I think it has made me talk very frankly about this stuff with whoever I'm talking about because a because we spent so much time talking and thinking about it you know I talk a little bit with my nieces nephews. Who are of that age about that stuff. One thing that my sister does Also is we I have a niece. Who's younger. She's got older brothers. Who were watching the show. She wanted to watch it. My sister was like you know you can watch the show. If you write five questions that you WanNa talk about after you watch it. Which was really interesting to read the questions because they were 'cause her questions were like. Why does Jessie like this boy? Who doesn't like her back or like. Why does Jesse feel bad about those clothes or like and it was really it was it turned into a very interesting way to kind of a platform to have bigger conversations and it was much more about the emotions and the relationships in the show than the than the? Sax Yes what she was curious about. Yeah the other side of it I've found. Is that when people find out what I do? A lot of adults want to share their experiences with me no matter how incredibly personally are I was at a party and is very elderly. Woman told me the story about how when she was like fifteen or sixteen. Her best friend taught her how to give a blowjob by doing it front of our to her boyfriend in his basement and my and my wife walked up in the middle of the story was kind of like what are you work on the show but I still have boundaries not anymore. Yes all right you guys. This has been a lot of fun. Thank you again for giving us so much time and for the show. It's been great. Yeah thank you so much all right now Nick Kroll and Andrew Goldberg creators of the animated series big mouth. I guess what occurred to me in talking with them. Corey is that they're really kind of on the same mission that we are you know in their own very very different ways but the message is so similar right like let's start talking. More openness is better and having empathy for other people's experiences is is so important in these transitions and don't forget to laugh Yes for more. Npr check out all of our other episodes. There's one about how to start a creative habit. There's one on how to quit smoking. And plus lots of parenting episodes. You can find them all at NPR dot org slash life kit. And if you love life kit and what more subscribe to our newsletter and here as always a completely random tip this time from listeners Sarah Coughlin if you ever worried about accidentally spending your rent money get a separate checking account just for your rent and then to be truly next level. Have Your work deposit part of your paycheck right into the account. If you've got a good tip leave US voicemails at two zero two two one six nine eight to three or email us at life kit at NPR DOT org. This episode was produced by Sylvie. Douglas are managing producers. Megan Kane was episode was edited by Steve Drummond. Death Donovan is the senior editor. I'm Corey Turner and I'm on your cabinets. Thanks for listening..
Minding Mental Illness with Esmé Weijun Wang
"I really wanted to be able to be seen as high functioning and I wanted to be able to be seen as normal and if people found out about my diagnoses. I wanted them to see me as like. Eah The person who had this serious diagnosis but who also graduated from Stanford with a three point nine. Gpa So it scared me that. I had these symptoms that I couldn't control ninety minute. All and welcome to One lady like they show that finds out what happens when women break the rules. I'm Kristen I'm caroline. And that was today's guest as May wage and Wang author of the New York Times bestselling essay collection. The collected Schizophrenia Carolina. I've been wanting to talk to as may for a while now. I stumbled across her a couple of years back when I was going through a scary mental health period of my own. As I mentioned before on unladylike I have generalized anxiety disorder and at that time like on paper. Everything looked good. You know but I was spiraling on the inside and it was honestly so unsettling that I didn't know how to talk about it and I didn't WanNa talk about it or not. I think I was scared. That talking about it would make it feel even more real and it felt like a burden. I didn't WanNa put on anyone else like. I just desperately wanted to figure out how to get myself back together. And that's actually how I ended up on as May's website. It's called the unexpected shape as basically all about getting your creative work done while also living with mental or physical illness and I was just so struck by how openly she talks about having a serious mental illness. Yeah in her. Mid Twenties as May was diagnosed with schizophrenia disorder which she describes as the fucked up offspring of manic depression and schizophrenia is almost like a demon that takes over a person The schizophrenia causes a person to no longer be themselves whereas depression and anxiety think are often considered to be quite awful but they are more considered to be things that are layered on top of a person. You know there's something that somebody is dealing with. they're not something that takes over or empties out a person or places. The spirit of a person in the collected schizophrenia is as may details her journey to what she calls the inappropriately crazy end of the Mental Health Spectrum Aka. A the most unladylike end and she's far from alone there an estimated one hundred thousand five. Americans live with serious mental illness or SMS. The most common ones are schizophrenia. Spectrum disorders severe bipolar disorder and Severe Major Depression. But as may also occupies a very particular space on that unladylike end of the spectrum. She doesn't fit. What we think schizophrenia. Looks like you know. She's not visibly unhinged or unkempt. She's a Yale and Stanford educated award-winning writer. Who's married her? College sweetheart has plenty of friends and frankly dresses. She gives fog. She does and I was really drawn to this idea of someone who is killing it on the outside all the same time. Her mental illness is sort of escalating on the inside. So today we're talking with asthma about navigating serious mental illness. How it shapes her ambition and why wanting to be seen as high functioning is so important to her and quick note. Y'All we're getting into serious mental health issues in this episode including psychosis in suicidal idealization. So heads up. If you're sensitive to those topics only as I grew up in Michigan and was raised by her Taiwanese immigrant parents. She started reading at two and wanted to be a writer by the time. Most kids are learning to tie. Their shoes. Baby was not messing around when she was about six as me. Sent a letter to the publisher. Little Brown asking how she could get her works in print already and they actually wrote me. Back I remember. They wrote me back the types letter typewritten letter and they said I needed an agent. So yeah I I've I've wanted to be a writer for a very long time. That's funny to tell a child that you need an like yeah. I've imagining some kind of like intern or assistant just thinking like you know. How should I respond to this kid? But alongside her big writing dreams. Sba had to deal with extreme evolving and often completely mysterious mental health issues and they also started when she was really young. When I was four or five I remember having issues where I would just filled with anxiety in compulsion. I remember this one evening where I was going to get up and get a drink and then we go to the bathroom and then I would feel like I needed to go to bed and get a drink and then go to the bathroom and I did this over and over again. Compulsively fan ended up standing at the top of the stairs and I just burst into tears and my mom said why are you crying and I just said I can't stop with puberty. Came depression anxiety and insomnia. By the time she was a teenager as me was having suicidal thoughts inserted seeing the high school counselor and at some point. She told me you're going to have to see a psychiatrist. This is getting really serious and so one morning. I told my mom before school. I've been seeing a counselor and she thinks that I need to see a psychiatrist and Mommy yelled at me. She was so upset so angry. She said we've always given you everything you've needed. You have close to where you have food. Who have a roof over your head? How could he do this to us? And I. I remember crying in the car on the way to school and crying I skipped first period and I was just crying in the art room. Eventually as May and her mom went to see the psychiatrist together he was a white man and he asked my mom in front of me. Is there any history of mental illness in the Family? Which is a very ordinary question to ask in this kind of like diagnostic meeting. And my mom said no. There's no history and I learned years later that there was quite a strong history of mental illness. My family and I asked my mom. Why did you tell that first doctor that there was no history of mental illness and she said In Chinese essentially wall? It wasn't his business and I think that kind of cultural stigma was a lingering factor throughout all of my diagnoses. Her diagnoses plural started with clinical depression and anxiety then the summer after as graduated from high school. She was exhibiting enough signs of mania that our psychiatrist diagnosed her with bipolar disorder. And my mom was just like okay. She didn't know what it meant. Really she told me years later that if she had really understood what it meant she wouldn't have let me go to school especially not across the country and not by myself as May was eighteen and a couple of months later she left home in California to start her freshman year at Yale. Now as many psychiatrists recommended that she wait to start taking her new bipolar medication until she got settled. Yale and could start working with someone there. This meant that there was a stretch of months whereas may was dealing with the stress of starting college and experiencing bipolar symptoms. That delay was the first domino to fall. That ultimately resulted in as May being hospitalized at the Yale Psychiatric Institute twice her first year there after the second time Yale sent packing then in her early twenties after she'd restarted her college career at Stanford as me began experiencing intermittent symptoms of psychosis. Psychosis is either hallucinations. So false sensory experiences hearing bang seeing things feeling things physically in the actually hearing things like you hear them as though they're actually there and then delusions are false
Tom's Journey With Drugs and AA
"My name is Tom. And I'm an addict and that's probably one of the things that I want to address. I is that Komo always a little bit hesitant to speak at an AA meeting. Because I don't have a drinking history that is going to be very involved but It was almost exclusively drugs for me. And and I apologize if that because of that. You can't relate or anything like you know anything like that but So I grew up in a small town in South Alabama about ten thousand people and Aw so pretty normal You know elementary school and you know L. High School and like I always had a girlfriend all through elementary school and really I did all through high school but along about puberty are so I began to realize my attraction attraction to other boys men so when in my town the when you leave six excreted you go straight to so in and I was just terrified of this Going to high school because in the seventh grade you have have all grades. I had seniors in my physical education class. When I was in in in high school I was in the seventh grade and the rumor was that the seventh graders are all going to have their pants ripped off and run up the flagpole and so that was a fear to however soon I began to enjoy physical education as you know it was a chance for me to peer at other boys and everything and I was kind of realizing that what I was hoping it was was a phase and but you know I didn't know anything anything about it or anything like that so you know I was hoping that it might go away one day and that everybody you know maybe everybody goes through a phase like this? Yes but it didn't go away and of course you know I've I've always joked that in in my town like being gay would be You know akin to or or let me put put it this way. I always used to say that the Guy who robbed the liquor store and shot the clerk would be more respected than a gay person. I'm in my town so you know. Of course I I kept that all client and you know whether this can you know this will come up because it hasn't I I. My story has a lot to do with my story with drugs has a lot to do with sex so in college college. I smokes marijuana in my freshman year. But it didn't get off but finally I I kind of came out in the summer of my junior between my junior and senior year in college and you know had sex for the first time and STARTED GOING TO ATLANTA. I went to school at Auburn. Which is in Alabama and it's about two hours from Atlanta so I started going to Atlanta a lot and so I would like go to Atlanta on Friday night state state of the bars closed and then come back to football game on Saturday then go back to Atlanta on Saturday night has stayed in the bars? Close rolling down windows and doing all kinds of things to to keep myself awake while I was doing all that driving. But so you know I was given pot and so in my my senior year I got off on pot and I you know I had been drinking and I noticed like all during my fraternity parties parties and all that other guys seem to get a lot more fun out of it than I did because I would get you know when I got to where I could feel it I would enjoy it for about an hour or so and then I get really hungry and I'd WanNa eat then I wanna go to sleep. And then the next day it was always always a at least a twenty four hour recovery for me. There was no question how about after I had been drunk. Was I going to go to this class the next day or anything like that. I was praying to the porcelain goddess the entire day so when I discovered pod that was like oh now I've got something that I can do at parties but immediately my friends changed and this was back in like nineteen seventy three seventy four and so you know it was Kinda like it would be kind of like you know so okay okay. I became a person that you're cool. If you smoke pod you know you kinda like would say hey eighties Mojo year. I smoke all this kind of stuff and so would I am I band and my other friends and so I was. I was in. ROTC in college and So I immediately went into the airforce right after college. I was a pretty big whoop empty. Do in ROTC and college. I was like the Cadet Commander of Air Force Army Navy Navy. ROTC for this big presentation celebration and all this kind of stuff. Even though I had begun smoking pot and hitting the gay bars ars on the weekends and so when I got into the air force I was going to go. I was in in pilot training and so you know while I was flying these planes with an instructor all that kind of stuff. I thought this is not going to be very good. pot-smoking job so I was thinking I began to think about. Okay now. What do I want to do? You know that would be a good pot-smoking job and so and immediately by the way when I started smoking pot I never expected as much from me after that. My my whole self esteem or what. I thought that I might become all of that was never was never the same name so I was thinking pop truck driver. That would be a good pot-smoking job especially since I seem to have to have a joint everywhere. I went in the car. You know which is ridiculous so Douglas. Maybe you can identify with with that. I mean you know because it's just you know it's dangerous for that too but but it seemed like like a good idea at the time so I eliminated myself from pilot training and became an administrative officer and so but the night before I started pilot training. I need to go back. That was used to go. I was stationed in Selma Alabama Emma all places and used to go to Atlanta on the weekends and so I was at this guy who let me stay at his house when I would go to Atlanta and he was having a party and he gave me there was a little bit of powder on the end of a knife and he you gave it to me just swallow. And so that was when I first discovered met and we never. We never mentioned the word meth back. Then we always called Krystal a nice a nice sounding word and so I thought and an identified like. Here's the point where identify a lot with people whose drug of choice is alcohol. Because immediately I thought where has this. I've been all my life. I know what's wrong with me. This must be how normal people feel and so I was you you know I felt better looking. I was a better conversationalist I had deep conversations that night with people that I couldn't stand And and You know I just thought this was you know I've said this before that. So what's wrong with me is I've been suffering from a meth deficiency Z. Crystal deficiency and so. I thought that that was the answer. And of course it turned on me. I got caught during the Air Force in the Air Force with a with a test. Urine urine test best. They called it operation golden flow so I got caught and I lied my way out. You know they. The Command base commander called me and he said like there were there. Were two positives in the test and Lieutenant Sawyer. One of them was yours and I go mine why he said well. You tested positive for him. Fatemi so I go amphetamine for me. What could that be you know and I said Oh I was in Vancouver? I was stationed in Upper Washington state. Right on the Canadian border. I said well I was was in Vancouver the last week and I was going to go skiing the next day and a guy gave me this diet this diet. Take this and you won't be tired tired. And so and I said I thought a diet pill which is something you could buy. I didn't know that it was anything wrong with that. Just lying through my teeth the whole time know exactly what it was but so I had to pee for a month in the you know. Oh every every week for a month and but I did get my self out of that but even you know during that during during that month I was thinking all kinds of ways. Like how could I scheme to Be Able to do some crystal and not get caught in the urinalysis Ossis but so after I got out of the Air Force I went back went to graduate school and I I was only there a couple of quarters and then I I dropped Out and I I moved to Atlanta. which is where my disease really took
Puberty Starts a Year Earlier for Girls Now Than in the 1970s
"Puberty starts earlier than you. I think so. Start talking about it. Now that's right. Puberty can kick in as early as eight or nine years old especially for girls and you know this is a huge transformation formation physically emotionally and mentally for one thing. Dr Brunner says the architecture of our frontal lobes which is the part of the brain that regulates our emotions. It's undergoing undergoing really big changes. Our brains are being flooded with estrogen testosterone and progesterone. Doctor says at this age will see kids decision making ability ability going a little haywire. They're all these things that are happening on the part of their brain. That's supposed to say stop. Doing that. Isn't really working. This is one of the reasons that teens take. Risks Folks that they make some mistakes and other times. They'll just be really moody in Extra Vulnerable One. MOM named Electra McGrath. Had let's see. She lives in Las Vegas and she. She told us how she started picking up on these telltale signs of puberty along with her daughter Lily. Just little things I had noticed like telling Lily. Hey Hey did you brush your teeth today. We're getting ready for school morning. And her bursting into tears. Just because all the hormones coursing through her body. It's a sensitive the topic. Okay essentially getting going to my husband in saying it is really important that were kind to her and that we don't forget how confusing and frustrating. It feels to not be able to manage your emotions in the way that you want to. The point is is to help our kids through this tough time. We need to be proactive. Talk about hormones about Breast Development Tampons Birth Control Wet Dreams Sexual Sexual Orientation Gender Expression orgasms. Masturbation don't wait to bring it up and we know that this is going to be uncomfortable or awkward for some of you so we recommend doing it when you're not necessarily eye to eye maybe it's in the car ignition bike ride or just going for a walk down the block.
The Ins and Outs of Steroids
"Now before we begin. I do want to say this episode is not meant to be a comment on anyone that does steroids is more for educational don't purposes so that people can understand the what could be considered the physiological positive effects of steroids but obviously explore the negative effects of steroids always as well and what they really are. Firstly the words steroid has many different meanings as steroids can be chemicals that often hormones that your body makes endogenously within the body naturally on the help carryout cell activity and you need a healthy balance to grow grow. The other hand steroids can be made can be synthetic on of which there are the two main types that are co scare steroids on Anabolic Andrew. Genetic steroids animal officials so corticosteroids are medicines that quickly fight inflammation flirtation. They work like the Hormone Cortisol and Cortisol keeps your immune system from making substances that cause inflammation so these types of steroids. They slow or stop the immune system process that triggers this inflammation but admits that presented. I won't say because mainly on Bolic's so as mentioned anabolic steroids are aw synthetic manmade properties and aversions of testosterone which is the male predominately male sex hormone. That's how it was build big muscles. The women duels out testosterone but men have more women have more issues and in the name and unapologetic. This refers to muscle building on drudge refers to increase male sex caracteristics. And that's why. The name is anabolic for muscle-building For the male sex characteristics so it's worth saying that healthcare providers can prescribe steroids to treat hormonal issues. If you have some from delay puberty for example it can also treat diseases. That cool was muscle all such such as concern AIDS. But obviously in this episode wouldn't be focusing on ready how athletes and bodybuilders can misuse these drugs in attempt to boost a physical appearance and Affleck performance but before we look into the dangers associated with Miss USA steroids. Let's look into what could be considered the positive effects. They have on the body so taking it back to what happens when we work out. We know that when we lift weights we put a muscle strain and we are progressively area loading them to create tiny micro ties in our muscle fibers wipers and the body's natural repair process. That happens when we start to repair the TAT. And add further cells to build a stronger fiber and this is known as muscle hypertrophy. And every time it's is this repeats. The process of tie-down rebuild results in muscle brave and natural testosterone is one of the main ingredients for this process but the anabolic steroids can serve as a supplement so once ingested or injected and all about steroid traveled through the bloodstream to the muscle. Tissue is drawn to the muscle cells receiving dot colder under Gen receptor on these receptors shaved very specifically to bind with the body's natural testosterone. Whole matter but once this synthetic steroids in place the receptor Sir is activated? So the steroid takes the form of Test Australian and fits within these receptors and then the steroids can start interacting with the self DNA to stimulate the protein synthesis. His process that promote cell growth and once these receptors are activated some cells by the synthetic steroid some sales increased production of proteins which oversee a body used to build Komo cells. And this is the phase the metabolic cycle known as a nominalism where small molecules build into more complex. Ones and energy is stored on your body build up muscle. Intense exercise can also release cortisol and this breaks down a breakdown muscle tissue producing so muscles and some steroids can actually block cortisol. From finding to the muscle cells receptors diminishing the breakdown process so anabolic steroids shot in the Catholic phase of the metabolic cycle. So means your muscles spend less time on recovering between workouts and you can do more exercise with less rest. One study showed. The men who used steroids for ten weeks gained two to five kilograms of lean body muscle muscle and therefore I five to twenty percent increase in strength. This muscle. Mass will the game muscle mass predominantly in chest shoulders and upper arms because they're more amgen origin receptors in these cells in there on your legs for example but it is not all sunshine and rainbows. Steroids have dockside. I'm very native effects. As well. People who misused steroids they usually taken orally or injected them and or platinum is a cream even doses may be anywhere from ten to a hundred times higher Ahah than those prescribed to treat medical conditions so the negative effects quite plentiful they can have a long-term damaging effect in the body including kidney problems or failures liver damage including lychees insists. There's the risk of blood clots heart attacks and strokes. The increased strength delivered by Anabolic. Steroids can summary Recession just leads. What's known as Royd rage which leads to altered moods? Irritability increased aggression on the thought to do this by talking nerve cells on and so it leads to poor impulse control so Lloyd rages overacting to an event that normally wouldn't set them off steroid. Usage can also lead to Gynaecomastia Theo. Which is the development of Enlarge Mayo breasts and Dr? Joseph t cruise is one of the talk Los Angeles Gynaecomastia surgeons and he actually conducted as their in house study. It showed that approximately fifty percent of patients who come to see him with the problem of enlargement. Oh breasts have whole moaning juice With majority of them being bodybuilders bodybuilders who've taken steroids at some stage in life and this is because steroids can be converted into eastern by the body in this increase in east region which is the FEMA sex hormone is what causes. Men's develop unwanted breast tissue against our own also lead to shrunken testy. Compact male fertility increased acne acne and so much more so there are alludes of debilitating effects of steroids can affect you long term and have serious serious health risks. So that's all we have the time for for this episode. I hope this helped educate you. On what stories are how they mimic endogenous body homes on the potential short-term game but really really scary longtime effects of steroids so I want to stress that this happened again is not tolerated. Anyone that is taking steroids and considering taking steroids but it should be seen from the educational standpoint. That of course is a surface level. Discussion to provide feather Info fits within the timeframe we try and cells in the short
"From stand up. Comedian Kate. McCabe I was gobsmacked smarts when she told me who she chose to I come out to. I think it's interesting sometimes as a lesbian or gay person or somebody who identifies somewhere else on the sexuality spectrum. You might ask the question of. When did you know you were gay? But that's different than like. When did you feel different? Or when you felt attraction to the same sex I remember feeling like perhaps like a non sexualize way drawn to women very early on when I was like in second grade or something having having little tiny crushes on female teachers. Okay but then I think feeling probably different than other girls more around like like when I was like twelve thirteen fourteen when you actually are starting to go through puberty and you see girls gravitating towards boys trying to get their attention and flirty with them. You know when when my female friends were picking their favourite members of new kids on the block and I was scrambling to make up some random attraction to one of them to Nisa old sites. Tell us where you were growing up. Then okay I grew up in Erie. Pennsylvania which is On the Great Lakes Aches in America. Wonderful thought a great place to grow up being bit I wouldn't call Erie. Pennsylvania like a hyper progressive city. I would describe it as very Americana Traditionally more of like a blue collar type background although there were lots of white collar workers there as well you know. Detroit has the reputation of sort of like a factory city. That is maybe like a little run down. He's got a little bit of that spirit as well. They're both Great Lakes cities and it's that sort of have like a slightly depressed although there's efforts now for rebirth wall SORTA messages. Were you getting about the fact that you know you knew that you were a lesbian or you need a different. The messages were getting in the playground. or or in the place where you live. Oh deep dark ones. I grew up Catholic and I went to Catholic school so especially in the eighties nineties. You know there wasn't much progressivism in my Catholic community in Erie Pennsylvania. In fact quite the opposite you know it would have been got you could help her masturbating so you could picture picture masturbating to a female. You know is twice as bad So as far as commentary from other people I went to a Catholic girls all schools so it was interesting. It was sort of like that type of That teachers a less. You know like that sort of negativity like I bet sister so and so was a lesbian. Or I bet Mrs so and so is gay that sort of like a negative lesbians gross not necessarily directed squarely at me. I was a funny girl in a high school. Like I crack jokes. I was like class clown which I think is a classic Gay self-preservation Maneuver COMEDIANS poking funny. That is funny though. Isn't it. I never thought about it like that. But Yeah I think it's it's like a it's a type of martial art So you mentioned obviously felt Different when you were young but women's first time he's sort of realized it was a sexual things well so when I was going through puberty I had a kind of centralized dream about a woman that I knew and I told my mom pretty urgently because I was weirded out and I I must have been like twelve or thirteen well and I told I said Hey I had a dream that was like this and Blah Blah Blah and. My mom is so lovely. She just calmed me down. It was like look. You're going through puberty right now. So you're gonna I think all sorts of weird things do not bother thinking about this for another second. All kinds of bizarre thoughts are going to pop into your head. See later. I'll tell you. Yeah exactly so really I was able to sort of via like safe mode of thinking. Just think like I'm going through puberty just because I'm fantasizing about women doesn't mean I'm gay. It's just that my hormones are going bonkers and eventually they'll settle on men So that's what you told you so. Yeah that was my logic. I was because of what you've been told school and by that I mean at school. It's not like I'd been given any sort of lesson in about like sexuality and how it materializes I think mostly that little blanket of cover that had been provided by my mom and by the way not not like in a negative way. She was just trying to make me feel better and I don't think she thought I was gay. I don't legit. I don't think she thought like Oh my daughter's gay. I'm going to give her a cover. I do think she just believed leave. That this was sort of like it. Sounds like you will genuinely confused that. So Yeah Yeah. I don't think either of US knew that like that I. It wouldn't transfer over to men you know like I. I never had sex about men but that was also not a detail that I told my mom. So you carried on having they sort of fantasies and not really knowing what your sexuality was a really understanding was was. was there a sort of moment where you went. Oh hang on the dots adjoining up here. I think I might be guy. Yeah I finally admitted to myself when I was in university so I went to university in New York City which is a great Playground for a a gay kid coming out and and I really was boy. Did homosexuality need to really work hard with me. I stayed in the closet for my for America's four years of university degree. I was in the closet for three of them in New York City with a gay best friend. Yeah Oh my God. And they've got amazing clipper called the Click Club. Do you know about that. I do know that clip club and meow mix. AP meow mix. Yeah I want to show you what do I. That's it was sort of like there. I was in like the most bountiful. The whole place on earth for being a young lesbian and doing nothing about it but I finally came out The summer between my third and my final year so I I went and saw the movie bound with Gina. Gershon Jennifer Tilly. I think most lesbians are h have have watched bound SORTA fly. It should be sort of prescribed relations to something that you need to watch as part of your coming to terms. Maybe even as a test like dea thank you are watch this. If if this doesn't pull you screaming out of the closet then you're probably not see. I watched that and then it's like you know had like several fever dreams after that and then the first person I actually came out to besides myself a priest. Wow Yeah I wasn't expecting uh-huh and I went to So I I still you know growing up Catholic. I was still trying to live who I was in New York City. I didn't want to go to New York City and become like a completely different person and so I was still going to church every Sunday morning. And I'm not an idiot like I went to a church. Very progressive neighborhood. So this was not a very hellfire and brimstone brand of Catholocism. This was a nicer sort of like reformed liberal branch of Catholicism and it was a church in Chelsea which historically is a pretty gay neighborhood in New York City and I went to a confessional and you know the the priest is behind the thing and I just say I think I think I might be gay. And they call it so you of course can't see you and technically they're not really allowed to be like ghoul regardless of their own feeling. They've gotta to give sort of like what the pope prescribes as how to deal with these situations. So I had quite fearful at this point really expecting that. The priests going to tell me that like my soul needs to be cleansed in that like I need to do this. That and the other thing and that it's wrong but instead you know and I really thank God that like i. I was at this this point in my life I was in New York City. I was in a church. Chelsea aide said well okay. Well look. I'm I'm supposed to say some things and and You know I want to know. Let's talk a little bit more about this. Have you acted on your Your gay feelings and I said well no I hadn't because I you know I'm not very cool. Watch the film barrel exactly and he said okay. Well what I'm going to say to you Technically this isn't the line that I'm supposed to us but I would say in your gay relationships. Treat your partners like I would ask you to if you were straight as in like like basically I think what his advice was like. Don't go out and be a hooker. Okay like just like if you're going to you know fall in love with someone you respect them respect yourself and Cetera et cetera. And so sort of gave me like a very cautious like it's okay basically. Just be a good gay Catholic in your relationships. That's exactly what you needed to hear. Probably a one hundred percent is good as you were going to get from a Catholic price. Yeah I think and this is it. I think people's experiences rance's with religion vary greatly depending on where they are in the world. you know what is kind of coming out of the church in that in that moment in time again again I think you know geographically. I was just lucky luckier than ninety percent of my gay friends. So how did that fail. Then did you think Oh. Archie is okay to be gay. Were you still a bit sort of Still GonNA stand the closet. This is still look great with God her. Did you fill up to the what was a massive relief so someone who felt pressure from religion growing up Catholic. It was a massive relief to feel and understand that. I'm not crazy. There are people in the world even in religion that like. I don't think I'M GONNA burn in Hell for just basically living my truth and then it made me consider. Who Am I gonNA tell next?
Surprising Facts About Rejection Sensitivity
"Welcome back to savvy psychologist August. I'm your host Dr J. Boop every week I'll help you meet life's challenges with evidence based research a sympathetic ear and zero judgment. Remember the first time you ask someone out whether it was a middle school or well into adulthood I bet it was at least a little. Bit Nerve racking what if they say no worse what if they make fun of you or show pity would if they make it seem like it was ridiculous even for you to ask these hypothetical nightmare scenarios make even the bravest of US fear rejection but in general. We don't walk around around expecting people to reject us. We're also not constantly on the lookout for clues that rejection is about to happen but for some people L. Rejection appears to be around every corner. They anxiously expect readily perceive an intensely react to rejection or possible rejection psychologists call this high rejection sensitivity rejection sensitivity might seem like a phase that all middle schoolers go through as they awkwardly navigate. Puberty trying to figure out more adults like social relationships but turns and so it can happen to people of all ages and it's not the same thing as being just a little shy or emotionally sensitive. There are specific ways days that our brains and bodies behave when we're highly sensitive to rejection and they're often very real consequences so let's let's talk about what neuroscientists and psychologists have learned about rejection sensitivity including some clues into how to maybe get over for it or get out from under it so first thing to know. Is that your body and brain physically manifest rejection sensitivity like every psychological phenomenon rejection sensitivity has a place in the brain. What may surprise you is how much and how specifically it takes on on shape in our biology? So first of all. Everyone's brain response to rejection. During brain imaging study participants emotion processing brain areas. Where activated when they looked at pictures showing rejection compared to when they looked at pictures showing acceptance or just random abstract shapes the brains of participants with high rejection sensitivity didn't activate the cognitive control areas as much as their pierce? It's not that the brains of less rejection sensitive people were immune to rejection cues is just that they were better able to regulate accumulate. Those cues and keep them from running rampant in the brain for rejection sensitive people. It's not just that their brains respond more to unpleasantness. In this in general its rejection specifically that lights. Those neural fireworks different brain. Imaging studies show that only pictures. Church of disapproving faces and not of angry or disgusted faces activated their emotional threat processing brain areas. And then when it comes to the body we can see that highly sensitive people are physically more on the lookout for rejection too in another study people also also looked at pictures some of which showed rejection scenes and then they got puffs of air in there is to see how much they startled highly rejection sensitive. People startled more rotter viewing rejection images. So this shows that the idea of rejection makes her body's automatically glee shift into a higher defensive mode so we know that rejection sensitivity very much activates the body for defense and and we also know that it's associated with more than just social anxiety. So when we think of people who are sensitive to rejection we probably think of someone who's who's socially anxious perhaps someone who is shy afraid of public speaking or nervous about making the first move in social situations and rejection sensitivity is indeed associated with social anxiety now may be less obvious that rejection sensitivity is also also more common among people who have other psychological disorders including eating disorders body dismore via ADHD borderline in personality disorder and Impulse Control Disorders like online gaming addiction. This doesn't mean obviously in the someone with high rejection sensitivity tippety necessarily has these disorders. It's just that among those who do experience these issues rejection sensitivity seems to play a role for example if someone is already socially anxious their level of rejection sensitivity can drive their irrational thoughts about their body now. These thoughts can snowball and become severe enough that they end up being bodied Disorder so then. How does this play out in daily life while another thing we know about rejection sensitivity is that it feeds a vicious cycle that makes you actually more rejected? So that's the toughest thing about rejection sensitivity. It feeds itself. Think about this if someone is always on the lookout for rejection and has a bigger physical and emotional reaction to rejection cues. They're more likely to be tense. Defensive Sad angry or withdrawn on would you rather hang out with someone like this or with someone more relaxed and more able to have fun. This is a vicious cycle that highly rejection action sensitive. People find themselves in the more they're sensitive the more they illicit actual rejection from others and that fulfils a rejection PROPHEC- see and leads to more rejections sensitivity. One study tested this vicious cycle hypothesis. The researchers found that among couples Relationships involving highly rejection sensitive people were more likely to have broken up a year later. They also found that rejection sensitive of women specifically and gauge more negative behaviors after relationship conflict such as being hostile denying responsibility possibility putting their partner down or making negative assumptions about their partner. The partners in turn become angrier than the partners of women who are low on rejection sensitivity. This shows how conflict can more easily escalate if one partner is sensitive to rejection. So how about for men. How do men act when they are highly rejection sensitive and they're in a relationship conflicts?
Puberty blockers can be 'life-saving' drugs for trans teens, study shows
"Let's see the scene is saying and I can't believe this the puberty blockers can be lifesaving drugs for trans teens if you were well aren't you like before team when you're puberty blocking well one I I have a hard time understanding is that they actually have done a study on on puberty blockers what I'm gonna do a study on genital mutilation now and say that it prevents girls from having sex this is just barbaric but they say the trends in the you have a much greater risk of suicide but if they I have access to puberty blockers their chance of suicide a mental health problems in the immediate term and down the road declined significantly okay so we're gonna give a kid a pew what I I'm speechless you've got legitimate people in the medical community who think it's okay to give like a twelve year old keep them from going into puberty when you go into puberty by the way I guess is different for different folks is it twelve eleven twelve okay study the first of its kind to examine access to this to a puberty suppression and suicide was published yesterday in the medical journal pediatrics the research comes a handful of states are considering placing restrictions on transgender health here one state South Dakota is considering a law that would make it a felony for healthcare providers to prescribe medication to stop it ought to be it's child abuse among other gender affirming healthcare treatments they say South Carolina Missouri also considering similar restrictions the legislation would contradict medical guidelines from several associations including one that says the recommends a doctor doctors offer trans gender teens she really rude suppression therapy also known as puberty blocking it became a treatment option in the United States in nineteen ninety eight is unbelievable yeah I just I mean come off of these are children were talk about we're going to keep him from going into puberty are you kidding me but but but he wants to be a girl or she wants to be they don't know that I'm old enough to make that decision yes but but but but I mean they'll be too late if we don't block their puberty what's the Vienna boys choir somebody it come on
Midnight Express: The True Story of Billy Hayes
"My next guest is a a writer and actor and a director his Book Midnight Express the movie by the same name each iconic in their own right a belated happy new year and a big thank. Thank you for taking some time to my next guest. Billy Hayes Billy. Thanks for being on the show today. Pleasure indeed a good happy new year to you and all of them too. Yeah and I have to say I just I I look at your life in. There's it's the ultimate word. Why start so the one part of your life? I couldn't find anywhere and I know about Marquette Marquette. I know about journalism I know about Smart Guy. How `bout before? That born New York Long Island Kid. Tell me something in between green and I could fill in that gap of time will. I was actually born in the Bronx and I live there for the first seven years of my life and then my dad was actually born in the Bronx. Lived there too so we had a lot of history and I one of about seven. Dad moved out to the suburbs of Long Island. Because the Bronx does get into a really the tough place and he didn't want me to go bad for prize. I grew up in Babylon and I loved. It was a wonderful place. The girl it's by the ocean by the beach. I ended up becoming a nice to swim like a like a CEO. And I became a lifeguard. They used to lifeguard at the beaches over the nets for me. That was everything after lifeguard is pretty much downhill. That's the pinnacle of life. You're making three eighty five an hour back then. which was don mazy about money? I'd go to the I go to work on my motorcycle in my flip flops. Them work at the beach and I just. I love that and then off off to college college off at times. I've heard you say this. And I was born in seventy three but oftentimes I hear you. You talk about this and I I can only imagine what it's like but I get the point because I feel like the seventies and eighties could apply to this to some degree boy. The sixty seem like time to be to grow up into the time to be living living in a massive difference between what we're going through today. Yeah well again. I feel very lucky. I'm obviously kind of prejudice. Since I I did go through this exercise born forty seven so I became a teenager in nineteen sixty so literally those of my formative years and I I love the sixties again. College High School was Great. Life is life is so easy for me growing up. A Long Island is a great place to be. I was so lucky to have wonderful wonderful parents than it was. Everything was easy until it wasn't but I love the sixties it. It sort of changed for me. Everything turned around in one. One Thousand Nine hundred seventy obviously with getting arrested and then halfway through the seventies. It flipped again when when. I'm lucky I'm really lucky. What I've not really really lucky up until about nineteen seventy that I wasn't I don't there's so much that we're GONNA get into act asking if it's none of my business then you just tell me that can handle? How did you have a great report with mom and Dad? Is that something you really close to them. Growing up as a bond. Yeah so that's why I didn't even realize how lucky I was until I saw the folks another kid soon realized you know there are people who they don't even like the Paris the people who hate the parasite. I can't understand that that makes me so sad to think that people don't have that link because I was really lucky guy. My Dad was solid. Did he know he grew up in the Bronx. He worked at Metropolitan Life Insurance for forty two years. You're talking about a solid steady dude and kept working his way up the ladder. He was the guy who everybody depended upon and turn to for decisions he was very rational logical and he always told the truth and I was so so lucky to have him as a father and my mother was just pleaded no the world too much all. She knew his people and love so I had it so good and I think their support and their kind of teaching the things for myself and to stand on my own two feet helped me in good stead when things got that unfortunately I force them to be part of that whole thing which was the worst part of prisons putting them in jail with me but they gave me such a good background than I had such good support at home home so I knew I wasn't alone inside guys who are in prison and they don't have anybody they don't have anybody that they can depend on the outside coup. That's really yeah. Yeah and that would make a lot of sense and you know you gotTa Marquette Gray. School journalism is is there anything in particular that fuels that for you bill years something that you know what. Let's see where this goes. I know you wanted to experience life. You WanNa get the most out of your travel around one point but what what spurs that. I just always wanted to be a writer. I could read before I ever went to school. My Dad taught me to read and write and stuff. I don't know how old I was but I never. I can't remember time I couldn't read. I always read. I love books. I love the the magic of books and things and just I thought I'd love to be a writer. I mean you don't have to wear any particular close. You can dress the way you like. Nobody tells you what to do. You GotTa right so I started but I've always wanted to do that. So Marquette the edge of going to a journalism school was a big factor for me and it was a Catholic like school which dad liked I was raised. The Catholic Church separated it about reason puberty like this. None of this digital men in the Sky Sky Works for you. Okay but please but I went to the school anyway because that phone numbers are good choice and I loved everything I read about it and at that time I used to India fisherman. I used to get up every morning. Like four am and go fish for trout and stuff. After April first in the season and Marquette was up in Milwaukee and I would read field and Stream magazine and feel this wonderful fishing in Milwaukee. I always thought for some reason. I'd like to go there and got there and of course you know how many times I went fishing fishing once you get to college like this stuff to do this. All those women life never fished marquette a great school because they had they provided a good education and I actually got to like it quite a bit. It's really I mean a lot of details. Second have you ever gone back there to speak at all. Yeah actually I escaped in the seventy five came out seventy eight somewhere around there. Seventy we seven summer. I'd have to look at it. The actually I got an invitation by some kid at Marquette to come and speak at the school and micro I I would. How did you get my home phone back in those days? I tried not to have that happen science. So many weird things with phones people golden and such but this the kid finds me back to Marquette and I got to speak at the One of the local theaters where they used to also have classes and in a special two for one knight's on a Friday Friday night. You and you with your date and such so I got to go back and gre- connect and for the first time in a while. Tell my story and I got to say to the Marquette crowd and some of my old friends were there so it was a nice reconnection and it started out actually in doing a series of lectures which I did a hundred and thirty lectures over. What about maybe three year? Three year period. Three eighty six The midnight express experience. I'm sorry a Hollywood and beyond did it all across the country and all across Canada and that I loved because I love colleges and the energies are college school so I got a chance to speak can tell the story and you know it's it's weird. Had always has been therapeutic for me to talk about all list of like I said most most guys coming out of prison. Don't tell the world I just been five years in jail Blah Blah
How To Talk To Children About Sex
"In this episode the birds and the bees for a new decade. And we should say we're going to deal here with the younger guys say for to the doorstep of puberty because once the pubic hair and the body odor start to kick in. You're GonNa need a whole nother light ship it heading your way. Thank you for that Mental Image Corey So without further ado are I take away of the day take away number one up. Aquinas is not who yeah and a Volva is not a front. We're just GONNA go out on a limb here and say that most of you listening like us might struggle a bit finding and using the accurate words for our private parts. Because it's not what you got when you were a kid inequality. I grew up in the deep South House and my mom would definitely consider as a feminist but she was also a southerner and she used to tell me things like that's dirty or that's your PCP and and so when I had my own daughters and they started asking me questions about their bodies. I thought it'd be a good idea to make up a word. So here's my daughter. Lv She's three three. What do we call the thing that you have in your underwear? What part of your body is that? What's his Nudie Do Boys snooty. No fee has Palma Madera series. I love you taught her the proper term for penis. You're halfway there halfway there that's true. And here's the present. Here's the thing. We don't want anyone to feel badly. I I don't want you to feel badly because the fact is you're not alone so Bonnie rough is the author of the book beyond birds and bees. One thing I never thought I would do is write a book about Sex let alone kids insects but that changed for Bonnie when she moved with her two young daughters from Minneapolis to a place where things pretty differently Amsterdam in the Netherlands so she says it was pretty shocking at first for example at her daughter's Dutch preschool. Teachers were using accurate terms for body body parts and body functions. The children were being helped with their toilet eating in a little bathroom were. They were parties in a row and Children of different genders were really just kind of Able to see and experience the presence of one another's bodies and their body differences as something that is a normal part of everyday the daily life. Wow what a concept and a related idea that struck her about life in Amsterdam was the total nigger kids. Teachers used when they talked about bodies. Instead of a diaper. APOR being Yucky or dirty or stinky it might just be full or empty or wet or dry so giving those body body functions at kind of normalcy. It's so much bigger than just sex. Bonnie saw how all of this openness about bodies lead to happier more or confident kids especially girls yeah and partly as a result. The Netherlands has lower teen pregnancy and abortion rates fewer. She is more gender equal society. The the more we know about our bodies the healthy and happier we are so Dr Core Brunner says the data in the US backs Bonnie refs point up more and better and more pensive. Sex Sex Ed leads to better outcomes kits. Dr Brunner is a pediatrician. And she actually wrote the American Academy of Pediatrics Sex ED guidelines in my poor kids they hung condoms on Christmas trees as ornaments. I mean they have been exposed to all of this for a long time happy holidays. He's with little children. Dr Brin suggests they learn the correct names for penis and Vulva just like you would any other part of the body. You just say it in a way. That's the way you would say. Brush your teeth as opposed to saying that you're female parts or that's down there. You don't say that or Schutte you don't say that and luckily luckily for me and for you if you haven't done this yet it's never too late to start using the right words. My older daughter Lewis eight a promise. She knows the word I get it but I still don't know if I can say the word penis in front of my kit. That is from a series of educational cartoon videos called Amazed Junior here in their intended especially for parents like us who want help talking to our kids about these issues. Yes in this one. A counselor is trying to reassure parents. You're clearly feeling a little awkward. Embarrassment is one of those catchy feelings and most of us caught embarrassment about sexual things from people around us when we were very young long so we never get to find out that these words are just words and that it's really healthy and okay to say them out loud cure right. Why should I be embarrassed to say testicles or erections nipples masturbation Vova Clitoris ejaculation? Screwed up Jonah. Being and if you need them they're two more reasons to get over this embarrassment. Experts say number one the doctor. Yeah if your child is is in pain they can tell the pediatrician or you might testicle. Hurts or my Labia itches. Clear baletic invasion also. Dr Brunner says it's possible that a child who lives in a house house where they feel comfortable and open discussing their private parts will be less vulnerable to sexual predators. And if you're up for it. Bonnie rough has one more concrete suggestion suggestion around normalizing bodies yet. Let your kid be naked when they wanna be even if grandma's visiting if we stay child centered. This isn't about about grandma. Thinks before we move on up. We need a quick acknowledgment. Here we know for some of you may be many of you. This is GonNa be challenging where we're headed and in some cases are guidance may actually conflict with your family's beliefs. We put this kit together based on the best research we could find but but this isn't all an exact science and so what we're really asking you to do is listen and think about what is going to be best for your family So take away number to answer your kids questions. What we've learned is the kids are never too young for you to tell them about their bodies ladies and sex clearly simply honestly and let's not forget briefly or as Dr Brenner puts it? It's important to be factual and concise Jason Loving now. If that's hard for you because you're not yet comfortable. Here's some advice to get their practice in the mirror. got a monitor your facial expressions and your tone own practice before you do it. That's Britney McBride. She's a sex educator with advocates for youth and she's one of the people behind that amazed junior video we heard earlier yeah and Brittany says she benefited from her own family's determination to get this stuff rate. My parents were actually teenagers when they had me and went the complete eight opposite from what they received from their parents. So we started talking about sacs from as early as I can remember. So Britney is based in New Orleans and she has worked with forty of the largest school district in the country to improve sex ED and she says keeping our cool makes us more approachable as parents. And that's really important. Do it in a way that makes them feel safe in that. You are a trusted person to come and talk to about those things. Britney gives the pros approach to the classic classic question. Where did I come from which her own daughter asked when she was maybe five or six years old really? When kid is that young the question is not so much about about sex but instead of space and time? And where was I before I got here. And how did I get here as opposed to the actual act of sex in in how they were created so for young children and this may be familiar from our episodes on race and on death. Find out why they're asking and then answer exactly what they're asking. No more no less so in other words keep things very simple very quick talking about the facts around like anatomy explaining that he grew in in your mom's uterus and that's where a baby lives and grows until they are born and then you were born and you joined family and we've loved you you can cover the rest next time. And that's part of the big point here. The birds and the bees should not be one talk. Your kids need to feel comfortable coming to you with their questions. Time and time again Dan so there is a next time and especially when their questions start getting
Boys Do Cry... and They Need To
"As we raise our boys today in a world. That's changing I'll social conditioning. Needs to change into directions. We need to let our goals to know they can. It'd be strong and feisty in its AK and we need to know that there are times when boys need to be vulnerable inside and that also needs to be a Chi- what are you hear out there. I I know you've done your own research with young men. What are some of the concerns that you have A? What are the issues that they're Having let's just mentioned again up front that boys is not all boys and it's not all goes ever but we know it's statistically significant number of our boys that I'll we'll be talking about firstly what we understand is there are some differences in the ways that Faye Mouth Mayo's respond to destroy so things that upset them and particularly when our make delegates fired up so we have a sense of threat and often that comes as you. Beautifully explained to so many times in those very early years when there's unmet make needs and so many those can be simple ones that we understand angry is a very real problem boys. We now. Little Boys will experience. It's hunger much more quickly more intensely than goes so sometimes when that happens and I might ask mom for something to wait. And if you're a bit busy or distracted you realized just how much that is triggering his nervous system wrought then so sometimes. That's enough for them to get upset and want to kick doc because they're trying to tell you it's actually a little bit more urgent than they can handle and manage. So that's a that's a really simple one about an unmet need that we need to recognize is a little little bit different. Secondly WanNA touch on what we've now found from near near I science Wayne famous particularly goes young and also in puberty because of really volatile windows and we're learning how to manage Esso's when we get up sit and our limbic brain fires up the knicks fix into the fires up is would center so we caught off and come out very quickly with words explaining how we're feeling was saying things to express express out big ugly feelings so boys and men the tendency is to go for the limbic brain and then it goes down into the body. So can that make sense to those times at our boys social health and hit scream sometimes because that's actually energy coming out of the body out through the mouth the ability for them to not only the identity. What they're feeling and then to articulate? It is definitely more difficult for voice. And we're still hearing people assigned to boys plays. Don't cry. Don't cry because boys shouldn't cry. You need to toughen up what happens. Is We shut down. That capacity feel comfortable to express vulnerable feelings wchs and that comes at a cost lighter. I share a quick story. So there's a five year old little boy. And he has transitioned into his five-year-old's setting his Co.. Different names around the vote for that. Anyway this little boy had been fine and then all of a sudden he starts throwing toys ways that other children. He's started really physically pushing to hurt. which isn't a normal boy behavior pushing to connect this not pushing shing to hurt? So is distressed mom his obviously frantic to figure out what was wrong so when I spoke to her so what has changed in your little boys boys world that is now overloaded his nervous system so that he has triggered into this behind you because he's trying to tell you he is really struggling with some big ugly feelings. I said what's changed firstly. She said all his grandmother Spain in hospital and I said Yup and she and the mums again. I know she's home now. I don't think that's big enough. They something else because this is a big change in behavior so this is the big ugly feelings coming out through behind you and unconscious it. All and now I've worked out what it is. His very favorite teacher who he loved dearly has gone on maternity leave. I said that's it so this little boy is is grieving deeply every day that he's Saif person who looked after him. When Mommy wasn't there is no longer there? He doesn't have the words to express that and side but that was what the behavior was about so we worked building that connection we also worked at him being out to send a card to his maternity leave teacher and within in three days. That little boy was back to bang. happy little boy was able to express the grief in tears then mom validated to him. This is what happens when we lose things we love particularly people and it is very much like a death experience for boy. He's five live. He can't see her so she might as well have died to him. Grief and death and losses. Something I've worked in in and this is why I want you to get the Guinea pig. That doc is because we want our children particularly boys tonight that it really hurts in your heart and that is big and it actually is really hoped hoped by sometimes crying. That feels I K- sometimes it can be stomping efate. Sometimes it actually might be us wanting to do do things like running dislodging. Bigger energy out of our body for Boise Self Needs Movement so we let them know that being said scraped we want we one ad Dads to cry around the death and loss of things like that we want them to crawl in the Guinea pig is wanting to say this is a world where it's okay for us to shed those tears.
Why are smart women falling for pseudoscience health gimmicks?
"Strange beliefs around. Women's bodies have a long history and every every day we have bombarded by new wellness claims from restoring the balance of our hormones to the self healing properties of salary juice and unsurprisingly thinly. The wellness industry is now worth a two point eight trillion worldwide. It has never been so difficult to distinguish fact from Fahd leaving many of us feeling extremely confused including myself joining me today to help uncover only the truth is personal trainer. bestselling selling author and women's Health magazine columnist. Alice Living Heller Alice. Hi Hello I think when they're all so many small women out left falling for harmful and pseudoscientific claims. Let's just our Ryan. Why do you think this is happening? I think it's a pretty interesting. It definitely been in the position where I've fallen for some stuff myself to I think it comes from a genuine place of us all wanting to live healthier live longer. I think we've suddenly the nego access to all of this information which he didn't necessarily have before where we're able to read about all of these things like on our health or wellbeing wellness wellness. Become a thing that was never a thing ten. You know ten years ago And he's become very difficult to decide for from fiction because I think many any many people enter. And I'M GONNA use even though I I use in brackets but the wellness industry with the best intentions of wanting to help people to achieve that elusive thing. That as ultimate health and happiness if it so exists And I think it's difficult because I think the people that we are listening to ball all people like yourself who oversee qualified experts You know anyone can enter and this is the dangerous thing is anyone in Canada onto social media call themselves whatever they one give themselves whatever kind of title they deem to be appropriate and then saw spouting of information in a very authoritative way which for the average person seems seems legit so it's really difficult for the average consumer of social media to know what is fact and what is fiction completely. I think you hit the nail on the head when you said said it comes from potentially a very warm loving place they can end up with a little trouble in some recent trends. I think have been. They've been a bit city but interesting thing. So one study suggested one in five women have have washed inside their vagina in the past year. And apparently it's called douching douching if it was a French word douche shower cooled yet latouche I mean. Do you know anything about this. Have you seen as we know that the vaginal tissues the my son's tissue the body. So I think it's a really interesting and I actually think it's a wide issue. That doesn't just stem from that particular piece of research. I think if we look brands we've seen how consumerism has driven us to create that we don't actually necessarily need and then make us believe that we ultimately do really need them and I think that's the really difficult Area where it's not just feminine hygiene products. It's loads the things within the industry that we don't need we've lived without for years and years and years and suddenly we're being told that the we we absolutely need this to live like I said live healthier and live longer And there's a price tag attached to it. Am I just think it's a very elitist worrying kind of trend that seems to be in Increasing yeah I think the thing with these kind of Feminine Hygiene Products is the research has shown time and time again this gynecologist. Who say this is not necessary? The Ph of your China will maintain itself and you do not need to wash yourself with any luxury products you will. You will naturally do that yourselves and and I think like unfortunately it goes back to what you're talking about in the first conversation. Which is the the the marketing pitching around? This stuff has been so good but people believe that the unfortunately they're gonNA trust something that they see in the shelving boots over gynecologist. He's saying you don't need this completely. I mean some of even said it's a contraceptive to which is worrying. And I read as well that it cannot be throw off the balance of the good bacteria in the Vaginas like Alice said. I think it's a bit of a money making to Ooh head but you have to be careful because the Internet can sail a lot of things in different societal norms. Tell us one thing different cultures but at the end of the day if you are looking for contraceptive I'm just begging anyone. Listening go to see who jeep but also it kind of taps into a deeper issue of the fact that we we should be in some in some way ashamed of of a joiner and ashamed of you know. There's lots of stigma attached to our The area things like Oh you know if it smells or well you know all of these things and we made to feel ashamed. Thought which can handle things like your sexual relationships your self confidence. It goes much much deeper than just it being about it. Not being necessary and interesting when I was reading up about it About you know these Feminine Hygiene Dogs. The gynecologist on their website says you know if if a woman should choose to wash her for China with something. It should be this and it's like no like you can't very gray tom in a very gray statement to make in that he's not necessarily saying you have to have it. But if you should choose to and I just think we really need to be a lot clearer in what we need and what we don't need for our bodies and making it a lot simpler for people because as you know in the nutrition walled things have just so overcomplicated and we. We're being made to feel as though we have to spend and lot of money on achieving elusive thing called like optimal health. And just not knowing the nutritional is just not the case. Narin you correctly said that I praise on the vulnerable and also what I call the worried. Well as well as something. That happens a lot that I see that it preys on one of our insecurities as females as well. It's you're right. It's much deeper rooted. This is definitely not my fail but deep-rooted psychology that perhaps would definitely not good enough or inferior striving for perfection which which is which is worrying but else. Have you seen that dangerous recently that we should be aware of. I think something that I've seen online. which actually a couple of people I've seen call out which is great and people in authority in position? You have to do so which is even better but One of them is whom I in balancing now. I think this is a really really interesting area because I think it particularly played preys on women and vulnerable women who feel as though in George George case like seeing who feels like they've almost done everything to try and lose weight and nothing's he's walking and then this person comes along and says but I can dance your hormones and suddenly. It's like the the cured and they are so much better and they're able to lose weight and I think this this idea of home and balancing from people that are not under control adjusts on not doctor is unwell. People with any qualification bought. Maybe being a personal trainer is quite concerning completely. I think especially with the whole my balancing. It's also linked to Ah for instance you yourself a very open about having polycystic Ovarian Syndrome and I think for women out there the large majority of them indefinitely listeners. Go about the episode we recorded with Anita the Gyna- Geek so many people software endometriosis and different female related problems. And this is all my saying I can help help you fix that balance this out by taking these supplements and I mean I was. Why do you think that it's it's the products? Now targeting women and especially those under the age of eighteen seen as well as seems to be everywhere I think because there's money there I think it's because we have become Like I said earlier. We've we've we've come to to believe that we need to spend money on our health and the more money we spend on the battery it must be and I think big big brands have caught onto the fact that people. Aw Aw all willing to spend money on their wellbeing and their health and so every. Brian going is trying to make themselves a wellness brand in some way. If you look at campaigns from from you know all all sorts of onto the sun they'll always try and have like a wellness line goal because they realize that it's a great marketing style US Brandon. You'll be healthier theon happy. I just think everyone yeah. And particularly when you mentioned the under eighteen like it's really concerning A lot of this stuff is targeted at girls. That are not You know they're not even out of puberty. That bodies are still changing the cylinder that are still deciding who they are and who they want to be and to come in and already make thank them conscious and aware of things that they don't need to be made aware of that age structure Such tricky like time anyway It's no wonder that we have the issues that we do and I think there is completely multifactoral and when it comes down to. I think social media doesn't help the media doesn't help but I also think marketing foxing products particularly that focused on things like weight loss or health to a certain degree. Goals are goes on boys that are under eighteen is this is really
Among transgender children, gender identity as strong as in cisgender children
"Transgender children identify strongly with their current gender income was Ryan Harris tells us a you W. study also finds how they identify is similar to other children this largest study on transgender children to date look to transgender kids ages three to twelve their siblings who are cisgender identifying as the sex they were born and assist gender control group postdoctoral researcher Salim go go's tells me they wanted to study a growing group of kids who transition before puberty we found that they strongly identified with the gender that they are currently living on Sunday showed strong preferences for toys clothing peers that are typically associated with their current gender and not their assigned sex this is the strength of their identity wasn't affected by the amount of time since their transition and that they often couldn't tell the difference between data of trans insist kids of the same sex who goes tells me they got help from parents some eager to participate to contribute to the resources available the parents of transgender children tended to continue to follow these families Ryan Harris
"puberty" Discussed on We're No Doctors
"On this new york times article a as i said risk for dementia may increase would learn long term use of certain medicines i won't read the whole thing but here's what research suggests about a class of drugs called an tie coaling in colin derek's entire spell it a class of drugs called surveillance video now just getting called an ty t i c h show co lynn lynn air jets l i n e r g i see as anti i see oce see oh my brain anti i c h o l i n e r g i see us in tie colin they're jerks drake's anyway which treat a wide range of ailments from depression to bladder issues in certain medications increase the risk of dementia and a new study suggests that people who take class common medications called what i just said drugs for several years maybe more likely to develop dementia as they age blah blah blah blah this is not a new hypothesis here's what is known about the potential link a says which drugs are we talking about an tie colin their checks colin eric drugs include be antiseptic closet pain the bladder drug darris madison which is marketed as innate blacks they anti nausea drugs goebel i mean by the way this is very a skull parliament is used to treat vertigo motion sickness 'em it goes by be marketed name 'em like if you went to write eight or walmart or something it's 'em dramamine the main ingredient and dramamine which you take for seasickness is appalling mean 'em anyway the wrong code dial later it predatory tori fuck you release medical needs it pratt torah pm the muscle relaxation zana dying anti histamine such as dyson hydro mean a the brand name for that by the way bennett drill in antidepressants such as peroxy thirteen a brand names include paxil i do not take paxil i didn't see lexa pro on this list which is good if any of you wanna look up this article just go to new york times dot com just search the title of the article is a risk for dementia may increase with a long term use of certain medicines and author of articles pam belic b l l u c k if you wanna look it up and ruby entire thing but a this is good to know i guess this is terrifying the no i suppose oh boy well thanks for that horrifying email l m all right i got a bolt together this fitting do some stitcher premium stuff but boy that really flew by thanks to a breach jerry 'em i hope you guys have a great rest of your week and a good weekend and hope you're staying safe hope you have a well by the time this comes out i hope you have had to know this comes out on the fourth of july so if you're listening to this day fourth of july happy fourth of july stay safe keeping pets indoors they hate thee 'em fireworks.
"puberty" Discussed on We're No Doctors
"I'm like oh my god i can't wait to see m a i can't wait to see a jesus christ what's her name it's her show i'm doing her show tonight and i can't think she's my friend why can't i think of it like it was making me insane like really freaking me out as i'm driving the do a show which last thing i need is to just be freaked out like the whole try there is like what the fuck is her name like this is a friend i can't remember fucking name and then did the show sar immediately was like oh hey jennie it's like oh yeah okay did the show but like the whole show like the whole time i was there in the back of my head i'm like am i fucking losing my mind this is crazy so i am oh that's right afterwards i like call my friend on the phone from bronwyn and i was like you're not gonna believe what happened i go i couldn't remember jenny slate name and i've known her for years she's like what you're talking about like i couldn't think of her name i totally know or i knew i knew whose name i was trying to think of like i could picture picture i knew what she's done and i was like i couldn't remember her name in i'm really freaked out about that my friend goes have you been taking your medication that's like yeah what do you mean she's like have you been taking your lexa pro regularly and not missing doses and i go oh you know what it's been a few days this is how this is this this is a whole other thing with me which i'll get into in a moment i take my antidepressant in a few days she's like i think it's i think that's why she's like i think it's 'cause you haven't taken your pills jesus christ are you kidding and so i get home going to google and type in a you know antidepressants memory loss i think i specifically used lexa pro memory loss withdrawals as you know stuff like that sure enough i find all these like web sites and you know antidepressants forums and stuff and like notice it with a lot of people who were weaning off of their antidepressants like yeah i'm switching in antidepressants where i'm gonna try and take something else i guess that's the same thing like i'm switching off antidepressants 'em or i'm i'm just gonna go off and you know see what happens i'm gonna you know try exercising better diet but a lot of people in the comments accidents were like yeah i'm trying to do this and i'm forgetting shit all the time like i'll leave the house without my wallet right specifically they're like i can't remember people's names which made me feel good as like okay this is why i can't remember her name in the be also terrifying that this is of you know side effect of you know skipping your antidepressants and then it just made me wonder well if i go off my antidepressants is is just a temporary side effects or do i just remember people's names now did is a side effect of going off you're antidepressants amnesia then they start doing my pills and everything's fine but i've been taking my pills although i will talk about it i because i've talked about it many times so many times i hate taking pills i would love to not take antidepressants i hate taking aspirin i just still like putting chemicals in my body it's crazy because i eat shitty food so i know that i'm not helping myself that way but like i just don't like taking pills it's so insane i'll i'll be like i've had a headache all day someone would be like did you take a advil or anything tylenol no you've been taking anything for you're headache no well yeah that's why you have a headache or not live but that's why you still have a headache i just taking too many drugs legal and illegal but like just make me have made me feel weird when i've taken like i've taken muscle relax since then just been like oh this feels.
"puberty" Discussed on We're No Doctors
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"puberty" Discussed on Here & Now
"You know, puberty is done with you. It's done. It goes away. Was it a relief when it was done or or how did that feel when you grow up your whole childhood you're different than everybody else? And then all of a sudden, you're the same. You know? I mean, I still I still feel different asleep. Even though you know, if you met me, you wouldn't think of me as different, but but I think. The those feelings of of being other and not fitting in as well as sort of being labeled bad, you know, from from an early age. You know, they stayed with me, even though, you know, by the time, I was fifteen or sixteen I had had sort of made it one hundred and eighty degree turn in my life. And I was no longer getting in trouble. And I did well in school. And I was you know, a decent athlete. So I think that I did once I began to fit in I did feel relief and at the same time like a desire to not unlike my father kind of hide my past and hide the challenges and the what I felt for a long time. It's kind of a deviant past. Now, this was almost. Five years ago. Now that that you are fourteen fifteen years old, you're now thirty nine you were going through this in the eighties and nineties your great grandfather who also had this mutation you write about him as well. He was the youngest person ever to serve in World War One. He was the youngest American. Yeah. He and he just lied about his age. He did he ran away from home at age ten, and you know, kind of taken with patriotic fervor he joined and he was shipped off to war and was like fighting in the trenches fighting on the frontlines by the time. He was eleven and twelve years old. And they didn't discover his his real age. He t told them that he was twenty years old. And he looked convincingly Twitter's old at the time, and he got drunk with some fellow soldiers and took a cargo plane up they essentially hijacked it, and we're kind of joy riding, and when it was grounded. He got in trouble and as punishment. They sent him once more to the front and he suffered mustard gas poisoning and was hospitalized and only then did the US government. Discover that he was actually only thirteen time and they sent him home. He had a momentary flash of celebrity when the newspapers cut into to the story, and they dubbed him the youngest yank now when you are telling the story, I in New York magazine, you talk about how when you were deciding to have. Kids of your own you wanted to test for this, and and try to remove this, gene if possible so that your child wouldn't have to go through the same thing that you did in your father did and your grandfather and your great grandfather did tell me a little bit about your thought process on that. When when you are thinking about what your kids life would be like. Well, you know, I didn't I didn't know when we were going through the process of of thinking about having a child, I didn't know that it would be possible to to test for this. It hadn't it didn't occur to me, and my wife, and I ended up doing in vitro fertilization, and we ended up with fertilized embryos, and my wife is happens to be an endocrinologist..
"puberty" Discussed on Here & Now
"This is a special edition of the here. And now podcast. I'm Jeremy Hobson one thing that all of us. Humans have in common is that at a certain point in our childhood, we go through puberty, we get bigger. Our bodies change. We often get a little rambunctious and moody, and we mature sexually will imagine. If that happened not when you were eleven or thirteen or fifteen, but when you were a toddler that is the experience of Patrick burly who has a rare genetic mutation that triggers testosterone production in boys as young as two years old doctors call it precocious puberty Patrick early wrote about his experience in New York magazine, and now on NPR, he joins us from Culver City, California. Patrick welcome to here now. Thank you. It's great to be here. What versus tell us about this. 'cause bet a lot of people haven't heard of this precocious puberty or Tesco toxic Osas. Yeah. Yes. So this particular kind of precocious puberty is called mayo. Familial limited. Did precocious puberty, and it's extremely rare. It's estimated that there might be like fewer than one thousand of us. And basically, it's a mutation of the Luton ising hormone corio Gannett atropine receptor, gene, which is responsible for triggering testosterone production in the testicles. And when did you or when did your parents, I realized that you had it? Well, my father had it and my grandfather and my great grandfather. So they were an -ticipant it, and they started to see symptoms of puberty when I was about two years old. What do you mean? So at that age pubic hair, essentially pubic hair, I was bigger considerably bigger than a than a two year old and also impulsive behavior that's characteristic of someone going through puberty like. Like, just, you know, an inability to control my impulses. You know, aggressive outbursts hitting other kids tantrums that were kind of truly epic just behavior that was extreme in terms of your size. I mean, there's a picture that you you show in New York magazine where you're with a sports team as a kid, and you're like twice the size of all the other kids on the team. Yeah. I was huge. I mean, I was the first time I went to I was treated for the for the mutation at the national institutes of health in Maryland. And my first visit I was about three years old, and I weighed as much and was as tall as a seven year old and had the testosterone levels of a fourteen year old kind of deep in the throes of puberty. So I was I was huge. I was not just bigger, but also. So you know, I had all this testosterone coursing through my body. So I was muscular, and you know, when I was three and four years old. I was kind of basically until I was about seven sort of an athletic FINA. M- that was hitting home runs. And I was like everyone wanted me on their team because I was just much bigger and stronger how aware were you of what was going on?.
"puberty" Discussed on Chrisley Confessions
"Fine for it. I remember the first time that I I was coming, I was driving down the street and not even thinking that I was going to run into this kind of George Jones moment, and I'm looking to the left of me because my parents house was on the left is I was coming from town and I see my dad on a riding lawn mower and savannah with her gown on driving the lawn more sitting in his lap. So they could go to the next corner to the convenience store so she could get her an I see. And I remember flipping out thinking, oh my God, people are gonna think I'm trashed at my daughter was out here driving along more at five years old. And again, her hair's not even brushed and my dad did not even care. Let me tell you what I learned from that moment. I learned that that is what true unconditional non-judgmental love was about. He worshiped everything about this child. And when I got when I grasp that I love. Him that much more because he loved her enough to where he didn't care what anyone else thought and to. He would one thing dad hated. He would let me go fishing and we would go fishing. I didn't want. Yeah, but I didn't want to let the fish go. So he would let me bring them home. We would put them in the bathtub and I would just watch them swim now to this day. I don't know where they went because as a child, your attention span is not very much like not very long. So I would watch them swim. Then when I got done, I left. So to this day, you know, I'm just gonna keep praying for those fish. Question. Hi, Todd, and Julie. I was wondering, how did you speak to your children about sex and puberty? How did that work out for you guys from both perspectives, the man, perfect Todd, and a woman's perspective to be, how did you guys able to speak to your children and have them understand the importance of faith sex and how their bodies going to change love y'all by that was something that I was very much in front of from from very early on. I would suggest he's about to tell you because it scarred me for life, but I'll let him continue on. Okay, we'll you've survived. I feel like that today you have to, you have to make sure your children here at home. I and you're competing against the streets. You're competing against the internet. You're competing against social media, your. Oh, you know, you're competing against, you know, peer groups. So you need to be in front of that. And I always told so that my girls as let me tell you something their God is giving you a gift and you're supposed to share that gift with the man that you spend the rest of your life with..
"puberty" Discussed on KQED Radio
"Many, of you had a really good. Time when you were going to be it's not known as the happy times but it can really be hard. For kid who's going to an unwanted puberty because of their gender, and there could be two groups of kids would this happens one is. A group of kids who knew from the time they were little I'm not a gender you think. I am on the other one and they can coast along. With a kind of, androgen his body except for what's between their legs until they reach puberty and then the hormones are going to kick in and secondary, sex characteristics aren't going to start showing up and that can be a trauma For a gender expansive or Allred identified transgender child so I would, say for anybody who is a middle school teacher or the parent of a middle school child is to, keep an eye out for that And make sure that if you see a child who's uncomfortable about going to not just because of the generic yuck but because of its agenda betrayal And that their body is going to betray them and that is a good time to actually consider having a child come for. Example to our clinic which is an interdisciplinary clinic just for consultation to make sure that we can really get our finger on the pulse of it, and I say that because medical Advances allow us now to do something medically that is puberty blockers. To put a pause on puberty To stop an unwanted puberty or to. Buy some more time so a child can explore their gender more to figure out where they're going so that I would say just, pay attention to the kids who may have gender concerns who are going to in middle school And also differentiate that from the kids who we found out at a clinic. There's some kids who are savvy enough to find out puberty blockers stop you. From going to be so they come in and pretend they have a gender issue and we call it the Peter Pan syndrome They just thinking. I I don't want to do that so I'll just say I'm exploring gender they'll give me those. Things and I'll go to the blocker doctor and we'll get it so we have to sort that out So I was hoping we could talk a little bit about access and health. Equity having rotated through your gender clinic by and large I saw folks that were affluent. And white and I was wondering if you could speak a little to, getting bringing is resources to communities of color marginalized underserved, communities this is one of the critical issues. Right now is, the, actually the way it works it's. By modal that we can often get, certainly access for the affluent and we also at least in the state of California we. Can get access for people on Medicare Because they are eligible all of the, service it's the people on right in between And they're often can't get. The services and that's a travesty because these should be services available. To our kids so we're certainly we've got a long way to go on that one of the interim things that's happening is there are some foundations that provide..
"puberty" Discussed on WVNJ 1160 AM
"They are factors known as endocrinedisrupting chemicals there are natural ones and since patrick ones and they help to explain this spiking obesity that we see um you know we all know that french fries are not the best thing but most people are not doing that a lot um but this this these factors endocrinedisrupting chemicals are called o b suggestions and that is a chemical that promotes weight gain by increasing the number of sales increasing fat storage in existing fat cells and changing the metabolic rate also altering hormonal control of appetite or to tire tea and shifting energy balance to favour the storage of calories so um here are some uh a year some examples fund you sides pesticides pg sees their chemicals that come about in sticks manufacture tb teas which tbt tributyl in his uh wood preservatives um so of course the obesity jain's also affect fertility day trigger precocious puberty they impair immune function being chris the increase the risk of miscarriage and behaviour problems and brain abnormalities they damage the unborn and the newly sworn so how do we protect ourselves well one way is to buy less plastic um and uh these things contaminate groundwater they end up in tap water be careful about plastic wrapped meet if you can shop with a butcher that uses paper instead and consume a diet high in folate acid asparagus broccoli citrus fruit beans peas lentils seeds and nuts counters they'll be suggests this is good for thought i'll be back in about two minutes gene no you've heard a lot about the health benefits of vitamin d now.
"puberty" Discussed on Reasons to be Cheerful
"Children visit a condition who precocious puberty where puberty in in in a small number of children happens honda aged 405 will six much too early for that child and if children who have not condition we've used these these folks were longtime which just polls is puberty until it's the right time so for transgender in what what what these pubis he blocking injections do is allow puberty just to be put on hold during secondary school forgive me for interrupting what proof young people have to go through to get the puberty block of relief to go through the whole process was the thing is if you talk to parents of trans chosen they've all over thirty gone through this cut their own condom assessment process during those primary school is so very arthemon the times coming purity's starting the parents entitled ugly clear that this is a transgendered and yet what's happening at the moment on the nhs that's the kind of time when people say why we we gotta go it is time to the gpa now we need some we need some help and the go to the gdp and very often on hearing parents say that gp just doesn't know what to do all even worse might say no no no let's let's let's leave it a few more years and see what happens or even what us they do believe in transgender issue and try to put the child up on i think i'm reid said that even if they get a referral to the to the service that can be very very long delays that raw that's that's right so there is sometimes a delay from where the child goes to the gp to actually get the gp to referred the child and then visit it then this at long waiting list once they have been rufa is a long waiting list to get seen by the specialist connects you then get referred to another an nhs connect which is the endocron connec and then there is a waiting list for that then there's an assessment process within that connec and then you'll you'll a endocrinologists may say right i briefly we can prescribe and then they recommend.
"puberty" Discussed on The Projection Booth Podcast
"On day test i'm mocked me to my what are you doing here the thing about plans ski that is masterful is that in obviously it open to interpretation that the thing that i was what about that a johnny scene in the movie theater was that again because he's like a little kid you don't use for being a little kid an and as you start to hit adolescence and puberty and you know you have what you do the school who is you know really attractive where they have or so many your classy of a crush on what happens to him in the movie theatres almost like every adolescence you know combined fantasy and nightmare like what is this girl that everything i wanted you will only got like what if he does what what i want to do that we horrifying it's it's a great scene because it's it's he's an unreliable narrator this guy is character so you still have to assume that almost everything that happens the movie is from his perspective as distorted as his perspective is it's is he just taking on a journey does completely within his own psyche and and polanski's so masterfully in the early part of the film starts to ramp up the energy on his his mania you know and then it kind of pops and in those following scenes and then it kind of calms down again it's user lets you know that you're near on this sort of unstable ride with a a guy that's taking you along as ride including the film aircrews does not tipping his hand they're all unreliable while there is also a streak of of mischievous humor in it.
"puberty" Discussed on True Crime Brewery
"Puberty and easily impressed by him now linda bailey was only thirteen so that's where she was impressed by him well of course and this is what he looks for her now like brenda linda was one in the family of eleven children and their mom was on a welfare a single mom so they had hardly any money now their mother ethyl bailey was approached by david at first for some assistance he asked differ teenage daughters could clean his house for an hourly wage so who is going to turn that down no cuban doctors had only given him six months to live he said his marriage was falling apart his house was a mass he desperately needed their help for his circa marriage is falling apart yet the lorry here so this this grows note already shown ruin could track record his now but ethyl has no money and it sounds like a legitimate helpful thing to do so she accepts it and let's her daughters clean as house and at this point should no reason to doubt the cancer diagnosis i mean most people don't make that kind of stuff up but months past and david didn't die or get any sicker he's still complained of pain and rectal bleeding but it looked as if he wasn't going to die anytime soon and he was very good the bailey family in their cupboards if they had no food he brought the mcdonald's or pizza and he would always bring enough for the entire family so this is a big deal to someone who's poor and living on food stamps you're whom of course two highly nutritious meal well per aggressively clears at that point if your starving there in some and brings pizza mcdonald's your thrilled specially wear a child and a mother who kept feeder kids can you imagine the position she's in kenner this guy seems nice and bring saw this food for her kids of course you're going to be happy about that perk way no lindan her siblings really idolized him he was like santa claus or something osher one day he announced that a miracle.
"puberty" Discussed on We Paid To See This
"One terrible seen in the book this is what i mean about the psychosexual stuff so you have this pre puberty or on the verge of puberty girl and she's ever so slightly older than the boys and said there's that sort of attraction between the boys and the girl the girl is sort of an outcast in her school she's treated because she's she's just extraordinary she's a fucking coup chick but in his school she doesn't fit in with like whatever's considered to be pretty or whatever she has red hair has freckles but the boise her is just the goddess of sex or whatever the seamen i go jumping off a rock in their own their underwear and whenever and the boys had this awakening of like oh my god this is a go wherever they no no sunglasses sunglasses on one does the lowest and send the lower sunglass she does though but it's sort of jobs to pose with the fact that at home hadad is a creeper right right and she is she is on the verge of getting her period near and so her fee is involved blood and in the book it makes sense and in the book it's it's sort of terrifying and there's one seen in the book where essentially it does the stanley kubrick thing of like gallons of blood emerged from a sewer oh from us a sink and no one can see it if i can't see it but the boys can see in and so they have to their they have to clear up all the blood in this bathroom in order to it's almost like cleaning up after a murder scene that there's a sense of kind of grieving and a sensitive that they have to deal with his ugliness an hour they didn't do anything wrong but but they have to clean up after it.